{"id": "ySQlJw4BNwbaNiHcdS6Hdf3ZHnBrAg9d", "post_id": "axdpn3", "action": {"description": "wanting to wear a shirt", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting to wear a shirt?", "text": "My boyfriend (well just call him M) and I are creators on Instagram (he is also on TikTok). I'm a digital and traditional artist and in one of my classes we create t shirts and things (socks, lanyards, water bottles, stickers, you name it). I'm a big fan of putting my art on t shirts so I can sell them.\n\nM wanted to make some posts for TikTok and wanted to use the shirt I made today. My one personal rule is that if the shirt isn't being given to someone else, then I wear it first (this is because I know I wont get it back. Ive made one other shirt that I've worn, and he wore it for a week and hasn't given it back.) So I told him no, because I haven't worn the shirt yet. \n\nM proceeded to complain about not having content to post, and how his IG post today didn't get any engagement, saying \"of course you dont know, because you never look.\"\n\nAm I the asshole for wanting to wear the shirt I made just once?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "P96wm6qNDeGdaHy25VrNmYPWbtyTAxDN", "post_id": "actige", "action": null, "title": "Aita here? Two parents, two different reactions", "text": "Background: I have ocd and the only contamination issue I have is around food. Both parents know this. What has lead me to ask this question is this mornings reaction from parent B.\n\nThis morning parent b offered to make me breakfast, I responded how I always do: that\u2019s very kind but I\u2019m happy to come make it myself. Parent b said it was no trouble. I accepted. Two slices of toast came and apu I check the toast for signs of mould. First piece had no issues, I ate it. Second piece however had something green growing on the edge. I cut this bit off but I couldn\u2019t shake in my head that the whole piece must be contaminated and so I took the toast back and apologised that I couldn\u2019t eat it cos of the mould and we checked the date on the bread and it said the 30th December. Nearly a week past its best before. Parent b apologised and we threw it away. No drama.\n\nNearly identical situation occurred about 6 months ago with parent a. Parent a offered to make me a toasted sandwich. I said that would be very kind but I was happy to make it myself. Parent a said it was no problem, I accepted. When the sandwich came I checked the bread for mould and found green and white stuff growing down one side of the bread. I take it back to the kitchen and explain that it has mould and I\u2019m sorry but I can\u2019t eat it. I will make myself something else. Parent a goes ballistic. I\u2019m \u201cungrateful and don\u2019t trust them and did I really think they\u2019d feed me mould?\u201d I pointed out the mould- clearly visible. \u201cWell someone must\u2019ve not sealed the bread package properly (ie me) and that\u2019s how it got mouldy.\u201d I asked if parent a had checked the date and that just seemed to escalate their reaction. They stormed out screaming and crying. I checked the bread date and it was 2 or 3 days past the best before.\n\nAita in either situation? Parent a\u2019s reaction made me think I was. But now I\u2019ve had the same situation with parent b and they didn\u2019t get angry or pissed off maybe I wasn\u2019t the asshole? Obviously I think I need to just make my own food. Then I can\u2019t cause trouble.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QYwk7bbUf8VOiCDKRSoarulHfeZ3Rf6c", "post_id": "a0be1t", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be told to save money", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to be told to save money?", "text": " \n\nMy really good friend is getting married. Yay!happy for her. I'm a bridesmaid in her wedding. Also yay. I am currently underemployed which my friend knows. I make about 35k (Canadian a year). I'm sensitive about this. I'm in a social work type field. \n\nOkay so friend lives a plane ride away. Approximately 600 bucks. Flights are pricey.  Anyway she hasn't decided yet but is thinking about a destination bacherlorette party...so it would be flight from Canada to that city, apparently a small gap of time then flight back to her wedding city but not enough so I can fly back home in between so it's looking like lots of unpaid leave. And it's just after Xmas next year so pricey time to fly.\n\nSince she got engaged she's been saying things along the lines of \"start saving for my bach party\" and \"we gotta save for the party\". I let her know these kinds of comments are super stressful for me as I have other savings goals and I'm doing my best to save for her thing too, but I am feeling unhappy financially.  She responded by basically saying she too has savings goals (her parent is paying for the whole wedding) and at least I'm not a homeless person like what happened to thousands of people in California. I just told her again i wanted to bring it up that telling me to save makes me feel stressed and anxious. She wrote it on the official bridesmaid invitation that I needed to save for her party and I mentioned how I didn't like that and she was like Oh so that's all your remember about my gift?! \n\nIt just runs me the wrong way and I think it's crazy tacky to tell people especially people struggling financially to save for your destination bacherlorette party. She thinks I'm overreacting and that I want to ban her from talking about her wedding. Its embarrassing enough to admit to financial struggles and she doesn't seem to get it. I just want her to tell me my presence and support are enough at her wedding.  Am I the asshole for saying what I said and for not prioritizing saving to be in her wedding party? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Wn1d74VAGKsZEdpDr2E5gt3dRsY4iFRx", "post_id": "acxtqt", "action": {"description": "being disappointed that my friend is bringing someone with them to visit me", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being disappointed that my friend is bringing someone with them to visit me", "text": "I've been very lonely for a long time, few friends, don't see anyone very often; my friend on the other side of the country had planned a trip to come visit me in a few weeks, and I was extremely looking forward to it. Then she tells me that a friend of hers had also planned a trip to my town by coincidence, and that they're now coming together with the intent to hang out as a group. I'm really not a group person, but I guess I could handle it with someone I know; it's just that I was really looking forward to seeing her by herself, and hanging out with someone I don't know makes me very uncomfortable - it always has, and she knows this. I don't think she's the asshole here, but I'm not sure if I am either? I'm a little peeved at her, but mostly just saddened. What do you think?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ETj3fuuyAqtOeVIMFhbZzToJM3Lkfpqf", "post_id": "9whlu1", "action": {"description": "being late for work due to a power outage", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being late for work due to a power outage?", "text": "Alt account because friends know my real one. \n\nThis isn't a regular \"I said something or did something I shouldn't have\" asshole, this is a \"I know I fucked up, how much do I look like an asshole\".\n\nI'm currently a student teacher/intern for a school near my college.  Today I was supposed to substitute teach so my mentor teacher could do some work with the other school's teachers.\n\nI set my alarm on my computer and on my phone last night to wake me up early, due to me having trouble waking up sometimes.\n\nHowever, last night, a breaker in my fuse box flipped off and shut off my computer and stopped charging my phone, which then died during the night.  I woke up at 8:00 A.M (when class started) and rushed to put on clothes and bike to the school.  I got there around 8:05-8:10 and found another substitute teacher talking to my mentor teacher.  Also in the room is my college teacher who is like an overseer of our progress.\n\nI walked in and my mentor teacher and college teacher sat down with me.  They were worried because they couldn't reach me on my phone (still was dead), and I was late, which is never like me.  \n\nI told them what happened, that I was so sorry, and I can still be there and teach.  \n\nMy two teachers understood but thought it best for me to go home.  I argued against that, saying I'm here and I can teach, but got told to think about how to not let them happen in the future.   I walked out of the building dejected and know that the whole staff knows that I am unreliable and I messed up.\n\nMy mentor teacher and college teacher each texted me and told me not to be too hard on myself and it is okay.  \n\nI have chronic anxiety so my morning has been sitting at home in humiliation that this happened.\n\nNow I am trying to figure out what my next steps are, and how much do I look like an asshole and how to fix it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0RpE03gHX7k3usIjWIZMHbZsufJhBj0e", "post_id": "9wkv4o", "action": {"description": "going off on a friend for making a comment about my sports team", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for going off on a friend for making a comment about my sports team?", "text": "Pretty much was hanging out with two friends. I was watching the Lakers game. They won at the very last minute and I immediately hopped up and celebrated. Before I could even finish celebrating one friend started going on about how the Lakers suck. It just pissed me off so much I screamed at her to get out my room until she left. \n\n\nShe knows I'm a huge fan and she likes them too. She was only saying it to antagonize me. Am I the dick here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "tb6yl5VDFA23aGW7zvXjMy3e2i13CLdf", "post_id": "b27zco", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go to prom", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go to prom?", "text": "Okay, some quick backstory. I'm 18 almost 19 in college and my gf is one year younger. However, she took classes to get out of high school a semester early. So now we are both in college together and enjoying it a ton. But now it's getting close to the end of her(supposed to be) senior year at the high school. Which means prom is also coming up. \n\nNow, I don't know about all of you but I think prom is one of the most elaborate scams ever devised by the education system and entertainment (case in point: every high school sweetheart film ever made). Which is why I never went to my senior prom.\n\nIts overpriced, you REQUIRE a nice outfit, and to top it off neither of us go to the school anymore. I've given her all these points and yet she still wants to go. We did, however, go to the homecoming last year. Let me tell you, I've never been more disappointed with my school and you have gym teachers getting arrested for sexual conduct with students here. \n\nShe was upset about the homecoming being bad too and I just know that prom going to be exactly the same way because there is no way our school makes enough money for a proper dance. So what do all think? Am I wrong for not wanting to go to a dance with my her? I'd rather spend the night at somewhere that would actually be fun. Perhaps a nightly beach walk or something.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "LMm10e7QluyuZFyhnN0NHsO8yVVFQg95", "post_id": "aeb549", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my long distance Gf for the 4th time which supposedly led her to kill herself", "pronormative_score": 32, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my long distance Gf for the 4th time which supposedly led her to kill herself?", "text": "She was constantly lying to me, whether it be out of kindness or to protect the relationship from heading towards an argument (meaning bad things she's done but has lied to keep me from questioning her). We've constantly had arguments with each other and she even started feeling like we weren't meant to be. So the 3rd time I broke it off, I felt sure I wasn't going to be with her, as I had no emotions. This was due to the fact that she is extremely selfish and wouldn't even console me when I was in a bad state. She then started to say things like I'll kill myself if you leave me, or she couldn't get attracted to other men. Being the asshole that I am, I decide to stick with her to make sure she stays safe, but I've really had enough at that point. Fast forward a few weeks later and the lies ensue. I face my fear of having a death on my soul and just tell her I've had enough with the lies, I break it off for the last time and she's quiet for a few days. She hasn't killed herself at that point as I've seen her online and she's tried to message me, (I've blocked her everywhere). Then I get messages from her on Instagram somehow, saying she'll actually kill herself, and I replied with \"well atleast you won't be able to hurt anyone\".......\nI'm not familiar with Instagram but I think if their profile picture disappears they've blocked you? Correct me if I'm wrong. But I'm feeling guilty as fuck and anxiety is eating me alive. I'm religious, so having a death on me is.. Idk how to feel. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 32, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 32, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AL5hgBGX02eG3FrnwRgCPmMMEeXwq1w1", "post_id": "b1k73l", "action": {"description": "asking my so to wait and follow our new Mint budget", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "Aita for asking my SO to wait and follow our new Mint budget?", "text": "Backstory is that we have a mint budget we follow now with our current financial situation. Well that situation just changed and we have more $$$ to play with but I\u2019m not sure how much yet. My SO doesn\u2019t work and choose to stay at home to raise our first kid. It\u2019s going good. Now with kid #2 the finances change and I got a raise at work so in my mind I want to see what the next paycheck looks like before we start spending more money on things. We have allocated money for everything already and once mint says we reached it, we\u2019re done with that category. We agreed we would wait to see what our new financial situation was. The paycheck won\u2019t come till the end of the month. SO buys stuff for the kids knowing we have more money in the future even though on the current budget we have maxed the kids spending out. SO reasoning is that we need it. My reasoning is that we agreed to wait for new budget before spending. Aita here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 3}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "X2Quj6gnZqM3fwqSiZGTBic2ARBPc6dm", "post_id": "almxxz", "action": {"description": "not wanting to move to France with my dad", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to move to France with my dad?", "text": "Hey guys, I'm sorry if it's obvious one way or the other whether I'm an asshole or not, I just really dont know. Also, sorry if my writing is poor, but I'm kinda just writing off the cuff.\n\nMy dad recently got with a new girlfriend, and she's nice and all, but she's been talking a LOT about moving out of the country, even by next year. And my dad seems to be really into it, so I'm pretty sure it's a certainty.\n\nThey're talking about moving to France, and France is nice and all, but I don't know. I kinda like America, and I feel like I haven't stayed in one place for more than a year for a while. Either I move schools, or I move grades, or I move states. I'm always moving, I haven't made friends that last more than a year besides a couple internet friends (that I've drifted from quite a bit) since third grade, and through that the only stable thing in my life has been the country I live in. No matter how much shit had changed all the time, at least I've been in my home country, where almost everyone speaks the same language as me, and have around the same mannerisms and expressions.\n\nI feel like one of the only things familiar to me will be ripped away, and that's scary. Especially with article 13 coming soon, I wouldnt be able to access most of the YouTube channels I love to watch, and that's my main source of entertainment and coping mechanism for sad times.\n\nSo in moving to France, I would be giving up the only familiar thing in my life, my country, language, and culture, as well as giving up my main source of entertainment and coping mechanism. I don't know how I would continue living.\n\n But is it right for me to hold my parents back like this? If their dream is to constantly move around, who am I to hold them back? I would feel terrible if I held them back and made them unhappy. But then again, I've always been going with the flow whenever we have to move and just being okay with it, even when it's destroyed me. When is it time to be selfish and think about my own happiness?\n\nHonestly, I see only a couple possible futures for me and none of them look happy.\n\n1: I move to France, and then inevitably move again in another year or so, and spend the rest of my life with no real friends or connections.\n2: I don't move with my dad, and move in with my mom (which is a non option, really. Long story)\n3: I put my foot down and refuse to move, which will either result in option 1 or me holding my parents back from happiness and feeling guilty forever.\n\nI don't know anymore, and I'm so confused. Please tell me if I'm the asshole. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UqzHovc5IG6sWyO8iU0qcvTZsAGazgUC", "post_id": "b25r78", "action": {"description": "not forgiving my MIL", "pronormative_score": 32, "contranormative_score": 17}, "title": "AITA for not forgiving my MIL?", "text": "Some years ago my husband and I built a DIY patio behind our house. We finished it just before Labor Day and decided to have a patio opening cookout. We invited his parents, my parents, and his brother and SIL. When the food was served everyone was chowing down except my MIL. She asked my FIL if her meat looked cooked enough. He said it was. She put it down and didn't eat it. Eventually she took it back to the grill and cooked it some more while everyone else was eating and enjoying themselves. No big deal right?\nA few days later my in-laws dropped by my husband's work to give him something. MIL took the opportunity to take him aside and tell him how terrible the food at the cookout had been and that she couldn't believe she had to grill it herself. My husband got so upset he had to walk away from them. He called her later that day to tell her how hurt he was by what she'd said, but rather than apologize she reiterated that the food was awful. When my husband told me all this I vowed that I would never cook a meal for them again (prior to this we had them over for dinner on a monthly or so basis). Now I wouldn't be so mad if anyone else had said their meat was still pink in the middle but no one did. \nFlash forward 6 or so years, I can't even remember exactly, and I have kept my vow. But my husband says it's time to move on. I told him he is welcome to cook for them but other than grilling he's no cook. So AITA for holding this for so many years? Should I do like he wants and cook an Easter dinner this year? I honestly don't even think they've noticed that I haven't cooked for them in years, so it's not like their feelings are being hurt. Other than this I have a good relationship with them. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 31, "EVERYBODY": 12, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 32, "WRONG": 17}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PoIZ8cZ1EFhkwQ1l1e1SjeNs37tw7Sjk", "post_id": "ajxxfm", "action": {"description": "making MIL leave our home while my fiance is away", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for making MIL leave our home while my fiance is away?", "text": "I don't even know where to begin here. Unlike a lot of people I've never had any issues with my (soon-to-be) in-laws before - in fact my fiance's parents quite liked me the handful of times we've met, and we've always gotten along. The shit realllllllly hit the fan this past weekend though.\n\n​\n\nSo, my fiance travels a lot for work and was out of town for about a week-ish. During the weekend his mother was planning to come for her annual visit (we live near Phoenix AZ, she lives in San Diego CA) and was going to stay in our guestroom for a few days until he returned from his trip so we could all spend time together. The first day was fairly good, we went out to lunch and watched her favorite gameshow for a while, chatted about random stuff. We'd never gotten to know each other very well or spent time alone together so it was somewhat awkward, but it was fine. \n\n​\n\nBut then the second day when we go out to lunch is when things start going downhill... see, MIL is nice and all but is very naive and gullible, to put it nicely. She could hear something on the radio and immediately take it as truth without any sort of fact-checking or research on her own, which is something that's even gotten my fiance rather irritated with her on occasion. She is also very stubborn and likes to talk a LOT, so she will always give you her blunt opinion. And on top of this, she is a staunch Trump supporter and wants the wall built ASAP, because she believes \"all the illegal immigrants in San Diego are the cause of all the traffic\". Needless to say, I don't exactly share her views. Which that in itself isn't a problem, I've known she's rather conservative and made it a point to avoid politics as a topic of conversation so as not to cause any conflict. However, she wants to talk about anything and everything with me, and with the current political climate and government shutdown in place, she's very enthusiastic to discuss it.\n\n​\n\nShe begins asking me questions about my views regarding the shutdown, the wall, Trump, etc. I say I'd rather not talk about something like that but she insists, adding how ridiculous she thinks it is that \"Democrats won't fund the wall to keep our country safe\". I'm desperately trying to avoid giving my honest opinion and instead try to talk about something else, but she keeps poking at me \"oh come on, tell me what you think! Don't you think we should stop illegal aliens from entering our country?\" like she's expecting me to agree with her.\n\n​\n\nClearly she wasn't budging, so I just say I don't think the wall is a good idea and that Trump is causing even more damage than good to the country with this shutdown (Sidenote: my father works a government job and has been without pay during this period, so it's a bit of an extra touchy subject for me). Immediately her expression goes from an eager grin to completely stone-faced. I go on saying that most illegal immigrants come in through airplanes anyway and just overstay their visas so a wall wouldn't stop that, and she goes off saying that's not true because she heard this from Breitbart or that on Fox News and the president tweeted this and that and it's all the Democrats fault and blah blah. Which again, if that's your opinion then fine - I tend to respect others' opinions as long as they do the same for me. But she goes on this tirade trying to \"educate\" me and how I shouldn't by into the lies of liberal media or whatever. When she finally stops to take a breath I quickly say \"clearly we aren't going to agree about this so let's just not talk about it\".\n\n​\n\nAnd that quieted her down... for about 30 seconds.\n\n​\n\nThen she starts mumbling about how I must've gotten my views from my mother (who is in fact quite liberal) and that it's so unfortunate that I've bought into all this false information and that we disrespect our president and country so much. Obviously this struck a nerve with me now that she's brought my mother into this, whom she's only met twice and my mother knows they have opposing views but has never said a bad word about her. So flat-out tell her that I'd like her to stop, I don't agree with her views and especially knowing how much my father is struggling to pay bills right now she's the one being rude while staying under my roof.\n\n​\n\nThis only offended her further, and eventually it just got to the point where I asked her to leave and stay with her friend in town or a hotel for the remainder of her trip. She was completely shocked and initially refused to leave, saying she had a right to be here because this was her son's house too and he invited her here (although she's never actually invited, she just randomly calls up and says \"hey I'm coming to stay from X day to Y day!\" but that hasn't been a problem since we only see her once a year and we shift our schedules around if needed). I tell her it's my house as well and she's no longer welcome to stay here if she's going to insult my family and argue with me over something as simple as a different viewpoint. So she huffs and gathers her stuff, gets in her car and drives off.\n\n​\n\nI barely have a few minutes to take a breath and process everything that just happened when I get a call from my fiance, angry that I kicked his mother out of our home. I figured she probably just gave him one side of the story and spun it in her favor, so I explain what happened but he insists she would've calmed down if I just let her vent, and that I shouldn't have told her to leave. This irritated me and I said she's not welcome while I'm here alone and that she'll be staying elsewhere, which of course he wasn't happy about. \n\n​\n\nMy fiance and I barely spoke the rest of the time he was out of town, and he was still fairly annoyed when I picked him up at the airport. He was especially upset because apparently his mother had left for San Diego early because of the incident, so he missed out on seeing her. Now that we've had some time to talk about it he understands my point of view, but since he sees his mom so rarely he can't help but feeling down about it and I'm left questioning my decision and feeling very guilty. I've considered contacting her to apologize even though I really feel like I shouldn't - in fact I've thought about barring her from the wedding altogether if this continues to be a persistent issue between us, because god forbid she starts drama with myself or my family at my own wedding. I'm not sure how to feel about this, so I'll leave it up to the fellow Redditers to determine if I'm the asshole.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qAdcTR8YMFlkpS6KAzfbFG99cJ7x48FT", "post_id": "b33719", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my girlfriend for having pitty sex", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 21}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my girlfriend for having pitty sex", "text": "Okay so here is the situation. So my girlfriend and I recently moved in together, because of this we sometimes get in little arguments over stupid stuff. Well yesterday we had one of those arguments and it put both of us in a bad mood. We end up making up, we have dinner together, watch TV everything seems fine. So we go to bed. Usually I initiate sex but tonight she does. Our usual routine with sex is foreplay and such, until she cums, then we start having sex. Well no matter what I did she couldn\u2019t cum and this probably went on for 20 to 30 min. So she gets annoyed and says \u201cI\u2019m not going to cum, I\u2019m going to bed goodnight\u201d and rolls over. She says it with kind of an attitude. Now she\u2019s extremely wet, and up until this point everything was pointing in the direction of sex. So I\u2019m like what the fuck and I say \u201care you serious, are you really going to tease me and then just go to bed\u201d. So I roll over and a minute or two passes by and then she rolls back over initiates again. And we start having sex. And I ask \u201cis this pitty sex?\u201d She says \u201cyes\u201d. So I said \u201cfuck this\u201d stop having sex and go take a shower. When I get back we have a little argument she calls me an \u201casshole\u201d I say \u201cI\u2019m not having fucking pitty sex\u201d, we end up going to bed. This morning we apologize to each other. I still wanna talk about it when we both get home from work but I\u2019m still confused about the whole situation\n\nI feel like she could\u2019ve easily still been into it, or could have cum later during sex and that her abruptly turning over and giving me attitude because I couldn\u2019t make her cum is kind of a dick move. I also think she got in her own head, because I can almost always make her cum and that it wasn\u2019t my fault to begin with. But then again me getting mad at her for not wanting to have sex and getting even more annoyed because of pitty sex is also kind of a dick move. I don\u2019t know what to think. \n\nSo who is the asshole? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 15, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 21}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "LyUHAJSBDXCWR39iz4txpskfKVQV9Q10", "post_id": "b3bbrg", "action": {"description": "not wanting randoms at my wedding", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA because I don\u2019t want randoms at my wedding?", "text": "So...my mom and dad split up over 20 years ago and he has been remarried for similar length of time. My mom had custody of me and my brother and never met anyone permanent. When I gave her a Save The Date I said she could invite someone but I had to approve of the person as I didn\u2019t want randoms at my wedding. It\u2019s now less than 6 months away and I asked her who she is bringing, she flew off the handle when I said she couldn\u2019t bring a man (she doesn\u2019t have one in mind) and I expected her to bring a friend. Am I being unreasonable? She said \u201cI shouldn\u2019t be told who to bring to my daughters wedding!\u201d In a shrill voice. But that daughter is me \ud83e\udd14 and surely what I want goes? I understand that seeing my dad with his wife is shit, but that\u2019s why I said to bring her best friend.  I\u2019m very aware I have been a people-pleaser all my life and I have been trying to get out the habit, but have I gone too far? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 20, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LYmAPIp3kLvjYdGdkRurRtgH2G87KDRt", "post_id": "b7lx1x", "action": {"description": "cutting off good female friend due to booty call", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "AITA - cutting off good female friend due to booty call....", "text": "Background for reference: I'm a 44 year old married male with 3 kids. I have many male and female friendships developed in the usual ways - work colleagues, sport, social groups, kids parents etc. \n\nAt one past employer, I got close to a female peer / colleague. We had a relatively close relationship insofar as we would often lunch together, grab a drink after work in our group, and generally hang out. \n\nI left the job to go elsewhere, as did she. We did however stay in touch - regular text/email, the odd lunch catch up - basically friends...we were very comfortable with each other and I really felt she was a good friend. We both shared a lot of personal information. \n\nShe moved away (only a state / 1 hour flight away) with her partner, and had a child. Two years pass.\n\nAfter a number of false starts (I was going to visit / work schedules not aligning) she finally plans a trip to her home city (her family is also here)\n\nWe schedule a lunch for a Friday. ( I'm actually pretty happy with that and schedule a half day off work) She bails and asks to move our catch up to Monday. Sure thing - family stuff will likely be required - I can juggle my schedule and move to Monday.\n\nOn the Sunday, I get a message from my friend asking \"how long our lunch will take\" on Monday as she is keen on setting up a date with an ex partner. Basically a booty call.  Her relationship has not been in a good place for some time.\n\nThe inference being that our catch up was holding her back from hooking up with an ex.\nI get pretty offended. I make my excuses for the lunch, and avoid any chance to reschedule while she is in the city.\n\nHer trip ends, and she returns interstate.\nI receive one further friendly email as if nothing has happened. I don't respond and have made no attempt to contact again. \n\nI have blocked her number and email. AITA.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8kc0BReuMylcjZ2yCjrJ6PsyVc6AsBLE", "post_id": "a2kgkv", "action": {"description": "crying everyday normal", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA? Crying everyday normal?", "text": "AITA? So in another thread, a woman made an off hand comment about how going to grad school was stressful and she is literally crying everyday. I said I realized school can be stressful but if she is literally crying everyday maybe she should reevaluate why she is there or at least see a therapist as to why she feels the need to break into tears at least once a day. Of course I was told I was being insensitive and that I would never know the stress and pressures of going to grad school. Full discourse I did go to undergrad so I\u2019m not completely out of the loop when it comes to academics but in no way did I cry everyday. She then brought up my military service and claimed I would never tell a war veteran with PTSD the same. Well I know plenty of vets with PTSD and not a single one cry everyday either. I just feel like these people are trying to make their graduate experience seem like a trial by fire when there is literally millions of people who have done it without all the dramatics. I asked a friend with two masters (both from Virginia Tech and yes he was there when the massacre happened) and not even he cried more that once. I\u2019m not trying to prove to anyone I\u2019m a tough guy and yes, I have cried plenty of times before. But I believe if you are truly crying everyday or even a few times a week you need to seek help. There\u2019s a word for that; depression. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "trQhUewlqGqFHuILFrCk6g8cLlTfCP6g", "post_id": "9uq3lp", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my friend for constantly flaking out on plans", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I got mad at my friend for constantly flaking out on plans?", "text": "So I have a good friend that I enjoy hanging out with, but they aren\u2019t good at turning people down so whenever I invited her somewhere and she doesn\u2019t want to go she says yes and then either constantly reschedules, claims she will get back to me with a time that works for her, or cancels at the last minute with some lame excuse. So would I be an asshole if I confronted her and told her to cut the crap and just be straight with me so that I don\u2019t waste the time and energy trying to make things work if she doesn\u2019t want to go? Also do I have any right to be upset since even though my gut tells me she is just being flaky, she is also a very busy person so there is a chance that I\u2019m just overly sensitive.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "asNElCSzHfRQxvZW8w2i4caKnZOoyvvl", "post_id": "ba602o", "action": {"description": "blocking my girlfriend for not respecting my feelings", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for blocking my girlfriend for not respecting my feelings?", "text": " I (18M) am still a student and currently in my vacation so I'm home all day. My girlfriend (19F) works as a cashier in a mart. She basically leaves at 7 and returns at 4, and I'm so much attached to her that I basically spend all my day waiting for her to return. It's been a couple of days she's returning home late, at 6 mostly. Like always she texts me that she's back home, but these few days she says she's tired and that's it. She doesn't text me at all for a few hours and just texts me back at night as if nothing's happened. I don't know if I'm overreacting, but I don't get why she doesn't even text me saying that she'll get some sleep and then text me after waking up. She wakes up, does her shopping for dinner, goes to her friend comes back and then texts me saying what I have been up to. So today I've had enough so I said i was sad and mad that she didn't text me saying she'd sleep and didn't text me after waking up. I said that I'd text her tomorrow because I was not in a good mood today. I'd be happy to hear her out tomorrow and accept it if I was overreacting and maybe she was really tired and i would be the asshole then for not seeing it through her perspective. But she kept on spamming me hearts and kiss emojis, which to me was very annoying. I proceeded to tell her that her way of approaching and handling this situation was making it worse and we should just call it a day and go to sleep. She kept texting me saying why I had to be mad about small things like these, she also said that atleast she texted back despite the fact it being late. I didn't want to ignore her, but I was pretty much very annoyed so I still calmly said you're just forcing me to talk and its making it worse to which she replied that she didn't know how trying to handle the situation is making it worse and asked why I was thinking like that. \"I don't have anybody else except for you to talk to\", that's what she said. So I said \"bro\" and was typing out my message that this isn't okay at all but she quickly replied with \"yes sis\" which might would've been her attempt at trying to be funny but I honestly had enough. All i asked for was time and space which isn't even much as I said I'd text her back in the morning and it was 9 here already. She said \"Go on then, text me back when you're mood is good. What can I do? Me speaking seems to only make the situation worse and annoy you.\" She said this in our language with much respect so this was very sarcastic and this is only a rough translation. I was pretty annoyed. I said you don't have to say that as a reply to her \"take rest\". So she started to rant again \"Who am I to you anyways.. and blah blah blah\", so I just blocked her for now.\n\nI will text her back in the morning but I don't know if what i did was a good approach to this situation. I don't even know if the title is right for this but I'd really appreciate you guys' take on this. Thanks.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "9poF9IZtjt8kZcuNhen4KxK0BOlRoXxQ", "post_id": "9t4q3q", "action": {"description": "panic kicking a dog", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA, for panic kicking a dog.", "text": "About a week ago I was walking to school and a lady was walking her dog, he saw me and managed to get off the leash. He ran full speed at me barking and snarling and I panicked and punted him.\n\nThe owner was livid and I tried to explain that I panicked but she walked away.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XtA8hBy4SNbyxJE4XFFCsZvAUWuEPlzv", "post_id": "ao3q50", "action": {"description": "giving my boss an ultimatum that willcost him thousands", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for giving my boss an ultimatum that willcost him thousands?", "text": "Throwaway because I'm really not sure how this will go and don't want it attached to my main.\n\n\nOkay so, to start with I handed in my notice of contract termination at my job the other day. We are required to give 2 weeks notice, so that's exactly what I did. I explained to my boss that I'd found a better paying job elsewhere and would be leaving. He asked me why and I explained that it was simply due to my workplaces refusal to give me holiday time I was due.\n\nAs employees we're entitled to 4 weeks off a year, spanning from April to April. If you don't use them within that time period then you just lose them, but if you leave employment in that time you're entitled to be payed all the days you didn't take. I have three weeks. My job has a policy of only four people off at any one time, 3 employees and one manager. The problem is we're a building of 50+ employees so unless you get them all booked right away you'll always have people off on the days you want. \n\nNow you might be thinking 'well you should just book them earlier'. While you're correct in thinking that, I have to work around my parents schedules too, so when they go on vacations I come home and look after my younger brother and sister. I don't mind this, they're great kids so I'm happy to do it. \n\nAnyway, as I still have three weeks left and I ended up losing two weeks last year for the same reasons, I figured I could take two weeks off, be happy with that and just lose a week. Nope ,can't be done. My boss has told two others to take two weeks off so he has to say no to me, so he's doing me to lose paid time off the second year in a row.\n\nOkay so onto the meat of this tale. I got a new job, have handed in my two weeks notice and I start on the 18th of \nFebruary. My boss pulls my aside yesterday and asks if I'd be willing to go down to working one day a week until April, as it means he gets a \u00a33,000 bonus for staff retention year to year. If I leave it means we've lost too many people and he doesn't get the bonus. I told my boss that I'd be happy to work one Saturday a week(my new job is Mon-Fri) until mid March on the condition that he gives me my three weeks paid vacation from March-April and that he not change my contract as it means id get paid less for the time taken off, as id be classed as part time from then on and wouldn't be paid as I would've before.\n\nI thought this was a fair request, given that I get paid for the time if I leave anyway, and this way we'd both still get what we want. Nope, my boss loses his sh*t, telling me I'm blackmailing him and what I was requesting was fraud and is illegal. Now I'm not a lawyer, I have no idea if thats true, it just seemed like an idea that I could leave and he'd still receive his bonus. I told him that if he didn't agree to that then I'd be leaving at the end of my notice period at that would be it. He stormed off and the only thing he's said to me since was a snide comment when my colleagues were talking about work he told me 'its not your problem anymore is it?' when I chimed in with a comment.\n\nSo Reddit, Am I The Asshole for how I 'blackmailed' my boss. I don't think I am to make it clear, but all his comments has really made me wonder.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 21, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wsHKrTPSiBGttaJiPpoJlgJ5nsF4h7Og", "post_id": "a9v1wv", "action": {"description": "calling the police on my sister", "pronormative_score": 75, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA For Calling the Police on my Sister?", "text": "So some background here:\n\nI have an older, 21 year old sister who just returned from university abroad back home. She has always been very narcissistic and materialistic but in her time abroad in Australia it's become much, much worse. Her usual habit is to scream and scream and scream like a five year old child whenever she doesn't get whatever she wants - no matter how large or small.\n\n​\n\nIf I leave my room for five seconds she starts yelling at me to return to my room. If I leave my door open she yells at me to close my door. Every single morning I'm woken up by the sound of her incessant yelling.\n\n​\n\nMy parents are unwilling to say no. Whenever she yells and throws a temper tantrum my parents cave in and give her whatever she wants. My parents (who are working class) already busted their asses off to fund her lavish lifestyle while studying in Australia. I personally worked incredibly hard to earn a full ride to college so that my parents wouldn't be crippled by dept.\n\n​\n\nThe part that gets me the most and absolutely boils my blood is that this bitch has the audacity to hit my parents when she doesn't get her way. She will literally physically assault them and destroy property around our home.\n\n​\n\nI got sick and tired of it and called the police on her (for a second time) to have her arrested because it was reaching a point where I genuinely feared for the well being of myself and my parents. My sister has threatened to attack us with knives in the past and as a result we no longer keep knives (even to cook) in our home. My sister was arrested once previously for domestic violence and this is her second offense.\n\n​\n\nMy parents are both very angry at me because, in their eyes, I just ruined her life forever.\n\n​\n\nWe have tried to get her to see a professional and get some medication to help with her issues but she has refused every time, saying that she's fine and we're the ones in the wrong. Am I the asshole here for wanting to get her out of our lives?\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 75, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 75, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "P1t4Zgz6poJCIqZnsULNryXEC8iychnY", "post_id": "akpwpf", "action": {"description": "wanting to back out of my best friend's bachelorette weekend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting to back out of my best friend\u2019s bachelorette weekend?", "text": "My best friend is getting married in May and it\u2019s been the plan all along that her bachelorette would be a weekend away in April. I have helped her plan parts of the trip and was completely on board until this past weekend when she sent me the detailed itinerary of the plans. I\u2019ve been busy these past few weeks and I know she\u2019s been working with ironing out the details with another one of her bridesmaids. \n\nSo the new details I learned this weekend that are making me want to back out were:\n\n1. We\u2019re going away for two nights, not one. I have a full time job and a three year old. My husband is extremely hands on with our son and is totally capable of and will be happy to take care of him for two nights by himself. But I\u2019ve never spent a night away from our son and I am not sure I want to do it now. I think it\u2019s a lot to ask of my husband. Especially because my friend, as much as I love her, is not the most sacrificing by nature and would never do things that don\u2019t fit into her normal life/routine for me. So I don\u2019t want to go out of my way for her. \n\n2. There are going to be 15 people there, none of who I am super fond of or have anything in common with. I\u2019ve met them a few times over the last 3-4 years and while they were okay to have a brief chat with over dinner, spending 2 days with them seems like A LOT to handle. I initially thought it\u2019ll be just the bridesmaids so like 4-5 of us. \n\n3. They have plans to go clubbing one of the nights and I just don\u2019t do that. Probably the only person in the group who doesn\u2019t. I don\u2019t drink and going clubbing with 15 people with who I have nothing in common just sounds quite unpleasant. \n\n4. I\u2019m pregnant and will be 4-months along in April. This adds to the whole not wanting to go clubbing and on long hikes (I haven\u2019t gone hiking in 3+ years) with a large group of women that I\u2019m not friends with. Hiking features a lot in the planned itinerary. \n\n5. It\u2019s going to be pricey and I\u2019m not comfortable spending a huge amount of money on a weekend that I know I wouldn\u2019t enjoy. I would actually be happier giving that money to my friend as an add-on to her wedding gift. \n\nSo how selfish am I being? My plan is to offer that instead of driving there on Friday night, I can drive up there on Saturday and be there for a photoshoot, lunch, hangout and dinner that she has planned and then drive back home. They have a few things planned for Sunday that I\u2019ll miss but I\u2019m okay with that. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "J2bBmpfOxqxdZ1ILdEUe0II22cnrBgIx", "post_id": "b4j8tx", "action": {"description": "telling an old lady to shut up and keep quiet", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling an old lady to shut up and keep quiet?", "text": "\nOnce a month I (21m) take my grandma to play bingo for about 6 hours, as she\u2019s 92 can\u2019t walk properly, partly deaf, has dementia (early stages) and doesn\u2019t really get to do much for fun and apart from caring for her none of my other family really take her anywhere. I adore my grandma so I\u2019ll do anything to make her happy. When my grandmas at the bingo she\u2019s a completely different woman, I\u2019ve never seen her so happy, she walks (with her walking trolly for support) faster than I\u2019ve ever seen, she smiles, gets all excited and it just makes my entire day.\n\nToday I took her as I always take her the first day after my payday so that I can play along side her (even though I have absolutely no clue what the hell I\u2019m doing), everything was going as normal, I was losing money in confusion, my grandma was somehow winning constantly as always and we were having fun, about half way through the day another lady sat behind us, I see this lady quite a lot and she\u2019s there every time I\u2019m there, her friend came with her and they sat right behind us and spent the whole time chatting super loudly. \n\nNow I\u2019m not sure if any of you have ever gone to bingo but being able to hear the speaker is vital in order to play, and the usual expectation is that everyone should keep quiet or should speak quietly. But because of them chatting about how the bus driver wasn\u2019t white, and what groceries they bought that morning my grandma was struggling to hear the speaker and I could see she was starting to not enjoy our day. \n\nI decided to not say anything as I know this lady was just catching up with a friend, but after 2 hours of constant talking (they weren\u2019t playing at all) I decided to turn around and I politely said \u201cwould you be able to keep your voice down my grandma can\u2019t hear the speaker and she\u2019s trying to play\u201d the lady looked at me, didn\u2019t respond and went back to her conversation, I decided to let it slide as I didn\u2019t fancy arguing with someone 3 times my age, and I gave her the benefit of the doubt that she didn\u2019t understand me, about an hour later my grandma got irritated and went \u201c Yap Yap Yap that\u2019s what they sound like\u201d, my grandma says things like that sometimes without realising, it\u2019s just how she is now because of her dementia and she can\u2019t help it, evidently the lady heard us because she turned and started having a go at my grandma who didn\u2019t understand what was going on so I said \u201c if you kept quiet then my grandma wouldn\u2019t mock you, so I suggest you shut up, keep quiet, play what you came here for and leave her alone\u201d to be fair to her the lady did as I said and they kept their voices down. \n\nAfter we left I felt awful, I just feel guilty for being rude but I did what I had to to make sure my grandma was okay, AITA? I feel like I am. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5OQ22DTkpNrFqIkAUinBMfXFdh272JcF", "post_id": "agy794", "action": {"description": "being upset about my ex dating others while living with me", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for being upset about my ex dating others while living with me?", "text": "I broke to with my girlfriend about five months ago. Due to living situations she stayed living with me until she could save up to fully moved out. Over these months we've been dealing with it but came to a form of normalcy. \n\nThere has been some flirting time to time since our relationship but I chaulked it up tonl us dating nearly three years. Recently she attempted to kiss me, but I pulled out of it. I didn't think going down there road would be a good idea as we broke up due to us not exactly clicking very well, though I suspect it was due to me being stubborn and not wanting to change from enjoying not being alone; I won't deny that fact. \n\nEven though we aren't together anymore, I avoided dating anyone or get close enough to that  because it was still a fresh breakup and to not put her in a place of uncomfort while she lived with me. \n\nThe other day I found out she's dating one of her friends and ever since I felt a sinking feeling and generally upset about it, and I'm not sure exactly why that is. \n\nAm I the asshole for being upset about her seeing other people while she's living with me? Am I upset just because I keep seeing her everyday and things would be different if we didn't live with each other?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "HMBDRqVZT39TpfNsB08Dx9BmS5u9vUgj", "post_id": "a8cxol", "action": {"description": "asking my SIL to repay vet costs that I helped her with", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA If I asked my SIL to repay vet costs that I helped her with?", "text": "I'll be short and sweet here. My SIL lives next door and is kind of a shitty cat owner. She feeds and shelters them, but emotionally neglects them to the point where one cat ran away and lives with a neighbor across the street now, and her other cat basically moved in with us, but goes home for the odd feeding. Husband and I are big cat people, so we always showed affection to their cat when it came over and thus, the unofficial adoption. To be honest, her cat is kinda annoying and our cat isn't a fan, and I wish he didn't like us so much, but what can you do. \n\nAnyway, about 6 months ago I noticed her cat loosing weight, despite eating a ton of food at our house and at her house. Deduced it was diabetes. Mentioned to her he was skinny, kept hinting he should see a vet, even weighed him and proved he was loosing weight and still she dragged her feet about taking him to the vet. \n\nNow they don't make a lot of money, but enough for a vet, and plus don't own pets if you can't take care of them. Anyway she is aggressively cheap and I just knew it was about money so I offered to pay half if she took him to the vet. She immediately agrees, makes an appt, takes him to the vet, they run a bunch of tests and treat him for a few things, to the tune of $400. I pay my half as promised, with no expectations that she would pay me back. It was a straight up gift on my part.\n\nFast forward a few months and her cat is doing much better. Weight is back on and then some. Still spends 90% of it's time chilling at our house. I mean, he sleeps in our bed. \n\nHere is where I am thinking of potentially entering asshole territory: her grandma died over the summer, shortly after the vet trip, and she just now received an unexpected inheritance of around $30k. I would never expect her to pay me back normally, but now that she has this big windfall, would I be a jerk if I asked her to kick me back the money I paid for her cat? \n\nSorry I lied at the beginning and said this would be short and sweet. Anyway, debating asking for the money, but curious on what you all think. \n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "UbJRtvSmBGn8eLywyrfl0y0hwsD02FmA", "post_id": "asx6jc", "action": {"description": "joking about a subreddit's imminent brigading", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for joking about a subreddit's imminent brigading?", "text": "This happened back during the Super Bowl \"Sweet Victory\" controversy, so I waited a while before posting so people's heads could cool down and I could get an unbiased answer.\n\n​\n\nBasically, Maroon 5 teased that they would play play \"Sweet Victory\" during the half time show in honor of Stephen Hillenburg. That turned out to be a lie. r/BikiniBottomTwitter was pretty pissed off about it, with everyone posting memes about their disappointment, but it was all rather humorous and generally fun. That's why I'm on that sub in the first place, I don't care much for Spongebob, but it's funny. Well, I saw a comment saying something to the effect of \"I bet the Marroon 5 subreddit is going to get a lot of shit for this.\" I thought, \"You know, they probably are. I wonder what's happening there?\"\n\n​\n\nSo I check out r/Maroon5, and it's just this tiny 750ish subscriber dead fansub. However, there were two posts already on it from Spongebob fans. One of them was an angry troll saying \"fuck maroon 5,\" but the other one was a humorous picture of the Pitchfork Salesman from... whichever episode of Spongebob featured a pitchfork salesman.\n\n​\n\nNow, what I expected was mostly posts of the latter sort: teasing, but ultimately good natured meme posts. I decided to post one like it in the name of fake internet points. It said \"Don't mind me, I'm just here to watch Spongebob fans burn this place to the ground.\" My post was third out of what turned out to be hundreds, and I got like 2000 upvotes. However, the ensuing shitstorm was NOT the jokes I was expecting, but mostly variants on \"fuck maroon 5.\" It was uuuuuuugly.\n\n​\n\nSo my moral quandary is this: was I part of the problem, and if so, how much? I got there before the brigade really became a \"brigade,\" but my post certainly could be viewed as actual encouragement to \"burn this place to the ground,\" and really I knew that it was always possible that people would get mean.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bGVuBZPWP7Pj8eDFzCdEU8mR4GIKRMdl", "post_id": "b5xsb4", "action": {"description": "making a \"hook up pact\" whilst having a girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 39}, "title": "AITA for making a \"hook up pact\" whilst having a girlfriend.", "text": "Hey guys,\n\nA week ago I attended a party with a bunch of classmates, whereof a girl that I share a lot of common friends with from \"back in the days\" also was there, let's call her C. We don't really talk much apart from when we're drunk, but she has been slightly flirty with me, despite both of us having a partner. She knows that I could never cheat on my girlfriend (C's friend who is also a classmate tried really hard to make me go home with her a few months back), however C stated: \"I know that if we didn't both had partners, then we definitely would've hooked up by now\". I think C is smart, funny and good looking, so I replied that we should make a pact; whenever one of us is single, then we'll message each other for a hook up to which she agreed with.\n\nNow I told this to my best friend, and he told me that he found it slightly \"bad mannered\", a break of trust and a gatekeeping for being unfaithful, and stated that it's kind of \"assuming you won't be with your girlfriend for a long time\". I was honestly lost for words, because I can see what he means, but I honestly didn't think that much of it. Both C and I meant what we said when we agreed, but I yeah, idk. This is my first relationship ever, and the pact just seemed like a fun thing to do.\n\nPlease let me know if I'm being a complete asshole without realising it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 38, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 39}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "oYbDs1ULzLTCQq8LnsfLgIRDj6twzLtN", "post_id": "aj4wyl", "action": null, "title": "AITA: My brothers boyfriend is a pathological liar but I might have crossed a line to prove it", "text": "TL;DR: I have done a ridiculous amount of research into things my brother's boyfriend has told me and my brother and have not found a single thing to be true. My brother is clueless. I've breached some trust here and fallen down a bit of a rabbit hole, AITA? And can I confront my brother about this asshole without him hating me?\n\nSorry for how long this is but this is some Dirty John shit and it needs some explaining. My \\[24F\\] brother David \\[27M\\] has been dating Kyle \\[29M\\] for about six months and immediately I thought something was off about him. Despite only being 27 (later found out his actual age is \\~29) he claimed he was a VP at a MAJOR company and that this company flew him places in private chartered jets and gave him a beautiful, giant apartment in a downtown area. This was despite him constantly (during working hours!) being at my brother's apartment, and my brother never once sending me a Snapchat or any other picture from them hanging out at his place. Early on in their relationship David actually confronted him about how he felt it was weird he'd never been to his apartment, and Kyle fed him some shit about how he just didn't feel \"emotionally connected\" to the apartment because he was going to be quitting his job at MAJOR company soon to pursue a law degree. And David bought that for some reason! After I pointed out that it still didn't seem right, David would get hostile or outright change the subject when I would bring it up. \n\nFast forward to Christmas where David asked us if he could bring Kyle home to my parents house as a show of support from us about his new relationship. I still had my reservations about him, but I went in with an open mind. The week was an absolute nightmare. He was incredibly negative and outright rude to me and my parents but David didn't seem to notice at all. But that isn't the point of this post. What he also did the whole weekend is just make up some insane fucking lies that while I could not immediately debunk in the moment, I have since debunked. Here are the best:\n\n* **He claims to have played basketball at a very well known college for basketball.** I'm talking Elite Eight well known. I debunked this before we even met him with a look at their readily available online roster from the year he claimed to play.\n* **He claims to have received a full ride scholarship, despite only playing for one year and was allowed to keep the full ride scholarship after he quit playing.** No injury involved, he just \"wasn't feeling it.\" I asked my boyfriend's brother who plays college sports on scholarship if this is something he had ever heard of, and he laughed in my face and said no. \n* **He claims to have attended an elite school (not Ivy but one of the best in the country) and graduated with a BS and a Master's with NO DEBT.** (he later mocked me and my brother for having student loans, so charming.) I debunked this by finding the commencement list online from the years he could have graduated. This one has room for error, because people can be left off a program, but still. \n* **Once again, claimed to be a VP at a Major Company.** I asked my boyfriend's dad, who is a VP at a smaller company, if that were possible and if any of the perks he described were possible, and he said no. \n* **He claimed to have a pilot's license.** This was a big ol' fuckup because my dad works for the FAA and he checked the database and he ain't on it. \n* **He claimed to have been accepted to Yale Law school with the option to defer for five years.** I talked to my best friend who is currently in law school whether she'd ever heard of a five year deferment, and she said someone in his family had to be dying for him to even get a one year deferment. And it's still rare. \n\nThese are the greatest hits and the best stuff I have to go off of. Aside from this stuff, he's incredibly manipulative and possessive. I talked to one of his friends (Amanda) and she said she hadn't seen David in like a month because Kyle doesn't like her and insults her constantly. (She has been debunking his lies for a long time.) At the moment, David is away in Africa on his dream vacation for another week. He has left his apartment keys, his car keys and his dog to Kyle to watch. Kyle told David before he left that he would keep the dog at \"his place\" (which I don't think exists) and just keep his keys for safe keeping. But while he's been gone, Amanda and her husband have walked by her home every other night while walking their dog and saw Kyle inside on the couch. My dad and mom were going to be in the city for a conference and asked if they could stay at David's apartment instead of a hotel, and Kyle said he wasn't in town to give them the keys. Sure enough they show up at David's apartment and Kyle isn't there but David's car is gone too. After he told David he wouldn't be using it. \n\nSo finally we get to the asshole part: this is a LOT of digging. On top of the above stuff, I've looked up criminal records, talked to all David's friends (they hate Kyle too FWIW,) asked a friend to use his Lexus Nexus access to look him up, and have done a lot lot lot of stuff behind his back to prove this guy is not who he says he is. We're very close to hiring a private investigator. I've trespassed on a lot of trust here. I feel like I've crossed a line. But I just want to be absolutely sure that if I ever confront David about him, Kyle can't talk his way out of it. But can I even confront him at this point without displaying this huge breach of trust I've done? Have I crossed a line into asshole territory or am I still just being protective? \n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 27, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 27, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xXuFn3WHVRj11t3hyKM6EEGT3E3WtF2z", "post_id": "ab035u", "action": {"description": "not wishing my brother a happy b-day tomorrow after he punched me in the face earlier this month", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for not wishing my brother a happy B-day tomorrow after he punched me in the face earlier this month?", "text": "The title pretty much says it all, but I'll go into more detail about what happened\n\n\nMy brother (19m) and I (18f) got into an argument, he wouldn't stop poking and touching me, even after I was repeating \"Dont touch me\" and \"leave me alone\" when he didnt stop, eventually I told him \"go fuck off somewhere else for once, you fuckin' troglodyte\" he didnt like that so he grabbed the top of my head and punched me in the face. I haven't spoke a word to him since even though we live in the same house\n\n\nSo, Reddit, what do you think? WIBTA if I didn't wish him a happy birthday tomorrow?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6Plfui1qpf4L2pUgYhymQ6BMoW6N1f6m", "post_id": "b0rwi3", "action": {"description": "not inviting my husbands extended family to our wedding", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not inviting my husbands extended family to our wedding?", "text": "SN: this has already happened, we married last December.\n\nSo long story short, we had a super small wedding, 45 people. We invited his mum, dad, brother, sister, surviving gparents & 1 of his aunties. We however, didnt invite his other aunty (let's call her paula). Paula, since we met, has taken disdain for me, most likely because I have bright red hair, piercings & tattoos, kinda alternative looking. Shes always made fun of how I look and speak (I'm 5 ft 2, thin and pretty shy), not to mention at every gathering, shes gotten crazy drunk and embarrassed herself.\n\nI said that if he wanted her there we could, but it was my husbands idea not to invite her, at the encouragement of his mum (Paula's sister). He also said he just didnt want the added stress of worrying shed say or do something dumb (she started a fight at his sisters wedding 2 years ago). She also likes to be vocal about her hatred of kids, and the majority of my cousins are under 10, and they are like my siblings- I love them to death.\n\nBasically the wedding happened, without her and it was an incredibly beautiful day. she found out through Facebook about it. She was LIVID, she sent abusive message after message to my poor husband saying how ungrateful he is for not inviting her, and then got his grandparents involved & said that if they didnt cut contact with my husband and I, she would. So now his grandad refuses to speak to him and it's completely ruined him as he looks up to him.\n\nHis mum and dad are on our side though, but it begs the questions AITA for not inviting her and causing all this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SM2XNceoreoWPZhzPMj3BGdl3yKT4uyw", "post_id": "aqp6tl", "action": {"description": "telling my boyfriend to stop asking me for advice", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my boyfriend to stop asking me for advice", "text": "My bf is facing a big life decision currently, and he's having a really hard time making it. He keeps going over and over and thinking of new reasons to say yes or no.\n\nEach time he does it, he calls me and says, I think I should say yes because x, or I think I should say no because y.\n\nI've advised him to write these down in some sort of pros and cons list, as each time he thinks of something, he changes his mind based on the new reason. It's clearly complicated and has a lot of pros and cons, and when he brings it up, I can't remember all the previous reasons he had, so I don't know what to advise him. \n\nIt's been paralyzing him for weeks, and he's just obsessing in circles, and \"deciding\" based on the most recent potential factor he thought of, which I think is a bad idea, and may lead to making a bad decision.\n\nI finally told him to stop talking to me about it if he's not going to follow my advice. I feel like I just keep hearing the same thing over and over, and I've been trying to be a good listener, but I'm getting a little frustrated.\n\nAm I being an asshole? I've offered to sit down with him and make the list, but short of forcing him to sit down and do it \"right now\", I don't think it's going to happen.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ontkQ7z7ec8LpLM2blHDNPU2o9ldS7oB", "post_id": "afi3vm", "action": null, "title": "AITA- Pranked my best uni friend with disastrous consequences", "text": "Context -So I had a uni friend (let's call her Ani) and we were friends from the very first year. We clicked and totally hit it off. She was very nice, very sweet (Italian) and she was always friendly. We would constantly go out to pubs (this is happening in London), restaurants and out as a group for coffee. We were happy and close.\n\nSo this story happens in our final year about a month ago from this posting. The final year is a big year because we have our dissertations to do. During the summer we were allocated a supervisor and chose topics. Ani got a notoriously lazy and slow replying supervisor from whom she couldn't get a reply from. So she messaged another lecturer (Jane, who taught both of us last year) and asked her of she knows if her supervisor was alive. Jane replied that Ani should just chill out and relax and stop disturbing the supervisor till after summer. Ani was annoyed a lot by this and told me this story. \n\nFast forwarding to December - I was in our uni library on the ground floor researching some stuff and I got a text from Ani. We messaged and turns out she was on the second floor. I told her I'd meet up in 10 minutes. This is where I thought of doing the prank. \n\nI yped in Google - disguise my email and came to a website that could send pretend emails to people as if from another person. So I sent an email as if from Jane (the teacher that pussed Ani off) to Ani with this text:\n\n'Dear Ani, I thought long and hard about out conversation last summer. I spoke with your supervisor and as a sorry here is a document with some research materials and links you might find useful.'\nAttached was a word doc\nIn the document was a meme saying - you've been pranked LOL.\n\nSo I sent that off and then as a test I sent the same email to myself instead of Ani using the same website. The email was sent to junk and was blocked with the labels saying it was dangerous and malicious and that you had to give specific permission to open it. So I thought to myself that there is no point of telling Ani about the prank (which I had the full intention of doing because I was meeting her in 10 minutes) since the email was so blocked she wouldn't open it. \n\nThis. Is. Where. I. Ducked. Up\n\nA week later I forgot about the incident. Ani didn't say anything either so I thought she never got it. Because if I got an email like that my first reaction would be to message the group chat and say - 'lmao which one of you shi* heads sent this?'. A week later I get an email from the head of department saying that she needs to interview me about 'impersonation of a teacher and harassment of a student'. My heart collapsed.\n\nI message Ani out of panic and tell her the truth and apologise. I take it all on the chin. She tells me she was deeply hurt and traumatised and how I have no respect for her. I told her that's not true. We've been friends for so long. She tells me that she told the ENTIRE department about this and she was having another meeting with other lecturers. I told her:\n\n-I'll take any punishment that comes to me even if it is suspension\n\nAni- suspension? You're going to get expelled.\n\nAt this point I was shaking. In England you pay for uni but you do get loans to help. I am not an British citizen. So I pay double without the loan that my parents pay and they struggle to. I work part time to help out too. To have all of that swept away in one go was terrifying. That night I seriously thought of ending i because of the shame I brought to myself and my parents. Then I decided to write a defence for myself and prepared for the interview. \n\nWhen I came to the interview the head of the department was very formal and just asked for my side. I was very apologetic, telling her that :\nI did not intend to be malicious\nI had the full intention of telling her if my test email sent through.\nI had no vendetta against her or Jane.\nAni and I were best friends.\nIf I thought that what I was doing was so wrong and I had the intention of doing it anonymously to I wouldn't have been stupid enough to do it on the uni system in the uni library.\n\n(I'll post the resolution email from the head to me at the end if you want to read)\n\nThe head looked at the email, briefly smiled when she saw the meme and told me to wait for the judgment. A week later I was told that the case was dismissed and everything was fine and just not to repeat this again. Also the head told me that Ani asked her to tell me never to contact her again or come near her. Prior to this she had blocked me on all social media.\n\nSo am I the asshole here? Or was the joke taken too far? \n\nTL;DR - made a prank email disguised from a lecturer to a friend with a meme inside. She took it personally and tried to get me expelled. \n\nThe resolution email from the head of department to me -\n\nDear Mark,\n\n\nThank you for coming to speak to me and H on Thursday and for giving us your account of the incident described in my last email. I\u2019ve now had a chance to speak to the student who received the spoof email, and I\u2019m writing to let you know that on behalf of the department, I have decided that no further action needs to be taken. This is because this is your first violation of King\u2019s IT policy, and the incident does not appear to be part of a pattern of harassment of other King\u2019s students or staff. I have let IT know the outcome of this investigation, and asked them to unblock your KCL account by the end of the day today.\n\n\nI include here a brief summary of our discussion, for the record and so that D is aware of the details. Please let me know if you would like to make any amendments to this account.\n\n\nWhen we met, you admitted immediately that you had sent the spoof email. You said that you and the student who received the email were friends, and that you sent the email as a joke from a library computer right before you were due to meet up with her, expecting that you would have a chance to explain the joke right away. You said that you had sent her other joke messages in the past, although not through King\u2019s email. You said that you had not previously sent spoof emails, and that you found instructions for doing so online before sending this email. When you sent yourself a test email, you realized that the email you sent to her had been quarantined, so you assumed that she would not see it; it was only when you spoke to her later after she had released the email that you realized the seriousness of what you had done. You said that you knew about the student\u2019s earlier correspondence with J about her dissertation because the student had told you about it herself at the time.\u00a0\n\n\nIn our meeting, you expressed remorse for sending the email, and said that you understood the gravity of the offence and would not repeat it. You said that you are not currently experiencing difficulties that are interfering with your studies or your wellbeing, apart from the ongoing responsibility of caring for your younger siblings.\n\n\nAs we discussed at the meeting, any further violations of King\u2019s policy (IT or otherwise) will be treated as a second offence, and may jeopardize your degree. This incident has been logged with the Student Conduct office in case this happens, although if there are no further violations, this incident will not appear on your King\u2019s record. I would add from my conversation with the student who received the email that she has been distressed by this incident, and would like you to refrain from contacting her. I ask you to please respect her wishes.\n\n\nThank you again for your cooperation with this investigation. I wish you the best for the remainder of your degree, and I encourage you to speak to D as your personal tutor if you find that you are encountering any difficulties at any point.\n\n\nBest wishes,\n\nA)\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "IYDI7lasFts4cqaZK7qzECQjSs76pOm6", "post_id": "av6xeq", "action": {"description": "not tipping when picking up a carry out order from a sit down restaurant", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for not tipping when picking up a carry out order from a sit down restaurant?", "text": "I was picking up sushi tonight from one of our go to restaurants. I called it in, drove there, and walked in to pick it up. The host/waiter ran my credit card and handed me my receipt. It had a tip line because it's the same receipt that some one sitting down would get. I drew a line through the tip and wrote the original total. As I was walking out the host/waiter must have picked up my receipt because I heard him scoff that I drew a line through the tip. \n\nI am a firm believer in tipping your waiters. My baseline tip is 20% and higher for good service. I just didn't think this situation warranted a tip. \n\nI'd like to know if I'm wrong so I can correct myself in the future. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZTQKCugBaQ4FqNeScnA2CYGK8ucRdbCv", "post_id": "b4t2pj", "action": {"description": "barely tipping my extremely rude waiter", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for barely tipping my extremely rude waiter?", "text": "Just had dinner at a chinese restaurant that usually doesn\u2019t have good service, but tonight they were particularly rude and literally all they did was bring me my food. Had to ask for my own water and soy sauce... It was a $40 meal, and I tipped him $2. The waiter got super pissed saying, \u201cis this it? your meal was $40\u201d and i explained why i didn\u2019t feel like he deserved a 15% tip. He pretty much just blew me off and told me that he doesn\u2019t want my money and that i\u2019m a lousy person. AITA here? Would like to note that I am chinese myself so no racism here", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NOwaTFWW7Q7IIa3ifS3RJ8Zb5JpaXB3C", "post_id": "ae025w", "action": {"description": "putting parsley on my roommates scrambled eggs", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "AITA for putting parsley on my roommates scrambled eggs?", "text": "So. Bit of context here. Me and my roommate (25 y/o males) work and live together and we're both pretty lazy. For the new year I decided to start waking up earlier and walking to work and I've started cooking breakfast to make sure the day gets started in the right way. This week I've been making scrambled eggs (american style), toast and avocado with -> FRESH PARSLEY <- sprinkled on top of the eggs.\n\nEvery morning this week I've woken up my roommate with a really really pleasant surprise of home cooked food. He always acts really grateful, and I'm happy to do it because I enjoy making food... However. After cleaning the plates today I noticed that he had hid ALL of the parsley I had sprinkled on his eggs under his cup.\n\nParsley goes with eggs. He's making his morning experience WORSE by eating around it... and then trying to hide the evidence- WEIRD MUCH??\n\nSo tomorrow I am going to put more parsley on the eggs I make. I'm actually going to put more on than I put yesterday. So yeah. Sorry if this is the wrong format but can you just honestly tell me if I am the asshole in this situation?? I will update this post as developments happen.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "DwEphytqIHeazkLfFtsuMh5qm9yval90", "post_id": "a4ef03", "action": {"description": "leaving a very confused Deli Girl Holding a Pile of meat without saying a word", "pronormative_score": 72, "contranormative_score": 17}, "title": "AITA For Leaving A Very Confused Deli Girl Holding A Pile Of Meat Without Saying A Word?", "text": "Holy fuck.\n\nI go to do some shopping today, and I stop at the deli counter to grab some meats and cheeses.\n\nThis girl in her mid twenties greets me.\n\nI ask for 1lb of the oven roasted turkey meat, which is $3.98/lb, thinly sliced. She starts slicing the meat and asks me if it's ok if it's a little over. \n\nOf course it is.\n\nShe bags up the meat, prices it, and hands it to me. I look at it like wtf.\n\nThe slices are half as thick as a DVD case, and the price tag says $12.18 for 1.745 lbs @ $6.98/lb.\n\nI politely tell her I think she made a mistake, my shit's $3.98/lb. \n\nShe says \"No, sorry, the price has gone up, we just haven't changed the sign.\"\n\nI said, politely: \"I asked for a pound, this says it's almost two.\"\n\nShe takes it from me and says \"where does it say that?\" \n\nAt this point, I'm audibly irritated.\n\n\"At the top. Right there. One point seven four five pounds.\"\n\n\"Well I asked you if it was ok if it was a little over...\"\n\nShe starts taking out the meat, which is so thick, this shit's like 5-6 fucking slices, and begins to rebag and weigh it. \n\nShe puts 2 slices on the scale. \n\nGrabs another slice and tears it in half, tosses that on too.\n\nBags it, prices it. Tries to hand it to me.\n\nI looked right through her dead eyes, put my stupid little shopping basket down on the ground where I was standing, and just walked out the door.\n\nAm I the asshole for not being able to deal with this person? I instantly lost all patience, and I didn't wanna be that guy who's like \"Can I speak to your manager?\" \n\nI just wanted to buy some fucking groceries.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 70, "EVERYBODY": 9, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 72, "WRONG": 17}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kREI7sVnVWab7amIcrcOlGwuJhW80nWR", "post_id": "b9i3aa", "action": {"description": "doing porn", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "AITA for doing porn?", "text": "Obvious Throwaway account. Yadda Yadda..\n\nI'm in a weird spot in life right now, and I'm not sure where to begin with this.. Basically, I've been doing porn on the side to make money. I'm currently in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. I'm a stay at home mom that can't get a job because of childcare expenses. We live in a pretty high standard of living area and are planning on moving soon. Until then, money's been tight. The child's father gives me child support but it's just enough to cover bills, nothing more. I've turned to making porn videos on pornhub. My boyfriend's upset with me because of it. I've told him time and time again that he can trust me. I've promised to stop after we get moved and I can get a stable income. However he's really upset by it. I'm his first real girlfriend and it bothers him that guys/girls will look at me like that. I don't think it's that big of a deal, I've tried talking to him about it but he refuses. He said he feels like shit for asking me to stop. I told him lastnight that I was going to stop when we move but I wasnt going to disable my account. That way, I can still make money off it, I just won't make new content. He got really upset. I'm torn here because I don't want to upset him but at the same time, I see no harm in doing what I'm doing. Am I the Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 15, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 11, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "z0FtNZaoO86zAFbUgHtgHCvePraE7T1s", "post_id": "ajtahm", "action": {"description": "asking a mexican woman where to find empanada dough", "pronormative_score": 37, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for asking a Mexican woman where to find empanada dough?", "text": "I work in an office with 4 cubicles, the woman next to me is Mexican. She openly talks about being Mexican fairly often, with me and other people in the office. We talk about food fairly often, Mexican and otherwise. \n\nI've been wanting to make my own empanadas but all the grocery stores in my town do not carry any Hispanic foods besides the Tex-Mex basics. I thought, if anyone knows where to get Hispanic foods, it would be someone who was Hispanic who makes Hispanic food. Made sense in my head.\n\nToday when I was on my way out to go home, I stopped and said exactly, \"Hey, do you know where to get empanada dough? I can't find it in the stores around here.\"\n\nShe is usually a very warm person, this time she seemed almost exhausted by my question and told me about a store for Hispanic food in the town over. My boss quickly called me over and showed me on his computer some stores that should have it. Another coworker made the comment, \"Jeez, asking the Mexican where to get Mexican food?\" I was a bit stunned so I just mumbled, \"I just thought she might know.\" I tried to change the topic a little and talked about the different kinds of empanadas my partner and I have made, but I wound up saying my byes and rushing out because of the awkwardness. I might actually be in a bit of trouble over this considering the way my boss was acting.\n\nJust how much of a racist asshole was I today? \n\n ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 31, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 37, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Eu8sYWgqbNoC00eGd2zna9V8BBaY9KCt", "post_id": "b8cfzr", "action": {"description": "not paying a domme after she ignored my safe word", "pronormative_score": 215, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA For Not Paying A Domme After She Ignored My Safe word?", "text": "I'm in my early 20's and into hot chicks dominating me, I'm into ballbusting (you can guess what that is) but I'm more of a light to medium max player of it. I contacted this really smkoin' domme and set up a session for 90 mins for $350, not bad for a experienced hot domme. I met up with her at her place on Saturday and surprisingly she didn't ask for the money up front, which they usually all do. I did however give a deposit of $50 to her and we spoke for about 5 mins of my limits with ballbusting. I said medium power max, and she asked to restrain and ball gag me and I agreed to this. The \"safe word\" word be me holding a ball in my hand and if I drop it she'd stop immediately and ungag me and check my status. I thought this was good and safe, about 10 mins in she's kicking kinda hard, my balls kill. 20 mins in she's kneeing really hard and I'm in a lot of pain, she steps back and boots me full force in the balls even though I said med power max. I'm dying at this point and drop the ball expecting her to stop, but she keeps kicking 3 more kicks as powerful as the first. I basically almost pass out and felt like I couldn't breathe and was choking. I'm thrashing around hard and break one of the restraints and cover myself before she gets another one in. I cover myself up and she stops and starts yelling at me for breaking her equipment while unrestraining me, I hit the ground holding myself and I knew something was wrong with my berries. I gather all my strength to get up and she says she's ending the session now and to give her the $300 I owe her. I slowly put my clothes back on and tell her she ignored my safeword and was dangerous, and I'm going to the hospital now and will not be paying her. She starts berating me and goes on the phone to call someone and said that she's going to tell the domme community in my city about me not paying and I wont ever get another session. I limp out of there quick and into my car and straight to the hospital. My balls are normally walnut sized but they doubled from that so I was scared af, not to mention the pain. Thankfully nothing was damaged down there and I'm recovering well.\n\nI told my friend about this the next day and she's a domme as well and we sometimes play, she said I'm a huge asshole/douche and should have paid her still. Said that she pushed my limits like any good domme and that I didn't pay her and broke her straps which caused her to lose a lot. \n\nAITA? Also please don't judge me lmao, I know it's a weird fetish.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 215, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 215, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ploydNBA186WdUUWOHXJTzYUqo60HAjg", "post_id": "b3kbde", "action": {"description": "giving up on trying to follow the rules in my house", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA when I give up on trying to follow the rules in my house?", "text": "So. Lately, I've been extremely depressed. I've pretty much given up on most things and just sleep all the time. My step mom and my dad aren't helping in the slightest. My dad doesn't seem to care that I've lost all my happiness and hasn't spent any time with me for the past month and my step mom... Is being my step mom. Pandering to her own daughters and throwing my siblings and I in the mud. So. Her daughter is allowed to eat any snacks she likes even before dinner and when I get like a hot picket two hours before dinner, I get yelled at. She stays up all night on her phone, I play video games during the week and I'm the bad guy. I'm 17 years old and I buy everything for myself at this point and I'm not allowed to play video games during the week. I've given up trying to please them and I've just been telling them to fuck off. On my one day off all week, I ask if we can go out to eat since we haven't in a long time. They said no because they had darts and made me cook a pizza instead. It feels like they're just avoiding me and my siblings at this point cause I really haven't seen them all week and the only time I have, I've been yelled at.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jXOzUwp5M8GU3JjVClEniyHntNyNCMxj", "post_id": "b4jokt", "action": {"description": "ghosting my friend after she turned me down", "pronormative_score": 27, "contranormative_score": 31}, "title": "AITA for ghosting my friend after she turned me down?", "text": "I have a friend that I\u2019ve known since last spring.  We got along really well and had a lot of the same interests.  I caught feelings for her a while ago, but was too chicken shit to do anything about it now.  I confessed how I felt to her and asked her out.  She was really nice about it, but didn\u2019t feel the same way.  \n\nI don\u2019t hold it against her or think negatively of her, but it\u2019s kind of like a Pandora\u2019s box type situation.  There\u2019s no going back to the way things were before.  She wants to continue to be friends and keeps trying to text and approach me about it.  I just don\u2019t see how we can be friends, my feelings for her haven\u2019t changed and remaining in the friendship would just be painful.  \n\nLately I\u2019ve been ignoring her texts and avoiding her. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 31, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 16, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 27, "WRONG": 31}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "MWeoBXAZ8yo4RbsTh4xzEaVrHrnAWKZv", "post_id": "a9v7mu", "action": {"description": "refusing to help my brother who's struggling at the moment", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "Wibta if I refused to help my brother who\u2019s struggling at the moment?", "text": "Due to being an irresponsible adult who doesn\u2019t understand the concept of saving money, my brother doesn\u2019t have a car at the moment. He\u2019s currently struggling getting to and from work, because his job (which is near where I live) is a 20 minute drive from his home. On public transportation, that\u2019s about an hour and a half commute. \n\nAt first I didn\u2019t mind helping him out, because despite his flaws that have led him to this situation, he\u2019s my brother and I want to be there for him. But it\u2019s turned into a weekly thing, where at least twice a week he\u2019s either asking me for rides, asking to borrow my car for days, or asking if I can lend him money. Sometimes I\u2019m busy, and sometimes I just really don\u2019t feel like it. I\u2019m currently on break from school, so it\u2019s not like I have an excuse to not want to let him borrow my car, I just don\u2019t want to. I want to be able to know that it\u2019s in my possession ready for me to use if I need it for whatever reason, even if it\u2019s just to go to a friends house. \n\nThe thing is, aside from this issue, my brother and I get along well. I don\u2019t want to hurt his feelings and have it hurt our relationship. \n\nAm I really the asshole for wanting to put myself first when my brother is struggling? Because I sure feel like an asshole for it, and that\u2019s why it\u2019s so hard for me to say no sometimes. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4fAbH4wC4cuj3rV4PdxCavWJAp6LvNR6", "post_id": "ax178w", "action": {"description": "wanting my friend to break up with her boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting my friend to break up with her boyfriend", "text": "They\u2019ve been dating for about 5 months. They\u2019re relationship isn\u2019t toxic exactly, but he\u2019s constantly grounded (they\u2019re 17) and when she tried to say how hurt she is or how it\u2019s impacting her, he just goes on about how much more hurt she is. \n\nShe talks to me everyday about their constant arguments. It\u2019s gotten to the point where the insecurity she has in her relationship is fucking up everyone else around her. \nI want to tell her to break up with him, but don\u2019t want to make the wrong decision. Help!! ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6y0CaRJws8TjQVUmtTb6BvmdmJZt0Wb0", "post_id": "aefupm", "action": {"description": "moving out and snapping on my roommate", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for moving out and snapping on my roommate?", "text": "Hey everyone. I\u2019m in a bit of a conflict and could use outside opinions. \n\nTo begin, at the beginning of August, I moved in with 2 random college roommate in an off campus townhouse. I signed the lease with two other girls, we will call them H and S. \n\nS turned out to not be a very good roommate but this story is not about her. She moved in and hasn\u2019t stayed a night over sense. She also abandoned a lizard that was on the brink of death when I found it in her room.  Anyway, S is out of the picture now and I thought everything would be fine in a spacious apartment with just one other roommate. \n\nH and I got along for months, even would call her a friend. She is a nice girl but she is a hypochondriac and allows her boyfriend to treat her like crap. She has caught him multiple times on tinder with other girls, going on double dates with his brother and other girls, calling her a bitch on her birthday, and that is just the beginning. I have been supportive of her every time she comes home crying because of him. \n\nOn top of the drama, H has 2 cats that completely ruin the place. She does not tend to the litter box as often as she should, but insists on keeping it in a closet in the kitchen. It stinks up the whole apartment. Not to mention both of the cats are males and have a dominance issue that leads to spraying. She has put off getting them fixed multiple times, and now it\u2019s to the point that the apartment literally reeks of cat. H is also horrible at cleaning up after herself. She leaves rotting food in her room for weeks at a time and doesn\u2019t understand you have to use hot water when cleaning dishes. They are left all caked in food and slippery with grease.\n\nSince S moved out a while ago, H and I have been looking for another roommate. My good friend and old roommate D just got back from a 6 month trip in France and wanted to move into the extra room. H and I happily obliged. \n\nToday, D texted me saying that she was uncomfortable living in the apartment because it reeks and gave her a headache after staying for just a day. I keep to myself in my closed off room when I am home, so I don\u2019t really smell it too much. I brought up this situation with H, suggesting we move the litter box to her room since she has the largest bedroom (by far) and it would help solve some of the issues. \n\nH completely freaked out and said that she refuses to move the box to her room because she doesn\u2019t want her room to smell like poop (even though if she cleaned it regularly, this wouldn\u2019t be an issue) and that she doesn\u2019t have room since her boyfriend is going to be moving into it with her. This was complete news to me. He expected to live here rent free, use my refrigerator, tv, everything but chip in a little for utilities.\n\nI finally snapped and told her D and I are moving out immediately and that her boyfriend can take over my lease. I told her that I am tired of living in a litter box with someone so unwilling to compromise, let alone respect. \n\nNow, I\u2019m not going to pretend I\u2019m the best roommate. I leave clutter around every once in a while, usually mail or school work for a day or 2. But I\u2019m not dirty.\n\nI on one hand feel guilty for snapping and causing conflict right before classes start, but I don\u2019t know if I can handle another semester with her. I also want to live with my friend I have missed for half a year, but I want it to be pleasant for everyone. \n\nSo Reddit, am I the asshole for snapping on my roommate and moving out suddenly?\n\nTL,DR; one of my roommates has cats that pee everywhere, who doesn\u2019t clean and is gross. My new roommate got sick from the cats and wants to move out and I want to go with her. I snapped on my old roommate for being gross, selfish and unwilling to compromise.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nY3AO1s7zpbgEHxn0JQ0isNOVvA0tIkR", "post_id": "atxd77", "action": {"description": "not tipping the delivery guy", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not tipping the delivery guy?", "text": "I work in an office downtown and the other day I forgot lunch. I had class that evening till 10, so I knew I had to eat something. I was extremely busy so ordered a sandwich delivered. It ended up costing like $12, which was around $7 for the food and $5 delivery fee. Under that it said the delivery fee all goes to the delivery guy. It recommended a tip but I decided not to leave one. \n\nWell, when I picked up my food from the front desk, the delivery guy started asking if I wanted to leave a tip. I said \"no\" and he asked if I was 100% sure I absolutely did not want to do that. I got a little uncomfortable but said \"no\" again and left. He scowled at me and left. The receptionist looked at me sideways and said bye to the delivery dude. \n\nI feel terrible for not leaving a tip. Am I the asshole in this scenario. \n\nTL;DR: did not leave a tip for a delivery guy and he was a little salty. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PBkrUcET0eR0oWmPkXcjl1SjfEHtEuhk", "post_id": "atgpb2", "action": {"description": "not wanting me spend time with my prendre friends kid", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for not wanting me spend time with my prendre friends kid?", "text": "So this has just happened, and I want to know if I\u2019m being unreasonable or not\n\nSo I\u2019m on my way home from my grandparents, with my dad driving, and my mum who\u2019s at home texts my dads phone, he asks me to check it and I do, now tonight once we are home my mum and dads friends, we\u2019ll call them H and W (husband and wife), are coming over for dinner, I don\u2019t care, I know them, I\u2019ll say hi and disappear to play video games, but the text says \u2018oh their bringing their son(S) with them tonight as their daughters out\u2019 which has pissed me off, as it means I will have to entertain a 13 year old for the evening, when all I want to do is sit down and play anthem which released today for me this evening, and I got pissed and then my dad got pissed at me for it, saying it will be fine \n\nSo AITA? It\u2019s not that I hate or dislike this kid really I just don\u2019t want to have to entertain him for the evening ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "OPPjaeRwL3oPTzHhZjF6XVZC6hZeUTVO", "post_id": "a2m9en", "action": {"description": "being angry at a friend for bailing", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being angry at a friend for bailing?", "text": "The last few hours have been spent justifying my actions, and I just need to get an objective opinion.\n\nLast night, I (23M) met friends who are visiting SF just for the weekend. Let's call them Anna and Conor. We knew each other from a company we all worked for and I'm very close with Conor especially. We had dinner, chit chat, lovely. We said our goodbyes and agreed to meet up in the morning and explore the city. \n\nThis morning, I didn't hear from them. There were 3 of them (one girl I'm not close with) and I assumed they were jet lagged and wanted to catch up on sleep. At 10:30 I message Anna to see how she is. No response.\n\nAt 11, I message Conor to see what the plan is. No response. \n\nFlash forward to 1pm and I see on Instagram that they are exploring and have had brunch. I meanwhile haven't eaten yet as I was waiting for them to contact me, as we had agreed. I am visiting SF too for work and so have no other friends here etc.\n\nBy 2pm I'm pissed, and receive messages from them both basically saying they had no WiFi or internet. Bear in mind the Instagram posts. I am at this point upset and angry. I have been friends with them both for a long time, and nothing like this has happened before. What transpired was me asking where they were to speak in person (to make things civil), which was met with them not responding. Again due to lack of WiFi. \n\nEventually, I was told that this was a communication issue and I was overreacting. A few messages later they seem to see my point slightly, but still push back. I feel abandoned, and completely left out. I spent the whole day alone while they had fun. I told them both they are bad friends, and have made me feel terrible.\n\nAITA for being so upset? It's made me reconsider the friendship given their reaction. They have always been great and I've  never even had a disagreement with either of them, but this has really destroyed my opinion. Has ayone else experienced anything like this? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ukCsdSUNxqXot0pyYkU9shoABX7wpq4A", "post_id": "b2jdmg", "action": {"description": "not caring about a sick 'friend' any more", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not caring about a sick 'friend' any more?", "text": "I had been friends with X for about 12 years.\u00a0\u00a0I met her through a family member (Y).\u00a0\u00a0She\u2019s always been a demanding, manipulative sort.\u00a0Back then I tolerated it because although she was hard work she was still a good friend.\u00a0About 2-3 years after I met her she got chronically ill.\u00a0\u00a0She used the illness as leverage for getting her own way even more often.\u00a0\u00a0Still, I didn\u2019t mind so much.\u00a0\nOver the years we made mutual friends, and Y met a lady (Z) and married her.\u00a0\u00a0As things progressed, X would frequently hang out with mutual friends/Y&Z without inviting me.\u00a0\u00a0Fine \u2013 sometimes you want to see people alone, but this was happening more and more often.\u00a0She even started seeing my nephew who was only 15 at the time.\u00a0\u00a0I started to do the same, because X and the others were always busy doing things at weekends, and so I had to meet other people or sit at home alone.\u00a0\u00a0X told me that it upset her and made her cry that I was seeing friends without her, even though she had been doing the same thing to me for much longer.\u00a0\nI should point out that I am also chronically ill, mentally.\u00a0\u00a0I\u2019ve had depression/OCD from the age of 8, and used to have bad anxiety (which now only comes in waves when my serotonin levels are low).\u00a0\u00a0At first a lot of the mutual friends either didn\u2019t know or thought it was much less serious than it is, but I am very open about it nowadays and most people know.\nMe and X grew further and further apart.\u00a0\u00a0Not too long ago we attempted reconciliation. I told her how I felt I was being shut out, and how it reminded me of when I was bullied throughout school.\u00a0\u00a0She told me that she was upset that I didn\u2019t seem to care enough about her illness.\u00a0\u00a0I made it clear that it was painful for me to see her getting close to Y and Z without me.\u00a0\u00a0I had found out later that on previous occasions when they had met up that and suggested inviting me along,\u00a0\u00a0X had said \u2018she\u2019s busy on that day\u2019 or \u2018she wouldn\u2019t like that\u2019.\u00a0\u00a0Never was I even asked.\u00a0\u00a0I also found out that X had lied about cancelling a night out with me under the pretence of having to work, but she went out with Z instead.\u00a0\u00a0It was only when Z posted on Facebook that I found out.\u00a0\u00a0X said work had been cancelled.\u00a0\u00a0Later, Z told me (inadvertently) there had never been work \u2013 X just wanted to go out with Z instead.\u00a0\u00a0I know that X has lied to others about such things because I\u2019ve witnessed it.\nThings are going on as before.\u00a0\u00a0X is still meeting up with my friends and family and never asked me, even though she has promised she would least sometimes.\u00a0\u00a0It happened this weekend and it was just too much.\u00a0\u00a0I now don\u2019t want anything to do with her.\u00a0\u00a0I\u2019ll be polite when we cross paths but I have no interest in being a friend any longer.\u00a0X has managed to convince everyone that she is the \u2018victim\u2019 here because she is ill and needs special treatment, and I\u2019m the bad guy for not giving it to her.\u00a0\u00a0Some people even tell me that I\u2019m over-reacting because of my mental issues.\u00a0\u00a0It\u2019s painful and isolating.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JnYALCWM3df0fbwGdetqXBi4DkgCK7Go", "post_id": "aiin87", "action": {"description": "considering confronting a regular customer at a store I work for", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for considering confronting a regular customer at a store I work for?", "text": "So, I\u2019m a mid-twenties woman in a small town in the UK. Theres a regular customer who has been asking me out and trying to flirt. I don\u2019t really mind this/brush it off since I won\u2019t waste negative energy on someone who likely believes they\u2019re just being nice.\n\nFast forward a few months; I\u2019m a smoker and was outside the store and along the street for a cigarette break. This regular customer notices me and comes over to chat. I\u2019m a little annoyed since I more or less want some peace while I smoke but I chat any way. As he was about to leave, he asks for a kiss and proceeds to lean in for one; I immediately pull away and shout \u2018no\u2019 before even thinking. He laughs and leaves.\n\nNow, for context I\u2019m bisexual with a preference for women, so during his advances have told him I\u2019m a lesbian in panic in an attempt for him to leave me alone, which I now see as wrong and has only made him pursue harder.\n\nSo my question is, I\u2019ve grown sick and tired of being made to feel uncomfortable by his advances, after repeatedly trying to politely reject him to no avail. Would I be an asshole if I confronted him in a colder manner? Is he just so oblivious to my rejections? I feel like squashing this behaviour in a softer nicer way isn\u2019t working for me but I also don\u2019t want to step out of bounds in my work place and face major consequences if he decides to be the asshole and complain. \n\nMy boss and I get on really well, and I fully believe they\u2019ll have my back on this, but I\u2019m unsure what upper management would do in this scenario.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AbaJpsmOmDSgoBrmJpByqOqkIGdfyRh9", "post_id": "ab8pzq", "action": {"description": "cutting people out of my life", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for cutting people out of my life?", "text": "I have always been the person everyone runs to whenever they need something. I won't (can't) say no when I know someone needs help. This makes \"friendships\" very interesting because people tend to remember me only when they need something.\n\nIn the last 3 years, I cut about a dozen people from my life. Out of them, 3 were actually very important to me; one of them was even my BFF. \n\nIt's the same story for all of them. Friend needs something so they call me for help. In most cases, it's something like babysitting their kids while they go out, or driving them somewhere when they need a ride. Many times though, I have also helped them moved, have cleaned their houses for them when they couldn't, and even allowed them to live with me when they couldn't live at home. \n\nAnd I'd run, every single time someone needed me, I'd be right there for them.\n\nMy \"awakening\" happened a few years ago when one day, my daughter simply asked me if my BFF and I weren't talking anymore. I wondered why she'd think that and she told me it was because my BFF never liked or commented on anything I posted on social media. I had never realized that up to that point, so I started paying closer attention. Sure enough, any of our friends posted something, she'd love it, comment it or whatever. Nothing whenever I posted something. She even ignored my comments on her own posts, while liking/commenting everything else others wrote. I asked her and she said I was being stupid, she was just busy. She would never call me to talk or get together, and whenever I'd call her, she'd say she was too busy (and then I'd see her out with other friends). \n\nThis went on for 2 years. The day I basically said \"FUCK YOU\" was after another friend made a group chat to invite us (about 5 friends in total, ex-bff included) to her b-day brunch. My husband had had an accident and was in the hospital (nothing serious, more for observation) and I posted that I couldn't make it cuz SO was in the hospital and I didn't know what time he'd be released.\n\nShe never asked what happened. She never asked if he was ok. She never called or messaged. When I got home, I deleted her (and all her friends) off all social media and never contacted her again. \n\nAITA for expecting more from her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JCP6VvuxHO6mP5fdHQ39z705KMAPiE5x", "post_id": "b8nyri", "action": {"description": "not taking the extra long way around to travel with my friend to a workshop", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not taking the extra long way around to travel with my friend to a workshop", "text": "So for more context. My friend and I are going to a workshop and we have to take public transport. For me it is easier and cheaper to go directly and take the short route. My friend can't take this route and now he asked me to take an extra long route so we can travel together. I don't want to waste extra time and money just so we can travel together ( long way takes about 45 min longer and costs about \u20ac8 more). Because i don't want to take the long route he now calls me boring in front of everyone.\nAm I the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MeyMlbm3ZAoFDS397sZahaBcALLnKe3Y", "post_id": "aqxb27", "action": {"description": "telling my parents to stop being overprotective", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if i told my parents to stop being overprotective?", "text": "so, long story, here we go.\nswipe down and read if you want, but there will be a lot to read, so disclaimer\n\ni, myself, am personally not a parent.\n\ni wanted to post this on here because i thought that this would maybe belong here. i'm sorry if it doesn't, i'm new to writing on reddit, but i am familiar with the social media.\n\nready?\n\ni am a freshmen at a high school (which i'm obviously not going to aim) but if there is one detail that should contribute to the story the most, it's that i like math. a lot. and when i mean a lot, i mean A LOT. it's very tough for me to say this, but i have two parents, both asian immigrants, but have recently gotten exponentially harder on me.\n\nnow, not to brag here, but i just want to put out that i am fast-tracking (doing everything i can in the hope of me graduating early) and to help with that, i have decided that i am going to start practicing advanced mathematics (specifically calculus, i enjoy it the most) and when i told my parents that i wanted to pursue graduating early, they just shrugged it off. i am a light gamer, something that you should know, so i'm not too good, but i have a mechanical keyboard with cherry mx blue switches (basically a very loud keyboard) and i love it so much, i use it on my keyboard to study for anything, or on that matter, do anything. it's nice to use. i also use discord, because the friends at my high school live 20 min away by car, so we thought that this would be a more practical use to communicate. well, one day, my parents were napping, while i was typing up an assignment for a technology class (i can't take all math classes yet since i'm only a freshman) and my parents have this \"nap schedule\". basically, i started working and chatting at about 2:30, which is usually when they awaken from their naps. so, i start working, and then i get grounded, because i was allegedly \"gaming\" while \"talking loudly\". all i was doing was typing on a loud keyboard (which, i'm sorry parents, but i tried isolating the noise to my room only), and talking to far away friends. so, they enabled \"kaspersky security parental controls\" and now 90% of the stuff i use is banned, even though i haven't even logged on to my gaming stuff in 2 weeks. how is it that they can just ban my stuff while jumping to conclusions? even worse, they not only told me to study ahead of my schooling (which, as mentioned earlier, 3 years in advance studying) and worst of all, i have to pick my classes soon for next year. that's only accessible by visiting the website on a computer. so, i can't even pick my courses because the website has religious words in the url. this is just some of the stuff that they have done, and i might in the future update you with more they have done. so, wibta if i was to tell them to stop wrongly punishing me and destroying my social life, as well as being overprotective?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZSQEkHW5jj3b1OZRxEHGRUluFuCrXE9G", "post_id": "a3jdz2", "action": {"description": "thinking my girlfriend is crazy", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for thinking my girlfriend is crazy?", "text": "Not exactly sure what subreddit this goes in. But My girlfriend (20F) and I (19M) have been together for a year and a half now. She lives with her parents still and I share an apartment with 2 other guys. Her parents are extremely conservative and I think are just making her feel guilty anytime she is at the house with them. I don\u2019t believe it\u2019s directed at her but her mom has said before to her \u201cdon\u2019t get pregnant it will change your life\u201d and so she will feel guilty just because she and I aren\u2019t conservative and are definitely liberal at our core. Basically because of her upbringing and her background she thinks that sex is super scary and that she will get pregnant immediately if I never wear a condom. So that\u2019s fine I wrap it up. I spend the night occasionally at hers and she\u2019ll sometimes come hangout at mine. Never spending the night of course because that\u2019d be the end of the world for her parents.  She claims to enjoy sex and so once a month I\u2019ll get to have sex with my girlfriend. Mind you I have to pull out while I wear a condom that is coated in spermicide. She\u2019s an athlete like me though and extremely skinny so it\u2019s not uncommon for their period cycles to be out of wack. Some months we have more sex others we have less. She\u2019ll blow me here and there and give a handjob despite me telling her I don\u2019t like them. But every month the week before she gets her period she\u2019ll say that she\u2019s late (23 day cycle is normal for her) and that she\u2019s worried about being pregnant. How could she possibly be worried if we are only having sex once in a given month? and when we do have sex, I pull out with a condom on right before I finish or I won\u2019t even finish via having vaginal sex at all because we don\u2019t have it enough for me to be able to have sex with her at a pace that I can finish at... (basically got mad at me last time because she climaxed and I hadn\u2019t yet and it was painful for her. Gee I wonder why) I try and tell her there\u2019s no possible way she could be, she goes onto say that I\u2019ll never understand because it\u2019s not my body and that I\u2019m not the one that could have a human growing inside of them....\n\nMore background, she and both of her siblings all went to catholic school and her sister(23) recently got married to her high school sweetheart. Another relationship that would shame her about sex and sex before marriage. They supposedly abstained up until marriage. That\u2019s something she had used to say but said I had changed her mind about that. And also had told me that beginning of our relationship last year she\u2019d be able to spend the night with me more as our relationship progressed. She even brought up that her sister is moving out next year and she may move in with them. \n\nWe definitely had a lot more sex last year but I\u2019ve gotten a promotion and she didn\u2019t so she\u2019s trying to focus more. And she also had girlfriends\u2019 houses last year she said she was spending the night at but has since distanced herself. So her parents are a lot more protective this year than last and it\u2019s impacting our sex life. \nShe claims to enjoy sex and sometimes she\u2019ll be the one to initiate it. Only when I\u2019m not talking to her about it and basically when I forget about it completely. \n\nSo I guess what Im just going to start doing is trying not to even think about sex with my girlfriend at all and never be the one to initiate it. Because it winds up just blowing up in my face when I do. It\u2019s not fair to me but I\u2019m hoping to marry this girl eventually and hope that she\u2019ll sexually blossom in the years to come. But right now she\u2019s driving me insane with constantly worrying and it\u2019s making me just want to distance myself from that aspect of our relationship. \n\nTL:DR girlfriend has vaginal sex with me once a month where I have to pull out with a condom on. Complains that she may be pregnant every month. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "wLl9oqEL920dJwjn2ZsDrCTTDrTdSvit", "post_id": "alnaid", "action": {"description": "not wanting to cancel a weekend trip with my friends to go to sister's court case", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to cancel a weekend trip with my friends to go to sister's court case?", "text": "Long story short, my sister was arrested because her boyfriend called the cops on her for what I've been told was domestic abuse. Unfortunately I do not know all the details but my mother is purchasing a $400 plane ticket to go be with my sister tomorrow. I love my sister dearly and I do not believe these charges are warrented but her boyfriend is a piece of work.\n\n I however have plans to meet with some of my friends who I have not seen in over 6 months at my cabin this weekend. I don't want to cancel my plans which I've had for 3 months to stand in a courtroom halfway across the country. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xhNOD6u3Iq3HIuHsTL7CWC6ckxIbztsv", "post_id": "amcawi", "action": {"description": "not wanting my bf to come on a trip I'm going on with my ex", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my bf to come on a trip I\u2019m going on with my ex?", "text": "Throwaway account. Here\u2019s some background: My ex and I dated for about a month before we realized we weren\u2019t right for each other (so it wasn\u2019t a very serious relationship). Despite this we realized we are completely right as friends. We still hang out regularly because we have similar hobbies and humor and have mutual friend groups. I have been dating my current boyfriend for four months now and it\u2019s great. We\u2019re nothing similar like me and my ex, but we connect on greater level where we aren\u2019t fighting all the time like I was with my ex. It\u2019s a much better relationship. Because my ex and I are so close, he and my bf have hung out a couple times with me and others. Both times it seemed fine and they actually got along well.\n\nHere\u2019s the problem: In March a few of my friends are going to Maine to go hiking and see a friend couple who recently moved. My ex is among these friends going. I mentioned it to my bf and he wants to come and...I don\u2019t want him to lol. First he doesn\u2019t even know those friends and two, these are my friends. I want to be alone with them. He just came from some game convention thing with his friends that I didn\u2019t even ask to go to (for one thing, idc about games) I know people need time with their friends. I told my bf I didn\u2019t think that was a good idea and he said he didn\u2019t see the problem since two people who are coming are in a relationship. However, they were already in the friend group and not a couple when I first met them and they\u2019re the only couple besides the one in Maine. He got upset and said he only wanted to share an activity with me and feels bad that I\u2019m more okay with spending time with my ex than I am with him and that I act very cliquey. However, I only spend time with my ex because we\u2019re friends. If I hated everything about him, obviously I would not want to hang out with him. Am I being an asshole here?\n\nTl;dr: ex and I are still friends and we\u2019re going on a trip. Bf wants to tag along and I said no. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "q0BgEMvVdxtDxkD0lumQ1XDdS1bRIut8", "post_id": "b91rw6", "action": {"description": "not babysitting my brothers kids", "pronormative_score": 49, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not babysitting my brothers kids?", "text": "Bare with me as at first it seems like i am 100% the asshole:\n\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014Relevant \u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\nNow i am a frequent member of r/childfree. I personally HATE children, and my family knows this. I am 23 years old, the youngest of three, and live in a state where marijuana is legal(medically and recreationally). Now, currently im a single male, who can cook, loves to work on cars(which is my side business), watch movies, and works from home(my job is okay with the use of marijuana). So i dont go out too often.\n\nSo suffice to say i smoke quite often, my house is not baby proofed, and with the constant workload i have, i cant really take on kids, whether mine or someone elses.\n\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\n\nMy brother planned to go on a week long cruise with his wife, on their anniversary. In which they were going to leave their kids with our sister, which they cant do as her husbands side of the family had a medical emergency, so they flew out to be with his family, \n\nIt is two days before their trip. They just now decided to ask me if i would watch them, and of course i said no. Now i cant spare an entire week of not working, just so they can go on a cruise. Especially since they arent paying me, and i would have to use my PTO days, Which i was saving for a guys trip in two months.\n\nNow they dont want any marijuana in the house while their kids are there, and they want their kids to be in a safe environment. Which is completely understandable, But i cannot move my entire work setup to their house, and my house is not a safe fit for kids. Nor can i cancel on the repair appointments i have scheduled through the week.\n\nSo him and his wife yelled at me for about an hour, on how i should make time to watch their crotch goblins,  since they are family, and have had this trip planned for five years. They also wanted me to throwout the 2 ounces of skywalker OG, and manage to make my house kid safe in two days.\n\nWhen i told them their request was beyond unrealistic and unreasonable, they called me a useless, drug addicted asshole, and hung up on me. In the four hours following, they have ranted about me on facebook,  sister thinks i should watch them,  but their is no feasible way without me making a much larger sacrifice than like $900 cruise tickets.\n\nTldr: am i(23m) an asshole for refusing to watch my brothers kids, so he and his wife can go on a cruise, that they had planned for five years, two days before they leave, when i have no time to care for two children, pared with my hatred of children, and the fact that my house is in **NO WAY safe for children**", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 49, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 49, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Hj2HuMZ6YdjkD0wrMa583yFQRSrLcxYW", "post_id": "awcjld", "action": {"description": "telling my downstairs neighbor \"No Promises\" about fixing \"loud walking\" sounds", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for telling my downstairs neighbor \"No Promises\" about fixing \"loud walking\" sounds?", "text": "I live in a co-op in NYC. The building is a post-war 6-story wood-beam building. I live on the top floor.\n\nAt around 8pm tonight, my downstairs neighbor came up and rang my bell. He introduced himself and told me that my walking is too loud and he often hears me walking around at 2-3am. Note that it's not a loud TV or music or whatever -- it's \"loud walking\".\n\nI have rugs on my floors (in compliance with the co-op board requirements) but simply put, the building is not soundproof in any way shape or form, and sound reverberates.\n\nHe asked me if I can try to walk quieter, and asked me to wear slippers around the house. I flat-out told him that I'm not stomping around, and of course I won't *intentionally try* to make noise, but that I'm not going to promise to wear slippers or restrict the time of day/night that I walk around the apartment.\n\nHe looked dejected (and a bit pissed off) that I wouldn't promise to reduce the noise.\n\nOf course, I don't wish him ill, but frankly, I don't want to make a promise I can't keep, and I don't want to set any type of precedent for him complaining that I'm not doing something I said I was going to do.\n\nAm I the asshole for not agreeing to wear slippers or enact a self-imposed curfew?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "T1AWeggUEhXgwaNgY5OWIWcYFdNJLQYF", "post_id": "aotycg", "action": {"description": "not changing lanes at the swimming pool", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for not changing lanes at the swimming pool?", "text": "Okay so some background. My sister (16) and I (19) have recently started going swimming every weekend to try and improve our health. We both have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, so we can\u2019t go super fast and we have to take a lot of breaks, but we can swim at a perfectly decent speed which usually isn\u2019t a problem.\n\nThe pool we swim at has three lanes: one lane has a parent and toddler class on a Saturday morning so it\u2019s out of bounds. The second is an adults and children lane, and the third is adults only. My sister and I were swimming in the adults lane when a man came in who was swimming much faster than us. And he wouldn\u2019t stop at all between laps. It quickly became impossible for my sister and I to swim in the lane, because every single time we started, he\u2019d catch up to us and we\u2019d hold him back. He made it very clear we were getting in the way, saying excuse me and knocking into me a few times (I think on purpose but I\u2019m not sure). He also seemed to get annoyed by us taking breaks and standing at the end of the pool, even though we tried to keep out of the way. He also wouldn\u2019t keep in line, he was kind of zigzagging across the lane trying to overtake everybody. It was a nightmare.\n\nEventually he got our attention and said to us: \u201cExcuse me girls, this is the ADULT lane, and it can be quite fast. Maybe you\u2019d be better suited to that lane\u201d (points to the children\u2019s lane). This pissed me off for two reasons. Firstly the other lane was completely full and nobody was following the rules about swimming clockwise, so it would be completely impossible for us to swim there. Secondly, I look a little young for my age but I\u2019m clearly not a child, and the way he talked to me was very condescending. I didn\u2019t want to make a scene so I just gave him a kind of grimace smile and continued swimming in the adult lane. We ended up getting out a few minutes later though, because it was so annoying. \n\nAITA for not moving? I\u2019m genuinely not sure because as much as my sister and I are entitled to swim there, he is too and we were slowing him down quite a bit. But I don\u2019t want to feel like I can\u2019t swim in a shared pool just because of one person. I\u2019ve been wanting to bring my blind friend swimming with me but now I\u2019m worried that people will get annoyed with her too, and she can be quite easily upset if she thinks she\u2019s inconveniencing people.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Kqy9RzhoA9Y1tCFcJGBw9rXqyi9YEgrV", "post_id": "axaak6", "action": {"description": "cutting through red carpets, film sets and fashion shoots on the streets of New York City when I'm late and they are on public streets/sidewalks/parks", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for cutting through red carpets, film sets and fashion shoots on the streets of New York City when I'm late and they are on public streets/sidewalks/parks?", "text": "Does it matter if somebody asks me not to?\n\nDoes it matter if my office or house can only be accessed through the area that has been cut off? \n\nOtherwise, I  have two frequently occurring examples when it wasn't blocking my apartment or office:\n\nExample 1: Most frequently this occurs when I'm heading or leaving my Best friend's house. For whatever reason fashion shows, award show red carpets and film/tv shoots keep happening in the area in front of her apartment building, and so I've accidentally cut through weird red carpets before trying to leave in a hurry (no one told me not too, and I was confused what was happening. But I didn't have time to figure out if there was a way to go around because I had somewhere to be.) ; so I charged through the chaos) and one film shoot, which the production assistant asked me to go a different way when trying to get to my friend's apartment, but there was no way around it to get in.\n\nExample 2: I  used to go to school in NYU, and they would always have film sets all over the Washington Square area, and production assistants blocking off spaces in the park or space by the West 4th station when they weren't even filming at the moment. So if I was running late for class (which I would be very late for if I took their proposed detour), I would just walk past the PA's with my headphones even though I knew they were trying to ask me to walk around the park.\n\nSeveral times, I've been yelled at by security guys. Ironically  always in situations where they are blocking the only exit or entrance, and when no one told me to go around the set or fashion show paparazzi area to begin with. But I usually respond with \"sorry, I'm late,\" and keep walking. I feel like I might be an asshole, and I also feel like the entertainment and fashion industry are assholes for expecting people to change their lives for their commercial gain.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "yiJmvJQV02NGjHjzRHKNRnua3i8nSBGS", "post_id": "arp58e", "action": {"description": "accusing my bf of hurting my dog after he chewed his son's shoe", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for accusing my bf of hurting my dog after he chewed his son's shoe?", "text": "I was in the shower when it happened,  so I didn'thear anything.  Apparently,  my puppy (8 months, adopted at 6 months) chewed my boyfriend's son's very expensive shoe.  I immediately offered to buy a new pair, as I obviously felt terrible.  When I went to see my dog, who was now in his crate, I noticed a wound on his front leg that was not there earlier.  I asked my boyfriend what happened, and he said that my dog went to his crate on his own, and he didn't touch him.  I want to believe him, but I've seen him get very angry toward my other dog in the past, and had to intervene before he hurt her.  \n\nNow my boyfriend is upset saying that I had no right to accuse him of hurting an animal.  Am I the asshole for thinking he could have caused my dog's injury?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vGqGFHnZxLsZvLEJB40UZmdEeal66aDQ", "post_id": "ai4k7p", "action": {"description": "being pissed at my girlfriend for adopting a cat", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for being pissed at my girlfriend for adopting a cat?", "text": "I wrote this out once, but it ended up being super long so I tried to cut it down a bit. It didn't work too well. I (23m) am pissed at my girlfriend (24f) for going out and adopting a cat today, without even talking to me about it. We've been together for a little over a year, and have known each other for about a year and a half. She has a two year old daughter from a previous relationship, and they split custody almost 50/50. I had no intentions of having kids at this point in my life, but here I am trying to do my best. \n\nAnyway, my girlfriend recently moved out of her sister's house after her sister's dog bit her daughter. She moved into a small apartment on her own. I haven't moved in because my commute to work would be about an hour, and she's not even sure she's going to stay there when her lease is up near the end of this year. Also I'm just not sure I'm ready for that. She took two pay cuts last year, one because her job was making her miserable so she found something else. The other because the new place fired her and a bunch of other people after they got a remote staff. I gave her support and encouragement both times. Now she makes less than ever, and is trying to make it on her own. Her new job was super understanding of the move and everybody donated stuff to help her get on her feet, and they pooled together about $2000 to help her so she wouldn't have to get a second job. My problem is that she has no concept of financial responsibility. She's constantly spending money on useless things, without concern for how it will affect her bank account in the morning. For example, a $30 oil diffuser that she used for a week and then gave away because it wasn't helping her sleep like the internet said it would. She got one $30 lamp (that didn't even come with a shade), instead of the 3 $10 lamps that I suggested, but now complains that it's too dark. She has two gym memberships that she never uses, she just bought the new iPhone, even though her old one worked just fine, etc. We always go back and forth over what she should, and shouldn't buy, and she's already gone in the negatives, and needed someone to bail her out. I constantly try to help her with advice, and she always nods and then does the exact opposite, and it comes around to bite her in the butt. Or she'll call up her dad right in front of me, and ask him, and he'll say the same thing I did. I come from a family that is terrible with their money, and I've been helping to pay bills, (groceries, rent, medical bills, new appliances, renovations, taxes one year, brother's attorney most recently) since I was 10, while my stepdad was out buying a motorcycle, new guns, etc. So I know what it's like to be in a family with spending problems, eventually someone has to pay. But this means I also know how to handle my finances, and am usually never strapped for cash. Whereas, she's always had her dad (who generally agrees with me about her spending habits) to bail her out when things get hairy.\n\nSo this brings us to this cat. She said she gets bored and lonely on the rare weekend where she doesn't have her daughter, and I have things to get done at my house so I don't come to her. So she adopted an 8 year old cat. She got the cat for the two days every other month that she's alone, but it's going to be another responsibility every day for her. She complains that when she has her daughter she never has time to get things done, so instead of getting back into the gym those day, or getting a hobby, she got a living creature that she will now be responsible for. It has all of its shots, and its check ups are all up to date, I get it, she doesn't have to put much money into the cat right now, but eventually she will. Between cat food, litter, vet bills, damage to the furniture or apartment, eventually it will be a burden. She has a 2 year old who is already so much responsibility, I don't know why she thought a pet would make things better. The other problem is she knows that I'm allergic to cats. She knows they make my eyes, neck, and back of my throat itchy, they make my eyes water, and nose run. It's unpleasant for me to be around cats like that. They're cute to look at on the internet, but that's just where I prefer them to stay. She knows this. Yes, I can take allergy medicine but it's not 100% effective, plus that's more money that I have to spend, just to be mostly comfortable when I'm with her. I can honestly get past the allergy part, I'm bothered that I didn't factor in at all into her decision, sure, but the money thing is really what's concerning to me. Sure the cat could end up being perfect with no extra vet bills, but that would only encourage her to get more unnecessary things. Also this isn't the first animal she's adopted. She got a dog not long before she got pregnant while she was living with her ex in an apartment. Then she had to give it to her dad when she couldn't handle it while being pregnant. \n\nSo basically I'm hurt that she didn't even ask me about it. She said no matter what I said it wouldn't have stopped her. She's surprised I'm making such a big deal out of this, and that I'll just get over it. I didn't ask her to, but she said she won't apologize for doing it or even for not getting my opinion, and is acting like I'm a terrible person. Any major thing I do, I try to hear out her opinion on, because this is supposed to be a team effort, but she purposely didn't say anything to me because she knows I would have told her I didn't think it would be a good idea. Since I don't live there I don't get a say, even though she wants me to move in, but with her getting a cat I'm even less likely to do it. I get that we don't split bills and that she can spend her money however she wants, but I'm concerned that she won't change in the future when the bills are split, and I'll be in a family that struggles just like I've been in for the past 23 years. Or that she won't have the money when her daughter actually needs something, and I don't mean another giant toy that there's no room for. She has so many medical bills from herself and her daughter, and I know there will be more, no two year old in daycare stays healthy for long. I told her I wasn't okay with it, and that I'm very frustrated with this decision. I didn't give her an ultimatum or anything, and honestly I don't know what I even want to happen moving forward. I'm just at my wits end, and I wish she saved for unexpected expenses, and would listen to me for once. I've never taken more than about five minutes to move on after her poor decisions, but this time it's been all day, and I still haven't moved on. Am I the asshole for being so frustrated by this, or is she right and I should just get over it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "7ST5bXnecaSRiRSRHD4D5VWCpWGnGOJg", "post_id": "an21gj", "action": {"description": "wanting a new life", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting a new life?", "text": "My ex-boyfriend who I dated two years ago and I hadn't talked in ages. He found out I'm leaving school and he came up to me and was upset about how things ended, he wasn't ready to not see me in school everyday, not have me be at least somewhere around and he said he wishes he could get a re-do because I was always the one and what not. I did try to talk to him through December because I heard his father passed away and I guess I just haven't gotten over him. He has a girlfriend now and he knows I still have feelings for him, but he keeps doing little things like send stuff over to my house or say good things about me when I'm not around and even asks people stuff about me. It really does make me happy, but I know it's not healthy and I want to completely change my life, hence the school change. But he is putting his relationship in the pits and I understand why he could feel like I've been leading him on since everyone knows I never stopped loving him. In fact, it is so hard for me to not fall into his arms right now, but I want to grow and start afresh. His current girlfriend has stopped talking to him and I think they're on the verge of a break up and I can't help but think it's because he thought he could be with me. I've never stopped hurting from how we left things two years ago but I don't believe any good can come of this. I'm scared I'm hurting him, again.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EsKL4TVDzpC3v093tfyt1ziz5piwiP0d", "post_id": "aatmxp", "action": {"description": "being annoyed with disabled coworker", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed with disabled coworker", "text": " So I'm not sure if I'm in the wrong/ an asshole for being annoyed with a disabled coworker ( will refer to as A) here's some of the reasons I find myself being annoyed. (My first post with this, don't mind the formatting)\n\n-When *A* constantly blocks customer access to my counter with their wheelchair when *A* is  trying to talk to me even if I'm working with someone ? \n-*A* always leaves their opened waterbottles or sometimes snacks on the edge of my counter too so *A* can reach it easily and then they forget it when they leave. \n-*A* always complains over the comms that their guardian is late and how \"*guardian* better make it up to me\" even though *A* knows *guardian* works in the cities and traffic is bad at any given time of day. \n\nLike, *A* is nice and all,  but these are constantly constantly getting on my nerves. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "64moKL5KTeYtRFhKLL5bag8z88X2MKCe", "post_id": "aztcxv", "action": {"description": "being attracted to people with mental issues", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being attracted to people with mental issues?", "text": "Strap in folks\n\nSo I've come to the realization that I often find myself more attracted to people (mostly girls but I swing both ways) who have mental issues than those without.\n\nThis is for two reasons:\n\nFirst of all, I have mental issues myself (depression, anxiety, autism, etc) and I often find that it is easier to relate to those who also share these and other mental illnesses in many aspects of life. Sharing experiences and thought process helps me feel less of a weirdo and that there are people like me.\n\nSecondly, I enjoy helping other people through their problems. I get quite a bit of satisfaction out of seeing somebody's life take a turn for the better and knowing I helped with that improvement. So I like hearing peoples problems and giving advice and sometimes going out of my way and sacrificing my mental health and well being to help them improve their mental states, education, relationships, etc.\n\nI told a friend about this attraction once. And to say she was offended is an understatement.\n\nI got a very long, scathing speech about how I'm taking advantage of those with mental issues, how I'm a terrible person and a villain with a hero complex. \n\nI made the mistake of trying to explain myself, and got blocked.\n\nI was hurt, because she was a really good friend, but I also felt ashamed of myself for having this attraction.\n\nAITA? Am I taking advantage of people for their own selfish gain of feeling like a hero?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "y6ImD5ynDrS6qZF90oWcvG6dhQDcdpA7", "post_id": "af5pvj", "action": {"description": "being pissed bout this convo between my bf and his ex", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being pissed bout this convo between my bf and his ex?", "text": "He used to shit talk me to this girl months ago. \n\nShe said: I dunno what to say. I\u2019m sad you\u2019re not in my life (my fault) and I\u2019m still curious and sad as to why I\u2019m not enough. I wish I could have answers but I know you don\u2019t want to be pressed (you said you didn\u2019t wanna talk). So I guess goodbye then? I do Not think you\u2019ll ever want to talk to me.\n\nHe: I'm extremely hesitant to but I would like to speak one day with you. There's a couple things I want to talk about. But if it's going to be a shit show or rehashing things, there's no reason.\n\nShe: It would mainly just be a final convo and I\u2019m ok with that. Just kinda sucks\n\nHe: Unless one of us dies, I highly doubt that it would be the last convo ever. Maybe some time next week or the week after.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AZfFMwzTDy4BypS5nkejpZNxcyj6ZcxX", "post_id": "a8ajkm", "action": {"description": "being pissed iff with my mom for witholding information", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being pissed iff with my mom for witholding information?", "text": "My mom has a habit of hiding information from me (M29) specifically on the medical side of things. \nI've always been pretty tight not with my family, we live in different towns but we talk regularly and I go and see them whenever I can. Whenever somebody close in the family falls I'll or something bad happens, Im always the last person to find out, and it's always from somebody else. When I was at university, she failed to tell me for months that my nan had been diagnosed with cancer. This was the first time (to my knowledge) she'd done this, and where my issue with it all started. She said it was so that I wouldn't get stressed during my exams, which I can understand, but I explained to her that it was my nan and I had a right to know, and for future reference could she please tell me as I didn't want her to bare the burden alone. We're all family. She agreed. Fast forward a year and my nans cancer has taken a turn for the worst I get that this is her mother and she had her own coping system, but the only reason I found out was because my step brother told me. I chose to not say anything about her breaking her promise and consoled her as much as I could.\n\nThere have been other little things here and there after this, like my stepdad having a stroke and my brother's telling me, but I'm going to fast forward past this to last year. I was walking in the street of my old hometown and bumped into an old friend of the family and got chatting. After all the formalities, I was asked how my mom was doing now and if she was feeling better. Absolutely dumbfounded I asked what he meant, it turned out  that she'd had troubles with her womb and needed to have a hysterectomy, but they couldn't operate on her because she'd also had some issues with circulation in her legs and had a bad blood clot and some other issues (my memory of the whole ordeal is hazy and everytime I asked mom about this she'd always tell me it was nothing and not to worry). So after I confronted mom about not telling me this, I got the usual didn't want to worry me, and it wasn't that big a deal etc etc. I did lose my shit a little bit with this one, because as her only child I should be made aware of these things and how would she like it if I withheld information like that from her. \n\nShe then apologised and again told me that she would let me know for future reference. In her defence, she did keep me up to date with what was going on with her for a while, and gave me dates when she had her hysterectomy surgery so I was there for her and gave all the support I could. However, after the surgery she failed to tell me the one thing I worried would happen, that during the surgery her bladder got perverated and caused her to be incontinent. She tried to keep this from me for weeks until my stepdad told me. I again tried to have a stern but fair conversation with her. She's not been able to work nearly a year now while she's been on the waiting list to have repairation surgery, but did keep me up to date with appointments again.\n\nFast forward to today and I've just received a call from my step brother telling me that she's had her surgery today but hasn't came out yet. He's at the hospital waiting for her. To give you insight. My step brother (her husband's son) lives in Amsterdam, we live in the UK. He knew and came all the way over here a few days earlier from Christmas so he could see her, and I find out because he tells me. \n\nI'm getting fed up with it now, I'm always the last to hear about anything and I want to be there for my family, and it hurts that I'm always kept in the dark about this stuff. I'm going to the hospital after work to see her but it's going to take all my willpower to not lose it. Reddit, AITA for being selfish about this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "m5BOZYvVYgL3u9m9y18xut4Js1tMCmMQ", "post_id": "ainl99", "action": {"description": "causing my autistic friend to leave my discord server", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for causing my autistic friend to leave my discord server?", "text": "So I know this guy who has actual diagnosed autism. We have been friends for about a year now. He doesn't have many friends but I thought he was fun to be around. We sent eachother memes and just did normal things that online friends do. So anyway I made a discord server and naturally he was invited. I gave him admin privilages because I trusted him. This particular server had an NSFW channel. Sometimes people posted NSFW art of a video game called Splatoon. Every time someone did he and I got really angry and claimed the characters were too pure for this. I was joking, but I soon found out that he was not. It escalated to the point where he started deleting those NSFW messages. I took action and removed his admin privilages and blocked him from viewing the channel. He soon responded with \"But I thought you said no Splatoon NSFW?\" Then before I could explain myself he left. I feel like I should have maybe given him a second chance or just not have given him admin privilages in the first place? He does have autism and I now realize he doesn't understand sarcasm very well. I just feel like a really shitty friend right now and I want some outside opinions.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FPtaJJXqspe2yyn3mZD3B59PjZow8GSK", "post_id": "amu1i5", "action": {"description": "refusing to pay my friend $35 after learning he had previously scammed me out of $160", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "AITA for refusing to pay my friend $35 after learning he had previously scammed me out of $160?", "text": "A couple months ago I decided to play a 1v1 bet against my friend in a fighting game called Brawlhalla. He was the one who offered the bet to me, which was surprising because he is known to be pretty bad at the game. I quickly accepted his offer and we began fighting. After a couple lost games I realized I was getting destroyed and a little tilted, so i did a big bet in an attempt to get my money back. I lost that one too, and at this point I owed about $160.  I decided that I wasn\u2019t going to be able to beat him so I stopped betting against him and agreed to pay him the money that I owed him as soon as I had the money. A couple weeks later I wanted to get Black Ops 4 because my friends were all playing it and the same friend I bet against agreed to buy the game for me. The game cost about $35, putting me at about $195 in debt.  Fast forward to today, about a month later. My other friend who is known to be very good at brawlhalla told me that during the entirety of my bets, he was playing for the worse friend. He told me this because he didn\u2019t realistically expect me to pay $195 so instead he should just settle for the $35 I ACTUALLY owed instead of the money that they tried to scam me from.  So I was a little bit pissed upon hearing that my friend tried scamming me out of $160 and I decided to test him. I pretended like I had the full $195 and was ready to pay him, and he said \u201cokay yea ill take it\u201d. At this point I realized he was fully willing to completely scam me out of $195 and I now feel like the $35 that I owe him aside from the scam bets should not be paid. Am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 10, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JCPNWxzgamiypsXG8NFBDjGcZN0r5GZi", "post_id": "a343uu", "action": null, "title": "AITA The neighbor kid hit my parked car while I was abroad and caused $1,000 worth of damages. Nobody told me and everyone says I'm the asshole for asking for reimbursement.", "text": " \n\nI was staying with my girlfriend in Germany for three months so I left my car parked across the street at my parent's house. While I was working remotely and trying to make enough to get a visa, the neighbor kid who is 16 backed up into my front end and caused significant damage to my bumper, headlamp assembly, and hood.\n\nAfter the incident he and his mother walked next door to my parent's house to try to resolve the situation. His parents were all upset that we'd call the police or file a claim, but my parent's said don't worry about it. He apologized to them and offered to pay but my parents apparently told them not to worry about it.\n\nI returned home two days ago to find about $1,000 dollars worth of damage to my car, and I'm understandably upset because 1. Nobody told me about it and 2. There is no compensation for me at all.\n\nI'm being told my parents to forget it, the kid apologized and \"These things happen.\" Everyone thinks I'm the asshole and overreacting, but none of them have to pay $1,000 and deal with the aftermath.\n\nIn my opinion, the kid hit a car, didn't inform the owner, and at absolute minimum should reimburse me for the damages.\n\nReddit, what's your take? Am I the Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 55, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 56, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YOfiWovHVEDml64r9ICjtGuOCCwbyON5", "post_id": "a71swz", "action": {"description": "not telling my girlfriend I walk my dog with my best friend everynight", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for not telling my girlfriend i walk my dog with my best friend everynight", "text": "The situation is: i(male) have been walking my dog with my best friend for close to a year now, she is ratjer attractive and likes the same stuff i do, an during the walks we mostly talk about our days. Or have a drink if one of us is feeling down. But then about a month ago there was this old friend who i saw a again after a long time, and we clicked and she became my girlfriend. But she is a very jealous person and i dont think she would approve of the walking. Further side info: i used to have a crush on my best friend. And i think my gf is in love with another girl.. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ONu7k7l0af06UrsQYEk9a4OYUigmtavl", "post_id": "9ymnk9", "action": {"description": "not caring about my aunt getting in a crash", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not caring about my aunt getting in a crash?", "text": "Just to preface, I (M15) have met my aunt less than 10 times in my entire life, my family generally have little contact with any family outside of direct siblings/ our parents because of awful grandparents, so I didn't know her myself much at all.\n\nRecently, my aunt got into an accident on a moped which sent her to the hospital, and she had a stroke while she was there. My father was distraught by the news, and has visited her nigh daily to see how she is recovering, as it is his sister. I however, even when first hearing about her crash, felt unempathetic, I just didn't care about this woman I hardly know. I can't help feeling as if I should care a bit more, as she is family, but I have hardly even spoken with her in years. I can't respond for about ~15 hours, so I'm not ignoring responses im just asleep or at school. Thank you all for responding.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oFhX9dBtlcOeYCIJKE430VmuUePQgiev", "post_id": "9w64we", "action": {"description": "telling my parents I don't want my Christmas presents to be giving to charity", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for telling my parents I don't want my Christmas presents to be giving to charity", "text": "My mom suggested instead of Christmas presents we donate it all to charities, specifically helping the fire victims here in CA. I budgeted my holiday spending anticipating clothes and cooking supplies from them, and I would rather get the tax deduction than them if/when I donate to help. My siblings are already on board and said it's something we all should do given what we have but I disagree. It doesn't help that I'm the only Democrat and me feeling like a hypocrite for not wanting this. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "QeHVTFbzV8CjSe45HJ04X9CoLIUHKfm6", "post_id": "ahucot", "action": {"description": "quitting a monopoly game when my siblings \"cheat\"", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA For quitting a monopoly game when my siblings \"cheat\"", "text": "Honestly I'm torn on this one so, internet do your thing.\n\nSo when ever we play monopoly, my younger brother often goes around the board once (if that) and quits. Usually he doesn't have any property and if he does we just auction it off or he gives it to someone. I'm honestly fine with that. \n\nTonight, my sister, her friend, my brother and I were playing and right on que he quits while running off to play fortnite. We decide since he has a couple properties to just let him play as a \"ghost\", rolling for him, he buys any properties he lands on that he can, and making only legit fair trades we all approve of.\n\nSo all was going ok and the game was nearing an end when my sister's friend starts running out of money. Since she lands on brother's spot, we jokingly have her go ask if she really has to pay. She pays. After landing on the same space a few times later, she asks again. She pays again. Now hes back and interested. He lands on an unowned spot and I say I'm going to buy it away next turn (we agreed paying double what he paid on our next turn was legit).\n\nSo this is where everything goes down. At this point the other two have him sit with us so I cant just buy it since hes \"playing\". Ok whatever I dont mind too much. But his next turn he wills all his property and money to my sister, calls me a loser and walks away again. I'm having none of this. I argue it should go to auction, she argues he can do what he wants with it. At this point we're all annoyed. I throw the dice annoyedly on the board and we all decide it's a good place to stop. We joke around and come out fine but still lowkey annoyed at one another. \n\nSo, Tl:Dr, am I the asshole for getting annoyed at sibling monopoly time?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "jzoltIWANXDGQCaOpb64uzhZwxeCJw1w", "post_id": "au03ci", "action": {"description": "not grooming my visible body hair", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not grooming my visible body hair?", "text": "This is a stupid non-issue and I'm embarrassed even asking but my sister's wedding is coming up and I dont want to fuck up her photos or anything... I'm really hairy but really lazy, and some people are really grossed out by seeing a girl with really hairy legs/pits in a culture where it absolutely is not the norm. It garners way more shock than you think it would and now I'm afraid that it's not worth making people uncomfortable (or even grossed out, unfortunately). We are going to a hot beach-y place for my sisters bachelorette party and (it is probably self-centered to think this) I'm worried that it in some way will wreck it for someone or her... but again, you would be amazed at how much shit I get for it. AITA if I don't shave my legs and armpits at least for my sister's wedding/bachelorette party? Is it like a scruffy beard situation where at the very least it should be groomed? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 16, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SeK4gj4dARJTw83LsWomXpvB5EwPqMem", "post_id": "aj7s5g", "action": {"description": "accidentally telling my sister in law that people with her major are terrible", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA For accidentally telling my sister in law that people with her major are terrible?", "text": "This happened over the weekend and im still feeling fallout.\n\nI own a business. I hired a man who became my best friend. Both me, him, and another employee of mine try to go out to a fancy restaurant every month, get slightly drunk, and talk about whatever. Music, politics, sports, ect. Stuff we imagine really snobby rich people do since we all came from modest backgrounds.\n\nWe call it white tie night, though we dont actually wear white ties. We also bring dates, i bring my wife. My wife set up my best friend with her sister, they are now married. Yadayada background over.\n\nSo this weekend was white tie night. My best friend, now brother in law, brings his wife my sister in law. We start drinking, having fun. The subject turns to the media and journalists.\n\nI hate them. IMO they profit off of discontent and tragedy, theyre not out to report the truth theyre just out to report what gets the most clicks or views or whatever. I also hate the fact that you cant criticize their grossness without being called anti first amendment.\n\nNews flash, theyre billion dollar corporations, just like banks. They need to be critisized. I also think people who go into journalism are usually sociopaths who need to control what people see and how they view things. They want people to die and get hurt and they want people to fight. I view them like war profiteers. The movie Nightcrawler comes to mind.\n\nNow i was also drunk like everyone else so i mightve been more passionate but it was white tie night and im around family and friends. Other people have ranted about politicians, celebrities, corporations, ect and even if we disagreed it was all in good fun.\n\nWell lo and behold, my sister in law changed her major to journalism last year. I didnt know, i thought she wanted to be a vet. My sister in law says im being offensive, I retort that she made fun of guys with southern accents in the past and i didnt whine despite me having one, and thats not even a choice on my part.\n\nThe whole evening is awkward. My wife and brother in law try to save it but it was a bust. Apparently my sister in law has been shit talking me to my wife whose defending me.\n\nAm i the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "SMDa8wJ3ukblVSYA4aDhMPvMmJmLAh5I", "post_id": "ad2k4l", "action": {"description": "trying selling a hoodie to my ex", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for trying selling a hoodie to my ex?", "text": "Weird title, I know.\nHere\u2019s a little bit of backstory: I dated this girl for almost 6 months, but we \u201cquickly\u201d found out we were more like great friends than a couple, so we broke it up and continued to talk regularly. During the time we were together, me and my family would give her gifts. I would often get her clothes from the store I used to work at.\nAnyway, about a two ago, I ordered a hoodie from a Chinese girl on instagram, at 400$. The hoodie came about a month later. Once it got here, I realized that the size was actually in the asian size chart, instead of american, so it didn\u2019t fit me right at all. I call the girl and she tells me she could change it for me, so I wait another month for the hoodie to arrive, and when it does, the girl has the audacity to tell me that she can\u2019t change it, but rather lower the price of the original by 10$, because the one she first gave me didn\u2019t have a tag anymore, even though it never had a tag in the first place! So I just say fuck it and buy the hoodie for a second time at 30$, it just so happened that the day I went to get it, my ex was waiting for me at my house, so we started talking and I let her know about the hoodie and she says she\u2019ll take it off my hands. Since I didn\u2019t feel like making her pay full price, I told her I would do 30$ to at least make up for having to buy it again. She posts a picture of it on instagram and my dad happened to see, he then casually tells me \u201chey, isn\u2019t that the same hoodie you bought like two months ago?\u201d and I then explained the situation. He then scolded me and told me I should have given it to her for free (even though I used to make 260$ a month, so 70$ for a hoodie is a lot of money for me) so I call her up and let her know she could keep it.\n\nNow it\u2019s eating me up, I\u2019m not sure if I should have just given it to her to begin with or if giving it to her for 30$ wasn\u2019t such a big deal. AITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "S3TPk7Qwvt8U924tCmLS9A6sO9sbr2Zd", "post_id": "ao09pd", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be around most of my siblings", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA: For Not Wanting To Be Around Most Of My Siblings", "text": "This argument has been going on for years between me and my parents, but has quieted down a little bit in the recent years since I've started college. The argument is that I don't want to actively pursue a relationship with the majority of my siblings, and though I've stopped actively avoiding them, I don't want them in my life (with the exception of two of my older brothers). This had always upset my parents, who firmly believe that you don't have to like your family but you still have to love them. In the end I cave and argue to do whatever my parents ask of me, but I want that to change now that I have started college. Thankfully now I don't interact with my siblings much at all, except for one brother whom I'm really close with and goes to college with me.\n\nBefore however, my parents would have me share rooms with my siblings who had moved back in for a reason or another, and in any argument that would start between me and another siblings, I would be excepted to be mature about it and let the situation go, because I was the most responsible. More often than not I was told to bite my tongue around my other siblings and whenever I would avoid them my parents would guilt trip me into hanging out with them.\n\nSo, some background on why I hate my siblings so much, most at least. At least 4 of my siblings are current or recovering drug addicts, and I think a few still are in trouble with the law. One reason I personally don't want them near me is because I don't want to be associated with anything illegal. \n\nAnother reason is the way they treat me and my parents. Since I'm the youngest I don't have perfect memory of their childhoods or mine for that matter. But I remember a lot of stories that I've been told by my parents about my siblings. A lot of them used to steal from us, probably to buy drugs. Two of my siblings I especially want to avoid are my sister and one of my oldest brothers.\n\n(Some background: anger issues and disabilities practically run in my family, which makes arguments that much more worse. I am legally disabled and have been since 7 years old, and I have medications I take every day for my disabilities.) My only sister, several years ago when I was in elementary school, we believe had stolen my medication and sold it. My parents had because so upset and worried, that they installed a lock on the cabinet where the meds were, which I believe conveniently was dismantled about two weeks later. She, in my opinion, has always put drugs and her self before anyone else. Often did drugs or drank in front of my, behind my parents back. Would be in and out of prison constantly. Would call random people in the middle of the night while I was trying to sleep (we shared a room until she moved out at 18). And never respected anyone. She constantly starts drama with anyone, isn't below using violence to get her way and will readily complain about being poor and then buy like $50 manicures every week. Me and her were never really close, as she preferred her friends over me and would get mad at my parents when they would make her play with me. The only times she would \"play with me\" voluntarily (for the most part that I can remember) was when should would take me or my brother somewhere under the impression of going somewhere to play, when she really would be taking us to where should could meet friends, or boyfriends, and on one occasion drink and smoke in front of me, I was 7. At 11 it was common knowledge for me not to touch our laundry basket because I was afraid of breaking a liquor bottle that she occasionally hid in there. I remember at one point, I was maybe 9, me, my sister and my mom were in the car going somewhere and my sister was complaining about how clingy I was. My mom said smiling that my sister was the one who begged for a little sister and my sister responded in an upset tone \"well I regret it\". And I don't think I've ever felt that unloved and worthless before. Don't get me wrong I have loving parents and my siblings say they love me. But in that moment I think I finally realized I was never going to get the loving relationship with my sister that was like it was in the movies or the way my friends described their sister were like.\n\nIn another instance one of my older brothers, his wife and their baby was living with us for 2 years (I believe rent free or incredibly cheap, as my parents believed in helping family when they are down). Though we have no solid proof we believe they were addicts. Some reasons for our suspicions were random pills scattered in drawers or on tables (no bottle in sight), our codine cough syrup was weirdly empty after a few months of them living there (even though only two people used it and neither said it was anything less than half full. And it was a BIG bottle too), and they always worked jobs that would pay them in cash at the end of the night (even though they conveniently seemed to never half enough money for anything that they begged/made my parents buy for my nephew (their son)). They would occasionally make me baby sit my newphew with no thanks or pay. Sometimes they woild leave me with him, saying they would be back at 10 pm or soemthing but wouldnt be found til 2 am. Always made my dad or another one of my older brothers baby sit my nephew constantly, even when they were in the house themselves, they just wouldn't pay attention to him and my parents would have to step up to the plate. During the first year they were there Christmas had passed and everyone got gifts, I had gotten a new camera I was really exited about and a bag for it. But since I didn't need it I put it away in my closet, that a shared with my niece because we shared a room. Fast forward 4 months and I decide I know a perfect place I could take pictures of with my camera. I go looking for it and it's gone, only the travel bag is left. I was fuming and told my parents, we searched but never found it. My parents believe it was stolen and pawned my brother or his now ex wife, as they had done the same with an xbox they had rented in my mom's name. I remember vividly, no words of apologies, but my parents asking how I could be so careless leaving something expensive \"lying around\" when I know my siblings have stolen stuff before. I still feel guilty about not being more careful to this day because I know the camera costed at least $300 which we definitely could have used to keep on tract with bills.\n\nIn the end, though my siblings have grown up some and changed in the time since I've last seen them. But a lot of the stuff they've done still mess me up today. I went through depression in high school for 2 years and during that I tried to get closure with my sister for the way I felt she treated me. I'll admit I didn't go about it the right way, I ended up explaining that I had been writing about things she had done when I was little and that I was sharing them with a self help group. She got mad and stormed off. My mom come to me and told me to accept that my sister would never apologize, that it was so long ago no one knows if what I remember actually happened and to just let it go. My sister ended up coming back and I apologized and sorta argued to move forward a forget the past (though I don't think I can). And while I'd like to think that they have changed, both have kids, their own homes, but still start drama on facebook, sister still continues to do drugs, fight and \"divorce\" her husband. I don't think I'll really ever be able to trust them. And I know that they've had their own issues to overcome that could be the cause of drug abuse (one was raped when they were a toddler. And the other had lived with a drug addicted mother till puberty) I don't feel that the way the choose to cope with it was okay or a right thing to put others through.\n\nSo am I the asshole for not wanting to be near them? I don't have the heart to tell any one it's because I'm afraid of letting them in my life and just being used for profit or gain again. Or should I stay firm if my parents ask me make accommodations for them, and tell them no? I want a relationship with my siblings but I feel that they don't really care. It's past the point of where I don't actually believe it when they say they love me, no matter how much I genuinely want them to.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TloPAXucVC8ku6yd7TtGdOJgWnsH6GDD", "post_id": "aq8i59", "action": {"description": "refusing to accept mental illness as a justification", "pronormative_score": 70, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for refusing to accept mental illness as a justification?", "text": "Obligatory disclaimers here at the beginning: this is probably gonna be a throwaway account as I'm not much of a Reddit user and I don't want this getting back to me for reasons that will become obvious, so apologies if I'm shitty at replying to comments. Also I'm on the mobile app and apparently that fucks with formatting, so apologies if this post looks a little bit wonky. Sorry if this gets long but y'all are gonna need a bit of backstory for context and I have a real issue with rambling. \n\nI met my now ex-girlfriend at school when we were 14. We were best friends for a year before we began dating and then were together for about six years. I'm 22 now and we've been broken up for a little over six months. I find it easier to tell a story with names so we'll call my ex Jessica. \n\nThe year that we were friends was great. We were both kind of \"emo kids\" and, being that we lived kind of in the middle of nowhere and there weren't any other emos at our school, we kinda naturally drifted towards each other. She was a kind, sweet girl at first - very bubbly, always smiling, always friendly to everybody. She could be a little hyperactive at times, but I'm incredibly laid back and  a bit shy so we kinda  balanced each other's energy perfectly. We'd hang out at each other's houses almost every night after school and play video games, or go walk around the local park if the weather was nicer. I awkwardly asked her out on Valentine's Day of 2012, thinking I was being dead romantic. Still one of the biggest mistakes of my life. \n\nShe started to change pretty soon after we started dating. She'd always been semi-jealous when it came to me, even when we were just friends. Think, if anyone else called me their best friend she'd get on their arse like \"actually sweetie he's *MY* best friend but nice try :)\" or she'd sulk a little if I made plans with other friends and didn't invite her. I'd always found it endearing, I guess because I was never the one getting chewed out. Boy did that change when we started dating! If I so much as spoke to another girl to ask her for the homework for some class, Jessica would get angry with me and demand to know who she was and what we were talking about. I did confront her about it a couple months into the relationship and she cried and told me she was super scared of being cheated on because she'd seen her dad do it to her mum her whole life and said she was sorry. At the time I thought that was reasonable, said alright and tried to move past it. \n\nThe jealousy didn't stop. In fact, it only continued to escalate. When we were 16 she, without my knowing or my consent, went through my Facebook friends and Instagram followers and blocked any girls I wasn't related to. When we were 18 we started renting a flat together and she threatened one of our neighbours to \"keep the fuck away from me\" because she brought over cookies as a welcome gift while Jessica was out. That same year when I came out as bisexual, she told me that she didn't want me hanging out with my best friend since childhood because he was gay and she was afraid of any \"funny business\" going on. It reached a point where she wouldn't even let me go to the hairdresser's because the only one in our town had three women and a gay guy working there and she didn't want any of them touching me. She also repeatedly called my workplace saying I needed to come home because there was an emergency if she knew I was on a shift with all female co-workers (which was often) resulting in me eventually being sacked. \n\nHonestly, if it was just the intense jealousy, I might have been able to cope, or try to salvage some semblance of a relationship with her. But she would also insult me constantly. I'm pretty prone to eczema and she'd make fun of me if I had a breakout of it on my face. She mocked me when I lost my job and she became the breadwinner of the house. She'd either tease me or get incredibly angry with me if I ever cried about anything (I'm a sucker for crying at films). I gained a little weight around 19 when I had an injury and could no longer go to the gym and she called me fat relentlessly (in hindsight, I really wasn't fat at all), which I believe was one of the catalysts to me developing bulimia. All in all it was a shitty, emotionally abusive situation and I should've gotten out of it sooner than I did. \n\nI eventually broke it off because she started to become physically and sexually violent and I was genuinely afraid for my life one night. I'm now staying with my aforementioned childhood best friend and his husband, have a new job, am in recovery for my eating disorder and am well on the way to getting back on my feet. To be clear, I'm not asking if I'm the asshole because of what happened in the relationship because I've come to accept that I was a victim and none of it was my fault. \n\nHowever. A \"friend of Jessica's\" recently reached out to me to let me know that Jess has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and is recieving treatment for it. My response was basically \"ah that sucks for her and I'm glad she's getting treatment but what's that to do with me?\"  What eventually transpired was that I was not speaking to her friend, but in fact Jessica herself through her friend's account, and that I was expected to forgive everything she did because of her diagnosis. I flat out refused because, while I'm no means an expert on personality disorders and do understand that they can make people act irrationally, I don't believe they're an excuse for outright abusive behaviours. Since I refused to forgive her, I've had countless messages from her, from mutual friends, and even from her mother which all essentially boil down to \"she can't help being an abusive person, you're being awful for not forgiving her.\" I'll note here she hasn't actually *apologised*, just incessantly asked me to \"forgive and forget\", \"get over it\" and even to give her a second chance. I'm starting to doubt that I'm doing the right thing by refusing to accept her BPD as an excuse. AITA and should I forgive her? \n\nTL;DR: my ex was incredibly abusive when we were together and has since been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, which she's using to try and justify her behaviours without actually apologising. I refuse to accept it as an excuse and she, her mother and our mutual friends are telling me I'm the asshole for not forgiving her. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 70, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 70, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "76gdyX56ZTExOBaFNU4BqKM1RDxzSUew", "post_id": "apew2b", "action": {"description": "trusting this guy", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for trusting this guy?", "text": "Met a guy at a hotel bar that I stay at on a regular basis. He\u2019s a construction worker and only there for a period of time. He thought I was cute and I thought he was cute. We hooked up. Then I went back to my own country. Next time I come out we hook up a lot. He took care of me, took me out for my birthday. We knew it was only hooking up and I was cool with that. Left a note with a friend to give this guy (note was in a sealed envelope and it basically said my number and something about my ass that we\u2019d been talking about). I get a message on my phone saying hi etc, I don\u2019t have his number but I checked it was his area code etc and it made reference to the comment about my ass. So I thought it was him. It got a bit heated and I sent a couple of pics. Turns out, he opened the note in the bar, shared it with his work crew and it was them that texted me. To say I\u2019m mortified is an understatement. They have a pic of my boobs... AITA for even doing that note to him since it was only a hook up?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cgdQQbygqM2bWyEk3lAt0UKeD8HIObjK", "post_id": "b9qtvq", "action": {"description": "approaching random girls in public to get their phone number", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 18}, "title": "AITA For approaching random girls in public to get their phone number", "text": "Whenever my friends and I are out, we convince one another to go up to attractive strangers and chat with them, complimenting them and being friendly or whatever, and then attempt to ask for their phone number. Nothing forceful or anything, just blatantly 'picking up chics'.\n\nCall it a challenge or a game or whatever, because most if the time we never call them back or text them. It started out as challenging ourselves to gain some confidence and learning to handle rejection.\n\nA little background: We're teenagers and we're pretty introverted and shy hence how it started out as a challenge. But the more we do it the more it seems we're having fun. \n\nThere's a couple of things why I would think this is bad:\n1) Girls we approach might feel really uncomfortable and this is kinda borderline sexual harrasment right?\n2) We're basically using people as ways for us to feel better\n3) Not texting them later makes it worse because that makes it even more like we're using them as 'tools'", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 18, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 18}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "NTSGsl2Ghggwqb4Qeo6DnI0Ty3M4NZhT", "post_id": "9tq44z", "action": {"description": "blowing off my birth mother", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for blowing off my birth mother?", "text": "So for some basic background, i was adopted at birth by my mother and father. I never had an interest in locating my birth parents. A few years ago I used a popular consumer genetic testing service. Now with this service it matches you with genetic relatives, who would sometimes message me asking for info since they're trying to make some family tree or something. I would always just say that i have no information for them since i dont know anything about my birth parents.  \n\nA few months ago i got a message from my birth mother (which the genetic testing service confirmed) who was very polite in reaching out and wanted to make sure i was really her son and if i had any questions. I asked about any diseases i should know about that might run the family i should look out for and she let me know. Then she told me i was her only child and wanted to get in touch through facebook, and that *her* mother wants to speak to me as i'm her only grandkid.   \n\nAt that point i just said \"I'm not really comfortable with that right now\" and there's been no communication since. My parents are making me feel like i did something wrong for blowing her off in so few words and not really leaving the possibility for more of a connection.  \n\nAITA for just straight up denying my birth mothers request, even though i never asked for any sort of relationship?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "y7yV3pMnthdxBpc8OMDkvyutyTImjMd0", "post_id": "av9o72", "action": {"description": "being uncomfortable around mentally disabled people", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For being uncomfortable around mentally disabled people?", "text": "It's not that I don't like them, but I just get a general sense of unease around, say, a person with down syndrome. I go to school with a guy with down syndrome, and he's pretty cool. I just... tend to keep my distance.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6rIDK4U69fSm5YDCq6oyg3ZGL6amRL5p", "post_id": "a99r8u", "action": {"description": "wanting a dog even though everyone says I shouldn't get one", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for wanting a dog even though everyone says I shouldn\u2019t get one?", "text": "I\u2018ve been wanting a dog for ages now but haven\u2019t done it because I everyone I know says it\u2019s not the right time - well it hasn\u2019t been the right time for 10 years now and I\u2019m fucking fed up. A bunch of people my age have gotten a dog even though everyone says it\u2019s a bad idea and their dogs are fucking okay. \n\nBoth me and my partner work full time but my\nparents in law have a dog and a house and a garden where they could be all day until we get home. My SO can work from home 80% of the time. We\u2019re 24 and 29 and everyone I\u2019ve talked to about this says it\u2019s not the right time - well fuck you motherfucker it hasn\u2019t been the right time for a decade now, I\u2019m burnt out at 25 and I need a dog. I\u2018d make it work, fuck you!\n\nI\u2018m so fed up. I just want a dog to be happy. Am I really the selfish asshole everyone says I am just because I want a dog?! ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "2ljfS0zJ6VkPvh0ktJQQKRCUjgxCsmxE", "post_id": "b4pp2v", "action": {"description": "not wanting my brother to come over tomorrow", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my brother to come over tomorrow?", "text": "It\u2019s my grandpa\u2019s birthday and I live with my grandparents. He wants my dad and my brother to come over tomorrow for a meal but I don\u2019t want my brother to come. The truth is I don\u2019t want either of them to come over.\nMy reasons are that I\u2019ve had a really hard week. I\u2019m tired, I wasn\u2019t able to be as productive as I would like to be and college has been kicking my butt. I don\u2019t want to deal with other people and especially not my brother. He\u2019s an energetic and rambunctious 11 year old, and he doesn\u2019t know the meaning of \u201cleave me alone.\u201d I just don\u2019t want to deal with him and for some reason I\u2019m feeling like a jerk for it.\nI haven\u2019t expressed this to my grandpa by the way, I wouldn\u2019t suggest that he not invite the people he wants to spend his birthday with. I just want to know if I\u2019m justified in my feelings not wanting to spend time with someone.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "G1jruiTnvTO2RsN9y5JkOAN1wQlgJZNW", "post_id": "axcv51", "action": {"description": "doing a separate, more thoughtful retirement gift", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for doing a separate, more thoughtful retirement gift?", "text": "One of my department coworkers is set to retire at the end of March and people are starting to plan gifts, party, etc. One of the other department members sent out an email with a generic, \"funny retirement\" gift and suggested we all go in on it for coworker. Everyone quickly agreed and that was the end of it.\n\nNormally this type of gift would probably be fine but the person retiring is a very thoughtful and caring coworker. I've talked to them a bunch regarding their post-retirement plans and came up with a really nice, sentimental gift idea that compliments their plans nicely. This gift would be more expensive than what the department is planning to do.\n\nWIBTA if I purchased and gave this gift on my own without coworkers chipping in or attaching their names to it?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PGgjIh2AJN6hgzmAuUJKIiHwmfFkzL2w", "post_id": "auip9o", "action": {"description": "not helping out an old lady for petrol", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not helping out an old lady for petrol?", "text": "This just happened. On mobile sorry for the format. \n\nSo, I finished my morning gym class and I was rushing to the tube coz a bit late for work. Someone in a car asked for me, and i heard and stopped. I was like hmm yes? How can I help. \n\nIt\u2019s an old-ish lady and she started to give me some background and She told me she\u2019s a well-known artist and forgot her wallet or something and she doesn\u2019t have any cash or cards and she lives 80 miles away. Ask if I can help. She mentioned she needs about 40 quid. \n\nI honestly thought it\u2019s someone asking for direction and paused for a sec and I said sorry. I don\u2019t have any cash. And then she said there\u2019s an ATM few mins down to the road she can later bank transfer back to me and ask me to google her name. In my mind, I\u2019m like I\u2019m not going backwards for few mins and take out 40 quid cash and give it to you when I\u2019m getting late for work. When I said I\u2019m really sorry and she went to cry mode way too faster than I expected and I didn\u2019t know what to do but saying sorry and then rushed to the tube. \n\nThis was 7am. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5S5pFgdUUHatTenteRL7E6n1Q91OUU9E", "post_id": "aidv5z", "action": {"description": "not wanting my ex's pit bull around my newborn", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my ex\u2019s pit bull around my newborn?", "text": "I\u2019m not automatically against pit bulls, despite stats involving dog bites. My friend\u2019s pit is the best-trained dog I\u2019ve met, and he has never so much as growled at any person or other dog. The pit bull my ex owns, however, has had two incidents in the past year.  The first incident involved my 5lb dog. His dog & my dog both ate dinner & there must have been a morsel on the floor bc suddenly he growled & snapped &, as my ex describes it, \u201cput Lila\u2019s head inside his mouth\u201d but he didn\u2019t bite bc there would\u2019ve been puncture wounds. In the 2nd incident, my daughter\u2019s 11-year-old friend came over. Normally he\u2019d introduce his dog to new people, but he was in the bathroom& I was taking a nap. My daughter opened the door (he had told her to wait until he was out of the bathroom & she didn\u2019t listen) & his dog lunged at the little girl & bit her hand. Her hand was bruised & bleeding, she had to go to urgent care & skip volleyball camp for a week. I understand that my daughter should\u2019ve listened, but her not listening shouldn\u2019t result in a kid\u2019s hand being scarred. His dog is \u201cinsecure\u201d and \u201cjust gets nervous,\u201d but he\u2019s also 75lb and in those rare moments he snaps, no one is in control of the situation but him. I\u2019ve tried to be understanding of the fact that he has owned his rescue dog for almost 6 years, but his dog even jumped up and almost knocked me down when I came back from the birth certificate office 4 days after I gave birth, and he jumped up on the bed w my older daughter & knocked the wind out of her. Yesterday the dog head butted my small dog & made her cry again. He has no rules & goes on the couch & bed as he pleases. Cesar Chavez did training with him & it didn\u2019t help, so further training wouldn\u2019t be helpful in my eyes.  Things are getting hairy with this conflict, but I just feel like I can\u2019t risk my daughters\u2019 safety further & I couldn\u2019t live with myself if that dog hurts or kills my newborn. My older daughter I\u2019m not super worried about bc she doesn\u2019t get in his face & he knows her, but dogs snap on babies all the time.... Am I the asshole for implementing a no-pit-bull rule for my home & refusing to have my newborn around the dog? If I am, is there a compromise I\u2019m not seeing? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XB4UBxzXB2tzbJnzAjy3Md99jCVvQ2WE", "post_id": "b4q5g4", "action": {"description": "abandoning my friends because of one weird kid", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for abandoning my friends because of one weird kid?", "text": "Ok, so I had these two friends, let\u2019s call them M and S. We were pretty good friends in school. Then, near the end of one year, there was this very very Creepy Girl. Creepy was actually kinda normal when we first met her, so we let her hang with us at lunch and stuff. Then things shifted into M. Night Shamalama territory. \n\nOne day, Creepy said that she had DID. Now, I have no idea what someone who actually has it is like. So I said that mental illness doesn\u2019t mean we can\u2019t be friends. Now comes the weird part. She said that her pharmacy stopped making her DID pills because \u201cnobody was really using them.\u201d Which sounded illegal and kinda like bullshit. But I went with it. \n\nOne day at lunch, she asked M, S, and I if we wanted to see the her other \u201cpersonality\u201d which for here, we\u2019ll call Creepy-X. I was hesitant but M and S said okay, so I went with it. Creepy sat in her chair, fell limp, then came back to life while pulling her hood up and\u2014I shit you not\u2014SPEAKING IN AN AUSTRALIAN ACCENT. \n\nThings turned into a big spiral of unsettling, like when she was passing out in the middle of the cafeteria, when I found her notebook full of drawings of Youtubers like Jacksepticeye and Markiplier in bondage gear, when she said that she was an allmighty, eternal being... It was just too weird for me. So I gradually stopped hanging out with them. \n\nAm I in the wrong just because I didn\u2019t \u201cget\u201d her? Or was she really just a dangerous person to be around?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rrbwoPaBxHRragHkaluCSCb6urnEOZyv", "post_id": "ba3r7x", "action": {"description": "telling my wife that our daughter is buying alchol with fake ID", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my wife that our daughter is buying alchol with fake ID?", "text": "My daughter is 17 but biologically not mine,  I've been with her mum for 13 years now. The relationship between me and my daughter has always been good. We also have 3 sons. She does well at school and never really give's us much grief. She's sensible, hard working and driven. We've allowed her to drink on the occasion as long as we are aware of where and with who which is usually her circle of friends or her BF of 2 years. \n\nHere's the problem. I've gone in her bedroom  and seen her friends DL on thd bed. We knew she was going out tonight for food and to her friends to stay and chances are she'd be having a couple there. If she was to go out without us knowing and something happened I'd never forgive myself. Her mum wouldnt forgive me either.  I dont want TBTA that ruined her night out, grassed her up and caused WW3 in our house.\n\nReddit, AITA?  \n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8iL1QwhVdspjARCPBaPpyjnuvBO9qfyD", "post_id": "ahjjk7", "action": {"description": "sharing a pornographic video of a female colleague at work that I randomly found with my coworkers", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 48}, "title": "AITA for sharing a pornographic video of a female colleague at work that I randomly found with my coworkers.", "text": "So during one of my fap sessions while browsing through the blonde amateurs sections I was shocked to find a video of a girl from my office. The video was pov and kinda dark but you could definitely tell it was her. So later that night I went to dinner with one of my friends from work and just randomly in conversation I told him look what I found. He was shocked as well since she was a preety nice girl and we'd never expect something like this from her. \nSo I guess from there the video spread like wildfire and the girl eventually found out and apparently had a breakdown and sobbed at work. \n\nTl;Dr- Found a porn video of a girl from work, told a friend, he told someone else and then it spread. Girl ended up breaking down and crying at work.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 47, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 48}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "dTxL0WyyLFkPqfMkz4zQaBjEkZG9ibDX", "post_id": "as6qe6", "action": {"description": "seeking legal retribution over rumors", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for seeking legal retribution over rumors?", "text": "For some backstory i recently (6 months ago) had a falling out with a group i used to be close friends with some of which i've known for years.\n\nAmong them tho is an ex of mine (lets called them Jane) that has never-ending reasons for people to throw her pity parties and has spread rumors about me before and another one (and lets call this one Marsha) who has horror stories about other ex-friends that i believed till this happened.\n\nAfter a fun night celebrating up the country we take the long trip back home and on the way drop people off, got down to the last two to drop off, one of which is Jane. We drop them off in the city and ask if they have money for the bus/need to be dropped home and they assure us that they're fine.\n\nFast forward to the next day, i'm in work and i don't finish till late, after checking my phone i find myself blocked and kicked from every group chat and a slew of messages including every version of how im a terrible person from \"a toxic relationship towards women\" to \"sucking the fun out of everything\". \nApparently Jane accused me and the driver of abandoning them without the money to get home and people with a grudge against me for whatever reason took this opportunity to see what kind of bull they could get away with sticking on my image.\n\nAll this ended up blowing over and i just stayed out of it, not the type for drama but two weeks ago, one of the friends i knew for years comes into me in work (first time i've seen him since the fallout) and confronts me about supposedly stalking Marsha, with \"texts to prove it\".\n\nThis was the last straw and after that i've started the process of a defamation of character case. \nI don't know if i'm just being petty but after this i don't want to imagine what sort of things people are believing if its been this long and people would believe that about me.\n\nTL:DR- People are spreading bull and evidence isn't convincing enough, so forcing them to court just to avoid the possible collateral damage a suspected charge might have on my life.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zrT3PgMApNJ3qNr6DhCaqjjm6jPYIjEL", "post_id": "b5ojec", "action": {"description": "breaking up for my girlfriend because her mental issues made me feel useless", "pronormative_score": 25, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for breaking up for my girlfriend because her mental issues made me feel useless", "text": "In 8th grade I asked a shy, quiet girl out and she said yes. Looking back on it now it was something I jumped into too soon as I really didn\u2019t know her all that much. Things went smoothly for the first year and then things started to go downhill.\n\nThis girl had some pretty bad social and mental issues (social anxiety, depression of some degree, and even lived in a not so supporting household). This led to her being a girl who kept to herself mostly, even from her boyfriend. It would be a journey just to find her in the morning, as she didn\u2019t have a phone.\n\nThen her problems got worse, to the point of her cutting herself. This is when she completely separated herself from everyone, including me. She would barely talk to me and seeing her so broken and hurt made me as a boyfriend feel useless and pathetic. \n\nI felt horrible that I couldn\u2019t help her. She was very much in a bad place and there was nothing I could do.  I wanted her to be able to find someone who could help her with her issues.\n\nWith us being so separated, I started losing the feelings for her I used to have and started getting feelings for another girl who shared feelings back. It was a feeling I missed. \n\nAfter a month of this, I told my current girlfriend that I wanted to end our relationship and told her that I was losing feelings and that I felt that she needed to find someone who could actually help her with her problems. This went over like a car on bricks.\n\nImmediately, word went round that I left her for another girl and that I broke up with her because of her mental issues. People HATED me. They didn\u2019t know my side of the story and didn\u2019t bother to find out. The took the word of the innocent, shy girl.\n\nThree months later and that girl is more social than she ever was. She\u2019s actually talking to people in our school. So i don\u2019t know if I was holding her back or if she just randomly became social. \n\nSo the question is Am I The Asshole that everyone thinks I still am?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 25, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hMzHE07W1qvzjBibZTG1y1Z3Rzkw6SUY", "post_id": "b3nc47", "action": null, "title": "AITA - GF is disgusted by bodily fluids so doesn't like giving BJs", "text": "I'm actually not that bothered by this, I can live with not getting them. She does try to give me them to make me happy but when she tries she has a tendency to go \"ugh\" etc when anything leaks out so I can't really get turned on by it. It also stops me enjoying it as I'm worried about finishing anywhere near her. I also have had problems getting it up in the past due to anxiety and it goes down easily when I'm taken out of the moment and start  worrying about things, so I tend to avoid it. \n\nFor this reason when she offers to do it for me I tend to turn it down, then she gets really offended that I won't let her do it and I'm trying to make her feel bad for her phobia and that a lot of girls wouldn't do it for their BFs, but the whole idea of it just isn't a turn on anymore when shes so disgusted by it.\n\nSo AITA for this, I don't feel like I can do anything about it but I don't want her thinking that she's inadequate or she doesn't make me happy or anything or that I'm deliberately trying to cause conflict", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gGHIJTYhxeHr6tW4N7i8zzhjRgHIpcJD", "post_id": "ab6d1d", "action": {"description": "insisting on receiving payment before providing pizza", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For insisting on receiving payment before providing pizza", "text": "Hey, so this happened ages ago when I was delivering pizza and I keep thinking about it occasionally.\n\nI showed up to a customer's door with their pizza, they ask me to give them the pizza, I say I need the money first. Over the course of me refusing to hand over the pizza several times, he says the money's all the way over there, why should he have to make more than one trip, why am I being so insistent about it, do I seriously think he's gonna steal the pizza, why don't I trust him. I tell him I treat everyone the same way, I always take the money first, that's just the rules.\n\nImportant detail: this guy isn't white. He is clearly hurt by a perceived lack of trust and I think he thinks it's a racism thing. Also I did tell him it was store policy but I was lying. It was just my policy.\n\nHe did go and get the money by the way. I didn't think he was trying to pull anything. It was just a rule I enforced for everyone. Never in my pizza delivery career did I ever provide pizza before receiving payment. In fact it was rare that I ever had to ask for the money. Most of my customers knew the drill without me needing to say anything.\n\nI think another driver might've given this guy the benefit of the doubt. Pizza theft isn't exactly an issue and this rule wasn't store policy or anything", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KwyvJoj23wNDPDzeTfdmJZ6fF85361hZ", "post_id": "9wi8vm", "action": {"description": "going to my boyfriends house for Christmas and not getting his brother a gift", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA If I go to my boyfriends house for Christmas and don't get his brother a gift?", "text": "Hey All, \n\n​\n\nI'll try and make this brief. My boyfriend and I are together 4 years. I get along great with his parents, but his older brother literally hasn't said more than 10 words to me in our 4 years knowing each other. At first I would greet him and ask how he is, and I would get no response. He would walk past me in the kitchen, finish what he was doing and go on his way. \n\nSo last year I spend Christmas with my boyfriend and his family for the first time. I showed up with gifts for everyone, including the brother (a PlayStation gift card), but was too nervous to give it to him directly because I thought he hated me or something so I gave it to my boyfriend to give to him when I left. I never got a thank you. \n\nSo fast forward this year, I was again invited to Christmas with my boyfriend and I want to accept, but the first thing that came to my mind was \"What am I going to get the brother?\". I asked my boyfriend and he didn't really know. He said I could get him another gift card, or I could just get him nothing because he won't get me anything and he probably won't say thanks either. \n\nI immediately refused and said I couldn't show up with gifts for everyone but him, but then I thought about the facts that I talk to everyone but him, and if I can't face him long enough to give him his gift, should I be getting him one in the first place? Also, to be fair to him, he's seems very socially inept. He rarely leaves the house, and I've heard that he treats mostly everyone except his family the way he treats me, but it's never been confirmed. \n\nSo I leave it to you redditors, would I be the asshole if I showed up with no gift for the brother who ignores me?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "97GdSsvyHw5seChPQuWfVLlIytyAPu6a", "post_id": "asq0tt", "action": {"description": "being upset that my so didn't shovel before I came home", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset that my SO didn't shovel before I came home?", "text": "I feel the title is very watered down. Hopefully I can give a clearer picture.\n\n\nBackground: My husband and I are recently new homeowners in a state that is getting dumped with snow. Much to my husbands dismay, we don't have enough saved for the snowblower he wants, so we're stuck with shoveling it ourselves (sidenote: in case it gets brought up, no I will not pay for snow-removal service when both of us are strong, able-bodied adults who have the time). I work nights, 10 hour shifts, and he works days, 8 hour shifts. Both of our jobs are physically demanding. So far we've been good about doing our fair share of winter maintenance. \n\n\nSituation: I am working 12 hour shifts most of the week due to a surge in production (yay overtime pay). Due to incoming weather, his job notified employees yesterday afternoon that today they would start an hour late. The snow started falling at 11pm and hasn't stopped. I got off after 830 am this morning ready to take a shower and do some shoveling, if needed. Turns out it was very much needed as my husband didn't shovel any of the driveway (1 car length by 3 car widths of pavement), the back sidewalk (idk, 25? feet) or the front steps and sidewalk ( about 30? feet total). It's been snowing for 9ish hours so it's not a small amount, it's several inches deep. \n\n\nI shovel the driveway and the back sidewalk. I start the front sidewalk but I stop because I'm upset and think it's unfair. So I text him, stating clearly why I'm kinda pissed and that the front sidewalk will be waiting for him to shovel when he gets home. I also say that \"I don't love him any less, that I'm just upset.\" I don't want him thinking I hate him, I'm just upset at the situation. No response yet but I dont expect one until he goes to lunch. I suspect he used the extra hour this morning to sleep in, which he has every right to do. However maybe a text about how he didn't get to the shoveling would have been appreciated, that way I wouldn't have been blindsided. \n\n\nI've been going back and forth over if I should feel this way. Half of me is saying \"Suck it up, Buttercup, that's life,\" while the other half says I need to make my feelings known so I don't push it down and allow it to fester and manifest in some other way. So, fair Reddit, AITA for assuming my husband would do some shoveling before he went to work and not leave me with it all?\n\n\nP.S. I may not comment until some hours from now, as I need to get some sleep before my shift tonight. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "o8hNsqckn9qLp0UeGOZMei1jAqEmdz13", "post_id": "ac97yo", "action": {"description": "not wanting contact with this girl anymore", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not wanting contact with this girl anymore?", "text": "A while ago I (male, 30) was in a bad place and turned to alcohol and dating-apps. One of the girls I met was 35 and wanted to come over to my place at night after a very minimal amount of chatting. I figured it was a classic bootycall. She came over, we had a good time, had drinks, and as expected she stayed the night. And that's where my fuck-up happend: I don't want to blame the excessive amount of alcohol (I'm pretty good at handeling my drink, but drank over 6 beers before she even came over, drank a lot more with her) but for some reason I was a fucking idiot and didn't use protection. \n\nThe next morning I realized this was a major fuck-up and went out to get us breakfast and got her a morning-after pill. She took it, we had breakfast, she told me she didn't have any STD's (which I wasn't so sure about given how easily she slept with me) and she left. (It later turned out she didn't give me any STD's btw).\n\nI ended up seeing her 4 more times in the next two weeks (I made sure to use condoms every time) - we always met at night, and I was very clear about not wanting a relationship - she said she didn't either. After those two weeks I kind of got my life together a bit more and wanted to quit casual hookups to go after this other girl that I was really in love with. So I broke up with her - and she took it HARD. Talked about wanting to commit suicide and stuff. I recommend her some people/telephone numbers/anonymous chat organisations that could help her and broke off contact. \n\nOver the next two months she occassionally (drunk) texted me to tell me she wanted to date again. I kept saying I was over it, that I had moved on and that I didn't want any contact anymore.\n\nFast forward another month: she texts me pictures of an ultrasound, telling me she had become pregnant by me and had a miscarriage. I'm not sure if the pictures are legit - but there's a date on them that fits the timeline. I realise the morning-after pill doesn't have a 100% success-rate but she did get her period about 1,5week after the unprotected sex. Always used condoms after that first time. \n\nNow she keeps blaming me for everything. I figured I'd go with believing her story, had a convo via texts about how I'm really sorry this happend, that it was never my intention and that I should've used a condom that first time. However, she keeps saying I'm a horrible person for breaking it off with her, how it's unfair that I continue with life while she's had to deal with this, that she's mad and believes I treated her like a toy, and so on.\n\nI obviously feel bad about the whole thing and would like to hear your opinions. \n\nPS: I know I really fucked up having  unprotected sex with someone I just met an hour ago, after months I'm still mad at myself about it, but is there anything I could've done better after that fact? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5SypvtzekY4CUAfzVTK2OmVxggqGEpnX", "post_id": "b5le9f", "action": {"description": "lashing out at my gf for texting a guy who was flirting with her", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for lashing out at my gf for texting a guy who was flirting with her??", "text": "So me and my gf are together for about 2.5 years now and around our 1 year anniversary she told me that a guy from high school texted her three months ago flirting with her. Personally I did not care that someone flirted with her. The thing that bothered me was that she only told me three months after he flirted with her. She then told me that she would cut off all ties with him. I said ok and it was left at that. A couple of days ago she told me she was going out with a couple of high school friends (I\u2019ve met 4 of them before). I was more than ok with her seeing some old friends. She then told me that the guy who flirted with her was gonna be there. Out of curiosity I asked have you talked to him since the last incident. She said, \u201cyes, we speak here and there.\u201d I was pissed at this point. I later asked her if she initiated any conversation with him and she told me yes. I lashed out at her and was furious about what happened.\n\nOn a side note I was friends with her ex-best friend and she made me cut off all ties with her because my gf believed that she was into me. I cut all ties even though she was a good friend of mine.\n\nAITA for getting pissed at my gf and thinking smt is going on between the two of them?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "c43i91IqPxVsryjDsVNwYxqXNXu3wMEh", "post_id": "b0qs3z", "action": {"description": "asking how the girl I asked out is doing okay", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked how the girl I asked out is doing okay?", "text": "So long story short.\n\nI liked this girl, she liked me but didn't want a relationship, and I'm totally fine with that. Furthermore we talked about some stuff and she said she wanted to remain friends up also didn't want to talk for a bit so she could get on top of her emtions.\n\nToday I saw her and she seemed like she wasn't doing to well, she's got a therapist and all that stuff, but I wanna just check up on her to see if she's all good?\n\nWIBTA if I did this?\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "14ReLdn0qoypLmO1i8E9axQlHKvcdmtp", "post_id": "aq7yqr", "action": null, "title": "AITA if my girlfriend asked me out and I refused to pay if I didn\u2019t have the money?", "text": "It was three years ago. I was twelve and me and my girfriend have been together since we were like five. She hated my friends but hung out with me to annoy my friends and since a few months before that I was very sceptical about are relationship. I was very low on money, as I 1. Spent my christmas money and money I got for doing good in school somewhere near the end of the year and I recieved very little pocket money. I had about 40 euros before that. On January 30th, 2016 I bought a lego dimensions expansion box, 30 euros. This is a videogame with actual lego and I wanted it for some time. I had only 11 euros by valentine\u2019s day. About a week before then she asked whether we should do something on valentine\u2019s day. It would have been on a sunday. I said that we could just hang out, but she insisted we\u2019d do something. It was the last week for star wars: the force awakens. We both had seen it and I said I\u2019d rather spend the day at her home or at mine, but she really wanted to go. The price for movie tickets were 11.50 a piece and thats excluding popcorn etc. I said I didn\u2019t have too much money so asked whether we could split the price 50/50, as I would recieve my pocket money before that. No no no, I should pay for it, she said, because that\u2019s romantic. Well, I don\u2019t have my money, but I\u2019m sure my parents could buy it! That\u2019s not romantic either. Fine, I\u2019ll pay she said. In addition, we also could buy a rose at school, but we said to each other that we wouldn\u2019t do it and I was planning to get one before we went to the movie theatre. That friday she texted me that she was very mad at me for not getting more money and spending it two weeks earlier, when we didn\u2019t have any plans for it yet. I responded saying this, she ignored that. Later that day, I got a rose. The last class of the day I sat in front of two girls who I regularly have a chit-chat with and explained the situation, which might\u2019ve made my girlfriend mad because she probably overheard me. The next day I was playing a sportsgame at 8 in the morning so I left and didn\u2019t check my phone. We got home and we left to go to an amusement park and were away the entire day. I had left my phone at home. We ate on our way home and got home at 9. Me being younger meant that I fell asleep immediately, again not checking my phone. The next day I had a lot of texts from the school group chat for homework so my girlfriend\u2019s text was at the bottom. I didn\u2019t read it and found out about it in the evening. We chatted for a while and she ended it with a \u2018see you tomorrow\u2019. We met up and she broke up with me. I know this is long, but thanks for reading anyway. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PUGVJ5ajIjzDE0wPc1kFpxO359O4To4S", "post_id": "aaenoe", "action": null, "title": "AITA? My brother never gives me alone time", "text": "Me and my brother share a room. Whenever I get a second of alone time without him, he finds a way to ruin it. I always give him chances to be in there alone, but it seems like he never gives me any. I get mad at him sometimes, but I feel like it's totally justified. Whenever I adress the situation he turns it on me saying I always kick him out, but I don't. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9KoeHpmtiLellORv7rz8240KkZJ43fiA", "post_id": "aljcox", "action": {"description": "not wanting to continue pregnancy", "pronormative_score": 225, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to continue pregnancy...", "text": "Throwaway so I don't get psychotic prolifers harrassing me through this already horrible time. Me and my husband are pregnant with our first child. We just found out at our midpregnancy scan that our baby has Patau's syndrome. Apparently, he didn't show many of the early warning signs that most babies do, so it went unnoticed. The baby is currently okay, but we were told that his likelihood of surviving up to and after birth are dim to say in the least. Obviously, we're both heart broken. And it hurts me that I may never be able to meet my baby. But I don't want to meet him if it just means he's going to die anyway! This is hard enough, I would rather just end the pregnancy and try again once we're up to it. I feel like a failure, and I just want to get past this and have it be over so we can try again at our family. But my husband wants to meet him. He thinks it would bring us more \"closure\" when he dies. I think its just going to open me up to more pain. Pregnancy is hard enough without the life at the end of the tunnel. I understand my husband is having just as hard of a time as me right now, and it might bring him closure to say his goodbyes to the little guy. And maybe I am being insensitive or selfish? I just dont want to have to grieve a second time over him...am I being selfish? The longer we wait the harder it gets and I just want to tell him too bad, and end the pregnancy, but I dont want to hurt him or our marriage and he just wont listen...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 83, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 142, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 225, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mWjZVGfez7JzZgHMQ5Ma7BWe5KZwHunH", "post_id": "a2raki", "action": {"description": "using my roommates cleaning supplies to clean our bathroom", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for using my roommates cleaning supplies to clean our bathroom?", "text": "College student here (20F) living on campus. The dorm I\u2019m in is apartment style with four bedrooms and two bathrooms. I share a bathroom with the girl in the room next to mine.\n\nI haven\u2019t really spoken much to her aside from a couple of \u201cHello\u2019s\u201d here and there and the occasional \u201cHow was your day.\u201d Barely even acquaintances honestly. Throughout the semester I\u2019ve kinda taken charge on keeping our bathroom clean\u2014I\u2019m kind of a clean freak so I took it upon myself to wipe down our tub and shower curtain every now and then.\n\nShe, however, does not seem to be on the same page. She\u2019s prone to leaving hair in the bathtub, and has never bothered to try and straighten up the bathroom on her own accord. She has the cleaning supplies for it, but I\u2019ve never seen them used. I\u2019ve gone the past couple weeks without cleaning, and our bath tub and shower curtain ended up getting very dirty. Nothing was ever done about it on her end, so I finally snapped today and wiped everything down again.\n\nWhen I tried to scrub the grime in the bath tub with my Clorox wipes, I realized it was going to be a hassle. But, my roommate had a scrubbing brush and a bottle of Fabuloso sitting on the toilet. I figured since she had never used it, and it was going toward our communal bathroom, I made the call that it wouldn\u2019t be a big deal if I used the stuff to clean our place of bathing. 20 minutes later, everything was relatively spic-and-span.\n\nNow that I\u2019m thinking about it though, I feel like I overstepped a boundary somehow. As I mentioned before, we\u2019re barely acquaintances, and even though I used her stuff to clean a space we both use...I still used her stuff, y\u2019know? We move out in two weeks and being that she never bothered to scrub the bathroom before, I figured she wasn\u2019t going to start now. But now I\u2019m afraid she\u2019ll get angry if she realizes her stuff was used. She already moved her little trashcan out of the bathroom and next to her sink, I assume because she no longer wanted me using it. So I\u2019m not sure here, AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JzLVjiUZJmSMAr22oLc2puFKgrW4YQmD", "post_id": "a19y1m", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Roommate wants to move out Jan 2nd and want his deposit that day.", "text": "HI, very long time lurker, and in need of some advice, and I apologize for the long post.  \nI (F 38)am the leaseholder of a three bedroom house; I rent out two rooms.   \nI got a text this afternoon that roommate #3 (M 24) wants to move out Jan 1st, that the room is too small for him and he wants to spend NYE in a larger space. My response was \"cool.\"  \nWhen I spoke in person, he wants to move out Jan 2nd and wants his deposit back the same week. ( I am in my last year of grad school)   \nI said if he has to move out on the first or the 15th, and will receive his deposit after I inspect the room.    \n\"He needs the money now,\" I explained that he is moving out at the worst time possible, that it's almost imposable to find a suitable roommate Jan 1st. So I have to cover his part of the rent, my part of rent and tuition for my last semester. I asked him to work with me so I can have a paycheck so I don't leave my self-broke. I'll give him back his deposit two weeks after he moves out. He said that I was making him feel bad for moving out.  To be honest, I am worried about me. I don't have any other support but student loans and a part-time job. I am in the middle of finals, and now I'm scrambling to find a roommate. Am I the asshole by not letting him move out on the second and giving him his deposit then and there?  \n\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UDRPL5dBlmNTqRJeTfj9bwqYddvSxcP2", "post_id": "a0z0if", "action": {"description": "not reporting my abusive grandfather to the police for something he did 30 years ago", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for not reporting my abusive grandfather to the police for something he did 30 years ago?", "text": "(Trigger warning - this is about childhood sexual abuse.  Don't read if you find it upsetting.)\n\n\nSeriously, if that sort of thing bothers you, maybe skip this post.  I was reading a post over on /r/legaladvice about someone who was abused by their piano teacher for a number of years and s/he is considering reporting the teacher to the police because the teacher is teaching again and they're afraid the teacher is going to harm another child.  In reading through the comments, I discovered that Colorado has no statute of limitations on prosecuting childhood sexual abuse (That is something that has changed since I lived there -- I didn't know this until yesterday).\n\nIn 1988 I lived in Colorado where my grandfather used molest and rape me (I was an 8 year old boy at the time) and my sister.  In 1990 my mom cut off contact with him and reported what he had been doing to my sister to the police.  I was too terrified to say what he had been doing to me because A: I was told \"This is all your fault.  I don't want to do this, you're making me\" (I have since gotten into therapy and do accept it was not, in fact, my fault) and B: because one time I tried to use a pocket knife to stop him from hurting my sister.  It didn't work and he just beat me up, telling me the horrible things he would do if I ever tried to stop him again or if I told anyone what he had been doing.  I still have a physical scar from it.  \n\nSo when I got stuck in therapy to see if he had done anything to me, I still thought it was my fault and I was still afraid of him.  By the time I could trust the therapist, she transferred me to another therapist and I felt I couldn't trust anyone.  That therapist told my mom \"The grandfather wasn't interested in boys, so your son is fine.\"\n\nJust my sister went to the police.  They interviewed her and gave my grandfather a polygraph test.  He passed the test (Something psychopaths can do very easily.  Fun, err, disturbing little trivia fact.) and the police declined to bring charges against him.  My mom tried to tell the rest of the extended family and they all turned against us saying she was spreading lies.  In 1992 we cut ties and moved three states away.  We couldn't do anything about him and we just had to move on with our lives.  I remember at one point looking at the laws and seeing that the statute of limitations had passed on what he did to me.  Not that I had any faith in our justice system to prosecute him, honestly.  \n\nI tried to heal and move on (Some days are better than others).\n\nThen I saw that post and read some commentators that said there is no statute of limitations for that type of crime in Colorado anymore.  That means I could report him.  \n\nI thought a lot about it, and I just don't want to.  I've talked about my history on reddit before, and had someone message me saying I was a \"little (derogatory word)\" for not taking the law into my own hand and going to beat the shit out of him.  I had lunch with a friend and he told me that I'm a bad person for not going back to Colorado to take care of this because he might hurt other kids.  My grandfather is now 90 years old.  Has he hurt other kids?  Maybe.  I try not to think about it.  I'd like to think he's now too old to do that anymore.  \n\nMoreover, I don't want to take revenge on him.  I don't want to send a senile, 90 year old man to die in prison.  Even if he is a heartless monster.  I don't know if I strong enough to travel back to Colorado for whatever that would involve (I still live three states away).  I don't want to deal with the inevitable nightmares of going back to confront him.  I called him on the phone once, and it didn't go very well (See my post history, if you're curious).  \n\nI just want to go on with my life, forget that bastard and just heal.  Does that make me an asshole?  \"Evil prevails when good men do nothing\" as the saying goes, but I don't know if I can do anything and I don't want to deal with the guilt of sending him to die in prison.  I know he'd be going because of his crimes, but I struggle with guilt and anxiety.  I know that it would eat me alive to know I was the catalyst that sent him to prison.  \n\n\ntl/dr; my grandfather used to rape/molest me 30 years ago in Colorado.  I just discovered that the laws were changed to remove the statute of limitations on child sex abuse crimes.  I don't live anywhere near him and I want to get on with my life and healing, not going back to Colorado to try and bring him to justice.  ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Dy3QqtkFvL6WrIcxD3JP2sIlPDTN8wNv", "post_id": "a4tn63", "action": {"description": "disowning my family", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I disown my family?", "text": "This is going to be kind of long: I almost killed myself last March, and I attribute it 80% to my parents. \n\nStrike 1: My parents were an absolute disaster during my high school years, and any time they suspect that I feel this way, they go on about how there's no rule book and they were doing the best they could. They did have a reason for being disasters: my baby sister died at 3 months old due to complications from surgery. My dad became extremely controlling (he had to know where my sister and I were at all times, who we hung out with, even where we picked up new words/phrases), and my mom became extremely depressed. She wouldn't acknowledge that there was an issue, though, so I went through high school with a narcissistic and controlling father and a generally absent mother. This all shaped the rest of the issues I have, some of which are detailed below. \n\nStrike 2: I was homeschooled from kindergarten through high school, so my parents affected and controlled literally every part of my life. I was told what exactly to believe, commanded not to question it, and fed a bunch of bs that anyone who believed differently than my parents was evil and going to hell. My entire freshman year of college I honestly believed that being gay was one of the worst things that anyone could ever be. I met my best friend that year, a very awesome, very gay person. I later discovered that I am bisexual. I haven't told my parents, since they always go on about how their friends with gay kids are so strong to put up with the \"choices\" their children made.\n\nStrike 3: I grew up in an extremely conservative Christian home that gave little credibility to mental illness. I'd really like to think that when I started showing signs of depression at 15 a serious conversation about mental health and an appointment with a psychiatrist would have not lead me to almost kill myself at 19. My parents did give me options: I could go see a Christian counselor who would tell me to pray more and give my worries to God, like what my parents had already told me, or I could talk to the family doctor. I was sort of fed up with religion at that point, so I talked with the family doctor. She said it sounded like I was depressed and gave me a bottle of pills. She told me to come back if they weren't working. Looking back, this was absolutely not an appropriate response to what I was dealing with, and it took me years to figure out I wasn't supposed to feel down all the time.\n\nI've talked to many trusted people about this situation, including the fact that the only way I see ever being at peace is to never have to deal with the people who screwed me up this badly again. Initially, I wanted to completely disown them, and after talking it out more and thinking on it, my counselor even agreed it would be a good thing for me if it's what I still want. I know family is supposed to be forever and all that, but I haven't felt love for them since I was a very little kid, and it stresses me out enough to be around them that it can trigger a depressive episode and make me question my safety. I even ended up changing majors so I had to take summer classes just so I didn't have to be around my family all summer. I get depressed even thinking about going back for the holidays. \n\nSo would I be the asshole if I sat them down, expressed my grievances, and told them I never wanted to see or hear from them again, for my own happiness and health? \n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AaPBEiMmiDPitVDZDFGYO19zeQdS72zw", "post_id": "aif69u", "action": {"description": "confronting my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA For confronting my girlfriend", "text": "AITA for confronting my girlfriend over soaked underwear?\n\nA little bit of backstory, for the past week we have done nothing but argue, day in day out. She's been finishing late from work everyday and I'd become a little suspicious. It isn't something that normally happens. \n\nOne day I was doing laundry and went into the bathroom after she had come back and picked up socks etc; as I picked up her pants they were wet through. \n\nI asked jokingly of she'd peed a little to make light of it, but she didn't respond and changed the subject immediately. I asked her out of curiosity and she started shouting saying things like \"why don't I trust her\" \n\nShould I have said anything at all or just ignored it? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ZMaRJM5vsc1thhkZq8BFryTWhxk3kKAA", "post_id": "agm8ml", "action": {"description": "keeping my maintain long distance relationship and also pursuing other girls", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 47}, "title": "AITA if I keep my maintain long distance relationship and also pursue other girls?", "text": "LONG POST. \n\nTo start off. I am twenty two year old guy. I don't think I am an asshole or some douchebag. A year ago, I met this girl on tinder and we started talking for about two months or so, she became really attached to me, even though we've never met. That frightened me quite a lot because I didn't feel like I did anything worthy of such affection. Later on it all dwindled down because I starter to give her a cold shoulder because of my fear of her falling in love with me. I still haven't deleted her from snapchat and all that. Fast forward ten months, it's almost christmas time. I see her story saying she wants to talk to anyone (she did have a boyfriend somewhere in between those ten months, so I had thought she still has one). I decide to text and \" catch up\" on everything that's changed in her life... And we started talking for hours and days. She was still the same nice girls, still almost as affectionate as she was before. New years come around and she snapped me she loves me. I knew I couldn't say it back to her, so I didn't and explained as to why I couldn't say it back. She seemed content with it. We were planning on meeting sometime soon (she lives around 100miles away from me) so we sorted our schedules out and she bought a train ticket to visit me for three days.\nShe stayed in my shared house, in my room. Everything was absolutely wonderful and great. Sex was good, we had nice conversations and a lot of laughs. Couldn't ask for more, right?? Well. After she left, I thought to myself \"fuck, it's gonna suck not being near her\". Now I'd have to wait for a month or two to see her again. The biggest problem for me is that my feelings towards her have now grown even after we met and shared a lot of intimate moments. I fear it will only worsen as time goes on and we're apart during that time. She left my place this past sunday, so it's still fresh in my mind and I keep thinking about it and how it will, most likely, turn out. She's really into me and I feel so pressured. If I were to break up with her now, I would definitely hurt her really badly, but I don't want to break up with her. She's fun. She won't be my future soulmate, but I certainly enjoy being with her. \n\nI also am twenty two with this mentality towards girls and my relationships with them \"I want to get as much experience as I can so I don't fuck it all up with the one that's meant for me.\" meaning I should try and pursue other girls, but I really don't want to cheat, yet I feel like I will if I keep this up. Sorry this is such a rant.\n\nTl;dr am I the asshole for wanting to keep this girl with me while also pursuing other girls in my town? If I were to break up with her right now, I know I would ruin her and that's the last thing I want. Some time should pass and I want things to become less extreme. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 47, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 47}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "UALlEHqRzEEtRug5pFpqJQFyg7AWt6Di", "post_id": "b9wkih", "action": {"description": "not approaching my supervisor because he feels awkward around me", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not approaching my supervisor because he feels awkward around me?", "text": "Here's the situation..... This coming summer I'll be working at this company part-time for 2 years. Initially, there are 3 of us in our department. One ended up leaving a year later, and the other was let go. Since I work part-time with varying schedules, I never really needed to talk to the supervisor for tasks. I come in and ask my co-workers what's going on and what tasks must be completed.\n\n  \nWell since they are both gone, I wasn't properly trained and pretty much figured out how to do the job as I go day-by-day, considering I only work a handful of hours a week/day. I approached the supervisor once with a question and he said he'll teach me how to solve the issue once he's done with something. He never did. And this was like several months ago. Apparently, there's more work that needs to be done as my job description but he NEVER comes up to me or bothers training me. \n\nI figured he doesn't hate me or my job performance because if he did, I would have been fired. When I run into him in the hallway, he's polite and respectful. However, he's not really vocal about what things must be done, nor has he hired anyone else to help me within my department. It's not a difficult job, despite me picking up a few more responsibilities but considering I work less than 15 hours a week at most, I do believe someone should be there who can commit to more hours to be able to handle customer inquiries, etc. in a timely manner.\n\n​\n\nI basically feel like I'm doing whatever I want at my job at my own pace without supervision. I've been alone in my department now for 9 months and he has not approached me at all. AITA for letting this go on for so long? Is it my job to come up/confront him about the situation? I don't want to make him feel nervous/awkward, even though I am nice and make myself approachable. \n\n​\n\ntl;dr - Boss doesn't talk to me because he's nervous/awkward around me.\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IPHMDaF94JzbEUXWEPJuXHAlLnBgZXIJ", "post_id": "atb27s", "action": {"description": "sleeping with my brothers, girlfriends sister", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for sleeping with my brothers, girlfriends sister?", "text": "Essentially the title. My brother (23M) and his gf (21F) have been dating for about a year now. I recently went to a party with her sister and some friends. I knew my brother didn't care if we hooked up but his gf asked me not to. I told her I wouldn't try to in kind of a backwards way of answering her request. When we got there, we did some X and some other stuff and by the end of the night had hooked up. Neither of us are interested in anything serious, but she seems to still be interested in playing around. One of our friends told my brothers gf and now she's mad, but my brother doesn't care. When I asked her what the big deal was (not like we're related and they're not even married or engaged) she wouldn't answer me. She's not Christian and neither am I. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "23UIL8l0tpPR4SHGHJIrKEWSo2VHkIiO", "post_id": "b4bshb", "action": null, "title": "AITA in this situation?", "text": "So today at my school in my science class where got done taking a quiz. The dude I sit next to who I will call M was talking to some other kids. The teacher told M that he wasn't allowed to talk for the rest of class. Me and M are kind of friends so I started messing with him. I was saying dumb stuff like, \"I heard you where gay. Is that true.\" He would then hurt me (like flicking me or gripping the back of my neck) and push me across the room on my chair. (The chairs had wheels) After a few times of him pushing me he then opened up his computer. He wrote \" (my name) you are a fag. You will never get a girlfriend and no one will ever love you. You're worthless.\" He hit me with a low blow since I have a bad self image of myself and I think I wilp never get a girlfriend. I never even dated a girl. I then said, \"I heard your girlfriend friend was going to break up with you.\" He then got up out of his chair and started screaming at me. He was saying to never talk about his girlfriend again. After he calmed down I wrote on my computer, \"we both hit low blows on each other. Truce?\" He then got up again and started screaming at me. The teacher kept us after class and had us apologize to each other. So was I the asshole in this situation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 9, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "3tEEPIgQfSOIf1zTHwfOcSWbqsKgdbrf", "post_id": "9t91ug", "action": {"description": "talking back to my coach", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for talking back to my coach?", "text": "A bit of background before the main story- I am a sophmore in high school who runs cross country, one of the slowest kids in the entire group. I also have failing grades, little or no social life, and am very sensative when people yell at me. This is not the first time he has done this to me. Now, onto the main story. I was using the bike indoors, where one of the bikes was out of order. I was just touching it to see what was wrong with it, and then my coach yells to me: \"What's wrong with you! Can't you read the sign?!\" He said this in a very loud voice, and I am one of those people who don't enjoy getting yelled at, and am brought to near tears when yelled at. I replied with \"A lot of things.\" He told me to go home, that attitude wasn't wanted here. I left, headed to the locker room, thought about my life and its importance to the people around me, then left to go home. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5ssHy7WTBfu4aKO8951Qlnd8gQM1QJdZ", "post_id": "a8uxc8", "action": {"description": "getting upset with my girlfriend for being friends with her Ex-hookups", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for getting upset with my girlfriend for being friends with her Ex-hookups?", "text": "My girlfriend regularly goes out, and so do I. She is very social, and kind, but she flirts and talks with her ex hookups regularly & actively when I\u2019m around and not around. She loves calling them her \u2018friends\u2019 and even recently let one of her guy \u2018friends\u2019 move in as a roommate, she keeps telling me not to get worried, she\u2019s committed to me, etc, but am I an asshole for being concerned?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "t7iDt67Vw5BeoMtHoVORwK6QoOao08ej", "post_id": "apamk0", "action": {"description": "looking up my (ex) girlfriends activities online and confronting her about it", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for looking up my (ex) girlfriends activities online and confronting her about it?", "text": "I know this is really long but I would REALLY value the feedback. If it's positive I'll feel better about myself, and if it's negative I'll at least be able to use it to try and learn from my mistake in the future, so please, read.\n\n​\n\nI'll try to explain things the best I can. I'm very emotional right now and it's definitely affecting how I'm thinking right now.\n\n​\n\nBackground: \n\nI got in a relationship with a girl I met online a little under a year ago. It's been pretty complicated. We never actually met, but that didn't stop me from becoming very attached to her. I had some trust issues and early on and ended up doing some snooping on her, I talked to her about it and we got in a fight and broke up but ended up getting back together later, it was rocky for a while but eventually we learned to get along and ended up making it work for a while. She's sick and has been for a long time. She ended up having to move in with her parents several months ago and our contact was strained during that time. We only talked a couple of times a week, she progressively got sicker and sicker over time but I stuck by her. Anything she needed I was there. I helped support her emotionally and financially. I really felt like I loved this girl. Eventually she even told me that once she got better she wanted us to live together, that she loves me more than I can possibly know for sticking by her side through the time she's been sick and waiting for her. My point here is that I felt very close to her and she felt very close to me. I've never felt so strongly about someone before. (I still believe everything she told me about her condition and I also have even spoken to her mother and her sister about it, I also believe that she did have feelings for me and even loved me). Onto the story.\n\n​\n\nNeither of us use social media very much, so I never cared before, but recently I had suggested that we be friends on Facebook so I could send her messages from my work computer, she agreed initially but then backed down saying that her family was uncomfortable with it since her last boyfriend had harassed her and her family after they broke up. So she told me that she was going to hold off on it and I said that I understood. \n\n​\n\nHonestly though, this dealt a huge blow to my trust, I felt like she was trying to hide something from me. I'm not going to go into huge amounts of details, but ended up finding her LoL account info and looked up her match history. I found games dating months back, she was queuing with her friends nearly every day. Days that she said she was too sick to talk, days she said she was even in the hospital. This led me to believe that she was on alternate profiles, or marking herself offline on discord and the like, so she could sneak around behind my back and do stuff with her friends, and not have to do stuff with me. (She did this before when we were fighting, but I didn't think she'd do it when we were getting along fine).\n\n​\n\nI called her today and confronted her on this. I did my best to maintain a level head, and gave her the opportunity to be honest with me first, and I told her that if she was honest with me that I was completely willing to forget about it. She flipped out at me and said that it wasn't her that she was letting a friend use her account. She told me I was a psycho for doing this again and that she was done and never to contact her again or she would \"fuck my life up\".\n\n​\n\nBut here's why I feel even worse about it:\n\n​\n\nWe got into a conversation just a few days ago about us and we both reaffirmed to each other that we wanted to be together and that we loved eachother. She promised to be more proactive in contacting me and such. She followed through on this and for the past few days she was indeed talking to me more. Just this morning she called me just to wish me a good morning, and to tell me she loved me. That's when I brought up what I found.\n\n​\n\nAITA for snooping on her? Was it wrong of me to go seeking out her history? I feel like I shouldn't have ever brought it up, I feel awful like I've thrown away a year of hard work for nothing...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IDwmWRpAkMENWIN6UtFQeWWhFxjC7IZw", "post_id": "alu53s", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my girlfriend because she's too 'clingy'", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my girlfriend because she's too 'clingy'?", "text": "Before I get on with the story I want to point out that I have BPD, generalized anxiety disorder, and depression. This makes my emotions switch on a dime and causes me to see through something called \"black and white\" vision (basically I can go from hating someone to adoring them for no apparent reason).\n\nSo I've never really dated anyone mostly because I'm a flaming homosexual and the only people attracted to me are guys. A few months ago one of my friends openly stated she had a crush on me. This kind of shocked me because I had a but of a crush on her as well, but she had a boyfriend. \n\nWe had talked a bit and a few days later I told her that I get really anxious and a relationship wouldnt be good for either of us mentally. (She has depression aswell) Besides, I didnt want her to cheat on her boyfriend. \n\nShe said that she understood and I thought we would go back to being friends. I was wrong. Whenever I'd go get lunch and sit with a few of my friends she would get really affectionate with me; aka hold my hand, hug me, etc. This would be fine but 1: we weren't dating and 2: touching me made me really uncomfortable.\n\nI didn't say anything but I didnt really share the affections. That night she texted me, asking if I was mad at her. I had explained that I wasnt mad but just got really anxious when people touch me. I also went on a long tangent about how we shouldn't date because my BPD makes it extremly difficult for both people in the relationship. She seemed understanding so I thought that was it.\n\nA few days after I was in a very bad place mentally and it showed. She talked with me and made me feel a lot better, which in turn led me to get clingy that day. I wanted to hold her and hug her, even if that was very odd for me. I needed someone to hug that day, and she was that person. I guess she assumed that was the normal and for the next few weeks tried holding and kissing me. I was visibly anxious once again and told her that it made me uncomfortable. \n\nShe took this as anger and ended up avoiding me for the next week because she thought I was mad at her. This was not true and I had confronted her about it. After this things went back to normal, and by normal it meant she was clingy and close to me again. \n\nNow I knew she had her own problems and I really didn't want to cause things to go worse for her. This meant I let her hold me close no matter how uncomfortable it made me. I wanted to help her and by avoiding her efforts it obviously affected her negativly.\n\nThis went on for a while and I kind of let it happen. It took its toll on me, getting me into a worse state by the day. The only time I drew the line was when she invited me to her house for a dinner the very day. I got anxious at the thought and frantically made any excuse I could. She told me how important it was to her and I told that I couldn't. This led to a mini fight and she ghosted me for a week. Again she thought I was mad at her and had again explained that situations made me very anxious and could send me into a very bad panic attack.\n\nAgain things back to normal. Up until I had snapped. I got upset and told her to please stop touching me and to stop getting upset after I dont answer her constant calls or texted. I got mad because she wouldnt listen to me and we technically broke up. She was really hurt by that, and avoided me. I had come back to re-breakup, but being much more polite about it. I told her that it just wouldn't work, and continuing a relationship would only hurt us both. I apologized for earlier but said I still didnt want a relationship.\n\nAm I an asshole for breaking it off with her?\n\nTLDR: My mental illnesses make relationships very hard. Girl tries to date me anyway even though I am openly uncomfortable. After not listening to my requests I decide to break up with her. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bGpSk63znoj3NRkjiwOHgmwma7dT32Pv", "post_id": "b49ozu", "action": {"description": "pointing out her hypocrisy", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for pointing out her hypocrisy?", "text": "My girlfriend is very strong willed.  She\u2019s quick to call out bullshit when she sees it.  It\u2019s fun being with her when she\u2019s in terminator mode.  If and it\u2019s a big if I\u2019m not the focus of her wraith.  \n\n\nThere are sometimes that she really pisses  me off.  Not so much that she goes off, but that she\u2019s kind of a hypocrite about it.  She calls my friends and I \u201cfrat bros\u201d even though none of us have ever been in a frat.  She says we\u2019re toxic when we\u2019re together as a group.  Disrespectful and harassing.  Harassing as in one of my friends will dare try to talk to a girl in a bar.  She also overheard us playing fuck,marry,kill once and lost her freaking mind over it.  \n\nShe\u2019s no treat whenever she\u2019s around her friends.  The are the catiest group of girls I\u2019ve ever been around.  I\u2019m not a very sensitive person, but even I\u2019ve felt bad about some of the shit they will talk.  There\u2019s this gay bar that they go to so they don\u2019t have to deal with guys hitting on them.  Sometimes I\u2019ll play DD for her.  One time I went in there and they had completely taken over the middle of the glowing dance floor thing.   There were a few guys who were able to dance on the very edge of it, they were taking up almost all the space on it.  I\u2019ve also seen one of them grab someone\u2019s crotch as we were leaving and they just laughed about it. \n\nShe also helps her self to anything in my fridge when we\u2019re here.  Doesn\u2019t ask, just takes.  I didn\u2019t mind, I just assumed that that was the kind of relationship we had after that though.  When I was over at her\u2019s though I went to check out what she had and there was this taco dip thing she had in a big pan.  It looked really good so I start putting some on a plate when she comes out.  She got irritated about it saying she was trying to make it last and actually made me scoop it back off the plate into the pan. \n\nThere\u2019s been other minor things.  The only other one probably worth mentioning is that she shit talks her one friend who doesn\u2019t work and lives with her boyfriend supporting her.   She\u2019s said that she would never allow herself to live like that.  Relying on a partner for everything.  Literally besides our first date, she\u2019s never even offered to go 50/50.  \n\nThis all probably sounds harsh.  She\u2019s a lot more than these examples and I get excited every time I\u2019m about to see her.   The hypocrisy has been rubbing me the wrong way for a while though and it\u2019s not something I\u2019ve been able to push out of my head or just ignore.  Like I said at the top, she calls out bullshit where ever she sees it.  I want to take a page out her book. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2RNY6daFbQtN97ACckOVV2qXJRokDC9x", "post_id": "awzpwk", "action": {"description": "going to a store without my friend", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for going to a store without my friend", "text": "I'm best friends with someone who shares an interest in the metaphysical with me. About a month ago she found a store that sells all sorts of metaphysical things and brought me there. She is only able to leave the house about once a week, and thats when we go to this store. \n\nThis week she couldn't go, so I decided to bring one of my other friends instead, who doesn't really get along with my friend. I told her I was going and she got upset, she said it was our thing, that this other friend doesn't even like that kind of stuff & I'm showing someone she doesn't like her thing. She said it was shitty that I couldn't just wait until we could do it together since I wouldn't have known about it in the first place if it weren't for her. \n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "p0QWNZIOvNr7vQK8MhynXvBTImknsB8f", "post_id": "azibdb", "action": {"description": "making trash mountains", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for making trash mountains?", "text": "My husband recently moved in with me, now that he has a job in my city. Before then, he would visit me on weekends. He has brought trash mountains to my attention before, but I just kept forgetting. The way I take the trash out is I try to pile up as much as I can in one can so that I can just dump the entire thing out when it's time. If stuff keeps falling I'll put them in another bag. I know this seems lazy, but I am a very busy doctoral student. I am rarely (if ever) home; I am usually always in my office. When it's time to clean and stuff, my husband usually always helps by taking out the trash, dusting, and swiffering; sometimes he will wipe the counters and vacuum if I can't. Today he took out the trash and asked me again to not make trash mountains again, as it makes the trash harder to take out. He also asked me to flatten the Coke boxes before putting them in the trash can.\n\n​\n\nI feel those are reasonable requests, but I feel like a terrible person for having done all that... I feel like I made trash mountains and stuff because I'm terrible... AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "GpQBkCFWemXbLLXCnJH5srhYLZvVfZcw", "post_id": "as6hhl", "action": {"description": "not being ok with watching the kids on my ex-wife's week while she goes out with her former affair partner", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for not being ok with watching the kids on my ex-wife's week while she goes out with her former affair partner?", "text": "So to make the relationship backstory short my ex-wife had a >1 year affair and divorced me because she wasn't happy and wanted to be with him. After a lot of on again off again stuff its final that she has chosen to be in a relationship with the affair partner. Per our custody arrangement we have 50/50 split custody (one week on, one week off) of our two girls aged 5 and 7. We are currently living together and co-parenting until my ex-wife can afford to move out.\n\nMy ex-wife has a friend, let's call her Mary, who has cancer and lives close to my ex-wife's work and with whom she stays most nights when it's my week to watch the girls. Not too long ago I found out that she had lied to me about staying with Mary when she was really spending the night with the affair partner. It is currently her week to watch the kids and tonight she asked me if I was okay with taking care of the girls overnight so she could stay with Mary. I told her that if she was actually staying with Mary I was fine with it. She asked me what I meant and I told her that I was not okay with doing a favor for her that directly benefited the guy she had cheated on me with and who I obviously hate. She stated that it shouldn't matter who she was staying with if I'm okay with watching them for her to stay with Mary then I should be fine with watching them for whatever reason and that I was being controlling. I think there's a big difference and told her that putting conditions on a favor is not controlling since the other option is just a straight no.  \n\nI've been pretty messed up by everything that's gone down and don't have a ton of people who I can ask for advice, so reddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ytsQuyEJYnEjVhoSyVvXpDmUwekWM0in", "post_id": "af2e0c", "action": {"description": "being fed up with a customer, and asking my manager to ban them from the store", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being fed up with a customer, and asking my manager to ban them from the store?", "text": "It's me again :>\n\n​\n\nI work at Starbucks, and have been working here for the past year now. I really do enjoy my job and I'm always happy when I get to work. I get along well with my co-workers, and many of our regular customers. Before I continue, I've worked in customer service for a few years now outside of SB and I am well aware that people are not always going to be pleasant. I'm usually well at diffusing situations and staying calm under pressure, which is part of the reason I'm pretty decent at my job. However, there's one customer who's a regular that I've been having issues with these past few months, and today was my breaking point and the worst interaction I've had with him.\n\n​\n\nHe always has the same order - tall, extra dry cappuccino with whole milk. I'm also convinced that he doesn't really know what a cappuccino is. No matter who is making his order, he always sends it back and says that something is wrong - the milk isn't foamy enough, it feels too heavy or too light, the espresso doesn't taste correct, there's not enough of something or it's too hot or too cold... literally any and every excuse in the book has been made, and every single time he makes someone remake his drink. Now, he's older than I am by a good amount of years - I never want to disrespect someone older than I or stick my nose up at difficult customers, so I usually just stay calm and ignore it. I'm used to it and let things like that go. Starbucks is overpriced and inexpensive, I totally get it. But he comes in at least 5 to 6 times a week, so how can it possibly be made incorrectly every time, when we make cappuccinos at least 30 times a day?\n\n​\n\n(Side note: He has caused problems with my co-workers before as well. One of my co-workers in particular simply refuses to serve him. She sees him come in, and has to go in the back and wait until he leaves. This is because he blew up at her and asked her why she couldn't do something so simple, and that she needed to be re-trained, and some other pretty harsh stuff. Not to mention, he also swiped a few dollars from our tip jar. This story is actually pretty funny, but another time. Anyway, I wasn't working there yet when this took place; this is just what I have been told. This had already caused him to get a store ban for 6 months.)\n\n​\n\nThis morning we were completely slammed. The line wrapped almost all the way around the store and we had at least 15-20 orders pending, with 4-6 drinks being made. currently We can typically only make 2 or 3 drinks at a time for each of us (usually two baristas make drinks - this isn't necessarily important, just helps more with the situation). Cappuccino Man leans over and asks me how long it will take to get his drink. I eyeball the very long line of orders, and tell him 15 minutes at the most. Most drinks are made in less than 45 seconds to a minute, depending on complexity. He gets visibly annoyed once I tell him this, and asks if I can \"just make his drink now so he can leave\". I apologize and tell him I cannot do that, as we have to do our drinks in order and it just wouldn't be fair to other customers. One thing that can be annoying is when people see how incredibly busy we are and then get upset when it takes longer than 3 minutes to complete an order, but I digress. He doesn't say anything in response, and just steps back and continues watching me and my co-worker make drinks.\n\n​\n\nFinally, I get to his drink. Before I can even start preparing his order, he calls over to my other co-worker that's making drinks, and says to him: \"Hey, can you make my drink instead? I don't have time to wait on her.\", while pointing at me. Immediately, I got annoyed. But, I just handed over the order to my co-worker and kept it moving. I make two other drinks, and just as I'm starting to calm down, I'm called over by Cappuccino Man. Since he had already annoyed me a bit, I didn't want to be dramatic and start anything, but I knew he was going to ask me to remake it. I decided I would question him on what exactly happened instead of just bending over backwards again, to hopefully make some kind of change. Food/customer service workers are still just people, man.\n\n​\n\nOf course, he claimed it tasted \"off\". I pushed a bit and asked what was wrong, even re-reading through his order to \"make sure\" it was what he had ordered. He said the thought the problem was with the milk's density. I asked, is it too much or too less foam? He said he couldn't really put his finger on it, and asked me to remake it. I said I would make it again, but I wouldn't know what to change if I didn't know what was wrong, so it would be pointless. To be fair, we do ask what needs to be changed or what seems to taste incorrectly when we remake drinks so we're not playing a guessing game and wasting product. Then, he asked if my manager was there and that he would like to speak to him. I grab my manager and they talk for a few minutes, so I see this as an opportunity to sit in the back for a second to calm down. \n\n​\n\nCappuccino Man leaves, but not before speaking to another customer, who I'm assuming he knows personally, saying \"oh, don't let the girl in the blue hat make your drink\" loud enough for me to hear over espresso machines running and milk steaming, which isn't exactly quiet. It was so completely embarrassing, especially with all of these people in the store and in front of my boss. I wanted to cry, honestly. My manager comes in the back and talks to me, asking why I didn't just remake his drink. I explain how I felt and apologised, but also stood up for myself. I told him I can handle a lot of things, but he was agitating me and I know I'm not incompetent.  I asked if it was possible to report and/or ban him, and I know I'm not the only employee who felt this way. However, Boss Man didn't really care for my side of the story. \"He's a regular, we can't lose customers, he has no reason to be banned, you need to not be so aggressive, this is grounds for a write-up\" etc. I understand that I have to have that \"the customer is always right\" attitude, and I can't put someone on blast for wanting a remade drink. He may not be purposefully trying to be difficult.\n\n​\n\nI've gotten mixed responses on how I should or shouldn't have handled it from friends and family, how I was being unprofessional or how my actions were justified, but I can't help feeling bad for acting that way towards someone older than myself, and to a customer at the very least. Did I fuck up? Was this really necessary?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "b9mrHUV3GlQMTi9NyJ8IMUchbkCWynkT", "post_id": "b16grk", "action": {"description": "confronting a close friend of mine about me being the one who always initiates contact", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for confronting a close friend of mine about me being the one who always initiates contact?", "text": "I really like this girl. I've been really close with her and we've been talking almost every evening on the phone for hours. She was talking to a few people like my best friend and a few friends of hers too, but I don't really care about that... why should I?\nAt some point in time, I noticed that I was always texting first and calling her, so I stopped calling her to find out if she would call me on her own. She didn't call me for two weeks, but she was talking to my best friend a few times on the phone. Strangely, on the day he went on vacation with his family and couldn't talk to her she suddenly called. I was really happy, but also a little confused.\nA few weeks later I confronted her about me being the one who always initiates contact and stuff like that and she got really defensive and tried to switch up what I said to make me look like the bad guy. \nThis was always just a stupid back and forth and she was just getting annoyed at me, even though I was just asking myself if it was even worth it to try to talk to her. Today I kinda argued with her via texts about me not trying to lose her, because she's really really important to me. She ignores my messages almost every time I text her about how I feel and if I say I just want to know what's up and that I don't want to be ignored she says that she just doesn't see the need to justify herself and answer every little text I send her.\n I was really straight with her after that. I told her that she's really important to me and that I don't want to lose her, but I also feel like she doesn't want to talk to me and that I think it's just me running after her at this point. She's ignoring me again. Am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wtI4UBpJpGGOcbFff1aBD3suh1SSarzc", "post_id": "aq0id9", "action": {"description": "not helping my mother take care of her horses", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not helping my mother take care of her horses?", "text": "**Cast of characters:**\n\n**Me**: 18/m senior in high school who attends an online school and also works from home\n\n**Mother**: My mother, whose house I live in (I mean, my parents are married, so I guess it's also my dad's house)\n\n​\n\n**Background:**\n\nSo, we are your average middle class American family, except for the fact that my mom has two horses, and our whole life seems to resolve around them. Now, you may say, \"But elaboratenoodle! Horses are so expensive \u2014 you are very privileged!\" However, I can assure you that we are far from wealthy \u2014 the horses are our only \"splurge,\" and I don't enjoy or ever ride them. Because of the horses, my mother has disrupted our lives in a bunch of little ways, but the biggest issue was when she moved our whole family to a different county in order to buy a farm, which meant leaving all of my friends behind and moving to an area where the closest grocery store is almost half an hour away, and going to my office (which I only do once a week) takes almost an hour. But, the little things are just as bad \u2014 things like selling our beloved pop-up camper to buy a horse trailer. Now, as every pre-teen has inevitably been told, *owning horses is expensive*. And, yeah, it can be. However, the prices goes up significantly when the two perfectionists that are my parents decide to purchase *a farm*, a brand new truck, a tractor, and a horse trailer.\n\nMy parents are pretty smart, but all of these things are pretty financially taxing, and I know we're in a lot of debt. Now, don't get me wrong: I still have an amazing life, and my parents really do care about and love me and my siblings. They even helped me to buy my first car, and pay for my insurance. Still, I still am not happy about this horse scenario. Because we are in debt, I feel *really* guilty whenever they spend money on me at all \u2014 I've started paying for my own tuition, a lot of my own food, and I will occasionally secretly cover their grocery bills when I go shopping. But, it's taken a toll on our lives: we avoid making necessary repairs to our house and our cars, paying the taxes is always an ordeal, and we can't afford to go on any trips.\n\nNow, I understand that it's their money, and I appreciate everything that they do for me. But now, I'm preparing to go to college, and their income is high enough to prevent me from getting good financial aid, but because they spend it so foolishly, they can't afford to even help me a little, like paying for my books or helping me out with the cost of housing. And I know that I don't deserve any of their money, but I am still not thrilled about the prospect of owing \\~$100,000 for college (and no, I am not going to community college; the closest \"community\" college is farther away than several four-year universities).\n\n​\n\n**The Situation:**\n\nSo, as you can tell, I am not super thrilled about the horses, and they've been a lot of trouble from my perspective. But, they are really something she enjoys, and a way for her to connect with my sister. Okay, great. But, one challenge is that my sister chose to attend a brick and mortar school, meaning that only myself and my mother are home during the day. Because of this, my mom often tries to guilt me into helping her with the \"daily chores,\" which include obsessively cleaning up after her horses, as well as brushing them, feeding them, and occasionally riding them.\n\nUnfortunately, I am very busy at all times: I have an intense course load (trust me, it's not the type of online school you're thinking of), in addition to a bunch of extracurriculars, as well as my responsibilities as my company's only web developer / IT specialist / technical support representative. I have a crazy life, but I am very lonely and depressed, which isn't great when combined with a huge workload. I am awake and working from about 8:00 AM to 2:00 AM, I have no local friends outside of work (and all of those people are a lot older than me), and the only time I get out of the house is when I go to the office or go skiing with my dad (we got really cheap season passes for which I had to pay most of the price). My mom, however doesn't really have time for this either, as she also works, in addition to having to take care of the house during the day, but I really don't think it's fair for me to expect me to add even more chaos to my life for these stupid animals \u2014 chaos that leaves me covered in filth for the rest of my day. I feel guilty for leaving her so much work, but I really do not need more stress in my life right now. AITA?\n\n​\n\nTL;DR: My mother has thrown our lives into chaos because of her horses, and I don't want to help take care of them.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9Bwy1IW5ttZCX1tV3QRP3Mowx8e9CepO", "post_id": "axondu", "action": {"description": "asking my twin sister for asking why she never wished me a happy birthday, a week after our actual birthday", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for asking my twin sister for asking why she never wished me a happy birthday, a week after our actual birthday?", "text": "So on Monday, February 25, my twin sister and I turned 20 years old. \n\nWe are both in college, although she lives on campus at hers, which is about two hours away. I commute to my school because it\u2019s only fifteen minutes from home. We always _at least_ text each other a \u201chappy birthday\u201d each year. \n\nThis year, I went around the house collecting some baby pictures of her and I (and two of them included our older brother). I then made a collage of them and made a post to her on Facebook to wish her a happy birthday. \n\n\n So this passed Monday, around 11 PM I was just scrolling through my texts to clear up space on my phone and saw she hadn\u2019t texted me in awhile. Then I saw it was the same on Facebook and such. My heart just kind of... broke. I don\u2019t know. I know this all sounds very petty, but it did. So I texted her saying, \u201cSo like you never wished me happy birthday... what\u2019s that all about?\u201d\n\nHer response was this: \u201c? I could ask the same of you??\u201d\n\nI\u2019ll show the rest of the conversation, her replies will be marked by the letter \u201cH\u201d. \n\nMe: \u201cI did. I sent you a whole collage and then sent you a Jake [one of our dogs]pic on messenger. I went around the house for baby pics cuz 20 is the end of teens and all you know?\u201d\n\nH: \u201cI just happen to have randomly woken up rn but I don\u2019t know why you\u2019re up right now and I feel like you just want to start a fight or create a problem so I\u2019m going back to sleep as should you and you have found something to be angry about that you had a week to mention.\u201d\n\nMe: \u201cI\u2019m not angry and I can see why it can be misinterpreted as angry cuz I was just sending multiple texts but the multiple texts was to clarify when I had said happy birthday. And when I asked about why you didn\u2019t say it it\u2019s cuz I just felt weird about it that\u2019s all.\u201d\n\nH: \u201cI don\u2019t necessarily think you\u2019re angry I just think that you have made something an issue just to have an issue because it\u2019s late and the issue doesn\u2019t really exist and you\u2019re just making up a reason to be resentful.\u201d\n\nMe: \u201cIt\u2019s just hurtful I guess. It just showed I wasn\u2019t on your mind enough to text a quick \u201chbd\u201d at the very least is all I\u2019m trying to say.\u201d\n\nHer: \u201cIf it is so hurtful I don\u2019t understand why you are mentioning it a week later that seems unfair.\u201d\n\nMe: \u201c I\u2019m mentioning it a week later because I was hoping you would still end up sending something out eventually. But yeah sorry for being unfair I guess and it is late, I\u2019ll go to bed.\u201d\n\nHer: \u201cWhatever.\u201d\n\nSo AITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ms4U2ZaVr5UYIdpvwZqvJbJyq5Hp96Xq", "post_id": "b93ble", "action": {"description": "filing a police report against my bro's homeless dad for identity theft", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I file a police report against my bro's homeless dad for identity theft?", "text": "(18M) Let me start off by saying I don't like the guy but this isn't about my personal feelings for him. This is more because my little brother (12y/o) adores him, my brother is fantastic at basketball and his dad's a great coach for him and even though I don't get sports I think he genuinely has a future in it, he just got invited to his first national tournament. Okay now that the background is out of the way here's the situation.\n\nSo about 3 months ago I got a letter from the local power company saying that I was 1,000 dollars in debt to them from 2013, but here's the thing I was 13 at the time. So I called them to figure out what happened and once they told me the street address I immediately recognized it belonged to my old step dad. Obviously I was furious, so I talked to my mom about it to make sure she didn't give him permission to do anything like this, because he's a great manipulator and that was about the time they were thinking of getting back together (they didn't) and she assured that she would never let something like that happen and she was just finding out about it as well\n\nMy mom called him and told him to either pay the debt or have it put back into his name. But the problem with that is he's currently living out of a tent in a friend's backyard so I know for a fact he won't be able to pay it but once it's out out of my name it's not my problem. He tells her that he'll do it and I thought that was that\n\nYesterday I call the power company so I can make sure that this won't affect my credit or anything because I have no idea how that works and it's better to be safe than sorry seeing as how I'm planning on moving out in the next couple of months. So after asking her to check my name in their system the lady asks me \"How would you like to pay your debt?\" and  I was LIVID (obviously I didn't take this out on her shes just doing her job) and I explained that I was minor at the time and she transfers me over to the debt collectors agency and after explaining that I was minor to a 2nd woman she helps me file a letter of dispute. But then she tells me that the power company may require me to file a police report and name anyone who I might think is a suspect if I want this to be taken out of my name.\n\nIt's hard because when I was his exact age my dad started drinking heavily and fell out of my life and that was hard one me. I don't want my little brother to go through that too, seeing as how this is punishable by up to 5 years in prison where we live. We're also super close, the kid is genuinely one of my best friends and I don't want him to resent me even if his dad doesn't end up getting jail time. Obviously he knows nothing about any of this and I'd like to keep it that way but if I have to file a police report he's eventually going to find out.\n \nSo if I file this police report WIBTA?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pH0a4F77kX0iQlGGJoFoAadtvcAqQ83I", "post_id": "9tnapa", "action": {"description": "starting getting angry at my boyfriend when he plays games for too long", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA if I start getting angry at my boyfriend when he plays games for too long?", "text": "I don\u2019t mind him playing games but when he plays for 2-3 hours I ask him to finish up or stop playing. Sometimes he refuses and gets angry at me or stop and is a little bitter about it, and of cause I get angry too...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "FckmBIxa30KOSDNIlnQxM5Rb7ZHsDReG", "post_id": "b33p5x", "action": {"description": "not wanting a foster brother", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting a foster brother", "text": "Ok, I know I seem like a bitch, but hear me out.\n\n​\n\nI'm an orthodox Jew, and I live in a predominantly Orthodox Jewish neighborhood. One of the kids in this neighborhood was just taken out of his home, and needs a foster family for 6 months. \n\n​\n\nI'm a 13 year old boy, and I grew up with 3 older brothers. They all were reclusive to me, but they're amazing people and I love them. This kid, though, is a mess. Drinks excessively to the point of danger, drives drunk, smokes pot, comes home at 3AM on saturday nights, aggressive to his younger sister (she tattled on him about the pot), and so on.\n\n​\n\nI know it's a product of his home, but I really don't want to have to live with this person for 6 months. It's not really my choice, but AITA for not wanting him near me for half a year?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DIOfkInr35NFKabTht3m7Xu66tgQ04Bg", "post_id": "aw0ghf", "action": {"description": "thinking showing pubes in public is against general social etiquette", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for thinking showing pubes in public is against general social etiquette?", "text": "I made a comment on another post here basically assuming that it\u2019s impolite to show pubes in a public area but I got downvoted quite a bit and everyone told me that in fact it is socially acceptable.  Am I wrong or am I the asshole for saying people should cover their pubes/pubic region in public?  I seriously want to know the answer to this so I can adjust my viewpoint accordingly.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Zgt9kQ7LeO3EiONMgMbwaFhj4MdiZPwV", "post_id": "b9w575", "action": {"description": "eating a one night stands leftovers", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for eating a one night stands leftovers?", "text": "Simple story. Tinder date ended up coming over to my place after a coffee date and afternoon delight turned into a night of wine and snuggles. We had some food delivered at 2am to fill those late night cravings, and didnt finish her meal(which, and not like this matters ultimately, i paid for) \n\nIn the morning before work i grabbed the rest of her samewhich and gobbled that shit like a freshly cleaned vacuum. She texted me later and said that it was rude to do so, which tbh felt a bit strange to me. \n\nThat girl was nice and all but shit i was hungry and our late night anttics didnt leave me time to make breakfast.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "5Q8CjLPlV0GIQk7UvUwFY2xfD9RlGTfp", "post_id": "aibno7", "action": {"description": "stiring up shit with an acquaintance and his girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for stiring up shit with an acquaintance and his girlfriend?", "text": "I had a bit of a crush on my roommate's sister, who was in a happy committed relationship but who I feel was pretty flirty with me. So I stopped hanging out with her.\n\nI found out that her boyfriend might have been involved in a high-profile rape case, a pretty major thing. So I looked into it a bit, it looked like a case of mistaken identity, and that the actual person involved was his cousin or brother or something. They just had similar names. This is all based on an internet witch hunt, and those are not very accurate anyway. I knew that the witch hunt did target him though.\n\nI discovered that his cousin/brother/whatever was in junior high during the events of the rape case, and it looks like everyone else involved was in highschool, so I kept looking into it. Eventually I found out through a different source that one of his friends was involved in \"revenge porn\". Even if he wasn't the one involved in the rape case  directly, the fact that he's hanging out with people like that after  going through that witch hunt, after he saw that kind of revenge porn ruin someone's life. Well that's a huge red flag, and I couldn't keep  setting on it.\n\nThe problem is that it's all conjecture. I couldn't get any details of the \"revenge porn\" without pushing someone harder than I wanted to, and while it certainly looks like he was one of the rapists, the fact is that I'm basing that judgment off of a witch hunt. A witch hunt that got 2 people convicted (to probation, it was described in the news as a miscarriage of justice), but a witch hunt none the less.\n\nSo I let his girlfriend know what was going on. The guy phones me, understandably angry, and talks to me a bunch of facebook. After talking to him, I only feel more confident that he was involved. But I also have an obvious bias against the guy.\n\nIt really wasn't my place to get involved, especially where I had a crush on her, and I created a bunch of drama for what could have been no reasons. I feel like machiavellian asshole who got the two of them broken up for my own selfish reasons, and while under normal circumstances I would have pursued her I feel like if I did that in the future it would just be proving to myself how much of an asshole I am.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "zm9nOhdlDy9EwCBP4Q2u3UZQjaN63KsH", "post_id": "a85k27", "action": {"description": "not tolerating friends dogs", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA because I wont tolerate friends dogs", "text": "AITA when I ask my friend to control his dogs when I bring my toddler over? Let me explain.\n\nMy close friend got married to a dog lover. They have 2 weimaraners and they are absolutely insane. They've had then for about 2 years and they both stay inside always. They do not listen, they bark incessantly, and they will jump all over you and scratch the shit out of you with their claws and gnaw at your hands with their mouths. What angers me the most is the wife always makes up some kind of excuse for their behavior.\n\n\"Oh they're just excited\"\n\"She's just showing affection\"\n\"I would never put my dogs outside, you wouldn't put your kids outside would you?\"\n\nI get it. People love dogs and cats and I'm on the other side of that spectrum. I can tolerate and enjoy dogs but their not my thing.\n\nSo here's whats got me a frustrated.\n\nI recently gave my friend, J, his christmas gift. I gave him my deceased brothers Xbox One. My brother passed a couple years ago and I kept his xbox but it stayed in my basement collecting dust and since I have a ps4 I never really used it and it didnt seem fair to let it sit there. So I decided a month ago since me and J were getting along so well that he should receive it because he only has a xbox 360. \n\nSo we were texting tonight and he suggested i come over and bring my 4 year old daughter. Last time I brought her those dogs cornered her and scratched her legs with their paws. So I texted him and asked if he could rein his dogs in since my daughter didnt like being scratched(more like I'll kill a dog if they hurt her). His response was, 'I cant do anything about that.'   ....I'm trying to be a reasonable person but wtf man? Cant keep your dogs in check?? Or put them in the other room for a small amount of time? \n\nSo I say cmon man im just protecting my kid from scratches. He asks, 'What do you want me to do?'\n\nAt this point I'm hurt and fucking angry. I can feel my blood pumping over a stupidass text convo. I tell him I just dont want her scratched and all I get is 'i cant help that.' So I just tell him I'll come over when I'm not watching my daughter one day and thats the end of the conversation. \n\nAt this point I'm ready to say fuck it. I have had the shittiest day and I'm confused as to whether I'm not being reasonable and this is why I wrote this. Maybe the internet can clarify. Sorry for the format this is all on my phone so thanks for reading.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oVlga29if15hDR1gqytHGfXtN3mwjHvE", "post_id": "azmw3c", "action": {"description": "getting angry at my friend for complaining", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting angry at my friend for complaining?", "text": "(Mobile, sorry. Throwaway because friend knows my main) \n\nAs baity as this title may sound, I did not tell my friend how i felt. I feel like I might though, since it\u2019s not going to stop anytime soon. \n\nWe were having dinner at my friend\u2019s house. We were having a chat with another friend and out came the subject of money problems. \n\nAs a background, My family is not in a \u201cgood\u201d position monetarily. I split my bills with my brother and our mother lives alone. She works a lot and has nothing to her name. She\u2019s nearing 60 and not retiring any time soon. She refuses help from us.  My father is very poor, lives in another country and is very sick. I consider myself lucky that i can still get myself \u201cluxuries\u201d like my pet bird. \n\nShe complained that her father didn\u2019t work. (He lost his job) Her mother paid all the bills. (She lives with her parents). She was worried and complained that money was tight. Their window had to be replaced since it was getting old, the oven was old too. She was angry that because of her father they wouldn\u2019t be able to have their trip to europe as they wished, since they\u2019d have to pay for him.   \nShe also said that her parents were getting bored of their cottage house and they were thinking of building another one, but she complained that they didn\u2019t have enough money and would have to sell the old one. \nThe whole monologue was a very \u201cwoe is me\u201d vibe, and it made my heart sink.  \nI told her she was lucky to be able to worry about such things, and to feel grateful that she had such a nice life. \nShe kept complaining. \n\nThis happens rather often. I\u2019m getting pretty tired of hearing it. \nWIBTA if i told her how i felt? \n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "r4S7Ps6vQgKaKODrgS8LDF7A2mEVbFwP", "post_id": "b2477h", "action": {"description": "hating my Stepmom", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For hating my Stepmom?", "text": " \n\n( first post, fyi - happy birthday to me )\n\nBeforehand, let me apologize for the absolute word soup I'm throwing at you guys; it's hard for me to gather up my thoughts right now, so I'm just typing out memories and personal problems as they come back to me. I probably missed a few, too.\n\nFor some reason I just can't conjure up any positive feelings for her; I care about my stepmom and I know for a fact that she cares about me but almost everything she does seems to stress me out; nothing seems to be good enough for her when I clean the house with my sister, and she loses her temper incredibly easily with us. If we ever say anything that contradicts her, she raises her voice at us for arguing with her, and tells us that we never do anything she tells us to; that maybe she should just become harder on us if we're going to be like that. She just lashes out in anger and rarely tries to make up afterwards, even going as far as to say that it's our fault for pissing her off and being so uncooperative in the first place. And any perceived sign of disrespect (real or not) at all is immediately pointed out and I'm scolded for it. Recently, when I revealed that I feel safer talking with my biological mother (who has a history of drug abuse and is very financially unstable, on top of the fact that she use to stand us up during visitation. Still, I feel like I can talk to her and trust her more) , she launched into this huge, night-long lecture about how ungrateful I am for the work she puts into us, and how she loves us more than that woman ever could, and that if I wanted to be with our biological mom so badly then why don't we try and live with her. Any little thing can piss her off, and she launches into a lecture about how I need to have good grades so I don't end up in my parent's basement like my biological mom did, or worse. One time, she started to yell at my sister who was hyperventilating and obviously having an anxiety attack from already being chewed out for her grades. Occasionally, my stepmom changes up rules when they've always been a certain way, and pretends like it's always been like that. Because of her temper and different way of thinking, I never feel like I could share my inner thoughts around her; they always get targeted as some form of disrespect or they get shrugged off as childish. Both of my parents never seem to take me seriously, and treat me like I know nothing. My stepmom is also incredibly passive aggressive to everybody in the house; even my dad. I'm honestly just afraid of her; she never seems to be able to control her feelings and I can't relax while she's in the house because she'll probably find something to get stressed about.\n\nI'm not even a bad kid; I try my hardest in school and I really try to make my parents happy because I care about them. I used to love my stepmom but for some reason that feeling's just faded entirely into an urge to get the hell out of this house.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZLJkE0XEDE5OT6cY7jv33qFtzOW61Ujt", "post_id": "b7vrug", "action": {"description": "preventing my brother in law from getting a job", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "Wibta if I prevented my brother in law from getting a job?", "text": "So basically my whole family smokes weed. My mom, dad, stepmom, four brothers, and my two sisters. \nMy sister\u2019s fianc\u00e9 also smokes and my sister used to smoke until she got pregnant about 3 months ago. \nMy brother in law we\u2019ll call D, just lost his job and had to move back in with his dad with my pregnant sister who we\u2019ll call P.\nMy other sister (C) is married and has two kids with my brother in law (M). M works in the construction industry and has a very high position.\nM offered to put in a letter of recommendation for D, which basically cements him getting a job,  on the condition that he would pass the drug test.  \nThe way my sister explained it to me was that if M recommend him and he failed the test it would really risk his credibility and potentially affect his income. \nI\u2019m not sure if that\u2019s an over exaggeration. \nBut nonetheless today I was helping them move and I noticed he was already smoking when I got there. I also saw a little cleansing kit I\u2019m not sure what they\u2019re called. The things at smoke shops that\u2019s supposed to clean your pee for drug tests. \nWIBTA if I tell C about this? \n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qXgX5NfNf3DtpVYjr0AyjwuXcZBDypMM", "post_id": "aspy14", "action": {"description": "negatively reacting to how my roommate handles food", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for negatively reacting to how my roommate handles food?", "text": "I've been living in an apartment with 3 of my friends from school since September. I really enjoy cooking, so I'd often treat the guys to a big meal once every 2 weeks or so where everyone would pitch in and I'd cook the main course. This was the norm for the fall, but now 2 of my roommates Aaron and Stan (fake names) are on a diet and prefer going out every week for an expensive cheat meal. I was happy that I didn't have to plan a week ahead, but also sad that I couldn't cook for anyone but myself anymore. This past week I go up to Aaron and Stan and ask to make them a cheat meal, and they agree on my idea for mac & cheese. I ask if I can make it a dinner party and invite some of my friends and they agree with that as well, making the total amount of people about 12.\n\n​\n\nAaron lets me know that he and Stan are more concerned about their meal and doesn't want to pay for everyone else's food. Understandable, since it was my idea to invite everyone. I ask him how much he thinks he and Stan will eat and he says 2lbs each. Using how much I've eaten in the past and how much Aaron and Stan will eat, I get what I think will enough pasta and cheese to satisfy everyone, which was about $50 worth and I get reimbursed by Aaron and Stan $10.\n\n​\n\nHere's where it gets weird. Aaron demands that he grate the cheese, not because he's especially good at it but because he missed his arm workout that day. I hand him the cheese and the grater and let him do whatever. Aaron takes the cheese and starts aggressively grating this cheese. Like, he's screaming and looks like he's trying to fist the plate into submission. After one poor, poor pound of cheese he moves onto the next one. I take the cheese and take a look at it before I dump it in the pot.\n\n​\n\nThere are few tiny, red specks in there.\n\nHe cut himself on the grater and is bleeding into the cheese.\n\n​\n\nAt this point I'm surprised and disgusted, but I didn't want to say anything because he's acting like a raving lunatic. Right before the first mac & cheese batch is done, the guests arrive. I finish the meal, toss on some breadcrumbs, and have all 12 dig in. Everyone's complimenting the meal, so I at least know that no one's poisoned from Aaron's lunacy. It took them about 15 minutes for all 12 guests to give up, with both pots less than half empty (Each pot had about 3lbs of food).\n\n​\n\nAt this point I'm pretty upset. I now have $50 worth of cheese and noodles that I don't know what to do with, except make mac & cheese for the next month. Aaron and Stan wildly overestimated the amount of food that they would eat, and let's not forget how Aaron BLED INTO THE FOOD. I've already seen the wrappers of the other cheese that I bought in the trash and everyone's avoiding each other. Am I the asshole for getting moody about my roommate's food habits, even though some have been the norm for months? Am I the asshole for willingly letting guests eat food with blood in it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Ix02IJlPfAefeNHuQiVGZltWZtFq2JPT", "post_id": "aupia0", "action": {"description": "ripping my 3 year olds PreK a new one", "pronormative_score": 42, "contranormative_score": 18}, "title": "AITA for Ripping my 3 year olds PreK a new one?", "text": "So. This happened almost 2 years ago. I have wondered for quite some time if I was right or wrong. \n\nKinda long, so I apologize. \n\nSo, we live in a small town, and wanted to really start socializing our son. We found a very highly rated pre-K program a couple towns over for him to start going 2 days a week, for 2.5 hrs at a time. We thought it would be a great introduction to school as well as let him get quality time in with kids his own age. They wouldnt let him go alone until he was 3, so we started him about 2 weeks prior, and we would hang out and wait in a separate part of the building. He did great. Loved it. We were all so pleased with how it was going. They have a giant monthly calendar as you walk into the building to let everyone know the daily activities. \n\nThe night of my sons 3rd birthday, we have a house fire. A mouse chewed into an outlet in the basement and fire spread through the hvac system as we slept. We awoke to smoke and fire alarms. I rushed to get our three children out, and my husband went to work putting the fire out with a hose. We were out of our home for nearly 6 months while repairs were being done. \n\nMy husband and I talked about it, and we just wanted to continue normal life for our kids. We had so much to do (we had no clothes, no food, nothing, insurance claims, bank calls...the list was endless). So 2 days later, we decided we would send him to school. He wanted to go, we just wanted their loves to stay as normal as possible as the world seemed so crazy at home. The night before taking him to school, I call the director and let her know what happened, and let them know my son would be there, as we are trying to keep life fun and happy. \n\nWhen I arrived, my plan was to drop him off, and stick close to ensure I'd be close if I needed to pick him up.  I ran in, met with his teacher and made certain she was aware of the situation, and then left. I did not take note of the calender, as I was off to try and buy clothes for a family of 5 to last a week. \n\nAbout an hour later I get a phone call....I needed to come get my son as he was freaking out because THEY DECIDED HE WAS READY TO GO THROUGH A FIRE DRILL, didnt warn him, and he was upset that his family didnt come out of the building. I was heated. I walked in and demanded who thought this was a good idea. The director. Why? Because he needs to get used to them.  Ffs. I lost my mind on her. Hes fucking 3. Just turned fucking 3. He doesnt have the mental capacity to understand this stuff. Admittedly,  I was harsh. But what really got me was, she said, \"well....it was on the calendar\". I asked her if everyone knew the situation, why did no one even mention to me when I dropped him off? No response. \n\nSo. Reddit. AITA for going off on my 3 year olds school. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 16, "OTHER": 35, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 42, "WRONG": 18}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "V9JrYq1rOHHpXAHxw4EYxrNwqPxWUkTF", "post_id": "b6nugf", "action": {"description": "offering my best friend money for a sexual favor", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "WIBTA if I offered my best friend money for a sexual favor", "text": "Context: My best friend (let's call him Jake, M, 22) and me (M, 22) have been friends for 7-8 years now. He helped me through very tough times and we're in a great relationship with each other now.\n\nEven when I told him a year ago that I have strong feelings for him, he was okay with it and didn't give me a hard time, but rather went \"ok\" with it and it became a casual topic pretty quick.. for him.\n\nI have strong desires towards him (which he knows about, but doesn't want to talk much about obviously), and my brain recently picked up the idea of asking him if I could give him a Bj (and give him a significant amount of money for that (relevant because his current job doesn't pay him much and made me think he'd be more inclined to accept)) \n\nMy question is: Would I be the asshole for asking him about this, potentially worsen our friendship? I'm very conflicted right now as it's obviously a very weird thing to ask (for me), but he never seemed to be bothered about even very private topics we discussed and forgets _everything really quick_.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 15, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "id5R6lCMKn3dA4LUAI1BDoT8oPCrYUeJ", "post_id": "b93y7v", "action": null, "title": "AITA ???", "text": "My ex (M22) and I (F20) recently got back together 2 weeks ago. Everything has been great... until last night. He has rarely had problems at home, his parents are very loving, understanding, and accept him for who he is. My parents however are very controlling and critical and it takes a large toll on me. My parents often threaten to kick me out because I don\u2019t often conform to their rules (since they have always been controlling, I sometimes rebel against them when I feel like they\u2019re being unfair) so my anxiety is through the roof at that point. (side note: I hadn\u2019t brought up any problems with my parents since we got back together).  My ex and I had plans to see each other but before we meet up I tell him what had just happened between my parents and I. He picks me up and he seems a little distant (not looking at me, straight faced, not talking or smiling), it may have been my anxiety but I start feeling like he doesn\u2019t want to be around me because of my negative situation. So I tell him how I felt in that moment \u201cI feel like you\u2019re being distant because you don\u2019t want to deal with my problems right now.\u201d I probably could have worded it better but he immediately started getting defensive and said \u201cIt\u2019s just like the same shit as before\u201d. He starts yelling at me saying that I don\u2019t appreciate anything he does, that just because i\u2019m going through stuff at home doesn\u2019t mean I should take it out on him, that i\u2019m this way because of my parents. I\u2019m sobbing at this point and I tell him he took what I said the wrong way, that I\u2019m just upset about my home life, and apologize, but he\u2019s angry now. I start having a panic attack because I feel like everyone I love is going against me/ doesn\u2019t accept me. He says he blew off all his other plans to \u201cbe there for me\u201d so i tell him to take me home. He lets me leave as i\u2019m crying without saying anything. I hated going back to my home environment now with another added problem. Was I in the wrong?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "cu90wxNQoAvmPEhKh1dAN01w04mqdCVy", "post_id": "b5jeb2", "action": null, "title": "AITA new guy wont let me cutt the line", "text": "My first time posting on Reddit but I have to know of I'm being unreasonable. Also I'm on a phone. I don't know why you need that info but everyone else says it. Anyway.\n\nI work at a tourist trap strip mall in a small leather shop.  A few years back a sushi place opened across the (fake) street and instantly became where I get my sodas. It's a 15 sec walk and  the soda is $1 even. The owner knew me and that My store was unlocked and unattended while I'm getting the soda so I am in an out. Including when he has a line. Yes it seems like a dick move but once again it's the reason I go there. I walk around the line place the $1 down and head back to work. \n\nSeveral years later. He hired a new guy... I'm not sure if he's just new or if he's making a point but he makes me wait in the line of people ordering food. Tourist that have never seen sushi before much less know what they want... Then he has to cash me out. Scan the soda... Tell me the total... Then I tell him I work there... Then I wait for a new total... Then I pay and have to wait for him to print out the receipt. \n\nSo I really cannot leave the store unattended that long so am I the asshole? Should I say something to the owner? Or should I just stop getting sodas there?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "lh2bKZBxr7d0ycxuvdk7Bs2YVWMKEj55", "post_id": "9xg445", "action": {"description": "directly telling my group of friends I don't want associate with them anymore and cut off contact", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA for directly telling my group of friends I don't want associate with them anymore and cut off contact?", "text": "This is kind of a result of a previous thread I made here ([https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/9t3uz8/aita\\_for\\_asking\\_for\\_more\\_commitment\\_and\\_more/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/9t3uz8/aita_for_asking_for_more_commitment_and_more/)).  TL;DR of that post: I asked for more commitment for DnD sessions. I got  a hard no and my group is continuing to plan sessions ad hoc (last  sessions was at least 3/4 weeks ago fyi.) instead of on a (bi)weekly  basis.\n\nI am at a point where I want to  get more out of friendships and relationships in general than my current  group of friends are offering me. I am considering just telling them  that I don't want to be friends anymore and leave all group(chat)s we have.\n\nBecause we are 'officially' still friends there's still a chance we may be doing stuff together. This potential is in my opinion never met and so I am waiting to have my needs met. This potential never being met puts a strain on my patience and I really don't feel anything towards waiting for nothing. In other words: I want to cut off contact just so I don't have to put effort towards putting myself on hold and never being rewarded for it.  \n\n\nSo in short: would I be the asshole  for cutting off contact with my current group of friends because I feel  we're not doing enough together?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "IRs5dEkSlKfyTmursb29wQNFybmv1mL0", "post_id": "as5lxi", "action": {"description": "refusing to help", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to help?", "text": "Repost cause my title wasn't original for my first time posting here, so here's a title with it.\n\nTarget worker here. I was working self-checkout today, which in itself is no big deal, however it was extremely busy and it was just me with no available backup, because you know, President's Day. I had probably like 5 or 6 lights going at once out of 10 registers, when this little old lady in a wheelchair rolls herself up to me and asks if I can go grab her an electric scooter. The same electric scooters that she has to pass to even get inside the store. As politely as I could I told her I couldn't leave the area because it's extremely busy (as there are multiple impatient, foot tapping Karens behind me) and I would be unable to assist her. I legit barely had time to breathe. As she's rolling away towards one of our security associates, I hear her mumble and try to guilt trip me into still helping her out, \"And you're gonna make me wheel myself all the way down to the end.\" Security was legit 5 feet away from me. I was so over this lady, and the guest I immediately helped after her had heard everything and was extremely sympathetic thank God for that.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yOZTG1LlwCTmxukoHfvhTkcOGgrgUBs1", "post_id": "b6ryyw", "action": {"description": "deciding to cut out a friend because I felt shunned by her", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for deciding to cut out a friend because I felt shunned by her?", "text": " It started 6 months ago, this friend I've known for 20 years started to shun me for no apparent reason. After she cancelled on a staycation a mutual friend and I were planning for her birthday (citing family commitments), she kind of stopped responding in the group chat. In the months that followed, she went silent, though there were occasional social media posts; and she was still posting active on her cats\u2019 Instagram account.\n\n​\n\nFor some reason, I got increasingly annoyed because I felt non-existent to her; she did not text me when I went on my solo trip overseas, despite sharing the excitement months earlier. She would react to other friends' posts on social media (some who aren't even close) but not once to my posts. It almost seemed on purpose. I realized much later that her personal Instagram account was no longer following mine (no idea when it happened), but her \u201ccats\u2019 account\u201d was still following mine. I told the mutual friend about this, only to be told the 'unfollowing' could've been accidental, and that I might be overthinking things. At some point I came to a conclusion that the mutual friend probably knows something was up, but just didn't want to escalate matters.\n\n​\n\nBeing a passive introvert, I stopped initiating communication after attempts in the group chat got zero reciprocation from her. The only exception was wishing her happy birthday, to which she replied a simple \u201cthank you!\u201d.  I mailed to her some gifts over Christmas, and she didn't even have the decency to let me know she received it. I only knew she received it when I recently asked the mutual friend.\n\n​\n\nDespite wanting to consider that she might really be having personal difficulties and not wanting to be guilt tripped for being upset over all of this, I still eventually decided I\u2019ve had enough.\n\nI unfollowed her on Instagram, later also removing her \"cats account\" from my followers, and I left the WhatsApp group chat. We are still on each other's Facebook, though she hasn't posted anything in 3 months. Either that, or she has been only posting to selected audiences to view (something she has done to others before). \n\n​\n\nI left things at that, but last week I received a tracked parcel from her. It contained some items which I guess are gifts she got for me over the months and held onto, maybe waiting for a time to meet up... I don't know, maybe even thinking that is presumptuous. There was also a 'thank you' card in which she wrote \"Thanks for everything. Take Care.\" Not sure what kind of context that should be interpreted though.\n\nReceiving this now feels too little too late, and it no longer matters as much as it used to anymore.  Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ROIgLbEyklg6UEfY3YT7POYPbF3TqJO0", "post_id": "azz7th", "action": {"description": "being pissed at my boyfriend about Mother's Day", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being pissed at my boyfriend about Mother's Day?", "text": "So it's mother's day in the UK at the end of this month. My mother passed away in early Feb, her birthday would have been the end of March. I'm pretty broken up about it NGL, but I've been trying to be patient and not let my emotions get the better of me.\n\nThis evening my BF is trying to organise his mother's day with his siblings who live out of town and realised that we are due to be at a show on the night before mother's day (booked way before my mother died) . He turns to me and asks what I'm going to do about the meal he's going to for his mother during the day. I'm like, I dunno I'll sort something. He pushes for an answer to which I'm like, I have like 2 weeks to decide dude, chill. He pushes further and asks if I should just come to his mother's thing.\n\nWell that went super well. I ask him if he's thought about what he's just asked me to do. I burst out crying and just sob. He apologises, frequently, over the next hour. I'm still pretty upset, so I just say it's fine. I haven't really spoken to him but I'm sat here stewing about it while he (now) sleeps.\n\nI just feel like I have no perspective on this because its still pretty fresh. \n\nAm I the Asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8JHmSQGKRr8h2blF7FQqMDQ8LsXfq4xt", "post_id": "9wlbvo", "action": null, "title": "AITA for the way I handled this argument that has ultimately lead to an impending divorce?", "text": "  \n\nSome backstory: My husband lost his construction job in 2017 just before winter in the Midwest. I decided to take a job offer with better pay and worse hours (80+ hours a week) so my husband could stay home and study for his CDL. He claimed to want a more stable career. \n\nThis continues for several months until I completely burn myself out trying to manage the kids (4) and the household while working so much. My husband decided to start looking for a job again, putting a pin in the CDL goal. He found a job that took him away from home for 3-4 months at a time working in agricultural construction this past spring. While he was gone I decided to go back to college online. \n\nHe worked there for four months before he **intentionally** got fired (he told me this). During this time he was striking up conversations with an ex, who has been a continuous dark cloud over our relationship because of my own insecurities. He then comes back to Indiana and tells his father I said he wasn\u2019t allowed back home because he didn\u2019t have a job (I never said these words and I didn\u2019t know he was coming back home until after he\u2019d already returned to the state.) \n\nHis father gives him an under-the-table job two hours away from our home, so my husband has been staying with his dad and his uncle for the last six months. \n\n​\n\n​\n\nI have been trying to get a handle on our money because I am hoping to go to law school and my credit report doesn\u2019t look so great. I started working on a budget this afternoon and four hours later I had all the finances in one place. While my husband and I were texting about our days, I sent him a photo of what I\u2019d done for the day. He makes an inaccurate comment about how we would have \u201c$500 left over a month.\u201d \n\nI explain to him we wouldn\u2019t have any left-overs anymore because I was doing a zero-based budget. I joke that I didn\u2019t think he would read everything so closely and he shuts down for a moment. He then goes into it, telling me how he needs to pay his dad back for all the charity and is upset I didn\u2019t consult with him. \n\nI try explaining to him these numbers were based on whether or not my ex-husband would pay his child support payments on time every week (which he hasn\u2019t done for 11 years, but they started up again recently). He then takes offense that I used his name and ends the conversation before \u201cit leads to a stupid ass argumentative tone that ends up with us getting nasty with each other\u201d. \n\n​\n\n​\n\nI wasn\u2019t finished explaining the budget but he wanted to end the conversation without letting me explain. So I messaged him anyway. He goes off, implying I think he should screw over his father and telling me \u201cit\u2019s nice you can write the whole budget without even asking if I have any debts I need to settle\u201d. (Him not being considerate of me has been an ongoing issue in our relationship \u2013 including him disappearing for hours into the early morning with his friend to get high and not calling me \u2013 and it has never been a problem for the past three years that I\u2019ve managed the finances without \u201cconsulting\u201d him.)\n\nI threw my hands up. I\u2019m functioning as a single mother of four, in college full-time, one of my children has ODD/ADD and I\u2019m driving back and forth to the school twice a week for a problem, my kids have 2-3 out of school activities a piece, I\u2019m the only one cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, paying the bills, dealing with household problems.\n\nI acknowledge on a weekly basis how much it means to me that my husband works so hard and keeps a steady income so we can pay for necessities. I give him massages every time I see him because he\u2019s in manual labor. I do not feel like I downplay what he does at all. I do not receive the same acknowledgment.\n\nI told him he could hand the finances, then, and he agreed. I gave him every password to every account.  He states we\u2019re going to have a surplus of cash because he didn\u2019t know what half the accounts were (I only sent him our utilities, two credit cards we don\u2019t use, the internet log in, our car insurance, and our debt consolidation payment). He then tells me the bills will just \u201chave to wait\u201d until he has better internet service. \n\nI tell him I would take that as a sign of being apathetic to the needs of his family. I told him \u201csince I\u2019ve been doing such a shitty job handling the finances, there\u2019s no reason for money to continue to touch my hands\u201d. He claims I put words in his mouth and then said \u201cfuck you\u201d to me. I told him he didn\u2019t say it, but he implied it. I wrote down a nicer way he could have asked. \n\nHe tells me I blew shit out of proportion \u201cin a feminine manner\u201d and that I \u201cmake \\[him\\] look like a dumbass\u201d. (There were just the two of us texting???) I asked him if he thought my opinions, thoughts, words, and ideas don\u2019t matter because I have a vagina.\n\nHe exact words were \u201cWell, if the stereotypical shoe fits, makeover them Pradas\u201d. (I don\u2019t even know what this means, the most expensive pair of shoes I own I got on clearance for less than $30.) At this point, I stop responding to him because it\u2019s not getting anywhere and he\u2019s being ridiculous.\n\nAfterward, he called me on the phone and demanded my email account information. I told him I didn\u2019t want to give it to him and told him it was not because I have anything to hide, but because of the nasty way, he demanded it. He told me to shut the fuck up. I hung up on him. \n\nHe called back and asked if I was done being a bitch. I hung up again. \n\nHe called back and started screaming at me. At one point he accused me of thinking I\u2019m always right about everything (which is completely untrue and I\u2019ve, on more than just one occasion, admitted to being wrong/defeated, and I\u2019m not a spoiled sport about it). I told him he was being disrespectful by calling me names and telling me to \u201cshut up\u201d. I said I wanted a divorce and that I didn\u2019t want a partner who couldn\u2019t be mad without disrespecting me. He mocked me and told me he wouldn\u2019t sign papers.\n\nI told him I didn\u2019t need his signature and that the courts grant contested divorces. He finally stopped screaming at me and said \u201cFine, I\u2019ll sign your damn papers and find somewhere else to live\u201d. And he hung up.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yec9zC7cjmpjf8KIrqlWgvs1sVAOIBCK", "post_id": "b6bm1u", "action": {"description": "staying with my gf even tho I am not in love with her anymore", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for staying with my GF even tho I am not in love with her anymore?", "text": "Hello people, so here's the story. I won't go into too many details as I don't want to be traced back by people that know me. \nBasically, me and my girlfriend have been together for a few years now (we are both in our early 20ies) but recently (I'd say 1 year-ish) I've completely lost feelings for her, and yet, I'm still with her.\nNow, the reason why I have not broken up with her is because one of her relatives was really sick and in and out of hospitals, so I felt like making sure she was ok was my responsibility and my first priority. The problem was that, even tho I \"love\" her, I haven't been \"in love\" with her for a while now, so I wouldn never initiate sex or cuddles, and being affectionate towards her looked very forced and fake on my part.\nBecause of this dilemma, I feel like I might have done more bad than good as she is not stupid, and even though she hasn't mentioned anything, she probably knows something is up, which means I might have just made her sadder for the past year instead of helping her at all. \n\nNow, a little over a month a go, this relative passed away so I've spent nearly every day with her, and it seems like there will never be a good time to tell her I've lost feelings for her, and that I want to end the relationship. \n\n\nAITA for staying with her? And WIBTA if I broke up with her now? \n(Also some constructive criticism will be highly appreciated) ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "zf2SJt2ack7A99eNhvkqG48u7vUHOOax", "post_id": "b1ar96", "action": {"description": "being mad at my friend for declining a date with me and then avoiding me sincd then", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for being mad at my friend for declining a date with me and then avoiding me sincd then?", "text": "I have had a crush on this girl for two years. We did a lot of stuff over the past few months: went to dinner together, got breakfast a few times, and I supported her at all of her soccer matches (we go to the same college). She's had a fucked up year and has been so courageous through all of the trials. I made sure I was a friend who was always there if she needed to vent.\n\nThen, her friends started to ask her if we were dating, apparently even one of the guys from the men's soccer team got jealous. People thought we were a couple. We looked good together. When I make her laugh, I see people looking over at us and smiling. We looked like a couple. She noticed that and for whatever reason made her uncomfortable. She proceeded to avoid me for two weeks. This is the first time she avoided me. I approached her about it, she told me everything, profusely apologized and that was that. Fast forward to February.\n\nIf people thought we were a couple and we looked good together, she'll say yes if I ask her out right? I got a soft no, she wanted to stay friends. I told her if she needs space I'm more than okay with that as I probably need space too. After a bit of thinking over the next week, I was confused as to how she could say no. I understand there might not be attraction, but this was more than a friendship, we were borderline dating. So that got me mad. AITA for being mad about her not feeling the same way? I understand some people just don't feel some type of way for others, but we were doing things that couples do.\n\nThen tonight, after over a month of no communication, I checked in to see if we were cool. She said yeah and apologized if she made me feel like she was avoiding me (we used to bump into each other a lot so I should have seen her at least once, she's definitely avoiding me). I didn't want conflict so I acted like she hasn't been ignoring me and said, \"Nah not really, I wanna give u space and it's been good for me, but I didn't wanna get completely cut off yknow?\" Ambiguous statement, but I was referring to the future. I didn't want one month of no communication to turn into a few months. She took it as though I accused her of cutting me off for the past month and got triggered: \"I'm not sure how I cut you off? Literally just haven't seen you?\" That really set me off. We used to see each other at lunch every Tuesday and Thursday but I haven't seen her in over a month. I texted her happy bday, she didn't text me on mine (few days apart). Hasn't texted me once since I asked her out. Literally has done everything in her power to avoid me. AITA for being mad these things?\n\ntl;Dr\n\nAsked a friend out after we were pretty much dating. Her friends and my friends thought we were dating. I got shot down AITA for being mad that she said no?\n\nAfter I asked, a month went by. I texted her to check up, she thought I accused her of cutting me off (which I think she did) which really pissed me off. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Iw0D9FNHxtZOutjWnJvyXjw4C7v4nxkI", "post_id": "9v9zph", "action": {"description": "getting pissed at my neighors for being scared of my dog", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for getting pissed at my neighors for being scared of my dog?", "text": "AITA:\n\nEveryday. Everyday I see my neighbors. They live one floor below me and I see them everyday, but more importantly, my dog, Hatter, sees them everyday. \n\nShe is the friendliest, most excitable, loving dog I've ever owned. She's a medium sized dog and if you go through my profile you'll find pictures of her.\n\nEveryday when I walk her and run into my neighbors they let out a shrill gasp, they jump away, they act like she's a monster who just said \"Boo\". Just this morning the mother gasped, threw herself out of our path and cowarded. Like with her hands over her head..One morning the father of a special needs child saw my dog coming down the stairs, leashed I may add,  grabbed his daughter and threw her against a wall out of our path. Legit, hard enough that it hurt her.  S not even afraid of dogs! Everytime we see the child with her (nanny/grandmother?) She claps with delight and pets Hat.\n\nLook, I understand not liking dogs or even being scared of dogs, but this behavior is ridiculous and it serioisly pisses me off. I've lived here for months, I say she's friendly Every fucking time you act scared. She's never once barked at you or your family, or really ever since we've moved in. She's never lunged at you or made a move. She walks down the stairs and flicks her old ear at you and if you were interested in petting her she wouldn't say no, she'd even throw in a few face licks. \n\nTheir reaction just pisses me off and it basically ruins our whole walk. If you're scared of dogs, whatever, but don't fucking inflict that fear on your child. Don't act like I've just appeared before you in a puff of smoke laughing manically. I'm a girl and her dog, trying to take a walk. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "W96r02WD8YwtuG0TshLNLdtQKrK6FK6N", "post_id": "9w7rbc", "action": {"description": "not wanting any contact with my uncle", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting any contact with my uncle?", "text": "Obligatory apologies for formatting, I'm on mobile\n\nMy uncle has been clean from meth for about 18 years now, but a few weeks ago he had a major episode that he's just now coming down from. A variety of circumstances triggered this, but the main two were his mother (my grandmother) dying, and having to move out of the senior park he's lived in for years as her full time caretaker.\n\nDuring his episode he showed up at our house multiple times threatening us though he never came inside, and caused us to be scared for our safety\n\nNow that he's mostly down from this trip and acting normal and sane again, my family expects me to be fine interacting with him again but the thought of being in the same room with him makes me panicky and I don't think I'll be able to get over this anytime soon\n\n\nTLDR: am I an asshole for not wanting to be around my brother now that he's off his meth trip?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5OF2PUbCpo8UlykU0u11vjj43vRFNw6Z", "post_id": "avyoa5", "action": {"description": "kicking a friend out", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for kicking a friend out?", "text": "I\u2019ve been friends with this girl, let\u2019s call her M, for a few years. After graduating last year, we\u2019ve only talked once when she needed somewhere to stay for a night because her and her boyfriend got in a fight. \n\nI said sure. She leaves the next morning and we, again, have no contact for about 5 months. \n\nOne day she calls my suite mate, a close friend who I share apartment with, and tells us both that her boyfriend randomly kicked her out. She has no where to go besides her parents house, they\u2019re both raging alcoholics, and asks if she can just stay one night with us. We say yes. \n\nShe tells us all about how she never saw it coming and she has no idea what to do. My suitemate asks me if it\u2019s okay if M moves in with us for the time being. This is risky for us; if our school finds out she\u2019s living with us we would suffer all the repercussions. We both agree to let her stay because we would feel horrible if she had to move back in with her parents. \n\nA few weeks pass and she\u2019s keeping contact with her ex-boyfriend. Both I and my suite-mate A repeatedly tell her we aren\u2019t okay with this, and that we don\u2019t want to be her parents but we let her live with us to get away from him. One night she tells us she\u2019s going to stay with a friend, and we find out she lied to us and went and stayed at her ex-boyfriend\u2019s house. \n\nSuitemate tells her that if she gets back with ex-boyfriend, she\u2019s not living with us. \nWithin a week of this, M brings him over to our dorm to move all of her stuff out and says she\u2019s going back to live with her ex-boyfriend. \n\nNot even two days later she calls and says they got in another fight. Both I and my suite mate let her move back in. \n\nAbout a week passes and I realize she\u2019s still talking to her ex-boyfriend every day. I warn her, in the nicest way possible, that this can\u2019t happen again and I think it\u2019s best to cut contact completely. She shrugs this off and tells me they\u2019re just friends. \n\nOn Valentines she tells us she\u2019s going to stay with her mom, and then posts two pictures with her ex-boyfriend on Instagram that have obviously been taken that day.\n\nMy suite-mate and I decided together to confront her and text her a simple, \u201cSo you\u2019ll be coming over tomorrow to get your stuff?\u201d Keep in mind that we\u2019ve made it very clear that she is moving out if she gets back with this guy. She texts back \u201cwhat?\u201d and we tell her we don\u2019t appreciate repeatedly being lied to, and that we aren\u2019t trying to parent her but that the one rule was that we weren\u2019t going to let her live with us rent-free to get away from her boyfriend if they were STILL DATING.\n\nMy question is, are we the assholes for giving her that one guideline to live with us? It was completely rent free and we never asked her to clean or help with anything, just that she not get back with her boyfriend that had kicked her out twice. A few people have told me we should have confronted the issue differently and we were bitches the way we handled it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8YIBsLVG6ojDB2Aa5JxunRi7BP0yq754", "post_id": "a7kfkz", "action": {"description": "reporting my school shop teacher to the principal because of an unsafe shop", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for reporting my school shop teacher to the principal because of an unsafe shop?", "text": "He doesn't know how to use the machinery in the shop so just leaves it to students. He doesn't have eye protection available so I had to use safety glasses I had with me. He leaves students alone in the shop with machines that are very dangerous and could cause massive injuries if not used safely. He leaves students alone in the shop with machines that cost several tens of thousands of dollars. \nI could've had a serious accident today with nobody to even know I was hurt because he left for the other room without notifying me and I pressed the wrong button on a lathe at 300RPM. \nI am considering reporting him to the principal (which would likely put his job on the line because he's endangering lots of people and risking breaking expensive machinery) because I feel extremely unsafe working in the shop. \nAm I overreacting? Am I the one who's in the wrong? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tubBnsGRA1DNkTm0Jzx9DIJHZEkekflT", "post_id": "9zq9jp", "action": {"description": "not wanting to participate in my families religious practices", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to participate in my families religious practices?", "text": "I'm a 21 year old male. I was raised in a catholic house and attended a catholic school. When I was younger my parents were fairly devout but not necessarily overbearing about religion. We'd say grace at meals and attend church every sunday. As I've grown up and learned about religion I've realized its not something I wish to participate in. I did go through an obnoxious atheist phase in my mid teens but now I'd say I am more agnostic than atheist. Christmas is coming up and my parents are always wanting to go to multiple masses throughout the holidays. They do not really attend mass on weekends anymore and I personally believe they are so firm about attending christmas mass because they feel guilty and know their parents would want them to be there even though they are now deceased. The past few years I've shared how I do not want to attend mass as I don't support Catholicism and it usually ends in a large fight, ruining the day and me caving and attending mass just to appease my parents. This year, I want to put my foot down and not go. I am not telling them not to attend mass but I in good conscience just can't support an institution who fosters and protects pedophiles. Also I have a very close family member who is part of the LGBT community and again do not wish to support something that says my family member will burn in hell for his sexual preference. AITA for sticking to my morals that i feel very strongly about even if it causes conflict during the holidays or should I swallow my pride and attend for the sake of the greater good? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "skwXGxRCJXnDPBEryng4o5hR0nZaly31", "post_id": "9tbqyt", "action": {"description": "not keeping my own room clean although I always clean up after myself in shared spaces", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not keeping my own room clean although I always clean up after myself in shared spaces?", "text": "My roommate gives me crap about how messy my room can get during my work week. I work 13-14 hour days 5/7 days of the week so when I get home I just shower then sleep or browse the internet for an hour and then sleep. Doing this results in my clothes piling up on the floor on my room and general trash like empty cups from tea places that I go to or a take out bag from my work.\n\nMy roommate has commented multiple times that my room is a mess and I need to clean it up. We were friends that ended up needing a place to live in a similar area and we aren't that bad in terms of housemates. I always clean up after myself after using the kitchen, restroom, or living room since that's what I believe is right but when it comes to my own room I feel like 5 shirts on the floor that get's cleaned up on Monday doesn't matter much.\n\nAITA for not really caring about clothes being strewn about my own room?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mujg3meiXFLvXCRckYYzmSFi5tTYG8Ih", "post_id": "alur4f", "action": {"description": "not supporting my mother", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not supporting my mother?", "text": "Hey so, made this account ages ago as a sort of throw-away for lurking and just subbing. I saw this thread and sort of had something I needed to get out. Kinda a long post so here we go.\n\n​\n\nSo there's sort of a lot of background to get through, I guess, for it to make a little more sense. My mum is a single-mother. Dad walked out when I was young, the typical story.  Basically, in my hometown, the only members of my family are me, my mum (who I'll call M) and my step-grandad (I'll label G here.) M's been obsessively protective of me throughout my entire life -- she basically cut herself off from anyone who wasn't me, and frequently told me things like how she doesn't \"**need any friends**\" because she \"**has me**\" and how I'm all she needed. I'm entirely aware of how unhealthy that is, don't worry. Throughout most of my teen years I frequently encouraged her to get out more and form actual connections that weren't me or her family.\n\n​\n\nSo, I eventually (clearly not what M wanted) moved three hours out of my hometown to go to university, and well, she took it with a mixed bag. But I thought she was coping well. Then recently, on call with her, she mentions how she's found a potential new job; and it's a job she's really been wanting to get for a while now. At first I'm happy for her -- but then she mentions it's way outside of my hometown. Immediately, my thoughts go to *G*\\- he has literally no one else in the town. The rest of our family don't bother contacting him (since he's only a step-relation, ties were cut after my Grandma died) and he's at that life stage where a lot of his friends are gone. M's about the only person he has left that still visits outside of nurses and such.  He's provided for and helped us for so long, the thought of him ending up alone is just, well, awful for me. He's well into late 80s, and his health isn't exactly well. My worry is if something happens and he just has no one around him to help. Or even anyone to talk to.\n\n​\n\nM seemed surprised, and I think that she'd forgotten to even consider him, but she got angry at me for not supporting her after so long of telling her she needed to get out more and be ambitious. She pointed out that, well, she's not his caretaker or anything, so she doesn't have to stay and look after him. She also rightly brought up that *I* left without much debate about leaving him, so it's hypocritical of me. I'm less sure of that since well... I left thinking that she'd be there. Getting to the point, we got in a massive argument over it, where I brought up that she wasn't really considering anyone other than herself and that she had other things to consider before making a big move like that.  \n\nThis is without mentioning that said job would also be way closer to where my Uni is, so she'd effectively be moving to me. This didn't slip my attention either.\n\nWe fought, we called each other selfish, it was a bit of a yelling match over the phone and we haven't spoken a lot since. She did, however, tell the rest of the family who've contacted me trying to explain her side. \n\nThis includes G, who says that he just wants M to be happy. Which is what I expected from him, really. But it doesn't make me any less worried about him being left behind in his last years.\n\n​\n\nAnd now I'm just worrying -- because I'm starting to see it from her point of view. For years I've gone on to her about pursuing what she wants to do, but when she turns around and says she's going to, I've essentially said \"no not like that\". I just really don't like the idea of my grandad being alone but I'm beginning to think telling my mum that I didn't approve of what she wants to do might have been the wrong move. She clearly felt really passionate about this job opportunity, and she was excited to tell me. And I just shut her down because I didn't really think about how much she'd wanted this. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "HMN5bZiU5QOWZMhTMoKb59oIpY0gV4nD", "post_id": "aplcmh", "action": {"description": "asking my best friend to split the referral points she gets from me for signing up for a cc", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for asking my Best Friend to split the referral points she gets from me for signing up for a CC?", "text": "My bestFriend and I were figuring out which CC was\u00a0the best one based on\u00a0purchases we were going to make this year.\n\nShe ended up signing up earlier this month for the CC. I mentioned to her that I was not ready since I had to wait to make sure I can spend the minimum requirements to get the welcome offer points.\n\nSince some things changed over the weekend I can now spend enough to get the points on the welcome offer.\n\nShe mentioned that she can refer me because she will get 10k points which is == $100 dollars.\u00a0\n\nI asked her since she was referring me could we split the points 50/50 or that she could take me out to dinner a couple (2x).\u00a0\n\nShe\u2019s like no, those are my money/points and I don\u2019t want to share them with you. I told her it is only fair since without me she would not be getting any points.\n\nAITA for asking for some part of the points that she will receiving for referring me?\u00a0", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "oqejW9HuizGS7zGFvrkKSfGCjLTVnTQu", "post_id": "aagp2a", "action": {"description": "demanding a refund", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for demanding a refund?", "text": "few months back I took a vacation to Japan and mostly lived in Airbnbs. This particular hostel I stayed at was in Kyoto and I reserved a small room for 4 nights. Everything was fine until the 4th night when I found a cockroach near my bed. I have a really bad phobia of insects in general(particularly roaches), and it crawled under my bed. I contacted staff members through the app and was generally being difficult: asking them to come deal with it, to pack my luggage up for me as it was right next to the bed and threatening to leave a bad review. They were unable to do anything, giving me excuses about the shop and stores selling roach bait being closed( literally just hit 9 pm). The staff member also accused me of leaving open food around ,telling me to just go if \"I do not like here\" and promising to back the fee for tonight. After an hour or two of literally just staring at my luggage from meters away I quickly packed my stuff up, stored my luggage at the reception and left. I slept at a Manga cafe and returned in the morning to get my luggage. When I asked for a refund for my 4th night two days later ( they still haven't refunded me) they typed in broken English telling me to be a man and to not still think like a kid. The fee came through later. I know roaches are common in Japan especially in the summer, but I don't think what i did was wrong. I didn't even leave a bad review or cause a scene considering that the hostel was attached to a restaurant managed by the same company(customers were eating there when this happened). AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "UNHmfHCdt7v6y26pCCanYpmVkMyctNzA", "post_id": "a58suv", "action": {"description": "kicking this dude out of my discord server", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for kicking this dude out of my discord server?", "text": "so i have a relatively small discord server. it\u2019s not really an official fandom server or anything like that, it\u2019s just for me and my friends. recently it\u2019s been a little dead, and no one has talked in the general chat since like, november 27th. this guy in my server who i knew from another server was in it, but he only came into the chat to complain. like, he didn\u2019t start any conversations, he just complained about it being dead, and said the server should \u201ccommit fucking scooter ankle,\u201d etc. so, i thought if he was only gonna complain, i was just gonna kick him. but people think i\u2019m being a dick for kicking him since i should be focused on making the chat more active. it\u2019s literally the equivalent of a teenager\u2019s imessage group chat so i didn\u2019t bother. am i the asshole?\n\nTL;DR: i have a small server. guy only comes in to complain about it being dead. i kick the guy. people call me a dick. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "z7ihlJhJ2N5RGid1SSi1h8MMWs1Thm8e", "post_id": "9tf83n", "action": {"description": "getting upset with my so when she cuddles with her gay friend", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA For getting upset with my SO when she cuddles with her gay friend?", "text": "Some background.  I'm a straight guy, she's a straight girl.  She's really close with a guy who used to be bi, but is now \"strictly gay.\"  I just find it weird and a little creepy that she will cuddle with this guy.  I don't know if I'm being irrational and should just let it be or if I being a little upset is normal.  She says she's not attracted to him; I'm not scared of him trying to take her from me or anything.  I hope I don't come off as homophobic, I just think it's weird for her to cuddle/sleep in the same bed with another dude, regardless his orientation.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qOzU8wIoxBvJRjHFU7XeP45A1BzzmJEa", "post_id": "a74j65", "action": {"description": "saying that illegal acts should be punished", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for saying that illegal acts should be punished?", "text": "I got into an argument on the libertarian subreddit, and I'm really confused why my comments got so negative reception.  \n\n\nThe post was a comic about weed use, and how smoking a joint can ruin your life, because of the unjust laws. I found the comic quite nice. It made a point I agreed with. I support legalisation of weed 100%. \n\n​\n\nHowever, I think that people who smoke weed, while knowing it's illegal, should not be surprised, and angry when they get punished for it, because they consciously decided to break the law. I argued, that even if the ban on drugs is completely stupid, they can't just go against the law, and then complain, how unjust everyting is. I don't want to smoke weed, but I like occasionally drinking alcohol, so to relate to the situation, I imagined that alcohol is banned, just like weed. I argued, that while I'd be just as outraged as them, I could hold myself back, because not breaking the law comes natural to me. (Just as a side note because I didn't include this in the argument: I have a pretty rebellious nature, and I like complaining about unjust things, but after several arguments, and fights with my parents, I learned, that complaining doesn't get me anywhere, it won't change the law, and it doesn't oblige me to break the law)\n\n​\n\nI don't want to seem like an ass, but I didn't really understand the arguments of the other side. They rephrased my sentences, replacing words, and asking questions. It didn't give me anything to think about, I could only repeat what I said in my first comment. They compared my views on weed smokers to people protesting against authoritian governments, and german people trying to shelter jews from nazis. I want to be respectful, and consider all sides, but I honestly don't know how thos relate to what I said \n\n​\n\nThe full argument can be read in my comment history. I don't want validation, I'm not mad at all, I'm genuienly confused, because I don't know what I did wrong.\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eu01n60ngRXPV8Xj2e6KGq0psniy4pgM", "post_id": "a2j69o", "action": {"description": "getting upset over paying 2x my bill", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting upset over paying 2x my bill?", "text": "I'm not sure if this qualifies as a dick move. It really caught me off guard.\n\nWas getting brunch with the roomies and some of their friends. I get a $15 meal, they all get their own stuff with bloody maries.\n\nThe bill comes, we all hand over our cards, I get mine back to see it's almost $30, 2x as much as what I paid for. I speak up. Apparently the table decided to split the bill 5 ways. I reiterate my bill is twice what I paid. They say I should have said something when the bill came, even though I didn't hear this conversation. I push the issue a little more but no one is budging, so I let it drop, thinking maybe I'm overreacting.\n\nUsually these guys are cool but I feel like I was just told to fuck off for no reason. For some reason I'm pretty upset about it, but I feel like maybe I shouldn't be? I don't know, it came out of nowhere. Honestly wondering if I'm overreacting or not, because I am admittedly under a lot of stress right now. I'm having money troubles so it's not like $15 is just pennies to me, but I don't like getting petty over money.\n\nWhat do you guys say?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cmn4REu0mbVXfp6e2vH0AnxSdMvH8F1T", "post_id": "b9wr6e", "action": {"description": "saving porn on my phone", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for saving porn on my phone?", "text": "Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost a year. Our anniversary is this Sunday. A couple months ago I was home alone and as many people do, I got a little in the mood and decided to watch porn and get it over with. I was looking at pictures and they were hot to me and I figured maybe I wouldn't be able to find this again, So I saved some pictures. Once I finished my business, I realized that it was dumb of me to keep then on my phone, so I deleted them. I completely forgot that I had the Google Photos app, which backs up ALL of the pictures on my phone. I just deleted the pictures from my gallery, not Google Photos.\n\nFast forward to yesterday. \n\nI went to the bathroom and left my girlfriend alone with my phone. When I came back she was visibly upset. She said went on my Google photos to find pictures of us. And she told me she saw something she didnt like. I didnt know what she was talking about until I unlocked my phone. Right there, waiting for me were the pictures I saved months ago, and forgot that they were still backed up onto Google photos. \n\nShe said that she can't trust me anymore and I've apologized A LOT. I told her it wont happen again, but I didnt tell her that I feel like shes over reacting. I dont know who the girl in the pictures is and I will never even be able to talk to her. \n\nSo please help me out, reddit. AITA?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ago6oGYhRsg03nsQjcJBnpXIKMnN5AZI", "post_id": "a6uh34", "action": {"description": "whoring it up now that I'm single", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for whoring it up now that I'm single?", "text": "I'm a 39 and recently single. I've done a little whoring in the past but never really \"sowed my wild oats,\" so I figured that now is as good of a time as any. Plus, I'm planning on spending some time in Costa Rica, where prostitution is legal. \n\nDoes this make me an asshole?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MUPq2zaTcL8iOMazjFdLiXHvOIg5sHti", "post_id": "9vco1p", "action": {"description": "being short with my neighbor", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being short with my neighbor?", "text": "A few weeks ago, I was woken up when my next door neighbor arrived home, bumping very loud club-style music. It was 4am on a Wednesday but I didn\u2019t act immediately because I figured it\u2019d only be a moment before she turned off her car and went inside. About 10 minutes later, it became apparent that she was just hanging out in her car. I tried to put a pillow over my head, but the bass was up so high that even if the sound was dulled, I could feel the beat. A few more minutes pass until I sent her a text message.\n\n\n\nMe: \u201cDo you have any control over the music outside, or is that someone else?\u201d\n\n\nHer: \u201cSorry, that\u2019s me. Turned it off.\u201d\n\n\nMe: \u201cGirl.. it\u2019s 4am on a Wednesday\u201d\n\n\nHer: \u201cI know. I had a friend call me to take them home after getting plastered.\u201d\n\nHer: \u201cI\u2019m sorry I woke you. I\u2019ll be quiet. Go back to sleep.\u201d\n\n\nMy boyfriend thought I was super rude. I was just incredulous at her seeming lack of self awareness (this wasn\u2019t the first time this happened).\n\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MmurnOiQAR8ErXiOgMisfvRsPndy4zp6", "post_id": "ass55i", "action": {"description": "telling my partner there is 28 days in February", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my partner there is 28 days In February", "text": "I(30F) tell my partner(22f) that this month rent is due a little earlier because February is short. She says \u201cyou act like I\u2019m supposed to know these things\u201d. I said \u201cyou\u2019re 22, how do you not know February is a shortened month?\u201d\nShe starts crying and I apologize...but damn? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "szW069H45Qsd7baWmVw48RDCj4WCuFUS", "post_id": "a0at31", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be an autistic girl's friend", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to be an autistic girl's friend?", "text": "To give some background info, I(13F) used to be friends with a mildy(?) autistic girl(13F) in school, but told her I didn't want to be friends because she kept bothering me.\n\nShe's annoying, really annoying. She would follow me and try to sit next to me at lunch, and when I'd walk away she'd start following me. Once I told her I wanted to go with *only* my friend to the school library (not to be rude, I just wanted to study with him) when she saw my friend she asked him \"wanna go with the library with us?\". There have been multiple instances of me being annoyed by her. In fact, when I told her I didn't want to be her friend she got all upset and called me a bitch.\n\nShe only has one friend who she barely sees (my friend), only sometimes during lunch in school. A lot of people gossip about her and call her autistic, and I feel like I'm being an asshole for trying to ignore her while she constantly tries to talk to me or follow me, she's in almost all my classes. She barely puts effort into school, once I had to come over and she told me she doesn't do her homework, she does it in lunch or during class, and almost made me fail a project once (we had a group project and I ended up with her + other kid)\n\nAITA here for refusing to be friends with this autistic girl?\n\ntl;dr: Autistic girl is bothering me and is being kind of rude, I don't want to be her friend but feel bad because everyone makes fun of her. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ndGNsJGfb7cPOBiODYfU4ZK29QfxdeXI", "post_id": "b54jfz", "action": {"description": "viewing my relationship differently after he disclosed his past bisexual experiences", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for viewing my relationship differently after he disclosed his past bisexual experiences?", "text": "My boyfriend and I were talking about past experiences and he opened up about a couple of times he had slept with a man.  I was pretty shocked, I would have never guessed.  He\u2019s never mentioned being attracted to men.  I was supportive and thanked him for being open with me about it.  For some reason it\u2019s changed how I feel about him though.  I really can\u2019t put my finger on what exactly about it that\u2019s troubling me, but I do feel less comfortable in the relationship now.  I don\u2019t have any prejudices against lgbt people, some of my best friends are part of that community.  I don\u2019t know how or even if I should voice any of this to him.  I care about him a lot, but now it just feels like there\u2019s this whole new dimension to him and I don\u2019t know him like I thought I did.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CY6BDjjtaiSwmjwAjzt7UZCtpCHyMH7F", "post_id": "awmxab", "action": {"description": "basically ruining my parents' marriage", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for basically ruining my parents' marriage?", "text": "This happened a month ago.\n\nMy parents are both extremely religious, and when I told them I'm an atheist, they almost disowned me. My dad won't talk to me anymore, but my mom asked questions about why I didn't believe in god on a daily basis. I told my mom that if she wanted to truly understand why, I have a few books that she can read (like The God Delusion, etc).\n\nMy mom read them all and started to doubt religion. She told my dad this, and they fought. Now my mom is also an atheist, but my parents are barely talking to each other anymore. Both of them are considering a divorce.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RYiFwACTPR76nWpvJ9zFvd8PXrbZDuLu", "post_id": "aut3ui", "action": {"description": "telling my girlfriend, \"just because we're dating doesn't mean I dont find other girls attractive\"", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA For telling my girlfriend, \"just because we're dating doesn't mean i dont find other girls attractive\"", "text": "I said this when we first started dating. I thought of it as a throwaway comment really. My intention wasn't to say i found other people MORE attractive than her but thats what she took from it.\n\nI had no idea all attractive people fell off the face of the earth as soon as you enter into a relationship. Am i the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lJI1N17MRENtiq7mE9iQv45giY0vDigC", "post_id": "ac19fh", "action": {"description": "not giving my coworker gas money for a 3 hour trip", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I didn\u2019t give my coworker gas money for a 3 hour trip?", "text": "Okay so... the title already sounds like I\u2019m TA but if you keep reading it might put some things in perspective. \n\nNext week we have a business trip that\u2019s about 3 hours away... cool. My coworker is driving and I said I\u2019d tag along with her. She wants to drive. I can\u2019t remember if she asked me or I asked her but the point is I\u2019ll be in her car to and from this business trip. Since its business, she can get reimbursed for the mileage (a bit more than 50 cents a mile) which is a rate that includes gas.\n\nSince our employer is paying for the mileage I feel like I shouldn\u2019t have to give her gas money. Is this wrong on my part? WIBTA if I didn\u2019t offer her anything? Granted she hasn\u2019t asked but I usually offer gas money for trips even if they don\u2019t, but I don\u2019t feel like it\u2019s necessary in this case. \n\nI want this to be known I don\u2019t want to drive but I am perfectly capable of doing so, and there is also company provided transportation to get to the location. But we\u2019d have to Uber everywhere for the two days that we are down there, which would also be reimbursed.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "B0nHk0K85iR2SiW0o6MuFMZlIH4J5254", "post_id": "atsvqk", "action": {"description": "hating my friend's s/o", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for hating my friend's S/O?", "text": "I love my friend. She is insightful, confident, encouraging, intelligent, and just overall a person I enjoy having in my life. Her boyfriend not so much. \n\nI met the couple through my boyfriend and have known them for about a year now. The boyfriend is loud (like he is literally constantly yelling), overbearing, and narcissistic.\n\nHe and my friend have had a long and as far as I can tell healthy relationship. They make each other laugh and have supported one another through hardship. I don't want to be unsupportive, because I do think they are good for each other. But at the same time I personally can't stand to be around this guy. \n\nAITA for wanting to stay friends with her and not spend time with him?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Y1EG3nSp7yLWkA6lDq6JRuQUNbFxVh8G", "post_id": "ano5uu", "action": {"description": "forcing my family to choose between my mother and I", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I forced my family to choose between my mother and I?", "text": "FTP and on mobile (Sorry!). TL;DR included below.\n\n\nContext:\n\nI was emotionally abused by my mother thought my childhood (especially teenage years), i.e. neglect, control, invalidation, shaming and outright bullying. The result of which is that I have several mental disorders, however, I was looked after materially and financially. I'm no longer on speaking terms with my mother after she kicked me out of the house (presented as an impossible ultimatum so that she can tell family members that I chose to leave) and she refuses to acknowledge I exist apart from what she needs to do to keep up appearances. It's also important to mention that I get mad panic attacks when I know that I'll have to be in the same room as her and that no one in my family acknowledges that she was abusive towards me (but not everyone is fully informed of that fact).\n\n\nTL;DR my mother emotionally abused me, the result of which is that I have shitty mental health and I get panic attacks whenever I have to see her.\n\n\nWIBTA if I refused to be in the same place as her and had to force my small family (of 7) to choose who to spend events such as Christmas Eve with?\n\n\nApart from my parents, no one else in my family really knew what was happening and they did not contribute to the abuse, so I would be making them suffer for my mother's actions.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ttVQqOhFwp2jv2g3cMj7J5HEcuJWhM4x", "post_id": "azw0tq", "action": {"description": "constantly interrupting my roommates working if they decide to work in the kitchen", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for constantly interrupting my roommates working if they decide to work in the kitchen", "text": "I understand why they want to work in the kitchen, growing up I would also work in the kitchen so my parents could keep an eye on me and help me with homework while preparing food. However IMO the kitchen is an open area and anyone shouldn't feel burdened to make food without worrying about disrupting other people (especially if they are working). I've had enough and would like to eat when I'm hungry. I would also like to point out that this includes group meetings with their classmates (that of course have to meet at our house and do it in the kitchen while we have 2 other living rooms), and practicing presentations. The most annoying thing they do is 'business' calls over skype with the webcam and everything. I actually enjoy the idea of a 'professional' call for an interview or with a 'client' while I'm in the background banging pots and making oatmeal for breakfast in my PJs, I believe it would send the message across. Am I the asshole for wanting this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "I7wswwpdsujG2Fcbyw2xGkJlyc54BSsv", "post_id": "9uflde", "action": {"description": "being upset with my grandmother, who is choosing not to attend my wedding", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset with my grandmother, who is choosing not to attend my wedding?", "text": "Guys, I need to know my level of assholery on this. I feel terrible and want some advice on how to handle the situation because I love my grandmother dearly. \n\nA little background information, I grew up living close to my grandma and seeing her several times a month. Shes the grandparent I would consider myself closest to. Around a year ago I moved out of state for school and am now around 2000 miles away, so I only see her a few times a year. Even still, I feel like our relationship is strong. My grandma lives in a tiny town that no one in my family lives near anymore because everyones jobs took them elsewhere. Because of this, she says shes lonely. She is single and has two cats. She got her cats about a year ago after her old one passed away and these cats are her life. She says they have separation anxiety and she cant leave them alone or with anyone else for more than three hours. She said they will stop eating and may try hurting themselves if she is gone for too long. She stopped visiting my father/mother (3 hours drive away) around six months ago and says they have to come to her because she can't leave her cats. That being said, shes mentioned leaving for day trips with her brother and sister before and says her neighbor is a trusted cat sitter who the cats are comfortable with. She has no physical disabilities and is only 70. She retired two years ago and still drives herself/goes shopping weekly/goes out with friends and siblings every time I talk with her. \n\nMy fiance and I just booked our wedding venue and are opting to have it in a location that is in between all of our guests. Everyone is spread out so everyone will have to travel a bit. When I told my grandma about this, she said she was sorry to hear I wasnt getting married within an hour or two of her and she would be unable to come. She said at first it was because she had no money. My father and I both told her we would happily pay for her transport , lodging, food, everything. It's that important to me she is there. Then, she said it was because of the cats. I asked if her brother or sister could take care of them for 1-3 days (they live ten minutes away) or if her cat sitting neighbor could help out. She said it wouldn't be possible because their lives would be put at risk. In my opinion, shes putting her cats over her granddaughter. It hurts badly and I cant understand why she is being like this.\n\nI told my father I think she may have a mental illness and if he had any ideas for help, but he and the rest of my family laugh it off and just say shes \"a crazy cat lady\". \n\nIt seems to me like she will not be attending, even though she is physically capable,financial capable with family assistance, has no other obligations, just is irrationally worried for her cats. I love my own cat dearly and can understand wanting it to be safe and comfortable while I'm away, especially if it has anxiety, but it seems like my grandmother may be projecting her own feelings of anxiety onto her pets.\n\nHolidays are coming and I cant help feeling upset about my grandmother. I feel almost angry towards her for deciding not to attend. I feel like I cannot mention the wedding at holidays if she is near because she is upset with me for having it more than an hour and a half away.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "V3bgdBP6ngqixyWoh8DwQXIDQvLYaK7o", "post_id": "at09bm", "action": {"description": "taking and using my guitar on public transportation", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for taking and using my guitar on public transportation?", "text": "Every morning going to school I have an hour of public transport, as well as every evening.\nOn Thursdays there's a music club and I have to take my guitar, so in transports I have a school backpack and a guitar bag.\nDuring rush hour there are lots of people and the bags on my front and back basically double my footprint, when I want to go sit down at a seat I have to carry both with outstretched arms and avoid hitting people with it.\nAnd when I'm sitting I have both at my feet and it takes more space.\n\nWhen there are few people I sometimes play my guitar, it's an electric and when I play amped it's always on headphones, so it's pretty quiet but you can still hear it", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "akHcAozAqX627Gj4cXitTpQs2QQXwCtI", "post_id": "azry23", "action": {"description": "asking my mother to kick out my sister", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for asking my mother to kick out my sister", "text": "On mobile so apologies for the formatting already. \n\nThis all started back in 2015, the good old brother[19M] sister[22F] bathroom debacle. She may be one of the grossest, most unclean person I know and cannot keep something clean to save her life no matter how often asked by others. She is just drop dead lazy. I would have been 15 at the time of the first incident, she would have her stuff all over the bathroom (shared by both of us) and would constantly spill makeup and oral care products over the counter. I'd ask her to clean it up and she would say yes and continue to never do it. This would go back and forth continuing the same pattern over a couple weeks. Until one day I got my mother involved to ask her to clean in, in which she hesitantly obliged.\n\nThe clean bathroom would last for about a week and then back to the same old disgusting mess after that. Over the next 4 years it would get worse with the slop expanding to living spaces and the kitchen, never cleaning up after herself even when asked by my mother and father. \n\nThis brings us to tonight after I have absolutely had enough of it, me and my mother got into a yelling match going back and forth. My mother finally says that's she's done all she can and that my sister won't listen to her. I then told her that she should kick her out (she does not contribute to the household or pay rent at the age of 22) which ultimately made my mother cry. \n\nNow kids making your mother cry always makes you the asshole, however in this circumstance are my views unjust? Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "emjBmkE1c0Zd6W1z31Iauol763uLhAjp", "post_id": "aexlgl", "action": {"description": "being hesitant about moving 800+miles away from my home state with my ex husband who has a history of leaving me holding the bag", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being hesitant about moving 800+miles away from my home state with my ex husband who has a history of leaving me holding the bag?", "text": "We are not a couple but we share children. We jointly decided to make this move for economic reasons. The cost of living and \"living wage\" are not close to level in my home state so it's always a struggle. \n\nMoving would benefit all parties, most importantly, the quality of life of the children would increase when funds are not so tight. \n\nThe problem is. He has already proven that when he doesn't get his way or his feelings get hurt, he leaves. Thus the relationship ended in divorce. When this move happens, I'll be starting over AGAIN and will not be in a place to fully support the children and myself for at least a month and will have to rely on his support.\n\nHe thinks I'm being dramatic because we are arguing now and it's giving me flash backs of the time he moved out when I was visiting family states away and left our children with a babysitter and I've now expressed my concerns for the joint move. \n\nI don't think I'm being TA here. I've been hesitant to do this for 3 years and I've finally agreed but I also need to think through all the possible scenarios just in case we do this and he leaves prior to me being established enough to support the children and their needs. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YjyEY5Tke3SqwH1Y7mOuJXRr6lWPRQZu", "post_id": "ahjb5j", "action": null, "title": "AITA for how I responded to my friend?", "text": "So I've been having some wonky health stuff lately and it would be a while before I could see a doctor (I've since seen a doctor, all my tests came back fine, nothing seems to be wrong, and the thing I went in for has actually since resolved itself) so I asked a friend who I thought might know something because they have a health problem impacting the same region of the body I figured may be vaguely related or at least they'd be able to point in the right direction. I'm not comfortable explaining exactly what was up, but it's like if you're having issues with weird leg and foot pain that feels like pins and needles and you know your friend has diabetic neuropathy, even if you're not diabetic, you may ask them about neuropathy because neuropathy is nerve damage often in the hands and feet so it's vaguely related. So I asked my friend and they said my issue sounds like the beginnings of them being diagnosed with a certain condition, and I replied along the lines of \"Thank you for your help, but I hope it's not that\" because it's an incurable condition that from what I understand will continue to get worse and is also supposed to be pretty painful. My friend got super offended and started saying stuff like \"You don't want to be like me? Is it that bad to be like me you'd say that to my face?\"\n\nI don't get it. \n\nTo use another example but a real one this time, I have [trigeminal neuralgia](https://www.ninds.nih.gov/Disorders/Patient-Caregiver-Education/Fact-Sheets/Trigeminal-Neuralgia-Fact-Sheet). If a friend described symptoms to me that sounded like TN, I'd not at all be offended if they said they don't want to have TN like I do, even if they said it to my face. It's totally normal to not want to have TN. In fact, if you want to have TN, there's probably something very very wrong with you. I totally understand not wanting to be like me in that I have TN. I don't want to have it either. \n\nThis could just be an issue of two people thinking very differently, but if it's not meant with any sort of \"I think people with X condition are lesser or inherently have a worse quality of life without me knowing what it's like to have X,\" I don't see the issue of stating in a conversation where it's relevant that you hope whatever you're experiencing isn't X. It's different to out of the blue say to someone you know has cancer or something that you're glad you don't currently have cancer like they do, for example. But this was relevant to our conversation, relevant to something I was experiencing related to my health, and I think it wasn't said in a rude way. \n\nThey've not really spoken to me since the issue resolved and I got the news all my labs were fine.\n\nAITA for how I responded to my friend? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VJeIbrQJvLI7k9ijaZCeqy6HpoukT6tV", "post_id": "a83sy4", "action": {"description": "telling my coworker her newborn baby looked like a Cabbage Patch Kid", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for telling my coworker her newborn baby looked like a Cabbage Patch Kid?", "text": "This happened a while ago, but I was just reminded by another AITA. Anyway, I thought Cabbage Patch Kids were cute, and I said it sincerely as a compliment. My girlfriend at the time informed me that they in fact or not cute. I obviously never brought it up again, but I didn't have much small talk with my co-worker after that. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jNMqLMPskIg7uJGT5q0uFauOku1zTbKA", "post_id": "b4ndw3", "action": {"description": "being grossed out that my sister licks the ice cream lid", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being grossed out that my sister licks the ice cream lid?", "text": "I didn't realize until just now that for the last forever years she's been licking the lid of the icecream container after we eat it past the first layer because \"it isn't touching\" then when I got pissed and grossed out she says I'm \"overreacting.\"\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wzs2TohV2yLpfhC8qDXaUOuhNcnZoIFh", "post_id": "b24fsy", "action": {"description": "being annoyed at my friend for non-stop talking about his girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed at my friend for non-stop talking about his girlfriend", "text": "So this is a pretty simple situation, my friend just got a new girlfriend, and he will not stop talking about her (Like we would be in the middle of having a normal conversation, and he would start sending selfies of her, and obsessing over her) Even when we are talking in real life, he will kind of just mention her subtley. Most of the time I just respond with something along the lines of \"No one cares\" And hes been getting mad at me over that. So im just wondering what the people of reddit think of this situation.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "8LY6ILafpBUXtdUZmBuOUZ1UV4kgooRO", "post_id": "a6cg0p", "action": {"description": "breaking my freindship with a girl because she liked to burn snails and small creatures", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for breaking my freindship with a girl because she liked to burn snails and small creatures?", "text": "I was freinds with a girl and she posted an instagram story and in the picture  there was 2 or 3 burnt snails with she writing \"too bored so am just burning snails\"\n\nI Pmed her telling Her how she was mistreating animals and she responded with \n\n\"as if youve never done it before\"\n\nWhich surprised me cuz i dont think burning snails is acceptable behaviour\n\nSo i proceeded to tell her she was wrong to burn snails and she responded with \n\n\"its my hobby to burn stuff\"\n\nAnd when i told her she was being cruel she said\n\n\"ARE YOU DONE?    QUIT BLABBERING! \"\n\nAITA? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EbhUW4BGGVaFKqAeJIbvNXKeS2fTdJO1", "post_id": "ay0qqa", "action": {"description": "embracing my background with my girlfriend who disagrees with it", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for embracing my background with my girlfriend who disagrees with it", "text": "I wanna keep this short, but I promise I won't exclude any information\nSo today is Ash wednesday in the Catholic faith, and I got my ashes done on my forehead. They're quite prominent, but it doesn't bother me. I live in quite a sectarian city that I won't name. Catholics and Protestants have had a long hatred of eachother which has only started to recently cool a bit. I'm not a catholic in the religious sense, probably more agnostic, but I come from a catholic family. I should note, where I live, being a catholic generally equates to a nationalist while being a protestant generally equates to being a unionist. I am a non practicing catholic bordering on agnostic and am 100% nationalist. My girlfriend is not religious and is 100% unionist. \n\nSo after I got my ashes done we went out for the day. I didn't tell her I'd got them done so I thought it would be a bit of a shock, but not a big deal and we could laugh about it. When we met up, she immediatly told  me off for getting them, that I shouldn't have cause I'm not religious. She refused to walk next to me, and after saying I look like a retard she half-jokingly said that she didn't want to be seen with me and if she'd have known she'd have just went out with me tomorrow. she insisted I wash it off but I refused. While I might not be the most religious person, I am proud of where I come from, and I find that participating in religious events from my culture is a good way for me to express that. \n\nI told her if she was going to be like this then I'd simply get a bus home, she walked on past me. While I was waiting she texted me and essentially told me to come back, she was getting cold. When I got down to her, she was on the phone to her friend. Her friend was in the same place we were headed so she planned to meet up with her. This kinda hurt, it seemed like she wanted someone else to be around so she wasn't alone with me. Her friend is also protestant, and I didn't want to be made fun of by my SO and her friend. I made up a story about having a test to study for tomorrow so I had to go home. She gave me an annoyed \"bye\" and walked in the opposite direction. \n\nI don't see the problem, I like getting my ashes done, even it's not for explicitly religious reasons, it's just something I've always done. I don't agree with her political beliefs but I don't belittle her for it, I occasionally make light digs if it comes up in conversation and apologise if she thinks I went too far. \n\nThis happened about an hour ago and we haven't spoke since, normally, we'll both apologise in an argument, but I don't feel i should this time, I feel I've been treated wrongly for simply getting a black cross on my forehead\n\nSo Reddit, I know nobody wants to get involved in religious debates, but AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QCwGUFFUnD45WldgetljAfMCJMxzjfi1", "post_id": "b17ub6", "action": {"description": "telling a girl that her friends were talking smack about her", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling a girl that her friends were talking smack about her?", "text": "In one of the lectures I'm in, there's a trio of girls that sit in the seats ahead of me. This is a standard pattern. I don't know any of these girls.\n\nI'm not really listening to the conversation they're having before lecture. I'm doing my own thing and one of the three girls, let's call her A, was talking about how stressed she was for one of her classes and how lost she is. The other two didn't really say anything but they were like \"aw that sucks\" and stuff like that. \n\nOne of the other girls started to complain about something else and A was offering actual tips and resources and anything else that could prove useful in whatever situation. I believe it's another class but A seemed confident and was willing to help one of her friends.\n\nA then went to get up to go to the bathroom and fill her water bottle. In the time she was gone, I overheard the girls complain about how annoying she is and how \"she's such a dipshit to not get this class\" and stuff related to that. I decided to listen in because they were really going at it and one of them even joked about spitting in her lunch that was left on her desk. I have no idea what the context of any of this was, and A seemed nice.\n\nEventually, after about 7 minutes, A returned to her seat. As she was doing so, I pulled her aside and told her, maybe a bit loudly, that her friends were calling her a bitch and a dumbass and threatened to spit in her food-- and maybe they did, because I wasn't watching them for a minute and I did hear them giggle crudely at some point. A was really upset about it and left the lecture, and one of the two girls told me to mind my own business.\n\nI personally wasn't having it because I'd fucking hate it if two of my friends talked shit about me. I have no idea what happened next or will happen to their friendship.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "37welM3umCg4CIZJA3EuowyYvn1JXxV5", "post_id": "apnijn", "action": {"description": "not spending time with my brother when he's sick", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not spending time with my brother when he's sick?", "text": "A couple of weeks ago I came back home from college for the weekend. I found out, once I was home, that my younger brother had the stomach flu and was in peak sick mode during the weekend. Usually my brother and I love spending time with each other but I didn't want to risk getting sick so I didn't spend time with him that weekend.\n\nI refused to be in the same room with him. I wouldn't enter his room for any reason. I refused to have my meals at the same time with him, although I did let him eat first. Occasionally I would even sanitize things he may have touched such as doorknobs or mainly shared bathroom areas.\n\nI did try spending some time with him. We talked on the phone from separate rooms in the house and facetimed while watching the same movie from different areas in the house. I still missed him!\n\nNow my mother said that I was being a jerk and, I'll even admit that I may have gone, over the top in making sure I didn't get sick. I did have a test in the following week that I did not want to be sick for especially since you can't make them up. I was watching out for myself.\n\nSo, let me know, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JNn3TzgdzLxj1PbG37FloRoxVTG5Gfej", "post_id": "aqh353", "action": {"description": "stating my opinions to my mother", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for stating my opinions to my mother?", "text": "I don't really know how to word the title but it's basically accurate. My mother recently receieved a diagnosis of pancreatic cancer. She is a worrier/planner so she's making lists and plans and setting up appointments to sort out her financials.\n\nI told her when she was diagnosed that whatever she wanted to do is fine. Anything she wants me to do, IDC. This part of our lives is about her. I would like to minimize her burden.\n\nOkay but anyway, back to the question. Mom is talking about life insurance and she told me she wanted me to be executor of the estate. Obviously I said ok and we talked about how she'd want things divided. The next day, she tells me her husband offered to be executor so there would be no tension between my sister and me. And before I could I stop myself, I told her I didn't trust him and that he's manipulated her/others before. (I dunno if their marriage is important context but she and I live separately from her husband because he cheated, she left, but they've been \"dating\" and half-living together for the last 2 years. She left him about 4 years ago I think.)\n\nShe obviously doesn't feel the same way about her husband that I do and I've been thinking about that conversation since yesterday morning. I don't want to push her into doing things (I have done this in the past) but at the same time, I do want her to consider all opinions before making decisions. But then on the other hand, I don't want to burden her with doubts about her marriage while she's dealing with her medical issues.\n\nI have a feeling this topic will come up more and more often. Am I an asshole if I keep sharing my honest opinions with her? Or should I just shut up and support her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZPMBArRQPoiJjJy4OlUGMInzGNbKX3Aa", "post_id": "aa1p65", "action": {"description": "sleeping at my guy friend's house even though my boyfriend doesn't want me to", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for sleeping at my guy friend's house even though my boyfriend doesn't want me to?", "text": "My (21f) boyfriend (21m) and I have been dating for roughly a year with a 5 month break in the middle. \nI messaged him last night to say that i'm having a sleepover with my male friend (let's call him B).\nBoyfriend is very upset. \nI've known B for twice as long as I've known my boyfriend and he's practically family. \nI've slept over with B regularly over the past year. Boyfriend has never complained before and nothing has ever happened between me and B. \n\nI'm also a bit suspicious of boyfriend because I found out recently he was lying to me about how he lost his job. He also talks about how his friend and her husband keep trying to sleep with him (he stays at their place occasionally). So I feel like he has no place telling me where I can and cannot stay overnight. \nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "bPWTZRiR6GF58mNt1LJHuTInuUDuTwcN", "post_id": "b83dtq", "action": {"description": "not telling my mom that I'm pregnant", "pronormative_score": 75, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not telling my mom that I'm pregnant?", "text": "I'm about 37 weeks pregnant but I still haven't told any of my biological family. We aren't on speaking terms except for the very rare occasional \"are you alive\" text that somehow turns into them screaming at me for leaving. I never contact them - they reach out to me.\n\nAbout 2 years ago, I ran away from home (I was 20 at that time) because my family was incredibly controlling and mentally abusive. My mother is the dictionary definition of a narcissistic parent and my grandfather runs the family like a cult. They are extremely religious and push their values on anyone they meet to a crazy extent. They controlled every aspect of my life for the twenty years that I lived in my mother's house. I'm talking reading the miles on my car to make sure I was only travelling to school and back, controlling my bank account to make sure I could only spend on gas, and constantly invading my phone messages, emails, and other privacy to confront me about what friends would say, what I would say, etc. I left, found a stable job and a home, fell in love with someone who makes me genuinely happy, and here I am pregnant with his child.\n\nMy boyfriend hasn't pressured me to tell them, but for some reason I feel that I should. I know I'm terrified of telling them due to how I know they'll react. I guess I feel guilty though for hiding it, but is it hiding if we haven't talked for months? I know they'll say that I hid it, that I lied about it by not bringing it up the last time they decided to harrass me about my decision, that I'm all kinds of nasty things for being unmarried. I don't know if I can honestly handle that. And then what about my baby? I wonder if she will hate me later for my half of the family not knowing of her existence or her not getting the choice to meet them. I'm scared of how they would treat her if given the opportunity. I don't want them to face the same treatment I got growing up.\n\nThis has been sitting on my mind, so I figured I'd ask. It feels wrong not telling them, but I'm honestly afraid to tell. AITA if I just never tell them?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 75, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 75, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "J8pdbCNyBkiDoMZdrXfwQmDjyZ7Ezmja", "post_id": "au3vyi", "action": {"description": "telling a guy/friend that I don't want a relationship the same night we first kissed", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling a guy/friend that I don\u2019t want a relationship the same night we first kissed?", "text": "He likes me, I like him, we both know it. \nWe were hanging out at a friends house and we\u2019re left alone, everything was good until I started dropping hints that I wanted to kiss him, he got the hits very quickly and kissed me and I kissed him back. We stayed the rest of the day together, we gave each other a little kiss from time to time. \nWhen we both left and went home, I thought about things and having an actual relationship with him... turns out I\u2019m not really ready for one, my mental health is not good; so I text him a paragraph saying how sorry I was and that I can\u2019t have a relationship at the moment, that I can\u2019t take it and I explained to him why, he said he understood and was willing to wait for me to be ready but he tends to bottle up his emotions so idk if I hurt him or not.\nWas I the asshole for telling him on the very same day we kissed? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "C4ustItAUff7VJRX5f8oIjlA79kh42Rq", "post_id": "aszjv4", "action": {"description": "saying 'good riddance' when I found out my ex-best friend is drinking themselves to death", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for saying 'good riddance' when I found out my ex-best friend is drinking themselves to death?", "text": "In high school I had a friend that we'll call Alice. At the start, we were somewhat of an item, but I said something stupid and we had a minor falling out.\n\n​\n\nMonths pass and we are on great terms again. She got a boyfriend we'll call Chad, her dream lad. He was a hopeless romantic and super good to her at first. About a month later, Chad dumped her when she didn't say that she loved him. He started dating some chick the very next day that he had wanted (and probably been cheating with). This entire debacle sparked Alice's downward spiral into a deeper depression than she had been in from bulimia (which I found out about later), and she called bawling because she was contemplating suicide.\n\n​\n\nOver time, Alice started to drift. She stopped responding to me - she was 'fine' and just 'busy'; her Snapchat story showed her at parties. She'd make plans, only to never show, and later I'd see that she had gone to some other thing. I tried to help her out on this for two years instead of just leaving.\n\n​\n\nShe joined the robotics team with me and some other friends. Another person on this team, Rachel, was an absolute nutcase. Hated me for calling her out on letting my friend sing soprano but not me. Supposedly, this incident was extreme enough to make Rachel contemplate suicide that night.\n\n​\n\nDuring a robotics meeting it came up about myself and the other captain's college choices. I had said that I was accepted to school in Florida and, without missing a beat, Rachel fires out \"Make sure you don't remake Parkland!\" days after the massacre. I stormed out and found out that Alice ended up comforting Rachel. She constantly referred to me as her best friend to everyone under the sun, but she never acted like it.\n\n​\n\nThe straw that broke the camel's back was in the middle of packing to move. My family had decided that they were also going to move, with me, 2 weeks before the date I was planning to leave for school, on top of me working full-time, and insulted me for 'not packing enough', when I packed half the house. One day I snapped from all the pressure and went into my room with a blade. Nobody was answering my frantic messages or pleas for help, except Alice. I called her about twenty minutes later, in tears, and begged for help. She laughed and hung up the phone.\n\n​\n\nThe other day, I'm talking to one of my robotics buddies. Talk turns to the roster. Alice quit. Turns out she's drinking, smoking, and bulimic again as a type-1 diabetic - essentially a death sentence. After thinking about it, all I could say was, \"good riddance\", in the hopes that she could never hurt someone again like she hurt me.\n\n​\n\nTL;DR - My 'best friend' from high school whose life I saved multiple times laughed at me when I called her - suicidal - and hung up to leave me to die. I found out that she is a smoking, bulimic, alcoholic diabetic, and said \"good riddance.\"\n\nReddit, Am I The Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "larmf4xuo443WvNsEfLXJgnHOnwSWtTQ", "post_id": "aovghg", "action": {"description": "not welcoming my sister's abusive boyfriend to my home", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not welcoming my sister's abusive boyfriend to my home?", "text": "So my sister, let's call her K (19), has been dating this young man, let's call him N (19), for almost 2 years now. They have been great friends since middle School, but he always wanted more from her. Even when she was in other relationships, although he never once acted on it or pressured her to leave her at-the-time boyfriends. I was always secretly rooting for him.\n\nTime jump to their senior year of highschool, she gets out of a terrible relationship, bounces around a couple guys, falls into a very deep depression and only continues to rely on \"boyfriends\" for emotional stability. N is by her side as the best supportive friend he can be. After a few rounds in hospitals and seeking mental care, they decide to become a couple. She is doing great, but obviously still has moments of emotional instability and depression.  In fall of her senior year she decides to move out of our parents' house because \"they are crazy and controlling\". She had just turned 18 and had convinced herself and her friends and friends' parents my parents were crazy and not allowing her to be an adult. They only had 2 rules, don't get drunk and don't smoke in the house. Other that those 2 things, she was free as a bird now that she was 18. After a lot of emotional trauma for the whole family, she moves in with N, now her boyfriend of 3 months.\n\nFast forward to about 6 months living with N and his mom and stepdad. We are seeing very serious signs of emotional abuse and she eventually tells us of physical abuse as well. Not only this, but her depression has been even more extreme and she has frequent panic attacks, almost all with N being the cause of  stress. After  6 months of us telling her we will do anything to get her out and basically telling her she needs to leave him and she can live with either parent or myself, she decides to finally do what she needs to be better. She moves out of his house, breaks up with him and moves in with me (I have my own house about an hour away). She does all of this over one weekend, after deciding it is what's best for her.\n\nFast forward to 1 month later, after sitting on my couch for 2 weeks without a job, my parents buying her a car, all new furniture for her room, she decided she needed to give N a second chance. K also now denied all accounts of any emotional or physical abuse from N. K texted my family in a group text and basically demanded we accept her choice and tell her we love her, or she won't talk to us or be in our lives anymore. And this is something she would follow through with as she has shut some of us out for months at a time before.\n\nNow, currently a month after K got back together with N, all of her stuff is still at my house, but she has been living with him and his mom and stepdad while she waits to find her own place. K did decide she shouldn't live with N anymore, but that they should still be in a relationship.  \n\nNow she is asking me to let N come with her to my house and hang out and help her pack to move back. So, am I the asshole for not wanting to have anything to do with N?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZagmDYEQY1WbRG071fIgUiOjNGFZlkJS", "post_id": "b69xv0", "action": {"description": "asking my homeroom teacher to talk to my mother about my grades", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for asking my homeroom teacher to talk to my mother about my grades?", "text": "Some background: my father put a lot of pressure on my education when I was younger and would basically claim that whenever I did well in school it was because of him, he isn't married to my mum, so I stopped contacting him. Last year my mum got a boyfriend who moved in with us even tho, he has a flat of his own and his daughter sleeps over pretty often too. Mum always said that I don't have to do well in school, but she wants me to be happy.\n\nA few weeks ago I got some bad grades, not terrible ones, but enough to notice. I'm mostly a good student, but I didn't have time to prepare for the lessons and had trouble with understanding some things in Maths.\n\nAfter seeing those my mother said that I should rethink my life and she doesn't want to hear any excuses from me. That stressed me out a lot, I'm afraid of being a disappointment. Later that week during a test I remembered the situation and couldn't focus on it anymore, so I did horribly.\n\nShe later messaged me (during a lesson) to talk about my grades and say she's worried. She also said that from her point of view it's \"a cry for help\" (I want to move out later this year and live with my girlfriend of 3 years, mother was fine with that). I told her how what she had said previously made me stressed and that I failed a test because of it. She replied that I should stop blaming her for my failings.\n\nI thought about the whole situation and asked my homeroom teacher to tell her that I'm doing perfectly fine, I'm pretty much the best in class and that it's okay to do badly sometimes. She didn't want to hear that from me, so I thought she would listen to the teacher.\n\nShe just came back from a parent-teacher conference and made sure to let me know how tired she was. She asked me, as if it were my fault, if I think it's okay for her to leave the house at 7:30 a.m. and come back at 8:30 p.m., she also asked me why I \"snitched\" on her (yes, she literally used this word) and why didn't I talk to her myself.\n\nSo AITA for not talking to her myself?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "v4GTIPDPYggCUfF5YXwia4ZmBcgC3BEa", "post_id": "akv7wl", "action": {"description": "refusing to apologize for yelling at my GF, even if that means she will break up with me as a result", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to apologize for yelling at my GF, even if that means she will break up with me as a result?", "text": "I want to give you guys a little idea about the context, so this post is probably going to be a little long. \n\n​\n\nMy gf (20f) and I (21m) have a LDR. This obviously brings some difficulties, as we only see eachother every three months or so. We're both in uni, but she has been struggling alot with motivation and anxiety. She doesn't enjoy the path she's going and as a result has been very down the last months. She wants to quit uni, but has absolutely no idea what to do instead. I have been helping her as much as I can, I think. I am always trying to give her advice, help her with motivation, be supportive when she is feeling down etc. But I am getting a little frustrated about the fact that she is not following any advice i give her! I have been helping her with her with options she could explore instead of uni, i've told her that it would be good to get a therapist to help her with her anxiety (as I know I just simply fix that for her) etc. The problem is that, instead of working towards a solution, or trying to find a passion, she decides to do nothing. I know it is a scary situation to not know what the hell you want to do with your life, but the problem is that she has been getting angry with me because supposedly i am not helping her \"enough\".\n\n​\n\nAn example is that would ask me: What should i do? Should I quit uni, should I continue? What would you do? My answer to this was simply: I would not continue with uni if you KNOW that it is not going to make you happy. \n\nShe then gets frustrated and tells me that I always give the same answer, and that she just wants me to tell her what to do! It's like she expects me to know exactly which career is going to make her happy? I really dont know either obviously. I told her that maybe you could go to the US for a couple months to study English, kinda like a gap year. But then she refuses to look into things like that. It's like she just expects to one day wake up and have found her passion. As you can understand this lethargy is making me slightly annoyed, because like I said, she refuses to actually take the advice that i give her, and then she gets mad at me for not helping her enough. Anyways, this was some background information. Now to the actual situation that I am dealing with now.\n\n​\n\nLast night we were on the phone and the same subject came up. I could tell by her voice that something was wrong, so I asked her what was up. She then said that she was just confused because she doesnt know what the fuck she wants to do with her life. She then (again) told me that I am not helping her enough. Of course this kinda struck a nerve with me, because i have been doing everything i can to help her. Ive been doing a lot of research for her, exploring different options etc. Anyways, i responded with: \"babe, but you haven't been doing any of the things i told you! You haven't told your parents you want to go to a psychologist, you haven't been going to the gym, you haven't done the research to go to america, you havent read any books, you havent listened to any audiobooks on anxiety, you havent meditated, etc. I have given you so many options on how to feel better, but youre just not listening to me!\"  She then gets mad at me that i always give the same answer, and that she just wants me to help her.. So i try (for the millionth time) to give her my opinion on the matter, and i try to explain to her what i would do in her shoes. But as i try to talk, she just keeps interrupting me about everything i say. She doesn't let me talk at all and just keeps rambling on about how I don't care about her, how I don't help her enough etc. I keep asking her: can you stop interrupting me please? This literally goes on for 15 minutes, i just cant say 3 words withour her interrupting me, and telling me that im not supporitve enough. So now I am getting really frustrated, because i am trying to HELP her, but instead of listening to what i have to say she decides to interrupt me and ramble on about how i DONT help her. So yea, at this point im getting very very annoyed and angry, but i try to stay calm because we've had some prior issues about me \"yelling at her\" and she says that i have anger issues, even though i have never called her any bad names other than maybe \"hypocrite\", i've never threatened her etc, but yea she stills believes i have anger issues because i tend to raise my voice in arguments when i get frustrated. \n\n​\n\nSo yea, back to the story. Gf and I are still on the phone, and i keep telling her: can i talk now? Are you done? Can i please talk without you interrupting me? So then i tell her that I am getting very frustrated that she doesn't let me finish my story, and that she really has to stop interrupting me. While i tell her this, she decides AGAIN to answer mid-sentence and i just get very angry and yell at her: Can you just SHUT UP AND STOP INTERRUPTING ME PLEASE! I admit I did yell this quite aggresively, but I was just so exasperated. After i yelled at her she tells me i broke the rule (of not yelling) and that she is done, that she cant be with someone that treats her so poorly, that i do not respect her, that no matter how many times she interrupts me i should NEVER disrespect her like that etc. I then tell her I did not treat her badly, and that she doesn't see her own flaws, and that I try everything to help her but that she just doesn't appreciate my help. I then hang up. She now demands that i apolize for my behavior, and that I promise her that I will get therapy to help me with my anger issues ( which i dont believe i have). So i refuse to apologize, and she wants to break up if i do not say sorry. So yea, thats where we are now. AITA for not apologizing?\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Maz4gaNQqFoMJoGdltHpRIjP7Uvlz8dw", "post_id": "ao0cw7", "action": {"description": "not enjoying my sister's singing", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not enjoying my sister's singing?", "text": "My sister (16) is very interested in musical theatre/acting. She enjoys singing very loudly around the house. I (18f) on the other hand am fairly quiet and like my peace.  \nI try to a supportive sister, but sometimes it just gets a bit much. Especially when im down for dinner and trying to eat. I end up not going down to eat and hang out with my family as much. Now, when I ask her (Nicely) to be quiet, i'm usually met with my mother/father telling me it's her passion and i should just pretty much deal with it. And my sister ends up being pretty rude to me.  \nNow a point she brings up which I think is actually quite valid is that for a while, I was talking quite late with my friends online. The only thing is I havent done this in a while, so while I do feel bad it's not like it's an ongoing issue, as well as my problem was mostly accidental, and I made sure to shut up when asked. But I can't help like feeling like a hypocrite whenever this is mentioned.  Am I an asshole in this situation?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EO0MenrJtDFeM3LxqHM7ogn42gDiHgos", "post_id": "b9ajjf", "action": {"description": "expecting more than half the pizza", "pronormative_score": 20, "contranormative_score": 28}, "title": "AITA for expecting more than half the pizza?", "text": "I'm going to order a pizza tomorrow. My wife doesn't really like me getting pizza because it's unhealthy, and it's expensive here in Japan. I get that, but it's a taste of my home country that I love, as she knows. I found a coupon and she gave me permission to buy it and bring it back for our dinner tomorrow. I'm going to order a large not because it's a good value but because I like eating a lot of pizza.\n\n​\n\nSounds great, right? But she says half of the pizza is mine, half is hers. I do not agree to this, but she expects it. I am taller and bigger than her. I eat more than her. I think 60% mine, 40% hers is a fair ratio given our respective bodies. I've brought this up before, but she has repeatedly demanded that she deserves half the pie, as we are supposed to be equals.\n\n​\n\nI order pizza about 4 times a year. I also take her to a nice sushi place 4 times a year, because I know that she really likes it. I order cheap plates off the kid's menu, because that's my taste in sushi. I encourage her to order the expensive plates with nice fish because I know she'll appreciate it.\n\n​\n\nShe still insists on half the pizza being hers. My plan as always is to let her eat her fill, which will surely be less than half of the pizza, then eat the remainder of her self-declared half until I myself am full and satisfied. She will have to eat natto for breakfast the next day instead of leftover pizza, and I don't plan to feel bad about it.\n\n​\n\nAm I the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 15, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 13, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 20, "WRONG": 28}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "akqpHEjSaUr7hOWRA4wDwGkem4GwgHhp", "post_id": "a9h2qa", "action": {"description": "being annoyed at my mum making me sick", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed at my mum making me sick?", "text": "Some background:\n\nI'm (20F) currently travelling with my mom (48F) to visit some family members for Christmas. We left home a while ago. Soon after we started travelling, she took a number of does of prescription drugs (not prescribed to her) because she thought they'd be \"good to take while travelling\". The drugs have messed up her body and she hasn't slept properly in weeks. As a result, she's gotten quite sick (presumably from a weakened immune system) . We don't a lot of money so I've typically had to sleep in the same bed while we travel. We've finally met up with our family members and now I'm sick too, I've spent my Christmas lying on the couch with a stomach ache, a sore throat and I'm losing my voice etc (same symptoms). \n\nAITA for being (at least a bit) annoyed at my mom for taking the drugs and presumably making me sick on Christmas? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "HfW39dPEga4lxOoCdiO82f39nuZeTrKV", "post_id": "asprlr", "action": {"description": "not letting my kids go on vacation with my ex because it's my time with them", "pronormative_score": 59, "contranormative_score": 3433}, "title": "AITA for not letting my kids go on vacation with my ex because it's my time with them.", "text": "So right now both of my kids (16 year old son and 9 year old daughter) and my ex are extremely mad at me because I won't give up my appointed time with them. My son wont even talk to me and my daughter is crying all the time. \n\n​\n\nA little backstory. Me and my ex divorced shortly after my daughter was born. I blame him for it and he blames me. I won't go into detail here. We ended up with a 50/50 custody agreement switching every other week. While this was 8 years ago we're still not on good terms. We rarely ever talk to each other outside of the kids and i'm perfectly fine with that. One thing we have agreed on since the beginning though is that we don't plan things on days that aren't ours. And unless it's extremely important we don't \"switch\" days or weeks. In the 8 years since we've been divorced I have never asked him to have the kids on a day that isn't mine and I've never given him one of my days even if he begged. \n\n​\n\nWell, last week my ex contacted me and told me the \"good\" news. His parents are hosting a week long family reunion in the summer at Disneyland and he want's to take the kids. Well, the problem is that it's on one of my weeks. He asked me to let the kids stay with him that week or to switch a week with me and I shot him down. It's my week with them and I get to spend it with them. I told him if it's so important to him to reschedule but he claims his parents can't do that and this is the only week that the whole family can go and he told me that I need to \"think of them\". I told him \"tough luck\" and hung up on him.\n\n​\n\nWell, this last Sunday when my ex dropped the kids off with me my son refused to talk to me at all and my daughter wouldn't even look at me. When I asked my ex what was wrong he refused to talk to me, only saying \"ask them\" in a snarky tone before leaving. When I asked my daughter what was wrong she burst into tears and said that i was \"not letting daddy take them to Disneyland\". Asking my son (who still refuses to talk to me) it turns out that my ex told them I was not letting them go to Disneyland with him. He's trying to paint me as the bad guy. I sat both of them down last night to talk to them and explain it's my week with them but they refused to listen to me. My daughter just cried and my son told me i'm only doing this to get back at my ex.\n\n​\n\nI'm not though. I think its unfair for him to do this when his parents scheduled it during my time with them. I demanded an apology from my ex and him to set things straight but he refuses, and his last text to me being \"can't tell them the truth cause they already know it\". \n\n​\n\nI'm so pissed right now. Am i the asshole because my ex scheduled something during MY time with MY kids? How is it my fault that i'm only using my right to spend time with them? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3346, "OTHER": 55, "EVERYBODY": 87, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 6}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 59, "WRONG": 3433}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "yZj0cOuYq5YdMbAEPo6j4svClTNNeBon", "post_id": "anvhru", "action": {"description": "laughing during Miss Bala in the theatre", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for laughing during Miss Bala in the theatre?", "text": "Not much detail needed here. I went to see Miss Bala because someone in our weekly movie watching list wanted to and me and one other guy like bad movies (we had heard it was really bad). I audibly laughed about 4 times throughout the last half of movie because it was *really* bad. \n\nI'm asking because it was a movie attempting to be serious and idk would you guys be pissed off if you were enjoying the movie and someone found it laughably bad?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rQ0TkxEKJSeE1m2S3ux24Z9YMVY9HQpu", "post_id": "a4sl74", "action": {"description": "not wanting to have sex with my GF while its her time of the month", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to have sex with my GF while its her time of the month?", "text": "My SO and I have been having an argument because I am uncomfortable with having sex with her while it is her time of the month. It's not that I'm scared about it or anything like that, but I have done it before, and I found it very uncomfortable. \n\nSo Reddit, am I the Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RwwzmBMGwDxuzKprZlGhx1WddLgnQS4v", "post_id": "b8fc3l", "action": {"description": "giving my son money without my wife's knowledge", "pronormative_score": 78, "contranormative_score": 33}, "title": "AITA for giving my son money without my wife's knowledge?", "text": "When my son started University it wasn't very far away from our house so me and my wife agreed to let our son to stay at our house while he's still in uni.\n\nBefore I start dotting down my story, let me tell you something... money is definitely not an obstacle in our household, we have way more than enough, but the disproportion of each family member's money is huge.\n\nFor example: last week my son went to a place to eat, spent roughly $7 and paid via his debit card. When he came back home, my wife had a go at him for spending $7 on a meal...\n\nI came back from work and she told me what happened... I said \"I will talk to him about it.\" but when I went to his room I just told him \"Don't worry about it.\"\n\nWhen I came back to the kitchen she told me \"Do you like my new perfume?\" I told her it was nice and all.. and when I asked her how much she paid for it, she said $160.. that was when I was displeased. I closed the kitchen door and said \"You just started boiling at [my son's name] for spending $7 on a meal whereas you spent $160 on your perfume, where's the fairness in that?\" she got upset and went to the bathroom.\n\nTwo weeks ago I started giving my son money without my wife's knowledge. My son isn't the type of person to spend it on drugs or some other toxins, in-fact he uses the money as a mature adult and entertains himself with food or other things every now and then.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 78, "EVERYBODY": 26, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 16}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 78, "WRONG": 33}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CF4b2IBcqWSuq1T4n2HViiXgimK9Cxah", "post_id": "b5hp9l", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my wife that we spent way too much time with her family friends on our honeymoon", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 28}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my wife that we spent way too much time with her family friends on our honeymoon?", "text": "Greetings from Belize where my week old marriage is already on the fucking rocks. Happy days yo! \n\nI will try to make this short while adding all relevant details and I also want to make this as equitable to my wife as it is to me and even though I feel she is wrong, I wouldn't be posting here unless I was self aware enough to admit some fault. \n\nI got married to my wife on March 9th. Her parents agreed that if we had a small and cheap ceremony they would pay for 100% of our honey moon and allow us to stay in their house (they plan on retiring there in a few years) for 3 weeks. I wasn't aware of this but one of the conditions of this was that my wife and I were supposed to stop in and say hello to multiple sets of their \"Belize friends.\" I think all told it's 5 different couples that we were supposed to make an appearance. As of yesterday, we were on couple 4 and while I was sort of annoyed that I wasn't made aware of this, couples 1 through 3 were nice people and the second set was these two hilarious gay dudes named Rod and Pete and Pete owns a helicopter who flew us all around to see the sites and that was awesome. \n\nCouple 4 was where shit hit the fan. They were much older, had obviously been fighting with each other and were super agitated. It was about 1000 degrees inside their house and they just sat and bitched the entire time about how their kids never call, how the husband's alcohol problem had flared up again, how the wife wanted to die because of her plantar fasciitis. We sat in these people's sweltering living room or almost 6 hours (that's not a joke) and we weren't offered so much as a drink and when I finally said I'd like some water, the kitchen was filthy as were the dishes and the husband was so shitty because I took a bottle of hot Dasani from under the sink. \n\nWhen we left,  I lost it with my wife. I told her that was one of the most miserable experiences of my life and those were two of the most miserable people I've ever met. She retaliated that those were two of her \"dearest friends\" and I was being super ungrateful to her parents who were paying for the trip. I told her that I wished her parents had made it clear that spending a full work day with American gothic on opiates was a condition of the honeymoon. She got so pissed at me that she called Rod and Pete to pick her up and I haven't seen her since yesterday evening. Her phone is either off or dead as my texts are not showing as delivered. I don't know how to get to their house even though its not that far so I'm just sort of hunkered down staring at my phone not sure what to do. \n\n\nAm I the asshole here? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 15, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 28}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "YvGOaw4vIYvYulnFEarHikO7IQltN66e", "post_id": "akq1ho", "action": {"description": "not inviting my father to my graduation ceremony", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA if I didn't invite my father to my graduation ceremony?", "text": "I'm a high school senior who is graduating in June. When I was in elementary school, my parents split after my mom found out he cheated. Since then, I don't see him often. I honestly can't remember the last time I saw him but it must've been some time in the first half of 2018. \n\nI'd say since the split our relationship has been very cold. It's hard to talk to him and we don't really contact each other. I'm civil and he's civil but it is very awkward. \n\nHe does give my siblings and I money when we need it for school. As a high school senior, I've been trying to apply for as many scholarships as I can so I don't have to rely on him to fund my post-secondary education but I'm starting to realize the likelihood of getting a full ride is very slim. \n\nMy mother and siblings do not like my father. This isn't something I can bring up to them without hearing a biased answer. My mother and siblings do plan on attending my graduation ceremony and I don't know if they would be upset if they bumped into my father at the ceremony. If I do invite my father, I would be giving them a heads up. I've mentioned in the past in casual conversation that I wasn't sure if I should invite him and they said ultimately it was up to me. \n\nWIBTA if I didn't invite my father to my graduation ceremony? \n\n  ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "nCe0DxM2MSFx0MEg2k3B7bsJU1mygbkV", "post_id": "aks7o3", "action": {"description": "being lazy", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for being lazy?", "text": "I was going to post this on /r/Depression but then I saw this sub, mayne its a good idea to post here. For backstory I'm a 18YO (M) depressed, anxious guy, I finished HS 1 year ago, and took a year off (basically spent 2018 doing absolutelly nothing) I never had a job, umfortunally depression got the best of me I guess. Anyway, yesterday my uncle came here to make dinner (paarents were on vacation, only me and my grandmother home) so, he is there doing whatever, and I'm here, playing on my 3DS, on an online match. Out of nowhere, he comes ate me and tells me to go buy some Ketchup, because he needs 'em. I tell him to wait, as I'm playing, he tells me to go at once and I ask for him to wait again. He then scream \"dude, I'm cooking hurry\" and I say \"okay, lemme just--\" he slaps me on the head. Oh boy, I lose it there, I punch in in the stomach and he starts yo get all angry, full of himself. He nearly broke my 3DS too. So, I decided to go at once (sorry to whoever was playing with me) and on the way I shout at him \"piece of shit\" he instantly comes at me with his fist closed, with a grin on his face and by there I'm ready to (try to) punch him too. If it werent for my gramma, we would have fought right there. Anyway ff, he's gone, he text me asking if I'm angry, tells me he was wrong for hitting me, but I was also wrong for not \"obbeying\".  He then tells me that I don't have a job, I don't help with anything and that I SHOULD do everything someone asks me, and that we live in a society and some shit like that. I send him a long text explaining that I can barelly leave my bed, and That I'm bordeline suicidal, and that I feel like a leech for my family, and that its hard to even do most things when I feel like that. he just says that he understands, says that he'll kill me if I kill myself, but that I still should do everything someone asks me. He also told me that Im lucky I have a home, and that I'm not abused by anyone etc..\nNow, I'm not gonna lie... I'm lazy as FUCK. Like really lazy. All I do is take out the trash and help my gramma as she cannot move very well. That is not to say that I'm ungratefull for what everyone offers me (home, food, internet), I never complain, and I rarelly spend money since I dont leave my house really. Also, I AM looking for a job, I'm just not lucky with that. Later on my grandma said that \"we were both wrong because he hit me  but I also didn't obey\". I got so pissed, I said \"Look  HE was wrong, he came to THE HOUSE WHERE I LIVE house and started giving orders to me, and then hit me. I appreciate that he was making dinner, but NOBODY ASKED HIM TO, it was his choice, I could have made something else instead, so while im gratefull, Ill not suck his dick because of that\". My mom and her mother procceded to tell me that I'm wrong.. \n\nSo reddit, AITA for all that happened? \nAlso, AITA for being lazy in general?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "nYeTECUeezYLgqoilTuIpovDDeHb6PE7", "post_id": "b5uaz5", "action": {"description": "telling my perfect girlfriend I need a break", "pronormative_score": 33, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for telling my perfect girlfriend I need a break?", "text": "I\u2019m a 23 year old male. I\u2019ve been dealing with severe Hashimoto\u2019s, Myalgic Encephalomyelitis, chronic insomnia, and POTs syndrome for the last 4 years. I was a former college football player with a bright future. I had several surgeries in a row to correct some cartilage injuries. The health issues started after the surgeries. \n\nMy dating life has been mostly non-existent for the last few years because I just don\u2019t have the fucking physical/mental energy to date. Around New Years Eve, I met a girl from Tinder for drinks. We had a great time and have been dating the last several weeks. \n\nOver the last 3 weeks, my health has declined severely as a result of me over-exerting myself between work, dating, and life in general. \n\nI feel numb, flat, and just totally apathetic. My girlfriend noticed something was wrong over the last several weeks. I tried explaining my health issues to her. I told her that dark, low energy phases like this are common for me. She said she understood and was fully supportive, but still asks me to go out drinking, dancing, etc... when I really only have the energy to lay around her apartment. \n\nYesterday, I told her I needed a 4 week break to simply focus on my health and recharge. She was heartbroken. She told me she doesn\u2019t expect me to come back, but that she cares and wants me to get healthy. I\u2019m so torn. I care about her, but I\u2019m not sure what I want with her right now because I\u2019m to exhausted to think clearly. She\u2019s the perfect girlfriend, but I can\u2019t physically handle anything outside work and immediate family right now. AITA for asking for a break from her? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 26, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 33, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kFWxEmJwsvgAldTZfZoclVAdbm4qk4lI", "post_id": "ae1gf2", "action": {"description": "causing tension with my roommate", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for causing tension with my roommate?", "text": "I don't know if this fits here cause I'm also asking \"how am I the asshole\" because I genuinely don't know what I did but I must've done something.\n\nMy college roommate and I were paired up to be dorm roommates since first semester of college. We had a good relationship and moved into an apartment together the next year because we didnt have on campus housing. Things were great, we were good friends and spent most of our time watching tv together cause neither of us went out much. \n\nDuring the end of our junior year I got a boyfriend while on spring break. I'm very private about my relationships and rarely tell anyone if I dont have to. Once I returned from spring break I didn't have any desire to tell my roommate about this bf because in the past when i had opened up about relationships she was super judgmental to the point where I was upset the things she said. She is also exclusively into women so boys wasn't something we ever bonded over. I would've told her if he was going to be around but since it was long distance I figured it didnt affect her and wanted to avoid the judgement. \n\nWe hung out less and less as I spent more time at school doing homework or in my room skyping my bf. She was also gone a lot so I didnt think much of it. Eventually she started texting my other friends saying I was being weird and ignoring her. My one friend told me this and I didn't know what to say but didn't want to put that friend in an awkward situation by letting my roommate know she snitched. My friend just told her to talk to me, so I waited. She never did. She would just consistently complain about me to my other friends. \n\nBy this point I dug my heels in and refused to confront her about it because she was the one mad so she should come to me about it. This lasted for a few months and she'd act normal around me but complain behind my back. During this time my bf and I broke up and a very good friend of mine died along with other family issues. I didn't have the mental energy to deal with her as it was the least of my worries at the time.\n\nShe eventually got more frustrated to my face and would stop cleaning, told me not to use her groceries which we had always shared including things like salt. And she started closing her bedroom door because she was convinced I was messing with her stuff (we would leave our doors open when we weren't home so the other would know and not lock the other out.) I then started dating a friend of mine, a girl. She'd stay over some nights cause I was real anxious to be home alone with my roommate. One night we were...... doing things because my roommates door was closed so we assumed she wasn't home. Well I got a furious text calling me all sorts of names saying how dare I keep her up with my noise. I told her I didnt even know she was home and was not at all doing it on purpose. At one point she invited me to dinner cause I assumed she wanted to finally talk but she just started complaining about how bad her life was. \n\nWe lived together for a few more months until she moved out early and we havent spoke since.\n\nSo, what was it that caused her to react in such an extreme way?\n\nTL;DR spent less time with my roommate and didnt tell her about my long distance bf and she started talking shit to my friends and the internet but never talked to me. AITA for not going to her?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "oI3ZdTvSdczryezF4Gu8Mdpk82ftTZOd", "post_id": "amvvr1", "action": {"description": "not going to an expo with my family", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not going to an expo with my family?", "text": "This definetly needs more explanation. Today when I woke up my mom told me that were going out to an animal expo with my brother, my mom, and my moms friend. I just woke up and am very groggy, so i just brush it off until later.\nI did have plans today to spend with a few of my friends what I have planned for a while as Im currently out of time for videogames for irl reasons.  So ffw later into the day, im playing online and my mom comes in and says \"Lets go!\" and explains she bought tickets for me. Remember, she did NOT tel me before on what this is or what were doing, so I start an argument saying that I want to stay home and that she should have told me before. She then calls me an asshole and my brother calls me selfish. She was well aware that today I wanted to spend with my friends and that I dont usually get to do these things. Now my mom is really pissed and my brothers being a brat as always. Am i the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "S8u8psLYzqyY4eXUL1FG5V9vZFiDloL6", "post_id": "ahnn77", "action": {"description": "accidentally catfishing a romanian kid", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for accidentally catfishing a romanian kid", "text": "I was going on omegle and doing some erp.  (I know, pathetic.)  Basically, I use this character when i'm rping, she's into all this kinky shit.  Anyway, I was talking to some guy as the character but we had a very long conversation that got very non-sexual.  Eventually he asked for a pic and I am not this person so I made up the excuse that I had to go to class.  He said he wanted to stay in touch but I left abruptly.  I didn't want to tell him the truth, because I didn't want to shatter his idea of this \"friend.\"   But I also didn't want to hurt him which I probably did.  Am I an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "O5udgxRZnD0Uw6ucuQrnrlI7YmZYQPT8", "post_id": "a97vsi", "action": {"description": "posting about my weight loss on social media", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for posting about my weight loss on social media?", "text": "I've always been the fat girl in my friend group, ever since we were in high school. A couple of my other friends were a bit on the chubby side and would complain about it (including my friend Jen, who this post is about), but I was legitimately obese.\n\nA while back I got tired of feeling unattractive and having health problems. I started to try and lose weight. I've never tried to lose weight before, but so far it's going great and I recently dropped into having an overweight BMI rather than an obese BMI for the first time I can remember.\n\nI don't talk about my weight loss journey much in person, since I don't want to be annoying and I know I easily *could* be if given the chance. If people comment on my weight loss (tbf it's a big difference), I just say I'm working out more and trying to eat healthier and then I change the subject. But I'm really proud of how much I've accomplished so far, so I've admittedly posted a few things on social media.\n\nOne of the few things I posted was a before/after picture to celebrate me not being obese anymore. In the caption I said something about how glad I am that I started this journey, and a few things about how miserable I was in the before picture because I was always in pain and felt so unattractive, and how much better this has been for my health and my confidence. I only talked about my feelings towards my body, and I was very careful not to bring other people into it or make generalizations about other obese people because I know from firsthand experience how hurtful that is.\n\nSo I got some compliments and the usual \"you go, girl!\" from some of my friends, but then when I met up with my friend Jen she started talking about the post. Jen's had body image issues for a long time and always puts herself down. She's talked a lot before about wishing she was thin. Her problems got worse for a while a few months ago because her now ex-bf of two years cheated on her with a skinny girl and she took as a sign that she's not good enough. I'm including this because it's the part that makes me wonder the most if I'm an insensitive asshole for not thinking of how the post would make her feel.\n\nJen said the post made her feel worse about herself and asked if I could tone it down. She said it seems kind of arrogant of me to brag about how easy it has been for me to lose weight, and that my behavior on social media looks like I just want attention. She said me talking about how I didn't like my body before would make other people feel bad, and that I should try to be more compassionate. She told me to be careful that I don't turn into the same kind of person I used to hate. I didn't really know what to say so I thanked her and told her she'd given me a lot to think about and I would try to have more empathy moving forward. Kind of regretting it now?\n\nJen's the sweetest person ever, and it's killing me to know that my post hurt her. It's true that I like the feeling of people cheering me on and complimenting me on my weight loss, after a lifetime of being the fat girl who was always insulted and never taken seriously. But I've made four posts about my weight loss in seven months. That doesn't seem like a lot. I still want to keep posting my accomplishments. Part of me is saying that it's my accomplishment and if I want to brag about it on social media, a place where everyone brags about everything, it's not my fault if someone takes it too personally. But at the same time I feel guilty, especially given Jen's history. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hIurYYNOVq103IFonXYpfX3rgPALAJ0E", "post_id": "ak6npt", "action": {"description": "wanting a financial abortion", "pronormative_score": 23, "contranormative_score": 44}, "title": "AITA for wanting a financial abortion?", "text": "So I dated a girl for a few months, it was shaping up to be a longterm thing, but things went bad. We basically went a few months with no contact, until she contacted me, saying she was a few months pregnant and needed my support. I was floored. We'd barely spoken since the breakup, and I was clear as day about the fact that I NEVER wanted kids. \n\nThis was one of the worst things that could conceivably happen to me. She suggested getting back together, which I shut down right out of the gate. I explained that we were through months ago, and that I don't want to be a father, and hung up. She is dead set on keeping it, there have been tests, and the kid is mine, though I dont know how the fuck it happened, since we were fairly strict with contraceptives.\n\nI have a new GF, and we've just moved to a great new apartment. This phonecall literally shook me to my core, and I am freaking out like crazy. I've been searching for every possible way out, and I heard of a financial abortion, or whatever its called. Basically I want to resign any rights and responsibilities for the kid, since I never wanted him/her to begin with. I refuse to pay out the ass for a kid I don't want, and I obviously won't and can't force the mother to get rid of the baby, or give it up for adoption.\n\nHer friends have called me, saying that I really hurt her by refusing to acknowledge this kid, and calling me selfish and whatnot, but I can't handle all that stuff right now, or ever probably. Am I the asshole for wanting a \"financial abortion\", that is, no contact, no child support, no custody, and is it morally and legally okay???", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 41, "OTHER": 21, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 23, "WRONG": 44}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "LN6SeCpA9MSycHj48C3YOkwijtGpQyFO", "post_id": "b140dy", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for breaking up with my girlfriend?", "text": "WIBTA for breaking up with my girlfriend because we're moving away? We'll both be going off to college this year, and will definitely be living in different cities, and if everything works out for me, different countries.  \n\n\nWe both knew when we started dating that this relationship had an expiry date and that this was a just for fun thing because we both liked each other. We had even talked about it and discussed the subject and concluded that it'll be best to break up before going off to college because studies matter more.  \n\n\nShe is really emotionally attached, and has been through her fair share of shitty breakups. One of the motives behind me wanting to breakup is to show her that not all relationships end in emotional trauma. That being said, I also firmly believe that I won't be able to function in a long distance relationship. I am a relatively closed off person and if things work out, I'll be in a new city in a new country in about 6 months, so the starting weeks of college are gonna be difficult enough as it is.   \n\n\nAnd plus, one more reason is that, it's not like we're coming back. I don't plan on coming back to my country to settle down, and I don't think she'll stay here for long either. I personally think long distance relationships are just a way for some people to blame geography for the breakup. I would've considered trying it, had I honestly seen a future, but I don't.  \n\n\nWe had decided that we would break up eventually, but she has been talking to her friends and they have somehow convinced her that things will work out in a long distance relationship. I can't blame her friends either as they only want to see her happy. I really like her as a person and as a friend and I really want us to part on good terms and not just be another salty ex.  \n\n\nWIBTA if I just go through and break up with her?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rnzC3i7OMRLF9wllII5wThJ59lJ1eCsJ", "post_id": "b1gmcv", "action": {"description": "blocking a friend for screenshotting a pic and sending it to a friend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for blocking a friend for screenshotting a pic and sending it to a friend", "text": "**it was not a pic that you would think it was oof**\n\nSo I had been talking to this girl for about maybe 2 months and she was pretty friendly. She would sometimes sends pics of herself (**NOT LIKE THAT).** I never did send any pics of myself as I am very anxious of how I look. One time I got enough courage to do it after I told her about my baby sis (she' soooo cute). She asked me to send a pic of my sis with me to prove it was actually my sister. So I did. She instantly took a screenshot. I was alright then, shouldn't be any harm. BUT NOOOOO. She sends it to a mutual friends WITHOUT MY PERMISSION. I was so pissed at her. She knew I was insecure, and still did it. I stopped talking to her after that and blocked her on all my accounts. This caused her to go on a rant with  all my friends, who tell me to unblock her. I don't. I think about it, but then she starts being a b\\*tch at school, so I just leave it at that. I recently found out she made a mindmap of \"13 reasons why?\", but for herself, and my name was on it. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "fbdvLfebBiO2CFF17i0T8oAPfsDjMxdB", "post_id": "au3in2", "action": {"description": "hating my roommates lack of decency", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for hating my roommates lack of decency", "text": "So I live with a roommate who really likes to jerk it every now and then. This wouldn't really bug me but what does is that he does it in the open and doesn't care if anyone can walk in on him. This with my room being infront of his I get to hear all the glorious sounds that come with the jerking. He doesn't even close the door to his room and when confronted about it he flat out said no to closing his door while jerking it. If I even try to close my door to avoid the sounds he'll play dumb and ask me why I'm closing my door. It's at its worst at night when I'm trying to sleep and all I hear is him. It's come to the point where I'm not even comfortable in my own room if he's on his bed jerking it. \n\nSo AITA for hating my roommates lack of decency or should I just deal with it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kc5k2Uvr7fcTnFnq1qG9I6zVU5pWXmJp", "post_id": "amejzc", "action": {"description": "expecting people to show up to game night", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For expecting people to show up to game night?", "text": "This is a retroactive AITA as this was about 2 years ago. As such, I may not remember all the details. \n\nSo 2 years ago I was in the midst of running a Pathfinder campaign (think D&D) that was going great. Good, fun group who showed up regularly and brought good personality to the table. During April, one of my players ended up missing game for 3 weeks straight due to her working on her Master's Thesis. I recognize that as an important, and legitimate reason for missing the game. \n\nThat being said, after the 3rd week, I told her that if she didn't start showing up to game in the coming weeks, I would not hold her spot in the game anymore. I only run 4-5 players at most and we had 5. Now, this was not a threat, nor was I kicking her out. It simply meant that if she didn't start coming regularly then I would give her spot to another player if one wanted to join and showed up regularly. I felt it was an imposition on me the GM to hold a spot for someone who wasn't showing up regularly. This situation was also made worse by some inter-player drama that occurred a month earlier, but that is irrelevant to this situation. \n\nNow, I admit in hindsight that I was a bit of a dick in the way I presented that to her, making it sound like an ultimatum. It wasn't, nor was it intended to be. While I could have handled the situation better, I feel my reasoning in the matter was sound. I wasn't trying to be rude or threatening, just informing her that after a certain point of missing the game that I felt I couldn't hold someone's spot. She eventually returned and all was great, but if you're going to be gone for a prolonged period, it's a bit of an imposition to refuse a new player for someone who isn't there.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5EQaiuNLY9opNV4syvwp3KcI2xTMpqEv", "post_id": "9vwino", "action": {"description": "ignoring my 'sister'", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ignoring my 'sister'?", "text": "Yes I'm on mobile, I'm sorry. \n\nA little back-story: My biological father who was never there, ran off to another country to avoid paying child support. He'd come back here and there but always put any expenses on my mom or dad. \n\nAnyways, I recently had a baby, and I let my go on vacation with my mother and grandmother to their home country(to visit his great great grandparents). Where they were told to not let my bio father see the baby. We all hated him, so they agreed. \n\n He texts me complaining, trying to guilt trip me, then tries to use my half sisters as leverage. (They live with him) He dodges any criticism I throw at him by saying that he was always there for me. I actually only seen him around a total of 16 times since he left after I was born,since he lives in another country. Anyways I cut him off completely from any social media. \n\nOkay back to now: He's sending me texts through my little sisters account pretending to be her. I know how she texts. She's 10. He keeps trying to get me to send pictures of my baby, pulling the \"I'm your sister\" card. Kinda insulting that he thinks I can't tell the difference. So I had to block her too unfortunately, even though it's technically not her texting me. \n\nAm I the asshole for blocking my sisters account because her dad is spamming me on it multiple times a day? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EWtgIwYhslbXLk2zqME06Dps5y62TTTx", "post_id": "a9bht6", "action": {"description": "refusing to play the snare drum for my acquaintance's recording", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for refusing to play the snare drum for my acquaintance's recording?", "text": "My acquaintance is in the process of recording his version of \"The Little Drummer Boy\". His version isn't much different, just adds a couple verses extending it to ten minutes or so. Also, he is a classical music lover and put the snare drum part from Ravel's Bolero. You'd think \"oh well, that's not bad.\"\n\nWRONG. THE SNARE DRUM PART IN BOLERO REPEATS THE SAME RYTHM FOR 17 MINUTES.\n\nHe wanted me to play snare drum for this. He already has a snare player, but he doesn't like his playing for some reason and the two have had childish arguments and stuff. I refused for two reasons.\n\nA: I would play the snare drum part if it was actually Bolero, but this is not Bolero so I'd be repeating the same rythm while a mediocre carol is being sung.\n\nB: I'm in a quartet of my own (and a freelance composer), and I have a LOT of work to do in both the quartet and my freelancing duties. This on my plate would make this holiday season more stressful than it already is.\n\nI don't know. I feel like an asshole for refusing. Am I right?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1llri5YSV6ZJDYYB6MAdCv54qJU6yRBk", "post_id": "a8jjv5", "action": {"description": "not having a friend as a bridesmaid when I was hers", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA: Not having a friend as a bridesmaid when I was hers.", "text": "So, a friend I hadn't spoken to in a couple of years asked me to be her bridesmaid. I thought great, what a way to rekindle the friendship and said yes. \n\nWe start speaking on a regular occasion (every couple of weeks) to help plan and check in on each other. Her saying how much she missed me and me saying the same. \n\nA couple of months before her wedding I get engaged too. Everything is fine between us. \n\nWedding rolls around and she has the best day of her life and I am there for her.\n\nQueue her not speaking to me at all or engaging in conversation at all. This was 4 months ago. We didnt have a fight or anything it just died.\n\nSo I start planning my wedding and pick 3 of my closest friend as well as my sister and my partners sister to be my bridesmaid.\n\nMe (not thinking) put a status on social media about buying bridesmaid dresses. \n\nI then get a screenshot from a mutual friend of ours of their conversation where she is bitching about me behind my back and saying about the fact that I hadn't messaged her and said to her first about not being bridesmaid. \n\nI don't know what to feel or what to do.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Ykx6LuW1DTsfRY4ERXdxoWHCrO1hI3iX", "post_id": "asd8br", "action": {"description": "getting with my friends \"ex\"", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For getting with my friends \"ex\"", "text": "Basically there's two friends who I've been close with for awhile, one is C who I've known longest and the other is J who I met about 8 months ago and brought into our circle of friends. C is usually a chill guy but pretty quiet about his personal life, J is a pretty quirky gal and we've always gotten along great. Going back a few weeks a spark lit between J and I which quickly turned into dating and honestly I've been happy but when I told C he got upset and angry with me. Turns out him and J had a brief thing a few months ago but never told anyone, things didn't work out because J felt they were incompatible romantically and they moved on agreeing to be friends. He still has feelings for her and when he  told me this I went and confronted J, she said that she viewed it as a mistake because she'd have rather kept him as a close friend.  When I talked to C I told him that I was sorry if me and J being together made him upset but I really like her and if he wants to remain friends he'd need to accept it, he then threw a fit about how I'm an ass who doesn't care about his friends feelings. He quickly apologized the next day but damage was done. \n\n​\n\nSo AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3heMgoBLWnP7m6SbJNS2PjYwM0ftLISO", "post_id": "axt8nd", "action": {"description": "not accepting a work related call", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not accepting a work related call?", "text": "I recently started a new job that deals with battery services and road side assistance. I normally work from 7am to 8pm. I run calls and am on the road all day long. \n\nLast night I took a late night call because it was close to my home. I'd be there in back in 30 minutes no biggie. \n\nToday I ran my normal schedule. I received a call at 8pm. It was to drive 3hrs one way. I'd be back home at 2am the earliest. I told them I was exhausted and didn't want to cause an accident. I'm sure I'll get a tongue lashing for it tomorrow. I already dont spend enough time with my family as is. Not to mention I have a three month old to help take care of at various hours of the night.\n\nSo dudes and dudettes, am I the asshole for not accepting this call? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "x8N5XeLZngw9CXXozOuzuSrVPykQl06c", "post_id": "afvbja", "action": {"description": "not wanting to give up some of my time with my son", "pronormative_score": 287, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to give up some of my time with my son.", "text": "A bit of background on myself, I have been separated from my baby mother since just after our son was born, so about 3 years. I have a court order in place, that sets my parent time with him for every weekend. Baby mother approached me at drop off last night saying she, wants me to give up every second weekend to her, because she says she doesn\u2019t get enough time with him. Now I understand wanting to be with him more and all but, she already has him for 22/30 days of a month whereas I get 8/30.. Her reasoning is that she\u2019s in school right now which makes finding time for him hard but I just don\u2019t want to lose any of my time with my boy, I look forward to every weekend with him and we have tons of fun. Am I the asshole for not wanting to give up any of my time to her?? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 236, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 51, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 287, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4e70ZqjXBjxiIA4T5pBEn7vJ8R8ecMhO", "post_id": "atl80w", "action": {"description": "ending a friendship over feeling manipulated", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ending a friendship over feeling manipulated?", "text": "I met F through our SOs at a party. She was openly homophobic during this party and I don\u2019t  like having hateful people in my life so I forgot about her for a while. \n\nI gave her a chance and started following her on social media after my bf and I bumped into F and her bf at a store. My bf said he missed his friend, so I thought if I tried to be her friend despite our differences, maybe they could reconnect. \n\nOne day she posts a job opening, so I message her to thank her for posting because I\u2019m going to apply. I ended up getting the job, and thanked her for that as well.\n\nShe offers to carpool with me to our training, and the entire time she\u2019s questioning me about my mental health, my religion, my politics, a lot. It made me really uncomfortable.\n\nTraining day passes, a few months go by,  and the invasive questions do not stop. I stop showing up early at this point because keeping my guard up was exhausting.\n\nOne day, I leave work and I get a text from F. She\u2019s confused because she\u2019s been friendly and we should be close by now.  I told her that I still feel like we\u2019re getting to know each other and that when I\u2019m at work, I am there to work. I set clear boundaries about her asking personal questions and to not force me into acting closer to her than I perceive us to be. \n\nA few more weeks go by and F starts treating me differently and even starts talking badly about me to our coworkers. I started panic attacking at work. \n\nI texted my boss to quit my job. She called me, and we were both kind of sobbing. My boss knows my mental health situation and felt awful about the anxiety, but we both agreed that the job was holding back any progress on my mental health and ended the working relationship as amicably as we could. \n\nI found out that F manipulated our boss to think that we were best friends. Our boss said she was sorry that our job ruined our strong friendship, and how awful that must be for what I\u2019m going through. When I told her I barely knew F and that I was confused because F made things worse for me, she said that\u2019s not what F had to say about our friendship. I was confused but left it at that. \n\nA week later, F texted me to ask what\u2019s going on because she got me the job and had a right to know. I ignored it because the very last text in our convo was where I asked to her respect my boundaries. Ironic. \n\nThe next weekend, F texts MY BF asking him why I won\u2019t tell her why I left. She even tried to manipulate him by using her bf. She said \u201che\u2019d like to see you once this is over\u201d \n\nOur bfs shouldn\u2019t have to sacrifice their friendship because we don\u2019t get along. I was done. \n\nI texted her saying I found her threat to my bf disrespectful, and if she respected me she would have listened to my boundaries the first time. I told her there\u2019s a difference between getting to know me and manipulating me to think we\u2019re close. All she said was \u201cokay, understood\u201d and then blocked my number. \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RkK5SZB50NpiHMFfLuEttObiSqOIMYQ3", "post_id": "aie3h6", "action": {"description": "not moving my car", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not moving my car?", "text": "Made a throwaway just because I have friends who frequent this sub even though this is really kind of a mild post. \n\nI\u2019m in my mid-20s, moved back in with my parents about a year and a half ago when I started grad school. I\u2019m in my last year now. A couple of days ago, my sister also moved back with plans to start grad school in the fall. So...it\u2019s a little crowded. My sister rented a uhaul for her stuff and had it parked in front of the house. My mom and I took it back yesterday, with my mom driving the truck and me following behind in my car. Then, we drove back home together.\n\nMy family and I live in a row house. There\u2019s a parking spot right in front of the house, and another one down the street. Those spots are where my parents park, and I usually park on the street. So I\u2019m driving my mom home and I go to park where I usually park, and she tells me to just park in the spot in front of the house. I kind of protest, because I don\u2019t want to have to move my car later, and tell her I\u2019ll just drop her off in front of the house and then go park on the street. At this point she gets a little irritated with me and tells me to just park in front of the house and leave it alone. I\u2019m like, fine, whatever, not a big deal. \n\nLater that day my dad comes home and asks why I\u2019m parked in front of the house. I told him what happened with my mom. I can tell he\u2019s kind of annoyed that I parked there, but I don\u2019t think it\u2019s a big deal so I just brush it off. \n\nNow today, I have the day off and I\u2019m just hanging out at home. I go to the basement and am working out on the treadmill when my dad comes down the stairs. He says: \u201chey, so your mother and I had a discussion about the parking spot and it\u2019s okay if you move your car\u201d. Now at this point I\u2019m irritated. I said something along the lines of \u201cwhat are you talking about? I know I\u2019m ALLOWED to move my car, all I said is that I parked there because mom told me to and I didn\u2019t feel like arguing with her!\u201d Now I know I kind of blew up here, but I was annoyed because  i could tell he just wanted me to move my car and I don\u2019t like when people beat around the bush. \n\nI finished my workout, took a shower, then I\u2019m just in the living room when here comes my dad again. He looks at me and says \u201cyou know, whatever issues your mother and I are having with the parking spot, you don\u2019t have to get into the middle of them\u201d.\n\nSo now I\u2019m furious. I tell him \u201cI have no idea what you\u2019re talking about! If you want me to move my car, just ask me to!\u201d And he just walks away.\n\nSo I\u2019ve decided I\u2019m not moving the car unless he explicitly asks me to. It\u2019s now apparent to me that my mom told me to park in the spot to piss off my dad. But honestly that\u2019s none of my business and I had no idea when I parked in the spot. I just want to get my degree and move out, I have no interest in being involved in my parents marital drama.\n\nSo, am I the asshole for not moving my car (even though it seems obvious my dad wants me to) because he won\u2019t ask?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "meZL5geqcHvnEOjfrFZG6xeqM4FIQQKU", "post_id": "9zufol", "action": {"description": "refusing to move when a person doesn't backup to let me park", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for refusing to move when a person doesn\u2019t backup to let me park?", "text": "I was on the way to the movies today, and it was packed, I guess due to today being Black Friday. Anyway I was reverse parking into a space when a car comes up out of nowhere allowing me no space to reverse park. I continue inching toward the car, backing up while not hitting the car. It comes to the point where I can\u2019t back up more without hitting her car. I roll down the window and ask the woman driving the car to backup since there are no cars behind her. She doesn\u2019t budge. I\u2019m assuming she wants me to accidentally hit her car so she can get some money out of it, but I honestly don\u2019t know. I put my car in park, and we\u2019re at a standstill for a minute. Then I put my car in drive and drive up a little to get some space to keep backing up, barely hitting a parked car up ahead. I get the space needed to park, put the car in reverse and make it into the slot, almost hitting her car.\n\nI know she\u2019s not obliged to back up, but seriously? There were no cars behind her and the both of us could\u2019ve saved two minutes. The entire encounter made me angry but I\u2019m just wondering if finding another place to park was the move here and whether I was the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "48P2QGNYzE3TJVOMQh0hockoRoUN8yd0", "post_id": "b6gjkh", "action": {"description": "not wanting to have any contact with my father", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to have any contact with my father?", "text": "So my father used to mentally and physically abuse me for a very long time, from like my 10th till I moved out (19). And now he claims that he wants to have contact again but I don't want it anymore. He didn't even tell me he is sorry for the things he did. Now everyone says I'm the asshole because he wants to 'make things right' but I don't give him the chance., am I the asshole here?\n\n​\n\np.s. excuse me for my English ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ClEJSGSIZyGTVzKdBsZQRbaudHN8bF1j", "post_id": "asgeee", "action": {"description": "telling my boyfriend to stop talking to his lying cheating ex, when he insists it's bc of the child", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my boyfriend to stop talking to his lying cheating ex, when he insists it\u2019s bc of the child", "text": "My bf and I have been together for just short of 2 years now and it\u2019s starting to become more serious. We have plans to move to another state together and we are starting a life. I have never been one to tell a SO that they are not allowed to speak to an ex or not have a friendship with them. But this girl, let\u2019s call her Manda, I just don\u2019t like and she really fucked him over. \n\nShe has an 8 or maybe 9 year old daughter and according to him is a terrible mother, I guess while they were together he developed a strong bond with this little girl bc the mother wouldn\u2019t do shit for her and he kinda just took the daddy role (even though this isn\u2019t his kid). Recently I found out they (him and the little girl) still speak which i honestly at first though was nice. But upon reading these messages it\u2019s mostly him and Manda talking, and most recently he told her something private about my life that I asked him not to share, his excuse was \u201cwell you\u2019re a big part of my life and we talk about life\u201d. \nThe child is awesome and they seem to have a solid bond, he even mails her gifts and made sure to send birthday wishes and cute things. \n\nHim and Manda dated a little over a year and he told me he stayed with her bc of the child and the fact that they had nowhere else to go. He moved to another state with her and claims he did it so he could set them up somewhere else and then leave. I guess while they were there among other trashy and hurtful things that she did, she took HIS tent to a festival and had sex with someone else in it (her now 2nd baby daddy) and he left and came back here. \n\nI see him sending her pictures of her he took, videos of her hooping, and photos of them with the child in recent messages which bothered me. He also tells her things like her new hair looks good or she\u2019s cute in whatever Facebook picture. He keeps saying he only talks to her to maintain an okay relationship so she will let him still communicate with the kid. I feel as though she\u2019s using this to her advantage and I don\u2019t like the stories he\u2019s told me about things she\u2019s done to him, and recently I\u2019ve asked him to stop speaking to her. \n\nApparently she is coming to the state for a visit and her excuse for adding our city to her trip is \u201cto spend as much time with _____ as possible\u201d the blank being his sister who I guess is still her friend. He tells me he\u2019s going to see her (and the child) and he\u2019s going to take the kid out for the day etc. I once again flipped and said no that\u2019s not cool, bc I don\u2019t believe it\u2019s just going to be the kid. \n\nI only heard about this child a few months ago. They were together about a year (and he was in the kids life), I feel like I would have been aware of him and the kid\u2019s relationship sooner if it was so significant. So am I the asshole for asking him to sever ties so we can move on with our lives together? Bc he\u2019s got me feeling like I\u2019m being irrational. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "G3KBc69kJhrwshJtE2mhaDeDPGLzYJRs", "post_id": "a3bhur", "action": {"description": "letting dogs be loud and play for an hour everyday", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for letting dogs be loud and play for an hour everyday", "text": "I work as a dog sitter/dog walker. One of the dogs I take regular walks with lives in a house with a really big fenced in garden. So I usually bring a couple of dogs over to her so they can play there (with the owners consent of course). It\u2019s really convenient for me since there\u2019s no dog parks nearby and the dog love it. I\u2019m there every weekday from around 11 pm to 12 pm. And of course when dogs play it can get a bit loud sometimes but it\u2019s never an hour of constant barking.\n\nWell the other day one of the neighbors told me the dogs are making too much noise and is disturbing him when he does his yoga. I told him it\u2019s only for an hour in the middle of the day and maybe he could do his yoga after. But he told me I had to take the dogs someplace else because it\u2019s rude and disturbing. I double checked with the owners and they said he can\u2019t tell me what to do with their dog on their property and that they would talk with the neighbor. But now every time I see him he gives me the stink eye. But I really don\u2019t want to stop taking my other dogs there because then the dog who lives there won\u2019t get to play with them anymore and I can tell how much she loves to play with them.\n\nSo am I the asshole if I keep taking my other dogs there and disturb the neighbor? I understand it can be disturbing but it\u2019s not constant barking and it\u2019s only for an hour in the middle of the day.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gbuIRqaiHeqcaQmEO9zWToSTyn5LiWS1", "post_id": "age612", "action": {"description": "feeling annoyed that a close friend asked me if I would be willing to look after her bf", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for feeling annoyed that a close friend asked me if I would be willing to look after her bf?", "text": "For some context, I live in eastern Massachusetts and a friend of mine lives about an hour away by train. We are pretty close friends in college and I haven't seen her since winter break has begun. I've asked to hang out twice now and both times, she denied hanging out because she was busy. I told her to let me know of a day that shes willing to take the train and meet up. Fast forward a good two weeks from the last time she responded to my \"lmk\" texts and she suddenly asks me \n\n\"Hi whats up, I've got a doctors appointment at \\*place near my college\\* and I was wondering if you were ok to hang with \\*name of bf\\* while I get checked up. It shouldn't take long.\"\n\nJust some clarification, they are in a long distance relationship and I have hung out with him when hes visited before. I've cooked for him, gotten drunk together, and had fun. I'd say we're friends, but in a different perspective, Its a forced relationship. I hang out with him because they are happy together and I value our friendship enough to get to know someone that a friend of mine likes being with. \n\nGoing back to our back and forth texting, \n\nTo this I reply,\n\n\"Sorry, that was unexpected. Maybe? I'll let you know if I can, but you should also let me know when YOU'RE free! We should meet up some other time.\"\n\nI understand this is petty.\n\nHer reply, \"Okay yep will do, cool!\"\n\n​\n\nI think i'd be a great time to show him around and just have a fun time, but Im not getting the motivation because friendships dont run on 1 sided motivation. \n\n​\n\nIn the one month of break we've had thus far, AITA for not wanting to/feeling annoyed that a good friend of mine asked me to almost babysit her bf when she hasn't even made an attempt to hang out with me after I've asked her multiple times when shes free? \n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7ci75WuHZgm1NEqkwiZMEYFENFFz5OWw", "post_id": "aumra9", "action": {"description": "wanting my roommates girlfriend to pay rent", "pronormative_score": 41, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for wanting my roommates girlfriend to pay rent", "text": "Hear me out, I genuinely don\u2019t know.\n\nSo I (M 20) live in a three bedroom apartment with two other guys (both M 20). We all have girlfriends who come and go, but one girlfriend (M 19) lives with us permanently. The three of us guys pay rent out of pocket, while the girlfriend in particular (we\u2019ll call her Amy) has a room on campus that she has never once slept in, and that room costs more than what she would pay to live here. She hardly ever visits her own room. \n\nAmy eats food that her roommate pays for, uses up utilities with us, uses our bathroom, etc etc. She doesn\u2019t buy food. She doesn\u2019t pay for anything, except for herself. This is typically fine, she can pay her own food and expenses. But she wastes money paying for a place on campus when it could make living at my apartment cheaper for both of my roommates and myself. Even she would pay less.\n\nThis is something I\u2019ve never voiced to my roommate who dates her, because I know the girlfriends me and my other roommate bring over don\u2019t pay rent either. The difference is they come temporarily and leave. Half the time they\u2019re not here. And while they temporarily take up space and do the same things as Amy, they leave just as often to stay at where they live.\n\nAmy and her boyfriend knew prior to moving in that Amy would be staying with us full-time. She\u2019s cool as a roommate, but she also takes up a lot of space, makes the place dirty, sits on our couch all day, uses our shower and bathroom constantly.\n\nMy parents wonder why I live with 4 people full time and three pay rent. It\u2019s more of a burden for them when they help me in affording college, and it would make rent cheaper for the other three.\n\nThe main reason why Amy doesn\u2019t pay rent, is because her parents don\u2019t know she lives with a bunch of guys. Her, and her boyfriend, have no plan on telling her parents. I can understand, but her parents are also paying thousands every semester for a room she\u2019s never slept in. Amy and her boyfriend would rather not approach the issue then pay less for where they\u2019re living because their parents cover most of it. I pay out of pocket for where I live a lot of the time. It\u2019s tougher for me, when I feel it\u2019d be easier if she paid rent.\n\nI approached my roommate who dates Amy, and low-key asked that since he knew beforehand that Amy would be living with us full-time, why she didn\u2019t pay rent this year. He maintained the fact that since there\u2019s only 3 people on the lease, it shouldn\u2019t affect me at all and it\u2019s not my problem. If she didn\u2019t exist it wouldn\u2019t make a difference. \n\nIt\u2019s a small apartment, and she\u2019s constantly around. She takes up a lot of space. \n\nI don\u2019t know, I\u2019m really unsure if I\u2019m in the wrong place even asking.\n\nAm I an asshole for pulling my roommate aside after several months this morning, and asking him why she doesn\u2019t pay rent? \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 38, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 41, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xQwvcOspDRjtpZff1eQeYLrfUaEPSnQ1", "post_id": "aj10ol", "action": {"description": "telling my fianc\u00e9 I wanted to end the phone call with her", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my fianc\u00e9 I wanted to end the phone call with her?", "text": "I work, my fianc\u00e9 stays home. Normally she sleeps in and we usually touch base around 11am. I have to be at work by 830. I am a manager of a company so my 40 minute ride in consists of calling my supervisors and laying out the plan for the day. Then I listen to my news and weather on my ride in, kind of my mental prep for the day. \n\nNow, my fianc\u00e9 has a terrible habit of calling me but not talking. Like literally, not speaking. This happens at least daily and i have conveyed multiple times that i dont like it. She just wants to be on the phone with me and not talk. I have expressed to her this is frustrating for me as while I enjoy talking to her, I want to actually talk if we are on the phone. Also, she calls me throughout the day when I am trying to work and honestly, my ride in to work is really the only time I ever have that is just mine...so anyway. \n\nThis morning she calls, as she woke up early, and asks me one thing, then, silence...i try to talk to her and get one word answers and silence, followed by silence and, you guessed it, more silence. So I say honey, I'm going to get off here I love you. She asked if I'm at work yet, so I tell her no, still 10 minutes out. So she says \"oh, so you just WANT to get off the phone with me?\" And I reply, \"yes babe I do, you aren't talking to me.\" So then she gets pissed and hangs up...calls back...3 times...crying that I hurt her feelings. I apologize for hurting her feelings, I honestly wasn't trying to. I reiterated that it is not enjoyable for me and it is frustrating to be on the phone just listening to her breathing. Then she goes offensive and starts really being hateful to me saying that she hopes I have a great fucking day etc...i say I'm sorry again for hurting her feelings and that I love her, which, she doesn't respond to. Like more silence for a solid minute until finally I say \"bye I love you\" and hang up. \n\nUmm, am I missing something here? Am I the asshole? \n\nTldr: fianc\u00e9 calls to let me hear her breathe instead of talk, that's frustrating for me. She asks if I want to get off the phone...and i say yes...so now I'm an asshole apparently...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0TGk0hxM0vhYAlgOGj9hH53LTgM21Hpd", "post_id": "avh15p", "action": {"description": "not letting my brother-in-law go on vacation with us", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "WIBTA for not letting my brother-in-law go on vacation with us.", "text": "warning: wall of text. Lots of backstory. \n\nSeveral years ago my wife and I had a destination wedding in another state. Her whole family went. Her parents are divorced and the older of the two brothers lived with his mom.(this is the brother in question) Because they didn't have a lot of money they road with us in the car and took a bus home at the end of the week. (We stayed a second week by ourselves for a honeymoon). \n\nHer mom talks about that trip all the time. she said it was one of the best trip she ever took in her whole life. she talks about how much she loved to go back there someday. \n\nso this year for Christmas we decided to surprise her with a suitcase and a letter saying basically that we were taking her back there this summer. Because my wife sister is older and married now they will be going also. \n\nA few days ago I find out that the brother somehow thinks that he was invited to and that he's going on vacation with us. My wife doesn't really care so long as he pays his own way. \n\nHere's the problem though. This brother is like the most socially inept person I've ever met. He never learn to be an adult and is just a complete embarrassment to be around in public. He has this really annoying need for constant attention. If people are talking about things that he doesn't know about or have any experience with, he will just start making stuff up. He makes up insanely unbelievable stories about things he's done or seen that anybody would know is not true. And when you're talkin about things he will try to correct you and tell you you're wrong and then make up lies to support it. \n\nEx: someone asked if Dr pepper is made by Coke or Pepsi. I explained the doctor pepper is its own company and not made by either. He chimes in that dr. Pepper is actually made by Coke but Coke keeps it a secret. I told him that's ridiculous. He tells me that his friend's dad is the CFO for Coca-Cola and told him that they make Dr pepper. \n\nIt causes a lot of stress in the group. He will start trying to cut me down and tell lies. I will call him on his lies and expose him. Then he will get mad and pout and everyone will get mad at me for being mean to him. \n\nso anyway I find out that he thinks he's going on this vacation. I told my wife no way. If he's going I'm not going. We have going on a week-long trip with him before and it was a nightmare. everyone was mad at me the whole time for arguing with him. They think I should just let it go and let him lie. \n\nPart of me realizes that since I'm the only one that has a problem with him, I should bow out. But my wife and I are the ones that planned this trip. This is our vacation spot that we go to every year on our anniversary. (Forgot to mention this trip would be on our anniversary). We have gone every year since we were married and I really don't want to have to skip it.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0N54whpfCQ0XZOeYLAoTSAIQpqYjUWSj", "post_id": "ayyz1a", "action": {"description": "not letting my sister use my 1,000$ Laptop", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not letting my sister use my 1,000$ Laptop?", "text": "So for some context I have a twin sister and we get along most of the time but every now and again she'll ask me to use my drawing tablet so she could make some art. Last summer she asked me so she could make some art for people on Twitter. I said sure and thought it would only be a few days. But she kept it with her nearly the entire summer in her room. About half way in i asked about the art and for the tablet back but she says no and that she's almost done. Sometime at the end she finally gives me back my tablet and thanked me. But sometimes she'll ask me to do something or ask for stuff such as going to the store to get her stuff. If I say no she'll whine and act pretty bratty because I'm not doing what she wants.\n\nFast forward about 6 months and it's the middle of January. I was at home alone for awhile relaxing and on my laptop on a weekend day. When my little brother walked in I saw my sis then walk in to dining room where my laptop and tablet are. (keep in mind my laptop is about 1,000$ and the Tablet cost 80-90$ and she has no way to pay me back) She walks right up to me when i stand with my laptop open but doing nothing. Not even a minute in the house and this is how it goes.\n\nCast.\n\nMe: Me TS: Twin Sister\n\nTS: Hey bro can i try out your tablet since it's fixed now? You're not using your laptop.\n\nME: I'm sorry but I just got up and i was going to do laundry.\n\nTS: Cm'on there's nothing going on.  \nI sit back down and log out of my profile so she can't get in. She huffs and starts to walk away clearly angry about not getting to use my laptop.\n\nMe: Wow entitled much?\n\nShe gets real pissed off at me because of what I called her and then pushes me away from her while still grabbing my shirt hard. After that she storms up the stairs.\n\nI realize that I shouldn't of said that to piss her off more but there was one time where she called me an Asshole for simply not doing something for her.  \nPeople of Reddit was I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FfUdnBHRsrX5MhJnyRl0EyKL6nMIHKiT", "post_id": "b5zaqg", "action": null, "title": "AITA - redo events or make up events", "text": "Ok so this one is more of a Whos the Ahole and I got this idea by a guy who posted a very similar situation but not quite the same\n\n​\n\nMe and my partner differ on this and I want to know what reddit thinks in general to make life easy we'll say that I am the one who says this is not allowed\n\n​\n\nThe person im speaking of is my younger brother He recently missed my Bday. Now this isn't the first thing he missed and he told me that I should come to his place and he would throw me a mini party. I told him no thanks because IMO he could have made it to this its just a long drive and he had work the next day.\n\n​\n\nIt wasn't a huge party and he would have been able to get back home by 10-11 and he starts at 9 (up at 745ish) as we were done by 9 (was a dinner)\n\n​\n\nI've told him no, you sholdn't get do overs when IMO you COULD have made it you just didn't have the energy to make the drive. In general I don't believe in do overs.\n\n​\n\nAITA or should I let my brother throw me a mini party after he missed mine?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "DpJ4R9sPKvRTxrX9QpZEEvMVvG4bZeTn", "post_id": "ak9fg4", "action": {"description": "not wanting my mom's best friend to join us on a trip to the Philippines to visit family", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my mom\u2019s best friend to join us on a trip to the Philippines to visit family?", "text": "Hi y\u2019all, just wanna get other people\u2019s thoughts on this. I figured that if my mom wants her friend to go so badly, they should just plan their own trip, but let me explain. Sorry for the long read. TL;DR at bottom. \n\nThe Situation:\n\nBack when I graduated from high school, my mom\u2019s graduation gift to me was \u201ca ticket to the Philippines (redeemable at a future date).\u201d This is in quotations because there was no actual ticket, rather it was a comment written in my grad card because 1) I had already told her that even though I wanted to go, I would be in school and didn\u2019t know when I\u2019d actually be able to go and 2) she couldn\u2019t actually afford a ticket at the time. This becomes important later on (imo). \n \nThis past summer, I applied to medical school and was successful(!), so I\u2019ll be starting this coming fall. That being said, I\u2019ve been studying/working throughout college and after graduation to prep my application and save money to pay for aforementioned apps, so I\u2019ve never really been able to take any vacations or trips. In this span of ~6 years, my mom has gone to the Philippines (without me, because I was in school) 3 times, each time for 3-4 weeks. \n\nSince I\u2019ll start school in the fall, I\u2019ve started to plan my last day at work, and when I\u2019ll finally be taking my trip to the Philippines. I told my mom about this, and asked if she would come with me and if the offer for the free ticket was still on the table. She admitted that money was still tight (which didn\u2019t surprise me because my dad is still unemployed), and that she probably wouldn\u2019t be able to cover her ticket, let alone mine. I was fine with this though, since I\u2019ve been working full time and have managed to start saving a bit (after finally paying off the ~$6k I spent of my own money to apply to med school in the first place). I really want my mom to come with me, because the first time I went to the PI was with her, and I\u2019d like to be able to enjoy a trip with her again. My tagalog is also not the greatest, and even though I know enough to get by and some of my family members speak some english, things still get lost in translation. \n\nSince I want my mom to come with me, I crunched the numbers and figured I can afford to buy my mom\u2019s ticket, so I offered to do so for her. This she happily accepted, and we started trying to plan out dates for the trip. The main point of this trip, at least, as I intended it, was to visit and spend time with family. It\u2019s been almost 10 years since I\u2019ve last gone, and my grandmother\u2019s getting pretty up there in age. My mom knows this. \n\nAs we\u2019re figuring out dates, my mom pulls out her phone, and calls her best friend, who we\u2019ll call Marie. Cue her telling Marie about our upcoming trip, and telling her she should come with us. She spends a good half hour discussing logistics, places her friend can stay, and other touristy islands and places they could visit. Marie sounds excited for the trip and plans to come. \n\nAfter she hangs up, I ask my mom why she invited Marie, as I wanted it to be us two to visit family. Her response was basically \u201cMarie has been wanting to come with me to the PI forever!!! We\u2019re finally going, so of course she should come. I told her she could the next time I went.\u201d \nOf course, I responded saying that I wanted it to be a family visit trip, not one where we\u2019d go around to all the touristy places so she and her could take pics (this was what she was talking with her about). She basically brushed that aside and said \u201cShe\u2019s been wanting to go for so long, so she has to come. Don\u2019t be selfish.\u201d As if I haven\u2019t too??\n\nThis is really annoying me, since this isn\u2019t at all what I intended it to be and I feel like the trip would be much different now if her best friend does come. I\u2019m at the point where I almost want to not pay for my mom\u2019s ticket anymore, because I wanted it to be a trip for me and her, not here and her friend. But of course, if I don\u2019t pay, my mom won\u2019t be coming with me and won\u2019t be able to see her family. So, AITA here, and WIBTA if I did tell her I didn\u2019t want to pay for her anymore?\n\nTL;DR: Mom invited her best friend on a trip to visit family that I was going to pay her way for and calls me selfish for not wanting the best friend to come because \u201cshe wants to go too.\u201d\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8LXTAb304j6P6iBzAME5nVrXHTZZEYkj", "post_id": "ajf302", "action": {"description": "telling my team mate to use his brain", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for telling my team mate to use his brain?", "text": "Every wednesday at 7 pm we play in a CSGO tournament. Every single wednesday one guy on my team asks when we play and sometimes that he can't play today instead of telling us in advance. Yesterday he showed up 5 hours ahead of the game to tell us he couldn't play. Today he asks what time the match is and the first couple of times I answered by saying 7 pm. This has gone on for weeks and today I said \"Same time as always\" and he answered \"Is it that hard to say 7 pm?\" I answered back \"Is it that hard to use your brain?\". Now he refuses to play in the match we had to move to today because he couldn't play yesterday. AITA for telling him to use his brain after he has pulled this shit 6 weeks in a row?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "FzL4KuvyJOv458GgyREu3ZnSqK2rAYCl", "post_id": "9tfo87", "action": {"description": "starting ghosting her", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I started ghosting her?", "text": "Alright so there\u2019s thing some guys tend to do when they get rejected, and that\u2019s just stop talking to the girl altogether. I recently confessed to a girl and she politely declined and I understood, we both agreed to stay as friends. I\u2019ve been trying to start conversation or text her in an effort to be a friend like she agreed, but she always just dry texts me back. Stuff like, \u201clol yeah\u201d or \u201cthanks lol\u201d she\u2019s been making it crazy difficult to \u201cbe a friend\u201d like she agreed and I don\u2019t want to come off as one of those dudes who stop talking to her because she rejected me. So WIBTA if I just stopped trying to be her friend?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VbXRdEyUSbig3FkRRBHmIZWltAC5r07P", "post_id": "ao5usd", "action": {"description": "not wanting to split the cost of an expensive hotel with my partner when a perfectly good alternative is free for both of us", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to split the cost of an expensive hotel with my partner when a perfectly good alternative is free for both of us?", "text": "My girlfriend is standing up in her best friend's wedding, I'll be her plus one. It's across the country over a holiday weekend, perfect.\n\nI travel for work regularly and have status/points in most travel programs (hotels, rental cars, etc.) I often use my points for both of us when we travel, which I don't mind at all. I offered to use my hotel points to book a nice Marriott property for our 2-night stay.\n\nMy girlfriend is now insisting that we stay at the designated hotel with the wedding party/family. That boutique hotel is not a part of my travel program, costs \\~$250/night, and is a ten minute walk from the hotel I've already booked for free. I understand that being closer may be important to her, but I' already spending a lot of my time and money just to be there -- for a couple that I'm not even friends with.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "v0xNLdBaEqQvktzxPDFir8lsQw7uMb8P", "post_id": "aismr6", "action": {"description": "wanting a pic my friend took of me", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting a pic my friend took of me?", "text": "so my friend and I were hanging out in my garage and I was playing some bass, and he started taking some pictures of me, no big deal. Anyways he is taking a photography class and developed them and got a grade. I thought the picture was cool so I asked if I could have it, and he said absolutely no. Note the picture doesn't have my face in it or anything and you can't tell who I am, but I would like the picture and he doesn't want to give it to me. So AITA? \nP.S. It's a film camera so that's why we can't share the pic", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "E0nEBKciv0v50WW1US6wWo17Uqo1vz7b", "post_id": "b3nwfi", "action": {"description": "telling him to stop eating my food", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA to tell him to stop eating my food?", "text": "I have a friend of a friend who has been occasionally staying in my apartment when me or my roommate are away on weekends. Initially he stayed with us on a two week sublet as I was on a work trip, so it worked out perfectly. At that time I told him he was welcome to finish off my food, since I was gone for weeks. He doesn't live in our city, but often visits and needs a place to stay for a few days, and I need someone to feed my cat, so it's been a good mutual arrangement. \n\nI came back from a recent 5-day trip, exhausted and hungry. He's considerate in taking off the bedding and sheets before he leaves, though the house is a bit messier than it was, but this time I opened the fridge and it was totally empty. He'd cleared out all my food, cheeses, almond butter (that I brought in a suitcase from the US) and I had nothing left. It's been pissing me off, because he doesn't seem to be aware how expensive some of the stuff he's eating is. I'm pretty sparing and I'll make stuff last for ages, and then after one stay of his, it's gone and I have to restock everything.\n\nI'm torn about letting it go and just accepting it as a cost -- he did take care of my cat--or asking him politely in future to just eat the perishable food, but I don't even know how you go about asking that without sounding like a petty asshole? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "N05C3smeI4QFwSDhudiqV1lupcx6Aj33", "post_id": "b5xslz", "action": {"description": "reporting a former friend to the police", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for reporting a former friend to the police", "text": ". A former good friend started being distant after I refused his advances. A girl contacted me and confided that he had groomed her, and was flirting with underage girls so he could have sex with them the minute they became legal, then ditch them. This is a crime in my country. She sent printscreens that looked dodgy. I mentioned this to said former friend in an argument where I cut him off for stabbing me in the back. Didn't say I was going to make them public or anything like that and his response was to immediately block me. This made me suspicious but still not overwhelmingly convinced. Former friend then spent 3 months on a total smear campaign about me. Since I had blocked him on messenger (he blocked my entire fb profile as soon as he read my message saying I had seen dodgy stuff about the way he treats underage girls) and mails people I'm friends with , badmouthing me, taunting them etc. During this time, more girls came forward confirming he had done the same things to them when they were underage, and one even saying he had slept with an underager.\n\nThis was incredibly alarming so I brought police attention to it.  Police said I was right to call as this is a concern, and that they'll need to talk to the actual victims to move forward. I tell the girls this and they agree to do that. That marks the end of my involvement. Someone said former friend finds out a couple of hours later , and now everyone's calling me an asshole and posting statuses about me on FB, calling me a liar, accusing me of trying to ruin his life because I'm \"jealous\", mailing everyone I know calling me a liar. The girls' timelines all check out, and the former friend was always *extremely* questionable when it came to girls, so I'm on the fence. Especially after his reaction/the last 3 months. Even though I stated this when defending myself, people are now harassing me via inbox, messaging others etc. and saying I'm wrong for contacting the police and \"butting in and reporting stupid stuff over facebook\". The thing is if I didn't report it, and the allegations the girls were making were 100% true, then I would feel guilty like hell for not reporting it.\n\nPeople are asking for the printscreens, but if he's done this to me, I could only imagine what he would do to his alleged victims so I won't reveal names/reveal printscreens. AITA for reporting him to the police or should I have just stayed out of it? I feel like I did the right thing, but the amount of hate and ostracisation I'm getting is now making me second guess myself. I have severe depression and anxiety and the way people have consistently came at me today is making my mental state worse, even though my close friends have told me I was right to report.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7yHvgUJPLnhYfYdc8fe1cA38yYq3a3Nm", "post_id": "b0lyow", "action": {"description": "having an abortion behind my boyfriend's back", "pronormative_score": 106, "contranormative_score": 23}, "title": "AITA for having an abortion behind my boyfriend's back ?", "text": "In December, my boyfriend and I had sex and the condom broke. I didn't think of using plan B as I have PCOS and was told it would be hard for me to have children without treatment, so at that point I was mostly worried about STDs. One month later I bought a pregnancy test as my period was late and it came back positive right away. I can't describe how I felt at that moment, I was euphoric because I realized I could have children but also terrified because I knew I wouldn't be able to keep my baby although I wanted it more than anything in the world.\n\n​\n\nI come from a very very conservative family, honour killings are frequent where my parents are from. I'm not allowed to date, let alone have sex before marriage, so them knowing about the pregnancy would be a death sentence for me. My cousin was severly beaten up by her father and brothers for hanging out with a boy after school. If they found out, they would take me to their home country and kill me there, and no one would know about it. They would also find a way to hurt my boyfriend. My parents trust me entirely and think I'm a virgin, they would lose their mind over this. \n\n​\n\nMy boyfriend and I have often talked about what we would do if I got pregnant. He told me he would be there for me, get a full time job, an appartment. He always said it would be a blessing to have kids with me. I have told him about how my parents would react but he wouldn't understand. He thought they would be mad at me but would eventually let it go, but I know my parents and they would definetly not react this way. If my boyfriend found out I was pregnant he would'nt have let me get an abortion. I know he would have been thrilled to be a father.\n\n​\n\nSo when I found out I was pregnant I knew what I had to do, but I was terrified, angry and disgusted at myself for doing this to my baby. I was nine weeks pregnant when I had a medical abortion at the hospital all by myself. \n\nI keep thinking about what would have happened if I was born into a different, more tolerant family. It's been five weeks since the abortion and I feel extremely disgusted with myself for doing this behind my boyfriend's back. It was his baby too and I really wish we could have kept it.\n\n​\n\ntl;dr : I got pregnant and got an abortion to avoid being a victim of honour killing. I hid the pregnancy and abortion from my boyfriend because he would have wanted me to keep it, and doesn't believe what my parents are capable of in order to save their \"honour\". AITA ?\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 20, "OTHER": 72, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 34, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 106, "WRONG": 23}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4NTL6z9A96z2gVaSiV7UP5PqfY06KQpi", "post_id": "b0rc6r", "action": {"description": "wanting my dad and stepmom to give back my foster brother", "pronormative_score": 27, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for wanting my dad and stepmom to give back my foster brother?", "text": "My dad and stepmom have 4 foster children, the youngest of whom is 9 and has been with them for about 9 months. I think he's a legitimate phychopath, which is why he has been through 28 homes. I find him very creepy with how he studies things, the types of questions he asks and how he treats those he thinks are weaker than him. His behavior is often disturbing. \n\nI am in my 30's and live 1800km away.  They are visiting my little family for a few days and I have watched him allow my 1 year old to climb up his legs to stand and then kick him down. I've watched him taunt the dog with a toy, and when my dog finally got the toy, he slapped her quite hard a cross the face and called her a bad dog. He actively terrorizes the cat (who recently had hip surgery) and thinks it's funny when she tries to run away from him, but she can't because she's hurt. I have addressed each one of these circumstances and each time it's \"They were being mean to me. \" or \"No I didn't.\"\n\nMy other cat recently passed and he deliberately calls her by the wrong name to ask how she died. This question comes up several times a day and each time I say that she had cancer, but I don't think that's the type of answer he's looking for. Either he wants to know specifically about the death part, or he's trying to hurt me. The way he studies my face when he asks is the creepiest thing I've ever experienced.\n\nHe also becomes very angry at the drop of a hat over perceived sleights like helping to clean a mess he didn't make or a request to help with setting the whole table instead of just his spot. \n\nAITA for wanting my parents to remove him from their lives and the lives of the rest of the kids (who I absolutely love and consider my family, the system be damned). I don't think they can benefit him and I know for a fact he isn't benefiting their family. That being said, I'm not a psychologist of any kind and I don't know what traumas he has experienced. Maybe he really does need them. How can I not BTA for hating on a little kid so much?  I don't even live anywhere near them, how can I even have an opinion on this without BTA? I'm just afraid of what adolescence is going to do to him and I really don't want him anywhere near my baby or fur babies. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 26, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 27, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5I1O69SbV31pPas1tFDNwSJYlf5ajFJe", "post_id": "avhzed", "action": {"description": "not wanting to continuously hear about my gfs heritage", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to continuously hear about my GFs heritage?", "text": "She\u2019s from New York and is Dominican. So naturally she\u2019s always bragging (there might be a better word) about it. But she is so damn long winded, constantly repeating things over and over. I can\u2019t stand to be in these conversations that you just can\u2019t escape and they just keep going and going and going and going. \n\n\u201cNew York\u2019s food is the best, OMG NO the bodaga, the bodaga on the corner, the fucking best sandwich\u2019s OMG NO you don\u2019t under stand the best and oh the dancing the dancing is so fun and the parades omg the parades and my people from my island and and....\u201d \n\nIt. just. Doesn\u2019t. Stop. It\u2019s the only thing she wants to talk about, where she\u2019s from. Like, it\u2019s cool and all but I could give two shits about where I\u2019m from. I could not imagine moving somewhere and this being a thing I do. It\u2019s just a bunch of small talk that doesn\u2019t mean all that much, you know?\n\nSo I was just sitting down eating with her while she rattled on and on about New York and the island, not saying anything, just eating cause I was fucking starved and she looks at me like \u201coh you\u2019re not interested?\u201d\n\nAnd I said \u201cno, not really, i mean...\u201d \n\nShe got all pissy and stormed off. \u201cOh ok what I want to talk about isn\u2019t interesting, right, that\u2019s how you feel, right\u201d \n\nI told her I think it\u2019s just a meaningless conversation, you\u2019re just going on about how great it is. Like cool but I just don\u2019t care that much. And I\u2019m trying to eat...\n\nAITA? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "K9xlpzHagYpoJ88Z7UY3dKWs45bd08uc", "post_id": "ah62rm", "action": {"description": "going radio silence on a girl after she bailed on our date", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA For going radio silence on a girl after she bailed on our date?", "text": "So I've been going out with this girl for a few months now, nothing super serious but we did have a little fling last summer so when we started dating we jumped to seeing each other very regularly pretty much immediately. \n\nWe haven't seen each other in a couple weeks, mostly due to her irregular work schedule, she's a bartender and has been working a lot more than usual recently. That's been a little frustrating but understandable. My real annoyance comes from that over the past couple weeks she's made 4 dates with me, and then bailed pretty close to the date each time. Excuses were pretty much always work related, and I definitely understand having to pick up a last minute shift, or having a really trying day and being too tired to go out. On the other hand I can't help but be unhappy with the situation. \n\nThat brings us to the current situation, I asked her last weekend when she would be free next because I'd like to see her. She responded that she was going to be getting off early on Wednesday and we should go out after. I agreed and planned on seeing her Wednesday night. Wednesday morning she texts me to ask if we're still going out, I confirm and we agree I'll pick her up from work. \n\nLater on in the day she texts me to say she still wants to go out, but she's gotta be home by 10:30. I was a little disappointed because she often doesn't get off until 9:00 or so, but it had been a couple weeks since I'd seen her so I agreed and told her to let me know when she would be off. She assured me again it would be early because Wednesdays are slow. \n\n9:00pm rolls around and I haven't heard from her, so I text to ask if she is still stuck at work. No response. \n\nToday, she finally texted me back over 24 hours later. The text just said \"I lost my phone \ud83d\udc80\ud83d\udc80\ud83d\udc80.\" I sort of doubt the truthfulness of that, but even if it were true I kinda feel like there's any number of ways she could have cancelled on me. Besides surely bailing on a fifth date in a row, this time with no contact, should warrant some kind of apology. \n\nAnyway I haven't texted her back, and I kind of don't plan to. I had discussed the situation with my best friend, and he told me not texting her back is a dick move. Am I the asshole if the way I prefer to handle it is just to kind of stop talking to her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "iDN26ALrCt2fm7Ya2PNTrwvZOYkpvt5U", "post_id": "ahtc9x", "action": {"description": "being disappointed my friend got me a different gift to the one I've been hinting heavily about? sorry", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for being disappointed my friend got me a different gift to the one I\u2019ve been hinting heavily about? Sorry", "text": "First up, on mobile yada yada, throwaway so it can\u2019t be tied back to me, friendo is active on cringe subs and I dunno if this counts so playing it safe, with that out the way, on with the show.\n\nSo for a while now I\u2019ve been talking to this friend online, we\u2019ve become really close, shared a whole lotta shit that hasn\u2019t really been shared to other people, point is, we\u2019re really close.\n\nNow going back a bit, we\u2019ve a history of getting each other games as gifts, typically things we want to play with each other but one or the other of us is in a bit of a tough spot financially, so we nab it for them, never really anything expensive, just more indie stuff, usually $20-30 tops.\n\nNow it being Christmas and all recently I decided I\u2019d get them something special, and I know they\u2019d been wanting to try this game, it was more expensive than our usual sort of game (not AAA, but that sort of pricing), but they\u2019d really enjoyed the last in the series and had been saying they wanted to check it out when they got the money, so I figured why not.\n\nAt the time they didn\u2019t get me anything, but I was fine with that cause again, money, and also I\u2019m really bad at accepting gifts so I sorta refused to say if I wanted anything (though in fairness at the time there wasn\u2019t really anything I was looking into that was particularly cheap).\n\nSo anyway, time passes by and a YouTuber I watch starts up a new series of an older game that I really get into watching and want to play, as it so happens my friend has the game and had been playing it recently, so I dropped a few not so subtle hints about really wanting to play it at some point, to be absolutely clear this wasn\u2019t a demand for them to get me it or anything, more trying to get it in their mind for the next time they were looking at getting me something.\n\nRight now with (most) of the backstory out the way, on with the potential assholery. Recently friendo has been going through a bit of a rough time, and I\u2019ve been trying to help them out as best as I can, and I guess they wanted to reward me (personally I don\u2019t really feel it\u2019s warranted, but I\u2019m grateful nonetheless), and so in our typical fashion they decided to pick me up a game\n\nNow they\u2019re also a frequent watcher of the youtubes, and someone they follow started playing a game very similar to the game I\u2019ve rather unsubtly hinted at, and have been asking what I think of it. I\u2019ve said I think it looks good, but Whilst I haven\u2019t outright said it, I\u2019ve tried to hint I\u2019d prefer the other one (which I\u2019d like to add is cheaper than the game friendo was talking about).\n\nTo round it up, friendo ended up getting me the second game, and whilst I\u2019m grateful for the thought, I\u2019m finding myself disappointed that they got me it instead of the other game I\u2019ve been hinting at for weeks, I haven\u2019t shown this at all to them, and I fully intend to give the game a go, I just wanted a second (or however many people) opinion on if I\u2019m an asshole for being disappointed, and if I\u2019d be the asshole if I kept hinting about the other game after a little while?\n\nApologies for the long post, TLDR:\nFriend who I\u2019ve been hinting at wanting a certain game for a while got me another game of the same genre(?). AITA for being a little disappointed they got me the other game instead?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "BJvaRla5VHJfIslTdnh4RIsmtUaVPp3t", "post_id": "a8d33k", "action": {"description": "lashing out to my girlfriend for her jokes", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA if I lashed out to my girlfriend for her jokes?", "text": "My girlfriend (19F) lately have been finding quite the enjoyment out of some of my(22M) errors or lack of knowledge of some stuff and from time to time she really holds onto it for the moment. Yes sometimes it's funny but she's been overstepping it. \n\nI've told her before that it's a bit uncomfortable to take it knowing that I don't make a joke out of her mistakes or misunderstandings because I know myself and my type humour I could take it far, so I avoid doing that out of respect. \n\nYesterday we were talking about food and I didn't know some stuff and she started again with it, I went on a bit of a rant about how she could joke about that but couldn't take a shit joke about her because she would get mad easily, and just hanged up the phone. \n\nAITA for lashing out or is it comprehensible?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2FQhwpxbSY3eFFemevtU6H1KCp4EgM0S", "post_id": "a35bje", "action": {"description": "not wanting to answer my family's technology questions all the time", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to answer my family's technology questions all the time?", "text": "I can't go one week without my technologically illiterate family members calling me or texting me about their latest dumpster fire of a problem.\n\nI have reset my Aunt's passwords for her email accounts, Facebook and Spotify at least 5 times in the last year. I always make her write down the passwords that she comes up with and she always forgets them. Most recently she decided to get a new phone and switched from the easy to use iPhone platform that she has been using for years to Android and she's pissed that \"My Spotify isn't on here, and they told me it would transfer.\" Spotify WAS on her phone, she's just too stupid to realize she needs to sign into it and as we all know history likes to repeat itself so of course, she doesn't know the username or password.\n\nMy other Aunt can't remember her email password. Doesn't have access to the recovery email and doesn't know her secret questions. Yet I'm the jerk for not wanting to help her sort it out.\n  \nThey always love to say \"But you helped me set up the password\" when I tell them I don't remember it. I don't know in what world a person is expected to keep track of someone else's passwords but I don't live in it, I've got enough passwords of my own to keep track of, not to mention the fact that I watched them write it down last time we reset it. \n\nI love my Dad but how many times can I show him how to switch his Chrome default search engine back to Google before I lose my shit and just stop helping? \n\nIt feels like the only time my family calls me is if they have a question about their computer or phone, and I can't stand it. I work on an IT helpdesk all day talking to idiots. I wish they would just recognize that I don't want to sit and answer IT questions and fix issues that wouldn't be issues if they would just fucking listen.\n\nThis Thanksgiving within 5 minutes of me arriving I'm being asked to look at problems with 3 peoples phones and fix my Dad's web browser again for the 10th time this year. Along with other Family asking if I can drive over an hour to come figure out why their WiFi isn't working right, and to make it worse my father decides to say \"Oh yeah, he can come up with us when we come up to your house for Christmas Eve this year.\" \n\nMy Family doesn't realize that I'm beginning to resent them because the only thing they ever want from me is free IT help. \n\nTLDR: Family is bad with technology, I'm at the end of my rope when it comes to helping them. They never learn anything or make any effort to stop the problem from happening again in the future. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "t69hcZYcIAVAVRaeitVODFrox8du5lrQ", "post_id": "b990vt", "action": {"description": "looking through my bosses deleted reddit history", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for looking through my bosses deleted reddit history?", "text": "So my boss is an avid redditor, and recently his alt account was leaked. He found out, and deleted everything he has ever posted. As most people know,  nothing deleted stay gone forever on reddit.\n\nWhen I heard about this account I decided to look at it, because of morbid curiosity and I was told he'd found my main account (where I've ranted about him quite a few times) and I just wanted to see if there was anything fun to poke fun at him about, or things he'd never actually say in real life.\n\nWhat I found was so much worse.\n\nHe made a post in one of the depression support subreddits about his wife having an extreme depressive episode. He's never been secretive about his struggles with depression and his dark thoughts, but he specifically mentioned that she didn't know he was posting. \n\nHe also had a separate post where he talked about a big falling out he and his father had over the holidays, that was a really personal and really intense account of the situation. \n\nIt was the kind of thing nobody he knew was ever supposed to read.\n\nObviously I'm never going to tell him that I know. I'm not supposed to, and I feel extremely guilty for knowing. On the one hand, he deleted it because he didn't want people he knew to read it. On the other, once posted on the internet it's there forever. \n\nI just feel like the asshole.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YcRho4RlmW9wX4GsYt5loHBzMOHhATZG", "post_id": "ar2z2r", "action": {"description": "telling this girl she was the asshole", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling this girl she was the asshole?", "text": "So I was over on the Entitled Bitch sub and this girl was posting about how mean her roommates are. Except she admitted to not cleaning and replacing toilet paper BEC type stuff. Until she said that she left a shattered bottle of sparkling grape juice AND THEN JUST LEFT TO CATCH HER BUS! Then had the audacity to complain about her poor roommates reactions. Her daddy said she was right tho. So I told her that she was the entitled bitch in that scenario, a long with several other people. She called me a jerk and blocked me. I took a few screen shots of my/her comments but I don't know how to post them bc this is my first actual post as opposed to lurking and commenting lol. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "h2bZrZFibUMjsi6lLaIEFU5K0VI9UuUZ", "post_id": "b9widu", "action": {"description": "asking my husband to cover the increase in our insurance after an accident he caused", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I ask my husband to cover the increase in our insurance after an accident he caused?", "text": "We've been married for 2 1/2 years and our finances are almost completely separate. Our Auto insurance is combined to one policy, but we each pay separately for our individual coverage every month. \n\nI got an email this morning stating that our renewal was ready for review. I logged in to check out the paperwork and saw that our rates increased by about $80 a month total.  \n\nI called our insurance company and asked what was going on, to find out that my husband was at fault for an accident back in October. I knew about a large dent in his front bumper, but he told me he had hit a guard rail and it was just cosmetic damage. Never mentioned anything about an insurance claim. \n\nI feel a bit conflicted about how to handle this. Both of our individual rates increased, and we would normally pay for those separately. However,  I think he should cover the total increase since he caused the accident and then LIED to me about it. \n\nIt's not that much money at the end of the day and maybe I'm just pissed right now. We'll have to have a serious talk about the lying regardless, but WIBTA if I ask him to cover the full $80.00 per month increase?\n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uTFOERjFwFyP4sXV03k14qtQ843ICsd0", "post_id": "ak5mmo", "action": {"description": "not talking to her after our Hookup", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA For not talking to Her after our Hookup?", "text": "So, I met this girl, Cindy about a month ago, and we've been flirting for quite sometime. To me it was pretty clear that it was not serious, and at most a hookup, since I never said any of that feely shit, since I generally don't like talking to girls I hook up with afterwards, unless I know them well. However, during the hookup, which fyi happened last sunday, it became clear that she was insecure, possibly a bit attached to me, and possibly a virgin, since I had to explain some pretty basic concepts to her. \n\nAnyway, the hookup thing was fine, but nothing special, so I did what I normally do, I thanked her for the night, and sent her some generic texts, and sort of started disappearing. However, I got several texts from her asking when we were gonna go out next time, and that sort of stuff, which I've ignored, since I don't want any relationship type shit with her, or anyone really. A mutual friend said she has feelings for me, which I basically laughed off, since Imo, we did the deed, and are pretty much done. I don't plan on seeing her, or talking to her that much, just becasue I'm not much for doing that stuff, but she still me, and seems to be a bit upset. AITA here, I did what I planned to do, and I'm done.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "EjS2i5GailutufCTw38CuQ4guGldgsbV", "post_id": "aqb8cl", "action": {"description": "not turning down a girl at a wedding", "pronormative_score": 77, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for not turning down a girl at a wedding?", "text": "So over the weekend my ex got married and I was invited to the wedding. It was kinda weird but I am really close with the groom and frankly his whole family so it wasn't that surprising.\n\nBut a couple of days before the wedding the soon to be bride told me that I wasn't allowed to hit on any women at her wedding. Which I thought was really weird to make such a direct demand but whatever it was her wedding.\n\nSo at the wedding I am having a good time, I am drinking, mingling, and dancing and just having a good time. I am not out trying to pick up anyone but I am having a good time. As the reception is winding down one of the bridesmaids asked me what my plans were for the night and invites me to her hotel room and I agreed.\n\nThe bride is now pretty pissed at me. 1 I don't know why it bothers her so much, seems strange and 2 I didn't break my promise, she picked me up not the other way around.\n\nSo am I an asshole for not rejecting a girl at my ex's wedding?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 76, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 77, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wZzb5fWs3TWaEgREqb9yQloM87NYuxGp", "post_id": "aakco6", "action": {"description": "telling my mom not to come to graduation", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my mom not to come to graduation?", "text": "Well, where to start? I haven't talked with my mother regularly in two years and I think it took me a lot to get to that point. I guess I'll split this up by major events?\n\n2 years ago, pre-wedding:\n\nThere was a large family event, small-family (less than 20 with cousins and aunts) but the event was big enough to get most of them together, my mother was not explicitly invited.\n\nMy mother was not invited because the person getting married and she had not on spoken in years. It was decided that she would be allowed to act as a plus-one to any member that wanted to take her and basically everyone offered. My mom took to this as being a huge sign of disrespect, not getting an explicit invitation, and chose not to come. Eventually asking me not to participate either. I chose to go because I hadn't seen some of these cousins in years.\n\nThe out-of-town family was staying the weekend so I asked if we wanted to go to a theme park. Everyone ended up thinking it was a great idea. I invited my mom but then my aunt decided to go and my mom blew up. Also choosing not to go to that either. She had made it about herself, as if the theme park visit was about family getting to see her. At this point, I guess she decided she was having an argument with her sister.\n\nSo, I was casually asked to not go. I think a week or two before my mom tried to make plans for the weekend of the wedding to which I think I initially agreed. I think it was spring break maybe summer, I'm at uni hence the title. Once I realized the dates I made it clear I couldn't hang out with her. I think this is when I thought of going to the park and invited her.\n\n​\n\n2 years ago, post-wedding:\n\nMost of the family hung out excluding my mother. She chose not to come. I even pleaded for her to participate and it was a constant will she won't she. By the end of it, right as I was driving home, I think she sent a several \"page\" text (it's not really pages on iPhone anymore but you get the point?) maybe saying sorry but it quickly broke down into an argument. When arguing with her it's just so stressful trying to get all these things across and never getting a chance so I got to the point of finally saying alright express all you grievances so I can get my turn. It ended with her saying this aunt raped her with a water hose before I was born. She had never mentioned this and I don't really understand how this was relevant to the situation. It felt manipulative and I couldn't really process anything at all anymore so I told her she needed to leave me alone. \n\nI blocked her from my phone and that's really the only way to get a hold of me. She has my main email address and I never let it get out of control but shes never emailed. I could no longer handle the instability and unpredictability of her meltdowns. I think I had recently told her that and then like a day later a meltdown happened. It was like she was pretending not to hear me and would specifically do what I told her stressed me out.\n\nFast forward 1 year ago:\n\nThere was another wedding and literally, everyone was invited. I hadn't talked to my mother since the last one. I didn't sit with her at the ceremony or the after thing (the dance/ eating/ party thing after the church. I get confused on the terms, sorry.). I got pretty drunk and I think I started talking to her about my 17 years younger half-brother. He's basically illiterate and now aged in the double digits. I think she left shortly after? I know another aunt came over and tried to reconcile differences at some point. Deciding she would mediate but I think she had chosen to fight for my mom so not true meditation.  I know I got way drunk I can't remember much? I don't think I talked to my mom during this time through text.\n\nWithin a week:\n\nI've been doing great! I was constantly a nervous wreck most of my life. I always had terrible acne but I've been getting good sleep and eating well. My face is clear, I make great grades, and I'm making friends.\n\nI play Fortnite with my little brother and he has expressed that he planned on going to graduation. I texted my mother at the start of this semester, my senior year, to start coordinating plans for graduation. Earlier last week I texted her and asked if it would be okay to call, she agreed. The phone call went well. She was acting very nervous at first but I can't really guess why. She was like almost expecting a certain thing but sounded generally happy. I think she thought I was calling because I was like dying or something? I ended up having to hang up because of a quick emergency. So, I texted her back 5 minutes later and said it was good talking to you and said sorry for just springing up out of nowhere to talk. She responded with a massive text talking about how much I hurt her and that she'll remember these things \"until the day I die\" saying she left the most recent wedding early because of me. I accepted fault and said I was pretty drunk. Then it was just text after text of her resaying all the same stuff and not really listening to what I had to say. Similar to the last time we texted and maybe as it has always been?\n\nI recently read a book, the laws of human nature, and I have been considering peoples backgrounds when how they act. I have learned to understand my mother's behavior and I was trying to forgive her. I don't want to act the way she acts. This book explains it is very likely I will fall into the same habits if I don't stay conscious about it. I don't know why I reached out, I guess it's my mom. I want to be able to have a stable relationship.  \n\nAnyway, I asked my mom if it would be okay if I visit over the current winter break. She started sending all the texts about how disrespectful I was and that there need to be rules I have to accept if I'm to see my little brother. Honestly, it has been two years and she had acted cool in the texts earlier this semester about coming to graduation. Well, I didn't like the tone of the conversation so I said we would go back to not talking. She started being whishy-washy and tried to make it sound like it was her idea to not talk? Idk it sounds petty but I think it is relevant to say it was my choice.\n\nPrevious 24 hours:\n\nShe is obviously pissed and was talking about years of grief. When I expressed one thing specifically that she constantly makes me feel bad about she acted as if she was never mad about that and made it seem like it was actually me who was mad over this event 14 years in the past. She graduated from college and moved me into my dads while she lived with the aunt I mentioned earlier. I decided to stay with my dad once she got an apartment and shes always told me how it hurt her and never accepts an apology for it. I mentioned this grievance and she made it seem like she was never mad about me staying with my dad and that she thought I was the one mad this whole time. Like what do I even have to be mad about that I stayed living with my dad?\n\nI decided to uninvite her to my graduation. It is way too much stress. She hasn't helped me with the price of a cheeseburger since I started. She never really makes me feel good about myself. I just don't want to talk to her at all anymore. I've started a new book about surviving psychological abuse and she is a textbook abuser. \\*cue I can see clearly now\\*. \n\nI texted her and I think I'll just copy paste? me: Well, I put a lot of thought into it. I don\u2019t want you at my graduation. I\u2019m no longer interested in maintaining a relationship. You had a lot of terrible things to say and if I ever try to explain how you make me feel you minimize or ignore it maybe you say I have the wrong memory all-together. Anyway, I don\u2019t wanna deal with it anymore. I was really trying to be nice when I reached out, you\u2019re very angry. I think you project a lot so I feel like I sound like you when I\u2019m trying to explain what you do but that\u2019s for you to figure out! Bye I guess \n\nHer: You know what Erick, I\u2019m done with you son. You\u2019ve been so disrespectful and shitty towards me since you were about 11. You\u2019ve got issues, and you need to grow up! I\u2019m a good mom and was a \u201cgreat\u201d mom to you. You totally don\u2019t deserve me. Thank God I have \\[little bro\\] because if all I had as a reference as a mom and you were my only child I\u2019d probably have shot myself. Don\u2019t contact me again.\n\nSo, grand-finale, my mother just told me she would have killed herself if I was her only son and that I've been terrible since I was 11? Who gets mad at an 11-year-old. She has a social work degree, I would think they tell you it is never the child's fault?\n\nI think I'm better off. I think she's being manipulative and knows full well what she does.\n\nTL;DR  First, I think you need to read it all, I know I needed to write it! Haven't talked to my mom in 2 years. She hasn't talked with most of her family in as long or much much longer. I told her she is not invited to my college graduation and that I don't want to talk to her anymore. She said she would have killed herself if I was her only son and to not contact her anymore.\n\nJust here for the judgment. AMIA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "J7jwPEZ2435wkOagDy3wxKBFQfGRE8lU", "post_id": "azxtxw", "action": {"description": "not wanting to take care of my elderly father", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA If I don\u2019t want to take care of my elderly father", "text": "My eighty year old father who is mentally ok but physically not the best, loses balance constantly and falls on the regular. Could no longer afford living in his home nor could he manage living on his own. My sister is handicapped and living on her own (which she shouldn\u2019t because she keeps falling mainly because she is obese and a hoarder in addition to her disability). My brother lives on the other side of the country and has made it known he wants nothing to do with helping with the situation. Mom died a few years ago. EVERYTHING was placed on my shoulders to move dad and sell the house etc etc etc. now he\u2019s living with us. Zero room in my house for him, he\u2019s living in my dining room.  He\u2019s very needy and everyone in the house is just stressed with the lack of room and I\u2019m exhausted from him constantly needing help. Falling in the middle of the night(going to the bathroom), messing up his tv with the remote (counted yesterday 37 times he needed help just with the remote), showers, dressing, putting his shoes on, expecting me to make every meal and every snack, testing his blood, etc..I come home from working part time and the sink is full of dishes doesn\u2019t pick up after himself.  Also me taking him was assumed because there was no one else to take him. I was never asked not that I would have said no even though I want to. Sorry for the rant. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JFU3Sv4zVv5lEYzdbXWZAIg5c7Q7uYcr", "post_id": "a860fy", "action": {"description": "being upset that I was not included in my grade's holiday gift exchange", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset that I was not included in my grade\u2019s holiday gift exchange?", "text": "Earlier this week my grade had an annual secret Santa gift exchange event, which I only found out about the day before. I\u2019ve always participated in them, but this particular year I\u2019m involved in a special program where I spend the mornings at my high school and generally the afternoons (when I still have classes) at a university and do classes there, so I usually miss the class my grade does the exchange during.\n\nI brought it up with some classmates (not the teacher because I don\u2019t see her around a lot and I get nervous talking to them) and all they had to say that no one told them to tell me and that I was being salty. \n\nThat particular comment hurt (and albeit angered) me to an extent because I wasn\u2019t mad that I didn\u2019t get a gift like everybody else, but that I felt neglected and ignored that no one, not even the teacher or my close friends thought to include me in a tradition that circles around friendship and community. I should also add that since I miss virtually every afternoon with my class, I feel substantially isolated from them compared to previous years, and this secret Santa debacle has felt like being kicked when I\u2019m down.\n\nNeither of my parents think ITA, but that doesn\u2019t mean I\u2019m not, was I possibly overreacting?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0BhRx9gk3KUJjezKmvdc54z9eMlrk7bA", "post_id": "a9awvk", "action": {"description": "expecting family time", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for expecting family time?", "text": "This morning I woke up and saw my husband watching video game streams, his typical pastime. Later he said the streamers he was watching were having cash giveaways that required participation to be entered. He continued to watch while he covertly built the kids' bikes in the garage as I had asked, then left to run a last-minute grocery errand for dinner, then came home and went upstairs to watch more streaming. \n\nAfter wrapping gifts, I did dishes and put dinner in the oven, and asked him to turn it off to spend time with me with/without kids. He said no. That the stream was only for today and it is not okay for me to expect him to stop doing what he finds enjoyable just because I want him to do something I find enjoyable. But if I was okay letting him spend $100 on app purchases for this game (same one he's watching) that he'd shut it off no problem. But last year he spent a little over $2,000 on in-app purchases for this game, and after a lengthy discussion, said he wouldn't buy anymore. So I'm not a huge fan of okaying any more money for it.\n\nIt's almost 6pm and says he doesn't know when it will end, but that there are 2 more streamers left. I feel like the evening is almost over and I am so disappointed and feel saddened that he would rather watch games than spend time with me. Am I an asshole for being upset and having unrealistic expectations?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AzR47wUfeKVvFglYUvdZws9O8fq1OBn3", "post_id": "afht61", "action": {"description": "saying this to my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for saying this to my girlfriend", "text": "I (27M) and my gf (24F) were having a casual night in the bar and were heading to a place to eat some food. My gf was telling me about how she was surviving on having Cup Noodles during her survival days. With this, she jokingly mentioned that she was going on dates just to get food and save it for next day and blah blah. We were laughing about it and she said \"I didn't even have anything or any sex with them\" and I, in this light moment, jokingly said \"Oh really! You sure?\".And then, she was fuming and pissed off at me because of saying that and one thing led to another and we fought and left for home. According to me, I didn't mean to hurt her obviously but she thinks I call her 'slut'. So AITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OKyXjXnRgBxjdUzTVJ04QyJQlNOl5C5j", "post_id": "aiyhjx", "action": {"description": "suggesting to my fiance that we sleep in separate rooms", "pronormative_score": 162, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "AITA for suggesting to my fiance that we sleep in separate rooms?", "text": "Here's the background. I'm a light sleeper and prefer to have a quiet bedroom at night with no noise or distractions such as the TV.\nHe's a heavy sleeper, could probably fall asleep in 2.5 seconds in the middle of a rock concert and snores as loud as a train. Also he says he has to sleep with the TV on with the volume at about half of its potential. Although sometimes he compromises and lowers the volume about 3 points.\n\nEvery night, guaranteed, he will put on some stupid action movie with lots of explosions, gunshots, yelling and carcrashes then happily fall asleep while I'm tossing and turning. If I turn it down he'll wake up saying he can't hear it.... *in his sleep*\n\nTonight I had had enough of having shitty sleeps and went psycho and told him from now on, I'm sleeping in a separate room.\n\nHe thinks this is a terrible idea and that if we can't share a bed at night then what's the point of being a couple when we could just be roommates instead. But I just want a good night's sleep for once!\n\nSo Reddit, AITA?\n\nI'll add this for good measure. We've been together 8 years, engaged for 1 with 2 kids. I've been dealing with this for what feels like forever.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 155, "EVERYBODY": 9, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 162, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QCZ4BHL4cI8FTHAoE6K6TSEUOuSbJzVl", "post_id": "ar40fy", "action": {"description": "asking a mentally handicapped mans carer to move train carriages", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking a mentally handicapped mans carer to move train carriages?", "text": "In Australia, NSW the trains have designated quiet carriages, they\u2019re fully labeled and marked so it\u2019s not easy to miss. I ask people to be quiet all the time. Today a severely mentally handicapped gentleman, who was wheelchair bound and his carer get on to the last carriage of the train which is marked as a quiet carriage, the man was morning and screeching constantly and I asked the carer if he could move him into the next carriage because he was disturbing the silence. I honestly felt like an asshole but it\u2019s a hour long train ride and I could hear him over my headphones.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8T5cysv7vPLDkIy92aOjLgA3c9H4Ljwi", "post_id": "b2ftzm", "action": {"description": "not eating any food at a Dinner Party", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA If I Didn\u2019t Eat Any Food At A Dinner Party.", "text": "My parents and I went to a dinner party and the food there was terrible. I grabbed what I thought I would liked and ended up leaving it to rot in the garbage. My parents think it was very rude of me to grab all that food and not eat it, but the food was just plain bad. It was over salted and had a terrible after taste.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "y83Ouda8infddzDDxVNfzXLUGbXKduBY", "post_id": "apb09g", "action": {"description": "calling out my friend for ignoring my texts completely", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for calling out my friend for ignoring my texts completely.", "text": " My friend has been completely ignoring my texts as of late, so I finally called her out on it. I don't expect her to reply to every text under the sun, but there have been multiple times where I have initiated a question in order to hang out and have gotten no responses. Once or twice is fine, but for it to happen more than that finally got to me.  I kinda feel like shit, kinda don't once the conversation ended because she agreed with me that she was being rude. \n\n​\n\nFor context, she does have social anxiety, but in the past she has told me that she wasn't up to hanging out because of her mental illness which I one hundred percent respect and understand, but based on her Instagram stories and posts or whatever, I felt ignored. So I called her out on it. She told me agreed that it was rude and it kinda ended with that.  She told me that she doesn't have the mental energy to talk to anyone, but was able to go out of town with someone for a day trip. But I guess certain people calm other people down and I am still trying to understand the different versions of social anxiety because day in and day out it's different. \n\nThe last message that was sent was that I told her a simple message that she wasn't feeling well would've been enough and she just ended the conversation with \"okay\". The last \"seen\" message was me telling her that she can still talk to me if she needs someone to talk to with no response, but that's fine. She needs space I get it. I've probably lost  a friend, but it is what it is. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MuLaNDdwbc31eTnzCQbGjlSaTauBZbpz", "post_id": "ak8563", "action": {"description": "loudly heckling cat-callers", "pronormative_score": 40, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for loudly heckling cat-callers?", "text": "This is something I've been in the habit of doing for like two months now, ever since moving to a big city. Random dudes shouting at people has always been a pet peeve of mine (*watch me about to be a hypocrite*), so I've been experimenting with being the change you wanna see in the world, etc. \n\nAnyway when I see it happening I tend to loudly \"*booo!*\" them, like you would a villain in a silent movie. This pretty frequently earns me some cussing in return and the occasional threat of an ass-kicking, but I'm a fairly big fucker and no one has made good yet. \n\nBasically no one who's observed me doing this thinks I'm not an asshole for doing it. Guys think I'm a white knight who's cruising for a bruising. Girls think I'm just drawing attention to the situation and making it worse. My rationale is that, if I can make the experience uncomfortable for the cat-caller in question, maybe I can discourage the behavior. And maybe help to create an atmosphere of dudes telling other dudes to knock that shit off. Also, OK, I find it funny. But I could very well be an asshole and should maybe stop. Hence the question. \n\nThanks!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 40, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 40, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "c02MPzt3bX4KAvX3oEoYO3UcyvWvTyIj", "post_id": "b11jw2", "action": {"description": "not wanting to share my shampoo with my gf", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to share my shampoo with my GF", "text": "Me and my gf have been dating for couple years and living together for half a year now. We get along really well and haven't had big problems. If we did, we have survived everything well. However there's this problem where we strongly disagree: \n\nBecause I'm living in a permanent apartment and she moved from far away with little belongings, I have been generous and we have shared everything we have. Sometimes though I've been little annoyed, for example when she eats snacks I bought and reserved for myself without asking me, or if she just grabs my phone to play with it (even though there's nothing I want to hide from her). \n\nLast Christmas my family bought me a small bottle of fancy shampoo. My gf has a big bottle of shampoo for women. She has a long hair so she uses quite a lot of it. So when I started using the new shampoo my gf just casually asked before going to shower if she could use it. I thought for a while and said no. Maybe I was tired of sharing everything and wanted to have something, even small, of my own. Besides my family got it as a present for me, and I was afraid my gf would use 1/3 of the small bottle on her hair.\n\nShe got angry and stormed out of the room. She spend the next hour sulking locked in a room and when I tried to ask why she's mad she just said she feels uncomfortable if there's something I don't want to share with her and she doesn't want to talk with me.\n\nShould I just share literally everything, even gifts for me, with my gf or is it normal to want to have some personal items of your own in a relationship?\n\nTL;DR: Didn't share my gift-shampoo with my gf because I want to have something of my own, she got mad and will be uncomfortable if I don't share everything.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dU3RSRv49R0kzrSsc0KKV1kjnJqjjCVs", "post_id": "addosp", "action": {"description": "going to bed earlier than my roommate", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for going to bed earlier than my roommate?", "text": "We are both college freshman. The main conflict is that we have radically different sleep schedules. Rather, i have a schedule and he does not. I go to bed around 10-10:30, whereas he stays up until 12 with the lights on, playing video games and on his phone. He usually leaves around then and comes back at 1 am, and being clumsy as he is, makes it known thats hes back. He also keeps the room very hot which is difficult for me to sleep in.\n\nAll of these little pet peeves drive me crazy. I really value being able to have consitant sleep and as it is now its very difficult to get that. But, I worry that its my fault for not staying up late and going to parties at night and not living the college life. Am i being unreasonable? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8bvPAy2OtrYr4j81GdRDvIswQrgx3e7I", "post_id": "b4unjs", "action": {"description": "trying to clean the washing machine's filter and have it get stuck", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for trying to clean the washing machine's filter and have it get stuck?", "text": "Okay, so we have a dog in the apartment and thus lots of tiny hair that ends up on our clothes when playing with it. Hair accumulates on the machine washer's door and i figured that the filter might need a little bit of cleaning. I am living with my best friend in a rented apparent with one more guy. My friend and the other guy lived here before me and in my place lived a girl which I replaced. When i tried cleaning the filter, it got stuck because there were hair clips from the girl in the filter that jammed in between the filter and the washer, essentially getting the filter stuck. I couldn't put it in fully, i couldn't take it out.   \n\n\nThis is where the problem arises. My best friend (we've known each other since kindergarten, now we are 21-22) came in the kitchen and saw me fiddling with the filter and i told him it got stuck for unknown reasons ( at the time ). When he found out, he suddenly started blaming me and shaming me - \"Why don't you ask ME for \\*permission\\* to do things? Why do you do things on your own mind? Why do you think you can do everything on your own? Why do you think you can REPAIR the washing machine by yourself? Why do you think you know everything and can \\*fix\\* things on your own? Why do you constantly brake things that are none of your business? Why do you think you are a mechanic and feel the need to fiddle around? YOU BROKE THE WASHING MACHINE, I DON'T CARE, I WANT IT FIXED! Take responsibility for once in your life, you broke it and STOP complaining!\". Now, keep in mind that i haven't really fiddled with anything up to that point in that apt. I did tell him that its not my fault that it got stuck and i told him the reason why it happened, i followed the manual and i only wanted to clean out the filter which is something normal to do with a washing machine in my mind. I would've paid for repairs \\*if needed\\*, the thing was in warranty too, hell, i would've paid for the darn whole washing machine too.  \n\n\nSo am I the asshole? I only tried cleaning out the filter and it jammed for reasons beyond me.. I fixed the issue by myself and he didn't offer any help. Am i the asshole for \\*breaking\\* the washer and \\*complaining\\* that it is not my fault that this happened ( though i held responsibility to fix it ), or is my friend the asshole for shouting at me and pointing fingers at me and blaming me for absolutely everything possible? I asked my father and he said i am in the wrong since I got the filter stuck and I shouldn't be offended by my friend's reaction.  \n\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EFZOS8FmbYC1c6qw0ZM2TbmjdrJHfAAi", "post_id": "ataimh", "action": {"description": "wanting to cut off a manipulative friend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to cut off a manipulative friend?", "text": "First post and I'm on mobile.\n\nThis might be long.\n\nA couple days ago, my friend flipped. She started ignoring us, and left our group chat. She said (after nobody responded to her), \"I guess you all hate me. I'm just going to leave then.\" I texted to ask if she was ok, but she wouldnt tell me what was wrong. She had also been talking about everyone in the group behind our backs. \n\nThe next day, my friend tried to come up to me in school and pretend like nothing had happened. I ignored her, and she yelled after me.\n\nThat day she asked someone to add her back to our group chat, and they did. She starts by saying \"I'm sorry I suck guys. I didnt mean to hurt your feelings. I love you.\" Nobody responded. I thought this was a little manipulative tbh.\n\nShe texts me and asks if she can explain. I say sure. She said she wasn't mad at us, but dealing with her own issues. I said fine. Whatever. I told her it sounded like a guilt trip to make us feel bad. Especially since she talked about how much we all hate her. She says she wanted someone to ask if she was ok because we should care about her. I tell her I DID ask if she was ok. She ignores that.\n\nShe then says that I attacked her by ignoring her? I said that that was playing the victim card. She yelled at me. I say that I would have offered help if she told me what was wrong, and she says that I \"attacked her for needing help.\" We go back and forth for a little while, until she goes onto the group chat that she was added back into.\n\nShe says, \"I know I said sorry before, but you guys are clearly still upset.\"\n\nI respond (in the group chat), \"I know I said sorry before, but you guys are clearly still upset = Its ridiculous that you guys are upset\"\n\nI called her out for manipulation. I said that she was trying to make our issues seem ridiculous and is trying to get us to apologize to her. She was the one talking about us and ignoring us. It's not fair for her to act like it's our fault for not forgiving her yet. \n\nShe calls me a crappy friend and a \"jerk.\" I call her the same. She says its ridiculous that I keep saying that she's manipulative, and I say that that's what it sounds like. I also add that others think so too. (It is actually true, multiple people told me they agreed.)\n\nA second friend and I kick her out of the group chat again. (We use a messaging app and you can do that). \n\nNow, about a week later, she texts someone in the group and asks to be added back into the chat. She says that it's not fair that I am keeping her away from her friends, but it wasn't just me. Anyone could add her back, but nobody has.\n\nI've told our group that I'm not interested in letting myself be walked all over, and people seem to agree. I want to cut her off from the group, but her best friend is in the group too and isn't so sure. So, AITA for wanting to cut her off or did she actually do nothing wrong?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "e9SsF3cgT6CsEOwA4WdBfAlDqVih5F8R", "post_id": "ash6n7", "action": {"description": "being weirded out my by fianc\u00e9s porn", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 17}, "title": "AITA for being weirded out my by fianc\u00e9s porn?", "text": "Porn has always been a big issue in our relationship. We have been together for 7 years and engaged for 3. \nToday upon opening my laptop I came across some incest porn. Obviously it wasn\u2019t me looking at this, and it left me pretty shook. \nI\u2019ve known my fianc\u00e9 likes milf porn and such, but I had no idea he was into THIS. We have 2 two year old girls, so the thought that he has been getting off to stuff like this is really unsettling.\nWhen he got home from work, he could tell something was off with me so I straight up told him that I saw it. He was embarrassed, of course, and kept saying that he \u201cisn\u2019t into it personally,\u201d but I am just having a hard time letting this settle and I keep thinking about it. I haven\u2019t let him change our daughters diapers or left him alone with them at all, which may be an overreaction, but I don\u2019t care. AITA for calling him out, and not being able to deal with this?\n\nEdit to clarify: first off, I am not against porn. I don\u2019t disagree with it or ban my fianc\u00e9 from watching it, I just don\u2019t personally watch it myself so I don\u2019t understand the appeal. Secondly, I was trying to be very general with my post, but to be more specific by \u201cincest porn\u201d I meant he literally left his reddit up and he is active in multiple incest subreddits. And lastly, I don\u2019t think it was a crazy jump for me to be concerned for my children, because invest is quite literally having sex with your family and my daughters are our family. I have never been concerned about him with our children before, but with this random discovery I deemed it necessary to be that over protective mother for my sweet girls, whether it hurt his feelings or not. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 17, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 4}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 17}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "1Eaarjl4R23eaBDlAaavSZtfoP5GWnh0", "post_id": "amsvsn", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my girlfriend for posting on gonewild", "pronormative_score": 66, "contranormative_score": 40}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my girlfriend for posting on gonewild", "text": "My girlfriend and I had been going strong a while now and it\u2019s all been fine till recently.  Recently though she and I got into an argument about this, and now I\u2019m just not sure if I did the right thing. \n\nI was knackered after a night out so I do what I usually do after a night out. Lay in my bed and scroll through reddit till i realise I should sleep. So I\u2019m scrolling and I\u2019m not sure if this is just me, but when I see a porn post or an NSFW post in general I click it. So I just see a gonewild post and think \u201coh cool\u201d and click on it. Still reeling from \u00a31 night at the club I didn\u2019t immediately notice it was my girlfriend, but something was familiar about the post. The bed looked familiar, so did the overall room, but then I saw her body realised \u201cwait that\u2019s my girlfriend\u201d. I was mostly in shock and just started looking through her history and what I saw confirmed that it was 100% her.  Just filled with a mixed ball of emotion I decided I should sleep, but I couldn\u2019t. \n\nSo I waited till the morning my mind going mad. Eventually I texted her confronting her about it. I got a bit aggy saying how I felt like she was cheating on me and she was saying to me that since it was the internet it wasn\u2019t cheating. In all honesty I said some nasty things and I could tell she wasn\u2019t having a good time either. Said to her that I would like her to stop posting, and if she doesn\u2019t then I didn\u2019t really want to continue things with her. She started saying loads of stuff even suggesting I join her for couple posts? In the end I realised she didn\u2019t want to stop so I ended things then and there. Haven\u2019t messaged her since and my mates are aggy at me asking what was going on. I\u2019m not going to expose her, but this is a bit much for me right now. \n\nAITA", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 23, "OTHER": 48, "EVERYBODY": 17, "NOBODY": 18, "INFO": 5}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 66, "WRONG": 40}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yCOqQJAaJ7N036sdO1VZZC4mmcgT0lu5", "post_id": "am7e5h", "action": {"description": "not wanting my neighbor to stop calling me three times a day and pop by when I ignore her calls because I'm busy", "pronormative_score": 30, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my neighbor to stop calling me three times a day and pop by when I ignore her calls because I'm busy?", "text": "A bit of backstory, I'm 22 and my neighbor is in her mid 30s, we are both female but we are complete opposites. I moved out of my parents house to be on my own last year, so it's all very new to me. I'm not assertive at all and I have trouble establishing boundaries. \n\nI became friends with one of my neighbors and she's disabled (she weighs 500+ pounds and cannot walk/stand for long periods of time or drive). I would ask if she needed anything from the store if I saw her and I was already going. Huge mistake. She then started asking me for favors constantly; asking me to pick up her groceries or can I drive her to doctor's appointment. I have very small car and not to be mean, but she would simply not fit. She is very inconsiderate and quite selfish and basically sucks people dry and annoys people until they stop doing her favors. \n\nNow, all that being said, I don't believe she is doing this maliciously. She's had a rough childhood and her mother never taught her how to be a functioning adult. She is heavily dependent on other people. I have come to her with problems of my own. I adopted a puppy and it was very stressful and she's helped me with researching training and she's talked to me when I'm feeling sad/anxiety. \n\nI work full time and on my days off, I like to do nothing but play video games, do laundry, and be lazy in my nightgown. She calls me and leaves me a voicemail to stop being so antisocial and to come down for coffee in the lobby. I tell her that I'm not ready and I don't feel like socializing at the moment. She accepts it and we agree to talk later. \n\nI wind up taking a nap and I get woken up by her calling and I said, hey i'm sleeping can I call you back when I wake up more? she said that's fine, but I'm going to come up there (to my apartment) if you don't call me back in the next 15 minutes. And I'm half asleep and I'm just like yeah don't do that, i'm gonna fall back asleep. \n\n20 minutes later, I hear pounding on my door and i'm like oh, it's probably maintenance and I get my robe on and it's her standing at my door. I hate when people drop by unannounced. Unless it's family or super close friends, I don't want anyone just coming by because I don't feel like talking to the person. \n\nShe said \"I figured you would ignore your phone if I called so I decided to just come up\" and I'm just standing there like wtf? and she just walks right into my apartment and plops down on my couch. And I'm grumpy but I'm drinking coffee so I'm waking up. She tells me about more dog training shit and I'm just like, I've figured out a training solution that works well with both me and my dog. She still makes me take down all this information. \n\nThank god my little pup has to go outside to potty, it's been about 30 minutes that she's been in my apartment. So we leave my apartment  and she says she'll meet me in the lobby when I come back in and i'm just thinking *I do not give a solitary fuck actually*. I let my pup do her business and come back inside. \n\nI notice she has a wallet that looks very similar to mine and I ask her that I have one just like that. And she tells me that she found it on the ground and the ID says **my full name**. And I'm not trying to jump to conclusions so I ask if I dropped it on my way out of the elevator? \n\nShe says no she got it from my purse. And i'm like wtf? you went through my purse? She said that she wanted her food stamps card back because I got a couple things for her the day before at the grocery store. And I tell her \"Why didn't you just ask for it back, it's not even in my wallet, it's in a pocket in my purse.\" \n\nShe just laughs it off and says I love messing with you and I make an excuse to leave and go back to my apartment. I double check to make sure nothing was taken from my wallet but she just wanted to do a \"harmless prank\". \n\nShe called me that same night and I told her I need her to respect my boundaries and not to come over unannounced anymore because it stresses me out to have uninvited guests. She said that she just wants to be close friends with me and didn't really see the problem. Am I the asshole here? I don't want her in my space but she also justifies herself by saying she is just trying to make friends.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 30, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 30, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FNhqQIqlbPHgJIaeLYpY8IzOfHemEHaC", "post_id": "arivvi", "action": {"description": "expecting someone to work on the day they broke up with their boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA expecting someone to work on the day they broke up with their boyfriend", "text": "I work in a restaurant and in my city, like most, Valentine's day is one of THE busiest nights of the year no matter where you work. I had made everyone aware well in advance that it was going to be a crazy dinner service, and we'd all be kept late.\n\nI come in to find that the other bartender had broken up with her boyfriend of 4 years THAT morning. She's upset and in a state. \n\nThe kitchen manager has already decided to send her home. (He is new to the country and hasn't worked much in restaurants so doesnt realise what we're in for). I repeatedly try to communicate my concerns, I am adamant that she has to stay. We cannot be short staffed, two of the servers are brand new. \n\nI offered compromises such as her solely covering takeout/delivery & answering the phones. She would be completely away from face to face interactions, that way we weren't completely losing a person. Also told her she was more than welcome to take an hour to go for a walk, call somebody, go collect herself, etc. She would not be needed until the rush started. \n\nHe sends her home any ways, telling the girl he's not a HEARTLESS MONSTER, alluding that I am being unreasonable expecting her to stay. \n\nJust a side note, I am female and have worked through difficult situations before. But now he has a total dislike for me because I was adamant that she work. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VSxP1n9f3hiEC3yjFMdsQgjOrbC8YfBb", "post_id": "avlgma", "action": null, "title": "AITA: My boyfriend (M24) said I am (F22) toxic and selfish for asking to move our plans back by an hour?", "text": "My boyfriend and I had plans to go to an amusement park tomorrow (we have season passes). I asked him if we could leave at 10am instead 9 as I will be up late studying for an exam. He got upset saying this is his only day off and I\u2019m ruining it. He told me he wants to \u201cmake the most of his day\u201d and leaving later would ruin this. Additionally he said if I am tired this would be an issue, as I would be downer. When I got a bit frustrated saying he didn\u2019t seem to be understanding of my school work, he got extremely angry saying I am selfish and toxic and make everything about me. He even went as far to say I\u2019m not mature enough for a relationship. What am I missing here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sNfHAWegzRBIw4uAEQhavhLYLFfHVxNs", "post_id": "b9vx9b", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go to my friend's birthday party", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go to my friend's birthday party?", "text": "I have a friend whose boyfriend's birthday is this Sunday. I've hung out with him and his boyfriend only a few times, but we're pretty good friends. He texted me saying that he was planning on celebrating his boyfriend's birthday by taking him out to a restaurant and then just walking around the city, but he also said it would be fun if I came along, since the three of us have hung out a couple of times without any problems. I told him that sounded like a good idea.\n\nNow, my friend changed his mind and told me that instead of going out to eat and just explore around and have fun, he's gonna throw his boyfriend a surprise birthday party and invite a bunch of people. I have social anxiety, so I start to feel really nervous and uncomfortable when I'm with a small group of people I don't know. It's not a huge party, it's a handful of people (like 10-12 I think) that all know each other and are close, so I wouldn't be able to just kinda fade into the background or anything. People would notice me not saying anything and just staying in my corner, which would make me feel even worse. I've been in these situations before, and every time I get too nervous to start or continue conversations with people, so I always end up uncomfortable and by myself.\n\nI told my friend I don't really feel like going for these reasons, and now he's upset. So, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bdFuMJCvuGAXfzMLu8CQNApRCVgvaYw7", "post_id": "am0mut", "action": {"description": "asking my husband to leave the apartment for a couple of hours", "pronormative_score": 44, "contranormative_score": 37}, "title": "AITA for asking my husband to leave the apartment for a couple of hours?", "text": "We live in a studio apartment which means pretty much no alone time when both are home. I will sometimes go to the kitchen to bake/ hang out but usually we are in the same room. I work full time and he works only 10-20 hours a week which gives him plenty of time home alone (we don't have kids). He doesn't go out a lot or meets friends often so he really is usually home when I'm home. It's not like I can't read a book with him in the room or watch shows he doesn't want to watch but it is just a different feeling when you are completely alone. I have always valued that and loved living alone.\n\nHe moved in to my apartment almost 2 years ago and I guess it still doesn't feel like his apartment yet. Whenever I ask him to meet his friends or find something to do so I could have a couple of hours to myself on a Saturday afternoon, he gets really hurt and says he doesn't feel welcome in his own home. Then he wants me to specify exactly how many hours I need and what he is supposed to do outside when his friends don't have time for him.\n\nThis Sunday we're going on a day trip to the sea and he said if in addition he can't be home on Saturday, he doesn't really have a relaxing weekend at all. But he his home alone all day today (Friday) and he probably doesn't have to work on Monday either... I don't understand his problem there as he has plenty of free time every week.\n\nRegarding finding a bigger apartment: So far we have not been able to move because his job situation is so unstable and he is not making much money. And we live in a big city where affordable housing is almost non existent. We hope his situation will change this year and we can move then.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 37, "OTHER": 25, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 19, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 44, "WRONG": 37}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3m4Td5RwxdLyGrzp7G2zdVyR2LBVUBja", "post_id": "ar5tll", "action": {"description": "disregarding fish tank size", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For disregarding fish tank size?", "text": "I am a freshman in college and it's important to find ways to cope with this stress. While I didn't plan it, one of my ways ended up being fish. Specifically my pet comet goldfish. How I got her is important to the story, as I didn't go out and buy a goldfish that, for those of you who don't know, grow to be quite a large size. Instead, I got her through my zoology class. One of our first labs involved fish and when the lab was over, there were about 30 goldfish in need of re-homing. I wasn't going to get one, I really wasn't...but then I did, which I fully admit was an impulse decision as I hadn't done my research first. Long story short, a single comet goldfish requires a tank size of at least 55 gallons for when they're full size. Campus rules say you can't have an aquarium larger than 10 gallons, so I currently have her in that.\n\n​\n\nI did my research after getting her and I'm taking as good of care of her as I can. I have everything except a big enough tank that I would happily purchase if I was allowed to have it. She's healthy and I've owned her for a few months now. The fish and fish care are incredibly stress relieving for me, even the tank cleaning is relaxing. There are days when I come home from a long day of classes and stare at her swimming around for hours to unwind myself. This is where I find myself asking the question, \"am I an asshole?\"\n\n​\n\nI know she will need a bigger aquarium soon. She has plenty of room right now because she's a baby, but she'll grow. Many people on the fish subreddits say to re-home your goldfish if you can't provide the perfect home for them, either to someone else or to a local fish store. However, I do not know anyone who lives off campus who would take a goldfish, and I refuse to leave her at home for my family to take care of, both because I know they won't do as good a job as I do with the cleaning, and because it's not fair to dump that responsibility on them. There is no local fish store where I live, and I have no car to travel to somewhere that does. Even if I did have a store to give her to, she's a 40 cent goldfish, not an exotic fish. They most likely wouldn't take her.\n\n​\n\nIn my opinion, she's a rescue fish who's getting a better life than she normally would have seeing as she was a disposable \"lab rat\" fish who would have died otherwise. I really enjoy having her and I plan on buying a 55 gallon as soon as I have my own place, and if she were to die before that, I would not replace her since I now know I can't house one correctly here. That being said, I still want an unbiased opinion from people who aren't me.\n\n​\n\nI know this isn't the typical AITA post, and I hope I don't come across as fishing for attention (pun intended). I just want an objective view on my situation/choices.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6rPZNCnIhWFdB5iZM7JSSXq6qVeqwPYR", "post_id": "9v36ht", "action": {"description": "asking my kids which parent they loved more", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked my kids which parent they loved more?", "text": "This is more hypothetical than anything because I\u2019m curious about what y\u2019all think about this. I know a lot of parents that do this and I can\u2019t help but feel it\u2019s potentially developmentally or emotionally damaging to children when they\u2019re asked \u201cDo you love mommy more or daddy more?\u201d or even worse \u201cIf we were to separate, who would you wanna stay with?\u201d OR EVEN WORSE (and yes, I have heard this) \u201cIf one of us were drowning, who would you save first?\u201d\n\nBut WIBTA if I asked my kids if they loved mommy or daddy more?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "yHI61n7g50Oc5EyzUpagONH3X0K4YMjq", "post_id": "abo0gz", "action": {"description": "using the word \"retarded\"", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for using the word \"retarded\"", "text": "So right off the bat that is not a word I would use to describe a person. I know that it is a low insult to everyone with any mental impairment far more than whoever is being an idot that would have been called such. \n\nHowever in my mind it is a word with a definition and there is no reason not to use it. \n\nWhat brought this to my attention was a person who interrupted me and proceeded to insult me and call me an asshole. I was just having a conversation with a friend about my motorcycle and the problems I'm having with it, perticularly the fact that I had to retard the ignition significantly to get it to start. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "a4D3ZHASP1bxDqP1Sz5yCiuk4r7H9AtD", "post_id": "azk7wl", "action": {"description": "expecting my unemployed live in boyfriend to take care of most of the chores at home", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for expecting my unemployed live in boyfriend to take care of most of the chores at home?", "text": "We've been living together for 2 years now and we've both had full time jobs the entire time. \n\n He was let go 3 weeks though and hasnt put effort into looking for another job. He said he needs time the time off anyway and can just dip into his savings to pay his share of the bills.  \n\nWhen we were both working, I felt the chores were spilt 60/40 with me doing more because i like to have things tidy and he doesnt mind having things laying around all day long.  Since he hasn't been working though, he put in way more effort into cleaning up. The chores are now split to 25/75 and he told me to pick up my slack.  He says that since he doesnt need help to pay his share of the bills  that I should still clean up just as much. \n\nI thought that since im busy at work he would take on the cleaning at home more.  I come home every day and find a clean apartment with him playing video games on the couch but now he says hes tired of cleaning up after me. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "YyFnjVGjEDZKu1TkJUyaS2icCikUMiiC", "post_id": "aqi9qx", "action": {"description": "not wanting to buy a new candle my housemate's dog destroyed", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to buy a new candle my housemate's dog destroyed?", "text": "A few years ago I lived with this girl that had a rescue dog that she had adopted a few years before. The dog was super sweet and super clingy and loved humans. Sadly she did not have a lot of time for him, so she never walked him, saying that he was too old, which I think is complete BS. He only went out in the small backyard to do his business. He spent all his day in the living room waiting for someone to come home and play with him. He also had a lot of energy and was not properly trained, which led to him chomping on everything he could reach. We were advised when we moved into the house that he does this, so I did my best to always keep food out of the dog's reach. He still got into some of my friend's chocolate one time and had to go to the vet. \n\nNow, one thing that bothered me about living with this girl was the fact that she was not very tidy or clean. It was an awkward situation, since the house belonged to the girl's father and was already stuffed with the girl's and her boyfriend's belongings. They owned a lot of toys from TV shows and such and generally their stuff was just everywhere, while I barely ever had a place to put my laptop. \n\nOne time after christmas, I wanted to sit at the dining table to eat and discovered that it was covered in stuff, some of them wrapped presents. I decided to put the presents on one of the chairs, so I could eat at the table. Later in the day, the dog's owner calls me downstairs to inform me that the dog had gotten into the presents and eaten a scented candle and that this was a gift from her parents to her boyfriend's parents and that the candle had to be replaced...by me. Not only did she want me to pay for the candle, which is still annoying enough but whatever, but she wanted me to personally go out right then and shop for the candle, as it had to be there the next day. I was honestly shocked that she wanted me to go buy this candle. For one, she did not know what was in the presents, so she did not put a note on it saying that it might be something edible. Also, I did not feel that it was my responsibilty to replace an item that her dog ate and it is not like she replaced my friend's chocolate when the dog jumped on the counter and ate those and I would've never asked her to because it's ridiculous. Ultimately, I only had two more months living with them though, so I did go shopping for the candle, which of course was a christmas-scented candle and was now out of stock. I bought a similar candle, which the housemate said she couldn't use and offered me to keep it. How generous.\n\nSo AITA for initially not wanting to replace the candle and still feeling annoyed at this girl for this? I wouldn't have done it, but my parents convinced me to just try and keep the peace. \n\n​\n\nTL;DR my housemate's dog ate a candle that I had moved from a table to a chair and my housemate wanted me to shop for the exact candle and when I bought a similiar one from the same brand didn't want it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "s9M9BUn3Bv0UxtRLzAO0NANOiVyXF9KT", "post_id": "b380z6", "action": null, "title": "AITA on my birthday", "text": "So its my birthday soon, and my family always a small dinner (direct family only). However now days my grandma always comes. But whenever she's here she makes everything about her and always bitches about me and what I do, it's super annoying and always ruins my mood. Don't get me wrong i love her to bits but also always ruins everything. Also if she's not there she's coming to dinner the next day\nSo am I the asshole for wanting to enjoy my birthday", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Zl4lyCFHM6cIUe0ssuGKMciMURypGzHE", "post_id": "ao3z9u", "action": {"description": "not wanting to get mixed up with my friends relationship issues", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to get mixed up with my friends relationship issues?", "text": "A few months back two of my closest friends got together and dated for a few months before splitting it off. It was their first relationship and things got a little heated between them. The girl broke it off because she felt it wasn't working and the guy started on a downward spiral. It became an obsession of his, the only thing he talked about on his discord server was how upset he was all the time and how its all her fault for not \"trying to make it work.\" Of course I'm his friend and so I gave him my best advice but he turned it down (I suggested he simply move on, i understand being upset for a little while but at this point he became fixed on it) when he refused all advice I, and a few others in our group  had given him he started saying we \"were never there for him,\" and \"if we were going through a hard time he would be there for us,\" he said my neutral position on it was \"unhealthy\" and that I should also be upset with him. His ex, who was also pretty upset moved on and we're still quite close. He blocked me on basically everything and won't talk to me or really anyone. So, Am I The Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OjFWW3iIAheVWGVizGcYHiM6SmnDiSSR", "post_id": "b41fzr", "action": {"description": "telling my gf I'm no longer physically attracted to her", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my gf I'm no longer physically attracted to her?", "text": "After having been together for a year, my gf seemingly cares less about her appearance now. In particular, she no longer shaves her underarms and lip area.\n\nI've not said anything to her about this as I don't know how to do it without potentially straining our relationship. WIBTA if I told her I'm not longer physically attracted to her?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qJjIIqEw5vqKBWIVLt1JYP4vZsjPnk7r", "post_id": "a5djn1", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be friends with my college roommate", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to be friends with my college roommate?", "text": "A little background, after my freshman year my good friend and I decided we were fed up with dorms and made plans to move into an on campus apartment for our sophomore year.  We were the first ones to put our names down for the apartment and up until mid summer we were the only ones listed in the apartment.  Well room assignments came around and two random roommates were also assigned to the apartment.  This was no big deal and was something we both saw coming as it was pretty unrealistic to get an apartment all to ourselves.\n\nAnyway, after moving into the apartment Saturday morning things were strange.  I didn't see my first random roommate (we'll call him Mat) until nine at night since he was staying in his room with the door closed.  My second random roommate (let's call him Tim) didn't move in until late Sunday night and made quite a commotion doing so.  The next morning, I saw Mat in the kitchen and we introduced ourselves.  The basics like what our major was, our year, where we're from, etc. in general he's a pretty decent guy and I don't have any problems with him.\n\nTim on the other hand...\n\nI didn't see Tim until Wednesday night when I was in the kitchen waiting for water to boil.  He came up the stairs and I said something along the lines of \"hey how's it going\" and he walked right past me.  No wave.  No eye contact.  Nothing.  He walked straight past me and into his room.  Off to a great start.\n\nI saw him again the next day and tried to start a conversation.  I managed to get a small wave out of him as he passed by but that was it.  \n\nThis continued on for weeks until Mat, my friend, and I had to almost drag him out of his room to fill out our roommate agreement.  During this ,we all agreed to keep the apartment clean, take out the trash as it fills, and just generally be respectful of one another.  Well the three of us did, Tim did little more than sit there quietly.\n\nTo no ones surprise Tim didn't keep up his end of things.  He has a popcorn maker and there are constantly kernels left all over the floor and the trash can will overflow with his microwave meal packages.  On top of all of this Tim gets really into his video games.  And I mean **REALLY** into them.  He stays up late swearing his head off and dropping every racial slur under the sun at these games.\n\nSome of my favorite quotes of his include (if you're easily offended don't click the spoilers)\n\n\">!Get raped you fucking nigger!<\"\n\n\">!I can barely understand you go back to your own country spic!<\"\n\n\">!Don't talk to me you fucking dipshit!<\"\n\nand the list continues\n\nThis finally prompted the three of us to talk to our RA and have a mediation to try and get things worked out with him.  The mediation wasn't very productive but Tim told us he'd do better.\n\nShockingly nothing changed.  Food was still being left on the floor.  He was still stuffing his trash into an already filled trashcan rather than taking it out.  And his choices in language and volume level didn't change.\n\nAbout a month later we go to the housing office to attempt to get something done.  The housing office organizes a SECOND mediation with our RA and our housing coordinator.  This mediation went a bit better and a chore chart was organized to make sure everything gets done.\n\nThings have been relatively stagnant since then, he still yells at his video games but the apartment stays clean.  There's still almost no communication and trying to talk to him feels like cornering a wild animal.  \n\nWell last week I came out of the bathroom to see Tim standing there waiting for me.  He said something along the lines of \"hey... would you and \\[friend's name\\] want to get pizza sometime?\" I told him I'd have to talk to my friend but maybe.\n\nI have no intention of getting pizza with this guy.  He's ignored every attempt at communication and friendship for months now and has been outright disrespectful at times.  I appreciate him finally reaching out but for me it's too late.  So am I the asshole for not wanting to be friends with my roommate after months of him blatantly disrespecting and ignoring me?\n\nTL:DR One of my four college roommates has refused to talk to anyone in the apartment for months now.  He's disrespectful, messy, and yells racial slurs at his video games and is just not the kind of person I want to associate with.  He finally asked my friend and I if we'd want to grab food sometime but I feel like it's too little too late after living together for four months and having no communication.\n\nAlso thank you to anyone who read this novel of a post, this is me trying to summarize four months of hell.  I didn't even include his 7' green inflatable dinosaur, his latex sex suit, or his $300 dragon sex mask.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "z1AhWH3NqOYzsVUNQ4HRHhMzbsM1Wdei", "post_id": "axe2n2", "action": {"description": "breaking my friend's string and not paying", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA For breaking my friend's string and not paying?", "text": "Backstory: My friend (lets call him Dave) uses his Diabolo a lot and his strings started wearing down. His other friend broke his Diabolo strings once but Dave managed to fix it. \nSo now Dave lets me borrow it. I play with it for a few minutes and the string breaks again and this time Dave can't fix it. Dave is angry at me and wants me to pay for it but I say that the string was already broken and refuse to pay for the string. (he said it was $10 and I'm pretty sure thats BS) Now his friends are telling me to repay him and that I'm an asshole because I don't want to pay. \n\nAITA for not repaying my friend to breaking his string?\n ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "hJuDE7tmgsm3fBEMqWNYuPFotjCIuLin", "post_id": "a15yrc", "action": {"description": "not wanting my fianc\u00e9 to get a part-time job", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my fianc\u00e9 to get a part-time job?", "text": "I know the title sounds controlling but hear me out first.  My fianc\u00e9 is on disability for have a mass in the brain and having it was removed, but he lost his left Peripheral vision on each eye and he gets seizures. If you saw him you wouldn\u2019t be able to tell all that happen to him. I am starting college beginning of next year and he wants a part-time job to contribute our financial situation. I told him helping out with chores around the house and cooking was all he had to do. We came to an agreement only because one we live in Texas and if it gets too hot for him he could have a seizure. Two my job does mandatory overtime so it my be problematic if I can\u2019t drive him to work since I am the only on who can drive(we live in a small city the bus system sucks).  Three next year he has to go back to the hospital to do testing and possibly another brain surgery because we don\u2019t know what the future may hold for us. Finally I don\u2019t mind if he has a job cause I would hate to be coup up in the apartment 24/7 like he does, but in the past times he tried it just ended up in the ER because the migraines became unbearable or he had multiple seizures. Right now agreement was and still is to just help with the house upkeeps and making dinner, but I just feel like rethinking the conversation makes me feel like a controlling a-hole", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fQIaAq8Wydj95K1r8IkZl79hYvRSs8Lu", "post_id": "awfwvn", "action": {"description": "not going on our family holiday", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for not going on our family holiday?", "text": "So I (32f) am part of a very close family, we all love each other etc. Fam wants to go away for Christmas, to Fiji. I said no, I\u2019d like to go somewhere new. One of my sisters has been guilting me for deciding to miss an opportunity to make memories with the whole family.\n\nBackstory: I\u2019ve been to Fiji three times with one sister, her family and my mum at least three times. I told them I wouldn\u2019t go to Fiji during the planning stages, and left it at that, but my sisters kept planning and ended up deciding on Fiji despite my wishes, because they have kids and Fiji is easy with kids. I also like staying out, drinking and generally running amuck on holiday. Whereas my family is in bed by 9.30.\n\nI feel like I might bet he asshole, because I have it easierand should be more flexible as a single female. Also because I\u2019m willing to miss family time to explore a new place. But I also feel like I\u2019m not the asshole because if it\u2019s a family holiday, it should be a choice of all family members. \n\nMy sisters are older than me and got to travel through their 20s, but because of the age difference during my 20s, my dad was sick so I didn\u2019t travel at all. I\u2019ve got the travel bug late, after dad passed away, while they\u2019re busy having babies. \n\nSo, judgment please?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "P18q4gySnJa8CjuG9b2iMglmrAUDPqQc", "post_id": "axn0kp", "action": {"description": "not giving a lady my parking space", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not giving a lady my parking space?", "text": "I work at a group home in a residential part of a city. The parking is off street parking, but there are often plenty of spaces.\n\nThe lady across from the street where I work, always parks in the same spot as it is right in front of her house. I was pulling up to park (there was ample spaces) and I\u2019m the type of person that pulls right up to the sign that says \u201cno parking past this sign\u201d  it just so happen to be in front of her house.\n\nAs I\u2019m parking, she pulls right up behind me and starts honking her horn. She rolled down her window and asked if I could pull forward. Using the nicest voice I have, I mustered out the words: \u201cI\u2019m sorry, but I can\u2019t. The sign says no parking.\u201d Slightly annoyed she replied: \u201cwell can you park some where else? There\u2019s plenty of space on the other side of the road\u201d.  \n\nAgain, using my nice voice, said that I wasn\u2019t going to move.\n\nShe said that \u201cthis is a family home. This is my spot. I have lived here for years. There\u2019s such a thing as respect. You\u2019re not going to move? You\u2019re a piece of work. Who\u2019s your boss?\u201d\n\nShe ended up parking just behind me. Blah. \n\nEdit: written on my phone.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7uPavRy0eCHEqlznpC1e9oBgxwoJkayX", "post_id": "ahi4fx", "action": {"description": "not making my kids 19 and 12 eat foods they don't like even when other people cook them", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not making my kids 19 and 12 eat foods they don't like even when other people cook them?", "text": "My kids are not picky eaters, but they each have a relatively common food ingredient that they don't like. One doesn't like cooked carrots and the other doesn't like onions. I don't like mushrooms and my husband doesn't like peaches so to us this has never seemed all that odd. We were at a family function that had a potluck buffet set up and they each opted not to eat certain things because of the aforementioned ingredients. A cousin I'll call Harriet of my husband's got offended because she was doing that \"I made such and such you have to try it!\" thing with some kind of multiple layer dip/salad concoction. It looked...off somehow so I don't think anyone was eating it. \n\nHarriett really tried to push it on the kids and my oldest declined politely, but my youngest kind of froze so she put some on his plate. He didn't eat it and when he went to dispose of his plate she got upset that he was throwing it away. I handled it in the moment by telling her that we don't make food a battle ground and to leave him alone. I freely admit I could have been politer but he's on the spectrum and she's knows this and does moderately aggressive boundary pushing with everyone but especially my youngest in ways that work my nerves. My MIL seems to think I could have been kinder and encouraged him to at least taste it. I think people's plates are their own business. We are not having a fight over this or anything, but I am genuinely curious if my husband and I are missing a key social grace. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "C4p4hWXtkSNbuMdQOYARbePzLohE8Km1", "post_id": "asmfzq", "action": {"description": "my wife miscarrying and I want to leave the relationship", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for my wife miscarrying and I want to leave the relationship?", "text": "I'm not going to leave her soon. I'm giving her a little time unless she changes.\n\nLet me get into some background, we were set up to be married. We both liked each other during the engagement period, etc. She's not who she was, she has a temper and sometimes is pretty nasty. I don't know why.\n\nI was thinking about leaving her, but then she got pregnant, so I'm like atleast I'll have a kid to look forward too.\n\nMiscarriage, wasn't expecting it. She's depressed... I'm really upset too but it's harder on her.\n\nNow, though I have to face reality. I'm pretty sure I want to leave.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DTwI0soKAOXotfQiNUatyVg9t7ViUPdw", "post_id": "acldt8", "action": {"description": "wanting a burglar to serve his full sentence instead of getting early parole", "pronormative_score": 25, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting a burglar to serve his full sentence instead of getting early parole?", "text": "I'll try to put as many details as possible. \n\nI live in AL, USA. In Oct 2015, while I was sleeping next to my newborn, my door was kicked in. I woke up immediately and seconds (felt like minutes) later, one guy enters my bedroom, we lock eyes, he and his friend run. I never saw the friend, but I was able to pick the guy out of a line-up of assorted mugshots. So yes, he has a prior conviction. He was convicted and sentenced to 10 years in Jan 2016. It's now Jan 2019, and I get a call from the district attorney saying he is being put up for parole, the hearing is later this month, and if I oppose him having parole, I should show up and voice my experience for a better chance at his parole being denied. And they were also going to write a letter on my behalf. \n\nSo I go to talk to my SO about my options, and he says I should let it go. Granted, he was at work. He didn't experience the pure fear that I felt. He didn't experience the violation of a strange person in our private home, it disturbed my peace and I still have nightmares about that crack headed man's face. I've also had a friend voice her opinion of, \"oh he's been locked in that hell hole for 3 years, I think that's punishment enough, maybe he's a changed man and just wants to see his family again.\" I don't have any empathy for the man. But others seem too. \n\nSo, am I the asshole for wanting to show up and do my best to have him serve the full 10? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 23, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 25, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GV20mEu4gHrt1vdHVLvVhEh7QCOkx82t", "post_id": "auefo7", "action": {"description": "expecting my wife to pick up some more of the household chores while she's unemployed", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for expecting my wife to pick up some more of the household chores while she\u2019s unemployed?", "text": "Three weeks ago my wife unexpectedly (well sort of expectedly) quit her job because her boss was a jerk and they had their issues. Before this we both had been working but I was covering the majority of our bills (rent, car, cable etc) while she was paying for groceries and her student loans (I have none). We share a studio apartment in the city for which the rent is incredibly reasonable and I was ok with this because getting her debt free was a priority. \n\nSuddenly without income on her end I\u2019m paying for groceries and if she remains unemployed past this payment I\u2019m on the hook for her loans since I co-signed them when she refinanced. Obviously this is a bit of stress for me but I have savings and I just got a raise so it\u2019s not a catastrophe.\n\nMy wife has been applying for jobs and I\u2019m empathetic to that struggle because I was unemployed for 9 months after graduate school but I\u2019m more and more starting to resent her seemingly lax attitude. Multiple times last week I came home from 9hour+ days to find her in bed sleeping or with a migraine, she\u2019s always sleeping in and has told me she\u2019s been waking up past noon on more than one occasion, she still wants to go out even though she knows I will have to cover for her, and she\u2019s used my credit card to make clothing purchases for herself. \n\nAll this can be explained away. The sleeping is due to depression and the fact that she needed some new clothes for interviews is something I can believe but when I ask her to maybe do the dishes or clean up the house or some errands we need done she acts like it\u2019s a burden to her and makes me feel terrible for asking.  I completely get that applying for jobs is a full time job but right now I\u2019m doing a full time job + commuting + house chores + taking care of her while I don\u2019t see her making any progress and I\u2019m feeling taken advantage of.  \n\nAm I wrong to ask her to pull her weight? Especially if I\u2019m going to have to cover her student loans next month? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "f90U5JzYEou6Fv19uoM1WUZXAIwA2ekx", "post_id": "awjwke", "action": {"description": "refusing to drive my roommate to work", "pronormative_score": 47, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for refusing to drive my roommate to work", "text": "First some back story; I (23F) own a car and she (21F) doesn't drive, so I drive us everywhere all  the time. I never ask for gas money, and I don't mind driving us to get groceries or to go out. However, lately she has been missing the bus 10 minutes before her shift at work and then asks me for a ride even though she leaves at risky times to catch the bus (leaving 3 minutes before it gets to the stop). The first few times I agreed because I didn't want her to get into trouble and lose her job - we are both in our last year of University and its not cheap.  \n\n​\n\nToday is Saturday and the first Saturday that I haven't worked in weeks. I slept in, made myself breakfast and was catching up on the news when she comes running in to tell me, \"I just missed my bus, I guess I'll have to walk 20 minutes in the cold...\" in an angry tone. I just stared at her and said \"That's shitty\" and continued to read the news as she stood in my door way for 2 minutes before finally heading back out. I feel a little guilty but I am annoyed that she expected me to offer her a ride.\n\n​\n\nAITA for not offering her a ride and making her walk to work? \n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 47, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 47, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jbpO2jJKFGm0skhbSg83zeLiV7skJgqv", "post_id": "aweiox", "action": {"description": "not talking to my roommate about laundry", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not talking to my roommate about laundry?", "text": "My roommate stopped me from doing laundry when I came home at 7 PM because he said he was getting ready to do his first. By stop, I mean I was putting my clothes in the washer, and I took them out when he told me to because I wasn\u2019t time pressed. \n\nI slept until 11 PM afterwards, so he could finish his laundry. When I went downstairs to start the oven, I saw that he was on the couch with a movie, so I assumed that was what he was doing during this time. But I didn\u2019t talk to him. \n\nAt 11, I took his wet clothes from the wash and put them in the dryer, but I didn\u2019t turn it on because I don\u2019t know if his wash requires something (e.g., what temp, if he uses dryer sheets). I then put my clothes in the wash.\n\nAt 11:45, I put his wet clothes from the dryer and put them on top of the dryer.\n\nAt 12:15, he took my clothes out of the dryer and blamed me for being the asshole for not communicating. He said that he was angry because my putting wet clothes in a pile on top of the dryer could lead them to sour (but didn\u2019t address that possibility for me). And I said not only did I rearrange my schedule for you, I assumed you wouldn\u2019t mind if you waited an hour more for your clothes because I had already waited 3 hours. I said I would\u2019ve put them in the dryer after I was done and not started the dryer cycle for the same reasons. He said he wouldn\u2019t have done that if he were me, but I said I would not mind. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "786NLP8B8c4oQyXd5HchWDysxQWnGSIn", "post_id": "aadyk4", "action": {"description": "inserting myself into a couple's (very public) argument", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for inserting myself into a couple's (very public) argument?", "text": "So I'm a 26 year old lady from the sticks, recently relocated to NYC and still very much a fish out of water. I mention that because maybe my behavior makes a bit more sense in context, but then again maybe not. Anyway: \n\nYesterday I was on a semi-crowded subway car headed back from work. Standing up, headphones in, as is my custom. It's a decently long commute and the whole time there's a youngish couple (guy and girl, mid-twenties) across the way from me, having what seems to be an increasingly heated argument. They're not speaking English but the guy in question is clearly upset, and appears to be the more aggrieved party. I mostly mind my own business. At some point, though, he gets to the point where he's full-on screaming at her. Very public freakout. To the level that a couple jokers actually have their phones out and are filming it and others are sort of hooting and laughing. \n\nNow, the guy's not big but his body language is more than a bit aggressive, and I notice that the lady is actually starting to cry. Soooo... in what I think is an unobtrusive manner, I sidle up to the guy and say, *\"Hey dude, take it easy OK?\"* \n\nI don't touch him or anything, but predictably he shifts the full brunt of his anger to me and starts cussing me out, telling me to mind my own fucking business bitch, etc etc. Maybe not being a dude saved me from a full-on ass-kicking, but who knows. I didn't really try to defend myself, apart from continually telling him to calm down. It's difficult to read the vibe in the car at that point, but I can readily tell that nobody has my back in this. \n\nI get a teensy bit of satisfaction when he exits at the next stop (his apparent girlfriend goes and sits in the far corner), but mostly I immediately feel like a raging douche. Several people give me a sort of eye-rolly dismissive look that indicates they agree. One helpful gentleman politely tells me that doing that kind of thing is a bad move and I really should mind my own business, especially when it's between a couple like that. \n\nSo at present I feel like way less of a good samaritan and way more of a busy-body asshole. I also don't know why I felt the need to step in in that instance when I know I'll be obliged to ignore all kinds of equally disturbing behavior on public transport in the future. As I said, I'm still getting the hang of the vibe here. D'you think IWTA there? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PUq5vzLn3kNu0jJZ9MeexGUbjxI5rat2", "post_id": "agtubk", "action": {"description": "wanting a soccer ball of equal quality for the sale price", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting a soccer ball of equal quality for the sale price?", "text": "    So after the World Cup this year I was on a soccer website that had the official match ball(165$, very high quality soccer ball) on sale for 50$ (71$ with shipping and tax) . I bought it and got a confirmation email that they had gotten my order.\n    2 weeks later I was wondering why it hadn\u2019t shipped. I emailed them and they told me they ran out of stock and weren\u2019t going to get any more. They said I could instead get a different ball for the price I paid. So they offered me a 60$(already less than I paid)ball for what I paid(which was of lesser quality). I then asked if I could have a refund instead. \n    Another 2 weeks later and no refund. I email back in and ask if they can just give me another ball of equivalent quality(Another ball that cost 165$) they said no but they can offer me a ball from last year (165$ at full retail price/on there website, but usually around 80-100$ on other sites) for 25% off. Some quick math would reveal that they were offering 41$ off after I had already paid 71$.\n   I was getting fed up at this point and emailed a new person from customer service. They refunded the ball, and said for my trouble they would sign me up for the rewards program (10$ but gives you a lot of discounts from their website) for free. I had to email in one more time after this because the person then forgot to add me to the rewards program. But in the end I did get my refund and was added to the rewards program for free. Was I being an A hole/ choosing beggar during this or was it justified?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "frnUT9GO435Kzol32YHDKH8njmJtyypd", "post_id": "9uuhfe", "action": {"description": "getting a second cat", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for getting a second cat?", "text": "\n\nI\u2019d been waiting for years to have a cat again, and adopted an older one that needed to be rehomed.  I did not realize the cat was as old as she was when I took her and her age quickly started to show. She only moves to eat and use litter box.  The rest of the time she rests in one spot.  That\u2019s it.  Very sweet cat but she\u2019s like a living fixture in my house. \n\nWhen I was first dating SO, one of the earlier important questions I asked was if he was ok with cats, if we/I could have a cat down the road if we live together.  He said yes.  He said yes because we were newly in love and we were enamored with each other and I badly wanted a cat and although he\u2019s an anti-cat guy he said OK.  I already had a cat, but I know she is old- I\u2019m asking about another cat. \n\nAnd after a couple of years cat discussions came up and he changed his position on cats. He hates cats, he\u2019s allergic (even though I\u2019ve never seen him have an allergic reaction when he\u2019s over at my place with my cat), says cats are horrible and murderous, they kill for sport, cats stink, litter box stinks, they don\u2019t love their people etc etc etc.   And he took back his agreement to have a cat.   He now says NO CATS when we live together. \n\nThe subject of moving in together has come up  and we have been looking at places and without any particular rush are planning on living together, that\u2019s the long term plan. \n\nNext thing I know, my teenager comes home with a kitten.  Now- I didn\u2019t go LOOKING for this kitty. Neither did my teenager who just found it, it was dumped and starving.  So we fed the kitten, knowing we couldn\u2019t keep it but just helping until I can get it to a rescue for her forever home.  I didn\u2019t mention it to SO because we had other things going on and it was temporary anyway.  In hindsight- probably should\u2019ve mentioned it.   ..... SO comes over and learns there is a kitten here.   I tell him the cat is not staying (even though of course I do want to keep her) I\u2019m going to send her to rescue.  He says \u201cNo No No No- I know you want that cat your kids are in love with that cat it\u2019s already been here and you guys are attached to the cat. So absolutely DO NOT get rid of that cat because you will be making me the bad guy and no thank you to that. The kids will know it was me who spoiled it and made you get rid of the cat.\u201d  He was piiiiiiissed.  But told me not to get rid of the cat. \n\nSoooooo I kept the cat.   But he couldn\u2019t sleep and was so upset because he took this as a HUGE sign that I don\u2019t want to live with him since he said he wouldn\u2019t live with a cat and now here\u2019s cat that will be around for a long time. When this came up in an argument a month or so later, and I reminded him that he told me to keep the cat that he did not want to be the bad guy or make my kids upset that they had to part with the kitten.  He told me I should\u2019ve known better and that I was supposed to go ahead and not keep the kitty of my own accord, not because he told me to.\n\nGreat when he tells me this NOW, after we are all really and truly attached to the cat and after the cat is very attached to us.  She loves and trusts us very much.   I\u2019m reluctant to even try and rehome her now. This is her home. And I love her. I know I should\u2019ve discussed this with SO more as it\u2019s a big decision that affects us both in the event we live together.  And I do want to live together. I just want him to accept a cat like he said he would.  It\u2019s JUST a cat. Its not a sign that I don\u2019t love SO or want to live together. \n\nNow SO is so mad. He doesn\u2019t want to come over. He\u2019s pissed all the time about me getting a cat.  It\u2019s almost getting worse.  The more he thinks about it, the more upset he is and it\u2019s snowballing into a huge thing.  Also he flat out said he will NEVER EVER EVER live with a cat.  He wants to live with me 100%.  This is not him looking for an excuse not to live together. He does.  Just not with my cat.  \n\nHonestly ..... I love this cat. I really do. It\u2019s important to me.  So important that it was one of the few questions I ask in the beginning of a relationship. Dealbreaker questions.  And for me a cat is one of those questions.  \n\nI understand how he feels.  ***He feels like I chose this cat over him. Over his feelings. Over our relationship.  And he\u2019s very very butthurt.***\n\nBut it\u2019s JUST A CAT.  I get it. He doesn\u2019t like cats.  I wish he would get over it and do this for me.  He wishes I would get rid of the cat for him.   I told him, it\u2019s fine you don\u2019t have to live with a cat.  He said Neither do you.  \n\nI think he should accept the cat because it means so much to me.  Just deal with it it\u2019s not the worst thing in the world. He thinks I don\u2019t care about his feelings and that I should not have a cat because it means so much to him. \n \nAITA?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ep9BWLb3YgReSkAKRQTUdANyjw46dwMW", "post_id": "aw11t5", "action": {"description": "changing my oil", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for changing my oil?", "text": "I drive a VW sedan, but it\u2019s technically not my car but my dad\u2019s. It was due for an oil change and instead of taking it to get serviced, I just went and bought myself new oil and an oil filter and did the change myself. It went fine and I thought it was no big deal. \n\nMy dad is super annoyed that I did that and claims it was irresponsible, and yelled at me after I already did it that car is not a toy I can just take apart and play with.  I did tell him I was going to do it before it happened, but in a statement rather than a question. \n\nAITA for performing a routine maintenance service on my daily vehicle without consulting my dad, who\u2019s the owner of the car?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "aLQR3ePP5IQalA8PSatpu5xC8LALsxLo", "post_id": "amopxx", "action": {"description": "wanting divorce mainly because wife has never been to work for last 9 years", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting divorce mainly because wife has never been to work for last 9 years?", "text": "I'm a foreigner, living in a European country and married a local there. After marriage, I said she should look for a job as the life was very expensive there and almost all of my salary was being used to pay bills and everything. After one year, she said she wanted to study master degree as it would help her to get a job that she wants. I agreed, she enrolled and completed a 2 year degree in almost 4 years.\n\nAfter that I asked that she should be looking for jobs, and she sometimes sends the applications. But it seems to me that she has given up on everything. Most of the day she is on her computer playing video games, and then sleeping almost all day.\n\nIt is literally impossible to talk to her. As soon I try to talk, it always follow the same pattern:\n\n**Step 1:** Crying\n\n**Step 2:** Shouting while giving reasons: \"I am applying for jobs, what can I do if no one wants to give me job?\"\n\n**Step 3:** Blame me (\"I had to move to this city because of you, it ruined my life as I did not want to move\")\n\n**Step 4:** throwing things and screaming that I'm the asshole who is not being any help to her.\n\nI don't know what i should do. I want to get out of this situation but i feel guilty and i feel that maybe I am a terrible person.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 19, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oDdO94ufcYhkEuYJIIRQVflMz7dnLXaH", "post_id": "az0mgx", "action": {"description": "wanting to say no to one of my close friends staying the night, with just under a days notice", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to say no to one of my close friends staying the night, with just under a days notice?", "text": "So my close friend (F23) and her boyfriend (M24) have asked if they can stay the night at my place after our mutual best friends birthday. \nShe only just asked me. \nThe party is tomorrow at 3pm \nAnd she has had more than 2 months to ask if she could stay the night. \n\nFor the past week Ive been so busy at work, doing alooot of hours (which she has been aware about) that I\u2019ve been so exhausted when I finally get home. The party is my only day off I will have this week.\nSo the house is a mess.  I feel embarrassed about it. \n\nShe said in the message that \u201cit\u2019s totally fine if you say no \ud83d\udc95\u201d  but near the beginning of the message she said that she wasn\u2019t able to that her and her partner might no be able to go. It feels like a big guilt trip. \n  (They live 45min away from the party destination) she can\u2019t drive, but her boyfriend does. \nIf she had at least asked a week prior I would probably  say yes to them. \n\nI don\u2019t want to be that person that is the reason that someone can\u2019t go\nbut \non the other hand I don\u2019t want to drop everything willy-nilly, she needs to understand that she can\u2019t do this kind of thing, that people won\u2019t say yes to her all the time? \n\nAITA if I say no? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "05xloBDOvhZHK6QMyPIpYSCkRMDDKB6r", "post_id": "aomup7", "action": {"description": "asking my wife why services haven't been scheduled earlier before we list our house", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking my wife why services haven\u2019t been scheduled earlier before we list our house?", "text": "I\u2019m out of the country for work on a completely opposite time schedule than back home, so it\u2019s near impossible for me to call and schedule this stuff. My wife is a stay-at-home mom that sends our kid to day care 3x a week while I am gone.\n\nSeveral weeks ago, our realtor told us a few things that would help our house sell: drywall repair holes from paintings, yard debris, freshen up landscaping, power washing the house...etc. We agreed and three days later, I flew out of the country. I had to remind my wife 2-3 times a week to schedule the power washer (realtors husband) and get drywall repair. She kept telling me she was going to ask our friends for their landscaper\u2019s number. Finally, after 3.5 weeks, she gets people out for quotes, still no landscaper. \n\nNow it\u2019s Friday night and I get back on Monday morning. She hasn\u2019t scheduled any of the services except the power washing. Tonight I asked her about the landscaper and she blew up at me because I was agitated she hadn\u2019t yet schedule it. I explained that companies have multiple customers, and one week before photographing the house and listing it, not all of the repairs or services might get done. She hung up on me and sent me the \ud83d\udd95\ud83c\udffb emoji. This is not our first house we\u2019ve sold, and me being away for business is scheduled out well in advance. AITA?\n\nTL;DR: I\u2019m 6000 miles away and can\u2019t get repairs quoted or performed while gone, but stay at home wife is mad at me for asking why things aren\u2019t scheduled yet, a week before a professional photographer is coming out so we can list our house \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UZNqKx1039aP7lTTyzz36AWw2teQk4D8", "post_id": "ayl20d", "action": {"description": "leaving my husband with mental illness and now taking the kids", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for leaving my husband with mental illness and now taking the kids?", "text": "Was married 10ish years, 2 children, and I ended our marriage last year. Ex and I both had depression and anxiety at some point (I had pretty bad post natal depression both times and while I'd love to say he was super supportive and caring, he really wasn't.). He was incredibly difficult to live with, has a lot of autistic traits I didn't see in the beginning. I tried to involve him in caring for the kids, attending their appointments, but he had no patience with them and I often had to step in to avoid a meltdown. He did nothing to help keep the house in order, inside or out, despite both of us working and me pleading for help. Both of our children have autism and I believe he does as well. In the end I couldn't take any more, I'd begun to resent him because I felt unheard and unappreciated, more like his mother and maid than his wife or partner. I'm not perfect, I know he felt like I was too controlling and I'll admit that I probably was. Our children thrive on routine and it was always left to me to ensure it happened, my own anxiety was a factor in this as well. I didn't think either of us were particularly happy in our relationship but he claims he was.\n\nI'm in a really good place now, happier than I've ever been. The children have been spending 7 nights / fortnight with him and 7 with me (split into 5/2/2/5, not 7 straight) and they're coping really well with that. He isn't. He is deeply depressed and needs a lot of help (which he is slowly getting but has had to be hospitalised). Obviously the best thing for the children is that they spend the majority of their time with me until he's back on his feet. I respect him as a person and he's a good father. He thinks I'll end up taking them and they won't want to see him any more.\n\nI've accepted the fact his family and our friends (none of whom are speaking to me) think I'm the asshole here. I tried so hard to support him while taking care of the kids and their needs and the house and working but in the end I couldn't do it. He's hurt, and he's having a breakdown that has been coming for years, and I'm well aware that what I did was selfish but it was also self preservation.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Er9A37kahTMyhoFKQu23O3Lt1idQSGcb", "post_id": "az3rzn", "action": {"description": "not spending the night at my girlfriends", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not spending the night at my girlfriends.", "text": "So me (23) and my gf (19) live a little over an hour away from each other. I work at a hospital fri, sat, and Sunday. I spend every day I don\u2019t work at my gfs apartment. \n\nI am sick right now and was at my gfs last night to drop off some stuff I had of hers. My boss was trying to get someone to cover my shift today and tomorrow since i am sick, but didn\u2019t know if he could find anyone. My gf was begging me to spend the night but I just couldn\u2019t because I didn\u2019t know if I was going to have to work or not and wouldn\u2019t be able to drive an hour and be at work at 6am. \n\nShe starts crying and telling me I don\u2019t love her if I don\u2019t stay. I tell her I wish I could but I can\u2019t and spend half an hour trying to calm her down telling her how much she means to me and promise I would be at her house 1st thing if I didn\u2019t work. Then she screams at me that \u201cI should leave since that is what I wanted to do\u201d and threw my new Iphone XS. I scream \u201cwhat the fuck, bitch\u201d. Then she pushes me out while crying. I felt awful all the way home.\n\nShe has never acted like this the almost 2 years we been dating. I assume it was coming from some insecurity. But today I find that she has me blocked on Everything and I texted her roommate who won\u2019t respond to me. AITA for not staying with her?\n\nTLDR; I didn\u2019t spend the night at my girls place and she blocked me and won\u2019t talk now.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AnR0VkCqAPdZWWMuLdMLk0p988o2R14x", "post_id": "aoza2d", "action": {"description": "wanting my roommate pay for damage to my furniture", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting my roommate pay for damage to my furniture?", "text": "I have been living in a house with 3 other roommates for about a year and a half now. When we initially moved in, I was the sole person who furnished our house, including a wooden dining table, nice rolley chairs, and two nice leather couches.\n\nAbout 6 months after we\u2019ve been living in the house, one particular roommate, let\u2019s say Billy, got a kitten. No one had a problem with it, including me. As time went on, the kitten started growing up and discovering things around the house that it could scratch... fast forward about a month and both of the nice leather couches I furnished the house with are completely torn up with cat scratches all on the back and arms of both couches.\n\nFast forward another month and while I was staying at my other friends house, I come back and see that the wooden dining room table has two legs broken off of it that looked like they were stinted in place by the legs of the chairs as if to hide that the legs were broken off the table. None of the roommates told me about it and I had to ask them about it for them to even admit that it was broken, and I still to this day don\u2019t know who actually did it.\n\nAnd now, in the present, the landlord is gearing up to sell the house and we all have to move out, so I told the roommate that owns the cat that he should pay me for the damage his cat did to my couches. He claims that he didn\u2019t ask for me to furnish the house which makes him exempt from the damage his cat did to my couches. When I told him the couches were there before his cat was there, his response was that I should\u2019ve moved the couches after I saw they were already damaged and that he was still exempt from paying for the damage. He also said that he was willing to furnish the house with cheaper stuff but he never said anything to me about furnishing?\n\nAITA?\n\ntldr; I furnished a house with nice furniture and my roommate won\u2019t pay me for damage that his pet caused, saying I should\u2019ve moved it and that he didn\u2019t ask me to furnish the house.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6Rm694eEOGTGvjcES2QL4ntCE8mXawBn", "post_id": "a914tv", "action": {"description": "thinking my ex needs to get over me cheating on him and am annoyed that he's not", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for thinking my ex needs to get over me cheating on him and am annoyed that he\u2019s not?", "text": "So, just to preface this, I know I\u2019m the asshole for cheating, I have no doubt about that, but that\u2019s not what I\u2019m asking about here in this post so please refrain from making your judgement based on this. \n\n(Also, please bear with me, this is going to be long, I\u2019m very long-winded, sorry everybody.) \n\nFor some background, I am now 27 and my ex is 30. We dated semi-casually/semi-seriously when I was 16 and he was 19 for about a year. \n\nI describe it this way because we were teenagers, only communicated through texts (infrequently), saw each other maybe once a month (he joined the military shortly after we started talking), and did not have very much in common other than mutual attraction. However, we were \u201cofficial\u201d and did exchange \u2018I love yous\u2019 and talk jokingly but hopefully about having a future together. \n\nHe found out I was planning to cheat on him after he went through my phone and saw that I was also talking to other guys (I never was physically with anyone but I might have been had he not called me out on it and it\u2019s still cheating regardless). When he confronted me, I lied about it, and we broke up right then and there but still continued to date on and off for about another year before we officially called it quits. \n\nI\u2019m not excusing my behavior but I came from a really messed up background \u2014 I was in and out of foster care and was severely abused both at home and in the system. Because of this, I was also pretty messed up. I lied about little and big things, stole food and clothing, cheated on people and in school, manipulated others for my own gain, abused drugs and alcohol, was very promiscuous, and all around did not give a fuck about anyone other than myself and my 3 sisters. I was desperate to be loved but not trusting enough to ever give anyone the opportunity, so in order to protect myself and keep my options open because since that\u2019s all I ever learned how to do, I was rarely faithful in my relationships. I was also a bitch about a lot of things but was still pretty submissive and doting in other ways, so I\u2019m sure it was a confusing whirlwind for anyone I was involved with. All in all, I wasn\u2019t the best person, let alone friend or girlfriend. \n\nI feel incredibly guilty about who I was back then and what I did to others. I have worked very hard in my adult life to never be that person again through lots of intensive therapy, medication, getting an education, and choosing to be better and do good each day. I can never take back the hurt I caused others but I have centered my life around making up for my transgressions through other means. I own and operate a non-profit that houses and fully sponsors homeless teens and young adults who have aged out of the system to receive counseling and work towards their future goals, whether that be college or entering the work force. This information is probably meaningless for the purpose of this but I feel as if it\u2019s important to know that my behavior was circumstantial and it is not who I am.  \n\nMy ex and I still talk, we grew up together so he knows my situation, and I have apologized profusely to him over the years. He calls me up crying about once or twice every single year to tell me how I\u2019ve ruined his ability to trust and love others and how hurt he still is. Sometimes he hits me up and is very flirtatious and tries to spark things up again (I always turn these advances down). Other times, if I\u2019m dating someone and he knows who they are, he will antagonize them, insult them, and has, on occasion, gotten physical with them. I never severed ties with him because I always felt like he was justified in his treatment towards me and his resulting behavior because of how I wronged him, because I thought he was amazing and I felt like I was beneath him, and I felt so guilty for messing up such a good thing with a good guy that part of me hoped we\u2019d get back together. \n\nRecently, about a few weeks ago, we were catching up and he started bragging to me about all these things he\u2019s doing (he is very accomplished, has his PhD and has won a lot of awards, and is such an upstanding, good person, he adopted his cousin\u2019s twin boys because the cousin is strung out on heroin, so he kind of deserves to brag and be complimented for all he\u2019s done) but I thought it was strange because we hadn\u2019t spoken in length for years. Then he started bragging about how he hadn\u2019t dated anyone since we had been together, something he does often, even though this is a lie as I know at least three people he has seen and two he has been \u201cofficial\u201d with. He again blamed me for his unwillingness and inability to get involved with others and started saying straight up bullshit about the times we were together (saying we dated at a different time than we did by several years, saying we were never official and only talked for one month, etc). Then he started coming on to me, demanded I start sending him nudes regularly, and that we be fuck buddies. \n\nAt this point, I just lost it. I started yelling about how he can\u2019t change the facts of things just because he doesn\u2019t like how they turned out, how rude it is of him to always try to use me for sex (something he has admitted to in the past), that it\u2019s not fair he pops back into my life to punish me every few months and that I was done with it, that I had always felt sorry about how I treated him before now but that I wasn\u2019t sorry anymore because he\u2019s acting creepy and pathetic, that it had been over 10 years since all this happened and he should have been over it by now and that not dating anyone in your twenties doesn\u2019t make you some saint like he\u2019s always painting himself out to be, I told him he needs to stop blaming me for his intimacy issues and stop using me to make himself feel good, that he is being ridiculous and that even though he thinks I\u2019m the horrible person it\u2019s really him, and that he needed professional help. I did say I wish I had never hurt him or anyone else but that I was a teenager, raising myself and living in constant fear, and that no one should be judged based off of who they were as teenagers and that he of all people should know that (he also did some very messed up things as a teenager which I won\u2019t elaborate on as it\u2019s not pertinent to this). \n\nHe got really pissed off and started cussing me out and saying that I was a good for nothing whore and that I would never be anything more, that everyone knew what a slut I was and that that no one actually liked me, that I can\u2019t call him out on acting like a shitty person because I am the actual truly shitty person, that I don\u2019t deserve to be happy or loved, that I was an idiot, that he wasn\u2019t immature but that I was for raising my voice and always using slang words (I work with teenagers, it rubs off, what can I say), that I would never be as accomplished him and would never amount to anything, and that he was the best thing that has ever and will ever happen to me. \n\nI rolled my eyes and laughed at him and get kind of snarky and told him I don\u2019t owe him anything, that it was gracious of me to apologize as much as I had but that I didn\u2019t have to but did because I wanted him to know it was me and not him, and that even if I did owe him something it most certainly wouldn\u2019t be my body and that he\u2019s raising his cousin\u2019s boys badly if he believes that. \n\nHe said that since I just put out for everyone and since he\u2019s already seen it all then I shouldn\u2019t be such a bitch about us hooking up or sending him nudes and that it\u2019s offensive to him that I\u2019m shutting him down. \n\nI hold him that the only reason he was mad was because I was supposedly a whore but that I wouldn\u2019t be a whore for him. \n\nHe stormed off after this and then blocked me on all social media a few minutes later. We haven\u2019t talked or seen each other since. \n\nI don\u2019t really feel bad about cheating on him anymore or about how he\u2019s dealt with that (I still know it was wrong). My opinion of him has completely flipped from placing him on a pedestal to thinking lower of him and believing he\u2019s just an egotistical jerk who\u2019s got everyone else fooled (we\u2019re from a small town and he\u2019s very popular here, everyone loves him and thinks he is literally the world\u2019s greatest person, and everyone he meets outside of our town think the same thing). \n\nA couple days after we fought, I started to feel like I am actually in the wrong for being mad at him, fussing at him, and for having stopped feeling bad, and for starting to feel kind of repulsed by him. I know that everything impacts each person differently and I don\u2019t want to invalidate his feelings or belittle them and I know that everyone moves on or doesn\u2019t at their own pace and own prerogative and it\u2019s not my position to say how or when someone does or doesn\u2019t do this. I know that even though I might have seen our relationship as silly and was not really invested in it or him, he may have been very committed and in love and I could have crushed him, so just because I feel one way doesn\u2019t mean he will feel the same way, and I can\u2019t project that into him. \n\nBut truth be told, and to be quite blunt about it, I truly just feel like he\u2019s being a little bitch about it and that he has now wronged me so we\u2019re even somehow. \n\nI don\u2019t really know how to feel about how I\u2019m feeling and keep switching between feeling like I crossed the line and will never be in the right when it comes to him because of our history OR feeling relieved, vindicated, and very appalled at and vexed by him. \n\nI\u2019m just here looking for some unbiased clarification as of course my friends support my side of it just as I\u2019m sure his friends support his. \n\nSo reddit, AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "hxf69Q2pnTb4UglHd27KsvhzfKuE0E7S", "post_id": "ahyxj6", "action": {"description": "sleeping with my stepsister's friend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for sleeping with my stepsister's friend?", "text": "I'll try to explain it as best as I can. I live with my dad, stepmom and stepsister M. She's 18 and I'm 20, this weekend we are home with the two of us and she decided to throw a party yesterday.\n\nI went out to a buddy of mine for a smoke sesh and came back around 11 P.M. M was having a girls night and she invited 5 people. I have seen all her friends a few times and I would consider myself to be good friends with M. I greeted everyone and went to my room as to not disturb them further. Was feeling pretty good already but decided to roll myself a blunt and took my bong out for a few bowls throughout the night. \n\nAround 12 the munchies kicked in and I went downstairs to grab some snacks. They saw me in the kitchen and it was obvious they were already pretty drunk. I got dared to take 4 shots back to back and they started teasing me and calling me a pussy for not doing it. Now I was already pretty high but decided to to do it because why not. M asked me if I had some green and I gave them my bong and took a few hits with them. Left the bong downstairs for them to use and went up with my snacks and rolled another blunt. \n\nI was just puffing and watching YouTube in my bed when someone opened my door. It was M and her friend S. They were laughing their asses off and they both jumped on my bed. I was roughly a [9] at this point and was not sure what to do. I asked them how they were doing and all they did was giggle, touch and tease me. They were both in lingerie too. Somebody called M and she left my room but S was still laying down on my bed. Usually she's pretty shy but a real sweetheart nonetheless. That was not the case now and she was barraging me with questions and kept eying me. \n\nLong story short, we shared the blunt I had left and went to watch some Netflix. This eventually escalated and we ended up having sex and falling asleep afterwards. I don't even know if we used protection.\n\nThis morning I was woken up by M who angrily told me to 'wake the fuck up'. She told me she couldn't believe I had slept with her friend and called me disgusting. I tried to apologize but she was having none of it and stormed out of my room. She hasn't talked to me since and acts like I don't exist. I have a bunch of messages from S thanking me for the night and that she loved it but she had to tell M and that she's sorry.\n\nAm I the asshole here? Honestly if I was fully sober I would have never done this but I was not in control. I definitely understand where she's coming from but I don't believe I'm entirely in the wrong here.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MvV7uN9RKucbq6BmmKzndEGUPZEjFTpp", "post_id": "9wuffq", "action": {"description": "getting someone mad at me", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For getting someone mad at me", "text": "So this happened recently and I\u2019m a freshmen in high school, pretty much what happened is during PE we have a \u201cweekly sport\u201d in which we would do a sport each week. \n\nSo this week it was basketball and I\u2019m not the best at it but I can make shots. So pretty much our coach puts us in random teams and I\u2019m put with the most lazy person ever and half way through one of the games she calls me out for \u201cball hogging\u201d because I\u2019m only passing it to 2 other people because they actually want to play. \n\nAfter this I ignore it and I keep on playing but after a while the ball rebounds off the rim and goes straight for her. Then she ignores the ball and just stands there like a statue, after this I recover the ball and I shoot and make it.\n\nAfter this as I\u2019m walking back I tell her \u201cand you call me ball hog\u201d after this she goes bat shit crazy on me and starts pushing up to me, the teacher comes to defuse the situation and she says that we won\u2019t be playing together after that point on. So I\u2019m just wondering am I the asshole for saying \u201cand you call be ball hog\u201d\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "q0J0v1yNy8ePbwoibA2Ieo4ERhrSWN3y", "post_id": "a5wmb5", "action": {"description": "questioning the mods of Legal Advice why they would lock an update that's clearly asking for more help", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for questioning the mods of Legal Advice why they would lock an update that's clearly asking for more help?", "text": "I got banned from r/legaladvice and r/bestoflegaladvice for this shit. [Here](https://www.reddit.com/r/bestoflegaladvice/comments/a5tcdv/update_to_the_girl_being_groped_by_her_teacher_he/ebpnhct/) is the link to my comment on the Best Of post (where you'll find the link to the update) that contains everything in it's edit, where I posted the message between me and the, in my opinion, abusive mod. Also contains the comment where he bans me for posting the edit showcasing his abuse. \n\nOr maybe it isn't abuse? Am I the asshole in any of this? I mean sure I used curse words but that's who I am I curse like a mother fuck, and the second message I literally said, \"But again, it's not fucked up if you can prove me wrong,\" in the hopes they'd show me why I'm wrong. But they didn't. They immediately banned and muted me for that shit. Then again, the, \"an absolute jerk\" part probably triggered them. Because they're an absolute jerk imo, now. \n\nTheir only argument they've given me about the fucking locked post was because she didn't use a question mark. I mean, bonus question: is she not requesting help? She's talking about how she doesn't know what to do, and trying to discuss it, but they locked it because there's no question. Should she really be locked, and I banned for questioning this shit? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "R09dwfqHa5WSqXz309hdIA7U4Ay9t8mO", "post_id": "b0qi55", "action": {"description": "getting mad at someone on twitter, but somebody else got mad", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at someone on twitter, but somebody else got mad?", "text": "Backstory:\n\nWe were playing an official game of 11th grade basketball with referees and stuff. Our team felt like either the refs were dumb af or we were getting cheated. We were supposed to have 6+ free throws but were somehow negated by the refs because you cant argue against them or else you get a technical foul. Close fight. We lost.\n\nYeah, I was mad obviously. So I decided to post on twitter. I said \" my teacher probably hired some construction workers and gave them referee clothes fuck you refs\". Thought I was being creative and all instead of just saying something simple like \"refs dumb\" etc. \n\nWent to bed and the next thing I knew was my PE teacher wanted to talk to me. I knew it was about the tweet but why the teacher instead of the ref? I got called into the office and we talked. Apparently the principal saw it and she hates profanity. Who the fuck thinks profanity is taboo? The teacher's ass is getting chewed on by the higher ups because of my mistake. My tweet is also a violation of \"disrespect\" based on the student handbook. Dont know how that was disrespect but I lost one medal because of it. I asked on what the refs were thinking at that time etc. and they just kept defending them saying \"You want me to cancel next year's games?\" \"They are licensed\" \"They dont see everything\" \"We paid a lot\" etc. And they just kept talking about how we should be more respectful and respect the refs because they are licensed and experienced. I dont care if they were licensed or not but they disrespected my game, I \"disrespected\" them. But as a student, I am powerless against people with misuse of power, even if i'm right.\n\nI kinda guess my roast was too good intead of just saying \" dumb ref lol\"\n\nTLDR: Tweeted against ref, pricipal got mad, suspended\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "flRBSJyozQs0WEMSsAUmM1wCPY7HQej6", "post_id": "aknpm3", "action": {"description": "telling employee to not focus on one task", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Telling Employee To Not Focus On One Task", "text": "So we've hired this new employee and last month I gave her a ton of duties to do, but she focused on one I explicitly told her not to do as I had a handle on it. She had done it the month before so I suppose there's some familiarity to her but it distracted her from other duties.  \n\n\nSo I approached her about it and mentioned it, she said she wouldn't do it again.  \n\n\nWell this month same thing, she's working on the thing I told her not to, and foregoing duties that actually need her attention.  \n\n\nSo, AITA for coming down on her for this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zfGbb6uftaIIFwPX81saZYtJnWuTJ96A", "post_id": "a2vnng", "action": {"description": "trying to convince a woman to remover her stroller from the bike rack on an intercity train so that I could properly store my bike", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for trying to convince a woman to remover her stroller from the bike rack on an intercity train so that I could properly store my bike?", "text": "Context: fairly busy, but not overcrowded train I take every other weekend to see my gf in a city. The train ride is about 2 hours long and has 6-7 intermediate stops. There is a woman in the seat next to the bike rack playing with an iPad while her kids are screaming and running around the aisles. All three bike racks are taken up by her stroller (which is folded flat).\n\nMe: ma\u2019am is this your stroller?\n\nHer: *stares at me blankly*\n\nMe: ...\n\nHer: so what if it is\n\nMe: it\u2019s in the bike rack and I need to mount my bike.\n\nHer: *immediately begins getting super agitated and defensive and acting like i had just threatened her* it\u2019s my stroller and I need it why the hell am I supposed to do with it?\n\n*this is the part where I start to question my temper in hundsight* It was a very long day and my bullshit tolerance was at a supreme low.\n\nMe: I don\u2019t care what you do with it. It\u2019s not a bicycle and there are luggage racks in every other cabbin. I will help you move it if this is too much to ask you. I\u2019m not leaving my bike in the doorway where anyone can just take it on their way off the train.\n\nHer: you have no right to tell me what to do! I was here first and I have a ticket just like you\n\nMe: look lady, you obviously don\u2019t give a damn about raising your kids the way you\u2019re letting them run up and down the train and you\u2019re just using them as an excuse to act lazy and entitled. Move the stroller or I\u2019ll find the conductors to move it for you.\n\nShe calls my bluff and I\u2019m honestly not willing to go through the trouble so I just say \u201cfine, relax. I\u2019ll put my bike in the doorway\u201d. She freaks out more and tells me not to tell her to relax and I just shrug it off and sit down in a seat where I can watch my bike so it doesn\u2019t get stolen. She spends the next two stops glaring at me before making one of the older kids carry the stroller off the train. \n\nObviously I was in the right on the grounds of what the rules are, but part of me feels like I could have done better with the last thing I said and prevented it from becoming a scene.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ucVzE2kWKrMue276JpNK9PUi0cZD1HRx", "post_id": "azrb3l", "action": {"description": "getting angry at a snapping at a good friend of mine", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For getting angry at a snapping at a good friend of mine", "text": "**Some info before hand.**   \nMy friend group enjoys insulting each other for fun, most are actual insults which would normally piss people off, but to us it doesn't really bother any of us. We treat them as over the internet \"play punches\". We have one friend who is one of my Closer friends in the group, who has gone through a tough life, and is the kinda the center of this story. Lets call him **T**  \n\n\n**The incident**  \nIt was a normal discord call between us all, with everything going normally. We were joking around and the conversation drifted to school, and things about it. **T** Dropped out of high school at a young age and because of that, and the fact he lives in Florida, he ended up being mentioned in the conversation. I didn't talk or pay attention during this time (i was playing *Warframe* and blasting music) but What transpired is one playful insult dug way to deep at that moment. I cant quote it but the insult really hurt my friend. Afterword we completely stopped with the insults about real life, with us realizing our insults about the real life dug way to deep in a good amount of the Group.  \n\n\n**Aftermath (And where the issue happened)**  \nWe mostly stopped with the insults, at times we will still throw some joking ones but not at the same level as before, i think all of us feel extremely guilty about the entire situation. But there is still a good friend to us all who will still throw the normal insults. I guess i was feeling pissed off or rubbed the wrong way but this one joke set me off. All of us recently saw a meme about sending people a box of Gummy D\\*\\*ks (gummy bears style but shaped like D\\*\\*ks). He thought it would be Glorious to send one of those to my work. with my name on it. I lost it, \"what if that causes me to get fired\" and all the lot, it was honestly when i look back at it a real massive overreaction. I straight up told him \"no one does those joke any more why do you think its F\\*\\*king ok to do those jokes still!\" and honestly ripped into him. he ended up leaving the server in the end stating \"i cant be here if im only hurting peoples feelings\".   \n\n\n**AITA** for snapping? we never told people outright in the group to stop doing those more realistic jokes / insults.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "GTx7ncq0NZHhFdBPmAJ3q34BRoqe2vbu", "post_id": "awpvb7", "action": {"description": "going on vacation with a friend my wife dislikes, without my wife", "pronormative_score": 37, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA Going on vacation with a friend my wife dislikes, without my wife.", "text": "Basic information: My wife doesn't work and does next to nothing to contribute to the house. I'm the sole source of income and feel our relationship contribution is 95% from me. I was laid off from my previous job and had to get a new one a year ago (making more money), so I'm just now eligible for paid vacation.  I'm a member of an organization that I've been in for just over 20 years and very very much enjoy going to this event I'm going to soon, that I've had to miss the last 2 years.  I've taken my wife with me every time I've gone since we've been together,  however,  she usually just lies around the tent while we're there due to the heat and said she doesn't want to go this year. I invited a gaming friend to go with me six months or so ago who is flying to the US from Norway just to go with me, and have been looking forward to the event ever since.  \n\nHer side: We can't afford for me to go. The house needs work. I'm taking our only vehicle and leaving her without a means to get around.  Her health is not the best. Her mom will be pissed because she has helped us financially. \n\nMy defense:  While money is tight and I will be on a budget, I've gone to this event in the past with less money and we are not going to starve or have utilities cut off for it etc. The house is really old, and does need work, but over the last few weeks I've been renovating our bathroom during my off time with almost no help from her. Her license is  suspended due to a drunk driving charge so she can't legally drive anywhere. A big part of her health issues is that she drinks too much, doesn't take her daily medication regularly, eats almost nothing,  and spends most (like 90% or more) of her time lying down in bed. I suspect she has mental health issues,  but she refuses to see a psychiatrist. The financial support from her mom has -never- been asked for and the biggest chunk of cash ($2000 +)  was to pay off her fine from the DUI. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 36, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 37, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9M87MH1RlFk5hKLbN5ufqxW5BX7QVssD", "post_id": "b2mtwb", "action": {"description": "accusing my girlfriend of manipulating me by turning me on", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "AITA for accusing my girlfriend of manipulating me by turning me on", "text": "My girlfriend and I have been together for a year. We've always had a very active sex life, but recently I am beginning to feel like she manipulates me with sex. She'll ask for kisses all the time and she's a very passionate kisser. It turns me on a lot and when I'm into it it's all well and good. However I have noticed that when I'm not in the mood and say no to sex, she'll still ask me to kiss her and she knows that turns me on, even when I just said no. \n\nWe got into a fight because she accused me of not showing her enough affection, but I think she is manipulating me by trying to turn me on all the time, even when it's inappropriate. Even when we have just had a fight or when we're in public, she'll go in for it. I'm getting tired of it and I think she is ignoring my boundaries, and I'm sick of her pestering me about affection when I don't feel in the mood. I told her to back off and now she's mad at me. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 3}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "2WD6I4CFavTg7A3WrO79xwX3TnscY2Ic", "post_id": "b13azs", "action": {"description": "telling my friend something", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend something.", "text": "Hi. First time posting in this subreddit. Sorry for format, I'm on mobile.\n\nOkay so... \nBit of background, two of my friends fell out about a year before this happened. They were best friends and ended up hating each other. I still talked to both if them because I didn't want to pick sides. Let's call these people C and R.\n\nC and R both went to a mutual friend's party.  C noticed that R was being rude while the group party was eating. R was on their phone showing another person at the party (J) a video. They both had headphones in. C wanted me to mention this to J so I did. J didn't like this and told R. R told J that I was 'untrustworthy'.\n\n I began to ignore it and bottled it up for a few months until I finally broke down. This meant a teacher got involved because they can't have a crying child in school. The teacher pulled R out of class and we had to have a meeting. R emphasised the point that she couldn't trust me anymore and I pointed out that C wanted me to say it. We left it at that and ignored each other ever since. \n\nThis has left me questioning 'Am I the asshole?'\nSo am I?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MCYd2P022waojJtpsyvCHmkpGgYEjPPb", "post_id": "a81vgl", "action": {"description": "not repaying my friend $6 for a cab ride", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for not repaying my friend $6 for a cab ride?", "text": "About a month back, two friends, my husband, and myself went to a concert together in Manhattan. One friend, \"Mitch\", somehow got very drunk during the concert (we were all drinking, but he was especially drunk at the end) and suggested we go back to his place to play some Jackbox Games. \n\nI expressed hesitation because I had a feeling that if he was this drunk, it meant that he would pass out early. He insisted that he was fine. We talked about getting food before leaving but everyone said they weren't hungry. Eventually, I agreed to go to Mitch's place with my husband, \"Caleb\", and the other guy, \"Rob\". I hailed a cab off the street and then we went to Mitch's place in Queens. Tip + fare is \\~$24. \n\nWe get there and Mitch is alternately smoking (on his balcony) or talking about making Vietnamese noodles. He gives Caleb and I a beer... to split. I'm frustrated so I tell him we came there to play games so sit his ass down and stop talking about noodles. We play approximately two games before he falls asleep on the couch. \n\nCaleb, Rob, and I play another game while Mitch is asleep but they're really much better with four people so we head back to our respective places via Lyft. \n\nThe next day, I get a text (on the group text with Mitch, Caleb, and Rob) from Mitch asking everyone to each pay him $6 for the cab to his place. I sent a text back, \"No, that's part of being the after party host\".  A couple hours later, I get a request from Venmo for $6 (as did Caleb). I send another text explaining that I wasn't kidding, I'm not paying and that if we had gone back to our place, we would've paid for the cab. This dissolves into an \"epic\" text fight where neither of us are understanding how the other doesn't get that they're being ridiculous. My main argument is that he is asking to pay $6 to get home, while Caleb and I would pay a total of $26 to get home ($12 for the cab to Mitch's plus $14 for the Lyft). His argument is basically we split the cab, so we should split the fare. \n\n​\n\n**Additional info that may be relevant:**\n\n* We are all well paid professionals - with Mitch making the second highest single salary out of the four of us (so it's not about needing the money).\n* We regularly host people at our place, and buy all the beer/wine and snacks. We don't ask for reimbursement. \n* Mitch also hosts, but is generally less likely to have beer to share.\n* From Mitch, Rob lives slightly less than a mile away and Caleb and I live about 2 miles in the other direction.\n* I was convinced that I was not the asshole here, but we recently met up with Mitch for the first time after this fight and he (and Rob) expressed total confusion that I thought I was in the right. We're no longer fighting but I wanted to make this post to see once and for all who is in the right. I will accept the outcome either way, and will show the post to Mitch as well. \n* We never paid him the $12\n* I asked my husband to chime in on the text battle and he responded dryly \"It seems like you've got it handled\". \n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "fAAObzvKQXd5QKE7eddqMFk9vKChbMAm", "post_id": "auw7cj", "action": null, "title": "AITA update on my parents letting my abuser abuse me.", "text": "original post \nhttps://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/audxs2/aita_telling_my_mum_and_dad_that_i_hate_them_and/?utm_source=reddit-android\n\nSo I know it's only been a day but I got a bus ticket for later today back down to my place so I thought I would have one last chat with my mum and dad before I cut them out completely. \n\nI said I would just listen to why they decided to do what they did and they didn't have a good enough reason, they were saying how they didn't know what to do and dad thought that by acting like his father (my abuser lost his father in a motorcycle crash) he would stop. \n\nI then asked them why they failed to protect me as parents they had no answer and kinda just looked down at the floor. \n\nI told them that they are lucky I was so strong and got through my eating disorder and other issuss myself because from now on I would be doing everything myself. \n\nI also added that I would be keeping in contact with my younger sister and if anything like this happens I will be calling the police and getting custody of her, so you better not fuck up with your other daughter. \n(I'm keeping an eye on my sister) \n\nI told them that this would be the last time they see me and I got up and left, both mum and dad cried a lot and begged for my forgiveness but refused and left. \n\nthanks so much for the messages, you gave me strength to do this and I love you all. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4QqURq7cDguVMZCPznFrsgGuFFcwCOyk", "post_id": "aa4f9p", "action": {"description": "ordering more food than everyone else when someone else was paying for it", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for ordering more food than everyone else when someone else was paying for it?", "text": "This happened several years ago but it still pops up in my mind on occasion because I felt like a jerk about it.\n\nOne of my professors in college invited my class of 7 or 8 students to lunch at a local sub joint and offered to pay for all of us. I was either second or third in line to order, and the person(s) in front of me ordered a 6\" sub. I ordered a 12\" because that's what I always do at sub places. Everyone after me ordered a 6\".\n\nI hadn't thought about it at the time of ordering, but this place was also a little expensive. Not super expensive but a sandwich here definitely cost more than, say, Subway. Was I an asshole for ordering too much food?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pGlarZKUCpuM4DRdt7H11DIdJoG0jyek", "post_id": "b64kqu", "action": {"description": "not wanting to call my stepfather \"Dad\"", "pronormative_score": 148, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to call my stepfather \"Dad\"?", "text": "So hear me out. In the past few years, my parents got divorced and my mom, who I live with, decided to get remarried. It's been about two years, and I'm not a big fan of her husband. He's OK but he never really tried to get to know me, and he and my mother argue a lot. When our interactions have happened, we've argued a lot, and he's not been very nice. During their arguments, there's nothing too malicious, but they clearly have a lot of issues with each other and really shouldn't even be together in the first place. A few days ago, for some reason, my mom and I started talking about my stepdad, and she referred to him as \"your father.\" I was a little taken aback. With everything going on, why should I call him that? I blurted, \"he's not my dad.\" It wasn't an angry statement, just matter of fact. For some reason, she got really angry, and told me I was \"ungrateful\" and never \"accepted him.\" She hasn't really spoken to me since. Is this justified, or am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 145, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 148, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "INXuIqveImuBxhSWfRwBir5bDyAOojVi", "post_id": "ahdoxk", "action": {"description": "calling a woman a cunt at the grocery store", "pronormative_score": 69, "contranormative_score": 18}, "title": "AITA for calling a woman a cunt at the grocery store?", "text": "Some relevant background information: I have a myriad of health concerns, most of which are joint/back related. Spinel stenosis, osteoarthritis, and my cartilage are essentially being attacked by my body and being broken down and along with this being legally blind. So with all of that, I really can't bend down, walk very far, or walk without limping for the most part. I have good days and bad days like most people my bad days however just involve me being stuck in bed until my body decides to stop hating me. \n\nNow onto today's events, I was grocery shopping, minding my own damn business just trying to get some chicken noodle soup before a damn blizzard hit and I see a package of I think taco seasoning? Idk what it was, but I asked the person in front of me if they dropped it, they said no, and I went along. Now if I could have bend down and picked it up I would have, however, if I tried to do that today there's a 90% chance I would have been stuck bend over or at least in severe pain, and falling is a real possibility for me as I'm not good with balance.\n\nAnother woman in the isle pushes past me and says \"Fine just leave it then.\", I figured she just didn't know I had joint pains or didn't notice me limping around and turned to say \"Sorry, I have joint problems and can't really bend over.\" and she scoffs and says \"don't make up fake excuses\" and then calls me a 'lazy millennial' and said something else under her breath I couldn't quite catch, and typically I'm pretty rational but I'm already in pain and this lady struck a nerve so I said \"Don't be such a cunt\" and walked off to continue my shopping. \n\nWhen telling a friend of mine this, they said I was being an asshole to her. Personally, I don't think I was, she's the one pushing people aside and starting shit, so I figure I'd let the internet decide. \n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 67, "EVERYBODY": 15, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 69, "WRONG": 18}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zx0Q98LwKivyyiPdykVKRJZLCpEOWXhX", "post_id": "awmlkg", "action": {"description": "being \"that friend\" that never goes out", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA Being \"that friend\" that never goes out", "text": "Throwaway for reasons\n\n​\n\nBackground info:\n\nI do have a invisible disability and 90% of the time I'm in pain and I just can't go out. It affect my stomach and I can't eat certain/most foods. My friends know about my disability because it eventually came to the point where didn't want them to think I'm bailing on them when they invite me to go out to eat. I'm not the type of person that tells people about every detail about my life, disability, financial issue, and etc.\n\nI'm not working because my disability is affecting me 24/7. I tried to work full-time in a office for 2 months and my pain fucking tripled. Before that I was working part-time it was okay but I couldn't stand over 4-5 hrs and they never had any hours for me. \n\nI'm not on SS disability. I applied and they denied me. I'm in waiting process for a hearing. (it's been 2 1/2 years)\n\n\\------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------\n\nI'm \"that friend\" that always cancels or makes excuses to not go out. Most of time I cancel on people. It's not because I want to cancel its because I'm poor. \n\nI don't have money to just throw on eating food out in expensive places, go to events, and etc. \n\nMy friend invite me to go an convention for 3-4 days and obviously it would be awesome to go. I'm just stuck on what to say to them. My family is struggling to pay bills as is. You don't know how many fucking time I've crying into a panic attack because my family can't even afford basic needs.\n\n​\n\n*Even if I wanted to go this would be the prices:*\n\n*Flight - $140*\n\n*Hotel- $160/per night*\n\n*Food-$50/ per day*\n\n*Tickets- $60 for one day at convention*\n\n*More stuff they want to do: $$ ???*\n\n​\n\nI hate saying no to people or making excuses. I just don't want to tell my friend; \"Hey, sorry I can't go because I'm poor and have my own issues\". Like it's unfair to them and me. \n\n​\n\nWould I be an asshole if I just tell me friend that I can't afford it and I'm poor?\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3fT5sJUsGVetjelWAq6evBL6HCmGd6eO", "post_id": "aejr4t", "action": {"description": "not giving my broke girlfriend $2 for a tamale", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 30}, "title": "AITA for not giving my broke girlfriend $2 for a tamale?", "text": "This happened last weekend but she's still not talking to me so I decided to bring it here for judgment instead.\n\nMy GF and I (both late 20s) have been together for about a year and a half. When I met her she was financially stable, though I make mid-six figures and she makes mid-five figures. I appreciated that she was frugal (as am I) and didn't waste money on things like trips or expensive meals out or material items no one needs. After a while she admitted to me that the reason she is so frugal is because she grew up very poor and does not have a safety net. Last spring she had an accident that resulted in her being in the hospital for some time and saddled her with a great deal of medical bills. From day one she was adamant that because we had only been dating for a few months, I was not responsible for any of her bills, nor did she even want me to know the financial specifics of them. I was fine with that and we continued as usual. I did notice that she has become more frugal than before and has acted as if she is under more stress, but I honestly thought it had more to do with the accident than anything else.\n\nLast weekend we met up with two of our other friends for brunch. My GF said she wasn't hungry and didn't order anything during the meal and just had a cappuccino and some of my home fries, but we all split the meal four ways anyway because that's how it is with these friends. It wasn't a huge bill but she was obviously annoyed about having to put her card down for it, even though we've all paid our share of meals where we had the smallest item before. Anyway, when we were on our way home we passed a woman selling tamales on the corner for $2 apiece. GF says to me \"Babe, do you have $2?\" I did have cash, but she had literally just sat through a meal saying she wasn't hungry, and I was embarrassed by the way she had rolled her eyes while settling the bill, so I told her there was a bank across the street. She went \"I don't want to have to take out a $20 just for a two dollar tamale,\" and I told her \"Fine, don't get a tamale then.\" She got really quiet and went \"I'm just really hungry,\" and I kind of snapped at her and told her that she should have ordered something at brunch instead of just eating my leftovers. Then she told me that she has been \"food insecure\" over the past few weeks because of her medical/credit card debt and that she didn't have the $20 in her bank account to take out because she had to pay at brunch. She said she hadn't told me about any of this because she \"knew\" I would judge her for not handling her money more wisely, started crying, called me an asshole, and walked off. I haven't spoken to her since it happened on Sunday.\n\nI don't think this is fair for a number of reasons, the biggest being that I'm not a mind reader and wouldn't know anything about her finances because she expressly told me her medical bills were none of my business. I highly doubt the \"food insecure\" claim, but either way, she has been way too eager to let me pick up the bill when we go out to eat over the past couple months (even though at the beginning of the relationship we always split it evenly, or she'd pay if she ordered the more expensive thing). She makes a salary and I have no reason to believe she can't afford food to eat, so I'm pretty sure this is a guilt trip situation. But like I said, she hasn't spoken to me since Sunday and it's Thursday morning, so I am looking for an objective opinion: am I the asshole for not giving her tamale money, or does she need to realize that she can't keep mooching off people just because she's in debt?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 29, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 30}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "52zBwBr8cmSlXpL5Mx9U3zgDzqb9EQM4", "post_id": "b6wcxv", "action": {"description": "not wanting my kids to eat candy for breakfast", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my kids to eat candy for breakfast?", "text": "Recently started traveling for week about one work-week a month.   My wife works too, and I am usually the one that does drop off of our two kids.\n\nShe\u2019s been bribing them (a 3 and 5 yr old) with dessert every afternoon to behave, and candy every morning to behave and get dressed.  \n\nI said \u201cthanks - I\u2019m either an enabler come Monday who is raising assholes who only behave for candy, or the actual asshole in their eyes because I don\u2019t give them chocolate for doing normal shit every kid has to learn to do\u201d\n\nShe responded \u201cwhat I choose to do to survive alone, is my choice. I would really appreciate less judgment\u201d\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SXL8xIET3aAZll5AmQcopZO8qScTJu9I", "post_id": "9xgxc4", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Two people did all the work on a group project", "text": "I\u2019m in college and one of the larger projects in the year is a group presentation to the class. After we got this assignment our group made a date to manage who was doing what, what to work on, etc. Fast forward to that date and when me and my friend get there we were greeted by a nearly complete PowerPoint. To try and help we started structuring the presentation, made it flow a lot better but honestly we were just polishing a finished product. Fast forward again to when we met our teacher to discuss what could be improved, changed or added, that escalated into one girl crying and the other calling us lazy and doing no work. She said there was an email of the PowerPoint. Me or my friend never saw the PowerPoint. One of the girls had my number and could have contacted me or my friend. I was mad because they did everything and left nothing for the rest of us which could lead to a low mark. They were mad for obvious reasons. AITA", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KM6BkzdN1kTdUbAJNqmjEHpebGz1rUrn", "post_id": "aqq53t", "action": {"description": "not wanting to bring two friends (a couple) to our vacation", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA (AWTA) for not wanting to bring two friends (a couple) to our vacation?", "text": "Bit of context here. My SO has been friends with the girl for 6 years, they went to highschool together, they're close and they could be considered BF's. I met my SO through her, and she is also a close friend of mine.\n\nWe've known her boyfriend since they started dating so about 3-4 years. \n\nNow, they do this thing where we simply HAVE to spend every festive occasion together (NY for example, couple of years in a row), and we've also been taking winter/summer vacations with them.\n\nNow, I don't exactly mind them, and while they can be fun, the two of them together can sometimes be toxic to be around, individually and  paired up, won't go into details but it can and did previously take from the vacationing experience.\n\nMe and my SO both agree that we don't want to take our next summer vacation with them, and we tried toning their will down by saying we plan on moving in together so we can't really afford a vacation, and we thought we could just schedule a last minute one while they are already away. \n\nWe also simply considered telling them nicely how we want to be left alone, since I don't want to deal with anyone else's baggage other than the two of us.\n\nAre we the assholes for trying to weasel out of it, or would we be the assholes for telling them straight up, we wanna go alone? \n\nMy SO fears that this would deeply hurt our friend because she has issues with being neglected, and would most likely take it to heart. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MOFtArPOKnnvRy8zafXbSGAP3quu96G6", "post_id": "apgh0b", "action": {"description": "missing my bus", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for missing my bus?", "text": "Today I was waiting for my school bus inside my house, like every other day. Usually, the driver pulls up about half a block away, then I leave the house and walk out to the bus, because I live in Wisconsin and it's literally been colder than Antarctica recently. It takes 30 seconds tops to get to the bus, not much of an inconvenience imo. Especially because the bus driver is obligated to wait 2 minutes before they leave if no one gets on the bus.\n\nAnyways, when I was waiting today I saw the bus coming and began to walk out, but the driver didn't stop at all and kept driving. My parents were not in the room at the time, but when they saw the bus driving away without me they got angry I didn't get on. I explained to them that the bus didn't stop, so it wasn't my fault. They started yelling saying \u00a8I can never see my wrongs\u00a8, \u00a8I should have been waiting outside\u00a8 (keep in mind its like 10 degrees), etc., etc. \n\nI guess I could have been waiting outside, but I've been doing it like this since last year, the bus driver knows what to do. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hAtcPtFtptmnSFLRvXuQiq27B0h8mwPK", "post_id": "a7etyy", "action": {"description": "planning to ask my bf to stop hanging out with his best friend", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for planning to ask my bf to stop hanging out with his best friend?", "text": "Our relationship is really healthy although this petition i plan to make. we both are very respectful to each other. He smokes weed frequently with his best friend but now he is into cocaine. And I'm ok with weed but not with cocaine. He is his only close friend. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "boJt7tKJdtmzWyIjGarQS4z0z0Lx9LYk", "post_id": "a8rcxy", "action": {"description": "being worried about my girlfriend drinking too much", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA when I'm worried about my girlfriend drinking too much?", "text": "My girlfriend is 18, so it's illegal for her to drink here. I don't worry about the law too much, but I'm concerned for her health when she drinks, even though it's not that often. Usually when she does drink, she's with friends and drinks drinks with low alcohol content (4.5%), so it's not a concern to her health. However, I still get worried about her for some reason, so I always just tell her \"be safe, don't drink too much\" before she does. I'm never with her when she does, if that's important.\n\n​\n\nAm I being irrational, or am I justifiably worried? I never try to stop her, but should I? Thanks for your help.\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5tUyTrfg9FehBDbP6OvIc6WUqUnfWOBD", "post_id": "ayyr6n", "action": {"description": "telling my sister's boyfriend the truth about her", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 253}, "title": "AITA for telling my sister's boyfriend the truth about her", "text": "My sister has been dating this guy for over a year. they're really serious, talking marriage, etc. I made a comment to my parents that it was good of him to be with her, knowing her history, which is that her old boyfriend abused her and was basically her pimp for a few months before she came back to live with my parents. I am unsure if I believe how little agency she claims she had in the situation. My parents then shocked me by saying that they weren't sure if he knew what happened.\n\nI thought it was wrong of her to be with this guy while concealing something so major that would make most guys not want to be with her. I went over to their apartment and took her boyfriend aside and told him. He did not react as expected, but instead he started yelling at me, telling me I'm terrible and disgusting and he threw me out of their apartment. I don't know if he actually knew or if he was surprised by the news and taking it out on me.\n\nI reached out to my sister and told her that if I was going to be in her life, I would need a heartfelt apology from her boyfriend from reacting so cruelly, and she responded by telling me she doesn't want me in her life and I can fuck off. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 252, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 253}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "O1aJVb0B6Cyi8cbwusAZuayb1AIM3p1W", "post_id": "a7ptmq", "action": {"description": "writing out a list of reasons why I was breaking up with my boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AItA for writing out a list of reasons why I was breaking up with my boyfriend?", "text": "I'm gonna try to keep this short but basically I (19) broke up with my boyfriend (22) of 10 months (my first relationship, his 7th?ish but longest) and I did so while referencing a list that I'd wrote; the list including how he'd been taking out his anger at other things on me and would just say \"yeah, sure, fine, you're right\" when I showed him proof that I wasn't doing the things he said only to bring them up later, it included the 3 times he didn't stop when I said no, and how he kept pushing me to do sexual things when we agreed that we'd stop because I didn't feel able to say no, an incident where he'd left me alone at his parents house (an hour away from mine) after promising he would help me move out of my parents that weekend because he spontaneously decided he wanted to go to their cottage, gave me 3 broken toes, a concussion, and a black eye accidently by doing unnecessarily dangerous things to me, or just straight up ignoring my wellbeing for his own comfort, refused when I kept asking him to get help for his problems, finally culminating in a month where he told me he didn't know if he wanted to be with me wherein I didn't sleep and had dozens of panic attacks a day because I'd become so isolated I thought he was the best, or the only thing, I'd ever get. The last straw for me was finding out that during that month he'd begun relentlessly flirting with other girls on social media, whether they were interested or not, and was taking another girl on dates near identical to our first dates, all while burying any posts of me under his woodworking and not telling any of them I existed.\n\n​\n\nNow, as for why I wrote it all out; any other time we'd fought, he would yell and throw things I'd end up so exhausted from the flashbacks and panic it caused, he'd have a panic attack and I'd drop everything to take care of him even though he never stopped yelling or physically intimidating things, and I'd give up. The next day he'd promise he'd try to do better, and make me laugh and smile even though nothing had been solved. I didn't want to give in without having fixed anything this time so I wrote out the points I wanted to make on my phone and read them off my phone. I wanted him to realize everything that he'd done. I wanted him to never do that to anyone else. I wanted him to realize he needed help, and get better. To be completely honest, a part of me wanted him to try to make it all up to me. \n\n​\n\nI'm not proud of how I handled the breakup, I said a few things I regret (told him to rot when he asked me not to end it), but I agreed to be friends with him like he asked me to. Then, he changed his mind, so I said goodbye and he asked why it had to be \"this existential\". We've fought twice since the breakup and every time he says something like \"why don't you send me the essay you wrote about me being a terrible person and I'll go over it with my therapist\". (I know I shouldn't have kept talking to him, but I really wanted to help him get better). I recognize that the list was definitely weird, and probably a Bit Much^(TM), but am I an asshole for what I did?\n\n​\n\n**TL;DR: wrote out a list of reasons I was breaking up with my ex because I didn't want to give in without getting it all off my chest and without solving anything as usual, AItA?**", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RU3sDCbX9avVtfxuObePS2Ohp6MleeDs", "post_id": "a6cxbq", "action": {"description": "drinking my girlfriend's beer", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for drinking my girlfriend\u2019s beer?", "text": "My girlfriend left a pint of really nice double IPA in my fridge for the last two weeks. She is at work right now and will not be home until almost 12:00 am.\n\nI have finished all of my beer and just made cornbread, scrambled eggs, and homemade gravy for dinner. I really want to drink her beer too, and she doesn\u2019t like beer that much. I don\u2019t want to text her and ask, because she might say no, and then I really can\u2019t take it.\n\nAm I the asshole if I drink it? Even if I buy her breakfast to make up for it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4HzraopV9COKBnjp2e7Dmdcj7jReIzri", "post_id": "a4kjhz", "action": {"description": "not answering my phone", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not answering my phone?", "text": "I live with my phone on 'Do Not Disturb' for numerous reason. The other day I notice that I've had about four missed calls from my flatmate (lets call her Sarah) and a message asking 'Are you in?'.  So, I message her back asking what's up - theres no reply after so I put my phone back down. \n\n​\n\nAbout an hour later, my other flatmate finds me in the kitchen and starts to shout at me because \"Sarah has been locked outside in the cold for an hour!\". Obviously, at first I felt really bad thinking she had forgotten her key. However it soon transpired that she had returned to the apartment with far too much equipment (we're film students and often book out loads of stuff for shoots) to carry herself and didn't want to abandon anything to make trips. \n\n​\n\nAfter hearing this I tried to argue that Sarah's choice to be dropped off outside with all the equipment has nothing to with me.  She hadn't planned for me to help previously and as aforementioned, she didn't even know if I was home. Meaning she probably knew while getting dropped off that she might be stuck outside for an hour. Why didn't whoever helped her carry it to the flat also help her get it upstairs? \n\n​\n\nIf I had known of course I would've helped her. \n\n​\n\nSo, I walked into the kitchen the next day to find them talking about me and we all proceed to have a big old argument about it all and we haven't spoken since.\n\n​\n\nAm I the asshole?\n\n ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qRcDcFOkdOusgRyM5BvjNjuDLlZOosXC", "post_id": "a2004b", "action": {"description": "calling out my mother", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for calling out my mother?", "text": "To preface, this was after church (I\u2019m not Christian but act like I am) and just my mother and I were on our way to lunch with the family. \n\nThe topic goes to this 12 year old girl at church. My mother just goes on an on saying that she is ugly and has a weird face, for about two or three minutes. I 17M, finally have had enough and tell her that judging a 12 year old kid about their looks is rude and something that should remain unsaid. Now, I will admit, that kid isn\u2019t super good looking, but maybe I just think it doesn\u2019t matter because I\u2019m gay, but she is super nice usually. \n\nWell my mother got all upset at me and every time she said an opinion at lunch she would then say, \u201cOh wait, ntaylor7746 said I\u2019m not allowed to have an opinion.\u201d Am I the asshole for calling her, a grown ass 44 year old woman, put for talking shit about a child?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "k5g3wzBCJsHJOnAh8CHGUj3ZyVjj5VAE", "post_id": "ap0hm1", "action": {"description": "refusing to give my grandma's friend information", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to give my grandma's friend information", "text": "Hubby and I moved across the country to help my mom with my grandparents (shopping, doctor visits, etc). My grandmother has alzheimer's and it's still in the beginning stages, which makes dealing with her a little difficult. She's in her late 70s and refuses to be told how to live, even if it's good for her health. Because of insurance changed, we have had to change their doctor a couple of times. Her last three doctors have told her that she's diabetic, but she refuses to believe it and continually sites the doctor before them saying she's \"borderline\" only. She's actually gotten into full blown arguments with my grandfather, my mother, and myself about the fact that she has to take her medication as prescribed and the fact that her diet absolutely has to change in order to keep her healthy. I have even gone so far as to threaten her with a home (not that I could ever follow through with the threat, I was just grasping at straws). My grandfather is and has been ready to be put in a home for over a decade because he does not want to become a burden to anyone. My grandmother, on the other hand, refused to talk to me for almost two weeks just for mentioning it. Then, about eight months ago, a friend of my grandmother's moved back into town (she had been living with her son and hated it). She's on the list for section 8 housing, but jumped the gun and moved into my grandparents' house. From what my grandfather was told, she would be there two weeks, she was there three months and only left because she had to (my uncle was coming into town and my grandfather told her that they needed the space). She still takes my grandmother out all the time, and while they are out she borrows money from my grandmother with no real repayment plan in place. She also comes over a few times a week to eat dinner, completely uninvited. \n\n​\n\nSomewhere in the mix of all that (about three months ago), my grandmother started calling on her friend to take her to the doctor. I would show up to take her to appointments only to find out that she was already gone. Or I would find out, after the fact, about her going to an appointment that I didn't even know about. This is especially problematic because her friend doesn't tell us what's happening and my grandmother doesn't remember everything or just refuses to tell us about her appointments. When my mother confronted my grandparents about it, they responded by saying that I'm unreliable. Which blows my mind because until this started happening, I was always the one taking them to their appointments without fail, and I am still the one that takes my grandfather to all of his appointments. Of course, asking them how I can be considered unreliable when I don't even know about the appointment gets met with silence. So, we've officially told my grandmother that she is no longer allowed to go to the doctor without me or my mother, on at least four separate times now. I even went so far as to call her friend and tell her that she cannot take my grandmother to any appointments. Like, I don't even care if you take her shopping or whatever. That's between you and her, but no more doctors. That's my job. That was two weeks ago.\n\n​\n\nLast week, my grandmother had outpatient surgery. Her friend went with us because my grandmother had no idea where she was supposed to go and I wasn't involved in any of the planning for this surgery. There was a mass removed, which had to be sent to pathology. I set up the appointment for the results. I also set up an appointment for my grandfather's dermatologist later on the same day. That day is Monday. I woke up sick as a dog on Friday, but I have been forcing medication down my throat to get myself well enough over the weekend to not have to ask my mom to take time off work for this. Well, midday on Friday, grandma's friend calls me.  \n\n\nFriend: Hey \\[my name\\]. I heard you had to go to the Social Security Office on Monday?\n\nMe: No...?\n\nFriend: Oh, well, your grandmother's appointment is on Monday. At what time?\n\nMe: Why?\n\nFriend: So that I can go.\n\nMe: Why?\n\nFriend: \\*mumbles\\* Okay. Okay. Talk to you later.\n\n​\n\nMy mother comes home later on, from being with my grandparents. She caught my grandma attempting to make plans with her friend for Monday. Her excuse is that I'm sick and I won't be able to take her. I'm at the point where I want to call her friend and reiterate that she is not to take my grandmother to the doctors anymore. Am I being unreasonable here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dnzwUk2isGhD7d1PMbT9aaqvgZLsNvaY", "post_id": "ad24ai", "action": {"description": "telling off my dad", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for telling off my dad", "text": "My dad has two female dogs that stay outside most of the time. He lives out in the country and has a pretty large fenced in yard. Neither of his dogs are fixed. Last year when one of them went into heat, a neighbor dog jumped the fence and mated with her. Later when the other girl went into heat, he decided that he was going to \"take care of the problem\". I assumed he was going to get them both fixed. I was wrong. He \"shot at\" the neighbor dog (he has stormtrooper aim). When I found out I yelled at him for it, saying it is his responsibility to get his dogs spayed and that shooting at the dog was wrong. Most people I tell this to say I shouldn't have yelled at him and that he was just protecting his property. I don't think I was wrong, but pretty much everyone in my family acts like I was.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yRJoX5Qi3DhlmoVZ7BYPwo64xKSe98y8", "post_id": "9v3plb", "action": {"description": "wanting pay as a social media \"handler\" for my brother", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting pay as a social media \"handler\" for my brother?", "text": "Some backstory. My brother makes music and he asked if I wanted to be a part. Ofc  I said yes.\nAfter some brainstorming we came to the conclusion that I could handle his social media (i dont have a better word for it).\n\nNow we havent started and I havent asked this queston yet, but i still want to know if its a fair question.\n\nSadly he is not very well known but he is hard working.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Z06bjndNFyRnYKzWGuGUpU4Xb4eH4ad7", "post_id": "ax7atz", "action": {"description": "calling out my ex's lil sis for being rude and petty", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for calling out my ex\u2019s lil sis for being rude and petty?", "text": "TLDR at bottom\nBackground: I\u2019ve known my ex (J) since 2013.\nI currently pay rent and live with J\u2019s mum, J\u2019s step dad and J. J and I are still best friends post breakup.\nJ\u2019s family has had this dog for the last 8 years, and for the last 5 years it has always shit and piss inside the house and none of them bothered to retrain her.\n\nJ\u2019s little sister (R) moved out Easter 2018. Occasionally she comes back to stay for a few days.\n\nR shows up out of nowhere unannounced, and sends a Facebook message to myself and J saying:\n\u201cIdk if you guys are here but I'm at home in town tonight and until Fri or Sat\u201d. \n\nThen starts the problems. \nSpare bed upstairs isn\u2019t made, she complains to us that it isn\u2019t made. R is 21 in less than 2 months. She lived in this house for 4 years before moving out. J tells her to make the bed.\n\n20 minutes later R says:\n\u201cAlso do you guys not know how to pick up dog shit and air out a house. That shit i just picked up looks like its been sitting there for days.\u201d\n\nJ and I had spent 2 hours cleaning the entire house, and there was no dog shit there at 8:30pm when we went to bed.\nI have always in the past just let her walk over me. I decided enough was enough. \n\nMe: \u201cJfc R we\u2019ve been in bed since 8:30 which is more than enough time for her to shit\nThe house has been open every day, if you have a problem remember she\u2019s YOUR family dog\u201d\n\nR replies:\n\u201cThe shit was white and crusty it did not just come out of her ass, hence why I made the comment \nNo need to go off on a tangent and be rude.\nYou literally haven\u2019t even seen me to say hi and you\u2019re already having a go at me when I\u2019m literally not even mad?\nHOME SWEET HOME HEY!\nRemember who\u2019s house you\u2019re actually in\u201d\n\nMy reply:\n\u201cWell it wasn\u2019t up there when we went to bed.\nYou were the one being rude R, \u201cdon\u2019t you know how to pick up dog shit and air out a house\u201d is pretty fucking rude, and I\u2019m not putting up with that shit.\nSorry for not getting out of bed at 10pm to come and say hello? \nTemember that it\u2019s you MOTHERS house, NOT yours, and I pay RENT to live here, which means I\u2019m entitled to be here\u201d\n\nR replies:\n\u201cIt\u2019s called sarcasm darl \nStop trying to fucking argue and prove a stupid point haha\nThis is literally so dumb, come talk to my face if you have further irrelevant & petty shit to say\u201d\n\nMy reply:\n\u201cHmmmmmmm or you could\u2019ve just dealt with it and been an adult about it\nI don\u2019t need to prove anything, you\u2019ve done that yourself.\n\u201cRemember who\u2019s house you\u2019re actually in\u201d ?\nThink you\u2019re the one being petty R, wake up to yourself.\u201d\n\nAITA?\n\nTLDR; my ex\u2019s little sister (21) came to her parents house where I currently live and pay rent and ex lives here too, proceeds to complain about dog shit on the floor which wasn\u2019t there when we went to bed, I call her out that it\u2019s her family dog then call her out for being rude and petty after she tells me \u201cremember who\u2019s house you\u2019re actually in\u201d", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "rfudKICjkzToGXOyukez9m71zPTNBOB0", "post_id": "ba2kbi", "action": {"description": "not wanting to get to know my dead beat dad", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to get to know my dead beat dad", "text": "For my entire life (I\u2019m 20) my father has been out of the picture, he left me and my mom when I was like 4 months old due to circumstances that I am not aware of but I\u2019m sure are dicey to talk about given that both my mom and dad walk on eggshells about the topic (I have a theory that drugs MAY be involved???) \n\nWell a few weeks ago a man messaged me on Facebook claiming to be my dad , I thought it was a prank until I asked my mom and she confirmed he was in fact my dad. \n\nSo now here I am , with a dad all of the sudden and idk what to do. I\u2019ve talked to him a bit just to see what he\u2019s like I suppose and he wants to get to know me more but like, this is a lot. And I\u2019m already going through a lot on the side. Even if I wasn\u2019t, I don\u2019t really know how I feel about talking to him because I\u2019ve grown to resent him for making a kid and then just ditching . Like wtf, furthermore he made his G R A N D entrance to my life.... on *FACEBOOK* \nFacebook. Because messenger is where you have all the life changing, reality shattering conversations.\nAll these things combined make me not want to talk to him or let him in my life but I feel really bad about that because he genuinely sounds apologetic about leaving . \nI just don\u2019t really know what to do and I want to know if I\u2019m being an ass by not forgiving him or something. \n\n(Sorry if this was confusing I was kinda panicking about it and sorta just word vomited about it)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sx1AnQjbv3oDH4LLzqBzPas7gJcstz7R", "post_id": "b99vfw", "action": {"description": "being passive aggressive, and refusing to repeat my name to a customer", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For being passive aggressive, and refusing to repeat my name to a customer.", "text": "I work cash register at a [redacted] I've worked here for 3(1/2) months, from new management I've gone from an above average employee to the best non manager worker I've never had a bad experience with a customer I always keep my self level headed, and try to be as nice as possible, and help the new managers deal with rude, or customers who want to resolve their orders I've had only 2 refunds in my time here, and I do all the work i can. \nToday I was put on drive thru with no assistance, and the only food handler for the night didn't come in,i had worked from 4 to 7 getting out big orders till a customer ordered a sandwich with the sauce on the side fresh fries 2 orders, and a large amount of chicken with extra sides I got everything through fresh, and I know the fries where fresh since I dropped them the moment he was up at the window I got everything bagged up except I put sauce on the sandwich, and the customer pulled the fries out over them being cold tossing them on the window sill, and yelling about the sandwich I let him keep the first I made since it's trash at that point, and I'm trying to explain the wait since it was only 2 employees running things with no chicken at all for the afternoon so he starts asking for the old management, and I try to say all of them are gone he gets frustrated, and he ask for a refund I just get him out of there since he's backing up the line, so I give him his money, and then he ask for my name I had already repeated it 3 times throughout his entire ordering process, and was getting bothered with him so I just refused to waste my time the whole time I kept my voice calm as how I'm sevely sick so my vocals hurt when I speak loudly the guy said you should look for a new job cause you're an asshole.\n\nIronic he didn't mention him calling me, an asshole, cursing, and raising his voice over an order I could've fixed in the report he called in.\n Also he claims his wife comes in constantly for 30 dollar orders I only get one day off looks like he wanted chicken a day earlier since I've never seen him before.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XrKYbE6i1APiOZziOBxm7wij1SjoXPRZ", "post_id": "agyxhq", "action": {"description": "not wanting to post a picture of my girlfriend and I on facebook", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to post a picture of my girlfriend and I on facebook? [M36, F37]", "text": "To start, I don't use facebook. I think I made 2 posts in the last year, neither of which were important at all. I don't even log in. Almost missed a graduation party because the invite came through facebook, luckily I ran into the person before it happened. I don't like social media, I don't like my life on display, I have like 100 friends on there, it's pointless to me, along with IG, Snapchat, etc. I don't use social media. I'd rather live my life in the moment and enjoy the time and effort I put into the relationship instead of hearing what other people think.\n\nSo, she asked if I would post a pic of us and I said I don't use facebook. she's my friend on there, but again, that means nothing to me. She got all upset and was trying to force it down my throat, but I stood firm. I don't post to facebook and I don't need validation from people online.\n\nShe talked to her friend and her friend, who gets upset when her on/off boyfriend adds girls to facebook all the time, chimed in that I'm immature and she should dump me if I don't \"Claim\" her on facebook. I think this is petty. I explained I spend 4-6 days a week with her, our kids hang out, we crash at each others places all the time, we go on road trips, we're planning a trip to Europe this summer. It's not like I'm hiding anything and I don't want/need validation from people. I don't show off, I don't brag, it's just how it's always been with me. I don't even post pics of places I go. The important people in my life know, I've sent them pics of us together and that's it.\n\nHer son can't get off snapchat and constantly lies and advertises that he's drinking underage and using drugs (another story, it's being worked out). I just don't like putting my life on display.\n\nI said I'm not changing my mind on this, facebook doesn't define my relationships and if she wants to end it over somthing as petty as this, then go for it. Her friend is already telling her to end it, which taking advice from here is backwards since she is dumping/getting back together with this guy all the time over stupid stuff. I think this is more an insecurity thing and at this age, shouldn't be. This is high school drama to me and is unecessary.\n\nAnyway, thanks for reading. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "moxJdXkfEmuSNvrVJHewsPSdQKEgxhTA", "post_id": "a10cg5", "action": {"description": "wanting to play my ps4 offline at my friend's expense", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "WIBTA for wanting to play my PS4 offline at my friend's expense?", "text": "Okay, I'll do my best to make this brief.\n\nI recently found out I will have to go to Wisconsin for some medical reasons unimportant to the story. For years, my friend and I have \"game shared\" on PS4. This allows only one copy of the game to purchased but it can be played on two consoles. So my friend and I, trying to save some cash, decided to buy a bunch of (digital) games through my account but split the price because his PS4 would get the game as well (gigantic mistake). The issue with \"game sharing\" is that the PS4 games we bought cannot be played offline on my PS4, but they can on his. With my trip coming up, I will be offline for a few weeks and would like to play my games during that time. If I were to un-game share (which I don't need his approval to do), all the games we split the payment on would be unplayable on his PS4, but playable on mine. We split the price of almost all the games, so he spent money on them as well as I. WIBTA for rendering his games useless so I would be able to play?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "QNuiC33YRHbtgGKEPc52PtdcfQb5Jxge", "post_id": "ar0j7p", "action": {"description": "hating my parents because they don't seem to understand me", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for hating my parents because they don't seem to understand me", "text": "Ok first of all english is my second language sorry\nfor typos, but anyways let's go\n\n(19 btw) I've been struggeling with my mom and my step dad for a long time now there genuine nice parents and they do a lot for me like paying for important stuff like my drivers license ect.\n\nAnd here comes the deal for me they always expect me to be fast as fuck with certain things like drivers license even if i struggle very bad with it and i hate to tell them such things cuz they always get goddam mad at me for it what makes me just more anxious so i flee into my digital world to avoid my problems.\n\nNow there responding with always pressuring to take my internet away the only thing i have in this shithole of a village (we moved a year ago from east to north germany and i still struggle to fit in here) i have basically no friends here besides my weekly yu gi oh group meeting wich i started around 3 weeks ago so i guess thats getting a bit better\n\nI can't really move away here cuz i failed at my dream to be chef and now I'm here doing volunteer work too get a bit of money and yeah that not getting better for a bit.\n\nAlso another huge thing for me is that my mom is always correcting me its like her drug she also barely tells me she's proud like my step dad does, so its even harder for me cuz I'd like atleast a bit of recognition for what i do when that makes sense.\n\nAnyway my life consist of being mostly alone in my room single with almost 0 friends and no enjoyable things around my parents a making me feel worse and worse each day and i just want a solution or atleast to know if my behavior is wrong.\n\n\nThx in advance\n\nThis is also my first post sorry for any mistakes.\n\nAlso on mobile\n\nSo AITA here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "QCCC2rEpYf6aS98jgsErqUjqtpSRXNrj", "post_id": "b0urw4", "action": {"description": "pretending to be stupid", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for pretending to be stupid?", "text": "Back when I was in highschool, there was a fellow friend of mine who slightly struggled in his studies. He told me that seeing all his classmates score higher than him in exams made him had less confidence in himself(he\u2019s depressed because of it if I remembered correctly). Being me, I pondered on this thought for awhile and came up with a solution.\n\nThe week after, I sat beside him in class and asked him mostly the questions that were kinda hard. My best subject was Maths but that was also his worst.  I asked him questions after questions. If he explained it to me wrongly I would know and did the \u2018but i though u need to do this first\u2019. I can see why Maths was his worst as he had no passion in studying it at all. I lied to him about how i cant study at all and barely passed everything. After I mentioned that, he said that he is glad to have a friend that is not as smart as everyone else and on par with him.\n\nLong story short, I scored above average in the mid-year exams while he barely passed. He got transferred not long after due to family issues. We haven\u2019t got intouch since. Im just wondering if I did the wrong thing or not.\n\n(I know this story is kinda WAY out of league with other AITA stories but this thing has been on my mind a lot and i wanna lift the burden off my shoulders by sharing this with others and reading take on this story.tqvm)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "y8AH85o0rfSyLNnmS45YcldR3k4Uy1Hg", "post_id": "aqqhri", "action": {"description": "telling my dad that I don't want to get my mom a gift for Valentine's day when her birthday is next week", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my dad that I don't want to get my mom a gift for Valentine's Day when her birthday is next week?", "text": "Let me preface this by saying that I love both my parents very much. Ever since I was a kid, my dad has always incorporated me and my brother into his Valentine's day gift to my mom. For example, he once got her a bath robe and had us give to her while saying that it was a gift from all of us. I didn't really have a problem with this, but now that both me and my brother are older and have our own sources of income he keeps telling us how we have to get our mom separate gifts on Valentine's day, then again on her birthday on the 21st.\n\n I didn't really think about it too much until this year. When I asked my dad why he expected us to do this he completely blew up on me, he told me that I was being cheap and didn't love my mom enough to give her two gifts. He kind of made me feel like an asshole and when I mentioned it to my brother, he told me not to think about it too much. At this point, I honestly just feel confused, is what I am saying justified or is this normal and I am just being an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4RgUxnLxuTrMFxsf01AOEqlmIattJeo9", "post_id": "alst6f", "action": {"description": "not being friends with my best friend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not being friends with my best friend?", "text": "About 2 weeks ago I had a party for my mom and I invited my best friend, we can call her Candle. So I invited Candle and she told me that she would be there. Fast forward to the day before the party, her and I are hanging out and I asked her what her plans were for tomorrow she mentioned everything but coming to my moms birthday party and when I brought it up she said nothing, but \u201coh okay.\u201d So I assumed alright she might not be coming, whatever no big deal. \n\nThe Day of the party I have family asking about Candle wondering if she was coming, not really having an answer I decide to text her \u201chey are you coming tonight ?\u201d I didn\u2019t get a text back for the rest of the day. Later on that night though she post a Snapchat story of her with her other friends getting ready. Now at this point I\u2019m drunk and a little hurt and reply back to the story about how I couldn\u2019t get a text back. She opened that and never replied back for the rest of the night. \n\nNext morning I wake up and she text me saying, \u201csorry I couldn\u2019t make it but HMU after work and I\u2019ll smoke you out fat.\u201d I\u2019m sorry but to me that isn\u2019t an apology. I didn\u2019t respond back to her for a few days she tried calling me and I really didn\u2019t want to even answer so I didn\u2019t. I did what she did to me I ignored her. A week later I decide to talk to her and see if she says anything maybe even apologize in person. Guess what? she didn\u2019t. I\u2019m the one that had to bring it up and all I got out of her was \u201cYeah I fucked up,\u201d and \u201cyou caught me while I was faded\u201d those aren\u2019t apologies and she obviously didn\u2019t see it as a big deal so I left it at that and I left knowing that I don\u2019t want to be friends w a person like this. so I took her off my family sharing which we had Apple Music together. Later that day she notices and we have an argument and our friendship had ended. I just wanna know am I the asshole in this? Should I have just let it go? I\u2019m willing to share the screenshots of our argument so you all can get a better understanding of that as well. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oCdtTPJTuQ8CIwTqGDWwnfO85U6mmjbs", "post_id": "9vytax", "action": {"description": "not wanting to date trans person", "pronormative_score": 35, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to date trans person?", "text": "My girlfriend opened up that she wants to transition to a guy. Ive always known her bi tendencies, but the fact she wants to change is too much to me. We\u2019ve gotten to the point in dating where our love is pretty much unconditional, and she claims shed support me and love me no matter what even if i change  to change to a girl. Im straight, but i dont ever doubt my love for her. Am i the asshole for not wanting to date a dude? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 34, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 35, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GLMytRltFTkOtDqrgPKq0z3XVM7sKZ07", "post_id": "ai1186", "action": null, "title": "AITA in this break up?", "text": "My girlfriend (24f) and I (23m) have been in a 3 year relationship together. It's mostly been long distance but we've been meeting each other and traveling together very often during that time. Until this year when she moved to study in my city. Making things much easier and providing us a good base to continue life together.\n\nThis year we've both been under heavy stress. Myself, I've been aggresively job hunting after graduation  for over 6 months with very little hope and just getting more and more depressed after each rejection. My ex-gf was facing stress from a grandfather who's been terminally ill for a year, with also lots of assignments keeping her busy at university.\n\nDuring our time together we've both known about each other's issues, but not how great the stress is for each of us. I was blind by her schedule, so I structured my tasks around her, so I could spend time with her hanging out, going out, going for walks n talks etc. In some cases, she did bring up her grandfather, and every time I'd listen and talk about it. However I never sugar coated it. I tried to voice my stress. Telling her directly, about rejections or how stressed out I am. But at this point she seemed go be already annoyed at me for reasons I couldn't understand, she would often play mobile games and not communicate properly with me, which was not like her.\n\nIt was 2-3 months after her arrival when she broke up with me before xmas holidays, stating the reasons being me and my family. For hurting her feelings, and not supporting her at all. She said that she would sit in my bathroom and cry in secret and go to a friends house to sleepover there instead. She also stated very petty reasons that I'm a bad boyfriend, in most cases a lie or an exageration. Her crying state made me fall for it and sympathise with her. She also revealed to me \"dark secrets\" that she has never told me about. She said she was suicidal since 12 years old and that before me she cheated horribly with her ex, threatening me that she would do the same to me if we went on for longer, she never spoke to me about any of these things, not even hinting.\n\nA lot of her issues, seem to stem from a time before I've known her. Yet in her final dialogue with me, placed the blame on myself. I haven't been in contact with her since and only known of her progress through mutual friends. Fixing out she seemed to have recovered, posting unusually Instagram posts with hastags of #happiness #positivity etc. Rather superficial in my opinion. I also found out that after returning to uni after holidays, she immediately went on a date with a friend she met there. So it's clear she moved on very quickly.\n\nI've left this relationship feeling incredibly guilty and sorry for her, as it really was an amazing relationship. We treated each other, and she admitted this, yet she didn't speak to me about any of these feelings she said she had. Seemed like she built up all the negatives and just burst by the end. I also feel very angry and resentful, as I feel I was betrayed. Opening my house to her, settling her in to a new city, keeping her busy with what time we had. I had my stress, and she had hers. I tried to talk about it, but she shut herself off. Am I really a bad partner, and a monster that she sees me as ?\n\nIronically, I acquired a great job a week after we broke up, with many benefits, prospects etc. So it's rather oddly timed, as a part of my life continues and another runs off. Certainly missed details, but it would get rather wordy and messy.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Jm52edDGXBVE6CVBtxHqAxPmof9PV4Zv", "post_id": "ah2f43", "action": {"description": "I was supposing to meet my boyfriend's parents this weekend but I cancelled because we're expecting snow storms this weekend and his parents are helping someone move and his mom isn't ready to meet me yet", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA - I [25M] was supposed to meet my boyfriend's [24M] parents this weekend but I cancelled because we're expecting snow storms this weekend and his parents are helping someone move and his mom isn't ready to meet me yet?", "text": "We've been planning this trip for months. He just met my parents over Christmas. My parents have accepted that I'm gay and everything so the whole visit was perfect. His mom is apparently extremely moody and not very happy about the whole thing yet, and had no intention of meeting me. His stepdad was also telling my boyfriend that they were helping someone move all weekend so they weren't going to be available anyways.\n\nMy boyfriend's aunt who's super accepting booked us a hotel suite to stay in for the weekend. When I found out his dad wasn't going to be available I said it didn't seem to be worth risking it with the weather in central Illinois this weekend. I repeatedly told him let's reschedule when I should come but he refused to do that, and eventually sent me his aunt's number telling me to tell her myself nexuses he's sick of being a \"messenger\".\n\nWe're long distance but he usually drives 6 hours north from Missouri to visit me every few weeks since he's in graduate school and I work full time. I've only visited him once via plane so I know this makes it look like I don't want to bother visiting him ever...I explained my reasoning with the weather, and his parents, but he wouldn't listen.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5Go8vE3Arl5Kv54si1AfcxaxEpZl8cw5", "post_id": "9wjh0l", "action": {"description": "calling my friends out in semi-public", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for calling my friends out in semi-public", "text": "Context: Myself and three friends of mine were planning to go to a basketball game on Sunday(yesterday) night. We had planned in on Tuesday of last week (Election Day), and I bought all the tickets then. Everyone paid me and what not things are all good. A little more context: I'm on the quarter system at my university, so this week is pre finals week/finals week and the week after is finals week. So Sunday arrives, game is at 6pm. We all kind of preemptively set 4:45-5:00pm as the departure time. 4o'clock rolls around and one of my friends texts us saying he isn't feeling well and has a lot of HW so he sold the ticket to one of our mutual friends; nbd because I like the guy and he's pretty chill. I come downstairs (we all live in this \"house\" on campus thats for like 30 people so kind of frat style but it isn't a frat) at 430, after finishing up studying to ask the other two how soon they want to depart. They both then look at each other and say sorry they don't want to go, they have a lot of homework.\n\nAt this moment I just become pissed because this is literal last minute cancelling and I essentially bitch at them. They say its not personal and that they just have homework to do and that they just don't feel like it. Plus, \"its finals week, cmon man\". This is all in the commons room and a bit extra people are there, like 1-3 who aren't involved, and I essentially tell them that they are giving me a big fuck you by cancelling last minute. I kind of go on to abscond them for a minute about how this is just bs leaving me because you couldn't get your shit together. My rationale is that not only was this planned Tuesday, but we all know our workload in advance so its not a shock like there was a lot of work this week. Secondly, we were all watching football downstairs that day, but I left for three and a half hours to do homework in leu of going to the game. And now I'm being called a child by my roommate (was one of the ppl that was going) and that I'm overreacting to something that wasn't personal.\n\nI understand that it isn't personal, but I'm still upset about it because they are my friends and they couldn't go because they couldn't plan ahead. \n\nI talked to my dad about this and he says that people just do this, that people look out for their own self interests and that cancelling plans last minute happens all the time. So AITA for calling out two of my friends?\n\nAlso just for closure sake: I went with the first guy, and invite two other dudes in the house I wasn't friends with particularly, but just wanted to not waste the tickets.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sDelusJXYrW6Mm410WFKZRkbIW1ldjcO", "post_id": "a1p90f", "action": {"description": "not complying to the upstairs ask", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA if I don't comply to the upstairs ask?", "text": "So my upstairs neighbors are lovely. They create docos in their spare time. They have just sent this text message requiring me to avoid normal saturday things (laundry, vacuuming, an using the bathroom).\n---\nText he sent:\nHey [pumunk] We're having some people around tomorrow afternoon as part of the documentary we're currently filming. You might hear a bit more stomping than usual. Also I would like to ask if it's possible for you to avoid doing any noisy activities such as using the washing machine, hoovering or using the bathroom fan during this time? Sorry to have ask you this but the sound will be picked up in the film due to the lack of sound insulation. We should only be filming from around 2.30-4pm. Hope this is ok. Thanks\n\nMy response:\nI dont want to be an issue but there needs to be more notice.\nI know how film projects go. Do you think it is likely you will be earlier than 230 or later than 4?\n---\nSo I am left wondering what to say next. Do I just agree?\n\nI do not like the short notice nature of this. I do not want them to make me an after thought. My gut says do not be an ass but I know filming usually goes over what you plan. Maybe they won't but I do not feel like they asked, just informed me I needed to be quiet.\n\nTalk sense to me reddit. I do not want to be an asshole but I also do not like being dictated to.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "KsXvNXdfzaScClBaw7OgiQLcsYJ4ikO1", "post_id": "ax6t9r", "action": {"description": "not making an effort to reconnect with my dad", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not making an effort to reconnect with my dad?", "text": "My parents divorced when I was too young to remember. My mom got custody of me because my dad had gambling/financial issues. I would visit him on weekends but as I got older, visits grew less frequent. I even remember him not showing up to my highschool graduation. Around 10 years ago he married another woman and has 3 kids with her now. I'm 22 now, in school full-time and working part time, still living with my mom. \n\nAs time went on, I would often forget to text him and he would never really text me, except maybe once every four months. He lives ~3 hour drive away and I don't have a car, or alot of money/time to take the train down to visit, and the one or two times I do visit every year I'm met with \"why do you never come visit\". \n\nThis is where I begin to wonder AITA because I'm done with making every effort and only being met with complaints about why I never visit. My siblings there even call me a \"ghost brother\" which kinda hurt me to hear. Meanwhile every time I ask to meet up halfway (they have a car, and don't work weekends...) I'm told to just take the train down and see them. I just think of it as a two way street and if they're not making any effort, why should I? \n\nThis is a big deal for me even though it may not seem significant because I have anxiety and I'm already stressed out enough about putting myself through school. It's always gnawing at the back of my head like \"shit I should really go visit ...\" but I just hate confrontation and hate how they have no sympathy for me trying to get an education. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mhrXTSet8UNOnrobliwoZWBiYSvGSLQ8", "post_id": "b90e98", "action": {"description": "telling my bil that he's a lowlife who doesn't deserve an opinion", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for telling my BIL that he\u2019s a lowlife who doesn\u2019t deserve an opinion?", "text": "So my brother in law is a piece of work. First of all he\u2019s been to jail multiple times in his life for things that are definitely his fault. He is a strain on society. He doesn\u2019t work and stays at home because he\u2019s lazy and legitimately doesn\u2019t keep a job for more than 3 months at a time. \nHe lost his license, and has no desire to work to get it back.\nMy sister is the sole breadwinner and they\u2019re broke all the time because all he collects is  government assistance. My sister doesn\u2019t leave him because they have a child and she can\u2019t afford to live alone.\nSo, while sitting home all day he posts multiple things against our political leader (our leader is a decent person and everyone is kinda split half half with liking him). \nHe constantly posts against the government and just stupid click bait posts against people who like our leader, and pushes his agenda 24/7. His is the more unpopular opinion, and it\u2019s very backwards.\nFinally, I snapped. My BIL doesn\u2019t contribute to our society and he shouldn\u2019t even be allowed to have an opinion against our government because he doesn\u2019t help or pay taxes. He lives off the government. So I let him know that on one of his posts. I\u2019m sick of him pushing his political agenda when he doesn\u2019t even do anything to help out in society. \nNow my family are mad at me, my sister doesn\u2019t speak to me and I look like an asshole to them. \n\nReddit, AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "bjJ8mS8PGZTGr85aN0YQCLvEVokZqhz4", "post_id": "ai0ld4", "action": {"description": "getting upset at my boyfriend for taking suggestive photos of his ex", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For getting upset at my boyfriend for taking suggestive photos of his ex?", "text": "My boyfriend and I started dating about 6 months ago. For the last 5 months, we have been in an exclusive and serious relationship (he basically moved in with me). About 2 months ago, he let me look at the photos on his phone so that I could send myself some pictures he had taken on a recent trip together. Apparently I scrolled up a bit too far because I found that shortly before we went on this trip, he had taken several close-up shots of his ex's ass in tight sweatpants as she was laying on the ground playing with the 4 year old daughter they have together (he sees his daughter and ex about 4-5 times week as they have shared custody). \n\nWhen I confronted him about the photos and told him how much it hurt me to find out that he would look at another woman that way and would go as far as to take pictures of her body even though he is in a committed relationship with me, he barely acknowledged my feelings. When I asked him why he did it, he said it was \"hard to let go\" of his ex (she was the one who left him).\n\nHe basically showed no remorse about the photos, and said it doesn't mean anything so he has nothing to apologize for. I know they have a history together, and he promised me that the only reason he sees his ex is because they have shared custody of their daughter. However, I am his girlfriend now (he pursued me, if that makes any difference), and it bothers me so much that he did this. We have a great sex life and he always tells me he is very attracted to me and loves me, but this incident is starting to make me question our entire relationship. It really makes me wonder what else he does behind my back.\n\nAITA for getting upset at these photos? I am sure he wouldn't physically cheat and FWIW his ex basically wants nothing to do with him aside from their responsibilities to their daughter, but I still feel like he is being unfaithful to me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1Arl61QYS964SAjHltwPELLcArMtTdek", "post_id": "b9f2kg", "action": {"description": "not dancing with a guy friend during dance class who rejected me", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not dancing with a guy friend during dance class who rejected me?", "text": "So... we're in grad school and currently taking a dance class together (along with 2 other friends). \n\nThis guy man. He is relentlessly trying to spend time with me, even after he rejected me. I've been trying to distance myself from him as best I can without ruining the friendship, but it's been hard.\n\nHe asked me to hang out on Monday, which I said no to. He asked me on Tuesday, which I said yes to since I had to be on campus anyway for the dance class. We spent 4 hours together and then went to our dance class. \n\nHe insisted on us getting there at exactly the right time and going in together. I told him clearly I wanted to get to know other people in our class. \n\nWe did. We warmed up next to each other, but then I moved away from him a bit. When it came time to choose dance partners, I chose a random guy who was closest to me.\n\nAfterwards, he told me he wanted to dance with me. I didn't want to say why I didn't want to dance with him, but I did say that we switch dance partners each class, so it wouldn't be a big deal. He told me \"you had to look at me before you looked at him, and you still chose him. We walked in together so I expected us to dance together\"\n\nI just don't get this guy at all. AITA for not dancing with him? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4X59P8V0IM5yjncxITnkxGaSpqAmZVlR", "post_id": "ay88uz", "action": {"description": "insisting that my boyfriend is bi", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 34}, "title": "AITA For Insisting That My Boyfriend Is Bi???", "text": "I've been with my boyfriend for 1 and a half years.  My bf is kinda the typical frat bro and honestly nothing from the outset screams anything but heterosexual, so when we started dating I assumed he was straight.\n\n About 6 months in he mentioned that he had a \"bate buddy\" in college, so I replied \"oh who was she? Did you date\" and he just laughed was like \"it's not a she\". I'm bi myself so it wasn't a big deal at all to me, but I definitely was shocked so I told him I didn't know he was bi, to which he laughed and said he was \"100% straight\" and it was \"just a guy thing\". I obviously thought it was an odd excuse but I grew up with all girls so I don't know much about guys so I just left it alone.\n\n\nSo shortly after that we were having sexy times and he wanted me to describe my past romps with woman, so I ask him about his past \"bate buddies\" and he gets really quiet and admits that sometimes they went further than just masturbating beside each other and goes on to tell me that he's done just about anything you could think of with another guy a couple times. So I made a lighthearted joke about it; something along the lines of \"should I be worried another guy is going to take you away from me\". He didn't get mad but I could see he was a bit upset by it and just kept saying that he's straight and he was just experimenting but he doesn't have any interest in guys. \n\nSo today I ask to use his phone to quickly buy something online because mine broke so when I opened it I'm greeted by gay porn. He snatched it out of my hand and laughs but was obviously embarassed I say to him that they're is nothing wrong with being bisexual and I don't care if he watches that type of porn. He just kinda blows up and insists he's not bisexual and that he's tired of me trying to say he is. I really really tried to explain to him there is nothing wrong with it and I'm nit trying to but labels on him but I think he should just accept it if he's okay. But he just got even angrier ans stormed out.\n\nI feel super bad about it but I honestly just want him to be comfortable with who he is. I used to deny I was bi so it's a bit personal to me. I also think that the reason he won't admit it is because his dad left his family for another man so I think it might be some internal hostility (even through they have a very good relationship now)\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 34, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 34}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "8Ost9yNZ5wG33FEUZwtB1IAo6LUOTESq", "post_id": "am1jzc", "action": {"description": "asking for the rings back", "pronormative_score": 29, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for asking for the rings back?", "text": "Long story short my wife is planning on filing for divorce out of the blue without trying to fix the problems she has with our marriage with counseling or other services. We are in the process of trying to split our finances/debts/things up (luckily we are both young and our only real asset/debt is our house). We have been together for 4.5 years but we were only married for 11 weeks...\n\nIn one conversation about how to split some of our finances and random items I asked to get both the engagement ring and wedding band back (worth ~4K together originally). I worked my ass off selling my soul for a contracted project that I was miserable doing for almost 6 months to be able to make the money to buy them. Considering that she had little regard for our marriage I felt it was reasonable to get them back to try and recoup some of my money. When I did this she looked at me like I was an alien but reluctantly agreed.\n\nAm I the asshole for asking for them back to try and get some of my money back?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 13, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 29, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "90FiOM8qkYFDdukuJnfA4MULhAPIMsXq", "post_id": "at2h8v", "action": {"description": "wanting to sleep in my own bed", "pronormative_score": 38, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting to sleep in my own bed.", "text": "I\u2019m a 26f and currently live with my parents, as they are both disabled & I care for them. \nMy sister and her 2 children live in the next city over. Sometimes they come to stay, and as we only have a 2 bedroom home, I let my sister and her kids have my room and I sleep on the sofa, which I\u2019m fine with. However, I ask that they only come to stay when I\u2019m not working the next day, as I struggle to sleep on the sofa. \n\nMy sister was originally supposed to be coming to stay Friday and Saturday night this week, which is fine, as it\u2019s my weekend off. However, I was informed this morning, they they are now coming tonight too (Thursday).\n\nI have work tomorrow, and was never asked if this was okay. It was just announced. \nSo now, I have to sleep on the sofa tonight too. \n\nI mentioned to my parents how it would have been nice to be asked at least and now I don\u2019t really feel it\u2019s fair that I\u2019m expected to sleep on the sofa and get a shitty nights sleep when I have work the next day. \n\nParents tell me I am selfish and I hardly ever have to give up my bed, it\u2019s only one day at work etc. \n\nSo... AITA?? \nMaybe I am selfish. I don\u2019t know. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 38, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 38, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dy83B3d14QC8nTsLksJMAlhZhghmipIR", "post_id": "aedbx4", "action": {"description": "moving across country for and then breaking up with my bf", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for moving across country for and then breaking up with my bf?", "text": "So the whole situation was unusual. I lived on the west coast and I was dating a guy online that I had met on Wow. I was in a bad situation where myself and my two cats were about to become homeless. \nSo me and my boyfriend (we can call him bob) were only really dating for about a month. We got along fairly well but obviously there's only so much you can do with someone long distance. Anyways, when I told him about my situation, he offered to fly me to him, with my cats and I could stay in his second bedroom (or with him in his bed if I decided). He was going to pay for plane ticket, pet deposit fees, etc. Until I could get back on my feet financially and such. He even said he'd fly me back home if so desired. \nI didn't really want to accept such a big offer like that, especially since I hadn't been with him for very long.. but I was put in a position where it really was my best option. So I accepted.\nMy first week there, things were weird. He would not have sex with me, or anything intimate. I tried to sleep in his bed but every day he'd say that it felt like I was pushing him away. So much so, he felt I was doing it in my sleep. (Creating physical barriers between us using a blanket?) \nA few more weeks go by, I still haven't been able to find a job in the small town I moved to. Therefore I haven't been able to help pay for anything, but he did know this beforehand. After 2 months, I finally get a part time serving job. I make enough to pay half the bills but not reimburse him for what he's already paid.. and he reassured me he doesn't want me to pay him back. He also had put me on the lease, too.\n After starting my new job and spending time away from him, I realized how much we didn't get along. We could not communicate in a productive way at all. When I started to show a lack of interest, he immediately assumed I was cheating. He began to go through messages of mine if I left them open on my computer. \nI finally decided I wanted it to be over because nothing about this was healthy or normal for a relationship, but I didn't have anywhere else to go so I thought maybe I could stay. I wanted to be friends with him since he did so much for me but i also didnt want to be pressured to stay in a relationship. I wanted to stay in the second bedroom, continue to pay half rent. At least until I could save and afford my own place. He told me that if I didn't want to date him, then I had to move out. I was disappointed but obliged. Started to look for a new place, staying in the second bedroom (Where I had nothing but a twinsize blow up mattress and about 80% of the room filled with Bob's boxes). Since I was single and so ready for this relationship to be over, especially after 3 months of no sex, I was flirting with a guy at work via texts. Bob found a friend to help him hack into all of my accounts and cell phone number so that he could read all of my messages. He showed up to my work multiple times to yell at me in front of customers to \"get my shit and get out\". I had to have my manager escort him out because he would not leave. He simultaneously changed the locks on the front door so I couldn't get in. He would call his mom over to babysit me whenever I was home alone so I didn't \"steal anything\". When I finally moved out (onto a work friends couch) he refuses to give me the rent money I paid for THIS month, and is telling me to repay him for everything he spent before...\n\ntldr; long distance boyfriend pays for my plane ticket to live with him while I'm broke and homeless, when relationship doesn't work out, he hacks into my accounts and messages, changes locks on door, and accuses me of lying and cheating and kicks me out even though I am on lease and pay half the bills. AITA for breaking up with him? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fhnKpa2IWY0ENbUnIbPBSq2UWL2pqVdD", "post_id": "axbiab", "action": {"description": "making a joke about my friend researching parking fees", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for making a joke about my friend researching parking fees?", "text": "Two ex-coworkers and me were meeting up for dinner. I left that job, but they were still working together. Before that we all had the same income level, but that changed after I got a new job with a higher income. We had a good connextion and met up for dinner frequently. As I'm the only one with a car and one of them was pregnant (let's call her M) I suggested to come pick them up and drive them to the city where we would have dinner. And so I did. \n\nAs M did have a way of previously not offering to split parking fees when I drove us home (or any other costs) so I asked her the night before if she was willing to contribute if the parking fee was higher than the cost of public transport would have been. Which seemed fair to me and she agreed. Little backstory, I'm the only one with a part-time job now and need my weekend days also to run arrends and clean my house. From 13:00 on she was texting me about different parking lots, their costs per hour and the number of cars they could hold. I didn't really look into her suggestions because I was busy and just went to pick them up. They got into my car and at that point we didn't make a decision on the parking lot and I didn't really acknowledge all of her research on parking lots. I did ask what parking lot she would like me to go to and she came up with a whole cons and pro's list. I told her that I'd prefer the closest as I liked the convienence. She continues to discuss options and at that point I'm a bit done with it and try to shut it down with a joke along the lines of ''I would almost think you have never parked a car before, I've never seen so much research go into costs and places of parking lots!'' And she loses it. Screaming that I should shut up and that I'm ridiculing her and that not everyone earns as much money as I do. \n\nI immediatly apoligized for my comment (hardly could get a word in) and drove to the parking lot closest to the restaurant. We did sort of talk it out later that night and she blamed it on pregancy hormones. I drove her home later that night and that was the last time we really spoke. After that she texted me that she realized that it wasn't her hormones and that I put her down with that joke and made her feel small by saying something like that. \n\nSo the friendship has ended but it made me kind of insecure about it. Was I out of line not to acknowledge her research or worries on something so trivial to me? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "LASm6yzO5d5Tbmk6iHg3v6vVN6toHXB2", "post_id": "ag85tk", "action": {"description": "supposedly making a bully attempt suicide by standing up for myself", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for supposedly making a bully attempt suicide by standing up for myself?", "text": "In year 8, I was friends with a kid that was known to be a bit of an ass (let's call him Jacob), but I put up with him nonetheless.\nAnyway, after awhile he started punching and kicking my female friend and called me a retard (I am in a wheelchair but not mentally disabled), after that I stopped being friends with him but he said to me shortly after that he tried to kill himself 19 times because of me.\n\nI didn't believe him but you can believe what you will.\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qcD2zjWqMGmYsjGgsnxOfwUa6JRsIcLb", "post_id": "avm0eh", "action": {"description": "ghosting a former co-worker", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ghosting a former co-worker?", "text": "Backstory for context, I unexpectedly lost my job last year and had to take a temp job while I looked for permanent work, I found that I actually loved my temp job and worked really hard at it to the point where they offered me a permanent job.\n\nNow comes the tricky bit, I was one of about 10 temps and only 3 of us were given perm contracts. One of the people who was let go I\u2019d become quite good work friends with. Now when I was told that I\u2019d got the contract, they said I had to keep it to myself until the end of the temp contract, which I did, I didn\u2019t speak to anyone about it and basically acted like I was leaving too.\n\nAfter she left, I found out that she had been talking to another co-worker saying that she couldn\u2019t understand why I hadn\u2019t told her I\u2019d got the job because we were apparently super close friends, then she started texting me, like A LOT (she\u2019s got my number off the work WhatsApp group), and if I didn\u2019t reply to her within an hour or so, she\u2019d Facebook message me and WhatsApp message me saying she didn\u2019t understand why her messages weren\u2019t getting through to me, it was bordering on harassment to be honest. At one point, I didn\u2019t get back to her for a whole day because a string of family emergencies (a family friend passed away, my parents house almost burned down and my sister went into labour all in the space of about 24 hours), and when I finally checked my phone, I found a really ragey text saying she didn\u2019t understand what she had done wrong and that she would delete my number and never text me again. I told her what had happened and she said she obviously hasn\u2019t deleted my number,  then took this as an invitation to repeatedly text me again.\n\nI know her husband died a few years ago and she\u2019s in her 60\u2019s so she\u2019s probably super lonely but I\u2019ve not text her since, aita?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6LXKBYgQqjCOxMFB5KtxB5SP9BJpf2Yt", "post_id": "9waay5", "action": {"description": "keeping twenty dollars for myself", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for keeping twenty dollars for myself?", "text": "I will keep this short. I live in America, two British guys came into my work. They gave me $50 for something that cost $9. They said, \u201ckeep twenty, give me back the rest\u201d. So I gave them back $21. Then they started arguing with me, saying to give them back thirty? I pulled out my calculator, repeated what they told me, and showed them the math, and his friend was like, \u201cyeah that is correct\u201d. But the main British dude got really upset with me and got huffy and walked away. So I ended up keeping the twenty anyway. Then my coworker was like, \u201cyou PERCEIVED them wrong\u201d. I said.... \u201cwhen someone says \u2018keep twenty\u2019, that hardly ever includes the total and if so, he should\u2019ve clarified... but instead he got upset and walked away\u201d. But my coworker was adamant and tried arguing with me. She kept saying I perceived him wrong? I said, \u201cthere wasn\u2019t anything to perceive? It was a language miscommunication and all it took was two seconds longer to find a middle ground???\u201d And she\u2019s still angry with me. So, am I the asshole? Honestly ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "VIBGeR9XL2caF5Uo0MDhnaOfXOoyfzPH", "post_id": "ash83w", "action": {"description": "not paying not alerting a clerk that I think she rung up an item wrong", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not paying not alerting a clerk that I think she rung up an item wrong?", "text": "My friends and I were debating the ethics behind what happened the other night when buying beer. I got a usually pretty expensive 4 pack of local craft beer. As the lady was ringing it up, I told my friend that I'd get his water as well, and when I went to pay I realised the total price was 6 bucks and change (for the beer and water). That was way less then it usually is, but I didn't really think about it until my way home, paid, then left.\n\nWhen telling my other friend about the price he said I was a scumbag for not pointing out the error, and that she probably rang the beer up as 1 can. My defense was it's not my job to point out store pricing errors and I didn't do anything shady to get try and pull the wool over their eyes. We both agree that you should always tell a clerk if they forgot to ring something up or that's straight up stealing. We defer about if a wrong price gets rung up if we should notify the cashier.\n\nWhat do you guys think? AITA and should have said something, or did the beer gods shine a ray of sunshine on someone who has spent a ton of money on great beer?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3DKVg8EGMXEXqgfMQaTjFhDslnS4EgRf", "post_id": "b1z24w", "action": {"description": "banning someone from my discord server who made people uncomfortable", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for banning someone from my discord server who made people uncomfortable?", "text": "Sorry if this formatting looks weird, I\u2019m in mobile.\n\nSomeone joined and I was about to let them in (we have a vetting process) and 4 people, the co-owner and 3 other people DMed me saying that that person was bad. Apparently he had picked fights and caused a lot of drama. I don\u2019t want that on my discord server, for obvious reasons. I ask other people about him and that said something along the lines of that he liked to pick fights and would encourage others to get involved (keep in mind their experiences were a few years ago) and they also said that they were very uncomfortable with him there. The discord server in question has like, 20ish people in it and there was only 4 that were uncomfortable with him. So me and the co-owner decided to ban him. There\u2019s been a lot of backlash from other servers for banning him. I do want to give people a chance but at the same time, he was making people uncomfortable and I don\u2019t want that to be the environment in my discord server. He might have changed from a few years ago, but he also makes people uncomfortable. So AITA for banning him.\nSide note: the discord server I run is for people with PTSD and other related disorders mainly to get support and tips and stuff. So, him being there as not only uncomfortable, but triggering to them as well.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "y8Gx6we3WOwr2fcQLsMiHfT415KDBQpf", "post_id": "ao11m3", "action": {"description": "not feeling wanted after my girlfriemd doesnt reply or want to have sex after 4 years", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not feeling wanted after my girlfriemd doesnt reply or want to have sex after 4 years", "text": "So without getting to specific, im in my early 20's and have been dating my SO for almost 4 years now. We've had our good times and bad times and in the beginning we both just got out of bad relationships and both made mistakes of misloyalty, i wont go further into detail, but this comes in later..\n\nIn the beginning we lived in different towns, i lived at home, we would see eachother as much as possible, this died down a little after highschool and when we got jobs. But we still hung out whenever we were free. No problems with no replies on texts. Then more recently in the past couple months, ive been noticing when i tell her good night and i love you, which i just thought was a nice thing to say and help someones night go well.\n\nHowever, my texts seemed to be maybe 3 to 4 lines, and hers would be 2 to 1 lines. But now she hasnt really texted me back more than once since i last saw her a couple days ago. I wont see her for about a week now,\n\n and ive had past relationships and earlier issues with cheating and whatnot years ago. I try to shrug it off and believe her excuses of 'oh i was just talking to my dad and then took a shower and forgot.' and i cant help but think  the only reason she wouldnt reply even in the morning is because when she looks at my text she opens it and just says 'fuck it, not worth my time' she is a couple years older than me, so idk if she just doesnt like texting or what, but when shes over, she'll reply to people right away. \n\nI guess this turned into a rant but whatever. If anyones reading this long, let me ask you this,  Am i also the asshole for wanting to have sex? Its been a good amount of time now and she never seems to be in the mood around me or to me. We'll mess around a little with foreplay and stuff rarely but it hasnt gone farther than that for a while. She says she just doesnt like sex, but idk what im supposed to do when i do. Also im going to be moving out of state toward the end of the year and dont know if i should try to keep this going or what. Thoughts, advice? Thank you.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eJ6JqUu2drbmz4J65WTHOerlzjT3V41m", "post_id": "apylcy", "action": {"description": "going to an Audition instead of going to my best friends dads funeral", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 37}, "title": "AITA for going to an Audition instead of going to my best friends dads funeral", "text": "My friends dad died the other day and his funeral is next week. I grew up with their family and I\u2019m very upset by his death, however I have an important audition the day of his funeral. I\u2019m an actress and this could be a really amazing job for me if I get it. I told my friend I wouldn\u2019t be able to come and she seems really off with me. I know she\u2019s going through a lot right now and I wanna be there for her but this audition is really important. \n\nAITA for going to the audition instead of his funeral? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 37, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 37}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "qOKRtoPrZLKZ4U61cyDQ4YDh4hUhYnOS", "post_id": "a9uzxh", "action": {"description": "being upset at my older sister and her boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for being upset at my older sister and her boyfriend?", "text": "High school senior here. A little background, I have been a hockey player my whole life, and I broke on to my school's varsity hockey team as a freshman, and have started every game since day 1. Through hockey I gained popularity, made friends with both peers in and out of school. This season, I was sure to break the school record for career goals of 111, as I was at 89 through 3 years. I also had a real chance to break the county record of 122, considering I scored 37 goals my sophomore year. It became a running thing with my buddies, and I gained a lot of notoriety for it around the smaller town. Well, a week before the season starts, my older sister (22) and her boyfriend were home on Thanksgiving break. This guy, a big guy mind you, wanted to play football with me and some of my buddies in the yard. I said sure. However, in an effort to impress my sister, this guy tackled me as hard as he could in a simple game of touch football. He ended up breaking my wrist, and we had to go to the hospital for it. Doctor tells me I can't play for minimum 8 weeks, considering the physicality of hockey. This takes me to the near end of my senior season. Now, I won't be able to break either record, and I feel like what I loved has been ripped from me. My sister told me to \"man up and how its not a big deal (missing the hockey season). She knows this has been a big part of my life my whole life, and doesn't seem to care. This was in late November, and I still haven't spoken to her more than saying hello over the phone. Am I in the wrong? Thanks. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 19, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tD5J2FRGjb77gKk0Hoyum8lSyFmHLrM3", "post_id": "aqakt6", "action": {"description": "inviting fiance's friend to the wedding without inviting friend's wife", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "WIBTA if I invite fiance's friend to the wedding without inviting friend's wife?", "text": "My fianc\u00e9 has been friends with this guy Paul for twenty five years. \n\nAcross our relationship I've gotten to know Paul and I like him. He's a great guy. He's funny and personable, if a little quiet. \n\nBut Paul's wife Sharon is... something else.\n\nThe few times I've gone to their house, Sharon has been nothing short of frigid. She is silent aside from \"hello\" or \"goodbye\". She will stare daggers at you the whole time you are in her presence, like you are completely inconvenient to her existence. Basically from the minute you walk in their house, even if you've been invited over, it feels like she is counting down the seconds until you leave. She's not verbally rude, but she gives off a definite negative energy and body language.\n\nI asked my fianc\u00e9 if maybe I did something to piss her off or offend her, but apparently she's been like that towards him for the last twenty years so... that's just her personality I guess.\n\nOriginally I was going to invite her to the wedding anyway. But then it came to my attention that she has made multiple posts on her social media denigrating us and our relationship (usually alongside denigrating Paul). Comments about her loser husband's loser friends. Comments about me being an idiot for dating my fianc\u00e9. Just snide little posts that are vague enough someone on the outside might not know who she was talking about, but specific enough that it's pretty obvious to anyone who knows my fianc\u00e9 or I.\n\nBetween her obvious disdain for her husband (repeatedly calling him names, questioning his masculinity, disparaging his income even though he's the one supporting both of them) and her obvious disdain for my fianc\u00e9 and I, I don't want her at the wedding. I would LOVE for Paul to attend, but to be frank I feel like Sharon can go fck herself. I don't want that energy anywhere near my celebration.\n\nFianc\u00e9 thinks it would be an asshole move to invite Paul without inviting Sharon, and is worried Paul wouldn't show up if his wife is excluded. His feeling is we should take the \"kill them with kindness\" route. \n\nSo what say ye, Reddit? Would I be the asshole to send Paul an invite with no +1 attached?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "TQdmCjfIJIoPsSU5vm6kMyY7LBXdpWZx", "post_id": "ao8f9a", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my friends when they say that I put myself in a position to be sexually assaulted", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my friends when they say that I put myself in a position to be sexually assaulted?", "text": "I was with a friend in an AIRBNB last weekend and got very very drunk on alcohol that he supplied to me and fed me after I was already too drunk to move, I quickly sent my address to everyone I knew once he started holding me and feeling me up after constantly telling him no. I punched him multiple times but I was too weak he tried to put his hand down my pants. The cops came I was still very drunk and I sent them away, in this time he passed out and another friend was able to come and get me. I was safe that night, I got my refund and that was that. \n\nI'm pretty shaken up about it considering I've been sexually assaulted countless times in my life and I get flashbacks and nightmares and I can't even look at my own body sometimes. My brain is a constant mess around men and I find it hard to trust anyone at all. And on top of this I'm staying with a friend for a week, and last night he said something about how he didn't want to parent me but I had chose to drink the alcohol and to be there and it almost sent me into a panic attack. Another friend keeps telling me that because of how I dress and because I was there with him I had to have known why would have happened and another who I trusted a lot told me that he wants to know where I am when I go out because I put myself in these situations. This is why I turned the cops away.\n\nI know its my fault already I know I'm stupid and I fucked myself over and I get they have good intentions but all I want to do is scream at them and cry and my head starts spinning and ringing so much I can't hear or see them. I went off at the last guy and he told me I was being crazy and he was only trying to help. I just really REALLY need to know, AITA here? Are they really just trying to help? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lvH6CJxpsMFknjoFnrkVvTErYtOueeeU", "post_id": "ash2f0", "action": {"description": "not lending my drug addict friend money, even when he says it's not for drugs", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not lending my drug addict friend money, even when he says it's not for drugs?", "text": "I have a childhood friend who is currently addicted to adderall. He's prescribed it, but he also gets it on the side when he runs out after a refill. \n\nHe asked me at 3 am last night if I would give him $5 because he needed it to buy something from a video game, and he said he would get it back to me by the end of the day. \n\nOf course I said no. I've never had to ask anyone for $5 ever, but to have to ask someone else must make him feel super desperate and vulnerable. It made me sad for him, to see him get to this point. He swears it was for the game and not anything else, but of course how can I trust that?\n\nAm I never going to be able to lend him money ever, even if/after he gets clean?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UuE8qOhnf6W3bCi99tBcmujEQyecezql", "post_id": "apcv00", "action": {"description": "being pissed at how my mother is treating me", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being pissed at how my mother is treating me?", "text": "TL;DR. My mother mistreats me and my little brother but I don't know if I am making it worse. I feel like my lack of contribution around the house is not helping, and while I'm trying to fix it, I'm busy with school and constantly tired. I just want to be able to be a normal teenager--make mistakes and slack off sometimes--but I don't get the chance. \n\n​\n\n​\n\nMy mom has had abusive tendencies since I was young. Her first response to my negative behaviors as a child was to beat me, and when I got too big to beat, to yell and scream, knowing quite well I was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder. She treats my younger brother similarly. He's 8, I'm 16.\n\nHere's an example of her behavior.\n\nA few weeks ago, she sent me in an Uber to pick up some food for her from Popeyes'. She demanded a particular deal that involved a leg, wing, and thigh, as well as a biscuit and drink, for 3.99. I knew damn well they didn't have that, especially in the pricy neighborhood I was in, but I asked anyway. I'm cripplingly shy, so I didn't want to press the issue, and bought her and my brother tenders by mistake.\n\nWhen I brought them home, she FLIPPED OUT. An honest-to-god screaming fit, tears, voice-breaking, the entire 9 yards, hollering she didn't like tenders, she wanted (insert dead bird parts here). To me, they're the same fucking bird, but okay, I guess. The part that pissed me off was when she insisted I didn't care about her because I didn't know she didn't like tenders. To this, I asked her which condiment I preferred--barbecue sauce or ketchup. She said ketchup. I like barbecue sauce. She insisted that it wasn't the same thing, and said I was inattentive.\n\nLater, she \"apologized\". Well, not really. She forgave me for bringing her tenders and said she appreciated my efforts. She did not say sorry for calling me, in so many words, an awful daughter. Over fried chicken.\n\nTo me, it was a completely childish response to a relatively simple problem. Howling your lungs out like a four year old because you got a piece of a bird and you wanted another piece of a bird is not how adults should behave. If I, a hormonal teenager, who has panic attacks about makeup sponges, can understand that, a woman in her forties certainly should. \n\nHere's another example.\n\nToday she screamed at and physically threatened my 8 year old brother for emailing the teacher about a missing assignment--to clarify, she asked him check Google Classroom, and he misunderstood . I was too afraid to go look, but based on the changes in her voice, she hit or pinched him at least once. In the same paragraph of speech, she insisted that TV/computer use is making him stupid and then said that he wasn't stupid and could listen to her. \n\nNow, from what it you've just read, she seems like an asshole. Granted. \n\nBut today, after more screaming when I told her she's always angry at us, she brought up two things: one, that I am ungrateful, and two, that me and my father aren't doing enough in the home to help my little brother.\n\nWith the first, I can kind of understand where she's coming from. In her mind, she's never wrong, and for me to be upset with her to the point of crying for throwing a skirt at me seems like a ridiculous and unfair thing to do. I disagree, of course, but I see her logic. \n\nWith the second, she's right. Completely. For a lot of my life, my dad has been just \"there\". He provides, and sometimes talks to me, but he doesn't try to do things with me or take me anywhere. He doesn't really give me advice unless I ask for it, or tell me to do anything if it doesn't directly pertain to him (i.e. I don't want to do this, so do it). He's the same way towards my younger brother (with some improvements). But my mother has made my brother into a little tyrant: he doesn't listen to or respect anyone but her. He fusses at me and is short with his father. We can't really tell him to do anything, and I can't really make him.\n\nAnd I admit, I am a lazy piece of shit. My room is a disaster, and other than taking care of our three dogs and making sure they're fed, clean, and toileted, I don't do much. I try to help with the sink--make sure stuff doesn't build up in there, and that kind of thing. I'm a senior in high school--I skipped a couple grades--and just generally going through some tough stuff right now, so it's kind of difficult. Studying for tests, keeping my grades up, making sure I graduate by getting my service hours--it's a lot on my plate. My workload has increased 1000x since last year.\n\nI'm also super irresponsible. Just in general. I'm working on it, but I feel like I lost a good chunk of my development to depression in the 8th, 9th, and 10th grades. I feel stunted.\n\nAnd I'd just like to share that until very recently, my mother didn't do anything around the house. She has walked the dogs maybe 6 times in the two years we have lived here (she forces them to be in a little room near the garage because \"she doesn't like animals up under her\"\\[our dogs are cuddly\\], and complains that my room isn't clean enough to have them live permanently with us). She does not wash dishes, nor clean up after the rarity that she cooks--she recently started baking bread, and leaves the sink piled high with dishes every time. She then proceeds to complain that the sink is full of dishes and no one is doing anything about it. \n\nBut she works a lot. She just graduated school and is running three businesses. I feel like she resents me a little because I was born at a time that wasn't opportune for her and disrupted her life. I do feel like she's in the wrong a lot, but I want to extend sympathy to her. I can't imagine the amount of stress she's put herself through for us, and I am grateful for what she has done. I just wish she wouldn't treat us like shit and say it's fine because she provides for us. I didn't choose to be here. \n\nShe is not open to communication, and no amount of discussion will fix this, so I just want to know: is this entirely her fault, or are me (and my father) partially to blame? If so, how much?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "btKVQr3wD022t0k8NdF6K2XCA5kO4JE8", "post_id": "b7p0t6", "action": {"description": "getting an interview at the same place my friend got an offer from", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting an interview at the same place my friend got an offer from?", "text": "So I currently work, but I've been searching for another job since October due to job dissatisfaction, only getting part time hours when I'm considered full time, and looking for better pay.  It's a tough market.  Anyway, I digress.  My friend interviewed at this place and \\*has an offer\\* from them.  I asked her if she had an e-mail or knew who I could contact, and she provided that information.  So I e-mailed them and got a call a couple of days later to schedule an interview.\n\nShe asked if I told this person that I got his e-mail from her.  I didn't.  He said it was his personal e-mail and he wasn't sure how I got it, \\*but\\* he didn't ask AND I didn't tell.  He just proceeded to tell me about the position, and how they are hiring for all positions (FT/PT/PRN) at the moment.  He told my friend (when she interviewed over a week ago) that they weren't hiring anyone else.  Well, my friend spoke to this contact person today because apparently, she has not yet given them their decision on whether or not she accepts.  She is still waiting to hear back from another place that is basically her dream job, and asked if she could have until Monday or Tuesday.  Well, I guess this person sounded a little irritated and wants her decision by today.  Personally, I don't think this has anything to do with me, because she \\*has an offer\\*, and I don't.  I still need to interview.  \n\nShe said I should have waited, blah blah blah, I thought you were my friend, and didn't think I would have e-mailed them so quickly.  But see...she could have told me to wait, or not give me the e-mail at all, and I would have respected that!  I also saw this position on Indeed some time ago, but when I found out she applied and was in the process of scheduling an interview, I held off, out of respect to her as a friend because I knew she was desperately looking for a job and I have one.  I told her I would wait to contact them until after she got an offer.  Well, she got an offer, so I thought it was okay for me to go ahead and proceed.\n\nIt's not like I'm stealing this position away from her.  She already has the damn offer, and they need her decision.  I have no offer, just an interview scheduled in about a week.  Am I the asshole in this situation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bngIemtfl6IhSmvYSGH4cpH2vvLcOPzp", "post_id": "awj9xl", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my mom for getting me sick", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my mom for getting me sick?", "text": "My mom started feeling sick something like 10-15 days ago, and since my dad was away at the time, it was my job to take care of her (I am a student living at home). I wasn\u2019t super happy about it, but I put up with it because I know that she has been there for me when I was sick.\n\nNow, whenever my dad or me gets sick, we take a range of different medicine regularly to try to fight it off ranging from DayQuill/NyQuill, to zinc tablets (which have been clinically shown to shorten colds), to Dimetapp at night. Apart from that, we drink lots of liquids.\n\nSo as I\u2019ve been taking care of her, I suggest that she takes some medicine, but she rarely would take anything except for Advil, which lowers her fever I guess. To top that, she would drink barely any fluids (like maybe 10-12 oz per day). All of this made me mad, but I didn\u2019t try to push it too hard on her.\n\nToday however (basically a couple of weeks since she first started feeling symptoms), I woke up and felt really sick. I went to my mom (still sick btw) and told her that I was a bit mad at her for getting me sick because she didn\u2019t try to take any medicine to shorten her cold. She told me that she\u2019s sorry I got sick and that, yes, it\u2019s probably from her, but that she doesn\u2019t think the medicine has any correlation.\n\nObviously there are no guarantees with something like this, and I could have gotten sick from her even if she had been taking medicine, but I still feel like she\u2019s to blame for not really attempting to fight the sickness at all. But maybe I\u2019m wrong - am I the asshole for blaming her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "M1fuOirxH1wcaz60mAaaOsCAn81rahEC", "post_id": "b2smqj", "action": {"description": "hiding that I speak another language from my so", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA for hiding that I speak another language from my SO?", "text": "I speak a few languages. One of them is Spanish. I speak it fluently (natively), but nobody guesses it because I'm white. I've always thought it's a great practical joke when I'm with someone who I've known for a little while and I've only spoken to them in English so far, and I pick up my phone and start speaking Spanish fluently, or start speaking to a cashier in Spanish. The look on their face is priceless! Usually they are really surprised and then I explain how I know Spanish.\n\nMy question is, would it be different if I did this to an SO? I thought it would be pretty funny to play the long con on them, and then maybe in a few months bust out the Spanish on some random occasion and see how they react. However, I saw on another post that someone lied about their middle name for a few months and people were saying YTA to her.\n\nSo, WIBTA if I did this? Is this essentially an enormous breach of trust?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5AGoh8tkY2U8qhGG98dPMxevhjZQkujy", "post_id": "auqezw", "action": null, "title": "AITA for the way I've been handling my close friend having a crush on me?", "text": "Me and my friend (lets call him Ian) have been pretty close for the past two semesters at college. We talked almost everyday and hung out with mutual friends together all the time. A month ago Ian met my boyfriend for the first time, and the day after sent me a series of really weird texts, one of which insulted my boyfriend by comparing him to a really unattractive character in a movie. I asked him why he was acting so weird and he wouldn't tell me. \n\nEventually a couple of mutual friends told me that Ian has had a big crush on me for awhile and that I was the only one in the dorm hall that didn't know. It's been a week and Ian and I haven't really spoken to each other because its been so awkward, but I've been hearing weird things that he's done or said. For example, last Wednesday he refused to talk to anyone and was only using sign language. I've also been told that he said \"Well MooseLand's boyfriend is a senior so they're not going to last long. I'm not giving up\".\n\nToday he texted me and asked if I was upset because he insulted my boyfriend. I said \"I mean it definitely wasn\u2019t cool, but I\u2019m upset about other things as well\". He apologized for the lack of communication and then followed the apology up with \"on the flip side though, you probably could have done a better job communicating what was going on with (boyfriend)  months ago. I think you were a little naive/unrealistic about what was happening\". I explained to him that my boyfriend and I only started dating in January and that I told him about my boyfriend multiple times. I also said that I had zero idea that he was attracted to me. The final text he sent me was \"Oh wow. Literally everyone in (Dorm Hall) knew I had feelings for you, I assumed you did too. My bad. I guess I took things wayyy too slow. It\u2019s too bad because we have damn good chemistry\".\n\nAm I the asshole? Because I'm starting to feel really guilty.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 30, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 31, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "04qtdHBi2fG4Eu6u8QpZAaQoRENHv3qb", "post_id": "a9vsas", "action": {"description": "telling and shoving someone bc they touched the back of my chair", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA: for telling and shoving someone bc they touched the back of my chair.", "text": "So this was early December and thinking back I don't think I handled this well. I went to do this walk through of a fancy hotel's decorations close to my town with a group of people and the place was really big so I brought my mobility aid. And I was sat down and someone I kind of know started leaning on the back of my chair. I knew her well enough that I wasn't gonna be a horrible ass about it so I just told her to stop in kind of some not nkce words but I just said some not nice words(\"let's not touch my wheelchair.\") \n\nPerson: You have a chair so I'm gonna take advantage. \n\nShe continued to do this anytime we were stopped and I continued to tell her to stop it. \n\nAnd then one of the people that came with us that is just met tried to do it. And I was fed up with people in generally leaning on the back of my fucking wheelchair so I grabbed his arm and logically shoved him off and told him loudly not to touch my chair. And screamed \"that is so rude! Do not touch my wheelchair.\" \n\n\nSo I feel like I was maybe in the rght br also might've handled it poorly so am j the asshole? Are we all asshole? Thanks, Reddit ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6JdYzFrpOkxl6llxHggQTHOkUY0CKYQC", "post_id": "apocap", "action": {"description": "yelling at my wife's pregnant sister", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for yelling at my wife\u2019s pregnant sister.", "text": "Okay so my wife\u2019s sister is always complaining that my kids are not taking out the trash from her restroom and they have stopped using that restroom all together after I told them. She keeps telling my kids either way to do it. She was telling my daughter to tell me what she told my kids when I was in the exact same room. Then she told told me that I need to tell my kids to stop using the restroom when I know they haven\u2019t gone in there for the past week and a half. I told her when you have your kid boss him around but not mine. Then she kept repeating that she hates how my kids make a mess and don\u2019t like cleaning it up. I told her that no one likes that she is living here. And I just left not wanting to say anymore. Keep in mind that she only has been living here for about a year and a half. I\u2019m tired of her bossing my kids around for the smallest stupidest things. And she keeps it going and doesn\u2019t let it go at all. She will constantly be reminding my kids to do this and that. And it pisses me off since her boyfriend who practically lives here doesn\u2019t do shit in the house he just lays his ass on the couch while she makes him lunch. I\u2019ve been wanting to say something for the past few months but this was the last straw. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5h3bwJw9uXdTeuteao8fDaZlX9iE9Zc2", "post_id": "b2xgng", "action": {"description": "not using my girlfriend's condom", "pronormative_score": 166, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "AITA for not using my girlfriend\u2019s condom?", "text": "Posting from an alt because I\u2019m here for advice not karma\n\nSo basically about 3 days ago, i went over to a girl i\u2019ve been talking to for maybe 3-4 weeks, and we were going to do the deed. Of course I came prepared with a Trojan fresh out the box popped into my pocket. I get there and you know blah blah happens and eventually I pull the condom out before insertion. She says \u201cno no, there\u2019s no need, I have some\u201d but I say I already have it and start unwrapping it. Here\u2019s where she gets persistent. She hops up and says \u201cNo we\u2019re using mine,\u201d and says she won\u2019t let me until we use one she had. Now she had mentioned wanting kids soon, like in 2 months soon, but thought we\u2019d just maybe mess around for a week or two and that\u2019d be it. I thought nothing of it originally and honestly now I was scared. I said \u201cno, why\u2019re you so persistent.\u201d She then states that if I wasn\u2019t to use hers, I might as well leave. So I put on my clothes, did the ol\u2019 reliable waistband tuck, though there wasn\u2019t much to tuck at this point. I now was texted by her friend calling me an asshole and making a big deal out of nothing. I am starting to get second thoughts and thought I should\u2019ve went along\n\nTL;DR: girl wouldn\u2019t let me use my own condom, said i couldn\u2019t smash until I used hers", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 149, "EVERYBODY": 9, "NOBODY": 17, "INFO": 5}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 166, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MEf7ftGOqdZU8WGWP9C2ry63WwAaC2fc", "post_id": "axwew2", "action": {"description": "being frustrated and resentful about how my mother's health issues have impacted my life", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Being frustrated and resentful about how my mother\u2019s health issues have impacted my life", "text": "My mom has pretty extensive cardiac/other health issues. Ever since I graduated from undergrad six years ago and moved back home to help out, I\u2019ve been wrapped up in the world of her health issues. This means that I have sacrificed travel and job opportunities in order to accommodate her needs. I would estimate that she\u2019s been in the hospital for more than a year (if I were to add up the length of all her stays in the past six years). \n\nAs time has gone on, I have found myself unable to emotionally respond to her health issues anymore. I can logically respond and ask her questions about whatever her current issue is, but there isn\u2019t an emotional switch that goes on. This is odd to me because I work with patients in other capacities and I often overly feel concerned for them and their wellbeing. But with my mom, it\u2019s like my feelings have been overstimulated so much that they have fizzled out. As a result of this, I find myself getting irritated or exasperated whenever she tells me about what feels like yet another issue and I end up being very short with her. \n\nMy post today was prompted by her telling me about chest pain (which she always has to some degree, but tonight it\u2019s been worse) after I spent literally 13 hours outside of the house. I was visibly irritated which I know hurt her feelings since she views me as her main confidante in the house, but I honestly couldn\u2019t even pretend tonight. I love my mom dearly and she has done so much for me and advocated for me while I was growing up so I feel terrible about my inability to connect to her issues emotionally/feel empathy. \n\n\nPlease tell me if AITA! If any of you have been through a similar feelings progression, I would appreciate your thoughts!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XWCRAvaXDvRRUz7CYxqj3OcM8HGOXOrv", "post_id": "ahqbg9", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my girlfriend for going Clubbing", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "WIBTA If I Broke Up With My Girlfriend For Going Clubbing?", "text": "Throwaway because knowing my luck people will see this.\n\nSo i've been dating my girlfriend for a little over a year now, and I've made it pretty clear with her that i don't like clubbing in the slightest, and made it crystal clear that I wasn't gonna stay with her if she decided to do go clubbing as that's out of my comfort zone and wouldn't feel good about it at all. At first she moaned and said she'd only go \"to have fun with her friends\" and that she isn't \"like that\" though i know that her friends are a little promiscuous, but then changed her mind a couple months down the line saying that she doesn't want to, and that it's not worth \"losing me\" over it. Now today we were facetiming as she was pretty busy and so was i so we didn't get a chance to meet up, and she mentions that her friend invited her this week to go but she was busy with work that night, but her mate invited her to go this weekend or something and that she wanted to go, now her exact words were \"would you break up with me if I did though?\" and i started to get a bit heated but tried to keep my cool and was like \"do whatever you want i don't care\" i then found an excuse to get off the call and i got upset since she knows how i feel about it and it's not the first time she's tried to swing me round to agree with her. \n\n​\n\nif you wonder why i'm not a fan of it, you should see the type of girls that club here in the UK, and the usual \"it was a drunken mistake\"", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "A10vr4ig4pGZN8DP43ke9qCQ9vyUI4o1", "post_id": "b066cm", "action": {"description": "trying to get a \"promotion\"", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for trying to get a \u201cpromotion\u201d?", "text": "I work at a factory and we had someone transfer somewhere else. They were the backup to the backup supervisor. I asked the supervisor for the position. Basically I would act as supervisor on weekends if the backup didn\u2019t show up. Really all the job entails is showing up early, meeting with the previous shift supervisor, assign jobs, do extra paperwork at the end of the shift and stay late to meet with the next supervisor. All of that responsibility and no raise in pay (it looks good on a resume if I decide to move up). But apparently everyone on my shift now hates me for trying to get the superficial title. The other people that could get it either have too much work already, are brand new, have no interest in the job, or were supposed to retire years ago.  But all of a sudden everyone thinks I\u2019m doing something wrong by trying to move up. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "v2uMsqJpNswvHxy7Ld94EPA4p3SK9uTZ", "post_id": "b1ztzy", "action": {"description": "wanting to move out", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For wanting to move out?", "text": "I'm a 21y/o guy, and I've struggled with mental illness my entire life, but now I'm in a really good place mentally, the only thing really pulling me down is my current living situation. I live with my mom and my brother, he has severe autism and needs constant care, so i help take care of him. When I'm out, I feel like a normal person, but when I'm home I just want to scream. Everything triggers me, the energy is so negative that I spend most of the time locked in my room. My mom and I don't have the best relationship in the world, and when I told her that I was planning on moving out she got super upset. Since them she's been trying to reconnect with me, and I appreciate that, but I just can't be there anymore. I feel like an awful person leaving my mom to take care of my brother by herself, but I just don't see another option. AITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Dq7OEETlSgQWMOj8KkPVTh3YD4un11ou", "post_id": "azwhvr", "action": {"description": "not wanting to visit my Great Grandpa now that I know he doesn't like me as much because of my weight", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to visit my Great Grandpa now that I know he doesn't like me as much because of my weight?", "text": "This may be scattered and all over the place, I have been thinking on this for a while and finally decided to get some advice maybe. On mobile while the kids are having naptime, forgive any errors please. TL;DR at bottom. \n\nMy Great Grandpa(GG) recently turned 89. I am 29, turning 30 very soon. All my life I was the \"favorite\" grandchild of his, but I am pretty sure its just because my Grandma, (who raised me, and whose Father GG is), took me to hang out with him so often. But even if that was the reason, GG and I always had a good relationship. \n\nI have always been bigger then other kids and people my age, but it wasnt until maybe the past four years that I have slipped into the probably obese category. (I am not really wanting any advice regarding that, I know my issues there.) Between heavy depression, lack of care for myself, being content in a happy relationship, and PCOS, I have quite a bit of extra weight that is a struggle to lose. (But I am trying one pant size down this year! :3) Before this bit of weight gain, even though big, I was \"fat in the right places\" big. My GG used to creepily call me \"Hot Momma\" whenever I hugged him in public... Which was often as he always invited me out for lunch and dinner. I also spent a significant amount of time just hanging out with him at his house too. \n\nBut once I got properly fat, he stopped inviting me out as much, and whenever I would stay at his house he didnt really talk to me and just sorta acted awkward for lack of a better word. He would quickly finish dinner and be off to his \"man cave\" rather than socializing like he used to. We always go over to his house for Christmas, and for 2018 Christmas he decided to not give any of my family presents. (Husband and 15 year old daughter, as well as me.) I didn't say anything at the time, but all three of us sorta had our feelings hurt as he had made sure to give lots of other people presents, but somehow forgot us. \n\nThis was relayed to me by my Grandma later:\nMy Grandma asked GG if he had given me a present, and he grumpily said \"No, and I didn't give daughter or husband any either.\" He then told her that he didnt like me being around as much \"since I got fat\" because I make him, my 89 year old Great Grandpa, \"look bad\" and I am not \"hot\" anymore. \n\nOnce my Grandma told me about this I was livid and my feelings were so hurt I almost felt nauseous. I haven't said anything to GG as he's mostly deaf and really doesn't listen to me anyways. But since then... I have had no desire to go see him. I feel guilty about not doing it, I know he's old and doesn't have long but I just can't stand him at the moment. \n\nTL;DR \nAITA for not wanting to visit my Great Grandpa anymore after he said he didn't like having me around since I got fat and am no longer attractive in his mind, making him \"look bad\" in public? \n\n\nThanks in advance for any advice. I need it for sure. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cQblQYPoeMAiTDPRhcGAxuxfeyB82DBM", "post_id": "b047xk", "action": {"description": "messaging someone on FB Marketplace at 11.30pm", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for messaging someone on FB Marketplace at 11.30PM?", "text": "My partner and I were night owls this evening. I was browsing FB Marketplace, like I usually do. I saw a couple of plant stands that I quite liked, and decided to ask the seller about them. I rarely ever do this, as I don\u2019t have a vehicle, and it can be a pain to pick stuff up. \n\nMe: Hi (redacted), do you happen to know what the top portion of these are made from?\n\nHer: excuseme... huh?\n\nMe: what is the clear portion of these plant stands made of?\n\nHer: plastic\n\nMe: great, thank you :)\n\n(At this point I was still undecided if I would purchase them, as I was hoping to use them as bird baths outside, and wasn\u2019t sure if a plastic would hold up.)\n\nHer: what else would they be. It\u2019s a no brainer... are you on glue??\n\n(I\u2019m not going to bother even asking for a viewing now)\n\nMe: best of luck selling these /s\n\nHer: it\u2019s 1130 at night retard!\n\n(I then promptly blocked her and reported the convo to FaceBook.)\n\nAITA for sending a message that late at night? I have my phone set up on \u201cDo Not Disturb\u201d after a set time. It\u2019s not like my feelings would have been hurt if they responded in the AM. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LdhlDO8Al7YlxuhpofNmV3r88X7qQl4e", "post_id": "a616di", "action": {"description": "suggesting to my wife that we both curtail our drinking", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA To Suggest To My Wife That We Both Curtail Our Drinking", "text": "I'm an alcohol abuser. I binge drink sometimes, self-medicating sedative for sure, but pot's more my deal and I love how it helps me create and be up, optimistic and engaged, whereas drinking numbs my issues and just shuts me down. Socially, I drink more, part of the flock, but, when I'm home, I largely avoid it to remain productive and would love to quit entirely, no judgement on anyone who relies upon the drink to get them through. I understand.  I'd just like to stop, altogether. \n\nMy wife drinks too, but not really socially, more like constantly.  It's been every night for years.  Happy times, sad times, all times, a bottle of wine a night.  I know of issues she has, and I understand how self-medicating works. But she has always shown such a lack of interest in trying to rein it in. I don't push - I get it.  But it started to attack her health, and she gained weight, her health deteriorating over many years of nightly pounding the wine down, along with questionable dietary habits. I ride mountain bikes, walk a lot, work out, and she just doesn't want to be active, for whatever reason, I still don't know what that block might be.  \n\nFortunately, our doctor confronted her with a diabetic prognosis, as a result of her weight gain from both food and alcohol abuse as well as physical inactivity and she had a woke moment and decided she needed help.  So, she got gastric bypass surgery as a way of forcing her to pay closer attention to her health.  She would have to follow a dutiful regimen because of the surgery.\n\nIn a year, she lost 125 pounds, and I've been so proud of her.  She's been ecstatic, glowing, excited and empowered.  I've loved watching her rediscover life and have shared in all of her victories day by day.  Our marriage has strengthened as we've affirmed that we were in this together.\n\nIt's well-documented that there are some psychological side-effects that come from this kind of surgery and that also, many still revert to their old ways in time.  My wife has been a model patient, defying all of the standard results for this procedure.  No complications, a tremendous boost of energy and dedication to remaining fit and the realization that she'd committed to a life-long lifestyle.  I told her from the start that I'd be there with her, side by side and step by step as she redefined her approach to physical and mental well-being.\n\n9 months after the surgery, she stopped working out so much, very much pleased with her progress, and then she dropped right back into drinking heavily again.  But, her smaller stomach couldn't process the booze as well, so she began getting drunker quicker and more severely.  This progressed to full-on drunk-every-night sessions that would leave her on the couch, head hanging forward, dead to the world, full-on passed out.  I'd never seen her like this before.\n\nWe'd go out somewhere and we'd both be ordering drinks, but she'd end up wrecked in half the time, and we'd often have to bail on our plans in order to get her home.  She was stumbling drunk every time, and she had to lean on me extensively as we aborted date nights to get her back home where she could pass out in private.\n\nI thought I was getting my wife back when she got the surgery, but there are issues that continue to press her towards the booze.  I recognize my own issues with the drink and have decreased my usage over the past few years, especially at home, where we could support each other.   I've told her many times that I would stop drinking completely if she would do the same.  Because the two of us are stronger together than each of us alone.  If both of us are of like mind on something, there's no stopping us.  We're like Arnold Schwarzenegger and Jamie Lee Curtis at the end of \"True Lies\"; working the room together and owning it.\n\nI told her again, tonight, that I would cut back on drinking if she would.  Together, we'd get a handle on this thing.  We didn't have to stop drinking forever, just maybe not as much. I'm ready.  She said that she wasn't quite ready, yet.  The same thing that she's been telling me for years.  I went alcohol-free for a year, for myself and to serve as a witness.  She didn't change her intake one bit.  I got something out of it, some lucidity, some better habits, a sense of control that I didn't think I possessed.  But she didn't share that depth of attempt. And it was hard to quit cold turkey in a house full of booze.\n\nI'm willing to dial it down to zero and she's not willing to dial it down at all.  I know she's dealing with a lot of baggage, from childhood to some of the mindfucks that come with the surgery that she endured a year ago.  I don't blame her for drinking.  I just don't know what to do in the face of her saying, \"I can't stop right now.\"\n\nShe was very sweet when I told her all of this.  We're not arguing.  I asked her if she's happy and she said, exuberantly, \"yes!\"  I'm happy too; she's a wonderful woman. We have fun, we have a great relationship, we enjoy each other's company, it'll be 15 years of marriage next year and 17 years of being together. But something is compelling her to drink in excess seven days a week, and I just don't know what to do.  \n\nAnd because I DO drink, and know WHY I do and tell her so, but refrain from the intense levels at which she imbibes, I just wonder if I'm being an asshole.  Do I even have room to speak?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lliBDfPyJf2EjZruCi0rFo161ArNqvDr", "post_id": "ayp1g5", "action": {"description": "ruining the joke/doing what a stranger's boyfriend wouldn't", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ruining the joke/doing what a stranger's boyfriend wouldn't?", "text": "Disclaimer: Long but light hearted situation for ya!  \n\nI'm cramped into an airport van with 10 strangers who are being transported to our various hotels in a town that is a 6 hour drive away. We have all come off the same flight which was delayed by 2 hours, so are 2 hours behind our individual schedules on top of the impending 6 hour roadie.   \n\nWe're having toilet breaks along the way but are all keeping it as brief as possible. We're driving away from a lunch break when a girl yells out to the driver to stop- she's lost her phone. A bit of communal panic ensues and we of course turn around and head back.\n\nThe girl is travelling with her bf who is obnoxious in a few ways: yawning ridiculously loudly in a small space without covering his mouth, falling asleep numerous times and essentially resting himself on my shoulder (I would politely inch forward until his gf would pull him back over), ball space to suit 3 men, etc etc. \n\nSo, she loses her phone and is STRESSED. We pull up, she jumps out, the driver jumps out as well and helps her look (we're on a small touristy island - in my home country - I can confidently say that if someone finds the phone, they're not handing it in). The bf doesn't get out to help her (???) but kind of looks around the seat half heartedly and ends up finding it under the seat. \n\nHe announces with zero sense of urgency: \"Yeah it's here ha ha, she's unbelievable.\"  We're all relieved. Maybe 15 seconds goes past and everyone's like uhh are you going to tell her? And he says, \"no she deserves to panic, she's always losing her shit, this happens all the time. Let her panic\". He says that she has to learn her lesson one day or another. I say half-jokingly, (enough for him to hear but not making a statement to the whole van) \"maybe right now isn't when she needs to learn the lesson though?\" He ignores me.\n\nWe're a van full of strangers watching her and the driver frantically run around this dodgy restaurant and he's laughing, and someone comments \"it's funny but the driver is out there stressing too sooo...\" Bf responds with: \"classic. She's so ridiculous. She would be so pissed.\"   By now we've awkwardly watched this shitshow for about 5 minutes. \n\nMe: \"surely tell her now?\"\nHim: \"no, it's funny?\" (Smug at this point). \n\nSo I lean over him, open the door and yell \"WE FOUND IT!\" She gets back in totally relieved and apologetic, we're all kinda laughing (with her) to make light of the situation. I say, \"he found it the moment you got out of the van\" and again others laugh, she laughs too but also looks at him like seriously?! \n\nHe then gives me absolute you-asshole daggers, mutters something under his breath and, to let her into her seat makes a point of completely shoving me out of the way (he's a 6 foot 3 male, I'm a 5 foot 3 female). Tbh this wouldn't sit well with me any other day but I've gotta sit next to the bloke for another 3 hours.\n\nSooo AITA for \"ruining the joke\"?   ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "O4dwo8HgDb4ifIOi2gMX4uoNJBHsUXRK", "post_id": "aobnte", "action": {"description": "going to my house after a planned date with my girlfriend didn't go as planned", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for going to my house after a planned date with my girlfriend didn't go as planned?", "text": "a bit of backstory, i had just gotten off of work and i left to my friends high school to help him practice some wrestling, since his tournament is tomorrow. I got there a bit late but no one was ready and about 30 minutes of being there my girlfriend texted me if i was going to pick her up from her cosmetology school so we could go hiking. I had completely forgotten but i told her i'd leave and would still leave to pick her up. A bit of fuss comes from her side as shes mad that i forgot, which is understandable. its about a 40 minutes drive and i get there and i'm as happy as possible because i don't like seeing her mad at me, i try cheering her up and i end up fixing things with good attitude. We get to the mountain to go hiking after we eat and turns out its closed. We head back to hers and stay there for a good 40 minutes, 10 of which were us sleeping. At this point i'm tired and have been out since about 9a.m and its 8. I decide i want to go home, she gets mad and gives me attitude as i leave. \n\nI understand this because we planned to go hiking since the beginning of the week, i was as excited as she was, granted I forgot, i am always excited to see her. Before I even leave her neighborhood shes texting me about how excited she was about seeing me and how shes mad i left early. I'm thinking to myself, \" just because our plans didn't go like we thought, doesn't mean i'm obligated to spend more time with you\". Call it selfish but i like home and just felt tired. When i'm home she calls me and demands an apology for not wanting to spend time with her, how i don't want to see her, and because i left early. In my mind, I am in control of my life, if i wanted to go home, i have that right. I mean i don't want to be extremely biased but is that not natural? Extra: we have been dating for three years and she will constantly tell me she doesn't feel appreciated and that i don't show that i love her. \n\n​\n\nAITA for wanting to spend some time alone after a failed date?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "z458OSsxlFspuorJYA77nUkvBRF9w7Yk", "post_id": "ao7fsu", "action": {"description": "calling out a friend for being a terrible friend? she hasn't spoken to me for 9 months", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for calling out a friend for being a terrible friend? She hasn't spoken to me for 9 months", "text": "We met in college about 10 years ago and hit it off immediately. She is the loud, sometimes obnoxious, attention loving performer-type and I, the goofy, introverted hermit, emotional artist-type. \n\nThe dynamic of our relationship has always been that I'm there for her whenever she needed me and if she was struggling with something, I was happy to spend however long talking her through it. I'm assuming with as much as I've done for her and helped her out in the past, she felt like she could rely on me. But, it wasn't so much the same for me. See, most of our conversations would always somehow end up focusing on her, even if it was something \\*I\\* wanted to talk about. Still, I considered her as my best friend and even an extended family member for all the events/family dinners she's been at.\n\n​\n\nSo, fast forward...I leave our hometown, move across country a few times, get married. She stays back home, pretty much doing/living the same life before I left. We halfassedly keep in touch while I'm away, and we even organize double dates/hangouts when I'm back home. But, over time, keeping in touch becomes more and more difficult and there's resentment compounding on my end for ridiculously stupid things like \"she never likes my pictures on instagram\", \"she didn't message to ask if I was ok when she saw I was in the hospital\", \"I'm always the one saying hello and she takes forever to respond to texts, yet she hits me up when she needs help with something\", etc...\n\n​\n\nSo eventually, I got sick and tired of her shit and sent her this text;\n\n \n\nHey dude,\n\nJust wanted to reach out to apologize for being in town for over a week and not getting in touch. To be honest, I\u2019ve been kind of upset over the past few weeks and I got to a point where I thought it would be best not to reach out. It hit me some time later that letting anger get in the way of honest expression is the reason why most friendships wither and die over time. So my idea in being completely honest with you here is so that I have a chance to get it off my chest, give the situation an opportunity to unveil all of the hundreds of other possibilities my one perspective might be missing, and most importantly give this friendship another chance to survive. \n\nI want to be super clear that while this message may seem one sided - it\u2019s just me expressing everything I feel. And, what I feel is all I know. I fully open the possibility of being completely wrong and having misunderstood things. Ultimately, I\u2019m reaching out because I\u2019m not comfortable in making my own assumptions of the truth to a two sided story. How could I possibly?\n\nAnyway, for as long as I\u2019ve been capable, I\u2019ve always done my best to help you. I answered your call when I was on vacation to walk you through Instagram marketing, set up your YouTube ad campaign over the holidays, and have never hesitated to share with you anything and everything I\u2019m doing that has helped me - in order to help you. I never expected anything in return because that\u2019s not why I chose to help. I helped because I thought we had a mutual respect and care for one another as friends and as independent artists. But every time I reached out to say hello, I\u2019d never get a response, and when I did it was super delayed and the excuse was always the same. I became extremely ill right around your birthday but I messaged to wish you a happy birthday but you didn\u2019t respond until a week later, after you saw that I was in the hospital. By the end of all that - you reached out to ask me what happened, I was so tired of not being responded to, that I answered in a way to cut the conversation to avoid waiting for a response that would never come. That made me so sad. And made me wonder if you really cared. \n\nSo, ultimately it was time to go back home for a visit and I was extremely resentful towards you. To me, it feels like I\u2019ve inserted many coins in this friendship vending machine only to feel like I\u2019ve just come up short. You may have noticed that I didn\u2019t mention being busy as an excuse I\u2019m interested in talking about. I know how busy I am and I\u2019m assuming your schedule is no different. \n\nIn all honesty, I wasn\u2019t going to send this at until I played this 30 min exercise / game and it opened my eyes to why I should. [http://ncase.me/trust/](http://ncase.me/trust/) (do it on desktop browser to fully understand what I\u2019m talking about). \n\nWhatever happens I feel good about being honest with you. Life\u2019s too short to be angry and I don\u2019t want to keep thinking about it. I will always love you.\n\n\\----------\n\nShe responded by saying she needed time to think things through and that she loved me and respected me...but then turned around to unfriend/unfollow me and she hasn't bothered to reach out like she lead me to believe she would. I feel hurt and used obviously, but the question that wracks my brain constantly is this...Am I an asshole for calling her out? Did I make it impossible for her to want to remedy the friendship? Was I too aggressive? I want to know what I did wrong to warrant her wanting nothing to do with me. It's so f\\*\\*\\*ing confusing. \n\nThx for reading.\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NzytgNQxzTrMGl9Nfy6D1bdHKqe4TEoX", "post_id": "avklx2", "action": {"description": "\"breaking\" bro code by dating a friend's ex love interest", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for \u201cbreaking\u201d bro code by dating a friend\u2019s ex love interest?", "text": "\nContext:\n\nMy now current girlfriend and my \u201cfriend\u201d used to have a thing but they were never officially dating for a couple of months.\n\nI was never in the picture because I did my own thing and my focus was finishing my last year of college.\n\nThey stop talking and end things because she goes back home to her home state for the summer before the semester starts.\n\nShe comes back home from the summer and we start hanging out on campus and the gym, which in turn resulting us to date.\n\nMy \u201cfriend\u201d now calls me a snake to our friend circle and everyone else no longer invites me to social events when he\u2019s attending.\n\nHe claims I broke brocode.\n\nAm I the asshole?\n\n\nIMPORTANT NOTE:\nWe weren\u2019t really close of friends, as we only hang out at parties. (Which I rarely attend because I\u2019m an introvert).\n\nAlso I\u2019d like to mention this happened months ago so it\u2019s not a serious problem and it\u2019s not affecting my flourishing relationship with my girlfriend :)\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rA6EQakxvQP80yMy3frovm7chCa7xsoC", "post_id": "b2sv55", "action": {"description": "moving out from my roommmate", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For moving out from my roommmate?", "text": "This past fall I started college and decided to room with a high school friend of mine who we\u2019ll call Dan. I had been good friends with Dan throughout high school. We had many similar interests and he had actually gone on vacation with my family the year before. \n\nAnyway, a bit into the first semester everything is ok, sometimes he\u2019d ignore me if I tried to talk or would just walk in and out without acknowledging me, but overall it wasn\u2019t too bad. Eventually pledge week at college rolled around and he pledged and I didn\u2019t. Everyone that I knew pledged, and it was really hard for me to be the only one that wasn\u2019t. I had the option to but long story short it really wasn\u2019t for me. Anyway I spent most of the week depressed and lonely because everyone I knew was so busy and couldn\u2019t even talk to me due to pledge week. I had a panic attack one day and my parents came down to make sure I was ok even. By the end of the week I was doing a better and was more stable. One of my other friends informed Dan that I was having a rough week at the beginning of pledge week and needed a good friend. Dan ignored me all week. That Saturday Dan was sick from pledge week, and I went to lunch with a friend. While at lunch Dan messaged me and went off about me needing to change my attitude before I came back to the room. And continued to go off at me. I asked why he was acting like that because I hadn\u2019t done anything and he just kept on. I eventually ended up breaking down in my friends car due to this. The next day I decided to confront Dan on what he\u2019d done. He claimed that he never sent those messages (they were on Snapchat) and began to scream at me and told me to go to hell. That night he ended up in the hospital, so the whole argument had no effect.\n\nOnto before Thanksgiving break, everything is perfectly fine between us. Then once break happens he invites our old friend group from home to hang out multiple times and excludes me. He ignored me in person one day on break. Upon returning to campus he continued giving me the silent treatment. Rarely replying to me and looking away when I walked in. He would blare music in the room when I was trying to work or sleep, and would slam the door when he left the room. All of this caused a substantial amount of stress on me. Near the end of the semester I told him that I was moving out. I started to explain that it was just a stressful situation and I didn\u2019t want any hard feelings (it\u2019s not you it\u2019s me), and he interrupted and said if I didn\u2019t want to be there then I didn\u2019t want to be there and that\u2019s all there is to it. We didn\u2019t talk again until winter break. I moved out and headed home and he sent me a text message saying \u201cSince you left without saying bye, bye have a good break\u201d he hasn\u2019t talked to me since and I\u2019ve since found out that he\u2019s gone to his and my friends telling them I stopped talking to him and was an asshole to him this whole time, and some of them take his side. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "btVB6N4HTiuOfkXdB3NZLBDBPVqU4F0R", "post_id": "axtsqk", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be seen w/ my gamer friends in public", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to be seen w/ my gamer friends in public?", "text": "I love my gaming group. We get rowdy, make inappropriate jokes and have fun. My issue is that when we go out to the bars in our small town, one of the  guys, lets call him Josh, gets really weird around girls.Now Josh is in decent shape and smart but when he opens his mouth to talk to women they get this look on their face like they are about to vomit. This has happened 6+ times. In his defense one of our other friends told  me a story about how the first girl he took home made fun of his micro-penis and he hasn't been with one since.\n\nLet's call the next one Emily. She's a bigger girl, whose Bi.Whatever.Tons of fun. When she talks to new people it goes \"HiMyNameIsEmily.I'm bi. I like boys and girls. I have a bf hes cool with it can I get your number,\" all in one breath. In her defense shes better than Josh. \n\nSo  Josh, Emily and I are at the bar. We just getting drunk keeping ourselves until the third bar and I run into this Hottie I have been talking to for a bit. I go over to say Hi how are ya, shes laughing everything's kosher. Emily and Josh slide over. Josh says \"You know this guy he's fucking asshole, total a piece of shit.\" \n\nHotties like \"uhh what?!!\"\n\nMe- \"This is Josh hes my friend hes just joking.\"\n\nEmily-\"Hi my name is Emily.I'm bi.That means I like boys and girls. I have a bf hes cool with it.Do you want to play pool with us?\" Hottie-\"Sure that sounds fun.\" Emily -\"We should hang out more whats your number..Did you hear me, whats your number.\"\n\nShe gives her number like okay lets get this over with. And its almost okay until Josh starts making jokes about raping dead babies that fall flat. He doesn't know what to do, so he doubles down. Doesn't work. So I just lean over and  I'm whisper \"dude chill just try to be normal,\" so only he can hear. And he shouts \"Fuckman, I'm just being the scumbag so you look better by comparison and  can fuck this girl, you'll see, it will work.\" She and her friends hear, total cringefest. She turns around and just completely ignores us, to talk to random dudes that swaggered up, like sharks that smell blood. Then Emily says to me \"Well, you really mess that up, I'll talk to her tomorrow see if she wants to hang out with us.\" At this point I  am in awe. If I didn't know these people I'd say they were fucking with me.\n\nI go to  the bathroom Emily and Josh pull an Irish exit. Hottie instantly walks away from sharkies back over to me says I don't know how I am getting home, I have to move my car do you want to come with? Sure love too. She backs to happy and giddy. We get to her car and  shes says \"I texted my friend to come pick me up. (Cucked.) but I had  fun.\" No worries\n\nNow  it's not the first time that Josh and Emily have made me feel awkward around women. So reddit AITA for not wanting to go out in public with my gamer friends and suggest we keep our relationship at the gaming table?\n\n2 many words. Lesser cringe stuff cut.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OtA2AgyemDtm6mJCVU5CDBco2IBU6WLw", "post_id": "az00ha", "action": {"description": "not loving my parents anymore", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not loving my parents anymore?", "text": "As I've grown older I cant help but notice how bad my parents have been at parenting. (keep in mind both of my siblings have autism). Am I the Asshole for not loving them even though they are my family?\n\n​\n\nDad: \n\n\\-He is a christian with pretty radical beleifs like obama=antichrist, women are directly inferior to men, driving on highway for miles without gas to test gods protection, etc (will be important later). \n\n\\-He would often threaten me and my brothers to do what he wanted or else we wouldparents get hit. Whether it was to do the dishes for him, or if it was unsuspecting childsplay (this was from the age range of 5-10).\n\n\\-Got divorced and lives in his siblings basement at the time.\n\n\\-He decides to leave us (over 1000 miles away) because he likes this church dude online. this leads to my younger brother feeling lonely \\[8yo\\]. \n\n\\-has been a dick just to feel powerful(intentionally fucked up my hair and refused to fix it until i started to cry \\[9yo\\])(hit my older brother for doing his basic autistic behavior\\[10yo\\])(refuses to let my brothers and i to get passports and gives no solid reason (not even an exaggeration he can't give us a reason)\n\n​\n\nMom: \n\n\\-been yelled at for simply saying \"I miss our old house, it was fun\" \\[9yo\\]\n\n\\-has always told me that i have no reason to be sad whenever i was feeling down\n\n\\-Whenever i transferred from parent to parent, it reminded me of the divorce which made me sad. My mom saw me sad, called me manipulative without letting me explain, and i got beat. I didnt even say anything, i just looked sad.\\[8yo\\]\n\n\\-When i asked for a ds for 2 years straight, parents said no everytime. When i make enough money to buy one \\[7yo\\], my brother just asks for one in the store and he gets one too.\n\n\\-younger brother got a $50 wii game every week for being good, while I didnt get anything even if I worked hard in school academically. My brother got 15 games by the end of it all. Then my moms excuse was \"i cant afford that sweetie\"\n\n\\-When I was 10, I had no close friends, and nintendo video games were the one thing that made me happiest. I wanted a wii u for the next smash bros, cause I knew i would enjoy myself and my mom hit and yelled at me for being excited for christmas. (I ended up paying for 2/3rds of my own present, the only thing i wanted)\n\n\\-younger brother is academically behind because nobody ever pushed him hard enough to succeed, now both parents are just giving up on my younger brother going to a college (he has autism but he also has more potential than anyone has given him credit for and it makes me really sad)\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ni4Hv2RLAij6krbKXMJ21ECBBKNAtKK7", "post_id": "b28561", "action": {"description": "telling my so I don't want to equally divide the household chores anymore", "pronormative_score": 32, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA For telling my SO I don't want to equally divide the household chores anymore?", "text": "I am 29M, my SO is 27F. We have been dating for about 1 year and two months. I have social anxiety, and this is the first girl I have even kissed. Things escalated quickly and we decided to start a live in relationship about 4 months ago. \nIt was decided that we would split the household chores equally. I was completely fine with it, because we both worked an equal amount of hours. Even though I earned a fair bit more, I was home for roughly the same time as her and all was good. \nIt was going great till 2 months ago, I got an opportunity to become a key member of an emerging company. I was a bit reluctant because of the work hours but my SO convinced me to go for it since there was a massive salary hike too. \n\n It required a lot more extra effort from my part and I often work 12-16 hours a day now. I ended you liking what I did, and my salary almost doubled. The ratio was now about 5:1 in terms of how much we contributed. Not saying I don't let her treat herself with our money, I obviously did... but I expected to at least come home with less dishes in the sink and vacuuming done.\n\nApparently not, I often end up staying up till 12 am and wake up at 4am. I confronted her about this yesterday. She goes out to watch movies and binge watches Netflix, something we used to do together, everyday. I honestly couldn't handle it anymore.\n\nYesterday,I didn't shout or anything, I just told her that we should honestly consider changing the agreement and she should ideallydoing a little more work. When she said that I had promised on the 50/50. \nI told her straightaway that I couldn't handle it.\nI told her that I would be fine with doing a good amount of things, just not an equal amount or the majority of the work load. \n\nShe suddenly just broke down and slammed the door shut. Saying I was supposed to be a good guy but I had somehow made it all worst. \nMostly because of the door muffing my voice, I shouted and told her I did my fucking best being a good guy for the people around me.( but I do confess that there was a trace of anger and aggression.) She told me to fuck off and I ended up sleeping in the other bedroom.\n\n\nToday at work I was getting bombarded with messages from her friend's on how I am being a complete moron and should better bring a box of her favorite chocolates by the time I reach home.\n\n\nI am at a local library now, honestly a bit stressed out....I genuinely need some help and even constructive criticism is welcome.\n\nI honestly might be the asshole, this is probably more of a confirmation. I am ready to listen to criticism and improve myself in any way possible.\nI am just stressed out.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 30, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 32, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hzMOIbVwhKAOz9OyJNsBspFWHVTjfOAy", "post_id": "b8flk1", "action": {"description": "roasting my friend way too hard", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for roasting my friend way too hard?", "text": "So my friends and I are all in a discord server together where we talk, play games, and generally have a good time together. A few weeks ago I had this idea to basically create starter pack memes of each of my friends poking fun at all the quirky and small things they do or have done. This went really well for the first few of my friends as I quickly slopped together some Google images and pasted them in mspaint. \n\nHowever, we have this one friend, we'll call him T, who is generally kind of recognized as the pretentious friend of the group. As I worked my way through each of my friend's memes, T takes notice and asks for a starter pack of himself. I tell him that he'll have to wait until I get through some of the other people's before I started working on his. He obliges initially for a little while, but then he begins to become a little more persistent while also requesting that I pull no punches on his, making sure to really \"push his shit in.\" His words, not mine. Anyway, I finish up and begin working on his  starter pack when he says that anything relating to him \"acting smarter than he actually is\" is low effort and unoriginal.\n\nHere's the thing about T. I mentioned that he was the \"pretentious\" friend, but in general he's a pretty good guy. However, sometimes, he gets too big for his britches and I feel like I need to knock him down a few pegs, so hearing that I should pull no punches on his starter pack, I went all out on him. Over the next couple of days, I made a giant collage of all the weird and strange things he tends to do, but also went after all of his deepest insecurities in making his starter pack as he had requested.\n\nAfter it was all done, I immediately thought that perhaps I had gone a little too far. However, persistent as he is, T demanded that I post it. I really hesitated posting it, even going so far as to make him sign a \"consent form\" for what he was about to see. I upload the image and immediately T shits on it, calling it unoriginal, low effort, disappointing, and 0/10. I felt a little bad as I had worked on this for a few days only for it to be put down, but whatever.\n\nHowever, things got weird from here. Following this, T completely and suddenly disappears off discord and cuts all communications with the friend group for the next two weeks, deleting his discord account one week in. Rightfully so, the whole group starts to get increasing worried about his whereabouts as we try to contact him to no avail. A few hours ago, though, one of my other friends broke through to him to ask what happened to him, only to learn that he left because of the image that I had posted.\n\nAm I the asshole? Did I go too far in trying to roast him?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "s2G8iGDaSU6oopoUAFjHjeuf5M4CHLJ4", "post_id": "aufevx", "action": {"description": "getting pissed that GF shared netflix account with family who keep logging on in another country", "pronormative_score": 41, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for getting pissed that GF shared netflix account with family who keep logging on in another country?", "text": "I've had a couple of issues with accounts getting hacked, before being with current GF but she is aware that for me this has been issue, and that I reticent about sharing accounts because of this.\n\nI originally started sharing a Netflix account with her. A few months later I suddenly get a warning that someone logged in on Netflix on another country. Worried about it, but seeing as it was from my GF's homecountry, I asked her about it and yes, she had given account access to her mother. I told her I didn't appreciate it the fact that she didn't ask me about it first, honestly if she had done so I wouldn't have had an issue with it. \n\nAbout a week later, I get another notification, same country. Took me longer to find out, but apparently her mother had given her brother the account as well. Now I was pissed, because at this point I felt like I had no control over who was using my account. She was telling me her mother didn't think anything of it, which fine, I think it's rude but let's give her the benefit of the doubt. I told my GF that if there were going to be more new login or access requests to please tell me first and I would be fine with it. It costs me nothing per month, and it's a major plus for them. \n\nBut then this dude started to log in on different devices, and I got in about 2 weeks repeated log in notifications from Netflix (about one every 2-3 days), and every time I would ask my GF to please check with her family. Every time it was. The tipping point came when my subscription got changed, supposedly I guess because the maximum number of simultaneous devices had been reached, and her bro (according to her not knowing English) just saw some pop-up  and clicked \"OK\" to continue and watch whatever. \n\nI was mad at this, I felt that at the very best case scenario her brother did not give a shit about using someone else's service, not understanding that this was lent as a favor, and should be letting me or my GF know before hand when logging in or asking if he didn't know what he was doing. At the worst, I now had a bunch of unknowns using my account. \n\nMy GF ended up getting her own Netflix account, which to me is a relief. But she still says I am a mayor asshole for making a big deal out of nothing and still gets incredibly upset when the topic comes up.\n\nI honestly fail to see how sharing something of mine with people I have never met, but asking the to notify me on Whatsapp/FB/Skype/whatever before logging in on different devices is asking for THAT much. Especially having told my GF time and again that sharing accounts and passwords is difficult for me in general. \n\n​\n\nAm I a paranoid asshole here? Or is she being unfairly critical of what she sees as distrust in her family? I honestly would be just as mad if it were my siblings or best friends doing this.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 39, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 5}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 41, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FUuEtAidU6Ihj23RaYm0ilhgtFTU3gNi", "post_id": "ayiww9", "action": {"description": "refusing to move up is at a fast food restaurant when asked", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA, For refusing to move up is at a fast food restaurant when asked?", "text": "Whenever they ask me to u say no, no matter what.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Px7cVU0QP06TwoWq8a7Te5QqSf1HvXo5", "post_id": "b9uu23", "action": {"description": "not attending my brother's wedding, across country, because I feel he is selfish", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I don't attend my brother's wedding, across country, because I feel he is selfish?", "text": "\nSo I have not spoken to my brother in almost a year. I live in Virginia and he lives in Las Vegas. My mother told me months ago he was engaged to be married, but I never received an invitation. I have not spoken to him in over a year because he decided to spout off a bunch of anti military 'your husband is just a killer' B.S. two days after my husband left on deployment. (Myself, or my husband do not expect people to kiss his ass, if that's my brother's opinion then whatever, but going off about it two days after my husband left was inappropriate and poor timing IMO. He was extremely rude and explosive about his opinion and said my husband would deserve whatever happened to him on deployment, if he was hurt or killed, because the U.S. was responsible for the deaths of innocent people)\n\nAnyway, yesterday out of the blue, he sends me a messenge on facebook asking me if I would fly to Vegas to be at his wedding in October. I said I would see what I could do because I would flying with two young children across country because my husband would be deployed again. Also, a cross country ticket and hotel in Vegas is pretty pricey. He seemed happy with this answer and said he would let me know definite dates soon. And that was it. \n\nI was a little upset after this exchange for a few reasons:\n\n1) He never acknowledged we haven't spoken for a year, or that he said some messed up stuff to me, about my husband. \n\n2) My son is two and half and he has never acknowledged that his nephew exsists. He never congratulated me on this pregnancy or his birth. Never asks me about him or acknowledges him in anyway.\n\n3) He knows I'm pregnant again, due in four weeks and have been extremely ill throughout with HG and liver problems and never asked if I was ok, how I was doing or about the baby. I've been hospitalized a few times, all of which he knows about because my mother tells him about it. \n\n4) He's always crying that family should support family no matter what when he has something going on,  but is never supportive of any family when they have something going. I.E. he was still living in the same town as my older brother when his daughter was born, but never went to the hospital to see her and didnt bother to meet her until a family event months later. \n\nAfter thinking about all of this, I didn't see why I even should spend the money and go through the headache of long flight with two small children. However my parents and some family members have told me I am being petty and should just be a good sister and go. To the point where I'm starting to question if they're being ridiculous or if I'm really just being petty.\n\nSo, WIBTA if I just say fuck it, like he has for so long?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1o61eMSO2pvlP8gCT8ofx3rk5GtGg17c", "post_id": "a17ora", "action": {"description": "not letting my kid's daycare post pics of her to social media", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not letting my kid's daycare post pics of her to social media?", "text": "My baby goes to a daycare that, on the whole, I like. Just started going a couple of months ago. Anyway, I followed them on Facebook and found an album of an event where there were a couple of photos that had my baby in them. When I enrolled her, I never signed a photo release or permission to post photos on social media/their website. \n\nAITA here, or am I justified in asking the director not to publicly post pictures of my child?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 21, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EQCPcTDQIyhl8peZsIpfImGOFF1HbD57", "post_id": "ai8yfp", "action": {"description": "not giving a stranger my calculatore", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not giving a stranger my calculatore.", "text": " I am conflicted in my self about this matter, please help resolve.\n\nHappened on the last Friday, I am an engineering student and had an exam on Friday on physics 2.\n\nBringing a calculator was a bliss because there were very difficult calculations with integrals, so I finish the exams 2 hours after it started, I pack up and a student from a different faculty comes to me and asks for my calculator(he forgot his), I say no because I don't know him and I am going north so I won't stay in the city, he keeps asking until I say firmly no, afterwards he looks defeated and walks away...\n\nNow I go home and ask my wife about this, she says I did the correct thing, but let me point couple of thing.\n\nI love to help, I rarely deny my help if someone asks.\n\nThe exams indeed required a calculator because there was a specific question that asked a question in this format 0.234 and not 1/2(the exam was hard af too)\n\nI felt kinda bad for not helping him for the reason that in Israel after the army you are a part of the country brotherhood in a sense, most of the people act very friendly to each other...(except the elderly who still show racism toward Russians).\n\nI had a spare one at home.\n\nAfter couple days of reviewing my actions and the situation I kinda wanna go for the not an asshole, but something prevents me from doing it.\n\nSide not: after reading my post it appears it is very difficult portraying this situation properly, but still AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Qyeg0akWF0zgLbJUH6UhBVlZUxnbp9sf", "post_id": "a34e2r", "action": null, "title": "AITA for been less than impolite to an unwanted door sales person?", "text": "Not once or twice but three times in the past two weeks the same sales person has knocked loudly on my door trying to sell me new windows and doors. I said to her the first time. 'No thankyou i'm really not interested, have a nice day.'  I told her the second time, 'I am not interested, please don't bother me again' before closing the door. Then today, the third time, I ignored her for the first few minutes before finally answering the door as she persistently knocked as she could see me through the window.\n 'Can I help you? i'm very busy, as you can see'\n 'Hello, i'm from **** and we want to know if you are interested in new windows and doors been installed?'\n'No I am not, just like I told you the last time. I would also ask you to read this giant fuck off no cold-callers sign right in front of your face.'\n'I have a badge'\n'And?'\n'We can offer you a discount, and we dont have to oblige by those signs as company policy'\n'What is your name I would like to speak to your manager?'\n'Im not telling you my name'\n'Listen, Ive asked you not to come on my property and I am now telling you again. Get off my property and close the gate on your way out'\n\nAnd off she huffs with her little clipboard and closes the gate passive aggressively.\n\nNow normally I make an exception. I try to be friendly and normally they will just try once at my house. I understand working on commission is hard. Door to door sales is gruelling work. I work from home and she interrupted me on not 1 but 3 occasions now and I had enough. I feel I may have been harsh but I also have a living to make. \n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SQgEy82k57i9infzevCKGInJGbtvOAej", "post_id": "amyogr", "action": {"description": "not buying Boy Scout popcorn because of their position on membership", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Not buying Boy Scout popcorn because of their position on membership", "text": "Note: this happened in ~2013\n\nA member of my work group brought in a form for her son's boy scouts popcorn drive. She let everyone in the group know it was at her desk but when she came to me I politely declined.\n\n\nLater that evening - after she had left- a coworker mentioned the popcorn form and I told him I was not purchasing any popcorn because the BSA did not allow LGBTQ members or atheists.\n\n\nThe next day, someone else in the cube-farm told my coworker what I had said and she came to my desk to lambast me for not purchasing her son's popcorn just because of their stance on LGBTQ ppl at the time and \"won't you have a heart.\"\n\nI feel like I'm not an asshole because I did not tell her to her face my reasoning for declining to buy and had no intention of telling her. I think a member(s) of the cube-farm was a shit-stirrer.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pUPn8WVCkMS9X694NlF2pZoThXLTuLOC", "post_id": "b2wus4", "action": {"description": "keeping my friend's birthday present for myself after she stood me up again", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I kept my friend's birthday present for myself after she stood me up again?", "text": "I have a close friend who has a habit of flaking out on plans last minute. She has cancelled on me for shaky reasons and then made plans with other people the same night more than once before. Last night, I reached breaking point.\n\nMy friend and I had plans to go to pub quiz yesterday, plans which which we had for a few weeks and I was really looking forward to. In the afternoon, she text me to say she was off work sick (which is definitely true if it makes a difference) and therefore wouldn't be coming out at night. This isn't the problem, at the time I sent her back an understanding text and said it was no problem, just focus on getting better.\n\nWe were supposed to go to the pub quiz for 9pm. At 10pm, she posts an Instagram story of her at another bar having a drink with another friend.\n\nHonestly I was angry. I'm not sure whether it's personal to me or she's just generally flakey but I was hurt since this is a developing pattern.\n\nHere's the kicker: it's her birthday on Friday and I just bought her a ticket to see a performer I know she really likes. It was expensive relative to my budget.\n\nI'm considering keeping it for myself. I don't really feel like giving a thoughtful birthday gift to someone who has repeatedly treated me thoughtlessly. If I kept it, I'd just get her a generic gift like a box of chocolates or a small gift card.\n\nWIBTA? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JlyI7pSme924ulEM6J5cW4mLxk7msJxy", "post_id": "b661hj", "action": {"description": "expecting my food deliverer to Knock on my Door", "pronormative_score": 71, "contranormative_score": 450}, "title": "AITA For Expecting My Food Deliverer to Knock on my Door?", "text": "I'm a new mom and get loads of packages delivered. I had handwritten signs that said \"Do not Knock\" for packages in various iterations that were ignored. I always wrote \"Do not knock\" in every checkout cart that offered \"delivery options\" notes. It never worked. So, I found a sign that had pictures of the corporate courier logos for attention. And it worked! Too well... We ordered dinner last night and it was 45 minutes late! UGH. Well... The food delivery person saw the sign and silently left it at the front door. It was ice cold when we realized what happened. Am I the asshole? My husband said we were asking for it. I think common sense should have prevailed.\n\n[The Sign](https://imgur.com/gallery/rIFIXCr)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 444, "OTHER": 23, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 48, "INFO": 6}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 71, "WRONG": 450}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "vC0VI8fRkke4AoYxxmnifnXMtp7GWMQT", "post_id": "azz46l", "action": {"description": "not teaching future kids my mother tongue to speak with my mom", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "WIBTA if I didn't teach future kids my mother tongue to speak with my mom?", "text": "I'm not sure this belongs here but I couldn't think of a better subreddit.\n\nLittle background. I'm from an unspecified Slavic country and I'm determined to move to an English speaking country in not-extremely-far future, because I just don't like my country and my language for various reasons. I avoid online communities speaking my language and reside on the English part of the internet except when talking with irl friends online. The only emotional ties I have to here are to my parents (no extended family at all). I have a very good relationship with my mother with whom I live (I'm a student and plan to leave to move from her shortly I find a job after finishing studies). She only speaks our mother language. I consider my English to be very good and same goes for my dad.\n\nWith my mom I've been discussing my plans about moving abroad with which she doesn't have a problem. In fact both my parents were always pushing me into moving abroad in future/working abroad in future, even though they were always looking more at non-English speaking European countries. I told her that if I had kids abroad, she'd have to learn English to communicate with them since I'll rarely come back and so I feel they'd literally be learning my language just because of her. She told me that I'd basically cut her off from them and that I should not be selfish and shouldn't only think of myself. I understand she'd like to be able to talk with her grandchildren if she had any (I'm the only child), but I personally feel that it would be more selfish to teach kids a language they would barely have any use for while I could spend time teaching them something actually useful like French or German.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ZFYaABpHibyl0Pti0gZDIvoTQetvcFlK", "post_id": "asfwvr", "action": {"description": "feeling like a toy in a relationship my GF wants to break off yet still insists that we stay together", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for feeling like a toy in a relationship my GF wants to break off yet still insists that we stay together", "text": "Had a Mutual friend tell me my GF wants to break up with me after she moves, the following is a text convo we had an hour ago\n\nMe: I can't believe this, I put so much commitment in this, I had to reject someone else for you, and because I couldn't tell them why I made up an excuse which made me seem like a dickhead\n\nHer: Excuse me for wanting to make it last, I can't handle long distance relationships\n\nMe: Excuse me for not wanting to be dragged along with a false sense of security\n\nHer: It's not a false sense of security, I want it to last too, and if your mad I'm trying to make the best of it too\n\nMe: Do you realise how fucked up it is to drag me along like this?\n\nHer: well then maybe you shouldn't have asked me out in the first place, listen I'm not dragging you along and I'm trying to make the best of what's here now,\n\nMe: Neither of us knew you were moving!\n \nHer: I Told you, I FUCKING told you!\n\nMe: Not when I asked you out\n\nHer: I FUCKING told you I was moving AND YOU KNEW THAT\n\nMe: you told me you were moving a week into the relationship\n\nHer: I didn't know till afterwards\n\nMe: Well excuse me for trying to give long-distance a chance, if I had known you were moving beforehand I wouldn't have said anything\n\nHer: I want to try to get long distance to work but I can't\n\nMe: why?\n\nHer: Because it never works out for me and I don't feel comfortable with it, I was happy spending time with you untill I had to leave you and my friends\n\nMe: that's fine, I can respect that, but at least inform me of your intentions so we could establish a friends-with-benifits kind of thing, and I like spending time with you too, but it's gonna be hard knowing it is gonna end in a few weeks, you never told me you would break up,\n\nHer: Because I didn't want to hurt you, I just wanted you to be happy for a while\n\nThis happened about 30 mins ago, and as a side not we both suffer from depression, I'm really just looking to see if I fucked up and need to apologise", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9tKk7wtRWezw22MTZckiwvdsdfpkiwH7", "post_id": "adyp5f", "action": {"description": "kicking a guy out of my hobby group because of his concealed gun", "pronormative_score": 75, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for kicking a guy out of my hobby group because of his concealed gun?", "text": "I am in a little board game group that has been meeting regularly for the past six months. We used to have our game nights at a local hobby shop, but since we've gotten closer and the shop is in not the best part of town, have recently decided to start doing it at my house instead.\n\nThere's five of us total and one guy, \"Jim\" has a concealed carry permit and carries a gun with him. I know this because he's mentioned that he's always armed. I am very anti-gun but it had never come up before. Before our first game night at my place I told Jim privately that I don't want any guns in my house and that he would have to leave his in his truck if he brang it. He gave kind of an acknowledging but not exactly affirming response.\n\nThen after our first game session at my house, one of the other group members told me on her way out that Jim had told her he still had his gun with him while I was in the kitchen out of earshot. I texted Jim and told me he had been extremely disrespectful and that this wasn't a game, and he could not come to my house again if he was going to have a gun on him. His response was \"Fine, guess I won't be coming then,\" and he effectively quit the group.\n\nThe reaction with the rest of the group is split. One person doesn't care whether Jim participates or not, one person says it was \"harsh but fair\" and that Jim wasn't really kicked out per se, and one person thinks I am being a shrew and shouldn't have been so uptight about the gun after just one session, since he's never had to leave it behind before.\n\nMy point of view is that it's my house and my rules, and I don't think it's an unreasonable rule to not want a gun in my home. I put my foot down the first time it happened because it was a serious matter and not like he brought the wrong snacks or something. Jim keeps texting me going back and forth between saying \"lose my number\" and sending me links to propaganda supporting his viewpoint.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 74, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 75, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XaHI8hyJ78GiQbsuGnRGLh8dQ9fT2Xep", "post_id": "ahbt25", "action": {"description": "blowing up on my cousin for lecturing my sister", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA: Blowing up on my cousin for lecturing my sister", "text": "I have a half sister who is 11 years old. My mom is a single mother. I've grown up taking care of my sister and almost serving as a parent figure in her life. My cousin found her twitter I guess and saw that she had quoted something with the word \"bitch\" in it (it was like don't be a bitch, be happy or something along the lines of that), she screenshot it and let my mom know. My mom and I talked about it in private since she doesn't really understand Twitter and how it works. I told my mom that, yeah we should talk to her about being careful about what she says, especially on the internet but to not worry because when you're in middle school you think cussing makes you \"cool\". I reminded her that I did it as well on my \"fan account\" on twitter and that was she said wasn't even bad. My sister's account didn't have her picture or name on it, if that's an important factor. It wasn't an urgent matter so we didn't address it right away although we obviously planned to. Literally 2 hours after she texted my mom, my cousin decided it was her place to call my sister and lecture her over the phone. I was sitting next to her and could hear my cousin lecturing her and it made me absolutely furious. I told my sister to hand me the phone and I blew up. I started by saying \"That's really not your place\" and she started saying that we weren't dealing with it (IT'S NOT HER JOB TO HANDLE THE SITUATION ANYWAY). That made me even more angry and I told her that she wasn't her mom or her sister and that she needed to mind her own business. Notifying us was enough but it is absolutely NOT HER JOB to lecture my sister. She texted me a half-assed apology. Basically one of those \"I'm sorry IF YOU FEEL blah blah blah\" basically not taking responsibility or seeing anything wrong with her actions. I responded saying that it wasn't her place and that my mom and I had talked about it and she just went ahead and assumed that we weren't dealing with it and had the audacity to call my sister and lecture her. She responded saying that she was calm about lecturing my sister and that I had no reason to be mad (I beg to differ) and I responded with \"It doesn't matter how you delivered it, it was wrong. Period. You were out of place. We talked to her about it and it felt like you were undermining not only me but my mom by calling her. You're not her parent. Like I said, I understand the concern but it's not your job to call her and lecture her.\" My cousin is neither a mom nor a big sister and knows nothing about handling middle school children anway. Even if she did it's not her job to call someone else's child and lecture them. Am I the asshole for blowing up?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Zbv8t1zo7YxBUGw63F5TwYpJMJJovGlu", "post_id": "apove9", "action": {"description": "keeping pictures of ex-hookups on my phone", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for keeping pictures of ex-hookups on my phone", "text": "Throwaway account because this behavior is too admittedly slutty to post on my regular account. \n\nBasically, I have a folder on my iPhone full of pictures of guys I\u2019ve had sex with. There aren\u2019t any nudes, all of them are just selfies or pictures from their facebooks. The reason I did this is because I honestly have an awful memory and idk if this is perverted or weird or what but I would just like to remember majority of my sexual experiences? And keeping pictures of the guys is sort of like a visual diary or something anyway. \n\nAnyway, fast forward to now, I\u2019m in a relationship, we\u2019ve been dating for about 7 months now and it\u2019s gotten to the point where I\u2019m totally comfortable sharing everything with him, even the passcode to my iPhone. \n\nThis is where the trouble started. \n\nI hadn\u2019t actually hooked up with anyone in almost a year before I met my current boyfriend, so because I didn\u2019t make any updates to the folder of past hookups, I completely forgot I even had it (terrible memory). \n\nSo last night, BF is on my phone when he shows me the folder full of guys faces and asks me what it is. I didn\u2019t think it was a big deal and I thought we were comfortable enough with each other that I actually laughed when he showed me. But when I told him what it was he completely lost his shit, saying it\u2019s \u201csuper fucked up\u201d and threw the phone at me and left and now he isn\u2019t replying to my calls or messages. \n\nI managed to explain that they were all hookups from long before we even met and that I forgot I even had the folder in the first place but he just accused me of lying and asked when I would be putting his picture in there (yikes).\n\nSo AITA for having this folder in the first place?\n\n... and AITA for not wanting to get rid of it now?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nLMdI8lGROH4YfrBJ4dux800mOnOQEOg", "post_id": "a4huiv", "action": {"description": "calling out a couple who are displaying EXPLICIT PDA? I'm trying to study for finals this week at my College Library, and this couple is obviously having oral. I fucking called them out from across the table. I noticed the head bobbing up and down from the corner of my eye", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for calling out a couple who are displaying EXPLICIT PDA? I\u2019m trying to study for finals this week at my College Library, and this couple is obviously having oral. I fucking called them out from across the table. I noticed the head bobbing up and down from the corner of my eye.", "text": "This table has multiple desktops, and the dude next to them says they weren\u2019t doing shit, but when I called the couple out for BS, the retard had nothing to say. The dude was acting like a fucking POS, saying that I\u2019m offended and other BS, when clearly they were having explicit PDA in a PUBLIC AREA. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jA2RkPi0dmR4j5UyCICBy2nNsszRLD5s", "post_id": "b0v157", "action": {"description": "asking my roommate to remove his mattress from the living room floor and return it to his bedroom", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking my roommate to remove his mattress from the living room floor and return it to his bedroom?", "text": "One of my roommates from freshman year of college brought not only HIS mattress, but an additional mattress from one of our apartments empty rooms, and slept on them in our living room.\n\nThe living room and kitchen were all a part of the same room, so when myself or my other roommates would wake up in the morning and start making food and coffee and shit, our roommate would ask us to be more quiet and to turn the lights off.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "c4reK3XPfMdCfta4N4yEGZwex0S4m1DV", "post_id": "aus74l", "action": {"description": "making an itemized list of all the problems I've been having in my relationship", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA IF I made an itemized list of all the problems I\u2019ve been having in my relationship?", "text": "Obligatory apology for being a mobile user and for using a throw away account!\n\nFor some context, I\u2019ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 4 years, living together for almost three years.\n\nPreviously, we had a very happy relationship. This was someone I could envision myself spending the rest of my life with. However, the last year or so I\u2019ve been growing more and more discontent. I\u2019ve noticed a decline in his personal hygiene and the amount of effort he puts into our relationship.\n\nI feel completely unappreciated. I do most of the cleaning, purchase most of our food, give him as many rides as I can, and initiate sex more often than not. Lately he\u2019ll just fall asleep on me if I try to get us to do anything of that nature.\n\nI\u2019ve brought these issues up multiple times. I\u2019ve tried to be as compassionate as possible. I KNOW that some are the issues are because he is depressed. We\u2019ve talked about it at length. I also suffer from depression and anxiety, but I have been to therapy and he has not. I have given him links to several different programs for \u201caffordable\u201d mental healthcare, but I know he hasn\u2019t followed up with any of it. \n\nAny time I try to talk about ANY of our issues, he either gets irrationally angry with me or completely shuts down and refuses to talk at all. He\u2019ll tell me what I want to hear or go into self destruction mode, saying that he\u2019s the shittiest person in the world (which I do not agree with, obviously).\n\nI just feel at this point that I CAN\u2019T talk to him about how I\u2019m feeling at all. I don\u2019t want to keep harping on the same issues. I don\u2019t want to pressure him into having sex with me. I don\u2019t want him to tell me what I want to hear. This is why I had the thought of just writing a letter or something, completely detailing everything that I\u2019ve been having issues with. I\u2019m just afraid of that blowing up in my face as well.\n\nI\u2019m not sure exactly what my next move should be. I want to work through these issues, not just immediately give up on our relationship. This is the only thing I can think of that would allow me to get all of my thoughts out in a cohesive manner, but I\u2019m afraid of him taking it the wrong way.\n\nSo, Reddit, would writing this letter make me the asshole? Is there a better way to handle this that I can\u2019t see? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Qam9VV3XF3FFyvdTTtpXdzxI4hCigFn1", "post_id": "awzq9e", "action": {"description": "sending this email", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I sent this email?", "text": "So context: I recently complained to DoorDash that I didn't receive all the items I'd paid for. I've had to do this a few times lately, so they put it under review. I just received this email:\n\n​\n\n\" Thank you for reaching out and providing feedback on your recent delivery. \n\nUnfortunately, we are unable to provide any compensation based on the information you provided and the details of your order. \n\nYour reference number for this request is \\[redacted\\]\"\n\n​\n\nI also have a friend who works as a dasher for them and is paid about 3 bucks an hour on a good day because she's forced to waste her time and gas to find orders (I know orders are limited, but InstaCart requires you to sign up for a certain time in advance so they don't have too many people, so there are obviously better ways to handle the situation)\n\nNow, I desperately want to send the following email. WIBTA?\n\n​\n\n\"Whoever reads this, if anyone does, my anger is not directed at you, it\u2019s directed at the institution. I know these complaints will go nowhere but I\u2019m getting fed up and would like to at least pretend that I can make my voice heard. I apologize for any cruelty that may come across in the following message:\n\n   \n I bought a pizza. I was not given a pizza. I bought a dessert that came with ice cream. I did not receive ice cream. I don\u2019t understand why that\u2019s not enough information. I really liked your service when I first discovered it a couple years ago. Now, it seems as though the service quality has totally dropped, you pay your dashers slave wages without even compensation for gas, you even seem to take their tips from what I\u2019ve heard from my friends who are drivers, and you increase the prices of dishes to get more money, while still taking advantage of the dashers who actually do the work and provide the service. I\u2019ve recommended the service over competitors and used it despite obscenely high delivery fees but you can be assured that won\u2019t be happening any longer. I am extremely disappointed in your management. If you could send this to anyone who might actually care and be able to do something to rectify this repugnant behavior, I would appreciate it.  \n \n\nSincerely,\n\nA dissatisfied customer\"", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "s4vbczcSVcCItqZ6XIeSNCArlUtsZeLo", "post_id": "anbctu", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my son's stepmom's punishment for him bullying a student", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 25}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my son's stepmom's punishment for him bullying a student", "text": "So this happened last week.\nMy 13 year old son lives with his dad who has primary custody and I get him every other weekend. His dad has remarried and has been with his wife for 5 years. I found out my son has been bullying a special needs kid at school with a speech impediment. He got in school suspension for 3 days and when he came home from school, his stepmother spanked him. It was with her hand and there's no bruising but he told me it hurt a lot and I'm fucking pissed. She also made him write an apology letter to the student and grounded him for 2 weeks with no electronics. His father works long hours so his stepmom feels entitled because she's a stay at home wife and she's with him more but it's not okay.\nI'm very upset at what my son did and he absolutely deserved to be punished but this woman had no right to touch my kid. His father supports what she did and gave her permission and I'm ready to raise hell. I need her to learn her place as a stepparent NOT a parent.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 21, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 25}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "VSgwriHjXO515WtCeRGeFqkNqAbNlgZC", "post_id": "b2bux2", "action": {"description": "flipping on my roommate about the cat box", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for flipping on my roommate about the cat box?", "text": "I'm pretty mad right now, and of course I wouldn't \"flip\" but I'm really tired of being nice about this. \n\nThe cat box has become an issue between us. We live in a small apartment and it's in a closet off of our living room, so the smell can creep into our living room when not taken care of.  She cleans it once every four days (scoops just the clumps and never replacing the litter entirely or scrubbing the box at all) and honestly our apartment just smells like cat litter and poop. I've had to become complacent because every time I explain to her nicely that I pay the rent just like her and would appreciate if she cleaned it every 1-2 days instead, especially since he's a big cat and lays huge turds. Every time I asked her, she would get kind of defensive and would tell me that I jump all over her every time she makes a mistake, and that she's only human. I get that she is only human, but this happens a lot.\n\nI just got back from a week of spring break. She left the day after me, and is coming home in about two hours. I come inside and it REEKS. I check the cat box room, and lo and behold, it's full of shit. She let shit fester in our house for a week. Took the cat with her, but left the litter.\n\nI don't know how to approach her about this. If anything, I am moving out in May. But I am just so, so livid. Especially after talking to her multiple times and it being known that the cat box is a source of serious contention between us. \n\n\nWIBTA if I said something, expressing how angry I am about this? Or do I have to say it calmly, again, that her cat box cleaning habits are fucking disgusting? Or not say anything because I am moving soon?\n\nP.S. Love the cat tho. He's a good boy. \n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bugkCj5C8BfeUXUVVjwBCzZSNjTgduUV", "post_id": "a7dpk1", "action": {"description": "telling my mom to unfriend me", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my mom to unfriend me", "text": "So my whole life my mom has had this old time concept of being a lady and classy.\"don't say that in mixed company\" and hits me or what have you. I dealt with it as a minor cuz she's my mom blah blah but I am 23 and I can't even post a obviously joking photo with it mildly hinting to sex like dude and his wife were next to each other on the beach and the way they were sitting looked like some sex stuff was going on but it wasn't and my mom for like the third time in two weeks comments about how i need to be a lady and classy and she's going to hit me next time she sees me cuz of it so I posted a pic on my page basically saying it's my profile it is rated R not for for minors or adults with large sticks up there ass and she literally told me to kiss her ass via my older brother who agrees with me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QfS1kwCCVfw3QSOC2Xx5JPAeqFsDsWhp", "post_id": "ae8fey", "action": {"description": "saying no to my nephew", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for saying no to my nephew?", "text": "My nephew asked me when he can play with my computer and I looked him in the eye and said (not shouted) \u201cNever\u201d. My mom who was sitting next to him asked me why I replied like that (implying it was an asshole thing to do) and I explained to her (and also for my nephew to know) that he had asked me a few minutes ago and I told him I\u2019d let him know when he could play (my computer is updating, takes a while) and I\u2019m not going to let him ask me every 5 minutes just because his mom lets him do that to her. \n\nI did say \u201che\u2019s got to learn, so I\u2019m not going to put up with that. I told him I\u2019d let him know, but now I decided I\u2019m not going to let him play on my computer, so if he asks me again the answer will continue to be Never\u201d which I think sounds a bit asshole-ish but he\u2019s 9 years old and his mother made the big mistake to make him think he can argue with adults over everything so whenever he wants something or doesn\u2019t want to do something he thinks he can argue to get his way, and when it comes to his mom he pretty much always succeeds, which I find frustrating not only because it makes the child increasingly annoying but because I know that he will suffer a lot more in the long run when his little tantrums don\u2019t get him what he wants in the real world. \n\nAlso, I can\u2019t explain any of this to him cause he\u2019s friggin 9, that\u2019s self-explanatory, and his mom because she has a very fragile ego and she takes any parenting tips as a direct criticism of her abilities and immediately shuts down any conversation about the topic by talking louder and louder until it becomes a shouting match (she is also very immature so when she \u201cargues\u201d with her son she goes down to his level and says the most cringeworthy things you can\u2019t believe it\u2019s an actual adult speaking)...\n\nAnyway, so AITA for trying to educate my nephew through some \u201ctough love\u201d? (Or in other words, AITA for denying him something he wants because he whines to get his way and I repeatedly told him that it doesn\u2019t work like that with me?)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LpUrCYxff17pMdpl80SYDfHaUfReBKaE", "post_id": "b2oii7", "action": {"description": "wanting to break up with my bf because he likes Sea World", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for wanting to break up with my bf because he likes Sea World?", "text": "Important to note that I\u2019m a huge animal lover. I\u2019ve rescued a handful of stray dogs and two stray cats from the streets, however I am not a vegan or vegetarian.\n\nI\u2019ve been dating this guy for close to six months now. Everything\u2019s been going really well except he recently surprised me with tickets to Sea World. Although I appreciated the gesture, I explained that I don\u2019t think I would want to visit a place that is so cruel to its animals and was surprised he didn\u2019t know the living conditions of the animals there. He got defensive and said that Sea World rescues animals from the ocean and that it\u2019s hypocritical of me to say all this when I eat meat (he\u2019s sort of a pescatarian\u2014only eats sushi a couple times a year). He said he had already spent the money and the ticket isn\u2019t refundable, so either way, Sea World has already benefited from the money whether we like it or not and we might as well go if that\u2019s the case (he said we won\u2019t have to eat any of the food there and won\u2019t buy any souvenirs\u2014essentially we won\u2019t be giving them any more money than he\u2019s already spent).\n\nStill, I don\u2019t feel right going to Sea World because I don\u2019t support the establishment. I understand that the money has been spent and it\u2019ll go to waste if we don\u2019t go, but I told him I just didn\u2019t want to go. He doesn\u2019t seem to understand this and keeps saying that Sea World isn\u2019t all that bad and that they help animals too. I\u2019m frustrated that he doesn\u2019t see the cruelty behind their actions and because I love animals, I\u2019m really considering breaking up over this. I can\u2019t tell if I\u2019m overreacting or not but all I know is I\u2019ve always wanted an SO who, at the very least, cares about animals.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rG21FusWnzCcavAbWqZ4QaPulAyOj202", "post_id": "ayzogs", "action": {"description": "distancing myself from my friend with depression/drug issues", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for distancing myself from my friend with depression/drug issues?", "text": "The tile probably does make me sound like the a**hole, but let me just explain it all. \n\n          My friend (14F), I\u2019ll call her Ashley, went through a state of depression during the end of the last school year. I (14F) was very close with her up through that but then when I started 8th grade I realized that I actually didn\u2019t like being around her. The bad things hadn\u2019t started yet though. \n\n       A couple months ago Ashley came over to my house and told me that she had started doing drugs. Not cocaine or anything, but weed and experimental things like cough syrup. Also, weed is legal where I live, but certainly not for minors. It\u2019s not for medicinal purposes or anything, either, she just does it for fun. And okay, yes, if I\u2019m being honest, I don\u2019t know that much about drugs and how safe they are, but I just don\u2019t want to associate myself with anything that could end up hurting me or my future. \n\n        So I didn\u2019t do weed with her when she invited me and now I\u2019m beginning to subtly push her away. At least I thought it was subtle. Ashley  said before that she didn\u2019t expect me to pick up the phone when she called. I think she knows I\u2019m pushing her away. She was already very clingy and used to call me every day to ask to hang out, so she still called a lot, just without an answer. \n\nI\u2019m worried that if I directly tell her that I don\u2019t want to be her friend that she would go back into a state of depression, because she got close to hurting herself last time. She missed about a month of school because of it. I\u2019ve begun going to therapy too because all she is is a negative energy in my life. \n\n\nTo sum it up: I feel awful about trying to leave my friend who went through intense depression  recently but she started experimenting with drugs and I don\u2019t want to put me or my future at risk. She\u2019s also manipulative naturally and I still wouldn\u2019t want to be her friend even without the drugs. AITA??", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OzqppqonAfZz1wAh3UnS0YwSyOS0FQyS", "post_id": "au0681", "action": {"description": "telling the truth about my friend and getting her thrown out of the bridal party", "pronormative_score": 20, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I tell the truth about my friend and may get her thrown out of the bridal party", "text": "Throwaway for obvious reasons\n\nOkay so I'll give some necessary background information, I'll put an TL;DR at the bottom.\n\nOne of my friends is really rich, and the first of us to get married. We'll call her Mia from now on. In our friend group we have 'karen', now Karen has always been a bit defensive and hostile towards Mia. Not enough to have Mia notice this but enough for me to notice.\n\nMia never made a big deal about being rich, whenever we planned a girls night we would have dinner as places all of us could afford, but she would always cover us if needed. Her gifts for us were always personal, and it took Karen at least a year being in our friend group to discover Mia is rich.\n\nNow upon hearing about Mia's engagement it came to no ones surprise that we would be her bridesmaids. Now I have to say I've known Mia the since high-school so I know that she has been low-key planning her wedding for years. So Mia is going all out, it will be a themed destination wedding. Now before anyone says anything about it being a destination wedding she will pay for anyone's travel expenses, she will also pay for all our custom made dresses.\n\nNow here is the issue were I could the potential a-hole. Karen is one of the bridesmaids and I've heard through some other friends, that aren't invited to the ceremony, they are for the reception that takes place at a later date in our country so more people are able to attend. That Karen is badmouthing Mia to a lot of other friends, saying how she is unreasonable, spoiled and a b-word for wanting her dream wedding apparently. Now Mia has no idea yet, and might throw Karen out of the bridal party if she knows, Mia may be sweet but has a low tolerance for people who are nasty behind her back.\n\nNow of course I don't want Karen to act like this to Mia, I'm not even sure why she is in our close friend group. Although I am not sure if it is my place to tell Mia about this.\n\nSo WIBTA if I tell Mia about Karen's behaviour and might get her kicked out of the bridal party.\n\nTL;DR my friend is getting married and generous enough to pay for everything, another bridesmaid is being nasty behind her back and now I want to reveal the truth about her and might get her kicked out of the bridal party. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 20, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 20, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EiH1HHIYIxrYHcSMLydwizOSBQn6qKHf", "post_id": "acneg4", "action": {"description": "not giving my mom my phone", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not giving my Mom my phone?", "text": "Bit of a backstory, a few months ago during the summer I moved in with my Dad, since my Mom was moving across country with my siblings. I didn\u2019t want to move because I am currently doing my GCSEs in school and moving would\u2019ve meant moving schools and restarting my ongoing coursework for my exams.\n\nFor Christmas 2017 (when I was living with my Mom) my Mom bought me a new Phone as my main present with some clothes and chocolate. It was all nice and I was very thankful, and showed my appreciation by helping with preparing the Christmas food and helping clean up. It was a great Christmas altogether.\n\nWhen I moved into to my Dad\u2019s house 6months later my Mom didn\u2019t say anything about returning the phone to her, since she did pay for it. But this Christmas, my dad bought me the newest iPhone. When I went up to my Mom\u2019s house to spend Christmas with her side of the family, my Mom asked if my Dad bought me the phone, I said yes. My Mom got weird and said something under her breath to my Aunt and I got a bit pissed and asked \u2018what was that?\u2019, since she\u2019s always badmouthing my Dad to my other siblings. She replied in an offended tone, \u2018Glad to see where his priorities lie\u2019. I asked her what she meant by this. And she went off saying about how he never buys by siblings stuff (which was a lie, he bought my siblings a lot of clothes and toys) and buys be a brand new \u00a31000 iPhone. \n\nI told her I needed a new one since my old one was running very slow. So she asked if she can have it back. I said \u2018Why? You bought it for me for Christmas.\u2019 And she said that it\u2019s hers since she bought it for me, regardless of whether she gave it to me as a present, I need to give it back to her.\n\nSo I refused since it was a Christmas present for me, I shouldn\u2019t have to return it just because my dad bought me one.\n\nDoes this make me the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Mf9RKEmnGZ59N8vJPag6r3BuI1HkrdCb", "post_id": "b97d2d", "action": {"description": "uninviting my friend to a party after she did the same", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 20}, "title": "AITA for uninviting my friend to a party after she did the same.", "text": "My friend invited me to a party with some of her random friends. I was looking forward to going to this party. So I obviously made plans around that day, however she then texts me the day before saying,\u201dSowwy u wanted me to be straight up with u so I don\u2019t want to bring u to that thing on Saturday.\u201d Initially I was cool with it, but then i was a little offended because I already thought I was going. When I asked for a reason y (and I wasn\u2019t rude about it) she said \u201cno\u201d followed by \u201csorry lol.\u201d Well, I talked to her the day after the party and told her how I felt about it. She never acted like this before so you could understand my surprise. Well I decided to get back at her so she could understand how I felt.\nI had my birthday coming up and I wanted to celebrate by inviting some friends. I told her a week in advance, however the day before I told her I didn\u2019t want her to go. \nNow she\u2019s calling me an asshole. My other friends say otherwise. AITA", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 19, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 20}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "UHqtPuyP3ppxfCSgexvllUD9o0KiqAMh", "post_id": "ake8sz", "action": {"description": "expecting equality in my marriage", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for expecting equality in my marriage???", "text": "Need some insight here. My wife has a very \u201cold school\u201d or traditional way of viewing how a marriage/relationship works. It all started when we met about 9 years ago. She would expect me to pay on our dates etc. (This is normal, I get courtship, and continued doing this for some time) until things got more serious. 2 years or so into our relationship we began splitting tabs when going out etc. we made roughly the same income and were students at the time... little did I know that she resented me for this.. she hated splitting the tab and bills after we moved into together. She always believed the man should be the breadwinner. Despite us both graduating from college and getting good jobs, I still feel the tension is there. We now combine all of our finances. I make roughly double her income now... but I know that if I made less than her, we would probably argue a lot more. Her mindset is even applied outside of finances. She simply believes that the man should take the burden of everything. She believes her gender allows her a free pass to bend the rules. We fight about this constantly. I feel that she has a double standard when it comes to our relationship. She can spend money on things because she needs them, but I\u2019m rarely ever allowed to spend money without her complaining. Funny thing is that when it comes to chores, she wants 50/50 in that area.. seems pretty convenient... She\u2019s like a \u201cselective\u201d traditional gal. Fall back on her gender roles when it\u2019s convenient for her, but become a feminist when it\u2019s not. \n\nI\u2019m at my wits end about this. \n\nSo AITA for believing this?? Counseling is certainly an option, but I don\u2019t know how much it will help. It appears we have fundamental differences in values. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3rq6M4wjsSqs9JEa7xKhWsBuhVUMAZjA", "post_id": "b7e7to", "action": {"description": "refusing to eat Chick-fil-a", "pronormative_score": 124, "contranormative_score": 41}, "title": "AITA for refusing to eat Chick-fil-A", "text": "My in-laws are both semi-religious, moderate conservatives. They are visiting from a small town about an hour an a half from where I live. My MiL has been excited all week because she would be able to eat from Chick-fil-A that is 2 blocks from my house when she came to visit.\n\nThis would not be a big deal except she wanted to treat everyone to lunch. I explained that I am unwilling to eat from there because I do not support the organizations they send large donations to.\n\nShe was taken aback and respectfully asked what those donations were. I explaned about Chick-fil-A support of anti-LGBTQ groups which led me to having to explain what LGBTQ meant. She continued to press and asked me to just ignore my conventions and eat with the family.\n\nAfter they left to get the food my wife told me they thought it was odd I wouldn\u2019t eat there and made minor jokes about my liberal ideologies while I was in the other room.\n\nWhen they came back,I did begrudgingly let my son eat the food the bought but I respectfully refused.\n\nSo am I the asshole for making the lunch that my MiL waited all week for somewhat awkward? Conversely I am an asshole for partially giving in to my convictions and letting my son eat the hate meal?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 38, "OTHER": 81, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 43, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 124, "WRONG": 41}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eltKiipGvE6ZQJjs9vdOsseHJHILusPy", "post_id": "asnyy8", "action": {"description": "refusing to help and to stop talking to my friend", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to help and to stop talking to my friend?", "text": "I'm an university student and I always want to work well and have good grades. Therefore, I ways do all the homework and study a lot.\n\nLast semester, my friends and I had some group project to do and there were 4 (small) papers we had to submit, one per month. The professor gave us a grade for each and it counted for 20% of the yearly grade for this class. I was really motivated to get good grades and so I organised the group work. I told my friends to review all the stuff we had to so we could talk about it the next week and do what we have to do. One of the friends (R) did nothing though, and since he was not informed, he did not participate in the first group project. \n\nIt was the same for the 3 other papers. R did not do anything, all he did was text us to ask if we want to do it or if we already did it. He never took action and did his part as he was supposed to. When I once asked him to do something, he just asked another group for their solutions instead of actually doing it. It would have taken 10-15min! \n\nThe problem for me is that I really hate people who profit off of other people's work. It's not about grades or time spent but it's a matter of principle. Furthermore, R is overall a very negative person who makes derogative comments about people/friends and talks behind their back. Every time I see him, he's also complaining about everything and anything. As I am a very positive and happy person, I don't like this attitude at all.\n\nRecently, R asked me for some help for a homework. I told him no and that he should please just ignore me. AITA for not wanting this person in my life because I do not like his attitude and behaviour? I should add that we were good friends before, but we didn't meet outisde of university a lot.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LCbtAKmjigXMFwG1RmNwfNQQtvsDA4Kd", "post_id": "b707l7", "action": {"description": "not wanting my bf to wear briefs", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 26}, "title": "AITA For not wanting my BF to wear Briefs?", "text": " \n\nI'm 23f, he's 22M and he wears briefs. We've been together for about 8 months he wears Like tightey whiteys but I guess never actually in white. I feel like its just so boyish and not sexy at all seeing him in briefs and asked him a lot to try boxer briefs or boxers. I even bought him pairs of calvin klein boxer briefs because he wears the brief version but he said he didn't like them. Everytime I see him in briefs I just know he'd look way better in boxer briefs because he's really fit and works out a lot. He said he likes briefs because he gets the most support from them (his balls are pretty big I guess). Also he's been having slight pain in his nuts and he said his doc said to wear briefs. AITA for trying to get him to change?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 26, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 26}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "3Oob2Pn52rOeSMsZfZYLOizkpARYrAVe", "post_id": "a7rcak", "action": {"description": "hard ghosting my (twice) ex out of what probably seemed like nowhere", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for hard ghosting my (twice) ex out of what probably seemed like nowhere?", "text": "This is gonna be a long one - TL;DR at the bottom but I\u2019d appreciate it if you stuck around for the whole story because this has been bothering me for months.\n\nBackground information: I\u2019m (M18) transgender, but my ex (M19) knew me before I came out. I\u2019m going to call him Jeff for this post. We met in middle school and ended up going to the same high school too, but we had an extremely rocky friendship (even longer story so I\u2019m skipping it) until the end of my sophomore year when he convinced me to join a club at our school. We started hanging out a lot during my junior year, and I developed a crush on both him and my now-girlfriend about that October. I had come out to him two weeks previous and he was chill about it, but I knew he was straight so I figured if I asked him out, he\u2019d just reject me and I could move on with my life since that avenue was entirely closed and ask out my current girlfriend instead.\n\nTo my surprise, he said yes anyway. The way he said yes should have been my first red flag. He said, \u201cWell, you\u2019re a dude, so I won\u2019t date you, but we can be friends with benefits.\u201d Now, I was stupid and felt validated and was shocked so I said sure and we made out in his car. When he took me home after that, I felt weird, like I wasn\u2019t really myself? It\u2019s hard to describe, but I found myself staring at my reflection in the mirror and feeling off for a while that night. I brushed it off at the time, but it\u2019ll come back up later.\n\nOver the next two weeks, he slowly warmed up to the idea of us dating. These are the next red flags. He asked me if he could call me his girlfriend, which I was so...weirded out that I was left speechless. We also did a lot of semi-public making out and third base which made me sort of uncomfortable but I wanted the relationship (one that I felt I barely could even have in the first place considering the circumstances) to work so I didn\u2019t say anything and just went along with it when he\u2019d ask to make out for an hour in his car or for me to give him a handjob.\n\nEventually my own anxiety caught up with me and I impulsively broke it off that December. He seemed crushed, as he was finally developing romantic feelings for me, but the addition of romantic pressure to what I recognized was mounting discomfort with physical stuff (particularly because the dynamic of the physical stuff made me feel like \u201cthe girl\u201d of the relationship) was too much for me so I nipped it in the bud to save myself.\n\nIf only I had listened to my gut and my raging dysphoria.\n\nHe ended up dating a girl pretty soon after and I started dating my current girlfriend for the first time (our first relationship was pretty dry because we were both pretty awkward so we broke it off after a few months, but we\u2019re extremely happy and almost at 6 months going strong this time around!). However, after we had both broken up with/been broken up with our SOs, he asked me if I wanted to try a relationship again in June. We had been best friends the whole time we were broken up, so it wasn\u2019t hard for feelings to be rekindled there and I agreed.\n\nThis time he upped the ante sexually and every single time we hung out he\u2019d ask for some sort of sexual act, usually a blowjob but sometimes more. He\u2019d also ask me if he could do things to me that made me extremely dysphoric (touching certain parts of my body for extended periods of time and using certain language) and I\u2019d tell him no repeatedly but he\u2019d still ask almost every time we hung out. Our relationship continued into my senior year, which worked because he was in college but living at home. We only saw one another on weekends, time that became unspoken \u201chis time\u201d with me.\n\nI barely hung out with my friends outside of school functions that year because all of my weekends were taken up with Jeff. He didn\u2019t have any friends at college (this probably will come off as biased but everyone I\u2019ve known from high school agrees that he has a weird superiority-inferiority complex that leads him to not give people the time of day if they\u2019re not \u201csmart enough\u201d for him) and his high school friends largely went elsewhere except for two of them.\n\nMost of our time in person and over text was taken up with him talking about his interests and his financial problems with me just having to go along with the conversation and him asking for sexual favors (either sexting, which I was uncomfortable with, or actual sex, which I increasingly turned down out of the crippling anxiety/dysphoria it gave me and actual physical pain it caused me in some circumstances). Because I was in senior year, more and more of my time was taken up with college applications and big projects, so I started saying no to more and more invitations to hang out.\n\nI will admit that that\u2019s not always the only reason I said no, as he was becoming clingy and demanding to the point where just thinking about the weekend made me uncomfortable. I tried my best to communicate my discomfort to him, to the point where I broke down crying on his bed trying to explain my discomfort when he kept asking me for a blowjob when we were watching a movie. After I finished crying, he asked me again and coerced me into putting his dick in my mouth, after which I broke down crying again and asked if he could drive me home. He did, and that was the last time we hung out, as after that I would both deflect for OBVIOUS REASONS! and also because AP exams were approaching and I needed to study.\n\nThe night before one of my exams, he texted me asking if I could come over. I said no, I was studying and had an exam the next day, but he then launched into a long message about how I was avoiding him and \u201che never had this much work in senior year and he had taken much harder classes than I did\u201d (which may be true on some level as he was taking engineering classes, but I was still taking 4 AP classes, a dual enrollment math class, and an intensive film seminar where I had to make my own short film that was due in a few weeks, so the comparison wasn\u2019t fair in my opinion). He threw out a few different arguments all with the intent to keep me from studying for an exam (including but not\nlimited to making fun of the college I committed to when it\u2019s literally the same college he goes to!) I paid $93 dollars for just so I could give him a blowjob and cuddle him for two hours maximum. I had had enough at that point and told him as such and ended the conversation.\n\nWe didn\u2019t talk much from there and two weeks later he broke up with me, citing how distant I was for the previous few months. As he was breaking up with me, he asked if we could \u201cstill cuddle sometimes\u201d to which I said yes, mostly because I didn\u2019t want to burn the bridge at that point, didn\u2019t want him to be upset with me (as he had fallen into a depression in the past over ended relationships), and was riding the relief high of no longer being trapped in the relationship.\n\nFor clarity, I didn\u2019t break up with him myself because I was too scared of disappointing him or at worst sending him spiraling into depression. He was still my best friend, and I cared about him, but I know my choice to sour our romantic relationship without talking to him properly was a very very bad one. I apologized to him for it the day we broke up and he seemed to understand and forgave me.\n\nWe broke up a week before prom, so I ended up going with a group of friends (he didn\u2019t even want to go to prom so this was the plan anyway). It was a great night that I still remember well, except for what happened afterwards. My best friend who we\u2019ll call Nina planned on having a get-together afterwards. We usually had holiday parties or afterparties at her house so this was normal, with the only difference being the very small number of people coming to her house this time around (only like 7, two of whom left before the sleepover portion and one of whom being her boyfriend who was on break from college). Jeff asked her a few days before prom if she was having a party, to which she said yes. No other words were exchanged - he didn\u2019t ask what kind of party, how many people, times, and not if he was invited.\n\nAt midnight, we hear the doorbell ring. I\u2019m upstairs in the spare bedroom (which is on the third floor, for reference) with my current-girlfriend and her then-best friend while Nina, her boyfriend, and our other friend are in the kitchen downstairs. I don\u2019t hear who it is or know what\u2019s going on until a few minutes later. Jeff and his friend are standing in the doorway of the spare bedroom. Nina is standing behind him looking EXTREMELY uncomfortable as he just stands there, smiling awkwardly and not saying anything.\n\nMy CGF asks him what he\u2019s doing here, to which he responds that they were coming back from a metal show and decided to stop by since they were in the area. Keep in mind this is a private party, it was literally the middle of the night, Nina\u2019s parents and sister were sleeping on the second floor, and he had shown up unannounced and with an additional person most of us weren\u2019t really friends with. And he thought this was okay.\n\nHe doesn\u2019t leave until every single person there expresses to him that they\u2019re not going to speak with him until he leaves (apparently he had specifically asked Nina where I was so he could come talk to me, which he should have realized was weird because we hadn\u2019t spoken sense the breakup). When asked about it repeatedly after the fact by me and other people, he refuses to see that he did anything weird, wrong, or otherwise.\n\nAfter that, talking was a bit awkward so I asked him if we could take a bit of a break from our friendship too, as I knew he wasn\u2019t totally over me and I wasn\u2019t totally over my own discomfort being around him (multiplied by that weird encounter after prom).\n\nThe longer we didn\u2019t have contact, though, the more I realized that - not to be dramatic - I m", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sqOEW5FBMmPOxxc04ke2mrLY4CpfJ4in", "post_id": "b49y8k", "action": {"description": "continuing to sleep with a fwb despite her admitting that she has feelings for me even though I told her that I wasn't interested in a relationship and offered to stop", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for continuing to sleep with a fwb despite her admitting that she has feelings for me even though I told her that I wasn't interested in a relationship and offered to stop?", "text": "So I've been sleeping with this girl off and on for the last 6 months. We have friends since middle school (we're in college now) and we often hang out and not have sex like going to the movies or getting dinner and stuff.\n\nAnyway lately she says she has been catching feels as it's called. I told her that I still am not looking for a relationship and I offered to stop the sex if that would make things easier for her. She was against that saying she will get over it. \n\nOver the last 2 weeks we have continued to have sex. She seems fine but some of her friends give me dirty looks. I've tried to be accommodating to her but people seem to be mad at me. Am I being an asshole?\n\nTl;dr: AITA for continuing to sleep with a fwb despite her admitting that she has feelings for me even though I told her that I wasn't interested in a relationship and offered to stop?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6z5HSs0HXaU0XJApvNptVmTYN8ehkeXd", "post_id": "az1uqq", "action": {"description": "shit talking over dm privately", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for shit talking over dm privately", "text": "i was talking shit about people over dm, one on one. a few girls got my password and decided to post my private conversations on their public accounts. the things i said was very messed but not for people to see besides the people i was texting. AITA for talking shit in the first place.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "3YoruRRyMjEjVJu9XYdIawMKmmfvDAjg", "post_id": "9vb3lr", "action": {"description": "telling a girl I wasn't interested in a relationship", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA - telling a girl I wasn't interested in a relationship", "text": "So this happened a couple of night ago. I met up a girl from tinder 2 weeks ago, went out on a nice date a few drinks etc nothing crazy left on good terms and agreed to meet again.\n\nLast weekend we meet up and do the same, a few drinks have a good time get to know each other. Towards the end of the night I suggest we go back to hers. She agrees and we grab a drink for the road. While at hers we get intimacy but she doesn't want to have sex, admitally I'm a little thrown off by this but we chat about it and it's fine, there are other alternatives. \n\nAnyway so here's my slip up, I run to the bathroom and when I come back I tell her I'm not looking to get involved in a relationship, I thought she felt the same way but wanted to make sure. I was wrong apparently and we had a chat about what she did want, she decided she wanted someone commited to her 100%..\n\nI understand my timing was probably the worst it could have been but I wanted to do right by her and not lead her on - I'd rather make it clear earlier than wait until feelings might have time to develop..\nWe talk a bit more and decide it's best if I go home - I get a cab home.. \n\nA few days later I message to apologise and for upsetting her. She says she's not upset just thrown off and feel like I'd thrown her efforts & advances back in her face.. She's since deleted me off all social media etc.\n\nI know the ship has sailed, clearly we're not meant to be and that's fine - I just can't help feeling like a bit of a twat for how it all went down, am I a complete asshole in this situation or just a bit? \n\n\nP.S sorry for the rant", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3vtILixJ1WQxm4DEhF47ISi92TzdLqEy", "post_id": "aqfzm1", "action": {"description": "using my roommate's command hook to hang up my towel in the bathroom", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for using my roommate's command hook to hang up my towel in the bathroom?", "text": "Throwaway because my roommate knows my Reddit account.\n\nI live in a shared house with five other roommates off-campus at my university. I lived with one of these roommates last year and we got along well, but the other four are completely new.\n\nLast year, I lived in this house and we had a command hook in the bathroom that I would use to hang up my towel when I showered. While I was out of the country last summer, one my roommates (J) basically redecorated and refurbished the place. When I got back, the command hook was still there, so I hung my towel up there for the shower. Throughout the entirety of the fall semester, no one complained about this whatsoever. I assumed it was the same command hook that was there from last year, but in reality, J bought a new one and hung it up.\n\nAt the beginning of this month, I came home drunk from a bar and for some reason, J decided that 1:00am on a Saturday would be the best time to tell me that I could no longer use this command hook because he bought it and would like to use it to hang up his clothes while he showered. Drunk aitathrowaway1321 slurred \"yeah okay, whatever\" and went to bed. \n\nThe next morning, having absolutely zero memory of this conversation, I showered and then went to the gym to sweat out the hangover. After coming back, I jumped in the shower and noticed that my towel was missing! There was a little blue sticky note next to the hook that said \"missing something? Follow the sticky notes!\" I followed the sticky notes downstairs naked (because no towel) and was greeted with my towel hanging downstairs next to a sticky note that said \"bet you must've missed me after you came back from the gym! Next time, buy your own fucking command hook!\"\n\nI hung the towel on the bannister outside the bathroom to avoid a fight, but I chewed my roommate out for being passive aggressive and not talking to me beforehand. We still sometimes have arguments over this when I forgetfully hang the towel on this command hook, which he really only uses to hang his clothes on while he showers. I feel like his passive aggressive response and him getting angry at me is way overblown for this kind of situation; furthermore, it's kind of unreasonable for him to expect me to change my routine which bothered no one for five whole months! Furthermore, command hooks are literally like $2, so I feel like the response is disproportionate to the overall crime. This situation has also caused my other housemates to gang up on me too, so needless to say, I'm not too happy about it.\n\nAm I being an asshole for thinking that my roommate is being unreasonable? I'm trying to avoid a fight, but it's kinda hard to when all of my roommates are now ganging up on me about this. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "TejQOxzDbyjRRw4rkOpSX2fFBpHUWl4W", "post_id": "a7aniw", "action": {"description": "yelling at an old person", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA For yelling at an old person", "text": "Basically i cycle to school everyday its not a long cyle only a mile and a half but the cycle path stops about a mile in which means i need to go along the road for a bit,this road is really bussy amd so its very dangerous to cycle on, its the 2cnd bussiest road in our city in the morning going to school its fine as most people take the bus but on the way back the pavements have alot of people.\n\nOne day i was preparing to leave  when some students attempted to put sticks in my wheels which if they put them in the right place can seriously damage my bike. I reported them but they ran of school grounds. A bit on my bike slipped on black ice and nearly crashed into someone who promptly screamed at my for nearly hitting her.\n\nFinally a bunch of old people were moving very slowly along the pavement so i rang my bell nothing, rang again nothing this continued 5 more times i thought they were death when one turned round and shouted \"STOP RINGING THAT FUCKING BELL!\" I was not expecting that and so i said \"Could you please move im in a hurry ( I was not).\" They said i either get on the road or i could sit behind them all the way to my destination i was really fed up at thos point BTW i was facing the oncoming traffic so i couldn't possibly get on the road i told them this and they just yelled \"well thats your bloody problem isnt it!\" At this point I was completely sick of them and threatened to run them over and that did the trick. \n\nSo AITA Im kind of thinking im not the a-hole but threatening to run them over is a bit harsh.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "jLw5Ajno6WEdDD1wC9jjzlfwn11gb27p", "post_id": "9zmvmt", "action": {"description": "thinking my life is harder", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for thinking my life is harder?", "text": "Okay so I (M22) am in the hospital and my wife (F21) has visited for many hours each day. On 11/18 I had a bowel perforation. This led to a surgery that removed 25cm of my bowels and I now have an ostemy bag for 3 months. While staying here in the hospital we have had many of her friends visit, and stay for many hours. She's received a ton of love, and her mom and sister drove 12 hours to be with her while I'm in the hospital. Dude that's awesome.\n\nSo I was getting better here until Thanksgiving when I threw up twice within 2 hours, and my diet was shot down from soft food to liquids. I had horrible acid reflux, my head was pounding, and my chest was on fire. We are laying in the hospital bed together when she goes to bite my shoulder. I pull away because a playful bite doesn't sound enjoyable right now. \n\nShe says \"you don't let me do that anymore\". I say \"well I don't really want it right now considering I've thrown up twice now\". She says \"you say that like this is so much harder for you than it is for me\". I don't respond other than apologize for being short with her. \n\nBut you know what. No. It is harder for me. Your life as a whole might feel hard, but two people you deeply love and say you miss came to spend thanksgiving with you! I am the one a few days out of surgery and am now having complications. Your situation in this is tough sure, but I would argue this is harder for me. You had a thanksgiving meal, and I ate nothing. You set foot outside the hospital with your family. I laid in bed all day and walked as the doctor would allow. You know what, my life in this situation is harder. I get this one", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "b6RmTAaxpLHtjujf7LfTsVA2wrOYXPR0", "post_id": "azilye", "action": null, "title": "AITA Disgruntled Domestic College Student", "text": "Now, I just want to know if my feelings are valid. And, if I am the asshole, I'd also like to know how to change my outlook on the situation. Help would be much appreciated!\n\nMy parents got divorced when I was fairly young, and I've divided my time between both houses since then. I get along famously with my mom (even though she's a helicopter, I love her dearly). But, my Dad and his family is another story. Since I started highschool (about 7 years ago now) he and his second wife decided to work constantly. They own a small business, and want it to succeed. But, they also do a lot of volunteer work (I'm so proud of them for it!) However, this has left the task of running our household on my siblings and my shoulders.\n\nFor a few years, this was fine. In highschool I was always on top of my work, and didn't mind coming home at \\~5 pm to cook dinner, clean the house, do the dishes, study a bit, and go to bed. Between my three siblings and I, we've kept a fairly well functioning house! However, as I've gotten older the demands have further increased.\n\nI'm in my junior year of college now, and commute to a nice school \\~40 minutes away from my household. After I spend 4 hours in classes, I go to therapy for an hour (to help with anxiety), and then work a part time shift for 3 hours. After that, I make the \\~40 minute commute home by train. It's around 5 at night when I finally get back.\n\nImmediately after arriving home, I have to put away the dishes I did the previous night. Then I do whatever chores need to be done that day. Often times I walk to the nearby grocery store to buy groceries for the week. I come home, cook dinner, and by that point it's 8 at night. I quickly eat, and then go to finish up whatever else needs to be done (laundry, vacuuming, cleaning the bathroom/kitchen, etc). Overall, I finally start on my homework at around 9 pm, and typically go to bed at 1 am... Only to get up early and start the process over again.\n\nI don't have a problem helping out around the house. In fact, I think it makes me more prepared for when I want my own home! But, I've come to resent my Dad and Step-Mom who decided to offload everything onto us. The tipping point for me was Friday, when they asked me to cover the cost of groceries this month. I'm barely making enough to cover my textbooks each semester, so it's a huge ask. I didn't say anything to them about it, just decided to grin and bare it.\n\nThey snap at me whenever something isn't done. Often times the yelling takes longer than it would take to actually do the chore.\n\nI hate that I'm in charge of so much. My days are long, and they're about to get longer (2 of my siblings leave for college in the summer). I get that they pay the bills, but we're a family and I feel like everyone should pitch in. Am I the asshole for being so mad at them?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aSLamXHO2UprXmXO6uZHmSq2JyGlGvxG", "post_id": "akaxci", "action": {"description": "telling my son it's ok to play football while my wife is protesting", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for telling my son it's ok to play football while my wife is protesting?", "text": "My son loves sports, actually he was a kid who seemed to keep to himself. He went through a stage in life when he really wasn't social. He's come out of his shell you can say. He's going to try out for the baseball team but he really wants to play football. I played football, it was some of the best times of my life. Made life long friends and loved playing.\n\nHe's going to be a sophomore in high school next year and wants to try out for the football team. They also train in the summer from what he's telling me at the school. A few of his friends are doing it and were on the team this year. \n\nI said yeah, I of course have no problem with it. My wife is pretty livid though, she's telling me that he isn't going to play and get seriously hurt. I basically told her he's going to play because he wants too, I don't see the big fucking deal. He's growing up, he's tall for his age, his friends are doing it, he loves sports. She told him she is going to refuse to sign whatever waiver they give, and if he goes to the practice she will show up and bring him home in front of everyone because she isn't joking. I did NOT expect her to be this livid about it. Of course it's me she's pissed at the most. Telling me I'm encouraging him while she is upset over this. It's going to be hard to convince me that he should not play. \n\nTo be fair, the game is safer right now than it's ever been, especially more than when I played. I told him he can play, she's basically saying no and that she WILL stop him and won't sign the waivers (even though you only need 1 signature I believe). I really don't plan on changing my mind about him playing. It's what he WANTS to do.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oxdNbvVAMUcLjVpUTtxH95CznPjpDbdO", "post_id": "a5rm5u", "action": {"description": "telling my three best friends that they completely suck as friends, and being super mad at them for abandoning me after my cancer diagnosis", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my three best friends that they completely suck as friends, and being super mad at them for abandoning me after my cancer diagnosis?", "text": "Throwaway because I\u2019m honestly a little ashamed to be telling this story/asking this question. It\u2019s long, I\u2019m sorry. I\u2019m trying to be thorough. \n\nA little backstory: shit\u2019s been rough lately. I used to be very outgoing, very spunky, had many friends. I ran a small local business and was very involved in the community. I\u2019ve never had many problems with friends before, at least not on my end (that anyone has told me about at least). I made friends relatively easily\u2014though I was still picky and cautious about who I let get super close to me\u2014and have never been the kind of girl who\u2019s a gossip or has big falling outs with friends or lots of drama. For the most part, my friendships (definitely the close ones) last a long time...like years, decades long. \n\nBut almost three years ago I was in an accident and it fucked everything up. I broke my spine and got a brain injury. I\u2019ve already had one surgery and we\u2019re waiting on number two. I had to move back in with my parents and temporarily close my business. I cannot do a lot of basic things for myself...including bathing. It\u2019s been extremely hard on me, not just physically, but also mentally. To add to the craziness, I was recently diagnosed with cancer, and then almost immediately after, sexually assaulted by my ex-boyfriend. It\u2019s been a ride, y\u2019all. \n\nBut over the last few months I\u2019ve lost **everyone,** and I don\u2019t know why. \n\nThree of my very best and closest girlfriends have straight up ghosted me. These girls helped me through my first surgery two years ago no problem. These were the girls who were my cheerleaders and helpers for my business, who threw me surprise birthday parties and called me when shit was going down in their lives. I thought we were ride or die. But when I asked girlfriend 1 (we\u2019ll call her Micha) if she still had pictures of her wedding cake that I made for her a few years back, her answer was oddly distant and cold. When I tried to reply, I was blocked. No hints, no conversation, just blocked. \n\nI asked girlfriend 2 (let\u2019s call her Kelly) about it to see if she knew what was wrong, and she brushed it off. \u201cI think Micha was scared because you mentioned committing suicide (over a year ago).\u201d This didn\u2019t make any sense. Micha was the girlfriend I\u2019d had the longest of the three, and she saw me through a horrible breakup in college where depression and suicide was mentioned. I did the same for her about a year later. That had never been a spooky topic before. And besides, that comment had happened over a year ago. I figured she just must need space and dropped it. \n\nThen maybe a month later, Kelly says life is too busy to continue talking to me, and she wants a break. She sends that message to me and at least one other mutual friend. I didn\u2019t take it personally at the time because she was pulling away from everyone, not just me. I was concerned for her, but I wanted to respect her wishes so I told her that I loved her and whenever she was ready to chat and hangout again I would be here. \n\nBuuuut a month-ish after that is when my doctor first said \u201cyou might have cancer, I\u2019m sending you to an oncologist.\u201d I was freaked the fuck out. I felt so alone and scared and I didn\u2019t want to tell my parents because it wasn\u2019t a definite yet and I didn\u2019t want to worry them. I needed my best friend so badly. So I called Kelly. She didn\u2019t answer (which I expected), so I left her a tearful voicemail apologizing for calling and saying that I wasn\u2019t trying to be disrespectful and invade her space, but the doc says I might have cancer and I was very scared. I just wanted a hug, honestly. She never returned my call. \n\nGirlfriend 3 (Nancy) moved to another state about a year ago, but we still stayed very close. Sending big birthday packages, long chats, lots of pictures back and forth and keeping each other very involved. She was supposed to be coming home soon and promised to visit, as my place is right down the road from her parents. But suddenly she stopped messaging too, around the same time as Kelly. I finally sent her a text that just said \u201cNancy, I have something important to tell you.\u201d after the diagnosis was confirmed. She said \u201cSo do I. You go first.\u201d I asked her if she could FaceTime, but she said she was still at work, so I said that was fine we can chat when she gets off or tomorrow, whatever works best for her. I never heard back. \n\nI sent all three girls a \u201cwtf is going on\u201d message one tearful night not too long ago. It was long, and probably overwhelming (in fact I sent an apology for the length the next day) but honestly, for a \u201cbest friend\u201d it shouldn\u2019t have been some crazy message. I told each of them my diagnosis and that I\u2019m truly at the lowest of the low right now. I feel like I\u2019m trapped in this shell of my body and there\u2019s nothing I can do. I begged them to please tell me what I did wrong to make them ghost so I can fix it. I pleaded with each of them not to leave. But I also told them that they really hurt me, and I felt like I have been abandoned by those that I trusted the most during my deepest tome of need. I sent this individually over Facebook messenger because I naively thought that maybe I wasn\u2019t getting replies because their phones were dead or something. I have been left on read for all three of them, and Micha deleted me as a friend immediately after reading my message. \n\nI don\u2019t know what to do guys. All I can think of is that saying \u201cif you keep smelling dog shit everywhere you go, maybe you should check your shoes.\u201d Please tell me, AMITA? I\u2019m so fucking mad at them. I would never straight up ghost a normal friend, never mind a best friend. *Especially* after they tell me that they have cancer, godfuckingdamn. It feels so shitty and I\u2019m honestly more torn up about it than I am about the cancer.   \nI can provide more details if you want, I just didn\u2019t want to make this longer than it already is. Thank you for reading. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "A3WdZ2ekMTDhXI5sPYrlOWxjrhxiEgjd", "post_id": "ah09e7", "action": {"description": "snapping at my roommate for leaving a bowl in the sink every morning", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for snapping at my roommate for leaving a bowl in the sink every morning?", "text": "Every morning after breakfast my roommate leaves his bowl, spoon, and cup in the sink when the dishwasher is available. Every time I ask him about it (at least 10 times) he put the dishes away. \n\nThis morning I'd had enough so I texted him this:\nMe: I'm tired of you leaving ur fucking bowl in the sink\nMe: I do literally all the housework and I ask you for one simple thing\nHim: Ill be home in 2 hrs dont get ur vagina in a knot\n- End of conversation -\n\nThe thing that gets me is that he always cleans up after himself if I or another roommate is in the kitchen, so I feel like he is clearly deciding not to clean up when nobody is watching.\n\nObviously it only takes me 10 seconds to put his dishes away but it's not about that. It also only takes him ten seconds and it's his mess.\n\nWas I out of line texting him that?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "0NMNkjQtY5LljTBtrmNQBTVDYzZj7gme", "post_id": "att167", "action": {"description": "not wanting to attend my grandmothers funeral", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to attend my grandmothers funeral?", "text": "My grandmother passed away yesterday. I do not have a relationship with her. When my brother, sister and I were young, she always treated us as second class to my uncle\u2019s kids. I think this is because she didn\u2019t like my mother. My grandfather died when I was around 8 and he was a lovely man but he didn\u2019t prevent her behaving the way she did. \n\nMy parents separated when I was 11 and she didn\u2019t bother to stay in contact with me, my brother who was 16 and my sister who was 18. I don\u2019t believe she should take any blame for this lack of contact as we were the kids in the situation and she was the adult. \n\nMy dad basically disappeared from our lives for about 5 years or so as well and I later found she was abusive to him when he was growing up although I\u2019m not sure what form that abuse took. \n\nMy brother\u2019s eldest son was her great grandchild. He is now 15 and she has never met him. My brother has since had another child and my sister has two kids who again she has never met. I am now pregnant with my first child and I know she would not have them this baby either. However she has met and had a relationship with my cousins kids. \n\nI saw her for the first time in years at my Dad\u2019s 60th which I helped to organise, but I didn\u2019t know she would be there. My  Dad\u2019s girlfriend must have invited her. She didn\u2019t acknowledge me or my brother. My sister did not attend as she doesn\u2019t want a relationship with my father. \n\nI have somewhat repaired my relationship with my Dad but I keep it up for his sake mostly. I don\u2019t really get anything out of it. I just feel guilty if I don\u2019t have some sort of relationship with him. \n\nI\u2019m really uncomfortable with the thought of going to the funeral. I barely speak to my cousins and I know they will be fully involved in the funeral. I\u2019m worried they will judge us for coming and blame us for not having a relationship with her. I also don\u2019t want to listen to a eulogy about how great she is when she treated me, my siblings, our kids and my Dad terribly. I also had to take time off sick from work lately due to pregnancy related issues and they were so understanding. I\u2019m entitled to bereavement leave but I hate asking for more time off. I also don\u2019t want people at work hearing my grandmother died and being all pitying and I\u2019ll just come across heartless because I\u2019m upset about it. I mean I feel really weird and anxious about it but I\u2019m not sad that she died. \n\nDoes that make me a terrible person? My brother thinks we should go to be there for my Dad, that it\u2019s the right thing to do.  And to be honest if my brother has to go back home to face all the small town gossipers, I don\u2019t want him to face it alone and I feel like we should be able to walk in there with our heads held high as we did nothing wrong. I just don\u2019t feel like honoring this woman. \n\nTL:DR: Didn\u2019t have relationship with grandmother. Not a nice woman. AITA for not wanting to go to her funeral? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gdVEmQk7ElSpONW0Os7D0hbSloQmzimS", "post_id": "a8ckx9", "action": {"description": "putting my chair all the way back in on a flight", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for putting my chair all the way back in on a flight?", "text": "I cant help but feeling like an asshole when I put my chair back, I usually dont but for long flights I'll put it back when I want to get some shut eye.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FXnnCae4gDr5I84axwlntZqnqGyFZCnS", "post_id": "ag5izq", "action": {"description": "wanting to ruin my ex boyfriend's relationship", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to ruin my ex boyfriend\u2019s relationship? (TW: mentions of sexual assault, TDLR at bottom)", "text": "Okay, for some context, we are both in High school. A few years ago, when we were 13, we were \u201cdating\u201d aka hanging out together after school and during weekends. After three months of our relationship, we shared our first kiss and it all went downhill from there. \n\nAfter our first kiss, he started wanting things from me, specifically sexual favors. He would constantly ask me for a blowjob and I would always refuse. Eventually, he would start pulling his dick out and making me touch it and pleading me to suck it. I was VERY uncomfortable with this, and he managed to convince me that I was a bad girlfriend for refusing to blow him.\n\nHe would also constantly try to touch me, but most of the time, I gave the excuse that I hadn\u2019t shaved down there and he would leave it be. Once though, I did shave before hand, because for some reason, I thought I would be ready. When he came over that day, I realized I wasn\u2019t and told him not to. He shoved his hand down my pants anyway. As. I. Told. Him. No.\nI remember pulling his hand out of my jeans and him brushing it off and smelling his fingers to tell me that I smelt good. I don\u2019t remember what any of the other encounters were that day, just that specific memory.\n\nI was really starting to get into feminism at this point, and joined my junior high\u2019s gay straight alliance. We had this event called the GLSEN Day of Silence where students were supposed to wear black and pledge an oath of silence for the day to protest against bullying and harassment of lgbt+ students. People would ask why I was joining and I wrote down a cute pie chart of how much I felt I was attracted to boys vs. girls and a title that said \u201cI\u2019m Bisexual! :)\u201d.\n\nThis was my first time coming out to any of my friends, and it was the first time I told my Ex. He read the note, looked up at me, read the note again, and then with the face of Joseph when Mary first told him she was pregnant, he said \u201cYou\u2019re bi?\u201d.\n\nWe had an argument over FB messenger on the way home from school. He told me he couldn\u2019t date a bi girl because I was more likely to cheat on him. That\u2019s when we broke up.\n\nOver the summer, I met someone new and started a long distance relationship with said person. I was happy with him... then the flashbacks came. I don\u2019t know why, but that memory of my ex shoving his hand down my pants started to constantly play, and I would panic attacks over it. Luckily, my new bf was supportive when I told him what happened and would even call when I\u2019d have panic attacks so I could calm down. \n\n I didn\u2019t tell my parents that it even happened until a year after my ex and I broke up. At the end of 8th grade, I told all of my friends what happened and many took my side (but some still hung out with him afterwards)\n\nRight before Freshman year, I contacted him on social media and we had a nice conversation. He apologized for what he did to me and promised that he would never do that to another girl again.\n\nAnyway, here we are present day.\nLast night, a girl contacted me (Let\u2019s call her A) and told me that her BFF (B) is dating my ex, and she wanted to know if that was the same Ex that had sexually assaulted me. I told her yes, then proceeded to answer any questions she had, as well as tell her my full story.  \nA tells me that B has admitted that my ex does sexual things to her without her consent but she is \u201cokay with it\u201d (A thinks she\u2019s lying). A said that she gets a really bad vibe from my ex, and that she thinks that he may be doing similar things to B.\n\nThat makes my blood boil and want to confront this girl and tell her to break up with him as soon as she can because I don\u2019t want another girl to go through the same trauma that I did!\nBut at the same time, what happened to me happened when we were technically kids, and I don\u2019t feel like it\u2019s my lane to sabotage his relationships. I fear that it will make me seem jealous and I\u2019ll be known as his \u201ccrazy ex\u201d\nIdk, should I talk to B? Should I let her know of the monster that her boyfriend was when we were together? Have I slandered his name enough just by telling our friends about what he did to me? Am I an asshole for not putting the whole thing aside  and moving on with my life? \n\n\nTDRL: My \u201cex boyfriend\u201d sexually assaulted me when we were 13 and now we\u2019re in HS and I suspect that he\u2019s doing the same to another girl even though he told me he wouldn\u2019t. I told our friends about him and part of me feels like I slandered his name enough but the other part of me wants to protect other girls from him.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "odkhYwOO4331YucxQPRTrgDLsXylHYoe", "post_id": "b2252g", "action": {"description": "having DCF called on my parents", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for having DCF called on my parents?", "text": "To be straight up, I'm not the best kid. I don't really clean all that much. I clean more than everyone else, but I already know that it's not enough considering the state that my room is in.\n\nI'm supposed to be in therapy, but my parents aren't taking me. Which isn't an excuse to be an ass, but I'm kind of a cuck to my parents, probably because I hate them. But recently I did something pretty extreme. I had 2 people call DCF on my parents for child neglect. They don't take me to the doctor/dentist, and I've got a pretty bad tooth (infected- used to swell to the size of a gumball and I couldn't close my mouth) that was supposed to be pulled over a year ago. My bed is broken and I have scars all over from where the springs broke through and tore me up. I keep begging my parents to fix it, but they won't. My room has a draft (windows really thin, trailer house so there isn't good insulation so it gets COLD).   \nThey keep saying that it'll all get fixed over the summer when we move to a new house, but they've been putting off getting a new mattress for almost a couple years, so I don't know if I can trust that it'll get done.  \nThere's a lot more I could be doing to help myself (Call in my own appointments, which I'm too scared to do because my parents keep telling me not to) etc.\n\nThey do a lot more bad shit other than that (they're pretty emotionally distant and they smoke $400 worth of cigs a month and then complain we don't have enough to pay bills) but I do some more bad stuff to (whenever I make money, I don't try to help out)\n\nThey also keep trying to kick my mentally disabled brother out for being a \"freeloader\", which would force him to be homeless. They threatened to kick him out because he asked my stepdads daughter if he could have a ride to his friends. (honestly, my brother isn't the best either. He's refused to shower for almost a year, he doesn't clean anything, and he just sits on the internet all day)\n\nAITA for having people call DCF on my parents? Should I have called it in myself instead of asking others to do it for me? or should I have just left things as they were since I only have a year until I can move out?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ngywJCnvJzScy3HHKEh5zaByDbaFw415", "post_id": "b8suy0", "action": {"description": "wearing sunglasses indoors", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For wearing sunglasses indoors?", "text": "Sometimes I wear my sunglasses indoors. I do it for a few reasons- 1) sometimes I feel really hideous and putting on my sunglasses makes me think I look the tiniest bit better, and so people see a little less of me; 2) I get really anxious around people(even my family), so wearing my sunglasses sometimes helps with that, like it\u2019s a little protective layer I can hide behind; and 3) I\u2019m not good at making eye contact, so wearing sunglasses helps me not to panic too much about trying to make eye contact since other people can\u2019t even tell if I\u2019m looking them in the eyes or not. The main reason is number 2. \nSo, does wearing sunglasses indoors make me an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JGkgCsF6RCyNtSzl2pT8GfWc48lhWA2W", "post_id": "amv6gk", "action": {"description": "calling my ex a slut", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for calling my ex a slut?", "text": "I have been dating a girl for roughly four years. She told me when we were first dating that she has never been faithful to a man in her life. She's 34 and I'm 35.\n\nI continued to date her knowing it was risky. I really loved her. So much in common. All that good stuff you hear about good relationships. Yet, she was constantly being shady. Always talking to men behind my back. Would invite them over without my knowledge and hide it from me. She would break up with me temporarily and then claim anything she did was fine because we were broken up.\n\nEventually I couldn't handle it and we went our separate ways. So about 4 months ago we decided we would try to make it work again. I setup counselling. We set boundaries and it was rocky at first but I could see it working. She wanted to stay in contact with men she had been dating and or sleeping with.\n\nI wasn't overly comfortable with this because of how she can be unfaithful but I eventually agreed as long as she didn't talk about our relationship with them in great detail. Didn't flirt with them or have them over and get black out drunk. Well of course you guessed it. She couldn't stick to the plan. We would argue about that and then she would have them sleep over. Claiming she wasn't sleeping with them but they just slept in her bed. She consistently said they were just friends and it was okay even if we were dating for them to sleep in her bed because friends.\n\nAnyways. I got laid off from work yesterday. I came to her place and I can't remember exactly what we argued about but she was drunk and it was about a guy I told her to stop flirting with and inviting him over because she tried to sleep with him last time he was there. She kicked me out. She said she was sorry a few hours later but I wasn't having just a simple little I'm sorry. I told her I wanted her to be nicer to me and stop doing this thing with other men.\n\nWell she got drunk that night and had a man come over and she fucked him. I was really upset. Less than 12 hours and she was already fucking someone else. So I called her a slut to her face. She slapped me and told me she wasn't and claims what she did was not slutty.\n\nAITA in this situation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xpcgXkZlGYGOiAxjmobmdjP1qbt6dY3b", "post_id": "ah23uj", "action": {"description": "shunning my older brother", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for shunning my older brother.", "text": "Some context about me and my older brother: \n\nWe are both grown adult men living with our parents. I\u2019m 24 and he is 30. He works as a head cashier at a retail store. I\u2019m an accountant with plans to move out and go for my masters after saving enough money.\n\n \n\nMy brother has a bit of a rough past so I\u2019ll try to keep it short. About a decade ago, he attended a UC pursuing a major in Chemistry. He lied to our mother about his grades and he ended up dropping out due to his inability to keep them up. This left him with a big ass loan that needed to be paid off and no degree to show for it. At that point, he was forced to work retail. There, he developed a meth addiction and was diagnosed with depression. With years of AA meetings and constant support from our mother, he was able to stay sober for years and was able to find another retail job with better conditions. Fast forward a few years later, he\u2019s traded his addiction to meth with an addiction to junk food. He's a head cashier now, but has no plans of either moving up in the position, or backing down to go back to school.  \n \n\nMy brother and I used to be pretty close. During my college years, we would often bond, watch movies, and go out to eat. During the time however, I would notice things about him that would bother me. I was aware of his situation, so I tried to keep quiet in order to not upset him. One of them being that our mother would always do his laundry. He would also never clean up after himself. He\u2019d never do the dishes. In fact, sometimes he\u2019d just leave his dishes on the counter. He never did any chores either because he would always be too tired. He's extremely pessimistic and aloof about every single thing. He's also very prideful. Whenever my mother would try to offer some advice, he would straight up yell at her. He constantly complains about how tiring his job is and claims that one day he\u2019ll quit or step down so he can go back to school despite showing absolutely zero signs of doing so. Whenever he\u2019s home, 90% of the time he\u2019s asleep. This kept up for about 4 years.\n\n​\n\nLast year, I eventually snapped at him about his behavior. It became this full blown argument which ultimately ended with him calling me a condescending asshole. Since then, I\u2019ve stopped communicating with him. This caused me to stop eating junk food with him. After a few weeks, I lost like 10 lbs alone just from not spending time with him. This motivated me to lose even more weight. It's been a year since I've stopped all communication with him. I\u2019ve lost around 100 lbs. and I\u2019m no longer obese or pre-diabetic. Our mother has always been worried about me and brother\u2019s health so she's delighted with this change. Not only that, but ever since I\u2019ve called him out for it, my brother has been doing his own laundry and has started to wash his dishes. \n\n​\n\nAm I a childish asshole for not wanting to speak with my older brother anymore? I feel like we're both better off just not associating with one another. \n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DsR3Ne2bxDMP2cYxpPIJEWzdSfBbdY8J", "post_id": "aoqt27", "action": {"description": "not letting someone into my dorm", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not letting someone into my dorm.", "text": "Hello, never posted before, but thought this would be a good situation to ask you guys what you think. \n\n​\n\nA little background context before the story is that I go to a private college in the Midwestern states of the US. During my four years at this college there have been a number of reports of random people in the dorms. Some of these people would do things like: Steal, peak in on the girls bathroom, walk into peoples rooms, and sleep in the lounges. One of the big rules they tell us every year is to NOT let people you do not know into the dorms. I take this rule seriously because I would never know who I was letting in.\n\n​\n\nNow to what happened this night. While waiting in the entrance to the dorm for my friend so we could go out to get something to eat. A guy (we will call him David) walks up to the front door and tried to open it. Now the doors are electronically locked and you need a fob to get in. David then starts pounding on the glass of the door to get my attention. I look up at him, but turn around and walk the other direction. David then starts pounding even harder on the glass. At this point his (I'm guessing) girlfriend lets him into the dorm. David then walks up to me, and starts yelling about letting him into the dorm. I look at him saying that I do not know him, why would I let him in? David then shows me a Tupperware container saying \"Yeah I look like threat.\" He then says that I should let him in because he was \"freezing his ass off\" outside. For some context it is about 5 degrees out right now, but he was not out there for more than a couple of minutes. David then turns around and walks off with his girlfriend into the stairwell. During that time he was calling me an asshole and a \"inconsiderate jerk.\"\n\n​\n\nSo AITA for not letting him into my dorm?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "M1gP3QFq0poUhMKZy1fZl6dmuNQ2vHzU", "post_id": "aa150i", "action": {"description": "disobeying house rules", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for disobeying house rules?", "text": ".. so I am renting a room from someone who rents her whole house out to cover her living expenses. I pay 500 a month, everything included. Shared bathroom, kitchen, etc. with two other roommates not including the homeowner.\n\nI understand house rules, I understand common sense and courtesy. Especially since they are posted as a list on the refrigerator. One of those rules is there to be no eating in the rooms. \n\nOkay, so I am designated a shelf in the refrigerator. The first moment I put food in the fridge, I notice someone eating off of my shit. My family brought me home made Oreos dipped in chocolate and they were disappearing way faster than I was eating them. What the fuck?\n\nSo I brought all my food back into my room, except for a few \"looks good, decoys(bullshit I don't eat) I left in the fridge\" so I figure, hey, I have a bag of chips or whatever, I'm not going to walk outside and eat than go back in after I'm done when I have it right here? I make no mess and anything I do is cleaned beyond recognition. \n\nWhat gets me busted is the carrying of dishes and cups back and forth to my room. What's fucking crazy is that the homeowner complained about another roommate making noise cooking food in the kitchen at 2am which apperantly woke her up??\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "zFwrxdNiNZX5DDojmfDzxPgFeqEU7VKA", "post_id": "acdpj8", "action": {"description": "being annoyed about Santa Claus", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed about Santa Claus.", "text": "My daughter is 4 years old, and this Christmas was the first one that Santa was a BIG deal.  Pre-kids, my husband and I had decided that we weren't going to do the whole Santa tradition.  What we didn't plan for was how hard Santa would be pushed in school (small town in an area that's 99.999% culturally Christian). Lots of Facebook posts from classmates' parents about not letting kids who stopped believing in Santa spoiling the magic for those who still believed.  The thing is, my daughter has absolutely no chill and can't keep a secret.  So when my daughter started talking about Santa and believing in him, we reluctantly decided to play along just enough to keep her from being the a-hole that \"ruins\" Christmas for her preschool class. \n\nFast forward to a few days before Christmas.  We go to a family function and within minutes of arriving my 5 year old niece tells my daughter that Santa isn't real.  Daughter asks me if it's true,  so I ask her what she thinks.  Daughter replies that she thinks he's real and crisis averted.  But later at the gathering, my brother-in-law (that niece's dad) boasts about how they don't do myths at their house.  It seems that when niece learned the truth, she wasn't taught that some people prefer to be kept in the dark.  I say nothing to niece or brother-in-law about it. After all, if I don't expect my daughter to be able to keep a secret, I can't expect her cousin who only a few months older to keep one either. And everyone has the right the raise their kids as they see fit.\n\nBut I'm feeling annoyed about the whole thing.   Both at being peer pressured into a tradition that we  didn't really care to do and for not getting the same consideration from our brother-in-law that we were trying to give to others.  So I'm sure I'm an asshole for being a hypocrite.  But I'm also wondering if parents who want you to lie and pretend to keep up a tradition that you don't follow are the assholes. Or are you the asshole if you ruin another family's tradition by being honest?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hN35xCg3L1YebePc10A2gBYHOOtBuiHO", "post_id": "af8iza", "action": {"description": "not letting my partner come and see me at college", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not letting my partner come and see me at college?", "text": "Hi!\n\nMy boyfriend and I have a great relationship and go to college about 3 hours apart. A return ticket costs between $40 and $70.\n\n​\n\nI am seeing my boyfriend from Wednesday- Saturday in 2 weeks time. However, he wants to come and see me from Friday-Monday (i.e. going back to his college literally a day before I come down).\n\n​\n\nI (gently) have told him not to come as there is no point in him spending all that time and money if I am seeing him the day after. I saw him this week already. \n\n​\n\nI **haven't** told him the other reason, which is that I also have work to do and am usually working weekends (I work 5 days a week) so this time to myself is a little rare and I would like to use it to relax before I see him.  I also am careful to maintain friendships here, as if I see him I wont be able to spend any time with my roommate and college buddies as I work so much. Meanwhile, he hasn't settled in so I think he's lonely. He seems quite upset. \n\n​\n\nI really love spending time with him, but I don't think this is a good use of time or money. He is lonely though which I'm very sad about! So I don't think he's being an asshole at all, he's just lonely and doesn't know that I need space (but if I told him this, he would maybe feel even lonelier). But that's so much money to spend and so much time away from other commitments like college and friends etc. Bc we are no longer in highschool, we can't see eachother as much anymore, but I don't know if he gets that. \n\n​\n\n***TLDR;*** BF wants to spend $60\\~ to see me on my free weekend even though I am coming to see him within a day. \n\n​\n\nAm I the Asshole here? Brutal honesty only pls reddit. <3", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cKBpjjSuQCk79jvd5SeYDVLsY1MKKqCj", "post_id": "b2c2h4", "action": null, "title": "AITA: Sister continually asks for help", "text": "I\u2019m new to reddit so I\u2019m not really sure how most things work. I live in a house with a lot of little sisters. One of my sisters really loves to play video games. Her favorite game to play is Mario Odyssey. Recently she has been playing it a lot. What annoys me is that it\u2019s the console I\u2019ve paid for, and she always plays on it. She\u2019s only like 5 years old, so I don\u2019t really bother her unless I ha", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hAvGqxrR4HLTPbxQCGqPEYm5FhLHESk5", "post_id": "b8m29d", "action": {"description": "telling the bride she should take back her request? she wants the bridesmaids to buy matching shoes", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for telling the bride she should take back her request? She wants the bridesmaids to buy matching shoes.", "text": "Just attended her bachelorette party last weekend and realized how much the other girls are struggling financially. Should I say something to the bride?? \n\n\nMost of the bridesmaids couldn't pay up front for the $150 dress and had to set up layaway plans. Half haven't booked accommodation for her summer destination wedding (I found a cabin for $700 back in January). At the bachelorette party, one girl was upset by $6 club sodas, and splitting the check after dinner was an entire ordeal.\n\n\nNow she's asking us to buy matching heels. Is it my place to say something? Is it worth speaking up? The shoes will be ~$50, which is miniscule compared to the other expenses.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zUiWBwGBc1B31kFBzGiCuUz6zBQcihg4", "post_id": "b0vdu1", "action": {"description": "disowning my mom", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for disowning my mom?", "text": "So a little back story. My dad is the best person I know. I have three sisters. When he met my mom he adopted my two other sisters, they were 8 and 12 at the time.  None of us were very easy teenagers but he always handled and dealt with with love and support.\nHe never hesitated to come help Fix the house house or babysit My mom would almost never help us and if she did she made it very clear she was doing us this huge favour.\nHe has always took care of us working 10 hours away for two weeks at a time.\nHe did this so mom didn\u2019t have to work.\nDropped everything when my mom seriously injured herself which took a year of recovery.\n\n11 months ago my dad had a massive stroke. We thought he wasn\u2019t going to make it. My sisters and I spent every night alternating who stayed the night in the hospital with him. My mom refused and would just get a hotel. Plus it helped mom knowing he wasn\u2019t alone while she processed what was happening.  \nAfter 5 weeks in the icu he was able to be moved to a rehab facility about two hours away. My sisters and I still stayed with him.\nHe is paralyzed on his right side and had lost the ability to speak. We\u2019d bring the kids up several times a week.My mom in the mean time would go up about once a week for a few hours then go home. \nAbout three months after the stroke he was able to turn his voice on and say two or three words. Since he was making so much progress he applied and was accepted to the only brain rehabilitation centre in the province. About four hours from where we live. Which then my mom would go up once a month.\n\nFrom my dads work they continued to pay him full salary till his 65th Birthday which was 4 1/2 months away.(he was going to retire)  and they wrote a cheque for $75,000.00\nHe was able to start walking again and saying more words, my sisters and I would each visit once a week.\nWhile we were helping and stressing ourselves out financially to be there to help our parents. My mom decided now was the perfect time to go to Belize and buy new furniture and a new horse, among a million other things. ( the money was suppose to be for my dad and his rehab, making the house handicap accessible.\n\nOur husbands came into their house and made it handicap accessible on their own time and money. We took control of everything we could to make things easier on my mom. I drove the 8 hours every Friday and picked him up, My sisters would always be there to help.\nHe has severe aphasia but does ok with us.He is getting ready to be discharge him home with the help of home care and us but my mom absolutely refuses. She wants him in long term care.My mom has almost blown through all the money she received for dads care and now needs to sell their acreage. She still won\u2019t look for a job.She plans on buying a holiday trailer so dad can never come and parking it where ever. Any time we bring anything up she cries and says we are ganging up on her.\nWould I be the asshole to give up on her and focus solely on my dad?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4YuHMKCjyYtH86ValfJ20dTbHVBSFNCI", "post_id": "b168do", "action": null, "title": "AITA jealous of my gf's roommate proposal", "text": "My girlfriend and I have been going strong for over a year now and we are in a really good spot right now. GF gets a train to uni everyday and she is normally accompanied by one of my friends (let's call him Frank). Frank is someone that can be quite narcissistic at times and says whatever is on his mind before thinking. Today I found out he offered to share rooms with my GF as they both attend nearby unis. I feel quite jealous about it and I can't stop thinking why it would be okay for him to just casually ask my GF to move in with him. Frank has never been particularly successful in relationships and he has tried to get together with my exes on a couple of occasions. AITA? Or is there cause for concern? \n\nTL:DR Old friend of mine asks my girlfriend to move in with him, am I right to be jealous about it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jClL9vKZv3gPQQC2BfynluvO3mxL7ohW", "post_id": "ade1o9", "action": null, "title": "AITA for my boyfriend of 2.25 yrs's mother still keeps a pic of his ex gf's son on display in her living room??", "text": "Theres a little background here.  I met & started dating/becoming sexual w my current boyfriend in Nov of 2016. He said he loved me within a month. I loved him too.  Several months prior to that his ex gf of 9 yrs lost her house due to not paying mortgage because she had a friend living there who signed for the postal delivered foreclosure papers but never gave them to the exgf. She lost the house & desperately needed to live somewhere w her 15 yr old son(not his) & was broke, although very highly educated. \n\nAlthough they were broken up for a year then & he even had another relationship, he let her move in not charging rent. He even loaned her $12k+ for remedial mortgage fees.He pretty much knew he never would get it back.\n\nSo he meets me & we're in love but wont even drive me past his house for fear she'd see us. Wimp. We dated & had our trysts in his van for 8 months. But I loved him & mostly accepted it with occasional all out screaming matches about why he was too wimpy to ask her to leave. She had a few excuses of people who promised her a place but then these fell thru last minute. \n\nJune 2018 shes gone & I finally move in. I had to beg him practically bc I had to sell my home & couldnt afford 2000+ rental fees while disabled. He charges me $700 rent monthly. Its been very ugly & I have deep resentment over how he made me feel like \"first runner up\" while she kicked back in his million dollar home. \n\nHis mom still friendly w her & I think gives her handouts. I heard mom & ex had a christmas lunch. I went to Moms today & saw displayed a pic of the kid in the living room & I silently abandoned my half eaten breakfast & quietly left. He knew it was bc if the kid pic displayed. Mom doesnt know ex gf owes him $12k & he told me NOT to tell her. Mom would be very pissed. AITA for being pissed at this scenario? Thanks guys. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "MI219N8NJS5CxtsIgZL7NJ5zAS4DXwiY", "post_id": "aika1j", "action": {"description": "making am girl cry because she wouldn't take no for an answer", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for making am girl cry because she wouldn't take no for an answer?", "text": "This happened a while back, but recently talked to my gf about it (She thinks i'm NTA). Basically, there's this girl at work who's kinda ont he heavy side. While i was with my current gf, she kept trying to flirt with me. I kept telling her to back off and that i had a girlfriend, but she just kept trying harder and harder. Even trying to get physical despite me pushing her off many times and telling her, in no unceryian terms, to fuck off.\n\nOne day me and a friend were talking about this. He told me that he thought the only way to get someone like this to back off was to hurt thier feelings. So the next time she tried something, i told her 'I hope they make whaling legal again so somebody harpoons you'. Of course, she went off crying to her friends. It worked though.\n\nDid i go too far? She did straight up try to molest me on multiple occasians, and i work at a maccies so nothing official was ever gonna be done about it (trust me on this)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "pfyH9G4Romjl5cmE7XSod05Vacfwk2BE", "post_id": "aud12r", "action": {"description": "being scared", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being scared?", "text": "AITA: not that long ago I got in a fight with one of my friends (ef). I had posted a picture on Instagram and it was a picture of my best friend (bf) and I on his birthday. Ef texted me later that day. A little background bf had just come out to his family as gay and I am also gay and my family is very homophobic and thinks it a phase (yes this is important later on). Ef text me and says she hates bf, I didn\u2019t know why so I asked her. She said he had screwed her over, now bf and I have been best friends for 5 years while ef and I only really got close this year, by not doing a favor. I didn\u2019t know what this \u201cfavor\u201d was and ef wouldn\u2019t tell me. I show up to school the next day and ef instantly start to mention the text, ef goes on to say I\u2019m not really gay, that bf is really gay and that I am just sucking his d***. It doesn\u2019t sound that bad but with bf past and mine it\u2019s just really offensive. I have told ef to stop numerous times by this point and just want her to cut it out. I finally decided to ignore the situation by trying to change the subject but ef didn\u2019t like that idea and said that she would kick my a** if I did anything and now I\u2019m scared to be alone in a room with her do to her past history of violence. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Tre53qF3SBxDgj9tIrwpktGdwj6M2stU", "post_id": "afbwhs", "action": {"description": "being mad at my the person who raised me", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being mad at my the person who raised me?", "text": "So to start off my parents are out of the question havnt been apart of my life since I was very young. I'm 18 years old graduated high school in June and working 40hrs a week to buy a new car. Mines broken down so many times I'm not putting another $1000 into it. My aunt raised me since I was 3 and we lived with her now ex husband till a few years ago when they divorced. She has epilepsy and has seizures pretty commonly. She hasn't worked in 2 years and has no income other then alamony which runs out in March. It's been 2 years and she still isn't working but she is constantly flipping from dating 9ne guy to dating her ex husband and others for a few years and goes out pretty regularly with them. Now time is pretty close and she still isn't putting effort in to find work but rather waits for me to get home with her car from work and goes out and returns the next morning most times. Now most days she spends sitting on my couch scrolling on her phone and watching TV that's it never any cleaning or job searching. She makes very poor financial decisions like leavin lights on 24/7 I'm not kidding all day lights and the TV will be on all the time . The days she has a seizure she will sleep and in and I will take care of her and the dog and cats. Yesterday she slept all day and because of that I had to stay home on my day off to take care of things. Now today I get home and shes all dressed up and getting ready to go out with her ex husband. Nothing has been done around the house even remotely in fact she just left her dirty dishes on the coffee table. Now I've lost my shit before and she always just cuts me off and stops arguing with me stopping all talks and will just ignore me when I try to bring it up to her. AITA for getting upset with her when she does this ?\n\nLong story short:\nMy aunt is unemployed living off alamony and not putting effort in to find a job. She has seizures which makes it hard for her to find work I understand that. But she doesnt clean around the house and just sits on her phone until I get home from work and goes out with her a husband. AITA for being upset and not wanting to  be around when alamony runs out and she has no where to turn.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cWVFJnTbvlZlBMnDDj5Ex2thamHdNcNJ", "post_id": "axnv1i", "action": {"description": "telling off an old man for making a comment about my parenting", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling off an old man for making a comment about my parenting?", "text": "This past weekend I was driving with my wife and my 6 month old daughter to have dim sum with my parents. Unfortunately, it started raining and we didn\u2019t have her blanket. She pooped in the car while leaving the house, so we rushed back in to change her and inadvertently left her blanket there.\n\nWe parked a block away from the restaurant, I held her close to my chest and covered her with half of my jacket . As my wife and I were walking to the restaurant an older Chinese man looked in shock, pointed at my daughter and then at me. He told me \u201cThat baby needs more clothes!\u201d I responded that she\u2019s fine. She was actually in 3 layers: a body suit, a cardigan and a fleece onesie. I live in the Bay Area, so it was maybe mid 50\u2019s. I stood near the doorway trying to look to see where my parents were sitting, when the old guy came up to me and said, \u201cShe is not fine, she\u2019s too cold. She will get sick\u201d I told him I didn\u2019t ask for his opinion and to mind his own business. My wife found my parents and started to walk towards them and I followed, the old guy then gasped and essentially said \u201cABC (American born Chinese) kid doesn\u2019t know anything.\u201d\n\nAfter finishing dim sum with my folks, I told them what happened. They were shocked and told me that\u2019s not how I treat elder folk. My wife came to my defense and said people shouldn\u2019t butt into other people\u2019s business. This was actually like the 5th time a random Asian elder made a comment about our parenting. 4 of the times they commented that my daughter \u201clooked too cold\u201d and the other time one woman commented that \u201cshe looks hungry, mom needs to feed her.\u201d\n\nMy Dad said that \u201cwell if you saw a child in danger you would speak up too.\u201d I told him, yeah but my daughter wasn\u2019t even close to being \u201cin danger\u201d and he said maybe you need to bundle her up cause it\u2019s cold outside. I just told him he was wrong and I told him many times already she\u2019s getting over a really bad heat rash. (Long story, but essentially her room was too hot and needed to wear less layers at night).\n\nMy parents just told me to be more considerate and not be rude to older people. I just shrugged and that was that.\n\nAITA for telling off an old man that made a comment on my parenting?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Yj6PbTyNrQ1KY3n7oHspdqbwlJOT004w", "post_id": "aglogu", "action": {"description": "kicking my pregnant girlfriend out of my house when I found out the child wasn't mine", "pronormative_score": 1063, "contranormative_score": 33}, "title": "AITA for kicking my pregnant girlfriend out of my house when I found out the child wasn't mine?", "text": "My ex and I had been together for 2 years.  It was rocky for the last couple months when she lost her job and just seemed to refuse to look for work just living for free in my house causing me to have to financially support us both.  I also suspected she was cheating on me, and eventually I broke up with her and she left to live with her parents.\n\nA few weeks later she comes knocking on my door to let me know she's pregnant with my child.  She was practically beaming with glee.  I agreed to let her stay with me again as my home would be a healthier place to stay as her mom smokes like a chimney and refused to stop smoking inside when she found out her daughter was pregnant.  Didn't want my child subjected to that.\n\nThe one caveat to this arrangement being we would go in a couple weeks and get a paternity test done.  She very happily agreed.  Her reaction actually washed away some of the fears I had about her possibly cheating on me.  So she lives with me for a couple weeks and we go to get the test done.  We find out that the child isn't mine and like a switch is flipped I honestly no longer care about that kid anymore and tell her to pack up her shit and get out of my house.\n\nThis was a week ago.  She moved her stuff back to her parents house, but is staying with a friend to avoid the cigarette smoke and other problems there.  She, her friends, and even a few of our mutual friends are texting and messaging me about how I'm a terrible person for doing this to that innocent child.  That I have plenty of room in my home and I should just help her out.  I feel like I've been through the emotional ringer these past months and I've been though every emotion I am capable of feeling.  From realizing I was possibly a father to the betrayal when her cheating was confirmed...honestly I feel so emotionally raw and sometimes I agree with them.  That maybe I should take her back and just care for the kid.\n\nWas I unfair to this unborn child?  Am I a total piece of shit for not wanting them in my home in this vulnerable time for them?  She cheated on me, but is this a situation that I should suck it up and take care of them anyway?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 23, "OTHER": 1052, "EVERYBODY": 10, "NOBODY": 11, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1063, "WRONG": 33}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8EA7abUGdzWSh6XXk005BjBc5wXpHaLD", "post_id": "asyg7r", "action": {"description": "not contributing to a friend's plane ticket cost", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not contributing to a friend's plane ticket cost?", "text": "Just a brief backstory. \n\nMy dad is an alcoholic and my grandma is homeless with my dad. I go to college across the nation in an attempt to forge my future so I can take care of myself and my family and later my community. I send them money frequently and don't really have money to spare. (Full time college student with no job). A close friend of mines mother has recently gotten a bacterial infection that might kill her before the night ends or over the course of the next week. Naturally, he bought a ticket to leave tomorrow morning but a bunch of my friends bought him a ticket to go home tonight (it was over 500$). They created a group chat acknowledging what had happened and I instantly sent him my condolences and wished him well. The guy collecting money came to me and told me that I was a selfish prick if I don't give him money to help pay for his ticket. Mind you, the guy who's mother is sick has money to pay for a ticket and has a family that is rather wealthy. They are saying that I an abomination if I don't contribute and that they will never talk to me again. I l feel extremely sorry for his family and him and hope that everything works out for him but I'm feeling attacked and upset. It's not like they came to me and told me about the situation, the first thing they did was tell me that if I didn't, I'm an asshole. Meanwhile, I have my own world of problems. Am I the asshole for not helping pay for his plane ticket? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SACGhptFPe7X43sa3qJV4G1ATk5rY1mq", "post_id": "ancwdc", "action": {"description": "not telling a friend about my recent suicide attempt, but telling a different close friend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA I didn\u2019t tell a friend about my recent suicide attempt, but told a different close friend", "text": "I have quite severe depression and suicidal tendencies, and so to keep track of my mood, I note it all down in a planner. I had another attempt recently, which I told my best friend, M, about. A friend of mine was flicking through my planner and found out that I recently had another attempt. \n\nFor some context, she and I have bonded about our mental health issues before, so she might want to be updated about these things. She also comes to me often when she\u2019s not doing so well, and trusts me enough to tell me about her attempts and episodes. The only issue is I\u2019m not close enough to her to tell her about all my numerous suicide attempts and etc, and also didn\u2019t think it was a big deal. I also didn\u2019t really want it to be spread around, and she has a tendency of telling our other friends want happened, because she thinks \u201cthey deserve to know.\u201d\n\nWhen she confronted me, she texted me: \u201cI saw your planner. Why don\u2019t you ever tell us [she and our other friends] about this shit? Why don\u2019t you talk to us? We just want to help you\u201d\n\nMe: \u201cI\u2019m okay now, don\u2019t worry! I just didn\u2019t want to tell lots of people. I did tell M, though, because I just wanted to get it off my chest\u201d \n\nF: \u201cYou\u2019re not reading my tone right, why wouldn\u2019t you tell me\u201d \n\nMe: \u201cit\u2019s not a big deal, I\u2019m feeling loads better right now\u201d \n\nF: \u201cNo, it is a Big Deal. If it wasn\u2019t, then why\u2019d you tell M instead of me\u201d \n\nAt that point, I stopped responding because I didn\u2019t know what to say. I saw her yesterday, and said hi, and was ignored. She\u2019s been sending me death glares, and blatantly ignoring me. \n\nTL;DR - a friend, who shares a lot of her experiences and depressive episodes with me, and who I have bonded with about our terrible mental health, is mad at me for not telling her about my recent suicide attempt, and talking to my best friend M about it instead of her. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9c1mVnzCmxBhONtJetRTU1h8ZXigRVUY", "post_id": "b9toz9", "action": {"description": "not wanting to talk to my wife when I come home from work", "pronormative_score": 48, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA if i dont wanna talk to my wife when i come home from work", "text": "It's not as harsh as it sounds(I hope). I work construction in NYC so I'm up at 430 am to go to work and don't come home til 4 or 5 pm. During that time I'm exposed to all kinds of construction dirt and debris, sheetrock dust, fiberglass insulation, silica from drilling concrete, etc. \n\nSo when I come home after being on my feet all day, I just want to get out my dirty clothes and take a shower so I can sit and relax for a little bit before we do whatever it is we have planned for the evening, if anything. I don't want to track anything into the house that I brought home with/on me. It's not that I don't want to hear what my wife is saying, I just don't want to have to stand there in dirty clothes to do it.\nBefore you ask, yes...I have told her this. But if I tell her regularly (which I sometimes do), she says \" ok, well let me just tell you this first\", or just tells me I'm always crabby when I come home.\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 38, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 48, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "N4CMNpQNVT9TyQAyU7PobWQ7rakZyktm", "post_id": "arqm10", "action": {"description": "bringing people who weren't on the guestlist to a birthday party", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for bringing people who weren't on the guestlist to a birthday party?", "text": "I know at first glance of the title it seems obvious that, yeah, this is an asshole move. Even I was convinced that I was, in fact, The Asshole at first, but as the night went on I began to have my doubts.  So here's what happened.\n\nLast week a big group went out for a coworker's birthday.  We have a pretty tightknit crew at my job, and there's a big group of us that goes out almost every Friday rain or shine.  The birthday boy is a regular part of that crew.  The person who planned his birthday outing is not, but she works closely with Birthday Boy and wanted to do something nice.  She's old enough to be most of Regular Crew's mom, and is friendly enough, (or so I thought?), though can be a bit sassy.  I've never had an issue before. I like her! I still do, I think, this incident nonwithstanding.  Anyway. She plans an outing into the city to go to dinner.  She asked if I wanted to come a couple weeks before, because she wants to get a number for a reservation.  I say of course, I'll be there with bells on.  Sounds cute.  She does follow up several times, to make sure she has the right number for the reservation.\n\nFast forward to the day of the event. As I'm getting ready to leave work, a couple buddies in Regular Crew ask if I'm going to this party.  I say yeah and ask if they want to ride together.  They do. It's me and three others in my car.  \n\nWhen we arrive, Party Planner gives me side eye so hard I'm afraid they'll get stuck that way.  As the evening goes on, she continues to make a show of acting visibly annoyed.  One of the people I ride with ask me what her name is.  That's when I put two and two together and realize that the three Regular Crew buddies I brought don't know Party Planner.  They were not on her guestlist.  Considering they were already aware of the party, and that they are friends with Birthday Boy, it didn't even occur to me that they wouldn't be part of the official count.  I pull someone closer to Party Planner aside and ask if she's angry with me.  Party Planner's friend says that while she personally thinks \"the more the merrier,\" yes, it's me Party Planner is upset with and maybe I should say something. \n\nI should mention that there are probably about thirty of us here, and while we do have a private room, it's very cramped.  The waitstaff doesn't bat an eye and whips out a couple more chairs, and we all scoot in and get cozy.  But at my first opportunity, as people shuffle around and a chair opens up next to Party Planner, I sit next to her and say, \"Hey, I'm so sorry, I didn't mean to throw off your plan or anything,\" and without looking up at me, all she says is, \"I'm annoyed.\"  Yes, I'm thinking, you've made that very clear. I'm kind of at a loss for words that she wouldn't just brush it off and say \"no big deal,\" and I awkwardly retreat back to my friends.  She continues acting bothered down at her end of the table, and apparently not being shy about rude she thinks I am to her friends at that end.  \n\nThe night goes on and people are starting to get rowdy.  I'm not one of the people on a mission to get absolutely twisted, but I have had a few.  I see Party Planner not talking to anyone, and I ask if she's having a good time.  She responds \"Not as good as I could have.\"  Reddit, I am shook at this point! I thought a few drinks in and it would all just be smooth sailing. Everyone seems to be having a good time but her, and do feel bad about that, since she planned this and was really excited to hang out with everyone.  But again, I don't know what to say to her response.  I'm regretting going out of my way to talk to her again, feeling like maybe I rubbed salt in a wound. I confide in Birthday Boy that I am feeling like The Asshole, and he says don't be ridiculous, he's glad the people I brought are there, and that there are a bunch of random coworkers he never even talks to there, and it would be weird if those people were invited but the Regular Crew homies that just happen to not know Party Planner weren't.  \n\nAfter a few hours, Party Planner and the other older coworkers start filtering out, I suppose because they have lives and kids and stuff.  The rest of us young jawns go to a bar down the street that has a lot more standing room, and enjoy each other's company well into the night.  I do hear from someone at some point that Party Planner left in tears.  The person who informed me of this was of the perspective that Party Planner felt neglected and unappreciated when she left.  But at this point I'm kind of over it, and think that if you're going to go out of your way to act miserable, you shouldn't be surprised when people don't want to sit next to you at a party.  \n\nSo thanks for reading my long-winded ass story, y'all.  I await your judgement and will gladly accept whatever outcome I get.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aYRKzkOmsoTi7U11HRe5WzxS6GwXdFIQ", "post_id": "ao3mjv", "action": {"description": "aggressively confronting someone in front of their best friend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for aggressively confronting someone in front of their best friend?", "text": "So. A lot of context is necessary to understand why I was so upset to begin with. I don\u2019t tell many people that I have a disability that basically makes everything I feel extremely intense, sadness, happiness, everything. I get upset a lot because of it and I don\u2019t want people feeling bad because they didn\u2019t technically do anything so I normally never say anything. I also hate using my disability as an excuse but it is important to mention in this story.\n\nWhat\u2019s also important to mention is that I spent three months in an extremely abusive relationship prior to moving to university. I never did anything about the relationship because I was convinced that I was over reacting due to my disability and my manipulative partner told me the same.\n\nA friend of mine, let\u2019s call him weeb, knee all of the above. He was someone I trusted a lot and he knew and the insides and out. \n\nWe were at the bar and I was alone at the table while everyone else was playing pool. I didn\u2019t know how to play pool so I didn\u2019t want to humiliate myself by going up there. Another friend of mine (let\u2019s call this one memes) came up to me and asked why I was sitting alone and I explained. They said that I should come up anyway so I did. I went up and joined in on a great conversation. It was a blast.\n\nBut that\u2019s when Weeb told me to move out of the way of the pool stick thing. So I did. Then he asked me to move more when I was clearly out of range of it (unless home runs are a thing in pool?). So he says \u201cgo away, you\u2019re not wanted\u201d and he pushed me so hard that I still have a bruise from where he touched me.\n\nI got really upset by this. He knew everything that I had been through. He knew how many times I had been pushed down a set of stairs. He knew how much I was hit, and kicked and everything. He knew. I went to the ladies and I cried. I didn\u2019t want to make a thing out of it because I often over react to everything and it\u2019s just easier to hide. That way the only feelings that are hurt are mine.\n\nThen another friend came in, let\u2019s call him cloud. I was really surprised that he came into the ladies as he was transitioning. Coming back into the ladies must have been really upsetting for him but he wanted to console me. I was very thankful for that. I told him what happened and the context in which it happens (as vaguely as possible - I didn\u2019t want to name names and I didn\u2019t want to go into the exact depths of my abuse). \n\nCloud told me that I should go and speak to whoever upset me and talk to them about it. So I did... just not the way that Cloud recommended.\n\nI walked up to Weeb who was at the bar ordering more drinks with memes and I aggressively ask him \u201cwas there really a need to push me that hard\u201d and Weeb says \u201cI didn\u2019t even touch you\u201d. I responded with \u201cbut you did\u201d and he rolls his eyes and turned away from me. I got so offended, Memes and I made contact and he had \u201coh teas gonna spill eyes\u201d. \n\nI turned away and just sat by myself for the rest of the evening. When we were saying goodbyes I hugged everyone but Weeb and I said to Weeb \u201cwe need to talk when we\u2019re sober\u201d and he gave me major stink eye as he said \u201cdo we\u201d. I said \u201cyes we do.\u201d And I walked home alone at 2am.\n\nAITA for aggressively confronting someone about something personal in front of their best friend?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3mGNw83AMRTZhyCui7ghecdq0sAYlJ8Q", "post_id": "a8kv19", "action": {"description": "not wanting to spend Christmas with my girlfriends, sister-in-law's mothers house", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to spend Christmas with my girlfriends, sister-in-law\u2019s mothers house?", "text": "Juggling the holidays with my girlfriend is difficult but we\u2019ve made it work for years. I usually spend Christmas Eve with her family and Christmas with mine. \n\nThis year, my girlfriends mom announced the family would be going to her daughter in laws mom house for a joint Christmas. However, this requires me to fly to another state and as a result miss Christmas with my family. Upending the arrangement we\u2019ve had in place.\n\nI barely know this woman and what little I do, I don\u2019t like. She\u2019s a bigot and extremely religious and I\u2019ve managed to keep our relation civil due in large part to our limited interactions over the years. Now I have to spend the holidays with her family, people I don\u2019t know, instead of my own or my girlfriend\u2019s. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bmKP188rnyVuQutRkQvQFuvfCKAMK345", "post_id": "axavr6", "action": {"description": "breaking off contact for constant complaining", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for breaking off contact for constant complaining?", "text": "So basically my Sennheiser headset broke down (again) so I decided to buy a new one (piece of shit needed repair every 3 months, never going back to that company). I got a new one, and it sounds good so far and feels comfortable. \n\nWhen I record my voice over the windows voice recorder, everything sounds ok. In TS3 however quite a few friends have complained that it was \"shit\" and when I asked what was bad they never replied. I played with various settings, but always got the \"shit\" response. As said, in voice recorder or even if I log onto discord with a second device and listen from that it sounds ok. In the end I just got so pissed that I blocked them (I only see them online, we live in different towns). If they can't even answer a simple fucking question, they aren't worth my time. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Mc9Sf9FVPebx3TRzCJ9b6H06r3mCan4o", "post_id": "ade4zo", "action": {"description": "being upset that a girl I was seeing has shown my friends her \"nipple piercings\"", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for being upset that a girl I was seeing has shown my friends her \u201cnipple piercings\u201d?", "text": "Context: I\u2019m a backpacker in Australia who\u2019s living at a working hostel with a lot of other backpackers. I was seeing this girl for a solid few months (in this environment, people tend to build relationships very quickly). \n\nAnyway, we called it off shortly before Christmas because she wanted to carry the relationship on once we left this particular hostel and I was a little more realistic, as we obviously have different plans to travel round Australia. \n\nOnce we both arrive back in the hostel after the festive period, we both missed each other and realised we want to carry things on together, even if it means changing our individual travel plans. It turns out she got both her nipples pierced whilst she was away. She asked my friends (one of them including one of my best friends who I came out here with) if they wanted to see her new nipple piercings, and he (amongst others) said yes. \n\nSo she showed them this entirely topless photo showing her complete upper torso. When she told me she asked if they all wanted to see it, and they all said yes, I felt angry/upset that all my friends have seen a potential girlfriend\u2019s tits. \n\nAITA for being upset/angry at this? It\u2019s making me question if I want to carry on seeing this girl and I\u2019m also annoyed at my friends for saying yes they wanted to see her nipple piercings? (In my opinion, just an excuse to see her tits). She says it wasn\u2019t a sexual thing, but I can\u2019t help but feel my male friends just wanted to see her topless (cynical?)\n\nI feel I may be the arsehole here, but I just want confirmation as I don\u2019t really know if I have justification to be pissed off with her and my friends. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Xy1cAtBtDEGVKTFm2JCczTTVlXJcTf79", "post_id": "b5hslb", "action": {"description": "not wanting to buy an expensive wedding ring", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to buy an expensive wedding ring?", "text": "I love my SO and see myself marrying her one day. We are both young and in post-secondary school so that is a long way off. We get along very well for the most part. We often talk about marriage and kids and our future. \n\nWhen it comes to wedding rings, I hate the idea and the tradition. The absurdity and immorality of the diamond industry and how it became a tradition from tricky marketing makes me sick. I feel that many men feel that they HAVE to buy an expensive rock to show their love but that is absurd. IMO buying an expensive diamond ring means I'm buying into everything about the industry that disgusts me. \n\nMy SO desires a nice wedding ring, and it has been a dream of hers for a long time. Bringing up my distaste for the tradition always leads to an awkward fight, and now we cant talk about it at all without her saying she doesn't want to talk about it. She knows very shallowly from my rantings about the industry, but she doesn't care enough to not want one. \n\nI have talked about the idea of synthetic diamonds, but she is not interested and wants the real deal. She has came back and said she would be fine with synthetic for the band, but she wants a decent sized real diamond in the middle, something around the 2k to 4k range. This boggles my mind as that money could be a downpayment on a house, kids college money, exploring the world, etc. Why waste it on a little rock that I morally do not agree with? \n\nI'm not asking anyone to put down my GFs beliefs as I know a lot of people has distaste with diamonds. I get where she is coming from, a lot of girls dream of the real deal fancy ring their man will get them one day. I just choke up thinking about actually putting that cash on a single ring. \n\nAITA for not wanting to ever waste money on an expensive diamond wedding ring? I would do anything for this girl, but just giving up and doing the deed only confirms my thoughts that men are trapped into buying into a shitty industry. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Jb8gL4xpPjR8NGTrcxvVLl5iLB5Kf8xV", "post_id": "a8n0n5", "action": {"description": "replying maybe for my best friends upcoming baby shower", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for replying Maybe for my best friends upcoming baby shower?", "text": "RSVP had 3 options: Yes, Maybe, No. I replied Maybe. We\u2019re both in our mid-20s. I own a small business. Everyone thinks since I\u2019m my own boss I can just close up shop whenever I want. I can\u2019t, I have customers who come in every day. If I close on a business day with no future notice I get bad reviews online and complaints the following day. She just sent me a angry text saying \u201cwhat do you mean it\u2019s a Maybe??\u201d I replied with saying I\u2019m gonna try my hardest to go but it\u2019s a mid day event on a Saturday. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "W8E92nCjl3HFJ8aJmq7jvxEKwbN9npFk", "post_id": "am7q8f", "action": null, "title": "WIBTA for breakimg up with my gf of 7 years because I have trust issues over a recent crush?", "text": "Long post, tl;dr at the bottom. Don't know if this is the correct subreddit, please let me know. Sorry for ambiguous title, let me know a better one so I can improve my posts.\n\nContext: my gf (25f) and me (27m) have been together since her first year of university. I was her first sexual partner, she was my second. She had a bf before me in highschool, but they never had sex.\n\nLet me first sketch the context and then I'll get to my dilemma.\n\nThrough the years, a few things happened that pushed my gf in some kind of depression. She went out a lot, drank a lot, slept a lot. Eventually, her mom and me convinced her to go see a therapist, which helped a lot. She got through it a few years ago.\n\nHowever, during this period of depression, she got drunk once and kissed another guy. She confessed the next day, we got into a fight but I found it in myself to forgive her. She told me that part of her was sad that she never had a truly wild period because she met me so early on and this also influenced her action.\n\nAnother thing about my gf is that she can be either really passionate about friends or not at all, and that she easily becomes friends with guys. She always kept me in the loop and told me if she was feeling attracted to other guys. I also sometimes feel attracted to other girls, but we don't act upon it so that's fine. These tight friendships usually only last a couple of months after which they sizzle down, either to regular friendships or to just acquaintances. A few guys are also friends with me who I trust so I am 99% sure nothing happened.\n\nCue to last year. During the summer, she met a guy while she was on holiday while I had to work. She became tight friends, and when she got home she told me about him. During the next month, she is texting him a lot, which isn't that unusual but every time I glanced at her phone when she was near me, she would turn away or close her phone. I mentioned this to her and she claimed that she doesn't like being checked and that she always does that. I admit that I only noticed it because I was already feeling a bit suspicious, so maybe that part was true.\n\nA week or so, my suspicions had grown a lot and I took the low road: I checked her phone (I know, asshole move). In their texts, he talked about how he loves her and she talked about missing him. She said that she liked him more than she wanted, but that they could never be a couple because she is together with me and she didn't want to give up a 7 year relationship for a fling. I only read a bit since my emotions were acting up, but I am 100% sure they didn't have sex since she told him she doesn't want to. I don't actually know if they kissed, she said no but I don't know if I can trust her. We got into a huge fight, but in the end I decided to let things cool of. The fight came up again and I said that I don't trust her completely anymore, she admitted that she still regrets never having a fling or sex with another man. In the end we decided to split up for 2 months and see where we stand afterwards. Since this is such a big issue for her I don't think we'll get through it if I don't at least let her experience what single life as an adult is like. She told me I am also free to do what I want, it doesn't bother her according to her. I don't have any interest but she sounded sincere at least. I told her I don't know how I'll react and that's a risk she is going to have to take.\n\nWe are currently 1 month into the break (insert Ross gif). I am still not trusting her again completely, and I am not sure I ever will. The thing is, I still love her very much and find it hard to imagine life without her. The reason for my trust issues is that I am an insecure person and I am afraid she will either fall really in love with the guy from holiday or find someone else that she loves more than me. I know that can happen with anyone, regardless of context and history, but I can't get over this feeling it seems. I'm trying to, maybe I can someday, but maybe not.\n\nI know I have only told my side of the story. I know I am a quiet person and not very passionate about anything (just who I am, maybe autistic traits but never tested). I do try to show her I love her but she does accuse me of never coming up with or organizing something exciting. I'm not an entrepreneur while she comes from a family of self employed, I just work my job and that's enough for me. I don't really make big plans for the appartment, she usually does. I know this makes me a bit boring while  she is usually in charge of the fun stuff unless it's meeting up with friends, we organize easily in that matter. On the other hand I'm reliable and there for her when she needs me or my help. I mostly put her first when deciding on my schedule or drop plans if she needs me. Bottom line is that we both have our merits and flaws, I don't want to break her down.\n\nWIBTA for waiting for another month hoping I can trust her again or is that unfair to her or to myself? Should I talk to her about this?\n\nExtra: WIBTA for asking her to let me go through their texts again as this could be an easy way to confirm I can trust her?\n\nSorry for rambling, I'm too close to the situation to think clearly.\n\nTl;dr gf of 7 years has history of emotional attachment with close guy friends, she developed a crush on the last one. Currently on a break because she hid it and I don't know what happened between them (100% no sex though) which is making it hard to start trusting her again. Might be an asshole for the way I am handling it.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "flcErmn7lsZiybTYEhsqMTY7a5MkJ4Us", "post_id": "ax0ik6", "action": {"description": "not giving my sister in law a ride when she claims she doesn't need to have a license or car to drive her and her two year old son around", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA Because I won't give my sister in law a ride when she claims she doesn't need to have a license or car to drive her and her two year old son around?", "text": "She  says doesn't need to get a license or drive because she won't ever need  it. Constantly asks my wife for rides, or asks my wife to ask me for  rides from place to place. Claims she can't afford a taxi/uber/lyft, and  refuses to take a bus. She lives with her mother and her son's father  has a warrant out and is on the run.\n\nShe  gets her tax refund back ($2k+) about a week ago and only has about  $600 left. What did she buy? Chinese and pizza delivery, coach bags, Air  Jordans for her toddler.. etc... My mother in law did the same thing.  She also claims poverty about gas and not being able to drive her  daughter (my sister in law) anywhere.\n\nAm  I the asshole because I know what her tendencies are and I refuse to  drive her anywhere? They try to make me feel like an asshole asking me  to. It feels unfair even being asked - I just got home from a 12 hour  shift and I want to relax. I've already stated my case to them. If you  claim you don't need a car, then get used the bus or paying for a  taxi/uber/lyft.\n\nOr walking.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hhzhlrjVy9LPXnY70blaq0IwcBc1ZjkC", "post_id": "ad8rbj", "action": {"description": "being salty about family visiting & having sex", "pronormative_score": 39, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for being salty about family visiting & having sex?", "text": "To preface this, I'm currently crashing at my mother's 1 bedroom apt while I'm looking to get a new job & move out. So my sister (20's) & her boyfriend(50's) drove in from 5 hours away to visit us for the weekend. My mom offered them her bedroom so they wouldn't spend $$ on a hotel, & her & I would sleep on the couch, no biggie. Meanwhile bad timing, mom ended up sick with bronchitis & not feeling well, I'm taking care of her the whole night. \n\nThey went out all evening & came in after midnight. I was exhausted as last few nights i didn't get much sleep & I also have been feeling ill, so I was tossing & turning, didn't end up falling asleep til after 4 am. While at 3am I hear moaning, & sure enough I had to hear them having sex... in mom's bed... While we're just on the other side of the wall on the couch. \n\nI'm thinking WTF? They're adults & couldn't wait 1 day to fuck back at home, but instead decided a family audience Next to them was no obstacle? Next morning they shower & eat breakfast with us like nothing happened. After they finally leave, we change the sheets & clean up the place. I brought it up as I was grossed out & apparently mom didn't hear them (she was passed out). She's not as bothered about this as I am, probably bc she didn't have to hear it. \n\nAm I wrong for feeling they betrayed home boundaries & were just disrespectful for that choice? Am I just being cranky while I'm exhausted & sick? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 31, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 39, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JoBvY6MsMIu5xyHgcvQumpkvhTsQ9yi9", "post_id": "acwicb", "action": {"description": "not wanting my girlfriend's best friend to come on holiday with us", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my girlfriend's best friend to come on holiday with us?", "text": "A bit of background...\n\nMy girlfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. She's in Asia I'm in UK.\n\nShe was with me and my fault over the Christmas period and we talked about going away in April to Taiwan.\n\nShe mentioned to her best friend (female) who asked if she could come with us. I'm not particularly close to this friend. I don't dislike her but I just don't know her.\n\nMy girlfriend was keen on the idea and gave me some reasons why it would be nice for her friend to come. These were she hardly ever gets to travel (a lie, she's always travelling) and she can't really afford to travel alone.\n\nI don't really want her friend to come but this flagged up when me that maybe my girlfriend doesn't actually want to holiday with me. \n\nI think i would not be the asshole to say no to this. I'm wondering if this points to a bigger problem in our relationship. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Fxaj6ik3xJLqxAQRCp0qAc0FoQwDYQCv", "post_id": "a8qfbt", "action": {"description": "shouting at neighbores for being loud", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for shouting at neighbores for being loud?", "text": "It has been weeks since i am asking my neighbores on daily basis to be quiet a bit so i can sleep (and they never bother to care or even lower thier voice) to they are very loud from morning to 4am so 2 days ago at 2:30 am i went to tell them that i cant sleep at all , they started telling me stuff like \"oh , so are you going to say that everyday ?\" And \"we study at night too , you are not the only one that studiest at night\" and complete bs so i just found myself yelling and i remember insulting them by saying to one of them \"idiot , stupid\" and then when i went back to my room i heard them from my window still talking loudly so i shouted and said \" you are a bunch of disabled retards\" then 5 minutes later they told my mum that i  insulted thier religion and i am pretty sure i didnt say one single swear word neither insult anyone's religion  and my mum didnt believe it anyway (they are still kind of loud anyway)\n\n\nTL;DR neighbores being loud till 3am everyday , i ask them to be quiet everyday and they just never lower thier voice , got sick of it and shouted at them then they told my mum that i insulted thier religion and mum didnt believe it anyway + they are still kind of loud anyway\n\n\nAlso i want to know if i should apologise or not? and yes i tried white noise closing the windows.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Gte2RQULfmTSFqgiJWUH6DHwFGcztfHr", "post_id": "as52ly", "action": {"description": "looking at porn", "pronormative_score": 24, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For looking at porn", "text": "Now I know what the title looks like but it's not really how it happened.\n\n​\n\nEarlier in the day my (ex) girlfriend and I had gotten frisky. So we decided to take a few photos together, it was a first for us. We'd both really enjoyed it. Now around midnight we both get into bed and I'm browsing Reddit as usual and I make a joke we should post our photos on Gonewild or something of the sorts. She is straight away defensive and accuses me of being a bad boyfriend for wanting people to get off to a photo of us.\n\n​\n\nI agree (kinda) It was just a joke.\n\n​\n\nSo here's where the porn watching comes into it. She's seen Gonewild before from my previous history and she's stated she wasn't comfortable with me watching it. So i stopped. \n\nShe got curious, and asked to me to show her what these type of subs looked like, So I complied and showed her. \n\n​\n\nWe were both looking through it together. Naturally as a red-blooded male my pp got hard and she was very upset. She asked me if i'd found a certain post attractive (It was a male and female) and I didn't want to lie of course. So i said yes. \n\n​\n\nShe's now kicked me out of the house, and broken up with me. She claims I am a monster who doesn't take her feelings into consideration. I disagree, and I am quite frustrated this has happened. \n\n​\n\nReddit, I need to know.. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 23, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 24, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rbWoloQZubWtJYFaPoTHw4KMu3d72Wx4", "post_id": "b3x29b", "action": {"description": "getting upset at my friend because she bullied my other friend last year", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting upset at my friend because she bullied my other friend last year?", "text": "Hi all. The title sounds a bit confusing, so here\u2019s the full thing. (Fake names are used)\n\nI met this girl named Maya this year in my 9th grade class (I\u2019m 15 years old). I didn\u2019t think I\u2019d ever talk with Maya, but we were put in a group project together, and soon started to talk with each other. We didn\u2019t exactly become best friends, but did hang out with each other some lunches.\n\nFast forward a bit to Monday, my other friend, Helen decided to hang out with us. Helen is quite shy, and does have anxiety, but she is a really good person to be friends with. While talking in a our group about people we didn\u2019t particularly like, Helen brought up that she actually used to be in Maya\u2019s friend group last year in middle school. She told us that Maya would constantly harass her, by showing/sending her nudes/gross pictures, reading out sexual stuff to her, making remarks about her body (She\u2019s around 5\u20190, while I\u2019m 5\u20196) and calling her a \u2018vampire\u2019 because she\u2019s quite pale. Helen would even go as far as to skip school just to get away from her. When I asked if she and Maya were on good terms now, Helen said that she never apologized for what she did to her, which made me angry.\n\nI haven\u2019t talked to Maya since Monday, and when she asked what was wrong, I told her that she should be ashamed of herself for what she did to Helen. She told me that she doesn\u2019t care, and that it shouldn\u2019t matter because it was a year ago. I said back to her that it doesn\u2019t matter, and that it still made Helen uncomfortable while she was around her. Maya said that I was just over reacting, and I didn\u2019t have to be such a bitch to her the past couple of days.\n\nSo, AITA?\n\n(Sorry for any spelling errors)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pqTt3Xv1X9BFeomtL3tptYKu7gmLausp", "post_id": "aiih3v", "action": {"description": "wanting for brother to give me his monitor", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for wanting for brother to give me his monitor?", "text": "So me and my brother live in my parents house (don't worry though it's not like I'm 45) and he has a monitor he never uses. I love to play video games but I have a crappy monitor. My grandma gave it to him for no reason. She just didn't have a use for it. His is WAY better than mine. And I'm kinda broke and can't afford a good monitor. I asked him a few days ago about the monitor and got into an argument with him. He says he can hook it up with his devices which o guess is fair, but he doesn't even have a computer for it!\nNot to mention he has a laptop. If I save for a couple weeks I could buy a monitor, but the way I see it I could have one way faster. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NwHAcNgtlfukSOheI0cAbu3acJkjYzLt", "post_id": "abfu3e", "action": {"description": "allegedly being a douchebag to Dad", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for allegedly being a douchebag to Dad", "text": "(This is my first post here, tell me if I do something wrong)\n\nSome context: \n\nMy birthday is right around christmas, and so usually my family combines both of those celebrations to get me one gift per year (I'm only 17, turning 18 soon, and so I live with both my parents). I know, it already sucks enough.\n\nI also have grown up with a huge respect for money, because I've not been allowed to have a job, so I spend the money that I get very wisely. That's why, I usually look to any opportunities to minimize family spending, meaning that I usually only ask for one expensive thing a year during that one period. That being said, if something is too expensive, if one of my parents tell me that buying that thing is impossible for financial reasons, then I've never argued with them about it.\n\nFor reasons that will become clear in a bit, I'm a decently athletic person, with a decently healthy lifestyle, and I go the the gym very regularly, though I don't enjoy exercising.\n\nNow to get into the story:\n\nI ask my dad for a set of those trendy new true wireless earbuds. The ones I request cost around $140. Pretty expensive, I know, but not out of this world costly. My dad says no, because he's ordered me an exercise bike/desk combo (yeah, seriously) that costs around $170.\n\nAs I said before, I'm a pretty healthy guy, so believe me when I say I do not need this bike. This is not a passive-aggressive push towards a better lifestyle because I'm not unhealthy to start with. Naturally, I politely tell my dad that I'd rather not get that, because for my yearly gift, I would rather have something that I actually want. I ask him to cancel the order. \n\nI'm fairly adamant about this, and my mom is on my side, and so one day my dad tells me that he ordered the earbuds. However, the ones he ordered are of much lower quality ($50) than the ones that I asked for. He orders them prior to telling me though, so I can't protest. However, he says that if the earbuds are not of good quality, he will return them.\n\nI'm somewhat peeved, but decide to give them a try. They arrive, I test them, and they're what I expected: okay but not great. I'm probably somewhat biased, but after reading reviews, it's clear that there is a significant drop in audio quality.\n\nSo, I text my dad if he can return them. Here's where the problems begin. He accuses me of taking him for granted and caring about simply the price of things instead of the feelings behind them. He claims that neither I, nor my brother (he's eight years old!) have any gratitude for him. \n\nI then explain excessively politely that I'm simply annoyed at how he always buys things first and then tells me after the fact (this has happened several times where he buys something different from what I ask, and I am too timid to speak out). \n\nThis receives no reply.\n\nI then say \"Also, about (brother). He is far too young for you to have the expectation of him showing gratitude. You can have it for me, but not for him. Please dont extend any of this onto him because he definitely doesnt deserve it.\"\n\nHe blows up and accuses me of teaching him how to parent, and refuses to speak to me afterwards, not replying to any explanations that I have.\n\nAITA for thinking that instead of buying a $170 chair and $50 earbuds, he could've simply bought the $140 earbuds and called it a day? \nAITA for expecting him to speak to me before buying stuff for me?\nAITA for trying to protect my brother from my dad's toxicity? \n\nFor the cherry on top:\n\nThe chair and the earbuds have not been returned. The earbuds are being charged and the bike has been assembled. I'm fairly sure that he's using both of them, or at least planning to. So I'm left with no present whatsoever. I'm suspicious that he bought the bike knowing he would be the one using it anyway. I'm not sure because we haven't spoken in three days.\n\nFor years now, my dad has emotionally blackmailed me in ways like this, and it always results in days of not speaking to eachother before my mom (an angel btw) convinces me to go and apologize several times to maintain the relationship. I'm beginning to think that silence is better than continuously sacrificing my dignity.\n\nHere's to the new year. \n\nP.S. The reason this is even a post is because of how convinced my dad is that he is right. Maybe there is something I'm missing.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wJGYIIJY2vCPsefFbw8wdpayAvR42fAH", "post_id": "b2jai2", "action": {"description": "cutting off people from my life for triggering my ptsd", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for cutting off people from my life for triggering my PTSD", "text": "some background: So the people in this story are as follows: K - A long time friend. S - K's Girlfriend \n\nI'm on mobile so sorry for format\n\nA few days ago I was getting ready for a dnd session as planned, when I got messages from half the people that they wouldn't be able to make it. That's no big deal. I have a one shot prepared, and all I need is another player. \n\nI had messaged K assuming she would want to play, and when she failed to respond for 15 minutes I hoped in the voice chat she, and S were talking in and asked her. S blew her top and muted me and started screaming that I was worthless and a piece of shit, not giving me a chance to defend myself. S knows fully well that this triggers my PTSD and I go non-verbal. Nobody can get a peep out of me once my flashbacks start. \n\nfast forward a few minutes after she stops yelling, and I manage to quell my flashbacks enough to pass off ownership of the server, and I leave. I promptly blocked the two of them, both K, and S, after K tried to guilt trip me that S was only joking around and that I need to grow up.\n\nI then created a new server for everyone from my dnd game without K or S.\n\nSo reddit, am I the asshole? Or are these two fuck nuts the assholes.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SUHkIbfmBDBbEZgJNI6D53GmY7Eh33kZ", "post_id": "ak3liu", "action": {"description": "not disclosing I get cold sores", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA I didn\u2019t disclose I get cold sores", "text": "Facts:\n\nWe are both female. \n\nRight now we live 2000 miles apart. \n\nWe are coming up on one year together. \n\nThis marks the 4th cold sore I\u2019ve ever gotten in my life. \n\nThis morning I sent a pic of my lip to my gf. She flipped out. \n\nI thought she was messing with me when she said \u201cI asked you in the beginning if you were clean\u201d \n\nI was floored and then my chest started to burn. \n\nShe kept reiterating that I have herpes. \n\nI did not disclose that I get cold sores because while I do know they are a strain of herpes it is not the same as hsv2 AND I have had so few in my life it doesn\u2019t even ping my radar until I get one. \n\n I would never kiss her or perform oral if I had an active cold sore. \n\nI feel completely humiliated. \n\nAm I the asshole here? Are cold sores something I need to add to my statement when we discuss STD\u2019s? \n\ntldr: I get cold sores. I didn\u2019t disclose before today and my gf freaked out on me. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Jcg2ALjeY45F0PCka2CgQMVT49phZ9Di", "post_id": "b6oki3", "action": {"description": "telling my wife to check her sugar", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Telling My Wife to Check Her Sugar?", "text": " I've been with my wife for almost 4 years. We have one child together, and she's pregnant with our second. She's a great mother and partner, and I love her to death. She is currently about 8 months pregnant. She has gestational diabetes, so she is forced to eat a diabetic diet and check her blood sugars.\n\nThroughout the pregnancy, she has been on and off about eating healthy and checking her sugars. She was very busy with work and school during the first trimester, so she primarily ate fast food between classes, etc and didn't check her sugar. I didn't really find out about her diet until later on when she said she was too busy/stressed to eat healthy.\n\nI try to do everything I can to help and be supportive. I almost always have a diabetic-friendly dinner made for when she gets home and lunches packed for her. If she is out running errands and hungry, I tell her to text me before she gets home and I'll make sure there's healthy food ready for her. I also do the majority of our cleaning to keep her from being stressed. In my mind, we're in the pregnancy together, and I want to do everything I can to help keep her and our baby healthy.\n\nFor awhile, she was rarely taking her blood sugar. She was busy, stressed, and I think the pregnancy emotions were making things very difficult. After eating fast food (5 months pregnant), she came back home and I told her she really needs to take her blood sugar. She was annoyed, but took it to basically appease me. It was almost 300. For those unaware, those are dangerous levels. She took that as a reality check and started to manage her gestational diabetes better.\n\nShe finished school around 6 months. For the next couple months, AFAIK, she was doing better. The other day (8 months pregnant), she came home with fast food. I asked her why she didn't message me to make her food\u2014she said she didn't think about it. I don't expect her to be perfect, so I just asked her to please take her blood sugar in an hour so we can manage it through exercise or whatever if necessary.\n\nAn hour passes by, I remind her, ask her if she wants me to get her supplies for her, etc. She said no she'll get it. Another 20 minutes passes, she said she is busy scheduling appointments. I told her I would literally bring it right to her since blood sugar is time-sensitive, and that her health is more important, but she needs to take it. She throws her papers in the air, yells that I'm annoying and nagging, and storms out of the house.\n\nI can see how it can be perceived as nagging, but it's not only her health, it's also our daughter's. It's frustrating because I'm completely reliant on her actions\u2014all I can do is try to make sure we have healthy food available and ready. We had a rough last pregnancy (ended up fine and healthy). So far through her appointments, everything has looked okay, but I'm still nervous about the birth.\n\nAm I nagging? Should I just let her do her thing and not worry so much? Or is she out of line getting pissed at me?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uULphOaheiqFAFlxHVJdryZif9LOoN6o", "post_id": "aodhik", "action": {"description": "cutting off my teenage son", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for cutting off my teenage son?", "text": "My son is currently 5'6 and 230 pounds, at the age of 17. Not a healthy weight at all! We have tried everything to help him lose weight and live a healthier lifestyle. I cook as many healthy dishes as I can, we measure and weigh all of his portions at home, and we've even dished out hundreds on personal trainers for him to try and help him get more active, but our efforts have not helped him at all. \n\n\n\nAll that being said, we give all of our children a $25 a week allowance for helping out around the house. While it may not be much, it usually covers anything they may want to do with friends, and of course they are free to save up if they choose. Recently however, it just dawned on us just how much of that money is going to my son's fast food habit: every single cent. We found a bunch of receipts he left lying around after cleaning out his backpack that showed us he eats out almost every single day!\n\n\n\nAfter confirming with him that this was all true, my husband and I decided to cut him off. He wouldn't have to help out if he didn't want to around the house anymore, but we aren't giving him an allowance anymore. We told him that at his age, if he wants to ruin his body then he can do it on his own dime by finding a job. \n\n\n\nThat said, obviously until he does so we aren't actually going to cut him off. If his friends are going out, we'll give him a few bucks, we just don't want him to have the means of eating out as often as he does.\n\n\n\nAnyways, this has been a cause of a whole bunch of arguing in the house. He's saying he's too busy  with school, and that it's unfair that he gets nirbinfi while his siblings  still get an allowance, so if you have any opinions on this, please let me know! \n\n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "on5q7TmcQfGyofUT3l9iUS4tvYPYhvHr", "post_id": "avskrw", "action": {"description": "not keeping in touch with my friend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not keeping in touch with my friend?", "text": "Hello! English is not my native language, I apologize for any mistakes. \nI stayed in touch with 4 girls from my friend group in high school (we're 23 now). We'll call the friend in question Amy.\n\nThe problem between us started when we would meet (the 4 of us) and I noticed she would take very minimal part of the conversation. She is very easily distracted, and usually about 50% of the time we hang out she will be on her phone chatting to other friends, or she falls asleep and asks to wake her when we're leaving, which we gave her shit about constantly but she would see it as a joke and part of her personality and wouldn't really stop. \n\nI think it's rude and after a while I kind of stopped putting effort in keeping in touch, and she in turn didn't do much on her side. \nThe 2 other girls from the original group and I all live nearby so I see them quite often, though rarely as a group. \nOnly 1 friend remained in semi-regular contact with her (Kate). \n\nAmy is going on a trip that will possibly last a few months and she sent a text in our group chat that if we want to see her before this we should do something about it. \nI thought it was bizarre that she sent that text in a chat that's been dead for the last year, and couldn't meet her in the time frame anyway so I didn't respond. \n\nKate met with her yesterday and she mentioned that Amy was hurt that me and the other friend didn't reach out. I felt quite bad about it honestly, but after I thought about it a little I'm not so sure she's in the right. \n\nI think that it's weird that she got offended with how distant we've obviously become, but maybe she felt that we were still close? AITA? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9KKWens750D9sk0qXSoUaGkMkJBPmOTy", "post_id": "ag2ex8", "action": {"description": "discriminating on when/where I choose to tip", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for discriminating on when/where I choose to tip?", "text": "I get takeout a few times each wk from a cpl local restaurants I've frequented for years and never tip. I don't don't think much of it. The exception is if I am ordering takeout from a new or different restaurant that does not know me and the food is not ready by the time I arrive. I tip bc I don't want the person or people in charge of my order putting my food together like shit. I feel like this is more of an issue at foreign restaurants as well. Esp if/when they're speaking a different language. What's the consensus on this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "kgMcLcf1FUY2y0L6eUdXmZ8D8AN6X1GW", "post_id": "b109no", "action": {"description": "not wanting to reply to my uncle's message because of his racist Facebook posts", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to reply to my uncle's message because of his racist Facebook posts?", "text": "I only met this uncle once in my life and he doesn't live in the same country as me. \n\nMy dad has told me lots of weird things about my uncle, like how he married a girl he met whilst she was under age and 30 years younger than him. He lies a lot and pretends to get married to different women and divorced again, all without the rest of the family ever seeing these people. \n\nMy dad is communicating with my uncle again but my dad complains that my uncle is asking him for money, for favours etc. \n\nI feel no connection to this uncle and I saw on Facebook he posts ignorant thing about 'muslims taking away our pork'...Which is ridiculous. Loud, outspoken but ignorant people really annoy me and I don't really want a relationship with my uncle. He posts angry rants on Facebook and it makes me uncomfortable so I 'unfollowed' him. \n\nBut AITA for not replying to his message to me which just asks how I've been etc? I'm 24 years old and we haven't seen each other since I was 4 and I don't plan on seeing him either. Does being family mean I should reply to him? To be honest I don't really like messaging anyone on Facebook and prefer talking face to face. I don't want to get into a back and fourth conversation with him. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "i5GYplRSsiv2XLJZfunUvglrNq9U7S8I", "post_id": "ay68ry", "action": {"description": "kicking a guest out of my party for not socializing", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 55}, "title": "AITA For kicking a guest out of my party for not socializing?", "text": "This past Friday, I had a party at my house. I invited a few friends and coworkers over for some drinks, games and food. One particular guest was sort of a plus one, but not really. He was the friend of a coworker that had invited him along, but they came to the party separately. I thought it was no big deal, we had plenty of food and drinks to go around.\n\nIt was about 20 minutes in when I noticed this guy standing around awkwardly. So I asked if everything was alright, and he said yes. He said that no one was talking to him. So I talked with him for a moment, learned more about him. Then, I introduced him to a friend of mine who had similar interests. They chatted for a bit, but 5 minutes later, I saw him standing alone again. I asked what\u2019s up, and he said no one was talking to him.\n\nI asked where my friend was, and he just shrugged. I suggested that he join a game of uno going on, but he refused. I suggested he mingle, and he also refused.\n\nNow this is where I started to get annoyed. He says no one is talking to him, despite the fact that he was being talked to earlier. And he says no one is talking to him, when he can go up to someone and say \u201cHi\u201d. At this point, I\u2019m starting to see what\u2019s going on; he just wants to feel sorry for himself, or he wants everyone else to drop what they\u2019re doing and make him feel less awkward. So I told him that if he\u2019s just going to stand around, he can leave. He did, and I let his friend (my coworker) know.  She said it was shitty to tell him to leave, but I explained that he wasn\u2019t making the effort to socialize with others, and I didn\u2019t have time to drag him around to make him talk to people. AITA for this?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 54, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 55}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "FTKA5xSSet4sZYdngDZalsfcVhql2C27", "post_id": "af8un7", "action": {"description": "not sharing food with my best friend", "pronormative_score": 29, "contranormative_score": 94}, "title": "AITA for not sharing food with my best friend", "text": "My best friend and I live together. He doesn't pay any bills, he lives here for free. He doesn't pay for groceries. He doesn't have a car, I take us everywhere. \n\nSometimes he's loud, sometimes he's dirty and he smells, but I put up with it all because he's my best friend. \n\nNow, on to the question, everytime I eat he wants a portion of my meal. It's not like he doesn't have food either, I always make sure there's enough food for both of us - albeit not always the same type of food. He doesn't outrightly say anything, he usually just stares at me until either I give in or don't. Usually I do. \n\n[Pic for context.](https://i.imgur.com/8QJkJle.jpg)\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 91, "OTHER": 26, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 29, "WRONG": 94}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "rM3961vGXfseVosOWeGeTyEpGhQKLEl6", "post_id": "al78kc", "action": {"description": "getting upset when my girlfriend told me about rumors about a party", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For getting upset when my girlfriend told me about rumors about a party", "text": "My girlfriend went to this party saturday and i didnt want to go because i hate parties, Every party i went to there were fights or someone getting cheated on or something not good. So she went and everything was good.\n        Then today she calls me and says rumors are going around the school about her cheating on me. We talk and i know her history with achohal and guys she has never cheated but she tried a few times when drunk. So with her saying its not true and i have super fucking bad anxitey about getting cheated on so im upset and i dont fully trust her so i talk to my friends about the party and 1 of them is 100% convinced that she cheated. I meet with my girlfriend (at mcdonalds) and i text the guy that she (might of) cheated on me with. He denies it and says people are trying to get us to fight. Then after my girlfriend leaves and calls me 20 min later saying how i should leave her and shes not good for me. Am i the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TPG9rNpZybbkm93jWFdEhuuZXZfS36QA", "post_id": "a2ajcd", "action": {"description": "blocking a friend who I knew had anger management issues because I was tired of their aggressive behavior towards me", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for blocking a friend who I knew had anger management issues because I was tired of their aggressive behavior towards me?", "text": "Here's why I'm wondering if I'm the asshole- I knew going into the friendship that she had anger management issues, PTSD & other issues.\n\nWe got along well most of the times, but sometimes I'd just say something and she'd flip her shit. It's gotten worse lately.\n\n* I asked her not to vent about Discord too me, because I'd left discord, and because it was a trigger I was working though at the time. She exploded saying I was \"the only fucking person I could talk to about it\" and an hour later, after I didn't talk to her, she said fine and she would treat it like a trigger. I said thank you. She refused to talk to me for 3 days after that. \n\n* She said she was happy she attacked her mother & put her in the hospital, and that she would attack one of my friends and put him in the hospital if she could (luckily, she's in a different country than she is)\n\n* She has gotten banned from several places because she told someone she hoped they would die, and that she would kill her. \n\n* She accused me of not replying to her fast enough then refused to talk to me the next morning (this is why I blocked her, finally; and it's why I feel bad. It's not a huge issue, I was just so tired of the bullshit).\n\nShe was often sweet... \n\nI feel really bad for blocking her and still do, because I know she struggles with anger issues... but I just can't deal anymore.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wr6IMzXw0CKYK3hHaMRW0CVM3OFWGxtH", "post_id": "ap9bzq", "action": {"description": "talking about my housemate behind their back", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for talking about my housemate behind their back?", "text": "I am a university student and I live with three other people, all students. Overall, we are relatively clean. We have weekly chores that we are all assigned, and the general rule is to wash your dishes within the day you use them. \n\nOn Tuesday, we noticed one housemate (let's call them Housemate A) had not done their dishes in a while. They were starting to pile up and they hadn't been washed out (there was food stuck to them). I had seen an ant in the apartment earlier so I sent a message to the group chat, asking everyone to remember to do their dishes within 1-2 days to avoid bugs. Housemate A responded, saying they could probably not do the stack of dishes until the weekend. They said they were busy since they had 4 midterms, and had no time. I was a little peeved but I told them that I understood they were busy.   \nFast forward to Thursday night, and the dishes were still not done. There was a dead fly in one of the cups, the plates and bowls were not rinsed out, and they were starting to smell. It was so gross. One of the housemates and I started complaining to each other in the kitchen, just saying that we were grossed out, and it was incredibly annoying that Housemate A had left them this long, *especially when we have a dishwasher*. Said nothing bad about them as a person, but we expressed our general annoyance and exasperation with the situation. \n\nThe next morning, we wake up to see that the housemate has posted a long rant on their Snapchat about people they trusted talking behind her back, talking shit, etc. We realized that they probably heard us discussing the dish situation the previous night before. They posted all these quotes about how people are quick to criticize but never congratulate them on their accomplishments -- just generally really passive-aggressive stuff. I feel bad for complaining to my other housemate, but I also don't think they should have left their dishes that long when we have a dishwasher. It's been three days and they have yet to say a word to me or the other housemate; it's pretty obvious they are ignoring us and giving us the cold shoulder. Were we assholes for talking behind their back? I don't want to lose our friendship over this, but I also think they are slightly overreacting. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HZouk8VntubLCcWWT48TNIXZj7soJ7H6", "post_id": "b74z64", "action": {"description": "not forgiving my mom for being transphobic after somebody influenced her", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not forgiving my mom for being transphobic after somebody influenced her?", "text": "So, I'm trans, if that wasn't obvious.\n\nMy mom and I have a complicated relationship, and she isn't exactly the greatest mom in the world, but she had always been supportive of me being trans. Until last month.\n\nSeemingly out of nowhere, she started questioning how I \"knew\" I was trans and if there could be some \"underlying cause\" that was just making me think I was. I kept telling her that uh, no, I'm actually trans, and that isn't how it works. She didn't believe me, and started insisting I see a different therapist to get a \"second opinion\" on my own gender identity. She also tried to keep me from seeing my current therapist, who specializes in working with LGBT people and who I've seen for 3+ years, because she wasn't asking these questions and was just \"encouraging it\". At one point she even considered talking to my doctor to try and take me off my hormone replacements, which I've been taking for over two years.\n\nI was a complete wreck. I had never felt so betrayed in my life. Dramatic as it sounds, it felt like I didn't even know my mom anymore. Every time I tried to talk to her about this it ended with me leaving the room in tears. This wouldn't have been such a big deal if I was independent, but because of debilitating anxiety issues I have to rely on my mom for a lot, and she was basically trying to cut me off from the things that had been helping me the most for years. I was terrified.\n\nThis goes on for a few weeks, and then as soon as it started, it stopped. I was relieved but extremely confused, because at first my mom refused to tell me anything. After I kept pushing for answers she finally told me that a friend of hers had been influencing her and putting harmful transphobic ideas in her head, and my mom believed them. She finally snapped out of it because she saw how it was affecting me and didn't want our relationship to be ruined because of something like this.\n\nAnd, well, I'm having trouble forgiving her. I was really hurt by all of this and I felt like a huge amount of trust had been broken. I'm constantly questioning how much she actually accepts me and I'm afraid to be as open with her as I used to. Plus, she trusted the words of somebody who doesn't even support trans people over mine. She understands why I'm not over it, but she's also kind of pushing me to \"move on, it's over\". Should I just forgive and forget? I want to believe nothing like this would happen again, but I was led to believe that nothing like this would have happened in the first place, so I don't know.\n\nI suppose on the bright side, my mom's looking into family therapists for the two of us to talk to, so hopefully that'll do some good.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mwOJFJjCcBVpCOI80kvjZSIGABASsSN4", "post_id": "b6uqiy", "action": {"description": "not being able to be in a relationship with someone that can't be intimate", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not being able to be in a relationship with someone that can\u2019t be intimate?", "text": "I\u2019ve been with this amazing girl for about a year now. She\u2019s funny, smart, kind and my friends and family all love her. But I get the feeling that I\u2019ve only been with her for so long because I feel sorry for her. \n\nHere\u2019s a bit of background on us. We met on an online dating app last year and have both come out of abusive long term relationships and kinda bonded over some shared experiences and the fact that we\u2019re both decent, caring people. The trouble is that, although we\u2019ve been together for so long and have tried to be intimate a few times, it just doesn\u2019t seem to happen. \n\nShe gets aroused and everything and even initiates the sexy time escapades but I can\u2019t penetrate her. I do know she\u2019s a virgin (not sure if that matters) but as an adult in a relationship, it\u2019s hard not being intimate after being together for over a year. \n\nWe\u2019ve been together through some tough times and we know that we\u2019re always there to support each other, but without that physical part of the relationship, I just don\u2019t know if I feel like I\u2019m in love with her or whether I just love her as a person? \n\nWe\u2019ve had conversations about this before and she says that she\u2019d understand if I left, but I can\u2019t do it because she doesn\u2019t have any friends or family to care for her. And I just want her to be safe (she has a crazy ex husband that has threatened her many times before) and most of all I want her to be happy.\n\nAny advice would appreciated guys ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AEp3warXzUxHokfgBt2fMW8kXVKJ36DR", "post_id": "am0har", "action": {"description": "asking my neighbor to keep it down in this way", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking my neighbor to keep it down in this way?", "text": "I'm in my bed awake at 3:37 AM as we speak because my next door neighbor has woken me up, again. He does this, on both week days and weekends, by coming home (seemingly wasted) with friends and shouting in the hallway until they get to his place. Even once they're there, he's so loud that I can hear him through the concrete walls of our building. Every time, I can kiss a productive workday the next day goodbye. \n\nThe work thing is not the worst part. I also have Juvenile Myoclonic Epilepsy, with which I get seizures only if I am sleep deprived. Awakening startled from sleep is the #1 trigger for a seizure. But, he doesn't know this. I've actually never even spoken to this person, I just pass him in the hallway, at which point he avoids my gaze. Tried to be friendly but feel like he doesn't give me the opportunity. \n\nApparently I'm a wuss and afraid of confrontation, so I left him a note on his door that said exactly the following: \"Please be considerate of your neighbors when coming home after 12am. Have a lot of early mornings. No hate, just would appreciate it. Thank you :)\" \n\nAnd yes, I did draw a smiley face lol. I really didn't want this to get ugly with someone I have to live next to. \n\nThen I popped some meditation music into some headphones. But THEN, I hear him THROUGH the music I'm playing (again, in headphones) and take them off, and hear him saying \"....and she tells ME to keep it down?!\"...among other undetectable things. He was pissed, and I was shocked. If I received a note like that, I think my reaction would have been \"omg, I had no idea I was being loud, I'm so sorry, I'm mortified.\" Instead, he's angry. At ME. \n\nI'm also not sure what he's talking about when he says that, I'm an extremely boring neighbor and don't even have people over because I live in a tiny studio apartment, lol. I try so hard to be undetectable. \n\nI actually thought I had left him the note after people had left as to not embarrass him, but it turns out there was still one person still left over. As they left, he made a point of shouting even louder in the hallway. \"BYE!.....BYE AGAIN!....TEXT ME WHEN YOU GET HOME!.....GOOODNIGHT!....\"\n\n?? This is a child, right? I mean, we all make mistakes, but if I found out I was waking people up, I would apologize. Instead, looks like I just made it worse for myself. Am I the asshole for leaving him this note?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IGUtg9MpaPVawjmiRKpjaaLlFtjbgKHU", "post_id": "ao4454", "action": null, "title": "AITA? HVAC man charged 300 for work and I think I want my money back($300)?", "text": "My heater went out in my house. Entire line was dead. I tracked it down the fusebox and called a HVAC guy to come change the fuse box.\n\nI should also mention there is fusebox disconnect that I had assumed was my furnace but I am not an AC guy. \n\nThe HVAC guy comes in and tests the disconnect (believes it goes to my electric furnace) and there is power from the disconnect but there is no power to the furnace. He claims the fusebox is fine and that I shouldnt fix what isnt broken.\n\nHe cuts the wire from the aforementioned disconnect and runs to the furnace with a new wire directly to it.\n\nHe leaves after I pay him 300 dollars for this.\n\nWell come to find out that disconnect was my fucking stove. I no longer have an oven working.\n\nMy friend comes by the next day and starts finding all sorts of things wrong with his installation. \n\nI end up paying someone else to install a breaker box in place of the old fuse box and now everything works again like it should.\n\nAITA for wanting my money back?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oMTSsHNOEfXgGqkrxo0WuzDPNpHGgjT9", "post_id": "b77lhe", "action": null, "title": "AITA if my boss is trying to steal my day off?", "text": "Me and 3 friends have planned a weekend getaway for a BSB concert in August. The concert is on Saturday, and 6 hours drive time away. I work M-F and am off weekends, so I requested Thurs, Fri, and Mon off of work so that I can pack Thursday, drive Friday, concert Saturday, drive home Sunday. I took Monday off to relax at home before work again. I put in this request at the end of November and my Supervisor approved it. Now, my department is made up of just me and my supervisor at the moment, as work is slow and corporate has recently deemed we didn't need to hire a replacement for a co-worker that left in October. We are the only 2 people that can do what we do, but have been able to manage with just one of us for recent vacations.\nThis past Monday, my supervisor says to me:\n\nSupervisor: I forgot to tell you! I hate BSB but I'm going to one of their concerts.\n\nMe: Oh, nice. Where?\n\nS: Hershey Park.\n\nM: How funny, that's the day after my BSB concert. Do you plan on going to the park?\n\nS: maybe saturday. My friend really loves BSB and was sad tickets were so expensive nearby so this weekend her and some friends decided to buy tickets to Hershey because they were way cheaper. And I decided why the hell not, and have a girls trip. My friends got floor seats for around $300 which i didn't want to pay so I got seats in the 300 level for around $50, but I'll walk around to visit them. I told the manager that I'll be needing that Monday off.\n\nM: Oh, well I already requested that Monday off and you approved it, so...\n\nS: I'll be 4 hours away so I don't know how I'll be back in time for work Monday\n\nM: I'll be 6 hours away, so... *blink, blink*\n\nS: I'm sure we can figure something out by then. It's 4 months away. \n\nSo after that little exchange, I made sure to go to our manager and explain that the day my Supervisor told her she needed off, I had already requested and was approved for. Just in case things couldn't be \"worked out.\"\n\nAITA if I refuse to give up my Monday off because my supervisor decided to schedule a trip and buy tickets before making sure the day was available?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PubdI30aiv7M1tYCs5IaxZrIgqOUB0Bb", "post_id": "b20r0j", "action": {"description": "not wanting to watch my brother", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to watch my brother?", "text": "so a little bit of background, my parents adopted a boy from China back in 2015 and I was super exited to have a little bro since my older one never lived with us. I'm 19 and still living in my parents house until I finish hs\n\n​\n\nnow onto the tea. My mom is a flight attendant and is constantly away on trips, even more so now that my parents are getting a divorce and she wants to be away from the constant yelling and save up for a new place. My dad on the other hand is former military and a MMA teacher. When my mom is away on trips, my dad is always at his girlfriends house or the bar drinking or playing his music. I've been asking to see my boyfriend for weeks now but every time I try to leave the house I get told that I need to stay home and babysit. When I confront my parents about wanting to have a normal life and go out they just tell me I live in their house so I gotta live by their rules. I don't want to move out yet since I know if I do, the poor kid will be left in the house all alone.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Rf55F6mtif51OvPCdAh0QmvAusAlotF0", "post_id": "axnu24", "action": {"description": "calling out my friend/co-worker for calling in sick", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA because I called out my friend/co-worker for calling in sick?", "text": "I\u2019ll keep this as short as possible.\nI got him this job 5 years ago about 3 months after I started. He knows how to do about 5 tasks here while I know 40+ different tasks.\n\nHe isn\u2019t a very motivated person and lives with his parents without many bills to pay (he is in his 30s), but still never has money. \n\nWe get along fine at work for the most part, but he calls in sick. A LOT.\nThis is last year\u2019s list: Jan 16th - Tuesday\nFeb 5th - Monday\nFeb 26th - Monday\nMarch 12th - Monday\nMarch 26th - Monday\nApril 16th - Monday \nApril 17th - Tuesday \nJune 4th - Monday\nJune 26th - Tuesday\nJuly 16th - Monday\nAugust 13th - Monday\nAugust 14th - Tuesday\nSeptember 18th -Tuesday\nSeptember 19th - Wednesday \nOctober 23rd - Tuesday\nNovember 6th - Tuesday\nNovember 14th - Wednesday\nNovember 15th - Thursday \nNovember 16th - Friday \n\u2014\nHe claims he is sick every one of these times. \nI got him this job so it kind of makes me look like an asshole having someone call out so much.\n\nI\u2019ve tried to give him the benefit of the doubt and ask him to see a doctor if he is truly sick this often. He gets moody and claims that the doctors just tell him to vitamins.\n\nThis has been going on for 5 years now without any slowing down. Other co workers are upset that he calls out so much because we are a small company (less than 10 people) so we struggle a bit when someone isn\u2019t here.\n\n\nAITA for calling him out on his bullshit? This is a very demanding job in the summer where we work 60 hours a week.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KBZqkEhQQtbJ05A2DU2ixy8twaiGIHbN", "post_id": "aiiech", "action": {"description": "not talking to my brother", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not talking to my brother?", "text": "Excuse me for my grammer/spelling mistakes(english is not my first language.)\nBackround so me and my brother called brian are step brothers and he is the younger one(this is important for later on.) It started when he was around 9 i was about 11 at that point. He was starting to be mean to evreyone around him including our parents. I was very awkward and shy at that moment i had no self esteem so i was an easy target. I would be mean he would hit me and i wouldn't say anything(they didn't hurt.) But when i was 13 he became more aggressive he would hit me with objects. I actually hit him with my hand (not very hard) but he made into a whole scene and told my parents so i thought it was a fitting time to tell my parents. They were mad at me because he was younger this got me very angry because he was free to do whatever he wants. I am now 16 and he is 14 i only speak to him when it is neccary. But i feel horrible because this has caused a massive gap in our family. So tell me am i the asshole?\nP.s this is my first post so if i sound like a dumb 9 year old with my sentence structure it's because my sentences are exactly that", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "yFwBN98bbVOBw1m2es0scDKUcyZWQ7t7", "post_id": "an0vuc", "action": {"description": "being pissed of that dad gave a present to my sister that I wanted myself", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being pissed of that dad gave a present to my sister that I wanted myself?", "text": " For context; my sister (I'll call her Rachel) just turned 18 and I just turned 20. I emigrated at 16 years old with my mother and Rachel stayed with our father in her country. Our mom got diagnosed with cancer after 6 months and 2 years later she died. I still live alone in the other country.\n\nHer illness had different effects on the both of us. I had a lot of time with my mother and it allowed me to make peace with our limited time, but my life became really hard since I had to do a lot on my own and don't have a family near me that can support me, I am over stressed and am in the process of dropping out of (high?) school.\n\nI imagine that our moms death came fast for Rachel, but her life seems stable enough. I do know that she has a lot of emotional trouble, not a lot of friends and has problems with my father (he has the tendency to always complain about our mother, hurray) but she is economically supported and is encouraged to discover the world. She has one more year to go before she finishes college.\n\nPeople always had the tendency to compare us (as any other siblings) but it was terrible last summer. Rachel seemed reasonable happy, was having fun and just generally in a good mood, while I didn\u2019t know who I was anymore, felt like a complete and utter failure and I thought daily about commiting suicide. People saw that I wasn\u2019t happy and wanted to cheer me up by pointing out how Rachel and I are the same. It only made me feel worse since the things they said weren\u2019t correct.\n\nFast forward 2-3 months, I made it a point to concentrate on myself and find my own passions / hobbies (Rachel and I shared a lot of hobbies when we were younger) and do something that made me feel like my own person and not just a worse version of Rachel. I became interested in cooking and started to experiment more. November comes and I finally find something that I really like, cocktails.\n\nI got excited since it was almost my birthday and I would finally be allowed to buy alcohol at the liquor store (drinking age here is 18 but you can\u2019t buy anything above 3,5% until 20). I am looking up ingredients, shakers, types of alcohol etc. and deciding how to collect my own bar. I spoke about this new interest / hobby / passion with my dad and he seemed happy that I found something that really sparked joy for me.\n\nSo I finally found a shaker that I liked this week but I have to wait until end of this month or next month to make sure that I can afford to order it, I inform my dad that I found \u2018the one\u2019 and show him the picture. His reaction?\n\n\u2018Nice, I gave one to Rachel for her birthday.\u2019\n\nI have the tendency to be jealous of Rachel, since dad had the habit to treat her better than me in general when we were younger. These kind of actions don't help.\n\nAm I the asshole for being pissed of that he gave my sister a present for her birthday that I wanted to buy myself for my birthday and?  \nNote: I am disappointed that my present feels ruined, but I am not angry at Rachel.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "f0GgJgIE4JsyruW080KmOIlSFhahbOY9", "post_id": "awy8rh", "action": {"description": "not giving my ex her Christmas Present", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for not giving my ex her Christmas Present?", "text": "For Christmas I got my girlfriend two tickets to see one of her favorite artists in May. I never printed the tickets, only the digital receipt, so I still have the actual tickets in my possession. We long distance dated for three months and I broke up with her roughly a week ago because I didn\u2019t see the relationship going anywhere. It honestly should\u2019ve never started in the first place. She also has a horrible princess complex and has never been told \u201cno\u201d in her life. I actually found out I was the first guy to ever dump her. She hasn\u2019t been taking it well, and for the past few days she\u2019s been sending a LOT of derogatory texts.  She also keeps demanding that I \u201cowe her\u201d the concert tickets. I understand she\u2019s going through a bit of an emotional roller coaster right now, but with all the nasty things she\u2019s said to me I don\u2019t feel inclined to give her the tickets. So Reddit, am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 21, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KrMdxnFNbWK9ybsHqmWElQnJqYkjtVMZ", "post_id": "a0eg65", "action": {"description": "hoping sex workers get audited", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for hoping sex workers get audited?", "text": "The whole #thotaudit fiasco has me hoping that sex workers who don't pay taxes on their earnings deserve punishments. According to Twitter that makes me an asshole incel virgin woman hater. (seriously). I definitely don't like tax but that doesn't mean that they don't have to pay it because they are female. (Obviously there are some male ones and they should pay too but ultimately everyone defends them as their \"fellow women\") So AITA? (optional WIBTA: for reporting them to the IRS?)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "TAsizxOKdgGSmYTjPSQLe2AWRqshiFGG", "post_id": "9x10ik", "action": {"description": "not wanting to hangout with sick girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to hangout with sick girlfriend?", "text": "Some background:\n\nA couple of months ago I was sick. My girlfriend asked if I wanted anything and I said I was okay and could take care of myself. She had soup delivered to my apartment regardless. This was obviously a really sweet thing to do and I was very thankful. I expressed this to her. She also came over while I was sick to hangout despite my warnings that she would also get sick, which she did. \n\nFast forward to now, she is sick. When she told me, I asked if there is anything at all I could do. I told her I would get her soup and all that and she said she was okay and had no appetite. She said if I came over it would help. I have a pretty bad nose infection right now that has been effecting my lungs and I really don\u2019t want to get sick on top of that, especially because I leave soon for military training and any doctor visits need to get reported and come with a ton of paperwork (and in bad cases even a disqualification). I told her this and she got upset and we had a whole fight over it a couple of days ago. It was resolved mostly, and now today she again asked if I would have dinner with her tonight. Obviously, my answer was the same thing. She told me things like \u201cit says a lot about a person how they act when you\u2019re sick\u201d and that I\u2019m choosing a \u201c5% chance of a cough over hanging out with her before i leave for training\u201d and when I challenged that, she said she won\u2019t argue about it and will see me in a few days. \n\nI get that she was really attentive when I was sick and I appreciate that, but it feels like she\u2019s assuming I should act the same way regardless of circumstance. Am I the asshole for not hanging out with my sick girlfriend?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ekm6QuZoJOg0xfNyq99zwRE79dPtT6du", "post_id": "azk5ts", "action": {"description": "removing the protective plastic off my friend's tv I was borrowing", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for removing the protective plastic off my friend's TV I was borrowing?", "text": "I didn't have a TV and my friend hasn't been able to use his due to work, school, and family so he let me borrow it for a while until I got my own which I did recently.\n\nI noticed that he left the protective plastic on the corners of the TV so I peeled it off. It wasn't blocking the view of the TV, just was around the trim. Still wasn't pleasant to look at. I didn't have anyone coming over but it was irritating to see it while I watched TV.\n\nHe got upset when he came to pick up the TV saying he's had it for years and didn't want the plastic removed. He didn't yell or curse or anything like that, just seemed irritated by it. I feel like he should have taken it off anyway and there's nothing wrong with what I did. That plastic isn't supposed to be there and is only meant for when it's being transported.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Gqr0G6DMKznVwBndUgnNolWzJ5RyhpQJ", "post_id": "b7iyx3", "action": {"description": "wanting to accomplish my dad's goal of starting a dynasty", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting to accomplish my dad's goal of starting a dynasty?", "text": "Weird title, weirder story. But best with me here. \n\nMy dad is essentially a wannabe politician. He's pretty rich but also pretty obscure, and wanted to be a politician but lost the only election he ever contested because he's introverted, a bad speaker, and gets easily rattled in debates.\n\nSo, he's kind of projecting his dreams onto his three kids [25F, 23M, and me, 20M]. He has pretty clear roles for each of us:\n\n25F, let's call her Carla: Carla's a former D1.athlete, and currently in the Navy. My dad's train of thought here is that she's extroverted, charismatic, good-looking, and a veteran, so a natural for elected positions. \n\n23M, let's call him Max: Max is in law school and really into debate/public speaking, and is a national-level debater and mock trial attorney. Therefore, my dad wants him in high-profile legal stuff, eventually maybe becoming a judge on an important circuit.\n\nMe: The most like our dad: introverted, not super charismatic, but also assertive and a good organizer/leader. Have been interning on campaigns since I was 16, and am fascinated by the topic of campaigns and marketing in general. Also, I'm studying economics and international relations, and planning to pursue a phd. So, my role's supposed to be basically strategist/manager/policy advisor. \n\nRecently, Carla has been expressing that she doesn't like our plan anymore because she's now apparently a libertarian. One time, this devolved into an argument. I pointed out that both parties had libertarian wings, so it's ridiculous to break with our plan. Don't get me wrong, if she doesn't want to go into politics, that's one thing. But if she's backing out because she's a libertarian, I think that's just stupid, considering that both parties have libertarian wings. \n\nEveryone agreed with my point, except for Carla, who called me an asshole and left. On some level, I'm glad she just considers me an asshole, as opposed to the whole family, since she might listen to them. But I've been wondering, am I?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ahwOyBXqiZ92EseFFLhD0YwaXVkl6fLq", "post_id": "aqq88z", "action": null, "title": "AITA", "text": "So I had two friends who I got along with really well and we were hanging out everyday. I noticed the two of them started to hang out together more without me and when I brought it up they blatantly lied to me. Lets call them sally and red \n\nSally can drive, and we were all going to hang out with her after school. I asked her if we could still hang out at lunch and she said she was busy. When i start to go home i see both sally and red getting in the car. I texted red about it and she said something like \"oh sallys just taking me home because i peed myself we're not really hanging out\" I know she was lying but i tried to take her word. Then a couple hours later I check her sc story and they're hanging out together. \n\nThey only came over if i had weed and we would hang out for 15 mins, smoke, then they would hang out together without me. Even when i hinted i wanted to go i was ignored. Since I'm a dramatic 16 year old girl i posted an indirect on my story that said \"i hate confrontation but this is hurting me\" (I now know that was immature but i was upset at the time) sally proceeds to text me and say \" if you dont want to be friends just say so lmao\" i lied and said it was for someone else because i have bad anxiety and attachment problems and losing people makes it worse (they knew this, i warned them before we where friends that i cant get too close because i will get extremely unstable when i lose people) \n\nCut forward to now and they just completely dropped me, and say passive agressive things on their story and at school. I just want to know if its my fault because what i posted, I'm not sure if i deserve this or not. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wL1WX54ENW8XQg6NppbijK1MVSvoQTkO", "post_id": "9xtxzg", "action": {"description": "being happy classes were cancelled", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being happy classes were cancelled?", "text": "I\u2019m a college student in California and my college had some classes cancelled this past week and will have the remainder of classes cancelled next week as well due to extremely hazardous air conditions from the Camp Fire. \n\nMy friends and I are all happy that school is closed and we get an early break + postponed midterms. At the same time though, I am well aware that my break is the result of 56 people dying, and some of my close friends live in areas heavily affected by the fire. \n\nAITA for being happy about cancelled classes?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5omxBXIcJnvv9ds25J1uxjC3N58xTRV9", "post_id": "aqqo8l", "action": {"description": "letting my boss know I was sick", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for letting my boss know I was sick?", "text": "This has really been bothering me so I decided I needed to ask some unbiased people.\n\nI(20F) was starting a new job as a Barista in a small chain cafe. After my second shift(Tuesday) I fell ill with an intense cold that's been plaguing my household for about 2 weeks. My throat hurt, I was nauseated and snotty constantly. My next shift was scheduled for Friday(also my third shift) , I knew I would probably be better by then but regardless on Thursday morning I decided to let my boss know what was going on.\n\nWe talked on the phone, he said it may just be hay-fever and I said it definitely wasn't. I said I was still happy to come in the next day but just wanted to let him know what was going on. He said that calling in sick on my third shift was a bad impression, I said I wasn't calling in sick, I was just telling him I was sick. He said he was starting to reconsider employment and told me he would let me know that night(the night before I had to start early the next day).\n\nI shoot him a text to tell him that I was 90% sure I would be well enough on Friday to come in but after reading all the informational packets he sent me I thought it would be better to let him know.\n\nAt around 6pm he sends me a message saying hes terminating my employment.\n\nNow, I can see where he was coming from if I was actually calling in sick and wasn't sick. We talked on the phone so he should've been able to hear my strained voice.\nHe said it was a bad impression to call in sick (again wasn't actually calling in sick, just letting him know) but I feel it would've been worse if I showed up to work snotty and gross without telling him, especially because I work with food.\n\nTl;Dr. Wanted to let my new boss know I was sick. He fired me for leaving a bad impression.\n\nAnyway, I came here to ask your opinions so let me have it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JTdpoiCYOPpmhGC0LufZ5pdfVzz5rLiV", "post_id": "ay409k", "action": {"description": "staying in my apartment till the end of the contract", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I stayed in my apartment till the end of the contract?", "text": "So I am studying abroad and share an apartment with a friend. We signed a combined lease for the year, which officially ends on the 31st of May. My mum is flying over here around the 26th of May to help pack up, end the contract and take a short holiday before flying home. \n\nHowever, my roommate came to me today to say that she was planning on leaving on May 19th, which is the day after our university officially ends. She was hoping to pay a reduced rent for leaving early, but because im going to be staying longer she has to pay the full rent for the month of May. The landlord has said we can only pay a reduced rent if we get new tenants in straight away after we leave.\n\nShe is now saying I should leave and go somewhere else so that we can save the money, i.e. put my things in the basement and sleep somewhere else. She said that I am forcing her pay more because of my plans. I just think its ridiculous go to all that trouble to save her 100 bucks, when the apartment is still equally mine until the 31st and I should be able to stay until I\u2019m ready to leave.\n\nWIBTA if I told her that Im not leaving early and that she is going to have to pay her rent in full?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FwHnzrGvhPbgCO2vGfgK2UB7VY1cy6RS", "post_id": "anjg5p", "action": {"description": "going for a guy who has a \"thing\" with another girl", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I went for a guy who has a \u201cthing\u201d with another girl?", "text": "So I\u2019m (20F) pretty newly out of a long term relationship (2 years) which ended pretty terribly. I had been wanting to be out of the relationship for over a year, but was always somehow reeled back in, gaslighted and manipulated. About 1 year into dating my ex (21M), I met an amazing guy. We really hit it off and became amazing friends- or at least that was my take on it. All my friends and even sometimes myself did have an idea that he was into me, but obviously nothing could have been said or done because of my relationship. \n\nSo I keep getting to know this guy, and started to develop some feelings for him. Things were not going well in my relationship, but I still felt really guilty to be having feelings for someone else, so I just ignored it and pushed all of that aside. \n\nFast forward to now. About one year after meeting this guy i\u2019ve been getting close with. I finally ended my relationship and have been feeling amazing. Haven\u2019t really been looking for anything. Me and the \u201cfriend\u201d guy are still close and one night he started sending me flirty texts. We ended up talking about how we felt and he admitted to having feelings for me ever since we met, about a year ago. I told him that I felt something for him too. \n\nSo here\u2019s the problem: he\u2019s been in a \u201csituation\u201d with another girl for going on 5 months now. He\u2019s talked to me about it a lot since we have been so close. Basically he doesn\u2019t want to get super serious with her, even though it\u2019s clear that she wants a defined relationship. So it seems they want different things, but they still hang out a lot. This guy seems to be pursuing me, and honestly I\u2019m super into it. But he did mention to me one day that if that girl knew me and him were talking about this kind of stuff she would be pissed. So he\u2019s being dishonest with her about what he\u2019s been thinking about with me. Not sure how I feel about that either. \n\nBut WIBTA if I went along with his advances? I don\u2019t want to step on anyone\u2019s toes here but also could really see me and this guy going well together, and maybe even just having fun right now, who knows. \n\nTLDR: WIBTA if I went along with the pursuits of my good friend who is talking to/ has a situation with another girl? Me and him\nare into each other and she isn\u2019t aware of any talks me and him have had about our feelings. But the guy is being super forward with me about wanting to hang out and see where things go. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "pF8aBCXD10mdmr3KwxLHYy8qYtTBR7UP", "post_id": "b2dfqj", "action": {"description": "wanting to leave my boyfriend and reinvent my life without him", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for wanting to leave my boyfriend and reinvent my life without him?", "text": "I love my boyfriend but it's recently been brought to my attention that he doesn't always treat me the best.\n\nDon't get me wrong, he's nice. Doesn't insult me, occasionally pays for dinner (he's a student), says he loves me, etc. But he doesn't always take no for an answer. For example, on Friday he was over at my place. We were spooning in my bed watching tv and he tried to put his hand up my shirt to rest on my stomach. I said no and pushed his hand. He fought me back and clearly didn't care that I didn't want his hand there. Once it was settled on my stomach where I didn't want it he asked why, and I said \"I don't like when your hand is under my shirt like that.\" Instead of pulling back and saying \"oh sorry\" he left it there and was like \"I think it feels nice\". He also puts my hand under his shirt the same way. I don't like that either.\n\nAnyway, lately I've been dreaming of paying off all my debt, saving a bunch of money, and moving to Toronto (big city in Canada; basically our version of NYC). I also want to get hot AF, dye my hair, get a tattoo, and get my belly button pierced.\n\nBut, I want to do it alone.\n\nI want to do it alone because I'm polyamorous so I would like to hold out for a relationship that better suits my needs once I move. I also would like to change the name I go by, and my boyfriend has already said that he would not call me by any name other than my first name, even if it was still a legal name (ie my middle name).\n\nPlease don't tell me that I can reinvent myself with him around, or that I don't need to move, or whatever. I'm aware that I don't *need* to be single and I don't *need* to move, but I also feel as though due to familial abuse and my boyfriend's lifestyle (very sedentary with lots of junk food, and 100% happy working a mediocre job with crappy hours, driving a shitty vehicle that only has insurance because of bandaid fixes that have now worn off, with toxic friends who don't have anything in common with him and who can't treat his girlfriend with respect), I wouldn't really accomplish the level of \"reinventment\", if you will, if I don't.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4WTZZXpmV1lV5Xi96zEEi6KaMfNIjgLb", "post_id": "b32c19", "action": {"description": "lying to someone to make them feel better", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for lying to someone to make them feel better?", "text": "(Ik this isn\u2019t nearly as bad as some other stuff going on here and this is just middle school drama but I really don\u2019t know what to think here)\nSo just a little backstory, back in October I helped one of my friends (opposite sex, who we\u2019ll call B) start dating one of my friends, K, just because I knew B really wanted to date him and it wasn\u2019t that much to ask of myself, so I did help her and they started dating. When I was helping her with this we both kind of talked about our problems and got to know eachother better. (Remember this for later). \n\nWell they started dating and we didn\u2019t really talk as often until around their 3 month \u201canniversary\u201d of starting dating, when B started having some problems involving him not paying enough attention to her, kind of just not being the best boyfriend to her. Yet again I helped her out with that and we would FaceTime a lot and ended up getting closer than before, so now we both know a lot about eachother that other people don\u2019t really know about (like funny stories that she\u2019s never told and what not).\n\nAround this time, I developed a bit of a crush on B and this other girl, who we\u2019ll call J. J also had a crush on me, so we started dating, and I stopped having a crush on B, for a few reasons (for one I was dating someone else and two I just wanted to be friends). \n\nSo yesterday B said that she has had a crush on me for a while and still does (she\u2019s still dating K), and just said that she is really jealous of me and J, because B has had a lot of problems with K, and I\u2019ve always been there for her. But she said that she knows J and I are happy together and that it would never work out if B tried to date me.\n\nWell I am a very empathetic person, and it always makes me feel bad to see someone else crying so I always try to help. She started crying about telling me and she felt really bad for having a crush on me, so out of empathy I said that I kind of have a thing for her too, but I don\u2019t, because I\u2019m dating J and I just don\u2019t really like B in that way. I just felt super bad and knew it would make her happy, but it just feels weird, even though I don\u2019t like her and haven\u2019t liked for for like 2 months, even though I did like her before, and talk to her all the time still. \n\nTL:DR A girl who is taken told me, who is also taken, that she likes me, and started crying, so I told her I liked her too because I knew it would make her happier, even though I don\u2019t like her, and we\u2019re both taken. \n\nSo AITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "kht4a2UyA4LOyh5SlpACh7UAVVhg1OGZ", "post_id": "b9tn2j", "action": {"description": "installing sprinklers in my yard for the purpose of spraying people who walk through it", "pronormative_score": 72, "contranormative_score": 20}, "title": "WIBTA if I installed sprinklers in my yard for the purpose of spraying people who walk through it?", "text": "I live on a corner lot, and people walk through my yard all the time.  I don't think I'm your typical cranky old man, but a lot of people really push my boundaries. I don't get upset when people step into the yard when a car is coming or something, but some people are walking 10+ feet into my yard like it's a sidewalk, they get close enough that they can easily see into the windows.  I occasionally find dog poop in my yard as well. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 17, "OTHER": 71, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 72, "WRONG": 20}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mfiIfMaV2eFOkEQ6lpx9Mhc0QBul1ZxN", "post_id": "9toirc", "action": {"description": "wanting my boyfriend to spend time with me", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting my boyfriend to spend time with me?", "text": "He works 12 hours a day with a total 2 hour commute. More often than not its 7 days a week. As soon as he comes home, he fixes his plate and goes to the bedroom where he stays for the rest of the night. He doesn't speak to me. \n\nWe don't go anywhere or DO anything. Ever. If he has free time, or MAKES free time, it's spent with his friends. \n\nWhen I ask him to spend time with me he tells me that I'm \"needy\" and contolling\". It always causes an argument and he tells me I'm an asshole because he works hard and should ve able to do things with his friends. My thing is, if he can spend free time with friends, why not me? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MZMl7jttGwolGdhsPdWKlxNhKrImfL74", "post_id": "b8doc4", "action": {"description": "reporting someone that hasn't tipped me multiple times for smoking weed", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 48}, "title": "WIBTA If I report someone that hasn't tipped me multiple times for smoking weed?", "text": "I am a delivery driver for a pizza place. Title kinda says it all. He's not tipped me about 4 times now and each time he's stoned and just smells like straight weed. Whenever I do deliver pizza is always on time and the order is always correct. \n\nNow I have no problem with smoking weed personally. Their body their choice, but it is illegal where I live. \n\nAlso he's one of my farthest deliveries so I actually lose money each time I deliver to him. I was wondering if I'd be an asshole if I reported him to the police. Also it's not that he forgets to tip bc he's high, he writes $0.00 in the tip section. And I make $5 an hour and rely on tips to make money.\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 38, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 10, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 48}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "P6XkvQhrNL14es1EiSWQhqrm9Mgl7Ijn", "post_id": "aqgfbw", "action": {"description": "accidentally giving a roommate's cookie to a different roommate", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for accidentally giving a roommate's cookie to a different roommate?", "text": "Yup, it's another roommate story from me. My house is dramatic. Throwaway because my roommates know my Reddit account.\n\nI live in a shared house with five other roommates off-campus at my university. I lived with one of these roommates last year and we got along well, but the other four are completely new.\n\nA few nights ago, I came home from the library and two of my roommates were sitting on the couch. I had earbuds in, but I took them off and she asked me to hand her a box of girl scout cookies sitting on the table. I gave her the box of cookies and she ate one cookie. She asked me if she could have another and my response was \"yeah sure, they're not mine though.\"\n\nUnbeknownst to all of us, those cookies were actually my roommate's Girl Scout cookies. In our roommate group chat, she then called me out for telling her the cookies were mine even though they weren't. I legitimately have no recollection of being asked if the cookies were mine or not until after she ate one (maybe the question was asked while I had earbuds in when I initially walked in the door and I went \"huh?\"), but they her and the other roommate that was there both got mad at me for saying the cookies were mine.\n\nI responded in the roommate group chat with \"literally fake news\" and huffed upstairs after they continued to accuse me of letting her steal my roommate's cookies. Am I the asshole for not stopping her from eating a cookie and for calling her \"fake news\" in the group chat? Or is she just overreacting and am I in the clear?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rLfjWcTrDjS2M5BVI8FTTD5sjQsbgrWt", "post_id": "b2hyws", "action": {"description": "asking my roommate not to cook fish in microwave", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA to ask my roommate not to cook fish in microwave?", "text": "My roommate reheated fish in the microwave about 2 weeks ago. It still smells really bad and makes me gag whenever I cook food in it (not sure if she left the fish in there for too long, but it really does still smell bad, and 2 weeks is a generous time period, probably closer to 3). \n\nOn the day this happened, I said to her that it smells insanely bad and to try not do it if she can avoid, but she said she doesn't mind the smell of fish, which lead to me thinking it was just me being anal (as I don't like fish, esp the smell), so I didn't really talk about it much more. She also said she's trying to eat healthier so will be eating fish more, she was apologetic but isn't going to stop reheating fish in the microwave.\n\nWe both pay equal rent and the microwave is mine (but we share things like that, I use her pots, etc). We're both female and we aren't dating (in case not obvious).\n\nI was scrolling down a reddit thread today and read a joke about reheating fish in the microwave at work, which lead me to search am I the asshole threads for this topic. I stumbled upon [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/aicbvp/aita_for_heating_fish_in_the_microwave_at_work/) and the general consensus was that the guy reheating the fish in the office microwave was the asshole. This made me realize I probably wasn't being pedantic and maybe it wouldn't be unreasonable for me to ask my roommate not to reheat fish in the microwave - but I understand that reheating at home is different to at work.\n\nSo, WIBTA for asking my roommate not to reheat fish in the microwave?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2fkD7FyRhHVTlaEP08ujY1C3C55YRbmu", "post_id": "args74", "action": {"description": "not cleaning up my whole house", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Not Cleaning Up My Whole House?", "text": "I've posted a few times on here but this was my biggest fight with my Dad yet.\n\nI've had a serious ear infection (Taking meds that can kill me if I take more then 2 in a day, not even joking) and I've been really weak. Yesterday I decided to clean the messiest room in my house; The Laundry. This room was disgusting, not even gonna lie. It was filled to the brim with clothing that had just been messily thrown into the room and I cleaned all of it, including putting on all the washing. This is while I'm in constant pain and I can't stop sneezing/wheezing. It was so bad that I actually lost my voice from how many times I sneezed. Our lounge room is the next messiest room, though it's not that messy. Just a few bits and pieces out of place. I, by myself keep in mind, cleaned every other room in our massive house besides the lounge room. My Dad had the audacity to say I wasn't doing enough around the house and I needed to also clean the lounge room. I refused and said he was being emotionally manipulative (trying to pray on my sympathy saying things like \"I have a full time job to support us so the least you can do is clean this room\" type of thing as well as \"I'm so exhausted because I come home and I see this mess after a full days work\") and I didn't want to be in the house with him right now, so I went outside and tried to calm down.\n\n​\n\nI would also like to point out I have homework I need to be doing and I get really bad asthma attacks when dust starts to rise. Like wheezing and otherwise.\n\n​\n\nMy Dad is fully aware of this but his 12 hours of sleep isn't enough and it makes him too tired to pick up 10 things, but not tired enough to not complain about it.\n\n​\n\nAm I the asshole for not doing chores while living under my dads roof?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "m24YFw3MnnjsjsM7nh6jsWjq0zX8DBZy", "post_id": "b3l8o4", "action": {"description": "stepping in and training another persons trainee", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for stepping in and training another persons trainee?", "text": "Obligatory formatting apology due to mobile. \n\nI work at a popular fast food pizza company and I have been a trainer there since last December. One of the employees, we\u2019ll call them Stan, has recently been promoted to trainer as well and has been working with two new hires since the beginning of the week. \n\nI typically work morning and they work nights, so I haven\u2019t really interacted with these new hires. During the shift change today the shift lead had asked me to train the new guy (NG) how to evaluate what\u2019s under the make line and decide what we will need for the upcoming shift. While I\u2019m teaching the NG how to make the list Stan comes up and watches us. I had told Stan that I will finish up with NG while he goes and sets up for the upcoming shift since I was about to leave. \n\nI finish the list and bid all my coworkers goodbye and head out, until I see Stan walking out the back door with me. He started off saying that I was out of line for training HIS NG and that I should\u2019ve asked him first to do so. \n\nAt this point I was really confused because when we first opened the store together we had learned that training was a group effort and that it\u2019s not one sole persons responsibility. So I asked him about it and he said that he understand that, but that\u2019s not his way. I told him that I\u2019m not trying to personally attack him or his new position because it\u2019s honestly not that big of a deal. \n\nHe then said, \u201cWell I take it personally and want you to back off. I can understand how you feel but that\u2019s not how I work.\u201d \n\nTo which I responded that he might need to re-evaluate his position then because that\u2019s not what it\u2019s about and left because I really didn\u2019t want to talk about it anymore. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7z6kvvySRQ4HSisXPIqnyvOTGtHBApoQ", "post_id": "ahezsn", "action": {"description": "not visiting my dad every weekend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not visiting my dad every weekend?", "text": "My parents have been divorced since I was a little kid, and I have always been used to their shared custody agreement. I would spend about half the time with my dad and have the time with my mom.\n\nNot every other week either, the weeks were so brokenly split in half at one point that I was switching houses every other day. Needless to say, that was a nightmare.\n\nSince I am an adult now I am trying to put a stop to it. The thing is my dad feels that he deserves to spend time with me every weekend. I don't want to go over there every weekend anymore. It's too much of a hassle for me to pack a bag and go to his house to sleep in a room that isn't even mine (It's basically a second living room that happens to have a bed in it. There isn't even a door and him and my grandparents just like to come back there sometimes.) I don't like being there over night for this reason. Here is the conversation we had about this today:\n\n​\n\n \n\nMe: What if you pick me up tomorrow and we do something then?\n\nHim:  What are you doing tonight\n\nMe:   don't know, it's just stressful to pack a bag every weekend. \n\nHim:  You don't have to work you don't have to pay bills we buy your clothes in your food if that's the only stress you have in your life then you're doing pretty good\n\nMe:  Um... Not the point? I really don't want to stay over this weekend. We can do something tomorrow during the day\n\nHim: All right fine I probably won't see you for a couple months I will be moving down to \\[Redacted\\] and I know you will never come down there.\n\nHim:  Stay home this weekend I don't want to add to your stress\n\nMe: Don't throw a fit about it\n\nHim:  I'm not throwing a fit about it but you're acting like it's so stressful that you can't move.\n\nHim:  There are millions of kids who would love to be in your situation at this point in your life.\n\nMe:   I don't like packing bags every weekend Dad, that's not a wild concept.\n\nMe:  I'm 20 and I enjoy living in one place, that really has nothing to do with either parent. My word I've been doing this since I was 7.\n\nHim:  Okay \\[OP\\] it isn't like you're busting the door down to see me anyway I know tomorrow's going to be a bad storm so I'll be staying home.\n\nHim:  I just offered to do things for you and to get you things but you know because I think it'd be something to do something fun you wouldn't be any less dress tomorrow about seeing me so I don't want to stress you out I'll be gone next weekend \n\nIt was at this point that I just stopped replying to him. We have this fight every so often and it usually ends in me caving first, because I really am still financially dependant on my parents and I feel bad for that. For context, I'm a student and while I don't have a job I am trying to find other ways to make money. So usually I do feel like an asshole bringing this up but I'm pretty sure he's an asshole too. AITA?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Om0DNnjeU02L0NS3UYIAk90oVrZsDaAI", "post_id": "atni7r", "action": {"description": "reporting my bully to the police for smoking weed", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA If I reported my bully to the police for smoking weed?", "text": "There is this one guy in my class, who is cocky and a total asshole and likes to bully and generally piss me off for no reason. He came to school stoned a few times and he has traded weed in the classroom (Everybody noticed because he dropped his weed behind the radiator, lol). I have been thinking about reporting him to the police because of his smoking. Now, this is Germany and he is only 16 years old. If he got punished, it would'nt be particularly hard. He could probably expect a fine of 100-300\u20ac and a couple hours of social service. He may not be prosecuted at all, because I would file an anonymous report.\n\nI guess this would be some r/ProRevenge, but I am still not sure if I should do something like this. I think it would pretty much be the only way to get revenge on him, I could of course try to anonymously contact his parents....", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hYdcLaNUPg0Q0wDCRSDLdWRqKAMjsrtu", "post_id": "aqeoem", "action": {"description": "cutting my hair", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for cutting my hair?", "text": "AITA for wanting to cut my hair after growing it out for almost three years? I (22 F) used to have a faux-hawk and it was a look that really worked for me and looked cute. My SO has cried for an hour tonight about the thought of me cutting off my hair and having it short again. I feel bad because SO will not like my new hair but I live in Florida and I\u2019m sick of the long hair. AITA for following through with my new hairstyle? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "W168n0V4RqRwGUI9VXyb5arBrmowEly5", "post_id": "b8xd1e", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go private", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to go private", "text": "To cut a long story short, after Christmas my mum got diagnosed with depression and anxiety. The majority of her anxiety is unfortunately aimed towards me (F18) as she thinks I\u2019m losing hair on one part of my head. I personally have not seen/ noticed a change in my hair but I hate seeing my mum worry so I went to the doctors. That wasn\u2019t the end of it unfortunately, I\u2019ve been to around 10 doctors appointments with all of them saying I don\u2019t have an issue and that she shouldn\u2019t worry about it. My most recent visit to the doctors proved helpful as the GP said he was going to send me to a dermatologist to help calm my mum as they specialise with skin. \n\nAll was good until I had to book an appointment online and the earliest date they had was the 18th of April. My mum was upset with this for a while as she felt it was too far away but she came to terms with it and was feeling a lot better knowing that soon if she a specialist. Cut to today, I\u2019ve had a letter come through the post saying the appointment has been cancelled and rescheduled for July. My mum is mortified and so am I. I thought this appointment was finally going to help my mum and try to make things go back to normal, but now I have more months of what feels like hell. \n\nBecause of this cancellation my mum wants to take my privately as we\u2019d be able to see a dermatologist a lot quicker. I don\u2019t want to do this. I feel there is no issue with my hair and that going privately would just be a waste of money that we don\u2019t easily have. So AITA for telling my mum I don\u2019t want to go privately even though she\u2019d be paying for it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QzBH0Wfn4AeQLNKEIgpjECv0gc983eHY", "post_id": "an4b4l", "action": {"description": "telling my husband I won't be emotionally supporting him about his awful job if he won't make an effort to find a new one", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my husband I won't be emotionally supporting him about his awful job if he won't make an effort to find a new one?", "text": "My husband hates his job. HATES it. There are no pros to this job. They don't pay well, the bosses are terrible managers (overbooking appointment when they only have so many workers to cover so many customers), he's on a wacky 6 day a week 12 hour night schedule so I don't see him and his friends don't see him. It has thrown him into a rut. \n\n\nI've told him to look for a new job, or just flat out quit and I will support him/keep us afloat until something else comes along. I told him to apply for things he's passionate about even if it means a page cut. Anything to get my husband back to his old self. \n\n\nHe's asked me for help and says he doesn't even know where to start, doesn't have the time to do anything etc. so I've done the following (at his request for assistance):\n\n\n* Updated his resume (I do this for my job so I know it's good quality)\n\n* Drafted a cover letter\n\n* Found a list of jobs he qualifies for and put them into an easy to read Word Doc\n\n* Made him an Indeed account\n\n* Started covering all the chores so that he can focus on applying for jobs when he is home (did this without him asking but made it clear \"I am doing this so you can focus on applying for new jobs\")\n\n\nHe has done nothing. He said he \"tried to quit but they wouldn't let them.\" He hasn't turned in a single application, or even opened the document I've made with a list of jobs. And of course he isn't doing any chores at home. \n\n\nThis has been going on for months. He's clearly depressed so I also suggested he talk to a therapist about all this, he says he doesn't have time because he's so burnt out. All he talks about anymore is how he hates his job, and feels like it's eating away at his social life, mental health and everything. \n\n\nAt this point the CLEAR common denominator is just this job. If he quits he can see friends again and will have time to see a therapist if that is still an issue, but I highly suspect a change of scenery will greatly improve his mood. He is a good worker and I know if he turned in an application he'd get a response. But I can't force him to submit applications and he JUST WON'T DO IT.\n\n\nHe comes home every day and talks about how much he hates his job and wants to do something new, and I'm getting tired of it. I stay up late listening to him complain about his job, and I've done everything I can think of to help, but he won't meet me half way. \n\n\nWould I be the asshole if I flat out tell him I'm becoming unsympathetic to his complaints when he has done nothing to fix his situation? It'd be one thing if he was applying for jobs and still stuck in his current one, but he won't look, won't quit, won't go to therapy and he can't give me a reason why.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0L4oHeSYu5Tc0Pmw9PwAYeLh81E5Iiht", "post_id": "abd606", "action": {"description": "asking to find out who my secret santa is", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "WIBTA for asking to find out who my secret santa is?", "text": "Last month I joined a secret santa for artists, and everyone had multiple weeks to complete a piece for the person they were assigned to give art to. I was one of the many who published their gift on time, and the person I drew art for was very happy with their gift.\n\nIt's now past the deadline for gifts, and I'm rather annoyed that the person who was supposed to give me my gift never did their part. The host has decided to give everyone an extension but-- it's  only 10 days, and now I feel like I'm going to get a rushed gift (as it usually is with extensions) with no effort put into it. Obviously they dont care to put effort into my gift if they didn't do it yet, when they had a month to do so. I spent 3+ weeks on my drawing.\n\nI'll most likely accept whatever I get for the sake of civility, but since it is past the deadline, I'd like to know who I'm actually waiting on so instead of having to go and check the group folder in the hopes my gift is finally uploaded I can just subscribe to them and see their uploads in my feed once/if it finally is posted.\n\nWIBTA for wanting to find out who my SS is?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "WRh9CcdsUIsqFEWq8Fydt6kprPpGjT2T", "post_id": "9w84ep", "action": {"description": "making someone come to me to get their watch back", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for making someone come to me to get their watch back?", "text": "I went on a couple dates with a guy almost a year ago. After the second date, he accidentally left his apple watch behind at my house. I texted him to hang out a couple more times, but he kept avoiding me, and eventually he just ghosted. I texted him several times over the course of a few months asking if he wanted the watch back, and he just never responded.\n\n​\n\nLast week he texts me out of the blue asking if I have his watch, and I say I do. Then he asks if we can meet for coffee in the city or if I can mail it to him. Frankly, I'm irritated that I should have to travel 45+ minutes or go on a whole errand to the post office after this guy ghosted me; he clearly didn't even want the apple watch that much, since he didn't bother getting it back for almost a year. \n\n​\n\nI've ignored his last text so far and I'm thinking of replying \"If you want to come by my place some time when I'm home, you can pick it up.\"  WIBTA? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kSQYlxVe6DbdjGKtVHvBMRsPkFumr8Oy", "post_id": "am72ao", "action": {"description": "trying to pay my roommate in coins", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for trying to pay my roommate in coins?", "text": "I'm currently living in a college dorm with a roommate. Recently, I ran out of water bottles (although I have since swapped to just using a Brita) and I asked him to pick me up a case while he was at the store, saying I'd pay him back. He agreed and when he arrived, I told him I didn't have cash and if quarters would be okay. It was $4.50 in quarters, which admittedly isn't fun to have on you but I personally find it useful for vending machines or making exact change at stores, I figured if he was the same way he'd be okay with it.\n\n​\n\nHe wasn't a fan of this. I put them on his desk in a neat stack and said if he wanted to keep them he could, but that I could just owe him one instead if he wanted. I also didn't know he had Venmo, and he failed to ask if I could use it instead. So his reaction to this was not to give them back and tell me to just owe him, pay with Venmo, or hold onto it and just use it for vending machines or change, but to take them and throw it in the trash. I figured it wouldn't be a good idea to escalate his nonsense so I figured that meant the debt was settled and left it at that. Nothing else to add really, that's about it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "siNN1Bqebb8B1DEYBCrWV1cckGd1hW3y", "post_id": "b4p7cv", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my friend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my friend?", "text": "Hey y'all this Isa more mild one but I still feel bad. Also I'm on mobile so yadda yadda formating\n\n\nBasically I have this friend who we'll call S. We are in high school together and we are both in theater. S can be difficult sometimes but overall she is a good friend. She often asks me to drive her home from rehearsal which I do cause I have my own car. \nAbout a week or two ago she asked me to take her to :store name: to buy herself a water bottle because I work at :store name: so she could use my 10% discount. I didn't really want to drive to the store but I did anyway. Fine.\nFast forward to a couple days ago and I accidentally break this glass bottle. I immediately apologise and offer to buy a new one. The following is what she texted me today.\n(I hope my response provides enough context that I don't have to write it all out)\n\n\nOh also she really wanted the bottle because it has 'healing rocks' in the bottom or something.\n\n\nS: (1/2) if you think i'm overreacting, i don't care. i explained to you why getting a water bottle was very important for me and the way you acted today was the \n\n\nYes she actually broke it into two texts. Idk\n\n\nS: 2/2 most disrespectful thing in the whole fucking world and i'm pissed because you were a serious fucking asshole \n\n\nMe (tired of her attitude): So I went out of my way to buy you that water bottle, letting you use my employee discount. \n\nYou leave your very special bottle on the floor and I accidentally lean backwards, cracking it.\nYou are immediately furious that made this mistake.\n\nI immediately promise to buy you a new bottle (on my expense) when I have the chance, noting that I am busy the next couple of days because I have my own life, responsibilities, and plans. I even offer you my water bottle which you refuse. \nYou then spend the next 24 hours acting coldly towards me and tearing me like I purposefully broke your very special bottle. You more than once get angry that I haven't bought you a new one yet, even though I told you I wouldn't be able to till next week. You then, after giving me no respect, walk up to me, and rudely demand that I give you some of the food that I paid for. If refusing you a slice of pizza because you were being annoying and rude is the 'most disrespectful' thing to you, then you have some harsh realities to face. I'm not discussing this with you any further. \n\nMe: This is all ignoring the fact that I constantly give you rides home\n\n\nDid I go too far? She hasn't texted back.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WJDDC4Ep6KaEtKaxKsDjc86ncDc02Atf", "post_id": "a0hhx7", "action": {"description": "not choosing side in an argument between friends", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not choosing side in an argument between friends...", "text": "TLDR at the bottom.\n\n​\n\nThis did happen a few years ago but to this day it still haunts me. I met a girl at work (lets call her T), and she was perfect. We went out a few times and everything was good. Unfortunately T had to move away for school, not super far but far enough that we couldn't hang out to much. \n\nNow T and her sister (we can call the sister K) both worked with me. I was not the biggest fan of K but she was the sister of T, and i was determined to be in good graces with her, as Those two were very close.  So, maybe a week after T went back to school, I was working a shift with K and another friend (we can call him Q) the first half of the shift was fine, people pouring in and we barely had time to talk. Things took a turn when we all went on break together. I was craving a burrito and there was a Starbucks near by where I was going, so I offered K a ride since she was going there. We get back and Q is sitting there in the break room. \n\nWe sit down and Q looks at me and asks if I want to see this YouTube video of \"The Ultimate Vape\". I'm bored and have nothing better to do so I agree. We get to the point where its time to choose the flavor for the vape, and its churro flavor. This is what sets off the argument, because the man in the video didn't roll the R in churro (this is important to K because her and T are both half Black half Mexican women).  this is the conversation that followed.\n\nQ: Some people just can't roll their R's.\n\nK: That's why i hate White people,\n\nQ: ... that's kind of racist...\n\nThat's all i can fully remember was said but the events that followed were K saying you can't be racist towards White people and that's what THEIR argument was about. I considered both K and Q to be my friends but they were not necessarily friends with each other. So I sit aside let them have at it because if I choose a side I'm definitely loosing one of them as a friend.\n\nAt some point K turns to me, and she says,\n\nK: hey LexeL... I forgot my phone in my car, can you use yours to look up the definition of Racism?\n\nMe: I'm sorry K but this is between you two and id rather not get in the middle.\n\nAnd then she goes back to Q. i should mention that arguing over the Dictionary definition of racism had gone on for 3 minutes prior to this conversation. and Q had correctly said, Word for Word, what the definition of Racism was but K would not accept it.\n\nWe can skip to the end of break. I'm getting ready to go downstairs and K stops me.\n\nK: Have you talked to T lately?\n\nMe: Well I messaged her on Friday, but I know shes busy so I don't expect to talk to her until we Skype tomorrow. Why?\n\nK: Oh... well i just would expect to hear from her at all.\n\nThis interaction led me to believe that K had talked to T way before her argument with Q, and that she knew something I didn't, I spent the rest of my shift, nerves on end hoping I'd get to the bottom of this. \n\nK got off work before I did, terrible start to the rest of my night TBH. So as soon as I get off work this is the following conversation that I know by heart.\n\nText messages -\n\nT: what are you playing at??\n\nMe: Listen, idk what you've heard, who you've talked to, or what you're thinking, but I think we should talk.\n\nT: I agree.\n\nMe: Are you able to Skype tonight?\n\nT: We should just call on the phone...\n\nMe: okay.\n\nI have quite the drive home and I call her as soon as its over, we have a long talk about the situation that happened and she says that my story lines up with K's story. But... sadly I was in the wrong. Because I took no side in the situation, I actually took Q's side. \"a bystander is just taking the oppressors side without vocalizing it\" T said that she didn't think we should continue talking. We said goodbye for the last time and I never really got over it. so Am i the Asshole for not choosing her sisters side when her sister was wrong?\n\nTLDR; The sister of the girl I was seeing and another friend got into an argument about the definition of racism during break and i didn't choose a side, thus making me the bad guy in the eyes of the girl i was seeing.\n\nI wanna thank anyone for reading, even the TLDR, and I appreciate any comments. I'm just looking to learn from a past experience.\n\nThanks again!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WZHEi5O9pi7WytCywZDyKF6tQSTijJkd", "post_id": "9u870r", "action": {"description": "having \"hypocritical\" standards", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for having \"hypocritical\" standards?", "text": "Hey guys. So long story short, I'm a 6'0\", 245lb chonker. However, the women I tend to be attracted to are much thinner. A-cup thin, even. IRL, I get about a 50/50 from people I talk to about if they are gonna call me a hypocrit asshole or not.\n\nIve had bigger girls come on to me, and even tried dating a girl in the past who was NOT my type and I just could not get physically attracted to her. \n\nI want to emphasise that I've never blamed a skinny girl for not wanting to date me because I'm fat. Im not some kind of incel asshole about it. I also want to say that my other standards are considered \"low.\" I don't really care much about appearance, job, education, career, race, age (I've been into girls ten years younger and ten years older)... Ive even somehow gotten the reputation among some of my friends as being into \"ugly\"girls. But for me to be physically interested, she has to be thin!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NUKPxWMgk1teVFR5V3ObyjIu4E4zNtk9", "post_id": "asiege", "action": {"description": "reading my sister's diary", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for reading my sister's diary?", "text": "This refers to something that happened quite a long time ago. My younger sister used to be harshly bullied during highschool. She went from quite a jumpy person to a quiet one. A friend of mine just had a brush with suicide so I was a bit on my nerves and took the maybe not so appropriate choice of reading her diary. There wasn't any direct mention of suicide in there but she definitely wasn't \"all right\". \n\n\nI convinced my parents to talk to her about getting medical help. She went to a psychologist for a while, took medications for another and in the end she went through.\n\nAt face value I would like to think I did the right thing by worrying, but then I think how I might have felt If someone had read my diary back then (my sister never found out). What do you think, Reddit?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HsE1mChtw2W40kPjxu6rJjclqqZ2nY2K", "post_id": "a22ucf", "action": {"description": "not taking a man who was supposedly in a car accident to the hospital", "pronormative_score": 25, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not taking a man who was supposedly in a car accident to the hospital?", "text": "So, it\u2019s 5:00am and I\u2019m driving to work.  I stop at a stop light and I wait as this man comes up to my car asking me to roll my window down.  I roll it down, he starts begging me to give him a ride to the hospital and that he\u2019s been in an accident.  I couldn\u2019t really tell whether he had been or not because of how dark it was.  I say no I\u2019m sorry but I have to go to work.\n\nNow, it is true that I had to go to work but that\u2019s not why I didn\u2019t oblige him.  It was because it was dark out, there wasn\u2019t anyone else around and I didn\u2019t want to let a strange man into my car.  Maybe I should have called an ambulance for him but tbh, all that was on my mind was \u201cam I about to get robbed?\u201d", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 25, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 25, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WSDNIvWVY63TMOW6mQUDkRl9oNRXCTdc", "post_id": "awq1el", "action": {"description": "dipping on my friends after someone invited my ex girlfriend a week prior", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for dipping on my friends after someone invited my ex girlfriend a week prior?", "text": "So tonight my friends and I were having a big smash tourney/party, good 25 people showed up, including my ex girlfriend. Obviously in order to have that amount of people there, it takes a considerable amount of planning. One of my friends, let\u2019s call him John, tells me that my ex is coming on Tuesday and he has no clue who invited her. He was saying that just to let me know and I figure, whatever, I\u2019m not gonna let it ruin my night. \n\nFast forward to tonight. My ex tried hitting on me while I was drawing the bracket and took away my pen because she wanted info on John and a girl who I had hooked up with in the past, who is now friends with benefits with him. Mind you my ex was very insecure about said girl throughout our relationship, but she had nothing to worry since at that point i wouldn\u2019t touch the girl in question with a 10 foot pole. I told her to give the pen back and she\u2019s refusing so I just go and get another pen which she takes as well, so I just say fuck it and let her take them because I don\u2019t want to get involved in her drama. \n\nI go upstairs to get another pen and continue drawing the bracket, and I see her hitting on a mutual friend of mine who is really into it, and people were speculating they were gonna hook up. I\u2019m fuming. I\u2019m not over this girl in the slightest despite me breaking off an extremely toxic relationship. I play my first round match and I lose because I\u2019m so damn tilted because A, my friend was cheesing bowsers up throw, and B, my ex and the other dude were being really flirty literally 20 feet away from me. \n\nI just dipped immediateIy tell everyone some family thing came up and just dipped and didn\u2019t look back. I was extremely uncomfortable, but I felt bad dipping on my friends like that. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GFy7rEsVKms749fuDM7uRuWllCJTUGXB", "post_id": "aqlr8f", "action": {"description": "being bummed my boyfriend rather spend Valentine's with his daughter", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "AITA for being bummed my boyfriend rather spend Valentine's with his daughter?", "text": "Hello there, well here goes.\n\nIve been in a relationship with my boyfriend going on 3 years now . He has 2 kids from a previous relationship which in itself has been a huge adjustment. He is 27(m) and I am 25(f). When we initially got together he didn't mention the kids and so it was a surprise to me . Kind of a turnoff but I liked the guy so I stuck around. His kids mom is as crazy and obsessed as they come . Everything the first year was an issue because I was in the picture. She wouldn't let him see his kids ,and she'd pick and choose when and where and for how long. He would go without seeing them for months due to this. His kids are small 5 and 3 both girls, sad thing is due to all of the drama his 5 year old has the mentality of a 15 year old and carries out insults and conversations her mother talks to her about to try and cause friction. Now ironically his 5 year olds birthday is on Valentine's day . For some time his mom or sister would be the ones to contact his babymama for visits . Just recently tho his babymama said that wasn't good enough and needed to have direct contact with him or no go on the visits. It's really bothersome to me because of how toxic she is . So my boyfriend is trying his best and has begun messaging her and calling her to see his kids which he hadnt seen in 3 months. The other day I asked if he was gonna ask to have her for Valentine's to which he said yes . I gotta admit I was bummed .. things have been Rocky lately and Idk what I expected but that wasnt it. I got a little quiet with him and he got really upset and said I was being dramatic and that he sees me all the time. He also told me that he needs to be a dad and to stop thinking the way I do because its stupid.\n\n I can't put myself in his shoes as I don't have kids and I wouldn't know how to deal with this but I also feel so much pressure. I really tried the first year we were together by doing birthdays and holidays with them but I always was talked negatively about from both his family and his babymama. I got tired of trying and I stopped coming around especially because his oldest daughter would say things like \"daddy my mommy was showing me pictures of you two kissing , you love my mommy huh\" he would just tell her not to talk about those things and that,that was a long time ago ... Honestly it would get me really upset because I know she doesn't come up with those things on her own.. as I mentioned before I've been around going on 3 years now ,the other day i seen his kids and his oldest said \"hi  ohh what's your name again , ummm ,umm hey you what's your name?\" He told her stop playing you know her name and she got serious and said oh yeah I remember now .. idk why but that really got me going... Anyway , am I the asshole for wanting the Valentine's experience even though I know I'll always have to share him? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "bP2lqHQRunNY0rF6sXeYr0ziaVb9Zf3m", "post_id": "b2f5ke", "action": {"description": "being somewhat rude to the receptionist at the barbershop because she changed my appointment time", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being somewhat rude to the receptionist at the barbershop because she changed my appointment time?", "text": "Just a little back story, my son, (almost 3 years old) and my husband have both been going to the same barber for about a year now. We are always on time and always tip over 20%. Anyways, yesterday my husband calls and makes an appointment as soon as the shop opens for 1:30pm. So we packed our two little kids into the car and drive to the mall to find parking, lug out the double stroller and set off to the shop to make it for our appointment time (and we were on time)  only to be told \u201coh she took a cut and a shave so you\u2019ll have to wait 1.5-2 hours, is that okay?\u201d I responded \u201cwhat the eff, that\u2019s not what we agreed too?! we have a set appointment time!\u201d Receptionist responds \u201cyeah we don\u2019t have any control over that.\u201d I just roll my eyes and walk away. My husband calls and asks if they can guarantee a time for tomorrow and they just tell him \u201cno, it\u2019s a free for all\u201d I just don\u2019t get it. If you hate working with people, don\u2019t work with people! I get that it\u2019s somewhat out of her control but don\u2019t you think she should have called and told us the appointment time had changed? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vwV1hRCQ9x8UJ9vuZq4VTjsdgQiSIrff", "post_id": "b1ixqb", "action": {"description": "reporting an Independent Film Company for wage theft", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for Reporting an Independent Film Company for Wage Theft?", "text": " So a few weeks ago I had this argument with an independent film maker on the Book of Faces. I'm in a medieval reenactment group, so we make our own garb to wear to events. This filmmaker posts an ad for extras for his viking movie, and he posted it to our Facebook group. The compensation was snacks, and you had to bring your own garb and submit pics of you in it for consideration. He was also stupidly having men in Viking garb, and women in French high middle ages garb for \\*reasons\\*.\n\nI have worked in payroll for 10 years, and I'm very familiar with the FLSA (US law that regulates minimum wage, contractor/exempt/non-exempt employee status, and overtime pay). I even looked at the SAG requirements to make sure that movies were not an exception to FLSA (they aren't). I then spend the entire fucking day arguing that what he was doing was illegal. Somehow, I was \"killing his art\" and \"ruining his chances to make it in films\" and \"shitting on independent filmmaker who don't have the money of big studios\".\n\nI replied that he should fund raise to get the capital to keep up with his legal requirements. That the film company (because yes, it was a company that received pay for work) could get a loan from a bank. Or they could do a GoFundMe, or something other than wage theft. But of course, I'm the asshole for caring about the artists getting fair compensation for their art, but not about his art.  He was incredibly rude to me in front of my community.  When I reached out to his film company to inform them that what they were doing was illegal, I was rudely mocked and then blocked.\n\nSo, what he is doing is illegal.  The film company is being hypocritical, because they charge for doing film work like advertising and commercials, but they aren't compensating their extras.  I am a huge fan of the arts, and actively support my local arts scene.  But I'm also very much a fan of workers rights, and I happen to think that if your art relies on fucking over other artists than you don't deserve to \"make it\" in the business.  So Reddit:  WIBTA for reporting him to the state Department of Labor?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rXWJK4wfl6zathAnWdGKXQAdNfgoBIUp", "post_id": "aenlm1", "action": {"description": "leaving a job unexpectedly to the employer", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA For leaving a job unexpectedly to the employer?", "text": "So, I am currently in a job (faith-based organization solely for background information) where I am extremely unhappy. Mental health, spiritual health, and happiness wise I am at a low point. I don't have a good relationship with my supervisor, there are lots of expectations on me that I didn't expect, and I don't feel I am treated fairly for several reasons. I am currently in the process of applying to jobs and have an interview tomorrow for a job I believe I have a good opportunity to receive. The job is in the same small town I currently work and many people who are part of my current job (members of the faith-based org) are connected to the new place I could be working (local college).\n\nMy current employers have no clue I am even looking to leave and it will be a blindside when I do it. Am I going to be the asshole when possibly come Monday I will be turning in a two-week notice and leave them down a staff member on a small staff? This new job will allow me more flexibility to be with loved ones during some currently hard times and gives me an opportunity to have help with school being paid for (grad degree), but now there's going to be different programs without someone supervising them, the different technology needs will not have someone to maintain them, etc. \n\nThanks for any input given in this very stressful situation.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Pt4jtkD0oLymdDSQuLF8WmcFowRzz7cm", "post_id": "9yn1tf", "action": {"description": "not wanting to listen to my mom complaining about my older brother", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA - For not wanting to listen to my mom complaining about my older brother", "text": "Hey everyone. So basically, I\u2019m 22 and live alone for a few years now. I basically had to move out because my relationship with mom was terrible. Dad left us and I\u2019m an exact copy of him, I have the same hobbies, listen to same music and even look like him. I was reminded about this daily, and I remember a day when I was just standing around in kitchen and got told to \"stop looking like my father\". I knew I had to get out. Fast forward to today, I\u2019m a nurse, I live a happy life and my relationship with mom is a lot better. \n\nSo to the reason I think I\u2019m an asshole. She keeps calling me about my older brother. This dude got everything handed to him. Mom payed for his school while I had to get in debt, she decided he needs to start living alone so she gave him a house. And well, he doesn\u2019t give a sh*t about all of that. He loves partying, drinks a lot and never even had a real job. He often throws tantrums when he can\u2019t get more money and that\u2019s when I come into this. Mom keeps calling me about these tantrums and issues with him, and I just feel like I don\u2019t care. I moved on, sure it\u2019s my family but I have my own life now and I don\u2019t see why should I solve their problems. I remember that I was lost when I moved out, and whenever I called she would never even let me start talking about stuff that was bothering me. And if I finally after 30 minutes got to start, she\u2019d just quickly had to go, always. Now that I live a happy life I don\u2019t see a reason why I should bother myself with problems that are between them. I feel a bit like an asshole when I hung up quickly on these calls but I don\u2019t want to listen to those things. So what\u2019s your opinion AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5PNeKOJP102p21NC6mBiZYOWZImZMxgD", "post_id": "a33fav", "action": {"description": "telling my son we would talk about him taking his piano home even though my wife and I had already decided he wouldn't", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA For telling my son we would talk about him taking his piano home even though my wife and I had already decided he wouldn't?", "text": "My wife and I talked about giving my son an electric piano that he would keep at our house for when he visits. I thought I had made it clear to him that it would stay at our house, but when I was getting ready to take him home he asked me how we were taking the piano. I reiterated that we weren't, that it was staying there for when he visits. He was very disappointed and I told him we would talk about it next week since he was coming on back to back weekends. After getting back from dropping him off, I told my wife about my son wanting to take the piano home. She thinks I am an asshole for telling him we would talk about it since we had already decided. She feels that I don't respect our relationship and I don't put enough effort to making our family. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Hn1pjDzjkTbs2lyXRwNm84eR6LDlFDfv", "post_id": "aqck7v", "action": {"description": "shoving my friend", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for shoving my friend?", "text": "\n\nSo for context I have touch aversion issues and anxiety\n\nToday I was starting to have a panic attack, and while I was trying to calm down my friend cane over, trying to give me a hug. I told him to stop multiple times, I said no multiple times but he didn\u2019t stop and I shoved him away. He\u2019s mad at me now. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kLEyxinNIDCxQSWXN8IElEg4kMO5s3db", "post_id": "b6un4q", "action": {"description": "being upset my GF could not join me because she was on her period", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For being upset my GF could not join me because she was on her period?", "text": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 7 months now. We were good friends for 3 years before this, so we do have some history together.\nI am a science student and so getting to know that my research work would be shown in what's the most popular science magazine in my country meant a lot.\nThe head of the state would present it to me in front of some journalists and dozens of other important people in a 5 star hotel. So this was a huge thing for me, probably one of the highlights of my life.\n\nI told my girlfriend this, she wasn't too excited but she told me she would join me for sure.\nI had even gifted a dress she loved but couldn't afford. I told her even if she came for a few minutes it would mean a lot. My parents are no more too, so I didn't really have anyone else to come.\n\nPhones were to be switched off during the main event so I did just that. The whole event passed and my girlfriend was nowhere.\nWhen I called her later she just told me she was on her period and I was overreacting. She was apparently group studying with her friends. I obviously trust her on this since we have that kind of relationship.\nI told her I was upset and she told me I didn't get her pain and I needed to be more sensitive of her issues and she didn't expect this from me.\n\nI honestly just hung up on her at that point. I need some time to introspect.\n\nShe thinks she didn't do anything wrong, I think I am in the right.\nIt's confusing...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qR7PoNy2B1POVVGG6sD5X5P0HXyDFV6Y", "post_id": "9tgraa", "action": {"description": "hitting my husband", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 47}, "title": "AITA for hitting my husband?", "text": "So a few days ago me and my husband got into an argument about politics, he is Republican and I'm a democrat so we differ on opinions about abortion, we usually just ignore our political differences but this time the argument was big, eventually he started yelling and mocking me, and in my fit of rage I hit him. It was a closed fist hit to the face, then he ran off and I didn't see him for a few hours, when I did see him he had a small bruise, he called me a bitch and then took his car keys and drove off. I haven't seen him sense, am I the asshole for punching him or is he just being a baby?\n\nEdit: so someone has made a troll account pretending to be my husband, this is NOT me and I have NO idea who they are.\n\nEdit 2: I realise that what I did was wrong, and I'll definitely apologize to him, this was the first time this type of thing ever happened, and I do think we can make up.\n\nEdit: GAMERS RISE UP. YEET niggga", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 47, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 47}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "2qzgBMXzcSa4RIu61ZcevShoG7bfNZtU", "post_id": "axexvx", "action": {"description": "bailing on my best friend's birthday plans", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for bailing on my best friend\u2019s birthday plans?", "text": "Hi everyone. My BF planned to go skydiving on his birthday, which was a few days ago. He thought of this idea ever since January and invited me to go with him. I said yes.\n\nIt is now a few days before his birthday. Unfortunately for me, my exam dates for all my classes have been pushed back into the same week of his birthday. I had one exam on his birthday and two exams the next day. Because of this, I wasn\u2019t able to go. And I told him that 2 days before his birthday. He\u2019s now aware that I am not going and how busy I am in school.\n\nIt is now his birthday. Before I sent him a happy birthday text and an apology for not going, I find out that he stopped sharing his location with me, which seemed odd to me. I didn\u2019t bring this up though. An hour after I texted him, I see him posting on instagram and I now know he\u2019s ignoring me since he didn\u2019t reply. Another 20 minutes or so goes by and I get a text from him. \u201cK\u201d was his response. \n\nAt this point I was mad because I apologized and I greeted him, while he forgot my birthday last year. I decided not to say anything. We haven\u2019t contacted each other since then and I don\u2019t plan on being the first one to say something. AITA?\n\nTL;DR - Back in January, I agreed to go skydiving with my best friend on his birthday, which was a few days ago. However, I didn\u2019t go because I was busy with exams. Now he\u2019s ignoring me even though I told him 2 days in advance that I had exams and that I couldn\u2019t go.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "InyqfQWOWifBlF2zqmgUAwwj4bsmIvmn", "post_id": "b4hh2h", "action": {"description": "posting an angry rant about my work on Facebook after I had a really bad day", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for posting an angry rant about my work on Facebook after I had a really bad day?", "text": "TL;DR: I work at a place where the \"established\" staff ignore new people or cause them problems instead of being helpful or considerate. Last Friday I had a really rough day in spite of my efforts not to let the negativity get to me and ended up crying in my car at the end of my shift. I then posted a thing on Facebook detailing all of my issues which I deleted shortly after. A girl I work with took it to my bosses and I am waiting to be told about it. \n\nI have to be quick because I have to get ready for work. \n\nBasically I work in a place where the long time staffers bully the new people. I don't know any other way to put it. New people are oftentimes ignored if they need help. We are barked at for not doing things while we're in the middle of doing those things. More than once I have cried on my way home from work because of how cruel these other girls could be.\n\nI thought maybe it was me so I changed my attitude from dreading going there and taking everything really hard to a positive attitude. That worked for a few days. Then, the Friday before last, I got yelled at for literally everything. \"You need to go to the dining room!\" When I was going there. They didn't need to say that. \n\nI made a very dumb mistake and I owned it but one of my co-workers threw paperwork at me and yelled at me that she wasn't doing her job because I screwed up my job and that i would have to do both. A nurse was nearby, heard this 40 something woman yelling at me, and did nothing. \n\nAfter a long day of one thing after another I got told that I \"never listen\" because I wasn't paying attention to a woman who I didn't realize was talking to me while I tried to do some paperwork on a resident. She was trying to give me more work to do when I was supposed to be going home shortly. I told her that it sounded like another shift should do that, as I was going home very soon, and she said \"well then it'll never get done!\" Which I guess is a compliment but by then my feelings were in the gutter and I burst into tears. \n\nI clocked out early against the rules and went and cried in my car because I had really tried that day not to let the bullying get to me but it didn't matter how hard I tried, they wouldn't stop and eventually I broke. \n\nSo when i got home I posted this thing talking about my experience there. All of the new people who started with me also have similar experiences.  I deleted the post very quickly but a girl still took it to one of my bosses and I only found out about it last night. It really explains why different people in different departments really ramped up the bullying in the past week. The post must have been passed around. \n\nAITA for posting that on Facebook after my bad day ?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ITla98XF5BF2mf7JcyTVJ2BhQ8R95AtU", "post_id": "a6rn55", "action": {"description": "blocking a follower on social media who is depressed", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for blocking a follower on social media who is depressed?", "text": "(I apologize if I lack a little clarity at time, non-native speaker here!)\n\nI (F27) recently began a new Youtube channel that has been accumulating a steady amount of followers, most of whom are just perfect and civil, and I try to engage them whenever possible. But there is one account owner that has been particularly clingy, messaging me a lot initially and with growing frequency. His messages were a bit TMI at times but it was friendly enough. \n\nHowever, at some point he started to express feeling of attraction toward me very explicitly. I told him that I did not feel the same way and to please stop saying these things. He began messaging me many times daily on YT and instagram, saying he wanted to be in a relationship with me. I tried to continue to be polite but he seemed frankly obsessed. After a few more firm messages, I decided I had to block his account. \n\nNow he is messaging me from an alternate account saying he is very depressed and has thoughts of suicide. He says that if he hurts himself it's my fault. The whole thing has gotten very dark and is making me feel horrible about myself. I'm not sure what my duty is here. Like maybe I should unblock him and continue to be civil, and I'm just avoiding it because I feel he's difficult to talk to.\n\nWould you say IATA in this situation, or maybe being insensitive?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "B3tru7AhqNIP7dcjzKp3XWPVgyzDBbsL", "post_id": "aq5rhc", "action": {"description": "telling my father to shut the fuck up", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For telling my father to shut the fuck up?", "text": "Hey guys, I know this title already seems crazy but let me explain in detail.\n\nI\u2019m a 17 year old girl who lives with my grandma and father (although he never comes home and doesn\u2019t spend any time with me) in Toronto and I have lots of mental health issues. These issues have been diagnosed by many psychiatrists and I\u2019ve even been hospitalized for months on end because of them.  This may seem irrelevant to the story I\u2019m about to tell you but bare with me it comes into play. BIG TIME. \n\nSo my father, we will call him Joe, he has a girlfriend whom we will call Mary. Joe and Mary have been together for around 8 months now and Mary even has a daughter who is fairly close to my age (her age being 20) and we share the same interests and mental health problems. We both have anxiety and clinical depression, her having anxiety more intense than mine and I also suffer from something called borderline personality disorder. (This causes you to have extreme mood swings and fear of abandonment issues) We shall call the daughter Mei. \n\nSo here\u2019s where the actual story takes place. A few days ago on Saturday, Joe and I went to his girlfriends house to spend time. Me and Mei were telling Mary about how once we ordered Uber eats and both had anxiety attacks that the delivery guy was going to kill us and I had pulled a knife and hid behind the door. Joe chimes in even though he\u2019s not included in the conversation and starts downplaying our mental illnesses. He starts saying things like \n\n\u201cOh, how can you guys have anxiety! Just done give a fuck about what\u2019s going on!\u201d \n \n\u201cOh come on really? BPD isn\u2019t even that bad hahah you could\u2019ve had cancer or something just shattttupppp\u201d \n\nGee, thanks, my anxiety is now cured. Anyways he kept saying stuff like that and it was clearly angering everyone in the room. Me especially because he kept mentioning my disorder (BPD) even though he knows it causes me to cut myself and that\u2019s what got me hospitalized. \nSo I accidentally slipped up and said\n\n \u201cshut the fuck up\u201d \n\nAt that point I knew I done goofed and instantly lowered my head. I apologized profusely and said I didn\u2019t mean to say that and that I was out of line and he laughed it off and went upstairs. The next day when we were leaving he started screaming at me in the car. He told me he should\u2019ve slapped me in my face and embarrassed me. I was super tired and the words went right through one ear and out the other.  \n\nFast forward to Monday. Me and my father joe didn\u2019t speak all Monday with exception of him sending me texts saying what he told me in the car but now with a twist. \n\n\u201cIt\u2019s February 11th and you have until the end of the week to get another job or else I\u2019m selling everything you own, because I bought it. Welcome to reality.\u201d \n\nThis caused me to have an anxiety attack at school and I went home early. I did apply to some places and thank goodness got a call back and I have an interview on Thursday. Anyways, on Tuesday I had to stay home because schools were cancelled due to an snow storm and he didn\u2019t go to work for the same reason. He took this as his chance to burst into my room and scream at me. He called me every name in the book, he threatened to yank my piercings out my face, he even took it upon himself to yank the hood of my sweater basically choking me just so I would look at him. Mind you by that time he had already screamed at me to clean my room so I was folding clothes, that\u2019s why I wasn\u2019t looking at him.  I started screaming because I thought he was going to hit me in my face like he said he would and I had a major breakdown. Now my grandma says that if I try to leave and stay anywhere else he and the rest of my family will cut me off. \n\nAITA for telling him to shut the fuck up? \n\nEdit: guys how I put screenshots ?? I have text conversation with my aunt and mom, I don\u2019t know if that\u2019ll add any proof but I don\u2019t know how to use reddit .. \n\nEdit 2: hey guys I had deleted the app shortly after posting this, I honestly just needed to vent. But all that aside, me and my father made up, we talked about it. I\u2019m fine for those who are asking, no need to worry! ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dbUYB7tzvcWcqhCjUnOtzHteEGc3Gnrc", "post_id": "a59dvl", "action": {"description": "leaving spoiled food for a food thief to steal", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "WIBTA if I left spoiled food for a food thief to steal?", "text": "Ok, so I'm coming here before acting on this, but here is the situation: I live in San Diego with my wife and son at her parents house currently. We live with roommates as it's a 6 bedroom house. We rent the rooms with all utilities included, access to the pool, laundry room, and both patio areas are open for them to have late night guests. We offer them cheaper for students, as that's who we mainly attract being close to the university. In doing so we share common areas. The kitchen being one of them. I cook, A LOT, and whenever I cook, I always tell the other three people living here that there is plenty of food for them to share, and most nights they will come and join us for dinner, or at least eat leftovers. This is done out of generosity because I see how hard a lot of them work, and two of who are here from out of state and away from family. This is where the problem started, and I thought should have ended. \n\nAbout three weeks ago, I took my wife and son out to a Japanese restaurant. My wife loves sushi, and that is our treat usually once a month. My son loves teriyaki so it's a win for everyone. After eating, my wife ordered two sushi roll to take home and eat with the movie we picked for that night. So we grab the to go sushi and head home. A few hours after arriving home, we start popping corn for the movie and my wife noticed her sushi is gone. We asked around, and sure enough the only make tenant we have ate them. Actually went into the bag, opened it up, and ate her two sushi rolls. About 16 pieces. I was flabbergasted. I asked him very angrily why he would do that, and he says, \"You always offer us lunch or dinner, so I thought leftovers would be the same way.\"\n\nThat to me screams entitlement, and I am not excited that my wife's food was just taken within just a few hours of even being purchased. He obviously saw that it was not leftovers either, but an entirely separate purchase. \n\nI discussed with him that it was not acceptable to go into our possessions, whether it be food or otherwise, and to use common sense before eating anything that is not his, as I have NEVER ordered takeout or from a restaurant for these tenants before.\n\nThis brought up a discussion with the other tenants, and we discovered that one had actually purchased a mini fridge because her food would turn up missing also. When confronted with this information, the food thief admitted to drinking her iced coffees, her cheesecake, etc. Overall, not fucking cool. We told him he had 30 days from the first of this month to be out, because he violated the tenant agreement by stealing others belongings. We have to look out for those renting our rooms, so the eviction was a mutual agreement. \n\nHe argues of course, but ultimately knows he can do nothing. Yet, he now knows he has nothing to worry about with stealing food. So yes, food has been disappearing ALL week from everyone.\n\nHere is where I need an opinion. I want to buy a nice steak and leave it in my car for a couple days, then prepare it with some veggies and potatoes and leave it on the refrigerator, obviously for the food thief to eat and get sick. Is this illegal? Is there any other suggestions for me to get my petty ass revenge on a food thief in my home?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "4lHWqoCGbHNN6Ko5l9SAQ7oUxbF4eREa", "post_id": "b44f3x", "action": {"description": "wanting to leave my family with my mentally ill mother", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to leave my family with my mentally ill mother", "text": "My mother has a mental illness that debilitates her from doing the things that she used to do. She used to love working, spending time with my siblings and I, and going outside, but because of her mental illness, she no longer enjoys her previous lifestyle. She refuses medication and believes that everyone is constantly out to get her and sees herself as a Godly figure and the things that she does because of her illness are SEVERE. We fight frequently to say the less.\n\nThis has obviously put a great strain on my family. My father has to work 3 jobs to keep us stable and is constantly tired because of this. I\u2019ve never had a close relationship with either of my parents and I\u2019ve grown up mostly independent (other than financially). \n\nNow for the AITA part, I want to move to another country FAR away from here (mainly to get away from my mother) for college but my father doesn\u2019t want me to leave the country for college. Financially, the cost would be the same and I have been accepted. I know he loves me and I love him, but I can\u2019t bear living in the same household any longer. So WIBTA if I left?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1f35bwyuH1EJHQsMJlYz7bYeAbyhNgEn", "post_id": "b83kcu", "action": {"description": "saying my friends boobs are just ''alright''", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for saying my friends boobs are just ''alright''?", "text": "i (18M) was hanging out with a friend (18F) at her place and we were watching a movie. So she was not really paying attention to the movie that much but i liked it a lot, while i was watching she was asking me questions like ''what do you think of this person'' and ''what do you think of this teacher'' and I just said ''they're alright''. that's usually my go to answer for everything.\n\nthen she said what do i think of going off to college, i said the same, it'll be alright. Then she asked me ''what do you think of my tits?'', i thought that a strange question and didn't answer it, then she said ''look at me'' and while i looked her, she literally got her boobs out of her bra. i said ''they're alright'' because i didn't know what else to say, and was shocked.\n\nThen she went to the toilet and didn't come out, she didn't come out for ages so i go to check on her and she says that her parents are coming home and that i should leave. I say okay, now her friends texted me calling me asshole because i destroyed her confidence AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "R5PreEkCcbr3xKyW5mkZYcuHUzxHvnWo", "post_id": "b8ez1v", "action": {"description": "strongly recommending my roommate and hiring a cleaning service for our shared bathroom", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I strongly recommended my roommate and I hire a cleaning service for our shared bathroom?", "text": "So Reddit, last year, I graduated from college and moved to a new city. My roommate (F, 23) and I (M, 24) were acquaintances in college and decided to room together as she had also gotten a job in the same city. Soon after arriving, I started dating my girlfriend, who I met through my roommate (friend of a friend).\n\n​\n\nThe issue is, our shared bathroom has gotten so filthy I try my best to avoid showering at home \u2013 I shower literally anywhere else: my girlfriend\u2019s place, the gym, my friends\u2019 places. After my roommate showers, there\u2019s just a thick layer of slippery soap scum and long hair. I slipped and slided around in the tub for months before giving in and buying a shower scrubber. I\u2019ve bought every cleaning product in an attempt to reduce the slipping risk in the bathtub. If I have to shower at home, I spend a good 5 mintues before each shower trying to get rid of the soap scum so I don't have to step in it. \n\nI\u2019ve mentioned it to her a few times, pretty passively (\u201cHey, I\u2019ve had some good success with X product for the tub, give it a shot!\u201d) trying not to actively blame her for the scum, but there\u2019s really only scum after she showers \u2013 it might be the coconut oil or something. I've gotten neutral/negative response, no change in behavior.\n\n​\n\nWould I be an asshole for suggesting we hire a professional cleaner? My girlfriend thinks that would be really passive aggressive, but there are some other areas that could use some cleaning (kitchen, living room) and I wouldn\u2019t mind footing half the bill in order to have a clean home to return to. Part of me hopes she'll get the message and start cleaning up after herself instead. I\u2019d like to reiterate that I don\u2019t expect her to clean because she\u2019s a girl \u2013 I clean up after myself in communal areas and just expect her to do the same (even though she makes more of a mess).\n\n​\n\nI don\u2019t want to piss her off/directly confront her since she\u2019s in the same social circles as my girlfriend, and they seem kind of gossipy/cliquey and I don't want to do that to my girlfriend. And I don\u2019t want to be an asshole, but I\u2019d also like to shower in my house without having to clean up her mess. For the past 2 months, I\u2019ve basically been in between staying at my girlfriend\u2019s house or crashing with my friends 70% of the time in order to avoid my place.\n\n​", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Rdjp1Ok12BWektWw5oZ0URJtb4pO42Jz", "post_id": "b7ezmv", "action": {"description": "unfollowing my friends because of their online PDA", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA If I unfollowed my friends because of their online PDA??", "text": "For context, I dated the girl for a very short while a few months back. I'm not very close with either of them now and don't have any feelings for her anymore they are really starting to annoy me. Me and the boy were quite good mates at college but as soon as they started dating a few weeks ago, he completely shut me out (ignoring my messages etc.) \n\nEveryday they post a picture together, or add \"Great day with @theirname :)\" to their stories. Maybe I'm being a lonely grump but I have never been able to stand PDA and with the added bonus of him acting like I don't exist as soon as he gets a girlfriend, it really pisses me off.\n\nI really want to unfollow them or say something but, being gen Zs, that seems to be a big deal and it's not like I hate them or anything, they're just in that annoying honeymoon phase that I'd much rather not see?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "45puwX1DxeZpUTCAoONsNXKAXVK2hi4K", "post_id": "b2rnqn", "action": {"description": "refusing to pull through a parking spot into the one in front so another customer could park behind me", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to pull through a parking spot into the one in front so another customer could park behind me?", "text": "So this happened today at Costco. It was busy, cars were prowling all around the parking lot. I spotted an open isle with a car backing out just as the car in front of it was also leaving. The cars park in strips of two so these cars had been parked nose to nose. So technically now this opened up two spots that were directly connected and I could have pulled through my intended spot and gone right into the spot in front of it so another car which had come up behind me could take my original spot. The problem with this however, is that I planned to make some large purchases, buying an appliance and small piece of furniture. If I had pulled through, this guy would have snugged right up behind me and when I came back out I wouldn\u2019t be able to open my back hatch/gate and load my items. So I stopped in my intended spot and parked. This guy was furious, laid on his horn and rolled his window down to berate me. I simply replied that I needed to be able to load large items in my car and this was going to be a big shop. I couldn\u2019t have my back end blocked. He was so mad. His wife flipped me the bird and they sped off like crazy people in a parking lot with pedestrians everywhere. \n\nI guess I could have pulled right through and out into the next aisle, done like a 5 point turn and reparked in my required direction, but the lot was so crowded and I probably would have just confused another car in the next aisle while doing an Austin powers technique getting my car turned around. I felt bad, the guy was so upset and I guess it looked like a douche bag move. AITA, what should I have done?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mM1vEW9tr0TOxMDTISV5GyVw2KyDQL5b", "post_id": "agvkov", "action": {"description": "not being thankful", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not being thankful", "text": "Am I the asshole? I lived in a crappy apartment with my disabled Mom, who I take care of. We had a crazy neighbor who decided to threaten to kill us so we packed up and moved to my Mom's sister's house. Now my Aunt is messy, like filthy, rotting food on the counters, toilet unflushed, garbage everywhere, never washes her hands. She isn't a hoarder she just doesn't seem to notice or care. Her granddaughter has lived with her most if her life since my cousin died and the girl's mom is a deadbeat. My little cousin is a brat with a capital B, and as messy as her grandmother. She will spill ice cream and when asked to clean it say no S (me) will clean it up, it drives me nuts. Both sides of my family have mental health issues which are prone to blossom in women in their early twenties and I have been going through hell with it. I almost did myself in last October and my Mom and my Aunt were there for me to keep me going and now my work has cut my hours in half . So my Aunt came up with the idea that instead of paying rent to live in her half finished basement, I can just keep the house clean for her. It's making me so resentful and angry. My Mom can't really clean up after herself but at least she tries, my Aunt and cousin have no excuse they are just gross. I will clean the place just about spotless but still there will always be something she finds fault with. The pillows on the couch aren't arranged properly, I load the dishwasher incorrectly, anything of mine or my mother's being visible is not acceptable. Yet when I moved in you couldn't sit on the couch and the sink was always full and smelled like death. I know I should be thankful, I have a free roof over my head even if it is an unfinished basement room. She didn't have to help us, she did it out of the kindness of her heart, she could have insisted I still pay rent but she didn't. I used to clean the place like it was my job but I just care less and less. It's starting to look bad and I'm hurting no one but myself and my mom. I can just hardly stand to be out of my room most of the time anymore. The complaints hurt as I'm doing my best and I am starting to feel more like a maid than a member of the family. I feel awful that I am so ungrateful, I feel like I should be happy for what I have been given but I'm just mad and not sure if I have a right to be.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0COjEFF3n4ghZqpau5k4L4JtqBlLVDjK", "post_id": "b42p2p", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go down on my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 24, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go down on my girlfriend?", "text": "Well, I just started dating this girl and we're great together. We get along extremely well. And the sex is great as well. But well to be honest I'm not really the type that wants to go down on a girl. I just find it rather disturbing. Well at the same time she loves going down for me and she expects the same from me. I've forced myself a bunch of times and I've come to the conclusion that I just don't enjoy going down on her. I brought this up recently and it lead to a huge fight. Am I an asshole for not wanting to go down on her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 18, "INFO": 3}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 24, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "R2qPBxREGtfH02UJOpQW2zb4FeT7Hh3G", "post_id": "ay62cn", "action": {"description": "\"bullying\" a kid at my school with autism", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for \u201cbullying\u201d a kid at my school with autism?", "text": "Hear me out, if the title was 100% true I wouldn\u2019t be posting here.\n\nContext: I was a hs freshman at the time  and the kid was a senior. I\u2019m now a college freshman.\n\nThis all happened in my freshman year in concert band. There happened to be a kid with autism in my class. The first day when I met him, we chatted about random stuff like football and other sport-related things. I can definitely tell without anyone telling me that he has autism, as I worked as a ilc tutor for most of middle school. I am totally fine talking and hanging out with pretty much anyone as I don\u2019t care what a person looks like as long as their actions aren\u2019t bad. Things are going smoothly, until 1 day about a quarter way through the semester he asks me a very inappropriate question relating to my genitals. I tell him \u201cthat\u2019s not an ok thing to say\u201d and everything is fine. Or so I thought. Throughout the next month the frequency of these sorts of comments increase, as do my response intensities. It got to the point where I felt sexually harassed, and I started telling him to \u201cshut the fuck up and leave me alone, asshole.\u201d He went away after that.\n\nNow it\u2019s at this point in the story where some of you are gonna say \u201cjust tell a teacher,\u201d and yes, I agree, that would be a great thing to do except since he has autism, unless he physically does something to me, the teachers won\u2019t do jack shit.\n\nAfter I said that to him, the next day, he started saying that he was going to get me expelled from my school because I was a discgrase (bad spelling sorry). I had enough at this point so I started messing with him a little bit. I went along with his game, and every time he would say something about me being a bad kid, I would go along with it and make up stories about being a criminal. (My favorite was telling him I was a time traveling bank robber.) other than this, I didn\u2019t say anything insulting to him. \n\nOne night, after a concert, his twin brother who doesn\u2019t have any mental handicaps told me to stop messing with his brother or he would beat me up. I stopped after that and just avoided the kid entirely. \n\nI know it\u2019s been like 4 years, but this still sticks in my mind. I really don\u2019t know if I was the asshole in this situation so I\u2019d like Reddit\u2019s opinion.\n\nThanks for reading. Let me know if I should put a TL:DR", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tjSVtZGRI63YKZpP0B46xU49BdPpbmTn", "post_id": "aac4q1", "action": {"description": "saying that women can't gain muscles like men can", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for saying that women can't gain muscles like men can?", "text": "So, I was having a minor discussion with someone on tumblr about a series we both follow. For context, the series is a manga about kids training to become superheros. Anyway, the OP was complaining about how the girls in the series don't seem to be as muscular as the boys, and I chimed in by saying that its harder for women to become visibly muscular like men, but that a lack of muscle doesn't mean that a woman isn't physically fit. Another person chimed in and said that I was sexists and that this line of thinking was a lie.\n\n​\n\nNow I initially wrote off the other person as being overly sensitive, but I later realized that I could've been mistaken because I don't have a lot of knowledge in this field. I found some articles that supported my statement, but I wasn't sure if they were reliable or not. Even if my statement about women and muscle gain was correct, is it still sexists to say something like that?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xgKgA5gH7ECBWbN3swodjRTzg9DjFdLw", "post_id": "an38hn", "action": {"description": "not hearing my SO's calls", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not hearing my SO's calls", "text": "Happened a few hours ago and I feel terrible about it. We watched the Superbowl, ate and then watched a movie, had a very good time actually. It was pretty late by the time I realized we had to go to bed, but he didn't want to: he had to be at work at 5 am and thought that if he went to bed, he wouldn't be able to wake up early. \n\nI insisted a bit because we had a very busy day: took the dog to the vet and helped a friend of mine move an elliptical bike she bought, and SO basically dismantled it and rearranged it. However, he was firm and I let him be, went to bed. \n\nI remember that I left the lights on and the door slightly open so I could see movement, but I don't remember what side did I fall asleep at. This is important because I have a slight deafness in my left ear and I'm a very heavy sleeper so I usually try to not sleep on my good ear, or else I won't hear a thing. \n\nI woke up at 6 and found him gone, the doors wide open, his gear on the bed (he's a physician)  and his keys on the lock. I was freaking out about what the heck had happened when the phone rang: he had run out of the house to grab his glasses and got locked out. Called me 20 million times, both to the landline and my mobile. Honked the car. Had his Uber call me. Nothing. I woke up an hour later. He went to work with nothing and had to come back home for his things.\n\nI feel awful, but I can't help being a heavy sleeper. I want to know if IATA because it sure feels like I am :(", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vwMjfkRZOO3PgAOp7fRo7bFimzecb6R7", "post_id": "azcrku", "action": {"description": "not standing up during the pledge", "pronormative_score": 30, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not standing up during the pledge?", "text": "If you don\u2019t know what the pledge is, it\u2019s when you say your pledge of allegiance to the US.\n\n\nI\u2019m in middle school and I don\u2019t stand up for the pledge.Other kids also didn\u2019t stand up for the pledge either.My teacher is fine with this but when a sub came in she was pissed when we didn\u2019t stand up for the pledge.She had another teacher come and talk to us about \u201cgiving her a hard time.\u201d\n\nAITA for not standing up for the pledge", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 30, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 30, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Aft6UOJ97jiMDB5zC70ixQomexD4Mvwb", "post_id": "aunn01", "action": {"description": "being upset at my friend for not notifying me when he cancelled our sleepover", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being upset at my friend for not notifying me when he cancelled our sleepover", "text": "      My group of friends use discord for all of our communication and in this server a certain friend (L) wanted to have a sleepover to record some games with us. \n\n     Me and another friend (C) we\u2019re at a gaming tournament and C didn\u2019t have a phone that could use discord. \n     \n     Earlier in the day L had said that C and I should \u201cjust come over ASAP.\u201d I told him that we would be late since the tournament ended at 7PM. At 6:30 L sent a message notifying us: \u201c@everyone sleepover my place\u201d this message popped up on my phones home screen so I could see it easily\n\n     \n     At 6:37 another friend said that he couldn\u2019t go. At 6:42 L said \u201csick no sleepover actually\u201d\nHe sent this message without @\u2018ing anyone and I didn\u2019t see it.\n\n     C and I left the tournament at about 7:15 PM, dropped a friend off at home and went to L\u2019s house. His sister opened the door and let us in. She said that \u201cL is upstairs in his room.\u201d On our way upstairs, L\u2019s mom said that he had just left and that he would be home probably in an hour. So C and I spent an hour in L\u2019s room playing games while he was out. \n\n     At 8:40 L\u2019s mom said we might just want to leave and that L told her to kick us out. He said to me \u201cI told y\u2019all not to come ya know.\u201d\n\n     I believe that he should\u2019ve @\u2018ed us to notify me that it was cancelled and that it was reasonable to expect that I wouldn\u2019t see a message I wasn\u2019t notified for. \n\n    He and others think that I should\u2019ve seen the message and not just arrived at his house. He says that he did notify us but I just didn\u2019t look\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "n3YoikdnDOcUz19zVAqZLfMBfEeYQ2h8", "post_id": "aj05mi", "action": {"description": "not crying over my grandmothers death", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not crying over my grandmothers death?", "text": "This is kind of an off my chest, genuine concern, and somewhat of a guilt trip all in one. Sorry if this cuts too deep for some;  a NSFW tag is recommended or requested, I\u2019ll add one, no questions asked.\n\n(Excessive backstory - skip to end if you want to save yourself a few minutes)\nAt the beginning of last spring break, my grandmother on my fathers side passed away due to medical complications resulting from old age and a history of rather heavy tobacco usage from her early teen years to shortly before her first pregnancy in her early thirties, let\u2019s say twenty years. No condolences needed; it is a fact of life and I\u2019ve since moved on completely.\n\nThis warrior of a lady\u2019s death was expected but MASSIVELY sudden in a way. She had, over the course of nearly half a decade, brushed death, dodged death, experienced it for several seconds, and everything in between. If death were a person, she gave them a taste of their own medicine before giving up. This absolute unit of a human was pronounced legally dead a dozen times before she succumbed to a peaceful, endless sleep in her warm living room surrounded by her dog, my mother and father, and me.\n\nI\u2019ll spare you the novel that I could easily write right now, but when she finally left us for good, I was overcome with... nothing.\n\nMy father and mother both were silent for a few painful moments before shedding any tears. I had seen my mom cry plenty of times, but my dad went from the most humble and masculine stereotype to a sobbing mess. However, it wasn\u2019t just sadness. It was anger.\n\nI decided to excuse myself, as it was very late and I had school in a matter of hours. Before I could finish my sentence, my dad turned me to and said, completely un ironically, \u201cWhy did you even come down here in the fucking first place, Waynard_Ferguson?\u201d \n\nThis was a bit jarring to me. My father didn\u2019t particularly like his mother, and she wasn\u2019t exactly what you would call a sweet old lady, so his attack towards me specifically was not expected.\n\nI explained to him in a stammering sentence that I wanted to be there for support and since I had been the only person there besides my mom (brothers moved out), that I would at least stay and offer my very real sympathy. This didn\u2019t sit well with him, either.\n\n\u201cYou could\u2019ve just told me the truth, and stay locked in your room like always. Had you not come down, I wouldn\u2019t even know you were home!\u201d this was delivered in not much less than a choked up, grieving whisper, but was deafening nonetheless. I looked to my mother, who didn\u2019t speak, which was the right move in retrospect.\n\nAfter this, I didn\u2019t really know what to say, or if I should even say anything. at all. He broke an uncomfortable eye contact with me after a few seconds, and told me in a hushed tone to go to bed, along with an assumption that I only wanted to leave because of my selfishness.\n\nLong story short, my father wasn\u2019t mad at my predetermined lack of care for the situation, as he explained after his irrational state of grief passed. He was upset by my outwardly emotionless reaction to not just his mother\u2019s death, but really anything related to the situation. It\u2019s not that I didn\u2019t care about my father and what he was going through. It\u2019s just that I didn\u2019t have the strong emotional connection that my father had, or anything close to it, to display that I was in fact emotionally moved by a VERY raw display of reality in front of me. I will admit, I didn\u2019t cry or have a very strong reaction, if at all, to her death. I\u2019m not sure why, I just couldn\u2019t find it in me to be upset.\n\nTo be fair, she was quite the grandmother. She would insist on taking me to and from school regardless if my mom was or wasn\u2019t going to, she would take me shopping for anything I needed with a seemingly endless supply of money, and wouldn\u2019t show the slightest bit of irritation whenever I broke something of hers or said something stupid out of child ignorance. Not to mention, she would fix me meals fit for an entire family. She did this for not only me, but my two older brothers, and only stopped when she couldn\u2019t breath on her own anymore.\n\nMy father, at the time, seemed to only think that I was leaving the room because I was uncomfortable being around him, and not really thinking about the fact that I just watched someone die for the first time.\n\nSo, am I the asshole for not being upset from her death, and more specifically not feeling obligated to address her condition in a way that wasn\u2019t dismissive? And this isn\u2019t really asking if my dad was the offender, because he wasn\u2019t. Is there something going on with me that would justify my lack of guilt or sorrow? Or am I just an unfeeling person? I left the room because I was uncomfortable, sure. But I was 17, exhausted, and just witnessed something not many people can easily forget about. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0JqorSGHPQnUHKS4L8qaqcC8CMdHqHls", "post_id": "axikvl", "action": {"description": "calling my mother a bitch during her birthday party", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for calling my mother a bitch during her birthday party?", "text": "I know that sounds pretty bad from the get-go but hear me out first. My mother had recently turned 50, and wanted a party to celebrate this lifetime achievement. In her mind it would be a small house party like we have every year but just slightly better or over the top. \n\nI decided to go all out, getting reservations for a small club. Inviting her group of close friends, there\u2019s about 10 people, I specifically planned for no kids because this was supposed to be special. I made sure I had drinks covered, music she liked and all the decor set up.\n\nWhen she got here she was shocked, we had a blast at first. Eating food, drinking, it all went wrong on the dance floor. My moms friends were pretty drunk and began doing some scandalous dances, such as twerking and grinding on friends in a joking manner. \n\nThat\u2019s when it got more serious and my mom joined in and began twerking furiously, being the supportive daughter I am (and very drunk) said \u201cYeah, fuck it up bitch!\u201d Like in a friend way, not like being derogatory.\n\nShe immediately froze, and began tearing up, I was so confused. She ran out of the venue and I went after her, she explained that she felt massively disrespected and ashamed on her birthday. She went back in later to finish the party, but everyone was acting awkward afterwards. I dropped her off in silence, we haven\u2019t spoken since.\n\nAm I the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gU54kXzVCYxHi5vBbjRA6WaLw58MUeBz", "post_id": "afz5je", "action": null, "title": "AITA in my relationship with my parents", "text": "​\n\nMy relationship with my parents has always been strained. This is for a number of reasons. To start off in the 4th grade they left a cult, a cult I still believed in, I didn't really have anyone to talk to at the time, so I resorted to the internet to help me work through what I believed. At this point I didn't really see my parent's as a role model. They also had me during college, a decision I am certain they now both regret, so I feel partially responsible for them being stuck with a kid they don't want. In the 6th grade I was being an ass, making fun of my dads friend, thinking that neither him or I was taking it seriously, unfortunately  I didn't know I was being an dick until I heard my dad call me an ass after I left the room. This type of scenario happened again with my mom. She was complaining about me and my siblings not helping out as much as we should. I got mad and said that it was her job to clean  up after us, I know I was the asshole in the scenario, unfortunately I didn't know how much of a dick I was being until my dad came home. I heard her crying to my dad in their room, and I started feeling really bad about it. A few minutes later my dad came into my room and asked me \"why are you being such an ass to your mom\".  It is because of these events, and many little ones, that I am very reserved around my parents, I think they are going to talk about me behind my back. I also feel like I can't rely on my parents emotionally, so I have been resorting to the internet and myself for advice/emotional support since the 6th grade. This has matured me, greatly, and I would argue that I am capable of making thought out and mature decisions, as I couldn't rely on them to make these decisions for me. (as in setting rules, giving advice on what I should do, ect.)\n\n​\n\nOkay, so jumping too present day. On Christmas we go to a friends house, a couple hours into the event my mom and her friend go outside to, I later figure out, smoke a cigarette.  Now I am fine with that, I have no right to judge what she does, and as long as its not a repeating thing I don't really think its a health issue. However, I am not allowed outside during this time, as she probably doesn't want to set a bad example for me. (keep in mind I don't consider them role models anymore). Later on New Years they say that we are going to the Rose parade, as they found a way to get in easily. However, we would have to go early. and I thought that after staying up late New Years eve I wouldn't have enough energy to enjoy the parade. Long story short, they forced my to go, and I ended up napping the entire time. After winter break I started independent study, and they are now worried that I will stop seeing friends, and  instead stay inside all day. Independent study has allowed me to complete other work that I would normally do all weekend, feeling guilty if I didn't dedicate every moment of my free time to this work (I am a bit of a workaholic). This weekend, now that I didn't fill an extreme amount of guilt for hanging out, I decided to take a long break, watching Netflix and playing video games with friends all weekend. Meanwhile I put off chores until Monday, last night my parents shut off my internet, telling me they wouldn't turn it on until I got my chores done. I did my chores, and, rudely, told them to turn the internet back on. They told me that I was being disrespectful and entitled, I told them to stop parenting me, and that if I could get a job and leave I would. (Though I do have experience to get a job in programming, I am also 14... so I cant get a job).\n\n​\n\nAITA for getting mad when my parents try to... parent me? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "rTah1UgPvSPCQGj6QUlaHQfl4jEzmDFh", "post_id": "afmkjs", "action": {"description": "cheating in Monopoly", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for cheating in Monopoly", "text": "I played Monopoly with my mom, stepdad, and my cool brother Nathan a few hours ago and I feel really guilty for what I did. \n\nWe were playing Monopoly, and I cheated and it made Nathan go bankrupt real fast. I cut him short a dollar when I had to pay him a few times because he doesn\u2019t always pay attention.\n\nAnd then Nathan went bankrupt and he flipped the board and yelled the F word. I think he flipped the board as a joke because he never ever gets mad enough to do that stuff and he does that as a joke all the time but I think he accidentally said the F word\n\nMy stepdad thought it was real funny but my mom didn\u2019t like that he cussed so she got him in trouble and now he has to do all the dishes at dinner tonight and I have seven brothers and two parents so that\u2019s ten people\u2019s worth of dishes to wash and that\u2019s not really fair\n\nAITA for cheating or is it Monopoly\u2019s fault for being stupid", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "fJ9Q5P6Z3qULHATjq5W7QDHO7t7OQpyO", "post_id": "a6bniv", "action": {"description": "towing my neighbor's car", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for towing my neighbor\u2019s car?", "text": "So in my apartment complex, you get one assigned parking space, and you have the option of paying for an additional \u201creserved\u201d space with a number and a permit to park there. Three nights this week, some guy parks in my space. On the second night he did it, I wrote him a note warning him that he was in a reserved spot and that I\u2019d have him towed if he didn\u2019t move. Meanwhile I\u2019m stuck parking on the street quite a walk away and I pay for this spot just to avoid that. His car left both days, so I know it wasn\u2019t just left there. Two nights later, he\u2019s in my spot again. The note was gone, so I assume he got the message. At this point I\u2019m thinking that I\u2019m just gonna keep getting jerked around, so I had him towed. \n\nOn a somewhat unrelated note, I got rear-ended less than twenty minutes later on my way to dinner. I was waiting to enter a roundabout and the kid behind us either wasn\u2019t paying attention or wasn\u2019t experienced on wet roads. Poor kid skidded in the rain and just blasted into us. Everyone was okay, and my car is still drivable. I harbor no ill will against him. Nice kid. But it felt like some rotten karma. Friday is turning pretty sour. I\u2019m gonna need a new bumper. \nAnyway. We exchanged info and I went to dinner. \n\nDinner was great. When we returned home, the owner of the vehicle I had towed was waiting for me at the spot. In the rain. He was understandably upset. I offered a pretty meager apology, but he wasn\u2019t having it. Fair. I just gave him the number to get his car back. \n\nSo am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 22, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7nwpPEq6N3VPgwwiEping19lvYBZkkFY", "post_id": "9td018", "action": null, "title": "AITA for not wanted my girlfriend's parents to leave a car with us in the city?", "text": "My girlfriend and I live in Denver with another roommate in a duplex, outside of downtown and in a residential area with a lot of street parking. Her parents don't live in the continental US, but are currently here vacationing. They want to leave their Jeep with us from now until April/May, and just leave it parked on our street. \n\n​\n\nI don't want to have the Jeep just parked in front of our place for 4-5 months, and would rather have them rent a place to store it until they come back in the spring. Admittedly, on our block there is always parking space, so we wouldn't be fucking our neighbors over and taking up a valuable parking space...but her dad does this all the time. He has two motorcycles in the states--one in a friend's garage and another here in Denver in storage that we periodically check on, plus an RV here as well that we do the same for.\n\n​\n\nI'd be OK with this if it was for a few weeks or a month, but I don't want it here for half the year. That is half a year that we have to move it for street cleaning, snow plowing, etc. Additionally, we are going to be moving to a new place in January...we don't know where it will be because we are still looking, it will likely be in the same neighborhood with the same parking situation but some of the row homes we are looking at have limits on the number of vehicles per household. He just has shit spread out all over the US with friends and family taking care of all of it, and I feel like he takes advantage of all of us.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Ob6eO9o3qlvgBSe7Mwr5JIih2IBPHuiH", "post_id": "ajftzi", "action": {"description": "dumping my girlfriend because she made Fun of my Sport", "pronormative_score": 52, "contranormative_score": 24}, "title": "AITA For Dumping my Girlfriend Because she Made Fun of my Sport?", "text": "I have dedicated the last 12 years of my life to gymnastics. Specifically trampolining. I have am was a high level national athlete. I have competed at tons of national level competitions and have even competed at quite a few international competitions representing Team Canada. At my peak I was trainning at the trampoline gym 6 times a week, and all my training added up to nearly 30 hours a week on top of high school. Near the end of my career I was even getting funding to continue my sport. Eventually I had to quit because of a head injury, but this was still a huge part of my life and I was immensely proud of it. \n\nMy girlfriend and I met a few months after I stopped competing, and she's heard quite a bit about my sport and always thought it was quite cool. She played volleyball in high school and had played on something rep volleyball teams. Nothing too crazy but I still thought it was pretty cool.\n\nThe other day we were discussing sports, and she was telling me how she had wished she played more volleyball and pursued it further. I told her that it was a great feeling to be really good at something and really enjoy it. I told her that it was a lot of work but it felt great to be a top level athlete at a sport. Queue the following conversation:\n\nHer: Yeah, well it's a little different isn't it?\n\nMe: What do you mean?\n\nHer: I mean you were good, but trampolining isn't a real sport.\n\nMe: How do you figure that? I was literally training as much as I went to school and Canada has arguably the most competitive trampolining scene in the world.\n\nHer: Well there's pretty much no one that does that sport. It's not hard to get to a high level, if you played a real sport like soccer you never would've been that good.\n\nI dumped her on the spot. That sport had such a huge impact on who I am today. I dedicated thousands of hours and even ended up getting paid some money to continue training. I was probably within the top 500 athletes worldwide. It felt like she was attacking who I am.\n\nHer friends all said that I'm an asshole for breaking up over something so small. This truly hurt, and it's a sentiment I received from people my whole life. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 49, "EVERYBODY": 11, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 52, "WRONG": 24}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Y2JbOHX1nbhZRaCLH1H1085hbX64pdFM", "post_id": "alvk9g", "action": {"description": "getting annoyed that my boyfriend lost weight and I gained some", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting annoyed that my boyfriend lost weight and I gained some?", "text": "Myself and my boyfriend are both slim people, but he's medically speaking underweight. I've been trying to get him to eat more food in order to gain weight, as he tends to get sick easily and runs out of energy a lot.\nHe has gone and got bloods done to test if there was an underlying condition, but the doctor also confirmed he's just not eating enough.\n\nSince living together I've done my best to cook food that is healthy and tasty, bought breakfast cereal, given him larger portions, tried to make more meals a day, basically tried to find a way that worked for him to eat more.\n\nHe is a very slow eater, and so ends up feeling full well before dinner is over, and frequently doesnt finish. I dont like throwing food away so put it in the fridge or just finish it myself.\n\nHe also tends to eat lots of low nutrition food. Like eating toast, and drinking tea and coffee all day so he doesn't feel like he's hungry. \n\nAfter over a month of this I have ended up gaining weight, which isnt the end of the world, but he has actually lost weight.\n\nI got frustrated with him and now I want to just prepare my own meals from now on and let him do what he wants, because this method isnt working for either of us. \n\nHe got upset at this and said he was trying, and that I wasn't being fair, but I dont think its my responsibility to be monitoring his food intake and constantly trying to find meals that I think he'd want to eat, while putting my own desire to eat a differing diet in the background \n\nAITA for deciding that its on him to care for himself and not on my shoulders and wanting to just do seoerate meal prep? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "D4eWHlzxao1OsUwCdpCmQLMVHJn1dDrX", "post_id": "auh7mc", "action": {"description": "shutting a friend down and ignoring her", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for shutting a friend down and ignoring her?", "text": "I have this friend (N) who I am honestly quite close to. We met through work and it grew outside of that. We have two mutual friends through work L who is at work with us now and M who moved about 6 hours away from us in December 2018. \n\nThe original plan is that N and M would go on Tuesday to visit Ns new house a few hours away and then go to big city dress shopping to go to bridal shower on Thursday and then Friday stay at Ns house just hanging out. \nThe new plan was M wanted to have lunch with her Nan on Tuesday, meaning N can\u2019t go to her new house to see her boyfriend, and Friday M wants to go out with a guy. \n\nThis is a huge problem for N. She went on an absolute rant yesterday about how M is ruining her plans just to spread her legs. That she just wants to get laid. She said a lot of this kind of slut shaming stuff. I was in shock so I didn\u2019t say anything other than I think she is being unfair. \n\nThen we were on lunch, we were sitting with L and L was explaining how she has a stomach infection and I felt really bad for her. When L left, N started saying that she has no sympathy since in the past L had a major sexual history and left guys stuck it in her butt and that\u2019s probably why she is sick. \nAgain I was in shock and didn\u2019t know what to do. \n\nOvernight I had a big think about it. Realised how much it bothered me and so this morning when we had our morning phone call I confronted her about it. I said it was inappropriate and I didn\u2019t like that she was so willing to dish out abusive comments and if she was going to continue to not do it around me. \n\nShe fought me on it. I said that it wasn\u2019t the kind of thing I want said about me so I would appreciate her keeping the comments to herself. \n\nToday she came up to me and asked if we could get lunch together and I initially said yes and then regretted it. So when lunch came and she was already talking to another co-worker I left and ate elsewhere. \n\nShe is now complaining to anyone who will listen about it all, including our manager. \n\nAm I being the asshole for standing up for my own beliefs? Because she sure as shit is making me feel like it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hT9JTtLVzMLucNiym5Q72ZFj18Kv2BTz", "post_id": "b1y7j6", "action": {"description": "wanting to start turning his game room into a baby room even though I'm not pregnant", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 19}, "title": "AITA for wanting to start turning his game room into a baby room even though I\u2019m not pregnant?", "text": "My husband and I are trying for our first.  It\u2019s only a matter of time at the rate we are going at it.   I\u2019m a be prepared kind of person and would like to start converting his game room into a nursery now.  It\u2019s a lot of work and would be nice not to have to rush it.  He doesn\u2019t want to start, it\u2019s his game room and is reluctant to give it up.  \n\nWe\u2019ve discussed it a few times, but actually argued about it during the last.   I don\u2019t love how attached he is to it.  It\u2019s going to happen eventually whether he wants to give up his game room or not, why not get an early start and have that free time for other stuff when I\u2019m pregnant.   Things will be hectic then.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 19, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 19}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "W6Yr0QafkRbL35pR9ENu7U2BiqTEm2FR", "post_id": "alauc0", "action": {"description": "getting annoyed at my girlfriends fidgeting over the phone", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting annoyed at my girlfriends fidgeting over the phone?", "text": "Lately I've been finding myself getting really annoyed over my girlfriends fidgeting and I feel like an ass for bringing it up with her all the time. For a little background info, she's very active and can't really sit still for a long time without fidgeting or doing something, this in of itself isn't a problem. The problem arises when we chat over the phone, she will usually starting tapping the phone and often do this without realising, it doesn't help that her phones microphone sucks. Anyone speaking from more than a hands length away from the phone becomes basically inaudible while anything closer is alarmingly loud. So when the tapping inevitably begins we are unable to hear each other. I've kindly asked her to not tap the phone a few times but she'll often do it without realising. Am I the asshole for bringing it up with her all the time? I feel like Im nagging her but If I dont say anything then we wont be able to hear each other over the phone. Thoughts?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wwoDlwn9vmUbNxfxCkvvSXg5DbJPEhh0", "post_id": "akpimr", "action": {"description": "indirectly telling my teacher to grade a cheating student", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for indirectly telling my teacher to grade a cheating student?", "text": "For the backstory, I am in the 11th Grade. A dude cheated in a test and the teacher had her own doubts. She wanted to orally grade him (in front of everyone) and I told my classmate \"how about she grades him (written) again.\"\n\nShe heard me and did just that, saying that \"Ms. Cryoniko came up with a great idea, get out a piece of paper.\" She didn't pay attention to him during the test, so he could have easily done it again, while in front of the class he would've made a buffoon out of himself. \n\nFor whatever reason, he didn't cheat (and he failed), and at the end of school I almost got beaten by the guy. I did not apologize yet and I'm still receiving vague threats from him through a popular messaging app. \n\nNote: he perfectly wrote the commentary our teacher sent us, word by word, while completely failing every single class including the one he cheated at. It was supposed to be shady from the beginning.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tSKI65uuj2zYEkXZesEzQHUP9jEBCgq6", "post_id": "b1bb46", "action": {"description": "drawing in class", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Drawing in Class", "text": "I'm not very used to posting on reddit, so I'm sorry if this comes off as rambly. I just really need a neutral perspective on this. \n\n  I have ADHD, which makes it pretty difficult to sit and focus in class without doing something with my hands. In highschool I'd find myself constantly doodling to help me listen to teachers. Through both highschool and college I've never really had any problems with it, until today. \n  \nCurrently I'm taking a communications class that's required of my major. Everyone gives a speech in class every two weeks or so. This class goes for 3 hours, so going in I knew I'd be fidgety. I got my speech out of the way and started drawing in my sketchbook. \n  \n It must have taken her sometime to notice me, because in the middle of class after a student gave their speech she called across the room for me to close my book and pay attention. She then announced to the whole class about how doing anything besides listening quietly was unacceptable and horribly disrespectful. Everyone went on break for a few minutes and I had time to put away my things.\n \n This is the part that probably puts me in asshole territory. If I was smart I would have not done anything and just sat quietly. But this is the 3rd time this professor has passive aggressively lectured me in front of the whole class, so I was feeling pretty grumpy. I didn't want to risk disassosiating and getting anxiety because of this teacher. So I took out my smaller sketchbook and turned more towards the speakers to show that I was paying attention. She was not happy about this.\n\n  After class was finished she told me to stay when everyone left. She then berated me about how horribly disrespectful and distracting I was to everyone. Because of this I'd be losing 10 percent of my grade on my own speech- and she was going to bring it up to the chairman because me drawing was that problematic to the rest of the class. She went on to aggressively tell me how horrible I was for a good few minutes. Even after explaining why I was doodling she said she didn't care. because I didn't have an accommodation letter, she couldn't(wouldn't) accept the excuse; and that other kids in class have problems and don't bother anyone in class. \n  \n I think she handled the whole situation rather horribly, but she has a point- I should of gotten some resources from my school's student disability services awhile ago. No matter what I end up doing I'm definitely going to talk to them about accommodations in the future so situations like this don't happen again. \n\nI grew up being a good student, so I'm honestly not used to handling teachers that don't like me. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BJ00NkfKbEiWG8MywQJ0nUhFBME4neSB", "post_id": "akiduc", "action": {"description": "accidentally telling a kid her dad was in a relationship", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for accidentally telling a kid her dad was in a relationship?", "text": "Over the holidays, I was at a party with some friends. One friend (f) was there, and we talked for a while. I later saw her go to the door and greet her boyfriend. I'd met him before at various parties, they'd been dating around 6 months. He'd brought his kids with him, who we'd never met. His girlfriend met him at the door (not her house) I jokingly made a comment about their lame side hug. Apparently he hadn't told his kids he was dating anyone. At dinner the other night, they brought it up and told me I'd single handedly spilled the beans to his kids, and the tone of the conversation wasn't jovial. I do feel bad, and I did apologize, but the more I think about it, the more I'm annoyed (on the verge of being pissed) that I was put in that situation.\n\nIf it was that big a deal, why couldn't she subtly mention it before he arrived? There was probably an hour at least and it wasn't that large a group. And why would you bring your kids to a party hosted by your girlfriend's friends (he knew everyone through her) and expect no one to mention it? This wasn't a new relationship, I think it's reasonable to presume after 6 months he's told his family. \n\nSo AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8tO7jTheVfdhvWcFQR1bilSCZ1zofRWF", "post_id": "b40rps", "action": {"description": "taking off my wedding ring 2 years after my wife died", "pronormative_score": 64, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for taking off my wedding ring 2 years after my wife died?", "text": " My wife died 2 years ago however we both decided if one of us died the other would wear the ring for a year, and then after a year passed we could choose to wear the ring for another year. Anyways I wore the ring for a year after her death and then another year. A few days ago was the date and after some reflection I decided to take it off. \n\n It gets complicated because I have a great relationship with my in laws. When they saw me without a ring I could sense a lot of discomfort and awkwardness but they didn't say anything and now I feel bad. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 22, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 42, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 64, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "M5uMW7gAIALH4ofNwmNkAygyuhWz61td", "post_id": "afgaj3", "action": {"description": "not going to my Mom's Third Wedding", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Not Going To My Mom\u2019s Third Wedding?", "text": "So some context here, I was a Senior and it was  my last semester of HS. I was ready to graduate and only had to pass 1 more final to walk. This final happened to be for my theatre class. We were to perform 3 showings of a play over 3 days. I was a major character and had NO understudy so if I didn\u2019t show up the show could not go on and I wouldn\u2019t be able to graduate with the rest of my class. \n\nAt the beginning of the semester our teacher gave us the 3 days the play was  going to be on so that we could make sure that we had ample time to plan our schedules around it (May 1st, 2nd, and 3rd) My mom tells me she\u2019s thinking about having her wedding (her 3rd marriage) during either the first or second week of May and I told her that if it was on the 1st, 2nd, or 3rd that I wouldn\u2019t be able to be there for it because of the play.\n\nFast forward and it\u2019s May and we\u2019ve already done our first 2 performances. A month earlier my mom told me that she and her husband were having the wedding on the 3rd at 2pm. I said alright and left at that thinking that she remembered that my final was that day. I should have followed up with her to make sure she remembered and that was my mistake.\n\nSo it\u2019s the 3rd and we\u2019re all at the theatre rehearsing our lines and putting on make-up etc. But then I get the phone call.My mom wants to know when I am going to be there for the wedding to help set up. I tell my mom that I\u2019m not going to the wedding and that I had told her I couldn\u2019t go because of the show like I had told her months ago. \n\nShe flipped her shit and immediately began screaming at me. Telling her I never told her that I couldn\u2019t come (bullshit) and that she never heard that I would be busy ( she went to this play and had a play bill IN HER HAND with the dates and times of the showings) and that this is important to her so I should just come anyway.\n\nWhen I told her no I could not just come because of my role and the fact that my entire graduation depended on me doing this performance (like I had told her) she called me a liar and asked how stupid I thought she was that a play would be my final. She then threw at me that \u201cWell this is my third wedding so I bet you don\u2019t think it\u2019s important anyway you\u2019ll just make it to the next one,\u201d and I got angry and said \u201cyeah that\u2019s exactly it.\u201d \n\nI know it was petty and childish but she had pissed me off. She didn\u2019t talk to me for a while after that and to this day refuses to believe that I A) told her about the play B) it was my final C) I wouldn\u2019t have graduated if I bailed. So am I an Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cj0hEfGXcunGQHHB96X3xftdVuQAPrkh", "post_id": "b1y9le", "action": {"description": "not wanting my ex at my niece's wedding", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 18}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my ex at my niece's wedding", "text": "My wife and I separated almost 10 years ago. She dropped the news that she was leaving right after my estranged mother died. I try to keep a good relationship with her for our now adult children, but obviously I have some resentment.\n\nOne of my nieces reached out to me and told me that she was giving me a head's up that she would like my ex to come to her wedding. I wrote back and politely told her I'd rather she didn't come. My niece's father (my brother) called me and chewed me out for saying no and told me that I was doing a disservice to my whole extended family for trying to cut out his kid's aunt. I pointed out that she's technically not her aunt anymore and I'm a member of the family and she isn't, especially since she chose to leave, and now my kids will have to spend the wedding between both parents, rather than with me, since it is my side. He told my I could either get over it or not come. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 18, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 18}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "HpninbA2QmZ9aLfU4FjkQtPonwmvpQP8", "post_id": "am4d2l", "action": {"description": "not wanting to use half my yearly vacation time to go with my wife and her side of the family on vacation", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to use half my yearly vacation time to go with my wife and her side of the family on vacation?", "text": "Her parents rent a big enough space at a beach that they, their Moms, and my family (Wife, toddlers, and myself) each have a place to sleep if my wife and I share a bed. It's extremely generous of them to do this, they let us stay there for free and we're free to do whatever we want from there, but 90% of the time all of us stay together. It's essentially a half paid for vacation yearly.\n\n\nThe problem for me is two fold. The first thing is that my side of the family lives far away, and I have to use vacation time to see them. Family is extremely important to my side of the family, so this is a huge problem for me when I don't get time with them. We live close to her family, and it uses half of my vacation allocation yearly which severely limits the time I get to see my own family. Regardless, we've done this twice, once each for the last two years, and I find myself missing my family often and it's getting to where it's really effecting me.\n\n\n\nThe second issue is that last year my wife and I had a huge fight while we were there, and she tried to use her family against me while I was there. It didn't work, because thankfully they were all reasonable and told her what she was doing was wrong, but it was a HUGE embarrassment to me. She apologized profusely but this is a reoccurring issue with her that she knows I get sick missing my family, she knows how I feel isolated, and then she tries to involve them and have them gang up on me. It used to work but lately they've stopped listening to her. She has promised me it won't happen again and we've been great since then. Regardless, it has completely ruined the idea of being there for me. \n\n\n\nWhen I think about going this year there is zero joy in the thought. I would honestly rather stay home alone then go. I dread the thought of having to go again. AITA for rather wanting to spend that time at to visit my own family and let her go with the kids with her family? \n\n\nShe's a stay at home mom so she doesn't have to use any vacation time.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YBBEgh204UcepPcDSLaPAHj0XVDQaqLA", "post_id": "9vpizp", "action": {"description": "not wanting to pay for someone's gas", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to pay for someone's gas?", "text": "Now according to the title, you may obviously immediately think I'm NTA, but read the whole thing first.\n\nLet's get to it. So I was hanging out with a group of friends (maybe 5 other people) and we were all in this public parking lot. Then suddenly this random guy walks up to us and says if we could give him some money for some gas. Keep in mind that he didn't look like a guy who had no money ( I think he also drove a Nissan). All of us didn't know what to say since we all don't really like denying giving people money. It creates the most awkward situation for us. So after a while of back and forth, I say that all I have is my card, and he says to me that if we could drive to the nearest gas station with him to pay for his gas. Now, I already said no to having any money, and I didn't want to say no again. So I offer to drive to the gas station with him. But I still had my suspicions that he was just trying to get free gas. So with no evidence on whether he needed gas or not, I just decided to tell him to meet me at the gas station, but I never went there. My friends said that I shouldn't have done that, and that I just wasted what little amount of gas he had, for no reason. AITA for doing this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "AXYsgMFttr1IEMR6AXWAWEQofqumlYOH", "post_id": "9x0225", "action": null, "title": "AITA - Roommate [40s M] got mad at me [22 F] for vaping in the apartment", "text": "I have epilepsy and use CBD to manage it (don't take any other epilepsy medication + discussed this with my neurologist), but it also makes me sleepy so I usually just vape a little before bed in my room. Haven't had any complaints about smell or anything until now.\n\nSo last night, my other roommate [21 F] had a headache, and I offered her CBD to help (it worked!) but my older roommate saw us using it in the living room and got super upset\n\nHe claimed that he's been \"feeling something\" because of the vape... he's also been sober/straight edge for 13 years-- not because he was an addict or an alcoholic before, but because he became a Buddhist. He really frowns on drugs/people who use any kind of substance. My other roommate and I talked about it afterward and we both felt like we were being scolded by our dad or something.\n\nI tried to explain that I used the vape to manage epilepsy and that I thought he was being unreasonable (the apartment has a high ceiling and lots of open air, and I'm taking like a couple puffs a day), but he wouldn't budge. He claimed that he also had a \"medical condition\" (an allergy that I'm 90% sure he made up on the spot)...\n\nAlso worth noting, we live in a large city and he definitely passes dudes smoking weed on the sidewalk every day if he goes outside...\n\nI don't want to have to take my epilepsy meds outside in the winter at night, but I also don't want to be a douchebag if this is really a big deal for him... but I also kind of feel like he's just trying to be controlling? Is this really the same thing as smoking weed in the house? Am I the asshole??", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iFcd6T2HySfDEBU0PinlH7Sev9Mn2Fxt", "post_id": "b2jcez", "action": null, "title": "WIBTA If in the future I told my girlfriend that I wouldn\u2019t want to get married?", "text": "For context to the question, I have a girlfriend but close to when we met, it was obvious she was keen on marriage and me not so much. Don\u2019t get me wrong, marriage seems great. The eternal love bond and all but it\u2019s because of how the system works. If we were to divorce then she would still have rights to my house and wouldn\u2019t have to pay bills or rent even if I moved out. Now, we have no relationship complications and have only had minor arguments. So WIBTA if I told her?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RjvIfjrEAVhQQftP0DLMRljSpfjWt2ec", "post_id": "ag7c0p", "action": {"description": "not always texting in our family whatsapp group", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not always texting in our family whatsapp group?", "text": "My family has a group chat consisting of me, my wife, her sister and my in-laws.\n\nI get up every morning and drive to work until 4pm or so. When I'm at home all I do is relax and enjoying the time with my wife.\n\nHowever my in-laws texted in the group chat that I don't care about them anymore because I don't write daily in this chat. They believe that I think that I'm superior to them, so I don't have to mind them anymore. \n\nAll they do in this group is texting things like \"good morning\" and my sister in law keeps sending pictures of her cat. \n\nAm I the asshole for not writing daily \"good morning\"  to them?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bLSquHdTMrdVAMIssV2sDBhGtdVQoXaN", "post_id": "b1zn2k", "action": {"description": "quitting my job so suddenly", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for quitting my job so suddenly?", "text": "Okay so a bit of background info, i started my job about a year ago and my old manager was so lovely. She never had a bad word to say about anyone, sure she was a little relaxed but it was an absolutely amazing job. \nCut to October, she finds a better job and we all sadly said goodbye. This is when my new manager started. From that moment on, she has ridiculed me about everything. From my hairstyles to my shoes, my clothes and even so far as to blame my mental health. So this week i decided enough was enough, after they cut my contracted hours from 16 to 11.5, that\u2019s it. I handed in my notice. \nBasically, i\u2019m now getting a huge load of grief from her because i\u2019ve \u2018let her down\u2019 and \u2018let the company down\u2019 because i work in a small franchise with only 2 other people who will now have to share the 9-5:30 hours 5 days a week between them. \nAm i an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "H7xIrPDVNlKUTridmfcAnpXuGUv8nViY", "post_id": "9vwq77", "action": {"description": "speaking to someone in a native language", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for speaking to someone in a native language", "text": "Today I saw a guy online that I wanted to approach of Middle Eastern heritage. I can't write in Arabic, but I can in Turkish. It is my understanding (from my time living in Istanbul) that the languages share several words and are generally understood regionally... So, I say hi and ask how his day is going. He tore into me after that and told me that I was committing microaggression. I apologized for the misunderstanding and he kept tearing into my 'whiteboy bullshit' \nAMA. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pQsDNJu67XcOKiqVSV1XFGvajvBPQkFW", "post_id": "az4iw0", "action": {"description": "asking when two people are going to leave their booth at a cafe", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for asking when two people are going to leave their booth at a cafe?", "text": "hear me out on this one \n\nMy SO and I had planned to attend a jazz performance at a small cafe, and we paid for our tickets in advance. You were supposed to have bought a ticket to be in the cafe during the performance. We get there before it starts and order our food. The place is pretty packed, and there were no open tables. But we figured that if we waited a little for the music to start then people who weren't planning to stay for it would be clearing out.\n\nUnfortunately this never happened. We had our food brought to us and we were basically awkwardly standing in the corner, holding our plates and hoping that a table would clear soon. I think eventually somebody brought us some plastic stools or something but it still really sucked given that we had paid for the opportunity to be here.\n\nOne of the waitresses alerted me that there was two ladies in a booth that were supposed to be leaving, as they didnt pay to stay for the music, so they should be gone soon. Guess what, they never left either. They had finished their food 30-45 minutes ago and were still here. The waitress kept apologizing to me. I was pretty pissed at both the cafe for prioritizing people who didnt buy a ticket over us, and also the women for not having self awareness. After about 45m to an hour from when the performance started, and my SO was already visibly upset by how everything was turning out, I went over and tried to politely ask the women if they'd be leaving soon. I get that this would be rude under normal circumstances but I didnt really give a shit. They give some BS answer like \"oh yes we were JUST about to leave\" (sure) and I go back to my SO hoping they'll just go. But nope, first they call over the waitress to tattle on the big bad man who just dared to ask them when they were leaving, who then comes to me and sternly tells me \"please dont ask our customers when they'll be leaving.\" and on top of this the women stayed another half hour or something, clearly just to piss me off.\n\nSo reddit, am I the asshole? What exactly was I supposed to do in this situation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7d7o2RtStDOpQhU7dju922dBZZM7ph7L", "post_id": "aq52jm", "action": {"description": "not being willing to forgive the person who essentially ruined my life just under 2 years ago", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not being willing to forgive the person who essentially ruined my life just under 2 years ago?", "text": "so. I had a rough childhood. social isolation. semi neglectful parents. intense bullying etc. this doesn't matter much now. but it provides some context. \n\nso just over two years ago things had started going good for me. \n\nI finally had started treatment for my depression. I started a job that had decent enough pay and hours that I could live well. \n\nand I had even started to get into dating for the first time in my life at 24. \n\nI had been living in a nice house with a few good friends. (jake, Phil and a couple others) \n\nthen a once close friend and longtime roommate jake. started spreading lies and using me as a scapegoat for his being a slob. \n\nall because jake didn't want his new girlfriend to find out he was a pig. \n\nnow. I tried to be diplomatic. I didn't want to point fingers. and I tried to take responsibility. I know that my depression tends to make it hard to keep up with household chores. \n\nthat wasn't good enough. I was made out to be responsible for the mess of three people. jake, his girlfriend, and myself.\n\nand I was given an ultimatum. \n\nmove out or we (jake, Phil and other mutual friends) will all hate you. (this is where my issues with ostracism and social isolation come into play) \n\nso I tried to appease them. I agreed to leave. but I had just started my new job. money was tight. \n\nthen I got Into a car accident. I was fine. my car was totaled. and insurance takes a while. \n\nI was spending $50 a day just to get to work and back. because public transit didn't reach my new workplace. \n\neventually the stress of it got to me. I couldn't sleep more than two hours a night. \n\nI lost my job. I had to move back in with my parents to my hometown. my own personal hell. \n\n\nI had to spend a miserable, lonely year of my life there. \n\ntook me working 14 hour days for nearly three months straight just to get the money to move out again. there was no other work there. \n\nthen it took me breaking down in tears for my parents to actually help move. there are no moving companies in the town either. \n\nsince then I've been putting back my life piece by piece. it's been rough. \n\nand I REFUSE to associate with jake. the scumbag who's lies did that to me. \n\nbut according to Phil.\n\nmy being unwilling to forgive him is \"selfish\" and \"ignorant\" and I just need to let it go. \n\nthey, along with a few other friends have directly told me \"they wish things could go back to the \"good ol days\" \n\nand I have made it clear. that even though that would be nice. it's not going to happen. \n\nAm I the asshole? \n\nTL:DR a one time friend majorly screwed me over. other mutual friends say that I'm being selfish for not forgiving him.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6yAkEAozqndZYA3fNGOBpelYlOXmKjSR", "post_id": "ao7lmm", "action": {"description": "not wanting my so to be 100% honest with me", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my SO to be 100% honest with me?", "text": "My SO has a thing about keeping his slate clean. He wants to tell me absolutely everything, even if it isn't necessary. Here's my list:\n\n1. He told me he told his best friends about my mental health issues and some of my insecurities. On several occasions he also told me what they advised him to do. I understand his need for an outlet but it hurts so much to know my privacy isn't protected and I'm constantly wondering what they're thinking when they see me.\n\n2. He tells me what he honestly thinks about me, like, he can't respect certain things about me because I make poor life choices because of my mental health issues. Let's just say he has no filter. Sometimes the things he says absolutely shatters me. It has come to the extent of me not telling him things sometimes for fear of his response.\n\nI'm not blaming him for saying these things because I get where he's coming from and he's just being honest but I feel like his need to keep his slate clean is at the expense of my mental and emotional well-being. The cumulation of everything he has said is exacerbating my depression and anxiety and sometimes I can't even function because I get so preoccupied with every little word.\n\nI told him I need what I define as a gentleman. Someone who will understand what to say and what not to say to me by prioritising my feelings. E.g. telling me what he tells his best friends is unnecessary. I would honestly be completely fine assuming he doesn't tell them my deep dark secrets. But now I can't unknow it. Every time I know he meets them without me, it ruins my entire day because I obsess over what they're saying about me. I have gone through a lot that I don't want the world to know - 3 suicide attempts, self-harming to the extent of endangering my life. P.S. - I'm not even forbidding him from telling them. I just feel like there's a combination of him prioritising himself and his friendships over me. But he says I carry too much shame over my mental health issues and it's a vicious cycle.\n\nHe says he needs to be able to tell me everything because that is what strengthens emotional connection for him and also he's lived a very fulfilling life adhering to this philosophy. No lies, no secrets, no omissions. A complete open book.\n\nBut it's also killing me. AITA for not wanting him to practice this philosophy with me? Or is it a deeper compatibility issue that cannot be solved?\n\nFor context if it matters, I'm 31F, he's 40M and we've been together over a year.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JvCCJwwEeW83HmZi0aI1pumodm5gGGdq", "post_id": "arec39", "action": {"description": "not offering to pay for the repair of my friend's phone which I bumped out of her hand accidentally", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not offering to pay for the repair of my friend\u2019s phone which I bumped out of her hand accidentally", "text": "My friend got a new phone recently. She and I were chatting on the way to the bus stop when we saw the bus coming and we started running because missing the bus could mean waiting another 30 mins... as I ran I bumped her accidentally and she dropped her phone. \n\nShe kept saying \u2018nice one\u2019 to me angrily after that and told others that the scuff marks on her phone were because \u2018(me) dropped it\u2019. Which pissed me off and I said \u2018I didn\u2019t drop it, it was in your hands and you let go of it!\u2019 \n\nA week later she tells me she has to send it off for repairs which is costing \u00a3100 and she said \u2018it\u2019s probably because you dropped it\u2019. I told her again that I didn\u2019t drop her damn phone as I wasn\u2019t holding it. She didn\u2019t ask me to pay for it. \n\nI feel maybe I\u2019m responsible but I\u2019m sick of her telling me that I dropped the phone- no I didn\u2019t and if you were holding your phone tightly while we were running it wouldn\u2019t have fallen out of your grip from a little bump from me. \n\nI don\u2019t want to fall out over it but the way she is acting is making me think it\u2019s not worth offering to pay for it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OhHjGWC3w5wXBiVqC0XtRIKY8rLzBnUj", "post_id": "aspjit", "action": {"description": "writing and sending a letter to estranged family member", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for writing and sending a letter to estranged family member?", "text": "I have not spoken to my mother in 2.5 years. Other members of the family have approached me stating she wants to have a relationship with me but this is not possible because she has not ever apologized to me for her wrongdoings. She treats me like I'm her therapist, always venting about things that have happened in the past. When I disagree with her, she claims I'm incorrect or invalidates my feelings.\n\n​\n\nBackstory:\n\nMother is doing drugs\n\nMother leaves me in the hospital to continue drugs\n\nI don't know at which point she tried to regain custody but according to my grandmother, she didn't know where I was until I was 8. \n\nMother does not know who father is and lied to me about this. \n\nMother belittles me, calls me names\n\nMother consistently complained to me about childhood. These are legitimate complaints but I am not equipped to address them because I am not a licensed mental health counselor. \n\n​\n\nI'm not convinced she's ignorant of what she's doing but rather is doing so out of malice. She has been this way ever since I met her (\\~age 12?). If I write and send this letter, it would point out all of the above in great detail and informing her never to speak to me again. She has not contacted me since July 2016. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PLPilcf646c3qmB0cNGA5M8DzrdaN35e", "post_id": "aq467l", "action": {"description": "not placing a disabled kid on a pedestal because he has cerebral palsy", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not placing a disabled kid on a pedestal because he has cerebral palsy?", "text": "The context: a guy a went to school with (and now college) has cerebral palsy. He\u2019s confined to a power chair and cannot do very much by himself. He seems like a nice guy on first impression, but once you get to know him he\u2019s really not as nice as he seems. He talks rudely about people behind their backs, will be rude to your face sometimes, and acts as if the rules don\u2019t apply to him in most situations. \n\nAm I the asshole for not glorifying him or putting him on a pedestal like everyone else does? He gets elected for things like homecoming king and other things like that because (I think) people feel sorry for him. He also likes to play the disabled card when he wants something to go his way. \n\nIt\u2019s not that I dislike him because he\u2019s disabled, but I genuinely don\u2019t care for his attitude. I\u2019ve asked a few friends if they have a similar opinion and they basically said I\u2019m the asshole for not supporting him unconditionally.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "d5DEUP6ZrO4iDo5BX7qYr7YPDvnDYEG7", "post_id": "aqdx3l", "action": {"description": "threatening to leave my girlfriend of 6 years over her cats", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for threatening to leave my girlfriend of 6 years over her cats?", "text": "Let me start by saying I didnt exactly impose an ultimatum or anything like that. Those are automatically YTA material. \n\nNow she has always loved animals, which I get and I love them to, but not to the extent which she does. Animals are a lot of work and a lot of money to take care of between the food, the litter, (for cats which is what we have) replacing the litter boxes every so often, etc... Well when we first got together she had 2 cats. Fine and dandy, 2 is manageable and I like cats so no big deal. Well after picking up a few strays along the way, and not having the money to get them fixed when we should have (don't start about that, I get it, bad cat owners. Remember what I said about them being expensive?) we eventually topped off at 6 permanent cats with litters of kittens that we got rid of along the way. It hasn't been easy and its caused a lot of stress between us and to us personally but we made it through. Last year we lost two of our cats due to health complications (we got them to the vet, they were sick with feline leukemia and we had to have them euthanized for different reasons between the two of them). It was very hard on both of us but we were back down to a manageable, albeit not ideal, 4 cats. Well guess what? The only female kitten we have got pregnant again and had a litter of 5 kitten, we still have all 5 6 months later with no end in sight. Oh, and guess what? She's pregnant again and about to burst. Our last male cat has an appointment to be fixed this month and I told her outright that if he doesnt get fixed, and the kittens that are 6 months old aren't gone by the end of the month, I'm leaving. \n\nNow let me explain why, besides the ridiculous amount of stress it puts on me since I'm currently staying home and have to clean up after 9 cats, and stay up all night to make sure the kittens don't end up pregnant. When our pregnant cat has kittens again, I can see her current kittens causing issues for the new litter. The current litter likes to try to be around mom, obviously, but the mom doesnt like it, I guess because she's pregnant again. So I can see that being a problem when mom is with her new litter. I also am fearful for the health of not only our cats, but the 6-month old litter. Feline leukemia is contagious and we aren't yet sure which of our cats, if any more, have it. The longer this litter is around our cats, the more susceptible they are to the disease. Also the 6-month old litter is causing a lot of stress to our current cats, cause we simply dont have room for 9 cats plus ANOTHER litter right now. \n\nI'm at the end of my rope. She won't meet me halfway when it comes to getting rid of them. The animal shelter is very expensive to surrender them to ($100 per kitten) amd she doesnt want to post them online because she wants to make sure they go to a good home, which I understand but look what that's costing us. I left home almost a week ago to get a break from all the cats and if it were up to me I wouldnt go back, but I wanted to make it clear to her that I absolutely would be leaving again for good if the kittens weren't gone by the end of the month and our last male cat wasn't fixed. AITA here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "k8sFMGPjb5s2ZpD1tkxhBa3Ex4mZBPRb", "post_id": "arvmwn", "action": {"description": "refusing to help", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA - For refusing to help?", "text": "In a summary, I had a couple friends I would game and hang out with on a weekly basis. This crew would grow naturally as we all found peps we digged and would hang with.\n\nBut once those numbers grew, relations kinda stretched, even peps I met were not around as much. The original couple of peeps would ask me to help them, ask ideas, but would neglect any efforts and belittle any efforts I had in their endeavors. Then once done with the convo, go and hang out with the new peps for fun and games and yadda yadda. Stopped kinda being interested until they needed help.\n\nFew weeks later of this type of behavior, asked them about it. And they would get defensive, stating that my view of the situation was flawed, that I had no understanding and that I should be more humble. Despite the treatment during said endeavors.\n\nA few months later, the situation hasn't improved. And it evolved to feeling like a crutch rather then a friend, and when mentioned, the response to this from them was that. It was invalid, manipulative and psychopathic to tell them my feelings on the subject.\n\nRecently said to hell with it, and cut them from my life. Am I the asshole for saying fuck it and moving on?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bMmA4Idedh83BfRPIY7PDG07SicIiCjV", "post_id": "9y295a", "action": {"description": "feeling hurt after gf went by herself on a hike that we were planning to go together", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for feeling hurt after gf went by herself on a hike that we were planning to go together?", "text": "Let me try to keep it short. \n\nOne Saturday morning, gf says let\u2019s go on this hike. Unfortunately I did leg workout the day before and I was literally limping. Was not able to walk as I was super sore. I promised her I\u2019ll skip leg day next Friday or do it earlier in the week and will go next Saturday. \n\nSaturday after, it rained all day. So I said no worries we will do next Saturday. \n\nSaturday after I found out she went with her dog by herself. I said what the hell, we had been planning for two weekends. She said well I went for some thought and reflection. And you were not too enthusiastic. \n\nAITA?\n\nTL;DR: gf went hiking when we were making plans to go together. \n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "opoUwsUe8bRo86F1VcPvVBc3usPvTI7i", "post_id": "ay7g9i", "action": {"description": "not forgiving my friend", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not forgiving my friend?", "text": "Using a throwaway because a couple friends follow my main.\n\n\nSo awhile back I started to like this girl. A friend of mine liked her at the same time. I knew that he liked her, he might\u2019ve known that I liked her. We never really talked about it. My friend ended up dating her for a little while. She was his first real girlfriend and they dated for about two months or so. It was in tenth grade so it didn\u2019t get super serious or anything, but it got serious to him.\n\nWhen they broke up he was really torn up for a while. I never really talked to him much about it because he never opened up to me too much, but everyone could see how upset he was. I stopped talking to the girl for a few months. The two of us weren\u2019t super close and I figured I needed to stand by my friend.\n\nAfter a little while passed I started to talk to her again. Feelings started to re emerge. As some more time passed we actually became pretty good friends and it became clear we both had feelings for her. I didn\u2019t make a move though because even though it was almost half a year later he was clearly still hung up on her.\n\nAbout a years passed since there relationship happened. My friend started to get upset with me a lot. He had a tendency to get pretty mad at people, and around this time it was especially me. He caught on that I like the girl, but rather than talking it out he started to get mad at me constantly. To be fair though, I didn\u2019t talk to him either.\n\nAfter a little while of this, this girl tells me that she likes me. I tell her I like her too, but I say before we do anything I have to talk to my friend. I talk to my friend and ask if it\u2019s ok to ask her out. He says it is so I ask her out. \n\nWe start dating and it\u2019s all ok for a little bit, but then my friend starts getting extremely mad at me constantly. He explodes and then all together stops talking to me. \n\nUltimately the relationship ends, and my friend still won\u2019t talk to me. According to the rest of my friends, he wants to be friends again and has forgiven me. But I don\u2019t want to be friends with a person that stopped talking to me after he said it would be ok to date this girl. My friends have told me to be the bigger person and apologize. So am I the asshole here for not wanting to be friends again and for ignoring him from here on out?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "bTXgQhVD6L3f3GUhBgWwHnZvtDqd0U5e", "post_id": "aak8hs", "action": {"description": "leaving work early because my Dad was picking on me", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for leaving work early because my Dad was picking on me?", "text": "This is a long story and it's a bit hard for me to describe the situation since there are lots if details  and I'm not going to omit info since details matter \nTL:DR at the bottom\n\nSo a little background. My work consists of me helping my dad on our own construction site. It's a pretty large construction site for the fact that there are few workers. Usually it's my Dad and an unskilled labourer. When I have a holiday I go to help him because I understand that he is working for me and my brother's future. Usually I go from 7 am-11 am (4 hours since I'm underage). In these Christmas holidays I've been going everyday except Sunday and Christmas. I didn't go for the last 2 days since I had to go do voluntary work for a school project. \n\nAnyway, yesterday I told my Dad that I didn't need to voluntary work tomorrow (which is today) so I can come to work he said he'll find me something to do. My dad pays me since he thinks that motivates me to come to work and I'm grateful. This morning I woke at 6:30 had breakfast and changed  my clothes to the concrete caked ones and rode my bike to the construction site it takes me about 5 minutes to get there at normal speed on my bike. On arrival I left my bike near the door and closed it and went inside the kitchen put on safety shoes and drank a glass of water.\n\n I went up stairs to the part if the building still being built and I found my dad and the unskilled labourer (Who was pretty new about 3 weeks) building the roof of a room. I asked my dad what I should do and he told me to take the scattered stones around the room near the buzzsaw. After, I helped the labourer take up a stone on his shoulder (about 30 by 8 inches of limestone) and he climbed onto the ladder to pass it to my dad. My dad told him not to lift it like that (from his back) and when I helped him lift it onto his shoulder again, my dad told me (in our language, the labourer was foreign) \"Has this guy never seen anyone lift a stone?\" I wasn't sure how to respond since I forgot the proper way to lift it too. Then he showed him how. \n\nAbout 10 minutes later he got a call from the guy we borrowed the material lift from that they were outside and came to get it. My dad said to me \"Already? We just have to lift these last few things and we will give it to them, go open the door for them.\" So I went downstairs and opened the door for them I couldn't see them clearly due to my -7 eyesight and me not wanting to break my glasses at work so I waved to them but when they didn't respond I taught they were the neighbours and got slightly embarrassed/awkward.  \"Come in\" I said but they must have heard \"Coming\" instead and said don't worry. I was confused so I went back upstairs and saw my dad and the labourer carrying the lift and then tying it up so we would lift it with the crane (Which was in the courtyard) onto the ramp were the truck with stones usually comes for deliveries. \"Go open the gate\" my dad said. The gate was locked from the outside so I had to go open. I opened the gate for the truck to go onto the ramp. \n\nMy dad then asked me from the 1st floor where the lift and room with roof they were working on where \"Did the truck come in?\" Why did he ask me this? Sound travels badly here so If I could hear him asking me this question he should be able to see the truck. I respond with a loud \"yes\" so that he can hear me. I went back upstairs and drove the tower crane with the lift onto their truck and proceeded to go back downstairs and close the gate. When I went back upstairs my dad asked me why I was shouting I told him so that he could hear me. He told me the I embarrassed him in front of the truck drivers by yelling and getting angry. What? He didn't even talk to them! I've been told I always sound angry which is probably true but what was I supposed to do! He asked me a question! \n\nWell whatever I brushed it off and went back to work. I started sweeping the floor off debris and stone dust into a wheelbarrow. While doing that I talked to my dad about something that popped into my head, \"I thought Noel (my brother) was coming with you guys tonight to the dinner of your friends? Is he coming with me to sleep at our grandparents? Did he change his mind?\" He then said \"Let him do whatever he wants.\" My dad then went to cut some stones in the other room with the buzzsaw. \n\nI continued sweeping the floor. Labourer comes in the room with a stone carrier and a stone on it and lays the stone on the floor.  He then stares at the ladder breathing heavily. Then after staring for about a minute at the ladder proceeds to move it to the side and also move the concrete bricks underneath to make the ladder higher. He then goes back out of the room. He then comes in with a new stone on the carrier and dies the same thing again. What? Why does he keep doing that? He didn't even use the ladder before. And instead of going round the pile of stone dust he proceeds to trample over it with the carrier and his himself. He did this last week too. This fucker. He can spend a minute staring at a fucking ladder but he can't waste a second to go round the pile I was sweeping. Ok I wasn't that angry since it happened before but I was annoyed. Whatever. He then comes back into the room with a new stone and proceeds to do the same thing minus the trample thing.\n\nWhat even is going on? I go to the other room. \"Dad, what was is it you told him to do? He keeps moving the ladder around.\"\n\"I told him to move the ladder so he can put stones instead of the ladder\"\n\"Why is he moving it each time he comes into the room?\"\n\"Every time you do this! Mind your own business, I'm in charge of him! This isn't school! Going to report people to the teacher.\"\nWhat the hell! Last time I did this was 5 months ago when a different labourer kept staring about and doing nothing when he could be doing something! \n\nI got the wheelbarrow I was filling with stone dust and debris took it to its room. I put my broom and shovel in the storage room and went downstairs. I checked my phone it should be 9 at least by now right? 8:20 and a missed call. It was mom, I called her back\n\"Honey, ask dad if he opened the garage so that the maid can come in and call me back with his answer\"\n\nSo I went and asked him.\n\"He said yes mom, also in coming home early\"\n\"Isn't there anything to do?\"\n\"Not really, bye\"\n\nMy dad always told me if you don't want to be here you can leave I'm not forcing you. I never did leave early since when I started in June since I felt guilty, even in days where it was 35\u00b0C and I was stuck driving the crane. \n\"Dad,I'm leaving\"\n\"Bored already?\"\n\"Yes\"\nIn my mind I rationalized there was no crucial work to be done and I would end up wasting time.\nI already felt terrible for leaving work early because i felt entitled and thought it would be awkward later today when he comes home.\n\nWhen I arrived home I heard Mom in her new office talking in the phone. Then I realised it was dad.\n\"What's going on?\"\n\"DAHunter go get your laptop down here you're not allow to use it\"\n\"What? Why!\"\n\"Dad has been telling me how you yelled at him in front if the construction workers, reporting your brother and reporting the labourer!\"\nI couldn't help it, I yelled at her\n\"WHAT THE HELL HE IS MAKING STUFF UP I DIDN'T DO ANY OF THAT\"\nShe then got off the phone, my mom has a problem with stress and I felt bad for shouting.\nI then proceeded to explain my side if the story.\n\"DAHunter, you're racist! You always go report anything the labourers do wrong just because they are black!\" \nWhat has that got to do with anything?\n\"I don't hate black people mom! I hate idiots!\"\n\"That doesn't excuse you embarrassing your father!\"\nShe then shouted from across the house \n\"Noel! Get off your computer and come do your homework!\" (Noel is 12 and that's not his real name). \n\nI then went to take a shower for about 20 minutes. I still can't see what I did wrong. Maybe from their point if view I did something wrong because I'm easily angered. My shout sounds angry, My dad thinks I always pick on my brother even when he is not there and apparently I'm a racist and can't stand people. Sorry this was so long but I wanted as much if the story here since I'm not sure during which moment I was an asshole in.\n\nTL:DR My dad got mad at me at work for yelling and apparently embarrassing him and asking him what the hell the labourer was doing. I went home and he called my mom with a version that was to me, twisted.\n\n\n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7NHj3kZedH395cxmeFc7xgKud40wtI6q", "post_id": "ayj2hg", "action": {"description": "venting about why I hate weddings to my so/friends", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA - Venting about why I hate weddings to my SO/friends", "text": "I'm an introvert, my SO knows this. I also happen to despise weddings, but go and try to have a good time when I'm there. We have 5 weddings every weekend for the next 5 weeks that I am attending. Leading up to this, I dread it. I usually want to vent about why I dread it to sort of communicate that it's not easy for me to have fun at these things but I really don't want to have a bad attitude while I'm there, so venting helps me with that. Sorta gets it all out of the way early.\n\nThese weddings are all SO's friends/family and she feels self-conscious when they all pry as to why I'm not there, so I attend to ensure she isn't in the spotlight.\n\nMy SO views my ranting as pessimism and that it isn't going to help anything, so why have a bad attitude? She also happens to love weddings and be very extroverted.\n\nI really don't want to be a drain on her though, so lately I've taken to venting to my siblings/friends, when she joined a conversation with me and my sister who relates well with me on this subject, my SO was somewhat offended I was venting about it to family.\n\naita? Is venting about or dreading the receptions a jerk move that I need to correct in myself?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lhl03mi6uO5ZF1bENxTdmwLkDvfnZ71W", "post_id": "b8dhzp", "action": {"description": "not wanting to pay for my in-law's phones", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to pay for my in-law's phones?", "text": "The first month of marriage my husband and I created a brand new budget where we merged all of our accounts. This included $50 that was being sent to my sister monthly toward her ministry (she's a missionary/ my husband is an agnostic,) and a $300 phone bill that included my husband, his parents, his sister, and her boyfriend (including, phones.) \n\nWhen I met my husband he was living with his parents but wasn't paying rent so it made sense that he contributed to expenses by paying the phone bills. At the time his mom wasn't working, and his sister was in college and had never worked before.\n\nI'm close with his family, we get together a couple times a month and for the most part get along well. However, there is certainly a cultural divide. The family is from the middle east, it's not unusual at big family gatherings for my FIL to call out my husband, in front of his extended family, for being cheap. Which I know bothers my husband, though it doesn't push him to change our spending habits. His father can be a generous person, it is not unusual for him to decide in the moment to drop $100  for everyone's dinner. \n\nSix months into the marriage, my SIL had her birthday and her dad surprised her with a brand new I-Phone. During the party my husband looked troubled, I kept asking what was up and he would just shake his head, \"Not now.\" On the drive home he took out his phone and checked our phone bill. My FIL had purchased the phone through our account, adding a payment plan. We were both furious, we turned the car around, my husband and he argued, and I completely lost my temper. When his sister found out, she was embarrassed and offered to return the phone (which my FIL refused to pay for,) neither my husband nor I felt right about that, so we dropped it. \n\nWe have now been paying for everyone's phones for two years. We have lived on our own the entirety of that time (I've had my own place since I met my husband.) My MIL has been working for a year. My SIL graduated and now is working a fairly decent job. Her boyfriend is also working but in retail. All of them live together with my FIL. \n\nMy husband suggested they begin to pay for their own phones in a month's time and the shtf. My SIL said straight out, \"No,\" like it was her decision. It was the most uncomfortable week ever. Their arguments were that it was family obligation, and that because individually they make less than us (everyone but my FIL,) that we should continue to pay.\n\nWe were holding firm in our decision, then my FIL got injured at work and went on unpaid leave. So we backed off, because that would have been messed up, and helped out with their electric bill. But, now he's working again, and I want to move forward with our plan. My husband has lost the desire to though, seeing his father in a weakened state has left him unsure of what to do here. I can get waiting but will this ever happen, should this ever happen? Reddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xKuA5pTjnB1nHb4RiUXkRu1Ijncrjv0w", "post_id": "avs4rb", "action": {"description": "trash-talking during Basketball games", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for trash-talking during Basketball games", "text": "Im a 16 y/o dude and Im better than the guys I play basketball with. AITA for trash talking about their \"SKILLZ\"", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "kgQTn9ySSfPTTozzNPHu03dvHPWxXE1a", "post_id": "av5i7p", "action": {"description": "cutting off my best friend because I am unable to support his new relationship", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for cutting off my best friend because I am unable to support his new relationship?", "text": "So I joined a club at my university and became fast, close friends with Michael, the president of the club. Our relationship started off a bit strange and we did things that people who aren\u2019t just friends should do, but both of us knew it wasn\u2019t serious and it was never like super over the top or anything. I joined pretty late in the semester though and didn\u2019t realize that Michael was close friends with a girl named Amy.\n\nAmy was dating Ben, but I quickly found out that Michael was desperately in love with her. They were best friends and always talking and he fell HARD for her. She would tell him that even though she was dating Ben, she and Michael were meant to be together, that she was in love with him too, that they would get married right after college. Michael, meanwhile, kept attempting to convince her to breakup with her boyfriend so they could be together finally. It was a shitshow and Amy\u2019s boyfriend was aware this was happening the whole time and would mock Michael about it constantly. There was also a lot of evidence that Amy had two boyfriends (not Michael, it was another random guy outside of our university), but Michael was blind to it and supported her 100%. Anyways, eventually it became obvious that Amy was just stringing Michael along to get a higher position of power within the club. I convinced Michael that Amy was toxic for him and that he needed to cut her off and he agreed, although he didn\u2019t really want to and Amy ended up leaving the club. \n\nA couple of months later, he called me and told me that Ben and Amy had broken up and I told him I was really concerned because I knew they still talked sometimes and he told me that he just wanted to be there for her because he had experienced a similar breakup in the past, but that there was no romantic feelings between them still.\n\nSure enough, a couple of weeks later I find out that they\u2019ve started dating. I know she\u2019s no good for him whatsoever and frankly, I\u2019m tired of having to deal with all of the drama she brings to Michael\u2019s life. There\u2019s a lot more details about why I just don\u2019t support this relationship or really want to be friends with him while he\u2019s dating her, but these are the most major reasons. I sat him down and told him that I was going to quit the club for a while because I\u2019ve become more busy with schoolwork and that I think he and I should stop hanging out or talking. I never specifically told him it was because of Amy, but I think we both know it is. I feel like shit because he seemed so crushed and even started crying, but I absolutely refuse to clean up after his relationship with her anymore and watch him suffer while he\u2019s with her. She might also still have that second boyfriend. So, AITA for cutting him off like this?\n\ntl;dr: Best friend is now dating a girl who we both know is super manipulative and borderline emotionally abusive. She might also have a second boyfriend. Don't want to deal with it, cut him off.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "EZwmSdXNGht02zTuO1Rtct4UMWexzD4z", "post_id": "aaqu7m", "action": {"description": "not helping a student", "pronormative_score": 83, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not helping a student?", "text": "I teach first grade in a very rural, low-economic area.  The average household is right at or below the poverty line; the only exceptions are the professionals in our community.  \n\nEvery year I offer to tutor my students who are below level in reading and/or math.  I do this free of charge (in my district, charging money for tutoring your own students is a conflict of interest.).  The tutoring sessions last forty five minutes and start immediately after school.  School lets out at 2:40, we start our lesson @ 2:50.  I provide a snack for the students since lunch time was at 11:00 and kids don\u2019t focus well when they are hungry.  I pay for the snacks myself.  \n\nAnyway, I had a parent from another school contact me out of the blue.  I was tutoring her best friend\u2019s daughter (one of my kiddos, remember) and she wanted to know if I\u2019d also tutor her son.  She told me his reading level, which was abysmal, and I have a really hard time saying no to a child in need.  I told her the tutoring times and said that if she could get the child there in time I would help.  \n\nTurns out, the child attends school in a different county approximately an hour\u2019s drive away.  The school also dismisses thirty minutes later than we do.  Obviously Mom can\u2019t get the student to me in time.  So she asks if I would wait and tutor her son separately.\n\nThis means the child would arrive around 4:15.  I get to work at 6:30 and by 4:15 I am simply out of energy.  Besides, I have to help my own son with his school work and that\u2019s always a hassle.  It takes me 40 minutes to drive home, which would mean I\u2019d get home about 5:45, depending on traffic.  \n\nThe going rate for reading tutors in this area is $30 bucks per hour.  I wanted compensation for my time, so I told her the cost would be $25 per session.  \n\nShe completely flipped out.  Called me all sorts of horrible names and made some very uncouth remarks about my teaching ability.  The one that hurt the most was that I didn\u2019t care about the kids, I\u2019m just in it for the money, etc.  She told me I was a disgrace to teaching and incredibly selfish, and that this kind of shit was why everyone hates public school teachers.\n\nHer words are constantly replaying in my head.  I don\u2019t think I am an asshole for asking for compensation, but am I the asshole for not tutoring her student?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 83, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 83, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pK2t2LUUpwCtrsGWPGuS6mQ0t442d4aC", "post_id": "a5dhu2", "action": {"description": "telling my gf I don't need help at the gym", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my gf I don't need help at the gym?", "text": "So me and my girlfriend were at the gym just doing our workouts as we do every week, I was doing an excerise which required balance on a bench. She came behind me and started to hold my legs for me cause she thought I was unbalanced. I told her it tickled and I didn't need help, should be fine on my own and she stormed off in a grumpy mood.\n\nI just wanna know if I did anything wrong lmao ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5cfNreRdw87IgjwG5ps6MrhqjamRYzBM", "post_id": "av87pa", "action": {"description": "refusing to kick my dog out of bed when my girlfriend sleeps over", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for refusing to kick my dog out of bed when my girlfriend sleeps over?", "text": "         I (20f) started dating my girlfriend (24f) recently, though we have been close friends for over a year now. I'm a full time undergraduate student and I'll admit that my apartment is... not great, to say the least. It's incredibly small, my bed is only a double bed, and I live with my large Rhodesian Ridgeback dog. I adopted him 2 years ago and he has honestly saved me in more ways than one, and i love him more than anyone else in the whole world. \n          My girlfriend slept over a few days ago, and was upset that my dog slept on my bed with us. In her defense, my dog is 90 lbs, and takes up a large chunk of the bed, making sleeping a bit uncomfortable. However, he always sleeps with me, and frankly I don't think it's fair to randomly kick him off one night and expect him to sleep on the floor. \n         She says I'm overreacting and its not a big deal to make him sleep on the floor once in a while. We've known each other for so long, and she definitely knew he slept in my bed before she came over. I think its unreasonable for her to expect me to change things just for her. Which one of us is right here? Am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "awjPqXRb9w7fw64xFJYbpIAlWlO5dJ6A", "post_id": "b1f0sj", "action": {"description": "wanting to try for a baby after 4 miscarriages", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting to try for a baby after 4 miscarriages.", "text": "My husband and I have been together for going on 13 years. I've had 4 miscarriages and really want a baby. None were planned pregnancies, they just kind of happened. As far as we know the main reason the miscarriages happen is because I had an undiagnosed depression coupled with stress from my family crowding me with unwanted attention.\n\nNow I'm on medication which has helped for the last 2 years with my depression and stress. My doctor believes if we try again we'd have a strong chance of making it through the pregnancy. \n\nHere is where the AITA part comes in; since my last miscarriage 2 years ago my father in law has been talking hard to my husband about how kids are awful and that it'll ruin out relationship and our way of life. NOW my husband doesn't want to try anymore unless I go with a sperm donor and make sure that when the child is born he doesn't have any chance of having to pay child support if he decides it's way too hard or our life isn't the same and decides to divorce me.\n\nWe got into a huge fight because he knew when he married me I wanted to someday have kids and now I'm 33 and time is flying by. We might have a fix for the miscarriages and even though the last one was the most horrible experience of my life, I really want to try again.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qRnJbCdxYGzrlPwATzkOsOJG3LGP5X1M", "post_id": "aqiwwk", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my pregnant girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 34, "contranormative_score": 187}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my pregnant girlfriend?", "text": "5 years ago in high school I ended a 3 year long relationship with a girl (called C). C had a rather rough upbringing. Her father abandoned her as a child and her mother committed suicide by jumping in front of a train (only a few years before our relationship began). C was left to be cared by her grandparents who were devout Catholics. As a result C became highly religious herself. However, C has bipolar disorder. This wasn't obvious and manifested as erratic moods. \n\nAnyway, C had it in her head that she wanted to get married and have a family. At first she was patient because she thought I'd propose. When it became clear that I wasn't interested in doing so, C started to panic. C became more aggressive about it and we started to argue. Eventually C seemed to give up. But we were still sexually active. C had been taking oral contraceptives and we never used condoms (my bad) and I never thought anything of it. Then one day C was diagnosed with Polycystic Ovary Syndrome. She was told by a doctor that she'd be much less likely to conceive. This affected C deeply as she was more or less obsessed with the idea of starting a family. \n\nFast forward about 5 months (I don't remember exactly how long but it was a significant amount of time). It became clear that C was pregnant (with my child!). She succeeded in hiding it up until this point. When confronted she vehemently denied knowing she was pregnant and acted as surprised as anyone. Shocked and at a loss, I pleaded with her to get an abortion and pretty much gave her an ultimatum-me or the baby! It was all very emotional but finally I convinced C to get an abortion. Most doctors refused to perform the abortion this late into the pregnancy but were doctors in Melbourne who would do it. \n\nSo I booked plane tickets. It was all good to go. The morning of the flight, C was packed and literally getting into the car with her grandparents to be taken to the airport. Now get this, as they rolled out of the driveway, C's cat happened to be sitting behind the car. The cat was run over and died. C and her grandparents were shocked and saw no other option than to take this event as the occurrence a miracle (imagine that!) In their eyes it was confirmed-God wanted C to keep her child.\n\nSo she did. And I broke up with her shortly after. A few months later C gave birth to our son named N but I refused to take part. I haven't really talked to C since. I have been paying child support. To this day I have not so much as talked to N, although I have seen him a couple of times, despite that my parents see him and take care of him often. \n\nBasically everyone I know has judged me for abandoning my child and nobody hesitates to tell me I'm in the wrong. A lot of people have lost respect for me and see my continued lack of contact with my child as immoral. I've got into many fights with my parents over this and no longer live with them due to the discord. \n\nN is 5 years old now and stating to talk and go to school. Recently I was told by my mother that when N was playing with other children he was asked about his 'daddy' to which he replied: 'my daddy doesn't play with me'. This is concerning for me to hear and I can't help but feel guilty to some degree. However, I still feel that I've been wronged and at this stage it would be very difficult for me to reverse my decision. I have been firm about my decision all along and have no intention of validating C's disrespect for me by changing my mind now. I never wanted to have a child and she knew all along. She was being incredibly selfish, no matter how selfish I'm being now. \n\nBefore judging me I implore you to consider my perspective. I had no say in the matter and C deceived me (and everyone else) in order to fulfil her fantasy. This was extremely disrespectful and hurtful to me, I wasn't ready to have a child and I'm still not. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 155, "OTHER": 32, "EVERYBODY": 32, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 34, "WRONG": 187}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "WIX8jVx4wBH2iygyD1n5KYur1bDhIFaU", "post_id": "9zicky", "action": {"description": "having a sleepover with my friend and not asking my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 63}, "title": "AITA For having a sleepover with my (21M) friend (22F) and not asking my girlfriend (20F)?", "text": "Title is pretty self explanatory but here goes.\n\nOne of my closest friends at uni, Annie (who is in a long term relationship) came over one night to have a couple of drinks before heading to a party. One of our friends bailed and we didn\u2019t want to go to the party alone so we watched TV and smoked a couple of Js. The TV is in my room and we fell asleep together. \n\nMy girlfriend of 2 years was at a concert with a girl friend at the time and since we had decided not to go to the party anymore went back to her place instead of coming over.\n\nI told her the next morning that Annie fell asleep in my bed and thought nothing of it for the next few days.\n\nThe next time I saw her she sat me down and very seriously explained why she thought what had happened was super inappropriate, she also brought up a bunch of stuff that I hadn\u2019t noticed. Like how she thought Annie would overstep boundaries by playing with my hair and holding my hand at a festival while my girlfriend was walking alone behind. This stuff did happen but I meant nothing by it and love my girlfriend to death. \n\nMy girlfriend did say that I hadn\u2019t done anything wrong because I had never initiated this, but I also hadn\u2019t noticed that it had bothered her.\n\nShe said that the whole situation probably wouldn\u2019t have bothered her if it weren\u2019t for one conversation.\n\nWe have often talked about having threesomes and which of our friends we would sleep with. Obviously not seriously but we just find it interesting to explore each other\u2019s tastes-and I said Annie. \n\nAfter her pointing this out I feel like I\u2019m hyper aware of how I am acting around Annie and I fear it will change our friendship.\n\nAITA for feeling that my GF blowed this out of proportion and letting this affect my friendship with Annie? \n\nTL;DR : My girlfriend got angry with me because my friend slept over in my bed and she thinks this friend crosses the line too much.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 63, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 63}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Dh0fONlwrqXGfQ8ZPiK8f3GfFH8n2bzE", "post_id": "af33bh", "action": {"description": "not buying friend's genderfluidity", "pronormative_score": 55, "contranormative_score": 30}, "title": "AITA for not buying friend\u2019s genderfluidity?", "text": "Hi Reddit. Posting this on my main for humility\u2019s sake. I\u2019m about as left as they come; and I am an atheist. I don\u2019t oppose equal rights for anybody, even if I disagree. After all, a wise man knows he knows nothing.\n\nI was introduced to a group of friends over a year ago. Two of the people are in a long-distance relationship. One is MTF, and the other is - as of late - genderfluid. I don\u2019t really believe in the concept, but I generally keep it to myself unless I am having a discussion on it.\n\nOne such time occurred, when I was stoned. His GF sent out a group-wide message imploring us all to be supportive and not to be assholes, with my name directly in parentheses. In private, his GF speculated he is trying out being trans.\n\nHe regularly slips up on his own name and identity, having not changed appearance or habits. Also, since then he has changed his name four times, regularly calling himself a male, or by his birth name.\n\nI think my friend is being histrionic, and I have actively avoided the group due to the hostility I feel ever since. They follow the over-sensitivity and coddling ethos of Tumblr. Before rendering a verdict, I need to remind you all that I only once said I don\u2019t believe in genderfluidity, This was in-context appropriate, and I was under the influence. I apologized for hurt feelings, and affirmed that I respect my friends regardless of personal belief.\n\nBut I have been the butt of comparative jokes between me and those oh-so-mean anti SJW types. \n\nAm I the asshole?\n\nNeed more details? Ask away.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 29, "OTHER": 43, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 12, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 55, "WRONG": 30}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9BRXyksnd6aec8jYSS4H4RNuxb72pnjr", "post_id": "azuwkh", "action": {"description": "telling my husband we really need to consider getting rid of his new car", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my husband we REALLY need to consider getting rid of his new car?", "text": "My husband bought a brand new car last year. He was working at a company that offered monthly bonuses. His bonus per month, at minimum, would cover the monthly car payment. At the time I thought this was an OK idea, he'd get a car that would last us the next 10+ years, and even if he had a rough month, the bonus would cover most of the payment without really affecting our remaining budget.\n\nFast-forward to now, my husband left that job. It was a toxic workplace, I fully supported him leaving. However, his job prospects would make him significantly less than what he made before.\n\nBasically I crunched the budget, and even if he lands a job on the optimistic side, I'd still be taking a majority of the costs over in order to afford this car. We would also have zero money for savings. He's made it very clear that he wants to buy a house together in the next couple years (his big dream, I don't mind renting), with this car that simply isn't going to happen.\n\nHusband keeps saying he can \"make it work\" but I'm looking at a budget where I'm covering 75% of the household needs and it leaves us with maybe $70 extra per month if we are strict as hell. There's just no way we could save enough for a house at this rate.\n\n\nTL;DR: WIBTA for telling my husband if he wants a house in the next couple years, we need to ditch his new car?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bwVGs4n76zyGkYKavSsWqiZtP9utC17K", "post_id": "b6p9k4", "action": {"description": "contacting my little brother who doesn't know I exist", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I contact my little brother who doesn't know I exist?", "text": "It's a long story (I can try to bulletpoint if anyone wants to know) but I took a DNA test months ago. Found out my dead father isn't my father, it's my godfather who is estranged to us. My mother actually made him my godfather *because* she knew I was biologically his. I suspected for a decade but didn't know till I got the test\n\nBefore my bio father became estranged to us he had a son with his girlfriend. I met the son when he was a newborn. The girlfriend left with the son to another state and my bio father left us to be with her a while later. Didn't talk to him for over a decade. We still don't really talk and I found out the girlfriend became his wife and they're now completely separated. They had two more kids and he's not allowed to see them, so I can't even speak to them through him.\n\nOut of curiosity I decided to look the son up since I remembered his name and realized he'd be a teenager. At one point my bio father, who lived with us at the time, was going to seek custody of him. So for a few months I anticipated this kid being my little brother.\n\nShockingly, the kid looks *exactly* like me. His childhood photos look exactly like my nephew. My sister is also my godfather's, we knew that for sure 100% for years. She took her own test and it says we're full siblings. I showed my friends and therapist his photos from his Facebook and they thought they were old photos of me with long hair. We're almost twins.\n\nSo, yeah, the kid is 16 now. He has his own Facebook and Instagram. \n\nI messaged his mother on Facebook to ask her permission to speak to him months ago. I wrote the letter with my therapist and was cordial and delicate considering the circumstances. She never responded. I was heartbroken but understood. \n\nMy mother brought the kid up the other day and said she knows I'm probably sad that I can't have a relationship with my two little brothers and sister. I told her I was going to wait till the youngest is in their 20s before reaching out (that'll be in 10 - 12 years). She said the oldest is 16 and she thinks he's old enough for me to at least PM him to introduce myself.\n\nI'm super conflicted. I don't know this kid and I don't know if he can handle something like this. On the other hand, 16 is old enough to understand. At the end of the day I want him to decide whether he wants me in his life or not, not his mother. Obviously, she can decide that for right now, but when he's an adult he can choose on his own.\n\nMy mother disagrees and thinks 16 is fine. She's under the impression that he probably wouldn't tell his mother and just talk to me. I wouldn't want to do that, however. I don't want to burn bridges or cause unnecessary issues with his mother. \n\nFamily is super important to me, especially siblings. My sisters and their kids are my best friends. Would I be the asshole if I PM'd him despite his mother indirectly telling me no? Should I wait till he's 18 or in his 20s?\n\nAdvice? Has anyone been in this situation before?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6sQNSXoB5dQfZePJs2Jek0iooVcOq7ac", "post_id": "axl8fj", "action": {"description": "kissing the one girl while texting the other and overall not intending to get in a relationship", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for Kissing the one girl while texting the other and overall not intending to get in a relationship?", "text": "Actually i dont know where to start from. But i happened that my first gf and broke up peacefully about 3 months ago and i feel quite good about it. From time to time i think about the good times we had and get melancholic but its not like i am sad or something.\n\nNow i happened, that a girl i know from when we sometimes meet at a friends, approached me while going out. We chatted and started to text a lot quickly afterwards. I felt great to have someone to talk to again and was happy about how well we get along. The thing that bothers me is that she is turning 17 next month and me 20. Its not like i would be a huge gap but sometimes i feel like she isnt mentally on my age and i would like to rather have her as a friend instead of as a gf. But i kinda sense she feels not that way.\n\nNow two weeks later we still are chatting a lot and i still feel like there is not much room for feelings on my side even though shes quite cute. But yesterday when we went out partying i meet old friends of mine that i havent seen in a long time. (long story short) One of their friends that was there with them started to dance closer, then back to back and then we kissed and made out. \n\nI actually dont know how and why that happened but i kind of feel guilty. Guilty for actually not intending to have a relationship right now because i dont feel able to have romantic feelings to anyone, guilty for the girl i kissed because she could be thinking i feel something for her, guilty for the girl i am texting with and the old friends of mine that think there is potential for us two\nI keep thinking what shall i do, did i fuck up or was that ok, Am i a dick or just to concerned? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zxtrGmGAmTlyczn5gMk4rUVkbdYeCENI", "post_id": "ba3g1o", "action": {"description": "asking my boyfriend to stop calling me \"hot\"", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked my boyfriend to stop calling me \"hot\"?", "text": " Ok so I've (19f) been dating this guy (19m) for around two months now and everything has been going pretty good:) I got out of an emotionally, and semi-physical abusive relationship in August of last year, and my current boyfriend is the opposite to my ex, which is great. I only have one issue with my bf, and it's that everytime he compliments me, he calls me \"hot\".\n\nI know that this is a really stupid thing to bother me but I got 2 reasons why I dislike it. The first being that I think it is a sort-of objectifying term, and it makes me think that my body is the most important thing to him. I would much rather him call me \"pretty\", \"beautiful\", or \"cute\" because I think those compliments take my personality into consideration. I feel kind of uncomfortable if he sees my sex appeal as my defining trait. Don't get me wrong, I appreciate the thought behind the compliment and I find him really attractive too so I try to compliment his looks aswell. But the term \"hot\" seems to only focus on my body and sex appeal, and not to sound like a stereotype but I want our relationship to be deeper than that. (Another important note here is that me and my bf haven't had sex yet)\n\nThe other reason I don't like him calling me hot is because my ex used to use that term constantly to describe me. My ex coerced me into sex on two occasions before I found out he actually had a girlfriend who he was cheating on her with me. He used to get me incredibly drunk and then take advantage of me in some way, thankfully we only dated for a month. I never really realized it was an abusive relationship because he seemed so loving towards me, he constantly called me \"hot\". I remember specifically he would say \"you're so hot you're making me so hard right now\" to hint that I should give him a bj. I was 18 at the time and really wanted to save having my first time with a guy I knew really well and I wanted the relationship to be deeper than sex. Anyway the word \"hot\" was his go-to compliment and that's why it triggers me a little lmao.\n\nAnyway so I've been planning the next time my bf calls me \"hot\" to explain my reasons to him and ask him to use another word. I'm afraid it's gonna sound like I'm picky or ungrateful? I'm sorry if this is too small of an issue for this subreddit btw", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 17, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4GQvIO4vyIvOFO6vuL9ipNl2opb2gUHJ", "post_id": "ayy8ys", "action": {"description": "not telling my sisters bf what I do for a living", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for not telling my sisters bf what i do for a living?", "text": "idk why i'm a private person and i've never been close with my family. they don't know much about me and I see them once every couple years. it had been 3 years since I saw my sister and we had dinner with her boyfriend and my parents. I guess I gave off the impression that I had \"money\" (I don't) because i had veneers and was \"well groomed' (bfs words). So anyway he asked what I do for a living and I just joked I sell cocaine and he said no seriously and kept prying then I joked some more and said I do occult seminars $5k for 6 weeks idk i was trying to be funny and he got pretty angry and said why am I being such an ass. It's not really a secret I work in finance lol but I just didn't want to get into it", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TvRb2fugRMKxB7fuObBtdTdMCdpYCyEx", "post_id": "b2rhne", "action": {"description": "wanting a new bed", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for wanting a new bed?", "text": "I am currently unemployed, finished Uni, still living with my parents, but wanting to move in with my bf soon and strongly allergic to furry animals, which resulted in me getting 4 or 5 years ago asthma since I live with cats. The overall allergy doesn't manifest as an usual cat allergy - I can be around cats, what really triggers asthma and allergy for me is dusty environment.\n\nSince I want to move in with my bf, who is from a neighbouring country with a totally different language (its Hungarian, with I understand only a few words), I have problems to find a job suitable for me - no work experience except a part time job and translation/ language related Uni aren't helping me much. At my bf apartment, I get less of allergy symptoms even if he owns 2 cats partly thanks to having a normal bed. At my parents' apartment, I sleep on a pull out futon sofa, which wasn't really build for every night sleeping on - the pull out part is wood with thin foam on top, which got worn out quickly and isn't comfortable anymore + the whole sofa is covered in cat hair collecting textile, it doesn't matter how much you try cleaning it you can't get rid of all the dust and cat hair.\n\n​\n\nI wasn't happy with the futon for a long time, hinted to my parents for at least 2 years that I would need a better and proper bed and they tried to compromise by buying a thin mattress to put on top and an air filter for my asthma that I have constantly running next to the sofa. Both helped somewhat, but my asthma always got back a month or so after. When I sneeze, have a runny nose and cough for several nights in a row and have to take meds and inhaler to just be able to fall asleep and feel terrible in the morning,I manage to get a big grumpy when parents don't seem to care enough, bring in more saved stray cats (have 5 in total now, but we have a big apartment so cats are doing well, no overcrowding) and tell you to just do sports outside, while the allergy doctors are alarmed my lung capacity dropped so low.\n\n​\n\nLast month I caught a cold that concentrated on flooding my lungs with slime I was coughing constantly and not getting any air when trying to sleep. The only place I could sleep was closing myself in the bathroom and sleeping on the floor with a yoga mat under me. Parents bought me a sleeping air mat, which didn't survive longer than a week, even if I tried to not let the cats near it. After the worst part of the cold went away I evacuated to my bfs appartment since my asthma still was extremly strong but I still need to get back to my parents place once in a while sice all my doctors (allergy, dentist...) are there.\n\nI still can't sleep on the futon since that cold, even with meds and parents refuse to buy me a new bed stating I can buy me one from my first salary (my parents are well off if they wanted to buy a bed its not a problem).\n\n​\n\nEven my bf can't sleep on that bed well (back problems) and started to have his own first signs of allergy there.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "RkwDs3dCSfgywGGoWGcUzmAhovDby3ak", "post_id": "b18oj3", "action": {"description": "breaking up a flat of 6 people", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for breaking up a flat of 6 people?", "text": "In December I booked my student flat for the next academic year. It was the same flat I had lived in before and due to its benefits over other flats (extra fridge, oven, and location) I booked early to secure it. \n\nToday I received an email from the flat managers asking if I would be happy to swap rooms, as a group of 6 people wanted to book together and there were no empty flats available, and as I\u2019m the only person in this flat booked at the moment I would be easiest to swap.  It wouldn\u2019t be too big an issue for me to swap, but I know this flat is the best for me, so I refused a swap. I\u2019m feeling slightly guilty now though, and have had people say I should have and swapped and people saying I was right to refuse. \n\nSo am I the asshole or not? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "agACTLsrwFi9mdkdBmedd0zbiSLwZwyd", "post_id": "b0tpac", "action": {"description": "snapping getting angry over a friend folding my underwear", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for snapping getting angry over a friend folding my underwear", "text": "Last week I got into a pretty severe car accident. A friend and I hydroplaned while entering the freeway on a roundabout, which caused the little Yaris we were in to slide into oncoming traffic. We got broadsided by a semi-truck. Amazingly, we both walked away unscathed, with the exception of some back pain on my part.\n\nIn the days following the accident I had an amazing outpouring of love and affection from my friends. People brought me food, family from out of state called to check in on me, and one of my college TAs was even cool enough to drop by with some edibles to help with my back pain.\n\nTwo days after the accident I got a message from my friend Eliza asking if I wanted some company. I said yes, and asked her if she could do me a huge favor when she got here and take my trash to the dumpster. I live in a second story apartment and getting down the stairs with a bag of garbage and a bad back just seemed like a monster of a mission at the time. Eliza says of course, and everything is set.\n\nCue to a few hours later and I'm lying on my couch being stoned and pathetic. I hear a rattling at my door and in walks Eliza, who I fully expected, but she also had our friend Wren with her, who I did not expect. Wren can be a bit much in a lot of ways.\n\nAfter greetings Eliza jumps into cleaning my kitchen, which I appreciated, but I kept trying to tell her that all I needed was the trash taken out. Eliza didn't listen.\n\nI had a basket of unfolded laundry sitting in my living room. Wren jumped right into folding that. Again, I kept insisting that she did not have to do that, and again, I was ignored. At one point, she pulled a pair of my underwear out and I immediately was like, \"hey, I don't like other people touching my underwear. Please stop.\" Wren took this as an opportunity to just chuckle, then proceeded to tell me a story about the first time she went to our friend Willowe's house and how she started cleaning and Willowe was uncomfortable and visibly angry, but Wren just kept going and how she could see that same discomfort in me and how she thinks it's funny.\n\nThis didn't sit well with me. Who the hell gets off on making their friends uncomfortable?\n\nSo I told Wren straight up that she needed to stop. I said I get that she's trying to help, but honestly, I'm sore and high and feeling really violated, which is mixing with my high and giving me this weird anxiety that I really don't like. I kind of snapped. Both Eliza and Wren felt the mood change, so they both left after that and said they were going to let me rest.\n\nI've spoken to Eliza since, but not Wren, and honestly, I don't want to talk to Wren. I don't think it's out of line for me to set boundaries and I don't think it's okay to intentionally cross someone's boundaries, even if it's in the name of \"just trying to help.\"", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jXY7m4sOPXCcOXzOynEarGvip0KdMZUO", "post_id": "ab3tbm", "action": {"description": "reimbursing my friend with a Game key instead of actual money", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for reimbursing my friend with a Game key instead of actual money?", "text": "TL:DR- I allowed a friend to play on my steam account so that he can test out/ have fun on some games he's been wanting to play. I warned said friend about not buying games on my steam so that I would not have to worry about paying him back. He goes on to buy two games that add up to nearly $80. I bought him the key for one game and I still need to reimburse for the game that went on sale.   \n\n\n  \nLong version- Sorry if my  TL:DR didn't make a lot of sense. I am not really good with them.  \n\n\nI have a friend that wanted to play more PC games and try out certain games that I had in my steam library. Trying to be nice, I allowed him onto my steam so that he can play those games that he was interested in. I warned my friend that if he wanted to buy games then he would need to make his own account, so I wouldn't have to worry about reimbursing him for anything. Lo and behold he bought two games; one worth $20, and another worth $60. Of course, I was pretty livid, but I said I'll try to reimburse him for the games to the best of my abilities. My friend has not touched it since then, but recently asked me to reimburse him for the $60 game since I just paid him back for the $20 game. I literally had a mental breakdown because I barely have the money right now to pay back for those games since rent/utilities/etc has been kicking my ass. I confided in my boyfriend and he told me I don't need to pay him back in full; I just need to pay him back with a key.   \n\n\nI felt super guilty about it since I feel like I'm scamming him, but my boyfriend had reminded me that I had warned him about buying games on my account, and that it's not fair to me for reimbursing games that I'm not going to touch unless I'm actually interested.   \n\n\nI had asked for the receipt for the game, but he had sent me a screenshot of the first time he had bought the code. I asked where he had bought the CD code and he said amazon, and then someone else bought him another CD code for the same exact game through amazon again. And right now, there's a sale on it for $35.99 on steam. So I told him I could have just gifted me a new key for cheaper, but now he's giving me excuses about how someone else had bought the code for him and amazon doesn't do refunds as well as not providing me with the more recent receipt. I haven't replied since then as I'm still really upset about it.   \n\n\nSo AITA if I want to reimburse my friend with a new key code for a game he's interested in, instead of paying him back in full?  \n\n\n  \n\n\nP.S.-I'm sorry if my story is all over the place. I am not that great with grammar.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Hiy3mW26x7ODKl2STEpAn8FCvOHgWjuI", "post_id": "am93a0", "action": {"description": "wanting to kick out a pregnant couple", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to kick out a pregnant couple?", "text": "Throwaway because I'm curious and don't know if the couple uses reddit.\n\n​\n\nHere's the backstory: I own my home and in order to help with costs and savings I rent out the rooms in my home. I won't get too into details about this but recently I have been struggling financially for external reasons so having room mates has become a must. I have a three bedroom home, and typically only ever rent out one other room which is across the house. I live in a fairly nice upper-middle home in a quiet and safe neighborhood. I keep the place clean (I clean thoroughly once a week, I dislike messes) and all I really ask for in return is that payments are made on time and that you are kind to me and my fiancee. The rental agreement I provide is just a month-to-month agreement and it is fairly generous and lenient for the person renting the room. I do my best for background checks, personality checks, financial reviews, and etc. prior to accepting people in. The room costs typically $600 a month with a $350.00 security deposit which I return after inspection. This amount includes the monthly rent, internet, utilities, and pretty much everything minus their personal expenses. I do ask that they not let my two kittens outside (they're indoor cats) and that if they're going to use something (like plates or laundry detergent) that they just ask in advance - I'll likely say yes. For reference, the typical rent in my neighborhood for a room is about $1200, or $1800 for a one bedroom apartment.\n\n​\n\nSo due to recent financial struggles I had agreed to let a couple live with me. I figured I would give them one room with a discounted rate (Instead of $1200 for two people, it's just $800) and I would agree not to rent the second room while they are here (which means I'm earning less per month since not both rooms are rented). They did advise me they would have March as their last month as the girlfriend is pregnant and the baby would be due in late March. This was in November. I felt for them and wanted to help, and additionally I really needed the money at the time as my previous tenant had to leave on short notice (He was really nice though and we worked it out amicably, although at my financial burden).\n\n​\n\nInitially everything was fine but we started noticing many issues. They would drink and eat our food without asking. They would use stuff without asking. At one point early on we found one of my favorite cups was being used as a cup-holder for their toothbrushes under the sink in the guest bathroom. The girl (who is pregnant) is leaving cigarette butts outside my home and she also spends her time drinking on my patio and leaving her mess behind. They tamper with my thermostat and cause my electric bill to increase by about 60% (when I typically account for about a 40% increase with new tenants). Additionally, they started using my garage and extra room as storage despite being advised not to. I had to confront them on each issue and they pushed back either saying it wasn't them or they wouldn't do it anymore. \n\n​\n\nNow normally I'd be furious but I wanted to best assist them so I let them have these extra luxuries at no expense because it would be easier than arguing - and I also couldn't find new tenants to replace them despite my many efforts.\n\n  \nFast forward to today, the rent is due and they advise me they are leaving in two weeks and they only want to pay for half the month. Now our agreement in no uncertain terms says they need to give me a 30 days notice and they owe for the remaining thirty days. I attempt to be nice but before I can text a reply the boyfriend sends me a huge insulting text message saying \"We are leaving because you neglect your cats and they have fleas. We should've gotten a thirty day notice on the fleas and we can't live like this so we deserve to not pay you the full rent.\" Later on he agreed to pay the full amount and \"we will discuss prorating it later\".\n\n​\n\nNow, my kittens are everything to me. They're indoor cats. Me and my fiancee spoil them. Recently (as of about 15 days ago) we discovered a flea problem. Immediately we notified them, bug-bombed the house, brushed them, shampooed them, gave them anti-flea treatment and they came back again as of yesterday; so I intend to get in contact with an exterminator to see what options are available (as they may be in places I can't get to with conventional means).\n\n​\n\nThis ended up being a longer post than I intended so I'll include a TL;DR at the bottom, but am I an asshole for demanding they pay the full rental amount as agreed by on our contract - and even more - I provided them official thirty day notice as of today to vacate?\n\n​\n\nTL;DR: I accepted a pregnant couple into my home with a month-to-month agreement. They're trashy people and I've been nothing but kind while they drink and smoke on my patio together. Today they asked me to only pay a part of their rent and leave early, violating our monthly agreement which puts me in a rough financial spot.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dooGXC7C6HfKwFO8TfvIi6a9KRtdeiHp", "post_id": "altlw7", "action": {"description": "not letting my mom's boyfriend stay", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not letting my mom's boyfriend stay?", "text": "My mom is between places to stay right now and waiting to get into an apartment. So she says.\n\nShe has cleaned out my garage, which has been storing her stuff along with mine and my husband's. She cleaned it out really nice and vacuumed and got all the spidies out. She put a bed in there and wants to stay here until she gets a place of her own. I said that's fine if she wants to but she doesn't have to sleep in the garage she can sleep on the couch or wherever.\n\nNow, she has told her boyfriend that he can stay here in the garage with her. I said no. That's fucking ridiculous and I don't want some dude at my house all the time. She said he will stay in the garage.\n\nI said no but then she said just for one night because she already told him he could. I said one night, fine.\n\nThey stayed and got drunk and made enchiladas and had a good old time.\n\nNow she has asked me again. And said it's only 3 nights a week. Blah blah. Guilt guilt.\n\nAITA if I say no to that?\n\nI don't know him, he is loud as fuck and the two times I have met him I have got caught in a one sided conversation where he just complains loudly about something and cusses and it feels like he is yelling at me. I know he isn't yelling at me it just feels that way.\n\nHe isn't s bad guy, from what I can tell. He doesn't have anywhere to stay and my mom really wants to be with him all the time and it IS just my garage. And she said it will only be 3 nights a week until they get a place. \n\nShe has been saying she is going to get a place for a while now.\n\nI don't know, I feel like an asshole because I guess I always thought of myself as a good person who would share what I have with someone who needed it. But I have a baby daughter and I breastfeed and I want my space to feel safe. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kYdH42g3YYVUxd9L1YRxAIqXvg5cQpvS", "post_id": "ajhm89", "action": {"description": "calling out a person who called me out for being bad at math to tons of people", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA If I called out a person who called me out for being bad at math to tons of people?", "text": "To preface this, I\u2019m in math class doing one of those group projects where everyone in the group gets the same sheet and works together to answer the problems. Then the teacher picks a random sheet from that group to grade and bases the entire group grade on that paper.\nSo obviously it makes the most sense to all get the same answers.\n\nThe groups were assigned.\n\nI am definitely not an A+ math student. By far. But I really do try and in this project I was trying to pull my weight. This group was 3 kids besides me who all knew what they were doing far more then me. I eventually get far behind them and start asking for help and then because our time to work on it is almost over, answers. I was genuinely trying really hard to keep up and was not trying to freeload. I just got behind and didn\u2019t want to sacrifice the groups grades and I don\u2019t think they would want to either. I felt bad and repeatedly apologized. \n\nThat should be the end of it right? Apparently not. I don\u2019t follow this person (one of my group members) on Instagram and at this point am glad I don\u2019t. I luckily have a brother who does. He tells me that her story has picture of a black background and some text reading something like \u201cThis fucking Grego-o kid, comes into our group and bullshits his way to get a good grade\u201d. \n\nThis kid is semi-popular so their follower count is at about 2k (probably almost all kids from my school) and I\u2019m pretty sure that means a lot of people are going to see it and at this point I\u2019m pissed because I tried as hard as I could to keep up and wouldn\u2019t have copied if I didn\u2019t need to but got called out anyway even after apologizing. AITA if I confront them about this (in person) also knowing I\u2019m not friends with them? Thanks in advance!", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oI4P49XljW6Hcohc16MzY5FcpRF94gMN", "post_id": "aikdfj", "action": {"description": "not wanting to visit a parent", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to visit a parent?", "text": " \n\nI\u2019m posting this on a throw away account for obvious reasons. \n\nSo, I\u2019m 19 and I moved across the country with one of my parents (parent #1) and my step-parent. I had an ok relationship with my parent who I don\u2019t live near, lets call them parent #2 but it was a very stressful. My parents split was very messy and parent #2 alway tried to make it a pick parent #1 or me and was always pushing to spend every moment with them. I understand that they just have me and my sibling, but I also had to deal with the burden of constantly making me feel like I was guilty for any decision I made regarding time spent with parent #1 or parent #2. Parent #2 also argued that they didn\u2019t have to support me if I didn\u2019t see them enough and since the day I turned 18 even when I still saw #2 on an almost daily basis they did not support me financially. \n\nAfter moving I was basically pressured into visiting once after only 3 months even when I had a visit planned for about six months out. Well not parent #2 wants me to keep up a 3 month routine and honestly I don\u2019t want to see #2 that often. #2 just always makes me feel like crap and pressures me into things I don\u2019t want to do. Now don\u2019t get me wrong I still like #2 but its just shitty to be pressured to do everything. They act like they give me options, but I know that the options aren\u2019t really options. I\u2019d be more than fine if #2 wanted to come visit me, but I\u2019m tired of flying across country and taking off time (over a week each time) from work every 3 months. When I split my time almost 50/50 between my parents life was hell because I had to constantly listen to the bickering. It wasn't everyday, but it would got to the point of me having to leave the house a couple of times out of fear or anger. There were many good times during those years, but many taxing days as well.\n\nTo understand my situation a little better I\u2019m a full time student and work 40 hours a week so I\u2019m busy, but I like it and still want time to do my own things. I guess I might be selfish, but at this point I don\u2019t know. I also don\u2019t want to disagree with parent #2 because there parents have a college fund for me that will pay for a half of year, which is a lot of money for me. It almost feels like I just have that pressure of money looming over me. Plus I still love a lot of my family on that side, but its just tough because I don\u2019t want to upset them by making parent #2 upset and they won\u2019t see it my way, they never have but they don\u2019t hold it over me.\n\nSo I ask, am I the asshole for not wanting to see #2 every 3 months? Also should I good see #2 or should I stand my ground?  \n\n​\n\nI could go way further in depth with the stories, but I don't want to be too specific.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cNGMdjoWhfSmwFxI6CRE7ghv1p5PbxUI", "post_id": "b30mvx", "action": null, "title": "AITA for this phony-friendly snapback?", "text": "So, my husband has long been irritated by the sounds I make while I eat.  To be clear, I am not smacking or talking through food in my mouth or chewing with my mouth open -- your face just naturally makes some noises when you eat.  I get that it can sometimes grate in a quiet situation because his chewing noises sometimes annoy me too, but since he can't help it, I chalk it up to I'm being irritable and I keep it to myself.\n\nUsually, if my chewing sounds are annoying him, he will say something like, \"I'm really sorry, but that is annoying me so much!\" and then he'll take his food and go in another room.  This has always mildly hurt my feelings, but I also can understand the irritation factor, so I have mostly just dealt with my feelings about it and moved on.\n\nLast night, we were sitting on the couch.  He was reading, and I was watching a show with headphones.  I was eating a snack while I watched, and he tapped me so I would pause the show, so that he could tell me, \"You are making the most disgusting noises ever while you eat that.\"\n\nI got so annoyed, and I slapped on a phony smile and a syrup voice and said, \"You make the most disgusting noises every time you eat too; you just don't know that because your wife doesn't feel the need to humiliate you each time.  It's called graciousness.\" Then I put my headphones back on and went back to my show, but I was too self-conscious to continue eating my snack, so it just sat there.\n\nHis whole mood changed into a sulk, and he thinks I am the one who is an asshole.  But I think he's the asshole for needing to be told that it is rude to make someone self-conscious about something they literally cannot control.\n\nSo, AITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fIKjo9afk8FxCYlTBD59JXX061FUsknz", "post_id": "a9xx53", "action": {"description": "calling out a \"friend\" who used me as a last resort/funds pot", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for calling out a \"friend\" who used me as a last resort/funds pot?", "text": "Please help me out with formatting or if you need more information please let me know. \n\nSo I (21M) have been friends with a (21F) whom I did not have any intentions of being romantically involved with at any point in this story. \n\nSo, let's call her Jane, had been in a rough relationship for a few years prior to myself meeting her, upon meeting her we really hit it off, I was there to support her through her breakup and her moving back home, we spent a lot of time together and grew close (so I thought). \n\nJane was very passionate about achieving her dream and I was more than happy to help out financially for her to achieve this (probably my first mistake right?) And promised I would help her to achieve this, I care about her after all, we spoke briefly and she referred to me as her best friend so yeah. \n\nIn the previous week's I didn't really get any contact from her and we stopped hanging out, I get that sure you need your space, but when Jane didn't have any one else to hang out with, or wanted something bought for her, she'd suddenly be there to hang out again? No effort outside of that. I spoke to her about this in a calm way to try and explain how it made me feel but it continued on regardless. \n\nJust before Christmas she messaged me regarding some stuff she wanted so i ordered Jane around $600 of PC hardware that she wanted, we shopped for this together and hung out for an hour or so for this, however once it was ordered and shipping date confirmed, I heard nothing again for around 3 days, just completely ghosted me. \n\nSo they were due to be delivered tomorrow and I cancelled them, I let Jane know that she wouldn't need to wait for the delivery and all of a sudden I was worth the time again for a message regarding me being in the wrong and to blame for her not speaking to me. \n\nAm I the asshole for feeling used and cancelling the parts? I care about her and said I'd help her out after all..", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "agRlO4W5uvTRaZBsFFvjIzqKjMEySvVg", "post_id": "9wcjdm", "action": {"description": "refusing to punch my friend", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to punch my friend?", "text": "Not a long one, but here goes.\n\nFriend is kind of crazy, gets into fights often and other things of the sort.  One day we got on the topic of fighting and he insists I punch him as hard as I can in the face to see how hard a punch I can throw.\n\nI say no, because I don\u2019t want to punch my friend.\n\nHe asks again, and I say no again.\n\nIt\u2019s been a few days, now, but he hasn\u2019t asked me since or responded to any of my messages. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ICvHubziqqmPdIpFTJEF3w2QQExHgDTF", "post_id": "b8jlts", "action": {"description": "not inviting a friend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not inviting a friend", "text": "Had a birthday party and decided to not invite a friend  who im not necessarily close to or comfortable with, he asked why he wasn't invited and i made a BS excuse, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ydJn5t69OENV4ZjYWmx7FP49xCT4wrQc", "post_id": "at4kp2", "action": {"description": "not keeping contact", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not keeping contact?", "text": "AITA? \n\nMy mother died 4months ago, and now, every one in my family are trying to stay \"close\" to me. \nBut only when they need something from me. Before, they would never call or text, only for christmas and such. Now my grand-pa needs something, he texted me \"thanks for caring about me, ill need the phone i asked you a month or two ago\" \n\nIm sorry, but you live 1:30h away and i dont have a car. So what the fuck am i supposed to do? I know its family but its only making me more mad then anything else... ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EJtLAcLjNnxj2ZkUXt7ZfNsyqNY1JuJS", "post_id": "aos43a", "action": {"description": "trying to prove my point to my friend", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA if I'm trying to prove my point to my friend?", "text": "Sorry for posting this again. I accidentally clicked the \"Post\" button instead of the rules.\n\nSo, basically. I was having a discussion with my friend. It was about what if my friend is not a weeb and is a stan, a fan, or whatever. Then, I gave my point that it would be the same as if he is a weeb.\n\nMy point is that somebody might be interested in some topic if they actually deeply understand that topic. Like my friend, I think he might be (and he is) a weeb because he knows a lot about anime, like the characters, the series, etc. It is the same if someone is a fan of something. They must have knowledge of someone that they fan of, like their birthday, their real name, their songs, etc. It's because if someone has the interest of a topic, they will have the curiosity to learn the topic further because of how interesting it is. It is simple logic, I suppose.\n\nUnfortunately, my friend is having anger because of it, calling that if I were having a debate with that type of reasoning, then I will be boo'ed. Basically, he calls my point is utterly stupid. I tried to explain as clear as possible, but I think he doesn't understand what am I saying. He got to the point where he left a group chat that we and somebody joined.\n\nI feel bad for this because I seemed forced my point to him. A friendly argument suddenly going nuts because of me. But, I wanted to know if I am actually an asshole or not.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "iQi12eeBXYU72H44PoycwZW0hXeXp3LH", "post_id": "aqu2jl", "action": {"description": "wanting my boyfriend to post about us online", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting my boyfriend to post about us online?", "text": "So today is Valentine\u2019s Day so naturally everyone is posting about their SO. Not gonna lie, I felt kind of sad that my boyfriend didn\u2019t post about us. I know it\u2019s superficial, but it\u2019s nice to be bragged on, ya know? In addition to this, I feel like our relationship is almost secret. He never really talks about us to anyone. I feel like I\u2019m being childish for wanting something like that but it feels good when someone lets the world know they love you with no hesitation. I explained how I felt about it to him and now it seems like he\u2019s sad. Please tell me if I\u2019m being the asshole/childish/stupid. I\u2019m open to it all. Thanks in advance. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "b5Y9yXpRQK0FsSgdlWcsAMBwpQ15y0MP", "post_id": "a7adsm", "action": {"description": "saying I dont like my sisters new Choreography", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for saying I dont like my(13M) sisters(15F) new Choreography.", "text": "So okay let me start this off by saying all of my siblings and I are dancers we go to a charter school for the arts and we dance there we live and breath dancing last night I spent 2 house trying to perfect a string of dance moves NOT the whole set just a small portion of the set. So when we got home from school my sister showed me a new Choreography she was working on as when she graduates she wants to become a choreographer and I told her upfront I said \"not going to lie to it's pretty all over the place and it doesn't seem to flow right\" then she flipped out on calling me a little shit and stormed out of the room and my other sister (17F) just looked at me and said \"really you had to do that\" and walked to go talk to my sister. Now I'm stuck here this morning thinking I'm a total asshole for saying it's bad but at the same time it was bad I know I couldn't do any better but I guess I was just comparing it to the Choreography our choreographers do at our school. Am I the asshole.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zCXmqKw4Hd48I2VFvSkTXpP58MqGxzOT", "post_id": "b84144", "action": {"description": "telling a friend he is being creepy and pathetic following a breakup", "pronormative_score": 174, "contranormative_score": 24}, "title": "AITA for telling a friend he is being creepy and pathetic following a breakup?", "text": "My friend was with this girl for about eight months. He is 22.\n\nWhile he was with her, he would go on and on about how she was \"the one\" and how they were going to get married, etc. \n\nShe recently broke up with him because he was moving way too fast in the relationship and he needs time to work on himself and deal with his anxiety.\n\nHe completely lost it after this. We ended up having to call 911 and have him taken to the hospital because he was calling her and us threatening harm on himself. \n\nHe constantly calls her asking why she can't take him back, and he told us that if she's in the city, he might go to her place and \"ask her in person\". \n\nWell, me and my friends all took turns spending time with him after the hospital visit and on my turn I just lost it after hearing for the fifth time how he was going to \"get her back.\"\n\nI told him he was being creepy and pathetic and that she has made it abundantly clear that she doesn't want to get back together with him and he needs to stop all this behavior. \n\nHe got really pissed and kicked me out of his apartment.\n\nMy friends told me that I probably could have done it in a nicer way but that they agree with me.\n\nSo AITA for telling him all that?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 15, "OTHER": 163, "EVERYBODY": 9, "NOBODY": 11, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 174, "WRONG": 24}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "I8833PZWIx8T2tlvVk5lROXdusRIA0EL", "post_id": "b0pcwo", "action": {"description": "arguing with my husband over the hypothetical fate of my dog if she were to defend herself against his parents hateful chihuahua", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA: I argued with my husband over the hypothetical fate of my dog if she were to defend herself against his parents hateful chihuahua", "text": "So we have a big lovable Dane mix who has been in our family about six months since rescuing her, shes a complete pansy when it comes to other dogs being aggressive, including my in-laws Chihuahua. In the mind of their upcoming visit, almost as a joke I asked my husband what he would do if the Chihuahua attacked our dog again like he did the last time they were here- and if Charlie defended herself, she acidentally ended up killing the tiny attacker- He said she would be immediately put down. He went on to say that any dog that could kill a smaller dog he wouldn't trust around our kids... And I was surprised how upset this made me. This is ridiculous as Charlie adores our children and has shown multiple times that all she does is run away or lay on her belly when dogs attack her, but it made me realize that I would completely defend her if she did bite someone or injure/kill their dog. Am I being completely irrational in favor of my dog, or is my husband completely overreacting?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AOleIaZJyEOvtReiydyNAv4S4mKhuJk4", "post_id": "a6iw1l", "action": null, "title": "AITA for cheating?", "text": "Ok so just to clarify, I hate cheating, and how it has become part of our culture.\n\nYesterday I lost my virginity to a girl, whom I think I have feelings for. While we both knew that she has a boyfriend, with whom she is about to break up. \n\nShe was going to break up with him last Sunday but I'm not sure what happened, she has said something about him using his sadness to guilt trip her into staying, when she ignores him or tries to bring up the subject with him.\n\nSo I feel like I'm the asshole or having sexual intercourse with her while knowing that she has a boyfriend, yet I feel like he's a dick for being so manipulative.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "pWfYbW3j1jx5yBsuNvF1SoWnTjrnOq8x", "post_id": "afk7qh", "action": {"description": "not letting best friends share the same desk in class", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not letting best friends share the same desk in class ?", "text": "So, a little backstory: \n\n   I'm in the last year of highschool and i had  a \"desk mate\" since 9th grade ( here we are 2 people at a desk ) but mine changed classes at the beginning of this year so i was alone at my desk.  \nI have two classmates with whom i'm good friends with. They used to stay together since 5th grade but last year of HS decided to switch mates. Now after the first semester they asked me if i could stay with one of their mates cuz they want to sit together again. I do not want to do that since i actually like sitting alone and it won't be the same especially cuz my mate is like a brother to me and it will be different if i sit with anyone else. Plus i don't really have anything in common with this girl and I don't want to sit with her, but I won't sit with anyone else either. It's not really personal, I just like sitting alone, but not having things in common is a minus.  \nSo am I the asshole for not letting them sit together ?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pfHD8b0gx0yeDqRB4JwFCUCKECUqsKOh", "post_id": "b6p9af", "action": {"description": "cutting my Ex out of my life after she sent me gore", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for cutting my Ex out of my life after she sent me gore?", "text": "So a few months ago me and my ex broke up on neutral terms after a year. We were still friends afterwards though. So were talking one night and I say some shit about how ouija boards are bullshit, and then she sends me a link to something that almost made me throw up. I then say jokingly to \"never talk to me again\" and then she sends 3 more links. I never opened them but they were from the same website. Then I wake up and there's 10 more links. I block her on all social media and don't talk to her the next day. I 'm talking to one of our mutual friends and he says she's upset lately. I would feel bad but like, That shit makes me mad. It's bad enough she sent it to me, but it's disturbing she knows were to find it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kaHXmPPx141TPp4LRdPOwZEO7QX3jvPM", "post_id": "b15o78", "action": {"description": "not inviting my roommates to my re-enlistment", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not inviting my roommates to my re-enlistment?", "text": "A while back I reenlisted for a second tour in the military. When it came time for the ceremony, though, I really didn't care for it to be a big thing. It was just another contract, some more time serving the big red white and blue. I didn't really invite anyone, just had a few people out there to facilitate the proceedings. I've never been the kind to like big gatherings.\n\nWell, I come back after the ceremony and find my coworker has told my roommate, who I consider a pretty close friend. I hadn't invited him or his wife because I didn't think about it, and because again, I didn't consider it to be a big thing. Nonetheless, my roommate was pretty peeved- he felt excluded, and he told me as much. Apparently his wife was similarly upset. I kind of didn't talk to her about it, we all just kind of let it slide as if nothing took place. I really didn't mean for it to be taken that way.\n\nSo... am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bm0sZdr45pFzzNVoYsufq2DyzhSq2DBR", "post_id": "b25l7c", "action": {"description": "telling a cleaner that I hired to clean more space than I listed", "pronormative_score": 62, "contranormative_score": 171}, "title": "AITA for telling a cleaner that I hired to clean more space than I listed", "text": "tldr: I hired a cleaner for a certain number of hours, i lied about the size of the house because i only wanted him to clean the bottom floor, he cleaned it so quickly so there is time to work on the upstairs but he is angry that there are more bedrooms and bathrooms than listed, even tho ive told him he doesnt have to finish people's all only wjat he has time for.\n\nSo, I used an app to pay for a cleaner to come today, Its something me and my siblings do when we use our parents house when they travel (we are between the ages of 17 - 22 so we can pull together enough money for it) and when they are away, we have more freinds over than usual, might have a house party. They are extremely strict about having a pristinely clean house, like more than most people, so we respect that and we clean as much as we can, but its really helpful to have a proffesional come in with more tools and cleaning solutions then we have in the house.\n\nIts really important that they clean the downstairs floor extremely well, like the living room, kitchen, bathroom etc. I didnt want to hire them for the bedrooms or upstairs bathrooms we can do that ourselves. But this is the first time using this app for hiring and instead of choosing the hours that you want, you have to input the number of bedrooms and bathrooms that you have and the app decides the amount of hours it will send the cleaner for.\n\nI played around with it so that it gave me a 4 hour option, so i diddnt input the amount of bathrooms and bedrooms that we actually have or ot wouldbjave hired the cleaner for much longer.\n\nSo it comes to this morning and I realise, that the house is really clean, this time my parents went away, we diddnt really have anyone over as usual, the downstairs bathroom was barely touched, we diddnt use the kitchen much, but i wasnt going to cancel obviously. The cleaner arrives, I explain to him how important that the downstairs area is prristine, all the mirrors floor etc. So IF he has time, he can move onto the areas but no pressure on the upstairs just go through the downstairs.\n\nHes done downstairs in less than 90 minutes, thats another 2 and a half hours left, so i take him upstairs and show him the bathrooms and bedrooms and he gets really angry, he says \"THIS IS NOT FINE, ITS NOT WHAT YOU LISTED\" I explained like i did when he arrived earlier, that the only important area was downstairs, and to do as much of the upstairs as he has time for.\n\nHes still huffing and getring annoyed saying that what I did was wrong but ive explained that he only needs to clean for the time I hored him for and then leave. Even of its not finished upstairs but hes still not happy.\n\nI dont know was I wrong for not listing the full size of the house, is it a strict rule when you hire a cleaner online that they do only the rooms listed, im thinking of complaining becaise i really diddnt like the attitude.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 166, "OTHER": 50, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 12, "INFO": 7}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 62, "WRONG": 171}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "2lllODblSiL6RGhsTTrXREIZWxu1t946", "post_id": "apnkj2", "action": {"description": "not wanting to cook for my brother", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to cook for my brother.", "text": "So my brother and I both go to the same college, and we live in the same two room apartment. We are both pretty busy doing school work, so I don't always have the time to cook. I meal prep 10 means every week for lunch and dinner. At the start of living together he would occasionally eat one or two of my meals which I was fine with. Now all he eats are the meals I make AITA for getting frustrated about him never cooking for himself. All I can think about is how my mom would always cook for the family almost everyday and she loved doing it.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "j0LeXfTAQXuqH3008rwULhzD8EhK5ItW", "post_id": "avunc7", "action": {"description": "telling my friend his gf is controlling", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if i told my friend his gf is controlling", "text": "Yeah so my friend of a couple of years and a week ago he got a girlfriend he hasnt been talking to me in a while and today he called me saying hes sorry he hasnt talked to me but his girlfriend has said that she doesnt want him playing with other people unless its friday like to me that ridiculous also aita for getting frustrated and ignoring him for being so naive?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TArobME17MIzyKjZcWoiSDf8Y7JE8atw", "post_id": "atk5an", "action": {"description": "not eating breakfast with my gf", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA (M22) for not eating breakfast with my gf (F21)", "text": "I normally go to work with my gf at 10Am and we usually eat breakfast together. Today I ate a little bit before picking her up for work and when she said what I wanted to eat I said I\u2019m not hungry I already ate a little bit she said that\u2019s okay she just won\u2019t eat. She\u2019s now giving me the cold shoulder despite saying it\u2019s okay she refuses to eat without me but now that I\u2019m telling her we can eat together she refuses. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NfKVQOh2modVdwNpVxGAA86hFu7xeocT", "post_id": "b3twgd", "action": {"description": "changing the subject after a long pause", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For changing the subject after a long pause?", "text": "Me and my high school team are playing a tennis match over at another school. While going over to the school we start a conversation about college basketball, and how everyone filled out their brackets. After about a 20 second pause I thought the conversation was over, and I talk about the last tennis match I had, idk why, but I was stuttering non stop. And although I got the words out of my mouth, they weren\u2019t pretty. Once I did, one of my teammates said \u201cWe were just talking about basketball, why are you talking about tennis?\u201d And my response was. \u201cI-I thought we were done, it was a long pause.\u201d And he replied back. \u201cWell you just started a whole different conversation when we were just talking about basketball.\u201d I know I probably am taking this way out of proportion, but I feel so embarrassed, and I haven\u2019t talked sense, idk if it was my awful stuttering, or if I was an idiot starting another conversation that shouldn\u2019t be talked about yet. So please tell me, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4JWkf9QTl517P3oxcfQlHXaczq69U27d", "post_id": "9z92uz", "action": {"description": "not paying it forward", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not paying it forward?", "text": "Today I went to a very-well known fast food drive through and ordered my meal. At the paying window I was told that the car in front of me had paid the six dollars for my meal. Accepting this kind gesture, I asked how much the order was for the car behind me. It was over $30.00. Being a broke student I had to pass on paying it forward but I still feel a little guilty for not having continued the kindness. AITA for this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7sfcupWIjICLHBaEtEOlCOzPIfznj8E8", "post_id": "b5vypu", "action": {"description": "intervening in two of my friends fighting", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for intervening in two of my friends fighting?", "text": "Okay so backstory time, I\u2019ve been friends with Person A for a long time, we go way back. But, he was a bit of a dick back in highschool, it wasn\u2019t really his fault, I blame more the people he was hanging out with. After high school he moved out of the town and we lost touch. Recently he move backed and is a completely changed person.\n\n\n\nSo here\u2019s where Person B comes in, we\u2019ve only started being friends after high school, he\u2019s usually pretty chill, but can get really impulsive and irrational when he\u2019s mad. Here\u2019s the kicker, I found out recently back in highschool, Person A played a real nasty prank on Person B. Now Person B was still legitimately upset about it, but had no clue that Person A was part of the prank.\n\n\n\nFast forward to last Saturday, I invited both of them to go drinking and the nights going fine, albeit a little awkward at first. Here\u2019s where the problem happened, we ran into one of Person A\u2019s old highschool friend, and he ends up spilling the beans about the prank done on Person B. Person B just gets furious and starts insulting Person A.\n\n\n\nI jump in to try and cool him off, since Person A has changed quite a lot since high school, but Person B isn\u2019t having and of it, and tries to cold-clock right Person A in the face. I end up just tackling Person B to hold him down to try and cool him off. After he calmed down, I let him go and he curses us off, then leaves. He still hasn\u2019t returned my texts, and he made it apparent that our friendship is over.\n\n\n\n\nSo who was the Asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Uq8Y4twhrhht1A9MRFkCmIs2U3PVfYZW", "post_id": "b5qxz3", "action": {"description": "not liking my wife's friend", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not liking my wife's friend?", "text": "My wife and I are mid 40s and have been married over a year.  She has this friend (J) that about 3 years ago, down in Mexico, got drunk and started talking bad about my wife (then my GF) in front of strangers the entire day and then at the end of the night, got into a physical altercation with my wife.  My wife called me at like 2:00am from Mexico, crying, told me what happened and said she was driving off in the rental car to get to the airport (she left J in the hotel room) and was coming home.  The entire way back to the States she kept calling me upset, etc.  J was also going through a divorce at the time because she got busted cheating on her husband with a coworker, who she also gave herpes to.  My wife has known J for 20 years.  J is also in her 40s.  \n\nAfter the Mexico thing happened, my wife told me she was going to cut J out of her life because she didn't need toxic people like that around her.  I thought this was a wise move.  My wife hasn't heard much from J over the past 3 years but has received the occasional reach out, \"I'm sorry\" type of text to which she replied politely to but never more than that.  My wife has said, when she chooses to shut a door, it stays shut.\n\nSo, a couple of days ago, my wife runs into J at a store and J starts crying and saying how sorry she was, etc.  My wife tell me this and I can only say that I don't like J but ultimately it was not really my thing, it was between her and J.\n\nMy wife got very defensive and said I wasn't supportive and that I only know bad stuff about J (which is true) and that we have all done stupid things like J did in Mexico.  I said yeah, maybe when I was like 21 or something, sure I may have gotten drunk and gotten rowdy but even then I don't remember cutting my friends down to make me look better and then fighting with them and I sure as hell don't remember doing anything like that in my 40s.\n\nI said from what I know of J she is unstable, selfish, toxic, mean, etc and I don't think she has a place in my life but if you want to give her a chance, that is up to you, just don't expect me to like her because I don't.\n\nThis turned into a major fight with my wife about how I should be supportive and how I don't really know J.  I told my wife, \"up until a few days ago, you thought the same way I did and only changed once you ran into J\".  \n\nI'm not sure what my wife wants from me.  I don't think many mid 40s women act like J did.  I don't want any drama or crazy around my wife or kids.  I can understand how J has good qualities as well but I just don't have a good vibe about her, even less so now that J is single and doing God knows what.\n\nNow, my wife thinks I'm an asshole and all I was really trying to do was be honest about how I felt.  I haven't changed my mind, I still don't like J and I think she is trouble but I will try and be supportive of my wife for my wife's sake.\n\nAITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "84BfWnB9rWav5VlToKR0mi1MaYjY0RmS", "post_id": "agpplg", "action": {"description": "ghosting her after she wouldn't put out", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 107}, "title": "AITA for ghosting her after she wouldn't put out?", "text": "So, I've known this girl Casey for about 8 months now. We've been sort of flirting for about 2, and there have been rumors that she has feelings for me for about 5-6 months now. Last saturday we went on our first date, and did all the normal date shit, we watched a movie, got some dinner and whatever. I'm always big on being honest, so I asked her bluntly if she wanted to go back to my place and fool around. Basically put all my cards on the table. I thought I had a done deal, since she's apparently had a crush on me for months now, but she said \"no, not tonight\", and things got awkward.\n\nShe said \"she wasn't like that\", and said that we'd see on the second date, and that she liked me and shit, and wanted to let things develop.\n\nThis was halfway thru dinner, and I don't think I responded to her after that. She would ask me stuff, and talk about whatever, but all I kept thinking about was that I struck out. That shit happens to everyone, but I thought it was an easy sell, and I actually picked nice places for once. I sort of zoned out, and when the date ended all I could think about is all the money I wasted that day. \n\nWe said goodbye, she gave me a kiss on the cheek, and I gave her a limp air hug, and sort of went away. I went home, and I haven't spoken to her that much since then. She's texted me from time to time, asking if I'm feeling okay, and if I want to go out again, but tbh I don't feel like replying with anything more than a thumbs up or a \"k\". \n\nAm I the asshole for ghosting her because she wouldn't put out on the first date. I'm not doing this to hurt her, it's just that I honestly lost all interest in her, and don't feel like talking to her anymore, or going out again. I just don't see the point, since i spent a fair bit of change on that first date, and don't want to do it again when there's risk of not getting any that time either.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 107, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 107}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "a22anR9zHEmXlHXtEnEyFH7VYVVMyksY", "post_id": "aer0nt", "action": {"description": "letting my parents buy me a nice first car", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for letting my parents buy me a nice first car?", "text": "Sorry in advance for formatting, I\u2019m on mobile. TL;DR at bottom.\n\nI have a friend who lives down the street. I met him when I was 13 and he was 15. We were extremely close and most of the things I enjoyed were because of him, (Basketball, Volleyball, Card Games, Some Online Games), but thats besides the point. A little before he turned 16 he got his first car (\u201899 Honda Civic $1000) that was perfect except for how it looked. We often went places and I never \u201cmocked\u201d him for having a bad / old looking car because in my eyes it was perfectly fine for a car. \n\nFast forward by about 2yrs he\u2019s 17 and I\u2019m around \n1 1/2 months from my birthday. He worked hard and got his parents to agree to price match a new car for him. He put $1800 in for a \u201807 Mustang ($3100) and his parent matched him with the extra going towards the small bit of needed fixes. I was extremely happy for him and even joined him when he drove to go to repair places to get the standard new car fixes like oil changes. The only real problem with the car was a slightly bent hood, something you couldn\u2019t notice from more than 10ft away. \n\nFast forward a month and now its 2 weeks before my 15th birthday and since I know my family didn\u2019t want to pay much for my car I was expecting something basic similar to my friends first car. Since I have to drive 40 miles to and from school everyday when I get my license we has to get something with low miles and high mpg. While I was sitting in my room doing nothing my mom knocked on my door and told me to come outside. What was waiting there for me? A red \u201802 Camaro! ($3200, small paint problems and a few things needed replacing but no major problems). I was so happy and excited for my permit so I could drive but the first thing I did was text my friend saying I got my new car and to come over.\n\nI heard/saw his car coming up to my house but instead of stopping, he just drove right pass. It confused me a small bit so I asked my dad if he could drive me to his house with my new car to ask his opinion but when we go in front of his house we saw him get out of his car (with his brother and friend, both I know semi-well) and walk right past us into his house. I was kinda bummed knowing that he was mad but normally he gets over things after a little while so I let it be and texted him 1 week later about going to a volleyball open gym that we normally go to. These are the texts.\n\nMe: You going to volley?\nHim: Maybe why?\nMe: Bc I\u2019m going and wanted to know if you\u2019re driving\nHim: Well why don\u2019t you drive? You\u2019ve got a nice new car.\n\nThis was before I got my permit. \nThe rest of the conversation went similarly with him kinda saying things that made it sound like I\u2019m a huge asshole and was getting mad about how my car was a little more expensive and that I didn\u2019t work for it. Eventually I told him that when he got his car I was happy for him so now he should just grow up and be happy for me.\n\nThere was another point when he said that my parent\u2019s buy everything for me which other the my first good pc (Christmas 2015 ~$1000) I have bought anything over $50 by myself. Ex. Oculus Rift, Xbox One, PS4, PS4 1TB, my current computer specs (~$1300), my shoes (totaling ~$260), my 3ds xl ($120) and pretty much anything over $50. The only times I get something is during my birthday/christmas which even then never go above $200. He get things given to him worth the same to more than I do. Ex 2 pairs of nice shoes after getting honor role on a report card.\n\nIf you couldn\u2019t tell by that rant this is what really got\nme annoyed and stop texting him. I haven\u2019t talked to him at all since (4 months) but whenever I think about it I get really annoyed. I understand where he\u2019s coming from, he had to work but I didn\u2019t, but he doesn\u2019t have to treat me like everything is my fault. \n\nThis is the story but the question is, AITA?\n\nTL;DR: My parents payed for my first car that was around the same price as my friend\u2019s 2nd car that he price matched with his parents to get. ($3200 against $3100 split 2-ways). Now he\u2019s mad at me.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "t0Vp7msU9Kb8mC3KPw4fUfr19EsDau6o", "post_id": "aiamp6", "action": {"description": "enacting 'revenge' on my mother by treating her the same way she treated me", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for enacting 'revenge' on my mother by treating her the same way she treated me?", "text": "I'm usually just a lurker in this sub, but this has been weighing on me for days. I know stories involving abuse are touchy here because it usually falls under the 'validation seeking' post category, but I swear I've thought this over. I'm never this divided when it comes to my mother.\n\n​\n\ntl;dr: My mother was abusive so I stopped reacting to anything she did, but recently I've caught myself becoming more and more cruel towards her, to the point that when she said she just wanted to die, I asked her why she hadn't. AITA?\n\n​\n\nA little background: my mother has been abusive as far back as I can remember (so, since I was 7 years old.) It went from degrading my physical appearance to attempting to kill me a few times. I'm not blind - I know what she did was horrible. I'll never forgive her for it. \n\nHowever, I've been acting like a real piece of shit the past couple days, or maybe even weeks. She's been trying to be nice ever since I ran away a month or so ago, I can tell, but apparently that just makes me more angry. She hasn't been too abusive in a few months. \n\n​\n\nHere's the actual story. Two days ago, I was in my room, getting nothing done as usual. My mother comes in, obviously wanting to talk about the meeting she'd had the day before with my maths teacher (about me missing way too many classes and my grades dropping.) She asked - in a sweet voice that made me want to punch her in the face (goes to show how weirdly I've been reacting these days) - why I'd been missing those classes, listing off potential reasons. I'd had a less than ideal day, so I just wanted to be left alone, and I got annoyed really easily. I snapped. \n\nUnfortunately she just cranked up the whiny tone. Started talking about how hard this was for her (which I get, honestly, but in that moment I wasn't hearing it), and eventually she said the magic words \"I want to die from how tired I am because of you.\" \n\nI was too mad at that point to watch my mouth so I just asked her \"why not do it, then\" in a complete deadpan. I wasn't looking at her so I'm not sure what her immediate reaction was, but when she next spoke I'm pretty sure I heard choking up. \n\nI felt nothing in that moment. That's what makes me so conflicted. I didn't even think in that moment, I let myself go and stooped to her level. Said the words she used to say to me. Afterwards, thinking it over, I felt bad - not for her, not really, but for having been that much of a shithead to anybody. \n\n​\n\nI have two entirely different parts of me that are at odds right now. Half of me just wants to dismiss it - I want to tell myself that I'm not the asshole, that I'm justified because of what she did to me before. But the other half is reminding me that no matter what, it doesn't change the fact that I practically told someone to kill themselves. And she's been trying to do better, I'm just actively making it hard for her. That's definitely asshole material. \n\n​\n\nI don't know. I need help in figuring this out. I don't care about the verdict, I just need to know so that I can try to change whatever I may need to change. Thank you :)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "JlJHxNGNCpjbaFSbMSkyEzmdr9s38OT3", "post_id": "b32shl", "action": {"description": "poking fun at my disabled friend", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for poking fun at my disabled friend?", "text": "My friend cannot walk. He has lost control of his legs, and will be in a wheelchair for the rest of his life. I have a stutter. I\u2019ll probably never be able to talk normally for the rest of my life. These disabilities brought us together, and now we\u2019re best friends.\n\nWe constantly joke about our disabilities, and make fun of each other\u2019s (yes, it\u2019s bizarre, but it\u2019s created a friendship).\n\nOne day, he and I were playing video games with some other friends. After he died, he threw his controller down in anger and started to leave the room, to which I commented, \u201cOh, go walk it off.\u201d Me and the other guys laughed, but my friend seemed genuinely hurt. This comment is one I\u2019ve used before, and it\u2019s never made him angry.\n\nHe hasn\u2019t talked or looked at me in a while. Did I do something wrong?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9xSsphiOU8mwVy8FgJJJcOHFRNQv0LLP", "post_id": "avxj9m", "action": {"description": "not wanting my wife to pursue a career that would allow her to make more than me", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 58}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my wife to pursue a career that would allow her to make more than me?", "text": "I know the title sounds really bad, but it's not that clear-cut. \n\nMy wife and I are fairly young (late 20's). I make more than enough for us to live very comfortably on my salary alone. My wife works but makes less than half of what I do. We don't plan on having kids so there's no reason why we need to increase our earning potential. \nWhile I was getting my master's degree, my wife (then-girlfriend) decided to put her graduate school plans on the back burner so that she could work full-time and support us as a couple. She ended up finding a job that she loved and eventually she stopped talking about going to grad school. I thought she would end up staying in this job (or a similar one) until retirement.\n\nHer parents are very wealthy and they recently offered to pay all of her tuition and educational expenses if she goes to graduate school. Honestly, I think they're a little embarrassed that their daughter only has a bachelor's degree since they both have graduate degrees. The program that she was, and apparently still is, interested in would put her on a path to make a higher salary than I currently do.\n\nI thought she wasn't interested in graduate school anymore so I was a little taken aback when she told me how excited she was at the prospect of going back to school. She asked me what my thoughts were and I told her I wasn't sure if it was a good idea. I talked to her about how much she loves her current job and how this other career path is drastically different. She told me that while she loves her current job she'd rather pursue her dream. I backed off but I think she could tell that I was wasn't happy.\n\nThe real reason why I don't want her to pursue this option is because I've grown to like the fact that I'm the breadwinner. It makes me feel good that I support both of us financially. Honestly, I would feel emasculated if I made less than her. I know that's an unpopular opinion but I don't think any guy can honestly say that he feels \"good enough\" for a woman that he makes less than. It would be different if we weren't living comfortably but we have all the money we need. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 58, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 58}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "YHc6OqNgCTEERnSpwGmDa4sTwifCibCo", "post_id": "b8ip1v", "action": {"description": "refusing to re-home my dog", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for refusing to re-home my dog", "text": "My partner and I got a puppy  7 years ago when we purchased a house with a suitable garden.\n\nI love dogs. This was my partners first ever pet and she adored it. Ever social media picture was of her and this puppy (you know the type of girl).\n\n7 years on, things have changed in our life. Children, pressured jobs, financial commitments etc. the dog doesn\u2019t get as much attention as it used to.\n\nIt\u2019s still a well looked after animal. Well fed, well groomed, in and out a suitable garden all day. But dog-walking has reduced in the last 5 months (with my new job) from 1 hour per day, to maybe 30mins every other day, and occasionally we return to poo in the house.\n\nMy partner has lost interest in him the most since having children, which is understandable. But the final straw came when it turns out that one of my child\u2019s skin conditions is possibly linked to an allergy to dogs (pet hair dander I think it said on the test).\n\nMy partner says the dog has to go. I refused. My child\u2019s skin complaint is currently under control and she shows no other symptoms of an allergy.\n\nI\u2019m willing to rehome him for a short period to be 100% certain there will be an improvement on my daughters skin, I also want to pay for another thorough allergy test as I\u2019m highly sceptical about the one provided (it was done two years ago when my child\u2019s skin was severe - and we were told to ignore the allergies and focus on combatting the flare ups. But now the dermatologist is focussing on potential causes).\n\nI wasn\u2019t at the latest consultation where pet allergies were discussed and I feel that this is just an excuse to re-home the dog. \n\nMy partner says that it\u2019s a hard decision but the best thing for the dog and our children. She says I\u2019m being selfish.\n\nI feel we made long term commitments when purchasing a puppy and we need to re-evaluate our lifestyle to ensure the dog gets his usual 1 hour walk per day, and limit his roaming of the house so that he doesn\u2019t frequent the same areas as my allergic child (bedrooms etc.)\n\nAITA?\n\nEdit: Our ensuing argument blew out of control, and we were both most definitely said some \u2018assholish\u2019 things. I\u2019ve since apologised but I\u2019m still being branded as selfish and putting the dog before our children.\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ydalqPDe5PfkFm8PBAtPxXGaqfu3nDmU", "post_id": "ajvulr", "action": {"description": "wanting my boyfriend to speak in a quieter voice", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting my boyfriend to speak in a quieter voice?", "text": "Welcome to the pettiest story you will read all day. \n\nSo my boyfriend (22M) and I (22F) live together and have been dating for almost 3 years. I\u2019m just having a hard time seeing his side in an argument and was hoping I could get some input if I\u2019m actually the asshole here. \n\nSo he ce home from class this afternoon while I was preparing slides for a class I teach in the evening. We say down together to catch up before I had to leave, and he started telling me an animated venting story. Part way through the story, he was getting really loud and animated, so I quietly made a \u201cshh\u201d sound to indicate that he should lower his volume (without disrupting the story). \n\nHe lost his shit. Long story short, he got angry wth me for shushing him. He said that he hates when I do this and that me wanting him to be quieter in the middle of the day (instead of at night) is really me wanting him to change the core of his personality. \n\nFor clarification, I love when he tells stories and gets animated! My issue is the volume. We live in a tiny studio apartment for one, and he\u2019s a generally loud person. I have issues with loud sounds. When he talks loudly it makes it hard for me to engage in the conversation and it stresses me out (I\u2019ve tried to explain this to him). I also had to leave almost immediately to go teach a class, another reason why I was stressed and wasn\u2019t into him talking so loudly. \n\nAt the core of it, I feel like it wasn\u2019t worth him getting so pissed about!! Am I the asshole for wanting him to talk in a quieter voice? If you think I\u2019m the asshole here please candidly explain, I\u2019m so lost as to why this is a big deal. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "omaA3EB9wvyyifd2sePK9UMPzQ7bCNmg", "post_id": "b7u8sy", "action": {"description": "snitching about a friend doing drugs", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for snitching about a friend doing drugs?", "text": "My gf's roommate (let's call him Tom) is currently going through a rough moment. Unemployed, he smokes a lot of weed and does occasionally hard drugs. Tom's becoming pretty mean to my gf too, asks for money and basically decided to move out in like two months without telling her, putting her in the situation to find a new roommate with a pretty short notice. Even tho he is my friend too I'm kinda of fed up with that and yesterday, at a party, after a few drinks I started to hang out with his best friend. He's the classic dad-friend, always concerned about everything. We were chatting, he asked me how Tom was, and I couldn't contain myself. He's such an asshole to my gf, plus what he's doing to himself is crazy stupid and dangerous. I told his bf everything about the DRUGS and he was pretty shocked. He says he will talk to him, maybe even talk about something like rehab.\nThe day after, I feel like it wasn't my battle nor it wasn't my place to snitch on a friend with somebody that I know can only offer a very \"aggressive\" help, yet the idea that somebody will make him face his assholeness makes me crazy happy. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IV6HBeTshHlEpZSXY6eo0EWKUaYXJbXq", "post_id": "a0p34d", "action": {"description": "making a joke and almost getting my friend in trouble", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for making a joke and almost getting my friend in trouble?", "text": "Alright so in class today my friend needed Advil, but the nurses office only has Tylenol. So she asks our friends, and my other friend (let\u2019s call him Rob) starts joking that he can hook her up for 5 dollars. My friend offers 2 dollars and some candy, playing along, and rob is all like \u201cnah you don\u2019t get a whole bottle for that\u201d and they keep going on this whole drug dealing thing over some advil. I walk up to throw something out, then when I\u2019m walking over to my seat I say, \u201crob is definitely selling drugs.\u201d And for some damn reason, right before I say it, everyone stops talking. So everyone heard it. It wasn\u2019t even that loud. Anyways, another one of my friends at our table thinks it\u2019s the funniest thing and said it was a bitchy move (that part I don\u2019t mind) but Rob is extremely pissed off. Then the teacher says not to joke about it because she\u2019s obligated to take it seriously and write rob up about it (she never does because she\u2019s chill) but this gets rob even more pissed off at me.\n\nI\u2019m willing to admit it wasn\u2019t the most tasteful joke. But honestly I don\u2019t think it\u2019s something to get so bent out of shape over. Everyone knew I was joking, because we\u2019re friends. The teacher wasn\u2019t going to write anything up because she likes him. I\u2019m just not sure what the issue is here , but then the friend who originally wanted the advil said it was rude? and I had no idea teachers were supposed to take this kind of thing seriously. \n\nTl;dr rob jokes about selling advil, I joke that he\u2019s \u201cdefinitely selling drugs,\u201d everyone hears dumb joke and it almost gets my friend in trouble, he is totally pissed off at me\n\nThis is so dumb that I refuse to ask anyone irl lol. he keeps giving me angry looks and I\u2019m dying to know if I\u2019m actually the asshole in this one ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "eqKJSJ35lkPbEeNZtfjjlf36jHeX1ezJ", "post_id": "ahlchi", "action": {"description": "telling my friend I think it's wrong they are cheating", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend I think it's wrong they are cheating?", "text": "I have a friend I play video games with. She seemed like a really nice person. I found out she was hanging out a lot with one of the people that was in our group (in game). So I asked if they were dating but she said they were just talking. Then I found out she has a boyfriend and shes being sending this other guy nude photos and stuff and I confronted her about how I felt it was wrong. She claimed that sending pics wasn't cheating. She was trying to justify what she was doing. After a long conversation she got angry and proceeded to delete me off the game and may not talk to me again. I know it wasn't my business but am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "70PYtnVEmmulzdnixWgqLKXCAq85k7wf", "post_id": "aemph7", "action": {"description": "snitching on my so", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA for snitching on my SO?", "text": "My gf (24f) and I (30m) have been together for about seven months. Coming down to the end of 2018 we started having really big arguments and we both agreed to go to therapy, We have both been to therapy before the relationship began. She started seeing a new therapist cause her last one is too far from where she now lives. I am still seeing my old therapist. Therapy has been good for both of us and communication is better, Both therapists recommended couples sessions and we booked an appointment for a third therapist who has seen neither of us before ( for impartiality) We had the first couples session today and it was very productive. For ease let's call her therapist Bea, my therapist Tina, and the couples therapist is Sally.\n\n​\n\nLast night my gf confessed to me that she looked through Bea's files during a previous session. She said she arrived early, but Bea was late and the office was unlocked so she went in to wait. She said she was surprised to find Bea's file cabinet open and unlocked and procedded to go thru Bea's patient files. She then shared the private info on some of the more messed up patients.\n\n​\n\nReddit I was MORTIFIED and made it known to her. She is not at all remorseful and blamed Bea for the poor security. I did not bring it up in the couples session today, but after talking about it with a friend (who was also mortified and really thinks i should say something) I am feeling more and more compelled to act. I also feel very guilty for thinking of betraying hertrust and kind of think i should just leave it be.\n\n​\n\nSo Reddit, WIBTA? Who should I tell? I've never met Bea but she and Sally (couples therapist) work at the same practice. Is it enough to just talk to TIna about it in my next session or should i talk to Bea directly? I'm supposed to have a one on one session with Sally and have thought about mentioning it there as well.\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OXA7yszl17RTjE29ae0eLLRk6IS9YkjF", "post_id": "aihcdp", "action": {"description": "getting jealous my friend is in a relationship even though I'm already dating", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for getting jealous my friend is in a relationship even though I\u2019m already dating.", "text": "So I\u2019ve been dating my current girlfriend for about a year now and everything is going fine, we argue every now and again but that\u2019s it. A few months ago I met this girl (who we\u2019ll call Minty since that\u2019s her nickname and I don\u2019t want to use her real name) and we became good friends, she was very nice. Slowly I found myself becoming more and more interested in her romantically which made me feel extremely guilty since I was already in a relationship and still very attracted to my girlfriend. Minty is very affectionate both physically and verbally with her friends (by physically I mean she\u2019s always keen for a hug and things like that). She\u2019d always compliment people on little things and make sure they know they are important to her. Due to my feelings her little comments drove me crazy and weren\u2019t helping at all and eventually I started matching her spirit and being very verbally affectionate back. She\u2019s currently struggling with bipolar disorder so her feelings are easily played with and to top that off she\u2019s just recently gotten out of a two year abusive relationship (mainly extreme verbal abuse) so I\u2019m a little protective to say the least. \n\nAbout a week ago she got herself a girlfriend, I didn\u2019t know the girl personally but some friends of mine told me she\u2019s nice. I had this horrible feeling in my gut all day, at first I thought I was just being cautiously protective but after talking to my sister I\u2019ve realised I\u2019m very jealous. I feel absolutely terrible since it\u2019s kinda like I\u2019m cheating on my girlfriend in my head but mostly because my brain basically wants to keep this poor girl to myself without ever cutting ties with my gf. Am I a complete asshole for having these feelings?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "GTtGETogXrLxioEXrSc8rxlB2jDeTGAf", "post_id": "a1vtu7", "action": {"description": "not paying back a friend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA - For not paying back a friend", "text": "I'll keep this very short because it's not all that complex.\n\nA couple of years ago a friend didn't pay me back for a food order, I had asked for it a couple of times, but then I didn't see them for a couple of months and I felt it was perhaps too late (the sum wasn't ridiculous). Anyway, recently I owe them a similar amount for food, they haven't brought it up, but I am obviously aware I didn't pay for mine. \nAITA for not paying them back, consciously. Because I know them pretty well and I think they honestly forgot to pay me back initially.\n\nSorry it's not as interesting as most the posts, just curious for everyone's opinion.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "U3CgFlC7RhfzyxkAkNJdTwYZj1qyRcuA", "post_id": "aqb2s3", "action": {"description": "\"training\" my roommate", "pronormative_score": 29, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for \"Training\" my roommate?", "text": "A year ago when I moved in, my roommate, who is also one of my best friends, was an absolute complete disgusting slob. Never cleaned up after himself, whole house smelled like mold and cigarettes, walls FILTHY with grime and nicotine. He looked and dressed in a way that made him look as though he did not live inside. He acted like a fool in public, yelling obscenities even on public transportation. At first, it was a minor inconvenience, but after time it started to wear on me. A month or so in, I started letting him know that I didn't want our friendship to be impacted by our roommate situation, and I could use help maintaining the apartment's cleanliness, which he essentially ignored until I had a breakdown about the communal areas being absolutely filthy to the point I couldn't bring anyone over without cleaning for several hours.  \n\n\nI have since been rewarding his good behavior with dab oil (we're in WA state, totally legal) and hot fresh meals, since I know he hates cooking. When he trashes a room and leaves it that way, I just ignore his mess and keep cleaning my own, while making food simply for myself. Once he's cleaned, I make a nice big communal meal for the both of us, almost always complete with fresh baked desserts. While he's in the shower, I drive to the dispensary for oil and dab out when he's done. I even slip his bus fare back into his change from food stores when he's not paying attention, if he hasn't been cursing and obnoxious on the bus. This has changed him immensely, and I have not once mentioned this sort of conditioning to him. He's never asked me about it either.  \n\n\nAm I an asshole for subtly using psychological tactics and essentially training my roommate to act and BE better? He's noted a vast improvement in his psychiatric health since I moved in, and I am loathe to tell him I've been training him to be a better roommate as it may come off as harsh.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 23, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 29, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "R3fqUTMXBvqqDsuJistIRFLbVPBZLKwr", "post_id": "b3njfu", "action": {"description": "making my Sister cry", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For making my Sister cry", "text": "Due to my dog\u2019s old age, she had many problems health-wise, but nothing life-threatening. However, this morning, she unexpectedally passed away in her sleep at 18. \nBoth me and my sister owned the dog and cared for her, we most certainly loved her and were not happy about her passing.\nMy sister was devestated and was, frankly, extremely upset, however, I didn\u2019t have an outward reaction to her death due to me not outwardly showing emotion and generally being in control of them. My apparent lack of emotional response deeply upset her and she proceeded to shout at me for clearly not caring about our dog nor her and that I never cared, and so on. My sister also complained that I should\u2019ve at least faked emotion to make her feel more comfortable. She then began to cry and blamed me for that part.\n\nI think she was just being irrational due to being upset and it\u2019s a NAH situation, but, I\u2019m not sure. Reddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hoHOrrAHIRpZMUqwsGqGGoJlwsJdeiIc", "post_id": "an00sk", "action": {"description": "not changing my life for my dad's anxiety", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not changing my life for my dad's anxiety?", "text": "So, some backstory first. This will be long, very long, I apologize. TL;DR at bottom. \n\nMy dad has always had terrible anxiety that he never bothered to treat for a variety of reasons. He is terrified of public transit, high winds, pit bulls, crowded spaces, so many things, and it's a very legitimate fear to him. Sometimes he seems to know his fears are irrational, but that doesn't stop them. This has shaped my childhood in many ways, for example I wasn't allowed to get my driver's license until I was 20 but also not allowed to ride my bike anywhere farther then a mile away, take the bus, or ride with any but a few friends of mine he trusted. Growing up with these restrictions and fears turned me into a bit of a nervous shut-in. At 22 I started to get very sick, we later found out I have multiple sclerosis. This ramped his anxiety up to a new level and also ensured I would be living at home with him for much longer. During this time my parents took care of everything I needed, even though I could barely move. Medical care cost them more then I can ever pay back and they don't even want me to pay them back. I am very grateful. \n\nMy boyfriend of the time understood I needed extensive care but was also going crazy living at my parents' home, so he invited me to live with him. My dad didn't allow it but I left anyway. After a few months he understood and accepted it. It helps that my then-boyfriend now husband is a wonderful person and my dad loves him.\n\nA few years later he had his first heart attack. This ramped his anxiety up again but also prompted him to finally accept treatment. Sadly, he stuck with the first medication he was given and it only works a little bit and he left his first counseling session in the middle and refuses to return. Still, his anxiety went down for a while and our relationship started to flourish. I even managed to have a few conversations with him about his overzealous restrictions. \n\nWhen I was 29 four major things happened: I got unexpectedly pregnant (surprise! You're not infertile!), something horrible that is a different story left my fiance and I effectively homeless, my dad had a second and much worse heart attack, followed by open heart surgery, and my MS went into remission. All of these things sent my dad's anxiety spiraling out of control. He can't sleep, he has lost way too much weight, he doesn't eat much, and he is well on his way to a third heart attack from anxiety alone! But he will not have the doctor look at his anxiety medication or return to counseling. \n\nMy husband and I frantically searched for a place we could afford to rent that we could move into right now and would allow our pets and actually found the perfect place... directly across the street from my parents' house. It won't be so bad, right? Plus, it's not like we could find another place like that on such short notice. We knew we were wrong when my parents cornered our new landlord and managed to convince him to give them our keys. Naturally, they made copies of every single one. We very excitedly prepared for our baby, and I started moving around and getting out more, realizing how hard life can be when you are unable to get out at all. We learned that I was capable of caring for a child with a few accommodations in our home but still not able to hold a regular job and I became a stay at home mom. It didn't take long before it was glaringly obvious I could not raise a healthy child shut in the house, so I learned how to use public transit. \n\nNow, I am 33 and married with a healthy, very active, and not remotely anxious four year old son and another son due in March. I am mostly blind and my MS has returned, but it's not as bad as it was. I am very familiar with the public transit system in our city, and it's not a bad one. My dad is retired and spends most of his time watching our house from his kitchen window. He calls me to ask where I am going and ask me not to go there every single time he sees me heading anywhere, even the grocery store he wants to come with. Everywhere non-essential he tells me not go. If he had his way, his grandson would never go to the park or public pool. He regularly goes through my mail and even more regularly lets himself in my house, where he proceeds to fiddle with my thermostat and simultaneously lecture me over a mess that usually doesn't even exist and also lecture me for \"pushing myself too far.\" My son thinks his grandfather is the best thing since ice cream and I don't want to separate him but he is starting to avoid some of his favorite activities, such as digging in the dirt, because his grandfather told him it is too dangerous and this is infuriating me and potentially harming my boy. \n\nFor a while I would compromise by staying home about half the time he asked me or asking him to drive us instead if it bothered him, but this only made my dad more upset and he started to do things such as hide my stroller or \"borrow\" my cane to make sure it was very hard for me to get anywhere. Keep in mind that I may now be a grown and married adult who takes care of myself and my own with an involved and loving husband, but the idea of telling my parents \"no\" terrifies me and I just can't bring myself to do things that will probably burn bridges with them, such as changing our locks or reporting my dad for tinkering with our mail. So now I just take the longer path out of our neighborhood, trying to stay in the blind spot I know my parents' kitchen window has, pretend my phone is broken and sometimes doesn't ring when he calls, and go wherever. I guarantee my son has benefited from seeing more places and getting out to play more often, and I have benefited as well. My dad however, gets nearly apoplectic. I have tried to talk about it, but he asks me to \"compromise\" each time for his sake, but there is never anything for me in his supposed compromise. I know this is making him nervous and paranoid and putting his heart at risk, but frankly he would be nervous and paranoid anyway. \n\nTL;DR: Life makes my dad nervous and he wants me to never do anything ever, he watches me to make sure I never do anything. I recently realized I am an adult and can ignore him so I do stuff anyway. Turns out I like doing stuff.\n\nSo, Am I The Asshole for ignoring my dad's anxiety and not staying home with a rambunctious preschooler, even though it could possibly help him avoid a third heart attack?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nxAadmSjC1fHoxT92O8tGMy02T0dGkh5", "post_id": "b0gbg3", "action": {"description": "going and getting my ex girlfriends gold necklace traded for cash", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "WIBTA if I went and got my ex girlfriends gold necklace traded for cash?", "text": "Basically, she cheated on me for over a month, probably more towards two months before I found out.  She has a tendency to lose everything,  is highly unreliable and used to make me pay for absolutely everything. \n\nHowever. \n\nOut of all of the things of hers that I have cleared the house of,  I found a gold necklace worth (give or take) $250. It was a gift from our mutual friend who managed to tear apart the relationship in the first place.\n\nI don't want to see my ex's face again, but if I do trade it for cash to make up for at least some of the hundreds I wasted on this memory,  I do have a backup story and that's simply \"you probably lost it in your room, at work or on a walk\"\n\n\nI get the feeling IATA here,  but I want the Internets opinion. \n\nWIBTA? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "jyfdCeNxX1nmA7UYuDzj6S90qa3xskUm", "post_id": "b7cct2", "action": {"description": "making copies of professional photos that I don't own the rights to", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for making copies of professional photos that I don\u2019t own the rights to?", "text": "(Obligatory disclosure of mobile status)\n\nWhen I graduated high school a few years ago I had senior pictures done, they\u2019re very nice and my mom paid a lot for them, including some 8x10s for $60 a piece. One of the photographers conditions is that we don\u2019t own the photos, and what we bought is what we get. My parents are getting divorced and my mom started crying thinking about both her and my dad not getting copies of my senior photos. I went to CVS and just... printed some 4x6s of the ones we had already bought for 36 cents each, and put them in cheap frames. My mom was overjoyed, but I\u2019m thinking I might be an asshole for making copies of the photos (I didn\u2019t remove the watermark or anything, it\u2019s still clear who the photographer is). \n\nIs this a ridiculous moral dilemma? Am I actually the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DnKsfV45MXS39Hu5Bk5Rc0EovF3RATdW", "post_id": "ag50b0", "action": {"description": "getting up to throw away my coffee cup while my teacher was teaching", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting up to throw away my coffee cup while my teacher was teaching?", "text": "First off I am in 11th grade, and I come into this class with coffee like 80% of the classes. This particular day I guess he was really mad and got extremely mad at me for getting up and throwing away a cup (which I have done many times before) while he was talking about Chinese vocabulary. He made me stay after class and talk about respect with him. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lqRQjyC1WIBarjVbdCNLi8NLm0Y3FHco", "post_id": "ap4x4p", "action": {"description": "getting food for me and my friend and not my little brother", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for getting food for me and my friend and not my little brother", "text": "So to put this into words me and my friend went to go get food at McDonald's and he had money and I had my own money and my little brother wanted me to buy something for him with my own money. Am I the asshole for not buying him anything?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "LJUkMveQO3iOIl1g9uzo9A09TAeGdnA9", "post_id": "afcjju", "action": {"description": "being extremely asocial, causing people to dislike me", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being extremely asocial, causing people to dislike me?", "text": "So, I have social anxiety, as you may have inferred from the title. It can get pretty bad sometimes. Recently, I joined a partial hospitalization program (PHP) for my depression, suicidal thoughts, self esteem issues, and anxiety.\n\nIt's been a rough start. I constantly feel like everyone hates me and no one wants to see my ugly face, so I don't talk a lot of the time. I think that people won't like me because I'm gross and overweight. When people do approach me, I can't seem to hold the conversation. I'm awful at keeping up a chat because I usually give one-word answers, and that's because I'm either not interested in the topic or am deathly afraid of saying the wrong thing. I have a huge fear of screwing up when saying or doing something around others.\n\nAll of this makes me quiet, reserved, and atrocious at talking, thus making me not appealing to everyone else in the program. I see people giving me weird looks sometimes when I sit in the academics room while everyone else socializes. And by everyone else, I mean literally everyone else. They all know each other well, but I just can't make the effort to try and talk to them because I hate butting into conversations. That's because I'm terrified of people thinking that I'm annoying.\n\nBasically, I'm not social. I don't talk, I don't participate in discussions, and I definitely don't approach people on my own to try and make friends. It's all due to my overwhelming fear of others disliking me. And I know that people think lowly of me because I overheard two girls whispering about how 'weird' I was. That really got to me, and it still gets to me. But, since I'm too scared to try and change my image, I'm stuck being the weird quiet kid. I honestly feel like a coward, and like I'm putting others down and annoying them by not making any efforts to socialize.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FzEn2tTdsCwMtnECY6sirpgMUFbWYVpO", "post_id": "agosf7", "action": {"description": "threatening someone who was harassing me at the poker table", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA For threatening someone who was harassing me at the poker table?", "text": "So I dont usually play live poker that much. I was just in a casino meeting someone for something business related, and was simply trying to have a few drinks and kill some time.\n\nWell as I start winning hands theres a guy sitting next to me who starts insulting me, at first kinda passive agrgressive then just blatant insults like im a mark for calling that hand or that im an idiot who has never played before. I banter back a bit but in general i just want to relax and not play the insult game. If i am bad why isnt he winning?\n\nMy date was also sitting next to me and was seeing him insult me which pissed me off more. Finally when stakes are getting raised the dealer asks everyone to chip in a higher denomination, but i accidentally throw in the wrong chip.\n\nThe guy turns to me, with the correct chip in his hand, and says \"You see this? Thats 50 dollars. Do you know how much 50 dollars is\"? And starts chuckling.\n\nPissed off, I leave the table as my date tells me hes not worth it. He says \"Oh look at this, another one bites the dust.\"\n\nLater on into the night I see him in the casino playing slots. I approach him while hes alone and say, \"If you ever speak to me like that again I'm gonna scoop your eye out of your head with that fucking poker chip\". He is taken aback and then apologizes and says he was just playing. \n\nI tell him \"You better learn how to fucking speak to people or you're going to get hurt.\" It never escalates to violence. He says he is sorry. I probably should have accepted the apology but I was still mad, the guy was disrespecting me all night.\n\nI told my date and she says I should have left it alone but I feel like people need to be respectful even if its a game. AITA.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 8, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "UU8bgKXCM6ZbFMDtTHZeCXg0Zn0Mu3hF", "post_id": "b3jz1p", "action": {"description": "damaging the career of my boyfriend\u00b4s mom", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I damage the career of my boyfriend\u00b4s mom?", "text": "I\u00b4m 14 and a freshman at my school. I\u00b4m currently dating a junior named Alberto and his parents are both teachers at my school. Her mother, who I am going to call X, overprotects him a lot and is really immature. She always treat me as inferior and tells Alberto I am a bad influence for him, when I am actually a good and calmed student. She scolds me in almost every class, when I am not doing anything wrong and once made me leave last so I would be late for lunch. Alberto tells me she was like that too with his brother\u00b4s girlfriend, and treats the situation as funny. I was a little bothered but I could stand it. But today, she was telling the grades of all the class, and told that she wouldn\u00b4t tell it to you if you were behaving badly, although it is her obligation to do so. Well, she didn\u00b4t tell it to me (when I did nothing wrong) and implied that I got a bad grade. I was thinking about telling the headteacher how unfair she was behaving with me, and I know that if I did that, she would be punished and could even lose her job (my school is kinda weird). I really think X is being immature and that her behaviour is unprofessional, but I know that Alberto would be mad at me if I did that and I would ruin a job in which she have been for years. So Reddit, WIBTA if I told the headteacher about her behaviour?\n\n(Sorry for my bad English, it is not my first language)", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xANWDbc0EKJ84eZO8Kj8SkWrN00Kbhhv", "post_id": "9tjxzj", "action": {"description": "getting upset with customer service", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for getting upset with customer service?", "text": "So, here I am at a store, trying to buy something. Unfortunately, since the store seemingly is renovating, things are all over the place. Out of the corner of my eye I spot a customer service table, and decide, \"hey, let's ask where \\***\\ is\". I walk over and see the lady working there. She seems to be on her phone. \"Ahem, excuse me, but do you happen to know where \\***\\ is?\". She doesn't even look up. \n\nI thought she might not have heard me, so I tap the desk. She looks up and asks \"sorry, what?\". I repeat the question, and she hands me what looks to be a brochure and tells me to read it. \n\nNow keep in mind, this brochure was of the mall, not the store itself. The mall contained many different stores and even a dining area, so obviously this map and list wasn't going to help me. So I ask again, \"would you happen to know where \\***\\ is?\".\n\nShe looks up, visibility annoyed, and says, read the brochure. I tell her this is for the mall, she says \"just read it, you'll see what you want\".\n\nAt this point, I'm quite annoyed, and frankly, really not happy with her \"service\". I immediately call her out on it, and asked to see her manager. She immediately told me that I've been rude to her, which is utterly ridiculous. \n\nAt this point I just decide to leave, arguing with her doesn't get me anywhere, her manager doesn't show up, and we've caused a small scene. \n\nMy question is, did I act out of line? Was I just supposed to behave/respond in a better way?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "blUti27bK0KexJkrHAusGxsKW0f4DXtR", "post_id": "a11ta6", "action": {"description": "switching to part time", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for switching to part time?", "text": "This doesn\u2019t really have much to do with my job and more to do with my live in \u201cboyfriend\u201d \n\nSo I just started nursing school a few weeks ago and thought I could handle working a full time job and take night school classes. It\u2019s an accelerated program and I\u2019ve quickly realized that I need more time to study than I have in a day. I decided to take out a loan to cover some of my portion of our mortgage/bills and switch to part time to make the rest. \n\nAfter I got home from class earlier my \u201cboyfriend\u201d flipped out when I told him I\u2019d decided to go down to part time. He says I should have listened to him that he knew I couldn\u2019t handle it. \n\nI got mad at him for being unsupportive and I feel like I\u2019m in the right. He doesn\u2019t have to pay any more toward the bills and I don\u2019t understand why he lost his shit. AITA? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5sCWoEhbDlHDa4CgTwq1cD2p0VZPTwaw", "post_id": "alekh1", "action": {"description": "reminding my coworker who crashed into my car to pay to get it repaired", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For reminding my coworker who crashed into my car to pay to get it repaired.", "text": "Incident happened a week ago when coworker crashed into my car in the car park of my job. I was still upstairs in work at the time. \n\nShe knew she hit my car but did not come back up to let me know that she did. Instead she thought about it for a full day before telling me over text. \n\nI didn't see the damage to the car because it was on the passenger side of the car and it was dark leaving work. \n\nShe said she'd pay for it and not go through insurance because her premium would go up. I took a bit of time from work and went and got an estimate. Received the estimate the next day and sent it to her over WhatsApp. She saw the message and did not reply for 7 hours and she replied saying she didn't expect it to be that much (\u20ac500) and she'll have to think about how she wants to proceed. \n\nForward on to today and each time I try to bring it up she gets pissed and deflects. Now I'm getting pissed off and while the damage is only cosmetic, it's my car that was perfect last week and now looks like I'm a shitty driver. Am I the asshole and should I lay off her and give her more time?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "K9iFXaB1vW8dpZ9WcYOYEI8NZQye9iYp", "post_id": "b2pzhd", "action": {"description": "being hurt that my friend had an abortion", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being hurt that my(F29) friend(F27) had an abortion?", "text": "First of all, I am 100% pro-choice. My best friend and I have been best friends since we were teens. A couple years ago, she found out she was pregnant, with a guy who was an abusive scumbag. She was excited and wanted the baby, but when she told him, he told her to get an abortion. She decided yeah, she should get an abortion. I tried to make sure it was HER decision and not his, since she'd been into it before she talked to him. She said stuff about not wanting to raise a child as a single parent (I'm a single mom, so that stung, but it's not my life) and planned on going through with it. Sadly, she ended up miscarrying. She was upset but, I think, somewhat relieved. Life went on. About a year later, she met another guy who was also Bad News, in and out of drug rehab and halfway houses, definitely not relationship material, but she jumped right in with him and quickly got pregnant. This time, she admitted she wanted to get pregnant, planned it, and wanted to keep the baby. She was even more excited, we were talking baby showers, she wanted me at the birth, we talked names, she was ordering personalized onesies to break the news to her parents. I was still in another state, but I was there for her every way I could be during those weeks. She went to the doctor and sent me an ultrasound photo, and I cried and fell even more in love with this little blob. But then... her Bad News guy had to go back to rehab. He was having a lot of mental health issues, including dissociative identity disorder, bipolar, and others. It became clear that he was not fully able to be in a relationship with her because of his issues with drugs and mental health. Once he went back to rehab and my friend realized she was alone, she decided she wanted to get an abortion. This time, I was shocked. She was excited, she loved the baby, she wanted the baby, she planned for this. She got me involved, excited, and in love with this baby then so suddenly changed her mind. We didn't talk much about it. She told me after she had the procedure, and I checked in to make sure she was okay. It's been about a year and we are still close friends but we don't talk about it. I know it's 100% the woman's choice, no matter what, but sometimes I still think about it and get unbearably sad. I never tell her I'm feeling this way but sometimes I'm just angry and sad and feel this is sense of loss, even though I really had no claim to this fetus. I would never shame her or say anything to her about it, and I am fully pro-choice, but this situation just makes me so sad. Am I the asshole for feeling like this?\n\nTL;DR my best friend got pregnant on purpose, got me involved with planning for the baby with her, sent ultrasound pics, then changed her mind once the baby daddy ghosted, and got an abortion. Am I the asshole for feeling sad and feeling a loss?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 11, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yYNvh4P5r7El2UOr3Rr15FwQWLNPZZUs", "post_id": "ayxzr9", "action": {"description": "yelling at a Guy for taking my parking space", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA For Yelling At A Guy For Taking My Parking Space?", "text": "*For the sake of any commentators reading, I have censored curses*\n\nJust to clarify; technicaly it was my father who this happened to and I was just a bystander, so from now on I will be asking; IMDTA (Is My Dad The Asshole). \n\nKey: Dad, Me, PT (Parking Theif), Cop (Police Officer), FB (Fat Bystander)\n\n\nMe and Dad see a parking spot and we want to take it, we accidently go a little too far. We want to back up, but we can't as someone is behind us. The guy behind us then quickly pulls in front of us and takes the spot. The following debate ensued.\n\n\nDad: Hey, hey buddy! You can't do that!\n\nPt: You were sitting there for 5 minutes.\n\nDad: Dosn't matter, you saw me wanting to go into that space!\n\nPt: Go f*ck yoursel-\n\nDad: Hey! Hey, I've got my son in the car! \n\n(Keep in mind I'm a teenager who has heard my fair share of swearing)\n\nPt: Sorry man but this is my space.\n\nDad: You need to move your fricking car! You saw me want to pull into that space! I had my break lights on!\n\n(Pt gets out of car, keep in mind we are in the middle of a narrow lane people need to get in to park)\n\nDad also gets out of car. Im now alone in the car in a small lane that people need to get through.\n\nHundreds of curses and inault insue. To spare you the trouble I'll skip to the end.\n\nDad: You're a real a*shole\n\nPt: And your a great role model for your son!\n\nDad gets back in car and we go to a close parking spot. He gets out of the car again, this time so do I, thinking we are going into the store.\n\nPt and Dad argue again about who should get the spot, what happened, and who said the F word in front of me. \n\nFb: YOU SAID THE F WORD IN FRONT OF YOUR KID YOU HYPOCRITICAL B*TCH!!!\n\nDad: No, I said frick an-\n\nPt: You called me an a*shole\n\nDad: That was outside the car, away from my son!\n\nFb: That dosn't matter, he could still here it!!\n\nPt and Dad get in a third argument. This time my Dad says he will call the cops for harassment. Guys says he will just move the car, but my dad refuses saying he's only afraid of the cops because he has a warrent. My dad goes on his phone and pretends to call the cops.\n\nPt does call the cops.\n\nPt tells them my dad threatened him and how he was scared my dad would damage his property.\n\nMy dad is refuting all his points saying how he never threatened him (he didn't) and how because  he has a son, he won't damage property.\n\nNow my dad looks like a retired old man, almost like Michael De Santa from GTA 5 and he almost looks threatening.\n\nCop pulls up.\n\nCop: what seems to be the problem here?\n\nMy dad goes on and on about how he should have taken the spot and how he cursed in front of me. Then Pt tells his story and my dad is now denying saying that Pt had a warrent.\n\nCop: are you serious?! You called the cops because of a parking space?! We have things to do!\n\nCops leave and my dad mutters how Pt is a prick.\n\nTL;DR: Guy steels my dads parking spot, they curse at each other, Pt calls cops.\n\nSo I ask, IMDTA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 9, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "h76ges1FFiTXkJsEA1hg5uxM8TjH3fVU", "post_id": "b30wav", "action": {"description": "telling my mom not to pursue a legal matter", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA: If I told my mom not to pursue a legal matter?", "text": "Okay important background information: My grandmother died in 2012. The executor of the will said that there was no money after final expenses. My mother, aunt and uncle hired a lawyer to force him to do accounting to prove that there was no more money. And surprise the executor cannot account for over $300,000 USD.  \n\n​\n\nHere's the rub, my parents asked for their share of the trust before my grandmother died to buy a house. So my mother won't be entitled any of the money anyways. My parents have already paid $3000 to get the accounting of the trust and now she wants to do a civil lawsuit to get the money back. However the best she could get is her lawyer fees taken of. \n\n​\n\nMy mother wants justice to be done but I feel like she just sinking her money into something and she never get it back. The executor has made it clear that he spent all the money and he has no major assets. \n\n​\n\nWould I be an asshole if I told my mom to cut her loses and let the people who have something to gain take it court?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1HBheitSTVgj0iv0IGZxoGVa3ZeRMoPz", "post_id": "axtqjr", "action": {"description": "sending this text", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "WIBTA If I sent this text?", "text": "Background:  \nI (13M) have a really supportive best friend (14F), and my brother is 17M  \n\n\nSo, I am talking to my friend on the phone, and my brother, who has not left his room the entire day and is in a crappy mood, comes to fetch some clothes.  \n\n\nMe: \"Hey (brother), is this the first time you've left your room today?\"\n\nBrother: \"What, do you have your girl on the phone? I guess you're trying to impress her\"\n\n  \nThis pissed me off for 3 reasons: 1. She's. Not. My. Girlfriend. and 2. \"Your girl\" just sounds mildly sexist in this case, and 3. I don't need to impress my incredibly supportive best friend, and again, it sounds mildly sexist.\n\n​\n\nSo to get him off my back, I lie and say \"(brother), I'm watching The Office\"  \nBrother: \"OP don't lie to me\"\n\nMe: \"(brother), I'm talking to (different Male Friend), what do you want from me\"\n\nBrother: \"Sure.\"\n\nATP, I keep looking at him, wanting him to leave so I can continue my conversation, but he's not going to leave, so I turn around, continue the conversation trying to say as little as possible until he finally leaves.\n\n​\n\nI have a reputation for being a huge nerd and my brother knows this, so I sent him this text:\n\nme: I'm legitimately curious as to what makes you think I would ever possibly have a girlfriend\n\nme: I'm the guy nobody likes, remember\n\nbrother: Idk if ur trying to make me feel bad for u, or if ur trying to be funny but I don\u2019t think I could care less\n\nme: I don't need your pity, and I definitely don't need your humor approval\n\nbrother: Aaron stop texting me omg\n\nme (Directly after, didn't have time to read the above message): And if you couldn't care less, don't be a snotty a-hole\n\nbrother: Stop being a fucking drama queen Aaron\n\nbrother: Only text people if you have something important to say\n\n​\n\nWIBTA if I sent the following text:\n\n\"Oh goody, a life lesson. I'm so sorry to interrupt your beauty sleep, I'm sure it's very important. And I don't know if you know this, but \"fucking drama queen\" 's usually like making a scene, ergo calling someone a \"fucking drama queen\" after storming into their room and deciding that the exact best thing to do is croakily stereotype and insult. \"", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "fVW3bLb3bPpIqW52z3w0JjDeJzWUSVNU", "post_id": "b181c8", "action": {"description": "being persistent", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being persistent?", "text": "Looking for a nee place to rent. Family needs more room. Found a bunch of places, but wife and I really like place A.\n\nHustled to meet the landlord for place A and got the credit app. Wife and I filled everything out same day and met the landlord next day to drop it off.\n\nI let the weekend go by, but have been texting/ calling the landlord everyday to see if we are good to go. We dont want to lose place A to another tenant as it's our favorite. We also dont need a place by April 1.\n\nLandlord has been pretty tolerant of my persistent communication, yesterday he suggest I reached out landlord B as he is the one who runs the credit app. Called landlord B and was kinda brushed off and he said he would try to do it. Immediately after the call I texted landlord A to get him to reach out. \n\nI know I'm being annoying, but I want to make sure we get this place. Should I wait a bit or continue to press hard? I feel like I am the asshole, but I also feel like they are the asshole. Are we all assholes?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "palNf9YS9m457Hgf5W5Y6KIh48i0ttNS", "post_id": "asdnqq", "action": {"description": "completely going off on my roommate", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I completely go off on my roommate?", "text": "My roommate who is a 27 year old guy has gotten on my very last nerve in regards to hygiene.\n\nLet's call him Fred. Fred will shave and leave a ton of hairs all around the sink. He will use my bathroom stuff and I'm a woman. He refuses to clean. He's never once cleaned the bathroom, living room, or any other place. He smells like BO and leaves weed and ash and roaches everywhere. Instead of taking the garbage out, he will stack trash and leave us to take care of it. \n\nThe last straw was when he got sick from what I'm pretty sure was norovirus (aka stomach flu). I was in the living room yesterday morning and he was on the couch.  He gets up, stumbles through the hallway and throws up all over the floor. I immediately think \"uhoh\". \n\nI tell him to try and stay away from the living room so we don't get sick. He doesn't listen and hangs out in the living room. He cleans his mess but left his trash outside near the front door in a plastic bag. I told him to leave my dog alone and not pet him. He didn't listen, so now I can't cuddle my dog. He's also not washing his hands. \n\nSo I'm in the bathroom with bleach, gloves and a mask desanitizing everything (which I get, because he wasn't in a condition to clean). I've done EVERYTHING I can to stay away from him. I am not eating in the house, not anything. I threw away my toothbrush just in case particles got on there while he was puking his guts out. \n\nI came back from class today and put on my mask. He irritatingly says I don't need it as if I am overreacting. He says it was \"food poisoning\" and to not worry. If he knew anything, norovirus can be food poisoning and that's incredibly contagious. He's getting irritated with me and tells me I act like his mom because I tell him to clean. If I get sick I am not going to let him live this down.  \n\nAnd I'll probably move out. I know norovirus is really contagious and even the most clean of people get it, but if I get sick from HIM I think I'll be too disgusted with him to look at him. Just imagining him stumbling into the hallway with heavy feet and puking all over the floor like a child makes me sick. If I get sick I know I'm going to really go off on him. \n\nAnd I mean yell. I won't be able to control it and I'm going to blow up. I need to know if this makes me an asshole. I can't take it anymore. I honestly want to just land a big fat punch right on his face because he is always trying to get in fights (he got into a fight with my friends once and broke his nose). \n\nTL;DR my disgusting roommate (probably) got norovirus, isn't sanitizing anything and is heightening the chances of get me sick and I want to go off on him so badly after this last straw. \n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OQDF9omaOyTkCO0BatrNRfiJXQObyKIc", "post_id": "b3lion", "action": {"description": "harassing my ex to pay back my portion of the rent money since I no longer live there", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for harassing my ex to pay back my portion of the rent money since I no longer live there?", "text": "So, gonna try and keep this short and concise. \n\nMy ex and I were together for two years. I truly believed we were deeply in love. It was by no means always harmonious, but we always thought our relationship was worth fighting for. I\u2019m not a greedy bitch when it comes to money. I stayed with my parents and the first time I truly lived on my own was when I moved in with him a month ago.\n\nMy ex is absolutely awful with money. He spends it frivolously on eating out, alcohol, and before I encouraged him to get clean, drugs. But he is also a hard worker. When we got more serious, I started being a bit controlling and speaking up about his spending habits because he was always broke. Before we lived together, I helped him with rent on multiple occasions. I would have done anything for him, and if I had it, he had it. I admit towards the end I started being resentful because I felt like I was almost at time taking care of HIM when I wanted him, the guy, to take care of me...\n\nFast forward, our relationship ended abruptly and it got nasty. So much pent up anger and feelings reLeased. The only month I lived with him (first week of March), I paid my entire check from a new job I started. $900 (not a lot) of our $1200 rent. Unfortunately I was fired the very next day (no regrets, was being sexually harassed at work every day.) He paid the rest, but he didn\u2019t have enough to pay half because he started working a new job after me. I moved out after we broke up and now I\u2019m demanding he pay half of what I paid for the rent, $450, considering I\u2019m in a shitty situation (No savings, but I did manage to get a job I haven\u2019t started). At first, he said he would help, but he of course spent money on partying for ST. P. I asked him yesterday when he was going to pay me, he said he couldn\u2019t give it to me in full because he has court. \n\nWhen I tell y\u2019all I\u2019m fucking livid!! I feel absolutely used. He has a great job now and I feel like he truly won\u2019t pay me back because he has no self-awareness and truly doesn\u2019t care. Part of me wants karma to play out and just leave it, the other part of me wants to hit that bitch up every day until he pays me back.\n\nSo AITA for demanding the rent money back? Or do I just look foolish and should let it go?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "eaPPejvxWWPAoz91h5LTRDhNt8HQ6Q0g", "post_id": "at064i", "action": null, "title": "AITA because of a freaking cat?!", "text": "AITA for keeping the 16 year old cat downstairs because she pees on everything and doesn\u2019t even like people.\n\nMy husband has taken care of a feral cat since she was five. She is sweet, but she is a little off. Overall, she doesn\u2019t like people. She will come out and snuggle with you when It is very quiet and you are typically laying on the couch relaxing. The problem is that when you are not home, she comes out and lays on all of the furniture and pees on it. We have taken her to the vet several times and spent thousands of dollars on her. There isn\u2019t a  medical solution, she is incontinent. \n\nFor the most part, she likes to be alone. My husband feels guilty that she is alone downstairs. But I contend that she has food and a safe space to live in a controlled setting where if she pees on something, that it isn\u2019t a big deal. He is upset that I don\u2019t go and spend more time with her downstairs to interact. I admit that I don\u2019t do what I should,  but my husband doesn\u2019t either, and his reasoning for not going down there is that \u201cthere isn\u2019t anything to do down there\u201d.   I told my husband that she is fine to come upstairs and be allowed to Rome around, if I can replace anything she ruins that she pees on. He then argues that I don\u2019t have a realistic sense of smell. I feel really discounted by this given that I am miserable in areas the cat has been around.\n\nMy husband is seriously the love of my life but this freaking cat seems to come between us. Do I need to just accept the smell of cat pee? Am I being a total jerk keeping her In the basement? I love animals and want to make sure she is taken care of, but I am needing help from you guys in establishing what the line is. My husband discounts my experience in smelling all of the cat piss. I feel this is an out for him replacing things she ruins. \n\nBahh! What do I do?! Am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "quBSHzbi4ZThJjLZg94kkDdhalie9y9v", "post_id": "avtkak", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my ex over gossip", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my ex over gossip?", "text": "So, first time posting here. I 31F am in the midst of this argument with my ex, 32M. We dated for 2 years and his drinking became too much for me to handle so i moved out in May. We stayed friends. A few weeks ago we had sex because I missed hanging out with him and he had mentioned he wasnt drinking so much anymore, gave me some hope that we could try again.  But afterwards he told a girl we work with that we were having sex again. She in turn told at least 5 other people that I know of and suddenly everyone is asking me if we are dating. So, normally this wouldnt be a big deal, it's just gossip. But when we had sex the condom slipped off and I had to go get Plan B to ensure no preggers would happen. I also think he posted something publically about us having sex, in snapchat or something similar, because the day after i went to PP some rando on the internet posted an ad for prostitution services on my page. It's very catholic in my area, lots of prolifers who think women should be punished for having control over their reproductive organs. I assumed the prolifers found out and were trying to shame me for going to PP. After this happened i became deeply concerned that the local PP had shared my personal info, violating a HIPAA, and was going to report them. But when I started hearing people from work talking about me and my ex, my next assumption was that  it was my ex who had told. I confronted him and he admitted he had drunkenly told our mutual coworker. That was 2 days ago. Then yesterday he sends me a text saying it wasnt her, supposedly he was so drunk he doesnt remember. Obviously starting this relationship again before knowing more about his sobriety status is my fuckup. I accept that. But would i be the asshole for breaking things off with him specifically because he talks about our private lives openly? He says I'm the one who has broken his trust but I dont see how. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jm6MUG6nZCiJnj2DtMD4TfiJD5VLtUxA", "post_id": "al2mse", "action": {"description": "wanting my girlfriend to stop telling me how she feels", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting my girlfriend to stop telling me how she feels?", "text": "Hear me out\n\nSo every time me and my girlfriend argue about something she does something that I think is very manipulative and it\u2019s starting to make me not want to ever communicate \n\nFor example, any time we get into an argument she almost immediately and without fail becomes very emotional (crying) and telling me she hates herself and wants to die and that I would be better off without her. \n\nNow I love my girlfriend very much and this is completely unfounded since most of time they are pretty minor arguments, but without fail she just talks about how much she hates herself and wishes she had never said something.\n\nWhen I try and bring this up to her she tells me that I\u2019m not letting her communicate and she\u2019s just trying to tell me how she feels. I try to explain to her that I also feel upset sometimes and mad at myself but I certainly don\u2019t vocalize that because it wouldn\u2019t help anything. So I\u2019ve been asking her to refrain from saying she hates herself and listing off negative aspects.\n\nI genuinely have no clue if I\u2019m in the wrong here because I have high functioning autism and can\u2019t read people super well. But on the other end she has borderline personality disorder and I think it may be possible she\u2019s manipulating me possibly without even knowing it? \n\nHopefully that made since because I\u2019m terrible at writing, but AITA??", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gYtLevPSrjbQ3EfJu2uMinHFh3TEMZ1p", "post_id": "b0pj8h", "action": {"description": "being upset that my girlfriend went to Vegas with a girlfriend and some shady things went down", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being upset that my girlfriend went to Vegas with a girlfriend and some shady things went down?", "text": "My girlfriend went to Vegas this week, a trip that had been long planned for her and a girlfriend. Once there, she informs me a guy she has known for years is there too. He coincidentally sent her flowers for Valentine\u2019s Day this year as well, and lives in Montana or something.\nTHEN she informed me last night that she is going to a chippendales show. All of this was just no big deal to her. I\u2019m pretty upset and hurt mainly because I know I\u2019m not okay with it, she did it anyways, and I know she wouldn\u2019t want me doing the same. I haven\u2019t talked to her since last night. I\u2019m pretty pissed and am considering breaking it off. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "O3JbmY1DnoHpA4VNUfFWQ5U5tZCm3sLE", "post_id": "ay44gm", "action": {"description": "kicking an old man out of my house", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for kicking an old man out of my house?", "text": "Several years ago around 7pm (dusk), an old man arrives at my house. I am shirtless and in the middle of a TV show. He asks for my wife. He is somewhat familiar looking but I don\u2019t know why. My wife comes to the door and immediately knows the old man, who is evidently a family friend who shes known going back to when she was a baby.  We welcome him in despite it being fairly late and unexpected. For a very brief time we are all friendly with each other until he notices a tattoo on my wife\u2019s foot. He said that he didn\u2019t know she had done that and that it\u2019s a shame. \n\nI asked, \u201cwhy is it a shame?\u201d\nHe said, \u201cbecause her foot was fine before, and that tattoos can be offensive to some people.\u201d\nI asked, \u201cokay who is this harmless tattoo offensive to exactly?\u201d \nHe said, \u201cwell for starters it\u2019s offensive to me.\u201d \nI said, \u201cokay it\u2019s been a lovely visit but you\u2019ve come after dark, I\u2019m in the middle of a show (and shirtless), and you\u2019ve said your offended by wife. Time to go, I\u2019m sorry I\u2019m asking you to leave.\u201d\n   I awkwardly walk him out of the house.\n\nThree years pass. He is older and sick. My wife\u2019s family connects with him at the hospital and come back and he mentioned ME of all people because apparently he has not been in communication with them because of the \u201cfalling out\u201d and the episode at my house. I get the feeling that he is making me out to be an A-hole and the reason for him breaking it off with the whole family! AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ghr7RHlFx1kRemBzenfrGgaFRODxtpfs", "post_id": "b4jfj0", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my partner after he has done so much for me", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my partner after he has done so much for me", "text": "We have been together for 4 years and he has barely worked in any paid jobs but he has done a lot of work on my house and investment properties and I have supported him in this.\nWe have argued a lot in the past year regarding the work being done and I have not been happy with some of the decisions made but he has a way of making me feel I\u2019m unreasonable and he knows what\u2019s best in the decision making process. He is also a drinker which has been an issue during most of our relationship but as he is such a \u2018hard worker\u2019 I feel I can\u2019t begrudge him a few to several drinks (every day).\nMy stress levels have gone through the roof after having continued arguments regarding renovations and I think he is the cause but he says I\u2019m ungrateful and everything he is doing is for me and gets nothing in return.\n\nI decided for my mental health it would be better to break up but now he\u2019s making me feel like the AH because he has wasted all this time doing stuff for me with nothing to show for it.\nHe says he loves me very much but now he is hurt and angry and saying hurtful things because he thinks I\u2019ve used him.\n\nAITA for putting my mental health above his feelings.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "p5tkBn2eguOzhoB9iPM2CncUtaJfJPWh", "post_id": "ajek8b", "action": {"description": "telling my friend she needs to help herself, too", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend she needs to help herself, too?", "text": "My friend has two kiddos, and a third on the way. She is texting and/or calling me on an almost daily basis to tell me how awful her boyfriend is. He says terrible things, screams in her face, storms out over the slightest thing, has threatened to just take custody of their unborn kiddo, the list goes on. She has called me, crying, more than once, to tell me she\u2019s afraid to have this baby with him, and that the stress is causing her a lot of issues. She has essentially communicated to me that he sucks, and has sucked since long before she got pregnant (the entirety of their 2 year relationship, for the most part). \n\nI am *really* trying to support her. I always answer her calls, pick her up if I am at all able, watch her kiddos when she needs a break, offer space in my place for her to breathe, etc. I \u201clent\u201d (I don\u2019t expect it back, but she insisted on making it a loan) her $600 to get her car fixed, so she didn\u2019t have to depend on this crappy guy to make sure she can get to work. \n\nI\u2019ve kind of hit my breaking point. I have an infant myself, I\u2019m a grad student, and I work. Every time she tells me about something else her boyfriend has done, I get AMPED, like I just want to storm the castle and get her out of there. This response is physically and emotionally exhausting. This morning, after another round of \u201cHe slept on the couch after screaming at me\u201d, and my repeated suggestion for couples counselling and/or individual therapy, offers for her to come stay here with her kids, and just general sympathy, I told her I couldn\u2019t keep doing this. I let her know I truly appreciate that she trusts me enough to come to me, that I love her, and want to do all I can to help her, but I need her to want the help. \n\nAITA for kind of shutting her down? I feel terrible about it. \n\nTl; dr: my friend has been in (what I believe to be) an emotionally abusive relationship for 2 years, denies my help consistently, and I finally told her I can\u2019t handle just hearing how awful he is anymore. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ApM2bBI54tI8YeLjkzxJhoQuP30Wnqyc", "post_id": "apioxw", "action": {"description": "buying myself flowers to guilt my boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA if I buy myself flowers to guilt my boyfriend?", "text": "So, first let's lay down some backstory. We've dated for 2 years, in the first 6 months I'd say I got 2-3 bouquets or flowery gifts. It's not like I got used to it or anything, I just fuckin love flowers and think it's a relatively cheap way to show your appreciation. I dont want 18 premium Rose's. I simply want anything, and I work at a store with a floral station, so I see every arrangement from $3-150(financially, he shifts from really well off to scraping by like bi weekly, so obviously I'm not expecting flowers on a bad week.. but if you go on a $400 tool spree and cant find it in you to buy flowers for ur gf...). I also see guys buying beautiful flowers for their girlfriends all the time. \n    I've kind of mentioned it before, I've told him what my favorite flowers are, and when the flyer comes out I'll say something along the lines of \"oh look alsros are on sale this week!\"its been almost 2 years and still no flowers. Not for birthdays and not for the last valentines day we spent together. Also, my birthday just passed, and I HATE to sound ungrateful, but he just went to a store nearby that, admittedly we both liked, and the gifts are beautiful, but I can tell by the proximity and how random they are that it was an afterthought and he had NO plan to get me anything. He also bought me a bottle of gin that, not only had he showed distaine for in the past, but I'm super sensitive to alcohol and he knows that I only drink 1 thing, and it definitely isnt gin. With that, there was no card or nothing, just a pile of gifts in a grocery bag. \nSo here's the real question... I was gonna wait till the day after valentines day,, and if still no flowers, I'm going to buy myself a bouquet,  a nice one, that I like. AITA? it's not so much to guilt him as it is to remind him that i like flowers, and valentines day is a time when people buy their gf flowers. I just feel forgotten about,, meanwhile I'm waiting a month in advance for any gift giving holiday cause i cant wait to show him how much i appreciate him. We both come from relatively poor backgrounds, and its ingrained in me cost shouldnt be the drawing feature in a gift, it should show that you truely know and appreciate that person. I'm not doing this because I think I deserve flowers, I just think he forgets that romance is an important aspect of our relationship to me. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hPFFC2JdDYCfE9Uq8zqc0MP9ggnF54On", "post_id": "ba7own", "action": {"description": "starting a fight over pizza", "pronormative_score": 91, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for starting a fight over pizza?", "text": "I\u2019ve been craving pizza from this specific place all day.  It\u2019s a little more expensive than other places around here, but totally worth it.  I asked my girlfriend I was starving and going to order it and asked her if she wanted anything.  She said no she would just have some of whatever pizza I get.  \n\nSo I order it and it gets here.  I grab two pieces and go back to the living room to watch tv.  My girlfriend was in the kitchen for a long while, but I didn\u2019t really think anything of it.  She came back to the living room without any and I asked her why she wasn\u2019t eating.  She said she did, she didn\u2019t want a whole piece, just some of the toppings.  I thought that meant she took the toppings off of one or two pieces.  When I went out to the kitchen for some more she had taken toppings and chunks of cheese off of every fucking piece.  \n\nI asked her what the fuck and she was genuinely confused why I was angry.  She just said that I had already gotten my pieces and what\u2019s the big deal, she didn\u2019t take ALL the cheese off them.  It\u2019s still fine to eat.  I called her selfish and inconsiderate.  She actually got annoying with me when I did telling me I was acting like a child  blowing shit out of proportion.  We ended up in a big argument, bringing up other. \n\nI know it\u2019s just pizza and not the end of the world, but I feel like getting angry over such a display of selfishness isn\u2019t all that out of proportion.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 90, "EVERYBODY": 8, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 91, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1UYFUrbBbCcsPXNoeJgQJyHPAR0qU7tU", "post_id": "b2kmo2", "action": {"description": "calling two Coworkers Shitty people", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For Calling Two Coworkers Shitty People?", "text": "Two nights ago at work, I was sitting the breakroom about 20 minutes before the start of my shift. Two of my coworkers came into the room and started looking at the newspaper. I just ignored them until I heard what they were saying when they started reading the obituaries. They started loudly laughing at people's deaths, calling those people stupid for the ways they died. I was very upset by this. I stood from my seat and told them they were shitty people for laughing about people's deaths. Then, I left the room. A couple hours into my shift, I was taken to the office and reprimanded for this, but I don't think I deserved it. I was truly upset that a couple people could just laugh at others for dying.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4x43gedT70liSN7Eit2Cef22nRjFCrpl", "post_id": "b0ojg6", "action": {"description": "quitting without giving 2 weeks notice", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I quit without giving 2 weeks notice?", "text": "I thought I'd found my dream job (office manager at a floral company), but its been really shitty all around and I'm miserable. I'm micromanaged, underpaid, overworked and exhausted.\n\nThe GM is an insane micromanager. She's stolen things off my desk, sticks her nose into EVERYTHING, and is not polite about anything. She has made us terrified to make mistakes and has pitted us (office team) against each other.\n\nAny time I try to share my frustrations with the owner (who is BFF with the GM)  I'm told I need to \"be more positive\". I know if I continue to work where I do RN I'm gonna have a full on mental breakdown. I'm in the industry I want to be in and have learned a LOT, but I'm feeling more and more depressed being here and I don't deserve to be treated the way I am. I'm a hard worker, I'm punctual and I'm a team player.\n\nSo I contacted my old boss and asked if they'd have me back. It was an emphatic yes. The pay is the same, but I was treated so much better and had a lot more flexibility. If I go back I know I'll feel like a valuable asset to the company. \n\nIm still just trying to help myself be okay with leaving my \"dream job\". And I'm terrified to tell management at my current job that I'm going to be leaving. I'm scared that if I tell them I'm leaving they'll just fire me. (Which is a problem because I'm buying product from them to do a wedding for a client at the end of the month) \n\nAm I an asshole if I don't give them 2 weeks notice? (I live in a right to work state so I'm not required by law to give them any notice) \n\nMy hopefull projected timeline would be to give them 1-2 days notice. I dont want any drama or hubbub around my leaving. There is someone who can cover my position when i leave. My biggest concern around leaving is that they'll try and fire me or it will turn into a nasty confrontation and I wont be able to fill that wedding order. \n\nTLDR: I hate my current job so much and I'm going back to my old one but I'm afraid if I give 2 weeks notice my current job will fire me or treat me worse and won't let me buy the flowers I pre-booked for a client wedding.  AITA if I only give 1-2 days notice for me leaving?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lnA1gDbtH1hnMCkoHoLGVa8hzewo9zbE", "post_id": "azu690", "action": {"description": "sending my children to school rather than to their Grandfather's burial", "pronormative_score": 82, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for sending my children to school rather than to their Grandfather\u2019s burial?", "text": "My kids (6 & 9) grandfather on their father\u2019s side passed away March 1st. Their father and I are divorced and not on the greatest terms but I loved my ex-FIL like my own Father. We were very close and at one point he and my ex-MIL even lived with us. He passed away after a long, hard battle with a relatively rare disorder.\n\nHis funeral home viewings were this past Friday, March 8th. The service and wake held for them was March 9th, Saturday. Because he was a Veteran the whole process was much slower as the veterans cemetery he wanted to be laid to rest has been extremely busy the last few weeks and the earliest he could be buried was today, Monday, March 11th.\n\nMy children missed school on Friday to be at both of the two viewings held. Being so young...they really had a hard time seeing their grandfather in his casket.  The weekend was difficult for them; he\u2019s the first family member that they know very well to have passed away. They did a bit better at the wake but were still pretty emotional. Crying. It broke my heart.\n\nToday he is being laid in his final resting place. A small handful of my ex\u2019s family members will be there. It\u2019s also a Monday and both my son and daughter have tests at school today. I asked them if they wanted to go to the burial; both shook their heads no. My son said that he had \u201calready said goodbye to Pappy\u201d. \n\nI sent them to school. I just received a phone call from my ex-MIL asking what time I would have the kids at the cemetery. I felt absolutely horrible telling her that the kids were in school and would not be attending the burial. She was *very* upset by this even after I explained that the kids themselves felt that they had already said goodbye. \n\nAm I the Asshole for not forcing my children to attend their Pappy\u2019s burial? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 44, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 38, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 82, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qgvPrFxNhhODrXHFwU7vtZCmb9PPsA96", "post_id": "au9f8w", "action": {"description": "wanting my bf to spend 2.50 bucks on coffee", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for wanting my bf (20M) to spend 2.50 bucks on coffee?", "text": "This is for my friend (18F).\n\nContext:\nThe bf was supposed to meet my friend's family for a meal (the parents are trying to see if the boy is good for her) but he overslept and ended up missing the entire thing. He still came anyway and met them when they were on the way out. The parents then \"jokingly\" told him to treat the family to a meal 3 months later to make up for it (they meant it). It didn't have to be anything fancy, it could be dirt cheap, but he has to treat it. All he responded in that moment was that he didn't want to make false promises and that he was afraid that he'll oversleep again. It was a bad response.\n\nThe problem:\nHe was peeved that my friend didn't stand up for him in that moment of time as he felt that it was rude for the parents to do that in the first meeting, and that he didn't want to spend his mother's money for that. My friend explained to him that it wasn't about the meal, the parents just wanted to know him better and that they could share the cost together (her siblings can also help with the burden by not coming). Heck, just coffee for 2.50 in total for the parents as they talk over coffee will do.\n\nHe reply was that, HE DIDN'T WANT TO SPEND HIS MOTHER'S MONEY, EMPHASIS ON THE MOTHER. And by that, he meant his allowance. Yet he doesn't mind spending extra money on fast food daily when there are cheaper and healthier food options.\n\nPersonally I think the guy's a total loser but 1 person ain't much, what do y'all think?\u00af\\_(\u30c4)_/\u00af", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "2d3LJyndJ2S25lKvitRAsJvEysWRasI3", "post_id": "arh7ka", "action": {"description": "telling my gf that her mom gets on my nerves", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for telling my GF that her mom gets on my nerves?", "text": "TL;DR at bottom\n\nI\u2019ve (17M) known my GF (17) for about a year and a half and ever since we first started hanging out her mom\u2019s been pretty controlling about how late she\u2019s out with me, frequently complaining about this. Ever since we started dating about 4 months ago, it\u2019s only gotten worse. We frequently have movie marathons at my house but they almost always get cut short by her mom sending her a text like \u201cBe home by 9\u201d on Friday and Saturday nights, saying things like how my GF needs sleep, among other reasons that don\u2019t really add up. My girlfriend obeys her mom without any argument, and I get her home at the specified time, no questions asked, but this has happened for so many dates in a row that I\u2019ve started believing her mom just doesn\u2019t want her spending time with me. \n\nI didn\u2019t say anything until today after my girlfriend texts me saying she needs to cancel our next movie marathon that we planned days ago because her mom decided today that it\u2019s going to be a family day, which was kinda the straw that broke the camel\u2019s back, per say. I asked her if her mom didn\u2019t like me, I got a kinda flakey answer, which make me go into a bit of a rant about how I felt that her mom didn\u2019t trust me, was making up random things to cut our plans short or interfere with them entirely, and how I felt rather insulted by it. My girlfriend didn\u2019t really say a whole lot other than her mom wouldn\u2019t change so I would have to learn to deal with it and that I can\u2019t take is so personally, at which point I apologized because I realized I was bothering her.\n\nThroughout some more conversation I apologized repeatedly, and my girlfriend said it was fine about 4 times until she finally said that she didn\u2019t like me talking shit about her mother like that, that it really bothered her, and that her ranting about her mom is different because it\u2019s her mom.\n\nWe\u2019ve resolved the fight and it led to some very healthy discussion, but I\u2019m still wondering AITA? On one hand I feel like the asshole for basically making my girlfriend choose between what she saw as shitting on her mom or arguing with me, but I don\u2019t feel like I insulted her mom, only that I felt insulted that her mom doesn\u2019t seem to trust or like me. So tell me reddit, AITA?\n\nTL;DR - GF\u2019s mom consistently interferes with my plans with my GF. Today was the straw that broke the camels back, so I told GF I felt insulted by her mom\u2019s lack of trust in me, GF saw this as shitting on her mom. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Df0fqB50ZtK67ZyiGHWi9afzqEw3MZBj", "post_id": "asmgpk", "action": {"description": "ignoring two acquaintances at a bar", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ignoring two acquaintances at a bar.", "text": "I'm going to try to be as honest as possible about the situation.\n\n​\n\nOn Valentines night my fiance was away at a funeral for his best friend in Scotland (a good way away from where we currently live). I took myself to a local bar for a drink to cheer myself up (the guy who died was going to be his best man next year at our wedding, I couldn't go due to work commitments and was feeling shitty for all these reasons combined). It's a bar a close friend owns, and a wine tasting was happening. I went straight to sit at the bar with a couple of other regulars who know the situation with my fiance  and were sympathetic and didn't demand I talk about it too much.\n\n​\n\nA guy I used to know quite well, but haven't seen for a number of months was apparently at the wine tasting (I didn't notice him and his boyfriend as I came in). On the way to the toilet he said hello, I said hello back and assumed he went to the toilet, he claims he stood behind me waiting for a conversation. I didn't see this, I wasn't really focused on him. I was quite grateful he'd left me to it (or so I assumed) as conversation with him can be quite intense. \n\n​\n\nHe's since sent me messages saying how rude and awful I was to him on this night, and complaining that I didn't congratulate him on him being coupled up on Valentines day. I've held my ground saying I wasn't in a good place, and wasn't in a mood to talk. He's told me how selfish and disrespectful I was being because he wanted to talk to me, and that i had humiliated him by not speaking to him more over the course of the evening. I lost my patience and told him I didn't owe anyone my time and conversation, and that it was telling that he hadn't even bothered to consider if I was ok, ask where my fiance was or find out if something had happened. I asked him why everything had to be made about him and his pride,  \n\n​\n\nI know i could have been more enthusiastic to see them both, but I wasn't in the mood and these two really do make it all about themselves whenever I'm around them. Given the situation I feel like I was justified to not really want to spend Time around them. Anyway - the texts since have called me an arsehole, a bitch etc - how correct is this guy?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "L9MtmchoLyr15KGv78D63YHIH65pEr6Y", "post_id": "9yh8xy", "action": null, "title": "AITA - Left my fianc\u00e9e at home because we were going to be late.", "text": "Hi everyone! Let me start with my fianc\u00e9e is an amazing woman and we get along really well. She\u2019s typically very thoughtful and kind, but this event has us at complete opposites. \n\nA little background. My fianc\u00e9e, for sake of the convo will be called Jill, isn\u2019t very good at budgeting her time. We tend to be late or I get stressed when we cut it close to meeting times. I find it rude or disrespectful to tell people you\u2019ll be somewhere at a certain time and show up late. Anyway, we had a wedding to attend about 30 min from our house that started at 4:30. At around 1:30 our convo went like this:\n\nMe: I\u2019m going to throw in some laundry, do you need anything thrown in?\nJill: I\u2019ll throw my clothes for the wedding in, Will they be dry by then?\nMe: Probably but up to you. Also as a heads up, we have to leave at 3:45 at the absolute latest to make it on time. If you need two hours, start now. \nJill: I\u2019ll be fine. \n\nWe have this convo a lot. Anyway, 3:45 hits, she\u2019s still naked, her clothes are slightly damp, and she\u2019s not ready. I get a little upset because this always happens and I don\u2019t want to walk in as they are walking down the aisle. To my wrongdoing, I did raise my voice in frustration. I waited until 4:00 and said, \u201cI can\u2019t wait any longer. I\u2019ll meet you there.\u201d And I left. \n\nShe\u2019s mad because I am \u201cimpatient\u201d, told her the clothes would be dry, and was mean by yelling at her. I think she\u2019s being defensive because she knows she\u2019s in the wrong. \n\nWhat do you all think? AITA for leaving my fianc\u00e9e?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 58, "OTHER": 277, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 280, "WRONG": 58}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hobJmuSPmrOxBoe2GGqlXzHNsbaWoSgt", "post_id": "akshdc", "action": {"description": "turning down a gift from my dad and getting upset it can't be returned", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for turning down a gift from my dad and getting upset it can\u2019t be returned?", "text": "So this past summer I (M 22) was looking to  buy a new car and upgrade from my first car I\u2019ve had for about 7 years. To not go too far into detail about it, my dad got involved in my new car purchase and coerced me to go against my better judgement and buy this 2006 bmw that he found online for about the same price instead of the one I had picked out and was going to buy (2007 Volvo S60 R) which, might I add, was in perfect condition. When I looked at the bmw it seemed to be in decent condition apart from some obvious problem areas that I knew would need to be addressed (new wheels, appeared to be an oil leak, needed new driver side headlight) which also gave me a bad feeling in my gut. long story short I end up buying the bmw cause my dad went ahead and out some of my money in as a down payment for it (he likes to eat involved with things). \n\nOk so fast forward about 6 months and I have so far sunk about 2000$ into this car on necessary fixes that turned out to be big repairs (I\u2019m still kicking myself in the ass for buying this money pit). One thing in particular that still hadn\u2019t been fixed was the driver side headlight. The problem with it was that water had been able to leak into the headlight over years and years causing the clear plastic to be permanently cloudy and also messed up some electrical components which caused the adaptive headlight not to work (turns the lights left and right when going around corners and is a very intricate assembly so can\u2019t be fixed with a simple bulb replacement). Since I don\u2019t have a lot of money being a recent grad and am only working an entry level job, I can only make the repairs once I save enough money and the whole replacement OEM headlight assembly would cost about 5-600$. \n\nAlso for a side note I\u2019m big on doing things correctly the first time and of course I\u2019ll try to save money when I can but I will opt to spent the extra buck when something really counts and needs to be done right. \n\nSo a couple of weeks ago my dad gifted me a replacement headlight assembly so I could save the 500$ for something else. The other day I took the old one out and tried putting the new one in. First I hooked up all the plugs to make sure it worked but there was one plug that didn\u2019t have a spot to connect to. I looked closer and realized that these were not the same kind of headlight. The main difference being that the replacement did not have the adaptive headlight assembly inside it and was just a regular bulb (the light from the replacement was yellow and much dimmer than the original passenger side light that was white light) On top of that, the holes for the screws didn\u2019t line up right with the frame and required a little persuasion to fit. Also on the original there\u2019s a separate arm piece that clips into one corner of the headlight and then is screwed into the frame. The replacement had the spot where the piece sits in but not the part where it clips into the headlight itself so it sits in the opening loosely. Without this arm attached, the headlight wiggled around. So now I\u2019m thinking that the replacement is just a cheap knockoff. I told my dad about the light and that as much as I really appreciated his gift I can\u2019t use it cause I\u2019m worried about it coming loose or breaking (being as that it wouldn\u2019t be completely mounted and the material felt very fragile) and he acknowledged. So I figured I\u2019d just take it out and put the old one back in the next day as I was running out of daylight and didn\u2019t feel like fiddling with it anymore (kind of a pain in the ass to get it in/out) \n\nThe next day I get up around 10 cause it\u2019s a Saturday and It\u2019s the only day I get to sleep in. When I go downstairs my dad tells me that he was able to get the headlight mounted correctly and that he fixed it. When I go out I see that the arm is attached to the frame on the spot on the light where\u2019s it\u2019s supposed to be. I look closer and I see a big crack in the side of the opening where the arm sits and super glue all around it (looked like he forced it in and it snapped). Then I see a big smear of superglue that dripped off the arm area onto the front of the headlight onto the clear plastic that had been partially wiped but looked like it was wiped off a bit too late and managed to dry. So now not only can I not return the replacement headlight because it\u2019s damaged but I\u2019m pretty much stuck with it. I told him that I appreciate him trying to help but as much as I tried to not get mad I got pretty upset at him doing things to my car without my knowledge. \n\nAITA for trying to give my dad back the gift and getting upset with him about him \u201cfixing\u201d the replacement and rendering it nonreturnable?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rrd6DQvxGgpbmY5AN4PV6wkHFWUBmBwx", "post_id": "b8pn83", "action": {"description": "hurting my girlfriend's feelings", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 57}, "title": "AITA for hurting my girlfriend\u2019s feelings?", "text": "So my girlfriend and I were talking about something psychology related, and she told me about an experiment she learned about in one of her psych classes (she\u2019s a psych major). The conclusion of the experiment seemed pretty obvious to me, so I told her that it was obvious. Not in a snarky way or anything, I just said something like \u201cthat\u2019s obviously the case, what other outcome would it have been\u201d\n\nWe continued the discussion, but a couple minutes later, she told me that she didn\u2019t like that I\u2019d used the word \u201cobviously\u201d because it was offensive and made her feel dumb. She said she thought it was really cool when she learned about it and didn\u2019t know it was obvious. \n\nThe conclusion we were talking about is a well-known concept. It really is obvious, and I told her that as a psych major, I assumed it would have been obvious to her too. \n\nShe said again that she didn\u2019t know it was that obvious, and it hadn\u2019t been obvious to her when she first learned about it, so me saying it was obvious made her feel stupid and hurt her feelings. I know that using the word \u201cobviously\u201d can be offensive, but I don\u2019t think it was this time. It was pretty safe to assume it was obvious to her too. \n\nShe kept trying to explain to me why using the word \u201cobviously\u201d was offensive and that many people would be offended too. I just said \u201cI don\u2019t care.\u201d She accused me of not caring about her feelings, which I do, and I am sorry I hurt her feelings, but I just don\u2019t think her feelings should have been hurt to begin with.\n\nShe\u2019s waiting for me to apologize, but I don\u2019t think I should have to. I just don\u2019t think this had to be a big thing. I wouldn\u2019t be offended if she said something similar to me. She said that she only started getting worked up when I \u201ctried to invalidate her feelings,\u201d which I guess is true, but she should have just gotten over it anyway. \n\nI told her I need her to not get offended about such little things. \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 56, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 57}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "7Tu6YQnscxb3iZZsJUUa3m2kj5eiD9Tk", "post_id": "a4vr7k", "action": {"description": "refusing to go to church with my mother and then overreacting when she punished me", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for refusing to go to church with my mother and then overreacting when she punished me?", "text": "For context, I'm 17 years old and still live with my mom and dad. Around a week ago by mom asked me what my shift schedule was for the week, I replied that I didn't know yet (because I had not checked, not because it wasn't out). She told me she wanted all of us (my entire family) to attend church with her that Sunday because it was a Christmas event, and they were providing dinner after. I never clearly told her no, I didn't see harm in going once because I stopped going to church with her regularly a couple months ago, it was fine as long as I wasn't working.\n\nSkip ahead a few days, and I did turn out to be working Sunday, but I was scheduled an hour after lunch. At this point, I decided I wasn't going because getting from the church to work would be too rushed, and I didn't want to be late for my shift. I told my mom what time I was working, but never told her no when she said \"you'll still be able to go\" because I knew that would ultimately end in an argument. \n\nWhen Sunday rolled around, my dad woke me up and I said I wasn't going because I'm working. He said okay and walked away. About a half hour later my mom knocked on my door telling me to get up because I'm going to church. I said no I'm working, it's going to be too rushed getting from the church and eating (there are assigned tables + line ups), and she yelled about it being \"family time\" and there was no reason for me to not go, and then said if I didn't go she would take the internet for two days. I said whatever and went back to bed.\n\nLater when I woke up and got ready for work, a couple minutes before I had to leave I was looking for the keys to drive and couldn't find them anywhere. I started to panic, and texted my sister because my mom and dad were not answering their phones. She said \"sounds like mom took the keys.\" And she did, and I had no way to get to work. I had to reluctantly call my manager explaining that I couldn't come into work because my mom took the keys, which he replied \"thanks for telling me\" and then said it's law (here) to call in at least two and a half hours before if you can't come in. I said I didn't know what to do, and then hung up. \n\nSo I ended up staying home, absolutely pissed off and upset that my mom took away my ability to go to work (I had already called in twice that week because I was sick). I decided to play games because if I'm not working why not, and when my mom came home she immediately took the internet. This wouldn't have bothered me so much if a) she hadn't already taken the car keys, and b) it takes away my ability to talk to my LDR boyfriend, as we can only talk via social media app (I don't have data), which she knows.\n\nI went up to her and said we needed to talk, in which turned into a screaming match between my parents and I. They said there was no reason I couldn't of went, and they only asked me for two hours of my time, in which I told them (also yelling) what I had said earlier about being rushed, and how it was unacceptable how my mom reacted. My mom told me to shut up and go to my room. I did, to calm down, and then about an hour later went back and apologized to her that I didn't go, and asked if we could talk again but like civil people. I then explained how I felt and why what she did upset me so much. When I finished she said \"I already told you everything I needed to\" and then got up and left. \n\nAITA for not going to church with her when it meant so much to her, and then getting so upset when she punished me? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VMMSV4BwPltHfh6pCnYbx0ea2eIIKBzy", "post_id": "b2yyll", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my boyfriend for just suggesting we cancel our vacation", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my boyfriend for just suggesting we cancel our vacation?", "text": "So my boyfriend and I are both college students but at different colleges. We had planned a short road trip over spring break. I was really excited for this and was sending him pictures of the thing we were going to go do/see. We were also going to pick something up in a city. (this is relevant later, I hope.) \nLast night he messaged me asking if it would be okay if we dont do the trip and he does a very similar trip with a friend of ours. His reasoning is that our friend does not have a ride to get home from his college (different from the one that I or my boyfriend goes to) and if they do the trip together my boyfriend would be able to give him a ride home and pick up the thing he needed all in one fell swoop. The three of us cannot go together because we have a two person car.\nI am pissed off that he even thought it would be okay to ask. I have expressed to him many times before that I have when people are flaky or when plans change in general. So like IN WHAT WORLD would I be okay if he takes a vacation that I suggested without me and with our friend. His argument is that he was just asking and he is fine if we stick to the original plan. I feel like the fact that he even considered ditching me is a dick move. However, he seems to not really get that me made me feel like I'm less of a priority to him than his friend. It might be relevant that the friend apparently has no other way home for spring break than catching a ride with my boyfriend, though I think he could take the train or get a rideshare. Is he the asshole for asking or am I the asshole/overreacting to his suggestion?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sJMOy5eGNpyQ2yJAYnWMkxxXo9jbGdQ9", "post_id": "awphf2", "action": {"description": "not letting roommate out of lease a month early", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not letting roommate out of lease a month early?", "text": "My SO and I live with a roommate (RM) who I've been friends with for 10+ years. For the most part we all get along well and respect each others privacy and space.\n\nAugust of last year we informed RM we are planning on buying a house no later than end of this lease (August 2019).I've been keeping RM in the loop with our home buying process on any potential homes. I asked if 60 days (notice we have to give apartment leasing company and term of rent that needs to be paid) was enough time for her to get a new place? She said yes- I also offered to put in the 60 day notice later, effectively buying her more time to search for a place as well.\n\nOn Tuesday, I told my RM I think we are about to go under contract on a potential home and that SO and I would pay for any termination fees and of course our portion of rent/utilities during the 60 days. Asked RM if she needed more than 60 days to find a place, she said no, she was planning on moving into a 1bd/1bth in the same apt. \n\nOn Thursday the home deal fell through and we are back on the market so I informed our RM that we were back on the search. She said that she was planning on going to the leasing office tomorrow to sign a contract for mid April for her own place. She asked to be let out of the lease and obligations here as she wants to just get the move over with. I discussed with SO and we agreed that we could cover her portion of rent starting May. I inform roommate we would cover her portion of rent beginning May, but that she would still be responsible for her portion of March & April rent/utilities, to which she agreed.\n\nYesterday RM goes to the leasing office to sign her lease. I get back home from work and calculate out how much her April rent/utilities are and inform her for the power bill I would let her know once I got the bill. She responded back 'ok'. 15 min later, I get a text from RM who said she doesn't think its fair that she should have to pay rent for a month that she wont be here. She gets home & she informed me that she signed a lease for mid March for her own place, because the leasing office offered her a \"better deal\". I asked her wasn't she planning on moving mid April, why did she sign for mid March? Her response was because of the better deal and she wanted to just get it over with. I told her I would need to discuss with SO and see if we could let cover her portion of rent for April. I point out to her that even if SO and I closed on the house, everyone would have had to pay the apt for the 60 days of rent (March & April) for the apartment.\n\nAfter much discussion, SO & I agree that it's unfair for us to become burdened with her portion of rent for April just because she wanted to move out earlier and signed a contract without informing us. I also point out that she had no intent of signing for March, it was April. I let RM know our decision and the conversation did not go over well.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0P2RQXw0HuuGCoMdytcH4njGGvTUOxic", "post_id": "asyyob", "action": {"description": "wanting to move out from my house", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to move out from my house?", "text": "I am a child of immigrants. I recently moved back home from college 7 months ago and I can't wait to be out. I've been on my own for 4 years; therefore, being back in their control is suffocating me. I just want to do my own thing and honestly, I don't have a good reason to why I want to move out, besides just because I want to. My sister recently rented a house 5 mins away from my parents and she has an extra room for me, so I figured that it would be good to move in with her. I get my freedom and my parents won't have to worry about me living by myself. I told them about it, and they were not happy. Here are their reasons: \n\n1. They've sacrificed their lives, everything for me to have my future here in the US. Now, that I've made something for myself (a job), the first thing I want is to abandon them. (The house is literally down the street)\n2. I've only gotten a part time job, I'm not stable enough to be on my own. (I can afford to move out though) \n3. My parents are only getting older, if I don't stay with them now, I won't have much time left once I have my own family \n4. Instead of paying rents for a stranger (the owner of my sister's house), I could've used that money to help them with their current house. \n5. Since they can't speak or read or write in English, I'm the one that's been helping them with all of their documents, letters, mails. They believe that if I move out, I won't be there to help them anymore. \n\nSo, the people of reddit, please tell me am I the asshole for wanting to move out? I understand that they gave me the opportunity to have a higher education, but do I owe them for the rest of my life? Should I just live with them until I get married (they believe that it's the legitimate way to move out) and then move out? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wx7TU9QzXujgkQkyaHUV807AVGrL9scf", "post_id": "b3y03m", "action": {"description": "being upset that my MIL's boyfriend/new husband took pictures at my wedding", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset that my MIL\u2019s boyfriend/new husband took pictures at my wedding?", "text": "So my MIL got a new boyfriend who she married soon after and this guy sort of sucks. He made an antisemitic joke on the day I met him and when H told his mom that those things can\u2019t happen again the guy  ignored me from that point on and he never apologized. He also has this hobby of taking pictures of people and sending the pictures out with ridiculous photoshopped effects and fake backgrounds. \n\nSo fast forward to my wedding, H and I told them beforehand that we would prefer them not taking pics. So what happens on my wedding day? The guy competes with the photographer, shadows what she is doing, and remarks that they should compare pics to see who was better.  He then sends out the pics he took to everyone before the professional photo did and he photoshops the backgrounds and it looked like we got married at glamour shots in the mall. My dad gets pissed because he isn\u2019t in the pics and said I look like an orphan. I tell them to please stop sending those pics because I would prefer the ones that I paid a professional to do. MIL gets offended.\n\nLater on MIL tells H and me that her now husband thinks we don\u2019t like him. We are honest and say we\u2019ll he made a Jew joke and then he takes pics when we said not to. She said everyone else was taking pics, which was true, but they were not intrusive, didn\u2019t follow around the photog and didn\u2019t send out pics like they were the real photographer.  \n\nMIL ended up crying.  AITA? Should I just inspect people to go around taking their own pics during a wedding? Is that just something that people do now a days?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GMWfITRBMRTxiBTKtLzqrJE9CFe3BFxr", "post_id": "an77yj", "action": {"description": "threatening someone if I didn't mean it", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For threatening someone if I didn't mean it?", "text": "So just for some background, I live in a house on a college campus with 6 people, 2 of whom are females. Late at night over the weekend i woke up to yelling downstairs and a text on my phone saying \"we need help downstairs\". So I woke up a little drunk from a couple hours ago and went down. In the living room there was an open door and a guy I had never seen yelling at my female roomate. Three of my other roomate were around yelling at him to leave.\n\nSo I didnt really know what to do but my beer corage told me to run up to him with a shove and go forehead to forehead and scream some things that have gotten me in trouble. Essentially I yelled something along the lines of \"Leave or take a shot because the second you do you will wake up at the [local] hospital. Look around, you know nobody can pull me off.\"\n\nNow people are just upset that I could lash out like that, and maybe I like the girl and was being irresponsible, or that some of the slurs I used were inappropriate. But for all I know the dude was abusing here, or followed her from a bar, or worse. I just wanted him out the door. All the yelling was just to get him out, I had no intention to hurt anyone.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tUHTdTsL9aUCYs0DpSc7F6zZC1Vu0oZJ", "post_id": "arqabo", "action": {"description": "telling someone to leave the handicapped parking", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for telling someone to leave the handicapped parking?", "text": "Some context: I am not handicapped. However, the location (a gas station) is somewhere I go daily (and, that I used to work at a couple years ago), so I know that, despite it being a college town, there are quite a few regulars who are... quite old, and might need the spot. Also all conversations are as best as I can remember it. There was more interactions than just this, but for the most part it was repeating the same beats. Capitalized words are raised voices.  \n\n\nI am pulling into the gas station behind another car. The car ahead of me was turning, as the only spot left open by the doors was the handicapped parking space (he would go on to park at a pump, as did I. There were still 3 open when I walked inside). However, he was forced to slam on his brakes as a car zipped in front of him and into the handicapped parking space. It wasn't an illegal move, nor was she speeding through the parking lot... but it was definitely rude.  \n\n\nWhatever. Not a big deal.  \n\n\nI park at a pump and head inside. While I go in, I notice that the rude car didn't have a handicapped plate. I double checked that she had indeed pulled into the handicapped parking space before peeking into the car to see if there was a hanging handicapped sign on the rear-view mirror (my late grandma would use one when she went places with my mom) and also notice that the girl in the car seems to be a peppy young thing couldn't be older than 30, but was probably in her 20s (I'm a 28 yo man, and she looked young to me). I shake my head at this point, disappointed that someone was taking a spot at a semi-busy gas station for a handicapped person, when it seemed there was nothing wrong with her.   \n\n\nI figure it's none of my business and head inside. As I reach for the door, I see \"Deb\" the manager, heading out. I hold the door open for her. We exchanged pleasantries and she went on her way, stating that she was out for the night.  \n\n\nSo, once inside, while I was checking my pockets (I forget my card a lot, so I was making sure I actually had it before I got my purchases). At that point, I felt a pair of spindly arms wrap around me from behind, with painted fingers laced around my chest. The hugger (lets call her Kate, for simplicity) is holding their head against my back. I tense up and state loud enough for the entire store to hear:  \n\n\nME: \"I don't know who you are. Get the fuck off of me.\"  \n\n\nShe complies, stating something about how I should smile more. Because I look like I'm always pissed. (more context: I'm generally seen as a pretty happy guy. I talk jovially with the employees and customers alike. I also have a penchant for having full on conversations with people that I meet at this station). I respond:  \n\n\nME: \"Yeah, normally I get pretty pissed when morons steal handicapped parking spaces.\"  \nKATE: \"Are you a cop?\"  \nME: \"No. I'm just not an asshole.\"  \nKATE: \"So, do you see anyone who needs it, huh?\"  \nME: \"Nope. But that doesn't mean there wont-\"  \nKATE: \"Then whats the problem? There was nowhere else to park!\"  \nME: \"I can see THREE PARKINGS PLACES out ther-!\"  \nKATE: \"THERE'S NOWHERE TO PARK!\" \n\nME: \"THERE ARE PARKING SPACES, if you aren't a BITCH!\"  \n\n\nAt this point, the cashier (let's call her Meg) informs me that if I keep this up, I would be asked to leave. At this point, Kate has a shit-eating grin on her face.  \n\n\nObviously, I decide it's not worth being kicked out of a place where I'm known by a first name basis... so I shut my mouth. I get my items, but in the meantime, I hear Kate talking to Meg. She's clearly talking loud enough so I can hear it from where I'm at.  \n\n\nKATE: \"What do you think about all this?\"  \nMEG: \\*incomprehensible from where I was\\*  \nKATE: \"That guy's such a fucking ASSHOLE.\"  \n\n\nShe brushes past me, with a smug look on her face, after she pays (there was one person in line between us, at this time).  \n\n\nI figure this is all over. Fine. Whatever.  \n\n\nBut then, as I'm paying, I hear something from the doorway, turning to see that Kate was standing in the open door, letting in all the cold air as she berated me:  \n\n\nKATE: \"You fucking asshole!\"  \nKATE: \"I bet you got a tiny dick!\"  \nKATE: \"You fucking dickless asshole!\"  \n\n\nEtc...  \n\n\nI pay for my 52 oz soda and start towards the door. I start to walk towards my car, when I have an idea:  \n\n\nI can either go around the passenger side of her car, or the driver's side. I decide... Driver's side.  \n\n\nME: \"Excuse me, I need to get to my car.\"  \nKATE: \"What?\"  \nME: \"I'm want to get to my car. And there's no other path to get there.\"  \nKATE: \"What's your problem, asshole?\"  \nME: \"Nothing, just that I have to talk to a stupid cunt.\"  \nKATE: \"Oh, yeah, I'm a  cunt. A great big cunt.\"  \nKATE: \"I have a great big vagina that just spills out of my pants  \n*(at this point, Kate is making hand gestures, showing how big her vagina is, and how it flows from her jeans)*  \nME: \"It shows. It REALLY does!\"  \n\n\nI continue to brush past her to get to my car and she leans into me, spilling my soda over both of us, leaving about only half of the soda in the cup, with a crack down one side. At this point, Kate is stunned. She has no words. I continue walking to my car when I hear the guttural yelp of someone desperately throwing something. When the smell of carmel, cream and gas station coffee hits me, I realize that the entire back of my coat is covered in her disgusting half-coffee.  \n\n\nI turn on my heel, half of a soda still in my hands. I consider myself an expert on aiming drinks, mainly due to the fact that I end up with a lot of half-finished drinks, which I tend to toss in an arc, as opposed to making a big puddle. So, I took aim and returned fire, covering the front of her shirt in even more soda than had been spilled before.  \n\n\nSoaking wet (and wanting to prove to her that I'm a better person than her) I threw my empty cup away, got in my car, and tried to leave. She was already on my bumper, fumbling with her phone, trying to record me. I yell for her to get out of my way, as I'm trying to leave. I rev my engine, which makes her back off a little, then use the gap to zip past her and around the other side of the pumps and out the exit of the gas station.  \n\n\nI later learned that she had called the cops on me. That the cops had watched video of the altercation, but nothing else. It's been a week and I have yet to hear from the cops (my plate would have DEFINITELY been on camera, assuming they hadn't moved them since I worked there.), and I was informed by Deb, the manager from before, that none of the cops were told my name. And when I relayed the full story, Deb was trying hard to hold back a laugh.  \n\n\nI later learned that I had distressed Meg with the confrontation in the store, as she wasn't sure how to handle the situation. She was alone at the store, at the time, and both of us (apparently) were regulars. It had apparently caused her to break down a bit, as I was informed that after the incident, Meg was in tears.  \n\n\nSo, I ask: Am I the Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "zyjZkLqk2d9CHOb8lhOvTDb6QTCBjBB1", "post_id": "as40ra", "action": null, "title": "WIBTA with the use of my vehicle?", "text": "My friend and two of my friend's friends are going camping.  They usually rent an RV but can't afford one this year so they're driving and bringing tents.  They have invited me.\n\nI'm totally down to go, but I really want to rent an RV (which I can afford, but it would be a splurge) because there's no way I'll be able to comfortably sleep in a tent and I hate sharing public showers. I have a bad back and difficulty adjusting to unfamiliar sounds at night so a white noise machine in an RV is a must. I also can't fall asleep in the same room as anyone I'm not close to, and I'm not close to this group but they are truly lovely people.\n\nAITA if I don't offer to share the RV with them, even if it's big enough to?  They are lovely people but they are slobs about their living environment and I don't want them making the RV gross (tracking mud/sand/whatever in etc) or costing me a deposit.  Should I just skip this trip?  I'm imagining possibly being hit up for refrigerator space, showers, and sleeping spots (especially if it's a bigger/nicer RV and/or if the weather goes south) and I'm just super uncomfortable with the idea.  ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LuvbJtUexcRuAqeTnvpHOtNBhXf7GXY5", "post_id": "aytm0x", "action": {"description": "wanting to divorce my husband for being controlling and other sketchy things", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to divorce my husband for being controlling and other sketchy things?", "text": "I'm on mobile, I'll try to make it easy to read.\n\nA bit of background. Since my kid was born 3 years and a few months ago I have felt nothing but dread every time my husband tries to make a move on me. I went 2 of those years without being diagnosed with PPD, making taking care of my child a nightmare, let alone the little time I had for myself well...also a nightmare. i started getting treatment after a huge meltdown in November 2016. This resulted in me being diagnosed bipolar 2 and most recently borderline personality disorder. \n\nI'm extremely difficult to deal with and I will be forever grateful to my husband for being there for me. However, back when we were dating there was a period when we were living in different countries and signs of an unhealthy relationship started showing. I tried to break it off because I didn't believe in LDR, he would say he couldn't live without me, so he would guilt me into staying with him. I'm talking 2011. Sorry, I digress, but I feel it's meaningful. (We got married in 2012 btw).\n\n\nBack to the present. We had my parents over for a few months (this is not uncommon where I'm from) and them helping with the kid (great since I'm not that motherly even though I love the kid) made me feel great and gave me an awesome excuse not to have sex with my husband (not to mention our baby still sleeps with us), but when they left he started expecting us to get intimate again. I don't want him anymore. I love him as the father of my kid but I just...it doesn't work. He's controlling, expects to control my bank account. If I have any friends he expects me to see them home so he can see them (even if he does disappear a couple of days a week for hours and I don't inquire). If I'm on my phone he expects me to tell him who I'm talking to. I recently removed his fingerprint from my phone and he got all suspicious.\n\n\nI feel awful. I'm not working at the moment so he has all this power over me, which he enjoys. I don't know what to do. AITA for wanting to file for divorce ASAP and taking my kid to another country? There are other causes for my wanting to divorce him I can't mention here, per subreddit rules. Real shitty ones.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xlfkLBgkj1OfCCiB6jGwgalFXxoiVOsj", "post_id": "a7ryw6", "action": {"description": "not letting my friends sleep at my place", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for not letting my friends sleep at my place", "text": "Ok so I know the title makes me sound like the asshole but hear me out.\n\nSorry for any formating (I'm on mobile)\n\nOk so my best friend (let's call him Bob) he is kind of a fuckboy, but that's not the problem, the problem is that he has made it his goal to have sex with this girl (let's call her Susan) for a new years party, that us and a lot of other friends are going to be attending. The thing is they are both sleeping at my place, because they both live far away from where the party is, and I have specifically told Bob that nothing is going to happen at my place, but he won't take me seriously and he just says \"what happens happens\". I told him over and over again that it wouldn't be happening (were both 17 and my parents would be home). But he just won't accept no for an answer.\n\nWIBTAH if I said that they wouldn't be allowed to sleep at my place if anything was going to happen, between them.\n\nIt also needs to be said that he normally doesn't understand when he has stepped over the line (especially if it's over the phone, he has done that a couple of times)", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FNruCOHGyDDoPGe4iIAR7BPXVCdbj0YK", "post_id": "ab8f2j", "action": {"description": "wanting a friend to stop talking about how much she works?and how shes better than me", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For wanting a friend to stop talking about how much she works?and how shes better than me?", "text": "     I have a friend that's been kind of a shitty friend at times but I still love her. She's 20 f and is in college and has two jobs. Up until this point I've been trying to be supportive because I know she works a lot and I don't wanna upset her.\n\n    Recently though, I was told I might become a manager at the shitty fast food place I work at. She was livid and told me she was promised that due to previous manager experience. I really don't see the big deal in me becoming a manager before her since I have been here almost a year longer than her and I only work this job (currently trying g to get back into college, dropped out to go to hair school and hated it lol). I think she would be a good manager and she is a hard worker, but I believe I am too. \n\n    Since all that happened she has been making snide remarks to me about how much she works, or that she's happy to help people instead of telling them what to do, like I do (trying to improve on leadership skills) .I really considered not taking the position even though it would really help me financially because she made me believe it was wrong to go before her. And on her birthday night when I was taking her to bars she said \"I'm over it. You should take the manager position. You don't have anything else going for you. Honestly since they aren't gonna make me a manager I'll probably just quit. I just wouldn't be able to respect you. \"\n\n    Just today I said I'm tired and her response was \"oh my God you do know I go to work at like 3 and work until 9 right? And I opened how are you tired?\" Im to my breaking point with her. I try my best to not be a one upper and she clearly works more than me but I really enjoy my free time and just want a raise and a promotion so I can be more financially stable. \n\n  Am I the asshole for not wanting to be friend with her anymore? I know I don't work as much but I still put in 40+ hours a week and volunteer so I'm really tired. Or am I just a whiny bitch? \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Feu7DVmHeGkzfsPjJegFnZ6sNRpF4klO", "post_id": "aiqn6r", "action": {"description": "not defending my wife's honor by hurting someone who insulted her", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not defending my wife's honor by hurting someone who insulted her?", "text": "My wife got into a dispute with a client over unpaid services, the guy was a day late in payment. I called him to sort it out, he said he would pay the next day. I relayed this to my wife, and left the house to go to a dinner with some of my close friends.\n\nAs I'm out, she texts him that he's messing with the wrong woman. They get to a heated exchange via text. He calls her a prostitute, she calls him a muslim terrorist - nasty exchanges all around. My phone is blowing up about how pissed she, and the guy (who's likely drunk) is texting me how he doesn't want to pay because she's being rude, also calling her and me names as well. I'm out and trying to balance this situation while having a good time with my friends - I take the high road and ask him to be civil, that nobody works for free, and that he should do right by us. He responds he won't pay out of principle and that he would fuck me up in a fight. I ignore him.\n\nThe next morning, he pays me half of what is owned. My wife threatens to press charges and he pays the remaining amount. Afterwards, she attacks me saying I didn't do enough - that I'm a pussy because I didn't send him death threats and didn't go to his place to beat the fuck out of him, that I'm not risking jail time to defend her honor. I'm a big guy, I don't believe in resorting to violence and death threats unless I or someone I love is in real danger. I'm not starting wars over petty insults. The dude is a piece of shit but he's not worth it.\n\nAnyways, I've been getting the cold shoulder since, she's telling me her old fuckbuddies and friends are willing to come to this man's address and tear him apart - and that I'm not a man and she's going to leave me soon and that she'll never let this go.\n\nIt might be worth mentioning that she suffers from PMDD (think PMS on steroids x 10000), so for about 2 weeks of every month she'll get set off by anything and have a massive fucking outburst or fight (she once physically pushed and wanted to fist-fight a bouncer because he didn't like Mariah Carey).  Once it's over she ends up being her sweet self. \n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wY1QnGhWUWNKygRdUh2mD9Vn1oHyrmKd", "post_id": "aruqmu", "action": {"description": "refusing to buy any of my family members a christmas gift", "pronormative_score": 87, "contranormative_score": 27}, "title": "AITA For refusing to buy any of my family members a christmas gift?", "text": "Now, based off of the title, you probably already think \u201cDamn, this kid\u2019s an asshole.\u201d But here\u2019s some context.\n\nThe week before Christmas, I received a $400 target gift card I won in a drawing.  I bragged about it on Instagram, where my sister follows me on, and of course, she saw it. She gave me a phone call and asked me who gave it to me, and I explain the situation, and tell her specifically NOT TO TELL MOM, as I knew it was bad enough that my sister knew already. She hangs up, and a few minutes later, my mother comes bursting into my room. She asks to see the gift card, and I hand it to her. She gives it back, then she says, obnoxiously, \u201cYou have to get something for me and (Sister\u2019s name), That frustrated me enough, but I agreed, (I am VERY conservative, especially with my money.) \n\nThen when I was at target, getting my stuff plus what I WAS gonna get for my mom and sister, I get a phone call from my mom. \n\nMom: \u201cOh, also, you have to get something for (Cousin 1\u2019s name) and (Cousin 2\u2019s name,) as well. Be thoughtful, don\u2019t just get something cheap.\u201d She said, even more obnoxiously \n\n(We were visiting my Uncle and Aunt for christmas, and my cousins are 6 and 2, so why the hell would I need to spend that much money on two more people I don\u2019t and won\u2019t see often?)\n\nMe: \u201cNo thanks.\u201d I then hung up the phone and ignored the rest of my mom\u2019s texts and phone calls.\n\nI spoiled myself, changing my mind about getting anyone else anything, because of how obnoxious everyone was being towards me after finding out what I had, so I spoiled myself. Bought myself a pair of airpods, GTA V, PlayStation Plus,a cheap laptop to do work on, and some new wrestling gear. Also bought a buddy of mine a bluetooth speaker, and spent the rest on candy and whatnot. \n\nWalked home and my mother was expecting that I got everyone a gift. Boy, was she shocked (despite our last phone call.) I got an ass chewing and she tried to guilt trip me, (unsuccessfully.) \n\nWe were arguing then I just said \u201cMaybe if you weren\u2019t being so greedy about the situation, and kept your paws off of my money, I wouldn\u2019t have changed my mind about getting you guys something!\u201d (My exact words with some stuttering in it,) \n\nShe then yelled at me a final time, marched to her room, and slammed her door. \n\nTyping that first paragraph made my blood boil, and reminded me of why I\u2019m gonna keep all future assets private to me and me only. \n\nI\u2019m 15 years old, if that will affect your criticism at all. \n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 86, "EVERYBODY": 16, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 6}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 87, "WRONG": 27}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Mnj0ag486RG2dvMaMtaWLsqLl63ASwm0", "post_id": "b6m61t", "action": null, "title": "AITA My overweight friend gets upset when I call myself fat", "text": "I have a good friend who is overweight. I\u2019m not sure of her size but she needs to shop in plus size stores etc. Being 125 lbs, I realize I\u2019m not overweight, but I have insecurities like so many others. By the way, I think my friend looks great! She\u2019s a big girl and she\u2019s absolutely beautiful. The other day we were shopping and I tried on this pair of yoga pants. I complained how my thighs looked large and I needed to lose weight and go to the gym more. She became noticeably upset and confessed that she thinks it\u2019s rude whenever I talk about my body in front of her. She said that because she needs to lose 70 plus pounds it makes her wonder what I think of her and just makes her uncomfortable. I told her she looks great and this wasn\u2019t about her. This was about myself. She asked me not to talk about how I need to lose weight in front of her anymore. Initially I agreed, but now I feel this was an unfair request. And yes, I know, I shouldn\u2019t talk like that anyways. But was I being rude to her when I spoke ill of my own body? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 50, "OTHER": 43, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 23, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 66, "WRONG": 52}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Z6sq7qhJu0zpa1IU87Frgfw10YwqlyVC", "post_id": "a3heym", "action": {"description": "giving someone something they don't want for secret Santa", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA if I give someone something they don\u2019t want for secret Santa?", "text": "I have a secret Santa party coming up, and the person I got paired with posted a link to exactly the things they wanted. I thought this was supposed to be a holiday where you surprise them based on the interests they present you or the type of item they tell you, not the exact item. \n\nSo I don\u2019t plan on getting this person what they asked for. I\u2019ll get them the same type of item, but not the color or brand they specifically requested. Am I the asshole for doing this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oRn0FXiExqfJw1ramUK2fXXwLIHfxzoH", "post_id": "aol9ar", "action": {"description": "being mad at my girlfriend for not going to the bar", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being mad at my girlfriend for not going to the bar?", "text": "Let me preface this by saying me trying to get my girlfriend to hang out with my friends is a long standing battle, and a losing one at that. We\u2019ve been dating almost 6 years and I can legitimately count on two hands, maybe one, the amount of times she has hung out with them. It\u2019s to the point that my friends ask me why they haven\u2019t really seen her since high school and I\u2019m at an absolute loss for words about what to respond to them. \n\nShe also doesn\u2019t really like going to the bar, which is fine and I don\u2019t care too much. I like to, but I can go with my friends and it\u2019s not a huge deal. My good friend invited me out for his birthday, and invited my gf. She said maybe (which I knew meant no already) and after much delaying she just said she\u2019s too tired and doesn\u2019t want to go. \n\nWell I got really upset about this. I\u2019m at a point where it\u2019s like, why do I go out of my way to spend time with your friends if you happen to go to a pregame with them, why do I go out of my way to walk around and do things that you ask if you don\u2019t reciprocate the few times I want to do something? I told her that it\u2019s unfair and she doesn\u2019t have to drink but we are 22 years old and we can afford a night out on a weekend day without going to sleep at 10 because we\u2019re tired. She said I\u2019m a dick for making her feel guilty about it, but I was just sharing how I really felt. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hyptkji8fPJxdVF8o1EzvUa8HcZ6lVij", "post_id": "9wvizn", "action": {"description": "bullying my best friend", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for bullying my best friend", "text": "Back in 8th grade my best friend and I would pick our schedules so we'd have the same classes together. One month into the school year he starts asking me for stuff. At the start it was nothing big asking if he could borrow some of my games I didn't mind this but he then started asking me to buy him brand new games and gift cards. I was always hesitant but him being my best friend I would usually get him the game or gift card he wanted. Two months into the school year he started talking to all of our other friends about how annoying I am and selfish. Even in the classes we had together he'd talk shit about me while I'm in ear shot, all the while still expecting me to buy him a gift card and games. Finally I had enough and said no and his response was, \"bro are you fucking serious? I thought we were friends\" and he stopped talking to me, later that week he told me he was only my friend because I bought him stuff. And after that me being 5 ft 9 and him being 5 ft 3, I'd pick on him during classes throw his stuff out of our locker and beat him up all the way up until 12th grade", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "doegitsQX0XcOCXvkdTEh7CzYH6Anydu", "post_id": "ap545x", "action": {"description": "being annoyed with mum and her boyfriend for drinking my graduation whiskey", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed with mum and her boyfriend for drinking my graduation whiskey.", "text": "Short context, bought the bottle years ago (not partially expensive but nice for what I could afford), kept it in its box back at parents house for the last 5 years. \nWas going to save it until I finished PhD, came back home for a visit, bottle opened and half empty. \nAITA for being annoyed with them for opening it and drinking it without asking. As it was for a special occasion. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LPNyhczaFPwOaDlxInYJFK0Q2bMqCUBb", "post_id": "b7jcxr", "action": {"description": "refusing to rent out our place to this guy", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to rent out our place to this guy?", "text": "Context: we have an extension to the house which is separate from the main building with 3 rooms 1 bathroom etc that our family uses to rent out to other people.\n\nLast Monday, a person (let's name him Ted) who has rented rooms before wanted to come back and rent them out again because he didn't feel safe in his previous area due to an ex stalking him (but never went to the police about it). I made it very clear to him that if Ted wanted to stay, he would have to pay the Bond + rent upfront before he could stay for even 1 night to which he happily agreed to but said he'd pay on Friday.\n\nThe next morning (Tuesday), I woke up to see something strange, which was Ted's car in the driveway, and to my surprise, he had already crashed a night in the area which disappointed me because I thought he wouldn't do anything like that. When I woke Ted up, his voice was muddled and unintelligible, he wasn't able to give a proper reason as to why he stayed the night, only saying \"i won't do this again, and I will make sure I'll pay by Friday\". He then asks when I head out to university on Friday which I said 11AM, and he replied with \"That'll be easy, I'll come by before then and pay up\". \n\nCome Friday morning, Ted never showed up, so I tried contacting him a few times before leaving for university, he got back to me around 12PM saying \"I was packing my stuff, and on a phone call with a possible employer, sorry about that, you have my word that I'll come by tomorrow before 12PM.\" \nIt was already at this point I was doubting my decision to let him stay if he can't uphold his word, so I decided to give him one more chance to see if he changed.\n\nSaturday morning, he didn't show up again, no signs of contacting me via call or text and at this point I really felt like I can't let him stay if he doesn't hold his word to do something as simple as showing up in the morning and pay the Bond + rent. So I tried calling him once in the afternoon, no response, and around 10 times in the evening to get a text saying \"I am in another call, will call you back\" and so I waited. Till around 1:30AM I waited for his call back to see why he didn't show up, only to not get a phone call.\n\nSunday morning (today), Ted still hasn't shown up and I have tried ringing him a few times to get a text saying \"Can't speak right now, will call you back later\". It was at this point I decided to make the decision to reply with \"I'll make this easier for you, leave. This has been unacceptable and you know that\". The reason why it's unacceptable is because this isn't the only time he's done something like this, he's done it before when he stayed before (like 9 months ago). He told me on Monday that he was a changed man and out of the few interactions over the week, I could tell he hasn't at all. \n\nAll he needed to do was to show up and pay the bond + rent, or inform me that something was going on but he never said anything other than \"call you later\".\n\nAm I the Asshole for doing what I did?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YWNgiIU3D9OHsVItF4ndvPxYLGIL0j9W", "post_id": "b8xld1", "action": {"description": "getting upset when someone sat next to me in an empty diner", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for getting upset when someone sat next to me in an empty diner?", "text": "This is the type of diner where you seat yourself. This older woman and her friend picked the seat right behind me and my fiance. They were so loud, I couldn't enjoy our conversation anymore and her perfume was overbearing. It felt a bit rude when the rest of the diner was empty. Like lady sit somewhere else. They seemed nice enough but totally clueless.... Idk AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JJrU616ZYUf40UsWK3uoefff6bNihenO", "post_id": "asv1oy", "action": {"description": "not forgiving shitheads", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not forgiving shitheads?", "text": "A while back, I got into some major shit with some \u201cfriends\u201d I had. These \u201cfriends\u201d were complete assholes, and they were sucky af. All they did was try to start drama which was super annoying and immature, and then they\u2019d blame it on other people. \n\nThey\u2019d also managed to slowly get me to start dropping my relationships with other friends, family, etc. Until I realized what was really going on.\n\nThey made me feel guilty for the shit they started, and acted like every single little thing I did was horribly wrong or offensive, and the things they\u2019d stuck in my mind are still affecting me now.\n\nNot to mention, they were like 13 year old girls when it came to gossiping. They would do it CONSTANTLY, about their own friends. It was a hobby for them.\n\nWe had this huge fight and both sides were being total shitheads TBH. We were both in the wrong. Both sides insulted each other and were rude. \n\nHowever, I refuse to forgive them. To me, that would be like excusing all the shit they\u2019d pulled on me in the past, and I don\u2019t think they deserve my forgiveness, or even my respect. Forgiving people who act like that will just take advantage of that and keep doing it, knowing that you\u2019ll forgive them every time.\n\nMy parents, however, say that you should love, respect, and forgive EVERYONE, even the people who\u2019ve torn apart your life and hurt you intentionally, because that\u2019s what Jesus tells us to do. They tell me that forgiving those assholes would be showing that I\u2019m moving on, but that\u2019s not the way I see forgiveness at all, and I\u2019m sure as hell thats not how those shitheads see it either. \n\nSo AITA for refusing to forgive people who\u2019ve really hurt me and mentally scarred me? I\u2019m curious.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2fdkbUUaFBKTX8VdeV88MxvyLxCpDYZ6", "post_id": "ai0suo", "action": {"description": "falling asleep and got breaking up with for it", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA when I fell asleep and got broken up with for it?", "text": "Dated her for 4 months, back and forth, she has a lot of trust issues. Shes done alot to me, flaked on me, left me standing outside her door, lied to me, disrepected me by telling me about other guys she fell in love with whilst dating me, and Ive never said much. She often makes plans and then pretends as though there was no plans when she completely flakes, I never really get mad.\n\nWas going through bad withdrawls from an alcohol addiction, diffiult to sleep. First 2 nights she kept waking me up at 3am. 2nd night I said I desperately need sleep but was shaken awake. 3rd night I came home and literally passed out asleep, knowing she finished at 10pm and it was only 5.30 and thinking I would wake up in a few hours and see her.\n\nAwoke at 1.30am to a flurry of textings starting from nice, to mean, to being broken up. Ending with \"i wont listen to any more excuses this time\".\n\nAm I the Asshole here?\n\nFurther to this I told her I had fallen asleep and stopped contacting her, then went to hers to grab my stuff, expecting some kind of apology for that madness, but instead was made to listen to how I shouldve text her if I was feeling sick just to warn her that I may fall asleep? and then proceeded to bring up other times I have flaked, which was only once and I made her aware.\n\nMore recently she tried saying she never did anything wrong in the relationship. I tried to ask how its reasonable to break up with someone before even hearing why they didnt answer. I tried to say what If i was hit by a car I was going to wake up to those texts? and she just said thats ridiculous and laughed at me. I know its unlikely but you never know.\n\nMy best friend (or so I thought) always supported me by saying she was crazy and everyone hated her, then on a big night out I asked him to come back with me after and relax, was told he wasnt leaving till later. So i text and said when your on  way back come chill for a bit, no reply. I said if you go back to another one of my mates I can meet you guys there, these people that are supposed friends.\n\nNext day he tried to tell me how he and another guy went back to his and a few people went back with my EX. I asked who and he said he doesnt know. He then started telling me stories about the night and named people specifically who were at her house, him being one of them. About 7 people. I proceeded to say didnt you just tell me you didnt go there and didnt know who did, and then he changed the story and said he only went there for 10 minutes with the guy then left. I asked the EX the next day and she said he stayed all night.\n\nI text him and said hes an asshole for going back to my ex girlfriends and lying to me about it. I said even if you were sparing my feelings, in reality you shouldve come back with me if you are telling the truth when you constantly say what a horrible person she is and what shes done to me. I told him I cant really trust him.\n\nSo yeah this woman now has all of my friends, and I have no one really, and im pretty sure I didnt really do anything wrong.?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CmtkhkxXLgBPFZvCbPhFhyIcvKADojXC", "post_id": "afadmc", "action": {"description": "causing an argument for complaining about unannounced mother in law visits", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for causing an argument for complaining about unannounced mother in law visits?", "text": "Mother in law always randomly turns up without calling ahead, waltzes in and doesn't take her shoes off and stomps around (I live in a top floor flat and try to respect the woman that lives below us)\n\nToday I kicked up a stink because my wife had gone out and I thought I'd use my free time to play an online multiplayer game which off course can't be paused. Then I get a knock at the door and it's the mother in law unannounced again. I'm really short with her and for once manage to turn her away. I ask my wife if she can have a word with her mum and she gets annoyed (maybe I should of just told the in-law myself?)\n\nBut anyways long story short I say we gotta do something about this and the wife gets really annoyed and says 'well it's only a game you were playing so you should speak to her'.\n\nWhether I was playing a game or not isn't really the point. Am I an ass for moaning about random visits? I don't think I am but I have a slightl nagging doubt in my head that's saying what if I'm wrong, hence this post. Thanks", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "13gruLJWx950KMC20iJU9QN2mwEgX6s0", "post_id": "b35o1i", "action": {"description": "wanting to cut my friend off for being an irresponsible petowner", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to cut my friend off for being an irresponsible petowner?", "text": "I've know my friend, ill call F, since middle school\n\n​\n\nWe have had falling outs for different reasons and recently got in touch after about 4 years.\n\n​\n\nF has always had cats . I've always encouraged her to get her cats fixed so they dont reproduce. I am heavily into animal rescue and currently have two foster cats. They drive me %100 crazy but at least their not at risk for euthanasia at the moment . My family friend literally has about 30 cats in her home stacked on cages that she fosters so they dont get euthanized. It's the city I live in , cats get euthanized pretty frequently due to lack of homes\n\n​\n\nAnyways \n\n​\n\nF had confessed that her cat had a litter of kittens from another cat she has. I was pretty upset but I didnt say anything , assuming it was a one time thing.\n\nNope.\n\n​\n\nHer cat is pregnant. Again. I  come to find this is her 4th time  . One of her litters had 3 kittens. 2 of them died and one was neurologically disabled. The cat was given to a friend who then took the cat to a kill shelter. She claims the cat was pulled but who knows.  \n\nI was pretty upset at this and told her that it was irresponsible and that cats are euthanized all the time due to lack of homes and to please spay her. She said she didnt want to lose her cat in surgery... You see\n\nYears ago I encouraged her to get one of her cat neutered. She did and the cat passed away 9 days later.  She claims he also got mange from the neutering truck they went to . She said she doesnt want her cat to die so she lets the cat get knocked up repeatedly ???  She said the cat is now 7 and would need blood work to get spayed as well??\n\n​\n\nWe kinda got into it for a while. She said she may neuter her male cat but she still lets her female cat go outside. She claims the female doesnt go far so she wont mate (uh...)  Anyways she lets her un-neutered males roam outside (in a city) and do who knows what. \n\nWe went at it for a while and things got really tense . We then changed the subject but honestly I dont even feel like I can be friends with her. I do so much rescue work and fostering but it all goes to shit when people do things like this . Whats the point of even fostering if she does things like this ? Her cat is going to give birth...AGAIN and she rather the cat keep breeding rather then get her spayed.\n\nShe even yelled saying people breed their cats and I wouldnt be bashing them and I told them I would.\n\n​\n\nShes really excited to be friends with me again and keeps trying to make more plans to hang out.\n\nAm I the asshole If I just......dont?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lhsbrD3OIjZrzN9DXdndOGfeVnzkPIN7", "post_id": "ahswu7", "action": {"description": "not wanting to work out at the same gym as my girlfriend because I think it's sexist", "pronormative_score": 59, "contranormative_score": 32}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to work out at the same gym as my girlfriend because I think it's sexist?", "text": "My girlfriend and I both enjoy working out, and have gone to different gyms since before we met. Recently my girlfriend suggested that I change over to her gym so we could carpool, workout together etc. Normally I would agree with this and be happy to go to the same gym as her, the problem is that her gym has a large \"**women only**\" section. The gym charges the same entrance fee for both men and women, but this section only allows women to use it and contains about 1/4 of the area of the gym and about 1/4 of the total workout equipment.\n\n I told my girlfriend that I didn't want to go to a gym that would charge someone 100% of the fee but only allow them to use 75% of the equipment because of their sex. When she said that I was being stupid about this I asked her if she would go to a gym that charged her the same as men, but forbid her from using a large portion of the equipment and area? She got upset at this, and said that \"*I just don't understand*\", and that \"*it's different for women*\".\n\n​\n\nAm I being the asshole here and just not understanding?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 31, "OTHER": 40, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 19, "INFO": 6}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 59, "WRONG": 32}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VcjWcOqv960CvWQr451e1kqQdYu4uL2S", "post_id": "b7o3y2", "action": {"description": "being sharp with my colleague", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being sharp with my colleague", "text": "A bit of back story first. So I joined a my current team just over 6 months ago. Before joining the team I was warned by three staff members (one more senior to me) about a colleage I would be working with (call her Jane). They both told me, in separate conversations, that Jane is extremely lazy and does not do any work. And just escalates all the work she gets. I did not know them that well so I took their warning about Jane with a grain of salt.\n\nOver the last 6 months Jane has not been doing her work which means a lot of it falls to me to complete and I was so stressed from it that I took 2 weeks of stress leave. Management is horrible so no point in approaching them (that is why the three staff members who warned me left the team).\n\nAfter coming back from leave I am settling into work this conversation happens:\n\n- Jane: I noticed that this job is under your name but hasn't been followed up\n- Me: ok (I go have a look and see that I am expecting information back before I can finish it)\n- Jane: well, these people are very busy and cannot get to everything, but with the information provided it can be completed\n- Me: that is not the normal process, we need the information to proceed\n- Jane: it can be completed though\n\nAnd this is where I lose it. I turn to face her and look her directly in the eye and say 'I don't care'. I turn around and continue my work. Aita for saying that?\n\nAfter doing that though she actually does more work. I get called in to talk to my manager though. I so end up apologising, but after that she has gone back to her old ways.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "s8mXUAzgrx3WwbolyTTT2EF2Q5bewPaE", "post_id": "9y6uhm", "action": {"description": "not letting my gf blow my secrets", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not letting my gf blow my secrets?", "text": "Hi so as the title suggests my (18m) gf (18f) routinely neglects my needs. Specifically when it comes to weed. \n\nI'm in college but still very much dependent on my parents and they have a 100% no cannabis rule which I just never have followed and for the most part things have worked out.\n\nThen came my gf, she comes from a much less strict family than I so these things are a lot easier for her, but she never takes any form of precaution around my family. Which has manifested into many close calls and near misses with them and their rule.\n\nLast night she left a bag sitting in the passenger seat in my car that she completely did not tell me about.  It's all fine until I go to take my sister somewhere this morning and opened my door to see that bag staring me in the face.\n\nI kind of lost it on her to which she says I'm being rude about this and she didn't mean to so I shouldn't be mad at her.\n\nSo, AITA for thinking she needs to respect my rules concerning my family more or does that responsibility fall entirely on me?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6674WYvmDLGEiX31l4SdVwefcSYuNfyM", "post_id": "atd7ld", "action": {"description": "refusing to let my family attend my college graduation", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I refuse to let my family attend my college graduation?", "text": " I'm a senior in college. It's been rocky for me, because my parents kicked me out after I'd turned 18 and finished high school-- to explain more in detail, I'd originally been planning on joining the military immediately after HS and had been recruited and training for nearly a year for boot, but things fell through once it was realized that I have serious issues with depression, ADHD, & PTSD (these things can disqualify you from being able to serve). A few weeks after I graduated HS, things began to explode at my home. I was equal parts frustrated with myself for not having any idea what to do now/how to get my life on track, while also juggling what I now knew for a fact to be mental disorders, and also being upset with the psychologically&physically abusive treatment my parents forced on me and my siblings. So I got literally kicked to the curb.\n\nA friend's parents took me in and got me started heading in the right direction. I applied to stuff, got accepted, and thanks to the FASFA my parents had filled out at a high school thing earlier in the year, I was able to afford to go through loans, scholarships, and jobs. My parents have re-done the FASFA for me yearly, but other than that we are not on speaking terms and they give me no financial support, period. I'm homeless outside of the school year and generally spend time with my long-time partner's family in summer/on holidays, helping to pay bills.\n\nMy parents ain't great. I have PTSD thanks to them, and my depression has been exacerbated, if not directly caused by their actions towards me and my siblings when I was young. It's also all but confirmed I have DID because of the long-term abuse too. But recently, my parents have began to make attempts to reach out to me, inquiring about my graduation so that they can come and telling me how upset all my siblings are that they haven't seen me in almost four years.\n\nI think they want to reconnect with me. But, I hate them since they abused me so badly for 18 years and fucked me up on such an unfixable level. I'm going to have to live with my issues for **the rest of my life** and I resent them for that. But we're related even if I wish we weren't and I'd be a lying if I said that people can't change. I don't know if I could ever forgive&forget, but I don't know if it'd even be fair to deny them the opportunity to come to my college graduation, especially since I *couldn't* have done it without the FASFA loans I took out. \n\nWith all this said, I kinda want to give them a hard no and ban them from attending my graduation, even despite their requests. Instead, I really want to give my graduation tickets to my partner's family who has taken me in all those summers and holidays. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RQJyeWnQvDqrSETcnC15oi7MWfuVTwuP", "post_id": "b7p8ct", "action": {"description": "not wanting to help my family out anymore", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA because I don\u2019t want to help my family out anymore", "text": "AITA? And what should I do? I\u2019m 29 and I currently live with my husband in a house be just bought a little over a year ago. My husband had a major surgery last summer and our lives have revolved around working full time and keeping up with his PT and rehab \n\nTowards the end of last summer my mother up and left my dad for some other guy and moved a few states over. My brother (28 yo) also lived with my parents. My mom had been telling them she was paying rent but was actually pocketing the money so my dad and brother were evicted and have been staying in a temporary apartment while supposedly searching for a more permanent set up. \n\nThey\u2019ve been slacking on finding a place to live and haven\u2019t found anything as of yet and today my brother asked if they could come stay with me... moving in today. The house where they\u2019ve been living has been sold and he thought he would have somewhere to go, but he doesn\u2019t. I asked him if he could postpone because it\u2019s my husband\u2019s birthday today (which is extra special because we\u2019re celebrating the fact he gets to even celebrate another birthday) and I need to talk to him about my dad and brother taking residence up with us. \n\nI don\u2019t even want them here because my dad is an alcoholic and hardly works, he also tends to be a miserable prick since my mom left him - he needs to do a lot of shit to get his life together and I tend to be a hardass so I know we\u2019re going to bump heads. My brother and I are pretty close but he has a terrible GF who I don\u2019t want in my house, she also doesn\u2019t work and I don\u2019t want her here during business hours. \n\nThey\u2019re both terrible with money which is part of the reason they\u2019re in this situation so I want to ask them to give me a reasonable portion of money every pay period and half will cover living expenses and the other half will go into savings towards their new living situations. \n\nSorry this is rambling but I\u2019m desperate for advice (and on mobile). Thank you ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Z5Q9w0NLKWnlJoSIKIyDGYXsSP7sTaDL", "post_id": "as2bx6", "action": {"description": "telling my heavily pregnant, former co-worker she is \"massive\"", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for telling my heavily pregnant, former co-worker she is \"massive\"?", "text": "FC = former co-worker\n\nManager = manager\n\n​\n\nFriday afternoon a former co-worker stopped by to say hello. She is speaking with my manager and as I'm walking up to them I hear FC say, she is two days past her due date. I say my hellos, look at her belly and say, enthusiastically, \"wow, you're massive!\" Manager who is an outspoken bitch, says in a sarcastic way, \"wow, underwatercarpet, that was really rude!\" FC makes a face and says \"thanks...\" while laughing a bit. I stammer out, \"I didn't mean it like that!\", to which there was only uncomfortable laughter, so I laugh it off and walk away. FC does not say goodbye when she leaves. Manager comes up to me later and says \"remember that time you called FC fat?\" I honestly asked if that wasn't what you're supposed to say? I mean she does have a human inside her. Manager doesn't say much else and leaves me to ponder. I don't feel like a dick for saying it as I'm sure they understood what I meant, but I do think if my manager hadn't said anything I wouldn't be wondering.\n\n​\n\nBackground context:\n\n​\n\nFC and I weren't super close, but seeing as we worked in close proximity, we had a friendly acquaintanceship. She was already 6 months along when she started at the company and was very vocal about being quite visibly and heavily pregnant at 6 months. Now, I'm not the type to play into people fishing for compliments, so I wouldn't say anything when she'd say things like \"can't wait to get skinny again\" or \"none of my clothes fit me anymore\" or \"I feel like a blimp\". Her personality was very lax and nothing bothered her, so her reaction was a bit odd from what I'd seen of her previously.\n\n​\n\nSo, I'm wondering, am I the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "dKl8B7JtDD4jTerj0ytsqvyRPIu90xug", "post_id": "b13q0f", "action": {"description": "visiting my sick dog at my stepdad's house after telling him I had an issue with his fiancee", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for visiting my sick dog at my stepdad's house after telling him I had an issue with his fiancee?", "text": "I was raised by my stepdad and mom, they had two more kids together. I caught my stepdad cheating when I was 17 with dozens of people, told my mom, they tried to work it out for about 5 years but then split up.  \n\nDespite the fact that he cheated on my mom and has never paid child support, I still have a relationship with him. Until recently I was his power of attorney, I'm treated just like I was his firstborn child. He can be very manipulative and it's gotten worse in recent years, this has put a strain on our relationship but nothing like the strain created when he started dating his now fiancee.  \n\nLet me say that if she were pleasant, I would welcome this new person in my life. But she is not. She is constantly hostile and rude. She seems to not understand why I'm still in my stepdad's life (despite the fact that he started dating my mom when I was 2) and has looked for every possible opportunity to make me out to be the bad guy. She's a jerk to my younger siblings (his kids), but doesn't seem to try to drive them out like she does me. I'm 30 and only visit occasionally, it's not like I'm dependent on them by any means.  \n\nThis all came to a head recently because of yet another situation where I was totally alienated. I basically decided I was done trying.  \n\nHe reached out and said he felt I'd been distant. I kind of just told him everything I'd been thinking. I didn't name call or say anything unforgivable, but basically just said that the way she treats my brothers is terrible but that the way she treats me is substantially worse. He asked if we could discuss it in person and I said that was fine. We haven't spoken since then but I figured we would when he was ready.  \n\nToday I find out from my sibling that our dog is not doing well and might need to be put down. I'm absolutely crushed. They got him when I was in college but outside of my dogs he is my favorite dog on earth. If they have to put him down, they'll do it at their home (her house) and I'd really love to be there to say goodbye and to support my siblings. However I don't know if I'd be a huge asshole for showing up or asking if I can. I feel like I might be an equally big asshole for not showing up (\"you couldn't put that aside even for the dog?!\") so if I have to risk one I'd rather pick the one that lets me say goodbye to my best little buddy.  \n\nDo I wait and see if I\u2019m invited? If I am, which is the the asshole move, attending or not attending? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eY7LcPQhhbZOtKcpvxs1LpHDhSSscZwL", "post_id": "b5jqru", "action": {"description": "wanting to move out when my mom pays my bills, even though she treats me like shit", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to move out when my mom pays my bills, even though she treats me like shit?", "text": "I\u2019m 19, work three minimum wage jobs and attend college full time while maintaining good grades. My mom and I have never fully gotten along but lately it\u2019s gotten so much worse. She\u2019s one of those people who always has to have it worse than you and is always right. My dad just puts up with it to keep the peace and I did for a long time too until recently. I started going to therapy for my depression and my therapist said that when she starts to cause problems I should not be afraid to stick up for myself. I have a problem with letting people walk all over me and my therapist knows this.\n\nDespite all that I know my mom loves me but sometimes I think she does things just to keep me on a leash. I pay my own car bill but that\u2019s it. My parents handle the insurance and my phone bill. I\u2019ve offered to at least pick up my phone bill since it\u2019s only about $30 a month and I\u2019m trying to get my credit score up either way but she always says no and turns it into a fight about how I\u2019m ungrateful and such.\n\n\nI\u2019m not exactly a neat person. When I\u2019m in a better mental state my bedroom tends to be neat but when I\u2019m feeling depressed it kinda goes to shit. I\u2019ve tried to keep it clean but my motivation to do so always just kinda vanishes after awhile. My parents HATE this. They will undermine everything I\u2019ve ever accomplished if my room isn\u2019t clean. For example, I just got a part time job teaching private voice and piano, something that is very difficult to do without a degree of some kind. I told my parents and they didn\u2019t care at all because my laundry wasn\u2019t done. They\u2019ll also take any fight my mom and I have and spin it back on me because my room isn\u2019t clean, even if it has nothing to do with that. For example, my mom one time saw me wearing a bikini, poked my stomach and said \n\n\u201cMmmm Pasta?\u201d\n\nMind you I\u2019m very self conscious about my weight and struggled with bulimia for awhile. I stormed out of the house and went crying to the beach only to get a text ten minutes later \u201cWell maybe if your room was clean...\u201d\n\nWell the other day I was fighting with my mom (again) because I said I was looking into apartments. I had told her I want to move in with a friend because I think not living together would help our relationship more and give me the space I need. She started crying and screaming about how I was \u201cso ungrateful\u201d and \u201cnot ready for the real world.\u201d \n\nI\u2019d had enough and that point and told her I wanted out because she has no idea how to treat anyone with any sort of respect, let alone her own daughter. I essentially just went off and she went to work crying. \n\nI feel bad, I do love her and all, but I\u2019m so sick and tired of all the bs. I know I should keep my room clean but when I tried to explain why I don\u2019t with all my mental health problems I was just called a \u201csnowflake millennial\u201d and told my disorders were fake. Meanwhile my mom sits there and preaches that she has BPD when she\u2019s yet to be diagnosed.\n\nAm I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eXzXSxtJDTwCfYQIBljlBXgdujSxV8mb", "post_id": "b94398", "action": {"description": "sending a rude text", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for sending a rude text?", "text": "I\u2019ve been getting multiple calls from an unknown number over the last few days. I\u2019ve tried answering and just gotten scilence, when I speak they hang up. \nToday I had 3 miss calls, two within 5 minutes and another 30 minutes after that. I was in the middle of a university class and couldn\u2019t answer. \nAfter leaving class I see I have FIVE voicemails total, so I spend money topping up my phone to listen to them. \n\nThey\u2019re all blank. Just silence for 40ish seconds. All five. \n\nSo I text the number a simple \u201cfuck off scammer\u201d I mean, what else could it be? I thought it would just be some automated thing anyway (due to the silent voicemails). But then I got a message back. \n\nTurns out it was a manager probably looking for someone to cover shifts (as a side note I live far away from this store and wouldn\u2019t work there anyway so ruining the relationship isn\u2019t the end of the world). They weren\u2019t happy and threatened to speak to my manager. I explained that I thought they were a scam caller. \n\n\nMy question is am I the asshole for reacting that way? My sister says it\u2019s my own fault for acting that way towards phone scammers. I think the manager should\u2019ve sent a text or left a message saying who they were, or even just taken the hint after missing so many calls. \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DgkXQctEwsy9greJpVljfknRjGNzdxBE", "post_id": "ap7wft", "action": {"description": "snapping at my gf for shaking a glass filled blanket over the couch and she thinks I'm the asshole", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA I snapped at my gf for shaking a glass filled blanket over the couch and she thinks I'm the asshole.", "text": "So context is a bit important here. My toddler accidently knocked over a glass mug in the living room with his blanket and it shattered with tiny bits of glass everywhere. I quickly grabbed my toddler and started removing small bits of glass from his foot and comforting him as my gf started cleaning the mess. She picks up the blanket that was sitting in the glass and starts shaking it over the couch. I immediately said, \"What are you doing? You're going to get glass all over the couch!\" I didn't scream or yell, but I probably didn't say it very kindly due to the urgency of the situation. She believes she was doing nothing wrong and that I'm being an asshole. She thinks I should apologize. I told her that she was creating a dangerous situation by shaking glass on the couch and I'm not going to apologize for my reaction. Am I the asshole? I think my reaction was justified.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tRjnZxEM1dMWChOkbojZu95PS83Oiwvn", "post_id": "b8u10f", "action": {"description": "being willing to delete a former colleague off social media over a game app", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being willing to delete a former colleague off social media over a game app?", "text": "Pretty low stakes question but tbh, I'm asking because I'm well aware that my decision making skills are being coloured right now over some heart-break I'm going through.\n\nIn dealing with said heartbreak I've been using games in my down-time as time fillers to keep me from thinking etc. I've recently gotten into a game called \"Coin Master\" with mostly current and former colleagues. It is an interactive game where you spon a roulette to win 'money' to win money to build items to complete a village before you can move on to a next one. More integral to my issue is that you can roll for options to either steal money from friends or attack their villages. You in counterpoint can spin for shields to protect your village but if your shields are all broken your items' levels are lowered resetting progress.\n\nNow recently it seems like a former coworker is using this feature to target me. Twice now she's attacked me 5+ times consecutively basically resetting me to zero for the level. I was amused but perturbed the first time, really annoyed the second but I'm pissed off now because I just logged on and for the day she has attacked me over 20 times. Now yes for every successful attack she lands she earns quadruple plus money which is probably why she's using this strategy but it's so annoying and actually making me angry, probably irrationally so because my personal life is in the shits right now and I'm just trying to use this game as mindless entertainment/a distraction. \n\nI just sent her a message (it is 2 am here and my insomnia is in full swing so I had logged on to kill some time only to notice my village absolutely destroyed) and I sent her a message basically telling her to stop or I will delete her off Facebook because that is the only way to unlink her from my game.\n\nWe havent talked in years but I remember liking her enough that i enjoy getting the occasional life update from her on my feed the few times I actually log in but right now I just want to delete/block/the whole shebang but AITA for messaging her out of the blue with that and WIBTA to follow through?\n\nTl;dr: Former coworker I dont talk to anymore is ruining a game for me that I'm using as a distraction from personal life issues. AITA for giving her a one strike warning to stop or else I'll delete her off social media entirely to unlink her from my game?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Y7FIL6pDd7dIUgtdZGACFAsU42OTiH47", "post_id": "aahdjx", "action": {"description": "wanting to leave my mentally ill spouse", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for wanting to leave my mentally ill spouse?", "text": "We got married about 15 years ago. She we diagnosed with schizophrenia and bipolar disorder about 10 years ago, after the birth of our child.\n\nShe hears voices and has mood disorders that prevent functioning beyond occasionally doing some light housework. There has been a decrease in mental function over time that makes any kind of enjoyable conversation basically impossible. Her memory and decision making abilities are suspect at best. She is not aware of the severity of this problem.  \n\nShe has not worked since her pregnancy and I have worked very hard to make enough money, raise our child, and help her have a good relationship with our child despite her issues.  \n\nShe is compliant with her medication and says she wants to help and do more but usually is too depressed to do much. When she is manic it is almost always counterproductive.  She has been in therapy and has been on many medications. It's hard for me to separate her patterns of actions and behavior from what her illnesses inflict.\n\nThis is not easy and has taken a toll on me emotionally over a long time. I am perpetually exhausted and lonely. I'm trying to figure out a way to not be married to her and not destroy her life in the process. I don't feel like I can do it forever.\n\nHer parents think this is her (our) problem and are not helpful. We have friends but over the years have become more isolated due to her condition. I'm kind of all she's got. \n\nThanks for any thoughts or ideas.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "m9VmYTtmu5Ixv5I6NHXrNyafJUV8s0iX", "post_id": "b943wo", "action": {"description": "telling my friend we wouldn't like to go to a concert with us", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "WIBTA for telling my friend we wouldn\u2019t like to go to a concert with us", "text": "So my friend (FA) recently put on his snapchat story if anyone would like to go see this really obscure band in a couple of weeks. I said I\u2019d love to go cos it\u2019s my favourite band and FA gave me the details and I\u2019m pretty much set on going. My other friend (FB) asked if he could go too. Now I have absolutely nothing against FB and I would consider him one of my closest friends and FA feels the same way, we just don\u2019t think he\u2019d really enjoy it as he\u2019s never listened to any of the bands songs, doesn\u2019t like their music, and would hate the overall experience. I\u2019m talking crowded places and mosh pits. I\u2019ve known FB for years and he\u2019s told me before how he doesn\u2019t like that stuff. He would feel really awkward, we\u2019d feel really awkward and probably miss out on doing mosh pits and stuff cos we can\u2019t abandon him. We haven\u2019t said a thing to him and don\u2019t know how to go about letting him down. We see him real often and FA sees him for 3 hours every day at college. WIBTA if we told him he probably couldn\u2019t come?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "SfwaOXngYOopnSIsAGqm4lFDgcMRj5JE", "post_id": "afbaln", "action": {"description": "not wanting to get back with my ex-girlfriend and raise the baby together because she is pregnant", "pronormative_score": 28, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to get back with my ex-girlfriend and raise the baby together because she is pregnant?", "text": " I (26/M) broke up with my girlfriend (24/F) in mid-November after 18 months of dating. \n\nIn mid-December she calls me to tell me she is pregnant and deciding to keep the child, even though we were both using birth control (she was on the pill and I was using condoms) and I told her I never want kids because it is not compatible with the career I want (I am a second year lawyer and eventually want to become a diplomat). \n\nI am not in the mood for it but I make the 6 hour (each way) drive out to her hometown to talk to her. \n\nShe tells me that she just can\u2019t get an abortion and tells me that now we are going to be a family and that we need to get back together, that I need to cancel my trip to Colombia/Ecuador/Peru in May with my brother, and I need to move out here and raise the baby with her and her brother can get me a job selling cars at the dealership where he works.\n\nNo fucking way. \n\nI told her she can expect to receive whatever the legal required amount of child support is, but I am not getting back together with her. There is a reason I broke up with her \u2013 because I realised I was with her out of \u201chabit\u201d instead of love, that she was a little too into the money I was making as a lawyer, and I simply did not want to be in a relationship with her anymore. A baby doesn\u2019t change that.  \n\nI tell her I am not moving out there. My family and friends live here in the capital and I don\u2019t want to move from them, and her home town is in our country\u2019s version of the Deep South and somewhere I don\u2019t want to live, and there is no possibility for any kind of career and advancement there. I told her I am not going to be the father who gives her every Wednesday and every second weekend and school vacation periods \u201coff\u201d. I don\u2019t want to play Daddy and Mommy with her.   \n\nI told her I am still going to South America because the trip is already paid for and I am not going to get anything back from cancelling it, except maybe half the airfares. And I *WANT* to fucking go. Why do I have to give that up because of her decision to have a baby? And child support is going to be a big financial burden to my life now that will affect my ability to travel in the future.  She is angry about that because \u201cI will never travel\u201d, and I said \u201cthat is on you for choosing to keep the baby\u201d. \n\nReddit, I broke up with her for a reason. I made it clear I never wanted to play Mommy and Daddy with anyone. I will reluctantly meet my legal obligations in terms of child support but nothing more. \n\nFor the last month she has been telling anyone who will listen what an asshole and a deadbeat I am and it is really starting to annoy me. I am not a deadbeat because I don\u2019t want to play house with you. Deadbeats are people who don\u2019t pay child support. \n\nAMITA?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 27, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 28, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "d4ej8J5qItLKEMcCM3vlesyApe1SkzzQ", "post_id": "a2xmpv", "action": {"description": "not wanting my vents covered", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my vents covered?", "text": "Some background info:\n\nMy house has a couple of bedrooms with one vent. Mine has two. It means I get extra/too-much heat and A/C at times. \n\nThe situation:\n\nMy dad walked in a few days ago and told me that I should cover one of my vents, because I had the window open for an hour to air out my room (nasty smell, probably from a shower and humidity) and he thought I was doing it because I was hot. I explicitly told him no, I won't do that. It's a bad idea (even if you don't include the fire risk) to cover it with cardboard, because it causes a reverse flow and damages the system in the long run by forcing it to work harder, and it would still result in the same amount of heat being redirected to one vent (best case scenario two-three of other rooms, but not with the way our house is laid out). I've called numerous AC/Heater repairmen, and asked them about this, because I wanted to do it way back. Almost every single one of them told me it was a bad idea. That, added with the bonus of me looking it up myself, dissuaded me from that idea. \n\nI came home the other day, and saw that, in fact, my dad had ignored my wishes, which was normal at this point in time, and did it anyway. I do live with him, and I am aware that he owns the house. That being said, I would assume that any rational human being would want to avoid being roasted alive by their own A/C system, so I took it down and reverted to my previous solution: just wearing more or less clothes based on how hot/cold I am when I go to sleep. Walking around in shorts and a T-shirt isn't bad at all, either. \n\nHe walked in today and exploded at me, for defying his authority and taking down a piece of cardboard held up by masking tape. I told him I slept in that room and I should have some opinion, but he said it was his house. I told him I would just sleep on the couch and he told me I could sleep on the street for all he cares. He then went and got a ladder and put it back up, telling me that I would see what would happen if I took it down again.\n\nEveryone on his side of the family (grandparents) agree with him, think that I shouldn't \"defy my father\" and call me a problem child for even arguing with him at all. They basically told me that if I didn't like what my dad was doing, I could move out with no support from anyone. My sisters think the man is crazy. I personally want to move out soon, but not before actually being able to.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XtRs1IStVZKWom7lVTJk5plx3x8myM9k", "post_id": "b5zij9", "action": {"description": "asking someone to turn their music down", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking someone to turn their music down?", "text": "This occurred on the fourth floor of my campus library. For reference, the first floor is classrooms, second floor is a talk friendly study place, third floor is a quiet study place, and fourth floor is the computer lab.\n\nIt is my understanding that there is an unspoken rule that unless you are working on a group project and need to talk with others to get your work done, the computer lab is also meant to be a quiet floor.\n\nI had been at my computer for a while doing some required reading when another student walks in playing music on his headphones loud enough that I could hear him from across the room (maybe 50 feet away). He sits down and proceeds to look at his phone, not logging in to the computer and not turning the volume down for maybe 5 minutes. At that point I got up, walked over to him, tapped him on the shoulder, and said \u201chey man, can you turn your music down? It\u2019s hard for me to focus\u201d. He looks at me without saying anything, and after a moment he turns his music down and I go back to my seat.\n\nFast forward 30 minutes or so he walks up to me and asks if I worked at the library. I told him I didn\u2019t, and he responded \u201cwhy did you ask me to turn my music down\u201d. Being socially anxious, I nervously said something along the lines of I\u2019m sorry if I offended you but it was really distracting. He kinda shook his head in disbelief and then walked out of the lab. AITA?\n\nSome more information that I didn\u2019t know where to put in. \n - There were maybe four other people in the lab at the time including one campus employed student who was there to help with IT problems. Non of them said anything or seemed to notice any of this take place (as in it didn\u2019t distract them).\n - The headphones he was using looked like the old generic apple headphones, which if anyone has used them knows that they become miniature speakers past half volume. His music wasn\u2019t loud, but it was noticeable enough that I could hear the baseline and a bit of the melody.\n - I had headphones visibly on me (phone in pocket, headphones going through the shirt out of the neck) but I was not wearing them because my own music was distracting me from the reading.\n - There are some computers on the second floor, but they can\u2019t be used to access canvas, a site many teachers use to post assignments and grades.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5zqBfgpGDj0jz3otacsumvmWiXE6rrJS", "post_id": "airqun", "action": {"description": "going cold turkey on my ex", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for going cold turkey on my ex?", "text": "Not sure if this goes here or /r/relationshipadvice but here goes. I was dating a girl for a year before she got into grad school abroad. The terms of our relationship were left open ended but we agreed that we were not officially together anymore. \n\nOne semester goes by and communication is tough because we're in different time zones, but ae plan on meeting up during winter break. Being together during her time back here was great until she reveals that she's \"kinda sorta\" seeing someone at her new uni. Technically she didn't do anything wrong because we weren't together but I still feel a bit betrayed she kept this from me. \n\nNYE passes and she goes back to school. Her thing with her new boy grows more serious and my feelings of jealousy and resentment grow. I realize maintaining any relationship with her is causing me more pain than happiness and tell her that I need a clean break.\n\nShe doesn't take the news very well and says she loves me and needs me in her life as her best friend. In turn, I reply that I don't know how to be \"just friends\" with her and she's only been causing me pain lately. The fight escalates until I decide to go cold turkey and stop responding. \n\nIt's been a week and since then she's sent me messages about how she loves me and values me as one of her best friends, and also messages about how I'm being selfish and can't make this decision for both of us. I haven't responded, but I feel like crap.\n\nNote: according to another friend of mine, she's using me for validation and attention although I don't think she's malicious like that.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EeJ4zQLrI0os37dwpgfAACr127197YGs", "post_id": "avbqur", "action": {"description": "keeping my baby", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for keeping my baby?", "text": "I'm now 37 weeks and close to labor. I'm 24, 23 when I got pregnant. I'm very conflicted at the moment but the choice has already been made, and we will be raising this child. I just want to know if I did the right thing. Here's the back story: \n\n\n\nSome months before I got pregnant I got a call from the hospital after a routine PAP smear test. They found cancer cells and I was to visit them ASAP. This is all after a year of remission from my breast cancer. They told me I had to quit the birth control pill because the hormones could be influencing my cervix. I quit that day and had planned to get a coil in after my second period. \n\n\nA week later I got my first period. But the second period never came. I went to my GP and said \"doctor, I'm now 1 month over time for my period and I'm worried\". He said \"don't worry, it can take up to 6 months for your period to regulate again\". So I had no worries. He didn't recommend a pregnancy test. \n\n\nTwo months after this my SO tells me I'm getting fat and to get a test. Test comes back positive. I immediately call my GP. He tells me to come in for an ultrasound. He puts the apparatus on my belly and starts laughing, like full on laugh. He turns the screen my way and there on the screen I see my daughter for the first time. Her head, back, rib cage, legs, all are formed. This is no just conceived embryo. He tells me I'm at least 3 to 4 months in. So abortion is still possible but I must make the decision very quickly. I decide to keep it after discussing with SO.\n\n\nI'm very pro-choice, and if I was maybe 1 month a long instead of 3 the possibility of me aborting it would be 90%. But it was a person in my mind. \n\n\nOur situation is also not great for raising a child. Here's a list: \n\n\n- My SO is 21 years old (20 when I got pregnant), and still in college. He won't be done with school for another 4 years. \n\n- My SO is in huge debt because of parking/insurance tickets and all his finances go towards that (which is good, I want him to be debt free, but it needs to be considered).\n\n- We do not own a house or rent a place, we live with my father (who now also has to deal with this new born, he's 65 and recently retired). My father agreed to give us the upper floor of the house (3 large bed rooms) to create a nursery, a bedroom and a study room. \n\n- My income solely goes towards renovation of these rooms, the baby things we need and whatever is left is for our food and other expenses. I also save 10% and another 5% for little one when she's 18. My net income a month is between \u20ac2200 and \u20ac3000. \n\n- I'm currently on maternity leave but before this I was working as a consultant. I lost the project I was on because of maternity leave. My boss is looking for a new project for me to start after maternity leave. But it could mean we have to live on 70% of my income if he can't find anything in time. \n\n\n\n\nSo with all these points in mind am I the asshole for keeping her and wanting to raise her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wrXV2dEHkS0RyHgcENAgPryjRENoJUp2", "post_id": "a72fmx", "action": {"description": "not participating in the \"Christ\" part of Christmas", "pronormative_score": 30, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not participating in the \"Christ\" part of Christmas?", "text": "I was raised Catholic, but am not religious at all. I truly can't think of a time when I associated with the church. I basically went through the motions until I moved out of the parents place at 18. I am 25 now and coming up on what will be my 3rd year of skipping the Christmas Mass. The first year was uneventful since I used an excuse. Last year though, it sparked all kinds of family drama including my sister calling me to tell me my mother was crying about me missing Christmas mass. I've heard rumblings of them talking about me saying it's just a phase, which I think is a bit condescending. I understand their POV, since they have been taught if you don't beleive in the \"One true God\" that you burn for eternity, which can be rough to think about for a loved one. All that said, Catholic mass bothers the hell out of me and I would only sit quietly stewing disdainful thoughts for an hour. When I'm there I feel like I'm lying to myself and everyone around me.\n\nAITA for not just going through the motions to make my family happier?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 27, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 30, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oinpXPwimyZxI6U0JwDGQSIwTlBQsY3P", "post_id": "b5fu1a", "action": {"description": "exposing a \"friend\" for catfishing me", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for exposing a \"friend\" for catfishing me?", "text": "This friend is a pathological liar but i really didnt care because up until a few days ago her lies were attention seeking. To make a long story short, she told me there was a guy that found me cute and wanted to talk to me on snapchat. After a couple of days i came to the realization it was just her as she had tried to create fake texts as evidence (the name was the same but the bitmoji was very different and so was the snapchat username), the guy was always too busy to meet, they had the exact same voice and me and the guy shared many many similarities that are highly unlikely (both do ballet, both watch exactly the same shows, both have diabetes type 1, etc) the evidence kept stacking up but the nail in the coffin was her going onto the account and accidently messaging a friend saying \"hey. oops im logged in on the wrong account\" from the account that was talking to me. I tried to confront her but she would leave for hours at a time and come up with excuses like \"my phone fell into the toilet (she was texting me on snapchat???)\" and would come up with another lie. I told all my friends about this out of fustration at a. betrayal of trust (I didnt share anything especially sensitive but if it had kept going i dont know how much i would've said), b. raising my hopes unnecessarily and c. lying to me. One of my friends asked her why she did it and she messaged me a long tirade telling me i didnt need to take vengeance for it, etc. In general she's now trying to victimize herself and telling me that it's only between me and her and that I had no right to tell other peopke . Am i the asshole for telling my friends that she catfished me (i also told them because they'd seen my texts with the \"guy\" before i realised it was a catfish so I also kinda felt the need to clear that up) ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yoOC05EylwqAQybA5QPFt1MkiS1cN4pE", "post_id": "9wfdpa", "action": {"description": "expecting an explanation from my ex while she wants to be left alone", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for expecting an explanation from my ex while she wants to be left alone?", "text": "Me and my GF broke things of in June. It was a pretty toxic break-up. I acted like an idiot because I had a hard time moving on, she said some pretty awful shit. \n\n​\n\nFlash-forward two weeks ago: we start talking again. To my surprise she\u2019s being nice. She said that she regrets the things she said (hoping that I\u2019d die, not caring about me, regretting our time together). She wants to work things out together this time. She says that she still cares and has a soft-spot for me. For around 1.5 week we talked like nothing happened and to my surprise, we really had a good time catching up. I wasn\u2019t expecting us to become friends again, but I did expect us to end things in a normal way this time. \n\n​\n\nLast thursday, out of nowhere, she texts me that \u201cafter tomorrow, I want to break contact and never speak to eachother again.\u201d and she immediately deleted me on all social media. I really didn\u2019t see that one coming and  didn't understand any of it. When I asked for an explanation, she wouldn\u2019t give me one. She expected me to promise to never speak to her again, I said I couldn\u2019t make such a promise so she called me \u2018a fucking weak person\u2019, we ended up having a discussion about how things were going and we haven\u2019t talked since last saturday. \n\n​\n\nAITA for expecting an explanation, for not making such a promise and for not directly listening to her when she said that she wants to break all contact again? I honestly really can't tell. I understand that she wants to move on, but imo this isn't the way to do so. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ymMZtHwpi9e6ASBrvoGRiRjfNQ01SuXc", "post_id": "9zimu9", "action": {"description": "not spending Thanksgiving with my family", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Not Spending Thanksgiving With My Family", "text": "I'm 16, my parents are divorced, and I have a license and a car. How our holidays work is we switch off every year, but my dad doesn't celebrate Thanksgiving (on the grounds that he hates most of the food, but we still sorta get together with my grandmother) so I spend every Thanksgiving with my mother.\n\nI've been a vegetarian for a majority of my life, mainly because I hate meat and so I cut it out of my diet completely. It's been about 10 years since I've eaten anything with meat in it on purpose. This is relevant to the story because I don't feel like my dietary preferences are respected during Thanksgiving. Almost everything has meat in it. I'm left with mashed potatoes and bread, and I really don't like the texture of mashed potatoes either so I'm stuck with bread. I've tried to discuss with my mother, but she doesn't really respect my diet either, and her family thinks it's just a phase. On top of that, her family is extremely Catholic. That alone doesn't bother me, but I'm gay, and they're very homophobic. They don't know I'm gay yet, but it still gets really uncomfortable.\n\nMy friend Logan, who is vegan invited me to his house for Thanksgiving. His family likes me and they are respectful of his veganism, so there's a lot of vegen food there. There's fake meat (which I don't like either) but they also just have normal food that happens not to contain meat or meat substitutes. Naturally, this was appealing and I told my mom that I'd prefer to go to Logan's house for Thanksgiving because I feel my diet is better respected there.\n\nShe told me the usual, that I was a kid and not supposed to make those kinds of choices, that there is still food I can eat (but as mentioned before, she means mashed potatos and bread), and that I should cherish and spend time with my family. I want to enjoy Thanksgiving, but I just don't feel like I'm respected or being listened to at all. She wanted to make me go with, but I just drove to Logan's house anyways. The food was great, and I felt genuinely welcomed. His family didn't really mind that I was there.\n\nIm currently typing this from my dad's house, as I ended up feeling guilty and didn't want to face my mother again. I know I shouldn't have just left, but I just felt really frustrated.\n\nI just want to know if I'm the asshole. Should I have just listened to my mother and dealt with it for another year? Or were my actions reasonable?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8VsKk2AVQ3fFp4r4o9Eho97zRVcMHiUV", "post_id": "a4zqxk", "action": {"description": "cutting off my friend for seemingly minor reasons", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I cut off my friend for seemingly minor reasons?", "text": "So I just discovered this subreddit and thought I would ask this question because its one that I have been wondering about and my family isn't really objective because they will simply take my side. I had this friend in high school that I would constantly go to parties with and play video games with and we had a similar sense of humour but I really didn't like him for a number of reasons:\n\n​\n\n\\- He would always need money. He would want me to buy him food, he would need me to buy him cigarettes (I hate smoking so this really pissed me off) and he would also want me to give him money so he could buy weed. It got to the point where he owed me at least 200 dollars. Remember, this is high school, money is scarce and every amount of it I had, my parents are asking what I did with it. It pissed me off that I would be decent enough to give him some of the money my parents would allow me to have to spend on things I wanted and he would never pay me back and joke about how he never would like it wasn't a serious issue for me.\n\n​\n\n\\- He would take advantages of privileges my parents would afford me and ruin them. An example is that my dad would let me use his car every so often but it cam under the condition that I treat the car with respect and this friend would constantly insist on smoking cigarettes in the car and would light up without asking first. I got in trouble multiple times because of this and had car privileges revoked. He would also say we should just smoke weed in the car and then drive back to one of our places like driving under the influence wasn't a big deal. What if a bunch of intoxicated 16-17 year olds get pulled over by the police while high out of our minds. My license would get taken away and he didn't seem to care. Just do it! Whats the big deal??? And he would act like I was being a bitch about these things.\n\n​\n\n\\- He wanted to smoke weed every day. I am someone who has a bit of an addiction problem with weed. If I smoke it every day, my grades tank, I start putting on serious amounts of fat, and generally become a less functioning person but he insists on smoking it. \n\n​\n\nSo basically what I did was continue the friendship until graduation and then when I didn't need to see him again, I cut all contact and never spoke to him again. He would continue texting me for a few weeks after that wondering what was going on but I didn't respond. I just ghosted him hard and I feel bad about it sometimes. But I've barely smoked week since and lost 40 pounds and put on a bit of muscle. My grades in University were actually similar to those in high school which is unheard of. I'm just a better person and many of the goals in my life couldn't be achieved while catering to the type of lifestyle he insisted on if we were to continue hanging out. I don't really have any friends from high school though because they decided to stick with him rather than me. My relationships with my parents has improved drastically though and I've made better friends since. Maybe I should have handled breaking off the friendship differently. I don't know. I do know that he was not good for me. Am I the ass hole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KRE6Gwfhx1JDfQo9f56C7gWDMDD9qqmB", "post_id": "awj880", "action": {"description": "not tipping the pizza guy when they constantly forget my extra sauce", "pronormative_score": 33, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA if I don't tip the pizza guy when they constantly forget my extra sauce?", "text": "TLDR at bottom. I used to work at both Pizza Hut and Papa John's and can barely stomach their food anymore, so whenever I get pizza delivery it's Domino's 99% of the time. When I order, I always order several of the extra cups or sauce. I don't expect it for free, I'll gladly pay for it if I can get the dinner i want. I use a lot of sauce on my food and also keep extras in the cabinet for home cooking and when they forget my sauce. I'm not gonna be an asshole and make them drive back to the store and back to me all for 1 garlic sauce for no extra tip, but after a while I get tired or having my order wrong.\n\nThe problem is, over 50% of the time they miss one or more of the extra sauces I paid for. Even after I ask the delivery person if they got all the sauces, they will still be missing or wrong. It got the point to where I've called the store and talked to the manager, he assures me it won't happen again and it does. So I started telling the drivers the next time they forget my sauce they won't be getting a tip. Now I used to be a driver too, so I know sometimes you forget things or the person on cut table didn't put the sauce in the box like they said they did. So I started putting in the driver instructions that I won't tip them if they forget my sauce. Nothing else I say or do seems to help. So last night, it happened. I ordered 11 extra sauces. I ask the driver when he gets there if he got all my sauce, he hands me a bag. Normally that's where I tip them but after getting it wrong so many times, I have to check. So I open it and check them, not only is the total count short by 2, missing 1 of the marinara cups and the only cup of icing for the dessert, all 4 cups that were supposed to be mango habanero were instead ranch that I ordered zero of. So out of 11 sauces I ordered and paid for, I only got 5 of them correct. \n\nBeing an ex driver myself, I didn't want it to come to this. But it had gone too far. I handed him back the ranch that I didn't order and told him I won't be tipping because the sauces were wrong yet again and that next time if they wanted a tip, my order should be correct.\n\nTLDR. I always order and pay for extra sauce with pizza, they have gotten my order wrong so many times I won't tip anymore if even 1 item is wrong or missing. Am I The Asshole?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 33, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 33, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dodY9nakSYv6i4QS5CmiGQYUZdaAHGLr", "post_id": "acuwxw", "action": {"description": "not giving my son his x-box giftcard", "pronormative_score": 51, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not giving my son his x-box giftcard?", "text": "I'm holding the x-box giftcard my 14 year old got for christmas because he is failing math. He's failing math because he spends all his spare time on fortnight instead of doing his online homework. Grades in his other classes have been dropping as well, for the same reason; zeros for homework assignments. \n\nI would really like to know the opinions if other students.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 50, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 51, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1UUdePBDmmxQGQbOiIfebnpvPmB9GSi9", "post_id": "b85mrl", "action": {"description": "not wanting to give my friend my number", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to give my friend my number?", "text": "Okay, I know that this isn\u2019t on the more extreme side of this subreddit, but I still need to know if I\u2019m the A-hole here.\n\nFor some context, for many years it\u2019s just been me and my best friend. We have tons of things in common and we\u2019re inseparable. I was never opposed to having more friends but that never really happened. Her and I message each other after school (not constantly) but we don\u2019t really bring it up in real life.\n\nOnto the rest of it. Recently someone else just kind of forced their way into our friendship. It\u2019s not that I dislike them for that, but their overall vibe and personality is what makes me dislike them. Sometimes it\u2019s fine, the day goes on nicely, no problem. Other times not so much. We don\u2019t argue or fight but I still get put off by everything.\n\nI\u2019ve dealt with it so far and I won\u2019t have to see her again at the end of the year, so it\u2019s cool, I\u2019ll just put up with it and then it\u2019ll all be over.\n\nUntil recently she started bugging me for a phone number to message me when we\u2019re not together in real life. I usually joke about it a bit and it naturally moves into another topic, but I know I can\u2019t avoid it forever. I honestly can\u2019t tell if I\u2019m the A-hole here or not. So, tell me, Reddit. AITA for not wanting to give a \u201cfriend\u201d my phone number? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "msFOZm7suGvfqadt9Pz20LftZtyIAdjQ", "post_id": "atsgj0", "action": {"description": "not wanting to visit my parents anymore", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to visit my parents anymore?", "text": "Growing up, my parents always took care of me, materially. I had a safe home, well fed, toys I wanted, etc. But they have always been emotionally distant, my dad especially. I know he had a tough childhood and his father was abusive. He worked a well paying but extremely physically demanding job, and even as a kid I understood that and realized that was why he didn\u2019t really spend ~~much~~ any of his time off with me. I\u2019ve always been a little closer with my mom. I could at least confide in her some and and we spent some time together doing things here and there. But we never could talk about anything too deep. She gets offended so easily. I always felt they have never really been all that interested in what I\u2019m doing or what I\u2019m in to. They were always like, do whatever you want, just don\u2019t get into trouble. \n\nI always longed for some kind of approval from them. I excelled in school, won awards for my art, I now own my own business, nothing seems to interest or impress them. They are super religious and I am not, btw. Their religion is the most important thing in their lives.\n\nAfter I moved out, and for many years, I would always go visit them about weekly, but for the past couple years, I have just stopped. Except for birthdays and holidays, I don\u2019t visit anymore. I just don\u2019t want to. It feels like work. We have nothing in common. Talk is so superficial, and short, and they just turn back to the tv after a few minutes of visiting. I just feel like a lonely kid again and I always leave kinda bummed. I don\u2019t even call anymore. They never call or visit me either. (They never did, it was always expected that I would call/visit them.)\n\nI honestly feel happier now, with this distance.\n\nStill, I feel a little guilty. Do I expect too much from them? Am I an entitled snowflake? My mom has asked a few times why I don\u2019t come by anymore, and I just say I\u2019m too busy. I don\u2019t know how to tell her how I really feel. She has said I need to visit, to show respect, for they raised me, and they love me and want to see me, but I just don\u2019t feel it. So, am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kSfRyPV43O3n5xRxe5rV5u1PuFPvZHNL", "post_id": "a267jf", "action": null, "title": "AITA Michael Rappaport vs Instagram reminds me of this...I got banned from a BBS because an asshole thought a medical term was a racial slur.", "text": "So a long time ago, I made a joke on a bulletin board than an Asian actor looked \"mongoloid.\" Mongoloid is a medical term for \"a person with Down's Syndrome.\" I was reported and my post deleted for \"being racist and insulting to people from Mongolia.\" Long story short, I fought, I gave a list of medical journals and articles, and I got banned.\n\nThen, what pissed me off more is the actor in question is not Mongolian. \n\nPs. My comment was along the lines of \"The little girl from Modern Family distracts me because she looks mongoloid.\"", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "jm7oDISyixrUmFKr0qt0KF8pSJa7UfKH", "post_id": "9y42ul", "action": {"description": "not wanting kids", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting kids? (M21)", "text": "Idk I'm 21 and I've never really wanted kids. Its a huge responsibility lul", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "if233BAB8AgrzgOMNMnDUxUPEzQWIwv9", "post_id": "b2dkiq", "action": {"description": "being upset with my internet friend for visiting me", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset with my internet friend for visiting me?", "text": "So I\u2019ve had this friend for many years but we\u2019ve never met in person. Earlier this year, my boyfriend and I decided to move out of state (finally gonna have our own place!). Although we talked theoretically about visiting, my friend and I never actually made any plans. Then, out of the blue, she sent me screenshots of tickets out to my city! \nTurns out, she was planning on staying for a whole entire week. However, she didn\u2019t consult me on this at all and already told her parents that she\u2019d be staying with me (I live with my big family, it\u2019s really difficult to accommodate somebody since there\u2019s already so many of us). So here I am, already trying to plan an out of state move, and now I have to entertain her. She insists on certain experiences that I just CAN\u2019T afford right now (and I told her that). On top of that, after going out and spending money on one of those said experiences (in which my new meds fucked me up and I felt sick but she wanted to keep adventuring), I was absolutely exhausted and wanted nothing more that to relax in my own bed and play my own games. But when I said this, she flat out told me that I COULDN\u2019T play because she was going to play instead. Also, I went out for a bit to gather some stuff from storage and she went through all the stuff in my room and decided what of my stuff to keep and what to toss/give away (I did not ask her to do this). She even tossed some of my tax documents. Don\u2019t get me wrong, I\u2019m happy I got to meet her and we did have fun times, but this is also seriously stressing me out because I really wanted to spend this time organizing, packing, and spending time with my family. I had no idea she\u2019d be coming until it was too late. So here I am, trying to decompress so I can talk to her about it. But AITA for being a bit frustrated about all this? \nTLDR; an internet friend came to visit without consulting me but I\u2019m short on money and in the middle of trying to move. She insists on expensive, time consuming tourist experiences while I just want to spend time saying goodbye to my family and friends. She doesn\u2019t respect my personal space. AITA for being frustrated?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "w1jWxsbS05k7TZedKTyqwq7tbJMVN0m5", "post_id": "9vqd6o", "action": {"description": "thinking that someone who is a trans-female should not be able to participate in female sports", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for thinking that someone who is a trans-female should not be able to participate in female sports", "text": "Sorry for triggering anyone with this, I just truly want to know if this makes me an asshole. So why I ask this is because I believe that no matter how many surgeries or hormones you take, it is in there biology that they are men/boys and if they participate in female sports they will surpass all other women because they aren't women. Any long story short AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ydMMSLTWazVhI2wxVXYoUfW8SVFpbhZA", "post_id": "ax3f9a", "action": {"description": "not giving my mom my ssn", "pronormative_score": 34, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not giving my mom my SSN#?", "text": "I\u2019m currently 26 and live on my own in CA. I was born and raised in MA until a couple of years ago when I decided to move out. Anyways, my father passed away since I was 17 and since then, my mother signed me off as independent and took me off her health insurance. She told me everything last minute. \nShe hasn\u2019t exactly been there for me growing up either. When I turned 18, she told me to live on my own and she will find a place for just her and my brother. Growing up since then, I\u2019ve been on my own financially. She\u2019s barely helped me grow up into the person I am, asked me for money all the time and she\u2019s never helped me get my license. I used to ask her to help me practice to get my license and she\u2019d say no. I also asked for help financially on driving classes but she refused to help. Since then, I accomplished everything else on my own. I used to be jealous of people my age back then who would graduate earlier than I did. Couldn\u2019t really afford school because I couldn\u2019t afford to be in debt. \n\nBefore moving into a different house, she asked me for my SSN so I can become head of the household and take care of the bills. Mind you, I was 18 at the time and wouldn\u2019t be able to afford anything, and I\u2019m sure my credit score will be ruined. But she would cover it up saying that it won\u2019t affect me if the house is under my name. Later I found out she asked me for my SSN because she filed for bankruptcy. Of course at the time I said no because I did my research on what could happen if the house was put under my name. \n\nA couple of days ago, she texted me for my SSN. I asked her for what reason. She said \u201cI don\u2019t need a reason just need your SSN\u201d and I said \u201cNope, I need a reason for this. \u201c we haven\u2019t talked since. Am I the asshole? \n\nSince I moved, we also barely talked. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 34, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 34, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "55drW1sWduOavLkBs7fhOKjkthtOsSjh", "post_id": "a7f94c", "action": null, "title": "AITA for how I reacted to my in laws following my son's death", "text": "Not sure if this is the right sub but I needed to tell my story and get an unbiased opinion. Using a throwaway account as I am not interested in Karma and the details are very private so I wish to remain anonymous. Warning this is long, as I am a very detailed person. This is just one issue in a very hard year, as there is much more.\n\n​\n\nTo start off I guess, my son is dead. My little boy was 13 months old. A pillar of health. We cherished and looked after that boy with all we had. His perfect on Tuesday and Dying on Wednesday, and passed 7 days later. This is a whole other story unto itself.  I got along well enough with my in-laws. my mother-in-law acts very immature and erratic. My wife told her mom used to an alcoholic. As I got more confident in my relationship with my wife I told her \"I think your mom might have alcoholic brain damage\"\n\nWhere I need help is this...\n\nMy son needed emergency surgery as his brain, for unexplained reasons, was swelling. They had to remove part of his skull to allow for the expansion. My parents arrived within an hour of my call. My in-laws (whom this post is about) arrived much later even though they live 30 mins closer.\n\nMy in-laws left as quickly as they arrived. My parents however stayed.  They slept on waiting room coffee tables waiting to hear if our little boy would live. He made it through that first surgery, only to pass away the day after mother's day.\n\nMy parents never left our side. Even though they had brought no clothes or supplies. My in laws on the other hand did not reappear until it was time to say goodbye. My mother-in-law arrived in Pajama shorts and a t shirt that was too small to hid her girth. She began to ask the nurse if they ever treated any murders.\n\nAs we took our time saying our goodbyes, she noisily played games on her iPad.\n\nThe nurses arranged it so we could take him outside one last time even though he was on life support. You see our son rarely cried but whenever he did we simply took him outside. It cheered him up instantly. Being outdoors was his favorite place in the world.\n\nMy wife went first, and held him one last time beneath the stars to say goodbye before I even had my turn my mother in law asked us to hurry up. I was furious. I told her in he calmest voice I could muster \"leave\". I meant for her to go home. She took it as permission to go inside. She stopped to clarify and I just said \"Go!\"\n\nWe brought my son back inside and they disconnected him from the machines that kept him alive. It was the hardest thing ever. (I have been diagnosed with depression, severe anxiety and PTSD and I am on anti-depressants as a result.)\n\nWhile we were waiting for him to pass on he slowly was turning grey my mother in law decided to clean up his hospital room. Problem with that is as you know she wasn't there, so the stuff she was throwing out was our paperwork from the social worker for grief support etc.  My mom stopped her from throwing it out. While I yelled at her to stop. All the while my father-in-law and sister-in-law sat there doing nothing with annoyed looks.\n\nWhen he was finally gone, my wife had to wait for the nurses to remove him from her arms, which is quite difficult as he was limp. My mother-in-law left immediately. When my wife got up she asked crying \"where is my mom? I need a hug\".\n\nWe did not see or speak to my in laws for 2 days. We couldn't bear the hurt on top of the grief. I decided to clear the air and invited just my father-in law for lunch. He arrived and made idle chit chat and then got up to leave. I said what about lunch? He said he needed to get home. We told him to wait; we needed to discussed somethings.\n\nWe described how hurt we were by my mother in laws behavior and he said she just didn't cope well. We said we would do our best to understand, but while we are sorting out our feelings please ask her not to disturb us, and also if she is struggling that she has the option not to come to our son's visitation, we would understand. His response was \"well I guess I'll go home and kill myself\".\n\n​\n\nI have no clue what he said to my mother-in-law. Next thing we know she phones and says \"I hear you are upset with me. TOO. FUCKING.BAD. I won't be at the visitation.\" 'Click'\n\nI was furious. I feel like I had just failed as a father, I was not going to fail as a husband. I immediately called her back and tore her a new one. Her response was \"I am not going to talk to you if you are going to use that language\".\n\nI said \"Fuck you! you don't get to swear at my grieving wife and then claim some kind of moral high ground!\" She hung up on me. She immediately phone my wife who has said and done nothing at this point. She calls my wife a fucking bitch and hangs up. She begins to phone us every 2 seconds. The she starts sending threatening texts that she will harm us.\n\nI call my father-in-law and told him to get things under control or I am calling the police. He begged me not to call the cops and took away her phone.\n\nThe calls stopped.\n\nWe did not receive any support from my wife's family. They did not attend any events prior to his Visitation. My father in-law showed up late to my sons visitation in cargo shirt and an old golf shirt.\n\n​\n\nA few days pass. I call my wife's aunt who I have gotten to know a little as they are not a close family.\n\nI asked her for some perspective on the my mother-in law. She said they had a falling out over 20 years ago. The aunt had apparently cancelled a sleep over between my wife and her cousin. The cousin didn't want to go anymore.\n\nMy mother-in-law told the aunt \"I hope you die\". She then drove over to their home knocked on the aunt's door and told her again face to face \"I hope you die\". Apparently My wife's family disappeared for 3 years. the extended family had no idea where they were.\n\nThen we spoke to my Wife's grandmother. She told us that my mother in law was diagnosed as bi-polar years ago and has a history of violent behavior, including smashing the grandmother in a car door, repeatedly.\n\nThe grandmother says re-iterates that they lost track of my wife and in-laws whereabouts for 3 years. She feared that she would be violent towards my wife. My wife broke into tears saying that her mother had beaten her repeatedly in her drunken stupors.\n\n​\n\nNow we have a clearer picture. my Mother in-law is mentally ill.\n\nMy father-in-law knew this and hid it from his children. He knew how unstable his wife was and still brought her to the hospital. He completely mismanaged the situation by keeping everyone in the dark. My wife asked him very respectfully for a break in communication(advice from her therapist) as she needed to heal and her family was hurting more than helping.\n\nIts been a few months and we finally heard from him again. I have copy and pasted his email below\n\n \"I hope you are doing well, you are always in my thoughts. I'm   \nwriting this email because we really need your help with mom.  \nShe has been in the psych. ward in the Brantford hospitable twice, once   \nfor 6 days and then for over 2 weeks.  \nThe root of this problem was her reaction to Luca's passing and how her   \nreaction to this was treated. As her therapist says, everybody reacts to   \ndeath differently and no two people grieve the same. I think it would be   \nhealthier if you two could\u00a0 get past this and start a healing process.  \nAt the present your mother is sliding back into her very depressed   \nstate, brought on by two things: the absence of Lucas and the absence of   \nher eldest daughter. She said this to her therapist at her latest session.  \nI'm sure mum miss's you and thinks of you often but is nervous to reach   \nout to you as you may not be ready for this.  \nMoms therapist is very concerned with your moms mental state so........I   \nthink a phone call or set up a visit ( just you ) to see if you two can   \nreconnect at some level, even if it's meeting at a coffee shop or at   \nmom's therapist's office. Whatever you are both comfortable with.  \nIt may or may not work but I see this as a good viable option to whats   \ngoing on now.  \nSo, mull this over and please let me know if us getting together is a   \npossibility. We would really like it to be.  \nLove Dad. \"\n\nIn her response my wife told him everything we had learned and pointed out how he had failed as a father, including this email which was void of fatherly concern for her well being. She did offer to meet with mother in laws therapist, if it would help.\n\nHis response was \"Sorry to have disappointed you. Have a nice life!\"\n\nI was furious with this email. Not only did he not care about my wife's mental state, he did not try to reestablish communications first before making an ask.\n\n​\n\nMy wife has made the decision she is done with her parents. I have supported her decision as they have been toxic to both our recovery.\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 69, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 70, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3XxANHRRhatuk5dyAuTiXco3BXNT26Co", "post_id": "a1daq8", "action": {"description": "calling someone a \"degenerate\"", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for calling someone a \"degenerate\"", "text": "Ok so this happened several months ago. To preface, I was not having a good day. A bunch of things had gone wrong that day and I was running fairly late for an appointment with my therapist. I was not in a good mood. \n\nI was riding on the  subway when two guys walk into my train car. One of them seemed fine but the other was holding a bottle of vodka and couldn't stand up straight. It was pretty obvious this guy was very drunk. He became annoying very quickly as he started ranting about nonsense to his friend. Although he hasn't harassing anyone he was just generally being rude and annoying and combined with all the other shit that had gone down that day, I was pissed off. I took my phone out and I wrote a message in one of my discord groups complaining about my situation. \n\nI then somewhat jokingly wrote in reference to the drunk guy \"what a degenerate\". Now I know that the word degenerate can have some rough connotations, so I just wanted to clarify that I didn't mean it in the way a nazi would use it, more of like the live in your mom's basement, NEET, piss in jars, sort of degeneracy. Anyways my friend in the discord chat basically called me out and said I was being unnecessarily cruel and an asshole. I was more surprised than anything because this is a guy is someone who usually doesn't care about what you say; you could spout every racial slur and swear word in the book and he wouldn't care. I pointed this out and said he was being hypocritical, because he had made fun of me for getting offended by language in the past. He argued that this was different because I was specifically targeting an individual. \n\nIn the end I apologized and he expressed sympathy as well. The drunk guy got off the train a few stops later, and everything was put behind us. However I keep remembering this incident for some reason and I just wanted to see if others agreed with my friend?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Qzp3JRiwBjVRKeEq7lWVRrAcajPGpSZx", "post_id": "awi60z", "action": {"description": "playing the door trick on younger siblings leading to them to choosing to walk", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA Playing the door trick on younger siblings leading to them to choosing to walk", "text": "I had to pick them up, I forgot where my car was so I walked in the opposite direction. They laughed and told me where the car was ( they could see it from the door). I, still in the playful mindset, did the door lock thing ( lock the door when they touch the handle) so the older one (11) of them decided they'll walk. I thought they were joking but watched them walk. I drove up to them and let them play the handle again, they walked away laughing. I drove again and got out the car, I was kind of done by then because I start feeling sick. I asked if they were going to get in and they said no and walked off again. They had cross a busy street to get to the other side to the neighborhood, I doubted the younger one(8) could do it but couldn't do much about it. I tried parking near the light but couldn't so parked at the elementary school further away. My mom drove pass and I told her they were walking and she blew up on me saying that I wanted people to go to jail.  Let me note that even kindergartners walk home because are neighborhood has two elementary schools and a middle school. She drove to pick them and I drove behind her, she got them and did the whole pointy angry finger thing. When I got home she acted like nothing happen but later I heard she plans to take the car away so I have to find a way to get to uni after spring break.\n\nThe story the kids are telling everyone is that I refused to drive them and they were forced to walk home which isnt possible considering they were laughing and joking the whole time. My mom doesn't want to hear my side and now i'm stuck. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "oZZPzsNe1IUmniK157fTViOemE9zkwJf", "post_id": "ahv9f3", "action": null, "title": "AITA Anxious friend being overly needy or am I a bad friend?", "text": "I have a friend who lives about 30 minutes away from me. He doesn't drive due to his anxiety, but he has a car. \n\nWe go to school together, and the school is pretty nearly right between our houses. Say 15 minutes away from me, 15 away from him. \n\nI know he has a lot of friends who live closer to him, who he normally got rides from before he met me. I've always been service-minded, so when he asked me (2 days in advance, which I found reasonable) to give him a ride to school one morning at 8am for an event, I agreed even though I had work in the opposite direction from the school at 9am. I did this to help him out, especially because I didn't think he would be able to find anyone to help him out that early in the morning. This trip for me was a total of 70 minutes (work is 10 minutes away from my house, had to get him there early so that I could make it on time).\n\nEver since, he has been asking me for rides everywhere. We only have class at the same time once a week, but every week he asks me to drive him home (30 minutes out of my way because 15min there and 15min back, plus regular commute time). Once he even asked if we could both leave class early to get food, which I declined.\n\nHe doesn't have a job due to his anxiety, so he can't buy his own lunch and often asks me to take him to get food and then to pay for him. He also can't offer to contribute to gas for this reason. \n\nTLDR Anxious friend who lives in opposite direction of school from me asks me for rides and food but can never pay me back. \n\nI'm trying to be understanding, but I'm losing patience with him. Is he acting entitled or am I not patient enough with his mental illness?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AttJyhv4VE7osX4eHBlmiNaJT4QveWu8", "post_id": "b0xjx2", "action": {"description": "getting angry with my parents for using the money I got from selling my games", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for getting angry with my parents for using the money I got from selling my games", "text": "So my tablet broke for absolutely no reason. Just stopped turning on. I only got it in 2017. It doesn't charge anymore. It's essentially one big brick. My parents said it was my fault and they won't get me a new one until my birthday in October. Like hell I'm waiting till then just to get a replacement. I told them to bring over half of my PS4 games to CeX (it's a place where you can sell games). I couldn't go myself because you have to be 18 to sell stuff there. Anyways I wanted to get an iPad Mini 2. It's not that great but I just needed a tablet replacement. My tablet was the key thing I used to study and had all my notes. The iPad Mini 2 was about 150 on eBay. Anyways my parents sold the games and I got more than 150. Happy days. They told me they would put the money in my account and I bought the iPad in the morning. The iPad has been shipped and I should he getting it tomorrow\n\nBut the thing is when I got home for school they told me they used the money for insurance and they would put the money in my account next month. I was shocked. I don't even know how I was able to buy the iPad without the money in my account but I just checked my account and know it says direct debit unpaid of 150. I think I have debt in my account now and I told them and they said it was my fault for buying it. How is it my fault? I sold my games to replace it and they used the money for it and now there is a debt on my account", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 21, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KHLbgjXxd7swCeJ9nUJbcCc1y8INmKlt", "post_id": "9x8b2u", "action": {"description": "telling a girl I want to fuck her while I was fucked up", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for telling a girl I want to fuck her while I was fucked up?", "text": "this girl let\u2019s call her lila she\u2019s been one of my best friends since I was 14 and we\u2019ve been through a considerable amount of bullshit together. fast forward to now, me and my girlfriend have been dating for a year and a half now and I love her more than anything. I also have a xanax problem. the other day I took a particularly large amount of xanax and texted lila saying we should fuck, now, even in my barnyard mode this was semi-ironic because she lives on the other side of the country as me now. however my gf is really really mad and that\u2019s understandable but she thinks I have to choose between her and one of my closest friends and I need to block her and completely cut her off, and I won\u2019t. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "LYOVaJwUSRdrVxoxXUAnm6qZjSGQeKNJ", "post_id": "9x35py", "action": {"description": "not wanting to lose money", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to lose money", "text": "My ex and I are still good friends after having broken up over a year ago, we are both weed smokers although I do smoke a bit more than her. I usually buy a larger quantity to get a better overall price and split it up to last accordingly. She asked me to sell her some, which I'll only do because she is a good friend. I told her that I'll give it to her at the same price I paid for it. She said she wanted a friend's rate to which I said that's the friend's rate is, no profit no loss. She argued that I should give her a better price and be willing to lose a little because we are good friends. I refused and said that's not how it works, it's not about the money(debating about 5$/10$) but the principal of the matter. Am I the Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uwdWr3ALEebtUq3eMxC2w6FV5nqSq07F", "post_id": "b7fozm", "action": {"description": "creating a private Instagram Account to post my college results as well as life updates", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For creating a PRIVATE Instagram Account to post my college results as well as life updates?", "text": "Hi everyone,\n\n​\n\nI recently got called out on my private instagram account for trying to harm other seniors at my school by posting my college results. I created the account around late February as a way of helping me remember the last few months of my high school career. I intended to post only my life updates, and it just so happens that college decisions happen to be a part of my high school career.  \n\n\nEarlier this week, I was accepted to my dream school, like the one I was longing to go to ever since I was 5. I shared my excitement in a post. Most of my friends were super happy for me, which is what a normal person would expect. However, there's one person who basically says that my posts serve only berate other students and essentially pour salt on people's wounds. I explained to them that what I'm doing isn't any different than sharing with your friends in person where you got in / where you're going to go. I also told them that if I wanted to cause damage to others, I would have just posted in on my main account. I just want to know, AITA for posting my college decisions on my private account, an account where people that are close to me choose to follow?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 22, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GJ0zZi9eg34nH2DZNxjFLezqFtEFcxzf", "post_id": "ahtp2a", "action": {"description": "not being thankful that my husband has shortened his trip to Canada so he can travel around the US with me", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not being thankful that my husband has shortened his trip to Canada so he can travel around the US with me?", "text": "I\u2019m genuinely unsure if ITA in this situation. Hubby and I have been planning a trip to the US and Canada. The plan we had been talking about for the past year is that we would travel in the US for 5 weeks and then I would go home while he travels Canada for 3 weeks alone.\n\nWell he\u2019s been doing so itinerary work and showed it to me yesterday and asked for my expectations of how many days we would be in LA. I said \u2018my understanding from what we discussed previously was that you wanted a relaxed holiday, but what you have here is really full on\u2019. That upset him a lot, he yelled at me and said I was just criticising all his hard work without letting him take me through it, and that i have no empathy for him.\n\nToday we were talking about it again and he said \u2018I\u2019ve compromised so much on this trip for you. If it were up to me we wouldn\u2019t even bother doing the US. Because of this, I now can only be in Canada for a week.\u2019 Well this was news to me because he had never said that, I had no idea! I told him he never mentioned that and that he really should go to Canada because he\u2019s been wanting to go since he was 15 and it was important to him so important to me, I don\u2019t want him doing the trip to the US for me if it means he misses out on something. And he blew up at me, he said \u2018no I want to do this, I just want you to recognise how I\u2019m giving up and compromising so much to do this with you.\u2019 \n\nI feel like I\u2019m being a wretched person for not being more thankful my husband wants to spend time with me, as I would have thought that\u2019s a given if he\u2019s choosing to do it? If not he can absolutely go to Canada if he feels like he\u2019s giving up so much. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "m1ujXAaR2aMNRWcG3tjMSqz6jC5e0f18", "post_id": "akc8yq", "action": {"description": "losing it with a depressed friend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for losing it with a depressed friend?", "text": "Well, \"losing it\" might be a bit harsh on myself, but I'm feeling a bit torn on this.\n\nI have a friend who has been involved with a cult that has been stalking him in the US. He fled to Mexico to pick himself up and I've been sending long messages of encouragement, suggesting books and ways to get him back on recovery for about 2 months now, since he's been saying he's felt suicidal. He's broke, so I sent him \u00a3150 to look after himself, even though I've been out of work for over 6 months and not exactly in a great place myself.\n\nHe was doing well until the cult started sending him messages again, and he said he's feeling suicidal again and hasn't tried cutting off contact with people hard enough so they don't reach him. He said he's going to cut contact off with me as well as a result, and if I want my money back, I just have to let him know. \n\nTo me this felt like a dick move, as I felt he's putting the decision on me to take the money back and leave him worse off, and to cut off contact with me just seemed ridiculous, as he's saying I'm the only person to pull through for him. I just can't grasp how that, and the loaning money (which I'd never see back again anyway, I knew) means cutting me off would be good for either of us.\n\nI get he's in a dark and paranoid place, but still. \n\nI sent him a reply saying he's going to sleep on it and feel like a dumbass for that message. He read it and didn't reply, so I asked him if he'd given up on the amateur dramatics. \n\nHe's now blocked me and kept the money. I never expected it back, and either way I want him to have it because he clearly needs it... But I don't know if I'm a dick for the messages I sent and not being a bit more understanding (I kind of exhausted myself on listening to him complain up until he decided to cut me off) or if he's just being really dishonorable here?\n\nI was suicidal 2 years ago and nobody was there for me, so I decided I'd try and be there for somebody else, but I never foresaw someone making it so hard.\n\nAm I the dickhead here? I even feel bad for thinking if someone is going to do something like that, they shouldn't put the pressure on the other person to decide what to do with the money, and if you're going to block and cut someone off like that, you shouldn't run off with their cash?\n\nI'm really confused whether I'm the asshole here? I think I am because of my expectations I might be projecting on him? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vwSy1ar8DJSRZZbonsXiI0gmGXGrlQNI", "post_id": "avajut", "action": {"description": "being annoyed with my room mate and her girlfriend and their constant PDA", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed with my room mate and her girlfriend and their constant PDA?", "text": "So I'm in college and live in an apt. I live with my best friend bf and a few other people. My best friend has been dating a girl for like 4-5 months. From day one her girlfriend basically moved in. They are always here and most of her stuff is here. Usually I don't mind bc I love her and her girlfriend. But, they constantly spend time with each other. She is here when my bf friends up, they drive to class together, eat every meal together. The only time they aren't in each other's company is when they're sleeping, showering, or in class. They do this weird little baby voice to each other constantly and it drives me up a wall. They are always kissing and touching and being cute but its ALL THE TIME. I know its not technically PDA bc its in our apt. but I feel like I'm third wheeling where I live. They only spend time with each other and the people they live with including me. They are so sucked into each other constantly that sometimes I'll be saying something but they ignore it bc they're whispering in their baby voices to each other. Maybe I'm just a cynical lonely person who need to let other people be happy. Am I an Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rg4TQZE091GGSi25kVG4nmED46ImxXzf", "post_id": "9yab77", "action": {"description": "kinda threatening to expose a plagiarizing \"artist\" on FB and now I'm considering doing it", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA: I kinda threatened to expose a plagiarizing \u201cartist\u201d on FB and now I\u2019m considering doing it...", "text": "This girl from my high school (we\u2019ll call her N) has been consistently posting pictures of art she says is hers for several years now. N also frequently posts about her \u201canimation internship with Disney\u201d and how awesome it is, We have a lot of mutual contacts, including old mentors, teachers, friends... and they all post supportive comments quite frequently. \n\nA couple years ago, I did a little digging and reverse image searched her stuff and found that almost all of it was not original. She just blatantly ripped it off the web.  When I discovered this, I made a burner account and messaged her my proof and told her to stop lying to everyone. I stopped short of threatening her but I told her the truth may come out eventually if she keeps this up. \n\nN proceeded to block the account and post that someone has been stealing HER work and she is looking into legal options. After this, I just dropped it and left it alone. \n\nFast-forward to now, N\u2019s online following has grown and her followers really eat up her success, her art, and her (obviously) fake stories that tug on people\u2019s emotions. She still continues to post plagiarized work but she\u2019s gotten better at hiding it but I just found more proof on recent stuff she has shared. \n\nI am tempted to message the respected people in our circle and \u201cexpose\u201d her because it\u2019s not right that they are being manipulated and lied to. I work in the creative industry and it really grinds my gears to see people blatantly do this. \n\nAt the same time, she is clearly obsessed and/or delusional and I\u2019m wondering if I should just leave her be considering there is a mental issue at play. \n\nAm I the asshole?\n\nAny feedback is appreciated!\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "O8bDMlx2vaWsxqgqmJLyobxjB74GSkvy", "post_id": "ba62aw", "action": {"description": "defending myself", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for defending myself? (Long)", "text": "so just a little background: i had a \"friend\" (L) who would constantly talk about me and how i shouldn't voice my opinions.\n\nwhenever i post things, it is suddenly always \"about her\" and she thinks i've said nasty things about her when i never did. well the other night a fb page posted about gordon ramsay and his son and this woman commented about how she was so pleased and happy for them. she also mentioned her son who had the exact same name that passed away. multiple people commented saying she was \"pissing on their parade.\" i responded with \"she's not, y'all are just insensitive and rude as hell.\" \n\nand of course someone (A) on my fb feed saw it and screenshotted it and decided he HAD to make a post about it. he deleted the post but said that sometimes people shouldnt voice their opinion and that im \"hearing this, but obviously not listening.\" i ended up complaining to my boyfriend about the post. i never mentioned L or A hating on me for my opinions but apparently L thinks i did. she texted during 8th period yesterday and this is how the convo went: \n\nL: \"So. I hate on you for your opinions now? Okay. I\u2019m sorry A said that. I had nothing to do with it. But you could\u2019ve kept my name out of it. Please don\u2019t ask me for a ride anymore.\"\n\nMe: \"i didnt say that?? where did you get that\"\n\nL: \"Someone told me exactly what you said this morning. Thanks for that.\"\n\nMe: \"what are you talking about\"\n\nL: \"You said something about people hating on your opinions, cough cough L and A.\"\n\nMe: \"who told you that?? i never mentioned your name.\"\n\nL: \"Ok.\"\n\nMe: \"oh but course you're gonna believe them. because you think im out to get you right?\"\n\nL: \"Yeah I believe them. Sorry. I\u2019m done. I can\u2019t handle this anymore.\"\n\nMe: \"i never fucking mentioned your name. but ok. we've known each other for years. i dont know why you would believe someone else over me. literally all i mentioned to alex (my boyfriend) was that A made a post and i was upset (which i have every right to be) and i never said anything about you or him hating on me for my opinions.\"\n\nshe looked at the messages, but never answered. someone is lying to her about me because they either hate me or are trying to get her fired up. AITA for defending myself to her? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "euNN7pV6MvFNXuLlbosKjXdw7ZsUFcbd", "post_id": "9zrzlo", "action": {"description": "cancelling my trip home for the holidays", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I cancelled my trip home for the holidays?", "text": " \n\nTL;DR at bottom.\n\nProbably one of many similar posts - I know it's never possible to give full details, but I'll try. My family suffers from a range of mental challenges/conditions/illnesses: ADHD, Aspergers, depression, substance abuse, gender identity, anxiety. Although miraculously none of the uglier symptoms present themselves around friends or guests, they all come out in the wash during family holidays. This year, the parents rented a cottage in the middle of nowhere, so we will all be stuck together with no place to go.\n\nThis Thanksgiving has been a foretaste of what I fear will happen come Christmas. In just the last two days, I've been through enough mental illness crap to make me not want to come for Christmas. One sister had a two-hour violent meltdown over playing MineCraft (she's 11) that resulted in my father having to restrain her about six times. The other has ignored the houseguest from Japan she brought home from college (who, unfortunately, has had to witness all this going on), and freaked out during a board game: there was some confusion over a move that did not involve her: my family tends to get loud and talk over each other and that triggered her anxiety which resulted in her throwing a fit and her game pieces and storming out of the house. Just today I was yelled at for 'always looking for an argument': my mother announced her intention to shut off the internet for several hours to install a new router and I observed that I (and the Japanese exchange student) were working on online classwork. I'm typing this expecting the internet to shut off at any moment - I retreated to a closed room to avoid further conflict over the issue.\n\nI have tried to adopt the perspective that my role is to be a peacemaker as much as possible (e.g, acquiescing to simple demands, being a kind host to this poor Japanese girl and just talking to her). However, this Thanksgiving has made me feel that I am horrible in that role. I will admit that their behavior does not always bring out the best in me - I do not take well to my sister hitting and kicking my parents or the dog, for example. I am fully aware that some of this behavior is beyond my family's control; however, it is frustrating to see it under control around friends/guests, but receive the full brunt of it over political discussions, or even stupid things like games. Part of the reason I'm considering cancelling my Christmas ticket is so I won't end up becoming one of several assholes over Christmas.\n\nI fully anticipate that between the various diagnoses and differences on politics and religion that there will be several shitshows come Christmas. However, this holiday is the one time of year my entire family gets together. We will also have a bit of extended family joining us, too. If I don't show, it will be noticed and talked about, and break my parents' and grandparents' hearts. I've also had to pay nearly $1000 for Christmas travel, which I will only get about $600 back in the form of travel vouchers if I cancel. I have no idea what the alternative would be, as I don't have another family to 'adopt' me for the holidays (e.g., SO).\n\nTL;DR: WIBTA for skipping family Christmas to avoid conflict aggravated by mental illness, knowing that it will hurt my family deeply if I don't come?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "poqF3UqBM3kkxx7xZT7hG6w9s2ZjNh2f", "post_id": "b016zw", "action": {"description": "throwing away my bathroom stuff after my parents left it with my plunger", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA because I'm throwing away my bathroom stuff after my parents left it with my plunger?", "text": "I just moved with my parents to a new state for medical reasons, and I'm still unpacking stuff for my bathroom. A box that I thought was just cleaning supplies turned out to contain my water floss machine, other dental supplies...and my plunger. Not wrapped in a seperate bag, not new and unused...my plunger, that was in my previous bathroom for years. Now I have to throw all the stuff away because of course, that's disgusting. \n\nSo should I feel bad that I'm going to throw away expensive bathroom stuff that's clearly plagued with germs?\n\nTLDR; Parents packed bathroom supplies with my not-at-all-new plunger.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "56rouM70FyWNNEyNLD2TX7vu9qO0pwv5", "post_id": "b6crhh", "action": {"description": "demanding my friend to apologize for making a joke about a project I've spent a lot of time on", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for demanding my friend to apologize for making a joke about a project I've spent a lot of time on?", "text": "I was assigned a project in one of my classes, where we get a board and make something out of it. I decided to make a shield. After a few hours of work, I was really happy with the way it turned out and decided to talk to my friend about it at lunch the next day. So lunch rolls around, and I bring it up in our conversation. He jokes and says \"You should've made it a Hylian shield. I thought for a second and got upset, since I was proud of it and put a lot of effort into making it look nice. Now he is mad at me for being upset at the joke, and I really don't know who is being the asshole here, me or him?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "F7MgBzKIPKsUlaHWnSbXXkal144PxNsv", "post_id": "avn1jv", "action": {"description": "being disappointed that my new friend is gay", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 19}, "title": "AITA for being disappointed that my new friend is gay?", "text": "I am a str8 guy in my early 30's, and let me just start by saying that I support the LGBT community and believe in equality. That's why the following situation kind of surprised me. Using a throwaway account because I'm not super proud of myself.\n\nSo before I continue, I need to tell you that I've always felt insecure about my looks, and my average height and average build - or even below average growing up. I've always had interest in sports and all things considered \"masculine\" but I've often been left out of matches, sporting events, bachelor parties etc because I've always tried fitting in with the more masculine tough guys, and although they've always been formally nice to me, I don't think anyone has ever seen me as their peer. I've learnt to accept it, but it's always been a mild frustration for me.\n\nSo about two and a half months ago I joined a new firm, and everyone has been pretty welcoming, inviting me over for a drink after work etc, but I've started noticing the same pattern. Guys playing sports over the weekend don't invite me, or don't take my comments about sports, or relationships etc seriously... Again the big guys have their own circle where I don't feel like I fit in. But there is this one guy who's been very friendly, helpful and overall did everything he could to help me adjust to the new environment. Now, this guy is about my age, maybe a few years older, everyone at the office likes him, he's a great worker, and physically he's very imposing, tall, good looking, well built... everything I've always wanted to be, and more than anyone I've known he's shown interest in my opinions about sports, politics, relationships etc, and he's invited me to matches, sporting events and such. I know it's childish, but this really made me feel like I was finally accepted into the \"boys club\" after feeling left out for most of my life, because I didn't look right, or wasn't tall enough, confident enough, or whatever it is that someone did or did not see in me.\n\nSo a few days ago we went for a beer after work, a couple of us colleagues, and after everyone else went home, my new friend and I talked about women and relationships for a while, and it turns out he's gay. I've never had a close gay friend, only a few good acquaintances I share with my girlfriend, and like I said earlier, I've always supported and respected the LGBT community. But I have to admit that I was kind of disappointed that this guy is gay, because I've always wanted to have at least one friend like him, who would share my interests and who would accept me as I am, but I always assumed it would be a str8 guy. Am I the asshole for being disappointed here, or am I just overthinking this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 19, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 19}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "VK4oCqZrFxicHPBGvdfrI6U0m4gI6XCr", "post_id": "amo24t", "action": {"description": "encouraging my 4y/o to push away another kid who keeps violently hugging her", "pronormative_score": 554, "contranormative_score": 19}, "title": "AITA for encouraging my 4y/o to push away another kid who keeps violently hugging her?", "text": "Just had a fight with my SO because of what I told our daughter about \"legit violence\". Going to roll the story out as short as possible.\n\nSo there's this kid in my daughters day care. He's the same age but often shows some strange behaviour. Overall he's a cool little brat and I actually like him for being somewhat rebellious, mostly because I think his parents are crazy helicopter parents. Anyway. My daughter told me that this kids greets her every day way \"too hard\" e.g. hugging her uncomfortably long and forceful. Sometimes he kisses her in this situation. She says that sometimes she laughs it off and thinks it's funny but sometimes she really doesn't want it and he won't stop even if she yells at him. I saw those \"greetings\" some times and know what she means. \n\nShe already told the teachers but they barely see it happen and the other kid won't stop it even after being told by the adults. \n\nSo basically I told my daughter that it's totally okay to push someone away in such a situation. I said if someone hurts her and won't stop even when she screams at him to do so, when the other kid forces kisses upon her and so on, it's absolutely fine to push him away. \n\nI watched her thinking for a few seconds, then she replied \"but he might push back or beat me if I do this\". I simply told her \"then you push him back again and/or run away and tell an adult\".\n\nMy SO overhears our conversation and told me I'd be wrong here. That it's always better to tell the teachers and not use violence at all. I said I didn't tell our daughter to beat random kids up (and we are very straight in raising our daughter concerning violence to other kids) but to use legit force in a situation where someone violently forces himself on her. I think our daughter is old and clever enough to recognize the difference.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 16, "OTHER": 512, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 42, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 554, "WRONG": 19}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vqB5wJ9dtjPbOoeLyFKGUmvoZBNMvClz", "post_id": "aje5fw", "action": {"description": "asking a manager to intervene", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for asking a manager to intervene?", "text": "I have a coworker who I only work with occasionally, she's fine I like her, but we're both working on a big project and part of it is editing which she's supposed to do. (I did the  bulk of the writing so this is a second set of eyes thing) I sent her the document last month with a scheduled January 15 date for return to me so I have time to make any changes. Last week she scheduled a call to talk about the edits on Tuesday of this week. I build in a few week buffer for myself so a week delay isn't a big deal. Then she rescheduled to Thursday (today) because she's got a minor surgical procedure and doesn't want to have to come into the office that soon. Again this is fine. Today she sends me a \"Hey I still can't come in, I have to reschedule for tomorrow afternoon.\" She has a quirk about sending the edits without a meeting and I usually just let her do her thing because the meetings are short. But now I'm getting irritated because this is turning into two weeks of delay and I'll be squeezed for time because of other projects. I know she has a medical issue, but I'm ready to ask her boss to intervene and just send me the document so I get started. Is that an asshole move?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "igIIBRxOtxgYcPi9cFM5EUrLTzhLY7NK", "post_id": "asgevt", "action": {"description": "rejecting my drug-addicted mother", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for rejecting my drug-addicted mother?", "text": "Long story short, my mom (I don't even remember her age at this point) has been an addict for as long as I (32M) can remember. \n\nThere has been plenty of times where she would strand my brother and I on the weekends when she was supposed to pick us up, leave us at school, sneak out of the house with her addict friends in the middle of the night, steal from the family, etc. The list is long. \n\nShe went to Florida for rehab probably a little over a year ago, and I was totally fine with her being far away and starting a new life. At least that was the hope. She would call me every now and then and I would answer, even though I had plenty of resentment. I'd let her see my daughter around Christmas time, as well. \n\nWell, she's back around my parts and running the streets again, stealing, the whole shabang. Since then, she has made several attempts to wedge herself back in our lives as if nothing has happened. \n\nI've completely had it. I won't answer calls, won't go to a family function if she might be there, and will not let her see my daughter. I don't see her being any better of a mother now than she has ever been. \n\nI feel in my heart I'm removing a piece of cancer from my family life, but a small part of me still feels a bit sad about it. Am I the asshole? \n\nTL;DR: My mother is a life long addict who has tried to come back into my life, but I've shut her out completely. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ThMx5MKFeTE44lLN5belyPN3ZJoteO15", "post_id": "b1wq51", "action": {"description": "not wanting to have sex with my wife", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA because i dont want to have sex with my wife?", "text": "I love her to the moon and back, and I don't want to live my life with anyone else, but I have an extremely low libido and I just don't like having sex. It's gross to me and it's just not fun. But I know she wants it and drops a lot of hints...apparently keeping a tally of how many times in the last year we've had sex. Even drops the \"i just take care of it myself\" line frequently. \nI hate that I'm this way...AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YPTFiu6GwldEJ6qeSzOTn0GuPBAMwQUe", "post_id": "ahm4b4", "action": {"description": "wanting to leave my parents", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting to leave my parents?", "text": "Note: I am genuinely not seeking validation here, and I understand my perspective is inherently biased. I just want to see what some people think of my situation and views\n\nI come from a family of what I believe to be toxic and abusive parents. There are too many details to wrap up in this one post, but basically they are very religious people, and do not approve of most of my choices. At home when I am around them, I have to become a different person and essentially lead a double life, which I find to be very taxing.\n\nAfter I graduate college and find a stable job I plan to cut them off, disconnecting any and every means of contact, essentially ghosting myself from them.\n\nI\u2019ve talked to both my brother and a few of my close friends about this and they all tell me that I\u2019m wrong for wanting to do so. They say that I\u2019m selfish for leaving because my parents have provided for me my entire life (financially, food, housing, etc.) and are now financing my entire college degree so that I don\u2019t have to take out loans. On top of that, my brother told me I would be tearing the family apart by leaving.\n\nIt\u2019s just that I hate my parents so much for being so abusive all throughout my life. Being around them just fills me with rage and makes my skin crawl. I don\u2019t know if maybe I\u2019m right, or maybe I\u2019m just fucked up.\n\nDo you guys think I\u2019m the asshole for wanting to leave? If there is not enough information, I will gladly answer any questions to the best of my ability.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3tUUGbnewnYi0kQjBMSbqCi5fUEcPFD8", "post_id": "ay75ki", "action": {"description": "going after a girl that rear-ended me and destroyed my car", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for going after a girl that rear-ended me and destroyed my car?", "text": "Posting from a throwaway. \n\nRight now I'm in college at a large western university. I have to park in a lot that is notorious for accidents. The stop to exit is at the bottom of a big hill coming around a blind corner and there is at least one rear end accident a month because people go too fast down hill and can't see that there's a car stopped there. \nThis is exactly what happened to me yesterday. I was waiting to exit onto the road and was absolutely slammed into which pretty much totaled my car. Thank god there's no injuries, I got very very lucky. \n\nSo here's where it gets weird and where I may very much be an asshole. When I got out there was this absolutely stunningly gorgeous girl looking over the damage and crying her eyes out and saying how incredibly sorry she was. I THOUGHT she was saying that she was distracted and had made a huge mistake and therefore assumed she was the driver. I told her that it was ok and that we'd let insurance cover it and maybe it wasn't that bad and that she really had nothing to be sorry for since accidents happen to all of us. We talked for maybe 2 minutes and I was in such shock that I had no idea what I said, she is now claiming that I said that I wouldn't call the police or even turn it into my insurance. I MAY have said that, but I don't think that I did...but honestly I was shaking so bad that I don't know what exactly I said. \n\nAfter I got done chatting with her another girl started to get out of the drivers seat. I was completely confused because like I said I assumed the girl I'd been talking to had been the driver but it turns out I was wrong. To put it mildly, the actual driver was not nearly as \"cute\" as the other driver was the first thing that I noticed. She was so obese that she was essentially stuck in the car and her friend went around to help her. And instead of crying or being sorry like the girl I thought was driving had been, the actual driver got out of the car and started screaming bloody murder at me about what an asshole I was to have been stopped there, how it was totally my fault, etc. I was so pissed I instantly called the campus police to have them come do a police report. \nBut because I had allegedly \"forgiven\" the girl I thought was driving, both of them started calling me everything from asshole to nice guy because they assumed I was willing to let the \"pretty\" girl slide on the accident. I honestly don't think I ever said that but I do admit I was much nicer to her which was partly based on her looks in total honesty, but so much more based on her attitude and not blaming me. the police found the driver at fault but even the officer gave me a dirty look when she found out what I allegedly said to the \"pretty\" girl.\n\nAm I the asshole for treating these girls differently and being much more congenial to the pretty girl than the way I'm going after the girl who actually caused the accident?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XvQPAVgWg50rhOH0yWeVYP6iMmMZowUe", "post_id": "b59hf0", "action": {"description": "telling a girl I know to stop posting so much about sex", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "WIBTA if I told a girl I know to stop posting so much about sex?", "text": "I know this girl from my school called Stacey. She and I are both 15. About 98% of the girls at my school are feminists and they believe in sexual liberty including myself, and her. She has an Instagram account, and I'd always see her post of wanting to have sex or jokes/pictures lifted off Tumblr about sex. Recently, she even posted a picture of her friend, Adi, and captioned each picture with shit like 'dickilious' and 'don't worry, I have those in my mouth all the time'. Another time, she posted a selfie and captioned it with 'I need a dick in me, right now!' \n\nShe once posted a picture of a girl wearing panties that read 'dinner's on me'. Another time she started making those bottom text memes, and all of them were hella provocative, with one saying 'get into bed and remove your clothes, now!'\n\nI'm all about being free with your sexuality, and talking about sex, but keep in mind she's 15. It feels inappropriate watching her post this stuff. But I also don't know whether me telling her not to would come off as wrong, because it is her profile and her posts, not mine. If I really am uncomfortable, I should just unfollow her, right? \n\nBut at the same time, I feel like it is wrong for someone her age to post stuff that says she needs a dick in her.\n\nI don't want to take any stupid actions that would make her angry and me seem overbearing.\n\nSo, WIBTA?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "wrqKjEDFoqfcuRaMr3cdGmmdlqr9cfVZ", "post_id": "b608jh", "action": {"description": "wanting to spray my ex's clothes with my perfume", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for wanting to spray my ex\u2019s clothes with my perfume?", "text": "So backstory, my ex broke up with me a few days ago. It was not mutual at all and I am devastated.  Personally I was really blind sighted by this, as I thought our relationship was going great and then he just out of nowhere said he had been praying about it and realized that God thought we should break up. I also prayed about our relationship (we\u2019re both fairly religious) and I felt like God was happy with our relationship. Anyway, he told me he\u2019s willing to talk about it in a few days, but he needs time. So I\u2019m thankful for that. \n\nHe\u2019s asked for his stuff back: his hoodie, some pairs of socks, this necklace he gave me for Valentine\u2019s Day, a stuffed animal he gave me for Valentine\u2019s Day, and his apartment keys. And he\u2019s asked that I grab my stuff: my acoustic guitar, a Phantom of the Opera mug, and some clothes I left at his place. I\u2019m going there tomorrow while he\u2019s in class because I can\u2019t really bear to see him yet. \n\nBut for some reason I feel compelled to spray his hoodie with my perfume. Right now it smells like him (and my tears but that\u2019s because I\u2019ve been a mess and I miss him a lot). I don\u2019t know why I want to do it. It feels manipulative. What do you guys think? Is it an asshole thing to do? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yWRYksihXeyz9LNQWV7waBh4FHVnUETJ", "post_id": "aztfnd", "action": {"description": "apologizing to my ex", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I apologize to my ex", "text": "Okay, right off the bat; I'm the asshole in the context of this, but I'm looking for forgiveness from her and I'm wondering if *that* would be an asshole move.\n\nSo about a year ago I broke up with my first serious girlfriend (we were together a year and a half). It was most definitely not a clean breakup, and it all went down in flames. In one of our last arguments (over text), she told me that while we were talking about getting back together she had already hooked up with this one other guy. After that, she gave my number to him and he started trolling my social media and insulting me, my family, and my friends while alluding that my ex told him a bunch of secrets I told her when we were together, and started rattling off on some sensitive things.\n\nThis pissed me off, and in retaliation I told him he should stop wasting his time talking to me and go fuck my ex, because she's \"easy\" and immediately sent him a bunch of explicit images of her she had sent me. They weren't nudes, as she was fully clothed, but they were provocative pictures of her in her underwear and making semi-sexual poses. This is something I know would immensely embarrass her and they both blocked me after that.\n\nMonths later, I have a new SO and my ex tries to get in touch with her. She says that she's been going to therapy and her therapist supposedly told her to get in touch with me or someone close to me in order to get closure, but she then does this by bad-mouthing me. My current SO tells her to fuck off and then tells me about it. I felt pissed for a while, but then I started feeling sorry for her and that I genuinely do want to give closure, not just for her but for myself too.\n\n​\n\nWIBTA if I tried to? I feel as though I was the asshole already, but would it be wrong to try and fulfill her wish of getting closure? \n\n​", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Cd1FACTYLKSYJZhOQcH3G21amLCphD10", "post_id": "b5lkhn", "action": {"description": "calling my ex's friends because he needs help and won't ask", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if i called my ex's friends because he needs help and won't ask?", "text": "My recent ex and I have a complicated history. We have known each other for approximately 25 years. We started dating a year and a half ago. We were both abused, and we have a lot in common, including PTSD. We both hate asking for help because if an abuser helps you it means you owe them something. So, I made a lot of excuses for him.\n\nAbout 6 months ago he got fired and went into a deep depression. I have been drowning financially but supported him and he was unemployed the entire 6 months. I asked him to get help and he refused. It got to the point where I would be homeless if I didn't kick him out and start over in a new, smaller/cheaper place. \n\nSo I did. But we continued to see each other. He's been resentful and emotionally abusive on and off. He stayed the night and then started moving stuff in and we got in a fight because he doesn't respect my boundaries and I said he can't live here until he starts helping and gets his shit together.\n\nI am at the end of my rope. I broke it off.\n\nThis happened yesterday. Tonight he came here begging me to stay the night because he \"has nowhere else to go,\" and would be fucked without his storage key. None of this is true. He lost the key a few days ago. It isn't here. Also he yelled at me and called me names earlier today and OH HE DOES HAVE PLACES TO GO. Now I'm not saying it's ideal, but he has plenty of loving friends who would help him. But he's a stubborn ass and I promise he's going to sleep in the street tonight out of spite and obstinance, and try to get me to let him in tomorrow.\n\nHe's got a really sweet friend who offered for him to stay with her and her fiance and I know he hasn't told them what's going on out of shame. Should I call her and let her know? \n\nPlease keep this in mind: I love this man. He's a jackass, but the both of us have survived trauma worse than most people and poverty. If we weren't stubborn, we'd be dead already. And frankly I'm not mad. I feel awful. I am sad. \n\nAm I the asshole, or would I be if I called his friend and asked her to try and get through to him? \n\nSorry for jumbled explanation. I'm a little emotional still. He just left. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XUrzERvfjtPmsvlxXGI4UtjLJAfTEavO", "post_id": "azdnh6", "action": {"description": "forgetting upset with my mom", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "Aita forgetting upset with my mom", "text": "Sorry is this is kinda confusing , I am new to this\n\nSo I am a very introverted person (m16) and I have started running everyday because I want to work on my health and fitness.\n\nSo I have been running for about 50  days and I am quite enjoying it but I made my Mum promise not to make it a big deal cause I don\u2019t like attention and that kind of stuff. Another important part is that my brother also does running and he has been doing it for years and my parents are really proud of him and when he reaches major milestones like day 50 , 100 , 1000 etc but as I am a more introverted person I don\u2019t really like it when they do the same,\n\nSo the main part\nI have just reached 50 days and I found out my Mum had made. A Facebook group involving close family and friends about my running and it made me very uncomfortable, I had to talk to my mum about it \n\nSo am I the asshole for not happy about it", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "u3Tpx7ba0jgDHjsQLzup69Ptiwbx20at", "post_id": "a7zexx", "action": {"description": "not okaying weird fetish", "pronormative_score": 23, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not okaying weird fetish?", "text": "Today my girlfriend who I'm in an LDR with (I'm in another country for work) admitted she had a weird fetish. Upon asking about it she said she liked to think of me and her as the people in porn she watched. No big deal there, they're actors or anonymous couples. She then continued to explain she also likes to visit sites like Omegle or ChatRoulette and pretend to be other people and talk to other people. Word for word she said \"it gets me horny, idk\". She explained that it's basically like porn, she's just using it to get off and since she's just having sexual talks with strangers and pretending to be someone else it's not bad. She also explained it's only at times I'm unavailable and that she \"thinks of me when she's talking to them\". I told her no, she shouldn't continue to do that, and that the difference is that she is interacting with another person, and whether she's pretending to be a different person or not she's still sexting someone else to get off. \n\nMy issue is that if she needs someone to sext or whatever she can just wait for me to get home from work and message or call me, and I explained this and how it amounts to emotional cheating, but she seemed kind of dejected by the whole thing. I also explained that I'm not super hurt or mad over it because I can see how she came to the conclusion that it's okay, but it's too weird and seems to easily escalatable for me to be comfortable with.\n\nSo my question is, am I the asshole for not approving of my GF's weird fetish when it's online, distanced from her actual self, and is with people she is incredibly unlikely to meet, with no video or other real info exchange. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 23, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ilTnyRzOQQjnAiIPxVE473GKQSlI7EZN", "post_id": "ai60ge", "action": {"description": "wanting my mom to break up with her boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting my mom to break up with her boyfriend?", "text": "I know that this may seem like some angsty teen (f15) thing but this is actually really bothering me. My parents are divorced and I live with my mom and her boyfriend of about 6 years. Him and I used to be pretty close until he started becoming really manipulative towards my mom, then towards my sister and I. Let\u2019s just say my sister and I aren\u2019t drinking his shitty grape flavored bootleg kool-aid. That causes quite a bit of friction between us all. For example, this weekend I was at my dads house (only me, my sister (f19) is still out of town), which is usually a hard time for my mom and her boyfriend because they are not on good terms with my father, so generally when I get home from my fathers house my moms boyfriend is pretty irritable at times, other times he\u2019s pretty cool. Today I came home and I was wearing a cropped shirt (which I am not allowed to wear, but my mom will allow it if I am wearing pants that are high waisted or a shirt under - basically if my stomach isn\u2019t showing). I had just gotten out of the car and my stomach was showing a little bit because my pants had fallen down a little; before I could pull my pants back up or even say hi to him the first thing he says to me is him getting on to me about my shirt, and I mean he\u2019s pretty aggravated about my shirt. I might be a brat for this but it upset me a little, so I said \u201cwell it\u2019s nice to see you too.\u201d with a bit of an attitude. He got pretty mad. He proceeded to tell me how I don\u2019t respect myself because I dress like a whore and that he didn\u2019t care if everyone else in the world does it, I can\u2019t. I get where he\u2019s coming from and all, but he couldn\u2019t have said hi to me first or at least approached it better? He\u2019s never been a father before he met my mom and doesn\u2019t really understand how fragile a teen girls self confidence is, my mom said something to him about it, but then he told her that she\u2019s making him out to be the bad guy because she doesn\u2019t want to parent me. This happens quite often, but only when he is feeling stressed/insecure, which he just got bad news on Friday at a doctors appointment (he has type two diabetes and is in denial about it). I know he\u2019s just trying deflect some embarrassment onto me, but Im getting pretty tired of it and beg my mom to leave him all the time. She says that he is her soulmate and that she would be miserable without him, but by staying with him she\u2019s slowly losing her daughters. I persistently tell her that but it just angers her even more, ever since she\u2019s met him she\u2019s completely changed as a person. She\u2019s I love with him and I know that she hasn\u2019t had that in a very long time, so I feel like a bad person for resenting someone she views so highly. Im probably just going to move out after my senior year and only visit them once a year or so. I feel happier when I\u2019m not around them and I think they\u2019re happier without me. Am I in the wrong for resenting my mother and her boyfriend so much or do I actually have a good point?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0eRu5kFpKQbRb2Z6so1NQi5dnhBImXzE", "post_id": "aee2om", "action": null, "title": "AITA in this conflict with my abusive dad?", "text": "My father was heavily abusive growing up. Mental, physical, and sexual, controlling, and manipulative as hell. Despite this I have tried for years to make a relationship work between us to no avail. About 3 years ago it was feeling incredibly one sided so I just stopped contacting him to see if he actually had any interest in speaking with me of his own volition and in maintaining the relationship. Communication dried up for those years.\n\nMy sister doesn't know about the sexual abuse and as her older brother I took the physical abuse for her because I saw it as my duty to protect her, but she lived through the mental abuse maybe even worse than I had it. For a while this rightfully (in my mind) turned her against him. But then her husband threw her out in the streets on another continent and my father was the one she called and the one who came and got her through it. Good on him doing the right thing.\n\nWhere this gets more complicated is now in her eyes my dad can do no wrong. I was having a conversation with her about how much I wished I could have a normal relationship with him and her new view of him on the pedestal colored her words highly, but I didn't realize that at the time. After a long conversation between us I had the ridiculous idea that maybe it was all a misunderstanding and we just needed to communicate through it. That did not go well as I'm sure you can imagine.\n\n2 years ago I broke no contact with him and sent him a text. He is a multimillionaire and I live in poverty and have no insurance. I got test results that pointed to a high likelihood of cancer. I had no way to pay for any treatments I might have needed, was scared, and needed a father. I asked if he could loan me some money to help pay medical bills. He refused to help me at all if I did not move back into his house with him and claimed I was entitled for rejecting his \"help\" and asking for a loan, in many colorful words.\n\n(With no money to pursue further treatment or testing I still have no idea if I have cancer so maybe I'm dying? I don't even know. I've lost over 100 lbs in that time, albeit coming from obesity, but still it doesn't exactly seem like a good sign that I'm now underweight without trying to be.)\n\nWhen I spoke to him again after talking with my sister, I tried to explain how that previous conversation impacted me and that I wanted to find some common ground and try to move past this. At this point he throws my mental illness in my face and says I am not capable of knowing what I need and he knows better than me (despite knowing absolutely nothing about my life). This is where I snapped.\n\nMy entire life he promised to pay for my college education and he didn't even though he could have easily. No big deal under normal circumstance, whatever, it's his money. But I was pissed. I threw it in his face, hard. I chewed him out for every major and minor slight I could think of. I said I wish I didn't love him. I told him he was an awful parent and maybe if he had been successful in his suicide attempt when I was 4 I wouldn't be so fucked up with all the mental problems I have from his abuse.\n\nMy sister won't speak to me and I can't really blame her. She definitely sees me as the asshole. And even if she wasn't wrapped around my dad's finger, after saying something like that to him I don't know that there is ever a scenario where she wouldn't. But I'm sitting here thinking if she really knew the extent of the sexual abuse I suffered (or maybe even just knew it had happened at all) she might understand why I snapped and why the thought of just being around him gives me nightmares. But I want her to get a chance to have the kind of relationship I know I will never have with him and I don't want to ruin that chance for her by telling her.\n\nI know I shouldn't have said what I said. That's not even in question. It was a horrible thing to tell anyone. But given the context of our relationship and everything he has done to me I don't know if it makes me an asshole or just a guy pushed one step too far.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wgmHh4K7nGOfkaU0Wru3ir5uSdbtoFFo", "post_id": "a41iti", "action": {"description": "never signing any birth certificate or paying pregnancy-related medical costs without a paternity test", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA if I would never sign any birth certificate or pay pregnancy-related medical costs without a paternity test?", "text": "This is inspired by [this fairly popular post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/a3q3r1/aita_for_being_angry_with_my_fianc%C3%A9_for_wanting_a/). I do find it unfortunate that, in that post, the fianc\u00e9 only mentioned this after the pregnancy. Regardless, a couple of years ago, an ex-girlfriend of mine told me she was pregnant (two days after our breakup, ostensibly by me). I told her that whether to keep the child was her choice, but that if she wanted me to support this child and/or any of the medical costs of the pregnancy that there would have to be a paternity test, and that if she wanted to do it after birth I would pay her back half the medical costs then. She got furious at this, and it turned out later that the whole thing was a fabricated attempt (literally using a pregnant friend's urine) to manipulate me into getting back together. (She had BPD, long and fairly hellish story there, hence breaking up with her to begin with, though I hope she's doing better now.)\n\nSince then, though, I've been pretty conscientious about being up front about this. Any time things have gotten serious with a girl, when we have that conversation about wanting kids or not (I very much want kids), I make sure to mention that I would never, regardless of any amount of \"trust,\" put my name on a birth certificate without knowing for a fact the kid is mine. Even for a second, third, etc. kid with the same partner. Pretty much no ladies have had a problem with this.\n\nThe responses to that post, however, seem to be full of people asserting that the fianc\u00e9 should just trust her and not take into account the massive financial, legal and time sink that can go into raising a child that isn't yours. People said he acted out of, for instance \"irrational fear.\" Given the average $233k cost (not including time and energy) to raise a child, and the $500 (max) cost of a paternity test, simple math tells us that if there's a 0.2% (500/233,000) chance of infidelity, it makes sense to get a test. And I mean, while everyone should trust their partner... why would you not make such a *tiny* investment to be safe?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Ic9CqZES7tkUYAicFFi0Si0fahznximz", "post_id": "b91kj2", "action": {"description": "dating a racist girl", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 85}, "title": "AITA for dating a racist girl?", "text": "So i've been dating this Ukrainian girl named Diana  for a week now and i really really really like her. She's one of the most beautiful girls i've ever seen, she's smart, she's funny, sweet and just fun to be around. I've never been more happy in my life. However there is one problem, she's kind of racist. I live in Europe so its not much of a problem but she's kind of racist against black people. I think most people in eastern europe. My dad told me of stories of his work trips to russia and all the russians made threatening gestures to the black people in his group. Im guessing its kind of a cultural thing and curing racism isn't really simple cuz I've done it before. It's a long and erduos task to cure somebody of racism. I've been trying to get my girlfriend to not be racist or at least not say or do anything racist against black people in front of my friends and family. Some of my friends (one of whom is black and one of my best friends for the past 3 years) has been complaining i've been dating a racist. He says I'm betraying by dating her but I don't feel like i am. I don't want to make a choice between but he's making an ultimatum. I stop dating her or I stop being friends with him. He literally said \"bros before hoes\" and he says i have a few days to make my choice. I don't like getting this ultimatum and I'm trying calm him down and also get my gf to not be racist. As far as i know the only racist thing she did was say she doesn't like black people that much or would ever want to go to africa (he's kenyan btw). WIBTA if i stuck with my girlfriend on this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 74, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 11, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 3}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 85}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "1Mxrxs9qUrQJKM2WGmxs2GP38i2XXfP9", "post_id": "atxtzk", "action": null, "title": "AITA for how I've handled my roommate?", "text": "For context, my roommate is a 32 year old man I found on craigslist\\\\ and I'm a 22 year old trans man (not sure if he knows; not super relevant imo). He moved in a few weeks after I did, last June. We started out okay; we'd go out for drinks or game together or just talk and it was fine. \n\nNot long after he moved in, he started drinking my alcohol without asking. The first few times, I told him I didn't appreciate him drinking my stuff without asking and to knock it off, and mentioned money. After that, I told him to knock it off and that I wanted him to pay me back for taking my stuff. He said he was an alcoholic, I apologized and said I didn't know and said I'd keep my stuff in my room, only to catch him sneaking into my room to take my stuff. I don't drink anymore because of new meds, but he's never paid me back for any of this.\n\nHe also has an issue of not being able to aim when he pees. I've tried to bring it up in a polite way, but nearly every night half the bathroom is covered in piss and it's really gross. I get that he's an alcoholic, but that doesn't make his pee everywhere any less gross. \n\nOn top of that, he blasts his TV every day. I figured asking him to use headphones at night would be a good compromise, so I asked him to be quiet after 11 PM. It's too loud for me to knock and ask him to turn it down so I try and text and ask him to turn it down, and if he doesn't I assume he's passed out and unplug the router in my room until it stops. If he's not asleep, this usually pisses him off more and he'll start screaming. This has all gone on since the beginning.\n\nI've made a point to not swear at him or raise my voice until I had it last night. I had a migraine all day, so at 9 I texted him and asked him to turn his TV down since I had a migraine and he said ok. He ended up going out a few minutes later and turning his TV off, and I fell asleep. He woke me up at 11 with his TV blasting, and I asked him to turn it down again. He didn't, so I unplugged the router until he started screaming and then went out for a smoke. I texted him again to keep it down, plugged the router back in, and when he came back he blasted his TV again. I finally knocked on his door until he heard, told him to shut up and called him an asshole. I don't necessarily regret it - I don't think I'm wrong - but it feels childish to have to unplug the router or whatnot so I can sleep. Am I being an asshole here?  If so, is there anything else I can do or a better way to handle this? I feel like I'm ready to tear my hair out living with him.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TxakhSveokqXPfNHy6ZDbfVsPdK1XGHO", "post_id": "a14i1m", "action": {"description": "telling my wife to sit down", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for telling my wife to sit down?", "text": "So earlier tonight my wife was making dinner, she is very pregnant ATM and she was in pain, I offered to cook dinner earlier but she refused and said I could do it some other night (that's her go to almost every time I want to do something involving household chores.) so she started to get more and more overwhelmed with everything(primarily pain I believe). She then went to sit down and out son (3 y/o) was in the way and she raised her voice at him, I told her \"He's a 3 year old boy, Jane\" and she didn't respond but dropped the attitude towards him.\n\n​\n\nAfter a few minutes she started to get frustrated again(at no one) and started growling and that's when I kind of went a little aggressive and told her that she should just like me cook and she responded with \"You'd probably fuck it up\", I responded with \"It's fucking Quesadilla, Jane; Not exactly rocket science\" she then said \"I want to do this, John\" I replied with a frustrated tone \"Seriously, you're 6 months pregnant, stressed out and clearly need a fucking break. It's tortillas, all I have to do is throw what you have already made on a tortilla, sprinkle some cheese on it, throw another tortilla on top and put it in the over for like 5-10 minutes, PLEASE sit the fuck down.\" at this point she was crying and I felt like an asshole and just shut up and let her make the Quesadillas while she was crying.\n\n​\n\nPS: I'm probably not going to do a follow up because this isn't a big deal as far as our relationship goes and I just feel guilty and want to know if I did do something wrong or not.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "E9JIo9vIDTJpHwLPQeCukTWX9uH6CnAj", "post_id": "a9cmf2", "action": {"description": "not wanting any communication with my 13 year old sister", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for not wanting any communication with my 13 year old sister?", "text": "My brother and I were raised by our grandparents and turned out very normal I guess. My parents raised my sister and they had very different conflicting parenting styles (they are now divorced which seemed to stem from my sister's problems) which essentially resulted in her never getting diciplined for anything ever. The results have been a 7th grader who has about 2 full blown temper tantrums per day, bullies her peers, ignores (literially pretends she doesn't hear) anything she disagrees with, is completely self centered and doesn't try to hide it, and is very materialistic. No one in my family wants to be around her, even my parents. \n\nSome examples of her behavior: she tried to stab me twice growing up, my brother once, and my mom once. She kicks my cat to get to me. She will ask my mom to buy her things everywhere she goes and when my mom says no she will have full blown tempertantrums in the middle of the store. She says that she hates everyone behind their back (my dad's girlfriend, my mom, my boyfriend, my brother) just for attention. She looks under the tree at christmas and sees that she has one less present than the rest of us and then throws a fit because of it, etc. My mom started drinking heavily at least in part because of her, and my dad was borderline emotionally abusive to me to take out his frustration for over three years. \n\nToday we celebrated christmas at my mom's house, and a large chunk was tainted because of her behavior. My boyfriend, brother, and I are all back home from school for the break and wanted to spend time with my mom but she turned it very negative. It's my mom's first christmas after a divorce and she has no one to spend it with, and my sister didn't even care about how selfish she was being. Once we got home I was sitting on the couch with my boyfriend being sad because of how it turned out, and my dad saw me and wanted to get me to talk about it. We talked for a second, just mentioned that my sister was rough today and it kinda sucked. What he said boiled down to \"she just wants to be included and I know it's hard to include her but it's important to understand\" which is true, (I'm not trying to call my dad out for this) that is the reason for her outbursts, but at the same time when she has such bad behavioral issues it feels impossible to be around her at all. This is an assholeish thing to say but honestly I wish I wasn't related to her at all. \n\nI guess the core \"am I the asshole\" is I am away at college all year, and I have the option to spend breaks with my boyfriend's family. I love my family (excluding my sister), but every time I come back I feel awful because I truly can't stand to be around her. I don't want to talk to her. I don't want to text her back when she texts (and I haven't been), I don't want to try to be friendly, I don't want to be the \"good big sister\" anymore. I tried that for years and all it got me was anxiety, abuse, and loss of friendships from people not wanting to be around her. I don't want to be her sister at all. Don't want her to visit me, don't want her to come to my graduation, don't want her to be in my wedding if I get married, don't want her to be around my kids if I have them. I want to tell my parents that I am distancing myself because of her, but my dad has always said that family has to come first, and he stopped talking to his own mother for a while because she didn't invite my sister to a family dinner. My plan is a bit more serious. I would only visit for short periods of time and stay where she isn't. I would also not communicate in answers more than \"yes and no\" with her unless it would disrupt someone else in my family. AITA for trying to get away?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 20, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "n6EjaRkwNXVIDj44w4Db3Su0Sj7gsAex", "post_id": "a0a6vw", "action": {"description": "ruining my coworker's fun", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for ruining my coworker's fun?", "text": "Earlier this year, I was the 'new guy' at my job. It's a working man's job and could easily be considered a prime example of the place where you would find \"locker room talk\". The guys tend to give each other nicknames and call each other different things, often light-hearted, without any bad intention. We all really seem to appreciate each other there and if there's a problem for some reason, it's public.\n\nWhen I was pretty new to the job, my co-workers found out pretty early on I was largely an introverted person. I think this has changed a bit, but this make me stand out a lot in the group. \n\nAt one point, my co-workers were calling me the \"school shooter\" for reasons I could only discern as me being introverted. I'm well past high school age and I didn't even stay in college, and I'd never had the intentions to be a shooter. It was certainly a weird nickname for them to give me, but I never did find the reason behind it.\n\nOne day, we were outside in front of customers, and my co-workers were ragging on me as they sometimes do. They were calling me the \"school shooter\" in front of complete strangers. I really didn't like that, and I already didn't like the nickname at all.\n\nAfter we got back inside to our 'office' I began telling the guys how I felt about the nickname and I told them, not asked, to stop calling me that. A couple were a bit taken back, with one of them just leaving the room entirely. In my mind, I think I was justifiably mad about the nickname and the incident. After all, who wants to be called a school shooter?! It just seems so horrible in my mind.\n\nAm I the asshole for ruining my co-workers fun? Or am I justified for trying to defend myself and make sure I wasn't associated with something horrible?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xDFc69i1EFXN9at5appukakCi7tiTHI0", "post_id": "aw05fe", "action": {"description": "walking away", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For walking away?", "text": "I 22M have opted to just walk away from 20F after a month of \u201ctalking\u201d to see how things would go and to see if dating would be an option. \n\nFor context I have depression, insomnia and despise everything about myself and am in my final year of uni, she has a lot of stress due to getting a new job and medical issues currently which she may need surgery for later in the year.\n\nYesterday we were talking as usual and then she sent me a paragraph which when paraphrased said this \u201cwe both have a lot of our own issues to deal with currently, as much as she has tried she can\u2019t seem to like me to make things work and she can\u2019t ignore that it won\u2019t work and she\u2019s been trying to and doesn\u2019t seem to be getting there. It\u2019s also just happening at the wrong time too as with everything going on with her is zapping everything up so she doesn\u2019t feel ready for dating or anything like that right now so she doesn\u2019t feel she can cope and that she\u2019s sure that somewhere down the line that if she\u2019s past her issues and that we\u2019re both single then she\u2019d love to try again\u201d am I the asshole for just walking away as I wanted a relationship and wouldn\u2019t be happy as just friends?\n\nTLDR: Got friendzoned am I the asshole for just walking away despite her saying she might try again in future when things are better?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JY2KFZ4J0V74WvSn30lZOogMkoYSkmy1", "post_id": "asku59", "action": {"description": "not wanting to hang out with a suicidal friend", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to hang out with a suicidal friend?", "text": "OKAY so obligatory yes I'm on mobile and yes the title sounds bad. \n\nContext is I met a new friend online less than a week ago, and she lives near my town and said she wanted to meet IRL and she was going to come to my town with a friend, if I wanted to meet up (this was I think the day after we first connected). I don't usually do stuff like that cause it makes me nervous but she seemed cool and like someone I'd get along with, and the conversations we had while messaging were interesting and I'm trying to make new friends so! I said sure.\n\nWe got coffee the next day and basically she kind of just talked AT me for two hours, it was a little overwhelming cause I'd ask about her art and she would end up telling me about something really personal from her childhood, etc. She's a good story teller so it was interesting but she didn't really ask me questions or engage in stuff I said except to start talking more. It ended, it was fine, we went our own ways and she left town that night. \n\nThen the next day, today, she said some cryptic stuff about wanting to see me again if she 'was still around'. I thought she was a cool person, but wasn't realllyyyy planning on trying to hang again, but I felt like I needed to make sure she was okay. Basically she told me she was planning on committing suicide, I talked her out of it for awhile, now she's going to go maybe check herself in to some inpatient situation cause she's really in a bad spot, so that's cool! Crisis averted.\n\nSo now, she is saying 'if she makes it' she wants to hang out with me again and that I seem like I'm 'really worth knowing' (red flag! /s) and I don't want to like, lead her on by saying that I want that too, and then disappoint her later when I don't follow up or anything, but also she's in a fragile brain space so I don't think I should just say no thanks, I feel like either way I'm kind of the asshole? I just feel like she's really intense already for how little we know each other, and I don't think it would be a sustainable or healthy friendship for me to pursue. I think she feels more of a connection than I do, probably cause she told me her whole life story over coffee yesterday. I think I'm going to just try to be as supportive as I can but not really make myself that available to hang and kinda let it fizzle away..\n\nSorry for the novel, but AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FsMZ6xOXkdocJFjZDo0OMiq8K4qiLaEc", "post_id": "ba2edw", "action": {"description": "not buying s homeless man a cup of coffee", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not buying s homeless man a cup of coffee?", "text": "Let the fun and hate mail begin. Just left the jack in the box drive thru. As I pulled into the covered drive thu there was a man in an overcoat with an umbrella leaning against the wall.  He promptly came up to my window and asked for a cup of coffee. I explained I was all plastic no cash and apologized. He dug a handful of coins out and said he had it. I folks him I m", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mCfm7cQRuNuTxF95tX0kilCYTOLvG6b1", "post_id": "a61603", "action": {"description": "ignoring and blocking a christian boy for saying he believes homosexuality is wrong", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For ignoring and blocking a Christian boy for saying he believes homosexuality is wrong?", "text": "Backstory on my times dealing with Christians (actual Christians, not regular theists): Last school year tried dating a Christian, it didn't work and he didn't like me being atheist and we broke up. We were way better and connected more as friends, however he didn't \"agree\" with homosexuality and we got in a couple arguments about it, but it was one if the straw that broke the back to that friendship. \n\nMy best friend/cousin is a Christian and never expressed any type of disinterested in me being bi or any type of disliking towards gay people\n\nNow here we go: I met this Christian boy through my high school band program. He's homeschooled, a grade higher than me, and I only see him in band and after school Thursday rehearsals first period in the morning. I had no problems with him and we've even had peaceful biblical discussions and talked about his grandma being a Jehovah's Witness, and it was kinda nice being around him. \n\nSo two days ago (8 periods at my school so A and B days) in the morning were waiting in the band teacher to come open the doors. While outside I start joking around, and he doesn't really get my sarcasm/jokes so I tell him not to take it seriously and throw it back at me. After he said OK the conversation went like this:\n\nMe: OK. Now let's agree you're a racist, sexist, homophobe.\nHim: *laughs* You know, I was almost jumped last year for saying I don't agree with homosexuality.\nMe: *laughs in case it's a joke* You're just kidding, right?\nHim: No I don't actually agree with it.\nMe: What? Why?\nHim: I believe it's wrong because the Bible says it's wrong. (exact words, no this isn't a movie script)\nMe: *walks away without a word*\n\nI -kinda shamefully- immediately blocked and deleted his number, along with blocking him on Instagram and making him unfollow me. So today I refuse to do our usual talking in the morning, and after school as we were finishing putting up stands and chairs he walks up to me (don't remember exact words except the last thing he said so he's a close version of what happened):\n\nHim: Are you OK?\nMe: *slightly aggravated tone that pretty much carried out throughout the conversation* I'm fine\nHim: *concerned* illiteratetrash if there's a problem you can tell me\nMe: so you're really gonna pretend like you didn't say that homophobic thing earlier?\nHim: Listen, I'm not homophobic, OK? I just don't necessarily agree with it. \nM: I'm not doing this again. I've dealt with Christians that thought like that, no, I just can't do this again.\nH: But I'm not homophobic. I have gay friends, and I love my gay friends, I just don't agree with it. \nM: That's the thing you don't like it\nH: It's not like I hate people but I'm not gonna pretend like what they're doing is alright. (exact words, I swear this isn't a soap opera)\nM: I'm not doing this to myself. I'm bisexual I'm not gonna deal with someone who thinks like that. No. \n\nI leave for my bus a few minutes after that. Now that I'm reflecting on it about a few hours later I feel bad. I told my sister and she laughed at it saying \"Sounds familiar. You reeeaaalllyyy know how to pick them, huh?\" referring to my last bf\n\nAm I the asshole for not forgiving?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EpAtwpO9pFeOzt3iv6CxkyV3jJxQoQPy", "post_id": "aq1t3a", "action": {"description": "not wanting to see my dying father", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to see my dying father?", "text": "Okay, this sounds bad, but there\u2019s context, years of it.\n\nBasically, we recently found out my father has a disease and it\u2019s slowly killing him and his brain to the point where he can barely recognize me. He\u2019s been rude and mean to me and my mother for years, ever since I was young. \n\nAll I remember from my younger years are fights between my parents, my father usually the instigator. He\u2019s always been a dick and an asshole to my mother and myself, as he was mentally abusive and fucked with my head and verbally abusive for years. Now, I\u2019m away from him, but my mother is pushing me to see him.\n\nIt\u2019s almost as if just because he\u2019s physically sick she\u2019s using that as an excuse to force something between us. Now, I\u2019m trying to be clear, she cannot force anything, if I want to I can just walk away and leave this situation behind, but I don\u2019t feel that it\u2019s a good thing. For years he\u2019s been such a detriment to us and suddenly, he\u2019s dying and I\u2019m supposed to feel bad and empathetic.\n\nI want to feel bad, and I DO have sympathy. But my problem is that I\u2019d be letting someone who did nothing but hurt me in life back into it, for what good? I\u2019ve struggled a lot with my mental health throughout life and have been suicidal because of the stress I used to be under. \n\nAITA for just really not wanting him back in my life now only to have him die and hurt me (in the case that I do feel bad and get \u2018attached\u2019), or him hurt me more (in the case that he really just gets worse)?\n\nTLDR; My father is dying right now, and after years of him being a shitty abusive person towards me and my mother, we find out he\u2019s dying. Mother wants to force a relationship that I don\u2019t have it in me to contribute to. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LmAQjlhtoHz91VOOYKi96o3OjWSiBH0E", "post_id": "b91ek9", "action": {"description": "not feeling comfortable teaching my girlfriend how to drive", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA if I don't feel comfortable teaching my girlfriend how to drive?", "text": "Hey guys, sorry for formatting on mobile. \n\nAnyways, here's the deal. My girlfriend doesn't have her license yet. She's had her trainers permit before but it's expired so she's trying again. The majority of her family doesn't drive so only her dad can help, but he's kinda unreliable with teaching/doesn't have the time to outside of work.  Previously I've helped her try and learn to drive with my older car, but I recently leased a brand new car.\n\nShe kinda struggles with the basics and still needs a lot of practice. I want to help but I don't feel comfortable with her driving my new car. She's not forcing me or anything though, I just feel guilty. So AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kX3QALoHWqWd0PYt1mAXIgRUnRHFQqL2", "post_id": "b4gsae", "action": {"description": "very RARELY tipping when I eat out at restaurants", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 21}, "title": "AITA for very RARELY tipping when I eat out at restaurants?", "text": "When I\u2019m with my girlfriend it\u2019s one thing. She isn\u2019t a tipper either so we never have issues. However, when I\u2019m with people I don\u2019t eat out with often or strangers for whatever reason, I just don\u2019t understand why everyone is so passionate about leaving a tip when no one even came to our table once after taking our order. \n\nDon\u2019t get me wrong, I spill some water, and the waitress cleans it up, I\u2019ll tip because she went above and beyond her job. There\u2019s many scenarios where someone should \u201cdeserve\u201d a tip in my eyes. I just think it\u2019s ridiculous that every single time you eat out you\u2019re supposed to tip. Like it\u2019s indoctrinated into our minds. \n\nI just don\u2019t understand why someone who is doing there job, deserves more of my money that I work hard for. I\u2019m already paying for the meal and don\u2019t understand why you should get a couple extra bucks just because you filled my water once and never came back. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 19, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 21}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "C39k2GUVLjSQFrUcsvag1dGCsm7DkYvo", "post_id": "b4cxlb", "action": null, "title": "AITA? My friend told me she does this and im not sure if she is an asshole, a genius asshole or not an asshole. She acts in a certain way to create a certain impression and that\u2019s scary honestly and i dont know if I might be an asshole for freaking out or not", "text": "She told me that whenever she meets someone new she makes sure she looks like a bad liar. She\u2019d \u201cprank\u201d them while holding a laugh or having a weird face till they go all like \u201cYou\u2019re lying!! It is so obvious ur such a bad liar!\u201d And she would go all \u201chaha ur right\u201d \n\nShe\u2019d do this 2-3  separate times and few months apart so they remember it. \n\nShe would be brutally honest about something  if someone asks about her opinion and go all like \u201cthis is hard to hear but i know you appreciate honesty i just dont want to lie to you\u201d \n\nShe says she is honest in general she is not honest for a secret future plan but she does know brutal honesty is viewed as a good thing in general and people would go all \u201cgosh they\u2019re honest even if it is painful to hear!!\u201d \n\nShe claims she never lies but she does this \u201cjust in case\u201d she needs it one day  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Hti0mhDmxwI0uKW2kcFQ0KcoCHb44lFK", "post_id": "asio3t", "action": {"description": "not letting my roommate get a cat", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not letting my roommate get a cat?", "text": "I\u2019m a fourth year college student, male, I have two roommates, both male. I have been living with my first roommate, whole I\u2019ll call Bill, for about two years. The third roommate is new and doesn\u2019t factor into the story too much. One of my roommates has been talking about wanting to get a cat. \n\nAbout a year or so Bill wanted to foster cats. I did not want to. I love animals, but I\u2019m a fairy busy college student and I did not really want to responsibility of taking care of pets at the moment, and I also didn\u2019t really want cat hair all over the apartment. (The furniture in the living room is all mine.) \nHe said he would take the full responsibility of taking care of them, I eventually relented. \nI ended up almost always cleaning litter box and feeding them, which he promised I would never have to do. Our house and furniture were covered in hair from the cats, which to some people may not be a big deal, but I am not used to having pet hair everywhere and it really bothers me. My mother gave me a very nice, expensive couch for the apartment, and the cats would scratch the shit out of it. His dumbass friend would always come over, they\u2019d get high, and they\u2019d hike the cats between their legs like footballs. It terrified them but they were convinced \u201cthe cats like it, dude.\u201d He also had a hamster, which he would forget to feed for literally weeks on end, and never paid any attention to, that ended up dying. \n\nEspecially over the past year, I\u2019ve been having a lot of issues with him and his behavior. I\u2019m not sure if elaboration is necessary but I can edit and add if people want more context to our relationship. Every month or so it seems, he\u2019ll do something that puts me off and makes me really question my friendship with him, but I just end up letting things slide. \n\nHe told me maybe a month or so ago he wanted to get a cat. I said no. He was insistent, but I put my foot down, and explained to him why I don\u2019t want a cat and why he isn\u2019t fit to own one. He said he\u2019d just get one behind my back, but he was laughing so I assumed he was joking. \n\nYesterday he texts me a picture of the cat he had gotten. I was angry, I considered a huge backstab. He told me \n\u201cI never said I wouldn\u2019t get a cat.\u201d\n\u201cI can just keep it locked in my room, you\u2019ll never have to see it.\u201d (Which I don\u2019t believe, but if I did, I feel like it\u2019s not right to keep a cat locked in a single room.) \n\nI tried to explain how getting a pet is a group decision everyone in the house needs to agree on, but he does not get it. He never ended up coming home from the shelter with the cat, but he\u2019s been sulking like a child and giving me the cold shoulder. Which is his normal behavior when he\u2019s mad. \nDoes he have any right to be angry with me? And did I overstep boundaries by forbidding he get the cat? \n\n\nSorry for this long ass post. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SIPHmPMIAnfBYXqxxo7B1l2z6H0PbZA0", "post_id": "b96zh2", "action": {"description": "securing a spot with my favorite barber", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Securing A Spot With My Favorite Barber?", "text": "Okay so this is pretty mundane compared to some things I've seen on here, but here goes:\n\nI like to get my hair cut at a barber shop in town that has gotten super popular and is ALWAYS busy. It has a sort of punk/rockabilly theme and atmosphere to it that I really enjoy. Their haircuts are also great and relatively quick.\n\nThe one problem is the insane wait times because they're walk-in only. Whenever I've gone, besides my last three visits, I've had to wait for about 40min to even get into a chair. Not wanting to give up a barber that I really like, I resolved that I would just show up immediately when they opened. The past two times I've gone this has worked perfectly. This time around, it seemed that I might not be guaranteed a chair right upon arriving. I got there like five minutes before open and there were at least four other parked cars with dudes just waiting and watching the door for when they flipped the \"Closed\" sign to \"Open.\" I see a guy get out of his car and begin waiting by the door, so I immediately get out and do the same. They open the doors and the guy ahead of me is hanging up his coat and I see that my favorite barber is working today, so I bolt for her chair while the other guy is still hanging up his coat. I don't think much of it, because there's still another chair open for him, and the two of us--the first two in line--will get to have our hair cut first.\n\nBut then I sit down and get situated and from my mirror I can see that guy that had been ahead of me sitting in the waiting area, looking PISSED. Someone else must have done exactly what I did and bolted past him and secured a chair while he hung up his coat. So I have to wonder, AITA for zooming to my barber's chair and not waiting for him to get situated, possibly giving someone else the idea to do the same thing?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZRe4OtJ4g0EFPFKFK38mg0RjOMGRuNnk", "post_id": "9zrjpi", "action": {"description": "not partially cleaning my table at a fast-casual restaurant where there are no trash cans around and bussers are walking around cleaning tables", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not partially cleaning my table at a fast-casual restaurant where there are no trash cans around and bussers are walking around cleaning tables?", "text": "Fast-casual restaurant where food to you is served in trays. There are no trash cans in the dining area and bussers walk around cleaning tables. Some customers will quickly wipe down their tables and neatly stack all their trash and plates on the tray but I don't bother. I don't make a huge mess, but sometimes I'll leave a stray napkin or two lying around.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4z50BssetbP5YNPh0YR09wotcAcjuPHE", "post_id": "avl1jr", "action": {"description": "telling a family member to quiet down", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling a family member to quiet down?", "text": "Context, this was about a week ago I'm an overweight woman and aware of it, I'm also on the mild side of the autism spectrum and I try my hardest to be appropriate at times but usually with loud noises it would be harder for me to keep composure as the father side of the family like to harrass me about it\n\nI was eating chicken on the weekends with my cousin in the dining room as eating anywhere else was not allowed, I was already having a bad day with my order being wrong and some friend issues back in shool, until my uncle thoughf it would be funny to make chicken noises, I paid no mind at first but he got louder and I asked him to stop but he got even louder to the point where it was unbearable and painful for me to handle and a slightly raised my voice to tell him to please be quiet.\n\nThe everyone in the room laughed as my uncle kept on making me feel super uncomfortable and became louder in volume and I covered my ears as it was too much for me to handle, my cousin and grandma laughed at me being in pain and my grandma gave me a hug a moved away for a bit because I didn't want to be touched as I was now a bit sensitive and didn't want to be touched and I was biting my tongue as I tried my hardest to keep my cool, my grandmother was yelling at me in spanish that I didn't even understand and I tried to calm her down and apologize.\n\nAs soon as I tried to apologize my Cousin turned to me to and I quote to \"shut the fuck up, stay quiet and eat my damn food\", by then my brother comes in as his room was next to the dining room and he started scolding me on how I should be more respectful and whenever I tried to talk and explain he yells at me that I should \"shut the fuck up\" and he kept on explaining how I shouldn't argue becaude my grandmother has a heart problem and how my uncle was very old and also had a poor heart and I should stay quiet and respect them, by then I tried to hold in my tears because I didn't like being yelled at and how all I did was tell my uncle to quiet down as the calmest I can be.\n\nI was texting my friend on twitter once I finished eating and he was equally upset but took my side and tried to calm me down because at that point I was sobbing.\n\nA day passed and I was on my way with packing to go to new york and see my mom when my dad decided to call me and started yelling at me that I was being disrespectful and how I shouldn't argue and yell at them to \"shut up\" (even though I never yell at them to shut up at all suring the falling out) because of the same ol \"they're your family and they have poor health because theyre old\" sentence over and over and I was having none of it as I hung up on him, this would be the end of it but not really.\n\nI've been feeling emotionally exhausted since then and always wondered if I was ever in the wrong or not\n\nAITA??\n\nTLDR: My uncle mocked me loudly and I told him to quiet down because I was in pain but all hell breaks loose.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zAjBCgeJqTNbhSi0xW46EBjUsXbU1MCU", "post_id": "aaui3u", "action": {"description": "telling my girlfriend when I am upset, when doing so jeopardises her happiness", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my girlfriend when I am upset, when doing so jeopardises her happiness", "text": "My girlfriend and I met at university, and have been dating for two months, and have been having a hard time over the Christmas Holiday. We live about 7 hours away from one another, and will not see each other for about a month, which is okay; she adores her family and I don't want to intrude on her Christmas holiday. The issue here is that I do not adore my family, and I find living with them burdensome and stressful.\n\nFor context, my Mother has dementia, but has always been stubborn and narcissistic, and whilst my Father adores her he has no clue how to handle her, and she emotionally abuses him to tears. My Father himself does not know how to handle my Mother, and often gets angry and starts to shout at her. I haven't seen them in about 3 months and they've both gotten worse, meaning that living here over Christmas was a massive shock to me.\n\nAs a result of this, I have spent the majority of my holiday either in my room all day, or ouside the house. My girlfriend knows this. If she asks me how my day has been, I answer honestly, and say that today has been boring / tough / upsetting, and of she asks I elaborate on whatever arguement happened that day. \n\nI think because of this we end up texting way more than we should be, we run out of things to talk about. Furthermore, as we are texting than talking face to face, we can't convey exactly what we feel when we say something, meaning I think she is under the impression that I am constantly upset while i'm here, then that is only really confined to when I'm having to deal with my parents.\n\nLast night, my thoughts are verified. She is upset that I've spent my day in my room, saying \"Just so you know, in this house spending time just in your room isnt something people do much\". I reply with \"Yeah, and in this house, enjoying time with other people isnt something you do much\". From here, we both take a moment and then say that we have stuff to think about. We no we're both upset, I feel I was rude and thoughtless in what I said. I reply later on, apologising for the comment, that it were unnecessary.\n\nShe replies afterwards- she says that that's not why she is upset. She is upset that she hasn't enjoyed this holiday like she normally would, and its because she knows that I'm not enjoying my holiday. She hates the thought that she dislikes me telling her about my problems, and she says that what she feels is callous, and mean, and she says she is sorry for it. I understand, since coming home the amount of times I needed to talk to her because I was upset was almost daily.\n\nShe goes quiet for about half an hour before returning. She's argued with her mum, which is rare. She is extremely upset, and feels she can't talk it to me because she feels she has let me down. She says that she's thought about it, and she needs some time to think, and that she would not message me for a while.\nI want to be there for her, if she has argued with her mum. Their arguement eclipses ours in importance. Yet, she obviously doesn't want to talk to me right now, she needs someone else, like her best friend.\n\nI'm conflicted on what to do regarding the rest of this holiday and the relationship as a whole. I feel like I have been a completely different person over the holiday, and she's been made fully aware of that fact because we message for hours on end. I know that this current issue will be swiftly resolved when I go back to university on January 5th, and meet her (and her family, for the first time) on January 12th. Nevertheless, I know what we have both handled this horribly, and I don't know how to approach the subject of my family with her from now on.\n\nShould I have to tread carefully about the topics I talk about when I'm in a relationship, when we've already agreed to speak our mind and say when we're upset? Am I the asshole for putting this pressure on her over her holiday, when I know what she is with her family? Are there any red flags here things I need to think about or watch out for? How could we approach talking about things we're struggling with without putting pressure on one another?\n\n(Sorry for any mistakes, I'm on mobile)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EjzWdklYflwBT8Nfn8hkhvdB97pznMgg", "post_id": "an7bsi", "action": {"description": "telling an elderly lady to shut up in front of her grandkids", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for telling an elderly lady to shut up in front of her grandkids?", "text": "So a little backstory... I am half-Taiwanese and so I am in China often. I was there a month ago for Christmas, visiting family, and I decide to go watch a movie by myself. Hollywood movies there are in English, but subtitled in Chinese, and I take seat in the movie theater.\n\nTwo seats down from me is this Chinese grandmother, at least 65 years old (possibly older) and next to her away from me are what I believe to be her two teenage grandchildren. The movie starts and this woman STARTS NARRATING EVERY SINGLE THING THAT HAPPENS IN THE MOVIE... I'm fluent in Mandarin Chinese so I understand everything she said, although I'm sure it's just as irritating otherwise. So for the whole time, it was like this...\n\n(In Mandarin Chinese)\n\n\"Oh, she's climbing the cliff\"\n\n*2 second pause*\n\n\"Oh, she's singing\"\n\n*2 second pause*\n\n\"Oh, she's splashing the water\"\n\n.... and on and on and on, and it did NOT stop at all. Because it's an old lady, I tried to ignore it. But after an hour of this nonstop, I reached my breaking point, turned to face her, and said somewhat angrily (in Mandarin Chinese)\n\n\"Excuse me, I'm trying to watch the movie, could you please shut your mouth?!\"\n\nImmediately she goes silent and no longer talks and I start feeling mortified. I could've worded it so much better and gentler but it just slipped out the way it did. I just finished watching the movie and left.\n\nDon't kill me, but from my experience as a half-White and half-Asian person, being quiet in a movie theater is more of an etiquette in the West compared to China, so maybe I'm mad at someone for cultural differences they can't really control? Also, I wondered if maybe her grandkids needed the narration (out of perhaps, blindness maybe), but they seemed completely able bodied so it might just have been a personality quirk. \n\nI dont know, I've been wondering about that since. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "lE9tdilB9bzv871fXuC500iAcrgfPION", "post_id": "a03dni", "action": {"description": "blowing off a girl who was being flirty with me while I was working", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for blowing off a girl who was being flirty with me while I was working?", "text": "I (24M) work as a bread merchandiser and visit various stores in my area, it's not odd to have a random customer ask me where things are, only to have them see my vendor logo followed by an eye roll or a general sigh. What doesn't normally happen is a cute female make a conversation with me... which is what happened today. As I was stocking my area on a Saturday (very busy day) she clearly saw me an walked up an started making conversation about how busy the store was, and as I went to move my bread cart, she got super nervous grabbed my cart near where my hand was an told me I didnt need to move it for her. I gave a quick smile, an told her I need to stock over in another part of the isle. She let go very quickly, and got very visibly red in the face. I then (in an attempt to calm her down) told her that I'm typically in everyone's way, I appreciated her being thoughtful an went back to working. She then said something to me, which I didnt hear because I have one headphone in at all times listening to music. An then she turned left an walked out the isle. About 30 seconds later, she came from the opposite end of the isle and told me to have a great day/weekend. I smiled whilst not even looking at her, and said \"uh huh or sure\", she stood there for a couple seconds and then left. Two things before I ask if I'm the asshole in this situation.... \n\nFirst, she didnt buy any buns or bread and just left the isle.\n\nSecond, I was listening to \"baby shark\" because my friend texted me before I went into my shift saying \"DODODODODDO\" An thats what I was listening to for most of the interaction. Pretty sure at one point I sang it out loud.... \n\nSo am I the Asshole for not noticing she was trying to be forward/flirting with me? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PCwaHi9Kvw1EPHkAlv7q4EIsYA7iAEtn", "post_id": "b6pbx1", "action": {"description": "not wanting my girlfriend to get Lice", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For Not Wanting My Girlfriend to Get Lice?", "text": "So today while I was at work my girlfriend texted me that she was going to try out yoga at our college\u2019s gym with her friends. She then said, \u201cAlso when I get home you should check me for lice apparently there\u2019s an outbreak at the gym.\u201d\n\n​\n\nI reminded her that we have a special event coming up this weekend and we\u2019re also flying out for a wedding in about 2 weeks. It would really suck to have those be canceled because we got lice.\n\n​\n\nShe responded that it\u2019s not her fault that the ONE day she decided to go to the gym there happens to be lice there. Apparently the lice are only in the upstairs part of the gym, and that her two friends are still going. She said they\u2019d leave if it looked shady.\n\n​\n\nMy response was, \u201cI know you want to start doing yoga and being active, but lice can take over a house and it can take weeks to get rid of them. Does it really hurt for the three of you to go another day or to a different place?\u201d\n\n​\n\nShe replied that she thinks it\u2019s just being hyped up as a joke around campus, and that they wouldn\u2019t have the gym open if it wasn\u2019t cleaned.\n\n​\n\nWe started to go back and forth. I was asking why it was important to do yoga today, and why not just go any other time in the week. I reminded her that if she brought lice back to the house it could spread to everyone else, and that we can\u2019t exactly fly across the country with lice on our heads.\n\n​\n\nShe argued that she wants to go today. That if there\u2019s a warning on the door or anything then she won\u2019t go and since they didn\u2019t close the gym it can\u2019t be that serious.\n\n​\n\nAt this point I\u2019m starting to wonder why this is even an argument. How can I possibly be the bad guy for saying don\u2019t go into a building that has a lice outbreak?\n\n​\n\nAnyways, she says that I\u2019m essentially calling her stupid, that, \u201cobviously I\u2019m not going to go there if there\u2019s like a tent over it and warning signs.\u201d She feels that I don\u2019t trust her and must think she\u2019s stupid if I think she\u2019d risk infecting her family with lice just to go to yoga. She called me dramatic and said that I\u2019m being controlling.\n\n​\n\nNow the last thing I ever want to be in our relationship is controlling - she should never worry about me telling her where she can go or what she can do. But I think we should be able to disagree with each other\u2019s decisions without being classified as \u201ccontrolling.\u201d\n\n​\n\nI think with the information I was given I was not out of line to question her decisions.\n\n​\n\nSo reddit, please let me know if I\u2019m a controlling asshole.\n\n​\n\nTLDR: Girlfriend wants to go to a gym with an outbreak of lice to try yoga with her friends. We have big events planned for the next two weeks and told her it wasn\u2019t a good idea. She called me controlling.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ePf3gxwi37IUPTHccodWQPDzbedmpcT4", "post_id": "ap0oon", "action": {"description": "bringing an escaped cat back to my neighbors", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For bringing an escaped cat back to my neighbors?", "text": "Sorry for formatting and a hard read, its my first post. Trying to stay as unbiased as possible.\n\nA few nights ago, my wife and I heard a cat meowing at the back of our house. We opened the door and a super friendly stray cat came up to us and wanted to be pet. We were cautious but gave it attention. It was declawed and extremely skinny so we figured it had been a house cat in the past. The next day it was still outside our house, so I went and bought some cat food and we posted the cat on our neighborhood facebook page. No luck finding the owner. Then I decided to ask my neighbors if it was their cat, and they said that he had been missing for 2 weeks but they didn't want to bring him in the house yet because they didn't want to give fleas to their other pets. This sounded okay at first but now it sounds weird, especially since the cat was declawed and malnourished. It has no way to fend for itself outside, and it is cold here at night, around 30 degrees F. They also have a responsibilty to care for that cat since they are the owners, right? Anyways, I didn't see the cat for a day so I thought they took him back in. But he turned back up today, meowing at my back door. I went and tried to tell my neighbor but they wouldn't answer the door. I tried again an hour later and the cat followed me to their door, so I picked the cat up to give it to them. They finally answer the door after I wait for a few minutes, and the cat starts freaking out when he  sees the owner and clawing me up. The owner grabs the cats back skin, not even the scruff, and kinda tosses him in the house saying he doesnt know what hes going to do. It was a really weird experience, and it made me think that the owners were abusive. AITA for bringing a possibly abused cat back to the owners? AITA for rushing the owners to take in their obviously indoor cat?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "tZ6zwpU1dLGjvPllV5o2FLC3cSUrBBn7", "post_id": "ai20t8", "action": {"description": "being upset with my boyfriend for telling our guy friends about our sexual life", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset with my boyfriend for telling our guy friends about our sexual life?", "text": "I met my boyfriend through a gaming group and we\u2019re a close circle of friends. We eventually fell for each other and we\u2019ve been dating for 6 months, things going super smooth. Theres one issue I really have, and thats him passing along \u201ctips\u201d to our friend group about getting laid or getting nudes. All these tips by the way are things he does with me. I don\u2019t want our friend group putting two and two together since its kind of a double standard. Guys typically get praised for receiving that stuff, while girls are usually frowned upon. I told him my concerns and he brushed them off as we\u2019re all friends and the tips he gives is general knowledge. AITA for being upset?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IuWp7NM7NUK8pTLJeqvhrvXkY2OeKVuw", "post_id": "a90o62", "action": {"description": "not escorting my sister home", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not escorting my sister home?", "text": "Hey all, not a storyteller so apologies if the post is a dry read. I'm on a family trip for a week. Was out drinking with the family, and when we got the bill I said I wanted to stay out a bit later and try and make friends. Sister decided to stay out as well, and I let her know that I was completely comfortable at a bar on my own. I ended up making friends, and when she left I told her to find a way back on her own because I wanted to stay out a while. Mom and sister are pissed that I didn't escort her back. I figured since she is an adult (20 years old) she'd be more than capable of getting home safely without my help. Am I an asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "r1mLroaOPcHXLqP7H9cXotfMUVHRjrkg", "post_id": "a7dg7n", "action": {"description": "refusing to push my neighbor's car", "pronormative_score": 31, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to push my neighbor's car?", "text": "My neighbor came by right after a snow storm and asked that I come out and push her car with my car. I guess it rutted out and they weren't having any luck pushing it by hand.  I politely refused and made sure she understood that I drive a new 2017 WRX STi and my bumpers are more than likely made out of plastic and I'd rather not bend, scratch, or otherwise damage it. She sees me out there washing it every couple weeks she knows I take good care of it. She came back with she just needs a nudge and I just refused, but I did offer to come out and help push by hand no problem. She declined that and just said okaaay in a condescending way and walked off and hasn't quite been on the same friendly level since. \n\nIt's probably worth noting that this happened about a year ago and I haven't stopped thinking about it since. I'm in Virginia where it rarely snows and there's no reason her damn camry with summer tires should have left the driveway in a foot of snow and ice in the first place.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 31, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 31, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QI3qKFuVb9sInXRo9JgQCukpJqV5C2jO", "post_id": "9yibqj", "action": {"description": "giving my Uber driver an one star", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for giving my Uber driver an one star?", "text": "Some context, I requested my Uber driver at 4 in the morning at my university department building. So I was a bit tired and yawning a lot throughout the ride. However when I entered the car I always be respective, nice and say \u201chi, how\u2019s your (day/night going)?\u201d. We didn\u2019t talk at all throughout the entire trip. Then when we arrived at my place I said \u201cthanks and take care\u201d , then he proceed to give me an one star to my face, without even saying why I was rude at all, ( the only reason I could think of, is I yawned a lot), so out of frustration I in returned gave him an one star.  Another thing I always remember to try to close the car door as soft as possible while still able to the close the door, as I got complain before for shutting the door too hard. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "n4BjoSNA7FIvkL1lnqVRLjkPoZ2XCtIy", "post_id": "auoxnt", "action": {"description": "not wanting to hang out with someone who just got herpes", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to hang out with someone who just got herpes?", "text": "I met a girl on Tinder who was cool but a red flag was that she had a sugar daddy who gave her expensive things.\n\nI wasn\u2019t super into her but I asked to hang out with her one night, and she declined. Apparently she went out with another guy, because she messaged me a few days later stating that she had obtained several STDs after having sex with a guy the night she rejected me. One of them being a nasty out break of herpies. \n\nShe messaged the other night and I rejected specially because of STDs. I didn\u2019t tell her that was the reason. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8wxEw1xd3xDw27H53gSDU5SqhDvkXK5c", "post_id": "b2r28o", "action": {"description": "talking to my ex behind my wife's back", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 19}, "title": "AITA for talking to my ex behind my wife\u2019s back?", "text": "I\u2019ve brought this up with some friends and I have gotten some conflicting answers so I\u2019m wondering if IATA. \n\nA little background information, I am 26(f) and have been married for just about a year to a fantastic woman named, Haley. I love my partner more than anything in the entire world and I could not picture my life without her. Haley and I have been together for about 4 years. When I was much younger I dated a woman named, Marie. Marie and I met and instantly clicked and what I thought was us getting on like a house on fire quickly became one of the most intense and darkest relationships of my life. It was abusive on both sides and not healthy at all. I believe it\u2019s safe to say it was highly toxic and codependent but the draw was magnetic to say the least. Once Marie and I ended things we didn\u2019t talk for several years, up until about 2 years ago, when she reached out seemingly out of the blue. I had been to therapy and worked out a lot of my issues (many of which revolved around my sexuality) and she had to. While catching up we both made amends for what had happened and seemed to move on with our lives. \n\nHaley knows all of this and was supportive in me getting closure on what was a terrible time in my life. I even showed Haley every message as it came in. At the end of the conversation with Marie Haley said she felt that it was great I got closure but asked me to sever the relationship permanently. I agreed. \n\nOnto the present: Marie has reached out again maybe about 3 months ago and we have talked every day since. Sometimes it\u2019s about small trivial things and other times it\u2019s about tougher emotional things. Marie was recently there for me about a death in the family- this was a family member she was particularly close to when we were together. At first I told Haley about the conversation and she brushed it off as sort of a do what you want but don\u2019t tell me thing but I could tell it made her uncomfortable. I don\u2019t want to stop talking to Marie and I really consider her to be one of my closest friends at this point, at the same time I don\u2019t want to hurt the trusting and loving relationship I have with my wife. I know it\u2019s somewhat selfish but am I completely in the wrong for wanting to talk to someone who I care about in a completely platonic way?\n\nSo Reddit, AITA for continuing to talk to my ex? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 19, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 19}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "iTa3PfsaDc7c5DoYURyYp3c8XngGmHSO", "post_id": "a70wr2", "action": {"description": "not wanting to pay for a gift for a teacher", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to pay for a gift for a teacher?", "text": "Some backstory. I am 14 years old and live in Central Europe. A month ago our main teacher (I dont know if this exists in America, basically a Teacher that coordinates all class Events, handles problems etc.) announced that she is pregnant and will leave in January. She said that she wont come back until 2022 at the very least, so we will get a new main teacher.\n\n\nLets get to business. The girls from my class want to throw a goodbye party and buy her supplies for her future baby. They asked me for money that would equate to 20 cents. I was skeptic due to reasons I will list later, so I didnt give them the money.\n\n\nI went home after the school and told my parents. They were angry that I didnt give the money, so we got into an argument.\n\n\nI didnt want to give them money because the teacher ignored death threats towards me. A problematic guy in our class (Probably ADHD) took  a knife and a lighter to school. When we were alone, he pulled out the knife and the lighter and started waving them in front of my head. He was telling me that he will slit my throat, rape my dead body and ignite it after that.\n\n\nSo I told the teacher, because that didnt sound like a joke, and we werent friends either. She told me that she will handle it. But she didnt. She swept it under a rug and didnt tell anyone.\n\n\nSo I told this to my parents and they didnt believe me and told me that I am an Evil scrooge for not wanting to give her money.\n\n\nAm I the asshole for not wanting to give money to a person that ignored death threats addressed towards me? AITA For getting into an, argument with my parents? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "dXshQgLWfrf6cHAUfMkjKKpmFj79FZhq", "post_id": "a184wz", "action": {"description": "telling a semi-desperate friend to pay me", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For telling a semi-desperate friend to pay me", "text": " Tl;Dr Long story short, I'm in the tech field and one of my friends asked for my technical help on a project. I asked is it for you personally, students at our school or the department. Had it been the first two I would have helped no problem but if I'm helping a not open source/personal project ...aka if my work is benefiting an organization, uh pay me. He is over worked and underqualified and needs my help since he gets no support from our school (the employer).  \n\n\nOne of my close friends got a job at our University building systems for our department to facilitate learning/classes. He has been working on one project for a year now and has been struggling, mainly due to the department changing the goal, his underqualification for the massive task, lack of support, and being overworked.  \n\n\nThe other day I was talking with him and he brought up something he wanted try to get the project done. I talked with him for a little bit (30 mins) about what he was trying to do and if it would work.  \n\n\nHe asked if I could help him implement the solution to the problem, and/or talk with me further.  \n\n\nI asked is this for the department, or was this a personal project? He knows I don't like our department and said \"uh it's mostly a personal project\". I'm not super dumb, this was for the department and I said, \"I'll help guide you in the right direction but if this is benefiting someone else, pay me, not to be mean but my time is worth something.\" This was to a friend. One that is struggling.  \n\n\nPart of this is that he thinks I'm only asking to be paid because I don't like the head of the department (which guilty as charged). Am I right in asking to be paid if this project will help the school? He said that this project will provide a platform for learning to all the students, which he is right about, the results of the project would help a lot of students, so I am unsure if I'm being selfish.  \n\n\nAnd as soon as I dropped the bomb of \"pay me for this\" he said \"if you ever needed help at your job I'd help you.\" Which, yeah, that's true. I did say if I asked you for help I'd pay you in some way.  \n\n\nThere was someone else in the room and they said \"just pay for lunch\" which I said \"sure!\"   \n\n\nAm I an ass?  \n\n\nIn the end I said that I would help guide him in the right direction, and that I was was tired and a bit grumpy. But never said that I would fully \"hands on keyboard\" help him. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Lol7Ks5TOSnbv2O8MyFBS1zIJgSlRRZp", "post_id": "adoqvk", "action": {"description": "wanting to leave my wife after agreeing to make it work", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 20}, "title": "AITA for wanting to leave my wife after agreeing to make it work?", "text": "First off, I cheated on my wife. For that, I am the asshole.  The marriage was good (6 years), nothing major beyond normal quibbles. Just me being stupid and wanting to have some fun.  \n\nImmediate aftermath was looking alright. We were doing counseling (I have my own, and we have a separate couples counselor). My counselor gave me some tools, like a time out system, that really helped us get through the initial arguments and actually come to some peaceful resolutions. Things were looking great.  \n\nBut now, after about two months, things seem to be unraveling. Our fights are getting worse, and the timeout system doesn't seem to be helping. Before, our arguments were on concrete topics and easy to solve. Now, they feel like whack-a-mole: a bunch of rapid succession complaints that I can barely keep up with without wanting to storm out. I actually pushed her aside one time and I'm worried I might do worse. Not that I have anger issues, she's the only one I get mad at. \n\nMost of the fights evolve into me getting frustrated, because I'm weird and don't know how to express my feelings, or don't feel like they are being understood. This leads to her getting angry because \"[i] have no reason to be frustrated\". Then it's on the downward spiral to a shouting match. \n\nAgain, I know I'm the asshole for cheating. I know she's pained from my actions. And I still want to support her for the immediate future. But am I a jerk for wanting to end it?  And it's not because I want to end it to be with the other woman, because she's in another country anyway. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 20, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 20}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "twndg0FBV9bIfibVcATX0xVDYtRS5yKa", "post_id": "arh1bw", "action": {"description": "thinking my partner should do most of the chores", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for thinking my partner should do most of the chores?", "text": "My partner of 7 years feels that I don't do enough cooking/washing. I feel the opposite. I work fulltime and cover 100% of our bills as well as providing a small amount of pocket money for them (personally I consider all our assets/income to belong to us equally but they didn't feel comfortable pooling all our money into a joint account). Dates and such things are split. During school terms they work two six hour shifts a week. On those nights I get home about an hour before them and will usually cook. Cooking and dishes on the weekend are split or done by me. They do most of the laundry and vacuuming (I still do some but maybe 1/5th as much). I do the 'heavy' cleaning jobs they don't want to do (wiping down the bathroom, cleaning the toilet, clearing drains etc).\n\nSince it is easier for me to carry, grocery shopping is either done by me on my way home or together on the weekends. If we need one or two ingredients on a night my partner works they will sometimes grab it but never any full shopping loads because it becomes too much to carry.\n\nAnything technical or clerical is done by me. Household repairs, organising our rent, banking, doctors appointments, government documents, taxes, computers etc. I have a phobia of sorts to talking on the phone but I do most of our phone calls because my partner will put it off indefinitely. In their defence, English is their second language so they are nervous to talk in English (their English is absolutely fine though, they have lived in an English speaking country since their last year of High School and completed Uni in English).\n\nA year and a half ago when I was still looking for full-time work I used to do more of the chores so it was closer to a 50-50 split. I can sympathise with them but since I am working fulltime and cover all of our bills I feel that it is reasonable that I would now be doing less chores during the week. Does this make me a misogynist arsehole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9uIACxiRh4zP0jzBkBwurflHGWQkW0GM", "post_id": "aq2dzt", "action": {"description": "not wanting my dad to have anything to do with my sporting events", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my dad to have anything to do with my sporting events?", "text": "My relationship with my dad has never been that great. He\u2019s always kind of made my life miserable by demeaning me and making me feel as if I\u2019ve never made him proud. He only seems to notice my mistakes and always brutally points them out but he never notices my accomplishments. In the 18 years I\u2019ve spent living with him he\u2019s never congratulated me on anything or told me he\u2019s proud of me and he\u2019s always telling me he may die before I ever impress him. My dad has been putting me through a very tough conditioning regimen for soccer before the season starts. He expects me to go to the gym 7 days a week. Now I understand that this not asking too much but he wants me to go for at least two hours regardless of if I have homework or something I need to do. I usually have to end up staying up late to finish my homework because of this. While the training is annoying the main reason I don\u2019t want him involved is because he\u2019ll take credit if I end up doing well just because he forced me to go to the gym. I told him that soccer is something very dear to me and that since he\u2019s never shown me love I don\u2019t want him to be involved in anyway. I don\u2019t want him helping me train and I don\u2019t want him at the games. I think he probably thinks that I\u2019m too much of a fuck up to do well without his help but my mom says he only wants me to succeed and that he wants me to do well so I should just give him a chance. Am I an asshole for denying him this chance?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dun7KCqb4EjEcBIBkzRG3P5jhmKGWUA8", "post_id": "ao0ekf", "action": {"description": "working through my break", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for working through my break?", "text": "I usually work 5 hours part time at a warehouse job but last Friday I decided to work 7 hours. I didn't tell my manager because he was on the other side of the building and I figured that I could get more work done if I just stayed at my location instead of wasting time to walk over and let him know.\n\nToday I got called in by my manager today and he said that I should have let him know that I would be working extra hours. We have a labor card and on it I basically put down that I worked 5 straight hours without a break. I found out that there is a labor law that requires companies to give a 15 minute break and a 30 minute break for employees that work 7+ hours. I did not take the 30 minute break because I had lost track of time and opted not to take it. I remember him mentioning something like this but it slipped my mind. It was my mistake and I didn't think that it would blow up like it has. He let me know that there is a company wide process of trying to correct my mistake and that they could be potentially sued in labor court. He told me that he could potentially lose his job because people are going to think that he didn't give me the 30 minute break. The whole day, I've been feeling terrible I really feel like I messed up.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JFkIvgKV1JyKvEyDbNgz8Q8f8wRUQAY4", "post_id": "a0kt9e", "action": {"description": "telling my gf I could see her later while I was at a bbq with friends, after she spent a week out of town", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my gf I could see her later while I was at a bbq with friends, after she spent a week out of town?", "text": "This happened this weekend. My gf works at an accounting firm aa an accountant and sometimes has to work out of town for varied periods of time. This past week was one of those times, she has worked out of town for 2 weeks although she did pop in the previous weekend so we could attend a friend's wedding and have dinner/beers with the rest of my friends group who are usually out of town (they live all over now).\n\nFast forward to this weekend, I was invited Thursday night to this bbq that was happening at a new friend's house on Saturday afternoon. A little bit of backstory here, I was one for the few friends that stuck around in my hometown after high school (I'm 27) and I haven't gotten around to making new friends to hang out with so I appreciate any opportunity to make more. While this is happening, my gf let's me know she's coming in on Saturday, I tell her I can't pick her up since I was working that Saturday and she says it's fine, her dad can get her home and immediately after that, I invite her to said bbq because I was sensing this was gonna cause me issues and she just said she would consider but didn't think so.\n\nThen, on Saturday, my friend was getting ready for the cookout and told me to be there by around 3 PM. I go and then my gf texts me, asking what am I doing and around what time are we gonna see each other, I tell her I am at the bbq and if we could meet at 8 PM. No answer after my texts and I call her, she says she thinks she always loses to my friends (like I said, I don't have any) and that she was really excited to see me after being a whole week away, going off about how we barely got to see each other the previous weekend because we had to attend the wedding and  then go to dinner with my friends and how she feels if it came between her and my friends, I would've gone with then and if she hadn't gone to the dinner get together she wouldn't have seen me at all as I would've gone to dinner anyway (which is true, I never get to see this friend group so I take advantage of any opportunity).\n\nSo, while on the call (this took place around 5 pm), I try and defend myself, \"it's not true\", \"we can see each other in a bit, like I said, 8 pm\" but she was having none of it and repeating how she always loses to my friends, then says she has to go and we hang up. For what it's worth, we don't see each other for the rest of the day and after texting her a bit to angry responses and her telling me the day was off and we could see each other some other time, so I decide to salvage the day, stay and get wasted l, though that didn't stop me texting her.\n\nThe next day, I try and talk to her and she's making one word responses, so I notice she's punishing me, I insist and we meet up at the time she said. I get there, we go to the mall, get a coffee, I walk with her as she pays her bills, she's still mad but it's a start.\n\nAfter that, we get to her house, I say hi to her family and we talk. In short, she thinks I could do so much more, that she's not a priority to me, that my friends, or my recent acquaintances at that party, would obviously blow it off for their respective wives and gfs. I try to tell her that they're not in the same position and not desperate to get new friends like I am but I recognize it's a flimsy defense and I drop it, only telling her that I was super sorry. A little bit later, I go gone and she tells me again over WhatsApp, then blocks me. This has worried me a great deal so I feel forced to ask about another POV.\n\nSo, in short, AITA? Could I have done better? Is it just a TIFU? I feel I'm not completely in the wrong but I have no idea.\n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yGihAH3l6hhldLy6H7hYxLWLAMiE4qcm", "post_id": "9y39dy", "action": {"description": "leaving my daughter's friend at the park", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 57}, "title": "AITA for leaving my daughter's friend at the park?", "text": "A few days ago I was coming home from work. My daughter wanted to be picked up so I drove over to the park (where she was at). \n\nWhen I got there, there was this other who was my daughter's friend. She apparently needed a ride home. I declined her. \n\nAfter that, I drove my daughter home. Another important detail is that it was around six a clock at the time I picked my daughter up.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 57, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 57}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Zvnm8ouNp17njO6T5GDfXPnQwcDrhq9T", "post_id": "artp02", "action": {"description": "falling in love with my best friend and breaking up our friendship when she got a boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA: for falling in love with my best friend and breaking up our friendship when she got a boyfriend?", "text": "Well I just want to know.. she told me she gots a boyfriend now. which she kept from me for a few months now, and I told her I couldn\u2019t see her anymore because since I had feelings for her other than friends... Obviously, and she told me she loved me as a friend well hurt that I am I told her we couldn\u2019t be friends... that was fucked up right?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MpMsAnvGlErlAOVMXrlw5UdDnJDhjU8n", "post_id": "ai0ulg", "action": null, "title": "AITA, wont let my boyfriend visit his grandma.", "text": "Background info: \n\nMy boyfriend and I of three years live together he sold his car when he went back to university 2 years ago. I have a small car I just finished paying off but that I still pay for the maintenance and insurance on and he refuses to pay anything towards it because \"it's not his car\". \n\nHis grandmother lives 3.5 hours away and he has been to visit her a few times. Each time he borrows the car he takes it with a full tank of gas and brings it back empty (it can make a full trip there on a tank of gas and a tank cost me 60$). This has happened three times now and after each time I have been somewhat irate because I don't feel it's fair for me to pay for the car and the gas for him to drive it. He brushes it off and says hes sorry he forgot  and he'll remember next time but he never does nor does he offer to go fill up the tank. He has also taken it for a few other things and never put gas in it as a thank you). I've given him multiple warnings that if this behaviour continues I won't let him borrow my car anymore... \n\nLast night he informs me that when I'm at work on the weekend he wants to take the car for a day trip to see his grandmother. I tell him he isn't allowed to take my car anymore because he never brings it back full and doesn't pay for it and that through his disrespect he has lost that privledge. He loses his mind. Says I'm being juvenile, vindictive, that I'm holding onto old grudges and bringing up stuff from the past.\n\nSo tell me Reddit AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 93, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 95, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JLvXdPfuvgm2hQxwzWVAyK6UW2kWb4Vw", "post_id": "9txbe6", "action": {"description": "cutting this person out of my life", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for cutting this person out of my life?", "text": "I\u2019ve been friends with a girl, let\u2019s call her Kate, for three years now. We\u2019re in high school, and have been considered Best Friends\u2122\ufe0f for the entire time we\u2019ve known each other. This year, however, was different. \n\nNot only did she begin to literally ignore my existence, she would get mad at me when I was in a bad mood. I\u2019ll admit, I get snappy when I\u2019m angry or sad, but from knowing me all this time she knew that none of it was directed at her. Regardless, when I\u2019d snap at her and immediately apologise, she didn\u2019t care and would storm off. She started doing drugs and fucking around with her boyfriend constantly,  and it got to the point where she didn\u2019t care about anything else. Kate\u2019s life was entirely drugs and sex and rock n\u2019 roll. Once she said \u201cif I don\u2019t have my Juul I\u2019m gonna have a sucky day,\u201d and snapped at me that she \u201cNEEDS her Juul to be happy,\u201d to which I replied \u201cthat\u2019s not good, Kate that means you\u2019re getting addicted to nicotine. Fucking stop\u201d and then ALL OF HER NEW FRIENDS ganged up on me, saying it was obvious I\u2019d never Juuled before and making me feel terrible about myself. \n\nThrough those _Extracurricular Activities_ she became friends with a bunch of people I didn\u2019t have anything in common with. I\u2019d still go sit with her and made an effort, even though I felt uncomfortable the entire time. It came to the point where she began to ignore me completely, like I said earlier. I\u2019d say \u201chey Kate I\u2019m going to class now,\u201d and she wouldn\u2019t even acknowledge I was there. So I left. Then I stopped saying anything at all. \n\nI started hanging out with my other friends, and I stopped talking to Kate all the time. People would always ask me why I was friends with her if she made me feel so awful. I never knew how to answer. \n\nHer boyfriend, another friend, and I all planned for months a surprise birthday party for Kate, which\u2014minus a few minor bumps in plans\u2014 went well. There was cake, presents, and all the typical bday things. We did it because her mom is a bitch and never let her have a birthday party before. However, when we were out doing the thing we planned, she did nothing but complain and snap at people and sit in the corner whispering with her boyfriend. \n\nWe were also in a club together. It was Debate Club, and you had to pay dues to be in it. We were presenting a bill to be debated\u2014one that I did literally all the work for\u2014 and her only job was to do the opening speech. That was it, a minute long synopsis of our bill. So I\u2019m walking to the room Debate Club is in, I can see the door a few feet ahead of me, and I get a phone call from Kate saying she doesn\u2019t have her club dues. \u201cShould I go? I don\u2019t think I should go.\u201d Finally, even though I was going to do horribly without her, I said she shouldn\u2019t come. I was just so done with how unreliable she was. She said thanks and hung up while I was mid-sentence. So I went in, tried to give the opening speech completely unprepared, and I did horribly (as expected). It was the worst public speech I\u2019d ever given, which sucked because I\u2019m normally extremely good at that. I burst into tears on stage and ran off. I literally couldn\u2019t do it anymore. Two days later, I hear she\u2019s talking shit about me behind my back, telling people (MY FRIENDS) that I told her to \u201cget the hell out of Debate\u201d and calling her an \u201cunreliable bitch\u201d and all that jazz. \n\nSo I texted her. \u201cHow dare you. How fucking dare you do all this shit  to me. You\u2019ve been so mean and made me feel so mad about myself when all I\u2019ve done is care about you.\u201d And in the texts, I did say things that I don\u2019t regret but we\u2019re pretty damn mean\u2014 \u201call you do is smoke, fuck, and feel bad for yourself\u201d \u201cyou step on other people\u2019s balls to make yours feel bigger\u201d \u201cmanipulative\u201d \u201cunreliable\u201d etc. Then I blocked her number and that was that. \n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zp2LJBtO3jI6Cw5QhMCcCV7FfVglHXQX", "post_id": "az0uyr", "action": {"description": "not inviting my friend to my birthday party because she takes too many pictures", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if i don\u2019t invite my friend to my birthday party because she takes too many pictures?", "text": "my birthday is coming up in a couple of weeks and i decided it\u2019d be fun if some of my friends and me to go to an amusement park. \n\ni already decided i want three of my friends to go but i\u2019m not certain about my fourth friend. she just takes too make pictures sometimes that it annoys me. pictures are great for memories but going anywhere takes double the time and i don\u2019t really want to be waiting around for her to do a \u201cphoto shoot\u201d in front of a tree just so she can put it on instagram. also she insists we \u201cvlog\u201d stuff when we hang out and it\u2019s awkward for me...sometimes i just want to enjoy the moment, you know? also it\u2019s my birthday...\n\ni feel a bit guilty over it and am thinking maybe i should backtrack and invite her now but at the same time i feel like a jerk because i know she\u2019ll feel bad if she isn\u2019t invited. am i being selfish over something petty? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ckphAmNFkwJazhW6wOVTbqi3tLQiuoH2", "post_id": "auhvoc", "action": {"description": "cutting a girl out of my life", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for cutting a girl out of my life?", "text": "Hi, first time poster here. So for context I\u2019m in high school. The girl and myself are both 17. \n\nTL:DR at the bottom \n\n\nFor starters, we\u2019ve know each other since we got to High School. It was always a chill thing, never super close. \nTwo years ago, she had a on/off thing with my best friend in a grade up. They were always never certain on anything. That changed when he moved across country. I was closer to her then, but still just acquainted. \n\nLast year however, her and I started to talk a lot more. She was always super spotty with texting back, but she said she was really busy and I went along. Summer break hit and as I tried to make plans, she\u2019d leave me on read/opened constantly. I began to think of it personally. \n\nWe stopped contact until the start of 1st semester this year. We had a class together, right after lunch. I like to get to my classes a bit early on the first day, scope out who\u2019s sitting where and make sure I can sit near someone I know. Where I ended up sitting, there was an open space right beside me. She walks in right before class started, sits down beside me and just starts talking to me like nothing at all. \n\nOver the course of the semester, we were close again. She again was still super spotty with responding to me. When my best friend came back for a week, she changed completely however. She was immediately responding to me, asking to hangout, etc. I took it with good graces, thinking she was trying harder. It was like that for a couple weeks, then she dropped off again.\nRight before winter break, we went on a trial-date of sorts and it went really well. I mentioned how I have a discount at a high-end restaurant because of some connections, so we went there. \nWinter Break hit, and she said she was travelling. I didn\u2019t bother trying to talk to her as she said she\u2019d have very little Wifi and such.\n\nShe comes back and we hangout a few times. She was always glued to her phone, never really paying any attention. I felt really bad about myself, thinking I did something wrong. \nWith 1st semester exams coming up, we didn\u2019t talk as much due to studying. I was ok with that, still thinking I had done something wrong. Exams came and passed. We have no semester 2 classes together and she stopped responding to me completely. \n\nFinally a couple days ago she texted me asking if we go back to the restaurant for another date. I responded, with no reply for hours. Finally I texted my best friend to message her and see if she was just ignoring me. She replied to him immediately. I had had enough at that point and snapped at her, saying she only talked to me if she needed something. She swore me off, saying that I should know she rarely checks her phone and told me to never even look at her again. \n\nAITA or did I over-react?\n\nTL:DR, girl I know from school was very spotty with me. We had a kinda thing but she\u2019d only respond consistently every so often. I called her out and cut her out of my life. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5nbXCREUtwgtyZbIAuHph5pcN8fnDQZs", "post_id": "b91lpt", "action": {"description": "telling my friend his friend wanted to go out with him", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "WIBTA if i told my friend his friend wanted to go out with him", "text": "Cast:\nB: my personal friend\nM: B's friend, I just had an argument with her\n\nBasically me and M occasionally talk, and one of those times she asked me if B was single. I questioned further and she admitted she wanted to date him. Just after we had an argument (not about her dating B IDC about that) which resulted in her blocking me directly after I told her I was depressed and I needed support (and she saw those messages). WIBTA if I told B that M wanted to date him", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "VcjNZDIMhA5GBbprVx4FHyJhZYVH7t8O", "post_id": "an6e4m", "action": {"description": "leaving my ex stranded hours from home", "pronormative_score": 27, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for leaving my ex stranded hours from home?", "text": "To give a bit of backstory, my ex and I had been dating since freshman year. We are both 18 now and about to graduate. A few months back she got a job at a department store and met a guy who would text her nonstop at all hours. I never gave it much thought until she got angry and defensive after I asked for her phone password while she was driving to change the song on Spotify. I asked her if it had anything to do with this guy from work, and got the \"you shouldn't worry about him\" talk in return. \n\n\n\n\nFast forward to this past weekend, I drove us down to San Diego just to hang out, which is give or take 2 hours away from our area. Everything had been going great all day, and we were waiting to order in a Denny's when she got all serious and dropped the absolute shocker of a lifetime. That guy wasn't just a friend, but she was *going to* cut him off after feeling super duper guilty, poor her. Iwas obviously still hurt, but mostly I was just pissed, so I stormed off, got in my car, and left her there.\n\n\n\n\nI pulled over a few miles away and she was blowing up my phone, apologizing, cussing me out, etc. In the middle of it all she did manage to tell me I had to come back and get her. I started to feel really guilty. She had her phone and wallet and all, but at this point with traffic, it would be around 3 hours before anyone would make it out to her. I didn't even know if her mom or sister were at work or not and able to go get her.  I gave thought to turning back, but eventually angrily texted her back to make her co-worker come get her.\n\n\n\n\nAnyways I still feel pretty shitty about the whole thing, in the moment I just couldn't fathom being in a car with her for hours listening to excuses. I've asked a few friends about this and have gotten really mixed responses about if I was in the wrong here. So Reddit, I trust you all more than any doctor or news site already, what's the verdict here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 27, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 27, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jxJuxAivDEmDzlkxVInM8r7Wh5U4zBt5", "post_id": "b7lsfc", "action": {"description": "criticising my supervisor when misusing company time", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for criticising my supervisor when misusing company time?", "text": "Okay genuine question that requires some context: \n\nMy supervisor and I are quite good friends. However there are reoccurring instances where I find myself disagreeing with what has occurred. \n\nFor example, my supervisor has been leaving work during busy days to deal with personal issues that occurs. This was fine as a one-time thing, even a second-time thing,  however this began to occur repeatedly. It meant I had to cover their work and mine. I addressed this eventually after bottling my frustrations for so long and the situation somewhat resolved.\n\nI have now noticed that each time I work with my supervisor, his mates come over and strike up a conversation with him. Now I\u2019m normally pretty chill about all that, I don\u2019t mind a good yarn. However these can last for a long time...I\u2019m talking like 30-45 minutes. This occurs one or twice during the day. \n\nToday his mates approached him and talked with him for about two hours - with him doing a task here and there if he needs to (e.g. me being out back and a client appears).  This obviously frustrated me as I\u2019m picking up that workload again while they chat.\n\nI disclosed this with my supervisor who immediately began defending himself, stating that he wouldn\u2019t apologise for that and argued that it doesn\u2019t occur regularly...which it does. This led to a shutdown in the conversation as I didn\u2019t want to engage with someone who was on the defensive, and therefore not willing to take on opposing perspectives.\n\nI later engaged with him and said I didn\u2019t like the conversation and we talked briefly...but he still stood by his point and said he wouldn\u2019t apologise for it. \n\nWe\u2019re doing okay now but AITA for criticising him? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mzF5KHhgVQrR87IxwVhJ782Ovlvf4s2R", "post_id": "aa4szl", "action": {"description": "telling my brother that I am transgender", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my brother that I am transgender?", "text": "I'm 20 and a transwoman (pre-everything) and I came out to my brother, 13, on the 25th (automod's an arsehole), which my parents are very angry with me for. \n\nI discovered I was trans about 5 months ago, and have been open with my parents the majority of that time (I live at home still), but have still been living as male because I have no idea how to begin to approach that with them and ask for them to call me Kira and refer to me as a girl (as much as I really want to).\n\nOn the 25th we had my grandparents over, they are super homophobic, racist, sexist, the whole nine yards, so they don't know that I'm bisexual. I was in the kitchen with my brother (I'd had a few drinks so I was more loose lipped than normal), and it came up in a chat that they didn't know I was bi. I jokingly said \"There's much worse things that they could find out about me\", he replied that he thought he knew what it was. I asked him if it began with a T and he nodded. I told him everything and he seemed very okay with it (there was the whole \"you'll still always be my brother not my sister\" but I can work on that one), and we had a very nice chat about it. \n\nI later told my parents that I told him and later that day my dad told me that I shouldn't talk to him about it again. He says it's far too much for a 13 year old to understand and that I'm putting a lot of stress on him by telling him. My brother is absolutely fine and doesn't seem phased at all by any of it.\n\nIs what I did wrong? Is that too much for a 13 year old?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hK1hRCUgvmOiqaQq5uvY6egjFiZh5iqa", "post_id": "aw020k", "action": {"description": "prioritizing a promotion over my spouse", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for prioritizing a promotion over my spouse", "text": "Husband and I have gotten into a rough patch, so we started doing relationship counseling. Since we have a young child and no family here, we have to attend counseling during work hours and take time off. It\u2019s normally not a big deal, but I\u2019ve been working super hard to try to get a promotion. As a result, I\u2019ve recently been offered a four month trial, where I will get the promotion permanently if things go well. Due to this, I asked husband if we could take a break from counseling for a few weeks so I\u2019m not seen as a slacker for immediately taking time off. He is extremely upset and told me that I wasn\u2019t prioritizing him or the marriage. In the end, to avoid another big fight, I caved and agreed to take time off. My fingers are crossed that it will not affect anything.\n\nFrom my perspective, i just wanted to have a better first impression to help my chances of making it permanent. The promotion will help our financial situation (I am more of the breadwinner due to a much higher salary) and relieve some of the stress. What do you think, Reddit? Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TZhNaNPmg4AaEJafgnFpBiaPScpNttwS", "post_id": "aepoij", "action": {"description": "not wanting more kids after my first", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting more kids after my first?", "text": "My husband (31M) and I (29F) have been married 4yrs, together 11yrs and have a 3 y.o. child. Bit of background with both of us, he's an only child with a pretty stable upbringing (loving parents, no traumas etc) whereas I grew up with screaming parents that hated each other, being beaten all the time by my mother because it reminded her of my dad and pretty much no inkling of stability. I have promised myself then when I do become a mother I will never raise my child like how I was raised.\n\nFast forward to having the 3rd member of our family...my pregnancy was smooth, no complications and I didnt really hate being pregnant. What traumatized me was post birth, recovery and basically the next 2.5yrs of the child's upbringing. Probably TMI but I had significant tearing, hemorrhoids, couldnt breastfeed, sleep deprived for 2yrs, my husband could not tolerate the sleep deptivation so he took it out on me and basically no support from either family which made me feel really lonely. This along with my childhood I guess had led me to being diagnosed with clinical severe depression and anxiety which I have been battling by the scrape of my teeth (some days I just dont want to live on this Earth).\n\nAll of that has led me deciding to not having any more children as I dont want to deal with all that trauma again, whereas my husband wants otherwise. Essentially I will be the main caregiver (unless he grows a vagina and a pair of boobs to keep it alive). I told him what I've mentioned here but he's adamant it'll be different the next round because that's what everyone's been telling him and it'll be good for our 3 y.o. to have a sibling.\n\nAITA here or should I compromise????", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mGR6fEMaLsA5ATd3HfTaZg6S9GUjrG6l", "post_id": "b17v3c", "action": {"description": "wanting to end my relationship because of girlfriends mom", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to end my relationship because of girlfriends mom?", "text": "Throwaway account for obvious reasons. This is a long story so I will have to give a lot of background...\n\nI (M21) have been with my girlfriend (F20) for over 2 years now and we have been long distance (LDR) for 1.5 years in college. It was a great relationship at first but things have really gone downhill since then. I believe it's been her mom.\n\nHer mom has always been suuuuper involved in our relationship. Like, she knew right away when we had sex for the first time, knows every single date we go on, and knows every argument we've been in. That last one is the main point of this post.\n\nMy girlfriend tells her mom everything. I find the \"my mom is my best friend\" thing a bit much but I can live with that. But it's gotten to the point of telling her to not give me attention, ignore me, not ask me what's wrong, and saying stuff like schools first and things of that sort. I know that's her mom telling her to say that stuff because she wasn't like this before.\n\nWe haven't had sex in a long time because she thinks that's all I want, when it never used to be like that. Her mom also says she \"just wants her to be happy\" but that's a way for her to want to know everything and tell her what to do. Her mom thinks she's right about everything and I hate that attitude. \n\nIt has gotten to the point where I can't express my emotions because then it comes out as me \"not being confident\" or \"having trust issues\" when all I want is more communication in our LDR and more affection. Her mom is completely controlling her emotions and her life and it's taking a huge toll on me. I don't feel like I can keep this relationship going. \n\n**My girlfriend has specifically said she SENDS her mom texts before she sends them to me for APPROVAL. Is it just me or is this weird?! I'm close with my parents but would never ever do that.\n\nFor the record, I am not needy or clingy. All I ask her for is a 15 minute phone call every 2-3 days when we're away and that's apparently too much even though we barely communicate over text. I know her mom is telling her to say \"schools first\" because she's used that BS line on me before. So manipulative and controlling.\n\nShould a mom have that big of an influence on her daughter's relationship, even though she's in her twenties? I think this is a case of extreme helicopter parenting but I want to hear everyone's opinion.\n\n*I'm missing a lot of details but this is the rough summary*\n\nAITA for wanting to break up with my girlfriend because her mom is making me feel like I'm suffocating in this relationship?? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "egKvejGXQOcDhqHYHG5BvK4iizmh7D0u", "post_id": "a5p54d", "action": {"description": "giving an Ultimatum and then leaving", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Giving an Ultimatum and then Leaving?", "text": "Alright, let me put some context to this. This is a long distance relationship. I\u2019ve known this girl for awhile, 3 years, and about 6 months ago, we became romantically interested in one another.\nBut she recently got out of a bad relationship, and said she wasn\u2019t ready to jump into another one. Which I respected. She said she wanted to explore her options a little first as well. Which I also respected.\nAbout 3 months in, things were going great. She told me she was interested in this other girl who was nearby and it was the reason we technically weren\u2019t dating. She also promised that\u2019d she\u2019d be all mine and soon. \nWell she started getting a little distant, talked to me less, which granted she\u2019s busy with school and I am with work. But it became less and less and she seemed disinterested in even talking to me.\nI asked her if she still wanted me and she finally said that things were going really well for her and that girl and that she wanted to see where it went.\nIt\u2019s been 6 months. And this was getting frustrated, so I finally told her she needs to choose between the two of us, because I\u2019ve had my heart played with for too long. I want a relationship, not these games.\nShe replied that she already gave me her answer about seeing where things went and to take it or leave it.\nSo I left, and told her I\u2019m done with it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZgHTLTfX3sVlARVuMfZ5n0jmYDSke3C6", "post_id": "apqyya", "action": {"description": "canceling on a dinner date because the person ate a late lunch", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "WIBTA if I canceled on a dinner date because the person ate a late lunch?", "text": "So this has happened more than once already. The first couple of times I didn't think anything of it because she had lunch with her co-workers and it's really not that big a deal. We had desserts and hung out. But today is her birthday and I felt like bringing her out to somewhere nice when she drops this on me again.\n\n​\n\nI'm just thinking why even plan for a dinner date if you're just going to eat a late lunch and be too full for dinner?\n\n​\n\nAm I overreacting here?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "97uiiOVfxC64cAQYvx81yv2P1sSMx5dx", "post_id": "am3kuv", "action": {"description": "losing interest in my Ex Fiance after she cheated", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Losing Interest In My Ex Fiance After She Cheated?", "text": "I'll try to make this as quick as possible. Me and my ex fiance had a good relationship going for about three years before she decided to pop the question. I was excited and I said yes immediately and was looking forward to our future together. \n\nAbout 2 months later I notice that she's becoming increasingly stressed for seemingly no reason. I worry a lot about her because she has been diagnosed bipolar in the past and though she was pretty much fine in the last 2 years I was worried it was resurfacing. She was also having a lot of trouble with some of the people I considered my friends at the time who were pushing her away and trying to create space between me and her which was driving her crazy (as they were supposed to be her friends as well). \n\nI was obviously sympathetic to her as I cared about her a lot and wanted to make sure my girlfriend now-fiance was doing okay. So I tried to help her out, encouraged her to meet people and make friends as I figured that would be healthy for her. I suggested therapy and possibly medication as it appeared the Bipolar symptoms were re-surfacing but she refused that for a time as she didn't want to go back on meds.\n\nA little more time goes on, it's now apparent that bi-polar is really kicking in and she began telling me things like \"I don't know if I can even feel love right now\". During this time she has become increasingly close to one our co-workers (we all worked in the same place.) At first to me it's fine, I think it's good for her to have her own friends. As time goes on they spend increasing amounts of time together while spending a less than average amount of time with me. After a bit I outright ask if there is any feelings or anything I should be worried about there and she denies it completely insisting that it's nothing.\n\nPass a little more time, he comes into work with a hickey on his neck and I pretty much knew something was up. My friends (unknowingly to me) invite this guy to a party, get him drunk and ask about the hickey horrified to figure out that it was from my Fiance at the time. They let me know, I let her know I know, and then interestingly she breaks it off with both me and the other guy (though they are still friends) and comes to me to apologize.\n\nThis is where it gets complicated. She came to me apologizing and crying about what had happened. How it was the worst mistake in her life and she regrets everything that she did. She tells me she doesn't know what to do without me in her life and she doesn't want to lose me. And honestly, I think she was sincere, and I don't think she would do this again.\n\nHowever that was about 6 months ago. Since then me and her have been in a sort limbo. After about a month I began telling her that I do care about her and want whats best for her and things could be worked out with a lot of talking and time. She was telling me she doesn't know what she wants  or whats healthy for her, or if she was even in the right mental state to make a decision like that. She told me that I might have to be okay with just being friends with her and not necessarily expect a relationship. Over time being told this over and over again, though I offered her support and advised her to see professional help I began drifting away from her slowly.\n\nTwo weeks ago, after not having seen much of any progress at all being made, I told her I was ready to move on. It was hard because we both still cared about each other but it seemed apparent that  nothing was about to change. I left that day, and then she turned around the next morning now confident that she wanted to try to patch things up with me.\n\nTo me it's just feels like it's been a little too long and too late.\n\nTLDR: Fiance cheated, she apologized, I told her we could patch things up then 6 months later when she was ready I had moved on.\n\nAm I the asshole for saying we could patch things up then switching when she was ready? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UByuoo0Wb7pcEYziO1gjx46Ow59dTqak", "post_id": "b96iyq", "action": null, "title": "AITA Mom (33) for going to a party that my son (11) was excluded from ?", "text": "Before you get your emotions riled up , let me clear it up now. Its the BIRTHDAY kid that made the invite list. Had this been done by any of the parents this wouldnt be an issue.\n\n\nBasically one my best friends daughters Genevieve (10)  is having a 11th birthday party at their house  then go out to eat and a Movies afterwards next week. My friends daughter and SOME kids from the neighborhood are going.\n\n\nThe problem is is that my friends daughters reason for not inviting my son are not malicious. Its simply because they dont ever speak to each other on a regular basis anyway unless I happen to bring my son when visiting my friend in which she IS cordial to him. She just wants kids that she knows there.\n\n\nNow my friends daughter likes me and she asked me to be with the other parents for pics and etc.  My husband is staying home this year.\n\n\nAnd I dont think my son is aware of her feelings because like I said she rarely ever see him as their in different friend groups but she does say \"hi\" when she sees him.\n\n\nBut he does know about the upcoming party from the other kids and would like to go especially since his friend (who lives closer to her) was invited. But my son dosent know that he ( just like the few others kids that she ALSO dosent know that well ) wont be making the invite list. \n\n\nShe asked her mother a month ago to let her choose who gets to go this time and she agreed. (Its her party I guess)\n\n\nI talked to my friend and she said that she feels bad for my son too but at the same time ,hes NOT the only one (Thank God).\n\nWould I be wrong for going ??\n\n\nIts nothing personal against my son she just dosent know him too much.\n\nWe all know that in the adult world the kids reasonings would make perfect sense.\n\nAITA or no ??\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "LCUOCf1n1HxattucMOTZWll8a5Nb9HgO", "post_id": "aqp76o", "action": {"description": "telling a friend to stop walking in my room whenever he wants", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling a friend to stop walking in my room whenever he wants?", "text": "This is a pretty petty thing but I just wanna prove my point since he won't listen , albeit i could be wrong.\n\n​\n\nI live in a one room dorm and my roommate's best friend always just walks into the room whenever he wants. He's my friend too, but this last time he walked in when I was doing something that one never wants to be walked in on while doing. I know,  I could and should just have locked the door, but sometimes I forget or just don't like to, and my friend walks in. I try to be polite but he starts talking to me and I'm really not in the mood, so I tell him to f\\*\\*\\* off so I can go back to sleep. There have been other times where I just want peace and quiet to study and he'll walk in and scare me (I use noise cancelling headphones when I study) or try to talk me up, or even sit in the room and chill and I'm just fed up about it. So I text him and ask him if he'd not do it again, in a kind manner. No reply but I know he read it so I ask if he understands. He replies he thought my roommate was there, and that I should chill. I tell him not to tell me to chill when he pissed me off, and he tells me I don't have to act all tough and shit. He later apologized to me but it was totally half ass and I had to fight him on not just walking in to MY ROOM anymore. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DwX2rjgrHdrQrfWn6JxH1duHvd1pr3x5", "post_id": "aw1pdj", "action": {"description": "cutting someone out of my life for outing me to a couple friends", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for cutting someone out of my life for outing me to a couple friends?", "text": " A couple years ago, I came out to a friend of mine (we'll call her A). At the time I came out to her we weren't super close, but she kind of forced me to come out and she ended up being super supportive. Flash forward a year I come out to a mutual friend of ours (we'll call him B), and he confessed to me that A had told him a while ago, about a week after I'd come out to her. Now, I'm not super confrontational, but I was upset so I called A to talk to her about what B told me and immediately denied it, saying she would never hurt me or betray my trust like that, then she states he must have figured it out himself because I don't look very straight. She was adamant that B was lying, but when I pointed out B didn't have any reason to lie and she started crying, \"how can you not believe me?\" I got really uncomfortable so I offered to talk to her about this a different time when she'd calmed down but she seemed even more offended by this saying she didn't need me to coddle her feelings. Okay, that's fine, but as the conversation progressed she got so emotional I ended up hanging up. I called her the day after to talk about it, and she was determined that B had lied, and that she was upset that I didn't believe her. She said it so forcefully I started to believe her but after pondering it for a bit I decided I wasn't entirely sure if I did believe her and that's where the tables turned. She started screaming about how we were \"basically best friends\" and \"how can you believe him over me?\" In the end I backed down and said I believed her even though I didn't. Flash forward a couple months and a classmate of mine tells me that A had outed me to them about a week after A outed me to B. At this point I'm flabbergasted, A wasn't even friends with this person, I barely knew this person, why the fuck did they know that I was gay before I was even out? That's when I decided to cut A out of my life. There were other really shitty things she'd done to me but that was my breaking point. I told her I had no interest in being friends anymore, this did not end well and she basically told me to fuck off. Now about a year and a half later I'd been at an event with a couple friends and my girlfriend. A ended up being there. I avoided her for the entire the night, but I wasn't obvious about it. A on the other hand, make a big scene when talking to my friends, hoping to catch me at some point. At one point she talked to my girlfriend for over 30 minutes and I just avoided them both for that period. The day after, a couple friends told me that A was really upset that she didn't get to see me and that I didn't say hi. My girlfriend said that I was being rude and immature by going so out of my way to avoid A, but I genuinely had no interest in ever talking to her again once I found out what kind of person she was, but a couple of other people seem to agree what I did was petty. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "95hUb3IjQhKWG0pLPjFZHCqabwoCKrJD", "post_id": "a0tvuh", "action": {"description": "wanting my money back before June 2019", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting my money back before June 2019?", "text": "So last year I was living with 4 roommates. We all got on fairly well until they started being complete bitches and I decided I didn\u2019t want to live with them the next school year. I had already paid the deposit on the new house before I decided I didn\u2019t want to live there. So another girl took my place and said she would pay me my deposit back (\u00a3400). This was 6 months ago and now they are telling me they\u2019re not going to pay me back until June 2019. I basically paid for her first 2 months of rent and she works & has student loans yet won\u2019t pay me back. Christmas is coming up and I need the money yet I\u2019m being made to feel like I\u2019m rude for asking for my money back!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zt4cAaD17Mzzoox7LiAZB9f8nbXLMe0I", "post_id": "a6ry03", "action": {"description": "making my dad pay tip", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for making my dad pay tip?", "text": "Title is pretty self explanatory. \nDad wanted to take his girlfriend and I out to eat. Went to a really nice family run Cantonese restaurant, the staff were friendly, the food was great and they even gave us a complimentary dessert.\nAt the end my dad paid and I noticed he didn\u2019t leave a tip and I called him out on it, I would\u2019ve left a tip but he said he was paying for the meal so I didn\u2019t bring my wallet and I would assume that paying would include the tip? \nAnyway after calling him out he left a tip but was mad at me for the rest of the night, am I the asshole here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ttctNBrrthYEQz3mOXEovgg3sZ8GTwZl", "post_id": "a8ladz", "action": {"description": "not wanting to sit with my grandpa when he eats", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to sit with my grandpa when he eats?", "text": "My aunt passed away roughly a year ago and my grandpa has nowhere to live, so my family let him move into our house. He\u2019s a nice person, he\u2019s really talkative and social, but he has horrible table manners.\n\nHe makes disgusting noises when he chews. He licks his fingers, burps out loud, and talks with a mouthful. I discovered this on the first night since he moved in and I\u2019ve forced myself to sit in a completely different room every time we eat dinner. It\u2019s so painfully hard for me to be around people who eat without any basic manners.\n\nMy parents have both tried to confront him about it and he becomes all defensive. I\u2019d rather just continue to eat alone, but am I the asshole here?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oXHLdHTxO9G5ClTVABukqWFC7O4K2823", "post_id": "aozwzq", "action": {"description": "not wanting my sister to apply for the same position as me", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my sister to apply for the same position as me", "text": "There's this fantastic job opportunity for me, and I absolutely hate my current job.\n\nI was excitedly telling my jobless sister about it, and she asked where it was and said she needed a job like this one.\n\nI'm hesitating to tell her where, even though I know she could use it. She's disabled, and is collecting disability, but she's able to work sedentary jobs like this one.\nI know I will be absolutely destroyed if she applies and gets it over me.\nI've had a really shitty year, and I feel like it's been leading up to this one good thing.\n\nI can't help but think that if she had been spending all of her free time job searching, then she would have found it first.\n\nI know I wouldn't apply if the roles were reversed, but I also already have a job (even though pay is way worse, hours are crap, and I'm livid more than half the time), so it's different.\n\nShould I tell her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NOMIVCrc0x0qIlOarZw5WUBkCPCk8Lmx", "post_id": "aobt7w", "action": {"description": "limiting my roommate's time with his partner in our apartment when I'm home", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for limiting my roommate's time with his partner in our apartment when I'm home?", "text": "I apologize that this is *extremely* long.\n\nSo he's not my roommate any more. He moved out last week.\n\nHe was and is a great friend, and we'd known each other for years. We were pretty tight and he knows probably more scarring secrets about me than any other person on the planet. He came from an abusive home life where was homeschooled, had information like his SS card and birth certificate hidden and withheld, his dad held him emotionally captive, and his step mom was verbally and physically abusive. Prior to moving in with me, he stayed in the adjacent house belonging to his dead grandmother, with no plumbing or electric. He's from way up north.\n\nA few years into our friendship we resolved that when I got my own apartment in my current town, the stars aligned; it wasn't instant, but I moved him down here, much further south. I helped him get his paperwork in order to get the documents necessary for job hunting.\n\nDisclaimer: I've never lived with a roommate outside of family and one year of college. It does not suit me, I do not like it, and I appreciate my privacy. I've not been in a relationship for more than a decade. I'm 27 now. He knows all of this.\n\nI moved him in anyway, out of a brotherhood and deep friendship. We'd never actually met face to face, so I cautiously added him as an additional occupant rather than another party to the lease. This protected me, but it also gave him the benefit of ignoring rent aside from just paying it to me.\n\nWhen he moved he didn't have a job; it took four months. I paid for those first four months, rent and food and utilities for the both of us. I also helped him get his job, just a mere ten minute walk away (he can't drive). I'm not trying to get points. I'd never ask for repayment, but I feel it's important for the ensuing events.\n\nWe agreed he would simply pay half rent, no utilities, and could help with the groceries later. In exchange he did the lion's share of the chores and cooked (something no one wants me to do). Rent went up $25 and I just didn't bother making adjustments. Utilities only amounted to about $150 all told, so I ate the costs.\n\nChores: He washed the dishes because without him there wouldn't be a mess to wash, and he was paying less for exactly this purpose. When he moved in there was a flea problem as well as a roach problem, so he was also vacuuming every day. As the fleas got under control, he vacuumed once or twice a week, and then stopped entirely. The roaches also got under control, and then he got lax about doing the dishes and leaving trash in his room (both things I explicitly discussed with him long before he moved in). We did the laundry as needed, and I take care of all cat related chores and costs (I have two).\n\nAll was fine until he started seeing this girl. He'd started getting lax already, but when they started talking it really went downhill. He grew increasingly distant and would chat with me briefly and then lock himself in his room for hours talking to her every night. Before I said something about the volume he never even shut his door.\n\nFirst she constantly wanted me to text her as well, and chat, and we'd all be friends. That's just not my personality, nothing against her. Then I'd be going out the door to work and she'd be meeting me at the door to come in. Then she'd be there when I got home. This happened a couple of times before I set some boundaries. I said some stuff about not wanting her to be here all the time. I have a tone problem I've been told. One day they weren't here so I texted to see if they were coming home with a lighthearted joke about being able to strip down and do whatever if they weren't, which apparently made her uncomfortable (even though I didn't text her) because I'd been so cold leading up to all of this. Then they got here and my roommate made her stand outside in 30 degree weather under the assumption I didn't want her inside at all, which I clarified was not the case. He came to get her things, but when I told him they could come the fuck inside because of course, it's freezing, they went into his room, shut the door, and stayed there for 4 or 5 hours until about 1AM. I worked the next day, and it's a small apartment.\n\nSo I clarified my rules.\n\nThey were simple rules, maybe a bit strict. Basically it was just \"be mindful of my schedule, don't have her here for ages if I'm going to be home, and don't have sex on the cats (a real rule I added to express what I thought was the levity of the situation...and also I didn't want to clean splooge off of my cats)\". These were never respected to any real degree. She just ended up being here one specific day a week (a work day for me, so I got to come home to it) until about 1AM each time. I never said anything about it directly, but my frustration probably showed.\n\n*Then* things got a little more tense, about a month later. I was sick one day, and he made dinner shortly after I woke up in the evening. The evening before was her usual evening, and they were together the whole time locked in his room until the usual time. While I was preparing to eat, unshowered and looking a mess, he lightly and happily added that she was also on her way over because she wanted some of his tortellini. Well I lost my cool, snapped, and told him that it was inconsiderate and I was going to go take a shower. He didn't understand *why* I thought it was inconsiderate, and neither did I. He told me I didn't have to get ready or anything just because she was coming over. I disagreed. I later realized the reason I was upset was because he never even thought to ask; he just invited her. He doesn't need my permission, but that had just been our relationship up to that point. The jury was still out on whether I thought any of that was fair.\n\nAnyway I sulked in my room, and didn't speak to anyone (pretty much no different than any other time they were here except I wasn't sulking). Finally he opens the door and tells me she wants to talk. I don't want to talk, and tell him as much. He repeats his statement, I say \"[Roommate], I don't want to talk to [GF] right now\". I need time to think through my emotions, or I say things I don't mean or haven't processed fully. A few seconds later she barges into my hallway adjacent to his room and starts going off about how I have a problem and we're going to discuss it. I just continued sitting at the computer, looking away from her and doing my thing while she rambled on, getting frustrated. Occasionally I'd reiterate that I didn't want to talk right now. Didn't matter.\n\nEventually she gets me to crack and I spout off a laundry list of problems I have, largest of them being the slacking off of chores (in private I also explained to my roommate that when I'm here I'd rather they be playing Smash Bros. together in the living room than locked in his room fucking, or taking showers together). As I listed off my problems she'd give me a sassy \"mhm?\" and repeated this about 7 or 8 times. Finally I stopped complaining and simply said that \"her sassy 'mhm's?' weren't doing her any favors and the longer she went on the less I wanted her here at all\". That ended the conversation, and later she apparently cried. I was fully prepared to not speak to my roommate until after my pre-planned vacation, but he was amenable the next night, and we talked it out. He also talked it out with her, and it didn't go as smoothly behind closed doors. Full disclosure, I 100% eavesdropped on the conversation against my better judgement.\n\nAll I asked him to do was watch my cats while I was gone for the week. They were free to stay here and do whatever. I also found this an appropriate time to raise his rent from $400 to $500. I didn't do this solely as a punishment, though; I did it in exchange for doing *all* the chores. I would clean, wash dishes, and deal with the miscellany on top of what I already did. He told me he thought he should *only* pay half. So I calculated it for him.\n\nThings went on pretty much the same after I got back, except I never saw his GF again. Period. It went back to talking on the phone, except this time much earlier, and for much longer. He pretty much stopped cooking or doing anything outside of his room. Then he told me he was moving out, last week. He had applied for a job and had an interview; if he got it he was going to move out. I didn't realize the urgency in all this when he said it. I literally did not see him again after he told me he had the job. He stayed over at her place for several days, did a few more interviews...and then I got an email from my property manager saying he'd removed himself from the lease. An hour later he texted me and told me he wanted to give a proper goodbye but \"needed to get early rates on the apartment\" as if he couldn't move his stuff after signing the lease, and had moved all of his stuff out; he can't drive, so he just wasn't going to go to his last few shifts for his old job. The only job he's ever had. He had to pay the security deposit so he had to split his payments. He'd already paid me half earlier in the month before he mentioned anything, and then paid $150 with the breakup text he sent me. Conveniently he only paid $400 the one month he'd been asked to pay more. And like that he was gone. He asked me to hold his mail.\n\nWe exchanged some words after this all settled in, and, well, frankly ESH for the texts. Basically I just wanted more time; he'd needed a month if he was on the lease! That's after the fact, though. It hurts having to suddenly make up for $400 a month I didn't have to worry about, and it hurts that he basically did all of this behind my back. Mostly I just feel betrayed, but I'm not sure how at fault I am for the way this has all played out. My parents, friends, and coworkers are of course biased and they don't want to read 10,000 character", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "idWARCeBROYEZhOiZTxlgsrWWpMKkmQC", "post_id": "9yj28t", "action": {"description": "telling chatty coworkers to be quiet", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling chatty coworkers to be quiet?", "text": "TL;DR: Told two coworkers to stop chatting within earshot of their team members, got told off for \u201cpublic shaming.\u201d AITA?\n\nFor context, my work environment is VERY busy and fast-paced. People work towards very stressful deadlines, and if you\u2019re contributing as you should, there is almost zero downtime. This day, I had a very intense workload, as did the 5-person team I supervise. We were all stressed.\n\nEnter two coworkers, I\u2019ll call them Rima and Lucy. Both are women in their mid-20s. I am not their supervisor, but was well-within earshot of them, as we have one of those terrible open office spaces. Their supervisor was leaving in two weeks and very much checked-out. \n\nRima (who has put in her notice) and Lucy, are  junior, hourly employees who have been chatting nonstop for about an hour. I know it\u2019s not work related based on some words I pick up. For several minutes, I wait for their supervisor or another senior employee on their team to intervene, but none of them do. Most of the managers at my company are young, and many of them are very non-confrontational. I\u2019m getting increasingly frustrated.\n\nI use the internal chat system to message a senior staff member in their row who ignores me. At one point, I go to the kitchen to get a snack, and another junior employee on their team complains to me that he can\u2019t do his work because of the talking. \n\nAt that point, I go up to them in their row and say: \u201cguys, the chatting has to stop. This is a common working environment.\u201d They have guilty looks on their faces and stop talking, and I go back to my work. I told them off within earshot of their row, but with a normal speaking voice. Ie. Not excessively loudly. \n\nThe next day, I find out that Rima complained to the department manager, feeling like she was disrespected because she was \u201cpublicly shamed.\u201d The manager tells me off about it, and tells me I should have brought them into another room and talked to them privately. I apologize for creating a situation my manager had to deal with, but told her I was on fundamental disagreement with her point of view.  \n\nMy opinion is that the burden of expectations should be on staff to act professionally, not for managers to disrupt their work flow to walk on eggshells around disrespectful employees. Besides, pulling them into a separate room would have been just as conspicuous given the office layout. \n\nI was certain I was in the right but when I vented about it privately to a friend of mine in the office also told me I was in the wrong. His opinion also bothers me, as he told me that I should have \u201cused the opportunity to act as a female mentor to young women instead of berate them.\u201d I find this attitude to be paternalistic (shouldn\u2019t women my age be expected to be as professional as everyone else?), and puts an extra expectation of emotional labor on me, who already has a team to manage. I also have an odd sense that there is a gender dimension to this as I frequently tell the male members of the tech team to lower their voices when they\u2019re talking about memes, but nobody has ever taken issue with that. \n\nAITA? \n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xFH4RD8CQnz9a2zQ5MnizG2zmj7u3xQY", "post_id": "b7xzu9", "action": {"description": "thinking my Boss should ask a regular customer not to return", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for thinking My Boss should ask a regular customer not to return?", "text": "I  am a night-shift employee at a fairly small gas station and convenience  store in a VERY small town (Less than 500 people small.) This gas station usually plays host to a group of older men in the mornings who like to come play cribbage and drink coffee that the management gives them for free.\n\nOne  particular man, who for the rest of the post will be referred to as M,  has never worked for our location, nor any other location in our chain. However, He constantly speaks to myself and the other younger  members of our staff as though he is our supervisor. When he isn't doing  this, he is simply making rude or snide comments about us either  directly to us or to the others in his group.\n\nSimply put, M comes in every day, and after he's done with cribbage, fills our coolers if something is low. He has to go back into what would normally be employee only areas to do this most of the time, and is very nasty to the rest of the staff about it.\n\nWith  all the context out of the way, I go in to work one day to find that the general manager had  to come in to cover the morning shift.  We switch tills, and while the GM is  going back to take midday count of her till and our slot machine payout  funds, M comes up to me and tells me, word for word, \"Now I went around  and filled up all those coolers, and they'd BETTER look like that when I  come in in the morning.\"\n\nFrustrated, I  go to the GM and essentially  said that I'm sick of M speaking to me like he's my boss, and that he  shouldn't really be doing anything that he does around here in the first  place, even if it can be helpful sometimes. My boss, likely frustrated  already considering she shouldn't have had to be there that day, told me  that she was thrust into that shift, and that they were swamped in the  morning, so he was just helping her out. I told him what he had said to  me and she told me, quote, \"It's not always about you. And sometimes  people on the night shift, not you, but people on the night shift leave  the coolers empty. Ron's just being helpful so you'll just have to learn  to ignore him.\" I decided not to press further after that, frustrated.\n\nWithin this statement,  there's the implication that I, as practically the only night shift  worker we have, do not fill the coolers properly at night. I fill the  coolers to the point where they look full every night before I leave,  but if there are three or more bottle in a row, or the cans/bottles are  large and bulky like Arizona tea cans or tall 38 oz cans, I typically  leave them. I also don't fill the rows completely, because as stated  above, pushing the bottles/cans all the way to the back results in them  falling behind the shelves entirely, or makes the more top heavy bottles  fall over and out of the coolers when they're meant to slide down.\n\nSo  Long Story short, I think M should be asked not to return to the store. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "N9fNLaI68QYjpbRthGR3paS3XHh6ASwK", "post_id": "auflxx", "action": {"description": "getting upset at a friend's underage drinking", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for getting upset at a friend's underage drinking?", "text": "Hey all, little backstory. I'm in my 3rd semester of college, and my friend is a senior in high school. A few months or so ago, I'm scrolling through social media when I see they post that they're at a party. They're being very loud, and they're jumping up and down to music, something that is totally out of character for them. They were always the quiet type, especially when I saw them at school around other people.\n\nI send them a text saying \"Looks like fun haha\", a couple hours later they reply with gibberish. I ask what they said and they just reply \"I'm so drunk\", and a picture of alcohol on a table. All I reply is \"that's probably not the smartest thing you could have done.\" \n\nThe next morning they ask what I meant. I just said that them getting drunk, especially at their age (16), isn't the smartest thing you could do. Automatically they got defensive, saying they had a good time and that they were with friends. They said that the alcohol let them unwind and have a good time.\n\nI reply saying that it's good they had a good time, but alcohol shouldn't be the reason you had fun, and that they did something that they wouldn't do normally while sober. We basically went back and forth for an hour or so, them justifying it because they had fun, and me just saying it wasn't a smart thing.\n\nMultiple times throughout the argument, they'd say \"can we just ignore this\", but then they would try to get the last word in, usually along the lines of \"I'm still going to drink I don't care what you say,\" to which I'd respond to and start the argument again. It then evolved to them telling me that I was taking the easy way through life by going to college. Eventually, I had enough, and said that we should apologize to each other, and they said they had nothing to apologize for. I left it at that, and it's been months since we last spoke.\n\nI never, throughout that entire conversation, say \"you should not, or can not drink.\" All I said was \"it wasn't a smart thing to do\". It was simply just advice. I don't care if people drink, but it was just a mixture of their age as well as how they acted that worried me. They were with friends and they didn't drive home, and they assured me that they'd only drink around people they knew.\n\nWas I out of line? I felt it wasn't really my business, and I sort of knew this person was stubborn, so telling them anything would probably not be effective anyways. I knew they weren't going to say \"You know, you're right\", but I figured it wouldn't hurt to just say something. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "tIJuCRgGzoXil0HCMLtmz7znmbmuhiCM", "post_id": "b73t9i", "action": {"description": "not wanting to call in twice for work", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to call in twice for work?", "text": "I am feeling sick today.I don\u2019t know what is wrong with me I\u2019m really emotional and my back is in pain and all I can really do is lay in bed and even that\u2019s uncomfortable.I called and told my manager that I needed to take the day off and she said okay.Anyways I get a call from my coworker saying there wondering where I am at and I told them I already called in.He told me I should call in agian because the manager earlier didn\u2019t tell them I called in.I don\u2019t want to do this because the manager right now is in a bad mood and he doesn\u2019t like me at all and I feel like if I call in agian with him he will fire me over the phone.I rather just tell him next time in person that I already called in.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BWXwdVsKDgp1ynUCT5tNuFIz470I3ta1", "post_id": "a5gqt7", "action": null, "title": "AITA when an unknown number calls my phone and I answer, I don't say anything waiting until the other person says hello.", "text": "So they obviously hear the call connect but they don't say anything. It takes people around 10 seconds on average before they say something and it's always \"Hellooo?\"\n\nIf you met someone irl and went up to them and just stared at them you'd be considered the asshole so why don't people properly greet people on the phone?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XnNaK4pcHhlr6NK0e3kRN6ALn3tIAI06", "post_id": "anhtal", "action": {"description": "not wanting my boyfriend's friends to join us on Valentine's day", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my boyfriend's friends to join us on Valentine's day?", "text": "So me and my boyfriend plan on just getting an airbnb for a couple nights and keeping it low key for Valentine's day. His friend and his girlfriend want to come with us and stay in the same place those nights too and I'm against it.\n\nI don't want them to mostly because I don't like his friend and he's always trying to start petty arguments with me and I just want to enjoy my time. I also feel like Valentine's day should be just for us. \n\nThe thing is that this is has been brought up and asked about 3 times now and everytime I've said I'd rather them not come. So today, my boyfriend brought it up again and I got mad about it. I got mad because I've said no twice already. He then got mad back and was like \"whatever I guess we'll do whatever YOU WANT.\" So after that I was kinda like \"you know what? I really don't care if they come at this point. Let them, I. Do. Not. Care.\" Which didn't help of course but I really didn't even care. He kept asking and even after he know how I felt, he just kept asking so I felt worn down and just gave in.\n\nI wanna add that I've been asking him for ideas on anything he would want to do but I just really didn't wanna be around his friend during Valentine's day. So is it still me making it all about what I want to do and being an asshole about it?\n\nSo AITA? Is this something I should have just said yes to in the beginning? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KHDtN56m4K6DZZmB5YyeCowyw36wN2Uz", "post_id": "b3aeeq", "action": {"description": "not wanting my friend to drink", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 21}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my friend to drink?", "text": "This is a just throwaway account to ask this question.\n\nFor some context, both myself and my friend are 17 turning 18 later this year. I'm heavily against any form of alcohol consumption and drugs as I am am well  aware of the risks and consequences associated with the two, I don't think I ever intend to drink. Most of my grade, as well as my friend don't share the same concerns as I do, many of them have been drinking for years. I have a couple friend's  who also don't drink, but this one friend in particular has been influenced by those in my grade (and out of curiosity) to try drinking, and intends to at an upcoming party (she's never been to one, nor have I). Since i'm not going to the party, I've told her to not drink and voiced my concerns (technically it's illegal since the drinking age here is 18) but she's already invested in it. Today I was more persistent and again pressured her not to do it, I admit I may have come off as a bit pushy since I was irritated due to some other people mocking me for not drinking. Anyway we started arguing about it and a couple of my other friend joined the conversation and took her side, which was even more frustrating. We ended the argument both pissed and upset with each other. I'm at the point where I don't think I should care anymore. I am genuinely worried about her but I don't think theres anything I can do. AITA for not wanting her to drink?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 21, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 21}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "LoFohH9k0WIMjrJ9yUo1TDRGBeTpp239", "post_id": "b2jes8", "action": {"description": "yelling at the person my boyfriend cheated with", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for yelling at the person my boyfriend cheated with?", "text": "So, two years ago my boyfriend ''cheated'' on me with his friend. She sent him nude photos and he was flirting with her.   \nHe blocked her and haven't talked to her since that day.   \nBut this weekend I went to a party, and there she was. First I thought that I should leave, but I decided to be a better person and forget about her.  We were in the same room for 7 hours, and I didn't care about her at all! I had such a good time. Until she asks where my boyfriend is. I told her that he was home. Then she asks why we blocked her. And I said that I didn't want to talk to her, and that she knew why.   \nI turned around and was about to talk to my friend. But she kept on saying that she had no idea what she did, and that she hadn't done anything...  \nI told her that I knew because I've seen their messages and I've seen what she wrote to him. Then she goes on saying that she would never do that because she had a boyfriend.   \nSo I got mad.. Because she lied and because she was saying all of this infront of all the people. So I said that she was a ''fucking cunt''. And stormed out of the party and went home. \n\nThen today I get a message from her on facebook. Where she wrote that I was childish and an asshole. I just texted back and said that it was two years ago and how I couldn't understand why she would bring it up infront of everyone.   \n\n\nI am anxious about the situation because I am a really shy person.. But I got mad, and it feels like everyone agrees with her that I am the asshole.... So AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Ye5soqes2IAQzRUkEXGWQpmY4WeK1kwi", "post_id": "akzarj", "action": {"description": "breaking with my mother", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for breaking with my mother?", "text": "I struggle with my mental health since I am ~10. About 2 weeks ago I was in a very bad place and had a fight with my mother. She told me to finaly go and kill myself. If it hadn't been for my best friend who picked me up last second it would have ended bad. Now I move to a new apartment and want to stop all communication with her.\n\nMore info: I struggle with depression for a very long time, I am 25 now an have spend ~2,5 years in institutsions and ~2 years in state financed rehab to help me find work (I am from Germany and glad we have so advanced help here). I had some really bad episodes and 2 (thank god) failed suicide attempts. But i try my best to not dwell in my sickness and become a usefull member of society and repay all the help. I was beaten by my mother and dad I  have forgiven them what had happened, knowing they didn't knew better and I don't want live in anger the rest of my life. In recent years I was not an easy son. I began occasionally smoking weed, and taking some other drugs (I stopped everything except sometimes weed). Sometimes I am moody and get annoyed quick. \nI have gotten in fights with my mother before and she told me multiple times I should finaly go and end it, and that I was her biggest mistake and I am an disappointment. She had a horrible father and really bad childhood (she is also struggling mentally and I think she is on her way to becoming an alcoholic) \n\nI would have no problem seizing all communication with her if it wasn't for my dad. We had our problems too but in the last few years he tried hard to turn things around, he accepted his guild for beating me and apologized (my mom never did this). He supports when ever necessary and sets things in motion with his excellent connections in our community. He is a family man and family is the most important thing to him. I know it will break his heart seeing his core family break apart.\n\nSo will I be the ashole? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kp6l7sZV3d8O3gExJGkQqAnlAil1N7ib", "post_id": "aydut7", "action": {"description": "being annoyed at my gf's stress/sadness", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed at my gf's stress/sadness?", "text": "Sounds bad, but hear me out. I (19M) am in an LDR with a girl (17f) from India. I have yet to notice any problems with our relationship, and she has never once even mildly irritated me until now. She's currently taking her year end exams, I won't pretend I'm entirely clear on how the education system works where she is but it's somewhat equivalent to American high school finals. She's relying on these scores to get into med school, which she considers the only option as far as her future goes. She has been studying day and night for these exams for months, and while she's rightfully nervous, some of the stuff she's been saying is just rubbing me the wrong way. She took the first test yesterday, her math exam, and has been crying ever since she got home from it, saying she's going to feel guilty for the rest of her life. Due to her own calculations, she got a 95% on this test, giving herself some room for error she's settling with a 91%. she hasn't received any results and I'm not sure how she determined this on her own just from taking it and analyzing how hard it was but she says shes positive shes in the lower A range and its tearing her apart. Now I know cultural differences are a factor in this, as I'm from the US and probably the laziest/most laid back part of it at that, beachside in Florida. Also, probably more prominent is family differences, a lot of pressure is put on her from her parents, and her mom projects on her, telling her how much she still regrets the scores she got on those tests. I know it's probably coming from my own insecurity as I was a teenage runaway and never finished high school, dropping out at age 17 and doing random odd jobs/freelancing for a living, which I am still doing. It just gets under my skin a bit when she got an A on her math final and is hysterical about it not being an A+, saying her entire life could possibly be ruined. Now, I've not said a word about this bothering me, and I dont intend to, ive been giving her the greatest support I can, but I feel a little guilty for mentally undermining her struggles. AITA for feeling like she's being kind of dramatic? It's not like she scored poorly, or even knows what she truly scored yet.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aft3aNzAHhg1yR9tsRHVoHToIxwcoMwX", "post_id": "a6u5tw", "action": {"description": "accidentally manipulating my friend into telling me things she's unsure to tell me about", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for accidentally manipulating my friend into telling me things she's unsure to tell me about (please read text portion)", "text": "So on one hand I don't think it's the best thing but at the same time it's led her to talking about how she cut(s) herself and a kid who told her to shoot herself which she wouldn't have talked about otherwise.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tqAjtF9WmLp3A6gEGZtUrjKDib5Hy1lR", "post_id": "ay1vo8", "action": {"description": "feeling uncomfortable around a friend who confessed their feelings to me", "pronormative_score": 30, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for feeling uncomfortable around a friend who confessed their feelings to me?", "text": "(GMT+4) \n\nI\u2019m actually a 15 y.o girl who\u2019s really haven\u2019t experienced this kind of stuff before and it\u2019s an o o f\n\nA friend of mine kept telling this guy who just so happens to also be a friend to confess to his crush and I didn\u2019t know any better about who it was back then, so I encouraged him to do it and he seemed awkward with that. He was really secretive and wouldn\u2019t tell me who it was.\n\nThat same friend who told the guy to confess told me it was really obvious who his crush was and was surprised I didn\u2019t get it. \n\nEventually though from all the teasing from me and the way everyone acted around me and him, I got the message. And I was nervous because I didn\u2019t reciprocate those feelings.\n\nBut then time came and he wanted to talk to me by the school halls during lunch and he wanted to talk with me by the window. I become confused but do it anyways, only to find him confessing to me.\n\nPanicking because I, again, didn\u2019t like him that way, I go ahead and say \u201cI\u2019m flattered, thanks\u201d and smiled. It was really awkward and I broke the silence and asked \u201cSo what do you want me to say\u201d and he just says it\u2019s fine and offers me an Oreo but I say I\u2019m on a diet because he confessed a day before prom.\n\nI got reprimanded by another friend for not giving him a chance and not liking him back. I argued that I can\u2019t force feelings that aren\u2019t there and that at least I didn\u2019t lead him on or anything. We both agreed to disagree and ended it at that.\n\nDays later of everyone forcing me to dance with him during half my prom night even if I was unhappy, people teasing me with him and flirting with me for him, I thought it was repulsive but I did nothing. \n\nNow I can\u2019t even talk normally to him as a friend because he either tries to flirt with me or guilt trips me for what I said and repeats it in our conversations and it\u2019s annoying. \n\nI no longer feel like wanting to hang around with him because of that but I can\u2019t help but forget we had a good friendship before this and I feel bad wanting to ignore it over this.\n\nHonestly, the guilt tripping is kind of working and I keep wondering lately if I should have just toughened up and pretended to like him back. And my actual crush told me that he overheard I rejected the guy who confessed to me. I didn\u2019t think it\u2019d spread like wildfire that way. \n\nSo far only two people who I have talked about how I felt agreed with me and the rest have pretty much subtly or downright described me as an asshole for this. I\u2019m really unsure at this point, but nearly everyone thinks I\u2019m an asshole so :/\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 29, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 30, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wQJmz5LyUhkd5MXRkbMyGKwwvLqYRqPQ", "post_id": "b6xhzm", "action": {"description": "not choosing the cheapest possible officiant when others are helping pay for my wedding", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not choosing the cheapest possible officiant when others are helping pay for my wedding?", "text": "When searching for an officiant for our wedding, I skipped over the cheapest one because he said that due to religious beliefs, he doesn\u2019t perform same sex marriages. My fianc\u00e9 and I are not the same sex. We are man and woman, but I am strongly pro-equality. I couldn\u2019t see someone handling the most important day of my life knowing they don\u2019t feel the same way about marriage as I do. So I went with a more expensive option and the officiant I hired has the same beliefs as my fianc\u00e9 and I.\n\nMy sister says it was rude of me to skip the cheapest option since other people are footing most of our wedding bill and that it was more important to be considerate of them. She says, I\u2019m not gay so why does it matter?\n\nI feel strongly about this but my sister made me wonder if I should have swallowed my pride and just taken the cheaper route for the sake of those who are helping pay.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "F9VG0V9Lr1WukKKKFJrtGTJetD1WmuUC", "post_id": "b10hdp", "action": {"description": "asking my ex wife to contribute to kids health insurance", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For asking my ex wife to contribute to kids health insurance?", "text": "My ex wife and I, both 45yo, have been divorced now for 7 years. During this time, our child has been on my health insurance. Our kid has braces, I pay for that also. The child is also with me at least 75% of the time. I obviously pay for clothes, food and the like. I work full time 8-5pm m-f. Ex wife is in restaurant industry, works evenings, schedule varies. I recently asked to start contributing to her health and orthodontics. She told me to fuck myself. She uses the \"reasons\" for our divorce is why she feels she doesn't have to pay. I do not pay child support. AITA for asking/insisting she start paying something towards these expenses? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 5}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TKhpyWSpNh1tB1Jzv1JepN3dTN3zdeZl", "post_id": "aneojg", "action": {"description": "not wanting to play a game with a friend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to play a game with a friend?", "text": "Hello, I don't wanna type out the whole conversation so i'm just gonna copy and paste it all, Here's some backstory. So me and my friend are in a rocky friendship we always have been, but hes one of my only friends and he is the only friend that plays the types of games that I play with him. Here are the screen shots of our discord chat. *also they arent a furry* *And I am RWBY*\n\n\nryan0151547901/26/2019\nhey\nwanna play\ncsgo\nRwby BibleThump01/26/2019\ntomorrow  yes\nryan0151547901/26/2019\nbruh\nRwby BibleThump01/26/2019\nBruh shut up im going to sleep\nryan0151547901/26/2019\nim ginna be alone ps is being\nrude and left ne\nRwby BibleThump01/26/2019\nCool\nYou have left me\nryan0151547901/26/2019\nare you kidding me\nare you actually kidding me\nRwby BibleThump01/26/2019\nYes\nryan0151547901/26/2019\nok theres not gonna be a tommarow for me and you so go to sleep child\nRwby BibleThump01/26/2019\nIm tired im going to sleep I don't feel good\nWhat?\nryan0151547901/26/2019\nhere is it in the simple version\nim blocking you\nRwby BibleThump01/26/2019\nWhy\nWhat did I do\nryan0151547901/26/2019\nand ps because you both leave me\nRwby BibleThump01/26/2019\nI don't feel good\nryan0151547901/26/2019\nyou just said like im gone bye\nRwby BibleThump01/26/2019\nIm sorry\nryan0151547901/26/2019\nand shes like ima go play this bye\nRwby BibleThump01/26/2019\nYou legit have done that before\nryan0151547901/26/2019\nso now im alon the only people i could play with is zasuke\nRwby BibleThump01/26/2019\nIm sorry there's plenty of times that the only person I can play with is no one\nryan0151547901/26/2019\ni hope i wake up in the morning and alll my electronics that i could text you or ps on is gone\nRwby BibleThump01/26/2019\nWhy\nIm sorry I will get on\nryan0151547901/26/2019\nbecause im irretated its so early and i cant play tommarow and you both getting off\nRwby BibleThump01/26/2019\nBut you shouldn't blackmail me\nThis is a toxic friendship rn\nryan0151547901/26/2019\nits not im not giving a choice\nRwby BibleThump01/26/2019\nIm getting on to play Cs go just one sec\n\n\nAITA ???? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pyucoxv61F4w1uL3ZN0erDivR4J5ssNz", "post_id": "amyp1m", "action": {"description": "wanting to cut ties with a old time friend", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to cut ties with a old time friend?", "text": "First time poster here and on mobile, so sorry for wording and grammar.\n\nOk, I am sixth grade and I have a friend whom I've been friends with for three years. We have been good friends since 3rd grade. So I have some respect for her since she is a long time friend. But recently I have a change of mind. The reason for this is because she is very violent.\n\nI was shipping two of my friends for no reason and I told both of them. One of them was chill about it but the other really wasn't and was kinda mad. I don't know why but I started to poke fun at the friend like occasionally saying the ship (I know dick move.)  That when in digital art my long time friend heard about the ship and was not happy. She was also mad that I was on hacker typer and singing Africa by toto. She said if I didn't stop she would choke me I thought of it as an empty threat and continued.\n\n She then proceeded to put her hand around my neck and choke me it hurt slightly not really that hard. But I was just astonished at this that she would do that. I didn't tell the teacher I don't know why but I was mad. I didn't tell her anything but I am still mad this happened a week ago. \n\nAm I the asshole for wanting to cut ties with her.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xrRtDxjO1DG6Y9p514RueJuIeDOJAnqU", "post_id": "9y9niz", "action": {"description": "getting upset with my dad when he texts and drives", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting upset with my dad when he texts and drives?", "text": "My dad's a good man but he has very unsafe habits. When he's not texting he usually holds his phone in the center of his steering wheel and watches some political podcast. \n\nI can't control what he does when I'm not with him but when I'm riding with him and he does either of those things I'm not afraid to remind him how unsafe that is for him and everyone around him. \n\nI usually get brushed off with the \"I've been driving longer than i can remember\" line. But I try to persist with the fact that you can't control what happens when you're not paying attention to the road. Sometimes he gets upset and I feel like I'm being a controlling asshole. \n\nHe is a good driver when he's paying attention. But when he isn't we've had some close calls. \nSo am I the asshole for constantly reminding him his habits are unsafe?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cjjpGWhXPcfAan65h54tCXHDQrMpDOdR", "post_id": "aobtu4", "action": {"description": "being short with my prying friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being short with my prying friend?", "text": "So some backstory here. A few days ago, my BIL got arrested for some involvement with drugs. I'm not going to get into all the details, but it's been especially hard on our family given that my MIL is a police officer in the same municipality and our nephew was present. We had heard some rumors, but it's his first time around with this kind of thing, and it was still a shock to us. Everyone is on an emotional rollercoaster right now, myself included. \n\nWord spread pretty fast about what happened. Most people have either avoided the subject completely unless I bring it up, or offered their support and that was the end of it. Then comes this friend, we'll call her Sam for the sake of the story. Sam and I have only known each other for maybe 6 months.\n\nSam starts out by texting me, asking how I'm doing. I tell her I'm doing alright, thank her for the concern. She starts pushing the subject further, asking for more details. I tell her that I'm not really in the mood to discuss the situation. She didn't take the hint. She kept pushing further and further, so I was just very short with her. I didn't say anything rude. She starts asking if she upset me. I told her no, I just don't want to talk. However, I'm starting to get pretty upset. She keeps apologizing for possibly upsetting me, and then starts turning the conversation to her own family problems, and trying to compare them to my situation. By this point, I've had it, so I just quit answering her before I got to the point that I did say something rude. She's texted me several times over the last day or so now, but I still haven't answered her. This kind of behavior freaks me out a bit, especially since I've only known her for a few months. I'm also not a very open and social person. Everyone that's ever been around me knows this.\n\nPart of me feels like an asshole for ignoring her. However, I feel like I gave her enough indication that I didn't want to talk about it. AITA?\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7vgXbTYSEaieq3DD4uuubIP9BEtBZzhD", "post_id": "azn787", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my friend for cleaning the bong in the washroom", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my friend for cleaning the bong in the washroom?", "text": "Whenever the bong  gets dirty it needs to be cleaned - I get that. But this bong smells like absolute dog shit, and I cannot stand the smell when he cleans it on the MAIN floor washroom. We all brush our teeth in there, shower in there, etc. We have a basement with one of those industrial sinks, and I always suggest for him to clean it down there but he's only done it a couple of times. He gets mad whenever I ask him to go clean it downstairs in the sink we don't use at all. I feel like its common courtesy to clean *his* bong somewhere that's not the washroom. It's just nasty. \n\nAm I really the asshole in this situation? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hFO4X66ouXgHgRHdzkp26pvv7HowwRqs", "post_id": "anjmnh", "action": {"description": "telling the cashier I saw someone shoplifting multiple packs of bacon", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling the cashier I saw someone shoplifting multiple packs of bacon?", "text": "I caught someone  stuffing multiple packs of center cut hickory smoked  bacon down his pants while I was picking up breakfast sausage. (He wasn't trying to be very inconspicuous, just stepped behind a cardboard box of paper towels and appeared with no bacon. \n\nSo as I checked out I told the cashier about it nonchalantly and told her what the guy looked like. They called security and I left the store. \nI got home and told a couple friends about it. And they said \"you didn't snitch did you?\"\n\n And apparently now I'm a \"cunt\", \"snitch\" and \"should mind my own business\" \n\nHere I thought I was being civilized and I'm being chastised. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Q6g4hkhfNBkh1F5UvedneFsZezKH9yyg", "post_id": "b2w02b", "action": {"description": "leaving my fiance of 7 years", "pronormative_score": 100, "contranormative_score": 67}, "title": "WIBTA, for leaving my fiance of 7 years.", "text": "My fiance and I have been together for 7 years now and have an almost 6 year old son together.\n\nAlmost 3 years ago now we had broken up for about a month. During this time he began to talk to a girl that he's known for most of his life. We got back together, and I expected him to break off all contact with her. Which I thought was understandable.\n\n2 weeks in and he still has her on all social media including snapchat. We fought and fought over it and he eventually deleted her. Or so I thought.\n\nLast October, we had been growing rather distant and I took it upon myself to snoop through his phone.\n\nAnd there she is. She had blocked me on social media so that I couldn't see them following each other. He had literally liked every single one of her pictures, not any of mine during the same time period to be clear, and she liked his as well. Including a picture of his Snapchat code asking people to add him.\n\nI confront him. He becomes angry and defensive but swears hell get rid of her.\n\nAbout a month later I decide to check again. And she's still there. So I told him I was leaving him.\n\nHe left for about 3 days. And we eventually talked things through and he again swore to delete her and block her for good.\n\n3 weeks ago, I saw that he had liked pictures of the girl's sister on Instagram. He says he had remembered liking them from a long time ago and had been trying to unlike them so I would never find them and in doing so accidentally re liked the pictures, and I believed him.\n\nLast night. He has both the girl AND her sister unblocked AGAIN on social media. Meaning he went out of his way to go through his settings, get to privacy, open his list of blocked users and unblocked those two in particular.\n\nWIBTA for ending a 7 year relationship with the father of my son because he can't seem to let go of some other girl? Even though the only thing I really have evidence of is them staying in contact, not actually cheating?\n\nI'm at a complete loss.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 15, "OTHER": 99, "EVERYBODY": 52, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 100, "WRONG": 67}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "82Q5jzjh3pyQNheVJkEBVm4xaOjPefsJ", "post_id": "b1oji7", "action": {"description": "letting my son exclude four people from his birthday party", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I let my son exclude four people from his birthday party?", "text": "My son\u2019s birthday is next week.  I was willing to host a party for his entire class (17).  He is adamant that he doesn\u2019t want to invite four of his classmates.  That they are mean to him and will ruin the entire party. \n\nI\u2019m conflicted.  I want him to have a great birthday party, but inviting everyone except four kids feels pretty shitty.  ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 19, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8uCXmhfGHgIXHzPGZ03b1B5wJncPISqx", "post_id": "aswvfx", "action": {"description": "not giving my younger cousin Pokemon cards", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not giving my younger cousin Pokemon cards?", "text": "Throwaway because people know my username. Also Im on mobile so sorry for any errors. \n\nFor starters, Im a girl in highschool so Im still living with my parents. We have an attic which we keep a bunch of random stuff in. \n\nOccasionally Ill need something from the attic, and I end finding a bunch of other old stuff. About a year ago I found an old tin with my pokemon cards in it.  They were all curled and dusty from age so they were all worthless. After finding them though, I started to get back into collecting them. \n\nI dont have that huge of a collection now but I do have a few nice cards that Ive pulled that I keep in binders in my attic. (My parents didnt really know I was collecting again before the incidents)\n\nSome days of the week my elementary school aged cousin comes to our house after school to wait for his mom to get off work (shes a nurse). My parents went through the attic to find any of my old art supplies they could find for him to keep himself busy.\n\nThen though, they started pulling out my binders of cards to show and probably give him. I got kind of lucky and walked downstairs immediately after he opened the first binder to look and I just said something along the lines of \u201cJust remember, please only look at them and don\u2019t take any\u201d. And he said okay and that was that. It was just me and him in the room. \n\nAbout a week later my mom knocked on my door and asked if my cousin could have my cards. I said he can look at them but I really dont want to give them to him. We bickered so we just made a deal that I would give him a couple of them. We went through them together and I gave him some cards that I had duplicates of that he wanted, and I actually probably gave him about 60 different cards. So you know, a decent amount to an elementary schooler. Again, all was fine. This happened in the early summer of 2018. \n\nAlso, I told my mom later why I didnt want to give them away. \n\nLast week, my cousin came and knocked on my door and asked if he could have my cards or if \u201cI still liked them\u201d. I apologized and said that I did still like them, and he said okay. I learned later that he came down the stairs dissapointed. Ever since then my family seem to be annoyed with me.  I asked my mom about it and she said that nobody could understand why I wouldnt just give the cards to him, and I explained to her that I had spent money I earned at my job on many of the cards and I actually use (trade / sell / play) them, and they probably would just sit on his shelf. \n\n\nTLDR; my elementary age cousin wants Pok\u00e9mon cards that I bought and my family is annoyed at me because I dont want to give them to him. \n\n\nSo AITA? I understand he is only a kid and also part of my family, and I honestly do feel kind of guilty by not giving them to him.  But I bought them with my own money. I was never mean about it to him or anyone. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hHdTgbekY2PnKGvXDeEDI46OqPf1ymvH", "post_id": "amu9l2", "action": {"description": "teaching my 5 year old cousins how to fight", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for teaching my 5 year old cousins how to fight?", "text": "My little cousins keep telling me someone bothers them at school and I taught them how to fight. They got in a fight recently and the mom is trying to press charges, am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "byCfTUWMu1Sptb3twh60n84W8waflHGT", "post_id": "afhm4d", "action": {"description": "picturing myself playing piano at my mom's funeral to make myself play better", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for picturing myself playing piano at my mom\u2019s funeral to make myself play better?", "text": "Sometimes when I play piano I want to get in a very emotional headspace that is hard to achieve. To do so, I will sometimes pretend as if i\u2019d be playing at my mom\u2019s funeral and it just tears me up inside to the point where the music becomes so much more dynamic. I picture my childhood and our memories and the happiness and joy and the incredible sorrow I\u2019ll feel when she\u2019s gone. \n\nI know there\u2019s no real harm done but it just feels so morally wrong. It feels as if I\u2019m playing with these emotions and down playing death...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DDl336ekNK3w9oIWmAs27hWreTL7lj8e", "post_id": "abn4tx", "action": {"description": "feeling hurt and annoyed when my so chooses someone else over me", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for feeling hurt and annoyed when my SO chooses someone else over me (non romantically btw lol)", "text": "So my SO in our heading towards 5 month relationship has recently kind of bugged me. A week or two ago I was at hers hanging out and she got a call from her friend who asked if she was doing anything today, to which she said no, and if she wanted to come out, which she said she\u2019d ask. Taking in mind no mention of me to her friend and no offer of invitation so I felt like wtf and asked her if she wanted to go see them (when I had travelled over 2 hours to see her and we had a fun thing planned (at her house)). And she said \u2018yeah kinda\u2019 so I was like wtf and got my stuff and left with trying to act okay and not mad because I felt so shocked.\nAnyway that still kind of bugged me and then just now I messaged her this long sad message which I wanted emotional support on and then sent her a message a few minutes later because on this group chat she got added to with my friends who she\u2019s just met and spoken to once she was @tted I made a joking comment about it. Anyway I check back and no reply to me but there was an instant reply to my friend who she barely knows and she never uses discord, that\u2019s the only chat she has on it so not like she clicked on it for convenience so idk why she chose to reply some person she barely knows over me first, especially when I was wanting support but I\u2019m just hurt and got annoyed at her. Is that wrong of me?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cYtwS8dEx1tWlWHWDkVtqmNQziFirrSs", "post_id": "b4nhcf", "action": {"description": "trying to get my mom to stop drinking", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for trying to get my mom to stop drinking?", "text": "so i\u2019m 15. my mom has drank for as long as i can remember. for the past couple years, it\u2019s really gotten out of hand. she would drink and try to hide it, because i really didn\u2019t like talking to her when she was drunk. she was mean, would cause problems, would argue with my dad in the middle of the night. but worst of all she would go to work drunk, drink and drive and would try to drive me places while pretending she wasn\u2019t drunk. i\u2019ve found bottles all over the house.\ni need to add that i think i have a lot of mental issues and i recently had to get hospitalized because i had a panic attack and i thought i was dying. after the doctor told me i had anxiety i went to talk to the social worker and i told him everything: how my mom drinks and drives, how i get anxious about everything, etc. he got this social worker to talk to my mom and now she\u2019s going to meetings about her drinking, and they also told me they would get me help. no help has come at all. my mom stopped drinking for a couple weeks, at home at least. but yesterday she was drunk again and it was a horrible night. she started yelling at me about random shit like if i have problems at school and how school is making me act up. i kept telling her no and trying to remove myself from the situation because she was yelling and drunk and when people yell at me, i can\u2019t really help it but break down and start crying. i gasp for air and stuff and idk how to stop it but it\u2019s hard to communicate when someone is yelling at me. she kept blaming me for putting her in the system and that now she has to go to meetings. and when i started crying and asking her to stop she started mocking me saying, \u201coh you\u2019re gonna have another anxiety attack?\u201d and saying i was a bad actor and that she could see right through my act. i kept trying to walk away to calm down but she wouldn\u2019t leave me alone. i asked my dad to help me but he just ignored me and walked away. i tried to call my sister but she was yelling at me to do it in front of her. this morning was bad too. she told me she wasn\u2019t drunk last night, even though she obviously was. she told me to mind my own business and to fuck off, which was the first time she has ever swore at me. she said it had nothing to do with me and that gods the only person who can judge her and not me. i told her she needed to stop lying to my face and that i could smell it on her. she blew in my face and started yelling at me. i really don\u2019t know what to do right now reddit. am i really the asshole for trying to get my mom to stop drinking and telling someone? she told me i wasn\u2019t her daughter anymore and i\u2019m really broken inside now. i really don\u2019t know what to do", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gWfk3J3q7VKrURVEaxhaZy6EmOJLnTEc", "post_id": "aec6bi", "action": {"description": "seeming to cause friction in my friend's relationship", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for seeming to cause friction in my friend's relationship?", "text": "I have just started college this past year, and I have made some great friends (I am a girl, and my best friends here are all guys). All of us get along very well and I am very grateful to have made such great friends so quickly. \n\nOne of my new friends has a girlfriend back home. I do not know much about her, and our group of friends does not often talk about our lives/friends back home. \n\nA few days after returning from winter break, my friend recieved some long paragraph text messages from his girlfriend. I did not mean to read his messages, but they came up on his computer as we were all looking at a game he was playing. I quickly looked away from the messages, but I saw that a few of them contained my name. My name is spelled in a unique way, and I am pretty positive that it was referring to me. As soon as the messages came up, my friend left and went home to call her. \n\nI believe that I seem to be causing tension in the relationship as a new friend - who just happens to be a girl - in my friend's life. \n\nI do not want to lose him as a friend - he is one of the best friends I have made, but I feel like my presence is causing friction in his relationship. AITA for being his friend?   ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VJR9NLJX7s7uKtd0PzyJoloIQeBGsYKr", "post_id": "aanthn", "action": {"description": "not driving three hours to pick up my sister", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not driving three hours to pick up my sister", "text": "My sister who just moved back to the city I live in and hasnt made any effort to come see me (which I have. Invited her to my place multiple times and she refused) called me just now and asked me to come pick her up three hours away. She left last night from my moms which is near my place, and when she did my mom told her she is not going to pick her up, so make sure she can get a ride back because it seems like her friends didn't seem to want to pick her up anyway, so she probably wont have a ride back, and my sister said they definitely would give her one. Well they didn't and she called my mom, who of course said no, so she then called me, asked me, which I told her I didnt want to drive that far because my u joint in my truck is bad, and I really dont want to risk it.  I told her I'd think about it and she said angrily fine, I called her back and said if she can get them to give her a ride half way back I would come get her, she got mad and said that her friend wouldn't do that then hung up, I feel like a dick because my inner big brother says go get her, but my adult says dont risk your vehicle and she was the one who decide to go three hours away instead of spending time with family who has actively tried to spend time with her", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Cyj047D8lxhNoPEx0z4ggqGSpEBH6BDr", "post_id": "ar5n88", "action": {"description": "taking my son's PS4 he bought himself", "pronormative_score": 20, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for taking my son's PS4 he bought himself?", "text": "Hi all! New here! This situation has been bothering me because I do not know if it was the right decision or not. TL;DR at the end\n\nFirst, my son, who is 16, got a part time job over this last summer. He raised enough so he can get the family gifts for Christmas and a ps4 for himself. I couldn't buy him one since all my money goes to my parents for personal and financial reasons. We both live with my parents and it's not out of being super poor, but it's comfortable and my parents are very chill.\n\nI work basically a 9 to 5 job, but backwards. 9 to 5... Night shift. So it's hard not to be very not aligned with my family in terms of being awake.\n\nRecently, my son has been doing... Below average in school. I, being a single father, worry about this. My parents spoil my son a bit too much to not care about his grades. They usually throw the \"you should focus more\" line to my son which just goes right by him.\n\nOne day, before work, I see what my son is up to and... It's his PS4. He is on it. I haven't noticed much of him playing it until I saw his report card right after mid terms and Christmas break happened. When I saw him I told him that he needs to study more and that the ps4 is making him do less work in school. He tells me not to worry. Me, being stressed a bit before work, snap a little. His grades haven't been doing too well and that I wanted to see his grades on the spot (they have the grades online and I trust him to show me when I ask). But, he hesitated a bit. He said he may have low grades because he still needs to turn some stuff in.\n\nI'm a bit angry at this point. I know I shouldn't have but it didn't change the fact he had low grades. He finally showed me and there was an F! A big ol F in Chemistry. It's a hard class I know but, an F! A lot went through my head. Why haven't I been notified by the teacher he's doing this bad?? How come he hasn't asked for help? I always tell him to ask me for anything. Then I asked myself. Is it because he's playing games all the time???\n\nI told him that he needed to give me that PS4 on e spot. We argued a bit. He paid for the ps4 but I paid for his school. I had to head off to work and didn't finish the argument, but the next day while he was at school I took the ps4.\n\nHe was angry at me for the first time in his life. Saying that he worked hard for that ps4. I told him about his grades and he said he needed to turn stuff in still. I told him he shouldn't be late in the first place. \n\nThis was only about a week ago. And he still has an F in Chemistry\n\nI told my parents I did this and they said I needed to go easier on him but I disagree.\n\nI told my son I'd give it back once he gets his grades up. But he DID pay for this ps4. It's his. And I took it.\n\nAITA?\n\nTL;DR my son had a summer job, paid for his own PS4, but I took it away recently because his grades haven't been doing well at all (Failing a class).", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 20, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "16iUbtUVNjeNAs6aRuibFM3R4bhfLU5d", "post_id": "a3inc6", "action": {"description": "wanting my uncle to get the fuck out of my house", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For wanting my uncle to get the fuck out of my house?", "text": "AITA: Soooo, this is going to be long, but worth it.\nMy uncle came to Italy (where I live with my parents, both are from Morocco) two months ago, and he has been living with us ever since.\nHe came here with a sketchy employment contract (which states that he is working on a farm in Veneto), while he really has been living in another region with us. Since he moved in, i haven\u2019t talked to my dad and i have been arguing with my mom every.single.day. It has been a nightmare.\nThe problem is that this big, fat, 34 year old, thinks (just like every other north african migrant, except for people from Lybia and Egypt) that Italy is the place to be, when it is NOT; my parents paid for his tuition in Morocco, and he did not finish studying for his college degree. Then they bought him a scooter to help him get a job, (again, he was still in Morocco) and he didn\u2019t find one and had to sell it; they paid for his marriage (he also had a daughter), while he lived in our house in Marrakech for all of his adult life without paying us a single euro for the rent, or the bills.\nHe has always been completely dependent on my parents, and this thing always drove me insane, because i cannot forget what my dad went through when he came to Italy as an immigrant 30 years ago... he slept in the woods, on trains, he didn\u2019t eat for days on end, he was robbed, he was discriminated, he had to go through some Tough shit, and here is this shrek-looking giant baby that comes to italy with an easy jet flight (paid by my parents), and thinks he can conquer the world by watching the tv and eating all day long.\nAnd what bugs me the most is that both of my parents dont think there is something wrong with them spending money on his future (and not mine, wtf, we are not rich), or with him not helping with the chores (even though he doesnt work and is at home doing nothing all day long).\nWell, do you guys think i am the asshole for not talking to my uncle and my dad (we had a terrible fight about this situation) and for deciding to eat alone in my room until he leaves our home?\n(I am an 18 year old girl, next year i will be studying either medicine or biology, university life is expensive, and my parents wont be able to afford sustaining my studies, our family and his family forever)\nFun fact: since he has moved in, i\u2019ve never even saw him. I shower when he is sleeping or outside, and i cook when he is another room or out, lol. I have no idea how i am managing all of this shit, but it is driving me insane, INSANE\nSorry for the text block, i just enjoyed reddit and i don\u2019t know how to edit.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0iXPAnJVKxCYrCbusKEXkEYIhHsOD4nE", "post_id": "aswsuu", "action": {"description": "telling my best friend that he's whipped", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA If I told my best friend that he's whipped?", "text": "[Link for the term \"Whipped\" I'm using.](https://www.italki.com/question/180678) TL;DR at the bottom.\n\n​\n\nSo my best friend, let's call him Sam (18m) and his girlfriend, who we'll call Ashley (17m) have been dating for over a year and a half now. It's clear as day that no one likes Ashley. She is very rude, to not only Sam, but to me, our other friends we all hang out with, and just everyone around her. She is a total bitch IMO. \n\n​\n\nWhere Sam goes, she's there. When we decide to have a \"Guys\" night, she tags along. When she does, she's nothing but selfish, rude and talking constant shit while always touching and totally showing PDA. The PDA is the worst part. Sam is always paying for her food, meals, giving her rides to school then work. For context, Sam isn't the most...Fortunate man in the world. He's not poor, but nowhere near rich. He's about almost at low class citizen area. SHE comes from a very rich family. Has a million dollar house, lives in the best city, has cars from a Tesla Model X, to a Mercedes S-Class. \n\n​\n\nLike I said, he's totally submissive to her and does whatever she wants. Sam is giving it his all for Ashley and she is literally just saying, \"Meh. Pay for my food.\" Sam is currently balancing 2 jobs and high school while Ashley doesn't even have one. The relationship is totally lopsided and it's clear as day that Sam is whipped. There was a time where Ashley slept in the same bed as one of her cousin's friends at her house. And she claimed nothing happened. And of course, Sam believed her and laughed it off. He's even bought her a $200 necklace she has never worn before. Which was about 2 paychecks for him. She bought him a hat. He wears the shit out of it.\n\n​\n\nShe didn't even tell her parents until there 1 year anniversary, which was sketchy as hell in my opinion. He will go out literally every weekend to her house at 1am to go spend the night at her house to avoid her parents. Keep in mind they live about 30 minutes away. And he is always going over to her house. She's been to his house once and that was a few months ago. Sam moved about a month later and she hasn't even seen it yet. She is a terrible girlfriend and it's clear as day she is whipped, so WIBTA if I tell him he's whipped? Providing all the information and proof that says so. Or should I just keep my mouth shut and let him find out the hard way.\n\n​\n\nTL;DR, Best friend is clearly whipped due to the influx of things he does for his girl, pays for every meal, drives out to her house every weekend which is a 30 min drive away, buys her expensive jewelry, she's a freeloader and yet she's extremely rich. He is pretty low class. She has been suspected of even cheating (which she probably has.) Our whole group hates her and thinks the same of her. Should I tell him he's whipped or just let him find out the hard way?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QmidoasVzuzFWY2FiUPKNpbWGIFUYTHq", "post_id": "af4qxn", "action": {"description": "going to a movie with a female coworker", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for going to a movie with a female coworker?", "text": "We are both in committed relationships, she's been with her bf for 7 years. Gf of 6 years doesn't want me to go but coworker has no one else to go with (her friends are all busy and bf doesnt like the movie). Gf complains that she isnt comfortable with me being alone with a female coworker despite the fact that we arent really alone. I've reassured her that the coworker is in a committed relationship and wouldn't try anything. If she did try anything I would turn her down. What do you guys think?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mbzllkiMxLno3FMSvEdRtDQqvAEFTZgl", "post_id": "b2ghrc", "action": {"description": "supporting the cheated on husband", "pronormative_score": 150, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA - Supporting the cheated on husband", "text": "Story is roughly a year old. It revolves around two people we'll call Frank and Annie! I've known Annie since we were babies lying next to each other at the hospital and our parents bonded. While I have a sister Annie has always been more of a sister to me.\n\n​\n\nNow some years down the road Annie married Frank and we hit it off straight away. Frank works in the oil industry so he's typically 14 days on the platform and 14 days off. During the 3 years of their marriage Annie never said directly that she was seeing someone on the side, it was more of a feeling I had but living close to 1000 km's away there wasn't really much I could do. Last year they announced that there was a baby on the way - All joy and glory but I had a feeling I couldn't shake so during my next visit I asked if Frank was thinking about a paternity test. You know just to be sure? This was after more than a couple of beers. Turns out my comment stuck and he later on insisted they get one. (He caught her emotional cheating) As anyone can guess it turned out the kid wasn't his. He also let it slip that it was my suggestion which kinda blew up in my face.\n\n​\n\nNow Annie who only works part time is suddenly without the six figure income of Frank and without a home, she's looking at moving back in with her parents. I'm somewhat removed from the situation as I live far away but getting shit from my parents and siblings as they think I should have keept my mouth shut and \"Not ruined a good marriage\". People keep telling me I should think of the child involved and that Frank is being immature.\n\nI'm so far sticking to my guns that Annie was the person who created the situation and that pulling the child card is unfair. It's been a year now and both me and Frank is heavily isolated from what used to be our friends and family. He's relocating to my city to get away from it all.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 149, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 150, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ctvflokVjZ2xRiBEGmJDBK4W2bNkMaza", "post_id": "a71don", "action": {"description": "lying to my friend's wife", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for lying to my friend's wife?", "text": "I've known this guy about fifteen years. Great guy, generally speaking, and lives in my neighborhood, so I see his wife and daughter around at local stores or wherever. She's always nice, but I wouldn't consider her a friend. I'll call them Dave and Dianne.\n\nDave has had a side girl for months. I've never met her, but he's shown me some pictures. Last Friday I got a call from his number, but when I picked up it was actually Dianne on his phone. She was very upset. She asked me if Dave was seeing someone, and I told her I didn't think so. I really just panicked, it was sudden and confrontational and weird. Now I feel bad about lying. She's always been nice to me, but I really don't want to be involved in their marriage mess. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "RcLqJVpsbeLkkBfBmjldvACLlXsOj35Z", "post_id": "b4guv7", "action": {"description": "not wanting to hang out with a friend when she fights with her boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to hang out with a friend when she fights with her boyfriend?", "text": " \n\nI can't help but feel like a bad friend for this, but here is the story.\n\nMy friend argues with her boyfriend quite often, and it is like a pattern: whenever they fight she asks me if i want to hang out, to have a drink at her place, e.t.c.\n\nMost times i come over to comfort her and to listen to her, but lately i don't really wanna do this, i just don't really feel good after these intercations. It is not like we talk ONLY about her relationship problems, but she tells me a lot about it, and i get worried about her. Then they make up and she says oh it's all good and fine and dandy, then they argue and it starts all over again. It's like a rollercoaster.\n\nToday she asked me and our other friend if we want to come over at her place, and i just don't know what to do. I know that she isn't at best mental state now, and i feel like i need to be with her, but at the same time i don't want to do this because it is draining and i planned on studying today. So AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5zS03MhrUAbCN36MeDH2aTHJUm9wzDdi", "post_id": "b8nmpj", "action": null, "title": "AITA -- Refuse to agree that SO's parents are not child abusers", "text": "Throwaway, randomly generated username. \n\nI've known this guy since we were in middle school. We met online, and it wasn't until college that we started phone/videocalling, and started dating. \n\nWe've had a myriad of issues and been on again/off again for the past two years, but a big conflict has been his parents. Partially, this was due to how they talked about me -- it was super long distance, so I never talked to them, but his mom literally sat him down and told him she was afraid I was going to be his \"foreign wife\" (apparently a bible reference, saying that I was going to ruin his faith, as I am in fact very white and American). But the biggest part of it was that in the beginning of the relationship, I was extremely blunt about my thoughts on how he was raised. Specifically, I stated that I believed that any parents who were complicit in the abuse of their child were themselves child abusers. (His sister was mentally and physically abusive, and taking up too many parental resources, so they sent him to a private school, which was admittedly expensive and amazing EXCEPT for the person who started mentally and physically abusing the boys. He told me himself that they had proof, and their concerns were brushed off/they were not believed. He was eventually believed and pulled out.)\n\n\nAs you can imagine, this did not go over well. Most people do not want to hear that their SO thinks their parents are child abusers, especially if they are still in denial about having PTSD (he has now accepted that and went to therapy for several months). \n\nAfter being in therapy myself (this was my seventh attempt at therapy, after a run of bizarre bad luck where I had many who gave me a) AA prayer b) advice to be a Wiccan and have lots of BDSM sex with strangers and c) a single breathing technique before throwing up their hands and giving up), my therapist and I decided that my approval of his parents shouldn't really matter. My new mantra was going to be that as long as *he* thought they did their best, that was what mattered. However, we didn't see any obligation on my part to actively agree with the idea that people in close contact to children -- e.g. parents or faculty at a boarding school --, have no obligation to protect those children from abuse. \n\nWe are 20/21. He still lives with his parents, and I live with mine on my school breaks. He does not have an order of protection against his sister because his parents guilted him against extending the temporary one he was granted. \n\nTLDR: By my definition, his parents are child abusers. Telling him that is obviously not the best course of action, but I refuse to outright voice approval that I don't mean. AITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "7BNcwKSkMEzjDyV5Ucjq0vKsWEgscd2u", "post_id": "b0y3pf", "action": {"description": "telling me sister's bf that she is cheating on him", "pronormative_score": 129, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for telling me sister's bf that she is cheating on him?", "text": "My sister is kind of a slut and has cheated on at least 3 of her BFs that i know of. Her most recent bf is actually an old buddy of mine who i used to hang out with in the film society club (that i had to quit due to work). he's a chill dude so when i found out she was cheating on him i texted him and told him everything because it sucked to see a friend of mine get hurt like that. he was thankful but i could see he was massively hurt. \n\nthey have since broken up and both my sis AND my mom have been screaming at me and saying that i'm a piece of shit and my mom threatened to kick me out but thankfully my dad put a stop to that nonsense lol. still, my sis and mom are furious at me and it feels like im walking on eggshells at home. \n\nit sucks bad because they keep calling me all sorts of names and my sis in particular has been vicious making fun of my weight and my gynecomastia but i still don't regret telling him.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 128, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 129, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OqnYYyk5nHZmIFXVG8TEv5i86erpnC2e", "post_id": "aez4dk", "action": {"description": "telling my friend his grandmother was snooping for money", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend his grandmother was snooping for money?", "text": "For context, I've known my friend for 8+ years, and stay at his grandmother's place when we both have to work, to make it easier on all of us. Recently, while my friend was at work and I was hanging out in his room, his grandmother came in and started going through his drawers. She kept muttering to herself and whispering, \"This is where he usually hides it.\" When I asked her what she needed, she said, \"I just need some money for a while.\" \n\nNow, she never actually told me what that money was for and had stolen money from my friend in past occasions, so once she left the room I messaged him to tell him. He was understandably pissed, and called out his grandmother. She tried to play innocent and act like she did nothing wrong, as she tries to do. She started acting extremely passive aggressive towards me, to the point where she came in when my friend was gone and told me that he would be \"In big trouble\" because I was here without him. Only found out today she needed the money for bills, but had she not been acting the way she did it wouldn't have been an issue.\n\nSo reddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rphHrOO4PhLdl9deIOHDWNARVrSJlBKN", "post_id": "arir07", "action": {"description": "blocking my friend of 4 years on FB for a transphobic meme", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA: I blocked my friend of 4 years on FB for a transphobic meme", "text": "I apologize in advance for formatting. I\u2019m on Mobile so I can\u2019t imagine it\u2019s going to be great. \n\nSo I had a friend in college, he seemed pretty nice and we did a couple theatre shows together, we were in the LGBTQIA club on campus together (I am bi and he\u2019s gay), and we swam in a lot of the same circles.\n\nHe posted a meme on Facebook that insinuated that bisexuality\u2019s mere existence confirms the gender binary. I gently explained to him (rather politely, to be fair) that pansexuality falls under the bi umbrella so the point doesn\u2019t really stand. He let his straight friends troll me for hours. I shouldn\u2019t have let it get under my skin, but it did and I told them to fuck off and eat my ass.\n\nNow, normally I\u2019m pretty good at civil discussion, but it was clear they were trying to troll me and I didn\u2019t want to take the bait and debate some people who weren\u2019t trying to listen or care. They just wanted me to get more upset and they called into question my sexuality, and my dignity, amongst other things.\n\nI PM\u2019d him, a little miffed and told him that his stupid meme was causing a lot of harm and asked him why he kept it up. He told me \u201cI found it entertaining\u201d and ignored me after that. \n\nAfter hours of harassment and threats from his straight friends, and a non-response from him, I decided to throw this long-time friendship out the window and block him on all socials.\n\nFriends, AITA here? Should I have tried harder to talk it out with him and educate these douchebags, or was it not worth my energy to fight for someone who doesn\u2019t care.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MDvfdE5gHE0yZRuUAsJTVFaQ12s21jPw", "post_id": "a4s0zq", "action": {"description": "wanting my question answered", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for wanting my question answered?", "text": "I went to an Italian restaurant with my partner awhile ago.\n\nWe wanted to immerse ourselves so my partner ordered Italian wine and I wanted an Italian beer.\n\nWhen they took our drink orders my partner ordered the wine and I asked where one of the beer was from.\n\n\"I'm not sure. I'll go and ask.\"\n\nWaitress returned and says \"It's made by [company].\"\n\n\"No no sorry I mean where is it from. Is it made here or in Italy?\"\n\n\"I'm not sure. I'll go and ask.\"\n\nWaitress returns soon and says \"We're not sure where it's from sorry.\"\n\nI was getting a bit annoyed and sternly asked \"Well, can someone look at the bottle?!\"\n\nThey came back soon and said \"I can't read the language on the bottle but it says import from Italy.\"\n\n\"There we go. I'll have that one thank you.\"\n\nThe bottle was all written in Italian which I found amusing after all that.\n\nMy partner said I didn't need to snap at the waitress but I expect them to either know or find out what I believe is an easy question.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "m90Z5Flhjn3MQyZnoJnJZXZqSfol9cKb", "post_id": "ak4bif", "action": {"description": "asking a dude if he went to school around here while at a party", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For asking a dude if he went to school around here while at a party?", "text": "This happened months ago but I still think about this interaction and I would really appreciate honest feedback.\n\nI was at a small halloween house costume party (maybe 12 other people total). I had just a few drinks + was a bit high when I struck up a conversation with this guy. It is important to note that I am a white female and he was black.\n\nWe introduce ourselves and explain our costumes then i ask him where he's from and all that.\n\nMe: so what's your story, man?\n\nHim: story?\n\nMe: yeah like where are you from, how many siblings do you have and that whole thing?\n\nHim: I'm from _town an hour from here_\n\nMe: cool, so do you go to school around here?\n\nHim: what, do you think i dont go to school?\n\nMe, a bit tipsy, literally just repeated myself\n\nHim: why dont you think I go to school here??\n\nNow he's starting to get a bit worked up and i'm self aware enough to know that im too drunk to continue this conversation gracefully so I literally just nod my head and walk back to my friends.\n\nI immediately wondered if he thought that _I_ thought that he was uneducated and that maybe it was race related. I grew up in a pretty conservative area and sometimes I still learn the hard way that some of the things i say without thinking are insensitive. But asking if a young adult is going to school, is that really politically incorrect, even if he is a minority? \n\nTurns out we go to the same college btw. My friend who was there had seen him around. \n\nSorry i know this post is a bit political. Just let me know your thoughts, reddit.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Efjm6YyyK1nCnK9oRNUm7WjDEGOthRnr", "post_id": "aapn1o", "action": null, "title": "AITA Wife Says I Am, Do You?", "text": "My wife and I are at odds and can't seem to get on the same page. \nSmall backstory, in effort to be a better communicator, I share last night with her that I'm struggling. I feel that I'm at capacity currently (with life's current events/adulting) and am on edge.\nI feel at times that many things I do are not right in her opinion or just irritate her. Today has been no exception.\n\nStarting at 5:30am, our 1yo wakes and is crying. I get up to help and wife asks that I just try to soothe rather than bring to her for early feeding. I do this, but baby begins to scream again. I thought wife says to bring baby to her and she will feed, but I guess I misheard her. She gets mad and says that I'm messing up the sleep training. I'm hurt by her frustration, but just lay back down.\n\nAnother moment from today: \nFamily is getting dressed and ready to go out for the day. I put on t-shirt I received for Christmas and an old baseball hat. Wife looks at me funny in disapproving way. While in another room, I hear her say in a gameshow voice, \"the whole family gets dressed nice and you decided to wear stupid shirt that says boats & hoes and that awful baseball hat\". I ask if she was planning on taking family pics while out, she says no. I tell her I'll change since she disapproves, and she says don't... I tell her she's being passive aggressive and she says she's just joking and where the hell has my sense of humor gone?\n\nAnother instance: \nI'm speaking with her quietly in bathroom. She says, shhhh! The baby is sleeping. Ok, fine, but I was already taking quietly for that reason.\nA few moments later she shuts a cabinet and it makes a loud squeak and slam. I say shhhh to her as well. She then calls me passive aggressive and says I obviously had an issue with her telling me to be quite earlier, but that she didn't want the baby to wake.\nI agree and say that nobody likes to be shhh'd, but also agree that nobody like to wake the baby even more.\nFrom there the situation spirals and the specific details are blurry, but I'm told that I'm miserable, unhappy, need to figure out what my deal is, to get a life and find my happiness. I have been accused by her multiple times that I must really hate her and the life we have created.\nShe then decides that we need to split for the day, taking the kids out on our planned outings and for \"me to do me\" and figure my shit out.\n\nShe is out with the kids now and I am confused. I know that I am not innocent, as it takes two. And yes, I'm in kind of a funk right now. But it also feels like she is taking shots at me, perhaps out of irritation that I'm not 100% my chipper self. \nFunny thing is, I really believe that the things she accuses me of are some of the shortcomings and character defects that she possesses herself. If I try to communicate that to her, the whole conversation usually gets turned around to how I am guilty of all the things I tried to discuss with her. It feels like a vicious cycle of just going tit for tat over trivial points and arguing for the sake of arguing. And I hate it. It really makes me sad...\n\nNot sure if this is the right forum for this, but the feedback here seems to be good, offering great perspective.\n\nSo am I the asshole here, do I need to pull my head out of my own ass, or is there something else perhaps?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 22, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 36, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WdXdFXtYnzpTiN6m40dQx8xqwwvt1no5", "post_id": "9yhlda", "action": {"description": "yelling at my grandmother", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For yelling at my grandmother?", "text": "Im on mobile so apologiez for formatting etc.\n\nTo start off this was a little while ago and my grandmother asked for help finding something, i helped her look as best i could for a few hours and over the course of that all i was receiving was yelling and insults. \n\nAfter awhile i eventually got mad and yelled at her to stop acting like such a bitch that i was doing the best i could. Obviously this did not help but were on a non talking stalemate\n\nOther family members have said i was in the wrong and i feel i am in some regards.\n\nAITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uAMeT23HmxRvFd8wrDWJgyddcLFIQd9K", "post_id": "aybkum", "action": {"description": "not getting a birthday present for my friend because he didn't get me one for mine", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I didn't get a birthday present for my friend because he didn't get me one for mine", "text": "A little bit of backstory on this. A few months ago I was asked to edit a video for a project my friend was doing. It had been assigned for almost a month at that point, and the due date was literally a day away. Normally I'd love to help, but at that time I was busy with homework of my own, and I generally didn't want to replan my schedule. Now I told him that I really didn't want to, and to ask others if they could do it. \n\n​\n\nAfter a while of him asking, I agreed to do it, but on the condition that his group would pay me for the editing work, much like if they had hired an editor. I receive the files later that day, and I begin to work. Now keep in mind, this project was due the next day, I had a physical limitation of 14 hours to finish IF I stayed up all night. After a lot of complications, I finally get it done with the help of another friend, and I call this guy's group to give it to them. I ask my co editor if he wanted anything, but he just said he was fine and went to bed. \n\n​\n\nAt this point it was almost 3 in the morning, and I had been working on the edit for a total of 5 hours or so. I tell them the thing's finished and ask for $50. They refuse and argue about why the price is so high. I didn't really think this was that high of a price, as I had spend many hours on it, and delayed my own homework to rush it out on time. After some more arguing, I just wanted everything to be over. I had school the next day and the most I was gonna get then was 5 hours of sleep. In the end I just told them to take the video, but if they could pay me that'd be really nice.\n\n​\n\nFast forward a few months to my birthday. This was still a while ago, and I hadn't gotten any of the money from any of the people. I didn't want to make a big deal out of my birthday, I just changed my mood message and mentioned it if anyone asked. Generally for other people's birthdays, if I didn't know them well enough for a personal gift, I'd just give them $10 worth of gift cards in something like steam or amazon. Some of my friends knew I played this game alot, and gifted me some skins and premium currency. I was pretty content with how things turned out. The friend I edited for didn't get my anything but I wasn't really caught up on it. \n\n​\n\nThe next day at school, I see him at one of my classes. He sort of pulls me to the side and hands me a $10 bill. When I asked him what it was for he replied that he was paying back the money he owed me for the editing (there were 5 people in that group, they split the cost evenly, I still hadn't gotten the other $40). I feel like it would've almost been better if he didn't get me anything at all. Paying me for a job I did as a birthday gift just kind of feels wrong, and I don't really want to get him a gift again this year for his birthday. \n\n​\n\nAm I being an asshole for thinking this way?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kWNjF5tiE5RCVMnojUmFzdIF8KAONEoj", "post_id": "apk3av", "action": {"description": "moving on too quick", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for moving on too quick?", "text": "My ex girlfriend was a narcissistic control freak who manipulated me for four years, I spent almost all of high school with her and I blame myself enough for how weak I was, I asked to break up with her dozens of times, she made me feel terrible and guilty and I'd always end up going back to her. After moving house I met a girl who is the only girl I've ever had feelings for, after knowing her for a month I had a huge crush on her and asked my friends for advice. At the end of school I broke up with her this time for good, i wouldn't have to see her at all anymore, she being her took the breakup as us being \"on a break\"\nAfter two weeks I confessed to the girl I had a crush on who I'd become friends with in the last month and knew all about my ex girlfriends manipulation and abuse and she told me she felt the same way. I've been so happy with her since for the first time in years, we've been together for almost a year now. After a few weeks of dating when my ex found out she went ballistic, she told all our old friends and sent me a lengthy message about how heartbroken she was, all our friends but three sided with her and couldn't believe I'd moved on after four years in just a few weeks. She treat me terribly but I can't help feeling guilty for how fast I moved on it made me feel like such an ass especially after all my old friends had said their piece, one said how she treated me doesn't justify getting into a new relationship that fast after four whole years. My girlfriend has assured me it's just more of her manipulation but if so I have to admit its worked. AITA??", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mdzEGizAJUfo1VSWBAUowI2JYqpo5uhz", "post_id": "a4fhn5", "action": {"description": "not exchanging someone's free gift because they have one already", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not exchanging someone\u2019s free gift because they have one already", "text": "Basic background, I work in a high end furniture store. One customer ordered a custom made sofa, it took a little longer than expected, so he demanded a free coffee table. I felt bad because the customer spent a decent sum so I obliged. Everything is delivered and all is well. \nFast forward a month later, the customer calls and says his father passed suddenly shortly after they got the furniture, and that they didn\u2019t think to tell us that they have a coffee table similar to the free one we gave them. He asks that we take back the one we gave him and deliver a different one. Problem is, we usually don\u2019t give away free furniture in the first place, and having to go wrap it up, bring it back, and deliver a new one is expensive, not to mention that we cannot sell his table as a new item. If it were any other circumstance I would tell the customer to kindly fack off, but I feel bad about the passing of his father. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fWiyy31a7uP5y31z7wKuPihcBBQXvTHg", "post_id": "ahgge7", "action": {"description": "telling my girlfriend that she's not my best friend", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my girlfriend that she's not my best friend?", "text": "A few days ago, my girlfriend and I were talking about the whole \"your life partner should be your best friend thing\", which is a statement I disagree on. For me, a best friend a girlfriend/significant other are 2 very different things. I can fully believe and trust both my best friend and my girlfriend, but there are some things I would talk to my best friend about, but not my SO, and the other way around.\n\nThe last few days she's really been in a bad mood because she considered me her best friend, but I don't consider her mine, because as said above, I consider the two to be very different things. I consider my girlfriend the person in my life I'm closest to, by far, closer than my best friend, but again, they are two different things in my opinion. And by principle, I don't lie when asked a question, even if it's a stereotypical leading question.\n\nAITA the asshole for telling my girlfriend she's not my best friend?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7GCpK9riVM2akMQs7CjRbS6yk2z1g5CN", "post_id": "9ume4p", "action": null, "title": "AITA argued with new employee,boss gives them overtime.", "text": "Hey guys\n\nFirst time posting so might not be the best !\n\nSo basically i\u2018am in a leadership role and lead 6-7 employees.I report to a manager let\u2019s call her Dee.\n\nI started this position and after 3-4 days of training Dee takes 6 weeks off for holidays.I\u2018am left to run the warehouse by myself and look after about 10-12 employees.\n\nDuring this time a guy (let\u2019s call him Adam) starts.He is our new Storeman.He lied on his application about his experience to get the job.First day arrived and he is clearly inept.We find out about him having no license and he is basically put on floor duty (picking packing etc)\n\nFrom day 2 he is argumentative with myself and makes a load of mistakes and blames others.Disappears for an hour with no explanation,arguing with me in front of people etc.\n\nThe upper management agree to fire him and so have me keep records of his mistakes.When Dee returns she agrees to fire him.Adam and I get into a heated argument (he had lied to my boss about me) So I leave the work place before it escalates.He is separated and taken out of my team and left in another area sweeping floors.\n\n\n\nManagement tell me it is a slow process to fire him even though under 3 months you can be fired for anything on the spot.\n\nAfter all this Dee passes myself and another good worker for overtime and gives it to this guy,who then doesn\u2018t come to work that day.Next day same thing she passes myself and other co-workers up for overtime and gives it to this guy.\n\nAm I the asshole in this for arguing back ? I have told management I don\u2019t want him in my team but my manager coddles him when he is so clearly inept.\n\nThanks in advance for reading !\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xJuB7NLJ5KyM45vH70Dx2o3rziHUpj4G", "post_id": "b4rxe3", "action": null, "title": "AITA? My BF says he\u2019ll pick me up at the airport and instead comes home drunk.", "text": "Throwaway account because my boyfriend knows my regular user account.\n\nIt seems inconsequential but he\u2019s coming home in about an hour and I\u2019m a little pissed, but before he comes home I want to make sure that I have a right to be annoyed or if I\u2019m just being selfish.\n\nBackstory:  I was out of town for work this week and during the same week,  my BF\u2019s friend  was in town.   He tells me that he wants to pick me up so I can hang out with him, his friend  and a couple other people.  He texts me while I\u2019m in the air and tells me he is stuck far away and can\u2019t make it in time.  I say, \u201cit\u2019s cool no worries\u201d - shit happens sometimes, I get it.\n\nHe can\u2019t pick me up but tells me that she will be back in our neighborhood very shortly and to be ready so they can pick me up so we can go out.  \n\n5 hours go by  and I haven\u2019t heard from him.  I\u2019m getting annoyed, but I don\u2019t blow his phone up because he\u2019s out with friends and there\u2019s nothing more annoying than having to handle a domestic issue while in public.\n\nHe finally text me and says can you be ready in 20 minutes.   I told him no,  I came home, I got high,  ordered some Instacart and not really up to going out.   And now he\u2019s now he\u2019s being pissy.  He\u2019s gonna come home and ask why I didn\u2019t wanna hang out and quite frankly, the whole situation has been annoying and I didn\u2019t want to have to sit with his friends and pretend to be cheerful.  \n\nSo, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "d2fmrFWNwBoOG92Qr9XKIMeqU0tOTcNr", "post_id": "ba8pz0", "action": {"description": "leaving the cleaning to my so who is a cleaner", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 46}, "title": "AITA for leaving the cleaning to my SO who is a cleaner?", "text": "TL;DR: partner stopped doing laundry and cleaning despite being a cleaner and I am debating bringing it up to her to start doing it again or move on my own\n\nPlease read the context of this before saying I\u2019m an asshole. I\u2019m not sexist, I just want her to do it because she\u2019s good at it, that\u2019s all. No point me doing it when I can\u2019t do it as well as her!\nThis is a throwaway because my partner knows my reddit username after I showed them an r/aww post.\nAnyway, this is kind of an ongoing issue I (21M) have with my (23F) girlfriend. \n\n\nThe issue is this, we both work full-time (I work more though with 40+ whilst SO only has 35) so the house I moved in with her 7 months ago (A cozy flat we rent) can sometimes get reaaaally messy. I work as a shift manager whilst my SO works as a cleaner for a small business. Since she works as a cleaner, I mainly assumed that SHE would do most, if not all of the cleaning. Don\u2019t get me wrong, I\u2019m not sexist! It\u2019s just because she\u2019s good at it, not because she\u2019s a woman.\n\n\nAnyway, a couple of weeks ago, the house starts getting worse, as though she has stopped cleaning. Normally, my partner will put my work clothes through the wash and dry, iron and fold them on my dresser so that I can just get up at 8am to leave for work easily. The first time it happened, my clothes were left on the floor, unwashed and not ironed. I was pissed, but I put them on and went to work (th whole time I felt self conscious and embarrassed). I felt humiliated so I came home and waited for her to finish work. We argued and she said she was sick of having to do all of the cleaning and washing. I tell her it\u2019s been like this since we moved in and that she was being an asshole about it, especially by randomly not washing my clothes, making me feel shitty the whole day. It ended with her crying and bolting the bathroom door shut. I had to stay up for a few hours to calm her down.\n\n\nEver since, I\u2019ve had to start cleaning shit up and im beginning to get mad that she won\u2019t tidy shit up anymore. She\u2019s GOOD at it, and even earned a raise for how well clients were rating her service. It pissed me off that she expected me to now do all my own laundry and wash my plate after she cooked. I\u2019ve never been good at it, and my mom always scolded the fact I could never clean up as well as her.\n\n\nI posted this finally because I\u2019m debating bringing this up with her. It\u2019s inconsiderate of her to leave everything to me after I\u2019ve been at work all day. I may even mention that if she carries on, I will move back to my moms house so that I can be relaxed after a really long day at work.i don\u2019t think that I\u2019m an asshole and my mom agreed she should be doing more than she is right now.\n\nAITA??\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 43, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 46}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "RZp9rM7I5Fnqjz23EdPTgomXxNNcBS0n", "post_id": "ainng3", "action": {"description": "not helping my mom and moving in with my dad", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For not helping my mom and moving in with my dad?", "text": "Hi,this is my second post on Reddit so don't be amused if i make some kind of error.\n\nThe story here is,my mom who for me and my dad is crazy,she is trying to get to the United States for a boyfriend she met on Xbox (FUCKING XBOX) and i hitted her 2 or 3 times because she was constantly abusing me,like hitting,threatening me and being a massive cunt.\nShe called me 4 days ago asking for money to buy food,because me and my brother are with his dad and i am with mine (My mom had another boyfriend through the years and made my brother,he's cool.) and when i said no to my mom to send money,she said i'm a piece of shit,an asshole,\"just like my father\".\n\nBut for some reason i feel guilty for not helping her,am i the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "brXsAS1ZUQR6elmzfmdQNGSz9bRoVoVj", "post_id": "agom34", "action": null, "title": "AITA How Much Did I Mess Up", "text": "I reached out to my professor over winter break, 2 weeks before spring semester about being a TA for his class. I was planning to only work 1hr a week, and  I was also going to be working in another department for 4 hours a week. \n\nAll the arrangements were set, and I was going start in week 4. \n\nOn the first 2 days of the 1st week of the semester, I realized I was going to be too busy with school and outside commitments to handle the new TA position. \n\nSo I emailed my professor and told him I won't be able to TA for the class any longer. And I apologised for wasting his time and his classes time. \n\nI feel so awful for doing this. I'm afraid of running into him. \n\nAhhuugh\n\nHow big was my mess up? \nIs there anything I can do to redeem myself? \n\nI guess I lost out on the letter of rec he said I could get if I needed. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2PJu5qW0jtrkBG5LCWtKYPDAqT1dln8N", "post_id": "b0bzay", "action": {"description": "correcting my dad", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Correcting My Dad?", "text": "Some context:\n\nMy dad and I have always gotten along pretty well. But there are times when he'll just start spreading misinformation to members of my family, or he'll be completely wrong about things that are easily googled when talking to his coworkers.\n\nFor example, if my sister is working on stuff for school like math homework for example, he'll start doing the problem with her and halfway through he'll make an error or explain something to her that's not correct and then blame the textbook and say things like \"well if that's what the textbook says then the textbook is wrong,\" or \"well if they're teaching you that in school then your teachers are not doing their jobs.\" It's really frustrating to me because even when I'm polite about it and I tell him \"hey, that's what the teachers are teaching her in school, the textbooks aren't wrong and you're starting to confuse her\" and I go to help my sister he gets upset with me and starts saying things like \"well you're always right\" or \"forgive me for being so damn stupid.\" \n\nHe also tends to make up statistics to make him sound like he knows what he's talking about and it makes me worry about him hanging out with his coworkers (whom are half his age) and just being dead wrong about some things. I love my father to death and the last thing that I want to happen to him is to be made fun of or thought stupid by his coworkers.\n\n Part of me things that I might be coming off as condescending when I correct him, but I never do it in public or in front of people (apart from my sister or my mother) because I don't want to embarrass him or make him feel like he's dumb. Keep in mind that my dad is a genius when it comes to extrusion and factory work, he' been with the same company for years and he's really good at his job.\n\nI'd like to point out that I am by no means a superbly intelligent person myself, and my goal isn't to demean or belittle my dad.\n\nIf it turns out that I have been an asshole I definitely want to apologize to him, and probably will anyway.\n\nAm I the asshole?\n\nTLDR: My dad corrects my sister on her homework and is misinforming her so I correct him and he gets upset with me and says that he's always wrong and that he must be such an idiot (in a condescending tone). Am I the asshole for correcting my dad?\n\nThanks.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fyrWfOIGttp0yExNorCD8OpwOEpEwQ53", "post_id": "9zqn7d", "action": {"description": "calling out my roommate on their cleanliness", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for calling out my roommate on their cleanliness", "text": "So my roommate has been pretty lazy in terms of doing her dishes, cleaning up scraps she leaves around the kitchen, and leaving laundry in the machine for days allowing the machine to get a funky smell with wet clothes sitting in there. She seems to have a problem with following through with these things. \n\nI was frustrated at her, talked to my other roommate about it. Then my other roommate, who agreed with me wanting to set house rules to not let this continue, told her that I had been talking about her to him. AITA for \u201ctalking behind her back\u201d? I think it is fair for me to ask my other roommate if any of the dishes were his before telling her or wanting to set up a meeting. I think I was a bit more frustrated and showed that to him, since I did let it build up a little bit instead of telling her right away. Except I didn\u2019t want to have the conversation over text and she always seemed to be busy and running to hang out with her bf or ex or whatever. I think it\u2019s okay to except someone who works from home to be able to do their dishes before they pile up to double the sinks depth! \n\nAnyway, she ended up texting me asking why I am mad at her and unfortunately the conversation happened over text. Lots of drama later, Ended with her saying she understands but then that she is upset with me because I don\u2019t reciprocate things she does for me around the house. We are friends, and she has been making my dinner some nights a week\u2014 just for me since she has already eaten and I didn\u2019t necessarily need her to prep any food for me. I don\u2019t have much else to reciprocate and it felt kind of weird that she was doing that and expecting something out of me. \n\nShe also thinks I\u2019m rude for asking her this straight up instead of just hinting at it or making a joke about it like \u201cclean up the dishes would ya?\u201d To keep it light hearted or whatever. I love joking around but not when it comes to house rules, I\u2019m not your mom and I don\u2019t want to have to fill that role. \n\nAITA for not offering to make her food after working all day and just wanting to relax and have some peace and quiet? I don\u2019t want this to end bad between us, honestly. And just want to live in peace in a clean home. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "p8WLVzLca7CALcsLI5QbJVCE8JehE9WO", "post_id": "aw4s3g", "action": {"description": "refusing to go to a surprise vacation paid for by my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 162, "contranormative_score": 451}, "title": "AITA for refusing to go to a surprise vacation paid for by my girlfriend?", "text": "\nThrowaway as I don\u2019t want my girlfriend to see this post.\n\nJust a bit of background info: my girlfriend works in HR and I work in IT for the same company, however because we work in two different branches we only really get to see each other before/after our shift as our lunch breaks are scheduled at different times. Important to note that we report to the same big boss even though we\u2019re in different departments. Anyways, my birthday was two days ago. My girlfriend and I celebrated by going to a fancy restaurant and having a glass of wine after. Then she starts babbling about a \u201csurprise\u201d she has for me, and gives me an envelope. In the envelope are return flights to Switzerland, for a two-week holiday! Immediately I began to wonder how this holiday would work considering I hadn\u2019t applied for leave, but before I could even ask, she said she talked to our boss months in advance and told him to keep it a secret. I didn\u2019t say anything but I was really annoyed. Asking our boss for couples\u2019 leave is just unprofessional and could jeopardize my career. Not only that, but she never asked me if I was okay with using my leave for an overseas holiday. I would much prefer using that time to relax and sleep. I was going to suggest her returning the tickets but she has already paid for everything, including ski resorts, and I figure she would incur various cancellation fees. I just believe that she should have asked me, because I do not want to travel overseas while on leave. I guess I didn\u2019t act as enthused as she wanted me to because she asked me why I was unhappy, and I told her that I would refuse to go as she should have asked me first. She\u2019s annoyed at me. My close friends are telling me that I\u2019m being ungrateful and that I should just go. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 415, "OTHER": 107, "EVERYBODY": 36, "NOBODY": 55, "INFO": 17}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 162, "WRONG": 451}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Fv8Ezuq2IxgtXhSRARHmpKNTwRohsbmD", "post_id": "ac5kyt", "action": {"description": "showing no sympathy to my gf after she eats something she shouldn't on purpose", "pronormative_score": 37, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for showing no sympathy to my GF after she eats something she shouldn't on purpose?", "text": "It's happened a few times in the past and again tonight.  \n\n\nShe has a very selective diet due to certain conditions, but on the odd occasion orders food that obviously contains ingredients that places her in a lot of pain, bloating and cramps. She claims she forgot but I find it hard to believe considering the effects are severe and it's something she has had to deal with for years.  \n\n\nShe gets upset with me as I don't show her any sympathy because I consider it self-inflicted.   \n\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 34, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 37, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "w8ryDpwXGikMIk0ekRz1Aa5HGtDj9ndI", "post_id": "a7z9y9", "action": {"description": "trying to kick him out after sex when he expressed he had no where else to go", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for trying to kick him out after Sex when he expressed he had no where else to go ?", "text": "I made an account to specifically ask this because I am unsure if I was an asshole last night .\n\nOkay, so yesterday while I was at work , the first guy I ever had sex with texted me that he was in my city . I had messaged him earlier this year saying that he could visit me the week of the the 24th , but it seems like he came to Nyc early . This is my finals week and my job has lots of intense days so I\u2019ve been putting in lots of work both inside and outside of the classroom. When I got his text I responded that we could meet up for a few hours as I have work to do. He agreed and met me at my apt at 7:30pm.\n\nThe context was clear : we both were interested in having sex with each other . It had been 4+ years since we\u2019ve seen each other but we\u2019ve been in contact every now and then we would be in contact hence why I told him he could visit me the week of the 24th.\n\nSo we hang out a bit , have sex and cuddle for a little. I start putting my clothes on so that I could get some work done . I ask him what his next move was and he told me he was just going to stay with me. I was shocked because I had not planned for him to stay over and very much wanted my space to study in peace for my finals and just be in my own space alone. The Sex was great but I love alone time and I was very much craving that after he fucked the shit out of me. I expressed this to him and he responded, \u201cI won\u2019t get in your way, I\u2019m just going to be chillin here \u201c\nMe: \u201cno, but that is in my way. I wasn\u2019t expecting you to sleep over because you didn\u2019t tell me you were\u201d\n\nHim : \u201cwell, I don\u2019t have anywhere else to go\u201d\n\nMe: \u201cI thought your frat brothers were in the city ? If you needed to sleep over why didn\u2019t you tell me in advance ? I would have arranged for us to meet at another time when I didn\u2019t have so much work to do. I was about to cook for myself , take a shower, study and do my own thing\u201d\n\nHim: \u201cI didn\u2019t expect to be here this late , and now that I am , I was just going to stay here. I won\u2019t be in your way \u201c\n\nMe: \u201cyes, but I was not expecting you to stay here ...I\u2019m waking up early and am working late ...\u201d\n  \nHim: \u201cI can also wake up early , have no where else to go\u201d\n\nSo I let him stay over but I was very annoyed . I stayed up extra late and left all the lights on in my room in hopes that he would eventually figure it out and leave. I listened to class recordings and tried so hard to be a nuance because I very much wanted to be alone. I cooked for myself and did not offer him any food , as I had not gone shopping because, again, I was not expecting him . It\u2019s bad enough that I have roommates that I feel crowd my space , but now this guy was literally all up in my space . \n\nI was finally ready to go to bed. He\u2019s 6\u20192\u201d ex football player so he\u2019s taking up most of my full size bed . When I get in, he tries to cuddle with me but I actually don\u2019t like cuddling . I had my alarm go off at 5am to get him out early so I could at least enjoy some sleep alone in my bed . When the alarm went off I told him it was time for him to go. He responded , \u201cI\u2019ll leave when you leave \u201c  but that\u2019s not what I wanted ! I wanted him out of my bed . I tell him I have yoga at 6 and want to get ready. He says ok , gets ready and head out.\n\nAm I the asshole for wanting to be by myself after coitus? For trying to put him out even when he expressed he had no where else to go? What do you all think ?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jCNDofqkxZUXS0gLrxRrcVGIp3HmPLgR", "post_id": "a2btes", "action": {"description": "denying my father \u20ac14", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for denying my father \u20ac14?", "text": "This happened about half an hour ago.\n\n  Me, my father, brother and sister would go to a movie together. Now, I haven't been doing that great in school (to put it mildly) and told my father I had changed my priorities to try and catch up where I've been lacking.\n\n  My father had already bought the tickets and he, understandably, gets pissed and started acting passive aggressively towards me. He ended up just casually stating that he expects the tickets payed back by me if he can't refund them.\n\n  Am I the asshole for telling him I won't do that?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7UzsNeknFr8NhvOSK74qdM7MOumni7Tq", "post_id": "akfz3z", "action": {"description": "losing interest in a person after seeing their living situation", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for losing interest in a person after seeing their living situation?", "text": "Ok! So I have been struggling with feeling like the asshole here. I (27F) have been in a loving polyamorous relationship with my partner (30M) for a couple years. Recently I met a new person (30M), let's call him Wallace, and quickly became quite infatuated with him. We went on several fun dates and chatted daily about our interests, kinks, life goals, the whole shebang. I was feeling really comfortable and safe with Wallace and after some negotiating we agreed to a sleepover at his place and to have our first sexy times (woohoo!). \n\nHowever, that's where my excitement ended.. When I got to his place I found it to be dark, dirty, empty walls and gross furniture, mattress on the floor, etc. It looked like a college apartment. Then, he introduced me to his dog, a rescue dog who is extremely nervous. I'm not blaming the dog at all, but from the second I walked in the door she wouldn't stop barking at me, and she is a big dog, also acting like she was nipping at my hands. I couldn't even go to the bathroom without her barking continuously outside the door. I was getting uncomfortable at this point, but we retired to his room and I thought, \"Ok! Rough start, but let's have a good fun sexy time!\" I wanted to be in the moment and enjoy getting to explore this person's body for the first time, but that dog barked literally every second we were having sex. The whole time non-stop. We make dinner, to dog barking at me. We went on a walk, the dog barked at me, we came back and started to wind down to go to bed but the dog wouldn't sleep unless it was in the room with us and she kept coming up to me in the night and just staring at me and if I moved she'd start barking and growling. I felt paralyzed. I realized at about 4 am that I was having a panic attack because I felt trapped, I couldn't move or leave without the dog barking more and I was exhausted and stressed. I stayed just frozen in panic for hours. eventually Wallace moved, looked over and realizing I was awake asked if I was ok. I felt like the interaction unfroze me suddenly and I just stammered I had to leave, that I had a nice time with him but that I had to go immediately and I quickly got up and gathered my things and left. \n\nSince that incident, I just don't find Wallace attractive to me. It was like a lightswitch and I've never had that happen before. Am I the asshole for just flat out losing interest in him because of this? I feel like I built of so much hope and interest in our future and now that is all just gone on my end. I communicated with him that I was no longer interested, and he's really hurt and blindsided but honestly so am I? I really liked him and the feeling is just.... gone suddenly. \n\nTLDR; I was happy and excited about a new relationship with someone, but I lost interest after seeing how he lived and after his dog wouldn't stop barking at me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ouCFrDeAE1PJCcf32l8PW9fcBEDOxQ6d", "post_id": "b9mn2g", "action": {"description": "getting upset my mother wants to sell her house right after I move in", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for getting upset my mother wants to sell her house right after I move in?", "text": "Two months ago I had to move home to finish my PhD. I had been studying in Germany and my funding ran out, which meant I lost my residence permit, so I moved home to write my thesis and find a job.  I had a number of postdoc application in the system at that time so hopes were high I would have something lined up for when I\u2019m done and staying at my mums would be a temporary thing. I had been (and still am) battling with my mental health and I hoped being at home would be a positive step in that battle, too.  \n\nThe postdocs fell through and my mental health is only a little better, so my thesis is taking longer than I\u2019d hoped too. On top of all that my partner breaks up with me a month ago because he can no longer see a future with me. So I\u2019ve lost my independence, my career future, and my romantic future in the last two months. \n\nToday my mother tells me she\u2019s thinking of selling her house and moving to a semi-rural city approx. 2 hours from the university I\u2019m affiliated with and the major city where most of my job opportunities are.  I don\u2019t drive, and continuing living with her will mean spending ~$600 a month on transit.  Remember, I\u2019m broke and unemployed.  \n\nI got upset and as we talked was clear in saying I wasn\u2019t mad at her and she should do what is best for her and her husband (and I believe that).  But when she pushed me to explain why I was so emotional about the idea I admitted it felt like the final reliable thing in my life was being taken away.  Now she\u2019s upset and angry and says she won\u2019t move.  I feel like the asshole, but I also feel like it\u2019s an asshole thing to do to decide to move two months after taking your daughter in, no?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "VID5IKgq2U6dfvW3S197LyJzhLCZXbpH", "post_id": "akeaf8", "action": {"description": "refusing to eat my mother's cooking", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to eat my mother's cooking?", "text": "Okay, I wouldn't normally do this sort of thing, but it had ground up devil's rectum aka cilantro. She demanded that I eat it, but I can't stand that shit. I also spit up the first bite I had before I knew there was cilantro (in the sink.) I never do this kind of shit, but it is just disgusting.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "E1Y3sCqZe980HcbGmtzaxkC0cwMN3wyu", "post_id": "age8tp", "action": {"description": "being upset my parents gave my wedding fund to my sister after I told them I would probably elope", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for being upset my parents gave my wedding fund to my sister after I told them I would probably elope?", "text": "So me and my BF started dated around the same time as my sister and her BF fast forward a year and a half, and my sister gets engaged. I think 1.5 years is too soon to get married, but her BF is military and my sister hangs out with a more church-y crowd, so that's normal, I guess. \n\nMy sister's entire life seems to have evolved around her wedding. Since we were kids she's been picking out colors, venues, themes, watching God knows how many episodes of Say Yes to the Dress and Four Weddings etc.. It's a super big deal for her. She wants to have the Pinterest Perfect wedding of her dreams. Not my cup of tea, but I can see how it would be important for other people.\n\nWhile I've always had fun with the idea of a wedding, in the end I'm very anti-social, I'd rather use the money for an awesome honeymoon or a down payment, and I don't think it's worth the hassle. Since my sister's engagement my mom has teasingly asked me about a wedding in my future. I expressed to her that I didn't expect it in the near future, and that me and BF have agreed that eloping is probably the way to go, as the money, for us, is better spent elsewhere.\n\nA few days later my sister excitedly texts me to tell me the amount my parents had pledged toward the wedding. She was excited because in person they told her it would only be a few thousand, but that day sat down with her and gave her a new number... twice the amount they initially told her. \n\nI was suspicious so I asked my mom about it to which she merely shrugged her shoulders and made some grunting noises. Obviously this left me somewhat upset. Throughout my childhood my parents have implied that they had money set aside for weddings for both of us. And I don't want to imply that I need or deserve that money, but it's only fair that my sister and I get a fair amount. \n\nJust because my sister wants a blow-out wedding and I don't doesn't mean that all their resources should now go towards her. In a way, I guess this is an extension of feeling neglected as a child because my sister would always demand attention and gifts from my parents while I was content to be left alone most of the time. I didn't need or want attention, but that they never thought to give it upset me.\n\nNow, to clarify - and this might muddy the waters a bit - my BF and his family are what you'd politely call 'VERY comfortable' in terms of financial situation. My BF has a substantial trust fund, but I myself make a very modest income (as in, if I wasn't living rent-free with my BF I would probably be on the streets). But that shouldn't matter because who knows? What if I don't end up marrying him? Would I still have no wedding fund because they assumed I would be set for life financially?\n\nMy sister meanwhile, is pushing six figures of income (and we don't live in a high COL area) and her fiance's income isn't anything to sneeze at either considering the military pays for most of his expenses. They both spend pretty frivolously (like 1k a month on beauty kind of frivolous and multiple international trips a year), but with some belt tightening they could easily save up enough for a great wedding. My sister alone currently makes more than my parents ever made combined, which is a point of frustration they have both expressed in having to fund this wedding. But weddings are a pretty big deal in my mom's culture, and really it will serve as a family reunion/way to show off for her as many of our relatives from out of the country will be flying in for it. So I can see why in her mind it made sense to 'redirect' the funds set aside for me.\n\nStill, AITA for thinking I deserve 'my cut' of wedding money even if I don't plan to have a 'wedding' per se?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "7iLJmTVjdkyzUkKGivpnOnKsTcnvj9c6", "post_id": "asrakb", "action": {"description": "sending a screenshot of my \"friend\" making fun of my girlfriend who has chemo to his mom", "pronormative_score": 78, "contranormative_score": 41}, "title": "WIBTA if I sent a screenshot of my \u201cfriend\u201d making fun of my girlfriend who has chemo to his mom?", "text": "(M 18) I was in a group chat with a bunch of friends and we were talking about the upcoming lacrosse season. All of a sudden out of nowhere my friend goes, \u201cWhy do you sound like such a bitch?\u201d. I thought he was just messing around and I said \u201cWhy don\u2019t you hit up the gym and get your weight up?\u201d Because he\u2019s short and skinny. He responded with, \u201cThat\u2019s why I\u2019m gonna fuck your 400 pound fatass girlfriend\u201d. \n\nMy jaw hit the floor, my girlfriend has been going through chemo since December and is currently swollen and bloated because her kidneys aren\u2019t working properly. Her lupus was so bad that she was a day away from dying. (Her swelling made her go from 108-170 btw)\n\nI told him that he went way too far and he just said, \u201cDon\u2019t talk shit then\u201d. He\u2019s obviously has no remorse for what he says and I don\u2019t know what to do or say. \n\nI know it might be a shitty thing to do but I\u2019m not trying to escalate things in front of my other friends, they dont really know what to do and they haven\u2019t taken any side yet. \n\nWe all help this kid hide shit from his parents all the time. I know it might not be the most moral thing to do but he\u2019s making my blood boil and it\u2019s either that or I say something about his real dad leaving him. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 78, "EVERYBODY": 30, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 78, "WRONG": 41}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1X2M8uFdYa4vvh1sZjYAPXe3r5hwSjpK", "post_id": "ak44d9", "action": {"description": "not wanting to pay someone", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to pay someone", "text": "First. I am very good at repaying debts and usually repay debts in less than 10 mins \n\nThis guy on my dorm hall asked if I wanted to hit his weed pen. I said sure and took a couple hits. He then asked me to Venmo him $2. I thought it was kinda wack but was going to do it. \n\nThen my roommate got drunk and I needed to babysit him until 5 am. Then I wake up to a Venmo request notification. \n\nSo much of this irks me, first that he asked me after, then he made it such a meaningless number to both parties, and that he requested me while he knew I was busy. And also i think a request is shitty in that short of a time frame anyway. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1yisH0OpPrptRCb4csJYV0Yoh0ALq2z4", "post_id": "asnnbh", "action": {"description": "not wanting to talk anymore to a girl that doesn't want to hang out with me", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to talk anymore to a girl that doesn\u2019t want to hang out with me?", "text": "She is on my course, and I know that she is single.\nShe doesn\u2019t come to the lectures that often so we haven\u2019t really established a solid connection.\n\nOn occasions she told me that she liked pool and climbing, and when I asked, she gave me her phone number if I want to do any of those things.\n\nThree different times I texted her for that, but all three of them she was tired/had something else scheduled. \n\nNone of the times she mentioned rescheduling like \u201chey, let\u2019s do it another day, how about this date\u201d.\n\nTherefore it was established to me that not only she isn\u2019t attracted to me (which is understandable and something I can deal with), but she doesn\u2019t really want to even hang out with me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YHF3xPu1mg7cvdqd661kH2slmXZt7wZ7", "post_id": "b6d0t8", "action": {"description": "thinking my bf left me alone when I really needed him because of a stupid stupid error", "pronormative_score": 24, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for thinking my bf left me alone when I really needed him because of a stupid stupid error", "text": "Hello friendly Redditers,\n\nI really need your help. So the following is Happening and my brain is still not working enough to figure this out by myself.\n\nSo I am on a journey in Thailand right now with my still-bf. Yesterday I got really really sick (maybe food poisoning) and I felt terrible. The whole World was spinning, my stomach fighting itself, my legs were cramping and there was not enough air for my desperate lungs. At first my boyfriend tried his best to help me. Did hold my hair while I kissed the toilet and gave me something to Drink. He is really afraid of me getting pregnant and insisted on me taking my birth control pill while still vomiting. So I of course threw asap up end sent it on a journey through the toilet System. At this Moment I was just shaking and was almost not able to get back to bed. Two hours later (I finally Was able to sleep and escape my pain!), he woke me up and told me to take my pill again, because He read, tagt this is the thing to do. And here is the Part where I really fucked up: I forgot to take an extra blister! So there is no way I can take another one, it is 1 am and we are in the middle of nowhere without a pharmacy. And He got mad, so so mad at me. And I can totally understand that but I am still shaking in agony and throwing up again (so I really doubt that I would be able to even keep the second pill). And He is screaming at me and insulting me and taking away the pillow He gave me, so I can sit up a little (way better for my stupid still Wrestling tummy) and pushing me out of the way (not so great for my stupid stomach). I tried to calm him down (I am at the end of my zyclus and we did not have Sex very often and the only time where something could have happened is two days ago and He did not even Come into me - I know that that is not a safe method, that's why I am taking birth control pills, but just to calm him down a little and I am still feeling sooooooo Bad). I started crying cause it was all to much and begged him to just be a little nicer to me and help me and maybe hug me, because I really could not bare it any longer. He did nothing of that. I spend the whole night shaking and wishing to Die, while He ignored me and sometimes even pushed me, when I came too close to him.\n\nAnd here we are, the day after sitting in front of the only pharmacy and waiting for it too open. The pharmacist told us Over the phone that there is no reason to be concerned, that I just can take the pill after, but she will not open till 11 am (we are sitting here since 7:30). I can totally (totally totally) understand why He is so angry but I feel like He left me alone when I really needed him and I do not know at that moment, how I will ever be able to forgive him. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 24, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 24, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BqsEFuRZjaMjIvTLwXvpEkPQVDbz2JRl", "post_id": "a3oj7v", "action": {"description": "not liking cheese", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for not liking cheese?", "text": "This afternoon I visited my friend's house to have some snacks and play some Call of Duty. After we finished a match, he brought a cheese platter down (like wtf) to snack on and I said I didn't like cheese. For some reason he got kinda mad about it and asked what I meant. I just explained that I didn't like cheese, the taste of it I guess.  \n\n\nThis developed into a full-on argument where he was accusing me of lying just to embarrass him and disrespecting him by not eating the snacks he made (it was a cheese platter wtf who does that?) and after an intense screaming match I left his house and texted him later in the afternoon saying I never want to go to his house again and that we're not friends anymore. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "2SQa8L3toW5Qb8l6waHmObqTYVheEqh8", "post_id": "b9dhks", "action": {"description": "wanting seperate hotel rooms", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting seperate hotel rooms?", "text": "Throwaway, because both people involved know my reddit name.\n\n​\n\nMy boyfriend and I have been together 8 years this past Christmas, and have been living together for the past six. Of those six years, my boyfriend's best friend (FR) has also been living in the same house, for almost four years. We have gone on 2-3 weekend trips a year for the past four years with FR, sharing a hotel room. While its kinda awkward because its just two beds and a bathroom, we've done it to save money so we can do other entertainment things on our weekend trip.\n\nThis year, my boyfriend (i think to believe) is planning on proposing to me later in the year, towards winter I'd assume to save money. BF and i were wanting to on a trip alone just the two of us this year, and after a day of searching fun things to do on a weekend trip, i just asked if we can go to the beach for a couple days for a long weekend, just to relax together. He mentioned bringing FR to the beach since he works long hours and deserves a break, this way it would be cheaper and we can go the whole week to the beach instead of three nights. I agreed, under the circumstance that we get a hotel room with two seperate bedrooms. We found a decently priced condo on the beach, two levels. One bedroom had two queen beds and the other had one kind bed. Because we are dating and FR doesnt date anyone, naturally we took the king bedroom (also its the master bedroom and has beach views and its on the second level loft of the condo and I'M SO EXCITED, as a side note).\n\nI told FR we found a condo, he'd have his own balconly overlooking the bay, his own bathroom and his own bedroom. He seemed annoyed that there were two beds.I should also mention that whenever we DO share a condo room with FR, he snores. Not little snores, but its extremely loud to the point where BF and i cant get sleep.\n\nOur two friends are also getting married in august. BF, FR, and i were invited...wedding is five hours away on a saturday, so I figured we can drive down together on friday and leave on sunday so we dont have to worry about rushing the day of\n\nI mentioned to BF that the hotel that is blocked off has cheaper rates, so we can get our own room so FR has his own. I told FR that yes, it would be more expensive than just sharing a room with us, but this way he has his own bathroom and i can do my makeup and hair. He seemed ok with it, but still sligthtly annoyed that i didnt want to get a hotel room with him. At a romantic rustic cabin hotel. On the night of the wedding...while with my boyfriend of 8 years and while we include him on everything else, even if we are going out to supper as a date night andi see FR is alone at home, i'll see if he wants to go).\n\nFR seemed kinda salty that we were getting our own hotel room, but also I do want sleep the night before and night of the wedding.\n\nAITA for wanting seperate hotel rooms during the weekend of our friend's wedding?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 20, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "v8ck2aHugxs0NJZnESM9D838ttJ7LUrz", "post_id": "am7bnf", "action": {"description": "being mad and not really wanting to talk to my father after what happened", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being mad and not really wanting to talk to my father after what happened.", "text": "So this is how this story goes.\n\nMy father and mother had broken up from each other when I was 9. (Not the point of the story) Tho one of the times my father was bringing his girlfriend and me to hang out with his parents my fathers girlfriend was talking trash about one of my aunts on facebook while shes right infront of them. My aunt decides to get and say if you want to talk trash about someone at least do it to there face. This was during Easter. So they begin to fight on facebook. My father decides to go to my grandmother and tell her to stop my aunt. She said she didnt want to get involved. Now to the reason why I am so angry at him. You see my father decides to cut all ties to my grandmother and father and the whole family on his side my mother was the one that kept me in contact with them. So my grandmother was hit with a bad case of cancer and I my mom and everyone that could that wasnt his current friends were asking him to go talk to her. Or at least go to her funeral. He did neither. He then was taken out of the will of my grandfather who died not to long after and he didnt even get invited to the funeral....Its been a two months now from that event...and I just cant stop wondering.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VyQGgNFY6s7bjacwNoOeB83ZOU8oKCuB", "post_id": "auw1h0", "action": {"description": "not wanting to share my food with GF's uncle", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to share my food with GF's uncle", "text": "Need some context before actual question. So 2 years ago my girlfriend (both 18 at the time) grand father passed away. Her mother called her step brother to tell him, who lives in Mexico about how he has passed away. Since it was rough for my gf I stayed over for a week to help her grief and support, but her uncle that she only saw once when she was around 5 years old kinda imposes himself to sleep at my girlfriends moms house for a week (lived in small 2 bedroom appartement). Me and gf are both students and broke  and had to buy own groceries since her mom did not buy us food and we had to cook for ourselves. This guy arrives and is so cheap he is ready to sleep a thin blanket in the living room floor instead of renting out cheap motel. No one including step mom really wanted this guy over but she felt obliged since he insisted on helping to organize the funural. Hes been here for at least 2 days if my memory is correct and hasnt bought himself any food, mother in law does not buy us and just buys herself frozen micro wave meals since shes to lazy to cook herself. One day after we did the groceries, he was out. Im making shepards pie. When he arrived he doesnt even ask us but expects us to give him some shepards pie but the leftovers was for our lunch the next day while we were at school and we paid for it. Later on he bought himself bananas (he finally bought himself a few things to eat at like day 4 of the week) and states they are his bananas. And he still ate some of our food which we made clear to him he could not have since hes a grown 50 year old man who should be able to buy himself some food and not need 2 18 year olds buy it for him but he made me feel kinda like an asshole so AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "h4dNH1Mk6qq6sSYdxh5hFTtQMblmQw5i", "post_id": "apyiww", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go on vacation with a girl after she brought the fact she's going to hang out with her ex 2 weeks before", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go on vacation with a girl after she brought the fact she\u2019s going to hang out with her ex 2 weeks before", "text": "Been talking to a girl for a while, and it\u2019s been going smooth no hiccups or fights. But today as we were going to plan our trip she mentions her ex and how she wants to hang out with him. This is pulled from our texts.\n\n\n\nMe: Wanna plan the trip when you get home?\n\nHer: Sure\n\nHer: So Um\n\nHer: My ex wants to hangout this weekend\n\nMe: ew\n\nHer: An I think we\u2019re going to \n\nHer: Because of Bears birthday  (her pet rabbit)\n\nHer: And also I just kinda miss him \n\nHer: But we\u2019re not getting back together or anything \n\nHer: He was like literally my best friend \n\nHer: I feel like I can actually be myself with him\n\nMe: ew\n\nHer: okay\n\nMe: So I respect that, but do you see how that would make me not want to go on the trip\n\nHer: then don\u2019t\n\nMe: I\u2019m sorry if I came off as mean \n\nHer: we don\u2019t have to\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xypQ4VrDbLMcZJWVZh3aldvgCvqa4FJh", "post_id": "ac5mbx", "action": {"description": "not feeling sorry after ending a relationship when I've tried everything", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not feeling sorry after ending a relationship when I've tried everything?", "text": "Just ended a relationship with my gf because I felt undervalued and she didn't give me any attention at all. She was only there for the good things but the moment I had any problems she disappeared. I tried to work things out and talk to her but she refused multiple times telling me that she didn't change at all. So I just gave her an ultimatum and she still wasn't improving so I told her that our relationship had to become to an end. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3VIbb0SPZ1JuivmftQym2AGklbPYwoID", "post_id": "av8hma", "action": {"description": "refusing my baby sister and moving out", "pronormative_score": 298, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "WIBTA if I refused my baby sister and moved out?", "text": "(Posting this for a good friend whose family knows his Reddit name. I copied & pasted his text and haven't edited it in any way.) This is his post in his own words:\n\nMy mom and I aren't that close. My dad walked out when I was 3. I make more than my mom, but together we make just enough to keep our heads above the water.\n\nI\u2019m not doing great in school right now. I have a 2.5 GPA which isn't bad, but isn't great either. I go to work right after school but when I get home, I'm too tired to study for long. However, I'm improving my grades and saving for college.\n\nOur rent increased so I had to find a better job. That's when my mom called her unemployed boyfriend & me & announced her pregnancy. She also told us that she\u2019s quitting her job because it's \"not good for the baby.\u201d We were both visibly angry. I yelled at her since we can barely care for ourselves. Her boyfriend threatened to leave unless she aborted, but my mom INSISTED that he'll \"learn to love his daughter\" when she's born, but he'll need to work to support the baby. But her boyfriend wasn't having any of it; he just tried to convince her into doing basically ANYTHING but keeping it, but as soon as he realized he was beating a dead horse, he disappeared. My mom still can't get into contact with him.\n\nI apologized to her for being so harsh, but reasoned with her why keeping it isn't wise. I reminded her how we can barely get by now, so we can't afford for her to quit & support a baby. I told her she doesn't HAVE to abort, but if she won't be able to work while pregnant, she should consider since we can't and won't survive on just my income. She then decided to abort. Luckily it was still early enough to get the abortion pill. It costed $800. I had $675, but I told to get $400 out of my account to help pay for it. She DRAINED my account & spent it all on baby items. I came home to a fucking mountain of diapers & baby clothes. I asked her about it, & she casually said, \"oh yeah I changed my mind. I'm keeping it.\"\n\nShe\u2019s taken from my account without my okay before. I\u2019ve confronted her, but since it was usually only 5-10$, I never made a HUGE deal about it.  I was a minor at the time too so for me to even HAVE a bank account, a legal adult had to be a joint account holder. \n\nAs soon as I turned 18, I withdrew all the money from the joint account & put it in an account that my mom doesn\u2019t have access to.\n\nWhen I got back home, she screamed at me saying \u201cIT'S MY CHOICE TO HAVE A BABY SO IT'S YOUR RESPONSIBILITY AS A BIG BROTHER TO HELP RAISE HER!\" When I told her why I no longer trust her with my money, she yelled, \"I CAN'T BELIEVE HOW SELFISH YOU'RE BEING RIGHT NOW!\" \n\nNow I feel like my mom will just dump being a parent on me & I just can't handle that. As of now I have enough to move out. I feel like I'll be able to focus on my education & not have to spend so much time at work if I'm just supporting myself.\n\nSo WIBTA if I just walked out?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 295, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 298, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ImsnZWXiEjtM8AkoDI31V6e0xnT62Rou", "post_id": "amhie4", "action": {"description": "being rude to a girl after she has been doing the same thing for a year", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being rude to a girl after she has been doing the same thing for a year", "text": "Ok ive never posted here before so bare with me\n\nIve been in an english class for over a year and this one girl continued to piss me off day after day  by saying \"HAAHAHA you drop the weights  you're so weak\". Ive told her that this annoys me because i have some self image issues from being younger and not liking how skinny and weak i was so i started to workout. As i said this continued for over a year and one day i had a particularly bad day and snapped she had said\" HAHA I bet you drop weights that are only an 1/8th of a kilogram\" she actually says this so i said back \" i might fo that but at least i dont weigh 80\". She stops annoying me and i think this is done. Later on she gets her friend to message me calling me an asshole for what i said and that i should apologize i say no and explain why she then says\" well she has self image issues too\" but the girls i called fat isnt even fat i just said it because it made sense with what she said. I am still aparrently the asshole to these two and probably their friends and i dont see why i am. Seriously am i the ass\n\nTLDR: Girl picks on me for a year and when i retort suddenly i am the ass for one little thing", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5wrPwMXDtjcvkVEv40R7Qc55njUBgOxE", "post_id": "b5tf8p", "action": {"description": "telling a friend his gf can't come to a party he wanted to throw at my house", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling a friend his gf can\u2019t come to a party he wanted to throw at my house?", "text": "Some back story, were both 20 an have recently started being friends again. We used to be best friends but he started dating this terrible girl with a ton of issues who caused nothing but drama so I decided I didn\u2019t want to be around then any more. But I\u2019m the only one in our friend group who ever gets anyone together, so since I didn\u2019t hang out with him anymore he started to say that I was exiling him and making him depressed. I simply just didn\u2019t want to be around him, he could have hung out with our friend without me right?\n\nAnyways, around February friend and his girlfriend break up, she messages me that I\u2019m a fat piece of shit and I\u2019m at fault for my friends depression, she then messages my girlfriend that she wanted to curb stomp her head in. \n\nAround last month said friend and I start hanging out again, I figured since his girlfriend was out of the picture things would be different, or back to the way they were, before he was with her, and they were. He soon asked if he could have a birthday party at my house later in the month, which was a little weird but not a huge deal because my mom is the only one who\u2019s cool with that stuff. Things were going well, he even got a job at the same place as me. \n\nDay of party, I wake up, not really into the mood to party, on top of that my 3 year old niece was over which added to me not wanting to party, but I made a commitment to my friend and I was going to keep it. So I start cleaning up and going to pick up some friends. The friend who the party is for calls me and says he\u2019s getting some snacks and says \u201coh by the way it\u2019s cool if your girlfriend comes\u201d and I was like ya I know it\u2019s cool it\u2019s my house, then he says \u201c also my girlfriend (the one who he was supposedly broken up with) might show up\u201d and I told him I wasn\u2019t ok with that because of the things she said and the threats she made, he then starts telling me I\u2019m a bitch and immature for not wanting her there. Then he says \u201cfuck you I\u2019ll have it at her house\u201d I said good you probably should have had there in the first place. BUT everyone was already on the way to my house, they arrived and I explained the situations and even said I\u2019d drive them to her house if they wanted, but no one did. Friend then says I\u2019m a piece of shit for splitting up the party and taking his friends away. Everyone else in our friend group just dosent want to be a part of it, am I in the wrong? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "p6qRCfufzo8eFSBZDC1LtfTN0WRhGAyc", "post_id": "b87tf1", "action": {"description": "not telling a one-night stand that I have a girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 19}, "title": "AITA if I don't tell a one-night stand that I have a girlfriend?", "text": "I'm on mobile so I can't be arsed to type a long message. I'll keep it short and add details later if you guys need it.\n\n I'm 25 years old male and my gf is 26 years old and we have an open relationship, so there is no cheating involved in this case. Here's the the situation: I have a one-night stand with someone and I make it clear that this is purely a one-night stand with no purpose of seeing each other ever again and they want the same thing. Everybody just wants sex and everyone is on the same page here. BUT I'm not telling the other person that I'm in a relationship. Since it's just a one-time thing and everybody is getting what they want, I don't see the problem here. If I wanted a FWB thing or something more or if I led someone on then they obviously would have the right to know about my gf.\n\nBut some friends told me that in their opinion the other person \"always has the right to know\" about my girlfriend, even if it's a ONS. And it's assholish to not inform them. My GF always informs others about her open relationship even with a ONS, and that's perfectly fine. She also thinks it would be polite if I did the same, although she doesn't think I'm an asshole like her friends say. But AITA if I don't do the same?\n\nI swear this isn't a validation post if someone thinks that, I'm seriously curious since I didn't see the problem and others called me an asshole.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 19, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 19}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MYAJgWldtb9Ai8KuEkJrd0Mjx4CB3SOf", "post_id": "ajfi7n", "action": {"description": "losing a friend over a celebrity", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA- Losing a friend over a celebrity", "text": "       About a year ago, I was friends with this girl who really liked this celebrity. She eventually got me into him, so for a while, we would both share our mutual infatuation together, and it really built our friendship.         \n\n        Overtime however, we both became a bit competitive on who was the bigger fan (stupid, I know), and she started saying really bad things about me, which really pissed me off. It started by \u201cOP is copying me\u201d  or \u201cShe can go suck my dick\u201d to things like making fun of me on her social media like telling me to screw off or conveniently crossing my name off of a post so you could still see that it was me she was talking about. \n     It really hurt me, because of how much I admired her and that I always though it was just friendly competition. I began to talk bad about her to my friends and force myself to be the bigger fan. It was one whole mess. \n    So am I the asshole for taking the celebrity she liked and then fighting fire with fire or is she for introducing me and then ruining my whole year? (Also I didn\u2019t make fun of her online like she did with me) ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 8, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "3OPxac8W6yGfDW5yGzAuxbfp60tJpPFQ", "post_id": "al1jyu", "action": {"description": "telling my mom to stop complaining about the Hospice lady who lives with us", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my mom to stop complaining about the Hospice lady who lives with us?", "text": "So a little backstory, my grandma (mom\u2019s mom) has always lived with my parents and myself since I could remember. She\u2019s now gotten to the age of needing additional help in her life. My parents were hesitant at first but decided it was best for for all of us to hire a lady through hospice care. This lady stays with my grandma 24/7. Lastly I want to mention this hospice care is costing my grandma and family A LOT of money. Final piece of background info this is our second care lady because my mom and grandma did not like the first one. \n\nSo my mom has been complaining A LOT lately about not having \u201cfamily time\u201d anymore. She feels that part of her privacy is gone because there\u2019s always a \u201cstranger\u201d living with us. Yesterday she told her the care lady who smokes cigarettes that she has to smoke off her property. She told the lady that my dad is \u201callergic to smoke\u201d, he isn\u2019t. \n\nThe day before she told the lady she can no longer eat dinner with us when my mom originally invited her to eat at the table with us the first day she arrived. My mom complains that the lady talks too much at the table and it doesn\u2019t allow every to speak about their day. \n\nSo today my mom was just going on to me about how she doesn\u2019t like someone living with us blah blah blah and I told her to stop. I told her I was sick of hearing her complaining about someone who is trying to make her life easier and my grandma\u2019s final years painless. I ended with telling her, it is what it is and I\u2019m done with any conversation that has to do with my mom complaining about this women. My dad was there when I said it and agreed with me that my mom has been complaining a lot. \n\nSince then, my mom just shut down and hasn\u2019t said anything since. I think what I said was a little too much but I feel like it needed to be said. \n\nTL;DR: Mom has been complaining a lot about a hospice lady who lives with us and I told her to stop complaining and I didn\u2019t want to hear anymore of it. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "52uqZ4kXl9ZdXitrokBNIuzFMOcpG5Xc", "post_id": "ahr9ow", "action": {"description": "telling my manger that a colleague was going to hand in their notice", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA For telling my manger that a colleague was going to hand in their notice?", "text": "Okay, so me and my colleague, let's call her X, are pretty close. One late shift, shes driving me home and tells me in confidence she had plans to leave. Cool.\n\nCut forward a week, and my manger calls me into her office and asks me \"I know you and X are pretty close, and we've been monitoring her behaviour for a while. Is she planning on leaving?\"\n\nFeeling flustered, I said \"yeah, she told me she had intention to leave soon.\" I was dismissed from the office and felt bad for possibly snaking her out. \n\nCut forward to today (it's X's final shift), I haven't seen X since the day of the meeting and she mentions the meeting. \"I know you told the manager about me leaving\". She proceeded to call me a snake for about an hour. \n\n(Me and X are still close, she assures me she doesn't care and is only messing around, and I believe her. We hugged it out before she left, and she offered to help me write my own notice. So we're definitely still cool) \n\nIt got me thinking though, should I have lied to my manager? AITA? \n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "QlJ2ooDDqybvgBuhzNKgYtuq3ChpSRIz", "post_id": "aibevc", "action": {"description": "not wanting a surprise trip", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting a surprise trip?", "text": "My partner(F45) and I (40)have been together for 9 years. My birthday is on the 26 of January. I started working for myself last year and because of that we of course had to adjust finances. As of right now we have delinquent Bill's. As a Surprise for my birthday my partner thought a trip  Philadelphia 5 days and  a trip to a museum I had been wanting to visit in Washington would be a great surpriseand she also wanted to attend her sister 40th and the city is where her family lives.  She told me about the surprise a week before we had to leave. When she told me I made sure to be clear that I loved her idea of the trip and to be fair i never outright said that i didn't want to go. I instead before the trip dropped hints like,should we cancel, can we come back early,etc. She told me the tickets were nonrefundable \n Before we left she found out the museum was closed due to government shutdown. So the purpose of the trip is a no go. I really didn't want to come on the trip because I was on point to take care of some due Bill's and I feel like it wasn't a great time to come on a trip regardless if it was for my birthday. I feel like we could've celebrated my birthday at a different time or way.Like dinner or something that I need for the business. I suggested that tho I appreciate the thought, I loved the gesture that it would have been better to ask me if I wanted a trip out of state,because its tax season for the business and I need to work. In response my partner stated that she's hurt because everytime she trys to surprise me it's never right and then preceded to make it about how she thinks I am never satisfied. I told her how I really feel not to hurt her or make her feel bad. I just don't know why she thought it was a great idea now. I really feel like this trip was more about her sisters birthday and I feel trapped in a situation that I didn't ask for and made to feel bad because I feel it wasn't the right time for a trip anywhere. AITA for wanting to be told before she purchased nonrefundable tickets?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "M23W1RArS4kHgfFWIHMKKkh1jqBZ8xJq", "post_id": "ac6oxe", "action": {"description": "getting upset at a friend", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for getting upset at a friend?", "text": "Yesterday I entered a contest where the winner gets a nice cash price for getting the most likes on a comment on an Instagram post. I really wanted to win so I messaged a couple of friends asking to like my comment so I could win. I messaged one of my close friends, and instead of liking my comment, she posted her own comment on the post and started messaging her friends and asking to like her comment. She went as far as creating fake accounts to like her own comment. She even admitted so to me when I confronted her. \n\nShe did not follow this blogger before, and would not have heard of this contest had it not been for me. I spoke to her and told her it made me upset that she did this to me since I specifically asked for her support. She\u2019s currently winning the contest. She says she doesn\u2019t see the issue whatsoever. I blocked her on all social media and don\u2019t see myself being friends with someone like this. AITA for acting this way?\n\n\nTLDR; I entered a contest, asked my friend for support, and she entered the contest herself without even voting for me. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MkwDbI32SKXBNw8fE0LfKZMq781isw25", "post_id": "9xrhe9", "action": {"description": "being upset about an unexpected long term house guest", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for being upset about an unexpected long term house guest?", "text": "My boyfriend lives with me. His mom, step dad, and brother(25) lived together near us but this week they moved to a new town. \n\nI spent the whole week helping them pack, move, and paying for meals and incidentals even though I'm very broke myself. But it's okay- they're broke too and they're family. I'll do a lot for family without mentioning it. \n\nHalfway though all of this I'm *told* (not asked) that the adult brother is staying at our house for the next 2 weeks (laughable- it'll be a month or more, I'm sure) because he's yet to apply for a job transfer, search for new work in the new town, or even put in his two weeks notice here. He's the only one in that household who works so they can't afford him not working for a few weeks. The parents didn't tell him to transfer or job search either. Neither of these three adults thought about a job ahead of time. They all dropped the ball. \n\nSo I suddenly find out that my heavy daily drinking (none of them will admit he's an alcoholic), chain smoking, non-driving future BIL is living with us. \n\nI already have two small children. I don't have a ton of money for groceries. His parents take all of his money for the household so he doesn't have money for his cigarettes and booze, so he steals ours or we end up buying him some (he's a monster without it). It all falls on my boyfriend and I but I can't say no because they're family and he has \"nowhere else to go\". My boyfriend is used to this because he's taken care of his brother in some way his whole life. Plus they have opposite work schedules so they aren't seeing each other much. \n\nI have a variety of personal physical and mental health issues, including PTSD, so having my own private area is essential to me. \n\nI explained my feelings to my boyfriend and he understands where I'm coming from, but thinks I'm being an asshole for expressing my discomfort with the whole situation instead of powering through it. \n\nI WILL power through the situation, but I feel like a stranger in my and my children's own home because of this all. And my kids don't need to be around heavy drinking. I've kept them and myself confined to my room other than meal times. One of my kids is sleeping on the floor so BIL can have his own room. \n\nThere are other friends he could stay with but then he couldn't wake us up still hammered at 5am for a ride to work (which is within walking distance from my house). \n\nI should mention I previously stopped letting this brother stay over because he always brought drugs into the house, trashed everything, and kept us up all night. But he's not doing that anymore. \n\nAm I the asshole for wishing he could stay somewhere else and trying to express the mental and financial burden this is causing me? I know he's family but I'm so busy and tired.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aP1UQkatrpbEQs92KnJmFCHZ8HCwCMNe", "post_id": "9uf5of", "action": {"description": "not putting my floor level on my delivery address", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not putting my floor level on my delivery address?", "text": "I'm living in an apartment complex with multiple floors for at least 10 years by now. Since then I have received numerous packages from all kind of online shops. Usually I have to enter the following information for my package to be delivered correctly (living in Germany):   \n\n\nName  \nStreet Name & Number  \nZip Code  & City / Town Name  \n\n\nYou can determine on which floor anyone lives from the outside by the bell system, so when deliveries arrive at this address they can basically see the floor level where they need to bring the package to when you ring the bell.   \nThis never was an issue and I always have received my packages until today, where the delivery guy told me I must (!) enter my floor level with my address as well somewhere, else he is unable to deliver my package. He was very rude about it and treated it like I made a major mistake while ordering my stuff. He left with threatening me that he would just \"throw out my stuff\" the next time if I don't add my floor level to my address.   \n\n\nMy perspective on this is as follows:  If a floor level is an absolute requirement for delivery, this should be a mandatory data field when using this delivery service. But it isn't: If you order from smaller online shops, there sometimes isn't even an entry field for that, or at least you would need to \"abuse\" one of the other fields like \"company name\".   \nIf this is a problem during delivery because it takes them too much time to read off the recipients floor level off the doorbell, then that is an issue that they should tackle internally within the delivery company, but not by blaming the customer for not making an additional non-mandatory entry in the address.  \nAITA?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "DxIf227gwop6hh4PoSi4s6efmfXWBZVY", "post_id": "b00e84", "action": {"description": "making public a 2 year old video of a man screaming vile slurs & threats at my family and I", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 22}, "title": "WIBTA for making public a 2 year old video of a man screaming vile slurs & threats at my family and I?", "text": "Some background: 2 years ago, while running late and in a bad mood, I made some regrettable decisions on the road. I tailgated a car for some time, honked at it, and blew past it, inadvertently cutting him off and forcing him to brake. I admit I made very poor choices; I\u2019ve learned from them and matured as a driver since. \n\nThe man (a very big, early 40\u2019s guy) at the next red light, got out of his car, stormed up to my window, and went ballistic. He spat on me, screamed a series of **extremely** vile racial slurs, death threats (including graphic references to lynching/hanging) and obscenities at me and **my two small daughters** for a full 2 minutes (impeding traffic for some of this time). He screamed **so** unbelievably loud, got freakishly red, the veins started popping out of his head; I was honestly expecting him to have a stroke or burst a vessel. But worst of all, my kids and I feared he might hurt or even kill us.\n\nThe incident terrified me, but scarred my daughters. They cried and cried, had nightmares about the encounter for a long time afterwards, and I had to have some very long discussions with them that I really wished I would not have to have until they were much, much older. The incident sickened and enraged me like nothing I have ever experienced. I just so happened to catch it all on my dashcam; I turned the cam towards him the moment he started in (as evidence if he were to assault me), and saved the footage on my computer just in case I ever had another run in and needed evidence.\n\nCut to two years later. I\u2019m at an upscale brewery/restaurant with some buddies, look over at the bar area, and who do I see behind the counter, dressed in a nice suit and managing the bar? **The raging driver.** Still bitter, I made eye contact with him, and he froze like a statue and went white with shock when he saw & recognized me. Throughout that dinner, I continued to torment him with a series of sly little grins. When I left to take a bathroom break, he approached me.\n\nHe apologized to me profusely. He claimed he\u2019s severely bipolar and that that was one of his manic outbreaks; he assured me he is not in any way racist or violent, and that if he could do anything to take back his words, he would. He claims to have since gotten his life together; having gone to therapy, gotten medicated, ended his drug abuse habits, etc, and promises me that he is a very changed man. I responded by telling him I still have that video of him raging, can destroy his life and career with a single click, and promptly walked away.\n\nI\u2019m very seriously considering sending the video to his manager, AND even posting the video publicly on social media. Now I know the guy\u2019s name and more info about him, and that he works (and might live) in my close vicinity, I realize it could really make a splash. AITA for wanting to take some revenge on this guy who viciously terrorized my children and I?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 18, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 22}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "2FWCoQWMdw8yduZnFGwNzQBXU5800kRb", "post_id": "b4oe5w", "action": {"description": "confronting my gf about her Instagram dms", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "WIBTA for confronting my gf about her Instagram DMs", "text": " \n\nFirstly, my (20m) girlfriend (19f) and I have been very very happily dating for just over 5 months now. We are each other's emotional support through everything and we do everything together. Very recently, my phone broke down and I do not have the financial means to obtain a new one at the moment, so she being the saint that she is let me borrow her old phone that she kept around. When it has WiFi I can use things like snapchat and instagram just so I can contact her.\n\nIn using her old phone, all of her old apps and pictures (including her tinder) are available to me. She did not explicitly state anything about me not going through all of it when we weren't together, so I figure she just assumed I would, but I honestly have not whatsoever. I respect her boundaries and privacy, and figure most of the stuff I would find in there happened before we ever even met and I would not be happy with what I saw, so why even bother.\n\nThe problem here arrives when I received a notification about a day after I received her phone to use. I got a notification from instagram, but as her account. At this point I had not used the app yet, so her account was still signed in. However, when I opened the app to see what was up, it prompted me to log in - I could not use her account, yet I was still getting notifications from it. It was at this point that I was going to sign in with my own credentials so as to not get her notifications, but what I actually did I am slightly ashamed of. I read the notification and saw that it was not from anybody she normally talks to, or anybody that I know. It was from a man our age that goes to our university, and the contents of the messages made me not want to sign out. I became extremely anxious because his messages went something like this:\n\n\\- \"Hey\" (11pm the night before I saw)\n\n\\- \"Good morning Beautiful\" (the first notification I saw in the morning)\n\n\\- \"Were you at so-and-so's concert last night? I think I saw you\" (I took her to a nearby musician's concert for a celebration, I bought her tickets and just the two of us went)\n\n\\- \"What are you doing later?\"\n\nNow I cannot see her messages that she is responding to him because since I am receiving her notifications, I am only getting his messages. I do know that she was responding though based on the fact that he liked one of her messages that she sent to him. I also know that after the last message he sent there was no other contact. She does not have him on any other form of social media, so instagram notifications would let me know if anything else happened. I do not know what she said, if anything, to the last message.\n\nSo I suppose this is the question - AITA for not signing out of her account upon seeing those types of messages? Should I confront her about this, or let it slide for now as he seems to have stopped talking to her?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "E2vrSj50O1HRYJhMKckIF6aqrqhUnXLb", "post_id": "aushjs", "action": null, "title": "AITA All I Care About Is Money", "text": "(obligatory throwaway account).\n\nI come from a lower-middle class family. I pay for all my everything. Jim comes from a wealthy family. His parents consider me a son (I've been known them for well over ten years). Kara comes from a wealthy family. Four years ago, I met Kara at a hospital internship and introduced her to my friend group. Kara and Jim started dating last summer and she moved into Jim's room within the month they started dating (Jim is working on his second bachelor's, so he lives in his parents basement).\n\nThis semester I moved in with my SO (dating 5.5 years now) to her dorm at school. My home life isn't the best, domestic abuse and all that, so I was ecstatic for this change. Each person in the suite has their own room and bathroom.\n\nSo the semester goes on. Kara's parents don't know she is living with Jim, so they are still paying for her dorm room (about $14K a year). She uses it as a glorified supply closet, Kara slept there maybe once or twice. At Jim's house, Kara does not do her own laundry, do chores, or pick up after herself. As Jim and Kara have been together, Kara has distanced herself more and more from the group.\n\nOverall, Jim and Kara's relationship is so-so. She says she has anxiety driving, so Jim drives her to school even on the days he doesn't have school. Keep in mind, it's a 30 minute commute. The last time Jim told her he can't drive her anymore, she gave him the cold shoulder for days until he started driving her to school again. I think Jim just stays with her because she likes video games.\n\nDuring the semester I am taking a full course load and working three jobs. Christmas rolls around and we throw a party. Before everyone gets there, Kara makes a comment about how surprised she was that I am at the party instead of working because \"all I care about is money.\"\n\nI make a sarcastic comment agreeing with her, that all I care about is money. Kara says I \"am mooching off someone else's money\" (referring to me staying with my SO in her dorm which my SO's parents pay for). I point out that maybe she should care a little more about money because of her dad paying for her dorm she doesn't use while she mooches off her boyfriend by living in his parent's basement. She leaves and doesn't speak to me for 2 months.\n\nToday I asked Kara, nice as you please, if she has a problem with me. She says yes, she hates me, and she doesn't want me in her life anymore. She already told Jim I can't go to their wedding (they aren't engaged?) She goes on ad nauseum about how much she hates me and how I am the worst person alive. I implore her to tell me what I did wrong, or what features about me are so awful. That way, I can work on them, and maybe become a better person. She refuses to tell me a single thing off her \"huge list of awful features\" she has of me and ends up slamming the door in my face.\n\nTLDR: I was friends with a girl, now she says \"I am the worst person alive.\"", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "02L9Aa5USeALoEq4IzJNKXvOjyh6KSi6", "post_id": "9zifaf", "action": {"description": "leaving my family's thanksgiving", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for leaving my family's Thanksgiving?", "text": "So my parents. 2 brothers and 2 uncles decided to go out to eat at a localish buffet for Thanksgiving. Only my parents really wanted to go, everyone else was against it but went along with it because we normally do Thanksgiving at my parents house. We got to the buffet, it was an hour away, and the place had an hour wait. My parents decided that a 15 minute wait was long enough and decided everyone would go to the Whataburger next door. Niether me not my youngest brother wanted to eat, so we didnt order anything my mother got really offended and basically yelled at us in the restuarant. My dad told us that \"since whataburger wasnt good enough. We can just leave\" so we did.\n\nMy brother who stayed called me and told me my parents are upset and that they think we ruined Thanksgiving for everyone.\n\nTl;dr AITA for listening to my Dad and leaving Thanksgiving?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mevcTaabobgxxB5oi9C9rQiOIePU183I", "post_id": "alweta", "action": {"description": "being upset about Netflix password share", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for being upset about Netflix password share?", "text": "I just found out my partner\u2019s 17 year old son has a profile on my Netflix account. This means that my partner shared my password with him. To be clear I have no problem with him being on our Netflix but this password is something that I use on multiple different sites. If he had told me beforehand then I would have just changed the password to something unique only for Netflix before he shared it.\n\nHis response was (I texted him while he was at work) that he hopes I know that his son would not do anything with my password except watch Netflix. That\u2019s only half of the point, I feel as though he betrayed my confidence and secondly I\u2019m not confident in that. His son\u2019s mom has even called my partner before about accusations that his son stole from his own sister! So not exactly the most trustworthy of people as I pointed out to him. And what if he shares my info with more people?\n\nI\u2019m mad, frustrated and tired. It feels as though every time we\u2019re coming together as a team he does something to show that he doesn\u2019t respect me. A couple of years ago I had lent him my credit card temporarily and he paid his mothers dentist bill with it. I only found out when I was looking at the statement, he explained he hadn\u2019t told me because he know I wouldn\u2019t agree to it as his mother and I are not on speaking terms (long story).\n\nI\u2019m not sure if I\u2019m overreacting because to be honest his son isn\u2019t my most favorite person right now and I\u2019m not really sure what damage he could do with it. But it just feels as though my trust in my partner has been violated, I trusted him with a password that he knows I use in multiple different places. Now I feel like I\u2019m going to have to change them all. \n\nThe more time that passes I\u2019m starting to think I\u2019m overreacting and I know that\u2019s what I\u2019m going to be told by my partner. So someone tell me am I the Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "m89DQjyW1e8VXbu008Hqr4LA0vrKfZkq", "post_id": "ah3mhp", "action": {"description": "getting angry with my friends", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For getting angry with my friends", "text": "This happened some days ago, little background:  \nProbably our school in the future is going to move our class, into another building of another school, and this is upsetting my friends, they say that if we would go in that school, we wouldn't do nothing and the general environment of that school is really bad.  \n\n\nSo it started when they talked in a group about it, and proposed to change school and go in another town, and I was really skeptical about this, like questioning everything of what they said and poiting every flaw about it, and possibly bad things.  \nThen I exposed my fears and feeling about it (I had really bad years changing schools, which I encountered many bullies before), so I told them that I was afraid to encounter another bad classroom full of bullies, or maybe that school was even worse than our actual one.  \n\n\nThey started to laugh and questioning about my life in general with this fears and how i'm going to face life with this thoughts, so I got really angry, mostly because they were exaggerating, and I said to them that they are really shitty friends and left from the group.  \n\n\nNow they are really angry and want apologies.  \nAITA for saying that they are shitty friends?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Vwgu9Y8iir0kUZVMzoJ8kEszfRswuir0", "post_id": "aps4nd", "action": {"description": "getting frustrated at my boyfriend for not giving me attention", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting frustrated at my boyfriend for not giving me attention?", "text": "Listen, I know this sounds a bit exaggerated or whatever you'd call an entitled bitches attitude but please hear me out. \n\nThis kind of behaviour on his side caused us to not see each other for 4 months and atm I feel like that was supposed to stay like that because nothing really changed besides the first weeks (after long fight). \nSo, I got a boyfriend and he can be a sweetheart but he can stay weeks without calling me or writing me. He never asks how my day is or bs that partners should ask each other. Our message conversations is me writing like 5 messages and him answering every few days. \n\nThis annoys me. Like said, this lack of interest has been a huge problem in the past because I raged so much at one point from being so sad and frustrated because of him, that he completely \"shut down\" and ignored me for months. \n \nI'm really trying to write as neutral as possible but I'm fuming right now and I'm on the verge of tears. \n\nHe criticizes every step I take and every sentence I say, every opinion I got etc. He doesn't like my makeup and always says \"I don't need to use that much \" (just for the record, it's not much but I like Smokey eyes when i feel like it, not every day), he doesnt like some pieces of my clothing (he feels so entitled that he actually ACTUALLY ripped some leggings he didnt like, tbh they were ugly but so freaking comfortable) and is just overall frustrating. Even when it comes to sex and I dare to ask for more he says I'm only interested in sex and I use it as a thing to prove myself and my worth ( which is somehow true but everyone uses it on some emotional level to feel worthy, right? Tell me if I'm wrong !) .\n\nHe can be kinder and nicer to me but he just has better stuff to do and I'm really mad but I know I'm not entitled to anyone's time. I just feel like it would be nice if he would try just a little more to be here for me. \n\nI don't expect from him to write me non stop but a text maybe once a day would be nice and just enough. And go out with me from time to time. \nEverytime I wanna go out I have to ask because he never does.\n\nAny way, right now I'm just a sad, frustrated mess and I don't know if I can think straight anymore, I'm tearing up and if I'm overreacting, if I am the asshole and I'm just crazy please let me know but I don't think I can do this Any more and I'm on the verge of exploding and going reee on him. \nI really love him and I don't want our relationship to fall apart but I feel like I'm falling apart. I dont know what to do. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UJCLf0MYWJBTtY3JfkPMU0SPeXm1R0c2", "post_id": "9z0j6f", "action": {"description": "not visiting my girlfriend in the hospital even though she expressly told me not to", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not visiting my girlfriend in the hospital even though she expressly told me not to?", "text": "\nLong tldr at the end\n\nMy girlfriend of over 3 years has had many health problems while we've been dating and about a month or two ago she was hospitalized for them. I have always took care of her, probably a little too much, but her health was just getting worse and worse. It has been putting a large strain on our relationship. We are both university students and on the day in question we had made plans to hang out after class. That day goes by and I dont hear from her and so I keep trying to get in touch with her to see if she's ok and if we are still hanging out. She later calls me and says \"so I'm in the hospital...\" turns out her mom had picked her up as it was too much for her and takes her to the hospital. Immediately I want to drop everything and go see her and I tell her as such. She then proceeds to say no and that she hopefully wont be there more than a day and is just staying overnight and not to come. I really wasn't comfortable with this but she asked me to give her some space so I did. She leaves the hospital and I visit her at home as soon as she tells me she's home. A few days later she's back in the hospital this time for a few days. Again I ask if I should come down to her and she tells me no. Again I stay up at school and as soon as she is out of the hospital and back home I drive down to see her and make sure she's ok. Flashforward to the other day when all of a sudden she asks me, why didn't you visit me at the hospital? I was honestly shocked and pretty offended that she asked me that and I told her as much. She was the one who adamantly told me not to go to the hospital and now she is saying that this is a red flag in our relationship that I didnt visit. I'm pretty hurt as i wanted to drop everything to go to the hospital but she was the one who said not to. Now she is mad at me for listening to her.\n\nI'm actually pretty hurt by this as I do a lot for her and put her needs before mine a lot of the time. Hurt so much so I'm considering ending the relationship as I feel her illness has pushed our relationship too far and this is just the last straw. I just feel so insulted and hurt.\n\nTldr: girlfriend was in the hospital for a few days a month ago and told me not to visit her there and now she is upset I listened to her and didn't go. She is calling it a red flag in our relationship.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hp6UJWQHUdU9x5FXgt23DwbLKj6ck9wO", "post_id": "azndkc", "action": {"description": "cutting off my dad", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for cutting off my dad?", "text": "Mom had me as a teen and I was adopted by dad at 1 year old, didn't find out he was not my bio dad until after their divorce at 12. My dad sort of exited my life. He is a \"nice\" guy and when I see him hes hugs all over me and talks kindly, then I wont hear from him again for months. That is the manipulation. Its hard to recognize because of how nice he is. He never raised a hand or his voice to me growing up. Very mild tempered. He has held a grudge against me from when I was 11 years old. The day I told him I wanted to live with my grandma because he was depressed and would not give me any attention. Ever since I have heard from him very rarely. His balls are basically in his wife's pocket. Its his third wife and he wont risk losing another one, he does whatever she says. Im a single mom of two kids, 3 and 5. They rarely see him, he doesn't call them. When they used to visit my grandma he would drive by there and see them for 10 minutes. He would act like hes grandpa of the year. He didnt want them at his house...which was fine I knew they were babies and difficult to handle. After years of never asking for a favor, I told him I was invited on an amazing trip and it would be something for me to do on my own, and have a break. I am trying to plan for my kids to be taken care of for 8 days and giving everyone 2 months notice. I live 6 hours from family so I thought everyone would be looking forward to seeing the kids.  I asked my dad if he would like to have them for 2 nights over the weekend. He lives on a farm and I know they would love seeing the animals. He says he has to ask his wife and comes back with \"I want to see them but I cant spend my 2 nights off watching kids. It isn't fair to me or wife. They should be your priority and you cant just leave them for this amount of time. Watching them for a couple hours is one thing but the whole weekend is another. This isn't a break, its extreme\". I never ask him for anything. Its not the trip, I can take or leave the trip, its him making it seem like its such an annoying request. He said that he cant maintain a relationship with them because I live too far away. I said people live a distance from their grand kids all the time and make it a priority to talk to them. I am driving the kids there and picking them up. I ask for childcare maybe twice a year from my mom for 2 nights. AITA for cutting him off for good from our lives? Maybe I am being entitled and dont realize it. I know they are my responsibility and no one elses. I never thought asking for family help would feel so much like begging. You would think they would want to.\n\n​\n\nWant to mention he is holding a mini grudge against me for leaving my husband. I was emotionally and mentally abused and cheated on, but he blames me for tearing apart the kids family. He is projecting his past pain from my mom leaving him and the divorce hurting my brother and I onto me, and thinks I could have stayed for the kids sake.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Vkf6AYjP8jcQrHoJF5nKXoAnTq4n6SPY", "post_id": "avgxga", "action": {"description": "telling my neighbors to mind their own business and just do not give a shit about me", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my neighbors to mind their own business and just do not give a shit about me?", "text": "I have never got along with this woman. \n\nSo yeah. In my city they put some of the soccer player card in Doritos package. Me as a soccer fan love it. And I decided to buy ~40 package of Doritos today, for collecting purpose. \n\nWhen I brought them home, one of my neighbor saw it, stared at it, fleering looked at me, and the unwanted conversation started.\n\nNeighbor : \"You bought all of this? What a waste of money\"\nMe : \"I guess. But I spent my money for this, I did not spend yours so I guess you do not have the rights to judge me\"\nNeighbor : \"Hah, eat all of them and you will become an obese crap. I cannot imagine that anyone could swallow that much chips\"\nMe : \"Mind your own business and please do not give a shit about me. Me buying Doritos aint your business. It never was\"\n\nAnd some shit broke out. She told me that I was insolent (she is 15 years older than me) and I was disrespectful for saying so. \n\nAITA now? I guess I have the rights to decide where to spend my money and no one out of my family have the rights to judge it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "R1SyPOk7pmhT7TP2ZMksuA0f9KSFIcje", "post_id": "afyknk", "action": {"description": "trying to keep a super close eye on depressed suicidal step-daughter", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for trying to keep a super close eye on depressed suicidal step-daughter?", "text": "So I'm married with a couple of step-kids that live with their mom and I. The older kid is doing great, but the younger (14) has gotten involved in some pretty bad things in the past year, including some illegal activity, as well as self-harm including cutting. Additionally, on two different occasions last year, including as recently as November, she purposely overdosed on medication but (thank heavens) regretted it afterwards and let us know so we could get her to the hospital. We now keep all blades and medications locked up and out of reach. We have of course been getting her the best help we can afford for her, including solid counseling and psychiatry evaluation. Her psychiatrist believe that she is likely bi-polar.\n\nAfter the second attempt, I noticed the patterns that start to emerge from her when she's likely to cause harm to herself. She exhibits heavy depression, wears extra layers of makeup (and much darker makeup as well), refuses to talk about what's bothering her when asked, usually denying that anything's wrong, pushes everyone away, and attempts to withdraw into the bathroom or her bedroom for a long period of time. This also seems to occur more often around times that should be celebrated, like holidays and family birthdays. So, twice since November I've noticed things getting dark and heavy with her, and decided to go on suicide watch. I'm probably not the most skilled at this, I've never had previous exposure with suicidal people or had any training or anything of the sort. Also, there seem to be a lack of information online of what to do in these situations (other than the stuff we're already doing). So as far as I can tell, I should make sure that I or someone else should be able to see her at all times, including if she's in her room, the bathroom, etc. I know we've done our best to limit her access to self-harm tools, but I believe she's also smart enough to hide some stashes of things throughout our (unfortunately) cluttered house so she can self-harm if she wants. So when I've gone on suicide watch these two times, I allow her to still go anywhere she wants. I do make sure that I or some other family member (especially if she's going to the bathroom) has an eye on her at all times. This makes my step-daughter angry to no end, yelling, screaming about how she has no privacy.\n\nLast night was the second time and was particularly bad. She was trying very hard to lock herself off in her room. I started by trying to encourage her to come out and be with the family, letting her know we really wanted her company. She insisted that she was going to do laundry in her room. I told her that's fine, but I would need to be in there with her. She freaked out and kept trying to argue with me about it. She asked if her aunt (who was over at the time) could watch her instead, and I told her that's fine, but I would need to speak with the aunt first to give her some instructions (such as make sure you keep an eye on her even if she's in the bathroom, etc). Step-daughter would not go for this, freaked out more.\n\nWife came downstairs and tried to help. She tried to negotiate with step-daughter, saying she could just leave the door halfway open and that would be good enough and we would be down the hall and come check on her from time to time. Step-daughter would not budge insisting that she had every right to have her door fully closed and be all alone. I didn't agree with my wife on this because I feel like she only needs a few moments to find a tool and do self harm, but I kept quiet and let her try. Step-daughter wouldn't agree to any of wife's terms anyways.\n\nEventually I stepped in front of her bedroom door so she couldn't attempt to shut it on me and lock us out, and then she ran out of her room bawling and up the stairs. I tried following behind her and my wife grabbed my hand and told me \"don't\". I yanked my hand away and I followed step-daughter up the stairs. Step-daughter got to the top of the stairs, turned around and bolted back downstairs to her room, with me following all the way. She slammed the bedroom door shut but I got it open before she could lock it and held it open. She then started hitting me with her fists while bawling. At this point my wife grabbed her and held her and her aunt stepped in to help provide some comfort, and I left.\n\nI'm trying to do the right thing here. I want to be safe and am not interested in violating her privacy or restricting her in any way other than when she's most vulnerable to self-harm. But my other step-daughter, mother-in-law, and wife all had some negative feedback for me. Mother-in-law and other step-daughter say I was scary chasing after step-daughter the way I did. Wife believes step-daughter should have been allowed to run up the stairs alone and been given some room to grieve in complete privacy. I disagree because I believe she would have locked herself in the upstairs bathroom or another room and potentially found a way to hurt or kill herself in there. I suspect wife thinks that my suicide watch is overly controlling and is in fact having the wrong effect, in other words that I'm driving her to more likely self-harm. I don't know if she's right or not.\n\nI feel like I'm in crazy town. I feel like I'm the only one on board with doing what's necessary to keep her safe when she's at the low end of her cycle. If I'm the asshole, or even if I'm not, I want to know what I can do better because I very much do want my step-daughter to be safe. Would definitely love to hear from some professionals or other people experienced with these sort of situations.\n\nSo tell me, Reddit. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 11, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3KM4hG37KitPtxaBCXIVJ2yO7WQVhNs7", "post_id": "ak4ot9", "action": {"description": "throwing a girl out when she rejected me", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 43}, "title": "AITA for throwing a girl out when she rejected me?", "text": "So last night was gonna be a big night, I (M18) was gonna confess my feeling to my crush, and 1-year friend (f18), I had invited me over and... it went completely to shit, like unsalvageable, really. We had planned to hang out at my apartment since monday, and I was super hyped. Anyway, things went great, and I thought i had a the moment to confess my feelings... that's when the bad shit happened. \n\nShe said no, and went on about how I'm \"just not her type\", and that she's been crushing on another guy, and I just told her flat out to get out. She was abit confused, and seemed hurt that I told her so blatantly to get out, so I raised my voice and told her even more blatantly to get the *fuck* out of my apartment. The moment she left I completely blocked her on everythinng, and I just feel like shit, and that i've wasted so much fucking time on her, and don't want to talk to her anymore... But, I get the feeling that me throwing her out is gonna look bad, so what is it people, am I the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 43, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 43}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "SbT6riD5hnvB40nogsrQKOj3UO0RZBKr", "post_id": "akvkx3", "action": {"description": "\"untipping\" my hotel cleaning person", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for \"untipping\" my hotel cleaning person?", "text": "Okay, so I know this sounds bad but hear me out as I'm really uncomfortable about what just happened a few minutes ago.\n\nCurrently I live an extended stay hotel (between housing situations for a job). The hotel is very nice and has house cleaning every day. Laundry is  on the Tennants, so they provide quarter operated laundry downstairs.\n\nSince I'm still here for another two weeks, I got about $5-$10 (not sure of the exact amount, started with $10) worth of quarters and put them on my dresser.\n\nAfter work today, I returned home to a clean room. However, I also needed to do laundry. I went to the dresser to find that the quarters were no longer there. There was however a note saying \"thank you for the tip! I'm very greatful!\". I was a little shook as those quarters weren't intended as tip...\n\nI took the note and went downstairs because I wasn't sure what to do. The following conversation took place:\n\nMe: \"hey, so this is a little awkward because this person was so nice about it, but I had some quarters on my dresser for laundry and they aren't there anymore...\"\n\nFront desk (FD): \"oh, we're so sorry about that! (They really are nice people) how much was there?\"\n\nMe: \"I'm not sure of the exact amount, but it was between $5-$10\"\n\nFD: \"oh, well here's $10 of quarters to make up for it\"\n\nMe: \"... Oh, uh, thank you?\"\n\nThese people were too nice that I didn't really know how to respond except to accept the quarters. As I did, I realized that I might be an asshole by accepting it. Until...\n\nFD: \"Is that the note they left?\"\n\nMe: \"uhhh... Yeah, but I don't want to give you this if it'll get someone in trouble... Now that I think about it, it isn't that big of a deal...\" (The cleaning person signed their name on the note)\n\nFD: \"oh, it's fine, they won't be in trouble\"\n\nSo I just handed it over. The end.\n\nAs I walked back to my room, I kept thinking 'what the fuck was even the point of that? That person is definitely gonna get in trouble... Fuck, am I an asshole?'\n\nI bounced it off my friends and they said I should've just let them have it. But it was honestly like I was on autopilot because I had money taken from me without consent. My gf looked it up and said that tipping is customary. However, you usually leave a note saying that it was intended as tip.\n\nI know that cleaning services people get paid shit (worked in the industry, so I'm pretty aware) and they need those tips... I'm at a loss. So Reddit. Judge me. AITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JNz5d3dBPaRHRt14fO6jBgdTM9D5O2Q3", "post_id": "aq9m6p", "action": {"description": "yelling at my best friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for yelling at my best friend", "text": "So a little back story. I moved. And in my past place I had this best friend. Let\u2019s call him Bean. So I used to have a little crush on Bean. But I got over it and we eventually bonded over memes and jokes. Bean was super nice and cool and chill. We were best friends for AB two years until I moved. He promised we would definetly keep in touch! And I was like cool! Well we did keep in touch for a while. Like ab a couple months. And we would FaceTime. Well I would keep factiming him weekly like we were doing. But he wasn\u2019t answering. I thought nothing at first bc he was Busy and school was starting up again. But then weeks of no answer turned into months. Come to the present now and it\u2019s ab 4 months after Bean stopped talking with me. Well yesterday I texted him the following message:\nNOTE: I took some things out since it\u2019s personal\n\nWhy don\u2019t we talk anymore?\nIt\u2019s suppppeerrr weird hitting u up out of the blue. But like I was looking at my yearbook from last year and I was like. Omg we used to be good friends and whatever. And then I thought ab how we lost connection and that made me really sad. But I feel like it\u2019s my fault bc I never try to talk anymore. But no offense it\u2019s kinda your fault too. You never respond. And I know that sounds creepy. But like. You gotta understand that sometimes I feel like nobody cares . Only two people do. BLANK and BLANK It\u2019s like kinda weird since we were such good friends. And sometimes I\u2019ll think what ever happened. We used to hang out during school a lot. Now you won\u2019t even answer my calls or anything. When I look back I feel really sad. But then I feel angry. And it\u2019s weird to feel angry at my friends. I\u2019m used to being angry at my siblings but it\u2019s different. I\u2019m angry because it\u2019s heartbreaking that my best friend won\u2019t even talk with me anymore. And I\u2019m sad because I know I lost a friendship that meant a lot to me. If you know me you know I\u2019m dramatic and weird. But i don\u2019t think you know that no matter what i try and put so much effort into my friendships. If you don\u2019t want to talk to me anymore that\u2019s fine. Because I get that long distance friendships don\u2019t work out because nobody ever really talks anymore. But I ik that ur a cool dude. So bye lol sorry if this is random or whatever. Bye. \n\nHe didn\u2019t respond. But he read it\n\nSo my question is. AITA for getting mad like this. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KeVbFf3mVh7lepnpJSq3bV8EDjGPObCJ", "post_id": "b0f966", "action": {"description": "breakupping with my bf over someone else", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "WIBTA if I breakup with my bf over someone else.", "text": "My bf (23m) and I (21f) have been together for 2.5 yrs and love each other very much. We could have a viable future together, but lately, I have not been feeling it. I have met a new friend at work, lets call him Jim. Jim just seems to be better in every way compared to my bf. He is smarter, nicer, more fun, and really more attractive. Would I be an asshole to pursue Jim because he is better? My friends think that Jim would be a good catch. We seem to have a lot in common, and almost made out too. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fN9jha6YJ0rcYVYJ5BWce5QCn5SILxqp", "post_id": "9yugy5", "action": {"description": "not visiting my grandmother with Alzheimer's", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not visiting my grandmother with Alzheimer's", "text": "My 70 year old grandmother has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease over ten years ago. She has been in a nursing home for seven years now (my parents and I live abroad and couldn't take her in). My mom (her daughter) visits her anytime she can but my brother and I have stopped visiting her five years ago.\n\nThe reason being that the last couple of times we saw her she didn't recognise either of us, had no recollection of having grandkids, and (it's part of the disease) she was quite aggressive/weird with us. I stopped seeing her at the age of 17 because I felt like it wasn't the grandmother I knew anymore. She had forgotten who I was but I didn't want to *strain* the memory I have of her.\n\nOur parents always said they understood and respected our choice, especially since her condition has only gotten worse with time. She can't get of bed and only recognises my mom now. \n\nHowever, today my dad was looking through photos on his phone and showed me a picture of my grandmother in her nursing home bed and said *\"you guys are really not nice for not wanting to see her anymore.\"*\n\nIt might be considered unethical reasoning but I feel like our grandmother has been gone for a while but her body is still here... And I don't want my last memory of her to be of someone who doesn't recognise me and that I don't either. \n\nAre my brother and I the assholes for not going anymore?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Xlx5cS5T6XDNnmvk3VbSADH6Kif6MIH5", "post_id": "as928e", "action": {"description": "not wanting to put my child in preschool right now", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA: I don\u2019t want to put my child in preschool right now.", "text": "So, I need to give some background. \nI have a 4 year old son. \nHis dad and I were married until he was 3. His dad left me suddenly for another woman. They now live together and have a baby of their own. While we were together, his dad worked nights and I worked days as neither of us wanted to put our son in daycare and wanted to be around him as much as possible. It worked out well for us. \nNow we split custody 50/50. For one, because I still think he\u2019s a good dad and want him involved with our son, obviously. \nAnd for two, because I have to work a lot more now to be able to afford living on my own and supporting myself and my son while paying rent/car/bills. My ex and I have similar incomes so neither of us pay child support, though he recently got a new job and makes significantly more than I do, I believe. \n\nAnyway, him and his girlfriend are pushing for our son to be in preschool, which I agree would be good for him. \nHowever, I\u2019m doing this by myself while working full time and going to school full time. Not only do I not have the time to work with preschool schedules (middle of the day Tues&Thurs) which are the same days I have class, but I also don\u2019t want to sacrifice the time I have with my son right now. (Not to say preschool isn\u2019t important I just already miss him due to the 50/50 schedule, work, and college)\nI completely acknowledge those might be selfish reasons, but I seriously don\u2019t know how I would bring/pick him up to preschool while I\u2019m working... I work an hour away. My family helps watch him while I work but I bring him to them, as my parents don\u2019t drive. So they couldn\u2019t help me with this. \n\nMy thoughts are he will be in kindergarten this fall already. I will be done with school then. My schedule will be a lot more open, I should be able to work less as I\u2019ll be making more, and can better work with the school schedule. \nI\u2019ve spoken to his dad about my concerns/issues, and he says I\u2019m being a bad parent and how could I not want our son in preschool? I just don\u2019t know how I would do it...\n\nSo AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "w4D3FuN5PICuPmfYjoS7BuYlTfVeRHlK", "post_id": "b1fjl0", "action": {"description": "telling her she should respect me more", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA if I tell her she should respect me more?", "text": "I have done so much for this friend of mine. I\u2019ve supported her in every way I can think of. I confessed to her a while ago that I had derp feelings for her, but she said she wasn\u2019t ready for a relationship. Even after that I still wanted to be friends.\n\nBut I can\u2019t help but feel like she takes advantage of me. She never really shows me any kindness. And she generally speaks pretty disrespectfully to me. Last night after what she said I just don\u2019t think I can take any more. (She was telling me all about a guy she was with and I couldn\u2019t stop thinking \u201cI don\u2019t want to hear this!\u201d)\n\nI just want to point out to her all of the things I do for her, and let her know if she doesn\u2019t show me she values our relationship that maybe we shouldn\u2019t be friends anymore, But I don\u2019t know if I can actually do it because I\u2019m afraid I\u2019d BTA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 3}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "QGvDHmh87slPGQa0u3zjpf8q75pB7FWl", "post_id": "aq3rz2", "action": null, "title": "AITA to my noisy neighbors?", "text": "My roommate and I moved into an apartment complex around Thanksgiving of last year. I had stressed the importance of getting a 2nd story unit as I had heard reviews saying that the insulation between floors was awful. Unfortunately due to improper communication on the managements front we were stuck into a first floor unit. And it is as every bit bad as the reviews stated.\n\nThe first few nights of being there our upstairs neighbors would have their young child up and running around the unit until around 2-3am in the morning. Every footfall sounded like a hammer on our ceiling. I tried using my fan on a higher setting and putting in ear-plugs to dampen the noise. And unfortunately, it didn't do anything. I would just have to wait out the noise to go to sleep. \n\nI wanted to give our neighbors the benefit of a doubt, in that they probably had no idea how poorly insulated the units were. At this point, it was nearing the holidays so I had bought some cards and candy and thought to write them a friendly note. I delivered it to their door with some candies before work. It read like this:\n\"Dear upstairs neighbors,\n\nI don't know if you're aware of this, but unfortunately, our building's floors and ceilings are not well sound-proofed. For the most part, everything has been okay. However, there have been quite a few times where we have been disturbed and interupted while sleeping from the little tyke running and playing into the wee hours of the morning. We would appreciate if you would please take this into account.\nIf you have any questions or concerns we wouldn't mind meeting, We'd also like the chance to get to know you better\ud83d\ude0a!\"\n\nThe next few nights had been hit or miss, but enough that I thought they were trying. A week or so passes and I step outside and see someone had left their stroller next to the stairs of our connected units. It was pretty cold and wet out, and thought it would be frustrating for the owner to come out to a frozen or at the very least, soaked stroller. I felt incredibly nervous to but I walked up the stairs to see if it was theirs. I knocked on the door a couple of times to no answer. As I was headed back out to the parking lot I heard someone open a door. It was one of the neighbors. I stopped to say hello and mentioned why I had knocked on the door.  Once she figured out I was the neighbor underneath her unit she admitted that things could get loud since her husband came home late from work and that her child was up and down all night. I exclaimed that I really appreciated what they were doing and understood that young children could be up and down all night and that it was probably more the poor sound-proofing than anything. \nNot even two days later, I'm ringing customers out at work and lo and behold my neighbors come through my line. I didn't even realize it until the woman recognized me. She made a point to emphasize that they had left their daughter at home, which I thought was odd. Once she had been cashed out her husband walks over and asks if I was the one who wrote the note. I said I was. to which he asked me again a couple more times, slightly more aggressively each time. The Woman asked me if I had children in a way that made me unsure if she meant\n\"We heard strange noises from your apartment that sounded like cihldren.\"\n\t\t\t\tor\n\"How dare you judge us and tell us what to do since we have children and you don't\"\nAt the time I read it as the first and told them that I had a cat that occasionally knocked things over to get attention during the day and had a high pitched meow.\nBut to the second more likely interpretation, I have no intent on judging them for having children. I just wanted to let them know what could be heard from downstairs, in as polite a way as possible.\nThey had a pretty loud argument that night and its taken a couple more talks since then to get the noise settled down by midnight.\nTL;DR:  AITA for asking our neighbors to quiet down?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hOrwpSjbwe9Hz0rk1dleg8f2bRPJ6aPW", "post_id": "ay62eb", "action": {"description": "learning german with my girlfriend and", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA - I was learning German with my girlfriend and...", "text": "So, recently I was learning german with my girlfriend through an app ( we both speak portuguese natively ).\nAt some point, she started to make some strange pitches with her voice to pronounce some words.\nI thought she was joking to me and asked why she was doing that, because it was funny.\nShe said nothing, and become quiet. \nAfter sometime, I was practicing alone and asked her if she was angry with me, and she said \"I'm just disappointed\" and made an imitation of me saying \"why are you doing that\".\nI tried to explain that it was an innocent joke and have no intent in making fun on her, but she continued upset.\nThan I said to her that learning a new language involves making mistakes, and she knows that I won't never do anything to make her ashamed by her errors.\nI said that I am nothing better than her in german, and if she doesn't want to study with me anymore, that's OK then.\nI thought that attitude a bit childish, because I don't know how she will learn a new language acting like this.\nSo, Am I The Asshole ?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wkL76NsS919rf7zWYcGpZErxie0nBtMe", "post_id": "ajthyk", "action": {"description": "not switching movie night", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not switching movie night?", "text": "I have joint custody of my kids and every other Friday night we all watch a movie together. We don't watch TV during the week so to them it's a big deal and its usually just me and my kids. We invited my partner this time. She often has severe exhaustion due to an illness and is unable to leave the house for a day or two. Today she's exhausted and it's in her best interest not to come tonight so she asked if I could switch it to tomorrow night instead. I said no, it's movie night and they've been looking forward to it for a while. She said I was being \"...exclusionary and stubborn.\" I said \"this isn't as big as that, just say you can't make it and I'll say that sucks we'll miss you.\" I feel like I'm the asshole for not changing it. Nobody misses out if I change it.\n\nI honestly done care what day we do this. I haven't talked to my kids yet. If they're cool with changing it then we have something else to do.\n\nDammit I'm the asshole.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ISvE6gkxGIwrQo4GQD1nFQ6It1V2kvc1", "post_id": "axo66h", "action": {"description": "not wanting to ask for permission to visit my Father", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Not Wanting To Ask For Permission To Visit My Father?", "text": "I am 18 years old, and I still live with my mother and her husband. Ever since I was 2, I've only been able to visit my father during the weekends. And when I was 15, my father made a rule that I had to let him know whether or not I'd visit him instead of my mother doing so (this is because she has a bad habit of making last minute plan changes).\n\nEver since this rule came about, I've had to ask my mother for permission to visit my father. I understand being required to let her know where I am and for how long, but that's not the same as permission.\n\nThe way my mother views permission is her having the ability to control my life however she wants. I know this because she's tried to manipulate me my entire life (ranging from siding with her to getting information out of people who wouldn't normally give said info to her).\n\nBecause of this, and because I'm 18 and my father is 'freed' from my mother's curse of child support, I feel as though I shouldn't be required to ask for permission to visit my father.\n\nAm I wrong? Or just an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "53PwzK38bsTaDmSZZPbQkEvD3hvOXITD", "post_id": "9v0msf", "action": {"description": "not tipping when I pick up a take out order", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not tipping when I pick up a take out order?", "text": "When I call in a take out order and go pick it up myself, I don't tip.  I have gotten a few scoffs and dirty looks from the person working the register.  I feel as though I am doing the work.  You did not serve me, you did not deliver it to me, why would I tip you?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tEpqSfQUSCT7NC6fIEUoetPLLHKr3u1c", "post_id": "a0eipb", "action": {"description": "not wanting to stay at my mother-in-laws", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to stay at my mother-in-laws", "text": "My wife, my son (1yr), and I are going home for Christmas for three nights. One night at her mothers one at my fathers then at my own mothers. Now her mother was fairly abusive and manipulative to her, she would hit her every so often and they had a very aggressive relationship with a lot of screaming at each other and her mother making her cry. She was even kicked out and had to live with my dad after the baby was born. They (wife\u2019s family) do drugs at her house, the house is smelly and often times has animal feces or urine on the floor. I don\u2019t feel comfortable staying the night their especially not with our son, she insist that we have to stay there for a night and she does love her mother since it\u2019s all she has back home. I get it but I get anxiety just thinking about it. How can I convince her to at least let me and the baby not stay the night, I\u2019m fine with just visiting. I am in the military and don\u2019t want to be around drugs, or the type of people her mother has around. My family is clean and they drink but that\u2019s about it we all have a good relationship with them so that\u2019s not an issue staying their for either of us, but she still wants to stay one night at her mothers. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wNFBLJIJbaDkOfPCqJdQvCPwfOBOdL1M", "post_id": "9yirew", "action": {"description": "being pissed at my boyfriend's lack of effort", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being pissed at my boyfriend's lack of effort", "text": "Okay, so let's set the scene a bit. I have been with my boyfriend since March 13th, 2015. That means this will be the 5th year we've celebrated our birthdays as couples. He's October 28th, I'm November 26th. I always plan the fun stuff for his birthday, and my birthday... Always falls flat. \n\nLike this most recent birthday, he turned 19. I planned a nice day together, we went to one of his favorite restaurants, I paid, all that jazz. It was a low-key day, but it was nice. \n\nThis year, I'm turning 20. My birthday is on a school day so I'm busy all day, and a month ago I told him to pick the day before or the day after. I'd spend the other day with my family.\n\nIt's a week before and he hasn't even chosen a day. I asked him this morning and he said he hadn't asked for either day off, which he has had plenty of time to do. \n\nThis lets me know he has no plans for the day. He'll do what he always does, and tell me \"it's your day, we'll do whatever you want\" so he won't have to plan anything or make any actual decisions. \n\nAn I am asshole for expensing something more? I'm not asking for a trip to France, but him just planning dinner and a movie or something would be more than enough. I don't need presents, I don't need anything fancy. Just a plan, that he's thought out, something to show me he's put some thought into my birthday. McDonald's and a nice note written on the back of a receipt and I'm happy really. \n\nI just want him to try.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xUqkgR5LOsDO2J56NL2OjM03qAAKWgAL", "post_id": "agy95w", "action": {"description": "telling my best friend that she shouldn't be friends with an ex friend of ours again", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my best friend that she shouldn't be friends with an ex friend of ours again?", "text": "First off I know she can be friends with anyone she wants. Now onto this long story.\n\nSo my best friend and I were close friends with this other girl. In the summer of 2017 she got a new neighbor a grade ahead of us. Let's call him C. We all met C and he joined our friend group and at the end of the summer he and our close friend started dating. I never really liked C he gave me a bad vibe but I hung out with him because all my other friends did. \n\nA couple months later they broke up. And hated eachother and couldnt be around eachother.\n\n During the break up we weren't friends with C's now ex. Around December we became friends with her again. \n\nIn January it was revealed that I didnt trust C and he said we couldnt be friends which I was okay with. He was still friends with my best friend. A couple weeks later he decided he couldn't be friends with my best friend because she was friends with his ex. He told her this over text in a dramatic \"I just cant...\" shit and it broke her heart.  A couple weeks later he texted us and begged for our forgiveness which I immediately declined due to him hurting my best friend so badly. She gladly exepted even though I suggested he shouldn't. A month later him and his ex threw allegations at eachother and both of them made her choose a side.\n A couple days later he pulled the same shit as last time and ended it over text with the same dramatic shit pretending he was the victim. Again my best friend was heartbroken. Now to this day it still affects her because she never got closure. We are thinking of seeking closer from him to help her out because she misses him. \n\nNow she does confront him I would be there with her for emotional support and try to keep herself from forgiving him. Even though she asked me to I know her and she is gonna get extremely mad at me for trying and no matter what I will be there for her. But if I do prevent her from becoming friends with her would I be an asshole because she loves and misses him?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "WhOBCmJPMNxayEoE5HQitf4sD67MSBBi", "post_id": "ad7yqo", "action": {"description": "not wanting to fully support my pregnant friend", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to fully support my pregnant friend?", "text": "This hasn\u2019t been discussed with my best friend just yet (if someone could suggest a \u201cWill I Be An Asshole If\u201d that would be great) but here it goes. And I guess it\u2019s possible IATA if I\u2019m already thinking it.\n\nTL;DR- Constantly clingy friend has been smothering me. Contemplated telling her to stop it. While brainstorming points and considering factors on how to break this news in the most frank but sensitive way, clingy friend calls immediately to tell me she\u2019s pregnant. Keeps saying things over and over again how I need to be there, guide her, and without context.\n\nFull version:\n\nMy best friend has been awfully clingy lately. So much I\u2019ve gone out of my way to do favors for her, do whatever she wants, etc. She is grateful for the time spent and sometimes makes up for it by buying a gift as a token of appreciation but I\u2019m usually wiped out before she asks for favors the next day. She\u2019ll often point out how much I do for her too or tell others how I\u2019d practically die for her. It\u2019s strange..\n\nMy best friend will call me sometimes in the middle of the work week and ask if I have plans over the weekend. I love the advanced notice instead of springing news on me within 30 min. Before something\u2019s happening; but because I feel smothered as it is I\u2019m either trying to find an excuse to get out of a pre-invite, be stupidly honest and say nothing to where then she excitedly makes a schedule for US, or I tell her we actually do have plans with family or friends.\nBut it never fails.. the weekend rolls around and my phone will ding me at least three times a day \u201cWhat are you up to now?\u201d \u201cIs your family gone?\u201d \u201cAre you home now from the movies?\u201d \u201cCan I come over and show my husband your new guest room?\u201d \u201cOkay then but can you come over instead perhaps, like, immediately?\u201d\nMy husband is starting to find this behavior annoying and he shakes his head in disappointment at me if I can\u2019t bare to firmly say, \u2018No\u2019 because I\u2019m nervous to hurt her feelings or have a big blow up over it as we have had before 6 years ago.... calling me a bad friend because I never go out of my way to invite her over or do stuff. I just hope things are different now.\n\nAfter some Reddit advice and consideration, I start to brainstorm how to tell my friend I need space. That I love her, and will always be, but I feel sick. And sometimes my feelings are important and I need time alone to recharge, including the stressful texts. I try to ease my mind and settle down by doing some laundry when my phone blows up again. She\u2019s calling.\n\nI answer it and think she\u2019s hurt because she\u2019s frantic and crying. Instead, she\u2019s just announced she is pregnant. I\u2019m honestly a little floored but still congratulate her and tell her it\u2019s okay to cry and have mixed emotions as it\u2019s a big thing. Before she can hang up to go tell her husband as he\u2019s walking in the door, she cuts me off, \u201cPROMISE ME YOULL BE THERE.\u201d I answer \u201cSure.\u201d Not really know what the heck that means. She says it again, \u201cNo, I\u2019m serious. I need to know if you\u2019re fully invested in this because I can\u2019t do this alone. Promise me you\u2019ll be there and stick through this, on my side\u2014gotta go!\u201d And hangs up.\n\nWhat does that even mean?...\n\nShe texts me five minutes later, \u201cCome over right now?\u201d\n\nI say no. I can\u2019t. (A lie, although I am doing my bedding and it\u2019s 7pm, I haven\u2019t had dinner yet)\n\nShe texts me back, \u201cWhat can I eat?\u201d\n\nI respond, \u201cY\u2019know... Considering your pregnant now you\u2019re really going to have to do some research on x , y , z and know for yourself what you may like, the baby won\u2019t. Stay away from the most commonly known bad food for pregnancies (caffeine, liquor, fish with high mercury, etc).\u201d\n\nShe\u2019s texted me back an hour later, \u201cYou swear you\u2019ll help me right? Im panicking. I need you.\u201d\n\nBut help with what?!? I\u2019m not a professional, a doctor, an OBGYN, a nutritionist, a trainer, I\u2019m not her husband, her mom, her doula, nor will I pay money to buy things as I have my own finances to worry about and I have to save up. (She\u2019s seen things at stores and randomly asks me to buy them for her, even before pregnancy).  It\u2019s not like I don\u2019t have a choice as I\u2019m not the one who\u2019s pregnant and it\u2019s not my kid/responsibility.\n\nSo reddit, before this goes down possibly horribly because I don\u2019t know how she\u2019ll react, AITA for not wanting to be there 100% of the time she\u2019s pregnant or needs my help\u2014or whatever it is she means? I have a life too.\n(I\u2019m sure in our discussion I will ask her to specify her needs and what I can and cannot do for her.)\nI can assure you I will tell her I still love her.. and remain good friends.. but I can\u2019t hold her hand the whole way. I don\u2019t have kids and don\u2019t want any still for a few more years. I am the last of my girl friends to ever conceive and I\u2019ve been useful and helpful in ways but not there all the time.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oDOpvpO9pQewZ4Y8RlndY92KnEBHiSYS", "post_id": "a8mbdd", "action": {"description": "my siblings missing our mother's funeral", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for my siblings missing our mother's funeral?", "text": "Two days ago was my mother's funeral. My (28M) sister (27F) and brother (23M) did not go.\n\nMy sister and her husband are 350lb each. They make more money in benefits per month than I do at my career job. Something to the tune of $4,000 a month they receive and they squander it every month. They live only 30 minutes away and asked me to bring them. I told them I couldn't, there's not enough room with my wife, myself, my daughter, and two people who would take up the backseat on their own in my dinky sedan. I told them they have more than enough money (provided they didn't blow this month's benefits) to get transport. They refused and said they would not go if I didn't bring them. I didn't.\n\nMy brother lives 3 hours a way. He's pretty destitute going from couch to couch with his girlfriend. He has never held a job but is too \"prideful\" for benefits. He relies on the generosity of others for the most part, although his girlfriend works part-time in fast food. He originally asked me to come get him but instead I offered to front him the $120 train ticket. This was last week, and a day before the funeral he said he needed it for his cellphone bill and to send him another $120. I didn't.\n\nSo neither went. I was the only child who went, alongside cousins, aunts and uncles, etc. At the end of it, a group of my aunts pulled me aside and said I was a complete jerk for not ensuring my siblings were there, as if I'm fully responsible for them being here.\n\nAITA in this scenario? Technically I could have dropped my wife and kid off and then picked up my sister and her husband, and technically I could have sent my brother more money to come. I didn't, though.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TI5qkSsPvr0dOeOGNQ4EdtRNBv0OxTRY", "post_id": "a1q1gm", "action": {"description": "ignoring this person", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for ignoring this person?", "text": "I usually hate being ignored (who doesn't) and always politely tell people the truth. \n\nA while ago I saw a post, more of a rant someone made. I agreed with them and we had a nice discussion. I later asked them for their game username so we can play together. I didn't go on reddit for maybe 2 or more days and when I checked it, I had about 4 or 5 messages from the same person. One of them was a really long one, giving me advice based on my post history.\n\nI always found it creepy when people go through my post history. A summary of what subreddits I'm active in seems fine but I got a bit weirded out how many posts they read.\n\nI actually intended to add them so we can play and talk but this seems too much. I can't help but feel like an asshole for ignoring someone.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nvmEjARbrGbfAI2abXqqfIqEqbi15o7k", "post_id": "astdc5", "action": {"description": "wanting to be protected by my friends", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For wanting to be protected by my friends", "text": "My group of friends have a member of it who has a grudge against me, Every time I talk just getting dirty looks and online telling me to fuck off after every thing I say. He's told mutual friends that he beat me up and various other stupid lies to try and turn others against me. I've begun to push my friends away because I don't want to be with this person and personally I think that due to the fact it's just him being a dick the least they could do is tell him to knock it off but they're apathetic and just say he's like this with everyone or other dumb excuses like it's just to you so they don't want to do anything. Am I correct in desiring he gets some comeback or AITA for pushing away my friends due to this.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BVOLrBRVSi8W6WKDibAH4t3TF3aAnPdQ", "post_id": "al52g6", "action": {"description": "slapping someone on my phone", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for slapping someone on my phone?", "text": "Okay so I was having a really tough day at school. Nothing wrong in particular, but just really bad. It was almost the end of school and this girl I will call her b because I don\u2019t want to use her real name, was on my phone taking pictures. B never asked and I don\u2019t like people being on my phone, it\u2019s rude and intruding. I see her, run and slap the back of her head hard (I know I shouldn\u2019t have, but I didn\u2019t think before i after and it was my fault for making her mad I will admit). She gets mad and starts yelling at me \u201cyou\u2019re lucky I like you\u201d and then proceeds to push me into the ground. This was all in front of the teacher and she was going to write a report on it. I don\u2019t know which one did worse, but I\u2019m currently crying while reading this just because I don\u2019t wanna bottle up emotions and I always tell myself to never let people get to me, but it is and I don\u2019t know if I should feel sorry or feel bad. Help please. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "TwgJa2IXdS2wPjoHXKTTaJJIOAITDxnI", "post_id": "b7k7za", "action": {"description": "not going go friends Hen party", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For not going go friends Hen party?", "text": "Backstory is that I\u2019ve known friend (we\u2019ll call her \u201cJANE\u201d) for 2 years. During the second year of friendship Jane met \u201cJOHN\u201d whom she got pregnant to, got engaged too and now they are getting married next week. We ended up having babies about a month apart which brought us back to chatting and being friends.\n\nThe old Jane (1+ yrs ago) used to ask me to do things for her CONSTANTLY. Basically at the time the friendship was her using me to look after he animals all the time at her home she was \u201crenovating\u201d, while she was off in another town with John, going to parties etc. I stopped all contact with her and basically ended the friendship. She reached out to me 3 months ago after seeing I had given birth to my son just a month after she had given birth to her own. I was happy to give it another go, thinking things might be different since shes become a mother.\n\nOk so...\n\nJane about three days before her Hens party invited me when to tag along. She had organized go karting, drinks and dinner. I said I might be able to go depending on my 3 month old son. \n\nJane said she was just going to drink and still breastfeed her 4 month old and that \u201cif you\u2019re ok to drive then you\u2019re ok to feed\u201d. \n\nThe day before said Hens, she asked me if I was coming and I said no. I truthfully said my son was cluster feeding and that I was unable to pump enough milk to go out and drink/to be away from him for hours.\n\nJane bombarded me with messages saying the following;\n\n- come out but don\u2019t drink\n- i\u2019ll give you some of my breastmilk\n- just bring him along\n- just at least call in then (venue is an hour away from me)\n\nI was so overwhelmed that I said I would pump and see how I got on and MIGHT call in but that I also might not. \n\nNeedless to say I didn\u2019t get on very well with pumping and decided to stay home. I didn\u2019t feel safe taking my baby out to a pub/club and being around heavily intoxicated people, so I didn\u2019t want to \u201cjust call in\u201d either. Secondly I just feel that my partying days have passed and I\u2019m not into getting wasted anymore. \n\nSo day of hens party I got sidetracked when family came to visit, house work, grocery shopping, baby stuff etc that when she messaged me the place they were going to for drinks and dinner, I didn\u2019t end up messaging her back. \n\nToday was the day after the hens party and I woke up, saw the message again and thought oh i will ask her out to lunch at this nice place to make up for me not going and that it would be more suitable as i can bring baby and she can bring her baby too.\n\nJane asked me to call and then she rang and she proceeded to say she doesn\u2019t think the friendships working out, why didn\u2019t I respond or turn up, doesn\u2019t think we should be friends anymore etc etc. I explained that my baby\u2019s needs come first and I couldn\u2019t go and that I had said that to her and she still insisted I turn up, etc but she ended up just hanging up mid phone call and blocking me on all social media (her partner also blocked me too).", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3qh8NHyQjWTX1kts4RYEtA45M8QG5wKG", "post_id": "axgmi2", "action": {"description": "dumping my gf because she couldn't decide between me or her friend", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For dumping my GF because she couldn't decide between me or her friend?", "text": "Throwaway because, well... you know.\n\nTL;DR Below\n\nI typed this out a couple of times because I felt the context was really important, but it gets way too big... so feel free to INFO if you feel like this isn't detailed enough.\n\nMe(T)22 and my Ex(D)20 were together for about 4 years.\n\nBefore D and I got together she was in a very emotionally, and physically abusive, and sexually coercive relationship with a Guy we'll call M. It took about a year's worth of love and therapy, at the end of which we got together, to get her out of the deep depression she was in after he dumped her.\n\nWhen started Dating, M suddenly took interest in D again, he continuously pestered her to be friends with him (which I was adamantly against. Might sound controlling of me, but after learning the kinds of things he did to D and other girls I just couldn't allow him to be near her). After 2 years of this D agreed to be friends with him - D's therapist WHO KNEW THE THINGS HE DID advised that D befriend him as a means of \"letting go\" of the past and forgiving him.\n\nI voiced my objections to this the moment I found out, but eventually accepted it because it was what D felt she wanted. \n\nOver the course of the next 2 years, D would get increasingly flirty vibes from M(late night Texts, long hugs, surprise kisses on the cheek, etc), and even though I wanted and should have told him off (or beat the shit out of him) - D would tell me not to, and that I should trust her transparency about it and just ignore him - so I went along with it. That was until I found out M was getting way too flirty with D and was driving her down and away from her life goals that she had been working so hard towards - after and incident where M confessed he still loved D and kissed her when she was in no position to resist (I was not there at the time, but her friends were and did nothing to help her), we talked about how D needed to stop interacting with M - She surprisingly agreed to that, and was realizing how toxic M was to her and her future. \n\nA month or so later I found out that they were still hanging out and doing things that might not have been cheating, but were definitely not good for our relationship and her mental health.\n\nI confronted D about lying to me, and told her that she needs to stop seeing him or its over between us - to which, and I quote, she said \"I can't decide which one of you I love more\"... I told her things were over between us the moment I heard that.\n\nSince then I've been getting texts from her friends calling me an asshole and saying how much they always hated me. I also learned that D has been hanging out with M to cope with apparently the worst thing to ever happen to her, which was me... I honestly feel like I made the right choice, but I'm starting to question myself.... so AITA?\n\nTL;DR - I dumped my now ex because she continued hanging out with her friend who was her extremely abusive Ex, even after she promised she wouldn't.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FmWypyPziCd4AXNmO2YjRPhNXv8jYY40", "post_id": "a8vhng", "action": {"description": "wanting to leave my girlfriend and telling her she's acting like a child", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for wanting to leave my girlfriend and telling her she\u2019s acting like a child?", "text": "My girlfriend (she\u2019s 20) and I (M 22) have been together for 5 years and just recently moved in together about 6 months ago. Lately her attitude with everything has just been awful. We both work and go to school, everyday she complains about how her life is bullshit and everything sucks in her life and will cry. I get it though, life is hard at our age but I tell her all the time \u201cit\u2019ll get better, we are just young, we have to finish school first, it\u2019s just a stupid part time retail job it\u2019s gonna suck\u201d. Usually I\u2019m ok with it even though it happens 90% she comes home from work or school and talks about how her life is bullshit. Last night though i feel like is the last straw. We live in a lower level of my GFs moms house ( we have a kitchen, living room, two bedroom and we can also block off the upstairs with door if we really wanted too. It\u2019s exactly like an apartment). My GF, her brother, and I wanted to get drunk and have a good time, but I bought us vodka and she got upset that I didn\u2019t buy wine. She went on her rant about how her life is \u201cbullshit, life sucks, why did it have to happen to me\u201d. She went upstairs and complained to her mother and her mother went out and got wine for her. After a bit of drinking she went in the showered and cried. When I went in to talk to her she just told me to get out. I don\u2019t think I said anything to her. Last I remember we were all drinking and watching tv, but I could be wrong and made her cry I don\u2019t remember. I want to tell her that I don\u2019t want to be with someone who has such a negative attitude and acts like s child when something doesn\u2019t go her way. WAITA if I said that to her?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xXYb0zMPrrbb4lmzRbZ8FEM6GMk4SXnO", "post_id": "anwgit", "action": {"description": "not letting my friend donate a kidney to me", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA For not letting my friend donate a kidney to me", "text": " I have a rare autoimmune kidney disease that recently progressed to the point of end stage renal failure. I'm in the process of getting evaluated for a transplant, and my first appointment with the transplant centre is next week. After this, any potential donors can come forward and offer to be tested for a living donor transplant. The plan right now is for just my parents to be tested.\n\n  One of my friends is adamant that she wants to be tested to see if she's a match, and if she is a match she wants to be the one to give me a kidney. She's an extremely stubborn and driven individual and has very firmly made her mind up on this. We also know already that we're a blood type match, so there is a solid chance that she would be a potential donor. \n\n  The thing is, I don't like the idea of her donating for a couple of reasons. First off, the condition I have has a high rate of reoccurrance in transplants, so theres a strong chance (between 30 and 50%) that my body will wreck a new kidney and I'll be back in renal failure in a couple of years at best, so she could just be wasting her kidney on me. Secondly, it's a really invasive procedure with a long recovery time, and I know she wants to go travelling and explore the world, and I don't want to be the thing that holds her back from that. \n\n  A couple of my friends and family don't see things from my side and think I'm either being too stubborn to accept help, or too pessimistic about my outlook if I do get a transplant, and think I should let my friend get tested. We've also argued a couple of times over the situation and she thinks I'm being unreasonable. \n\nI get final say over who is allowed get tested, so WIBTA if I refused to allow my friend to get tested? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jRZuqOc7rqpHDytHWkSAViZbF1ZZ7RNE", "post_id": "ao7996", "action": {"description": "doubting my girlfriend's \"intolerances\"", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 61}, "title": "AITA for doubting my girlfriend\u2019s \u201cintolerances\u201d?", "text": "So my gf of 7 months has gluten intolerance, lactose intolerance and sugar intolerance. As far as I know, this is incredibly rare. Ever since I found out, I\u2019ve been skeptical. I\u2019ve heard stories about mothers who deliberately decide that their daughter is \u201cintolerant\u201d of gluten, lactose etc when in reality, they\u2019re completely fine.\n\nRecently, I\u2019ve been probing it a bit more. Trying to urge her to try gluten again or try some milk and see if she can digest it again. (She used to have gluten and lactose as a child and has somehow \u201cdeveloped\u201d these conditions) I think it would be fantastic if she could eat these things again because it really restricts her diet.\n\nSome friends have suggested giving her food with gluten or lactose and seeing how she reacts to it but I think that is crossing a line of trust that I don\u2019t want to try. \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 61, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 61}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "bMaa8A4NAdaGNiXCk6wzlFHmKjKzjVFN", "post_id": "aipso3", "action": {"description": "flipping out at my roommate for paying rent late consistently, among other things", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for flipping out at my roommate for paying rent late consistently, among other things.", "text": "The apartment I rent takes checks still (weird right). The manager usually takes the money out of the bank 1.5-2 weeks after it is due on the first of the month. This was always a nice buffer, in the beginning. We've had our difficulties and struggles to make enough money through changing jobs. I was unemployed for eight months while studying for a new career path and needed a lot of help from my parents. My roommate helped me here and there by buying food, and holding enough money on two occasions until the money was about to come out since my parents weren't always ready to give me rent money (I felt awful asking for money, so I waited usually).\n\n​\n\nAfter this rough time, I scored a very high paying job and spent the next few months catching up as fast as I could. Everything I owed to anyone was paid back. My roommate hated the job he had, and I offered to help out as he switched jobs. That's when the shit started.\n\n​\n\nHe became very quiet about money in general, and made it extremely weird asking for money for bills, saying shit like \"just because you make more money doesn't mean I'm ready to pay for things\". I helped him with rent month after month, and added up everything I helped with on a spreadsheet. I knew he was struggling and I wanted to be helpful, but also wanted accountability on his part. Each month, the first would come and go and he wouldn't say a word, no rent money, nothing. I'd have to keep an extra $500 of my money sitting in my account so the checks would go through, and some months I'd have to ask where rent was and he would suddenly come up with excuses why he could only pay a portion. Up and up the money he owed me stacked. Utilities? He didn't bother asking what it was, and didn't pay until I asked. \n\n​\n\nOne morning when I woke up to $10 in my bank account, I lost it. He was working, so I texted him a long message about how I expected rent NOW, and how I didn't understand how he never has money even though I'm fully aware of how much money he makes. He pulled the \"but I helped you when you needed it\" card, like I owed him for it. I shot back with how I paid everything back, and I didn't use help more than a handful of times. Overall I felt justified because month after month I was covering his rent, and not always getting it back in full, or at all. \n\n​\n\nSince this happened, he showed me all his bills and income, and I turned the tables by making him use his account. I subtract utilities from the rent I pay him and it's working well so far. But sometimes I wonder if I was making an ass of myself bitching him out when he was still struggling.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oi0FF7aRO3jJKjF5KrPtqC9ZTriP8u8R", "post_id": "avhr4c", "action": {"description": "wanting my ex to pay his half of rent but move in with his parents", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for wanting my ex to pay his half of rent but move in with his parents?", "text": "  \n\nI (26F) have been with my now ex-bf (22M) for 2 years. Everything was fine until 3 weeks ago when I got a FB message from a girl that was screenshots of their conversation. He created a fake Insta account messaging her telling her how gorgeous she is, etc. Note, this is not the first time this happened. So I confront him, he denies it, I have proof, he lies, I tell him he has to leave, he does. A few days pass and we talk about what happened; he said he had been suppressing stuff that made him unhappy. Well, this is the SAME reason he reached out to a girl the first time. At this point, I am SO mad that he would throw away our relationship over simply not coming to me and communicating \u201cHey, my feelings are hurt over X, Y and Z.\u201d and then we can talk, fix it and be happy again. I am willing to work through this and make us work again. He says he needs his time.\n\nWe met up after a 1.5 weeks, he says the same thing; he needs more time to figure himself out. So I ask him upfront, are there any other girls in the picture? He tells me straight up, no. He isn\u2019t interested, doesn\u2019t want anything to do with girls, just wants to be alone and figure himself out. He asks me for another week of time and asks me to wait for him. I oblige. Monday rolls around, he texts me wanting to get back together. He makes plans to pack up his stuff (he\u2019s been staying at a friend\u2019s who\u2019s lease is up March 1st) and come home today.\n\nDuring our time apart, through mutual friends, I saw him drunk at a club. So I tell him I need to know if anything happened. He said yes, he had a one night stand. I am devastated. We had been apart for less than 2 weeks when he hooked up with a girl during the extra week that HE requested while asking me to wait for him. At this point, I am broken and furious. I tell him he can\u2019t come back and I don\u2019t want to work things out. He tells me he\u2019s moving back in anyway. I ask him to move in with his parents which would be free and he refuses. He says he can\u2019t afford two rents for his own place and he refuses to pay for a place that he can\u2019t live in. I am crushed; all I want is to move forward with my life and be able to get over him but I can\u2019t do that when I have to see him every day for the next 6 months. I\u2019m on student loans so I can\u2019t afford the rent alone. So here he is, he cheats on me, asks me to wait for him, goes and has a one night stand, and then still gets to come back home? He gets to have his cake and eat it too. I feel like I\u2019m being manipulated and controlled in his forcing me to live with him after all of this. So tonight I want to revisit the idea of him moving back in with his parents. Maybe I can talk to the complex about moving into a smaller apartment so the rent is less for us both. So AITA for asking him to move back in with his parents and still pay his half of the rent because this is his fuck up and he is legally obligated to pay?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 10, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "uMNRs2CChNWQvypclwvzGxUhMatl3qzK", "post_id": "avuid5", "action": null, "title": "AITA in this big, full of things and never ended separation?", "text": " \n\nMy girlfriend and i had been together for 5 years. My girlfriend had a music band for last 2 years and they have gone to other cities, schools, concerts together for 2 years... I was so badly to her in this 2 years for her careless and disrespectful moves. At the last event they have gone, i changed my whatsapp profile picture and she pushed me to end this relationship. After that break up; she was so close to guy who is in her music band. I tried to talk with her about that intimacy between of them and she said ''there is nothing, he is just a friend''. 2 months later, we talked and have been together again. We were happier, more respectful and more close. But after 4 months, she just started to being close to that guy in the band and everything was crap again. Then she wanted to breaking up with me and we just break up again. After that second separation; she was closer to that guy and that was so disturbing for me. I felt cheated and that is so humiliating. Her friends and his friends was thinking like me, they seemed lovers to everyone. And then i just found that guy and beated him badly. He was in hospital for 2 days. Then she just started to swear to me and humiliate me. And after 3 months of that event; she started to write to me. She started to say ''There was nothing between of us, just friends.''. But she was saying ''Yes, i have a feelings for him.'' to me all the time she was together with him. My psychology is fucked. I still love her but that was officially cheating for me. Should i return to her? Who is the asshole in this story?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "O4ExQVlIFwdsyvGeTmHAOoKNvUDofE7o", "post_id": "a2fket", "action": {"description": "making a comment towards my ex and the girl he cheated on me with", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for making a comment towards my ex and the girl he cheated on me with?", "text": "\nMy ex-friend (H) had fuck buddy who used to be her boyfriend (about 1 month of being together). She introduced me to the fuck buddy (K). K and I eventually start dating, after I check with her multiple times if she\u2019s okay with us dating (e.g. are you okay with me dating K? Are you sure you\u2019re okay with this) etc etc.  I end up dating K for more than a year. \n\nWhile I\u2019m dating K, she makes a couple of blog posts and Instagram posts talking about how upset she is that K did not treat her the way he treated me (which tbh behind closed doors was pretty shitty). I eventually drop her as a friend after she makes crappy comments about me on her instagram (I\u2019m blocked but my sister is not and my sister shows me the posts). \n\nI found out that K has been cheating on me with her for 2 months, even offering to meet her on Valentine\u2019s Day over me. I, being a gullible stupid girl with rose tinted lenses, decide I want to work on the relationship. This lasts 3 months. 3 months of me doing the pick me dance and doing whatever he wants just so that he would want to stay with me. Eventually I talk to my parents about it and build up the courage to leave him. (Key point to note: he was basically living in my house with my family (Asian country) but still had his own family home to return to). I break up with him over a call and pack his stuff and deliver it to his parents house. \n\n6 months later, I\u2019m out on a date with my new boyfriend at a restaurant and spot him with the girl he cheated on me with pointing at me and laughing. I go up to them as my boyfriend and I are leaving and comment that \u201cI hope you\u2019re happy with each other\u201d. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uzhx4pJtbI5yXlsMdpgSdmr5qghvUYQo", "post_id": "a69kqa", "action": {"description": "a traffic misunderstanding", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For a traffic misunderstanding?", "text": "Short version - There is a little known crosswalk near an extremely busy street where I live. I don't believe I have ever seen a soul use it and I've lived here a long time. There are four total lanes of traffic and I am in the right lane. \n\nTo my left, extending about 10' behind me is empty space, with high speed traffic barreling down to pass me if we continue moving down the road. All of a sudden out of nowhere, a pedestrian dressed in all black frantically throws their hand out in front of my car. \n\nThey are approximately 10' in front of me and I am moving about 40 mph. My first thought is FUCK... if I slow down for this dude and he jogs across the road he is going to get hit by the truck behind me.\n\nGuy in black by this time has stepped into the road, frantically waving his hand at me in exaggerated gestures. I am slowed to about 20 and was going to try to drive by him, but he is already in the road, so I short stop it. \n\nThe guy locks eyes with me and waves his hand about 15 more times just in front of my car. He doesn't notice truck zoom by at about 50 or the line of traffic now flowing around me because they think I am in an accident. \n\nHe looks at the traffic stream, back at me. Flips me off and walks away. \n\nYes. Totally, always obey traffic... but I wish I had video of this because he would have been smoked for sure.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NJsGdcazJghWIE5dhU4NJbP74muN6QY2", "post_id": "axr9be", "action": {"description": "being angry with my boyfriend for scheduling a work interview on the same day of my surgery", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for being angry with my boyfriend for scheduling a work interview on the same day of my surgery?", "text": "Hi there. I\u2019m on mobile so sorry if the formatting is weird. \n\nI\u2019ll start with some backstory. Five months ago, I was dealing with constant jaw pain and numbness in parts of my face. After seeing doctors and dentists, I finally landed at an oral surgeon\u2019s office who took an X-ray and found my wisdom teeth were technically impacted but actively growing at the wrong angle. The reason I was experiencing numbness is because the my teeth are pressing down on a nerve, and surgery will be necessary to prevent possible permanent damage. I scheduled my surgery to land specifically on spring break for my school. Pretty much all of my professors this semester take off points for missing class, so missing an entire week was entirely out of the question for something I\u2019m paying $21K for. This was in December.\n\nI asked my boyfriend immediately afterwards if he would be able to watch me for my surgery. He\u2019s ending trade school so we planned ahead to make sure he would be free during the time I went for my surgery. Everything fit perfectly and we confirmed this was the plan. \n\nThis all changed about three weeks ago, when he got a call from a possible employer who was demanding that he start training on the same day of my surgery. My boyfriend asked if he could delay until the day after and explained the situation, but the employer basically brushed him off and said \u201cshe knows it\u2019s a job right?\u201d \n\nThat annoyed me immensely, seeing as this surgery is necessary and I\u2019m not allowed to be by myself, but whatever. We had a heated discussion about it and I told him that if he can\u2019t do it to let me know NOW so I can arrange a \u201cbaby sitter\u201d as soon as possible. He kinda went back and forth on it and then decided that he doesn\u2019t want to work with this specific company and that he\u2019ll bring me for my surgery. Okay, cool, I can relax. \n\nToday(less than a week before my surgery), he tells me he can\u2019t take me to my surgery. We get into a huge argument and he says he wants to go to the interview so that it can be on his resume for future employers to look at it. I\u2019m pissed because I can\u2019t find anybody to take me, everyone I know is busy. The paperwork specifically says I\u2019m not allowed to leave the center by myself because I\u2019ll be under the influence; someone has to check me out, so I can\u2019t even get an Uber. He says I should consider his employment, but I don\u2019t think any future employer is going to care that he got a job interview and trained for one day then quit. In fact, I think this shows a lack of commitment. \n\nI feel super guilty because I don\u2019t want to say he can\u2019t go to his interview but now I have to ask a friend to take the day off last minute. AITA for being angry? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uwLFsRHvA6YT5p1brLSYHXqp6aZK8bIH", "post_id": "awkom9", "action": {"description": "telling to neighbors kids to not play in my backyard", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling to neighbors kids to not play in my backyard?", "text": "We rented a place that is placed behind a front house. The kids came to play behind my house and started to scare my cat. Also I am studying for finals, and they were telling a lot. I asked them to not come to play behind my house please because that's the space we rented. The mom was there and she looked to me angry. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HF6Uqnjx0jhQ3fYE7PhV8LywXk6JTAv9", "post_id": "aw04qb", "action": {"description": "being realistic about how much my gf knows how to code", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for being realistic about how much my gf knows how to code", "text": "In reality I'm just here to have more people tell me I'm an asshole because I know I already am.\n\nAnyway... I was working on an assignment and my gf was sitting on the bed calling her mom. I admit I get cranky when I'm tired and I was really on edge already so anyway she's talking to her mom and says something like I know how to code now. So I overhear and say without thinking \"I wouldn't say that yet\" and she got really sad about it and I didn't intend to hurt her like that, especially with something I'm really passionate about and was enjoying teaching her and now I feel like the biggest asshole on here. I already really hate people who are gatekeepers for things like programming and so now I hate myself. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "jHq9uLYklMets2DDNtHkGfzeP0zmnALN", "post_id": "b3y6kn", "action": {"description": "being with a married man who has told me he will leave his anorexic wife soon", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 52}, "title": "AITA for being with a married man who has told me he will leave his anorexic wife soon?", "text": "I\u2019m dating a man I work with, we\u2019ve been secretly seeing each other for about 4 months now. He\u2019s married but he\u2019s really unhappy in his relationship and is trying to find the right time to leave her. His wife has anorexia so it\u2019s really hard for him. She doesn\u2019t have much of a sex drive, they can\u2019t go out to eat much, and she\u2019s also depressed (probably linked to the anorexia). He\u2019s tried getting her help, he\u2019s tried being patient but nothing is working. He\u2019s scared to leave her alone because he doesn\u2019t want her to get worse especially cause they have a young child together. But he has needs and he\u2019s very unhappy. I\u2019ve told him that I want him to leave her soon but that I understand his situation and am not gonna rush him. \n\nAITA for being with him when he hasn\u2019t left her yet? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 40, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 12, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 52}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "c1BW7HTAG2jVEHk4ap9oN4BIEg9slQev", "post_id": "a1an48", "action": {"description": "wanting my gf to explore her sexual desires", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA For wanting my GF to explore her sexual desires?", "text": "Reference and history: We're both 18. M and F. She has had a past relationship that lasted about 8 months with a guy who forced her to do sexual things she didn't want to do, like showing her breasts, etc. \n\nSo me and my GF have had a serious relationship now for about a year and a half. We haven't had sex yet, we're both virgins. I really want to but she says she's not ready yet and I tell her that's ok and we will of course wait for both to get ready, it's our first time after all. She generally isn't interested in all things sex at all. She very rarely gets horny, but it happens, it used to happen a lot more at the start of the relationahip though. But she does really enjoy our moments when they are happening, but tells me she feels kind lf bad oe ashamed afterwards and she doesn't know why. The farthest we have gone sexually is dry grinding on each other while making out. We have never seen each other completely naked or touched each others private parts.\n\nI've begun feeling a little frustrated sometimes when we go weeks without doing anything, meanwhile I see everyone else our age having sex daily and doing all kinds of things. I have asked her if she has thought about trying to masturbate, maybe the feeling will awake her sexual desires. But she said she just isn't interested in it. I've said to her that a good relationship needs a good sexual relationship aswell, but I don't think shes taking me seriously.\n\nI'm thinking of asking her again to please try it sometime, that it might work and make our relationship get a healthy sexual side to it for once. AITA for wanting this?\n\nI'm thinking some of this has to do with her terrible experiences with her past boyfriend, and her parents telling her she can't have sex until she's \"grown up\". But she's 18, she has grown up all right.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VJKXlJX8THO9p0R0R7FNxPdSW3VZezcn", "post_id": "a5jr71", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go to my companies holiday party that is in office", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go to my companies holiday party that is in office?", "text": "Ok, so as the title describes, we have a yearly holiday party that is in the office. I do want to mention that I love my job and enjoy my coworkers company. Am i the only one that feels office holiday parties are a drag and feel like more of an obligation, then a party? or am i just being an asshole", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OmFT1QMb58Be7ypbYv9lo06DznXqyIFK", "post_id": "a0xz79", "action": {"description": "mentioning my sick dog to my friend the day after her abortion", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for mentioning my sick dog to my friend the day after her abortion?", "text": "This friend + I had talked just a few weeks before how her coping mechanism is to pull away from people and isolate herself. She doesn't reply to me for months when she's going through hard times and completely closes herself off. I don't want to pry or invade her space but I always kind of bop my head in.\n\n​\n\nSo she had an abortion. She told me she spent 2 whole days at her dads house after and was feeling good, many friends were checking up on her. Conversation was super short after that, one word replies. So later in the day I told her something like \"My dogs been sick for 4 months it's freaking me out :/\"\n\n​\n\nShe was so pissed about that. Thinking I was comparing my dog to her abortion. Honest to god I was just trying to change the subject and keep up conversation. (And my dog has cost me over $2k the past 4 months because of his health so it has just been on my mind). Was my comment in poor taste? It feels like a grey area?\n\n​\n\nI DID apologize a ton to her and basically told her all that I wrote here. Am I in the wrong?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RrPl7h8MIoY05AW4Gtno28dnUl7PyLLz", "post_id": "a9fvma", "action": {"description": "keeping a log of \"rent\" payments to my parents and asking them to sign", "pronormative_score": 61, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA if I keep a log of \u201crent\" payments to my parents and ask them to sign?", "text": "First and foremost, Happy holidays and Merry Christmas ya filthy animals. \n\nNow, I'm 21 and times have gotten a little rough for my family financially. I have agreed to pay them $700 for rent and money I owe each month. They have offered the entire upstairs apartment to me but I'd rather the room I have on our lower floor. \n\nMy parents are great, honest people but I have this gut feeling that I should be recording my payments to them for some reason. I would like to whip up a little log that has the date, the amount paid, and both of our signatures. \n\nI feel like it is a responsible thing to do but things like this  could seriously offend them (especially my mother). In a way I feel as if it chips at the trust and honesty that we are trying to maintain. How should I go about this without being an asshole?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 56, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 61, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ojQdV3WDkTEuwnJRDpOGpgLqaKJorc5t", "post_id": "ancdqo", "action": {"description": "asking random women to join me at a bar, then asking them to buy the second round", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA Asking random women to join me at a bar, then asking them to buy the second round", "text": "Okay, so this was a while back. I was out with a pal for a night on the town in a city in Central Europe and we were having a beer in sort of a bar/lounge/restaurant type space. We saw and approached two attractive women in their late 20's, one it turns out was an actress on a TV show (not famous, but whatever) and the other an artist. \n\nWe all had a flirty, fun convo with them for maybe 10-15 minutes. After everyone finished their respective drinks I asked them if they wanted to continue on together and join us for a cocktail at a place a few minutes away. They happily agreed. \n\n​\n\nThe new place was quite crowded and it was hard to find a table to sit at. Once we find one, I have to head back to the bar to get drinks as there is no table service. I take everyone's order and pay for a round of cocktails, since its a pay as you guy type of system, and walk the tray of libations back to the table.\n\nAfter a few minutes of chatting,  both ladies casually mention that they have boyfriends that they live with. As any person knows, this sort of info is disappointing to hear after you've invested time into someone you are interested in, but life goes on. We continue conversing about this and that and the mood is generally pretty good, although the convo is losing a bit of luster as time goes on.\n\nI was just finishing my drink and they were about 3/4 through theirs, and they announce that they are going to go for a cigarette in a minute. I suggest that they order the next round on their way out from the bar to the street so the bartender can make the drinks while they smoke, and save everyone a few minutes of waiting. They look at each other and think it's a joke for some reason, and give a sassy, tongue in cheek answer of \"if you want a drink, you know how to do it.\"\n\nI smile, and ask again, \"yeah, but seriously, I'd love to get another one of these. It's your round, after all, and you are going right by the bartender.\" They seem dumbfounded by this and again look at each other like I'm crazy for asking.\n\n\"No, that's not how it works,\" they say again sort of devilishly smiling. \"Nice try though!\" They head out for their cigarette. My buddy also announces he has to pee, and heads off. \n\n​\n\nAt this point I feel a bit like I've been taken advantage of. Call me crazy, but when I'm with friends, we will all take turns buying rounds. I'm happy to buy a gal a drink as part of the little ritual, but these two always had boyfriends. So they weren't going into it as part of the ritual, it was always a platonic type of situation for them in their minds. So why would they be exempt from buying a round after having one bought for them?  \n  \n\nThis is the AITA moment of truth. When they are outside I grab both their drinks and finish them. It's a rash decision, and one that obviously flaunts all norms of social courtesy, but in my mind it's acceptable and fitting. They broke the social code of offering to reciprocate, and in a fairly rude and dismissive manner. They seemed to have a level of entitlement that I didn't appreciate. And I had no interest in seeing them again. So fuck it, I'm going to drink the drinks I paid for.\n\nWhen they come back in and see that their glasses are only comprised of ice and a straw, the reaction is one of anger and disgust. They ask why I would do that and I tell them that I bought the drinks and they had no interest in buying the next round, so take it for what it is. A few choice words are thrown my way and they grab their stuff and hastily leave. \n\nMy buddy, just back from the toilet, watches all this unfold and has no idea what has happened. When I explain to him he thinks it's all crazy, but laughs, and we continue on.   \n\n\nSo yeah, I think there is some asshole behavior on my part, but it only came out as a response to what I saw as assholish behavior. AI*T*A?   \n\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "flTOOKXIPwdQzW9wedUqEOm80ySZXjsS", "post_id": "az0mzp", "action": {"description": "not letting my BILs dog sleep in my bed", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not letting my BILs dog sleep in my bed?", "text": "TW for animal injury and mentions of death.\n\nFor context: my sister and her husband (BIL) live with my parents. I moved out before they moved in, and right now I'm back home from college for spring break.\n\nMy BIL brought his dog with him when he moved in with my sister two years ago. Both he and the dog came from an abusive household and she was definitely the worse for wear. She had open wounds from other animals and was extremely anxious about just about everything. She seemed to be recovering for awhile, but her cuts got infected despite treatment, and earlier this year she started on several rounds of intense antibiotics. We've spent thousands of dollars on tests and treatments at this point. Nothing has worked so far, and at present she is stuck in a Cone of Shame with the injuries from two years ago still open and she's lost so much weight she's basically a skeleton. None of the vets have really given a prognosis, but at this point it's hard to imagine her recovering.\n\nI adore this dog. She's incredibly sweet and loving despite everything she's been through, and she's always happy for someone to snuggle her. I'm an animal lover and would be typically happy to oblige, but... I'm also incredibly squeamish and can't handle gore of any type, ESPECIALLY on animals. Looking at her back makes me gag. Like I said, these are two-year-old infected injuries. They're not pretty. We've tried covering them up with doggy t-shirts, but that just ended with blood- and pus-soaked shirts and a minor rash from the friction of the cloth.\n\nLike most dogs, BILs is always on the hunt for soft places to sit, and my bed has become one of her favorites. I sleep with my door closed so I typically move all of the animals out before going to bed, so as to avoid accidents and whatnot. By now I've resorted to having my mom move her away to one of the sofas, sister and BILs room, or anywhere else soft before I go to sleep. I feel like such a jerk for taking her away from where she wants to be when she probably doesn't have long left and should just be petted for hours on end and let sleep wherever the hell she wants. But at the same time, I don't want to worry about kicking her or rolling on top of her in my sleep, or to wake up to find that her cuts are bleeding or oozing again, that she's had a bathroom accident, or worst case scenario, that she's died. I personally didn't sign on for the responsibility of having any dog, much less one this sick, and I don't really think it's fair to myself to force myself to deal with it head-on. But I still feel like the worst person in the world because she deserves any small pleasure she can get at this point and I'm taking that away just so I can starfish when I sleep.\n\nNo one has called me an asshole for this, but man, I feel like one.\n\nSo, AITA for kicking a sick animal out of a soft place?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "75dM7ronsyx7UflsXiNlouYRRzcF4sJT", "post_id": "9uir9b", "action": {"description": "writing a bad review", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for writing a bad review?", "text": "So, we've been to this sub shop several times. Every time I go, the meat is just sitting on the counter waiting to be sliced. Normally that's fine, but the last time I went I got violently ill for nearly 24 hours. I wrote a review online and the owner told me I'm a liar. Then the other owner got online and proceeded to tell me I did not get sick and I was wrong. The just flat out called me a liar online. \n\n​\n\nFull disclosure-  My mother owns a paper company and I set up a meeting for the two to talk. They became a customer and at some point, things went south. I had nothing to do with this and only had knowledge about it when I called my mom about something totally unrelated. I couldn't care less if they buy from my family or not. I've written fantastic reviews for my mother's past customers, even if they ended on bad terms. \n\n​\n\nAITA for posting that review online? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GweVtqN8uR1ywMjpKcJtGObnq2jqvj5k", "post_id": "avv4fu", "action": {"description": "trying to get the guy I am seeing to try new foods", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for trying to get the guy I am seeing to try new foods?", "text": "I started seeing this guy and already we have a major source of contention: food\n\nLet me just get this out of the way, this 25 year old American man is the pickiest eater I have ever met. He refuses to eat anything outside of American staples like: steak, eggs, pancakes, bacon, burgers, fries, basic sandwiches, etc... And I get everyone has preferences, I really do. EXCEPT this grown ass man refuses to try anything else. He has never had pizza, he has never had any sort of pasta dish, let alone any \"eccentric cuisines\" as he likes to call them. Not even bland boxed macaroni. I thought maybe it was a weird family thing, but apparently his parents are as dumbfounded as I am. He has never even tried anything you can't find at a local Dennys. And no, he is not lying. Apparently it just doesn't appeal to him.\n\nAs you can imagine, this has made choosing restaurants for dates hard. I can't even get him into Mediterranean food, let alone anything \"exotic\" like Indian food, or authentic Chinese food. We live in a city too, so we have so many options but we keep going to steak restaurants are burger joints and it is getting old very fast and I keep getting annoyed that I have to compromise with him - just because we both like steak doesn't mean I want to eat it every week.\n\nI've really started to push, beg, bribe him into trying new foods with me, to going to restaurants I like, but he keeps getting mad that I am trying to \"change\" him, and that I keep making him do things he doesn't want to do. Its pretty early in the relationship, and we have a great time outside of this one sticky issue. So am I being the asshole here with trying to push him out of his comfort zone? Or is he the one for not being willing to try anything new?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yWcsamt5w4k1BY82GZYFe89U4QCZ8I0q", "post_id": "arck1z", "action": {"description": "not wanting to collaborate with my lazy friend", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to collaborate with my lazy friend?", "text": "Throwaway. Second try.\n\nBackground: Friend and I met in highschool and were drinking buddies in our early 20's. In the ten years since then we've kept in regular contact, but out lives have gone in drastically different directions. I have always been interested in music and songwriting and have been writing songs as a hobby since I was very young. I went to college and then obtained an advanced degree in musicology. I currently work in the music industry, although not as a musician or songwriter.\n\nMy friend is just kind of doing the same stuff he did when we were young. Can't hold down a job and sits around drinking and watching sports all day. We don't see each other often, but we do talk and I don't really feel like we have much in common anymore. I am not into sports and that's really all he ever wants to talk about. The friendship at this point is based more on our history than any shared interests. A few years ago, I had a death in the family that was very traumatic and this friend completely supported me and talked me through a very dark time.\n\nNow that I am finally settled into my career, I have more time to devote to my personal passions and am ready to channel my energy into some creative projects of my own. I mentioned this in conversation with my friend. In a later conversation, my friend announces he has a great idea and thinks we should collaborate and write music together and try to get it published. I felt really uncomfortable with the idea and just tried to change the subject, but he's brought it up in subsequent conversations and seems to be really excited about the prospect. He's already dreamed up our success as a songwriting duo and has thought about how good I would be it. This friend is not even into music and I feel kind of insulted. I tried to escape the conversation by saying that it's something I would like to pursue on my own, but that was a lie.\n\nI do want to collaborate with someone else I know and have even started a tentative project. This person also has a degree in music and although I've never worked with him in a professional capacity, I know from our personal dealings that he is reliable, hard working, and very creative.\n\nI feel my old friend will feel betrayed if he finds out I am working with someone else, and may even feel like I stole HIS idea. He was there for me when I really needed it, but I don't think it's a good idea to try to mix \"business\" with friends in this particular case. I still feel torn though like I should humor him and maybe try to collaborate on something with him just for fun, but I am honestly not interested in diverting any time or effort into something my heart is not in. I am also afraid it might kill our friendship completely due to our very different habits and work ethic. Am I an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3rs0mPjAG33Z0JHTOf1BRJlaukA2qmPo", "post_id": "a1n6rn", "action": {"description": "not wanting to accept gifts from my mom", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to accept gifts from my mom?", "text": "So over a year ago I got into a fight with my mom that lead to us not talking. What happened was my husband and I used the free trial from Hulu for Live TV without telling her and then Hulu tried to charge her early for it. She called me screaming about it. I was supposed to tell her and that was my fault for not doing so and I apologized and told her we would pay her back the money for it because it was my fault. She said not to worry about it because the charge was reversed (because the trial wasn\u2019t over, Hulu messed up).\n\nThe bigger fight started when she brought up getting an oil change for my car. Backstory on the car: I got an old car for my birthday from my grandparents that ran fine with my grandparents but basically as soon as I had it in my possession started to die. I could no longer afford to fix it so I started to think about getting a different car, because I was pregnant and would need it. I had no credit so I didn\u2019t know where to start looking. My mom convinced me to sell my car and use that money to put towards a brand new car. My husband (boyfriend at the time) told me this was a bad idea, I should get a used car. My mom said, \u201cyou can\u2019t finance used cars.\u201d I believed her for some dumb reason. At the dealership I was told I can\u2019t get the car in my name with no credit and I was ready to walk away but the sales guy and my mom convinced me to co sign. The conditions from my mom was that I let her see my daughter whenever she asked (which turned into every single day). So I let it happen.\n\nMy mom proceeded to threaten to take this car away a lot, but the hard truth was if she took it away, it would be harder for her to see my daughter (cause I would have to go north with my husband where he worked). She backed off every time. This time with the oil change, she demanded that we take it to the dealership to get it changed. It costs like $40, but I didn\u2019t have to pay this the first oil change cause it was free. My husband (who I pushed my mom into because I was just done talking to her) told her we couldn\u2019t  afford it and we would take it anywhere else for the oil change (we were in the process of moving as this was happening). She didn\u2019t like that answer and proceeded to insult my husband and call him a bad father. His response was \u201cyour behavior makes it pretty hard for us to want you around our daughter.\u201d I agreed with this response because she was being over the top. Her next message to me was \u201cto lawyer up\u201d because my husband just threatened to take my daughter away from her. She then called me and said CPS was on the way and the whole time at our apartment as she is taking the car and a dining table (she gave it as a gift cause she was throwing it away) she is screaming that CPS was coming and they would definitely take my daughter away from me because \u201cjust look at how you are dressed, you think you look like a fit mom?\u201d\n\nI told this whole long story to give you guys an idea of how my mom is. She holds gifts over my head and will gladly take them away if I don\u2019t give her what she feels I owe her.\n\nAITA for not wanting her to give Christmas gifts to my daughter?\n\nTL;DR my mom is highly manipulative and holds gifts over my head and takes them away when she isn\u2019t happy. AITA for refusing any future gifts?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "thuehQ95oaD6QdiT1pIHZOh1eTGHktuL", "post_id": "b8jtgj", "action": {"description": "telling my coworker that my boyfriend cheated on me", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for telling my coworker that my boyfriend cheated on me?", "text": "Before you start pointing fingers because of the title, I need to clarify some things first.\n\nI\u2019ve been dating my boyfriend for almost two years now. From the start of our relationship, we agreed that either of us can have sex with someone else as long as we\u2019re informed about it beforehand. We both agree that there is a distinct difference between a romantic relationship and a sexual one, and so long as we together are the only ones in a romantic relationship, we don\u2019t care what the opposite person does with their body.\n\nFast forward to a couple days ago where my boyfriend tells me \u201cI think I cheated on you\u201d, and when I asked why he thought that, he said \u201cYou know Jake? Yeah, so he and I had sex last week\u201d (not his real name, obviously).\n\nI honestly thought how he worded that was really funny, and I told him I wasn\u2019t mad as long as he told me beforehand next time. He agreed, and we\u2019re completely fine.\n\nToday, I went to my coworker \u2018Nikki\u2019 to tell her about the funny encounter (we tell each other a lot of things like this, so it\u2019s not exactly weird). She was confused until I reminded her that we\u2019re in an open relationship, and then agreed that it was pretty amusing.\n\nMy assistant manager, who we\u2019ll call \u2018Anna\u2019, was not so amused after overhearing this conversation. She told me to break up with my boyfriend, and when I said that it was okay and explained the open relationship, she told me that he was an asshole for cheating and that I was an asshole for thinking that it was funny.\n\nObviously, I know I\u2019m not an asshole for finding the encounter humorous, but I\u2019m starting to feel like an asshole for bringing it up in the first place. I feel so bad for making anyone think that my boyfriend was a bad person.\n\n\nTl;dr Am I the asshole for painting my boyfriend out as a cheater to my coworker, and should I have kept it to myself?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Ebc98dws3jSX4IPxxn4ULtRWLX9Zawou", "post_id": "b9t8kd", "action": null, "title": "AITA re - upload for telling my family to be quiet in the evenings", "text": "So I\u2019m re- uploading this since I realised my last post didn\u2019t have enough info needed, and I can\u2019t answer to all of you individually. \n\nI live in apartment with my mother and grandmother. We do not own it, and we pay rent. \n\nMy grandmother has really small income, my mom nas none, and I\u2019m the main money source in the family.\n\nNow with that being said, I work night shifts in order to get bigger paycheck, so I need to sleep in the afternoons.\n\nDoesn\u2019t seem like a big thing, does it. I have a severe insomnia which was treated over the years and I\u2019m currently not so \u2018severe\u2019, if i may phrase it that way, but even a tiny little squeak can cause insomnia to me and that is a big problem.\n\nOur apartment\u2019s walls are thin as a paper and we only have 2 rooms in it. \n\nWhenever I go to sleep my grandma does\u2019t want to lower the TV sound (she can\u2019t hear well) and I can hear it too. It makes me uncomfortable.\n\nMy mother starts washing the dishes and since she has nerves disorder she can easily drop something and make a loud noice, it can wake me up in a second, and boom no sleep afterwards. \n\nI tried noice cancellig headphones but I can\u2019t fall asleep wearing them, and I can\u2019t take any pills since they have counter effect with other things I\u2019m experiencing.\n\nI can\u2019t move out since they won\u2019t have enough money to live with.\nAITA", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vd9XkOrFOMQYoQwYECsB9uxjEPwe5MZf", "post_id": "axioyv", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my Mum", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For getting mad at my Mum", "text": "Ok, so let me explain. I'm (20M) working as an apprentice in what I think is a high pressure environment and am able to take annual leave etc. Recently I've been working more than my 37+ hour week (not forced) and have just been feeling very burnt out. It happens. The past couple days I have been messaging my boss asking to take leave that day, apologising for the short notice. My boss has been fine with it.\n\nHere's the problem; I'm still living at home with my mum and brothers, and my mum comes in and asks \"are you not going to work again?\" to which I reply \"no, I didn't sleep properly and just feel burnt out\". She then proceeds to mention how she doesn't sleep but she still goes to work because \"she has to\". I turn around and fire back \" I'm not calling in sick, I'm taking my permitted leave. Are you saying I'm not allowed to take leave?\". She then leaves the room.\n\nHere's where the problem gets more complicated. Things at home mean that my dad's out of the picture and my mum works and looks after my younger brothers. I pay rent and help out when I'm around, and it's safe to say she is busy. I then feel like because I am off that I can't relax because she \"is\" working and doing stuff. It seems stupid I know but ultimately I don't want my mum to struggle and will help if she needs it. We've had these arguments before where she says that she still works when she doesn't feel like it etc. and she gets very annoyed when I take leave. But my leave is for me to do what I want with right? Just because I'm using my leave to sit around and relax my brain and body, doesn't mean I then need to help out more?\n\nShort story: Im taking leave (holiday) from work because I'm burnt out. My mum has a poke at me taking leave because I want to relax when she continues to do her work. I feel like this almost guilt trips me into not being able to relax so I get mad at her. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jbOMReGteBFFFYk8JY2py7Q4igEDC7d0", "post_id": "awlxs1", "action": {"description": "not appreciating my husband enough", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not appreciating my husband enough?", "text": "I am 30, my husband is 34. We have our first baby. I've been now on maternity leave for more than six months (which is standard in my country) and I work 10 hours/week from home, my husband works full-time.\n\nOur baby is not sleeping through the night yet - he is waking up every 60-90 minutes for feeding. We are bottle-feeding him.\n\nI am quite frustrated by the fact that it's always me bottle-feeding him at night & I'm always the one who gets up with him in the morning. \n\nI understand that I'm the one getting less sleep when my husband goes to work. We have a guest room and my husband occasionally sleeps there to get enough sleep. We both work in IT and he has always needed more sleep to be able to work than I did.  But it's the same during the weekends and it was the same even when we went for 2-week holidays - my husband refused to feed our baby at night at all & he only got up with him once and bragged the whole day about how tired he is.\n\nI'm also a bit frustrated by the fact that during the weekends or evening when we are both at home, I'm still the one who is doing most work with the baby and around the house - it seems to me that it never happens that I relax, while my husband is taking care of the house or of the baby. The opposite (I'm doing stuff and he is relaxing) is happening all the time. \n\nWe talked about that I feel he is not thanking me enough for being sleep-deprived and letting him relax. E.g. he almost never thanks me in the morning when he sleeps in the guest room. We also talked about the fact that he feels I'm not appreciating him enough for working full-time and providing for the family & I don't thank him enough when he helps me with the kid. He complained that I often say that his help is not much compared with what I'm doing. I must say that he has a point in this, but it comes from my frustrations described above.\n\nAbout 3 weeks ago, I was sick and had a bad cough. Everytime I coughed, our baby woke up and started to cry. My husband agreed that I can sleep in the guest room. First time since our baby was at home, I slept for 9 hours straight.\n\nI thanked my husband in the morning. He told me it was very difficult for him. In the evening I approached and I told him \"Thank you so much for taking care of our boy during the night.\" He seemed very happy that I thanked him. After that I told \"Now you can appreciate more what I do every night\". He looked at me as if I hurt him badly. He told me he though I'm finally thanking him and appreciating him, but I just talked about the fact how good I am.\n\nHe said it will be difficult for him to overcome how I hurt him.\n\n3 weeks later, and yesterday he told me he still can't believe me I'm being honest when I thank him for something, and that what I said 3 weeks ago hurt him very much.\n\nTL;DR: Husband never takes care of the baby during the night or in the morning. When he did for the first time when I was sick, I thanked him and said \"Now you can appreciate more what I do every night\".", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dbetUbO0NeZnjQgWGN9f9gX8uGTnwtQn", "post_id": "b5unfi", "action": {"description": "calling my gf out on what I consider a threat", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for calling my gf out on what I consider a threat?", "text": "howdy folks \n\nso ive been planning on visiting my gf(long distance) for awhile. it was mostly talking about it- nothing was really planned yet. however as i began to dig into my schedule i realized i have summer classes at the time. i am 3 classes behind so i really need to do them(can only do 2 semesters, allowed 1 class at a time). i told her i don\u2019t think im able to come and she got very upset- rightfully so! however, she gave me an ultimatum/threat in my opinion, and im paraphrasing;\n\n\u201ccome down here or our relationship will fall apart and will not last\u201d \n\ni told her that was not okay, that i have no choice now, despite really needing to catch up on studies.\n\n she says im being inconsiderate and a major asshole because i can take the classes during my school year on the weekends and don\u2019t seem to care about the trip.\n\ni never said point blank, no. i said i would see my options and go from there(i really want to see her)\n\nso lads, aita?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3EtcWBsXJFv1WHMQsZmGcxyTKJrWFB3L", "post_id": "apbqro", "action": {"description": "wanting some alone time from my relationship to play video games", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting some alone time from my relationship to play video games?", "text": "I've been with my girlfriend for three years, living together with her for two. We're currently maintaining a great relationship and I am probably going to marry this woman. But there's one thing that bothers me, and that's the fact that she really doesn't like it (gets upset) when I play video games. \n\nWe have alternating and crazy schedules so she usually opens and I work in the afternoon or close if I'm not at class. I generally try to schedule my game time around her schedule while she is either at work or asleep so that it doesn't bother her, and so I also get to hang out with her while she is awake. And when I say game time, it's not like 40 hours a week of gaming. I average 3-4 hours on nights that I get to play, which is generally every other night and excluding weekends. I explicitly reserve weekends for us to be together. So like, 10-12 hours a week. Some crazy nights I will pull a 7 hour night from 8pm-3am, but that is very rare. \n\nPersonally, I need my space to wind down. I work pretty much full time and I'm also a full time college student. I also try to go to the gym 4-5 times a week. I don't feel like in a serious relationship living together that you need to spend every second of down time with your SO, but that is just my opinion. \n\nI think what upsets her is that she really doesnt have any friends to hang out with or hobbies, so when I'm not home she's generally just watching Netflix, tidying up, or napping. I've invited her to learn how to play video games with me and even slapped together my old build so that she could try it out, but she hasn't even given it a shot.\n\nBut even though I try to not do my gaming when she is at home/awake, she still gets upset. She feels like I am just waiting for her to go to bed now so that I can play video games, which isn't the case. If I were to be gaming when she came home from work and something trivial wasn't done (a few dishes in the sink, laundry not put away, etc.) she would get upset that I chose to play video games instead of completing those tasks. That's fair, but on the flipside of that, I regularly come home to tasks not being completed while she is watching Netflix. I sort of feel like there are double standards that only really come out when it has to do with me gaming.\n\nSo the golden question, am I the asshole for wanting some alone time to play video games with friends? I don't feel like my gaming is getting in the way of our relationship. Personally I think that right now she is upset that we don't get to see each other as much as she wants to because of our wacky schedules, and is using video games as the reason for it. But if I am in the wrong here, I would definitely like to know about it so I can change.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QcYEoca6nfdj28WGxqDWeKaLKaG4KbRc", "post_id": "aw8r1a", "action": {"description": "wanting/planning to hang out at a location where my ex works", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting/planning to hang out at a location where my ex works?", "text": "So first off, I'm using the word ex, but we never defined a relationship. It started out as friend with benefits and then the lines kind of blurred but we never took the next step. We had an amazing run in the beginning, but in the end there was a lot friction, hurt feelings, I noticed my personality changing in a way I didn't like at all (e.g. I started snapping at minor things while compromising on things that I shouldn't have) and when I couldn't take it anymore I told him we shouldn't see eachother anymore. I later reached out again to tell him that once our emotions have cooled down, I was open to try and work things out, to see if we could get our friendship back at least (I'm aware of how naive that sounds, but we honestly used to be great together and I wasn't ready to completely give up on that at that point in time). \nThat was about ten months ago. A couple weeks back he messaged me and we caught up on eachother's lives a bit. I gave him about a week of just chit chat to get accustomed to eachother again and things actually went pretty good until I told him that I'd like to actually talk about what went wrong last time, because I don't see this going anywhere unless we learn from our mistakes back then. He pretty much immediately shot me down, telling me that he's happy that I'm doing well but messaging me was a mistake and we shouldn't continue.\nTo get to the point of this AITA: he works at a really cool place that I never went to during the past ten months, out  of respect for his 'territory'. However during the time after he contacted me again, when we were exchanging pleasant chit chat, I made plans to got to an event there with some friends and last night we went there and had a great time. I didn't expect to actually see much of him, he doesn't work in the service area but more behind the scenes, but we did come across eachother a couple of time during which he either ignored me or honestly didn't notice me (I doubt that though, not noticing four people that you know just a couple of feet away from you seems a bit implausible to me). So if I judge the situation correctly, my presence did make him uncomfortable. And even after all that happened between us, part of me really wouldn't like him to come into work every day dreading to be confronted with memories and feelings he'd rather not deal with (by seeing me, I'm not planning any kind of active confrontations). Another part of me thinks that he needs to get his head out of his ass and actually deal with his issues. Regardless, I would really like to go to more events at that location, simply because it's honestly that amazing and unique.\n\nAITA if I decide to hang out at my ex's workplace more often?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aAWX95A7tEtK7026i4fr3Cfqf8TQ5Xz9", "post_id": "b5og82", "action": {"description": "charging my parents more for looking after my foster sisterhood", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for charging my parents more for looking after my foster sisterhood", "text": "Obligatory apologies for formatting, I am on mobile. \n\nSo this decision happened only minutes ago, but first a little back story. When I decided to switch universities last year and move back in with my parents I was giving up a very well paying, stable job as an au pair/tutor. I hadn\u2019t lived at home for about 4 years and in that time my mother and father made the decision to start fostering a 13 year old I will call Alice. I love Alice, I never had a girly kinda sister around since I had a very manly lesbian sister and my twin brother. She\u2019s hard working, sweet and caring, and none of this is directed towards her. \nTo make up for me not having a stable income anymore my parents decided to hire me as an au pair to Alice. \nMy hours are essentially 07:00-07:30 Monday till Friday, 14:00-16:00 Monday till Thursday and 14:00-20:00 on a Friday (She has choir in a town 40 minutes away and we get home late every Friday). This in between studying full time, and working another side job. \nThey pay me R3400 a month (about $244) which is supposed to include my fuel. I drive about 22km (about 14 miles) every day dropping and fetching her from school. Au Pairs in my country generally charge R50-75 an hour ($3.50-7.50) and R3/km ($0.20). \n\nNow that all of that is over let me start from about 15 minutes ago when I told my parents that I wanted to stay at my boyfriends house this weekend, starting on Thursday as I currently have off from school and he is house sitting this entire weekend, so he has no way of visiting me. My mother freaked saying that who would look after Alice on Friday, as she is also on break and therefor doesn\u2019t have school on Friday either. I stood there flabbergasted as my mom berated me about how if I was her client back in the old town I would not treat her like this and that I should look after Alice this Friday. I walked out of the room absolutely furious that she would speak to me like that. If she wanted me to look after Alice she could have asked nicely and I would have said yes and gone through to my boyfriend Friday afternoon instead. \n\nShe brought in business a o I decided to handle this as cleanly and business-like as possible. After some serious calculations I figured out that my parents were not only underpaying me (R35 an hour/$2.50) but also grossly misusing me. So I\u2019ve decided to propose I charge them what they should be paying me, including overtime for looking after my sister this entire week. Since I only work from 14:00, that would include an extra 6 hours of work everyday that they need to pay me for, and I would discuss a new monthly rate that I should be rightfully paid. I am separating business from family and if they want to look for a cheaper option they can try but they will not find it, as I would be charging them the bottom rate for an au pair here. \n\nSo my question is, AITA for doing this to my parents? \n\n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lpDxijkDG5FiM5wAPXJeacu60dlXIRRY", "post_id": "apabt2", "action": {"description": "having sex with this girls boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for having sex with this girls boyfriend?", "text": "So a long time ago this girl, Haley, slid into my Instagram DMs and told me we should hang out. I saw some red flags when I met her, but decided to ignore them. (She was constantly making up extravagant stories of her past and was really rude to her parents that she still lived with.) I was at a really vulnerable part in my life and decided to stay her friend because she was an escape from my shitty life. \n\nAnyways, I introduce her to my friends since she was new to the area. After Haley got close to them she turned them all on me. She constantly fed them lies until they didn\u2019t like me anymore.\n\nI cut Haley out of my life immediately and figured it was good that she helped me figure out who my fake friends were. She showed up at my house unannounced a couple times begging me to be her friend again but I always had my sister answer the door because I thought I\u2019d punch her if I answered. \n\nI was a lonely mess after all of this, convinced that everyone hated me. Haley really hurt me. I did some soul searching that year while I was alone. I realized I was so full of hate towards her that it was only bringing me down and I needed to forgive her for my own mental health. \n\nI messaged her saying that there was no hard feelings and I hoped she was doing okay. She insisted that we hang out and told me she did some soul searching too and she changed. Me being lonely, I said yes. \n\nWhen I met Haley\u2019s boyfriend, Zack,  I realized I already knew him from middle school. Zack and I got along really well, better than Haley and I did and we became closer friends. He constantly confided in me that he wanted to break up with Haley every day. And Haley told me the same thing about Zack. They had a seriously fucked up relationship where they were constantly screaming at each other. \n\nAnyways they had an extra ticket to this music festival and begged me to go. Haley told me that she didn\u2019t wanna go alone with Zack cause she\u2019d be annoyed the whole time and Zack told me the same thing about Haley.  I figured a free ticket is a free ticket and I went. \n\nAfter the concert we were all really drunk. We went back to the hotel room and Haley insisted that we have a threesome. We were all down and went for it. Although Zack was really hot, I wasn\u2019t that into Haley so I was really uncomfortable then Haley got uncomfortable too because her boyfriend was kinda just fucking me in front of her. She told him to stop, they starting having sex again, I felt weird and left the hotel room. \n\nZack came and found me after about 30 minutes and we walked to the parking garage. Anyways we had sex. \n\nI feel like Haley deserved what she got and I wouldn\u2019t have had sex with Zack if they didn\u2019t insist on having a threesome in the first place. I never planned on having sex with Zack before that moment. \n\nZack and I decided to keep that night a secret. After a week I felt guilty and told Haley. She didn\u2019t believe me, stole my vape I left at her house and a bunch of my clothes. \n\nIt\u2019s a year later and I still get texts from people telling me that Haley said I had sex with their boyfriend even though I didn\u2019t. People from my home town think I have sex with anyone I meet and that I have STDs because of the rumors she\u2019s made up about me. \n\nSo am I the asshole for having sex with Zack? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "1BwOW571lOE9ruoqO7wj3aTAhpM19UEc", "post_id": "9zbek2", "action": {"description": "taking back the tv I gave to my sister", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA for taking back the tv I gave to my sister?", "text": "Just over a year ago my sister broke up with her boyfriend and moved her and her son to an apartment. During the move, her only tv got some damage to it so I offered to give her mine because I was planning on getting a bigger one soon anyway. We swapped so I could put her broken one (crack in the screen but still works) in my basement for yoga videos. \n\nThen about 6 months ago she got back together with her boyfriend and thus uses his large screen tv in their living room and they have other TVs in each bedroom (I think mine is in my nephews room). \n\nNow my husband would like our tv back simply because it\u2019s ours and she doesn\u2019t need it anymore being she has multiple TVs in her home. Also I\u2019m pregnant and kind of would like to put my tv in my bedroom to watch while I\u2019m resting with baby, etc. \n\nWill I be an asshole to take back something given to a person when they were in need, but are not really in need now? Either my nephew or them will have to have the broken tv in their bedroom instead of the one I gave them. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "v1zHvxpLL8xeRGCwMCc5unS0ez84xDQA", "post_id": "agz2ft", "action": {"description": "not accommodating a liar who just said they started AA", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for not accommodating a liar who just said they started AA?", "text": "**The backstory.**\n\nI am dealing with an ex-wife of 10 years who has a history of mental illness/issues. I have also proven on several occasions that she has lied on a variety of things. She will say that her car has broken down so she can't take our child to school, only for it to work so she can go to a job interview later that day (with my child). She has told me that one of our friends was in a car accident and that I needed to watch our child so that she could visit her; only to see that friend post on Facebook 30 minutes later. She has told the government that I left both her and my child (it was a mutual separation) so that she would be bumped up on the list to get government assistance. She has also admitted to lying about some serious allegations about other ex-husbands because she was mad at them. So overall, everything she says I have to take with a grain of salt.\n\nNow, roughly a few weeks ago, I suggested keeping him on some of her days until she gets her life a bit more adjusted. This would have reduced her from 14 days to 6 days a month (every other weekend). Her response was to threaten to take me to court. She wasn't going to let me boss her around anymore and she will ensure that she has a relationship with her kid (which implied I was trying to prevent that). I actually 100% want them to have a relationship, which is why I follow the visitation schedule rigorously.\n\nOn top of that, I am engaged to someone who really doesn't like her continuous involvement in our lives. We are completely independent from my ex and almost never rely on her for any assistance; yet every month or so we are approached to accommodate her for whatever reason that I'm never sure is true. In a lot of cases, we end up accommodating; but I am trying to stop that because it's very fair to say that my ex shouldn't have so much direct involvement in our lives - especially if she is lying to us.\n\nOur visitation setup is that while I actually have primary custody, we personally have a 50/50 setup right now. When I consulted a divorce lawyer roughly two years ago, he told me that because this 50/50 setup has been the norm for years, she could take me to court, accuse me of being unfair and the judge could side with her. I have since started capturing documentation incase I ever do go back to court.\n\n​\n\n**The situation**.\n\nToday I got a text from my ex saying her drinking problem is getting out of hand and she wants me to take him for a week while she attends AA to get her problem handled. He is supposed to visit her tonight and has made no reference to her drinking problems until this morning.\n\nHer text implied she has not started it yet, despite having all week to do so. She has had the past three days and will have the next three days free to attend. I also believe AA is not a one-week-and-done situation and is an ongoing process, meaning she will need to schedule her meetings on nights where she does not have our child, anyways.\n\nHer family has expressed to me that they do think she has a drinking problem, but because of her history of lying, I'm not convinced that today's claim is legit and is actually being used as a reason to get out of parenting tonight.\n\nTo add to this, my fiance's father is an alcoholic. So if this turns out to be a false claim, that is *really* going to rub her the wrong way. All things considered, I've found it best to err on the side of being skeptical.\n\nSo, hopefully I've been able to articulate that this is a complex situation. I don't want to dismiss a potential serious claim; but I also don't want to enable more lying using serious claims like this.\n\n​\n\n**Will I be the asshole?**\n\nI am planning on telling her that this is a serious issue that will take longer than a week. Therefore, I suggest she keep seeing him and maintaining their relationship while visiting AA on her off-nights and keeping her drinking in-check on her nights with my child. Otherwise, I will be willing to go back to my proposed visitation schedule from a few weeks ago from here on out and not just for a few weeks. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IzYY60bjd5nubYvTxKXx1i2XrWLgWW3C", "post_id": "ba641c", "action": {"description": "being angry at my flatmate's girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being angry at my flatmate's girlfriend?", "text": "I'm a student and I live with 5 others in my flat, one of which being the guy in question. He is seeing a girl and she often comes down to stay with him. No problem with that in itself.\n\nMy flatmate is a great friend of mine - we spend a lot of time together, cook together, share shopping, etc, and I love this arrangement and I know he does either. \n\nThe issue is that this girl has been staying for an increasingly ridiculous amount of time. The first couple of times she has stayed for reasonable amounts of time that I have no issue with, such as long weekends. However, the last couple of times she came down she stayed for 5 days, which though I wasn't too happy about I let slide as it wasn't too different to her usual 3 or 4, but the next time she stayed for a total of 10 days/9 nights. \n\nI was livid, and ended up feeling forced out of my own flat for the majority of that time. Most of the reason I was pissed off was that she was eating my food, drinking my drink etc, without offering a penny towards me, or even a simple thanks! Personally I would offer money or at least bring a bottle of wine as a thank you, at the very least say thanks, if I was even staying at someones for the night let alone the next 10 days.\n\nIt doesn't help that we don't really get on either; she is jealous of the relationship that my flatmate and I have, and even though there is nothing romantic about it at all, she seems to try her best to keep us apart the whole time she is at our flat. I wouldn't say I was jealous of her but her presence does irk me; I'm a creature of habit and her being there fully disrupts my meal routine as my flatmate and I can't cook for each other as normal. However, I stress that this last point wouldn't bother me if she wasn't so rude to me in my own home. \n\nAnyway, he didn't tell me about her coming until the day before she did, when I told him that she wasn't welcome for that long in our flat, especially not without asking me or any of my other flatmates about it. An extra person in our already small flat was a lot to handle, and it meant that we had to have predrinks in our bedrooms/eat in our bedrooms as we didn't feel comfortable being a 3rd party to them. He basically told me it was none of my business.\n\nProblem is, I couldn't just let it go - I'm a student so I'm not exactly wealthy, I certainly didn't want to fund somebody else. My flatmate promised me we'd work out something regarding money for the food she'd eaten. \n\nAfter the 10 days elapsed, it transpired neither of them were planning on giving me any money. He said they'd done the groceries, but they had only bought at most around 10 pounds worth of veg, most of which they'd eaten. He told me this was fair and couldn't do any more as he was low on cash. My argument is if neither of them could afford the extra money, she shouldn't have come for 10 days.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YqEBXdJOG0rWVAnzEAc0K12DkC2CcpqU", "post_id": "b47jad", "action": {"description": "throwing away some kids footballs", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for throwing away some kids footballs?", "text": "OK, so my partner and I moved to a nice little street last Summer and we have decent enough neighbours. However, our tiny little back garden has become a dumping ground for the kids footballs and toys (as well as rubbish). Initially it was one football that would get blown into the back and it'd sit there until the kids came back to get it. This wasn't an issue for us at first.\n\nOver time though, we have ended up with a collection of 6 footballs in our back. I've spoken to the parents about it because I've walked out of my back door a few times and fell over a ball. Right in front of my back door is a 5 foot brick wall and I almost cracked my head against it one night from tripping on a ball. Again, this has been brought up with the parents and the response is generally the same: \"kids, eh?\". \n\nOn top of the kids toys, I'm also removing other peoples rubbish from our back each day, as well as cigarette ends too. We can't do much out the back because our neighbours like to hang stuff over our fence and I've seen my neighbour shoving our property away from the fence so she can hang things on it (brushes, mops, mop buckets, towels etc).\n\nOur garden has become a dumping ground and I'm wondering if I would be an asshole for throwing the balls away. Every time I've thrown them out of the garden, they end up right where they were. \n\nSo, would I be an asshole for throwing the balls away? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "muH8upL970jQh4PLhMbe23vAp2pqfANP", "post_id": "avhkio", "action": {"description": "confiding in my ex instead of my boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for confiding in my ex instead of my boyfriend?", "text": "Throwaway account btw. \n\nI'm in university where I met my current bf who I've been with for 5 months who I'll refer to as Ben. Before uni I dated another guy for about 7 months who I'll call Jay, we broke up because he was always travelling and it was hard to maintain long distance so it was better to be friends. \n\nLately I've been going through a lot of personal stuff; I've battled with anxiety since I was young and its been really kicking into high gear lately, my family is planning a big move that will either result in an excruciating commute to school or me having to live on campus or find a roommate, I just lost a friend of 7 years due to a major falling out and I don't really have anyone else besides my current bf and my ex. \n\nMy bf Ben has a really intense major and works on the weekends. He's usually the first person that I go to when I need to vent or talk things through, but he's super busy with work and studying so I don't want to bother him. Especially right now because we have midterm exams. My ex Jay is really busy as well, he works in music and is constantly travelling. We don't even see each other as exes, we really just see each other as long time friends. I usually only confide in him if Ben is busy and can't reply for a while.  \n\nLately Ben has been more distant than usual, because of exams and studying or whatnot. He cancelled our scheduled datenight to study and doesn't text as much except to hear about my day and say goodnight (which I'm not angry about, I understand he has to study and he still makes sure to talk to me at least a little every night). I needed to talk about some stuff, just a mini rant to get things off my chest. I didn't want to bother Ben while he was studying, so I texted Jay instead. I ranted to him and I felt better. Later during our usual \"how was your day\" convo, I told Ben that I was having a rough day but I felt better after talking to Jay. This made him upset, and he said I could've come to him if I was upset, and I should've before talking to Jay. I said I didn't want to interrupt his studying and said I would go to him first next time. We didn't get into a huge argument about it, he's a really chill guy and we just carried on with our convo for a little bit before he went to bed. \n\nThe way I see it is both of them are super busy, but Ben doesn't reply until the evening and Jay replies almost instantly, and I don't want to be stewing over something all day when I can get it off my chest that moment. They're also different in how they react: Jay asks questions and gives advice, while Ben just says \"that sucks, just go relax.\" I usually always text Ben first and only text Jay if I don't get a reply, but this time I just skipped the middleman. The only reason was really because I didn't want to bother Ben and I knew I would get actual responses from Jay instead of \"sleep it off.\" \n\nAITA for confiding in my ex before my boyfriend?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "I56ia8ifhXwXh3OrkKx8xPDxL0mxZJ9e", "post_id": "ao5nlt", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go to Mexico", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go to Mexico?", "text": "My partner has invited me to go to Mexico for a week+ to celebrate a great grandmothers birthday. I\u2019ve never been out of the country, I don\u2019t have a passport, and I don\u2019t know this side of his family. \n\n\nI have expressed apprehension since the first day he asked a few months ago. Now, when tickets are being bought, he asked for a for sure answer, and I said no. \n\n\nHe was very disappointed, apparently having a bad day already, and I feel very guilty. Am I being a dick? \n\n\nTLDR; my partner wanted me to come to Mexico with them and I said no. They didn\u2019t take it well. \n\nUPDATE:  a miscommunication = I got another opportunity to go, so I\u2019m going. Bf is so happy \ud83d\udc95", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "71yueAvjC80YuQdp5vMliFwTRGKZVgnG", "post_id": "aqhqt2", "action": {"description": "not telling the waiter if there's an error on the bill", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for not telling the waiter if there's an error on the bill?", "text": "If I'm at a restaurant and the bill comes with an item missing, am I then obligated to tell the restaurant or is that their loss? Would you even go as far as to consider this stealing?\n\n\nI think the issue here is, that the social contract at a restaurant is very different from a store. For example, you consume the product before paying.\n\n\nAs a bonus question, are your opinion the same if I was part of a group (who didn't want to tell) and so would also be the snitch? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "XCYZNfZqZfu0ucoQbULwSPKuKeZolLDI", "post_id": "b4d9kr", "action": {"description": "not offering to repay my mom every time she does something for me", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not offering to repay my mom every time she does something for me?", "text": "\nI\u2019m 33, married with two kids. My mom is in a good place, about to retire. Sometimes she likes to invite us out to eat and always says \u201cif you\u2019re invited, you\u2019re not paying.\u201d My family doesn\u2019t really go out, except maybe ordering pizzas once a week. So eating out isn\u2019t really in our budget. Other things, like special crafts or classes that my mom wants to do, she will pay for. My husband and I combined have a decent income; enough to keep ahead of the bills, but we have no savings, student loan debt, and well, kids. My mom struggled financially when she was a young mom and has told me and my husband that as we were in the same place for the first few years of parenthood.\nSo this is why Im asking... I have a younger sister who has a very lucrative career and a husband in the same field, no kids. She insists on saying aloud every tome we all get together that my mom shouldn\u2019t be paying for anything. They will grab the ticket from the table and pay their meals. This puts us in an awkward position. Sometimes it\u2019s literally the question of: do we look like an asshole and be the only offspring to not pay our meal, do we charge it to the credit card, or do we overdraft our banking account?\nor like just today, my mom texted us asking if we wanted to do some candy making craft. I would never go make candy on any occasion except that it\u2019s my moms birthday and she wants us to al be together and make candy. But this sister already texted and said she will only go if my mom agrees to not pay for anyone else.\nAITA for not freaking out about reimbursing my mom for special things she does for me that she has expressed she does not expect payment for? Until just recently my husband and I were over drafting every month just to keep our kids fed and bills paid. We sold our first house and have created a bit of a buffer for the first time in ten years. So we do try to surprise my mom and her husband by bringing them little gifts or cooking for them or whatever. But I can\u2019t afford to keep up with my mom and my sisters. What do you guys think?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KJa1lN2SHU4MHSXWTROkdLjVfZcX6M06", "post_id": "a06a2d", "action": {"description": "wanting nothing to do with my mother anymore", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting nothing to do with my mother anymore?", "text": "Let me start this off by explaining why I am the way I am, and why my mother is the way she is. My entire family is very dysfunctional, essentially we're \"triple traumatized\".  My mother was raised by a Holocaust survivor, was verbally/emotionally abused by one of her husbands, and had to deal with my abused. I myself was verbally/emotionally abused as well, and sexually abused at school. That screwed my mom up as well as myself. Given the constant fighting and screaming I had to deal with growing up, I just detached myself. I do not have the same attachments to family that most people do. My primary focus in life is academic/career success: nothing comes before that, including family. I understand why she is the way she is, but I just don't care anymore.\n\nMy mother is neurotically overprotective. I'm a senior in college, and she has shown she doesn't see me as anything more than a child. Every winter, she has a mental breakdown. She thinks I'm going to die when it gets remotely cold out. I shit you not, she invoked the memory of the *holocaust* when I didn't wear a hat going out one time. \n\nAnother thing she does is send me little \"reminders\" over text very frequently. She reminds me of basic stuff that a senior in college, or anyone of my age, should know how to do. Sleeping, washing your face, etc. *I know to do all of these things*. I am not inept. I'm finishing undergrad early entirely out of my own drive.  I've told her time and time again that when she does this, it's belittling and demeaning. She fakes an apology, but then she turns right around and does it again the second she gets worried. These are just two examples.\n\nI've lost my temper at her before. I don't like it when I do that, and I'm working on it in therapy. But I feel like she just never listens to me. No matter what I say, or the manner I say it in, anything I say to her just goes in one ear and out the other. I love my mother, and I'm grateful for everything she's done for me. But I'm just so tired of it. I'm tired of being belittled. If it takes cutting her out of my life to get her to stop, I have no problems with doing so the moment I'm financially able to. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RMNVoDcPdSon8eXOYMZONU4lBAjWS2lh", "post_id": "b8blp6", "action": {"description": "being mad at my friend for being insecure", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being mad at my friend for being insecure", "text": "So, title sounds a bit odd but hear me out on this one.\n\nMe and my friend, lets call him Tim. Tim is very shy and timid, but he seems to be super open around me and my other friend, lets call him Alex. Which is super awesome because he's hilarious and a genuinely great dude. \n\nWell Tim also happens to really like this one girl. Tim's had a crush on this one girl since about freshman year (we're seniors). So this girl that Tim really liked sat at a table that's right next to ours today during lunch. I saw this and told Tim about it. He simply responded \"oh that's cool\" I told him how he should ask her out and he completely refused, saying how they could never get together. I tried telling him how he needs to be brave to get over his fear of asking this girl out. But he wouldn't have any of it and told me to please stop talking about it. I did but he didn't talk to me for the rest of the period. \n\nAm I in the wrong here? I really want to see Tim get over his fears and go for this girl. But I understand this thing can be really tough to get over. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EoKgWignWBcYzw4BDfpJNWWtj2BawzrV", "post_id": "asykuu", "action": {"description": "refusing to compromise with my girlfriend about my eating habits", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA: For refusing to compromise with my girlfriend about my eating habits.", "text": "A bit of background on me: I\u2019m a competitive powerlifter. I total 1300+ @ 163 lbs (only mentioned for credibility; if you know much about powerlifting, it\u2019s a pretty solid total, 420+ wilks. I\u2019m not just some fat dude who calls himself a \u201cpowerlifter\u201d to justify my eating habits). \n\nI have to eat. A lot. Right now I\u2019m bulking and with my daily activity, I need a total of 3800+ calories a day. That\u2019s a fuck ton of food. \n\nAs such, I admittedly eat unhealthy. Desserts many times a day, soda (easy 200 palatable calories), a bunch of snacks. Unhealthy foods are much more easy to eat a lot of versus healthier foods. I do get in 200+ grams of protein, but to gain muscle and to gain strength, the only thing that matters is your protein and calories. \n\nMy girlfriend comes from a good place, but she consistently nags me about my diet. Don\u2019t get me wrong; I\u2019m not afraid of a vegetable and fruit are delicious; she\u2019s just concerned with the amount of sugar/fat I\u2019m eating. But as mentioned earlier, 3800 is a LOT of food. I can barely tolerate eating that much with my current diet; I physically can not scarf down 3800 of \u201chealthy\u201d calories. I can eat much better when I\u2019m cutting/losing weight, but that\u2019s probably 1/3-1/4 of the time. She wants me to me to limit my sugar intake to 1 sweet a day, max. Which, again, sounds reasonable. But it is completely counterintuitive to my current fitness goals. \n\nAnd it\u2019s not about weight. My body is great; when I tell people I compete, people assume i compete in bodybuilding. It\u2019s genuinely about the fact that she doesn\u2019t like me eating unhealthy. Keep in mind; I\u2019ve been dating her for a year and I\u2019ve competed for around 1.5. So this isn\u2019t anything new. When we first started dating, she thought my \u201ccheat days\u201d were always just planned on dates because I look fit, so she assumed I had a much healthier diet than I did. \n\nAITA for telling her I refuse to compromise?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xgl6jxKsZBhZcy22qTrnTSGODmmp2C6X", "post_id": "alt78l", "action": {"description": "quitting earlier than I said I would", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA if I quit earlier than I said I would?", "text": "Work at this job that I absolutely hate but I want to leave on good terms as I do need a reference. Originally I told them I\u2019d leave at the end of the April but I honestly just want to hand in my two weeks now. AITA for wanting to do this? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oPtAjEnWubn67WEEzXJZUHTr1X53FyyQ", "post_id": "avtvnb", "action": null, "title": "AITA - My boyfriend wants to go on a holiday with another woman. I don't want this?", "text": "My boyfriend and I are together for 3 years and both in our mid 20's.\n\nTwo years into the relationship he met this girl from work and they quickly became friends. I never really liked her, she gave me nasty faces and all. Clingy behavior. My boyfriend said this was all in my head.\n\nNow they are quite close friends. This girl has won a 3day trip holiday to another country. Since she calls my boyfriend \"her best friend\" she asked my boyfriend to join. I do not want this. Although he says he can fix different hotel rooms, the anxiety that this gives me is insane. \n\nIf he would go, it would be an almost free holiday for him. He is angry at me because I don't want him to go. He is still doubting.\n\nI cannot join, since I have to work and I don't even have money for my own tickets and all that.\n\nAm I an asshole for refusing this to happen?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 37, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 41, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PEa3TGH2PPRS1XoAc7dVObiBi0BloCI8", "post_id": "apr0iu", "action": {"description": "telling my housemate she'll need to pay more for electricity, water and gas", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my housemate she\u2019ll need to pay more for electricity, water and gas?", "text": "It\u2019s mainly the electricity, but I\u2019ve asked about this housemate before because I\u2019ve been struggling with mobility and she\u2019s been getting on my nerves; but I had a chat with my friends and partner to see if I was overreacting.\n\nSo my partner and I are strapped for cash for different reasons, I can\u2019t work at the moment because I\u2019ve broken my ankle extensively and can\u2019t walk for 3 months and my partner makes child support payments every week.\n\nSince this housemate moved in (about a month ago) she\u2019ll leave lights, fans and appliances on for hours on end while she leaves the house. Or if she goes to bed she\u2019ll leave the TV on, lights on and fans on. And this isn\u2019t just a one off, I\u2019ve had to have this conversation with her on 6 occasions and those are the occasions where half the houses lights have been left on and she\u2019s been gone for 6 or 7 hours.\n\nI know it hasn\u2019t been my partner because he works a lot of the time, and this only started when she moved in. \n\nIt\u2019s gotten to the point that if I know she\u2019s going out I\u2019ll ask her to make sure she turns everything off that needs to be turned off, or if we\u2019re leaving to go to the same place I\u2019ll check it. I don\u2019t feel like I should need to check this.\n\nBut since we\u2019re so strapped for money at the moment and we have been trying to conserve our electricity, water and gas I told her that if this continues her rent will need to increase to cover these costs. \n\nIt\u2019s also stuff like putting a pair of socks in the washing machine and turning it on, or a shirt and turning it on, and those items are the only load. This has happened on a number of occasions, and she only uses the dryer never the clothes line which takes a lot of power. And we have beautiful sunny (sometimes a little hot) days.\n\nOr the dishwasher will have a plate and cutlery in it and she\u2019ll turn it on. \n\nTl;dr my housemate uses excessive amounts of electricity and water even though I\u2019ve asked her to conserve it and remember if she\u2019s going out to turn things off, so I told her her rent will need to increase to cover this if it continues. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uDWYhkrYA7clWNoznJ3qVeIwPMJwUBec", "post_id": "ao8eus", "action": {"description": "setting a coworker up to fail", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for setting a coworker up to fail?", "text": "One of my coworkers (F27) (I'll call her Sina) is quite shy or at least quiet and never complains, but she does her work well. Unfortunately another coworker (Monika) (F34) took advantage of that and often gives her part of his workload to do as well (and tells her to give it back to her to commit), which causes Sina to fall behind with her own work. Also, Sina does her work better, so Monika benefits from that as well, and when Monika does a shit job, she'll drop the task on Sina last minute and then lets her commit the faulty task. \n\nNow, I'd usually try to stay out of this (or at least wait until I have a good way to prove it to the boss, since I can't just record it in office), but here is the thing: From the looks of it, Monika is bound to get promoted once my boss retires (partly because of the work that Sina did for her). Unfortunately for me (or for her in the end), she's a very bigoted person that always talks shit about men in the company workforce, saying we are lazy and do a shit job, and that there should be more women anyways (I don't disagree with the last part though). At the same time she is the one who steals someone elses work and time... If she were to become boss, it could be quite problematic since I'm trying to get promoted to a different position where I need the votes of at least 3 company bosses (position my current boss holds). And of course I don't want a stupid lazy bitch to become my boss. Meanwhile I'm on good terms with Sina and I expect her to be more professional in said position.\n\nWhen Sina went on holiday for a week, Monika fell behind in her work, but intentionally didn't commit anything, probably wanting to let Sina do it to avoid negative feedback again... When she came back from holiday I talked to Sina and changed a setting so that work sent to Monika from her account would still be flagged as hers after committing. I also logged into Monikas account (I have a habit of watching people enter passwords, I think I know those of all coworkers by now), and commited all the work Monika had marked as completed but not yet commited (the stuff she usually lets Sina commit). \n\nThis didn't go unnoticed by the boss, and he angrily came asking why so much of Monika's tasks where flagged as Sinas and if that was the reason why Sina was always late with hers. It didn't end well for Monika (partly because of me and another coworker who said that we often saw Monika carry documents over to Sina) and she got a warning from the boss that she could forget a promotion and might lose her job if she does it again. Sina on the other hand got a raise.\n\nTL;DR: A coworker was being a bitch and pushing her mistakes on someone else. I exposed her in a sneaky way and made sure she'll not become my boss to avoid future trouble with her.\n\nAITA for doing this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "J3TnAUyitOGVfoKLal0l0k8f7PGIyoJ9", "post_id": "b8ql6d", "action": {"description": "suggesting to my freind to stop being friends with his ex", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA For Suggesting To My Freind To Stop Being Friends With His EX?", "text": " \n\nHey Reddit first time poster! But this is something that has been on my recently.. So Reddit.. Would I be the asshole for suggesting to my friend to stop being friends with his ex? So here are the key players, (Not their real names!)\n\nDerrick = My friend\n\nKaren = My friends ex\n\nHellen= Me and Derrick's friend (Very bad at supporting, or comforting people IMPORTANT LATER)\n\nMaddie = Karen's friend\n\nMe = ~~A magical wizard from the future~~ Me!\n\n**The relationship:**\n\nNow it started off great! They really both cared for each other. Then, she started to ignore him in every other class but lunch. Okay weird but... Then the event happened, It was a normal Friday I gotten home and started playing video games, then Derrick called the group chat crying, Karen had messaged him that she wanted to break up, since she liked Maddie (Maddie was a jerk too Derrick mind you,) My friend Hellen, couldn't handle this so she left the call, leaving me to comfort him. Derrick is a nice kid, he kept saying it wasn't Karen's fault for breaking up with him, that it was his!\n\nNow present day Derrick still kinda of has a crush on her. She caused him problems. But, funny thing is, this wasn't caused by the breakup. This happened months after it. But he continued to be friends with her, which, I am guessing may have caused this. Why? Because relationships with your ex can be terrible! He still has a crush on her, since he has every class with her and sits right next to her. Imagine seeing someone you were so close to having a relationship with dating someone else, or just being stuck in a friend zone with someone you love..\n\nSo Reddit WIBTA for suggesting my friend that it might be better for him to stop being friends with his ex? I might just be acting over protective, but I just want him to be happy!", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3CgHHD7KmqK5bYgZGiZgmxiEnkTjptnd", "post_id": "ale7tj", "action": {"description": "having a girl stay over with me in a room I rented from a friend", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for having a girl stay over with me in a room I rented from a friend?", "text": "Sorry for the long post; it's complicated. \n\nI've been friend's with C for many years. I ran into some difficult times in a housing situation, and C and his girlfriend K offered to rent me a room. C had been dating K for about a year, and I was good friends with K as well. I was weary about cohabitating with friends, but they practically begged me to do it. We set some ground rules, rent cost etc, and one rule being that they were 100% ok with me having  girls over or whatever, (tenant/landlord law in the state forbids landlords from preventing a tenant from having guests anyway.) \n\nFast forward a few months, I had to have knee surgery which put me off of work for 14 weeks. In this time I needed an incredible amount of help getting around ( I couldn't drive either) and the girl I was seeing was amazing at helping me. She would stay over on days when I had early morning doctor of PT appointments and help me whenever she could.\n The problem was, K did not like this girl. K is the kind of friend who thinks she knows what's best for you, so even though she had no discernable reason to hate her, she just did. One week this girl had to stay over about 4 nights in a row, to help me getting to appointments and we were also working on a large charity project for a children's hospital ( this was around the holidays)\nI should note that this girl didn't shower here, we didn't cook or eat their food, drink their drinks or hang out in common areas. I/We literally stayed in the room I rented the entire time. \nAbout a week later I get this text from K:\n\n\"Hey, I don't have a lot of friends, but the ones I do have, I value a lot in my life. Part of the reason I probably don t have a lot of friends is because I don't like to bullshit or be fake. If there's something bothering me, I like to talk about it and resolve it. I know you've told me you've had bad experiences with roommates and I have too, trust me, but I really did mean it when I said that we will never have an issue, because we are all good friends. \nI'm going to be upfront because I don't expect anything less from you. Get your dick wet...i love sex and I don't feel like you should be deprived. But can (girl) just come less? She's there every single day, and we didn't really sign up for 2 roommates. My sisters will be here from dec 23rd till January 11th, and unfortunately we only have two bathrooms, so could she also please not come when they are here? \"\n\nI responded \"ok\" but I was actually hurt a lot by this. \nLike.. being accused of trying to move this girl in, when she had no property here and didn't cost them anything was insulting. Also they know I can't walk or drive around due to my surgery, yet assume she's just staying over for sex. Not to mention I felt like if I rent a room somewhere, I should be able to sleep with whoever I want in that room. \nI couldn't argue the point because they're the ones helping me out with housing, and I didn't want to put my friend C in the middle of this, but I felt like this was only said because K hated this girl. I started looking for a new place to stay immediately but it took 6 weeks. In this 6 weeks neither K nor C, or her visiting sisters would even acknowledge my existence. No one would talk to me or even make eye contact with me. Not to mention my birthday was during the time her sisters were over which made it incredibly lonely sitting in my room like a ghost in the attic. \nI moved out and haven't spoken to K at all since. C contacted me later asking me to apologize to K for \"getting weird and ignoring her\" after she sent that text. The thing is, I couldn't do it. I didn't want to be her friend anymore. Unfortunately it also cost me my friendship with C. \nTLDR: I rented a room with my friend and his girlfriend. They agreed before hand they're cool with me having girls over. Had a girl over too often due to needing help with injury/Charity work. Friend's girlfriend hated this girl asked me to not have her come over so often/ anymore. I felt like if I rent a room, I should be able to sleep with whoever I want in that room. Both friendships with friend and his girlfriend are destroyed. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "acYOkL9nFJoVlMKA7M7hbpOdX43akCdp", "post_id": "aub5w5", "action": {"description": "losing interest in this girl over too much affection", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for losing interest in this girl over too much affection?", "text": "Wondering if I'm being an asshole right now, even though I don't mean to be. \n\nI have been seeing this girl for a few weeks. She is amazing - intelligent, hilarious, and she's a great listener and conversationalist. For the first week, I was head over heels. \n\nWe've been spending a lot of time together. I'm an introvert and prefer one-on-one hangouts, but she texts me all day, every day, saying misses me or asking to hang out. Another problem is our budding relationship is almost.. overly physically intimate. I  know that that sounds like an absolutely crazy thing to complain about, but I can't get her to sit still for 5 minutes without kissing my neck or trying to get me to making out with her. That is not an exaggeration. Sometimes I just want to chill and enjoy her company and conversation. It's overwhelming.\n\nI'm not some hot model someone should be falling head over heels for. I'm not even a *super* sexual person... I enjoy sex, but have had abusive relationships in the past that make a lot of physical contact a bit stressful. It takes me time to feel comfortable with someone.\n\nThe most confusing part is that I've tried to tell her this. She told me she wanted me to always tell her whenever I was uncomfortable or needed space. Each time I've said so, she looks extremely hurt. If I told her every time I was uncomfortable/needed space, I'd be hurting her feelings all the time. Every other sentence she says is something about how much she likes me, or how handsome I am, or how obsessed she is with me. (She is a successful adult person, haha. She isn't sitting at home staring at a picture of me.)\n\nI don't want to hurt her feelings. Who asks someone else to kiss them and compliment them less? I'd be crushed if someone said that to me, but I really can't explain just how much of it is happening, and how uncomfortable it makes me. I'm not good at attention.\n\nThe last part makes me feel especially asshole-ish. She has an adorable dog, who is allowed into her bed. I don't automatically have a problem with that - the issue is that her bed is always *coated* in dog hair. I don't like being naked and coated in dog fur while trying to have sexytimes. On top of that, the dog (who is very big) whines if not allowed on the bed, which results in us trying to do the deed around it. I just feel weird fucking her with my thigh pressed up against her dog's ass. How am I supposed to say that without sounding like an asshole? She loves her dog more than life itself. How do I ask her to wash her sheets without sounding like a dick? Do I buy her a lint-roller? (Kidding.)\n\nTLDR: Amazing girl is super, *super* into me. Like, intensely so. Can't go five minutes without trying to make out with me. How do I ask her to back off without hurting her feelings? She asked me to be open but gets really sad whenever I do so. I was super into her but am getting overwhelmed. I don't want to sleep in dog hair. Might be shallow.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aSQI7JotfYCkzKkKixncv9C7xA4C56DI", "post_id": "ai8ghd", "action": {"description": "destroying my friend's base", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for destroying my friend's base?", "text": "So I made a server on ark just for me and friends. My friends said that they wanted PvP to be turned on so we can have an all out war. I turned it on and waited for everyone to get on. Everyone got on and we started having a war. I also started to destroy bases and kill things. But apparently they said i'm an asshole for killing them and destroying their stuff. So I felt bad and let them destroy my base. But they still are calling me an asshole for destroying stuff. So am I one?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bd4uke36XAFiQ6aG1LOFE62S0QCmKmkI", "post_id": "amx6un", "action": {"description": "telling my mom to look for the remote herself", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for telling my mom to look for the remote herself?", "text": "My mom always asks me where the TV remote is. Every fucking day. So one day, I was fed up with her telling me that and told her to look for it herself. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "YcdEB86gPH8Tbsjf5uayR1wdrBHvdGWF", "post_id": "9upzof", "action": null, "title": "AITA?", "text": "Okay this been bothering me I don't know if\n I'm a ass hole for do it but my son real father I cut him out of his life beacuse of choices he made. Here the long story when I was pregnant my ex was happy about it when we were together but times went on about 2 months his demeanor/attitude change he started being more rude about things. Didn't want go to the doctor appointment he only went maybe 3times. I was okay with that. Then he started make comments how I'm not the same anymore to how immature I Have Become ect. He try to feel the bady move but said he thought it was weird. He started called the baby a fetus. As time when on we to find if we have boy or girl he just look at the screen with my parents. We found out it was a boy and my dad was so excited but when he ask my ex how he feels it all he said im happy and that was it. When I was 7 months things turn for the wrost he broke up with me and told me I could stay but made it sound like I was unwelcome and started hang with anther girl. So I couldn't handle it so I moved back with my parents and he was okay with it. We made agree in talking that we keep how my son name would be after him to he how to make effort no matter what to be in my son his life like call to visit ect. Well after I move out he change again and start not doing what he said he would do. Call maybe ever now then ask about how my son is. There times I had to beg him. Then he got into relationship with that girl after 2 weeks with this girl was my friend too and I warn her about him. Same thing kept happen and he told me that when he see my son every other weekend when he born. Well that didn't sit right with me but at the same time didn't register (note this whole time I was depressed and upset about the whole thing) but I went with it. I still have beg him to ask how the baby is. He would tell me he love the baby and be the there for him but his actions was telling me different.  He told me to call or text when the baby with going to come. Well my dad told me if he not going to full effort now then he won't when my son is born that he shouldn't have right to baby at all. As my son about came  he was there band the girl was too which I told him I didn't want to her because I felt she betrayed me as her friend tell me she got my back so on. The tell I was have contractions more more he told me that why i call him even though the baby wasn't here yet. He brother was there all excited about it. him on the other hand act all emotionless. Few hours past I had my son. He held him smile my mom ask you thinking. His exact response i feel like im staring at myself. That was it. Minutes past and he told me I have to accept his girlfriend into my son's life even if I don't like it. I just look at him didn't say words my heart broke even more (note I was tired and exhausted after give birth) then he went back home for work. Later texting my mom that he will take care of the maternity test so he can be on the birth certificate( note he wasn't there when I did all the paperwork for the birth certificate) when my son was a week old hey I've been text me saying I want to see my son but he's bringing his girl I told him no I feel uncomfortable about her comeing but he can come see him. He said no I want her to be there so I just take him to the Park. I said no it to cold outside. He still insisted take him to the park so his girlfriend could see him. I was upset I thought I deal with it because my hormones were going all wacky. So my mom told him to stop act like she his mom that this shouldn't be about her but my son. He said okay then I didn't hear very much from him ever now and how the baby. Then he text mom mom that he got the maternity test ready and me and my mom should go there now. My mom got a little bit aggravated and told him we're not going to always jump every time you say jump. ( note I kind of stopped talking to him because he kept guilt-tripping me and making me sound like I was a horrible person the only time I talk him if it's about my son) He didn't respond the day then saying he comeing over I said okay I waited 6 hour he didn't show then text to me saying something came up. This happen 3 more time less he ask how my son was he kept making up excuses I begged him over and over to come see his son. Nothing work it was always a excuse. I finally got tired of it and getting more more depressed so blocked him on Facebook been changed my number he send my mom ask why i block him when he should have already knew. Now it's been almost 2 years and he still has not made any effort. I Heard it Through the Grapevine he doesn't even talk about me or my son anymore. Him and the girl broke up he move back with his parents that what I heard and now he talk about my son again even though he hasn't made any effort to come see him after he has a girlfriend again. Did I make the right choice? I was trying save son from heart brake because I seen so my many of my friends go through the same situation with their parents and I didn't want that for him I wanted him to have a father to come see him all the time and be there for him not just wait when ever his father feels like it. I begged him to come see his son in past I did everything but it felt like it was never enough for him. It felt like was always bad person to him it seemed. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pEiuOUdtvN6aQ7bDnXAD3BfCiBPXcgDu", "post_id": "b1dikz", "action": {"description": "not taking the lunch my dad packed for me to school", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not taking the lunch my dad packed for me to school?", "text": "It sounds stupid and mean, but bear with me here. My dad is an extremely controlling person, whether it\u2019s something big or something super little and pointless. This is something the entirety of my family agrees on, with the exception of my dad of course. One of those little pointless things he\u2019s decided to control in my life is packing my lunch for school. The main reasons I have a problem with this are because:\na) The food in his house is often far past its expiration date and I don\u2019t feel comfortable eating stuff from there unless I\u2019ve checked the date. I have been packed moldy food several times before\nb) The food he does pack just doesn\u2019t taste good. I\u2019ll force myself to eat a bite or two, but almost all of it gets thrown away. I don\u2019t want to waste food. I\u2019ve asked him to pack different foods, but he never does.\nc) I literally don\u2019t have room to carry it.\n\nI\u2019ve asked him several times to just let me pack the lunch if he wants me to take a lunch that badly, to which he always vehemently refuses and yells at me about. I\u2019ve asked him several times to, if he wants to pack a lunch, to just ask me first so that I can make a little more room in my bag and get a word in about what food he\u2019s having me take. He always says he\u2019ll ask, but I always walk downstairs to him with a fully packed lunch ready for me, and I\u2019ll ask him again to just let me know before hand. It\u2019s a never ending cycle.\nSo this morning, I walked downstairs to see a fully packed lunch on the table. I told my dad I wouldn\u2019t take it and explained how I had asked him time and time again to just let me know first. He got angry and started yelling about how unappreciative I am and starting dissing how my mom never packs me lunch (divorced parents) and went on about how it\u2019s his house, so he\u2019ll pack me lunch if he so pleases. I didn\u2019t yell back, I just went upstairs and quietly left afterwards. Honestly, had he just asked beforehand, I would\u2019ve taken it, but he didn\u2019t. He\u2019s still mad at me for not taking the lunch.\n\nSo, Reddit, am I the asshole for refusing to take the lunch my dad packed for me to school?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "X7WZhxF9vxJPFmSqAWMgBrYr6F2hL1Lt", "post_id": "ay44og", "action": {"description": "being angry about significant other buying a brand new motorcycle", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For being angry about significant other buying a brand new motorcycle?", "text": "A little background here. My S/O and I have just moved in together he moved from Florida to be with me in New England. \n\nMy S/O has not been paying his half of the 1300 dollar rent bill for 3 months stating he is unable to afford it. I\u2019m the primary lease holder so if I\u2019m late on rent or something I\u2019ll get screwed over. He texted me the other day that be bought a brand new motorcycle and is having it customized. \n\nHe left some paperwork on the table and I saw the final bill is 27k and monthly payments of 300+. When he got home that day from work I completely flipped out on him. \n\nHe called me some choice names because I raised the matter that I haven\u2019t been able to eat a proper meal in 3 months because of him not being able to rent. \n\nHe is on the lease as a roommate so it won\u2019t affect him like it would affect me if I\u2019m late on rent. \n\nAm I the asshole for raising hell about him buying a new bike and not paying rent while I\u2019m going without? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1VxdlKRSw8chISd3xYCDzvESNWfXxbwX", "post_id": "avbc92", "action": {"description": "detailing the more graphic scenes in GTAV to persuade parents not to buy GTAV for kids under 16-18", "pronormative_score": 112, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for detailing the more graphic scenes in GTAV to persuade parents not to buy GTAV for kids under 16-18?", "text": "I've worked for Target for about a year now, and I just transferred to a new store. I work in electronics. Today, my co-worker was with me while I was helping a guest buy a videogame for her son. She said her son was 9 years old, and wanted GTAV. I explained the M rating on the game, and asked her if it was okay, and she asked for more information. I explained that the game has a graphic torture scene as well as a plethora of sexual themes and moments, intense swearing/language, as well as the online aspect of GTAV. After my explanation, the mother was concerned and decided NOT to buy her son GTA V, and instead bought a different game.\n\nAfter the sale, my co-worker asked me why I was \"videogame  cockblocking\" her son. He said it was kind of a dick move, but 'you do you' he said. He made a big deal about it in the break room with a few fellow coworkers, and they gave a pretty mixed response.\n\nI just don't know if I was the asshole for convincing that mother not to buy GTA V for her son, but to rather go with a different game.\n\nthe way I see it, if I went in to buy a game for my kids (which I don't have), and it was a game I knew literally NOTHING about, I'd want to be informed of the game's content to help me determine if my kids should or shouldn't be playing that game. I was doing what I'd want done for me.\n\nTL;DR- I convinced a naive mother *not* to buy GTAV for her 9 year old.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 108, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 112, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eWD9rjEwVpbbLoDo6O7yBgwpD4u3OtJb", "post_id": "b14jai", "action": {"description": "forgetting to forward a mourning card to the precious owners of my house", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for forgetting to forward a mourning card to the precious owners of my house?", "text": "OK, first of all, thanks for reading. This happened two years ago and is still on my mind sometimes. Also, English is not my first language so my apologies if I mess up.\n\nSome background info: I'm a bit of a recluse. I work from home and love love love it. But, there are times that I don't have to leave the house for a few days. Not that I don't want to, I just don't have to. As I live in an apartment building and the mailboxes are all downstairs, I don't check my mail every day. I rarely get mail anyway, everything is digital these days. I only get spam and some local newspaper. And mail addressed to the previous owners.\n\nI bought this house a few years ago, in August, and moved in in November 2012. The previous owners were somewhere in their 80s and moved to an assisted living facility about a mile away. It's on the way to the cinema and my parents.\n\nAfter I moved in I received a considerable amount of mail for them. I would collect it and when I went to the movies about twice a month I would drop it off in their mailbox at the front desk.\n\nEvery once in a while I would receive a mourning card for them. I didn't open them, I don't even think I'm allowed to, but I would jump in my car and drop it off, because I wasn't sure when the card had arrived. This happened a few times in the first few years. Sometimes it was late and I would wait until the next morning to drop it off.\n\nSo two years ago. I had been living there for 4,5 years. I received two mourning cards within a few weeks. I dropped the first one off immediately. The second one... well crap. Something went wrong. I put it in my bag to drop it off but I wasn't feeling well and got distracted. I suck. I spent the weekend on the couch like a coughing corpse and totally forgot about it. It took me three days to drop it off. And I didn't even know when the card had arrived in the first place. Shit.\n\nI dropped it off in the morning and the next day I received a letter. From the former owners of this house. They were mad as hell, because they had missed the funeral. Apparently the funeral was on the morning that I had dropped off the card. Oh shit. They asked me why I hadn't given them a call so they could have picked up the card (I don't even have their number. Luckily they didn't have my number either otherwise they would have called me. Dodged a bullet there). They were upset and condescending and calling me irresponsible and selfish.\n\nI didn't do it on purpose and it had been over 4,5 years since I moved in, why in the name of fuck do I still get your mail? What if I was on vacation or in the hospital or god knows what? But I still feel guilty, although my friends and family tell me not to, especially after their shitty letter. There was some more correspondence after this in which they acted like five year olds, but it doesn't change the fact that I was late delivering the card.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8X9WVkkI7keaQwZy9KQHZhowmPOqVOs3", "post_id": "ab8ybv", "action": {"description": "leaving a cart of groceries in an aisle and walking out of the store", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA if I leave a cart of groceries in an aisle and walk out of the store?", "text": "So I feel like an asshole, but I also feel like I didn\u2019t have a choice. I have some anxiety and am a hypochondriac, not sure if that makes a difference in your judgement, but that\u2019s my reasoning. \n\nI was in a grocery store shopping with my infant son. A young girl walks by with her dad and she is puking everywhere. I took my son, left my cart and just walked out of the store. I just assumed it was a stomach bug (or something worse) and I didn\u2019t want myself or my son to get sick so in a split second decision I just grabbed him, turned around, and left. I only had a few items, but one of the items was bagels that I put in a bag that could not be returned to the bin.  \n\nI feel like I am an asshole for leaving my shit there, but I panicked, and maybe wasn\u2019t thinking rationally. I feel like I essentially stole the bagels because I didn\u2019t pay for them and they are un-sellable, and some store employee will have to return my 3 other items - probably after mopping up puke. I guess I\u2019m wondering if I was in any way justified, or just a straight up asshole.  It is 30 minutes later and I am sweating and feel nauseous.  Stupid brain...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wvMvB3nXH8HkLwo8irjl762087dzsIgF", "post_id": "are78b", "action": {"description": "dropping my friend because I feel Im being used", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For dropping my friend because i feel im being used?", "text": "So her and i have been friends for about 2.5 years when she was single she always spent time with me and our friend group but anyway in these 2.5 years she has had 3 relationships and when she gets in them she would ignore us all day every day but when she would have a problem she would call us crying and vent about her problems for usualy no less then 3-6hrs then complain she was tired and sleep and then i asked her \"how about we just have like a 5 minute call a day? thats enough for me\" and then she said \"well i dont have that kind of time for you im always with my boyfriend and other friends\" and that was the final straw because we had conversations about this atleast 3 other times so i dropped her out of my life am i the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dvsthRR2d8LMQWbxgjKbsZ3HlgCkoH1t", "post_id": "b0hs01", "action": {"description": "making my roommate pay to eat our food", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for making my roommate pay to eat our food?", "text": "I'll make this one short and sweet. I live with two of my close friends. Let's just call them 1 & 2. So 1 & I decided to order our groceries through an app that'll have them delivered to us & split the total. We asked 2 if he wanted to add anything to the cart and 2 said \"Nah I'll go to Walmart and get food I'm good.\" So 1 & I left it at that. 1 & I ran through the food and decided to place another order a few weeks later. Same thing happened. 1& I filled up the cart with essentials, and then asked 2 if he wanted to add anything and split the total with us. 2 said \"Bro nah that place your food shopping at sucks. I'm good\" then 2 got up and walked out lol. So I get home one day and see a little bit of smeared jelly, crumbs, and an opened loaf of bread on the counter. Turns out 2 made a PB&J sandwich with 1 & I's bread. So I text 2 letting him know I would never turn down food from someone, ever, but if 2's going to be eating anything 1 & I paid for than 2 has to pay part of the grocery bill. 2 was exclaiming \"it's only bread peanut butter and jelly why are you taking it so serious?\" & I was tryna explain to 2 that it's about the principal of boundaries. You don't shit on food in any way, especially two guys food shopping who are asking you if you want to split a bill and save money and say \"Nah that place sucks\" then turn around and eat food that came from that same establishment you said sucks a day ago. I had to tell him all this plus, please don't touch the food unless you've put money towards the bill or AT LEAST ASK one of us to make a sandwich. Now he just orders dominos every night while we cook and eat the craziest meals every day. I feel like an asshole cause he won't eat meals with us anymore but he did it to himself though.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "65vY6eF3Wtng9E36clMSo7iGibyZrdxI", "post_id": "ar4rie", "action": {"description": "excluding a girl from our lunch table", "pronormative_score": 26, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for excluding a girl from our lunch table", "text": "I go to a vocational school and I\u2019m in a close-knit group with friends in all different classes. \u2018Katie\u2019 is in hospitality, they are trained to be servers/bartenders etc. I think it\u2019s valuable work even if it\u2019s not glamorous, but it has the reputation of being the class you sign up for when you can\u2019t get into anything else.\n\nFrom the moment I started here Katie glommed onto me. I\u2019ve tried to be nice but Katie is racist/homophobic. I have heard her use the n-word and call people fxg and dxke among others. Each time I hear it I correct her nicely but she always does it again. One of the guys at our lunch table is gay, too.\n\nShe lies all the time and talks about really inappropriate stuff; we\u2019ll be talking about music or something and she\u2019ll say her uncle went to jail for molesting her cousin (yes that happened and it was as awkward as it sounds).\n\nA few days ago at lunch one of our other friends was showing everyone the photo book her boyfriend made her, and while no one was looking, Katie drew mustaches/glasses/crazy hair on their faces in a couple photos and thought it was hilarious. If that isn\u2019t bad enough she refused to apologize and our other friend was so upset.\n\nAfter the picture incident I told her we needed to take a break while she figured out how to be a good friend. She laughed and said I sounded like an episode of Daniel Tiger (idk what that even means) and walked away, and then yesterday she tried to sit at our table at lunch. Everyone stopped talking and looked at me, so I said \u2018can we help you, Katie?\u2019 and she said \u2018no, why?\u2019 to which I replied \u2018I told you that we need to take a break, so you need to find someplace else to sit at lunch\u2019.\n\nShe went and TOLD THE VICE PRINCIPAL that we were excluding her because she\u2019s in hospitality. VP then told me I needed to be nice to Katie because she doesn\u2019t have many friends. I told VP everything I just wrote and she said \u2018I know she\u2019s socially awkward but you still have to be nice to her\u2019.\n\nToday she was sitting at a different table where no one was talking to her, and one of the guys at my table asked if we were maybe being a little harsh since none of us really talk to her outside school either. But then everyone mostly agreed it was nice to have a normal lunch for a change.\n\nSo.... AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 26, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 26, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9t5Hri8EhZgwWdLGne0xqI20jj1TBq7Q", "post_id": "aehmba", "action": {"description": "wanting my husband to show me his bank account transactions because I think he was lying and losing my temper when he wouldn't", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting my husband to show me his bank account transactions because I think he was lying and losing my temper when he wouldn't?", "text": "So this is not my usual account, as I don't want people to know that my marriage is on the rocks.  I'd like to start by giving you a rundown of our history so far, so you can get a general idea of what each of us are dealing with. This will be long. TL;DR at bottom.\n\nMy husband and I have been married just over 5 years. What I didn't know when we got married was that my husband had a gambling issue. He hid it very well when we were dating and for a good few months after we got married, but then as we started living together there were aspects that didn't add up. Less than a year into the marriage he admitted that he had a gambling issue.\n\nMy husband is paid weekly, and his pay is fairly high compared to my own. He earns about 75k per year, whereas I earn about 60k now. To compound on the pay gap, I was a student when we first met (husband is a lot older), and worked restaurant jobs during the first two years of marriage. Then I moved onto an admin job, and now I am working in my field of choice. It is entirely fair to say that my husband has consistently earned more than me. I estimate that if I had brought in about 110k over the last 5 years, my husband had earned around 200k or a little more.\n\nMy issue is that my husband had never, not once, missed a week of gambling. Each payday he is in a pub or at the casino, gambling. The smallest amount from memory is about $200.00 per week. When he is feeling especially addicted, he will literally blow his entire week's wage on pokie machines, and then ask me for part of my wages too. This has happened more times than I can count. \n\nDuring our marriage, I have managed to compile approximately $30k in personal loan debts and $42k for a car loan. He has asked money from every member of his family, to the point they will no longer lend him money. He gambles every tax return away. He has gambled about $8k of personal loan debts. We have since sold the car, so I have about 30k in debts owing in my name.\n\nI interpret this to mean that my husband is not bringing in enough money into the relationship, regardless of how much he is earning, as he is spending a significant chunk on gambling. \n\nMeanwhile, I generally try to scrimp. I cut my hair once a year, I never do my nails, I don't buy clothes unless I absolutely need it. I feel that even if I have earned less, I have brought into the relationship as much, or arguably even more, than my husband. \n\nMy husband does not agree. He is adamant that he could not have spent as much as I say he has. We fight over money every payday. I was patient and kind the first year or so, until my personality started getting ugly, and frankly abusive, towards my husband. In my defense, I genuinely have never shouted at another person in my life. My husband is the only person I lose my temper with. We are now at the point where I will be screaming all sorts of abuses at him at the top of my lungs. I feel like if I don't, I will die or implode from stress.\n\nI am now at a point where I inform him on almost a weekly basis that I will be leaving him. He is now immune to my threats, understandably, but it's like an addiction I cannot stop. My husband now informs me that I am not 'loyal' for saying such things. That we should be sticking it out through thick and thin, and he is hurt that I would say such things.\n\nLast week we agreed that each of us would bring in an equal amount into the relationship, and the rest of our money we would spend as we please, whether we are gambling or doing our hair. He was good last week. However, this week, he claims not to have received his wage, that their system had been down, and he would give me the money when he received it. He was supposed to have been paid on Wednesday. It is now Thursday night, and he says he will receive it tomorrow. He asked to lend me $50, he just wanted a drink at the pub, he will pay me back tomorrow along with our fixed amount. I agreed. An hour later he called me and asked me to lend him another 100. He will pay me back tomorrow, he says. Through 5 years of his working at this company, his pay has been delayed once. I therefore informed him that I find this hard to believe, and if he showed me his bank account and confirmed that he had not received his wage, I will give him the 100. He flat out refuses and asks me why I cannot wait until tomorrow, if I just wait, I will know. I once again blew my top and screamed at him. \n\nI now know that because I screamed at him, he will be upset, and feel justified in spending everything he has and blame me because I could not wait one day.\n\nAITA for 1. asking my husband to show me his bank account in the first place and 2. losing my temper when he didn't?\n\n(I think people will want to know this - why do I keep giving him money? He will not stop asking until I give it to him. If I lock myself in a room at midnight so I can sleep for work the next day, he will bang on the door until I open it and give him money. He has hacked into my bank account a few times to take my money without my consent.)\n\nTL;DR: husband has been gambling significant amounts of money since early on in our 5 year marriage. I became suspicious that he was lying to me today and asked him to show me his bank account as proof, and screamed at him when he wouldn't.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "E12nByvmKoMcnLLaOdSpJ27a9Ev6S3xh", "post_id": "anoblh", "action": {"description": "telling my sister to stop holidaying with us", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA For telling my sister to stop holidaying with us?", "text": "Hi Reddit,\n\nMy Partner and I have found a beautiful spot to go on our holidays, opposite the beach, not very expensive, calm waters, good water temp, great walks, etc... but then my sister came along and started holidaying with us. normally this is fine, like a whatever we don't really care situation. She is a bit self centered and is a massive FOMO (Fear of missing out) most of the time she will try to do everything with you or try to get everyone to do the same thing. I have one kid and he tends to get a bit annoyed about this because he likes to be polite but he also likes to do his own thing so he doesn't really enjoy when my sister tries to do everything we do. My sister also has two kids, which means whenever her kids want to do something my sister tries to get everyone to do the same thing. My son recently confessed to me that his starting to reach his breaking point, and wants to have to have the next 1-2 years of our holidays to ourselves and his and our friends.  \n\nThis has been going on for about 3-2 years and is starting to seep into other holidays we do as well. She also tends to stay for almost the entire time where down there so that just adds fuel to the fire. We really just want to  holiday without her for a year or two. This whole situation also stops us from inviting my son's and our friends, due to lack of space and everything we mentioned. It's really hard for us to say stop, since she is family but this hole situation is getting really hard and annoying. So will we be the assholes for telling her to stop.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "N55cV4DMfeZC0KfP9y8OO9Zrf6KucKoW", "post_id": "ammcj9", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Hobby Addict", "text": "I am married to a middle aged man who does nude photography as a \"hobby\". You've guessed it, it is mostly young women. He has done this before I knew him. It really wasn't a problem for me until last year. \n\nMind you, he just posts these pictures on social media. There is no profit involved. He works full time and makes good money. We spend thousands a year on this hobby (he has several other expensive and time consuming hobbies as well). \n\nHe was always very professional with these women and I didn't mind it. Last year, I was at a shoot (clothed), he started making comments about how sexy one of the women is (she is 20 he is mid 50's). That pissed me off. He had never made comments like that in front of me before.\n\nI told him about it and he flipped out. I asked him to not shoot with her for awhile and he said I was trying to control him. He continued to shoot with this woman who never did nude work but now does for him. We fought a whole lot about it last year. \n\nHe is starting his new season next month and told me he has 6 shoots with her and her friends over the course of the year. I protested.  \n\nLater I peeked (never did this before) at his messenger and he was complaining about me to one of her friends. I am mortified.  I feel betrayed.  He was telling her that I hate the other woman etc. I don't hate the woman.  I have a problem with his actions. \n\nHe spends hours and hours of his spare time working on pictures of these women. I go to bed alone almost every night.. See the problem?\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7B4qgO7MxBLf5FZguCGERNBNZL3q0lSX", "post_id": "b4b1d7", "action": {"description": "stealing someone's neglected cat", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for stealing someone\u2019s neglected cat.", "text": "So I\u2019ll try to make a long story short. I\u2019m bullshitting with a friend at a house that he is watching when a cat comes walking out of the yard next-door. This cat looks jacked up. He has three legs, clumps of matted hair all over him and gooey stuff coming out of his eyes. I say \u201cmeow\u201d to him then he is all over me. Loving up on me. Rubbing on my legs. He even let me pick him up. Then that neighbor comes out and says to me \u201cI know he looks rough but I don\u2019t want you to think he\u2019s neglected. He\u2019s been missing his leg since he was a kitten.\u201d And I said \u201cwell he needs a good shaving to get rid of these clumps of matted hair\u201d then she laughs and says \u201cwell he is a really mean cat and there\u2019s no way to get him shaved. I can\u2019t even let him inside the house because he will attack my kids and dogs. Plus he\u2019s old and doesn\u2019t have much time left\u201d Meanwhile this cat is still loving up on me and being a sweetheart. Then she leaves. So then I steal the cat. I take him to the vet where I get the clumps of hair shaved off him, get him some medication for his eyes and ears, and get flee medication. He\u2019s now at my house and seems a lot happier and healthier. He\u2019s still an outside cat but he comes in and chills on the couch with me and my dogs. So tell me AITA? Did is steal this cat or did I rescue him? Should I drop him back off at that house? I feel like if I take him back that they will just neglect him some more. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ATBurrxdpMRJQaaA79DIk3II2V5sajWU", "post_id": "abjpbu", "action": {"description": "not wanting to poop in front of my boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to poop in front of my boyfriend", "text": "A little bit of backstory before we get into it, my boyfriend and have been together for a year and a half. We moved in together in November. \n\nSo here is what happened; I woke up at nine so I could get ready for work, and I am a morning pooper. I always have to poop as soon as I wake up in the morning. So get up and walk into our one and only bathroom and he\u2019s already in there running a bath. Of course since I just woke up I needed to poop, I see he is still clothed and I asked him to leave the bathroom while I poop and he flat out declines. \nAt this point we have lived together long enough for him to know that not only am I a morning pooper, I poop fast. I\u2019m talking start to finish, including washing my hands, no longer then 3 minutes and that\u2019s if it\u2019s taking me a while. \nI tell him he knows it\u2019s only going to take me maybe two minutes and I\u2019ll be done. He still refuses and tells me I can either poop in front of him while he\u2019s taking a bath or I can hold it until he\u2019s done. He said I needed to get used to pooping around him since we live together now even if I\u2019m uncomfortable with it. \nI cannot poop in front of people, let alone my boyfriend, so I get obviously upset and passive aggressive and held it until he was done with his 40 MINUTE bath. \nI\u2019ve been wondering since; am I the asshole for getting pissed off he wouldn\u2019t let me poop, even though he was already using the bathroom? Or is he the asshole for not giving me three minutes to poop? \nObviously he didn\u2019t care if he smelled it either way. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9ter9ZSRvgyfrdFpGLhYs4nxAZFB7Rws", "post_id": "a9wfpd", "action": {"description": "not making my boyfriend my snapchat best friend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not making my boyfriend my Snapchat best friend", "text": "I have a (female) best friend and shes currently my snap best friend. She has been for a month now, and my boyfriend became jealous. He says he would like to be my #1 because it shows that I send him the most pics. He says that I am picking someone over him and that it makes him very sad and depressed that he isn\u2019t #1. I don\u2019t want him to base our relationship over an app, and I don\u2019t think it\u2019s that important for him to be the number one receiver of snaps that I send. He is constantly asking and says I don\u2019t care about his feeling because I won\u2019t snap him the most. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7qEpqe9khv1jQWxxoKrEVCMkHmDhVV1o", "post_id": "afptvy", "action": {"description": "not wanting to meet my girlfriend's family and go out to dinner with them", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to meet my girlfriend's family and go out to dinner with them?", "text": "So me and my girlfriend have been dating for not even a month and she is constantly pestering me to meet her parents and I am just not ready and now after not wanting to meet her parents she gets mad at me for not wanting to go out for dinner with them that she told me at the last minute. I feel like she shouldn't force me into trying to meet her parents, I should meet them when I feel comfortable to do so. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Bq3U2BJWYsBrcZe3xPD3d5EQ0Ke4hres", "post_id": "a5e5ma", "action": {"description": "stealing dog from neighbour because they didn't take good care of it", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA I stole dog from neighbour because they didn't take good care of it", "text": "I had given my dog to a neighbour 2 years ago because I was moving out and they didn't allow dogs where I was moving to. I hated to see him go. Well one year later I moved back close to my old neighborhood. Someone I know lives next to him and told me they never take the dog out and he's always just kept chained in the small backyard. I decided to steal the dog back one night. He recognized me and everything. He was so happy to see me. I took him to my new place. He was covered in fleas. The reason I never even asked for the dog back was because I knew the answer would be no. The reason they took him in the first place was because of their 6 year old. Also they didn't allow the dog inside the house at all which is weird since Chihuahuas are indoor pets.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mI1iJDhmiZnPss0zMj9kN6ud1n83YXVT", "post_id": "b45ief", "action": {"description": "hedging my bets with girls", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for hedging my bets with girls?", "text": "I'm 16M, the other guy in question, let's call him Sean, is also 16m.\n\nSo when it comes to dating and girls, what I do is basically hedge my bets: until I'm actually dating a girl, we're not exclusive. So until we actually start dating, flirting with other girls is fair game. And I like to to be talking to multiple girls at a time, so if one potential relationship falls through I have other options. \n\nCurrently I'm talking/texting with 4 different girls, let's call them Emma, Ava, Julie, and Sophie. And to be clear, I never told any of them I was their boyfriend/we were exclusive. Basically, I'm trying to hang out with all 4, see who I like most, and proceed from there. \n\nAnd Sean, a guy I know, although we're not super good friends, seems very pissed at me for this. Whenever we're in conversation, he always makes statements here and there about me 'being a fuckboy' or 'hanging out with a bunch of girls'. I don't know if a) he just has a problem with me in general and is using this one issue to make it clear b) he actually has a problem with me talking to multiple girls c) he's just jealous or d) he likes one of the girls I'm talking to.\n\nEither way, I didn't think I was doing anything wrong, until yesterday, Sean sits at the same table as me during lunch. He was doing his usual passive-aggressive roasting, and usually I just ignore it, but I was pretty annoyed, so I just looked at him and asked if he had a problem. He then proceeded to call me out for 'being a fuckboy'. \n\nI think he was out of line here. Aita?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XB1qv2m4SHu2265pAxH5wZVTOUXwWBIf", "post_id": "arfsr9", "action": {"description": "being mad my so ate my valentine's present", "pronormative_score": 26, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being mad my SO ate my valentine\u2019s present?", "text": "Throwaway account because he knows my account name. \n\nAnyway, we weren\u2019t doing anything big for Valentine\u2019s Day. I bought him a box of chocolates and handmade him a paper lantern with scenes from one of his favorite movies.  He bought me a personal size cake made to look like a rose. \n\nWhen he opened his chocolates, he offered me some and I ate one piece. When I walked past him an hour later, all of the chocolates were gone. Like 30 chocolates. He has a serious sweet tooth and will literally eat an entire package of sweets in an hour or so if he doesn\u2019t stop himself. Anyway, I ate a little bit of the cake and put the rest away to be eaten later. I like to savor things. \n\nThe next day, I went to make some breakfast and the rest of my cake was gone completely. He even licked the frickin frosting off the container. I wouldn\u2019t have minded if he\u2019d just had a piece but he ate ALL of it. And, this kind of thing happens a lot and he gives me a hard time for \u201chiding\u201d junk food from him. I don\u2019t hide it, I just try to keep him from eating all of it or I will get none. He thinks I should eat all of my portion right away to make sure I get it. I\u2019m sorry, but a huge package of cookies should last a few days - not be gone in an hour and only eaten by one person. \n\nIt\u2019s unhealthy, rude, and disgusting imo. He shows no remorse for doing it and laughs about it like a little kid. He doesn\u2019t think he\u2019s wrong or that there\u2019s nothing wrong with what he\u2019s doing. \n\nAnd, no, he\u2019s not a stoner. He just eats constantly and he\u2019s gained quite a bit in the 3 years we\u2019ve been together. I know this is stupid and trivial but he\u2019s seriously ruining his health. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 26, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 26, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "l30yP1e1DHxZbCQhuVJ11hRV0nzaVG92", "post_id": "arwvcn", "action": {"description": "cutting my dad's family out of my life", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for cutting my dad\u2019s family out of my life?", "text": "This is going to be a long one.\n\nA bit of background, my mother abandoned my family when I was a kid so I don\u2019t have any contact with her side of the family anymore. This left me with abandonment issues, especially as her parents had always shown blatant favouritism towards my sister and she had been planning to take my sister with her when she left.\n\nAfter my mother left my dad reached out to his sister (aunt), her husband (uncle) and their kids (cousin 1 and 2), and we started to see them more regularly. We hadn\u2019t spent much time with them before, which aunt told my dad was because they never liked my mother.\n\nWe never had much in common and it always felt a bit forced spending time with them now. Uncle is very controlling and always made me feel a bit uncomfortable. I refused to hug him once and he followed my around trying to force me to, and told me I was being disrespectful. He\u2019s also intimidated me before when my dad wasn\u2019t around, telling me I won\u2019t get on in life if I\u2019m not more likeable.\n\nCousins have got worse over the years, and last time they visited us they wanted to spend the whole time with my sister, and tried to leave me and my boyfriend on a shopping trip when we driven them into town, so they could just hang out with my sister. They even tricked her into going on a walk with them without me. After they left my sister told me that they had been badmouthing me and my dad, saying that I would be a bad mother and that I was too affectionate with my boyfriend.\n\nAunt doesn\u2019t say much and likes to pretend her family is perfect, but is really judgemental of us.\n\nA few weeks ago my aunt called my dad (they talk every week) and during the conversation mentioned that he should come and visit sometime, and that my sister (who\u2019s just finished university) would be welcome to move in with them and look for a job there. She didn\u2019t mention me once.\n\nAfter my dad told me that I got really upset and ended up unfriending them all on facebook. I haven\u2019t spoken to any of them since. I feel like I\u2019m being really petty and they haven\u2019t actually done anything wrong, but they\u2019ve still really hurt me with their actions. I also don\u2019t want to cause any issues with them for my dad, and I just know that they\u2019re going to use my behaviour against him.\n\nSo reddit, should I keep ignoring them and cut them out of my life completely or am I being an asshole and should just suck it up for the sake of my family?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "krJCCaU9ZNxwjtzVWL2co2gukjTGcPGM", "post_id": "aaoi8l", "action": null, "title": "AITA for your Omission of truth.", "text": "Long time lurker, first time poster. Sorry about formatting, on mobile. \nI wanted to get something off my chest. I get straight to the skinny of it. I pay the bills my spouse does not and has never been involved in it. That being said i saw a reoccurring number on the statement being that it was right around my number i was genuinely curious. Cause it's as if my calls were being cut short to call this number. I jot it in my phone and do a deep dive search. Its a bunch of text and calls spanning back various months. I don't know this number. Its not in my phone.. fine i dont have to have all the numbers my spouse has. My problem is when i look for this number on the other spouse's phone it has no history just a name.  I confront and get that this a friend of the opposition sex and i wasn't told because of how I'd react.  I'm not a jealous person nor have i ever exhibited such behaviors. This number and my spouse always talk when Im not around. I was told by my spouse that this is an old friend, that is just for talking like for mental health and such. Aita for omission of truth on their behalf. Am i aita for reacting. I can clarify anything in the comments", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "e0as8emVDMiJQx5PbUQyyZjl4QZ4EYnM", "post_id": "b6sbu7", "action": {"description": "telling my friend the guy she's messaging sparks a red flag", "pronormative_score": 23, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend the guy she\u2019s messaging sparks a red flag?", "text": "So my friend (15F) has been messaging an older guy (20M) that she knows from her youth group. \n\n\nI did not know how old this guy was until recently when she sent me screenshots of her messages with him on Instagram and he blatantly asked her out because he \u201cliked her for awhile\u201d and \u201cthinks she\u2019s pretty.\u201d She said she only ever thought of him as a friend but could see a possibility of being with him if he were closer to her age. He said that maybe she\u2019d be lucky enough to get a kiss from him. I found it quite disturbing and since the age gap was mentioned in the messages, I asked her exactly how much older he was compared to her. \n\nLooking out for her, I told her that it seems a little immature of him to hit on someone five years younger than him and that it sparks a red flag, especially since they\u2019re both at completely different stages in life. She told me to not ruin this high for her and that he\u2019s \u201cpretty\u201d and that I should stay out of her business. \n\nI don\u2019t want anything bad to happen to her cause I care for her as a friend and I\u2019d feel awful if I didn\u2019t take this seriously. \n\nAITA in this situation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 23, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 23, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OXAkvk1UBSICmaXD2J5R1iZVU3g4D8X8", "post_id": "b2r9p0", "action": {"description": "not really caring about my brother", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not really caring about my brother?", "text": "So our mom died when I was 8, my brother was 12. I went and lived with my dad and step-mom who are Pentecostal and super great parents. My brother went with our grandma. By the age of 15 he was smoking weed, at 18 that turned into meth. He got caught up with a possession charge, then a child endangerment charge because his friends kid was in the house while they were cooking it and now at the age of 26 he\u2019s been in and out of jail probably a total of at least 1.5-2 years. While he was out I have tried to get him to places to help with his addiction and he has went to rehab and came out \u201ca better man\u201d only to fall right back in the same rut. I\u2019ve prayed for him. I\u2019ve put his ass in the dirt and screamed at him. I\u2019ve cried with him. I\u2019ve tried to just spend quality time with him and keep him accountable and nothing works. You can\u2019t change someone who doesn\u2019t want to change. Long story short he is back in jail I just heard and I frankly don\u2019t give a shit. I still hope that he turns his life around but I could care less about what happens. He\u2019s a fu**ing adult with 2 kids and can\u2019t get his life together. No longer my problem is how I see it. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cDFrJuNSsPp3TcDDc3yWm6uBvI7Ejli2", "post_id": "b1a6um", "action": {"description": "refusing to see my aging grandma, even though she's never done anything horrible to me", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to see my aging grandma, even though she\u2019s never done anything horrible to me?", "text": "My grandma has never been anything but kind to me. Her first instinct whenever she sees me is to feed me or give me gift money. Her face lights up and she can\u2019t stop smiling and holding my hand whenever I\u2019m around.\n\nHowever, I know that I\u2019m the favorite and she treats the rest of her grandchildren less favorably. I\u2019m the oldest daughter of her oldest son, so I get the best treatment (it would have been even more extreme if I was born male). My sister sort of counts since she\u2019s also from my dad. My older male cousins don\u2019t count since they\u2019re from my aunt and my younger female cousin doesn\u2019t count because my uncle adopted her. She\u2019s never come out and say it, but everybody can tell because she never gives the same attention to my sister and cousins. At one point she was even increasing the gift money (I\u2019d get $20 while my sister would get $10, my cousin would get even less, etc).\n\nIn addition, she\u2019s horribly verbally abusive to my dad, mom, aunts, and uncles. My grandpa died when my dad was very young and left my grandma with young children in a foreign country with no education or English-speaking skills. She used verbal and physical abuse to corral my dad and his siblings into order, and she\u2019d manipulate them against each other. She constantly unfavorably compared the siblings to my dad, and would punish my dad for their infractions. They still resent my dad for how my grandma treated them, while my dad still gets the brunt of her anger.\n\nShe\u2019s very old at this point (100+) and really should have assisted living, but refuses a caretaker or retirement home. My parents took her in at one point, but she cried to my aunts and uncles about how my parents were abusing her, and there was a huge family fight. She\u2019s never apologized about it. The last time I saw her at a family event, she was ranting about my dad so horribly that my uncle and I literally wheeled her out to the car mid-tirade. \n\nI\u2019m extremely close to my parents and sister and hate the way she treats them. I mentioned to someone that I never want to see her again. They were shocked that someone who is so close to her family wouldn\u2019t feel the same way about her grandma. They also thought I was being a little harsh when my grandma\u2019s never been anything but nice to me, and said I should give her the comfort of her favorite grandchild before she dies. AITA for not wanting or caring to see her ever again?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "31kmjZPcK6GCZNC1GojekQGpISQ9s2N1", "post_id": "as3c6d", "action": null, "title": "WIBTA if my boyfriend looks at porn during foreplay? (Posted for my sister.)", "text": "My sister was making out/fooling around with her bf and he kinda pulled the blankets over her head, but then she heard his popsocket open. She came out from under the blankets and he had his phone out. She wanted to know what he was looking at, he wouldn't tell her (at first) and the mood was killed. She rolled over to go to bed. He asked what was wrong and she asked again and he was looking at. He's cheated on an ex before, (kind of on a technicality, but that's another story.) So she was worried it was something to do with an ex. He finally shows her and it's girl on girl porn. \n\nIt's one thing to check your phone in that situation but to look at porn is another. My sister is young and can't figure out if this is something to be upset about or not. (I think she's upset but she's kind of naive and wants to see the best in people.)\n\nWIBTA if my sister was upset? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "U8SIx41TnD9V8XdgZkwk5WVlANwY7SNg", "post_id": "ahfr87", "action": {"description": "not wanting to see my best friend because she's depressed", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to see my best friend because she's depressed?", "text": "My friend has not been diagnosed with depression ... She might just have the kind of Debbie Downer personality that's a bit overboard at the moment. \n\nWe meet 3 years ago at work. She would often complian about everything.. Work, the country we live in, other people etc. \n\nThen, her best friend left our work place, and after a few weeks of her trying to catch up with her, the friend sends her a text saying that she didn't want to have anything to do with the old work place because she had had such bad experiences there, and just cuts ties with her. She was devastated.\n\nWe become closer..best friends, tell everything to each other kind of thing. \n\n2 years ago she started having doubts about her relationship and complaints that she does everything her boyfriend wants and never gets what she wants. Every time we go out, day or night , he calls , insisting for her to come home.. \n\n1 year and 1/2 ago she meets this guy at work and ends up having a crush.. they see each other twice for coffee.. but nothing happens from there on. Then 1 year ago she meets another guy.. this was worse.. for the first couple of months they declare love for each other... But she ends up saying she will never leave her boyfriend, so ended it with the guy.. she never physical cheated because they live in different countries..but emotional cheating in my POV.\n\n it gets complicated. This guy is super depressed, is in therapy, had has a history of attempting suicide in the past. He's also the type that uses that to guilt people in to things. He's super in love with her, and she just wants to be friends, says they have an amazing connecting, and he's family.. so they still talk everyday.. she hides a lot of the communication from her boyfriend, because she knows it's too much to be acceptable. But since he's so depressed she seems even more  Depressed from being connected to him and enabling this friendship. \n\nI can't help but judge... I've told her she shouldn't keep contact with him after their involvement and because he's still In love and won't be able to get over her if they still have contact. I've only said something over hours and hours of her complaining that he cries a lot because they're not together. \n\nHer boyfriend might not be great.. but I don't think he deserves this.. even if they re just friends now. \n \nWe used to have lunch everyday.. but I've avoided seeing her as much.. I schedule meetings at lunch time. When I do have lunch with her I'm always thinking \"this time will be better, this time she will be in a good mood\".. and then regret it later.\n\nShe used to have other friends, but I'm her only friend now. We used to go to breakfast Saturday morning when I was single. She's told  me she used to be happier because we would go for breakfast and have some laughs, and that now she has nothing in her life to cheer her up. She kind of made my feel guilty for her misery.. which I feel was unfair, and it's too much responsibility to be her only friend.\n\nI can't keep scheduling meetings and giving excuses... I don't like lying.. not even white lies.. but I also can't tell her I can't deal with her, I think it would devastate her.\n\nSo I've blew her off several times by saying I want to have lunch alone, because I need some time - this is true and has happened in the past, she knows I'm introverted and need less social time and has always respected that... But I think with time she will start to feel suspicious because I'm consecutively doing it... She's already asked me if anything is wrong and said I no. Not seeing her everyday has made me so much happier... But as a friend shouldn't I be there for her? Instead of just cutting her out because she's been having a bad time? AITA?\n\n \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "54eoCx1NIOo4ZrLQogEH5R8xENu7NVxl", "post_id": "ap5isa", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be a persons friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to be a persons friend?", "text": "A couple years back, i was walking home from work when i ran into a homeless kid about my age. It was clear from the jump that he was a drug addict. He offered to sell me his headphones for some money, but eventually the conversation roped me into asking him for details about his situation. He stated he was currently in rehab, and was going thru a difficult time. Towards the end he stated that for this specific step of the rehab program he was on, he needed to make friends  because he needed a positive influence in his life. He asked if he could have my number, but i declined. He was visibly disappointed, and hurt. But tbh i said no out of the fact that i had no idea who this person was, and of i gave them my number, i had a fear that maybe he would resort to relying on me for money. I couldn't take that risk, but i can't help but feel like morally i made the wrong choice in that decision. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fCw7dBVNgQibSpfil4QtF1WRXK2IJ7Rt", "post_id": "aw9t4z", "action": {"description": "hooking up with someone I didn't know being in a relationship and I don't say anything to the GF", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA if I hooked up with someone I didn\u2019t know was in a relationship and I don\u2019t say anything to the GF?", "text": "(Throwaway account since friends know my Reddit username, names changed.) I was taking a trip to Canada this weekend with my school, which had my best friend Helen, her best friend Kate, and this guy named Jake. Just to preface, I\u2019m a single gay guy. One night, Jake asked to sleep in my room because his roommate was really sick and they slept in one bed, so I agreed.  So he came into the room and we slept opposite sides of the bed. But he then initiated touch and soon enough, we hooked up (like making out and cuddling, not anything further). \n\nLater that week, Helen told me that he and Kate have been dating for about half a year, which I didn\u2019t know about at all. I also thought he was straight until we hooked up and now I don\u2019t know what to think. I later saw them cuddling while watching a movie during the trip. I talked to Jake afterward and we said that everything was cool, never to talk about again. But now thinking about it, I\u2019m unsure. Am I the asshole if I don\u2019t say anything about him cheating to Kate?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "q4WzYjZUCi7kTTDpTLS2NNP0qzHOUzTG", "post_id": "b2fzi5", "action": null, "title": "AITA in this situation if I took my landlord to the tenet bored for a year (12 months) of rent abatement?", "text": "AITA: Last May my bedroom ceiling flooded right onto my mattress. Inches on the floor, completely soaked my mattress, water stains on my feather duvet and ruined a bunch of things I had stored under my bed. This happened about 2-3 times a week until mid-september (when the tenant above me moved out) and then would happen about twice a month until December (new tenants moved in).\n\nEach time it happened I'd call my landlord who would 'promise' to fix it. I honestly thought he was working as hard as he could to solve this problem. He would go into great detail about all the work he was doing to fix it. One week it was the tenant's sink above me, the next week it was his toilet, for a whole month it was raccoons eating away on the roof. In December I finally went up to the tenet above me and found out it was the shower. Instead of paying for me to stay in a hotel he had me and the new tenants above wait 2 weeks to fix the pipes. This means they had to go somewhere else to shower during that time.\n\nAnyway, I went home and he fixed the ceiling. This stopped the flooding and I was happy...until the next morning. I was woken up at 7am to insane amounts of noise. We're talking vibrations moving down my wall in my bedroom amounts of noise. I could hear everything they did and said: conversations, footsteps, doing their dishes, closing cupboards, shower running through the ceiling.\n\nAnyway, I'm guessing you can guess what happened. When he fixed the ceiling he put absolutely no soundproofing between their floor and my ceiling. It's their hardwood floor, a few feet of dead space and a 10x10 piece of drywall he nailed directly into the wood ceiling frames. Basically, he created a drum that amplifies everything they do throughout my apartment and causes the dishes in my kitchen cupboard to rattle when they walk in the right place.\n\nCue 2 months of my emailing the landlord and him promising to fix the ceiling. We'd set dates and nothing would happen. It took about 2 months for me to stop being an idiot and realize that he had no intention of ever fixing the ceiling so I gave my notice. During this time I've documented EVERYTHING.\n\nFinally, this weekend he nailed acoustic tiles to the ceiling after I told him that they had been keeping me up. When he fixed it, I came home to plaster dust completely covering my bed, duvet cover, floor, pillows. HE had been walking on my mattress while he did it because my duvet was messed up and there was plaster under it on the sheets. He had pushed my bed out of the way and destroyed my hamper and boxes that I use for shipping things I had kept at the end of my bed. I had to spend an hour dusting, sweeping and throwing out the insane mess he made. I was so upset and angry.\n\nSo, redditors, do you think I'd be the asshole? I'm absolutely seething in anger so I can't judge if this is irrational or not", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uzhyaC9KzvclsMICj4aIJPPDEY4Six9Y", "post_id": "9y4mu7", "action": {"description": "ignoring a customer", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for ignoring a customer?", "text": "I work as maintenance for a theater. I have the training to work anywhere there, however I fix all of the stuff that goes wrong. I was fixing a butter warmer in the middle of the concession stand because the butter warmer was not heating the butter. My coworkers where off talking to each other and a man came up to me and said excuse me. I didnt pay attention to it because I was halfway underneath the counter. He yelled \"Excuse me!\" That got my attention. I pulled myself out looked at him and went to the next employee and said \"HEY! You want to help this gentleman!\" And climbed back under.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gfOokvXaK5YuHP6voXuoQAYTYOYNya0n", "post_id": "avxq1n", "action": {"description": "questioning whether or not I should stay with my girlfriend due to her secretly not taking her birth control", "pronormative_score": 42, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for questioning whether or not I should stay with my girlfriend due to her secretly not taking her birth control?", "text": "She told me about 5 days ago. She's about 1 month pregnant now and yes, I will be an active father in the child's life just like I am with my current 9-year-old daughter. So that's not the issue here. What is the issue is me telling her that I don't know if I can stay with her or not.  \n\n\nWe had unprotected sex and she had not taken her birth control in about 2 weeks. She never told me this. In fact, according to her, she purposely just tell me. Since we've been together she has been on birth control and I've seen her take it on a usual basis in the morning. So I tended never to question her about it. We had talked about her wanting a child and I said I didn't want one until after marriage. She seemed to at least understand why I wanted that and then added, \"well I definitely don't want one until after college.\"  \n\n\nFast forward to present day, everything has seemed to erupt. She's mad at me now. She said that I took my own risks by not using protection and she's right, I knew that and understand that well. I told her that I understood that. It's just that I can't help but feel like I've basically been lied to. She knows that I know that she's been taking birth control. She would always tell me when she was about to run out or when she had to go get more. Not this time though. It had been about 2 weeks since we had sex and then we had it about two weeks after she had stopped with the birth control. She *chose* that. Chose not to tell me.\n\n​\n\nNow I really feel like I'll never come back from an action of that magnitude. How do I trust her now? She told me she's sorry but at the same time, she's happy about it even though she understands that I was not ready. She thinks I'm abandoning her even though I've voiced that I will absolutely be a father to the child. It's honestly alarming to me that she takes the whole situation lightly. Like her feelings out weigh mine. Now I'm pretty hurt about the whole situation.  \n\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 42, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 42, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uoGBfIEMngm1hduSvodJJuMafL6qjQvm", "post_id": "ask0si", "action": {"description": "wanting my fiance to return the ring", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting my fiance to return the ring", "text": "Fiance (M26) and I (F27) have been together for 3 years. He is the love of my life and I am so excited to spend the rest of my life with him. We started discussing marriage and made a mutual decision that it was what we both wanted. He asked me about the ring, and I told him I would prefer not to have an engagement ring and would rather we both pick out inexpensive bands together that we both put on at the wedding. He agreed with this and also said he doesn't need an expensive band for himself. I also told him that I don't need a proposal, but he told me he really wanted to surprise me with one and that he had been looking forward to it for a long time. I told him that I'm excited to see what he comes up with and that I'm looking forward to saying yes\n\nMy reasons for not wanting an engagement ring are 1. I don't like the sexist nature of the tradition that the woman wears an engagement ring, but not the man and 2. I would feel really nervous wearing something that expensive on my hand all the time. I would much rather have a simple symbol of our bond that we both share equally and put on together at our wedding.\n\nFast forward to the end of January. Fiance and I both take some time off work for a nice vacation in the mountains. On a hike he gets down on one knee and proposes. It was really magical and he did a great job. The only problem is the proposal also included a really nice looking ring. Of course I put it on in the moment and said I love it but I was really miffed my fiance didn't respect my request.\n\nWe talked about it later and I found out that he spent over 1000 dollars on it. I feel terrible that he dropped so much money on this and I'm constantly worried about losing it. I have not been wearing it and kept it in a box in the drawer so that it doesn't get lost and he seemed really hurt by this. I told him that I never even wanted a ring in the first place and he thought I was just saying that because I didn't want him to be out so much money. I also told him my reason about thinking the tradition is sexist and he said he wasn't trying to be sexist and thought it would be meaningful to me.\n\nI want to tell him to take it back but I don't want to hurt him even more. On the other hand I really don't want to wear it on my finger for the rest of my life, knowing it's so expensive and that he is not doing the same thing and gets to wear just the band like I wanted to. It would make me feel like we are not equal partners.\n\nTLDR: I said I didn't want a ring and fiance got me one anyway. Now I want to ask him to sell it/take it back. Would I be the asshole if I did that", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AY9Ax5mUVx7mqN1jNcKE9rH8ZPRoqgFv", "post_id": "aransz", "action": {"description": "hanging out with female friend soon after breakup", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA: Hanging out with female friend soon after breakup", "text": "Recently broken up with a long term girlfriend, ended things on fairly good terms. \nA couple of days after I go to visit a female friend of mine (I\u2019m a straight guy if it matters) and we spend 3 or so hours walking her dog around the town where she lives. \nLater that day ex-girlfriend gets wind of it and all hell breaks loose, claiming I\u2019ve moved on too quickly even though it is a friendship with this girl and nothing more. Ex girlfriend ensures everyone at our workplace finds out by crying in front of them, making me look like the asshole.\nAm I?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dfnEb1Mii1GssfAw404xKhvvYWqZnTcO", "post_id": "a6x752", "action": {"description": "telling my boyfriend he's shallow", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my boyfriend he\u2019s shallow?", "text": "So my boyfriend and I were discussing why we\u2019re friends with certain people. At one point we were on the subject of female friends and he mentioned that all of his female friends are attracted to him (he is VERY good looking, though). He then said a few minutes later that he only wants to be friends with attractive people for aesthetic reasons. \n\nI got bullied a lot as a kid for being ugly...ostracized by other girls in middle school, rumors spread about me in high school, the whole nine yards. So I was hurt by that. I told him I can\u2019t understand the way he thinks and that his philosophy on friendships is really sad and shallow. \n\nThe conversation went from casual to disastrous in an instant. He got very mad at me, called me a judgmental bitch, and said he doesn\u2019t want to see me on his birthday.  \n\nThoughts? I feel I overreacted and shouldn\u2019t have been so judge but I do think it\u2019s shallow to choose only attractive people to be friends with..", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "49RiOXwy95mCovV8fa52UnWLtLugynTQ", "post_id": "azd874", "action": {"description": "being upset after he didn't want a relationship", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being upset after he didn\u2019t want a relationship?", "text": "We talked for a little less than a month. Planned on going on a date to the drive in. Date went well, it was a double feature and the first movie we actually watched and the second one... well we didn\u2019t really watch. we talked for a long time and ended up making out after. Ended up going to eat after and he mentioned that he didn\u2019t want to \u201cwife someone up\u201d or be committed because he wasn\u2019t ready and said \u201cif you have been as single as me for this long you wouldn\u2019t want to either\u201d and it made me sad but i didn\u2019t say anything.  and then a day later he texted me saying i seemed over it during our \u201cdate\u201d. I explained why. the whole reason being is because, HE said it was a DATE. but then he got mad at me for getting upset that he didn\u2019t wanna be with me?? but he also didn\u2019t want me to give my number out to a few guys who asked for it at work during all this ... AITA?? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sGSoFqhSnVkqNYalJc1Zb4HYSy3xwd4F", "post_id": "aarn3j", "action": {"description": "telling my neighbor to shut the fuck up at night", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "WIBTA If I told my neighbor to shut the fuck up at night?", "text": "I live in a rural area so the houses are about 10-20 meters from each other but every single night for the past years my neighbor starts coughing like crazy with 20-30 minutes intervals, sometimes going for 5 minutes straight.\n\n​\n\nThe cough is horrible to hear, almost sounds like he's about to throw up at any time, even worse is that he does this from 1am to 3am, sometimes even 4 times in a day and I'm not joking when I say that he has been doing it everynight for years.\n\n​\n\nSome other neighbors say that he uses drugs and smokes everyday but I have never paid attention.\n\nI wanted to record him but I've had no real reason to do so as I don't know what to do with it and I'm afraid of the consequences if I showed it to authorities because many people stupidly think you can't record one's voice without permission in the country I live in.\n\n​\n\nSometimes I'd love to just yell at him to shut the fuck up and let me sleep but I'd be waking up everyone in my family by doing so and there's no guarantee he would stop, we also want to be in good terms with neighbors because we want to do some restructuring and we need all of them to agree or something.\n\n​\n\nI live in Italy if anyone wants to give legal advice.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "boXi0BEIaSC5WHCvFk9xxmdJvzSZLXGE", "post_id": "ald5zi", "action": {"description": "not thinking of my stepmom as my mom", "pronormative_score": 31, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA If I dont think of my stepmom as my mom?", "text": "I\u2019m gonna make this nice and quick. Bit pf background: My parents are divorced and my dad has started dating someone a while back. They live together and actually also have a child (who I think of as a stepsister). And the situation is that whenever I talk to my stepmom I can\u2019t call her mom because it just feels really weird. I call her her name. I don\u2019t know if it bothers her but I just want to know, is it okay if I don\u2019t call her mom because it feels weird to me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 15, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 31, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xwfT75dmWxgYbOWF6IcVNBNZCPX2d5LZ", "post_id": "amgj70", "action": {"description": "telling my boyfriend I don't like his clothes", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for telling my boyfriend I don't like his clothes?", "text": "So for some background me [19F] and my boyfriend [24M] have been dating 2 and a half years and we live together. We're both kinda nerdy and like comic books and stuff like that and he likes anime. I used to wear a lot of graphic tees (think hot topic) when I was younger but I kind of grew out of that after high school and now I wear \"normal\" clothes. \n\nWell, he never really grew out of that. He wears those types of shirts (and some of them are a little stained/don't fit him/have little holes) on the regular. \n\nNow, he works in manufacturing so I get that he doesn't really want/need to dress up for work (vs me dressing up for work a bit because I'm a software engineer). And obviously, no one wants to change into nice clothes when they get home from work. But even on the weekends he'll wear his graphic tees. When we go out to eat or something he'll usually wear like a plainer grey v neck or the like though which is nice.\n\nBut I just feel like it's not super sexy to be wearing graphic tees that often as an adult. He says that he'd rather me be direct about me liking/disliking something about him instead of telling white lies. This morning he was wearing a completely red flash seatbelt belt and I told him I didn't like it (maybe not so diplomatically/too direct). And now I feel bad because I feel like I hurt his feelings. \n\nAm I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NZEYP0C0HRHrIB5aTzPqBbByNICri8oS", "post_id": "a32694", "action": {"description": "being miffed my friend didn't offer to pay her share of a vacation", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being miffed my friend didn't offer to pay her share of a vacation?", "text": "Friend's milestone bday coming up.  6 months ago, I told a group of friends I need a firm commitment by 12/1.  People told me they were in either a week prior or on 12/1.  Life is good.  We have a headcount.\n\n12/2, we book the vacation house.  I haven't emailed the group yet about us doing it and finding it. I was going to do it the next day.\n\n12/3, a friend backs out due to work travel during that time.  I tell her, we already booked the house and was counting her in when we booked it.  She said sorry, she would rather be on the trip than work.  That was it.\n\nAITA for at least expecting an offer to cover her share of the cost?  I probably wouldn't have accepted it, but the gesture would have been the right thing to do. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZA23We1qgh6zNQyAjgMopQ7FPbLi5W4Z", "post_id": "b7344i", "action": {"description": "wanting to keep my plans with a friend, when my boyfriend is upset because he isn't invited but really wants to go", "pronormative_score": 23, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting to keep my plans with a friend, when my boyfriend is upset because he isn't invited but really wants to go?", "text": "Preface: my boyfriend (32) and I(28) have been together for 9 months or so. He is very concerned when I want to do things without him. We have come to an agreement to run plans by each other before we make them to be considerate about the other. \n\nIssue: A lifelong friend of mine asked me if I wanted to go to go to the big city near by on 420 to celebrate back in january. I told her yes I'd love to. This was before my boyfriend and I came to the agreement.\n\nI remembered the plans a few weeks ago and told him about them. He said he'd really really like to go to, because he's never done anything on 420 and would like to experience it. He said he wouldn't mind just sitting near us an playing on his phone or switch. I said of course I would ask her, but since she invited me I can't promise anything. He seemed fine with that.\n\nYesterday she texted me to confirm, and I asked if he could come. She said she would really prefer it be just girl time, that she was looking forward to that. When I told my boyfriend, he said that me going without him was a deal breaker for him, and that I either needed to insist that he come along too, or cancel the plans with her instead. I said I would ask one more time, mentioning that he would sit nearby and not bother us, but that I wouldn't absolutely insist he go (I find that incredibly rude, she invited me) or cancel. That was not good enough for him, he said it was a still a deal breaker if I go.\n\nAITA for thinking I should go anyway, and that he is being out of line? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 23, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 23, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "q9zNDqrA87d7BZ9yebNnQdxhe2hFIfHD", "post_id": "b2bdr6", "action": {"description": "telling my guy friend to stop having a crush on me", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for telling my guy friend to stop having a crush on me?", "text": "So there's this guy, let's call him David, who I've gotten really close to the past few months. Eventually he asked me out, but I had to reject him because I wasn't (and I'm still not) ready for a relationship.\n\nThe thing is, I think David still has a crush on me. I can feel him staring at me in class sometimes, he walks with me between classes, and so forth. I don't particularly appreciate this, obviously.\n\nToday I had a talk with him and I told him to knock it off because he didn't have a chance with me anyways and it was going to hurt our friendship. He got mad, told me that he *didn't* have a crush on me anymore and it really hurt to see how suspicious I was of him and how I kept bringing up his asking me out even after we agreed to pretend it had never happened, and now he isn't replying to any texts I send.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ZnqbYeTRFfLmjE7tWWF8mar7OQtEdKsv", "post_id": "arbr37", "action": {"description": "getting my girlfriend of 12 years age wrong", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for getting my girlfriend of 12 years age wrong", "text": "Me and my girlfriend were talking about birthdays because her birthday is next month and she asked me how old she was I responded 28 and she then stated she was 27 and got extremely mad at me. I realized I should\u2019ve known how old she was since we\u2019ve been together for so long, but I was only off by one year! AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GPFy0AFCf6jEkxU5GqPeF9651IEhAXyT", "post_id": "b3sfbi", "action": {"description": "laughing at inexplicably horrible resumes", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA by laughing at inexplicably horrible resumes?", "text": "I am a manager at a small retail establishment and am working on hiring a part time sales associate. The position has been online over a month and we have received 0 qualified candidates. The other day a middle aged woman \u201cKaren\u201d who works across a couple locations came in while I was reviewing resumes. \n\nI was reading two resumes with another employee and they were just awful. Resume 1 listed their birth date while subsequently leaving off their education. In my country it\u2019s illegal to ask the applicants age, only if they are over 18. They were 22. The resume did not list any skills they had picked up at their previous two part time jobs nor the dates that they worked there. It was half a page in normal size font that they increased to take up a whole page. They did not have a drivers license which is a requirement for the position and did not have any cover letter. \n\nResume 2 was 3 pages. They had one part time job, again not listing any acquired skills. They had their education as the last segment on their resume. They filled 2.5 pages with volunteer experience leaving off any dates or skills acquired though these experiences. Most volunteering was 2 hour projects. Their contact information was only located on the second page of their resume and they only had their name on the first page. Their font and size were not consistent across the document. Again, no cover letter. \n\nAnyway, Karen comes in while I\u2019m lamenting on how bad these resumes are and how I dread we\u2019ll never find someone qualified enough to fill our basic entry level sales associate position. Karen has marital issues that the staff is well aware of because she literally never shuts up about them. I can tell you about her financial troubles, her kids, her husband and her *gag* sex life (which I NEVER asked about. Super funny though because she tells everyone about her husbands ED and how he can\u2019t hold a job because of it??). \n\nKaren starts tearing me a new one in that mom way for \u201charassing strong young men for their *likely* (obviously unknown because we can\u2019t ask) mental disability\u201d. I interviewed both of these candidates anyway because were so desperate for a hire. I understand not all mental deficits present but they both seemed normal, just lazy. I explained to Karen that it takes nothing for someone to google \u201chow to write a resume\u201d and even just follow the first google example, but she still says I was being mean and abusing my power. \n\nCome to find out she has been telling the other locations she works at how I\u2019m a horrible manager and no wonder no one will work for me. She has taken each of my employees to the side and asked them how they feel about me. They told me that Karen made them feel very uncomfortable by doing this and that they have no issues with me. \n\nTLDR: older female coworker says I\u2019m being unfair by criticizing resumes. I interviewed the candidates and they were not a good fit as their resume suggested. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sO3sacqvn0mqrUPWAxvATeJO7fMJQy4w", "post_id": "at6vk7", "action": {"description": "trying to warm myself up by cuddling with my wife", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for trying to warm myself up by cuddling with my wife", "text": "We live in a 150 year old house that is heated with two wood stoves. the stoves must be stocked every eight hours or so. I typically am the one to stock the stoves at bedtime, me and the wife head to bed at the same time, on this particular night it was very cold and windy, this caused both stoves to use up their wood somewhat early so a new fire had to be lit in each stove, after I could verify that both fires had started successfully I headed off to bed. When I got to bed my wife had already been there for 25 minutes and she was nice and warm, I tried to slide up next to her to warm myself back up after hanging around the cold stoves to ensure they lit. She did not like this, started complaining that I was to cold and shoving blankets in between us. I was offended, said \"oh, i see how it is\" and rolled back over to my side of the bed. and fell asleep warming myself up. In the morning she's all bent and obviously upset and she says its because \"you rolled over to your side of the bed angry last night\". so my question is, AITA for expecting my wife to warm me up after coming to bed cold because I stayed up a little later to make sure our wood stoves were burning?   ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JnQb3pwzCj0kEQV7tTICbF989lHgeBWQ", "post_id": "avz65c", "action": null, "title": "AITA. Posted info about some throwing cigarette butts out thier window", "text": "Was driving the other day, and this individual in the car in front of me tosses a cigarette butt out there window. I post the car and license plate on local page saying ' we don't need your trash' when explaining what happened.\n\nI got immediate hate from almost every poster. \n\nI thought people have a shit about civic pride. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "wSt2H3SkFJwJVfIZFffnPjnlmgF9b4oT", "post_id": "b0lbt6", "action": {"description": "expecting my girlfriend to pay the debt she has accumulated with payday loans immidiately instead of their \"usual monthly payments\"", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for expecting my girlfriend to pay the debt she has accumulated with payday loans Immidiately instead of their \"usual Monthly payments\"?", "text": "To be blunt, she screwed up. She had an... Episode due to mental health, took 5000e in payday loans from different companies, and spent around half on games, jewerly, god damn microtransactions on a Phone game, etc.\n\nNow, to Her Credit, she Came clean about it pretty quickly, and admitted she needed help. We Immidiately used the rest of the money to pay Off few of them (they had a first time customer offer, no interest if paid back inside a month of taking the loan, thankfully), leaving about 2300e left to pay from Her own income, which, due to the Fact that we don't have money, Will start to grow interest soon. Nothing we can do to stop that now. Anyway, onto the AITA part.\n\nShe has a large sum of money (2000e give or take 300e) coming as backpay for Her disability, and she has expressed hesitance at paying the loans back with it. As in, she keeps asking why she can't just pay the Monthly payments, over and over, and me explaning how 260% yearly interest rates are insane, over and over. Ofcourse, rent and bills need to be paid first, but after that, I told Her, the rest should go towards paying  the debt, due to the huge interest rates payday loans have. It won't be enough for all of it, but still a significant step towards getting the Hell out of This hole she dug.\n\nI also told Her that she doesn't need to worry about anything Else, moneywise. I'll feed and clothe Her, get food for Her cats, buy gas for Her car, take care of everything Else Until the debt is paid, as long as she devotes all Her money to it apart from rent and bills. Even thou I don't have any more money than she has, I can improvise the rest we need. Surviving with basically no money isn't exactly new to me... \n\nTo give some more insight into This:\n\nwe both are on the same kind of disability, usually get the same amount of money per month, around 900e. \n\nWe live separately, have separate money, everything. She doesn't live at my place technically, but she does spend most of Her time with me, and stays at my place almost every free night we have. \n\nWe are both students (the disability we get paid is tied to our studies, so if we don't get courses done, we don't get money. It is thing Where I live). \n\nwhile we have separate finances, we do live a quite symbiotic life what Comes to spending money on food and such, so while Her debt isn't my debt, it does affect me, and how much money I have to spend on other things. \n\nSo, AITA for expecting Her to use the money she is getting to pay most of the debt Immidiately, instead of the Monthly payments?\n\nPs. Before I start getting monetary advice, thank you, but no need. We have contacted multiple organizations that provide free professional consultation for situations just like This one. I'm sure that if there is a better way to do This than what I Came up, they'll tell me about it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aAI2yajOu0QOn8j3mdqdnZRXvS9gELiL", "post_id": "9wwcwi", "action": {"description": "registering my dog as an emotional support dog", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for registering my dog as an emotional support dog?", "text": "For starters, this is all hypothetical; nothing's happened yet.\n\nSo come summer time I'm hoping to join the r/vandwellers life.  Hopefully by Summer I'll be living in the van, traveling the country.  The reason for doing this is, to put it simply, I kind of hate myself.  I'm 23 and I still live with my (widowed) mom.  I've been slowly acquiring credits at my community college, but I have no idea why.  I don't have a major and I'm out of basics to take.  I don't feel like my life has any direction.  I feel like a total loser and like I've got no interesting or exciting stories to tell.\n\nSob story aside though, I'd say I'm depressed but I know it's not that bad.  I've got friends and family who love me.  I've got my dog who is just the best part of my life and makes me smile just thinking about her.  I just feel bad because I feel like I'm gaming the system. The therapy dog system is put in place for people who need it a lot more than me.  Would I be a part in de-legitimizing it for the people who really need it.\n\nLife would be a lot easier if she was registered.  I could go a lot more places without having to worry about leaving her in the van or checking her into a boarding place.  Both her and I would be a lot happier.  One way or another she'll be coming on this adventure with me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zON5qcNXZ28ML5LsR0rT4JTSBhTYCMr2", "post_id": "azqyy9", "action": {"description": "cutting ties with OF", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for cutting ties with OF?", "text": "For context, OF is old friend, and Callum is a good friend of mine. I've been having issues with him OF since mid year 7, and it's hit me really hard atm. I'm currently in year 9. Be warned, it's a long post. So, I've recently cut ties with OF because I'm so sick of his bullshit. It started in year 7 with little things. OF would constantly take up the majority of the table in class, leaving me with about 2 A4 sheets of room, barely enough to work. When I would complain to him about this he would get really childish and say things like \"Is this better?\" while proceeding to take up more space. This got too much for me, as I'm very dedicated with my work, so I moved. Problem solved? NO. He'd move next to me and do the same thing. That was just the start of it. OF would constantly seem to be seeking attention, as much as I hate that term. He would do all he can to be the center of everything. It started with little digs at us, using words like fagget loosely without knowing the meaning or history of the words. He would then get to headlocking us and trying to yank our hair out because it was 'fun'. It got to the point where he would steal our phones and run around the school so that we could chase him. This annoyed me and Callum a lot, and in OF's defense we could have kept our cool a bit more than we did. Either way, we got to the end of the year, things died down, and we went into year 8. This was when things got worse. OF had gotten over the desk control, but had somehow gotten worse. He started insulting us and making fun of us for things like our body shape, really petty and immature things. Then when we would have a go at him back(again, should've kept our cool), he would resort to violence again. This went on and on. He could insult us but we couldn't even joke about him. He would also get very angry if he lost in games of downfall, and sometimes again, resort to violence. Things went on until 4th term. The boys invited me to be their goalkeeper for a futsal team. This worried me, and I'd be here forever if I explained it all. Basically I have on and off mental health issues and possibly social anxiety, not sure though. It sounds stupid, but the position of goalkeeper is a lot of pressure on me. I told OF all this and more, and explained that I didn't think it would be good for my mental health (I was right). Not to my surprise, OF wasn't sympathetic in the slightest, despite 'weawwy tweasuwing my fwendship'. He went on for weeks saying shit like 'OoOoHhH nOoO I can't be goalie cus I have depression! Get over it fagget.'. This really got me down, and I still don't understand why he said that. The same kind of thing happened this year. I felt quite down during a futsal match and he picked up on it. Same kind of thing 'if you feel like shit then don't come. You played like shit.\" This was the turning point for me, as I beat myself up about it anyway. I was sick of it. Am I the asshole for cutting ties with OF?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "h2VdHbwtKOK1bCFmCAXNPzxo88oAJMWl", "post_id": "b60ckr", "action": {"description": "wanting to confront my pet sitter who made a mess of my home months later", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to confront my pet sitter who made a mess of my home months later?", "text": "In October of 2018 I went to visit family in Europe and needed someone to stay over and watch my cats. I found a local girl (late 20's early 30's) who posted a pet sitter ad on a community website. We met, I checked references, agreed on a price, and everything seemed fine. I left payment on my counter before I left with detailed instructions. One thing I stressed was not to have anyone else in the house. I have rescue cats who don't like strangers, especially males, and she said it wouldn't be a problem. The day before I was to return home she sent me a message asking where the broom and mop was because \"I want you to return home to a clean house\". I told her not to worry about the floors because I do them a certain way and we left it at that. She was set to leave at 7:30 that morning for work and I got home around 9am.\n\nWell, when I got in the house reeked of feces. She left a big #2 in the main bathroom, the cats had peed multiple times in both the showers, there were food scraps in the bathroom garbage, and she didn't even bother to make the bed. She left wet towels in the dryer, and the kitchen was a disaster. It looked like she cooked a Thanksgiving feast. Food remnants in the sink, on the counters, drips down to the floors. My big crock pot and rice maker were left out and the dishwasher was full including casserole dishes, mixing bowls, measuring cups, herb scissors, turkey baster, etc. I could tell my dining room table was used because every chair was put back askew and the drop leaf was used. She used all my flour, left grease in multiple baking pans, left her own food/leftovers in the fridge, and multiple Tupperware containers were missing. This to me seemed like she had a dinner party when I specifically instructed her not to have people over. I was pissed, so I never contacted her again.\n\nShe messaged me yesterday asking if I would be needing someone to watch the cats in the next few months because she is trying to fill her calendar with house, pet, and baby sitting jobs. She posts in a local Facebook group so I know she is looking for work outside of her school district job. I wouldn't have brought any of these issues up with her, but since she messaged me again i'm debating telling her why I wouldn't use her services again detailing what I already outlined. Would I be the asshole to call her out after almost 6 months of silence?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IpdRarTw0SqB2UAKXREpdT9exszLIfrS", "post_id": "9z87ot", "action": {"description": "not feeling family love for my brother", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not feeling family love for my brother", "text": "(slight follow-up to an earlier post)\n\nI have a half-brother who is 16 years younger than me. Growing up, I did not have any siblings. We share the same father, but different mothers. \n\nMy stepmom (his mother) came into my life at about age 10, and although we generally get along, I tended to have a lot of clashes with her over the fact that I felt like she was trying to replace my biological mom. I am very close with my biological mom, but she lives very far away and I rarely got to see her as a child, something which really bothered me. Although I don\u2019t really feel like I resent my stepmom, I to this day just don\u2019t really feel that attached or close to her.\n\nI do not feel attached to my brother at all. I have a hard time seeing him as anything more than just another toddler. This isn\u2019t to say I dislike him: he\u2019s a cute, funny child, but I just don\u2019t feel the bonds with him I feel with others in my family. I feel like I try to be a good sister: I play with him, I talk to him, I\u2019ll help with the tasks related to a baby when needed, but I just don\u2019t feel anything. I want to feel like he\u2019s my family, but I can\u2019t.\n\nAITA for not being able to love my own brother? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kbHimGxOjVP6BtkQXiG99O625D8fzvb2", "post_id": "atrk06", "action": {"description": "getting annoyed with my friends", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting annoyed with my friends", "text": "The thing is I was going through a very stressful time as I was preparing for masters in favour of college placements. So Back to college everyone had gone to their job , while I am back at college for Last semester after taking an exam. Not a single one of the friends who I consider close intiated conversation with me and its already been about 3 to 4 weeks. Some People say that I should serve as icebreaker since they all might be busy in Jobs. What do you think ? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yOS2rWEvdhEKupuFsII0T6X1IaHjxHC9", "post_id": "amfhyw", "action": {"description": "asking my neighbor to turn down their music", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked my neighbor to turn down their music?", "text": "Their music is *blaring*. I can clearly hear- and feel- the bass shaking whatever surface the stereo is on, the melody of the songs, the instrumentals, and almost fully make out the words. I'm half jealous of their sound system tbh. \n\nIt's almost 11am on a Saturday. They've been playing it since about 10 am. I work nights and I need to get to sleep. My schedule is completely flipped by this point, and I'd usually be in deep sleep right now (I think), but I actually had business to take care of. I generally cut my neighbors slack when their kids make noise because... well, they're kids. I doubt the kids are home now, and this might be the parents' \"downtime.\" But this is a lot right now. My thing is, it's 11 am on a Saturday. If anytime would be okay to play music, it'd be about this time- right? Would I be an asshole for asking them to turn it to like, half what it is now?\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RpA1vwOF8yQpjq7GtJE23F59uxnaQR3L", "post_id": "b2n9ti", "action": {"description": "not talking enough with my mom", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not talking enough with my mom?", "text": "Probably not your average \"AITA\" but oh well\n\nI'm 18 and live 2-3h away from from my mother  because of school. I visit her like once a week or two. Lately our relationship has gotten weird because i'm fucking socially disfunctional for some reason. Everytime i go to her, I try to start a conversation with whatever topic comes to mind. Examples: school, news, my little brothers. But every time i try to mention something she just doesn't care and answeres \"huh\" or stays quiet and doesn't even change the subject. So with time, i've just become more quiet.\n\nRecently, she's been mentioning that i'm quiet and that i need to start talking and stuff, also saying stuff like i don't respect her or that i'm a life-less robot.\n\nYesterday she went full breakdown, started cussing me telling me that i'm an idiot, retarded, respectless etc. She straight up bullied me. I never thought my own mother would make me this sad and low. So i went home and she called me twice but i was kinda scared to answer since she cusses at me pretty often over the phone and telling me that i play on the ps4 too much (i don't play that much) and that i'm a fat lazy nerd/looser (i'm quite healthy).\n She then messaged me asking why i won't answer and i replied \"because you're always mad at me. \n\nMom: \"i'm mad at you because you never say a word\" \n\nMe: \"i'm scared to because you'll just get mad at me\"\n\nMom: \"have you ever sat down and talked like a normal human being?\"", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ezMcZcpTZBpkukIxoHP9ftsS8SGpeHy2", "post_id": "ay58lq", "action": {"description": "looking annoyed when my mom sneezed loudly", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for looking annoyed when my mom sneezed loudly?", "text": "Background: My mom screams when she sneezes. It is very loud. One time she sneezed three times in a row and she was scream-sneezing and I clenched my fist. My mom noticed and got very mad at me. I didn't say anything to her. But am I the a\\*\\*hole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yGz1N8mxfZYeyIhlWAvsziTPnncju7ka", "post_id": "b95ukx", "action": {"description": "not wanting to meet other autistic people/watch shows about them", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to meet other autistic people/watch shows about them", "text": "Okay I know that title sounds bad but it's much better with context so please read the whole post or a least skim it before casting judgment (TLDR at bottom).\n\nKay so I am a 17 year old high functioning autistic male, and ever since I turned 13 my grandmother has always been taking me to meet other autistic people, always having me watch shows about autistic people, showing me which celebrities have autism, basically showing me anything and everything she sees that has to do with autism. Earlier today I asked if she \"please could stop\" doing that, as I find it annoying, strange, and a little bit offensive, she got mad a me and basically says that she won't stop doing that because she believes I have been brainwashed into believing that I can't do anything or am incapable of integrating into society, and she's simply trying to make me not be a mine controlled sheep. so basically was wondering If you could help me figure this out, Am I The Asshole for trying to tell her not to drag me to meet other autistic people\n\n\nTLDR: I am autistic, asked my grandmother not to drag me to meet other autistic people, or show me them in the media AITA for asking that.\n\n(P.S sorry for bad formatting, I am on my phone.)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kLwpz6tL4br1aIwiP3Qq6oCYilI83OEC", "post_id": "agtaez", "action": {"description": "telling my roommate she needs to pay me $7.50", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my roommate she needs to pay me $7.50?", "text": "Last semester, two of my roommates and I agreed to share a Chegg Study subscription. Chegg Study is useful for accessing textbook solutions, posting problems to be answered by \"experts\", and searching solutions previously worked by \"experts.\" For college students, it costs $15.00/month. Split among three people, that is $5.00 each per month. We will call my roommates Sally and Betsy.\n\nBetsy is the one who suggested we share a Chegg account. We were all studying one night, and Betsy had a chemistry test the next day. She kept saying how useful Chegg would be for chemistry. I thought it could be useful to me also, since I'm a science student. Betsy suggested the three of us share a Chegg account and pay $5.00 each per month. I knew that by owning the account, I was accepting the risk that my roommates might not hold up their agreement. Nevertheless, I created the account, shared the login information with Betsy and Sally, paid the $15.00 for that month, and sent Venmo requests to Betsy and Sally for $5.00 each. They each paid and we continued to study happily.\n\nThe second month rolled around, and I billed them both for $5.00 after Chegg charged me the $15.00. Sally texted me saying she didn't find it useful but knew it would be useful to me and Betsy. This annoyed me, but I had seen it coming. I decided I would retain the service if Betsy still wanted to share. I didn't bother asking Sally for my $5.00 back because I suspected she would refuse to pay it and throw a fit. Betsy agreed that she and I would retain the Chegg service and pay $7.50 each.\n\nThis month, like every other, I billed Betsy for my $7.50 after Chegg charged my account. She didn't ever pay it. I texted her and asked about it today. She said she wouldn't be using it anymore. I said that was fine, but I still needed the $7.50 because I had already been charged for the month. She was flabbergasted that I had the nerve to ask for my $7.50 that she had effectively spent by not notifying me that she wished to cancel the service. She says she will not pay for something that she isn't using. I explained that this would be like me refusing to pay rent because I decided to move out without giving her notice to find someone else to take over the lease, although the money is not that much. She became irate and insisted repeatedly that she said she \"only needed it for chemistry\" and that she had told me \"MONTHS ago\" that she would not need it after that. In my memory, this is false; she said she would use it for chemistry, not that she wanted to cancel it after the semester ended. And even if she did say that, I think she should have had the courtesy to remind me that she would no longer need the service. We both agreed that we should have had a conversation about whether we intended to continue using it after the semester ended. I told her I wasn't going to fight her over $7.50, but I was frustrated that she had asked me to create the account, then not held up her agreement. She raised the point that I didn't charge Sally for $5.00 when she decided to no longer pay, and I said that it was beside the point because she owed me $7.50 regardless of the $5.00 Sally owes me. I said that at some point, it's my money they're spending by refusing to pay. I feel that if the roles were flipped, she would demand I pay her $7.50.\n\nAITA for asking her to pay me $7.50?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aKIWECOMoxdkx7tXd0aoIyNj4Dz0tNvA", "post_id": "ba5dap", "action": {"description": "making my phone wallpaper a disgusting GIF", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For making my phone wallpaper a disgusting GIF", "text": "I have a gif of somebody taking there finger and stabbing it threw a nail I also hate when people look over my shoulder while I'm playing games so I made it my home screen If I notice somebody breathing down my neck I just switch to my home screen and they go away \n\nAITA here?\n\n(And note if you think I'm scaring small children I'm in middle school so it's only my fellow 6-7-8th graders seeing it)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dGWej9qQvk54YdVFgqfaAW5QeBRJNI8Y", "post_id": "avvfhj", "action": {"description": "reacting the way I did to my Dad the way I did after he was shouting at me", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for reacting the way I did to my Dad the way I did after he was shouting at me?", "text": "For context I\u2019m a 16 year old boy, and my dad is 51. \n\nI\u2019m in my room revising science. Mum comes in, she asks for me wipe down all the surfaces in my room, I say no, because I\u2019m revising and that I\u2019ll do it eventually. She leaves without saying a word, and leaves the door open. \n\nI ask her to shut the door, but there was no response so I shouted it. I knew she was ignoring me. I go to her, and ask her to leave the door open, especially when I\u2019m trying to revise. She tells me to stop telling her off\n\nMy Dad comes over and starts telling me off for \u2018harassing\u2019 Mum, I said that I\u2019m just telling her to shut my door behind her. He starts getting angry, and threatens to turn the power off (his usual response), he goes towards the door and I tell him to stop. He backs off, I start saying that he shouldn\u2019t have even got involved. This annoyed\nhim, he towards my room and began to raise his voice. \n\nHe gets close to my computer, so I get in the way. At this point he\u2019s shouting, so I\u2019m shouting. I\u2019m saying that I\u2019m just trying to revise, that he should leave me alone. He then unplugged my PC & picked it up, but then he threw it on the sofa in my room to engage me. At this point he\u2019s closing in on me. Cursing at me at me and all, I\u2019m swearing back in response.\n\nHe begins to put his right arm back, as though he were about to punch me. He starts saying something along the lines of, \u201cdo you wanna go?\u201d I back up but he just gets closer, at this point mum is in the room witness to it all. She\u2019s not interfering, just watching. I end up on my bed, and he grabs my leg. I shake him off. I shout at him and tell him to stop getting violent, he carries on.\n\nAt this point I\u2019m on the other side of the bed, he goes towards my Xbox and begins to unplug that. He picks up my Xbox and the computer and walks out, saying that he\u2019s not done.\n\nNow I turn to my mum and say I hope she\u2019s happy that she\u2019s caused this, she says it\u2019s my fault. I say I hope she\u2019s happy that she married someone who would threaten their son like that, and try to get violent (this isn\u2019t the first time he\u2019s gotten violent) \n\nEventually, he comes back. There\u2019s more swearing and shouting going on, my mum is stood between us this time. I was saying he\u2019s horrible, and he insisted he doesn\u2019t care. He starts telling me off for still living here, saying that I am leeching off of him. He begins walking off and I tell him I don\u2019t love him and I never have (dramatic, ikr) He shouts back saying that he doesn\u2019t care; that I apparently hate everyone in the family. I say that\u2019s not true as it wasn\u2019t.\n\nI say that I only hate people who are horrible, and he is the worst one. He said he doesn\u2019t care.\n\nOnce he\u2019s gone into the kitchen my mum says \u201cstop! You\u2019re upsetting your little brother\u201d, I reply saying \u201chow is that the person you\u2019re worried about being upset?\u201d (Bro wasn\u2019t near) \n\nMy voice cracked in my response and I ran upstairs and cried my eyes out.\n \nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 10, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "rke5npTFYch6yop72Ag4aALaUjYGiK2m", "post_id": "adyy8h", "action": {"description": "moving out of my apartment with out telling my friends", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For moving out of my apartment with out telling my friends", "text": "Well this happened a couple years ago but it still eats at me. \nIt was 2017 and things were not going so great for me. I was laid off from a job and then denied my dream job. My best friend was always hanging out with his gf and her friends/family. He even got the gf\u2019s friend a job with him while I\u2019m struggling to find a decent job. My other roommate is hanging out with the rest of our friends and I\u2019m stuck at home. \nWell an opportunity to move and help a family member came up and I took it immediately. I packed my things, said goodbye and left. I moved 1,000 miles away. I still paid rent every month till the end of our lease cause I couldn\u2019t find anyone to fill my spot. I wasn\u2019t that I hated my friends but I wasn\u2019t happy and felt stuck. \nSkip ahead a couple years and I\u2019m talking to my best friend and he\u2019s still really fucking pissed at me. Said I put it on myself by not talking to him about it and just leaving.\nTL;DR Moved out without telling roommates to get out of a rut. Still paid rent. Pissed my best friend off in doing so. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wgYjaUBPcS6SjdT4hdZAzem3NGNj9hxa", "post_id": "aoq6ew", "action": {"description": "having sex, and leaving very quickly afterwards", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for having sex, and leaving very quickly afterwards?", "text": "Quick bit of context: I (30M) am an INTP/very blue/introverted deep thinker. And I have known performance issues, I can achieve an erection but cannot maintain it.\n\n​\n\nI was hanging out with a previous coworker(45F), that I hadn't seen in about 2 years at her place. We had fooled around in the past and sext recently, in the past few months. We were drinking and chatting, small talk mostly catching up. Talked about the last time we saw each other and relatively quickly started making out. \n\n​\n\nWe went to her bedroom where naturally one thing led to another. I was hard and we started having sex, lasted a few minutes before I felt myself getting soft inside her. Horrible feeling for me, probably terrible feeling for her. I rolled onto the bed and lie there, she was pretty calm about it as I have found most girls are in the moment. We talk a bit and things start heating up again, we decided to try more oral stuff this round, similar to the last time we hooked up. Hard, close, but couldn't finish and again found myself losing my erection. \n\n​\n\nAt this point I am pretty defeated mentally, this girl seems eager to please and I obviously want to finish. We laid there cuddling talking, and she tried to heat things up again. But I was already so far into my own head at that point thinking about so many different things I don't know if anything could have gotten me hard at that point. \n\n​\n\nWe laid there for about 15-20mins with me holding her talking, some things sexy somethings neutral. I decided I needed to figure out a way to get myself out of the situation and wanted to leave. I did not know how she felt or what exactly she wanted, but I was extremely uncomfortable being unable to perform. I said I needed to use the bathroom, so I got up from the bed and went. \n\n​\n\nI finished doing my thing and when I came back I just immediately grabbed my pants that were on the ground and said \"I think I am going to go.\" She responded with \"Seriously? Right after?\" I retorted with \"I didn't cum, so I think I should go.\" I never hesitated putting my clothes back on, I remembered where every article was and quickly made sure I retrieved everything. I asked if she was going to walk me to the door or stay in bed. She said she would walk me out, she grabbed a robe and walked me to the door. We exchanged an awkward hug kiss thing and I said bye and left.\n\n​\n\nSo am I the asshole for getting myself out of a situation I no longer felt comfortable in?\n\n​\n\ntl;dr I had sex with a previous coworker, could not finish which made me uncomfortable. Because I was uncomfortable I left shortly after without much reason as to why.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AwVdq0ZcQyt0PL8KHi2MwWv9lQ6Uzbo5", "post_id": "avmetr", "action": {"description": "contacting my secret Santa to let them know the gift they sent was broken", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I contact my secret Santa to let them know the gift they sent was broken?", "text": "As the title says, I received a part of my gift from the Movie exchange that\u2019s going on. I collect VHS so one of the gifts was a VHS movie I\u2019ve had on my list to get. \n\nThe movie is 2 separate tapes and was shipped directly from Amazon. The sticker on the movie states that it\u2019s new, although the seal is broken. The first tape has a crack down the front of it, but I\u2019m still able to play it. \n\nWould I be the asshole if I told them what happened so they could just get a refund? The movie still works, so I have no issue. The sticker indicating it being new pisses me off. The Amazon seller clearly was being shady and sold something opened and cracked. \n\nI just don\u2019t know if it would make them feel bad or if it\u2019s worth it. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NxrbImTNxP6SRQhNasQQJs6nkAGnenL8", "post_id": "9w8988", "action": {"description": "not going to my mom's second wedding", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not going to my mom\u2019s second wedding?", "text": "Some backstory. My mom has been dating this guy for about four years. Her and my dad have been divorced for over ten years so no issues with that. However, she told me she was engaged three days ago and was having her wedding today. I live three hours away with my fianc\u00e9 and did not want to drive all the way there for a half an hour \u201cceremony\u201d which was going to take place in her living room just to turn around and drive three hours back. The wedding is taking place at night and all my family was busy before hand so there was no one to even visit with before the wedding. \n\nShe is upset at me but she needed to tell me more time in advance to possibly get off work on Monday. All my other siblings live within five minutes of her so she just never considered my distance and just assumed I\u2019d make the trip. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6ngkYKaYBv8qgF5iuOfgg5i8dAYQbDef", "post_id": "b9tq66", "action": {"description": "\"not including\" my family in my wedding dress appointment", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for \"not including\" my family in my wedding dress appointment?", "text": "I recently got engaged, and started to look into wedding dresses. On Wednesday I decided I wanted to start looking around for dresses I like, and I made an appointment at a wedding dress shop for the following day at 11am.\n     Now, the reason I wanted to go do this initially without a large family presence is because I have a somewhat difficult relationship with my family. My mom and gma specifically can be extremely opinionated, to the point where I feel like all they do is criticize me or talk about me behind my back. They have the attitude that you should always agree with their opinion, and dont really accept your opinion. My Fiance is often frustrated with them because he feels they are \"narcissitic\" and they cause me to feel very sad or negative about things that should be exciting. Because of this growing up, I struggle a lot with depression and anxiety. I felt that if I went with them and found a dress, they wouldn't like it or they would be very negative about it. This is what led to me wanting to try on different styles of dresses without them. I wanted to figure out what I like, not what THEY like. \n     I did ask my sister (my maid of honor) to come with me to the dress appointment, and I also let my mom know I was going. My sister said she wanted to go, but she had to work. However, she did not feel like going to work, so she asked me to type a message to her boss to get her out of work, which I refused to do. Since no one else was available, I just asked one of my future sisters-in-law to go because I knew she would be supportive. \n     I tried on 6 dresses of all different styles at this fitting, but I just fell in love with the second dress. I was not expecting to actually find \"the\" dress at this appointment, but it just kind of happened. My gma had previously offered to pay for my dress, so I called her to the store to see it. I also called my sister, who was supposed to be at work. Turns out she only went to work for 2 hours, and got home around the time my appointment started. It was minutes from our house, she knew I was there and had the option to come. I told her I found something and wanted her to look. She was visibly annoyed, but she came.  I tried on 2 more dresses with my gma and sister there that I let them pick out. After those, they did say they liked the dress I found, and my mother, whom I facetimed, said she loved the dress and thought I should get it.\n     My gma got the dress for me. She seemed a little sad, but was happy I was happy. My sister mentioned that she was kind of hurt that I chose to go with my fiance's sister instead of her because she would have liked to see me try on dresses. I feel like she had the choice to be there, but decided not to come. \n     Now I am feeling incredibly guilty and selfish for how everything played out. My fiance believes that I gave the opportunity to come and look at other dresses and its their own actions that made it so they were not there. So, Reddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "M4hbJFKWUrh3B991T6Y0CoAZ6FEgg0p1", "post_id": "b2k0ru", "action": {"description": "not coping with everything someone does to me", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for not coping with everything someone does to me", "text": "For reference, my parents always thaught me to be the one to be above something, for example when a conflict requires someone to step back and just let it go, or admit to be wrong or even apologize for something I did not do, to do it, just to avoid unnecessary conflict.\n\nBut that lead to the situation I am in at the moment, pretty much everyone just tramples on my opinion or similar, its like strangers kind of feel it that they can do that to me, cause i am expected to be the one to give in.\n\nBut after keeping shut about everything i felt was rude and not supporting my own opinions, i got soooo angry the last time something happenend and it all came out in a single burst of wrath.\n\nNow to that what happened: My Grandpa had birthday and invited me and my parents to a really good restaurant in range of their home. We drove to the restaurant, got our table and ordered drinks. Then the disaster happened: Our table was kind of small, and we are a large family (all of my uncles, aunts and so on were invited too) so we had to sit a bit wider to fit everyone of us to the table (note, the restaurant is a bit small too). Then some entitled bitch, lets call her Karen, came in with her younger sugarboy and her goddamn noisy rathound( or chihuaha or how you call them) to sit on the other table, back to back with me. (Note, she was fat, not chubby but fat) She sat down on the seat back to me, and needed more space to sit there, but she didn't ask me to make room for her, she just shoved the seat against my back till i made room myself (which i thought was rude) but i didn't react to that yet. When she finally got to sit in her seat, she shoved her seat against mine again, even though i had no place to make room anymore, but i even endured that one. But when she shived her arms violently against mine on MY! Armrest so she could reach her ratdog in her bag, i flipped.\n\nI stood up and asked her what the fuck she thinks she is doing, pushing me away without asking first and then just pushing back more for no reason whatsoever. Entitled Karen looked at me like:\" why is someone like you even talking to me\" which made me even angrier so i told her to back the hell away or something happens. With a big grunt of hers she moved her seat more to her table( she had more than enough room for her, even after that move) so i could sit comfortably again.\n\nMy parents looked at me like I just did the unthinkable. Why the hell am I supposed to make room for Karen even though I was there first(!!!), she was rude as hell and she didn't even need so much place to begin with!\n\n\nSo my question is, AITA?\n\n\nTl;Dr: Entitled Karen wanted more room than necessary on her table, even though I was there first and had no more room to make, so i flipped on her rude behavior (she didn't ask me to make room, she just physically pushed me to do it)\n\nSorry for my english, not a native speaker.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "R2YdmrNgZg0CWjEWPIWevyN4WC8zYO9n", "post_id": "agjh60", "action": {"description": "telling my mom she should have asked", "pronormative_score": 23, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "AITA for telling my Mom she should have asked?", "text": "So this happened a few days ago and I'm trying to grapple with left over feelings. \n\nBackground: My partner and I had a few weeks break in the new year and had planned a semi-local two week trip. At the same time we planned for my parents to come for one of the weeks and are visiting from my home country. We planned to stay together and do activities in that time. My Mom generously said my Dad and her would cover things while we were together. Awesome. I'm super thankful for them doing this. So one of the days we finish a small fishing trip and some wine tasting and my partner and I had discussed maybe doing dinner just the two of us. I ask/let my Mom know that we wanted to have a dinner out, just the two of us and they are all sweet with it and say they're planning on eating in. Side note, my Dad still cooks like 6 people still live in a house so already on our holiday we have too much food. So we eventually find a place, order, eat and have some leftovers of a half n' half pizza. We end up going back to the AirBnb and I go to chill in the our room. My Mom comes in chewing on a piece of my partner's pizza and sits down on the bed staring at me. I kinda gave her this look to which she says something along the lines of \"What..why are you looking at me like that/what's the matter??\" I think I said something like \"Well, that's Dan's pizza... you should have asked.\" Immediately she gets angry/hurt/defensive, says something (can't remember), I respond then she leaves. Suddenly outside the room on the balcony I hear her talking quite upset to my partner about what I said.   \n\n\nDan didn't know at all what was going on. He had come out of the toilet and was having a smoke when she came up. (D for Dan, M for Mom)\n\nM: \"Sorry Dan I ate a piece of pizza, I hope thats fine\"\n\nD: \"Absolutely, not a problem, but I would liked to be asked in the future.\"\n\nM: \"Why?\"\n\nD: \"Its just common courtesy.\"\n\nM: \"But we've paid for everything. We've paid for the trip, accomodation, activities. I don't have to ask for a bit of pizza.\"\n\nD: \"Its still common courtesy to ask regardless of what has been done.\"\n\nM: \"Well I've given you all this and I expect the same in return.\"\n\nAt this point we were just trying to get across that common courtesy should be used no matter the case. We paid for the pizza and still may have wanted it, but were happy to share. We tried giving other examples but it boiled down to her believing/expectation that if she gives then she expects to receive no questions in return. We tried to explain that she made it seem like listing what they've paid for was more a gift with strings attached rather than an unconditional gift. We also said that while those might be her expectations, other people (like us) don't necessarily expect the same of others.\n\nIt ended with silence, in the morning it was the same and is still technically unresolved but I was left feeling like I wasn't wrong but guilty because she/my Dad had paid for everything. Reddit, am AITA somewhere in this?\n\n​\n\nTLDR; Mom and Dad paid for part of a two week trip we (including my partner) spent together. Mom got upset when I said she should have asked before taking a slice of pizza from our dinner out. My partner and I were just bringing up common courtesy while she felt that paying for accommodation, activities and groceries entitled her to a simple slice of pizza/not needing to ask. AITA for saying she should have just asked first.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 20, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 23, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hvdbSmlqQFEsxDlfFTCBSkbwrtaU7rU6", "post_id": "a65l3q", "action": {"description": "not letting my little brother use my controller", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not letting my little brother use my controller?", "text": "Okay so for context:  \nI'm a freshman in HS, and I have a little brother who we're gonna call \"Zam\" for this interaction because I don't want to put his name out on the internet, despite it being a very common one.\n\nSimply put, Zam is the kind of person to rage at video games. A lot. A few years ago when we used our PS3 a lot, he broke about 4 controllers in separate fits of rage, and during his fortnite addiction, I heard some loud banging from across the hallway. The next day, he started asking for my controller.\n\nThis controller is simply a wired Xbox controller made for people who want to play PC games using a controller but don't want to spend the 60 bucks on a wireless controller that I got for my birthday. I use this controller a lot for the sort of couch co-op or games that have very simple controls (Think GBA emulation, The Binding of Isaac, Super Treasure Arena, etc.).\n\nSo I say okay at first, but tell Zam he needs to save money up for a controller of his own. He says he will, and I'm alright with this deal.\n\nThat was three months ago, and he has yet to get a new controller, and I've heard him abuse mine more than once.\n\nEventually, I wanted to play some Isaac with my computer connected to the TV so I could sit on my bed while playing, and asked if I could use the controller once he was done with his round of fortnite. He muttered sure and continued playing. The round ends, and he doesn't give it back. Instead, he just queues up again. I tell him to give it back, and he says \"I just started this round, let me finish R\\*tard\". I'm livid at this point, so I unplug the controller, turn off the xbox, take the controller, and walk out of the room. (This was probably an overreaction, but he used R\\*tard specifically against me because I have Asperger's Syndrome). He calls me an asshole for doing that and he attempts to grab me and shove me against a wall. I shove him away, he stumbles, then he runs down to mom, crying, and tells her that I beat him up (He's 12, and he wasn't crying when he got stabbed by a fucking fish hook from his own stupidity). I got grounded for a week on account of \"Treating my brother like crap\", and he taunted me by using my controller the entire time I was grounded.\n\nI had enough, and I've taken it; every time he asks for it I say no.\n\nHe still insists I'm an ass for doing so, and that's the question: Am I The Asshole? I know this is really petty and all, but it would be nice to know.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gcPO326i6trHB1CNflxmVzF2sxpuHM30", "post_id": "ay348h", "action": {"description": "asking my husband to post a pic of me", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked my husband to post a pic of me?", "text": "My (35F) husband (37M) have been together for 10 years, married for 8. We have two kids. I'm pretty active on SM (mostly FB and IG), he posts on FB maybe once a year tops and on IG maybe once a month or so. Neither of us use Twitter or Snapchat. \n\nI have no issue with his SM usage except for one thing - he has never posted a picture of me. On FB he says he's married to me, but doesn't have a single post or picture of me on either account. It's about 50% our kids, 30% travels (either trips he's taken alone or with friends or us together), and 20% his work/friends. About 1/4 of all those pictures include him. Even his profile picture is from our wedding but it's just of him!\n\nWIBTA if I asked him to include a picture of me somewhere? I don't think I'm ugly or embarrassing to look at, and I don't need it to be a sappy post or anything like that. But like, if he's posting a picture of the kids at the zoo, why can't I be in that picture too? Or if we go on a trip somewhere, why not post a picture of all of us instead of just a landscape/the kids/him and the kids?\n\nIs that a weird request? Also, I post pictures of him maybe a few times a year and he has no issue with it. \n\nTLDR: Husband has never posted a pic of me on social media, WIBTA if I asked him to include me sometime?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wRbYjOsZLluQGIqeK8NenJpeHnZDStZv", "post_id": "asn8at", "action": {"description": "not wanting to hang out with someone that was a bitch", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "aita for not wanting to hang out with someone that was a bitch?", "text": "I could not think of a good title for this. \n\n\nso a few years ago I was being abused by someone, I decided to take it to the counselor and get help and so me and the counselor could get some evidence so we could take my abuser down. \n\nI decided to ask my friends if they had ever seen this guy be abusive and one friend suddenly came out and said that he groped her a few weeks back and was scared to tell someone, I automatically started helping her and me and my friends helped her through this. we would go to counseling together and we worked a good case against him and presented it to the dean. \n\nall was ok until a few days later it comes out that she lied for attention and all the evidence we had could not be used. even my stuff was thrown out as they thought I also lied. \n\nI refused to talk to her after that because she made it easier for my abuser to hurt me and I suffered for her attention seeking. \n\nit's been a few years and some people in the friend group want to invite her out, I explained why I'm against it and they used the \"she changed\" line. \na few friends are calling me a asshole for not giving her a second chance. \nI now feel like garbage and now feel I should?\n\naita?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "k9dSr7KEVyIODoUQxlFgRjaaKopUD2OX", "post_id": "am9ywa", "action": {"description": "ruining a vacation", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ruining a vacation", "text": "So I recently start hanging out with these two guys who are brothers, Levi and Ian. the same age as me (21) at the time. We become amazing friends and spend so much time together and literally can find any way to have a good time.\n\nBut then there is their best friend, (they have the same best friend) Adam. Adam is 24.\n\nAt first Adam came across as friendly and interested in getting to know me. But then one day when I'm in the car with Adam and Levi, I start going through what I like to refer as a \"lull\" where I don't initiate any conversation and just become quiet but it's kinda like I'm socially spent and I just feel \"low\" and at the time I assumed I was depressed but never went to get it checked out.\n\nWell ever since that time Adam started treating me different. If we were all in a car he would talk and interact with every single person except me, even if I said some kind of comment directed at him. The only time he would seldom \"talk\" to me was indirectly when someone brought up something about me that i did that was funny or silly in a joking way and he would take it more serious and thrown in a passige aggressive remark. \n\nIt was like Levi and Ian didn't see it. And at first I thought I was going crazy and just paranoid and I remember literally telling Ian \"I don't think Adam likes me\" and his response was \"I think he just doesn't know you\". \n\nI never experienced this with Levi and Ian. It was like day and night. It was so fun to be around them that I put up with Adam's behavior, even when it meant he would \"control\" the group and be the person deciding what we would do. \n\nLevi and Ian eventually notice my \"lulls\". It was first brought up with Levi asking me what I wanted the most in the world and I said to be on vacation for a weekend. I hadn't gone on vacation in two years due to financial circumstances with my family, my dad having lost his job of 20 years a couple years back.\n\nThen Levi mentions that his family (middle class like mine but on leaning toward upper middle class) had a cabin in the state just north of hours and says would I be down for going on a vacation and I said yeah that was so nice of him. He says we can plan for the end of the summer (it was late June at this point)\n\nIf becomes evident Adam is going on this trip as Levi sends me details of dates and what to bring. I wondered if this was something I really wanted to do as it's been like going to the dentists office Everytime I'm around Adam no matter how hard I try to be his friend, and I want to be his friend.\n\nSo the day comes and it's like I should have turned back and ran but I didn't the moment I found out we were traveling all in Adam's car and suddenly 20 minutes in the driving of a 4 hour drive I'm regretting coming. It's like they don't see that I'm being excluded from the conversation or that anytime i mention something Adam brings up something that he, Levi and Ian exclusively do (they always hang out together and Adam keeps mentioning how next Saturday they should do this or that and Levi tries to act dumb and says \"Saturday\"? And Adam says we always hang out on Saturday. (Adam is making it obvious he wants me to know that they hang out every Saturday without me and it bothers me not that they do but that he's trying to antagonize me with it) \n\nAnd then we get to the trip. It's hell. \nThree days of doing things I've never done before but Adam wants to do and it's like Ian and Levi don't see it and remain who they are usually but at the same different people in terms of acting oblivious to Adam's behavior and to me it's like I'm the only one who sees a fire but everyone around me doesn't even smell the smoke.\n\nI try to hide my \"lulls\" because I know it will upset Adam. I get quiet and try to collect myself during this hellish time and try to be positive but it's too much. A couple times I put on my sunglasses and wipe tears as I pretend to be readjusting them.\n\nThen the day before the last day of the trip I'm in the room I sleep in in the cabin and Adam comes down stairs and says \"whats wrong /jillerski?\" And I say \"what do you mean?\" And he sits down and motions me to sit down (on the bed in front of him because there are two beds in the room) \n\nHis exact words \"you're like a roller, coaster. You're fun to be around and then ten minutes later you're bringing everyone down.\" And I'm like \"....I'm sorry.\" I feel bad because in general I hate bothering people. He says \"this trip wasn't cheap, and you won't be invited again unless you start getting your act together.\" And I tell him I'm sorry that I've been feeling down because of my family's economic problems and that sometimes I don't feel good and he said \"well just pretend to be happy.\" \"You're starting to bring everyone down and it's ruining the trip for Levi and Ian.\" And I said ok and I smiled and went outside and saw Levi and Ian sitting in the boat (we were gonna go out for the day) and they are acting like two people who are trying too hard to not act like they knew what went down. And we go out and I pretend to be happy the whole trip and smiles smiles smiles. \n\nWhen I get home eventually and I get signal back in my phone (couldn't talk to anyone outside of the 4 of us because I had no signal) I get a text from Ian saying \"I hope Adam didn't say anything that bothered you\" and I just stopped hanging out with them and maybe I am the asshole for ruining the trip they generously provided. And maybe I'm even a bigger asshole for not hanging out with them ever again.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2XvHN3FSl4gEsuCbxAh8YMaFpn83Fsdn", "post_id": "avhah5", "action": {"description": "not letting my old job know my name is still on the website", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not letting my old job know my name is still on the website?", "text": "A couple of months ago I was fired for no reason from a job I actually enjoyed. I feel like I contributed a lot to the job, but ultimately they didn\u2019t care about me or anything I did. In the end, they turned my position into an unpaid one, and decided to fire me out of the blue. A big problem at this job was management. Things that were supposed to be done by someone else, often ended up being my job and often times ended up being done outside of work hours that I was never paid for. A lot of the people at this job were older than me, and had a lot of problems with technology. Which led to me offering a lot of tech advice, which while appreciated was always met with a snide comment or two about millennials. Like I said, I liked the job a lot though, and so I put up with it. \n\nIt\u2019s been two months and no one has removed my name (misspelled btw because that\u2019s how much they cared about me) from the company website. It still says that I work there and at which position. And even though my name isn\u2019t exactly right online, it\u2019s really unique for the area, and a simple google search brings up my Facebook/social media accounts. I\u2019ve had people contact me asking about details about the workplace/etc. and every time I write back something like, \u201cActually, I don\u2019t work there anymore. The company is just super behind on updating things and its social media.\u201d Am I the asshole for not contacting the company and letting them know their mistake? I feel like I\u2019m only going to get more and more people contacting me. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0pSUtt8qVZERVqaRqKBOOyde2FZy25Bj", "post_id": "azqis6", "action": {"description": "texting a female friend infront of my ex-gf 3 days after we broke up", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for texting a female friend infront of my ex-gf 3 days after we broke up", "text": "Three days ago my (now ex) girlfriend of 4 years and I broke up. I broke up with her.  Tonight we where laying in bed (she doesnt have anywhere else to go rn) and I was texting a female friend whom she had known about for months.  We werent flirting or anything like that, just talking like friends do.  When she saw her name on my screen she immediately got mad and starting throwing a fit. She starts Mumbling things under her breath and turning her back to me.  We got in a small argument about how I'm talking to my friend and not her right now and how it makes her feel bad.  I'm now sleeping in my couch tonight while she is in my bed. \n\n Am I the asshole for texting my friend?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EeCF3rxMOqUeQks9umbZzANvft8vk4C6", "post_id": "apfdqa", "action": null, "title": "AITA For my why my girlfriend broke up with me?", "text": "So basically I'm sorry if my writing sucks, and this is my first time posting on here so sorry again. Anyways I was dating my last girlfriend for around a month before she broke up with me. We had been flirting and texting with a some real dates, but since her parents were strict and I'm reserved we never really hung out for too long. This is all going great the usual I love yous, then we were hanging out with her friends she had to leave to go home. She texted me after she left, but I didnt even realise she had gone. So while talking to her friends I jokingly sent \"lol are you too embarrassed of me?\" Long story short she dumped me right after that. AITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "j66cjkJFFyHS5NxRIrY7tqoB8qG5utBt", "post_id": "au6vma", "action": {"description": "asking for my own possessions back", "pronormative_score": 24, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking for my own possessions back?", "text": "A sibling borrows a lot of my stuff. I'm 17 and this sibling is a little older than me. I have a job but I'm trying to save right now because I want to go on holiday at the end of this year.\n\nThis sibling borrows my car (which I paid for) and leaves it without refuelling and leaves it in a mess every time. Dirty tissues, rubbish and it always smells of fucking perfume after. My girlfriend got a little worried because of that!\n\nAnyway, she borrowed my laptop case ages ago, saying she'd give it back that day. She didn't. I asked her for it and she literally said \"Bye!!\" and got in a taxi to the train station and went back to uni. \n\nToday, with all the family about, I simply said, \"Hey, can I have that back now please?\" pointing at the case. Holy shit. She started screaming at me saying I'm selfish and blah blah blah. She said \"You've got loads of money, buy it yourself!\" to which I responded, \"I did. It's mine... That's why it fits my laptop perfectly but is loose to yours...\". \n\nThen my mum started on me saying I should share. How the fuck am I supposed to share a laptop case when we live cities apart?\n\nI just want my stuff back. I don't complain about the mess she leaves my car in. The one time I asked for my phone charger back, she flipped out and cried to my parents (I got it back and refused to apologise). \n\nAm I an asshole here? Cus everyone in my family seems to think I'm 'selfish' for wanting my own stuff back. They don't seem to see how much I put up with when I do lend stuff. Fuck, I even 'lent' her money to pay for her friends phone (sister 'jokingly' slapped it out of her friends hand). I think I'm more than reasonable here!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 24, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 24, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tBiquBae8OVbeDPTbfSNQi8LQ1Pcn14R", "post_id": "af6ogh", "action": {"description": "not telling my gf some other girl I know recommend me for my furure job", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not telling my gf some other girl i know recommend me for my furure job?", "text": "So last year in december a girl i know recommend me for my future Job. My gf has a history to get mad everytime anyone whos not male messages me for any reason (study w/e). ive not cheated, we are close to one year relationship and i am annoyed by the fact she gets mad so easy for no reason. So i decided not to tell her directly. When she asked me how i know my future boss and how i got in contact with him i told her. she got mad at me for not telling her \"because i dont talk with her about the important things\".\n\nNo history with the other Girl beside casual friendship.\n\nIm not a native speaker sorry.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "LjJJT9zVjZHBt6PLqMsCroMtTlqCkVp0", "post_id": "b0hrbx", "action": null, "title": "AITA because I won\u2019t wear the shirt mom got me?", "text": "So last September I got hit by a truck when riding my bike. I was okay but I now have a huge scar and my elbow hurts every so often because it dislocated and relocated during the accident and I was in physical therapy until November. \nMy mom jokes that it will happen to every other kid because my older brother also got hit by a truck. My older sister jokes that we are part of the \u201cbumper humper club\u201d. \n\nSo last Christmas eve my family all (except my older sister who lives far away) decided to do the tradition where we all get to open one present before Christmas of my mom\u2019s choosing. My mom hands me this package that suspiciously feels like a shirt along with giving another gift to my brother and has her camera out saying \u201cyour older sister needs to see this\u201d. I immediately knew what it was but just to give my mother the benefit of the doubt I open mine but say \u201cif it is those shirts I\u2019m never wearing it\u201d. I can clearly see a truck on the shirt and threw it away in disgust and did it again when my youngest sister brought it back to me. While I admit this was rude I was emotional and started bawling my eyes out. \n\nMy brother loves his shirt but I never touched mine even now. My mom keeps trying to guilt trip me into wearing it even though I would like not to be reminded that I was hit unless I bring it up and would like to not make people think that I get freaky with cars. She even set it folded outside my door on the cd shelf saying I will appreciate it one day. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8HTwHarkRpfPhmhTSyMGKtf8uE7D2Ys6", "post_id": "b2bw1g", "action": {"description": "snitching on my mom for putting herself in a bad spot", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "WIBTA if I snitched on my mom for putting herself in a bad spot?", "text": "throwaway, too personal for main.\n\n​\n\nBackstory: My brother and I play in handball teams, from the same club, but since he's only 16 he plays in a younger category than I do (I'm 18), called U18 for \"under 18\" (which means, I was playing in that category last year).\n\n​\n\nThis afternoon, as per usual, I came to see him and his team play against another team, that I've played last year. My brother's team starts to behind in goals, and the opponents and their coach seem to think this is a great opportunity to be crazily disrespectful, making dirty fouls, clapping loudly whenever our team misses a pass, insulting the crowd and making fun of my little brother's team (\"hey let's try and get that 10 goal lead\"). Things are clearly heating up, and I'm slowly getting mad and excited, even though I still remain quiet.\n\n​\n\nThe game ends, my mom and I are heading out, while my father waits inside gymnasium for my brother. The enemy team's players come out: they're loud, obnoxious, and complaining about a lack of fair-play from our team. I'm out of the car, while my mom's sitting in it. I overhear them trashtalk my club one too many times, and it makes my blood boil. I open the car's door and tell my mom I'm going to see them. I call the other team's coach, and tell him that I reckon he's being pretty arrogant for a coach that didn't see his team win a single game the year prior, and lose every week-end by 40 to 10. By the time I end my sentence, my mom has jumped out of the car, stepped in and is insulting the coach. I know she's short-tempered and really hot-headed, so I'm considering holding her back ; but the coach is already getting inside his car. I turn around and start walking towards our car, certain my mom is right behind me, but after a few steps I hear them both still arguing. When I look back, my mom has opened the coach's car, and she's almost stepped in yelling at his face. I'm pretty paralysed at this point, still very stirred up. I don't move until a few seconds later, when my mom finally comes back to the car, sits in and lets out a sigh.\n\n​\n\nI know what I did probably wasn't the right nor best thing to do, but I just felt like this time I wouldn't let it go ; but I also realise that was she did was very wrong, and that the guy could've hit her. She then asks me that I don't tell my father, as he'd be really angry at her for what she did, because it could've turned out real bad for her. But I also don't want her to do that again, when noone else will be by her side to help her if it turns bitter. This has been getting on my nerves, and I cant get it out of my mind\n\n​\n\nTLDR; my mom and I got into an argument with some guy, but she crossed the line and kept going at him when him and I had backed down; she doesn't want me to tell my dad. WIBTA if I did tell my dad what happened?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "8jGkSreX33MPt8M9KiJAecgKHLSTl2cT", "post_id": "a46l8s", "action": {"description": "not wanting my wife to post sexy pictures on Instagram", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my wife to post sexy pictures on Instagram", "text": "The other day at work my wife sent me a sexy picture of her in some lacey underwear and a bra / bustier type thing.   She sent me the same picture a bunch of times each with a different xmas boarder. She asked which one i liked.  I responded \"goddamn, all of them\".\n\nThen she asked which one she should post to her instastory.  I responded \"none of them, wtf?\"  since then she hasn't spoken to me. Today is day four of the silent treatment\n\nI pointed out that her followers are not only friends and family, but also some of my coworkers, and some of her employees.  She made the argument that it's s the same as a bikini, which i disagree with because one doesn't wear lacey bikinis.\n\nI'm not sure that it matters but my wife is a very attractive woman and the mother of my 7 year old child.  I often get the \"what is she doing with you\" kind of jokes. \n\nI feel uncomfortable having friends, family, co-workers and other parents from my sons hockey team seeing my wife in her underwear.\n\nAITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ttNmdAKdkAzUB0NiypB5cViBligW57Ot", "post_id": "9xr2xq", "action": {"description": "just wanting my cleaner to shut up and clean", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for just wanting my cleaner to shut up and clean?", "text": "She cleans for me 3 times a week, 4 hours each time. She:\n\n1) constantly is talking to me. About her life, her child, in very broken English. I do not mind some small conversation but I feel I need to leave my house to avoid these interactions because it\u2019s constant. It\u2019s hard for me to leave the house because I\u2019m very sick with this pregnancy. Really annoying. \n\n2) talks in this ridiculous baby voice to my pets and keeps cuddling them and kissing them. I just want her to clean their cages and leave them alone (rabbits and guinea pigs). They don\u2019t like being held upside down/dangling mid air and she keeps doing it. Briefly, not torturing them or anything but wtf...\n\n3) is always giving me advice. \u201cYou\u2019re going out in those high heels?\u201d Or says things like \u201cI can\u2019t wait to see how HUGE you get in your third trimester (I\u2019m pregnant). Touching my pregnant stomach (just small taps one or two fingers). \n\n4) comments on our things being expensive. We don\u2019t have a lot, but the things we do have are very nice quality. Towels, shirts, appliances. She just keeps mentioning it over and over. \n\nI don\u2019t want to seem like I\u2019m being snobbish but I really just want her to come, clean and leave. Or perhaps it\u2019s me and I\u2019m being unfriendly. \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ihZigFvFinTqn66oK3CiKY87DhhjXSrd", "post_id": "9v09z6", "action": {"description": "purposefully ignoring my Mom's I love you texts for 4 years", "pronormative_score": 51, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA For Purposefully Ignoring My Mom's I Love You Texts for 4 Years?", "text": "AITA For never returning my mom's love? My mother lives in Nevada. I'm out here on the West Coast so of course messaging is the only way she can contact me. She tells me she loves me and she misses me, she tells me happy birthday and Merry Christmas. She gives me encouragement and tells me to stay strong, and I never say a word back.\n\nSome backstory:\n\n When I was 6, my mother was arrested for child neglect, drug abuse, and most likely other charges I'm too scared to ask about. She's been married once and has had 5 children with all different men. All but one of us never met our fathers. I was put in a foster home, and eventually adopted by a Native-American Ex-Marine father and African American mother of whom I love dearly.\n\nI grew up alright. I struggled with learning disabilities such as ADHD, mild medical issues, and did alright socially. Due to the legality of the arrest, my mom had been forced to leave the state and was not permitted to contact me until I was 18. Until then, the only thing I had to remember her by was two photos of us taken in a DHS office that I had nailed to my bedroom wall. \n\nA couple months after my 18 birthday she finally contacted me via Facebook. It was an extremely emotional experience. I wanted to know so much about myself: who my father was, what my nationality is, why did she have to leave, and small things like who's personality did I get? Hers or dad's? Do I have her eyes or my dad's nose? The more I asked the more I my heart sank. She didn't know my father. It was between multiple men. She didn't know my nationality either. She then told me how sorry she was, and how much she missed me. And told me she was abusing crack cocaine for years, even for 4 months during her pregnancy with me.\n\nI haven't spoken to her since. She's sweet I guess. She's clean, found her faith in the Christian Church. She tells me how much she regrets what she's done and how she wishes she could take it back, that she just wants to be part of my life. But I can't find it in me to love her back. She's a stranger to me. She calls herself my mom but I have no idea who she is. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 50, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 51, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wPT6iFDD7ZP54s6wCH30As18MGf4s2SO", "post_id": "apoqnn", "action": {"description": "being annoyed after being ignored by my (ex)-\"friends\"", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed after being ignored by my (ex)-\u201cfriends\u201d?", "text": "First of all I wanna say that I\u2019m german so my English might have wuite some mistakes but hopefully is atleast understandable. I also just remembered this sub while being confused andhope this is the right place. I don\u2019t really am a frequent reddit user and made a new account just for this. So I don\u2019t really know how all of this works but here I go.\n\nSo I am currently having quite a hard time with one group of friends from high school. It\u2019s been around half a year now where from my perspective they started becoming more and more distant. Or rather me and my best friend at that time. The last time we did anything together was a week before Christmas and since then it especially went down the drain.\nI should probably add that both of us are kinda broken on the mental side which lead to us not really being able to react properly at that time making us grow apart quite a bit.\nIt ended with me becoming distant or excluded from the rest of this group of friends. They ignored me, wouldn\u2019t talk to me and did stuff without me. \n\nThen in the beginning of this year my mind cleared up a bit. But they kept ignoring me. One day then I was told I was too negative und that that only dragged them down so they started to avoid me. And I can at that point only agree that I was still pretty negative and all.\nBut them ignoring me didn\u2019t really make that better at all und made me grow more annoyed and confused which in tirn would make us grow even further apart.\n\nSo I decided to offer a full turn. I wouldn\u2019t be negative and just stop doing so and they in turn wouldn\u2019t ignore me. And then we did that.\nOr so I thought. I took extra notice on my behavior and all and didn\u2019t really do anything they complained about (yes I\u2019m certain about that. I even kept track and wrote that down for a bit).\nBut even though they agreed they didn\u2019t do anything of the agreement. They stayed distant and kept treating me like air.\n\nAnd now a few days ago after I tried to initiate talking and all, which failedin both ways. When I talked about stuff I was interested in and that happened to me or just asked general questions I was really just talking to a wall. Now I tried going with something they ((ex)best friend) was interested in.\n\nAgain I need to say how I made these friends rather recently when one of them transferred to my school 1.5 years ago. And they also were the first proper friends (or so I would say) in highschool (we are close to finishing but my mind stopped me from being able to properly interact with others before them).\nAnd through my (ex)best friend. I opened up quite a bit and was able to start doing things I always wanted to do (join a theatre group, considering going to a dance school) but also stuff irrelevant to them (eg. school chorus).\n\nGoing back to the other thing I tried. After I tried talking about that topic and before that aswell in a way I now realize. \nThey accused me of copying them and that being the only reason I do those things (subjective interpretation of what they said). They also wrote that they would still be avoiding me because I would be so negative and annoyed which I have to admit, I started tobe again after they did nothing of their part while I kept pretending that it didn\u2019t bother me to not be negative.\n\nSo AITA for reacting negatively and annoyed (I would be ... I don\u2019t really know ... unfriendly I guess) after they ignored me for so long me being sad about it, reconciling afterwards but them not doing what they said they would. \nAnd especially now after they simply told me that they will avoid me even more after I didn\u2019t just remain cold after all of that and also accusing me of just copying them and being to only reason I do the things I like.\n\nAm I in the wrong for reacting negative to this.\n\nI don\u2019t remember what I am supposed to write at the end and I just hope I didn\u2019t come to the wrong place cause I don\u2019t know if this is appropriate for this sub nor if it violates the rules but I really don\u2019t know.\n\nI also apologize for the outdrawn sentences I know they are/were annoying if you read this far. And I already want to thank you for that.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4gxlmR6q0DjkmunWK3WwBiAr6ca1ytDC", "post_id": "apmqlo", "action": {"description": "telling a kid to have better hygiene", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "WIBTA for telling a kid to have better hygiene?", "text": "I'm currently in high school. I sit next to this Indian kid every single day. We are sorta neutral, just classmates. His scent is VERY strong.  On top of that he is extremely annoying and always touches my shit. I always tell him to stop messing with my stuff. Today he took my $200 headphones I worked all summer for, and dropped them on the floor for no reason. If he touches my stuff again I'm gonna tell him that he smells bad,needs to take a shower,and if he touches my stuff again I'd rock his shit. Would I be the asshole here even though I've told him to stop touching my shit? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ZheRIsS3c76nbsPFllePOPgKjUfr8k0h", "post_id": "atazz5", "action": {"description": "telling a homeless man to back the fuck off", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA: For telling a homeless man to back the fuck off", "text": "So recently I was eating lunch at a fast food restaurant and doing my homework at the same time. I had my earbuds in and felt a tap on my shoulder. When I looked back to see who it was a big guy wearing an old torn jacket asking me if I had money to help buy his lunch. I said no and put my earbuds back in he tapped me again and made up a sob story about how is mom was in the hospital. I just said no again and put my earbuds back in. The third time he happed me I got really pissed because I had already told him no twice and after the second time he had gotten close to me and closed off the exit from the booth (I think he was trying to intimidate me). So I angrily took my earbuds off stood up and aggressively told him to back the fuck off. Once I said it he backed off and left me alone. But a few of the people in the restaurant gave me a dirty look and i felt bad. So reddit AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "S2QyVxl9QJNs3wTXyLtUHSf4XHeTIu2P", "post_id": "abt6wg", "action": {"description": "thinking people ask easy, misleading questions on this sub, where they deliberately paint themselves innocently, only to seek reassurance", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for thinking people ask easy, misleading questions on this sub, where they deliberately paint themselves innocently, only to seek reassurance?", "text": "This'll probably be branded as a sanctimonious shitpost, and if that's what you take away from it, I apologize, but that's really not the intent. I just felt like this was something no one talked about, so I'm attempting to now. I've only recently actively looked into this sub, but I've fleetingly seen posts for quite some time now that have really grabbed my attention. People seem to write in often where the scenario they depict is almost too outrageous and ridiculous to believe, or they seem very obvious that OP would is NTA. It really looks like people take the catharsis to a little too close heart, and forgot that honesty and transparency is needed in order for any of the resolution to be genuine.\n\n​\n\nThe only outlook I have in these evident posts being genuine is kind of a cynical one. It's sad to say, but I think it's really possible there are plenty of people who really don't know or know how to expect someone close to them to be a decent human being with fairness and compassion. They often land themselves with people who aren't worth a damn because they don't know they deserve better or the right to fight for improving their quality of life with family if they've truly been wronging you. I really hope that's not the case, but, either way, it boils down to the conditioned inability to stomp out the bullshit, or you being the one creating it.\n\n​\n\nI don't doubt that many of you have candidly presented yourselves as unbiased as you could, but, what's funny is that no one has pointed out how absolutely absurd it is to expect someone to \"depict both sides of the story\", like the sub states. You will always be speaking for the other person. No matter how bipartisan you are about the ordeal, phrasing is everything, and anyone can tell a story differently without changing the events to make themselves the victor and the other the villain. These nameless people the OP has conflict would almost always have a better chance at gaining favor or defending themselves if they were able phrase things the way they wanted to, or at all for that matter.\n\n​\n\nBy the other extreme, there's nothing stopping anyone from making up a dishonest, slanderous story to reap the affirmation they might desperately desire to quell their unchanging, narrowed outlook on any given situation. I don't blame them to be honest, because it seems like something we all do to some extent. Reddit, and social media in general is a great place to escape to and experience a rare and odd form of gratification, especially in the way you present yourself to other people. You get to control how much or how little you want someone to know, and since verification of these types of \"text only\" stories doesn't really exist, there's nothing stopping you from completely inflating your ego and confirming how \"right\" you are, even at the expense of the truth.\n\n​\n\nThis is in no way a novel concept, but I feel I really need to say that some things are better left unsaid if they can't be told sincerely. If you need some kind of break from reality or can't face the decisions you make, that is entirely your choice and freedom to do so. I just don't think it serves any kind of long-term benefit to pose as these relatively innocent, guiltless people if that's not how you exist in the real world.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Nwo2TKA0x3dQFXTCG7OVIheSQiFsb0la", "post_id": "at0v9p", "action": {"description": "falling asleep on the couch", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA For falling asleep on the couch?", "text": "20yr old male living at home, fell asleep sitting on the couch after/during family devotions. 20-30min later my Dad tries to wake me up and somehow manages to massively piss-off 90% asleep me, causing me to jump\\\\lashout\\\\violently wakeup resulting in him being kicked in the leg(something I would never do intentionally and most certainly not while awake) by my boots. He the proceeds to Shout, Scream, yell, and otherwise make known(waking the whole house in the process, that I'm no longer allowed on the couch,He will throw me out next time/just throw water on me, and that i am some sort of ungrateful wretch because he was only trying to help me \"so i wouldn't sleep weird and mess up my back\"  . All the while poor 1\\\\2 awake me is still trying to figure what happened and trying to apologize. \n\nNow, I pay my parents rent, am generally responsible, and feel like this is completely unacceptable behavior on his part. Especially seeing as I am well known to be a violent and unpredictable sleeper on my best days(I have no idea why. If you do LMK, id like to change that)\n\n​\n\nThats the story. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "xkcQ3OTSdSdnYlURfkIEDhSM5By3Q10m", "post_id": "9tcxbo", "action": {"description": "pestering my friend for money they owe me", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for pestering my friend for money they owe me?", "text": "So a few months ago, I let my friend borrow a ten-dollar bill when she needed five to buy lunch, and then later another ten to get me something from Taco Bell. She said she'd pay me back the first time, and then didn't get me anything the second time and said she'd pay me back. I trust her, so I didn't say anything for a week or so. Then she started buying things like a new phone case and a new vape pen, and even though it's not a lot, I was still annoyed. I started asking her when she's pay me back, and she was kind of snotty about it and said that it was my problem. I was upset and started asking her everyday, and she one day waved a 20 in front of my face at work and then said that if I stopped mentioning it, I'd get paid. I did, and still nothing. I've started making snappy remarks back and leaving notes for her about it, and my friends have asked her about it too. She complains that we're too annoying and she should take more money because I'm stressing her out whenever I mention it, but she's still annoying herself about it. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3lx5RFriegTH7duKGMROh3mzkv58KzqS", "post_id": "9ywje1", "action": {"description": "not wanting my girlfriend to hangout with her former lover", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my girlfriend to hangout with her former lover?", "text": "So I started dating this girl about 5 months ago, when I met her she had told me about her past relations which I did not judge her about. One of the guys she had relations with was her best friend from her home town whom she said she was in love with but he broke her heart. I've always told her that she is and adult and she can do what shes wants, I would never tell her what to do. Shes been keeping a friendship with him through texting ever since we started dating. She told me yesterday that on Friday  they are going to hang out (she didn't tell me what they were going to do). Am I the asshole for not wanting her to hang out with this guy, ever. Really love this girl but I dont want to be hurt because of this. He is single, and about 2 months ago his girlfriend broke up with him.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6JwL86RQSn5sElurvl9cTWUP6vpY1Yrl", "post_id": "a5uqrs", "action": {"description": "not helping my friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for Not Helping My Friend?", "text": "I have this friend who is like a sister to me. She's been my best friend since we were very young (like 5-6). We'll call her Brittany.\n\nSo recently Britney has been severely depressed and has been suffering from panic attacks. We do not live near each other, so we only get to see each other about once a month, but we talk every day. Brittany has been having panic attacks during which she is unable to breathe and cannot talk. I receive a snapchat from her every day early in the morning or between 6-8 PM of her crying with captions along the lines of \"I hate myself\", \"I want to die\", \"I'm having a panic attack and I want to kill myself\", and even \"I want to shoot myself\". Every single day I reply with \"I'm so sorry\", \"what can I do to help?\" \"I wish I could be there with you and help you through this\", etc. Every day I receive a reply with sometime similar to \"you can't understand\" or \"you don't really care about me.\" She also flips out if I leave her on read/open for more than five minutes.\n\nI feel like it is worth noting that I also suffer from depression and anxiety, and I have been seeing a therapist about it for years. I have also encouraged Brittany to seek help, and to go to therapy or see a doctor, but she ignores this advice and instead chooses to deal with her panic attacks and depression by vaping and occasionally abusing drugs.\n\nLast night, I was very upset about a personal situation. I was not in a place to give advice, and frankly, I wanted to die. I was in a bad place. Brittany sent me one of the usual snapchats- \"I want to kill myself\"- to which I sent back, \"me f\\*\\*king too.\". Minutes later I get one saying \"wow thanks, you're such a great friend\" (obvious sarcasm), to which I replied \"I'm sorry, but I'm going through some shit right now and I honestly just want to die.\" I was pretty upset, so I turned my phone off.I woke up to a message saying \"well, that doesn't give you the right to treat me like shit.\" I left her on read.\n\nAITA?! I love her (she's family to me) and I want to help her, I really do, but I don't know how anymore.\n\n​\n\nTL;DR: Friend is suicidal and when I told her I was too she flipped out on me for \"treating her like shit\".", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "v8nx21D5w4LoXb6q8klT9VKgnBkIUgOB", "post_id": "b3ciwd", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my boyfriend for saying \"n-word is a normal word like chair and table, but idiot is offensive\"", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my boyfriend for saying \"N-word is a normal word like chair and table, but idiot is offensive\"", "text": " Last night I was going out to dinner with my friends because one of them is moving to the USA for a year. My friend (F24) told us \"I will be having a hard time not saying nigger\". My friend is not the brightest and I never heard her say that word before in my company. Before I could realize what she said another topic has brought up.\n\n​\n\nLater in the car I told my boyfriend (M28) that I was shocked by her saying that. My boyfriend said he thinks \"the N-word is a normal word like table and chair\". I asked him what he thought about the word \"idiot\", he said that was NOT a normal word but offensive. He went to the movies earlier that day and saw Green Book, which is about separation from white and black people in public spaces that happend a few decades ago.  \n\n\nI tried to talk sense to him but he was only offended of words if it offended HIM?!\n\nThis all just blows my mind. I just don't understand how they are so ignorant.\n\nAm I overly sensitive and should not be offended by this, is this not my place to feel offended about?  \n\n\nTL;DR: Found out my friend and boyfriend have no issue saying the N-word and I had no idea my 'friends' are so ignorant.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yIqS9i2x5VHYJwPNDeZjtffaOH9ztmAU", "post_id": "b0b7zd", "action": {"description": "telling my disabled classmate to be quiet", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my disabled classmate to be quiet?", "text": "I know, this sounds really bad but theres context needed. \n\nIm in a band class with a disabled kid. He constantly shakes his hand and disrupts the class with loud yelling/growling (i don\u2019t really know how to describe it). He also doesn\u2019t listen even though he can. I don\u2019t say anything to him as I know somethings he just cant control, but I know he can control his growling (?). During competitions he has put us in risk of being disqualified for playing when we aren\u2019t supposed to. I do not want to come off as rude or disrespectful in anyway but I want the band to be able to focus and play without any distractions and it\u2019s difficult. A lot of people dislike him for this reason and I try to keep it down but its though, I want to talk to him and ask him if he can keep it down but, WIBTA if I did that? I don\u2019t want to be rude in anyway as I do not know what he is going through and I don\u2019t want assume. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EQgPOUBQ5YMw1rtbwdsjxoB92QRW6ECh", "post_id": "av09ft", "action": null, "title": "AITA: \"Breaches of trust\" With my Girlfriend", "text": "Me and my girlfriend recently broke up after around 2 years. Before she ended it she took a shit at me breaching trust within our relationship \"too many times\" so here we go. \n\nBreach of trust number one; about 2 months into our relationship, she took a summer school course, and she was very close with guy, like extremely close, i had people asking me if they were dating because that's how close she was. Super hands on and touchy. I had access to her snapchat to send her streaks and curiosity got the best of me and i read a convo between them to find she cheated.\n\nAnd the final one. We decided to have sex, one of the times, ended in a pregnancy scare(we did use a condom), being 17, we were terrified of it. It was late at night i was calming her down she went to bed i was still terrified, naturally i talked to a friend who was 21 and could provide some help in how i could handle it. The issue she saw with it was early in our relationship, we agreed that what happened in our sex life stayed between us and she was pissed, and i mean pissed i spoke to somebody about the fact that she may be pregnant. \n\nSo all in all we broke up, she put emphasis on how those 2 breaches of trust were too much so she cant continue on.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VJ6pAcaKLjWlnPYcNWAvZyeo8DbIuydD", "post_id": "aiszb7", "action": null, "title": "AITA", "text": "So over spring break I am going on a trip to DC with my school. We got to choose rooms though one of my best friend and I were rather late to sign up so we didn't have much choice in rooms. There were 2 rooms left and each room only fit 4 people, one room had 2 people already in it and they were 2 super hyper and annoying 7th graders and the other room only had one slot left and had 3 general calm and lated back kids in it. We decided that we would just bite the bullet and go with the room with the 7th graders though to day I thought about how better my trip would be if I went with the other room so I decided to switch without discussing with my friend. He's rather annoyed that I didn't even tell him I was switching I just would like to know what Reddit thinks, was this just an asshole move to change or did I make a good choice.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "qQr9O0gmc3XXy9ps8iTjqB88E2UMOeIL", "post_id": "9tet1z", "action": {"description": "choosing my friends over my gf", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for choosing my friends over my GF?", "text": "So I'm just after an argue with my GF and I certainly feel like one. But I let the people of reddit decide what is what.\n\nThe background: I have a very close group of friends, some of them I know since I was too little to walk. They are very close to me and I really like time with them. My GF has a little bit rough relation with them, but she doesn't mind me meeting with them.\nUnfortunatly there were situations, when I prefered spending time with them, rather with her (usually she and I had plans, my friends had plans and I wanted to fit into their plans). \nAfter a situation, when I was at the party on the other side of the city and she had a 30min nausea and nosebleed problem (I would get to her in about 20-30 min, and I thought that she would feel better soon) I promised her that I will make sure that she will be my top priority.\nI also made a mistake of being unprepared for her birthday at the start of this year, what was a big FU for me.\n\nThe situation: my close friend will have his birthday this month. I was invited today, and I told my GF that I want to come. This lead to the argue I mentioned before. We wanted to come back to our homes for the weekend that the birthday would take place, and we would probably spend time together. It was clear, that I would have to stay in order to attend this party. She got mad at me, because I promised her that she will be the most important to me.\nShe asked me why I want to make his (my friend) birthday good, when I ruined her birthday, why I broke my promise so soon, and why is she the \"second one important\".\nI told her, that he is very important to me, and It's his birthday in comparison to just coming back home to spend some time together.\nI promised her that it will be the Last situation that they (i.e. my friends) will be more important than her.\n\nNote: she has to go back as she has some students she must teach to on that day.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "EthG2QJ4B5LnC9YkdpWmqyrdeDdxtDZ7", "post_id": "au0xul", "action": {"description": "yelling at my friend's girlfriend at a gaming bar", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for yelling at my friend's girlfriend at a gaming bar?", "text": "My friend Kevin and I were going to a local gaming bar/LAN to hang out (yesterday) and he mentioned wanting to play Magic the Gathering with paper cards since he started playing the online MTGA game. I told him I had some cards in my attic somewhere and that I can bring a few decks to play yesterday. I knew that his gf is a little controlling about what he does sometimes so I even asked him if he's sure that he wants me to bring my cards. So I spent like 2 hours rummaging through my attic for my cards and brought them to the event. \n\nAfter we play a few rounds of another game, I ask him if my friend wants to play Magic now. Before my friend can answer, his girlfriend just interjects that he's not going to be playing anything but the game we're currently playing. So I told her we already made plans to say and asked her \"what do you mean he's not playing?\". She ignored what I asked and just repeated that he's not playing and \" I don't care if we already made plans\". At that point I was a little more than pissed and I started yelling that she can't just tell me that my friend's not playing in his place and that she's really disrespecting me. She just ignored everything I said and started telling the people around us that I have anger issues and that everyone else should be careful of this guy(referring to me). \n\nI got really pissed at that moment so I started packing my things up and got ready to leave but I was stopped by Kevin. He was nice enough to ask me if I still wanted to play but I just said \"I'm pretty upset and it's probably better if we don't play\". Then I just left with another group of friends. \n\nBy the way, I'm a straight guy, so it was purely platonic intentions.\n\nAnyways, Kevin's gf apologized to me today about telling everyone else that I have anger issues, but I'm pretty sure that it's only because some other people I knew from the bar told me that Kevin told her to apologize to me. I apologized also and just pretended that when she said he couldn't play it was only a joke and I completely misinterpreted. But at the time I was 100% sure she was serious about what she said, or did I really misinterpret at the time?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "2cW4cbyZUmfg2voH0zwORm54aW4Bjmab", "post_id": "b2ngr8", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my boyfriend over a Christmas's gift", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my [25F] boyfriend [25M] over a Christmas\u2019s gift?", "text": "I know the title makes me sounds like an asshole but let me explain the whole thing.\n\nMy bf and I were together for 2.5 years before I broke up. Since the beginning there were several things he used to do that\u2019d make me feel uncomfortable. i.e. we different taste in music and if I posted a song on some social media he\u2019d comment \u201cthat\u2019s garbage\u201d or \u201ctrash\u201d just to let me down. \nThere\u2019s also a huge festival in my city every year that\u2019s basically a whole month (June, for Saint John\u2019s) with lots of concerts and dancing and stuff. All my friends go to this place for this festival every year and I really wanted to go when we were together but he told me he didn\u2019t wanna come and that he\u2019d be mad at me and stop talking to me if I went there with my friends. \nHe was also selfish when it comes to do things I wanted do and would only go to places that only he wanted to go and I had to come with. But he\u2019d make a total of 0 effort to be with me when I wanted to go somewhere, and I couldn\u2019t go by myself either. Plus, he was cheap and if I bought anything with MY OWN MONEY he\u2019d tell me I\u2019m spending too much money and that I didn\u2019t need whatever I was buying even though it was MY MONEY. \nLong story short, around Christmas I had enough when he told me he was going to buy a brand new and special edition of the War and Peace collection, by Tolstoy and he knew I wanted to read this collection for a while now and he already had a collection himself. When Christmas came I was really excited and he came to my place with my Christmas gift: his old collection of War and Peace he\u2019d no longer need because he bought himself the new special edition. I mean, HE BOUGHT HIMSELF THE NEW COLLECTION AND GAVE ME THE OLD ONE HE ALREADY HAD FOR CHRISTMAS.\nBy that time I had enough. For everything that was wrong with the relationship that made me uncomfortable and now this. It wasn\u2019t the gift itself that made me upset, but the fact that he put 0 effort on my gift. He just needed someone to get rid of his old collection to and thought I\u2019d be the perfect person to get this.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sg1zwNtoorLfCodRT7lqJAMjAm7WiPeN", "post_id": "b9zfh0", "action": {"description": "doing this", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA Would I be an asshole for doing this?", "text": " I quit my job last May due to a lot of personal issues caused by the place and several issues with management. I mean this manager drove off every good employee including myself. Now the owner was a nice lady most of the time I was there. Toward the end of my 3 yrs there she started going through a mid life crisis and became a bit of an entitled twat. Boss's mom worked there as well and I LOVED this little old woman like she was my 2nd grandma. She is literally the only reason I would still visit the store.\n\n​\n\nRecently the little old lady had a heart attack. She's had her surgery and is in recovery. I am super relieved by this. The manager asked for several days if I would come back because the boss and her mom were both out due to this. I always said I had other plans. Not lying I legit have tests for autism coming up and am trying to get an appointment for possible skin cancer tests.\n\n​\n\nToday she sounded extremely desperate. Said she would let me come in whenever I wanted, that it was only temporary, that things were royally fucked and they NEEDED some serious help. I agreed to come in and talk about it tomorrow. I have to admit I REALLY don't want to do this, but I do still like the other owner and I know he would greatly appreciate it. I also know it would make little old lady's recovery less stressful.\n\n​\n\nTwo things are very concerning to me. One is that she would not discuss why things were so fucked beyond reason and Two is she would not discuss how I would be paid or how much. If they are I am going to insist it's in writing or I walk. I know that's probably an asshole move, but not why I'm writing this.\n\n​\n\nOnto the thing that I feel like makes me an asshole. I want to limit this temporary work if anything. I can't decided between 2 weeks or 1 month. I know that the recovery time for a triple bypass is 3 months and it's getting close to summer meaning they'll be SUPER BUSY. I know I should do the full 3 months to help out. I just cannot explain how much I do not want to return to a place where I felt so unappreciated, stressed, depressed and angry...I literally woke up everyday and my first thought was \"ya know if you just break your hand they can't yell at you.\"\n\n​\n\nSide note: They totally would have yelled at me for breaking my hand. The old manager made fun of me for having a kitten funeral and balling to the point of vomiting which is a whole other thing, so yes this place is pretty fucking shitty to work at and they would totally make it about them.\n\n​\n\nWould I be an asshole for limiting the time I'm willing to return?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bhQsVtc8UBmWnEDt8R91hdxYEHMbsJYv", "post_id": "at9yvl", "action": {"description": "kicking my mom out", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for kicking my mom out", "text": "So there\u2019s a bit of backstory. My mom is 48 and I\u2019m 26. She hasn\u2019t worked in 5 years. We lived together in TN until I moved out to ATL at 17 because of her domestically abusive boyfriend. She had a child with him and my half-brother is now 5. She ultimately moved to Seattle to get away from him. She was in Seattle for less than a year before her twin sister, and later her mom, kicked her out for allegedly being too difficult to live with. I offered her to move in with me so she can start fresh, get a job, save for a car and ultimately get her own place for her and my brother. Since she\u2019s been here for the last 5 months I\u2019ve: built a resume for her, my sister has applied to numerous jobs for her, she has applied herself for 0 jobs herself. She despises my GF and was mad at me, at the time, so she destroyed my relationship by FB messaging her that I was cheating on her. My lifestyle has changed significantly as I don\u2019t care to have people over now that I\u2019m essentially living my mom again. She is as my family put it \u201cdifficult to live with.\u201d My new stress has factored in to me drinking more which she profusely points out, as if this is the stem of the problem (I\u2019m a mellow quiet drunk just so there aren\u2019t any ideas).  I\u2019ve been through so much stress since she has been here. She has once locked me out of my own apartment when she was angry with me. My utilities have literally tripled as she is nonchalant with energy usage. She offers nothing towards rent or bills and I\u2019ve been fiscally struggling since she\u2019s been here.  I told her that I would be ok through all of this if she would just get a job and advance her situation. She says she was depressed and that\u2019s why she hasn\u2019t looked for a job. I suffer from depression too but if had a kid I wouldn\u2019t let anything stop me from providing for my child. I don\u2019t want to end up hating my mom by prolonging this situation. I told her she needs to make plans to leave. AITA for kicking my mom, and therein my brother, out?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "06IWNNNR9IJWZaeKt18zRW0wxqqL8QY8", "post_id": "auf8nq", "action": null, "title": "AITA Lady's food was falling on me almost the entire buss ride", "text": "I go to school to another town (30/35 km away, 1 hour and 15 minutes) and i need to switch between 2/3 busses (2 if im lucky) and this incident was happening on the 45 minute buss ride to my hometown.\n\nI was frustrated enough because of the school (FYI im 16) and i even missed one buss to the station so i needed to walk there.\nI wait on the station while it's snowing for 10 minutes and get on a bus. \n\nI find my seat and sit next to the window (becouse i could make my hood and a hat into a \"pillow\" and sleep in the corner) and i immediately look who is getting into the buss.\n\nThere was alot of old people who were sitting in the front and there is 4 rows on each side empty so i was relived hopping that I was gonna sit alone and have more leg space.\n\nAfter 5 minutes one lady rushes in the buss at the last minute with 4 hamburgers (I live in the Slavic country so hamburgers are usually enormous) and runs through 4 empty rows and sits next to me.\n\nThe strong smell of onions quickly filled the entire buss and she just started maniacally bitting into them so food started falling on me. I am usually pretty calm guy so i just brushed it off and scooped over to my side more and she moved herself to my side to fill empty space.\n\nI was ignoring it until a flipping bug jumped if her shoulder 5 cm away from my face. I just flipped at her and started yelling at her for 5 minutes. (FYI i have a pretty deap voice so it was scary for her)\n\nShe picked up her stuff and moved to the next seat, red in the face, not eating anymore just sitting quietly.\nAm I the asshole in this situation? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "QLMdaEZUigKL5J75v5CCfpZbxI5qVjia", "post_id": "avrr1k", "action": {"description": "not paying for the damage after accidentally spilling beer on a stranger's phone", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for not paying for the damage after accidentally spilling beer on a stranger's phone.", "text": "So couple of weeks ago, a flatmate of mine invited handful of his friends to hangout and have some beer. There was a guy sitting on the floor right in front of the TV. He called me over because he wanted me to open his bottle of beer (I did that for a couple of people using my teeth). I went close to him and opened his bottle. As I was planning to hand the bottle back to him , it slipped outta my hand and fell on the floor. Some of the beer fizzed out on the floor and I noticed his phone lying on the floor, in the puddle of beer. I quickly grabbed his phone and handed it to him to avoid any damage to the phone. After a few minutes, he shows me that there's a black line on his screen but we didn't talk much about it. \n\nA week ago he starts calling me and my flatmate, asking for the money to replace his phone screen. He calls me multiple times a day and I've stopped accepting his calls. My flatmates told me that I should not pay for the screen and I think the same since his phone was on the floor and I had no intention to damage it. Also, I'm really annoyed by the amount of calls and texts this guy has been sending my way and any sense of guilt is gone because of this behavior of his. AITA for not paying him for the damage? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gXmPKAaDLiB3X59r612s4MewgxHEJYhT", "post_id": "am4dhg", "action": {"description": "telling my girlfriend she had to wait for me to mature", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for telling my girlfriend she had to wait for me to mature?", "text": "My (20m) girlfriend (19f) an I have been dating for 9 months and all has been going well until a recent argument. \n\nI still live with my parents and until very recently I\u2019ve been very dependant on them for multiple things including money, food and car rides. On top of that they have always dealt with things such as planing for family vacations and applying for my Canadian citizenship without keeping me in the loop. I know,, I was, quit spoiled. \n\nThat being said, last summer I got a job and a drivers license and apart from still relying them for a place to live until I finish collage I do everything on my own. \n\nMy girlfriend on the other hand was not spoon fed like I was and had to work from a young age to afford anything and often had to cook her own meals. She moved out of her parents house at 17 and apart from occasional asking her parents for money she has been entirely independent for the last two and half years. \n\nThe problem arises when she brought up the fact that I was very immature when it came to a lot f things. From forgetting to turn off the stove when I finished cooking and leaving stuff out of the fridge (I have never cooked before) to not lowering the toilet seat ( I always had my own bathroom).  Little things, but there are many more.\n\nShe was clearly frustrated and I let her know that I intended to do everything I could to fix all the issues she had brought up but it wouldn\u2019t happen overnight and she\u2019ll have to wait. This only added fuel to the fire, telling me she doesn\u2019t deserve to wait. And that was extremely rude of me to imply she had to put up with it. We end on the fact that if I don\u2019t manage to mature the relationship will end.\n\nI feel like she doesn\u2019t understand that it\u2019s not something that happens overnight and I\u2019m doing everything I can to fix it. So, AITA?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "W8hgaDWBbRRQXUmmVPbfJ1tcubinEmha", "post_id": "aymehn", "action": {"description": "dropping out of a group project competition the day before the competition", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for dropping out of a group project competition the day before the competition?", "text": "Little bit of background, it\u2019s an academic competition that I am competing in with a group of people (namely my sister and another set of sisters). (Yes this is a high school thing, I am a senior in high school). My sister and I were cut off from competing through our own region because our original partners told us we couldn\u2019t work with them the day the project was due (so we couldn\u2019t have time to even put something together). So we joined forces with these other two girls we met through this competition who live in a different region to compete through their region. However, this meant that my sister and I would have to pay for everything on our own- registration fees as well as travel expenses. Our parents were not willing to help as they felt it was unimportant.\n\nInitially, we thought the finances would be an issue. We even told them we couldn\u2019t do the project because we couldn\u2019t afford to pay the fees out of pocket, but we convinced ourselves and each other that we could make it work through getting jobs and making the money ourselves. At this point, we didn\u2019t know exactly how much this competition would end up costing. We were just determined to make it happen. \n\nLater on, after we had registered for the competition, our partners told us that the registration fee would be $60. At this point it was too late to back out, so we decided we needed to find a way to raise that money ourselves. \n\nFast forward to tonight, one day before the competition, the girls tell us we have to bring 60$ checks to the competition tomorrow. My sister and I can\u2019t write checks (I mean we know how to we just don\u2019t have checkbooks) so we had to ask our parents, who freaked out when they realized they\u2019d be having to cut checks for 120$ for both of us... and eventually if we moved on, it would be even more. They basically told us that we couldn\u2019t afford to go on with this competition even if my sister and I raised that money ourselves, as we need that money for college. \n\nSo I told the girls the situation and they got pretty upset. For now, I\u2019ve told them we would do whatever we could to make sure we could pay that 60$ each and show up to the competition tomorrow, but we told them we might have to drop out for further levels of competition. Long story short- they\u2019re pissed. AITA here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QYeGJ0Ow7kRGp64u7qpbGYEBjeHxnjaT", "post_id": "a1ou5h", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be friends with my best friend's immature social circle", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to be friends with my best friend\u2019s immature social circle?", "text": "Everyone in my situation is in their early to mid-twenties. \n\nA little background info:\n\nSo I am 21 years old and in college working on my teaching degree.  From the ages of 14-18ish my life was chaotic because of situations I put myself in. I was constantly gossiping about people, spreading other people\u2019s secrets, getting way too drunk, victimizing myself when things would go wrong, talking about vulgar things a work to get attention (like going into extreme detail about my sex life to coworkers I barely spoke to), etc. \n\nWhen I was 18 and had dropped out of college after graduating 2nd in my class in high school, I realized I didn\u2019t like the person I was becoming and was embarrassed by my actions. So from there it took a lot of mindfulness and practice to be a better person, and although I still sometimes catch myself starting to do my past behaviors, I do genuinely feel like I\u2019m a good person that makes a positive impact on other people\u2019s lives. \n\nNow to the current situation:\n\nI have a best friend, D, who I\u2019ve been close with since middle school.  She loves having big groups of friends rather than close, individual friends so she always wants me to hang out with her friends.  The problem is, most of her friends act the way I did when I was 18. It was so so hard for me to break those habits so I don\u2019t want those behaviors around me. \n\nFor example, D\u2019s other best friend, H, is constantly flirting with married coworkers and slept with her ex\u2019s brother to make him jealous.  I don\u2019t want to be around H because it frustrates me to hear these stories and I don\u2019t want that kind of toxic energy around me anymore. I figured since I haven\u2019t known her very long (only a few months) it wouldn\u2019t be very damaging to stop the friendship.   D told me I was being very judgmental about situations that don\u2019t affect me at all and can just be funny stories to hear about. \n\nAnother example is with D\u2019s friend A. Long story short, A had a one night stand with a guy, the guy didn\u2019t want a relationship, so she\u2019s been harassing him for the past YEAR, lied about aborting his kid (she was never pregnant), stalks his current girlfriend, creates fake profiles and phone numbers to contact him since he blocks her every time, etc. When he rejects her, she cuts her arm and sends him pictures. I don\u2019t want all that in my life. D says I shouldn\u2019t take it too seriously since A isn\u2019t hurting me directly. \n\nSo, AITA for judging these people and not wanting to be friends with them?\n\nTl;dr My best friend has very chaotic (imo) people in her life that I don\u2019t want in mine. Am I too judgmental?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8UdxNt8uz0jlung9kZpvJfqfrRj2EpUR", "post_id": "atwvb1", "action": {"description": "flaking on my teacher", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for flaking on my teacher", "text": "So, I contacted my former high school teacher a few weeks back asking for private classes, he didn\u2019t have time, but would ask around.\n\nA week later, we had a phone call, where he introduced the teachers and their time schedules. He told me he needed a definitive answer within a week.\n\nIn 4 days time, I asked him to make some adjustments (changing a certain part I wanted to learn, removing some teachers, cutting some of my hours)\n\nWhen I asked him what the total price would be, he wrote a paragraph saying that he spent a lot of precious time in search for teachers and that because I made too many adjustments in such a short timeframe, he asked me to transfer the money within 4 days, to a bank account in another country (belonging to his father), so he could avoid taxes.\n\nBecause I\u2019m still abroad and he asked me to transfer the money within 4 days, my parents did not approve of it and told me I should first meet again, before transferring the money. \n\nSo when I told him that and apologised for wasting his time, I got a message saying that he wasted 3 years teaching me, that I wasted not only his, but also other teachers their time, that I apparently didn\u2019t trust him and that I really needed to work on my way of doing things and that he was really disappointed in me and that the connection (as in networking) has basically vanished now.\n\nI mean, I felt sorry, but I also think it was a bit of an overreaction on his part and that it\u2019s actually very unprofessional and that he could have simply said \u2018alright, unfortunate\u2019. I haven\u2019t replied and I probably won\u2019t.\n\nSo, am I the asshole for essentially flaking, although it were my parents that did not agree, or is he for overreacting and talking me into a guilt feeling.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kIkmBVanldkHFOdirViOXAUpV5LUhOly", "post_id": "a92z7k", "action": {"description": "wanting my sister to acknowledge my apology", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for wanting my sister to acknowledge my apology?", "text": "  \n\nFor context: I am currently in Africa doing an internship and my sister is in our home country and has been mentally unstable for about three years now. All of our contact has been through messages sent back and forth. We both handle our problems very differently. I am a person who will apologize quickly, so I lash out once I truly lost my patience and she is more the person who will wait until something blows over.\n\nSo we have had a small argument about something insignificant a few days ago. I decided to swallow my pride and apologize to her. I thought I did so in a very carefully constructed way, telling I should not have done the things I did and that I was sorry. She did not respond. It might have been her way of handling the argument we had. Cooling down before sending a message, so that it would not be written out of anger. I decided to text my mom asking if I had done anything wrong.\n\nAs time went by, I was getting more annoyed, since I was the one reaching out and swallowing my pride. I did not want to show any of this anger to my sister though, since we have always been very close and me hurting her might sent her back into mental instability. I ended up venting a lot of my anger towards my mother and saying that I want my sister to apologize to me. She managed to calm me down and I went to sleep. \n\nThis morning, I saw that my sister had sent some messages and I was secretly hoping they were apologies. However, These messages were just to show her side of the story and telling me she does not want to include our mother in our arguments. Then there were some casual messages afterwards to try and end this entire situation. This almost broke my patience, since I felt the only reason I included our mother was to protect her from myself. Additionally, she still ignored the apology message I had sent the night before. I sent one message saying that I did not like it that she ignored my apology, because I had to use a lot of self-control to type it. I think it might have been her way of putting this entire situation behind her and moving on. I feel that I need her to at least say that she appreciates that I apologized.\n\nNow I feel like I might sent some hurtful messages if I contact her again, since my patience is almost spent, but I still want the opinion of others. She was right that I should have not included our mother, but the situation gnawed at me and I had to get a second opinion. \n\nSo now I would like to ask you guys: Am I the asshole by saying I want her to acknowledge my apology?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "qjOLDnr1cmYMSJbpHBkbLoFaHGWFsHFG", "post_id": "aon7j3", "action": {"description": "being mad at my ex girlfriend for something that happened after we broke up", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for being mad at my ex girlfriend for something that happened after we broke up?", "text": "We've been friends for about 10 years and after about 6 years of friendship we started sleeping together while we both had traveling jobs. Eventually we did decide to start dating and see where it would go. It was a strain on both of us as we had difficulty communicating and finding time with each other. We broke up for about 2 months. \n\nDuring that break she was on tinder and starting sleeping with a guy. Things happen, she was single and I completely understand. We ended up starting to be friendly again and fell right back into dating. She had only been seeing this guy for a couple of weeks and only knew him from Tinder. \n\nAfter we got back together I noticed that she kept chatting with him. What really got to me was on New Years Eve he texted her  and she was chatting with him briefly. I had a very frank discussion with her that it seemed strange to me and it felt like she wasn't cheating but basically keeping him in reserve if it didn't work out between us. She said she would stop talking to him. After that, we still both had our traveling jobs and would only see each other monthly and really didn't learn anything from the previous times so eventually we wound up breaking up again. It's been about 6 months and we're doing our best to renew our friendship as much as possible but she admitted he was the first person she slept with after we broke up. \n\nIn our time, I was never insecure about being on the road, I feel very secure we wouldn't cheat on each other but that was the one thing I was insecure about and it ended up manifesting itself to be true. She says it's not wrong, which is true, but I still feel disrespected. \n\nThoughts? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "9F5317oNH6TD0oZbKPXcIOB7NhfLa3vB", "post_id": "ayp37v", "action": {"description": "not telling my boyfriend I pissed the bed", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA for not telling my boyfriend I pissed the bed?", "text": "Throwaway for obvious reasons. For some context, I have a bladder issue and while I'm medicated for it and have a plan, tonight before bed I just couldn't pee. I figured I didn't drink enough in the past hour or so before bed and I'd just go in the morning. Bad decision, because about 4 hours later I'm awake in a warm puddle. \n\nI did as much damage control as possible at the moment, I removed all blankets and am soaking it up with a towel. After I get home from work, I plan on changing the sheets. I'm just absolutely mortified and while I know he wouldn't be mad, I'd just die if I told him. But he doesn't have to work, so if I tell him he can change the sheets earlier and run them through the wash before bed. \n\nWIBTA if I just... Didn't mention it?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 14, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ENOOoVKbKpkmPVwOPaRvgVocjbg0nvuS", "post_id": "b8qtmu", "action": {"description": "hating my best friend's crush for leaving him when he revealed to her that he's been depressed almost his whole life", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for hating my best friend\u2019s crush for leaving him when he revealed to her that he\u2019s been depressed almost his whole life?", "text": "I\u2019m biased, I know. And I know sometimes people can\u2019t take it when they find out other people are depressed, I get it. \n\nBut I can\u2019t help but be angry. I\u2019ve met her once, she seemed like your average peppy and happy-go-lucky girl. I didn\u2019t have an issue with her, nor did I think anything about it at the time. What I know is that he really liked her for a long time; I suppose to the point that you could say he was in love with her. He spent all of his time around her and they hung out a whole lot for a while.\n\nBut a month ago that changed. Although we\u2019re close, we never really hung out too much, and now all of a sudden he\u2019s always asking me if I want to hang out. I\u2019m with my friends, but we invite him along as he knows them.\n\nOne day, when we were together alone, he broke the news to me. I always knew he was depressed, and I\u2019ve always done what I could to help talk to him if he needed it. He\u2019s a very private person, so he never told me too much though. When I found out that she just left him right after he told her, without any hesitation and without saying anything, I was beyond angry. I was confused how someone could be so... heartless.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "judsWeGHNzv1kAiWadtyc2VobcIaNmQ7", "post_id": "as6nbw", "action": {"description": "giving an in-game punishment (D&D) for a (sort of) out of game disagreement", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for giving an in-game punishment (D&D) for a (sort of) out of game disagreement?", "text": "Hi, I made a reddit account just to post this because it's been weighing on my mind all day.\n\n​\n\nSo I've been playing Dungeons and Dragons with this group for about 2 years; I'm the dungeon master, meaning I control the story arc, world, and overall flow of the game for anyone not familiar with it. One player in the group who has been a friend for years (henceforth referred to as R) constantly interrupts the game by talking loudly, arguing with my rules, and generally trying to get everything to go his way. Others in the group have complained about his disruptions as well, and I have had many conversations with him on how to improve.\n\n​\n\nNow, to the current story. The session was already going awry because the group kept splitting off and fighting amongst themselves. I honestly don't care what their characters do, but I do care when the players yell and fight as it causes a disruptive environment. So R had been goofing off with another player, Z, all night. They sat in the corner and talked and didn't pay attention which slowed play down for others since I had to keep repeating myself for them. Z has really never been a problem so I simply told her to quiet down and she apologized (even though the behavior continued). R, however, refused to acknowledge what he was doing was wrong.\n\n​\n\nBy the end of the night, I was fed up. About 10 minuted before the session was due to end, I tossed a marker onto the table which R then picked up and hurled at my face (probably trying to be funny). I was pissed. So I waited until it was his turn in combat again and told him to either pick up the marker or have disadvantage on the rest of his rolls (roll twice and take the lowest). He refused and another friend picked up the marker to avoid confrontation. So I then told R to either apologize for his behavior or have the same punishment. He refused and said he would continue playing without listening. I skipped his turn and continued playing with the others. He proceeded to quit the game and then sulk around for the last ten minutes (because his car was trapped between others and he couldn't storm out like he wanted to).\n\n​\n\nI was ready to go to bed after dropping off another friend, but I instead came home to 15 messages from R. He began by pouring out his heart about how much he was looking forward to the evening and I ruined it, and how he spent his own money to pay for snacks (we paid to feed him dinner), and generally being manipulative. He called me an ass/asshole exactly 7 times. He complained that I singled him out instead of dealing even punishments. I was reading these messages and crying (I cry when I get frustrated) so my mom snatched the phone from my hand and read the messages. He is no longer allowed at our house.\n\n​\n\nI know I will eventually forgive him, but I was tired for taking to high road for once. So was he right? Was I being the asshole by punishing him over others?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Kdkl9TsuMDW99ydp0ObX94zFIy2X98Bb", "post_id": "arcc0p", "action": {"description": "cutting off contact with a friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for cutting off contact with a friend?", "text": "Sorry for the wall of text.\n\nSo a bit of backstory. I was friends with this person for a few years, and at the start of this schoolyear we went to different schools. At the end of last schoolyear, I noticed that I was always the one iniating contact, whether that be just texting or asking to go do something. Now, they weren't ever hostile towards me or gave any indication that they didn't want to be friends, but they just didn't seem to have any interest in doing anything with me outside of school. I noticed this with all of my other friends there as well, so when I switched schools I just decided to stop contacting them. I stopped texting them, didn't ask them to do anything, etc. Just to see if anything happened. And nothing did. No one tried getting in touch. So I just decided, fuck it, if you dont want anything to do with me then I'll stop trying. Now my friend texted me out of the blue, for the first time in months. Im not sure what to do. AITA for cutting of contact?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mjkrINdNnD2fMQP6hY3xyMu11ZI7NYwI", "post_id": "aqyyo6", "action": {"description": "weaving past people on a bus to get the best seat", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for weaving past people on a bus to get the best seat?", "text": "So bit of background. I get the bus to work which takes approximately 50 minutes. I am 6ft5 and get a little bit anxious when I feel like I'm in a confined space, not panic attack bad but I find it difficult to relax and my stomach goes a bit mad. My stop is the first stop so the bus is empty, and most of the seats are difficult to fit my legs behind. As a result I have a really uncomfortable journey. That is unless I get one of the seats on the top deck of the bus at the front, where there is legroom a plenty. It's the only seat I can comfortably sit in. \n\nThe bus stop is pretty busy and most people want this seat, however the vast majority of people are significantly shorter than me, and I am always the tallest person there. So when the bus pulls up I will weave between people to get round them and get that seat. My reasoning is that they will suffer little to no discomfort from sitting in the seats with less legroom. To clarify this isn't a queue where you are rewarded for being early, it's a bit of a free for all and you're rewarded for guessing where the doors stop. The unwritten rule is that if you guess right you are rewarded by getting to go on the bus first, generally people don't push past each other once on the bus has stopped. I however flout this rule believing my need for the leg room seat to be greater. \n\nI mentioned this to a friend and she said 'ahh tall white male assumes he's entitled to the best seat on the bus, typical'. She was joking but it got me thinking, should I actually be doing this or am I being a selfish asshole. \n\nA few clarifications: \n\nI do not use my size to physically push past people, for a tall lad I'm quite nimble it's more of a weave. \n\nThe queue system is respected generally once the bus has stopped\n\nIf it was a traditional queuing system I would go early, let a bus go by and make sure I was first in line for the next bus. \n\n**TL;DR: Am I (a tall man) the asshole for weaving past people to get a better leg room seat?**", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "q8DUiAxK1PgxBYOZKHuLFw3Uu7LKOU5N", "post_id": "b2rzbm", "action": {"description": "turning down someone I accidentally led on", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for turning down someone I accidentally led on?", "text": " \n\nThis is all high school bullshit, so if you\u2019re not up for melodrama then avert your gaze.\n\nI met this girl at a party and we both had a good time reconnecting good memories from our time in middle school. We haven\u2019t talked since 7th grade and now we are seniors in high school.\n\nWell we texted on and off for around 3 months now and we tried scheduling dates but both of us couldn\u2019t fine time to get together for coffee. I liked her for a few weeks but after a few cancelled dates (mostly from my schedule) I gradually lost interest\n\nToday she texted me and asked if I wanted to go to prom with her, and I told her I am already going with friends (which is true).\n\nA few minutes later she posted on social media that she was \u201cembarrassed\u201d and now I feel like total shit.\n\nI feel like I ruined her prom plans and since I consider her a friend, I feel I\u2019m a total cunt for not saying yes even though I don\u2019t have any feelings for her.\n\nAm I the asshole?\n\nTLDR: I met an old friend from middle school at a party. I accidentally led her on and turned her down, leading to her having her feelings hurt. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VG1IccrFyOYthRyOzf8ug0FANrD4Pqnp", "post_id": "b0uzjy", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Boy with Aspergers asked me to prom in a big class where I said yes, but talked to him later and explained why I didn\u2019t want to", "text": "To preface this post I\u2019d like to say I have known this guy for a long time, we will call him Saul. Saul has Aspergers, and although mild, I\u2019m assuming it is still hard for him to read social cues.\n\nAlso, because of this, Saul is loved by everyone in my grade. Everyone loves to praise him and he is truly a great guy to be around!\n\nOn multiple occasions, Saul has asked me on dates where I declined kindly, but never rudely. This has happened about three times, and I\u2019m assuming he should have caught on by now.\n\nWell, today, Saul asked me to prom in a class full of about 25 students, and really put me on the spot in front of everyone and made it so I didn\u2019t feel comfortable. I said yes to avoid the scrutiny of my fellow classmates, all eyes were on me and I truly didn\u2019t know what to do and didn\u2019t want to be viewed as \u201cthat bitch\u201d.\n\nAbout a day later, I talked to Saul in person about how I didn\u2019t really want to go with him and how I felt he pressured me into it, even though he may not have realized that. He seemed understanding, and never acted like he was hurt, but I\u2019m not sure what to feel...\n\nAm I the asshole for going back on my word?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 11, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NtSrprqLX9uh6XflIM40kyfQjyC2g9AR", "post_id": "b6zm6n", "action": {"description": "telling my parents that my son can not stay with them", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my parents that my son can not stay with them?", "text": "Growing up my parents have always been hoarders and they have always had animals that shit and pissed all over their house. When I was a kid, I didn\u2019t think much of it, but I left and joined the military as soon as I could to escape the trend that my family was trying to get me to follow as well. I love my parents and even though we were very poor, I never wanted for anything growing up. Now that I am older (29m) and have a son (3 months) they want him to come stay with them and I can\u2019t stomach letting him be in a place like that. We will come over to visit, but their house is toxic and very unkempt. I told them while my wife was pregnant that they needed to get the carpets and subfloors replaced in the house if they ever wanted our son to come over. I guess they assumed that that was an empty threat and now that he is here they are realizing that it wasn\u2019t. I don\u2019t want my son to miss out on time with his grandparents, but I also don\u2019t want him in their house. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tHDHHBWeM7kNH0kH5LYvkVAUpITvfyNi", "post_id": "akfvki", "action": {"description": "jokingly calling my gf a stalker when she told me she made a playlist in regards to me", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for jokingly calling my gf a stalker when she told me she made a playlist in regards to me", "text": "Hear me out before the instant judgement \n\nMe (23) and my gf(20) have been together 10 months and love each other a lot, but lately we\u2019ve been arguing a lot over minor stuff, the other times she admitted she was at fault and apologised. \n\nThis time however I am seeking reddits judgement. \n\nWe were having a normal chill conversation and just talking over text, she tells me she made a playlist that makes her think of me, I replied \u201cu stalker\u201d and then sent \u201cwhat songs init doe?\u201d And she replied saying I upset her and she\u2019s not sharing now. \n\nI said \u201cwait did I actually upset you?\u201d And I said \u201cI\u2019m sorry if I did, I didn\u2019t think it was a big deal, I was just joking, you don\u2019t really think I\u2019m gonna actually accuse my gf of being a stalker lol\u201d\n\nShe said I don\u2019t mean my apology and \u201cit\u2019s fine\u201d\n\nAnd then guilt tripped me a bit, which I bought up, and she said \u201cI\u2019m not trying to guilt trip you in any way, I\u2019m sorry that your joke which is really funny to you made me feel crap when I was trying to express myself\u201d\n\n...I really didn\u2019t intend any harm and we talk to each other like that loads and joke together, but for some reason she\u2019s changed about it.\n\nAnd now I\u2019m getting paragraphs of text about it and I just really don\u2019t understand how something like that can get blown up so much? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "19nfgH7J1UI4RpzfjnzGnrL4PyerMuKI", "post_id": "ba0uy7", "action": {"description": "yelling at a kid over sauce packets", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for yelling at a kid over sauce packets?", "text": "I work at McDonald\u2019s and we have those new Kiosk thing where you Can order your food and pay at the counter or whatever.\n\nA couple of kids, about 14/15 walked in today and went up to one of the kiosks and I saw one just start repeatedly tapping over and over again. I gave him a look and I hoped that would be enough to stop him from continuing, but he went on with his business, after a while of this, he and his friend come to the counter with this order\n\n2 fountain drinks\n1 Large fries\n420 Creamy Ranch Sauces\n69 Special Sauces\n\nI gave him a very upset face and I can hear from the back \u201cWhat prick put a 69 on my screen?\u201d And I point at the kid and say \u201cAnd a 420 too\u201d. Half the staff is looking up at him with very upset faces. His face turns bright red and he rushes out, his friend trailing behind him. I void the order and go on with business.\n\nMy friend say that it was an over reaction and I should\u2019ve just given him a warning and told him not the do that again, but I feel the look was already the warning. So am I the ass here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 19, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "G72mOCPFGNyPklJMs6KW0qAkwmvk6l44", "post_id": "a5kil5", "action": {"description": "not wanting to spend Christmas day with my family", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to spend Christmas day with my family?", "text": "Last week I had an early Christmas dinner with my family so my grandparents could celebrate with us too, as they don't live locally.\n\nI arrived at the family home early, played some board games with my grandparents and helped my mum and sister with their hair and makeup.\n\nMy stepdad sat upstairs playing PlayStation. Nothing wrong with that, he likes to chill after work. But he was yelling/swearing at a game nonstop for 2+ hours. \n\nLater, when he was downstairs, I overhead him saying to my 15 year old brother, 'you really are a waste of space, aren't you.' Not in a joking way, in a I genuinely dislike you way.\n\nWe go out for dinner and at the table my mum brought up how 'awful' my sister's eyebrows/makeup used to be. My sister is visibly uncomfortable/upset with everyone chiming in about her sense of style and asks my mum to stop talking about it. She doesn't.\n\nI said that as a general rule, criticism of someone's appearance should be asked for and not just blurted out. I could sense an argument brewing so I said, very pointedly, 'we're not talking about this now'.\n\nThe rest of the meal was fine besides a few obnoxious comments from my stepdad calling my brother a 'boring loser' and we head home to play games.\n\nWe're sat round a table getting ready to play games and pouring drinks and I ask if someone can pass me a cracker joke so I can send a photo of it to a friend who has a love/hate relationship with corny jokes.\n\nMy stepdad tells me to, 'get off your phone, you freak.' and keeps saying it. I childishly respond like, 'gEt OfF tHe PhOnE' \n\nHe reaches over and smacks me in the head and I just lose it. I yelled at him, calling him a 'fucking idiot' and a 'miserable old cunt' who ruins every occasion with his bullshit.\n\nI leave the table and he's trying to bait me, like 'aw, are you going to run away'. I decide it's best to call a taxi and dip as I'm so angry.\n\nAs I'm waiting my brother asks if he should go upstairs to see if I'm okay and my mum just says, 'No!' \n\nMy grandma messages me the next day asking if I was okay. My mum messaged me two days later asking if I wanted a baking tray dropped round, completely ignoring anything that happened. \n\nEvery year it's the same old drama. I cannot deal with such negative people for extended amounts of time.\n\nI decided I wasn't going to bother going over on Christmas day and now everyone is up in arms.\n\nAITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bIPe6tejgmblIVGKdMyCLTORvfBOaLVv", "post_id": "almcsc", "action": {"description": "spending time with my friends and not giving that much attention to my gf", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for spending time with my friends and not giving that much attention to my gf?", "text": "Context: Lunch period is the only time which I can see my friends, but I see my girlfriend at nearly every passing period and have multiple classes with her.\n\nAlso, this just happened earlier today, just FYI.\n\n​\n\nI'm at lunch with my small clique in the school cafeteria. My friend and I were about to play some Smash Ultimate on my Switch, which I had brought at the request of said friend. After one or two 3-stock games, my girlfriend, who shares a lunch period with us, begins to get up close to me and says, \"I want attention.\"\n\nMy girlfriend is quite obsessive. Any chance she gets to see me, she'll take it, and God forbid anyone gets between her and me, even her/my own friends. If she wants attention, she'll get it, one way or another.\n\nI take notice, but keep playing. I do, however, put my arm around her, as well as offer her my controller so she could play. She denied the offer.\n\nThe bell rang and I gathered my things. My gf was visibly pissed. I asked her what was wrong, knowing full well what was wrong. At first, she said, \"Nothing. I'm fine.\" However, it was clear, even from the way she said \"fine\" that there was a problem.\n\nAnd then she blew up on me (I'm not gonna transcribe the whole convo, it's late and I'm tired). I apologized so that she would calm down, especially since we had history together next period, and I did not need that awkward tension.\n\nSo, should I have paid more attention to her and turned aside my friend, or was I in the right?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ffJ5yTWJvSvuQXSS2LeNuHYyzbqpJl97", "post_id": "b76vgg", "action": {"description": "suggesting my SO's parents are stupid for giving us a $1,000 graduation gift yet they constantly complain about money", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 17}, "title": "AITA for suggesting my SO's parents are stupid for giving us a $1,000 graduation gift yet they constantly complain about money?", "text": "My girlfriend tells me fairly often that her parents tell her that money is tight in the time since her parents have been retired. I know it bothers my girlfriend because it makes her feel bad. \n\n​\n\nWell, she's about to graduate college and we're about to move into our first apartment together. As a graduation gift, my girlfriend's parents are planning on giving her (us) up to $1,000 to spend on a bedroom furniture set for our apartment. \n\n​\n\nLast week I mentioned to my girlfriend I think it's ridiculous they want to give us $1K when they complain about money all the time. She brushed it off.\n\n​\n\nBut she brought it up again tonight, saying that I ruined the gift for her by making her feel like shit about her and her parents. She says I always condescendingly critique her parents and their financial decisions/behaviors and belittle them. (It is true that I take problems with a lot of their actions and don't hesitate to voice what's wrong with them to my girlfriend.)\n\n​\n\nI told her that I told my own mom about it and that my mom agreed that SO's parents are whack. I told my gf this and told her that's why I decided to voice my opinion about it. She was very upset.\n\n​\n\nSo, am I the asshole for simply pointing out the very contradictory words and actions of my SO's parents?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 17, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 17}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "50uLemdrXgCVO1ELs4De1NroIYs9Ba65", "post_id": "ay1jne", "action": {"description": "sleeping with my friend's ex", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for sleeping with my (21M) friend\u2019s (20M) ex(21F)?", "text": "About 8 months ago, my friend and roommate (let\u2019s call him Tom) hooked up with our neighbor (we\u2019ll call her Sally) (idk if this is important but before and after this we were all friends and still are). Now, keep in mind, although my roommate is a pretty attractive dude, he hasn\u2019t really been with very many people (to my knowledge only one before her and one after her). \n\nAnyway,  after they hooked up, Tom started telling people they were dating. When Sally found out about this, she didn\u2019t want to embarrass him so she went along with it and then broke up with him a few weeks later. In the wake of it, he was devastated and very angry. Right after this, summer quarter at our school began and it happened that Sally and I were both staying and taking classes. We never did anything over summer but we did become very close friends and hung out almost every day. During that time, I became attracted to her and unbeknownst to me until recently, the same thing happened to with her.  \n\nAfter summer, Tom studied abroad and was gone for a few more months. When he got back, it was obvious that he still had feelings for her by how he acted around her (super nice, a little nervous, etc.)\n\nAbout 2 months later, we were all at a party and all very drunk. A few hours before the party ended, a group of us left early to go hang out at Sally\u2019s apartment (Tom stayed at the party). \n\nSally and I both blacked out and ended up having sex. Anyway, I told Tom because I felt bad and after we talked for a little, he forgave me.\n\nFast forward another month and Sally turns 21. Now at this point Sally and I are the only ones who are 21 in our friend group so we go out to a bar to celebrate. Now Tom won\u2019t talk to me and I feel really bad but I\u2019m not sure I did anything wrong. Am I the asshole in this situation? (Also suggestions on where to go from here would be very appreciated). ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Hm5aHUsWA73nyn0C8Atvp9lcIB1z31wB", "post_id": "a1qvsc", "action": {"description": "abandoning my fwb at detox", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for abandoning my FWB at detox?", "text": "This story has a little bit of character setup before getting to \u201cthe incident\u201d. A fwb of mine had moderate to severe alcoholism coupled with depression and anxiety. She had to have a drink first thing in the AM and first thing when she came back from the university and nursed a buzz almost all day. She knew she had a problem and in her words was \u201cwaiting for some incident to give her a wake up call.\u201d \n\nHer main job was a bar tending gig back in her home town 2 hours away on the weekends. 3 weeks straight I got snaps every night of the weekend of her driving drunk. Since she was mixing her anxiety and depression meds with alcohol, she blacked out pretty much after 2 drinks. She doesn\u2019t remember our first 5 dates because of this and we both are speculating the only reason she blacked out so easily for a period of a few months when she went on new meds.\n\nOn top of all this, she was a \u201crunner.\u201d She\u2019d be in a group of friends and just decide to take off. Not in a sprint, but casually say, \u201cI have to go to the bathroom\u201d and then leave the bar for us to try and track her down. This happened 3 times when I was with her.\n\nHer mentioning she needed a wake up call wasn\u2019t too alarming to me. Loads of college students drink and I didn\u2019t take her seriously about being an alcoholic. After the month of drunk driving snaps is when I realized this could end poorly.\n\nThe incident. \n\nOn one of the weekends she wasn\u2019t scheduled to work, we went out for a late dinner with a mutual friend. She had been drinking all day and had 2 drinks at the restaurant when she became unresponsive and passed out in her seat in the restaurant around 9:30 or so. She had never passed out before. Blacked out-many times, but she didn\u2019t sound inebriated or display any sign of drunkenness whatsoever in any of those situations. We were both pretty fucking embarrassed and I was a smidge angry to have to drag a passed out women from restaurant. The mutual friend that I had dinner with also was aware of my fwb\u2019s drinking problems and that she was in a downward spiral. In jest, one of us had mentioned,\n\n\u201cWe should just drop her ass off in detox for alcohol poisoning so she can finally have her god damn wake up call. She wont remember the last 8 hours of today anyways. She will probably think a stranger dropped her off and would be none the wiser.\u201d \n\nSo thats exactly what we did. I left and went home. She came to and sobered up there, and had no idea how she got there, or any recollections of the evening. I lied to her and said we got dinner and a few drinks, and then she ran off as she was prone to and we couldn\u2019t find her. A week later or so, she got her hospital bill which was a few grand she couldn\u2019t afford. I stopped seeing around this time, so I\u2019m not sure if \u201cshe had her wake up call or not.\u201d \n\nTLDR: dropped an alcoholic off at detox to give them a wake up call when I could have easily just taken care of them at home myself.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lvByv5eQ3HAvlK9C9PBMKavx1TU7czus", "post_id": "aryuhs", "action": {"description": "talking to high school athletes about stuff that's not sports related", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for talking to high school athletes about stuff that's not sports related?", "text": "I have a second job as a coach for a high school girls lacrosse.  We currently have pre-season training going on and I see the kids a few times a week to run around the indoor track or do weightlifting. It's always run by the head coach and myself (assistant coach) but because I work closer to the school, sometimes I get to the school first and get practice underway until the head coach arrives. \n\n​\n\nThe athletes had practice on Valentine's Day, and I decided to change things up a bit. The head coach was still en route so I gathered the troops and talked to them about Galentine's Day while we waited. In my monologue, I suggested they recognize all the strong women that came before and use this day to turn to each other and make a commitment to celebrate and unite as strong, young leaders. I finished my statement by saying it's hard being a woman in today's culture and girls should stick together and work to raise each other. My speech lasted about 60 seconds, most of the kids seemed receptive, and afterwards practice went on as usual. \n\n​\n\nThe next afternoon I get an email from the school's athletic director with the head coach and some other big honchos cc'd in. He instructed me, in no gentle terms, that I was a coach and my interactions with the students should be strictly lacrosse related. The AD was not thrilled with the fact I was \"pushing an agenda\" without the head coach present and gave me a slap on the wrist for \"unprofessional behavior\", implying that I wouldn't get a third chance. \n\n​\n\nI reached out to the head coach immediately to ask what the fuck was going on. She told me although my intentions were good, apparently some athletes thought I was specifically targeting them in my speech for being mean to other girls on the team. One told her parent who went over the coaches' heads straight to the athletic director. Head coach acknowledged that I had the best of intentions, but it wasn't my place to say that to my athletes.\n\n​\n\nI am utterly flabbergasted. I thought telling high school girls \"women are great, be excellent to each other\" was simple and safe but apparently not. I thought I was doing something good but everyone around me seems to believe I stepped out of line. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IpPLdufktzk6RwkQk3Yhq6zDkSfPmxw5", "post_id": "ac3qn5", "action": {"description": "wanting an apology", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for wanting an apology?", "text": "Throwaway since my entire household uses reddit. Sorry, kind of long.\n\nOn Christmas day, one of the roommates offered everyone in the house some of his opened bottle of wine. It was gone by that night. \n\nI had received a different bottle of wine as a Christmas gift from my mom. I left it on the table for the next few days, intending to put it away, but it kept slipping my mind. It was one of those Game of Thrones bottles with a pretty cool label. Game of Thrones is a big deal in our house, and I had wanted to open it for the premiere. \n\nI came home from work Friday to find it opened and half drank. Pretty bummed, I wanted to know who did it so I could explain that it had been mine. When I found out, I texted him and just let him know what was up - that was mine and had been a gift. He immediately replied that it was the wine our other roommate had offered to him before it was offered to me. I explained that no, that bottle was gone. The one he was drinking tonight was mine. I got no reply. \n\nThe next day I was busy and really only saw him in passing. On Sunday afternoon when I saw him again, I asked if he'd be willing to replace the bottle or if I was just eating the loss. He got a little annoyed and said people drink his stuff all the time and he never asks for it to be replaced. Now, there is one person in this house who drinks other people's alcohol on a regular basis and it's not either one of us. And he knows that. I said I only cared because it was a Christmas gift that I had a plan for, then walked off to my room, deciding not to pursue it further at that point. I realized it was partially my fault for leaving it out. As I entered my room and pushed the door closed it shut rather forcefully. Totally unintentional, I swear. I wasn't really feeling more than disappointed and a little frustrated at this point, and I haven't intentionally slammed a door in anger since I was a kid. \n\nWe ran into each other a little bit later and he asked, \"You do understand it was a mistake, right?\" I said a bit tersely \"yeah, but you haven't even apologized for it.\" He started raising his voice at me at this point, and I definitely started to raise mine back in reflex. He was saying a lot about how it matters to him when people drink his beers but he never asks for it back or an apology. He kept saying it was a mistake, and I said I agreed that I shouldn't have left it out but once he realized it was mine instead of the other bottle that an apology would be warranted. That's when he screamed at me that he didn't make any mistake, but rather that I did. His reasoning was that I should have known that he would think it was the other bottle (the one opened, drank by all, and emptied 3 days prior) and open it and drink it, and my refusal to reconcile with my mistake was not his problem. \n\nIt was at this point that I got confused and dropped my raised tone. I said that made no sense. How could I have known that he would think that? He kept yelling, yelled that I was too emotional, then walked off. Now unfortunately he is also the landlord's son. He told me he wanted me out in 30 days. I thought it was just something said in anger and decided to let him cool off. I waited until I was about to go to bed that night and apologized for getting so heated and making him upset, because I was. I can be a little reactionary when I feel people getting upset with me and that's what happened here. My emotions were especially out of wack because I was/am stil dealing with being sexually assaulted on Christmas eve. Not an excuse for getting heated and I will own up to that, but it explains it a little. I never wanted a blow out fight over this, just a \"shit, sorry dude\" at minimum. Regardless, he told me my apology means jack shit to him, and that anybody willing to \"come at him\" in his own house like that would be willing to do it again. He said he lets us live here out of the kindness of his own heart and I abused that.\n\nHe served me with a notice on New Year's Eve in front of a roommate and a party guest. Now I'm being kicked out of my house over wanting an apology for a bottle of wine. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "GXWu0xhafGKVPTBFHHn7wMSVGiHfPEoe", "post_id": "avmyeb", "action": {"description": "giving up my share of the family home", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for giving up my share of the family home", "text": " Background Info.\n\nMy mum passed away last year and in her will, left the family home to the 3 of us (brother,sister and me)\n\n My brother, wife and 3 children currently lives there. Sister is in another country. She is not interested in this property. \n\nMy wife and I moved out in the 80's as she wanted her own place.\n\n They had been taking of our parents (they were financially independent) until they passed on. \n\nMy brother is a stay-at-home dad and has no other property.\n\n My brother and I have a joint agreement to sell the house upon the demise of any one of us and the proceeds to be distributed per mum's will. (Sister will also get her share) \n\nMy brother and my wife are not on friendly terms. \n\nMy family is financially stable\n\nCurrent situation. \n\nA few months after the passing of my mother, my wife tells me to discuss with my brother to give us a time frame to sell the family home and split up the proceeds per mum's will, citing that it would be troublesome to deal with the legal matters after my passing as she claims my brother will not honour the agreement.\n\nI told her I do not agree with her demands as my brother has no other place to move to and since he had been taking care of our parents, the least we could do is let him stay there. \n\nWife demands we (brother and I) confirm a time frame. I begged her not to disturb my brother's family. She said that if I don't meet her demands, she would go and harass my brother until he agrees. \n\nAgain I begged her not to. But she still insisted.\n\n As a final straw, I told her that if she still insists on harassing my brother's family, she would leave me no choice but to give my share of the house to my brother.\n\n Wife calls me a traitor to my family by putting my brother's family ahead of my own.\n\n I told her that everything will remain status quo if she backs off her demands.\n\n AITA for wanting to give up my share of the family home (if wife carries out her threat)  to my brother to allow him and his family to remain there?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EJmxMDj6bsAu9THfQc7IXzGM5zPmq2W6", "post_id": "acdst6", "action": {"description": "requesting this from my friend who lives with me for reduced rent", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for requesting this from my friend who lives with me for reduced rent", "text": "Tldr; friend lives with us for cheap rent, reacted furiously to my request to give my long distance wife and I a day to ourselves in our home and asked that we do not do so again. \n\nI'll try to keep it to the point.\n\nMy wife and I bought a house last year. We live in a HCOL area so this was a big deal for us, a very significant part of our lives. Prior to that we had each been saving and living in random shared accommodation for years, so a huge motivation for us to buy was to have our own space together.\n\nThe property we got is somewhere we hope to one day start a family and so it is more than we need for two people. We considered getting a lodger and one of my best friends (let's call them J) was looking for somewhere at the same time. Despite being wary of ruining an important friendship through the friction of living together, we decided it made sense. This was the first time in my life that I was in a position like this and for reasons I can't really explain it was and I guess still is important to me that I was giving a friend a  good deal. We settled on offering J the room for 600 instead of 900.\n\nWe lived together like this with no problems for a while and then for work reasons my partner moved overseas. This means that we will see each other approximately 4 times a year for the next 3 years. I continued to live in the property with J for the next few months with no issues.\n\nThe first time my partner got time off work to visit was over Christmas. A few weeks before this we asked J if we could have the place to ourselves for a couple of days while my partner was here. His response did not seem particularly enthusiastic, but nor did I notice any particular resentment about it. J said he would work something out, and if necessary stay with his girlfriend. We did not discuss specifics such as dates and I was quite content that there were no problems.\n\nFast forward to the week before my wife got home and she wanted to confirm that it was still ok for us to have the place to ourselves so she sent a message with the dates we thought would be most convenient for J given the plans we knew he had over Christmas. His reply was very snippy and said he had not realised this was still a thing and it was not ideal to be unable to come home but that he would stay with his gf. We thought this was really weird but as he was away at the time we didn't have a chance to speak in person we just said thanks and left it at that.\n\nOver the next week J was very off with me, refusing to engage in conversation (messages) with me etc. This was out of character and definitely a consequence of simmering resentment that my wife and I didn't understand. Finally, my wife arrives home and we don't have much on our minds except each other and we have an amazing day spending our first Christmas together (not actually Christmas, just another day we chose to call that) as a married couple in our home that we had bought together (bonus: it was one of the best days of my life). As agreed J stayed with his girlfriend and we are grateful for this, despite being wary about his message and feeling that hanging over us. \n\nThe next day he sends a very hostile message asking us to do him a favour and next time my wife was visiting not to ask him not to be in the house he rents from us. I reply asking if that was everything that was bothering him and he confirmed there was nothing else. We suggested that we talk about it when he was home.\n\nHe arrives home and stays in his room for a couple of days (unprecedented behaviour for him) until eventually I ask him if he wants to talk. Basically, he said his problem was that it was inconvenient to him that we would ask him to be out of the house and that he found it mind blowing that we would think it was an acceptable request. He had run it past other people and they unanimously agreed with him.\n\nIn reply we were pretty firm that we didn't think it was an unreasonable request and that he should have said if he was unhappy so we could work something out that didn't inconvenience him. He said it was the general fact he couldn't come home that was inconvenient rather than the specifics. I know it's not really relevant, but for context his long term girlfriend lives reasonably close by and it's not unusual for him to stay with her. Obviously we would not have asked him to sleep on the streets or get a hotel or something. The conversation ended with an agreement that it came down to a difference of opinion about whether the request was normal and acceptable.\n\nThat was a couple of days ago now, but I have since been feeling rather bitter about the whole situation. I feel like a close friend of both of us should understand our need for some time alone in the brief spells we get together. I also feel extremely resentful about his bitterness towards us, and the fact he was speaking to other people about how unreasonable we are, despite the fact we give him a significant discount on his rent for being our friend.\n\nI have tried to be as unbiased as possible writing this, I hope I have managed to present an accurate picture because I am looking for honest feedback about whether my feelings are justified and whether I should set them out plainly to J.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "qPW0cJ29hL5VCogl1w2jAYi14ON9LRKn", "post_id": "amcnoj", "action": {"description": "falling for a joke by a deputy head but then they gave me a bag of food during class", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for falling for a joke by a deputy head but then they gave me a bag of food during class?", "text": "First time here, sorry for any issues and this happened years ago so it is kind of blurry with what was said. This account is mainly for a game but I do sometimes branch off and can be considered a throwaway.\n\n\nContext: This happened in high school, I believe my second year with Friday's being a shorter day and during break time, there was a lot more on offer including hotdogs with the usual bacon rolls, sausage rolls and there was plenty of choices normally. I should also mention I have autism which is kind of vital.\n\n\nStory: One day, after one of my classes, I went to the canteen and waited in one of the three lines with it being for hot food. I was behind the deputy head and trying to look to see what was left since I was quite a bit behind and even said to myself \"I hope there is still some hotdogs left\" since I liked having a hotdog on Friday.\n\nThat was when the deputy head looked back and said \"There's nothing there for you\" and, due to my autism, I took it literally and just left the queue and went off to the extension of the school as that was where my next class was. I was never great with jokes and always took them literally like if someone said I was in trouble, I would believe it and be worried at what I did.\n\nAnyway, I'm now in my maths class after the bell went off and a few minutes into it, the deputy head knocks on the door and asks to see me. He wondered why I wasn't in the queue anymore and I explained to him that he said there wasn't anything there. He said he was just joking around and offered to let me go back to the canteen to go get something. I refused since, in my mind, there wouldn't be much I'd want and I would be wasting 5-10 minutes in a class I really struggled with plus I wouldn't be able to explain it.\n\nI should mention that, after the confrontation and him saying it was a joke, I did start crying, high school was hell for me so I guess it all piled up at the time and the deputy head did say for me to wait after class as they would get something for me. I didn't believe it considering his past action before I went back into class. I imagine people were looking at me but the teacher did give me some tissues and didn't ask me any questions.\n\nAt the end of class, I waited for a minute but he never showed up and so I had to rush to next classroom which was on the opposite side of the main school which was History. I believe 20 minutes into the class, the deputy head found it and walked over to give me a bag containing two different sandwiches, a bottle of water and some grapes.\n\nI got a lot of questioning looks and my friend asked what I got and I just said quietly as I put it next to my bag \"I don't know why I got this...\" but I never threw it away and after my last class, I just went home as it was the end of the day and aside from one sandwich, I did eat it all.\n\n\nHowever, thinking back on it recently, I really feel like I was in the wrong for taking a simple joke so seriously and I feel like I might have unintentionally guilt tripped the deputy head without realizing it. As for the deputy head, I think he knew I should have something to eat since it was a lot of time to go without anything to eat or drink so that was probably their reason (about 6-7 hours) but still...\n\nTLDR: I took a joke seriously and left the canteen without food. The deputy head told me it was a joke after taking me out of class and did offer solutions with me leaving class for time but I refused. They then said to wait after class but I didn't, thinking it was another joke and not trusting but he did give me a bag of food in my next class.\n\nAITA for that situation in the past?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ONxP8e3nN8DM4stbrNlo3oTryCkoPWBm", "post_id": "as1jfu", "action": null, "title": "AITA for wanted to play video games with my 5yo?", "text": "Back when I was a teenager I loved playing video games, mostly on the PC. Life happened and my passion dwindled to a couple of hours every other month, mostly around holiday season or when a new AAA title ships on a console, like Zelda, Mario or God of War. So far I've been playing only alone, after the kids go to sleep.\n\n​\n\nMy wife and I have two daughters, 5yo and almost 2yo. They almost never watch TV because apparently, it's not good for them. I'm totally on board with the <2yo not watching cartoons. But from my point of view, for the 5yo it should be ok to have a short 30min interval where she can indulge in the Kids area on Netflix. As long as this doesn't end up creeping into hours, or goes on later than 7PM. That should also help with keeping quiet while the younger one has a nap or to pleasantly take off some burden while we're doing house chores. There's a lot to be learned for some series in there, like 'The Magic School Bus'.\n\n​\n\nNow, since my wife is so anti-TV / cartoons, this is affecting my relationship with my 5yo, as we both want to play Mario or other kids video games together. We've played a bit over some weekends and she loves it. Only that after the fact I get into huge fights with my wife because: I'm destroying the kids\u2019 imagination and their eyes! \n\n​\n\nI feel that this is not normal behaviour and most other families have no problem with kids playing a small amount of video games every now and then. My perspective is that as the child grows, some critical skills accrued whlie playing games are easily transferable towards other activities. Top most one being grit.\n\n​\n\nNow, AITA for wanting to spend some time with my daughter playing video games every now and then? Did you happen to run into this problem in your life as a young parent? Any tips on how I could manage the situation, I think that sticking to facts is not the way to go, maybe more on a different level?\n\n​\n\nTHANKS!!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DoCD4bN6vnCV3CLKxMm1i4999EEjEi9i", "post_id": "b688qd", "action": {"description": "calling my boss' children babies", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA: For calling my boss' children babies?", "text": "Throwaway because I don't know who in my office uses Reddit. \n\nMy old boss quit like 6 months ago.  New boss seems alright, pleasant enough, pretty high energy.  Due to the nature of our positions we work pretty closely together.  We know a little bit about each other's personal lives (nothing major or private,) just general stuff like spouse's, children's and pet's names, hobbies, education, etc. We get along very well but I wouldn't call us friends. Today he had to leave in the middle of the day, informing me that his 15 year old twins were home sick from school today and he was going to go pick them up some medicine, check in and come back. He was gone a little longer than expected but it wasn't a big deal, i'm pretty independent and had plenty to do. When he got back I asked: \"How are your poor babies doing?\" trying to be friendly. \n\nNow looking back, it could have seemed like an odd thing to say. In my family we call all the kids babies, regardless of age. When talking to my mother about my younger siblings we still call them babies. Pretty much it's interchangeable for \"my kid\" or \"your kid,\" even if said kid is an adult. That being said, the following exchange was surprising to me:\n\nMe: \"How are your poor babies doing?\"\n\nBoss: \"They're not babies, they're in high school.\"\n\nMe: \"Awe, but they'll always be your babies no matter how grown up they get\" *chuckle*\n\nBoss: \"Are you stupid? They're fifteen, they're not babies.\"\n\nHe then proceeded to enter his office and slam the door. I haven't spoken to him since as he left for a meeting while I was in the restroom. I'm not really upset more just perplexed. I don't plan on saying anything about it, just pretending it never happened but . . . AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fDj5nPqnSBa81EATO62TjluwXlrz8gcL", "post_id": "avi3rn", "action": {"description": "not leaving anything to my brother in our will because we don't like his wife", "pronormative_score": 25, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I don\u2019t leave anything to my brother in our Will because we don\u2019t like his wife?", "text": "My brother and I aren\u2019t really friends, but we don\u2019t hate each other either. Just more like acquaintances that see each other a few times a year. His wife (my sister-in-law) is the most selfish person I know and no one in my family likes her. My wife and I are doing our Will and decided to leave everything to her brother. We don\u2019t have kids (yet) I\u2019m 37 and she\u2019s 32. If we have kids then of course they would get it all. My brother has 3 kids and I rarely talk to them. Maybe once a year when they call or text to say thanks for the birthday money. \n\nSo, AITA for not leaving anything to my brother and his kids because my wife and I absolutely hate his wife? And just for context, it\u2019s not like a few thousand. Our estate now is valued at well over a million and obviously the longer we live the more valuable it gets. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 19, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 25, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vI63YDyA35cQk4l5wRnvexrRpGKxSWSn", "post_id": "a5ocvl", "action": null, "title": "AITA?", "text": "A sophomores friend told me, her friend thought I was cute and wanted my Snapchat. I just said thank you and laughed and kinda went back to what I was doing. I\u2019m a senior and wasn\u2019t interested but I feel like I went about the wrong way, and thought I might have hurt her feelings. Also this doesn\u2019t happen often. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "O20HmveVUyKIY1YWAoMVHiy8DL22lejX", "post_id": "axcfu8", "action": {"description": "pretending to be engaged", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I pretended to be engaged?", "text": "Throwaway because I don't want to risk anyone seeing this post on my main.\n\nNow before I start, I'd like to say that I know that this is going to seem a little bit similar to [that episode of HIMYM](https://how-i-met-your-mother.fandom.com/wiki/The_Stinsons), but believe me, I wish my situation was as comical as that one. \n\nHere's a bit of background- My mother was an only child with three kids, dad left after I, the third one, was born (though if I'm being honest I'm not even certain if we all have the same dad, she never liked to talk about our dad). Grandparents dead, no contact with any other family members. Me, my two brothers, and her are the extent of the family.\n\nSo let me start this off by saying that my mother is dying. She has probably a month to live, and that's being hopeful. I'm not going to bother going into the details, and if I'm being quite honest, I'm not 100% sure of all of them. Apparently it's common for patients with it to have heart attacks or strokes, and after she had one stroke she asked that if she had another one to not help her and let her go. I'm not certain if the hospital is allowed to do that, but that was her request (the reason I'm not sure of all the details is because I'm not at the hospital with her. My older brother stays with her, and me and my other brother try to make it to any important news sharing from the doctor. \n\nWhen we were younger, my mother always said she wanted to see all of us settle down and start a family with someone we loved, so we could have what she never got to. Both of my older brothers succeeded and made her happy with that, but I have not. However, I have been in an extremely casual relationship for the past year. I'm talking basically a FWB type thing but slightly more serious. We've gone out on dates with other people in that time with no jealousy, but if either of us ever wanted to maybe make things more serious, we'd be open to the possibility of it. I've brought her home to holidays and such at home, but my mom is aware of how casual we are. \n\nSo with my mother's wish she always expressed when we were younger, and the current... situation, I've been considering telling my mom that my \"girlfriend\" and I are engaged, so that she can die at least thinking I'm on my way to creating the life she always wanted for me. When I told my brothers my idea, they had different responses. The oldest said I was an asshole for even considering manipulating our mother, but the other understands where I'm coming from and would be okay with me doing it, even if he wouldn't do it if he was in my situation. I also talked to my \"girlfriend\" and she said she would do it if I thought it was for the best. I'm just worried that if I do my oldest brother will think I'm an asshole and resent me for it, and honestly I'm not too sure if it's the best idea myself.\n\nSo Reddit, WIBTA?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qyuwJ7aD1TGb2xn7bSlzy0hDpY1ouAD4", "post_id": "amv0kn", "action": {"description": "snapping at my parents in front of their friends and family", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for snapping at my parents in front of their friends and family", "text": "So this weekend I (21/M) wanted to come home from college and visit my parents for the weekend. It's Super Bowl Sunday and the Lunar New Year (we're Vietnamese) is this coming Tuesday, so I thought it would be nice to spend some time with them. \n\nAs a full-time student and a part-time worker, I called out weeks ahead of time so I could make this visit. That being said, since I didn't have work this weekend, I thought that it'd be nice to finish up on this portfolio I'm working on since I don't normally get this much freetime during the week. For this portfolio I needed 10 of my best design pieces, a cover letter, and 2 essays. This seems pretty standard, but I'm taking this application very seriously as the program accepts only 30 students per year. And unfortunately this is something I have to do on the side, since my current classes and work are also a priority. Therefore I also had a couple of assignments to complete this weekend as well.\n\nSo on Friday night and all of Saturday, I basically worked my ass off doing as much work as I could, so I could do some more and on Sunday and be finished by the time the game kicks off. But earlier today, as I was still doing my homework the door bell rang and I discovered that my parents invited friends and family over for lunch and to hang out during the Super Bowl. This was something my parents didn't tell me about as I was expecting to have some alone time with them later tonight when we're watching the Super Bowl and having dinner. Since I was still busy with my work I kept myself shut in my room and didn't bother making menial small talk. \n\nIt wasn't until a bit when my parents came into my room and asked me to come out and hang out for a bit. I kindly declined, since I thought they would understand my circumstances. But after that, they would come back every 5 or so minutes to get me to come out and get some lunch despite how busy I was. But even then, I was indecent and still in my sleep wear, since trying to finish up my assignments was the first thing I did when I got up this morning. After a few more attempts, I finally snapped and raised my voice at them, enough to where (though not intentional) everyone in the kitchen and living room could hear me. I basically told my parents to leave me alone to let me do my homework and that I'll come out whenever I'm finished. They left, then my mom came back, brought food to my room, and has left me alone for the last hour or so. All I wanted to do was finish my work and watch the Super Bowl with my mom and dad, but I feel terrible about it as it must be embarrassingly awkward for their guests.\n\nOne half of me says yes I am the asshole, while the other says it was justified. Needless to say, I definitely could have handled the situation a lot better.\n\n​\n\n**tldr:** \n\nI came home to visit my mom and dad for the weekend, with a shit ton of homework due on Sunday along with portfolio work I needed to do to apply for a very competitive undergrad program. They had guests come over to watch the Super Bowl and celebrate the Lunar New Year, which I was not told about. After my dad was becoming very insistent on me coming out to have lunch with everyone, I raised my voice at him and told him to leave me alone so I could do my work.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gsCFWHbV0SYshxt2BYMCgp8zhLiban3k", "post_id": "alugmf", "action": {"description": "getting annoyed when my roommates clean", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting annoyed when my roommates clean?", "text": "I am more of the kind of person that likes to upkeep vs. deep clean. So when I see something is dirty, I clean it. If I'm in the bathroom and the sink is dirty, I clean it up. If I see the trash is full, I take it out. Every now and again I'll go ahead and clean an entire room, but I don't feel the need to announce when I clean. I especially don't announce it if all I've done is wipe down the stove or counters. \n\nA couple of my roommates on the other hand, make it known when they clean something, which is fine, but it's how they say it that annoys me. For example, one of my roommates cleaned the kitchen and ended the text with telling us to keep up with dishes for the rest of the semester. We're all guilty of occasionally letting dishes rack up, but telling us to keep up with them for the rest of the semester rubbed me the wrong way. I hand wash all my dishes almost immediately after using them because I know if I don't, I will forget about them. So typically, it's not my dishes that rack up. Or in some instances, they'll be passive aggressive after they've cleaned up. I think the thing that gets to me the most is that they just assume I don't clean. I don't expect anyone to assume it was me that cleaned the kitchen if I don't say so, but they'll just assume someone else did and then jump to a conclusion. \n\nLast year I lived with different roommates and never had any issues with not being clean. I did the same thing I do now and never had any issues. \n\nAm I the asshole here? I don't say anything when they send these texts, but I just want to make sure I'm not getting in my own head. My thought process is that we all live here, we all clean. We're just doing what we're supposed to do so why make a big deal out of it? I really just want some other perspectives here so if I'm being a jerk I can adjust. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3Cu9AJxzNQeDBfmFADulE1V6xXOH70Xj", "post_id": "azkt3i", "action": {"description": "beating Ornstein and Smough without my friend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I beat Ornstein and Smough without my friend?", "text": "So me and my friend have been playing ds1re and are working to beat Ornstein and Smough, well I\u2019ve figured out a way to beat them and my friend isn\u2019t available to help. WIBTA if I beat them?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yE79NCi3fmlVtfZ4T4Gy3tm5hXQY1bQC", "post_id": "ahf7dw", "action": {"description": "wanting to stay friends with an ex", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA For wanting to stay friends with an ex?", "text": "Long story short, I ended up breaking up with my boyfriend of 7 months. I wanted to keep things amicable and help him understand why I needed to break up, and why I still wanted to be friends. He has, at times, agreed that he wants to be friends, and at other times been very upset and said he never wants to see me again (understandable).\n\nAnyway, he's mentioned that his friends have said that I'm an asshole that's \"using him\" by asking him to stay a friend, because I know that he's emotionally invested in me and I'm supposedly using that to my advantage to keep him around for attention without having to commit. I think he's a grown ass adult and can make his own decisions; I've told him how I feel and what I want, and if he doesn't want to be friends, he can tell me and we won't see each other any more.\n\nSo, AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "6l8mtIOQGmxgObGkvKy3YOYQMlWiRL64", "post_id": "ad7s15", "action": {"description": "refusing to attend a surprise party", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for refusing to attend a surprise party?", "text": "I went to a town where some of my family members live, one of them being my father who is part of large collective of friends and enjoys spending time with them. Right after we arrived home he told me one of his friends, knowing about my soon arrival, was throwing a party on boat that day and I was invited.   \nHowever, travelling is stressful for me, so I planned to simply have a day or two for rest before doing anything, and the perspective to spend rest of a day in a large company of people most of which I probably don't know/remember was far from comfortable, so I declined. Father asked me to reconsider, saying his friend had organised this party and put great effort in it because of and for me.\n\nI dislike parties in general, but hell, I could have even think for some time and eventually agree to participate, specifically to not disappoint father, if only this had been planned for next day; I would at least have been prepared for it coming and had had some rest by that time. Unfortunately, I had to decide almost immediately - and so, I was solid in my decision to stay home, so rest of the family went there without me. \n\nAs I've been told, everyone had a great time in company of each other, just as usual. I was completely okay on my own, too. However, after returning father scolded me, saying I behaved impolitely and ungrateful by not participating in my own party.\n\n​\n\n**TL;DR:** my father's friend set up a party for me but I refused to attend because I wasn't aware of it before it almost started, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "YdOutJbFU3j9PTqgOiwhyBm6bGfzZvM9", "post_id": "acoj7w", "action": {"description": "telling my autistic brother his filipina girlfriend is probably only interested in him because she sees him as a potential ticket to the US", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my autistic brother his Filipina girlfriend is probably only interested in him because she sees him as a potential ticket to the US?", "text": "My brother (early 30s) is autistic. He is high functioning but his disability is immediately obvious to anyone who interacts with him. He recently informed the family that he has a girlfriend in the Philippines he met through an online dating site that he video chats with. We all think it is very weird and we are pretty uncomfortable with it. We know American men who have lived in the Philippines who said tons of women their desperately want an American husband so they can live in the US, so we strongly believe that's what's going on here. At first we were discussing how it was weird but ultimately harmless because he has little money so would never be able to fly her across the world. (He works part time minimum wage and that barely covers living expenses). This is assuming she can't afford her own ticket. But then we noticed that they are Facebook official and both posting lots of cringy stuff on facebook, and he recently changed his profile pic to include a screenshot of her. So still I think ultimately probably harmless but pretty embarrassing. My mom wants me to talk to him about it and tell him what the men we know who have lived in the Philippines have said. Basically she (along with others in the family) wants him talked out of the whole thing but thinks it's better if it comes from a sibling. I am one of two siblings who is in a position to talk to him in person, and the other sibling refuses. Letting him know when he is making a big social misstep is something I gave often done, and I think this qualifies, but it also seems to make him happy. Would I be the asshole if I told him his long distance girlfriend is likely just looking to use him to get a greencard?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lC1l95rl9T3D2f9bofEbtx8Wrxc3I3eh", "post_id": "ao53qy", "action": {"description": "using the women's restroom", "pronormative_score": 26, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for using the women\u2019s restroom?", "text": "This happened about a month ago, but it still sort of bothers me.\nI\u2019m non-binary. (I respect your opinion if you believe that this isn\u2019t a valid gender identity, but I find the idea convincing from both my personal experience and a biological capacity.)\n\nAdditionally, I am extremely androgynous. I have been been asked what I *am* in everything from a swimsuit to a skirt to, once, rather remarkably, full nudity. \nIn a practical sense, this means that, because most people classify others as male or female, I have a lot of Schr\u00f6dinger\u2019s conversations- I don\u2019t know what a stranger perceives me to be unless they say something obviously gendered.\n\nAdditional relevant information is that I\u2019m mostly anatomically female. I do have some mild dysphoria from that (I genuinely hate most of my secondary/post-pubertal sexual characteristics, and am active working towards fixing that issue), but I can usually avoid situations where I know it\u2019ll crop up.\n\nSo, walking up to a public restroom, pay my 50 Euro cent and reflexively try to enter the women\u2019s restroom, because honestly, I just need to piss. The attendant waves me in the direction of the men\u2019s room.\nAfter a moment or two of hesitation, I call upon my limited German and tell him I am female. He looks me over, shrugs, and doesn\u2019t try to stop me agin. Some of the other patrons are noticeably uncomfortable, and I leave as quickly as possible.\n\nSo am I the asshole for making everyone else uncomfortable? I\u2019d have been happy to use the men\u2019s but I lack the anatomy, and I\u2019m unsure what the etiquette is about sitting and peeing there.\nThanks in advance for your time.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 25, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 26, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mYxilhTXTIPsT3YKUB2GmgScBt9uQKMm", "post_id": "abh0ct", "action": {"description": "disliking my bf's close friend", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for disliking my bf\u2019s close friend?", "text": "My bf\u2019s close friend was the one who introduced us. My bf and i have been together for about 5 months. Let me tell you about his close friend: he\u2019s really something.\n\nHe\u2019s been obnoxiously annoying lately, especially when he\u2019s high. He\u2019s been high for about a whole month straight. I have no problem with my friends or anyone high but he\u2019s the worst when he\u2019s high. I used to smoke but i\u2019m 3 months sober. He recently tried pushing me to take a hit when we were all hanging out on the weekend. I told him no about 4-5 times and he proceeds to ask why. I told him i chose not to and i\u2019d appreciate it if he stops. He then still ask me why i\u2019m sober. I just ignored him. My bf is also sober for the same amount of months as me but his friend pressured him to take a hit from his wax pen (electronic THC vaporizer). My bf  told me he only took one hit just for his friend to shut up. \n\nAnother time, i had a half full water bottle. I was planning to finish it but he asked if he can have some. I said that i\u2019m thirsty and i plan to finish it myself. I guess he didn\u2019t process that and took my bottle and drank all of it. I had to buy another one but it was just annoying. Whenever he tags along with my bf and i, i stay quiet the whole time because knowing him, he will be rude to me if i open my mouth.\n\nThen, my bf and i were going to give his cat a bath. Guess who popped up the scene? His friend was also high during this. We bathed the cat but as my bf and i were busy bathing the cat, i needed help to get a cup of water so i asked nicely for his friend to get me a cup of warm water. His friend decided to pour the rest of his mountain dew in the cup, mixed with warm water. He didn\u2019t tell me and i almost poured the cup on the cat until i saw a hint of green. I just poured it out, washed the cup and refill it with only warm water.\n\nI get it that he\u2019s my bf\u2019s friends and i respect that. I even told my bf about all of this, my bf knows his friend annoys me to the max. My bf even agrees that he\u2019s been a drag lately because of the use of marijuana. Honestly, he probably think this is all a joke and i could possibly be taking this to heart. I just don\u2019t like having him around. Am i the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "boOvXYgFaaRDloVMOMuOwO9LY6FXr8II", "post_id": "ag9cdw", "action": {"description": "feeling used", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Feeling Used?", "text": "One of my closest friends (we'll call him Jim) semi-recently (within about the past 5 months) broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years (we'll call her Ashley) and moved away.\n\n​\n\nI have always been very close to Ashley, and would consider her to be my closest, or at the very least second closest friend, especially with the distance between Jim and I making hard to stay close. The way she acted around me was always a little off, and Jim definitely noticed too. But after Jim moved, things started to get...weird. It started when she made a passing comments about how she would date me or how attractive she thought I was. I didn't think much of it at first, because she's an inordinately nice person, and I figured she was just trying to raise my spirits after my past relationship. Because we're good friends, we message each a lot, and she always tells me how I'm pretty much her closest friend. The second to last time we hung out, we were watching a movie, and she decided to lean up to me and cuddle. Well, no big deal, I figured-after all, I think two friends can cuddle without it being sexual, and have with other female friends.\n\n​\n\nWell at this point its pretty obvious that some sexual tension was building. The last time I hung out with her, we both got *extremely* drunk. She made some comments about how hard she was trying to not make out with me or take things further. Now, even in my borderline black-out levels of drunkenness, I had zero intention of taking things further, as I believe that would be incredibly scummy and immoral. However, by the end of the night we ended up cuddling in bed together-and I mean *really* cuddling. In the morning when I sobered up, I felt really bad about the whole situation. I thought i made that pretty clear, but she has a habit of not talking about these kinda things and acting like nothing happened.\n\n​\n\nWell a couple days ago, Jim was talking to me and told me that Ashley had \"a thing\" with another close friend of ours (this one we'll call Bob). All I really know is that she spent two nights over at Bob's house, and he then later texted Jim and told him that he \"didn't want to go behind his back\" and that he and Ashley were planning on having \"a thing\". Neither Jim nor I were fully sure on what he meant by that, but he didn't want me to talk to her about it, as he doesn't want her to know he told me and didn't keep it between him and Bob. He said he was OK with it but that he didn't understand why Bob would be OK with it. While I'm almost positive that they did not have sex, I am 100% sure that some wicked intense cuddling was happening, and maybe some slightly sexual stuff.\n\n​\n\nAshley never told me about any of this, and obviously has no intention to. Oddly enough, I feel used and cheap. Maybe I shouldn't, but I feel like she was kinda toying with me. I'm a pretty emotional person, so suppose I felt like we just had developed a closer bond, and the fact that she does shit with Bob  within the a month kinda hurts. She wont tell me about it because she knows it will hurt me. While I had no intention of trying things with her, the fact that she would do all this weird flirty stuff with me, not really talk about it, and then spend two nights at one of my close friend's house doing god knows what makes me feel used. I don't want to paint her in a bad light, though, as we are extremely close, and she has never been anything but overtly nice to me, and I have confided things to her that I would never  tell anyone else. That being said, with this whole situation, I told her that I no longer want to hang out with her 1 on 1, and I really don't feel like speaking to her at the moment. I know that I said earlier that two people can cuddle without it being sexual, but this whole situation with Bob feels off to me. Idk\n\n​\n\nAITA for feeling used and being mad at her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YLNt4C29nDG7DjIgHAcJn8XInZgaZzvi", "post_id": "aqzi86", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my father for \"helping\"", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For getting mad at my father for \"helping\"", "text": "For some brief context I'm 20 going on 21. I'm trying to enlist, but had a ticket I had to take care of before I could go any further. My father has always been there and my mother has never been apart of my life, so he's filled both roles.\n\nMy dad has always been my best friend and will always be my best friend, but he's very much the \"overprotective\" type in terms of parenting. I've stated to him multiple times that I need to fight my own battles otherwise I never will and he agreed entirely with me, but since then he still acts like he's coming to my rescue whenever I need to stand up for myself. I just recently got a ticket for unreasonable speed with poor weather conditions (wrecked my car) and I had asked him for some advice and if he could come just so I know what I'm doing. It came time for me to go up and talk to the judge and DA to see if I couldn't get the ticket dismissed or bumped down so it wouldn't affect my time with enlisting. He asked if I wanted him to come up with me and I said yes, but let me do the talking I want you there as support (because yes he is very much who I look to if I get nervous or stumble) he agreed he wouldn't say anything. So the judge asked me if I wanted any documents explaining what unreasonable speed is due to it being a vague area. I was about to say no when my father starting viciously shaking his head yes, so I said yes. The judge said it may take up to 30 days for them to get some documentation from the State Trooper explaining, he asked me if there was a date I would prefer to come in on and just before I was about to explain my situation and that I didn't need the document I just need the whole court process over with so I could continue with the recruitment process my dad just started talking and explaining everything and said we could talk to the DA to lower the ticket. My dad then proceeded to not even let me talk to the DA and instead took complete control of the situation for me.\n\nAfter we had left the court room I confronted him saying that was exactly what I didn't want him to do. He started going off about how I wasn't going to push the issue and I was already done talking that's why he took over. I just got quiet and didn't say anything and he just kept pushing the issue saying he doesn't understand why I'm upset. I was set off by this and told him that he always does this, he needs to step back and let me fight my own battles. He didn't understand this and got extremely upset with me over this, explained that he only wants to help me. I explained even further there is a difference between helping and doing it for me, I'm 20 and need to deal with things so I know how to.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OKBfQpOYsIZ672VbbcK0lY7Qr7cAYKCj", "post_id": "a7j607", "action": {"description": "keeping my daughter home from her class party because kids in her class got sent home yesterday with the flu", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I kept my daughter home from her class party because kids in her class got sent home yesterday with the flu?", "text": "We dont have health insurance, because we just dont have the money . If she gets sick I will find a way to pay for a doctor visit. She's 8 and has looked forward to this. But I'm worried about her getting sick. She got a flu vaccine earlier this fall but I know those aren't always accurate on the flu strand each season. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eSeJaBVhiHzJggz4B8b9v6epaQLLEseV", "post_id": "b8fyjm", "action": {"description": "using my screen on an overnight flight", "pronormative_score": 26, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for using my screen on an overnight flight?", "text": "Throwaway, I\u2019m on mobile, so sorry for formatting. I\u2019m writing this from the airplane, seeing as this just happened a few minutes ago. \n\nMy boyfriend and I are on a flight direct from California to Europe. It\u2019s 10 hours... we left at 6pm Monday and are arriving at 12pm Tuesday in Europe. So a lot of our fellow passengers are taking advantage of this to catch some sleep. \n\nBf and I are in window and middle seats, respectively. In the aisle there is (or was) a guy, probably in his 30\u2019s. Pretty nice guy, was chatting with us before takeoff, etc. \n\nThe entire flight, bf and I have been using the built-in entertainment systems provided by the airline to watch movies, track the flight, etc. since we aren\u2019t tired and are terribly bored. Most other people have their screens off and are sleeping, but a few others are doing the same as us. \n\nAbout an hour ago, I noticed the guy next to me (aisle guy) was shifting, trying to find comfortable sleeping positions, alternative between putting a blanket over his head and taking it off. I didn\u2019t think much of it, because I\u2019ve done that too, and it\u2019s never been because of light disturbance. I figured he was just trying to find a comfy sleeping position. \n\nSo finally, about 5.5 hrs into the 10hr flight (12am California time, 8am Europe time) he gets up, finds a flight attendant, and moves. He wasn\u2019t rude about it - when he came to get his stuff he said \u201cno offense, I\u2019m just switching seats because of the screens\u201d. Apparently our screens were bothering him and he couldn\u2019t sleep. \n\nThe fact that that might have been an issue honestly never even crossed my mind, which makes me feel a bit asshole-ish. But at the same time I feel like it would have been unreasonable for us to not use our screens when we aren\u2019t tired and can\u2019t sleep and have nothing else to do. He didn\u2019t ask us to turn them off, but I still feel like a dick for not even noticing and thus forcing him to move. \n\nWere we the assholes here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 20, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 26, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yz4IdLDbKN6wXaIHSG8wOq1LCqlO5J5y", "post_id": "b4appy", "action": {"description": "absolutely hating my eldest brother to the point just talking to him makes me livid", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for absolutely hating my eldest brother to the point just talking to him makes me livid?", "text": "My brother (almost 21),  and I (18 f)  have essentially had it out for each other when we were kids,  I'd be forced to fight with him and my second oldest brother (19)  for the only tv in the house till I was 10. But I didn't really hold anything against him since we were just kids. \n\nSo as of recent every time my brothers on his phone with his friends he's been talking shit about me and only having the mic on when he knows I'm going to snap at him for telling his friends such shitty things about me,  normally i wouldn't care but this is a man who's specifically gushed to our mother about how I do the same thing (I don't,  my friends just hear how he's a cunt over the phone.  I don't need to talk shit,  he let's the shit talk for him.)\n\nBut where I drew the line is when yesterday I asked him to do a simple medial task.  Cook.  PASTA.  In x amount of time (half an hour),  and the amount of times I got told to eff off and all that were absolutely astounding.  He never gets in full trouble.  It's always me. It makes me livid just eating dinner in the same room as him and I HAVE to know AITA for not having more patience. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RBsEMbQk4abECsVLl6XZZTwjyxc4NWkv", "post_id": "9x2tdc", "action": {"description": "turning down sex for being too in love", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA: Turning Down Sex For Being Too In Love", "text": "My ex has been extremely persistent over being best friends after our breakup. I tried, but after months i couldn't take it anymore. My feelings were still the same, and as she moved on to a new relationship, my heart was crushed. Now that she's single again, she tried to refuel our friendship. I was nice at first, but i began catching feelings and falling for her. So i asked for space and told her i was always here for her, but i was still to into her to be friends like that. (I've never been friends with an ex before) \n\nFlash forward to last night:\n\nMy ex came over to my house. Told me she's tired of me lying to myself. She said i didn't have feelings for her, and i only lust for her. So to prove it. She started stripping and told me to have sex with her. Cause after sex I'd know if i actually loved her or i just lust for her cause I'm single and horny and she's hot. \n\nI asked her that if she needed to do this to see if she had feelings for me and she said no, she only loves me as a friend and doesn't want to be with me at all. \n\nI told her what happens if we do this and i have feelings for her and she said \"I'd respect that and give you your space\" so i told her let's keep doing that. Cause sex isn't just sex with her. We've been through too much, and I'd definitely want more and want her to be with me. \n\nSo basically i turned down sex last night, cause she thought we'd bone and I'd be like \"wow I was just horny, let's be best friends\" \n\nTldr: \nTurned down sex with my ex, because i don't believe i could do that, or be close to her without having feelings for her. Am i the asshole for turning down a hot 22 y.o Female for sexy time because of my big heart? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "M11HLMLJnKQbd5PqY515BoFuXgniTVEg", "post_id": "b6e7hy", "action": {"description": "continuing to report my neighbor to my apartment's front office", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For continuing to report my neighbor to my apartment's front office", "text": "Background: I live in an apartment complex with my husband and two dogs. The complex is pet friendly, which means a ton of dogs. Leash law is in the surrounding area outside the property as well as mandatory in the complex. \nLast August someone moved down the hall from us with a lab puppy. No biggie, it was a small puppy and they had it off leash every now and then. He was just a little chonk so no harm, I suppose. \n\nHowever, now he is almost a fully grown dog and I'd guess around 80 pounds. It's pretty much daily that he's off leash and running around the apartment with my neighbor. My neighbor relies on an electric collar to make his dog behave, which works only after he's repeatedly called him and shocked him multiple times.\n\nTo avoid problems, I try to time when I go out with my dogs bc I don't want to be caught on the stairs/in the hallway at the same time with mine and his dog, but we've had run-ins before where I quickly have to duck away with mine.\n I'm not going to act like my dogs are perfect, one is reactive but I'm working on him. The other is pretty okay with other dogs as long as they don't invade her space. Even so, they are always on leash so I can control them, unlike my neighbor who relies on his dog listening to him and his collar.\n\nI contacted the front office (last October) about this happening and they told me to take a picture of them and email it. At this point, I've emailed them over a dozen times and I believe they have fined him once but it hasn't changed this problem.\n\nTonight we had a run-in and his dog was very close to mine. He finally got his dog away after shocking it a few times. I hadn't said anything to him until this point about it, but I spoke up and said \"Hey, he's a pretty big dog, he probably needs a leash.\"\nHe was pretty dismissive, \"Oh he's fine, he's just training.\"\n\nI have already reported him this week so I'm not sure if the office is already planning on doing something, but am I an asshole for continuing to report him?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Jab3lJAlFnnDdEZI9zab2IPkyTi6yCib", "post_id": "agn9u7", "action": {"description": "confronting our upstairs neighbors", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for confronting our upstairs neighbors? (A.K.A. How do I avoid being the asshole here?)", "text": "This is a really stupid question -- you've been warned. But it's been driving me nuts. \n\nHere's the sitch': my partner and I live in a lovely apartment building, we get along with our neighbors and it's all peachy. However, the new upstairs neighbors are super inconsiderate with their noise-levels. I don't know *what* the hell they're doing, but there is consistent, non-stop, aggravating \"tap-tap-tap, taptaptaptap, tap-tap-tap, taptaptaptap\". It'll go on for hours. Not exaggerating here. \n\nMy hypothesis is that someone is at their computer or listening to music, and they habitually \"drum along\" with whatever they're listening to. They seem to wear headphones, at least, so that's nice. \n\nBut seriously, folks, this aggravates me to no end. (I get really bad tension headaches that sometimes morph into migraines, and I also have really weirdly specific anxiety triggers, which include strong wind, for an example. This tapping has turned out to be an anxiety trigger.) This endless tap-tap-tap-tap-tap when I'm trying to enjoy a quiet weekend afternoon, or at *fucking 11:30 at night*. It raises my anxiety to the point where my heart is beating like rabbit's, blood pressure is high, and sleeping gets pretty difficult. \n\n*Anyway, it's absurd, and I know that. Just giving some context as to why this drives me fucking bonkers.*\n\nMy partner says I should just bang on the ceiling when they do it, and they'll knock it off -- but I can't bring myself to do that, because I feel like nobody responds positively to that. (Why the hell should they?) \n\nSo. Would I be the asshole if I: \n1) Took my partner's passive-aggressive suggestion to just bang back at them. \n2) Took the time to go up to the apartment, introduce myself, and ask them to pretty-please stop drumming on the floor. At least in the fucking bedroom. At least at night. Please. \nor 3) (The one I'm least inclined to do) File a complaint with building management. \n\nI think #2 is the least asshole-ish option, but my partner says it'd be weird. \n\nSo, internet -- WIBTA? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fBT3XT8NPtipdhcCi89kRyLtSOopvrQY", "post_id": "ayl3ta", "action": {"description": "trying to clean my parent's house", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA For trying to clean my parent's house?", "text": "This began when I was a kid and noticed that my parents desk was a mess so I cleaned it as a surprise. My dad got mad at me for it. I'm now 29 and moved back into my parents house. I like to have a nice clean house so i keep my room clean and sometimes go on cleaning sprees where I'll clean the whole house.\n\nWe have had some drama in the past because of this. Basically, I try to clean something and my parents freak out, I mean like full blown insanity. I don't even clean it, I just suggest I might try cleaning it and ask if their OK with it. Its at this point that they just start yelling and say \"get out, get out right now, its our stuff don't touch it.\" And I try to remain calm but for some reason I don't instantly comply with their demands because in the moment I just freeze rather than instantly walk out of the room. their yelling gets louder and more aggressive and angrier which ends up making me mad so i may lose my temper and say something like \"fine, you want to yell at me for doing nothing... i might as well clean something\" I realize this is an asshole thing to do but I haven\u2019t done this in a while but done it before so I guess this is what my parents are worried about.\n\nI hadn't cleaned up their part of the house like their room or their office in years and tonight I finished cleaning my room and since it was my moms birthday (my mom usually actually likes when I clean but I think since my dad hates it so much she agrees with him) and they don't have a problem with just dusting their problem is when it comes to moving their stuff around/organizing. So I figured I would do some dusting, no problem, everyone is happy.\n\nmy mom comes to see the room, everything is fine. I ask her nicely \"Can I straighten out this pile of papers? Just straighten out not move or anything\" She says well OK. So I start straightening out the papers. Then my dad comes up like a tyrant lunatic, doesn't even know whats going on and starts with the \"get out! get out! get out!\" And like I said I just freeze so they keep getting louder. my mom instantly sides with my dad and everyone's yelling at me and i'm generally calm and waiting for them to stop yelling so loud so I can decide what to do.\n\nSo yes, I probably shouldn't mess with my parents stuff in their room.\n\nI probably should leave their room the second they tell me to.\n\nAnd yes I should probably move out and get my own house.\n\nBut I still have the aching desire to make their house perfect.\n\nIn the times when I've managed to clean things it in the past and created trouble none of their stuff is ever lost and they usually really like how everything is so clean in the end. So sometimes I think maybe I should just let them get angry and clean their room for the greater good. Well lately I don't (past 15 years) because they are so insane about it.\n\nSo am I the asshole? and what should I do about still wanting to make the house clean? or is that a question for [r/Advice](https://www.reddit.com/r/Advice)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "4zlpYRMLa4kTFNx496JbjvLixSU7kkjw", "post_id": "a5odzx", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go to my sister's wedding early", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go to my sister\u2019s wedding early.", "text": "My sister is getting married this weekend, and while part of me is happy for her, most of me is dreading it because I don\u2019t think it\u2019s the right move. Some necessary context to help you decide if I\u2019m wrong here - \n\nI\u2019ve never liked her fianc\u00e9, even before they got together. I was vocal about my disdain, up until they started dating. Then I backed off completely with my outright dislike of the guy but I have to admit I\u2019m cordial to him at best, and definitely not friendly. Now to the actual question. \n\nMy parents are not good at planning parties. Her fianc\u00e9\u2019s parents are far away. My MIL is wonderful at party planning and is a saint, so my own mother asked her for help. But my MIL and I live a few hours from them. \n\nFor the past 4-5 months I have been transporting wedding items back and forth from my parents\u2019 house to my MIL\u2019s house. I travel for work, so sometimes these transfers have taken place during my work trips (which isn\u2019t out right prohibited, but it does make me feel sketchy. Which I expressed to my mother and she blew me off). These trips aren\u2019t super often, but probably one or two every other week. \n\nNow the wedding is three days away and there is still a lot to be transported. I have already volunteered to take off work Friday and drive down really early in the morning to get everything there. The wedding isn\u2019t until Saturday. My sister just texted me on behalf of my mother asking me to leave work early on Thursday as well so that I can get there sooner and make sure we have everything we need. \n\nI really don\u2019t want to do that. I\u2019m taking my vacation time for this already. And I\u2019ve already taken lots of time out of work to make trips for them. I want to tell my mom (who works from home) to make the drive herself tomorrow if she wants everything there so soon. But I am having a hard time deciding if I\u2019m just being really selfish and mean because I already don\u2019t want this wedding to happen, or if they\u2019re being unreasonable asking me to leave work a day and a half early for items they could have retrieved themselves much sooner. \n\nSo, AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sxEDdhnd160R3lzOOglECoUrUdeYZMQw", "post_id": "ag273y", "action": {"description": "telling my friend to get out of my house", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For telling my friend to get out of my house?", "text": "I hosted a party at my house a little while ago and when the party had wound down, me and my friend (casual friend, not super close) were hanging out having a drunken conversation. After a while, I had said I was tired and going to bed. This was around 5 am. He then continued to carry on a conversation which I had tried to end several times when I repeated myself again, saying I was tired and wanted to go to bed. I then followed up asking how he was getting home. He said he was driving so I offered to grab him a blanket and pass out on the rug since all the couches were taken. He ignored my question and continued to talk. I then told him I could call him a ride home and pick him up in the morning to grab his car which he also seemed to not hear. I tried bringing this up several more times until I finally started raising my voice and telling him to make up his mind and asking him if he could hear me. He seemed to ignore everything I said and kept trying to drum up more conversation. It ended up with me telling him to get out 45 minutes later (around 5;45 am) and (semi)forcibly escorting him to the door. He's usually a really good guy and I like hanging out with him, but I'm embarrassed to talk to him now. Am I the asshole for kicking him out?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZJb62BwJWMaX1XzpeSzvPh9D3gUK4BgF", "post_id": "avhfse", "action": {"description": "finding my Father's biological family through dna against his knowledge", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA to find my Father's biological family through DNA against his knowledge?", "text": "Blah blah mobile, dyslexic, please be nice. \n\nTL:Dr \nDad is adopted and doesn't want to find his biological family. I do. Ordered an Ancestry DNA test to do myself. I will not share my results with him. AITA?\n\n\nMy Father was Adopted from a foreign country within a few weeks of his birth. The adoption paperwork that he has has his original name and a few bits about his adoptive parents, but no information on his biological parents. I know specific bits of information about the circumstances of his adoption so will be able to verify if the right person is found (not sharing on here though). \n\nHe had a decent childhood with his adoptive parents and grew up knowing about his adoptive status. Both adoptive parents have passed away over 15 years ago.  \n\nThere have been many discussions over the years about his genetics and family. Every time he has said he has no desire to find his biological family. He is happy with his life as it is. \n\nMyself on the other hand, I feel really strongly that I need to find this side. I am nothing like my family on my Mother's side and have strong genetic traits for the country where he was born. I was deeply unhappy as a child being the outsider.\nI have ordered an Ancestry DNA test in hope that I can find out more about his family. Having information about medical risks too will be awesome. In a best case scenario there may be a relative linked too. The likelyhood of finding his parents is small due to their age, but there is still a chance. \n\nIf, and I am well aware that it may be an if, a relative is found I do not intend to inform my father. I don't really have a plan in place for how to deal with it if I do find them though. I'm not sure they would welcome knowing their biological son doesn't want to know them. I would not make contact if that was the situation. \n\nI will be doing the test, this thread isn't to discourage me. But AITA for doing it without informing him? \n\nAlso any advice is appreciated. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9xHyei2hx71jEqS0ujgE2c0qqOUIYMpM", "post_id": "app5jz", "action": {"description": "not wanting to hang out with some of my friends anymore", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to hang out with some of my friends anymore?", "text": "Okay, so basically, I go to highschool with some friends I consider to be pretty good. At the very least, they're decent to me. They have a tendency to not get along well with eachother. I really hate the constant conflicts between them, but they continue to hang out with eachother. I can't separate them despite the fact that they seem to outright hate eachother, and only get along for brief periods of time.\n\nOne person in the group[we'll call her Allie (not her real name)] has a tendency to frequently hit another person[nicknamed Dan] in the group, sometimes over minor stuff or for no reason at all, like shaking a bag of chips to evenly coat them with seasoning. Basically, she straight up acts like she hates him, sometimes. \n\nDan has a tendency to take or mess other people's with stuff without permission[I tried to leave the group after an incident where I had to pick up my stuff and was nearly late to class because he stole Allie's mechanical pencil[to eat the lead a second time that day], and I dropped my stuff, but I guilt tripped myself into going back to them], like food, a computer that someone is already using, etc.\n\nThe entire group seems to hate on a third guy for seemingly no reason, one incident that springs to mind is when Allie got mad at him for making jokes. They weren't about any serious topics like death or something like that, she literally just got mad because, in her words, \"I hate jokes\" [she would joke with us very frequently]. \n\nI'm scared to confront them about this, since they'll probably ignore me, or just say that i'm being stupid and whining for nothing. Am I the asshole if I would rather go be alone than be around them when they're together?\n\nTL;DR- basically, I'm good friends with people. They treat me okay, but they act like they hate eachother sometimes.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aUYnBo8LkdkPl2H9QZxCaAgJcMr8xBUG", "post_id": "ajv32u", "action": {"description": "expecting this guy to return my money", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for expecting this guy to return my money?", "text": "Yesterday I bought a phone from a guy via Facebook Market. I have bought and sold many items on there and have never had problems before. I even bought my old cell phone on Facebook Market so when I saw a phone I could buy my little sister for cheap, I decided to go for it. She was going to be upgrading from an iPhone 5s to an iPhone 7. I bought the phone for the cheap price of $200 and drove home to get the phone activated. Right when tried to get on, it was showing that I needed an update in order to be activated but it would not allow me get into the phone any further. Decided to take it to U.S Cellular, Verizon, and even to the Apple store to find out if there was anything I could do. I was still in contact with this guy and he told me at one point if it didn\u2019t work I could get the full $200 back. After figuring out the problem, a flaw in the logic board that this phone experiences often, the guy who sold me the phone told me it is too much of a hassle to meet up again and I should\u2019ve looked into it more before buying the phone. Is this my fault?? Should I have never expected him to let me return this phone in the first place? AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uSdFqeFnrDgW2s6mQujrlQdsnvGrdZps", "post_id": "avtsyc", "action": {"description": "defending my girlfriend from a Discord Stranger", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For Defending my Girlfriend from A Discord Stranger", "text": "So some backstory both my \\[18\\] girlfriend \\[19\\] and I are part of the same discord server as have the same friends. One guy \\[\\~20\\] in the discord has been having some \"financial issues\" and has know my girlfriend for about half a year. Around August of LAST YEAR he asked her for money to buy some souvenirs at some PAX convention because he didn't have any money left over from his airfare/hotel. Being the incredibly nice person my girlfriend is, she gave him about $250 for a total. It turns out that within a week he's purchased some new video games. Suspicious, me and a couple friends figured he just used the money she gave him to buy them. He claimed he gets \"grants\" from his school that average around $2000 or something and he would pay her back yet come September. He then asked her for another $250 to buy a Razer mouse and keyboard that was \"on sale\" and could get it cheap and that he would pay her back. Again, being the nice person my girlfriend is, she gave him the money. Welllll come September and he says he needs until October. Alright...getting suspicious again, but I try to stay out of it because I hate internet/Discord drama. So he then gets back to her around the end of October/early November and pays her HALF claiming he would \"give her the rest plus interest.\" Unsurprisingly, he asks for another $250 for reasons my girlfriend won't tell me because I've expressed serious anger about it before. He then tells her sometime December that \"plans have changed\" and he's going to be joining up with the US military, whatever the hell that has to do with anything.\n\n​\n\nIt's now late February THIS YEAR and he has yet to pay her back. It came up again in a conversation with her and in a blind rage I went on to Discord and messaged him saying stuff like \"you're a pathetic adult,\" \"stop leeching off girls you've never met,\" and \"if you need financial help get it in real life not Discord strangers.\" He replied obviously angry saying stuff like \"You're so tough behind a screen\" and \"You don't know the full story so shut the fuck up.\"\n\n​\n\nNow I don't know the full story and frankly I don't care but if you need help you shouldn't be leeching off of someone you've never met to purchase expensive and unnecessary stuff and claiming to pay them back. Someone like him has no right to ask for MORE MONEY claiming to pay them back after already $500 in debt to them.\n\n​\n\nMy Girlfriend is now pissed at me because she got angry texts from him saying things like \"Keep your boyfriend in check\" and \"I don't need his shit when he doesn't know anything about it.\" She is in school and said she doesn't want anymore drama. Should I have just stayed out of it or was I in the right to get involved?\n\n​\n\nTLDR; Guy asks for $700 from my girlfriend and says he will pay her back but hasn't in in about 6 months, got pissed off any messaged him on Discord. Girlfriend gets pissed at me for getting involved and stirring up stuff.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "podd1Q0LpCuGCxHssNGOC2wfIq7ibZbW", "post_id": "a8hst3", "action": {"description": "confronting my mil", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA If I confront my MIL?", "text": "Ok here\u2019s the story, so back in 2012 my cousin was having problems (drugs/ her baby taken away by cps) so me and my SO decided to adopt her daughter. I love both of them and I don\u2019t treat them any differently, to each other they\u2019re sisters.\n\nNow my MIL is a good person I\u2019ve never had problems with her but as long as I can remember she\u2019s always had a preference towards my daughter. She\u2019ll buy her clothes ask her about her day etc etc she\u2019s very respectful towards my niece like way too formal and she doesn\u2019t interact much. Now that the girls are growing they both are starting to see the favoritism. It hurts me because both call her grandma. \n\nI\u2019ve talked about this to my SO and multiple times he\u2019s said something to his mother but she blows it off. I know I need to say something. My question is though wibta if I start rejecting gifts for my daughter ending her visits due to the favoritism? \n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "118HFn28OiG1fNVlEWDiFGPGHuMAYvPr", "post_id": "b7k7h0", "action": null, "title": "AITA My friend (15 M) Took away game share with me on Playstation and now I want my money back", "text": "AITA My friend (15 M) Let me take his primary for my play station 4 so I can get his games. We game shared for about 6 months before he took it away.  It was going really well until he complained I stopped playing his games. I now can't play a lot of games with my friends. The thing that makes me really mad is that I've given him $30 to playstation store so we can copay for black ops 4 on release day. I also gave him a code I didn't need which was for the stick of truth. He still refuses to pay me back or give me primary. I did play his games occasionally. I can't play on the weekdays because I have sports and school, and when we do play we usually play just overwatch and nba2k19 together which I own. It's not my fault he wants to play the same games we both own personally. Am I the Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9nHPaDIkTE3RzI58M29y55Ul2iwpTfRz", "post_id": "axs8sh", "action": {"description": "not wanting my Great Aunt to come to my birthday celebration", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my Great Aunt to come to my birthday celebration?", "text": "Obligatory sorry for the formatting, I\u2019m on mobile.\n\nSo it is my [16M] today and my parents informed me that they invited my Great Aunt, who lives across the country and who I\u2019ve never met, to my small birthday celebration, with just my family, because she was in town. \n\nShe has a reputation among my family as being a bit of a nutjob, yet all of my family is really excited that she\u2019s in town. Because this is the only day that could work for her, we\u2019re combining the celebration of my birthday with our mini family reunion. \n\nI just feel like since she\u2019s never been in town outside of this week, this celebration for me is going to be focused entirely on her. I feel selfish for not wanting her there, but I just want this to be MY day.\n\nSo, reddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "y7jBup0Qwmu8q6zNyUxGpn8i2U4tX4uV", "post_id": "aygsfl", "action": {"description": "feeding my vegan nephew meat", "pronormative_score": 860, "contranormative_score": 302}, "title": "AITA for feeding my vegan nephew meat?", "text": "My sister has been vegan for many years and she is also raising her son vegan. He has been vegan since birth. My nephew and son attend the same school so I pick them up from school everyday. My nephew has snacks + dinner at my house every weekday before his mom comes to pick him up. \n\nI usually make a dish for my family and a separate vegan dish for my nephew. A couple of months ago I left them with their homework and snacks and went to do some chores, came back and found nephew & son sharing chicken nuggets. I provided him with vegan snacks but he still ate the chicken nuggets. I told him those weren't vegan and he told me he that he eats meat in school sometimes. His friends share their meals with him sometimes. I thought about telling my sister but decided not to. \n\nSo basically I continue to give him vegan options but don't say anything if he chooses the non vegan option. Usually he goes for the non vegan one. Maybe because because he never gets to at home. I know my sister would freak out if she knows he's eating meat. She's staunchly vegan and eating animal products goes against her ethical beliefs which I completely understand and respect. My husband thinks IATA for not telling her and being dishonest, but I think nephew is old enough to make his own dietary choices (he's 10 this year). \n\nSo, AITA? Should I tell my sister what's going on?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 276, "OTHER": 631, "EVERYBODY": 26, "NOBODY": 229, "INFO": 7}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 860, "WRONG": 302}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1tvtuFLWeuWYvDiQmDPfuGFLbmRecJQH", "post_id": "a5k50s", "action": {"description": "not letting new roomate get master bedroom", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not letting new roomate get master bedroom?", "text": "I\u2019m(20M) moving out for the first time into a house with 2 roommates. When we toured the house I asked if I could get the master, and even offered to pay more of the rent. My roommates said sure and turned down the offer to pay more. Now we are two days away from moving in and they are starting to express to each other how much they want the master and it is beginning to become an argument. They are both older than me by a couple years, and are trying to claim seniority.\n\nAm I an asshole if I stay stubborn on this or should I offer to pay extra again?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nZuDXnAUF4xrLn3yctFpWzYrkHwtPeNk", "post_id": "b9syx6", "action": {"description": "cancelling a trip with a friend l", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for cancelling a trip with a friend l?", "text": "My friend and I are spending a semester abroad in Europe and planned a trip for the summer to go to Italy. But because in turning 21 I discovered I need to go back to the states to renew my visa and my meeting landed right in the middle of our planned Italy trip (which is already paid for) when I told my friend she got angry saying I shouldn\u2019t have planned a trip with her if my visa was in contention but I told her that I didn\u2019t know when my meeting would be given and I didn\u2019t want to wait all Summer doing nothing. She says I should postpone the meeting because she can\u2019t get her money back and doesn\u2019t want to go alone. But I can\u2019t because I turn 21 in June and i won\u2019t be able to re-enter the USA if I don\u2019t renew my visa. My friend isn\u2019t talking to me anymore and my other friend said I was inconsiderate. So reddit AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ALyFNeuXfXH9orSwra8FRldt6GVHi6K1", "post_id": "9wvsel", "action": {"description": "swearing angrily at a guy right to his face after his dog ran out of his yard and attacked my wife walking our dog", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for swearing angrily at a guy right to his face after his dog ran out of his yard and attacked my wife walking our dog?", "text": "So it happened this morning, and I feel pretty guilty about loosing my sh*t at the guy, I\u2019m usually calm in most situations and have been attacked by two dogs myself a few years ago and didn\u2019t go off at the owners, while at a dog park with my GSD, who is pretty placid. \n\nWe were walking along the street like we do every morning , my wife and I walk to the bus stop for me to go to work. \n\nAs were were waking two boxer dogs ran out from a yard (side gate apparently) and ran towards us, one back paddled and the other body slammed our GSD and my wife, she had the lead of our dog. I moved in to stop the dog, but it started lunging and biting my dog things escalated pretty quickly. \n\nI kicked the dog off my wife a few times and it kept coming back (our GSD didn\u2019t retaliate which was good/lucky) few moments later of snarling, lunging and biting  the guy ran up and got his dog as it circled for another pass. \n\nI walked up to his face and said \u201care you fu*king kidding me, letting your dog off the lead like that, fu*k sakes\u201d he said \u201cthey got out the gate.\u201d My wife said \u201csorry (for me) it\u2019s the shock\u201d.  That I reacted like that.\n\n(This was the only exchange of words)\n\nIn saying that the fella was a bit bigger than me mid 30s or so, he did seem like he was ready for me to hit him I could see that cross his mind (I have never been in a fight) but for me the thought didn\u2019t cross mind. \n\nI turned around and walked away with our dog and wife, stopped around the corner checked on both of them, no blood drawn few scratch marks and a bit shaken up. \n\nMy wife said my reaction was fair and hopefully it makes the guy a bit more vigilant next time. \n\nAnyway spent the whole way to work over thinking my reaction... I know I\u2019d sign say anything I regret but it was a reaction personally I wasn\u2019t expecting... am I the asshole? \n\nTLDR ; dog attacks wife and my dog, I scream at his face for letting his dogs loose. \n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Gv2MesLAt1lc8BfajsBeErZeGJzSuKPz", "post_id": "a5efmb", "action": {"description": "not wanting to deal with my parents", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to deal with my parents?", "text": "This will probably be a long one, so strap in folks.\n\nThis August I started my freshman year of college. I came to a university about an hour and a half from my home and my boyfriend from back home would come to visit every weekend. \n\nFor some background, my parents have always been kind of ...weird? I hesitate to call them outright abusive, but going out to see my friends would always result in them making me feel guilty about not staying home with my family. I\u2019d be expected to watch my sister (8) and brother (6) all summer long and during the week.\n\nThey were always specifically weird about me dating. My best friend when I was in 9th grade asked me out and I said yes. Yes we were both girls; yes I\u2019m bi. Anyway, my parents flipped actual shit. I had come out to them, but I don\u2019t think it was about that. They wanted me to explain why EXACTLY I liked my friend and wouldn\u2019t accept the answers I would give. They cut me off from my only 2 friends and put me on \u201csuicide watch\u201d (my mom is a psych nurse). When I told my psychiatrist I felt depressed and had considered suicide, my parents yelled at me and told me it wasn\u2019t that big of a deal. \n\nFlash forward to the fall of junior year, I start talking more and more to this guy that had always been part of my friend group but I never got to know that well. I tell my parents I want to date him. I immediately am told that I\u2019ll never be left alone with him and that he\u2019s not good enough for me and this and that. I broke it off with him quickly due to the intense pressure they had been putting on the relationship. Not too long afterwards, we started dating again because that\u2019s what horny 16 year olds do. It had been kind of rough, but once he got his own car, we were able to sneak around pretty well. \n\nMy parents always suspected we were together. I told them we were casually dating but not official and I honestly think they have forgotten I told them that. My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years as of October though, and I\u2019m honestly really happy in my relationship. \n\nFlash forward to early October this year: my parents find a corner of one of those sex ed condoms in my room back home and call me while I\u2019m studying in the library. I\u2019m essentially told I\u2019m a whore (which I\u2019ve actually been called due to my being on birth control because of suspected endometriosis), to send my phone (which my step father pays for... I wasn\u2019t ever able to get a job back home because I was expected to babysit and no one would teach me how to drive) back to my parents, and that my parents wouldn\u2019t be sending me the prescription for my Vyvanse (which I\u2019ve been on for about 6 years for ADHD). I was accused of having sex in the house \u2014 something that would have been nearly impossible due to my parent\u2019s schedules and also I just wouldn\u2019t do that. \n\nNeedless to say, university was pretty difficult while I was unmedicated. I also got a statement from my school telling me that I owed them some $5,000. Seeing as my parents had effectively disowned me and my school wasn\u2019t going to let me register for classes next semester because I had literally $200 in my bank account, I stopped going to classes and found a job. \n\nI was applying for a job at a coffee shop and an insurance agent from across the street told me to come in to her office and she\u2019d interview me right then and there for a job as a telemarketer. Long story short, I ended up being pretty decent so she paid for me to take the licensing exam and I\u2019m currently just waiting for the state to process my application. \n\nMy boyfriend from back home went to the local community college because he\u2019s going to be able to go for 2 years debt free and then transfer to a university for comp sci. He\u2019s moving down here on Friday (and I\u2019m moving in with him) and he\u2019s gonna go to the community here. Before you tell me how silly that is because we\u2019re only 18, trust me I know, but really there wasn\u2019t any other way I could get an apartment that I can afford before I get kicked out of my dorm because it\u2019s the end of the semester. His parents are helping us out so much and I will be eternally grateful for them. \n\nMy parents wanted me to come home for thanksgiving. Apparently my mom (39) has been having seizures? My family has a history of weird made-up sounding medical conditions and I\u2019m honestly not even sure what\u2019s real or not in regards to that. I didn\u2019t go home if that isn\u2019t obvious. I also don\u2019t think I want to come home for Christmas either. \n\nMy parents tell me it\u2019s not fair to my brother and sister that I don\u2019t come home, but I honestly fear for my safety if I were to go back home. My mom has filed a PFA against my step dad essentially for false imprisonment before and I honestly would have been able to do the same at least 3 times. \n\nTo be clear, my mom and I talk sporadically, but it\u2019s not like she\u2019s offering to talk about what\u2019s going on. They came down here after the incident to have dinner with my boyfriend and I go talk about what happened. It was actually terrible. They put my sister in the chair between him and I and they were essentially interrogating me the whole time. My step dad kept offering me money (which he wouldn\u2019t have actually given me) to break up with my boyfriend. My boyfriend isn\u2019t like a terrible person or anything. He was a decent student I high school and my friend group is really just d&d and mtg nerds. I was very involved in high school (president of like 3 clubs) and he supported me every step of the way. My parents know all of this. \n\n\nI know there are probably gaps that I didn\u2019t fill in all the way, so feel free to ask questions. I\u2019m also on mobile so idk if the formatting is gonna be weird or not. \n\nTl;dr: am I the asshole for not wanting to go home for the holidays after my parents disowned me?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2yIniAHVTIajzZ88tA0UPlbyKoxEIOje", "post_id": "asnnr9", "action": {"description": "calling off work when weather is bad", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For calling off work when weather is bad?", "text": "I feel guilty.\n\nWeather is bad this AM lots of snow and ice, local colleges closed. AITA for calling off work and having someone else cover my shift? I live a touch over an hour away from work and its all crappy country roads to work. Coworkers live a lot closer.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "B3Jy6NSPbnRAoQdYyJGkvnf3mNQyGim5", "post_id": "a73uq1", "action": {"description": "not tipping my barber", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AItA for not tipping my barber", "text": "For the last year I've had the same stylist, who I would see 2-3 times a month. She knew what I wanted and all I had to do was sit down and enjoy the experience. I have absolutely no clue what sized guards she used, what type of clippers, or anything to do with what I was paying her to do. A few weeks back I learned that she retired and my hair has been getting pretty shaggy since then.\n\n​\n\nI have a job interview tomorrow so I finally decided to find a new stylist. I went to my normal shop, sat in a new (to me) person's chair, and tried to explain what I wanted. I told her that I believed the sides were usually a 2.5-3 with the top longer because that's what I styled. I also said that I'd like to start with cleaning everything up and working down from there because I wanted to look good for my interview. I don't know where the miscommunication happened, but before I knew what was happening she popped on a 3 and did one long line right along the top of my head.\n\n​\n\nLong story short I sat there in silent rage as I lost all of my hair, paid, and walked out without leaving a tip. I talked to my buddy after calming down a bit and he says I should have tipped because she did her job and it was my fault for not better explaining or showing a picture of what I wanted.\n\nI understand the logic there and if I went to Great Clips I probably would've done just that and never would've made this post. The issue is that I pay $40 just for a basic cut at my barbershop and I feel that extra cost goes to having a stylist that knows better than to chop off large chunks of a customer's hair before making 100% sure that they understand the size they're asking for. On top of that, I clearly said a 3 on the side while keeping the top longer so why would I get a buzz cut out of that?\n\n​\n\n[This is what I had](https://menhairstylist.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/03/short-messy-hairstyles-for-men.jpg)\n\n[This is what I wanted](https://www.menshairstylestoday.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/06/Spiked-Fringe-Textured-Top-High-Fade.jpg)\n\n[This is what I got](https://www.menshairstylestoday.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/08/Number-4-Haircut-Buzz-Cut.jpg)\n\n​\n\nSo, AItA for not tipping? Is this entirely my fault for not showing a picture of what I wanted? Or am I in the right to be angry about this and not tip for what I feel to be poor service?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ki0HsJT5YoDwMubxQwY9Y1kCgvkHCePz", "post_id": "au2nkj", "action": {"description": "thinking its wrong for my friend to date his ex's bestie", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for thinking its wrong for my friend to date his ex's bestie", "text": "Have a good friend. Three years ago he broke up with his ex of five years; it wasn't well known but they already had their life together planned out, and they almost were engaged (but, honestly, they may as well have been). They broke up b/c of some issues my friend was going through, but whatever. \n\nHung out with friend the other day. He wants to try and pursue his ex's best friend. I bluntly told him I thought that was a terrible idea and hed be a big asshole for even trying. \n\nOf course, no one likes being called an asshole. So He got mad and started getting defensive. I explained my reasoning, but that didn't matter. Our hangout ended early due to this. \n\nNow, I know you \"can't stop\" who you fall for. But you can control who you date. And i think that going after the friend of someone who almost married you is completely disrespectful. Now, if it was someome you only dated for a few months, yea sure it's not that big of a deal. Heck if the ex is obviously fine with it and has completely moved on,  go for it. \n\nI obviously get a lot of people who disagree with me... until they are in the position themselves. One moment theyre saying \"you can't stop love\" or \"I'm not going to let my ex control my future love life\", and the next theyre saying \"I can't believe my friend is now getting intimate with my ex\" or \"it's so awkward to go to get togethers and see my ex with someone who was supposed to be my friend\". \n\nI hold this opinion because I know what it's like to watch this happen. It hurts. It sucks. It tears apart friendships, even if one attempts to stay strong. \n\nI do not just hold this opinion to my friend. I think this should apply to all. \n\nObviously, I can't stop him. And im not telling him \"what to do\". But i do think it is not only stupid and disrespectful, but drama inducing. And i will look down on him for doing it. \n\nSo... Am i an asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SnzDRfHyVtL4DazmMl0aIycJMGuKu8QF", "post_id": "au32nu", "action": {"description": "ignoring a guy that likes me", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for ignoring a guy that likes me?", "text": "So i (15M) started receiving texts from a guy my age (let's call him R) from my karate class that is mostly frequented by kids, with the exception of me, R and a girl (Let's call her K).\nSo one day he texts me that he likes someone in our karate class and it isn't K. I immediately know that he's talking about me because he treats me \"differently\" and tell him that i'm straight and that i have a girlfriend (lie). He stops flirting with me and treats me normal for some time.\nA few months later he starts flirting again and tells me that he likes me again, i say the same than last time, but that time he tells me it's ok and that he still loves me. That makes me kinda uncomfortable but i don't think much of it.\nA week later (yesterday) he sends me a big ass text telling how he loves me and how people told him to give up on me, but he wouldn't. That creeped the fuck out of me. Now i'm ignoring him and he's still sending me messages every hour.\n\n\nPS: sorry for my really bad grammar, english isn't my first language", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "c2HbU5KI7vD3wXDPwsZjWi7SIeUuk889", "post_id": "9zs1on", "action": {"description": "venting about my roommate to my wife", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for venting about my roommate to my wife?", "text": "Let me begin by stating I do not like dogs, but I like our friend/roommate so I was happy to put up with them. \n\nSo at the beginning of September, we moved in with a friend (I will call her Pat) who has two service dogs. These service dogs are not truly trained as service dogs. When moving in, Pat said she wanted the big room in the house so she could keep her dogs in there while she was at work. My wife and I agreed to this. We moved in, and she let the dogs roam around outside the room. We didn't mind, as they weren't bad or misbehaved in any way. Then the landlord didn't like the dogs being left outside the house, so she brought them inside and left them inside while she was away at work. \n\nOver the past two months, we have been coming home to find dog poop in the kitchen, hallway, and living room area. Not just in a single pile, but its normally spread out. It was one of the dogs in particular, so Pat said she would keep the dog in her room after a month of talking to her about it. We were happy and didn't mind the other dog being out as the second dog wasn't really a problem. Well, this week the second dog pooped TWICE in the house. The first time, my wife came home to it and there were over 10 spots where there was poo. The second time was 2 days ago. Pat had let out the two dogs in the morning. My wife got home and let out the second dog again. The dog peed outside, then came inside and pooped twice on the floor. My wife and I talked to each other about it, then she had to go to work. We messaged each other more about this via Telegram app, venting to each other our frustrations about this. We didn't say anything mean about our roommate, but just that this was her problem, and that she really needed to do something about the dogs pooping (mind you they have pooped in the house over 15 times in the past 2 months).\n\nThen last night we went out for a Thanksgiving dinner, and at the end of it I get a call from our roommate. In the past, I told her that if my computer is unlocked, she can use it to game or browse the internet or watch videos. I don't mind since she doesn't have her own. Well, I left Telegram open and she decided to read the messages between me and my wife. Again, we didn't insult her, we said nothing bad ABOUT her, just voiced our opinions that we hated having the dogs poop in the house and that we should talk to her again about this. She decided that she didn't like my wife and I \"talking trash behind her back, or talking behind her back at all\" and that she was going to move out. Today she began to move out her stuff from the house. \n\nWe have talked to her about the dog situation several times. She has brought up that she will get diapers for her dogs, or hire a dog walker. She has done none of those, stating she doesn't have a lot of money. But she goes out and eats a lot, spends money on weed (we do too, but not as much cuz she wont use edibles), buys new expensive wigs, and even bought a new mattress pad for her bed. She has friends who she borrows money from, but this doesn't seem to be as important. My wife and I are just very tired of coming home to find smelly dog shit everywhere, and we were just venting to each other about it. We of course don't share all of our feelings with her because we are roommates and we are trying to be nice and accommodating. We also don't want to keep bringing these things up over and over and over because then we feel we are nagging her. Are we the assholes for venting to each other and not just straight out complaining to her like she wanted us to?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wJGTBwjw7xtMpXADQmZ3NkYowGdKgtOQ", "post_id": "ar0oc2", "action": {"description": "giving my roomate's friend shit for taking his bottle of wine home with him after the kick-back", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for giving my roomate's friend shit for taking his bottle of wine home with him after the kick-back", "text": "(posting for a friend who doesn't have Reddit, but ask I post this for him)\n\n\n  \"So one of my roommate's friends comes over to the house for a little kick-back and brings a bottle of wine with him.  Upon leaving, he takes his bottle back home with him that has maybe two glasses left in it. In a non-aggressive jokingly way I gave him shit for it. My roommate's said I shouldn't have done that, and it made him uncomfortable.  \n\n I'm very generous with my alcohol, so he's come over and drank plenty of ours before, as well as eaten our food.  Last night we opened a bottle of my champagne, my roommate cooked, and this guy ate and left with his half drank bottle of wine. People of Reddit,  AITA for giving him shit? \" ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ligjChCbsGHQTU7N6dbl81brye6PF2IX", "post_id": "9yz78c", "action": {"description": "saying that people who donated to a Go Fund me should be updated before it's shut down", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for saying that people who donated to a Go Fund Me should be updated before it's shut down?", "text": "  \n\nTLDR: My sister is angry because I suggested that instead of just shutting down the Go Fund Me her daughter started for her and sending the funds to the adoption agency because she changed her mind about adopting, she should post an update explaining this to the donors and giving them a chance to have their money returned if that\u2019s what they wanted.\n\nI\u2019m going to try to keep this short but include everything that could be relevant. I\u2019ve talked with a few people close to me about it and they say I\u2019m NTA but I want to hear some objective opinions and maybe get some insight into what might be going on from people outside of the situation.\n\nMy sister, we\u2019ll call her Susan, is very angry with me/basically not talking to me after a conversation we had. I\u2019m really hurt and don\u2019t understand why. We\u2019ve had issues in the past but nothing we haven\u2019t gotten through, and I thought we were close.\n\nA while ago she decided to adopt a child from overseas, which can cost upwards of $35,000, and one of her daughters, we\u2019ll call her Lisa, started a Go Fund Me (GFM) to fund part of the cost of the adoption. In general I don\u2019t like GFM or the philosophy behind it. I think people should work for what they want, not ask other people to pay for it. Even though I\u2019m a bleeding heart liberal in some ways, I have a Libertarian streak. \n\nHaving said that, it\u2019s not always black and white and when Lisa started a GFM for an emergency dental surgery that sounded very scary over a year ago, I contributed to it, and I contributed to Susan\u2019s adoption GFM in the last month because it\u2019s a really good cause and adoptions are ridiculously expensive, but mostly because I love my sister and wanted her to feel supported. So I contributed to the first one because I was afraid my niece was basically going to die without the surgery (it was a huge tumor inside of her mouth, or something along those lines), and I contributed to the adoption one for the reasons I already stated. I will never contribute to another GFM again as long as I live.\n\nSusan asked me to forward the GFM page to friends/put it on social media. I told her I don\u2019t have social media and she said what about Reddit? (because I\u2019m always sending her stuff from Reddit). I told her Reddit\u2019s not like that, or at least not the way I use it. But I was trying to think of different ways to help her raise money, like doing a raffle or a race or something. I wanted to do something more quickly though and ended up making a donation and sharing the link with several close friends, 5 of whom donated. This was very hard for me to do because I really, really don\u2019t like asking friends to do this kind of thing. Like I said I don\u2019t believe in the GFM mindset to begin with, and I don\u2019t like putting friends in the position of saying yes or no. But I did it for my sister despite feeling very awkward and uncomfortable, which I never told her about. So this might be important\u2014she never had a clue how I feel about GFM, or knew that it was difficult for me to ask my friends. No reason to tell her that and make her feel bad. Either donate happily without complaint, or don\u2019t.\n\nFast forward to the conversation. We were talking on the phone about a week ago and she told me she\u2019s been having a really hard time. Our whole family is sad right now because my other sister\u2019s husband, our brother-in-law, an amazing, wonderful person, died unexpectedly three months ago. So we\u2019re all grieving for him and for my other sister. Our dad died last December too and even though (or because) I wasn\u2019t close to him, it\u2019s been hard, and I\u2019m sure to differing degrees that was hard on Susan, too. But the bottom line is Susan has been really sad and emotional. The reasons behind why she wanted to adopt and why she ultimately decided not to after all are related to trauma from her past that she\u2019s still working through. There is a lot more to this but the bottom line is she\u2019s having a hard time, and we talked about all of this for maybe over an hour. \n\nAs we were getting off the phone, I said \u201cThis is obviously not the most important thing about this situation, but can I ask what you\u2019re doing to the GFM?\u201d It\u2019s in quotes because I worded it very carefully in my head first because I didn\u2019t want her to feel I was discounting all the emotional things she's going through. She said that Lisa was the one who set it up and they were just going to shut it down and donate the money raised to the same adoption agency for the same child, but for the next person in line who wanted to adopt him. \n\nI suggested that they do a final post explaining briefly that the adoption wasn\u2019t going to happen and what was going to happen to the money, so people would know. I told her I did not want my own money back at all, but that it would be nice to offer people their money back if that\u2019s what they preferred, since although it was going to almost the same thing, it\u2019s not exactly the same thing. Susan really didn\u2019t seem to understand this and said that there was no way to make everyone happy. That even if they did make a final post explaining what they were doing, 50% of the people would still be unhappy. I said that might be true, but it doesn\u2019t mean it\u2019s not a good thing to do. I said that it\u2019s nice when people donate money to let them know what happened to it, especially if what they initially donated for\u2014in this case Susan adopting a child\u2014doesn\u2019t happen. \n\nSusan said she didn't think this way. That when she donates to a cause, she knows she's \"pure of heart\" and she has good karma and she doesn't worry about what ends up happening to the money. I said that's not how I approach donating at all. That when I donate to a cause, I'm \"pure of heart,\" too, but that I expect the money to go to what I was donating to and if it doesn't, I think that's fraud. Obviously she and I are on very different spectrums when it comes to charity, and maybe just in our approach to life? I don't know, maybe this is why I'm not understanding why she's so upset.\n\nI said that for instance what about the GFM that Lisa started for the oral surgery over a year ago? The last I heard, as of a couple of months ago when I last asked Susan, Lisa hadn\u2019t had the surgery, and I hadn\u2019t heard any updates. My sister said Lisa had just had the surgery yesterday. I am wondering if this is what upset my sister, that I was asking about that. But all I was saying was that people like updates and to know how the money was used. So she said she was going to check with Lisa and see if there was a way to return people\u2019s money for the adoption GFM and I told her there was no rush. I told her again I did not want my money back, but I wanted to offer my friends their money back in case that\u2019s what they wanted. \n\nSusan did not seem to understand AT ALL why I was so concerned about my friends. But I felt responsible. Susan said \u201cBut all you did was send them a link to tell them this was available to donate to if they wanted to.\u201d I said no, that\u2019s not the way it is at all. They could give their money to a million causes. They only donated to this one because I\u2019m their friend and they care about me, and by virtue of that they care about her. So I felt responsible. She did not get that, not a bit.\n\nSo 5 minutes after we get off the phone, I realize none of this is necessary. I call her back and tell her I want to do the donation to the charity, so I will pay my friends back, explain the adoption isn\u2019t going through and so we wanted to return the money. But it will be out of my pocket because I am totally happy to donate to this cause. But my sister doesn\u2019t want to do that. She says she wants to talk to Lisa. Maybe 15 minutes later she texts me and says she\u2019s sending me the money and a few minutes later I have the full amount in my account\u2014the money I donated (even though I said I didn\u2019t want it back) and the money my friends donated. I emailed her that I got the money but I don\u2019t know why she returned my donation , too, when I told her not to. I also didn\u2019t tell her to return my friends\u2019 money\u2014I just wanted to offer it back to them and let them have a say. They probably would have said not to worry about it. \n\nSo I feel like by handling it all this way she twisted what I asked for. I didn\u2019t ask for my money back. I didn\u2019t even ask for my friends\u2019 money back. Just to offer to give it back if they wanted it. Why was that so bad? Why is it so hard to do a final post telling everyone who was kind and generous enough to donate what happened to their money? \n\nI told her about the site Go Fraud Me and how people use GFM to steal hundreds of thousands of dollars by doing things like lying and saying they have cancer. Not that she\u2019s doing that! Of course not. Just that it makes people cynical. I said in the email that it\u2019s my own personal conviction that when you accept money from people for a charitable cause, you have to be a good steward of those people\u2019s money. I said it that way so she wouldn\u2019t feel I was judging her. It\u2019s MY personal conviction.\n\nBut still I felt really bad because I know she\u2019s going through an emotional time, and so I dropped off a really beautiful bouquet of flowers for her later that day. She wasn\u2019t home so I left them on her porch and texted her letting her know I left her something. The flowers were meaningful because she told me during the conversation about how this summer she made everyone a bouquet of flowers from her garden and not one for herself, and this is related to how she never takes care of herself. So I got her fresh flowers. About four hours later she hadn\u2019t responded so I texted and asked if she got the flowers. A couple hours later she responded very coldly. \u201cYes. Thank you. I don\u2019t want to talk and want to be alone.\u201d So I\u2019ve left her alone but I feel her cold treatment of me is really unfair.\n\nAll I did was say that people who give you money o", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hzCBdopG1gl9j2J97fyMLxf1YMmh96BI", "post_id": "a7ska5", "action": {"description": "not wanting to risk herpes", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to risk herpes?", "text": "So I have known this girl for about a year and I developed a crush on her. She is polyamorous and so am I. I find out she cut it off with this guy because aparently he has herpes. Well fast foward a few months and I finally hook up with her. Last night I found out that she slept with this guy again last week. Luckily I havent slept with her since they hooked up. Well I was alittle drunk when I found out and started a argument with her. And basically told her either she was lying about him having herpes because they were arguing. Or she stupid enough to actually fuck a guy with herpes? She said she takes precautions for her health and I say that's not good enough. I already decided I'm not going to fuck her anymore, and best part is I didnt even have to tell her she decided to break off sexual relations with me (apparently I dont trust her). Am I being a asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rFBZJqCXi12PIDSywdoQrhrTIoG2R2g7", "post_id": "b9ngcm", "action": {"description": "telling a newly hired house cleaner that I have cameras in my home, as a warning not to steal things", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA For telling a newly hired house cleaner that I have cameras in my home, as a warning not to steal things?", "text": "Idk why but I feel like this is something thats controversial even though in my mind its just common sense and taking reasonable precautions.\n\nSo me and my wife have a housecleaner who comes by twice a week to tidy up. We both work, me full time my wife part time, and we just figured it would be nice to not have to worry about hectic cleaning when people come over. Plus its nice to always come home to a pristine home.\n\nThe cleaner we usually use died, she was an elderly woman who we both had established trust with, but I still set up some nanny cams throughout the house just in case. You can never really know someone, and my wife has several thousand dollars worth of jewelry and I myself have several designer watches and glasses.\n\nBut even if we didnt have valuables i would want the security of a nanny cam.\n\nWith the death of our previous cleaner, we used a third party service that gave us a younger woman. She had a clean background according to said agency.\n\nHowever, I didnt want to keep it a secret that we video the cleaners anymore. Even if we did catch her stealing in the act, I really wouldnt want the drama of calling the police and finding a new cleaner. I told her outright, we videotape everything while youre here. This was meant as a deterence factor. \n\nThe girl meekly acknowledged and agreed and everything was normal. Until later, my wife told me I was rude to tell her that. That I shouldve just video taped her discretely and let the chips fall where they may if something does happen.\n\nI dont think i was rude, but what do you think? AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LxfO2C8XAFjuLQOGXtK1tENKixyWrmxv", "post_id": "b6eknb", "action": {"description": "letting my Sister in Law watch my daughter instead of my parents", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Letting My Sister In Law Watch My Daughter Instead Of My Parents?", "text": "So. This might get a tad long. I'll put a TL;DR at the bottom.\n\nI got married 3 years ago. I live in the same town as my parents with my wife and daughter with a son joining us soon. I met my wife at college and she moved here with me as we both had excellent job offers in town. \n\nMy wife and my parents don't like each other. My father is a demanding man with what I believe to my Narcisisitic personality traits. My wife is a very independent aint-take-no-crap-from-nobody kind of person. Its not been fun, let me tell you. My mom just hates anything that causes issues with my father. \n\nSo. Low to mid grade discontement on that front most of the time. Recently, we decided to take a three day trip to see two national parks before the new baby arrives. Somehow, pure stupidity I guess, me and my wife had a conversation about who should watch our daughter she had come away thinking we were asking her sister to come down, and I came away thinking we were asking my sister and mother (my Dad is out with work right now). So both parties get asked. A month goes by and the date approaches. The issue comes to our attention. \n\nMy wife has asked my sister-in-law and she has taken time off work and planned travel to come and watch our daughter. My mom and sister are hugely, greatly, to my eyes unreasonably upset about this. My mother doesnt work and my sister is going to college nearby. I make the decision that its too late to call off the sister-in-law plan. So I tell this to my family and they explode. I mean. Three days of phone calls and yelling. My mother won't speak to me. Says I prefer my wifes family to my own. My Dad sent me a text today that says \"Your daughters grandparents lose out to an aunt.\" As if there were some sort of relational hierarchy. I also told them that I think it would be easiest to let my daughter stay the night another weekend and just let my SIL take her this weekend. So not just \"no\" (they were very excited that this was the first time my daughter was to spend the night with them), I did offer a solution as well.\n\nThis is all compounded by my family feeling like we tend to favor her family, which I believe is because we kind of do because we don't fight with them. \n\nAITA? \n\nTL;DR\n\nAccidentally double booked both my Sister in law and mother and sister to watch my daughter for a weekend. Family flips out like I've betrayed them because I decided since my SIL took time off work, she should get to watch my daughter for the weekend, and my family for another weekend. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "G23IWYSLOzy8dB647amk7ex92cePdtdJ", "post_id": "a1qiwh", "action": {"description": "nkt giving my phone", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for nkt giving my phone", "text": "Typing this in my phone so excuse the grammar and syntax. So last Wednesday, I was at dominoes on my phone whilst waiting for my order. A big guy who was twice my size (I am 16) busts into the restaurant asking for my phone, saying his gf was currently being raped. Who quickly tells me his life story, something like he went to prison at the age of 18 and his mum got raped by her uncle.\nHe dumps an iPhone 5, an iPhone 6 and a dumb phone on the table claiming he has no credit. In my mind I thought this was a mugging as how could someone possibly have the money to get 2 iPhones ( I also thought those phones were attained through previous muggings) not have credit on his SIM? Wouldn't it be easier to put on credit if it was that urgent?  What made me say no was the fact that he reeked of cigarettes, was bigger than me, and had a deep hoarse voice which was being used in its upmost volume. He also was definitely faster than me, as a general rule I don't give valuables to strangers who I think can outrun me. \n\nAfter my denial, he said \" I understand your concerned for your safety, but you're also an ignorant pussy\" and continues slagging me off for 5 minutes. He then proceeds to threaten me by punching me in the face. One of the lines I recall and will deeply reside in my mind is \"I TELL YOU MY GIRLFRIEND IS BEING RAPED AND YOU DONT HELP ME!\" which looking back now, I should've. He then says if I don't leave the restaurant he'll punch me, so I left. I walk around the restaurant to make sure he doesn't hurt the cashier, (I was the only one there). After a while the cashier gives him a phone and I hear yelling . Strange thing was he didn't call the police.\n\nHe stated that I shouldn't be around him, whilst he was having a fag near the entrance, I ask if I am now allowed inside to collect my order, to which he says yes after asking multiple times.\nWhilst I collect my order I am told he lived upstairs.\n\nI think I'm an arsehole. I think what I should have done was hold his phones for ransom whilst he uses mine. I was stressed, and put under pressure. In my only defense, I thought it was a  mugging, I don't ever trust strangers and he did come across as really dodgy. The area where I live is renowned for crooks, high speed chases and general criminal activity ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4SYMVgbhNYNDaYrLu595LJzbj4J2RAgR", "post_id": "a4l7qa", "action": {"description": "being upset for being placed high in a competition", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset for being placed high in a competition?", "text": "I\u2019m not at all trying to brag, but I\u2019m sure I\u2019m going to be accused of that anyway.\n\nSo I\u2019ve been doing regions band and orchestra for 3 years, and I just had my audition for this years yesterday. I am one of the more qualified of my instrument, and I was able to get the second overall in last year\u2019s regions. However, when I did the audition this year, I noticed that my own band director was one of the judges. As a result, I made a few stupid mistakes, which I really should have been able to play correctly. I left the audition unhappy.\n\nThis morning, my private instructor, having the reach that he does, was able to get the results very early. I found that I got second overall again, but this time under a different person, a junior. I\u2019m a senior.\n\nI\u2019m upset for not playing to the best of my abilities, and as a result my placement suffered, but I still got into a high placement, second out of six spots available. Am I an asshole or being upset?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KSZ4jU4LYR0AsVSdAt5KlXXk4bm1DMeY", "post_id": "aj5roj", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go to a funeral", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go to a funeral?", "text": "Our family had recently learned that a close friend to the family had died recently and that later on the funeral would be announced when more info was released. I wasn\u2019t very close but I still understood what the situation was for me and our friends/family\n\nThis afternoon we received word that it would be held this weekend mid afternoon. Everyone in my family was alright with this time besides me. For this entire weekend I was supposed to attend a mandatory band camp for a competition that was coming up. I told my father this and he started guilt tripping me along with my brother.\n\nIf I do attend the funeral, I would be supporting my family and those that are grieving but in turn I would not be allowed to participate in the band competition and would be considered a jerk for canceling last minute. I asked my family time and time again if I could attend the camp but they responded with passive aggressive remarks about how I don\u2019t care enough about anything, especially family matters.\n\nAITA for wanting to attend a mandatory band camp for a competition instead of join my family at a funeral for a friend of the family that I wasn\u2019t too close with?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ohug1WVQscY2FRDasmnEryZy9RjTSnxR", "post_id": "a8f8rx", "action": {"description": "not breaking up with my girlfriend due to lack of sex because of the money she makes", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA if I didn\u2019t break up with my girlfriend due to lack of sex because of the money she makes?", "text": "My GF of two years made clear to me about 3 months into our relationship that she was sexually assaulted in high school. We are both 40 years old now and have had sex less than 5 times. We are great companions and are very much in love and do enjoy passionate times, but it rarely leads to actually crossing home plate. By that, I mean we do everything but have actual sex. \n\nNow she wants me to move in with her where I already know I will be extremely sexually frustrated. \n\nThe only reason I\u2019ve stayed with her this long is the \u201ceverything but actual sex,\u201d is actually really good and enjoyable and is very regular, consistent and so frequent that sometimes I\u2019m not into it but she still insists and gets me off. \n\nNow, I\u2019ve been looking at where my life is and I realize I\u2019ve made a lot of mistakes. She has not. She\u2019s got an amazing job and makes oodles of cash. \n\nWIBTA if I stayed with her because financially she helps me achieve a lifestyle I would never be able to achieve on my own even though I\u2019m not happy about the sex? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "dKcdv0wHHIkqTdlAZ1ZEako2mzmZF7PB", "post_id": "b9ujxu", "action": {"description": "anonymously snitching out the girl next to me who used a cheat on an exam today", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "WIBTA if I anonymously snitched out the girl next to me who used a cheat on an exam today.", "text": "She was clearly cheating during the exam and I have evidence of her cheating on the exam to get the right answer. I\u2019m going to fail the class for the third time and I am fed up that people are cheating to succeed while I am suffering in learning the material but refuse to cheat. If you\u2019re wondering how I have the evidence, she threw her cheat sheet in the trash and I got it out and it has her name and handwriting. Im sure it would be enough for student conduct to at least investigate it.\n\nI\u2019d feel bad if she got kicked out because there is a no cheat policy but if I\u2019m going to fail, there is no way I\u2019m going to let people who are cheating their way to the top cruise by on easy mode. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NTHH0NZvFUnujpXrg7tT1ZftAGDS1mPb", "post_id": "av7rbh", "action": {"description": "scheduling my boyfriend with a male masseuse", "pronormative_score": 79, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "AITA for scheduling my boyfriend with a male masseuse?", "text": "My boyfriend and I planned on getting massages together. A male and female masseuse were available, so I booked him (M/21) with the male and me (21/F) with the female. When I tell him about this, he says he will never let a man massage him. He explains that its because massages are inherently sexual. I believe massages are purely therapeutic so I try to discuss this and understand why he believes they are sexual and if he believes this, why it's then acceptable to even get a massage from the opposite sex in the first place since we are in a monogamous relationship. He says my opinion is irrational and I'm making it up just to argue- massages are clearly somewhat sexual and that I'm wrong for pushing for something he is uncomfortable with and turning it into an argument. I kept trying to explain I just wanted to understand his logic and hear his reasonings- kind of like a debate.  I even offered to switch masseuses. He then says to just cancel his massages and that this is too much trouble. I'm still going to go without him even after all this. AITA? \n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 62, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 17, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 79, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OJLTuCS8w8HZYzJKAN6FMI5BqdLCgPuU", "post_id": "b8nsvw", "action": {"description": "bothering my dad because he's protective with ice cream", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For bothering my dad because he's protective with ice cream?", "text": "This is pretty lame in comparison to some of the other posts but here we go! \n\n Long story short, my dad buys ice cream everyday AFTER I go to bed. No matter how late, he'll wait. Now, what he buys isn't a regular ice cream, I'm talking full on tubs of that special \"Oreo Belgium triple chocolate caramel swirl\" Kinda stuff. \n\n Now for someone with an unnatural love for dairy, a massive sweet tooth, and no way to get to a store in my day to day life, this sucks. \n\n I mentioned it one day to him and he yelled at me and used excuses about how it's his money and he works 9 hours a day so he deserves it. \n\n My mum was persuasive enough to let my dad give me 1/3 a tub yesterday, and it was nice as heck. I went back down today to hopefully get some more, and he stopped me by saying that \"I've had my third, have something else\" \n\n Me and him are the ONLY two people that like ice cream in this house\n\n So he's gone and taken 2/3 for himself. \n\n This wouldn't be a problem or anything but he makes me feel crap whenever I even mention the words \"ice cream\" anymore. \nLike he goes on this talk about his life and how I don't deserve it. \n Should I stop bugging him about it? I feel it'll be best considering I'm quite obviously annoying him too much about it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Hvj5C1r7Uu4R4dUN6FPENtZOJzcX2EcT", "post_id": "axgzpd", "action": {"description": "reporting someone for starting at me", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA For Reporting Someone for Starting at Me?", "text": "I've been working at a new job for about four months, during my first month in training I had a side by side with a guy, \"Greg.\" Now Greg was showing me the ropes and we got into talking and it seemed we had a lot in common and that was great, to me (24f) it's always nice to meet people who share common interests. Our \"side by side\" last two hours\" and nearing the end of the time I realized he might be hitting on me a bit with the laughing, general comments, and him trying to get me to join a singles group in our area, so I dropped a comment as casually as I could about moving here and getting a place with my boyfriend, to avoid embarrassment on both parts. After my session few other of us new hires were making our way to lunch and I got some jabs about him flirting with me, and I laughed them off. \n\n​\n\nFlash forward to now. I've been working for two and some change on the \"floor\" (after training class) and Greg has been staring at me at any chance. It was clear when I first moved up to the floor that he had a crush. He'd walk passed my cube and stare. However, surprisingly he hadn't said anything to me, no \"hi\" or whatever. I wouldn't be hurt by him not talking to me, but i found it odd him staring at me and brushed it off at first as maybe a crush, a few weeks later, I mentioned something to my cube mate, and he mentioned that he'd noticed Greg staring at me. It's been two months of him staring at me and at points changing his route to the bathroom to come check me out at my desk. I feel very uncomfortable and Stressed. I know looking at someone isn't really a big deal, nor having a crush, but it's been a while and other's are beginning to notice and joke or share concern. \n\nWould I be an asshole to tell my supervisor I'm uncomfortable? I just don't like being ogled at work. FYI I don't wear flashy or revealing clothes, and don't think it'd be some \"attention grab\" that would give reason for him looking at me (not that an excuse). Also I noticed him a few times showing up in front of a coffee shop I frequent on my days off walking past back and forth.... I just feel rather uneasy. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EfMm0SkcA9sWEIJhWcXmUJSPr6Q2Iw6f", "post_id": "ayb2zl", "action": {"description": "discouraging my roommates toxic relationship", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for discouraging my roommates toxic relationship?", "text": "So my roommate has been dating this girl for around a year now. She had to go study abroad for 6 months. That put a huge strain on their relationship. They broke up 2x while she was abroad. He tells me all his relationship problems. When they first broke up in the summer, he called me. He was very distressed and upset. I did my best to comfort him telling him that their dynamic wasn't the best and that they fought constantly and that it was no big deal. Sometimes it just doesn't work out. He ended up getting back with her less than 2 weeks later.\n\n​\n\nHis girlfriend is shy so she has trouble making friends. She was lonely when she was studying abroad. My roommate tried to fill the void but it wasn't enough for her. On many occasions, she has said hurtful things to him on why they should break up. Things like \"Give me reasons why we should stay together\" or \"You may think we have good conversations but i don't\". Everytime she comes over to see him, she ends up just watching youtube videos or they end up spooning for 2 hours. Ive heard their conversations and there are many awkward silences. \n\n​\n\nShe has dumped him 8 times. Every time it is because something upset her and he did not respond appropriately. She then dumps him and blocks him on FB. A week or two goes by and then she realizes that shes lonely and misses him. He always welcomes her back with open arms. Its gotten so bad that I can predict correctly within 3 days the next time they break up.\n\n​\n\nThey share the same major but next year, she will be working across the country. His field of study is not very diverse so a part of me believes that he thinks once hes in the work force, he won't find anyone else. I always ask him what he likes about her and all he can say is shes a nice person and he thinks they have good conversations. He is so desperate to stay with his girlfriend that hes whipped. Most of our mutual friends also believe that his relationship is not healthy.\n\n​\n\nI told my girlfriend and she said that its his life and who am i to tell him anything about his relationship. I asked him what he is going to change so that it will work. He tells me that every time they get mad at each other, instead of breaking up, they're just going to wait a couple days and then get back together. After pushing him for more, he gets mad at me. I also got mad and told him that from now on I won't ever talk with him about his relationship.\n\n​\n\nI understand that its quite literally none of my business but I tried my best to look out for him. I tried convincing him to see my and all our friends point of view by saying harsh things about his relationship. Is what I did wrong? Telling him that his relationship is not healthy and it won't end well? According to my own girlfriend it is. What do you guys think? AITA??\n\n​\n\nTL;DR- Roommate has rocky relationship with his girlfriend. I said harsh things about his relationship to try and get him to see my point of view.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "k1LGpDNp3By5zSdOnXc9PrSgqZMxkpGp", "post_id": "b2io5w", "action": {"description": "wanting to remain friends with an underage catfish", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 45}, "title": "AITA for wanting to remain friends with an underage catfish?", "text": " I have a really good friend who I'm going to call Lyra. We met on Tumblr, along with some of our other friends. We all have a group chat and even text and talk on the phone. We've been a friend group for about 4 years, and that's how long I've known Lyra.\n\n​\n\nI met Lyra IRL in January, and that's when I learned some stuff that I hadn't known about her before: she's white (she used a black girl's pictures), she's 15 (she said she was 21), and the details of her personal life were just really different from what she had said before. So...I met her irl thinking she was 21. I didn't know she wasn't a 21 year old black girl until she and her parents picked me up from the airport. (I just didn't say anything until we were alone \"I thought you were black\" and that's when she told me she was 15.)\n\n​\n\nLyra and I kind of had silly crushes on each other and had done some light flirting in texts before...she revealed her true identity lol. She wanted (and wants) to continue this flirtation and even date. I never really told her no because I've been so conflicted and I really value her friendship. Well...I actually DID say no at first, but then I felt like a major asshole because she said her age would only matter if I were in the relationship for sex, which I wasn't, and I'd like to clarify I only held her hand and hugged her a little.\n\n​\n\nAnyway, I know the situation is messed up. I want to remain friends without...I don't know, hurting her. We're best friends and I really love her. But there's another aspect to the situation which is that none of our other friends know her true age, and I've been informed that they could get into legal trouble. Lyra doesn't shy away from anime smut and fanfic and has written, drawn, and roleplayed adult scenarios with a couple of our other friends. \n\n​\n\nEveryone I've talked to so far seems to think I AM an asshole, but so far I don't. \n\n​\n\nTL;DR: my best friend turned out to be a 15 year old but I want to remain friends and not tell our other friends the nature of her deceit.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 34, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 11, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 45}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "SXVX2MvLnEiVvNrj90qsNowvCZMQR6BS", "post_id": "akq7p4", "action": {"description": "telling my boyfriend his dreams are unrealistic", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA for telling my (19F) boyfriend (22M) his dreams are unrealistic?", "text": "A bit of context: I'm currently a college undergraduate, majoring in history. I'm also the daughter of two academics. My boyfriend of about 5 months graduated last May with his BA in history. He's currently working a sales job that he mostly likes, but doesn't love.\n\nThat out of the way, here's the situation. Boyfriend loves history, and intends to go to grad school soon with the intention of getting a PhD in history and becoming a professor. Thing is, the job situation for history professors is [atrociously terrible](http://www.megankatenelson.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/AHA-Today-November-16-2017-1.png). I know everyone in the humanities (or the arts, for that matter) thinks they can beat the odds, but I don't think he understands how bad the odds are. I also think he doesn't understand what grad school is actually like, and he's expressed a very rose-tinted view of being a professor (he called it \"a six-figure job where you get summers off\", which is inconsistent both with actual salary data and with my personal experience).  This is something he's really passionate about, but I think he's setting himself up for a lot disappointment and heartbreak.\n\nI know that, as his girlfriend, I should be supportive. We aren't financially tied, so it doesn't hurt me financially if he goes into debt. Even though I love him a lot, I know that realistically its unlikely we'll be together by the time he finishes he finishes his degree (things change, people move, etc). I just see what dismal prospects lie down this path, and I don't want that for him.\n\nThere's also the issue that as a history major myself, I also wanted to be a professor before my parents convinced me against it and diverted me to a (hopefully) more realistic career path. It's not something I want anymore, other than in the sense of, \"in a perfect world...\", but I feel like if the topic comes up I have to lie and say that I was never interested in to job, or I have to a hypocrite and say that I want something for him that I don't think is a good idea for me. \n\nSo, WIBTA if I expressed my concerns for him, or should I just keep my mouth shut?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Kyx3JSoP2d7Q2mcb8tNRYvRkVvmbB3zq", "post_id": "aixifs", "action": {"description": "being cruel and demanding to my father", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being cruel and demanding to my father?...", "text": "Hi\n\n\n\nThis is going to be long and I'm sorry if there's mistakes and if it too difficult to understand.\n\nI never have a great relationship with my father. He is...a man who has a title of Father to me. Did I loved him? I did...I don't recall calling him daddy ever since i knew the truth. I think it's disrespectful not to, but i couldn't bring myself to call him that ever again.\n\nHe is a liar, cheater, heavy smoker, gambler and quite an alcoholic. I think he is abusive... but I can't understand it...not violence... he did slapped my mom once and treats us like grass.\n\nI don't love or hate him. I don't want to hate him. If I do, I just keep suffering. I could still imagine myself having a cup of tea with him.\n\nI think I am a bad person. Too cold and heartless.\n\nI couldn't look at him without 'it' being calm. I avoid talking to him as much as I could, I avoid his family as much as I could. Sometimes, I want to torture them and kill them, but that's not me. I have mental illness. It corrupts me, though I try to keep hold of it. I just want to get out of here.\n\nI remembered texting him long ago, writing a lot of swear words. I hate you.\u00a0\n\nYet I forgave you. I forgave someone who force mother to have abortions, someone who doesn't even want me from the start, someone who wanted to give me away and ruined our lifes and still hurt us.\n\nI feel...like i'm the bad one here. He took all my money that i was saving for school and a house ever since I was 11, maybe it's ok, right? He's my father...Mom asked him to pay for college or university if I ever able to get into one, he said no. ha..it's reasonable...?... But if it's his other daughter, why is he so willingly...to do anything for her? How different am I to her? Is it because I demand too much? Or is it he doesn't love me because i'm...a child from someone else...which was supposedly dead or is it because i'm not a boy?\n\nI have a list. I wrote what I want from him.\n\nA table and a chair. Piano class and art class, tutor , school , cheap drawing tablet, etc. Also have treatment about my mental illness, I don't want to do anything bad...again.\n\nHe earns 10k a month, but he refuse to pay treatment and always drag things so long. It been 7 years, in those 7 years, I should be in school and learn something. Honestly, it was my fault too. If I had just try to search for a school myself when I was 11, maybe I couldn't end up like this. Even so, I wonder will he pay for it? Last time I asked....he lied to me and i never end up going to a school for another year.\n\nI feel like i'm demanding him so much. But people are telling me they, his family, took more than we did. But still, aren't i too much? \n\nI just want to get a stable life and able to go school. Get a job and leave this place with my mom. I thought of bringing him along, but it will upsets mom. He might try to get me into something too...like mom said he did it to her. Get something from me.\n\nI thought of giving him money each month when I get a job. After all...he's my father and i'm grateful...he even give us money. It may be hundreds of dollar like 200 and expect us to live on that for the whole month, but it's still better than nothing.\n\nMom wants revenge. BY selling the house and leaving him. I...pity him, maybe I feel sad for him. I feel bad for turning a blind eye... mom said to not worry since he have 3 kids. But for someone like him, wasting all money on gamble and have little savings...I wonder if he is going to suffer. If he is...I feel bad. BUt there seems to be no way of settling these... he'll never listen and won't quit gamble if i recommend him to do so.\n\nAM I an A-H for wanting things and him paying for all of it and still leave him?\n\nAlso if you read all these, wow...I...thank you. I hope...it's not stupid. I'm nervous, very nervous while writing this. I think by doing this, i may get some advices from people.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "E5r6t9XDB7zqV4OZpSBJvL1M9P2c2Zxl", "post_id": "9zgo67", "action": {"description": "firing my dying employee", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for firing my dying employee?", "text": "AITA for wanting to fire my sous chef who is dying due to diabetes and intense hardheadedness? \n\n(Sorry this is long, got to get it off my chest.  TL;DR at end.)\n\nI\u2019m a chef, I hired this guy as my sous almost two years ago.  He has diabetes.  He\u2019s always sick, especially when it\u2019s really inconvenient, like when I am out of town or when we have really busy weeks with lots of banquets or offsite events.  I brought it up to him in the past, if he thought stress exacerbated it, because whenever we were really busy and I needed his help, boom! in the hospital.\n\nEventually, I had to take him off of salary bc he was missing too much work and I told him, you know I don\u2019t wanna fire you, I understand you don\u2019t have control over this, blah blah blah, but I\u2019m not paying you a salary when I can\u2019t depend on you.  So I put him on an hourly wage instead and I promoted one of my other cooks as a sort of junior sous chef so I had a fall back for 1st sous chefs eventual sick days and to ease the stress on 1st sous so he wasn\u2019t pushing himself so hard.\n\nHe\u2019s got this stomach thing where it goes into paralysis and won\u2019t digest the food sitting in this stomach and then when it starts pumping (?) again and drops all of the old food into his gut he gets really ill.  Apparently this happens with diabetes?  I have also, more than once, found him passed out on the floor of the employee room when he\u2019s gone up for a shot.  When he gets sick and goes home I won\u2019t hear from him for days and have to contact his sons to see if he\u2019s dead.  I ask him about it after and he says he just comes to after days and has to look at a calendar to see how long he missed. \n\n1st sous chef has had this illness for 20 years.  He refuses to go to the doctor for regular treatment or even when he\u2019s ill.  When I say \u201cin the hospital\u201d it\u2019s because he gets so fucking sick that his kids call 911 (they\u2019re all grown adults BTW).  He does take insulin, but that\u2019s as far as any self treatment goes.  He smokes like a chimney and drinks like a fish.  I know lots of other people with diabetes, my aunt for example has never ever had to go to the doctor for complications due to diabetes, neither did my friend in high school (and he was 17 and an idiot), and neither does my CURRENT prep cook, who ALSO has diabetes.  Because they take care of themselves! My prep cook brings himself little sugar free cookies and bananas to work with him and eats these cactus tortillas bc they have less sugar than corn. So it\u2019s increasingly frustrating to deal with his constant sickness, not because of the inconvenience to me and the business, I solved that with 2nd sous chef, but because we\u2019re all watching this dude kill himself in front of us and he\u2019s the most stubborn mother fucker in the world and it\u2019s breaking my heart.\n\nOk, so last Friday I\u2019m up in my office doing some paperwork and go into the kitchen to check on things and 1st sous is gone, 2nd sous says he got really sick and left an hour earlier.  No big deal, we\u2019re extra staffed with a new guy training so I\u2019m not worried about it and leave at my normal time.  Saturday 1st sous is a no show, I text and call, but as usual hear nothing.  2nd Sous coincidentally lives with 1st, so I ask him if he\u2019s okay and he says he hasn\u2019t talked to him that he was asleep when he got home the night before and was still sleeping when he left for work in the morning.  My days off are Sun. and Mon. and 2nd sous is going out of town to visit his fam for Thanksgiving, so I assume I\u2019m going to be working on both of my days off to cover for 1st sous.  C\u2019est le vie, they\u2019re super slow days so boring, but no biggie.\n\nTuesday comes and 1st sous comes in to talk to me.  We go outside and he tells me he found a diabetic ulcer on his foot and that it started to \u201cstink\u201d on Sunday.  He refuses to go the doctor bc he knows they\u2019re going to tell him to amputate.  His plan is to cut off the dead tissue himself, apparently he\u2019s done this before (\u2026) and his friend gave him some weird oil shit that\u2019s supposed to kill the infection before it can get into his blood stream (I forgot to mention, he says he is allergic to all antibiotics) I try and talk him out of it and tell him prosthesis have improved, he\u2019ll be able to do everything he can now, no one will even be able to tell, but he won\u2019t even consider it because HE WON\u2019T STOP DRINKING AND SMOKING.  Like it\u2019s his fucking life blood, I was like, what?!  You won\u2019t stop smoking to have more time with your kids?   And he shrugged and said he\u2019s raised 5 good men and they don\u2019t need him.  Basically he wants me to give him two weeks to \u201cget back to normal.\u201d  In my opinion, he is not going to get back to normal.  He is going to ignore this until he gets blood poisoning and dies.  I told him that I think he shouldn\u2019t waste what time he has left working and that he should spend it with his kids and he said, yeah maybe.\n\nThis situation has been really stressful in a lot of ways, I really care about him and I obviously don\u2019t want him to fucking die and he was crying telling me and I was crying and it was all very awful.  After our talk he went back inside and drank a whiskey while I input invoices, so what can ya do, he\u2019s not going to change for anything including his own life.\n\nThe owner of my place told me that I can\u2019t fire him over this.  I said I\u2019m not going to watch him commit suicide in front of me and that\u2019s not fucking fair to the staff and that it\u2019s not doing him any favors allowing him to continue working.  Every step he takes will be pushing the infection into his bloodstream (I\u2019m not a doctor, but I believe you\u2019re supposed to \u201coff weight\u201d?) It might seem callous, but I really don\u2019t want to let him back.  I honestly think it would be better to fire him because if he was unemployed he could get Medicaid, maybe hospice care, maybe die with some dignity instead of fainting in the bathroom at the bar after a long shift without eating.  Even in the event that he pulls off some sort of miraculous hobo surgery on himself and gets all the necrotic tissue out, how long until it happens again?  His kids are all moving away, 2nd sous is moving out of their house, who\u2019s going to call 911 next time? I worried I'm being selfish.  One of my cooks pointed out that maybe he really really loves cooking and wants to die doing it.  Ummm, I love cooking too, but I certainly would not be working myself into a grave were I in this situation, I love other things more. \n\nSo, AITA?\n\nTL;DR Sous chef is dying from complications from diabetes, refuses medical help, is literally going to cut away parts of his own foot, and wants me to hold his job for him until he recovers.  I think firing him is for his own good, the owner says I shouldn\u2019t, am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "A0gRHfz9dZVSyhqcTW91dE9lXdFn4b2Y", "post_id": "avo6js", "action": {"description": "choosing not to have a handful of pointless plastic collectibles included in our work office shopping order", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA: for choosing not to have a handful of pointless plastic collectibles included in our work office shopping order", "text": "For those of you who live in aus, you\u2019re probably familiar with the Coles \u201cStikeez\u201d promotion. For those not, there are 25 collectibles, small plastic toys that look like little broccolis with names and faces etc. \n\nhttps://www.practicalparenting.com.au/media/11988/130219stikeez-lansscape.jpg?width=620\n\n^ for context. \n\nAt work, we do our weekly Milk order through Coles. Each $30 spent, entitles you to a Stikeez character. \n\nIt\u2019s my responsibility to place the order, and when asked if I wanted Stikeez included, I clicked no. \n\nThis is the 3rd promotion of this sort Coles have run in the last 6 or so months, of pointless plastic, with no proper intention other than to get more shoppers through their doors. \n\nPersonally I\u2019m trying to be more environmentally conscious, I\u2019m in my min 20\u2019s, and the future of environment feels like my responsibility, and my choice to make more pro-active decisions where I can. \n\nI could not, with sound conscience, say yes to having this pointless shit sent with our order. \n\n2 colleagues have since found out that I declined them and cracked the shits at me for doing so. \n\nI would agree it\u2019s not my decision to speak for the office as to whether we get them or not, but office workers aren\u2019t really entitled to them because they come with our work order. Go and spend your own money at Coles if you want to collect pointless landfill I reckon. \n\nAnyway, am I the asshole here for saying no, with our environment in mind. Or should I have said yes, since my colleagues collect and it\u2019s not really my decision. \n\nThanks lol", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "V4JH35K3a4Ce4kCBs7MlZDkFictRcnLx", "post_id": "ah781k", "action": {"description": "wanting my roommates to pay for WiFi that they don't use as much as myself", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting my roommates to pay for WiFi that they don\u2019t use as much as myself?", "text": "We used to have unlimited WiFi, but 2/4 roommates don\u2019t use it as much as myself and the other roommate, so they wanted to lower our plan to save money. I was fine with this and didn\u2019t think it would be a problem. However, we went over our limit and got charged a late fee, and they got mad at me and other roommate for making us go over. Roommate and I wanted to go back to unlimited(lol) to avoid late fee and everyone just pays $6 extra per month. Obviously the two who don\u2019t stream as much (and said they use their unlimited phone data plans for WiFi instead of House WiFi). I get upset and start thinking about how one roommate takes the longest showers/baths yet I don\u2019t complain about the water bill(until now cuz I\u2019m upset). Basically I need internet strangers to let me know if this is a battle worth picking. Is it best to just split the WiFi between myself and the other roommate who uses it more, or is WiFi something we all should split evenly? am I in the wrong for asking them to help pay for a service they don\u2019t use as much. I guess a non related but upsetting thought I can\u2019t get out of my head is that this one roommate who wants to lower the usage, literally bought a $400 full length ballgown on eBay, with having no event to wear to, because it was so pretty. I guess my thought process is hindered by this waste of money, yet $6 a month is too much for unlimited WiFi. But I\u2019m probably just salty. Set me straight Reddit! I need perspective before I wrongly blow up. If anything I could just pay for WiFi myself with my own password... help provide clarity please! ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iMIoM7FWZYGNimGEIgmSJ4FtgbnTc5pH", "post_id": "b8sp31", "action": {"description": "lying to my friend's gf about him cheating", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for lying to my friend's gf about him cheating", "text": "We're all in high school (16-17)\n\nSo basically my friend (lets call him T) has had a (kinda dysfunctional imo) relationship with his girlfriend (lets call her M) for around 2 years. Im not really good friends with her but we get along.\n\nRecently T has been talking to a different girl (A)  since he is no longer interested in staying with M. For the most part M is cool but she can get really dramatic and aggressive over the smallest things, and my friend has lost all romantic feelings for her. T has told me that he's only with her at this point for the sex.\n\nNow he's been getting serious with A (going to her house, kissing, I don't think they've fucked tho) but he still hasn't broken up with M. I've been clear with him that at this point its hardcore cheating and he should just end things with M to avoid any serious repercussions. He says that he'll do it but he has pussied out many times.\n\nJust now M texted me and asked me to keep something between us. I think it would have been better if I stayed out of it completely but stupidly I said yes. She then told me about how she thinks he's cheating on her because she saw some messages on his phone coming from A. I played dumb and said she was overthinking things, and that A was just a friend.\n\nShe explicitly told me not to share any of it with T, but honestly he's my one of my best friends. I may not agree with his decisions but I'll back him up no matter what. The way I see it, my loyalty ultimately lies with him and not M. So of course I sent him screenshots of the convo to basically say \"hey, she knows. Time to end it man.\"\n\nWell he ended up calling her, and he mentioned some things that were in the screenshots that I sent, so she figured out that I ended up telling him. She confronted me about it but I denied everything and left it at that.\n\nSo in conclusion, was I wrong to lie to her and break her trust? She must feel like shit after what I did, and I don't blame her. Was there a better way to cover for T?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "z9wm8z7cJUWldCzDhuo0BPZCLGXrXBw6", "post_id": "9tzsd9", "action": {"description": "not wanting to do a group gift", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to do a group gift", "text": "Please determine if IATA  \n\n\nI am an assistant marching band director at a school which I am a first year teacher. The band director, who is a second year teacher, said I think we (him and I) should get the staff members gifts as a Thank Yous!! Great idea... but I have a few problems.   \n\n\nOne, I was told at the beginning of the season from the school admin I was going to get paid 4k. However, like the little bambi I was (probably am), I didn't ask for this in writing. So I was recently called into the office so they could tell me, just kidding, here's 2k. Meanwhile, the director makes 14k for essential the same job responsibilities because we are both young and trying to figure things out. Two, while I cannot confirm I believe the staff makes about the same as me (2k) despite having less responsibilities. Three, there are five of them and two of us. Therefore to get them each something of value we will likely have to pay a pretty penny. Four, I have a buttload of student debt. Yes, that my bad and I know that is a personal problem but I am trying to remedy that with the next point. Five, I am on the path to FIRE, which means I save every penny outside of rent and home-cooked, coupon-clipped food. Thus paying $50 (which I think might be optimistically low) is absolutely heart-wrenching to me. To be honest, I don't think I have even spent that much on my boyfriend of three years (no worries, he hasn't on me either, we like it like that). Six, a first year teaching salary is okay, but nothing too fancy.   \n\n\nWIBTA if I said no?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eUUVGw1olmDDgJuGveTaTKhFQlwF70Wv", "post_id": "ap6xzs", "action": {"description": "complaining about working 8+ hour shifts", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for complaining about working 8+ hour shifts?", "text": "A little backstory, I'm a senior in High School and currently working between 25-30 hours every week to pay for a college education and to have money on the side. My family is far from lower class but my parents have repeatedly threatened to not pay for my college education as soon as I do something they don't agree with. Just to give you some examples, so you don't think I'm a snot nosed brat whining about how my mommy won't let me play video games 24/7, the things I did which pissed them off include: coming out as gay, having left leaning views, and hanging out with \\*gasp\\* people who aren't white. I solved this problem by getting a job and having a reliable back-up plan if they ever decide to totally cut me off. I work in fast food and as much stigma as the job gets for being a \"dumb persons job\" it really is a lot of work and moving around especially if you work 6,7,or 8+ hours at a time.\n\n​\n\nAnyways, I'm constantly getting shit from my family for not being home as much, grades dropping from 95's to 89's and 90's (ikr), etc. Today, I do so much as open my mouth about how tired I am. I immediately hear from my sister \"well your the one who chose to get a job\". Um excuse me, wtf? I point out that regardless of whether I chose to get a job or not, work is still work and definitely not fun and that I don't appreciate being put down for choosing to be slightly more independent. She responds with \"I'm not putting you down, just reminding you that you chose to get this job that you don't need so you can't complain.\" This spiraled into a 30 minute argument over whether or not she was putting me down/if I have the right to complain. Honestly, I wouldn't even be asking this subreddit or questioning being right here if my ENTIRE family hadn't agreed with my sister. So, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QEPwzbCf8e4KnxEyKaztPpLdRrP0pZGh", "post_id": "ac4yiz", "action": {"description": "losing my best friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for losing my best friend", "text": "My best friend of a few years left me after he told me that I never listen and that I\u2019m always doing the opposite of what he says when in all honesty I just don\u2019t understand most of the time. I have a really hard time putting myself in other people\u2019s shoes and I often don\u2019t understand how things affect other people. \nFor example, I struggle with mental illness and i asked him to not talk about disordered eating habits (which is a huge trigger of mine) around me and he started a fight with me because he sometimes needed to talk about that stuff because it\u2019s important to him, I understand that now but i didn\u2019t at at the time and i didn\u2019t get what i was doing wrong. AITA for not listening to him or not trying hard enough to understand? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BPyxXbkeOQZBv7L867hCIE78A07kTeUW", "post_id": "au6ah7", "action": {"description": "fooling around with my ex girlfriend/close friend's brother", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for fooling around with my ex girlfriend/close friend\u2019s brother?", "text": " I dated this girl for about a month and a half back in the fall. We never did anything more than kiss and the relationship never really got that serious. We ended on good terms and are now very close friends.\n\n I was spending the night at her house and we were sleeping in their game room with her brother as usual. She was asleep on the other couch and me and her brother were on the couch together. He\u2019s tried to do things with me before when I was drunk or high, but this time I was sober. He kept getting closer to me and eventually started touching my boobs and under my underwear. He kept doing this for a while and eventually turned my face towards his and kissed me. I kissed back and let this continue for about 5 minutes before i looked at my friend on the other couch and realized what I\u2019d done. I told her brother I had to pee and ran off to the bathroom and then upstairs.\n\n I feel terrible about what I did and I just need to know if it\u2019s as bad as I think it is, not that bad, or worse.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yTc9U5oWNoWqo6gtMag4iebYuVCmTQXS", "post_id": "9tfud3", "action": {"description": "coming out to my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for coming out to my girlfriend?", "text": "Me and my girlfriend are essentially best friends, and according to her (something that I believe), I'm one of, if not the only source of happiness in her life. A few weeks ago I had the realization that I am gay and I've been stressing immensely recently because I know I can't be in this relationship as a romantic partner. I don't know how I would do it, and I don't even know if I should. I'm scared of losing her as a friend and I don't know if I can go through with breaking up with her. We have mutual friends and I don't want them to turn away from either of us, because over the past year we've all built a great support system and I don't want to ruin that. I'm so scared that coming out would just cause more pain than happiness at this point, and that it'd just be greedy. Am I wrong for thinking the way that I am? Is it wrong to potentially ruin multiple great friendships just for myself? Would I be the asshole if I came out to my girlfriend, and potentially ruined her time at college?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CgON5ivptHSF1zNuNR0tlOHEDytO6VgC", "post_id": "am8t2q", "action": {"description": "not paying the Venmo request", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for not paying the Venmo request?", "text": "Full story: Went on a weekend getaway trip Denver with friends and friends of friends. A few of the people were local while others (like me) were flying in from New York. Two friends of friends flew in before me and rented a car so they could go to the hotel first. I was picked up by my local friends and we had a great weekend in the city. On the day of departure, my local friends recommended I just ride with Jane and Kevin (the two aforementioned friends of friends) since they were on the way to the airport too. I agreed since it made sense for my local friends to go directly home and not waste time dropping me off if Jane and Kevin were going to the airport already. \nA few days later, I Venmo requested Jane and Kevin -and everyone else on the trip- food charges that we had eaten and split among the group. Kevin declined my request without any communication and sent back a request for gas. Now at this point I was a little confused since I had spoken to Jane (the one who had rented the car) and she had said gas wasn't an issue. The tank was only half empty when it was filled so with gas prices being around 3.50, I figured 20 bucks was the max that gas could cost - split among 3 would make it a little over 6 dollars. After declining my charge for food which was about 6 bucks, Kevin charged me an additional money for gas. I immediately declined the charge. Now several individuals who have been roped into this debacle are asking why I declined. Am I the asshole here? Is he? Both? Or is it just some miscommunication?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ljZskAaiF5PL1texTN4ngZ1UbLAUHooz", "post_id": "ae79uq", "action": {"description": "asking my husband to help with our other kids on the night he has my step daughter", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITAH for asking my husband to help with our other kids on the night he has my step daughter?", "text": "My husband use to work at a company where he would finish work at 2:30 (instead of 5pm) on Fridays. He\u2019s since left that job, but part of his agreement at his new position is that he is allowed to leave work early one day of the week (Wednesday) to pick his 12 year old daughter (from a previous relationship) up at school. \n\nOn Wednesday\u2019s, he usually gets home around 3:45 instead of 5:30. He then usually makes supper and gives my SD a ride home between 7&8pm so that she can have a consistent morning schedule. \n\nWe have 3 other children (3 months, 4 and 7). Our two older kids take gymnastics and for the first time, their gymnastics lesson has landed on the same night as we have my SD. The 4 year old from 5-6, and the 7 year old from 6-7.\n\nI think it\u2019s great that the nights aligned because instead of me having to make supper and take all 3 of our kids to the 5pm lesson, I can start supper then take the baby and our 4 year old, and my husband finish supper then bring the 7 year old and his 12 year old to the later lesson (gymnastics is in the same city as his ex, so he drops off the 12 year old before or afterwards). \n\nMy husband thinks he should change which day he leaves work early because he feels that it\u2019s not fair to the 12 year old. I know it\u2019s not ideal, but I don\u2019t feel it\u2019s a huge burden for the 12 year old and IMO the fact that he gets to leave work early should also be used to contribute to the rest of the family\u2019s activities as well. \n\nIf it was the only time we spent with his daughter I would understand where he\u2019s coming from but she\u2019s with us the majority if of every weekend so there is lots of opportunity! \n\nAITA for asking him to use that time for the rest of our family as well? Or should I respect that he want to change the day he leaves early so that he can protect the time for his 12 year old?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jRPYvqDQthjmjc5ZPpyZfG3jqt7eR4pi", "post_id": "a91vh7", "action": {"description": "not wanting my bf to play guitar while we watch shows/movies", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my bf to play guitar while we watch shows/movies??", "text": "My bf of over two years now is a musician and I am an artist. The first year or so that we dated he never did this but now that we live together he got a \"silent guitar\" and more frequently insists that he practice scales and plays this while we watch a series or a movie. He now claims he has always done this during movies and I should deal with it. I should mention that we have almost opposite schedules during weekdays and he practices guitar in the mornings already while I am not home. I have told him I find it extremely distracting during movies even the silent guitar makes little plucking sounds.. How can he pay attention to both or even be enjoying my company while multitasking this much? He doesn't understand that it's so rude to me. Am I the asshole for wanting him to never do this?? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KPRKOaTnBEkC4jlQb1gA4ReqySizEUOL", "post_id": "aj4ggi", "action": {"description": "not wanting to paint at work", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to paint at work?", "text": "I'm a production assistant for a small news team. Recently they've been making us paint an office in the building, something I don't wish to do. I've honestly been kind of a jerk about it, complaining every time we have to do it. Sometimes they spring it on us like \"Surprise! You're painting today! Get in there and get started!\" and I don't even have the proper clothing for it or anything. There is nothing in the job description that mentions painting rooms. I probably wouldn't have a problem with it if we were painting in the news studio itself but the room we're painting has nothing to do with \"news production.\" We're the lowest paid people in the building so I just see it as the bosses trying to save a buck and not hire professional painters, therefore I'm not very motivated to do a good job. Others who have had the job longer than me don't have a problem with it because apparently they've done it plenty of times before. The most frustrating part is that they come in and go \"meh, look at this spotty job, do another coat!\" They should just hire professional painters!! So AITA?\n\nTL;DR: My job makes me paint rooms when it's not part of the job description and I'm a real jerk about it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "N2FK4iX8bs0yHNdlXk1VoynoaOFvIRII", "post_id": "amerj2", "action": {"description": "telling a classmate her project was lazy and uninspired", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 30}, "title": "AITA For telling a classmate her project was lazy and uninspired?", "text": "Okay well I posted casually in another AITA post and I actually got some good feedback on a minor disagreement with my gf. So I figured id ask about a situation that happened last year thats been bothering me.\n\nI was taking an art class at my university that allowed us to use whatever medium we wanted to create a work based around a central theme.\n\nI chose the camera and my theme was \"Decay.\" I took pictures of run down buildings, dying plants, and decomposing animals to show how \"temporary\" even beautiful things are. This took a lot of work and set up.\n\nThe class itself was meant to critque my work. I got good reviews, great even, but the pictures of dead animals and vegetation made my classmate remark \"This seems more like horror porn. Like a morbid curiosity.\"\n\nThis woman was very pretentious and offensive during the class. Her project consisted of clay animations forming from nothing and was sort of a counterpoint to my \"Decay\" work. Just a bunch of stop motion clay forming people and houses.\n\nI told her that her art was lazy and took no risk. It was just a \"stamp\" art project meant for school. Generic and not interesting. I may have been angry at her reaction to my art but it was still the truth. Also when you compare bravery its much more daring to go out into the world and capture it than to sit in a room playing with clay and cameras for a week.\n\nShe complained to the teacher that I was being harrassing and we had to go into mediation with a counselor. It was resolved but who do you guys think was the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 29, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 30}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "LqfxzNHfawttyEbtfhPtVP7OwHH9lQoz", "post_id": "awomdt", "action": null, "title": "AITA \"Homophobic\" And Career Choices get me in a fight", "text": "this is short but I need to know if i'm  in the wrong.\n\nMy mom asked if she the picture my brother sent of him getting a pedicure.\n\nI jokingly say \"Oh hah is he a crossdresser\" She then goes on a rant about how i'm being homophobic and such.\n\nI know that she meant that cause of my tone even though I have a deep sarcastic voice but this started cause I said I never wanna be a politician cause that can hurt careers. I asked for an apology and she never gave me one after I told her she's pushing my boundaries (She was upstairs while My dad asked me about careers) and she had come down asking what she missed and my dad told her about how I said \"If I could choose a job then I'd do a hobby like Basketball, or a VG, and I never do wanna be a politician but i'd like to maybe a work in the stock market (Which my dad never mentioned) if i'm being real for life goals\"\n\nI love my mom and she loves me (I hope) but i feel as if she's pushing her opinion and agenda by teaching me to not say my jokes", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Z8GPIj8ZkGeMXt7OhTqU0zJpcyt5Flez", "post_id": "b9uho4", "action": {"description": "not going to my SO's sister's baby shower because his ex will be there", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I don\u2019t go to my SO\u2019s sister\u2019s baby shower because his ex will be there?", "text": "His ex is bff\u2019s with his sisters.  She hates me guts and so my SO\u2019s older sister also hates me.  This is the younger sister\u2019s baby shower and she invited me (for the first time ever since I was \u201cbanned\u201d from their events) I think to make peace because my SO was refusing to attend events where I was not invited (but his ex was).\n\nWhile i appreciate the gesture I am getting crazy anxiety over being at a place with two people (ex and older sister) who have spent the last 2 years talking crap about me to anyone who will listen, including my SO.  I\u2019ve been called racist names (\u201cchun li\u201d \u201cfried rice\u201d), called trash, been threatened violence if I come near them, etc etc though things have been quiet since the sisters\u2019 dad died.  Though by the younger sister\u2019s admission \u201cthey promised not to hurt me but they might talk\u201d (????).\n\nMy SO\u2019s kids will also be there and I have never been in the same place as their mom and them.  Their mom has made it clear that she hates me to the kids and that she doesn\u2019t want them to like me.  So although the kids and I have a good relationshop I feel bad putting them in a place where they might feel divided in their loyalties and like they have to act a certain way towards me to please their mom.  I am also scared that if the ex sees them interacting with me positively she might make trouble for them or my SO.  \n\nMy SO says I am overthinking and have been promised \u201csafe passage\u201d and that I am being a coward and an asshole for not accepting his younger sister\u2019s peace offering.  I was hoping he could relay the message that I had other obligations (it\u2019s my sister\u2019s birthday) and give her a gift/card from me but he says no.\n\nAITA here?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RHJcNNMUdd079h0dcCoIqvogeaXC2760", "post_id": "ag3vp7", "action": {"description": "asking my 9 year old (host)brother not to spoiler a movie I haven seen yet", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking my 9 year old (host)brother not to spoiler a movie I haven seen yet?", "text": "I am living with a host family and my little brother (9) spoilers movies all the time, he told me that (careful SPOILER) spider man was gonna die in this one movie (forget the name) while we were watching it. And I general when we watch movies together as a family he likes to say stuff to the other family members (who all already saw the movie) doesnt this \\*inserts spoiler\\* happens next or doesnt the person XY dies in the car crash? \n\n​\n\nAnyways, today we were watching star wars together and he said this movie is the worst movie ever and I said \"Please dont spoiler anything\" and then he kept talking and I said: \"Seriously, please dont tell me what happens\".\n\nHe said he wasnt gonna spoiler anything and that was it and I did not think of it as a problem.   \nA few hours later his mom and my hostmother came upstairs and said she wanted to talk to me about something that happened. I said sure and she asks me about what happened downstair in the living room and that her son was quite upset and asked me if I was just joking or if I was being serious. I said I was being serious because I hadnt seen this movie yet and I wanted to watch it without knowing whats gonna happen. Then she said he is only 9 and he is just gonna spoiler stuff and theres nothing we could do about it. Then I added that I could apologize and she was like yes, please\". I didnt feel like apologizing but since this is not my actual family I did not want to have an argument with them.\n\nMaybe I was too harsh and I just do not see it? \n\nAITA?\n\n(excuse any spelling or grammatical errors, I am not a native speaker)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "i75o4p3fq7ZYuduHYyTtUHxI0CJQEsfK", "post_id": "b9ht0x", "action": {"description": "leading me on", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA? - leading me on..", "text": "Okay. I feel pretty petty after this so I've made a new account.\n\nTo start this off, I've wanted a dog for years, as so many kids do. Its always been a solid 'No' from my parents. Then recently it turned into 'Maybe..' and the last few weeks we've been looking at dogs. Now, there have been periods like this before but after research into the dog weve been interested in my mother has usually been put off. For what feels like forever, my father has wanted a Chow Chow. I introduced him to Samoyeds not long ago and hes slowly fallen in love with them. My Mother, surprisingly, has too. I ignored it at first because I assumed theyd just see it as a cute dog.\n\nHowever, recently, theyve been showing me dogs for sale near us. Within a reasonable price range too. I was excited, but didnt show it. I didnt want to get my hopes up. Until my mother allowed me to message one of the breeders.\n\nThey didnt respond. I didnt let it bother me, as by this point, my mother had promised me that when it was suitable, we could get a dog. We messaged another. They requested the money upfront. Another. Another. Another.\n\nFinally.\n\nWe found someone who told us we cod come view the puppies. They werent ready to be taken, and so we did. They were gorgeous. My father, mother and I fell in love with a little boy named Nico.\n\nWe get home, all giddy, fast forward a week. All I can think about is the puppy. I mention it to my mother and she smiles, \"Oh. Didnt I tell you? We're not getting the puppy anymore. I dont have the time.\"\n\nOkay. So. I understand my mother not having the time. Even though she stays home all day. It just annoyed me a little, if she'd told me at the beginning it would've been easier to process, like, we were at the point where my brother had bought dog collars, bowls, excetera. We had doggy-proofed the rooms of the house.\n\nOkay. This is where I feel like a bit of an asshole. I just kinda cried, I may of snapped slightly at my mother, saying she always seems to lead me on with these types of things and tease me and its not fair. Yes I cried. Yes it was petty. She shouted at me for being petty and I just feel stupid for acting so childish. Its not even like I can move out and afford my own dog, I'm 13. I dont know if there was some factor that im completely misreading here but I'd love some input from an adult who could come at it from a more mature outlook. x", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pCFCcs8136V8E732uQI9osvvqYPTS3WF", "post_id": "anbuh5", "action": {"description": "not letting my girlfriend snoop around in my phone", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not letting my girlfriend snoop around in my phone?", "text": "Obviously I have nothing to hide, she knows my phone's password and I even set up her fingerprint on my device, the same way I know the password to her phone and can access it with my fingerprint. Transparency at its finest. \n\nHowever, last night a friend texted me as we were watching Netflix and she asked if she could see the conversation, she was just curious, but I neither wanted to reply, nor I wanted to pause the show for a session of gossip and nosing around, so I refused to give her my phone. After that she just turned around and basically never talked to me all evening. \n\nMost of the times I don't mind if she asks me to have a look at my phone and read the conversations I have with my friends, she knows I don't like her doing so without my permission, but if she asks it's okay.\n\nHowever, I feel I have the right to just say no, without the need to explain myself, if I don't want her to invade my privacy and snoop around in my private conversations. \n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LDy624jXvsAuu2T7SpUR2mbbeujvQifi", "post_id": "as8yn9", "action": {"description": "supposedly being \"closed minded\" about astrology, spiritualism, and the supernatural", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for supposedly being \u201cclosed minded\u201d about astrology, spiritualism, and the supernatural?", "text": "I love my fianc\u00e9 to death, but this has been a constant pout of contention between the two of us for quite some time. She brings up the idea that places are haunted or that astrology has any actual bearing on our actual lives and most of the time I\u2019m willing to just smile and nod and let her go on thinking whatever she wants about that kind of stuff, but it actually makes me really angry when she tries to explain real life circumstances using astrology for example \n\nX can\u2019t get along with Y because he\u2019s a whatever sign and he\u2019s a whatever sign and so that means they are incompatible \n\nI think this is the biggest load of bullshit and extremely counterproductive to people actually understanding each other. Rather than fabricating a reason why they can\u2019t get along why not try to find common ground and common understanding. Wouldn\u2019t that be 10x better than ascribing some special meaning to the way the stars and planets align on any given night? \n\nAnother example of my supposed close mindedness is my refusal to believe in ghosts. I\u2019m an avid horror movie enthusiast and love a good possession story but I know it\u2019s all fake! When you die you get pumped full of chemicals and buried in a guilted box or you get cremated and have your ashes spread and you are gone. That may be an uncomfortable concept to some but gone is gone. My fianc\u00e9 claims her friend Beverly who passed away when she was young is still around and looking out for her, while I would never ever ever attack this belief as she is and always has been very sensitive about the matter but she believes my refusal to acknowledge the existence of spirits is a direct insult to her friends memory. \n\nAll of this was brought to a head the other day resulting in a brief fight followed by a long awkward car ride. It all started with a conversation about ouija boards. She said she would be upset if I ever brought one into the house, given her beliefs I understand that but i think it\u2019s genuinely silly to be scared of an inanimate object. The fact that this specific object is seen as a bridge of sorts doesn\u2019t really change my view of it. Come on it\u2019s a freakin board with letters and numbers. Sure it\u2019s a fun party game but there\u2019s always some asshole guiding the selector thing. Following me saying this we discussed both of the aforementioned situations and this resulted in her telling me I was being closed minded and inconsiderate of what she believes. I said it\u2019s healthy to be skeptical of things that are seemingly incorrect. (this may have been where I fucked up) \n\nWas I so quick to dismiss her beliefs that I hurt her feelings over it? Is she being overly sensitive? I honestly feel like it\u2019s a really stupid thing to fight over because the answer is so fucking obvious but I guess if you are brought up believing in that kind of stuff then it might be hard to shake later in life. AITA reddit?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Uljc8hxZOdeiSmxODRfUhxMZukrbYhZl", "post_id": "a8vco8", "action": {"description": "starting an argument with my girlfriend after she snuck one of her guy friends into her house", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for starting an argument with my girlfriend after she snuck one of her guy friends into her house?", "text": "Hey all.\n\nA week ago, my girlfriend and I hung out with two of her girl friends. We are all sixteen. \n\nWe spent the whole day together, playing mario kart, getting food, having a good time. I had to go home at midnight. but my girlfriend was talking about how her friend, (let\u2019s call him D, for douchebag) was going to sneak into her house at 1. When she first talked about it, my whole mood changed.\n\nI trust my girlfriend with everything, but I do not trust D. Sure, we are all mutual friends, in fact, D is quite fond of me. The thing is, a month prior, me, D, my girlfriend, and two other friends were hanging out, and I repeatedly saw D staring at my girlfriends caboose. I told her about this, and she started defending him. She did the whole, \u201cI\u2019m not saying you\u2019re wrong, but are you sure you really saw what you think you did?\u201d Yeah, didn\u2019t feel too good. \n\nA week prior to this, I had told her how her sneaking him into her house made me feel super uncomfortable. My argument was if she can\u2019t sneak me into her house, she shouldn\u2019t sneak another dude. She didn\u2019t really fully listen to my argument, because she said \u201cIt\u2019s just what WE DO, it\u2019s what our friend group has always done!\u201d\n\nSo, Saturday night comes around and they sneak D in. He brought a dab pen and a Juul. They hang out, and he left at 5. On the drive home, I damn near had a mental breakdown. I felt like I was having a heart attack, and knowing that D having a dab pen with my girlfriend and being a horn-dog was a recipe for disaster. Was the thought of that kid fucking around with my girlfriend plausible? Possibly. Was it my anxieties getting the best of me? Most likely, but regardless, I shouldn\u2019t be put in that situation anyways.\n\nSunday morning comes around, and she could tell something was wrong because I didn\u2019t talk to her once I got home, I just gave her a \u201cgoodnight\u201d which I never do. \n\nI tell her the way she made me feel was the worst I had ever felt. The sole fact that she would sneak a dude that isn\u2019t me into her house made me uncomfortable as it is, let alone\n\n1. He had weed with him (he had her hit the dab pen, this makes me mad at him, not her, in this case).\n2. If they got caught, she wouldn\u2019t be able to hang out with me at least until 2019\n3. He\u2019s a horn dog who I have seen staring at her ass\n4. If I ever snuck a girl with weed into my house, she would have a goddamn epiphany\n\nShe started by trying to defend D, saying \u201cOh it\u2019s just what we do, and D is a very good friend of mine.\u201d\n\nI kept detailing how shitty it made me feel, and she realized she fucked up. She began crying and profusely apologizing. She said she was sick with herself. I told her I didn\u2019t mean to make her feel that way, but I was not okay with what she did and I needed to tell her. She cried more, and got off of her phone. We FaceTime later and talk about it for 4 hours. It was less of an argument, and more of a debate, because while this pissed me off monumentally I am pretty good at not starting an \u201cargument\u201d. \n\nShe eventually admits that she knows what she did was wrong, but she didn\u2019t at the time. She then goes on to tell me that she doesn\u2019t usually care what happens to her, and she always tries to put her friends first, because she hopes it will make her happier. I believe she may have been trying to guilt trip me? I don\u2019t know, but I said \u201cI\u2019m sorry you feel that way, I really am, but the risk she took that night risked our entire relationship and that is not an okay risk to take. She keeps apologizing, and I keep saying that I accept her apology, but we will have a real problem if that happens again.\n\nSo here we are now. After many days of being angry with each other, we are back to normal and ready for Christmas. \n\nI still feel a little shaken up over it, and I never really got an apology for what she did, just for how it made me feel.\n\nI\u2019m not going to push her about it anymore unless it happens again. It was our first big argument, and I don\u2019t want that to happen again.\n\nTell me what you think.\n\n\nTLDR; Girlfriend sneaks a guy friend into her house in the dead of night against my wishes, I tell her how that made me feel, she starts self deprecating and making me feel bad, whilst also apologizing for the wrong thing, and we argue. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yNyI5hQhktKnIkJZwnZQ7hJZN76W9haK", "post_id": "amk1ac", "action": {"description": "breaking my SO's heart w/o notice", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA for breaking my SO's heart w/o notice?", "text": "This is a throwaway account, as I don't want my SO to see this. \n\nMe (F18) and my girlfriend(F20) have been together for about 11 months and have already been through quite a few rough patches, mostly because we are both very emotional and have a lot going on around us. For the last few weeks everything has been going decently well but I just don't feel the same as I used to. \n\nWe were friends for a while before we started officially dating and we even helped eachother through past relationships. She is completely head over heels in love with me and I used to feel the same way but lately I guess the spark is just gone. I feel like our relationship has become a routine and honestly my feelings have become less romantic and more as those of a bestfriend. \nOur affectionate and sexual relationship also has gotten semi boring for me and honestly feels like the same pattern everytime enough to the point that I don't even want to bother anymore. \n\nMy girlfriend is also very close with my family so it may be awkward afterwards. She's been dumped before and everytime it's taken a dark toll on her. I feel like she's the closest thing to my perfect match that I'll ever find so I don't get why my brain is becoming indifferent towards her. \n\nI must add that I suffer from severe and chronic depression so I'm not sure if that may play a part. I know breaking up with her would tear her apart as we have a plethora of future plans and have even talked about marriage, adoption, and moving internationally.\n\nI don't want to break her heart or do anything I might regret but I have know clue how I can stay in a relationship with someone I now only love platonically. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "dUvptzdc9OhVekF20wtsyc1YC8f3hmRL", "post_id": "axx76w", "action": {"description": "not thinking about my best friend's feelings and ended up not talking anymore", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not thinking about my best friend's feelings and ended up not talking anymore?", "text": "I apologise if formatting is weird as I'm using a phone to type this out, to show what happened properly I have screenshots through the link at the bottom of this post.\n\nTo make things easier to follow through, these are what I'm using to represent each person in my story:\n\nEBF: Ex Best Friend\nBF: Best Friend\nCBF: Closet Beat Friend\n\n\nIt was around 17th of November when this all started happening, I was hanging with my friends at my high school like usual when EBF comes to us and she sits down with us, everything is going fine usual except one thing, EBF is barely talking to me like she used to, which made me worried but I didn't think of it much at first, so the next day comes, she's there and the same thing happened, so I'm a little more on edge cause I started getting worried I did something to upset her. for the next week I couldn't properly concentrate because of this situation, I assumed that she hated me so then I proceeded to go to all of my social media accounts and remove her from everything that I followed her on (Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter and Tik Tok). One day BF sends me a post from EBF's close friends list saying \"HUGE SHOUT OUT TO MY BEST FRIEND NATHAN FOR BLOCKING ME ON EVERYTHING\" and all the sides were just her showing screenshots of her not following/added on my social media accounts, then I go to text her why did she just stop talking to me all of a sudden, the response she gave me was really childish and didn't even give me a proper straight answer when I first asked her, so when I asked her to tell me why she did again, she said that she needed some times and that she can't always be talking to everyone, the thing that really tipped me over the edge was the fact she started talking to BF even though she said that she wasn't emotionally able to talk to a lot of people even though it's still the same amount of people. We went on and argued a bit then eventually she started saying that I need to think about her more instead of just thinking about how I feel and she tells me that I'm being selfish. I eventually get tired of the whole argument I then say that I should just next time I should understand what and why BF choose to do whatever she's doing and I need to stop being entitled, then she responds with almost the same thing I said to an extent. After this I got so annoyed at myself because I thought I messed up and I'm a complete joke and other self deprecating stuff, then for a bit I went into this stage where I was like \"yeah I'm in the right she was being a massive bitch screw her she doesn't matter to me anymore\" but I feel like I've come full circle but instead I feel awful about this.\n\nThese are the screenshots, I wasn't able to get all of the screenshots of the argument, I lost one or two screenshots but I only have the beginning and the end of the argument: http://imgur.com/a/HZZNnUE\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "TRPyVwUmcV2A7UM1dMHhJJ8NwWH4BJtn", "post_id": "atlrxr", "action": {"description": "asking my partner to wear more than just his boxers", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for asking my partner to wear more than just his boxers?", "text": "I haven't done this yet, but I plan to talk to my partner about it. My partner is comfortable enough where he will wear his boxers around guests (he still has a top on). We have people come over and they don't seem to mind. He says he should feel comfortable in his own house. While I trust him fully and am not the type to tell people what to do or what to wear, this still kind of bothers me, although I can't pinpoint why exactly. I don't like the idea that someone sees and is attracted because of it.\n\nWill I be the asshole if I ask my partner to wear more than just his boxers when guests are over? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rtN58paoJO9Ja1fOP4DmwTScbdqj9MFM", "post_id": "b05lvf", "action": {"description": "wanting my mum to vote in an upcoming election as I'm too young", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for wanting my mum to vote in an upcoming election as I'm too young?", "text": "I am someone who has always taken a keen interest in politics and have been waiting to be able to vote. There are state elections coming up(I live in Australia, NSW to be specific) and even though my mum shares the same political views as me she outright refuses to vote. I have mentioned several times that I would like her to vote as this is something that heavily influenced my future in this country and in my eyes is quite selfish seeing as all she needs to do is put her self on the electoral roll. Unfortunately my mother seems to not have the bother in her to vote and I'm a year too young. So reddit, AITA for trying to influence my future? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UVtnqeKJ8xevlKTkxH2BOlFfN6AQXcAk", "post_id": "ap55ag", "action": {"description": "not letting my sister's child use my pc", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if i dont let my sister's child use my pc?", "text": "I just dont wanna give him the computer i dont trust him enough", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MsPbJEoIX6rP7vch0nsnk3aNyiazi806", "post_id": "a112jn", "action": {"description": "Flipping Somebody off", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for Flipping Somebody off?", "text": "Before you say I am let me explain what happened.\n\n​\n\n​\n\nI was in my school class when my bell rings and it's time to go. My teacher tells me to pick up books from the students and in the middle of doing that I one of my classmates telling me to get out of the way in a rude way, not the more nicer,\n\n\"Hey can you please move out of the way?\" I make way for her and mumble to myself how much of an asshole to me. \n\nShe overhears this and asks if I will ever shut up which was hypocritical of herself to ask since she talks more than I do.\n\nI'm one of the more nicer people in my classroom and I tend to get pissed off when I don't get respected back like I do in this situation so I flip her off. She then says out loud how rude I am despite the fact that she very cleary talked me into it           so then I said, \"No fucks given, asshole.\" Which gets the attention of 4/5 of the class. Not much happened after that besides people gossiping about what happened.\n\n​\n\nTo explain why she's an asshole to me, a lot of the people in my school who don't like me or hate are painfully basic, which means they suck up to more popular people in the school, while being a living breathing hell for less popular ones like me. To the point where they will defend the popular people's opinion even if their wrong.\n\n​\n\nTo put it short, girl is rude to me so I flip her off to be rude back. AITA", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "U0wwUfnXH9VltF7aCn0tqgxEJVcSwUiS", "post_id": "axp3wm", "action": {"description": "walking the wrong way around a track", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for Walking the Wrong Way Around a Track?", "text": "I am female. My gym has an indoor track. It is narrow in some places but 3 people can easily walk side by side through the narrow areas. One some days of the week, traffic walks/ runs clock-wise and on the other days, traffic goes counter clock-wise. Last Sunday was a clock-wise day. One other user was there already when I came up but she was walking counter clock-wise. Not really thinking about it, I joined and went counter clock-wise as well. Maybe 5 minutes later, another user joins us (there are now three people using the track) and he goes clock-wise, which you are supposed to do on Sundays. The first three times we pass each other, he tells me to change direction because I'm walking the wrong way. I was already into my groove and the person who was there before me is also still going counter clock-wise, so I smile at him to be polite and acknowledge what he's saying but continue the way I was. Each time he speaks to me about walking the wrong way, he gets a little more agitated. The final 'confrontation' ends with me telling him that there was more to life than worrying about which way I was walking. He stopped after that. \n\nI was up there for a total of 10 minutes and there was only the three of us on the track that whole time. I'm not typically a rule breaker so I'm not sure if that guy was making a big deal over nothing or if I was being a jerk. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "JS0wtrQ0ZG0M2Ny9RPnKqQo6vKaKn1Wz", "post_id": "b5qbpx", "action": {"description": "not wanting to visit my mother in law anymore", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to visit my mother in law anymore?", "text": "She treats me nicely in person, but she won't let me sleep in her house (my bf lives with his parents), she makes a scene if my bf asks her if I can sleep over, she annoys the shit out of him when he comes over to sleep at my house and always makes petty comments like 'i guess you prefer her over your family'. \n\nNow I don't want to see her anymore and both her and my bf are upset. Am I the asshole??", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KBYgkgXMBVkT5v4QVuKbRZv1NDOg4v7R", "post_id": "agh1a1", "action": {"description": "skipping a meetup-turned-birthday celebration with friends after they changed plans", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I skip a meetup-turned-birthday celebration with friends after they changed plans?", "text": "So, there are numerous nuances to this question. \n\nEvery time we hang out, they're drinking. It's like they can't go out without having liquor. I don't drink, so I don't understand the near-constant need to drink. \n\nWhenever we go out around someone's birthday, it ends up as \"We're paying for X's dinner, because it's their birthday.\" Well, this burns me for a few reasons. First is that my friends make a LOT more money than me, but secondly, they always pick something expensive, where I can barely afford food for me, much less an appetizer, drinks, and an entree for the birthday person. Third, it's always something I won't eat. 95% of the time, it's Asian. I'm limited on what I will eat because it will give me bathroom problems if it has too many spices. I'm limited to white rice and a bland meat, with salt and pepper. I do eat other things, and regret it later. An example of this was a friend chose Asian seafood for her birthday. I checked out the (expensive) menu and found one thing I could eat safely, teriyaki chicken and white rice. Birthday girl chose a family-style meal which started at $100, and contained literally NOTHING I could have. So I would've been paying upward of $40 after food, drinks, and tip for food I can't have. \n\nAnother thing is that we have different schedules. I work nights and they all have regular 9-to-5 jobs. When asked when were available to hang out, I'll give them a time, it's agreed on... then changed so I can't make it. This time, I suggested breakfast, because they I can go home to sleep, which THEY AGREED TO, then just today, they've changed it to a liquid lunch and karaoke and then a hard lunch, probably on an Asian place, based on the neighborhood. \n\nI feel like an asshole, mainly because they tell me I am. They tell me I don't try (which is bullshit, I think, as I try many cuisines because I like to eat, and I want to know what I CAN'T eat), but it seems like they're outvoting me as a group to do what the majority wants. Which isn't a problem, I just don't understand why they ask when everyone can make it, then change it so I'm the ONLY person who can't make it. \n\nI made it a New Year's resolution to try to see my friends more, but this situation made me realize exactly WHY I don't like to see them. They always make me feel excluded, mainly because I can't afford to do the things they do (they all just had a spa day together that I found out about via whatsapp), and say \"That's okay, you don't have to come.\" \n\nI feel like, with the spa day, and everything else, just stop inviting me. Hell, I've been trying to extricate myself from these people for years, and it always comes down to \"/U/notastepfordwife, you're not trying, you're kinda selfish, but we love you.\" I feel like, if I'm the asshole, they wouldn't want to be around me, either, right? But they want to hang out, and I keep doubting myself. I know I'm an asshole in some respects, but is this one on me? Am I just not doing all I can to be a good friend?\n\nHelp me out, here. If I'm the asshole, I want to be better than that. But if I'm not, I gotta figure out how to tell them that I AM trying, but I'm not feeling included.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2zX5IZY4U74RAsvROg9IBm3oUGVYrfQd", "post_id": "b7v0uq", "action": {"description": "not going to church with my gf after her dad died", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 121}, "title": "AITA for not going to church with my gf after her dad died?", "text": "So neither me or my gf are very religious. I'm not at all and she goes every now and then, mostly on xmas and easter. Her family has always been really religious though and she did go to church with them alot when they wanted her to.\n\nHer dad died a couple months ago and it's something that she's been trying to get a handle on. I'm there for her and want to be there for her...at least until she asked me to go to church with her on Easter. Apparently she went on easter with her family every year. She can't fly home for Easter this year and asked me if I could go with her to church. I said no because one, I don't want to sit through the entire service, and two, I don't believe in any of that stuff. I told her that we don't even need to go now seeing as she's not all that religious. It turned into a huge fight about \"traditions\" and now she's crying and sulking. Look, I feel bad, but I just don't see the point. She even said she doesn't really want to go. Am I wrong for not bending my beliefs and refusing church?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 121, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 121}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "qKWX4xlSaZHJdBJOY0C7eLUGCw6sgpo8", "post_id": "9uxsta", "action": {"description": "telling my gf I dont want to hear her complain", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for telling my gf i dont want to hear her complain?", "text": "So this has been an ongoing thing for about 3 years, I've spent so much time trying to decide if I'm justified or not. My gf complains about the smallest things, if I touch her foot getting out of bed, if I want the brighter lights on because I'm doing something but she wants the room darker(she generally likes a darker room and I'm the opposite), random people being assholes on the road. I used to be the same way and i spend a lot of time not saying anything to her because it always turns into an argument. I no longer let the small things bug me, if someone's following too close while I'm driving I move over and let them go that kind of stuff. I am 31 she is 24 and I try to be understanding that some things she just hasn't figured out yet but I also don't feel like I shouldn't have to just listen to a constant stream of complaint daily, I try to tell her that life would be a lot easier if she learned to let little things go but she doesn't take any criticism well so it's like my only choices are an argument or to STFU.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MX0I2cbGeLPKxMdPg4ww7Y5mgYPRVG6B", "post_id": "ar8coa", "action": null, "title": "AITA guy in comments blocks me because reddit mobile is a bitch", "text": " \n\nThere was this post on [r/rant](https://www.reddit.com/r/rant) where a girl said her supportive grandpa died and she couldnt tell him she got accepted to 2 schools. (GIC=guy in comments M=me)\n\n​\n\nGIC: im confused why are you upset?\n\nM: she cant tell her grandpa because he died :(\n\nGIC: she shouldve stated that\n\nM:she did are you dyslexic?\n\n​\n\nthen i got a notification that said something like GIC apparently was dyslexic or along those lines but reddit mobile fucked up and i couldnt see the comments when i went to the post, but the \"she shouldve stated that\" comment appeared so i replied the other comment to that deleting the first one. GIC then proceeded to tell me to \"stop being an asshole\". I then asked \"how am i an asshole?\". GIC then said \"i dont have to defend myself from assholes like you so instead im going to block you.\" and so he did. im still ocnfused on how am i an asshole when i couldnt see his comments thanks to reddit mobile not working properly because an auto-update wont work.\n\n​\n\nAm i the asshole? (i probably am thanks to reddit mobile being a fucking bitch)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "6BFeIsWhsYreHh9n77MdAR3Lxh6decMA", "post_id": "a2ovwg", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my girlfriend due to lack of sex", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I broke up with my girlfriend due to lack of sex?", "text": "I (23/M) have been friends with my girlfriend (22/F) for about a year now, and have been together for about five months. For the most part everything is good, she's a very kind and loving person, and in most aspects I'm happy with the relationship. However, there are a few issues, the most prominent of which is the fact that we haven't had sex in the five months that we've been together (Or the month or two that we had been dating.) \n\nWe've gotten close once towards the beginning of the relationship. Sparing the details, during foreplay she told a joke that we both laughed at for a while, and as the laughter died down she mentioned that it killed her mood, and we could pick up where we left off another time. So, we stopped. It was no big deal, sometimes you're just not in the mood. \n\nAfterwards though any time she started to flirt with me heavily and I would respond in kind, she would respond with something along the lines of 'Hard pass' or 'Down boy,' because 'she's just teasing.' Being rejected so frequently and exclusively is doing a number on my self esteem, and the constant teasing is leaving me pretty frustrated. Strangely, she's frequently mentioned how 'healthy' our sex life is to our mutual friends.\n\nNow, I'm someone who has a high sex drive when I'm in a relationship, and I really need physical intimacy. A decent part of a relationship to me is the feeling of being wanted, and expressing your want for your partner.  I've tried talking to her about it a few times trying to figure out her reason for never wanting to get intimate in case it's something that we can work on, but she has yet to give me a reason beyond just 'not being in the mood.'\n\nConsidering everything else in the relationship is very good I feel like it would be extremely shallow of me to break up with her over sex. But, it's a serious source of stress in my life at the moment. With her either unsure of the problem, or unwilling to talk to me about what the problem is, I don't see it getting any better.\n\nWIBTA?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fU6ecnWi1mPUxuOxBdflBdz8SDr8JYF6", "post_id": "ap86d8", "action": {"description": "being uncomfortable around my friend after she asked me out", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being uncomfortable around my friend after she asked me out?", "text": "Obligatory notice that this is a throwaway.\n\nSo I (18f) was asked out by my friend (20f) a few days ago. I'm openly bisexual so her gender is not the problem. She approached me when our whole friend group was hanging out and told me that she \"really liked me\" and then waited for a response. I had kind of suspected this was going to happen for a few days, but I wasn't sure and hadn't prepared a response, so I just went \"sorry, I prefer us as friends\" essentially, but with all the grace of someone putting their foot in their mouth. She took it gracefully, and before I left came up to me to make sure I was still okay hanging out with her, which I am. \n\nHOWEVER, the past few days since she has asked me out, she has been pushing our friendship in a more touchy-feely direction than it had been before. To clarify, that means things like asking for hugs, sitting very close to me at every opportunity (thighs touching). Now, I am a fairly physically affectionate person and have that kind of friendship with some other people in our friend-group, but since she's only doing this after she told me she liked me, I'm kind of uncomfortable. \n\nSome other things that might be important to note:\n\n1. This friend-group also contains my ex boyfriend, and we have managed to regain our friendship and be okay around each other, even though we are nowhere near as close as we used to be\n2. The girl who asked me out is someone who I had planned to live with, along with two other girls, in an apartment-style dorm next year, and we are currently filling out our housing applications for next year.\n3. Even though the rest of our friends might have overheard our various conversations I don't have any idea if they actually did and I have not asked them their opinions on the situation.\n\nSo, I'm feeling very strange right now and turn to you to tell me if I'm being an asshole to my friend.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gWR5Rqz9OvxdFTcZWhwMikBupgMDNWPA", "post_id": "ayq3ij", "action": {"description": "still wanting to sleep with another woman", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for still wanting to sleep with another woman?", "text": "Context. Very happily married, with a great sex life. Both in our 40s now.\n\nWife and I were away for a sexy weekend, drank some champagne, started talking about regrets. I admitted that I regretted not being able to have slept with a very attractive woman I met about a month after my wife and I first started dating. She was visiting the place I work on business (from another country) and literally in town for 10 days. I offered to show her around town before she flew home. There was ridiculous chemistry the entire day, we ended up kissing very enthusiastically at the airport when I dropped her off to fly back to her country, never to see her again. Wife was very blas\u00e9 about it, it's not an issue.\n\n​\n\nMy wife is also very attractive but this other woman was foreign, gorgeous and, inexplicably, wanted very much to have sex with me - she said as much. I declined (with great difficulty) and have always harboured a regret. I've never been unfaithful before, except for this one time, which was only kissing.\n\n​\n\nAITA for holding on to this? IF I was put in the same room as the other woman now, I cannot promise I would not go through with it. It's almost irrational.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "DMqkoSs629hBbOBAhSh7fW336w7tv9EB", "post_id": "apcb7t", "action": {"description": "telling staff my roommate/friend cut herself", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I tell staff my roommate/friend cut herself?", "text": "We're in a program that helps autistic adults become independent. This program takes place in an apartment complex in which we each get one roommate (2 people per apartment, 6 people in total). We've been dealing with drama regarding a \"client\" here for weeks. He's been making romantic advances on my roommate (including touching her ass), has called me hurtful names, and treats his roommate and everyone else horribly. We'll call him Mike (not his real name for privacy). \n\nWe recently found out that Mike is being discharged from the program--much to our (me, my roommate's, and two of our guy friends') relief. He initially lied to his roommate (one of the guy friends) saying he was getting discharged from his primary care. However, Mike's case manager wishes to fight the discharge--not that the staff of the program will agree to it as they are tired of Mike's bullshit. \n\nDue to the mounting drama, her depression, and people spreading rumors  (Mike, and a few others most likely), my roommate cut herself for (presumably) the very first time. I didn't see the cutting happen, but my roommate showed me the cut on her arm that she had made and was on the phone with the local Crisis team. I'm very close with her to the point where we're like sisters, and I'm very concerned for her. She's opened up to me in the past, and told me she has made a few suicide attempts, and that she has depression. I'm basing my suggestion on the rule (?)  that \"if a friend tells you a 'secret' that is potentially dangerous to their health, tell an authority figure\". In our case the \"authority figure\" would be staff. \n\nI want to tell the staff about this incident, but I also don't want to butt my head into business I should not be involved in (even though Mike has done hurtful things towards me as well but I have already informed the staff of that). The longer Mike is here, the more I feel my roommate will suffer and possibly cut herself even more, maybe even lash out at me or one of our guy friends if it gets to that extremity. She's already barred him from being in our apartment and blocked his number, but who knows. \n\nWIBTA if I told staff that my roommate cut herself, even if she told them already? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lfJZu6Vj8HwdtM0n9mE7csKDLPlofnmh", "post_id": "b74mor", "action": {"description": "adopting a rescue dog", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for adopting a rescue dog?", "text": " WIBTA for adopting a rescue dog? Based off the title it probably seems obvious, but like always the back story can change it up. (I broke a rule so I fixed it and am reposting) \n\nMy aunt breeds Australian Shepherds. She's a responsible breeder that only does one litter a year, is very careful about lineage and breeding for health along with the typical pure bred traits. She does it as a side business and it helps pay for stuff around the farm and house that they wouldn't be able to afford to get fixed otherwise. She's also just an amazing hardworking woman. When I was nine/ten, she gave me (not sure if my parents paid or not- never asked) my first dog, who was my rock through various issues that come with a rough childhood. I was a kid and made mistakes, but I truly loved this dog and cared for her as best I could. She had to be put down about a year ago now due to age related health issues, and lived to the ripe old age of fifteen.\n\nMy BF and I are getting ready to move into a townhouse, and we'll be looking for an ESA for me for anxiety and depression issues, and as such I'm trying to get a dog that's under a year to make it easier with training. Here's where the issue comes in. I desperately want an Aussie again. The place we're going to has the backyard opening up into a park, and I'm working to keep to a strict schedule that would work with the high energy of an Aussie. Part of me fully believes in the \"adopt don't shop\" mindset, but the other part of me wants an Aussie again. I had thought of adopting from an Australian Shepherd rescue, but now I can't imagine telling this woman that gave me my first dog that I chose to get my next one from somewhere else. And honestly, with her skill in picking personalities of even puppies, I feel like she would be best for getting me a good match.\n\nThe compromise I came to was that once we're settled in and I've been able to faithfully stick to a schedule that would suit a high energy dog, I would go with whatever came up first- either she had a spare puppy that didn't get bought or a rescue Aussie that matched my needs came up. But in the end, if the rescue comes up first, AITA for getting a rescue instead of asking to buy a puppy from my aunt? I know she would save me a puppy from the next litter if I asked.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rwsohcsk8eEYYLn7y9yfkB6qorcMDsfM", "post_id": "b33js6", "action": {"description": "being upset over a gift at Christmas", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for being upset over a gift at Christmas?", "text": "Basically last year after graduating High school I decided instead of going into college or the military, that I would be moving up to New York City for a gap year. My parents weren't very supportive of this decision and said that they wouldn't help me financially to move up there. I took it upon myself to work a fast food job to save enough money to move, and I did. I finally moved up, got a job, live in my own apartment (that I pay for), have a girlfriend, financial security, etc. \n\nA few months go by and it's Christmas time, my parents are nice enough to buy me a train ticket to come down and visit for a week. It was a great time, I see my friends, family, and I have an overall fun time altogether. That is until Christmas rolls around. Everybody was getting gifts except me, which didn't really make me sad, it's all about being around family that makes me happy. Finally at the end, I get a gift from my Mom and Step-dad. I was a bit surprised because I wasn't really expecting a gift. I open it and it's a book, titled \"Manual to Manhood.\" Inside there were instructions on everything that makes a man a man. How to change a flat, how to put on deodorant, how to pick up women, etc. Everything was dumbed down into two pages each, and the information in there were things I already knew how to do. I was a bit upset at the gift because I felt like my parents didn't think I was doing a good job or *manly* enough, or knew how to do anything. I didn't get into an angry fit, but they saw that I was visibly upset and thought that it was ungrateful that I didn't like their gift. \n\nEventually once I got back to New York I ended up tossing it because there was really nothing I could do with it. \nWas I just overreacting asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mv7242wHWl2cyxt4KwxK7HHLFDtcFMI0", "post_id": "b29rsb", "action": {"description": "apologizing to a friend for past behavior, only to be blocked", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for apologizing to a friend for past behavior, only to be blocked?", "text": "As the title says, I recently got back in touch with a friend who I haven't talked to in a while. I felt I was extremely clingy and toxic back when we were still talking and I apologized to them. They said they were confused and they had no idea as to what I was talking about. I explained it to them and I felt shameful for having to do so, but they seemed to take it well at first. They told me I was okay with them and I took that as them accepting my apology, so I tried to change the subject. They immediately said they had to go and I let them, but not before saying I'd \"talk to them later, I guess\". This was when I noticed they saw this message and proptly blocked me. I don't know if that's my fault due to the accidental sarcastic tone in my last reply, but I have a feeling it might be, and I'm just completely oblivious.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pM0UBHCinZ7Y2yCmSlOfdAV1XmVvM9V2", "post_id": "b894da", "action": {"description": "hating work", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for hating work?", "text": "Throwaway as my friends who think I'm an asshole for this know my reddit account.\n\nSo for pretty much my entire life I've despised/hated work. I've never understood how anyone can enjoy it, having limited holidays per year, having to show up to a location or work remotely every day without fail. I remember as a child asking my dad when his summer holidays were and being confused/horrified that he didn't get any.\n\nThe funny thing is, I actually have a job I really enjoy.\n\nI'll get the part out of the way that I'm sure most people will call my an asshole for. I live in a country with strong labour laws, I have (for employment) very good annual leave/sick leave compared to the rest of the world. I have a job for a company that I believe is helping the world, I get a good wage and only have to work 40 hours a week. I enjoy what I do, I'm good at what I do, always get praise from management. My team is awesome and I'm good friends with a few of them, no working drama. Pretty sweet right?\n\nWell every day I still feel absolute dread that I have to wake up to an alarm. Realising that I'll be doing this for decades to come is horrifying to me. I've more than once thought about just killing myself to avoid it, not because I'm depressed, I'm not at all. We work so much of our lives and get so little time off in comparison. If I'm sick, or want to take a holiday, I have to inform my work, if I don't I get fired. If I quit my job I lose my house as I can't pay the mortgage. It doesn't help that I feel like I could do my weeks worth of work in about two days but I have to come in every day or I get fired (I have asked my manager for work from home days, that's really a no go and most jobs don't allow it, I've looked extensively). \n\nI legitimately stayed at University for three years longer than I should have just to get the four months off at the end of the year, I used to work multiple jobs during the year to save up enough so I wouldn't have to work over the four months off. That's pretty much impossible to do with a full time job, nobody wants someone who'll work less than 10 months a year.\n\nWhenever I share even the softest version of my view with people they freak the fuck out, talk about how I owe everything to the job, how I need to be a team player and just do it. When I tell people I'm strictly 9-5 and don't check emails or take calls out of hours they also freak out and tell me I'm letting my employer down. I keep this stuff to myself now.\n\nI wish I could be doing anything else. When I have time off I read books, go for walks, go for runs, try new hobbies, watch movies, do volunteer work (not forced to do so I enjoy it significantly more). \n\nSo, am I a huge asshole for hating the whole idea/structure of work?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aSZZdsBl6pHwZpNHwD1SkycU5aDnzUIh", "post_id": "b5q9df", "action": {"description": "telling my girlfriend I'm uncomfortable with some of her IG friends", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my girlfriend I\u2019m uncomfortable with some of her IG friends?", "text": "My girlfriend and I have been together for a couple years now and she and I dated around before we met. She still has some of the guys she\u2019s dated and hooked up with on her IG which didn\u2019t really bother me much until last night. \n\nSometimes I see her like one of their posts or something and it gets to me a little bit. I deleted all of my former hookups from my social media because I figured why still have them on there?\n\nEither way, last night she was showing me a picture she thought was funny on IG and when she did a dude she hooked up with before we met sent her a message. I didn\u2019t say anything about it, just figured she\u2019d tell me and I didn\u2019t see the contents of the message. \n\nBut she didn\u2019t mention it and seemed a little protective of her phone which made me suspicious. I didn\u2019t go through her phone but I did mention it this morning and asked that she be more transparent. When she asked why I told her I saw the guy messaged her and it made me uncomfortable. In fact her still having dudes she\u2019s hooked up with as IG friends made me uncomfortable. She got irritated and told me she\u2019d delete them. I told her she didn\u2019t have to do all that and now things seem awkward and I think she feels like I\u2019m an asshole.\n\nI\u2019m not sure if I\u2019m coming off as controlling and I\u2019m not sure why seeing that one message bothered me so much.\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EhPYQ9HFGza690PZyIbQCSf4D6XHGC8R", "post_id": "asxlns", "action": {"description": "being bother by my friend's use of his military discount", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for being bother by my friend's use of his military discount?", "text": "A longtime friend of mine got a desk job working for the DoD, and subsequently was issued a military ID. He now makes sure to ask everywhere he visits if they have a military discount, even if it means saving him 20 cents. \n\nHonestly I can't quite explain why it bothers me. I've never served, I'm not the one losing any money, and it is up to the business if they want to give a military discount or not. I guess it just feels disingenuous because I wouldn't consider him 'military' just because he is employed by the DoD.\n\nI haven't said anything to him and don't think I would (especially since it is such a small thing), but I'm genuinely wondering if people think this is just me being a jealous asshole and making excuses for it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "p6RUdEKc9ZCmuY3gsfDZ3CFJOcRPL6x5", "post_id": "aoa778", "action": {"description": "being so angry at him", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for being so angry at him", "text": "So myself(27)and my bf (31) moved from our home to the U.K. in April 2018. We stayed in a friends for a few weeks then found a place. Within a week I got a job. My boyfriend worked for a business in our home country full time. This business is also in the uk so he continued to work for them when we moved to the uk however his days of work and hours have not been full time and he often goes a week or even two without work. Obviously this is not ideal and hes been looking for full time work. However its now February 2019 and he hasnt found another jobs. He has had 3 interviews and thats it. Im getting really frustrated and angry. We are both broke and to be truthful I feel hes not tried hard enough, for example hes only going for free career guidance next week after all these months. Plus I'm sick of getting up every morning and tiptoeing while he sleeps in. Hes smart and has a degree and I dont want him to neccessarily work in a low paid job and he says shops etc havent got back to him. But at this stage I dont really care if he does. Why am i working full time for shit money I didnt know there was a choice!?! I want to add he always has enough for rent and bills and doesnt borrow money so hes not relying on me but im just sick of us being broke.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "niTTej5tNCiKSDlx9hTspmQWmNMVulH3", "post_id": "b9doxo", "action": {"description": "stopping driving my daughter to visit her dad if he won't stop smoking inside while he has her", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I stopped driving my daughter to visit her dad if he won't stop smoking inside while he has her?", "text": "My mom picked my daughter up (less than a year old) after a visit with her dad. She said DD smelled like smoke and that she has never smelled like smoke after picking her up from his house or with me. He and I both smoke. I only smoke outside, with the door shut -even before daughter- and he smokes in his apartment. I suspect he typically doesnt smoke in his apartment for the few hours that she is with him because she has never smelled like smoke before, even to my nonsmoker mom. So that leads me to believe he smoked inside this last visit.\n\nI 100% do not believe I have any right to ask him not to stop smoking completely in his own apartment. The only exception being when DD is there. We all know cigarettes are toxic AF (and I really shouldnt be smoking at all), especially for developing children. My stance is that its lazy and selfish as hell not to go outside. I did not say that to him, nor insinuate it.\n\nI explained that shed never smelled like smoke before and for DD's health, please dont smoke inside while shes with him. I dont want her developing breathing issues because of his (and my) choices. She does not have a choice so we shouldn't be making choices for her that harm her. \n\nHis response : he smoked a lot the night before but didnt while she was there and didnt really say either way if hed be sure to go outside to smoke while DD is there.\n\nI didnt say this to him, but I dont really believe him. Hes smoked a lot the night before (evidence on the table) I've dropped her off with a different outcome.\n\nSo here's the actual WIBTA question. He has not made any effort to get his car fixed (hed much rather be chauffeured around) and I usually take DD for visits, with my mom doing pickup if I have to work and ex's parents occassionally helping. \n\nWIBTA if I stopped driving her over there if DD continues to come home smelling like smoke? If he makes other arrangements for p/u and d/o, I likely wouldn't keep her from him, but its doubtful hed do that.\n\n\nWe do not have an official custody in place, so he gets her when he can, but usually *only* when its convenient (which sometimes leads to weeks between visits, it's gotten a little better though). He pays a small amount in child support, usually late. Other than that and the short visits, doesnt do anything to contribute to DD's care. He makes very few sacrifices for DD (I'd say none, with the exception of small CS), the least he can do is take it outside when shes with him for a couple of hours.  I drive her to support the father daughter relationship, but don't want to if hes going to smoke inside. \n\n\nTL;DR : cigarettes are bad and dad wants to smoke inside for the few hours he has our <1 year old. I'm considering not driving her for the visits if he doesnt take it outside.\n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sLxRvW5LGHF7Kuk0du0QRGMom45B2cJK", "post_id": "9tosoz", "action": {"description": "going back on an agreement to let my friend keep living with me", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for going back on an agreement to let my friend keep living with me?", "text": "I have a little two bedroom house; for all the time I've owned it I've rented out my spare room to lodgers. \n\nBack in May, my friend asked me if he could move in for the summer because he wanted to move to our town and get a job before moving in with a mutual friend in September. I've tried to avoid living with friends but, as it was just until September, I said it was fine. \n\nSince he moved in in May, he's been an awful lodger. I'm not going to go into it all here but he is always late with rent, hasn't helped out barely at all since he got here 5 months ago (ie; cleaned the bathroom once, that's it). He's not managed to find anywhere to live with our friend and she's been put off by my experience so doesn't want to live with him anyway. \n\nA few days ago, after a while telling me he'd be out by November 1st, he said his backup accommodation had fallen through so could he stay here for a few months more, or until he finds somewhere else to live? I panicked and said yes but, on reflection, I don't think I can cope with any more of this uncertainty - or even living with him, to be honest! WIBTA if I gave notice and asked him to move out before Christmas? \n\nOn the one hand, 6-7 weeks is plenty of notice and he has been an objectively awful lodger, but on the other hand he is my friend and I don't know what he'd do if he couldn't live here. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lD08zn2zYd1jhohnTPjKgKoDKdn1Gwev", "post_id": "b725mk", "action": {"description": "going to a paid gig instead of volunteering like I promised I would do", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "WIBTA for going to a paid gig instead of volunteering like I promised I would do?", "text": "So I have a very good friend that wanted a group of us to volunteer for her favorite charity as a present to her for her birthday. I said yes but completely forgot the day which she told me she signed us up for. She asked about a month ago. A few weeks ago, I got approached to work for that same evening for a catering company. It\u2019s a ton of money for super easy work. I said yes to that, because I did forgot that we were supposed to volunteer. I don\u2019t want to volunteer and need to the money right now. Am I an asshole for telling my friend that I don\u2019t want to volunteer?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OMCAml8M46SmFkBOQvTx0k16FgxpFhUm", "post_id": "aby004", "action": {"description": "getting mad at someone for ringing our doorbell", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at someone for ringing our doorbell?", "text": "This happened over a year ago.\n\nI have a little brother who had just turned 3 at the time. Someone in my school, let\u2019s call him Alfred, lives in my apartment building. Alfred know that I had a baby brother. One night at about 9 PM, he forgot his keys, so he rang our doorbell, and this nearly woke my little brother up. After letting him in, I texted him, saying something along the lines of \u201cWhat the hell, you almost woke up my little brother,\u201d to which he replied, \u201clmao rip.\u201d\n\nI\u2019d say that Alfred was an asshole for saying \u201clmao rip,\u201d but I\u2019m not sure if I\u2019m an asshole or not, since I don\u2019t know if it\u2019s reasonable for him to ring our doorbell at that time when he knows I have a little brother.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ippyn53L18Uv7Eizi0UjEWq9FzInVGTo", "post_id": "b00e7a", "action": {"description": "turning up at a guys house after he ghosted me", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 18}, "title": "WIBTA.. For turning up at a guys house after he ghosted me", "text": "So been bugging me for a week now. Was seeing this guy for a few months, I thought everything was going great. Had a text conversation with him late at night, both made a few jokes, said goodnight. Not heard anything back from him since that night. No signs of an argument. Been blocked on WhatsApp, I've tried ringing won't connect so I presume he's also blocked my texts. Would I be out of order to turn up at his door to find out what's gone on", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 18}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "wX8Qsx2JcZ0kIh6Nv2OraFtAmhJ8cgP2", "post_id": "av9i8b", "action": null, "title": "AITA: My coworker wants me to ask her to do her job", "text": "Obligatory first post/mobile user. \n\nShort-ish\n\nI work in a small/medium office. I assist our sales team with paperwork and with any general requests that basically anyone in the company has. I have a coworker that has the same job as me. She is actually the person who trained me in this position. \n\nA little while ago she was given a task which has her making some sales calls but she was told very clearly that our main duties come first. Over time she has started focusing more and more on the sales calls and has been doing less than her fair share of our work. This has been fine for a while because we weren't terribly busy and I was able to handle it myself.\n\nIn the last few weeks there has been an uptick in our workload which has kept me late on average 30-45 minutes with the max being an hour. She comes in late and never leaves a minute after she is allowed to clock out. \n\nToday I had enough and asked if I missed something and she was now a full salesperson and if that meant I was solo (I confirmed beforehand that she was not). She said she just thought there was no harm in me asking her whenever I wanted help with something and the rest of the time she would leave it to me. She just assumed I was on board with this because I had been doing everything myself for so long. \n\nAITA for being a little pissed about this and wanting to report it to the higher ups? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ybjuQoCrSIVlA6IZhbH7ngqTJzjnFOIR", "post_id": "b52rg0", "action": {"description": "questioning the mental health of a very rude and incompetent employee", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for questioning the mental health of a very rude and incompetent employee?", "text": "Fairly recently, I called my local Starbucks, asking some questions. The young man on the other end had a real grouchy attitude towards me the whole time and was very (seemingly deliberately) unhelpful, responding to each question with a snotty, \u201cI don\u2019t know.\u201d Near the end of the conversation, I said the word, \u201cStarbucks\u201d, and he responded by saying, **\u201cI don\u2019t know what that is.\u201d** Now just to be 100% clear: A **Starbucks** employee, employed by **Starbucks**, just told me that he *doesn\u2019t know what* ***Starbucks*** *is.* He hung up on me not long after.\n\nIf I **had** to guess, I would say that he was just being a smart ass, not serious. But I couldn\u2019t be certain. The next time I went to my local shop to get some work done on my laptop, I came across that employee (recognizable by his distinctive Southern accent). I found my way to his supervisor, and had a private discussion with her.\n\nI told her, in a very serious manner, that I am coming to her with a concern that the rude employee (who we\u2019ll refer to as Jamie) might be in the early stages of developing some form of mental disability, such as early Alzheimer\u2019s or Dementia. I tell her how during our conversation, he insisted profusely that he has no idea what the name of his own company is, which made her eyes grow as wide as saucers. I talked about how my aunt, who developed Alzheimer\u2019s at a young age, similarly started randomly forgetting basic things like this, and how I\u2019m concerned Jamie might be in the same boat. I told her that tactfully discussing Jamie\u2019s mental health with him, giving him tests, or recommending doctors to him would be a helpful course of action. She seemed extremely concerned, and thanked me for letting her know.\n\nI saw Jamie called into the back by his supervisor, and he was gone for a good fifteen or twenty minutes. When he returned, his face was as red as a beet, and he looked embarrassed beyond the imagination. Later that day, when he served me, he angrily questioned me why I lied saying he was crazy, and I responded, \u201cYou told me you don\u2019t know your own company\u2019s name, and I took you at your word. I was just trying to help. What did you expect people to think about your mental state when you say something like that?\u201d AITA for thinking and doing this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "jwRrO6o6v55DSp7p3aaVBdVQaXZMlYjk", "post_id": "as80wi", "action": {"description": "being annoyed that someone I don't really like was invited to a game night I'm hosting", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed that someone I don\u2019t really like was invited to a game night I\u2019m hosting?", "text": "Recently some friends/coworkers and I have instituted a weekly game night. We rotate who hosts each week and this week is my turn to host. Tonight I was informed that another coworker, Sarah, was invited to come along. I wasn\u2019t being asked if it was ok, the invite had already been extended.\n\nMy problem is that this person is kind of a lot as she\u2019s fairly socially awkward. She\u2019s nice enough but exhausting as she talks constantly, interrupts you to talk about her own stuff, asks the same questions over and over, etc. In addition, while we used to have a friendlier rapport, in recent years she has distanced herself to the point that we no longer converse unless it is work related. \n\nI\u2019m irritated that I wasn\u2019t consulted on whether she could be invited, especially because it\u2019s being held at my house. Am I an asshole for not wanting this admittedly harmless, albeit frustrating girl at my house?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "w21JMZbqL8SGXvSJbYutRruCdvXGAdHO", "post_id": "at8jxo", "action": {"description": "telling my girlfriend not to lie on her visa application", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my girlfriend not to lie on her visa application?", "text": "So my girlfriend is going to Australia for university and as part of her visa application, she has to declare whether she has hepatitis or not.\n\nNow I told her it would be better if she was truthful about her chronic hepatitis condition and she agreed with me initially, but after finishing her online application, she now realizes she has to go and get a hepatitis checkup done (I assume it's because the Australian government wants to know her virus levels in order to determine whether they should let her study over there). \n\nShe then starts to blame me for telling her to declare it and that it would be my fault if she didn't get her visa. She also brings up the fact that every time I tell her to be truthful, everything ends up going to shit like the one time she told her parents about our relationship and they made it very clear they did not like me during their holiday in my country where I was their host (which brought her almost to tears for the entire duration of that holiday).\n\nNow, I never forced her to listen to me and I was simply giving a suggestion and stating that if she were to be caught by the Australian authorities, it would be far worse. Nevertheless, she's crying that now more people will know she has a condition she was born with and is saying she should have never listened to my dumbass advice even though I assured her patient confidentiality was a thing. It doesn't help that the need for that specific medical checkup is written on her application unlike on her peers which only states a general medical checkup requirement.\n\nTL;DR AITA for telling my girlfriend to declare her chronic hepatitis condition on her visa application especially since she's super worried her visa will get declined and that everyone will know about it after she's been trying so hard to keep it a secret?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hq6iokj2yH6R65GaYu9SlOj75GNGd0Og", "post_id": "b2c9ak", "action": {"description": "disembarking a plane before it was my \"turn\" with a toddler", "pronormative_score": 20, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for disembarking a plane before it was my \"turn\" with a toddler", "text": "A few months go I was travelling with my husband and 3 year old daughter. She is 100% potty trained.\n\n​\n\nWith about 30 minutes left in the flight I took my daughter to the bathroom one last time. I told her it was the last chance to go before we landed because we would need to sit with our belts on. So, we went, she did her business, and we went back to our seats.\n\n​\n\nEverything was good until we were about to land and my daughter started saying she had to use the washroom again. I said she would need to wait until we landed because it was unsafe. Once we got on the ground we had to sit and wait for our gate. At this point our daughter started getting antsy saying she has to go \"so bad\". I decided that once the flight got to the gate I would take her and my husband could meet us at baggage. I was hoping people would understand.\n\n​\n\nWell, airports right... we continue to be delayed for another 10 or so minutes and the FA comes on to tell us that a few people had connections and asked people to remain in their seats until those people disembarked and then everyone else could go. At this point my kid is squirming uncontrollably, so I decided I would get up with the connection people and run her to the bathroom. We get to the gate and I get up (along with everyone else lol..). I kindly ask people if I can run past. People get out of the way and I ran off with her. Husband stayed on for our carry ons and with everyone else.\n\n​\n\nWe made it to the bathroom and daughter went. Was definitely not a false alarm. We went down to the baggage and got there as others from our flight were starting to come. We were one of the first. Husband was still not there so our row likely had not disembarked yet. \n\n​\n\nShortly after, a woman came up to me and started telling me it must be nice to push others out of the way instead of waiting my turn. \"I'll be lucky to get my luggage first\", and telling me that I was rude for disembarking before everyone else (we were the first off the plane). I honestly didn't know what to say, I was actually kind of shocked someone would act that way. She walked away and stood on the other side of the baggage claim throwing daggers at me. I was pretty embarrassed and a few other people seemed to give me \"looks\" as they noticed I was there before they were.\n\n​\n\nSo I am wondering, AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 11, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 20, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5akowk0zapcvYBJ2Ygj7ElFXiXmKoUpa", "post_id": "b8f6k9", "action": {"description": "ending the pay-it-forward chain at the fast food drive thru and then spending my savings/unspent lunch money at Goodwill", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for ending the pay-it-forward chain at the fast food drive thru and then spending my savings/unspent lunch money at Goodwill?", "text": "McDonald's drive-thru, 12:05pm.  I'm two cars back from the window for literally 10 minutes.  Because of the curve, I can see the lady in her car that's causing the holdup.  Finally there's some payment exchanged and then the lady points over shoulder at the car in from of me.  More payment, and the lady pulls forward.  \n  \nCar in fron of me pulls up and the worker waives off the person in this car and points at the first car.  Well the person in the second car points over at me and they exchange payment.  \n  \nMy turn.  \"She bought yours.\"  I'm about to tell him I'd like to buy the person behind me's meal.  Or at least $8 towards it since that was my total.  I figure I was prepared to pay $8, so no big deal.  But I don't say that.  I was prepared to pay for my own, and so is the car behind me, right?  And that's gotta be annoying for the worker to keep telling people, right?  So I just say \"Oh, ok then.\"  And I pull forward to collect my free lunch.  \n  \nThen I eat my free burger and fries on the way to Goodwill.  Thought I'd poke around for some shirts before I go back to the office.  No luck on the shirts, but they DO have a quesadilla maker.  It's $9.  \n  \nSo am I an asshole for using that free lunch money to buy a quesadilla maker instead of paying it forward to all the other people in the drive thru line who also had to wait?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fMWaeSfyOb7k01fGKZEH3hLw9yZZTBvu", "post_id": "aj5okc", "action": {"description": "being mad at my friend for bailing out right before our competition", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being mad at my friend for bailing out right before our competition?", "text": "I'll try to make this short. Me and my friend are making a 3d game for a competition we entered. I've been making most of the game for a few months now. I get really nervous when I'm alone talking, so when hes around me I calm down a lot and I can speak confidently. I really want to win it, so I needed him there. Apparently, he got into a bit of trouble and needed to clear stuff up. I have no problem with that, but he sprang it on me 2 days before the competition (this Fri). I understand that he couldn't get there, but even before he got into that stuff, he didn't sign the form that shows he will be attended. I've reminded him multiple times. I know he couldn't help it, but I feel like he could've at least warned me ahead of time, which he could have. AITA for being mad?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LJnqp2XrTo3QiDPOiY1SPOeJJUWqTnxk", "post_id": "b9u5he", "action": {"description": "cutting ties with a \"friend\" on FB", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I cut ties with a \"friend\" on FB?", "text": "Anonymous, since I think she's on here. Bear with me, this might get long but I'll try to only post the facts. \n\nAbout a year ago a girl I knew in high school (almost 15 years ago) friended me on Facebook. We only kind of knew each other through a school club but I figured sure, I'll add her. She started messaging me occasionally and it was nice to catch up, but I still consider us more of acquaintances than real friends.\n\nThis girl has a lot of drama. Her husband has lupus, she's got a myriad of medical issues (supposedly), she's constantly in-between jobs. At one point last year, shortly after I friended her on social media, she was doing a fund-raiser for something medical for her husband. Since I allot about $200 a month for charitable giving, I sent it to her, anonymously. I figured I could give money to someone in need that month instead of my usual organizations and yay, good karma and all that. (I also pointed her in the direction of state and government assistance programs, but IDK if she ever looked at them.)\n\nBut somehow she found out it was me. Since then, once or twice a month, she's asking me for money. Her furnace broke. She needs money to buy wood for their fireplace. She is in debilitating pain and her insurance doesn't cover the bills. She just needs $35 to cover food for the week or she won't be able to eat. Her car broke down. They sold their house in Texas and moved to Wyoming (who *does* that?) and the new house has more problems than they realized. You get the idea. At one point she even asked for like $2500 in startup capital for a bakery she plans to open...\n\nShe always promises she'll pay me back. I'm not that stupid. But since I already plan to spend $200 each month helping others, at first I figured it wasn't a big deal. Lately, however, I'm starting to think that it's just enabling her. The last time she asked for money I told her that $50 was all I could give her and that I can't be her ATM or bank, because even little amounts add up and I have my own family and kids to take care of. I told her I'm seriously done after this, that I wished her the best but I'm tapped out financially and emotionally and I'm just done.\n\nWell, guess who just got a message. She only needs $80 this time because she hasn't slept in 2 weeks and her husband is keeping her up because he's in pain and his disability check hasn't come in... I'm just so over it. Reddit, WIBTA if I just block her without saying anything? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fY4501XlwgWGnSe3aiOGJ8TZAmEgrrRd", "post_id": "amuspw", "action": {"description": "not accepting a free soda", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For not accepting a free soda?", "text": "So this experience happened about 5 minutes ago and has me questioning if I\u2019m an asshole. I\u2019m sitting in the airport playing on my phone minding my business when this adorable little toddler comes by and accidentally kicks my soda bottle over (cap was on, no harm no foul.) He immediately and profusely apologized and I assured him I wasn\u2019t worried about it in the slightest, but he walked away through the terminal and said something along the lines of, \u201cI\u2019ll get you a replacement.\u201d I tried to shout after him that that wasn\u2019t necessary, but I guess he didn\u2019t hear me. He showed back up with a soda and he tried to hand it to me, but I told him I couldn\u2019t accept it because it honestly didn\u2019t feel right accepting an apology for something that was so trivial. He looked sad that I didn\u2019t accept it and asked if it was because it wasn\u2019t the same flavor drink. I felt really bad instantly because it wasn\u2019t about that at all. He then walked back to his family and that was the end of it. But I still feel pretty guilty for not accepting something he spent money on specifically for me.\n\nSo reddit, an I the asshole? Should I have just accepted the drink and smiled and thanked him?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "avY9bd5AKqqg3cMuT4xMHHUVSxhSCTYp", "post_id": "ap1mj4", "action": {"description": "always asking my boyfriend to turn his laptop sound and brightness down when I'm trying to sleep and for telling him how anxious, trapped and irritated ASMR makes me when that is his guiltiest pleasure", "pronormative_score": 108, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for always asking my boyfriend to turn his laptop sound and brightness down when I'm trying to sleep and for telling him how anxious, trapped and irritated ASMR makes me when that is his guiltiest pleasure?", "text": "So we just moved in together, and I knew already his bedtime routine is to watch YouTube, or listen to ASMR, or just be on his laptop in general. I wasn't sure how this was going to go, because my bedtime routine is the total opposite. I need silence and darkness.\n\nI let him watch his stuff, but it still bothers me every night. I usually end up asking him to turn it down, turn the brightness down, roll over, go under the covers, put earphones in, or something. I can tell he doesn't like it.\n\nWhat's worse is when he listens to ASMR, but primarily only whispering or some kind of vocal ASMR. I actually don't mind general background sounds, but I guess I have misophonia when it comes to whispering. I feel extremely uncomfortable, unsettled, fidgety, anxious, and like I need to scratch my brain or something. I found a research study done on misophonia and ASMR about how similar people feel, and I showed it to him. He immediately rolled away from me and put earphones in.\n\nAm I the asshole for pretty much telling him no whispering ASMR around me and always telling him to adjust his bedtime routine?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 97, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 11, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 108, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tkRlFqGGOmX29bZyYyQQbrqBrXhgA7rj", "post_id": "azkkds", "action": {"description": "snapping at my family after they bathed into my room in the middle of the night", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for snapping at my family after they bathed into my room in the middle of the night?", "text": "On Friday night I had a sleepover with my friends after going ice skating for my birthday. We had a blast but stayed up pretty late (2:30ish). I got about 5-5 & 1/2 hours of sleep. I tried to take a small nap before dinner on Saturday to catch up on a little bit of sleep but my family was being very loud in the kitchen. I didn\u2019t get mad because as it wasn\u2019t time to be sleeping I didn\u2019t expect them to walk on eggshells for me.\n\nSo I maybe got ~10 minutes extra. Then last night I went to bed at 11:30 and popped two melatonins. My family came up at 12:10 to get ready. I slept through them getting ready for bed even though the bathroom is right next to my room and their rooms surround mine. I was asleep by 11:40 and had been asleep half an hour before they burst into my room.\n\nSo they burst into my room and my dad goes \u201cHi, finfp!\u201d And my sister trying to trick disoriented me goes \u201cIt\u2019s time to leave for vacation!\u201d As if it was actually next week. I immediately woke up to my family filing into my room and I yelled \u201cNo it\u2019s not, get out!\u201d \n\nAs I was now awake, and my family was still getting ready for bed, it was noisy in the upstairs and I have trouble sleeping (hence the melatonin) and sat in bed for about 10 minutes. My dad was yelling (not angrily, just being really loud when he spoke). So I yelled \u201cplease be quiet!\u201d And my sister, trying to keep the joke going, said: \u201cFinfp, it\u2019s time for spring break, chill.\u201d My dad said \u201cfinfp, settle down.\u201d \n\nI was fuming at this point, as they had run into my room, knowing full well I was sleeping and woke me up, then got mad because I was trying to go back to sleep. I got up and ran into my dads room and yelled at him and then ran back into my room. He says I was too mouthy and that it was just a joke.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vfwH1680I5T3GMweXChSOjYJe3pn7n2a", "post_id": "aoamn4", "action": {"description": "complaining formally about a bad lecturer", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for complaining formally about a bad lecturer?", "text": "Background story: i'm an international student in Australia and i do bachelors of Business in IS, and I decided to take summer school to fasten up the process of getting rid of this shit. To make it easier, the story happens at only one subject (Project Quality and Management, or PQM) and sadly i'm the one that does not let shit slide without say something. Also, the lEcTuReR i'll be calling \"R\".\n\n\\-\n\nDear oh dear, I do regret this term. OMFG.\n\n​\n\nthe unit itself has been poorly managed, as miscommunication from the first lecturer telling us that we wouldn't have midterms and leaving the institute on the fourth week, a third on the term. The following lecturer that assume greet us with a beautiful \"I don't know anything about this subject\" and my first reaction was saying \"then why are you here?\".\n\nPersonally speaking I don't like this guy, yet I wish it was only me not liking him. but we have several problems:\n\n* We had a major project coming up that we were meant to start at week 3. No information were given up until week 9, even though every class I was pretty much demanding info about it, in front of all students;\n* R couldn't bother to do much but read the slides whilst sit on his chair, with the arms crossed. But we all knew he came from  UOW (a prestigious university in NSW) as he loved to brag about it;\n* Students were deliberately coming late, or skipping classes, simply because we could read the slides ourselves. Mind you, Gov't will be on our asses and revoking our visas if we skip too many classes;\n* He was not even reading his own material, as we found material from other subject on his subfolder. Yes, we were meant to submit that for grades;\n* He was pretty much refusing using email to keep contact with students. \n* When questioned about the subject, answers were \"I don't know\", \"\\*insert 40 slides that don't answer the question\\*\" or \"help yourselves\";\n\nMultiple times I took this to the Academic Dean, informally, and enough was said that even a third of the students were to complain about him. With my emotions I happened to respond one of his emails (out of 3 he sent) and all my complaints kinda were not considered anymore as they deemed I was being too emotional, with the Dean herself saying so. When I questioned her about the choice of him being in the position, her answer was \"sadly we hadn't have a choice, but you should give him a chance, he sure feel leftover by you guys, specially by you\".\n\n​\n\nBig project came in, with virtually no help me and my teammate did the work just to receive an \"excellent idea but not what I wanted\". And he didn't allowed us to see other presentations yet everyone saw ours, simply because we didn't submit before presenting. Note: there is no policy saying we have to submit before presenting, but we do have the right to fix before submitting. And he forced almost everyone to submit their work.\n\n​\n\nEven with my blood boilling, I asked nicely for the feedback that, between \"you can't answer simple questions\", learn how to do a presentation\" and \"I won't tell you\", his final answer were \"feel free to take to the Dean\", even when I mentioned his unethical move. Needless to say, my teammate is fuming, yet we will submit the project as ask the Dean for the feedback on tuesday, four days after the submission.\n\n​\n\nGiven all that, AITA to follow with formal complaints?\n\n​\n\ntl;dr: student can't cope with lazy lecturer, lecturer is petty.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jSdExHSoQRYfRasCNBDUS0t075pQ6YwB", "post_id": "abqze3", "action": {"description": "using Tinder in a relationship", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for using Tinder in a relationship?", "text": "My girlfriend and I have been together for 7 months but I still use Tinder to hookup on the side. She doesn't know, but we're gonna break up soon anyway so I figure it doesn't really matter. She barely has sex with me so I need a way to release. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "OyJGUREB8RD9vaYjllkksTGBvkyg45dF", "post_id": "anp9c7", "action": {"description": "wanting to cut my sister off", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to cut my sister off?", "text": "Just a little backstory as always my sister, her boyfriend along with me and my boyfriend  live together with my parents. My sister (when her boyfriend just moved in with her before mine moved in) remarked that we would be a perfect couple because we're both skinny (she is heavily overweight) . I started being cold towards him. When my boyfriend moved in I had issues with her walking in the room in front of my boyfriend in just her underwear and too small shirts that showed her well endowedness. I mentioned this to her boyfriend as I have a severe anxiety problem along with other issues and have trouble confronting people. He said he would deal with it she continued to do the same behavior claiming that \"she didn't care because she loved her body and what we thought didn't matter to her\" I'm speechless at this point. She hardly does anything around the house just sleeps all day and then will wash a dish or so and say she did the dishes or say she cleaned the room I did to our father telling him I sleep all day even though people living here vouch for me. She once bought a bottle of wine for thanksgiving with her boyfriends money and then was upset it was smaller than she remembered and then try to tell my dad I drank her whole bottle of wine and replaced it with a smaller bottle. (mind you I can't buy I'm underage for alcohol and me and my boyfriend did not have a penny to our name at this point in time) she has also taken several of mine and my boyfriends shirts or hoodies and worn them stretching them out  swearing they're hers or her boyfriends, I typically get two sizes up (I fit into a size s) because of reasons and my mother and family know this my mom bought me an extremely cute outfit in light colors to help \"boost my mood\" the shirt was a xxxl, my sister constantly grabs the shirt and says it must be hers because it's her size, we will have that argument every time she sees the shirt. Theres more but this is ridiculously long; My sisters boyfriend has a dog, I have a work in progress to potty train puppy, the family has two dogs. My dog was locked in the kitchen with me as I was cooking, my brother went in my room to find their dog in my room ears down and poop in my room bigger than my dogs and smaller than the families dogs. My boyfriend politely asked her to clean it up, She starts yelling at him, im in the kitchen with a sharp knife and I happen to have a sensory issue so loud noises and stuff can cause issues I ask for them to tone it down, they get louder at this point I proceed to almost cut my finger so I match in there mad and find out what's going on, I ask her to clean up the mess since we clean up our dogs mess and have cleaned up hers enough, she starts called me a bitch and a bunch of other stuff I go off since I'm back in the kitchen giving it right back to her my boyfriend and brother get scared she's gonna come hit me so they go wake up the boyfriend. It's kinda fuzzy from there but the boyfriend came down later and said aggressively \"don't worry we'll be gone by the first\" \n\n\n\nTL:DR- sister has no respect for boundaries and is so painfully lazy she almost got violent to get out of cleaning dog shit, and I want to cut her off even though my father does not; Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TBBYacPM8x6pL268iewj0FHhiEsLkwJw", "post_id": "9vdj28", "action": {"description": "telling my coworker I don't want to go to her gender reveal because I don't care what the sex of her baby is", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for telling my coworker I don\u2019t want to go to her gender reveal because I don\u2019t care what the sex of her baby is", "text": "Hear me out. I care about my coworkers, and we are friends outside of work, I care about her baby as well and I\u2019m so excited for her and her family. We work with children, and our kids attend our work. I was invited to her gender reveal, and she kept bringing it up and asking why I wasn\u2019t coming. I finally said that it\u2019s just not my thing. She was upset with me, and told everyone at work I am selfish and I don\u2019t care about her. Made me wonder...am I the asshole? When I was pregnant I chose not to find out the baby\u2019s sex before birth, so it\u2019s just not a priority for me. I fully intend to go to her baby shower, just not interested in a gender reveal. I can tell it upset her, and the gender is very important to her. She also planned my work shower, so I feel extra bad. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xkNDeD5Bodk5RrsMiCKebR37jx336GaX", "post_id": "ack9n3", "action": {"description": "getting annoyed with a sick friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting annoyed with a sick friend?", "text": "Throwaway for obvious reasons...\n\nI\u2019ve got a good friend who is in the same industry as me. They are self-employed, and have a small business. They do ok, not great, and often have annoyed customers because they are slow albeit good at what they do.\n\nThe situation:\n\n- this person recently became quite ill and needs time to recover. \n- being self employed, they had no insurance and are drowning under bills and can\u2019t afford to lose customers\n- they asked me to help some of their customers while they\u2019re recovering\n\nThe problem:\n\n- they have left many of these people hanging for weeks without communication, and sent no real notes on the job to be done, just forwarded emails, meaning it\u2019s a lot of work to figure each one out\n- they told these people I work for them, so the customers are directing their rage at me\n\nI want to tell this person that I can\u2019t clean up the messes, only deliver the services. I have a full time job and kids and don\u2019t have time to run their business too but i feel like an asshole for pushing back and saying this wasn\u2019t what I agreed to. I know they are in a desperate situation. \n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DSSBCHlSQ5eOKRNSf7psBftVxoHBF6nM", "post_id": "aigabg", "action": {"description": "getting angry at \"jokes\"", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting angry at \"jokes\"?", "text": "My sister, dad, and I have recently gotten glasses, my sister's being the worst. I'm only supposed to wear them when I'm doing homework, taking notes, etc., but the lady who gave me my glasses said that it's okay to wear them all the time. So I did. And my family is giving me shit for it. Some examples of this are:\n\n\"Why are you wearing your glasses?\"\n\n\"You're so lucky you don't have to wear glasses all the time...\"\n\n\"You're only supposed to wear them when you're doing homework you know.\"\n\nHow they're saying it is making me feel bad for wearing them (when I already do since they were expensive). Today, my dad said that I shouldnt be wearing them, and I got tired of it so I went to my room to cool off. He comes in later saying that it was only a joke and that he was being hard on me. I told him that my sister has been doing it ever since I got them, but he said the same thing for her. Whenever I make jokes with them like that, I immediately apologize and laugh to make sure I didnt hurt them, but they don't do that for me. My mom came in later and said that if I wear them all the time that I'll ruin my eyes, and that I should stop being so grumpy. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "n7XFWmS9kySTN737iG9wDTXdtdcddhTg", "post_id": "as55x5", "action": {"description": "hating that my friends are still communicating with someone who assaulted me", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for hating that my friends are still communicating with someone who assaulted me?", "text": "Last February my ex assaulted me at work, he'd been previously verbally abusive but he crossed a line when he pushed me around our work's office and cornered me multiple times to yell at me while I was trying to close the store all because I wouldn't let him in while I was counting cash.\n\nOur friends are mutual friends, they've all seen the security footage from that night, heard the stories, held me when I cried even. Since then my mental health has been in turmoil which has definitely caused a lot of problems in our group. My recent meltdown had me sent to a behavioral health center and I dropped contact with all my friends for a couple months. \n\nI deeply want to apologize for dropping off the face of the earth and hurting them the way I have by causing problems that weren't even there in the first place. They're under no obligation to accept my apology but it eats me alive that they still hang out with my abusive ex but they've all blocked me off.\n\n Am I the asshole for feeling some type of way about this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4dYc8xwgA0BymildOjE6ZYJjxvY3I2Er", "post_id": "9xvgp9", "action": {"description": "missing my brothers birthday", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for missing my brothers birthday?", "text": "So my brother turns 19 this year and has his birthday the same day as one of my closest friends who turns 21. \nOriginally my brother told me he was going to come out with me and my friends for his AND her birthday (my brother lives 4 hours away from me and was going to come for the whole weekend).\n\nHowever, my mum ended up planning a weekend with the family (Aunty, uncle and cousins) to go down there (they live where I live) for his birthday. \n\nMy mum forgot to tell me so I\u2019ve made plans to go out with my friend and made payments for party busses etc that are none refundable.. \n\nAm I the asshole for missing my brothers birthday? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rFPsejkZBWDaloyXTblMAIodbktN7Dja", "post_id": "a9u0bs", "action": {"description": "not letting my family pass around my barely full term newborn", "pronormative_score": 115, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not letting my family pass around my barely full term newborn?", "text": "My son was born 3 weeks early, at exactly 37 weeks. We just wanted to be safe, since it's flu season, so we let the family know we would be passing him around. Suddenly we had offended the entire family and we were told, \"If that's how you feel, then you should probably not come to Christmas.\" \n\nThe text that started it all:\nMerry Christmas everyone! We just wanted to let everyone know in advance that we aren't going to be passing (baby) around today. You guys are more than welcome to come over and hang out with the little dude, we just don't want him over-stimulated today, and we worry about the flu. We hope you understand and we look forward to seeing everyone!\n\nSo, am I the asshole here? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 113, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 115, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "15oVh7dgbk444bzBa1SDY6Zc4ITee73v", "post_id": "amz00q", "action": {"description": "continuing to sleep with a girl I'm embarrassed of out of loneliness/boredom", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for continuing to sleep with a girl I'm embarrassed of out of loneliness/boredom", "text": "Title kinda sums it up, and I'm using a throwaway for privacy reasons. \n\nI met her my freshmen year of college at a house party where I drank far too much and woke up at her place, with little to no memory of the previous night. I'm gonna preface this by saying I'm by no means calling myself a perfect catch, or a highly sought after womanizer, but this girl is a little high on the weight scale and a little low on the overall attractiveness scale to be someone I'd pursue while sober. Long story short, even though she's not my cup of tea while sober, blackout me was more than willing to go home with her and be college kids for the night. \n\n​\n\nMy awkward and hungover ass couldn't figure out a tactful way to dip out the next morning so we continued to wake up at noon, start drinking again, and make me question my standards again. After sobering up and getting home on Sunday, the two of us came to an agreement that young adults like to fuck around wile drunk, and that's the end of it. Trouble is she kept contacting me, assertively at first, but eventually easing off well after I told her we're done and I had started a serious relationship with a girl I actually liked. \n\nFast forward about a year and a half and I had tried to maintain a platonic communication with her despite her best efforts. I know the easiest thing would be to just block her #/Snapchat, but mixed in with untasteful nudes and drunken pleas to come over see and her were seriously concerning messages about depression and mental instability. Call it my fault or call it bad luck, but either way I seem to have a history of getting overly involved romantically with depressed, anxiety ridden, and/or bipolar women. I want to break any ties with her, but at the same time don't wanna be the trigger that sets off someone who's already claimed to be suicidal. \n\nIn case it wasn't already obvious, I'm not exactly a pillar of emotional stability either, and I've made the mistake of digging myself a deeper hole. Due to a mixture of post break-up loneliness, depression, and alcoholism, I've let my sad dick take control of my brain and slept with her. I'm not even attracted to her, and the fact that I'm too ashamed to confide in my friends about this situation is telling, but I just find myself caving in out of shear boredom almost. I think she's even catching on to the fact that I prefer not to have her around my place while others are over, and only see her when I'm feeling down.\n\n​\n\nTL/DR: Girl I had a one night stand with but carry little interest in still contacts me. Despite my lack of physical interest, and lack of compatibility with her, I occasionally sleep with her out of pity/ boredom/ loneliness/ or some combination. AITA for not just ripping the band-aid and cutting ties with her. I know using an emotionally unstable girl as a physical backup is shitty, but so is ghosting someone who's unstable and haven't been treating with the best respect. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "dRPv9ecky2wAgkzhxMac1QcHEWILR3s8", "post_id": "b4yxj8", "action": {"description": "being fat and wanting a not fat husband", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for being fat and wanting a not fat husband?", "text": "Back at it again with another AITA post. TLDR at the end.\n\nIn my last post I was deemed to be an asshole about that (rightfully so), but I mentioned something that sparked some small side debate in the comments and even a damn private message. So now I must know if I'm the asshole for this too.\n\n​\n\nI said in the post\n\n\\>I don\u2019t want him to be fat, because I\u2019m working hard not to be fat and I want a life partner with healthy habits.\n\nI am an obese woman. My goal weight is 175lbs. At this moment I am 140lbs overweight, I was originally 205lbs overweight before I started getting my shit together. And part of that can be attributed to moving out on my own and finally being able to decide what my diet is.\n\n​\n\nThe struggle has been real for me with this damned food. Its the bane of my existence, but everyone in my life is super encouraging and I love them to pieces for it, but sometimes I still lack motivation and WANT to make stupid choices, but I don't make them as often as I want because there's no terrible food around me and I don't have people constantly trying to go out to eat or eating junk food surrounding me.\n\n​\n\nSo I don't want to reintroduce unhealthiness into my life when I know that food is always going to be a struggle for me. Therefore, I don't want a fat husband. I'm not talking about someone with some pudge. I mean I don't want an obese husband or even a thin husband with unhealthy eating habits. I want someone who is conscious of their health. If it's a bigger man, and he's dedicated to living a healthy life and losing weight, that's fine. So reddit... AITA for this?\n\n​\n\nTLDR; AITA for wanting a husband who is healthy even though I am currently obese?\n\n​\n\nDisclaimer: I'm not trying to say that weight is a sole indicator of health but I do know that someone who is 300+lbs and eats fast food daily isn't healthy. And someone who is obese is generally not healthy. I also don't support the \"healthy at every size\" movement because you're not healthy at 400lbs and you cannot convince me otherwise.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zXBBbnVqS16JTdAhMhfMnQ33p0c6vQzP", "post_id": "9uv83y", "action": {"description": "finding asian women beautiful", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for finding asian women beautiful", "text": "I don\u2019t know why but I always find myself attracted to asian women. Soley for how they look. I\u2019m not talking about the classic having a quiet asian wife who cooks cleans stays at home bullshit. I strictly just find them my type of beautiful. A girl recently asked me what my type was, and I replied asian, only for her to express how wrong it was of me to feel that way. If I knew why I was attracted to asian women in the first place I\u2019d do something about it. Am I the asshole for being attracted to asian women? And can anyone explain to me why I\u2019m attracted to them (lol)?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PPEWElUedrCa5WsqSDpRhsyWwPK9gOw7", "post_id": "b0sy8e", "action": {"description": "picking an engagement ring similar to a friends", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for picking an engagement ring similar to a friends?", "text": "I have been looking for engagement rings for a while. My friend showed me her dream engagement ring, and it was really close to what I was looking for. I don't want to go into details about the ring, but I want to get the same style. It's a nature-type ring.  I am not going to buy the same one she showed me, but I don't know how to pick a different ring style because it's perfect. I feel like once she showed me her dream ring, it was hands off of any ring in that style. What should I do?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6X3hWEpZsrDWgP6d63YA4PWqRrsVQgS4", "post_id": "ac2xt4", "action": {"description": "breaking up with someone just for being dumb", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA For breaking up with someone just for being dumb?", "text": "I've been \"official\" with this guy for about a month now. I was really into him because he's very sweet and super cute, but the longer I'm with him, the more I realise he's just not smart. We can never seem to keep conversations about actual subjects, even though I try profusely. He essentially just talks about gossip at his work, designer items that he keeps buying despite not having the financial security for them, and his looks. I realise as I'm typing this out that it sounds very shallow and a bit shitty, but I feel like interacting with him is a chore. I need help.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WQsESaYx2K5rMxRqiXCP25wV73sPb9xr", "post_id": "axeshj", "action": {"description": "refusing to pay extra down-payment for an apartment", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA If I refused to pay extra down-payment for an apartment?", "text": "Recently applied for a 2 bed/1 bath apartment. It will be shared by myself, a female friend(I'll refer to as K) , and her boyfriend(I'll refer to him as BF) At the end of the semester another friend of mine will move into my room and we will split costs 4 ways. Everything will be split as evenly as possible.\n\nToday we got denied the low down payment option of $400 because BF, who makes the most money, has shit credit. They wanted one months rent of $2199 as a down payment. I've got my portion of $2199 saved up but K and BF do not.\n\nMy issue is I would not be willing to put down additional down payments past my 1/3rd of the quoted $400 because my credit is great and I've put effort into keeping it that way.\n\nWIBTA If on the next apartment we apply for I demand that BF pays a majority of the down payment since his credit makes it necessary?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pf6WlAy5qBtlwMbFq0qI5i52Z1OiXtlz", "post_id": "ar3fi6", "action": {"description": "asking my roommate to replace the headphones his cat ate", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for asking my roommate to replace the headphones his cat ate?", "text": "I moved in to a new place about 5 months ago, and while moving in I was warned that my roommate's cat is bad with wires. He mentioned that he has destroyed a couple of wires in the past, but seemingly nothing that bad.  \n\nFour months into living there I was charging some wireless headphones in my room on the wall and was busy doing some other chores, so I wasn't near my room or really paying attention. The door was half-open. Now, the cat has never entered my room before and hasn't eaten anything of mine, however I get back from my chores and the cat has eaten through my very nice and brand new headphones.\n\nUpon seeing this I asked him to replace them ($180) since they *were* in my room and the fact that I use these things every day. Later on, he told me that this cat has eaten THREE of his pairs of the same headphones in the past, which leads me to believe he never really disciplined the cat after eating his own things. \n\nAm I the asshole for requesting that he pay me back despite him saying the cat is bad with wires? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "w3IKiws863LusIRqS2N1rdKEYNrAQRKy", "post_id": "9unfbt", "action": {"description": "hoverhanding a girl I don't know on school photo day", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for hoverhanding a girl i don't know on school photo day", "text": "I am in the 9th grade and me any my friend made a challenge for us to hoverhand a girl we didnt  know from our class..\n\nWe found this girl we didn't know and didn't talk to and we asked her to take a photo with (we can have 3 photos with friends for free) and at first she didn't agree but in the end we convinced her to take the photo with us.. At first she didn't know what we had planned to do but when she realised it was too late. It was me on the left side of her and my friend on the righthand side of her and she was in the middle..\n\nThe photohrapher took the photo and all of my friends were laughing and then the girl slapped me and ran away crying...\n\nWe did it for the meme btw not because she was ugly but just because we are retarded 16yr olds", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "8G6wZnt88HSAgd2qc4xRR8wJjpRNxJ8F", "post_id": "a51izq", "action": {"description": "telling my roommate to get rid of his pets or be home more", "pronormative_score": 26, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I tell my roommate to get rid of his pets or be home more?", "text": "Let me preface by saying I LOVE ANIMALS. I HAVE 2 DOGS.\n\nAnyways - my buddy who is renting a room from me works 2 jobs so he's only home late on the week nights and not AT ALL during the weekend when he works his night job. His full day off from both jobs is one day a week. Because he works so much, his 2 cats and his dog are here in his room alone A LOT. the cats are typically fine, but his dog is young and in a kennel. Up till recently he's been decent at spending his free time with them and I understand his schedule so my fiance and I help out letting the dog out to potty and such. \n\nLately however, my friend got a new girlfriend and now spends 90% of the time he's not at work with her... over the last few months on his days off he hasn't been here or he \"forgets to text me\" to ask me to let his dog out... I just have to figure out if he's gonna be home or not and deal with his dog accordingly - such was the case this morning. He should have been off work this morning and home by about 8 to let his dog out. He never showed. When I finished working I realized he wasn't home and texted him if I needed to let the dog out. He said he forgot to text me and ask.  No problem... except it's getting to be a problem. I go down to let his dog out... his cats dont have food or water. So let the dog out... let him play in the yard until I left to run errands.  Fed and watered the cats. Fed the fish.\n\nIt's now 10 hours after he should have been home and he's still not... if I had been out of town (which happens the beginning of most weeks for work) his dog would now have been in a kennel for 22hrs straight... I dont want him to not have a life, at the same time I didnt agree to take responsibility for his 3 animals. \n\nWIBTA If I tell him he needs to start spending more time with them or he needs to give them somebody who can? \n\nApologies in advance for any typos... mobile. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 26, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 26, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Qylgecj6xBnLXivoUHG8HHHq8GZnbI3F", "post_id": "b0hpox", "action": {"description": "making my family choose between me and my adopted cousin", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I made my family choose between me and my adopted cousin?", "text": "I have a second cousin, I\u2019ll call Bill, who is kind of obsessed with me. I have been avoiding family functions so that I don\u2019t have to deal with him. My other cousin, Ann, is getting married and really wants me to be at the wedding but I don\u2019t want to go if Bill is going to be there. Ann and I are close but Bill is her adopted brother. (Bill isn\u2019t related to any of us by blood) Ann would undoubtably feel super weird and bad about telling him he can\u2019t come to her wedding but she also wants me to be a bridesmaid. \nI don\u2019t want to force her to choose between us but Bill is nuts. He\u2019s been mad at me for not going out with him more than a decade ago and acts like I ruined his life by telling him no. He\u2019s even convinced some other family members that I\u2019m a shallow bully just because I\u2019m not attracted to him. There are several family members who have taken his side and act like I hurt him on purpose and/or call me a race traitor.  Every time a relationship has ended for me in the last 14 years he has gotten all loud about how I should have gone with him when I had the chance. He still asks if I\u2019m single and trash talks my significant other to this day. I have no patience for him and his nice guy shenanigans. Would I be the asshole if I told Ann that I won\u2019t come to her wedding if Bill is there? \n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Cl14e9jYpoNMVXgUAawKp301IkiPkwhq", "post_id": "b4zo93", "action": {"description": "not wanting my mom to touch my hair", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my mom to touch my hair?", "text": "I\u2019m a teenager who lives with my parents. My hair is really sensitive, and I don\u2019t like anybody touching it. If my friends tried to brush my hair I would ask them not to and I tell them how sensitive it is, and they would stop. \nGrowing up, whenever my mom brushed my hair, she would always pull and tug on it which made me not want my hair to be combed by her. But as I\u2019ve grown up I just don\u2019t like other people touching my hair anymore.\nSo I was doing the dishes and my mom randomly grabs my hair. I flinch away and ask her not to do that because I don\u2019t like my hair being touched. This is when everything began. \nShe started bothering me nonstop about \u201cwhy can\u2019t I touch it?\u201d And she keeps using the argument that \u2018I\u2019m your mother, Why can\u2019t I touch it?\u2019 And i told her it wasn\u2019t personal, that I don\u2019t like ANYBODY touching my hair and she said \u201cbut I\u2019m not anybody! I\u2019m your mother!\u201d And i Shot back saying \u201cfine, I don\u2019t like when my mother touches my hair.\u201d And she actually got offended. \nI mentioned it to my therapist and we compromised. She just wanted to be able to caress me, so she can do that with my hands or arms, but my hair is off limits. But even STILL she still brings it up and it makes me mad and she has the audacity to still touch my hair. She did it today in the car and i rose my voice saying that it\u2019s pissing me off that she\u2019s touching my hair when I\u2019ve said NOT TO. She called me cruel, and said that she felt like it was personal and how would I like it if i couldn\u2019t give her goodnight kisses anymore, and I said that I wouldn\u2019t kiss her anymore then. And that concept is impossible to her. She said that it hurts her personally and I don\u2019t understand how she could be hurt by this.\nAITA for not wanting my mom to touch my hair? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RRlMLl57wGHZHrkSjIktJAI7qTjDie9h", "post_id": "b6t16f", "action": {"description": "wanting to sleep with my window open for the breeze despite my roommates objections", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting to sleep with my window open for the breeze despite my roommates objections?", "text": "This will be fairly short. It's spring here in AZ and it won't be too long before our houses our essentially sealed up for the summer with AC running 24/7. I enjoy sleeping with my window open to get some fresh air while I can.\n\nWe live in a pretty rough area in a one story house and my window being open freaks my roommate out. She says because she's a woman she's much more vulnerable to crime. But to be me, if someone is coming in, they are coming in no matter what so an closed window doesn't do us much good anyways. \n\nI think it's my room, my window, I can do what I want with it and she can lock her door. She disagrees.\n\nAm I the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mINN75eHQrODUjgwOwkqp9VftiAyLOcE", "post_id": "9tiu0h", "action": {"description": "not seeing a fuchsia coat as a pink coat", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not seeing a fuchsia coat as a pink coat?", "text": "Backstory. Im watching F1 and comment on how having a pink car(Sergio Perez) is not intimidating. My wife then jokes about her having a pink coat without looking at the car. \n\nAm I the asshole for telling her you do not have a pink coat? She lives in a world where you can call it pink and be \"technically\" right. But I keep telling her you need to be more specific... like when she describes a car as blue when its TEAL...Drives me insane. And we have multiple fights on it.\n\nReddit help me out. Signed Asshole apparently...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "g66RSLTH6FCihyjFDs0CiVEiSyzGOSyf", "post_id": "axymj5", "action": {"description": "calling out a fatfish friend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for calling out a fatfish friend?", "text": "When it comes to dating we all mod our photos, we all try to put the best version of ourself out there. I get that. But AITA for repeatedly calling out a friend for catfishing? She uses photos from a few years ago when she weighed less; 50-70 lbs.  less. first I asked questions: why? B/c she wants to \u201close the weight before meeting\u201d the person knowing that\u2019s the version of herself she wants to be. How long do you talk to a potential date? MONTHS. How does that make you feel? How do you think it will make the other party feel? \n\nNext I did some research...ok I binged that catfish show and lurked on reddit...\n\nThe next time it came up I shared how negatively catfishing affects peoples\u2019 lives. She was so dismissive to that (cuz she thinks she can get away with it ?) \n\nThen she made plans to meet this guy. I told her to at least do a video chat first. So did another close friend that is in the know. But the catfish gets so shady whenever we talk about the situation. I couldn\u2019t get a straight answer but it seems like she did do a video chat and got rejected. Last time I asked how things were going she said she didn\u2019t know if they were still meeting. Then she went silent about it. \n\nBecause she was still showing no remorse and wasn\u2019t saying she learned a lesson I was carrying around a ball of feelings. Angry she doesn\u2019t get why it\u2019s wrong, sad that she is setting herself up for hurt and my instincts say \u201cif she is ok with this, how will she manipulate you in the future?\u201d I then got a call from this guy I have been dating and talked on the phone for hours (LDR) instead of going over to my friend\u2019s place to watch a show. I blew her off and was rude about it saying I would be over in a minute (we r neighbors basically) but never showed up. Tbh I thought I sent a text to cancel with her but was distracted because of the butterflies this guy gives me. After I got off the phone I sent a shitty text To my friend though. From talking with this guy I really like it settled in me that I was NOT ok with someone I would call a friend, behaving this way in their 30\u2019s. The words \u201cNo, Nooo, & NOPE\u201d all showed up in that text. \n\nThe thing is, her response was to say \u201cwe can talk about this when you\u2019re not blackout drunk\u201d. I wasn\u2019t drunk. This is like the 3rd time she tells me I am drunk (& haven\u2019t been) when I drop a truth bomb. I set down my phone and waited till the morning. 7 am I send a block text clearly stating that what she is doing is 100% catfishing and it is wrong and not healthy. She is beautiful, really doesn\u2019t even need to do this to herself. \n\nDid I draw a line in the sand that didn\u2019t need to be there though? Is it a friend\u2019s role to help patrol this kind of social behavior? She hasn\u2019t contacted me since I sent the text yesterday. I\u2019m pretty sure she is giving me the silent treatment. Could you be friends with a catfish? What, if anything would you do next? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "txV8jj2WJlf7cuLXceKprXdQ4xfVmXoy", "post_id": "aco2cr", "action": {"description": "being upset with my girlfriend for getting me a \"gift\"", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 22}, "title": "AITA For being upset with my girlfriend for getting me a \"gift\"?", "text": "Hear me out.\n\nMy girlfriend and I have been together in a monogamous relationship for 3 years. I have fairly traditional values regarding relationships and a very broad definition of what I consider to be cheating or inappropriate behavior. Included in there is exposing ourselves to other people (obviously aside from medical shit or locker rooms) and especially without talking about it beforehand first, this was a dealbreaker we both agreed on. She has always known and seemingly shared my boundaries and we've never had any issues.\n\nAs a \"belated\" Christmas present, she presented me with an envelope of about a dozen photos. Each of these photos were of her naked in very suggestive poses. I thought it was great, and asked her how she managed to get such awesome results on her own. She then informs me that she didn't have them taken on her own, she went to a photographer.\n\nI'm absolutely livid. In my opinion, if someone told me \"I love my car, but I don't ever want you to do anything to it, if you do I'd be very upset\" and I went and customized their car anyway then called it a gift, they'd still have every right to be upset because slapping the label of \"gift\" on something doesn't diminish the fact you still did something you knew they'd be upset about. She keeps insisting she did it for me and I keep telling her outright I specifically told her that she knew I wasn't cool with that shit so I have no idea why she'd \"do it for me.\" I returned the money she said she spent on the shoot and communication has been very strained.\n\nAnd yes, I know that some people don't consider nudity a big deal around others. Great for you. I do, and apparently thought my girlfriend did too because for three years she agreed with me. I almost feel like she cheated, and I'm considering ending it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 19, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 22}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "WqfQB2dSO8gXOAhcqQrJbZ10x4gooXdG", "post_id": "ariy9s", "action": {"description": "being annoyed that my Boyfriend swerved his car towards a cat", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Being Annoyed That My Boyfriend Swerved His Car Towards A Cat?", "text": "This happened last night.\n\nMyself and my boyfriend were driving home from a friends wedding party. I'd had 1 drink but mixed with my medication, drinks hit me a bit harder than they used to. I wasn't paralytic, but I was definitely not safe to drive.\n\nNow on the estate that I live on, we have a couple of suicidal cats who have a habit of darting through the road. I have told my boyfriend this repeatedly, but he likes to continue going up there at 90mp/h. Last night he wasn't going fast, which is lucky because one of the cats darted across the road. It was still a fair while away, just at the edge of our headlights and he was only going 20. The cat made it across our lane in good time so I thought I'd go ahead and open my mouth to say how I wasn't lying about the cats. Before I could finish the first word, he swerved the car towards the cat in the other lane as a joke.\n\nI was fucking furious.\n\nMaybe the drink had exaggerated my reaction, I will admit that, but as soon as he parked the car I just got out and walked up to my flat with him trailing a ways behind me. I went into the living room and he followed shortly. Now, you'd think I'd be asked if I was ok, or I would get an apology. Nope. I get a \"dude, what the fuck.\" It's at this point I know that it's either get into an argument or change the subject. So I just turned the TV on.\n\nBF: \"Are you actually serious?\"\n\nMe: \"Yep.\"\n\nBF: \"You're actually pissed off about that?\" (so he knew why I was mad)\n\nMe: \"Of course I'm fucking pissed! I'm always telling you about those cats but you still think it's a good idea to swerve into them! Even as a fucking joke, you should have had the sense to not do something so fucking stupid!\"\n\nIn his defense, I did shout first. I didn't start shouting because of what he did though. I started shouting because he knew why, but he didn't care enough to apologise. Had he done that, I would've calmed down. We keep on at the back and forth about how he's a reckless idiot and how I'm crying over nothing, he goes off to eat his food and I start playing some Overwatch and smoking some weed to calm myself down. He comes in afterwards and starts acting cute to try and get my attention and to get me to smile and forget about the whole thing. I was not ready to forgive him yet so I just ignored him and kept playing. Then he starts trash talking my gameplay, which is completely normal in our social circle, so he's still just trying to get me to forget about it. As his attempts continue to fail, he resigns to his fate and slumps next to me. But the things he said next are what really gets my goat. All of this shit is trivial and would've been over and done with in a night.\n\nBF: \"It's like I'm dealing with a fucking six year old.\"\n\nHe has a pattern of doing this shit in our arguments. Shifts the blame onto me and tries to make me feel guilty for being angry. It suddenly clicked when he said that and I started to notice the pattern and why I'm always the one crying at the end. \n\nMe: \"Are you fucking kidding me?! You can't even pretend you're not in the wrong here, you upset me and completely ignored it!\"\n\nBF: \"You have no reason to be upset! It was a joke and you know it! If anyone else had done it, you would have found absolutely hilarious but because it's me, you're pissed off. Cause everyone hates (name) cause it's funny.\"\n\nMe: \"Oh don't even fucking try to pull that shit, I would be pissed off if anyone did that, especially if I was in the car with them!\"\n\nAgain, we had a heated back and forth. This time about how I'm a fucking child and me just unable to comprehend how he can try and villainise me for being upset. It ended with me asking him to leave my flat (we don't live together) but he refused cause it was late and he had work in the morning. I told him sternly that he needs to shut up and leave me alone for the rest of the night or leave. He went to bed and I stayed up all night.\n\nI know it sounds like I've told this story in a very one-sided way, but I promise that there are no details omitted on either side as hard as it might be to believe. So what do you say? Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GBaVMBY70PiJ88rcedeCpxLcwJspO8xr", "post_id": "axrcyt", "action": {"description": "refusing to help my parents", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for refusing to help my parents?", "text": "So some content, my family are in the process of trying to open a restaurant. This has been going on for a while now, since the beginning I have been adamant on not helping them. However, since I live with them they told me I had to help or go pay rent. At this time, I work and pay for everything I want, I never ask them of anything. But I\u2019m not financially stable to live on my own, so I helped (only paperwork etc). \nNow I reached an impasse. I\u2019m being laid off from work, I wasn\u2019t even supposed to know I\u2019m getting laid off, and told them I\u2019m going to do some job searching. But when I brought this up, they told me that I should help with the restaurant. The restaurant isn\u2019t even close to opening, but I told them no. They got furious that I never want to help open the family restaurant. I told them that it could be theirs, they don\u2019t have to include me in any legal matters if it does take off. I just told them I don\u2019t want anything to do with it. This isn\u2019t the first time we had fought over this before, but I got mad that they weren\u2019t supportive over the news of me being laid off. And in the heat of the moment I told them I would rather move out than work in that restaurant. They all got upset and told me how I wouldn\u2019t make it in the real world if I did that. Now that I\u2019m jobless and having to rely on them again, am I the asshole for not wanting to help them? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "TA8OaAuChNWXFIMzf3N3NWLCyaO4exZC", "post_id": "a1e8g6", "action": {"description": "being upset with my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being upset with my girlfriend?", "text": "Last weekend was our 2 year anniversary so I went over her to watch some movies and eat. When I got there I gave her her present, a necklace, and left it at that. About half way through the night I realized she didn't get me anything. Now I'm not usually one to care about gifts but like it was our anniversary so I kinda expected for there to be at least something. To make it even worse for me, I waited a couple of days to see if maybe she was busy and didn't have time to get me one. However, once I found a way to bring it up, she said that she was sorry because she forgot. I got upset with this and I don't know if I'm being petty or just a materialistic douche bag.\n\nTL;DR - I got my girlfriend a necklace for our anniversary and she got me nothing because she forgot. Am I just being petty for being upset or do I have the right?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2UYg3eq2cvjbDimdjFoMeMdSfKdsnWWa", "post_id": "ap9vpg", "action": {"description": "not wanting to share my drink with my husband", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to share my drink with my husband?", "text": "We went through a drive through for dinner and my husband didn't order a drink for himself. He then informs me I can share mine.\nOnce we get the food he proceeds to drink over half my drink before we got home. He saw the irritation on my face and told me \"not to be like that\"\nSo, reddit, AITA for telling him he should have ordered his own? (He does this shit all the time, will eat or drink all of mine instead of getting his own.)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5rRef4wy54ccSRGWNvx0SPzGETUHqCHE", "post_id": "ayqpeq", "action": {"description": "making my brother hurt himself after a heated argument", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for making my brother hurt himself after a heated argument", "text": "Essentially what happened was that my brother and I had a kerfuffle about my usage of vulgar language at home. Prior to the argument, I repeatedly called him 'stupid' and a few F-bombs as a joke. He would usually be able to take it and drop those F-bombs back at me.\n\nThis time it made him tick, and I don't know why. He told me to stop, and I told him that it was just a joke. Being an adamant person, I kept repeating my point, rephrasing it each time, and so did he. It escalated so quickly I couldn't recall in detail but it was until one point he just snapped and shouted at me while we had guests in the house. I spoke back, still in a normal tone, but he proceeded to leave the scene and destroy stuff in the background. I didn't bother turning behind because my mind was too busy thinking about what just happened, but I heard him kicking things around really loudly.\n\nWe made up somehow and things went smoothly for two months until now. He won't stop bothering me about how he said his leg still hurts from kicking the furniture on that day. Earlier before posting this we had a minor argument about how petty I was during the incident. Learning from the former incident, I forced myself to shut up to prevent the conversation from heating again.\n\nNow, I have no shame in admitting that I caused the situation by swearing in the first place, but knowing me and my adamance for so long, what was he expecting by bringing it up? That tantrum was also really avoidable honestly. \n\nThis has been bugging me the whole day and I really need the take on this. Thus, the title. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 10, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "g6CeJdtir4gTxxurXpNorcU1HlcjNdEg", "post_id": "b1hf70", "action": null, "title": "AITA or is him a case of \"nice guy\"?", "text": "I am a female and V is a male. We both are 30 years old now. \nI became friends with V when we were 12. First we were just classmates but then we became real close around that age. \nIt was this kind of friendship where I listed him as a brother in the book of faces, he would go home to dinner with my family and stuff. He was the kind of guy that made me say \"see? Genuine friendship between men and women does exist\". \nHe has always been this half-empty-glass kind of guy and the poor nice guy that no girl chose. I genuinely think he was a good person, we girls just don't like someone who is constantly belittling themselves or whatever. I've always been the Wendy type so I tried to help me as much as I could.\nFastforward some years I moved to college and we still kept on contact but I always felt like he guilt tripped me whenever we met or talked. Like he cared soo much about me and I didn't care to text him and he didn't text me because he didn't want to bother me and that stuff. Whenever we met, saying goodbye was a PITA as he treated me like I was going back to war. It's like he sucked all my energy and left me feeling empty.\nWhen I was 21 I moved to a different country and he made a scene where he couldn't even say goodbye and left almost crying.\nI had been living here for some time when he called and confessed he loved me and had loved me for quite some time. Call me stupid or naive but I never in a million years imagined this. I thought his strange behavior was just who he is as a person.\nI really felt betrayed. I mean, he cannot choose who he falls in love with, but I think he lied to me so many years about me being his \"sister\" and faking stories about being in love with someone else and never getting over her. \nNow we are VLC and I honestly hate talking to him. I mostly ignore his mssgs, everything about him annoys me or makes me roll my eyes, I just feel like he's my BEC. \n\nHe says I faked him being like family as well because as soon as he confessed I became a different person.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "juri520U2wTmJNaBZx7bnnmEDmHKYjjV", "post_id": "ayi4sh", "action": {"description": "doing what I need to do to relax after work", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for doing what I need to do to relax after work?", "text": "My (29m) sister (32f) struggles with depression. I have always been there for her. She currently is unemployed. I work a labor intensive job from 7-4. Last night she asked me if I wanted to hang out. I feel like the text transcript will help:\n\nHer: Hey want to chill tonight?\n\nMe: Super tired, I'll be home playing video games, feel free to stop by but I'm playing with a friend at 7:30.\n\nHer: ok cool\n\nShe comes by, I take a break from  my game to play super smash bros with her for 45 minutes before my friend gets home. I tell her I'm gonna go chill in my room, and I put on the Office, her favorite show, basically inviting her to still hang but I wanted to game with my friends. At this point she doesn't say a word but packs up her things and leaves. Not in a nice way, but in a passive aggressive \"oh you have no time for me? fuck you\" way. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LamHwf7KXVxwHHopjorMZGZ4UDBqzAkh", "post_id": "9v2eqh", "action": {"description": "expressing my mostly indifferent political views for a country I don't even live in", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for expressing my mostly indifferent political views for a country I don\u2019t even live in?", "text": "I\u2019ll start this by saying I am Canadian and my roommates are also Canadian.\n\nI recently moved and got a new job and am staying rent free at a friends place until I can get into my new apartment (it\u2019ll be about 12 days total by the time I move). My roommates are very politically active and left wing where I am pretty apathetic and think both sides are about the same. I came home last night and my roomies were watching the US midterm election coverage. I joined to be social and because I like hanging out with them. They were expressing their opinions in the matter (mostly disappointment), and I was trying to be positive, saying it was an improvement, and making a few jokes (mostly about Ted Cruz being the Zodiac Killer). I did say a few things about it not being our country and why was he so upset when there\u2019s absolutely nothing we can do about it. We can\u2019t even vote! And said that some policies were the same under the last government anyway.\n\nThis morning I overheard a call where he told a friend he had to stop watching the coverage because of me.\n\nShould I have just kept my mouth shut? My friends have been so good to me. They\u2019re my only close friends where I live and I\u2019m worried about losing them over something stupid. But I feel like I should be able to speak my mind? A little bit? Maybe I should move into a hotel? I\u2019m worried about being in the common area, I don\u2019t want to upset anyone further.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tPSSYugm7iEviova2E8Y6IYm1WYd8ulz", "post_id": "b1zj1f", "action": {"description": "saying to a \"friend\" that I hate her", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for saying to a \u201cfriend\u201d that I hate her", "text": "Okay let\u2019s get this clear my best friend included me to a group of friends and everything was going great until she started to include other friend called Alexandra.\nAlexandra manipulated this group to make them think Lorena (the friend who included both) and I were assholes.\nThis group started to stop hanging out with me and created a new chat so they could hang without me and Lorena obviously all of this was Alexandra\u2019s plan .\nThis story continued with Alexandra being a douchebag to me and trying to use me (Alexandra is hated by most of our class and she needed a person to defend her).\nWell until today I told her we should stop being friends but later me and my other friends decided to tell her everything I think of her.\nI told her that she was a manipulator and that she even thought I didn\u2019t realize it (she thinks I\u2019m an idiot that believes in everyone).\n\nWell then we saw her crying and telling lies to my old group of friends and I realized that maybe I am the asshole and shouldn\u2019t have told her the truth.\nExtra info:Both Lorena and I realized that she was trying to exclude us, I suffered bullying as a child so when I saw that everyone hated her so i decided to help her failing miserably ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "fzhAAeu1LabE5Vzry2wNI2u7hi6e5zJn", "post_id": "b6aaqr", "action": {"description": "bumping my music when driving", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for bumping my music when driving?", "text": "I'm still self aware to turn it down when I rock up to a light but not always, AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cXbX2bMbJESu7s9mfrEiEzV3XwFXE7aN", "post_id": "a06wc8", "action": {"description": "shouting at my dad to get out my room because I have exams tomorrow", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for shouting at my dad to get out my room because I have exams tomorrow?", "text": "Where I live, Adelaide, AU, year 11 exams start tomorrow. These are important to my family, who really like acting condescending and disappointed if I get less than an A-. They don\u2019t matter at all and don\u2019t even count towards my overall grade, but I still try hard. This is for two reasons:\n\n1. I still like doing well at school. I have a kind of unearned reputation as being \u2018smart\u2019 because I\u2019m one of the few who actually try.\n\n2. I don\u2019t wanna take the shit from my family for getting a B.\n\nSo, with exams beginning tomorrow, I need to study (I\u2019m writing this in my 30min break after tea). Meanwhile, I still have the rest of my life moving around me.  This includes driving lessons, organising stuff with friends, chores, and dealing with my dads issues. That last one is the killer. I love him, and he needs someone to talk to about his problems, but it really can\u2019t be me, especially right before exams. He has PTSD and life hasn\u2019t treated him well. Most nights he\u2019ll burst into my room without knocking and tell me something random from his past before leaving, only to come back in 10 minutes later to continue the story. It kills me because I love him and want to help, but I always have to try and subtly get him to stop because I have to work. It doesn\u2019t ever solve the issue and I generally just end up having to catch up during school time during my lunch times and stuff. That\u2019s not an option with exams, so I ended up telling him to \u201cfuck off\u201d on the third time he in in about an hour. He was really take aback and dinner was really awkward cis he was literally holding back tears and made sure he had a good shout at me over the incident.\n\nI really should have given some more obvious hints before bursting, but I\u2019m kinda stressed and I\u2019m just not sure anymore. What are you guys\u2019 thoughts?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "dKqDsaMaWlvUL2CrZP4Swp25J15WUW5u", "post_id": "ajktxf", "action": {"description": "getting upset about messy roommate never cleaning unless told to", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting upset about messy roommate never cleaning unless told to?", "text": "Hi all who decide to read. First time poster here in AITA, but I feel like I'm going crazy and need some insight.\n\nHeres some background:\n\nMy boyfriend(M23) and I(F22) have been together for over 4 years. Back in October 2018 we moved states and got an apartment with his childhood/best friend(M20s). Let's call him C. I've only met and sparsely spoke with C so most of my knowledge of him has been through my bf. Theyve been friends forever so I figured he'd be a decent dude.\n\nJump forward to us all living together. We have a kinda small 2 bed 1 bath apartment. My bf and I in one room and he in the other. The only downside is how small our kitchen is. There's hardly room for 2 people to be in there at once and we have like zero counterspace.\n\nAnyways, I soon realized that C is super fucking messy. Which I wouldn't really have a problem with if he cleaned up after himself like at all. Cause I'm a messy person too but I grew up in a household where if you made a mess, you cleaned it up as soon as you could. Common decency when living with other people right? \n\nThis situation happens almost everyday. Im usually the first up in the morning to drink coffee and read in peace. I also clean the kitchen almost every morning. And by that I mean: load the dishwasher, handwash pots and pans, wipe down the counters and stove top and sweep. It maybe takes 20 minutes. No big deal at all. That is until later that night C comes in and makes the biggest mess. I'm talking pots and pans left on the stove with burned food sitting in them, 10 different bottles of spices on the counters, burned food and stuff all over the stove stop and counters I just cleaned earlier. Plus half the sink is full. You get the picture.\n\nSo when the kitchen is like this and I want to make food or basically do anything, I literally have to clean all this shit up because our kitchen is that small.\n\nAfter the first month of this I was so done. My boyfriend could definitely tell how upset this made me and tried to do whatever he could to help. But what I want is C do be a damn adult and clean up after himself. Is that so much to ask for? Do I really have to ask him to clean his own messes? My bf and I do all the other cleaning in the apartment as well. We vacuum and clean the bathroom and take the garbage out.\n\nThis is turning into a rant but I wanted to give as much info as possible. Do you think I'm being unreasonable for wanting to live in a clean place? I'm so tired of cleaning up after him and it's come to the point where my bf literally has to tell him to clean but even then it's half assed and we clean again shortly after.\n\nWhat are your thoughts reddit? Please tell me if I'm in the wrong and just need to suck it up. I honestly have no idea at this point. Thanks for reading", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4IVyNmQbQk3MPeiHYAvRDEyY2k5r1Y6G", "post_id": "a0ncsx", "action": null, "title": "AITA: hated on the Catholic Church", "text": "AITA: at our pre-TG dinner hang out, I yelled, FUCK THE CATHOLIC CHURCH. \n\nBackstory: My brother was telling us how the Catholic Church gave the parents warnings about the danger of Fortnight, the video game. My brother makes good money, but doesn't have any because his wife insists that they pay about $24k/year to send the kids to Catholic schools despite the fact that they live in a good school district. Also, he's not Catholic. He was raised as a secular Jew. Also, he doesn't have money to do anything he ever wants and he's the only one in the household who makes any money. That and my work as a counselor, who's worked with people who've been abused by clergy at the Catholic Church fueled this outburst.\n\nSo AITA? \n\nTL;DR; I hated on the Catholic Church, but my brother's income is being eaten up by Catholic Schooling. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "j6IR7ky0JN3UW2ESy5GldRL1FygdKqiS", "post_id": "b3rmaa", "action": {"description": "asking her to stop talking about her weight", "pronormative_score": 65, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for asking her to stop talking about her weight", "text": "Background: I'm on a college sports team. Weight doesn't matter in our sport. We have a wide variety of body types, from itty bitty pixies to tall, buff Amazons. One teammate, let's call her Joanne, has a pretty similar body to mine: slim with muscular legs and, because we're 18-22 year old women, there's a lot of insecurity about the way we look.\n\nWhile we were at practice one day, Joanne was looking at herself in the mirror, poking at her belly and frowning.\n\nJoanne: I'm so fat.\n\nMe: No you aren't! You look great.\n\nJoanne: That's nice of you to say, but it only matters what I think.\n\nJoanne pulls the same thing on two more teammates at different points in the day, fishing for a compliment, then saying that it doesn't matter. After she tells the third person that their opinion doesn't matter, I say, \"If you don't want our opinions, maybe don't talk about it around us.\" She gave me a look (kind of offended) and said \"Well I was just saying...\"", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 59, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 65, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "S3XsTfOxJblVosPkGjJdGTmiOPk9Dh97", "post_id": "b1ki7g", "action": {"description": "not helping my dad when my grandpa's house burned down", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not helping my dad when my grandpa's house burned down?", "text": "Recently, my the house next door to my grandpa's house burned down resulting in part of my grandpa's house getting burned. The damage isn't too bad, but bad enough that the house can't be lived in. My dad lives across the street and owns the house next door that my neighbors and grandpa are currently staying in. I live down the street. \n\n​\n\nI helped them prepare the house next door for others to stay in, but haven't helped with anything else since. They are working on clearing out the house so it can be repaired and I have refused to help with it. My dad is now mad at me because I refuse to help. He comes over in the middle of the day (I work nights) and asks for my help to which I refuse because sleep, and even on my days off, I tell him I don't want to help.\n\n​\n\nFor a bit of context, our relationship is very rocky as I hold a lot of resentment from him from my child hood between all the anger issues and the borderline abuse, as well as the amount of time spent working and basically not having a childhood. I still only deal with him because I live with my brother and he interacts with him semi-regularly. \n\n​\n\nHe had just come to ask for help with moving something from the garage so my grandpa can put his bike in it, I told him no and he said \"Fine I guess we will do all the work ourselves. Even though \\[grandpa's\\] house burned down.\" and stormed off. \n\n​\n\nTL;DR AITA for not helping my dad, that I already don't like that much, when my grandpa's house burned down?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "9bwo6Qb4IYRLg26PhSvfiLkJd3e9f28V", "post_id": "acndeh", "action": {"description": "not wanting updates on the dogs after a breakup", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting updates on the dogs after a breakup?", "text": "I just broke up with my boyfriend of 7 years. We have two dogs together that we got 3 years ago. I do love them and hope that everything will be ok. One of them is more mine and the other is more attached to him. Anyways he said I could take the one but they are so attached to each other that I cant split them up. I feel like that would be even more cruel right? Anyways I told him to please block my number and I would block his that way there is no drunk calling or texting. He asked what if something happens to the dogs you dont want to know? I said no. He than left very upset acting like I dont care and I'm an asshole. So AITA for saying no to not updating me on them?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cWAgcUXc1ECfwDkQepMcD6FXQHUHTlMN", "post_id": "b31912", "action": {"description": "expecting my poor friend to pay me back", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA For Expecting My Poor Friend To Pay Me Back?", "text": "Long story short, I lent my friend $50 so she could buy some Spring clothes. Her parents are really poor and she\u2019s been wearing the same clothes for maybe 2 years and I felt really bad for her. I didn\u2019t ask for her to pay me back because I kind of just assumed that\u2019s what a normal person would do. It\u2019s been like a month and still nothing, even after I asked her. Am I the asshole for not telling her to pay me back at first? Or is she the asshole for not paying me back at all?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hR1eWIhuzjDuykuvdTkpKoseKncUPoxf", "post_id": "a08ipy", "action": {"description": "knocking a child down", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for knocking a child down", "text": "First of all, this was an accident. Me and my cousin (both 18M) were running a bit late for a family meeting which was at 14:00 so we was in a bit of a hurry when walking down the street, so as we were approaching a corner this kid comes flying out at mach 2 speed and crashes into me, falling onto her back onto the concrete, i'm a pretty big dude i'm 6ft4 and 250lbs so this kid flew, I quickly approached her to see if she was ok and as soon as i got close the girl's father pushed me away and gave me a disgusted look he then passed her to his wife and she gave me anothrr disgusted look and swore at me in a hateful tone, I once again approached the father to ask if the child was bleeding or something and he just turned his back at me. While all this happened my cousin said in a loud voice as to make sure they heard \"parents should keep their kids on a leash if they're going to ignore them when talking to other people\" i'm not sure if they heard that or not but they didn't seem amused. I'm conflicted, should i have been paying more attention or was the kid just being too reckless?\n\nP.S. : writing this on mobile so sorry for any formatting problems", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JH7hisnA3KbbpkWJpWgo1yONsed5qljz", "post_id": "ayd6as", "action": {"description": "texting another woman in front of my ex", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 17}, "title": "AITA for texting another woman in front of my ex?", "text": "My ex (we'll call her Sarah) of over a year broke up with me about a month ago. She had her reasons, and I understood why it happened but it was still kind of out of the blue and it left me really hurt and insecure, and I made that clear to her. Recently, we've been talking again, and she mentioned she was driving up to my city (about 2 hours away from where she lives) for a hockey game. She wasn't going with anyone so I told her I would join her for old times sake, with the implication being that we were going as friends. I still have feelings for her and was going to try and use last night to rekindle something between us, but I've also been talking to other people since we broke up. So Sarah and I are at the game, and it's going fine, and I decide to take a picture of the view and send it to a female coworker who I have become friendly with since our breakup. This is someone who Sarah is aware of and was jealous/insecure about while we were dating. I never really talked with this person outside of work while Sarah and I were dating, out of respect for Sarah, and I only got her number after we had broken up. But Sarah sees that I'm sending her a picture and she flips out and wouldn't talk to me and ended up leaving early. We've been texting since and she told me that was a dickheaded move by me to text this person in front of her. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 19, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 17}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NUDCRkdRhlVnd2KMj5uNVnMSHPJPFWHI", "post_id": "apzix3", "action": {"description": "telling my overweight mother she shouldn't be the judge of my exercise habits", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For telling my overweight mother she shouldn\u2019t be the judge of my exercise habits?", "text": "I\u2019m a perfectly healthy person, and get a fair amount of exercise. However, my overweight mother constantly tells me to exercise more. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eCRC6NwGb9DBr1ziLqZYNP6ZMnAs4egG", "post_id": "a2ft2j", "action": {"description": "giving a kid better gifts than their parents", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for giving a kid better gifts than their parents?", "text": "Let's say that hypothetically I make a considerable amount more money than my siblings and have no kids of my own to spoil. Would I be an asshole for giving my nieces and nephews gifts that are significantly better than what their parents can give them?\n\nAre there any roles this would be majorly different. What if it was a friend's SO who I'm also good friends with for example? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BBbwsOWv2pYXiNjck4eVKCle7rAJiG4M", "post_id": "ba7box", "action": {"description": "not giving older adults the right of way", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not giving older adults the right of way?", "text": "My wife and I recently moved to a small town in Pennsylvania, and we've always lived in cities prior to this. We just had two episodes in the past two months where random strangers lashed out at us in public for not letting them go first. She is Asian and I am white and we are in out thirties. She is getting self conscious that this may be happening because we are an interracial couple in a largely white community. I am wondering if there is just a greater expectation in small towns that younger people give older adults a wide berth and let them go first? \n\nThe first episode happened while we were leaving a restaurant. My wife was leaving through a glass door that opened out, and there was a women who looked about 65 years old on the other side. My wife went through first because the door opened out and then held it for the woman. The woman scolded her saying to \"learn some manners.\" I was several people behind, and it looked like my wife was there alone. I caught right up and asked the woman what happened. She told us, \"She should learn some manners and let me go first.\" I told her to lighten up, shrugged it off, and we left. \n\nThe second episode happened today. We were leaving a business while another woman also looking about 65 years old was walking up the path in the opposite direction to us. She was walking slowly as if she might have had arthritis or some other condition that made it difficult for her to get around. We were walking quickly and we cut diagonally in front of her to get to our car, passing about three feet in front of her. She was walking so slowly though that she did not have to slow down on account of us. In fact, if she were to turn towards the door she were headed for rather than walking straight down the right hand side of the sidewalk, she would have had an unobstructed path. She scoffed as we went by.  It was almost like a hiss. We looked back at her out of surprise, and she was glaring at us over her shoulder. \n\nIn all of our years living in various cities, while we have put up with our share of rudeness, we have never experienced anything like this. Is there some unwritten small town code that we should be giving older adults a wide birth and always let them go first? \n\nI like to think it might just be that these are nasty, self centered people who we encountered, or maybe we are just inconsiderate city people on the sidewalk, but I don't know. I know there are a fair share of people who are openly racist here. In my work it's not remarkable or uncommon to see people with nazi and white supremacist tattoos and I know there are some kkk members around here. Knowing that they are there is one thing, but somehow it would bother me more if that is why people have lashed out. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6IOixHxEoU9xdJ70eq1dz5ZN7xuNTfFE", "post_id": "9yf75z", "action": {"description": "breaking my sister's priceless toy", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for breaking my sister\u2019s priceless toy?", "text": "So to preface this, I accidentally broke a SDCC mermaid mermicorno that belongs to my sister. It was given to her as a gift and she loves the thing. \nMe, my mom and sister just came back home from the movies. I had to use the bathroom for a bit when I hear my mom telling me through the door that I need to change the bucket water that we use to clean the dogs pee with. So after I get out I do as she asks. I empty out the bucket into the toilet, and flush it down. Here\u2019s where the fuck up begins. I open the shower door of the bathtub to replace the water and close the door a little harder than expected. The bathroom is right next to my sisters room. Apparently I closed it hard enough that the wall between the bathroom and the bedroom shook a little and what was on the shelves fell. At first I\u2019m totally unaware of what just happened, but then she starts banging the wall and crying her heart out. \u201cYou just destroyed my limited edition mermicorno!\u201d , she says as I see that part of the tail had broken off. My mother rushes into the room to comfort her and I\u2019m just standing by the doorway as I\u2019m watching her sob some more, eventually I can\u2019t take much more of it so I just leave. After a few more minutes of hearing her heart wrenching sobs, the more and more I feel like shit. My mom comes out of the room and gives me the most accusing look. Apparently she\u2019s told me time and time again that I shouldn\u2019t close the bathtub door so hard because the wall shakes, but I sincerely can\u2019t remember them telling me this. I was replacing some dog pads at this point and I just lose it as I scream at the tops of my lungs explaining that I feel like shit over what I had just done. I just closed a door, how could I have known this would happen?! I didn\u2019t want to break this priceless toy of hers. My mom tells me to go fuck myself. I tried doing some homework to try to focus my mind on something else but I just become sort of catatonic at this point. A few minutes later I hear my mom talking on the phone, telling whoever she was taking to that \u201cI know he\u2019s my son, but he\u2019s a fucking piece of shit...\u201d it trails of because I can\u2019t and don\u2019t want to hear the rest of it. I just left the apartment and I\u2019m writing this to just get outside the house. I tried looking up her toy to try to find a replacement. It\u2019s sold out everywhere and the one copy is available on eBay for 800 dollars. It was genuinely an accident, and I may have been careless, but I feel like an asshole anyway.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DpdQpM7BnGfwXusZDPqukl4WGdXyNXos", "post_id": "a4bh9z", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be friends with someone", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to be friends with someone?", "text": "There is a kid in my school named Kenneth, though he insists we call him Chet. He really wants to be in our friend group, though I don\u2019t want him to for numerous reasons.\n\n\nHe is extremely annoying and says dead memes over and over again literally seconds after he said it the first time. He also pretends to be suicidal and uses it to manipulate people (at least that\u2019s what I believe). He\u2019ll also make \u201cjokes\u201d about \u201cI\u2019m gonna kill myself lololol\u201d.  He says \u201cCoochie\u201d every single day, and makes my friend (who is a girl) very uncomfortable. Even after we tell him, please stop, he\u2019ll literally scream it in someone else\u2019s ear, still making her uncomfortable. Since we\u2019re in the subject of uncomfortable, he touches her in ways that she tells me make her feel uncomfortable. No, he doesn\u2019t rape her or anything, but like touching her back and jabbing her in the side very hard and forcibly. This is a game that me and her like to play where we\u2019ll play punch each other back and forth, and he do jab each other\u2019s sides sometimes, but he takes it to a new level. We think he likes her. He\u2019s also the type of person to say \u201cowo\u201d  and think it\u2019s hilarious. I tell him to stop, and he\u2019ll call me a hypocrite about it and acts like a privileged brat.\n\n\nSome people think I\u2019m being rude to him, and that I should just let him be friends with us, but I don\u2019t want him to be. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NkLfcdW6lAlAUf7X2F08AIzoLLODBYDl", "post_id": "aqb298", "action": {"description": "thinking a teacher is being anal and spiteful", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for thinking a teacher is being anal and spiteful?", "text": "I'm at sixth form. An assembly finished and the teacher running it started to dismiss only the front row. I got up too early and this prompted him to yell at me to sit back down. The most I did was angrily tell him \"I heard you the first time\" (stupid twat doesn't understand the concept of redundancy because he gave me the same order twice in a row in direct succession. Either that or short-term memory loss, I guess). Beyond that, I failed to show more of a spine.\n\nHe then treated me condescendingly and I just did what he demanded because of my crippling inability to do the right thing and stand up for myself. I regret going along with his demands (it was partially because I was expecting him to have something else to say to me when he was done making me sit down, but then he didn't have anything else to talk to me about. I was probably going to tear into him in that case). Now I feel like shit... I'm 18, I'm too old to be letting others treat me wrong (because I have plenty of unpleasant stories involving that...). In all honesty, I'm hoping some other opportunity comes around for me to deny him what he wants and probably insult him too.\n\nReasons why his method of only allowing a few rows to go at a time is bull:\n\nA. It does little to nothing to prevent crowding compared to if we all left at once.\nB. It's unfair to let some go sooner than others, especially since he always does it in the same order.\nC. Everyone else bullies me (calling me a name I hate) so I feel I deserve to leave before them (and what's one extra person?).\n\n(Another action of his that serves as another indicator of how cuckoo and/or ego-stroking this person just might be: there was this other time where I once started to leave a room via one of the two doors, but he insisted I go back and leave through the other door.)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "f2BoifJWMdljwmdsKxFPcPDD1v3ErDAu", "post_id": "b8d7z9", "action": {"description": "asking someone to leave the group", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked someone to leave the group?", "text": "This is a current ongoing issue and it's affecting me and the group. \n\nSo about 3 months ago a girl came in (24 f) let's call her jane, to the PTSD support group I run. \n\nIt's a little group run from a church where you can talk to women who have been in the same situation and we use coping tips. \n\nThe first few weeks where kinda awkward for jane, but that's just normal for newcomers.\n\nShe's now become an issue to the group, jane was so fortunate to be able to leave without any repercussions, and was able to leave quite easily and her abuser is in jail. that's not the story for most of the people here and she keeps on bragging about it. \n\nabout 4 sessions ago she talked for 10 minutes about how easy it was to leave abusive relationships and then asked the group why they did not leave earlier or why they never fought back, it caused 2 girls to cry and I asked to speak to her in private, I explained that asking that sorta question is inappropriate and not everyone can leave like you did. she rolled her eyes called me a pussy and went back to the group.\n\nlast session, so a few days ago, she sat on her phone for all the other peoples storys and groaned multiple times during peoples speeches, when it got to her she talked about how great having her abuser in prison was and how freeing it is, then looked at all of the people and was talking about how because your abusers are not in jail they could attack you whenever, unlike her abuser. i told her that's highly inappropriate and she laughed and went back on her phone. \n\nI don't want to kick a survivor out of the group, but I also don't want her causing harm to other members and I'm stuck. \nshould I kick her out? \n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bOOpDsEGswsduW74AJVz9MLtpBitMpa4", "post_id": "adbcpl", "action": null, "title": "AITA New flatmate room decisions?", "text": "I have been roommates with a guy at college for the past two years. Next year he and I are getting a house with another buddy of ours. This house has three bed rooms that I\u2019ll just label rooms 1, 2, and 3. These labels also correspond to the rank in quality of room (1 we all decided unanimously the best, 2 the next, and three the worst).\n\nWe\u2019re talking about rooms for next year and for the past few weeks I\u2019ve been saying we should draw names to decide rooms since we all have the same opinion on best/worst rooms. This hasn\u2019t been an issue so far. Just today the guy that I\u2019ve been rooming with told me that he\u2019s taking the second room and that myself and the other guy can fight over the best and worst room. He said now he wants this one and since this is his new favorite he shouldn\u2019t have to be considered for the worst room. \n\nI keep telling him that because he\u2019s trying to claim a good room that although isn\u2019t the best, is still wanted by the rest of us, he can\u2019t just claim it. He keeps saying it\u2019d be unfair for him to draw from a hat and that since I keep saying we should draw names I\u2019m being a real asshole. \n\nI\u2019m not trying to take the room or strong arm him out of the room or anything I just feel like we should find a more fair way to do this. What do you guys think, am  I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "U5wMaFEnL1kPgxJSh5NnISXLU7hbgM48", "post_id": "ab5djb", "action": {"description": "being envious of my older sib", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being envious of my older sib?", "text": "Backstory (skip if you dont really care): Im 13 y/o. My brother gets everything he wants (i know it sounds bratty but bear with me). Whether it's a new console, a computer, an iphone XR, or just straight cash. Me on the other hand, I've only really asked for a cheap gaming computer but I never got one. I try not to ask for too much because my family has money struggles atm. Yeah a gaming computer is a lot to ask for but I've saved up close to 250$ over the course of 4 years. My brother asked for one a month ago and got a 900 dollar machine for christmas. You can probably see what I'm talking about at this point. We're not a rich family. In fact, we are teetering on the poverty line. He also throws parties and makes lots of noise every weekend even though we live in a tiny apartment, while my friends get kicked out of the house every time I invite them over. \n\n This leads leads me to my main question. AITA for being jealous of my brother? Sure everything I stated is purely materialistic but I feel like it still represents some bias towards my brother. He's never had any sort of struggles or disorders that would lead to him needing extra attention so it seems (in my POV) my parents simply spoil him.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PPdds3IN6hW7xYdhca8yc3fheHv2Ckna", "post_id": "b48dfw", "action": {"description": "not wanting to play chauffeur 24/7 for boyfriend's family", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to play chauffeur 24/7 for boyfriend's family?", "text": "   So basically my boyfriend's car has been broken down for a few months. We've been saving to fix it, but it needs a lot of work.  Mine has become our main transportation for both of us and he's contributed 25% of the payment since we're using it only. I have no problem driving him around because he contributes to the payment, but his family is becoming an issue to me. For the record, I like his family, but they do not help him out in any way. His mother mainly loves to mooch for everything she can and never returns the favor. He's always bending over backwards to help her out and it's not been an issue, but it is now since we're using my car. \n\n   We always have to pick several members of his family up for any family events because hardly anyone has cars, which adds an extra 30 minute drive to the location. Last week his mother got dropped off at our work asking us to take her home after I had already told BF, \"No, I'm tired and want to go home already.\" So we had to drive an extra 20 minutes just to take her home after working an 11 hour shift. He says we have to because he pays part of my payment, but I feel like that doesn't cover his family's expenses and they're taking advantage of us. They never cover gas money or do anything for him/us. \n\n   I feel that if I still pay 75% of my payment on a car that's in my name then I should get the most say in where we go. I never had an issue when his car was working, but now I'm running the miles up on my car that I've put much more money into over the years than he has over the past few months. Also he's not on my insurance, so I have to do all the driving because he's not covered. We had a fight last night because I said I wasn't taking any family members anywhere else until they covered their expenses at least. I feel less like a part of the family and more of a taxi driver. He brought up the fact I help my family out when they need it, but I've always been compensated when I have and I feel as it's different because I've never seen a dime or any offer of helping us with anything from his side. \n\n  I've been told I'm being selfish because it's \"family\" but I feel like you still can't use people over and over again because you're related? So Am I the asshole for not wanting to help anymore? \n\n​\n\n\\*Throwaway account due to activity on other subs.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3ekNkkyCUI7DBK83Wf7Sjc4YJADGSo4E", "post_id": "b5c3uv", "action": {"description": "telling my older brother that he has an obligation to help with the funeral of our abusive dad", "pronormative_score": 20, "contranormative_score": 116}, "title": "AITA for telling my older brother that he has an obligation to help with the funeral of our abusive dad?", "text": "Our dad mellowed out quite a bit after I was born but back when my brother Jeff was younger, he was a real prick, as Jeff would put it. \n\nJeff said Dad would knock him around when he drank (which was all the time), would constantly yell and berate both him and Mom, and was just an all around shitty human. \n\nI\u2019m not sure what happened when I was born but dad mellowed out a lot after I was born. Growing up, I could definitely see flashes of who he was, especially when he interacted with Jeff, but all of these things Jeff described never happened with me. Jeff moved out as soon as he turned 18 and I was only 13 and he\u2019s never looked back. \n\nI know that he got sober not long after my birth so I\u2019m sure that was part of it. My mom told me stories of how he treated them back in the day too so I know it wasn\u2019t entirely Jeff\u2019s imagination. Although why she stayed with him, I guess was a factor of the abuse. \n\nWell, Dad died of a stroke last month and Mom & I have been trying to get together arrangements for his funeral. Mom has been really distraught, not only because of his death, but the fact that Jeff isn\u2019t helping at all with the funeral planning. \n\nShe asked me one day if I could go over to his place and convince him to be a part of the funeral. \n\nI went over to his place the other day and I told him that he is making Mom super upset by not helping with the funeral and that I get that he has a lot of shit to deal with because of dad but that he needs to stop being such a dick to mom. \n\nHe went off on me then. Starting calling me an idiot, saying that I was lucky that dad never treated me the way he treated him, that I would never understand what dad put him through and then that under no circumstances will he help with \u201cthat asshole\u2019s\u201d funeral.  He told me to get the fuck out of his house and I didn\u2019t want to cause any more problems so I left. \n\nI haven\u2019t told mom yet what happened because I feel like I\u2019m caught between two places. On the one hand I feel for Mom, but I also understand kind of why Jeff doesn\u2019t want to help. \n\nSo AITA for telling Jeff that he needs to contribute to the funeral for Mom\u2019s sake?\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 112, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 15, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 20, "WRONG": 116}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "mGVWyU844kJARLRJDukBNY36FFF0w4cD", "post_id": "9wnb7w", "action": {"description": "confessing my love to my best friend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for confessing my love to my best friend", "text": "TL;DR:\nHad a very close friend for over three years who I confessed my feelings to. She ended up ghosting me.\n\nBasically, there was this girl who I became friends with during high school. As we grew closer together, I didn\u2019t think much of it. We were friends, and nothing more.\n\nAs we talked more and got to know eachother more, we began to hang out more frequently and would watch Netflix together and hang out. After about two and a half years of being close friends, i began to develop feelings and wanted to have something more with her.\n\nI held back though, recognizing that this was an important friendship and not wanting to mess anything up. As time went by, she stared wanting to hang out more and I took that as a sign of her maybe sharing my interest. One night when we were hanging out, I told her how I was feeling, and she told me she didn\u2019t feel the same way and I was okay with that. I tried to give her space, but realized that I couldn\u2019t get over it due to the amount of time and effort I had invested into her. I went back and told her what was going on, which prompted her to call me crazy and ghost me...\nAITA, or am I justified in telling her the truth?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SgNLHLZffdyFyF1LDi8m6OxWItqDQgyK", "post_id": "auodww", "action": {"description": "ditching a meetup because the other person was late", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for ditching a meetup because the other person was late?", "text": "Hi,\n\nI'm going to keep this as short as possible.\n\n​\n\nAn acquaintance wanted me to meet with him so I could help him with some homework. I am already a little reluctant, as he has been caught multiple times for cheating, and has asked me to help him cheat multiple times too. I can't really risk us having the same homework so I agreed to explaining a couple questions without sharing anything.\n\n​\n\nI set the time, and place (my dorm for my continence) which he agreed to. Fast forward to the actual time and he does not show up. I normally get a little salty when things get late, and I get that it's an issue with me. However, 5 minutes in and he doesn't show up. I leave him a message, no reply. 15 minutes later, I tell him it's off.\n\n​\n\nNormally, I think it's a pretty un-asshole thing. But given that I set the time and place both to my convenience (which he agreed to), I am a little uncertain. When I called it off, I did say that I could help him again via a text message just for a small question or two (already have done so before he requested a meetup). \n\n​\n\nThanks,", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5rPsnXZpdhYpqj8FD3EXtqmXTMDEouUz", "post_id": "b3sqf5", "action": {"description": "using earphones on a motorbike", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for using earphones on a motorbike", "text": "My SO lost a very close friend she grew up with in a traffic accident late 2017. Riding a bicycle she was run over by a large truck and died in hospital. The shock and grief was deepened by the fact she was pregnant. Her due date was to be two weeks earlier than that of our second daughter. My SO and her closest friend would have shared their experiences of their babies arrivals like they did so  much else. \n\nI commute to work by motorcycle and use earphones to listen to podcasts and speak with people while riding. I feel that it is no different to listening to music or speaking handsfree in a car. In my opinion visual checks of mirrors/over the shoulder are the only way to be 100% safe. \n\nShe wants me to stop using earphones and says that because she lost her friend like that I should be more willing to respect her wishes. AITA for refusing? The journey is 45 minutes and I enjoy listening to interesting podcasts. Why should I give up something I enjoy doing every day?\n\nFurther relevant info: I crashed the motorcycle last week due to a strong gust of wind blowing me sideways so that I was unable to avoid a curb. Apart from being unaware of the danger posed by wind I was riding safely and within the speed limits. I skinned my knee and elbow and was pretty shaken. The bike needed some minor repairs. My darling SO said I had behaved recklessly and brought up other examples of reckless behaviour such as a close call with a truck in India in 2013. The guy was driving like a maniac. I don\u2019t think I am particularly reckless but I am certainly not as risk averse as some. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uWglQNR5HfrKQE1bnBTV3RVYNar5F2d4", "post_id": "a48vxe", "action": {"description": "asking my fwb for a threesome", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for asking my (22f) fwb (26m) for a threesome", "text": "We recently started hooking up and he said he\u2019s done them before. I really want a threesome with 2 guys. This is perfect because he\u2019s not in the same social circles or job so nobody needs to know. \n\nBut I\u2019m scared ITA to not have a threesome with 2 girls. He doesn\u2019t seem super into that but I\u2019m not sure. I don\u2019t like the idea since it\u2019s usually expected that the girls interact, while with two guys they don\u2019t need to. I\u2019m straight and while I\u2019d interact with the girl if I had a gun to my head, it\u2019s low key gross since I\u2019m not attracted to women (duh.)\n\nAITA for bringing this up while expressing disinterest in the other kind of 3 way? \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bZCRwPEVBSNEhafuIqo7qKClWRZDOk0l", "post_id": "b36mdf", "action": {"description": "not wanting to bring my mom to the ER at 1am", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to bring my mom to the ER at 1AM?", "text": "Mom has had blood pressure problems the past days so our doctor made her monitor her pressure with some portable device today. She is supposed to go there tomorrow and turn it in to get the data analyzed.\n\nThere have been incidents before where she urged me to ride her to the ER at night because she wasn't feeling good, had some issues etc.\n\nMost of the times though it was nothing to worry about,she could leave after a quick examination.\nThe doctors give us a lecture in a roundabout way to not come to the ER at night if it can wait till tomorrow (not USA btw, we have public health care)\n\nJust like today. Same thing again. She comes to my room at night and says \"zsnes I'm not feeling too good my blood pressure is super high can you get me to the ER?\" \"Are you sure? Wait till tomorrow you have your appointment anyway with our own doctor\". She got kinda irritated and angrily told me it's fine,she'll ride the car herself. \"People get paralyzed from stuff like that you know\" she said.\n\nI just sighed and asked why she has to be like that. Anyway I still get up and reluctantly prepare to drive her (admittedly I was  annoyed and didn't hide it but I kept my mouth shut afterwards.\n\nSo we get to the hospital at like 1AM. After half an hour my mom comes out and asks me for her bag. She brought her own blood pressure machine with her and apparently needed it. I give it to her and follow her to the doctors room. The doctor tells me her blood levels are normal, no abnormalities. \n\nMy mom was kinda confused at this point and tried showing the doctor that her own machine showed a much higher and more dangerous value. \n\nTurns out the unit on my mom's device was a total different one than the regular ones, so she read the numbers totally wrong and assumed they were worse.\nDr. just told us to get a new machine and call a non emergency hotline first next time.\n\nSo we leave and my mom seems a little embarrassed, because she starts trying to explain how it was before and she did in fact feel bad. I tell her it's okay since I only want to get back to my bed at this point. \n\nAt home I want to remind her to make sure she differentiates between serious emergencies and regular \"I'm sick and not feeling good\" occasions. Because I do love my mom more than anything and I get worried just like this time. But because it happens more often I'm scared that I won't take her seriously if something worse might happen another time. Also to not burden hospital staff.\n\nShe got really upset and explained she did feel bad. I only told her she could have waited until the next morning, since there is a safe appointment anyway. In her mind that sounded like I was apparently only annoyed because I had to drive her (which isn't my issue) so she starts telling me I'm ungrateful and all the things she does for me get unnoticed. Both just went to bed after this\n\n\nWell then reddit: am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "V6ZESyegZPSNarHThF99mdeNxjk2u4ut", "post_id": "akk31z", "action": {"description": "changing my passwords so my girlfriend can't have access to my computer/phone", "pronormative_score": 144, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for changing my passwords so my girlfriend can\u2019t have access to my computer/phone?", "text": "My girlfriend and I recently moved in together, and she has brought up a couple times about sharing passwords to phones/ and computers to kinda show our trust in each other. I\u2019ve made it pretty clear that I don\u2019t care to have her passwords as there\u2019s never really any reason for me to go through her stuff, and that I\u2019d expect it to be similar from her perspective. But I gave her the password anyways since I know there\u2019s really nothing to hide. \n\nWell since that\u2019s happened she has questioned me about porn she found in my browser history, old Skype conversations with an ex she found somewhere on my old computer from 2013, pictures of girls on an old old phone I still had that was packed away somewhere in a box, and have walked in to our bedroom to hearing my phone close and when I look through the open apps see she was going through conversations in my messages and apps. \n\nI don\u2019t really care that she\u2019s found these things, but it\u2019s a bit embarrassing to have someone read through these personal conversations from the past that mean nothing anymore. I told her tonight that I\u2019m changing my passwords so that I still feel like I have some privacy. She was obviously super upset about it and says there\u2019s no reason for me to do that since we should trust each other.\n\nAITA for changing my passwords so she doesn\u2019t have access when I\u2019m not around? I\u2019m really on the fence about this, trying to figure out what to do about next. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 141, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 144, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JslRrpGtm7x6B8b5biC5kRwcUcebPkOj", "post_id": "a5knsq", "action": {"description": "getting sick of my depressed friends rants", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting sick of my depressed friends rants?", "text": "Real quick no matter what I won\u2019t just abandon them, they need help and right now it seems like I\u2019m one of the few who give her comfort. Whenever they need help or to talk to me I will help them, but it still gets annoying.\n\nMy friends is a fairly normal person, fairly cute even and a good artist. But she comes from a broken home, as far as I\u2019m aware her real dad left her and her step dad just doesn\u2019t help her and her mom is a recovering alcoholic (who will probably go back to alcoholism, her Mom tried to quit multiple times) who constantly puts her down. Her Mom constantly insults friend for her minor imperfections to the point where she is afraid of telling her about any problems she has. \n\nMy friend constantly gets bullied in school and a lot of her friends are generally bad friends, they insult her a lot, act like huge hypocrites (criticizing friends great art and then saying friend couldn\u2019t criticize her art for one of them.), and won\u2019t try and help her with her problems.\n\nWhy she came to me with her problems, I don\u2019t know, but she did. She started talking about situations where her mom yelled at her and getting panic attacks at school (and situations where those interlap) so of course I talked to her. Eventually I gave her my discord and told her to talk to me whenever she needed to.\n\nAt first it was fine, she talked about her problems and I helped, but then it got worse. She constantly talked about worse situations and I don\u2019t know how to help, especially in some of the worse situations (she recently stabbed a kid with a pencil twice and then stabbed herself a bunch) and it\u2019s honestly getting pretty draining. Am I the asshole for kind of getting sick of it all?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WLsolB27euujkxAPvY904oerTe56NQ46", "post_id": "a0k87m", "action": {"description": "telling my sister she isn't allowed to use my mugs anymore", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA If I told my sister she isn't allowed to use my mugs anymore?", "text": "Some backstory, my sister (25) lives in a different state, and when she comes to visit, her and her husband drive several hot beverages, requiring mugs (I swear this isn't a shitpost). I have about 4 mugs that I cherish from a family vacation a few years back, and they are no longer made (aka not replaceable) and she uses them when she's here, and doesn't rinse them, and leaves horrid rings in them. So far I have lost one mug to nasty rings that ruined to glaze, so it's unusable. I don't want her to use them anymore. My mother doesn't want me to bring it up, because she thinks I'll disrupt the family peace. Also, I have told her numerous times to please rinse them, and she doesn't. So, WIBTA is I told her she isn't to use them anymore?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0yj5eW7itz1X0qMiloRbqBHK4awhj6Ht", "post_id": "axt3aq", "action": {"description": "not letting my husband save animated pornographic images on his phone", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not letting my(29F) husband(32M) save animated pornographic images on his phone?", "text": "Let me start my saying my husband and I have a great relationship. Other than this small issue, everything else is perfect.\n\n My husband and I have been having issues with porn for a while now. I use to be completely fine with porn watching (as I occasionally watch it myself), until I learned the extent to which my husband watched it. He looked at it everyday/multiple times a day, saving hundreds and hundreds of pornographic images and or videos to his phone or laptop. He doesn\u2019t jerk off to it, just endless amount of scrolling. What really got to me was the photos of girls that weren\u2019t nude at all. Fully clothed women and some photos of just their faces. This created an insecurity on my end. It wasn\u2019t a trust issue (I know he\u2019d never cheat), it was more of personal insecurity thing (did he want me to look like those women?)\n\nIn one heated argument he ended up deleting his reddit app containing tons of porn to make me feel better (he hasn\u2019t re-downloaded the app, although he still goes on reddit through the web browser). In another heated argument, I deleted the Instagram app on his phone since it was filled will half naked girls. I felt guilty after and told him to re-download it. He hasn\u2019t since (but still looks at it through the web browser occasionally). \n\nThis wasn\u2019t affecting our sex life at all and I know men watching porn is normal, so I didn\u2019t want him to quit it completely. We came to a compromise of: he\u2019s able to look and watch porn on his own time as long as he tried to lessen the amount he watched and didn\u2019t save it onto his phone where I can see (we use each other\u2019s phones frequently). \n\nI understand I may have some deep rooted insecurity issues from my former long term ex who cheated on me several times and manipulated me into thinking I was just being a \u201ccrazy suspicious girlfriend.\u201d I\u2019ve tried to become more accepting of my husbands porn watching, ex. watching porn with him and checking out sexy girls online to make me more comfortable of the fact. Everyone knows if you keep something taboo in a relationship it\u2019s only going to get worse. \n\nNow to the fight we had the other day, he wanted to know if he could save animated pornographic images to his phone as they are a form of art to him. I told him I was still uncomfortable with him saving any type of porn to his phone (even if it\u2019s animated). He got upset saying I restrict him from doing things he enjoys. \n\nThis hurt me and I felt bad he felt this way about me. AITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WfzLxF0Z6SmRSRM8KB7gvP1ZDVvVWrsB", "post_id": "b9ckyn", "action": {"description": "being frustrated with my film project partner", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being frustrated with my film project partner", "text": "Hi, I am a first year student at uni, going for a minor in film. This was my first film project with a partner and I was honestly excited to maybe make a friend from this. \n\nFirstly, we wrote the script together, but a lot of my inputs weren\u2019t taken. I didn\u2019t mind because I thought that her ideas were better and she was technically the director as assigned by the professor. Because I wasn\u2019t the director, I tried to contribute in other ways, only to be ignored. I asked her if I could work the cameras or take a lead role in the film, both of which were denied as she had already casted her friends for those without telling me. Our professor allowed her to cast an upperclassmen to do most of the filming. We didn\u2019t need any special mics for the project so I was really all out of jobs besides props and doing the storyboards.\n\nI did the storyboards well, and I already had some props prepared. We needed some wine bottles + glasses and other basic party things. I bought the party things, and my mom owns some fancy wine glasses and drinks a lot of wine so I was all set.\n\nYesterday my partner texts me saying that I don\u2019t need to bring in the props. I thought she meant for today, as the scenes we were shooting didn\u2019t require props.\n\nI come in and she tells me that the props are all handled as another one of her friends got them for her. I honestly felt really sad and frustrated, I got those props for the film and wanted badly to contribute, as I was her partner. I also felt lonely because I don\u2019t have any friends in this school and she would constantly excitedly babble with her friends while I would try to contribute things to the conversation, but it was clear that this was an established friend group and I wasn\u2019t very welcome.\n\nI told her that I was upset because I had gotten the props already, and that I didn\u2019t have anything to do in this project. Her reaction was pretty flippant, assigning me the job of checking the time, as one of her actresses had to go to her job in an hour or so.\n\nI felt really hurt, This is supposed to be a partnership. AITA for being hurt by this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2ThaChJy2COI09c7Sh4Wi4y73sq1TxNr", "post_id": "ar0njy", "action": {"description": "asking my boss for comp time to make up for being asked to work 7 upcoming Saturdays", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked my boss for comp time to make up for being asked to work 7 upcoming Saturdays?", "text": "Our company has decided to be a sponsor for a bunch of 5k races coming up and most of the planning has fallen on my shoulders. I don\u2019t mind, it\u2019s fun work. \n\nIssue is, we need staff members to run our sponsor table at each race and so far we don\u2019t have enough volunteers. I don\u2019t blame them, they\u2019d have to be set up by 7am. That means waking up at 6, or earlier, on a Saturday or Sunday morning and working until around noon.\n\n\nWe\u2019re all paid a salary, so legally our boss can require us to work overtime with no extra compensation, but I think that we should get comped a 1/2 for every race because it\u2019s a lot to ask people. And I\u2019m honestly thinking about myself a lot here because I might get stuck doing all 7 events, and one is on a holiday weekend, meaning that I won\u2019t be able to go down to the beach with my family like I usually do. \n\nSo... WIBTA if I asked for a 1/2 comp day in exchange for each 5k race I have to work?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KgPdIdVqyVlbIwG6EloGVANV6JaLbyi0", "post_id": "aabjn7", "action": {"description": "making my dad stay for thanksgiving", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for making my dad stay for thanksgiving", "text": "During thanksgiving my family was round for Thanksgiving and I don't get to see my dad that often as he works out on the oil rigs. He said that he had to leave and catch a flight so he wouldn't be able to stay the week.\n\nSometimes I don't see him for months on ends and I really just wanted to spend time with my father. I hadn't seen him for 7 months this time around and I felt the image of him in my head was fading... so i poured a bag full of sugar into his gas tank and disabled his car causing him to miss his flight and stay with me for a few more days.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "gS3PBapHfJ2Ah4Wnujb4p3Qkabq5Q03r", "post_id": "a1ruu6", "action": {"description": "calling the cops because I thought my friend was going to get raped", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for calling the cops because I thought my friend was going to get raped?", "text": "I [M21] was at my friends [F20] house for a party. We were drinking, people were leaving until it was just me and her left. We were talking on the couch, started making food, and then she invited some friends she hasn\u2019t seen in a while over. Three guys came over and as soon as they got there, one of the guys kept telling me how I need to \u201cget out and go home because you know what\u2019s going down.\u201d I never met these guys before and thought they were just playing and being drunk until the big friend decked me and I went flying into the wall. The friend in the back started screaming what are you doing?? On the floor, clearly not in a good position to start a fight, I went to leave and the big friend pushed me out the door and I again went flying into the wall outside the apartment. Then went to my nearby friends place, and called the cops from my friends phone. I then went back because my shirt, wallet, keys, and phone were still at her place. Outside her door my shirts thrown in the middle of the hallway. I slowly open the door, and was told to get lost because \u201cstuff was going down.\u201d As I was walking down the hallway I hear, \u201cHey pussy want your stuff back?\u201d. So I go back and they throw my stuff on the ground. I thought I could hear my friend crying/in distress in the room but I could also be mistaken. So then I called the cops, told them I thought there was a rape occurring at that address. They show up to knock on the door and there\u2019s no answer. \n\nIt\u2019s the morning after, I for whatever reason couldn\u2019t get much sleep last night. Woke up to texts from a different friend told me that it was wrong of me to do that because my friend was underage drinking, that guy was her ex-boyfriend and everything was fine. \n\nHaven\u2019t heard from the friend despite me texting her. AITA for calling the cops? How should I\u2019ve handled the situation, I thought about taking the guys on (wasn\u2019t sober myself) but it was 3 on 1 and I was in no state to fight given how drunk I was. I\u2019m in PA btw. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5tg4C9AFW9BGoV94eKAnAWzR6VPc5dBy", "post_id": "9up5mf", "action": null, "title": "AITA Girl I have been seeing is mad at me due to friends?", "text": "FTPLTL (sorry for formatting/spelling errors) \nTLDR at bottom. Kinda long but i feel some of the context is important.\n\nI have been casually dating this girl for a few weeks now (its exclusive but complicated.. ill dive in to that later down) and its been amazing. We've known each other for a few months but had a connection from the start but only started really getting more serious a few weeks ago when we got really close after a particular event that happened. We talked non stop 24/7 for these past weeks been on dates got physical, the usual dating stuff.\n\nThe complicated part comes in because she was talking to someone else up until and before the event that brought us closer together. She asked me for my patience and discretion while she handled that situation to make everything work out, it was a coworker of hers so she didn't want that affecting her job. I agreed to stay patient and let her sort it out in a timely fashion.\n\nFast forward to the other day and we along with a few friends are drinking and hanging out and i start doing some couple things like putting my hand on her butt and arm around her/rubbing her back etc. She seems to enjoy it and reciprocates for awhile but does tell me to stop and not in front of them. I did for a little while but due to being somewhat intoxicated i went back to doing the stuff again. \nThe real issue is some of the people we were with are friends with the guy she was talking to and since she hadn't fully sorted it out she feels i disrespected her by exposing us before she could handle everything. \n\nEverything seemed fine on the drive home we were holding hands touching each other having a good time until her phone starts dinging with messages as soon as we get home with her friends that were with us questioning what was going on, she didn't elaborate with what they were saying just that they were blowing up her phone about me and us now. \nThis is when she and i had a talk where she said she felt i disrespected her and went against my word per our conversation about being discreet she then asked me to leave because she was upset.\n I see her point of view about it but i also feel like its only a issue because her friends were making it a issue after the fact. In my opinion we were having a great night and the drive home was a lot of fun and we were laughing, singing along, smiling back and forth, holding hands and caressing each other her mood instantly changed when her phone started going off when we got home.\n\nTLDR- Girl I've been seeing wanted to be discreet for the time being i exposed us to some of her friends and she is mad at me\n\nAm i the asshole? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "G7EhuPfznTa5MgHEmSO1oYEiP8a5qzSm", "post_id": "b4vam2", "action": {"description": "supporting my friend who has cheated on her boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for supporting my friend who has cheated on her boyfriend?", "text": "Hello everyone, first time writing on here, so I hope you all can give me good advice. English isn\u2019t my native language so I\u2019m sorry if it\u2019s not written grammarly correctly.\n\nI live in The Netherlands and I have a friend who we\u2019ll call Ava. She\u2019s been my friend for over 6 years and we\u2019ve met in school. Last year, I took a break from our friendship because she got a new boyfriend who we will call Callum.\n\nSince January of 2019 we have started having contact again and we\u2019ve been hanging out a lot. In the mean time she has got a new best friend named Jess who has a boyfriend named Tom.\n\nLast week I got a text from Ava saying \u201cShe fucked up\u201d. She told me that Jess and Tom\nbroke up and she had kissed Tom. Jess and Callum figured out and got so mad that Callum broke up with Ava. Jess threatened Ava through texts and they haven\u2019t seen each other since at school since they\u2019re avoiding each other.\n\nShe only said she\u2019d kissed with Tom but Callum and Jess are saying they had slept in bed together. I hung out with Ava last thursday and we talked a bit about it and Ava said she\u2019d planned to break up with Callum and that she\u2019d want a relationship with Tom. \n\nTwo days ago I talked to Callum to hear the full story and he send pictures of what he found (as evidence that Ava slept with Tom). I honestly don\u2019t know who to believe and I feel like Ava only has me as her friend who supports her.\nEverytime I tried to confront Ava about what she did, she tries to get out of it by changing the subject. \n\nBut I honestly feel so bad for supporting her and I\u2019m scared that Ava is lying to me and using me for her support at the moment.\n\nAm I the asshole for supporting her even though she\u2019s the one who fucked up?\n\nTLDR; My friend Ava kissed (and maybe slept with) the ex boyfriend of her best friend and I\u2019m basically supporting her because I pity her.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "W2Oax1rQYcIv8bI7nfEdIUwVjeSTp0dJ", "post_id": "b3lvq9", "action": {"description": "using my stepmom cheating on my dad as leverage", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for using my stepmom cheating on my dad as leverage?", "text": "Ok, obviously sorry for formatting bc I'm on mobile, but i needed to get all of this off my chest. \n\nThe other day I walked up to my house after class with a couple of my friends, and there was a really nice car in our driveway. My family is middle class in my dad is shopping for a new car so I was wondering if it was his, but it was nothing like the one he was planning on getting. So anyway I look at it and all the plates are from Ohio ( I'm in southern Michigan) so I instantly knew it wasn't him after seeing that. I wasn't suspicious at first, just because he's been over at her house a couple of times because he's helping my dad designed the jeep that he wants to get. \n\nSo I walk inside and we have our mud room right next to the kitchen, and then through two doors hazard laundry room. The doors are the outdoorsy Style with big glass windows, I don't really know how else to describe them they're really old. But anyway there's curtains over them but you can still see through barely. Especially when it's sunny outside in the window in the room is shining through. Anyway I saw Two Silhouettes back there and instantly knew who it was. At first I was wondering what what's happening, but then I heard the sound of a bell p.m. put on. Now I'm a guy and I'm also really skinny so I could on a lot of belts in my days so I know what it sounds like\ud83d\ude02\ud83d\ude05 \n\nBut anyway I've been keeping it in for a couple of days, and I got really pissed off at her in an argument so I just told her that I knew, and next time I'll have to bring it to my dad. So I guess to rebuttal the question, am I the asshole for blackmailing my stepmom with the think that she's cheating on my dad?\n\nTldr: stepmom cheated on dad with their friend and now I'm blackmailing her essentially. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "bFmJ1cjViCfvlG1dfisCM9qrgQHMXalC", "post_id": "akh3rn", "action": {"description": "unfriending ladies who hurt my feelings, even tho it is unintentional", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for unfriending ladies who hurt my feelings, even tho it is unintentional??", "text": "I have a group of girlfriends, most of which i have known since high school (about 20 years).  Recently (within the past year) I have been joining their group on social outings, birthday dinners, drinks, get togethers with the kids, etc.  At the beginning of November we all did a 5k together and went out to dinner that night.  Since then, I have been invited to ONE gathering, which included all the children and involved bringing food and gifts.  The rest of the ladies have gotten together at least six other times, including a New Year's gathering.  I have not been invited, and have seen multiple posts on fb about all the fun.  \n\nRecently one of the ladies posted about planning a trip and asking for recommendations.  I asked about the trip and she said I was welcome to come, giving me dates, hotels where they have reservations, etc.  I replied that I didn't know they were that far into the planning process and didn't want to intrude.  One of the ladies I am quite close to (exercising with her four days a week) and I told her I felt excluded.  She said they had planned the trip as a celebration of her upcoming divorce finalization (which she and I have discussed at length) and I SHOULD come and I shouldn't feel excluded.  I just dropped it at that time.  Two weeks later, same friends posting about an outing that I again wasn't invited to.  \n\nAt that point I unfriended them, thinking that they don't HAVE to invite me, and if I don't know about the outings then I won't feel excluded.  My closest friend texted me to ask why I unfriended them and I told her.  She said that they weren't intentionally excluding me and she didn't intend to hurt my feelings.  I told her I understood, and I didn't think she was doing anything wrong, I'm just protecting my feelings.  AITA for unfriending??\n\nTL;DR: my group of girlfriends keeps excluding me so I unfriended them so I wouldn't have to see what I'm missing. AITA??", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QMkhqT84DHShCPcFLX0B2kd9zUjwmfFk", "post_id": "aodam4", "action": {"description": "blatantly disobeying my parents? probably", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for blatantly disobeying my parents? Probably.", "text": "So for backstory, I go to a homeschool co-op that meets once a week, and I'm only 13 so neither me nor my friends have cell phones with actual service. (Out phones are basically glorified Ipods.) \n\nMy mom and dad are very protective, and essentially keep me and my five siblings cooped up. Usually this would be fine, but for a major extravert seeing people other than family only once a week isn't near enough. All the kids but my oldest brother and sister, (19 and 17), aren't allowed on social media, and can't talk to *anyone* we don't know online, no public discord servers, no chat on games, no Reddit, YouTube, steam forums, et cetera. They also have a rule of no dating until 18.\n\n I eventually just gave up on no game chat because I'm an extrovert and it's painful not being able to talk to people. Making other people happy, telling them jokes, making them laugh, it's what makes me happy. So I started chatting in game. \n\nSo usually I go to bed and read on a Kindle tablet for a bit, but one night it was late and I was too tired to read. I started watching YouTube, and I loved it. I loved interacting in the comments, making jokes, just watching YouTubers. This lead me to discord servers, Reddit, online freinds, and webtoon. Overall, I've been pretty responsible with what I veiw online. There have been multiple times where my parents almost found out, but I just denied it because I'm a compulsive liar and kind of a pussycat when it comes to owning up. \n\nWhat makes this even worse is that I want to become a creator, making animations for YouTube, and illustrating for webtoon, but my parents obviously have a rule against that. I have a messed up sense of self worth, based on how many people know *of* me but don't *know* me. I want to make a difference outside of my friend group you know? Sooo, I've been drawing for a writer I met on webtoon behind their back. \n\nAnother thing about this that upsets me, there's a girl in my class who I think actually likes me, which is a first. (Up until now I haven't really been attractive to say the least, but I look better now.) and I really like her too. But if she ever asks me if I like her, I'll have to turn her down, because my parents wouldn't approve of it.\n\nTo be honest, I actually want my parents to find out at this point, but I can't bring myself to do it. And guys, this post actually isn't for self validation or anything, for the most part it's just to vent because I need to tell *someone.* I know that I'm at least a bit of an A-hole for it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1UZjuzS3VJJrMy2FVbkYZmtDQ4233nK6", "post_id": "a69w0u", "action": {"description": "being upset about my niece stealing from me", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "Aita for being upset about my niece stealing from me?", "text": "My niece is 10 years old, and steals from everybody. Not just little things either. A month ago she stole 180 dollars from my granddads wallet, before that it was a knife from the lockbox in my room, its been a long time thing. Shes had everything from a grounding to, to the police talking to her. Today I woke up and realised a necklace I bought my girlfriend for Christmas is gone. When I asked around about it everyone said \"oh I think I saw her hiding something\" or \"yeah she was wearing it but I didn't know it was yours\". Of course I dont go to her yet since shes in school. Instead I ask my sister if she knows where it is. Immediately I'm being yelled at. \"How do you know it was her!\", \"dont just get in my face and tell me my daughters a thief\", and my personal favorite \"your girlfriend didn't deserve it anyway\". I'm a very calm person for the most part, and I try really hard and manage to keep my composure. I'll have to go buy her a new gift now since I'll probably never find the necklace and now I cant stand being in the same room as my sister, but I feel like I'm the asshole for being upset about it all.\n\nTl;dr: my 10YO niece stole my girlfriends Christmas present, I got yelled at for asking about it, and now I'm upset.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eisu75kMJPhVr4VhHUAHcbfiNQ0XUDY8", "post_id": "b6ghvy", "action": {"description": "calling my co worker \"disgusting\"", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for calling my co worker \"disgusting\"?", "text": "So I work part time at a busy chain restaurant as a server. I was hanging out with some of my co workers in the break room when the topic of disgusting habits was brought up by someone we can call Steve. I called out the same Steve by saying\" whats disgusting is when you clear tables and bring leftover food to the back and eat it\" He later told me he was mad that I brought it up in front of others and that the food that he did bring back was stuff like chicken tenders that were basically untouched and left by customers that would be otherwise wasted. IMO its pretty gross either way and you can get sick but AITA for bringing it up in a conversation with others present? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "oGYnFeM9qXLUaIoQqPqH7IxBpUvXTM3a", "post_id": "am0l4c", "action": {"description": "not allowing my gf to be friends with co-worker(of 3+ years) anymore for calling one of their co-workers her \"boyfriend\"", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 51}, "title": "AITA for not allowing my gf (28) to be friends with co-worker(of 3+ years) anymore for calling one of their co-workers her \"boyfriend\"?", "text": "A little background, me and my gf live together (3 Months now) but have been on and off for 4 years. She's been friends with this girl for 3+ years. My gf told me straight up that this guy (let's call him Sam from now on) Sam doesn't talk too anyone at their job (plenty of male female associates). But, since he has worked there he \"waves\" at my gf and is the only person at their job he kinda talks to. I was ok with that. I trusted her since she brought it up. \n\nI posted yesterday that we go through each other's phones. Well she deleted a few message. Most were innocent \"what are you girls wearing tomorrow?\". How I know you ask? Well she has a Fitbit and while she deletes her text on her phone her Fitbit takes longer to delete them. (this isn't the point of this post please don't focus or make your decision based off this). But I used the knowledge that she erased messages (she doesn't know her fitbit is betraying her) to let her tell me everything she deleted. Turns out that she deleted a message where her friend said something along the lines of \"your boyfriend (Sam) was late to work last night\" my gf told me that she ignored the message and moved the conversation on. I believe her because she is under the impression that I read it all (still thinks I hacked her phone when in reality she sank herself. I read one fitbit message).\n\nAfter finding this out. I said \"I don't want you to be friends with her anymore she doesn't respect me as your man and us as a couple\". I know some people joke around and sometimes have innocent \"work husband's\". I'm not ok with either. I believe my gf should had told her friend that it's not ok to call another man that and I don't think her friend had a right to joke like that. \n\nAm I the asshole for not wanting her to keep that friend anymore? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 51, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 51}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "PkgKwdz4AX9I4LAQBUr0UY23AUQ3vAqH", "post_id": "as56w3", "action": {"description": "telling my mom I would be with someone outside our race", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my mom I would be with someone outside our race?", "text": "So in my culture family's very important especially your parents, and you basically have to do everything they say. I was talking to my mom earlier today, I forget how but the topic of interracial marriage came up and she was like \"I don't want you bringing other people home\" other people meaning other races. I told her that if I end up with someone outside our race there's nothing she can do, if she wanted me to stick within our culture she should have raised us back home. She got mad at this and called me disrespectful but I don't see how. I think it's narrow minded as hell to raise your kids in a country full of people that aren't of your culture and then tell them that they can't be with other races, like does she realize how badly that limits my dating options? But maybe I could have worded it better? Idk\n\nAITA in this situation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Uf4y6IBIhTUL2LwHr4qbtkIAVvNvC36C", "post_id": "adyufs", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be a leader", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to be a leader.", "text": "I'm 19 currently in the California Conservation Corps which is a youth development program that allows people from 18-25 to go out and get work experience with stuff like building trails, eradicating invasive species or building salmon habitats. The program lasts a year unless you decide to promote, promoting will extend you another year. To promote you have to go to what the program calls Leadership Training, which I'm currently attending. Most of the other people in this class essentially had to beg their bosses to get sent here, my boss said \" hey tomorrow you are driving to Stockton for some training, be there by 3:00 PM\". So I dont have much of a choice being here and the topics we are discussing are not always helpful and seem to perpetuate only one type of leading/mentoring style.\n\nSo my question is, should I feel like an asshole for not wanting to go through this \"training\" even though for some people this training is extremely hard to get into? Am I being conceited?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wqZMORgFkHD8UNEHaNxYqnt6ZJDc7RTH", "post_id": "a2yrcd", "action": {"description": "calling out a morbid video in my group chat", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for calling out a morbid video in my group chat?", "text": "I (26M) have had a group on Snapchat with several of my friends for the past few years. We mostly use it to send each other memes or videos of each other drunk on the weekends for a laugh, but I would definitely say we have a crude to dark sense of humor and some of the stuff might be in poor taste. I wouldn\u2019t say I have a \u201cline\u201d to be crossed, so to speak, on any of the jokes made. Until I found out I did. A mutual friend that had been added to the group recently, one who it wouldn\u2019t bother me in the slightest if I never heard from again, decided a few months ago it would be funny to send some footage of what could be described as a hostage situation with a drug cartel I\u2019m assuming. They had a man tied up with a bag over his head and they were slicing into his torso with a knife. I\u2019m talking like you can see the fat under his skin type slicing. Since this is Snapchat the video plays automatically when you open it so I had no choice whether I saw it or not. I\u2019ll never get that image out of my head, this man was being tortured. So I pretty much said that if this is what the group chat was going to turn in to then they should let me know so I can leave, I would\u2019ve preferred to have not seen that. It was met with some pretty heavy backlash, things like \u201cyou\u2019re being a baby\u201d \u201cyou have a weak stomach\u201d things like that. I got in a big argument with everyone, it seemed *insane* to me that I was the one being looked at like an asshole and weak for saying I would leave the group over that and didn\u2019t want to see it. My friends like to act like nothing bothers them or grosses them out (maybe it\u2019s true, I don\u2019t know), I don\u2019t think they\u2019re bad people. Whatever. It blew over, haven\u2019t had anything like that since. Fast forward to yesterday and they were talking about some gross skin related stuff, which is more tame, but I still think is gross. A reasonable thing to find disgusting I think. So I literally just sent a picture of a grossed out face in response and it blew up again \u201cwhat are you gonna leave the group? Does your tummy hurt?\u201d. I explained that it\u2019s not the same thing and we got in an argument that eventually ended. This all happened early in the morning, so when the member who sent the torture video before read the argument he sent the video **again** just to be an asshole. I acted like it didn\u2019t bother me this time because I had already seen it, but I thought that was so disrespectful. Everyone else is acting like I\u2019m the asshole for making a big deal out of not wanting to see things like that, but I think any normal person wouldn\u2019t want to see videos like that. I feel like it\u2019s crazy for me to be seen as the one in the wrong here. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iwLCmcrCsirg7OhlL5JrHDNcJAWpRAPP", "post_id": "9yx3r2", "action": {"description": "kissing my girlfriend in the living room", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for kissing my(14M) girlfriend(14F) in the living room?", "text": "Back story today my girlfriend came over and wee watched a bunch of Christmas movies and stuff well at one point my sister (20F) joins us on the couch not in the same exact couch but in the living room and my girlfriend is leaning on my chest and she looked at me and we kissed twice my sister stops us and says \"really guys get a room there's no need for that\" and all im thinking in my head is i cant count how many times she made out with guys on the couch. So i said did you froget who you were in high school and she then said \"excuse you please tell me Cody what i was like in high school you were like 12 when i graduated\" i said \"yeah but i have heard the story's and oh boy there's a lot\" then she said \"fuck you i came home for thanksgiving so i can see your stupid ass that bitch over there took my sweat little brother\" and then i fliped. We went on and on till our mom stoped us AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IQ8MwK4xDgrSJJkVdyFsr9OTPNUNC6Go", "post_id": "awd123", "action": {"description": "telling this joke", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling this joke:", "text": "What's more Irish than potatoes? Not having potatoes. Yes i saw it on Reddit. But someone said it was racist. Imo, the butt of the joke is not a race, so it's not racist.   Is it a dark joke? Yes. Is it racist? I didn't think so.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IYNIEY9sRsto1em4f8ZQIoEGrQh5s05K", "post_id": "b67gz3", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go to church", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go to church??", "text": "So where i live, religion is really big, so as you would guess there\u00b4s also really religious schools, im in a religious school (but not REALLY realigious), so once in a month or two we go to the church in my school, but it was the start of the year so the teachers start asking for our religions, i say catholic, but that i didnt want to go.\n\nthe teacher tolds me that i did have to go cus it was part of my religion, i say thatstill i wouldnt go (i wouldnt go cus i dont  really care about the religion and the bible and all ***i do believe in God tho***).\n\nso when the day comes and everyone is taking lines i go to hide with the kids from other religions and start to play UNO with them, then the principal comes to ask if there\u00b4s any catholic kid who didnt go with them, she notices me and tells me im catholic, and that i should go NOW, i say \u00b4\u00b4\u00b4no\u00b4\u00b4 cus i didnt want to, she says she\u00b4ll call my parents if i dont (my family take religion very seriously, and i know how i would end if they knew), i tell her to please not to, she tells me ihave no decision over this since im underage and naive (THIS FUCKING ENFURIATED ME).\n\ni say ok, and go, as expected i get bored quickly, but once it ends some friends tell me i was stupid for doing that, ok, i went back to my house and my mom tells me the same thing and that its my religion so i should respect  it.\n\n​\n\nSo, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dQlWJqatNdRIiMqmFgB4YzC9hcuNnZse", "post_id": "axmoxi", "action": {"description": "wanting to leave my gf", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting to leave my GF?", "text": "Cross posted from r/relationship_advice because of 3000 character limit. It's a long story. \n\nhttps://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/axmkej/should_i_m_20_break_up_with_my_gf_f_20/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xL8EqwMsn4JPLpg0SNN523fHjkRXC7xg", "post_id": "aimzfz", "action": {"description": "quitting on the spot", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for quitting on the spot?", "text": "Im working for a big company in europe which basically sells shitty cheap stuff. The stores are constantly understaffed so they have to do lots of sending their employees around to cover shifts or \"situations\". \"Situations\" can be everything from having like having 30 pallets which need to be dismantled as they are brimful with packages filled with ther stuff we sell. Other \"situations\" were like when we had rats because our big deliverer couldnt keep his storehouses in check.\nAtm we have the first \"situation\".\nPeople are working overhours to get it fixed. Yesterday i had a 9 hour shift and today was my free day. My boss asked wheter I could help out today and I said no. Im workin there as a part time but most of the time they demand extra hours for you because the workload needs to be handled. \nToday my boss called and asked me to help out in another store. Sleepdrunkenly I agreed and after finding out i need like 2 hours to travel with by public means of transport for 5 hours work twice next week I went into the store and asked wheter I could switch with someone who has a car. \nI got screamed at by one coworker which was very unprofessional imo and my boss immediatly put on an annoyed face and commented how its life experience and he traveled far more for far less hours.\nThen he told me I my workforce is like 50 percent max and Im just a \"freeloader\" who wants his hours and his healthcare quoting me from a few months ago. \nThen he told me he never even complained that I come to work \"high\" in the mornings ( which is not true. I have very bad sleeping habits and I use weed in the evening to relax) \nHe argued my illness ( Morbus Crohn ) is something I always cry about and that I have 0 Teamspirit and every other coworker is better than me and showing more will to work. \nHe told me if my illness is true im not able to work this job and should get a job in an office ( thats actually something i really would like tbh).\nI asked him why hes not firing me if hes so disappointed in me and he argued that he cant simply find someone to fill the spot with. \nAfterwards we stopped discussing and I went into the store to grab a sheet of paper and wrote my termination. \nIm mentally and physically done and yet I feel bad for leaving as a lot of work is before them and my landlord is my friend and I need to find a new job quickly but apprently im a shit worker. My landlord told me he could understand me and that I shouldnt apologize to him but I dont wanna use my friendship status for extras. \nSo AITA for quitting on the spot after being told what I was told only because I wanted to not travel far for little hours which would have been extra hours anyway. \nIm really unsure wheter im just a big baby and should man up or wheter I stood my ground and left b4 worse fallouts could have happened.\nI really desire to into a clinic for mental health right now tbh.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "11GFjnAIDDruFlCn5HwC06A2gvIK1CKu", "post_id": "azx6yr", "action": null, "title": "AITA she took back her \u201cyes\u201d", "text": "My girlfriend (I guess ex girlfriend now) and I went on a cruise together and I decided to propose. I set it up at the end of a show with a photographer and everything and popped the question and she said yes! I was so elated, on cloud nine, it was like a dream. We got champagne and took pictures and then went back to the room and she dropped the ball on me\u2014 she didn\u2019t want to actually marry me.\n\nI was so horribly broken in that moment. I cried and asked why she would lead me on like this, and she got upset and said it was my fault for planning a public proposal without discussing engagement with her first. She said we were moving too quickly and she wasn\u2019t ready. I told her she should have told me so instead of getting my hopes up and shattering them later. She refused to listen or agree. I ended our relationship right then because I can\u2019t overlook such insensitivity like this. AITA or is she?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 302, "OTHER": 21, "EVERYBODY": 23, "NOBODY": 32, "INFO": 7}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 53, "WRONG": 325}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "c8rITwA115o6evyLYtdUbvSGAfi4LyIX", "post_id": "9uhaxe", "action": {"description": "feeling betrayed by my step grandmother and her family got the extend of cutting all relations", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for feeling betrayed by my step grandmother and her family got the extend of cutting all relations?", "text": "My grandfather died of a heart attack last year and his second wife, my step grandma took every chance she could to make it about her own family. Rather than have the service at his church it was hers, we wrote it off as her wanting to be surrounded by friends so we didn\u2019t protest. She then cut his first wife my mom\u2019s mother from the list of people he would be joining in heaven, choosing to include someone that he had never met to be included over his first wife. In addition to the sleight of people the how was cruel they had her niece do a passage instead of my uncle, his son, who loves scripture. Finally we looked at the program and they took every chance they could to write us out as if we didn\u2019t care. No mention of my father or uncle as pallbearers or my mother\u2019s eulogy but hey at least I got recognized as a pallbearer. After that we went to the lung afterwards and they cut us from talking with the rest of her family putting all of his original family tables away where they had to set up when we arrived despite their being cutlery up other places. Following that I decided to take every opportunity to sever ties including boycotting the annual trip up to there for thanksgiving.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "97ChWvMHWJwJaxxE6Gq7Y45SVbxesIlz", "post_id": "aebgyi", "action": null, "title": "AITA For how I've dealt with finding out my SO and Best friend/roommate fooled around?", "text": "Alright this will be a 1st and long post but I'll try to condense as best as I can.\n\n\\-----------------------------(Story/info) \n\nSo I (25M) have been friends with my best friend (26M) for about 5 years. We work together have similar interests and world views. We had also been living together for the past 2 years. Up until recently I actually looked up to him and thought he was honestly the most well rounded person I had met around my age.\n\nA little over a year ago I started dating my SO (21F) a few months in for convenience she essentially moved in. Things had been going pretty well but we started having some issues but we were keeping it together. As background for the upcoming story she is also easily the biggest lightweight I have ever known. anything past 4 regular light beers and she starts getting trashed. \n\nSo about a month ago we're all drinking sitting in the living room and I've gotten to the point where I want to taper off and start going to bed. It's around 2 or 3am and my SO has work the next day while I do not. I recommended she come to bed so she doesn't feel too bad in the morning. She's also getting to that point of no return level of drunk where shes slurring pretty heavily, laying in awkward positions, and general tells of someone being very intoxicated.\n\nShe tells me she thinks she should just stay up at this point so she doesn't accidentally sleep through her alarm. I guess that makes sense I tried to convince her otherwise but generally shrug it off and go to bed.\n\nI woke up the next day and everything seemed alright but my SO eventually came up to me later in the day and explained that her and my best friend and fooled around the night before. I was upset but I've been cheated on before so I wasn't hopelessly crushed. I went to my best friend in the other room and asked him what happened he tried to say they only made out. She told me different but I didn't let him know that. I also asked him if he planned on telling me and he shrugged his shoulders and said hey man I dunno its awkward.\n\nOver the next few days the SO filled me in on some more details that I asked for to get a better grip on the situation.\n\nEssentially most of the time was harmless till he came over started putting the classic moves that you do then proceeded to talk badly about me and how I am including some stuff that feels completely made up while he talked her up about how nice she's been ya know... the classics. She was the one to eventually stop what they were doing and walk away.\n\nI condensed alot of it but if the specifics of what happened are needed I can edit it in later or make another post later.\n\n\\---------------------(What I have done)\n\nSo knowing all that I can tell you how I've been handling it.\n\nFor my best friend I've done everything I can to avoid seeing him or acknowledging him in the apartment. I've made plans to move out as soon as I have the place available I'm gone. I felt I gave him his chance to explain his side and he shrugged his shoulders. He also didn't say another word or even a sorry till 3 weeks later while he was shitfaced. I can forgive mistakes even monumental ones like that but lying about it then not planning on telling me and the way he went about it just seems sleazy and malicious. also he is quite a heavy drinker so he can handle his drinks and he wasn't that bad off when I went to bed.\n\nFor the SO at first I told her to be moved out by new years. She was honest she knew she fucked up and she hated herself for it. She beat her self up enough so I was perfectly content with acting like nothing happened until she moved out to allow her to have a smooth transition. Recently though we have been talking about possibly working things out and I'm just very unsure of it. \n\nOn one hand she was honest with when in reality that's a hard thing for most people to admit to someone knowing full well you'll earn nothing but that person's anger and hate in return. On the other honesty can't get you out of everything nor can alcohol as an excuse and if we continue on it will be very hard for me to remember this and have it lorded over her when she might be acting shitty towards me. I know that isn't right but I'm human too and I don't know how I might feel later down the road. I also feel that maybe the part that wants to work on it is just being weak afraid of being alone after losing the only 2 people I really interact with outside of work. If that's so then that's unfair to her.\n\nI've talked to some friends at work about it which is the closest petty thing I've done to the best friend however I legitimately wanted their opinion (2 older males) but part of me did feel like I was exposing a fraud. They were surprised considering how close we we're but they think I should give him another chance or some sort of leniency.\n\n\\-------------------------(TL;DR)\n\nSo after all this AITA for completely shunning my best friend while forgiving my SO and possibly letting her back into my life fully", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "i1CYlYx6Onp7cqTxcugndPwWu4XJY0z7", "post_id": "b30f72", "action": {"description": "not being thrilled about my husband going on vacation without me", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not being thrilled about my husband going on vacation without me?", "text": "Background: We've been together for ten years, been married for the past five. (We're in our late twenties, early thirties.)\nMy in-laws disliked me from day one, trying to make it work with them never had the effect my husband and I had hoped for. There have been times they didn't even talk to her son, two to three years in total (petty reasons). My husband always stands up for me, so that's never been an issue between us.\n\nA couple of weeks ago they asked him how we handle the \"dog problem\" when we're going on vacation. He told them how it is: we always take him with us, usually hiking and car camping.\n\nA few days go by and my husband tells me his dad invited him on a trip to the US, he'll let him pick all the places he wants to go, he'll pay for everything.\nWe're from Europe and money is a little tight so it's a big thing. \n\nPart of me now wishes my husband had said no, since they had first asked about the both of us...and their \"solution\" is to invite him only instead of finding something suitable for our situation?\n\nNow for the stupid part:\nI wouldn't even have wanted them to pay for anything anyway, I would've probably declined any offer. We don't get along, I am simply not the woman they would've wanted for their son.\nThey weren't there when their son needed them, he had to take a student loan (which we're still paying off) because his dad didn't feel it was his obligation to support his son who's the first academic in his family. My in-laws aren't filthy rich but they're quite well-off. It's their money and they shall do with it whatever they please. \nOffering my husband a trip that'll cost them a couple of thousand Euros after they have just recently re-established the connection (after a year of silence, see above) just gives me a weird feeling, besides being kind of hurt because he accepted without hesitation.\n\nHis mom has been spoiling him ever since they're in touch again, too. She sent him several three-figure amounts of money for Christmas, his birthday etc. It's a little much and unusual. \nI'm all for loving parents but I'm afraid they might hold it against him some day.\nHis whole family is messed up because of money - e.g. his dad and uncles don't talk anymore because of their dad's heritage.\n\nAm I the asshole for not being able to be thrilled about the whole thing?\n\n\n\nTl; dr: My usually cheap in-laws invited my husband to an expensive trip to the U.S. and I'm having a hard time feeling happy for him.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NbXfxIjjte4Ds026icSbiZsPrDiihs0h", "post_id": "axsd20", "action": {"description": "asking my husband to use another bathroom", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for asking my husband to use another bathroom?", "text": "We have three toilets in the house. One of them is in the master bath. The other two are in tiny half bathrooms. These rooms are too small for anything other than the toilet and a tiny corner sink.\n\nDH likes to take his time in the bathroom. He\u2019ll be in there for 45+ minutes every time. This is a problem at night because I shower before bed. I\u2019m constantly having to wait on him before I can get in there and do what I need to do.\n\nHe hates using the other two toilets because the rooms are so small. He\u2019s a tall guy, but it\u2019s not like his knees are touching the door when he\u2019s sitting on the toilet. So for now he\u2019s just been checking with me before he uses our bathroom. But sometimes things come up when he\u2019s in there. If I need a Band-Aid or my tweezers or something. I get annoyed having to ask him how much longer and he gets annoyed because he\u2019s interrupted.\n\nAITA for asking him to use one of the other bathrooms?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "N2B9bUVWU0ej4KW7UWfkf4pvTs5Sx2A3", "post_id": "9vvuld", "action": {"description": "genuinely not caring that my wife's grandmother is dying", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for genuinely not caring that my wife\u2019s grandmother is dying?", "text": "Bit of backstory.\n\nMy wife\u2019s family are the definition of toxic. They\u2019re self centered, self serving, low intelligence, hate speech spewing. \u201cFamily\nOver everything\u201d because they heard it in a movie once, garbage people.\n\nAfter 10 longyears I\u2019ve finally made her see the toxicity that these people really are and visits have become scarce. \n\nThey all revolve around \u201cgrams house\u201d. And gram has been sick for the last 8 months. Triple-bypass, lungsfilling up with fluid and so on. Gram is obviously dying.\n\nNow Gram for the most part is a good person, she raised the 6 kids that have caused all the toxicity but I\u2019ll let that go. \n\nSo we got a call last night that gram is most likely not going to live thru the next 2 days. My personal opinion is good. Let her die, she\u2019s 95 years old and still babysits 4 kids that these scumbags just dump on her because they don\u2019t wanna be bothered. She\u2019s still paying for her genuinely medically diagnosed lunatic daughter living in the house. And her absolutely vile human being of a son who just mooches. And every time he\u2019s threatened to be thrown out, he just holds onto the \u201cmom won\u2019t let you\u201d card. And he wins. \n\nNow I\u2019m sitting in the hospital waiting room, my wife is in the icu with her grandmother, and she\u2019s found out that her mother and uncle have decided gram should die at home. But they\u2019re not telling anyone. \n\nMind you the 29 year old grandson who\u2019s given up his whole life to take care of his grandmother lives there as well. Pays his own way and has taken care of gram, crazy daughter (his mom) and scumbag son (uncle) his whole life.  He\u2019s supposed to get the house after she dies. But if she dies in the house he\u2019ll have to disclose it to every potential buyer (we live in a state with that law), have to clean up the mess, and have to deal with his crazy mother losing her shit because she saw her mother dead. \n\nBut thru all this, I just don\u2019t give a fuck. I\u2019m here for my wife because she needs support, but\nEven that is hard to muster sometimes. Most of\nThe support she needs is to deal with her scum bag family. I told her that the second I see her being dragged into drama, I\u2019m physically pulling her out of it and we\u2019re leaving. \n\nTL:DR - wife\u2019s grandma is dying and I genuinely don\u2019t care\n\nAm I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8cGrfXzMRW9VGMktAKIWpf2vYrnl3SKn", "post_id": "atmxat", "action": {"description": "calling the county on a hoarder neighbor dying of cancer", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I called the county on a hoarder neighbor dying of cancer?", "text": "My neighbor (62), and long time family friend, is dying of stage 4 bone cancer. He is a confirmed bachelor, and is living in the house he grew up in.  Both of his parents passed in that house, and he would like to go the same way.  Normally, there would be no problem with this.  There are home heath aids for a reason, and I dont mind taking food over to him semi-regularly.  However, his home I recently learned, is not fit for human habitation. \n\nNo, you're thinking, but OP if he's been a family friend since before you were born how were you never in his house before? Well, because cats and I like breathing. But seriously, he never hosted gatherings and when extra folding chairs or the like were needed he would go over and get them and bring them back. He's a super private person and has always been well groomed and presentable.\n\nHis health took a turn for the for the worse about a year and a half ago when he was diagnosed with prostate cancer.  Chemo weakend him but he kept going. ~5 mo ago he got the news that it spread all through his body in the form of bone (and I think lymph node) cancer.  Stage 4. He doesn't have much medical background and doesn't want to know, but I don't think he has more than a month or three left. He can barely hold a conversation much less go upstairs to his bedroom without being out of breath.  He'll fight to the end. \n\nHerein lies the problem: I always knew he had a lot of stuff, he would talk about it but I didn't realize how bad it was. I found out how bad when I dropped of food and he couldn't get up out of bed to put it away himself. The kitchen sink doesn't drain, there was a water leak in the upstairs bath and now there is two inches of mold hanging from the downstairs bathroom ceiling, the bathroom likely hasn't been cleaned in years with shit all over the toilet. He doesn't take the garbage out and there's even mold on the egg shells. I ended up nauseous and bordering on an asthma attack after being in there for 2min. There are paths to get through the rooms but they are narrow - I'm sure a fire marshal would have a fit. I'm concerned about his basic hygiene at this point. When I saw all this it was 6:30pm and he admitted he hadn't been out of bed or eaten yet that day.\n\nWere he not dying, I wouldn't hesitate to call the county and get him help for the hoarding.  But since he is, which is more important: his mental health or what physical health he has left? A week in the hospital in December yeilded anxiety attacks from being separated from his stuff.  So, would I be the asshole for calling and getting him sent to a county home for the short remainder of his life? Or do I leave him to die in peace in his filth?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vv7HXwP9fpnoG7wFoCazuTpeBBoPAzF5", "post_id": "a8gtnv", "action": {"description": "wanting today to be nothing special", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting today to be nothing special?", "text": "Today's my birthday, but I tend to be someone who, to put it lightly, doesn't even pretend give a shit about that fact. I have a fairly small group of people who're even aware about it being today, and most of them were fine with it being just another day. Hell, acknowledging the fact and wishing well for it was fine by me, and they were treating it as such. We did, however, have one or two dissenters. \"Oh, but today has to be special,\" and shit like that. I can appreciate the sentiment once or twice, but with how often they kept pressing it, it was pissing me off a bit. In the end, I did go off on them to a degree, simply saying something along the lines of, \"Look, if the person whose birthday it is wants it to be nothing special, is anyone else really in a position to say 'no, you can't have that?'\" This simply led to shock and one of the dudes who was fine with the original plan calling me a dick for bringing that up.\n\nI know in hindsight this sounds petty as hell and not unlike a call for validation, but the response I got from everyone involved has me wondering whether or not this genuinely was a bit of a dick move.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "56iEiUCAYTIFkmFPgtPclLztuC1sfCjR", "post_id": "antuwv", "action": {"description": "not motivating my gf to loose wheight with me", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not motivating my GF to loose wheight with me?", "text": "My GF 25 (f obviously) and me 26 (m) had a huge fight because she's thinking that I'm not motivating her enough to loose weight.\nThing is I'm going to the gym since last december and I'm trying to improve my fitness and loose some weight, because I'm not liking myself anymore. I would've started earlier, but my GF  hold me back, because of her kind of  insecurities. She's not happy with herself and I know that. I tried often to encourage her with another style of food instead of lot's of carbohydrates, but she didn't wanted to till she started to to track her daily carbohydrates in an app, since begin of january this year. \nNow I started to use this app too, three days ago, because I wanted to see how much intake I have throughout the day and to do some maths how fast I can drop an especially amount of weight. \nAnd now she's accusing me of egoism and that I'm not motivating her enough too loose some weight. But I think she's old enough to do her own decisions and I made my experience in the last two years, that she doesn't want to make things the way I do, because she thinks her way is better. \n\nAITA that my GF has no self-discipline?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "X53FKYwbcdULZxMuJrgfJeSOi3r6USvW", "post_id": "af2uyf", "action": {"description": "breaking our friends glass door", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for breaking our friends glass door", "text": "So I Was going to a small party event filled with old white people. A dinner party basically but without dinner. As we were walking up to their house I was kinda nervous cause I\u2019m bad with social interaction and as I was walking to the door I noticed the door was open. I live in Georgia so most people don\u2019t have screen doors or glass doors in front of their actual doors. I assumed that I could just walk through and so I stepped normally into their house and I learned the hard way that their was a pane of glass on hinges in front of their open door. So I walked straight through it, broke my glasses, got 3 small shards of glass stuck in my hand and shoulder, got a massive cut on my head from the glass from my eyeglasses, and may have gotten a small concussion.\n\nWhile as the hosts came rushing over and I was apologizing/crying instead of asking how the bleeding teenager was doing they said \u201cOur door!\u201d \n\nWeird flex but...it\u2019s fine I guess\n\nAfter about 10 seconds they turned to me and instead of apologizing or asking how I was doing they said \u201cwhy did you break it\u201d I responded with \u201csorry I didn\u2019t see it\u201d it was pitch black out, foggy, the door was a solid pane of glass with a clear frame, and they must\u2019ve used a lot of windex. So instead of getting me ynow a bandaid or some ice they immediately told us how much the door is and expected us to replace it for them. \n\nMy mom responded with \u201csure *host name* but could we get *my name* inside first he has a huge gash on his forehead\u201d and they freaked out saying I was fine and that the door was the bigger issue here.\n\nWell we went home after about 10 minutes of me standing there at the party in awkward silence cause I clearly had glass in my forehead and we decided to just leave unannounced so we could ynow make sure I wasn\u2019t seriously injured, and once we got home, took the shards of glass out, and made sure I was okay, we got an angry phone call from the host. I don\u2019t remember the exact words but I remember the gist \n\n\u201cBLAH BLAH BLAH *insert privileged white person problem* YOU BROKE OUR DOOR AND RUINED OUR PARTY BLAH BLAH BLAH THE PARTY HAD TO BE CANCELED BECAUSE OF YOU *insert standard 58 year old white person overdramatification* YOUR SON IS NO LONGER ALLOWED AT OUR HOUSE BLAH BLAH BOOK CLUB IS CANCELED\u201d\n\nSo now not just these people but my parents also hate me cause they think I did it deliberately to get the party cut short since I didn\u2019t want to go. Despite how many times I\u2019ve told them it was an accident they\u2019re super mad at me, didn\u2019t invite me out to dinner with them, and are acting like I\u2019m a huge asshole. Am I? I thought it was just an accident but everyone else is convinced otherwise. What do I do?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HDuSnqhjLCw6JKGomv49m32fA80MykLy", "post_id": "a0ybw9", "action": null, "title": "AITA fro telling my ex's new BF that she cheated on me?", "text": "My ex and I were together for 3 years and the last year of our relationship she was sleeping with her gym buddy. I only found out because one of my friends was at the gym and over heard them talking about it. I confronted her, she confessed and we ended things. It wasn't a pretty break up, she lied to a bunch of my friends and ended up stealing them. \n\nThis all went down 5 months ago, I heard through a friend of mine that she started dating a new guy. After some searching I found this guys info and sent him an email saying what happened to me. I know that I would want to know if my new GF cheated on her last partner. \n\nHe broke up with her and told her that I told him. Now she and a bunch of my ex-friends are calling me an asshole. My ex-friends don't know she cheated on me, I told them but they believe her side of the story, not mine. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 30, "OTHER": 32, "EVERYBODY": 18, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 32, "WRONG": 48}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Dt4CzUV2Od309XQ3mRH0nlC5oQBUN8EW", "post_id": "av5rr1", "action": {"description": "not being friends with someone I was romantically interested in", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not being friends with someone I was romantically interested in", "text": "So there was this girl and long story short we go to school together. Well we started talking just a bit, mostly initiated by me, and we ended up going to a little after-theater performance get-together at a mutual acquaintance's house. We both clearly had a great time and a short time after, we were talking, and I mentioned how loved red velvet cupcakes because she said she had bought some. Well fast forward and I clearly made a few moves, but nothing huge. A few months passed and I told her how I felt. She didn't feel the same way. About a week later I told her we cant be friends because I dont see her platonically. I kinda felt like she led me on but I recently realized that it seems like I led her on as a friend, maybe. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4dVsoLEdZdlxLTfnyWQ25TpjJb7H54o5", "post_id": "b3rdx9", "action": {"description": "ending a childhood friendship because they believe they should still be my priority", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA to end a childhood friendship because they believe they should still be my priority?", "text": "Jim (30 M) and I (28M) and I have known eachother since we were kids. He\u2019s struggled with his mental health over the years, and I\u2019ve always tried to be understanding and helpful, make allowances, be there for him etc. Because of his MH being a little unstable, he has never been my go to person for support, but I am definitely his. We were best friends all through our teenage years and well into our twenties.\n\nFor context- Jim failed out of college due to his MH, whereas I graduated and got a job in tech. My company is currently paying for me to get my masters over the next two years. He works for a small business doing admin at a 9-5 job.  I work very long hours. To add to that, with the studying at the moment, I\u2019m dead in the water, I have no free days, most hours in my day are preplanned and filled with work or general life admin. Jim seems to have a lot more time on his hands, and was always a \u201cnight in\u201d kinda guy so spends most evenings / weekends with his girlfriend watching tv. I honestly wish I had that kind of leisure time right now.\n\nCrux of the matter is, through a hectic schedule and lack of sleep I\u2019ve slipped up a couple times with contact. Just a couple of phone calls, he\u2019ll call for a catch up, I\u2019ll be busy and tell him I\u2019ll give him a call tomorrow, and then I forget.\n\nHe\u2019s now sent me a very long letter, explaining that he feels my priorities in life are skewed, that I have no time for him, that my job and my degree aren\u2019t an excuse and I should put more stock in the friendship, and respect his time a little more, as he\u2019s been waiting around for me to call him and I then don\u2019t. Had it been just that I\u2019d have understood that he was a little frustrated and let it go.\n\nHe then goes on to call me a bad friend, to claim that our friendship has been very one sided for a long time, he doesn\u2019t feel he knows me because the best friend he knows would never treat him like this.\n\nThis just feels...ridiculous to me. I\u2019ve supported him through so much, never asking for anything in return, for years and years, and now I don\u2019t have as much time on my hands, he seems to have forgotten everything I\u2019ve ever done for him. Friends make allowances for eachother when the other is in a tough spot, and I\u2019m struggling with stress and various other problems at the moment yet he seems to just want to make it about himself. \n\nI\u2019m so hurt by his accusations, which I really think are unfounded. He questions my character. He seems incapable of sympathy for my work situation, in fact he seems to blame me for working a good job and wanting to better myself by getting my masters. I have honestly just hit a wall now where I can\u2019t imagine being friends with him after this. Maybe it\u2019s the stress I don\u2019t know. Would I be the asshole to cut him out of my life?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kzRYJuycjH1nhwpIPTwVlOimI2Zdulxg", "post_id": "a8ohei", "action": {"description": "reporting my trainee on my last day at a job", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I reported my trainee on my last day at a job?", "text": "My current job is a travel health technician, and I'm currently finishing up my three month assignment at my current hospital.\n\nA few weeks ago, I was training someone who was having difficulty with the job. She was perfectly educated, but was horrible at multitasking. I worked with her on this to little avail, and I expressed my concerns to our manager professionally but optimistically.\n\nWell, she recently started getting trained under a coworker who is extremely strict (this would be person number 4 who is training them). Now that they're starting to put on pressure as to why she isn't further along than she is, I recently was told by another coworker that she is claiming that I never let her do the job, and only let her watch.\n\n95% lie. I made her observe on the first day, and twice after that when she would get so far behind or make silly mistakes, did I instruct her to study while I caught up. Other than that, we worked 50/50 (this is a desk job with two \"stations\", and I let her run the easy side for practice).\n\nAnyway, I want to send an email to the higher ups to defend myself and explain, but the only thing stopping me is that I haven't been accused of anything (management really liked how I did things and I got a great review) and I don't think my input will have much effect on if she gets the job permanently or not.\n\nI'm just super pissed, rightfully so imo, that she would try and blame me for her shortcomings, and I don't know if it would be an unnecessary (asshole) move to bring details to light with higher ups to defend myself. WIBTA?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "f3mePXXjCAsiD6Eoj9QliQlnGzW9EwlJ", "post_id": "ahib0h", "action": {"description": "not wanting to reconnect with parents", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to reconnect with parents? ( Disowned)", "text": " I haven\u2019t been home in over two years, because my parents effectively disowned me (26F). They banned me from seeing a guy they didn\u2019t approve of-but I did it anyway. The guy they disapproved of had a charge from college which is now gone and worked out. Yes, I have seen all documentation and talked with lawyer. The charge is gone, but parents refuse to meet him. \n\nAt the time, I was taking care of property they owned. No rent, but they didn\u2019t support me financially. They told me I had to leave, or break up with him. So I moved out. Que the threatening phone calls, nasty emails and retracted invites home. \n\nI still called, sent bday and Christmas presents, and tried to interact. No phone calls were answered or acknowledged. No phone calls on any holiday. \n\nNow 2 years later and they are trying to reconnect. There was never an apology, only snide comments how I never visit or call home. Mom pretends like everything is fine when we talk,  Dad is trying. I love them, but after over 2 years I don\u2019t want to visit/call pretend everything\u2019s normal! They have always stated my partner will never be welcome in their home.  They are manipulative and vindictive-the fact that they didn\u2019t get their way (us breaking up) has never happened before. My siblings think I should just move on-one siblings on my side but the others side with parents ( still dependent). \n\nSo, am I the asshole for not caring to reconnect? I don\u2019t want to placate them after the past few years of threats, name calling and family manipulation. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9LiITM5Ojl1MV4lvxo4Fa134f7wF3aO8", "post_id": "9zr20o", "action": {"description": "suggesting we dont offer the flatmate's friend the food we cook", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for suggesting we dont offer the flatmate's friend the food we cook?", "text": "I woke up today and there were no leftovers of last night's dinner. It would have been nice to have some. \n\nThe other flatmates friend came over unexpectedly and we both offered them a serving. This happened last week as well. \n\nDont get me wrong. I like sharing the food we cook, however, AITA for suggesting that may e next time we offer some sort of snack instead? Like biscuits or the sort. It's not as though we planned on giving two extra servings away (other flatmate).\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oPCFKeCJW5PIeaDPfpQVyd2GPmFww2UU", "post_id": "b1i7np", "action": {"description": "scolding my friend for having dorito fingers", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for scolding my friend for having Dorito fingers?", "text": "My friend had a bag of Doritos. Once finished he licked them clean and dried them on his pants. This would\u2019ve been fine but he started touching my papers. I scolded him for being gross and he thinks I overreacted. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aVY8rMcGImJqy7pIffJ2Imrz9A2e6Y8n", "post_id": "akj6e3", "action": {"description": "wearing earbuds and occasionally checking my phone during a church mass that I am forced to go to even though I am an atheist", "pronormative_score": 39, "contranormative_score": 31}, "title": "AITA for wearing earbuds and occasionally checking my phone during a church mass that I am forced to go to even though I am an atheist?", "text": "My parents have recently had a interest in going to church for the past month or so, so every Sunday, they force me to attend mass with them. I have told them multiple times that I don't believe in what they believe, but they brush it off and force me to come anyways. So this time, I brought earbuds and put on an album to listen to (Stokeley by Ski Mask the Slump God is great; listen to it) because I wanted to listen to my music instead. I would also text my friend every 15 minutes or so. During the entire mass, my mom shot me dirty looks the whole time and later told me on the ride home that I have a horribly negative attitude and that I should enjoy things more (even though I have told them countless times that I don't believe in what they do and dislike attending church.\n\nAm I just being a bitch or are my parents at fault?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 22, "OTHER": 38, "EVERYBODY": 9, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 8}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 39, "WRONG": 31}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xOchocpwNXpIrR4y60RUrSFecODIP1tH", "post_id": "akibjg", "action": {"description": "getting frustrated with how late my boyfriend is to everything", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting frustrated with how late my boyfriend is to everything?", "text": "We've been dating a little over a year. I'm a very punctual person, and if I tell you a time I will be there at that time. \n\nMy boyfriends time can vary several hours. Sometimes with no word from him.  Just \"we'll hang at 6\" and then he'll finally hit me up around 9. Excuse is always that he got busy. He's in bands, and I try to let him have his time. But is it wrong of me to get pissy when he makes me wait around and wonder about him? \n\nI just know I'd feel better if he stuck to his word. It's frustrating looking forward to a time, and then worrying for hours after. \n\nAm I just a crazy asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sHWBJPrnO5ATwFWWZJyE2rRuK3LlNdwX", "post_id": "b6j8rd", "action": {"description": "giving my 2 weeks while my boss is backpacking through Europe", "pronormative_score": 30, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for giving my 2 weeks while my boss is backpacking through Europe?", "text": "I've been working here for 2 years, it was the first job out of college. I was offered $10,000 less than what I wanted but he said if I did a good job I'd be making that much in no time. Fast forward to today and, despite the 'amazing reviews' and huge increase in responsibility, I'm only making $2,000 more.\n\nI'm very underpaid for my profession and area by about $20,000. I ended up finding a place that wanted to pay me $20,000 more plus much better benefits than my current job. Last week I gave my two weeks and I've been feeling like crap because my boss said I ruined his trip and now he has to work instead of relax. \n\nI wasn't given much time to sign my offer letter and my boss takes long 2-4 week vacations at least 1 every 3 months. I do feel bad about the timing but I can't pass at an opportunity to provide better for my family. My wife has been thinking about going back to school for a year and this will let her take less hours and attend classes.\n\nAnother issue, I am the only one in the company that does my specific job. He will have to find someone ASAP to fill the spot and I can see how that would be really inconvenient. I view this as a management mistake more than my fault but I'd love your opinion. If I am the only one who can do my job and you are severely underpaying me and 1 employee leaving can halt your whole company then I think it's on you and not the employee.\n\n**TLDR:** I quit while my boss was backpacking through Europe. I'm the only employee that could do my job. Despite glowing reviews I never got the pay I wanted from this employer. I quit for a $20,000 increase and to help my family's future. \n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 28, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 30, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iPnVhxWoYVXBopemU2X2IasalfJy8zAh", "post_id": "akngpw", "action": null, "title": "WIBTA for once more not wanting to be an ex/friend's emotional cushion ?", "text": "So I (29M) dated this girl (27F) for a short period of time, but apart from anything platonic it didn't click, and we decided to be close friends since that part did click very well. I'm an aromantic/asexual, so to me that has hardly any other effect than relieving me from the chores related to dating. (nothing emotional on my side, basically ; she knows)\n\nExcept that whenever she starts dating someone she treats all of us friends like plan B. Especially with me, she becomes horribly distant and makes sure not to be seen hanging around me in familiar circles/treats me openly like a stranger unless it's incognito. (I get it, I'm an attractive male, my presence usually makes guys quite insecure when they chase, and there is clearly some feelings left on her side ; so...)\n\nNow, friendships mean the whole world to me and I really do my best to care for my friends. But I don't tolerate being \u00abused\u00bb, and I soon decided to skip being around her to help when her datings failed, and I just come back when she starts feeling better (whether or not I'm an asshole on this is a completely different debate). Ultimately, I got fed up about this, and decided to give her a few months no-contact period (to give her time to at least get rid of her feelings for me).\n\nI've been trying to reconnect with her for the last month, but she's displaying the same pattern as usually while dating (all checks for her actually wanting to be friends again are there, though). Yesterday, I heard by accident that she accepted some guy's proposal for a FWB, and since she's a hopeless romantic, I can already see how it's gonna fail pretty quick and she'll be a mess once again. The difference this time is that I don't think I would ever have a moral obligation to be there for her, since we haven't exactly properly reconnected yet.\n\nSo assuming we're talking about solely this time : assuming I really do want to reconnect, though, will I be an asshole for willingly failing to fulfill that part of being an actual friend ?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "KAOhTN5VZz8qIEHfrQKiCpJrrHQoaYwU", "post_id": "ak5rh4", "action": null, "title": "AITA discord admin on a friends server", "text": " so i am a admin on my friends server and when i got on one day i always check audit log and there were a lot of changes that im sure were not made with the permission of the owner making changes to roles so if they lost their admin they could delete the serve or fuck with it and giving admin to ppl that didn't earn it and removing my roles and every other admin so we couldn't un fuck the server until the owner wakes up so i make fake account invite it to the server and hope they give it admin they do i take their roles and give admins back to the proper ppl and when the owner wakes up they complain that i was admin abusing but lucky for me he knows about the audit log they lost admin and now every night i get 300 message a night when i blocked them they complain again to the owner but we were in a call so i saw i unblocked them i warned them with a 1 year ban/mute and then they call me a asshole i need someone else's opinion   \n\n\n  \np.s idk what aita means?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "n8rqEU2F2Yt1Rtn275DGZi6PmZYlODV7", "post_id": "art50m", "action": {"description": "clearly disliking my friend's friend and muting him in-game", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for clearly disliking my friend\u2019s friend and muting him in-game?", "text": "My friend and I are playing Apex Legends. Sometime during our session one of his friends logs on so we have a full squad. I\u2019ve never played with this person before so like with anyone I\u2019ve not met, I avoid displaying my full personality because I don\u2019t want to upset them or annoy them. This is something I assume a good amount of people do when meeting new people.\n\nAnyways, during our squad session, we\u2019re dropping into heavily contested areas where the gear / guns are good.  What that means is that there will be a lot more squads also in that area trying to get a gun and to secure the area. Because of this, there\u2019s a heavy emphasize on getting a gun quickly so you can fight.\n\nOn this one particular match, his friend and I drop into the same house and I (because I have no gun yet) run to a \u2018golden\u2019 weapon (this means it\u2019s fully modded). At the same time, so was also his friend (who already had a gun). I ended up getting it first which he openly complained about through comms, which irritated me. \n\nAs a way of conveying my anger, I had the ability to heal him and chose not to (deployable healing drone - he had no meds). We lost the match, and he continued openly complaining about me. But not directly to me, in the third person, AS I\u2019m listening (he knows this). I\u2019ve had this happen to me before IRL and felt triggered, so I left discord which my friend noticed and said, \u201cnice rage\u201d.\n\nI don\u2019t view this as raging, but rather not having to listen to someone that\u2019s being rude IMO. I told this to my friend and he just repeated the same crap again. His friend made further comments to me in attempt to communicate with me in-game such as, \u201cwe can win if we work together you white prick\u201d. I muted him there as well and told my friend I thought his friend was an asshole and that I didn\u2019t need to listen to his crap.\n\nSo here we are now, days later my friend and I are playing and he leaves to go play with his friend. That ends our session, so I leave to go back to my room say I\u2019m obviously not welcome here (this subject still triggers me) to which he replies, \u201c maybe if you dont rage\u201d.\n\nSo, AITA, or is my friend and his friend? \n\nSorry for errors, on phone.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "viGqrFIFU4GKaMNsSyDFlGedFjAHlx1K", "post_id": "ans0ox", "action": {"description": "making a teacher ban my ex from visiting the classroom", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for making a teacher ban my ex from visiting the classroom?", "text": "This was several years ago, back in high school junior year. My first ever relationship, which stretched for seven months (probably far too long), had recently ended, and I wasn't taking it as well as I'd have liked. I had a hard time facing and spending time with my ex, and pretty much went into radio silence with both her and our group of mutual friends. One such friend had known me since sixth grade, and to this day I still don't blame him for how things ended up happening and still call him one of my best friends.\n\nSo basically, this friend, I'll call him Jay, and I ended up sharing a class together... I think it was Chemistry? Well, somewhere along the line, my ex, who I'll call Dee, ended up dating him. He actually told me he'd had feelings for her since middle school, when I'd hardly known her at all (we met in Sophomore year). Due to her schedule of taking college classes and high school classes, she'd have several \"Filler\" periods at school where she was free to go anywhere she pleased within the school. \n\nShe chose to visit Jay, and would often sit with him, talk to him, simple things like that. They were obviously never physically intimate in class, no kissing or even really holding hands, but her presence there always just... bothered me. To put it to words, I guess it felt like hammering in the fact that I had failed to keep her interest, the fact that I hadn't made enough of an effort to spend more time with her. I think I was comparing how our relationship had been with her current relationship with Jay. We were... lukewarm, only saw each other for sparse dates, often without very good conversation, and exactly zero physical intimacy. Yet here they were, able to make time and talk to each other fluidly and easily. I'd even seen them in the common area once when they both had a free period, just talking and holding each other.\n\nSo after a while of this, I decided to take things into my own hands. After class I pulled the teacher aside and asked him to keep Dee from visiting the class again. I didn't want him to tell her that I was the one who requested it, but I feel like she knew anyways. Thinking about it now I feel so petty about having done that, like I should have just let it roll over my shoulders. I let my jealousy and low self-esteem get in the way of her happiness.\n\nI don't know how aware she was about how I felt about her and Jay's relationship, and I never outwardly told her. I sort of made up and broke radio silence near the end of senior year, but it was never the same, and I haven't spoken with her once since graduation. She and Jay ended up splitting up, and I have spoken to Jay since, even visited him when I was back home.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "VkEATI51BnX6LnvgB94p8c2hBhHlJe1D", "post_id": "amzwvf", "action": {"description": "disproving of my fiancee's outings", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for disproving of my fiancee's outings?", "text": "So a bit of background: I (32F) have a very good career in the healthcare field. I work long 12 hour shifts out of town, so I'm gone for roughly 3-4 days a week for 15 hours a day because of commuting. My fiancee (28F) is only working part time right now at a coffee shop, roughly 20 hours a week or so for the past year while she finished up college courses. She just was accepted in nursing school and starts soon. Because of this, I mostly pay for our rent. We live comfortably thanks to my pay but I am not saving up much. She helps with groceries and the like, but that's the extent of this. I'm okay with this since I don't expect her to help out much financially. I want her to finish school so we both have careers and have the life that we want.\n\nOn my days that I work, she frequently and almost always goes downtown to our city's bar scene. She meets up with her friends for beers and stays out very late drinking. Her friends never went to college or pursued anything, so going out and drinking is what they normally do. Now, normally she does have a few (I'm guessing around 3-4) but there are a few nights where she's gotten drunk, much to my annoyance. Not only that, I think it's a total waste of money. She's not making much so why waste it on $7 beers? My annoyance is only compounded by the fact that I want to buy a house, start a family and move on with my life, not spend my weekends at bars or taking care of a drunk.\n\nI guess this is where my question comes in. AITA if I disapprove of her choices while I'm away? She is very much a social butterfly, I understand this, but it irritates me that here I am working long ass hours to keep a roof over our head while she is out drinking with her buddies.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ncGkQE5LlApHiNbW47arkhvRfBPN2GqP", "post_id": "a6l2zo", "action": {"description": "resenting my younger sister", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for resenting my younger sister?", "text": "Sorry in advance for the long post.\n\nMy sister and I are less than 4 years apart, but she seems to get handed things that I worked my ass off to earn.\n\nHere are a few examples:\n\n\\-I worked extremely hard and graduated from high school as salutatorian (i.e. I was second in my class). In the process, I became close with a lot of my teachers. When my sister started attending the same high school, these teachers practically let her get away with murder. My sister not only enjoyed the attention, but seemed to think that she deserved it. She lost friends because this smugness.\n\n\\-I started working and saving up for a car since I was 16 because my parents believed that if I wanted a car so badly that I should earn it. A few years  after buying the car, I was looking to upgrade, and wanted to sell my old car. My parents insisted that I give the old car to my sister. For free. What the actual fuck. \n\n\\-I attended an Ivy League school that LOVES \"legacy students\" (i.e. relatives/descendants of people who went to said school). I didn't have any sort of legacy status (first generation) when I was applying to colleges, but my sister did when she applied to my alma mater. She got in. I was SHOCKED because her grades and EC's are mediocre at best, not something a legacy status can easily overcome. I asked a friend who worked in admissions, and was told that they considered my sister an \"investment\" because I was an active undergrad (won national awards, very involved in campus leadership, etc) and now an active alum. Once, when she was acting all high and mighty and bragged about getting into the college by \"working hard,\" I let this fact slip and she accused me of lying and being jealous.\n\nI've tried talking to her, but she gets very argumentative and whines about how I just can't be happy for her. I've also tried to talk to my parents about this, but they come up with bullshit excuses. My favorites are \"It's your responsibility as the older sibling to help out as much as possible\" and \"We treat you differently because, when we die, you will have had 4 more years with us than she will.\" \n\nSo, Reddit, AITA for resenting my sister? I'm pissed off at my parents too for enabling her, but she's the one acting like an entitled brat. Maybe I'm missing something from her/their perspective?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "htQ1ITZgLJYyiSqUIiJ7qTZe2ANt7Qwz", "post_id": "axcqh3", "action": {"description": "not wanting to have my husband and I hangout with someone he previously slept with", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to have my husband and I hangout with someone he previously slept with?", "text": "Sorry for the wall of text.\n\nMy husband and I have been married about a year and a half and together for 4. He is currently 29 and I am 26. My husband has quite a large friend group that I have met over the years. We have pretty close relationships with several of his friends and others that we have maintained a more of an aquantaince relationship with. Due to us living in the same area he grew up in, most of these relationships were from his younger/college years.\n\nAbout a month ago we were at a party for one of his friends that he went to high school/college with. The party itself was fine and everyone was very nice. Most of the people there I had not met yet so he went and introduced me to a bunch of his olds friends. We ended up talking with one couple in particular for a majority of the time and they seemed really nice and nothing felt out of place or weird. My husband and the other husband said we should all get together sometime to hang out.\n\nThis weekend we finally had dinner with them this past weekend. Nothing overly weird or awful happened but I kept noticing the wife giving my husband odd looks and looking vaguely uncomfortable when we were talking one on one and making offhand comments that alluded to her knowing my husband better than me which I didn't pick up at the time but when I thought about it later on that night it seemed like weird things to say. \n\nSo, Sunday night I come out and ask my husband if they maybe had dated during high school/college. He said no, you know I didn't really date much at this time (he has told me previously that he slept around with pretty much anyone and didn't seriously date until he was 23). Naturally I ask if they have had a relationship outside of dating and he explains that he had a pretty steady physical relationship that continued for about 4 years when she moved for a new job.\n\nAt that time I no longer felt the need/want to continue hanging out with this couple. My husband got confused and wanted to know what was wrong. I explained that I didn't want us to maintain a relationship with someone he had been intimate for so long with. He thought that was dumb and made a comment to the fact that she didn't seem to have an issue with it. I argued that based off of her reaction, she possibly did have an issue with it. I also said that I was surprised her husband even wanted us to hang out, and that is when my husband said that he doesn't think her husband actually knows about their relationship. \n\nThis snowballed into a huge fight and I said that it wasn't up for discussion and he called me crazy and insecure for assuming anything would happen between the 2 of them now. AITA?\n\nTldr: hang out with a couple my husband went to school with, found out later that he slept with the wife and I no longer want us to maintain a relationship with them. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "m3AcUCljEc4TzuWcgEDeLvNgaPPuqquN", "post_id": "a371ds", "action": {"description": "calling out Pan-handlers", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "WIBTA For Calling Out Pan-Handlers?", "text": "I commute daily through one of the busy train stations in the United States,  Penn. Station in New York. The station is a large public space that is warm during the winter, which means that many homeless people sleep there during the winter. While some of these people are there to get a cheap meal, or sleep, or use the bathroom, some are also there to solicit kind donations from commuters. \n\nTo be clear, I have problem with giving people money if they truly need it, but since I in the station every day, I have noticed some suspect pan-handlers who I think are exploiting people's  goodwill. I see some of these people tell the same sob story everyday such as being short for a fare to get home. I see people give them the money that exceeds covering the alleged fare, and they proceed to walk up to someone else and tell them the same story. I have also been confronted by someone asking for change, only to look down at his feet and notice that he was wearing $200 shoes! When these people walk into the train car that I'm sitting in, I want to warn people that these people are disingenuous and that they should save their money for the ACTUAL homeless people populating the station, or instead of giving money, buy them a meal or the train ticket they are asking for. \n\nNaturally, I'm concerned that I will come off as an asshole that is inconsiderate to the plight of the homeless. There is also the possibility that my suspicions could sometimes be wrong. So, would I be an asshole to call out suspected disingenuous pan-handlers begging in a crowd? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "36kpdSh35bmvXpkY1mvTmUz17y1zyprq", "post_id": "anhzsb", "action": {"description": "wanting to know what made my so upset", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to know what made my SO upset?", "text": "So first, some backstory.\n\nDuring my sophomore year in high school I met this girl (who we'll call Sarah) and we hit it off quite well. We developed feelings for each other and we kept on talking until the last day of summer break when she told me she didn't like me anymore. I was heartbroken for months, but then I met this other girl (who we'll call Anna) who helped me out of that dark place, and I then realized I started to have feelings for her and as it turns out they were mutual but she was not allowed to date so we just kept it on the down low for about a year, but I found she was a bit emotionally unavailable, so I explained that I craved more affection and emotion and broke up with her basically. So at this point we are in Senior year and not long after that one of me and Anna's mutual friends (who we'll call Sally) said that she liked me, and I saw that as a means of getting the things I craved so I decided I was down but she changed her mind at the last minute and we never became a thing. So Anna found out about that and was even more hurt than she already was (she had been having breakdowns in the middle of class and stuff like that according to yet another friend who is not important to the rest of the story, to which I replied \"where was that emotion when I needed it?\", but I digress) because it was as if I had never cared about her in the first place which really wasn't the case. I felt so bad and I really wanted to repair our relationship, but then Sarah comes back and explains that the reason she had told me she no longer liked me was just because past relationship trauma from her middle school years made her go into panic mode and she did not want to leave herself vulnerable again, but her feelings for me never truly went away, and what made her come back was that she actually tried being with a different guy but the guy ended up getting back with his ex without even telling Sarah about it so Sarah, now knowing how I felt originally, went back to me to apologize and wanted to try us again but for real this time. We wanted to wait until the whole thing with Anna and Sally blew over before we became official, but they ended up finding out because Sally was actually Sarah's best friend and I was texting Sarah but Sally had her phone at the time taking pictures for snapchat. So Anna is even more upset at me now and so is Sally because now it's like I never cared about either of them. I feel absolutely horrible that I caused all of this, I really never intended for any of this to turn out the way it did. I used to look at guys who were players in disgust but now I am just disgusted at myself that I became one of them. Sarah and I just decided to become official since there's really nothing to lose now but I am still trying to forgive myself. I was being so stupid. This series of events (which I'll call The Crisis to refer to it later) was my first real experience with relationship drama and I'm trying to take as many lessons from it as possible, better I learn now than later right? But anyways, now for the actual story. \n\nSo I was texting Sarah and she told me that one of our mutual friends (who we'll call Chris) had been mean to her after Anna and Sally interrupted a conversation she was having with a mutual friend of me, Sarah, Anna, and Sally (who we'll call Aaron). Sarah had a theory that Sally was trying to steal away their mutual friends from before The Crisis, which would explain the interruption but the facts are unclear. It is no secret that Chris liked Anna so it would make sense if Chris was simply putting on a show for Anna so I decided to confront Chris even though Sarah said it was okay. I texted him saying \"Were you mean to Sarah to put a show on for Anna?\" and he explained that he didn't mean to make Sarah feel bad, he thought that was just their banter because they were being jokingly mean to each other just that morning. I was satisfied, I just wanted to know what happened after all, and that was supposed to be the end of it but turns out Chris had screenshotted the conversation and I assume showed it to Anna, making fun of me for thinking his act was a show for her. Anna probably told Sally about it because Sally somehow found out and texted me saying that she did not even talk to Aaron to begin with and that I should keep her name out of my mouth. She was acting like I was spreading rumors or something but I literally only spoke to Chris who was involved anyway. But what confused me is that she claimed she didn't talk to Aaron so I asked Chris about it since he saw the whole thing and he confirmed that Sarah was talking to Aaron when Anna and Sally came and interrupted the conversation. I asked him for permission to use that as proof and when he said yes I screenshotted what he said and showed it to Sally to which she replied that all she did was call Aaron's name and then Aaron started talking to Anna. I was pretty sure that still counts as interrupting the conversation but I thought this whole situation was extremely petty so I just let her have the last word and let that be the end of it. I then told Sarah what had happened and she got so upset with me. She kept saying that I should've dropped it when she said it was okay and that it was none of my business. She didn't talk to me for like a day after that and in the meantime I was talking to Chris about the whole situation and we both agreed that neither of us had the intention of escalating the situation to this height. When Sarah finally did explain why she got so upset, she explained that she did not want Sally to hate her any more than she already did, she did not want to poke the bear so to speak. As I previously explained they were best friends before The Crisis, and I guess she still wanted to find a way to remain that way but that confuses me because she knew that trying to be with me in the first place would mean losing her, so I assumed she was prepared for that and thought I was worth it. I explained to her that I don't think she can have the both of us at the same time and that I don't want her to go on a wild goose chase for Sally. I just think this whole situation was extremely petty and honestly should not have even happened. \n\nThis is a long one so thanks if you read the whole thing, but without further ado: AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "efbCKZeCyWWziXETKvOxxnQoGZThbJwt", "post_id": "9wdp0n", "action": {"description": "not wanting to hang out with a friend who killed someone", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to hang out with a friend who killed someone?", "text": "Basically I moved home after some years living abroad and I\u2019ve been hanging out with people from my hometown. Most of the people from my hometown are pretty lame but there\u2019s this one guy who is chill and woke. We hung out a few months ago and it was fun. \n\nAnyway, I was hanging out with some other people later and found out that a couple of years ago, this guy killed someone by accident \u2013 he was driving drunk and ran over a person who was killed on the spot. And in order to escape punishment, he fled the country for a few years. (I live in a country where it\u2019s easy to get away with crime if you\u2019re from a rich family). \n\nSo basically this changed my whole opinion about this guy. He seemed like a nice person and I liked spending time with him. But I can\u2019t stop thinking about the accident. I don\u2019t know how to feel. I hate judging people for their past actions but I can\u2019t stop thinking about the victim and their family. If I was the one who killed someone, I would\u2019ve gone to prison and paid for my crime. But then again, I was never in that position so I don\u2019t know how I really would have handled the situation. \n\nAnyway he texted me recently and asked me why I was ignoring him. I don\u2019t think he is a bad person but I feel weird about hanging out with him. AITA for ignoring him?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Aj0pEiLv8PXXPbL40Jq0DTdyXLhzxkW3", "post_id": "b5pjv2", "action": {"description": "wanting to watch a movie in peace", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting to watch a movie in peace?", "text": "This happens frequently. The entire family (Me, Mom, Dad.) sits down and watches a movie. Right at the midway point, usually when the movie is trying to make some suspense or right during the action, Mom starts picking apart the movie. (She starts picking it apart like it's fucking Cinema Sins) It's never been funny. It's one giant buzzkill to the entire movie, and no part of any movie has been enjoyable with her. When she does it, I usually ask Mom to stop, but all that happens is Dad gets angry for no reason and throws a fit about it. Mom, at this point, \"says\" she won't do it again. (She does it less than 30 seconds later. Every. Fucking. Time.) Like I said, This has happened with every fricking movie after 2018. If she's so above every movie ever, I think she can go play Final Fantasy XIV. (I never said the last line, I just thought it in my head.) AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WGRUXGfvltzbrqxynfgUGybl1Qcefzmx", "post_id": "aoci0g", "action": null, "title": "WIBTA its snowing in my area (Seattle area) and manager is asking everyone to come in or they will be written up", "text": "So I work in customer service. I just moved from a sunnier state that never got snow. Monday it snowed and about half the staff called out that day because they couldn't make it in. Snow is forecasted for 5 of the next 10 days. I just received a group text from my manager saying that we all need to come in at our scheduled time this weekend, because we know that snow is in the forecast and that's not an excuse for not finding adequate transportation. I have a manual V8 with balding tires and no experience driving in the snow. I know that my position is important and would require someone else to cover my shift. WIBTA if I refused to come to work for my shift on Saturday and Sunday? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DwFX0bRmzpDCFZUW3StWdfMYQrrlckwH", "post_id": "b0wc1s", "action": {"description": "calling out my friends boyfriend for how horrible he is", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for calling out my friends boyfriend for how horrible he is?", "text": "Mobile user please excuse formatting:\n\nSo a friend of mine that I met at university this semester has been going out with this guy for about a month now. He has had rumors going around about how he gets girls drunk so he can make advances on them and is generally a terrible guy. He has forgotten to pick her up before and yelled at her while she cried and didn\u2019t want to talk to him because he forgot. Basically he\u2019s scum of the earth. I\u2019m not sure if she actually knows about the rumors going around or realizes how terrible he is for her but she does complain about him to me and says how they might break up soon. \n\nAnyways, tonight I sent her a simple selfie Snapchat intending to start a conversation and instead got a picture of her boyfriends smug smile. He went into her phone to respond to me because he is clearly intimidated by my recent presence in her life. I decided to send a message basically calling him out and asking if he took advantage of any girls/ got girls drunk recently.\n\n\nThe reason this rumor is believed to be true is because my girlfriend knows a couple girls that had a thing with this guy and have told her about how horrible he is. He asked his previous girlfriend to \u201ctake a break\u201d only to have her walk in on him having sex with another girl. Even though this was just a rumor, he replied with a video of him screaming at the phone over and over saying:\n\n\u201cWTF DID YOU JUST SAY!\u201d\n\nMy first thought was if someone accused me of something like this and they weren\u2019t true accusations, why would he respond in such an angry and defensive manner. She has told me about his anger issues and how he yells at her almost daily, so I really hate this guy.\n\nI know this was an immature thing to say but he is actually emotionally abusing my friend and yells at her while she cries. He then blocked me on her phone and I was supposed to get a ride home from her from the airport tomorrow. I do have her phone number however. Along with wondering AITA, should I even bother talking to her or just get another ride? I\u2019m not sure if she would be upset with me or him and don\u2019t know if continuing to try to reach her while she is with her boyfriend is the best idea for me or her.\n\nThank you for any responses in advance.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hFXrgjU6wvOOxPr5N3UNT9D2iIRMsw5b", "post_id": "9zvd1o", "action": {"description": "lying about my age to grown men", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for lying about my age to grown men?", "text": "Im 17f in the usa. I like older guys generally. their dicks bigger and they have more experience \n\nThis past week I let it slip Im 17 and the guy i was fucking 24m started freaking the fuck out and cursing me out like an asshole. I said it's no big deal cause I would never tell the cops but he keeps shaming me and called me a bitch\n\nIs this really a big deal", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "BtCZXvXGTR923DMyleiSwoJfMAVCobi5", "post_id": "b4zrkt", "action": {"description": "being mad that a fast food restaurant gave the person in front of me bigger portion sizes than me", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 17}, "title": "AITA for being mad that a fast food restaurant gave the person in front of me bigger portion sizes than me?", "text": "Yesterday I went to a well known Asian fast food chain that my college has on campus. \n\nThere was a very overweight girl in front of me in line and we both ordered the same exact thing. \n\nI glanced over at her portion sizes as we were both getting ready to pay and noticed that the guy working there gave her literally double the portion sizes he gave me- like I\u2019ve been to this restaurant before and he gave me 5 pieces of orange chicken while the other girl got at least double that and we paid the same exact amount. \n\nI gave the guy a dirty look, but didn\u2019t say anything. \n\nI\u2019ve had this happen to me before at the same restaurant and it\u2019s really starting to piss me off because I\u2019m paying the same as other people and getting less food than them. It\u2019s not like I\u2019m rude to the people working there when I\u2019m ordering there either. \n\nI\u2019m a girl who is 5\u20195 130 lbs and look a lot smaller than I weigh because of how I carry the weight, so I assume that the guy working there just assumed I wouldn\u2019t have as great an appetite and therefore would be okay with smaller portion sizes. \n\nIk how reddit feels about overweight people and for me this isn\u2019t about the girl and her weight or eating habits. She\u2019s allowed to eat whatever the fuck she wants to and I\u2019m not going to criticize her for that. \n\nMy issue is more with the people working there being unfair with the portion sizes they give me. I feel like everyone should get the same portion sizes, regardless of how big or small you are, since we\u2019re all paying the same amount of money for food. \n\nAITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 17, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 17}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "8LR5bH89Yl1KUs9vpRFRF87DvRGlQ5JP", "post_id": "b5ft9n", "action": {"description": "expecting my fianc\u00e9 to wear a wedding ring when we get married even though he doesn't have a hand", "pronormative_score": 56, "contranormative_score": 18}, "title": "AITA for expecting my fianc\u00e9 to wear a wedding ring when we get married even though he doesn\u2019t have a hand...", "text": "Fianc\u00e9 (M, 26) lost most of his left arm in an accident two years ago. We are getting married next month and when discussing buying wedding rings he said he didn\u2019t need one because he didn\u2019t have a finger for it to go on. Now, he still had his right hand. I said I had always assumed that he would just wear it on his other hand, but he said as his father didn\u2019t wear a ring he didn\u2019t see how it was important. I suggested wearing the ring on a chain around his neck, he said he isn\u2019t into jewellery (this is very true, he owns none).\nThis upsets me a lot. I don\u2019t believe he has ill intentions, he dotes on me and would never be unfaithful to me. I\u2019ve even had strangers in clubs/bars come up to me and tell me how adorable he is because they started conversations with him and he just immediately starts talking about me but thanks them for their interest. BUT I had always thought my husband would wear a ring.\n\nAITA for being upset that he won\u2019t wear a ring when we are married?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 18, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 46, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 56, "WRONG": 18}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IuOFKPsDQhrBAGnOyJ1V0m4YUFceU7Ky", "post_id": "b73ncd", "action": {"description": "pointing out someone's potential racism", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA For pointing out someone's potential racism?", "text": "I seem to be getting \"downvoted to oblivion\" for a remark I made to [someone's comment here](https://www.reddit.com/r/videos/comments/b6y7mn/man_handcrafts_a_skateboard_for_his_grandson/ejomv0d/).\n\nI won't try to defend myself here, you can read through the comments yourself and decide.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "v3DeG3u631INx95I4HqWHkdmHXM6vMC2", "post_id": "auhbcj", "action": {"description": "being annoyed at my ex for giving misleading reasons behind our breakup", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed at my ex for giving misleading reasons behind our breakup?", "text": "I\u2019m currently a university student studying in (x) town and my ex is an ex-student who now works in the same town. I\u2019m most likely moving to another town to pursue a masters degree at a more competitive university. \n\nSo my now ex-girlfriend broke up with me a couple of weeks ago citing the main reason(and only reason then described) as wanting to end the relationship now, rather than later so it would be easier when I leave after the summer break. I was completely fine with this, and I didn\u2019t want to ask anymore questions, as she was extremely emotional and since I still did(and to a certain extent still do) care for her I chose to not pursue the subject. \n\nA couple of weeks later, I message her asking how things are and that I\u2019m sorry and disappointed in how the relationship ended, and that I was wondering if there was any possibility of considering maybe a long-distance relationship. However, she did a complete 180 in terms of both personality and reason-wise, pretty unemotionally telling me that she \u2018liked\u2019 me a lot, but that the main reason was actually due to a personality clash which hadn\u2019t been apparent during the relationship (at least, in my eyes. I\u2019d asked her numerous times during the relationship about this issue and she consistently replied that there was nothing wrong). \n\nThis didn\u2019t really set well with me as for the two weeks after the breakup I was beating myself up for not having made a bigger effort to try to talk her out of it, as well as believing that she still wanted to be in a relationship with me but purely believed that long distance would not work. I\u2019ve also heard gossip from others who see her fairly often of her and another guy getting fairly close which honestly bums me out a bit, seeing as I couldn\u2019t even fathom settling down with another woman for a while. I understand that everyone moves on at different paces, but seeing as we\u2019re in a relatively close-knit friend group it seems a little insensitive. \n\nSo AITA for feeling annoyed/a little betrayed by her actions? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xaYu8sqwGRamPuOz026c0wDE77e3V4gN", "post_id": "b2qve1", "action": {"description": "saying that I am an alpha male", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 24}, "title": "AITA for saying that I am an Alpha male?", "text": "Now I know the title is alarming and people are going to say ''You troll!!!'' or whatever, but 100% I believe in what I said.\n\nEssentially, I (24M) called myself an Alpha male. I didn't use the word ''Beta'' to demean anyone, or insult anyone, **my following statements were all in relation to MYSELF:**\n\nI met with some friends recently (two guys and two girls, all aged 24). I've known them for 3 years, and we were talking about what we've been up to lately.\n\nNow in the last several weeks, I got a new job (a better one than my previous, higher paying), I got laid with 3 different girls and I increased my lifts at the gym, as well as setting a new record for my mileage (I do running as well).\n\nSo I'm really on a winning streak in life. And during the convo, while I was drunk, I just said flat out **''I am an Alpha male. That's why I'm able to do what I am doing. There are winners and losers in life, and I am a winner. I am an Alpha male and I fully believe that.**\n\nMy friends looked confused and one of them called me a fucking prick for talking like that. Now just to clarify, I'm not a RedPiller and I don't view those forums, but I DO believe in Alpha males (not Beta males though or Omega). I believe there are Alpha's and non-Alpha, and I am an Alpha male.\n\nSo when I sobered up I sort of realized what I said, but rather than just apologize for talking like that I doubled down when my friend brought up the ''weird'' things I was saying, I said being drunk doesn't change anything, I still am an Alpha male and that's what I believe, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 24, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 24}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "5B0U3bl2Dx80iJ1QJSyjAnaHmh8Jkwos", "post_id": "avo5zr", "action": {"description": "asking for an apology to be reciprocated", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for asking for an apology to be reciprocated?", "text": "Backstory:  I've never been the most socially skilled person, heck you could say I'm bad at it. When growing up I only ever really interacted with a small handful of people, so I'm usually a little lacking on social cues. I've also had an irrational fear that my friends never really cared about me, and just kinda showed they did to be nice or look good or something. I know it's stupid and I know they do actually care, but it's just something my mind likes to tell me every once in a while. It\u2019s usually a problem and I can ignore it. I\u2019ve had the same group of friends for about 8 years, and for the past year and a half we\u2019ve been getting together weekly to play games and hang out. \n\nThis happened in August. One of the guys from the group, I\u2019ll call him John, was telling my fiance about how he thinks I\u2019m a jerk and he\u2019s not close to me or anything, and hasn\u2019t been since we\u2019ve started our weekly hang out. Saying I just make fun of him all the time. TBF we all usually joke with each other a lot, though if someone goes too far we say something. He never once told me I was taking it too far or that he felt disrespected, and I had no idea that he felt that way. He would just act the way he always did around me. We got together as a group to talk about it and when I heard it really hit me hard. Not only that what I thought was just joking between friends was actually hurtful, but also that for over a year he was basically lying to me, pretending like we were still friends. I actually broke down in front of my friends from that. I tried apologizing and saying that I never meant it like that and that I cared for him, but that I felt betrayed as I trusted my friends to be able to talk to me about anything. Like I said, I\u2019ve always had the fear that my friends don\u2019t really care, then boom it kinda happened. He didn\u2019t really accept my apology and didn\u2019t think I deserved one in return, saying that I was completely in the wrong and he did nothing bad. Nothing really got resolved and we just tried to move on from there, but he no longer showed up for game night. \n\nA couple weeks ago another one of my friends started going off in our group chat that I was being a jerk to John and that I was excluding him from everything and basically abusing him and had no room to ask for an apology. I was at work when this was all going on but when I went through it on my break I almost had a panic attack, and brought back those old fears. I have done nothing to exclude John from our group or anything to attack him. It\u2019s been a rough couple weeks since then, and it\u2019s been on my mind the entire time. I\u2019ve already tried to apologize once and it was rejected, plus he doesn\u2019t really care about how I was hurt. AITA for wanting an apology after I was hurt or am I the one who is completely to blame for this?\n\nTL;DR: My friend thinks I\u2019m bullying him and hides it for over a year, then doesn\u2019t feel bad when my feelings are hurt.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "24PBK84QnPphxfkh1bvpSzF21tG06gk1", "post_id": "9tezkq", "action": {"description": "not paying for my friends car wash when I threw up on her car and already cleaned it off", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not paying for my friends car wash when I threw up on her car and already cleaned it off?", "text": "Halloween weekend I went too hard. My friend was driving me home and on the highway I opened the window and threw up outside. Because physics, it gone onto the exterior of her car.\n\nNext day she wakes me up and asks if I can clean it up so it won't damage her paint. I got up, wiped everything I saw off with disinfectant and cleaner. I really was surprised because it wasn't a ton. She texted me a photo  the next day and I missed some, so when she got home I cleaned that up too. After that she talks about how nothing is really sanitary unless it goes through a wash and asks me to pay for her car wash. the thing is she had also driven on a gravel road that day and her car was covered in dust.\n\nI said no, I cleaned up my mess, and she got angry saying it wasn't really cleaned and it might wreck her paint. \n\nAm I the asshole and should I pay for the wash?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ny6jZr73xo9ULbPZPk7ox1V76SK3dxxu", "post_id": "b3hfo2", "action": {"description": "not wanting to visit my dying grandmother", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to visit my dying grandmother?", "text": "My dad was pretty much abandoned by his mother, and they had a terrible relationship. He was open and honest with me about this. I have only seen her maybe 5 or 6 times in my life. I received a card from her every now and then, and I called her and said thank you each time, but her and I never had a relationship.\n\nYesterday my dad came to my apartment and told me she had been admitted to a hospital and had cancer, and he asked me to go to Tennessee (We live in Texas) with him to visit her. I told him I have work (which is true) and that I was not really interested in driving there to see her. He then told me he was going to take my car, since it had better gas mileage and I just laughed at him and said no. Now he is guilt tripping me because I didn\u2019t go. So AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sMP7vu7rN22ggPJPeFZ7D4zb75XOxemu", "post_id": "ap34l6", "action": {"description": "being mad that my best friend won't stop being friends with my emotionally abusive ex", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being mad that my best friend won't stop being friends with my emotionally abusive ex?", "text": "So for context, me, my best friend, and ex were all friends from high school before me and him started dating. They were never very close before, but me and my bestie have been best friends for years. After over a year, I have finally cut all contact with my incredibly emotionally abusive ex. \n\nSo going back in time a little bit, towards the end of our relationship it had got to the point where I would have a breakdown almost every day due to his constant bullying about basically everything I did. Right after we broke up, he got kicked out of his house, and left to move in with his mom about an hour away. I fucked up a few times and let him come back and live with me when he would text saying he was in town and had no place to stay. But, this is when him and my bestie started getting really close. When I would tell him he had to leave my house, he would go stay at hers. \n\nDuring this time the emotional abuse never stopped, so I stopped hanging out with my bestie as often and then not at all. Eventually, I basically told her to make him leave at the expense of feeling like a controlling bitch. I don't want to control her friendships, but she also knows how much this person has hurt me, and doesn't seem to care. She still texts him constantly and it's making me irrationally angry with her. I just don't feel as close with her anymore because of it. Also he has admitted to having a crush on her.\n\nI know how petty this may seem, but I feel betrayed by her continuing to be friends with somebody who hurt me so much and so deeply. Also, I've told her the specifics of what he would do to me and she always says that's so disgusting, he's horrible, etc, but she still is so friendly to him. \n\n​\n\nTL;DR: best friend constantly texts and chats with my emotionally abusive ex who has a crush on her, even though me and him no longer speak.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YhT6r9CFnjA2LYDfuqX30865GPOa7Hus", "post_id": "ayx5tb", "action": {"description": "being civil to my friend's ex", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being civil to my friend's ex?", "text": "So I (19M) have this group of friends of about 4 of us. We're somewhat close but we all have other friend groups. About 2 or 3 months back a girl in the group (we'll call her Sarah) had a bad breakup with her at the time boyfriend. We had never really met the dude but he seemed chill. However apparently they had a pretty big falling out. We never really got the details but she did mention she felt like he had used her for sex, so after this we obviously took her side and agreed not to really talk to this guy.\n\n​\n\nAnyway, since then sometimes I'll be eating at our school's dining hall (we're all college freshmen living in dorms) with some friends, some from the group, and some other people, but not including Sarah, and her ex will just come by and sit with us. I guess he remembers us and feels like he knows us well enough to eat with us, or he's friends with someone else who's currently sitting with us. Even though we never really knew him, I'm okay with him being there. I don't think this guy has many friends and I would feel bad telling him to leave or getting up and moving myself, and in any case I don't really mind since he doesn't talk with us much. I (and anyone else from the group who's there) just sort of tolerate him but never initiate conversations directly with him. Also this has only happened like three times max.\n\n​\n\nHowever, apparently Sarah saw us sitting with him a few times and felt a bit betrayed. She has since asked us to not let him eat around us. I explained that we don't really tell him he can or can't since he just sits down without asking, and flat out telling him he has to move seems unnecessarily rude. Plus it's not like we ever see this guy outside those three or so times.\n\n​\n\nI understand where she's coming from, considering it's her ex who we agreed never to be friends with, but at the same time I feel like it's a bit much to ask that we purposefully be a dick to him. The way she sees it, it's what he deserves, but even though we're her friends, we just don't dislike him enough to do that. Maybe because it's been a while since it all happened, or maybe because we never really saw the breakup go down.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YQWlWjARpXKCMPgTkU4gWquEmWBSvG9E", "post_id": "b0cbo4", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be with my mother 24/7", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to be with my mother 24/7?", "text": "My mother wants to CONSTANTLY talk to me and have my company, even going as far as to sleep in my bed when I'm asleep. Whenever I want to be left alone, she goes on about how I am a bad person, that she is the best mother ever and that if I want to be left alone, I should go live with my father (they are divorced and my father lives an hour away). It has gotten to the point that I can't do my homework. I never tell her to leave me alone rudely. like I am in the wrong but I have my doubts.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Hq4M0HbAgd13cqTRuxELq1kYocYnLX8L", "post_id": "ayyghz", "action": {"description": "unintentionally making a girl cry", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for unintentionally making a girl cry?", "text": "I was in school the other day, when my friend showed me a printed picture of the Momo challenge. I then proceeded to show it to some of my friends and they obviously cringed. I threw it away as my discipline teacher was arriving. \n\nLater on in the day, someone gave me another one and i just randomly flashed it to a girl in front of me. 321!! And she burst into tears. In front of the whole class. Thus i had to see the disciplinary teacher but luckily he was understanding.\n\nI had NO idea that that would happen, and I've apologized but she's just ignoring everything and even unfollowed me on Instagram. So, am i the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "G4dJ7xaS12UdYGUhuPGaHqBg3UgQwQfp", "post_id": "b6ise5", "action": {"description": "dating my ex's friend", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for dating my ex's friend?", "text": " \n\nAm I the asshole? \n\nI dated a guy, let\u2019s call him Dave, for about 10 months. Dave and I had a lot of problems. He had an aversion to commitment, so we never put a label on things. He was constantly drunk, unmotivated, and by month 6, we were both extremely unhappy. He was unemployed out of college, and would not apply for any jobs he saw as below him, like waiting tables. It came out that his dad cheated on his mom. There was a lot going on for him and he seemed to cling to the relationship for stability. \n\nIt\u2019s important to note here that Dave and I were friends for 2 years before we dated, and he helped me through quite a bit. So every time I expressed how deeply unhappy I was, he\u2019d beg for two more weeks, insistent that whatever job he\u2019d just applied for would definitely come through and things would get better when he was working, and every time I backed off and agreed to two more weeks. That went on for months before I finally called it off. I developed an attraction to our mutual friend, but out of respect for my quasi-relationship, completely cut contact with said guy as soon as I noticed the attraction. This is important for later.\n\nCome to find out, he lied to me about graduating school. He actually failed out, and that\u2019s why no jobs were working out. I\u2019m still pretty angry about this. He had to have known every time he begged for two more weeks that, if he was refusing to apply to jobs that were \u201cbelow\u201d him, that he wasn\u2019t going to get a job at all. It was an awful relationship. \n\nSo, remember that friend? Let\u2019s call him Bruce. Bruce and I reconnected after I broke up with Dave. IMPORTANT: 1) I did not meet Bruce THROUGH Dave. I met them independently at the same time about 3 years ago. 2) Bruce and Dave are not particularly close, they were in the same fraternity of 70-some guys, but ran in mostly different circles, with very little overlap. 3) Nothing ever happened between Bruce and I while I was dating Dave, I just noticed I had a crush and stopped talking to or hanging out with Bruce. \n\nBruce and I started dating 3 months after my breakup with Dave. I am incredibly happy, it\u2019s a much better fit and a much healthier relationship. However, some of my shared friends with Dave have been quite cruel, and I ran into Dave at a bar a few weeks ago and he yelled at me quite a bit, stuff about violating \u201cgirl code\u201d and this that and the other. \n\nI don\u2019t think I did anything wrong, but I\u2019m on the verge of losing friends over this. AITA? \n\n​\n\ntl;dr: Dating my ex's friend, but I don't think I'm doing anything wrong. Friends aren't happy about it. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2D4ZWNDllVIPq87MENTdA5OfmgsHTNNd", "post_id": "9yf7dp", "action": {"description": "breaking off a \"friendship\" and leaving it as business only", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for breaking off a \"friendship\" and leaving it as business only?", "text": "Here's a bit of backstory. I work as one of the IT managers for CompanyName in Mexico. 90% of my job requires of me to be in constant communication with our US office, therefore I am fully bilingual, and have a barely noticeable accent. As such, one of my co-workers, whom I didn't really speak with before, asked me to teach her English, so she could improve her own skills set. Apparently, she walked by my office one morning while I was on the phone, and I had left my door open. (irrelevant, but I have been an ESL teacher before)\n\nI agreed to do so, and our first class was to be on a Monday, 1 hour before my shift started. The night before, I spent a good hour and a half preparing a class for her. My daily commute is 2 hours to work, 2 hours back, so being at the office 1 hour earlier was a bit rough, but I am all for people wanting to better themselves, so I didn't mind it. Except she didn't show up. No call, no show.\n\nWhen she finally messaged me throughout the day, she apologized for oversleeping, and re-scheduled me for the next day, at the same time. She showed up 40 minutes late. The next two days she didn't schedule anything with me, and on the last day of the week, she finally showed up on time. This pattern has repeated as a mixed bag for about 7 months. I've gotten to the point of just not showing up whenever I think she won't show up either, and whenever I misjudge it, and she shows up but I don't, I apologize for oversleeping and carry on. I guess it is important to note I am not charging her for it. She stopped scheduling me all together about 4 months ago, but we've kept in touch and I guess we've become office friends. I try not to message her much while at work, or on our personal time. Every other week I'll send her a meme or a bad dad joke I found, but that's about it. She replies in kind. She's confided in me a few of her personal issues, and even made a few passes at me, all of which I blew off and ignored, since I know she has a boyfriend. A couple of months ago, she called me to vent after her breakup.\n\nLast week, she asked me again to help her with her English, and I agreed, but told her that if she was not constant and dedicated to it, there would be no way to improve or learn. She said she was 100% on board with that, and she wanted to start as soon as possible, but she didn't want to do it at the office anymore. She said she'd rather do it over the weekend at some Starbucks or w/e. She said that Sunday (today) would work for her, and we settled on that.\n\nYesterday, at around 1pm I asked her to confirm if we were still on for Sunday. She didn't reply, and I assumed Sunday was off, so I stayed up with my friends all nightp playing videogames. Today, at around 11am, she replied. It started off with her apologizing for not replying to me, then confirming the time and place for today. By noon when I finally got up, I replied, and told her I'd see her then. I asked if she wanted to grab a bite after, and she didn't reply, though the message was read.\n\nAbout 1 hour before we were to meet, she calls me, and cancels on me. Apparently she had JUST rolled her ankle and was on her way to the ER because she \"couldn't even see straight\". I offered to catch up with her at the ER, and she declined.\n\nWIBTA if I just made our relationship as \"coworkers\" only? That is to say, no contact unless it is work related? I feel she is now trying to use me to get her ex jealous or some other shitty deal I want no part of, on top of me being sick of investing time into helping her, when she very clearly has no interest. I don't understand why she'd ask me for help, schedule me, even assist a few classes, and continue to spontaneously cancel. Am I being petty?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "biBzrGPWiB5hpUxKVrOaFyCZeHpLcMaa", "post_id": "akus0f", "action": {"description": "thinking my roommate is overreacting about me having the occasional beer or joint in our dorm", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 18}, "title": "AITA for thinking my roommate is overreacting about me having the occasional beer or joint in our dorm?", "text": "Occasionally I\u2019ll keep a little bit of alcohol or weed hidden in my drawers in my dorm. My roommate has saw it twice and told me she\u2019s not comfortable with me having the stuff in there because she doesn\u2019t want to get in trouble if we get caught. However, it\u2019s clearly on my side so I would be the only one who would get blamed and even so, they\u2019re only allowed to do \u201cplain sight\u201d inspections of our rooms so they\u2019d never find it anyways. She told me I\u2019m not respecting her boundaries because it\u2019s her room too, but I feel like she\u2019s overreacting because they\u2019re no way she could get implicated in the rare chance it was found. AITA for thinking my roommate is overreacting because of the occasional beer or weed I keep on my side of the room in my drawer?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 17, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 18}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "3o1yKfg3HPYLLPOanvQiBOi8AmATojma", "post_id": "9ynpjs", "action": null, "title": "AITA-got into a yelling match with a stranger while driving today", "text": "I was driving towards an intersection and my friends weren\u2019t able to decide wether wanted to go straight or left. So initially we got into a left turn lane, but they wanted to go straight so I check my mirrors and saw no cars coming so I signal and make an attempt to merge on to the right lane. But there was a car in my blind spot I failed to identify and almost caused an accident. Now, I\u2019m just gona admit that I fucked up here and immediately realized this so I waved my hand at the driver and turn on emergency light and yelled sorry at him. I thought nothing of it and we continue to go straight. Past the light we enter our destination located to our right seperating right turn lane with a V shaped barrier. This guy speeds up and breaks through the barrier and cuts in front of me and stops. Dead stop. Once again I think nothing of it and just brake and wait for the guy to go forward. We go couple more feet the lanes split again with a barrier, he\u2019s on the left lane and I\u2019m on the right lane. He once again cuts through the barrier to come to a dead stop in front of me. Once again I do nothing about it. At this point I\u2019m slightly annoyed, but oh well. After about 10 seconds we go couple more feet again, and this time he starts reversing into me. While I was still moving forward. He rolls his window down and flips me off. Now I\u2019m mad, I find an opening I speed past him, cut him off and engaged sat in park with my e brake engaged. He starts yelling at me I yell back at him. This time around he drives over to the oncoming traffic lane and I match his pace so he couldn\u2019t merge back into the proper direction. We both yell at eachother one last time and I eventually just let him go because I didn\u2019t want to waste my time any more. It would\u2019ve been a very clear cut case of me being the jack ass if he didn\u2019t pull that shit to fuck with me. So now I\u2019m wondering am I still the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "7Dh3CRtXcptWd7X9ZCGtgCFmDbek2IXA", "post_id": "a1mzo8", "action": {"description": "nutting to my friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for nutting to my friend?", "text": "My friend is in my class and we talk every day, and she is very pretty. My hormones were pretty bad today, so i nutted to her, but after i did i instantly felt terrible for doing that. Obviously I\u2019m not going to tell her.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wlwZroZOVlpwsw7L2d6ABy09BGrg1naQ", "post_id": "9xzxe8", "action": {"description": "ignoring this guy", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for ignoring this guy?", "text": "So I have English class my first period of the day and I REALLY don't feel like talking to anyone that early in the morning (7:00am), but there's this guy that sits nearby me that just repeatedly tries to make conversation with me. I'm usually wearing headphones so I can avoid him talking to me, but he always just taps on my desk so I can help him with something (look at his essay, help him understand an assignment, etc.). I usually just respond to him very dry and with as little words as possible, put my headphones back in and do my work. \n\nThis has been going on for weeks now and the guy STILL  won't stop talking to me. So flashback to last Friday, our teacher tells us to get into pairs for an upcoming project and lo and behold I have to work with this dude because everyone else pairs up immediately. Of course I do the same thing I've been doing for weeks and he says something along the lines of \"I think it's rude that\" and he stops himself before he finishes. I'm assuming it was probably gonna be about how I've been talking to him the past few weeks or something.\n\nAITA for not wanting to talk to this guy even though I feel like I've clearly expressed that fact?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "bpEHb7gFscIKoOJGcI1ar4ryU3TR0SYW", "post_id": "b6e8bl", "action": {"description": "cutting my brothers out of my life", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for cutting my brothers out of my life", "text": "My father is physically disabled and mentally ill. He's a hoarder to a **profound** degree and has basically ruined my parent's property because of his problem. I'm not here to shit on my dad. I mean, I hate what he has done and I resent him for it but I feel that getting mad at a mentally ill person is like getting mad at a hurricane or a flash flood for destroying your home. Pointless.\n\nMy sisters and I have tried on repeated occasions to help my dad and mom by confronting my dad, offering to find solutions and even committing time to cleaning up the mess in an attempt to take control of this difficult situation. Nothing has worked. I feel terrible for my 72 y'old mom who has basically resigned herself to waiting for my father to die before she can move on from the situation.\n\n**My older** brother told all of his friends about my dad and constantly complains to his girlfriend and therapist about how he was traumatized by my family. I hate him for doing this because he aired all of our private family bullshit. I mean, a therapist I can understand, but strangers? His therapist, or so he claims, told him to cut all of us out of his life. Which he did and has officially proclaimed to everyone how he has walked away from the situation and anyone who stays \"is a gaslit fool\" ... He attempts to maintain a connection with two of my sisters but I told him that I never want to see him again for ditching the rest of us with this problem.\n\n**My younger** brother was \"helping out\" by selling some of my dad's junk (old generators, a couple of cars, some paintings) and it added up to quite a lot after awhile. My dad might be crazy but he is fair. His deal was that we would always split the profits 50/50 after expenses. My brother on the other hand sold my dad's stuff, gave him money for what my dad paid for it and pocketed the rest. This came to like $15,000. Then he split town a couple weeks later and told me, \"this mess is not my problem and that I owe you nothing.\" My dad's frame of reference is so fucked he thought he made out on this deal. Smh.\n\nI told this brother that he was a horrible piece of shit and that I never want to speak to him again either.\n\nI could stand my brothers just walking away from the situation and having the decency to keep quiet about it but any communique ends with them regarding me for being \"the asshole that stayed\". Their words. This hurts. So uncool. So selfish of them. \n\nI find the entire mess extremely tiring and humiliating. I often can't sleep at night when I dwell on this shit... how I lost two brothers. How my am I going to get rid of the mess? How can I afford to? How could they pull this shit on me after all we went through together?\n\nI just always thought that family was supposed to stick together no matter what and I feel so devastated and abandoned that my brothers would betray me and my sisters like that. I would have done anything for them- or am I the asshole? Please tell me if I am.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0CRTTdbgXmAcHA6w3g3nUiPqlA8Ab1G9", "post_id": "b1l30e", "action": {"description": "intentionally showing off my marks to my school mates for attention", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for intentionally showing off my marks to my school mates for attention?", "text": "This might seem like a r/Iamverysmart post. But let me start by saying that I'm one of the bright students in our class. And I intentionally show off my marks to my school mates for attention.\n\n\nI'm 17, male. I don't have any friends. I'm extremely shy and introverted so it's actually my fault for being alone, I don't blame anyone else. I go to school, sit in my seat till the class ends and get out as soon as I can.\n\nI'm not good at anything which might attract others. I can't play sports because I have some medical problems, I'm not good at any arts or any skill. I spend my day in my room studying/watching football (soccer if you are an American)/playing football simulation games/browsing Reddit. I suck at everything.\n\nThe only good thing, or the \"so called\" good thing about me is that I'm very good at studies. I get very good marks in exam. I'm not even intelligent, I just have a great memory (the only thing I can brag about) so I can remember stuffs pretty quick and for a long time. Then I puke the information on the paper and get good marks.\n\nI wait the whole year for the time of the result. After the result I try to bring up conversations about it as much as I can. It's not like I go to people and say \"oh hey look, I got X% in this and Y% in that!\" It's not like that. I'll try to bring up conversations about the subject, and the someone might ask me about my percentage and I'll tell them like it's not a big deal.\n\nI do it for attention, nothing else. I'm totally aware of the broken education system and I know that some percentage doesn't show our true potential. But this is the only time people appreciate me, give me attention and don't ignore me like I don't exist. I seek validation, I don't know if it's normal or not but I like when people tell me that I'm good at something and this is the only time it happens.\n\n\nNow go ahead Reddit! Use your moral Philosophy on this poor soul!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QTqsFAz0QRz6wFyCBTG8bDD9QxLviJwm", "post_id": "b4irz3", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my gf because of a long distance relationship", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my gf because of a long distance relationship", "text": "So, I was in a 5 year long relationship with my ex. We were in college together and then we got jobs in different places. We decided we could meet once every 2-3 months and be in a long distance and after one year would try to get jobs in a common city. Everything was going well for the first 3-4 months. We met whenever we can. Then she tells me that she wants a break so she could focus on her job. Out of nowhere, this came. She told me that it'd take just a few weeks because she was working on something important. She told me the details, so I was convinced and decided to give her some space. After that, i went to meet her, we had a happy time and I thought everything would be good again, but when i reached back she told me that she kissed some colleague of hers who is like 9-10 years older than her and she was guilty, so she didn't tell me. I had a hard time digesting it and I broke up with her. There were many other factors as when she was at home after work she wanted full attention from me but when she went out with her friends for days, she didn't even call me once. I felt it was a shitty relationship. I told her that I don't want this relationship, and she told me can we be friends atleast and I said no to that too. I have decided to cut off all ties with her but a part of me wants to go back to her. Help me out guys!\n\nSo, AITA for breaking up with her.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9GcoFYySy9jcGyu6hhMsizfQmGuQKJJv", "post_id": "ay7hd8", "action": {"description": "buying things from a pawn shop", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for buying things from a pawn shop?", "text": "Hey Redditors\n\nI work in a very poor town with low employment and lots of crime. There are more pawn shops here than I've ever seen anywhere. Some of them stock things that I'd like to buy at reasonable prices. \n\nI have three conflicts:\n\n1. A lot of the stuff is probably stolen (I assume?);\n\n2. The people who pawn the items get ripped off badly - one place charged 350% interest for a loan secured against the goods; and\n\n3. Buying something there feels like I'm contributing to a morally bad industry. \n\nWhat's the rule here? WIBTA for contributing to the industry? Is it as bad as my uninformed opinion makes it out to be? I'd appreciate any insights.\n\nCheers all.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JTOn66JRaG7jHHbyaDAG7pDuMPsj80D3", "post_id": "a0y3ws", "action": {"description": "wanting my boyfriend to clean his side of the room", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting my boyfriend to clean his side of the room?", "text": "TLDR: AITA for wanting my boyfriend to clean his side of the room?\n\nOkay this may not seem like a big deal to some people but I feel quite frustrated. My boyfriend(M31) and I share a room (F22). The bed is in the middle: one side is his and one side is mine. I am not the cleanest person and I can admit that. I\u2019ll have some trash or junk, but will usually clean it within the week. I don\u2019t walk on his side of the room but when you walk in the door, you can clearly see his mess. \n\nHe has piles of clothes, bags, other shit that takes up most of his side of the room. It looks so messy and it *never* gets clean. I have asked him a couple of times to clean it up and he gets mad at me. He complains that he doesn\u2019t have enough space to store his stuff, so I suggest we go through clothes together and see what we can donate but he refuses. He gets so frustrated and then refuses to talk about it. \n\nI have brought it up a couple of times but at this point, he just sulks and nothing comes from it. AITA for trying to get him to clean his side of the room that I think is super messy? Or am I being overbearing??", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qdDsydN2W8603d22N1IGMsrgGU3lk8CL", "post_id": "aydzma", "action": null, "title": "AITA when my friends say I'm jealous because my friend got laid of karma of something I found ?", "text": "I only descoverd this subreddit yesterday and so I decided that I have a story that sorts fits into this subreddit and so I've decided to share it.\n\n(I'm wrote this on mobile so sorry if there's some bad formatting )\n\nTL;DR at the bottom\n\nI don't like fortnite (personally think its overrated )\nBut I was watching this you tube video of a dude who recreated the death star interior and all in creative mode and in the \"up next\" section it showed a thumb nail with a red arrow pointing to a female fortnite character's ass and where they badly photoshopped a female fortnite head on to a character from a difrent game wearing a skimpy costume and blurred out the torso I thought it was weird and so I screen shotted it and posted it to a group chat I'm in saying \"wft are these people trying to do get all the horny 8 year Olds to click?!\"\n\nAnd then a couple of hours later my friend posted to the group chat saying \"thank you OP\" repeatedly so then I asked \"for what?\" so he sent a link to r/trashy and when I clicked on it i saw esientialy EXACTLY what I said earlier but he swapped 8 year old with 10 year old and turns out he had gotten 3K karma I was angry because he took the thing I pointed out posted it with out asking me or saying something like \"my friend saw this \" when I told him in my opinion he shouldn't have done it he started being a dick about it saying \"you snooze you loose\" and \"well you should've posted it then.\"\n\nI later asked my friends all about this saying the image wasn't yours to begin with and that I'm just jealous and salty but I think they just said that because I'm the \"runt\" of the friend group. You know the guy they all make fun of and like the least (and whenever there is argument between you and another friend they would always side against you.) \n\nP.S I think the post is like 10K-20K upvotes at the moment \n\nTL;DR : my friends say I'm jelouse over karma because I'm angry my friend posted something I found and got like 10k upvotes", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "sBVDJx6cBFZAtmcRmQlIkmp1InpmkZZY", "post_id": "9zj6fm", "action": {"description": "not wanting a relationship", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting a relationship?", "text": "Obligatory sorry for formatting as I am on mobile.\nThrowaway because my roommate is on reddit.\n\nI recently got out of an albeit short, relationship, that was rapidly becoming more serious. In my attempt to cope (or rather, suppress my emotions) I have been hooking up with a friend of mine (my ex\u2019s best friend, I know I\u2019m the asshole there). I told her when things began between us that I planned on just fucking around, hooking up with people, not being in a relationship. She and I became very close over time, spending almost all her time at my place with me and my roommate, and she has developed feelings for me and wants a relationship.  I am by no means ready for a relationship (as the breakup was only a week ago today), yet she blames me for her having feelings for me. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4M1elpYVQioe3Lm81hs6JM46rPiyzZ3R", "post_id": "au30qi", "action": {"description": "not wanting to Screw over my own kids", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Not Wanting To Screw Over My Own Kids?", "text": "To clarify, this is NOT an anti-vax post. I can understand how the title may be misleading.\n\nI am currently 18 years old, lesbian, and I already have my mind set on the idea that I don't want to have kids of my own. (Translation: I don't want to screw my own kids over with my cursed genetics.)\n\nBecause of this, my mother's side of the family will consider me as the 'black sheep', and will attempt to convince to change my mind.\n\nI have explained on multiple occasions that I don't want my future children to have to go through the same or worse mental issues that I already go through. Nor do I want them to have the possibilities of cancer, addiction, or nervous system issues. Overall, I don't want my kids going through the same or worse hereditary problems that I'm already facing.\n\nHere's a conversation that I've had to go through with just my mother about this.\n\nMom - \"You know I want some grandkids sometime in my lifetime.\"\n\nMe - \"Yes, and if I have kids, they'll most likely be adopted.\"\n\nMom - \"You don't want to have kids of your own?\"\n\nMe - \"No.\"\n\nMom - \"Why?\"\n\nMe - \"Because I don't want to curse them with my genes.\"\n\nMom - \"You're not going to carry on the family bloodline? Well... will you at least carry on the family name?\"\n\nMe - \"Maybe.\"\n\nMom - \"What do you mean 'maybe'?\"\n\nMe - \"Meaning, I might not have that name by the time I get around to having kids.\"\n\nMom - \"What? How?\"\n\nMe - \"I might change my name when I... IF I ever get married. Or I might legally change my name later in life.\"\n\nMom - \"NO! YOU HAVE TO KEEP THE FAMILY NAME! DO YOU REALIZE HOW DISAPPOINTED YOUR GRANDFATHER WILL BE IF YOU DIDN'T CARRY ON THE FAMILY NAME?!\"\n\nMe - \"Um... more reason to change it.\"\n\nMom - \"ARE YOU KIDDING ME?! YOU'RE THE ONLY ONE TO CARRY ON THE FAMILY NAME!\"\n\nMe - \"Actually... can't your aunt's kid do that too? They can do that if it means so much. I'm not willing to breed just to carry on a family name that holds standards that I don't agree with.\"\n\nAnd that's when I ended the conversation.\n\nBut, am I the asshole for making such a choice? I know I made that choice early in life, but I'd personally rather be safe than sorry.\n\nI'd like to know y'alls thoughts on the matter.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YLOfYiMWKhHTrqRTSwJkhR72JYd6Kh09", "post_id": "b6ay67", "action": {"description": "not wanting to talk to my friend about her on again off again boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to talk to my friend about her on again off again boyfriend?", "text": "So my friend has been dating this guy for a long time, they\u2019ve had good times but mostly she will complain about him. We\u2019ve spent weeks discussing only that subject ad nauseam and she will just break up with him and then proceed to get back together with him the next day. She keeps telling me and showing me proof that he has cheated, lied and been emotionally abusive, and honestly I personally believe that she should break up with him. However the problem is that when they are together she\u2019ll agree with me but when they aren\u2019t then she will take my opposition as a challenge, telling me I don\u2019t know anything about them when she herself showed me what was happening. After months of only discussing this I\u2019m honestly sick of it at this point and I refuse to talk about it. I see that she needs support but she keeps pushing me away and honestly I don\u2019t know if I should keep trying or if giving up is the right thing. I just hate being told I\u2019m a bad person just because I don\u2019t think and will ever think they should get back together and I\u2019m sick of discussing it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vsVVOzWuGLUqCjPFHmeEPFFnSpfoNeUu", "post_id": "b0eylv", "action": {"description": "not wanting to look for houses yet", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to look for houses yet?", "text": "My Landlord's mother who owns our rental property that we rent month to month just passed away. My wife feels we(I) should start asking around for new rental properties to move into if they choose to sell the house and we need to move. She feels it is just a matter of time before the house gets sold and we should use this time now to look. It is not even on the market yet, but she is assuming that they will want to sell the house and will want to put it on the market before summer and only give us the required 30 days notice. \n\nI, on the other hand, think this is an overreaction. They have never mentioned anything about selling the house when she passes, and even hinted at the opposite when we brought it up before moving in. Also, we live in a small community, and asking around for properties might eventually get back to the landlord, who might find it insulting that we think he's gonna kick us out soon. Not to mention I am already searching for a job in a new area and we are planning to move in the summer. It's hard enough to look for a job and then a house after that, but to look for one now only to move again in 4 months? \n\nThe landlord is a probate attorney who is giving us this house at a steal because he wants someone here to maintain it, but also because he is worried about family fights with his siblings about the house. Our relationship with our landlords is closer than normal, since we went to church together while we were renting. We were also invited to their daughter's wedding shower and have had them for dinner. It's way too early to talk to them directly as this only happened yesterday.\n\nWe have \"compromised\" to me only looking online for a few weeks before I start talking to people directly, whether we have gotten notice or not.  AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6ckcIvqMS4fkx4VzdTee6ZOVPC5L9595", "post_id": "b7sj7f", "action": {"description": "getting free japanese tutoring", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Getting Free Japanese Tutoring?", "text": "I met these people through my mother who is in a different position, but sometimes works with the father.\n\nSince then I\u2019ve met his son, and they, father and son, BOTH readily agreed to tutor me in the Japanese. They\u2019ve offered to meet me AT LEAST once a week to tutor me; provided HW and planned a study curriculum \n\nMy first meeting with the son and I found out they bought me a beginner textbook for me to study.\n\nI reached out to the father over text, after this meeting wondering how I could pay them back.\n\nHe said I could just buy them something to drink is all..\n\nThey made it seem like not a big deal but AITO for not paying back their help?? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YG6bzHQnurJUg2l1Cn5bCkWI0kx7jfoW", "post_id": "9tg97n", "action": {"description": "turning down a girl because she was fat", "pronormative_score": 45, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "AITA for turning down a girl because she was fat?", "text": "A \"friend\" of mine tried hooking me up with the hugely overweight chick (5'6, \\~325lbs). I told her \"Sorry but this isn't going to happen\" and when she asked me why I said, only this, that she is \"Too big for for me.\" She proceeded to say Fuck you and I hope you die. I said I hope you find someone that makes you happy. \n\nI know I could have been nicer about it, but I felt the right thing to do was being transparent with my reasoning. I am allowed to have a preference of non-fat people and if they ask why me, I believe it is justified that I don't sugarcoat shit and give them my truth.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 45, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 45, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5D90CNVsEWJIPpWQmLTBXxHcaRMCoNIJ", "post_id": "9y2alh", "action": {"description": "asking my friend to not bring his gf when we hang out", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked my friend to not bring his gf when we hang out", "text": "So my group of friends hangs out pretty often, usually not all of us, usually me, one other guy, and then three or four random others from the group (it's just me and the other guy who are nearly always there). We will call that guy N. Recently N started dating a girl outside of our friend group. No one has any sort of problem with her, she's certainly a nice person and fun to hang out with. \n\nThe only thing is, everyone else in our group is single. So even when there are 6 other people besides N and his gf, we all end up feeling like third wheels, and kind of bummed out. \n\nDon't get me wrong, she's fun to have around, and like I said, no one has anything against her. But would I be an asshole if I asked him not to bring her next time we hang out? I've talked with one other guy in our group, and he agrees that it's awkward when they're doing couple-y things while the rest of us are hanging around, sort of like they're rubbing it in (which they certainly are **not**. It just feels that way because the rest of us are single.). I wouldn't be asking him to never bring her along anywhere, just maybe request that next time we hang out he doesn't bring her.\n\nAlso I just wanted to say- I don't think he's an asshole for bringing her along, and I don't think he'd be an asshole if he said no. He just wants to spend time with her, and that's fine. Hell, I've even done the same thing myself, but eventually realized how I may be making others feel and stopped inviting her every time. I'm just wanting to know if *I* would be an asshole if I did this. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XR9oBN9MD1xn8BH2PXgcyuz40q1IPyPw", "post_id": "b7icy2", "action": {"description": "ratting out my group to the professor that they haven't done any work", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I rat out my group to the professor that they haven't done any work?", "text": "So I'm currently in a graduate program and got assigned to a group of 3 people (including myself) for a semester long project. In general, this group's communications... are severely lacking. For part 1 of the project I did the vast majority of the work, with the other two only making comments and edits to the document.  \n\n\nPart 2 is now due tomorrow night at midnight. We've had over a month to work on this and had met early in the month to discuss how to get it done, since this isn't something to get done in day or two. However, all three of us are super slammed. For example, I'm in 5 graduate level classes and actively interviewing at a company across the country (read I had a trip in the middle of this) and the other two work full-time and attend full time (3 graduate level classes). So all three of us just kept pushing off this project.  \n\n​\n\nAs soon as I got back from my job interview trip, I tried to rally the troop's because now we only have 4 days left. One person sends a bunch of potential references (which has been very helpful) and the other has put some notes to consolidate potential ideas. This morning I sent out an e-mail saying effectively, \"Hey guys, we have two days, we have 13-18 pages to write. I've broken it down into sections, here's your sections, let's start getting going on it.\"    \n\n\nI split the work out to me- 60%, person 1- 30%, person 2 -10% based on how my gut tells me they'll actually get done. Since this morning, person 1 did reach out and say \"Ok, but I have another assignment due, so I'll work on it after.\" (Note:  I also have this assignment due and it should only take about 2 hours to complete...) That was now 8 hours ago and there's been no movement on their parts and this person is across the country, so their day is now pretty much shot. Person 2 has not responded since they put the references two days ago.   \n\n\nSo WITBA if I tell let my professor know that at this point, I've done the vast majority of the work for one and from what it seems that I will be the sole author of Part 2? I totally own that I also dropped the ball and let it to the last minute along with my teammates, but I'm now the only one trying to remedy this. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PAzKrOSddahjBtQXJoDdPSKFXWy07Y3z", "post_id": "b9ty9f", "action": {"description": "asking about wages", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "Aita for asking about wages?", "text": "Ive posted here once before so sorry if it  sounds like more highschool bullshit, but I promise i want legit advice to this\n\nAlso ooga booga on mobile and formatting bad.\n\nSo in class we had some companies come in and talk about their various business and some info on the kind of people they hire. Afterward during QNA i asked about what wages they offerd since it seemed prevalent. This got me some dirty looks and beating around the bush but i didnt think anything of it. I get to my next class and one of the other students pulled me aside and said that what i did wasn\u2019t cool. Also the the teacher seemed pretty mad at me. I dont really understand whats wrong with asking about starting hourly pay but according to him it\u2019s impolite and it would explain the dirty glares i got. \n\nSo am i the ass here? I understand i can be blunt sometimes but i dont think what i asked about was out of line. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RAUxywLPASeB8jlINvf6cDgviJyvhSlC", "post_id": "b6jzc2", "action": {"description": "refusing to meet my ex's new girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for refusing to meet my ex\u2019s new girlfriend?", "text": "My ex and I broke up when our daughter was a newborn after it came out that he had cheated on me with multiple women when I was pregnant. \nDespite that, we\u2019ve always managed to get along really well and coparent effectively. \n\nHe\u2019s recently moved in with a girlfriend, and he doesn\u2019t understand why I won\u2019t meet her. \n\nHe\u2019s 28. She\u2019s 45. She\u2019s actually the same age as his mother, which if I\u2019m being honest I find a bit strange.\nI\u2019ve never met her or had any interaction with her, but for the past several months she used to watch my Instagram story religiously. When I told him I found that strange he asked me to block her.  I\u2019m a bit weirded out by the whole thing. \n\nHe claims they\u2019ve been together 8 months so this is a serious relationship and he wants us all to get along. Yet for the entire time they\u2019ve been together he\u2019s sent me flirty and suggestive texts and made sexual advances in person, so I just can\u2019t take their relationship seriously. \n\nMy daughter lives with me full time and according to our causal visitation rules our daughter isn\u2019t supposed to be around significant others during parenting time so I see no reason to have any kind of relationship with this woman. But he wants us all to have lunch so I can meet her and feel comfortable having our daughter around her. \n\n\nAITA? Do I just need to grow up and meet the flavor of the week? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "B0E9X1Y74cIZTsqdnaIfPO5LBOCTclGb", "post_id": "azdt46", "action": {"description": "asking a guy how big his dick is after he asks how much I weigh", "pronormative_score": 58, "contranormative_score": 21}, "title": "AITA for asking a guy how big his dick is after he asks how much I weigh?", "text": "So there's this guy in our friend group who asked me out on a date. Fast forward to the end of the date, and we're both too tired to engage in a heavy convo so we're just making small talk here and there, browsing through social media on our phones while occasionally sharing funny posts. I guess he's into fitness because he showed me an instagram post and it was a female weight lifter with a description including her weight, how much she's lifting etc. He said how amazing it was that a 48kg woman could deadlift xkg. (I forgot lol). I said yeah, it's cool, I don't think I could ever do that. Then he asked me how much I weigh.\n\nIt stunned me for a moment because while I believe yes, it's just a question, weight can be a sensitive topic for some and it made me really uncomfortable. I said \"excuse me?\". He repeated the question. I'm the kind of person who'd rather swallow my own discomfort for the sake of others'. I didn't want to make him feel bad for asking a question, so I answered it. But then he said \"you weigh more than me\".\n\nI didn't know what to say to that. I know it wasn't what he said, but it sounded like he was saying I'm fat. I started to get angry about that last comment so I asked, \"What was the point of that question?\" and he said \"I was just curious. I mean, you're an ok weight for your height and age, I think. You aren't morbidly fat or anything.\" I'm still stunned because his words were so harsh to my ears.\n\nIn the end, I told him that I didn't like how he asked such a what I consider personal, personal question. He started defending himself that it was \"just a question\" and that I shouldn't be like most girls in this generation. I asked what he meant, and he said being sensitive about \"a damn question\". Then he started on a rant about how girls are discriminatory towards guys with things they can't help like height, so why can't guys be discriminatory about their weights - something that they *can* help? What's up with this \"double standard\"?\n\nSo I know for a fact (from all the teasing from the guys in our friend group) that he's insecure about his dick, so I tried to use that to show him my perspective. I said \"Okay if it's just a question. So, how big's your dick?\" He didn't respond but he became evidently embarrassed. \"Tell me, how big is it?\" He asked me to stop asking him. I complied, but I used that to try and get him to see my view. He seemed to understand, but he didn't apologise. We both went home our separate ways and on the way home, I received a lot of private messages from some of his mates in our friend group about how I was an overreacting bitch.\n\nThey said I was the bitch because while he didn't know how insecure I am about my weight, I knew how insecure he was about his dick size, and that I took complete advantage of that. I explained my side and what he said, yet they were still adamant in labelling me as the asshole. So. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 58, "EVERYBODY": 15, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 58, "WRONG": 21}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3TGTpsu8gZHjVXN6uvR1axMsYMBhQerD", "post_id": "9tc1th", "action": {"description": "going mad at gf", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AItA for going mad at gf", "text": "I (M33) had an argument with my gf (29) over her calling in sick at work due to her sciatica. My argument was that it always seems to fall on my days off so I can't do what I want because I'm worried she will be bored but because of my job I don't get days off together I get one in the week and one at the weekend. She didn't seem too bad to me she could still walk and didn't look like she was in too much pain. We haven't spoken since yesterday afternoon as I decided to go out instead of spending the day with her even though I wanted to stay in and play RDR2.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "O8R3Gb77FHac8BTnxljTAWoaTyuBryiO", "post_id": "a47oi7", "action": {"description": "following my neighbor on Twitch", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I followed my neighbor on Twitch?", "text": "This is more of a lighter post than some of the others, but I just had a weird interaction with my next door neighbor and I need to know if I'd be a creep or otherwise leaning into an awkward situation at the expense of another person's comfort.\n\nMy apartment complex just got new dryers that don't have timers on them, so to be sure that I didn't leave a finished load of laundry longer than necessary I went down early to wait for it to finish. As I'm waiting, my next door neighbor, with whom I've never interacted before, came in to get her laundry from another dryer. The laundry room is directly below her apartment, and I had a belt in the dryer, so I apologized if she could hear it clanging around from her apartment. She said she couldn't hear it, and then apologized for any noise she makes while Twitch streaming, which I never hear anyways.\n\nI saw this as a conversational opportunity to find out what sort of games she streams and politely ask if she'd be willing to share her username, which she did. Sounds fine, right? Here's the thing, though: while she was picking up her clothes, she informed me that she had to clean all of her clothes, and in fact she was dressed in just a night gown. I think she may have found the situation uncomfortable and only told me her Twitch username out of politeness, but I kind of want to be a friendly neighbor and genuinely support her channel, especially since women tend to be harassed on Twitch. I'm happily taken and have zero desire to be anything other than a good neighbor to this girl. WIBTA if I followed her on Twitch in spite of our awkward encounter, or am I reading too much into this?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yoOM9oStSgAlQgxvdvSftOhKbyF5qdhg", "post_id": "b4lkk7", "action": {"description": "feeling disappointed", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for feeling disappointed", "text": "My partner is in the navy and with travel etc we are apart more than half the year. This leave he has already been home for 3 weeks. One week he's been at his parents, another on a course and every weekend we've had his daughter to stay (that's all fine, has to be done). Obviously I'm still working 9-5. This weekend I was really excited as we had a nice lunch planned then drinks with my two best friends and their partners, I see them a lot but I'm always alone and feel like a 5th wheel. My other half has a bad cold and the lunch has been cancelled and I doubt he'll be coming out tonight. I feel like I'm single and just want us to spend a tiny bit of time together. Am I an asshole seeing as I did sign up for this when I got into the relationship? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VQ908jUUtILJPL9RAlHC2HYuzJ2JerDV", "post_id": "aowx9n", "action": null, "title": "AITA because of this conversation I had with a cashier?", "text": "My sister and I are cooking dinner for our families.  We agreed to split the cost for everything 50/50.  \n\nWe get to the checkout and be bill is like $50.31 or something like that.  \n\nI tell the girl I would like to put $25.31 on one card and my sister will put $25.00 on hers.  The girl says okay and tells me to swipe my card when I am ready.\n\nIt processes and I see that the full $50.31 went on to my card.  \n\nI ask \"did you just charge the full amount to this card?\"\n\nThe cashier says \"no, I didn't.\"\n\nI say \"then why does it say there is a zero balance on the screen?\"\n\nShe blinks at me.\n\nI repeat \"did you just charge it all to the one card?\"\n\nShe says \"no, I did not.\"\n\nI said \"oh okay that's great! I guess I can't read the screen.  Does my sister swipe her card now for the remaining balance?\"\n\nThe lady says \"there is no balance.\"\n\nI roll my eyes.  \"So you DID charge it all to the first card?  I just need to know how much to expect to see on my next statement.\"\n\nShe looks me dead in the face and says \"no ma'am I did not. You did.  You put it all on that card.  If you didn't want to charge it all you're supposed to tell the machine how much you want taken out.\"\n\nI was a little shocked and said \"there were no prompts for that.  Are you sure?\"\n\nShe said \"yes I'm sure.  If you don't want it charged that way you should have scanned the other card first.\"\n\nMy sister chimes in and asks how that would be any different.  We were both using debit cards. \n\nThe girl says \"it just tells you what to do and you do it, I don't do anything.\"\n\nMy sister is like \"well I find that hard to believe, but if that was he case why didn't you give us any further instructions when we told you we needed to split it?\"\n\nThe girl back tracks some more telling us it's because we used my card first instead of my sisters. And SHE didn't make the charge but I did.\n\n\n\nOkay so I can type out he whole back and forth but I think you see how this is going. She kept blaming me and making excuses for why she didn't do it right. \n\nAt some point a manager came over and fixes the problem explaining to the girl that she was supposed to type in the amount we wanted to pay on her register screen and the pin pad I was at had nothing to do with it.  Then she kind of snaps at us saying the girl is new.  I said \"that's fine I understand being new and not knowing how to do stuff, but I got a little bothered by her blaming it all on me. If I understand correctly it was not user error on my part, but on hers.  Next time she might get a little further with an apology and an offer to help fix the problem.\"\n \nI kind of felt like an asshole. \n\nSo... am I the asshole?   Do I need to spell out the rest of the conversation? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vkWrpBptLsr9h8yXK9i1g0uTNxgyBMgq", "post_id": "b03iy7", "action": {"description": "saying I'm more qualified for a promotion", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for saying I'm more qualified for a promotion?", "text": "I have an entry level position at an office for a large successful company and I have one coworker at my level. We both started at the same time and a higher position has opened up but I opted not to apply for it because I want my coworker to have it.\n\nI'm trying to be vague for anonymity's sake but the promotion is similar to paralegal or CPA work (basically it requires being knowledgeable about a legal code) vs our current general secretarial duties.\n\nI have no children, no debt, no alimony; I rent and all of my bills are paid on time every month. As well, another promotion or transfer will open up within 12-18 months anyways. I'm past my probation and in a union so I'm in it for the long haul. \n\nMy coworker is a single mom and she could really use the extra money and would be excellent at the position. \n\nI am objectively better qualified though. I have more relevant experience, I've scored higher on the aptitude tests, I study the legal code in my free time, I have more commendations/performance awards, and even though I don't get paid to, when my current workload allows me to I voluntarily train for the higher position and assist the people that currently do it.\n\nMy coworker has some training/knowledge just from being in the same field but far less. She goes above and beyond plenty often as well but almost certainly only because of my example.\n\nIf I went for the position against her, I would get it. Frankly I have a better work ethic and our supervisors passive-aggressively use me as an example for of the attitude they want from other employees. I've worked shitty jobs for years and I give 120% here because it's the best job I've ever had.\n\nIt's completely platonic but we're not just work friends, we really bonded outside of the job. My sister babysits her kid, we hang out outside of work, we talk/text daily, and I'm literally her medical emergency contact.\n\nSo she was offended when I told her I wasn't applying for the promotion, would reject it when offered to me, and would instead recommend her because I wanted her to have it saying \"you need it more than I do\"\n\nWe had a short chat about it and she feels like I'm just taking pity on her and while that's technically true, does that make me an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Ijk9KrNAFixGHbuCkoo5lGjnBmg5o7tA", "post_id": "9tnaez", "action": {"description": "explaining to one of my closest friends that she is in an abusive relationship", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for explaining to one of my closest friends that she is in an abusive relationship?", "text": "I\u2019m really close friends with this one girl, and ever since I met her (a few months back) I knew she was in a relationship. In fact, the first week we met she talked about relationship problems. All relationships have problems, right? That was not a big deal.\n\nEver since we\u2019ve met we\u2019ve become very close. We just finished watching Hill House together and we always talk to each other about very personal problems.\n\nCut to last week - I get a tearful call from her asking if she can come over because she \u201cneeded to rant\u201d. That\u2019s fine - this has happened before, and it usually involves her being upset at coworkers or small stuff with her boyfriend. This time, she was in tears telling me about how her boyfriend sexually assaulted her. Twice. She no longer felt safe around him, and she didn\u2019t know what to do.\n\nI calmed her down and told her she needs to have a serious conversation with him about what happened and leave him. He\u2019s had a history of being super clingy, and he\u2019ll get upset with her if she doesn\u2019t have sex with him.\n\nShe told him that she doesn\u2019t want to speak to him for a week, and he agrees. He ends up leaving his job \u201csick\u201d last week, and since he doesn\u2019t have a car, she was the only one to pick him up - he basically forced her to pick him up. In the car he starts bawling his eyes out and hysterically says he\u2019d die without her. This whole week he has messaged her (even did it 50 times in 10 minutes) blaming her, getting angry at her, swearing, talking about jealousy of us (we don\u2019t see each other TOO much outside of work). He was bothering her for days, interrupting her at University and continuously crying and blaming her for the sexual assault he committed.\n\nI texted her last night after she left my house (we watched the last episode of Hill House) and told her that the relationship seemed abusive and he was manipulating her. She got super upset and said \u201cwell what if I stay with him and I\u2019m happy? He\u2019s going to change.\u201d Among a couple other things.\n\nI really just want to make sure she\u2019s safe.\n\nAm I the asshole?\n\nTl;dr - Close friend\u2019s boyfriend sexually assaulted and verbally abused her among other controlling methods and I told her that he was manipulating her.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ITbQNXf3R3X4Zq8yWCALZI5uYa6COcrf", "post_id": "arp8jf", "action": {"description": "not caring about myself", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not caring about myself", "text": "I recently got a small rash on my hand, and I thought nothing of it. When I mentioned this to my friend, they told me that completely ignoring it (and by extension my own health) is irresponsible and selfish.\n\nThey gave the example that if I had fallen over and hit my head, I could have a concussion. If I ignored the potential concussion and continue to go to work, I now make my health someone else's problem if I passed out at work. That could then cause distress to my co-workers and any first responders.\n\nTo then take that example to the extreme, if I was injured when I was guiding a trip in the wilderness, ignored it, and then it got worse, I would then be putting all of the participants in danger and wasting the resources of search and rescue.\n\nI think my friend is right to an extent: In a wilderness environment, where I am guiding a trip, the participants are relying on me being able to guide, and thus in good health.\nHowever when I am in an urban environment the potential impact of the risk is a lot lower.\n\nI don't know where you would draw the line with this argument.\n\nAm I irresponsible for taking risks with my own health?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MX6jCa70svW3AxS4ARDNihrFv3MxBb4P", "post_id": "9uepux", "action": {"description": "ending this friendship", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for ending this friendship?", "text": "So I had a friend, let\u2019s call her Britney. She was in a really bad relationship (not abusive, but constant fighting and yelling). I used to be best friends and she\u2019d always come to me after a fight. I\u2019d comfort her, give her advice, do everything I could. Long story short, no matter what they\u2019d always get back together. No matter how he treated her, the instant he would say sorry she\u2019d instant go back to him. \n\nSo I got sick of giving her advice then her not listening and going straight back, so one day I just basically said, \u201cWe can still be friends, but please stop coming to me when stuff happens.\u201d She agreed and basically said that she wouldn\u2019t \u201cbecause nothing else was going to happen.\u201d \n\nThe next day she called me crying and I told her that I\u2019m not going to help her anymore then she hung up. She texted me \u201cohhh I see how it is,\u201d and I just explained again what happened. She told her friends that I\u2019m an asshole and didn\u2019t help her, so I just stopped talking to her. I feel really bad that I didn\u2019t help or talk to her but I don\u2019t know whether I was the asshole or not in that situation.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UWbYYM7UIUpcmJchVssOCN6OZCBnRgnO", "post_id": "ay380k", "action": {"description": "thinking of leaving my boyfriend with depression", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for thinking of leaving my boyfriend with depression?", "text": "I just wrote out a super long explanation but deleted it and will write points which I think are pertinent to my question. \n\nWe are both in college, been together for 2 years.\n\nHe is on medication and going to therapy - its not really working.\n\nHe gets the worst depressive episodes when he is struggling with college assignments. \n\nHis depression is genetic and he doesn\u2019t really understand the root of it (if there is any apart from genetics).\n\nWhen he is depressed he locks himself in and doesn\u2019t let me talk to him much, I also feel really neglected during this time but feel it\u2019s inappropriate to mention it to him as he\u2019s clearly having a harder time.\n\nI love him so much but honestly its quite draining to try to live my own life and look after someone in this state. \n\nHe has told me that he wants to leave me because he will ultimately be a huge burden on my life - this broke my heart but has had me thinking about it more deeply.\n\nI do see a future with him when he\u2019s healthy and we are both so great together apart from this. Sometimes I also feel I am one of the main people keeping him together.\n\nAm I the asshole for even considering this? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VpHnPT2LkO69Qk8TW4uuXPQka4CJYBqO", "post_id": "b91o7z", "action": {"description": "\"cheating\" on my pediatrician", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for \"cheating\" on my pediatrician", "text": "Context: I don't know how it works in other places, but I am in California and you have to pick a pediatrician before birth. So, you don't really know a lot about your needs before you pick. I picked a highly-rated pediatrician (recommended by my OB). I gave birth to an infant with minor issues, so we go to the doctor a lot. \n\nAround the time I gave birth, the pediatrician sold his practice and there were a lot of changes. Email, online appointments and an after-hours advice nurse phone line were discontinued and we were told they would come back once the system switched, but it hasn't in over a year. As a result of everything needing to be conducted by phone, there are long holds every time I call their office...a simple appointment change for a vaccine can take me 30 minutes on the phone. The doctors do not offer call-backs with advice or answers to simple questions -- everything requires an appointment, which is expensive ($150-$270). The front office is also disorganized and once lost our vaccination records. They frequently leave me voicemails reminding me of \"Emily's\" appointment (Not my daughter's name at all!) and call her \"Emily\" in the office (the doctor doesn't do this, just his staff). Recently, there was a change in nurses. The new nurse didn't have a lot of experience. She gave my baby the first of 3 vaccines and got freaked out by the crying and told me, \"I can't do this. I can't do this.\" I told her okay, then we have to get another nurse to do the rest. She said no, she will get fired and then tried to give my baby the 2nd shot and I refused to let her. I made a small scene and insisted the more senior nurse administer the rest of the vaccines. The office staff acted like I'm the Asshole. I complained directly to the doctor and he understood but said he no longer manages his nurses since he sold his practice. He said he would tell my complaint to her manager. AITA on this?\n\n​\n\nI was frustrated and tried another ped. who had a lab, advice nurse, email, etc. I met with her and did not like her at all. I felt she was dismissive and her style was more rigid than my laid-back former pediatrician. She was also 45 minutes late to our appointment and when I asked the office staff why it was taking so long (sitting in a room full of people with the flu with an infant) they said she was on a personal phone call!\n\n​\n\nSo, I decided to go back to my former ped.  However, when I called to make my appointment the receptionist, opening her chart (which every office can see everywhere) saw we went somewhere else and told me I am high-maintenance and I \"keep jumping around.\" She said that she will have to ask the pediatrician if he wants to \"take me back.\" I don't see how she can say I keep jumping around when I have only been to 2 pediatricians. Maybe she is referring to when my doctor was on vacation and he scheduled us with his partner. AITA? Is it really not okay to try out new pediatricians?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OJCcR7qXZ8iOSVt4wnRHVaEs7281rKFa", "post_id": "a1o3jm", "action": {"description": "commissioning someone else instead of my friend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I commissioned someone else instead of my friend?", "text": "I have a friend who we'll call Craig. We're relatively good friends (at least I think so), and they often help me with my problems. Craig has an SO who we'll call Kenny; Kenny and I had a falling out in the past and haven't interacted much since then, but what few interactions we have had seem a bit more friendly now. \n\nCraig and Kenny are both (very skilled) artists and writers, and Craig has given me advice on my own writing in the past. Another friend of mine, Brian, recently gave me some money as a gift. I decided I wanted to use it to commission some art from Craig and Kenny, and contacted Craig asking about it. They seemed happy and grateful, and said they'd talk to Kenny about it, but Kenny was sick at the time and so it took a while to get a response. A few days ago, I told Craig what I'd like the art to be of, and they responded, again, they'd check with Kenny to see if that art fit the money I could pay, though it would only be a sketch. I haven't heard from Craig about it again, though that is partly my fault because I didn't bring it up in conversation after that. \n\nJust today, I found another artist on Tumblr. They take commissions as well, and will do more for the same price. I'm considering commissioning them instead, but I would feel bad for canceling on Craig and Kenny when I already told them I'd be buying from them. \n\n**TL;DR Have artist friend, get money, want to commission him and his boyfriend, tell them that, don't hear back about it for a while, find another artist and want to commission them.**", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2SRcl7F19Kax4xamrl69gTQiTSAdQhWe", "post_id": "b3kg0e", "action": {"description": "telling my friend she's still single due to having 5 babies by different fathers", "pronormative_score": 101, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend she\u2019s still single due to having 5 babies by different fathers?", "text": "She finished her 5th divorce two years ago, and for these two years she keeps asking me questions that also insult me.\n\n \u201cHow did you get a man at 30 with kids? It\u2019s because you\u2019re so skinny.\u201d \n\n\u201cDo I have to stop eating like you? Haha haha\u201d\n\n\u201cYou has so many dates. Guys only want basic blondes who are girly.\u201d\n\n\u201cDid you only talk about sex with them?!\u201d\n\nFor two years I\u2019ve brushed off the insults, and replied: \u201c You\u2019re in a small town\u201d or \u201cfocus on yourself , and someone special will come around\u201d\n\nFinally she asks for the billionth time \u201cHow did you get any dates at 30 with kids?!? You don\u2019t even have a real job! Tell me the truth- why can\u2019t I get anyone?\u201d\n\nI replied honestly and said: \u201c You have five kids with different dads and none of them pay child support. It\u2019s going to be hard for someone to accept that when you openly are looking for a father figure.\u201d\n\nThis launched her into an insult fury, and she hung up on me. \n\nFor reference: I\u2019m not skinny but I work out (healthy weight). I eat more than her, honestly, not starving. I\u2019m girly about some things I guess. I have two kids by the same dad and we split custody 50/50. I work in the adult industry, but only need to put in 8-10 hours a week to make a way better than average income. She keeps insulting my work even though she tried to do it, as well. I also have a vanilla job and an MBA. \n\nI was tired of being hit low quality and untrue insults, so I replied with what I thought was the truth.\n\nNow, all of our mutual friends are saying I have skinny privilege and such. I\u2019m entitled and don\u2019t understand what she\u2019s going through. They said it was messed up to say that and I\u2019m a shitty friend, and I get whatever I want. She\u2019s not going through anything that major. She\u2019s just dating and being a mom like I had to do. \n\nNow I\u2019m stuck with my mouth shut, and I\u2019m mad at everyone because I\u2019m not privileged or entitled at all- I\u2019ve worked very hard for anything and everything I have.  And side note- the girl keeps talking about her\n\nAITA for saying that? Was there a better thing to say? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 100, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 101, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "b2DCII5074AF3ZrhTBCkwBhjfGut6SPg", "post_id": "agp6pn", "action": {"description": "rescinding my invitation to take my roommate to the airport", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I rescinded my invitation to take my roommate to the airport?", "text": "My roommate flew across the country today, and last night he asked if I could pick him up on Saturday at 11 am. I said I was pretty sure I can and he took that as a yes, which was all fine. Then today he texted me that he changed his return flight to get In at 9 pm instead of 11 am. \n\nThe airport is 30 mins from my house, so a bit over an hour round-trip, and it also happens to be right next to my work so I make the drive every weekday. When it was in the morning I didn't care cause I wasn't going to be doing anything on a Saturday morning anyway, but since it's now at night time, even though I don't necessarily have any plans yet I was hoping to do something that night with friends since it is my last Saturday before the semester starts up again. So if I told him I didn't want to pick him up and had him find someone else, WIBTA? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "y5RpoeVDLWrpUSkzKVVyOBlriFm326lH", "post_id": "9w5k8p", "action": {"description": "calling my friend Waluigi", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Calling My Friend Waluigi", "text": "The dude looks exactly like Waluigi. Like when he doesn't shave he looks exactly like him. It's uncanny. Big nose and the same hair.\n\nHe told me to stop but he said it pretty jokingly. Like \"stooooopppp you're so meaaaannn\" whiny and silly. I persisted a little and he got upset. I then apologized pretty profusely and he hasn't talked to me since.\n\nAITA for thinking he was joking but apologizing when I knew he wasn't?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kuC0gwGlOi5NxYwn3HspF7sOHAoD8nf7", "post_id": "b0zpe4", "action": {"description": "giving my younger brother advice on how to get with girls", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for giving my younger brother advice on how to get with girls?", "text": "I (21M) am in my final year of university. My younger brother (16M), let's call Jack, is in high school. He's at that age where he wants to start talking to girls. Truth is, he's struggling, at least from what he's told me. \n\nHe isn't even bad looking, but he's not happy that he keeps getting treated like...a bit of a bitch I guess, from his his own words. He's not respected, and is viewed as friend zone (not even friend zone, more like 'bitch zone', lol). \n\nHe's too nice, effeminate and has no backbone. When he wants to 'get with' a girl, he starts talking to her as he would a friend but comes across as too nice. He'd be a great friend, for sure, but that's now what *he* wants. He wants to be hooking up with girls like his friends are doing at parties.\n\nHe came to me for help, and pleaded me to help. Now I am 5 years his senior, but I've slept with quite a lot of girls while at uni, again, uni is different, but it's pretty clear that my brother looks up to me for this. I gave him some core advice:\n\n- Stop being nice. From now on, you are not a nice guy. I don't care if you have to do a 180 and act like a douchebag, even that is better than being a nice boy. No more nice guy means no more mr effeminate bitch boy. He has to be more masculine (masculinity = good).\n\n- No more talking to girls like friends. You are being dishonest when wanting to befriend girls. You don't even want female friends (and you don't need them, you have male friends). From now on, if a girl tries talking to you, be disinterested and be aloof\n\n- When this works, many girls WILL be attracted to you. Don't get into a relationship, you can do that shit in your 30s. If you want sex, have sex, and then don't text them after\n\n- Main advice: **Don't listen to girls advice, INCLUDING my older sister's advice (26F), we will call her Georgia. Georgia has given him advice on girls and said ''You need to be nice, respectful and considerate, that's all you need''. Obviously this advice has proven useless. I told my younger bro that basically...girls just want a guy who ''gets it'', obviously asking a woman for advice she will give you the wrong advice (unknowingly) because they want the guy to ''just get it''**\n\nNow my bro has implemented my advice and he has slept with 1 girl so far and gotten a blow job from another. Some of the people at school were initially resistant to his new personality, but I said he had to force it. And now after a short while...he got laid, they are now ''re adjusting'' to the new him, and not the bitch boy.\n\nNow the main conflict here is that my sister Georgia knows what I told him and shouted at me saying I am ''filling his mind with crap'' and that I'm a douchebag, but then I said to my sister back ''You don't even care about the kid...he came to you for advice and you gave him half assed crap''. She then told me to fuck off. I don't know why she reacted so strongly, lol, she gave him shit advice. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "1UVNpqadWaEsHDdAvMHsQzJiWBJgzafn", "post_id": "b3giip", "action": {"description": "telling my boyfriend I don't want a penis", "pronormative_score": 929, "contranormative_score": 37}, "title": "AITA for telling my boyfriend I don't want a penis?", "text": "This whole argument is really weird to me. Basically, I'm on my period and my boyfriend said offhand he was glad he didn't have to deal with that and said something along the lines of, \"I bet you wish you had a dick.\" To which I responded, \"no, not really.\" \n\nHe seemed kind of taken aback by that and pressed the issue of exactly why I did not want to have a dick and I basically told him male genitals seemed really uncomfortable and awkward to possess, like I don't want some meat and a nut sack just chillin in my britches. Hard pass. He got weirdly offended by this and said I was being sexist??? I told him that I observe him scratching his nuts or rearranging his junk multiple times a day and that it would make me crazy if I had to constantly attend to my genitals like that. He got so mad about this to the point he stormed off to let me \"think about\" why what I said was so upsetting. \n\nI don't get it though? Not 5 minutes earlier he was trashing vaginas and periods, but that's okay, for reasons? Y'all help me out lmao", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 18, "OTHER": 898, "EVERYBODY": 19, "NOBODY": 31, "INFO": 6}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 929, "WRONG": 37}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "835NxOTUcobiXmMkBeOBXtoO7uOnkN9w", "post_id": "adgsgs", "action": null, "title": "AITA? A friend of my girlfriend took her out for drinks, my girl got sick, friend left, I asked the friend why she left in front of others.", "text": "So, my girl has a friend that recently broke off an engagement, so she naturally wanted to go party.  Totally understandable that my girl would support her friend.\nThey go out together, and get a bit too drunk.  My girl is in a public bathroom throwing up, the other girl went with her to the bathroom, but then left her alone shortly after to leave with a married man.\nI came to pick up my girl from that random bathroom she was abandoned in by the friend who took her out.\nI sent the friend a message saying \u201cyou left ****** alone and sick? What the fuck?\u201d.  To no reply.\nThen several nights later, I went out to meet my girl and her friends at a bar.  I asked the girl why she left ***** there alone.  No personal attacks, no ad hominem, just asked why she did that, albeit in a confrontational tone.\nWithout responding to the question, the girl said \u201cI don\u2019t need to answer to you!\u201d \u201c*****\u2019s a piece of shit, don\u2019t ever ask me to hang out when he\u2019s around, you deserve better\u201d, then she stormed out of the bar.\nAm I the asshole for asking her why she did a thing that she did?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6TOloIy6QGOflCkLVfeEz4ZgfmwOzAjU", "post_id": "a12cd5", "action": {"description": "not supporting brother and sister in law while they try for a baby", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not supporting brother and sister in law while they try for a baby.", "text": "So he had a son from a previous marriage. She has a few of her own from previous relationships. They\u2019ve faced fertility issues and now have the go ahead from the doc that after an expensive surgery on her uterus that they can try for their own. \nThe son has been abused before dad had custody and faces issues that he obviously needs therapy for. The whole family (including FIL) taunt and bully the poor kid. The step siblings are vicious. He escaped one abusive situation for a whole new one. I don\u2019t blame the kid for wanting to avoid them and be in his own world. \nBIL and SIL are into drugs (the life ruining kind) and think that medical marijuana is the cure for everything.  She doesn\u2019t believe in therapy or modern medicine (anti vaxx).  He\u2019s got anger issues and problems from his own father being abusive - ones his wife won\u2019t allow him to get therapy for or take meds. He can be scary when upset or high and has threatened to kill family members. \nI haven\u2019t expressed these opinions with my husband (BIL\u2019s brother). But I just don\u2019t see why they should bring another kid into the world if they can\u2019t even properly treat the kid who badly needs help.  Or think it\u2019s okay to do drugs an act like they aren\u2019t in their thirties and parents. \nAlso they can\u2019t afford the surgery (which I get - insurance where we live is shit in general for women who want to have babies) but my husband and I have bailed out other family members financially because they just choose to make shitty decisions. Legit shit decisions and feel like they\u2019re entitled to our money to fix it.  She started a online fund and pushing the whole \u201cChristmas is for giving\u201d line. \nI just can\u2019t tell if I\u2019m a monster for thinking maybe it\u2019s not the best choice to bring a baby into that mess. I feel terrible for her fertility issues and wouldn\u2019t wish them on anyone, but...I worry for that child\u2019s future well being. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HJV99qdFnNwMNWyQIMeLojTiZfF2bhIN", "post_id": "aactdb", "action": {"description": "walking out of a Gay-Straight-Alliance meeting", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for walking out of a Gay-Straight-Alliance meeting?", "text": "So, I\u2019m a highschooler and everyday each grade gets about 30 minutes to go to a classroom in the school and either hang out with their friends, or do makeup work for classes they missed. I usually hang out with most of my friends and we always seem to have trouble finding a room to go to, as most of them are usually making up tests. \n\nAbout a week ago we were looking for a classroom and i found one that was allowing people in. I walked in with my friends and the teacher stopped us, and asked if we were here for \u201cGSA\u201d. Im confused, as i never heard anything about a \u201cGSA\u201d club in my life, so i ask her what it is.\n\n\u201cIts gay straight alliance, were the LGBT community can come and talk.\u201d\n\nNow, im not by any means a homophobe, considering i have gay friends and i have no problem whatsoever with the LGBT community. But, upon hearing that, i walked the fuck out if that classroom. Im not trying to sit in a class for 30 minutes in a gay straight alliance club. no way.\n\nFast forward a couple of days (i\u2019m on break now but this happened before it started) everyone is calling me a homophobe because i didn\u2019t want to be a part of the meet.\n\nTD;LR: i walked in to a gay straight alliance club and then walked out and now everyone thinks im homophobic.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 7}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iEqLThXWMIgHgjQTI0Z3949K1Zqs8pjw", "post_id": "aahey9", "action": {"description": "giving my girlfriend an ultimatum because of a chating incident", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for giving my girlfriend an ultimatum because of a chating incident", "text": "This is going to be a long post but please stick with me, I've been pondering this over in my head and it'd help to get an opinion. I've been with my girlfriend for almost a year now and there have been a string of issues that make me feel like or relationship will only ever be temporary.  This is mostly due to her sexual views which contrast mine.  She is much more open to sex but stays monogamous to me since I am less liberal about it.  She has made clear though that if we are separated, she still needs physical contact.  Which brings me to the incident...\n\nLast summer we were separated for 2 months due to working in different places.  We agreed before hand that if she did anything with someone else, we would follow boundaries and she'd tell me beforehand.  She did not do anything for 7 weeks but then at a party, she got cuddly with a co-worker and they ended up exchanging oral.  Pretty much they cuddled, he fingered her and she blew him.  Though this bothered me immensely, what hurt me the most was that I was trying to contact her through the party and she never responded until afterwards when she told me she did this with another guy.  It was honestly the worst I've ever felt.\n\nWe talked about it and she claimed she didn't consider it sex so she didn't know she should have checked up with me.  But what bothered me was she was outright ignoring me and I saw it as an act of cheating.  However I buried these insecurities and have been with her for another 4 months with no problems.\n\nBut I still think about this a lot and I could never see myself spending my life with her because of it.  There's a chance we'll be separated again this summer and I am wondering if it would be an asshole move to give her the option of staying 100% monogamous or breaking up.  Maybe I'm looking for more general advice but I could only think of this sub.  Thanks for the feedback.\n\nTLDR: girlfriend did something id consider cheating.  Wondering if I'd be an asshole to give her an ultimatum of staying 100% monogamous or breaking up", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Wh5BKopLXrMuJgwQtzvE7IxMVQnSMuqe", "post_id": "ao90l3", "action": {"description": "thinking it's wrong to make out with friends", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for thinking it's wrong to make out with friends?", "text": "Good afternoon folks, and i figured I'll give you guys some background before I jump right into it.\n\nThis girl and I have known each other for years now, roughly 4, and we've been together romantically for 3 of them. It's been rough this last year to say the least, to the point were we've separated but decided to remain good friends. We've basically moved on by this point, and have forgiven each other for past mistakes and what not.\n\nIt wasn't long till she mentioned becoming physical again, and really pushed the idea onto me. She said I was being a dickhead and such for not wanting to do so, and how none of us have a significant other so it shouldn't matter till she eventually threatened to cut me off all together, so i reluctantly agreed because I still want to have this person in my life ya know? Despite agreeing and doing stuff, I'm still heavily conflicted about this and even mention it to her sometimes, but I'm met with the same response.\n\nAm i the asshole for initially rejecting this idea, and for continuing to have this doubt?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ywNzrjuFi6PiNXgvQKAuHtsCNNOGlYIg", "post_id": "9wjyv3", "action": {"description": "getting angry at my neighbor", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting angry at my neighbor?", "text": "This happened a few weeks ago, but I should preface the situation by adding some context. \n\nSo in my neighborhood there is an open area we let our dogs play unleashed. Most of these dogs are 50 lbs or more but my dog is a little over 20. There has never been an issue with my dog's smaller size, and the other dogs have been great with him. My dog is a little annoying when he barks/howls (beagle) but only does it when he's playing, it is sometimes ear piercing, but when he gets too wild I pull him aside and give him a little \"timeout\" because I know it can get annoying for other dog owners, but they say it isn't that bad.\n\nWhen I do have my dog on a leash, he wears a harness, this apparently was an open invitation to said neighbor to pick him up by the harness. The first time I didn't say anything, the second time I told him not to do that, and the third time he did it is when I lost my patience. Now to describe this guy, he's on the Board at my HOA. He's a little arrogant, he always has to be right, always trashing on neighbors and dishing their issues, stuff like that. He's a little older than the average age of people who let their dogs play, we're in our late 20s-mid thirties, this guy is in his 50s. We don't hate him but more or less we tolerate him.\n\nWell during this situation, there was about 5 of us out there with our dogs, my dog was howling and I tried to calm him down a bit, once I let him go the Board member picked him up off the ground by harness and yelled at him and called him a little shit. I walked over, grabbed my dog, and told him to never touch my dog again. I got in his face and asked what the fuck his problem was. I never shoved/touched him, but I let it be known I do not appreciate my dog being treated like that, I will discipline my own dog. I would never treat anyone else's dog like that unless he was attacking another dog or another person (which my dog never would, any sign of aggression from another dog he just rolls over on his back wagging his tail).\n\nBM tries to play off the situation as he was \"just playing around\" and I told him no one else here would ever do that to my dog, and I would never do that to theirs. He tried to make me out like I was the asshole, like I'm the dick for getting mad at him for doing that even after I told him not to. He consistently disrespects others and thinks he's untouchable because he knows people don't want to start shit with board members. I don't know if he's that arrogant and just doesn't give a fuck, or actually that disconnected from reality where he can do whatever he wants without repercussions. \n\nAm I the asshole for getting angry and pissed off at him? To reiterate, I never threatened him or touched him, just dropped a lot of F bombs in his face.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NZv8LTWJN3U5pBLS9TtKfLMyZbyIu92E", "post_id": "as65sy", "action": {"description": "telling my mother and husband to fuck off", "pronormative_score": 218, "contranormative_score": 17}, "title": "AITA For telling my mother and husband to fuck off?", "text": "Some background: My husband and I generally have a loving happy relationship. We are compatible and rarely argue. My mother and I have a normal relationship, some minor issues, but nothing serious.\n\nMy daughter (26) got out of a terrible long-term relationship and moved back home with us about a year ago. She has been diagnosed with clinical depression. When she moved in, she struggled with even getting out of bed or showering. Since then, she has done a 180. She got a new full time job, she also is back in school full time because a degree will (hopefully) help her move up in her company, she has also been going to therapy once a week. In my opinion, she is doing fantastic and I am incredibly proud of her. My husband knows all of this.\n\nThe issue is that she can be a bit of a slob. She wasn\u2019t like this before, I think she got into the habit of it at some point when she became depressed. This really annoys my husband, but honestly she has so much on her plate that I, admittedly, cut her some slack. \n\nMy mother came to visit yesterday and somehow she and my husband got on the topic of my daughters messiness IN FRONT OF my daughter. My husband was venting about this and my mother was agreeing with him. He brought up her cat and how I am the one who has been cleaning the cats litter box. They both started berating my daughter, saying she was too old for that and asking her why she was keeping the cat if she can\u2019t take care of it. \n\nMy mother went outside to smoke a cigarette and my daughter (who was now crying) told her dad that he hurt her feelings. My husband did not apologize. I went over to my daughter to console her because at this point she was sobbing. She kept quietly repeating to me \u201cI\u2019m a piece of shit. Everyone thinks I\u2019m a piece of shit.\u201d I\u2019m telling her that is NOT true when my mother comes in.\n\nAnd the pair of them keep going on about it! This is when I lost my temper. I yelled at both of them. I told them to either be respectful toward my daughter or fuck off and that they could have dinner by themselves. \n\nI then took my daughter to get some food and calm down. \n\nI have never spoken to either of them like this. Neither of them have spoken to me since yesterday and I haven\u2019t put forth the effort to speak to them either. I do feel bad for losing my temper, but I am also scared for my daughters mental health and I do not want her to go backwards because dad and my mother make her feel bad about herself.\n\nAITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 207, "EVERYBODY": 10, "NOBODY": 11, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 218, "WRONG": 17}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YrdV3SuIrnVznOzKQgIuqaG1IQfrl7TA", "post_id": "ainib9", "action": {"description": "repurposing baby clothes into dog clothes instead of giving them to my sister in law", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for repurposing baby clothes into dog clothes instead of giving them to my sister in law?", "text": "This is so dumb, but you wouldn't believe the impact it has had on my family. \n\nI'm 19, I have twin girls who are now three years old. I'm a university student living with my boyfriend of four years in a small apartment, with two small rescue dogs. We don't have a whole lot of money, but we can live comfortably as long as we don't waste our money. Because of this, when me and my partner decided to get a dog last year, we chose adoption over buying a puppy (there were a few reasons along with money, such as wanting to rehome an unfortunate dog and also, we wanted to have a slightly older dog that was more adjusted to kids). We went to the shelter and found two beautiful boston terrier girls. They are both two years old and sisters, like my daughters were at the time, they had been around kids in their first home and really seemed perfect, so we got both of them. They are amazing and we love them so much, the kids love them and the dogs are really well behaved. \n\nBecause we have a two bedroom apartment and not a whole lot of space/money, my boyfriend and I donated and sold the baby clothes as the girls grew out of them, keeping only the sentimental pieces. However, we fell a little bit behind somewhere and ended up sorting through quite a lot of 0-6 month clothes that we left at the back of a closet. Now, my sister in law has recently found out she's pregnant. Her and her husband are really well off and had a son a few years ago who was dressed head to toe in designer clothes from birth. I didn't think they'd struggle for clothes. My boyfriend suggested we could give the clothes to his sister when she found out she's pregnant at a family meal, where my SIL was in attendance, but everyone sort of laughed it off so I thought nothing more about it. \n\nFast forward a month or so, we finally get round to sorting the baby clothes. My husband and I had bought the dogs some matching sweaters setting us back \u00a320, so I had the grand idea to start cutting and sewing the clothes into dog sweaters and onesies for them to sleep in through the winter. My boyfriend thought this was a great idea, the girls loved seeing the dogs in their old clothes and it was super cute. I posted pics of them on instagram, and basically got a snarky text from my sister in law about how she'd have to be buying a new wardrobe then. I took it as a joke, and sent her a few more pictures of the dogs thinking she was being silly, and she kicked off. MIL started kicking off too. Next thing I know, my SIL is posting on Facebook marketplace asking for cheap/free baby clothes. \n\nSo, AITA for assuming my SIL would buy her own baby clothes when she didn't seem too pleased to have mine/dressed her first baby fully designer? As far as I know they haven't had a change in income, but am I wrong for assuming?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 21, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "D5yJrE7x1gotWlJ1URht7FQJJOy6Aq8Z", "post_id": "a20xgt", "action": {"description": "making my ex cry after flipping me off every day", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for making my ex cry after flipping me off every day", "text": "So my ex gf (F16) and me (M16) broke up about a year ago because she was too clingy and suffocating the relationship\n\nSo as soon as the school year started she kept coming up to me and trying to do dive into our relationship that ended a year ago ( Meanwhile by this point she's already had a new boyfriend for about two months) after countless attempts and unnecessary blowouts about a relationship that lasted only a month a year ago I decided just to shrug her off and not play into her games\n\nIt was about at this point every day in class she would say my name I would turn around and she'd be flipping me off in front of everyone. Now I know this isn't a huge deal so every time she did it I would shrug her off or say something witty making her look childish or foolish.\n\nBut today she said my name I reluctantly turned around fully expecting to get flipped off but instead she said \"I'm sorry\" and nothing else, however I was weary of her apology for she's done things like this in the past and not really meant it. So I responded rather suspiciously \"OK we'll see how it goes\"\n\nThen she ran off crying for a couple minutes and then came back in the class and then shot daggers at me for the rest of class am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OInvD55H0favWzFhqBAev5k8lpanmvKW", "post_id": "b7jm02", "action": {"description": "not starting a relationship because of lazyness", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for not starting a relationship because of lazyness?", "text": "A girl and i have known each other for about a year, she was clear from the start that she liked me and would send indirects for half a year.\n\nSo in christmass party we kissed repeatedly through the night until she left, since then we have been kind of distant but she still wants a relationship and so do i, but i don't have the money to be a good boyfriend nor the will to compensate.\n\nI would have to work to go pick her up (i live downtown and she lives in the other extreme of the city) as i don't have a car, take her out and in general pay attention to her, but i simply am too lazy to do it. Besides if i had the money i would like to expend it on something else. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "YEPXYmgi0CDFSDe1AOg3RIJLPed5ZgfE", "post_id": "aztj0h", "action": {"description": "expecting my flatmate to pay bills", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for expecting my flatmate to pay bills?", "text": "Context: we are both students and my flatmates mum lives about 40 minutes away and the past few months my flatmate has decided to just stay there for most of the week, staying at our flat on average 2 nights per week. \n\n\nSince she has started doing this she hasn\u2019t paid any bills, ie gas and electric, and up until now it was annoying me but I hadn\u2019t said anything. I lost my bank card and I\u2019m waiting on a replacement so I text her this morning saying \u201ccan you put gas in and I\u2019ll transfer you money\u201d. She sent back a cheeky text about how she doesn\u2019t use it and so shouldn\u2019t have to pay for it etc. Firstly, I didn\u2019t expect her to pay, I was genuinely asking because I don\u2019t have a bank card right now. Secondly, I only agreed to live with her, and to the rent prices (which are too high for me) on the pretence we would share bills?\n\n\nRegardless of if she\u2019s here or not, the bills stay relatively the same, give or take a few pound on hot water. So now I\u2019m paying all of that on top of \u00a3500 rent. \n\n\nLuckily for her, her mum pays her rent and her car payments, she also gets 500 in student loans every month. Whereas I have to pay all my bills myself, with half the amount of student loans and a part time, minimum wage job. \n\n\nAITA for expecting her to pay bills for a place she\u2019s essentially not living in?\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Tc9GYkUzUwsB6qgZXdZcNYlQVZSswLEq", "post_id": "b0si66", "action": {"description": "being snappy and mean to my dad", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Being snappy and mean to my dad?", "text": "So my mom and dad just got divorced when my dad started drinking heavily, so he's barely home and my mom is away most of the time at her job. I work 2 jobs (M-16 BTW) both minimum wage, and I'm home schooled so i have time to do school on the weekends and after work. My dad has been very strict as of late, not letting me and my sister go places that we he previously let us go to before, putting a time restriction on my phone, restricted youtube videos, getting angry when he has to take me places and actually come home when i have to go.  So yea he is very hard to converse with or try to voice an opposing opinion to. So when he heard that i was skipping a few assignments and handing them in later to keep up with my job which is important to me seeing how i rarely get out of the house, and we barely ever have money to spare. (or so my dad always tells me)  He got furious and said that i was being dishonest breaking our \"Healthy Relationship\" and threatened to take away my jobs if i didn't stick to his schedule.  my mom said that my jobs are good for me and was fine with me handing in assignments late, but there agreement stated that my dad was in charge of our schoolwork. and now he get's pissed every time i snap at him and continues to threaten to take things away  (my phone, computer, etc) so now i have to pretend to be cool with him so he doesn't blow up in my face again.\n\nTL;DR\n\n AITA for hating my dad because he threatens to have me fired because i hand in assignments late", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "INMsVFcoyHAvJdKDQ7eP83rTIHS6G9ts", "post_id": "azb6c2", "action": {"description": "not wanting my friend to interact with the homeless around me", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my friend to interact with the homeless around me?", "text": "I (F22) have a friend (M21) who is extremely Christian. He is conservative and proud of his American South heritage. I\u2019m the opposite and this is not a big deal for me, but this is important later. He is strong to the point that he\u2019s cocky about it. He has a lot of personal issues that people call him out on, and this has caused his friends to realize that he cannot accept that he is wrong. However, he is still a pretty good person.\n\nI am not strong and I don\u2019t know what would happen if I was in a threatening physical situation. I was also raised near NYC. My father was a police officer and has always told me that, for my own safety, I should never engage with anyone on the street. You never know what might happen. Last year, I was in a situation with my male friend and my boyfriend that involved a homeless person approaching us and targeting me. He started cursing at me and the situation could have gotten physical had my boyfriend not driven away. After we were safe, I told them that this is why we should not engage with homeless people. I get that not all of them are dangerous, but I do not want to be involved as I am scared of what might happen. My boyfriend agreed with me and respects my wishes. My friend, however, laughed and said that he\u2019s going to do whatever he wants if I\u2019m there or not.\n\nFlash forward a few months. Said friend and I go on a class trip to a city in Europe. While we are there, he insists on engaging with every single homeless person he meets. He even goes to ATMs to withdraw money, exchanges information with them, and does whatever they ask. I told him that this made me uncomfortable, and he told me that I should just keep walking by myself if I didn\u2019t want to do that with him.\n\nI told him that I\u2019m concerned for his safety as well as my own; we\u2019re in a foreign country and we have no means of defending ourselves. It\u2019s one thing if we\u2019re home, but this doesn\u2019t seem safe. He claims that he can defend himself and that it\u2019s his duty as a Christian to give to every homeless person. He claims that he has never had a bad experience, so nothing could happen with these people. He also implied that I am not a good Christian because of this. It got so bad that one of the people he gave money to saw him on a street again, called him out by his first name, and asked for even more.\n\nI am not against helping the homeless, but you can\u2019t know what might happen. This is why I do not engage with anyone I encounter. I\u2019d rather be safe and help by volunteering at a shelter. I\u2019m not asking him to stop, but if we\u2019re hanging out and I can\u2019t leave, I would prefer if he did not do it because I do not feel safe. We\u2019ve been in situations where this has backfired, but he simply does not listen. I\u2019m guessing that some people are just going to tell me to leave the situation when he does this, but in most cases I am unable to do so. I also don\u2019t want to just not hang out with him, as this does not happen often and he\u2019s still my friend. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fXSHlxow0wVOMqG8XNLjG2ZmZvI23dTt", "post_id": "apk6hl", "action": {"description": "yelling at my friend in front of my other friends", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for yelling at my friend in front of my other friends?", "text": "I stand by what I said, I just kind of want to know if I\u2019m an asshole and if I should suck it up and apologize to her. \n\nSo my friends and i were talking about random shit in my room. My parents are out of the country and my siblings are at work or university so we decided to talk freely. \n\nThe conversation went to the new LGBTQ+ club at our school where queer kids like me could talk about our experiences without the real life consequences. I started complaining about how some students didn\u2019t take it seriously and that made it hard to be able to vent. \n\nMy friend joked about me being ungrateful and to stop complaining. I didn\u2019t realize it was a joke at the time and it escalated. I told her to stop being insensitive and she told me to stop being a sissy about everything. \n\nI ended up yelling at her and called her a bitch. It ended with my other friends breaking it up. She looked super embarrassed and sad but i refused to speak to her for a while. \n\nI have had anger issues in the past, and I have a huge ego. I\u2019ve been friends with her for a long time but I simply can not tolerate someone telling me to shut up about something I\u2019m so personal about. \n\nAm I the asshole for yelling at her in front of multiple people even though she looked apologetic?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Ddrfjd8dGRvjoM5wDvbDUzFbSWq7CRFe", "post_id": "axyh0j", "action": {"description": "asking my stay-at-home husband to do more around the house", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I ask my stay-at-home husband to do more around the house?", "text": "So my husband is currently unemployed, but is going to school full-time. He does 2 classes online and one in person once per week. I work 40 hrs a week sometimes 60 because we are understaffed. I also work mostly 12 hour shifts so I am exhausted when I get home. We have no children, just a nearly 2yo dog. I've asked my husband once before to do more around the house than what he currently does. It caused a pretty big argument because he thought I was insinuating that he did nothing. He doesn't really cook real meals, and he only pretty much does the basic chores like the dishes (but doesn't put them away, he leaves them in the dishwasher), sometimes does the laundry, dog care, trash, and will vacuum every once in a while. Lately with me working so much I've been wanting him to do more around the house. He never dusts, mops, sweeps, wipes down countertops or anything else besides what I mentioned up there. He probably plays video games for at least 6 hours a day as well. Some more background: when I first moved in with him, I did most of the cleaning and some cooking and un/underemployed at the time. Am I the asshole for wanting him to do more around the house? Am I expecting to much from him? I've been going back and forth about talking about it with him because I'm afraid I'll upset him again.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iPThPjSRA02uj76fAjFIjByjtUOAWGru", "post_id": "b69dyz", "action": {"description": "shutting my sister out of my life", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for shutting my sister out of my life?", "text": "Some background, my sister is 18 years older than me so I wasn\u2019t out of diapers before she got married and started having kids, making me an aunt relatively early. I love her kids with my entire life and I work very hard to make sure they never go without anything they need. Sometime last year she had asked me if I could take her two oldest children (teenagers at the time) to live with me so that they can attend a better school district. I immediately accepted, (even though I was only 21 at the time I had moved out at an early age and had managed to rent a house so I can accommodate two people). Everything was great, my niece and nephew are a joy to have around and they were old enough were i didn\u2019t have to worry about cooking or cleaning up after them too much. \n\nThe problem started about a month after them staying over, although I rent a home, I do not own it, I do not have \u201chouse\u201d money, I work hard and budget well and never live beyond my means because if I didn\u2019t I would not be able to afford it and she knew that but she did not offer to help with her kids expenses at ALL. She never offered to help pay for food, toiletries or anything else they might need. I lived on my own, $30 worth of groceries could last me a week and half but $80 of food could be done within five days with two teenagers!! And I knew that bringing it up to her again would only cause a fight and the last thing I wanted to do was to make the kids think they were causing any issues. They are not the problem, they gotta eat, they need clothes etc, I was just disturbed that she wouldn\u2019t help me knowing that I was taking them in as a favor to her and that I am not making a lot of money.\n\nI worked two jobs at that point to be able to cover all the expenses. I\u2019m not gonna lie, being a 21 year old girl responsible for two teenagers, all the bills of the house, plus maintenance of the house (mowing the lawn, taking out the trash, cleaning the bathrooms) and two full time jobs, it was getting to me and I smoked weed in my free time to help me relax. Weed has never interfered with my work ethic or with my responsibilities. Ive never called off or missed bills due to lack of money spent on drugs so it shook me to my core when my sister found out I was smoking and immediately went to my landlord to try and kick me out. She said she didn\u2019t want me around her (grown) kids because I was going to get them addicted and show them to be lazy and bummy, I completely shut her out after that. I don\u2019t talk to her when I see her at family events anymore and I live my life for the most part like I don\u2019t have a sister. I still am in close contact with my niece and nephews and I see them rather frequently but it\u2019s almost always in secret which feels shitty and like I\u2019m missing out on a closer relationship with them because of her views. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SLPvmPy3PT3DY6GTEL5JETsTwmHZRGZI", "post_id": "azze8a", "action": {"description": "not letting my employee take 3 days off", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "AITA for not letting my employee take 3 days off", "text": "My husband and I  own a very small business that only needs 2 part time employees to operate. Normally when someone needs a day off the other girl works a double or I fill in if I can. One of my employees was just diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and needless to say is going to be needing some time off. When she told us of her situation we were more than happy to help her out with her schedule. This also meant that we needed to get the other employee on board with picking up some shifts which, at the time, she had no problem with. Now it\u2019s four days after the diagnosis and the confirmed stepping up for coverage conversation and the second employee needs to take three days off to \u201cgo out of state\u201d. I am the manager of that store and all shift changes need to go through me and everyone knows this. She text my husband telling him she needed those days off. He runs two other businesses and simply did not reply because 1. He is not her manager and 2. He did not find her excuse for her time off to be justified after just having that conversation and not being notified of the time off then. I called her the next day to see what she needed the time off for but before I could even ask her she said she was busy and needed to go. I was watching her on the cameras and it was not busy. Now it is a week later, the week of the time needed off, and she text me (Hasn\u2019t text me in 2 weeks) saying that because I did not give her an answer to get her license fixed she no longer needs the time off because flights are too expensive. How should I respond? I feel like an ass hole but I also feel like that she\u2019s trying to make me feel that way. \n\nTLDR: after my employee offered to pick up shifts for her coworker with cancer she asked her non manager for 3 days off and avoided her actual manager then the week of vacation told the actual manager she no longer needs time off because the manager took too long to respond. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 3}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "1GVojgeFC99n0NeEVAHiFC456qDZTtGp", "post_id": "as6y8d", "action": {"description": "having 911 themed shot specials", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for having 911 themed shot specials?", "text": "As a bartender, every year on 911 I do a special on kamakazes and New York bombs. Is that a dick move?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "d1jhjkYYKwFzjfqrLft59wuPVBtSQaUK", "post_id": "b0wudc", "action": {"description": "wanting my bf to invite me or at least tell me about his shows", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting my bf to invite me or at least tell me about his shows?", "text": "Going to try to be a bit vague but give as much detail as I can. Long story short my bf of a few months has free shows with a group (not a band) about 5 a month. When we first started dating he invited me very often and it kind of went away. He then just started letting me after the shows happened. I brought this up to him and expressed that I really got into his shows and would like to know. A little bit of background here I am not a social person at all and he is so this is the only time I got out at all. Anyways fast forward a few weeks and it happens again when he stops telling me about his shows and even going out to a bar after the shows and telling me a few days later about those nights. Well now to today we made plans and I had text him twice asking him what he was doing tonight and told me he had to work at the gym after seeing me that\u2019s all. He then sneaks in a conversation he has a show and I ask him it\u2019s too late for me to go but why he forgot to tell me if I has asked him about tonight already. I honestly don\u2019t feel he\u2019s hiding it or purposeful doesn\u2019t want to invite me. I approached it in a nicely manner and he broke up with me:/ so AITA for asking to be invited to my bf\u2019s shows? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LuMMWokBIXvKWYILOsvO9jLGIMpDPHr6", "post_id": "aef2pd", "action": {"description": "not wanting shoes that are to small and wanting to sell them for a bigger pair", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting shoes that are to small and wanting to sell them for a bigger pair", "text": "My Mum bought me some new shoes for Christmas and they are to small but she still expects me to wear them everywhere I go even though they are 2 sizes to small and I want to sell them I don't want to be ungrateful but I legit can fell my feet with them on", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uhShISLAnFt3CD651mKfsohz3Vq8Rn8Q", "post_id": "aqb1hs", "action": {"description": "telling a classmate he was being disrespectful", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling a classmate he was being disrespectful?", "text": "I am a graduate student in a 8-person seminar. There are two undergrads in the course, one of whom is very overconfident and rude. We have debates during the class and he gets offended when people disagree with him (even though everyone is constantly disagreeing with each other). He also regularly makes references to the rich and powerful people he/ his family knows. When he speaks, classmates often look at each other and roll their eyes.\n\nToday in class, the professor asked a discussion question and multiple people raised their hands, including him. The discussion progressed, and he was one of the last people to be called on. He berated the professor for calling on him last and said he no longer had anything to say since so much time had passed. He and the professor were having a back and forth. I interrupted to tell him \"I think you're being disrespectful to the professor.\" He said \"no, I'm not\" and continued arguing with the prof.\n\nThe class continued and the subject moved on. He continued to participate, but I felt very guilty for confronting him and was quiet. It wasn't something I planned to do; it slipped out. I'm actually normally a quiet person, but I have been trying to speak up in class (in general) and intervene when I see people being bullied (the latter part referring more to instances outside of the classroom).\n\nAfter class, I apologized to the professor for intervening on his behalf. He said that it was ok and that he is used to people being harsh with him and it doesn't bother him (he is a very gentle and reserved guy). Other classmates came up to me and also told me they were thankful I said something. However, I feel guilty for the confrontation and wish I had said something to him in private. I wanted to apologize to him for calling him out, but he left the classroom before I did.\n\nTL,DR: Arrogant classmate started being rude towards a professor, I interrupted and said he was being disrespectful in front of the whole class. I feel guilty about this, but other classmates told me I did the right thing.\n\nAITA for telling a classmate he was being disrespectful to a prof in front of the whole class?\n\nAlso, should I email him to apologize for the confrontation? Or wait until next class to say something in person? Or just do nothing/ not blow it up further?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "85f2zb7zXChJMnCrpDA9Yy7EvQ2CJAQx", "post_id": "acq3uz", "action": {"description": "exposing a MeToo case when I'm not the victim", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "WIBTA for exposing a MeToo case when I'm not the victim?", "text": "Firstly, I'd like to say if I do end up going public with this story, I have no plans to name the woman involved in this case. Secondly, I would certainly try to expose this story in the most anonymous way possible, as to protect her identity.\n\n​\n\nWorking in local media, I became aware of a situation where a local media celebrity in our area was repeatedly sexually assaulting a young female coworker. For some context on the severity of this incident, this local celebrity raped a young girl dozens of times over several years. Drugged her, raped her, blackmailed her, the whole 9 yards. I gathered evidence of the situation and presented it to the company they worked for, and he got fired.\n\n​\n\nSince his disappearance from the public eye, people having been starting to ask questions about where he went and why he isn\u2019t working in the media anymore. Dozens of comments on Facebook and Twitter pages of the media organization he was a part of have gone unanswered by his former employers, as this has been a pretty hush hush issue for them. Dozens of phone calls from locals asking about where he went, all given bullshit responses, such as \u201che\u2019s on leave.\u201d\n\n​\n\nTo be fair, the media company isn't trying to \"cover up\" that this happened, they just aren't addressing it publicly. \n\n​\n\nIf I address this in a public forum and tell everyone the truth about what a monster this guy is, am I the asshole?\n\n​\n\nI really don't think people like this guy, Bill Cosby, and Harvey Weinstein deserve to quietly lose their jobs and ride off into the sunset.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "lP91PX1JuW6xLpmA9oCiFC8F7zRDyw9e", "post_id": "a5s8ku", "action": {"description": "not taking my mother seriously when she's drunk", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not taking my mother seriously when she\u2019s drunk.", "text": "This question spawned from a small argument after a couple years of built up resentment on my part. Tonight I snapped at my mother, I\u2019ll admit I was disrespectful and said a few words that were for the sake of being hurtful. I realize this was uncalled for and I regret how I acted but I still think that it wasn\u2019t uncalled for. To give a bit of history over the past 2 years my (former) stepfather was outed as a meth addict and alcoholic and after a series of nasty events their relationship ended in divorce. Ever since then our family has of course gone through lots of emotional trauma. My mother started drinking before their separation and hasn\u2019t stopped since. I\u2019ve tried talking to her about it but it never really goes anywhere. On a personal level her drinking gives me anxiety, it reminds me of when my stepdad was still around and she drinks heavily on weekends. I suppose I just have no idea how to deal with this situation. The longer it goes on the more resentful I get and I gets into my head to blame her even though I know what she\u2019s going through is worse than what I am. This turned into a bit of a rant and the more I type the more I think I should\u2019ve taken this to r/confessions but it\u2019s typed out. \n\nTl;dr I don\u2019t treat my mother with respect when she drinks", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OYffTwRUK6zrxwCA9R3fX4X8aATI3BVD", "post_id": "agfnsp", "action": {"description": "not wanting to give up my girlfriend's and my bed to her parents", "pronormative_score": 33, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to give up my girlfriend's and my bed to her parents?", "text": "This recently came up in a discussion between myself and my girlfriend, and is currently a hypothetical situation. For context, I am M27, she is F26, and parents M/F late fifties.\n\nWe live in a high cost of living area and my girlfriend has always lived in apartments with roommates. Her parents live out of state, and when they've visited in the past, she's let them stay at her place to be closer, and to save money. Whenever this has happened, she's given them her bed, opting to sleep on a couch or extra mattress herself.\n\nWe're in the process of moving in together (into a 1br) and will be sharing a bed and bedroom. Recently, the topic of her parents visiting came up, and at some point during this conversation it came out that she would want to give them our bed and bedroom, and have us sleep on the couch or an air mattress in the living room.\n\nThis had honestly not occurred to me and I said that I wasn't comfortable with that. Turns out we both have strong feelings about this but are both struggling to articulate why.\n\nIn listening to my girlfriend, I've learned that she views it as an essential part of being a good host to go the extra mile for your guest's comfort, potentially even sacrificing your own. She especially doesn't like the idea of having people who are a little older in anything but an actual bed (especially her parents). It sounds like a respect thing for her, and how she was raised.\n\nMy point of view is that while I'm very supportive of her parents visiting and want them to come, and want to host them in our home and make arrangements for their comfort, I'm just not comfortable giving up my bed to them. To me my bed is a very private and personal place for only me and my GF. Letting someone sleep there, especially with me in the other room, would feel weird to me, putting aside some practical matters like it would make having personal space in my home and getting to my clothes more difficult and honestly, a little awkward. I guess I just have some possessive weirdness around beds!\n\nMy proposed compromise is to invest in a really good air mattress and bedding so that we can still comfortably put them up in our place and they won't have to get a hotel, but she is not that enthusiastic about this solution. She really wants them to have our bed.\n\nThis hasn't really caused a rift between us, but I've been surprised at how strong our opinions are on this, leading me to second guess myself and wonder if I'm just being unreasonable. So, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 21, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 33, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OGp3Shmxh4JW5RRncsDO98OQeqWvRq3V", "post_id": "a9ngu6", "action": {"description": "refusing to help someone who stole my credit at work", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA if I refuse to help someone who stole my credit at work?", "text": "I\u2019m a technician and I frequently help out with my colleague work like repairing of tools. A week back, a colleague asked for my help. I went and noticed he didn\u2019t do a thing on the machine.  I helped him repaired it except he didn\u2019t do a thing while I did most of the work. I was kinda pissed since this isn\u2019t the first time he pushed his workload onto me but I kept it to myself. But this time around, he sent out a email about how the tool was repaired and stuff without including my help of course. After all the pleasantries from our supervisor, I stopped caring and didn\u2019t help him from then on. Fast forward to this day, I heard him talking behind my back that I was slacking because he asked for my help a few times and I said I was busy. I went and talk to my supervisor about this issue and my supervisor confronted him about it. AITA for speaking about this issue to my supervisor? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jJnt7l3MqtIsda8TL8yP79YduE7Skqj2", "post_id": "as71fa", "action": {"description": "ignoring my mom when she asks if she can have some of the food we're cooking", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for ignoring my mom when she asks if she can have some of the food we\u2019re cooking?", "text": "My BF and I like to make food together, usually dinner.  Growing up, I\u2019ve always been accustomed to cooking for like 7 people even when it\u2019s just me and him. \n\nAnyway, he and I live in my grandparents home with them, my mother, and my baby brother (18). As far as I can remember, I have never made food for solely myself. if I\u2019m in a regular mood as soon as it\u2019s done I make the rounds and personally tell everyone in the house that the food is ready, but I generally ignore them when they ask what it is because I cannot cook without the whole house coming to investigate, so they KNOW what it is. When I\u2019m in a bad mood or tired I make the food, get my plate, and head to my room. Usually a few minutes later I\u2019ll hear them serving themselves and eating. No big deal. \n\nNever have I said \u201chey were are just making food for ourselves\u201d or anything similar UNLESS it\u2019s food that I\u2019m taking to a potluck then I will let them know why I am making the dish. \n\nSo, every couple months my mom starts to look for fights with me. When I was younger we used to argue constantly, that was our relationship. But now that I\u2019m older I just don\u2019t care to argue as much. When she\u2019s looking for a fight and I\u2019m cooking one of the things she\u2019ll do is ask \u201care we allowed to eat? / can I have some?\u201d And I always ignore this question because I think it is unnecessary.  Usually that feeds the fire and she makes sure to tell my brother something along the lines of \u201chere I\u2019ll give you money to go get something to eat\u201d or \u201care you hungry? This is just for them\u201d\n\nSo, when it gets to this point, am I the asshole for ignoring my mom when she asks this? For me, it\u2019s obvious that when I cook I make for everyone.  The only reason I\u2019m asking is because she used my laptop a few weeks ago, and I saw a FB conversation she had with a friend saying that I was selfish for not letting them have some of the dinner I made so much of. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LiYQujQ2Xv2KrhvuhbmtRqcpC83ryin0", "post_id": "b7fa9a", "action": {"description": "getting angry at my dad for helping when I have asked him not too", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting angry at my dad for helping when I have asked him not too?", "text": "So I'm not sure how much detail to put here but mandatory I'm on mobile so sorry for any format issues. TL:DR at bottom\n\nI am late 20's and have just moved back in with my parents to save for a house. I've got a pretty low paid job, but should be able to save up enough in a year, maybe year and a half. Anyway, I am struggling to adapt to living back home with my parents as it is. I moved out over 10 years ago to go to uni, get a job get on with life etc. I moved away from my home town 10  years ago so moving home back has been strange. However, I have great friends from school who I'm still close with, but unfortunately don't see as much as I like, (no-ones fault, most are just married/kids/busy lives) so I spend quite a bit of time at home.\n\nGrowing up there were/are no major issues. They are essentially good people no abuse or anything like that. I do have some issues regarding privacy though, for example before going away on holiday as a teenager my dad once went through my luggage (can't remember why, just that it led to an argument.). Also they do slightly irritating things like knocking on the bathroom door when I'm in the shower/toilet telling me they've made me a cup of tea.\n\nI have on several occasions asked my parents, mainly dad to please ask before using my things. For example my car (which I bought, pay insurance for etc). This morning I woke up/came downstairs about 9:30 to dad walking in the the door explaining he took my car to get my radio fixed at a local store. I was literally planning on doing this today, and was using it as a reason for me to get dressed/ready so I could go into town and carry out some other tasks. But it just threw my whole day off and I lost all motivation to even get dressed (I'm also diagnosed with depression, so I try and set myself tasks to help me get up at the weekend). He noticed my mood was off, and asked what was the matter and I explained how it makes me feel as if my opinions don't matter if anything I say seems to be ignored.\n\nGo to this evening, dad comes in and said a neighbour is just borrowing my jump leads (which I keep in my car). Note, he's not asking IF someone can borrow them. Just that they ARE. I mean the answer would obviously be yes, if he'd asked, but he didn't. And considering the conversation we had literally earlier today I just loose all fight and don't see any point in bringing it up anymore. I have had the same conversation both parents so many times before.\n\nMy question is I am the asshole for getting irritated at my dad for taking my car and other things even when it's sometimes to do something useful (like fix the radio) when I have explicitly asked him not too several times?\n\nI think I am a bit sensitive about my car as well (it's not new or anything) because it's the only thing outside of the house that I can really call mine. And I love driving it to work.\n\n\nDL:DR I am the asshole for over reacting when my dad helps me out and takes my car without asking me first.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "h2KjiSitIQ6SpsrvQhBfaoG9zfwS08yX", "post_id": "aeeuve", "action": {"description": "not wanting my girlfriend to surprise visit me at home", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my girlfriend to surprise visit me at home?", "text": "My girlfriend chatted me, asked if I was up and I told her yes, but I would be going to sleep soon. \n\nShe drove over to my place unannounced and tried opening my door without knocking or anything (normally unlocked if I\u2019m chilling in the living room). This freaked me the hell out and I got up to hold the door shut before she said it was her. I opened the door and she said she just wanted a hug but invited herself in and tried to make herself comfortable. I explained to her that I was tired and going to bed, but she wanted to hug and cuddle and all that, and I just wasn\u2019t in the mood. \n\nShe got a little upset when I told her to give me a heads up, or to ask permission before showing up at my front door like that. \n\nI told her that, 1. I like my alone time, I don\u2019t know why but I just do, especially when it\u2019s late and I had a longer day. 2. The way she surprised me scared the hell out of me. She told me to get used to it, and I had to explain those points a few times for her to agree not to just show up randomly. \n\nShe wasn\u2019t mad at me, but it made her upset/sad. I feel bad, I have always felt this way with every girlfriend though. I\u2019m a bit of an introvert and need a heads-up before hanging out with anyone. \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Qy6pEHZ7ocvtS6A5mfVfbFCcKWaKY6Ef", "post_id": "b7g9l4", "action": {"description": "not knowing how to take care of a baby", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not knowing how to take care of a baby?", "text": "Sorry for anything odd in the formatting or spelling, I'm on Mobil. \nSo to start off, my mom's friend had a baby, and since my mom's friend has been in my life pretty much my whole life, I consider her my aunt and consider the baby my cousin. I've wanted to be a mom my whole life but right now, I'm only 17 (just turned 17 a few weeks ago) and need to focus on school and working my part time job to save up for my first apartment, so I don't know that much about caring for babies. One day, my mom's friend, let's call her E, comes up to me and says, \"Hey - my name- wanna make a quick few bucks?\" I say yes because I was running low on money and I didn't want to have to dip into my savings to help my mom pay rent. (She's a single mom who can't work because if she works her medical will be revoked and each bottle of insulin she need to survive is around $300, so we're basicly able to pay for rent, food, and that's it, and sometimes things come up to where we might be late for rent) E tells me that she wants to take my mom out  and that I need to watch her baby for two hours and that she will be back here to get her at exactly midnight. E told me that she'll put the baby down to sleep before she leaves and I thought \"this should be easy\" by the time 2:00 am rolls around I'm having an extreme panic attack because the baby is crying and I don't know what's wrong (Not the greatest with kids and don't know that much on how to care for them, remember?) I've tried calling my mom 20 times and left 15 voicemails, and tried calling E a few times but it just went straight to voicemail. At 2:30 ish, E comes and gets the baby and leaves. The next day, I hear both E and her boyfriend calling me stupid and irresponsible for not knowing how to take care of a baby like they did when at my age they were already parents and were forced to know those things. Now when I talk to either E or her boyfriend they act like I'm a huge incontinence on everything. The reason I couldn't get should of my mom was because her phone was in her purse inside the bar while my mom was outside yelling at E to go home to get her baby. If you have any questions about the night ask, but am I and my mom the assholes here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9rZGk83eAZ21mxnjUV06bbzVtHk8V0fv", "post_id": "b9wyi1", "action": {"description": "telling my sister that she should try avoid relationships for a while", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for telling my sister that she should try avoid relationships for a while?", "text": "Recently a sister's relationship with a 'recovering' stoner and alcoholic (probably going to make a let's not meet post about him) who had a violent outburst and got into legal trouble had ended.\n\nShe (to the shock of most family members who know the situation) has been posting on fb that she's probably going to start dating again. Considering the fact he threatened her children and ended up in police custody, I am genuinely concerned about her behaviour. \n\nNot to mention she's had a terrible relationship history in the past. I want to talk to her about this but I know I can be rude/blunt when I'm talking about sensitive topics (because I have ASD).", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lKJVVcoeQB7ZKIX7PSkrR8S05EnggmkK", "post_id": "afidhq", "action": {"description": "wanting to live with my dad full time", "pronormative_score": 47, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting to live with my dad full time?", "text": "I'm 16 (17 in a week) and my parents got divorced 2 years ago. I've tried very hard not to pick favorites but my mom has alot of really narcissistic tendencies (IE the day after I got home from the hospital for a suicide attempt, she called me selfish because I wanted my phone back, she rants to me about my dad, she cries whenever we argue because she knows I'll give in, etc) and I am really really close with my dad, I feel so much more comfortable when I'm with him. At my mom's house it feels like I'm walking on glass, I never leave my room because I'm constantly anxious, whereas with my dad I hang out in the livingroom all the time. Also, I don't like my moms boyfriend, he's racist and doesn't believe in climate change, and she gets annoyed with me whenever I get annoyed with him because she thinks I'm being immature (mind you I get annoyed when he is racist/denies facts/doesn't let me finish my sentences). But my older brother already doesn't talk to her, I'm the only other kid and she doesn't really have much of a life otherwise, it would crush her if I left but I still want to and I feel like shit about it. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 47, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 47, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6BNhYFABZbWziVGUxUCDADLrPwvej3mr", "post_id": "a77ew5", "action": {"description": "making my roomate change dorms because I'm loud", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for making my roomate change dorms because I'm loud?", "text": "First of all, my hearing is absolute garbage so I usually don't know when I'm talking loud or listening to things too loud. \n\nRight before my dorm was closing for the holidays I found a note attatched to the wall across form my door. My roomate said that I listened to stuff too loud in my room, that he absolutely hates it when I bring my phone into the kitchen while listening to a video (I cover the speakers as I walk by my roomate's room) and I rarely have my phone at over half volume. He explained that I keep him up at night when talking on discord or listening to an audio book before going to sleep (unless I'm sleeping in the same room as someone I prefer not to wear headphones when I go to sleep). He then goes on to complain about how \"entitled\" I am because of the noise I make.\n\nI understand these problems, but the thing is, this is the first time I'm hearing this. He writes how this has been going on for months but he never said anything about it, showed no expression at all, frankly he barely talked to me. \nI would have gladly turned down the volume on stuff, or talk quieter but I had no idea it was even an issue. I have another roomate but he hasn't said anything about my noise and talks to me fairly often. \nThere have been 3 instances where my roomate has told me to be quiet and they have all been in the late afternoon/early evening and I immediatly quiet down. The last 2-3 days there was some banging on the wall but whenever I asked if anyone was there I got no response, which my half awake ass lead me to believe that he developed some sleep disorder where when he moves he hits stuff (my brother does this so I thought this may be it). Turns out it was him trying to make me be quiet. \n\nShortly after I came back out of my room the note was gone and I assume he doesn't know I read it.\n\nTL;DR: AITA for making my roomate leave due to my above average noise level without him even telling me if there was an issue?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "LR5rb2lPQ1LQId2dY9W3jOBNvIPJA7CL", "post_id": "at9ex5", "action": {"description": "asking my friends to move out", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked my friends to move out (long)?", "text": "This is incredibly long and I apologize. I just tried to get as much information out as possible for the fairest verdict.\n\nWhile we were going through the process of putting our \u00a0house up for sale, some friends wanted to rent it. We talked about it for a bit, and decided to offer to let them rent the house off of us for just the mortgage price -- without us making any money from the deal.\n\nOne thing led to another and the friends ended up moving in early. We're still not due to move until the summer, but they moved in back in January. We agreed to let them, and only charged rent -- no utilities since we have decent jobs, trying to be nice,\n\nThroughout their staying here (at the time of this writing it's been a little over two months), one came to us asking if she could get a dog. We own three dogs ourselves, so we really didn't see the harm. My wife and I have 3 medium-sized dogs so it was surprising when she got a very large Husky.\n\nThis dog is huge. The door to her room is now scratched all-to-pieces where the dog wants to be out. The dog also destroyed the backyard and the screen on our back window. I will admit that some of it was probably from my dogs as well. They're not entirely innocent.\n\nMy other friend felt as if she was incredibly lonely. Not having a pet, she requested if she could get an animal. She wanted a cat and we declined because my wife is allergic to cats. After a while of discussion she ended up talking us into it. Honestly, my wife and I are pushovers.\n\nI work from home. Saying that, I'm home a huge portion of the day. Our friends are at college or just out hanging out with their other friends until 11:30-12. So, everyday we sit at home all day having to hear the cat's cry all day nonstop. Neither of us can show it attention seeing as how she's allergic and I would have to scrub down/change clothes anytime I came in contact with it.\n\nHusky friend has also had her boyfriend staying here for the entire month. He doesn't really do anything. He's just living here using up the utilities that my wife and I are paying for. Initially when it was brought to my attention that he was coming, it was for the weekend. I feel like this is slightly unfair to my wife and myself since we're having to spend even more money on utilities.\n\nMy wife and I are still the ones buying the toiletries, dish soap, laundry detergent, pretty much any consumable used in the house. They do buy their own food but I'm stuck doing their dishes and cleaning up after them in the kitchen. I can't say they dirty up the communal areas much. Their rooms are absolutely disgusting and \u00a0foul-odors are coming from them.\n\nTL;DR: My friends moved in, got a dog and a cat. Dog tears things up and cat constantly meows to the point my wife and I are staying insanely stressed. Recently discovered wife is pregnant so the stress is extra not good.\n\nI really want a fair outside opinion.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "weQ3Y6jpiIdBoPbUGP7OaX39Cdr8ZlAW", "post_id": "ag6heh", "action": {"description": "ignoring and hating a girl who left me on read multiple times, and have genuine hate for here", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for ignoring and hating a girl who left me on read multiple times, and have genuine hate for here?", "text": "I started texting a girl I liked and I never harrassed her and was always nice to here, but then she left me on read. We had been texting for weeks. She was online and she definitely saw the message. She has now ignored me for +3 weeks. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "JZcqQ8qHFeiNOfIpUN1CAd6gArCsdFq7", "post_id": "ayx9lh", "action": {"description": "being mad at my husband about pets", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being mad at my husband about pets?", "text": "Over the years we have been married, my husband has gotten a few pets on a whim. He never tells me until after he gets them and I am always the one who ends up taking care of them. The one pet I have actually wanted, a Bengal cat, he traded off without my permission because he wanted a Playstation. Every time he gets a pet he says he'll take care of it but he doesn't. If I didn't, they would die. I have confronted and outright argued with him about this but he seems to think all you need to do to take care of a pet is feed them.\n\nHe got a guinea pig recently and when he told me about it, I was furious. He told me it didn't matter what I wanted because it was his money and he can do whatever he wants. This is yet another pet I will have to take care of. So, AITA for getting upset about this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 22, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "c6mIb7cEhCDFBtFPfDhpEa5EPhDNNLEP", "post_id": "aohhtu", "action": {"description": "leaving my sick wife", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for leaving my sick wife?", "text": "Backstory:  Started dating at 17.  A month later she tried to break up with me while I thought things were going well.  I drove to her house in the middle of the night to find out what she was so upset about.  Turns out that she was pregnant.  We had only started having sex a couple of weeks prior.  My naive dumb ass asked if it was mine and of course it turns out she's pregnant by one of the biggest losers in school, her ex-boyfriend whom she dumped after realizing what a piece of shit he was.  \n\n(Side note, this dude has 4 kids;  my step-daughter, her half-brother (adopted by a new awesome father), a child with down syndrome whom he had with this 40+yo wife who died in a car accident, and another girl who got pregnant and ran to Washington state to get away from him.)\n\nI digress.  The entire pregnancy was a nightmare.  The father would stir up drama every chance he got and caused nothing but problems.  Tried to fight me at the NICU she was in for 3 months as she was born 2 months early, started rumors at school, confronted me, etc.  My father-in-law sat us both down and gave us this talk:  \"Life is about pussy. . .\" basically made us shake hands and agree to be gentleman.  That didn't last long as he started stalking us.  Also, while it was his weekend with the baby, we would see him at the mall by himself or with friends and no baby.  When asked, of course his parents were watching her.  Fast forward many years of compulsive lying and general neglect, HE CALLS CPS...ON US.  Told his doctor we were putting cigarettes out on her which was in no shape or form true in any way.  She's a \"picker\" and had picked some bug bites or whatever and of course when you pick your wounds they look worse.  She still does it today.  We decided after all the drama and all the pain he's caused our beloved daughter that he didn't deserve to see her anymore.  The child support payments stopped immediately.  It's now been 7 years without a single payment, but this isn't about him. \n\nMy wife is a type 1 diabetic with multiple complications as a result of her not taking care of herself.  We have struggled to get her on any kind of insurance or coverage that would help her with her diabetes.  While I was in the Army, she had Tricare which was awesome and even left us with 6 months of supplies after the fact which was a life saver.  Her complications go from being like 90% blind (maybe worse, eye appointment upcoming) - can't read the big E on the eye chart to missing toes to nerve damage to diabetic gastroparesis.  We are days apart (age 31) and she's suffering badly.  Now, all that being said, she doesn't check her blood sugar regularly, doesn't take insulin properly, prefers to have a blood sugar >200 as opposed to 100-200 where it's supposed to be because being \"low\" feels so much worse than a blood sugar high.  Food?  Psh.  Anything fried or covered in sugar is her favorite.  Donuts, french fries, burgers, anything sweet that isn't chocolate.  I KNOW I don't help.  My diet sucks, I eat fast food constantly and I'm a little overweight and I love the sweets too.  Here's the difference:  I know I eat like shit and I want to change it.  I've made several attempts to change my diet and excersize more only to fail over and over again.  I've managed to stick to a \"low-carb, high vegetable, low-fat\" diet for a few weeks at a time, during which she is AWFUL.  Complains constantly, never stops talking about ice cream or gummy bears.  When we were short on time one evening, I said \"Hey, I'm going to burger king to get a salad...do you want one?\" - trying to at least nudge her in the general right direction.  'No, get me the triple double bacon with cheese and extra fries with a giant diet coke'.  I've tried this HUNDREDS of times to convince her to eat right.  Here's the thing, she's beautiful, gorgeous and FAR from fat.  I'm not trying to get her to eat right so she'll lose weight, I'm trying to get her to eat right to save her fucking life.  We've accumulated probably over $1,000,000 in hospital bills due to 9-10 emergency room visits a year.  When she gets sick, they usually keep her in the hospital at least a week and the recovery at home can be 2-4 weeks at which point the cycle starts over again where she's getting sick in that timeframe and right back in the hospital with an infection, DKA, gastroparesis symptoms, etc.  \n\n​\n\nWe started couples counseling last year but it only lasted a couple of months.  I started therapy and seeing a medications-provider (pyschiatrist) at the same time.  I have VA care so I can use all the healthcare options they have available including couples counseling but it does not include my wife's personal care.  During counseling last year (\\~May 2018) our counselor asked to give our relationship 2 more months during counseling.  We did all kinds of \"homework\" like remembering how we felt when we were first together and all this emotional stuff, but, I don't think she understood(the therapist).  I LOVE my wife.  Deeply, strongly and faithfully.  I've never been unfaithful and I tell her everything.  She's the only person in the world I can literally be myself around and she won't hate me for it, at least that's how I feel.  But, I don't know if I explained everything right or what, but, my problems with my wife are tangible REAL problems, not emotional ones.  It was always difficult to get her in the mood for sex but now that she's been sick(3 years now), it's stopped pretty much completely.  When it DOES happen, it's awful for both of us.  I know that sex isn't everything so I've looked past that.  I've asked her at least 1,000 times to do any of the following:  A)  Get a job, go to work, do something.  B)  Apply for college, go back to school, get some student loans, etc.  C)  Apply for disability.  If you're too sick to work, then you must be disabled.  With disability and/or a job comes health insurance, with health insurance you can see the doctors you need to see.  With doctors comes the inevitable healthier lifestyle and therefore positive changes in her health.  I gave the counselor the two months she asked for and I thought HARD about my relationship for months, I'm still thinking about it.  That August, I told my wife that I had made my decision and I wanted to separate.  I told her that I wanted our daughter to finish 6th grade before we split up the family.  She just started middle school and is in band for the first time and she's really been struggling to find herself this year.  I love our daughter as much as I love my wife.  I have asked and begged and pleaded my wife not to take her away from me like we did her biological father.  She swears she's going to let me continue being her \"dad\" forever.  I have every intention of taking care of her until I'm incapable of doing so.  Here's the dad thing too - we've lost 2 babies to miscarriage and had 1 early pregnancy loss during our 10+year relationship.  I have no biological children and that bothers me a lot.  She knows and we've NEVER used protection, birth control, nor have I ever really pulled out.  We know that we SHOULDN'T have more children because it would endanger her life but she wanted to give me a child and I wanted to give her one.  Fortunately, now, that never happened.  It now appears that we will never conceive a child of our own nor will she ever DO ANYTHING with her life nor will she ever be able to drive herself again nor will she be able to take care of her own daughter by herself.  In the last 2 years she's missed Halloween, Christmas, first period, Thanksgiving...and more that I can't think of, because she was in the hospital.    \n\n\nI don't blame her for being a diabetic, I don't blame her for all of the things that \"just happened\" to her.  I DO, however, blame her for her poor choices in taking care of herself.  I DO blame her for NOT CARING ENOUGH about her own life to get herself right for our daughter.  I have a small glimmer of hope, less than 1% chance, that she'll let our daughter stay with me when we separate.  I gave her almost an entire year to figure something out and here we are, 3 months away from the date that was set and she's WORSE now than last year instead of better.    \n\n\nTL;DR:  Type 1 diabetic wife doesn't take care of herself, has serious complications from it, has no intentions of fixing anything or getting healthier and has been quoted as saying \"I just want to get her to 18\" (our daughter).  I'm letting her stay with me and I'm still taking care of her until May when we \"separate\" - probably followed by divorce.    \n\n\nAITA?!\n\n​\n\nThis is really hard for me to post because I have anxiety really bad and I think everyone is going to be angry at me.  I'm not a bad person, just in a bad situation and I don't see any other solution.\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cWLvgyPQm2C4TBjHNtg4mUO1UNFir2Zs", "post_id": "b7xfyj", "action": {"description": "telling my roommate not to patronize me", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for telling my roommate not to patronize me?", "text": "Things have been weirdly tense in my apartment as of late. I share it with three roommates; we are all undergrads. I thought I wasn\u2019t a part of the tension until now.\n\nOne of my roommates, H, has been sort of annoying about cleaning. She is a clean freak except doesn\u2019t clean her stuff up to the same standard she holds others to. Stuff like leaving banana peels, dirty dishes, and other trash on the counter, but getting mad about the trash not being taken out or the floors not being swept. As a result, we\u2019ve made a chore chart of sorts to determine who does what when. \n\nImportantly for this, I am almost never at the apartment except to sleep and shower, as I work 30 hours a week along with going to class. I pretty much never use dishes, and when I do I clean them up immediately. In the conversation with the chore chart, it was pointed out that this means I don\u2019t have to do as much stuff in the kitchen, which was reflected in our chart. In this conversation it was also acknowledged that nobody had any problems with me.\n\nTonight, one of my roomies, B, sent a text in our groupchat (it\u2019s hard for all of us to talk in person because of schedules) about laudry. It was a salty text, which I get because she works long hours and H is loud and wakes her up a lot. \n\nIn this conversation, I said if anyone has a grievance they should \u201ccall me out\u201d. I meant this in the colloquial sense, but could have phrased it better.\n\nH took it literally. At the end of a message saying she wanted to work everything out and get rid of the tension, she says this: \u201calso @(my name), if you could do the dishes or sweep or take out the trash every now and then that would help.\u201d I took this as patronizing, as we had already discussed our roles regarding chores and I have been doing my jobs.\n\nI responded: \u201cH, i understand your concern and will work to be better, however i\u2019ve been following the chart for cleaning and i don\u2019t even use dishes more than once every two weeks. i want to emphasize that i am just as invested as you all are in making sure there isn\u2019t tension.  things have been really tense in the apartment lately and to be completely honest i\u2019m kind of confused as to why. that being said, please tell me if you have anything you think i need to work on. however, H, i really don\u2019t appreciate being literally @\u2018ed when it comes to something like this. i may be misinterpreting as it is easy to do via text, but that sounded super patronizing.\u201d \n\nH gets offended by this and then says I shouldn\u2019t be offended by communication when I just said I was open to being \u201ccalled out\u201d.  She then continued by saying that she doesn\u2019t get what the big deal is and that she doesn\u2019t feel comfortable in her own\n\n I\u2019m upset because I wasn\u2019t under the impression I had said anything wrong, but H\u2019s response has me feeling like I have. I kind of feel like I\u2019m being gaslit by H.\n\nThat being said, am I the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "BQydoTjth4Zyuudcy30DZzkd78pBl5Sy", "post_id": "9u1pav", "action": {"description": "asking someone who can't stop burping to be quiet in a library", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking someone who can\u2019t stop burping to be quiet in a library?", "text": "So I was in a library at my university trying to finish a fairly large term paper that was due the next day. Needless to say, I was stressed. I chose this particular library because it's out of the way and is probably the quietest library on campus.\n\nI had been there for about an hour when I hear a pretty loud belch from a few seats away. \"Kinda rude\", I think to myself, but I continue on with my work. Maybe 20 seconds later I hear another loud, obnoxious burp. This continues for probably 10 minutes. Every 10-30 seconds this guy 10 feet away from me lets out of these sonic boom burps that ricochet off the walls and shelves in the library. I look around and make eye contact with a girl who is sitting even closer to him. She has a pleading look in her eye that is telling me I HAVE to say something. I decide its time to take action.\n\nI get up and go over to this guy and stand next to him and say, \"excuse me\". He has headphones in which makes it much more awkward because now I have to wait for him to notice me and take the headphones out. I say \"excuse me\" again a bit louder, and he pulls them out. \"Hey man, do you think you could keep it down?\" I say in the most non-confrontational tone I can muster. His response still haunts me... \" I have a disease. I can't control it.\" Oh shit. I must have said sorry ten times as I back-pedalled away.\n\nAITA?\n\nI mean, if he knows he has a condition that causes him to be loud and disruptive, he could excuse himself from the library until the episode passes... right??\n\nOr should I have just kept my mouth shut?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "K6RB8LGPjZXF7Vle2Kb8ZWKmEcIRal7p", "post_id": "b5hrop", "action": {"description": "quitting my job with only a few days notice", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA For quitting my job with only a few days notice?", "text": "I recently was contacted with a job offer for a new company, and yesterday after my second interview, I received an official offer to start there April 9th. I accepted the offer happily, eager to start my job.\n\nAfter some consideration, I decided that rather than give 2 weeks notice and transition into my next job, I would make my last day this Friday. This would allow me to take the week to visit my family who live a plane ride/ full day train ride away, as I wouldn't be able to take a vacation with the new company for many months.\n\nWhen I brought this all to my managers attention today, she started to flip out. She called me a shitty person, saying she was 'Glad to see my true colours' and how 'Its obvious I didn't give a fuck about this company'. She said that I deserve all the bad things that will come to me from karma because of this. These comments felt really uncalled for, because of how I've worked so hard for them for the year I've worked them. \n\nI felt that because of how much effort I put into this job, she may understand my situation and have some compassion, yet she was quick to destroy our relationship.\n\n\nTL;DR I quit my job with 4 days notice, and my manager says I'm a terrible person for doing so.\n\n\nAm I the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 8, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "j5xU67Z4BaAdAX1HjI2uHIswMSGQfKrg", "post_id": "9uqwzg", "action": {"description": "not liking how my girlfriend helps with the washing up", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not liking how my girlfriend helps with the washing up?", "text": "I\u2019m a 19 year old college (UK) student and live with my dad. I do the dishes, and when my girlfriend comes, she tries to help. However, I have quite a particular way of loading the dishwasher in order to make it as efficient as possible, and make everything fit. When my girlfriend \u201chelps\u201d, she just randomly stacks stuff. I said to her that she can help if she wants, but if she could try to do it the same way as me, or I would rather do it myself.\n\nWhen she didn\u2019t do it the same as me, I asked her to sit down and let me do it. My dad got angry and told me to stop being a dick, and my girlfriend got annoyed. I\u2019m just trying to do the dishes the way that I like to! I appreciate her help but I would rather do it myself in the way that I like than it all be messy. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0PuvsB0y7MuJ16L5OVs7f3PkJ1lIBtrA", "post_id": "b24mx9", "action": {"description": "causing my wife to be Baker acted", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for causing my wife to be Baker acted", "text": "So previous post git removed because of some of the details. So I'm going to omit some of it to make it comply with rules.\n\nSo tonight someone that I considered a friend came around for some drinks. After a couple I went to bed because I have work early.\n\nShe had previously kissed this friend (whilst drinking, never sober) and I was somewhat paranoid, so I when it went quiet I got paranoid and sneakily poked my head around the corner and it turned out my gut was right and they were kissing. So I confronted them there and then, I told him to fuck off and told her that we wouldn't be hanging out/seeing him again.\n\nShe ran outside to 'check that he wasn't driving' because he was drunk. I didn't know but she took a razer...\n\n(hopefully that's vague enough to avoid being deleted, sorry mods if it isn't but it's kind of a important point)\n\nI go to the medicine cabinet to get medical supplies (trained first aider) and she sprints out the door, and manages to lose me around a corner.\n\nAt this point I had no idea what to do so I rang the police, who found her 30mins later about half a mile away and decide to Baker act her. I didn't get to see her before they took her away.\n\nI feel like an asshole for doing this and I'm scared she's going to hate me when they release her. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zHNQIAPvoK188iIZD0GIreyeIItutyuU", "post_id": "aqcgru", "action": {"description": "telling my friend to stop touching me so much", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend to stop touching me so much?", "text": "So I have a friend at university who's very touchy feely. It's her personality and she's like that with almost everyone she's friends with. But it makes me uncomfortable. I don't mind touches on my arm or hugs when greeting, but she'll touch my face, grab my waist, grab my hand just randomly when we're walking etc. I finally had enough yesterday when she rubbed my thigh when we were talking and sitting next to each other waiting before class and I was like \"can you not touch me so much goddamn\". Now I know that sounds kind of rude when writing it out but I said it with a jokey voice so it didn't sound that bad (but I was serious). She was like \"oh really\" in a jokey voice and kept touching me. And I was like \"no but for real though I don't really like being touched that much\" and she was like \"oh okay\" and stopped. But I feel like it kinda made our friendship weird because she's been acting kind of distant ever since...so I don't know if I could have expressed it better or something..\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YTiJPm4xBCpj4qOn8avNro3CNhJk46Yu", "post_id": "b7tuki", "action": {"description": "wanting my mom to get her own phone service", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting my mom to get her own phone service?", "text": "I've included my mom on my cell phone service and she has an s8. All I hear is how it's too big, it changes things around when she hasn't done anything and she hates it. She asked to upgrade to a new, smaller phone. It wasn't time for an upgrade my mom's phone but my daughter kindly decided to downgrade hers, so we could trade it in on an upgrade for my mom. After my mom did a lot of research and went to the store to try them all, she decided on the s9. \n\nI bought the s9, switched all her stuff over and she freaked out because some of her messages were missing. Not the messages to her, but her replies to them. Freaked. Then eventually made her peace with it, kind of. Between taxes and activation, I'm into this phone $75, not including the monthly payments. I'm poor, she has plenty of money. \n\nOne week later, she hates the phone. I explained that it's running Pie, and the s8 would be getting the same software within days, but she wanted to switch back. Fine. Cheaper for me. She agrees to pay the restocking fee for the returned phone.\n\nI'm in the process of switching it back, transferring and restoring pics, music and all. It takes forever. I don't mind doing it, but she's irritated beyond all hell. \"Ugh. Why does it take so long? Why is it missing? Why is it doubling up on things?\"\n\nI explain, just wait for it to finish, it may be missing a few things but all your pics and music will be there. If there are duplicates, I'll fix it.\n\nBut she keeps bitching. \"I'll just take it to the store next time!\" Fine, but don't get pissed at me for helping you with it.\n\nWould I be the asshole if I told her she needs to get her own phone service? I'm honestly tired of dealing with it, her change of mind, her complaining about it. I feel responsible when any of it goes wrong. I don't mind helping her with it, but I'm tired of the guilt that comes along if something breaks or goes missing. She can more than afford her own service, adding her to my plan was just a way to pay her back for the things she helps me with financially.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jLMaGyYLRXeMHhTTIUFSXljrHSoGTi99", "post_id": "b9o7ss", "action": {"description": "voting to fire the cto of my startup 2 months before his vesting cliff", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 37}, "title": "AITA For voting to fire the CTO of my startup 2 months before his vesting cliff?", "text": "For those who dont know a vesting cliff is basically the moment a startup founder receives a portion of his equity. Like lets say you started a company with someone, but you didnt know them that well, youd give them equity gradually after theyve been with the company awhile. That way they dont just claim ownership and then leave the first week without contributing.\n\nIn this case the CTO of my company had a vesting schedule of 4 years, with his cliff at 1 year. So this means if he is with the company a year, he immediately receives 25% of his equity. So if his equity is 20%, he receives 5% ownership right there. Then for the next 3 years he gets equity every month, gradually until he gets all of it after 4 years. Thats how its supposed to work.\n\nNow, if you dont make it to the cliff for whatever reason, you get nothing.\n\nSo now that that is explained, I am the COO of a startup headed into series a funding. The CTO is someone whose been with the company for 10 months. The issue is, he doesnt have much in the way of qualifications or education. I mean he is educated but theres nothing special or unique on his resume besides one small project before us and our project.\n\nThe investment group interested in funding us is trying to free up as much equity as possible, so theyre looking to trim the fat and prevent issues down the line. We are of the opinion that they want a superstar genius as CTO. The CEO of my company, along with the CVO both met with me to discuss cutting the CTO loose before his cliff.\n\nHe would basically leave with nothing after 10 months of work. They asked for my input and I recommended firing him and replacing him with someone with a wider skillset and a better pedigree.\n\nI am the one who broke the news. He did not take it well obviously as we did basically deny him potentially millions of dollars down the line and a high paying job to boot. He also lost any claim on his prior work, naturally.\n\nAITA? Should I have kept him through his cliff?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 37, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 3}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 37}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Kufz1UDGUx9RnSizpb7LYbWWlMLtp0R8", "post_id": "b0hg3j", "action": {"description": "having a misleading YouTube video", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for having a misleading YouTube video", "text": "I made a compilation of Backyard/Street MMA, mixed martial arts matches, meaning not amateur or pro, with just a bunch of guys getting together and fighting. My title was \u201cBest Street MMA Fights\u201d. I posted this to the street fight subreddit and I got tons of backlash. People said the title was misleading and it wasn\u2019t even true Street fights. I wasn\u2019t trying to claim they were flat out street fights but street mma fights which sound similar, I understand this is confusing. I defended myself but got extremely downvoted and eventually banned for the subreddit. I feel like a lot of people were being unreasonable. A lot of people insulted me, I got a little mad and threw some back occasionally. One guy told me it sucked and I asked how to improve and he told me \u201cnot to call it the fucking best\u201d. I called it the best because I thought they were the most entertaining I could find? \n\nAm I wrong? Was I misleading in my title? I feel like a lot of people just had a stick up their ass but if so many people think so I could just be wrong?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "x8yAMjv5nfNh4QcHZew1phcpaxfix6aN", "post_id": "b50ejc", "action": {"description": "being angry at a guy for not letting his girlfriend go to an optional school trip with me and my friend", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being angry at a guy for not letting his girlfriend go to an optional school trip with me and my friend?", "text": "I know how this sounds, but hear me out.\n\nRecently, the high school that I go to announced that there will be a an optional school trip, and anyone can register, so it was a pretty easy decision for me and one of my best friends. The trip sounded awesome and we wanted to bring as many nice people abroad as we could. So we decided to invite a girl from our class (we knew she had a bf, but neither of us have a romantic interest in her). \n\nA little side-note: me and my friend had gotten ibto trouble with her bf earlier this year, because he didn't want us to be around her, to talk to her or to even greet her, needless to say, we were surprised, because he normally was very confident in himself. Also, this friday he caught us laughing and talking and he told her that he will ,,Talk\" to us.\n\nSo here we are, sitting at a coffe shop, when I get a message from her telling that she can't come because her bf didn't want us to spend time with her. This made me super pissed off and , even if my friend didn't show it, I could tell that he was kinda dissapointed too. We started talking shit about how insecure he was and how she needs to find someone who lets her have guy friends. We plan on discussing this with her on next monday.\n\nAITA?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "q7WTzRYCf3hDQCU4Fp9f0RMhxirwvGVV", "post_id": "avreq1", "action": {"description": "telling my parents to \"fuck off\"", "pronormative_score": 20, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA (23M) for telling my parents to \"fuck off\"?", "text": "Sorry in advance for the long post. \n\nI graduated for college in December. Since then, I've job hunting and studying to become an engineer in training (EIT) by taking the FE exam. Honestly, studying at home is always a challenge as it's myself, parents, and two brothers (both over 30) in a one bedroom apartment so I normally go to the library or somewhere else for a more productive environment. \n\nSince I'm back home, whenever I go out in the evening I send my mom a detailed text message of where I'm going and what time I'll be vack by. Latest I've ever gotten in the house was 1:30am the one night I was at a concert.\n\nSo fast forward to start of this week, I'm working part time at the government agency where I had an internship with and more than 2 weeks out from FE exam and feeling good about it. I was an RA during college and a few of my old residents invite me to see their play production at the local campus on Thursday. I think that's a cool thing to do after work and text my mom letting her know.\n\nI get home. My mom calls me into her room and my dad is already there. She begins by saying \"Your father and I received your request and we don't think it's in your interest to go because you need to focus on your exam.\"\n\nNow my parents are Carribean immigrants, so any questioning or refusal of their authority is concerned taboo/punishable by death. But for me I draw the life at being told living my life is a \"request.\" This is also one of three times this month I've gone out after work or in the evening.\n\nI explain where I'm coming from and all that. They don't want to hear to. So I'm like \"Alright. I'm going regardless.\" \n\nThey look at me with disgust and give me the silent treatment the rest of the week. It's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission, right?\n\nReddit...AITA?\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 20, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BEgCeO6KAAvvG71YBjmrTUicDp2IcQO9", "post_id": "ali2ox", "action": {"description": "moving my roommates food", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for moving my roommates food?", "text": "So this story requires a bit of context and background. I live in a house with 4 other roommates (all early 20\u2019s) we all have our own rooms, and for the most part get along well. However, one of our housemates gets very passive aggressive about things. He will get mad at us for being awake at 10:30 PM on the weekends playing music, come angrily address us all if one pan is in the sink for more than 30 minutes, and even took away the speaker we all chipped in on because \u201cwe were using it irresponsibly\u201d. \n\nSo the last two weeks he has been meal prepping each week and storing his meals in Tupperware. We each have only a little bit of space in the fridge, and have used the same shelves/drawers since September. He has been putting his food in the one drawer I use, and I have mentioned it to him twice. So yesterday I went to put away my groceries and his food was once again in my drawer. I had enough, so I took his food and left it out on the counter. It spoiled and he was extremely upset with me and got two other of our roommates to call me out on it. \n\nSo Reddit, AITA? Is he? Does everybody suck here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "NyoYVykKKEOjvQTww0tfRlAIq2DhTudP", "post_id": "aknq8p", "action": {"description": "wanting to cut ties with my close friend for the past 5 years? tdlr at bottom", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA For wanting to cut ties with my close friend for the past 5 years? Tdlr at bottom.", "text": "To start out with, she did have the best friend title and I had it for her, but we are very different and fit better in different cliques so we've both agreed that it's okay to go different ways like that. This decision was made about a year ago when I started dating a guy and found a small friend group I really loved. \n\n       Fast forward to now, she and I have two classes together so we hang out during them like normal. However, whenever I bring up conversation about things I'm interested in or currently working on at the moment (we're both artistic and love trying new medias) she kinda of gives half-assed responses. I get that talking about certain things with no shared interests can kinda be dull, but maybe I'm wrong in thinking she should at least try to sound anything but bored or annoyed? \n\n        Anyway, this isn't just some topics. Every morning now when we see each other, whatever convo we have, if it's something I'm talking about she just gives off this annoyed look. \n\n  I also go to her for advice occasionally, because I have like two friends that are girls while the rest of my friend group are guys. So I go to her for advice on girl stuff, or just life advice because she can be really keen on giving good advice. \n   \n  For the past few months though, when I go to her she again responds with an annoyed tone. She says 'I don't know' or 'Dont ask me' for everything. I get not knowing what to say but when it's said like I'm being an annoyance it pushes me away. \n\n She comes to me for advice too, which I'm fine with. I try to answer with my honest opinion and what I believe is the best advice from my POV. We're both seniors in highschool, adulthood is around the corner. The two of us have matured, however she acts very childish if the advice is not what she wants to hear. She proceeds to get annoyed and just end our conversation right then and there.  \n\n When she's talking about her projects and current happenings I try my best to actively listen and engage with her. But lately I'm not feeling it. If she can't return an small interest in my life hapenings then I just feel that I should distant myself from her, especially after we graduate. I feel like I am working for a good friendship with her while she couldn't care less if I was there or not. I feel like this relationship isn't worth pursuing anymore if it's not mutual. \n\nAm I the asshole for feeling this way and thinking about cutting ties? \n\nTdlr: Friend of 5 years doesn't seem to put effort into our friendship anymore and it comes of that she's wants attention from me but not a mutual friendship. AITA for wanting to cut ties? \n\n\nEdit: So I brought it up and she kinda just tosses the subject to the side like normal. However, she seems to be treating me differently. While it's not all the time, she is listening more and generally being interested in what I conversate with her. She's not completely done with showing indifference and annoyance but I have noticed a difference, which is what I could ask for for a start. \n\n ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tnYBc01aH35ZJjXnPuFJKNQsb1xkrfqW", "post_id": "aisiey", "action": {"description": "snapping at my roommate", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for snapping at my roommate?", "text": "*This is quite a long story*\nDisclaimers :on mobile,throwaway cause I'm\nparanoid, English isn't my first language.\nThis happened few months ago.\nbackstory : in my country military service is mandatory unless you have some sort of medical condition. If you do,you can choose to volunteer to service the country in any other way. My service was very new : 6-7 LGBT roommates in 1 apparent volunteering in different schools by day and working with LGBT youth organisation in the afternoon.\nIn my first year I loved working at the school,the teachers were great and the students and I had great connection.I learned a lot about the special education world and wanted to go to uni for it once my service was done.\nI did not like working for the organisation at all. I liked working with the youth and help them in any way I can,but the people responsible for it were completely unprofessional and went as far as cancelling a seminar I worked on for months a month before it was due.\nWe have one person who represents the organisation,she was horrible. and another person(V) who is responsible for the school project- she was a sweetheart.\n\nThe story itself :\nThis was in the beginning of my second year,I was frustrated with the organisation but stayed because I loved working at the school. Some roomates left and V found some new ones,we all got along great for a while,had so many laughs and I genuinely thought it's gonna be a great year.\nUntil a month later when a girl called Z joined the apartment.\nI knew her from before and I heard she did volunteer only at the organisation with roommates who also worked there and none of them got along with her,but I gave her a fair chance and tried my best to make her feel welcome.\nIt wasn't long until she started getting on people's nerves.stated picking on others because they weren't vegan,kept suggesting they try it and convince them that they're wrong for eating meat - not respecting them telling her to stop.\nShe also kept intervening in other roomate's business.   I didn't show up for an organisation seminar because of my medical condition and she made a whole fuss about it because \" we are one apartment and should represent the same things,and if you don't like the organisation,why aren't you leaving??\" I told her I like the education part but she kept asking me this until we had a fight where I told her its none of her business why im here and i was here before her.\nIt went like this for the whole year,other roomates decided to stop talking with her altogether because she was constantly trying to boss them around,we couldn't tell non PC jokes to each other without her triggering and fighting with us,she tried to force people and tell them their mental problems because \"it will bring us closer\" and was just an overall bitch to everyone who disagreed with her.I once told my friend a joke with the word \" butch\" in it and Z heard it-so she went around telling my friends that I'm a misogynist..it cost me in a loss of some friends.\na whole year of being policed at your house wasn't fun,she was always looking for a way for her to \"educate\"us which came across as very condescending - I don't need her lectures about how horrible I am for eating meat and not caring about the organisation. She never helped us clean and always left dirty dishes around the house- when we brought them to her room and left it there she cried and told us she will complain to V (V knew she was problematic but couldn't kick her out)\n\nSo,the big fight :\nWe were supposed to clean the apartment,I came home early and it was only her there. I wanted to rest because I has a rough day,I asked her id she wanted to help me clean some stuff & wash the floor  and she agreed.\nWhen I put some stuff in the other room,she decided that \"because I put them in an angry way, I'm mad at her so she won't help me\"\nAfter a whole year of hearing this kind of bs from her I've had enough,I yelled at her that she tries to be a victim and she went to her room.\nI started to wash the floor by myself and she came back and just sat in the living room full of water not even trying to help.\nI asked her \" why are you such a bitch?\" \nShe started screaming - calling me disgusting but I yelled back \" no shut the fuck up alredy,this is why no one in your last apartment liked you,and everyone here hates you and I can't wait until you leave and I won't have to see your ugly face again you fucking bitch!\" \nand I stormed off leaving the floor wet.\nI did end up apologizing because I was harsh on her,it was just frustrating to always be criticised in your  house and not being able to make it stop despite asking.\n\nSo Reddit..AITA for what I said to her\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WLUhApGAWpO0GbjiXoFXm60Kicyjj9jU", "post_id": "ablokx", "action": {"description": "telling my friend she should be more honest with her boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend she should be more honest with her boyfriend?", "text": "My friend has started dating someone a little more than a year ago. The minute they made things \"official\", she put an expiration date on him since she didn't want to be in a serious relationship. Throughout their relationship, he's made a few remarks that makes me think that he does have intentions of getting serious with her (moving in together, marriage, future kids, etc.) Anytime he brings any of this up, she laughs and changes the subject. It's clear that they haven't talked this out, which I think is a bit wrong since it's important to be on the same page on things like this if you're in a relationship, and I'm getting the vibe that she knows this too but is just choosing to ignore it. \n\n​\n\nSince I consider her a close friend, I told her about this, and how I think that it wouldn't be a bad idea to talk things out and be honest with each other about where their relationship is going. She basically told me to mind my own business and that I don't know what I'm talking about since none of my relationships have worked out anyway, so what do I know. \n\n​\n\nAITA for thinking that what she's doing is just wrong? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fthrz0WTOMuSASl7Y1b8wkJgA7SxJWBw", "post_id": "axol40", "action": {"description": "ignoring what my mom wants", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I ignore what my mom wants?", "text": "I\u2019m 18 (F), and I come from a catholic family. \nWe had a loss in the family a few months back that I was heavily involved in, I\u2019ve been struggling with grief and haven\u2019t been myself for months. \n\nI don\u2019t talk to my parents about how I\u2019m handling it because I don\u2019t feel they would fully understand how it\u2019s affecting me. But around the same time I reached out to a close friend and he and a couple other friends have really been my crutch to get through this. One of these friends and I have recently gotten into a relationship and I\u2019ve really bonded with him. He means a lot to me and he\u2019s constantly worrying about how I am. \n\nWell yesterday I came home, and I had some faint hickeys along my neck. Nothing too obvious but still there. My mom flipped and went off on me about how I claim to believe in God but then do things that are inappropriate. She asked if I was sexually active (which I am not) and how I can claim to be chaste when I\u2019m with my boyfriend. She eventually said I was not allowed to visit his house and if he wanted to see me he would have to come to my house, because I obviously can\u2019t control myself around him.\n\nI\u2019ve really been struggling with loneliness, my appetite and grief and I feel that if I let my mom control my relationship like this I could fall into a deep depression. These boys mean everything to me and while I don\u2019t want to hurt my mom, I feel like she is going too far. I know she worries and she herself is struggling, but this doesn\u2019t excuse her behavior. \nAITA for putting myself first? WIBTA for ignoring her and doing what I feel is right for me?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ipa7m6OCopWSXFKr51RwNkkbGzQYjtF7", "post_id": "aktnj0", "action": {"description": "blowing up at a Classmate because of sensory issues", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA Blowing up at a Classmate Because of Sensory Issues", "text": "In my design class one of my classmates plays the animal crossing theme on loop everyday. I've expressed to her several times that it really grates on my nerves and makes it hard to work. I've never pushed the issue too hard, just put in headphones when I could. \nI've told her about my sensory issues (especially auditory ones). I've really tried to let her know that I can't handle listening to it all class everyday. \nToday was an awful day for me, sensory wise. When I walked into class she wasn't playing it but she started playing it not long after I got set up. I groaned loudly and was just gonna put on my headphones but she said \"Don't groan about it, it's cute.\" I blew up telling her that I literally hated the tune, and that I wished she wouldn't play it. Another student scolded me but I feel justified. I know shouting wasn't the best solution but I've been trying to get her to stop playing the song since first semester.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zOMC1JrTXzrh1o60Wvh4SUHKf3PoSbfm", "post_id": "9wtdkc", "action": {"description": "thinking all mexican immigrants should try and learn English", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for thinking all Mexican Immigrants should try and learn English?", "text": "I should preface this post by saying this incident happened several years ago back when I was in college, but my feelings on the matter have remained consistent over the years, so I think it is still relevant enough to share. \n\nBack in college, I was at a house party with mutual friends. One of my friends, Ryan, must have just gotten an \u201cA\u201d on his political science 101 paper because he was very eager to discuss some recent political hot topics. Not normally a great line of conversation for a casual Friday night, but everyone taking part pretty much had the same liberal-leaning ideology, so it was mostly just everyone nodding and agreeing with one another. \n\nAt one point, the conversation came to illegal Mexican immigrants and how our country should deal with this. I don\u2019t remember how the conversation got to this point, but I said that I am emphatic towards Mexican immigrants, but the least they should do is try and learn English if they want to immigrate here. \n\nRyan and several other mutual friends got fucking PISSED!\n\nThey were railing into me about how \u201cEnglish isn\u2019t the national language of America\u201d and how \u201cI shouldn\u2019t annihilate their cultural identity.\u201d I was so confused because I have zero problem with Mexican immigrants who can\u2019t speak English. IMO, they are always welcome to speak whatever language they want, in public or private, but I just think it is arrogant and displays a high degree of entitlement (especially coming from those seeking out help and a big lifestyle change) if you think the country you\u2019re moving to should adjust their behavior for you. If I wanted to move to Japan, you would be sure my first course of action is picking up Rosetta Stone instead of getting pissy that my English language skills aren\u2019t working well in Tokyo. \n\nAm I the asshole for thinking this way? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yz6WLOU82lythdqhyKtLn8SBAluFlwoa", "post_id": "b9pwmf", "action": {"description": "selling someone's clothes they've left in my shared house for over 8 months", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I sold someone\u2019s clothes they\u2019ve left in my shared house for over 8 months?", "text": "I moved into a 6 person house in July of last year. Getting another 5 people together was proving really difficult because a couple of people were very noncommittal. One guy dropped out and a girl, let\u2019s call her Anna, said her friend would want to live with us. Her friend, Emma, moved in at the start of July with Anna, but Emma hadn\u2019t yet signed on officially or paid the deposit (Anna had). Then suddenly both of them turned round and ditched the house citing some bullshit reasoning and decided to live in a two person flat on their own. We then scrambled to find new housemates, one of who had to pay for the first months rent even though she hasn\u2019t lived in the house in July because Emma never committed. \n\nThat was all a massive hassle for all of us and meant that I lost out on some paid work in the summer because I had to be at this house to sort out new tenants rather than in my hometown. I was very happy to set all that aside until the other day I asked who\u2019s boxes of clothes have been stored under the table in the living room. I had assumed they were my housemate\u2019s but it turns out they belong to Emma and she has not been to pick them up. A couple of us have reached out to her on social media to ask her about what she wants to do with all her stuff but she doesn\u2019t reply. I want to get rid of the stuff because it takes up lots of space but I\u2019m not sure what to do with it. So WIBTA if I sold this girl\u2019s stuff? \n\n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UqsGPtbywUoqcEgNaqLWEbWnaEDpcLei", "post_id": "a9t0y9", "action": {"description": "not wanting boyfriend's siblings to keep moving in", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting boyfriend's siblings to keep moving in?", "text": "Okay so I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years now and we plan on getting married after I graduate school.  He is the oldest of 7 kids and takes on the 'big brother' role.  My boyfriend, we'll call him B, has asked me to let his brother move in with us again and I don't want him to.  Here's the backstory.\n\n​\n\nIn the 4 1/2 years of us being together, we have had 3 siblings live with us.  Sibling 1 lived with us for 6 months.  Sibling 2 lived with us for 8 months, got kicked out, he talked me into letting her come back and she stayed another 6 months.  Sibling 3 stayed with us for 4 months and was doing his parole with us, is back in prison now and is wanting to complete his house arrest/parole with us.  Last time sibling 3 stayed with us it was horrible for me- he was manipulative, lying, had no respect for our property and even tried to break B and I up, broke all the house rules, tried sneaking in his gfs all the time...etc.  It was an awful situation for everyone, it was always a fight with him and it seemed never-ending.  Now B says that he feels bad for me and how I was feeling during that time and swears this time will be different and he'll put his foot down etc etc- but I have a pretty good understanding of his personality by now- Sibling 3 is the way he is and I don't feel like having to parent a grown man (he's 28)  just so he doesn't throw a temper tantrum. Countless instances have happened and I do not feel the need to list every single one. \n\n​\n\nWhenever I bring up that I would be miserable with him living there B says that yeah it's awful but no one else will take him, since he burned bridges with everyone, and I don't understand because I am not from a big family.  Then he goes on to say that he would feel responsible if he went back to jail and someone needs to look after him.\n\n​\n\nI am about to graduate next year and would love to have a life with just me and B, without his siblings living there and the headache that they bring.\n\n​\n\nAITA for wanting to say that he's grown and responsible for his own actions/life?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7YNy2NeG2gaUDna0iuf1POQO0sse1fuw", "post_id": "b3u86d", "action": {"description": "not taking a day off so my gf can go on a trip", "pronormative_score": 20, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for not taking a day off so my gf can go on a trip?", "text": "Throwaway here.\nThis might be long so bear with me. I'm a recovering alcoholic. I relapsed at the end of last year and I'm struggling. I also pay 100% of our rent, utilities and 80% of our groceries. This will make sense later. \nMy GF's best friend and her husband invited my GF, our two small children and I to a trip over memorial day weekend. The husband is a big drinker but I figured if it was just us and them it wouldn't be too big of a deal. They just had a baby. I did expect them to drink but I didn't think it would be everyone getting sloppy. Well my GF told me after we accepted the invite that two of the husbands friends and his parents are going. They are all big drinkers. I've heard stories about their family get togethers and they sound a lot like when I would drink, everyone gets sloppy and behaves obnoxiously. Had I known they were going initially I would have declined. For a few days I was trying to find a way to tell my gf I didn't want to go but couldn't. I am a bit ashamed honestly. Well a few days go by and my gf mentioned to me that her BFF and her were excited we were all going. My gf then says \"I'm getting wasted so you'll have to babysit me and the kids\". I told her I wasn't going to do that. She became confrontational and said why wouldn't you take care of the kids. I explained how I feel. That she withheld info and has put me in a vulnerable position and that I wasn't going. She could leave the kids with me or take them, whatever she wanted. She said I was being dramatic. I slept on the couch and we've barely spoken. She texted me saying since im not going I  need to take the Friday before off so she can ride with them.  Im not going to. It would put a financial burden on me, since I'm the breadwinner at home and pay most of our bills. This was also not discussed when we first talked about going or I would have said no. WIBTA for not taking that Friday off? She probably won't be able to go because now she's planning on riding with them and they leave Friday.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 19, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 20, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1pmDiaIyMmVabL2xMaLRCTLsPQgBXSmA", "post_id": "ao3cij", "action": {"description": "not responding to my friend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not responding to my friend.", "text": "Just yesterday, my friend and I were having an argument (over Instagram message) and it was really heated. I was upset about being the butt of a joke and expressed that I didn\u2019t like it, she than said that I was overreacting. \n\nShe than started to have a go at me about many things from the past such as how I asked her to pay me back like she promised too even though I knew she was saving to go on a trip overseas, how I had spoken to her old friends even though she asked me not too (I still feel bad about this one) and how I had \u2018ditched her\u2019 at the park to get to my train or else I would have missed it. \n\nI started to become really overwhelmed and said I didn\u2019t want to talk about this until tomorrow face to face so we could figure it out properly.\n\nShe said that if I stopped texting it would be unfair as she would be left worried and that would cause her anxiety, I once again said that it was making my anxiety really bad and that I needed to step back too. I explained that arguing was getting us no where and it was the best thing for both of us to stop. I also told her not to be worried as we would sort it out and that it wasn\u2019t the end of the world, we could figure it out tomorrow.\n\nAfter I sent that, I didn\u2019t open Instagram until this morning. When I opened my phone, I got messages saying I was a terrible friend leaving her alone and that her grandmother was sick and I hurt ignored her.\n\nI can\u2019t help but feel like an asshole, I know she has anxiety just like me and I feel like it was selfish to just place my self and my mental health above hers.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "c8Bg1XILAVvsiUUaAXEh1OpWUwqhlLYK", "post_id": "axs221", "action": null, "title": "AITA: Inelegant friend breakup", "text": " \n\nI have (had) a friend who talks about himself nonstop.  He redirects every topic to himself. He pretty much sucks the air out of any room he's in so that he can talk about himself.  He's an \"actor-writer\" (a.k.a. a waiter) so he's obsessed with self-promotion, and he seems to see people strictly as tools to talk about himself.  If we're grabbing coffee, he'll talk the barista's ear off about his writing as if the barista were Scott Rudin in disguise. If I go away on vacation, he tells me to bring something back for him without even saying please. When I get back, he doesn't ask how the trip was, he just says \"Don't forget to bring me my chocolate!\" When someone else gets a compliment, he does this whole self-pity thing where he fishes for an equal, if not greater, compliment.\n\nI tried to let it slide and force myself to enjoy his company, when all of a sudden, I couldn't take it anymore. I realized how much I dreaded being around him. I couldn't ignore how embarrassed I was to have him around my other friends. There is a profound, fundamental self-centeredness about this person that is truly shocking. I admit that I am an idiot for letting it go on this long and not having a spine, but I try to be nice, and I always convince myself that I can be obliging and self-sacrificial and patient. But I'm...not. \n\nSo the next time we ran into each other, I was cold. So cold that even *he* noticed. Once I get to a certain point, I'm incapable of hiding my emotions. I told him how I don't even feel like a person around him, just a tool. He mostly talked about himself and his own feelings, asked for examples of when he was self-centered (Examples? Every time! Every word!) When I gave examples, he had an excuse for each of them. \n\nBut he also said he wants to do better as a friend. I don't think he's capable of it--his narcissism seems marrow-deep. He asked me what he could do to make things better which I guess is an appropriate thing to say but, coming from him, just seemed to be more of his \"Figure out this labor for me so that I don't have.\"\n\nI get the feeling that, best case scenario, he'll hide his selfishness long enough to repair our \"friendship\" and then revert back to who he is at his core as soon as he can. Worst case scenario, I have to walk him through the whole process of pretending to care about other people and it'll be just as exhausting, but in a different way. \n\nAm I a bad person for suddenly bringing up all these issues, dropping him out of the blue, and for not giving him a second chance? Looking back, I don't know how the friendship lasted this long (actually, I do--I repressed a lot of feelings!) but I don't think I can go back. I don't like being mean or cutting friends, though. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3ZyaKMYDVWs4EJ06L0XVfIzXk8kI7q7Z", "post_id": "b5uy6v", "action": {"description": "telling my sister that she has no one to blame but herself for the drama that's in her life", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I tell my sister that she has no one to blame but herself for the drama that's in her life?", "text": "Allow me to explain. My sister is married with two kids but apparently she was talking to an ex of hers about a year ago. Well his girlfriend found out about it and understandably flipped out because they were talking about how she's not 100% happy in her marriage and how he was going to come through and see her while he was on his haul. He's a truck driver. Anyway she got into it with his girlfriend and I understand that she lives in a remote area but she could find better things to do with her time then stirring up drama with other people.\n\nShe's saying someone shared screenshots with her ex's girlfriend about stuff that she was saying. I told her to talk to me about something else that she had posted about on Facebook last night while I said that she could. Then she comments I would suspend I need to know that you're not the one that was sharing the screenshots with his girlfriend. I said first of all I would never do that and secondly it hurts me that you would think I would do that to you because you're family.\n\nWhat I really wanted to say to her was well maybe if you stop stirring up drama you wouldn't have these problems. If you know that a man is attached then leave him alone ex or not. Especially because he's an ex. I feel that she has nothing better to do but the spend her days engaged in bullshit and drama with other people. I can totally understand her ex's girlfriend being upset. \n\nBut yet she seems to think that she's not in the wrong here. First of all I feel like she is doing stuff behind her husband's back that she wouldn't want him knowing about it and secondly she's holding her ex's girlfriend responsible when in reality it's her fault. Also, I'm not too happy because it seems like she's not spending enough time worried about her kids and instead is worried about what everyone on Facebook is doing. Stop worrying about that Facebook drama and start spending more time with your kids.\n\nMy niece is four and I suspect that she may be autistic. It seems like not enough is being done to help her. I mean I don't know because she lives two hours away but from what I'm hearing from other family members and what she's posting on Facebook she's not addressing this like she should be. I'm just pissed off that she would even accuse me of doing something like that when this is her fault. Would I be the asshole if I told her that this whole thing is her fault and that she needs to stop talking to her ex especially when she's married and knows that he's with someone else?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4J5o52tOWlU7grwXICkZGCZ6EC6AhMxE", "post_id": "a9iu8j", "action": {"description": "coming off as cold to my friends and losing them in the end", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for coming off as cold to my friends and losing them in the end?", "text": "TL;DR: I was bitter and sarcastic to my friends and they collectively decided I no longer belonged in the friend group.\n\nA lot of shit has happened in the past few days, but I'll try to summarise it as best I can.\n\nPretty much I have trust issues and my best friend was my first real friend. I also was \"friends\" with a few other people who they knew. According to them in the past, I had really helped a few of them, even apparently saving the life of one of them (planned suicide). The problem is, I have a lot of serious issues with depression and suicide myself and so many times I could be a bit of a downer, but I never tried to complain about my problems to them, and I always avoided telling them about my past and my struggles. This is where it gets complicated.\n\nI'll split this into a few parts for each person.\n\nMy best friend, who we'll call Apple. I met Apple about a year ago, and we gradually became best friends. Apple was the first person I trusted in a long time and my first real friend. We helped eachother in times of need and I think gave everything I could to help make them feel better. However, as of late I imagine I have been rather judgemental, due to my own personal struggles. It was frustrating and confusing to see my \"friends\" getting better and happier and me still being the same person, lonely and self-destructive. Of course, I didn't tell anyone this, but when Apple told me they had a date, I may have reacted in an... unfavourable way. I didn't say anything inherently rude, but I think I came off as a little salty and jealous. Shortly after this, Apple asked me what was wrong , and I told them it was none of their business. For a solid three minutes, and 13 messages, they probed and probed, not taking no for an answer. Eventually they said \"fine, if I'm no good to you, I'll just leave.\" My response was \"Okay, have a nice night, sleep well, and enjoy your date.\" I then went to bed. Apparently Apple wasn't actually being serious, and me being my Asperger's self, I completely misread that and made them feel rejected.\n\nNow, we'll talk about Melon (don't worry, this will all tie in at the end). Melon was a girl who previously had feelings for me that were not reciprocated, however, I feel I was always nice to her. According to her, I saved her life, and I also listened to her story and gave her a lot of support, and told her I would always be there to help her. She said the same about me, talking about how much she would always care about me. She proceeds to forcibly demand I tell her my past and my story, and says she won't judge me. A few days later, I have a Multiple Personality Disorder episode where one of the people inside of my head comes to the outside, and says some very eery (but again, not inherently bad) poetry type stuff. Later I apologise for the episode and say it won't happen again. She makes a post on her story which my anxiety tells me is about me, so I ask if it's me she's talking about. She gives a reply something like \"My life doesn't revolve around you,\" and my response is a sarcastic jab, \"It's called anxiety, and it eats you from the inside out, not that you'd know anything about mental illness, would you?\" This is weeks after I help her figure out she's bipolar. Admittedly, it was very insensitive for me to say, but these people became friends with me knowing I was sarcastic and bitter. I literally warned them.\n\nPretty much, she flips out because of this, and proceeds to call me insane and unstable for having Dissociative Identity Disorder, calls me \"pity-seeking\" (keep in mind she dragged my story out of me) and insults me in other ways too. She gets Apple and both decide that they don't wanna be my friends anymore. They tell me I never did anything for them and that I'm a terrible person and never loved them.\n\nHere comes Carrot. Carrot is someone who I was somewhat close to, and friends with both Melon and Apple. In the middle of the night, while these people's stories are lighting up with a hangout I wasn't invited to, she messages me telling me to back off from her friends. I'm like \"are you kidding? lol.\" and she tells me I killed her friend group and tore them down. \n\nEnter Rutabaga, Carrot's best friend. We almost had a relationship, but we decided to wait. Carrot tells me Rutabaga has no respect for me because I hurt her friends. I now have 4 people who are telling me I was never a friend to any of them, including the only person I truly trusted, Apple.\n\nWhen I show Carrot screenshots of chats showing that I was being prodded at and insulted, she denied it and continued to give no reason as to why they all hated me, just that I ruined everyone's mood and brought them all down. This makes me feel really guilty.\n\nTo end the story, they all left me and took another friend with them, Kumquat. When I commented under a post of Rutabaga's saying \"Nice aesthetic, I like it,\" Kumquat replied saying \"thank u, next\" to which Melon replied \"HAHHAA \ud83d\ude02\". in the end of this all, I feel really ridiculed and as though I can't trust anyone anymore, BUT I also feel like maybe it was all justified?\n\nAITA for making my friends feel like I'm cold, even though they knew that's who I was? It hurts, but was I the antagonist all along?\n\nThanks for the advice,\nBanana", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "tPUfZMSfSjZix0wdeabW57Paqrye10AR", "post_id": "b6olnw", "action": {"description": "telling my close friend that I want to ask the same person to prom as him", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my close friend that I want to ask the same person to prom as him?", "text": "This is a sticky situation, I'll try my best to explain it...\n\nHigh school prom is in three weeks, and ever since the beginning of the year, there's this one girl I've been wanting to ask to prom. Back in October, the two of us (person I want to ask) were good friends, nothing to think too hard about. One of my close friends told me I should \"focus on her,\" since we're both encouraging friends. And so things stared going smoothly for the first few months. But both her and I became busy with school, and as college applications + side projects subtly piled up, we gradually kinda stopped talking to each other. Not entirely, but we used to talk everyday not that long ago... I'll just say there is definitely some awkward wall between us, not sure how else to explain this\n\nI know I've been irresponsible as a friend and all that stuff, so I've been trying my best to patch things up with her in February/March. My initial problem was that I wasn't sure if she would want to go with me, since things had gone kinda out of hand.\n\nBut the real problem happened this week on a hiking trip with friends. The same close friend casually asked me if I wanted to go to prom. Now, literally back in early February, the two of us were talking about potential prom dates at a birthday party. We had both told each other who we wanted to ask, and at the time they were obviously different people. Let's call my \"date\" person A and my close friend's date person B. \n\nDuring our hiking hangout(about two months after the birthday party), my close friend tells me person B has a boyfriend, and that he wanted to ask person A. I couldn't get myself to say anything to his face right then and there, but I have texted him over this. He gave a couple of inconsiderate excuses, and now, despite asking again to have a calm discussion over this, he's been ghosting me :/\n\nNow a third friend told me that my close friend had told him that \"oh, I think OP and person A havent talked in forever.\" This is true to some extent, and I feel godawful about it because it is lowkey true. although I can't do much over being busy and stressed over college.\n\nMy close friend has told me that he assumed I moved on from person A, which I just find really frustrating. I would have told him if \"things weren't going well,\" since we were friends and all, but I guess not. I'm not really sure what to do, it seems like he is going to ask her without really confronting me about it first (kind of a scumbag move, but rn whats more important is the end result)\n\nFirst of all, AITA?\n\nSecond, would it be reasonable to ask my close friend to all go together as a group of friends, but neither of ask person A? I don't really expect to end up asking person A anymore with this knowledge, which means I won't be asking anyone else...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OZfdwYamQK8mcrXoXnJwQvjRLMrbPcfD", "post_id": "9uistd", "action": {"description": "not forgiving my brother", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not forgiving my brother?", "text": "Important context this happened about 4 years ago,  almost 9 years ago my wife and I lost our child due to being stillborn and we haven't tried having kids since. Fast forward to the event I'm making a trip with my wife to pick up my brother from the airport. He is in a sour mood from the flight and apparently he just didn't have a great time. He then starts ranting about how much drama is in his life and that not everything needs to pertain to me and my wife which is a point he brought up. I'm lost on his tirade and just stayed silent because it's not the first time he has done things like this, idling while he digs anything and everything as 'ammo'. Then he gets to the point he wanted to say that I need to get over my daughter deaths. \"You need to get over your dead daughter and go fuck yourself\". This has me beyond angry, but my wife isn't paying attention while she is currently driving. I of course repsond telling him to go fuck himself and his response is to reach in the front seat and attempt to punch me. This ends with me lunging into the backseat at 70mph down the highway choking my brother out. Wife stomps the brakes and pulls me off him. The rest of the car ride was quiet. \n\nSo now my family is super pissed it's been years since I've even talked to him and they want me to to make up with him since he is willing to appologize for doing \"Nothing\", he told everyone that I just attacked him with no reason. They want us to be able to spend time together doing Christmas and Thanksgiving and want to invite us both. So Am I the Asshole my family thinks I am?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fIUTgZEq43eNa4s9AO4PnsJtdpkKBpjg", "post_id": "b7bt75", "action": {"description": "making my friend walk home from a party because he was making fun of me", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for making my friend walk home from a party because he was making fun of me.", "text": "Me and some of my friends were at a garage party just hanging out playing some pool and there was another group of guys we didn\u2019t really know but we were talking to having a good time with and one of my \u201cfriends\u201d (what i\u2019m guessing) was trying to look cool in front of them and every time i\u2019d do something he\u2019d make fun of me (I do a lot of random dumb shit at party\u2019s trying to make it interesting) and the funny thing was, was that the other group of guys thought i was funny they were laughing along with me and we were having a good time, idk if that made my friend jealous or what not. so than throughout the night same thing went on and than we were starting to leave, (it should be noted i didn\u2019t drive anyone to this party and wasn\u2019t planning on driving anyone home, i live just down the street) one of my friend lives a 30min walk away so i offered to drive him but he declined so I was like \u201calright guys i\u2019m gunna head out\u201d my \u201cfriend\u201d that was being a dick was like \u201cya drive me home\u201d I told him no and that I wasn\u2019t driving him home, he lives on my street (which is MAYBE a 5min walk). When he went in to get his jacket I got in my car and went home, he than texted me saying something like \u201cwow dude what the hell you\u2019re a fucking dick\u201d and than he deleted and unfollowed me from all social media. this all happened last summer and I have yet to talk to him since. It was a long time coming, he would always make me the butt of jokes to put himself higher.\n\nTL;DR / Moral of the story\nAITA for not driving my friend from a party that was being not a nice person towards me (he lives a 5min walk away)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "06TLf2tkm09HMvEXOjgJNPIpVxHP7jdB", "post_id": "9tmbiw", "action": {"description": "stealing a textbook", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for stealing a textbook?", "text": "This happened a few semesters ago, but I've been wondering about it ever since.\n\nDuring finals week, I went to use the restroom, and I noticed someone had hidden a textbook behind the garbage bin. Presumable to cheat during their exams. So, since nobody was there, I just put the book in my bag, and brought it home.\n\n\nMy reasoning is, the only reason why somebody would leave a textbook near a trash can is:\n\n1) Because they wanted to throw it away, which in that case, I have no qualm in taking the book.\n\nor\n\n2) Because they were using it to cheat on their finals.... which honestly, that's on you. Don't leave stuff lying on the floor if you don't want people to take it. Besides, you really shouldn't be cheating in college, it isn't fair to others who actually bother to put in the effort to study.\n\n\n\n\nThis wasn't like a basic 101 class textbook, this was a big beefy, 300 level class... so the person cheating, was cheating for a test in their Major. And if you have to cheat to pass in your major, then you're in the wrong major (and probably shouldn't even be in college).\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "wLEIPurP2FPt0xKTQwk3Y1LnScTFnjNd", "post_id": "albec9", "action": {"description": "not wanting to date a girl because of her size", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA if I don\u2019t want to date a girl because of her size?", "text": "Met her on Tinder and we went out for brunch. She\u2019s cute and smart and we totally hit it off. I like her as a person, but as it happens she\u2019s also rather chubby. I can\u2019t help but notice her size above all her great qualities. There won\u2019t be a second date. I feel really bad. Is it shallow for not wanting to date someone because of their size? AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 14, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MRkNgIJpCbDQbpf9tGOWyKn3nAO2DIqQ", "post_id": "b9uhkx", "action": {"description": "not speaking to my grandmother", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not speaking to my grandmother?", "text": "I want to preface this by saying that 1) I am multiracial (Afro-Latino and Caucasian) and that 2) I will always love and respect my grandmother. The things she has done and is still willing to do for her family are honestly heroic and without her I don't know where I would be now. \n\nThat being said, my (maternal) grandmother is flagrantly and blatantly racist; whether someone is Hispanic, Black, Asian, or just all around non-White, she shamelessly has something negatively racial to say about them. She openly says \"sp*c\", \"ch*nk\", and \"n*gger\" (censored for politeness) out loud and in my presence, seeming not to care that I can be described as two of those things. \n\nAn example: when I last saw her, we were driving through town and passed by clearly labelled Vietnamese, Japanese, and Korean restaurants. Unprovoked she said, \"These fucking ch*inks are taking over, filling the place up with their shit and not paying rent\" and I just said \"Nana, none of those restaurants were Chinese, you can't say that.\" She responded to this by doubling down, saying that all Asians are the same. An anecdote my mother has told me is that when I was an infant, a Black man approached his car, parked next to my mother's, and my grandmother called him the n word. \n\nI go to school several States away and use that as an opportunity to avoid contacting my grandmother because her racism deeply hurts me, especially when she targets people in my ethnic groups. A couple weeks ago, my mother and I got into a heated argument because I said I was no longer going to tolerate my grandmother's comments or behavior. She said I needed to have respect for my grandmother and put my issues with her aside and contact her. \n\nAITA for not wanting to speak with her? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JUnFoBkaER0unFe96TiJF4ah0SD6Poly", "post_id": "ao756c", "action": {"description": "giving up on a potential relationship because she doesn't ever message me first", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for giving up on a potential relationship because she doesn't ever message me first?", "text": "I had a hard time wording this, so I'll explain better here. Her and I have been talking for months now. She's been a close friend of mine for a very long time, but she was in a relationship for a couple of years and I kept a respectable distance because her boyfriend was crazy. She would reach out to me once in a blue moon to tell me she hated him and felt \"stuck\" within her situation. She would go on to do this until she finally broke up with him. \n\nFast forward to when she told me they had broke up, we started hanging out again.  I knew that she liked me but also knew she needed space because she was freshly out of the relationship. I let her make the \"cues\" first before I made any moves. It started with her cuddling me, then we moved on to kissing, and it got to us touching each other mildly sexually. This was, so far, the limit. She doesn't want sex, any form of it. Of course this is fine with me, although it has been going on for about a month now, and she'll initiate some sexual teasing, which will arouse me, but then she will just stop and refuse sex with me. I'm a man who respects sexual boundaries but it kinda drives me nuts (no pun intended.)  Well after seeing her all this time, I realized it is I who has mostly hit her up to hang out together. I have received some good morning texts from her, and she'll usually text me back when I message her, so I feel like I'm overreacting. But, I hung out with her two days ago and she was really tired from work, so I told her I would leave so she could get some rest. After that, I decided I would wait for her to text me, because I have texted her first for the past week or two. She hasn't messaged me and it just feels like she isn't as enthused as she was at first?  I feel like an asshole just having these feelings and I think it's because she is having problems coping with her last relationship, but I'm just rattled about it and I don't know if giving up is a fair option. \n\nI just can't tell if she really likes me or if she's using me to fill a personal void from her past relationship. Please give it to me straight Reddit, and feel free to AMA. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rBy48L2XmnNjlw8CHDOiAEYfhyKyZDBY", "post_id": "b51edc", "action": {"description": "implying my father is racist", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for implying my father is racist?", "text": "My father and I both train with the same trainer (T) at a gym nearby. I routinely have conversation with T, we've developed a rapport where I can talk about things that have happened in my life, he'll talk about things that things that have happened in his. T is of Punjabi heritage. My father has had no previous qualms with T, and thinks he's \"a pretty cool guy\".\n\n​\n\nThe night before yesterday I had some bad spaghetti, and my stomach got really upset. So I was unable to go to the gym yesterday, T knew that I had an upset stomach. Later that day, my mother was downtown, near an Indian restaraunt that I really like.\n\n​\n\nMother (over the phone): I'm downtown!\n\nMe: Can you pick me up a dosa from \\[indian restaraunt\\]?\n\nMother: I-\n\nFather: Why won't you just eat *white people food*, you know what's in it! Shouldn't you have learned your lesson by now?\n\n**(beat)**\n\nMe: Dad, I got sick from *spaghetti*.\n\n​\n\nMy father was pretty stressed at the time. He also is pretty uncomfortable with foreign food in general. He probably didn't want the smell of curry in the house, or something. But yeah... that comment does seem pretty prejudiced.\n\n​\n\nFast forward to today, when I'm at the gym, working out to make up for yesterday's absence. \n\n​\n\nMe: So... wait, nevermind.\n\nT: Wait, what were you going to say\n\nMe: Nevermind, it's kind of fucked up.\n\nT: Say it.\n\n*At this point I tell the story with the phone call. I somehow have enough self awareness to sub \"white people food\" with \"normal food\" in a crowded gym but not enough self-awareness to not tell this story at all.*\n\n*T laughs.*\n\nT (talking about my father in the third person): Yeah, damn, \\[father's name\\], you aren't like that...\n\n​\n\nNeither of us mention this again for the rest of the training session. T did have an unrelated convo over text with my mother a few hours later and sent a \":)\".\n\n​\n\nI'm afraid that I both ended T's training relationship with my father and offended T.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "kKqVL0HlzcEj8TXASJ04SK5Hz9J2jSPM", "post_id": "aey681", "action": {"description": "giving up my cat for adoption", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I gave up my cat for adoption", "text": "I was never really a cat person.  I grew up with dogs and personally prefer them over cats.  I got my cat kind of through an ex.  She lives in a small city with a lot of stray cats and used to leave food outside for them, she knew their personalities and would name a few of them.  As I was leaving her place one night one of the cats approached me.  She got super excited because that one had always been super timid and stayed away from everyone.  But it started rubbing up against me, letting me pet her, letting me hold her, etc.  The ex basically talked me into taking the thing home with me, which I did because the cat had some kind of connection with me.\n\nThat week I brought her to the vet, got her shots, got her spayed, and got medicine for fleas and worms.  She was also very thin when I got her, so I made sure she had good food and occasionally wet food.  It's been over two years now and I am just completely apathetic to this animal.  Look I have been a good pet owner.  She goes to the vet regularly, I buy her toys and play with her, I even bought her a 6' tall cat perch thing that she likes a lot.  Her litterbox is always clean, she always has good food (never bought the super cheap stuff), and I make sure to spend time giving her attention.  But I just have no emotional connection to this animal.\n\nI've always been an animal lover too, people that abuse animals make me fucking sick and I still can't watch My Dog Skip.  But I'm also just tired of being tied to this animal.  I'm tired of sweeping cat litter, and getting rid of the odors, of cat hair and things getting knocked off tables.  I'm really just tired of taking care of an animal I feel nothing towards.  I honestly think if I had an animal that I actually loved, I wouldn't have a problem doing any of this.\n\nThere's also a part of me that thinks she would probably be better someplace where the owner actually loves her.  But I'm also pretty sure the cat has already bonded with me pretty closely, and she's still very timid around anyone else.  So I'm not sure if giving her up wouldn't even be best for the cat at this point.  I was going to give her up within a few months of getting her, but felt super guilty about it and decided not to.  So here I am again, questioning my judgement.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UldS7qFUm0IeqeueoiixEYPEvorYseVH", "post_id": "b0049n", "action": {"description": "saying I'd rather use cannabis over opioids", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for saying I\u2019d rather use cannabis over opioids?", "text": "I got into an argument with my mother when a clip of the guy who got searched for marijuana in the hospital came up on the news. \n\nI said \u201cthey won\u2019t let him have weed but they\u2019ll pump him full of opioids.\u201d She immediately started going on about how opioids are better for the patient and how I\u2019m starting to sound like my uncle who smokes. \n\nI brought up the point that marijuana isn\u2019t addictive, unlike opioids. She said I wouldn\u2019t know any better and I\u2019m not a doctor. I brought up that I in fact did a research project on marijuana in high school. She is generally very aggressive when it comes to this subject. She\u2019s not defending opioids, instead she is attacking marijuana. \n\nMaybe I was wrong to argue or came if as condescending. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wWGNB3BP3kPOGafTeJqswluHO3rZrMxF", "post_id": "a228a0", "action": {"description": "telling my friend that she can't stay late in my bf's dorm room", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I tell my friend that she can\u2019t stay late in my bf\u2019s dorm room?", "text": "Hello everyone!\n\nSo, my boyfriend and I stay in the same dorm building, but I eventually migrated to his room because it\u2019s more private for us. \n\nWe both have a mutual friend, I\u2019ve known her since I was a kid, and they became friends in college. Lately, she\u2019s been coming over, which I don\u2019t have a problem with, but it\u2019s the fact that she stays until 3-5 in the morning. She sometimes even falls asleep in the bed...lol. My boyfriend doesn\u2019t say anything because it seems like he doesn\u2019t care that much, but I kind of do. I want to tell her that she kind of overstays and gets too comfortable but I don\u2019t want to seem rude about it. I don\u2019t know, would I be an asshole for saying something or should I just consult my boyfriend first because after all, it is his room? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Oo66Ndr8CatOvw9c9QQBMd8AHzVPh1va", "post_id": "amw4cj", "action": {"description": "not knowing anything about computers", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not knowing anything about computers?", "text": "So basically I saved up my money and I bought a gaming computer a couple weeks ago because I wanna play games with my friends. The only problem is I don't know anything at all because I'm in middle school and have never set up a computer or anything like that before. So I asked my friends for help and they just ignored me. The only time they responded was to say I was retarded and that there was no problem and they just mention it almost every day at school or whenever I try to ask them anything. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1Wfre48tExdct8wLqTdFN3CSssN2VQRO", "post_id": "9wmfsi", "action": {"description": "taking a comment too literally during sexy times", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for taking a comment too literally during sexy times?", "text": "I'm a 21 year old with limited sexual experience mostly due to a very religious upbringing and not being able to let loose till college.\n\n​\n\nI've only really had 3 sexual partners 2 of which have been long term gf, so safe to say i'm not very versed in hook up culture and the such.\n\n​\n\nOkay so I'm on this tinder date with this girl (our first and after tonight last date) who happens to be in the same program as me and we've hit it off, she made multiple references to fucking during dinner and on the ride home so I was quite aroused and excited by the time we hit my place. We're making out while heading up to my room and she whispers in my ear \"I want you to fuck my ass\"\n\n​\n\nNow i'm not sure about most guys (which is why i'm on here asking) but to me fuck my ass sounds like she wants butt stuff, I wasn't sure at that point so when we get to my room, starting tearing off each others clothes and making out in my head I still wasn't going to attempt butt stuff since I guess the vulva is located very near the ass when in doggy so she could be using short hand. When she gets into position however she moans \"fuck my ass, yes fuck my ass\" and that was enough for drunk horny me to be convinced so I went for the poop chute. Immediately she yelped and says stop so i stop immediately since I'm not a rapist and jump of the bed and she's screaming at me over how retarded i have to be to fuck the wrong hole. I told her I thought she was telling me to fuck her asshole when she was saying fuck my ass and she called me autistic for taking it literally. I get a little testy and say it's not that common to say \"fuck my ass\" as something meaning regular sex and why she couldn't just say fuck my pussy instead and that made her really mad so she got dressed while yelling at me claiming I did it on purpose and left. \n\n​\n\nShe's in the same program as me so I'm kinda worried she's going to start going around telling other girls and maybe my friends that I tried to fuck the wrong hole on purpose but honestly I just thought she meant asshole when she said \"fuck my ass\". Am I the asshole here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2S2Vs7fxj0Bp1p6ovewEqSxp5BRjrjRi", "post_id": "adxpd6", "action": {"description": "not wanting to schedule a dinner two months out", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to schedule a dinner two months out?", "text": "So, I have this client/ friendly acquaintance / borderline friend that, for the past two months, has been trying to schedule a dinner between six or eight people (all busy professionals).  Understandably, it's difficult trying to coordinate the schedules of a bunch of busy people, but I feel like I've reached my wit's end with the bi-weekly string of text messages and emails with new proposed dates because someone can't make it, or a restaurant is booked, or whatever.  It's gotten to the point that she's throwing around dates in March and April, and this coordination has been going on since October.\n\nI really just want to be able to say \"No, I'm not interested in having dinner with you at an expensive restaurant an hour from my home on a date certain two months from now.\"  But I can't because we send each other business somewhat regularly, and we've done work for each other's businesses too.\n\nI'm getting pretty annoyed by now because (1) I have no idea what I'm going to be doing in two months.  There are millions of things that could come up that would take priority over a friendly/professional/networking dinner.  (2)  She keeps suggesting high end restaurants that I really have no interest in going to.  Sure, we can all afford it, but I really have no interest in paying $150+ for me and my wife to put on a tie and drive an hour to sit uncomfortably at a white table cloth dinner with a waiter that comes around with a crumb scraper.  (3)  I have no idea if I'm going to be paying for myself, if the bill is going to be split between all of us, or if her business is paying for it.  I definitely don't want to sign up for splitting a massive bill with some of the other boozy invitees.  (4)  I would be much more inclined to attend if she said \"I'm having a BBQ at my house on this date, a bunch of people are invited, come if you can make it!\"  I just don't feel right making a commitment two months out, and I don't want to feel like I'm obligated to go to this thing if she keeps moving around the schedule to make sure I'm free on that date.  (5)  If she wants to be friends, let's be friends and do friend stuff.  If she wants to do professional networking, set up something professional.  But I can't stand this constant blurred line between the professional and personal relationship that she's trying to ride.\n\nAm I the asshole for not wanting to commit to a dinner with someone who sends me business?  Is she the asshole for expecting commitment so far out?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tVibhfXAAM9sYatk1t9HnsEPCdDmAbsh", "post_id": "add3rc", "action": {"description": "telling my friend to stop treating me like a therapist", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend to stop treating me like a therapist?", "text": "Recently, my friendship with Amelia (not her real name) has begun to feel like more of a void that she throws her problems into than a place of growth for us. She constantly complains about her friends and her family and her work and yatta yatta yatta. I wouldn't mind so much if it was only occasional but it must be a 9:10 ratio of her problems to topics of conversation. I told her this (admittedly, I was rather harsh) and she accused me of being a fake friend. Sorry buddy, but if being fake means that I don't have to listen to your negativity all day, than I'll take it. \n\nAm I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "guEmZXgjuUExU3BMoxmHlBidVewTOgjx", "post_id": "b5bsp6", "action": {"description": "not wanting to date a guy who refuses to use his turn signal", "pronormative_score": 45, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA for not wanting to date a guy who refuses to use his turn signal?", "text": "I mean everyone has times where they won't bother to signal because maybe they're alone on the road and need to lane change, or they're turning right on red, or maybe it's a protected left, or you're in a parking lot, but this guy has an attitude about his turn signal. \"I don't need to use it, I know what I'm doing. If other people know how to drive, they don't need me to use it either.\" And then he gets road rage when he's trying to move over and the car next to him won't move forward or yield. \nI'm not looking to just date, I'm shopping for a husband, and I don't want a husband whose selfishly going to put people in danger, get alot of tickets, and fuck up our CLUE reports.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 45, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 45, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QtVsO0ctUfNkFvHBN7qehdF386GvZtgn", "post_id": "aw8bfp", "action": {"description": "not wanting to enter a clothing store 15 minutes before closing", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to enter a clothing store 15 minutes before closing?", "text": "My SO wanted an outfit matching a particular dress code for an upcoming LARP (live action role play). It was a Friday evening and the LARP was scheduled for the next evening, and the dress code was pretty simple (pants & long sleeve shirt, no collar). The dress code was 100% optional and only intended as a means of getting into character. The LARP only had about 20 people in it, and it wasn\u2019t any official event or anything, just something to do for fun.\n\nMy partner drove me to the thrift store to help choose a shirt, which again, could have been almost anything, and was totally optional. We didn\u2019t check the hours beforehand, and when we got there, we noticed that the store closed at 6. It was 5:46. \n\nAs a rule, I try not to enter a store less than 30 minutes before closing. I know retail workers are generally expected to have the store closed and cleaned by closing time, and I don\u2019t want to be a dick to retail employees who need to close the cash register. Whenever I\u2019m with someone who wants to enter a store that close to closing, I am super apologetic and try to make sure we leave as soon as possible. My partner knows this.\n\nMy SO, who is a retail worker, insists that the store is open, so customers can still be there, and that the employees just have to deal with it. \n\nWe went inside, and the cashier, the only worker, informed us that the store closed in 5 minutes. My partner made a remark towards me that she was rushing us out early and was annoyed by that, insisting that we had time. \n\nI looked through the dvds while my SO looked for shirts. I thought my SO could handle finding a shirt alone, and figured I was around for consulting if necessary but didn\u2019t need to help look. Meanwhile, the cashier was getting more and more annoyed. A couple more people walked in, and she informed them that the store was closing soon.\n\nSO keeps asking my opinion on every shirt and then rejecting every single one. I say to just pick one so we can leave. SO tries on a couple, can\u2019t decide, and keeps putting them on the rejected clothing rack. I see something I want and decide to buy it, go up to the cashier and pay for my item, apologizing for being there so close to closing. Cashier, visibly annoyed, says nothing. \n\nMy SO comes out of the dressing room a but later, pays and reminds me to pay for my item. I say I already paid for it, like 10 minutes ago. I get a snarky response and my SO gets upset at me for rushing us and being annoyed that it took so long. We leave the store and my SO points out that we weren\u2019t even the last ones to enter or leave the store. I say I don\u2019t feel comfortable being in a store that close to closing.\n\nThe cashier was clearly rude here and shouldn\u2019t have been rushing us, but I think she was perfectly justified in wanting us out sooner. I think we were assholes just for being in the store, but was I the asshole for getting upset that my partner took so long?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DSxcypadnDPC5GvLLG2u5Pa3EW3Ek9j7", "post_id": "a1z3ab", "action": {"description": "not caring for my abusive father", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I did not care for my abusive father?", "text": "As far back as I can remember, my dad wasn't content if he didn't inflict pain on most things that were small, defenseless and weak. Specifically, my siblings and I. This is basically your typical abusive household where I couldn't even so much as bat an eye and before I knew it, I was a recipient to a backhand square to the face. I firmly believe that my father derived some sort of pleasure or satisfaction by making us and my mother feel inferior and truly undeserving of anything else good in this world. I wasn't exactly deprived but what I did have, was mostly provided by mother that made a living off of scamming people. As far as what she did to sustain us, that is a story for a different day. As time went on, he never actually improved and it got worse. My mom became a literal punching bag for him. My mom was never defiant and besides trying to stand up for herself from time to time, she was pretty docile, for the most part.  I've gathered from most of my uncles and aunts that being raised by my grandparents on my dads side was hard in every sense of the word. They each can recollect a time when they have been subjected to an indiscriminate amount of hatred. When my father would recall memories from his upbringing I would view this from a very empathetic point of view. My father would remember times during his upbringing where he sustained multiple beatings and punishment that felt truly unwarranted. I would like to make it a known fact that I too, have a child of my own. I have never laid a finger on her and as far as I am concerned, I am a firm believer that you can discipline your kids without the need for violence. I should have probably prefaced with this but I am a second generation Mexican-American and living under an abusive household in my culture, is pretty common.  Common in my eyes but not acceptable. I would be more than happy to reveal more details about how shitty it was to grow up in a home where walking on eggshells seemed less of a punishment than what actually took place where I grew up --DM me. Let's fast forward to 8 years later and I get the news that my father is getting deported to Mexico because he is being accused of sodomy, rape and countless other charges by a woman whom he had married after my mother. I have wondered for a while now if the charges against my father were actually true or if he had pissed off his wife to the point where she felt like the only way out was to press charges and get him arrested seemed like the only viable option. Either way, he is currently back in his native country and barely making ends meet. I feel like I need to address the nightmares where I dream of beating up my father and  it varies from dream to dream. In some dreams I beat him to a pulp with my fists  and in other dreams I am bludgeoning with a huge, blunt object to the point where he is almost unrecognizable. I do not wish to have these dreams but they come about, subconsciously. I have researched dream interpretation sites and all of them, for the most part, insist that hatred and resentment on this level, pretty much affirms what I have been feeling all this time. My father has lived in these states well over 20 years so he doesn't know much else. Since his recent deportation, he has had to assimilate and re-adjust to an environment he has not been a part of for a very long time. Because of this, I am receiving a lot of pressure from both my siblings and my relatives to provide for him in a way that would allow for his sustainability. I do not wish for advice. I have adopted a pretty firm stance that I will not provide any support. I have lingered on this topic for far too long. I have never been close to my father and at this interval, I don't care for it much anymore. Would I be so heartless as to say that I don't care whether he lived or died? I am pretty strategic, along with my partner about where most of finances go and cutting into what we currently have going on, would not allow for an additional expense, especially when dealing with another human being. \n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9bN07KdT4NVfr5xnvZMPdvrx0dqpIrvF", "post_id": "auca1b", "action": {"description": "thinking that undergrads asking for money to go on a trip for school is a bit greedy", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for thinking that undergrads asking for money to go on a trip for school is a bit greedy?", "text": "So a girl I went to HS with has a degree in journalism, and is now going back to school for her bachelor's in nursing. She's in her second year, and just posted asking for almost $3000 to go to Peru to give medical care to locals. I'm not exactly sure what kind of care a person with no medical experience and only in their second year of school can provide, and all I can think is that it's just one of those \"mission trips\" that are vaguely disguised crowd funded vacations. I wouldn't say anything since it's not my business, but am I the asshole for thinking that's all her \"mission\" trip is? She talked heavily about how it's a \"spiritual\" journey. What does that actually mean when you're supposed to be giving health services to people who cant afford it? Of course any good that's done of it is great, but I mean how useful can she actually be on this trip?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "llBmq7MYxaSBjc6CMdoSgCEkONAgShJU", "post_id": "anqldw", "action": {"description": "escaping a relationship like this", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for escaping a relationship like this?", "text": "(My english isn't the greatest, sorry!)\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\nWell, I've got myself into a mess of a situation. To start off, I was 17m, my girlfriend was 18f. We'll call her dirt. So, I had just started up another year of school. And already from the last year, I've had my own circle of friends. Consisting of 3 males, including myself. And 3 females. A balanced group, a few of them; dirt in particular, I've never really paid much attention to, and didn't really care about them as much as the others as they always had their own flaws that annoyed me. Now me, being decently young back then, didn't really ever have a girlfriend before. \n\n​\n\n​\n\nAnd to my shock, only about 2 months after knowing dirt. The messenger of our group, we'll call her mike, so mike, had just received a little gossip on dirt's recent crush, which just so happened to be me. At the end of the day, mike told me about it. I was mind blown, confused, dumbfounded. Basically a surge of emotions rolling around screaming what the hell is going on?? But I made up my mind. I wanted to try having a girlfriend, and so I did. The first few months went smoothly, she was so kind, and i was kind straight back. And the time we spent was fun. I couldn't have really asked for more. Then, at the end of the school year; my parents decided they'd like to finish my education by homeschooling me. Naturally, being myself. I agreed on a whim. \n\n​\n\n​\n\nIt wasn't until later when I looked into it more, that I realized I wouldn't be able to see dirt anymore. So our relationship would become long distance from now on.  So we went our separate ways, still together. But not in real life. In the first 3 months, I was hit with a heavy depression by this fact. I wouldn't leave my room for hours and i stopped caring about things. And to make things worse, when I finally recovered. She changed, she was like a different person almost. It was subtle but I could tell. At the time i had no clue and blissfully passed it off, but looking back now the signs were clear and I had the chance to run.\n\n​\n\nThis is when it started, no longer theoretically being in moderation by me, she was free to do as she wished. And as such, she could change her priorities. So she started caring less, as dumb as I was, even I saw this coming. But the thing is, there was so much more to it. even now I don't know the half of what she did behind my back. She started being friends with my sister, and she started ERPing as well, (which stands for Erotic Role Playing) Of course at the time I had no clue she did this as I trusted her enough to not have to look on her social medias, otherwise I would have immediately ditched her for cheating.  And after this, started the deception and lies, she would lie to me. I would want to confront her about things she's been doing that don't really sit well in a relationship. But every time, she would pass it off. Then talk to my sister,\n\n​\n\nNow I'm not just being jealous here, she genuinely cared about my sister more than I. And I wasn't to happy as you could imagine, as that's not how this works. Multiple times i confronted her, to not avail. But, in the end started to grow knowledgeable. I realized that my issues can't be solved by no means that i've tried. And that I need to end it. She's showed all the unspoken and implied signs of a manipulative psychopath. So how would i go about this? At the time, I was still my too nice for my own good gullible self, I couldn't simply end it by talking to her about it, even on a whim. \n\nSo out of ideas, and approaching the 2 year mark for our realtionship, I decided, if I'm too weak to end it. I'll just get her to end it for me. So, I did the thing that annoyed her the most. Surpassing her, every time she tried to speak something factual, I would correct it, and the thing is, it was super easy, she's not the brightest so almost everything she said would have a bottom line or different answer. Eventually, she had enough and we finally broke up. There's more to this experience, but this is all that's relevant to the title.\n\n​\n\nSo in all in all, I simply want to know Am i the asshole for doing what I did? And did i need to do it that way? Or were there better choices here.\n\n​\n\n​\n\nTLDR: 17m, 18f girlfriend started off nice and happy, moved on to be a pyscho, discovered things about her.\n\nDecided to try and end it, not good enough to end it, so i let her do it for me by getting her to a point where she was sick of me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "QgjbsRN5DHZyV5bK4cjBCbMseoUWk38Y", "post_id": "afkd2c", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be part of a work rpogram I was forced into and finding every excuse to not go", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to be part of a work rpogram i was forced into and finding every excuse to not go?", "text": "im not good with long texts so this will be rather short\n\n​\n\ni was recently forced into a work program thing by the local goverment because i have been having big trouble finding a job/aprrenticeship as no place ever replied or tried to screw me over and i whould really like to be a medic or a chef \n\nand the reason i have trouble finding somthing is because im currently with a pretty big injury (shoulder) and the mediocre education i sadly got\n\nand now to why i dont like it: like i said i was forced into this and what makes it even worse is i wont get paid for this despite having to wake up every day at 5am to get there and i have to cover every little expense myself even bus tickets which whouldnt be so problematic if it wasnt for the fact me and my mother are barely above the poverty mark (she cant work because she is already 50 and crippled) \n\nand so am i the asshole here for not wanting to go and finding every excuse possible to not go?\n\nif anyone wants me to elaborate further i will try my best to explain it better if thats ok", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "5EyI8AecpJS4OuaErePZcpVM5UCFoKiW", "post_id": "aonyx8", "action": {"description": "assuming things", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for assuming things?", "text": "Recently, someone told me that it is wrong for me to assume things about others. And I argued that it is completely normal for me to assume things because based on what I see it is likely correct. I know that I may be wrong, but the thing is I will never know the truth so why is it so wrong to assume things? For example, Trump. From all the media and internet posts I can basically assume that he is an asshole. Now, I know nothing about politics but I\u2019m never going to talk or get to know him, so why is it wrong for me to simply assume base on his actions and behavior? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "nPg4BLho55zKBk4GqIsqjiZeGNM3iSor", "post_id": "a6ok70", "action": {"description": "not picking a stranded woman up", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not picking a stranded woman up.", "text": "I was driving my truck a year or so ago. And there was a woman who was stranded. She flagged down my car but I was in a hurry and couldn't really pick her up. So I warned her that the area she was stranded in has had quite a few rapes and murders in the past (it is true, just stating a fact). So she should try to get a lift soon. She looked a bit worried at this.\n\nI then wished her well and drove off. I had to be in a hurry so I couldn't pick her up that day, normally I would have though.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "1Z0lYdVKYItONLyj1pVuA6akUhuJwE81", "post_id": "b5zmgm", "action": {"description": "not being super excited about my boyfriends parents buying us a house", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not being super excited about my boyfriends parents buying us a house?", "text": "So a little background, me and my boyfriend were looking into renting our first home in about 3 weeks. The area we are looking in has next to nothing available for what we need. Fenced yard, updated, pets allowed, in our price range, etc. And I mean we scoured the entire state almost looking for something. Well I finally found something! Super cute, reasonable, everything we needed! I'm super excited at this point.\n\nWell I get back and my boyfriend tells me his family is going to buy us a house and we are going to rent it from them/pay it off in the meantime. I get it's a great opportunity but it bothers me a lot. And he got incredibly angry at me for not being super excited.\n\n-First; we arent married and in no way is this \"our\" house. It's his and this really makes him angry that I look at it like this. My parents are in no way involved. HIS parents are gifting this to him. \n-Second; I didnt want my first home I ever buy/help buy to go like this. I really like working for something (building up a down payment) and really feeling accomplished and achieved afterwards. It really steals that from me. He doesnt really understand because hes never saved up to buy anything. \n-Third; It bothers me my parents arent at all involved. My mother is a realtor and I really wanted both parties involved but more of a side line. Not a middle man acting as a decision maker. It makes it less enjoyable. His parents are going to dictate what we want. \nFourth; This is very stressful having such little time and little money they are giving us. I didnt want a super old home as our plan was to purchase pretty high when we were ready. But I feel accepting this offer would mean we would have to live in it for a good portion of our lives. We are still fairly young. I didnt want to be looking at school districts to make sure my kid will be going to a good school.\n\nThis is all very overwhelming and just way to much. I just want to do things the old fashioned way. Did I deserve getting such a intense response for not being excited and just meh about it? AITA? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kcImF30Qn5P7sQEccnTcDlIEKne6mxda", "post_id": "a2evhf", "action": {"description": "not taking my friend's side in an argument", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not taking my friend's side in an argument?", "text": "I am currently a freshman in university, and so far I have gotten along well with a select group of friends, which I will refer to as friends A, B, C, D, and E.  I live in the same dormitory as A, B, and C.  At the beginning of the school year, A and B got into a really heated conflict/argument, and it ended up becoming pretty personal, with A getting so mad as to yell at B that she was a \"disgusting person,\" and the 2 have been avoiding each other ever since.  I personally did not see what the conflict was about, and although the 2 kept avoiding each other, I would still regularly hang out with both of them individually and try to avoid talking about it with either group.  Ultimately, C, D, and E all took to the side of B (some of them had witnessed the conflict and some of them had not), and I decided that I could not fairly judge who to take sides with so I decided to remained neutral.\n\nFlash forward to a few days ago, and I have been hanging out with A fairly often, and A really only hangs out with me.  I am still friends with B, C, D, and E, and we still regularly hang out and go out together, but I spend a lot more of my free time with A.  One night, after me and A came back from a party and were both fairly drunk, we ran into B, C, D, and E.  A stayed fairly quiet when we saw them while I started to make conversation with them.  As I was wrapping up the conversation and about to leave, A loudly made several rude remarks to B and walked off.  Later that night I heard B, C, D, and E talking in B's room about how shitty of a person A is.  They kept calling him names and attacking his character, while also mentioning that I have shitty taste in friends and that they don't understand how I keep hanging out with A.  I did feel bad about this, as I know A much better than they do, and although A can come off as a bit arrogant and brash (he was featured on a pretty highly up voted post on r/iamverysmart), A has opened up a lot to me about some shit that he's gone through and I don't think it's fair to just call him a shitty person like they were.\n\nA ends up coming into my room, mad that they are talking shit about him, and proceeds to rant about them to me, attacking the character of not only B, but C, D, and E as well.  A then complains that, in this conflict he has no one on his side, and that I should stand up for him and defend him because we are supposed to be friends.  He acknowledges that I didn't want to take sides in this conflict, as I never join in while they talk shit about him, and as I always try to avoid talking about it- but A argued that I should be more assertive and defensive of his character to my other friends when they start talking about him.  I continued to refuse to take either side, and said that he should respect my wishes to stay out of it, especially since I have to see B and C all the time.  He then accused me of only liking him because he has connections to fraternities around campus and could thus get me into parties.  At this point, I was pretty fed up with him for saying that and I just told him to leave my room if he thinks that little of our friendship.\n\nAfter some reflection, I feel like I definitely could have handled the situation better, and at least made a promise to A to defend his character if I were ever around while they are talking shit about A.  I have reasoned that doing this isn't necessarily me taking a side, as long as I start to defend B's character whenever A talks shit.  Maybe I should start being a better friend in general.\n\nAm I the Asshole for not defending A?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Ni18mFhpwBQCT6jnrCiuIgqX5lZ4YzH2", "post_id": "b1it32", "action": {"description": "not immediately telling a guy I have a boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not immediately telling a guy I have a boyfriend?", "text": "I didn't originally think this was a problem, but I saw the judgement on another post on this sub and thought I'd ask.\n\nI don't often get hit on when I'm out, but it's happened a couple of times that someone will stop me when I'm out and about, start a conversation and ask for my number. I try not to assume that a guy is just out for my number when they start talking to me, or assume that they must be looking for something. If they do ask for my number I tend to give it to them and block them later, because I don't like the potential for confrontation. I've had some guys be ~really~ persistent when I say no, and it gets uncomfortable.\n\nSo a little while ago, I was walking to class and this guy T starts talking to me. He says he wants to get to know someone on campus as he's just visiting, so I tell him he has about 30 seconds as I'm almost at my lecture and don't want to be late. At the end of this conversation he calls me gorgeous and asks for my number, and I give it to him. He sends me a message later in the day and I respond saying I'm flattered, but I have a boyfriend. He never responded to that, which was the intended effect.\n\nI always tell my boyfriend about these little events and it's never been weird, but I can't help but feel a little icky about it. I don't know if I need to be more forceful about saying no.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BMbG8u38cK9IVnv2w1dBTh3vSCEOHDJH", "post_id": "b71qa4", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be friends with a girl I liked and then realized she was kind of using me for homework", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to be friends with a girl I liked and then realized she was kind of using me for homework?", "text": "So this girl I liked was acting friendly to me. But she was asking me for help with homework and all that, and I did help her. This goes on for a few months.\n\nThen I realized, \u201chmm, she never talks to me when we don\u2019t have homework\u201d (which would make sense for the opposite)\n\nSo I tell her I don\u2019t want to help her or be her friend anymore because I think she\u2019s just using me for homework. She starts insulting me and being mean to me now and I have no choice but to ignore her or insult her back when I can\u2019t hold it in, and then suddenly I\u2019m the mean one. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Xi9VTiyOG2OpAvw5LSGqYzEqnWlWLoeA", "post_id": "b5dspj", "action": null, "title": "AITA - Am I a dating placeholder, or am I an oversensitive asshole?", "text": "Intro :\n\nSo I met this girl on tinder and we had a relationship that lasted a few months. She said I was her first tinder date after trying to get back into dating. We broke up after she revealed she was dating someone else behind my back and I got upset over feeling used. \n\nDetails :\n\nRecently, I dated someone who admitted that i was their first tinder date after a long period, eventually admitting she had a broken engagement awhile back that resulted in a psychological trauma.\n\nNow this has happened to me more than once. I guess I have a friendly and approachable look, fit, totally put together life, and very relaxed personality. I'm not an instagram model but I feel like I'm pretty competitive. I can go from matched on tinder to drinks at bar pretty smoothly thanks to confidence in dating and what i hope is a good personality. Usually this \"you're my first date on tinder\" scenario ends up with a quick drink and the realization that neither of us have any chemistry and we split. It has always stuck in my mind though, am I just a placeholder? A warmup act for women to date and bide their time while searching for a top tier tinder date?\n\nSo anyway, from the get-go I stated that I was interested in a serious relationship and pressed several times over the course of several dates that I wanted to learn more about what she wanted. I wanted to know if we were compatible or if I was wasting time. I never got a real reply, just vague answers or \"i'll tell you later\". Another red-flag was related to the fact that we both work in the same field, and she said on a date as a joke \"i was kind of hoping to use you for your network to get a job\", as she is unemployed in the field right now. That worried me but I brushed it off. Anyway, several dates later I got the breakup call, with the news that she's been dating someone else who she was able to open up emotionally with.\n\nI've been through plenty of breakups, and am usually pretty cool about it but this time I had a total emotional breakdown. Just a bunch of sappy texts really. I had been holding a lot of pent up emotion waiting for her to open up emotionally to me but she had been opening up to someone else.\n\nI feel like I was an easy person to date as a placeholder while she searched for another boyfriend. Specifically I feel like I did a lot of work building trust and confidence in her to start dating again, which she used to find someone else. She then dumped all that emotion from our relationship on the next dude line.\n\nProblem :\n\nI feel like I got used.\n\nShe feels I am deluded.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8scj8qXVszxnpvFWmTGVZnpf7LROkMUZ", "post_id": "9w2nlw", "action": {"description": "wanting to distance myself from some of my friends", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to distance myself from some of my friends?", "text": "So for the last few years I've been struggling with depression. I used to be very vocal about it, posting about how I wished for death's embrace on public platforms and sharing depression memes/posts. These days though, I've been doing better since I started getting professional help and making lifestyle changes (like cutting out depression and suicide jokes from my social media feeds) months ago.\n\nI have friends who also have depression. We've been friends even before I started getting help, and we still talk though not as often as we used to. I try my best to support them during their episodes since they're either unwilling or unable to get help due to lack of time, money, or just the belief that it won't get them anywhere.\n\nSometimes though, it feels weirdly suffocating to talk to them. The dynamic we have just isn't the same and there are times when I feel like my mind's going back to a bad place when suicide gets brought up. I want to help them but the ways that worked for me either don't work for them or they're unwilling/unable to try, so I just don't know what to do and end up feeling helpless as well.\n\nAm I the asshole for wanting to slowly distance myself from them because of this? I care about them but at the same time I just can't handle the heaviness of depression talk with them anymore, and it feels like we get nowhere when we talk about their problems. We don't really have much keeping us together other than the ranting and venting because we don't really have much in common other than being depressed.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "peLmWHAnX17H99jYlzGKXmOMCbOF9BZS", "post_id": "9x36if", "action": {"description": "wanting my girlfriend to be prepared before we get engaged", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For wanting my girlfriend to be prepared before we get engaged?", "text": "My girlfriend:\n - Has never had a full time job, or even a resume to my knowledge \n - Consistently skipped class in college \n - Doesn't socialize (I don't mean this as an insult. She's not introverted, but rarely goes to anyone other than me to talk / hang out)\n - Still lives with her parents\n - Want's to start her own art company rather than pursuing a job after college \n  - Has severe depression and anxiety issues\n\nI:\n  - Have a full time job, and applied for jobs constantly throughout college \n  - Have an active social life with twenty or so friends I talk to or spend time with regularly\n  - Own a car and rent my own apartment, paying for everything I have without any assistance of my parents \n\nI don't mean to say \"I'm doing great and she's not\", I'm just offering my perspective on our \"preparedness\" for life. It's no judgement on her character, I assure you.\n  \nWhen talking about the future for the several years we've been dating, I've expressed that it's important that she have some plan for her future, or at least prepare for it. I don't expect her to be just like me, I'd just like to know that she's putting in her fair share of the burden if we were to get married. However, whenever we talk about this, she gets very upset with me. Recently I brought up her career goals and she had a panic attack claiming that she had to choose between marrying me or following her dream of being an artist. I didn't press the matter, as this happens when we talk about most things, be it sex or anything else I'm having thoughts about. \n\nI'm the primary source of income in our relationship, paying for everything from food to clothes to heating to driving her everywhere, but am just not comfortable being the emotional and financial backbone of our relationship for the rest of our lives. It's so draining. Am I the asshole for asking her to be more independent? I would even accept some sort of assurance that she's thinking about those things. When I think about proposing, my chest starts to hurt because I'm so nervous that I'll be miserable, being her caretaker for the rest of my life. I'm in the constant state of wondering if I'm an asshole or she's just lazy, but I'm so critical of myself that I always blame me.\n ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qMh9QjihpLnYqwfWUPeldUOq7AaMNjnG", "post_id": "atvpfh", "action": {"description": "warning people away from my ex", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA If I Warned People Away From My Ex", "text": "Backstory, I (21m) an active member of the online BDSM community, and specifically the DDLG scene. About 6 weeks ago I met a girl on a certain subreddit and we hit it off pretty well very quickly. For two weeks we discussed back and forth our kinks, our interests, and generally grew closer. After that, we decided to be exclusive, which were words she used explicitly when I asked. Things went fine for several weeks until a few days ago when, amidst a severe bout of anxiety, I got suspicious for admittedly no good reason, and decided to check for her on the subreddit. I found her, with a post only hours old, and just like that, all my attraction to her faded. I told her I knew, and immediately blocked her everywhere we communicate. I have zero misgivings about that. \n\nBut she's still posting recognizable personals on that subreddit, and I'm wondering if I'd be the asshole if I left comments warning other guys that while she says she's strictly monogamous, she's really just going to be looking for others on the side. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "F8uSvvDQQMgbKaCHukrvwT8f0h9Mfmqy", "post_id": "a8w3bj", "action": {"description": "not wanting my sister to get a pet pig", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my sister to get a pet pig?", "text": "So this story is a few years old at this point, and therefore resolved, however whenever I think back to it, I always feel like I was the only sane one in my family, so I'm going to put this out there and see what the unbiased people of the internet think. \n\nRelevant backstory:\nI was about to start [rigorous graduate degree program] in a state far away from my family just as my sister was graduating from college. She decided to move in with me after graduation with the goal of also preparing to apply for [rigorous graduate degree program] at some point. It is also important to know that the house we would both be living in was purchased as an investment property by our parents (we're very fortunate for all they're able/willing to do for us). We would also be living with a roommate who was one of my classmates, as well as my cat. Finally, it is important to note that while my sister is not a complete train wreck of a human, she is certainly not known for being the most responsible or tidy. \n\nSo right after my sister graduated, she was living at home with my parents for a few months while she prepared to move down to where I was living. During this time she decided that she wanted to get a pet mini pig after meeting a friend's and falling in love. I immediately gave my parents numerous reasons why that was a bad idea:\n1. pigs are notorious for being too smart for their own good, i.e. you might have to end up baby proofing your house if you have one\n2. no one had any reason to think that my sister was responsible enough to handle a pet pig, and since she planned on moving in with me, the pig would then become my responsibility, which I didn't find fair, especially considering what was going on in my life at the time\n3. even though I'm her sister and my parents were our landlords, we also had a paying tenant, who nobody thought to get permission from. In my experience during college, pets were only allowed if all of the roommates consented, and I thought that was still important in this instance. \n4. We didn't know how a pig would potentially get along with my cat, who I had had for over 3 years at that point \n5. My sister was in an inherently transitional point in her life at the time, and was not able to predict where she would likely be in 1, 3, or 5 years, and therefore it seemed irresponsible to get a pet that would likely be very difficult to bring along with her while she figured out her life. \n\nDespite all of these points, my parents insisted that my sister be allowed to \"make her own mistakes\". I pointed out that this was ridiculous, because my sister had no money and my parents were planning on bankrolling this \"mistake\", but that too fell on deaf ears. So, ultimately my sister gets what she wants, a little baby mini pig.\n\nI have to say, the pig was actually adorable and sweet. She got along with my parent's cats and dog well, and was really not too much trouble like I had predicted. HOWEVER it was still not sustainable for a few reasons:\n1. pigs can be litter box trained, but you cannot use kitty litter, because they are pigs, and therefore will eat it, and which point it will clump up in their stomach and they could die. Therefore they had to use sawdust, which does fuck all to mask the potent odor of pig waste, and needs to be completely changed out daily. \n2. the pig absolutely refused to walk on asphalt or anything that wasn't smooth. Because of this, her hooves began to grow out of control, and taking her to a vet was not really a viable option due to...\n3. her size. She didn't stay \"mini\" for long. I don't have a final weight, but just know in the short time my family had her, she got pretty freaking big\n\nSo as to the resolution for the story, which I suppose isn't as sad as I might have predicted, my sister ended up moving in with me sans pet pig. This was because, as I said from the beginning, the pig was too much work and responsibility for her. This meant my parents (AKA my mom) were now responsible for her. However, due to the overgrown hoof issue, which to my mom's credit, she did try to work on to no avail, they ultimately had to surrender the pig to a farm, which conveniently backs up to their backyard. However she did not stay there permanently, and was eventually moved to some other farm in the area. According to my mom, we would be welcome to visit her whenever we like, but no one has. I don't know what the future holds for this pig though. Will she die of old age on a farm? I find that unlikely, but who knows. \n\nAs for anyone who might be wondering why my parents ever even entertained this idea, I'm still pretty confused about it too, but I think part of it is that my parents have always considered my little sister very sensitive, which is not untrue, however because of this, they tend to treat her with kid gloves. I personally think this has only made the problem worse and kind of stunted her maturity. I would like to note however that I love my sister very much and despite our differences I have considered her my best friend throughout all of this. \n\nAnyways, thanks to anyone who read all of this! ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "h4HBpH7U39BFS1VyvNH1wRJ8GjmTNNVC", "post_id": "agr1hz", "action": {"description": "leaving a work place w/o a 2 week notice", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for leaving a work place w/o a 2 week notice", "text": "I work in an extremely toxic  company. No one here really cares about each other and I\u2019ve seen people tear each other down and sabotage each other. They have treated me horribly to the point where I\u2019ve cried driving home and dreaded going to work.To top it off, management doesn\u2019t care that employees are doing this. I had a friend here but it seems like things with us are strained because of the politics of the company. I got a better job with a much better company that required me to start soon because they wanted to get me trained for my salaries position so I went into management at my soon to be old job to give them notice.  I told them I only had a few days until I officially resigned and apologized for the inconvenience. They all went off on me about how inconsiderate and awful I was and that I\u2019m a terrible selfish person to leave them hanging like that scrambling to find a replacement. I already have a tough time with how rude and verbally abusive the rest of the staff is and now to top it off, my friend is acting indifferent towards me. That same friend told the rest of our acquaintances and friends outside of work about what happened and they all started asking me questions about why I went about things that way. They said they sort of understood my choices but I didn\u2019t feel like they really did if they had to question me so much. Did I do something wrong here? I have so much anxiety and just feel like everyone is against me. I chose to put myself and my mental health first because it was declining so bad at my current workplace and it doesn\u2019t seem like anyone understands. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hC1dRbntQEvKKQb1MetHk5Fe6lQOIeVr", "post_id": "ayodiy", "action": {"description": "wanting my dad to drive me to my mothers house", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting my dad to drive me to my mothers house?", "text": "In 2017 I moved in with my dad for mental health reasons (he lived on his own so it was a calmer environment for me to recover). Recently me and my dad moved to a different city to live with his girlfriend, and my mum still lives in our previous city. My dad was going to move in with his girlfriend whether I came with him or not. But if I didn't come with him, I'd have nowhere to sleep (my mums house has three bedrooms and all are taken) So knowing this, I decided to move with him. I asked my dad if he would drive me down to see my mum this weekend but he said he can't afford it. I understand this but before we moved here he had enough money to constantly drive here and see his girlfriend. I can't get a train as I'm broke (my dad keeps my money in his bank account for some reason and I'm pretty sure he's spent it this month as everytime I ask for it he says I can't have it) and I can't drive myself as i'm 16.\n\nI want to see my mother regularly as, well, she's my mother and I have the right to see her. I don't believe my dad when he says he can't afford to drive me there (It's an hour away) because he was able to drive here weekly for months and months. We didnt have to hire a van to move either since my dads friend with a van kindly helped us, so the move wasn't expensive at all. We even sold the majority of our belongings before we moved since we didn't have room for it all. Because of all of this I feel like he's lying to me so he doesn't have to drive me down to see her. I feel I should note that my dad is a nice person. He's a good dad and I love him to bits so the last thing I want to do is upset him or believe he's a liar. \n\nSo, AITA for wanting him to drive me to see my mum? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TY7DTqtRqYKOjGYSeDJdHhS2zVSChGzI", "post_id": "9ym77p", "action": {"description": "dumping my girlfriend because she bullied a disabled 12 year old", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for dumping my girlfriend because she bullied a disabled 12 year old?", "text": "I was walking around the campus about a month ago when I noticed my girlfriend bullying a disabled 12 year old. He had Down's Syndrome, so she was calling him names and hitting him in the head and shit. I was so pissed at her that I just went up to her and asked the child to go and report it to the principal and the next moment I just said that I was done with the relationship and walked off. What makes me ask if i am the asshole is that she apologized a couple of times and said that the boy was apparently \"acting\" to have Down's Syndrome. I highly doubt that he's acting, but still. AITA?\n\n\nP.S. We are both 13 and in 8th Grade. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "woW5So3pd9qoqkEPQMxzGLgrs3AHIx2E", "post_id": "b69anl", "action": {"description": "telling my gf I was upset by what she said during sex", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA If I told my gf I was upset by what she said during sex?", "text": "A couple of weeks ago me and my gf were having sex and in the middle of it she asked I would be ok with have a threesome with another guy. This hurt me alot. I wouldn't have cared if she said that at any other time (and I wouldn't mind having a mmf) but the fact that she stopped me in the middle of having sex with her to ask makes me feel like im not good enough and has me making me feeling really insecure about myself. But I feel that I shouldn't say anything because I've also been trying to get her to be more open with me about what she wants sexually because shes typically to shy to tell me things like that. So would I be the asshole if I talked to her about this?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FxdjXBUfFv33cdivTVGLRcovfV6FiaaW", "post_id": "b9w6l1", "action": {"description": "pissing my friend off", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for pissing my friend off?", "text": "At gym I was doing the sit and reach. I ended up doing pretty well and got a 44/50. I saw that I got the second highest score in the class. (Friend A, who got a 45/50) I already made the presidential awards, but I wanted to get the highest score. Friend A was logging everybody\u2019s score when I asked her to try. She said sure. I tried a few times before I got a 46/50. She said she would update it soon. Friend B also tried again and got a better score than last time. I come back a few minutes later and I saw that she updated Friend B\u2019s score but not mine.\nI ask her why.\nShe said she wasn\u2019t allowed to do so and not wanting to talk back I left. \nMy friends said that she should have updated my score and how she didn\u2019t want to give up her rank of \u201cfirst.\u201d \nI asked her one more time during recess and she got mad and left.\nAITA? If not, how should I tell the P.E teacher to update my score?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FAplsNC5UReATI5OgWLolcN3tqharhTK", "post_id": "aqgvyx", "action": {"description": "not paying for food and supplies for a camping trip I wasn't able to go on", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not paying for food and supplies for a camping trip I wasn't able to go on?", "text": "Pretty straight forward: I agreed to go on a camping trip with a group of friends but ended up having to work and let them know a few days before the trip. When they got back they asked me to pay for my share of food and other expenses. I asked if they had eaten it all or if there were left overs and they said they had. So I asked how it tasted and told them I shouldn't have to pay for food I didn't eat or a campsite I didn't camp at. I've always wondered if paying would have been the right thing to do. Was I in the wrong?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eOZfj22OqbCEs0lRfoq5BgTiGR1dpBO8", "post_id": "as50p8", "action": {"description": "not facetiming", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not Facetiming", "text": "For the past week my parents have been trying to Facetime multiple times a day a few times a week.   When we first had our daughter (their first grandchild) they did this often and we asked to limit it to Wednesdays.  Shes 6 months old now, but still a lot of work.  Today after 4 straight days of FaceTime requests 2x a day (often after the 7PM bed time) I had enough and texted my Mom and Dad. \n\nMe: Facetime is wednesdays.   [daughter] is sleeping.\n\nMom:  What does this mean? When did  we get an allocation of time to see our grand daughter. Can we reserve a time to discuss this. If I seem pissy, I am.\n\nMe:  We are trying to keep it together here with colds and a fussy baby and dont need you calling everyday.   We had already said we would do facetime on wednesdays.   I dont want to have to get ready for nightly invites into my home and repeat phonecalls when we are busy trying to live our lives.   What is there to discuss?   [wife] and I get 0 waking moments of just us, we are constantly entertaining the baby, and I really dont need to explain myself or my need for some privacy in my own home.\n\n\nAITA, and if I\u2019m not, what is an appropriate step/boundaries?  Clearly my mom is hurt by this, but how can I maintain my own sense of normalcy when I feel obligated to have a video chat at their beck and call?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1ZqIBxCnTH22PVQpgLaeuVESHyklDJwB", "post_id": "azxhut", "action": {"description": "designing my whole workout routine for one machine", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for designing my whole workout routine for one machine?", "text": "Gym goers what is the gym etiquette for this? My gym has 5 double cable machines but even then it gets busy sometimes. I have designed my whole workout routine around it, usually takes me 30-45 mins (with rest times).\n\nMore info: I try to go around 1-2pm when is not as busy. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "xCJHazj7bxHfkuWpFN2rvRulV7szBsgZ", "post_id": "al4o45", "action": {"description": "thinking my friend is a sponger", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for thinking my friend is a sponger?", "text": "I've been friends with this guy since age 13. I'm now 18. He's always been short of money, as his family is not wealthy. I've often paid for things for him without minding too much, though it does get frustrating when I have to fund our hangouts.\n\nRecently I invited him to a concert which my gf wanted to attend. It was \u00a313 (not hugely expensive) and, since he said he couldn't afford it, she offered to pay for him. \n\nLater, I wanted to buy some drugs and, since I didn't want that much, asked him if he wanted to go splits with me. I don't need \u00a320's worth and so asked him to put in \u00a310 so we can just divvy it up. He immediately said yes, despite the fact that that is almost exactly the same amount as the concert. It is also worth mentioning that he has a part time job and recently spent \u00a3140 on a pair of headphones.\n\nI only later made the connection that this was a bit hypocritical. AITA for thinking that he's tight for this contradiction?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rmJy9fTo8qXpliiqv7ABUoJvB1BO7ltn", "post_id": "awr50u", "action": {"description": "wanting my gf to acknowledge my nude pic", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for wanting my GF to acknowledge my nude pic?", "text": "So basically I\u2019ve been with my girl for like a year now. She\u2019s more vanilla than I am, which means she is still getting used to a lot of things that I\u2019ve gotten past way back when. \n\nLong story short I\u2019ve never shared the \u201csexy\u201d nudes I take of myself with her until today. I texted her saying \u201cHey I took a nude in the sauna the other day, it\u2019s a lil bit of my dick in ur face but I thought it was sexy haha u wanna c it?\u201d. \nThis was a pic I took and pondered a day whether or not to show her.\nHer response to this was \u201cLOL\u201d.\n\nThis obviously had me saying wtf because she didn\u2019t say anything else. So I said \u201cnext time u try to b sexy I\u2019ll just say lol\u201d.\nTo this she sent me a racy pic so what did I do? I said \u201clol\u201d.\nThen she got upset with me for not acknowledging her picture....\n\nI then explained how I was upset that she said \u201cLOL\u201d to my idea of a picture for her, and she kept telling me \u201cdick pics aren\u2019t that sexy\u201d and that \u201cI didn\u2019t know dick pics were this emotional\u201d.\nShe also said \u201cI never actually said no\u201d.\nWtf is this? I don\u2019t get it guys...\nAITA for actually being upset with here here?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "vqt8LrHOmw2cy9T3VmaEMPzDexYYFyWa", "post_id": "b41sbu", "action": {"description": "invading my best friend's privacy", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for invading my best friend's privacy?", "text": "I made a post about this in another subreddit, so this is mostly copy and pasted from that. The core of my problem is at the end, if you want to skip there. \n\n\u200b\n\nI'm in this online community where we talk over discord. I've met some of my best friends there, including my best friend who I've known for almost 4 years now, and although we do have some drama, it's worth it because I really truly love these people.\n\n\u200b\n\nThe most recent drama happened when I found out the aforementioned friend had made a private group chat with some of my other close friends. Of course I was hurt - why wouldn't they want me there? The real problem though, was that I had to kind of push him to tell me, because I suspected it and if I didn't know for sure, my mind would have gone to a very dark place and assumed the worst. See, I have anxiety, which means that I have a tendency to get very paranoid and assume the worst of a situation is true, especially in situations like this, where I think there might be people doing things without me, especially very close friends like this. But, to make things worse, I later found out that he hadn't told me the full truth about this group chat. I won't say specifically, but the important part is that he left out some crucial details about what they were doing in the chat. I found this out from a different friend who was also in the group.\n\n\u200b\n\nThis really hurt me. I thought I could trust my friend. I would have trusted him with anything. I understand why he held back, cause he knew it would hurt me, but being lied to hurts so much worse. I hate being left in the dark. When there's important information about me that I don't know, I tend to panic and overreact, because of my anxiety, and the only real thing that helps is getting some solid, concrete facts. So now that I know he doesn't want to tell me the whole truth in certain situations, I find it harder to trust him.\n\n\u200b\n\nSo here's the real conflict: I now trust him less, and I know he's inclined to do things behind my back, without me. However, he feels like me asking about these things is an invasion of his privacy. Of course I believe he has a right to privacy, and I also know he has a right to do whatever with whoever he wants, however much it may hurt me. I feel conflicted though. As I mentioned, when I'm in the dark I panic, so I go to him and ask him if he's doing things without me, which he feels is an invasion of his privacy. But I don't know what else to do. Not knowing is so much more painful. I don't know how to respect his privacy but also be aware of what's going on. \n\n\u200b\n\nI've never felt so conflicted. I feel like a real asshole for invading his privacy and for not feeling like I can trust him as much now. I feel like maybe I'm a bad friend for not trying to understand his side enough or something... I'm having trouble making sense out of this situation entirely.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "sFnQQGf4ianDR7yun6LCgHLcAgxTYeGl", "post_id": "awvag2", "action": {"description": "quitting a job soon after joining", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for quitting a job soon after joining?", "text": "During the summer I was interviewed for a job in a field whose market isn't doing too well. There are many looking for work in this field, but little being hired. I wasn't given a response until October. The paperwork and HR processing took a while, so I only just started working officially a couple of weeks ago. Now, this job I have taken has almost no room for growth and is not the career that I see myself committing to (I had to take it due to circumstances that would preclude me from other job options should I not take this job and get licensed). I aspire to seek a career in research and academia. In an effort to pursue my goals, I applied to PhD programs in December. I did not disclose this to my employers for several reasons: I had still not begun working, there were several problems with HR that threatened my recruitment, so there was a chance I wasn't going to work there anyways, and I did not know the HR processing would take so long, so I thought that if I were to be hired, I would have been able to work for a while before having to leave. The ultimate reason why I did not feel the need to tell them was that never in my wildest dreams did I think I would get accepted. I was applying to a competitive program, in a great school, in a highly sought out location. I honestly did not think I would get in. I was sure I would be rejected, which would give me another year to work with this company. (FYI the reason for thinking I wouldn't get in was not that I was a poor candidate, but rather that I have tendencies for severe underestimation, belittlement, and self deprecation. This is something I am trying hard to improve in myself). But guess what? I GOT IN!!!!! I recently received word that the program was impressed with me and they offered me admission. While I am overjoyed with having the opportunity to achieve my goals, the matter with the job that I just joined is weighing me down. I feel guilty that I will be leaving right after joining them. I hate to give people a bad impression of myself, and I worry that they will think I accepted their offer knowing I would leave so soon just so I can save money until I need to go. The hiring process takes forever, and I feel bad knowing that they'll have to undergo it again so soon right after hiring me. They are extremely understaffed and everyone on the team constantly tells me what a relief my joining was, as it is going to lighten the load a little. I have to tell them soon that I will be leaving them in a couple of months, and I have no idea how I will approach the issue and what I should say. In this country's work culture, people usually hold onto their jobs tightly. It is practically unheard of for someone to quit so soon after being hired.\n\n​\n\nAITA for taking the job, knowing that there was a chance, no matter how small I thought it was, that I would need to quit right after starting? Regardless of your judgment of me, can you advise me on what I should say when I need to quit?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hs0hlE4AvdaoJg8PHWXwPApw6aJ1zyfR", "post_id": "axraw2", "action": {"description": "not holding the door to my apartment building for people I don't recognize", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not holding the door to my apartment building for people I don't recognize?", "text": "All residents of my apartment building have a key fob to access the main lobby and get to their home. If someone is behind me, I try to pay attention to see if 1) I recognize them and know that they live in the building, or 2) they're holding their own key fob. If it's one of these two things, I hold the door open for them.\n\nThis one time, there was someone behind me that I've never seen before. They weren't holding a key fob, they were just walking behind me. I opened the door and made no effort to hold the door for them. If this was a public place, I wouldn't have an issue holding it open for them. This person got incredibly mad at me, practically yelling how unbelievably rude I was. It made for an interesting elevator ride up.\n\nI've also lived in a building that had underground parking. There's a large sign that says \"please wait until the gate closes before driving off\". I feel like this is so people who don't live in the building can't gain access. Isn't this the same thing?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "un2LoY5MiHzQFM9KOaGJEbDI6DWDvI9u", "post_id": "aekrdx", "action": {"description": "avoiding a grieving family over the holidays", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for avoiding a grieving family over the holidays?", "text": "just got my ear talked off by my mom, i swear all my aunts are the reason my family's all deaf. i flew out to florida over christmas to visit some extended family there - my cousin (my ate mimi), her parents, and her 3 y/o daughter . my mom flew out from california to visit, and my cousin's younger sister came to move their from the philippines. yeah, my family's complicated.\n\nanyways, my ate mimi's husband passed away from brain cancer a week before christmas, making her a widow at 36 sand my niece fatherless. my ate's a strong lady, but she still cried a few times talking about him and everyone was in a grave mood. we all came to comfort her so she and her daughter weren't alone for christmas.\n\nunfortunately, i came out to them transgender earlier this year, so this was my first time seeing any of my family since i was 12, and i come from a family of asian conservative christians. the only thing they know about trans people is that their pastor said it was a sin and the drag queens that sometimes walked the street back home. i didn't want to come in the first place because it was bad timing, but my mom bought the tickets and guilted me into it. \n\nso yeah, i was the elephant in the room. called by the right name, but treated at an arm's length. the only person who talked to me without looking visibly uncomfortable was my cousins' daughter june, who absolutely adores me. she's an only child and probably pretty lonely, so she would always drag me off to play with her. i spent most of christmas upstairs either avoiding human interaction or hanging out with the kid while my family would have ear-wrenchingly loud conversations in rapid filipino. they're like a pack of hyenas when they get together.\n\ni went out with them and all, but i was pretty quiet and minded my own. i didn't want to make a big deal out of my being there because in my eyes it wasn't really my place. i know my family will take a long time getting used to my transition because to them it's a shock, and right now my ate mimi's going through the hardest time of her life. i was trying to mind my own and sort of save it for later because i knew that a. my presence made everything more complicated, and b. if i was too involved with the family them asking about my transition and all was inevitable, and i wanted to avoid that. i'm flying to the philippines in the summer and want to lay out everything there.\n\nwell, it's january now. my mom called me up, and my ears are still ringing. 'how dare you be such a recluse! you haven't seen your family in half a decade and you spent the whole christmas avoiding us! you know we're all worried about you ever since you were hospitalized! i spent $500 on your plane ticket and i barely even saw you!' etc. she's livid and in her eyes i'm a brat child for not being a part of the family. i tried to explain to her why and even offered to pay her back for the plane ticket but she only got angrier and said 'that's no excuse! i told them not to talk about it, they wouldn't have said anything!' \n\nso, my head hurts, and i feel like an ungrateful jerk. so reddit, am i the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vPOOiQ8lxY8YE5CyBvGKa5lo0IRPp1xn", "post_id": "avsmuo", "action": {"description": "closing the door on someone", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for closing the door on someone", "text": "This happened a while back but it has been on my mind recently. \n\nI was an intern at a tech company over the Summer and they were very pro security so they will punish you if you tail gate (following someone through a door without scanning your badge).\n\nAnyway I was heading out to lunch and I was going through our buildings main door which is badge protected and someone who's hands were full of boxes tried to get in, me not wanting to get in trouble pretty much close the door on their face as I exit while they were trying to get in. I assume they do have a badge and they got in but I refused to look back to see. So am I the asshole here or was I right to close the door on someones who hands were full of boxes.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "F0G2hRBPqU7jGOSYZHwqPFW0QfgpT6mT", "post_id": "awxpux", "action": null, "title": "Wibta if my bf and I didn\u2019t split rent three ways with my roommate (long af)", "text": "        I currently live with my boyfriend and two roommates in a student apartment. It\u2019s a four bedroom two bathroom. Roommate a is moving in with her boyfriend next year and roommate b has asked if me and my boyfriend would look into moving into a house with her. Sure thing I\u2019d love a house with a yard for my pup. \n\n     So we start looking and it\u2019s become apparent she wants to split rent three ways, but we\u2019re looking at two bedroom two bath houses, maybe three bedroom depending on the amount of extra space we decide we need (but no one would be living in the third bedroom it\u2019d be like an entertainment room with space for activities we all enjoy like yoga for roommate b, my boyfriends playstation, and maybe a painting station in that extra room for me). Anyways she wants to split rent three ways, so the lowest price for a two bdrm in my area is 1000 not including utilities. Instead of paying 500 each (500 from me and my bf and 500 from her before utilities) she wants me and my boyfriend to pay 667.00 a month for the same space she pays 333.00 for before utilities. \n\n      Now don\u2019t get me wrong, I agree me and my boyfriend should pay more if we get the master, and I\u2019m willing to pay 50-75 dollars more because we have the master and the bigger bathroom (however if that wasn\u2019t enough for her I\u2019d be fine with her having he master and my boyfriend and I could have the second bedroom). I just don\u2019t feel like we should pay double her rent for that master. I also would of course want to split utilities where me and my boyfriend handle 2/3 and she handles 1/3 of the bill. And we\u2019d even be willing to pay for the Netflix and Hulu subscriptions for the house because we do that already. \n\n       I explained this to her when we were looking at houses and she says she sees where I\u2019m coming from but because it\u2019s easier for me and my boyfriend to raise rent money it should be split 2/3 and 1/3. I understand there are two of us and maybe I\u2019m just being stubborn but I really don\u2019t think that warrants paying double her rent. My bf and I both work in the service industry and we bust our asses for the money we make. A one bedroom one bath or even two bedroom one bath for just me and my boyfriend run 750-900+ and I feel like I\u2019d rather pay the extra hundred dollars and just have a space that\u2019s completely our own. WIBTA if I told her I\u2019d only move in with her if we split rent evenly (with regards to extra money for the master) and do utilities three ways? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "dVdF7lQ0Sjb175Ba2z5zPFH3gOASqzg8", "post_id": "ahnur7", "action": {"description": "asking my boyfriend to leave me repeatedly", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for asking my boyfriend to leave me repeatedly", "text": "Hello Redditors.\n\nBefore I begin, I know the post sounds very misleading in many ways. 1. It sounds like an abusive boyfriend not letting me break up with him, 2. It sounds like the typical rom-com cliche: \"I am too messed up, we can't be together\". While they are not true, it is kinda the second one.\n\nI am going through some really tough times now. The depression I thought I beat has returned with a vengeance, along with anxiety and constant, constant suicidal tendencies. I don't really feel safe in my own mind and body. I know I need help, and I'm looking for it incessantly.\n\nNow, my boyfriend. He is one gem of a person. Has stood with me through ALL OF IT. Every single panic attack, suicide attempt, everything. He keeps reassuring me that I make him happy, and he is not affected by all of this. But I can't believe him. I feel like a burden, a liability, a very unstable person who is making this relationship toxic. I feel like I'm burdening a beautiful, positive, near-perfect guy with undue stress. Yes, a good relationship should see through good and bad times, but I feel like I've become incapable of doing normal, human things, and I don't want to be around him and infect his surroundings with my mental issues.\n\nSo, I ask him to leave me. Every now and then. I'm okay, well-balanced and peaceful for a few days, but again I find some reason to shout at him, and ask him to leave. I still feel like that's what we should do. Every time this happens, he sees through it, and sticks with me, solid. He says we can face anything together, and that I am not a burden. \n\nI used to think I'm doing this for his own good, but now I just feel shitty for playing with his feelings and going back and forth, though he says I'm not. So, am I the asshole here?\n\nP.S.: I am definitely not looking for validation. Please don't say that. I'm going through incredible mental torment.\n\nTL;DR: My mental issues make me yell at my boyfriend, asking him to leave me constantly, now I feel like an indecisive asshole. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 11, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YxIzXp99G7C1jCrHWo9DM3UUwSf1sgDm", "post_id": "avkq7b", "action": {"description": "telling someone off at the gym", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling someone off at the gym?", "text": "Hey all. I'm maybe half a year into gym culture and not sure what the appropriate response to my situation was. I genuinely want everyone at the gym to have a fair and welcome time, and to follow whatever the social norms there are.\n\nHowever, today I am across a situation I'm unsure about. For context, I workout in an apartment building gym that has a decent selection of lifting equipment (rack, barbell, short barbell, curl bar, etc), but just one of each thing. Everyone using the facility generally shuffles around as needed, waiting for equipment or working in. It's particularly hard to handle benching and squatting simultaneously, as we have just the one rack we can use.\n\nToday I came across someone who had each barbell and the rack loaded, along with a handful of other things. Only this person and myself were in the room. I was immediately annoyed and asked this guy if he was using \"all of these\", and he said \"yeah.\" I asked how many sets he had left on the rack, and he said \"idk, about 30 minutes.\" He was clearly using each piece of equipment in a cycle, such that he'd do one set with one bar, take a rest, then do another set on another, take a rest, and ultimately use the rack maybe once every 10 minutes. Since the rack was set up at a bench height and I was planning on squatting, I asked the guy if he could focus on his benching sets so that I could use it sooner to squat (to avoid having to fully unload, rerack, repeat if we worked in). He immediately went on the defensive, saying \"you just got here and now you're telling me how to work out?! Wait your turn or work in\" I said \"you can't just use all the equipment like that, nobody does this\". Eventually after some arguing, he tells me to use the rack anyway, but put everything back \"exactly as it was\" whenever he came by. This sucks, but I had limited time so I went along with it.\n\nBetween sets he could talk to me about how people are reasonable and will let you work in if you don't show up with an aggressive stance like I did. I try to explain that my issue was that he's using every piece of lifting gear, and making everyone work in with him instead of focusing on his sets. He reiterates that I have no right to tell him how to work out. I eventually finish my sets and leave, though at this point we've both calmed down and exchanged names, for gentlemen's sake.\n\nMy feeling going into this was that forcing everyone to work in with you in a small gym instead of doing exercises one at a time was selfish, and I've never seen this before. Otoh, the dude has a point that I barged in and interrupted his workout and asked him to do it differently so that I could do sets without having to adjust the rack constantly or wait half an hour for him to finish. I'm not sure what the right gym culture is here.\n\ntl;dr: Guy at gym uses every piece of equipment on a cycle, I ask him to focus on his rack sets, he tells me to stop telling him how to workout. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lZERg0cOsss3khRMRHMHUT8MKAvNvI43", "post_id": "agilao", "action": {"description": "not wanting to continue a friendship with a girl I grew up with", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to continue a friendship with a girl I grew up with?", "text": "Beatrice and I have been friends since, well, forever. I don\u2019t remember a life without her. In 7th and 8th grade we were best friends, attached at the hip. \n\nFreshman year we went to different high schools l, she developed anorexia and I developed depression. We didn\u2019t talk for maybe two years because of wrongs we had both done. We started talking a little more frequently (and occasionally seeing each other) the last two years of high school. \n\nBetween our senior year and freshman year of college, I noticed she was really active politically with a side I do not agree with. I mean sure, she\u2019s worn political attire before but it started to bother me. When Kavanaugh was elected to his position, she posted a picture of her TV screen (that showed him) with a caption that was literally just: \u201c\ud83d\udc4f\ud83c\udffb\ud83d\udc4f\ud83c\udffb\ud83d\udc4f\ud83c\udffb\u201d. As a survivor of sexual assault, that really hurt. \n\nI hadn\u2019t talked to her at all the first semester of college. But two weeks ago, she made a social media post: her friend had died. I met this friend (Yolanda) once and followed her on Instagram. She was newly engaged and Beatrice and Yolanda met at an impatient anorexia recovery place. She was obviously crushed. I text Beatrice and ask if she wanted company, because of course I would want to be there for someone despite our differences. She declined but I brought over a pint of her favorite ice cream anyway and left.\n\nA few days ago she invited me to her house, which was supposed to be today. I was supposed to go over at 6pm. Well I got hit with a bunch of responsibilities/feelings really quickly: I have an awful family situation going on with an abusive mother, in danger of losing my health insurance, my new glasses aren\u2019t the correct prescription, etc. I got home and it was too overwhelming for me. So, crying into my pillow I decided to cancel. Here is the conversation:\n\nMe: \u201cI\u2019m really overwhelmed tonight can I come over another time? \ud83d\ude2d\ud83d\ude2d\u201d\n\nBeatrice: \u201cugh ok- i wish i would\u2019ve known earlier cause my friend wanted me to spend the night in *a town thats 45 minutes away* tonight\u201d\n\nHer response sounded extremely apathetic to me. How would I know to plan my breakdown earlier in the day? I responded:\n\nMe: \u201cI'm sorry that I had to cancel last minute, it happens sometimes. I just ask for your understanding that I had a lot going on\u201d and she just ignored the text. \n\nSo overall, to me she\u2019s turned into a really callous person. I was truly sorry to cancel on her last minute but it was only 5:50pm, she still could\u2019ve gone and hung out with another friend. \n\nBut, AITA for wanting to call it quits over what is primarily political?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "b81PHDFCFmGDtYGwRGew1LyUCzTVU98W", "post_id": "b97aaf", "action": null, "title": "AITA Girlfriend Wants Me to Pay for Everything", "text": "Let me start by saying that I'm from the U.S. but my girlfriend is not (and we both live outside of the U.S. in her home country now). Her culture is a little behind the times, equality-of-sexes wise, and it is traditional here for men to pay for everything for a girlfriend/wife- to the point where the guy hands over their full paycheck to the GF/wife in some cases and just gets a daily stipend from them.\n\n​\n\nI understand why this works in some cases, but for our situation it doesn't seem to make any sense to me. She makes way more than I do, and has a lot of money in the bank. Whereas I still struggle to support myself, getting out from under student loans and monthly expenses, even though I've been progressively making more at my job.\n\n​\n\nBut she still wants me to pay for everything, single-handedly, in our relationship. 100% rent, 100% food, 100% for the cat's stuff, 100% travel expenses, 100% everything else. Meanwhile, she will just continue to save her money 'for a rainy day' or to buy a house under her name only.\n\n​\n\nIt seems really one sided, and I've gone for some things- like paying full rent and food. But I refuse to budge on other things. AITA since I'm living in her culture (though eventually we plan to move to the U.S.), or is this taking advantage of me?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qAWRiBDHUQcdIxBqtc6yVrVB4nsiKJl4", "post_id": "ancvb3", "action": {"description": "refusing a work request from my colleague", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing a work request from my colleague?", "text": "I work for a newish (1 year old) start up- it\u2019s a small team and everyone is based out of different countries. I\u2019m the only one based out of my current location. This background is important for the situation. \nSo, our startup is having its first \u201coffline\u201d event ever tomorrow and it\u2019s in my location. Even though my role has nothing to do with marketing, i passively accepted the organization of this event as I\u2019m the only one located here. However, given my sparse knowledge of marketing I asked my marketing colleagues again and again over email: this is what I\u2019m doing, please tell me if I\u2019ve unchecked any boxes. No response on that account. So I continue doing what I\u2019d outlined for the event .. \nSo, last week, a week before the event the marketing person tells me that we should have company logoized items in the gift bag. I was like- ok this a lil late in the game to tell me about this but fine I\u2019ll get it done if I can. And I did. \n\nNow today, while the event is tomorrow, the person asks me if I can arrange a photographer. Please note that a photographer was not on my list as I thought we were streaming the event live from my device and apparently we re not doing that anymore. So when she asked me I said no, it\u2019s too late I don\u2019t have the bandwidth to research and call photographers for tomorrow. \n\nI think she got pissed, but I asked them so many times to see if anything else needs to be arranged. When I pointed it out, apparently it occurred to them today. \nAm I at fault?? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4YX4g45EywKhju3PoYmfYdXxavSbGAcd", "post_id": "anxgtz", "action": {"description": "not giving my sister money", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not giving my sister money?", "text": "Okay so my sister (who we will be calling N) and I were at the store today. N's birthday was like 4 days ago and because of this she got tons of money. Today all I had was \u00a310 and she had \u00a340. She bought my mum some sort of dessert and asked me for money to buy one for my dad. Remember that this \u00a310 needs to last for 2 full weeks. I refused to give her the money I had with me for this. She got pissy and said how I was suppose to \"buy things for dad\". I'd like to add I'm not exactly close with my dad. AITA for not giving my sister my money? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BozM9Pu2YLU9IcWNefoUe9yFdTGBpxIF", "post_id": "as76d2", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my friend for suggesting I clean my room", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my friend for suggesting I clean my room?", "text": "I'm a college student living in a dorm room. The room is supposed to be a shared room between two people, but my roommate moved out last semester so I have the entire space to myself.\n\nBecause I'm fortunate enough to have a room to myself, my friend--we'll call her G--and I often hang out in my space after class; we have a lot of the same classes so it's nice to be able to study together whenever we want without bothering other people. I fully enjoy having G in my room and consider her an awesome and respectable friend, but lately she's been getting on my case about cleaning my space and it's beginning to get annoying.\n\nI'll be the first to admit I'm a slob; my room is by no means clean, and ever since I've had the room to myself I've taken a few liberties with the space. There's a pretty fair amount of stuff on the floor, and I recently did laundry so my clothes are sitting out in the open on the spare bed (this includes some of my underwear, but it's all folded neatly into little rolls so you can't really tell what they are). I also have dirty dishes lying around everywhere, and both my desk and the spare desk are fairly cluttered with stuff that I've left and not bothered to pick up. To be completely frank, it's gotten to the point where most open surfaces have begun to lose their functionality simply because of the sheer amount of stuff lying about on them that I'm too lazy to move.\n\nMy room is very messy, but it's not unlivable for me. I'm not even against cleaning it, but I absolutely hate that G is the one telling me to do it. She's not my mother, so I really don't feel like she has the right to tell me what to do, and anyway it's my room. If she's uncomfortable with the clutter then she doesn't have to come over--even though i honestly think my room is the best location for our study sessions because of its convenience, I would be perfectly content to meet up in her room or in the common areas of the dorm if my room is too messy for her to handle. I actually plan to clean it soon, but I want to do it on my own time and by my own volition, not because someone else told me to do so.\n\nEven so, G is in my room a lot, and I know it's probably extremely uncomfortable for her to sit around in my filth (although I do try to keep her favorite spot, a little sitting area under my bed, reasonably clean). The more she nags me, though, the less I want to do anything about the clutter. Would I be an asshole to tell her to keep out of my business, even though she's partially affected? I can tell that she's also as frustrated as I am about the situation, but I don't think I'm in the wrong to want autonomy in my own space that she's under no obligation to share with me.\n\nSo, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "YCkvqR7t2Mf8hR5lV9w2mZPLxHjSmfLc", "post_id": "9upl8d", "action": {"description": "sabotaging someone with kahoot bots", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for sabotaging someone with kahoot bots?", "text": "So there was this one kid that would constantly harass me so I named a bunch of kahoot bots after him and the teacher already didn\u2019t like him so she didn\u2019t believe him when he said he did t do it and he got detention for 3 days am I an asshole for putting 3 days of detention on his record for some petty school rivalry nonsense?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "MLnK9ry0RzT0FmP4cTbqyKextERpIMfc", "post_id": "af3mz6", "action": {"description": "not wanting to spend time with my \"family\"", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITAH for not wanting to spend time with my \"family\"?", "text": "Hey guys!  Recently my(26) half sister sister (36)  let me stay with her and her husband and two sons (5, 12) because I was having issues with my boyfriend and his mom. I wasn't raised with my sister, we grew up in separate foster homes so we aren't super close. I was surprised she invited me to live with her especially after I raised concerns about me living with kids. I'm diagnosed as bipolar II and I was worried about my mental stability around children. She said her kids are usually busy she has a large house and no one would bother me and she really wanted me to come.  This was slightly before Xmas and she invited our mom to stay with her for the holidays. I haven't talked  to our mother in over 5 years because her new husband used to secretly film me in the bathroom when I was a child. I told my mother about this before I left for college and showed her the grocery bag full of DVDs he made and she wasn't surprised because she knew had a sex addiction (I had no clue about). I stopped talking to her because she wanted me to thank this man for money they were sending me during college I refused and told them don't send me shit anymore. I dropped out of school beginning of sophomore year shortly after being diagnosed as bipolar and have been supporting myself ever since. \n\nI had no issue with our mom coming by for the holidays but I did not want to be there. My sister said our mom would only be there a day or so and I could hide in my room but I decided to go visit my boyfriend until the new year. I could tell this upset my sister but I got every one small gifts for the holidays so they knew I was thinking of them but I needed to take care of me. I return and everyone including the kids are being super cold to me. I would be starting CNA school soon so I just hid away in my room. I came back on Tuesday and school started the following Monday.  My classes are 6:30am - 3pm with a minimum 2hr bus ride sometimes 4hours for off site clinical hours so I'm away most of the day and I study at night. I start to sense the house being annoyed that I'm not spending time with them but honestly I'm busy and exhausted and have poor social skills. So I withdraw more and they start to slam doors and play music loud to make their presence known and I get anxious and stay in my room. I stop eating I stop going out to the kitchen. I stop drinking water so I don't have to leave to pee. They get louder outside the door so I just put in head phones and try to tune out hidden meanings in songs they play and words they say.  Also my sister confessed to me that her husband was nasty to her while she was pregnant with his child which makes me not trusting of him at all. And I'm still studying and waking up early. I truly am busy but I don't know what to say to anyone and I feel like my movements are being tracked so I stay even more silent and secluded. I'm super nice and say hello when I do see anyone in the halls or kitchen but my sister sees this as me being fake. I have 3 more weeks of the class and everyone's behavior is becoming more aggressive and dismissive and I feel like the asshole but AITAH for feeling more at peace on my own locked my room?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vj9gOcLTyTZRIfXSQxSs8Ln1bSpVaDoO", "post_id": "a4fu5h", "action": {"description": "not paying attention/picking up this lady's stuff", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not paying attention/picking up this lady's stuff?", "text": "A bit of backstory: I am an verbal abuse victim who has had to put up with years of \"walking on eggshells\" with my stepmother and her mom. I also have autism, which makes it harder for me to know what to do in social situations; it also means that I don't have very good spacial awareness and sometimes get caught in my own world, not very aware of anything going on outside of whatever I'm doing (in this case, reading). Having chosen to live with my mother and not my stepmom when I turned 18 (about 10 days ago), I've been doing much better with my anxiety, because my stepmom isn't around anymore. But this situation just set it off again.\n\nSo this morning I was taking the subway to my percussion ensemble rehearsal. I was sitting next to one of the doors and had put my backpack in front of me. There was another man across from me with a big cart in the aisle. A woman with a walker was sitting a few seats down from him.\n\nAbout fifteen or twenty minutes into the ride, I'm engrossed in my Stephen King book, and the woman gets up to get off. Her walker hits my backpack (I believe that was what happened), and some of her things fall off of it. I move back, trying to give her room but also thinking she has the situation under control.\n\nThen as she's getting off I hear her say something about how I'm a rude boy--- \"or girl, I can't even tell what you are---\" (I'm a trans girl but I look like a boy), \"you see a handicapped woman and you can't even move out of the way or help her.\"\n\nI look up, startled, and immediately try to make room for her, be courteous, but she picks up her things and goes on muttering to herself about me even after she's off the train. She never makes eye contact with me this whole time, by the way.\n\n I move my seat and begin hyperventilating/possibly having a panic attack, idk perhaps I was overreacting but one of my biggest anxiety triggers is messing up in public, especially with people I don't know. \n\nI just ... I don't know. There wasn't much room with the other guy's cart right there, and it did happen right in front of me, but sometimes I just ... there are situations where I don't think quickly enough. It also didn't seem as if I could have helped her pick the stuff up, with the angle we were at --- I think the walker was blocking it, I don't fricking remember the details. It was just something that made me really upset. I think it may have been my first actual panic attack; my anxiety isn't as bad lately, but this just set it off. Like, obviously she was handicapped and I should have been more considerate of that, but I wasn't blatantly ignoring it. Heck, I've spent time in a wheelchair myself. I've used walkers. *I know how it is.*\n\nI wish I could just apologize to her. But she's gone and she obviously thinks I'm a horrible person.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aoaEoUGKqk5gZfy8K33pofjThHla94mt", "post_id": "b3gia0", "action": {"description": "not wanting my wife to help me with depression", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA For not wanting my wife to help me with depression?", "text": "I'm Romanian, English isn't my first language, sorry for mistakes.\n\nI've been having depression since forever. I've tried killing myself 4 times. Once by trying to drown myself, jump off my friends balcony (7th level) and twice by cutting myself. I want to thank my sister for saving me three of those times and helping me with depression while mom couldn't care less and when my sister told her about my depression she said I \"can't have depression\" because I was young. \n\nOn my first year of college I met the best woman in my life (gonna call her A). A was the sweetest woman I've ever met. A is sweet and caring and she saw the sadness in my soul. After my last year I knew she was the woman I want and that life is worth it for her. I married her at 22 I'm 24 and now we are expecting a baby girl in 2 months.\n\nNow I'm still depressed but I haven't tried killing myself in 7 years and I've stopped cutting myself after college for her, and for her I've done everything.\n\nNow onto what happened 2 days ago.\n\nA wanted to talk to me about going to the doctor and to a therapist to \"fix me\". I've refused immediately because I didn't want to basically be anesthesized emotionally. I know I'm depressed but sometimes you have to be sad. Life isn't always perfect and I don't want to spend all our savings 2 months before our girl is coming to the world.\n\nSo Am I the asshole for wanting to not be anesthesized emotionally?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "rEs7EPD4JOIKoEIlpnmrQxxPpP7ysUh0", "post_id": "a9a82h", "action": {"description": "asking my significant other to limit his gaming", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for asking my significant other to limit his gaming", "text": "My SO and I have been together for over a decade. He's always been an avid gamer and I like games on occasion too, though I don't have much time for them with the kids and such.\nI stay at home with our four kids because, with our son's extensive medical needs, it's not feasible for us to both work while keeping up with his (sometimes 3-5 a week) appointments and any caregiver he has needs to be strong enough to lift him in case of emergencies or falls (he has cerebral palsy). \nSO works a 9-5 job in IT, but brags frequently about how he has time to \"dick around\" (his words, not mine) and work is boring.\nWhen he comes home, he is usually around the family for an hour or so, then he goes to his computer (upstairs) to play Path of Exile, sometimes for 4-5 hours at a time.\nI don't mind caring for the kids and I take pride in doing all the cooking and cleaning, but I get really lonely and the kids barely get to see their dad. It would be nice if he'd read a story or take them to go get ice cream or whatever, but he'd rather be playing games than anything.\nHe's stopped fishing, going out with friends, and any hobby besides gaming.\nI've tried to ask if he's feeling stressed and I've watched for symptoms of depression, but I'm getting nowhere.\nWIBTA if I just told him I'd rather he limit his gaming to later evening or a certain number of hours a day? I feel like he's a grown man and should have autonomy, but I'm concerned he's missing sleep and avoiding other activities that might be more emotionally healthy.\nI've tried having him bring his stuff to the family common areas, but it just ends up back upstairs. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "thmHrm3v1ToHVJNf7rCWTY24LOFzXA53", "post_id": "ao2901", "action": {"description": "refusing to help my so with an english paper after he told me I was making it difficult for him", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for refusing to help my SO with an English paper after he told me I was making it difficult for him?", "text": "On mobile, so, sorry for any mistakes. We're both college students. I'm a pretty good research writer/summary writer. He struggles when it comes to writing, so I usually help him out when I have time/when he asks me. He has to write a body paragraph for an summary essay tonight. Fine, easy peasy. \n\nHe starts off writing the body as a intro paragraph, so I tell him that it doesn't sound right and I offer to write it together. We start from scratch, have the article he needs to summarize in front of us, and start typing together. I tell him what points from the article I think are relevant and need to go in the first body paragraph. He agrees with me. We start making sentences, the tension starts to get a bit high because he misinterprets a part of the text, telling me I'm wrong when I know I'm right. (Shirley IS an average student, he thought she was suppose to be a struggling student). Mid-way through the paragraph he kinda sighs and tells me that \"I'm making it [the paragraph] difficult for him to understand.\" So I said okay then, write your own paragraph they way you'd like to write it, and if you have any questions, ask Professor Google. \n\nHe gets upsets and says I'm making his statement bigger than it is, and to please help continue helping him. I refuse and tell him that since my help is not being appreciate/criticized, then I guess he should do it himself. I refused to help for the rest of the night, and I think I might be reluctant to help him again. \n\nTL;DR: I helped SO with a body paragraph and I felt like he was ungrateful, so I told him Google could tutor him. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "WpEvtBYHJLkPLbiKzGmKra131e0lnjYB", "post_id": "a9613g", "action": {"description": "wanting to run away from my parents because my father told me to kill myself out of rage and my mom said I should feel guilty for pushing him to say those words", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting to run away from my parents because my father told me to kill myself out of rage and my mom said I should feel guilty for pushing him to say those words?", "text": "For context. I\u2019m 17, I live in Australia, recently graduated high school and got an offer from the University of Adelaide. I wanted to defer, but my father vehemently denied me that right. \n\nFor even more context that led up to what my father said. Over the past three and a half years, I got put into a boarding school I didn\u2019t really like, but put up with regardless. I\u2019ve never really had a healthy relationship with my father, as I\u2019m always terrified of his volatile temper, and he was almost never willing to spend time with me as a child. However, he did work to provide me and my family with a comfortable life. At that boarding school, I was overwhelmed with the workload I had to face since I never had to study to get top grades (I only went to international schools before), and asking teachers and friends for help has always been extremely uncomfortable for me. This in turn led to my studies not being great, and me getting a very average ATAR of 61.70. However, I was still able to get into the course I wanted.\n\n\nNow, I haven\u2019t been the best child, but I was never the worst. I had never gotten detention, had never handed in a late assignment, and had never gotten into trouble with teachers. The worst thing I had done at school was not ask teachers for help and not put in as much effort as I should have. The worst thing I did to my parents was steal some money from their credit card, which is awful as is - however, I don\u2019t think it warranted my father telling me to kill myself. He constantly tells me that I wasted three and a half years of my life, that he wasted money on getting me tuition, and that I put him and my mother under stress that no other parent has to face. He also claims I\u2019m the reason they\u2019re so close to divorce. He also sometimes calls me an useless moron and that I\u2019m the most lazy and awful person he\u2019s ever known. A few days ago, I fucked up researching housing costs for my university, and he lost it. He proceeded to yell all of the above at me, and then said, without paraphrasing, \u201cA few months ago you told the bloody counsellors that you wanted to kill yourself? Well maybe you should have killed yourself then, it would have been easier on all of us.\u201d I started crying really badly and he yelled at me asking why the fuck I was crying and I said through tears that he told me to\nKill myself, and he said \u201cYou\u2019re goddamn right, you don\u2019t deserve to live anymore, go hang yourself tomorrow.\u201d The next day my mom told me I should feel guilty because I hurt my dad so much and that I should feel bad for making him say those things, and that I should look past it. Again, the extent to which I \u201churt\u201d my parents was listed above. A few days later I got my acceptance letter, and two days later I told my parents I wanted to defer. My dad lost it again, asking me who the fuck I am to have the arrogance to defer, and that I should be taking this god-given gift and studying hard, rather than fucking deferring, and that I should go fuck myself.\n\n\nSorry if this is a rambling mess, I\u2019m on mobile and don\u2019t really know how to format. I believe I\u2019ve covered everything on both sides, so please let me know if clarification is needed. I really want to run away from my parents and start over, but because I\u2019m 17 my father is still controlling me and forcing me to start university immediately. I feel bad because I have done some things that are wrong, but I don\u2019t feel they\u2019ve warranted what\u2019s been said to me. In short - am I the asshole here?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YMKwaP5nsw6AugP84mWycFj774ygckVX", "post_id": "ahultx", "action": {"description": "wanting to spend time with my family", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to spend time with my family?", "text": "Been with my fiancee for almost 4 years, (only got engaged xmas day), I practically don't hang out with any of my friends anymore because it's not worth the hassle or headache the next day with her, and now after we've got engaged she seems to have gone the same way with my family, she's great when we're together or with her family but any suggestion about spending time with my family almost always ends in emotional blackmail from her and me ending up cancelling plans with my family. Tonight she kicked off because my mother had offered to pay for a takeaway with us and she just kicked off saying we never get to spend time together just the two of us (even though we literally went out for a meal and drinks last Friday) she phoned for a taxi without my knowledge and went home to her parents earlier and I haven't spoken to her since, the bad thing is it's her birthday tomorrow and I'm supposed to be going for a meal with her and her family in the afternoon but the way I feel right now I don't feel like I can even show up....", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hDR022kkWlnugoCcmjui7M50JAmQouLr", "post_id": "ask10t", "action": {"description": "bringing in delicious food to the office to purposely wreck my coworkers' diets", "pronormative_score": 43, "contranormative_score": 135}, "title": "AITA for bringing in delicious food to the office to purposely wreck my coworkers\u2019 diets?", "text": "A group of four women at my office are unnecessarily rude to me. I really have no idea why. They were like that to me from the first day I started my job (have been there for a year). I heard they are known to be extremely cliquish. One of the women is the assistant for my boss and purposely leaves me off emails for social functions. I asked a couple of trusted coworkers what her deal is with me and they just shrug and think she\u2019s jealous since I\u2019m younger than her and make more money. I really have no idea if that\u2019s the real reason though.\n\n\nAnyway this group of women can all stand to lose 30-50 lbs each. They all started dieting together and would eat salads for lunch. I\u2019ve been bringing in cookies, pastries, cheese platters, and putting it in our department kitchen. If any of those coworkers show signs of hesitation, I smile and say shit like, \u201cOh just a little piece won\u2019t hurt.\u201d I\u2019m no stranger to dieting (weight fluctuates between 15 lbs) so I know just a tiny crack in willpower can create a flood of powerful cravings. I\u2019ve only been doing this for three weeks but I think it\u2019s working because I always see these women get a plateful of whatever food I bring.\n\n\nOn the other hand, I am feeding the rest of my department (about 20 other people) indirectly and everyone seems appreciative of my snacks.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 109, "OTHER": 41, "EVERYBODY": 26, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 4}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 43, "WRONG": 135}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "EYJfvvqYKzqGHgH5m3oEE3NmaQGC6CW7", "post_id": "9ykexn", "action": {"description": "kicking a guy out of my business", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for kicking a guy out of my business?", "text": "My wife and I run a mechanic shop. We have for a while. Most of the people I deal with are pleasant people, but the other day I had a less than perfect experience. \n\nSo a young lady comes in who only speaks Spanish. We can\u2019t understand her. She seems upset, so I walked outside and looked at her car but didn\u2019t see any obvious issues. \n\nI come back in and try to explain to her that I can\u2019t understand her, but she starts getting mad at me. Eventually, she gets on the phone and starts raising her voice. About 15 minutes later, a man shows up ( I think her boyfriend) speaking broken English telling me to \u201crespect his Sahel\u201d or whatever the hell he was trying to say. \n\nAt this point, I lost my cool and made them both leave. He refused at first but then I told him I assumed he wasn\u2019t a legal immigrant and unless he wants ICE called, he better leave. I also informed him that he should learn to speak English before he invades our country. \n\nI know the last part seems harsh, but he was way out of line talking to me. I don\u2019t care who it is, if you can\u2019t respect me I can\u2019t respect you. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "e6gJNeNkz0du21V2fyJcluXjh1fS0QoK", "post_id": "aza9dw", "action": {"description": "ordering before my friends", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for ordering before my friends?", "text": "We\u2019re at the diner and I\u2019m ready to order. My friends have yet to decide what they want. A waitress comes to our table so I place my order regardless. They say that we should have all ordered together and have been calling me the asshole. I don\u2019t think I\u2019m in the wrong here but maybe this is common curtesy? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "I3p3lpbNUgRdVBF3tqbJayl4DFzRmZeh", "post_id": "aei0gy", "action": {"description": "stealing back my own socks from my girlfriend at a time we both needed socks", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for stealing back my own socks from my girlfriend at a time we both needed socks?", "text": "So this happened last week when we were skiing. Before we went I was hunting around for my ski socks (basically very long, very thick socks if you don't know), asking my girlfriend to tell me if she'd seen any of them because I was sure I had more, but couldn't manage to get together 6 pairs (1 for each day). She said she hadn't seen any. Anyway, I didn't have time to buy more, so I figured I would either re-use them or buy more out there. \n\nOn day 2, I see in my girlfriend's suitcase that she's packed what looks like the missing pairs of my ski socks. I'm instantly annoyed by this, because she has solved her problem of not having enough ski socks and just passed it on to me. I ask her - \"are those mine?\", and she says, \"you left them at my house so I took them\". We kind of leave it there.\n\nCome day 5 when I have run out of clean socks, I go into her suitcase while she's in the shower, and put on my damn socks. She comes out of the shower, starts getting changed and is soon hunting around for some socks. She eventually notices them on my feet, and me with a big shit-eating grin. I foolishly thought this would be funny, we'd have a laugh about her obvious theft, and she'd go buy some more for herself. NOPE.\n\nShe gets very upset that I've put her in this position, that I've just taken the socks she was planning on wearing, and am expecting her to buy more or just wear an old pair twice. She gets really mad about it. I say she can just go buy more, but she says the shop socks aren't as good, and isn't happy about this. So I say \"what, you think I should buy more? They're my socks!\" to which she says \"yes, but I packed them!\". She seems really mad about it so to smooth things over, I let her have the socks, and I go buy more myself on the way to the lifts. They aren't as good as my old socks. Girlfriend is still annoyed about this at the end of the day, although she's calmed down now. Like, I get that she packed them and was planning on wearing them, and I took them, but I can't help but feel I've been fucked over here. \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8Kb7XzPhJRTSIfKoau6URkQf3aDxcGsQ", "post_id": "9w384i", "action": {"description": "ignoring my ex at work after she falsely accused me of abuse", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For ignoring my ex at work after she falsely accused me of abuse?", "text": "We started working together recently after she got me a interview at her work and we were okay at first but then she showed up at my house with her new boyfriend and accused me of abuse when we were together and got angry that I wasn\u2019t talking to her much at work.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3tJf7BN9phbpZ2qdsKQFsUbcvM3H8EcX", "post_id": "b44l3q", "action": {"description": "leaving my girlfriend for ditching me", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I left my girlfriend for ditching me?", "text": " So I've been with my gffor 4 months now. Things went pretty well at the start but we don't see each other much since we live on opposite side of the city. Problems only started happening recently and mostly only because I have been thinking about breaking up. We never really had too much in common: we're both studying similar majors in uni (that's how I met her); we're from different backgrounds and cultures; and smaller insignificant things like she doesn't eat fruit at all and I love fruit, she doesn't exercise and I like to keep fit, she a chocolate connoisseur and I'm not a sweet tooth, different music and film tastes, etc. But we agreed that didn't matter too much since it didn't really affect how we felt towards each other.\n\nTo give some context, she used to be very into me and wanted to spent time together. Now it seems that only I'm initiating to make plans, meet up and talk, which we don't really do more than once a week. I understand a lot of this strain comes from uni now that the semester's commenced but I sort of feel forgotten and pretty dissatisfied in general that she's not really putting too much effort into the relationship. This feeling isn't based on any empirical evidence; she always tells me that she likes me and has always talked us out of it; but it is based on her attraction to me relative to the past.\n\nWe both agreed before uni began that we would see each other Friday evenings after class and occasionally have dinner out. First week was great spending time together, didn't have dinner. Second week was rough; I felt she was a little cold to me for some reason and I ended up trying to break things off again. She talked me out of it, I ended up reconsidering, opening up to her about how I felt and explained that she needed to improve her communication (not the first time she's told me and not the first time I've told her). We went out for dinner after. Now this is the third week. Last night (Thursday), she invited me to sleep over at her place (parents present) on Friday night. I said I was feeling under the weather and was probably better if I didn't. Come Friday I'm excited to finally spend some time with my gf after a busy week and she tells me that she's spending the evening with her sister. No notice, no apology for surprising me with her sudden plans (she did apologise for \"making me feel sad\" but that's not the point). I've been feeling disrespected like this for a while now.\n\nOf course this one event doesn't encapsulate the whole situation but I do feel like there's been this problem for a while now. I know she's feeling stressed in uni and that's probably what's taking the toll on her to justify her behaviour recently. I don't think it's due to any fault in her character but I feel like she doesn't understand me. I've tried to be honest to her about but it always feels like my words are falling on deaf ears. So I guess this is a bit of a cry for help: would I be an asshole if I were to end things like this now?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MIlA6uVXvgUL5NGLw1EC0ArnVVBvzCXH", "post_id": "axy8hv", "action": {"description": "telling an ex's fiance that he cheated", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "WIBTA for telling an ex's fiance that he cheated.", "text": "This is a bit of a long story but will try to make it as brief as possible.   \n\n\nI dated a guy for 9 months back in 2016. He was from a town 3hrs away and so we didn't see each other through the week, only on weekends when he came to stay with me (I was a lowly student, he had a job and could afford the weekly train fare). We talked non-stop, texts, photos and video chats. So it was heartbreaking for me when he suddenly stopped responding for 5 days. He wasn't on fb/insta but I remembered him mentioning twitter competitions. Queue super sleuth mode.  \nMy super desperate self trawled through every account under his name until I found him...he was alive and tweeting since he went AWOL. Trawled through his tweets and I found one mentioning 'his gf' with another user @'d... she had her insta linked to her twitter and so I fell face first into this strangers wonderful shiny documented 3yr relationship with my bf. It was absolutely horrifying, I cried for days.   \n\n\nMy friends talked me out of contacting this girl, I sent him one last, long, explosive message and 'moved on'. It's coming up to 3yrs now and I have the most wonderful loving partner, I am genuinely happy with my life. But I still get this sick feeling when ex's come up in conversation, that I never tried to warn this poor girl. It came up again last night and I caved and looked at her insta this morning (we share the same first name so it's a name I'm not likely to forget) - they're still together, bought a house together, a dog, engaged, celebrating 6yrs together.   \n\n\nWIBTA for telling her? I just need to know if I'm doing the right thing by leaving it when my heart sometimes says I'm not.  The level of sneakiness on his part always made me feel like I was not the first. My partner is ambivalent. Thoughts?? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Cy02SQw67FPWQOiBisbCxojV4oEcUqaE", "post_id": "b8byi7", "action": {"description": "eating my snacks after a volleyball game when none of my teammates brought snacks", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for eating my snacks after a volleyball game when none of my teammates brought snacks?", "text": "I recently discovered this subreddit and have spent hours reading it; I love it and I'm ready to accept my judgment on this one. This took place over a decade ago and it's baffled me a handful of times since then.\n\n​\n\nIn middle school, I was on the 7th grade girls volleyball team. I was a frumpy, awkward kid, and not very athletic or coordinated, but I did a sport every season because my parents thought it was good for me and the middle school teams didn't cut. I wasn't really friends with anyone on the team except one other girl. We had a few after school games with other middle schools nearby, and they ended at about dinner time. Most parents didn't go to games, except for those who volunteered to drive the team, so after the game ended we would call our parents to tell them they could pick us up. We probably sat around 15-25 minutes waiting for parents to get there. My mom would always pack me a snack, usually a handful of pretzels or crackers in a sandwich bag, and maybe like an individual serving of jello to eat while waiting. \n\n​\n\nWe'd all be starving by the end of the game since we were growing teens and all that, so I'd pull out my snacks and eat them. The other girls on the team started saying that it was super rude of me to eat in front of them when they didn't have anything to eat. Like, multiple comments about how rude I was while I was eating my snacks. I didn't think I should have to share the small snack my mom packed me with seven or eight other girls, so I declined to share except with my one friend on the team. Like I said, it wasn't much to share. This happened at every game, so when I think back on it I think that they could've packed a snack at least for the later games, but they never did. When I did other sports in middle school this never came up; maybe because the games were scheduled differently or because sometimes some adults organized team snacks for us?\n\n​\n\nSo, was I the asshole? At the time I didn't really think much about it bc I was happy and eating and I thought it was their problem they were hungry for not being prepared. Not sure if it matters but most of the team were white girls who were super good friends with each other, and then me and my friend were both non-white and not really friends with the other girls.\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qZW6tKDaEj4FVZNfq7hq9XZFakidvGx1", "post_id": "b2vlo6", "action": null, "title": "WIBTA: Facebook messaging my roommates helicopter parents because he keeps eating my food.", "text": "I've asked him two or three times to stop, but it keeps happening, and it's incredibly blatant. If I order a pizza, my leftovers disappear. He ate an entire gallon of icecream I used once. I bought some hotpockets on sale and put them directly in my freezer, and they keep disappearing.\n\n​\n\nHis parents facebook message me occasionally saying stuff like \"Ask him to contact us, and if he doesn't, we'll be there in person to check on him.\" \n\n​\n\nWIBTA if I said something like \"can you make sure he has enough money for food, since I'm not shopping for two?\"\n\n​", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "h2DrvrXE0TC8rrcDpJzFPHLJQmDO2hcc", "post_id": "agqqkg", "action": {"description": "being doubtful that someone accidentally sent porn to a discord server", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for being doubtful that someone accidentally sent porn to a discord server", "text": "Context: person sent porn to a server that doesn\u2019t allow NSFW stuff, I alerted the mods and got it deleted, then they messaged me, [Link to the conversation](https://imgur.com/a/nBl60E8) I\u2019m the dude with green name.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "voTl8lWQOPRieGRnPWpJtocddgCmHPI1", "post_id": "b5c7ou", "action": {"description": "not tipping a lot", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not tipping a lot?", "text": "My (M20) girlfriend (F20) and I have been together for 6 months. We are in college. We go out to eat at local restaurants a couple of times a month to get away from the repitition of dining hall food. Financially I am much better off than her. I get lots of money from family, I dont spend a lot, and my parents pay for everything when I am home so I have a lot saved. She has more expenses and is going abroad this summer so as a result does not try to spend a lot of money. As a result I almost always pay when we go out to eat. I am fine with this. I love her and I understand why it is difficult for her to pay. (For the record I know that if I asked her to split the check she would.) \n\nThis has been a small issue for a while but on Saturday it got a bit bigger when we went out to eat, and that is how much I tip. To be clear, I do not tip small. Usually around 15%, perhaps smaller if the waiter does something blatantly to hurt service. That is how much my dad tips, thats what I grew up on. My girlfriend's family tips large amounts, around 20% sometimes higher. On Saturday we went to a local restaurant. I tipped around 13%, namely because the waiter was socializing with another table (I could hear their conversation) while we had been waiting for a while to order dessert. She got angry with me because I was not being generous enough.\n\nI feel that because I am paying (which I am happy to do) she has no right to criticize how much I tip. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Oy27DPg2egi3xb16JBWd6RLfa4VF8aq2", "post_id": "aopbyt", "action": {"description": "cutting ties with my sister and not wanting to acknowledge or get know my nieces", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for cutting ties with my sister and not wanting to acknowledge or get know my nieces.", "text": "My sister and her partner are malicious people; most of my family feels betrayed and distances themselves. I\u2019m not going to get into a back story because me cutting ties with her is not my focus. It\u2019s her daughters, my nieces, AITA for not wanting to know them?\n\nI don\u2019t like my sister we haven\u2019t spoken in years so my thinking is why would I have to like and acknowledge  her kids. I\u2019ve met the kids which makes it harder but, I believe relationships are not by blood but by how people treat you. I think my decision to not talk to her or her kids is best. \n\nIf you don\u2019t like someone why would you have to like their kids, family or not. My sister is well off not struggling. I wish them the best. I just don\u2019t want nothing to do with them.\n\nMy family is guilting tripping me. Saying I\u2019m messed up. My sister uses her kids to get our family to engage with her. My family feels obligation to her kids so they reach out send gifts etc. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DhZPYWZCRadUFij25kT8uw85hnLKIXNX", "post_id": "a9uccd", "action": {"description": "forcing my close friend out as a business partner", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for forcing my close friend out as a business partner?", "text": "AITA here? I feel like I know the answer to this, but knowing what others think helps. TLDR at the end.\n\nI have this friend, John, whom I've been friends with for about 20 years. I talked with a mutual friend of ours, Tom, recently. Tom, who is also a current customer of mine (John brought him to the business) said that John had some sort of break down at his most recent job waiting tables. He kept oversleeping and was missing/coming in late for shifts, so he went on work disability for stress.\n\nTom said that John blames me for this because after all he did for the business, I forced him out as a partner. I didn't get into specifics with Tom, so I just told him it was either end the partnership or close the business down. Shutting down would cause my customers a good amount of harm because there's a chance they'd incur additional expenses with reconfiguring their current equipment. At the very least, it would be a pain in the ass to switch.\n\nI initially started this business with $40k of my own money. John had no money, but he promised to handle weekly system maintenance, and customer support. I would handle sales & marketing and operations, and we would split onboarding new customers. At the right time, I would get my initial $40k back plus a reasonable % return based on profits. Everything else we would split 50/50 since we split the workload 50/50.\n\nJohn brought Tom and one other business as customers. I was going through a horrible divorce (to the point where my ex was filing false police reports in an effort to get full custody), and I wasn't bringing in new customers like I needed to. \n\nJohn floated the company anywhere from $20-$200 for several months to keep checks from bouncing. All told, his floats totaled about $4k. When I got back on track, I paid John back by giving him a bigger percentage of the fees we charged from onboarding new customers until he was square.\n\nWhile he was floating the company money, I noticed that John wasn't handling customer support or system maintenance. He wouldn't log into the system for weeks or months at a time, if at all. If customers contacted us for support, he immediately asked me for help. He would say he didn't know the system as well as I did, so after helping him (and the customer) I gave him the resources I studied to learn the system for him to study. He continued to ask me for help every time a customer called, and admitted he hadn't studied anything when I asked him. \n\nIt was a choice between enabling him and helping the customer or potentially losing business. Admittedly, I got upset with him after one incident in which he blew up my phone while I was meeting with a potential client. When I didn't answer, he called the client's office explaining that there was a support emergency and he needed me. He called right when I was explaining to said potential client how stable and reliable our systems were, and how we had enough personnel to handle any problems they had.\n\nAfter this incident, there were two or three other times where upset customers were calling me directly saying they had sent emails and left voicemail messages several days ago without a response. I would confront John about this, and he said he had responded and left messages, but they never got back to him. He would then immediately contact them with me present and tell the customer he left messages. The customer would then second-guess themselves, and John would end up handling the issue.\n\nAbout a year after I straightened out my personal issues and after he had been paid back, he was still slacking on his share of work. After another of these complaints, I checked the company email logs. The customer had sent an email that was forwarded to John. However, John had never responded. The only thing I couldn't tell was if John had called the customer or used his personal email address. I then checked the system, and maintenance hadn't been done at that point for about 9 months. I took screenshots and copied logs to document everything.\n\nI took him to lunch and brought up the subject, and I said that I felt like I was doing about 98% of the work but only getting paid 50%. It was taking time away from finding new business, and delaying getting my $40k plus return back as we agreed. John acknowledged I was doing the majority of the work and that he had been slacking, but he said that he floated the company when I was having personal problems. He also said (and I quote), \"And how about all of the customers I brought in?\"\n\nI reminded him that the company paid him back while I haven't gotten anything beyond distributions. I also said, \"You mean Customer A and Customer B? One who's your best friend from high school?\" I then proposed two options. 1) we end the partnership now, become competitors, and keep the customers we each brought on. 2) I temporarily take an 80% share, and give back 5% per month to him for every month that he meets work milestones. He could even start the milestone list and be in charge of editing it until we finally agreed on it.\n\nJohn proceeded to comment that both choices were unfair, and countered with me getting 60%. I said to John that since he acknowledged I was doing about 98% of the work, did he honestly think that I should only get 60% of the profits, and would he agree to that if the roles were reversed? He then said he was only agreeing to option 2 out of our friendship. I wrote up an agreement, we both signed it, and he promised to get the milestone list together in a week.\n\nTwo months later, after asking multiple times for the milestone list, and John either saying \"next week\" or not responding, I got a call from our biggest customer. They had called and emailed three days in a row and nobody returned their call. They called because their service was not working consistently, but now it wasn't working at all. I logged into the system and saw the problem. The particular server's script that clears cache files stopped working, and disk space was almost out. Deleted the cache, rebooted the system, customer's working again.\n\nI checked the system logfiles, and John hadn't logged into the system one time since we switched to the 80/20 agreement. I immediately texted him to call me regarding something urgent about our biggest customer. He called me the next day.\n\nI told him what happened with our customer and that I handled it. He expressed relief and said, \"I wish they had called sooner.\" I said, \"speaking of which, I have something to show you.\" I texted him the screenshots of the system logs, email logs, and call logs, and the list of cache files on the server. I explained that this was what the problem was, and luckily, it was a quick fix. John then said that he couldn't see exactly what caused the problem.\n\nI said that he hadn't logged into the system in over two months. I also said that log screenshots showed that the customer had called and emailed, but they got no response. It also showed that the calls forwarded to his phone. I then said that things weren't working out, and we can't be business partners anymore. If he wanted the business he needed to buy me out of my $40k plus 80%, or I could cut a check for his 20% share so he'd be out. Either way, he needed to decide in 7 days, or I would hire an attorney to figure it all out. I said that I hoped we could still be friends, but I would understand if he didn't want that. John gets very upset, says some words that I don't remember, and hangs up on me.\n\nHe texted me the next day saying he was giving up his 20%, and he didn't want any money. He said he valued friendship over the business, unlike me, and that this was all my plan to steal the business from him.\n\nI saved the texts until I sent him an agreement to relinquish his shares and he signed it. Recently, John texted me randomly, saying that he couldn't believe how I could do this to his friend and how he stuck by my side. I said that I felt the same about him: how could a friend promise to do his share of the business but not do any of it? He then responded that I was a dick. I deleted the texts and blocked his number because fuck him.\n\nTLDR: I invest $40k to start a business, close friend invests $0 but promises to do half the work plus allow me to get back my $40k plus return. He floats the company about $4k while I go through personal problems, but stops doing his share of the work even when he gets paid back. I confront him the first time and he agrees to a 20% share, but still doesn't step up to do work. We almost lose our biggest customer, I confront him again and end the partnership. He calls me a dick.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "S1tzhsyDWcaQeRqeb1QFkcyIxerTjQkV", "post_id": "b13a4u", "action": {"description": "telling off someone's kid", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling off someone\u2019s kid?", "text": "(I\u2019m on mobile and I failed English)\n\n\nI was strolling through a supermarket looking for ingredients to cook for dinner, I taking a turn to the sweet aisle when I was immediately met with a girl (she looked about 7) throwing a full blown tantrum.\nShe started hitting her grandma and shouting things like \u201cI\u2019m telling mom and dad that you\u2019re not getting this\u201d and \u201cI hate you\u201d. \nThe poor grandma looked so frazzled not knowing how to calm the child down as she was rolling on the floor.\nI was still cranky from my overnight shift so I ended up snapping on the girl saying \u201cOi! Don\u2019t treat your grandmother like that\u201d \nThe girl was probably shocked that a stranger intervened but that somehow stopped the little fit she was throwing.\n\nI know it\u2019s not my place to tell off someone else kid but I\u2019m the oldest of 5 kids so I\u2019m pretty used to telling the young ones off when their behavior becomes unsavory. Was I an asshole for doing that? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ps0XiHYTIkuKmLYD2jnNscrGq6fycEIa", "post_id": "au3z9v", "action": {"description": "wanting my partner to put her pay in our joint account", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for wanting my partner to put her pay in our joint account?", "text": "So, me and my partner have been together for 10 years. We have two children together, and we have always had shared finances with a shared bank account. This is because I have been the breadwinner up until this year while she has stayed home with the kids. \n\nWe have had lots of arguments over money, she thinks I'm too controlling because I like to budget and don't want anything spent unless it has been budgeted. (Too often mid month she would bring up some expense that she failed to mention until the last minute, leaving me having to adjust the budget, which frustrated me.)\nWe were using budgeting software, and once or twice a month we would sit down and try and budget together. This would usually end in an argument about me trying to control where the money went, even though I was trying my hardest to get input from her. A typical comment would be \"why are you asking me, you'll just do what you want anyway\".\n\nSkip to now, and because our youngest has started at daycare, she has been able to get part-time work. She has set up her own account and is keeping her money there where I can't see it, and doesn't think it's reasonable for me to want it in the joint account. My thinking is that with this extra income in the monthly budget, we can pay off our debts faster, or save up for a holiday etc but we should make the decision together. She wants to save it herself in a separate account so she can see the fruits of her labor (my wording). She says she won't be selfish with it but needs it to feel better about working and missing out on seeing the kids etc. \n\nAnyway I don't really know how other couples with families combine or separate their finances, so thought I'd see what Reddit thinks. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "N5JEkoDrWtlAH9qAwHMHVtWZgy3C8B1D", "post_id": "apqt1n", "action": {"description": "not spending the night at my girlfriends house", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not spending the night at my girlfriends house?", "text": "So, my girlfriend(18) got mad at me today for not spending the night at her place. Her mother was on vacation with her boyfriend and her grandmother was spending these days there to help around and to keep and eye on her little sister. Yesterday I told her that I wasnt going to sleep at her house however, I would wait until she  fell asleep and then go back to my place. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BUImB1OVfDvIgpG9VqLJi0dvIgHzRNb5", "post_id": "adxigh", "action": null, "title": "AITA fir beeing mad at my GF becasue she is happy when she is excited seeing my classmate and she likes his presence?", "text": "Hello. First time posting here.\n\nSo the story goes like this:\n\nMy classmate added my GF on snapchat and after a while they were talking not just like snapchating like you would with a stranger. I noticed that by accident when i asked my classmate what time is it and he was typing her a snap.\n\n After some time she said to me that he is cute. When i was at my GF's place she would in a way admire his snaps when he would send her one. At one time she opened his snap and she placed her phone on her heart and would go \"ahhhh\" in a way \"he is so cute\".\n\nThey never met before and at one point the passed next to each other and she texted me \"OMG she just passed by me\" \n\nSkipping to New Years party they would meet and hug and talk a little bit and they would split up becasue we were with my friend and he was with his. When to clock hit midnight 2019. Me and my GF would kiss hug and be together a few mins before she would say \" im goin to congradulate him 2019\" \n\nAITA for beeing mad by her admiring this guy and beeing happy about his presence near her?\n\nSorry for any grammar mistakes hope i wrote it good enough.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ouKO4P6S2pIoxb0pAdhDVMKykMIZz28G", "post_id": "b8ej8w", "action": {"description": "hating this person", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for hating this person", "text": "So a \u201cfriend\u201d of mine constantly talks about how great drinking is and how cool is life is. Recently I\u2019ve been real tired of his shit and called him out on it. He sent this to our group chat \n\nhttps://imgur.com/gallery/rTrQpQk\n\nAfter that last message I went off and said something really messed up along the lines of \u201cI give up, if dying of liver failure makes you happy the so be it\u201d. Now I understand how I messed up there but I feel like my frustration isn\u2019t completely unwarranted. I talked with my friend about it and he said that I care too much and I should just drop it. I agree with him really, but I still don\u2019t think I\u2019m in the wrong for disliking this guy. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SYeSLe3Q3XVK4YXABLqSumauljkPuXdM", "post_id": "adi83p", "action": {"description": "getting really angry at my upstairs neighbors for them walking around with their shoes on in their apartment and making a lot of noise", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for getting really angry at my upstairs neighbors for them walking around with their shoes on in their apartment and making a lot of noise?", "text": "So my fiance and I have been renting an apartment for the past three years.  About six months ago, new tenants moved in directly above our apartment and it has been a nightmare for us ever since.  The couple has a toddler who constantly runs back and forth (with his shoes on) in their apartment right above where our bed is located.  He also plays with some mysterious toy that he seems to throw directly onto the ground and it continues to bounce for eternity (we have hypothesized that its some kind of wooden ball or something).  Also the parents are constantly walking around with their shoes on and its pretty loud.  I wouldn't mind except it happens past 11pm and also around 630am.  It has come to the point where I started banging a broom on the ceiling to let them know they are being too loud.  They stop for a while and then it continues.  The main issue is I cannot sleep with all this noise.  I am thinking about going upstairs and asking them politely to shut the fuck up.  I never understood how people can walk in their homes with their shoes on anyway.  They walk around all day outside, stepping on all kinds of stuff (dirty sidewalks, animals poop, bacteria, germs, etc) and then they walk on their floors with the same shoes.  I don't get it.  But anyway, AITA for being upset about this and should I say something to them? FYI:  we have been looking to purchase a home for the past year so we do plan on moving out asap. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "J2EQ5v5otIgTVqiM9UUk27tlUrMNeXf7", "post_id": "aqct32", "action": {"description": "cutting people out of my life because they are not vegan and I am", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 22}, "title": "AITA for cutting people out of my life because they are not vegan and I am?", "text": "I have been vegan for about 12 years now, and every year my feelings towards the cause grow stronger.  It really upsets me when I see people eating meat/animal products.  It's gotten to the point where I actually go to therapy to help me cope with my feelings about the meat industry.  \n\nI have a loving family and a great group of 5 friends who I've known for almost 20 years.  They all know how strongly I feel about veganism, yet they still manage to tease me about it from time to time, even though I've told multiple times that I don't appreciate any jokes revolving around my dietary choices and lifestyle.  I know they don't actually mean to offend me, but these comments still really hurt (example - my friend's and I were at a food court eating lunch, and one of them mockingly said to me, \"mmmm, look at these delicious animal bones\" as he poured gravy on his fried chicken.)  It's been the same these past 12 years, and I'm starting to get sick of it.  \n\n​\n\nI'm really starting to get pissed off with the choices that the people closest to me are making, and it's affecting my psychological health and state of mind.  Every time I see a loved one eating meat, I can't help but think they are a heartless scumbag (though I would never say that to their face).  I'm not here to debate whether eating meat is right or wrong, but to me, eating meat is akin to murder, and I can't keep spending my leisure time with people who are committing acts that make me want to vomit. \n\n​\n\nMy therapist ran the idea of cutting these people out of my life, and I'm starting to seriously consider it.  The thought of not being able to see these people anymore makes me sick, but not as sick as watching them participate in the lifestyle choices they make.  I have not made a decision yet, but I'm strongly considering cutting them out, so that I can live with a healthier state of mind.  AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 21, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 22}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "leMvLNhkU18X7rmtEqKVaY85QmfFKI14", "post_id": "b3qtn3", "action": {"description": "not paying as many bills as my husband", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not paying as many bills as my husband?", "text": "I am 29 F and work fee-for-service at $20/hr. This means my hours worked does not equal my hours paid, and that my income also fluctuates as I am needed. However, I typically work all day Mon-Thurs, and do light paperwork Friday mornings. I work from home a good amount, too. \n\nI also do vast majority of care-taking for our son, cook all of our meals, most of the cleaning, plus I help my husband with his business, and run my own little side hustles to make extra income.\n\nMy husband is self employed so his income fluctuates as well. He often works long, strange hours but is pursuing a career he loves after years of us barely scraping by to support his dream. This, trash, and occasionally picking up our son from after-school are his core responsibilities. \n\nHe pays all our rent/utilities, a little under $2k per month. That is the extent of his bills. His family pays his phone/car bills for him and also paid off all his student loans a couple years ago. I pay our groceries, supplies for the house, and whatever our son needs. On top of that I have my phone, auto insurance, student loan bills. $800-1200 per month depending on what I can afford. \n\nEvery. Single. Time that we argue, he throws in my face that he pays for my living expenses and says I \u201ccontribute nothing\u201d. I am far from lazy and work hard, but no I don\u2019t earn as much as him, and Its fair to say he is a harder worker than me. He really never stops even at night, whereas after the day is over I like to wind down. I am pretty much in the highest paid position for my field/education/experience, and I don\u2019t want to change fields because I am eligible for licensing soon if I stick with it. I also want to note that our rent is really expensive because he insisted we move here, even though I warned him I didn\u2019t think I could afford it while also paying off my student debt and contributing to a savings account, which was important to me. We both really live \u201cpaycheck to paycheck\u201d now, though.\n\nHe keeps insisting that I\u2019m the jerk and I basically should always do whatever he says because he supports me. Where I think he is being unreasonable that we should split all the household bills evenly if 1) I have higher personal bills which are necessary, non-luxuries 2) I do more for our home/child 3) I earn less than him per hour. \n\nTl;dr self-employed husband works long hours, makes more money than me, and has less personal bills due to family help, but is mad that we don\u2019t split our household bills evenly for a home I warned him I couldn\u2019t afford. I want to keep my current job because I like it and it\u2019s good for my long term career goals, and honestly don\u2019t think I could make more anyway. I try to make up for it in non-monetary ways like doing almost all cooking, cleaning, and child raising. AITA?\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "S66l4d4lzKo2lnImIawpQ1NJIyFhhy2p", "post_id": "a5r0no", "action": {"description": "for not sympathizing with a girl whose fish died/had to give away her birds", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for for not sympathizing with a girl whose fish died/had to give away her birds?", "text": "I know this girl who is an awful pet owner. No fucking joke. She\u2019s had fish and birds (no mammals, thank God) and has either killed them or had to get rid of them for one reason or another. Here\u2019s some examples: \n\nShe had four clown fish (salt water fish, which are generally pretty tough to take care of for a new timer). I told her to start small, with fresh water minnows or something. She wasn\u2019t having it and got the clown fish. She ended up putting FOUR TIMES the amount of salt in their water. When I told her to fix the water, she just said \u201cthey\u2019re tough little guys :-)\u201d.  Yeah no they all died. \n\nFast forward a year, and she wants to get TWO Quaker Parrots - note about them, they are extremely social and need to be socialized all the time. Otherwise, they legit get depressed and die. \n\nI told her not to get those parrots. They live 30 years, and we\u2019re in our mid-twenties and she wants kids. She won\u2019t have time for them. Yeah, of course she doesn\u2019t listen to me and buys two $400 birds. \n\nShe has them for months at most, and they end up HATING her. She gives them to some random pet shop without a second thought. \n\nThrough all this, she\u2019s playing up the sympathy card HARD CORE. Crying to me or anyone who\u2019ll listen about how sad she is about her pets dying or how much she misses her birds. \n\nI finally told her that it was her fault all that shit was happening, for not doing research, or straight up ignoring my advice and being recklessly negligent. Obviously she got upset. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "chmLvvORP4MkfoTIDBsGJypULTepw7Rn", "post_id": "advqhz", "action": {"description": "contributing to a rift in my husband's family", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For contributing to a rift in my husband's family", "text": "This happened in the last couple years but I am still bothered by the results.   \n\n\nI have a great relationship with my husband and his immediate family.   My mother in law (Theresa) in particular is a classy and really fantastic person.  She loves me very much and frequently says she is glad her son found me.   \n\n\nMy mother in law has a sister, my husband aunt (we will call her Betty).  Betty and Theresa had a falling out years ago. Betty rather painfully cut out Theresa and my husband from her life.  Betty loved my husband dearly but didn't want a relationship with her sister so she cut them off entirely.  This falling out was related to hard feelings of competition between the sisters and then resentments about their mother's estate. Theresa doesn't have other family so this hurt everyone.  My husband was a child and it hurt that his loved aunt wouldn't see him.   \n\n\nMany years later Betty is getting married to Clara. Clara is a lovely woman and wants to help Betty get back together with her family.   Everyone reconciles and we start going to Betty and Clara's home once a month for a \"family game night\". While things are reconciled, they are still tense. Betty has a pretty volatile personality with some temper issues. Theresa still feels cautious and hurt. My husband wants things to work, but mostly for his mothers sake.  People usually like me because I am a pleasant people-pleasing sort of woman. Clara loves me but Betty treats me from the start as an outsider.  Betty is a staunch conservative who is ex-military.  (Ironic because she is a lesbian right?)  My husband and I are liberal. My husband is much more liberal than I am and has made me more liberal than ever.   While we rarely discuss politics, it comes up in the course of the kind of games we are all playing together.  Each time Betty gets mad about our viewpoints it becomes obvious that she blames those viewpoints on me ... not her darling nephew, my husband.   \n\n\nFast forward to 2 years of family game nights. Things are tense. Betty doesn't like me and it is obvious. I am an approval seeker so I handle this by becoming very quiet and not participating as much. I have social anxiety and this tension made it terrible. I will be honest.  I didn't want to go any longer.  My husband and I had arguments over it. I would say that she didn't like me.  He would say that is just how she is.  I would talk about tone of voice, body language and facial expressions.  He would not see those things. I wanted his mother to have the relationship she craved with her sister and I wanted him to be able to see his aunt.  I felt guilty and yet hated being forced into these monthly interactions.  I went anyway and isolated myself at these events more and more. I didn't ignore anyone but I stopped being my gregarious friendly self and would stay off in a corner alone on my phone.   \n\n\nWe are expected to RSVP for game nights.  Two times over the 2 years ... I RSVP late. This infuriates Betty. My husband doesn't face book.   The first time the late RSVP happens he tells her that it shouldn't be my job to do this anyway.  He would prefer to do this over the phone with her.  She refuses and insists on using face book and states that it should be my job to manage our social engagements because I am the woman.   \n\n\nThe second time I didn't RSVP fast enough she could see that I had seen the invite ( I was too busy to respond when I opened it and then forgot for a week).   When she lost her temper again at me.  She never talked to me if she could help it so she vented this rage to my husband and I heard of the problem second hand. I told my husband that since the schedule had changed I was having a harder time keeping track of the dates.  I apologized and RSVPed and messaged her to tell her I had forgotten. My husband, making an assumption, thought this meant I hadn't seen the RSVP at all and told his aunt that is why I missed it. She lost her mind.  She said to my MIL that I am a terrible person. She felt that I lied to my husband and I was a bad partner.  She could tell that I had seen it because face book told her it was viewed. She knew that I was deliberately ignoring her and then lying to my husband to say I had not seen it! She thought that I was disrespectful to not RSVP and she never liked me.  My mother in law started to defend me.  She told her that I was a trustworthy and really good partner for her son.  She explained that Betty really had not gotten to know me like she had.  She said that a couple missed RSVPs in 2 years was no big deal.   \n\n\nThe fight between them escalated with Theresa defending me.  My husband and I were told and I said that I wouldn't stop them from seeing her but I no longer would go under any circumstances. My MIL said that she wouldn't go either and my husband said the same. I told them both that I didn't intend to stop them from seeing Betty.   Even though they each had issues with her ... Betty was much nicer to them than she ever was to me and I felt that each had a bit of a relationship with her they liked.   They said that if I wasn't going, they weren't and agreed that Betty was unreasonable.   \n\n\nI still feel guilty.   I got what I really wanted ... which was to not go there any more and deal with this unpleasant aunt-in law.   However, I watched a budding reconnection between sisters get destroyed. My MIL still misses her sister though she directs all of her anger at Betty, not me.   I feel terrible for being the point of contention that made this attempt to reconnect fail.  I feel like if I had been able to get along better with Betty, perhaps not reacted by withdrawing ... perhaps I could have made this relationship better.   \n\n\nTLDR: AITA for failing to make this relationship strong enough to work and being the point of break up of the relationship between my MIL and her sister? My aunt-in-law is a difficult person to get along with, but if it had not been for this conflict she would still be interacting with her sister and my husband. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vmTwKNVRE0BNhFPN8hYRwP3KzDPHbI2b", "post_id": "9tcxm1", "action": {"description": "not wanting to reconnect with a friend I don't like", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to reconnect with a friend I don't like?", "text": "Recently, a friend from some years ago reached out to me to try to reconnect. I, in effect, said no.\n\nThough I think I had genuinely liked him when I first met him, at some point I was just tolerating him. He tended to annoy me, but I didn't want to be mean, so I said nothing. I also never thought he was a bad person by any means, so I'd have felt guilty pushing him away.\n\nWhen he asked to reconnect, I remembered the toleration. That I didn't _really_ like him, but kept being friends for his sake. I said no partially because I don't like him a ton but also largely because I think that that was a toxic situation for him to be in, and didn't want to allow it to happen again. He's a good person and deserves to be with friends who like him for who he is.\n\nOf course, it's easy to point out that I could just learn to like him for who he is, solving the issue outright. But I'm not sure if it's fair for anyone to tell me (or me to tell myself) that I _ought_ to like someone--I either do or I don't. As my dad once said, \"it's not your job to be anyone's friend.\" And I'd rather, for both parties' sake, make it clear which way it is--either we can be genuine friends, or not. No toxic in-between that breeds uncertainty and insecurity. I hate being in that situation and would prefer a clear answer, so I will give a clear answer to others.\n\nAdditionally, the fact that I _am not_ reconnecting and accepting him for who he is seems to be some evidence towards the fact that it wouldn't be a good idea to try; that it would crash and burn because I'm not quite an accepting enough person yet. But perhaps this is just me making excuses.\n\nIATA regarding what happened in the past; I should have gone one way or the other. But AITA now?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "49EeyTdL9JsUefhOiMcDfe5Uu4fPnMTN", "post_id": "ajz38u", "action": null, "title": "AITA for wanted to break of my engagement?", "text": "Okay so this might be a long story but basically I\u2019ve (F 19) been with my fianc\u00e9 (M 21) since i was 15 and haven\u2019t been with anyone else. All of my friends seem to think i should break up with him saying so directly or indirectly. I find myself envying single people and even fantasizing about cheating on my partner even tho i would never do it. I\u2019m afraid I\u2019m missing something out something by only having experienced one relationship. If things were perfect with him i wouldn\u2019t have doubts but they aren\u2019t. I find a lot of things he does unbearable. He also jokes about and exposes really personal info of mine and my friends even if we repeatedly ask him not to. Some of his opinions go against my morals and he never admits to being wrong. We even had a situation that i consider cheating but he doesn\u2019t. He was saying \u201ci love you\u201d, \u201cxoxo\u201d, and \u201cmommy\u201d to a mommy asmr youtuber that he was paying on Patreon. (NOT MY KINK AT ALL, but whatever i guess i just wish he hadn\u2019t talked to her behind my back.) he\u2019s extremely in love with me and would be devestated and make a huge scene if i broke up with him (which i tried to do multiple times while we were dating). I\u2019d be worried that he would hurt himself tho he has never done that before. I don\u2019t want you to think he\u2019s all bad because i love him and he is sweet and would do almost anything for me and the sex is good and i just want to know if am asshole who just wants to experience being single for the thrill or the idea of someone better because I\u2019m heartless or if it\u2019s something else. He\u2019s not a bad guy and i probably could be happy but for some reason i find myself wanting more, am i the asshole?\n\nEdit: I dumped him. Thank you everyone for the advice. I'm very sad but I know this is the best thing.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "x7lnXV72qSUKV8827ByXZWucKG2reVrz", "post_id": "ahqps3", "action": {"description": "cussing at my Stepmom", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For Cussing at my Stepmom?", "text": "(She isn't quite my stepmom but my dad and her are getting married this year.) One day she came in to my room after Christmas and said \"This room makes you look like a crazy hording asshat\" I responded with \"Maybe if you didn't get me stuff that I didn't need, it wouldn't look like I was a 'crazy hording asshat'.\" to which my dad look at me with the \" :l \" face and I just said \"Hey I'm going to cuss at anyone who cusses at me.\"", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "rNiAuwU7F7LC2aEceK78oYEap2BQmXBf", "post_id": "9yzdd8", "action": {"description": "neglecting and borderline hating my deadbeat dad", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for neglecting and borderline hating my deadbeat dad", "text": "To start things off my dad has not been a consistent part of my life. He drinks himself till he\u2019s blackout drunk and is the kind of person that would say he\u2019s going to pick me up and would leave me waiting on him. My mother raised me until I was 9 and when she passed away my father gave up custody of me to my aunt and uncle; my mother wanted me to live with them before she passed. He drifted in and out of my life going to jail multiple times and when he seemed to be doing well he\u2019d fuck up his life drink and get violent with his SO. About two years ago he re-entered my life and the first time I saw him in over 3 years he was blackout drunk with my older brother driving him around. He then would message me on Facebook with deadens conversations that went no where ie. \u201chow are you?\u201d \u201cI\u2019m good\u201d. He would send me various messages and got to the point where he\u2019d send weird photos one of which was a nsfw woman that had be burned. \n\nWith all of this context he recently started called my phone number, I\u2019m not sure how he got it again. And would ask how I\u2019m doing; more dead end conversations. I would ignore his calls if it were slightly inconvenient for me to pick up and wouldn\u2019t bother calling back. \n\nMost recently he helped me out. My cars clutch had given out on me and he called me the same day and I told him about it. He offered to fix it if I get the parts. And so he does and was working on it in the rain. He does the job in two days and I get a newfound respect for him. Money was not mentioned by me or him. That following weekend he asks if I wish to go to a baby shower with him I agree to go and on the way there he has me stop asks me for $5 and goes around a corner and buys alcohol without my direct knowledge. He proceeds to drink to the point where he\u2019d doze off. We arrive at the party and I meet some extended family where most people that know him are fully aware that he\u2019s drunk. The situation is extremely uncomfortable for me and I\u2019m forced to babysit him and take him home afterward. \n\nAt this point the little respect I had for the man is crushed and I\u2019m contemplating blocking his number as he calls me every two days to check on me sometimes sober most times drunk. I don\u2019t like being pestered and understand his loneliness but I can\u2019t bring my self to really care for him right now. I\u2019m dealing with my own mental health issues and I honestly feel I\u2019d be better off never seeing him again. \n\nTLDR; my deadbeat alcoholic dad helped me out of a bind and then proceeded to loose my newfound respect of him by having me give him money to buy alcohol and then having me baby sit him.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "auoQBWMyOFzLQh6hdMN3ilOA1GCK4WVL", "post_id": "agnm5f", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my sister for wanting to get food after we've already left", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my sister for wanting to get food after we've already left?", "text": "The title doesn't really explain it well. Sorry. Anyways, I'm 13 and my sister is 12. We live pretty close to Taco Bell, its a 1 hour walk there and back. She's not allowed to go there by herself because she's pretty short/small, and immature for her age. So we walk there, whatever. We pay for our drinks and food. She doesn't get any food because shes not sure if she has enough money to pay for it, so we leave. \n\nAbout a minute after leaving she says \"I wanna go back to get food.\" I say no, but later say I don't care, because she usually bails out if I don't go with her. She starts walking back to Taco Bell and its about 30 seconds before I realized she actually thought she was going to get food, I would keep walking without her, and she would walk home herself. Of course I stormed into that Taco Bell and mini-yelled at her (not loud enough so everybody could hear, but three people did.) I got angry at her and left.  I waited for five minutes outside so she could get her food. \n\nI walked in front of her the whole time, keeping my distance, because, you know what? If she wants to walk home by herself, she's gonna walk home by herself. I still made sure she wasnt getting too close to the road, but that's it. I know what I did was petty. \n\nWhen we got home, she was calling me stupid for complaining that she made me wait and I called her stupid for thinking that I was going to let her walk home by herself, and, I dunno, die? The roads are super slippery and that's why we aren't at school right now. \n\nTo be honest, I'm expecting either everyone's the asshole or I'm the asshole. Using a throwaway account.\n\nTLDR; My sister refused to listen to me, so I yelled at her in front of three other strangers, and I forced her to walk home by herself (which she wanted to do). We both called each other stupid and she's offended that I'm still mad at her. I also locked her out of the house for two minuets lol. We're 13 and 12.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "g2zEcqgGrL652RP8SfYAWbAxZHwGbxlJ", "post_id": "aghokj", "action": {"description": "being really mean to someone that tried turning people against me", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being really mean to someone that tried turning people against me?", "text": "Me and this kid, we'll call him Mark, we don't like eachother. At one point he started being nice to me ONLY to get me to help him with something. Well, he starts spreading rumors about me. So overtime some people start going on the side of me and some of my friends. Well Mark doesn't care because at first it's only a few people. Calls me a f***ot and n****r and more rumors. So eventually more people start going against Mark and he has a few people still but yeah. So he wanted to join our small group, while STILL spreading rumors, spamming, and even threatening me. So I denied it. But the thing that really made me feel bad is he needed help plugging his controller into his computer and I just hung up on him. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nYR62yuSq9IbABDiSilsAagMHB7Ojz5F", "post_id": "b8jw4y", "action": {"description": "leaving a student at school", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for leaving a student at school (field trip)", "text": "Teacher here, we had a field trip for second grade. All my students except two got their forms signed and returned.\nI said the two who had no forms would be left behind. The office made the bus wait as they called and went to a parents house (because they don\u2019t have a phone) to get permission.\n\nI think we should have left the kids at school. They didn\u2019t get their forms signed, they shouldn\u2019t get to go. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ZOanZBrqCN7sT656RUXdIw4h2rh7Dxgk", "post_id": "ay7io7", "action": {"description": "not giving my friend her wedding money back", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I don't give my friend her wedding money back?", "text": "\\[Throwaway\\]\n\n​\n\nMy fiance(29M) and I(28F) are getting married at a music festival that has overnight camping. We invited a few close friends and a married couple that we'll call A(30M) and B(29F). It's a fair amount of money to go so we offered to buy everyone's tickets if they pay for their camping slots. (Camping slots are sold as 4-person tents so each person would pay for one quarter of a tent. Tickets are more expensive than camping slots.) Because it's a big decision and the festival does not do refunds, we gave them about 6 months to decide. After that, we got everyone's money who said yes and purchased everything. \n\n​\n\nA month later (6 months ago now), B separated from A. (It's a situation where she has grown a lot and he has been very stagnant, relying heavily on her for emotional support.) In that time, we've tried to figure out if she is still coming or what we should do. At first, she hadn't decided and then she stopped responding. Our wedding is now 2 months away and we told her we are just going forward as if she's not coming. She called us pretty much immediately to say sorry and that she's not coming. She didn't say anything about money. Weeks later she called and said that she just signed a new lease, lost her job, and needs her camping money back. We told her that it's already been spent, but that we'll re-ask the few people who originally said no and if any change their minds she can get her money back. Well, none of them did, so we told her sorry and left it at that. She responded that she'll just try to sell her ticket instead. \n\n​\n\nThe thing is, the ticket is not hers to sell. We bought them, so if anyone should resell it for money it should be us. Both she and us are out money. Why should she then get money back and not us? I feel bad that she lost her job and is most likely getting divorced, but she made a commitment and backed out so she needs to deal. We haven't responded yet, but if I say no, WIBTA?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vJtp38nl4iRREkcwaOnQHHqnMQMpzV1l", "post_id": "acq62w", "action": {"description": "telling a kid hes obnoxious to play games with", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling a kid hes obnoxious to play games with?", "text": "Sorry in advance, I'm on mobile.\n\nAnyway, a little backstory is that I'm currently in school. That's it. So, I frequently bring my Nintendo Switch to school and this one kid is always the first to jump on it to play smash with me. You may be thinking he just wants to be your friend. But, no. He is very good at smash and everytime he beats me gets obnoxious about it. The one time I beat him he has a little temper tantrum. So earlier today I'm playing and he comes up. Now, earlier that day he said he wasn't feeling good. So, I was tired of him just being overall obnoxious and annoying so I said when he came up to me, \"you're not feeling good so you probably shouldn't play today. That was my subtle hint of I don't wanna play with you. So then he calls me an asshole and asks why it's only him. This is because other kids play by the way. So I said \"I dont wanna play with you today.\" So I'm thinking he probably got the hint but then he calls me a dick and just throwing a tantrum. So after a couple of minutes of that I just say \"Can you please leave, I just dont enjoy playing with you cuz you obnoxious.\" Then he freaks out and puts his head in his arms at his desk. Later, I felt bad about and really would like to know AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5GG5avk89gBYkdu3CG0LjVUYo9cIdlpg", "post_id": "b1xt6a", "action": {"description": "dumping my ex because he doesn't spend time with me", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for dumping my ex because he doesn't spend time with me", "text": "Me (21F) and my ex boyfriend (21M) had been in a steady relationship for a little under a year, about 11 months. Over the last 6 months, he's been getting increasingly distant and I was starting to feel neglected. Not his fault, he had school and work and stuff. So I brought it up to him, and we worked out a compromise: we'd set aside time for each other once a week, even if it was just a simple phone call. \n\nAt first, we kept to it, making sure we spent time together at least once a week, and if we could afford the time then obviously we'd spend more time together. \n\nBut his new semester started, and it wasn't kind to him. He had a full schedule on most weekdays, but that meant one or two weekdays would be free per week. But he doesn't set aside time for me. I understand that he's busy, but once a week is really the least I can go in terms of maintaining a relationship. \n\nSo I bring it up. He calls me unreasonable for asking him to spend time with him at 2am. Alright, but I was trying to point out the larger issue of him not spending time with me, not saying we should spend time now. So I try and tell him, and he ignores me.\n\nHe's ignored me after fights, or if I bring up something he doesn't particularly like, so it's normal. Another \"rule\" we have is that we don't let fights go on for more than 24 hours. Partly because I have pretty severe anxiety and I need to talk things out to make them right, but also because he needs time to process what happened. So we came to a compromise, within 24 hours we would reach out and contact each other.\n\nBut after 36 hours, he hasn't responded. So I sent him a long message telling him that I didn't feel like continuing the relationship with him, because I date for marriage and I can't marry someone who is not willing to spend time with me at least once a week.\n\nIt wasn't just the spending time aspect, I think. It was how we negotiated those rules for him to break them. I was really trying to come to a compromise with those rules, like spending time together once a week and talking after a fight after 24 hours, because I really do need to spend time with someone to maintain a relationship and I really do need to talk after a fight to reassure myself, but he just disregarded those even though I'd talked to him before.\n\nSo, AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nvRiYW4bIWIUN6Pta8LSCwZPrMI4Orfm", "post_id": "b7rjxe", "action": {"description": "being picky about finding the right apartment", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being picky about finding the right apartment?", "text": "Important facts- I live by myself, work and pay my own rent, and generally am completely independent of my parents. \n\n​\n\nMy mom has some furniture that she wants to give to me, but it's too big for my current place. I'm planning on moving in the next few months, before my current lease ends. It's month to month now but the longest I can stay is June. She really wants me to move now, so she can get it out of her house. However, I've been taking my time looking for places that are in a good neighborhood, close to work, affordable, quiet, etc. I'm in a high cost-of-living area so it's not easy, but there's still plenty of time before my lease ends. I don't personally really need the furniture, and have told her she can donate it, but she really wants me to have it and is pressuring me into picking a place now.  Am I wrong for wanting to wait for a better place? Things turn over a lot but there's nothing great right at this moment. I have anxiety and have lived in crappy places before where the area or commute is nerve wracking and I refuse to do it again. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zJ804rewGtx97SS19yvcfiAZzWdP2HS0", "post_id": "at9xsb", "action": {"description": "throwing period blood covered jeans at my sister", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA For throwing period blood covered jeans at my sister?", "text": "Right i know how bad this sounds but try and understand my reasoning.\n\nBasically it started when my nana planned a day to go swimming with me and have a day just to ourselves. Some really bad stuff has been happening lately and I've been feeling really down so my nana suggested a day to ourselves to make me feel better. \nUsually my nana and I watch my sisters on a Wednesday so we asked my Papa to watch them for a few hours and he said that's fine but not for my sister L, (L has always been a bit of a brat since she started hanging with the horrible wee girls who made fun of my youngest sisters autism) \nL threw a fit she said if she can't come she is going to her friends and tried to leave the house my poor nana had to lock the door, she came in and threw water all over my room and then threw slime at me and it went everywhere and I had to do all the cleaning. (Also she knows I hate slime and can't touch it cause it's freaks me out what is one of the perks of me having Aspergers)\n\nToday she pushed me over the edge when I realized I got my period and it hit hard, blood was running right into my jeans so I rushed to the toilet but L pushed past me so I tried stopping her and said \"L stop I'm on my period and I'm bleeding through\" she looked at me laughed, Locked the bathroom door then said \"but I'm already in\" she proceeded to take as long as she could in the toilet, probably about 10 minutes. By the time she was out blood was all over my white jeans and I was fuming.\nSo I got a pad went and changed my underwear, changed my jeans for leggings. \nMy bloody jeans where Inside out so the blood was alot more visible I took them, went into L's room then did a perfect throw from the door to smack in her face. She looked shocked for a second, looked at me then looked at what hit her then screamed, like those movie scenes screams where wine glasses explode she also started crying and mom came in thinking she fell or something and then shouted at me although I couldn't stop laughing.\n\nDo you think I went a bit far?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "bNZErS00WwPqhofCHAklgL9mkpfYABXx", "post_id": "au76ut", "action": {"description": "sending back a cockatil", "pronormative_score": 25, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for sending back a cockatil?", "text": "All happened 2 days ago I was in this bar with a couple of friends for a drink night, we were given a table right in front of the bartender and since we do that a lot and I know my tastes when the men\u00f9 arrives I didn't even bother looking at it knowing what cocktail I wanted, my friends took 2 spritz and a \"japan iced tea\" while I took an italian iced tea.\n\nThis said while we were chatting I saw the bartender brewing mixing a couple of orange cocktail and a green one probably being the ones my friends took, but the last one was a bit odd, whenever i take the Italian Iced Tea I expect the bartender to lenghten it with Sprite but he was putting Coca Cola in my drink, at first I thought that this was for another table since spritz are common and a green cocktail could be anything, but the waiter came right to our table to give us the cocktail, a bit reluctant but I accept to drink the cocktail thinking I should know better next time and read the men\u00f9 because every bar can make their own little twists on cocktails and could've put Coca Cola in it.\n\nSecond cocktail round came in and this time I checked the men\u00f9, and there was written Sprite in there. Maybe the bartender made a simple mistake, it happens but I do want that cocktail so I ordered again hoping that this time was right, the waiter takes the orders and the men\u00f9 back and we kept chatting, I said joking to my friends that if there's coke again in my cocktail I'll send it back.\n\nFF to when the bartender was making our cocktails again and here it is, he is pouring coke in my drink, again, so when the waiter comes in I gently ask to change my cocktail since it is not properly done, so the waiter goes speaking to the bartender which replies that he does cocktails like they are written in the men\u00f9 if I wanted my own twist I should've said it earlier.\n\nSince I don't want to make too much of a scene I said that most probably I was wrong and didn't read the men\u00f9 carefully enough (but I was 101% sure I read it carefully) so I said that I'll accept my cocktail like it is, if in the men\u00f9 there's coke and not sprite, so I'll ask for another men\u00f9 since the waiter took ours earlier when he took the orders to double check. And Yes I was right from the beginning the cocktail is made how I said, and on the men\u00f9 in that bar is written like i recalled.\n\nIn the end the waiter apologized and changed my cocktail making a little joke saying this time it will be exactly like I was supposed to receive it  and after that he offered us a round of free shots.\n\nI felt really bad while my friends started poking at me saying the next drink will contain spit and that probably the bartender was fired (which for the record he wasn't) but after that I felt really bad, I'm no Gordon Ramsey shitting on everything unless is perfect and was actually my first time sending something back, so in the end AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 25, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "N5ao3tygubDqGFQqlVzOVqcleb7sNxRN", "post_id": "amebzi", "action": {"description": "aggressively demanding an apology from my wife", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 35}, "title": "AITA for aggressively demanding an apology from my wife?", "text": "I was coming back from a date with my wife and she found a tongue ring in the center glove compartment. She very calmly accused me of cheating on her. I tried to tell her that she should trust me because we have been togetherfor 12 years and she should know i would never risk our relationship or our family.\n\nMeanwhile i took a pic of the ring and texted everyone who had been in my car in the past few months who could have lost a tongue ring in my car.\n\nAn hour later i got a text from my cousin who recognized it and said it was hers. So i said fuck! (out of relieve more than anything) then i held my phone in front of her and i said without raising my voice Apologize! Apologize! \n\nWe didt talk again till this morning and she is actually angry at me and says she has nothing to apologize for.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 16, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 19, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 35}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "nEoH1kfqTnycKhB5k5KJI28KhSCgoPTY", "post_id": "arg144", "action": {"description": "telling an old lady who cussed me out to \"go to hell\"", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling an old lady who cussed me out to \u201cgo to hell\u201d?", "text": "Hey there, dudes!\n \nThis story is a doozie.\n\nSo, about a week ago, I went to a school acting convention. I\u2019m apart of my school\u2019s Thespian program. This was an overnight trip and we stayed there for three days. The trip was pretty fun until the last day. I had missed lunch so, I was upset with myself. I was in the lunch hall and I shoved a chair a bit (keep in mind, I suffer from Bipolar Disorder so my temper can flare up at times, but I\u2019m much better at dealing with it now). I didn\u2019t shove it too hard and I was ready to leave the cafeteria and head off to my next workshop. All of a sudden, this lady with rectangular frame glasses and starts yelling at me. I\u2019ll name her GF (grey fury).\n\nGF: *storms up to me* Hey! You\u2019re making an ass out of yourself! You\u2019re a stupid ass!\n\nSide note: I don\u2019t deal well with being repeatedly followed and confronted because my Bipolar disorder makes me afraid of other people. The best thing for me to do when agitated is to leave and de-escalate things.\n\nMe: This has nothing to do with you. Leave me alone, please!\n\nAt this point, she got even more indignant and followed me around more.\n\nGF: I\u2019m not the one making an ass out of myself! You are! You look absolutely stupid and ridiculous right now!\n\nI had had it. I was so scared, mad, and anxious. I finally stood up for myself.\n\nME: *Yelling, visibly upset* Leave me the hell alone, bitch! What the actual fuck do you not understand about that?!\n\nGF tries to get closer.\n\nME: GO TO HELL, YOU OLD HAG! LEAVE ME THE HELL ALONE!\n\nI ran to the bathroom, shut myself in, and cried until my teacher found me. I came out of the bathroom and he asked me what had happened. I told him the whole story and luckily, my teacher is pretty awesome and was totally supportive. He\u2019s like another father to me. He asked me if I knew who she was but, I didn\u2019t. She didn\u2019t work at the convention because she didn\u2019t have a convention name tag, like all employees and attendees were required to wear. I don\u2019t even think she worked at the university.\n\nAfter that, we went to the closing ceremony. After we left the ceremony, I see the crazy woman again. She gives me this dirty look and I flipped her off. Do I regret flipping her off? Hell no. I\u2019m not confrontational and I don\u2019t have a mean bone in my body but the way she treated me was abhorrent. When I got home, I told my parents what happened and they were horrified that an old lady, who was more than old enough to know better, was yelling and cussing at a child with mental problems for no reason.\n\nTLDR: I gently shove chair at convention, crazy old woman cusses me out and follows me, I tell her to go to hell, run away, she follows me around an hour later, and I flip her off.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9UY20PXWJIQR60c7qO6bPMUB3TDGmLqw", "post_id": "b2rfj9", "action": {"description": "not spending much on a present for Mother's Day", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not spending much on a present for Mother's Day?", "text": "Mother's Day in the UK is on the 31st of this month. In preparation I brought her gift well ahead of time (last week). Earlier tonight my sister saw the gift I had brought my Mum and scoffed at its price. I've brought my Mum a large Galaxy smooth chocolate bar (one of her favourite types of chocolate) for \u00a32.50. \n\nMy sister exclaimed that since I have a full time job I should have spent more on my Mum's present. She is still in college and works part time and said she at least spent \u00a310 on her. I believe she got her a piece of clothing. My Dad was listening in on the conversation and appeared to agree with my sister on the subject.\n\nFor Christmas it was the opposite story, I spent \u00a312 on a cardigan for my Mum whilst my sister spent around \u00a34 on something (I've forgotten what). I didn't care about the price then as it was the most thoughtful gift I could think of at the time. If a gift is worth getting I'll pay the price for it, but I don't see it necessary to spend lots for the sake of it. \n\nMother's Day is yet another day a year which for me has been ruined by capitalism, they're is nothing special about the 31st of March. We are just told that it is and that if we don't buy our Mum something we are wrong. For me the day is about spending time with your Mum and a gift is a nice cherry on top. A present is meant to be a show of love and be thoughtful, not something you feel like you have to do and that the less you spend=the less you love them.\n\nAm I the asshole for thinking like this? Should I get a second present to bump up the amount I spent? Or is it just capitalism propaganda ruining what's meant to be a day of showing your love?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "f20fU8mVmprXrLfJ4bwfkSs5BvmJ4q0k", "post_id": "b4a4fo", "action": {"description": "not telling my parents/other people I am graduating", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not telling my parents/other people I am graduating?", "text": "I am 43 years old. I have raised two children to adulthood, worked full time while attending school full time and I am about to complete my first Bachelor's Degree. My Parents don't see the value in education and I am trying to teach my children that I do see the value, which is why I am so heartily pursuing it. I'm an only child, I'm a private person and I really don't want any fuss. But I feel like a monster for not picking up the phone and saying \"hey! I did it!\" to someone?!   \n\n\nMy children will be traveling with me to my graduation in a few months. I don't want to tell my parents (because longstanding drama and again- it's not important to them) and I don't want to tell my boss or my coworkers or really anyone- this is personal, and this is mine.   \n\n\nTL:DR AITA for graduating and not wanting to include anyone else? Should I call my folks and at least give them the chance to be happy for me?   \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gHZtg65NZZPgzVQNIt2MrVQGtw4tzrh5", "post_id": "b8obks", "action": {"description": "putting the kitten out of our bedroom because of debris/germs and the safety of our future newborn", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for putting the kitten out of our bedroom because of debris/germs and the safety of our future newborn?", "text": "Anon account cause Boyfriend reads reddit.\n\nI\u2019m currently 34 weeks pregnant and a VERY light sleeper. That combination alone causes me to lose precious hours of sleep. Our 7 month old Kitty wakes up around 3/4/5 am and runs around under our bed and zips in and out of our bedroom. She drags noisy toys into the room. Boyfriend sleeps through all of this. I began to turn into a curmudgeon because I just can\u2019t get a solid night\u2019s rest.\n\n I suggest she needs to sleep outside of the bedroom. He wants her to keep sleeping with us but he offers to get up in the night and put her out of the room. He doesn\u2019t wake up when she plays. I ALWAYS ended up being the one to wake up and put the cat out of our bedroom.\n\nI start to wake up to piles of dirt on the floor around my beloved plants. She ends up killing one of them. Boyfriend does nothing. I reprimand the cat. Boyfriend also lets cat climb on the counters, tables, splash in the toilet, claw at carpets, etc. WITHOUT reprimanding her. He just kind of laughs and goes \u201cshe\u2019s a cat\u201d. My logic is \u201csure, she\u2019s a cat but she also needs to be trained.\u201d \n\nThis leads me to do a bit of scholarly internet research about training cats. I learn about parasites, fungal infections, bacterial infections, protozoal infections, and so on. (I understand the risks are EXTREMELY low for catching diseases from cats) I\u2019ve always been a little grossed out by her putting her cat asshole on pillows but this pushes my concern over the edge for germs. We\u2019ve already had to scoop her up and take her to the bathroom to wash squished shit off her paw. My BIGGEST concern is that I\u2019m due in about a month and a half and everything I\u2019ve read says do NOT let your cats sleep in bed with your babies. The cats can unknowingly suffocate a helpless infant. We will have a bassinet and some nights I will be cosleeping because I will breast feed but this is IT, folks. I say no more cat in the bed, PERIOD. My line is drawn because my baby\u2019s safety is my number one concern. \n\n He begins to heavily advocate to have the cat in the bed, based solely on the fact that she won\u2019t feel like a part of the family if she isn\u2019t in the bed. I remind him that I can\u2019t sleep through the night. I remind him that I don\u2019t want cat shit and kitty litter in the bed. I even tell him that she can\u2019t sleep in the bed with baby around so she needs to be broken of the habit NOW before baby comes so she won\u2019t blame him for her eviction. All he cares about is her being comfortable. \n\nSoooo, am I the asshole for not wanting the cat to sleep in our bed anymore?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IIhoyvf0ERDXTH9pOLLJhCVFIMufDxvH", "post_id": "ahh0lp", "action": {"description": "hating the noises that my sister makes when shes eating", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for hating the noises that my sister makes when shes eating?", "text": "Title sounds weird but basically whenever we are eating as a family my sisters lip smacking annoys the living shit out if me. She smacks her lips SO LOUD when we\u2019re eating and sometimes it gets to the point where im fuming and pissed at her and myself the whole day. Whenever we are eating together I ask if she can chew more quietly and shes just like \u2018oh, thats how I eat\u2019 and she says it in a rude way. It happens very often so when we are eating I just shush her and she gives me a dirty look. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kAxfO8gG6oVy6XOJvf8nhthAp6GsDPj7", "post_id": "a8enr9", "action": {"description": "telling a guy I would be fwb then decided not to", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I told a guy I would be fwb then decided not to?", "text": "Basically my friend and I decided we wanted to be fwb (friends with benefits). We talked it out and the next day we got together but after that it just didn\u2019t feel right to me. He asked a little later on in the month if I wanted to again and I said no and that I was going through a lot and that this just wasn\u2019t a good time for me and I wanted to stop. He got upset and told me I asked for it and now won\u2019t reply. He is really good friend of mine and I tried to go around it as best as possible.\n\nAITA for leading him on then changing my mind? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yp3Pfrx71DVfIDlPeRbs42uzaxvCxrFw", "post_id": "aruxhy", "action": null, "title": "AITA - is my friend an a-hole for believing she should have a phone?", "text": "I have a friend who\u2019s 14. Her mom\u2019s rather strict on electronics, ridiculous punishments follow the smallest infractions, etc. That\u2019s not the point. The thing is, her mom\u2019s rule on phones is \u201cyou will get one when you can drive.\u201d\nIs my friend an a-hole for believing she deserves a phone, even if it\u2019s a crappy prepaid phone? Especially since her parents go out of town and leave her with her GMA a lot?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tuQ7fTlQbY0zG8yQe5hR0IdMzNPu3jHG", "post_id": "a6ffb7", "action": {"description": "not wanting to deal with my best friend's chaotic life anymore", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to deal with my best friend\u2019s chaotic life anymore?", "text": "I\u2019ve [F26] been friends with this person [F25] since we were 13. She is a great friend in terms of being there to listen. Her family and her have always been poor. Her mother has never been a good role model - keeping publicly abusive relationships, drinking constantly and not being there for her daughter. Her family life over all has always been hard.  She has dealt with depression and anxiety her whole life.\n\nMy friend has never been able to keep a job more than a couple months since high school. She just quits randomly. I\u2019ve paid thousands of dollars for her over the years in the form of rent, food and entertainment so that she can enjoy nights out with our friend group. \n\nShe has two children who she sees every other week because her and the dad are separated. When she doesn\u2019t have the kids, she goes on drinking benders. During these, she will start shit with her family members and boyfriends causing huge fights. She just got a DUI a couple months ago and is now on probation but is refusing to stop drinking or doing drugs.\n\nShe has wanted to kill herself for years, and has acted on it tens of times. She will blow up everyone\u2019s phones saying she is taking a bottle of pills and then not answer anyone\u2019s calls. This was start her loved ones leaving responsibilities like work, racing around town while in tears trying to find her and getting the cops involved. Last episode she had called me for the first time saying she was going to kill herself which sent me into a panic and i had to go track her down in a crying panic thinking my friend would be dead by the time I got there. Every time is has turned out she didn\u2019t actually take pills and she was saying/doing crazy shit cause she had been drinking. I have stopped inviting her out with new people because she will show up wasted and embarrass me.\n\nI was already distancing myself a bit because I couldn\u2019t emotionally deal with the chaos, but the last straw was when I foolishly let her borrow a few hundred dollars. She had a new job and seemed to be doing well, so I told her yes but I needed it back in two weeks. She promised me she\u2019d have the money back to me \u201c100%\u201d. She said she needed help because her kids\u2019 dad fucked her over on daycare. Turns out she quit that job the day prior (after 1 week of being there) and that she actually needed that money for rent. She told me all of this a week later and genuinely didn\u2019t seem to realize that her story was much different than what she told me before. That deadline is now three months ago. She has brought up paying me back once. She got another job a couple weeks ago and I heard from a friend she already quit it.\n\nShe\u2019s had a history of dating physically and mentally abusive men. Yesterday I get a call from her mom asking if I\u2019d seen her because she hadn\u2019t come home. I say no and automatically know what this is about. The night prior she had texted me bragging how she cheated on her boyfriend. This boyfriend has blatantly said to our group of friends that he\u2019s not afraid to beat a woman. I knew he was evil. Turns out her sister told him that she had cheated on him, he drove to her house, broke in, smashed her phone and beat her. She now has bruises all over her and is (hopefully) getting a restraining order. I was not surprised at all, I told my friend he\u2019d beat her one day and my friend (who is also one of her bfs) didn\u2019t believe me. He is an overly-obvious abusive person. Yelling at her constantly in front of strangers, acting crazy all of the time.\n\nIn summary, I\u2019m caught up because I have suffered from crippling anxiety and depression but it\u2019s never brought this type of destruction onto everyone around me or myself. It seems at this point she\u2019s choosing all of these awful things to happen to her at this point. (Besides being beat obviously). Blatantly self-sabotaging. Which I know can be from mental illness. Where do you draw the line blaming it on mental illness? I don\u2019t want to be dragged into this anymore. I care about her and her wellbeing but it\u2019s been 10 years of this chaos. \n\nSomething happens every week. And every week either she or her mom will call me to talk about it, thinking that I need to be informed of what happened. The same shit that always happens. Nothing ever changes, and in fact gets worse every year. It brings a lot of stress onto to me and has ruined a lot of days for me, crying, leaving social setting to go make sure she\u2019s okay or sitting around in anxiety over how she\u2019s doing.\n\nAm I the asshole for wanting to stay friends but not wanting to hear or be dragged into her mess?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qIn3mAtEw2EEFfnujlCRtqhldSK2UTmY", "post_id": "az543o", "action": {"description": "threatening to kick a friend out of my house", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for threatening to kick a friend out of my house?", "text": "Hey AITA, I'm finally able to post here after an intense moral debate with my friends, SO, and self.\n\nContext:\n\nIt's 3 AM in the morning, and a group of friends (3) and I are in my apartment after a board games session and are getting into beds/sleeping bags, my roommate is sleeping. One of them is quiet, the other speaks loudly but turns it down when asked to, and the last one is a guy who thinks he can do whatever he pleases. This last guy has been kind of an AH the entire night (and for a day or two), doing shitty and resentful comments, and it kinda got to my nerves so I asked all of them to keep it down, please. This guy keeps arguing with loud guy, after telling me he will not pay back the food we ordered (he's kinda on a tight budget also), and had told me before he doesn't give a shitty about my roommate.\n\nThen, the pivotal moment.\n\nI calmly told him to shut up, that he is really annoying and I'm losing my patience, so I'm considering kicking him out. He then said \"lol you can't do that\", to which I replied \"wanna see?\" So I open the door and tell him to go ahead twice. If he did, I would've given him another chance.\n\nHe then complied and went to sleep.\n\nThen, the day after, everyone is mad at me for doing that, telling me I overreacted, and that it is a shitty thing to do.\n\nHis arguments particularly are that he values \"loyalty\" and he wasn't even responsible for the volume of the conversation.  Loud guy hasn't given me his opinion, but obnoxious guy says that he also thinks I am the asshole. Quiet guy says I'm totally the asshole, that kicking out a friend is a really shitty thing to do, especially to friends; that if he's resentful, he could be going through rough times and I should support him, not kick him out. SO thinks I'm NTA because I didn't effectively kick him out, and that I shouldn't put up with him; friends or not, he's being disrespectful and obnoxious.\n\nI'm really annoyed by this situation and no one satisfies my moral discomfort. I'd really like to hear your thoughts/critics/analysis on this and if possible to give me advice on what to do.\n\nThank you very much in advance, and sorry if bad English, it not first tongue.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Q1d4lAN8l0jjQJ3WsNjgBqJ3BopkhQvO", "post_id": "alhhmb", "action": {"description": "not sleeping on the couch", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not sleeping on the couch?", "text": "I guess you could more accurately say couch or guest room. This isnt a huge issue or anything but it's just one of those things we can't agree on. My wife and I have both had a rough couple of weeks with work and tensions finally got the better of us and we got into a stupid, unimportant disagreement about home decorating in which both of us acted like assholes and got entirely too upset over such a dumb topic. \n\nAs this was later in the night, she ended up telling me she was so upset with me that she didn't want to share a bed with me. This is the first time this has happened, so I asked her to come talk to me so we didn't end the night angry at eachother and because I felt like something else was wrong. She got even more upset and clarified that she thinks I should sleep downstairs tonight. I told her no, i wasn't going to sleep downstairs and I wanted to talk to her and she got mad at me and accused me of not listening to her.\n\nI said I'm not going to be sent downstairs in my own home, and if shes that upset with me and refuses to talk it out then she can go sleep downstairs or in the guest room because I don't have any problem sharing a bed with her. She spent the next thirty minutes yelling about how she doesn't want me in \"her\" bed, to which I reiterated that it's not her bed, it's our bed and im not the one trying to kick her out of it. she eventually came to bed.\n\nWe've since talked about it and realized it was blown completely out of proportion and caused by the added stress in our lives, and made a lot of resolutions to communicate better and make time for eachother. However, she's still mildly pissed that I wouldn't just sleep downstairs when she asked, and I still think it's unfair to make your partner leave their own bed instead of either talking or doing it yourself if you're the one who needs space.\n\nI think we were both shitty here, but settle this for us. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZfmiY41aaZmRNYvI0eCauiZkLVn8Qddy", "post_id": "b12tab", "action": {"description": "telling my friends sister that she probably won't get a celebrity to go to prom with her", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for telling my friends sister that she probably won't get a celebrity to go to prom with her.", "text": "Okay, so I have a friend who's sister is a senior and has dwarfism. For this reason she's had trouble getting a date for prom. \n\nNow she has a massive crush on the actor Ben hardy. When I was over my friends house she asked me if I could share her message on social media for him to go to prom with her. I responded with sure, but I added. \"I wish you best of luck but the odds of this happening are very low\".  This is where the trouble begins. She calls me an ass for saying that and I reply \"it's not like you're gonna die from having dwarfism\" \nYour life won't be ruined by not having this guy be your date. Both her and my friend are calling me an asshole for doing this \n\nSo reddit AITA\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "IzYuEClpPNdGH3N37TWF60cWk44mDgZh", "post_id": "b9k2w8", "action": {"description": "getting food from a different restaurant", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting food from a different restaurant?", "text": "Every couple of weeks my family (me, husband, 5 year old and 1 year old) will drive about 40 minutes to the big, new grocery store to do a large shopping trip. We\u2019ve made it a routine to have lunch/dinner at Culver\u2019s afterwards as a treat.  Now, I like Culver\u2019s, albeit not quite as much as husband and 5 year old do. Also, I am not a picky eater - in fact, I\u2019m almost always the one making food sacrifices for those two, who *are* extremely picky. Which is ok!  However, today I just did NOT want to eat at Culver\u2019s. At all. It literally sounded gross to me. I\u2019m getting over being sick, and greasy fast food was not appealing in the slightest. Since I knew everyone else was looking forward to it, I figured I\u2019d order a sandwich from the sandwich place next door while checking out our groceries, and we\u2019d swing by there to pick it up on our way out. We\u2019d go eat at Culver\u2019s, and I could just eat my sandwich on the drive home.\n\nHowever, my husband did not like this. He said I should have just \u201ccompromised\u201d, and eaten at Culver\u2019s anyways so we could eat as a family. He said he felt rushed because I was just \u201csitting there staring at him\u201d (which I was absolutely not, in fact I was busy keeping the very crabby nap deprived toddler happy and fed, which was actually easier to do while not trying to eat myself at the same time!). He also claimed it was \u201cweird\u201d that I ate my sandwich by myself on the ride home. \n\nPersonally, I thought I WAS compromising by going with what everyone else wanted to eat while still having food that I actually found appealing, from elsewhere.  I felt like he was blowing it out of proportion - not that this was a huge fight or anything, just a minor disagreement, but imo it didn\u2019t even need to be that. \n\nSo, am I the asshole?  Should I have sucked it up and eaten something unappetizing to me?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Hz90ZRmSFujI9O5bEFLbgTVkRaOlkocA", "post_id": "afcru0", "action": {"description": "helping a newer coworker learn parts of his job", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for helping a newer coworker learn parts of his job?", "text": "So, I was a cashier at a restaurant for a while and i recently quit right before Christmas. I worked there for a total of 5 months and during my time there we underwent significant changes in leadership and staff, so most of the people I worked with had quit or been fired by my third month there including several managers and the general manager that hired me. As a result I was switched to a completely different shift and had to work with a bunch of trainees and new employees. \nOne of the major changes made at the restaurant was the opening of a new position called the cleaning captain. His job was basically just to keep the restaurant clean. He had worked under the new GM for around 2 years at a different restaurant franchise (very important detail), so she recruited him to work at our store. \nInitially I had no problems working with the guy, his position alleviated a lot of my responsibilities, so I was given other tasks. Because I had already been trained on the proper ways to do some of these tasks by the District manager (who supervised the store during the management change for about a month, and changed up the protocols for a lot of things) I offered to help him learn the right ways to do things like cleaning windows and bathrooms (which the DM was very strict about). \n\n*I chose to help him because i saw that he wasn't receiving proper training, and was basically being thrown in the pool and told to swim by the new GM, who was a rookie herself.*\n\nSo, after i showed him how to do them properly a few weeks later i noticed that he would slack on doing them (they were supposed to be done every morning) and I would remind him to do them, so he doesn't get chewed out by the GM. I personally would want someone to do that for me, but he started to take it as me bullying him (this is important). So, i stopped reminding him unless I needed to. \n\nFast forward a couple of weeks and we're short staffed because the morning shift manager quit, the morning cashier was fired along with the morning fryer. So, i was put into the position as the opening shift cashier and prep. He was also forced to take on two postions as the cleaning captain and prep helper. \n\nSo, up until then we remained cordial and we would joke around along with the new morning manager and the fry cook. The three of them were way older than me. I'm 18, the morning manager was 37, the fry cook was 27, and the cleaning captain was 38. We would toss around insults and jokes, and they would complain about their struggles in life. \nI would avoid talking about the heavy stuff and  would join in on the jokes, but every time I would join in he'd act like it was a big problem and make it seem like I was picking on him. The only time that i actually picked on him was when I joked about how dumb it looked when he kept the cardboard in his hat.  Other than that I only ever added on to group banter and it was never one sided. \n\nWhen we worked he still insisted that i was picking on him if showed him the proper way to do things , or if I asked him to help me with something. A lot of the stuff being asked of him was outside of his position, but it wasnt me asking him to do it. I  only tried to show him how to get things done more effectively, but he would still whine and complain about me picking on him. I have a low tolerance for whiners and I refuse to be antagonized, so I would defend myself. It got to the point where every time i said anything to him he would make it an arguement.  \n\nI'll admit that I'm not the most sensitive or patient person, so I  tried to explain to him that I'm not trying to pick on him. I was only trying to do my job and help him with his because when he messed up or took too long doing something it would throw off my work and would add to my work load.\nHe didn't take that well and would call me a disrespectful little girl. I don't understand how I  was being disrespectful, or why he felt like he deserved to be treared better because of his age. \n\nAbout a week or so later the confrontation got worse. He would purposely be in my way to irritate me, he constantly accused me of purposely making messes that he had to clean, and he would snap on me if I tried to get him to do his job more effectively and stop making me work harder than neccessary. \nAt some point he started talking trash about me to other coworkers and trying to ruin my image, refusing to help me with things like lifting boxes that were too heavy for me and getting supplies during the lunch rush, and he once told me that he wished his daughter (who died about 6 years ago and was 5 or so years older than me) was still alive so she could beat me up. \n\nThe final straw came when he out right yelled at me because I tried to show him how to fry something faster after waiting on him to get done for almost 20 minutes, so I could do what i had to do before the lunch rush started (I was the only cashier and I also fried chips and stuff, but I couldn't do both during the rush). Later that same day he yelled at me for telling him that he needed to hurry and leave the kitchen instead of lollygagging trying to steal food out of uniform after his shift, because the DM was on her way and would fire him and yell at all of us if she saw him like that. \n\nAfter this incident, I talked to my parents about it and they told me that tbe best thing to do was to go to the GM about it or her boss. I would have gone to the manager that was over our shift first, but she saw everything as it happened and even after I showed clear signs of distress and I told her it bothered me, she never did anything to resolve the issue. She always laughed it of and I found out later that she assumed that we had known each other for a long time and were playing (even though I clearly told her that the way he treated me bothered me). \n\nSo, I told the GM and she got defensive and accused me of being bossy and took his side because she knew him longer and \"he wasn't know for acting like this\". She completely dismissed everything I said, and her solution to the problem was to just have us ignore each other. EVEN THOUGH HIS JOB DIRECTLY AFFECTED MINE. \n\nThe next week my hours were immediately cut in half and i was given fewer days to work, while his never changed. Her excuse when I quit, because it's a waste of time to work 3 hours and day for 2 days a week, as that we weren't bring in enough money and they had to decrease hours. That were BS, because there were part timers with more hours than me. \n\nTL;DR: I was accused of bullying because I wanted to help a newer employee be more efficient. \n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6016mnV6uhdymJyK24PKbEZR5093e4hT", "post_id": "b6biao", "action": {"description": "breaking a couple by telling them what they really think of each other", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 67}, "title": "AITA for breaking a couple by telling them what they really think of each other?", "text": "I'm on the debate team. My partner and I are planning to run for co-captains of policy next year (one type of debate). My partner, let's call him Tim, is honestly the better debater out of the two of us. But I'm a better writer, and more importantly in this case, better at politics (well, as much as a high schooler can be).\n\nI anticipate our main competition is a team, which also happens to be a couple: James, and Mary. \n\nThe main reason I worry about them is because they're from two different social groups, with different friends. Here's what I mean: my partner and I, we were friends before high school (and therefore debate) even started. Our friend group is the same. On the other hand, James and Mary come from two different 'cliques': James is popular in and out of debate, confident, and friends with all the more social, showy members of the team who joined because they love public speaking and all that. Mary is quiter, more intellectual and into philosophical stuff, and is friends with the more intellectual wing of the debate team. So a joint ticket with them has a chance to get votes from both groups. \n\nThe thing is, while I'm not friends with either of them, I know from casually talking to them that neither of them are really happy with the relationship, but don't want to break up because they'll know it'll effect their debate partnership. Mary kind of sees James as 'big mouth, small brain'. James sees Mary as overly idealistic, anti social, and at times boring. \n\nSo I told each of them what the other thought of them. This caused an argument in the middle of the debate meeting, and they actually broke up then and there. James was legit crying, and he blamed me for this. But everyone else seemed to agree that I was doing them a favor: they were incompatible but kept dating because of debate, and it made them unhappy.\n\nSo who's right? James or everybody else? Aita?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 63, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 67}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "gNfPh5DodNes6uiuPb9Upq3mqxu5T5qb", "post_id": "b36jan", "action": {"description": "taking my friends parking spot", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for taking my friends parking spot?", "text": "I have a friend named (we will call him) Kevin, and last Friday I took his parking spot for about 45 minutes because I had a meeting that was very close to his house (were in college, I live further away and his house is next to the building that I had my meeting in). This is the first and only time I have done this.\n\nIn my defense, I am very close with all of the people that live in this house. They all share parking spaces, with enough for each of them, so I figured since my meeting would be short I could park there. I also did not purposely take the spot for Kevin, just a random spot that was open in their back lot. also by taking his spot, I did not completely make it so that he could not park, as he could have easily have double parked one of his housemates. \n\nupon returning from my meeting I came into the house to say goodbye and say thanks for letting me park, but when I came in Kevin refused to acknowledge me, apparently because I took his spot. \n\n I apologized to him and said id give him a heads up next time if I planned to use the spot and he still wouldn't say anything.\n\nso am I the asshole? or is Kevin overreacting here.\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "raNug5EKLbmD296JSNZQhDtePw8Zxerg", "post_id": "9tgz1m", "action": {"description": "telling a girl I'm not into her and not realizing she had a crush on me", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for telling a girl I\u2019m not into her and not realizing she had a crush on me?", "text": "So I started working at Subway over the summer and began working with a teen in my grade and she\u2019s cool. We have a lot of fun together at work and she\u2019s my favorite person to work with. However I always thought of her as more of a friend. \n\nThen one night she said she was mad at me because I didn\u2019t come to a party she had. (Mind you I already had made plans and there was drinking and vaping and I\u2019m not about all that) anyways I asked if that was why she was mad and she said it was also because of something else. I kept asking what it was but she wouldn\u2019t say. All she said was that a clue was her snapchat story from 2 days ago. The story was about telling your crush you like them. I put 2 and 2 together and realized that she was mainly mad at me because I didn\u2019t realize she had a crush on me. I felt bad because I didn\u2019t like her in the way she liked me and I figured I should let her know. I told her and I feel like she was kinda upset. \n\nAITA for telling her this and not realizing that she liked me sooner?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BJLIJFPqIneaetlyAsorz7T1d7TIr3MK", "post_id": "aodbi8", "action": {"description": "not wanting to discuss a wedding date right now", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to discuss a wedding date right now?", "text": "Me and my girlfriend just got engaged less than a month ago, today while laying in bed she springs me with the question \"so when do you think you wanna get married?\".  So I replied with \"I don't know it's been a long night I don't really want to think about this right now can we talk about this tomorrow please?\"  She replyed with \" Ugh it's not like your sleeping so why don't you feel like talking about It?\" So I replied with \"Because it hasn't even been a month sense we got engaged and I feel like we need to go through this couples therapy first\" after this she shut off the lights and said in a half angry tone \"fine be that way\".  Is it unreasonable to not want to talk about that so soon or not? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "r1vcQxeNQUSLfKulIePjjWLHkCH2avqc", "post_id": "aktf5h", "action": {"description": "expecting a bit of leeway", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For expecting a bit of leeway?", "text": "I have recently been given new responsibility at work, without a title change. While they did give me a small raise, they are still paying me far less than someone with my duties should make.In fact, I am still being paid less than the other person with my official title.\n\nI took the job because I was (and still am) desperate for money due to a few things out of my control. They offered me $3 less than I asked for, but to hire me on the spot.\n\nWhen they asked me to work more hours, I stayed. When they asked me to do another person's work I stayed. When they were severely understaffed, then lost the office manager and another important person....I stayed. Now, I am effectively working 2 positions.\n\nLast week there was a problem with how some of our items were entered into the system...saying that I must have entered information in the 2nd page first. I told them I will definitely own up to the problem if I did it, but that as far as I know I have absolutely done it per instructions and would like to be led through it again.No word on when they plan to show me where I went wrong.\n\n Then today, a coworker comes to bring me an invoice. I tell him to put it in my mailbox and I will put it in. Jokingly he responds \"Who gave you a mailbox?\" Then the other person in the office responds that it is still trail and error. I, trying to bring back the light tone, say \"A little less error everyday.\" Then they respond \" if you say so.\" COMPLETELY SERIOUSLY.\n\nLater, while doing my original duties I was hired for, the office manager comes to tell me I need to pay better attention because the same person from the office found I mis-filed an invoice in the K folder when it belongs in the L folder....(seriously they got stuck together)...and that they now are going through all of the to be paid invoices to make sure I didn't mess up again and it's a whole bunch more work for them.\n\nI just don't know if I am a super crappy employee or if I have a crappy job.\n  \n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CXDbTi0gGGy9DgnOEvY9YAEJbpcmAS62", "post_id": "aedjog", "action": {"description": "ghosting a girl after she baked me cookies", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for ghosting a girl after she baked me cookies", "text": "Posting this on behalf of a friend. This happened a few months ago. \n\nI\u2019m in college and I started getting with a girl who I met through a friend. When we first kissed, we had been hanging out for a majority of the day; we were definitely \u201ccuddly\u201d and flirty to the point where it felt like we were dating, which is something I wasn\u2019t really comfortable with. As I was leaving her room that night, she was the one to lean in first. I was a bit taken aback because I hadn\u2019t really known her for that long \u2014 so I told her after we kissed that I wanted to take things slowly. She says ok, everything\u2019s fine, we make out again a day or so later.\n\nNow here\u2019s what happened. I\u2019m in class the next week a day before my birthday, and I get a text from her while my phone is off (I usually have it off in class). She knows what class it is and where. When I get back to my room, I turn on my phone and I see the missed messages from her saying that she would be outside my classroom\u2019s building waiting until my class ended with cookies she baked me for my birthday. For the record, I didn\u2019t see her waiting outside the building when I left.\n\nI know you may be thinking: that\u2019s so nice of her, how cute, etc\u2026 but I honestly felt like it was weird. I have been in relationships before and this sort of stuff didn\u2019t happen too often, let alone in the first week. Then this girl who I haven\u2019t known for more than a week or so tells me she\u2019s waiting outside with cookies she\u2019s made me as if it\u2019s a promposal.\n\nAnyways, I text her saying I\u2019m sorry for not seeing her messages before and that I was busy, and she responds that its okay. But the whole incident gives me weird vibes \u2014 from the way she was acting she definitely made it seem like we were dating. After this incident, I mostly stopped talking to her, and didn\u2019t continue hanging out with her until the whole thing fizzled out. I could definitely tell she was trying to keep things going, but the encounter put me off.\n\nAm I an asshole for ghosting her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "7rMUN9L54Mjt2oPbSn7Z2MhSd3Bs0nt8", "post_id": "a9tlp3", "action": {"description": "hooking up with someone else despite knowing how a friend will feel", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Hooking up with someone else despite knowing how a friend will feel?", "text": "This is kind of a long story. But years ago, I met this girl and hit it off.  We talked about all kinds of things- our life experiences, plans for future, hobbies, and eventually sexual things. Soon though she had to go back to her own city,  so nothing really happened between us.(we didn't start to openly talk about sexual things until after this fact.)\n\nWe talked about things like our kinks, what we like, sometimes talk about whether or not we managed to get lucky, etc.\n\nLost contact with her over for a couple of years when I got into a serious relationship. After it ended early this year, I got back in touch with her to see if there was still some thing there. We tried a couple times to meet, and finally narrowed down a time for me to fly to her city. I checked in with her multiple times before I jumped on booking a trip and place to stay. Leading up to the month, she started sexting me heavier than usual. (Vids, dirty talk, etc)\n\nThe day before I was set to fly though, we talked about the phone and I could tell something was off. We talked about it, and she ended up wanting to cancel at the 11th hour. I respected that decision, but I had some airline credits I wanted to spend that would expire soon from my breakup. And there were places I wanted to check out in this city, so fuck it. C'est la vie.\n\nI knew she was into me though, and I was into her. But there was never anu discussion about what we are or exclusivity.  So I ended up hooking up with people I met at some classy lounges I really liked, and I told her about them when we talked about how my trip was going. She started making replies shorter. I could tell, tried to talk about it, but she kept blowing me off. (Again, we had history about talking times we got lucky. Nothing specific, but still.) So I just enjoyed the rest of my vacation.\n\nWell couple weeks later I reached ou to try to talk to her again,  to talk things out. Didn't work out, she wanted to stop talking, and she threw a couple of insults towards me. One of which was aimed about the fact that I hooked up with random people, which I never kept from her in the past.\n\nI personally think I dodged a bullet, especially since she aimed to insult something she never had a problem before in the past. But yeah, AITA for hooking up with other women knowing how she'd feel? Throwaway account.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9df9dqAOp3fhO4Xi4TBbZTDAtXhVqkEH", "post_id": "b2p7zg", "action": {"description": "stealing over 4k usd from my abusive parents", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "AITA for stealing over 4K USD from my abusive parents?", "text": " \n\nBasically title. Over the last two years, I\u2019ve stolen over four thousand USD from my parents. This is because they have been emotionally abusing me for the last five years of my life (I\u2019m sixteen now). My parents constantly belittle and criticize me for arbitrary things that I do. They\u2019ve controlled my social life with my friends and tried to isolate me as much as they can. They listen in on the few phone calls I get and keep me from visiting my friends (many of whom I have lost contact with due to the five years of isolation). They have even pulled me out of the public schooling system and have chosen to \u2018homeschool\u2019 me (in reality, they don\u2019t teach me anything). \n\nMy dad is always extremely aggressive towards me and lacks any sort of empathy for me. He used to be a good father, but he became a nightmare soon after my grandmother died. He tries to intimidate me constantly. He destroys the things I buy with my own money. Just last month, he took away a tablet that I recently bought with my own money that I earned working as a fast-food cashier. \n\nMeanwhile, my mom shows clear signs of being a narcissist. She constantly acts superior to me and refuses to acknowledge any of my feelings. Whenever I talk to her, she always ignores what I\u2019m trying to say and constantly berates me for \u201cnot being good enough.\u201d\n\nAs a result, I\u2019ve resorted to playing video games as an outlet. At this point, my games are the only things that matter to me anymore. They\u2019re an escape from the horrible life my parents create for me. \n\nI hate them. They think they\u2019re the smartest people in the world, but they don\u2019t know anything. They expect so much from me when they give me nothing. I want to run away from home soon. I would need to steal some more money in order for me to survive, but I\u2019d do anything to get away from them.\n\nThe reason I\u2019ve been stealing the money is to get back at them. Honestly, my parents have made my life a living hell, and I hardly want to wake up in the mornings. They always call me a spoiled brat whenever I play any video games. They\u2019re always trying to take away my one joy in life, so I figured I would take away the only thing they seem to care about. Over the past year or so, I\u2019ve been taking money from my parents and spending it all on in-game purchases and electronic devices. At the time, I thought it was only fair since they abused me and took away a lot of my stuff.\n\nBut still, a part of me feels a bit guilty. I know I\u2019m being too generous considering my parents\u2019 awful behavior, but I still feel like taking the money might have been wrong. Dad was really close to my grandma. He used to be nice before my grandma died. Mom\u2019s been getting in a lot of fights with dad too. Sometimes, I wonder if maybe I\u2019m doing something to deserve this.\n\nThat\u2019s the full story, I guess. Reddit, AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 10, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "4bPdzukgNkijzoqbU57Al4clm39vIL1o", "post_id": "b0b41c", "action": {"description": "feeling distant from my fiancee due to lack of intimacy", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for feeling distant from my fiancee due to lack of intimacy?", "text": "So my fiancee and I have been together roughly 5 years.  We are getting married at the end of this year, which all of the plans are well in motion for.  That being said, our sex life has significantly dropped off, and I feel myself becoming less interested in her sexually and attracted to other women.  Let me be clear, I would never act on these feelings because I do love my fiancee, but I am beyond frustrated at this point.  I have talked to her about the fact that I am tired of being the constant initiator, and if I don't, then just nothing happens. And I mean months, not just a week or two.  She always apologizes and says she understands and she'll be better.  Which might lead to a handjob or sex once or twice over the course of the next couple of weeks, then just back to nothing.  It's not that she ever really turns me down, she just seems so uninterested when anything happens.  She swears that she loves having sex with me and reaches the finish line every time we are intimate, but her actions and body language says otherwise.  \n\nOn top of it, I feel our increasingly distant intimacy giving me feelings of insecurity that I have not felt with her before.  I hear her getting text messages or FB messages in the middle of the night, but she never addresses it the next day.  I know one of her friends especially messages her at weird hours a lot, so I don't think much of it, but the lack of intimacy is driving my brain to think things it never has before.  It seems silly to feel this way because I really do trust her, but I feel like my damn brain is all twisted up from all of this.\n\nI just don't know what to do.  I love her and want to spend the rest of my life with her, but also don't want to have to essentially force myself on her or literally grab her hand and put it on my dick while we are laying in bed to get things going (which has literally happened).  I feel my eyes wandering and just becoming more and more detached from my relationship with her, which I never ever want to happen.  AITA for feeling this way?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zSP3wVkY1Kt0rE3dv47XrTalFaaBk06Y", "post_id": "a4fqfr", "action": {"description": "calling Animal Control", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for Calling Animal Control?", "text": "I was out running today when a very friendly dog approached me.  It looked well fed and cared for, but there was no owner in sight, the dog wasn't wearing a collar, and we were in a business park instead of a neighborhood.  When the dog wandered off again, I called animal control in the hopes that the County could pick him up.  I feel a little bad because if they find him he'll likely end up in a shelter; I suppose if he lived close he could have wandered home to his owners and avoided all that.  But it was cold and we're expecting a snow storm tomorrow, so I didn't want him to be wandering out.  AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uNtkQEI3nxWrPXFRYfo9itcdDMDIMNWW", "post_id": "ax0cu7", "action": {"description": "getting pissy at my boyfriend for interrupting me while I'm talking", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting pissy at my boyfriend for interrupting me while I\u2019m talking?", "text": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years. We have really good conversations, but he always interrupts me. I don\u2019t think I\u2019ve honestly had a detailed conversation without him interrupting.\n\nAnd I get it, everyone interrupts every once in a while, but this literally happens all the time. And it\u2019s isn\u2019t like when one person takes a little break in between thoughts and the other person jumps in because they think the other is done, it\u2019s literally in the MIDDLE of me talking. He doesn\u2019t even apologize, either, even though it\u2019s VERY clear that I wasn\u2019t finished.\n\nOver dinner tonight, I was talking about some local court case I heard about and he interrupts on four different occasions. After the fourth time, he picks up my annoyance, tosses down his chopsticks (in the middle of the restaurant!!), rolls his eyes, and says \u201cfine, I just won\u2019t say anything anymore.\u201d in a hella bitchy way. I get pissy and tell him that he\u2019s interrupted me a bunch, and he says I\u2019m overreacting and never letting him speak (even though I wasn\u2019t even done explaining the topic).\n\nWe\u2019ve talked about it multiple times, because I can get visibly annoyed when he does it. His excuse is that \u201che\u2019ll forget what he\u2019s going to say,\u201d but that also happens to me, and I just lift up my finger to remind myself. At this point, he doesn\u2019t even bother trying to wait before speaking.\n\ntl;dr I\u2019m pissy at my boyfriend for interrupting me all the time when we\u2019ve discussed stuff, he thinks I\u2019m overreacting and never gives him a chance to speak. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uSn40yeZ8S9vPnT6sSAdV7o6frW85iDE", "post_id": "ar9zu1", "action": {"description": "yelling at my sister for eating my 45$ cough drops", "pronormative_score": 97, "contranormative_score": 28}, "title": "AITA for yelling at my sister for eating my 45$ cough drops?", "text": "This happened around a month ago and I still feel terrible. My sister went back to her college and hasn\u2019t talked to me since.\n\n: I buy and sell designer clothing/accessories on eBay on auction. Somehow an auction I was running for supreme cough drops had reached 45$ by the time it ended. I was pretty happy about this since I made around 35$ in profit. I went to my closet where I keep all my stuff but after digging around I couldn\u2019t find the cough drops. I basically searched my room up and down but I couldn\u2019t find them.it wasn\u2019t until I was walking past my sisters room I saw the mangled box on her dresser. When she came home I confronted her about this and she said that she ate them because \u201cI dunno I just like the taste of them.\u201d \nI yelled at her a lot after that about how she should get her own stuff and how someone expects me to deliver this to them. I guess she got shooken up about this because the next day her car was gone and she had gone back to college (this was during Christmas break).\n\nI feel like it all wasn\u2019t worth it for 35 bucks\n\nEdit 1: holy shit this blew up.  I want to thank everyone who gave me advice because tomorrow I\u2019m going to drive out to her college. I\u2019ll keep you guys updated.\n\nEdit 2: I drove down and apologized, but not without laying down some ground rules.turns out, to her perspective, I was being mean to her over some normal cough drops, she must\u2019ve not known their worth or not see the logo. I\u2019m not going to make her pay to replace them because I believe that it was an honest mistake.\n\nEdit 3: I contacted the buyer and explained the situation. They seemed to understand but gave me a 3 star review. Oof.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 16, "OTHER": 94, "EVERYBODY": 12, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 5}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 97, "WRONG": 28}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Flqueqxwot9FiTrus1GSCkUXbA54mLqq", "post_id": "a7ohh7", "action": {"description": "complaining about service in the grocery store", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for complaining about service in the grocery store?", "text": "I recently purchased a significant number (>$150 worth) of live lobsters from a large grocery chain that takes pride in their quality and service.\n\nThere was a young man working the fish counter by himself (all geared up in fish mongering gear) but I was the only customer. This was mid-day yesterday. When I asked about storing them overnight he first said to leave them in the tied bags. When I asked about oxygen he then told me to put them in a bucket of salt water. Both of these are dead wrong and will kill the lobsters. He sounded unsure so I asked if he could check with someone else, and said that he was the only one there and, \"do you want the lobsters or not?\"\n\nI bought them, because I'm not driving all over upstate NY looking for live lobster.\n\nAfter confirming proper storage I called the store and spoke to a manager explaining that I was given bad advice by an employee who essentially refused to ask for guidance. Part of this was motivated by a desire to protect my investment by getting reassurance that I could refund my lobsters today if they didn't make it (the manager offered before it came up) but I was careful to be respectful and phrase my complaint as a suggestion they train people better rather than a criticism of the particular employee.\n\nMy family says I'm a jerk for jeopardizing this kids job around Christmas.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CfeABWzVWDUDbbfFGGoEzbqUZXK8wtSi", "post_id": "af2xre", "action": {"description": "not wanting to help my friend in a project of his", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to help my friend in a project of his?", "text": "So a life long friend had asked me to help him in a project of his. He wants to design a website where people can chat about the topic he told me. I told him that I would like to wait and see what becomes of the project first for two reasons. First is that I like to know everything when going into something or at the very least remove most variables when approaching something. His idea is very open-ended and he didn't do a good job explaining what he has in store for the project. Secondly, I just didn't find the premise all that enticing and I wasn't too sure how far he was willing to with the project itself. He is the type of guy who likes to have a lot of different things happening at once. But I don't know if this will be a project with a future or something that falls to the way-side.\n\n​\n\nTo further my second point I have to give some context. He told me that he would like me to help him on another project, a book he is writing. He asked for me to read the first chapter of his book and give him my thoughts and criticisms. When I read about 3 out of the 15 pages I gave my honest opinions about something I found weird about the book or inconsistencies in the narrative. After I explained these to him, he simply told me about another book idea he had, instead of addressing my issues with his original story. I asked him if he wanted me to continue reading and critiquing his story and he said yes. So I did. \n\n​\n\nA few days later I was on a phone call with him and the conversation shifted to his website idea. That was when I got more of an idea on what he wanted to do. Basically, he was going to interview some people that he met through college. Then he would post the interviews and maybe have a forum where people could discuss their opinions about the topic of his website. I told him that's cool and I am glad he has some sort of vision. Then I asked \"what about after that though\" like what is his end goal with the website. He kinda got offended a bit by saying that people from my state are not go-getters and people always focus on the endgame of projects. He went on to say he thinks people in other states are more quick to jump on board with a project as well.\n\n​\n\nI finally got around to reading his story, and so, took about an hour or so reading it, re-reading it, then making side notes on google docs for him to look at. I messaged him and asked him if he thought my critiques were well thought out. He then tells me that he is doing research for yet another project and that he would look at my list of side notes later. It kind of ticked me off a bit that I spent my time to help him yet, because he was preoccupied with other things, he didn't take the time to look over my notes for his story. And still hasn't contacted me about his story idea to this day.\n\n​\n\nRecently he has contacted me again to ask for help on his website. He is using Wordpress to design his website.  He knows I have a lot of free time, seeing as I am unemployed, and that I have some knowledge with computers. He, on the otherhand, does not understand how to use it nor is he that computer savvy. He basically wants me to learn how to use Wordpress and teach it to him. He does preface this by saying, \"if you want to\" and that I would be doing him a huge favor. The only problem is that I turned him down before and he has literally done nothing to convince me on his premise or that he will see this project through. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IWtsT5LNHF0VtrnoH8qo72rsB1nprQZS", "post_id": "b7s2dq", "action": {"description": "trimming a tree in my backyard and causing my nieghbors yard to bark like crazy", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for trimming a tree in my backyard and causing my nieghbors yard to bark like crazy.", "text": "I have a 25 ft tree in my yard. If it goes untrimmed it can grow above my neighbors fence and shed flowers and leaves into her backyard. \nShe\u2019s always been nice texting me if it gets too tall. Today I decided to trim it around 11 AM and her two dogs kept barking at me while I was on the ladder. It took a little over an hour to trim. Around noon our other neighbor (who appeared to have been woken up) behind my house came outside complaining about the dogs barking and having a headache. Since the dog owner didn\u2019t appear to be home, he turned his frustration to me. AITA reddit? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sD3hFPgB7cXmglkc9BGeczvnH9ah9j1x", "post_id": "b7n94c", "action": {"description": "asking my landlord to buy some furniture for us", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for asking my landlord to buy some furniture for us?", "text": "Sorry if it's gonna be a long post!\n\nSo me and my boyfriend recently moved to a new house. We're both young and broke so we're trying to save money here and there and the house was only partially furnished. On the first meeting with the landlord, we agreed that he still needed to fix a couple things in the house in the near future (there was no interphone, no freezer in the fridge, no smoke detectors!!!, and no showerhead), and because of some legit reasons (we both have insomnia) we asked him to add another bed in the guest room. \n\nNote we asked \"We know it should be on us, but is there any chance you have a spare bed or mattress you could put in the guest room?\", and he said, sure no problem, we'll buy a cheapish one and give it to you for free. We thought we were very lucky and waited. A month passed and finally the landlord said he would come give us the bed on a certain day. At 9pm that day I called and asked if he was still going to come over and he replied that he changed his mind and he wouldn't buy us another bed. \n\nWell, it was rude not to tell us sooner, but it's kind of fair. So a couple days later he came over to talk about the other things he said he would fix and he said he would order the interphone and smoke detectors and then have his own electrician install them, but we had to wait a bit because he was also having his own house fixed. Sure, fine. He also said he would ask his own plumber advice on how to install a showerhead for a cheapish price (quote \"\u00a310 and it should be good\").\n\nThen we asked about the freezer, he jumped and said (and it really sounded like a stupid excuse...) that the previous tenants stole the fridge that was originally in the kitchen and replaced it but he had no idea that it had no freezer and he agreed to buy one for us (I checked all fucking local appliances stores and even online and you can buy a small one for \u00a370). \n\nDidn't hear from him for another week and I texted him if he had some news. He seemed pissed off and replied \"ordered the freezer\", so I asked when to expect him so that we could be home and he replied \"when it arrives\". \n\nPlease note that I have been extremely polite the entire time and that smoke detectors in the kitchen are mandatory in the UK. We also bought ourselves a lot more stuff that was missing, such as hoover, shelves, wifi hub, wardrobes etc\n\nIdk, are we the assholes for asking for a spare bed in the first place? We've been showering with a fucking spare mug we fill with the bathtub taps for months now and it's kind of scary to know that if there ever was a fire we have no alarm system.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "vawWKHZZwY0mUvAycY2aT9N86pfV0QZP", "post_id": "amkpl2", "action": {"description": "telling my husband hes emotionally cheating on me with his ex", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my husband hes emotionally cheating on me with his ex", "text": "My husband (41) and I (35) have been having some dramas lately mainly because he never talks to me about anything important so we have moved into seperate houses to stop fighting in front of the kids. We still love each other though and he swears hes going to get help for some anger issues and depression he has. Him and his ex broke up way before i met him because she was cheating on him. They only just recently started talking after he moved out of my house after about 7 yrs of no contact with her. He swears nothings going on with her but they talk all the time, even about our marriage. He calls her babe in txts and they say i love you all the time to each other. He swears that this is how they always talked to each other. Hes known her longer than i have and he tells me shes known him longer so she understands him more. We have been married for 8 yrs with 2 kids and together for nearly 15. I trust him when he says they arent sleeping together but i feel that she will try soon enough because she never spoke to him and was almost mad when he married me.  But he swears its not like that and defends her saying im wrong and she wouldn't do that. I said to him that its not normal to talk to other females like this when your in a relationship but he just defends her and tells me nothings going on even though he admits that if i was talking to other guys like this he would be going off his nut at me. But he refuses to stop talking to her cause they have been friends for yrs. Am i the asshole for being pissed off about this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 21, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "N9Yafbp3QaFz2AcWp5h49JW1aW1jk8MT", "post_id": "b5px25", "action": {"description": "embarrassing my classmate in front of everyone and making her cry", "pronormative_score": 138, "contranormative_score": 45}, "title": "AITA for embarrassing my classmate in front of everyone and making her cry?", "text": "I\u2019m currently studying for a Masters. 2x /week we\u2019re put into groups to put together a presentation based on a problem we are given. \n\nIn session 1 we all read the problem together, spitball ideas, talk about what we already know and how it could relate to the problem, and draw up a list of things we don\u2019t know that we need to know to be able to answer the problem. \n\nAt the end of session 1 we split up the questions & go away in our own time to do the research required to answer those questions. In session 2 we all feedback to the rest of the group what we have found, so that afterwards everyone has a clear understanding of everything they need to know in order to address the problem. \n\nSo at the end of session 1, Barbara volunteers herself to research what is arguably the biggest / most important question.\n\nSome important backstory - last time I was in her group, me and Barbara were assigned a question to do together. I came back with 3 pages of research, referenced properly, summarised and clearly laid out in a table, and linked back to the problem. It took me a couple hours. She had emailed her student tutor and asked him our question, and he had emailed her a guidance sheet that he found online, which was sort of relevant to our question but not really. When we got together to feedback, she said to me \u201cso are we using what you did then?\u201d Taken aback I said \u201cwell no we\u2019ll use a combination, what info have you found?\u201d And she just pulled out this sheet. So the entirety of her effort had been emailing someone else to answer the question for her, and bringing that in. I was pissed because then she took credit for my table and fed it back to the group as if *we* had done it. Didn\u2019t even mention her fucking sheet as it wasn\u2019t relevant.\n\nSo back to today. When it came to feeding back, I noticed that Barbara had been extremely quiet. She had not contributed at all to the discussion, and several times the group leader said \u201cis there anybody else who has not yet fed back their questions?\u201d and she was just keeping quiet. So I just said \u201cHey Barbara, this piece of research really links to your question, what did you find?\u201d at which point she breaks down crying and said she couldn\u2019t find anything and she was really sorry for letting us all down.\n\nTruthfully, I already knew she hadn\u2019t found anything because I\u2019d overheard her saying so to another classmate earlier on.\n\nSo, AITA for embarrassing her in front of everyone? It\u2019s true that I only asked because I wanted her to have to say in front of everyone that she hadn\u2019t done any work.\n\n**TL;DR:** *Barbara did absolutely nothing in our group task last time I worked with her, and she took credit for my work. This time, Barbara chose to do the most important aspect of our group task but then didn\u2019t actually do it. She was keeping quiet hoping to go under the radar, but I called her out on it and made her cry*", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 20, "OTHER": 137, "EVERYBODY": 25, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 138, "WRONG": 45}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BPbPl32jD8W4FrmUuo4Z92S7VgrZedMo", "post_id": "awfyuo", "action": {"description": "calling my friend out on her behavior", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for calling my friend out on her behavior?", "text": "Throwaway because reasons.\n\nSo a few months back me and a few of my best friends wanted to celebrate New Year's together at one of my friend's houses, let's call her Lisa. Lisa is the sweetest girl imaginable, she planned everything through etc. \n\nAt the beginning of December another friend who is also invited and my best friend (let's call her Mary) starts behaving strangely. She doesn't show up to classes anymore, doesn't answer any messages and is being distant. Lisa and I are worried.\n\nMary has done this many times before, ignored us and didn't attend classes at all anymore until something important would come up (i.e. finals) and then she'd be back to normal and behave as if nothing had happened. We know that she is depressed, so we don't push her when it comes to things like this. \n\nBut she stayed silent for a month. I texted her regularily to keep her updated on classes. Around Christmas we all were worried because neither she nor her mother would read or answer our messages and we feared that something bad might have happened to her. \n\nLisa would check on Mary because they lived in the same neighbourhood. In the beginning everything seemed fine, Mary would tell her she was just exhausted. A few days before Christmad however, Mary would close the door on Lisa or not even answer it.\n\nI texted Mary how worried Lisa and everybody was, but she still wouldn't read my messages. Two days before New Year's I decided to call her out on her bullshit.\n\nI know that I could have been more compassionate, but I was really fed up because Lisa would call me daily and cry because she was just so scared for Mary. So I texted Mary that I'm really fed up that neither she nor her mother are answering, that I know she needs time for herself but complete isolation for a month would not help her, at least not in my opinion. And that she could have sent us one message saying that she wasn't feeling well and needed time for herself. I would have been contend with that and left her alone, but like this her behavior was shitty. I also told her she was hurting me with her behavior, because I was worried sick, imagined scenarios of her being in hospital because she hurt herself or even died doing so.\n\nMary didn't answer until the morning of New Year's. Told me that she was disappointed in me calling her behavior shitty and thought I would understand, she didn't feel comfortable texting me because she thought more of me, then proceeded to accuse me of being at fault for since I should have known she was fine. Said my behavior was wrong and she wasn't sure we could be friends anymore. I apoligized but she wouldn't accept it. Apparently it wasn't her fault she was hurting me but my own for caring.\n\nLater everybody was at Lisa's house except Mary. Lisa was crying again, asking me if I had heard from Mary. I told her yes, but I didn't think she would come. Five minutes later, Mary arrives and acts as if nothing had happened.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "bd3PkF9iHemHG2FM1tK14IYGEgARnMuX", "post_id": "ab02o9", "action": {"description": "telling my neighbors to take down the flag in their yard", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my neighbors to take down the flag in their yard?", "text": "My neighbors across the street have an American flag in their yard with a large post that is visible from a pretty far distance. I've lived here for many years and so have they and at one point in time, the flag was in good condition. But over the past few years, the flag has become tattered and torn. I was under the understanding that when a flag is so tattered that it no longer fits to serve as a symbol of the United States, it should be destroyed in a dignified manner, preferably by burning. ... The flag represents a living country and is itself considered a living thing. So would I be the asshole for telling them to take it down or even replace it? What if I got them a new flag?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "OG1bFVStZtbvYDzkf54tBGfIHPa9Rru2", "post_id": "ai4tte", "action": {"description": "telling my boyfriend I never want to go to the gym with him ever again", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my boyfriend I never want to go to the gym with him ever again?", "text": "So I [22m] and my boyfriend [24m] have been living together for some time now. It used to be I would go to the gym on my own, prepare my own meals, and enjoy my time at the gym. However, after being in a relationship problems have arisen. \n\nMy boyfriend always wants to go to the gym with me. It\u2019s so annoying. If I don\u2019t go to the gym with him, he gets pissed off. I\u2019m more into intense bodybuilding regime through PPL, he\u2019s like cardio and doesn\u2019t know what he\u2019s doing. I\u2019m not a trainer, I can\u2019t be that to him. \n\nSecondly, on days where I don\u2019t go to the gym, I remind him that my budget is tight (college) and I can\u2019t be working out everyday like I used to because I\u2019m not going to get enough calories or macronutrients anyway. I tell him this because his diet is just as bad and there\u2019s no way he\u2019s getting any benefit from working out if he\u2019s not eating right. \n\nI finally got fed up with him and told him that if he wants to go to the gym he can go by himself.  He said that I should cook my own meals and buy my own food. I said whatever. \n\nAm I the asshole for not wanting to train my boyfriend and go workout with him?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2Ihy7JlDwhheoeOG1lVFCzw59i4l5VpM", "post_id": "9ux5sg", "action": {"description": "not wanting to marry my girlfriend of 1 year for convenience", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to marry my girlfriend of 1 year for convenience?", "text": "My girlfriend and I are both able to stay in Canada under different permits. I'm a student and she's labeled as only a visitor (but she wants to study too).\nDue to some complications and lack of time, she has to go back to her country of origin and attempt to come back to Canada. \n\nAll of this could've been avoided if I had married her because that's what she was advised to do (as the fastest and easiest option). \nI believe that marriage is a big step in a relationship and not just a simple label. I didn't feel comfortable and didn't see marriage as just a perk. To me it's a big commitment and I don't want to do it for not only economic reasons but because I'm still too young (23 y/o) and marriage means much more than just a ceremony to me.\n\nEven after she explained that we could easily get divorced, or get a real wedding afterwards, I couldn't accept her request and now she'll have to go with the backup plan. This plan presents the possibility of her not being able to enter Canada again for a while. She's convinced she'll be able to come back but I fear I ruined her future in Canada because I didn't want to marry her.\n\nTL;DR: Girlfriend's last hope of staying in Canada relied on wether I agreed to marry her for convenience or not. I chose not to due to economic and moral reasons but I still love her. AITA.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AkVDh4YI3sSQ07HvI3bBlDZHxjK19qdn", "post_id": "ahgcz2", "action": {"description": "blocking a tinder match who won't respect my mental health", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for blocking a Tinder match who won't respect my mental health?", "text": "Backstory!\n\n​\n\nThis was my first foray into online dating after the collapse of my marriage. I've struggled with my mental health over the past year, with a lovely combination of medication and therapy.\n\n​\n\nSigned up to Tinder, made my profile, and got to swiping. Matched with a lady, we share a load of common interests and start talking. We arrange a date, but due to work I have to ask to reschedule. She proceeds to go off on me, telling me tha  tI don't care about her. At this point, part of my brain goes \"NO\" and I begin to overthink everything in the classic way. She apologises, I ask her to leave me alone and explain why.\n\n​\n\nFrom then until today, every few days we exchange pleasant messages. Today, she bluntly asks why I've not asked her out again. I explain again that I'm not in the correct mental place for anything, and the thought of it makes me want to lock the doors and hide under a blanket. She keeps pressing, asking if I'm attracted to her. I explain that I am, but at this point I'm actually physically shaking. The exchange ends with her making dismissive comments, about how I'm using my mental health as an excuse to talk to other women. I make the snap decision to block her on every place I can.\n\n​\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dvJRj5kwfi2QTTUmyWRPZWNhgk6BO8h0", "post_id": "a526z9", "action": {"description": "telling my roommates to stop having people stay over so long", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my roommates to stop having people stay over so long", "text": "Basically, my roommates love to do this thing where they invite people to stay extended periods of time in our home, I\u2019m talking days without my roommates even there. I told them I\u2019m tired of coming home to random people eating our shit and bumming on the couch everyday. Now one of these girls they have had over the past 6 days has asked us to let her bring her study group to our house. I said no while everyone else said yes, making me look like an asshole. I simply do not want 5 random strangers in our home when none of us are their, am I the asshole? My roommates tell me I am so I\u2019m not too sure anymore. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GA5QYHF9W0qU97mPfJhIClBW1NYuPfMp", "post_id": "at06uw", "action": {"description": "leaving an abusive ex without paying out the rest of his lease", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for leaving an abusive ex without paying out the rest of his lease?", "text": "Hey all! So good to be here on your screen!\nI'm sorry for how my mobile app will destroy this format, but please bear with me!\n\nLong story mildly short, I dated a man for 2 years,  ending 2 years ago. and got lucky that I managed to escape. On the short list of things he did, just to set the scene;\nLocked me in a bathroom and a laundry room for respectively 2 and 4 1/2 hours because he thought I was spending too much time out of the apartment, broke a lightbulb on the wall behind me that was meant to hit my face, constantly forced me to watch him self harm and threaten to kill himself, actually attempt to hang himself in front of me, 'gifted' me an iPad and then made me pay $1000 for it and not letting me use it outside allotted hours, and forcing me to pay his half of rent and utilities for 5 months, and the list goes on.\n\nI was a terrified 20 year old girl. One day, he told me it was time to renew the lease on the apartment for 6 months. He asked me if I was planning on paying 6 months, and I told him yes, fully knowing if I said no he would guilt trip or threaten me. At that time, I was forming an escape plan.\nA week later, my brother and I moved all my things and my two pets out and I warned everyone in my life that he was either going to try and break in to find me or hurt himself.\nHe ended up sending many threatening texts and showing up to my work/my family's house telling them he was going to kill my pets and himself if I didn't give him money for rent.\n\nI knew he wasn't going to make it on his own. And he didn't. He lives with his family in another state, but he probably is still in a bad financial place.\nI still feel guilty about this. I try to rationalize my actions, and I really did not have the money, but I still don't feel good about it.\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iRgwDVi5Ng15rpiwocEkYJ4mlLknxvpI", "post_id": "apyapw", "action": {"description": "telling a vegan to **** off after telling me that eating meat is wrong", "pronormative_score": 42, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for telling a vegan to **** off after telling me that eating meat is wrong?", "text": "I was at a bar with a friend, and we ran into some people from his work.  So we decided to all hang out together.  Anyways, I ordered a plate of chicken wings, and offered everyone at the table some.  One of the girls responds, \"oh I don't eat meat, I'm vegan.\"  Once she mentions this, she starts trying to steer the whole conversation to be all about veganism, and why it's wrong to kill animals for meat.  Anyways, after this goes on for about two or so minutes, I let her know that I'd like to talk about something else, and I'm not comfortable talking about this kind of stuff.  Then she replies, \"if you aren't comfortable talking about this, then doesn't that show that you think there is something wrong with what you're doing?\"  After she said this and a couple other condescending comments, we start arguing, and eventually I told her to \\*\\*\\*\\* off and mind her own business.  She then gets upsets, and leaves.  Her other two friends leave with her, and me and my friend go on about our night.  AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 42, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 42, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0HYbFSUtblMKNlQ8IpRDHSWjqODO8aGB", "post_id": "axraa7", "action": {"description": "telling my sister to pound sand", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for telling my sister to pound sand?", "text": "Short version of long story,\n\n​\n\n​\n\nMy sister is pretty hopeless.  I own a real estate company.  I hired her to clean one of my listings, paying her $350 on top of the $400 the client was paying her, to help pack as well as deep clean.  This is WAY over industry standard.\n\n​\n\n​\n\nI let her borrow my dyson and my step ladder to get the job done.  \n\n​\n\n​\n\nEverything gets done, client pays, I pay $250 because I'm short on cash, tell her I'll transfer the money later.\n\n​\n\n​\n\nLater that night, I notice that she took my vacuum and step ladder home with her.  I ask her to return it.  She says I owe her money.  I offer to transfer it and ask when she can bring my stuff back.  She says she wants cash, and I need to bring it to her and get my stuff (about a 1.5 hour round trip)\n\n​\n\n​\n\nI tell her that holding my stuff hostage isn't OK.  She tells me I'm \"tripping.\"\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\nI told her to keep the vacuum and the step ladder as payment, as I don't bargain with crap-nappers, and I just ordered a new vacuum.  She tells me to delete her number and never speak to her again.  I told her to kick rocks.  This was almost two years ago.  I haven't heard from her since. \n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 22, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7u23BAXafcsJeP8KcRQPRF0QgQzhdYcK", "post_id": "b4udcv", "action": {"description": "being upset at friend that he suddenly left with other friends", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset at friend that he suddenly left with other friends.", "text": "So a week ago or something me, friend#1 and friend#2 made an appointment to meet up again (last time was like 1 month ago, im also pretty busy with school, work etc - Important later on)\n\n​\n\nSo today they arrive at 1700. We are just chatting about how we are doing and what we are going to eat. Than he (friend#1) gets a call and the other person is like hey wanna meet up at 1900, were going out with one of his friends who he hasnt seen for 2 weeks. And without doubt he says yeah sure. After the call hes like, yeah i havent seen her in 2 weeks, so it will be fun to meet up again. (Sidenote: He recently started going out / drinking so that is also what he went to do). So we ate something and me still hoping he realizes (atleast in my opinion) its pretty shit to suddenly go away.) Suprise, he didn't and he left around 1900.\n\n​\n\nThe day after i send a message to him, around the context with \"Hey bud, its really not cool to just suddenly go away from a appointment we had for over a week\". Friend#2 does agree with me here, and also thinks its shitty to do.\n\n​\n\nAnyways, his response is like i can do whatever i want and you should just be happy i even came. I genuinly think its shitty to do, but i might be wrong idk. \n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rbOY5KezDetCEzhoanDeZo3HuIxJrb4v", "post_id": "ahuez6", "action": {"description": "looking for a friend/neighbours cat while dog sitting", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for looking for a friend/neighbours cat while dog sitting.", "text": "Ok so this is a neighbour (few houses up) and \u201cfriend\u201d that I\u2019ve known for 2 years now (the past few months haven\u2019t been the best)\n\nBut I\u2019ve been around their house hundreds of times and I know their cat likes to sleep in the cupboard.\n\n\nhttps://imgur.com/a/2yVtx07\n\nSo they went camping and their dog stayed with me and I feed their cats at their home.\n\nYellow = Cat 1, Green = Cat 2, Red = Dog, Blue = Her Son", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XmoDu6ooeKjb5qYpyLRe0Omc8BTiIQDG", "post_id": "b2o74z", "action": {"description": "asking out a friend and her rejecting me but sending photos of my confessions to her friends", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking out a friend(F) and her rejecting me but sending photos of my confessions to her friends?", "text": "Ok so this happened only a couple of days ago and it\u2019s really been bugging me. \n\nA couple days ago, I asked out this girl I liked. No big deal. She rejects me and I understand, I tell her \u201cHey, thank you for the reply, hope this doesn\u2019t make anything awkward between us.\u201d \n\nMe, being the teenager I am, is a bit sad at first but completely understand that she doesn\u2019t have any attraction to me. I go about my day normally and try to forget about it.\n\nLater, I\u2019m checking around a couple discord servers and find two people arguing. I butt in and tell them to stop when both of them. One of them replies with some things I said when I asked the girl out. The other then also joins in to say that I shouldn\u2019t have asked her out when I \u201cbarely know her\u201d. \n\nI\u2019m at first taken aback and then I am promptly kicked from the discord server for \u201cinciting arguments\u201d. I pause for a bit until I see the girl I asked out is typing to me.\n\nShe responds with \u201cHey, you shouldn\u2019t have asked them to stop, they were just working out their differences.\u201d \n\nI ask her how they found out the situation and all the details and she replies with that she sent screenshots to her group chat.\n\nShe then apologizes and says that \u201cthat\u2019s who they are, they just make insults when they are.\u201d\n\nI\u2019m trying to forget it but a little while after the situation has died down, the two who argued earlier along with friends decide to harass me in my Twitch Stream while I am live broadcasting. I promptly ban them and their friends while trying to stay neutral and unphased by it.\n\nShe texts me today and says that she is sorry that she sent the screenshots but that \u201cit\u2019s normal to and that I do it too.\u201d\n\nI gave her the confession in private, not thinking she would send pictures of what I said to her friends.\n\nAm I the asshole for being upset at the harassment and the screenshots?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8qIWadlpWCJE1kVdUURhy1zFv1GVjHRQ", "post_id": "attx5w", "action": {"description": "accepting money after helping a friend move", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for accepting money after helping a friend move?", "text": "I\u2019ve been friends with this girl for almost 10 years now, let\u2019s call her D for convenience sake. Always a little troubled, in and out of homes, but eventually she was living with her dad, but he was a bit of trouble, so she moved in with her boyfriend (J) and his family, but this meant moving 1.5 hours away from the main friendship group, essentially making her the \"left out friend\" (although she made no real effort to come see us). Fast forward about 6 months,  J\u2019s dad received a job offer which forced his parents to move a further 2 hour drive east, so D and J could not do that due to work commitments, so they moved to an inner city apartment. D had no idea how to move her belongings, even refused to hire a truck so she basically begged a bunch of people. I was one of her only friends with a car so I was roped into doing some of the moving, although I didn\u2019t particularly want to. For me it was a 1 hour drive to J\u2019s place, then it was a further 2 hours back to their new apartment, and this trip happened 3 times.  Each time she did pay me $50 though. \n\nOne year later, her lease is up and has to move again. During the year contact was sparse with me and D, both busy with various things, then she pulls the same stunt as last year, although after realising how hard moving was, she ordered a truck, but still needed me and another guy to help her move. This time it was only 1 trip, but I was very reluctant to help as I remembered the horrors of last time (for reference she has severe OCD with her things).  So reluctantly I went and helped her, wasting my Friday night that I could have spent out with my friends. This time was not as bad as the other time but it went smooth enough were it wasn\u2019t terrible. 1 hour drive up then a 25 minute drive to her new place, not as bad. But after it\u2019s all said and done, we have a little get together with a few mates the next night and we come to the part where I may be the asshole. So she was just talking about money and debt she owes to people to my friend, and then she mentions that she owes me $50 for the move, then says I should have done it for free as we were friends. This was in reference to the other guy that helped her move, she had known him for about a year and he didn\u2019t accept any payment, just food. I was taken aback a little as I know had the situation been reversed, she would not have helped me and my girlfriend move. My other mate jokingly agreed with her and she took it serious, and has been off with me ever since, but I wanna know your opinion. Am I the asshole for accepting money off a friend who I helped move even though she always complains about money?\n\nTLDR; helped friend move houses several times, received payment, but friends been off with me since another friend didn't accept any payment. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lwvnLM0VZQW2WZnuIsLmInhl2Fzena0o", "post_id": "b3204b", "action": {"description": "bringing a chair home", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for bringing a chair home?", "text": "The other day, my mom was watching our kids for a bit while I did errands and my husband was at work. When I got home, she told me that she\u2019d taken the kids on a walk around the neighborhood and that one of my neighbors had a nice recliner sitting outside by the street (meaning it\u2019s okay to take, at least where we live). She said we should take it because we need more seating in the living room. \n\nI told her okay, but I needed to inspect the chair first and ask the neighbors that it was actually okay to take it. I did that, the neighbors said they had gotten a new chair and didn\u2019t have room for this one anymore. The chair is really nice, it matches our living room, and I made sure to sniff it, check it for bugs/stains, etc. Not a thing wrong with it, smelled like someone\u2019s house smell but not a bad smell. \n\nSo my nephew came and helped us get it to the house, and I brought it inside. It\u2019s super comfy and fits right in to the space. \n\nMy husband got really mad about this chair when he got home. He said we don\u2019t know those people and don\u2019t know why they were really getting rid of the chair. So I told him that I checked and there was literally nothing wrong with it. He then started saying that he should have been consulted before the chair came into our house. \n\nThat\u2019s when I said, \u201cI\u2019m sorry I couldn\u2019t ask you while you were at work, but I didn\u2019t want someone else to take it in the mean time.\u201d He didn\u2019t care, he just went on about how it was disrespectful. I told him if he didn\u2019t like the chair then we could get rid of it no problem. I figured that would be the end of it, but no. \n\nHe said the chair is fine and he doesn\u2019t want to get rid of it. So basically he\u2019s mad on principle I guess? I\u2019m feeling like he\u2019s making a huge deal out of nothing. \n\nBy the way we really don\u2019t argue much and have a great marriage, so this is out of character for him and I\u2019m wondering if he\u2019s pissed about something else. Or maybe I\u2019m an asshole for bringing the chair home without asking him? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5uhfoBYis2AvpIQfYfbz2z7bA8DUFJXQ", "post_id": "avv5wi", "action": {"description": "disliking hearing/listening to things that I'm not actively tuned into", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA: Because I dislike hearing/listening to things that I\u2019m not actively tuned into.", "text": "So I\u2019ve been working from home for the last 5 years. Before that I have 13 years of experience sharing a room with people at work; never having my own office. I\u2019m accustomed to people at neighboring desks having basic respect for distracting noise while playing music or watching videos. Now at home, my partner is a RE agent and often works from home as well, conducting phone calls loudly, watching the news etc. I\u2019ve asked, consistently, for the use of headphones so I don\u2019t have to listen to whatever is playing/being spoken of. Hearing training videos or talking news heads is much more distracting than music; but I\u2019d still prefer to not be subjected to the noise pollution of someone else\u2019s neighboring operation. The reaction I get is that I\u2019m asking too much. That my previous body of experience in sharing professional spaces is irrelevant. \n\nA long time ago I worked in a call center where you sit in long rows of people without so much as a cube wall. Everyone is talking around you, you have to deal. But I\u2019ve moved out of that kind of office operation a long time ago into jobs that require a greater level of focus, concentration, etc. \n\nWhether it\u2019s business hours or not, I think that people sharing a home have a fundamental consideration of whether or not an audible media is being consumed together, or separately and are behooved to adapt accordingly.\n\ntl;dr I think it\u2019s inconsiderate of others to subject me to audible content they\u2019re listening, but I\u2019m not AITA", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zH9qzVWWAh7RRnvZCAWO0rUL1cdCmWIs", "post_id": "b5dutg", "action": {"description": "telling my sister to get over it", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 20}, "title": "AITA for telling my sister to get over it", "text": "Saw a recent AITA post that reminded me of this situation from a few years ago. I let it drop after it happened but I\u2019m wondering if I\u2019m the asshole. Throwaway for obvious reasons.\n\nThe gist of the story is that my sister went into labor and her husband was out with friends. He didn\u2019t realize he didn\u2019t have service and missed all her calls and ended up missing the birth, which all in all took about 6 hours.\n\nI visited the next day and my sister was clearly really upset with her husband and he was apologizing over and over but she was telling him to just leave it alone and drop it, but in a really snappy way. It really cast a bad light on a day that was supposed to be happy. So I told my sister to just drop it. She became very upset and told me to shut my mouth and not comment on what I don\u2019t understand. We never spoke about it again but there was tension between us for a while, but I chalked it up to her hormones/anxiety.\n\nAITA (or more accurately, was I the asshole?)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 20, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 20}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "JRH2OEb0nxDpIg1EsqlgudK8qV9ajKNZ", "post_id": "a1ezv0", "action": {"description": "being uncomfortable with my brother being gay", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for being uncomfortable with my brother being gay?", "text": "It's not that I'm homophobic or anything. I just dislike the fact that he's homosexual and I feel extremely uncomfortable with his boyfriend. I just never really thought about him as gay and I don't think he's really healthy enough to be in any relationship. He has aspergers (he's autistic) and he doesn't even work. He was homeless literally last week. I don't think he has the understanding of human nature to think he's gay (kinda one of the symptoms of aspergers). Also, his boyfriend is just a mess. I just get an off feeling about him. He didn't like me as soon as we meet. Also, he's always trying to intimidate me or one up me. He's also pretty fucking old. Like, seriously? He could honestly be my uncle. But, that's besides the point. I just don't feel comfortable with any of this. Everyone I talk to thinks I'm an asshole but I feel like you guys will be more reasonable. \n\n(Throwaway Account)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "QS2jtVWOXPdPE73SsJaSXUgJhB9g6DD6", "post_id": "alykf2", "action": {"description": "being mad at my friends", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For being mad at my (22F) friends?", "text": "I want to start this off by explaining that I\u2019ve never been too open with my friends. They don\u2019t know the extent of the sorta shit I went through with my mom and other really personally issues. I never really talked about it because I wasn\u2019t ready to\u2014 I bottled all my shit up for a long time. I know I should have been more trusting and open with my friends and I now regret that I wasn\u2019t. \n\nMy mom recently died. It fucked me up. My friends heard about it and the two of them said the typical \u201coh shit\u201d and \u201cthat sucks\u201d sort of responses. After that, one stopped replying and the other one was actively trying to change the subject and no longer asks how I am or comes off as annoyed or super short when I mention something about what\u2019s going on (I have two younger half siblings with no dad, so CPS is involved and they\u2019ve been communicating w/ me a lot because eI\u2019m their next of kin). I haven\u2019t messed my first friend since he isn\u2019t replying to me. I know he isn\u2019t busy because he\u2019s actively online playing Overwatch (he\u2019s dropped 500 sr since I\u2019m no longer invited to play and he doesn\u2019t have a good healer. I found that a little satisfying to know) and my other friend will ask me what\u2019s up, how I am, etc but then change the subject super fast if it isn\u2019t in regards to things like video games or streams. \n\nThe lack of communication or concern is sort of really getting to me. I would have hoped my friends would have supported me through this, offered advice or at least lent a shoulder for me to lean on. They know that I have very few family members, only 2 who actually truly care. When they were through shit I was always there and trying to help them.\n\nAm I an asshole for being mad at them for this? Am I acting entitled? Is it this normal for friends to be so flippant when coming to stuff going on in their friends lives? I always thought friendship was about supporting one another, but am I crossing the line by expecting them to comfort me through this? I really have no clue. Not sure if I should just stop talking about how I feel at all about everything going on and just lie and say everything is okay, or what. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BWpVDDHCHlIb1wNlbUz0X3oo5cbt0FFb", "post_id": "b3l70x", "action": null, "title": "WIBTA if I quit my job over not receiving the days off I asked for?", "text": "I\u2019ve been working at this store for almost 6 months now, and it\u2019s my first \u201cofficial\u201d job. Once I applied, I told the managers that I could not work on Tuesdays and Thursdays due to me being in college. For the first few months, they\u2019ve been good with not scheduling me on those days but it\u2019s not until recently that they\u2019ve started to screw me over. \n\nI decided to take more classes this semester so I can transfer quicker, but because of this I requested a third day off so I can focus on my education. I didn\u2019t give a specific day of the week; I just needed more time to deal with a larger workload. Once I told them that they didn\u2019t seem to happy about it. \n\nThe GM of the store rushed me to learn every position in the restaurant so I can close whatever role they needed that night. I\u2019ve brought up several times that I need to have a third day off so I can focus on my education, and they\u2019ve told me that they would fix the next schedule, and they never do. I feel like I ended up being the scape goat of the store, as in whenever someone can\u2019t work a day, I\u2019ll cover that position until they come back on the schedule. \n\nLast week was the major turning point, as the GM approved 5 vacations for spring break, leaving everyone to work just under 40 hours so they didn\u2019t have to pay overtime and work ridiculous hours. For almost a month they\u2019ve been having me work weird days, having my off days not work with my schedule but with theirs, and notifying me to clock in later that schedules so they can save hours once I walk in the restaurant. This is causing my grades to drop, my health to deteriorate, and my social life to completely disappear. \n\nI already requested a week off so I can have some time to unwind and destress because this job is literally killing me. At this point, I\u2019m only working there cause I can\u2019t find another job at the moment and I enjoy being around the other coworkers. I understand that they\u2019re understaff and that several people have already quit, but that doesn\u2019t justify the managers to completely abuse my availability because they know I need the money. \n\nTL;DR: managers are overworking me knowing I\u2019m taking more classes, neglecting my requested time off and getting mad that I\u2019m hitting overtime when they schedule me near 40+ hours a week", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "n0C77XBhaIpSJyxIwF8Es6VZbrWY1GtZ", "post_id": "ajurua", "action": {"description": "asking landlord to help with cost of food lost due to faulty appliance", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for asking landlord to help with cost of food lost due to faulty appliance?", "text": "Hi guys! I will have been at my apartment for 2 years in May. For reference, it is a duplex owned by one dude, not a chain or a big business. There are lots of little issues with the place, but I mostly put up with them because there is really no other place for me to live in the area.\n\n​\n\nThe issue: Back in June 2018, the fridge that had been here when I moved in failed. I was gone for a few days before discovering this which meant I had a lot of hot, rotten food to clean out of the fridge and freezer. After I cleaned it, I called the landlord and asked him to either fix or replace the unit. He came by a few days later and did so, with a fridge that looked even older/busted up than the last. But I figured whatever, as long as it does the job. It sucked to be out of \\~$100 of food but I was just grateful to have the old, now stinky fridge out of my kitchen.\n\n​\n\nUntil today, when the replacement fridge broke. Completely stopped cooling/freezing, and I tried trouble shooting it, making sure it was plugged in, the doors were shut etc. But nope, it was just broken. I feel like he just keeps replacing faulty appliances with faulty appliances (repairs/appliances are his responsibility as per the lease). Now I have lost about $200 worth of brand new groceries, and have rent coming up next week. I cannot afford to replace any of these groceries and pay rent. Would it be unheard of/completely make me an asshole to ask to help for food lost because of his bad appliances/have it come out of this month's rent? I did not even consider it the first time, but now I feel like I should ask because this seems to be a pattern and I'm worried that I'm just going to have more ruined groceries in 6 months-year. TIA!", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0ojRRhvu11DrfTDa3FC1bpJ9ebvEKjKB", "post_id": "adcun3", "action": {"description": "wanting to skip school after going out with my friends the night before", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for wanting to skip school after going out with my friends the night before", "text": "The night before I went out with my friends until 2:00. I guess while out I must have caught something, because today I have a horrible stomach flu. Vomiting, Diarrhea, chest tightness, you name it. The problem is that because I literally have a horrible work ethic, I pushed most of my school work until today. I have two big tests coming up (a math test on Wednesday and a chem test on Thursday) as well as an English paper due on Wednesday. I asked my parents If could skip school tomorrow in order to get ahead, and they said that I had all of break to complete my work and that I if I truly did have so much homework, then why did I go out with my friends the night before. They also made the point that if I missed school tomorrow I would only fall more behind in school not less. \n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\nTL;DR: Procrastinated all my work till the last possible day, got the flu from hanging out late with my friends, now I want to skip school in order to catch up. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "6ezF9UlpEqEMUrvvueBJtbvMPmdMPowz", "post_id": "b11k3y", "action": {"description": "telling my roommate his friend needs to go or he does", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my roommate his friend needs to go or he does?", "text": "Sorry, this is long.\n\nOriginally lived w two girls, A & B (all college f). B had to move out early because she needed surgery & couldn\u2019t afford it and rent. Not ideal, but A thought we could move her boyfriend C in (not ideal, and I kept suggesting other things, but she viewed it more as \u201cmy boyfriend and I are taking the next step, it\u2019ll work out!\u201d  \n\nJust before B moved out, C\u2019s friend E was kicked out of his dad\u2019s because he gets fired from every job he has since dropping out of high school about 3 or 4 years ago. C, even though he has his OWN apartment at the time, kept allowing E to sleep at our house. After about 3 days, I said I was uncomfortable to A (considering it was OUR place, not C\u2019s) because:\n\nE always talks about fighting/hurting/killing people (including saying he wants to join the army solely to kill people)\n\nhe, a little over year ago (before we all moved in together) told a boyfriend of B\u2019s that he \u201cwanted to break into her apt and steal her underwear because it would be sexy\u201d \u2014and we don\u2019t have locks on our doors here\n\nstole money and weed from C and weed from my boyfriend and me (yes, C knows about this) as well as has gone through C\u2019s stuff in an obvious way while C let E stay with C\n\nHonestly the guy just makes me extraordinarily uncomfortable. The list goes on but I don\u2019t have the available characters.\n\nSeveral months ago, A said \u201cE is moving out of state, you\u2019ll never see him again!\u201d He moved back obviously or I wouldn\u2019t be writing this post. Apparently, he has a great new roommate who doesn\u2019t allow smoking weed in the house or noise after ten. good for him. However, that leads to him coming over several nights a week now. He stays the night which makes me uncomfortable. A has gone out of town for spring break, and E has not left our house since. It\u2019s been four days now.  I don\u2019t know how to approach this with C\u2014especially because E would be here while I said \u201chey, we have talked about this.\u201d\n\nI get that C pays rent here. However, he refused to sign the lease, which our landlords said needed to be done if he was to move in. I asked him for literally 3 months to do it and gave up.  I get he pays rent but he\u2019s not even on our lease if something goes wrong, and before moving in knew about my discomfort.\n\nBasically, WIBTA if I told C that E needs to go? Debating if C needs to too. Thanks everyone.\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RlHPiBnil5qPIyHPEWTb0YTQ62WSWl5E", "post_id": "alcb1v", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my bf, and then wanting to come back to the guild we shared a year later", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my bf, and then wanting to come back to the guild we shared a year later?", "text": "WARNING - this is a long one!\n\nOver a year ago now, I bonded with a guy in Guild Wars 2 that lived one state over from me in Australia. We got really, really close and in a drunken stupor I basically professed my love to him. We ended up dating, and it was great. We played together all the time, made plans to see each other IRL. It was only an hour's flight and not far enough that we couldn't handle it. We had some hiccups in the relationship, which is that I'm not a really expressive or overly affectionate person. This is a recurring theme, even though I tried hard to work on it because I wanted to be with him, and he had anxiety which made coping with it difficult if he didn't feel like I was investing enough. It's especially harder online because you can't be there physically with someone, so the feeling of emotional distance is amplified.\n\nGW2 was the one thing we shared, and I sort of drifted away from it. There was a series of small events and eventually I needed a break from the game, which is not uncommon for me. I've been playing on and off since release with a few year long breaks after burning out. I'm a very sarcastic and 'shit-talking' type of person. Everyone in the guild took what I said with a grain of salt. We insulted each other playfully and talked shit all the time. I found out later that a girl (she will be important later) in the guild felt like I'd been bullying her. We weren't close and even though I was treating her the same I did everyone else, she didn't reciprocate the same feeling of banter and took it to heart. I felt absolutely awful and tore myself up about it for a long time.\n\nI reached out to her and eventually we mended things, and I thought everything was okay. My bf and this girl ended up getting really close. She had bad depression and they bonded. I'm not the jealous type of girlfriend so I was perfectly okay with them ending up being best friends. Well, it turned out that she was basically in love with him. She flirted with him all the time, and they spent more and more time together. Even though I tried to get him to shut down the flirting, he didn't want to be mean to her or shut her down. It started to make me feel insecure, like I was competing for his time and not able to live up to this other girl.\n\nYou'll recall that I mentioned we were having problems in our relationship. He felt like I wasn't spending enough time with him, that I spent too much time with other people, but he didn't want to play any other game except GW2 even though I was super burnt out. Because video games are how we bonded and it was how we spent time with one another, I tried really hard to get him to try something else so we could play together. He didn't want to, and got upset when I was in calls and games with other people.\n\nWe ended up having a long talk where we discussed where our relationship was going. We mutually agreed that we might not last, but would give it a few more weeks to work things out. The thing that ultimately broke us was when I found out that he had been running a whole bunch of new content with her, even though I had been asking him to play with me so we could spend time together. He was basically brushing me off for her after complaining we didn't spend time together. On top of that, he said she had said things to him like 'you're just being with her because it's easy' and apparently purposefully trying to drive a wedge between us, and she kept flirting, but to my knowledge he never told her off for her behaviour and I didn't want to be 'that' girl who goes off at a boyfriend's female friend. He also made it clear that he wasn't going to stop being friends with her and didn't want me talking to her about it. It felt like he wasn't trying anymore, that he was being a hypocrite, and he just wanted her more, so I broke up with him.\n\nI left the guild because it was too hurtful being in the same one as my ex boyfriend and the girl who ultimately destroyed out relationship. I'd been in that guild for years and played with the people in it for a long, long time. I loved it there, and it was an emotional haven for me on some occasions. I felt resentful that I was the one who ended up leaving, even though I felt as though I'd done nothing wrong, and I still do. But I needed time to heal, and they weren't going anywhere any time soon, so I left. After I did, I sent the girl a rather... nasty message that went along the lines of 'are you happy now? you got what you wanted' and called her, I think, a 'homewrecking sl\\*t'. I was angry and hurt and lashing out, and I don't condone what I said, but there it is. No one said anything to me about it so I thought it might not have even been received (it had been).\n\nMy ex and I remained on OK terms. I owed him some money and was in the process of paying it back, our conversations were casual and pleasant. Once I did, he eventually removed me from social media and whatnot. I was a little surprised but got over it.\n\nIt's been over a year now, and I wanted to start playing GW2 again. I miss the people I played with and I'm ready to put water under the bridge, talk things out, maybe not be friends but at least be able to hang around each other. I reached out to my old guild leader a week and a half ago, who runs a Twitch stream and a public server. He said he was happy to welcome me back, but only on the terms that myself, ex and his now-gf (yes they ended up happily dating), are on okay terms since he didn't want things to be 'awkward'. I was really annoyed about this decision because I didn't (and still don't) think it's fair for me, and just me, to be excluded. I said that awful shit when I left, but I wasn't the only one who played a hand in how horribly everything turned out. I don't think it's fair that me joining back rests on my ex and his girlfriend.\n\nBut I reached out anyway. I've spoken to him and he basically told me 'why would we want you back?' and asked me if I remembered the message I sent his gf after I left. I said I did, but I was really hurt, and that I know it was childish. But I wanted to talk about it and hoped that we could at least settle things and talk about it like adults. I refrained from pointing out that he and his gf also helped to sabotage things and that I'm not the only one to blame for what happened because I don't want to cause a fight and ruin things again.\n\nHe told me it basically rests on his gf because I hurt her the most and whatever makes her happy makes him happy. I've sent her a msg but no reply. It's tearing me apart waiting. I feel awful thinking that they probably see me as this heartless monster but it makes me upset/angry, too, because that's not what I am. I refuse to believe that I'm the sole villain here and I feel like this situation is unfair. I'm willing to give them a chance and I would like the same in return.\n\nRegardless of whether or not I guess back in the guild, I am still going to be in the twitch server, where both of them also talk, so I don't see why it matters. We are going to be around each other anyway, and I would rather have us talk about the elephant in the room than avoid each other til the end of time.\n\nAm I crazy? Am I the asshole, an an asshole? Is it reasonable for me to want to come back after over a year to talk things out? Do you think they're being fair?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Ev3zL1IJfN6S3UDvQ4iIZdwjfUc9xOPq", "post_id": "9u5xna", "action": {"description": "walking away from a person who wanted to know where I live", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for walking away from a person who wanted to know where I live??", "text": "Please excuse any major texting errors, I'm on mobile.\n\nA few days ago, I was returning from walking my dog. I usually do a final loop around the front of my house before I head home, so in the loop I saw a car park on the side. I didn't think anything of it and continued down the shared driveway that heads to my house when I hear someone speaking. I have one headphone in so I pluck it out and turn around when I see an older woman.\n\nTo give some background, I live in Northern California and although the area where I live is known for its beautiful locations, robberies and break in have gotten much worse within the last couple years and we've had a couple of major items stolen from our vehicle and windows shattered. My trust level in giving information out is pretty low and I'm not feeling the safest as it is. \n\nSo, the woman comes super close to me and says \"hello, how are you??\" I back away a little because my dog can be too friendly at times and tries to give hugs and say \"hello, good thank you and yourself?\" She then asks if I live around there. The way I am standng, I am inbetween two houses so either one could be my home or I could have simply be using the gate at the end to leave. I say \"yes I live around here\" and leave it at that. But she insists, \"what house do you live in\"? \n\nAt this point, I'm kinda nervous because I'm not very confrontational so I tell her \"oh, sorry I'm just not used to telling strangers where I live\" and laughed to try to make a joke out of it. She goes off and says \"This is my fault, I forgot I was in so and so county, I'm from New York where you can say Hi to people!! I'm just a neighbor trying to say hi!! I'm an educated person!!\"\n\nAfter she said the educated person part, I had it. This lady was yelling at me in the middle of the day outside because I didn't want to tell her specifically what house I live in? I said \"oh, so are you insinuating I'm not an educated person because I won't tell you where I live? Thank you and have a good day\" and I walked through the gate so it seemed like I lived in neither house. She kept yelling after me but I didn't really catch what she said. \n\n\nIf she had said, \"oh, I'm a neighbor, just want to say hi.\" I would have apologized and moved on. But she simply asked me where I lived. However, I feel guilty now. Am I the asshole??", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pJ4V9eiCzsEntglg6G0uunLAA7t1E5tB", "post_id": "arbis0", "action": {"description": "giving fashion advice on the first date", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 30}, "title": "AITA for giving fashion advice on the first date?", "text": "FYI - posting for a friend that doesn\u2019t have reddit, so this point on will be in their POV.\n\nHello Reddit! I (F34) was on a dating website and connected with an awesome guy (M33). We ended up going on a date and it was going pretty well. He was a great conversationalist, and we were able to connect on many topics quite well. Towards the end of the date, I mentioned \u201cHey do you usually wear straight cut jeans? I think skinny jeans would look better on you.\u201d He replied, \u201cYou think so?\u201d. I responded, \u201cyeah!\u201d I didn\u2019t think much of it and it ended pretty well, with a goodnight kiss :)\n\nAfter the date he texted me goodnight and complimented me. After that he went ghost and I never reached out. After a few months he texted me and I asked him after going ghost why did he reach out? He answered, \u201cYou started looking for flaws in me right after the very first date. Thought that happens after a few months.\u201d Since then we\u2019ve been talking regularly, but a few of my friends have been saying I\u2019m sort of an asshole for this situation. I didn\u2019t think much of it and now I\u2019m not too sure. Reddit, what do you think?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 28, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 30}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "3wWU1fLYfd5RXTPAZQCipxDywSQJ1Gkk", "post_id": "a5nhxc", "action": {"description": "not wanting to listen to most girls voices when I'm online", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to listen to most girls voices when I'm online?", "text": "Basically title.  \n\nWhether I'm online gaming or in a group chat, or watching a video or something that requires a voice and being online, I don't like listening to women speak. It's just at such a frequency or something that it just bugs the shit out of me and I don't want to hear it. This also applies to men with higher voices. Women with deeper voices are fine, so AITA for muting or leaving voice channels when a girl begins speaking?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "F03OPDLKQAIznkKnGKYNa96WrjNvqSEY", "post_id": "az0d4h", "action": {"description": "saying that having children is a non-negotiable for me", "pronormative_score": 20, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for saying that having children is a non-negotiable for me?", "text": "Me (25M) and girlfriend (28F) have been dating over a year. I\u2019m starting medical school this Fall, and she\u2019s starting Vet school in a different state. We\u2019ll be doing long-distance for 5 years. GF got a late start on her vet school career, but I\u2019m happy to support her because I believe she needs this to feel happy and fulfilled. \n\nFrom day one I have made it clear I want a family and that I want to be a father. I\u2019m happy to wait five more years, but as soon as we\u2019re back together I want to start having a family. She\u2019ll be 33 by the time we start trying. \n\nWhen talking about being honest during long distance, I told her that if she ever changed her mind about wanting kids that she needed to tell me, because that\u2019s a dealbreaker for me. She believes that spouse should always be priority number one. I think that\u2019s true, but one person wanting children and the other one not is reasonable grounds for a breakup. \n\nI want her to be happy, and definitely don\u2019t want to pressure her into having kids if she doesn\u2019t want to! But I feel it\u2019s fair for me to want to find a partner who shares those life goals with me. I really hope that\u2019s her, and I don\u2019t feel it\u2019s unreasonable to ask that if she changes her mind whole preparing to start her career she needs to tell me. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 12, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 20, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cfJ69hYEYm0vV3fEbv2JAGN0ORdSQY0B", "post_id": "ai2xqb", "action": null, "title": "AITA: Not exclusive with someone and sleeping with other ppl..", "text": "Here are the details... I met this guy thru a mutual friend... this guy I\u2019ve been talking to doesn\u2019t even live in the same state as I do, we\u2019ve visited each other about 3 times in the course of 10 months. We\u2019ve communicated via text, calls and FaceTime. During my second visit we slept with each other. I\u2019ve had conversations with him regarding the nature of our relationship and where it\u2019s headed. He stated numerous times that we aren\u2019t exclusive, that I can date other people and he encouraged me to do so.  He has some issues with his legal status in this country and for that reason and the long distance he felt like we can\u2019t put a label on it...And it wouldn\u2019t be fair for me to wait for him and deal with his situation.. \n\nDuring this time I slept with someone and I didn\u2019t tell him about. \n\nHe found this out recently through a phone call in which I told him that I was asked out on date but wasn\u2019t planning to go thru with it because I wasn\u2019t interested. He then tells me I\u2019m free to do whatever I want but if I do then he and I aren\u2019t a thing... I was confused.... I said, wait we are a thing? I thought we weren\u2019t? And then he asked me... have you slept with someone else besides me? And I responded with yes. That\u2019s when the shit storm occurred. He never wants to speak to me again and I\u2019ve respected his wishes. We weren\u2019t dating, he never called me  girlfriend and yet I feel like shit for hurting him like that. \n\nAm I the asshole here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EQO7dhzq73gVUqjLEJAbfb0Bo04MVONo", "post_id": "airvav", "action": {"description": "not giving a disabled kid my phone number", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not giving a disabled kid my phone number?", "text": "After school today as I was waiting for the bus to show up to bring me home, a kid with a disability (not sure what, i just know from seeing him in the hallways that he never speaks and he paces a lot) walked up to me and showed me his phone, with the \"add contact\" menu open. I've never spoken to him before so i had no clue why he wanted my number. I pretended to look around my messaging/calling/contacts apps to find my number, and told him \"Sorry man, i don't know where to find my number. I got a new phone.\" (The part about me having a new phone is true). He sort of accepted it and walked off. A minute later, he came up to me asking again for my number. I searched around my phone more, and then realized that I actually don't know where to find it, and although i have my number memorized i still didn't really feel comfortable giving this random kid my number. I simply just told him \"Yeah sorry man, I don't know where to find it\". Then his bus showed up and he walked off to get on.\n\nI keep feeling like shit over it because I don't know whether or not that was an okay thing to do. Maybe he was just trying to make new friends or something, idk. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fky9iQjvtw2P8QbKENTE1heDZEXWa5SV", "post_id": "arig7d", "action": {"description": "hating paper straws", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for hating paper straws?", "text": "These little shit piece of things are so annoying. At first their like normal straws and they act that way but then after a while they turn limp and the hole you drink out of becomes all soggy. The saliva from your mouth also collects on there and it becomes pretty gross. After enough drinking the straw paper particle things also come when you suck your liquids and makes it taste bad. They're really bad for long term drinking cuz after a while they just break or give you a really hard time to drink out of.  It's not like I demand for a plastic straw after im given one, I just deal with it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ztasDUQSlFFVatdhHAguStLPWe3qivT7", "post_id": "arooqe", "action": {"description": "stealing my nephew's pet tortoise", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for stealing my nephew's pet tortoise?", "text": "(English isn't my first language sorry, I don't know if I should say nephew or son of my BIL) \n\n So yesterday, my husband and I were invited to my BIL's house as they were hosting a party. We arrived there and everything seemed great right until I went to the bathroom. My nephew's bedroom was right next to the bathroom and I saw him holding his tortoise upside down, put it on the floor, and pressed his finger on its \"lower side\" and began spinning it. \n\n I've owned a pet tortoise 5 years ago which lived for 2 years until he died unexpectedly. I went over to my nephew and told him it's probably uncomfortable in that position and to stop spinning it and he did. I went to the bathroom and when I was done he stopped spinning it - but now he put it on a pillow and hit the pillow as hard as he can to catapult the tortoise. Thankfully it landed on the bed and not the floor but I was already horrified. I talked to my BIL and slid what happened into a conversation and he told me that it's just a pet and it'll be fine.\n\n So I put a plan in motion and when my nephew came into the living room I excused myself, went to his bedroom, took the tortoise and put in my purse. For context, the tortoise is literally a baby, it's barely bigger than a water bottle cap (exaggeration but you get the idea). My husband doesn't know and I'm debating whether to release it into the wild (if it even can survive after being a pet) or continue to give it a home here without my husband knowing. \n\n AITA for taking it? My BIL and his wife think one of the kids there took it. \n\n ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qbNY1Z8gC9G1eG89CsW3gIkREV8BssHy", "post_id": "ag5355", "action": {"description": "refusing to speak to my in laws", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to speak to my in laws?", "text": "To start off, I think some background would be helpful. I will say, I don't think I handled this whole situation well, but, well, it's a little late now. My husband Jacob and I have known each other for 5 years, and married for a few months. We live a state away from both of our families, but I've taken a weekend every 2 months to visit my family, while my husband chooses to ignore texts and calls from his family, and only initiates any communication between them if I'm in a group chat with him. This is important.\n\n​\n\nI guess this whole story starts almost 2 years ago. Jacob and I spent a few weeks in the summer visiting his mom and stepdad and while we were there, it came up that his sister would be visiting from a couple hours away. This worried us both because he had recently told me that when he was in high school and his sister was in college, she would sneak in bed with him and sleep in only a tank top and underwear, and then would leave before their parents would wake up. From what he told me, this continued on every time he visited her, or she visited him, unless her roommates were around. The visit didn't go well, he was meant to drop me off at a mall for some shopping because his sister had asked that she get time with only him, but I had been sick for a few days and still had fever and ended up fainting, so he called a friend and asked him to meet me at the mall, and then left once that was sorted to meet with his sister. Jacob was very late and his sister had driven through bad traffic and was understandably annoyed, and tensions rose until she finally left, only half an hour after meeting him. From what I understand, she left crying and called their dad, who then called my then fiance and chewed him out for making his sister upset. He was on his way to pick me up when the call happened, and as soon as he arrived he told me he was leaving to drive to where his sister lived to apologize for upsetting her in person and then stay the night. \n\n​\n\nNow this part is my fault. I was sick and upset that Jacob wanted to stay the night with his sister after what he had just told me, about the sleeping in the same bed, and yelled at him that at some point he had to stop sleeping with his sister. He ended up staying with me that night, and since then his relationship with his sister started to go downhill. She would send snapchats of herself in her bra and underwear and then if he didn't reply back, she would ask why he didn't talk to her anymore. Or, she would post said pictures on instagram or snapchat and then message him again, and this is taken directly from a screenshot of a message, she asked him why he didn't care about what she looked like. I would say that what really upset my husband, was when we were both at a family barbecue at a swimming lake and she pulled me aside to tell me to put some clothes on because my bikini was inappropriate to wear around Jacob, and that I should be more conscientious of what I wear because it reflects badly on me.\n\n​\n\nThe next time Jacob contacted her was a few months later, they hadn't talked in months and I thought they should make up and move on, and so pressured him to call her because we were planning on getting married the next year. He called her during her lunch break at work and that ended in her saying to stop contacting her, that he wasn't her brother, that she didn't want to be associated with him until he became a better person, and that she never liked me and that he should make better choices in his life. At this point he completely cut contact with her and blocked her on all platforms. Because of all of this, and his family siding with his sister and bringing up that he was the one that had been creating a problem since he now refused to go to family events if she was there or even call his family because each time he did, they would tell him to call his sister and apologize and move on. We saw her once more at a family birthday party, but at that event she approached him and tried to hug him so he asked her to leave him alone, pushed her away when she didn't move away, and went to talk to the rest of the people in attendance. She then swore at us both, cried, and then as I was walking back to be by my husband after getting a drink, she shoulder checked me, spilling my drink, and almost causing me to fall. I guess the funny part here is that I have 4 inches and at least 30 pounds on her, and was still knocked off balance, which is why Jacob's mother asked me if I'd made the whole thing up. To be honest, I'm not even sure my husband would have believed me if he hadn't seen it with his own eyes.\n\n​\n\nAnyway now here we are, almost 2 years later, and we've since eloped, due to the family tensions we ended up canceling the wedding, and only his mom and my mom were in attendance as witnesses. Jacob's father got tired of not getting a response, and somehow managed to get my number over the Christmas holidays and began to message me. His sister got an award and the whole family went and he wanted to ask me if I could get my husband to go to the event. I told him I wouldn't be involving myself in this situation, and then on the day of the event, received another message asking if my husband could message his sister a congratulations, and that he had already written it for him and all my husband had to do was copy and paste. Again, he said no, and since then he's spent almost a month writing a message to his sister asking her to take down photos of him on her social media, and letting her know that after all the nasty things that have been said between the both of them, her inappropriate behavior over the summer, and the most recent fiasco at the birthday party, he was officially done with her, and he asked her to stay away from the both of us at family events from now on. She sent the message to both of their parents, and we ended up starting a whole other thing that we hadn't expected, all my husband had wanted was to be able to go to family events without worrying about what his sister would do. The drama finally died down yesterday, and ended with Jacob's father saying I was full of shit and out to hurt his family, and that he didn't need anything from me so I should knock it off. Jacob's mom told us both that we had to forgive and forget because this had gone on long enough and was hurting her and that she understood his sister had done bad things but that she hadn't initiated any contact with us since the birthday party in 4 months and that now we were the only ones causing problems. \n\n​\n\nI guess my only question is, in all of these situations I feel like I've been the common denominator, and I know for a fact that had I not informed my husband that the things his sister did were inappropriate and showed him resources from r/JUSTNOFAMILY and r/NarcissisticAbuse, everyone would still be a happy family. I thought I was helping my husband by encouraging him to talk to his family about what his sister had said and done, and by making him go to his family's events, and then finally telling him that it was okay to want to officially end the relationship with his sister and reading over the message before he sent it, but all that's happened is he feels like he's lost his family and I feel like I'm the asshole. I do think he's been happier in these two years of low contact with his sister than in the 3 years I knew him when he talked to her everyday, but I can't help but feel like this is all my fault and I should've just let things go on like they were before. So. Am I the asshole here?\n\n​\n\nTL;DR: What was a small tiff with husband's sister has now lasted almost 2 years, and has led to my husband feeling like he has no family left, and me being cut off from his family. Who's the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3pYqxdaUu4OYYrIKKGb961pjD3Rxd7J2", "post_id": "av3giq", "action": {"description": "not wanting to give my blind friend a ride", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to give my blind friend a ride?", "text": "I have a friend that\u2019s blind, and we travel in the same social circles so we go to a lot of the same activities. At first, I didn\u2019t mind giving her a ride (it\u2019s only 5 minutes out of the way). But when it happened every time, I was getting a little annoyed. The straw that broke the camels back was when he told me she\u2019d been sick all day (throwing up) and then STILL got in my car and put me at risk of getting sick. I don\u2019t want to give her rides anymore, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "G1XXwca6vr4vometLypkhYhs6W9rqu58", "post_id": "a6oylh", "action": {"description": "ghosting a self proclaimed asshole", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ghosting a self proclaimed asshole?", "text": "Sorry if this is a little sparse on details, don\u2019t know who involved with this regularly browses reddit\n\nA little over a year ago, I met this dude (let\u2019s call him Dave) through a club at school. We talked a bit and I always thought he was a little strange, but not malicious (though he would get annoyed and proudly declare that he knew he was an asshole). Fast forward a couple months and I become friends with this girl (I\u2019ll call her Kate) who happens to be friends with Dave.\n\nDave sexually harasses Kate, she\u2019s obviously disgusted and I am too, so we both sort of do our own thing, still talking to him more out of necessity than want. The months go by, Kate and I get closer and bond over mutual interests, while Dave is obviously jealous that we became so close so quickly. With many smaller comments and literal tantrums leading up to it, it eventually gets to the point where he says to me (only me, not the two of us) that I need to stop bringing up my mutual interests with Kate because he doesn\u2019t enjoy them too. I tell her and she\u2019s obviously like \u201cFuck him we\u2019ll do what we want\u201d and that was the end of that. We talked to him occasionally, but only when we had no choice. Once he graduated I responded to his texts, but as they got progressively more strange (talking about like \u201cHow much I loved him\u201d and stuff) I just stopped. (If I had to guess, he went to texting me because all his existing friends ghosted him earlier, but maybe I\u2019m wrong.) AITA? Or is there a point where enough\u2019s enough? I don\u2019t want to associate with someone who\u2019d treat a close friend of mine so poorly, but I also don\u2019t want to cause a conflict that will definitely affect more than just myself\n\nTLDR: \u201cFriend\u201d Dave sexually harasses my friend Kate. Months go by, Kate and I become closer friends, Dave gets pissed off and clearly shows that he doesn\u2019t like us being friends. I get fed up with everything and ghost the dude to avoid a conflict that would affect more than just me", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VgWaiUwngicgt1hUktUl4QD2wrWsT6pV", "post_id": "ajm3h7", "action": {"description": "threatening to get a bully fired", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I threaten to get a bully fired?", "text": "I have a colleague who picks on me on and off over the past year whenever I am alone with her. I tried my best to avoid her it's not always possible. She would claim that I am doing something wrong and threatened to report me. Whenever I checked with my supervisor if I was doing anything wrong, they said that I wasn't and not to worry. Apparently, she never follows up on her threats to report me and seem to only be on a power trip. \n\nI tried politely disagreeing, ignoring her, calling her out, speaking to lthe union and speaking to management, but they were dismissive and said not to worry. I think the reason that nobody believes me is because she's exceptionally friendly to everyone, especially me, when in public, but it's all fake because she's constantly talking behind people's backs as well. She also bootlicks managers frequently to get in their good books. \n\nThe last thing that I am to do is to report her to the agency we work for, who will likely sack her immediately. They are aware of it but I opted to wait and see if she does it again, as it is frowned upon to bypass management and go straight to the agency. I would have to go through the entire grievance process again if it reoccurs. \n\nI have been assigned to sit with her despite making it clear to management that I feel uncomfortable. If she picks on me again, WIBTA if I tell her \"Stop being a bully and apologise to me right now or else I'll report you to the agency. I hope that you get sacked.\" and write everything she said down in front of her? The last line sounds asshole-ish, but I'm aiming to intimidate her into stopping, but would that make me no different from her because that's exactly what she said to me? I'm afraid that she will twist my words and make it seems like I'm bullying her instead. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xgRvDCfIpQvLLPSks6BXGci7X2jGNhe2", "post_id": "ayxqhm", "action": {"description": "going separate ways with my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA Going separate ways with my girlfriend.", "text": "My now ex girlfriend has severe depression and recently diagnosed PTSD from her childhood. She has no family she speaks with other than her grandmother that\u2019s dying of cancer. She really only has three friends that she speaks with on a semi regular basis after her best friend started spreading lies when her fianc\u00e9 groped my girlfriend when she stayed at their place one night.\n\nWe\u2019ve been together for almost a year and a half but moved in together after 9 months. The last four months after the incident with her best friend\u2019s fianc\u00e9 have been the definition of hell for both of us.\n\nHer mental issues have kicked into overdrive and it\u2019s been constant fighting and arguing almost everyday. I will admit that I do not have any experience interacting with those with mental issues or depression but God knows I tried my best. I asked people what to do, begged her to go to therapy, and even offered to go once so I can ask questions to help me help her.\n\nDespite my efforts, I just can\u2019t give her the help she needs, what she needs changes constantly and she ends up screaming at me how badly I suck at it. I just suck it up and go to bed alone. We have had several discussions about my lack of knowledge on the subject and she has stated that she knows I\u2019m doing my best.\n\nLast week after another fight, she texted me that she was breaking up with me for those reasons, after telling me that since I have a family that cares for me, anything I\u2019ve earned in life was handed to me. I didn\u2019t go back at her but simply told her that I did my best (which she agreed) but unfortunately I just couldn\u2019t help how I wanted.\n\nAfter assuming that I\u2019d move back to my parents, I had a buddy come over and help me move a few things. It was at this point she came home and scolded me for moving out in front of my friend. I agreed the stay in the apartment but I told her if I can\u2019t handle living with my now ex girlfriend that I would move out and she said that\u2019s understandable.\n\nWe had another fight today because she still expects me to hear her issues and I upset her again. After defending myself for the second time ever in our relationship I told her I can\u2019t do this anymore and I\u2019d be moving out. She then proceeded to get nasty with me and questioned whether I\u2019d pay my half of the rent, even giving me a veiled threat that verbal agreements stand in our area. I found this especially hypocritically since she owes me more than $3000 I\u2019ve lent her under the impression she\u2019d pay me back.\n\nI\u2019m still struggling with this as I can\u2019t wrap my head around whether I\u2019m more in the wrong. I know I wasn\u2019t perfect but I never lied to her, I always tried my best to help, I did anything she ever asked of me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cZrY7FrO9oFKtwPVkeUrwxyx6N4PjlmU", "post_id": "b54rz5", "action": {"description": "refusing to help pay for my friend's birthday gift", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to help pay for my friend\u2019s birthday gift?", "text": "One of my best friends, Joe, has a birthday coming up. He has been dating Natalie for about a year and recently I went on vacation with the two of them to Montreal for spring break, along with our other friend and my partner. Natalie was completely obnoxious for the whole weekend. She seemed to view the entire experience as an opportunity to beef up her Instagram. She was taking pictures of random crap the entire time. At one point, she took away my drink at a coffee shop for three minutes as she tried to take the perfect picture of everyone\u2019s coffee together on the table. Additionally, she was just kind of a party-pooper the whole time. She held Joe back from going places with the rest of us. She made Joe leave places early. She acted in a super immature way with the way she interacted with me and my partner (nothing I can put my finger on, she just was acting like a 14-year-old trapped in a college student\u2019s body.) And on top of all that, she made some mildly homophobic comments that my partner and I did not appreciate at all. I never really liked her before, but suffice it to say, I was completely disillusioned with her by the end of the trip. \nA few days later, I received a Facebook message from Natalie. She created a group chat of six or seven people saying \u201cJoe mentioned a while back that he wanted (thing) for his birthday. I was wondering if you guys would be willing to split the cost. It should come out to $15/person depending on the shipping cost.\u201d Someone else in the group chat, my friend Mike, immediately replied \u201clol no\u201d and Natalie removes him from the group. I am very tight on money lately because of the fact that I took a trip to Montreal for spring break so I\u2019ve been trying to be more frugal. Natalie is from a very wealthy family. She has never had a job in college, and she travels abroad seemingly every other month. I usually buy Joe something small myself for his birthday, and the gift that Natalie wanted to get him is not something that would come from me, as it\u2019s not related to an interest that Joe and I share. So in light of all that, I replied in the group chat \u201ci\u2019m sorry but I\u2019m pretty tight on money! i can\u2019t!\u201d Natalie said \u201cdamn ok\u201d and removed me from the group. Then I messaged Mike to ask him why he said no, and he said he was annoyed that Natalie kept Joe from his birthday party about a month prior to this. Mike and Joe are longtime best buds. \nFinally, just a few minutes ago, Joe and I went to eat dinner in our dining hall, and Natalie arrived along with her roommate and our other friend who came to Montreal. Natalie completely refused to acknowledge my existence for the entire 15 or so minutes we were sitting directly across from each other. As I was leaving, I said \u201cbye everybody!\u201d and she didn\u2019t look up from her phone. It seems that she is pissed at me for not wanting to contribute to the gift. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Id6BOg91MAfiEvun9G9Rz817HpWPLLBG", "post_id": "ar0m4z", "action": {"description": "yelling at room mate for vday chocolates and other errata", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA: Yelling at room mate for vday chocolates and other errata.", "text": "Am I?\n\nMy room mate after being told not to eat the chocolates that my GF gave me for Vday ate 2 out of each package despite asking him not to. His response was, \"well they sucked anyways, I spit it out after I bit into it.\" \n\nI also had another instance of trying to make my self whole with his friend who came over and threw out a collectors edition starwars plastic cup from the movie theater when the last jedi came out. His response was \"I AINT PAYING $30 FOR A PLASTIC CUP. I FUCKING SHOVELED YOUR DRIVE WAY!\" I did not ask him to render this service, nor was I in the know about it. \n\nAm I the ass hole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "2c3BYRRomQUpTEUkAunA0YelnpFEe7Sd", "post_id": "a3nmvb", "action": {"description": "making my boyfriend write me an anniversary card", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For making my boyfriend write me an anniversary card?", "text": "I want to preface by saying I am pretty sure I am the asshole here, but my boyfriend says I'm not. So I'm torn and I was interested what you guys would have to say.\n\nOkay so this Tuesday was my (21F) and my boyfriend's (22M) 2 year anniversary. It's the first one we have been able to spend together, as our first anniversary occured when we were in a LDR.\n\n On the day itself we didn't properly celebrate as he had classes 9-6pm, but he skipped his sports practice in the evening to spend some more time with me, which I was really happy with.\n\nWe had agreed several weeks previously to celebrate on Wednesday, because then he had a full free day to spend with me. But then the evening before he told me he had plans (study plans, so I wasn't really annoyed, just a little saddened) and we could meet up after 4.30pm. \n\nWe live together, so on the Wednesday I decided to wake him up by making him his favourite breakfast (pancakes) and I gave him a card and a small gift- a book he'd been talking about getting for ages. (I don't have a lot of money, my boyfriend is much more well off than me) I also got him roses. \n\nHe was really grateful, but he hadn't got me anything, or done anything special. He said it didn't occur to him to do anything. However, he said seeing as I had put in effort, that he would pay for dinner for both of us, and an activity (VR gaming centre in our town)- both of which we had originally planned upon a few weeks ago. I was really happy, because he knows I don't have a lot of money, so it really helps. I expressed how grateful I was.\n\nHowever, I kind of wanted a card, with a nice message. Obviously I didn't expect a gift after he told me he was willing to pay for the evening, because that was so generous of him. But I kind of wanted something to commemorate the anniversary with that I could keep later to look back on fondly. Sometimes he treats me anyway on non special occasions because he is so well off. (I'm very lucky)  So, I thought a card would make it more \"anniversary\" like.  I also just like the whole romantic messages in it too, haha.\n\nAt the time, because I didn't feel that a card was asking a lot financially or effort/timewise, I asked him if when he came back at 4.30pm he could try and bring me a happy anniversary card. He seemed fine with it, and he brought back a really nice card. I was delighted.\nJ\nBut it's been nagging on my mind today- this guy is normally so thoughtful and generous with his time, and he helps me out financially a lot. Was it selfish to demand extra on top of everything and ask him for a card? Does it come across as me being ungrateful and wanting more and more? What do you think?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "e03ZCOzgMM4ruG4Qt2Pyyl5DLRsALMfH", "post_id": "ano4lg", "action": {"description": "choosing a cheaper college that my parents think is not worth it", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for choosing a cheaper college that my parents think is not worth it?", "text": "A university in Florida recently offered me a full-ride scholarship, however it is out-of-state, far from home, and less prestigious compared to some schools I have gotten accepted to here in Texas. I really want to go because I think it is worth it, but my parents seem almost offended of my inclination. They say that it won't be easy, but that they can pay for in-state schools. They also say going to this out-of-state university would be a waste of my potential. \n\nAlthough I concede that this Florida school is not as great as some Texas schools, I think not paying for college outweighs the drop in education. And its not like I will get a crappy education, this Florida college is good.\n\nI just don't want my family to pay too much for my Bachelors degree. I plan on possibly obtaining a Masters or Doctorate. I also have a little brother now in high school and looking to college. I fear that either I or my brother will have to take student loans eventually. \n\nAm I the asshole for doubting my parents ability to pay for a better college in Texas? Or am I rational for choosing the cheapest college option?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eVVe51b74VODgmphIF3lt08DTIxEU6Wq", "post_id": "9vkvq9", "action": {"description": "refusing to go if I get to a stop sign after someone and they wave me forward", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For refusing to go if I get to a stop sign after someone and they wave me forward.", "text": "I don\u2019t know what it is about my city. Maybe people are just trying to be nice. But I honestly get so infuriated with how often people try to wave me forward even though they get to a stop sign first. It\u2019s gotten to the point where it happens so often if that happens I just flat out refused to go and sit there until they go. If I do this, does that make me an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TsqmgTAiLKRuEZoUkBqd22lGQQzCb17p", "post_id": "aixmdd", "action": {"description": "not wanting my cousin in my house", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my cousin in my house?", "text": "When I was a little boy I met my cousin for the first time. The first few things I noticed about him, is that he had a huge and brittle ego,  he is a pathological liar, and he never reflects on his own actions. He also has the tendency see me a black sheep, and he keeps seeing himself as my savior ( or herder) which is absolute BS and very narcissistic view on reality. Now you might thinking \"yeah he was still a kid people grow up.\" Yeah it got worse through the years...\n \nNow I usually avoid hanging with my cousin, but like once or twice a year I meet up with him to see if everyone is still breathing in my fubar family. I live in a small apartment complex, with two other couple. we have two front door, one to the complex, and the other to our own front door. I trust my neighbor s a lot, I've played online games for three years with these guys and we still play till date, and if anything happens to my pc, that also means they lose a player, which would mean they would have to play with random players which has given them a couple of mini breakdowns through the years. So thereby saying I also have my deterrence. So we get along just fine, that's also correlated to the reason why we often don't close our own front door in the morning and afternoon when we are at home, we also usually knock and wait, and if they ain't home, then fuck it. One day my cousin shows up at my front door of my apartment complex (he stated that someone opened the door for him, but no one except us was home at that moment.)  i'm at home with my gf and we just took a shower and we're suiting up for work, so we're almost butt naked. when all of a sudden I hear a faint knocking on my front door, I look up and tell my girlfriend if she heard something? All of a sudden my cousin walk in unannounced and just waves hi to me and my gf. I'm in shock at this point, and feel kind of messed up, because this is something I don't deal well with, my mother didn't know what the word privacy was, and had a very large tendency to just barge in unannounced without saying a word. So I felt a bit triggered and started yelling at him that I didn't appreciate him just barging into my house. I did not use any profanity. His reaction was to twist the situation around and scold me for scolding him on this matter. Eventually I was appalled and I took his rambling with disdain , my cousin had the audacity to tell me to 'don't blow a fuse' when he barges into my house, like Kramer from Seinfeld, and then scold me for not inviting him in, while i'm in my underwear, and my gf is hiding in the bedroom. After I told him to leave, he still won't talk to me till this date, (not that I actually care, but I guess it's a thing now) but now my  family thinks i'm an asshole because I wasn't hospitable enough for him. AITA for not wanting my cousin randomly in my house? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aNUwLhzbjdDfvJ1tcYcXeuaGjBxpjjPv", "post_id": "b6f9fc", "action": {"description": "sleeping with new people after what I assumed was a break up", "pronormative_score": 227, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for sleeping with new people after what I assumed was a break up?", "text": "Disclaimer: I'm on mobile so please forgive me for any bad formatting, etc. Also this is gonna sound very much like the Ross/Rachel situation but I promise you it's real. TL;DR at the bottom.\n\nSo for the past few months I'd been in a relationship with a guy who I was hopelessly in love with. He never told me he felt as strongly as I did but he had hinted at it sometimes. \n\nA few weeks ago he decided to break up with me, claiming that he thought it would be better if we were just friends. I was obviously heartbroken and cried about this for days, but he was adamant that we could only be friends and nothing more. We did, however, carry on talking.\n\nI eventually got used to this and started to come round to being just friends. In order to boost my self-esteem (which was shattered after the break up) I got on tinder and ended up sleeping with a few people. I thought this would be fine as we were no longer seeing each other, I had no obligation to stay loyal to him. This didn't help me get over it and I'm still very much in love with him.\n\nFast forward to today and I let it slip that I had slept with other people and he immediately blocked me. Later, his friend informed me that him breaking up with me was actually a test. He was still in love with me and he just wanted to 'see what I would do'. Now he is furious at me for sleeping with other people when we weren't together and refuses to even talk to me about it.\n\nSo, my lovely people of reddit. Any advice? AITA? \n\n\n\nTL;DR: boyfriend (supposedly) breaks up with me, I sleep with new people, he gets mad.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 226, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 227, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DjqeFbq3hlrrx58QupCdqeTRvFasiIVU", "post_id": "ar6c64", "action": {"description": "straying away from an over-clingy friend that I tried to help", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for straying away from an over-clingy friend that I tried to help?", "text": "I am a student studying in the final year of highschool with a huge and important test coming up year end. Apparently I have noticed a classmate of mine that always seem to be down in drains. So one day I decided to help him out as we weren't particularly strangers, I walked up to him and I asked him what was wrong and listened to him patiently. Turns out he was an extremely sensitive person that really cares about people's judgement and gets sad everytime he feels that he isn't doing good enough. He felt much better after talking about his problems.\n\nBut here's where the problem start, a few days later he asked my desk mate to move away so he could seat right next to me, knowing he was very sensitive, my desk mate obliged. The first few weeks were fine, we had a few deep conversations and cracked a few jokes along them. But then it started to get out-of-hand from there, he won't let me talk to other people and feel real sad when I left him. Everytime I talk with a few friends, he drags me back so I could talk with him. He follows me everywhere and overwhelm me with his negativity and pessimistic views about life. I mean I get that he is sad but he is almost basing his entire personality on the fact that he is sad. \n\nBut the real frustrating problem is he keeps bugging me during class. As I said I have a huge test coming up, but this dude keeps cracking unfunny jokes in between that really is a distraction. I told him to stop but he just gets all sad and negative about it. So after an entire month of that, I decided to ignore him for a bit. I moved seat because I have decided that my own wellbeing is the priority but everytime I catch sight of him in the backseat, looking so damn sad and alone, I can't help but feel guilty about it. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WoqGzWTg9sY65XaLdcMK4IwjzXL966mo", "post_id": "b4lvdu", "action": {"description": "dismissing a budding writer", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for dismissing a budding writer", "text": "So I'm part of a fandom server on Discord where a few of us write fan fiction and we often get feedback from each other and even be the other's beta editor or collaborator. Along comes this first-time fic writer with some pretty awful grammar and spelling, whose comments read like a kindergarten kid just learning to make long sentences. Except her content isn't kindergarten-grade, because she writes mostly *explicit* romance fic.\n\nHer works are essentially erotic vignettes straight out of your typical porno flick except with the characters' names tacked on and basically makes for a painful read because they just don't match up to who the characters are actually like in the source material. It even reads like a self insert in the guise of a gender swapped character at times - and considering the characters this genderswapped version is normally paired with are characters she's expressed personal interest in before it's not hard to make the connection.\n\nShe's asked three of my fellow writer friends to help her edit her work since, which has greatly improved the grammar and spelling of her content to be actually readable, but a lot of her \"characterisation\" (or lack thereof) remains in the final work and her fic summaries which she writes herself are her usual typo-riddled style. I tried reading a few chapters of her work just to see how much my friends were able to turn things around, which is truthfully not much.\n\nShe still doesn't know I blocked her and occasionally addresses me in convos even though I never reply. One time she was talking about her newest chapter which she posted earlier when I happened to be online and her beta for that chapter (also a dear friend of mine and a longtime writing partner) remarked good work. The following exchange was paraphrased:\n\nAuthor: You're the only one who's seen it though, the others haven't, how is it good work?\n\nBeta: It's good work because even if they haven't seen it it's posted and finished, something finished and posted no matter the quality is already good work\n\nMe: It's effort for sure, regardless of the result one already put effort into it that counts for something... I guess\n\nNobody remarked on my comment, but the beta DMed me asking me if it was a call-out for someone. I told them it was nothing at the time, but now I wonder whether I was too snobbish and dismissive of someone who regardless of their skill still put time into doing something they love. On top of that I never confronted her with my gripes about her writing and just pretended nothing was different while basically ignoring her. As a writer myself I know how precious support from peers is, even if as a reader I'm very selective. So am I being elitist or just have preferences?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "jEnqP02MSUY21bo9VhEbiiNkSVPP91RO", "post_id": "af4qts", "action": null, "title": "AITA or she is", "text": "Well i started chatting with this girl on tinder. I asked her out and she said yes. But when the day came she cancelled bcs she was busy with work. Then few days later which is today we plan to meet. And I called her but she hang up texted me that she is in movie theatre. Idk she is with other guy or what. But told her sorry for calling, we can meet some other time again. (I'm not good with dates or girls)\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IfVySdaiywuK01NoCXug6Ud27lC6HSRf", "post_id": "b6py61", "action": {"description": "wanting my share of a family present", "pronormative_score": 26, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting my share of a family present", "text": "First time poster long time lurker mobile yada yada. For context I am a 15yo male, not mature at all. \n\nSo for Christmas 2018 my grandparents gave my parents $250 to take me and my young brothers to a huge indoor water park/hotel in a city about 2 hour drive from where we live, so I was pretty excited when I found out we were going\n\nFast forward to today when my parents told me they booked the room for this Saturday, but told me I\u2019m not invited because they are going with my brother\u2019s friend\u2019s family for their birthday. Immediately i was angry because I have been anticipating this for a few months, but asked if I could have my share of the money to treat myself to dinner that night, and they refused. AITA for wanting my share of a gift ?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 26, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 26, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "a9mvXUl59ep2s68wm109gctgtlkWIyHU", "post_id": "ak64gk", "action": {"description": "wanting to know when my partner's flight arrives", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting to know when my partner's flight arrives?", "text": "Dropped partner off a few days ago for a flight (Airport is ~15 min from house). Asked them as they walked away to please let me know their return flight arrival time for today. They said they think it's 10am. I said I'd really like to know the arrival time so I can plan my morning and so I don't wait around the airport. No text. Had phone conversation yesterday in which I reiterated for them to tell me when the flight gets in, it was in the morning and surf looked good plus I may want to sleep it. No text. Last night I text that \"I really don't want to ask again\" as I was getting frustrated and by this time it's 6pm the night before they arrive. No text. I finally go online and look up flight trackers so I can know for myself. Finally get a text with the flight # but no arrival time, after I've already looked it up. It gets in at 1020. Had I gotten there at 10 I would have been waiting for ~30min.\n\nThis morning comes and they never send me a text about when their getting in. I know what time because I looked it up. I get a text when they land that says \"U comin?\". I drive, pick them up, but can't help but express my frustration with how they wouldn't give me the information after repeated requests. I didn't yell and attack them (though they may have felt attacked) and they proceeded to blow up on me, yelling and kicking me out of the car and speeding off as soon as we got to my spot (used their car to pick them up).\n\nTime and timing has been an issue (they don't care about schedules at all, I do) and so they knew how this may affect me and I really tried not to let it, hence why I tried to ask them multiple times.\n\nThey are pissed because it doesn't seem like a big deal to them. I'm pissed because I feel they don't respect me or my time enough to look up and forward an email.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bJqOgerv8S5jc6nKRrURKAhZlDtlc1Z2", "post_id": "b6q3i7", "action": {"description": "not wanting to contact grandparents that disowned me", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to contact grandparents that disowned me?", "text": "Title is as TL;DR as possible. I apologize for the length, but there's a lot of history here.\n\n​\n\nWhen I was 19, I got gastric bypass surgery. I didn't think it important to tell them immediately, but after a few months, I commented to my grandmother that I was proud of the weight I was losing due to the surgery. This angered my grandparents, and they were mad they weren't allowed to visit me when I was in the hospital. I apologized and told them I'd let them know next time I'm in the hospital. A year later, my mother finds out from my grandmother that my grandfather was in the hospital recovering from surgery. My mother asked why she wasn't informed, and my grandmother responds \"because you didn't tell me about gone-writing's surgery\". My mother, sister, and I made plans to go visit my grandfather, but things got complicated. \n\n​\n\nThis sets my grandmother off. She calls my mother and berates her on the phone. I'm sitting nearby and I hear my grandmother tell my mother that she wanted all three of us to go to her apartment so she could tell us what terrible people we were, and that she wanted nothing to do with us. My mother, used to my grandmothers theatrics, hung up on her, and my grandmother called me. She told me to block her number and block her on Facebook and not contact her. I tell her \"okay, cool\" and hang up.\n\n​\n\nFor a year, everything was pretty quiet until I receive an email from my grandfather about how I was being terrible for not calling my grandmother. I tell my grandfather everything that happened and he essentially just says \"when people get old, they start to act childish. It's your responsibility to be the mature one.\" That didn't sit right with me. I'm 21 years old. I have to be more mature than a 91 year old? Who lived through a World War? I explained that to my grandfather and he suddenly shoots back with dirt on my father. Specifically, he tells me that my mother couldn't be trusted because she was a known liar and my father cheated on her when I was 2 years old.\n\n​\n\nThing is, I know this story. My parents never hid their past from me, and I'm glad they didn't. Had this bomb been dropped on me now, at 21, how would I look at my father? How would it have hurt me? It angered me that he told me that, because if felt as though he was trying to turn me against my own parents. I deleted the email without responding, and my grandmother has been calling me nonstop ever since. I don't want to talk to them anymore because I feel like they've completely burned their bridges with me. \n\n​\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 21, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Hq31dwk6z7HXBdJbMEIHNOuCNtS9cS0f", "post_id": "am9bk5", "action": {"description": "backing out of plans that were changed last minute without consulying me", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for backing out of plans that were changed last minute without consulying me?", "text": "Title says it all. Family planned a movie night a week or so in advanced. The night of, my sister says we have to wait 2 hiurs so her new boyfriend can show up. \n\nI backed out, said I'm not waiting, this was preplanned and I'm not gonna waste my night waiting.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "i6weDIyTxp2zgb5TyTxzUrvDo4xrDeLz", "post_id": "aygj5z", "action": {"description": "not wanting to do part of my mother's homework", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to do part of my mother's homework", "text": "To give some context: My mom is an immigrant from Poland doing further education to become something like a nurse here in Germany, while I was born in Germany and have two months until my finals (Abitur).\n\nI basically always help her with her grammar and spelling mistakes when she asks me to, although I most of the time lack the motivation to do something if not absolutely necessary due to me just running out of motivation during school - which is why I also only do \"useless\" stuff during weekends and holidays - and she also never was able to help me with any of my homework.\n\nNow she has to do a 30 page essay about the German Red Cross within a month from today, which IMO is very doable, but she begs me every week for the last 3 weeks to research and write down the whole history of the German Red Cross, which seems just way to much for me since my finals are also coming closer and I still have a lot of exams and presentations in front of me.\n\nPlease present your honest opinion reddit, on whether I'm the asshole or not.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sBVlgGqrnNykraSVXtovGEFO7zKFEFQ6", "post_id": "a7zy34", "action": {"description": "sneezing loudly", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for sneezing loudly?", "text": "Firstly, I admit this is not really a moral dilemma, but it's becoming a recurring argument between my boyfriend and I. Maybe this post better belongs in r/relationship_advice but that sub seems to be mostly people asking for help with their failing relationship and I (hope) we don't qualify for that yet. Also, he called me an asshole for this reason, which made me think of this sub.\n\nThe issue is simple. I sneeze loudly. He says obnoxiously loudly, and that I should restrain myself like \"everyone else.\" Our apartment is echo-y so I guess it amplifies my sneeze. I see no point in trying to quiet my sneeze (not hold it back, just make it less forceful) because it really can't be that irritating, can it? \n\nNow we are arguing about scenarios. I said yes, I would attempt to quiet my sneeze if we were in say, a movie theater. Because we're in a public space where people are trying to concentrate on something they have paid for and that seems like a courtesy. His response was, \"so you respect others in public, but not me.\" (Jokingly but...)\n\nHelp me settle this argument. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SmLslDgcJ1AN8PkM2GiHOutzAXHxJ7ux", "post_id": "9uanxe", "action": {"description": "not helping a single mother with rent money after stating that I could/would", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not helping a single mother with rent money after stating that I could/would?", "text": "I [24M] had been text messaging a girl [23F] for a few weeks after she insisted multiple times that we get together sometime, When I finally asked her out she canceled last minute and said her kid was in trouble so she had to go to school to sort it out. We had been friendly for the better part of a year and I usually saw her once a week when I went to the restaurant where she worked. I would usually grab a coffee for anyone that worked there that wanted one, mostly just her, and occasionally eat lunch there and talk to her if she was working or grab a sandwich before heading to work if I had something scheduled. \n\nA few weeks ago she complained that she had kicked out her on again off again boyfriend whom she hadn't ever mentioned when we spoke, and that some really awful things had been going on in her life and that she was afraid she wasn't going to make rent because of not being able to work full time and not having gotten any assistance from him.\n\nI told her that I could help out if she **really** needed it but didn't hear anything for a few days. That was when she messaged me on social media saying that her phone was shut off and that she really needed money by the end of the week to pay her back-rent to her landlord by Friday night. I took some money ($1k USD) out of my bank account, and told her I had it but had to work but after messaging that I was done at work she said that she was having her family over and didn't want to head out that night to get it, On Friday I messaged her and asked to see her (to talk about a budget/finances but also to give her the money) but she claimed to be busy working. \n\nI was a little suspicious because when I tried to call her it went to voicemail and not the standard \"this line is deactivated\" message, so I called her from a phone at work and she picked up (at which point I hung up without saying anything) and when I tried to call from my number it again went straight to voicemail. She hasn't messaged me and I haven't messaged her back since then (its been about 3 weeks) but I have been back every week to the restaurant but she hasn't worked the shift that I go to since then either.\n\nAITA for not helping someone you caught lying to you after already having offered to help?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mFfnhxsgL4doyRnexueaDl4uz4vQcimc", "post_id": "aneusi", "action": {"description": "ousting a pedophile", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 24}, "title": "AITA for Ousting a Pedophile?", "text": "Backstory here before there's a default \"NTA\" just on prejudgment of the other party.  \n\n\nHappened on a certain social media service this week...friend posts a meme related to racism that implies only white people can be racist, and that people of color can only be prejudiced.  \n\n\nI point out dictionary definition of racism includes prejudice, saying it'd actually be racist to say that only a certain color could be racist.\n\n​\n\nEnter pedophile friend of friend, who not only disagrees (which is fine, debates happen)...but goes off about how I'm clearly a racist.  \n\n\nI know better than to engage with trolls, but I do so anyhow, and publicly bring up pedophile's history, complete with link to his registry as a sex offender, effectively creating drama on all sides and leading to the friend deleting the entire post because she didn't want people fighting on her thread.\n\n​\n\nSo, I think I went to far...but what do you think?  AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 15, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 24}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "x44ygLsE7Ef30kCO8rJn237nYP5I78fR", "post_id": "9xf3bg", "action": {"description": "not wanting to pay for work we didn't ask for", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to pay for work we didn\u2019t ask for?", "text": "Today I was sitting in my house when my mother noticed there were two random people shoveling our driveway. She poked her head out the door and said thank you, then came to me and ordered me to help them. I refused, despite her repeatedly trying to force me out there, because we absolutely did not need our driveway shoveled. A few minutes later, my mother came back to me with $20 and ordered me to give it to them, making it clear I would be punished if I didn\u2019t. So, AITA for not wanting to pay or help them with an unsolicited service?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "557aayICb3plYaH7qJsrHQXzd0uqyiwj", "post_id": "b5y5l1", "action": {"description": "wanting my 3 year old to not run the household", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting my 3 year old to not run the household?", "text": "Going to try and keep this short. My SO and I have 2 little humans, 6 and 3. Our 6 is pretty chill and does what he does. Good in kindergarten, behaves in public, etc. Super independent. My 3, on the other hand, is totally stuck to my wife and is kind of a monster in public. Wife allows 3 YO to eat off her plate, come into bed, wander around restaurants, splay out and tantrum, refusing to do x, etc. Whenever I try to discipline I get called an asshole, etc.\n\n\nThing is that the birth of 3 almost cost both their lives. Wife definitely had PPD and I helped her get with a therapist and the appropriate meds for it. While she is still medicated she is no longer in therapy. I\u2019ve been in touch with her provider and it\u2019s mostly a preventative thing and they will be stepping down soonish (paperwork signed to talk to me because of the situation).\n\n\nLong and short I had been gently suggesting that she is feeding into 3\u2019s behavior by allowing her to behave the way she does. Recently I got fed up with it and called her out on it. I just want 3 to be independent and/or not freaking out every time she leaves the room. I was called a \u201cheartless asshole\u201d and that I didn\u2019t care about our 3. \n\n\nAm I the asshole for trying to stick up for 3 or am I the the asshole for making her feel bad or neither?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lNpzG8svSzJlMM7u4Jmp5PSa4eBNfRFZ", "post_id": "ai5hge", "action": {"description": "not watching horror films with my husband", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not watching horror films with my husband?", "text": "I really don't like horror movies. I dislike gore and loud noise out of nowhere shock tactics especially, but I also have a tendency to get nightmares from movies that don't have those issues. I don't enjoy being scared. Plot holes also stick out like a sure thumb in horror to me.\n\nI will try movies on occasion if he really wants me to see them and he says it isn't a gore/shock tactic movie, but it takes a lot of pleading on his part. I almost never enjoy them and generally my reaction is that it was okay/fine, wouldn't watch it again.\n\nI watch things I want to see but he wouldn't enjoy separately. I ask him to watch things that I think he will actually like sometimes and he always does. He often watches horror after I go to bed. The things we watch together are things we are both agreeable to. We watch at home. \n\nI only wonder if I'm the asshole because it seems common for couples to trade off who picks movies. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HBfdE2nhJWGGRaTBgBlZ07yX9ac8zdS1", "post_id": "b2quvt", "action": {"description": "purposely getting someone a gift I know they won't like and will probably piss them off", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "WIBTA if I purposely got someone a gift I KNOW they won\u2019t like and will probably piss them off?", "text": "My cousin and his wife are throwing a birthday party for their 2 year old. They put on the invitation that our attendance was enough but if we wanted to buy a gift to follow the \u201cwish list\u201d with links to specific gifts. Gifts included visits to various venues and specifics on where to buy clothes. my cousins wife is an entitled brat and I already can\u2019t stand her. My family and I find this to be very rude to ask to bring specific gifts to a birthday party. We want to completely ignore the requests on the wish list and get something different that would annoy them..for example a keyboard with no volume control....(something the kid will enjoy, but the parents will despise).  We were raised with manners and acting this way is completely out of line with what we are used to. If someone wanted to know what to get u they\u2019d call and ask...no need to put it on an invitation. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "pKTUTTgYP2fyoNKZANnklc36GabSglcQ", "post_id": "b5mss8", "action": {"description": "buying a homeless man food and then crying about being white to my dad", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for buying a homeless man food and then crying about being white to my dad?", "text": "**Context:** I have social anxiety & often can't perceive reality correctly. I don't take meds. Please help me figure out if I was an asshole or not. \n\nWhile I was in a cafe with my dad, a black homeless man ran in and told us our car was getting a ticket. My dad left so speak with the meter maid. Meanwhile I was wondering what I should do to thank the homeless man. I didn\u2019t have any cash and I didn\u2019t see any ATMs. I saw my dad give the homeless man a dollar.\n\nI worried the homeless man would think we were stingy, selfish people who were so out of touch with reality that we thought giving a single dollar would make us white saviors. I didn't have cash but I did have a card. I bought him tea and 3 cookies.\n\nI made up a speech in my head to use when I gave the man his food. I kept repeating it in my head, trying emphasize how sorry I was that I didn\u2019t have any money and that I hoped this food would be enough.\n\nMy dad disappeared while I was ordering the food and I freaked out so much I forgot to apologize for not giving money. The homeless man put down my food and drinks besides 5 other drinks he'd been given before. I felt ashamed, like my pathetic efforts to help were just another unwanted item that robbed him of the chance to choose for himself with money.\n\nI got into the car with my dad and angrily asked him why he left when I asked him to stay. He didn\u2019t care at all that I\u2019d been calling for him or that my hot tea burned my full hands when I got bumped by someone, looking for him. I told him I was incredibly upset and he told me not to be, but I wouldn\u2019t stop. I kept saying, \u201cWhy the hell did you leave? It messed up what I was going to say. Stop leaving me all the time!\u201d\n\n\u201cUse your eyes to look for me, stop freaking out,\u201d he said.\n\nI yelled, \u201cI made myself look like a stupid, racist, out-of-touch white bitch with a savior complex who can\u2019t even do one thing right!\u201d and my dad turned to me and yelled, \u201cShut up! Shut up and be grateful. I\u2019m paying for everything on this trip. You shut your mouth and quit talking.\u201d\n\nI felt so bad that I burst out crying. I cried so hard I couldn\u2019t even speak. It was just all stupid blubbering and it made my dad yell at me, \"Why are you crying? You have no reason to cry!\" Finally I blubbered out in a pathetic voice, \u201cPlease just give me a minute! Just a minute, God!\u201d \n\nWe drove down the streets and I explained how ashamed I was that I couldn\u2019t help at all and how I failed to use my privilege to actually help another human being. He told me I didn\u2019t care about being a good person and that I was just doing it out of guilt. I told him I was upset because I should have done more and he told me I needed to quit being upset because I helped the homeless man and I couldn\u2019t give him everything in one interaction. \n\nI still feel like a huge, worthless, unhelpful, privileged asshole who\u2019s just one more idiotic white bitch who can't do anything to help. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "qPF2mDR6f5QDCS8PLEUswJrMwtFVEb4A", "post_id": "avhcd7", "action": {"description": "telling my gf to leave her THC pen at home when we go out", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA If I told my gf to leave her THC pen at home when we go out.", "text": "Background: We are both 20, been together roughly 6 and a half months, weed is legal here, shes a stoner and I don't smoke often because I just don't enjoy it. I am not against marijuana.\n\nSo my girlfriend smokes a lot to say the least. We are usually at her house hanging out and it doesn't seem like she could go more than an 1-2 hours without taking a few hits. (throughout the day every single day). \n\n I have mixed feeling with this but ultimately I understand its her life, her house, and she can do whatever she wants. I've been thinking of taking her out more in order to spend more time with her without her being high.\n\nBut she very recently got one of those THC and along with smoking it around the house, she also brings it every time we leave the house. I want to spend some quality time with her outside the house without her being in an altered state of mind. And its always me taking us places since she lost her car a while back so I feel like It wouldn't be that bad if I told her not too.\n\nWIBTA for telling her to leave her THC pen at home when we go out.\n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FCcIfpgD07P7KRrEdprUGOJQc8rdkLGf", "post_id": "9yf9z3", "action": {"description": "trying to convince my family to disown my sister", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 35}, "title": "AITA for trying to convince my family to disown my sister?", "text": "She's barely eighteen and she's already looking to settle down. She has only dated guys who are older than thirty. She rejected going to UCLA because her boyfriend told her to. She has stated to me multiple times that she's trying to get pregnant. She has also stated to me that she finds most of her boyfriend's on sugar daddy websites. She blows all her money on clothes and paintings. She lives at one of our family houses. She got five cats and two dogs when she can barely take care of herself. She's living off of her trust fund. The list could honestly go on forever. \n\nMy point is that she makes horrible life decisions. I'm honestly sick and tired of her being a brat when things turn out bad. I have four other siblings and they are doing just fine. So far, most of us have gotten valedictorian except her. She acts like some rich spoiled brat even though our parents raised us to be caring and giving. Honestly, I think our whole family should just drop her. I've been trying to convince my mom to but she won't listen to me. Earlier today my girlfriend kinda exploded on me saying I'm an asshole for trying to make everyone disown her. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 35, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 35}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "IK3bbgKFCuizpLuuTQRq4dGaYOoqmDvH", "post_id": "9uv0tm", "action": {"description": "joking about my floor mate being british", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for joking about my floor mate being British?", "text": "Today one of the people on my floor posted in a floor group chat reminding us that we should stay in line even if it's after 7:00 to make sure that we get our votes in. I consider myself a friend of hers, maybe not super close but we've lived around each other for more than a year now. She's a US citizen, but she's from Britain and she has an English accent. After posting this, I responded saying, \"I'll be sure to vote loyalist this year!\" as a joke.\n\nTo clarify, other people on the floor have made fun of her for multiple reasons, and she has made fun of us for multiple reasons. I never made fun of her accent (and I wouldn't, I think that's unfair) but some people have, and she usually responds by saying something along the lines of, \"At least I can go into a high school without being shot.\" or something similarly irreverent. \n\nAfter posting my joke, the RA texted me (only me) asking me to be respectful of everyone's background and to not make anyone feel like an outsider. I responded by saying that I was celebrating our differences in a fun and non-offensive way (I didn't think that anyone would be offended by a joke about pre-revolutionary war America), but he wasn't a fan. I haven't heard anything from her about it, except for a reminder in the group chat that she was a citizen which I can't get any vibe off of.\n\nShould I have avoided making a joke about her heritage? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eFPPpR8WF6pAHrt8Y5Uq2O7LTBfjaEh1", "post_id": "b5cz84", "action": {"description": "driving in the Left Lane when I need to exit", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for Driving in the Left Lane When I Need to Exit?", "text": "In our city we have an expressway system where you have to exit from the left lane about 25% of the time. With where I live, I have to exit left twice on my way home from work. I'm not a super slow driver, our speed limit is 55 and I drive 65. I have to get into the left lane about a mile before the exit so I don't have switch lanes at the last second when there may not be an opening for me. I almost always end up with someone angrily tailgating me. It's frustrating and actually pretty scary. \n\nThis morning, someone in my city's sub made a post about how much they hate people cruising in the passing lane. Several people pointed out that a lot of the time you have to drive in the left lane to exit, and they got downvoted into oblivion. \n\nI am so baffled. How can I, and others like me, be considered assholes for having to drive in the left lane to exit? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LFYdo0bc9XaaFwDTrDBKtjEL7DSAt7Km", "post_id": "at4ot8", "action": {"description": "not talking to a good friend after learning their political stance", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for not talking to a good friend after learning their political stance?", "text": "Here's some backstory. I'm a liberal person living in a liberal area (This doesn't mean I hate every conservative or right wing person though). However, I have a close friend who I met a year or two ago. During a casual text conversation, I learned he's pretty right wing. Normally I don't have a problem with this, since like half the country is right wing, but after finding this out it's really hard to start a conversation with him or keep one going. I feel like we've been divided by this nonexistent barrier. I really want to keep being his friend, but at the same time, I don't want him to talk to me. AITA? Hopefully I haven't left anything important out of this, but feel free to ask questions.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "9bRXpvGRhyb3eIabqn11kgYCbGCFrTg0", "post_id": "9zumy6", "action": {"description": "a waitress asking if a random man at the end of the bar could join our trivia team and me saying no", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for a waitress asking if a random man at the end of the bar could join our trivia team and me saying no", "text": "To give context I flew back to the state I grew up in for thanksgiving to see friends and family and I see 3 of my best mates from college and we go to a local bar to play trivia catch up for the short amount of time we have together. There is an older gentleman with wispy unkept hair sitting alone at the bar and doesn\u2019t look like much of the social type (not that we would engage with him any way) but after a couple beers and appetizers the trivia is about to start and the waitress comes over and asks if he could join our team for trivia and we just say that we all flew in from all over to meet up and we rather stay by ourselves.\n\nWhat do you all think?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oWrZxdM0SxYZ1HpfwDJNkIqjbAaCUyAT", "post_id": "b1l64j", "action": {"description": "getting mad about my step brother's wedding date", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for getting mad about my step brother\u2019s wedding date", "text": "Little backstory first, so I\u2019ve been engaged for 2 years and in those years I\u2019ve bought a house (last year) and started saving for my wedding (this year). We wanted to get a house first because my son was about to start kindergarten. We didn\u2019t want to have the wedding and then save another year to get the house in another city and then have to transfer him.\nAnyway, well when I proposed to her. We set a date shortly after to be dated to 2 years later. I told my family and everyone that asked about it the date. WELL, apparently not everyone. Just recently my real brother came to me about some information that my STEP brother was planning to propose to his girlfriend of like 4 months. She already knew about the ring because he showed her it when he got it but hadn\u2019t officially proposed yet. (Don\u2019t ask me why he did that because I don\u2019t know why either.) Anyway, I told my real brother \u201cOkay? So what?\u201d He then tells me the date they chose, it was exactly 1 week before ours! They were also using the exact same colors as ours too! I told my real brother, no way they\u2019d do that to us. So I kept my cool about it and we had a family get together and everything was fine. My step brother didn\u2019t bring up anything about it. A few days later I look on Facebook and they posted about the proposal with the exact date my real brother told me about. My fianc\u00e9 and I are furious! I call my Dad about it and he says he can\u2019t talk right now (he\u2019s with them) so he\u2019ll call me back. I say okay and a few hours go by and he texts me telling me to call him tomorrow which of course makes us even more mad. Because when something like this happens, we like to talk about it right there and then. So I ignore his call the following day because the previous day I was so mad I had to take an ibuprofen and didn\u2019t want a repeat of it. So I call him the next day and I couldn\u2019t believe the words he was saying. Without going into detail he kept defending my step brother over me. He tells me they planned everything including the date before they told my dad and step mother. Even though my step brother and his girlfriend both knew when our wedding was. My dad told me to get over it and it\u2019s \u201cnot a big deal\u201d and that if I \u201ckeep pushing it, he\u2019s not coming to my wedding.\u201d My dad is my best man by the way. I told him \u201cwell that\u2019s fine\u201d and he hung up. My argument is this, what family member does this to another family member? Like, who intentionally rains on another family member\u2019s parade? My outer family will now have to go to 2 weddings on the weekend in a row, my family is already busy enough on the weekends as is.\nAre we the assholes (my fianc\u00e9 and I) for getting mad about this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "tMUHjKy388EXWWdRPhWxFCRmNZgac2mc", "post_id": "ao6290", "action": {"description": "being really angry at my so about stupid disagreements like mushrooms", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being really angry at my SO about stupid disagreements like mushrooms?", "text": "Ah. Ok. So.\n\nFrom very early on in our relationship, I knew my SO was very headstrong. He told me, his friends told me, his family told me, it's also super obvious, I'd seen it in action. We agree on the big things so it's ok - we were always completely aligned in our political beliefs, religious beliefs, family future plans, etc. All the important things. And the little things? Well, I'm the least headstrong person so it didn't really bother me, because we weren't really butting heads. But it does effect me. I will focus on 1 example below, but just know that this stuff happens all over our life - with stuuuuupid little things like colours, apartments, kitchen supplies, music, tech, what to watch on Netflix, whatever (nothing major though). Anyway, for this main example though, all you have to know is that I like mushrooms (I think).\n\nMe: \"Hey, do you want mushrooms for dinner? I love mushrooms.\"\n\nHe says, \"They're disgusting.\" \n\nI say, \"Really? What kinds have you had?\" \n\nHim: \"All of them. They're disgusting.\"\n\nMe: \"How were they cooked? Poorly cooked mushrooms can get a bit gross.\" \n\nHe says, \"No, I've had them all ways. They're disgusting.\" \n\nMe: \"Ah. Well, I really like them...\"\n\nWe now don't eat mushrooms ever and it's cool and I never bring it up. Don't want him to feel bad and I'm not going to force someone to eat mushrooms who could be allergic, you know? I'm very careful about picking/ordering food with no mushrooms when I can be. He tells waiters he's allergic to them when we go out to eat so that he doesn't get them in his food. I never buy or cook mushrooms for myself, which I used to love. Every time mushrooms come up he says they're disgusting and I began to associate this in my head. So naturally I stop eating mushrooms, and years pass, we get married, move to a new country together. I hate mushrooms now. Yes, that is on me - I'm way too easy-going/steamroller/influenced/people-pleaser or whatever other names you'd like to throw my way. Go ahead. I take responsibility for that, and I'm working on it, and I'm trying to be more in touch with my needs and what I want. It is difficult to just turn off. As I'm becoming more aware of this issue, I'm re-evaluating how we talk to each other and express our needs. I decide to ask him to disagree with me more respectfully and be more aware.\n\nHe doesn't really understand. He thinks that stating his own opinion shouldn't influence mine and it's not his fault at all - it is just all in my head. He says this, a lot. He's very much one of those people that always tries to be logical and remove emotion from situations. I do believe he's right; his opinion shouldn't influence mine. I agree in theory. But still it does. There is part of me deep down that just wants to please him because I love him and I'll always pretty much acquiesce to whatever he prefers to make him happy, I'm working on turning it off and getting more confident in myself. I'm asking that we both become aware of this, and try to adjust our life accordingly. I don't want him to stop expressing his opinions - I just want him to be aware of how he does it and try not to dismiss me and my opinion in the process. He doesn't understand. I start seeing a therapist.\n\nI'm working on myself with this therapist. And I enroll in a mindfulness group, where I talk about this issue regularly. I'm trying to be really critical and evaluate my self-confidence and practice exercises they give me to look at my needs and what makes me happy and try to express them and be more vocal. Sometimes, I am doing better and I tell him my opinion. But whenever he tells me his opinion, if it is not in complete agreement, I feel like he always gets his way. Furthermore, the way he says, 'Mushrooms are disgusting. All of them. They just are.' without ever acknowledging that maybe they're just gross for him and not gross for everyone is unfair. He'll say 'X is right. X is the only way' and if I think Y, well, he's so confident it just floods me with insecurities and questioning my own self. Yeah, sure, that's not his fault, but also, it's not exactly my choice either - why can't we try to work with communicating our wants and needs together? Why do I have to be AS headstrong as him if I ever want my opinion to be heard?\n\nAnyway, to summarise all of this up, years later, after we are married, I'm helping his mum prepare dinner and I discover she's put mushrooms in the egg rolls she's made. He goes to grab one, and I go, 'oh don't! You can't eat it! It has mushrooms in it.' and he goes, 'Nah, my mum knows how to make mushrooms edible.'\n\n...\n\nAITA for feeling completely gaslit and also enraged that he can't be like, 'oh mushrooms aren't my thing but it's ok you like them' or even 'i only like the way my mom makes mushrooms' rather than telling me that they're just always disgusting so incessantly that I literally feel incepted that they are and get nauseous at the thought of them??? AITA for wanting him to express his opinions in a more respectful way, and to be aware of how hard it is for me to disagree with him because I am a spineless jellyfish?? (Also, am I actually crazy here?)\n\nAnyway, that's mushroom-gate. Thank you for coming to my TED talk. Please tell me. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5dY8w4gNyYHa9MMzOSZxIdYHnVH5i7m9", "post_id": "b01gu8", "action": {"description": "breaking up and kicking my girlfriend out of my apartment because she couldn't pay rent", "pronormative_score": 74, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for breaking up and kicking my girlfriend out of my apartment because she couldn\u2019t pay rent?", "text": "She\u2019s in the mindset that the guy should pay for everything, and against my better judgment I went with it. Any dinner, event, trip, hell even groceries I would help out with. She would pay for something once in awhile, and she would clean my apartment from time to time but I never felt like it was equal. Not that I have anything against paying for things, I believe the guy should pay for most, but there has to be some give and take\n\nFast forward to June 2018. She moves in my apartment in the city. For six months she\u2019s living rent, bill, and virtually grocery free. Again she cleans but it\u2019s not even. \n\nFast forward again to now. We move in together so obviously we\u2019re going to split the rent right? For a couple of months we did. Then the last week of February she tells me she won\u2019t be able to pay anything for the rent due to her own debts and bills. I\u2019m furious and she goes and stays with a friend for a week. I pay the full rent which puts me in a precarious financial situation for my own bills and debts. I was worried I wouldn\u2019t be able to pay some of my own things (I was able to with money left over.) then this month comes. She originally says she could pay a few hundred because again, her own debts and bills. I\u2019m wary but I say ok but you\u2019ll have to pay me back. No real response. We talk again the other night and now she says she can\u2019t pay anything at all again. I say ok so are you going to take care of the rent for a couple of months or pay me back? No because why do I have a boyfriend then?\n\nThis was the final straw. I\u2019m supposed to help you out with your financial fires while mine get larger and you\u2019re not even going to help me out when you can? Get the fuck out of my apartment. So once again, and for the rest of this lease, I\u2019m paying the full rent. Paying half of it I would be in good shape. Could pay off bigger amounts in my cards and loans, but now I really have to penny pinch until business gets up again which could be a few months. \n\nWe talked a couple days after this and she said it was a test to see how I would react in a tough situation. Like if she got into an accident or something. I believe this is a very very different situation but maybe I\u2019m wrong and I overreacted ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 73, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 74, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "k3o833baBBM5ZMhaFldN1W6AfOfuwedg", "post_id": "b35j11", "action": {"description": "refusing to meet my friend's boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to meet my friend's boyfriend?", "text": "The past few years my friend and I have gone out for lunch/happy hours often. We are free to invite whoever we want, and have both brought friends along. We are very different people. I'm young, physically small, never married. She is significantly older, divorced, and obese. We agree and disagree on many topics, and have had lots of great discussions and not held our differences against each other.\n\nShe is obese to the point that it is physically disabling. People are generally judgmental and rude about this which has had mental and emotional impacts on her for a very long time.  So a few months ago when she told me she met someone and they were dating and he was really helping her feel better mentally, emotionally, and physically,  I was really happy for her. \n\nA few days ago she told me something that changed everything. Apparently this guy has been married for the past 23 years and has cheated on his wife consistently for the past 20. She knew he was married from the beginning of their relationship. Hearing he was married really changed my perspective. I feel so bad for his wife and to be honest, I'm questioning my friend's judgement/feel like he is using her since she was so open to his affection.   \nWe'd discussed adultery as an abstract theoretical concept before. She told me that she doesn't think cheating is a big deal if you tell a partner they aren't meeting your sexual needs, then you should be free to meet them yourself as long as your partner doesn't find out about it, because if they don't know then nobody is getting hurt. I told her I strongly disagree, that sounds super toxic/dishonest/a path to a shitty relationship, but I'm not in a relationship with her so I wasn't really concerned that we disagree on that topic.   \nThe day after she told me this we were going to meet up for lunch until she texted me he was going to come along. I told her that I'd rather he didn't because I don't want to meet him. She is pissed because he is important in her life, has been good for her, and has said I'm being judgmental and unsupportive. She's right. I am. I'm still fine with having lunches with just her, but I don't want to talk about him and I definitely don't want to meet him because I'm repulsed by this situation and do not want to get any more involved than I already am.   \nAm I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "azrHZgvRUvBK7DDWrXsTRvJ59jHNWYEb", "post_id": "ak33h1", "action": {"description": "suggesting that religious students don't need a special new on-campus space for prayer", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for suggesting that religious students don\u2019t need a special new on-campus space for prayer?", "text": "A student recently made a post in our community open forum asking if anyone knew of a good space for religious students to pray during the day between classes. \n\nHe received many great recommendations, ranging from quiet private study rooms in the library, quiet empty spaces in our multi-cultural center, and empty spaces in our yoga room at the wellness center.\n\nThese suggestions weren\u2019t good enough for him though, and he\u2019s now demanding that our college put up the resources to build a special prayer room. \n\nI was the only person to comment against the room, and I said \u201cWhy can\u2019t you use the room-booking system that already exists to guarantee yourself empty space on campus? Why do we have to build a new space for you when spaces already exist, regardless of what you plan to use it for?\u201d \n\nThis comment hasn\u2019t gone over well with a few of my religious friends, but if they keep pushing for this room I do plan to keep speaking against it. We\u2019re a public state school operating on extremely limited federal funds as it is.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 19, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ChzosH12tIW3QIqsI9n88Ip2tVghvcIP", "post_id": "a3ryrg", "action": {"description": "not tipping delivery guys in delivery services", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for not tipping delivery guys in delivery services?", "text": "In my country we have an app where you can ask for food from diferent restaurants and a Walking/Bycicle/Motoboy delivers your food directly to your house. The thing is I find extremely shameless to ask for a tip when using that service. Dude you were hired for that and you're not providing an out of your way, incredible or special service.\n\nWhen it's a delivery boy from a specific restaurant I tip because some times the tip goes to the cooks as well. But the other guys? No way in hell", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "4QXbZsfs3p7iwpGSL4DeMq5A6VCazeMb", "post_id": "b2tec2", "action": {"description": "blocking my dad", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for blocking my dad?", "text": "So a few hours ago I got a call from my dad. We usually only call a few times a year so we were talking for a while, just catching up on things, when he made a comment about how \u201cEast Indians are bad at their jobs.\u201d I told him that sounded a little racist, and that people can be bad at their job regardless of where they\u2019re from (not super proud of that comeback but I was trying to keep the conversation pleasant.)\n\nWe went back and forth on this for a couple minutes, and eventually my dad said he wasn\u2019t racist because he married a Chinese woman. I said basically, \u201cyour wife has no issue with you and your buddies saying the n-word so maybe that\u2019s not a great example\u201d and his response was to say, \u201cWhat\u2019s wrong with saying nigger? Nigger nigger nigger nigger. What\u2019s so bad about that?\u201d\n\nAt this point I said I\u2019m done we can talk later, and hung up on him abruptly. He called back immediately and I ignored it. Then he went on a texting spree calling me a pussy, that he\u2019s disappointed and embarrassed of me, how my mom is a liar, how lazy I am, and a few other things about my mom\u2019s side of the family I\u2019d rather not repeat. I was going to ignore it all, but after taking a break from texting me for an hour or so, he started back up with the insults. So I told him \u201cfuck you lose my number\u201d and blocked him from my phone and all social media. \n  \nI just cant help but feel like I escalated the situation when I brought his wife into it, and spiraled the whole conversation out of control. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fVVxGF1mDzQKn8Vl74rYyJDkGyHgqq1n", "post_id": "a1svbc", "action": {"description": "wanting my fianc\u00e9e to cut all contact with a male friend because he sexually harasses her all the time", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting my fianc\u00e9e to cut all contact with a male friend because he sexually harasses her all the time?", "text": "TL:DR at the end, I'm a mobile user, English is not my first language, you get the gist. \n\nMy fianc\u00e9e and I have been in a relationship for a year now. I'm 23 and she's 27. We're lesbians. I asked her to marry me six months ago and our wedding will be held in a year and a half. We're extremely excited, planning on having kids after the wedding and so on. She's everything I've ever dreamed of and knew from the first time I saw her that I'd make her my wife someday. She knew that as well. There is just one thing bothering me in our relationship. \n\nMy fianc\u00e9e has a male friend, let's call him Hank. Hank is tall, his clothing and hair style is \"psychobilly\" and he lost his virginity at 26 by having sex with the 17-year-old daughter of his best friend. After that, he started a false rumour that the girl gave him chlamydia and he hasn't had sex since. He has also been unemployed for a long time, because according to him, he doesn't know how to make a CV. Y'know, the kind of a person I wouldn't want to hang around with. Hank is now 27 as well and was a co-worker of my fianc\u00e9e about\u00a0six years back, when we hadn't met yet. They became friends and have hung out ever since. However, another co-worker of theirs at that workplace at the time jokingly said to Hank that my fianc\u00e9e had a crush on him, which is impossible since she's a lesbian. Hank, for some incomprehensible reason, believed it to be true. \n\nEver since then Hank has harassed my fianc\u00e9e by saying stuff like \"I'd be the man of your dreams\", \"You just haven't tried my dick\", \"I love you and would make you happy\" etc... He insists that my fianc\u00e9e should sleep with him in order to find out how amazing of a person he is and it doesn't matter that my fianc\u00e9e is not interested, because according to him, starting a relationship with him would change how my fianc\u00e9e sees him. He also demands she sees him at LEAST three times a week, and plays martyr (\"you're a bad friend, I'm so lonely, nobody wants to spend time with me\") when she doesn't. She feels horrible whenever Hank does this and doesn't understand why he can't just shut up about it. She's told him multiple, even hundreds of times that she is not interested and will never be. He doesn't accept that. This has gone on for about five years. \n\nNow, he isn't this bad all the time. The reason my fianc\u00e9e hangs out with him still, is that he can be nice and not speak about that nasty stuff for a while and they share the same passion: cars. They can have a really nice time together and he might go for about a month without harassing her, but then start the bullshit again. \n\nHowever, I feel extremely annoyed and even hurt that my fianc\u00e9e still hangs out with him. In the past she has cut all contact with him but when that happened, he started visiting her parents all the time, begging for them to reach out to her and ask her to \"be his friend again\". My fianc\u00e9e says that she never wants that to happen again, as she doesn't want her parents involved. She has blocked him everywhere except instagram, through which they can plan to meet whenever he's being nice again. I have suggested that she could get a restraining order against him, but she says she doesn't want to hurt him and he's the only person she can talk about cars with. \n\nI told her this feels like she'd rather keep hurting me than hurt him. She said that she feels bad and if it comes to that, she will cut all contact with him. Just now she texted him and told him that if he ever talks about his feelings again, she will cut off all contact with him. \n\nAITA for wanting my fianc\u00e9e to stop being his friend? If not, any advice? \nI feel extremely disrespected but also guilty when my fianc\u00e9e tells me he's the only person with whom she can talk about cars. \n\nShe read this text before I sent it to you guys so we're very open about the situation. \n\nTL;DR: We're lesbians, getting married in 2020. Fianc\u00e9e has a male friend Hank, who won't stop sexually harassing her and insisting that she should sleep with him. Fianc\u00e9e doesn't want to cut all contact with him, because he can be nice at times and he's the only friend she shares her car passion with. I feel disrespected. AITA for wanting her to still cut all contact with him? \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "chA3V2HFDDRR6vwVrBmw8meDbB08TDdh", "post_id": "b0pfdb", "action": {"description": "playing games with my friends and trying to enjoy my spring break", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for playing games with my friends and trying to enjoy my spring break", "text": "I\u2019m an international student from Nigeria and I couldn\u2019t afford to go back home for spring break so I am in temporary housing for a week. I have a roommate that\u2019s a transfer student from China and we\u2019d both been doing our own things and he didn\u2019t seem to bother me. Now I had a stressful week last week with a bunch of midterms and papers so I couldn\u2019t really talk to my friends. Since the break started I have been playing apex religiously with my headphones on talking to my friends. I don\u2019t rage and I have a naturally quiet voice. Last night the RA knocked on my door and my roommate quickly dragged him out of the room and talked to him for about 10 minutes. The RA came in and told me my roommate said I have no manners and I am too loud while he is trying to study. While we have been here he has played league of legends most of the time and I have barely seen him study. He was demanding a new roommate or he would go to a hotel. I told him my roommate had never talked to me about the issue before and I was confused. The RA went back outside to try and get my roommate so we could all talk but he refused and said he was scared I would harm him. I don\u2019t know where he got that impression but the RA knows me so he dismissed the idea that I would be violent towards him. They continued talking outside while I was inside and the campus police was called because either he claimed I threatened him or he threatened me. The police came and settled everything and told him I can\u2019t be forced to do anything in my room and if he wants to study he should go to the lounge. He left for a while but didn\u2019t take his laptop on anything. When he came back I was watching tv on a low volume (20 on a small Samsung tv) and he immediately called the RA to say I was making noise without talking to me. I got pissed and just turned it off and went to bed. Today I woke up around 10 and started playing apex with friends. He got up at like 12 and went to his computer. While I was playing he told me to shut up and I told him to fuck off. He flipped out and told me I had no right and I should play my games elsewhere. I told him if he wants to study he can go to the lounge as it would be much easier to move a laptop than a tv + console. I don\u2019t fell like I\u2019m making noise and my previous roommate never complained about it so AITA?\nTL:DR\nRoommate says I\u2019m making too much noise but never talked to me about it. Campus police was called and he was told to go to the lounge if he needs to study. Told me to shut up while I was talking to my friends online and I told him to fuck off to the lounge", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jCeIY65bg4QC9yALAUVfG8rY8wSsmSGT", "post_id": "b74sqa", "action": {"description": "wanting my sarcastic, rude, entitled 20 year old to move out", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting my sarcastic, rude, entitled 20 year old to move out?", "text": "I\u2019ve been a single parent for a while.  I have one child at home living with me and he still behaves like a self entitled ahole.  You can\u2019t ask him to do anything around the home without him blowing up.  I have him take out the trash and I tied the bag closed and he tossed in the back of his truck and drove around with it then accused me of not knowing how to tie a bag because it came undone.    His room is disgusting as is his bathroom.  I\u2019ve bought him a truck, pay his phone bill, insurance, I added him to my credit cards so he could build credit, bought trips for him to go to NY (he models) and he works and buys his food because he works out 5 hrs a day and adheres to a strict diet.  \n\nThe last straw happened when I suddenly started seeing his texts messages on my phone.  I knew this happened because he was logged into iTunes with my account .  I told him to get his own account, send me his email address and I\u2019d send him his playlists but I don\u2019t want our messages getting mixed up.  Well this started a war.  He basically told me he wasn\u2019t speaking to me anymore and that I was a shitty parent.  I told him if he felt that way he needed to work more hours at his job (he is a manager of a vape shop) he currently works only enough to buy his food, pay his truck insurance, gas and gym membership.  Spends most of his day working out.  \n\nI\u2019m so tired of lighting with him because of how he speaks to me.  I\u2019ve done nothing but support this kid.  My support has know turned into enabling and I\u2019m ready for him to work more hours and move.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "67azx2JbgMCv5Mhm09gxCLp1lVB3cl8Q", "post_id": "a91b7p", "action": {"description": "not wanting to spend large amounts of time on a gift", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to spend large amounts of time on a gift?", "text": "My father wants to get a group gift for my mother, but the thing is, that gift requires a lot of time to put in. To be exact, my father wants 6 hours a day for five days. (30 hours total) I\u2019m willing to put in some time, but I\u2019m a student, and I still have a lot of work to do over the break, not to mention I think six hours a day is far to large a time commitment. My siblings are all angry at me for saying that it\u2019s to large, saying that I\u2019m a bad son. So am I the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MSw4Zg5nnGTzkKBbd5lnfz3LgY5CuzKb", "post_id": "acit4v", "action": {"description": "not being able to trust my bf around my boyfriend anymore", "pronormative_score": 23, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not being able to trust my BF around my boyfriend anymore?", "text": "(First of all, sorry for any mistakes, English is not my first language)\n\nContext:\n\nSo...two years ago, my best friend made out and almost had sex with my now-boyfriend (whom I was in a relationship with before all that happened) and my ex I still had feelings for at the time (which she knew), all in rapid succession. It was not the only time she backstabbed me but this action is the most relevant for the story as it had a large impact on me and my trust issues towards her.\n\nI forgave her.\n\nFast forward to the current point in time and all of a sudden the two of them are really good friends. After months of not talking, the relationship between them has gotten to a point where they are constantly texting each other, talking about everything and spending a hell lot of time with each other. He has even slept over at her place a few times.\n\nNow, I talked to both of them about the situation, telling them that it makes me feel uncomfortable, mainly because of what had happened between them already (I didn't scream or curse at either of them). My boyfriend said he felt sorry and that he would spend a little less time with her (I later told him that I didn't want to impair his social life). My best friend, on the other hand, started crying, claimed that I hurt her feelings and that she was at the brink of ending our friendship because of what I said.\n\nI told her that I was sorry and we continued acting normally again.\n\nA day later, while I'm talking to my boyfriend on discord he tells me about how he's going to sleep over at her place. I texted her, saying that I think it's a bit inconsiderate of her to just disregard everything I just told her the day before. She then got really angry at me and told me to stop forcing my boyfriend to stay away from his friends (which I have never done, not even when it comes to her) and how I'm a complete asshole who just thinks about herself while humiliating her and constantly hurting her feelings. At this point I was pretty mad too and noted that she should stop getting pissed off because I was hurt over a mistake **she** had made. I didn't get a response for a while, because apparently she spent the day with my boyfriend. A few hours later I got a passive-aggressive apology and, once again, we started texting normally afterwards. At this point I was tired of getting into a fight everytime I tried to express my feelings so I just dropped the topic and never brought it up again.\n\nYesterday, I talked about something revolving around the relationship I had with the ex I mentioned above. The story didn't even involve her but she immediately started getting angry again and said something along the lines of: \"I'm just gonna act like you didn't just reproach me for doing something two years ago again.\"\n\nLuckily, it was pretty easy to avoid conflict by just explaining what I meant but what she said in that situation has sticked with me. I just don't know anymore, am I overexaggerating or is she just inconsiderate? Am I the Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 23, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 23, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gwJsSJ4nMovFkKMW67YV8BtSOed4oSus", "post_id": "b2rnre", "action": {"description": "ratting my friend/coworker out to management", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for ratting my friend/coworker out to management?", "text": "So, some context. \n\nI work at a Starbucks, and have been for about a year now. This other girl, let's call her M, has been working for about the same amount of time. She's a bit older than I am [I'm 20, M and she's 24] and we are super good friends. It's not uncommon for us to go for a beer after work, as we usually do night shifts together. \n\nThere's this other girl, let's call her J. J and M are about the same age, and J started working here around December. Now one thing about Starbucks (at least, where I come from) is that dating other baristas are not allowed, because it always leads to tension and drama. I've experienced this firsthand in my previous store, and it was a really awful experience. \n\nSo the tea is that M and J have been having sexual relations for the past month or so. M told me last night when she was quite drunk. The other problem is that M has a boyfriend and J has a girlfriend. I really didn't know what to say, because I think infidelity is a pretty awful thing to do when you're not in an open relationship and I didn't want to go through the whole ordeal that is workplace romance again.\n\nI personally decided to put an end to this. I didn't know what else to do.\n\nI talked to my assistant manager the next day. She went really quiet and told me she appreciated my confidence and that she would talk to our store manager to see if M or J can be transferred to another store, and that they can handle it in a private, respectful manner. \n\nAITA for meddling in a situation that wasn't my business and breaking my friend's trust like that?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "pv6y81Jt6UUFm0WIbpZu07AyIg78Fip1", "post_id": "al7oz1", "action": {"description": "refusing to get the haircut my mom wants me to get", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to get the haircut my mom wants me to get", "text": "I\u2019m a 15 year old guy and have a pretty good relationship with my mom. One thing that we have arguments about is my hair. I am a Lebanese-Arab, so I have pretty curly, dry, thick black hair, and also have a pretty big forehead. Whenever it comes time for me to get a haircut, my mom always wants me to get a short buzzcut, but I prefer my hair to be a little bit longer, maybe an inch in length. The thing is, whenever I tell her that she says that I look stupid and disgusting, even I think it looks perfectly fine, and a lot better on me than a short ass buzzcut. I even showed her a picture of my grade 10 picture just to prove it looked fine, but that made it worse. I tell her I\u2019m 15 years old and that it\u2019s my hair so I should be able to choose how I want it, but she starts screaming and insulting me, to the point where my dad will literally have to drag me out of my house just to go the the damn barber. And whenever I go to school after I get my haircut, I usually get made fun of for having such short hair and a high ass hairline, which is so high it looks like I\u2019m balding, and I have told her this but she just doesn\u2019t care and gets even more mad. I just feel like most kids my age wouldn\u2019t have to deal with this, and it is unfair for me. Nearly all the guys I know have long hair, while I have to fight to the death just to keep a fucking inch on my head. My mom isn\u2019t even talking to me because of this. I just want to live my life in peace, but I can\u2019t just because I want to keep an extra centimetre of hair. I am so frustrated. My mom wants to control every aspect of my life, from liking girls to where I go for university to even my own fucking hair. I\u2019m so fucking sick and done with this. This is so frustrating.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tKdhX2yX10hHPPjMoxGuddNFNI4QKt4v", "post_id": "9ulay6", "action": {"description": "blocking a girl on snapchat who has a crush on me", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for blocking a girl on snapchat who has a crush on me?", "text": "So I met this girl (who I think was a friend of a friend) at my high school prom about two years ago and we talked for about five minutes. I noticed that she was a bit overly happy and perhaps a little clingy, but I first figured that was just her personality so I did not pay any mind to it. So only a few minutes after meeting her, she wanted my snapchat information. I figured it wouldn't hurt anyone so I just gave it to her and we exchanged info. After the prom, she started sending me about 3-4 snapchats everyday. Some of them didn't even make sense, like just her drinking a starbucks or something. I did not know how to respond to these so I would just go like \"haha\" or something. I would also get random DMs from her saying like \"just broke up with my bf\" and like a crying emoji. Again, I don't really know how to respond to something like that. I had subtle thoughts that maybe she was into me or something but I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt and just thought that maybe she just had an eccentric but harmless personality, so I would just respond to everything she wrote to me with like a laughing face or a thanks. She then responded to a picture of my dad from when he was my age saying \"now I know where you get your good looks from. \" Again, I just responded laughing and saying thanks. She then started to calm down a little bit with sending me stuff but would still periodically do it.  She has been doing this for two years now until I pretty much put a stop to it last week.\n\n​\n\nFor halloween, I posted a picture of me dressed up as Buddy Holly. Not too long after, she DMed me saying \"OMG you are so cute pls be my bf.\" Hoping that she was joking, I just laughed and said that I was glad that she liked the costume. She then responded again saying to be her bf, and then I responded with the textual equivalent of a nervous laugh. She wrote back saying \"I am guessing you are not available then :(\" I just told her that I couldn't and then blocked her after.\n\n​\n\nI feel like an asshole for blocking her but the reason this situation made me so uncomfortable is because I barely even know who this girl is and the only time I ever actually met her in person was for that 5 minutes. Also, the constant notifications and snapchat photos were getting very annoying, and the messages were making me feel weird.\n\n​\n\nWould you guys have done the same thing or should I have approached the situation better?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "U0TQCjK0GSXYzDofy8gNQ3YjJjkpwcgd", "post_id": "b77b6b", "action": {"description": "having a hard time smiling", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for having a hard time smiling?", "text": "First post! Also, posting from mobile, so I'm sorry for not being able to give proper format, etc.\nI have always considered myself as someone who is slightly more aware of the grey spots in life, and I have trouble keeping a constant smile on my face, this has troubled my family in events and birthdays, as I keep \"ruining the picture/video with a poker face\", when I'm trying to smile... AITA for having a hard time smiling?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2RJGhQ12ZUP0zABPdnvmEZq5YmUoT5uB", "post_id": "ah8obj", "action": {"description": "falling asleep when my girlfriend wants to have sex", "pronormative_score": 37, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for falling asleep when my girlfriend wants to have sex?", "text": "I know you\u2019re probably thinking, \u201cwtf you don\u2019t fuck your girlfriend when the opportunity is right there?!\u201d. My girlfriend and I ~basically~ live together and sleep with eachother everynight except for probably one - three nights apart a month. With school, work, etc. i\u2019m exhausted by the time I get myself in bed\n\n Sidenote: I do fall asleep fairly early compared to her and most people (around 9pm/10pm) because shes a night owl typically. \n\nOur sex life is pretty fantastic except for the fact that during most nights when shes all ready to \u201cget busy\u201d in bed after a long day, i\u2019m falling asleep next to her or just don\u2019t have the energy to have sex right then and in that moment. We have sex during the day pretty often, at random, and a lot of quickies before work/class throughtout the week. \n\nRecently, she\u2019s been getting really upset and mad at me about the fact that I keep falling asleep when she wants to have sex. Then we start fighting while i\u2019m half asleep and she gets all worked up and upset about me falling asleep WHILE WERE FIGHTING that it causes even more issues.\n\nI keep trying to explain that its not her and she hasn\u2019t done anything wrong thats making me not want to have sex with her in bed at night and  that i\u2019m just exhausted after the day but she just keeps saying I don\u2019t give her what she needs and that I\u2019m \u201clike an old-man\u201d \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 34, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 37, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oGIQSPEU2kpy7gLaEfRNf9t3LVxOJVAc", "post_id": "a1xn4n", "action": {"description": "not going out with a certain group of people", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not going out with a certain group of people?", "text": "So it was my flatmates birthday today, so he had a bunch of people from his hometown come down and celebrate with. I went outside for a smoke with some guys and they were all talking about how many times they are cheating with their girlfriends and how hard it is to actually \"pull\" in uni, so at that point I didn't really want to stay outside with these people so I put my cigarette out and went back inside with the others. Once I get outside I join another conversation and they are all talking about how many times they have drunk drove and how many crashes and the fines they have all got from doing so. So I decided at that point I want nothing to do with these people and I have to say to the flatmate who's birthday it was that I was not going to join them at the club and they are all a little pissy with me for not joining them on his birthday. Now I am wondering if I am the bitch for not going out with them.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MyHqUFbBtWBesbXVnCaOFA8H53LuBm9V", "post_id": "auh4yn", "action": {"description": "asking girls on tinder for their weight", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked girls on tinder for their weight?", "text": "There are a lot of girls who i swipe left on because they dont give a body shot on their tinder. Im thinking about swiping right on cute girls even if they dont show their body and then just asking how much they weigh. Would that be an asshole thing to do? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "C6yWmkWxB5qDsrgobnTz9JP3NtVjORb3", "post_id": "a03eti", "action": {"description": "not inviting my in-laws for Christmas", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not inviting my in-laws for Christmas?", "text": "My wife and I agreed to split Thanksgiving and Christmas with both families every other year (her side is Thanksgiving this year so my side is Christmas, next year we swap). We came down the Wednesday before Thanksgiving and are staying with my in-laws until Sunday. While here, they mentioned they were going to come down and visit us over Christmas and wanted to stay the weekend and leave Christmas day. I told my wife privately that we agreed to split the holdiays, so, if they want to stay with us, they can arrive whenever, but they need to leave on Christmas eve so we can spend it with my family. Now she's upset.\n\nAm I the asshole for not being more hospitable, or am I just sticking to the established boundaries?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rqyVhe7IgKzXUAxhu1ikn50Bsg5v4HT5", "post_id": "b481ng", "action": null, "title": "AITA: my father and i haven't spoke in over a year and a half", "text": "Hi there, Apologies about wording and formatting as i dont do this often.\n\n​\n\nBackground: \n\nMy father and i have never had a close relationship as he and my mother broke up when i was a baby. But my mum has always push and been open for him to be in my life and let him see me as much as he wants. I have autism and am not the best at communication so whenever we did meet is was usually not alone and with my mum or was at his partners house. I never contacted him first as a teenager i always would wait to hear off of him and get him to arrange everything. i would like seeing him. he would usually contact and say hi on my birthday and then sometimes Christmas but hes missed quite a few. i sometimes messaged him on his birthday but i also missed quite a few. \n\n​\n\nLast year in January , my father went into a coma due to problems with alcohol and i diddnt get a call or anything until 2 days later as his wife diddnt think to contact me or even his own mum so we were all left out. \n\nWhen i saw him in the hospital he said he wanted to get his life back together and stop with the excessive alcohol and such , see me more etc. This was the last time i saw him. And then nothing after that.\n\nHe then contacted me in May , called me, he was very drunk and wanted to meet the day after and i agreed. We made a plan to go to the pub down the road and chat etc. But the next day there was no contact and he diddnt show up. ever since then i have messaged him every couple of months but he has never replied. \n\nSo many things have happened both good and bad in my life and i bet in his life as well that id love to talk about. \n\nIm also seriously scared that one day he could just die and i would never even know. \n\n​\n\nI just want to know if IATA because i diddnt push for communication and i never initated communication on his birthday and such. And would love some advice on the situation. \n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Ot5JayGzsXiAEWkp1lJSzgJ8QDjwN11H", "post_id": "b2ge58", "action": {"description": "being jealous of my 'friend' who gets all the girls", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for being jealous of my 'friend' who gets all the girls?", "text": "I say 'friend' because he's not REALLY my friend, he's just in my social circle. He's my flatmate at university.\n\nSo I (20M) go to university with him (20M), I'll just call him Matt. Matt is in my social circle and he gets all the girls. He's a good looking guy, he's got muscles, curly hair and blue eyes so obviously he's gonna draw attention wherever he goes lol.\n\nBut he's a bit of a ''docuhebro'' and a little bit loud so I don't understand why he ALWAYS gets girls. They always giggle when they talk to him and talk about how hot he is and he's slept with pretty much every girl in my social circle (which is quite a lot).\n\nNow I'm not saying I'm owed sex either, I'm NOT (and as a feminist myself, I'm well aware of the ''nice guys'' phenomenon) but this guy is a typical douchebro and some of the girls in my cirle are ardent Feminists, so why would they sleep with him? He represents everything feminists stand against. \n\nHe's pretty much a sexist guy, he makes jokes to the girls that they should make him a sandwich after he sleeps with them. The latest example is below:\n\nMe and my other flatmates (3 girls, all aged 19) were in the flat watching a movie at around 2am and he comes back from a night out (he went out without us). So he comes into the living room area **drunk** WITH A GIRL he's picked up from a nightclub (also drunk), and she was pretty good looking to be fair. We KNOW they're obviously going to have sex, but he makes a point of saying to us, and showing off ''Guys, I'm going to go and fuck this girl, and then she'll make me breakfast in the morning''. He then takes her to his room and has loud sex.\n\nWTF!!!! Nobody else can get away with doing shit like except this guy. Not only did he do that, but the girl was giggling when he was saying that shit.\n\nI thought my flatmates would be angry at the sexist shit he said but they were giggling and saying he's so hot and I got VERY angry, I haven't said anything to Matt but I feel a lot of anger towards him, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "hnWb4mAPF7CqBJjqQmcGzeNWqNYKN4AC", "post_id": "a9jgkd", "action": {"description": "not buying a homeless man food", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not buying a homeless man food", "text": "This happened to me like two weeks ago, I am a college student and in my college town there are numerous homeless people just off campus. Most of the time they ask for money and I don\u2019t feel bad about saying no because idk what they using that money for. But on one specific instance I went to Publix to buy a few things and while I was walking back a homeless dude approached me and asked me if I could  go back and buy him and his daughter a sandwich. The daughter wasn\u2019t there so it made me doubt his story a little bit, but I mean if he just wanted an extra sandwich for himself for later I guess I couldn\u2019t  have blamed him. But anyway I said I didn\u2019t have any money (which wasn\u2019t completely a lie but I mean I could\u2019ve bought a sandwich) and he looked heartbroken so I walked away quickly to avoid guilt. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "psdt7faPIHtfqvcSD1HcMD3AJrGws4E7", "post_id": "ax1vn4", "action": {"description": "not taking my friend to prom", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I didn't take my friend to prom?", "text": "I very conflicted on this.\nSo my ex girlfriend and I left on good terms, still hanging out as friends. \nShe graduated early from highschool so never got the chance to go. \nThe other night we were chatting and I mentioned that I was going and she immediately asked if she could. \nNot wanting to immediately say no I said \n\"I can see that could be fun!\" (Mistake on my part)\nAfter a little a while I tried explaining to her that  I had already had plans with a group of friends and that it would be awkward  since she doesn't know anyone there and I would have yo be with her the whole time. \n\"As long as I have you.\" Then she kissed me (OOF)\n\nI dont want to leave my friends and have to be with her all night since, well shes my ex. However I feel awful for getting her hopes up in the first place and dont want her to miss out on this experience.\n\nTL;DR \nEx wants to get back together and go to prom at my school. I already have plans but got her hopes up. What do I do?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TqdkqDGsPcBPqQiLkkcIQhX2SUkWBvDo", "post_id": "b9ct5x", "action": {"description": "being annoyed at my chess friend's habits", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For being annoyed at my chess friend\u2019s habits", "text": "I am a casual chess player in the habit of playing with one particular person. At one point, we had a running joke where if one of us were losing, we would play an obvious blunder with a smyslov screw. This is where you move a piece and you slam it on the board with a screwing motion to finish. This continued until the joke got old he never really stopped using the smyslov screw. This really ticks me off because it feels like beating a dead horse to me. When I confronted him about it, he told me that I was using it as well but i didn\u2019t really feel like that was the case. He clarified that what he meant was that sometimes when I carried out some crushing attacks, I would sometimes slam the pieces onto their spots. I don\u2019t really feel like that\u2019s a smyslov screw but he said that even if it wasn\u2019t, the game isn\u2019t being disturbed by him doing the smyslov screw and that I was not being reasonable. So, AITA for not wanting him to do the smyslov screw?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "QY0sZodXPq0hFwLput6pqRGA8ES0E3lp", "post_id": "awp0ic", "action": {"description": "pretending to not speak English when people try and panhandle money from me", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for pretending to not speak English when people try and panhandle money from me?", "text": "I usually say some sort of broken English saying I don't understand and keep a blank look on my face until they go away.  I just find that more and more people are approaching me almost every time I pump gas, walk through parking lots, or even stop at red lights.  Might not be the nicest way to say no, but I don't want to really engage them in the first place.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AECRixAtJAbJREvOtg76SWD28d9xGjd3", "post_id": "ak89yz", "action": {"description": "thinking my so is behaving like an asshole", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for thinking my SO is behaving like an asshole?", "text": "Hi there,\n\nI've been sick since a week, that's why I want to know if my feelings are valid or if I'm just extremely tired and desperate.\nSome background: I (F21) and SO (M24) have been together for 4 years and have been living together since almost a year.\n\nAs I said, I've been sick since Monday - nothing too bad, a little fever and a throat infection. It got better and I genuinely thought that I would be feeling great again tomorrow. That's why I didn't go to the doctor yet. This evening, I start to feel worse again, my throat hurts really bad and I'm coughing nonstop. I tried to go to bed early, but couldn't fall asleep because I've been waking myself up with coughing. He was out with friends and when he returned at about 1.30am I was pretty miserable, because I just wanted to sleep but couldn't. He seems to be understanding and said good night. Now, remember the coughing? It just didn't stop, resulting in none of us sleeping and me being in pain. It goes on for about one hour, with him getting more and more annoyed. He then gets some earplugs. Unfortunately the coughing still won't stop and I start to get kind of desperate. Half-crying I turn to him, hoping he could do something or at least just be there for me. Instead he raises his voice saying \"please stop, I just want to sleep.\" \"what can I even do\" and \"I have an important day tomorrow.\" (studying for an exam) and in the end \"just go to a doctor if it doesn't get better\". This makes me cry because now I feel it's my fault and then I walked out and go to the living room. Now I'm feeling even worse, still awake as ever, kind of cold because I only have a thin blanket now.\nAfter calming myself down I took some painkillers and now feel a little bit better. \n\nNow, am I right to think it's really selfish to react like this? I mean I get the frustration when you can't sleep (duh, because I'm having the same struggle) but is it too much to think he could act a little bit more empathetic? I have to say, his personality is rather selfish in situations when he doesn't feel well and I have thought similar thoughts in other situations.\nReddit, AITA when I'll tell him tomorrow that his behavior really hurt me? I feel he would find some kind of excuse to not validate my feelings and that's why I want to make sure you would act the same way. Thanks! ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "afUJWWuQHO5d4mB3eVNtB2u1CkhnhCgx", "post_id": "au0ufx", "action": {"description": "reporting my coworker", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for reporting my coworker??", "text": "So, I\u2019m new here so please bare with. First time posting anywhere! \n\n\nI work for a big company and it\u2019s a pretty chilled out office environment. We have big open spaces, loads of areas to play games etc but we all kinda sit near each other. So it\u2019s a relaxed environment and we\u2019re all pretty close. The other day my coworker got the shit end of the stick and had to deal with a couple of annoying calls. One was a customer of mine calling to clarify something with me (he was annoyed he had to deal with it and they came through to his phone. It happens sometimes, we all have to transfer calls. So not normally an issue) So after finishing the call, I go back over to my other friends desk who sits next to this guy. He started being really passive aggressive, I asked him to stop and then he threatened to hit me. \n\nSo I went and reported him to my boss. Since then a few people he\u2019s close with have all been ignoring me. My boss was pushing for me to go to HR but I decided not to, as I know he wouldn\u2019t actually hit me. But it\u2019s beyond unprofessional to threaten someone at work. \n\nSo AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Vx1RWOOZy5w4haKMPTF5AG6148FRaiIj", "post_id": "aneyb5", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be the maid of honor at my best friends wedding because she's pregnant and marrying my ex? of course story is lot more complicated than title", "pronormative_score": 263, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to be the maid of honor at my best friends wedding because she\u2019s pregnant and marrying my ex? Of course story is lot more complicated than title...", "text": "So two major parts of my life converged recently and I\u2019m just devastated and question pretty much all my actions, hence why I\u2019m posting here because I may be acting awful to two people I love dearly.\n\nSo part one is Tammy. My best friend since elementary school. She is literally my sister. We have done pretty much everything together, same college, same dorm, roommates, confidants, sloppy drunk mates, you name it. I love her so much.\n\nPart two is Gregory. My college boyfriend. I love him as well but we just could never make things work. Had one of those hot mess relationships which are a combination of torture and bliss. We have dated off and on since freshman orientation (all of us are 27 now) but usually end up in flames. I always loved him so much that I hoped we\u2019d mature and be able to make things work. He move to a different city after college but we\u2019d stay in touch, send flirty texts and even went on vacation twice. We got along great as long as we both had our own places to retreat to if that makes sense. All along we both had dating lives and to be fair I never told him about my long term idea that we\u2019d be together. \n\nA year ago Tammy moved to a city about 30 minutes away from Gregory. She was having a really hard time meeting people so I told her since she knew Gregory so well, she should call him and see if he can introduce her to his group of friends. She did and I knew she was much happier. About 3 months after that the flirty texts from Gregory just stopped out of the blue which isn\u2019t that big of a deal because it\u2019s happebed before but looking back I should have known what was coming. \n\nTammy just came home for the weekend and said she was making a special trip just to see me. Of course I was super excited to see her. She came over and she just seemed a little off. First she told me she was pregnant, after we got past the shock and established she was happy and keeping the baby I was elated to be an aunt. Then she said there\u2019s more and this is really hard. I about died when she said the baby is Gregory\u2019s. She apologized and said she was so sorry, they had just hit it off and they didn\u2019t mean to do anything to hurt me and they even tried breaking up for my sake but they just realized there was too much of an attraction and they started dating. She hadn\u2019t planned on getting pregnant but now that she is, they are getting married.  She said she hoped this didn\u2019t hurt me and she always dreamed about me being her maid of honor and there\u2019s no one else she\u2019s ever ask. \n\nI tried to keep my cool but I just lost it. I wasn\u2019t mad at her, just really really sad. I told her that I loved her but I just couldn\u2019t be around her right now and no way I could even go to thier wedding let alone be in the wedding party. She said she was sorry about a million times as she was leaving and she texted me quite a bit wanting to see me before she left town on Sunday. I just couldn\u2019t do it. I literally cried all weekend. \n\nHere\u2019s the thing...if I were necer in the picture...they make a perfect couple. Perfect. Tammy\u2019s brand of \u201cfirey\u201d is a Much better match to Gregory\u2019s calm nature than mine. They are both gorgeous and smart and great with kids. If two people should be hooking up to be great partners and parents, it\u2019s those two. I just can\u2019t help being hurt. \n\nAm I the asshole for not wanting to be her maid of honor?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 191, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 72, "INFO": 7}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 263, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NXfeKoaITf7erHyT9jYGXMZb6r5nLaW2", "post_id": "b6loh6", "action": {"description": "waking up a bunch of sleeping college students", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for waking up a bunch of sleeping college students?", "text": "There\u2019s a little more to the title than that otherwise I\u2019d obviously be an asshole. Also, this is more of a \u201cwould I be an asshole if ....\u201d etc. \n\nI go to a STEM school, so needless to say, there\u2019s no focus on music. I am a pianist, and enjoy practicing any time I can. I do have an electric piano in my apartment, but the only acoustic piano I have access to is the schools piano located in the chapel. I like to go there to practice in my hour long blocks between classes. \n\nThe chapel is also very dark with the lights off, and hosts a number of large bean bag chairs. Perfect for the sleep deprived engineering student (I am also an engineering student, so I understand the sleep deprivation). \n\nEvery now and then when I go to practice, there\u2019s one or two people out cold. I just walked in and there were three people (it\u2019s 1pm in my area). Once I walked in to people sleeping at 5pm. I really want to wake them up and yell at them to get out because this is extremely frustrating. \n\nSo, AITA for (possibly next time) waking up sleeping college students to practice piano? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wZpcs2yHtgwORLc3nmH6xF2wZcoXlwof", "post_id": "ax7zx4", "action": {"description": "not going to my Cousin's wedding", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Not Going to My Cousin's Wedding", "text": "I got married a few years ago and this cousin (along with the rest of his family and girlfriend) came out to my wedding. However, his dad footed the bill and they made a vacation out of it. \n\nBACKGROUND: Due to us growing up on opposite sides of the country I was never really as close to him and his siblings as I am to my cousins that are nearby. I also don't get along very well with them due to philosophical differences but I love them because they are family and put up with it. I have on several occasions tried to reach out to them but never hear back.\n\nMy wife and I had our first child about 8 months before their wedding. When we talked about going out we determined it just wasn't possible due to the financial strain and long distance travel with a newborn. It was suggested that I go out alone but I wasn't keen as I wanted to be with my son. Financially I could have swung it but it was just before the Holidays and would throw a wrench in things. \n\nAm I an asshole for deciding to skip the wedding in favor of saving money and being with my family?\n\nNOTE: I did attend all of my local cousin's weddings but that was because I was not married or financially tied down at that point.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jire3UmgqAI0ofo1z640sznxzfIIy2Y7", "post_id": "abduz9", "action": {"description": "trying to cut my crush out of my life", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for trying to cut my crush out of my life?", "text": "So I met this girl at work about 6 months ago, and we immediately clicked. After 2 or 3 weeks of geting to know her, I asked her out. Only, I made the mistake of asking her to \"hang out\" instead of explicitly asking her on a date. She said yes, but the next day I found out that she did have a BF. I thought \"that's fine, she's a cool person and I like having friends.\" We didn't hang out, though, and I never persued hanging out with her outside of work again. I did feel like I had caught a bit of the feely feels, but I figured I'd get over it and things would be kosher. I know a lot of women who I value as friends.\n\n​\n\nBut we did talk a lot. Our positions at work caused us to spend a lot of time together talking alone. The more I got to know her, the more and more it became obvious that we had some pretty bonkers stuff in common. Tons of stuff in common. I started to feel like I had never met anyone like her before. I fell for her pretty hard, and I was in way over my head emotionally before I realized it.\n\n​\n\nEventually, she left that job, but we kept in touch over FB messenger pretty often. My feelings grew to the point where I just couldn't get her out of my head. I became very, very depressed and started seeing a therapist for the first time in a long time. It highlighted the fact that I depend too much on others for happiness. I felt like I had to disconnect from her, and that there was no way for us to be friends without it being a toxic, one-sided thing. I didn't want to feel like I was leading her on in a friendship way for too long, and I felt like it would be best for both of us if we weren't friends while I tried to work on my co-dependency issues and my obsession with her.\n\n​\n\nSince she was already involved with someone and she seemed happy with what she was doing on that end, I didn't want to tell her about my feelings. So I unfollowed her on Facebook and became less responsive on messenger, and I eventually quit responding, hoping she would get the hint. I felt like she was owed an explination, but I didn't think I should tell her about my feelings.\n\n​\n\nBut one day, she texted me, agressively asking for an explination. I told her that I had very strong feelings for her, and that it was probably best for both of us if we weren't friends. She was very hostile, accusing me of not seeing any value in her if I couldn't put my dick in her. Then she blocked me on all social media platforms that we followed each other on.\n\n​\n\nThis was a month ago, and I am crushed. I've never met anyone that made me feel the way she did, and I'm not that young anymore. I really had no idea what to do that wouldn't end with one of us getting hurt.\n\n​\n\nI know that my fixation on her indicates that I have some serious soul searching to do to improve myself as a person, but I feel like I tried the best I could to what was best for me while also doing what was best for her.\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "o9FqO6VeTsLYHLiQ5rWclHygp0Odv2qU", "post_id": "apu8wn", "action": {"description": "cutting off Ties to a friend after her Attitude", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Cutting Off Ties To A Friend After Her Attitude", "text": "Hello, all! First time posting to this sub, so I hope everything is in order as far as the rules go. I'm sharing this story to find out who is *truly* the asshole in this situation. I know this may seem kind of petty, but it has been bothering me for a little while now. This post will be a bit long, but I will include a TL;DR at the end.\n\nA little backstory: In the Fall term of 2016, I enrolled in a local University along with 2 of my friends. I keep to myself most of the time, going with the flow, and only speak up around friends or when I truly feel like I have something to add to the conversation among strangers, so finding a friend that first semester was kind of difficult. One of my friends introduced me to the asshole in question (AIQ from now on) about 2 months into the term. Everything seemed nice enough in the beginning, and we became friends in the spring semester after taking a foreign language class together. Jump to the fall term (2017), when my teacher announced an upcoming study abroad opportunity in the summer (2018). We were both excited to go, as this could be our only chance of going to a different country (AIQ is a STEM major so she was worried about spending a full term away and how her classes would be, and my mom would not allow me to spend a year away from home since it was my first time going out of the state). Both of us saved up to pay the program fee (faculty-led), deposits, and multi-city plane ticket (we studied abroad in 2 countries that summer). All the while during our free time in class, we talked about how much we couldn't wait to go, what we hoped the cities to be like, where we would go during our free time, etc. Now on to the events that transpired and what led me to cut ties with AIQ.\n\nIn the first country, everyone got along (along with the AIQ and I, there were 11 other people - again it was a faculty-led program, meaning that the foreign language instructors from the university went with us so there wasn't a bunch of people they had to look after). However, when we arrived in the second country, everything kind of turned to shit between the AIQ and I. It began with the AIQ getting snappy and rude with me whenever I asked a general question, even when I wasn't talking to them in particular. If I suggested we do something, she'd say \" we already did that yesterday without you\" or \"we're tired of doing that\". We had to share a room together in the second country, and she held on to the key because she could attach it to her wallet and we thought it'd be easier than trying to look through my small bag in case it sunk down to the bottom. Twice, she came back very late (at around 11:15, which was later than the teacher wanted us to be out), so I waited in the shared space of two other group members until she came back (which was around a 30 minute wait). The first time, she was very apologetic, saying that the train was late (very unusual considering that the trains in this country run every 5 minutes or so), but I accepted her apology. The second time (only two days later), she just huffed past me, unlocked the door, set her bags down (she had went shopping again), and didn't say a word to me until the next morning. As each day passed, communication between us became very limited. Me, not talking to her because I really didn't want to deal with her attitude, and her, for whatever reason she had made up. She only had this attitude with me and she treated the other group members with friendliness and were open to what they wanted to do (although she claimed she disliked two of the other group members, she didn't have an attitude with them).  \n\nShe kept that attitude towards me until we departed for home. The remainder of that summer, I didn't speak to her at all- not even a text. When I saw her again this semester (we take the same foreign language class now), she acted like nothing was wrong and even hugged me- something that she'd never done. We talked about how our lives were so busy now that we've begun our upper level course work. After that first day of class, I didn't talk to her very much because now I know what she is truly like. Friendly at first, but very rude and condescending once you've spent time with her.\n\nTL;DR: AITA for not talking to a friend after she was mean to me when we studied abroad?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "D6glJ7ik2w46BDYEWGLxHRLcMWZxNjZm", "post_id": "apbyzc", "action": null, "title": "AITA Work manager requesting kitchen to be spotless at 12AM kitchen check due to audit", "text": "I was closing the kitchen with one other co worker and we were not informed that there would be an audit the next day (audit = bonus) until our closing manager - who works on the bar of the pub - started the kitchen check at 12AM, at which point we were informed of said audit, and she requested the kitchen spotless\n\nSo i was upset that she was requesting that we pull out every single peice of equipment at 12AM, she was also requesting for tasks that are done once a week on specific days to all be done (clean the wheels, pull out potwash, clean cables etc), she even called in another coworker to come in and help clean (he had already worked for 9 hours that same day)\n\nThe previous day this manager allowed us to clock out without even checking the kitchen, she just told us to check it ourselves (2 associates). This check should be done every night by the closing manager, (this manager is fairly new and this never happened before)\n\nBy 2AM i had had enough, it was when she said \"basically all equipment needs to be pulled out\"... i was annoyed at this sudden expectation which dismissed the fact that we didnt know about this audit, and was simply an expectation for her own benefit, she explained that it isn't her fault that we didnt know about the audit, and the these things should be getting done regardless, and that if it isnt a good audit its her who gets in trouble. \n\nThe manager ended up saying \"just go home then\", this was more directed to me as the other 2 kitchen guys weren't saying anything, and so i left alone, shortly followed by the other 2 about 10 minutes later.\n\nI know this sounds very biased, and thats why im asking, i was upset at her thinking i would be quite and go along with her \"this is my high expectation, regardless\" notion, which simply isn't the case, the worst part is, as i was leaving the kitchen to clock out i was walking just behind this manager past the bar, on the way to clocking out we passed some bar staff, and im unsure if she knew i was behind her but she said to one of the bar staff \"were not getting a bonus because they cant be bothered to clean the kitchen\" i said something along the lines of \"yes its our fault for not being informed of this audit\", and then she asked for me to come to the office in private and said some of the following \"i will not have you talking to me like that in front of staff\" \"do you know who youre talking to? im your manager\"", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "tfT5pSWcpv3vVXpUeKLX4wF9ZgBykqyd", "post_id": "b7nx88", "action": {"description": "thinking my MIL wants more from her son than she should", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for thinking my MIL wants more from her son than she should?", "text": "Am i the asshole here..so my husband is from Cuba..and I am from America. Obviously a lot of cultural differences between us. But sometimes when it comes to his mom, I get a little upset.  My question is pertaining to something that happened yesterday ( and many more stories like this) while leaving our 2 year old son with her, I had him pick a flower and take it to her. She saw this all happen, and when my son handed her the flower her response was to yell at my husband saying how he should learn from our son and give her flowers all the time. (Of course, special days deserve flowers even though they don't celebrate mother's day) but to just automatically go straight to telling her son it's his job to get her flowers frustrated me.. (isn't his job to get his wife flowers randomly?)  We've had similar situations to this. I.e. when I made a post about him being my king (mi Rey in Spanish) and she commented on it, saying he was HER king. One night my husband and I were talking and she came and interrupted completely and my husband told her to wait until we were done talking, and she flat out said that he needs to stop his conversation with me and talk with her, and that he SHOULD LOVE HER MORE. no, he shouldn't love either of us more, it's simply a different kind of love. Sometimes I simply don't know if I am being immature or just don't understand the culture, but I feel she doesn't respect me or my role at all, and expects her son to be more like a husband..than a son to her. :(", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nBPZzkgwXPMLvY3dJXsblADgwvuLpeYG", "post_id": "ackrhk", "action": null, "title": "WIBTA - Should I talk to my new-ish friend about how his chewing makes me really uncomfortable?", "text": "Just found this sub today, and I'd be grateful for a crowd-sourced opinion.\n\nA few months ago one of my best friends got a new roommate, and the roommate and I have been becoming pretty good friends.\u00a0 He and I are pretty candid with one another, talk about various life stuff, and joke around a lot.\u00a0 He's also the only person I know that will call instead of texting, and he and I have had a few good phone convos in the past few months (I know! In 2018-2019!).\n\nAnyways, things have been going pretty well, and I'm happy to have made a new friend.\u00a0 The only problem is, I can not STAND hearing him eat.\u00a0 I'm very sensitive to \"mouth-noises,\" and the sound of someone opening their mouth while chewing is one of the most uncomfortable sounds I've ever experienced; it's like nails on a chalkboard times 10 for me.\u00a0 It's not something I can think away either, it's an uncontrollable physical response to hearing someone open their mouth while chewing.\n\nNow I realize that this is MY problem, and I don't want to tell anyone how they should eat.\u00a0 And I've also avoided the situation a few times by just not eating with him.\u00a0 Except there have been many times when I'm hanging out with my other friend (his roommate), and he'll sit next to me on the couch and eat his dinner, and I'll be crawling out of my skin with how uncomfortable I am.\u00a0 I even lean as far away as I can and nonchalantly cover my closest ear, and it's still not enough. He is honestly the loudest chewer I've ever met in my life.\n\nSo here's the question: WIBTA if I talked to him about it?\u00a0 He has OCD and I have OCPD tendencies, and he and I have talked about our \"things,\" so I feel like bringing it up in that context might work? I realize that this is *my* issue, and I plan on framing it as such.\u00a0 I just don't know what else to do; I can't just up and leave the room every time he's around me with food.\n\nThanks for any input, Reddit!\n\n​", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DGAuPbgmXm7cJz6gWIG9QuV9ERQbWpsc", "post_id": "a5q493", "action": {"description": "not letting my non photographer friend borrow my camera gear for her class event", "pronormative_score": 38, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for not letting my non photographer friend borrow my camera gear for her class event?", "text": "I wouldn\u2019t call myself a professional photographer by any means, but I bought my camera a few years ago and it\u2019s been a hobby of mine; I do get paid sometimes for doing simple stuff like couple shoots, senior pics, etc . I\u2019m very protective of my stuff, especially expensive stuff. \n\nBut several months ago my friend told me her boss wanted a photographer for an event they were having at their school for the kids. She told me that she suggested me to her boss and her boss said okay. Since this is not my career, I wasn\u2019t going to charge a hefty price. I asked how does 200 sound for the 2 to 3 hours i was going to be there? They said that\u2019s fine. \n\nAnyways the day of the event came, I got my gear and drove there, spent a good minute trying to find my friend. When I finally found her she said she\u2019ll look for her boss to tell her I arrived. I Sat in a room for about 30 minutes waiting for her. \nWhen she came back, she said her boss told her they didn\u2019t have enough money in their budget to pay me the 200. I wasn\u2019t pissed, but I was irritated that I had taken the time to get my stuff and drive all the way there when they could\u2019ve told me ahead of time. I said  okay tell your boss that I\u2019ll have to charge a $100 cancellation fee for making me come all the way there and not telling me that I wasn\u2019t gonna work. Her boss agreed to it. Told me to leave my name, address and info to mail me a check. To this day I still didn\u2019t get the check. I decided to let it go. \n\nFast forward to today when the same friend texts me and says \u201chey lol I don\u2019t want to make any promises to you about getting paid so can I just borrow your camera for my class on Friday?\u201d \n\nI really don\u2019t want to let her borrow it but I\u2019m the type of person who always feels guilty if I say no. Would I be the asshole if I flat out say no? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 38, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 38, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "O7dm1PA7JMWslvTaeIvNyyoaBRbB9URu", "post_id": "ag38dz", "action": {"description": "calling my girlfriend a \"disgusting person\" over her sex fantasy", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 37}, "title": "AITA for calling my girlfriend a \u201cdisgusting person\u201d over her sex fantasy?", "text": "We have been going strong for a couple of years. However she brought up the idea of bringing in bondage saying that she would love to tie me up and gave me be her sex slave. I said that she was a \u201cdisgusting\u201d individual with a sick mind and stormed out. She left a message on my phone crying saying she was sorry if she had upset me. I haven\u2019t got back to her yet but I feel bad. How can I make it up to her? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 37, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 37}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "SyMue2HFUUNJagF82od3m01D2JSdFMXZ", "post_id": "9tlbw4", "action": {"description": "leaving an average review", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for leaving an average review?", "text": "I recently got my car serviced at the dealership and received an email to leave a review. I gave 4/5 stars. My reasoning for the 4 stars was that the diagnosis was accurate and the service was good. However, I took off one star because in the time I was waiting, I had to use the restroom urgently, but couldn't find a mens room. There was only a womans restroom and an occupied all-gender restroom, so I ended up waiting ~20 min for someone to come out of the all-gender restroom. In the review I also left a comment where I suggested they make both restrooms all-gender rather than eliminating the men's room. I later received a condescending email from the GM of the dealership apologizing for me \"being offended by change\" and that he grew up in an era where men were courteous to women and that was his thought process when implementing the law required all-gender restroom. He also sent me a link to edit my review and basically told me that I could change the review if I wanted to, so I went back and changed it from 4/5 to 3/5 and also added that the GM was condescending. Was I an asshole to do that?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4hFfmTeb7ADjfpnbgRAs8pvWPd0blNq0", "post_id": "ano73x", "action": {"description": "wanting to charge my friend for art", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting to charge my friend for art?", "text": "So my friend who I\u2019ve known for like a month messaged me asking for me to draw him a profile picture, normally Id charge someone for it, and he\u2019s trying to make me do it for free for a friend discount, it\u2019s making me somewhat mad, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Jh8KIS2711TFDjv0ENjbvuazbhLX1O14", "post_id": "b5t4o9", "action": {"description": "no longer inviting my bf to events", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 28}, "title": "AITA for no longer inviting my BF to events?", "text": "Background: I'm part of a decently-sized friend group made up of an about equal number of girls and guys (including myself 5F 4M). I recently (a month and a half ago) started dating this guy and he's been a great bf. He's friends with the guys in our group so two weeks after I started dating him I invited him to come along to an event. My friends all seemed to enjoy having him there so whenever we go do something together, I invite him. Over the past week and a half I've noticed my friends are flirting a LOT with him and he's is apparently enjoying it and doing nothing to stop them. Yesterday we went to a restaurant and the flirting would just not stop and he barely talked to me. After we ate I asked him if we could speak privately. We went outside and I told him I didn't like the way he was encouraging the flirting and told him I didn't want him to come to any more events for the time being. He told me that it wasn't him doing the majority of the flirting and that he was very sorry for barely talking to me but that it was unfair for him to be held to a double standard because the guys in my friend group flirt with me a lot too. I told him that we've been friends for years and that it's not the same as him flirting with people he recently met. After this I told my friends that I didn't like how much he'd been flirting with them so he wouldn't be coming to anymore events and all of them (including the guys) started telling me that I'm an asshole. \n\nSo, AITA for no longer inviting my BF to events?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 16, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 12, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 28}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "U3BxQWh6iYGkf7kfVJXgTTH7DAmNLVkv", "post_id": "9ze5iw", "action": {"description": "being upset that my dad won't put me on his car insurance", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being upset that my dad won\u2019t put me on his car insurance?", "text": "A little bit of background - my parents bought our current car the year I turned 16 with the intention of giving it to me when I learned to drive. 9 years on, I\u2019m finally actually taking lessons, financial situation has changed and they can no longer afford to replace the car, so it will not become mine. I knew this going in. \n\nI\u2019m taking lessons now because my job requires a driving licence. My boss liked me enough to bend the rules a little and hire me on a learner\u2019s licence, with the agreement that I started taking lessons. \nI\u2019ve also been informed that this isn\u2019t the same everywhere, so to add: in the UK, a learner driver can drive a car if they are insured on it under the supervision of an adult over 21 who has held a full driving licence for over 3 years. \n\nNow to the point. \n\nTwo lessons in, my instructor deems me ready to go out on the roads, so I talk to my parents about getting insured on our car so I can practise in it. I of course offer to pay whatever extra it adds on to the price they pay now. \n\nDad refuses to even consider it. He\u2019s dismissed it out of hand as \u201ctoo expensive\u201d without even finding out how much it would be and completely ignoring all my offers to pay for it... so I\u2019m now in the position where I\u2019m going to have to pay hundreds of pounds more than necessary and take months longer than I needed to to get my licence because the only time I\u2019m going to be able to get behind the wheel is when I\u2019m paying for an instructor\u2019s time, which would be maybe two hours a week if I\u2019m lucky enough for my instructor to always have a free slot every week on a time and day I can do. \n\nI can\u2019t afford to buy a car at the moment. I can\u2019t lease one until I have my full licence. To Mum and I, it was never even a question that I\u2019d be able to use our car when I started learning. Everyone else I know was able to learn in their parents\u2019 car if there was one and they lived at home. I also don\u2019t know if this dragging things out could potentially cause issues with my job, since other people are currently having to cover the driving responsibilities that should be mine. \n\nAm I the asshole for feeling like I was entitled to use the car in the first place, or is it fair for me to be upset in this situation, when it was always implied before that I would be able to use it when this happened?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vgc88Ifx34HzMO9So0JLWiJjpPvshOf0", "post_id": "apb5oy", "action": {"description": "giving an ultimatum over vaccines to my fianc\u00e9e", "pronormative_score": 138, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for giving an ultimatum over vaccines to my fianc\u00e9e", "text": "So as some background, I knew my fianc\u00e9e was unvaccinated before proposing. Prior to that we discussed alternative schedules and maybe following one from a different country (both of us are US residents) so she could have solace in not, as she puts, \u201coverloading the baby\u2019s little body\u201d. We came to an agreement that the kids would get vaccinated and follow some sort of schedule. \n\nNow after being engaged for a month she brings it up again how she\u2019s so against it and hates the idea of any vaccines. She\u2019s so opposed to the Hep B vaccine at birth because she can\u2019t concede any thought of how a baby would contract it unless she\u2019s somehow positive for it. (She\u2019s never set food in a medical facility period, no lab records, no health records, etc). Admittedly I\u2019m a little stretched to see how an infant could contract it also, but I\u2019m on board with vaccine schedules, so it doesn\u2019t bother me. \n\nUltimately I came to the idea that my maximum I could ever allow is let the baby go one month before beginning some sort of alternative schedule. I\u2019m a health care worker myself, and while so unlikely that I could ever carry something home, I do not want that risk. Let alone other adults or children being around to get any child sick. \n\nShe\u2019s up in arms about this now saying how I\u2019m being manipulative and abusive because I\u2019m giving her ultimatums over this. The first night we decided to enter our relationship I told her i will never change and that my children are going to be vaccinated. She said she understood and would be willing to work towards it. Suddenly she\u2019s not. \n\nI don\u2019t want things to end. But even after looking up and discussing the articles from WHO and the CDC, finding items that show it\u2019s literally more likely to contract one of the various diseases rather than have a complication from a vaccine, she\u2019s even more adamant than ever for being against them. In the past she\u2019s said how it\u2019s all a big ploy from big pharma to get our money (I\u2019ve checked my insurance and the cost would be insanely negligible, I\u2019m pretty sure the first round are nearly free with my insurance) and that vaccines don\u2019t actually work. I show her data relating to Japan and whooping cough and data now with the recent outbreak of measles. She\u2019s not buying it.  \n\nSo I told her. I gave her the maximum of what I\u2019m comfortable with. I can\u2019t go further than that. And now she\u2019s upset that I\u2019m willing to walk away over this fight. So I beg the question to you reddit. AITA? \n\nTLDR; fianc\u00e9e thinks vaccines are a hoax and don\u2019t work. I offered a slightly deferred and alternative schedule as the maximum and she could take it or leave it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 138, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 138, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gIcLHXe8qjkGkcSvAYWamOn2L2yV9z2w", "post_id": "b53zyr", "action": {"description": "not helping in the kitchen tonight", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA- Not helping in the kitchen tonight", "text": "He asked me to make a side for dinner. \nI said no. \nHe can handle it. \nI cook and plate dinner almost every night. If I do not cook, I am still plating it. \nIll ask him to get up with me some nights for some company or help. I always get a tantrum. He will come in the following night asking if he could help. Its pretty routine at this point. A few weeks ago-same routine- which for mewas the last straw. I signed heavily gave an attitude but moved along in my night. \nFast forward to tonight- \nIve quietly said no and moving along.\nNow I'm just waiting for dinner to be done so he can \"guilt trip\" me into fixing plates. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "G1vtqMFTcQAq3EggYnmAJmANrJPms2Sg", "post_id": "a22r9w", "action": {"description": "not visiting my dying father", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not visiting my dying father?", "text": "I cut ties with my parents back in 2015 because I met my boyfriend, who I am still with, and realized how horrible enabled I was. My parents are life long cigarette smokers and drinkers. My dad especially. They allowed my to become an addicted smoker from age 16. I missed out on many opportunities because of it. \n\nI always had a special connection with my dad. He taught me about music and history and how to think level headedly. He was always so forgiving and caring and loved unconditionally but he was a complete alcoholic and coward when it came to my mom. \n\nMy mother, is a complete narcissist and wack job. Life was awesome until she quit taking her xanax in 2013 and told NONE OF US. So we we're just left to deal with her mental abuse. She would \"ground\" me, well after age 18, so she could keep control over me. She attempted to make me quit several jobs. I had to sleep in the car that I owned because she would try to take my keys from me to prevent me from going to work. My dad was called a lazy POS everyday even though he contributed 50% to the household. One night, I was already preparing to move out with my boyfriend, She thought it was time to informed me (drunk as a skunk and with a huge smile) that she was having an affair with her boss. The man she had been calling a \"creep\" for over 2 years. My dad and I have had a history of getting into bad fights over my mother's behavior. He just won't stop defending her actions. And he wont let me confront her, without a fight. \n\nSo I just left. No fight, nothing. I left and cut off every form of communication. I also cut off my grandmother because she would turn around and tell my parents everything I was up to.  I still don't know if my dad knows about the affair but that's was the straw that broke the camel's back. I still don't care if my mom dies tomorrow, she's a fucking cunt and a whore for doing that to the only person that has ever loved her unconditionally. And the fact that she behaved like she was holier than thou towards us at home, and doing that with her boss. Fuck that bitch, I hope she rots. \n\nI'm very torn right now, because of my relationship with my dad I don't think I could live with the regret of never speaking to him again. His drinking became worse after I left. I refuse to blame myself for that. I recieved a message from an online account I can only assume she set up for him (my dad's old school, he'd never open a facebook if he even knew how) that informed me he has congestive heart failure (shocker) and is in the hospital But that women is going to be involved in everything I try to do involving him and make everything about her. And I don't want his last memory to be of me verbally shoving my foot up his wife's ass. Especially if he doesn't know. Im also not interested in a relationship if he makes it through. I just don't know what to do and I feel horrible. The rest of my family is just as bad as my mother and don't care whether he lives or dies. \n\nIf you read all of this, bless you. This is all I have to go to. \n\nTL;DR : Cut ties with both parents because mother is a psychotic adulturous whore and dad is alcoholic fool. Had special relationship with Dad and wants to see him but knows adulturous whore will make it all about her.\nTorn to pieces. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RWWFw4UJdkzEezp0CA29rRyp7XmZkYMi", "post_id": "ac7ql6", "action": {"description": "not letting elderly people ahead of me at the pharmacy", "pronormative_score": 44, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not letting elderly people ahead of me at the pharmacy?", "text": "A week ago, I was in another city getting a prescription at Walgreens. I waited for a few people, and eventually I was at the front of the line. A woman with a walker comes up behind me. I'm guessing she's 85-90. Then, another older woman (maybe 70) comes up behind her. The latest woman in the line loudly announces that the other woman should go to the drop off to get her refills faster because \"SOME PEOPLE\" don't let \"PEOPLE LIKE THEM\" through the line. She said she usually can get her prescriptions faster that way.\nI ignored the whole interaction, and watched the pharmacist get flustered when she tried to fill at the wrong window. I chalked the whole thing up to a different culture, and assumed I was an asshole in that context (the area was near the Mexican border, whereas I'm in a super white Midwest suburb).\n\nToday, in my hometown, a similar incident occurred. I was in line at Walgreens, and a 70-ish woman asked if I was in line. I told her I was. She sighed loudly and pushed her cart NEXT to me in the line. When I got called up, she acted like she was going to go ahead of me. I glared at her, and continued to the window.\n\nIs this some kind of obvious etiquette? AITA? I honestly worry that I'd never get out of Walgreens if I let every old person ahead of me, but maybe that's the normal thing to do? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 44, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 44, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FVRxnwCKoR1l8cKeUlxzhyPvL9yw2ikH", "post_id": "asz6jh", "action": {"description": "asking my Gf for a pregnancy test", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA For asking my Gf for a pregnancy test?", "text": "Throaway for obvious reasons.\n\n​\n\nMe and Gf had a little accident a few weeks ago. Condom broke, yadda yadda. She took the next day pill and all was well.\n\n​\n\nSince a few days ago, she started acting a bit off. Not always hungry, not enjoying physical contact and a few hypoglicemic events. I asked her to run a pregnancy test, so we went to the pharmacy and bought one.\n\n​\n\nWe live separately, so I went to her home with her, and she told me she refused to take the test while I was there, even though I displayed extreme distress given the situation. I was forced to leave the house so she would do the test, and she eventually video called me to show me a negative result.\n\n​\n\nDue to the unbelievably stressful nature of the situation, my brain is going haywire and I need to see a test for myself, I tell her. It's completely irrational, and given the impact a child would have on my life (I am not in any way shape or form ready for one, just as her), my brain won't give me peace of mind until I see a test done before my own eyes, since, after all, such a child would be 50% mine along will all the responsibilities that brings.\n\n​\n\nShe then gets mad at me for not trusting her, and tells me she'll do it, although she is hurt by my apparent lack of trust.\n\n​\n\nAITA here? Did I overreact or not?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4us869ua4W1yOzUfaO0NODO7dqJJ1lAG", "post_id": "ai08lw", "action": {"description": "wanting to leave home because of my autistic brother", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to leave home because of my autistic brother?", "text": "Throwaway account\n\nI'm in college, but I still live at home with my parents and my two brothers, the youngest of which has autism. He can't speak, but he was an okay kid until puberty hit him. Now he's gotten more aggressive, yelling and screaming and putting holes in the wall of his bedroom. Therapy and medication isn't helping, and I can't stand the yelling. I tried to be patient with him and ignore him but he pushes me so far that I start screaming back at him. It's gotten so bad that I had to start wearing earplugs whenever I go downstairs, and I spend most of my free time in my room. Sometimes, when my parents aren't home, he targets me specifically for no apparent reason and screams up the staircase to my room until I either lose it and start screaming back or I go to my car and leave. Last time it happened, I just locked myself in the bathroom and cried. Despite my parents being in the same boat and arguably have it worse than me because they're responsible for him, they obviously don't know how to help me as their advice to me either boils down to \"ignore him\" (which never works) or \"calm down\" (which upsets me more). My brother shows no signs of improving and I doubt he'll ever talk at this point. It's gotten to where I can't stand living with him and want to leave home. My mom picked up on this and started crying to me about how she doesn't want me to leave because of my brother and that I would be throwing away the rest of my childhood if I do because then I'll have to step into the adult world. I broke down in front of her and told her I wouldn't leave but I felt manipulated afterwards and was angry because she wasn't taking my feelings into account. Now I'm calling those feelings into question. Maybe she wasn't trying to manipulate me and just wants the best for me. But on the otherhand, I feel like my childhood is already gone. Am I selfish for wanting to leave?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "k6B79F60eP3xf9fjTT1dLDXhgSzXPcZu", "post_id": "9y8fmm", "action": {"description": "not including my friend's rabbit on a bingo card", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not including my friend's rabbit on a bingo card?", "text": "This happened a while ago, but I was just reminded of it when reading posts from this sub and it's a situation I've never really been able to figure out.  \n\nSome context/backstory: I had a really good friend (in hindsight, maybe not the best of friends) in elementary school I met in third grade. We were both really goofy and got along well.  My friend had a rabbit called Boingo. At the beginning of 5th grade, her family was going on a trip to Hawaii and needed someone to babysit their rabbit, so they asked our family and we accepted.  So for two weeks we took care of the rabbit, which was super fun. She and her family were really thankful.\n\nA little bit further into the year, she brought Boingo to our class for a visit, because elementary kids love rabbits. It was a pretty big hit.\n\nNow the actual event.  At the end of the year, our teacher organized a big party for the last full day of school.  One of the things we were going to do was a bingo game where all the things on our boards were our favorite events from the year.  We spent the day before coming up with ideas, and of course Boingo's visit was one of them.  There were a lot of choices to put on our board and I didn't really want to decide (we made our own boards), so I just went down the list on the whiteboard and put every other one on my board.  In the process, I missed Boingo. \n\nSo we play our bingo game and our teacher calls out Boingo.  My friend was sitting next to me and noticed I don't mark anything, and gets really upset.    She starts saying things like \"How could you forget Boingo?!\", \"You babysat him!\" and \"You should have put Boingo on your board!\". I realized I may have made a mistake and profusely apologized, and tried to explain how I chose what to put on my board, so it was an accident.  But she wouldn't even hear it.  She blamed me personally for not putting Boingo.  \n\nThere's two things I remember about this.  One is I became so upset I started crying, but she didn't even care.  The second is what she said after I kept trying to tell her it was an accident. \"You should know not to argue with a girl, because they'll always be right\"\n\nTo this day, she made me feel like such an asshole for not remembering something significant to me and her, even though I feel it was just an accident and shouldn't have been a big deal.  Never been sure what to think about it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ytvFZBcHPMEN0QR3NQnT0qrEchS96CV1", "post_id": "apy9nr", "action": {"description": "finding out my crush is trans and not being attracted to him anymore", "pronormative_score": 135, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for finding out my crush is trans and not being attracted to him anymore?", "text": "I started going to art school about half a year ago and after a couple months of talking to people and trying to make friends, I met this guy who I thought was super attractive, funny, and we shared a lot of common interests. He seemed to genuinely like me as a person and we became good friends. We hung out often and I felt like I was making a real connection with someone. \n\nWe both started developing am attracting for each other after a couple months of being friends. Hanging out became the equivalent of dates. We would make out, cuddle, take naps together, etc. I guess I would classify it as we were dating. We had been very good friends for months at this point. \n\nWell, people who are attracted to each other tend to want to have sex with each other. Our make-out sessions were getting very hot and heavy, and it kept escalating to the point where we were about to have sex. I go to unbutton his pants, and I notice there\u2019s no bulge whatsoever. Well, maybe he wasn\u2019t hard yet. I unzip his pants and notice he literally does not have a penis. \n\nI look up at him quizzically and he just goes \u201coh yeah...\u201d That was the moment I found out he was trans. I stopped immediately and we started talking about it, and he told me how hard it was for him to be who he is, and I understand that.\n\nThe thing is, I feel almost lied to. He had months to tell me the truth and yet he continued to pursue a romantic relationship with me, leaving out something I deem very important. I don\u2019t want to sound offensive but I\u2019m strictly straight. I\u2019m not attracted to vagina at all. I want to have sex with a penis, if that makes sense. MAYBE if he would\u2019ve told me a long time ago about it, I would\u2019ve been able to overcome it since I liked him so much. But to find out on the spot like that? I don\u2019t know. \n\nMy attracting for him has faded substantially and I would like to continue being friends with him, but nothing more, because it\u2019s just not what I\u2019m looking for. He is now very mad and upset with me because I don\u2019t want to be in a relationship with him. He called me an evil and manipulative person, but then in the same breath says he faked our entire friendship? I think he said that just to try and hurt me but now I\u2019m seeing him as a sociopath of sorts. I\u2019m just overwhelmed and flabbergasted at what happened! Am I in the wrong? Am I an asshole for not continuing the relationship? Am I evil and manipulative? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 128, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 135, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hSDHth339Ji8CyjNzagDUdN5J0D5mE1E", "post_id": "aqzry7", "action": {"description": "wanting my Boyfriend's \"Bully\" in a Mental Asylum", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Wanting My Boyfriend's \"Bully\" In A Mental Asylum?", "text": "Okay, let's start this off nice and simple. This kid is harmless\u2026 physically. \n\nWhenever this kid has mental breakdowns, apparently he needs to talk about how he wants to kill everyone and then himself, or display extremely homophobic and Nazi-like behavior.\n\nNo one does anything about this. The teachers don't care about it and they have said to my boyfriend that he just has to live with it.\n\nHe has told my boyfriend that he wants him to suffer, that he's going to stab him, and that he should kill himself. I broke down in tears.\n\nI don't think he should have to put up with this, and neither does he. He's gone to the principal, but all they've done is they've hired a social worker to counsel him. I don't think this is enough, and think that he should either be expelled, or locked up.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8yExAoPHJ5vMUalJm1VUKRf2GvJqWaeh", "post_id": "b5r9qs", "action": {"description": "not offering up my spare bedroom", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not offering up my spare bedroom?", "text": "I want to start this post by saying that there are no potential assholes in this story other than me. Also on mobile. \n\nI work at a large university as staff, who employs students on a part-time basis to assist with or duties. We generally keep students around for their entire time at the university, and become friendly, though not overly so, imo. Sometimes in the course of work, shifts run quite late, and I\u2019ll offer a ride to a student knowing the buses have stopped running or won\u2019t come for hours. I do this for all students that do not have a car or a ride, man or woman. \n\nThe other night, I offered a student a ride home, which she gratefully accepted. I took her home without incident, but I don\u2019t leave until they\u2019ve gotten in the door, just to be sure they\u2019re safely inside since I\u2019ve taken on the responsibility of getting them home. This night, she did not leave her keys, and could not get inside. They turned out to be states away in her boyfriend\u2019s car (spring break). I let her use my phone, and we went back to campus so she could use my computer to get in touch with her mom and try to figure some stuff out. \n\nTalk of a locksmith and hotels comes up, all I can see is dollar signs,and I was about to offer my spare room of my house. I don\u2019t believe either of us would have perceived it as creepy; I\u2019m a married woman about ten years her senior. I stopped short, though, as I thought about the professional line I\u2019d be blurring and the doors it would be opening for the future. (I have been told in personal and professional settings that I am \u201chelpful and friendly...sometimes to your detriment\u201d lol)\n\nShe ended up being able to find a room with a friend for the night, so none of this ended up being an issue. However I still find myself feeling a little guilty that I didn\u2019t offer another no-cost option to this college student, knowing money\u2019s tight during that time of life. \n\nWas my hesitancy selfish? AITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 12, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8RARo2pqgD36xNdnuCGWwiYdFpIE6oKg", "post_id": "b94qa6", "action": {"description": "hating the autistic guy from high school", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for hating the autistic guy from high school?", "text": "(Last post exceeded word limit)\n\nIn junior year, I met a guy who I would later find out to be autistic, the very first thing he says is \u201cdo you know where your sister was last night?\u201d I respond with no, and he says \u201cwith me in bed\u201d. My sister was, at the time, 13. And I was pretty protective, so I was prepared to deck him in the face. He also sexually harassed one of my close friends and a bunch of other girls, and he tried to fight just about everyone in the locker room (he was banned from it over this) eventually he had to be monitored by the school cop, which he hated. He jumped from the top of the bleachers once just to escape. I found out he was almost arrested for beating a small kid into a brick wall. I found out in my senior year he was expelled and arrested for trying to kill his mom and sister.\n\nI understand that no one asks to be born, and no one ever asks to be mentally disabled, but the things he\u2019s done can\u2019t be over looked. I was never a good person, but I never did anything close to what he did. I\u2019m graduating this May, and my sis will be in high school in September. I\u2019m worried he\u2019s gonna come back and target her. If he does, I\u2019m gonna raise hell.\n\nBut I want reddit\u2019s Opinion: AITA for hating him as much as I do?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "K5E15ajcBG7grf7YLqxab2kpeLILU09X", "post_id": "b0amr3", "action": {"description": "talking to my aunt before my mom does", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I talked to my aunt before my mom does?", "text": "On my phone. Sorry for the formatting. \nFirst time posting here - long time lurker :)\n\nMy family has a social event this weekend in another town. It\u2019s a 2 hour car drive from our city - which admittedly isn\u2019t much, but my father is usually the one who drives and he always gets exhausted after these kind of trips - he\u2019s quitting smoking and his body is aching all over, plus he\u2019s not that young (55yo). \n\nAnyway, the event is on Saturday and my dad told my mom that he wants to go Friday night because he\u2019d rather be well rested for the day of the event. My mother agreed - she\u2019ll be there already, she goes tomorrow because she teaches in the University there - so my dad will be driving my sister and my two aunts (mother\u2019s sister and mother\u2019s aunt). Let\u2019s call them Aunt 1 and Aunt 2. \n\nAnd here comes the problem... Aunt 1 (mom\u2019s sister) wants to go Saturday - and around 11o\u2019clock, despite my dad also saying that, if they had to go Saturday, he wanted to leave at 9 am at the latest. Mom still didn\u2019t tell Aunt 1 that they\u2019re actually going Friday night, and since mom travels tomorrow, she\u2019ll likely not tell and leave the issue to my dad. Aunt 1 is struggling with depression (she was on antidepressives until last year, quit taking them for reasons we don\u2019t know and only now resumed taking them) but she\u2019s frankly been a nightmare lately. If anything doesn\u2019t go her way she throws a tantrum and raises her voice and gets kinda mean. Because of that everyone\u2019s afraid of telling her the \u201cwe\u2019re going Friday\u201d thing. \n\nI was keeping to myself - I\u2019m not going, so I figured it\u2019s none of my business. But now Aunt 1 is telling Aunt 2 that they\u2019re going Saturday around 11am, which isn\u2019t true at all since nobody told her that - she just assumed that, since that\u2019s when she wants to go, that\u2019s when they\u2019ll go. I want to just tell her the truth already because it\u2019s not fair to my dad, but I\u2019m afraid that this isn\u2019t my place. \n\nWibta if I didn\u2019t wait for my mother and just told Aunt 1 that they are not going Saturday, much less at 11am? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mGnLjpjedzRXakSfa2RLnYP95wlpsQjP", "post_id": "b158qe", "action": {"description": "being hurt that my bf wants to travel to Japan with his friend instead", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being hurt that my bf wants to travel to Japan with his friend instead?", "text": "Ok there's a lot to digress here, so bear with me.\n\nMy 2nd language is Japanese, I speak it at home and been to Japan multiple times. \n\nI've expressed to my boyfriend many, many times that I've wanted us to go to Japan together, because it is like my second culture and I would love for us to experience it together. While he didn't express too much interest in Japanese culture, he said he would also love for us to go to Japan together soon and would want to travel abroad for a new experience.\n\nLast November, I went to Japan for a short vacation and for family reasons, also for my late brother's funeral. Initially my boyfriend was very excited and was planning to come with me, but we went through a hardship and he grew increasingly hesitant, then decided he would not be able to come with me. He also decided the funeral would be too much for him. I was heartbroken and this was a huge event in my life that I wish he could've accompanied me with. I tried to put myself in his shoes and realized that he would not want to go through such a thing but it still hurt because I wish he was with me at my side and wanted his support.\n\nFast forward months later, a few weeks ago he was telling me that he wanted to travel alone to another country, to better his mental health and to discover new things about himself. I was completely on board with it and encouraged him to do so. \n\nHe then informs me yesterday that instead of traveling alone, he was going to go to Japan with his friend. His friend loves Japanese culture and is planning to go to Japan in May, and my boyfriend said he would tag along. He then asked if I would be mad at him for doing so. While I wasn't mad, I was incredibly hurt that this was so spontaneous and that I felt like he didn't consider that I would've wanted to go with him. \n\nHe then said that he was surprised I wasn't on board with him going to Japan right away and that he wished I could come with him, but he was sorry I couldn't. And that made me feel even more sad. I said it's completely fine if he goes to Japan, as he can make his own decisions, but I was still a little hurt that I felt like he didn't consider I've always wanted to go with him. And that I felt he didn't want to go with me. And then we got into an argument about this whole mess.\n\n\nAITA for being hurt that my bf would rather go to Japan with his friend instead?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fqSZXlCxfsxBfBujmtZxPCgFIX4L2Q2h", "post_id": "9vqt2s", "action": {"description": "bring my muslim family candy that contains pork-based ingredients", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 21}, "title": "WIBTA for bring my Muslim family candy that contains pork-based ingredients?", "text": "I'm an atheist living in North America. I come from a Muslim background and I'm gonna be visiting my family in the Middle East this Christmas. It would be quite rude to visit without getting them anything. None of them are allergic to pork or anything like that, they simply don't consume it due to religious reasons.  \n\n\nMy family absolutely loves candy and a lot of **really fucking good** candy here in North America that I want them to try contains pork (gelatin). I'm an ex-Muslim myself and I obviously don't think their dietary restrictions are rational. If I never told them, would I be an asshole for letting them consume good candy that I know they'll enjoy?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 21, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 21}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "5uJBekBlKfms3Iwuf8mEhv65oJG6ndRn", "post_id": "awoae3", "action": {"description": "arguing with my best mate's ladyfriend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For arguing with my best mate's ladyfriend", "text": "So my best mate recently started seeing this girl.\n\n\nFor context, both me and my friend have been making music since we could walk and it's something she is really interested in getting into. Knowing this, my buddy had the bright idea of having a little production session at my place yesterday where we would make a track together.\n\n\nThe previous evening they told me they were coming around to my place at noon. Noon rolls around and I ask my buddy where he is, to which I get no reply (as is quite common for him). So I think \"fuck it\" I can probably just lay down some drums and a bass and by the time they get here we will have something to work with. \n\n\nAbout an hour later I get a response from my friend saying \"we're visiting people, we'll probably be there after 5:00\". I'm a pretty easy going guy, so I'm like \"yeah no worries, just get here when you get here\".\n\n\n5:00pm rolls around and I send my buddy another message to which he replies at about 6:00 with \"I'll message you when we're going to your place\". At this point I'd basically written half the song out of boredom and I'm no time freak but this was starting to tick me off a bit. At some point I also invited one of my other mates over to my place with the intention of all of us going out later. \n\n\nThey end up arriving at 9:30pm after more cryptic vague messages.\n\n\nMy buddy's lass doesn't have any music production experience, but because she was drunk she was bombastically telling me what I should be doing and how the track should sound. I'm totally fine with working with someone that doesn't know what they're talking about but I just got the sense she was being a little rude about it.\n\n\nRemember the other friend from earlier. He rocks up and my best friends lass starts talking to him. Now, he's a chef, and she's a vegan, you can probably see where this is going...\n\n\nLong story short they got into a slightly heated discussion about veganism which my other buddy was trying his best to back out of, but I was a little pissed off at the attitude of someone I've never met coming into my house, drinking my beer and telling me how to use my music stuff AND shoving her beliefs down our throats. \n\n\nShe said \"if you want to eat meat you should have to kill the animal every single time\" to which I responded with \"so I guess that means you should have to harvest every plant that you consume as well\", to which she responded with \"no that's not the same thing\".\n\n\nI politely debated with this girl for a bit before she stormed off in a huff and locked herself in my own bathroom. I ended up leaving for the clubs with my other friend and that was that.\n\n\nI messaged my friend today asking if his lass was ok, he said \"she's fine, she thought you were a decent dude but you were a bit insensitive and now she doesn't trust you\".\n\n\nAm I the asshole here guys?\n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hxwcaQqz0Zr1TzpCXYIqjuuDzUONXEp5", "post_id": "b2kqwb", "action": {"description": "calling the police when my girlfriend locked herself in the bathroom", "pronormative_score": 23, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA: for calling the police when my girlfriend locked herself in the bathroom", "text": "Sorry for formatting, in mobile. Throw away. I keep on having these guilty feelings I need to ask some people about.\n\n\nSo I had been dating this girl for almost 2 years, we were both 20, young and in love, living in a small one bedroom apartment. We both went on to be diagnosed with depression after the incident and some other earth shattering events. But to the story at hand.\n\n\nWe were in one of those big relationship defining fights. Those fights that last for awhile and emotions come out so raw that our immature minds couldn\u2019t properly comprehend all of it. The crux of it was simple. She was contemplating opening up our relationship so she could \u201csow her wild oats\u201d in college. I\u2019m as new age as they come but I had a problem with it and wanted to stay a monogamous couple. \n\n\nThe fight progressed and in the end she wanted to take it all back. I couldn\u2019t accept that, I needed to cool off, it felt like my entire world was spinning so I went into the other room to breathe. (It\u2019s a one room apartment so I couldn\u2019t go anywhere). While in the living room I heard the door to the bathroom slam. I heard her yelling about how she doesn\u2019t want to live. I ran to the bathroom door scared.\n\n\nI heard her frantically searching and slamming through the drawers. I heard a loud crack and a cry. Then it repeated, and repeated.\n\n\nThroughout this time I was saying her name asking her to open the door and to stop. The bang and whimpers continued until I backed up and ran into the bathroom door. The door frame was weak and buckled allowing me in (we had a really cheap apartment, think projects level). When the door swing open I saw her hit her head on the wall again.\n\n\nI immediately grabbed her, wrapped her in a weird bear hug type deal and brought her to the bed in the other room. There she laid next to me and cried for awhile. My head was still spinning but I knew I had to do something. I remembered that 9/11 in our area allowed texting. While she was laying down sobbing I quickly texted 9/11 our location, the situation and to please hurry.\n\n\nMy rational at the time was that she just seriously attempted to hurt herself. As selfish as it sounds I was nowhere near capable of handling the situation alone.\n\n\nThe police came, they talked to us apart. Took us in squad cars to a local hospital where she was admitted to a psych ward after a review. \n\n\nAfter talking to my friends on the matter I was told that I may have handled this wrong. I was informed of the terrible realities of inpatient care. As well as the stress it puts on a person going through a bad times. I feel like shit for hurting her.\n\n\n\n\nTL:DR:\nGirlfriend and I had a big fight over the state of our relationship. She locked herself in the bathroom and hurt herself. I broke in the bathroom and stopped her. Contacted the police and she ended up in inpatient care. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 23, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 23, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tX57yWeUj97sgMx2EZq2KBNia8rbUUGW", "post_id": "a0963p", "action": {"description": "opposing against the idea of a male queen at my school prom", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for opposing against the idea of a male queen at my school prom?", "text": "In my school, every year they organize a ball/prom. Prior to the event, people can nominate themselves to be the king or the queen of the year. Everyone can vote for their king and their queen.\n\nLast year, a gay boy applied to be the queen. And he won the popular vote. He became the queen. It was a very cringy situation because the boy who won King is a straight male and he was made to be coupled with a gay male. I think the King was not happy with that \"Queen\".\n\nI don't like the fact that a boy becoming a queen at all. He's not transgender. He's a gay boy. Before you get crazy and scold at me, I know what people say. I should respect the LGBT community. I do. I am very open to the idea of gay couple and gay marriage. I'd much agree if there were two gay Kings, or two gay Queens. Completely okay with it. But I feel like it is not true to call a gay boy \"Queen\" and assign him to a straight King. If the organizers are to select a king and a queen, they should be straight male and female. I think, the organizers are trying so hard to prove that they have an open mind and also to draw attention from the public.\n\nLike, in real life, one does not question a gay couple \"which one of you is the wife/husband?\" Right? Two men -- two boyfriends/husbands/fathers. Two women -- two girlfriends/wives/mothers.\n\nNote that I did not do anything to show my opposing idea. I'm pretty much introvert and prefer keeping thoughts to myself. However, I need your judgment. AITA for thinking like that?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "LgYnQ7krsYUlKNDacbULeyDSTrP0DasS", "post_id": "b3ijl7", "action": {"description": "not wanting a trans girl as a sales rep", "pronormative_score": 31, "contranormative_score": 36}, "title": "AITA for not wanting a trans girl as a sales rep?", "text": "So, recently my father passed away. He owned and ran an independent car dealership. At this point. He expressed wishes for me to run it when he was gone since I work in 'business' as opposed to my sister (admittedly, I'm a trader at a prop shop, which isn't really running a business, but whatever). However, I work in NYC, so I can't do it day to day. And quite honestly, running a car dealership sounds boring. But, it was my dad's wishes, so I wanted to work something out. So we hired an outside manager to kind of take care of day-to-day operations, and then I could fly in on the weekends to take care of the big picture. \n\nAnyways, the manager we hired, let's call her Amy, is about my age, and seems to be doing a pretty good job in day-to-day operations. One thing I noticed when I was there is that there's a trans girl who works as a sales rep, let's call her Anna. I just want to make it clear I have nothing against trans people at all. I respect them, just like I would anybody else. But the problem is question here is that other people who visit the dealership don't respect her. See, it's in a pretty conservative state. And Anna's pretty obviously trans. Amy hired her, for good reason: Anna's confident, charming, convincing. Everything we need in a sales rep. But, and this is a big but, she's trans. And a lot of customers who come to the dealership leave when they see this. It's wrong they do this, of course, but from a business standpoint, the dealership is losing customers. And I've checked overall profits, they've dropped because of this. And this is my dad's dealership, I don't want to ruin it. \n\nSo I brought up to Amy she might want to co sider moving Anna to another job in the dealership, and explained my rationale. Amy called me transphobic. I explained I know it's not Anna's fault, but she's costing us money, and I don't want my dad's dealership to fail in any way. \n\nAm I in the wrong here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 33, "OTHER": 24, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 5}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 31, "WRONG": 36}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Gk5eMPsy1NsJYl9gW8wSMrP2Z26DMpeA", "post_id": "af5ucw", "action": {"description": "getting upset with my sister after a boardgame", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA, for getting upset with my sister after a boardgame?", "text": "Alright, for starters I have autism and so I never realize if I'm just a douce, so if you guys think I'm an asshole I'll apologize.\n\nNow on to the situation, we (me, she, my other sister, my stepdad) were playing a boardgame in which we had a disagreement about the rules. Everyone chose my side. So we move on. The rest of the game, all she does is target me, now normally I can just ignore that, but everytime she does that she just laughs at me. It doesn't help that she is super competitive. So at the end she wins, which is fine, idc about winning. However  at the end she just laughs at me and taunts me. So at this point I was already upset, and I explode. I start yelling at her, I think I called her a narcissist, and she called me a 'petty asshole'.\nWhen our parents arrived I got all the blame.\n\n\nTl;dr\n\nI kept getting taunted by my sister and I got angry. Now everyone is angry. Should I swallow my pride and apologize?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "mLpcCYaDWPHI4Eetdvfrremf6d0ma8DX", "post_id": "alg5ex", "action": {"description": "being irritated when people use my assigned parking space, even though I don't have a car", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being irritated when people use my assigned parking space, even though I don't have a car?", "text": "I live in a 50 unit suburban condominium complex, with a mix of owners and renters. I own my condo. Each unit has 1 assigned parking spot, which is under a metal carport-type roof and marked with the unit number. We also have a ton of open parking throughout the complex, none of which is covered. I've lived here 6 months and there are always lots of open parking spots.\n\nI am disabled and don't drive, so my assigned spot doesn't ever have a car parked in it. I rarely have people visit me, so I truly don't need my parking space for any practical reason.\n\nSometimes people will pull into my spot briefly, waiting for a friend etc., and I don't mind that. Sometimes people park in my spot for an hour or so, which I find mildly irritating, but understandable, especially if it's raining or really hot weather. But there's a car in my spot right now that's been there overnight, and it's now afternoon. The weather is cold (30\u00b0F lows) but clear and dry.\n\nI'm irritated by this car being in my spot, not because I need the spot, but because I think it's rude for someone to park there for 12+ hours without asking me if it's okay. \n\nI'm not planning to do anything about it right now, because I realize I'm irritated about something that has zero actual impact on me, but I want to know if I'm TA for not wanting anyone to park there even though I'm not using the space.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XGZ0mhtSQoHHUJwnVZu9ziM1xvKFSfen", "post_id": "avfsjx", "action": {"description": "talking to my son about how he perceives my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 83, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for talking to my son about how he perceives my girlfriend?", "text": "Hey everybody, I\u2019m back. \n\nLink to my original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/av4172/aita_for_asking_my_girlfriend_to_look_after_my/?st=JSNG69DN&sh=88a70b87\n\nTLDR for the last post; I (44M) live with my girlfriend (32F) and my two boys, 8 and 14. My girlfriend recently lost her job and I have been supporting her since. I asked her to pick up the boys from school a couple of days a week and watch them - she called me an asshole.\n\nA lot of the comments on my last post mentioned how my kids would pick up on this kind of behavior and that they could sense her not wanting to actually be there for them. I hadn\u2019t considered this before and it was definitely a wake up call for me. So I sat down last night with my oldest and asked him what he thought of everything. His mother being away, living with me full time and what he thought of my girlfriend. I should have had this conversation a long time ago, but as all parents know time just seems to fly by and nothing gets done. My son had some valid thoughts and overall was very happy with how things were going so I was relieved to know I hadn\u2019t unknowingly been hurting my children. \n\nAnd then my girlfriend realizes that I\u2019ve had this conversation, and goes through the roof. She thinks I\u2019ve undermined her by talking to him about her, and says I have absolutely no confidence in her whatsoever. She left the house at 10:30 to stay with a friend and basically said she needs to rethink the entire relationship. That I have betrayed her and that I have the maturity level of a 6-year-old.\n\nI understand some of her points, but we are adults. I have two children that I obviously need to be able to talk to without clearing it with my girlfriend first. I did not go to my son to undermine my girlfriend and our conversation was just as much about his mother\u2019s trip as it was about her. \n\nI feel like I\u2019m back in high school with this drama, and there is no way I\u2019m venting to my friends so here I am Reddit - asking once again, Am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 82, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 83, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jvBqiVpSauTH1LcSFEQxwJrpaBtZZsnF", "post_id": "b2miy5", "action": null, "title": "WIBTA for Schrodinger's Gift?", "text": "A friend and I are planning on going to a concert together. In the past, we have paid for our own tickets. For this concert we discussed getting VIP tickets, but put off the decision until we knew the cost/benefits of a VIP ticket vs a normal one. When I got more information, I passed along that info but haven't heard back (we are both at work). I didn't want to miss out on the VIP tickets, so I bought them. I don't want him to feel obligated to pay for the upgrade if he didn't budget for it. At the same time, if he's cool with paying me back it would be nice to have the cash.\n\nSo I haven't told him that I bought them, and am waiting to hear back to determine how to handle the split. If he greenlights the VIP ticket, we can split the cost 50/50. If he doesn't want to pay extra, I bought them being fully okay covering the upgrade. If I told him before getting a response, he is the type of person that would definitely refuse to let me offer it as a gift.\n\nSo it feels weird having it simultaneously be a possible gift and possible not gift. WIBTA not giving it as a gift if he is cool paying me back?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WpJ9Kjr7gE4FipcUOrjlRYCN0yyCp6pC", "post_id": "ao9owl", "action": {"description": "finding this slightly racist? or do I have no right to be upset", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for finding this slightly racist? Or do I have no right to be upset?", "text": "i just want to preface by saying i\u2019ve never had a reddit before. i decided to make this account in heat of the moment. none of this is with ill intentions, and i just want to know whether or not i have the right to feel this way. i want to learn and grow.\nfor some background information, i\u2019m a 17 year old latina/white mixed girl, and i own a fanaccount on instagram. i typically get my content from stan twt- videos and pictures, the usual. my account is a place for positivity and i\u2019m often encouraging messages like self acceptance and growth. \n\nhowever today on my tl while searching for content, i stumbled across a tweet that made me unsettled. it was short and simple, reading as follows:\n\u201cwhite isn\u2019t a race, it\u2019s a disease\u201d\ni figured it was just another ongoing joke, people on stan twt are bold as hell with some of the things they say. i didn\u2019t find it racist, i just figured it was a joke, a distasteful one at that. \ni looked into their replies, and everyone was agreeing. however, a few people seemed a little iffy about the remarks. op responded in a hostile way, saying things like this:\n\u201cwhat are these kkk bitches so damn loud for... omg just be quiet and go fuck y\u2019alls cousin or sumn\u201d\nthe more i read, the more upset i felt. i thought it was hateful, it made me feel a bit sad. i didn\u2019t reply to it or anything, just logged off. i didn\u2019t know if i was being overdramatic for feeling this way. i see things like this all the time, people saying whites are disgusting. it got me thinking. am i being too sensitive when i see stuff like this? if someone were to say something like that aimed at another group of people, it would be war.\nnow i don\u2019t believe in reverse racism, rather i think that racism is racism no matter what way you look at it. if you\u2019re discriminated against because of your skin color\u2014 then well that\u2019s racism. \nas someone who puts their time into spreading love every day, i believe that all of this hate is only setting us further from a peaceful world without so much hate. why can\u2019t people just love each other, despite the color of their skin? \n\nam i the asshole for thinking it is uncalled for to say things like this? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bu7iE5VY0EYV0vc9mv499NlQGXYGruX6", "post_id": "b9xfdb", "action": {"description": "reacting to a kid triggering me by bringing up his dead dad", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 28}, "title": "AITA for reacting to a kid triggering me by bringing up his dead dad?", "text": "So today, this kid provoked me by showing everyone around me my password to my Google Account. The day before, a bunch of my friends and I were having a discussion about what a dick the kid was and how if we ever felt he crossed an extreme line, we could just bring up his dead dad. However, some of us disagreed and said we should never bring it up. So today, when he did it, I simply brought up the topic, but never stated the words \"Dad\" or \"Father\". He knew what I was talking about though because one of my friends told him about our discussion. He then started crying and didn't say anything. He knows how much I care about my security and how touting my password about would kill me. Many of my friends are now hating on me (some are siding with me) and I don't know if what I did was wrong. So am I the asshole?\n\n​\n\nTl;Dr: A kid triggered me and I brought up his dead dad.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 22, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 28}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "1sjSzOUFduq9UzUlxDdkbMhitBHWCYiQ", "post_id": "9tr545", "action": {"description": "not forgiving my mom", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I don\u2019t forgive my mom? (CW abuse)", "text": "My dad was abusive towards my whole family. My mom tried to leave him when I was very young but went back to him because he started winning the custody battle over me. For this reason, I think my mom resents me as the reason she was stuck with an abusive man.\n\nWhen I was a kid, my dad would abuse me and my mom would tell me it was my fault for not making a bigger effort to get along with him and obey him. I grew up thinking I was a bad person, because of this and because she was often irrationally cold and angry with me in a way she wasn\u2019t to my siblings. When I was a teenager, I had some major health problems that made it hard for me to take care of myself. My mom was constantly angry and cruel to me during that 3 year period. I ended up in an abusive relationship with someone who raped me, and I couldn\u2019t tell my mom about it because she was more interested in yelling at me for \u201chaving bad judgment\u201d for dating this person. I moved out after being kicked out of the house temporarily. \n\nAfter I moved my dad turned some of his abuse on my younger brother, who I have always felt my mom favored over my sister and I. He threatened to kick my brother out of the house, so my mom left him. My dad made the divorce very difficult for her, going on a meth bender and losing his job (she had been a stay at home mom for years) so she would have to lose her house and alimony. My mom has understandably been a wreck since.\n\nI recently confronted my mom about the way she\u2019s always treated me, since she asked if I was angry at her and I felt I owed her the truth. She told me that she felt trapped, that staying with her abuser was hard for her but she did it so we wouldn\u2019t end up homeless, and that she always took his side because he would treat her worse if he thought she was undermining him in front of the kid (me). She said she was cruel to me for years because she was under a lot of stress - her brother committed suicide, her mom for Alzheimer\u2019s and she had to fight her mom\u2019s husband\u2019s family over her care, and she lost her support system (she had previously homeschooled my siblings and I and now she didn\u2019t so didn\u2019t see the same moms). She said her hand was forced to leave my dad because he wanted to kick my brother out of the house, and she would\u2019ve done the same if he tried to kick me out (she doesn\u2019t remember that SHE kicked me out because she was on drugs at the time and is in denial). She says she just wants a closer relationship since I\u2019m mentally ill and she\u2019s worried about me.\n\nAITA for still being mad at her? I honestly feel she could\u2019ve done more and is in denial about her real reasons for leaving. She claims to hate my dad but still keeps in contact with him despite him being a meth addict and trying to throw my sister off the side of the highway the last time any of us saw him. Even if she is being honest, I would rather have been homeless than lived with my dad. And this is petty, but I\u2019m also mad that she\u2019s sad about her brother. He molested me when I was young. She doesn\u2019t know that but she does know that he was a convicted pedophile and was always alone with me so I can\u2019t imagine she doesn\u2019t suspect it. I still love her but I just don\u2019t forgive her at all.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ERGzWfB0mFB3JRDhaTZNLTMmJZElpzFS", "post_id": "axzrvq", "action": {"description": "explaining that space heaters will short circuit if plugged into an extension cord", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for explaining that space heaters will short circuit if plugged into an extension cord?", "text": "This happened today. Obligatory I'm on mobile so sorry for formatting.\n\nSo, I go to a public charter high school. This is important because we only have about 100 students, so we don't get a lot of state funding. Because we don't get a lot of funding, when things break, they tend to stay that way for a while before (hopefully) getting fixed.\n\nIt's been really cold here in Texas as of late, and we had a couple days where it didn't get out of the low 30\u00b0s. Now, normally this wouldn't be a big deal because I spend my whole day inside, *except* the heating isn't working! It was out Monday and yesterday and still today, it's not working. So corporate told the principal to get some space heaters and use those until things get fixed. Problem solved, right? Wrong. My school is one big open room with the desks in the middle area, which means the power outlets aren't a reasonable distance from where we work. So, they got extension cords for the space heaters so they could be closer to us.\n\nOne of the teachers mentioned that if two are plugged in, only one will work. So I went to check the wattage of the heaters and saw in big bold letters \"Warning: always plug heaters into a wall outlet. Do not use with extension cords or power strips.\" Or something to that effect. So, not wanting anything to short circuit and start a fire, I unplugged them. \n\nA girl that sits near me walked in and asked about the heaters, I said that we can't use them because they'll short circuit and start a fire if used with a power strip, and, would you rather be dead or a little chilly? I thought it was perfectly reasonable. But apparently she and another kid who sits near me thought it was very annoying. \"You don't need to explain everything and act like you're better than us.\" I was confused about why she said that and she and the other kid started explaining how I'm \"annoying\" and \"entitled.\" I got embarrassed and flustered trying to defend myself but they just kept going.\n\n\nTL;DR I explained to someone how space heaters will short circuit if used in a power strip, and she and another kid started saying I was annoying and entitled and acted like I was better than everyone. \n\nSide note: I have social pragmatic communication disorder, here's a [link ](https://psychcentral.com/disorders/social-pragmatic-communication-disorder/) explaining what that is.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Out1qKM14XR3u0veUbzMgCHlaHFSp1pV", "post_id": "atua5o", "action": {"description": "judging my parents and siblings for bawling their eyes out at my grandma's funeral", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for judging my parents and siblings for bawling their eyes out at my grandma\u2019s funeral", "text": "Background: \n\nMy grandma is very independent and lived by herself doing everything on her own - travelling, staying alone. She was poor and worked hard to save every penny. In fact, today, she had pre-paid for her own funeral and cemetery plot.\n\nShe has two sons - my dad and my uncle. Growing up, the grandchildren, we (some of us) were close to my Grandmother during her weekly visits. Up till we were around 12-15yrs old. But then we all grew up and did our own thing - being usual asshole teens/young adults. My parents, they were not exactly what you would call filial. My mum would complain about my Grandmother being naggy or slow or troublesome. My dad wouldn\u2019t / couldn\u2019t stand up for his own mum. I think my parents are receiving the taste of their own medicine because we are also demonstrating some form of non-filialness towards them one way or another now.\n\nBack to my grandma. In the past 4-5 years, as she became incapable of caring for herself, she was bounced from one nursing home to another nursing home. I never understood why my parents or my uncle\u2019s side could not get hired help and accommodate her at home. All the grandchildren were adults and living away from home, some overseas, myself included. So there was definitely space at home and they just had to do the necessary old person\u2019s renovations. But no one bothered. \n\nFast forward to today:\nMy grandmother\u2019s funeral. My elder two siblings who never were that close to her, cried their eyeballs out and proclaimed that they were. They never saw her much / did anything for her - neither did I. My mum cried like it was her own Mother who died. My dad did too but in the last one year he did show some form of filial piety towards her (he regretted for not having a close relationship with her either due to personal reasons or because my mum is controlling of him like that).\n\nSo am i the asshole, for judging my siblings and mum for bawling their eyes out when they barely did anything / cared for her / even spoke to her much when she was alive? Am I the asshole for judging my siblings, especially one of my sister who is the most unfilial towards my mum, for now crying so much at my grandmother\u2019s grave when she can do better/differently towards her living mother?\nAm I also the asshole for not shedding much tears when I was considered one of the closest to my grandmother when I was younger?\n\nTLDR: No one cared for my grandmother when she was alive, but all cried during her funeral. Am I an asshole for judging them?\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "JRUv8FkghdbGs7zoSRKdmadmiv00BbOS", "post_id": "apzd2j", "action": {"description": "calling cps on my neighbor", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for calling CPS on my neighbor?", "text": "About a week ago, my husband and I heard some loud paddling noises and screaming from our next door neighbors followed by 2 young girls running outside crying. We regularly hear tons of yelling from their apartment (from mom and kids) but can never distinguish if it's just kids yelling because they're kids, or yelling because they're in distress. We had already told ourselves if there was ever any sign they might be getting hurt by their mom we'd report it, so when all that happened, we called. \n\nWe've never really met the family before, mostly because they seem pretty reserved. We reached out when they moved in but they didn't seem interested. Then, I think the mom thinks we ratted them out for having a dog against their lease (it barks all day so I'm sure one of the other neighbors reported them) and seemingly retaliated by making multiple false reports that our dog had been barking and attempting to get us in trouble with management. The reason I mention all this is because it seems clear the mom already doesn't think of us fondly.  She seems very hostile to her own children based on her constant yelling and swearing so we didn't talk to her before calling CPS in order to avoid any problems between us and her as neighbors. \n\nThe case worker followed up with me today noting there were no signs of abuse and told me a bit about how she's a single mom trying to make things work and is very upset by the whole scenario. So now, I just feel really terrible about reporting her when I could have just walked 3 steps out my front door and asked her what's going on. At the same time, I'm fairly convinced the conversation would have escalated and if we did call after that, she'd know who to blame. But then again, I've hardly met her...so am I an asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Wvi6GKL1lz05Z76M904aUj92dwKDrb4T", "post_id": "ahfsdx", "action": {"description": "hurting the feelings of a depressing friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For hurting the feelings of a depressing friend?", "text": "So basically, I'll keep this as short and basic as possible. My friend, Y, is an AMAZING artist. She has outstanding talent and I'm very proud of her, and I do my best to support her as much as I can. But here's the problem. She's extremely depressing, and can be very.....oblivious when it comes to observing people's moods. \n\n Just yesterday, at our club, it was pretty obvious that our president and her bf were having an issue, as she was crying and her boyfriend was holding her. Y took this to say, \"Ooh look at the couple, couple of the yeeeaarrr\" which caused our president to snap and say \"Fuck off. Really. Fuck off\" Y was a bit taken aback and apologized several times. That's fine and all, and I ordered the president to take her issues outside. However, Y decided to explain the situation, repetitively, to people who had no business knowing about the issue. I told her to stop talking about it because it was over and no one else needed to know about it. She kept asking why after I specifically told her. \n\nIn a few more events, she says extremely depressing shit all day everyday, makes inappropriate and uncomfortable jokes all the time, especially when I'm eating, and constantly puts herself down even when a whole bunch of people tell her the complete opposite. \n\nNow I know I can be strong with my words, and I don't like to hurt others said words, but I couldn't hold it anymore. I told her that 1. She needs to stop talking about shit that makes others uncomfortable, ESPECIALLY when it's a very sensitive or heavy subject to the other. 2. She needs to stop being so depressing because she will never get any pity from me, due to the fact that she does it way too much. And 3. To stop making excessive dirty jokes that makes everyone uncomfortable. \n\nShe looked extremely hurt about it and fell silent. I felt pretty guilty after saying that, because I don't like seeing her get hurt. So inform me. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "osCSAKJKHxEgI6ln2gDoyfv5gjtQp1Ok", "post_id": "9u8fhg", "action": {"description": "not taking a side", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not taking a side?", "text": "Hey guys, here's the issue.\nSo a few months ago, my friend and my other friend got into a big fight, we'll call them James and Tim. Long story short, they aren't speaking, and the argument ended with both parties feeling that the other person was \"the toxic one\". I've been friends with both of these guys for over ten years, and I had no intention of stopping being friends with either of them, but recently James has been putting me more and more in the middle of things. He constantly talks to me about what a horrible person Tim is and how awful he treats people. I get pretty tired of hearing it all, and Tim knows James' saying things like this to me, but he doesnt really care at this point. Tim has always been more of the level headed one, and he has no intention of talking to me about James or trying to change my opinion of him. James, on the other hand, just can't accept the fact that I remain friends with Tim. He stepped it up and now gets furious at me, asking \"How can you be be friends with Tim after he treated me so badly? Do you not see the way he treats me?\" I get that Tim was mean to James, but James acts like he is completely innocent. It takes two to argue, and when he brings up Tim's horrible treatment, I tell him that he also treated Tim horribly, and that he's not the victim. He views this as me attempting to \"Justify James' horrible actions\" and gets even angrier. Fast forward to three weeks ago. James messaged Tim, and he was attempting to get an apology out of him. This lead to a huge blowout, with many more insults flung from both parties. Right after the argument, James texts me and tells me that he can't be friends with anyone who is friends with Tim, including me. \"It's either me or him\". Of course, I didn't stand for this. I told him off, angrily telling him he has no right to choose who I'm friends with. I also told him I don't want to stop being friends with either of them, and that if he wants to stop being friends with me, it's his own choice. He's acted very different since then, and I feel a bit bad. Am I the asshole in this situation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cQKXI8U9aotxABIB8yaRVCQojUpthIqF", "post_id": "apytvo", "action": {"description": "bringing up the idea of re-homing our dog to my so", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for bringing up the idea of re-homing our dog to my SO", "text": "So my girlfriend and I found out that we were having our first child about six months ago. We are very excited to meet our daughter, but we also live in a smaller one bedroom apartment in the city. We thought it would be easy to find a place when the time came, but as the due date gets closer, it seems like we won\u2019t be able to find a two bedroom apartment within our budget that also accommodates our dog (a breed who is listed on most breed restriction lists for housing). I brought up the idea of re-homing the dog, in the best interest of our unborn daughter, and things went down hill from there. It\u2019s not like I want the dog gone, I love the dog. It\u2019s just a tough situation that I feel needs tough decisions to be made. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "4roxH5eqbcRADbylKhtCiPYVpRu5B45L", "post_id": "ab9eai", "action": {"description": "leaving my husband with a sick baby on NYE", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for leaving my husband with a sick baby on NYE?", "text": "WIBTA... My best friend of 20 years is in town for just the weekend. We\u2019re staying at my Grandma\u2019s house because our apartment is just too small for overnight guests. My husband stayed home and I\u2019ve had the kids all weekend with my friend here.. she comes to see my kids as much as she comes to see me, so it works out. Well NYE is the one night just her and I get time. The plan was for the girls to go back to our apartment with husband tonight, and now my youngest just coughed hard enough to throw up a little. She\u2019s not terribly sick, just a lot of coughing... I\u2019m a SAHM so I typically just have the sick kids to myself. WIBTA if I left her with him and still had a night to myself when the baby isn\u2019t feeling great?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "p8ZWaLd6tKE45Q8hkVsJCoRiM5F1gQnz", "post_id": "aslm4i", "action": {"description": "trying to teach my so how to follow social norms", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for trying to teach my SO how to follow social norms?", "text": "Precursor: I was raised by a catholic military father in the south. My boyfriend was raised in SoCal by free range parents. \nI have been taught my whole life to respect my elders, mind my manners, and to know what to say/do in front of whom.\nSo I get along easily with people, and things generally go ok for me because I have this blind respect for authority that is expected from a young adult. On top of that I\u2019m very conscious of my audience and I try my best to adjust how I act and what I say so I don\u2019t offend people or anything. I know it\u2019s a little silly but it\u2019s just how I was raised.\nNow my boyfriend on the other hand, he treats everyone that he meets like they\u2019re best friends. No blind respect, no boundaries, no filter, just equality. He doesn\u2019t care who sees how he acts because he knows the people who matter know who he is and love him. But he keeps getting in trouble for his mouth, because he\u2019s too comfortable in front of the wrong people. \nAnd I am trying to teach him that communication is everything, but he thinks I\u2019m inhibiting who he is. That changing how he talks to certain people takes away a part of his identity, like he\u2019s pretending to be someone he isn\u2019t. \nI feel like an asshole because I don\u2019t want to change him, or make him feel like he doesn\u2019t belong. But I know if he keeps on like this then nobody will hire him, authorities will keep harassing him, and he won\u2019t make friends.  Am I the Asshole? How do I not be the Asshole but help him grow? Should I just pull the stick out of my ass? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pfQqGJMp7AA8AXwSztxQ7EbEyIbgU2t8", "post_id": "ax1omd", "action": {"description": "telling my manager to call corporate on my coworker because she smells terrible", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my manager to call corporate on my coworker because she smells terrible?", "text": "So, I work at a clothing store and there is one employee that has smelled bad for the past 4 years. It's not like 'oops I forgot to wear deodorant' stink but a 'juice that collects on the bottom of a dumpster' stink. I honestly can't tell where the smell could be coming from but it is really bad. If she gets up from a chair the chair will smell just like her and any room she goes in smells absolutely terrible because of her. Every night we have to febreze the store because she stinks up the whole store. I've met her mom and dad before and they both smell perfectly fine.\n\nI brought it up to my manager who said she had already talked to her 3 times previous because herself and other employees had a problem with her smell but she would speak with her again. My manager then spoke with this girl and I felt terrible because she came out of the office crying and left early. The next day she came back and she had no smell whatsoever. My manager said next time someone mentions the smell she will be going to corporate to speak about firing this girl or giving her some type of class on hygiene. Both of which would be embarrassing. Anyway, she smelled perfectly fine but this lasted for a week.\n\nFast forward to today, she smelled so bad that me and some other employees could not even stand to be in the same room as her. A customer came up and told me we need to wash the clothes because they smelled terrible but I know the customer was just smelling the girl she was standing next to. I plan on going and talking to my manager on tomorrow about calling corporate because it's gotten so bad. I feel bad because the girl is very nice but I literally can't even go near her because she smells so bad. I can't even understand how someone can handle smelling that bad. I don't feel like it should be my job to tell a 25 year old woman that she needs to practice personal hygiene. \n\n\nAITA for getting corporate called on my coworker?\n\n\n\n       ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "60xOs9tmSiNf9HTh1zePG6SGEkfp7ddr", "post_id": "asvrhv", "action": null, "title": "AITA: Ghosted friend after they tried to guilt trip me into having a friend ship drugs to my house", "text": "Well from the title you can see how I feel about it. But I\u2019ll try to remain as unbiased as I can from this point forward. So my friend has a hacker friend on discord, one day out of the blue he messages me and is freaking out and asks for my address (happy freak out). I tell and ask why, he said his friend (mind you, he knows I know who this person is and I believe he said friend because he knew I wouldn\u2019t be okay with it if he said who the friend was) wants to ship him free drugs as a present or something. I ask who the fiend is and then when he tells me then before I say anything he says he trusts his friend (maybe I\u2019m crazy to me it looked like he said he trusted him because he anticipated my rejection). So then I get cold feet and say I\u2019m out, then he tries to convince me saying oh it\u2019s free drugs/I trust him. Then he says that I\u2019m being an old person if I say no and to not be like his parents. (Kinda snake?). I just keep telling him I don\u2019t trust it, then he tried to guilt trip me, he says by me saying I don\u2019t trust this random guy, it\u2019s like me saying I don\u2019t trust him (my friend). But I kept saying no and he kept trying to convince me saying stuff like I\u2019ll be happy when it comes. What do you guys think? Am I reading into it too much? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tetdV882peCSUjMWdRHIasOlzyzuHeoq", "post_id": "axazw4", "action": {"description": "inadvertently making my coworker look bad", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Inadvertently Making My Coworker Look Bad?", "text": "I've only been with the organization a little over a year, but I've started to gain a reputation for being willing to take on the projects nobody wants and being able to turn them around in a time much quicker than what they would anticipate (underpromise, overdeliver). \n\nThis is largely because the previous company I worked for, I'd have to turn around large projects in 2-6 weeks where projects of smaller size at my current role I have 10-12 months to turn around. I just never adjusted my pace when I left.\n\nIn any event, I got assigned as a secondary on a project with a coworker in a different region (we report to different people, but ultimately all within the same overreaching sub-organization) and she was supposed to be the lead on it and we were given 4 months to complete this project. She's been with the organization about 8 years. \n\nBasically the project was 200 items that we had to figure out the status of, get approval to update a couple of pieces of information on, and then submit for an update. So we split the list in half straight down the middle.\n\nThen she immediately went on vacation and then just kind of vanished due to illness for a couple of weeks, leaving me on my own.\n\nSo I went to work on it and I completed my half of the list in a couple of weeks and since she was MIA, I started working on her part of the list too. Once she finally got back, I had gotten through about 70% of the list and we divided it in half again.\n\nFast forward a couple of weeks, I've completed the half that was given to me and her status update list hasn't really moved, so I've been asking her if there is anything she needs me to do do so she can complete it since I know she is really busy. She always keeps saying no. \n\nI send out reports every week with the link to the status sheet (the bosses requested this link be included) and then quick overview reports of where we are on the grand scheme of the project. I purposely don't put which percentage of who did what on the overview reports because I don't think it's relevant to presenting to a director. However, you can look at the status update sheet and see who completed what.\n\nApparently her boss decided to look at the status update sheet and saw that I had completed something like 80% of the overall list and didn't have any In Progress anymore and her part of the list was still largely set to In Progress and only had a handful of complete items and she got a stern talking to about not taking lead on it.\n\nShe was a little touchy with me this morning because of the talking to she got because apparently I made her look bad to her boss. I apologized and told her that I don't really care who does what part of the project, if she does 5% or 100%. I only care that the project gets completed on time and we are on track to completing our part 3 weeks ahead of the other teams that are working on this in their respective areas. I still don't think she's all that happy with me about it. \n\nAm I the asshole here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GLOvdK8lXi8aiCgw4EiF0q1E2almjbZ0", "post_id": "9z5tca", "action": {"description": "fighting back", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For Fighting Back?", "text": "Sorry for spelling I'm on mobile. So, today at my Highschool we had a Thanksgiving lunch. Which is just an extended, free lunch, with Thanksgiving food. So, my friend and I were spending the last 20 minutes of the lunch period discussing Fallout lore, because were nerds. And this group of like, 6 people, were being very loud and obnoxious. Screaming about butts or something. When one of them took some of her trash, and put it on our table.\n\nI picked up the trash from our table, and put it on the seat next to her. The guy sitting one seat away from her (Who by the way seems to be going on some sort of power trip. Like bragging about how much money he has.) throws the trash at me. So I pick up the trash and throw it harder back at him. He proceeds to threaten me with \"I'll beat you up boy! Dont mess with me boy!\" I ignored them and pretended that they weren't there for the rest of the lunch. AITA?\n\nTL;DR Group of annoying loud kids put trash on my table, I put it on their, They threw it at me, I threw it back, Alpha Male of group threatens me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "NJoglJp1Iiv1rVyoQjJHmxgRXTHtcC7Y", "post_id": "as6jas", "action": {"description": "expecting my mom to cover the damages that resulted from a car wreck she was in in my vehicle", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for expecting my mom to cover the damages that resulted from a car wreck she was in in my vehicle?", "text": "So backstory, my mom lives with me in California and uses my vehicle a few times a week to run errands. She's not on my insurance policy, and has her own full coverage policy on her vehicle that my brother drives back in our home state of Texas. She got into a fender bender in my vehicle and is most likely at fault. (She backed into a small sedan that creeped up behind her after she checked the blind spots) my vehicle is a jeep grand Cherokee so it sits higher up. The damage on my vehicle is minimal and will most likely buff out. But the bumper on the other us torn and the paint scuffed. She gave the other driver her insurance policy Info and parted ways. He mentioned if she didn't want to claim it on her policy he'd accept 1800 in cash for the damages. She just found out after calling her insurance that they wont cover her in my vehicle and to use my policy. I really dont want to use my policy because I had a bad driving history when I was younger and my premiums have just gotten to a point where it is affordable. Also, if I were the one to get in the wreck I would've given the guy the 1800 to avoid claiming in my insurance. So am I the asshole for expecting her to pay him out of pocket as I would do as well?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aIMMZiz0kCJCKHe28CcSA7xbQvjPSd5r", "post_id": "9x3al1", "action": {"description": "wanting to move out due to my housemates growing relationships", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting to move out due to my housemates growing relationships.", "text": "So I\u2019ve lived with the same 5 guys for the past 3 years or so, and it\u2019s been an amazing time and I wouldn\u2019t change any of it, they\u2019re my best friends and I love them all. \n\nWe finish Uni this coming Summer. Originally we were all planning on staying together as we move on into adulthood and real life jobs etc. However, over the last half year/year all of them have found themselves in relationships, which alongside studying takes up a considerable amount of time. \n\nWhereas before we would go out and do stuff as a house it\u2019s largely become them going off as couples to do things that would be weird as the only single person there. I don\u2019t resent these guys at all and I\u2019m super stoked that they\u2019re all happy, however I don\u2019t plan on getting into a relationship any time soon and I\u2019m beginning to feel more and more secluded as the only single person there. \n\nSo, last night after a few drinks I told them that I\u2019m planning on moving home after our final semester to save some money then move somewhere different. This didn\u2019t go down well, which wasn\u2019t helped by the booze. I suggested that they could use the extra room to move on one of their girlfriends or something and I got called bitter and jealous because I was single. Then I got mad and told them that I \u201cwasn\u2019t there for a fucking couples retreat\u201d and went to bed. We\u2019ve never really argued before as a house so this is foreign ground for me. \n\nNow it\u2019s the next day and I\u2019ve only spoken to one of them all day, they\u2019ve all been out at their SO\u2019s all day (what a surprise). Am I the asshole here? I really don\u2019t know. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Zre3vW3bSawB6y4OKsRvxzq5A4vMPnKC", "post_id": "aghhgs", "action": {"description": "no longer wanting to fund my brother", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for no longer wanting to fund my brother?", "text": "AITA?\n\nHeres a little backstory,\n\nmy brother and i were adopted by another family member, we went through foster care only having each other. He is 8 years older than i am. i am 19 now, he is 27. \n\nmy parents kicked him out for the last time when i was 13 and he was 21, because he wouldnt stop smoking weed, disobeying, and he could not hold a job down even though my parents got him multiple jobs.\n\nhe went to Waco, where my mother who gave us up lives (i was adopted due to drugs and theft at the age of 5, therefore i hate her and have no reason to respect his decision) and he got into some pretty hard drugs. he called me maybe once a month, and i respect that because i know he truly cares for me but cannot get out of the lifestyle he is in. time went on, i turned 18 and moved out of my parents house due to complications, he figured this out and began messaging me over facebook, as he was not allowed to while i was living with my family, because they did not want me to have any connections with my previous scumbag mother other than one call a month under their supervision. anyway, i was ok with him messaging me, but soon the messages stopped, i didnt think much of it, as he doesnt have much money and i assumed he didnt pay his phone bill. i get a text from my mom while at work, and she sent me a picture of his mugshot, and she told me he was in jail for stealing from a disabled woman he was taking care of. \n\nabout a month later i get a message from him, i didnt even read it, i went on a rant and ripped him a new one as best i could through text, calling him all sorts of names, because what kind of person steals from a disabled lady? or anyone for that matter...\n\nanyways... he apologized, said he was with a new girl that he loved very much, had a job, and they shared an apartment. he asked me for 20$ one day because they needed gas money, i had to turn him down because i had just paid a bill and didnt have more than 15$ on my debit.\n\nabout three months later he is saying that he is having trouble with groceries... he asked for money again, this time i was in a good position, had all my bills paid for the month and decided i had about 120$ to spare for my older brother. However... there was NO WAY IN HELL i was just going to transfer a drug addict 120$. mostly because i didnt want him to OD, but another reason is that i wanted my hard earned money to go to a good place...so i made him an order on HEB curbside, picked out all of his groceries, got some toiletries... it was a huge order, mainly because i got all the cheap stuff, but that shouldnt matter. i set the pickup time for the next day, i called the ladies in curbside and told them not to give it to anyone other than him, he got the order, thanked me, and all was good. \n\nfast forward to mid december, he texts me saying he needed 30$ to open an account and unlock his credit card, and he will transfer me 100$ back as a thank you for the groceries. i decided this ONE time i would transfer him money. \n\ni wait two days, and ask him where my part is, or at least my 30$ back because insurance was due...no response.\n\na day later... no response.\n\nfinally he hits me with \"yeah i dont know, i called, they said they would get back with me monday\" \n\ni may be 19, but i am not stupid. the last thing i said to him was \"dont worry about the 30$, even though you probably never were, dont ask me for help ever again\"\n\n​\n\nAITA? he wished me a happy birthday and apologized, i have him a \"thanks\" and refuse to message him back. \n\nwhat kind of man asks his 19 year old sister for financial help, knowing that i am the last one in the family that will even talk to him, then screws me over???\n\n​\n\nTL;DR brother is a loser with an addiction and asks me, his younger sister, for constant help, and eventually screws me over just like the rest of the family. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jRbqsTfPPvRDwhKUUjqGeaCaAbiA9Vjo", "post_id": "au6k8h", "action": {"description": "being rude to a person that gave me unsolicited weight loss advice", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being rude to a person that gave me unsolicited weight loss advice?", "text": "Some background: I'm 19 years old female and I've been dealing with anorexia nervosa for the past 3 years. I've been in recovery for something over a year. I started binge eating when recovering, gained weight and now I'm about 160 lb and 5'4''. I'm working with therapist to solve my problematic relationship with food and then I will focus on losing the weight.\n\nThis friday me and a few of my friends from class were talking about what dresses we are going to were to our upcoming prom. I said that I'm kind of nervous about going dress shoping because I'm scared that nothing is going to fit me and that I won't like how I look like in the dress. \n\nAnother classmate (she knows about my eating disorder) overheard me and started giving me weight loss advice - she talked about counting calories, low carb etc. Hearing it made me feel like shit, so I politely asked her to stop, and that hearing stuff like this is hard for me and that it triggers my eating disorder. She didn't stop and continued, I lost it, told her to fuck off and left.\n\nSome of my classmates and friends told me that I was too rude and apparently now think that I'm a bitch. Are they right, reddit? I know that I should have probably kept my cool, but it was hard for me and I couldn't. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Y9qb5s7SOyHqfmrK1EA5vIH0zy4njbR5", "post_id": "aigkdk", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my boyfriend for keeping me awake", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my boyfriend for keeping me awake?", "text": "My boyfriend is currently not working and spends his whole day sleeping and is up all night. I work full time and have to be up by 9. For some odd reason, I can\u2019t sleep if the person next to me is using their phone. I even ask him to use his phone after I fall asleep, which he does, and I\u2019ll wake up 3-4 times a night if he\u2019s using his phone and not at all if he\u2019s sleeping while I am. Our schedules are backwards right now so he\u2019s up whenever I\u2019m trying to sleep. I feel bad because I know there\u2019s not much for him to do if I\u2019m not awake, but I\u2019m a light sleeper and have trouble sleeping and I work every day so I need all the sleep I can get. Yesterday, I went to bed at 4 because he wanted to spend more time together and watch a movie since he slept all day. I agreed and wasn\u2019t mad even if it meant I would be tired the next day, and asked him not to use his phone because I would get even less sleep. He didn\u2019t listen and I woke up 3 times, and the last time I couldn\u2019t fall back asleep because he was still on his phone and have now gotten 4 hours of sleep.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yzIG76oUWgKAqvoLW1FcmZz8ephQOYh2", "post_id": "ajnzl1", "action": {"description": "needing an apology from my partner for leaving a pan full of oil on the stove top for hours", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for needing an apology from my partner for leaving a pan full of oil on the stove top for hours?", "text": "I\u2019m on mobile so apologies for any formatting crappiness. Some back story to this is we have a 4 week old baby, and this week is my first week back at work since she was born. I understand sleep deprivation and just the constant hassle of trying to deal with all things new born on her own is incredibly demanding. \n\nI came home from work today and while putting the groceries on the counter felt heat from a plate. When I brought it up I was met with not much more than just \u201coh I changed my mind about food and forgot\u201d. I see how that can happen, and aside from the obvious risks, that isn\u2019t the problem I had. My job involves a massive amount of travel, and while I\u2019m easing back in to it the travel is a lot less but will be increasing back to normal amounts as time goes on. I needed to hear some words that actually helped me to trust that I can go away without a distraction causing a big issue for our home and family, be it fire, flood or whatever. We didn\u2019t fight, but I was unable to drop the subject until I heard what I needed, which unfortunately ended in her feeling guilty and being quite upset. AITA for bringing it up multiple times?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "A1eYUs4eT8JB0W7VZP7NyTZdVaTP8voF", "post_id": "adisqz", "action": {"description": "telling a mom and Grandma to try to keep their toddler quiet in the library", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA For telling a mom and Grandma to try to keep their toddler quiet in the library?", "text": "I'm a firm believer that public libraries are for EVERYONE. Young, old, rich poor, everyone. Even mom's with toddlers who throw an unexpected trantrum. But the child wasn't throwing a tantrum. He was speaking at a louder volume to experiment with the echo of his voice. He didn't know any better, he was just learning. It wouldn't be a big deal if it didn't go on for like a whole 3 minute in the main check out section (not kids section). The parents were encouraging him to continue because they thought it was cute. And it was for a second but it got to be so jarring in such a quiet space. \n\nIt's not my job to police how folks raise their child, I get that but this would have been a great way to demonstrate the culture of a library. Make it game! Instead, it was like an alarm was echoing through the whole place. WIBTA, if I politely asked the months to try to encourage their curious child to be quieter? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nvlA3LgNUGlTPymcXeg11oLnOQMzdTjF", "post_id": "b8y51u", "action": {"description": "putting a sticker on a windshield of a double parked vehicle", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 20}, "title": "AITA for putting a sticker on a windshield of a double parked vehicle?", "text": "This is just a random google image of a [double parker](https://www.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/7/76/Double_parked_car_with_diplomatic_tags_in_San_Francisco.jpg&imgrefurl=http://www.wikiwand.com/en/Double_parking&tbnid=VIL89tYvOo5F1M&vet=1&docid=2v8n05qlXTQ7vM&w=1910&h=1098&hl=en-us&source=sh/x/im&client=safari), but it is close enough to my situation for example purposes.  I live on a street perpendicular to a street like this that has a restaurant where people double park like this to go grab takeout.  If I want to leave my street and turn left or right, I can\u2019t see traffic because of the double parking.  The restaurant owner doesn\u2019t care, because business is business.  The times I\u2019ve confronted people about doing this, they say something along the lines of, \u201cI\u2019ll be just five minutes.\u201d  The police will only ticket cars if they drive by.  Since I\u2019m not left with many options, I\u2019ve resorted to taking big green stickers with \u201cno parking\u201d on them and slapping them on their windshield.  The stickers do not peel off easily.  In fact if you try, they only tear off the green color and leave the white backing behind.  It takes a razor blade to scrape them off, so it\u2019s not damaging their windshield.  It\u2019s just highly inconvenient, which is the point. AITA for inconveniencing them?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 20}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "wbgYFbbqBVv9deDtecgATpQ2VpsHo5XN", "post_id": "a6ew3r", "action": {"description": "judging how my husband handled the situation of taking care of my drunk sister", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for judging how my husband handled the situation of taking care of my drunk sister?", "text": "Setting: company party last night at a fancy restaurant. Sister (24) was on an empty stomach and had 5 drinks. Midway through dinner I realize the severity of how drunk she is (being super loud, not being able to walk straight, wanting to pee all the time) She went from zero to sloppy drunk. I tried to make her drink water but it was too late I guess. I went with her to the bathroom where she puked. I took her outside to get fresh air and she was sitting on a bench complaining she\u2019s cold and wanted to go home. I kept telling her to drink water and assured her that we were just waiting on my husband so we could leave. I sneak off to my husband and he offers to switch places so he could watch her while I socialize w my coworkers (sister and I work at the same company). We assume after a few she\u2019ll sober up and the night won\u2019t be a total failure. It\u2019s his turn to watch her when after about 10 minutes he comes back saying don\u2019t be upset. Your sister ran off on me. She kept insisting she wanted to go home and she didn\u2019t want to wait any longer. I tried to stop her but she punched me twice so I got pissed off and let her go. She\u2019s a grown adult. \nSooooo, AITA for being mad that my husband let her go in her drunken state? \n\n(Story has a happy ending, not sure if that matters to form your opinion.) sigh. Thanks, Reddit. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "FqRESBO2jODAXE2CzRmZQMdSorGcSJRl", "post_id": "a248em", "action": {"description": "wanting to bang my gf", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA For wanting to bang my Gf", "text": "Firstly typing on mobile and sorry for poor formatting. (May seem like im looking for advice but am not). Firstly backround: So me and my Gf have been dating for over 3 years now and I would say we have a pretty strong relationship. We barely fight and enjoy eachothers company and many days are perfect. We moved into together about a year ago in a small one bedroom studio.\n\nFast forward to the past couple of months. She has been increasing not willing or wanting to have sex with me on any basis. She will walk around the appartment naked for most of the time she is home. And whenever i suggest we get busy with its a stern  no followed by a barrade of how rude it is to assume that just becasue she is naked we should have sex. Now im not saying that i deserve it or anything. I mearly make the suggestion and yet get yelled at everytime. She will even like dance around and show off her bodus in front of me but as soon as getting busy comes up its nope! Followed by a good 20 mins of being yelled at. Am i the asshole here.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "c5n42Jbj36IxJcDIDeHGcHdfr8ITKE4Y", "post_id": "ahke0q", "action": {"description": "trying to change the subject when my roommate and close friend are talking in a language I dont know", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for trying to change the subject when my roommate and close friend are talking in a language I dont know", "text": "To start with, my roommate is Russian. She isn't fluent, but knows enough to get by because of her parents. I thought it was cool at first because occasionally she'll teach me Russian. Sometimes, however, we'll hang out with my close friend who is fully Russian and fully fluent in the language and they'll randomly change the language of what they speak in our three person conversation. I'll start to feel left out since they usually speak in it for about  two minutes so I  change the subject so I can get involved. Now an hour later when my roommate is alone with me she's being passive aggressive and I think this is why?\n\nTldr: am I an asshole for interrupting a conversation I'm not involved in because of a language barrier so I can be involved?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "URZMBMZbniScW2gCwZ0CjnVZy4SUFYwl", "post_id": "a28b06", "action": {"description": "wanting them to just follow the rules", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting them to just follow the rules?", "text": "I'm in a discord server with some friends, and the number 1 rule is simple: memes only in meme channel.\n\nA month ago, they started posting lots of memes in the channel i use the most as a joke, and at first it was kinda funny.\n\nAfter the 6th day or so, i was kinda getting angry. I told them to stop or they're getting banned. They all ignored me. \n\nToday,i banned the spammiest one, and everyone's calling me a \"jerkhole assclown dickrubber\" of all things. So the question stands, am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pb6MyY5NKFtTc8m3e5ir6EHyyYyqvTEq", "post_id": "a8au0l", "action": null, "title": "AITA That ruined my fiancees Christmas?", "text": "My fiancee was an online preformer and quit to be with me she is from a different country and is a green card holder.\n\nShe had undiagnosed Emphysema from a genetic deficiency that progressed to a late stage before it was caught even though we are only in our mid 20s and shes never smoked. She can't work now and can't benefit from social programs as she never paid into the system.\n\nso I got the best paying job working 60 hours a week to scrape a living making her life as comfortable as I can.\n\nShe was disowned by her family for stopping supporting them with  her past online activities but is still close to her kid sister and one of her friends back home she wanted to get them gifts to let them know she loves them and still thinks about them.\n\nOur budget is so strict I can't even afford to buy anyone even her a gift. It's a point of contention between us often. She's bored of doing nothing and wants to go out but it's all she can do to stand without running out of breath so she can't work at most places and even for office work they site safety concerns having her work anywhere so she can't make money on her own.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NDhJeVeC4zJdgCtvvucijsgYlKXP5B1y", "post_id": "acfgct", "action": {"description": "wanting to cancel my roommate's lease even though he's a fine roommate", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting to cancel my roommate's lease even though he's a fine roommate?", "text": "A bit of context:\n\nI bought a house about 3 years ago. A coworker (not on my team but same department) kind of pushed me (and yes I'm a pushover) to let him rent from me.\n\nSo yes he's my roommate and my tenant.\n\nHe pays seriously low rent. He pays about 75% of the low end of what he might pay elsewhere (60% of what he'd have to pay if he split an actual apartment). He pays about $100 total for all utilities (cable, internet, water, sewage, electrical, gas) and I pay the actual bills (my portion is easily 3x his).\n\nTo be clear, he **is not a bad guy and he would probably pay if I asked for more.**\n\nIt's just that it's my house and I kinda want to enjoy it by myself. Plus a lot of things he does annoys me. He left the fucking front door open once! I have security cameras and he just makes fun of it and constantly forgets to arm it. He never turns the light off anywhere. The few rules I have for safety purposes he forgets (don't turn on the dryer and leave the house, please for the love of god unplug the god damn toaster oven). He rarely takes the recycling out. After two years of begging he finally takes out the trash but only if he made chicken that day (and he hasn't learned how to put the trash can out for collection). Not maliciously, he's just clueless.\n\nAnd I admit at first I was happy to have him because I figured I could meet more people through him and what not. But nope that isn't happening. \n\nIf he leaves, I would have so much freedom that I constantly day dream about this. Like I could use his room as a game room! I could actually vacuum the whole house (I'm a neat freak... he hasn't washed the bathroom rug in the nearly 3 years he has been here - he also didn't how to use a vacuum cleaner). I could dance around naked the house! I can put up speakers everywhere and play all of my shitty songs! I won't have to check if he closed the front door!\n\nAnyway I've had some of my friends and mutual co-workers call me an asshole because I said I wanted to cancel his lease in the next two months (yes I plan on giving him like 50 day notice). They say I'm a lucky fuck for being able to find a good roommate (because he is) and others struggle finding a good roommate (and I agree - all of my roommates in college were nightmares). They say I'm spoiled for throwing away a source of income. They say I'm an asshole for making him find a another place in a tough market. \n\nI really keep dreaming about enjoying the house alone, but I fear they are right. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Rt8b5kut2U2eUuQe0pbffDnCK5bvSvMU", "post_id": "9xruay", "action": null, "title": "AITA for this class presentation?", "text": " Alright,  to give some backstory I'm currently in my last year at college and like so many others I'm not a big fan of public speaking. Out of all the things that I wouldn't want to do it's probably in the top 10. Anyway,  up until this semester I've probably had to give dozens of presentations in my other classes. With those it wasn't that bad tho because they would typically be group presentations or short 5-7 minute ones.  I could handle them.  This year I had one that was different.  It would be a 10-20 min presentation all by yourself ( and 40% of final grade). Additionally, the presentation could be any format that you wanted as long as you met  the time requirement.  This is where I made my plan. \n\nNow most people did something simple like a PowerPoint and would just read off of it hoping that they were able to reach the 10 minute mark,  not me. I made a trivia game for the class to play. I should also note that every night for homework we are assigned some reading from the textbook to do, most people don't,  I knew this. That chapter in the textbook is where I got most of the questions for the trivia. \n\nNow I had a few reasons for going with trivia.  For one it would have been more interesting for the rest of the class if they could interact with it rather than just sitting there trying to stay awake during a PowerPoint.  It would also work as a review for the final coming up since it is also largely based on the textbook. These were not my primary reasons for doing trivia tho.  I knew trivia would take the professor's attention off of me since I wad presenting and put it on the rest of the class since all the answers were right in the reading that no one did.  It was also so much easier to reach the time limit when the thing that took the longest wad just the silence caused by other people not knowing the answers. Also most presentations end with the rest of the class asking the presenter questions but not mine,  I asked the questions. \n\nWhen I told my roommate about it he said that I was \"the worst kind of person\" which I understand get is a bit facetious but it's still completely possible that I'm an asshole (I will 100% do it again if I can tho). All I did was take a gamble that people didn't read and it worked out. If they had then my presentation would have only been like 5 min and I would have been SOL. \n\nSo am I am asshole for doing this or was I in the right and just used the rules of the assignment to my advantage? Then again,  maybe both are true.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "izM9K2cwLtTf5y3NfkfpRMcCqDiEDwAo", "post_id": "agz331", "action": {"description": "forcing a relocation after moving for my wife years earlier", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I force a relocation after moving for my wife years earlier? (Very long, tl,dr at bottom)", "text": "OK so please stay with me this is a very complex situation. My wife and I have been married for 4 years and together for over 8. For a little over 3 years we have lived in NYC which I absolutely hate. It overwhelms me, it is outrageously expensive, and is just hard to live in unless you are one of the mega-rich. We moved to the city to pursue my wife's dream of becoming a professional actor. Initially, the plan was to live here for two years and if she had not accomplished much by that time we would move back home (we are from the southeast). \n\nDuring this time I have worked 4 different jobs and slowly made a decent living for us but it has been brutal. When we first moved I had to take a 100% commission job in sales just to get hired.  Seven days a week work because I had to sell or there was no money. Needless to say we blew through what savings we had pretty quickly, most of which was from selling my car to afford the first couple of months rent. After the sales job I worked for a restaurant start up for a year, then broke in to healthcare management, and now manage a clinic. I have a good employer at this point, and our finances are at long last somewhat stable (been there 8 months). \n\nMy wife has made consistent progress in becoming an actor and trying to join one of the acting unions. She had to start with choir and ensemble roles, but over the time we have spent here she has worked and worked and made it in to principal roles and paid contracts. Now, when I say paid I mean technically they get a check but it is criminal what these theatre companies are able to get away with (we are talking like $200/week). I am extremely proud of her, and I have zero doubts that she isn't always doing her best to make something happen. I love my wife dearly and I know she loves me.\n\nThat said, I have always been the one that has to pay all of our bills. Rent, Internet, Phone, Electric I pay 100% every month and buy most of our groceries. I have very little residual income at the end of each month after bills though fortunately at this point I do have some going in to a 401k. I was already starting to burn out and then a real life change occured....\n\nMy father passed away unexpectedly last spring. We knew he wasn't in great health, but this was a shock. I got the call one morning and he was just gone. I loved my dad, he was a tremendous man who made sure I had good opportunities and was always around for me as I grew up. I was so fortunate to have a father that truly cared. I say that because this was a soul-crushing blow to me and has completely shaken me to my core and I still feel it every day.\n\nBefore his death, I had the resolve from knowing that even though I didn't like living in NYC my wife loves it and that I am being a good spouse for giving her the opportunity to pursue her dream. But now I can't handle it. I have panic attacks all the time, I have been going to a psychologist since November and have had no significant breakthroughs. I feel depressed all the time. I am trying to see a psychiatrist but finding one that takes our insurance has been tough. I have a very hard time completing even basic functions, and I know that my mom and brother are struggling. \n\nI want to move back south asap and get closer to our family. I want to start preparing for my wife and I's life together and  getting to a place where I can deal with this grief. We speak about it all the time and I know she doesn't want to leave NYC. She will but her conditions have been that I have to have a job lined up before we can, and she only really is OK with moving to Atlanta, Georgia (we are not from Georgia) because there is a market for her work there. I am torn because part of me thinks that my health should 100% be a drop everything and lets get you right sort of scenario for her but it doesn't seem to be all of the time. Then I am also torn because I feel I should be stronger and able to handle these things so that she can keep working on what she wants whether it be in NYC or elsewhere. I think my mental stability has about 6 months tops left in the city before I really break.\n\nSo I guess all of that is to ask this question. Would I be the asshole if I, after a reasonable effort is spent, relocate us back south after devoting 3.5 years of my life to helping her with her goal of being an NYC actor?\n\nThank you to anyone kind enough to read through that wall of text.\n\ntl,dr\n\nI relocated to NYC for my wife a little over 3 years ago to support her in her dream of being a professional actor. I hate living there, she loves it. I am the breadwinner and pay 100% of our bills, but she has made progress in establishing her career. My father passed away last spring and now my mental health has gone to s**t with the grief making the anxiety I have from living in the city, on top of the sheer grief itself, even worse. She doesn't want to leave but will concede to relocating to ATL, GA as there is a market there for her work. I just want to get close to home. Would I be the asshole if I, after a reasonable effort is spent, relocate us back south after devoting 3.5 years of my life to helping her with her goal of being an NYC actor?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "H2IEiCRvFpk6e1Pu5v1N6UkOXNgonX4M", "post_id": "ax2dvz", "action": {"description": "not being as visibly sad as everyone else that my Grandma is dying", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not being as visibly sad as everyone else that my Grandma is dying?", "text": "       Just so y\u2019all know, I am INCREDIBLY sad about this. My grandmother is one of the most special people in my life and she has gotten me through some of the most difficult parts of my life (which I\u2019d rather not talk about) and my and her connect on a deep level. \n       \n       However a) I am not nor have ever been the \u201ccrying type\u201d &  b) while I am sad I find it best not to constantly think about it because it doesn\u2019t help anything and I just get sad and kinda depressed. My mother seems to get the impression that I don\u2019t care/ am not sad about it. AITA for this? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zG9cGR3lw3I6IX4GmSlHunQ7mtL9MDCp", "post_id": "b2bgwz", "action": {"description": "breaking off a toxic friendship", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for breaking off a toxic friendship", "text": "I met this girl about 9 months ago. She seemed nice enough and I'm fairly new to town so we friend each other on Facebook and start hanging out. She's basically a 13 year old (some form of developmental disability) but she's actually 30+. Everything is always about her and her ex, how she wants a baby, and how she needs a boyfriend. She bombarded me with messages all day and if I didn't reply (cause I was at work), she would send me more. I took her to another city for her birthday and we went to dinner, the adult store (lingerie and such), and drinks with my friends. By the end of the night, she wanted to go home with one of said friends. She cried to said friend because she and I haven't hooked up yet (I'm bi, she isn't), and then called me repeatedly cause she thought I left her there. My phone was on silent so I didn't hear it. She basically bombards friends with messages (like 20 in 2 hours) and expects me to basically be a babysitter when we go out. At this point, I'm fed up with the crap she talks about (trying to hook up with anyone & everyone, trying to marry her ex best friends husband, and having a baby). This girl is legit not capable of caring for herself and cannot cook or clean or hold a job. I tell her she needs hobbies and try to get her to different topics of conversation. She refuses to stop talking about above stuff and is trying to get guys to date her. She was telling people around town details about us going out and telling everyone about get lingerie. By this point, I'm frustrated beyond belief because I want a friend, not a child and she's not understanding even though I keep talking to her about it and I am stressed to the max. It finally blows up when I get a call from another friend about something she said. I tell her I'm upset and need time, she decided we aren't friends anymore and blocks me. I'm not upset about this at all. Does that make me the ass? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Tb5pA0KE7duQsvVzigrdkXgTyaKqiwuk", "post_id": "at58it", "action": {"description": "getting upset at my so for not saying anything to me about one of my potted plants that got knocked off its shelf and letting the baby be unattended long enough to do it", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for getting upset at my SO for not saying anything to me about one of my potted plants that got knocked off its shelf and letting the baby be unattended long enough to do it?", "text": "Today I noticed one of my potted plants hanging off of the shelf where it normally sits. This usually means the baby got to it - she puts her feet on the bottom shelf and hoists herself up. Usually this section of the room is off-limits for this reason. The pot was nowhere to be found. Definitely the baby. As I went to fix it I noticed it was basically on the verge of death so I asked my SO if she knew it was like that.\n\nHer: What plant?\n\nMe: This plant\n\nHer: Oh yeah, it's been that way for a week *shrugs*\n\n*Note: I've been away on business and only recently returned home*\n\nMe: (frustrated) Thanks. You could have said something about it, it's basically dead at this point\n\nHer: How is this MY fault!? I didn't know it shouldn't be like that!\n\nMe: How could you not know a plant shouldn't be hanging from a shelf without a pot? And when you found a random plant pot on the ground, saw a plant hanging off the shelf, and didn't either think that's not normal or to at least say anything to me? Also why was the baby left unattended (again!) long enough that she was able to climb up there, de-pot a plant, and then run around with the glass pot, also unattended? And you saw all of this and never thought anything was strange about it?\n\nHer: Well I didn't know the plant needed a pot. I've only seen it once before this (when it was in a pot, on the shelf, like all the other plants)\n\nIt's worth mentioning that she has plenty of her own house plants - it's not just a me-only hobby that she's clueless about.\n\nWho's TA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "re3VCVb2p1JKxUJjf8N5caQBy3wzo5Gm", "post_id": "ao59vw", "action": {"description": "refusing to take a piece of candy from a girl in my class", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for refusing to take a piece of candy from a girl in my class?", "text": "This girl came back from a trip overseas, and brought a pack of sweets to give out to our class. When she got to me, I refused. My rationale is I don\u2019t like sweets, even more so for foreign sweets. Furthermore, if I ever took one, it would end up in the trash can which is even more rude than not taking it. I got called rude and an asshole for this, so am I really?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "c4ChPbqJz6L9isoRejP7MV31oDB8WlKm", "post_id": "a6asxb", "action": {"description": "hooking up with a slump buster", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for hooking up with a slump buster?", "text": "Baseball is a very superstitious sport. Everyone has the own superstitions and habits and there are plenty of baseball wide ones. One of the less well known one is called a \"slump buster\". That is when you are in a really bad slump, just can't hit you way out of a paper bag. You go to a local bar pick up the ugliest girl there and take her home.\n\nI have done that a few times in my career and it always seems to work. Well last season I did it with a girl that was particularly ugly, to the point that the guys still bring it up. \n\nWell last night me, my new girlfriend and few of my teammates are hanging out and my teammates start ragging on me about it. My girlfriend calls us disgusting pigs and walks away.\n\nNone of these girls were ever under the illusion that this was anything more than a one night stand. So am I an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "QQOjaHUhr5rJxlsZAxLfLMGumCMhVm45", "post_id": "b5zgaa", "action": {"description": "telling his girlfriend he has betrayed her", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA If I told his girlfriend he has betrayed her", "text": "Anna confessed her feelings to a guy with a girlfriend (been dating for 4 years and let's call him Jim). Jim said that he feels the same way about Anna but they should be friends for now.\u00a0 Anna tries to convince Jim to break up with his girlfriend but Jim says he can't because he doesn't want to be homeless. Anna is under the impression that they are going to date once his relationship is over.\u00a0 I feel as if Jim is in the wrong for even acting as if they are going to have something while he is dating another girl. On top of that, he stays over late most days in a dark room with Anna \"watching movies\".\n\nI\u00a0 think Jim has already betrayed his girlfriend and I feel terrible for her. He has shared private details about his sex life with Anna and how is unsatisfied. I think it's extremely selfish of him to string his girlfriend along cause he doesn't wanna be homeless \n\nI do admit that I feel strongly about the whole cheating thing. My mom was cheated on more times than I can count and I've been cheated on. that shit sucks and if it were to happen again I would want to know.\n\nI also admit I hate this guy for acting like this while he has a girlfriend and I hide his shoes everytime he is over as a little fuck you...\n\nWould I be an asshole if I were to tell his girlfriend about what he has been doing behind her back? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OBV4mcs6Wg5lRYk0CCiNFiqXoysifWFx", "post_id": "afasmx", "action": {"description": "changing my viewpoint and trying to fix something", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for changing my viewpoint and trying to fix something?", "text": "So last night I went out with my SO to go and see a show. It finished at 10.30 and I was working the next day. I did say we would go for a drink after the show but when it came to the end and I saw the time I figured we would head home.\n\nMy SO then got very angry with me and said I would go for a drink. I then realised I was in the wrong and suggested many different places but she said no, having already got mad that I originally said no.\n\nI recommended several different places we could go for a drink and she refuted all of them.\n\nI was baffled that she would not accept that I realised I was wrong and she said that she doesn't want to do something I obviously don't want to do. She said I was only doing this in order to make her happy, to which I replied of course, I want to make her happy and realise the error of my ways.\n\nThis resulted in a huge argument and she hasn't spoken to me since, stating that she needs some time alone to think.\n\nWhat went wrong here. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gTtrNyOhYwLTy22ftP0FsaFv0A7M6TKJ", "post_id": "b5zg56", "action": {"description": "leaving a mess on the table so the people who invaded our space had to clean it up", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for leaving a mess on the table so the people who invaded our space had to clean it up?", "text": "So at my University I was having lunch with 2 of my friends and we were also working at this table at the same time. We've been there for a few hours. When lunch time comes around 7 girls show up and just start sitting at our table and bring other chairs from nearby. They never once asked if they could join us or if they were bothering us, it was as if we weren't even there. They started blasting music and just talking really loudly to the point we not only couldn't work productively but we could barely talk to each other. More and more girls show up until there's maybe 10-15? Idk they kept coming and we decided to leave. We leave all of our plates and dishes as well as garbage from before hand. While we were leaving I talked to my friends in Spanish (none of the girls speak spanish i think) and tell them to make it as messy as possible. I \"accidentally\" spilled the ketchup which went on their legs and stained two of their white skirts. My buddy also \"accidentally spilled\" his soda ruining causing all of them to back up and get their food out of the way. We walk away with a big mess as if nothing happened while they're screaming at us and the neighboring people snap chatted it. They became kind of a laughing stock. They're pissed at me and give me nasty glares but whatever idgaf. AITA here cuz now i feel a bit guilty about the situation", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "1hjRBLPkX0Hh2bKmAst5lEEnFx5YQEnm", "post_id": "arhik1", "action": {"description": "telling my sister to find a New Place to live", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA: For Telling My Sister to Find A New Place to Live", "text": "My sister (18) is here in United States on student visa. My husband and I pay for most of her stuff, in case that matters. Her boyfriend is Mexican citizen and she was telling me how she wants to go with him to Mexico during spring break. I told her that currently Mexico is not safe, and even my Mexican co-workers are avoiding doing there. I told her that I would love to visit Mexico too, but right now it's not worth the risk. We left it at that, no big deal. \n\nEarlier today, I get a text from her saying that she is going to Tijuana for tacos with her boyfriend's family. I called her and asked whether she can enter the US back, and she said that his family \nsaid it will be fine. I informed her that boyfriend and his family are Mexican citizens; however, she is a citizen of different country and she will need visa to get it! But most importantly, will she be able to get back into the country? She kept saying it'll be fine. I told her that this decision is irresponsible and she needs to come back home, to which she replied \"it's going to be fine.\" \n\nI broke down crying because this is not the first time she makes an irresponsible decision and goes against me. My husband called her and told her that if she doesn't come home right now, she is flying back home.\n\nShe called me and I explained to her that right now she is my responsibility and I am her mother figure. Our mom (who is 10,000 miles away) is sleeping right now and doesn't even know this is happening! If something happens to her, it will be on me and I don't want to risk anything happening to her. She told me I am overreacting and start acting like sister, i.e. support her. I totally lost it and said that she is 18 and this is her decision. However, if she chooses to go to Mexico, when she gets back she needs to pack her stuff and find a new place to live because clearly she doesn't give a shit about my boundaries. She replied that after my husband yelling at her, she doesn't know if things can go back to normal. \n\nOur family shares our locations on Google Maps, and she is by Mexican border, so she chose to go. According to my Google search, she does need visa to get to the Mexico, AND she needs to notify her school prior to travel. I am so pissed at her for completely ignoring my concerns and presenting me with the fact that she is going to Mexico on the way to Mexico?\nTLDR: Younger sister went to Mexico with her boyfriend's family and notified me on her way there. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HWpE2dXuyjH9q2TRZufaFIrvr0oTxpIc", "post_id": "atkjvw", "action": {"description": "waking up a guy that was snoring in a dormitory at a hostel", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for waking up a guy that was snoring in a dormitory at a hostel?", "text": "Some dude was snoring loud as fuck in a hostel dorm with like 16 beds in it. I was sleeping in the bed behind him, so at first, I just kicked his bed panel and it made him stop for about 30 minutes. He was on the bottom bunk but I figured it was easier to just kick the panel at the top.\n\nThen it started again...so I kicked the panel again and yelled \u201cKNOCK IT OFF.\u201d He stopped once more, but it only took another 15 minutes for the inevitable to return.\n\nThis time, I got down from my top bunk and woke him up by pushing his shoulder. He seemed to wake up and not realize what was happening, but he didn\u2019t snore for the rest of the night, so it worked.\n\nMy friends staying with me thought it was embarrassing that I did that, particularly that I was giving off a bad American impression in a room full of foreigners. But I got the job done, so AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "EtYFeFLD7AQIOp0DjPR2sJWM6fVW3sdR", "post_id": "9y108c", "action": {"description": "renting a Uhaul for my friends and then reporting it stolen when they didn't return it", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for renting a Uhaul for my friends and then reporting it stolen when they didn't return it?", "text": "I was helping some friends of mine financially for a while, but I couldn't do it anymore. They relied on me a lot and I told them that I couldn't be responsible for them anymore.  The female is a very nice lady that is unfortunately associated with the male. The male has taken advantage of me before and it's only because of the female that I associated with him at all.  They were good friends and roommates. \n\nThey hit some hard times financially and were eventually kicked out of their home for non-payment of rent and I was trying to be helpful and rented them a Uhaul truck with the understanding that it would be returned the next day (Thursday).  \n\nThursday turned into Saturday. Come to find out that they planned to live in the truck until they found a place. Not part of the original plan.  My dad and I went to pick up the truck on Saturday like they agreed but they weren't there. After several phone calls, they promised to meet us at the Uhaul store that afternoon. They never showed and blocked our phone #s and we waited there for six hours. \n\nOn Monday, I got a text that they planned to return the truck on Wednesday, seven days after the initial rental. I was still trying to be reasonable at this point so I agreed. On Wednesday, they said to meet them at their old house on Friday morning. \n\nFriday morning came and my mom and I went there. Surprise surprise, they weren't there. The female called, though, and said she'd had some problems, etc. and that she would return the truck that night and even give me money towards it (I didn't care about that as much as just returning it so the expense wouldn't keep going up).  I told her that if it wasn't returned that evening I would call the police. \n\nFriday afternoon I got a call from the male saying that the female is going to hang on to the truck and it won't be returned that night. He says he is in a different state, though I had reason to believe he is still with the female.  Again, I stated if it wasn't returned that I would call the police. He became very belligerent and threatened to call the police claiming I stole some property I had that was the female's (which she gave me and I have text messages telling me to keep it). \n\nFriday evening, I went to Uhaul to get the necessary information on the truck and then to the police to at least see if a phone call from the police would be enough to spur my friends into returning it. While I was at the police station, the female called me and said that she still planned to return the truck that night, but she had been out looking for places to live and will not return to the truck until much later in the evening.  She seemed very upset over the whole thing and I agreed to await further instructions from her about picking it up.  However, I asked for the location of the vehicle and she claimed not to know. It was parked at a friend's house and she didn't know the street name. \n\nThe agreement was for her to call me in an hour when she got back to the vehicle. I texted her when I hadn't heard from her an hour and a half later.  She said then that she would call me in twenty minutes. That was the last I heard from her.  I called her about thirty times and texted several times with no answer all over the next 12 hours.  \n\nFinally, on Saturday morning (today), I gave her a warning that in an hour, if I didn't hear from her, I was going to follow through and go back to the police. \n\nWhen the hour was up, I called and texted her again with no answer.  I went to the police and filed the report.  Then went to Uhaul and gave them the information. I texted her to let her know that if she returned the truck at night after hours, Uhaul would not do anything to her (that's what I was told). However, if she was caught with it, then she/he would be arrested. \n\nI feel really bad and I hate to see anyone get arrested but I grew tired of the lies.   Am I a jerk?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "la3gXFY7td4SCj6ikn3nNWgZ15Bo2HSn", "post_id": "b84k0a", "action": {"description": "taking in a puppy and not buying the cage off the owner", "pronormative_score": 20, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA If I took in a puppy and didn\u2019t buy the cage off the owner.", "text": "So on Saturday I got a call from cousin to comeover her place because she had a 5 month old mixed husky puppy someone was giving away. A soccer coach of her nephew had dropped it off for my cousin to find her a home because he did not have time for her. If she couldn\u2019t find a home he would drop her off at the shelter.\n\nI went over and I instantly wanted her. My cousin called the coach and let him know and he was okay with me bringing her home then and there. She spent the night with me and the next day my cousin called saying the coach wanted to sell me her previous cage. I told my cousin I would just order a new one.\n\nLater that day my cousin texts me that the owner wanted her back because he found someone willing to pay. But apparently my cousin had told him off saying he already gave her away to someone and that its wrong to just take her back just to make some money off of her. \n\nI can\u2019t help but feel bad. Should I have bought the cage off of him because now he just has an empty cage? Maybe he just had regrets about giving her away? AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 20, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 20, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9Y5s6Hzn3gU03sZKUYzGWaGhQRDqDhFq", "post_id": "afgk5e", "action": {"description": "scolding my classmate for non-contribution to our group project", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "Aita for scolding my classmate for non-contribution to our group project?", "text": "she has a track record of not contributing to group projects, and this isn\u2019t my first time with her. as much as i try to be understanding, when it comes to deadlines, we usually set a date for our own parts to be finished and this is usually a couple days before the actual submission of the project. she never heeds that deadline and oftentimes does her part right before the actual submission - which i just detest doing because i feel the quality of work is compromised. \nit\u2019s not like she doesn\u2019t reply in group chats or gives ideas about the work, she just does not do her assigned part. \nthe thing is - she has ADHD. she isn\u2019t secretive about that and i know she needs more effort to do work. the other day, my friend was ranting about her and said something along the lines of \u201cjust because she has ADHD, everyone\u2019s gonna brush off her mistakes and she never gets any consequences\u201d. hearing this did make me uncomfortable, I don\u2019t agree with the way my friend used her mental disorder to belittle her, if that makes sense.  \nanother project is due soon, and she has not done any work despite our group-set deadline being a couple days back. i got pissed and just sent her a chain of messages, basically commenting on her lack of responsibility to do work, and telling her that whether she chose to do the work or not wouldn\u2019t affect us - the rest of us would just make up for it. but after sending that i felt, basically like an asshole. \n\nTLDR; group member never does any work, but she has ADHD, was i wrong to scold her lack of responsibility because i should be more understanding of her mental disorder? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "zAHXue2FRZmc3xc8ApT35F1inutcpZgh", "post_id": "annc73", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Refused to speak with some one, and called the cops.", "text": "Posted a couple of times in other threads that aren't my own, but I would love a second opinon here.\n\nIt was pouring rain, and my gate to my gated community wasn't working properly on my little buzzer, and the gate code wasn't working, and some one pulled up behind me. After a minute of the gate not taking the code I pull forward to see if the person waiting can get it to open. Of course, they do. I loop around and follow them in. Then this person decides to stop, and block the gate. Not allowing me forward. I honk once kind of curious as to what was happening. No response.. i hold the horn down until she gets out, ( I should mention at this point I called the police for some one I don't know blocking my gate.) And she says \"You're trying to sneak in\" when she walks up to my window. I simply told her I called the cops and rolled up my window. She pulls forward after someone else pulls up and she relents and moves in.. she then decides to try and follow me home. I pull over and wait for the police. She did leave and circle back to see if she could figure out where I lived. Cops showed up and said they'd contact her for her inappropriate behavior. \n\nI guess AITA for refusing to tell her I live there? I do live here,  but in my opinion this woman was really trying to get me to respect her authority or some sort of power trip. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qz2nk6J7ri8wvBFUvt6uLdLtoKxT6dp0", "post_id": "aphf8d", "action": {"description": "being friends with assholes", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for being friends with assholes?", "text": "I\u2019m in high school so I apologize if my immaturity shows through this post. I\u2019m friends with most of the guys on my soccer team. They\u2019ve always been awesome to me. If there\u2019s a party going on or they\u2019re all doing something they make sure to always include me or ask me if I want to come. They\u2019ve taken the fall for me multiple times when it should\u2019ve been all of us who should\u2019ve gotten in trouble and have never asked of me to do the same. The bad thing is that they can be assholes to other people. Sometimes they\u2019ll roast kids who they think are weird ( weebs, kids who we think are furries or are into weird stuff). The bullying can be brutal sometimes and while I tell them to stop, and sometimes they do, they\u2019ll continue doing it. People at school have the impression of me that I\u2019m a nice person in general so they always ask me  to either keep them in check or to stop being friends with them. They say that by being friends with them while they\u2019re bullying other students is me condoning their actions. Now I don\u2019t like them bullying other kids but that\u2019s not enough for me to stop being friends with them. Even though I don\u2019t take part in the bullying am I an asshole for being friends with them regardless?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "TmejoMGyTTl9XixdG24G1UvbATjYppHM", "post_id": "9zd3gv", "action": {"description": "visiting girlfriend 7000 miles away and wanting some attention", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA Visiting girlfriend 7000 miles away and wanting some attention", "text": "A little background: My girlfriend and I have known each other for two years, we use to work together. We were together for two months before our jobs had her relocate to a foreign country, then we talked and video chatted daily for a month leading up to my visit. I love her so much, we click really well, and we had been talking about engagement leading up to the trip.\n\nAlso, go easy on me, I'm not a great writer.\n\nWell, I got my trip situated to put in for leave for the entire duration of the trip (14 days total) with two days travel time on the front end and three days on the backend. I had all my flights booked, made it there after some pretty long flights, no problems in our relationship at all before getting there. We were so excited to be seeing each other for the first time in months, and it had been about a year since our last romantic encounter. We broke up for about a year after a two-month fling that got a little ugly because she was going through a bad divorce. We talked about it a lot after-words and we ended it because she started to love me, and she wasn't ready for that so soon after her divorce.\n\nWell, I show up and everything is great, better than great actually. The sex is fantastic, we are laughing, eating, having fun. Just a really awesome time only problem at this time is her internet went off because she forgot to pay the bill for a few months. Well we get to the third day of the trip she has an appointment she has to go to and I ask if she wants me to give her some space since we had spent so much time together. I thought it might be healthy to take a breather. Well, she didn't like that too much and she told me \"I'm not wasting my breath asking if you want to come, you can come if you want to but I'm not making you do anything.\" in sort of a negative tone. So I wait a little bit, still not sure if I should go after the aggression but decide to start getting ready. Usually, she takes a bit longer to get ready so I was a little slow on the ball and she leaves after telling me I was too slow and should have gotten ready earlier, fair, but keep in mind it was still about 45 minutes to the appointment, which was right down the road. So I wait until she gets back and I ask if she wants to talk about it, she tells me not really. So I apologize and tell her my point of view on the interaction. She gets very upset at me and tells me to stop starting shit. I was a little taken aback by that and remained quiet and let her get it out of her system, she took this as me pouting. I help her with the bill which is well over $400 at this point, but I know she will pay me back. We spend the rest of the day watching TV, unable to talk because I couldn't start a conversation without it veering south, and not physical affection from her at all.\n\nDay four is like this as well, we had times in the past where sometimes she just needs a little time, so I give it to her and lay on the opposite side of the bed, she did not want to be touched. We laid in bed the whole day, then went out to dinner with some of her friends.\n\nDay five starts off the same, no cuddling or anything in bed which is different because in the past we had always cuddled to sleep, but she said it was too hot so I didn't argue. When we are waking up she grabs my hand and kisses it, honestly at this point I'm just internally begging for any kind of affection so it was very heartwarming. She had to go get a birth control implant that day, and those things hurt for days. We went on a trip to a lake with one of her friends this day, started off the same after she was fully awake as the previous two days, mostly ignored again or a negative attitude. The drive to the lake is about an hour and 45 minutes, she didn't address me once the entire drive and only talked to her friend. Her friend, however, was very nice and talked with me about some mutual interests. We get to the lake and she is actively trying to avoid talking to me still, went to some shops near it and she wouldn't talk to me, or respond to any of my comments about some trinkets. We start the drive back and we make a snack stop because he friend had to take a number two, I say I'm going in and ask if she wants anything. She turns to her friend in the back seat and asks him to get her a drink. After her friend leaves, I ask her what's going on and why thing have been weird\" the past few days. Her reply is nothing was wrong and that she wants space, then she tells me I'm the one whos starting \"shit out of nothing\" because she \"asked her friend instead of me to get her a drink\". I quickly drop the subject hoping that it really was like that. We get back to her place that night and things actually seem a bit better, we end of having sex that night not great because of her arm but I'm just glad we are back to being affectionate.\n\nDay six I wake up feeling pretty good, although we couldn't cuddle or anything during the night because I didn't want to risk her arm being hurt. She has a quick appointment to take a short class, then she is back. She kissed me when she got back. after that, it seemed like the previous night didn't change anything and we are back to how it was before distance and negativity. We spend the rest of the day inside watching TV, eat Popeyes for dinner. Silence for nearly the entire day between negative comments anytime I try to start a conversation. Day seven Then it was back to more of the same, we go out to eat at a KBBQ style place and its dead silence nearly the entire time, aside from passing food back and forth and making sure each other have enough to eat. I try to ask why things are so weird between us again and I get shut down instantly, again. Apparently its fine and she just doesn't feel like talking. No affection at all this day.\n\nDay eight at this point I'm really at my wit's end, I can't deal with this silence much longer and I'm just counting down the clock to leave the next morning. We eat Popeyes for dinner and stay inside all day again, going to the superstore to pick up some necessities for a little bit, but it's obvious she didn't want my presence. I didn't bother to bring up the subject and I was just looking to get on my flight the next day. Day nine My flight got delayed a day. We went back to her place for two hours and got in an argument because I made a joke about something we were watching. After that, I went and got a hotel room. Day ten I boarded my flight, we didn't talk at all this day aside from organizing her to get me to the airport, maybe 10-minute drive for her in total. I said my goodbyes and she was silent. Later on, she texts me telling her when I land at each stop and acting as if she cared. It felt nice.\n\nDay eleven I'm at a layover at my next stop, total time is about a day. I have a lot of time to think so I confront her about how the trip was for me and my point of view on the whole thing. She was very quick to make excuses to a comment I made about how I felt like I \"wasn't able to talk and I was more or less silenced\" telling me that \"just because things didn't go the way YOU expected does not mean YOU know exactly how I feel\", telling me that I \"wasn't being ignored\" and that I was making her a \"villain\". She told me that I \"kept pushing her\" to talk about what was wrong, and that's why she was refusing to say what was bothering her. After that, I kind of just told her that I was done pursuing the relationship, explained why the trip was very hurtful to me and try to explain it to the best of my ability from my point of view. Which is basically that I have no idea aside from that first argument why everything went so downhill so fast, and that I felt like the distance between us was greater when I was there than when I wasn't. Basically just pouring my heart out about how I wanted a little more attention. Well, she tells me that \"just because things didn't go your way, you're making me the villain.\" and that she's upset that I pushed her way too much to talk while I was there.\n\nThis is already really long, I wish I could show all of you what happened more accurately. \n\nTLDR: Visited girlfriend 7000 miles away, got in a small argument after being there for three days. Isolated and ignored for the most part for the rest of trip afterward, told I'm the one making the problem.\n\nI'm at a loss Reddit, Am I The Asshole for wanting a little more attention and verbal/physical affirmation in our relationship after traveling all that way?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "A1DQRGK86E3q1Ws1eSBUtKdbjNGIieEJ", "post_id": "b969w6", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Grandfather plans a trip for my birthday, and then invites toxic family members without telling me", "text": "Some context:\n\nI live with my grandparents, and have for pretty much my entire life. Their kids (including my mom to a lesser extent), are all complete idiots. One of them, who we'll call Walter, is my uncle and he's an alcoholic who frequently verbally abuses his wife in front of his 4 kids. So yeah, total idiot, and I'm sure you can understand why I'd want to spend as little time as possible interacting with him in any way.\n\nSo now that that's out of the way, onto the story.\n\nToday is my 20th birthday, and so my grandfather wanted to go on a trip to celebrate it. I was naturally really excited to go, and he never said anything that would imply that it would be anyone but just me, my brother, and two of our younger siblings. I also never had any reason to believe that it would be anyone but us, because he rented out a 3 bedroom house for us to stay in over the duration.\n\nBut as soon as we got there, there was already another car parked in the driveway, which was Walter's family car. I was a little annoyed, but I was assuming that they would be renting the house next to ours since we would definitely not have enough room in the one we're currently renting. But no, they actually are staying in the three bedroom house that we're renting.\n\nFor perspective, I had assumed that there would be 5 people staying with us; me, my brother, two younger siblings, and my grandfather, which would fit the 3 bedrooms quite nicely, since two bedrooms had twin beds in them, for a total of 5 beds. Now there's fucking 10 people in this house in total. When I asked my grandfather why he thought it would be a good idea to invite a whole entire other part of the family to come stay with us in a 3 bedroom house for 4 days, all he said was \"I'm sorry you're disappointed.\"\n\nSo now me and my brother are considering just buying an uber and hitching a 4 hour ride back home, for several reasons:\n\n1. I don't feel like dealing with screaming children for 4 days straight. I don't dislike kids, I just hate to listen to them when they're loud and their parents have no control over them whatsoever, and they have 3 toddlers, with no control over them whatsoever.\n\n2. I'm honestly kind of pissed that he would invite them when he knows for a fact that I don't like them, especially on something like a trip for my birthday that we've been planning for over a month now. And he didn't even tell me they were coming.\n\n3. It's fucking cramped. We're having to cram 10 people into 3 bedrooms. It just doesn't work.\n\nSo, the reason I'm making this post is because I definitely would feel bad about just walking out on a trip that my grandfather wanted to give me for my birthday, but I definitely don't feel bad about walking out when I'm sharing a house with a toxic couple and their obnoxious children. Am I in the wrong here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zTMSGG96YgUQbymIrdDt3pNHwV7RDUjB", "post_id": "b5409n", "action": null, "title": "AITA?", "text": "AITA? Me and my girlfriend for about two years have been fussing for two days now. She's not budging on her statement and I'm not budging on mine. So we was texting having fun and I began to feel extremely tired, so I told her I'm going go to bed(it was 2 in the morning). That upsetted her a lot. She said fine. I didn't think nothing of it, so the next morning I texted her. Good morning, this was a bad idea because she just sent hmph I was confused and asked what's wrong what's wrong she said why did you just leave me last night I stayed up all night waiting for you to respond. I was obviously confused and said I told you I was going to bed. But she was still obviously pissed and said it was the f***** weekend. I started to get upset about the fact that I told her and she got mad. I said I'm sorry but it's hard for me to stay up all day and all night. Unless there is shooting outside of the apartments I live in. But she kept telling me I should have stayed up. But there's anything side of the coin. My gf usually takes a nap for a good 4 hours each weekend, so I'm like okay she extremely tired I'm going to let her sleep. I don't even know anymore, I just want this to end. So AITA", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WVZMzFG1BYbwiOdL80R0P0ECcHQmr7pp", "post_id": "b2lk9h", "action": {"description": "being annoyed ex roommate stuck me with the rent", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed ex roommate stuck me with the rent", "text": "*on mobile sorry for formatting \nMy ex roommate/bestfriend got pregnant accidentally this last summer. (one month after signing a year long lease) I was very happy for her and her boyfriend however she quickly cut me off even though we still lived together. Two months later she tells me she is moving in two weeks and needs to be off our lease to sign her new one. She said she would pay her half of the rent for the remainder of our lease or until I found a new roommate because her boyfriend got rent paid for through military. I let her off the lease with that in mind. We're both full time students and part time employeed in small college town so naturally it's been rough to find a roommate (especially because my she moved out middle of October) after paying two months of her half of the rent she sends me a message completely unprompted to say that I'm a shitty friend for not having found a roommate yet. [Side note: she told me she was leaving on a specific day which she lied about because\u00a0 I came home from work one day and she was just gone. She never said anything to me about it] and that she wasn't gonna give me anymore money for the rent because I've been given ample time to find one. I've now been put into a financial crisis because no one can move in due to their own leases not being up and I cannot handle the entire rent myself. Had to borrow money from my boyfriend which makes me feel shitty. So I sent her a message recently - even though we haven't talked since her message to me - and told her she wasn't a decent enough person to even think twice of the burden she put on me as well. I understand a kid is scary and expensive and I don't think I would be nearly as mad if she approached it differently. Just wanna know if I'm the asshole for the disdain I feel for her?\n\nTLDR: Roommate moved out with almost no noticed and basically left me with the entire rent knowing I couldn't afford it", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CxagOVXdLYPjgDM3YnU5RW4XoaVwQa24", "post_id": "ahwu14", "action": {"description": "wanting to go out despite my mom's wishes", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For wanting to go out despite my mom's wishes", "text": "So here's my problem. I'm 20M, and studying mathematics at a college in Germany. The last two years I've been studying IT at the same college but I dropped out and was kinda sulking the entire summer of 2018 about it. Afterwards, I started to think about my situation and decided to try again. Here's the thing, I'm a pretty extroverted guy and I really wanna go out during the evening and go to a bar with friends or something else. But my mother, who raised me single handedly doesn't allow it. She says that it's too dangerous at this time and I shouldn't be going out because I have class the next day. I feel like I should be standing up to her and stand my ground since I'm 20 but I also don't wanna risk arguing with my mom about this since she's all alone and I don't wanna argue with her. So what do I do now? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AplY1JV8vBq4OHPjrLWbbDpgfkQN6pUV", "post_id": "ae897u", "action": {"description": "for starting a relationship with a girl that rejected my friend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for for starting a relationship with a girl that rejected my friend?", "text": "So a while ago, july 2018 my male friend (I'll call him Richard) was in love with a girl (Anne) and wanted to get to know her better. This was in the summer break after the end of highschool. He was a very close friend to mine with who I usually went to parties, concerts, played a lot of games and helped each other so when he said he wanted to \"try his luck\" with this girl, I decided I should not have interfered. Well after a month or so she got slightly bored of his tries (she was also a friend of mine) and started telling me how he couldn't understand her signals, even tho she rejected him on many ocassions. I started to fall in love with her and we went out a couple of times and got closer so the inevitable happened. We got together and weren't afraid of our relationship. Well it seemed like that wasn't Richard's cup of tea, he started to ignore both of us, even though I apologized to him for getting with Anne, considering he told me on may-june that he loves her a lot and that it would mean everything for her to love him back. When I said sorry he responded passive-aggresively saying that I betrayed him and that I didn't care or respected his feelings. I apologized and sent him memes, asked him things on a daily basis and he responded very shortly with \"haha\",\"ok\", seeming very sick of me. In august there was a party where we all were invited but he refused to come and told the host \"I don't wanna see OP, I'm done with him \". Me and Anne broke up one month ago and in all this time I lost touch with common friends that I had with him. AITA for being in a relationship with her after she dumped him, even though he told me 2 months earlier to not interfere? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "qFSBHtbnNSrJuPE0J27OcFJoHMWQyzl2", "post_id": "a8l02c", "action": null, "title": "AITA as a lower manager for wanting upper management to fire someone who\u2019s job performance is affecting the business or at least want a new hire to slowly push them out?", "text": "For the last 1-2 months, the fast food place that I assist in managing has been running out of items before we close almost every day. First it was some of our most popular sauces. Next it was grilled chicken entirely. The list goes on. The guy who runs the inventory seems to be a little scatterbrained and all over the place. I don\u2019t have time to micromanage him and really inventory isn\u2019t my field of operation. However, all of management knows it\u2019s been a problem yet I believe we can\u2019t outright fire him due to a labor protection. I\u2019m not sure whether I should be upset about this.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LNgeitlsmLeRB8YWfX3sLDuikrsMMe2H", "post_id": "b3k2sl", "action": {"description": "staying in a foreign country whilst my mum goes through chemo", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for staying in a foreign country whilst my mum goes through chemo?", "text": "Ergh, my head is baffled and i need your help. My mum (40) was diagnosed with breast cancer on 20th Feb and its associated with the BRCA gene. \n\nI (24f) moved to New Zealand nearly 4 years ago and recently went back to the UK in Nov. \n\nSo me and mum have been talking alot, obviously, and her being who she is doesn't want me to fly back and leave my life here (i have a good job, a partner and a doggo). \n\nWe agreed that i would be more useful during her operations and that i dont need to be there for her chemo. \n\nI have a sister (23) and two brothers (21 & 14). My mum has heaps of friends and a partner who can support her.\n\nCurrently she is having a lot of tests and starts chemo on 28th march. My sister has been going to alot of the appointments with her and my mum mentioned to me that she was grateful my sister could help her take her mind off of everything. After that phone call i thought about it and i hate the fact that i have to chose to support my mum though chemo or her op's.\n\nIm the eldest and have always looked after the family. My mum is a recovered alcoholic (6years drink free) and most of my childhood was looking out for my siblings. During mums recovery i was solo on helping her through it. My sister has a kid and my step dad took my brothers away. Long long story. \nNot that im saying i have done my 'fair share', but i thought this was important for context. \n\nI love my mum and i know she is scared and im torn between being giving up my life here in NZ & being in the UK to support my mum fully. Or continuing to build my life here, i have emergency flight money, and fly over when she will need me most. \n\nAITA for wanting to stay here? Please be honest x \n\nP.S wrote on my phone ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ehZzqs1CadvZhbC3LaXLM0t0yRRpEHub", "post_id": "a6zsia", "action": {"description": "not spending Christmas with my mother and sister", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not spending Christmas with my mother and sister?", "text": "Backstory: My parents are divorced and my sister has a different father to me. Each year we alternate for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. For example last year we were both at our fathers on Christmas Eve and I collected my sister and came in to my mother around 1 o'clock Christmas Day.\n\nFollowing on from above, this year was meant to be the opposite I.e. we were with my mother for Christmas Eve. About a month ago we had acknowledge that this was the case (as it has been for around 18 years) as she was telling me she got invited to my cousins house and also to her friends house for Christmas Day.\n\n2 weeks ago my sister announced out of nowhere that she was switching because she wanted to be there for when Santa comes for her younger siblings. My Mam and sister then tell me I should rearrange aswell and I refuse because plans have been made and food bought etc. and it was too short notice. They have been guilt tripping me since then, constantly bringing it up, saying how it's better for my younger brother to have me Christmas morning (which i acknowledge as a good idea and may be the case in the next few years) and saying how Christmas isn't going to be good this year.\n\nYesterday my mother text my father saying that she wanted the switch days and I just spent 30 minutes on the phone with him explaining that it wasn't my idea to switch and that I didn't want to, because he was slightly put out because he thought i didn't want to spend it with them.\n\nI feel guilty that Im \"ruining\" my mam and sisters plans but I don't think I should be forced to change my pre-arranged plans to accommodate their last minute change.\n\nAITA?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2CBORBmp3Aa5LiMvazO6BpfhbjuQQt88", "post_id": "aaql28", "action": {"description": "refusing to stay at grandma's house for dinner", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for refusing to stay at grandma's house for dinner?", "text": "A bit of context, I am heavily introverted, and by that I mean get tired of being around people fairly quickly and when I get tired I tend to leash out (I'm working on it, but right now the best method is just to get out of the situation) up until I have an anxiety attack/a mental breakdown. After I've been social in a large group (a.i. Christmas) I need about a day where I'm pretty much alone to rewind. I know this is atypical and I should probably have seen a psychiatrist at an early age, but I never did. This is rarely an issue now as I've learned my limits but things often go wrong when you involve my mom and her side of the family. I'm 18 now and I live with my parents. I see my grandparents pretty often but not my cousin.\n\nSo it was the day after Christmas, me, my mom and my brother were at my grandparent's house with my cousin and as the day progressed I became more and more tired as usual. I got about an hour alone while the rest were on a walk, but I still felt the rudeness show up, so when it came time to discussing whether we would stay for dinner I said I wanted to go home. Mom clearly heard me yet confidently said we would stay. I repeated myself this time expressing how tired I was, but she persisted. \n\nSo I said something like \"fine, then I'll take the bus. Goodbye\" and walked to the front door. Mom chased me and told me something like \"You are going to stay! Think of grandma, grandpa and your cousin.\" to which I replied, somewhat angrily: \"I said goodbye. I can go home when I want and I'm really tired right now. You know how that ends.\" She kept saying that this was going to ruin Christmas as I rushed out the door to the bus stop and the silence of the outside made me think more rationally. I didn't even get of the lawn before I realised that I had the car key so I went back inside to leave it there. \n\nNow my family were going home after all and my mom had railed everybody in the house. I told my mom that they should stay if they want to and I'll go home but for some reason that wasn't an option.\n\nFrom my mom's perspective I know she wants everyone to be together ~~and happy~~ as much as possible and stuff like this makes her really upset. She feels it's my duty to be well mannered and consequently social until she decides it's time to go home. She can't understand why an hour of rest shouldn't be enough to cover a day of socialising. \n\nFrom my perspective she does this so often. With this I mean try to guilt trip me into situations I'm not comfortable being. It's always \"Think of ... and ...! They'll be so sad and it will ruin our entire day!\" in even though the other people have said that I don't have to stay/go if I don't want to. Especially my cousin has stressed that he thinks this is shitty behaviour when we two talk and respectfully taken my side in front of my mom, but nothing has changed.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "oYYCJdKuGuM6I4nS9AUQMTldPbdDAR91", "post_id": "b08itx", "action": {"description": "telling my friend no to watch a show the caused an argument", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend no to watch a show the caused an argument?", "text": "So I\u2019m new here and on my phone so excuse my formating( English is not my first language also)\n\nMe=me f= friend\n\nSo I invited some friends over to drink and smoke.\nI have been friend with one of them for a few years.\n\nSo I paid for all the beer and the weed( legal)\nAnd invited friends over to have a good time. We all wanted to watch some anim\u00e9 and almost all of us decided to watch it in Japanese with subtitles \nAll of us except one (f) who wanted to watch in English so after arguing we decided to throw a coin if I won we watch in Japanese if f wins we would watch in English. \n( we all accepted that if I lost we would watch in English)\nAnd I won but f was having none of it and decided to yell and tell us we tricked him( he wasn\u2019t drunk or high at this point) and to stop the argument I thought the best thing to do would be to stop netflix and find something that we would enjoy all but my f decided I was the biggest asshole for doing this and just walked out of the door with every one else leaving me with a lot to clean and a headache.\n\nSo am I the asshole here for stopping netflix and kind of ruining the flow of the evening and not just agreeing with him?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UeXEM4LrmTiPZD3yKHacG6EOtji01K9T", "post_id": "agxzpq", "action": {"description": "being angry at my now ex-girlfriend for making a scene in a public restaurant", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "AITA For being angry at my now ex-girlfriend for making a scene in a public restaurant.", "text": "Due to my own personal issues and a general lack of affection toward my now ex I made the decision to break up with her after two years of dating. \n\nI arranged for us to attend a popular five star uptown gourmet restaurant (on the east coast) with a famous interior proven\u00e7al fantasia of poppy paintings and arcane farm that rivals the now defunct La Mangeoire. I suspect some of you may know of this restaurant, in which case you realize how difficult it is to get a table.\n\nWhen we are finally sat down my goal was to treat her to a meal, and then proceed with the breakup after the fact. However speaking with her is very grating at this point and she is extremely annoying, clicking her tongue and pacing her nails over the table linen. \n\nShe also insisted on holding my hand, which I rebuffed instantly. This set her into defensive mode. I decided to expedite the entire process and breakup with her ahead of dinner.\n\nShe did not take it well, and that is an understatement. What began as shock proceeded into her face distorting into a solemn, betrayed look, then finally settling into yelling and crying.\n\nI can handle the crying as I am acclimated to that behavior from her, but the yelling in public was beyond infuriating as many eyes were drawn to our table and I know that word is going to get out to my coworkers about this. The entire point of using a public place was to avoid unnecessary drama.\n\nHer hysterics continue and after I am unable to calm her down I decide the best course of action is to simply leave. I did not get to eat dinner despite reserving a table for literally days. When she texts me later I tell her that she is completely out of line acting that way in public, and that shes infantile.\n\nShe says that she doesnt care and that she can act however she wants to act. I don't disagree that she is able to act like a idiot, but that does not mean she should. Am I the asshole in this situation for not breaking up after we ate? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 16, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "BK5b5ziGO0cFK28PkIbF4ywVFblYB14s", "post_id": "amknv8", "action": {"description": "taking a month to make plans for my birthday", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for taking a month to make plans for my birthday?", "text": "Sorry for any weird formatting, I'm on mobile. I'll try to keep this as brief as possible, but it's still pretty damn long, so apologies in advance. \n\nI'm a sophomore in college and my birthday was late in January. Towards the beginning of the month during break I had asked my mom if they would be able to come down to campus around my birthday and do something with me and my friends. I wasn't sure if financially they could, as a couple things had happened that made money more of a concern than usual. She told me not to worry about that and to figure out what I wanted to do.\n\nOver the next few weeks I had a lot to do - with classes starting, research, my grading job, and trying to find time for my friends and a little for myself I was pretty busy. Because of this I kept forgetting to figure out what I wanted to do when they came. My mom continued asking every few days or so, but I kept forgetting (this is a common problem with me and it's really frustrating, it leads to issues for me sometimes). I should also note that I'll miss calls or texts from them a decent amount because I'm not around my phone often, but at home I'm more attentive to it because I have much more free time. This frustrates my parents, especially my mom, as they think I don't pay attention to them. Anyway, it got a to few days before the weekend before my birthday, and my parents told me they couldn't make it that morning and would come next weekend.\n\nI decided that week that I wanted to either go bowling or play mini golf, depending on what worked best for everyone. I told my mom, and she said I needed to figure out which for sure, what time, who was coming, if anyone needed a ride, etc. I'd say this was about Monday, maybe? I was busy throughout the week and didn't have much time to talk to people, alongside the fact that I would constantly forget only to remember later and feel anxious about it.\n\nThis all finally came to a head last night, where my mom snapped. Something important is that she has some anger issues. She would never hurt me or anything, but she gets extremely angry and screams. Well, that's what happened. I was with my girlfriend in bed late at night and had forgotten my phone in a different room. I remembered it and went to grab it. Then I saw my mom had texted me several times and tried to call me 10 times in the span of two minutes. I should also note that using Tasker I had it set up on my phone so that if I shook my phone, it would mute all sound and automatically reject calls. I had left it on before I left my phone, so no sound was being played and all calls were being rejected.\n\nSo I shit myself out of terror and called her immediately. She then yelled at me for 7 minutes about how I didn't care about her or my dad and that I was being disrespectful for not getting back to her sooner. There was more she said, but I've forgotten most due to a bit of overload and just generally being forgetful. She concluded by asking why if I don't care, she should care and said something else after that. I couldn't hear the last part because I was exhausted, so I asked what she said and apologized saying that I was tired and missed it. Then she said \"You know what? I'm done. BYE!\" and hung up on me. My girlfriend and I talked about it, and I turned my volume on anticipating that I would get a call back. About 20 minutes later I did.\n\nI can't remember much of that call, just that it was upsetting. At one point I know she said if I disrespected her like that again she would keep my truck (which is being repaired - they're paying for the repairs if that matters), break my phone, bring me home every weekend, and at some other point she said she'd break my fingers (dont remember how that came up? It was still while saying basically that I had better never do that again. I should also clarify that my mom has never hurt me and I know she wont, even if she threatens to sometimes when she gets really angry). Those were the most intense things, but the rest of the call was also pretty bad. Sorry I can't give more of it.\n\nEarlier today my Dad called to figure out what I had wanted to do. I told him what I had planned and we put together the last parts (ended up being bowling if anyone cares). He was also angry about how I had waited until the last minute and yelled at me a bit too, though it wasn't nearly as bad as with my mom. He basically was telling me how frustrating it was to not be able to contact me when they need me, and that it seems like I don't care about them. He did say they wanted to do this for me and see me but it seemed like I didn't care at all. In addition he said I was stressing my mom out because they didn't know what was going on yet, that my mom was already feeling sick and that was making it worse, and that they spent an hour last night talking about me and this whole thing when they could've been sleeping. My mom was there too and said something along the lines of how I only want their money and don't give a damn about them. After a bit of that we hung up, and that's where I am now.\n\nSo, I'm a bit conflicted. On one hand, I really should've figured things out earlier. I meant to, I just was busy and kept forgetting, though my parents say that's not an excuse. I can be pretty bad about getting back to them sometimes. Usually I'll respond within a day, but once in a while I'll miss it for longer. I can see how that would be frustrating. But on the other hand, I feel like they, especially my mom, went way overboard and that it wasnt nearly bad enough to justify that kind of response. This sort of thing happens somewhat often and I usually feel conflicted about it. I've wanted to post before, but never did until now. So, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "IjNNzzMT56mPNFPB3WDOKS6M01jtzByw", "post_id": "aqj6hu", "action": {"description": "being sick and not going out with my girlfriend on Valentines Day", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being sick and not going out with my girlfriend on Valentines Day?", "text": "Hi everyone. I wanna provide some backstory that this is a high school relationship and I\u2019m 16. Sorry for formatting I\u2019m on mobile.\n\nAnyways, ever since I had a pneumonia and ear infection in early January late December, my mom has been strict about me being sick and if I wanna stay home she usually is okay with it (I don\u2019t take advantage of staying home lol, need good grades) so this past week my girlfriend got bronchitis and she was pissed off that I didn\u2019t wanna hang and I insisted she got rest, we ended up hanging because I guess I got manipulated by her and forced into it.\n\nSo, today I\u2019m feeling sick and I tell my mom that and I have no big tests or anything important today so I\u2019m gonna stay home. \n\nI begin texting my girlfriend that I\u2019m staying home, not feeling well. And not once was like \u201cfeel better\u201d she\u2019s instead all mad that we can\u2019t go out today cause it\u2019s Valentines Day, I understand it\u2019s Valentine\u2019s Day but it\u2019s a bit stuck up to not care about me at all. So I tell her about how my mom is really strict about what I do when I\u2019m sick and she\u2019s Iike \u201cso much for going out with your girl on valentine\u2019s day\u201d so after her saying that upon other minimal selfish texts I responded with \u201cI really don\u2019t know if your being serious\u201d and then I continued that text like \u201cafter I just explained to you that I was sick\u201d and she had the nerve to say \u201cboohoo your sick\u201d so I replied with \u201cgtfo.\u201d And she said \u201cha\u201d\n\nI just wanna know if I did something wrong. I can\u2019t control being sick today, I don\u2019t feel well. Is she just being controlling? AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SzGqHMlIwGdJ8PfKh63VHNIJ5EQlJiIQ", "post_id": "at2b8e", "action": {"description": "not formally asking my bf to a dance", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not formally asking my bf to a dance?", "text": "This was a few months ago but I still wonder about it. We\u2019ve been together about seven months at this point. He\u2019s expressed that big social gatherings bother him and that dances/parties especially aren\u2019t his scene.\n\nWe\u2019re in highschool and there are homecoming dances. I\u2019d gone the previous year with friends, before I\u2019d met my boyfriend, and decided to go this year as well. Two weeks before the dance, I\u2019d texted my boyfriend, asking if he\u2019s gone to past dances since he\u2019s in a higher grade. He tells me no and asks why I asked, and I tell him it\u2019s because I wanted to know if I\u2019d be going with friends or him as a date in advance. He was unsure and the convo stopped there. \n\nFlash forward two weeks, the day of the dance. I\u2019m getting ready and receive a text from him. He asks if I\u2019m attending the dance and I say yes. I get a very typical \u201coh, nevermind,\u201d response. I press a little and he ends up flipping the fuck out. He immediately asks why I hadn\u2019t asked him to be his date, and why he was finding out last minute I was going. I told him I\u2019d mentioned it two weeks prior and didn\u2019t bring it up again because I didn\u2019t want to pester him. I\u2019m terrified of bothering somebody so close to me. My anxiety makes me 100x more bothered by rejection, especially from my own partner. He tells me \u201cI\u2019m at a tournament stressing about this because you didn\u2019t want to use your big girl words.\u201d (He\u2019s an extremely dedicated wrestler. Tournaments are every weekend and it\u2019d take something super important for him to miss one.) \n\nBy now I\u2019ve left home. I ended up repeatedly apologizing for not making my desire for him to be my date clear and spent most of my dance time worriedly checking my phone notifications. I asked how I could prevent this from happening in the future, to which he gave a condescending \u201cSpeak up. That is quite literally what needed to happen. A concept instilled in four year olds because they\u2019ll hurt themselves and not say anything.\u201d That combined with the big girl comment left me extremely hurt but I gave up trying to defend myself because every reason seemed like bullshit to him. \n\nHalfway through the dance, he asks where I am. Somehow he\u2019d gotten entry. We sat down and talked more, and he was noticeably calmer. A few off topic things were mentioned and I\u2019d asked why he even approached me when we first met, and he claimed it was a friend\u2019s dare. This killed my self esteem, which he knows I already struggle with heavily. I told him that later that night and he admitted he lied about it being a dare make somebody feel worse than he was (because he\u2019d lost the tournament? Which anybody would be upset by.)\n\nBasically, AITA for not formally asking him straight up to go to the dance with me? Or was it blown out of proportion? My friends think his reaction was completely uncalled for and that his words were beyond hurtful, but I feel as though none of this would\u2019ve happened if I just had the balls to be direct. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QtL8EpIg07GyyrhNexbvdLA0SFgIMjzQ", "post_id": "a9zsq3", "action": {"description": "not lending my co-worker money to go to his grandmother's funeral in India", "pronormative_score": 34, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not lending my co-worker money to go to his grandmother's funeral in India.", "text": "There's a bit of backstory that has lead me to the decision I made:\n\nI am the supervisor of a team of concierges. Before I worked here, there was another supervisor that worked in my place. A few years ago she lost her mother. She had to go back to Hungary for the funeral. A bunch of clients and residents had donated money but a few co-workers had also lent her some money too (about $1000). They gave it to her with the understanding that she would pay it back. Well months passed and she ended up leaving for a better job opportunity. Since then she's been avoiding calls from the people I work with and has only given them a fraction of what was loaned to her.\n\nNow come to the present time. A co-worker approached me yesterday and told me that his 92 year old grandmother has passed away. He explained that he would like to attend the funeral and be with family in his homeland, India. He was very sad about this. I had consoled to the extent of professionalism but that was all. I do feel bad for anyone who has lost a loved one, but she was 92. I can only feel sadness for someone briefly if they lived a long healthy life. I think if anything, that calls for a celebration.\n\nAnyways, so this guy is telling about the prices to go to India and how outrageous it is. I totally understand the stress of it all but then he asks me for a loan. He wanted about $500 to help him out. I immediately say no. I wasn't rude about it but I made it clear that I don't do that. I don't mind lending money to family and friends who I trust. A co-worker is a completely different story though. I just don't trust him. He may try to pull what the other supervisor did. All of it just seemed fishy. I wasn't interested in getting wrapped up in financial drama. Not to mention, it's two days after Christmas which is always a difficult time for most.\n\nHe was very upset with me for not even considering it. Because I'm the supervisor, I guess they think I make a lot more than them. But it's really not the case. I'm struggling like the rest of the working class.\n\nTo be honest, I don't think anyone should get mad at someone for not lending them money. You have the right to ask someone what ever you want. I just don't think you should expect things from people even during a trying time.\n\n\nEDIT: Thank you for all of your comments. Turns out the guy wasn't even going to India. He asked a few other people and now there is a full blown investigation. I'm not sure if this is grounds for dismissal but at least he learned something from it. Hopefully.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 34, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 34, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "817tRUv2zJKFvm70DPfKETRBicnfxTMW", "post_id": "aslj3j", "action": {"description": "asking my mom to kick the kid out", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA If I asked my Mom to kick the kid out", "text": "Hey guys,\n\nI'll explain this as succinctly as possible. 5 months ago, my mom invited the son of an old friend of hers to move in to our house. We (my sister and I) don't know the family well, so we thought it was odd. \n\nAs the days went on, we started to learn more about him. He's a sweet kid, but he definitely has his flaws. For one, he's a 17 year old high school dropout. Not great, but it happens (this is how I rationalized it to myself). He also smokes a ton of pot. While it isn't that big of a deal, we haven't been happy with the stench. His room is putrid. It smells like a mix between rotten food and pot. My mother seems to have no issue with any of this for whatever reason. \n\nAll of that doesn't seem \\*that\\* bad, right? I didn't think so either until my younger sister recently filled me in on some of the underpinnings of his life. She has the room adjacent to his. The wall that separates the room is extremely thin, so she hears everything. Here's what she told me: \"I can hear EVERYTHING, Dreadcarrier. The drop of a pin, a whisper. So guess what I get to hear when he has his boyfriend over 3-4 nights a week? A lot of fighting, crying, and sex.\" She's a college student (as am I) so this really disrupts her sleep/work schedule. Once again, my mother brushes this off. She thinks she's doing something nice for the kid and that takes precedence.\n\nBut wait, there's more! My little sister follows him on Instagram. He has been posting pictures of himself \"tripping\" on my back porch! Not to mention the fact that he took a picture of himself using my sister's expensive Yeti cup as a gravity bong. All of this has her truly irked, and my mom thought she was overreacting (to the cup thing, not sure if she knows about the psychedelics). \n\nAnyway, I've been skeptical of this arrangement from the get-go. I never thought it was a good idea to remove a problem child from his (accepting of his sexuality but strict about his lack of achievement) family. Once I saw it was giving him the freedom to do drugs and continue to let himself fall into a hole, my suspicions were confirmed. I haven't voiced my concerns because it isn't my house or my business, but now it is affecting my sister's life. \n\nI plan on confronting my mother. I want to explain that what she is doing may seem like a good deed, but it isn't helping the kid in the long-term. He has no life structure, no authority making sure he is doing right. He also has no intention of going back to school and smokes pot all the time. Giving him carte blanche isn't what's best for him. I also plan on explaining that his presence is disrupting her successful child's life. It isn't fair to give her the short end of the stick because she works hard. She deserves to live in a quiet house where she feels comfortable. \n\nWIBTA?\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "syvuboqh792dOkGZrMCnQ0KVkbtZQq6P", "post_id": "9ytcez", "action": {"description": "wanting my ex to stop hanging out with a certain guy", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting my ex to stop hanging out with a certain guy?", "text": "TL;DR - Ex of 4 years and I are talking about getting back together, she started hanging out with someone in the 9 months her and I were apart who has become abusive.  I want to get back together with her and\n\nMy ex and I dated for about 4 years prior to us breaking up about 9 months ago.  I initiated the break up due to emotional issues stemming from my father's death in August 2017 (I was having a lot of difficulty processing and expressing emotions healthily and she is already a very emotional person and I kept asking myself \"How am I supposed to take care of your emotional needs when i can't even take care of my own?\"  I've since learned that letting people in is not weakness, as well as made progress towards getting past being constantly affected by the loss of the greatest man I've ever known).  At the time, she had said she would like to remain friends and we actually made earnest and sincere efforts to be friends; hanging out at neutral and public locations, paying for ourselves if food/drink/entertainment became involved, etc.  A few weeks ago, it came to a point where we realized the feelings were still there, mutually, but that we would need to talk more about how it was going to work between us (it used to be very one-sided in my direction and I want to put the balance more towards the middle) if we were to get back together.  So we began talking about getting back together and we still are.\n\nDuring all this time, she started hanging out another guy.  I was fine with this because we were broken up at the time and he seemed like a good friend to her.  Until a lot of things happened to make me feel the opposite.  Without going too deep into it and making this a stupidly long post, he has an abusive streak that he's using to control her.  In recent months, he's had her cosign for a brand new motorcycle and rejected getting a used car, isolated her from most of her friends, and move in with him into an apartment that she can barely afford half the rent on (and he can't pass a tenant screening so she's on the hook for that, too).  If she were to take on the amount of time necessary for her to afford more plus bills, she would have to quit school.  Everytime I come to her place, I'm told by her to just not engage (I do not like this \"man\" and refuse to do him the courtesy of hiding it from my face).  When I leave, he gets in her face and tries to intimidate her accusing her of bringing me over to have sex (the woman was on the floor shaking in obvious medical distress and he said, \"You're a needy little cunt, aren't you?\" and left.  I was there to help take care of her.).\n\nI have told her that she needs to get out of there, I have pointed out all the red flags, and she has been told how all of those were also things done to her by her mother (very abusive childhood).  I have also said that I can't control what she does with her life or who she hangs out with when we date again, but I have told her that if we moved in together, he will not be welcome in my home and I refuse to make him feel welcome in my home (still debating whether I'm even going to *let* him feel welcome in my home.  I am aware that it would be her home, too.).  She is still intent on being friends with him.  I haven't dropped the \"It's either him or me,\" line and I'm afraid of it coming to that because I'm not sure I would win but more importantly, it would put a huge strain on our relationship and I'm not sure we would outlast it before she realized that getting away from him was a good thing.  Am I the asshole for wanting her to get this guy out of her life before her and I get back together and try to find a place to live?\n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "X4vo65mPVXDtP357Q2WZF2qdXFeGNvki", "post_id": "a3cdsb", "action": {"description": "asking my roomate to play somewhere else during the night", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking my roomate to play somewhere else during the night?", "text": "My roomate has a tendency to stay up really late playing on his gaming laptop, usually until around four or five in the morning. I\u2019m kind of a light sleeper and that\u2014coupled with his talking throughout the night\u2014usually makes it a lot harder for me to sleep. I\u2019ve tried just sleeping through it for the semester, but it\u2019s gotten a lot harder recently since he got a new setup with a bigger, brighter monitor and mechanical keyboard that makes loud clicking noises every time he presses a key. \n\nI asked him if there was anything he could do about the keyboard, and he already had a conventional keyboard for assignments that he started switching to for the night, but that\u2019s still pretty loud. \n\nLast night, I was feeling kind of sick and I have a midterm today, and I really wanted to sleep well, so I asked him if he could just take his laptop to the basement. Our dorm has a commons area with tables that\u2019s open 24/7 and usually pretty deserted at night, so I didn\u2019t see why he couldn\u2019t do the same stuff there.\n\nAfter I asked, he just sat there for a couple minutes, staring blankly at his monitor, then threw his headphones on his desk and angrily got up to leave. I asked him if there\u2019s something about the basement that totally fucks up his plans, and he just said no dismissively and continued to leave. I tried talking to him further, but he ignored me as he left. He\u2019s furious.\n\nI\u2019ve tried to be accommodating to him. I got a sleep mask to deal with the light at night and just listening to music to drown out the noise he makes, but that doesn\u2019t make it easier to sleep. He sleeps from around six to eight AM and then from around four to ten PM, and I try to find other places to go in the evening so I don\u2019t disturb him. \n\nI tried communicating with him last night that this was a problem for me, but he wouldn\u2019t communicate back. \n\nI don\u2019t feel it\u2019s unreasonable to want a dark, quiet place to sleep from around midnight to six in the morning. Is it? If so, how should I handle this situation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YOE9M1jWD3X6faRx3lYhRGOZFYpcixyx", "post_id": "a1wak0", "action": {"description": "not enjoying time with my family", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not enjoying time with my family?", "text": "So i let me give a little backstory. Im a 16yo boy in an arts school far from home (relatively), living with my aunt and uncle. I see my parents about once a week, and basically the first thing my dad asks me is \"so we gonna study math\"? Which is a little problematic subject for me at school. Otherwise, a perfectly healthy family, never wronged me in any way. Am i an asshole for not wanting to spend time with them, instead preferring to play on the pc or even study all day", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XlLvqXFOAsVoaGbCg1onrszb5txetiHb", "post_id": "ajvq2m", "action": {"description": "cutting off my ex boyfriend when he was suicidal", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for cutting off my ex boyfriend when he was suicidal?", "text": "So for some backstory, I had already dated this guy before, and in that relationship he had cheated on me. We spent some time apart and I realized that I still wanted him in my life. Long story short, we got back together. Throughout the relationship, he was very rude, uncaring, and inconsiderate towards me. I would always let him walk all over me because I knew he was in a tight spot with his family at the time but it still hurt whenever he would insult me or do other generally not so great things. I finally decided that it was time to end the relationship because I just did not love him like I had used to, and I explained that to him as best as I could. For the weeks after, he threatened suicide, self harm, and other terrible things. He had been one of my best friends as well as a boyfriend, so I would try to be there for him. Due to what he calls \u201chis bad state of mind\u201d he treated me even worse to the point where I\u2019d stay up crying thinking it was my fault for putting him in this terrible situation. That went on up until a mutual friend of ours told me that he had been trying to make me feel jealous, upset, etc. to try and win me back, so I decided then and there to just cut things off. I see him later in the week with a gash going up his wrist, and decide that he needs me there for him. About another week went by until he started flaunting this new girl he was talking to, talking about how she was better than me. It really stung, and to be honest I lost my cool. I was not nor was I previously ever in the right state of mind to be helping another person with their major mental problems, but i knew he needed a friend (if that\u2019s what you can call friendship) this past week everything blew up. We got into a big argument where he accused me of manipulating him and becoming selfish and bitchy. I finally decided it was time to cut him off FOR REAL. Two days later I\u2019m hearing from our mutual friends he\u2019s trying to kill himself again. Am I the asshole for not being able to put up with his shit when he really needed me? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xL1ibszsf1XfA7aYE39NmsBsUVn8uMCR", "post_id": "ahxokw", "action": {"description": "being in a romantic relationship with a girl I found out I was her \"side-boy{*}\", and was already in a relationship with some other guy", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being in a romantic relationship with a girl I found out I was her \u201cside-boy{*}\u201d, and was already in a relationship with some other guy?", "text": "*I don\u2019t know what the male equivalent of \u201cside-chick\u201d is for a guy\n\nI know that I\u2019m not the asshole for not knowing, and I was rather surprised and angry for her revealing it to me the other day. She had always had been a truthful person who would tell me everything about her, but she claims that she \u201cnever had the chance to tell me at an appropriate time\u201d which granted, I\u2019m rather busy most of the time and the activities we engage in aren\u2019t particularly the most productive time to bring such a topic up. However, she and I agree that she had broken our trust and had to rethink this whole relationship thing (in other words, probably split), as she still has feelings for that boy she\u2019s been dating for far longer than I have.\n\nHowever, I\u2019m torn. Truthfully, I really like this girl and she had helped me go through some rough times when I had trouble with my mental health. She also makes mistakes all the time. This one particularly affects me in a negative way but I\u2019m verging on considering forgiving her for it, as I really liked where my relationship with her was going, and am unfortunately unwilling to give it up. \n\nShe seems to agree, but she cannot bring herself to dump the third party. I can\u2019t understand what\u2019s going through her head right now, but assuming that she does not break up with the guy, and I continue this relationship, aware of the fact that I\u2019m the \u201cside-boy*\u201d for her, would I be the asshole in this situation?\n\nTl;dr Am I the asshole for wanting to continue dating a girl that I had just learned had been cheating on another guy- with me, making me the male equivalent of a side-chick?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eGlOPZvV46kVikTHRxw3pwpDyJdHZ91W", "post_id": "ako3ak", "action": {"description": "not being there for my friend", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not being there for my friend?", "text": "So, my best friend is getting married in 10 months. Let's call her Becky. I'm her maid of honor. Its exciting and I'm really happy for her. I've never been a maid of honor before though. I'm struggling with this situation so far:\n\nSo Becky has already picked out her dress and decided on bridesmaid dresses. We spent an entire day shopping in a city an hour away and deciding on these things. \n\nSince then, she has invited the other bridesmaids and I to go to 2 events with her. The first was a florist visit last month so she could decide on the kind of flowers she wanted for the wedding. I originally said yes I would go, but then she had to change the date of the appointment to a day where I had to work. So I didnt go. \n\nThe second event was yesterday. 3 days prior she had told me and other bridesmaids about this bridal fair she wanted to go to, and asked if we could go. I told her I would have to see how things went because I worked that evening. The event would basically take most of my sleeping time. But whatever. \n\nSaturday night comes along and Becky and I both get invited out to a birthday party of a mutual friend that night. We both had off, and we would see some good friends which included the other bridesmaids, so we all went. Everyone got wasted, most people not making it home before vomiting. I had a good time, things felt good. At the party, Becky asked me again if I would go to the bridal fair the next morning. She begged, saying only a couple of other older family members were going with her. Drunk me felt like Superwoman, so I said sure. Everyone got drunk af and went home. \n\nI went home at 2am, woke up at 5am with a splitting headache and a shit ton of stomach pain. I took ibuprofen and tried to get comfortable enough to sleep. No go. I chugged water. Still felt like shit. Now its 8am and I am extremely nauseous. I hadn't drank alcohol since 1am, I thought I had escaped nausea. My boyfriend was really worried I had something else going on because of the amount of pain I was in, and wanted me to go to the hospital, but I'm in the medical field so I felt like I knew when I would need to go to the doctor. I couldnt sleep still. It was 9:30am. The bridal fair was supposed to be at 11. I texted Becky to tell her I wasnt going to be able to go. I felt like complete crap. I apologized. \n\nI finally vomited, passed gas, and the stomach pains/nausea started to fade. It was 11:30. Becky had opened my message but not responded. I finally was able to fall asleep. At 1pm I woke up to a message from Becky, saying she was extremely disappointed in the fact that I wasnt there for her with the wedding planning. She said I never went to events with her and she would just have to learn to \"lean on\" someone else instead of me. \n\nI'm like...what? I spent a day with her picking out dresses. I am actively planning an expensive bachelorette party because she wants a destination one. I feel like I'm doing what I'm supposed to do. It has just been shitty timing for the other stuff. I told Becky this, she said it doesnt change the fact that I've let her down and been a disappointment to her. She then went on to say she doesnt accept my reasons for not going to the bridal fair (extreme nausea and pain). She said every other bridesmaid had messaged her the same thing and she expected more. \n\nI just... I don't know. In my family, you did not have the maid of honor or bridesmaids do shit like this. They help with bachelorette parties and stuff like that. It's just weird to me that Becky seems to expect this much of me and the other bridesmaids. Is this normal though? Am I being an asshole? \n\nTl;dr bride is mad that maid of honor and bridesmaids cant make it to florist meeting and bridal fair. AITA for not being there?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "VxSnvb5rzeaFhtIcQnYGfmb2oIcHvAls", "post_id": "alx862", "action": {"description": "asking my crush to go to the dance right after she broke up with her boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if i asked my crush to go to the dance right after she broke up with her boyfriend", "text": "My crush told me she was going to break up with her boyfriend because she didn\u2019t like him that much. She didn\u2019t want to lead him on and get his hopes up if he was looking for something more. She had previously told me that things were feeling weird, so I sort of knew this would happen. \n\nI want to ask her to the dance (if i don\u2019t get the courage to do it as a couple i might ask her as a friend), but is that bad? She told me she was going to the dance with her ex when i last asked if she had found anyone to go with, but now that they aren\u2019t together she obviously isn\u2019t going with him. \n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "L50kyoCthsxykZ9izXoh9Ww8juOqY9AX", "post_id": "a73y80", "action": {"description": "wanting a to keep a dorm room to myself", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For wanting a to keep a dorm room to myself?", "text": "So basically my roomate moved out of my room earlier this semester, and the way that it works in my school it basically turns into a single for the price of a double. There's a chance that next semester someone could try and move into the room with me, but the chances of that are fairly low. One of the people in my suite asked me if I had anyone lined up to move into the room and I said no. He then proceeded to ask if his friend (who I don't know) can move into the room with me, AITA if I tell him I want to try to keep the room to myself?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "voAOsrCWE0byuXRtyNagisgxF3h7xnRx", "post_id": "ax9m5k", "action": {"description": "getting angry because my friends didn't tell me they were going to go out", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I got angry because my friends didn\u2019t tell me they were gonna go out?", "text": "So, I\u2018m sick most of the time. Usually, my friends and I meet up at the weekends and go to someone\u2019s house to drink or we watch a movie together. Now, at the moment carnival is happening (it\u2019s really weird in Germany idk how to explain it people dress up and drink basically)\n\nI don\u2019t really text my friends all that often because I mostly stay home. But I asked them two days ago what they were doing, and told them I really wanted to do something. And they just said they already were on their way to a club. And I thought fine, I\u2018ll just stay home then.\n\nSo yesterday I asked them if anything was planned and they said no. And I texted one of them today, asking what\u2018s up. And the response was just a big picture of all of my friends having fun in a car on their way to a party.\n\nNow, I didn\u2019t tell them that I was feeling better because I assumed they\u2018d ask me if I wanna go with them. But I\u2018m starting to feel like they don\u2019t want me there and that\u2019s making me really anxious. Like do they even think about me? At all? \n\nI want to confront them about this the next time I see them. But do I even have the right to? Because I didn\u2019t make it 100% clear that I wanted to party today... But I still feel like they\u2019re in the wrong for not telling me. Would I be the asshole if I gave my friends shit for not asking me?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tZID5kUcBZZDtwwPguwy5F6Uyyj0CFWa", "post_id": "b7ng4i", "action": {"description": "\"qualifying\" my apologies", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for \"qualifying\" my apologies?", "text": "Maybe \"qualifying\" isn't the best word, more like specifically saying what I am apologizing for.\n\nEither way, I don't have a problem apologizing when I've done something wrong, but a blanket \"I'm sorry\" doesn't really feel like it does anything to address what went wrong and how to avoid it in the future -- especially when it's more nuanced than \"i was wrong and you were right.\"\n\nFor example, my girlfriend and I started arguing about something trivial the other day. Not to go into too much detail, she ended up accusing me of doing something behind her back that i know she asked me not to do. That wasn't the case, things started getting heated, and i raised my voice, essentially turning it into a full blown fight.\n\nWe worked it out later (ended up being mostly a miscommunication) and I said that I was \"sorry for escalating the situation.\" I stand by what I said, but I fully acknowledge that I made the argument into a bigger deal than it needed to be and I was genuinely sorry for it.\n\nI feel like that makes sense, but my girlfriend gets a little upset by it sometimes because she feels like I'm being insincere (or pointed) when I qualify apologies like that.\n\nThis isn't an ongoing argument or anything, and she and I truly have a great relationship. I guess I'm just looking for a reality check here: Am i being an asshole by doing this, or does this sound more like a \"no assholes\" situation and we just need to communicate more effectively?\n\nThanks for reading and any insight you guys might have", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "awtvoKEyIcdkpdPjq0Ijh5wNv3Cb2HUy", "post_id": "ay7xpp", "action": {"description": "not caring about the whole Michael Jackson thing", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not caring about the whole Michael Jackson thing?", "text": "So if you don\u2019t know, there\u2019s a MJ documentary that paints him as a ped*phile and child r*pist. Idk if its true, but I don\u2019t CARE. \n\nApparently this didn\u2019t sit right with my coworkers, as they were discussing it and asked for my opinion on it, and when I said \u201cWho cares? The mans dead. Has been for more than a decade\u201d wasn\u2019t the right opinion... \n\nI really don\u2019t care if he was or wasn\u2019t. Is that bad? My coworkers think its insensitive and ignorant for me to refuse to stay informed as to whether or not one of the biggest stars in history was a child r*pist. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jb604icl7JtMTdNoJCQt5PSotkQeLA9u", "post_id": "aize60", "action": {"description": "stucking a pencil between my glasses and my nose", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for stucking a pencil between my glasses and my nose. (English may get clumsy)", "text": "Today in class the idea came to my mind to put a pencil between my glasses and my nose (so it's like a extension of my nose).\nIn that lesson a intern gave us the lesson and not the teacher. It was her first lesson.\n\nBehind me and my friends is a row of three girls and they were really annoyed of the pencil extension I had. I don't really know why. If they wanted to look at the intern speaking in front of the class they just could look past me so they don't really see the pencil unless they want to see it.\n\nAfter a while they whispered that it is a rude thing to do so I figured I should apologize to the intern. I did and she said that it wasn't really rude for her and I could continue if I want to.\n So I continued but the two of the three girls just continued to mock me and say thing like \"I think I'll get up and take his pencil away\" and so on.\nI don't think I did something wrong but what do you think?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3Asg6kvzm9vaJWClO9ZHJ8kgO8Cln6UL", "post_id": "ap2bhc", "action": {"description": "telling my ex that I didn't appreciate her telling pretty much everyone we knew she was going to break up with me before she did", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my ex that I didn't appreciate her telling pretty much everyone we knew she was going to break up with me before she did?", "text": "cos I told her that and now she's mad  \nmore info: we broke up recently and are still friends (i think), there's a lot I haven't told her about what I didn't like about our relationship because our breakup was very amicable and we both believe it was an unhealthy relationship  \n\n\nidk, I feel that it was rather disrespectful for her to do that but she's treating it like I was the asshole", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "j1H3U3a4EwegXNIpH7gsUsxEPlTGT3ji", "post_id": "awbmmy", "action": {"description": "telling on a fellow student", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I told on a fellow student?", "text": "Ok, I have a friend who carries a knife to school every day. It's never been a problem, and she's had it for the past few years, and its blade is only 2 cm or so. It's one of those little knives you can get as a souvenir. However, a few days ago she threatened me with it, and even though I knew she couldn't do anything like follow through, because it was during class time in a science lab, and she would get expelled immediately, it still made me very weary. I considered talking to her about leaving it at home, but she is very attached to it and I doubt anything would come of it. The only option I could think of would be to tell a teacher, but I know that could end in a close friend being expelled. Even if she doesn't get expelled, she might never feel comfortable around me. However, I can't feel comfortable when she's proven that she CAN use the knife on a friend. I feel either option is horrible, what do you think? Also, if you know me and come across this, please don't comment... I don't want this growing out of control and showing up in my school", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Fjc84T3VPD6E4dynE5NTGYyvrtP7YenS", "post_id": "aha3tl", "action": {"description": "having sex with my friend's fling", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for having sex with my friend's fling", "text": "I'm going to try to provide all the facts but my memory of this night is not entirely there. I pieced this together from my friends and parts of my own memory.\n\nSo last weekend I was at a small party (6 people) at my friend's house who I will call Dylan. We are a group of 5 friends but this time Dylan invited a girl he recently met, I'll call her Emma. We had a bunch of different substances and planned on playing some (board) games and just having a good time.\n\nAround 9 PM I took a bar of Xanax after smoking a bit. I must say I do have a little tolerance to benzos so this didn't really knock me out or anything. Dylan decided to stick to alcohol this night and Emma took 2C-B for the first time. The others were smoking weed and drinking, my other friend (Brian) took a bar of Xanax too. \n\nWe were all having a great time. Emma was having the time of her life and could not believe what she was experiencing, meanwhile Dylan was already getting pretty drunk. Around 11 PM we started playing a drinking game. I had my mind set on taking it easy since I have blacked out in the past combining benzos and alcohol. Emma came to sit next to me and kept touching me and resting her head on my shoulder. I did not know how to respond to this and just let her do her thing. I know how intense and stimulating a trip can be and did not want to mess up the moment.\n\nThe drinking game went pretty OK. I stopped after 3 shots because I already felt that I was entering dangerous territory. Dylan on the other hand was getting absolutely hammered. Emma was playing it safe too and stopped after 2 shots. While this was going on she was still very touchy and affectionate towards me. Honestly I just didn't really know what to do. I've never gone beyond first base with a girl and felt conflicted. My friends noticed this and distracted her for some time.\n\nSomewhere between 11 and 12 PM I took another bar of Xanax. I know, it's stupid but I couldn't help it. I remember feeling pretty slumped and went to lay down on a bed in a different room. I slept for an unknown amount of time (0-2h) and woke up with Emma standing next to me. At this point I was still pretty barred out and she was talking to me. I didn't really care for whatever what she was saying and just closed my eyes again. This is where it all falls down.\n\nI think around an hour passed when Emma came to lie down next to me, and I asked her what she was doing. She told me she was just tired from the trip and wanted to relax a little, I believe she was close to the end of the peak. I think I was sobering up a little bit (could have taken another bar, not sure) and put on some relaxing music and tried to sleep again. At this point Emma was again getting very touchy and I just ignored and tried to go to sleep. I remember taking off my boxers and that's about it. I woke up around 10 AM with both of us naked and I left shortly after.\n\nI have no exact memory of what happened and tried my best to piece the shards I know together. After this I called Dylan and asked him if he knew what happened the other night and how he was doing. He told me he knows absolutely nothing but had a good time regardless. I don't know what to tell him, I feel like this would put an end to our friendship. I have seen Emma once since this all went down and she kept going with the same touchiness and attention. I don't know what to make of this but I feel like I gigantic dick and asshole. \n\nTLDR: Had sex (?) with my friend's fling while she was tripping and I was partially blacked out. He doesn't know and she acts like nothing happened but still gives me lots of attention.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5QX5gNk8xGDBCjfNp2MpoXF6LGM8Vzu5", "post_id": "a5cr7f", "action": {"description": "not wanting to talk to my mom on the phone every day", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to talk to my mom on the phone every day?", "text": "Hiya. I'm in my 20's and moved out over 2 years ago. I also lived in a dorm for my freshman year of college, and so I have generally not lived with my mother for a good chunk of the last few years.\n\nSome background - my mom lives less than an hour away. She has always been overbearing in this kind of way but it has gotten worse since she's been with her boyfriend who she does not really get along with. I know she's not happy and that's why I feel bad, but it's getting to be too much.\n\nShe calls me almost every day and I don't like to talk on the phone. I work two jobs and am in my last semester of school. I'm busy and don't really have that much to talk about every single day or even multiple times a week. I'm just on that grind. I'd rather just text with her. She will call me when I'm at work (\"I don't know your schedule\"). I've expressed I'd rather text but she just generally will not. I'm not much of a phone talker in general. Then she will get mad and guilt me saying I'm ungrateful because \"she just wants to talk to me,\" if I can't talk when she calls. I'm getting tired but feel too guilty trying to set some boundaries. I know she does mean well but I am getting stressed with this neuroticism. Am I being a bad daughter or asshole? I feel like I'm being a scapegoat right now but then I feel so guilty even typing this post out that idk.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XohODo7JzWXX94c6Ktcl3W4cNYZ1nemp", "post_id": "a6uvi6", "action": null, "title": "AITA in this exchange?", "text": "https://imgur.com/a/nn3YAGP\n\nGuy from my group asked us to ask the professor for an extra point so he could get an A. I pointed out that he didn't bother to show up to a class a while back and asked us to cheat via giving him a top hat code", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AyBt9N85VgEh3YDrRRzGFmxHC8Ge2Dje", "post_id": "b5o8t6", "action": {"description": "having an almanac", "pronormative_score": 1497, "contranormative_score": 53}, "title": "AITA for having an Almanac?", "text": "A bit of backstory. I met my wife in the summer of 2008. She was working as the ice cream girl at a local restaurant. I had gone to pick up some boxes because I was moving. Out walked my Sara...it was close to the end of her shift. And working in this particular restaurant was a...dirty job to say the least. (Seriously, I don't care what DDD says, that place is gross.) She was covered in sweat from cleaning the machines, caked in all the dirt from that nasty little kitchen, had a grease stain on her cheek...and she was fucking beautiful. Her smile, her easy laugh, her obvious intelligence...I'm pretty sure I fell in love right then and there that wonderful May night. (inb4 \"tHAts sO OlD faShIOned!!!\" Don't care. When you know, you know.) I wasted no time in asking her out and we hit it off immediately.\nIt started after our first date. She had mentioned she loves lilacs. Me, being a 23 year old guy at the time, didn't know Jack or shit about flowers. But the way she talked about how much she loved them I knew I didn't want to forget that tidbit of information. So I wrote it down in one of those mini spiral notebooks. (Think what cops use to take notes.) This was The Almanacs genesis. Over the years I've written down information about my wife. Her favorite color, her favorite restaurants, her favorite books, movies she wants to see, etc. Basically all the little things I knew I would forget. Anything that struck me as worthy of remembering when she told me. I would go through it every once in a while so I could do something sweet for her. Fast forward to yesterday morning.\nI get a call from her around 11am. \"What the fuck is The Almanac?\" (The Almanac is written on the cover. It's just a silly name that occurred to me a few years ago.) She obviously has it, and I don't lie to my wife, so I tell her. She gets really quiet for maybe half a minute and then says \"I always thought you remembered this stuff...\" tells me she has to run and hangs up. I get home from work last night and she's really dejected. I asked her what's wrong and she says the Almanac has cheapened every sweet thing I've ever done for her. She called it my \"playbook\" and said she felt betrayed. Mind you I've never showed it to a single soul nor have I even told anyone about it. Until yesterday I was the only person in the world to know of it's existence. (She also said she hasn't decided if I can have it back or not, and that she's thinking about destroying it.) I'm kind of heart broken. I feel like this should be an example of how much I love her. I'm terrified she's going to burn it. I WANT to remember all these details that make my wife who she is. That's why I write them down. I don't chronicle these things for brownie points or status. I do it because I love my wife. I hear so many wives bitch that their husbands don't remember shit, and I don't want to be that guy. So yeah, I took notes. And now I'm getting the silent treatment. Or at best single word answers.\nAITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 48, "OTHER": 1166, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 331, "INFO": 22}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1497, "WRONG": 53}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ejlqcc9dRv07M5MQQWLlvkDGcRbIHecg", "post_id": "a4kv9o", "action": {"description": "not wanting my dad to live with me", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my dad to live with me?", "text": "My parents are divorced, for 10 years now. I have two younger sisters who are both married with children. I\u2019m 36, I have an 8 year old son, and I\u2019m divorced. I was able to attend college after high school despite my parents discouraging me to do so, mostly because of scholarships. I moved out at 18 and never asked for help. I\u2019ve got a great job and I actually have a really nice 4 bedroom house in a nice neighborhood. \nMy parents are financially shaky- my mom had open heart surgery this summer and turns out and has no insurance. I paid for her post op rehab. She\u2019s extremely narcissistic and turns on a guilt trip all the time. \nMy dad has a small photography business that has barely been scraping by. He refuses to get a job and hasn\u2019t filed taxes in years. He asks me to meet up for dinner and sticks me with the bill all the time. He posted on Facebook last week that he needs $3000 or he\u2019s going to get evicted. He\u2019s asking his friends to PayPal him, but even if he does get the money, he\u2019s going to struggle to maintain. He has no sense of fiscal responsibility- refuses to budget or cook- goes to concerts, trips, posts about it all on Facebook. Eventually he will be homeless. \nHere\u2019s the thing- I love my dad, but part of why I moved out is he would order me around. \u201cGet me a glass of water, make me a sandwich, clean this\u201d. His house is always a mess and he never picks up after himself. I don\u2019t want him living with me- that\u2019s not the example I want for my son. My ex was a lot like this so I am already battling the \u201cwomen exist to take care of men\u201d thing. I have the space and the means, but I don\u2019t feel it\u2019s my responsibility to take care of people that never took care of me. \nAm I the asshole here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OmglBWzZtuMdDVHTsDFLeKKpZtw4qHbN", "post_id": "atn6re", "action": null, "title": "AITA today at the dog park?", "text": "Sorry for the formatting guys, on mobile right now. So this really pissed me off today that he thought I was in the wrong, until I realized to me my dog is the cat's pajamas and probably he feels the same for his. So the chances of either of us being objective here is minute, wantes to get some imput from you guys. \n\nAnother dog latched onto mine(Bo) and was chasing him around trying to hump, which my dog doesn't put up with. So Bo lost his patience since he couldn't even walk around with this dog repeatedly trying to mount him and started posting up this other dog. This always has scared me with owning a pit mix just because of the stigma around the dog honestly and had the other guy eyeballing mine like he was dangerous. \n\nSo the other dog owner comes up apologizing saying he thinks he's playing, but can't keep his dog from mine. He just would run around and jump right back on Bo. The other owner had to leave because this didn't stop. But called me the asshole for bringing an 'aggressive dog' to the park. \n\nMy main defense and why I think the dude is WAY out of line is one humping is not JUST a play behavior. It's about dogs asserting dominance over one another. And when your dog is trying to hump mine to that extent, you need to better train your dog before he does that to a way more aggressive dog than mine. And two, my dog may be the one getting angry and loud, but your untrained dog is provoking this. Or what am I supposed to do? AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 19, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mNGZixcosQEAR4m6NFDXPzYciHlIjiwl", "post_id": "acvgat", "action": {"description": "not making more of an effort to be with my family", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not making more of an effort to be with my family?", "text": "On mobile, formatting might suck.\n\nI live with my mum and my brother (my dad lives about 30 minutes away) and consider myself to be very close to both of them.\n\nWe spend a lot of time together, but I also like to be alone a lot and as such spend a lot of the day in my room. We eat dinner together and watch a film or a tv show but then I disappear upstairs again. My problem is that they always seem to have the best time whenever I'm not around - I can often hear them laughing and chatting as soon as I leave, and whenever they go shopping together without me they come back beaming and clearly having laughed their heads off.\n\nI'm not suggesting they're the assholes for having a good time, and I don't want them to not have fun. I just wish I was more involved, especially since mum and dad separated and the three of us have become a lot more tight-knit.\n\nWhenever I bring this up to them they brush it off and say that I'm imagining it and I should just spend more time with them. I know that if I want to be included I need to spend more time with them, but I find it really hard to be around people for extended periods of time (I'm a big introvert) and I feel like I'm intruding as they clearly have less fun when I'm there.\n\nAITA for thinking I'm the outcast of the family, and should I be making an effort to spend more time with them and be included?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1N5yZM6yXI6SIvmfg9KmRJ8iLmuoS1tx", "post_id": "avmj04", "action": {"description": "saying no to my mom asking for marijuana", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for saying no to my mom asking for marijuana?", "text": "Hey there, so a little short backstory. Parents going through separation/divorce. My farther has cheated on my mother twice and caused a lot of trauma to her emotionally. Lately she has been asking me to use my marijuana every other day. She has had court for the past few days for stuff I should not disclose on here. She has also had a past problem with alcohol/drug abuse that I have seen my self throughout the past few years.\n\nI feel like im just being greedy with my \"stuff\" but I also feel like she is using it just for an escape and not for the enjoyment. I don't want to give her it every day but once a week is fine, I would like to just have some for my self. She calls me a dick for not giving any to her and says shes just gonna have to go out and find some her self. I feel when she says that she is just trying to make me feel bad and give her some. Like I said before she has had lots of problems with drugs and I don't want to influence her more with not giving her any but on the other hand I feel like im being greedy by not giving her any.\n\nI love my mom to death but I feel like she doesn't even notice how she has affected me and my brother through all of this and when she calls me a dick and try's to guilt trip me it makes me feel really conflicted and stressed. Am I the asshole for this or should I not give her any?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uomjSvIvLWR4LF1sQPrRSn3etejtEABb", "post_id": "b8u2dc", "action": {"description": "telling my friend he needs to stop feeling sorry for himself", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend he needs to stop feeling sorry for himself", "text": "So my friend has been going through rough times lately, his gf broke up with him about 6 months ago and he cant find a job, his mom is an alcoholic and he has temper problems and will lash out at her when she is drunk (she isn\u2019t abusive just drunk all the time) so he left the house as he didn\u2019t want to be around his mother, he almost went homeless before he finally went to his dads house, which he despises staying at because his dad makes him try to find jobs, pretty much my friends temper makes it so that he cant do many applications every week because he gets angry at retyping in all the info. He also has lost all of his jobs or quit because he would become angry with the managers, which I understand but you have to suck up shitty managers.\n\nSo he has been telling me all this depressing stuff like I hate my life, ill never get a job im going to be homeless etc. I supported him for a long time and tried my best to just help him get out of his depressive state but with all the stuff going on in his life he started lashing out at me with his temper.\n\nI decided to write to him some serious advice that is kind of critical of his life and I know that it can be hard to accept that but pretty much I told him he needs to stop being sorry for himself, if he wants a job he needs to make his full time job finding a job. I told him he needs to suck up his managers being assholes and that honestly every problem in his life is usually caused by him. \n\nHe didn\u2019t like me saying this and has blocked me and I haven\u2019t heard from him since so reddit, am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CjhUR0B8iY67YWGBj0m4w2HxyZdBxCbo", "post_id": "ayhibo", "action": {"description": "asking someone who chooses the bathroom stall next to mine to choose another stall", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 26}, "title": "WIBTA for asking someone who chooses the bathroom stall next to mine to choose another stall?", "text": "I am a very shy pooper, and if someone can hear/smell what I'm doing in there I get very self-conscious. I realize this is my burden to bear, and no one should be forced to comply, however, in a theoretical scenario, if there are 7 stalls, I am already occupying one, the rest are empty, and the next person chooses the one directly next to mine, would I be an asshole to ask them kindly to move upon entry?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 24, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 26}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "hLH70tWJGwE0B7eeKz0cUFUEr6qIjm4M", "post_id": "atl0xj", "action": {"description": "nagging my wife about cleaning", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for nagging my wife about cleaning?", "text": "We've been together for the better part of 20 years, and one of the biggest points of contention in our relationship is that my wife simply does not clean up after herself.\n\nShe'll do maybe one load of dishes a week to feel like she's contributed, she'll do her laundry if she runs out of clothes, and she might put away some of her stuff if I harp on about it enough. The only time she might actually clean the house is if we have company over, but since we live out in the sticks that's maybe a couple times a year.\n\nNow, I'm by no means Howard Hughes-levels of neat freak, but I do like to keep things at least reasonably tidy and organized. I tend to work less hours (although right now I'm working on-call and a SAHD) so I'm ok with doing the majority of the general housework, but it still bothers me that I'm constantly picking up after her.\n\nCase in point: a couple days ago I did a deep clean of the kitchen; washed all the dishes and scrubbed down the stove and counter tops. After she got home from work she made dinner (which was mostly leftovers anyways) and then had an impulse to do some baking. Now, I'm a proponent of the \"if you cook, they clean\" rule, but within reason. By the end of the night there was a full load of dishes and the surfaces were worse than they were before I cleaned them.\n\nMaybe this will come across as crazy, but the little stuff sometimes bothers me more than the big things. This morning she left some crumbs on the counter (that I had just re-cleaned yesterday after the previous mess) from making breakfast. Now, it only took me a few seconds to sweep the crumbs off the counter and throw them away, but it bothers me that she couldn't be bothered to take the few seconds to do it herself. Or the damn pull tabs from the milk cartons that just sit on the counter top for days until I finally take the few seconds required to throw it away.\n\nAnd don't even get me started on the endless battlefield that is the kitchen table. She insists on using the table as her home office, because her actual home office is too cluttered to be used as such. In several homes we have been in, she has used the table as a dumping ground for her stuff, even though in one home she would have to walk past her office room and open a baby gate to get to the table, and in another walk down 14' of stairs and yet again open a baby gate. I just don't understand how someone can exert MORE effort to make a mess than to not.\n\nNow if I'm not already, this might be the point that I officially become the asshole. Her mom is a hoarder. Not to the point that you'd see on the TLC show, but still pretty bad. I'm starting to realize that my wife might not know what \"cleaning up after yourself\" even means. Granted, I spent most of my formative years in a similar environment (more dilapidation than hoarding) and I think it my stress is related to that, but it my be comforting for her in a way.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "R9iftFAYVpkoHX0YvfBpWyeVbQ9X92rt", "post_id": "a7kmhi", "action": {"description": "not dating a girl who's sick", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not dating a girl who's sick?", "text": "I'll try to keep this short though because there's a lot of history.\n\nThe brief of it though, is that there's a girl I've known for quite a while. We flirt back and forth, because she's cute and she thinks I'm cute. We've even sort of discussed the idea of something happening, but never really made good on it.\n\nRecently, she's become a lot more interested, but at the same time, she's spending a lot of time in the hospital, related to a serious disease (not cancer, but has required much chemo).\n\nBasically- I probably would be okay trying something with her, but the idea of dating someone as sick as she is makes me uncomfortable. Psychologically, it might have to do with a painful family experience I had making me very weary of hospitals.\n\nI 100% don't want to tell her that I'm put off by how sick she is, because that's completely unfair, but I don't really know what to do.\n\nAm I an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "S6hd9KyawfnBdsptSC2OA5WIJGeGdSTw", "post_id": "apbje4", "action": {"description": "knocking off a rastafarian mans hat after he stole \u00a35000 off my dad", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "WIBTA if I knocked off a Rastafarian mans hat after he stole \u00a35000 off my dad", "text": "my dad is a mechanic and owns his own garage.\nand one customer bought his car in for a service or something and the car was fine. 2 weeks later the guy comes back and said that my dad has ruined his engine, he did it himself. he was asking for \u00a35000 when his shitty car wasn't even worth that much.  my dad ended up giving him the money because he didn't want to waste time and money on court. now it's probably been 7 years. and he's had no karma for what he did. BTW he is a Rastafarian (no hate to Rastafarians).and he wears the multi coloured hat. and I see him nearly everyday when I'm coming back from school. so for payback I want to knock his hat/turban off his head. but I don't know if I should because it might be racist. I have nothing against Rastafarians but it seems fit rather than just punching him straight in the face.\n\nBTW he doesn't know who I am at all so it will kinda be karma for the money he stole. but he will have no idea\nI'm not sure wether I should do it. so people of reddit help me \n\nthanks for reading this, if anyone does \nthis is my first post btw", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "v0GGCF1z0uACzRagmWg2v5r1qWv1e0ah", "post_id": "b1dh6p", "action": {"description": "leaving my wife for six months to do overseas work", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I left my wife for six months to do overseas work?", "text": "On mobile so excuse me for formatting and all that. First post here too so excuse me if I get anything wrong. \n\nI'll be getting out of the army soon and my wife doesn't want me to leave her again (8 months of our 1 year marriage I have been away). She wants to go on a honeymoon to a foreign country when I get out but we dont have the money for it. She says that we will find a way to make the money but she can only work part time at her job. She makes very good money for the amount of time she works so that isn't an issue. My army certifications only get me hired on as an EMT when I get out so $15 an hour isn't too appealing. I could do 6 months of contracted security overseas and make enough for our honeymoon and then about 3 months of living without a job. Whenever I bring this up to her she gets sad and says \"do whatever you want.\"  I know my wife and that doesn't mean to do what I want. WIBTA if I went ahead and did the six month contract so I could have a peace of mind about our finances?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZdL550e5JbKCcP0HrZekhCDpOM0zehDy", "post_id": "aa3zsv", "action": {"description": "cutting her hair in revenge", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for cutting her hair in revenge?", "text": "This story takes place around 8 years ago, when I was in high school. I was riding the bus to school in the morning when I heard laughter from behind me. A girl sitting behind me was holding scissors and somebody informed me that she had cut my hair. She only took a tiny bit out, and I don't think it was noticeable. We were both around 15, and we weren't particularly friendly before this but we had no real animosity either.\n\n\nFrom what I remember, I didn't immediately react in any way. I took scissors from the art room later that day and hid them in my bag. I sat behind her on the bus home, and took a slither out of the bottom of her ponytail. I returned the scissors the next morning, and I never heard any mention of it from parents or teachers.\n\n\nI'm not sure that I regret doing it even to this day, an eye for an eye and all that. From what I remember she shaved her head at some point, though I'm not sure how long after this she did it. I'm not sure why I'm bringing this up now, but I've become a lot more self aware of my actions as an adult and sometimes it's hard to tell the difference between standing up for yourself, prideful self destruction, or just straight up assholeness.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "lLEV4q7bGxs3sPdBlr8270lfKELC6C8h", "post_id": "a5d5os", "action": {"description": "not focusing on my wife's nephew", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not focusing on my wife\u2019s nephew?", "text": "My sister in law had a baby boy a year ago ( the first on this side of the family). Every single time we get together everyone surrounds him making baby noises and tries to entertain him while I sit on the couch and watch tv. The couch where I sit is in the same room, but usually across the room. \nKids are not my thing and I find it a little obnoxious with all the faces and noises the family makes. \nShould I try harder to be with the family?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2FIj24II4ItSljNWKfOkMibGxJgpTuOL", "post_id": "b0uqap", "action": {"description": "trying to public ally humiliate a girl in my class on the last day of her senior year", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "WIBTA if I tried to public ally humiliate a girl in my class on the last day of her senior year", "text": "There\u2019s this girl in one of my classes that I absolutely hate. We are on the same sports team, but she had pretty much ignored me until this class. I sat next to her the first day of class because she was with another girl who I actually like from the same team.\n\nShe says a lot of shit that annoys me but mostly it\u2019s three things. First, she cheats off my papers without asking me even though I told her to do it herself and I\u2019m clearly uncomfortable with this. I don\u2019t really care if she cheats in general, but it really bothers me that she just takes my papers without asking. Then, she offers me advice about how I should add fluff to my college app even though I never asked her for advice. She tells me my brother (also a senior) shouldn\u2019t have gotten in to his dream school because in her opinion he \u201cdoesn\u2019t do anything.\u201d She also gives me advice about how I should go get drunk at a party because I\u2019m too uptight, again I didn\u2019t ask.\n\nUp until about a week ago I had just ignored her when she did this and would talk to my other friend. I also moved seats because she was annoying me. Last class, she gave me a brownie and I thought it was kind of like an \u201cI\u2019m sorry for being a dick\u201d peace offering. I ate it and then five minutes later she comes over to me and tells me it had weed in it. I was fucking pissed. My dad has struggled with addiction and I really don\u2019t want to touch that stuff. She knows I don\u2019t drink, smoke, etc. I freak out in class but then I realize she might be lying so I just wait to see if she comes over and says it was a joke. Class ended (about 45 minutes after I ate the brownie) and she finally comes over and says it was a joke and that she didn\u2019t put weed in it because she didn\u2019t want to waste her money on me.\n\nAnyways, I was going to report her for bullying and harassment because of all this, but I don\u2019t want her to get in serious trouble, so I was instead going to tell her off in front of all of her \u201cfriends\u201d (they don\u2019t like her) in class and be really loud about it so she would be embarrassed. WIBTA if I did this?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "succmDtPSZfH1si0WRWkxsjDNZnK9sHO", "post_id": "a35kg9", "action": {"description": "not listening to my wife complain", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for not listening to my wife complain?", "text": "This whole thing is the kind of super petty things married couples get into. \n\nI was annoyed with our old vacuum so I bought a new one. When I got it I asked my wife to try it out and tell me what she thought of it. If she didn\u2019t like it I\u2019d return it. She refused to try it saying she didn\u2019t care. \n\nFast forward a month. I\u2019ve been using it daily and she still hasn\u2019t tried it. I\u2019m out one day or something and she finally has to use it. \n\nThat evening she comes up to me and says \u2018I\u2019m definitely not saying we should return the vacuum, but \u2014\u2018. \n\nAt this point I cut her off and say \u2018sorry, but I\u2019d rather not hear about it\u2019. She of course gets mad and I point out she had a month to try it out and that I asked for her opinion and she refused, so I\u2019m no longer interested in hearing about it. \n\nAITA for cutting her off? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "QR7y8q4CSBpH3AwDWAhe2kLtuleTMaET", "post_id": "akehz4", "action": {"description": "ghosting someone I met online", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for ghosting someone I met online?", "text": "hi there! this has been bothering me for a while and I can\u2019t help but wonder if i have wronged this person.\n\nso, some context. i met them through an app called amino and just to be clear, we hadn\u2019t really talked much at all before i kinda just stopped responding. \n\nmy reasoning is that the few conversations we\u2019ve had have been relatively uninteresting for me (i\u2019m sorry) and also they\u2019re kind of negative and i, trying to get out of that state myself, don\u2019t really want to be around that. and i\u2019m not trying to be narcissistic here but they get kind of unusually sad if i don\u2019t respond within a day or two (i\u2019m not that active on amino)  and when i try to explain myself, they shut me down. i feel bad for ghosting them and they\u2019ve sent me several messages like \u201ci thought you were nice.. but you just ghost people\u201d or \u201cif you don\u2019t want to talk to me then just say so\u201d but i can\u2019t bring myself to say that. they\u2019re so sweet and they\u2019ve been really nice to me but they\u2019re also kind of unstable and i am not really able to help them out as bad as that sounds. \n\nalso, a side note, i am awful with more clingy types of people. i try to be a generally nice person but it gets hard when someone is around and talking to me so often. i have to distance myself so i don\u2019t go off. i\u2019m trying to change that but it\u2019s a lil difficult.\n\nam i the asshole here? i\u2019m sorry that this is so poorly written. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Y9xGtCg43Jn7xSit4F2C9LBUYaSF56os", "post_id": "awye1o", "action": {"description": "telling my boyfriend I'm tired of him treating me like a dog", "pronormative_score": 89, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for telling my boyfriend I'm tired of him treating me like a dog?", "text": "I'll try to keep this as short as I can: I'm a terrible cook, I hate to cook and to top it off, due to medical expenses, I'm extremely poor right now, which means the only groceries I can buy are bread, milk and pasta. Since meat is extremely expensive where I live, I can only afford it about once every two weeks.\n\nTonight, I was studying when I saw my boyfriend (who's not in financial trouble yearst all) go to the kitchen to prepare a nice meaty stew. I asked him if he could cook a portion for me too, since he was going to cook anyway. He told me no. I have no idea why he said no, because he clearly had enough ingredients to make two portions, but I assume he just doesn't like my cook and he's not really a generous guy by nature. A while later, he was eating his dish and told me I could have the rest of it since we he was feeling full already. I hadn't eaten a proper meal all day, so I gladly jumped and ate whatever was left of his meal (barely 2 spoonfuls of food). \n\nI went to put the dirty dish on the sink when he cornered me in the kitchen and instructed that I clean the dishes. I told him I had cleaned them earlier and that it was him who had been cooking this time round. He got angry and started pushing me and restraining me, saying that he had been 'very kind' to 'cook me a dish' and that the least I could do was clean up for him. For some reason this made me lose my temper. I snapped and told him that sure, I was going to do the dishes later after I took a shower, but that he was acting like an idiot for thinking he has 'kindly cooked me a dish'. He didn't cook me anything. He cooked for himself and gave me his leftovers, which were barely a snack, just so I wouldn't go to sleep on an empty stomach. There was nothing kind in that. Kind would have been if he made us both dinner. He let go of me but shut the door violently and yelled that I was an 'ungrateful b*tch' and that he was never, ever gonna 'cook' for me again. I sure know that if I wanted to eat, I should have cooked something for myself, but goddamn it. I'm his girlfriend of 5 years, not his dog or roommate. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 89, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 89, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "48EsoST3B9eBv8xOeMhCjw0UolulWfpS", "post_id": "aoopsf", "action": {"description": "asking for my stuff back", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking for my stuff back?", "text": "Recently, me and a friend traded some stuff, here's what he did  \n\n\nHe Received: \n\nA 3DS XL in perfect Condition\n\nA Wired XB1 Controller  \nA Razer Kraken Headset  \nPokemon Black 2\n\n​\n\nI Recieved:  \n\n\nXbox 360S  \n1 Controller\n\n​\n\nhere's the thing. when i made the trade i made it ABUNDANTLY clear i needed an OFFICIAL XBOX 360 HDD otherwise it was a no go (he originally said he was going to keep the drive) finally, he agreed and we made the trade. come to find out, it's a chinese knockoff drive. i looked around, i asked 2 friends for their old broken 360s, but one didn't have an HDD at ALL and one lost his  \n\n\n​\n\ni called and told my friend i either \n\n​\n\nA: Need my stuff back (willing to give him back his console and he can keep the shit headset) or\n\n​\n\n B: needed an official 360HDD (i even offered to give him the old one so he can try to sell it and something else.) He doesn't want to do this because he already formatted the drive and modded the 3DS, AITA for insisting he does one of these things?  \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SzNcVBuhg7F3nm7n3CcD0Qt3PEqN6OLx", "post_id": "absxjg", "action": {"description": "accidentally making my daughter believe her uncle's brightly colored vegan cake was Play-doh and causing the entire family to do arts and crafts with it instead of eating it", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 88}, "title": "AITA for accidentally making my daughter believe her uncle's brightly colored vegan cake was Play-doh and causing the entire family to do arts and crafts with it instead of eating it?", "text": "At a family Christmas brunch my brother had done his absolute best preparing a vegan dessert for the family. He made a bright-green mung bean cake. I couldn\u2019t help it\u2026 it just\u2026 looked like Play-doh to me. It kinda smelled like Play-doh, too. Don\u2019t know about the flavor, but yeah, the whole texture and shape of it\u2026\n\nNow I\u2019ve always given my brother a hard time about his veganism. Lately I have been cool with his dietary choices. Respected them. But there he came to the table, beaming with pride at his creation, and my four-year-old daughter innocently asked\u2026 \u201cPapa, what is that?\u201d and I just, blurted out\u2026 \u201cIt\u2019s Play-doh, baby!\u201d\n\nSo, my daughter, quite enthusiastically, started rolling a snake out of her dessert. She also offered our youngest some \u201cclay to play with\u201d, which she did, equally enthusiastically. Soon my father and mother and all of us joined in on the fun, using my brother\u2019s dessert as a toy. We made snakes out of it, lions, snails\u2026 the whole family was just doing arts and crafts with my brother\u2019s dessert. He wasn\u2019t too amused and it kinda ruined our brunches\u2019 vegan addition entirely. Feel a little guilty over how much fun I had making fun of my brother's vegan cake.\n\n**TL;DR:** I convinced my daughter the vegan food of her uncle was Play-doh and the whole family just played arts and crafts with it at the dinner table instead of eating what he prepared for us.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 87, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 88}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "s9840TTXEkmGfiXmDt18TTLK3DDSItQh", "post_id": "ahjse6", "action": {"description": "telling my friend he should come clean to his GF about cheating, so I could get a chance with her", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend he should come clean to his GF about cheating, so I could get a chance with her?", "text": "He had made out with another girl according to him, and was guilty about it. Throughout this time, I became attracted to his girlfriend, it felt to me like she felt the same during that time. However, I would never try to ward her off from him, I was 100% planning on going after her though if they were to break up if I was single. \n\nSo he asked me if he should tell her. In my mind I'm like fuck yeah, this could finally be my chance. Also, it's not cool that he cheated on her, and I don't know why anyone would ever cheat on her. \n\nSo he tells her, (in the back of my head I knew she was going to dump him), She comes crying to me, not too long after me and her are in a relationship (which in my opinion proves my theory that she had mutual feelings for me prior). \n\nI do feel bad. Really wanted this girl as mine though. I did tell him to come clean for cheating though... with not so great intentions.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "NtIB82xyxjWs3AJeX5bkHFoxCJvwdLnH", "post_id": "b7vyhs", "action": {"description": "eating my food first", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for eating my food first", "text": "Long time lurker first time poster  so I was just getting of work and overheard a coworker say they were craving chipotle and as it would happen I was going there for lunch and it was just down the street i offered to pick him up something so I go to chipotle place his and my order and I when the orders were ready I sit down and eat my food so i go back to my work place to give him his food and he was upset I ate first and his food might be cold So AITA  ps I know I am terrible at writing ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "WXaSjCUBiZvr8NkbYaHYwr75LJHhLCFv", "post_id": "alwrf0", "action": {"description": "trying to help a Streamer out with a game", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Trying To Help A Streamer Out With A Game?", "text": "So today I went [Twitch.TV](https://Twitch.TV) to see if people were enjoying Kingdom Hearts 3, and I just got done with the game  and enjoyed it a lot I decided to see if people were getting ready to either beat it or just you know enjoy it, also keep in mind i don't watch to many streamers, so I found a streamer let's call him F@#$@ for now and he was getting prepped  up for the final world so he decided to go back finish up some stuff like postcards, treasure chests and etc and when got to Tangled's world he couldn't find the last Lucky Emblem he needed for the world and well seeing that he seemed to be struggling a bit, I told him where it was, because i had trouble with the same one and found it a couple hours before hand and so after telling him where it was, \"he says how did you know where it was at\" and I simple said I found it earlier it gave me trouble to and then he goes off on me about how i'm a asshole and how jerks and dicks like me ruin everything and how my parents should be upset about how they raised me and how i shouldn't be alive and etc, and then he banned me from chat. Then I was like ok? What did i do wrong then everyone in chat was laughing saying I saw that coming and etc. But before i said anything people were helping him out with the locations before hand so WTF? But anyway i reported him to twitch and went on to watch a different streamer that doesn't treat people like shit for trying to help. So AITA in this situation?                   P.S. If there is any spelling errors i'm sorry i was kinda pissed off when trying this. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0B3F45EFYVSuOB2kc2ruq9oGMPtPCzxZ", "post_id": "ajl6q1", "action": {"description": "telling my wife I will divorce her if she continues to try to raise our son as muslim", "pronormative_score": 227, "contranormative_score": 121}, "title": "AITA For telling my wife I will divorce her if she continues to try to raise our son as muslim?", "text": "Me and my wife have been married two years. She is from an immigrant family, who are fundamentalist muslims. I am pretty much an athiest, and when we met she was of the same mind, perhaps agnostic is the better word. She continued to put on a front for her muslim father.\n\nHer family does not like me, because i am a white guy who comes from a christian home. That is the fact of the matter, they have said as much on social media.\n\nMy wife lives with me. We agreed if we have kids they would be raised secular, if they want to choose to be muslim when theyre old, thats fine, but i do not care for the religion and dont want it drilled into them. She agreed and i would not have kids otherwise. Her family did not show up to our wedding.\n\nNow that our son has been born, her family keeps pressuring to see my son and take him to their mosque. I refused and she agreed, but now i found out her father took my son there and dressed him in muslim clothes without my knowledge.\n\nSo im not good enough for your daughter because im white, but my half white son youre going to raise against my wishes? No sir. My father in law has a gross control over my wife.\n\nShe is so happy when we can be in our home together and just be ourselves, have glasses of wine, eat whatever we want, wear whatever we want. When she sees her father she comes back depressed and ashamed.\n\nHe is pressuring her to be a muslim or a half muslim, whatever. She is my wife and i love her, but shes an adult and she can do what she wants. However i refuse to let my father in law drill thoughts into my boys head.\n\nHe is my son too, and hes a baby. I have told her this many times, but she continues to bring him to my father in law who continues to do religious things with him. My father in law refuses to listen when i tell him not to do this, and ignores me. He acts like i am not the boys father.\n\nI flat out told her i cannot allow my son to be raised that way, even if it meant splitting up.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 60, "OTHER": 220, "EVERYBODY": 61, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 227, "WRONG": 121}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "m1ihBocBbjno0dFxiVpge0DszDEksmic", "post_id": "aggnhy", "action": {"description": "expecting to be a big part of a friend's hypothetical wedding when I can't promise that she'd have the same part in mine", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for expecting to be a big part of a friend's hypothetical wedding when I can't promise that she'd have the same part in mine?", "text": "So me and my friend have been really close since we started middle school. She's the closest person to me outside my family, and the closest friend I've ever had. She's in a serious relationship and has been for a while, so since a friend of ours got married over the weekend she's had weddings on the mind. I teased her about basically planning her whole wedding since then and she told me she'd planned nearly everything, except who her maid of honor would be. She basically told me that I would only be hers if I promised that she'd be mine. For some background, she's not close to any of her family and has no close siblings. I'm her closest friend, so when the time comes then I'd assumed she'd pick me, because there really isn't anyone else who would make sense. In contrast, I come from a very large family, and despite many brothers, I only have one sister, who I'm pretty close to. I told my friend many years ago, probably around 8th grade, that I'd like my sister to be my maid of honor when I get married because she's my only sister, and that made sense to me. She knows this, she was offended at the time, but she knows it's important to me. The last time we talked about it I basically just said that there's no way that I'd be able to plan anything about my wedding now, and that we can worry about it later on. After she made that condition today I just made a joke about how she'd be waiting a long time to tie the knot if she had to wait for me to do it first, and then after I didn't promise her that she stopped texting me back at all. She'll get over it (I'm not scared she won't talk to me or anything), but is it unreasonable for me to expect to be her maid of honor if I can't promise she'd be mine, or is it unreasonable that she's making a fight over something that probably won't be an issue for at least a decade? (We're only 20).", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hr3XiiE6jEhN2Dos1Vi6408bFxJM4zAS", "post_id": "atx0t4", "action": {"description": "playing slots", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for playing slots", "text": "So today I decided to play slots and found this empty machine . I looked around for 3 seconds to see if anyone was around but no one expect for this guy next to me playing. I adjust the chair and put in 20 dollars and started hitting the play and afterwords won a small sum like 5 dollars.This guy comes up behind me and says that this was his machine. I did not see this guy by the ATM when I walked around or anywhere near the vicinity of this machine. I told him no one was here and tbh I didnt even see the 5 cents of credit that was left inside. I won the bonus of $132 and he started telling me that this was his money. He even asked the guy next to him that \"this was his seat\" but the dude next to him just shrugged his shoulders. Should I feel bad or was this guy just taking out his loses on me?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RLROQgjOcwhMqEs1gNAF70V8svvyJxRG", "post_id": "agnwp5", "action": {"description": "not keeping my husband undisturbed while he works from home", "pronormative_score": 48, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for not keeping my husband undisturbed while he works from home.", "text": "My husband switched jobs within the past year or so and new job allows him to work from home  a few days a week.  He decided to set up his office in our bedroom.  I suggested he set up in the basement where he would be guaranteed silence and very little disruption.  He prefers to work from our bedroom because the view is better.  His job is 90% conference calls so while he is up there, I have to keep kids from disturbing him which basically means the whole top floor of our house is off limits while he is on calls.  It also means I can\u2019t shower in my bathroom, do chores, put away laundry, or even take a nap when the baby is sleeping.  I also work from home but also take on most of the house chores and dealing with kids.  Him being up there negates my ability to take a damn shower or a poop in peace when I want to.   Since we have adequate space in the basement I told him that we would never bother him while he is down there ever but I can\u2019t promise him silence if he stays in our bedroom. He says i am the asshole for not being quiet when he\u2019s on calls while I think he is the asshole for not setting his office up in the dang basement. Please resolve our fight for us.  Thank you!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 46, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 48, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ees2DaDlJP8aU2O4oPa3fw07MJPOhPWE", "post_id": "ak8z0a", "action": {"description": "telling my religious sister that I dont believe morality exists, at a family get together", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For telling my religious sister that I dont believe morality exists, at a family get together?", "text": "So my sister and aunt are super religious and they have a habit of debating the bible with people any chance they get.\n\nWe were recent celebrating my grandpa's birthday and they start up again debating bible passages. Usually i either agree with them or I ignore them but my new years resolution was to be more assertive so when they came to me i gave my thoughts.\n\nIve been dealing with depression and guilt for a long time. As a kid i was molested by a relative, and growing up i did things that were considered very sinful. \n\nBut ive learned to let that all go by embracing like a moral nihilism. I came to the conclusion that morality is simply a societal set of guidelines to keep the masses in check. It also varies from country to country and culture to culture.\n\nWhats immoral in an islamic country might be celebrated in a scandinavian country and vice versa. The only thing that really matters in consequence, if your actions will give you a negative or positive result.\n\nTheres no point in being guilty or sad due to past actions as it doesnt really matter. And if you can break that tether to morality that binds you to society, you can achieve almost anything.\n\nNo i have not actually read nietzsche. I know about the superman concept but i dont think im one. This is just something i came up with on my own and makes me feel a lot better. Nihilism is just a good word for it.\n\nIm not a great philosopher so maybe this sounds stupid, idk. But i basically express these thoughts to them and their main takeaway is that im an athiest who thinks christians are stupid.\n\nI told them thats not what im trying to say but everything falls apart and now ive been partly blamed for ruining grandpas birthday. \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5E8dj2AUKsIAyjTrQVVelgVHcn8At0Yd", "post_id": "9wua44", "action": {"description": "wanting to move out regardless of how it impacts family", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to move out regardless of how it impacts family?", "text": "3 years ago I moved in with my Sister, Brother in Law, and their 2 boys ages 8 and 10. Part of my reasoning was to help them financially, part of this was to help myself get on my feet in a new state. I feel though as my sister has always looked at me as a neanderthal. When she visited my apartment for the first time (2 years before I moved in with them) the first thing she did (after hugging me and saying Hi) was went straight to the cupboards and said \"Oh my god, you have real food!!\". I was 30 years old for fucks sake. What did she think I ate?\n\n​\n\nSince moving in, she has made increasingly hurtful remarks and while I believe she may not be aware of what she is saying, I am tired of it. She is an emotional wreck so she breaks at even a hint of ill feelings. Once I disagreed with something and she broke down crying because I thought she was a horrible mother.\n\n​\n\nAlthough..... I wouldnt say she is a horrible mother, there's a lot she isnt doing right, in my opinion. Her kids (now 11 and 13) are lazy and out of control. They dont clean up after them selves (because mom will do it). They go apeshit if we kick them off the xBox that they have been playing all day. I had to buy a router that I could set time limits that would shut off the internet at 10pm otherwise they would be up until midnight even if they had school the next day. The first night it took effect, the oldest lost his shit, got his cell phone and resumed watching videos.\n\n​\n\nI can't reprimand the kids because, as my sister told me, \"They are MY kids and I will take care of it.\" The brother in law just kind of looks the other way unless something serious happens. He will step in when a MAJOR attitude correction needs to take place (like when the oldest punched a girl in school).\n\n​\n\nSo I am done with feeling like less of a person just to help them out. I think they would be OK without me financially, but it would strain things a little bit for them. They would have to shuffle some of their financial priorities. But honestly, I dont care any more.  I care about them as my family, but not at the expense of my sanity and feelings.\n\n​\n\nAm I the asshole for wanting to move out regardless of how it would impact them?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IxvWDKaOJiZuh3091U8eKDf9qz28QP6K", "post_id": "an4fih", "action": {"description": "wanting to break up with my bf for not upholding his end of our agreement", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 30}, "title": "AITA for wanting to break up with my bf for not upholding his end of our agreement?", "text": "I'll try to keep this short.  My bf and I have been dating for 13 months and living together for 5.  I work part time and he was working two jobs.  I know that seems unfair, but he is old fashioned and didn't want me to work at all.   We had some arguments about money so our compromise was that I would work part time and the money I made from that would be all mine.\n\nMy bf was recently laid off from his full time job.  He still has his part time job.  He told me until he finds something new I'm going to have to pitch in for rent.   I was fine with this thinking it would just be part of the rent, but he's also making me pay for food as well.  I don't know what exactly is causing it, but ever since he told me to pay for food as well as rent I have lost pretty much all attraction to him.   I know it's gross, but that's just how I feel.\n\nWe are still doing our day to day thing, but I really am thinking of breaking up with him.  He promised to take care of me and now he's expecting me to cover costs that he promised to cover.   He made an agreement with me and is not holding up his end of it.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 27, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 30}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "QlglTm5aEkBXrz2iwFZDEmDX8AHwrCfH", "post_id": "b5gcz9", "action": {"description": "skipping a family reunion", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for skipping a family reunion", "text": "This summer my family is having a sort of reunion where it will likely be the last time our grandpa would be alive for us too see, unfortunately outside of my direct family I do not remember any of these people and it has caused me to not care about seeing them at the cost of flying across the country and the associated costs with that such as hotel, car rental, and the increased budget for a week of not being able to cook food at home. \n\nWould I be the asshole for making the excuse that I cant take the time off from work and cant afford the trip?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uYiDFcTRSunkk678nM4FOJWikeLQnYEk", "post_id": "b3u5dt", "action": {"description": "deciding not to go to a funeral", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I decided not to go to a funeral?", "text": "Obligatory background:\n\nMy SO's great grandmother just passed a couple days ago. The funeral is several states away. They all grew up from a farmer's family and they're somewhat tight knit. They knew this would be inevitable soon as she is very very old.\n\nI don't know if I want to go, though. For a few reasons, one being that I really can't afford to miss work. Another in law isn't going because he can't miss work either. Also, I have severe anxiety when other people drive. I don't even let my own SO drive me around a whole lot just because I prefer to drive myself. I was in a car wreck a few years back and I just get so nervous when other people drive me around because I have no control of the situation. Also, I think two of the drivers that is going on the trip isn't particularly good at driving. I got confirmation on that just the other day due to their driving. \n\nI just dont want to seem like an asshole for not going. I've met her once and she was super sweet, and that was like 2 years ago and I havent seen anyone else since. SO and I arent married yet either. \n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lPQ9nbLVagtn0KAs56kCmKKGK7Q08z1e", "post_id": "atxe8k", "action": {"description": "starting refusing to help my girlfriend's mother", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I start refusing to help my girlfriend\u2019s mother?", "text": "My gf\u2019s mom lives really close to us.  She lives alone and has trouble with more physical things.     I didn\u2019t have a problem helping her out with stuff every now and then.   This winter I\u2019ve even been getting up extra early when it snows so that after I shovel our driveway, I have time to run over to her\u2019s and shovel her driveway as well.   Same thing with last summer/fall keeping up with her yard work.  \n\nThe problem is that it\u2019s went from being every once in a while to every single weekend.  My gf keeps volunteering me to do things.  We\u2019ve been understaffed at work for a little over a month and as a result I\u2019ve only been getting one day off a week.  \n\nWhen we go over there we are there the entire day.  Even when the work is done, gf and her mom will visit and talk often until dinner time despite the fact that they see each other and talk on the phone constantly.  \n\nI\u2019d get annoyed about being volunteered if I was getting my normal two days off a week, but now that it\u2019s just Sundays I\u2019m getting straight up pissed.  I talked to my gf about it two weeks ago and she just guilt tripped me about it.  The thing is a lot of what I do, my gf could do as well.  Like rearranging her mom\u2019s furniture.   She said it would take her an hour for what I could do in ten minutes.   But it never is ten minutes, it\u2019s all fucking day on my one day off a week when I really just want to sit around in my underwear and watch tv.  \n\nAm I an asshole if I just start flat out refusing to help her mom?   She really is a sweet lady, but I\u2019m not her work horse.  ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DRir3ajwMJ2IpS2YJ9By8ERze9DBwFf1", "post_id": "9vk240", "action": {"description": "trying to prevent my 31-year old friend from getting together with an 18-year old girl", "pronormative_score": 26, "contranormative_score": 31}, "title": "AITA for trying to prevent my 31-year old friend from getting together with an 18-year old girl?", "text": "My 31-year old friend has never had any luck with girls. He's been feeling pretty miserable about it and has complained a lot about it, to me and my friends.\n\n​\n\nLately he's gotten to know an 18-year old girl. They're getting along as friends, but he wants more. She seems to be exactly his type, but he's a bit too awkward to make a move. She shows some genuine interest in him, but I can't tell if it's just friendly or more.\n\n​\n\nHowever, I'm convinced she is just WAY too young for him. I know they're both technically adults, but looking at her, she might as well be 16 or something. Just a couple of months ago it would literally be illegal for him to go after her. The whole thought of it just creeps me out. Why can't he go for girls his own age, or at least 24-year olds or something?\n\n​\n\nSo, along with another friend, I've been trying to prevent them from getting together. I already said to her outright it wouldn't be a good idea to ever start dating, but she just laughed a bit shyly. I've tried discouraging him, but he just complains about having been lonely for so long. Me and this other friend are trying to find other ways to keem him away from her.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 31, "OTHER": 26, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 26, "WRONG": 31}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "pCUfiMg1kW7VoosD5wP6GFOtC0AfXS2d", "post_id": "a37a55", "action": {"description": "asking people to not run at my dog in the dark", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for asking people to not run at my dog in the dark", "text": "About two and a half years ago I adopted an amazing Great Dane from a woman on craigslist who's husband was in jail and and she had some serious health problems and couldn't keep him. He's a wonderful dog, smart, affectionate and well behaved. However he does have some baggage and can be a little reactive (barking, lunging) on the leash when other dogs or unfamiliar men run at him.       \n       \nI usually take him on a long walk in the evening around 7 after I get home from work. If we see other dogs or joggers we usually step off the sidewalk into a parking lot, driveway, grassy area or just cross the street. However there are a few stretches of the sidewalk that are fenced on one side and a busy roadway on the other.       \n           \nSometimes we will come across men who run barrel towards us at full speed (it actually happens more than you'd think) either trying to catch a bus, out on a spring, or doing who knows what. If we cannot get directly out of their path, I usually call ahead and ask if they could not run at us and either slow down or give us a chance to pass.  I've gotten ignored, dirty looks, eye rolls, mean comments, etc.       \nWhile I've grown up on a farm around animals and know that running full speed at any large unfamiliar animal is unsafe and an incredibly bad idea, I recognize that others may not realize that. Everyone should be free to enjoy the sidewalks safely in a manner of their choosing, but am I the asshole for asking them to run at us?        ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "sjpWqgkJe4SYfSEsbSXhLJdWkOwlnHWI", "post_id": "atgsxt", "action": {"description": "wanting my partner to move", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting my partner to move", "text": " \n\nI live in Australia and they live in England, we've been dating for collectively 2 years. After our first year of dating my partner broke up with me because they were unable to handle the distance, I didn't take it well and we didn't talk for 6 months. After 6 months they messaged me and our relationship rekindled and is going reasonably well except for the distance. My partner's currently trying to get their top surgery through the nhs. I'm in uni. Near the start we decided that my partner would be the one to move because they insisted, as well as me preferring my city because the both of us are able to walk down the street without people glaring. As the distance was the issue last time I wanted to try and get moved in asap, long distance is shit and as we're both young in low paying jobs at most we can afford to see each other 3 times a year.\n\nMy partner going to move when they got info that they could get an appointment with a gender therapist to get evaluated for top surgery in March last year and appointments are being organised for applicants from mid 2017 atm. Obviously it's going to take a long time; I suggested that I quit uni and move to England until my partner would be able to move here. My partner doesn't like this idea and keeps insisting that I shouldn't give up my future, I've got friends here etc. I know that they care about me and don't want to be the reason I quit school but it's turned into a 'nobody can move' situation and it's stressful. Our relationship is great when we're together and I'm very happy with them.\n\nOver the past couple of months I've been suggesting things like dropping out or my partner moving in and we get a bank loan and get their surgery done here through private care. My partner doesn\u2019t want to deal with debt yet, which is fair but it just means we're stuck waiting around for the nhs. If you keep up with Australian immigration law changes you'd be aware that the government is making it very hard to get accepted for a visa, as well as rural-only visas being considered to stop overpopulation in capitals. As I live in a capital city I'm worried that if moving gets put off any longer my partner won't be able to move at all, or that I'm going to end up having to quit school anyway. It feels like we're never going to have an actual relationship and I keep getting upset over the smallest things and it always ends with the same 'move in' 'I can't' conversation. I feel like the asshole because I know my partner feels guilty and I keep begging, but I also think they're the asshole because they actively are stopping me from moving in with them because they know I don't like England and don\u2019t want me to quit school. I definitely don't want to stop them from getting their top surgery in any way because I truly love them and I know how much it would mean to them, I just also don't want it to possibly halt our lives together for years.\n\nAm I the asshole in this situation or are we both shit?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QFJv9gWXSzpBF78yJNqxGi2m5FHZ20VY", "post_id": "a9i06a", "action": {"description": "outing my closeted brother after he mocked me in front of my family and friends", "pronormative_score": 39, "contranormative_score": 74}, "title": "AITA for outing my closeted brother after he mocked me in front of my family and friends?", "text": "So. I have an older brother. He is 25. I am 19. He is gay but he is closeted. He has only told me and his close friends about his gayness. Our parents are conservative. He is not my mother\u2019s child, only my father\u2019s. His real mother is a deadbeat. However if he came out I am certain my father would come around to it, only because over the years he\u2019s gradually distanced himself from our old church because of how hateful the pastors\u2019 associates have become toward gay people. It\u2019s not an endorsement of their lifestyle, but it is a refusal to despise them. However he still thinks he has the right to deny baking a cake for them. \n\nI disagree with my father and my parents\u2019 conservativeness, but have yet to vocalize said disagreements. I merely keep a safe distance since I\u2019m in college. My brother however still tries to please them because I think he is conflicted. He still has Christian ideals and prays but his friends don\u2019t share the same values (a lot of them are off the books weed/coke  dealers). He\u2019s a bit of an alcoholic because of the fights he got into with our controlling parents growing up and I wouldn\u2019t call him a deadbeat because he\u2019s a very skilled manager at a retail store and did graduate college buuut all his free time is spent partying and abusing drugs as he tries to support his friends\u2019 rap career (he\u2019s apart of their group and frankly they suck. I wouldn\u2019t disparage them if they didn\u2019t pretend to be better than they are or ridicule me for being book smart, but the only person in their group that has a shot at making it is their producer because he can make beats in the style of many other producers. Lyrically speaking they need some help.)\n\nMy brother is a pretty macho fella. I am not. I do like sports, i play with my friends, but i don\u2019t have as much muscle mass as him despite being toned/muscular myself. He used to bully me because he was treated as the problem child by my parents growing up but that all changed when i played sports in high school. I wouldn\u2019t call him \u201cnice,\u201d but i would say he became invested in my athletic career and gave me helpful pointers, but it was primarily to preserve his reputation at our high school/college. His athletic career was the only way he could gain favor with my dad who served in the military. \n\nAs i mentioned earlier his friends are into drug abuse. He is heavily invested in a thuggish image that he maintains on his private instagram. He used to constantly pick on me for being a square and doing well in high school and college. I don\u2019t resent him as much because I understand where he\u2019s coming from and I\u2019ve secretly been going to therapy for the last year to feel better about myself. I wouldn\u2019t say I am at 100%, but I am far more confident than I used to be. Occasionally though i will be reminded of something he did and it\u2019ll fuck up my whole day. (nitpicking my athletic performance in front of others, calling me gay as a kid cause I was into opera and Sailor Moon, criticizing me in front of our veteran of a dad when i wore brighter colors, belittling my interest in theater, etc.) One day he called me crying while drunk and apologized for being an asshole, but he hasn\u2019t really changed much. He\u2019ll still occasionally call me pansy or queer, despite my protests. I only know about him being gay because he opened up to me while under the influence, and told me \u201cto never mention it again\u201d when he sobered up. One of his friends mentioned it in front of me and he was pissed. \n\nAnyhoo, I attended a Christmas Eve family event and brought two friends. Word got around that I made the honor roll. He scoffed and rolled his eyes. My mother made a smart ass remark at my brothers\u2019 expense. She said she meant it as a joke but it pissed him off. He glared at her and walked out. He returned a couple of hours later and talked to her privately, but he was drunk as fuck. I could tell by his staggering. She urged him to drink some water and sober up and he initially listened but couldn\u2019t resist the call of my cousins playing basketball in the driveway. \n\nHe began to show off in front of my younger cousins. He was sloppy and unnecessarily aggressive. My cousins are 14, 16, and 17. I was already outside with my friends watching and we decided to go to one of their houses. My brother continuously taunted me as I left and threw the basketball at my head. I gave him the bird as I was slowly losing my cool then he continued to taunt me \u201ccone here pussy, come play with me ya little queer\u201d etc etc and I lost it. \u201cYoure the only real queer around here.\u201d He came at me but I ran away and all my friends and cousins subdued him. He cursed me as I got into my car and my dad and all the dudes came outside to find out what happened. He brushed it off and walked away. I haven\u2019t talked to him since and he didn\u2019t show up for Christmas breakfast. \n\nI really hate that I outted him but there\u2019s a part of me that feels good about it. I finally hurt him. But I outted him in front of my cousins who I\u2019m certain relayed the info to my uncle and father. Dads been pretty stern all morning. \n\nAITA? Could there have been a better way to go around this? He just makes me feel so weak and he\u2019s projected his weakness and \u201c\u201deffiminacy\u201d\u201d on to me for so fucking long and it felt good to hurt him back. I just hate that it was at an inconvenient time for him and could mar his already shit relationship with our parents. Being closeted is more-so about survival than anything else and i feel like shit\n\nTLDR; My closeted bully of an older brother got mad at me at Christmas Eve dinner bc my mom showed off my academic success at his expense. He taunted me while playing basketball calling me pansy and queer and I outted him. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 34, "OTHER": 39, "EVERYBODY": 40, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 5}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 39, "WRONG": 74}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "d9Z4Y3GPXcYD3fvDUOWuWA92EpRsBKhX", "post_id": "akfrc7", "action": {"description": "blocking my ex after he showed signs of suicidal thoughts", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for blocking my ex after he showed signs of suicidal thoughts?", "text": "Yikes this title looks really bitchy but here we go. Apologies beforehand since I\u2019m on mobile.\n\nSo I\u2019m in highschool and my (now ex) boyfriend recently got into college. We were going through a rough time since we liked being together, but were long distance.\n\nHe was always kind of clingy, but when he moved it got even worse which contributed to our break up. Especially when it concerned me hanging out with other guys at school (however I was always in groups with mixed genders). Some warning signs I should\u2019ve paid attention to were that he would say stuff like \u201cI couldn\u2019t live without you\u201d etc., which to me at the time was dumb romantic lines but now is a problem.\n\nI broke up with him over a phone call which I kind of regret but now am now thankful for after seeing his response. I haven\u2019t seen him since but he would text me randomly asking why I didn\u2019t love him even though I had explained my reasoning over the phone. I didn\u2019t usually respond to these texts since I had already said what I wanted to when we broke up.\n\nIt didn\u2019t really become a major problem until one day he sent over 100 texts within an hour demanding to see me and saying he was going to commit suicide if he didn\u2019t. I texted him back and his attitude immediately flipped and started cracking jokes which I found kind of scary to be honest. I texted one of his friends to keep an eye on him and then blocked him on all channels. \n\nMy mom said I have a responsibility to make sure he\u2019s okay and I should check on him every week but my dad said blocking him was the right move.\n\nAITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0di8StuOdulmNBFb54m1TlzfU8AK0ffV", "post_id": "awxh5i", "action": {"description": "not tipping someone who was \"working\" at a basic car wash at a gas station", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not tipping someone who was \"working\" at a basic car wash at a gas station?", "text": "So I went to a friends house this last weekend and after staying I left and got food, gas and a car wash. I did not care to much about where I went to for the was so I decided to use the gas station one that just uses pressure washers. I have a new car and only want to get the salt and dirt off from the past week, and I don't like to go to ones that have the big bush washers in fear they could scratch my car so this was perfect. I get gas and pay for the wash there at the pump and get in line.\n\nOnce in line (about 7 cars ahead of me due to it being a Saturday) I notice that someone has stopped right after they exit the wash and is drying their car by hand. I think nothing of it until I see the next car is doing the same thing. After a little while I notice its the same guy, so someone is out there drying cars after. I assume its a homeless guy just trying to be nice and looking for cash. I figure I will tell him no thank you since I have no cash on me, usually never do unless I need it. When I go to a big car wash I have $$ to tip the people who take care of the car after the wash. Once I get closer and I'm about the 3rd car in line I notice this is an employee (not in uniform). They are going in and out of the side door of the wash to the front of the line, doing something and then going back in to go and dry cars. After investigating I see what he is doing.\n\nFirst he goes out to the front of the line, makes sure the car can pay or enter code and then proceeds to use a scrub brush and cleans the rims, salt areas, headlights and bumpers. He then goes into the side door and out the other side to catch the car coming out to dry it.\n\nNOTE: There is no sign or anything stating someone is doing this. \n\nI just let they guy do his thing, the brush looks new when I see him do it to the car in front of me so I figure there is low risk if him scratching my new car, by new I mean 2019 on a lease new. He brushes, I enter my code and go into the wash. My next assumption is that the blow dryer does not work, that's why he is out here. The area the station is at is a nicer part of town and the gas station was clean and well kept. So I go with this assumption and as I exit the wash, the blow dryer works. So I let it do its thing and as I pull up he walks up and just starts drying. I was going to tell him no thank you but could not do it quick enough before he was already drying so I let him. He comes to the window as I am about to pull away and just looks at me, I roll down the window and he says he is working for tips and next time to do that. I nod and drive off. He looked super annoyed and pissed when I had nothing but again, there was nothing saying he was going to be there and this is not a normal part of a gas station car wash. AITA??", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hXH8x7p62HvAyKOZlYf4RPIP2iJH2SgO", "post_id": "abatx3", "action": {"description": "not wanting to attend my friend's wedding since I am not a bridesmaid", "pronormative_score": 29, "contranormative_score": 32}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to attend my friend\u2019s wedding since I am not a bridesmaid?", "text": "My friend of over 15 years is getting married in a few months. I was surprised when I found out on Facebook because I thought this was something she would have told me first. I sent her a private message congratulating her and we spent some time talking about her wedding plans. I assumed I would be her maid of honor since two years ago she was the maid of honor in my wedding. \n\nA few weeks ago, I saw on Facebook that she asked another childhood best friend to be her maid of honor. I was hurt but understood that we have drifted apart the past few years. I still assumed I would be a bridesmaid. \n\nLast week I saw another Facebook post of her and everyone she asked to be in her wedding party. Two of the girls were people she hasn\u2019t been very close with lately. It has now become clear to me that I will not be in her wedding party. \n\nMy feelings are hurt but I understand that this is her day and she should have the people she wants standing up next to her. However, since I am not in the wedding party, WIBTA for not attending the wedding? She lives a few states away so I would need to buy a plane ticket, a hotel room, and request time off of work. This would not be a major hardship but it does not seem worth it to me since I am already embarrassed about not being in the wedding party. \n\nI am not interested in being in a one sided friendship. I would rather focus on friends who want to have me around. I do not plan on staying in contact with her after this. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 31, "OTHER": 20, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 29, "WRONG": 32}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "0bGdpM608SzqGJB4BYfnQ3jvHfd7rXMK", "post_id": "aes4n2", "action": {"description": "not helping my former FWB get a job", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not helping my former FWB get a job?", "text": " This is my first time posting to reddit and I am using a throwaway to remain anonymous\u2026\n\nSorry for the long introduction, I just feel like having some background on the nature of our relationship would be helpful. Please feel free to skip my rambles to the tl;dr\n\nAbout 5 months ago I (23F) started talking to this guy (25M) I met on tinder, who I\u2019ll call TG (for tinder guy). We hit it off and after a few weeks of hanging out became friends with benefits. This lasted around 4 months before I started to develop feelings. I believe it is important to be honest about these things so I told him how I was feeling right when I realized. I told him he had no obligation to feel the same way, but that I wanted to know where his head was at so I didn\u2019t spend my time pining for a guy just to have my heart broken. To me, getting rejected was a lot easier and simpler when my feelings were still pretty new and not that deep. TG told me that he appreciated my honesty and enjoyed hanging out with me but he saw me as more of a friend than a girlfriend. Getting rejected obviously hurt, but that was the response I was expecting. I told him that I respected that but that I needed some time before we could start being friends and he agreed. Overall, we ended things on pretty good terms.\n\nWith the exception of him sending a few drunk 3 am texts asking for sex (that despite the temptation, I didn\u2019t respond to), we didn\u2019t communicate and we live far enough away that I never had to run into him in public.\n\nDuring the time when we were fwb, TG mentioned that he was looking for jobs in the finance industry and I told him my dad is the VP of a pretty large finance company. (For anyone who thinks he used me to get to my dad: we met randomly on tinder, I have a pretty common last name, and we had already been hooking up for a few weeks when I told him).\n\nAfter about a month after we ended things, I get a text from TG during waking hours asking if I could put in a good word for him with my dad for a job at the company my dad works at. My dad has nothing to do with interviewing/hiring employees, but obviously a recommendation from the company\u2019s VP would be a major advantage. I told TG that I did not feel comfortable doing that. TG then accused me as being vindictive and that I was trying to punish him for not wanting to be my boyfriend. My dad has no idea that TG exists, I have never posted anything with him or about him on social media and I don\u2019t tell my father about the guys I casually hook up with. If I was telling my dad that TG was a terrible person who he shouldn\u2019t hire, then I would 100% understand that I would be the vindictive asshole\u2026 but I\u2019m not doing anything like that. TG is in a no better or worse situation from knowing me.\n\nThe part that makes me feel like an asshole is that if TG was my boyfriend, I would ask my dad to recommend him in a heartbeat. So its not like I\u2019m on some moral high ground where jobs should only gotten solely on the basis of merit. Ideally, that would be the case, but I understand in the real world (especially the finance world), who you know matters. TG is a good guy who I know is qualified and I would be happy for him if he got the job, but I just don\u2019t want to ask my dad do to this for him. Does that make me the asshole?\n\n**tl;dr** for not asking my dad to recommend my former fwb for a job.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KzgR0b9y1zjDQz5ll7t4QbCokNSL4ma7", "post_id": "9ycaj6", "action": {"description": "telling my mother I now have a half-brother", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my mother I now have a half-brother?", "text": "Slight context required. My biological parents divorced when my younger brother and I were 3 and 12 respectively. I'd say it was quite messy as far as divorces go. My mum has remained single since and went through a great deal of mental issues in the aftermath (that's a whole other story) whereas my dad has gone through his 2nd marriage, moved country, and is now on his 3rd.\n\nSince my dad moved away, it's been difficult to keep in contact with him. Even more so after he began living with his partner and her 2 children. This is evident when, at the beginning of this year, I find out via Facebook photos that he came back to the country and married his current wife without letting either myself or my brother know (we are now 17 and 26) despite him also taking the time to visit my brother afterwards. \n\nIn any case, we come to last month where I discover (once again, via Facebook photos) that my dad and his wife have welcomed a child into the world. Even now, I don't know how to feel about this, and neither does my brother who found out the same way. This was also when I offhandidly mentioned they were married and discovered my brother wasn't even aware. We are now of the belief that dad has pushed us to the side in favour of his new family.\n\nThen we came to the issue of whether to tell my mum about all of this or not. Yes, I understand it technically isn't her business and could potentially hurt her to know. However, I feel that she should be aware of it if only to inform her and potentially gain some solidarity in how my brother and I feel. I should clarify that my brother and I have not spoken to our dad since the birth, and have been hesitant to because of how this made us feel.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LeHYvqruLnpYrNifTzoEeYepGTFihyl3", "post_id": "a00425", "action": {"description": "snapping on my best friend when she shared difficult things with me", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for snapping on my (25F) best friend (30F) when she shared difficult things with me ?", "text": "FTP. On mobile, and not a native English speaker.\n\n\nSome backstory : \n\n\nI\u2019ve known D for about 3 years in a uni association. We at first didn\u2019t engage much, but then had to work together, and automatically became friends. \nSince then, we\u2019ve been seeing and texting each other regularly, and it felt good to have found someone who is like the friendship equivalent of a soulmate. To say, after watching the San Junipero episode of Black Mirror, we said that if we ever end up alone in our 40s, we will date each other. \n\nThings between us have always been easy. We were at first a trio, but the other girl, L (30F), has been a true pain. She knew D for a couple of years longer, and has seen me like the intruder in a way. She acted like she was my friend, but then would tell D how I was toxic for her, when really she was the one who was toxic, and trying to be D\u2019s only friend and making her her property in a way. \n\nThis didn\u2019t put a strain in my relationship with D, and more so, reinforced it. We had each other\u2019s back. \n\nTwo years ago, I went through a really tough break up, and at the time D had gotten into a relationship with a very manipulative guy. He would dictate her every move, and was all around a bad guy. I warned her, and told her to break it off. She didn\u2019t really listen, as I was very much in the slump and couldn\u2019t possibly rationalise it all with her. \n\nShe ended up breaking up in February 2017, which was a relief for me, but then she spent the entire year crying about how much of a monster he was, although I had warned her multiple times that he was sucking the life out of her. \n\nThings didn\u2019t get better, when she found out she had a strain of HPV that gave her condylomas, and the timing matched with when she was with that guy. I did my best to be there for her, and reassure her that it wasn\u2019t the end of the world. Offered to be with her when she went to the gynaecologist, and also when she went to get them lasered off. I listened to her on the phone hours at the time, when she cried because of him, thought she would never be able to be with someone ever again, and beating herself about it all. She had zero self esteem at that point. \n\nI did what any best friend would do, and explained to her that all of this wasn\u2019t true, that she wasn\u2019t worthless, and will find someone who will be beyond her expectations. \n\n\nAll through it all, she barely inquired how I was doing. I was going through a shit year, and except some times when I would break down in front of her, she was basically inexistant. Never asked how I was holding up, never offered to cheer me up. I get it. She was going through her own stuff, and I couldn\u2019t hold her accountable for it. \n\nSo I sucked it up. \n\n\nAt the end of 2017, she started seeing this guy, who was initially trying to get together with me, but I rejected him over and over, because I was still hoping my ex would come back, and truly, he wasn\u2019t my type personality wise. I need someone who is very active, quick witted, who can make me laugh, and who isn\u2019t in some sort of half asleep state all the time. \n\nBut anyway, the guy didn\u2019t want a relationship, and was just profiting off her state to get sex, basically living at her place and not spending a dime when helping with groceries or anything. She even did his laundry. FFS. What king of man child is that. \n\nHere again, I told her he wasn\u2019t a good fit for her, that he used her as a surrogate mother who would also have sex with him. She didn\u2019t listen. She needed the attention and told me it felt great that he would be here at night to stroke her hair. Fine. \n\n\nThen he started dropping the ball continuously. \nThey established they would have a sort of open relationship. Except he knew first hand that she wasn\u2019t going to act on anything because she was unable to trust men anymore. He is very socially awkward and although not ugly at all he still scared people off because he\u2019s just weird at first. He used her weakness to profit from the situation. They said that the rule was no telling. She didn\u2019t want to hear about who he thought was attractive, or who he fucks. \n\nBut he mentioned one girl, even had her name in one of his passwords, called her by her name, you know the drill. \n\nShe kept coming to me crying saying that he fucked up again. At the time, I met my now boyfriend and was doing so much better, so I was ready to be her clutch again although she wasn\u2019t mine for so long. So I listened, warned her, again and again, even had my boyfriend explain that as a guy he thinks his behaviour is unacceptable and so on and so forth. \n\nShe didn\u2019t want to quit it. I told her that she didn\u2019t need to come telling me about those things because it would just make me mad. She still did. And I still listened. \n\nA couple of weeks ago, she went on a trip, and she met this guy. They didn\u2019t have sex, like no PiV but did everything around. I asked her why she didn\u2019t go all the way when she recounted her nights with him, absolutely over the moon. And she said that she wasn\u2019t allowed to \u201ctake off her clothes\u201d when with someone else. Like. What ? She could do bj\u2019s, get fingered, whatever else, but no PiV. I was mad. I didn\u2019t know about this. How can you call this an open relationship ? Yeah you don\u2019t. He\u2019s profiting. Because she would excuse him for fucking someone all the way, but he would probably have thought it\u2019s a deal breaker. Screw that. \n\nSince October, I\u2019ve been very depressed. I can barely get out of bed. I can barely have sex with my boyfriend. I almost don\u2019t eat anymore. Life is all together shitty. But yet again now, although I\u2019ve told her, she doesn\u2019t give a shit, or at least doesn\u2019t try to be a friend to me. \nSo when she told me that her guy got upset because she \u201cslept\u201d with someone, I had enough. She was in tears saying that she fucked things up, and I told her I didn\u2019t want to hear it. \n\nI went to leave, and she called me selfish. She doesn\u2019t seem to realise that I have been suicidal, but I should somehow give a shit about her shitty relationship when I\u2019m this down. \n\nI snapped at her and said that I don\u2019t give a crap if she feels bad, because once again I warned her multiple times that this guy is a piece of work, and that she shouldn\u2019t have agreed to anything with him if she wasn\u2019t able to put up with it. \n\nNow I think our relationship is broken and there might be no going back unless she accepts that I\u2019m also hurting in my own way, and have other things on my mind. She won\u2019t apologise because she thinks I\u2019ve overreacted, but I don\u2019t see it. \n\nSo AITA for telling her to fuck off ? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2L07I65badL6IQ6keGDkHl6S7c4Z1bs3", "post_id": "alfbgr", "action": {"description": "not following up on my promise to spend more time at my parent's house", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not following up on my promise to spend more time at my parent\u2019s house?", "text": "I\u2019m a 21 year old who moved out of my parents home last year to live with my partner 50+ kilometres away (about an hour drive without traffic). \nMy mom and I are extremely close. Unfortunately, my mom runs a busy business and I work/college full time, so I don\u2019t get to see her too often. She has some emotional attachment issues toward me, probably because I am the youngest child and have had a few suicide scares. \nShe has expressed so much emotional strain around not seeing me enough after I moved out.  It can border on guilt tripping sometimes. I do miss her so I agreed to come spend Tuesday nights there because I have an early class near her house on Wednesday morning. \nHowever it\u2019s been 3 weeks and each time, I stay up until 3-5 AM simply now able to sleep. I already struggle with sleeping due to mental illness, but for some reason I cannot for the life of me fall asleep in my old house anymore. I\u2019ve tried sleeping pills, meditation, exercise, wine and CBD.  It makes Wednesday\u2019s class and following shift at work absolute hell running on 4 or less hours of sleep, so I have told them that I\u2019m sorry but I won\u2019t be spending the night anymore. \nMy mom thinks that it\u2019s an excuse because I slept here for 15 years from the age of 5 when we moved in. She also thinks that I don\u2019t want to spend time with her because of my strained relationship with her husband. They have both said I need to honour my promise to my mom, and that I am disrespecting our relationship by doing so. \n\nAm I an asshole for breaking a promise to my mom? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QfLEjLRqpASLVXjaAhiqmPboEMKkTWMT", "post_id": "b7wnec", "action": {"description": "quitting my job", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for quitting my job?", "text": "(For clarification this is a banking job)I started the job back in November, 4 times since I started my immediate supervisor had me sign incident reports where I made a mistake. Each time I was told it was nbd and that it\u2019s just a formality, just put some bs in the description box and sign it, which I did. Fast forward to this last week, I was brought in for my 90 day evaluation (after working there for nearly 150 days). I was told by the regional manager that if I had one more of these I would be fired and my supervisor was sitting right next to me during this whole talk. I just said I\u2019ll do better because of how off guard I was by This response and couldn\u2019t summon the courage to say the person sitting next to me told me that I was doing fine and painted a whole different picture about those mistakes I made. I was also told the only reason I wasn\u2019t fired right then and there was because of how understaffed we were. I also tried talking to other management and they said it was inappropriate to talk that way about my supervisor to them.\n\nThis left me feeling like I couldn\u2019t trust anyone above me and after talking to fellow coworkers about the situation they said I should tell HR about it, but I also did some reflecting and decided I want to go back to my old job, which I can go back to anytime, I already cleared it with my old bosses, my coworkers said they would support me, and I realized that I was a lot happier, made better money, and had a lot more respect for my bosses at my old job, but I just want to make sure I am approaching this in a Just and legitimate way.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "w03VudeigJFixXcXVl77VKoXYXF6aKrP", "post_id": "an1j2f", "action": {"description": "not watching my neighbor's kids for free", "pronormative_score": 40, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not watching my neighbor's kids for free?", "text": "Backstory: the people next door have four children ages 2, 4, 7 & 9. Recently the father spent some time in jail for child cruelty (he apparently left marks around his nephews neck and tried to drown him but I've been told he was falsely accused.) The dad lost his job and is not allowed to live in the house or be around his kids so hes basically living in their vehicle, in their driveway. He takes the mother back and forth to work still but he's not allowed to watch his own kids. He also leaves a lot during the day, while the mom's at work. They leave the kids home alone a lot. A few times I have been asked to watch them for a an hour so the mom and dad can run errands and i agreed since my son (5) and daughter (1) enjoy playing with them but it's always turned into a few hours when it was supposed to only be one. I have never been paid but i didn't mind too much because they're clearly struggling. \n\nThe last couple of times I was asked to babysit it was for 8 hours while the mom went to work. In fact they have dropped these kids off at my door and drove off expecting me to say yes. Again i was not offered money... She's never asked me directly or really ever spoken to me, she just gets her kids to ask. I declined because that's just too long and i have my hands full with my own children and also being 31 weeks pregnant. Well, i found out that the kids have been staying home all day by themselves and now i feel terrible. Would you watch them?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 39, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 40, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "h4c6OdePE6fBHdBxXVDauCzLNLaCqQ0d", "post_id": "awqq66", "action": null, "title": "WIBTA Pizza dilemma", "text": "Context: I live with five other roommates. The apartment we live in provides one fridge. As you can imagine, the fridge gets pretty full with six people sharing it. Luckily we\u2019re all pretty good about sharing the space with each other. However, whenever \u201cCinderella\u201d orders a pizza instead of wrapping the leftovers in tinfoil or plastic wrap she haphazardly shoves the entire box on top of everyone else\u2019s food. This makes it hard to get food or open the fridge without the box falling out.\n\nNext time \u201cCinderella\u201d orders pizza I was thinking of saying something like \u201c If it\u2019s not too much trouble would you mind wrapping up any leftovers in tinfoil or plastic wrap. The fridge space is limited and I think this would help create more space ...\u201d\n\nDoes this come off as rude or micromanaging? Let me know...", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qqAlqS9yXpob9LRjOjMBIp3QZRfmWqtL", "post_id": "af5a28", "action": {"description": "not wanting to move to a luxury appt", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to move to a luxury appt?", "text": "Sorry for the dramatic title lol. Hoping to get some insight, especially from couples who experienced similar situations and young professionals. \n\nMy SO and I are looking to move apartments. Currently our commutes are a blessing, 30 mins door to door max. While an ideal situation, lately my SO has been entertaining the idea of a new area that is at least an hour commute each way. \n\nFurther out we could afford a bigger, newer space with loads of amenities. Our money could go almost 25% further. He wants a home office where he can close the door and take important client meetings. He travels once a month for work and the area would be close to two major airports. \n\nI wouldn\u2019t mind this in the least bit if we had a mortgage and kids, but as it stands now we are a young, childless couple renting while trying to save money for a down payment for a house. Money aside, my biggest concern is that 2hr/day commute which feels unnecessary and could even backfire on us. \n\nHis job is extremely stressful and time consuming. He will be traveling a lot. He\u2019s already up to his eyeballs in work and will no doubt only get busier. Since I\u2019m not making as much or stressed as much as he is, I naturally would take on more responsibilities around the house to ease his day and streamline our lives, like cleaning, cooking, chores and appointments, etc. \n\nI (at least in the foreseeable future) will not have the flexibility to work from home like he does. I work full time and, if we make this move, I will spend 2 hours commuting each day. Not only will I have to leave earlier in the morning, I will be coming home later. I\u2019m looking for a higher paying position now that will no doubt be more time consuming, so it could mean I\u2019ll be home an additional hour or two later every day. \n\nThe move so far out from work feels draining and unnecessary. I would prefer to be closer to work without the extra space and amenities and get home in time to make dinner and clean up, instead of coming home after a long day and a longer commute to cook and clean, only to do it all over again eight hours later. \n\nUltimately, I want to ease the weight of his job, but I feel like he doesn\u2019t realize how a move this far out might backfire on us long term. The space would be super nice but the time and energy would be stretched thin. \n\nEventually when we do have a family and house 1hr+ out from work, by that time I\u2019ll either be working part time or staying at home with the kids while they\u2019re young. Again the commute is not the issue m, it\u2019s the fact that I won\u2019t be able to do as much as I want around the house to support our family without bleeding myself dry or relying on him to take on a large portion of the responsibilities. \n\nI also don\u2019t want to sound like I\u2019m trying to get out of an 1hr+ commute because I\u2019m lazy or something. Or maybe I am being lazy, you guys tell me! I don\u2019t have much real world experience and I\u2019m sure I\u2019m not the first or the last person to take on a longer commute. In the end, I would hate for this to put unnecessary strain on us and create any imbalance or resentment. Thanks for reading!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DlamXM8h1M3GHhoSu7vHCWlfSqNHtBKB", "post_id": "ax1qw7", "action": null, "title": "WIBTA if applied for a job & didn\u2019t tell them it\u2019s temporary?", "text": "I just don\u2019t know what the proper, non-asshole way is to approach this and still get some place to hire me, so I turn to you, Reddit. \n\nI have a clinical rotation thru school for 10 weeks in a city in which I have no connections. I would like to find a weekend job as a hostess at a restaurant since I have past experience doing that. It will be summer time, I figure places can use the extra help anyways, but after trying to find a job for maybe a week, I will probably only be working there a total of 9 weeks. Would I be an asshole if I just give my two weeks notice at the end? What is the least asshole-y way to approach this but also not turn places off from hiring me?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7rvjCNyUPBCbWxVEEC21xYPsnPBnjj9M", "post_id": "b4aq1e", "action": {"description": "taking off my shirt when doing deadlifts while I thought I was alone at the gym", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for taking off my shirt when doing deadlifts while I thought I was alone at the gym?", "text": "I've been working out pretty early recently. Sometimes as early as 3 or 4 in the morning. I actually enjoy it and it's cool since there's no one else there. \n\nThe other day I was doing deadlifts, then I thought it would be interesting to actually see the contraction in the muscles, e.g. the core, a bit better so I decided to take off my shirt since no one was around anyway. I did my warm up sets and then 5 heavy sets. When I was done I noticed that behind me on the exercise bikes there was actually a young woman who must have entered shortly after me without me noticing.\n\nThat made me feel a bit embarrassed and made me think she must have thought of me as pretty vain. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nucSj5kLv29jODV9GkjKDBHebcjYFkJw", "post_id": "a3ixgd", "action": {"description": "not letting this guy use my phone", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not letting this guy use my phone.", "text": "I was hanging out at the bus station when this young, sorta unhealthy looking asian guy walks up to me pushing his bike along and asks to use my phone. His question was a bit direct and didn't feel very polite in tone. I declined because I don't know if hes going to snatch it and run off happens often here. He walked away angrily saying something like, \"I thought all you christians were suppose to be helpful\" or something but its funny cause I'm not even religious. The more I think about it though the more the situation rubs me the wrong way. What if it was an emergency? I dunno I'm sure he would have said something. What do you think?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1rr5ed1c9OOKiP9ck5oxuu9wCOfwtV0u", "post_id": "b84pkv", "action": {"description": "giving my coworker the cold shoulder", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for giving my coworker the cold shoulder", "text": "Some background: A few years ago I went to school with a girl who seemed to have a lot of drama with people (we\u2019ll call her X). Everyone told me she was the worst but I tried to give her a chance anyways because I don\u2019t like to judge people based off rumors. I tried to be nice at school but in the end she turned out to be exactly the person everyone told me she was (somewhat toxic, really narcissistic.) School finished and I never heard from her again. \n\nI got a job at my current location a few months ago, and X got hired where I work about a week ago. Since then she\u2019s been causing a lot of problems. For example when the assistant manager called her out on charging too much and stealing products, X went straight to the manager and said she felt \u201cattacked.\u201d Most recently our manager created a \u201cchore chart\u201d for us. We don\u2019t get paid to do these things. If it was stuff that I should be doing anyways like cleaning up after myself it would be fine but it\u2019s things that take at least 1+ hour of time that I\u2019m not getting paid to do. So when I was talking about it to another coworker of mine X overheard us and went straight to the manager and told her basically everything we said. Now we\u2019ve all decided to stop talking to her completely because she obviously has no interest in being our friend anyways and we can\u2019t trust her with information. I mean it seems justified but I still feel like I\u2019m being mean. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xPzfI20LV51YfyL1X13K3ouraEhAYKtA", "post_id": "at098x", "action": {"description": "being upset every time my boyfriend ditches me to smoke weed", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being upset every time my(f22) boyfriend (m22) ditches me to smoke weed?", "text": "I am not a smoker at all because I have bad experiences/bad memories associated but I don't have a problem with smoking (other than cigarettes but weed is fine). I don't mind my boyfriend smoking with his friends so long as I'm not completely left alone. \n\nUnfortunately, this has happened 3 times already. Or more, I don't really remember. At a friends house party, my boyfriend left with his friends to go smoke because they know I don't really like it, which leaves me with a bunch of people that I don't know. He promised me he'd stay with me the whole time in an effort to make me go with him to the party, but ditches me an hour in. \n\nI was angry but he promised he wouldn't do it again. Cue two more times when he and his friends go outside to smoke weed and I'm left inside alone to look after the dogs. Which would have been fine except it was 4am and we were very, very far from my house and he was my only ride. \n\nI'm really upset with him because I'm incredibly socially anxious. If I have someone I know with me,  then I'll feel a lot better and socialise more. But he leaves me consistently and it makes me so anxious and nervous. I've told him again and again but every time, weed > me. I understand that he doesn't bring me with him to go smoke because he knows I can't stand being around smoke, but I honestly wish he could just stay with me or just not invite me? Sometimes I get it and I'll just try and politely go home, but he'll get upset that I don't want to stay. I've only left a party once after he ditched me, and he was angry with me for the whole day afterwards. \n\nIdk who's the asshole here.\n\nTl:dr bf wants me to go parties with him and he promises me he won't ditch me for weed. Then he ditches me for weed. And I get upset and he says it's because I don't like the smoke.  I remind him of the promise and he promises he won't do it again.  Cue to him doing it again. If I don't go to a party, he gets upset and says I never wanna do anything with him. If I leave halfway, he'll be angry with me for being rude. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pzZpUZ449a3IwDRb3jswYHryLrPEPFz6", "post_id": "afkixn", "action": {"description": "thinking my mom is \"overfeeding\" me", "pronormative_score": 33, "contranormative_score": 33}, "title": "AITA for thinking my mom is \"overfeeding\" me?", "text": "Hey, well most of it is in the title.\n\n​\n\n​\n\nbtw, if the grammar is a bit messy, I apologize. Am from europe :)\n\nI am obese, I think I have a BMI around \\~40? which is waaaaaay too much. I am glad that I am still able to do whatever I need to do, like walking without much problems, running (with little stamina ofc, but no pain or anything) etc.\n\n​\n\nI always wanted to do something against that, and of course, the best place to start is food.\n\nSomething you probably guessed is, I still live with my mother (Im 18yo btw), and she does most of the cooking.\n\nMy mother is obese too, I dont know how much, but... well you can clearly see that.\n\nI must admit, I have problems holding back, if there is something to eat, Ill eat it, which is something I have told her many times over.\n\nShe always makes these HUGE portions, and when I tell her, that she should stop making so much, I get the\n\n\"Well you dont have to eat it\".\n\nOr when she buys herself chockolate, like these packs with like 30 or so pieces of chocolate, I again tell her, to stop buying this, and again she tells me:'  \n**\"Well you dont have to eat it\".**\n\nLike I said, I cant help myself. as much as I try, I always break.\n\nNow to the actual AITA:\n\nI tried talking to her, telling her, as kindly and calm as I can, that she probably partly responsible for my weight.\n\nWhat did she do? Blame me for everything. I tell her, that I need a bit of help from her, because I cant hold it, and she again, tells  me that I dont have to eat it! I KNOW, but it would make it 1000 times easier if you  too, would help me out.\n\n​\n\nIf I ask her, if we should consider to both loose some weight I get told, that she is X Years old, and It wouldnt matter for her.\n\nI just stopped arguing. I now do what I can myself, try to do it every little bit. I have told myself, that I will loose weight, once I move out, which will probably take only like 4 years max.\n\n​\n\nSo AITA? Because I genuenly dont know at this point.\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 24, "OTHER": 23, "EVERYBODY": 9, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 33, "WRONG": 33}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1B8o5PbFlpJZHKVbK1qjde8SCDyIQJIk", "post_id": "awkjhq", "action": {"description": "accidentally dropping my bf's vape, breaking it. I apologized profusely and offered to pay for a new one", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA I accidentally dropped my bf\u2019s vape, breaking it. I apologized profusely and offered to pay for a new one.", "text": "He refused payment (very angrily, but never explained why). I offered multiple times to replace it, but each time I try to talk to him, he tells me to be quiet because I\u2019m just making him more angry. I feel like he\u2019s refusing payment of the replacement so he can hold it over me. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YbFr1QkyrFC1hCkEoB3YZVAa2RCmOFEr", "post_id": "b5fvip", "action": {"description": "being angry at a pedestrian couple with a pram who didn't move into single file as I ran towards them", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for being angry at a pedestrian couple with a pram who didn\u2019t move into single file as I ran towards them", "text": "Just back from a run this evening. I\u2019m running on the pavement with the traffic behind me. It\u2019s a fairly busy road and I wouldn\u2019t feel too comfortable jumping into the road without looking due to a lot of bikes and buses on this road. When people are on the pavement blocking my path, they usually see me and move out the way if we are going opposite directions, or if we are going the same direction, I usually shout ahead and everyone let\u2019s me through happily.\n\nI was running towards a couple with the woman pushing a pram on the house side of the pavement and the man was walking beside her. I was running on the \u201croad\u201d side of the pavement and made it very clear I was running towards the man, hoping he\u2019d move. I was running fast and didn\u2019t want to check the road behind and run round them. The man doesn\u2019t move and I slow down till I\u2019m right in front of him and shout at them \u201ccan you get out the way, im running ffs\u201d. Their reply, \u201cwhat?? Excuse me?!\u201d was a reaction of bemused and anger and of a \u201cI can\u2019t believe someone actually shouted at us for not moving\u201d tone. I ran past them having slowed right down to a walk, checked the road was clear and ran round them.\n\nI made it clear, to me atleast, that I was not expecting the woman to move her pram and that the man should move as I was running on his side of the pavement. I can run past people in single file but walking two abreast, to me, is moronic and inconsiderate whether I was running or walking.\n\nI semi doubted my actions afterwards and I know there\u2019s the argument that pavements aren\u2019t designed for running so AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Gg9MMDsMYgw0jQCnD08rQ3op3YaA2w9s", "post_id": "ao1m3b", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my gf for finding out she slept with a few friends and aquaintances", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my gf for finding out she slept with a few friends and aquaintances?", "text": "I (18m) broke it off with my gf yesterday after I found out she'd done shit with an old mate of mine 2 years ago, she's also been with 3 other of my old friends and the rest I know as aquaintances.\nSince its a smallish town and we come from the same circle it's hard for anything to be kept under wraps\nSince we come from the same circle I'd also slept and done shit with about 4-5 girls she's friends with but she also lied to me about 3 of them the first time I asked her then came to me later and revealed it and before that I said if she lied to me about that again I'd break up with her so I did", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "D7Bm7kdMuVPE8vvsU161ANrZBa9zszov", "post_id": "b7emdq", "action": {"description": "lying to a kid", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for lying to a kid", "text": "I don't think this is a big deal but here goes, so I work at a convenient store and there's this mother and her kid probably around age 4-5, they came into the store. The kid picked up a toy and ask her mom if she could buy it, her mom told her \"they aren't selling this\" and I happened to be around there so she goes, \"ask that person\" then she did this winking that reads \"please say you won't sell it\" (I am 100% certain this is the case) and my dumbass decided to go with it and said \"yeah we aren't selling this\" and then the kid started crying as her mom picked her up and leave the store. maybe I should do something better, I feel like such a dick.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TcKCKOcuAwSV5u5SL76d4oW23PTtMO6r", "post_id": "azib7j", "action": {"description": "giving homeless friend money then kicking her out", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for giving homeless friend money then kicking her out?", "text": "Okay, I have a friend who I love dearly, she's a good person. She gets disability and hasn't had a stable place to stay since October of 2017. Unfortunately she won't quit using meth. She got 800.00 on the first of the month and was completely broke by the ninth. She seemed high yesterday when I saw her, I confronted her about it and she didn't say anything. I even asked her what did she do with it all? Where did you spend it at? She has no tag on her car, no cigs and no where to go. I told her I know exactly where it went. It went in a pipe. She comes over here expecting me to bail her out. I have no gas and no where to go. Am I an asshole to raise hell at her, sick and tired of her living a messy lifestyle? She stays with strange dudes, she's in her fifties and I told her I'm scared something bad is going to happen to you and you deserve better. What exactly did you think was going to happen spending every dime you have and having nothing to fall back on to last you the month? I gave her 12.00 and sent her on her way. I'm so fucking done with this learned helplessness, this I fucking refuse to help myself and I expect you to take care of me for three weeks because I want to stay fucked up. I am probably the asshole, I didn't let her sleep here last night ( I made her sleep in her car, mostly out of tough love, if she sees that she's not going to be rescued then maybe she will be more responsible). I have tried multiple times to help her, to get her to send her debit card here so we can work together about managing her money. I don't know what else to do. I think she needs to be in a group home, she is very child like in the way she spends her money. She buys stupid shit then doesn't have her bills paid then gets evicted. Either that or overdraws her checking account. She thinks that everyone should be responsible for her and she doesn't have to be. I have a daughter to worry about she's a full grown adult. I don't know honestly if she literally can't take care of herself, as in the mental capacity to do so or she just refuses to. I had to kick her out last summer for it, she threatened to kill me and was mean to my daughter high on meth. To make this worse is the fact she is a paranoid schizophrenic. You can't fucking use meth being schizophrenic, it induces psychosis!!!! what the fuck! Someone please help me here! I feel awful but I can't keep rescuing someone who won't save themselves. I can't do their footwork. Ugh.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0TqOdqwdKbS9vRFiAowlsYjp04xhD2uz", "post_id": "af742d", "action": {"description": "pretending to start smoking to try and get my mum to stop", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I pretend to start smoking to try and get my mum to stop?", "text": "I love my mum more than words could imagine. She's been nothing but an amazing parent and she and my dad are perfect in every way, except one thing: my mum is a regular smoker.\n\nShe is a science teacher, she teaches about the dangers of smoking and what problems it can cause later in life, yet almost every day for the past 30 years she's been a smoker. I understand what I'm proposing is manipulative, and I wouldn't even consider it under normal circumstances:\n\n- Yesterday, my dad told me that my grandad was diagnosed with lung cancer, after being hospitalised for the past week because he has a stroke. My grandad has been a heavy smoker all his life.\n\n- A couple years ago my mum's mum was diagnosed with lung cancer, and now has 60% lung capacity because of surgery. She was and even now is still a heavy smoker.\n\n- A decade ago my mum's dad died of a heart attack. He'd previously has another heart attack AND had a major stroke. He was a smoker.\n\nI've seen what smoking does to people, and I don't want that for my mum. My nan had to carry an oxygen concentrator when she visited us because that was the only way she could be mobile, for god's sake. My mum even quit smoking with my nan after she was diagnosed, but about a year ago she started again..\n\nWhen I was walking with my dad about his dad's prognosis, he mentioned that my mum was probably going to die of a stroke. It all just hit me, that **she will die because of this.** My dad gave up smoking a couple of decades ago, and he was furious when my mum started again.\n\nI want to save my dad from having to live through a third family member having a stoke. I want to stop all this fucking pain because of a single fucking addiction. I love my parents so much and it kills me to see my mum killing herself with this habit...\n\nI'm seriously considering taking drastic measures. I'm going to plead with my mum to stop, but if she doesn't then I'll make her think I've taken it up. She's directly promised me never to become a smoker, but if she doesn't stop I don't think I have a choice.\n\nSo yeah. I just feel so helpless, and this is potentially my last ditch effort. Am I the Asshole here? What else can I do?\n\n**tl;dr**: 3/4 grandparents have suffered from smoking. My mum is a regular smoker and she's going to smoker her way to an early grave. None of my direct family want this. Is pretending to take it up a step too far?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uZx9j15EpOMhO2PF7DVwjuOjMLfLxQm3", "post_id": "a8jxzg", "action": {"description": "texting the girl I like the day I broke up with another girl", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For texting the girl I like the day I broke up with another girl?", "text": "I was like 16 at the time but sometimes the memory of it just makes me hate myself. So I broke up with a girl, since I was a teen and kinda invested in our relationship I just couldn't stop crying and bashing my head against the table. I was so desperate for attention I texted another girl I found cute. Several days later I started dating that girl. When I told her that story she reacted very calm and supportive, but I still can't stop thinking how it was just wrong. It bothers me to think that that a loving relationship witch I have mostly great memories of was a simple mistake of a dumb kid who can't control his emotions.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "60qPpFfBMFjBtYtTTXRD98XIjxyoyrpn", "post_id": "ba2q6u", "action": {"description": "accusing my mom of cheating because of what I saw in her chats", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for accusing my mom of cheating because of what I saw in her chats?", "text": "Ok so backstory: last night I saw pretty suspicious behavior from my mom on her phone. She kept on wanting me to go to work today and wanting me outside the house, which I felt was off. So I decided to have a look through it when she was asleep and I saw her texting a family friend weird things like \u201cdaddy\u201d and \u201cI\u2019m on my period, not in the mood\u201d. I was pretty shook. I decided to look through her search history and saw her searching for \u201csexy kissing\u201d pics and \u201clove\u201d pics on google. I went through her recently deleted and unfortunately saw a pic of her in her underwear. \n\nI confronted the family friend on WhatsApp before telling my mom first, and basically told him to fuck off and don\u2019t text my mom. I was able to see what they said to each other because I opened WhatsApp web last night and could basically see their chats. I saw him text her that they \u201chad a big problem\u201d and that I know everything. \n\nNow when I confronted my mom she kept on denying it. She said that I saw it in a wrong way (what other way is there to see \u201cdaddy\u201d?) and that she was planning a summer visit to India with him and planning on how to pay for it to surprise my dad. They both kept on denying it. She kept on saying why would I cheat now in my 50s (mind you my dad is outside the country). \n\nNow I\u2019m really stuck in crossroads. Is she actually cheating? Or am I seeing this the wrong way? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "HNyeKK9axgR8nfzLK9uwfINM1GPJOjEu", "post_id": "a8jcdk", "action": {"description": "not giving my dad back his car that he gave me", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not giving my(M24) dad (M50) back his car that he gave me", "text": "So I was having issues with my car and my parents helped me get a new one and even put it in my name. I was in a little debt from school so I honestly didn't have really any money at all. I didn't ask them to give me a car but they offered, so I took it. It  was a piece of crap car, probably worth around $2000. Nothing Fancy. I paid for repairs on the new car and got new tires. So I spent at least a few hundred. I wasn't expecting to keep it forever but at least a year or two. So then I started my job full time (I had to wait a few months before they would let me) and started getting paid decently well. Then my dad randomly says he wants the car back so he can sell it to pay for his garage on his retirement house.... Yes his retirement house. I said ok but was pissed off. I ended up ignoring him and haven't really talked to him sense. (6 months ago) I mean I think it's fair that I'm a little more concerned about my student debt than your retirement house garage. I don't even have the money to buy a car. So I just kept it since it was under my name and there wasn't anything he could do. I feel slightly bad, like I abused my parents trust but at the same time I feel like they couldn't even empathize with the position I was in. I feel like it put a bit of a strain on our relationship even though we don't talk about it. I'm just beginning to be financially secure and I didn't want to fuck that up though. I don't ask them to pay anything and am completely independent otherwise. I have my own health insurance(I could legally be on theirs since I'm 24), car insurance, phone bill, apartment, do my own taxes (mom is a CPA), etc. Literally this is the only thing.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kwYqY254NQTKJOmDe2uaBVGph0y01BXy", "post_id": "at5d7h", "action": {"description": "just wanting some quiet time in the morning at the office", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For just wanting some quiet time in the morning at the office?", "text": "So I work at an office without cubicles and find that I prefer some quiet time in the morning. I have one set of headphones in my ear and listen to music and don't often speak to anyone (other than the typical good morning) for about an hour. This is like first thing in the morning. Get to my desk, open my emails and get to work. I have one particular coworker that likes to just talk talk talk the second they arrive to work and it's usually about nothing really. I am known to have one of my earbuds in but this does not stop this person from yapping on to me in any particular way. Anyone else go through this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WRsu3UvTdc9B5fXr2iWm1tVCswR8Vyos", "post_id": "awyrl4", "action": {"description": "texting my ex", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for texting my ex?", "text": "He (let\u2019s call him T) was abusive (emotionally, physically, sexually), and my boyfriend (let\u2019s call him A) doesn\u2019t know much about it, I don\u2019t talk about it a lot, even if I want to. I\u2019m usually scared of not being believed, or being told that I\u2019m exaggerating and playing the victim. \n\nA hates T, but for less-than-ideal reasons. A doesn\u2019t know much about the relationship, but he knows a few details, which in itself are bad enough for him to hate T. But he hates T because of a recent incident that took place. \n\nT started talking to me, and at some point, he tried initiating a sexual conversation. He lives a state away, for context, this happened over a phone call. I didn\u2019t play along, but he sounded so desperate, like he needed me, and I made the (poor) decision of telling him that I\u2019m always going to want A. I didn\u2019t go into details of my sex life, but it was more along the lines of \u201cYou don\u2019t want to know about the way he makes me feel?\u201d etc.  I know it was wrong, and it\u2019s sadistic of me, but it was the first time in 5 years that I ever felt a mini victory between T and I. \n\nWhen I told A about it, he was pissed. He kept asking me why I didn\u2019t cut it off, why I engaged at all, and I blurted out a pretty serious incident of sexual assault so he could see where I was coming from, to explain the dynamics between us. I took responsibility for the call, and I didn\u2019t use the incident as an excuse, I was just trying to explain to him what he kept asking me. A is usually empathetic, but that day, he didn\u2019t even acknowledge the assault, and I felt like everything I was afraid of was coming true. He said I was making it all about myself. It\u2019s been over a month, and he still hasn\u2019t acknowledged the incident I told him about. \n\nWe got past it, but only with me profusely apologising. I know it was my fault, but it affected me. I have other serious mental illnesses, which often endanger me physically, but rn, I can\u2019t trust him. \n\nMy ex, for all his manipulative ways, is great with words. He knows the tone to take with me that gets me into \u201clittle space\u201d, where I give up all control and let him tell me what to do. Usually that\u2019s hurtful, but in situations where I\u2019m in physical danger, it works temporarily. \n\nBoth A and I have our exams, which are pretty important. I don\u2019t want to talk to A about this rn, and I\u2019m myself trying to just survive these exams. I\u2019m quite stressed. I texted T everytime I felt unsafe, and he helped me out (he plays the \u2018nice guy\u2019 bit in my life, but he still has control/anger issues). I know my relationship with A won\u2019t survive if I tell him about these conversations, which is why I plan not to, and instead get over the incident after the exams with my therapist\u2019s help. I only text T out of self preservation, bec my therapist is not available right now. \n\nOfc it\u2019s wrong, I\u2019m just trying to figure out how much of an asshole I am in this situation. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "weAWfBAeH2iyojYGzdbUGvQVebt4vRkD", "post_id": "a9o7ru", "action": {"description": "not saying anything when the nice lady at the McDonald's drive through gave me 1\u20ac too much in change", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not saying anything when the nice lady at the McDonald\u2019s drive through gave me 1\u20ac too much in change?", "text": "", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Mw2cYgaE7rmvovWRN4Bd6gMAZ5aTkY1l", "post_id": "alnfoi", "action": {"description": "having someone's car towed", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I had someone\u2019s car towed?", "text": "My building has pretty limited parking and we\u2019ve been having an issue with people who don\u2019t live here taking up all the parking. I asked one guy if he lived here, and when he said he didn\u2019t I told him he couldn\u2019t park there. His car is back again, WIBTA if I had him towed without a warning?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MSzLNWngZCVZ0d6kSFN8he5RKF4vikoR", "post_id": "auqquk", "action": {"description": "not believing my girlfriend or what", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not believing my girlfriend or what?", "text": " \n\nSo my girlfriend and i were studying together in a cafe, it was all good until she took out her phone and started texting her mom. i got close to her but she backed away, i asked her if there was something going on and she answered no.\n\nshe kinda seemed like she was hiding something so i asked if she was hiding something, she said no. i asked again and she ofc said no proceeds to put her phone in her pocket. i wasnt satisfied with her answers and knew she was hiding something so i kept asking. i finally got her to take out her phone and tell me that she got messages from a creep, some creep was sending her nudes. i asked her if i can see the chat, she said no and kept her phone away from me. i kept asking her but she kept refusing and kept acting defensively towards it. she then deletes the whole chat and said that she didnt want me to see something that disgusting. i just got up and left. we kept arguing the whole day about it, that whole thing was very suspicious cause usually when a creep messages her she would show me but this time she didnt. what do you guys think ? what should i do ? do u think she is cheating on me?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VftmnD6fIlEFEXMDHr9MUZxHrVzoiUnu", "post_id": "9y8e23", "action": {"description": "being upset that my bf is texting his ex girlfriend when we are together and and possibly lying about it when I confronted him later", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset that my bf is texting his ex girlfriend when we are together and and possibly lying about it when I confronted him later?", "text": "I\u2019ve been dating this guy for a while and we were out last night and he kept on texting his ex gf late at night when we were both drunk. I am aware that they speak to each other occasionally but he doesn\u2019t usually do it in front of me and for so long. He texted her while we waited for our uber, in the uber, and back at my house. They were sending messages back and forth and she was sending him massive paragraphs. When I told him about it at home he said that nothing is going on and that she just \u2018wanted to clarify one thing\u2019 and that they talk but it\u2019s never inappropriate. But I saw him messaging her for ages and they always add and remove each other in fb and apparently it\u2019s because she keeps on blocking him when he\u2019s seeing me to get his attention. We are in an ldr and he lives six hours away so we see each other around once a month if that matters. I cried and then we had sex and then I cried again and then we kinda just went to sleep. He also said that he would block her if I wanted him to and I said no and it\u2019s fine. At some point idk why but I said \u2018If it were reversed then I\u2019d just expect you to trust me\u2019 (I was drunk tbf) and he did this patronizing face and said yeahhhhh. The next morning when I apologized for possibly overreacting he just said \u2018yeah was a bit odd\u2019 and he didn\u2019t apologize and we didn\u2019t talk about what they talked about or what\u2019s going on. I still had a bitter taste in my mouth about the whole thing and tried to tell him that I need him to be sensitive to my emotions because then I\u2019ll just keep on getting hurt and he said \u2018yeah I know that\u2019s why I\u2019m not mad\u2019 which stung in itself. So ultimately, am I overreacting? Should I just leave it alone? I kinda regret saying anything and feel crazy and jealous \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Zg2Zaw9qvJi1sZj455vUwUCu9EVCmZ4w", "post_id": "b87xav", "action": {"description": "putting my feet on a seat in front of me", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for putting my feet on a seat in front of me?", "text": "I was at a baseball game recently and it was getting into the 2nd or 3rd inning and I put my foot up on the seat in front of me. No one was sitting there so I didn't think twice about doing it. The guy one whole seat over asked me to take my foot off of the seat. I admit I was a little annoyed but I obliged. I said, \"Sorry about that that\" and moved my foot over yet another entire seat. So now there are two entire seats between his body and my seat. I asked him, \"Does this bother you\"? He then moved the two seats over and and with both hands flung my foot off of the seat. I will admit that I was angry and in my anger I asked, \"what the fuck is your problem\"? Or something similar. I was angry enough that I don't remember. (I've texted my BIL to see if he remembers if any of you care or think it is relevant.) Suffice it to say it wasn't nice whatever is was. He refused to look at me. Now that there was someone sitting in front of me I refrained from putting my feet on the seats. \n\nHowever, after that I went from peacefully enjoying opening day with my BIL to being angry. I saw that he was wearing a jersey from the other team so whenever my team did something good I cheered obnoxiously. We were down by a couple runs at that point so there wasn't much to cheer about. For example, loud clapping (more than was necessary) and high fivng the people around us like it was my job. After a half inning he left and did not return. I'm assuming to find better seats. \n\nI don't want to mislead you fine people but, before the incident I was sitting in the sits doing what people do at baseball games. This guy didn't even exist to me. There was no previous conflict. In fact it was pretty serene. I was just thinking about maybe getting a hot dog when this all went down.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9sQlfebDikWiVNgQKF21lsOnqLNUT1ea", "post_id": "arlq7t", "action": {"description": "not wanting my fiance to stay up all night", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my fiance to stay up all night?", "text": "Ok, I'll try to make this short, but I want to be fair to my fiance and give his side as best as I can, so I might do a shitty job of being brief.\n\nMy fiance and I have a 3 year old son and we've been together for 5 years. He works a full time job, as do I, and he just went back to school to finish his last semester of college (he failed a couple of courses last time he went 2 years ago, I'll get to that). His job is shift work, and he rotates between afternoons (3-11pm) and nights (11pm-7am). During the day, he goes to school, and he squeezes studying and sleeping in between those hours.\n\nI work a full time job in a city just over an hours job away if traffic is good. It's a very demanding job, and I often have to take work home with me. I do the majority of the care of our son, obviously because my fiance is so busy. I'm also 6 months pregnant.\n\nNow, the AITA part. My fiance often spends very long hours in the garage, staying up all night studying or doing other projects (he's just getting into wood working and likes doing renos on our house). The big issue though is that my fiance is an alcoholic. 90% of the time he pulls these all-nighters, he drinks. He's often running himself dead because his life is so demanding right now, and to top it off he refusing to see my view: that staying up all night like he does is a terrible, negative habit that is destroying him and our relationship. I've argued that he doesn't study as effectively if he's running on no sleep and drinking. I've tried explaining that it's terrible for his health. I've tried explaining that when he does this, it falls on me to make sure that he gets out of bed to go to work and go to school, and he's damn near impossible to wake up. He often gets mad at me for waking him. It's also the exact kind of environment and habit he should be avoiding because he trying to quit drinking. This kind of behaviour is why he ended up failing the two courses he's retaking in the first place. \n\nThe biggest kicker is, though, that I just really want to spend more time with him. I feel so alone, and I feel like he could spend more time with his family if he just chose to sleep at night and do the things he needs to do during the day/evening. He misses out on spending time and doing things with us and he doesn't see it because he's not there to notice it. I even offered to help him study. He's a wonderful person that works harder than anyone I know. I love him very much.\n\nHe says that I'm being controlling and selfish because this is one thing he enjoys doing and I want to take it from him. He says he feels like a puppet on a string that is expected to do things when I want regardless of how he feels. He explained that he works shift work and his sleep schedule is messed up to begin with, so he can't always sleep. \n\nI could go on for a while longer, especially about his drinking, but I want to keep it to just this one thing\n\nTL;DR: My fiance works full time and goes to school part time, and often stays up all night drinking and studying. AITA for wanting him to spend more time with his family and go to bed at night instead?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hEMe7bxCGwoK6F040PdKaVZCI5NNKI29", "post_id": "axol2w", "action": {"description": "not driving my boyfriend to work", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not driving my boyfriend to work?", "text": "Throwaway account because my boyfriend knows my main one.\n\nIt snowed a whole lot where we are last night and the roads were super scary and bad. I picked my boyfriend up and brought him to my apartment. He had a bag so he was sleeping over, a nice surprise. I told him that I would not drive him to work in the morning because I did not expect the roads to clear up and it was very scary driving to pick him up. There is a bus stop two or three blocks from my apt that he could take directly to work.\n\nNext day: He leaves to go to the bus stop and when he sees the streets he immediately snapchats me that I am an ass for not driving him because the streets are fine (which I did not know). He gets to the bus stop and asks me to drive him because the bus won't be there for another 10 minutes or so. I am mildly sick and he was already at the bus stop so I said no, that I would probably get to him at the same time as the bus anyway.\n\nSo he's all mad at me now for not driving him and I'm mad at him for being mad at me because I do not owe him rides, he should plan better to get to his job, and he called me an ass without apologizing. His unwillingness to forgive me has me wondering...Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oAXM5uG0aXnswSjlUt4tV1ZdlDkTPEg8", "post_id": "a5jwqn", "action": {"description": "falling for a guy who keeps telling me he just wants to be friends, even though he flirts with me and his actions say otherwise", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for falling for a guy who keeps telling me he just wants to be friends, even though he flirts with me and his actions say otherwise?", "text": "Me [29F] fell for man [32M] as follows:\n\nMan asks woman  out, man changes his mind, stayed friends, still was flirty, She confronts him about it, he says he\u2019s not ready to date after ex fianc\u00e9, they get close, no sex, just talking for hours and supportive of each other, again tells guy about feelings, he acts surprised, they spend time apart, he returns to her life, he gets flirty, he denies it and gets angry, he says just friends, she moves on, he reappears, rinse and repeat, meet up again due to mutual friends, he drinks and gets handsy, extremely flirty, and affectionate, she confronts him, he flips out and says you don\u2019t listen, I also have a new gf, move on. \n\nWoman now feels super embarrassed like she\u2019s losing her mind imagining something that wasn\u2019t there and doubting herself, wondering how she could repeatedly keep misreading things. Man also experiments with party drugs and struggles with depression. (Was not aware of drugs at the time) Man treats woman like she\u2019s a crazy stalker, and not the woman who would call and check on him when he was frequently struggling with depression and drinking. \n\nFlirting - defined as putting hands around waist, playing with hair, touching each other\u2019s face, sharing drinks, winking, smiling, the whole awkward staring into someone\u2019s eyes thing, frequent extended hugs (Lasting over 30 seconds) and leaning into each other, kisses on cheek, etc.\n\nMan is blocked and out of her life at this point. Woman still feels paranoid that it was something wrong with her. \n\n(Just a note, I wrote this post like this to try to be as objective as possible.)\n\nAm I the asshole for ignoring him saying \u201cwe\u2019re just friends\u201d or is he the asshole for continuing to flirt with a woman even after she tells him she\u2019s in love with him? \n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EnXTiGTMgwWun93rVlrqCEPzDEp9NKSX", "post_id": "audggu", "action": {"description": "snapping back at my parents", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I snapped back at my parents", "text": "On mobile, apologies for formatting\n\n    Ok, so I'm going to try and keep this short.\nMy parents, are usually wonderful people, but\nThey too have a bad side. They really dont like\nMy sister being overweight, they will degrade\nHer often. The insults they use include telling\nHer she will die if she doesn't lose some weight,\nShe will have diabetes, and lose lil her friends\n(Idek where that one came from), and they will\nOften compare to their friends kids. At this point\nI want to clarify that she is overweight not obese,\nAnd she does have some health problems. Also,\nMy parents are usually really nice too her it's just\nHer weight is a big issue to them\n       Now, for the most part I agree with them that\nShe needs to lose weight, but I think their insults\nAre way out of line. Today they were going on\nTheir tirade against her weight, when my sister \nJust walked out, and said she was going to the\nGym and never returning. Obviously she came\nBack (like 5 hours later), but you could tell she\nWas really upset.\n       Now for the wibta part. Wibta if I told my parents to screw off, and be more motovational\nNot hateful to her?  I also want to call them \nHypocritical, as they too are not the skinniest folk.\nSo wibta?\n   ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OEZO7UaN265xwnt87WEhYftffVtlWPgt", "post_id": "awb84h", "action": {"description": "being annoyed at my roommates constant whistling", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed at my roommates constant whistling?", "text": "For context, my roommate doesn't really ever leave the room for anything other than class (our friends tend to come to our room), but he's always had this habit of whistling or humming literally everywhere he goes all day. Naturally I have to live with this completely constant whistling in my ear and it's driving me absolutely up the wall. I talked to my girlfriend about it and she says I just need to loosen up, but I don't know, I have ADHD and so my head can't focus on anything while the whistling is going on, which is literally all the time. Kind of a side note is that it's often very out of key and abrasive to me but I don't think that's what really bothers me. I know that he's just existing and doing his thing but it bothers me so much at this point just because I have to listen to it all the time. Am I the asshole? And what can I do about this issue?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PHXRVCme3y8G05U1BHALkyBagPGUypYZ", "post_id": "au57p2", "action": {"description": "cutting contact from my parents", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for cutting contact from my parents?", "text": "This is a very long story of my narcissistic mother. \n\nFrom a very young age, I was emotionally and mentally abused by my mother. She would call me names such as slut and prostitute. She also made me feel extremely insecure about my looks and my weight. She emotionally blackmails me constantly, saying how if it weren't for her, I wouldn't be where I am today.\n\nThis is mostly because her first husband(my biological father) was complete human garbage and it has affected her way of thinking about men and life in general.Luckily, she remarried a man when I was about 10 years old who is now my stepfather, who I am completely grateful for. But because of this, she feels that I owe her forever because she raised me when she quotes, \"I could have just left you to die with your father\"\n\nFast forward now at 25, I've been studying overseas in Australia for 3 years, and planning to stay because I really like it here. I was the one who tried to convince my parents for them not to send me to Australia because it was way too expensive and I didn't want my dad to be so financially burdened. But they told me they think I would have better career opportunities there. So here I am. I found a part time job and tried to helped my dad to reduce some bills like partially supporting two of my siblings who are also studying here with me. One of the major reasons for sending me over is so they can \"find a good husband\". I'm Asian, so I come from a relatively conservative culture. My parents prefer it I stick to my \"own kind\". I have many relatives here and my mother puts them on the pedestal as my cousins have managed to find good and rich husbands of \"their own kind\" and live such a happy life, so I should be like them. \n\nI'm dating an Australian man, who treats me well, respects me, supports me more than anyone I have ever dated regardless of race. My parents disapprove of him being alot older than me and they disapprove that he is not of \"my own kind\", claiming that Australians have high tendency to be abusive, rapists etc which I find complete and utter bullshit. After finding out I have been dating him for months, my mom confronted me and said I should break up with him and move to another state. I told her no because I am an adult so I can make my own decisions.\n\nYou must be wondering how I know what she's doing back home. I have a 20 year old sister back home who being verbally abused by my parents as well. She has no reason to exaggerate or lie to me about what my mom has been saying because she would actually benefit from it more by siding with my mother. My sister is the only one in the family who stands by my side. My mother has successfully turned everyone else against me, like my dad and younger brother.\n \nMy mother has also tarnished my name in my hometown to my friends and extended family by telling everyone that I'm a useless whore who left the family. I feel like cutting my mother off is the best solution for my own wellbeing and sanity. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DE63Uxsj3DpbJhXuCmXNPGGGBIIiM5l2", "post_id": "aotsut", "action": {"description": "calling out my lazy roommates", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA if I call out my lazy roommates?", "text": "TL:DR Roommates stop doing their share and start treating me like house slave. AITA if I call them out for it? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EivusU6CZEmzXBRsj8WksPiL8r1gdwlk", "post_id": "b4m7a4", "action": {"description": "asking if chefs at a restaurant could clean off the grill before making my food", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA for asking if chefs at a restaurant could clean off the grill before making my food?", "text": "Hoping to get some answers from people who have some experience working behind the scenes at restaurants. \n\nI have to eat out with clients about twice a week and I do enjoy it but I often end up wasting my food. I\u2019ve been a vegetarian since I was 11 for various reasons and I\u2019m 30 now. It\u2019s just not a thing I eat. Most of the time, any restaurant (in California) will have at least one veggie menu item so I don\u2019t usually have a problem ordering anywhere. Anyways, I\u2019ve noticed a lot of times, the cooks don\u2019t clean off the grill that often, leaving rice grain sized pieces of burnt meat all over my food. Whenever it happens, I don\u2019t know how to approach it without being a dick so I just don\u2019t eat the food and say I\u2019m full. \n\nI know it\u2019s a super first world problem and I\u2019m an asshole alone for wasting good food but is there any way to approach this before it happens without being an entitled putz? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "t78wuvrm2GcrIyKAgLSzQr65tKis6psL", "post_id": "avf8fv", "action": {"description": "clipping my nails at work", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 28}, "title": "AITA for clipping my nails at work?", "text": "Ok, straight up, this is a friend's story, told last night at dinner. And there were some conflicting feelings about whether or not she was the asshole.\n\n​\n\nYesterday, my friend remarked to a coworker that she had a hanging nail and was glad she had her nail clippers to take care of it. Coworker B was walking by and overheard. Coworker B walked into friend's cubicle and demand she NOT clip her nails at work because that was disgusting. Coworker B then retreats back to her cubicle on the other side of the floor.\n\n​\n\nMy friend then clips her hanging nail in her own cubicle. And then clipped two more to \"even things out\".  She then receives a text message from Coworker B that she could hear her clipping her nails from over 100 feet away. And it was absolutely disgusting. And why would anyone do something so gross in a public place.\n\n​\n\nMy friend responded, \"chill out\".\n\n​\n\nSo... Is clipping your fingernails at work as asshole thing to do? This is where the debate started last night- is it super gross as coworker B feels, or is it fine?  Is my friend the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 26, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 28}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "L2NABrOVDkwsqvzZtW73BCnNp8y5w9cA", "post_id": "axffn1", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go to my GF's Sister's Birthday Dinner", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Not Wanting To Go To My GF's Sister's Birthday Dinner?", "text": "We're both 22, been dating for a year and her sister is having a birthday dinner hosted this Friday for her 20th bday. I was told about this about 2 weeks ago and flat out said I'm not going to go to that restaurant because my dad used to be a manager there and they treated him extremely badly and basically forced him to quit. This was in 2014 and I won't forget the shit they put my dad through and it was a terrible thing to do to another person. I told my GF that but she's like how it was so long ago and its a really good place now I doubt they treat their employees like that still. I just told her I don't want to spend money at a place that treated my dad so badly. I told her I'll see her sister the next day and get her a gift. She called me an asshole and said I'm being inconsiderate.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DXMQJhaND8DDzQb2O7NIWajX06wX5vLX", "post_id": "awn3jy", "action": {"description": "telling my friends I'm upset at the fact we got back later than they orriginally told me", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my friends I'm upset at the fact we got back later than they orriginally told me", "text": "Basically, we went out for an event and then we decided to go to get dessert afterwards. I asked them if we could get back at a certain time as I had an event that would be starting at a certain time. They assured me that I would be back in time. However, by the time I did make it back, I was already 20 minutes late. It ended up being fine with the other people at the event, but still ...\n\nWould I be the asshole for making it known I'm upset?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nGpp15U9DCZQrKHH62tKTJpNzDsy0GsZ", "post_id": "b1w635", "action": {"description": "complimenting a black guy's hair? I'm white", "pronormative_score": 37, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For complimenting a black guy's hair? I'm white", "text": "I went to subway today, and the guy making my sandwich had awesome hair. It was in dreads, tied up on top of his head so the bleached ends were all sticking out kinda like a koosh ball (that's a dumb comparison but it's all I can think of) and some of the dreads had these little gold ringlets on them, I thought it was really cool, so I said ''Hey I love your hair, those ring things are really cool\" and the guy said thanks in kind of a monotone/emotionless voice, but he talked like that the whole time we were there so I figured that was just how he talked. After we left, my friend told me I shouldn't have said anything, and that it sounded like I was making fun of him, and that he doesn't need approval from some random white guy. Said friend is mixed, her mom is black and her dad is white, I didn't mean anything by the comment, I genuinely just thought his hair was really cool. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 30, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 37, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kiCXD4ahLLvjP3YT0Fr2DDphwvjtAQHR", "post_id": "azhkxk", "action": {"description": "not paying for a (possibly) homeless woman's groceries", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not paying for a (possibly) homeless woman's groceries?", "text": "Last night I (F24) was at the store with my teenage siblings buying snacks for the movies. I don't live at home anymore so I really don't have much money to spare. I needed my extra money to treat my siblings. With my arm full of snacks, this woman asks me if I could pay for her groceries which I replied, \"I'm sorry, I actually don't have much money to spare right now.\"", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yECQlH0ylrt0dg606gvGt16NJpjwl9ht", "post_id": "apudfw", "action": null, "title": "AITA For kind of rudely taking back the armrest on a plane?", "text": "So I took a plane ride a few days ago with my husband, and with him being a big tall guy I usually take the middle while he takes the aisle. And I'm usually fine with that as I've been lucky to get polite people or no one at all sitting at the window. However, during this particular plane ride, a small petite girl ended up having the window seat. Fine, we get up and let her in. But then she proceeds to not only take the armrest, but twist and shift her entire body to be leaning her back towards the armrest to where she was pressing into me even when I had my arms squished and held in. It's my understanding that the middle person get the armrest generally (especially with her small size and the general nice amount of space on this plane)  but instead she was leaning all her weight towards me instead of doing it in her space by the window. So I wait patiently and when she half stands and raises up to wave at a friend in another seat, I very blatantly took the armrest (though unlike her I stayed in my space) and she seemed annoyed at me and kinda glared at me. But she did change to twist her back towards the window and lean her weight there, so I was happy. Was I the asshole here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZfRtn9RJrtP2BFM1eLdzd8M7txnpjsVQ", "post_id": "9tedo1", "action": {"description": "being upset with my Guy Friend and expecting him to pay", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Being Upset with My Guy Friend and Expecting Him To Pay $$$?", "text": "AITA for thinking my guy friend is sketchy and should reimburse me some medical expenses?\n\n​\n\nHi all! Throwaway so my real account doesn't get doxxed in case someone I know stumbles upon this post.\n\n​\n\nA few weeks ago, I went out with a group of friends and drank extremely heavily. I woke up in a guy friend's bed ( aren't super close but are definitely friends) and he informed me we'd had sex the night before. I had zero real memory of this occurring. I had always thought he was cute, and though I hadn't ever actively considered sleeping with him I believed him when he said I was in to it and wanted it, even though I must have been super drunk because I've never blacked the point where I don't remember an ENTIRE block of time.\n\n​\n\nI'm on birth control, but it failed and shortly after we had sex I had a positive pregnancy test. I then went to my OB/GYN and found out that I'd essentially had been pregnant and suffered a very early miscarriage. He'd be the father, as I hadn't had sex with anyone but him. I had to have my birth control device (IUD) changed out and several ultrasounds bc any IUD associated pregnancy is extremely risky. I later had very heavy vaginal bleeding as a result of the hormone changes, having the IUD changed out, etc and ended up in the ER. All of this resulted in about $1500 worth of medical bills. I brought this up to him and he wasn't keen on helping out.\n\n​\n\nReddit, AITA for even expecting him to contribute a small financial amount? AITA for thinking the way we had sex in the first place is super sketchy based on how drunk I must have been? A friend implied he'd essentially assaulted me and i dont know what to think. i appreciate any input!!!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NbDRSGkE7uz6JHRoFbbg2xRywRJAmHaD", "post_id": "b7b8eo", "action": {"description": "being normally the mediator to my friends' arguments but I'm burnt out. my group of friends is falling apart because I refuse to solve their problems. AITA", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA? I\u2019m normally the mediator to my friends\u2019 arguments but I\u2019m burnt out. My group of friends is falling apart because I refuse to solve their problems. AITA?", "text": "I should start off by saying that I\u2019m only in 8th grade so forgive me if this stuff is unbelievably stupid.\n\nS: Guy who dated R a while back, broke up and it was rough for a while but they\u2019re \u201cbetter now\u201d and \u201cgood friends\u201d. Also occasionally mediates problems when I am upset.\n\nR: Girl who dated S, has new boyfriend, begs for attention sometimes either by trying to act masculine, being all \u201cuwu\u201d, or acting sexual.\n\nR and S have been at each other\u2019s throats for two weeks after S made some jokes, R took offense, R then insulted S, S got offended, then they started going for the sensitive spots. Parent issues, relationship problems, and every insecurity imaginable has been weaponized in this squabble.\n\nOur group of friends had relatively good chemistry before this happened and now everything is tense, because we never know when R is going to go total ape and start a screaming match. S, on the other hand, talks behind R\u2019s back.\n\nIt seems like the longer it burns, the hotter the fire gets. AITA for not being my usual self and putting it out? This is the fourth time since January they\u2019ve done this and I don\u2019t think it\u2019s worth it anymore to work this hard just for them to go again.\n\nTL;DR: Friends are ruining chemistry of friend group by fighting, and instead of myself fixing it as per usual, I\u2019m letting it happen because they start again as soon as I stop helping them.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1x2qokHzyK4KIFEqeFb2dJBjvHCox8DF", "post_id": "aw6e3o", "action": {"description": "deleting my friends team on a game for stabbing me in the back", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA For deleting my friends team on a game for stabbing me in the back?", "text": "I was in middle school and had a couple of friends. We were a group of five (including me) so i have known 2 of them since 1st grade so thats 8 years (at the time) time went by and one of them started to hate me, and made up lies about me. All of them hated me and the next day i found myself kicked from the text message group. So time went by and at the time we all loved fifa ultimate team. I was just turning on my ps4 and saw that i still had 2 of the 4 accounts still logged in so i went on their accounts quicksold every player (quickselling means that if a player is worth 2 million i can quicksell him for 600) and they payed real money for.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "PnzBLmC8354ODHcsI9YySLOIbFXNBfIz", "post_id": "ab1lgn", "action": {"description": "not inviting someone to my New Years party", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not inviting someone to my New Years party?", "text": "So I\u2019ve been semi friends with this kid for a while. We really never hung out, and we both grew apart and transitioned into different friend groups recently. Recently he\u2019s made some very bad decisions, like telling some people\u2019s crushes bad things about them, and other asshole shit. He also doesn\u2019t really just fit the friend group anymore and we wouldn\u2019t trust him with anything anymore because of the stuff he\u2019s done.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aoDbAsGJNdsV99YTQCO67MD0THTrZmAJ", "post_id": "ai4el9", "action": {"description": "starting dating a ex of a friend", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "WIBTA if i started dating a ex of a friend", "text": "So some background information my friend ( I'll call him GB) broke up with his girlfriend (HR) and we still have the same friend group so you could see how this could be a problem.\n\n\n HR and I have always been kinda close even when they were dating we were all best friends. At the time i kinda had romantic feelings for her but they weren't strong enough for me to like do anything about it and since they were dating i was like duh no chance but i was fine with that because I was doing my own thing and exploring myself I wasn't in a state to have a relationship at that time but do keep in mind I was not the reason they broke up.\n\nBut Now things have changed 3 weeks ago I started talking HR and she told me that she and GB broke up because reasons. I didn't know that at the time everyone was kept in the dark about it.\n\n So I felt like wow I waited awhile to ask her out and when I did she said um yes of course. Now I told some people in our friend group and was met with immediate backlash with them saying how awful I am, that I shouldn't be doing this, and how that I'm only doing it to cause drama which is not the case.\n\nSo right now I'm at a loss my reasoning is that relationships are about trial and error and thar if it didn't work out then respect each other and move on and not take any hostility towards their new S/O but apparently not and now I'm doubting myself \n\nSo WIBTA if I started to date her\n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "naAWswzzdPjqoj5C0ReOnrI0w2NWW0Kb", "post_id": "ads4wr", "action": {"description": "unintentionally triggering someone's phobia? did I deserve to go into anaphylactic shock because of it", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for unintentionally triggering someone\u2019s phobia? Did I deserve to go into anaphylactic shock because of it?", "text": "     I have an ex-friend that says she has a \u201cdiagnosed phobia of vomit\u201d. For the purpose of this story, we\u2019ll call her X. Some of my friends and I were talking in a group chat, and one of my friends (let\u2019s call her Y) started sending very fake looking stock photos of people vomiting for some reason. Jokingly, I said \u201cyou should send those to X\u201d. My friend actually sent them to her, and X called back sobbing and threatening to call the cops. \n     Y was understandably upset that I told her to send them, because I convinced her to send the photos and then she had to deal with X and her reaction. I thought Y knew about her phobia, and therefore wouldn\u2019t send them to avoid triggering her. Y didn\u2019t know, and sent her the photos because I told her to. I didn\u2019t stop Y from sending the photos, but I didn\u2019t really have much of a chance to as it was too late when I learned that she had actually sent them. The photos were very cartoonish and fake-looking, and I am having trouble believing that it would evoke such a response in her. X is known to overreact to everything and seek for attention. \n     The next day, I had a serious allergic reaction while I was running, and I started to go into anaphylactic shock. I had the worst itching of my life, my throat started to close up, I experienced the worse stomach cramps I\u2019ve ever had, threw up multiple times, nearly shit myself, and I literally couldn\u2019t walk so I had to be picked up in a truck by a park ranger and driven to the trail entrance so the ambulance could take me to the hospital. If it wasn\u2019t for the two friends I had helping me and calling the park ranger, I could have died. The experience was traumatic for me and it took me a while to get over it. \n     I was still recovering from the physical symptoms of the allergic reaction when I heard X went around telling people that \u201cgoing into anaphylactic shock was karma for what I did to her\u201d. I can\u2019t believe she thinks I deserve that for jokingly telling a friend to send her badly faked pictures of someone throwing up. I understand that phobias can be serious, but knowing her I feel like she overreacted and exaggerated her phobia for attention because that\u2019s just the type of person she is. \n     Am I the asshole for telling Y to send those photos, even though I wasn\u2019t serious? Am I justified in being upset at what X said, or did I deserve anaphylactic shock?\n     TL;DR: I used to be friends with someone who has a vomit phobia. As a joke, I tell one of my other friends to send her some obviously fake photos of people vomiting. She goes hysterical, cries and threatens to call the police. The next day, I nearly die from an allergic reaction and she tells people that I deserved it for what I did to her. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 8, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "qyBZOXStzS2M2HaN04wN8m40f2BDM8uo", "post_id": "an1c9v", "action": {"description": "being pissed at my mother and not letting her forget a single bad thing she's said to me all because she tries to control who I am and how I act", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being pissed at my mother and not letting her forget a single bad thing she's said to me all because she tries to control who I am and how I act?", "text": "The title might end up being a bit unlike what this is but I couldn't describe it any other way.\n\nI'm 15, and I'm gay. My family is non religious, though we used to be Christian.\n\nSo my mother says a lot of shit. Like, a lot of horrible shit that thanks to \"Parental Disease\" as I call it, she never takes the blame for.\n\nA while ago, I told her im gay after she commented that gay people have this aura around them and that they can do great things. When I told her, she just said \"no you aren't you're too young to know that.\"\n\nSince then I sorta started to remind her about the things she said.\n\nA while later in the car, she told me about how she didn't like how I had been swearing a lot on Twitter which is basically my vent zone at times. She also said stop saying lies like me being gay. I just told her to stay the fuck out of it and to stop being controlling. Then, she treats me like I'm an asshole to her, and bends the truth so my father also goes against me.\n\nAITA for reminding her of what she's said and verbally lashing out at her because she tries to tell me im not gay? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tPLD6ESz8mI8vfseKdP7zYIRo3ZacLWn", "post_id": "a8sv9u", "action": {"description": "refusing to take sides in a family fight", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to take sides in a family fight.", "text": "My brother and my stepdad hate each others\u2019 guts. I don\u2019t want to get too into their history, because it\u2019s winding, complicated and personal, so I\u2019ll summarise it as quickly as I can. My stepdad has been around since we were 2 and 3 respectively. When we were young, we were very close. As we got older, my stepdad was very very strict and could be very cruel verbally at times. My brother was extremely wild and did a lot of dangerous and illegal things. I want to say that I genuinely don\u2019t think either of them is blameless, though I genuinely think I\u2019m too close to the issue to asses it objectively, seeing as I grew up alongside my brother. \n\nA few years back, they had a really big falling out. They both said a lot of terrible and very over the line things and they both made a lot of threats. My brother left by choice and my stepdad was glad. My brother is 24, lives in an apartment paid for by our biological dad (who has never been much of a dad to either of us in any ways except occasionally financial). It\u2019s a very upper class, expensive apartment. He has no job and receives hundreds of dollars per week from both our parents and grandparents. \n\nMy mother has spent the last three years trying to force them to make peace. It\u2019s very, very painful for her and has taken a huge toll on both relationships. My brother says my mum should\u2019ve picked us over our stepdad. Every time we see my brother, my mum tries to convince him that they should make peace. My brother swears and screams and often walks off. In 3 years, his answer has never wavered.\n\nEvery year, we go away one night for Christmas. I\u2019m on that night away as we speak. My mother brought it up (they\u2019re both intoxicated) and my brother got angry immediately and started telling her if she kept doing it, he\u2019d leave. \n\nMy mum asked me, in front of my brother, to tell my brother he should do it. She got emotional and begged me to tell him he has to forgive my stepdad. I said I didn\u2019t want to be involved (a stance I\u2019ve held for all 3 years) and she got very angry and now won\u2019t speak with me.\n\nMy problem with taking a side is that I\u2019m very torn. My relationships with both my brother and stepdad are very, very tense. My brother is known to fly off the handle and I\u2019m afraid that if I tried to take a side, he\u2019d never forgive me and I\u2019d be burned out too. I genuinely believe I\u2019m too close to the situation. I have a lot of feelings about both of them and my opinion changes a lot depending on what happens and how people act. I feel like I\u2019m too close to it all to decide and like I don\u2019t want to sway people to do \u201cthe right thing\u201d when I\u2019m not even sure what the right thing is.\n\nOn the one hand, my brother is selfish, angry and aggressive. On the other, I know he harbours a lot of abandonment issues and that he\u2019s still very hurt and emotional about my stepdad. My stepdad is angry, mean and cold. He definitely said things he shouldn\u2019t have said to us (with us as children at the time). On the other hand, he\u2019s been married to my mum almost 20 years and I know she loves him. My mum is overemotional, but she\u2019s also one of my best friends in the word. She desperately wants me to side with her, but I\u2019m afraid by siding with her, I\u2019ll make everything ten times worse.\n\nI hope this doesn\u2019t come across as a shit post or something, because being so close to it and with everyone around me being so emotional with the issue, I\u2019m genuinely unsure if what I\u2019m doing is right. My mum has been loyal to me and I don\u2019t want to be disloyal to her, but I don\u2019t want to force something and make everything worse and potentially lose my brother entirely. \n\nTL;DR: my brother and my stepdad hate each other and my mum wants me to force them to make peace. I don\u2019t feel like I can be a part of it, but that\u2019s making her think I\u2019m disloyal to her. AITA? \n\nAlso, sorry for the formatting, I\u2019m sitting in a hotel on my mobile. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "p1lJ0Xov8Dj9JuTiKdNYONrX3ug4obYC", "post_id": "b8w35u", "action": {"description": "saying that I want to destroy my competition", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for saying that I want to destroy my competition?", "text": "I (28M) took over my dad's business about a year ago since he passed away. \n\nIt's only a mid sized business. Not at millionaire status or anything but well into six figures at least. My dad treated it like more of a ''caring'' approach to it I guess? Not sure how to describe his attitude about it really, he was just really content and loved life I guess. He liked his business the way it was, and he was good friends with many of the the owners of the local ''rival'' business.\n\nI have wanted to take a different approach to it. I want to win, basically. **I want to destroy my competitors**, I have no delusions of grandeur in that I expect to become a multi-millionaire (so I'll get that out of the way), but I can definitely see a lot of potential for growth. I want them to go out of business and expand.\n\nSo I went for a drink with my sister (24F) and mother (55F) and we had a few drinks. Anyway they ended up asking me about how I feel about taking over that business and whether if that's really what I wanted to do, and I said yes, I then said while a bit drunk ''I want to destroy the competitors'' (well, I actually 'I want to destroy___ and then said the actual names of the local rivals, but I can't say those names here). \n\nThey said I was a huge asshole for having that mentality. But I don't see how....I mean I dabbled a bit into Competition Law once while I was a at uni, and I found myself liking the Chicago school of competition more than the alternatives (e.g. Ordoliberal) but my sister especially went in on me. She said that my mentality is ''toxic'', AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "l7QdVWfAfYf0jkfbwaUunYEwGwGWHC2p", "post_id": "b9n2sw", "action": {"description": "going out with my friends even though I know it may trigger my wife's depression or anxiety? I am M she is F", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for going out with my friends even though I know it may trigger my wife\u2019s depression or anxiety? I am M(23) she is F(23)", "text": "A mutual friend of my wife and me invited us out for dinner and then the bar tomorrow night. He invited us about a week ago.\n\nMy wife and I typically don\u2019t go out very often. We both really enjoy staying home watching tv, working on finishing our basement or playing Nintendo games together. However, I like to go out every now and then to shake things up and every time I do it\u2019s like pulling teeth to get her to go out and she doesn\u2019t end up having a good time.\n\nAt the same time she also doesn\u2019t like me going out on my own because it always triggers her depression and anxiety. I don\u2019t fully understand why this is but it\u2019s definitely happened multiple times.\n\nWell in this specific scenario I asked her if she wanted to go and she wasn\u2019t sure so I said \u201cno problem, think about it and I\u2019ll ask you again on Thursday.\u201d Well Thursday is here and she still isn\u2019t sure which really means she\u2019s not into it and won\u2019t want to go.\n\nWIBTA for telling her I\u2019m going to go anyways and that she\u2019s welcome to come if she changes her mind?\n\n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2Z24XXTlVF8r5Y1CmcnHur6hlYHLnjF8", "post_id": "arztwc", "action": {"description": "\"cheating\" on my gf in the sims 4", "pronormative_score": 31, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for \"cheating\" on my gf (F23) in The Sims 4?", "text": "Ok. I know. But listen. I like me some good simulation game. I was playing Rimworld recently and decided to go back to Sims for a while and try out the 4th version of it. So I, as probably many of Sims players across the world, made a version of myself in the game and went on into the world to live my life. Couple of hours pass by and I'm getting better at my job, learning how to cook and I got an in-game, virtual, nonreallifeexistant girlfriend. You know what happens next. So my real gf sees that I'm playing Sims, she likes the game as well and starts to watch me playing, we're talking, having fun and then it happened. She saw the \"bitch\" that was in my Sims house. At first she was a little mad but didn't show it I guess. Me, not seeing any signs of annoyance, started interacting with the in-game gf and she kissed me. Then my real life gf flipped the FUCK out. I'm not gonna go into details here but she's still not talking to me and it's the day after. I tried to talk to her about it, explaining that it just a game, hell, even saying that I will BREAK UP with the gf in the game. Nothing is working. It'll probably pass but I want to know if I'm really the asshole, because I definitely feel like one right now.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 31, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 31, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dqjxODLL1YB5QEP38qsTe7r3NNiLGJCc", "post_id": "ad7anj", "action": {"description": "not paying for the hard drive restoration", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 22}, "title": "AITA for not paying for the hard drive restoration?", "text": "New Years Eve, I fell asleep and woke up with my friends Iphone in my hand, covered in my vomit. The phone, containing all of his vacation pictures etc is broken and now he wants me to pay for a new phone and a hard drive restoration to recover his pictures since he didn't save them anywhere else. \n\nObviously, I will pay for a new phone but I don't feel the responsibility to recover the pictures when it's on him to make sure to save all media with sentimental value on more then one unit. \n\nDoes this reasoning make me an asshole?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 22, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 22}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "YEuzZLMrUAfzx2PpfmhNgjbWNY1333IQ", "post_id": "avtmig", "action": {"description": "purposely stopping my classmate from winning an award and subsequently making her cry", "pronormative_score": 133, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA For purposely stopping my classmate from winning an award and subsequently making her cry?", "text": "This issue is honestly making me frustrated. Almost everyone is saying I am in the wrong, people are talking behind my back and I genuinely don't know if what I did was correct or not. I just feel so lost. Please, please do help.\n\nI am 17, suffered a major accident while cycling when I was 13. I have 2 really deep,long facial scars. I have been bullied really bad because of it. I am tall, ugly and intimidating as per most girls. People make fun of other people by saying things like \"Why don't you just hook up with u/throwawayfor2k19.\" I am honestly used to it. Those people didn't matter to me anyway.\n\nBut there is this girl I had known since middle school. Let's call her Back I guess? Sorry, I honestly don't know how this works. I had a really, really big crush on her till a few days ago. I thought she was geniunely sweet and amazing. My family is incredibly supportive so they urged me to ask her out. I can play a guitar so I made this whole song for her. I went to the neighbouring city to get her favorite chocolate and stuff like that. This was the first time I felt like really going and asking someone out in my life, and I felt that regardless of what I do, she shall see me for who I am and at least accept me as a friend.\n\nI was over the moon when she ended up accepting. We went to a fancy restaurant,had a fun time together and walked for 30 minutes. She was really sweet to me. The next week or so was honestly heaven. People started noticing me, even her friends seemed friendly with me, I honestly cried everyday because I felt so fortunate to get so much love.\nIt all broke down when a friend of hers, who was on Instagram and followed Beck, sent screenshots to me. I honestly felt betrayed and disgusted.\n\nShe had posts saying 'Fulfilled his lifelong wish by being his Valentine's\", 'Making his day by finally helping him interact with my friends','he is ugly but beautiful people accept ugly people' '#uglypeoplematter' etc. Beck's friend then explained me that she apparently wanted a good social media image and had thus asked all her friends to be kind to me and tolerate me till the first week of March, and then distance themselves from me. She apparently wanted to win some stupid 'positive role model' award for her college application because she was lagging behind in community service.And thought playing with my feelings for a few days wouldn't hurt, and apparently since I was ugly she was the kind one to give me attention anyway.\n\nI was in tears and honestly felt disgusted. My blood was boiling. I researched about this award, found a Facebook page about it online.I went to the authorities to confirm if her name was on the nominations list, and then had my friend's at work and family as alibi.\n\nShe is apparently crying a lot because she received a message from the committee saying her nomination was withdrawn. I am now even more ostracised in school, but honestly I have no remorse whatsoever and feel far more satisfied.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 132, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 133, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SAn47RYbz3GHFwjsyFq0Usuu5PaLCKCd", "post_id": "9uigeo", "action": {"description": "being attracted and having jealous feelings with this girl in my friend group", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being attracted and having jealous feelings with this girl in my friend group", "text": "Alright,\n\nso my friend recently introduced a girl into my friend group, who are mostly guys. I recently broke up from a bad relationship and became attracted to this girl very quickly because she is very chill to be around and I am probably desperate. I don't know her that well and know that I am indulging in most of my insecurities here, so much of my feelings are based on irrational thoughts. \n\nI get these flare ups of jealousy, mostly minor, when she is interacting with other people in my friend group but not me. I am able to push these feelings to the side mostly but they tend to come up every now and again. I am by no means mean are possessive outwardly towards my friends and I like them, but when this girl is interacting with my other friends and not me, I get this twinge of jealousy even though she has interacted with me before. Its like I have to automatic possessive desire to have her to myself and have her only interact with me, but I resist it because I know its bullshit and she is her own person and wants to be friends with all of us, not me.\n\n The idea of getting into a relationship with her actually concerns me because I am afraid the insecure habits and emotions that developed in my last relationship would affect any potential (and extremely unlikely) relationship with her as I would just become a total dick. \n\nAITA for even having these feelings? I push them to the side most of the time but I am sure they are unconsciously affecting my behavior to be more possessive in my mind. To clarify, this is all mild in my mind and I do not make it a problem for my friend group in any way, and I have not outright told anyone in the friend group of my attraction. Also, I am getting no signs from her that she is interested and consciously think it is ridiculous that I would be attracted to her this quickly. My thoughts and desires are igniting primal possessiveness in me. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GPu6QJOhQslWEKGniDAmMLEzySalkcHL", "post_id": "aljvgb", "action": {"description": "being mad at everyone in my home over my mother's boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being mad at everyone in my home over my mother\u2019s boyfriend?", "text": "Oh, boy.\n\nI should probably say one thing. I\u2019ve probably lied about my age on other posts, sorry if there\u2019s any inconsistencies. I am a 14 year old.\n\nI\u2019m going to go ahead and type this out - My mother has a boyfriend, he\u2019s lived with us (and my grandmother, who has had a stroke) for maybe 1 year and a half? God, it feels like longer.\n\nWe\u2019ll call my mother\u2019s boyfriend \u201cStevie\u201d. Stevie is awful to my mother. I could talk about him for hours, so sorry if I talk about him for too long. Feel free to skip to the TL;DR.\n\nStevie often has arguments with my mother. I\u2019d say twice a month. In these, He accuses her of something she didn\u2019t do, throws something, and goes into HER room like a bratty child.\n\nSometimes, he leaves. This has always been for about a week though. Once we got lucky and Stevie left for almost a month. He then comes back, says he\u2019s \u201csorry\u201d, and he invites himself back in.\n\nMy mom only kept him around for what may sound like a selfish reason. When me and my mother had to leave somewhere, we needed someone to take after my grandmother, which because of the stroke, makes her not think correctly.\n\nI\u2019m going to be honest. It was also because of money. We are in a very bad money situation. Anyway, I\u2019ve heard him call my mother a slut more times than I can count.\n\nI used to cry and be upset, but now I\u2019m just angry. I\u2019m angry at him for acting less mature than me, though I am only 14 years old. \n\nHowever, I\u2019m also angry at my mom. She kept this man around even though he was treating her like this. I\u2019m angry at my Grandmother, as well.\n\nI\u2019m currently typing this because they\u2019re having another argument again, and I feel so angry at this man I want to do something, though I know not to.\n\nAm I the Asshole for being mad at my family? I will be honest, I personally don\u2019t think I am. However, other\u2019s do.\n\nTL;DR, My mother has a boyfriend who is an awful person to her on top of being immature, and I\u2019m mad at my household for keeping him around.\n\nSorry for any grammatical errors or if this post was all over the place.\n\n\n\n\nEDIT\n\nJesus, nobody will see this, but Incase someone does see this, he finally left. I feel fully calm and safe for the first time in years. Thank you to everyone who commented something or even just read my post. Both of those things made it surprisingly easier. So, thank you. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "R3iwDkkMnqgLxd7MW0l9Nwve5oq7kP1j", "post_id": "awthqm", "action": {"description": "not \"making online friends\"", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not \u201cmaking online friends\u201d?", "text": "So this happens from time to time so what I\u2019m about to post is not the only time but the last. \n\nI\u2019ve received a message from a dude I didn\u2019t know on facebook and let\u2019s be real, we all know where this is going. He said that he wanted us to get to know eachother. I replied \u201csorry, but I am not interested\u201d because I was not born yesterday. This \u201cI messaged you just to be friends\u201d is the oldest trick in the book in order to get to a girl and I have a boyfriend so this doesn\u2019t fly. \n\nBut let\u2019s say he gets the benefit of the doubt and truly just wants to be friends. Why would I want a random ass dude that messaged me online as my friend? I barely have time to keep in touch with my old friends, let alone a guy that is not in my group of friends, is not in my uni and we have nothing in common in general so I\u2019d have to rip time from my schedule specially for him, a stranger. I also feel like the friendship would be forced and not \u201cnatural\u201d at all.\n\nHe immediately got mad and started asking me questions like \u201cwhy are on social media then? To gain likes on your pics?\u201d \u201cIt hurts to have one more friend? and passive aggressive things like \u201cexcuse me that I did not have the chance to meet you in person\u201d. \n\nTo me, it is pretty clear that he was under the impression I would accept the friendship and he would have the chance of asking me out, while it is very clear from my profile that I have a boyfriend. Further proof of how this is not about a friendship (if more was needed) is that he messaged my twin sister as well. \n\nTL:DR A random guy messaged me on facebook claiming he wanted a \u201cfriendship\u201d when he knew nothing about me apart from how I looked and I turned him down which made him mad. \n\nAITA for turning it down? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "D5IjcG69yOkunwRaJNyg6K917dnWrIc6", "post_id": "b7rdrk", "action": {"description": "ordering takeout in bulk, then tipping a lower percent", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for ordering takeout in bulk, then tipping a lower percent?", "text": "A large number of my friends had conflicting opinions on the subject, so I'll throw it to reddit at large. \n\n​\n\nFirst and foremost, I am not a fan of the tipping culture in general. I think it's preposterous that servers, drivers, or members of any profession should be paid less than minimum wage with the assumption that tips will make up the difference. That being said, I accept that the system is not going to change anytime soon, and so I make sure to tip decently when I visit restaurants. (Never less than 15% unless the server was actively rude, 20% as a baseline for slightly above average service). \n\n​\n\nHowever, when I order delivery, in addition to an expected tip, there is a flat delivery charge (usually $2) that is explicitly NOT a tip to the drivers. Because of this, I have developed a system where, when I do order out by myself, I usually order a few meals, eat one immediately, and have the others as leftovers. In this case, I tip 20% of what one meal would have cost, on top of the standard delivery fee. This dilutes the fee and the tip over several meals, making the price of delivery worth it for me. The amount of work that the driver does is unchanged from 1-3 meals, so I feel that tipping the same amount is justified. \n\n​\n\nThis leads to a second discussion. I brought up my habits at a party last night, and got mixed responses. One friend, who had been a delivery driver in the past, claimed that this was unacceptable. He told me that his wages were only $4/hr, that his only other income was tips, and that even with 20% tips he would often not make minimum wage. I agreed with him that the system was flawed, and told him that everyone in his position should simply find another job. If enough drivers don't keep their position due to the unfair system, wages will increase. (He had already done this, moving from food delivery to another, standard salary job). In areas of poverty, I understand that sometimes, you take what you can get, but this is a middle class neighborhood with plenty of jobs available that do not require any significant level of education. \n\n​\n\nSo, reddit, AITA for (1) ordering more food for takeout but tipping the same, and/or (2) believing that workers should protest a crappy system by changing jobs? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "H2EB9WaGhKqzW53O4OAs4S7pI6jF8NP0", "post_id": "b1fyph", "action": null, "title": "AITA Argument with brother", "text": "So I was telling my brother how my boss is super toxic  to me. He talks to other coworkers in front of me but ignores me and doesnt even aknowledge my presence  This results in a lot of stress on my behalf. \n\nMy brother keeps suggesting this is all my fault and there is something fundamentally wrong with me that is making my boss act like this.\n\nI got mad at him and left. ATA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 4}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sHSLnHPqBPaqJcZskKAq8qZaPpg1SGaW", "post_id": "aj94lb", "action": {"description": "turning down a girl", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for turning down a girl (By accident?)", "text": "So two weeks ago, a girl ,that I had been good friends with for two years, asked me out to the prom. At first, I had thought she was joking because she did not give any indication of interest to me prior, (that and because I'm a loner so I assumed that it was not for real), so I joked around and played it off, thinking this was a joke, it was not. Apparently, she had confessed to me, but in a vague way, months ago, and I had missed that confession. So up until the point where she asked me, I was unaware of her feelings towards me. Am I the Asshole for doing what I had done to her? In the event I am, or am not, what should I do?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9YUuvcWq7sQDcsIxNaLZwBH4xMb2Pv2k", "post_id": "airv7d", "action": {"description": "making my friend lose his driving license", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for making my friend lose his driving license?", "text": "So on new years one of my friends decided that driving his car while super drunk is a great idea. We called the police and they took his license. \nHe did drive like 500-1000 meters or so and nobody got hurt.\nI know that i am not an asshole for that\n\n\nHe later called me and my other friends to apologize under tears for his stupid behaviour. \n\n\nAfter another couple of days he explained to me what consequences he might has to go through and everyone of my frieknds that were there when he drove off got a letter from the police in which they had to exactly say what happened that day. \n\n\nOne of those guys wrote that he can't remember much because of the alcohol but i wrote exactly what happened and with that i probably made him lose his license for a realy long time and he might has to go to certain kind of Meetings which aren't realy cheap.\n\n\nHe asked me what i wrote and i told him. He is realy mad at me now so im not realy sure if i did the right thing\n\n\nSo yea am i the asshole for writing the truth eventhough he apologized and did regret what he did?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0dBYqS9jGLUIuHxBHQ0gyyR86xRm7NLm", "post_id": "b68e33", "action": {"description": "not giving my flatmate a birthday present after she organised my birthday party", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA for not giving my flatmate a birthday present after she organised my birthday party?", "text": "I live with 3 other girls, one of whom we'll call Katie. This is the first year I've lived with any of these girls and initially things were great. We're all on the same university course, were spending lots of time together, etc etc. Back in September, 3 weeks after we moved in, Katie organised my 21st birthday party. She really went to town. She bought a cake, a bottle of tequila, made a fun quiz about me for the party and came up with what my flatmates should get me. I had a great time! I have social insecurities and felt very loved. I was and still am grateful for all this effort she went to. A few weeks later, I signed a lease with her and 2 other girls to live with her next year.\n\nSince then, things have gone south. By November, it was clear that Katie and I weren't getting on. I felt like she often spoke down to me and made me out to be stupid, was snappy and generally rude to me. She also acts this way to my other flatmate Gemma. This behaviour was picked up by my other flatmates too. There have been a handful of fall-outs, I've reached out to her to make amends, asked if I've done anything wrong but all in all its been a fairly direct conflict-free relationship. \n\nI now actively dislike Katie. She complains all the time, makes a huge deal out of her problems, tries to one up me and Gemma, disagrees with us just to disagree...She has blamed me for things going wrong which have been nothing to do with me, bitched about me to my other flatmates, rolled my eyes at me when I've contributed to group work at uni...it's a hostile environment and I try my best not to rise to it. It's worsened my social anxieties and is a contributing factor to starting CBT a month ago.\n\nKatie's birthday is in 2 weeks and is having a dinner party style celebration in our flat. She's inviting our friendship group (we share most of our friends) and asking everyone to bring a dish. If this wasn't in my flat, I wouldn't go but really want to avoid sparking any drama. However, I'm torn as to whether to get her a present or even a card. I want to avoid making a statement by not getting her anything or stir up any drama, yet I don't really think she deserves anything from me. That said, I'm still grateful for the effort she put into my birthday. Gemma is getting her a card and present as they'd been best friends for a few years before this and I don't think Katie knows that Gamma doesn't consider her a friend any more. \n\nSo, WIBTA for not getting her a present? Should I just get her a card? Or even nothing at all? \n\nTldr; I don't like my flatmate. She organised my birthday party. WIBTA for not getting her anything for her birthday?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "yATeeqo5QH5Ytm2ZPctq3pNBugtgR0Lj", "post_id": "9y1q8p", "action": {"description": "being upset with a friend who unintentionally played with my heart and made things awkward", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset with a friend who unintentionally played with my heart and made things awkward", "text": "I have a friend who for about a month started flirting with me. For the most part they were little things a few times a day, winking or sticking their tongue out at me when things said could be taken \"sexually\". But sometimes there were events that really took it farther like \"I know you wanna touch my butt\" and offering me the opportunity or verbally suggesting other romantic or \"sexual\" things rather than the more subtle winking. It was at a point where several of our mutual friends believed they were interested in me. Until after a month of it they somewhat abruptly declared that they is not interested in me or anyone else in the friend group and would never date any of us. Unknown to them I did have a crush on them before the flirting started, but I would rather keep a friend than risk losing it over that.\n\nFor the next few days I spent very little time with friends. I had a big homework assignment to do so they felt like I was avoiding them, which I kind of was. I needed time alone to get over the \"broken heart\". Afterward we talked a little and they voiced how their flirting meant absolutely nothing and they were not interested in me at all.\n\nNow things are awkward between us and we are no longer as good of friends as we used to be. they claims that since then I am sometimes hostile towards them. I just feel awkward at this point and sometimes jealous of those who are closer friends with them than I am now.\n\nI cannot help but be upset at them and get jealous or hurt. I am no longer one of their best friends. I know its not 100% their fault but did i overreact? AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rVRooIDlMffKrIoHcTD2nadWy5YMQ3ey", "post_id": "aoie1e", "action": {"description": "always having to explain simple things to my boyfriend- I feel like I'm google", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA? I (23F) always have to explain simple things to my boyfriend (26M)- I feel like I\u2019m google.", "text": "My boyfriend (26M) is really sweet, and comes from a less advantaged background than I do. \u00a0But, that being said- we\u2019re both in the same graduate school program, so we\u2019re both very capable individuals. \u00a0I am really type A, and actively try to figure things out myself. \u00a0My boyfriend constantly asks me questions about easily google-able questions, or for the answers to things that I had to figure out myself- i.e. by reading the directions. \u00a0Two examples:\u00a0 \n\n1) He needed his school transcripts for something, so he asked me where and how to get them- I told him the website that our school uses (and its intuitive; login in, select student information, select transcripts - > print), and he literally asked me every single page on the website what to click next, rather than just click around himself. It\u2019s a waste of my time, especially because I already took the time to learn how to use the system. \u00a0The same time he could take- but he knows I\u2019ll tel him.\u00a0 \n\n2) We\u00a0are in a class together, and there was a homework assignment- and he asked me to explain the assignment to him (which was posted online with directions), and tell him how long it took me to complete. \u00a0Telling him how long the assignment took wasn\u2019t a big deal, but read the damn directions! \n\nThese kind of incidences happen daily.  He just never puts in the work to figure anything out- he always asks me. \u00a0I\u2019m not a super genius, I just read the directions and investigate! \u00a0It\u2019s annoying to feel like I\u2019m always babying someone. \u00a0Sometimes I find myself really annoyed about it, and he thinks I\u2019m a jerk for not wanting to help him.\u00a0 \n\nAITA for not wanting my boyfriend to at least TRY to figure out how to do things himself before asking me? \u00a0 ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VRwaTjh8zmFYYgvl1mKOLNdwbk37DDHt", "post_id": "ae06cx", "action": {"description": "snitching on my shift manager", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for snitching on my shift manager?", "text": "I work at McDonald\u2019s because I\u2019m a teenager wanting to make a little extra money and I thought it was a great place to start. I went to the McDonald\u2019s up the street from me and went in for an application. The next day I turned in my application and got an interview. You know normal stuff for when you get a job. \n\n\nWhen I ended up getting the job my first day of work was just me bagging up the food and handing it out to the people in the dining area. After my first week I started working morning on the weekends and that\u2019s where I met creepo. When he first saw me he was like \u201cso you\u2019re ________.\u201d And I said \u201cyeah this is my first time ever having a job\u201d and he went in for a high five and said \u201cWow that\u2019s amazing!\u201d When I gave him a high five he kinda held my hand for a minute.  Kinda weird but didn\u2019t think much about it. \n\n\nFast forward to a few weeks working the morning shifts and he decided to move me to drive thru where I take the orders and give the food to the customers. It\u2019s probably my most favorite position. But its always just him and I alone until 11 which gives him at least 4 hours alone with me. This is when he starts to act weirder. \n\n\nI would be taking an order and he\u2019ll come up behind me and start playing with my hair and saying \u201cLook at you working hard.\u201d In the most uncomfortable sexual voice. Then later, I was making an iced coffee for the customer. While I was stirring the spoon around to mix the coffee and the cream he grabbed my arm gently and just held it there. I push my arm away from his grip and he called me rude. \n\n\nI like to do my makeup like many other 16 year old girls do. So I\u2019ll sometimes walk into work after school and have eyeshadow or eyeliner and the first thing he says to me is \u201cYou look beautiful today.\u201d And grabs my hand softly like he\u2019s about to hold it. After these encounters with him I decided enough was enough and I told my boyfriend and he called my McDonald\u2019s and talked to the store manager who eventually called me the next day. \n\n\nThe store manager said she\u2019d like to hear both sides of the story but I kind of feel bad for telling on him. I know what he was doing was wrong but I guess I feel bad because I don\u2019t want him to find out I said anything so that if he doesn\u2019t get fired that I\u2019d have to be around him again. Let me remind you, I\u2019m 16 and he\u2019s around mid 40\u2019s.  Pray for me tomorrow when I see him again. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "whkatP1boRl0LBQKhuZtBZ4Sm2npYPOB", "post_id": "9xum6w", "action": {"description": "asking friends money for gas", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking friends money for gas?", "text": "So this happened this summer, but still.\n\nI live at around 40km from the sea, it's a 30-40min trip that can last even hours due to traffic.\n\nOne day me, my sister and a couple friends decide to spend the day at the beach. Usually we would take the bus for 5\u20ac but since i recently got my driving license everyone wanted to go by car. I said sure, but asked everyone for 5\u20ac for gas since the trip can be very long and with 5 people in the car+baggages we would have used a lot of it, and as a student myself i couldn't really afford that. They looked at me mad at first but accepted. We had fun at the beach, but the trip was almost dead silence for 40mins.\n\nWas that this much asshole-y from me? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4eOoKSq1cZHNanG4JTnQ0O5684Tk60El", "post_id": "an3pp7", "action": {"description": "being okay giving a ride to one person and not the other", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being okay giving a ride to one person and not the other?", "text": "I go to a community college and a good amount of friends I\u2019ve made this semester are all around 18 (I\u2019m 23). Theres this one guy I\u2019ve been friends with since the beginning of the fall semester that I sometimes give rides home to because 1. It\u2019s RIGHT on the way for me going home and 2. He walks, doesn\u2019t have someone to pick him up, and carries a lot of stuff, especially for the classes he\u2019s taking this semester). \n\nNow, there\u2019s this other guy who is also his age who has been hanging with us a bit more recently this semester. He usually has a ride (I\u2019m assuming from family). One time he wanted to hang out a little bit more after classes with me and my other friend so he asked if he could get a ride home to be able to hang out a little longer and I said sure and he called off his ride. No big deal. \n\nI\u2019ve noticed now he tends to hang around more often after classes and whenever my one friend who walks asks if I could drop him off, he piggybacks on it right after him, which makes me feel like I have to say yes if I said yes to my other friend. He lives about 6 minutes from where I live but at the same time it\u2019s still kind of a detour for me and the car I have isn\u2019t kind with gas; it\u2019s not a lot but it is at the same time. \n\nSo now it\u2019s gotten to the point where it seems like he called off his previous arrangement for rides and kind of assumes I\u2019ll say yes. I had to race home for something I had to do after school the last I saw them and felt bad for having to say no to both, but also to my friend who walks because it was raining and cold that day. Idk hes a really nice guy and I honestly believe he just wants to be able to hang out with us a little bit more, and I kind of feel like a dick for having this bother me so much. So, AITA? \n\nTL;DR am I the asshole for only being okay with giving my friend who walks to school rides, and not to another friend who essentially has a ride but just wants to hang out with us more it seems. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Xdz4FZCGUIGF97TAXjb1Dlaq84FL8lZI", "post_id": "abv1d2", "action": null, "title": "AITA That Ruined This Relationship?", "text": "  \n\nAlright! first time posting ever on reddit! I want to make sure you obtain all the information:\n\nI met this person (call him TOM)on my 22nd birthday, I was drunk and with the help of liquid courage I managed to go up to TOM and ask for his number. The next day I he messaged me to save his number for the next time I go out. I was shocked that it worked lol \\[TOM also messaged me saying he would do \u2018dirty things\u2019 to me, I figured TOM liked me (probably a red flag here if he was willing to do things like that on such a short period of time\u2026)\\] Regardless.\n\nStarting out as friends, we would meet up when we both had off which was the weekends only. Things were cool for several months. Time passes, I remember I did the whole \u201cwhat are we?\u201d and he kind of froze. I remember getting upset and that was a red flag there, but this was my first time with someone (I thought I was going to fast with it) so I ignored it. Carried on our relationship, we went out here and there, I guess you could say we were dating (I thought we were, and I assumed that). His birthday came, I gave a few cool gifts and what not. Then the holidays, Thanksgiving and then Christmas I did the same. At this point, he introduced me to his friends that were nice to me. So, in return, I tried to be as nice as possible and befriend them because my thinking is if you wanted to date someone you need to be cool with their friends & fam. Everything was cool until\n\nChristmas Break//New Year\u2019s\n\n\\*Remember this whole time I\u2019m going to college and this was my first time ever to be on my own (away from home). During my Christmas break I decided to stay at my place so I was alone and my work is seasonal so I was literally doing nothing. \n\n\\----->  New Years. New Year seem to be a problem. Last year, I was with my parents (they\u2019re in late 70s)  they went to bed at 7pm! So I didn\u2019t want to go home to celebrate my new year like that. Comes the evening I get a random message from TOM\u2019s friend asking me to go out with them for the New Year. I got excited cause I wasn\u2019t doing anything. Excited to go, I got dressed and geared up to let loose & experience the new year the right way! Then I get a message from TOM saying are you going out with my friends?! ( I should have messaged him about it before saying yes to TOM\u2019s friend, turns out he had to work on New Years) I said yes to going because I got excited. He was really upset and said fine go. \n\nThe next day we talked, he thought it was wrong of me to go with his friends while he wasn\u2019t there \\[ I can understand that \\]. I told him I wouldn\u2019t do it again, things were weird after that, it wasn\u2019t the same. We barely saw each other and talked, it was on and off. I get a message from the same friend that invited me out for NY to go for some food & a show. I decided to go to surprise TOM since he worked later in the day. I went and it was just her, I kind of panicked and didn\u2019t want to be rude and just leave because of what TOM and I agreed on so I went with it. TOM\u2019s friend and I talked about life it was pretty chill, his friend was cool af. He found out, I tried to explain that I was trying to surprise TOM by just showing up unexpectedly. This backfired, things were never the same. We didn\u2019t talk for a while until my birthday. I tried to invite him out to celebrate it but he didn\u2019t show. 3 days later he showed up gave me a gift wished me a happy birthday and left. It was strange, like he felt like he had to do it (return a favor). Time flies and things kinda settle down. **TOM wanted to be friends rather than anything else (via tinder msg)**. I haven\u2019t seen TOM for a while until he asked me to go out with him and his friends. I went, he was drunk and admittedly said things went too fast that\u2019s what scared him. I wasn\u2019t buying it because we \u201ctalked\u201d for a whole year and he didn\u2019t know what I was majoring in? What my hobbies were? and I\u2019m sure a lot more. But I know all this information about TOM, it\u2019s just salt in the wounds at this point. I TOLD HIM THAT I HATED HIM FOR NOT CARING ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP THAT NIGHT. TOM said that he would \u201calways be nice to me\u201d. Lol, anyway So I\u2019m not interested in TOM anymore, I was done trying to pursue him. \n\nOne night this summer one of his friends \\*AT THE TIME\\* invited me out to a hot tub party, I went and after that  I got message from his friend saying that he was deleted from all social medias from TOM and was sent a message saying \u201cwhy would you try to get with my ex\u201d. I was confused. I laughed about it and his friend did too, I moved on. Over time TOM tried to talk to me on social media, I was dry and ignored it.\n\nThen comes this decemeber: my friend wanted me to go out to the club were I met TOM, of course he was there and so was his friends. I\u2019m not interested in TOM but his friends greeted me we took pictures I kissed his friend on the cheek as a good bye. That night I got a message saying why did I kissed his friend. I sent \u201cLMAO\u201d and that was it. Then a week later I was sent a message to go out with a few friends that were gonna be with TOM. This is New Year weekend, so I had nothing like last year and I went to have a few drinks. Cops were out so I stood around till the bar closed. Tom and his friends were done with clubbing and were waiting on a ride. I offered to get an UBER to be nice and to make sure everyone arrives safely to their destinations. Uber X carries on 4 I totally spaced on that and there was 5 of us. So in the end we tried to pack in the car and the uber driver was like this can\u2019t happen so I jump out and said  I\u2019ll just go home ( I didn\u2019t live to far from the club and wasn\u2019t too drunk) I got out and the car started to drive off and then out of no where one of TOM\u2019s friend jumped out and thought it was messed up for me to get an uber for everyone and not even take it. Tom and the people made it back to their destination. Out of no-where me and the friend that rode with me back to the same destination gets deleted from TOM\u2019s social media. I don\u2019t care, I ended up blocking him in return. His friend was like what did I do? I apologized for bring him in this mess even though I was just trying to be nice and be cautious about going home. Apparently, TOM was mad, stormed off as soon as they are arrived.\n\nAt this time his friends told me the truth (since he was gone) and everything that was wrong with me and him. I found out that TOM\u2019s friends are not trustworthy, they tend to \u201cmess around\u201d with a lot people. I think I can say that TOM has insecurities because he thought I slept with his friends in the past. Tom\u2019s friends said I was too nice and tried to please TOM no matter what. Also, Tom\u2019s friends told him to take me seriously. Tom\u2019s friends said I was too honest which made things worse at times. \n\nThere was a reason why I wanted to wait till I was older to try to date and to experience things with someone I cared about. To show what type of person I am I had my first kiss when I was 18 and didn\u2019t get laid till well this relationship.\n\nIt\u2019s just sad that I tried so hard to make this perfect.\n\nI know this was a lot, but I wanted to provide my thinking to each action I did. It was my first person I thought I loved. Hard lesson learned. As well I learned that age is just a number because TOM was immature for a 28yo. Lol, I tried to make this relationship happen and it damaged me pretty bad tbh\u2026 through school, work, and my own life probs.\n\nI figured I was in the wrong because I got unfriended and what not\u2026\n\nso AITA to ruin this relationship, take friends, idk?\n\nwhat do you think??", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bNV3Q9wwjLScACooIYkK5bukJfsPTQCc", "post_id": "awggrb", "action": {"description": "being suspicious about my ex", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being suspicious about my ex?", "text": "Sorry, mobile formatting, TLDR at the end.\n\nSo I was with this girl for around 5 months, and it ended in October last year, before this we were best friends for around a year and she meant everything to me. In the end, she had her reasons for not wanting to continue the relationship, which I respected, these included things such as culture, school stress, and just wanting to be her own person.\n\nWe made the effort to try and remain friends the same way we were before the relationship, which to this day is still happening, which I\u2019m grateful for. She got over the relationship very quickly however,probably around a week or two after we broke up we were texting about feelings and stuff and she mentioned she basically had 0 romantic feelings for me anymore and that I shouldn\u2019t try and get my hopes up of ever getting back with her (this is because I did have and still do have strong feelings for her, she wasn\u2019t saying it to be an ass). \n\nThe problem is, shortly after the break up, she starts hanging around with this guy, who we will call A. She claims that A was a family friend from when she was younger, who didn\u2019t speak to her much during our relationship out of respect. However, she calls him her best friend, but never mentioned him or anything to do with him once in the time we were friends or during the relationship, only after. \n\nDuring our relationship, it definitely seemed as if I would always be the one to initiate anything, intimacy, dates, all of it. She didn\u2019t make to much of an effort to plan things or anything, and would often back out of things due to family stuff which I respected (she has had a rough upbringing so I respected these reasons). \n\nSince we broke up, she has been hanging with A a lot. Like nearly daily going out on drives, going out places to eat etc, none of which she really did with me. \n\nI asked her if they have feelings for each other since we agreed to be open with this sort of stuff shortly after breaking up and she insisted nothing was happening and that he was like a brother to her, but recently she\u2019s admitted they now both have strong feelings for each other and she said she loves him and can\u2019t see herself with anybody else. She\u2019s barely talking to me anymore and is always talking to or is always with this guy, and is not making an effort with me whatsoever despite regarding me as one of her best friends.\n\nSo Reddit, AITA for being suspicious that there might have been something going on between my ex and A while we were together?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "piH4ZHEA1obuF1tfuwxrs9dmYRSwS6JL", "post_id": "ay49gp", "action": {"description": "teaching my friend a lesson", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for teaching my friend a lesson?", "text": "This will be pretty short. I have a friend..... let\u2019s call him \u201cedgy.\u201d \nOne day, on the bus home from school, Edgy decided to throw a spitball either aimed at me, or the back of the bus and, of course, it landed on me and another teenager in the back. The other teenager IMMEDIATELY noticed and starts yelling \u201cWHO DID THAT??!!\u201d \n\u2014Now, edgy spits and bites people ALL the time, which is weird, I know. Since he\u2019s never really gotten in trouble with it, I told the other teenager who did it.\u2014\n\u201cEDGY DID IT!\u201d\nThe other teenagers start yelling at him, calling him gross, and just overall yelling at him. I lean back and start laughing, edgy is usually this \u201ctough dude\u201d but I could see him feeling embarrassed. He went on and on about it \u201cnot being aimed at any of us\u201d all that BS. \nWhen I got off the bus, he and my other friend, we\u2019ll call him communist, started getting mad at me.\n\u201cWhat did you gain from that\u201d \n\u201cFrom what?\u201d I asked.\n\u201cTelling the people that He did it\u201d communist stated\n\u201cWhat did you gain from spitting on them?\u201d\n\u201cYou knew that they\u2019d get mad at me, why\u2019d you do it??\u201d Edgy complained.\n\u201cJust don\u2019t spit on people.... it\u2019s not that hard.\u201d\n\u2014Was I an asshole? Edgy needs to learn that biting, licking, and spitting on people isn\u2019t right! He never gets in trouble for it, and I thought I\u2019d teach him a lesson\u2014", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cdX4hUaGPOD9rqSqRXv4mlogc0J25Pk6", "post_id": "af5u3u", "action": {"description": "crushing on my best friend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for crushing on my best friend?", "text": "Now to start off, let me say that this isn't a post to get validation, I seriously want to know if I'm being an asshole, or at least, anything less than OK. It's also important to note that nobody has ever called me an asshole over this, it's just something that I myself am worried about.\n\nAnyway, I'm in love with my best (female) friend. I myself am male. During this story, which is still going on right now, we're around ages 16-20.\n\nI became friends with her because I had a crush on her. As soon as I felt it was socially appropriate, which was about 4-5 months into our friendship, I told her that. She said OK, but has basically dodged saying anything about reciprocation. Now, I'm not a dumbass, I know that \"not saying yes\" means \"no\". So I don't make any illusions of her being in love with me. She's basically trying to not hurt my feelings.\n\nHowever, despite this, I'm still in love with her. I don't have any issue with her avoiding the question, and I know that she, currently, isn't interested in a relationship (With anyone). Knowing this, I try to avoid bringing it up to much and try to just stay mostly friends. But I can't get rid of my love for her. I've told her this as well, or at least, I think it was clear from what I've said.\n\nThe big problem is that my wishes for the friendship and hers obviously don't align perfectly. I'd like to have way more contact with her than the other way around. Now, we've devised a situation that mostly works. We meet up at least once a year, possibly more if she wants. I email her every month. And she's 'required' to send me 2 emails per year. Now, when I say emails, these are big emails, usually being 1-3 pages, but I've sent one that was 8,25 pages long. A bit excessive, I know. Plus sometimes, there's some extra contact, like wishing each other a happy birthday, happy new year, all that jazz. \n\nAll in all, I'd say, on average, we meet up around 2 times a year and she emails me a couple of times a year, while I email her every month. This along with little titbits of contact along the way. She has assured me that this isn't something specific to me, and that this is just how she works. This has fluctuated along the years, but so far, the friendship has survived, even despite some (possibly major) issues. I'd obviously like more contact, but I try to respect her wishes.\n\nUnfortunately, I'm not always the best at respecting her wishes and boundaries. Often times I get too excited or too depressed and start messaging her a bit too often. For example, while I can keep myself to 1 email per month the majority of the times, I'd say that in 1/3rd of all months, there would be another email. Sometimes, these weren't too big, like responding back to her when she responded, however, I don't think these emails were a real problem. The real problem emails were the ones I sent out of depression, loneliness, or whatever.\n\nI try to restrain myself from sending those emails, and in later times (As in, the last few months), I've been able to do so (Because I currently don't have anything that would lead to me sending those emails). However, previously, I haven't been so lucky. I went almost a whole year sending her 2 emails instead of 1, where I basically split up the month in 2 segments. Now, after she told me that she didn't like it, because it became too much for her, I stopped immediately. But I still did it for the previous few months, and that's something that I can't take back.\n\nThe even bigger problem however, weren't those emails. They weren't the emails I sent out of depression or other things. The emails I did send out of depression were pretty fucking bad. I'd try to always assure her that it wasn't her fault and that I'm merely venting to her about shit, but it basically became a negative feedback loop for myself. As I've said, currently, I've stopped doing so, and don't plan on doing it again, although I don't know if I'll be able to restrain myself from doing so when the going gets tough again.\n\nAnd currently, we've worked out most of these issues and our friendship still stands. We're prepared to face any new issues that might come our way, and the future looks bright. But my question is, was I an asshole for doing that to her in the past, or was it just a series of unfortunate events?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IqRPI68LnmVJ9kzOeDh3vFOE91xUBm8A", "post_id": "b3j0bx", "action": {"description": "wanting my girlfriend to get rid of this cat", "pronormative_score": 26, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting my girlfriend to get rid of this cat", "text": "We live together in case anyone needs that clarified ahead of time.\n\nSo \"we\" have two cats. They were both brought in at different times and under the guise of fostering them. The first cat I agreed to foster, but while we were doing that she got attached and wanted to keep the cat. \n\nI said no, I don't want a cat, but she persisted so I made the deal parents often make - she can keep the cat if she takes care of it. She agreed to that and so we fully adopted that cat.\n\nIf my girlfriend went home for a holiday or something, I'll feed the cat and clean the litterbox, but otherwise my girlfriend took care of everything which was fine.\n\nRecently she wanted to foster ANOTHER cat, to which I said no we already have a cat and she would become attached to it. She begged and begged, promised it would only be for 2-3 weeks, and I guess I'm a sucker because I eventually said it was fine if it was only for a short while.\n\nFor reference, minor backstory here. My girlfriend is part of a group that takes care of feral cats in the city. She found this cat while it was basically on the brink of death. He needed his tail amputated and almost had to lose a paw as well. She said that we would only be fostering him until his wounds healed and he was off his medication.\n\nAnyway, that was 4 months ago. I wouldn't really care except that the new cat does not get along with our old cat. He keeps attacking her so we have to keep them separated and my girlfriend keeps trying to involve me more and more with the cats.\n\nOur original cat has grown on me but I'm not particularly fond of this new one because he keeps attacking our old one. I keep asking her when we're going to give him up, but it seems pretty apparent she has no intention of doing that.\n\nWe have to keep the cats separated, which usually means I need to bring our old cat into our office (where she basically lives now) so that the new one doesn't get cooped up in the spare bedroom.\n\nAnyway, I'm just tired of this shit. I felt bad for the cat which is why I eventually caved, but I do NOT want to adopt him. I honestly have no idea why my girlfriend got so attached and won't put him up for adoption. If he got along with our current cat I wouldn't care, but he doesn't and it has been FOUR MONTHS of trying to integrate them. It's clearly not going to work, but she won't stop trying.\n\nI basically bother her every night about when she's going to put him up for adoption or give him to a shelter and recently she's been getting pissy with me about how I can say something like that. It gets pretty close to the point of fighting and I just drop it because I don't care enough to get into a real argument about it, but it bothers me enough to vent about it here and check...\n\nSo, am I the asshole for wanting to get rid of this cat?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 25, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 26, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "va28Jv1ZbZ2h91FDT4o3HWJf94wp1Z65", "post_id": "ad8loe", "action": {"description": "thinking my close friend is trying to get between me and my boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For thinking my close friend is trying to get between me and my boyfriend?", "text": "Okay, throwaway account because personal reasons. Anyways I have a dilemma and am not sure what to do about it. \n\nSo my boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year and my close (one might even say best) friend, let's call her Megan, has been making advances that I'm not comfortable with. However, for context, let's start at the beginning.\n\nI introduced her to my boyfriend and they got along pretty well, I thought they were gonna be good friends and things would be good between the three of us. Then he moved around 6-ish months and we're now in a long distance relationship. After that, the red flags started to show up. \n\nShe started tellling me she was jealous of my relationship and that she had gotten romantic feelings for him, my boyfriend and I shut that down. She started talking with him on a practically daily basis, I ignored it because my boyfriend reassured me he was gonna shut down any advances she puts out towards him, and he has. \n\nThe big ones that make me think shit's going down is that she has made it a point to try to invite him to do stuff with her *alone*, ***multiple times*** while I was talking with both of them, I brought up all my concerns to her and she appologized, stating that she was offended I would think that about her. However, I truly believe that I cannot trust her because she has proven that to me through a couple of friends I'm close to that have talked with her, that she says one thing to me, and another thing to them.\n\nI guess I just want to ask if I'm an asshole for thinking there's something there when there might not be?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EuDADyw2liEyc4xQQtBax6yAsC5oagV2", "post_id": "aks0wa", "action": {"description": "quitting my new job", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for quitting my new job?", "text": "I (20F) started a new job at the beginning of December, and for the first 2 weeks it was great. It was new and challenging.\nBut the job is scanning, emailing and filing post. All day. Every day.\nThe hours are long and the pay is fine but I am beyond miserable.\n\nLast week I took a 3 day weekend and on the 3rd day I finally felt more happy than I have in so long.\n\nIn a job I crave interaction with people. I like working an inconsistent pattern of hours and I like being challenged. I get absolutely 0 satisfaction from this job and I have really never been more unhappy working any role.\n\nI am also going to uni in September.\n\nI have pretty much decided that I need to leave this job asap for my mental health and overall happiness but my parents are very upset by it.\n\nMy mum also works for the same company and I am currently living at home (as this job is still not enough to pay rent in London) \n\nShe says she will resent me if I walk away from money as I have previously been dependent on her.\n\nI currently have \u00a31.5k in savings and do not at all plan to rely on her financially.\n\nAITA for walking away from \u201cdecent\u201d money in the pursuit of a more fulfilling job? I am genuinely questioning my own choices idek anymore.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dgnb1xdxJMoLdYzOftrvgmiPMJAhIMjv", "post_id": "abre6h", "action": {"description": "ghosting my ex roommates after they threatened to call campus police over missing plastic cups", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ghosting my ex roommates after they threatened to call campus police over missing plastic cups", "text": "Moved into an on campus apartment with a close friend and acquaintance, then they went batshit when I decided I was leaving.\n\nBefore December, Everything seemed okay with my roommates.  I did get annoyed with how little they cleaned.  But there wasn\u2019t any problem until I told them that I didn\u2019t want a dog in the apartment. I was really vocal about not wanting a dog and within the week they came to me and told me that they wanted to move because I was messy and I didn\u2019t get along with them. I did the dishes and trash everyday, and was the only person consistently picking up the apartment. I will admit that they probably cleaned up after me three times total, in the entire semester that I lived with them. But it\u2019s not like I wasn\u2019t cleaning up after them almost every week either.\nWhen they found out that the housing policy would require them to pay almost 2k each to leave they dropped the subject and decided to stay. I was pissed at this point and decided to avoid being in the apartment as much as possible, and spent a lot of time studying on campus. I also made sure to never touch their messes to establish how little they do around the apartment.\nAfter having my roommates boyfriend of three days move in for the rest of the semester (who was like four years older than us, and cooked just to leave the pots and pans out for the entire day)  and pretty much having petty fights every two weeks I was pretty tired. After another scuffle, I decided to pick up a friends sublease, and dropped the 2k needed to leave and began to pack up my stuff without telling them. I bought the majority of the cleaning supplies and all of the bowls, plates silverware pots and pans so I knew they were going to be stuck without a kitchen with me leaving so unexpectedly. They came home mid-packing session, and they were mad enough to tell me that they were moving in a week, and told me how rude I was for leaving without notice. We fought over the next two days of me packing and leaving. I had to throw away one of my roommates moldy bathroom rugs during the semester, and after \u201cher mom badgered her about it\u201d I ended up forking over 25$ for a bathroom rug that she said was okay to throw out.\nAfter officially checking out of my \u201croom\u201d I rented I got a call from my roommate accusing me of taking her collectible plastic cups, they were 8$ each and she was \u201c missing\u201d ten of them. She wanted me to pay 80$ for them. I genuinely thought that maybe I had grabbed them on accident, and after checking ALL of the stuff I packed I realized that the cups were probably back at the apartment. I tried to tell her I didn\u2019t have them and got into a screaming match with her over the phone. 30 minutes later my mom got a call from their parents claiming That I was going to be reported to campus police for stealing almost 100$ of their babies stuff and a bunch of other stuff I didn\u2019t do. Like sell weed out of the apartment, spent all my money on liquor, and forced my roommates to drive me and my drunk friends around. \n\nSo I ghosted them. The semester hasn\u2019t started yet, but I\u2019m worried I\u2019m going to be taken to small claims court over plastic cups ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9m5j8H9IAgjb8oTCT6mjM49TSjz1pbk8", "post_id": "ahomf5", "action": {"description": "being annoyed the my partner wont watch a Film with me", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed the my partner wont watch a Film with me", "text": "throw away acc as she knows my reddit acc \n\n​\n\nMy frustration starts when IT came out a while back as she really wanted to watch it and wanted me to go with her. she pestered me about it for weeks until I caved and went with her. now I usually hate horror films they've neve interested me in the slightest and usually leave me with pretty bad nightmares ( if they're actually scary that is ) and slashers make me feel ill I'm not a big gore person. \n\n​\n\nall in all when the film finished she asked if I liked I to wish I said it was ok\n\n​\n\nflash forward to 2019 the new DBZ Broly film is going out and I don't have many friends who like that sort of stuff so I ask my Gf if she will go with me as I don't want to go alone cos it fucks with my anxiety to do things like that alone. she say no as she doesn't like DBZ. to which I replied I didn't want to watch IT but still went with you. but as I said it was Okay that meant I liked the film and she doesn't have to go with me to this one as she doesn't like it.\n\n​\n\nhonestly I know its not that big a deal I'm just a little upset that I watched a film I didn't want to but she wont do the same for me. so AITA for being annoyed at this double standard ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "enzg25gmUL29MR07iLYKi6bCE2h692u8", "post_id": "b53wt4", "action": {"description": "accidentally telling my family that we are preggos", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "WIBTA for accidentally telling my family that we are preggos?", "text": "Partner wants me to wait to end of the 1st trimester before we tell our respective families. I'm cracking up at not being able to pass on the good news.\n\nWe've spoken about it so we both understand each others point of view and I've reluctantly agreed not to say anything. \n\nIt's damn hard for me to be quiet, so strangers of Reddit, WIBTA if I accidentally let it slip?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "C9ZEtyJ9F8mmcnDgCPwwsuDWpgh4EREE", "post_id": "aaruan", "action": {"description": "thinking my boyfriend is shit at art and for wanting to discourage him from doing a career in animation", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for thinking my boyfriend is shit at art and for wanting to discourage him from doing a career in animation?", "text": "AITA for thinking my boyfriend is shit at art?\n\n​\n\nMy boyfriend has been pursing a career in art and animation for practically the entirety of our relationship (6+years) and has gotten nowhere. He went to a fancy art school where he worked his ass off for his degree (went to community college first, worked the entire time he was at school, went to food closets, was homeless on and off living out of his car, ect). After we both graduated, we moved in together and I went to get my masters and he went to work in food service. He's been stuck on the idea that he HAS to do animation and hes just waiting for his big break.\n\n​\n\nProblem is. He sucks at it.\n\nHe hasn't even made an animation!\n\nYeah his school sucked so much, they didn't even have students make a demo reel. His story ideas are terrible, his artwork is terrible, and it feels like he's done nothing since graduating. I feel terrible for thinking this way and feel like a total asshole for trying to persuade him to seek another career path.\n\n​\n\n**My Side:** He won't tell me why he wants to do animation specifically (not even the generic, \"I want to make an impact on the world\" kind of thing) and complains that the world is out to get him (often saying he suffers from \"bad luck\" or \"god hates me\" when I feel like it's his life choices hes making). He complains that the animation industry is cutthroat and works you to the bone and how awful it is. He also complains that art is so hard for him and his hand physically hurts when he even thinks about doing something creative. This all prompts me to say, \"If its so terrible and you complain about it so much.... well then why do you want to do it?\" and he goes on and on about how he wants to create a cartoon series and that he wants to put his degree to use. Or he comes up with a different disingenuous answer every time I ask.\n\n​\n\nRecently, he started working part time so that he could work on his art more... but he hasn't really done much. He thought he could open commissions up to make some money on the side... but no one has even messaged him about it and its been months. He has no online following and complains about that too. I'm having to pay for a lot of things because he only makes enough to pay his bills and rent (I buy food, pay for any kind of date, pay for getting his car fixed, pay him for gas to get to work, ect). I honestly don't mind if he was happy but he hates this job too, and it sounds like it's not the right fit. He will not seek another job or pick up more hours because he thinks he is not qualified for anything outside food service and retail (not true), he doesn't want to do any more schooling or training for another career path, and he wants his next job to be an animation job and that's that.\n\n​\n\nHe is also dead set on moving in with his former roommate that lives in LA (I really dislike him and think hes super sexist and a general man-child) so they can make their own TV show and pitch it to studios. Problem is, I think this friend is just as depressed and hasn't done shit either so I don't know how moving in with him would help. But he claims they have brilliant ideas (that I think are bad) and he needs to be in the same room to \"bounce ideas off each other.\" (Skype is out of the question apparently??)\n\n​\n\nThis is stressful for me because he won't say when he is going to move, wont make any plans for it, has no savings for it, and doesn't even know how long he will live out there (six months?? a year??? indefinitely????). I'm trying to find my own way in the world as well and it just feels like his ideas are just outlandish based on his skill. It's making it hard to move forward in life and make plans for the future together. We are close to our thirties now and while we are both the definition of late bloomers, I'm kind of tired of this.\n\n​\n\nI am by no means a saint. I have had to change my career path and tried many different jobs out. I'm not doing a job that matches my degree. I've volunteered at a lot of different places and come at my career goals in non conventional ways. I've learned a lot from all of these experiences about what I want to do with my life. When he looks at jobs, if they aren't animation he wont even both applying. He's worked food service, retail, and that's it and only because he needed a paycheck. Never had an internship, never volunteered anywhere, nothing. I asked him if he would like to volunteer someplace now he's working part time and he said, \"no that will just take time away that I could be spending drawing.\"\n\n​\n\nHe gets very angry and stubborn with me if I mention pursuing a different career path, no matter how gently I say it, and it has been the basis for almost all of our fights.\n\n​\n\n**His side:** He often feels like I dislike his art and am not supportive of him. He says that these things take time and he is working on artwork and has made lots of progress. He also says he is applying for lots of jobs and he goes to (expensive!) animation conventions to network with people and recruiters for jobs. He spent $500 on an online skype tutoring course with a well known animator and really hit it off with the guy. He thinks that I just really don't get along with his old roommate and wishes that I did because then we could all move in together. LA is the place to be if you want to do animation and no other city would provide him as many opportunities. Me not supporting him is making things worse in his eyes and he wants me to be a supportive partner.  He blames the world around him and says his lack of money makes it hard to do anything. His computer is 4+years old now and makes it hard to even run photoshop on and that's why he doesn't like to animate or do art as much. He also says it takes him a long time to get his creativity flowing and it takes him too long to draw anything. If he just had more talent, he would have a job already (exact wording from him). He gets distracted while drawing and loses track of time (especially in the morning) making it hard to find time in the day to do anything productive.\n\n​\n\nHe does suffer from depression and has since childhood. I had to push\\* him to go to therapy. He had a lot of negative experiences in the past and was on a crap load of medications that really messed with his affect. Since in therapy he's moved forward a bit, but his therapist is mostly about dealing with his stress and teaching meditation techniques. I also recently pushed him to get medical insurance and see a psychiatrist (and a doctor for the first time since dating). He got diagnosed with ADHD and is somewhat interested in pursuing medication, but is still hesitant because he \"doesn't want to become dependent on a pill.\" and, \"I've made it this far without medication, I don't want to lose the coping mechanisms I've learned to deal with it.\"\n\n\\*By push I mean looking up therapists/medical plans and basically laying it out for him or giving him a script of what to say on the phone when he chooses who to call. As with most things regarding his self care, it's a struggle to get him to do it but once he does he appreciates it and is thankful. I know you can't make anyone get help if they really don't want to.\n\n​\n\nI am currently looking into doing couples therapy with him.\n\n\\------------------------------------------------------\n\nHe has many redeeming qualities (like being a wonderful supportive partner to me) and is such a smart brilliant person with so many skills. He's great at math, science, and all kinds of other subjects! But his determination and constant failure to get into the animation field have been a strain on our relationship. I feel like a huge asshole because instead of being supportive, I want to discourage him! When he draws me things or asks me to look at his latest work, I just feel upset because it's terrible and he won't get a job with his skills the way they are now.  I understand he is going through some heavy depression, but he's just so stubborn. AITA?\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yfYEOYYq7KoJUjYtvNZNbGCF0diQQVZA", "post_id": "a1k59k", "action": {"description": "not doing more", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not doing more", "text": "I was taking the train home from university in the evening. At some point, a guy, who was talking on the telephone, seated himself beside me. At first, I didn\u00b4t really acknowledge him but after some time I looked over and glanced at his phone (which I normally wouldn\u00b4t do and I don\u00b4t know why I did it in that moment). \n\nTo my surprise and also shock he had taken a photo of the girl who was sitting opposite of him. Even worse, he scrolled through his photo library and there were several more pictures of strange girls on trains, which he obviously took without them noticing. At first, I wasn\u00b4t certain on what to do and when he got up to sit somewhere else (for whatever reasons) I informed the girl that I don\u00b4t want to scare her but the creepy dude who was just sitting here made a photo of her. She thanked me and when she got off he, fortunately, didn\u00b4t follow.\n\nNow my question is: am I the asshole for not confronting him? I\u00b4m a woman myself and not very strong and to be honest I was just scared of that man. I even checked to make sure that he was not getting off at the same stop as me. And now I\u00b4m not sure if the thing I did was right or not.\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PxjRYZLIqDYqkaqM9vZ9tsiW2vvL9hCw", "post_id": "aqgp9b", "action": {"description": "blowing up", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For blowing up?", "text": "My ex is still living with me, didn't want to put him out on the cold. I had a package delivered today. He was going to be home before me so I asked if he would grab it from the front hall. When I came in through the back, I asked if he grabbed it, he said he didn't see it. I went down the front stairs and there it was a white bag with my name on it. A 12x12 shipping bag, right on the radiator under the mail boxes. I came up stairs grumbling because he can't be counted on for anything. He still hasn't paid but half of the rent, eats my food and offers nothing in return, when he is bothered to help clean he does less than a half assed attempt, often needing to be redone the same day. Well because I was grumbling he blasted the TV, I said \"turn it down little boy.\" He threw something at me and then it was on... I let loose with a whole bunch of shit I've been holding back. Also, told him that since he ain't paid but half the months rent he can be gone by Sunday. He said that ain't going to happen, I made it clear I want him gone now. He called me names and then I really blew up. Telling him I was sick of his drunk attempts at sex, limp dick, drug habit, crappy kitchen hygiene (he thinks hes a chef) and on and on. The reason we are broke up is his lies and drug use. Maybe I am an asshole, but shit he's such a dick to me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2Tezgky1W6vOZiCfqz1HEw6XO4CqZwj0", "post_id": "9u26be", "action": {"description": "wanting to confront this guy for being touchy with my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting to confront this guy for being touchy with my girlfriend?", "text": "So my girlfriend was at a party with all of our friends, but I had work so I didn\u2019t go. She texts me later that night that one of the guys there put his arm around her and she put a stop to it real quick. To be honest I didn\u2019t think much of that because it could have been a totally friendly gesture but she ends up explaining that he tried hugging her a lot and when he did it was like extra tight or something (he was drunk btw). Point is, she said she felt uncomfortable. This didn\u2019t sit well with me, so I told her I\u2019d talk to him. I knew she wouldn\u2019t want me to get into an altercation so I told her I was not looking to fight this kid but rather tell him to calm down with it because it made her uncomfortable and I don\u2019t want anyone making my girlfriend feel that way.  Even though I said that, she still insisted that I keep my mouth shut because she\u2019ll feel awkward around him and it\u2019ll make her upset if I do. Honestly now I feel like taking to this kid regardless of how she\u2019s gonna feel because I don\u2019t think it should matter if she feels awkward. He made her uncomfortable, and that shouldn\u2019t just go unnoticed. If I talk to this guy about it, am I an asshole for being selfish and not caring about her? Been pondering this for a while now.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vJDSZzyfv6nZ1UCWOnigWHl10EG0F1VM", "post_id": "9ycm6f", "action": {"description": "expecting my friend to pay me back for the 2 drinks I got him", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for expecting my friend to pay me back for the 2 drinks I got him?", "text": "So last night at the club my friend asked me to get him a beer and I did assuming he would pay me back for it. Like an hour later when I asked him to send me the 5 bucks for it he said he won't cuz it's common courtesy to buy your friend a beer. Then later on that night my same friend asked me to get him a shot of brandy and I agreed since he literally promised to pay me back for it this time. When I texted him last night to e-transfer me the money for just that one shot he said fuck no so AITA for thinking it's principle he pays me back or should I just demand he covers my drinks next time?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cB0iMwBZICTC0ibApgai2HBczvVEXF2U", "post_id": "ba5ymu", "action": {"description": "asking them to make their kids stop screaming", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "WIBTA if i asked them to make their kids stop screaming?", "text": "Short term post, idk mow much attention this will get in the time frame needed, but here goes:\n I'm staying at a hotel, we got in at like 3 am from a long road trip, we spent over $115 just to get half a night of sleep at a clean, peaceful, comfy, quality hotel with a decent breakfast, and they put us in the room next to the pool. So far so good. \n\nBUT. From about 9am onwards (and today is Saturday I might add), this group of like 5 or 6 kids have been running around the pool literally SCREAMING. And the adults were using their yelling voices too. It's happy yelling but like damn. At the top of the lungs is not necessary. This has been going on for at least an hour now. We can't be the only people here who were woken up by their noise. And I've never seen a group of kids just scream nonstop like they are, and the adults join in, at a nice hotel like this.\n\nI'm afraid to confront them because if the parents are screaming too, they will probably just get angry and tell me to stop ruining their vacation or whatever.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4Sc9yJFlAnyW06Fqo7pe27O9pI8CId1N", "post_id": "a19hco", "action": {"description": "asking my so to make FIL stop \"helping\" in our house", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking my SO to make FIL stop \"helping\" in our house?", "text": "Sorry, this is long and maybe trivial for many people. Additionally english is not my first language and Iam on mobile.\n\nMy SO of 3,5 years and I have bought a house together. It is from around 1960 and although the former owner took care of it, it is ofc in no way up to an usual standard a house should have today. I was very happy about buying our future home and although I wasn't too much looking forward to spend all my time working in the house, I was very positive about the whole situation, as my FIL offered his help. He has helped us before with stuff in our present flat and it always worked out decent.\n\nSo we bought the house and started with the usual...getting rid of the old stuff, ripping of wallpapers etc. And here is when the shit started. FIL and MIL got a key from my SO and started working without one of us being there. Sounds nice? Not for me. They decided about the stuff they did and I absolutly hated that they were doing it without us there. I tried to stop it the nice way like \"Hey, you musn't work here while we are not helping, let's do this later. \" but the did not get it. I asked my SO to make them stop, but he didn't. I told him, that this will lead to problems, but he shrugged it off. Here it is to mention, that he really, *really* adores his parents, they are the highest standard for him in whatever decision, a thinking I myself cannot understand, although Iam close to my father as well.\n\nIt went on...every decision we made was declined as \"impossible\" when it meant to do some more work to do. FIL only wanted to do less than absolutly necessary...e.g. not getting new electricity and so on. He would show me (and just me, as he is sure it is only me who does not want the stuff he tells) every damn socket to prove we do not have to change anything. We still did and his help got less.\n\nBut: Stuff still got worse, but just so lightly, that I can't even explain properly. My SO, who is a (sometime too) lovely and trusting person does not even notice most of the time. FIL just won't listen. Whenever I tell what we planned and have to do he would make it just the other way, driving me nuts.\n\nI know Iam not the most patiently person in the world and due to being very strict oftens many people cannot handle this. I feel sad for my SO having to deal with this, and he straight told me today when I asked him (again) to talk to his father that \"You are forcing me to do stuff I do not want to do.\" while he cannot understand that his parents are in my opinion incredible rude and even when they try to be helpful it is not helful in any way when we can never be sure if something will be made as we wish. And if I say \"we\" it is mostly me, as he will believe every damn word his father says, even if there is proof that it is as wrong as it can be.\n\nI told him to talk to his parents again. I cannot stand this anymore, Iam handling far more than I can, working a fulltime job and doing every single thing by myself, as I know that otherwise it will be done in a different way as wished. Additionally my SO has not the slightest idea how to renovate a house (neither have I, but Iam learning and reading stuff every night for many month by now) and he really sucks at crafting. Due to the high pressure Iam even less patient and we fight a lot, what is pretty uncommon for us. It sucks and I fucking hate it and the whole situation and I know that my bad mood is most responsible for our fights. I told him today again, that we need the help, that I would really appreciate his fathers help, but only if he does it as we wish with no exceptions. My SO does not want to do this. It might sound trivial, but the conflict in the whole situation is really strong and Iam even afraid for our future. So know Iam asking myself...\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "e1zsvCmqvJWLCCLU2B1cf7clVjTTnYgP", "post_id": "av34h5", "action": null, "title": "AITA My friend thinks I'm a spoiled bitch, I think she's a jealous one", "text": " We've been friends forever. I come from a pretty well off family, she does not. However, she's like a sister to me. She comes on all family vacations, gets all kinds of gifts, my parents even bought her a new car.\n\nMy life has been significantly easier than hers. School came easy to me, and I graduated without any debt- my great-grandpa paid for school as long as I maintained a 3.8GPA. I moved out at 18, whereas she still lives with her parents at 26\n\nShe's always struggled in classroom settings. She's over $50k in debt. Her parents want her to move out, but she can't afford it. I offered to clear out a room in my place so she could live with me paying whatever she could, but she turned me down (she has a dog that I'm very allergic to, and she won't leave him with her parents).\n\nNow, I work for the family business that has been passed down 4 generations. I run the front office, managing customers, contracts, etc. When she graduated she couldn't find a well paying job anywhere  My parents offered her a job working for them in their warehouse, paying twice what they were looking to hire someone for. She accepted, and since she started working here, our relationship has fallen apart.\n\nI've been going through some serious personal and medical issues and have depression - I haven't been the most active friend, but I'm doing my best. We stopped hanging out on the weekends, only talking and catching up at work. \n\nAt work she makes a lot of mistakes, and my parents get frustrated with her. I always try to come to her defense because her intentions are good. She wants to quit working in the warehouse and get an office job, but she's angered every customer she's spoken to, and there are no current openings. She's starting to blame her mistakes on me not giving her orders quick enough.  I have slowed down on getting orders entered in due to said medical condition, but it's only ever an extra 30 minutes or so. It's never long enough to impact what she does.\n\nShe has started to get very resentful of me. She told my parents that I'm not depressed, I'm just an attention-seeker because I have nothing to be sad about. She told my boyfriend that I was a life-sucking leech and he should break up with me because I'm spoiled and will ruin his life. She has been trash talking me to everyone we know. The only reason I know this is because everyone keeps confronting me over how much of a bitch I've become. All this while she pretends to be nice to my face.\n\nAt this point I no longer want to be friends with her.  I know that I'm in a very fortunate position compared to her, but with her attitude I'm just done with her. I know that if I stop being her friend, my parents will not support her the same way they have been - she'll just be an employee who makes a lot of costly errors and owes them a lot of money, and will probably be fired in weeks. Knowing that, AITA if I stop being her friend anyway?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 54, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 7}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 56, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lDaJnAFbjAxYxJZoBTNmiv3ty5EkMxSD", "post_id": "am1nox", "action": {"description": "calling out my coworker", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for calling out my coworker?", "text": "TLDR at the bottom.\n\n​\n\nSo at work, my coworker relieves me nearly everyday at change of shift. Normally we have a pretty good relationship and talk for a bit before switching. Usually its to vent on other coworkers who have causes us stress the last time we saw each other (usually the same people.) But today was different.\n\nToday they come into work and notice that another coworker who normally works in the back, is working out front where everyone can see. (Big lobby area, the guy has a stand out for a group today) and my coworker just starts railing on this dude. \"Oh god, fatso's out of the kitchen. I can't stand him.\" Now normally I understand - the dude is hard to get along with at work because he's head chef and is demanding of everyone he talks to. However when its not busy or when he is just hanging out (rarely) the guy has always been pleasant with me so in my mind: Pleasant dude/demanding when working. I can live with that.\n\nHowever I don't think my coworker has ever just chatted with the guy, except in work mode. And they are loudly complain about the chef working in the lobby today. Now the lobby's big, he probably can't hear them talk but they are making no effort to conceal it. In fact they're going on and on so much I only get a chance to say one sentence- \"I think you're overstepping.\"\n\nThey shut up. Like on the spot. Now normally they are chatty no matter what but this was an instant shift. They didn't talk to me besides \"Yes, No,\" or \"okay\" until I packed up and left. Reeeaaally different from any other interaction with them. Personally I'm thankful in case chef was going to overhear at some point later in the day when I wasn't there.\n\nTLDR: Coworker was complaining loudly about fellow coworker who was working in the same room (probably couldn't hear at the time) and I told them they were overstepping without explaining myself. Coworker got visibly upset with me and refused to talk to me till I left.\n\nSo specifically- AITA for the way I spoke? WITA for not properly conveying why I disagreed, seeing as I only said one sentence? (But it worked)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PE4qDfHJ8TNgDDZA6UfWtl8pKNPi1W2G", "post_id": "b9xvix", "action": {"description": "having no sympathy for the death of my brother's childhood friend and refusing to console him", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for having no sympathy for the death of my brother's childhood friend and refusing to console him?", "text": "Recently my brother's childhood friend he grew up with died. The guy was always in trouble with the law. He had a wrap sheet probably 10 miles long. Few days ago, police show up at the house to arrest him on outstanding warrants, child neglect, and lots of other stuff. He ran back inside the house after announcing he was going to get a gun. He was shot by police and later died at the hospital.\n\nAnyways, this guy used to live with my family growing up. He was a criminal from a very young age. He stole hundreds of dollars from my parents including electronics.  When he lived with us, he did mean things to me (I was around 12 at the time.) I would be afraid to sleep because he would put random objects like erasers, paperclips, pencils, even food in my mouth. I would wake up with this stuff in my mouth. Always surprised I never choked on it. There were other incidents where he would barge into the bathroom while I was using it and would proceed to laugh and make fun of me.\n\nI never told my parents because to them, kids always lie and make stuff up (my sister used to make shit up all the time so therefore we were all liars.) So I always kept quiet about it. Well I recently told my parents what went on and they both gave me this super shocked look like I was making it up. My mom thinks I should be sympathetic towards the man's death but I honestly feel nothing. I told her that I didn't think people deserved to be shot, but his death wasn't a surprise to me. \n\nI also don't have much to do with my brother as he is a criminal himself. Mom is upset I refuse to console or talk to him about it. I don't allow him to have my phone number because he can get pretty annoying (asking for money, stuff, etc.) He's been asking my parents for my number and I will be pretty upset if they give it out. I'm pretty sure they think i'm this snobby bitch. Am I the asshole for not caring?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MUbk1oB1OlK0VpCJ7oW1a4tI0kiNXwS1", "post_id": "aq1kfu", "action": {"description": "kicking my mom out since she can't afford the rent", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for kicking my mom out since she can't afford the rent?", "text": "My mom and Dad have been together for 29 years and things got rocky between them about 15 years ago. She has accused my dad of cheating, yelled at random women for sleeping with him in public with no proof, and even threatened to throw acid at a woman receiving financial help from my dad since they live in a third world country and insulin is too expensive to purchase for their 8 year old diabetic son. My father has left many times throughout my childhood only to return a day later because he knew that if he left, I'd become homeless with my mother. \n\nThree nights ago, my father decided he had enough and left her for good. This means, that somebody needs to cover the rent - and I warned her since he left that she would have to find housing since playing the rent would require a roommate and said roommate would most likely refuse to house my mother rent free. She barely acknowledged my warning - muttering under her breath or changing the subject by flipping the script and saying that she couldn't believe her own daughter was kicking her out (I am in my 20s by the way). \n\n I managed to find a roommate that has taken a tour of the place and agreed to move in AND PAY HIS PORTION OF THE RENT! I updated my mom on the news and informed her that he would be moving in by the end of the month - meaning she has until then to pack up and leave. \n\nAlso, the whole time this has been happening I've been recommending to her to talk to my brother who is a single father with two kids and a demanding full time job to talk to him about moving in since she babysits his kids 6 out of 7 days anyway. He's in the middle of a custody battle too so my father and I agree that her moving in would be beneficial to both of them. \n\nSome quick notes to add more context: \n\n- I have a dog so finding an apartment is harder. \n- I live in NYC so finding a 2 Bdrm that accepts dogs and is in my budget makes it even harder. \n- The rent at my current apartment is way below my budget.\n\nIt's a tough situation so I really don't know if I'm being the asshole or not. Any advice is also appreciated. Thanks. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LPe0FFVZWO3zobd27nuqIYOZnsNozX5I", "post_id": "ac7n8g", "action": {"description": "being mad at how my girlfriend treats my dog", "pronormative_score": 228, "contranormative_score": 33}, "title": "AITA for being mad at how my girlfriend treats my dog?", "text": "I (21m) and my St Bernard, Moose (3m) have a super close relationship. He is my best friend, and I've lived on my own with him since I got him. He's really well behaved, rarely barks, doesn't beg for food, goes to the bathroom when he's told to and lets me bathe him regularly. He's a really good boy. \n\nI've been with my girlfriend (23f) for four months. She still lives with her parents, so naturally we spend a lot more time at my place than hers. All is good, I love spending time with her. Moose, not so much. When my girlfriend (let's call her Julia) started coming over, Moose would sit at my feet while she was around, just to be protective. If she sat next to me on the sofa, he would sit the other side. I let Moose go on the sofa and he sleeps in a dog bed in my bedroom, he doesn't get on the bed or anything. The problems started as soon as Julia started sleeping over. On the first night, Moose got into his bed when we did, and Julia shouted at him to get out of the room. I asked her why she was doing it, and she said she didn't want him there while we were sleeping. I wasn't really happy about it, firstly because she shouted and secondly, she's new to Moose and having this sort of behaviour around him could really throw him off - a new person suddenly changing his routine and shouting.\n\nHowever, I dropped it and we agreed on a compromise that I'd leave the door open so Moose could come back after she'd gone to sleep. The problems continued. I explained to her the next day that, in order to make Moose sleep somewhere else, it would take some time and he would have to learn she's not a threat. She begrudgingly agreed. \n\nNow, she started being nasty to Moose in other ways. She wants him off the sofas, which I don't agree with, especially as she doesn't live here. She has told me she's jealous of the affection I give Moose, but I feel I'm affectionate with her too. She doesn't give Moose treats ever when I ask her to, saying she doesn't want him to get bigger, and she's actually smacked him twice for bad behaviour, which I am firmly against. I've never had to smack Moose the whole time I've had him and I feel it's not her place to just do that. He was also really sad, as dogs are when they feel guilty. This just adds to the list of things she's done. I'll list them all below to summarise:\n\n1. won't give him treats when I ask.\n2. ignores him when he comes to her for love.\n3. wants him to sleep in the kitchen, despite me saying it's too cold. \n4. smacked him twice.\n5. says she's jealous of him.\n6. claims he's annoying despite having three big dogs at her parents' house that she loves.\n7. screams at him to be quiet the second he barks.\n8. feeds him half as much as I do (I don't let her feed him any more) because she thinks he's too big. \n\nSo,  WIBTA if I told her this needs to stop? I've already told her to ignore him completely if she's going to be horrible to him, but she doesn't listen. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 30, "OTHER": 225, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 228, "WRONG": 33}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zfnxzNU7VdiE57bWcEmiauTdpM8MSt1g", "post_id": "artaxm", "action": {"description": "possibly getting the old lady upstairs dogs taken away", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For possibly getting the old lady upstairs dogs taken away", "text": "To start i'll just say that i love dogs, and to be honest i'm not sure if i did the right thing or not and it's been killing me  \n\n\nA neighbor of mine came to me for help, she locked herself out of her apartment and couldn't get in, i've very rarely seen her leave her home, she's an older lady and she has two small dogs. she asked me to help her and get in through a window. So i got a ladder got inside no problem, but then i noticed something, the floor was filthy, i don't remember what the dogs looked like but i think i blocked some of this out. i don't think they were malnourished or anything though. I remember seeing a lot of shit and feces, a lot of it all across the floor and in big piles. she loves these dogs but i ended up calling the humane society, i'm not sure what's worse, the fact that i was living under this or what. but i'm devastated that i did the wrong thing, I don't want to hurt her.   \n\n\nI've had mice in my apt and i think it's because of her, i just don't know what to do, I'm scared she'll know it was me, since i was possibly the only one in her apt in quite some time. I'm not sure what to do, i already called the humane society but i just want to know if I am an asshole for calling them.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "T1gtGGxdC8xOpKDeJ5Co9tZMbf8CwwxM", "post_id": "afwlkv", "action": {"description": "refusing to work overtime", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to work overtime?", "text": "Background: I'm Vietnamese. Lunar New Year is approaching, which probably is our biggest holiday of the year. The need of human resources is extremely high, so I took the job at a cinema at the checking post as my part time. Note that I work full time at Lotte Mart (a shopping center similar to Walmart) at the receiving dept. My full time job is very time-consuming and exhausting, as we often have containers of goods coming in and out, and there are only 5 staffs in my department, 2 of which only deal with papers and one is our supervisor, which means he rarely gets involved in the receiving process. Me being constantly exhauted is inevitable.\n\nTherefore, when it came to my part time job, I have stated very clearly to my manager that I could only stay for an extra of 15 to 20 minutes at max, partly because I needed rest and partly because my place was about 30 minutes away from the cinema. She was ok with it at first.\n\nBut things didn't go well. She constantly asked me to stay extra time to clean things up, although she has 5 or 6 staffs (who work full time) AND floor janitors to do so. I declined her politely every time, but I always clean up my post spotless before taking my payment and leaving, which also took me 5 to 10 minutes. She wasn't happy with it and insisted that I work overtime or she would pay me nothing. When I asked her if I was going to be paid for my extra time, she said it was my \"contribution to the cinema for being very generous\". I was paid 15$ for a 3 hours shift (which is reasonable considering our standard) and because of that she forced me to work 1 more hour \"to match my payment\". I'm like \"screw you, I'm done\" about a week after. She then told her staffs (one of them told me later) that I was \"asky, selfish and lazy\", and claim my work to be \"not worthy of what I was paid\", although I haven't heard a single complain from my customers.\n\nTell me, what would you do if you were in my shoes?\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "roXCn9IdWzy2IH01Ndduo2yn2d5sWP4s", "post_id": "aphmhd", "action": {"description": "giving a woman a taste of her own behavior", "pronormative_score": 301, "contranormative_score": 36}, "title": "Aita for giving a woman a taste of her own behavior", "text": "I'm sitting at the airport and this older lady sat down right next to me and took her iPad out and starts watching a show quite loud. \n\nTo me this is a foul in public however I just ignored it and put my earbuds in. \n\nAfter a while I made a phone call using my earbuds. Literally 30 seconds into my call she interrupts me and asks me to quit being rude and talk quietly so she can hear her show.\n\nI was as polite as I could and said that not only herself but everyone for about 10 feet and I could hear her show word for word and that making a phone call isn't rude but watching a show on your device full volume in a public waiting area is actually very rude and that is why people use headphones. \n\nShe said she has every right to enjoy her show without being interrupted by a rude and selfish phone call or having to use headphones. \n\nI said she was absolutely right and I am completely wrong, please enjoy your show while we  wait for the plane and I will do  the same.       I then proceeded to take out my iPad and open ice cubes good cop bad cop music video and play it full volume on my device without my earbuds. \n\nI have never seen someone storm off so mad. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 300, "EVERYBODY": 22, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 301, "WRONG": 36}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9Qf1DHLlHexIy3xddVurlnSDT5gbvXEd", "post_id": "ap2ely", "action": {"description": "not wanting to stay at my moms house", "pronormative_score": 32, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to stay at my moms house?", "text": "So, this scenario has a bit of a long backstory.  When I was 14 I dated a guy who we will call B who was 16 for about 2 years. We were both young and dumb, but he was younger and dumber. We got in fist fights, he got really physical once and tried to choke me, he would gaslight me about things, and pressure me into sexual encounters. We broke up after i found out he had cheated on me and he threatened to kill me for several months afterwards (he was over seas so he couldnt. But he would call/text threats all the time/constantly ). After that I got together with my now husband and we were happy. B began to continue to gaslight me for years, using his relationship with my mother to force himself into my life. Him and my mom would show up at my work/my mom would say \"give him another chance\" etc etc for years. I finally set boundaries with my family when they \"adopted\" him and call him my brother now. :/ now. My mom is pretty much my only family left, i wanted to go visit (*1200 miles away ), and found out hes living with her.  My mother and the extended family there doesnt seem to understand that i dont want to visit if hes there. I offered to get a hotel and visit them away from the hoyse but They keep saying im being paranoid and \"hes changed, dont be an asshole\".... I feel a little like my mom is choosing him over me and it pisses me off.  AITA", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 32, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 32, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uKB3kIqnLGZ8M2HJVY1TnBnNbeyCdoaG", "post_id": "b4bys4", "action": {"description": "asking why my SIL wanted a blank check from my mother", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking why my SIL wanted a blank check from my mother?", "text": "AITA really for offering to transfer funds they claim my mother \"owes\" them?  I have managed all of my parents' finances for 15 years.  Ten years ago, my father passed.  Last year, my brother asked me to take her checkbook because she was having trouble remembering how to write checks.  I had seen many checks in my SIL's handwriting over the last few years.  SIL asked me to \"leave a blank check at mom's house\".  AITA for asking why?  Then I offered to pay SIL electronically - turns out that when they \"take\" her to dinner on Saturday nights, they keep a running total of what she owes them, then write a check to themselves every few months.  They are wealthy, and these checks are $100 for 4 meals/month from places like Applebee's.  $25 meals at Applebees?  AITA???  They refuse to use PayPal or Venmo, so I told them I'd mail a check.  AITA???", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eJHQVtoabBFfAiSOcveNOHvUa3an85UP", "post_id": "atqhfu", "action": {"description": "telling a cashier he's acting like a little b*tch", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for telling a cashier he's acting like a little b*tch?", "text": "So, my dad drives a big semi truck. Recently, a part of his mirror broke off and he asked me to go get the replacement part for him so he could fix it right when he comes home from work. I have to go to this one specific store to get the part, as they're the only ones who sell OEM parts.\n\n​\n\nI walk into the store and talk to the cashier working there. Told him what i need and the entire time he seems annoyed and like he doesn't want to talk. I had to call my dad as i was talking to him and verify the parts, vin number etc. And he was visibly getting annoyed, telling me theres a lineup behind me. I asked him if he was sure the part would fit, and he tells me \"If it fits, it fits. If it doesn't fit, it doesn't fit\". To this, i got annoyed. I told him to \"stop being a little bitch and tell me if this part is going to fit.\". This made him worked up and he started yelling telling me not to call him a little bitch. He then goes to pick his pack of cigarettes up and leave the store for im assuming a smoke break because he just got called a little bitch by an 18 year old. I told him to have fun smoking his cancer sticks as he was walking out and he yelled at me some more.\n\n​\n\nSo, tell me reddit, am i the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "NlHHqGWqRGcPLihNg5WX8ZnQHnxTyPBD", "post_id": "at2fjj", "action": {"description": "ending free friend rides in my car", "pronormative_score": 131, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for ending free friend rides in my car?", "text": "My friend always hops rides everywhere in my car. I fill up the tank and pick him up at his house and drop him back off safely at home. This past weekend he put 10 in gas because I forgot my purse home and yesterday he asked me back for it. He has ridden in my car hundreds of times without putting gas. Am I an asshole for saying find your way around in the future?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 127, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 5}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 131, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gx7KRar5kncDQBJMQS36mW0gDwrPyqJt", "post_id": "aij3cl", "action": {"description": "wearing african clothing", "pronormative_score": 35, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I wore African clothing", "text": "There is a really cool company called \"no tribe clothing.\" It's African American owned and operated. I also love their clothes. It's African textile clothing, kente cloth like style, very different from European style clothing.\n\nBut, I'm afraid of being called out for cultural appropriation as a mostly white person. I don't want to offend. I just like supporting Black companies, especially if I like their product.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 30, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 35, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CLsrKvsKAetILUwt5MSJ4yv75yF7Soe0", "post_id": "a8lqa9", "action": {"description": "not going to my friends show", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not going to my friends show?", "text": "I have a friend who\u2019s performing his biggest DJ show yet, on NYE (first time a big venue like this etc.). I originally had other plans, then those fell through. So now the tickets are sold out (minus the like VIP tickets which are like $180 before fees which is outrageous).\n\nI feel like a bad friend for not dropping my original plans and going to his show. He\u2019s not like one of my closest friends but a good friend. I\u2019m probably his only friend that\u2019s not going.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ghxdkg7isW2JFAGbgX9lZEUTdS2nMmrB", "post_id": "a5gqmt", "action": {"description": "not providing a vegan option at the last minute", "pronormative_score": 23, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not providing a vegan option at the last minute", "text": "It\u2019s the holiday season and all of my family has been coming to town. To celebrate, me and my father decided to make a steak dinner. We make some basic sides as well(potato salad, Cole slaw, etc.), and we go to serve it. However, the second we start plating up the food, my little sister says \u201cI can\u2019t eat this, I\u2019m vegan\u201d. At this point, she has been home for a couple days and this is the first time any of us has heard anything about this. We say this to her but she just slouches back in her chair and stops engaging with us.\n\nWe tell her that this is the first time we\u2019ve heard about this and that had she told us we would\u2019ve been happy to make a vegan option for her. My dad even offers to heat up some roasted vegetables from the night before, but she stopped responding and has a disposition of anger.\n\nWe aren\u2019t the kind of family that is anti-vegan. In fact, we are happy to accommodate for any dietary restrictions. But this kind of thing was literally brought to our attention at the last second. \n\nI talked quietly to some other relatives that had been spending time with her, and this was news to them as well.\n\nThe way she responded made it seem like I We we\u2019re actively ignoring her wishes, that we hadn\u2019t listened. But to the best of my knowledge, this is the first time any of us have heard about this change. It\u2019s especially hard now that she\u2019s not really talking to us right now.\n\nI think I\u2019d be the asshole if I refused to provide alternate choices, and especially if I was maliciously choosing foods that she couldn\u2019t eat, but I don\u2019t think I\u2019m doing that.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 23, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 23, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2KoioIuMkewfVfQrBMGQg8iemiNW33Br", "post_id": "b5aypx", "action": {"description": "taking my mum's money and playing poker for it. paid back and now she won't talk to me", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA, I took my mum's money and played poker for it. Paid back and now she won't talk to me!", "text": "This was during 2015-2016 when I had a heavy poker addiction. Back then I worked as a cashier and struggled to make enough money. I lived in a small apartment by my self and had almost no savings. A friend of mine told me about online poker and casino games and how much fun he had playing. So I thought why not give it a try \nAt first I didn't find it amusing at all. I lost a couple of dollars and didn't think much about it. But when I got home from work I would always play for a small amount of money and one day a won a big price. (At least for me at that time). I think it was 500 dollar and that made me so happy because I really needed that money. Although I never cashed them out. I just continues playing until I lost it all again. After about a month or so I would put in all of my money to these online casinos and just continue to play until a lost it all. This quickly turned in to a bad habit and because my income was so low I almost didn't have enough cash for food. What i did was pretty stupid I know, but I was still a better option then to take a bunch of loans that would stack up. When I went to my mum's house (which was about every weekend) I would take money from her wallet and from her saving just finance my poker addiction. She had a well paid job and and probably didn't had a hard time just because I took a little money. But this went on for a long time and to this day I feel so bad for what I did. I am now free from the addiction and have a better job and about a week ago I told her all of it. She got really mad and haven't responded or talked to me that last days. \n\nAm i the asshole for taking my mum's money for my poker addiction and pay it back years later?\n\n(Sorry for bad English)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "6HQ40qeL2WF0TvoF4EksrKplb4MS2fxQ", "post_id": "alobbj", "action": {"description": "getting angry that my first contact with my ex gf returning to my city, is her asking to get access to drugs for herself and a fuck buddy", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting angry that my (M28) first contact with my ex gf (F24) returning to my city, is her asking to get access to drugs for herself and a fuck buddy?", "text": "**Tl:DR**  \\- I carry some emotional hurt over how I felt disrespected over my personal faults and mental health issues during the relationship, despite how accepting I was of my ex-gf 's own faults and mental health problems. I get really offended when I feel my ex-gf continues to disrespect me when the first thing she does when arriving back in my city is call me up to get access to drugs for herself and her casual sex friend. AITA for getting angry at her and telling her off?\n\n(Disclaimer - I'm not in the hardcore drug crowd, and neither was she before this)\n\n(Disclaimer 2 - This was a 3 year relationship, so not insignificant considering we are both in our 20's)\n\n(Disclaimer 3 - we both suffer from some form of perfectionism and intermittent depression issues. I also have a few anxiety issues from the perfectionism. Both of us intermittently see psychologists to manage this during our lives)\n\n**Background story**\n\nSo my ex gf and I break up last year. Combination of factors including the  relationship turning long distance, but despite some ugly moments in  the break-up we have intermittent contact, mainly because we have good  understanding of each other. We are both perfectionists, both have high  expectations of ourselves, high drive to try to succeed in our careers,   are both blunt but introverted, despite being both socially amicable.  etc etc - We have good interpersonal chemistry that we both enjoy.\n\nMy personal reason for the break up was the unequal treatment I felt being  with her. Despite being a perfectionist, I was only perfectionist with myself, and I generally didn't judge my ex gf's negative traits. These traits included some pretty toxic behaviors, including threatening  suicide to get attention (according to her psychologist), undermining me  emotionally when arguing eg. name calling, playing on personal fears  (e.g. you will never be successful). She would in general be  hyper-critical, and especially when she was upset she would not care at  all what she said, regardless of how hurtful or damaging it was.\n\nI  tried to over-looked some of her extreme behavior because I deeply  enjoyed her company in other areas. She was highly motivated, and we  were pro-active together in our lives. I had endless conversations with her, and in general we tried to support each others personal development. We shared the burden of each others degree together. She was the person that got me out of my post-graduation funk  and got my ass moving towards actually getting my career going. We even built a little micro-business together.\n\nDespite her intense nature I deeply respected her for these positive traits. I even somewhat admired her for her dedication to improve herself. She was  constantly working extra-curricular activities to further her  experience, and I deeply loved that energy she had.\n\nBut over-time, I generally began to resent, what I saw as a lack of  personal respect for me. She would often be incredibly harsh and unsupportive of my emotional problems that came with perfectionism and  anxiety, my struggle with employment while studying my masters, my  procrastination that came from perfectionism and distaste of not doing a  good job in my assessment. She was incredibly disrespectful to me personal struggles with anxiety and perfectionism while all the time I  never once judged her for her own emotional and mental problems even though I clearly could have.\n\nI  do get some emotional closure for my feelings after 6 months of break-up, as she messages, apologizes and says she feels she was really harsh and unfair  to me in our relationship, and basically feels terrible that she treated me the way she did. This resolves some of my festering emotions and I more or less try to let go of my hurt feelings and move on with my life. \n\n**The lead up to incident**\n\nWe've been talking intermittently about our lives every few months since the break-up, and she's been getting into drinking, and from what I can  gather, a few hard drugs like cocaine and ecstasy. Her life seems to in general  have become more extreme over time. She has become a stripper over the semester break because she said she \"wanted to get a thicker skin and toughen up\".\n\nSo fast-forward to early December, 8 months after break-up, and she's coming back to my  city to gather some personal belongings she has left at my place for the  last 8 months, and we've agreed to meet up on the day she arrives and have dinner. The day before she gets to my city we have one last phone  conversation. The conversation swings wildly from her sending me  potential career jobs in her city that she thinks would be good for me,  some encouragement for doing a blog that I was thinking of starting, and offering to help me out with a struggle I was having with my current  academic dispute i was having with my university....\n\nThis  shifts to her own problems, which include opening up that she  is really upset because she was kicked from one of her stripping  contracts, because she went, took cocaine, and had a foursome with a  wealthy casual sex friend she has been dating, who happened to be  visiting her in the strip club, whom the cameras caught her leaving  with.\n\nAt the end of this conversation during the goodbye, she then also tells me that she loves me???????\n\nThis  conversation both confuses and upsets me. It feels wrong for her to be  over-sharing sharing these weird sexual things with me, I understand she  is having a rough time, but I can't be there for her in this capacity,  especially in the same breadth as telling me she loves me. I don't know what to say, so I just say bye. \n\n**The Incident**\n\nOn  the day she gets to my city, I text her at 6pm, and she's already  drunk. She tells me that she is now staying at the Hilton hotel for a  few days instead of staying for one day as she previously told me, as  she's decided to come with her rich casual sex buddy on a whim, for a conference he is going to in my city. Without so much as a hello how are you, she begins asking me if I know anyone that can get her and her (sex) friend  some cocaine. I say I can't. She then asks me if I have any MDMA (think  ecstasy)  she can have. I can't respond anymore because I'm with a  friend.\n\nShe texts an hour later and asks  again \"so can we have it\", thinking I have these imaginary drugs for her. The expectancy is kind of annoying me. I say don't have any drugs, or know anyone at the moment except  for marijuana. Finally she says they want to buy all the weed I have on me if I want to sell them it.\n\nAt this  point I'm pretty pissed, like she hasn't seen me in months and the first  thing she does is want to use me to get drugs. This feels incredibly disrespectful to me as a person, like I'm some nobody drug dealer she is calling to get a fix,  but also as a former partner, as it's asking me to be involved  and in some way facilitating her fuck buddy, without considering how  inappropriate or uncomfortable that might be for an ex. Like what am I  supposed to do? Drive into the city in the middle of the night, make a  impersonal transaction of weed to her and some fuck buddy, and then just fuck off like some random drug dealer?\n\nI'm  immediately enraged by her for putting me in this trashy and low value  position with her. It brings up all the emotions I felt for how  disrespectful she was to me in the past, ripping open all these old  wounds. In my anger I basically tell her she's basically become the low  value whore she's always wanted to be, how uncool it is that she's  immediately just asked me for drugs and that's it, and how fucked up and  reckless her current life choices have been leading up to this point.   It's like all the poison that she had given to me over the years, all the nasty stuff that I had to endure or tolerate suddenly came out of  me, and I just lashed out in disgust.\n\nShe  doesn't even understand why I'm upset. She starts associating it with  jealousy, or emotions, saying that we are no longer together, and that  she would like me to not judge her for her life choices and just be good  friends. But I'm too angry, I'm too hurt to even think calmly anymore. I  tell her how messed up her current life choices have been in getting  her to this point and that I don't want to know anymore about what  messed up, reckless behavior she is doing.\n\nShe essentially tells me \"Fine. Fuck off\", and blocks me on every social media outlet we share. \n\nI'm honestly infuriated the it seems so blind to her how not ok this must seem. Am I the asshole here for getting upset at her requests?\n\n**Verdict**\n\nI honestly just want to know, am I the asshole here? I know I didn't handle the situation well, but were my feelings on this issue warranted? Was I actually just being unreasonable and her request was normal for someone into drugs? Is this just me struggling to let go of old baggage and I overreacted?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4p5aBuKipNqXpN002v3KP1OnTYJGMQhe", "post_id": "a1436j", "action": {"description": "being angry at my boyfriend for clipping his nails at a bus stop", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being angry at my boyfriend for clipping his nails at a bus stop?", "text": "He literally just stands there hacking away with nails flying everywhere. When I say to him that's disgusting he says it's natural and ok to leave on the ground because it will dissolve back into the surroundings. That's really weird right? Literally in public whilst we wait for the bus", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kjEBeprnfqbfbLw0dnTSUjlmps7ZxLdX", "post_id": "9zb9wr", "action": {"description": "keeping quiet about my friend cheating on his wife", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for keeping quiet about my friend cheating on his wife?", "text": "Its really not my problem and none of my business but recently i startes to feel bad for the girl, she looks so happy but on the other hand my friend is him not her soooo idk ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MryRaxm7fdgcNBH7uytKofYE32sqw93M", "post_id": "b5covr", "action": {"description": "not holding the door open for people", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not holding the door open for people?", "text": "I used to hold the door open for people behind me because I thought it was the polite thing to do.  A while back I was going into Walmart and there was a girl who was that awkward distance away where if she had been just a little bit farther away I would have just went in.  So I stand there holding it open for her like an awkward fuck as she slowly walks up.  When she got to me she gave me a dirty look and went to the door set of doors and opened them and went in.  I\u2019m not sure what the dirty look was about, I can\u2019t see anything wrong with the gesture, but it made it clear that some people just don\u2019t like it.  So since then I don\u2019t hold doors open for people unless they are directly behind me.  I\u2019ve been told by multiple people that it\u2019s rude, but it seems better to play it safe.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wNYg1ztdG5rO9Vpnfa8EhkmEear3Yoel", "post_id": "b0q6u4", "action": {"description": "leaving my friends", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for leaving my friends?", "text": "disclaimer: this is my first post on reddit ever so I\u2019m super sorry if it doesn\u2019t flow too well.\n\nSo I\u2019m a sophomore in high school and I\u2019m a little awkward, so I don\u2019t have a ton of friends. I have a few friends from my student government class, but that\u2019s about it. I do have a couple home schooled friends too that I met playing online video games.\n\nAnyways, over the past few months I have heard some of my friends making plans to do various things together like get lunch, go to movies, just hang out, etc. After I\u2019d seen them do this in front of me without an invite, I decided to ask the girl who usually plans these things, who I\u2019ll call Betty. Betty said that I wasn\u2019t that much fun to hang out with because I'm too awkward to talk to. Ouch.\n\nOnce they know my feelings are hurt, Betty just starts to do it even more frequently. Well one day at lunch, my homeschool friends call me and ask if I want to go get tacos with them. We plan it out on the phone, right in front of my friends. Betty then says that I\u2019m rude for planning so do something without her, and that just for that, I wouldn\u2019t be invited for the next few times they hang out.\n\nAt this point, I\u2019m upset. I\u2019m hindsight, I could\u2019ve just walked away while I was on the phone but that isn\u2019t the point. After that though, I just decided that I would not be hanging out with those kids outside of school and just chill with my homeschooled friends because the are the only ones who like having me around.\n\nNow Betty is calling me a bad friend for not wanting to hang out with them at the few things I\u2019ve gotten invited to. \n\nSorry for the long read, but Am I The Asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rezR7Dt6OD5iMs3jtrOOTgiul0hYt2dt", "post_id": "b24hbb", "action": {"description": "choosing to study in Europe when my father wants me to study in greece", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for choosing to study in Europe when my father wants me to study in greece(my country)", "text": "So i want to study dentistry and my first option was to take exams for a university here. This, as i realised later, was consuming me.. To get in the university here i did a preparation of 2 years intense study and still i could never be sure that i would get in. The thing is that this was not my problem. The same amount of study i will put in Czech republic. But i want to explore new places and be more free. I need this. My mother supports me even if she doesn't want me to leave her. My father won't keep me from going there but he is literally fighting me on this every day.. Also my parents are divorced. I stayed at his house this weekend as normal and he and his wife started a conversation making me feel like sheet and they tried to convince me to stay here. My father is afraid i will ask him more money than i already do and at the same time he goes exlensive vacation with his family and buys a huge tv that costs 600 euros. What is your opinion?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ToM3vYKbBN4WVmhcKBHTVYMFVN2mbM6N", "post_id": "b8ttnj", "action": {"description": "filing multiple noise complaints on my neighbor because of the yelling of their intellectually disabled child", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for filing multiple noise complaints on my neighbor because of the yelling of their intellectually disabled child?", "text": "I just recently upgraded from apartment living to a three bedroom duplex with my two children, wife and I. We have lived in apartments our entire adult lives.  Top floor, bottom floor, u name it, and we are used to and understanding of the noise. \n\nMoving to a duplex was a large step up for us. Each kid has their own room now! We have a garage! A backyard! We can grill! Also, it costs way more in rent then we have ever spent. But it seemed worth it, better school district and all that. \n\nThen real life set in and it hit hard. It\u2019s almost like clock work, every night around 8-8:30ish the pounding and screaming starts. And it continued every night past 10:00 for quite awhile. \n\nAbout two weeks in it became ridiculous. My children were having a hard time falling asleep and it would go late enough that even my wife and I would have trouble going to sleep. One night it was exceptionally bad and my wife and I had had it! I knocked politely and the dad answered. \n\nI calmly explained to him that the noise was really loud, and that I wanted to have open communication with him because I\u2019m sure they hear my kids at times too. He responded by saying, no, they never hear us and admitted it was all them. Then stated that one of their four children had autism and then nonchalantly jotted down my phone number and texted me for future use. \n\nSince then we haven\u2019t heard anything past 10pm, (quiet hours are 10pm-8am) but every night there is pounding and screaming, every god damn night! And every god damn night my children have difficulty falling asleep! \n\nSince then we have filed multiple complaints with our rental agency, showing videos of even, of how loud it is and they don\u2019t seem to care. They have done absolutely nothing. It\u2019s so bad we are wanting to break our lease a month and a half in so we can, once again, have peace. \n\nTonight it was a bit worse than usual and I texted the dad to ask if he would consider moving the loud child to a room that doesnt share a wall. I havnt heard back and I don\u2019t expect to. \n\nBut I can\u2019t stop wondering.....\n\nAm I the asshole? \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PI1kkySbU3I2AekZ23nwFFtSMRCcPwnG", "post_id": "b8de59", "action": {"description": "reporting a coworker for having his kids on the property", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for reporting a coworker for having his kids on the property?", "text": "So, my husband thinks I'm an asshole, because he's the guy's supervisor. I reported the guy to management because my husband wasn't going to say anything. \n\nWe work in a warehouse. Employee parking is on either side of the warehouse, both blocked off by rolling gates that you need a badge to open. I was going in, and this woman came in behind me. I used to do the same thing before I worked here, bringing my husband lunch every day. Security knew me before I got hired. \n\nThe woman had kids in her car, I figured she was dropping lunch off for her husband and would leave. But then she got the kids out of the car to sit at our picnic area. \n\nThis is where the problem comes in: we RARELY have small children on any part of the property, but NEVER in the employee parking areas, if only because it's not safe.  First, no one is looking for small children in the parking lot, and the guys were leaving for lunch. We still have tractor trailers coming and going through the parking lot at odd times, and occasionally the guys come out in forklifts. It is not safe for children. The liability issue is huge. \n\nSo, I reported it to management. There are a lot of safety concerns where we work, we have accidents almost weekly, common sense would be to not have kids in work areas. I consider the parking lot a work area because we still have work access even in the parking lot. But again, my husband says I'm an asshole for reporting it. Am I?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ZilHyF6jMa1gyqBFqMIiboDCC0gipdl8", "post_id": "aq2aya", "action": {"description": "keeping a parcel that was actually refunded", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I keep a parcel that was actually refunded?", "text": "About a month ago I bought something on eBay (for $170) I waited 2 weeks and the company still had not sent it. I messaged them numerous times without a reply, finally I got replies but with different stories saying yes it\u2019s sent but due to a system error there is no tracking, then it\u2019s waiting to be sent, and another not yet sent will be sent ASAP they can refund if it\u2019s been too long. I had enough and was thinking it was a scam and so I asked for refund- this was almost 2 weeks ago. In the last 2 weeks I had bought and received the item needed from another store. \n\n\nYesterday low and behold the original refunded eBay item has been delivered to me. I checked the invoice slip and it was sent about a week after the refund. WAITA if I keep it? If they chase me up I\u2019m happy for them to send me a new invoice to pay but my plan is to not reach out to them first. It\u2019s actually from huge company in my country (but their eBay name wasn\u2019t under the company name which is strange because I\u2019d bought from the company\u2019s proper eBay previously) and it is technically their mistake. I do feel shitty about it but also didn\u2019t intend for this and they can afford the loss. \n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "bWcxLrGCRRZ47j0giOfmY6IbnUuo5i3O", "post_id": "atyney", "action": {"description": "saying I was having a miscarriage when my friend told me she was pregnant", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for saying I was having a miscarriage when my friend told me she was pregnant.", "text": "I'm not sure I handled this correctly...\n\nI have been trying for a baby for a while. My best friend knew that.\n\nShe blurted out she was pregnant (she wanted to keep it secret but we're not good at secrets) which was a bit of a surprise. My reaction was positive, but I think she felt it wasn't sincere. It got a little awkward. I didn't want to seem simply jealous that she had 'beat me to it', but I was having a miscarriage as we spoke, so I simply said I what was happening to me. The thing is, this happened really quick so I said my news within the same minute. She seemed awkward and tried to brush over the conversation.\n\nNow I think I was inappropriate and should have kept my mouth shut. I'm feel I look like I was trying to take away her good news and make it about me...\n\n...am I a selfish thunder stealer?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 11, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CUaml6AwZsduARNEIsfKwfueb7WtTa10", "post_id": "axba6p", "action": {"description": "insisting that my teenage son joins a prepaid holiday he originally was very happy to make", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I insist that my teenage son joins a prepaid holiday he originally was very happy to make?", "text": "My son is 16 and lives with his dad, stepmother and siblings in another town about 3 hours away.\n\nTraditionally (since 10 years or so), we go on holiday together over his Easter school break. My mum used to join previously, for a few years, my (new) husband comes along. The holidays are fun and everybody is getting along well. \n\nThis year\u2018s holiday was planned a few weeks ago. My son contributed in picking the destination, confirmed he wants to go and was asked a few times regarding his input on the itinerary and program. I even shared a GoogleDoc with him on booking status of the hotels and tours. \n\nAs of today, the holiday including flights, hotels, rental car, visas and a few tours are booked and part (most?!) of it paid and non-refundable. \n\nI just received a message that he does not want to go as he wants to spent time at home with his new girlfriend and friends. \n\nI totally get his reasons. He is 16, it\u2018s an exciting time with cool things around every corner. I understand he does not want to go on holidays with the family anymore. \n\nThe problem I have is that he confirmed before and is not really sensitive to the effort and budget investment that goes into such a trip. I want him to understand that the investment we made and that it is not integer to cancel on your mum and leave here with the bill. \n\nHe says if he comes along, it will be wasted money anyway as he will not be able to enjoy the trip. And he will probably see me as the A for making hin. \n\nSo, WIBTA for insisting he joins the holiday?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cmiGXGyQ0YMZcN7qotz6cCzE1Jb2pplC", "post_id": "ak7v2t", "action": {"description": "making out with this dude's ex in front of him", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for making out with this dude's ex in front of him?", "text": "I play rugby with the guy in question (let's say, \"Mark\") but I don't usually hang out with him outside of matches and practice. He broke up with a woman (Jia) that I'm rather attracted to last week. For the sake of propriety, I had not real intention to make moves or anything. \n\nBut last night I'm at a bar, and both Mark and Jia are there. I was at a table with some friends, and he was a couple tables over. Jia's with her friends as well but after a time comes over to my table and sits next to me, starts chatting me up. We flirt, and eventually she leans in and kisses me, and I reciprocate. I tend to think that PDA of that kind is a bit trashy so after a few seconds I get up with her and we go outside, but I can see that Mark has been watching the entire time. He makes a rude comment to both of us as we pass. \n\nToday at practice he picked a fight with me that would have come to blows if the other guys on the team hadn't held him back. He's steaming mad. I feel a little sorry for him, but at the moment I can't actually bring myself to feel bad about hooking up with Jia, or the fact that he was there for it. AITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "c9Nby7psXqbRhTDghV38CvrzV8alwNWC", "post_id": "b2pltp", "action": {"description": "planning to move away for college even though my mother has health issues", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA: For planning to move away for college even though my mother has health issues", "text": "I currently attend the two-year campus of a state university, but I have done so well there that I have an opportunity to transfer to a selective school. I have several brothers and sisters, and many of them have already left home, with most of them not even living in the same state anymore. Only two of us live in the same house as my mother, who was recently diagnosed with heart problems and also likely has glaucoma. Prior to these health issues being discovered, I applied to several schools, most of which are out of our state. I am in the running for a big scholarship that will let me pay to go to school wherever I am accepted.\n\n​\n\nBefore my mother got sick, they were already trying to convince me that I should not go to school out of state. They told me about it not being safe for me to go to school out of state, how I could get robbed, shot, or taken advantage of in a big city. They guilt tripped me about how bad they would feel if something were to happen to me, and said other things to try to make me reconsider my decisions. I could transfer to the main campus of my state school like my original plan was when I started college, but if I have the opportunity to go to a school like Harvard or Stanford, I believe that I should take it. I honestly have no interest in continuing at my state university, and my safety school is a different university in our state that is considered better. That school is a couple of hours away, so even then I would have to live in the dorms.\n\n​\n\nMy mother recently found out about some pretty serious (but not fatal) health issues, and my sister, the only other one who lives inside the house with us, works a lot, meaning she is often not home. Between school, work, and the gym I am gone for about 12 hours a day on school days. My sister is gone more than that. The other day, my other sister, who works overseas, was visiting home on vacation. She and my sister who lives with us lectured about me needing to step up as a man and stick around in case my mother needs my help. They attacked my masculinity a little bit, and when I said why don't they step up and help out, they said that I have a larger responsibility because I am a man. They said that if I moved away and something bad happened that it would be my fault since I abandoned her.\n\n​\n\nI am the youngest child, but even if we ignore that, this still feels like an unfair thing to say to me. No one else was asked to put their dreams on hold. I have a once in a lifetime opportunity, the kind of chance that won't be there later, but they just do not understand that. If they do, then they do not care. Besides, one of the selective schools I applied to is in our city, so there is a chance I'll be minutes away, not hours. I took these things into account, but I feel like my family is still  emotionally blackmailing me. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VZbJSITBmFCItMIDUwqktiJF7THz5OY5", "post_id": "am5mf1", "action": {"description": "not wanting to leave the room when when my rooomate asks me too", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA if I don't want to leave the room when when my rooomate asks me too?", "text": "For context this is in a dorm at college. I had just been sitting in my bed on my computer messing around since I had free time for once when I got a text from my roommate. \n\nHe was really asking me to leave in the.next 30 minutes so him and his girlfriend could have alone time. I told him no since i had no other plans and wanted to relax. He then said I guess you'll be in there while we're having sex( they really did it too). I told him he should have planned it out beforehand and asked. \n\nHe told me not to be a \"smart ass\" or we'll have a problem. So he threatened me for saying no.Basically after that it caused a whole arguement etc. He now treats me like I'm the asshole who did something horrible cause I didn't want to leave my room on a dime like that. He just ignores me completely.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "bi513uPRBRp0zuFp7qdCyZ94IALxFPDT", "post_id": "aphuul", "action": {"description": "sending my friend into a bad trip", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for sending my friend into a bad trip?", "text": "This happened two nights ago. It\u2019s Friday evening and I\u2019m antsy and bored; college hasn\u2019t been going well and my grandfather is on his deathbed. I feel the need to do something different, other than the usual process of smoking and drinking and waking up with a hangover. I needed something different. Rather than camp in the local forest or play dungeons and dragons, I decide I really want to do some LSD with my friends. I make some calls and found a supplier and four of my closest friends to join me in my trip. This is where the trouble begins. \n\nWe arrive at the dealer\u2019s dorm, we\u2019ll call him S. He\u2019s a pretty charismatic guy, and no lie I\u2019m immediately jealous of his handsomeness and ability to talk, and it doesn\u2019t help that one of my friends whom I have a bit of a crush on (let\u2019s call her M) was taken with him immediately, so I was a bit jealous. Not only that, but I find myself incredibly uncomfortable around him as soon as we meet. I\u2019m autistic and socially anxious so I don\u2019t think anything of it. I\u2019m used to ignoring my instincts about people. \n\nS had initially said that we would be getting sugar cubes with liquid L dropped on them, but in his room he says he\u2019ll drop it directly on our tongues and we oblige. I\u2019m only looking for one hit but when it\u2019s my turn he gives me two before I can really react. I just laugh it off. The rest of our party takes the dose (one person taking it in the eye, let\u2019s call her H). We chill in his room and chat while we wait for it to kick in, and S offers everyone some dabs, which my friends take. \n\nEventually the acid hits us and our trips are starting up. We go down to one of our party\u2019s room, let\u2019s call him J, and start watching a movie. Everyone joins, including S, who is a few years older than the rest of us and a first-semester student at our school. Eventually, we decide to go walk to a swing on campus, everyone but S and M.\n\nWe leave, me, J, another friend we\u2019ll call C, and another we\u2019ll call Z. J and C are tripping with me, Z is drunk and high. H stays with S and M but leaves after me, Z, J, and C. S and M are in J\u2019s room alone. \n\nAfter a while me and C realize there\u2019s a problem here, but we can\u2019t quite focus on it because we were tripping deep. We try to get back to the room but don\u2019t rush because Z and J left for it ahead of us. We call M. S asked her up to his room. It is important to note that at this point we realized that S had not dropped with us. He was stone cold sober the entire time. \n\nMe and C return to S\u2019s room. M is sitting on the bed and S is sitting in front of his tv, talking about a movie called \u201cFreaks\u201d in which circus freaks with, and I quote, \u201cfreaks with disabilities and mental illnesses form an alliance and beat the bad guy.\u201d I know I was tripping then, but I saw a copy of our school newspaper on his desk, the one in which my senior project, a Hidden Disabilities Alliance/ support group, was written about. M tells me later that S has brought that movie up because one of the characters crawls out of a door, like she was when she tried to leave his room. \n\nWe sit there for a bit. H returns, M goes out to get a cigarette, and S begins to seem agitated. He starts making cracks at me and C (J is bad tripping and Z is helping him), and eventually he takes out a glass pipe. He tells us it\u2019s DMT, and that someone is going to hit it. I tell him he\u2019s the only sober one, but he keeps pushing it. I get my backpack (S: \u201cGoing to class there buddy?\u201d) and leave. C and H follow me. \n\nI go to M and tell her we need to leave. She smiling so much, she\u2019s loving this right now. Apparently they were having a great conversation. I tell her that S had tried to push DMT on us, and she flies to the door and says she wants to do DMT. This is where I fuck up. M has a history of sexual assault. She is currently trying to decide what to do about it legally. I tell her S was giving me a bad vibe. She asks what I mean. I can\u2019t remember if it was me or C who first said S was \u201crapey,\u201d but one of us does, and that sends M into a PTSD attack for the rest of her trip- about 6-7 hours. \n\nWe don\u2019t see S again, and we salvage the situation a bit, but she was upset at me, and rightfully so. Everyone eventually meets up and we go to the mountains to watch the sunrise when we all came down. \n\nTLDR: Got acid from a sketchy guy, tried to prevent a possibly bad situation, sent my best friend on a PTSD attack while tripping. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NAPcvMnypxEgusS50CV5RWee3tnT7PQa", "post_id": "a50wr7", "action": {"description": "calling the animal shelter in a already owned dog", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I called the animal shelter in a already owned dog", "text": "I get its not the a \"AITA\" but I don't really know what to do and their are two many opinions at my house to make a descion. \n\nSo there's a dog who's already owned but the thing she's treated very poorly, she's a sweet lovable dog and dosent deserve what she gets. They never let her inside, they Litterly throw her food at her, and she's always tied to a post and only allowed to move 10 feet in any direction. The family who already owns the dog, had a animal die due to the severe neglect of him. He died after being stuck in his cage so long he couldn't use his legs. So should I call animal control or not? (Where I live there are no kill shelters) ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xvTMLM6IuKiS4yAZmUdqGcVmo1ZDwOhf", "post_id": "9vglb2", "action": {"description": "throwing the bag of my dog's diarrhea on someone's lawn and leaving", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for throwing the bag of my dog's diarrhea on someone's lawn and leaving?", "text": "Yesterday, I was walking my dog like usual, but I happened to go farther away from my house than I normally would. My dog went on someone's lawn, rolled around, and took a huge shit. Normally, this would be fine, but it was an extremely viscous, brown liquid. I held my breath and tried not to gag as I cleaned it up, but this fat 50-ish man came out of the house yelling at me. I was trying to get all of it into the bag, but I couldn't get everything. I still kept trying, but when he kept cursing at me for 5 minutes, I just threw the bag onto his lawn. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "G1jseQtOGxDSUBKOUw0BZ52PZEm75DUB", "post_id": "adwtds", "action": {"description": "yelling at my friend over paintball tactics", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for yelling at my friend over paintball tactics?", "text": "My friend and I do paintball competitively and we are quite good at it. We have a plan we follow and we had agreed on this beforehand. For some reason he abandoned the plan and had a tantrum. Without a clear strategy, my friend and I were forced to use dirty tactics to win the match such as \n\n1) Feigning injury, 2) Shooting people who were already down over and over and shooting people in the back 3) Calling people disgusting names in order to get them to lose concentration\n\nI don't like having to use any of these tactics and I told my friend this. He replied that he didn't see what the problem was as we still won the match. \n\nI don't know what has come over him, should I start looking for a new paintball partner or is it worth giving it another try?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "8hlbOIyvl732jRUpj8gwffSNfM8EOoPL", "post_id": "b1zeta", "action": {"description": "letting Obnoxious Woman on the train sleep", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA For Letting Obnoxious Woman on the Train Sleep?", "text": "So, Reddit, I'm already pretty sure the answer to this YTA but I'd still like to ask for your opinions. I live in a suburb of a major city in the US that was celebrating St. Patrick's Day today. There was an obnoxious drunk woman in her lower 20s on the train back out to the suburbs from the city that for 20-25 straight minutes had to very loudly Face time anyone who would answer her about her trek from the city back out to the suburbs. Everyone on the car was visibly annoyed with her. She stated once or twice the stop she was planning on getting off at during these Face time convos. She then drunkenly passed out before her planned stop. The whole car then pretty much collectively decided to not wake her up at her stop. I am off the train now and more sober and feeling guilty about participating in this. So in this case how much AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5KVHalG18YgT4SuwbMqZvLZ0ceBT5abp", "post_id": "av8d6t", "action": {"description": "farting on my so after he wouldn't stop tickling me", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for farting on my SO after he wouldn\u2019t stop tickling me?", "text": "Essentially the title. Throwaway also. \nHe knows I\u2019m really ticklish and I hate being tickled. I\u2019ll get visibly scared and defensive, I\u2019ve cried a few times just from him moving his hands closer to my tickle spots. He\u2019s not ticklish so he doesn\u2019t get how just because I\u2019m smiling and breathless I\u2019m still in a lot of discomfort. It really sucks. \nSo today after a match of tickling / wrestling away, i sat on top of him and said I\u2019d fart. He begged me not to for a second before I did. It was a small one. He said he felt a puff of air on his belly. He immediately got up and showered, upset at me. \nNow, we aren\u2019t strangers to bodily functions. We\u2019ve lived together a while. He\u2019s actually mad at me and i really don\u2019t get it. Does he not see his hypocrisy? Or am I disgusting? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 19, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Bahua3Ln42mlvwIwBcPmG8IyuTYVABOl", "post_id": "aap7f3", "action": {"description": "accepting blowjobs from a gay friend and then cancelling", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 34}, "title": "AITA for accepting blowjobs from a gay friend and then cancelling?", "text": "Here's what happened. I'm a straight heteroflexible dude btw.\n\n1. A gay friend, who I'm very good friends with, offered me a blowjob and since I was single and horny at the time I said ok\n\n2. I let him blow me quite a few times over the coming weeks/months\n\n3. I got a girlfriend at some point, then we stopped this arrangement and he was cool with it.\n\n4. My girlfriend dumped me and we started the BJ stuff again\n\n5. A few weeks ago I felt bad for him always doing it to me so I sucked him but I immediately felt awful and sick with myself and I told him nicely (not in a mean way) that this wasn't what I am and we should stop\n\n6. Since then he's been cold and distant to me. I texted him a huge message over Chrismas and he just replied \"thanks you too\" essentially. Every time I try to organize something to do with him, like we used to do before this stuff began, he just says he's busy.\n\n7. I asked people in a different sub and they said it's my fault for leading him on... but I didn't, it was clear from the start that I'm straight and wouldn't love him or kiss him or anything like that. They said I should leave him alone but how can I do that when he's like my best friend and we did so much stuff together? \n\nAm I really the bad guy here? PS we're both 18 male", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 31, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 11, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 34}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "wVg7tnF1dyZyLbpw0NIWZKfsfl99TjOn", "post_id": "apoxl8", "action": {"description": "holding a grudge", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for holding a grudge?", "text": "So.\n\nA while ago, my friend started being a dick to both me and his girlfriend, who I had started talking to, with no intentions for her other than friendship. I can understand the jealousy in there, that's not the issue here. I became closer friends with his girlfriend, closer than he was to her apparently. This made him angry. After a while she broke up with him and he blamed me for it. He started being hurtful to her, saying things like \"I wish you still loved me so I could hurt you\" and making jokes about having sex with her with an unsavory character, basically in front of her face. But she's my friend, and if he's going to start attacking her like that, I'm going to side with her.  But I have no intention of anything other than friends with her. She has another boyfriend now, and I'm happy for her.\n\n​\n\nAt the same time that this was happening, I was talking to a different girl. He started getting close to her when difficulties sprang up, so I felt like he was taking advantage of the situation. After what felt like forever to me, I fell out with this girl with much pain and grief involved. But he continued getting close to her, even after his girlfriend broke up with him. Understandably I was very angry about this, I felt hurt and betrayed, and yes, jealousy is a factor here. I never went as far as he did though, to make cruel jokes at her expense and to threaten her. I don't care about her anymore, I'm over it. \n\nRecently, they started dating.\n\nI shouldn't care, I shouldn't have an issue with it. I don't even talk to her anymore. But the fact that he's still close to someone who hurt me makes me irritable and angry. I can barely stand his presence, his voice annoys me wherever I hear it, and he seems to be a leech on a group of friends, along with this unsavory character I mentioned earlier. Needless to say we aren't friends anymore.\n\n​\n\nSo, I have 2 grudges here. Firstly, the grudge with the way he acted towards his ex-girlfriend, my friend, and secondly, the way I feel he's manipulated my troubles with a different girl to get closer to her, remain close to her, and even date her despite knowing of the pain that she caused me.\n\n​\n\nSo, am I the asshole in this situation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ElkqU1WldwOXrExv9svahH9sGp6uqGZF", "post_id": "ahxqjg", "action": {"description": "snitching on high schoolers just for having fun", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for snitching on high schoolers just for having fun?", "text": "Last night I was driving around town to kill time. I ended up driving down a quiet and deserted road near the outskirts of town and came across a group of maybe 30 high school students that looked to be about 16 or 17. They had been obviously drinking and looked like they were having a good time. I drove past them and left them alone, however, I couldn't stop thinking about whether I should let the police know or not. I didn't wanna wake up in the morning to a news report saying that there was a car accident that killed a bunch of drunk teenagers. I knew I'd feel extremely guilty if I knew I could've stopped that from happening. People driving from drunk driving happens pretty often in this town. After thinking and driving for another half hour, I finally decided to call the police and ask to have someone check up on the kids. Immediately, they sent someone out and im pretty sure they got busted. I feel really bad for being a snitch and i usually keep to myself, but I also felt like I needed to do it. I know it's important for teenagers to have their fun and I know what it's like to be a teenager,  I still am one. However, I also feel like they should have fun to a certain extent. I really didn't want anyone to drive off into the bay or off a bridge, killing many young teens who have so much to live for. Of course that could be worst case scenario, but im just trying to tell myself that I did the right thing. What do you guys think?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "om308c09n3Z3QrlWmpBFNbQrwcBTHnV4", "post_id": "a7ixgd", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be friends with a coworker who seems lonely and whose parent died in the last year", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to be friends with a coworker who seems lonely and whose parent died in the last year?", "text": "I have a coworker named Jim, who has had a really rough past few years. He's had a parent die in the last few years, and  he's estranged from his surviving parent. Like me, he's fresh out of college and moved to this area for this job, like I did.\n\n​\n\nWe were assigned desks next to each other. And he seemed nice enough. Soon (within a day or two of me starting) he started to tell me all about how hard it's been for him and his family to lose those family members, in great detail. He told me too about his girlfriend, who had stayed back in Wyoming, and about what sounded like a very toxic relationship--the mutual cheating, etc.\n\n​\n\nI initially felt bad for this guy and tried to be a listening ear while he told me, at our office desks, all this stuff that's happened to him in the last year.  He told me about all of his family drama, about the woman he's seeing on the side, how unsupportive his girlfriend is of his career, and even about how he went on a date with our boss's boss's boss. He said he didn't have lot of people in the city, and despite sensing some red flags, I told him that if he ever needed someone to chat with, he could rely on me. I invited him to hang out a couple times. But soon, I realized that the listening tended not to be reciprocal and that what this guy really needed was a therapist. Seriously, it was like everyday, he had a new problem or issue that he would go on and on about. And it became overwhelming and uncomfortable, as I had really just met him and he seemed to never be curious about my life or what things I may be grappling with. \n\n​\n\nI started to distance myself and got to know other people in the office.  I've made some good friends. Here's the thing--Jim seems to be offended when other folks in the office and I hang out without him. Jim has asked repeatedly to join in on our outside-of-work hang outs, but we don't know what to say. We all just don't want to hear about his family troubles and toxic relationship and how many girls he's currently seeing now on the side--anymore. Jim has proven time and again that he's rarely able to talk about other subjects. But we still feel bad for him. Are we assholes for excluding this parent-less man who doesn't really know anyone else as a transplant from Wyoming? Should we be more sympathetic and give him another chance?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HhpkqJSHhEzowvMFBd9agK1dipSNNeMF", "post_id": "agh62p", "action": {"description": "being mad about my brothers laundry", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being mad about my brothers laundry", "text": "A couple of weeks ago my brother did a load of laundry, and then did a second load. I was hoping to get the washer after his first load (plus my room shares a wall with the laundry room), and when I went in I saw that he had started a new load of laundry on quick wash. Curious about what it was, I paused the washer and the only things in there where two socks. Slightly annoyed, I went to the kitchen where my mom and step dad where. She asked what was wrong (I looked mad), and I told then about my brothers socks. I got what I went to the kitchen for, and they got my brother into the kitchen to talk to him about the socks. To the best of my knowledge,  that pair of socks, and the first load are still on top of the dryer. AITA for telling on my brother before I got the chance to talk to him about it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zTzvb7F0BE05YtRJwS9soHXkvRxU5pXF", "post_id": "au3gqt", "action": {"description": "not wanting to support my 7 year old cousin's charity drive", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to support my 7 year old cousin\u2019s charity drive?", "text": "So the other day I was just getting out of the shower when I took a look at my phone. My notifications said that my cousin mentioned me in a Facebook comment. I thought to myself, \u201chmm, wonder what this could be all about.\u201d\n\nFirst, let me preface this by saying that I rarely ever use FB or their messenger app (otherwise I couldn\u2019t spend so much time on Reddit). So I open the app and read what my cousin posted. My cousin\u2019s 7 year old daughter was doing a fundraiser for heart health sponsored through her elementary school trying to raise $250 dollars. \n\nUnfortunately that\u2019s not all my cousin decided to post on her wall. On the link she called out myself and numerous members of my family and tagged them for not donating to her daughter\u2019s fundraiser, \u201cespecially considering the history of heart disease that runs in our family.\u201d \n\nAfter reading this I felt blindsided. I know for a fact I had no knowledge of this fundraiser because (a) I don\u2019t use FB, and (b) she never once messaged any of us directly asking for help (which every member of my household said they would\u2019ve gladly contributed to had she done so).  The only thing she ever posted was a general link that all her friends could see, no tags. Nothing less than two weeks ago. Nobody had any idea that this was a thing but apparently we were supposed to know about everything my cousin posts (which is quite a lot).\n\nSo today she commented to my aunt (her mother), again on FB and for the whole world to see, that she cannot trust family to help out, and that she expected differently from her family. So I decided to message her to talk about this issue and clear the air. I explained how I felt blindsided and that all she needed to do was message me. Her response was that she tagged all of us so she wouldn\u2019t look like she was singling anyone out. I did my best trying to be the adult between us (she\u2019s in her forties and I\u2019m 27). But even after carefully explaining how this made me feel and how I wish she would\u2019ve approached the situation she just told me \u201cwill do.\u201d\n\nThe thing is, I\u2019m now considering not donating to my little cousin because of her mother but I feel terrible. She\u2019s just a kid and she shouldn\u2019t be punished for her mother\u2019s actions, especially considering what she\u2019s raising money for. Even still, I\u2019m pissed and really don\u2019t want to give them a dime because I truly believe my cousin should understand that her words carry consequences and I\u2019m afraid contributing will only reinforce her belief that shaming her family is the way to getting what she wants. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ehpNSY5FnbEeCFpEFzJ4hjkSDqUR2Bfg", "post_id": "au9sxb", "action": null, "title": "AITA for not want to take care of my semi-quadriplegic uncle?", "text": " \n\nThis is something that is happening to a close friend of mine. My friend gave me his blessing to share this.\n\nMy friend has a semi-quadriplegic uncle. I said \"semi\" because he still has some mobility in his limbs, but he has no strength, so he can\u00b4t take care of himself. He can\u00b4t even eat without help\n\nHis uncle has 3 sons, they all are adults and they live with him. They hit him, neglect him, don\u00b4t give him enough food. The one who helps him the most is his grandson, but he is young (13 years old) and he can\u00b4t take care of him.\n\nHis uncle has like 9 brothers who could take care of him, but nobody wants to do so. So they demand my friend to help him. Now, my friend is willing to help him, because he understands that his uncle does need help, but his family wants his quadriplegic uncle to live full time in his house. My friend doesn\u00b4t want, because he doesn't have enough resources and his dad is paraplegic, so it would be very difficult for him to take care of two handicapped men. Also, his uncle has heart issues, so my friend is worried that something bad can happen in his care.\n\nMy friend is willing to helping him, but he also wants the rest of his family to take care of him too. He says that he wants his uncle to live with his brothers for weeks at the time, so they all could take care of him. Is my friend the asshole for not wanting his uncle to live full time in his house?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TT2HU0iRIPTQBet6ZVTVk7q1L27Onjf5", "post_id": "a6genb", "action": {"description": "leaving my boyfriend to eat alone in a restaurant", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for leaving my boyfriend to eat alone in a restaurant?", "text": "Hi guys, I need your point of view on this to make sure I take my next steps correctly. Might be I have to apologize or stand up for myself, I don\u2019t know and need your help.\n\nPlease observe English is not my first language.\n\nFirst thing to know is that my boyfriend and I both have our own struggles. I have bipolar disorder and highly functional autism, and he is dealing with antisocial personality disorder. \n\nWe are both independent adults at good points of our lives and we try to not affect each other with our own \u201cmental\u201d struggles, we\u2019re both too sensitive for that and having a healthy relationship (for once) is definitely the goal.\n\nOf course, struggling as we are, we constantly have bad moments and deal with them very differently. As he\u2019s antisocial, he\u2019ll isolate himself, sometimes for weeks. This was difficult for me at first as I\u2019m afraid of rejection, but after nearly 2 years together, I\u2019ve realized this is the BEST solution as he gets hostile (never aggressive) during these periods and it is actually worse to be around him than to be  \u201cabandoned\u201d, as he\u2019s always come back so far.\n\nNow, whenever he gets anxious, I know that what\u2019s best for him is that I leave, before he has to tell me. It\u2019s not fun for me, but I do it for him, because I love him and I want him to feel better.\n\nI have a strange relationship with both my parents and am rather dependent on people around me as a consequence of this and my autism. I try hard to change this though, especially with him, and feel that I\u2019ve done good work. But sometimes I just need him.\n\nThis happened today at the restaurant. I mentioned that I have highly functional autism and while I\u2019m capable of living independently, I am sound and light sensitive and can get anxious in social situations. Especially if they are unusual and I haven\u2019t \u201cpracticed\u201d this social situation before.\n\nToday we were going to have lunch together and the waiter was walking around close to us, making strange singing noises that made me anxious. I am also recovering from a flu and didn\u2019t feel good from walking in the cold.\n\nThe food came and my potatoes were undercooked. All these things together made me upset and I struggled to keep it cool and needed him to be on my side and help me fix what can be fixed of the situation. \n\nHe didn\u2019t. He told me that \u201cI won\u2019t this time\u201d. Why? I don\u2019t know. Maybe I was being too difficult. But I tried not to make a scene. I just told him that I\u2019m tired of always coming to the conclusion that I care more about him than he cares about me. I told him I didn\u2019t want him to come back to my place with me, and that I wanted to go home.\n\nHe told me to leave. I did, upset but not too dramatically.\n\nI went home and cried a lot. He came back later to pick some stuff up before he went home. I noticed later that he left the food I ordered (minus the potatoes that made me lose it) in a doggy bag on my table.\n\nNow I\u2019m a bit torn. I know I overreacted, but I tend to do, and so does he. When he does, I adapt to him. When I do... he still expects me to adapt to him? I can\u2019t just stop being anxious any easier than he can, and he always uses this as an excuse.\n\nI know he\u2019s antisocial and sometimes he frankly doesn\u2019t care about me. This doesn\u2019t make him bad. But it also means that I\u2019m not bad for being dependent at times and needing him.\n\nAm I the asshole in this shit show?\n\nThanks to anyone sharing their point of view, I just want to add that I have no intentions of speaking badly about my boyfriend and I appreciate if everyone can be considerate of the struggles we both have.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CNfv9iK2nBhMYu83hAWGKVzlYYnXBEqN", "post_id": "b7y1la", "action": {"description": "not going to my friends wedding", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I don't go to my friends wedding?", "text": "A very long story long, my ex-wife and I split up mid last year after I discovered she was having an affair with a co-worker. We had been together for 10 years and she walked out of our home the night she admitted her affair to me and left. This blindsided me so it's been pretty rough for me to accept, I was hoping she would at least try some marriage counselling or try and figure out what went wrong before I made a decision on if we should part ways but she wasn't interested and basically told me in no uncertain terms we would never get back together and to give up any hope of that. She is still with this guy today.\n\n​\n\nSo around this time last year, before the cheating was revealed, 2 of our closer friends invited us to their wedding, my wife is best friends with the Bride I was invited to be a Groomsman by the Groom and happily accepted. When we first broke up, I was talking to the Groom and pointed out that the wedding was going to be an issue, in my experience the bridal party are introduced to a song (we had picked our wedding song), dance together etc. He agreed and said he would actually understand if I couldn't go, but that I should definitely go to his bucks\u2013a week long overseas trip. In January the Bride had her birthday and didn't invite me or mention anything, which kind of hurt. I put that aside and went to the bucks recently, had a good time with the buck.\n\n​\n\nOn the weekend it was time to RSVP for the wedding and I'd been changing my mind back and forth often and thought maybe it was best if I avoided it all-together. The few times I've seen my ex when she has come to our house to pack her things, take the dog etc, I've found it really difficult to be around her so I've been avoiding any contact and removed her from social media to try and focus on moving on. I tried to call the groom to ask if my ex would be bringing her affair partner and to see what expectations there are for the bridal party. He didn't answer his phone so I sent a message basically saying that I regrettably won't be attending because of the situation with my ex-wife. In hindsight I probably should have kept trying to call him but I was really anxious about the call in the first place and just wanted it to be dealt with so I could try and relax. I haven't got a reply from him in 24 hours and I've tried to ring him several times today but he isn't answering, which is a bit unusual for him. I just wanted to say that maybe I panicked a bit sending the text message off and perhaps I could go to the ceremony as a regular non bridal party member and that would make things a bit more bearable for me in terms of being around my ex-wife.\n\n​\n\nI just feel awful about it, I thought he would understand but maybe after all this time he forgot that he said he would understand if I didn't come, or figured I would've said something sooner.\n\n​\n\nAITA here or am I overthinking this? Thanks in advance for your responses.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GIxlLQAOzWqEN83uQJ9E2AWj8l7K5Wkf", "post_id": "absq6t", "action": {"description": "snitching on my brother dating a 14 year old girl", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if i snitched on my brother dating a 14 year old girl?", "text": "[I'm reposting this from r/advice because literally only 2 people replied except for trolls.]\n\nHey just for fair warning I am writing this on a mobile so sorry for formatting peeps..\n\nOk so for starters I am a 14 year old girl. My birthday is in 2004 so I will only be 15 later this year (keep this in mind because the girl in the story is only about 3 months older than me). \n\nMy brother is going to 19 somewhat soon (some time in march). I've never really had a good relationship with him. We argue almost everyday over the smallest things (Side note: I suspect he has autism/tourettes as he gets random bursts of anger and he has always been the \"special\" kid - YES I have tried explaining this to my mom but shes such a softie and expects everyone to ignore how badly he treats us because \"he's special\".)\n\nAnyways on to the relevant shit - remember the girl I mentioned earlier? Let's call her Jasmine. Now back in 2016 my brother and myself used to attend a youth service (I no longer go due to changed views but that's not important) where we met Jasmine, at that time she was attending the same Primary school as I was but I was only just starting to get to know her. She was also a bit of an \"odd\" person but I dont judge - we even became quite good friends. Fast forward about early 2018, Jasmine moves to a different town 15 minutes away after she's held back a year (so now shes my age but one grade behind). \n\nJasmine and I sort of drifted apart and I thought she was out of my life. Recently she suddenly started posting on her WhatsApp status out of nowhere, since I hadn't seen her online in over 2 months. These posts were all random deep and edgy quotes but amongst one of the slides was a picture of her and my brother in his room on his bed and they're all cuddled up and shit. My stomach honestly dropped and I just felt really sick to my stomach. It had to have been recently because 1. we moved into a new house and his walls are a bright colour so I could obviously see it was our new house and 2. he had recently dyed his hair which you could see in the image. \n\nI never remember her being invited to our house so I suspect he snuck her in which makes me even more ill.. I just cant believe he could do that. Everytime I look at a guy older than 17 I immediately associate it with my brother and am no longer interested. I'm honestly just really creeped out.\n\nSo in conclusion: Should I tell my mom? Or should I leave it because it's none of my business? I'm just super conflicted and could use some advice.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gZCSZfYkzTTQeztYXbGnZo0XRpnQKgUD", "post_id": "abvjfk", "action": null, "title": "AITA my sister always takes my speaker", "text": "I have a decent speaker and my sister doesn\u2019t, most of the time when she asks for it I say yes but when I don\u2019t she gets mad and bugs me for the next few minutes asking to use it. This has been going on for 4-5 months and at one point I just gave up and said she can\u2019t use it any more and everyone in my family is against me in this situation and I think they are being unfair. Keep in mine she often takes it outside and gets dirt on it (it\u2019s not waterproof so it\u2019s hard to clean), she got a small object stuck inside of it and you can hear it rattle when you listen to music quietly (which I usually do), she plays her music on high volume and her room is right next to mine (our walls are made of 20-30cm thin wood), and always leaves it on low power and she doesn\u2019t return it until I ask her to. I think the reason that my family is on her side is because they don\u2019t know the full story.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tDHB3VD6lvz3bQUm7kL5uwdyPjhVzV6q", "post_id": "aglp4b", "action": {"description": "wanting to stay away from people/\"friends\"", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for wanting to stay away from people/\u201cfriends\u201d", "text": "In general I am an asshole for comedic purposes (dark humor), and I have a group of people up at my university that I hang out with. I like to view them as friends, but idk if they view me the same way. \n\nI feel like I\u2019ve been acting up too much recently, and it might be making me seem like a complete jerk.  I\u2019m incompetent of helping them when they\u2019re in a tough time, I just sit there worried for them, and feel like even more of an asshole because I don\u2019t know what to do. My anxiety issues cause me to zone out in deep conversations so it seems like I\u2019m not listening, I almost started crying in front of one of them during a conversation about relationships. I can\u2019t help with their work as I\u2019m not smart enough to understand calculus, or mental illness psychology. (I\u2019m a graphic design major). \n\nI do try to be helpful in times, like offering food to them because we\u2019re all broke, or to help move equipment for their class projects. \n\nI feel like I should just stay away from them. I\u2019m never too into conversation and tend to make things dark, and kinda awkward. It might be better for them as they don\u2019t have to put up with my asshole-ry ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mJ2azbfv6n0l1OIyhzMgrFlJycwwY9Kb", "post_id": "amy6yc", "action": {"description": "leaving my house", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I leave my house?", "text": "First of all some background, I\u2019m Mexican (living in Mexico) and family is much stronger here, so leaving a household before marriage is a big no-no. I\u2019m 18 and barely getting done with highschool, getting into college in around 6 months and can\u2019t make a living by myself.\n\nNow we get into the juicy stuff, I used to have a best friend who left after 4 years for Seattle due to his dad\u2019s work, he was my only friend and I found it really hard to socialize. I also suffered from bullying that ranged from verbal abuse to hardcore wedgies on a daily basis. I went into a deep depression and even though my parents always intended to give me the best trips, clothes and experiences possible, I felt empty inside and even got to the point where I wanted to end my life.\n\nI\u2019ve come a long way by myself emotionally and a little bit longer than 7 months ago I got my first GF (who for the sake of privacy we\u2019ll call Kayla). Kayla has always had my back and has been supportive of everything I\u2019ve done. My dad on the other hand has been the complete opposite, he has always wanted something different from me, he\u2019s always looked at the way I look and present myself as instead of how I feel and what I like.\n\nI met Kayla at a national academic tournament, she lives 300 miles away from me, and my dad doesn\u2019t like that a single bit. A few days ago he blew up and called everything I like and love (soccer and Kayla mainly) a bunch of literal bs that isn\u2019t right for me.\nHonestly I feel like it\u2019s been several years where I feel rejected by my own dad. So WIBTA if I leave my parents, my brother and my sister for a life in Kayla\u2019s state? Not entirely leaving for her sake, I just want to feel accepted and fulfilled.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RrdKHp85I9Eould2jDX1Uy1irCLK9iZv", "post_id": "a6nvx9", "action": {"description": "refusing to buy an engraved knife when I thought they were selling sausages", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for refusing to buy an engraved knife when I thought they were selling sausages?", "text": "Yesterday at the supermarket I was looking at meat while a salesman cut and prepared a pack of sausages and asked if I would buy their stuff. I thought they were selling sausages so I said yes.\n\nHe asked me for my name and asked me to wait for a few minutes. The salesman came back with an engraved kitchen knife. I thought they were selling sausages and refused to buy them. He looked pretty sad and said stuff like he was going to be fired. While checking out I noticed the signboard behind him which had \"Get your name engraved on a kitchen knife for $20\".", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Rpfe1jbDwdWIaUcJlt8LSr59164lSpdd", "post_id": "b5cv5l", "action": {"description": "not wanting my nephew's impediment to force me to leave early", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my nephew's impediment to force me to leave early?", "text": "  \n\nMy brother and I are both married with children. I rent from my father who lives in the same building and my brother lives 3 miles away. For the last few years my brother has been complaining to his wife and my parents that he, our kids, and I don't spend enough time together. In the last three or four years, he has invited me to one event outside of his home, birthday parties, block parties, and New Year celebrations, all of which I have attended. In that time, I've invited him to an annual convention that he did attend three times, birthday parties that he didn't attend, and a few other random things he passed on. Now, events aside, the only other relevant information is that my nephew has very flat feet and needs special inserts to walk for long periods of time. I hope that is enough back story and presented without bias.\n\nTwo months ago, I purchased tickets for my brother, his son, my son, and myself to attend the annual convention. When I let my brother know, he said he was on board and that was pretty much it until a day before the convention. At that time, I texted him to ask how he wanted to handle travel to the venue. He said he didn't really care and it was my choice. As his son was staying the weekend with my father, I suggested he pick us up at 11 am the day of the convention. Initially, he provided a simple agreement, but a few hours later he messages me letting me know that his son misplaced one of his inserts earlier in the week and walking for a long time was going to be an issue for him. As such, they probably weren't going to make it through the whole convention and we might want to take separate vehicles so my son and I can finish the convention if they have to leave. I thought about it for a few hours and informed him that I agreed and, while I was hopeful they would make it through, believed it would be best if we took separate cars and we could meet at the entrance to the convention. He responded with (not verbatim), \"Well, I still have to pick up \\[my son\\] from, dad's, so I guess I'll text you when I get there.\" I replied questioning why my nephew wouldn't just ride with me and he answered, \"Because I'm picking him up. Thanks anyway.\" My first instinct was to ask him what his problem was, but I said, \"You're welcome. We'll see you there. Love you,\" and left it alone.\n\nTo shorten an already long story, my brother informed my dad to not let my nephew go anywhere with me, told my father he doesn't want to be a part-time family member (not sure what that specifically means here), had his wife pick up his son, and never did attend the convention. I haven't heard anything from him since.\n\nAm I an asshole for not wanting to have my son's and my time at the convention potentially cut short by my nephew's physical limitation and agreeing to take two cars after it was suggested?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "W1sMihyS7nvP85mnas0FNJggcql3gdGL", "post_id": "anus13", "action": {"description": "disrupting my \"friend\"'s multi-million-dollar company", "pronormative_score": 88, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "WIBTA for disrupting my \"friend\"'s multi-million-dollar company?", "text": "Six years ago my friend started a company. He asked me to design his website and point of sale system. We had a gentlemen's agreement (ie. worth nothing) of payment. A verbal contract only us two knew of. I was to be paid $2,000 plus a stake in his company (5%). At the start, this was a home business, so he didn't know or have the tools to make invoices, PI's, etc.\n\nI wasn't a super experienced programmer at the time. I was fresh out of school for computer science. Despite that, I put all my other projects on hold and worked on his task. It took me 2 weeks to get everything functional as he wanted, and a further 6 weeks for minute tweaks he mentioned after the fact. He hired a designer to assist me, so I did the backend and the designer did the frontend. AFAIK, the designer was not given a stake in the company but was paid $2000 up front.\n\nOnce I finished my work, I was ghosted. Didn't reply to texts or calls or Facebook messages. We never hung out anymore. We didn't do anything. He'd write on my wall \"happy birthday\" or the errant post like or things to that effect but nothing of more substance. Any time I posted on his wall to ask what's what, it was deleted. At this point I didn't care about the money or anything, I just wanted my friend back.\n\nThis leads to today. Years later. Still have not received payment or any acknowledgment of my existence beyond the aforementioned Facebook pleasantries. My friend is retired now. He owns two houses. His company opened up six store locations and the success train is not slowing. He's a millionaire. I've stewed in my emotions and gave up until a few days ago he posted wedding photos. I wasn't invited, hell I didn't even know he was getting married. We've been friends for 15 years, good friends at that, and now I know it's over.\n\nHe's hired someone else to maintain my work over the years. Not much of what the designer and I made is evident in his current website. Credentials do, however, I still have access to these things. The domain is in my name, the webhost is in my name. A lot of the code is still my property as I wasn't paid to release exclusive license for use to my friend and looking at some source files, a lot of my code is still being used. My POS system is still being used in his stores.\n\nWIBTA if I completely fucked his shit over $2000 and potentially millions in options?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 88, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 88, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZmKKwGhsJ5xJTWbikmu0injr1fgao0dk", "post_id": "aybemh", "action": {"description": "coming home late", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for coming home late?", "text": "Hey all, here\u2019s the sitch.\n\n\nI am currently on a medication that is giving me insomnia. I\u2019m working on a plan with my doctor, but for the meantime I don\u2019t sleep all night, or at least until very late. I also am a university student living in a dorm room with 1 other guy.\n\n\nAs opposed to staying in the room all night with my computer light on, I usually hang out in the campus library all night, or the local McDonalds. I generally come back home around 5-6 am, and try to be as quiet as possible, but my roommate often wakes up, and I feel terrible about it. He hasn\u2019t openly complained about it to me, but I know that I wouldn\u2019t like being woken up in the middle of the night by him coming home (to be fair, I have. He once brought his friend over at 6 am, who promptly began setting our trash on fire...). \n\n\nI guess, am I the asshole for waking my roommate up? Would it be better if I just stayed in my room with the laptop light? Thanks", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CnLGgQ0xtn0LkhlfJ9Le0GPtkB6rvwg7", "post_id": "ao0bge", "action": {"description": "ordering a sandwich 10 minutes before a restaurant closes", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ordering a sandwich 10 minutes before a restaurant closes", "text": "When I ordered my ham, cheese, lettuce and mayo sandwich 10 minutes before the closing time the person was complaining about making it and I felt like a dick for ordering it, but I think they were being rude as well.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "T7JcgP4d2ETQKYLXWeCersEgJKhgXGJU", "post_id": "arj7tw", "action": {"description": "asking a woman if I can call her a cunt", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking a woman if i can call her a cunt?", "text": "I met this woman from Australia the other night. I was at my job/bar with my gf, and we were outside copping a smoke. I have always heard that Australians and NZenders use the term \"cunt\" as a term of endearment (obviously not all Australians). I genuinely asked her if that applied to both sexes. She seemed to understand, but later in the night was upset. I promise you i posed the question like this: \"I've heard Australians refer to good friends as 'cunts.' Does that extend to both sexes?\" We came to an awkward understanding later, but i still kinda feel like a jerk. There had been a New Zealander in the bar before, who i called a \"good cunt\" in an Australian accent and he seemed happy to hear it. I would never call someone a cunt unless it was warranted or in context.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JuxBbcTwxBdLUU1cn7AuRZCk79EbgWS9", "post_id": "airo67", "action": {"description": "not letting my wife's niece bring her gf to my family's cabin", "pronormative_score": 32, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not letting my wife's niece bring her GF to my family's Cabin?", "text": "My aunt owns a Cabin in the mountains, it's nice this time of year because it's close to ski resorts and has a very nice wintery feel. \n\n2 years ago my Aunt agreed to let my wife and I use it. Initially it was just supposed to be us 2. But as time went on and we were unable to find time to get away we missed the opportunity 2 Winters in a row. \n\nWord about the cabin got out to my wife's family and they expressed interest in possibly joining us if we ever decided to, or found the time, to go. \n\nI was fine with this. It was just me and her and her parents. Then her sister and nephew were added to the discussion without really asking me. But I was still okay with it because I love her family and we all get along well. \n\nSo we found a weekend to go and everything was looking fine. Then I find out that my wife's niece was also invited without asking me. I grit my teeth a bit simply because I wasn't consulted about it but in the end I was still okay with it. \n\nNow this trip has transformed from something that was just supposed to be my wife and I into her family trip to my family cabin. I'm okay with it. But a bit annoyed that my trip was \"taken over\".\n\nI was asked (I was finally asked!) if the niece could bring her new girlfriend (the romantic type. They are both 18.) To which I said no. I was not comfortable with that because this girl is a stranger and my wife's niece doesn't exactly have a great track record of making great decisions. \n\nI didn't feel comfortable bringing a stranger that I can't vouch for to my family cabin. \n\nAll of a sudden people are angry that I would deny her GF the opportunity to go and spend time with the family. And since the trip is a month away I have \"plenty of time to get to know her\" (their words). And \"it's only one person and we approve of her. It's not like she's bringing a bunch of people you don't know.  As if it's my job to go out of my way to vet the girl and test to see if she can earn my approval. \n\nAt this point I don't think I even want to go anymore. This whole thing has morphed into something that I don't recognize as the cozy little get away that I planned with my wife 2 years ago. \n\nSo, AITA?\n\nTL;DR: Wife's family wants to bring a stranger to my family's Cabin and I'm not comfortable with it. Stranger is my wife's niece's new GF.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 31, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 32, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BAfQMcUm3yVSMIriDzxast0BurMxBB49", "post_id": "9tt4of", "action": {"description": "reposting things from facebook to reddit", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for reposting things from facebook to reddit?", "text": "I often see things on facebook or instagram that immediately make me think of the perfect subreddit to share it in. I repost with the intention that others would enjoy the content on reddit too, and I never take credit for anything that isn\u2019t mine. \n\nI see nothing wrong with doing this personally, however, a comment I saw accused me of not knowing an answer to a question about the content of a post because I\u2019m a \u201ckarma whore\u201d who should \u201cf**king die\u201d. I have only really got into using reddit recently, am I actually crossing an unspoken yet impenetrable law of reddit by doing this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "o4kn078ohBHUpensJkRbgpRLs0ek8oOw", "post_id": "aiyrx1", "action": {"description": "asking my girlfriend not to constantly tell me how to do things", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking my girlfriend not to constantly tell me how to do things?", "text": "I'm 21 and my girlfriend is 24. This morning I made her coffee and breakfast in bed and as she was drinking the coffee she said it was too strong and I said I'd make another. She then said \"you know, you shouldn't use too much coffee when making it\". This isn't the first time I've made her coffee and it isn't the first time she tells me how to do simple stuff. Maybe it's her accent (she's not from my country) but it comes off as condescending sometimes. I then sat next to her and said in the calmest way I could \"(her name), sometimes I've been noticing that you tell me how to do things quite frequently and sometimes it makes me feel a bit condescended because it's like you're telling me how to do the simplest things\" I then said I'm not mad or angry and I don't want to start an argument but I just wanted to bring this to her. She gets really defensive easily during arguments and doesn't see an issue with this. But I explained that it happens frequently and it just doesn't feel great when it's all the time.\n\nIt escalated quickly into an argument. I told her that I realise she's older and that she may feel the need to tell me how to do things and she responded with something along the lines of \"I've been through more, I have family and you don't and so you don't have those to explain things to you, which may mean I care more about you\" (I'm estranged from my family). I started saying that I just brought something to her and didn't want to argue and if I don't feel I can bring stuff to her then why should I to which she replied \" then why should we be in relationship\". She brings this up every other argument and has packed her bags about 3 times threatening to leave which breaks me. She then shuts her eyes and doesn't say anything else, I try talking to her and with no response ask if she doesn't want to talk. She then says \"you have hurt me so much, you have said disgusting things and I don't want to talk\". I point out that she just said about breaking up which is disgusting and it's met with \"you made me say that because you hurt me\". Then she got under the bed covers and went back to sleep.\n\nI'm just at a loss, everything seems perfect when we're happy but every argument it just turns into this..", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Vczel2G8pPZ2usQHzGcCQZcQASOOUmKR", "post_id": "a4oqjn", "action": {"description": "criticizing my girlfriend's decisions", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for criticizing my girlfriend's decisions?", "text": "Okay so there's quite a bit to this story but I'll try my best to explain it as neutral and equal as possible. Me and my girlfriend have been together for about a year and a half now and it's been a bumpy road pretty much the whole time. We met 3 years ago but kept it casual for a long time as I didn't feel ready for a relationship due to trust issues on my end which I was very up front about to her,  I'd say that we are still in love but it's definitely a very distant love where neither of us can talk to each other about anything (all this leads up to my main point.) Our sex life has been getting worse and worse over the months and has always been quite dry compared to what I like which has always made distance between us as I see it as an important part of a healthy relationship which she disagrees with. There's much more but I'll get to the main point.\n\nEND OF THE BRIEF BACK STORY\n\nSo this has been something I've been doing quite recently where she'll either go somewhere or listen to a certain person that I think is quite honestly stupid and without logic. For example she works in a mostly female work force so there's a lot of bitching and people making up things about others which she has been caught on the middle of as of now. 2 specific girls started lying and picking on her friend and actually made a complaint to the boss about the lies they'd made up about my girlfriend and her friend. This has caused my girlfriend a lot of stress so obviously being her boyfriend I've told her to stop getting involved with girls like that as they are just causing her stress and making her miserable at home which she just shruggs off ebeb though she told me that it makes her feel that way. Fast forward to a couple of nights ago when one of those girls lying about her texts her asking to meet up at 11:30PM basically crying for attention hecause no else will come out and even though all the shit she made my girl feel and all the lies she made up about her, my girl goes to meet up eith her and be a shoulder to cry on which I obviously question and say that shes playing you and just making a fool out of you. Then she says that its \"my choice what I do and you shouldn't question me.\" This made me confused as I thought it seemed like common sense to not go but obviously I was wrong as I spoke my concern about what she'll say and maybe even start a fight to which my girl just shrugged her shoulders and left. Another example was a night when she was just going out with some friends to a bar which I was completely fine with until it got to about 1:30 in the morning which was odd because she had work the next day. I tried calling her to check up and she didn't answer after another few times of calling which got me worried because I didn't hear from her since 5PM that evening and I had no idea where she could be or if she was safe. An hour and a half passes and I get a call from her saying she's on her way back to which I respond with telling her of the worry I was in and how scared it had made me. She tells me that she was going to come back earlier but one of the guys in her group had just gone through a break up so she was trying to give advice and help talk to him for the past couple of hours which made me flip my shit as she knows of the distressing past mental abuse I suffered from other relationships and the trust issues I face every day. I've told her about these things so she understands my thought process and how I put things together in my head. However it didn't occur to her that I'd be pissed about her fixing another boys issues while simultaneously causing more for me by not even sending a single message saying what time she'll be back or if she was even alive. I critized how she thought that was okay and how she would think I wouldn't worry with the issues I've told her about time and time again. There are more instances of similar situations but you get the image, I'm not saying that any of this isn't my faults because I do believe it's my fault but I definitely don't think I'm an asshole with how open I've been about her about these issues and that it will affect the relationship.\n\nIn short: AITA for being annoyed about said situations and questions her mental logic to do certain things that she knows won't end well or are just letting her get used by others?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "wKb7xkbywPJ4Iy6C3XyGNdeNN4TiKUbm", "post_id": "ats07t", "action": {"description": "not following up on tutoring a family friend's daughter", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not following up on tutoring a family friend's daughter?", "text": "A month ago, my mom asked me whether or not I could tutor her friend's teenage daughter, as she was having a rough time at school and her grades were slipping because of depression. I went through depression in high school and would have loved to have someone to help me during that time, so I said \"yes, just tell me when/where/etc.\" The conversation was left at that.\n\nDuring the month, I have heard nothing from the family about tutoring the girl. No times, no place, and no confirmation about anything. However, today the mother confronted me about not taking the initiative in helping her daughter. Apparently, I was supposed to follow up with them even though I don't have their contact info and I was under the impression that communication would mostly be through my mother as I don't know her personally. This is my first time even attempting to tutor someone, so was I in the wrong for not contacting her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "945X2Z844UmLRTJ8y9trjdN0SyQSfMkW", "post_id": "a0si3e", "action": {"description": "texting my ex's girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for texting my ex's girlfriend?", "text": "My ex and I broke up 7 months ago, but we have a lot of mutual friends and go to the same parties so I can't avoid seeing him, although we are not friends anymore because his new girlfriend is not comfortable with it.\n\nI saw him with his new girlfriend in July and I sent her a message asking if she is uncomfortable that I go to the same parties as them, she said no it's fine. I also asked for my stuff back from my ex, and she said he would give it to a mutual friend (still haven't gotten it back).\n\nAfter that, I messaged her in August because she seemed very angry at me, for example pushing me when she walked past. She said that nothing is wrong, that's just her face.\n\nIn September I saw them again, and she still seemed like she wanted to murder me. I sent her a message saying that it was nice to see her, it looked like she was having fun. She replied saying thanks you too.\n\nI haven't contacted her after that, but last night my ex texted me saying not to message his girlfriend or talk to her, he wants nothing to do with me, and he just wants me to leave them alone.\n\nAm I the asshole? Was I harassing her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "kgovbwmgNaJWYHdMd4xVhYKX6fGYqYht", "post_id": "b9ckou", "action": {"description": "buying a dog", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA We bought a dog", "text": "Okay a bit of back story me and my ex just bought a pug small black one so after this purchase she left me and thus happened\n\nMe = miget ecstasy\nEx = ex bird\n\nI'm on Mobile so typo warnings and Scottish so slag\n\nEx I'm taking the dog\n\nMe no your not I paid for the plane there\n\nWe got it in Edinburgh and she was never on a plane so it was only a 30 minute flight and it was nice to see her excitement because plane and pug\n\nEx yeah but\n\nMe and I paid for the dog\n\nEx yeah but\n\nMe no stop put him down\n\nEx why he's mine\n\nMe no the vet papers are in my name\n\nEx but I pay for the food and the vet bill and look after him when your at work\n\nMe no I pay for the food you buy it\n\nEx come on oirian\n\nMe no oirian stay go to bed please\n\nEx NO OIRIAN HERE NOOOOOOOOOOOW\n\nI pick up oirian because she grabbed his neck\n\nMe FUCK Off this is my dog I pay for it you do nothing but piss him off\n\nShe (radicted because no voilance rule) me in the leg I grabbed her shit put it outside and told her to get one.\n\nAm I the ass hole because she did spend alot of time with the dog", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "61A8xcNWagJO44OLpcHsMIhclejrpPLz", "post_id": "b4w7d3", "action": {"description": "ignoring a stranger on the street", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ignoring a stranger on the street?", "text": "So this happened last night and when I woke up this morning I still felt pretty bad so I'd love some opinions.\n\nBit of backstory: I live in a slightly rough area, there's a bit of gang violence and a large homeless population, nothing overtly dangerous most of the time, but as with any large homeless population, for every 100 who are just regular people having a hard time and just trying to get by, you get a dozen unsavoury characters who are heavily into drugs, can be violent, etc. To put in perspective, it's not the kind of place that you'd get knifed for looking at someone funny, but you wouldn't walk around with an expensive phone in your hands in case you get mugged. As a woman currently living alone (spouse is away on business) I obviously have to keep my wits about me in terms of safety, though there are very few occasions when I have ever felt at risk. \n\nI'm walking home last night from a local supermarket down an unlit path after dark; again, not a dangerous thing to do most of the time in my experience, but you do have to be fairly careful and alert. I pass a pair of men, approx 30-40, drinking a few beers on a bench; just as I get to the point where my back is to them, I hear one of them stand up and call out something like \"hey miss\" or \"hey ma'am\" - I just kept walking. I don't know what their reasoning behind trying to stop me was, but I don't believe they were in any way a threat looking back - my front door was less than 12 feet from them and they made no attempt to follow me or anything like that - but my instincts say that offending a random stranger is less important than preserving my own safety. That said, I did spend the rest of the night feeling bad, and the feeling stuck with me through to this morning.\n\nSo thoughts? Am I right to feel bad, or was this just a sensible call on my part? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xsStLtg33ytJkVbYCvGhYuUxdTtG0MgB", "post_id": "aeqw0a", "action": {"description": "not finding a friend physically attractive", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not finding a friend physically attractive?", "text": "A classmate (M, 24) has been really nice lately, lending me (F, 22) his notes and promising to get me a present in exchange for sharing my notes with him. My other classmates (F, 20-22) insist that he is romantically interested in me, and that he could be giving the present as a segue into asking me out. I told them that it's probably not true, since I know that he likes some other girls in our class, and that I don't find him physically attractive anyways. After some back and forth with these friends, one of them said I was being \"superficial.\" Even though this whole argument was based on a complete hypothetical, I felt insulted and ashamed. Is this friend right? \n\nAlso, just to be clear, if the situation was reversed, I wouldn't mind a friend saying that they weren't attracted to me, nor would I call someone superficial for having preferences. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TsgXSZajCGi8uXGQI9u28dwcKaWB7nop", "post_id": "a7b731", "action": {"description": "pretending to agree with my grandfather's racist and homophobic worldview in order to secure my inheritance", "pronormative_score": 230, "contranormative_score": 115}, "title": "AITA for pretending to agree with my grandfather's racist and homophobic worldview in order to secure my inheritance?", "text": "My grandfather is a racist homophobic asshole.  I don't think the man has gone 15 minutes without shouting a racist or homophobic slur in all the time I've known him.  A good deal of my family are similar.  I don't hold any such views on the world, and I secretly hate them all for acting this way, but I'd never tell them because the last person to call any of them out on this bullshit (my older cousin) has since been ostracized by my grandfather for daring to disagree with the family patriarch and say such things to him.  So I keep quiet so I don't get kicked out, and selfishly, so I don't lose the inheritance that I am currently in line to get when my grandfather dies.\n\nSo since the family meets up and spends a lot of time at my grandfather's house I have to sit around and smile and nod whenever he tells us about how minorities are raping and pillaging at the border, and how all gay men are pedophiles.  Part of me hates myself for doing it, but the other part of me realizes his health has gotten so poor recently that he probably only has a year or two left in him and I can tolerate it long enough to get that money.\n\nSo am I an asshole for passively pretending to be racist in order to get my racist grandfather's money?  Also am I an asshole for basically looking at this man as a pinata that will eventually drop money for me?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 74, "OTHER": 226, "EVERYBODY": 41, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 230, "WRONG": 115}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Ry48eMBhqbbLbZpFJPcQnJmI3gYJ3whC", "post_id": "akmbuk", "action": {"description": "telling my flatmate to F off because she wouldn't follow the rules we had set together", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my(M22) flatmate (F23) to F off because she wouldn't follow the rules we had set together?", "text": "Sorry for the impending wall of text.\n\n​\n\nA little background before starting.\n\nSorry for possible poor grammar, English isn't my first language.\n\nThe story happened last year. Me and my good friend Marie (fake name for obvious reasons) were sub-renting (pretty illegal) a flat we had found on the French equivalent of Craigslist in the city we go to college at.\n\nMarie and I, at the time, we really close friends and were really excited to share a flat. It just didn't work out as flatmates because we were so incompatible personnality and lifestyle wise so we argued for a lot of stuff although we were perfectly getting along outside the flat.\n\nThe flat had 2 bedrooms, a living room, a kitchen and a bathroom.  The main focus here is on the bedrooms and living room. Apart from the technical issues there was in the flat, there was ONE big, main issue.  The guy subrenting the flat didn't want to include his bedroom in the deal so we were left with the 2nd bedroom and the living room (with either a couch or a crappy inflatable mattress to sleep on).\n\n​\n\nMarie and I agreed to take turns. One week one of us would get the bedroom, one week one of us would sleep on the couch and vice versa, fair enough. We even agreed that on sunday evening, the one in charge of the bedroom would change the sheets and clean the room so the other one wouldn't have to deal with the other one's mess, fair enough.\n\nWe strongly agreed on those terms and we would bend the rules if some people were over, although the only time we bent them was when I let her use the bed a few nights during some of MY weeks so she could have privacy with her fuck buddy.\n\n​\n\nFast forward to 2 months in, and I have to go back to my hometown for a week because my bestfriend had unexpectedly died and I wanted to be around my friends to grieve and cry together. After one tough week I went back to my flat, completely, mentally worn out, and just sad. I only wanted to go to sleep in the bed because it was MY turn to use the bedroom.\n\n I asked Marie to do the switcheroo as usual but didn't want this time. I asked her why and she told me In a very very annoyed and arrogant way that I had to sleep on the couch because during the week in my hometown I could sleep in my own bed so it was unfair that I got to sleep in a bed 2 weeks in row. \n\nI was really surprised of such an answer, as she totally knew that I lost my friend and that I was in a really tough spot in my life (for some other reasons). After some quick back and forth I didn't have the energy nor the patience to argue and just sterly told her \"Fuck off\" and left the room to play some games. (Had she argued calmly I would have definitely tried to find common ground but in this case, nope.)\n\n She snapped at me and insulted me and talking nonsense about how I was inconsiderate, bringing up stuff unrelated to the argument and I just told her \"What-thefuck-ever\". She started to cry and eventually complied.  She guilt tripped me into apologising to her for being so mean but she never apologised for being so insensitive to me. Rules are rules ffs. The few common friends we had didn't give a crap about the argument (rightfully so) and a few friends of mine say I'm NTA although I should have handled it more diplomatically.\n\n​\n\nSo I'm asking you Reddit, AITA for telling her to F off because she arrogantly wanted to argue? am I NTA because she acted like an entitled brat? Is ESH because although she didn't act appropriately I could've  handled the matter more nicely?\n\n(We're no longer friends as I moved back to my hometown after finishing college and just didn't want to be her friend anymore due to further arguments on other stuff)\n\n​\n\nFeel free to ask for INFO as I may have forgotten some details along the way! \n\nThanks for reading!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BUYLsnJs92bsQg9hxJIUQGKOTzWh7Rqn", "post_id": "b8opu4", "action": {"description": "not wanting to buy my fiance a new car if I total his", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to buy my fiance a new car if I total his", "text": "Hello! \n\nHere's an argument we had while driving home..\n\n\n\nFirst for some background. \n\n\n\nMy fiance and I both own our own cars. Both are over 100k miles. Mine has about 20k miles more and is a little bit younger. Mine is worth about 2-3k more on Kelly blue book. We have separate car insurance.  I have comprehensive/collision and I thiiiink he no longer has comprehensive/collision. \n\n\nSince our driveway forces us to park each other in , for convenience, we switch cars about every other day. Aka some days I drive his car and some days I drive my car and likewise. \n\n\n\nWe have split finances and don't currently plan on merging them although we do have a share account for food/house expenses that we contribute equally to. \n\n\nOn to the argument... \nIt came up that he assumed if I got into an accident in his car and totalled it that I would buy him a new car (not new new.. just new to us). His rational was that if he himself got in an accident in mine that he would feel bad and would want to make it up to me and do the same. \n\n\nI replied that I wasn't comfortable with that. He clarified only if one of us was at fault for the accident/ it was caused by stupidity on our part.  \n\n\n\nMy thought process is that each of our cars are our responsibility to take care of.\n\n\nHowever if I dinged his car and it was fixable I would try to fix it/make him whole. But if the car it totalled I doubt he would get the same car/same year/same mileage as  it would make more sense to upgrade. I would probably offer to help with the cost.. but not front it all. That would put us in the awkward situation where one if us would have to buy two cars back to back potentially since both of them are getting further along in years. Although I doubt we will have to replace them for years to come.. hopefully. \n\nHe actually seemed ok with my reasoning and I'm glad this was brought up before either of us got into a bad accident (knock on wood). \n\nAITA for not wanting to buy him a new car if I wrecked it? \n\nWhat do you guys think would be a fair? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "bOcwrqGLU32J6oeOwHa0MpK2r7464hnm", "post_id": "at7lk9", "action": {"description": "ebaying a gift from a first date", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for eBaying a gift from a first date?", "text": "This happened about 8 years ago, but it came up recently when I was discussing \u201cawkward first dates\u201d on another subreddit....   This was before I met my husband for those who might creep through my comments out of suspicion...\n\nI was on dating websites back then, and came across a guy who SEEMED cool and we agreed to meet up for pizza.  Upon arrival, he gives me a toy Megazord from the Power Rangers series...\n\nGUY: \u201cI like to give presents.\u201d\n\n....  Ooookaaay....  VERY odd since although I was geeky myself (still am today to a certain point) I hadn\u2019t been into Power Rangers since I was in 5th grade....   I don\u2019t even remember telling him that I ever liked Power Rangers....\n\nThe date was boring as sin, we had nothing in common, and afterwards we never kept in touch.\n\nAbout a week later, I\u2019m gathering some old stuff at home to sell on eBay and decide to throw Megazord in there, especially since 1) I have no use for him and 2)  I don\u2019t really want it.\n\nAnother week passes, out of the complete blue, Dude IMs me and asks, \u201cSo how much did you get from my gift on eBay?\u201d\n\nFirst, I\u2019m freaked out because I don\u2019t know HOW he found out what I put on eBay (I never added him on any of my social accounts) but then goes off saying, \u201cThat Megazord meant a lot to me!  It was given to me as a child by my grandmother before she passed away!!\u201d\n\nME: \u201cThen why did you give it to me?\u201d\n\nHIM: \u201cBecause I wanted you to like me.\u201d\n\nI don\u2019t remember exactly how the rest of the conversation went, but I remember cringing like crazy a lot, and we eventually agree never to speak to each other again.\n\nI haven\u2019t thought about it much since, but since I did bring it up recently, I figured I\u2019d ask here....\n\nWas I an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xcWmAjYZfe5a1bfZ7GkdR1M1v6FfRIMM", "post_id": "b0u6i0", "action": {"description": "trying to get my girlfriend to be open with me about everything", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for trying to get my girlfriend to be open with me about everything?", "text": "Me and my girlfriend have been doing very well and don\u2019t argue much and we actually plan on getting engaged here soon In a couple months. We\u2019re very healthy and we have a few arguments here and there but we usually end up getting over it and I usually tell her she\u2019s right. \n\nSo we were FaceTiming while she was on a 15 min break at work cause we don\u2019t get to talk much because I\u2019m out of state (army) and we try and talk as much as we can. This time we talk for maybe 2 min and she says \u201chey I\u2019m gonna i wanna go talk to this new girl\u201d and I question her by saying \u201cabout what?\u201d And \u201cwho?\u201d And she tells me it\u2019s a new girl and she doesn\u2019t wanna tell me what they\u2019re gonna talk about.\n\nI usually drop things because I really do trust her.. but this makes me question things because I want her to be open with me about everything. I feel like In a relationship you should keep things from your S/O no matter how small. If they ask you should answer.. she doesn\u2019t feel that way. Now we\u2019re arguing because she thinks I don\u2019t trust her. But I know I trust her but her keeping secrets is making me question my trust. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oQ02vNq1GT8IrVy1GlgFqZMlMl58WWSg", "post_id": "b7oxog", "action": {"description": "asking my ex-girlfriend, who broke up with me because I was a drug addict, on a date", "pronormative_score": 48, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "WIBTA for asking my ex-girlfriend, who broke up with me because I was a drug addict, on a date?", "text": "I'm 29 years old. I dated my ex for 4 years and we've been broken up for another 4. Context is hugely important here.\n\n​\n\nWe had an incredible relationship. I've never felt more loved, happy, and fulfilled. \n\nI've always been into drugs (weed, coke, molly, etc) but my best friend/dealer managed to get his hands on heroin. I was an idiot who thought statistics didn't apply to me and I tried it. This was 7 years ago. I didn\u2019t touch it again for almost a year until my birthday where I did it. That turned into using it on special occasions to using it weekly and to make a long story short, I became an addict.\n\n​\n\nMy ex was an angel at that time and\u00a0*pleaded*\u00a0with me to get help. I thought I could handle quitting on my own. I couldn't admit to myself I needed help. My personality started changing. I would get irritable and scream at her. I would gaslight her (tell her I only used once that week knowing very well I was high all day everyday). I stole from her (not to mention my parents and friends). I was never physically abusive, but I was a piece of shit and look back in shame of what I was.\n\n​\n\nFinally, after two years, she couldn't take it anymore and broke up with me. I was a mess. I was using a LOT more, stealing more, etc. I eventually OD\u2019d and hit rock bottom.\n\nAfter my overdose, I knew that if I continued on this path, it WILL kill me. My withdrawal lasted for 10 days. It was hell on Earth, but I made it, and haven\u2019t touched any drug since.\n\nI decided to turn my entire life around. I started volunteering at local schools (I worked with administration for local schools and was able to share my experience as an addict to kids), learned new skills to fill my resume gap. I got a job as a statistician a few months later (I majored in statistics in school) and now make decent money. I started working on myself, eating right, lifting, meditation, yoga. During the first couple years, it\u2019s like I traded one addiction (heroin) with another (improving myself). I was scared shitless of becoming the failure I was destined to be in that lifestyle. I gained quite a bit of weight (muscle), look better than I ever had. I repaid every dime I ever stole (wrote them letters and checks individually).\n\nThe whole point of this context is to emphasize: I really have changed. I know I made shitty choices and I regret the person I was every day. \n\nI want to know, would I be the asshole if I reached out to her? I miss her everyday. She was my everything, my world. I\u2019ve never had anybody else I was so happy with. When getting clean, my whole thought process was to become the man she wished I was. And now that I\u2019m here, I just don\u2019t know. I know I caused her so much pain. But I love her, and I want to prove to her that I\u2019m no longer the shitty addict I used to be. \n\nWIBTA?\n\nTLDR; Former addict. Girlfriend broke up with me. Hit rock bottom. Want her back. WIBTA?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 32, "INFO": 5}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 48, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UQUJ6N7HJuVulh5e3ok6g08nzc0UlQtv", "post_id": "a4pvu7", "action": {"description": "saying goodbye to an acquaintence who was permanently moving across the pond", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for saying goodbye to an acquaintence who was permanently moving across the pond?", "text": "Basically, there was this girl I knew for less than 3 years, we both have decent careers, think MBB/IB/HF/FAANG, successful yuppies straight out of college, all that jazz. We became acquaintences because I'm bad at pool.  Anyway, I hadn't talked to her for almost past 6 months, and then outta nowhere about a month ago she told me she had been successful in pursing an offer in the UK/EU.  I told her good luck, and I wish her the best, nice knowing her, so on and so on, that was that and I told her that was going to be the last time we talk.  Come back to the present, my buddies from college are still on my ass calling me a dumbass, so I'd figured I could get the internet to agree with me that I'm not a dumbass/asshole.\n\nIn short, this is more of a \"Am I the dumbass\" than \"am I the asshole\" but its close enough.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "70jOHtlYWV5yKN2P1Ombw2LBMZ87hRPi", "post_id": "b83tgo", "action": {"description": "not cutting a customer's hair", "pronormative_score": 68, "contranormative_score": 55}, "title": "AITA for not cutting a customer's hair? (I'm a barber)", "text": "I'm the manager of a barbershop/salon. We mostly serve men, it's about 99% of our customerbase, but we do sometimes get women. We have one woman barber/hairstylist on payroll but she's on an appointment basis (sort of like we contract her based on need). We state this outright on our signage, Facebook, website, etc. \n\nJust so it's out of the way, we're primarily Muslim, we have one employee who isn't. We serve all sorts of customers, though. We all take our faith with varying seriousness: we have some employees who are strict/devout, some of us are more secular. I pretty much go by how my parents are, which is rule abiding.\n\nThe other day we got a customer in who wanted to have their haircut. I'm sorry I'm not 100% sure how to word things here. My best way of explaining was it was a male-passing woman. They wanted a haircut but we have a policy as mentioned of requiring an appointment for women. They said it shouldn't matter because they wanted a man's style/cut, but the appointment system isn't in place for customers, it's in place for us. \n\nWe're not allowed to touch women's hair unless it's family, but this rule isn't in place for women. This is why we require appointments for women: so women can be served. Not only that, but the texture/feel of hair is different for women, sometimes requires different product, different tools, etc. None of the staff on the floor that day were comfortable cutting their hair for either reason or both. We don't train in women's hair because of our religion.\n\nWe (specifically I) got told we're transphobic, sexist, bullies, etc. They stormed out and while I genuinely do feel bad, I have to think of my employees as well as the service a customer could get. The price would be the same, I just needed a couple hours notice to call in my female employee. They weren't listening to reason, though.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 54, "OTHER": 59, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 68, "WRONG": 55}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PXtCYBiyxTjRS1Sb1kXRCKvJGaDRbOKD", "post_id": "b1lyb1", "action": {"description": "not saying hello? hear me out", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Not Saying Hello? Hear Me Out.", "text": "I used to always say hello to my step-dad whenever he came home from work as well as ask him how his day was.\nWe didn't have much in common so most our conversations went like this.\n\nStep-dad walks in\nMe: Hey (name)! How was your day?\nStep-dad: Shit.\nMe: Aha same here.\n\nEventually he started saying \"I don't know why you bother asking\" and I told him that I figured I should ask in case he had a good day.\nHe kept saying this so eventually I stopped talking whenever he came home and he complained to my mom saying \"She never talks to me anymore\" even though he got mad because I was talking to him. I've tried starting discussions with him as well as show him a few drawings I've made and he just says \"Not right now\" and puts his headphones in.\n\nSo, long story short: He complains to me when I talk and he complains to my mom when I don't. I don't know if I did anything wrong.\n\nAm I The Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "n71HJ8DESuLxdnwQtSPwVKrwCtPY5eyg", "post_id": "b2icua", "action": {"description": "not asking bridesmaids for more money", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not asking bridesmaids for more money?", "text": "Throwaway here, some details changed including prices. \n\nI know this looks like word vomit, and I\u2019m sorry about that. I can provide more info if needed. TLDR at bottom\n\nMy sister is getting married in 8 weeks and the girls in the bridal party are planning on going to a bachelorette party in 6 weeks. \n\nWhen she started planning the wedding, she had a very modest budget and aspirations, which has spiraled a little out of control. The costs have trickled down to bridesmaids (5) and maids of honor (2). I am one of the 2 maids of honour. She refused to consider the idea of the girls getting their own dresses after being given a colour/colour palette. We absolutely had to shop from a specific website, which offers good deals, but I never plan on wearing this nonreturnable, $150 dress ever again. As far as I know, all the other girls are on the same boat, but no one wants to say anything because they don\u2019t want to upset her. \n\nI only know the other girls in the bridal party casually, but almost everyone is wanting to start a family and they\u2019re wanting to save up for everything that comes with that. I met with one of the bridesmaids and she told me that she was considering not going on the trip because of the increasing costs. \n\nAs for the trip, sis picked the place, which is a drive for almost everyone else. For her, it\u2019s 2 hours; for others, it\u2019s up to 8/9 hours. I found accommodations that were nice, but sis wanted to spend way more. I told her that there would be people who would not show up if it cost too much, and she told me she would pay out of pocket, and we could just pick an arbitrary number to tell the bridesmaids to pay so they don\u2019t feel like charity cases. She looked through all the choices I had chosen and vetoed them all because they were not glamorous enough. She picked a place on her own, and I still don\u2019t know how much she paid for it. I let her pick and pay because some places had different amenities. I picked $50 (not true price, just wanna stay anonymous) as the price per person. The bridesmaids enquired as to how to pay for it, I told them and they sent the money straight to sis. \n\nDays after I get notifications from the bridesmaids saying that they have paid, I get a text from sis saying that the price is higher because one of the bridesmaids is not going. Sis had know about that situation before she booked the place. She texts me to let me know, and I asked her to ask them for the extra money. She thought I was shaming her. I told her that I felt rude asking for more money from them under the circumstances, and she unhinged on me. I told her that I am not the only moh, and that she is more than welcome to ask her to relay the message to the girls. \n\nTLDR/Summary\n-sis started small with wedding planning, has spiraled out of control\n-said she would pay out of pocket for more glamourous accommodations for bachelorette party\n-wants me to ask bridesmaids for more money\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "INa3sjFiUVAjXatO8JtDdBMLcADbNhFv", "post_id": "a96h3i", "action": {"description": "treating my mother with zero respect", "pronormative_score": 37, "contranormative_score": 42}, "title": "AITA for treating my mother with zero respect?", "text": "My mom hasn't had a job since she started dating my dad 40 years ago. My whole life, my dad has done most of the cooking and cleaning and provided the sole income for the family. He makes a good salary now, and she constantly berates him for not making more, or complains that her life isn't lavish enough. She acts like a petulant child and I find it absolutely repulsive when I have to visit for the holidays (I live across the country from them, and only visit once a year). I'm so sick of hearing her bullshit. She has zero hobbies and zero interests aside from talking about wealth with her friends (who are all the wives of relatively successful men in the neighborhood). \n\nShe's never shown any real interest in my or my siblings lives. The last promotion I got, her only input was to criticise me for taking so long to get one. I'm just so sick of being around this negative life sucking force. I had to put up with it for 20 years before I could move out, and every time I visit it puts me in a horrible mood. As such, I've barely said more than a sentence to her the entire time I've been visiting. I leave the room when she enters. I'm not even trying to hide the fact that I despise her anymore. I'm so sick of everyone catering to her bullshit.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 25, "OTHER": 37, "EVERYBODY": 17, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 37, "WRONG": 42}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "f1bAciZVIufyyGMhO5TvtKq1BGSaUioK", "post_id": "aasd5i", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my depressed girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my depressed girlfriend?", "text": "So I broke up with my long term girlfriend right before we went to college a few months ago.  I really enjoyed our relationship and her as a person but I felt we couldn't keep dating anymore. We started dating about a year and half ago, before our senior year. It was fine and dandy until around graduation time. She was battling through depression and other mental issues (including an emotionally abusive mother and school stress). We went to prom together and she started pressuring me into having sex with her. It started as a joke but then she said if I really loved her then I would have it with her. And she started to say that about a lot of other things. I had my reserves because I was already starting to question our relationship, but that really made me question her intentions.\n\n​\n\nAfter that, I felt like our relationship devolved from two best friends to me being her emotional crutch. The whole summer was just me taking care of her from one dilemma to the next. I loved her and was wanting to help so I overlooked a lot of it. But the final straw was when I went on a trip to Europe as my grad present. I saved money for two years by working in fast food for this trip and was super excited. My ex was not going on the trip from going on another trip the summer before. I was only able to talk to her a few times over the trip because of the cellular reception. Every time we talked, she just talked about how jealous that I was on the trip. She never even asked me what I did on the trip. \n\n​\n\nSo when I came back from the trip, I decided to confront her about how I wasn't happy. When I did, she broke down crying and was angry that I never told her all these things bothered me. So I backtracked and decided on a break. We talked less for about a week then got coffee right before we moved in to college. She seemed like she was really trying to be better and wanting me to be happy so I thought getting back together would be fine.\n\n​\n\nWhen we moved in to college, everything just felt the exact same between us. So I finally just ended it for sure this time a week in. It really hurt the both of us. And every day after that, I was thinking about her. So about a month later, I texted her to get coffee and try to get back together. We met, she showed up with two massive hickies on her neck (that kinda hurt). We talked about college and life. She told me about all the new guys she's been with and I sheepishly avoided my lack of moving on. We finally talked about us, and she told me that I broke her and I was an asshole for not communicating. She then said she never loved me, which I knew was a lie but still hurt. \n\n​\n\nI feel terrible for leaving her in such a bad state during the first semester of college, but some of my friends are college have said though that she is being manipulative. I want to be a better person and see where I can grow. So am I the asshole for giving up on our relationship and not communicating, or was she truly manipulative and I am blinded by the fantasy of what we use to have?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "otJm0OjaQyTNFg9J3t8MAIprE4C3bRRV", "post_id": "9w098x", "action": {"description": "being upset my dad got my car fixed", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset my dad got my car fixed?", "text": "I have a 20 year old Honda. I bought it for $400 a year ago. It has massive clutch problems but nothing that can't be temporarily fixed by putting fluid in the clutch; for $400 I didn't expect it to last long.\n\n​\n\nI'm going through a breakup, and the car suddenly became way more important to me. I've spent $600 on it in the last two weeks to get new tags on it and then I had to pay to get it out of impound because I was driving it uninsured. Now it's insured, it's registered, it's mine, and the clutch went out.\n\n​\n\nOkay, fine, it's happened before. My dad has a mechanic buddy so I asked him to put some fluid in it and I'd pay for his time. Tonight, my dad say's he's replacing the whole clutch, brakes, and my bearings, and I owe him $1000.\n\n​\n\nI lost it. I realize that I need the car, I realize that I probably can't get a better one for $1000, I realize that the $1000 quote is about 75% better than any other mechanic would give me. But HOLY SHIT HE JUST SPENT $1000 OF MY MONEY WITHOUT EVEN ASKING.\n\n​\n\nI feel really stupid for being mad about now having a much better working car, but frankly I wasn't planning on ever, ever repairing a $400 POS, I was just going to drive it until it broke and then rinse and repeat. He says it will last five years and gave me a big ol' lecture on it, and I do understand that he did me a good turn, but I'm still upset about the money I wasn't asked about spending. That's a very, very large amount for me, and I just shelled out a previous $600 for something I wish I'd left in impound.\n\n​\n\nHe's acting like I'm a real dick for being upset. Am I?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JOCSWspWcmkovmSzxN13qNSoVIRXGauk", "post_id": "9y2x5t", "action": {"description": "pushing a woman to the ground when I was 16", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for pushing a woman to the ground when i was 16?", "text": "i was thinking the other day about something. When I ws 16, i went to a supermarket nearby and bought some Coke and crisps and stuff. I bought quite a lot, since I wanted to go to some fields about a couple of miles away and it was summer and there were some old ruins and shit i wanted to see. I was going to meet my friends on the way there.\n\n​\n\nbut then as i was buying them in the supermarket aisles, some woman who looked about forty or so would just push her trolley into. it was as if she was following me around to do it. we met at the cashout, and she did it again, and i just pushed her. she fell to the ground and looked blank and shocked. I just said \"leave me alone BITCH!\" and she didn't do anything. nobody in the store minded either. she just tried to harass and assault me for no reason, and on some occassions there was plenty of isle space but she just wanted to rile up some KID for kicks. was her hubby or bf not giving to her or something that she liked to harass the innocent?\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "JAvTRcuqsZU2uWBuH7T5CTTobXbOSRv9", "post_id": "b2tns6", "action": {"description": "ending a 12 year friendship over being unreliable", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I ended a 12 year friendship over being unreliable?", "text": "I\u2019ll keep it short. I\u2019ve been friends with \u201cBen\u201d since we were 12. He\u2019s kinda popped in and out of my life since, disappearing for a couple years at a time when he has a new gf etc. We recently started talking again about 3 weeks ago, and within that time he\u2019s disappeared 3 times.  I\u2019m not into forced communication texting, I don\u2019t need to talk everyday. Our friendship has always been platonic but I consider us very close. I\u2019m annoyed because one of these times he ignored my messages for 24 hours after I had an important question about something I was purchasing for his mom while in an airport. This current time, he had been drinking and was upset so I asked him to let me know when he was safe or at least open my message if he didn\u2019t feel like talking so I knew he was ok.  He has now been ghosting me for 3 days and will not open my message. \nI would love to continue our friendship but it is very intense when we are in communication and then quite saddening when he disappears as I never know if it\u2019ll be for 24 hours or 3 years. \nI know he\u2019s going through some stuff but as I\u2019ve gotten older I just don\u2019t have the time for one sided friendships where I feel like I\u2019m chasing the other person half the time. I don\u2019t have the energy to beg someone to stick around and then wonder if they\u2019re ignoring me or if they\u2019re in trouble. \nWould I be the asshole if I just don\u2019t respond to his next text when he (inevitably) resurfaces? \n\nTL;DR - wibta for ending a friendship the other person clearly doesn\u2019t care that much about ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Sly44H0rMSiq4G2NZDICWGxKpMB9cWkH", "post_id": "augcri", "action": {"description": "not forgoing an inheritance", "pronormative_score": 62, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I didn't forgo an inheritance?", "text": "One of my play aunts (aka not actually a blood relation) passed away recently. When she was still alive she lived near my actual aunt and they were good friends. Neither of them ever had kids, so when we would do something for my actual aunt (shovel snow, cut the grass, etc) we would also do it for my play aunt. It wasn't a lot of extra work on our part since we were literally up the street and it was usually an extra 20 or 30 minutes of work. It's an arrangement that worked for years and I genuinely didn't expect any compensation for it since she was always nice to me as a kid and super helpful to my kids (college letters and so on) and to my actual aunt.  Play Aunt has some relatives but they didn't visit much and weren't AFAIK close to her. Anyway my actual aunt is the executor of her estate and she pulled me aside after the services and such were over to let me know that play aunt left her property and money to me. It's not a lot, she wasn't wealthy but she owned her home, had a car, and life insurance. My aunt thinks I should just keep everything, but I know that Play Aunt's relatives are not happy about it. They talked about contesting her will, but I don't know how serious they are about it since they had that conversation with my aunt and not with me. I find myself super annoyed that now they're involved but they haven't been around for years to the point that she spent most of her holidays with us. I'd give them any family pictures and such, but not the money or the real property. My husband says it is up to me to decide if I want to give them anything, so would I be an asshole to just obey her wishes? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 62, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 62, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "d9zfhI2Iii8TSRtZecz7NZuuHdndUTVQ", "post_id": "asvz5p", "action": null, "title": "AITA My mother in-laws car broke I helped her look for a car using my connections, but ended up buying the car she was looking at for myself.", "text": "This whole situation started with my mother in-law losing her job and getting sick, after a few months of her trying to live on her own we  invited her to come live with us. So now my mother in-law is currently living in our home, we charge her 400 a month in rent and pay for everything from food to soap. Fast forward 2 years and she now been working for a different company that my wife helped her get, and is making a lot more than before. She was given a POS car from her previous job (a scrap yard) and it breaks down. I offer to help her find a new car using my connections and she agrees. I find an amazing deal on a 2016 vehicle and we both go and test drive it. After that I help her with a credit application and ask her how much she has saved so we can give a down payment. She has saved 500 dollars, which kinda confused me because she doesn\u2019t have a car payment now and we only ask 400 a month. It turns out she put herself in a lot of debt and was living off credit cards 2 years ago. So I decided to give up some of my own money to help with the down payment. We get the credit I decision back and she was declined turns out she has over 10k in collections with numerous companies and her credit score is 500ish. I end up having to buy the car in my name and decide I\u2019m paying the down payment and it\u2019s under my credit  I\u2019m going to be driving the new car. I end up giving her my current car a 2011 and set up a payment plan for her to pay me 130 more a month for 2 years. My mother in-law is fine with this considering her last car was a POS but now I\u2019m driving around in a car she thought she was going to own so am I the ass hole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "r9jkSEbhKymbYIac6YM6mOeXljaWndQy", "post_id": "a0yx08", "action": {"description": "asking a wheelchair-bound man to move", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking a wheelchair-bound man to move?", "text": "This just happened and I still feel a little bad. Apologies for any formatting errors, I\u2019m on mobile. \n\nI was at work when two people came in: a woman pushing a man in a wheelchair. The woman parked the man\u2019s wheelchair in the doorway to the store and began shopping around. The man just sat playing on his phone. The problem was the man was positioned so people couldn\u2019t enter the store without asking the man to move. After I saw a couple of people act like they wanted to come in but left because they couldn\u2019t, I politely asked the man if he would mind moving. I even showed him a spot in the store that was close by where he could park his wheelchair. He just glared at me and wheeled over to the woman. They began loudly whispering that they felt \u201cvery unwelcome\u201d and would never come back to my store. Then they left, giving me nasty looks the whole way out. \n\nSo am I the asshole for asking him to move? Was there a better way I could have handled the situation? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 19, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dmSWn2yJPbJpn9keMVRqcJAgZr1ZwNG5", "post_id": "a8fdw2", "action": {"description": "telling transgender person by his \"preferred pronouns \"", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 23}, "title": "AITA for telling transgender person by his \"preferred pronouns \"?", "text": "My work hired a new guy and he's transgender and like not even 2 hours after finally going to work he gave a presentation about his pronouns how we should all use them. I'll call him J. and about a week later 2 days ago me and a work friend was talking and we mentioned how the Lincoln car in the park was his and buddy \" the Lincoln? That's J's car right? I confirmed and I said \" yeah I'm pretty sure that his car or our boss's car. J was 5 feet away eating something and he came over and said \" you're using the wrong pronoun \" and J was still a guy despite being \" gender fluid\" I replied \" your name is J so that's your Lincoln so it's J's Lincoln \" I was going to say something else but he did a in between yell and regular talking \" but I'm not a HIM I'm not.\" And I budded in and said \" it's not like it's that important\" and  and me and my friend kind of walked away because he did the up yours arm thrust talking when he wasn't a HIM talk and 1 hour later my boss called me in his office about the incident and he said this needs to be a \" safe environment \" and said I would have to call J his desired pronouns and if I did something similar again there would be consequences and the next day every except for my friend talked to me and 2 out the 8 other people who Work here called me a asshole and walked away guys am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 22, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 23}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "YdyRU6jNDfd1rUjFptRjjIJWIrSuzghm", "post_id": "aztzsl", "action": {"description": "telling an employer my brother is unreliable", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for telling an employer my brother is unreliable?", "text": "My brother just called me to ask if he could contact my employment agency and tell them that I recommended him for work. I told him he could contact who he wants but not to give my name as a reference because, amongst other negative traits, he has had about 15 jobs in the past year. (He calls in sick frequently and gets fired.) I have a great long term (10+ years) relationship with the agency and am known as being reliable and dependable and I don't want to be seen recommending someone as unreliable as my brother.\n\nI called the agency immediately after and they said, \"Oh, your brother just called\". They were already considering putting him forward for a position at my current workplace. I don't want him anywhere near where I work. So I explained to them that he's unreliable. They seemed shocked that I would say that about my brother but were appreciative of the warning. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 19, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KPBQCB6aqbrzIW6jXy4ypFeXDolKpvMO", "post_id": "ameqy9", "action": {"description": "talking about drugs in front of my friend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for talking about drugs in front of my friend", "text": "So I'm in a friend group where about half of the people do drugs. We have a main group chat with everyone in it and a separate one for drug talk, and 90% of the time the drug talk stays on the drug chat. However, every now and then the topic of drugs will naturally come up in the main chat, and one of the people in the group \\*really\\* hates talking about drugs and whenever the topic comes up he leaves the group. He just messaged me now saying talking about drugs \"makes him physically I'll and gives him a headache\"\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uOMktXbNNlzp542bIw2EdESfSKQm7SES", "post_id": "b7fgzf", "action": {"description": "not paying Ex's Rent when I'm on lease", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Not Paying Ex's Rent When I'm On Lease?", "text": " \n\nTLDR: AITA for not paying my portion on my ex's rent, even though I signed the lease?\n\nI broke up with my girlfriend of two years. We had just moved into an apartment with eachother and signed a lease, but things didn't go well for the first week. She ended up breaking up with me and I left. We then agreed that she would leave as well and we could talk about breaking the lease with the landlord. In addition to that, I would help her cover her expenses (damage deposits, fees for breaking lease, etc) so she could set herself up (she also owes me $850 for another thing- would happily ignore that). I also told her I would pay my half of the current lease for the next three months. She agreed.\n\nShe then didn't want to do that, and so we decided she would find a room mate to cover at least a part of my portion.\n\nEventually she changed her mind and decided to stay there and have me cover 30% of the rent for the next year (grand total $5350 for about 5 days of rental benefit to me).\n\nAs it stands, it's a bad situation for me, her, and the landlord. Bad for me because the extra money for nothing (also having to support my ex's lifestyle), for her because she could barely afford 50%, let alone 70% of the lease and would be better off in something affordable, and for the landlord because both his current 'tenants' were financially devastated, uncommitted, broken up, and were likely to default at any moment. Instead of moving on and trying to get to a better position, the other two parties were relying on me to cover the damage and keep the status quo. I would rather pay them out and immediately break the agreement, but because their end is covered they would rather not.\n\nI consulted a lawyer, did some thinking, and eventually came to a solution: I decided to stop paying rent.\n\nIf I don't pay, she can't pay. If she can't pay, the landlord by law has to evict and find a new tenant. We can both equally or individually be sued for lost rental income, but no more.\n\nI'm not happy with it, and I really don't like doing this to a person that I loved and still love. It is also really disrespectful to my landlord. I know that if I was in either of their shoes I would take the opportunity to get out while it was available. I have been forthcoming in helping with penalties and expenses but they won't budge. This position is one of desperation and I feel it will be very damaging for all of us, but I don't mean it as retribution. I love my ex, respect my landlord, but when it comes to this situation I know I have to do what I feel is right by law and by my heart. The apartment should go to someone who can afford it, my ex should be living somewhere she can afford, and I shouldn't be the one filling in the blanks with absolutely 0% benefit.\n\nAm I the Asshole?  \nBonus: Am I right? I want to know what you think.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bhKBsCO0foZH2F16DP3LevMIiRpw12QF", "post_id": "aivi39", "action": {"description": "being pissed at parents for giving away my car", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being pissed at parents for giving away my car?", "text": "Small history - My parents gifted me a car when I left for my sophomore year of college, registered it with my name and everything, only they paid for it. I've had this car for about two years or so now. I'm back home for a bit and my brother (who is in college, two years behind me) was visiting for the weekend. He's had my mom's old BMW for about a month now.\n\n​\n\nI honestly don't know if I'm in the right to be pissed about this, but here it goes. My brother was about ready to drive back up to school (about a two hour drive away) and it turns out the wiring is messed up in it because he had been trying to install some stupid new lighting system in it to make it \"cooler.\" Somehow, he fucked up the brake lights and they aren't working at all, so obviously he can't drive it now. \n\n​\n\nMy parent's brilliant solution to this is to give him my car until they can fix the BMW and drive it back up to him. Which I'd be fine with for a bit, except for the fact that no one knows how long that will take or even if they can be fixed at this point, and for the fact that EVERY car he's ever been given to drive he has fucked up in some way or another. His first car: a classic Corvette that he crashed following someone that had stollen something from the side of our house. Second car: a Firebird trans am (super nice and that my dad was going to resell one day) he crashed because he was tailgating someone and they decided to brake check him. Third car: the BMW whose brake lights wiring he ruined. \n\n​\n\nI offered to drive him back to school and take him wherever he needed to get stuff until he'd have his car back to do it on his own, but my parents said because it's snowing he needed the transportation. (It snowed where I lived too and I got around without a car just fine my freshman year, I might add.) They wouldn't let him take any other cars (my mom's truck and my dad's 300) because they're scared he'll wreck them and then they'll be out of a car. They also insisted I didn't need it because I'm taking a break from school this semester and I don't have a job yet, even though I have an interview thursday which they said they would take me to now. They didn't care about the plans I've made with my boyfriend (we live across city from each other so we generally meet in the middle to avoid both of us driving far) or any other plans I had for the week.\n\n​\n\nI understand they paid for my car, but they said it was a gift and it's registered under my name. Why do I have to give up my means of transportation because my brother ruins every car he's ever had? If he ruins it, then I'm fucked out of a car now. \n\n​\n\nAITA for being pissed here or are my parents in the right to give it away because they paid for it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bGvwCYG89EHrULkWSqbOmPsXuKxqSJjn", "post_id": "ayb6o2", "action": {"description": "going to a friends birthday when someone we have a past with will be attending", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for going to a friends birthday when someone we have a past with will be attending", "text": "Bit of context is needed here\n\nMy fiance had cheated on me around a year and a half ago nothing major just some kissing with a friend of mine, I have forgive and forgot about the whole situation I reconciled with her, I forgave my friend, albeit not fully(not the same anymore)\n\nWhe  I found out I found out form my friend, no bullshit they kissed straight  up, angry for a while forgave then both.\n\nHowever it has come out recentlythat when asked about it by other people my friend would try to shift the blame on my girlfriend for the whole thing, he never brought it up himself mind, but whenever he was asked about it he would try shift the blame, now I understand that this is wrong and a shitty thing to do on my friends part, so naturally my fiance is unhappy and wanted me to complwtly cut off contact with him\n\nNow this I where to issue stands, we unfortunately run in the same social circle, we also work together so this is a hard task, so over the last year and I half I jsjt don't care about it anymore it's not an issue for me that he would be at this birthday, however my fiance sees otherwise and sees it as me disrespecting her wishes and being rather upset because I want to go.\n\nThe friends  whose birthday it is is a good friend and there will be at least 10 other people attending which I just see the issue with me going, yes he may have spun the truth, but he was also the reason I found out\n\nI've forgive both of them I want to move on but she doesn't see it that way\n\nI want to celebrate my long time friends birthday along with other friends, I don't feel like I should be stopped because the cheater will be there \n\nSo AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "N4bqXFxGbrU78wsWkgDmWInUpZGsBl74", "post_id": "aja1al", "action": {"description": "getting upset with my girlfriend because she doesn't want to go out when she's on her period", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 56}, "title": "AITA for getting upset with my girlfriend because she doesn't want to go out when she's on her period?", "text": "For some context on our relationship, my girlfriend is great. We've been living together for about three months now, and everything's been going pretty swell. She's usually very funny and laid back, just nice overall. The only hiccup in our relationship is the entire period thing.\n\nFor the first two or so days when she gets her period, she doesn't want to do ANYTHING. She just comes home from work and curls up on the couch and stays there for the rest of the day, complaining about her stomach. Even if we had plans to do things, she just cancels them. I can't even properly schedule around it because her period seems to come at a semi-random time every month. It really sucks, but I know that girls get cramps and shit during shark week, so whatever. I usually put up with it.\n\nBut this one time I got impatient. I'd reserved dinner at Little Italy in advance and had movie tickets for afterwards. I dressed up nice and waited for her to come home from work (I get off earlier than her). It was supposed to be our special date night. I'd planned this weeks in advance. She KNEW about this weeks in advance. But she started her period that day and once she got home she said she was just going to stay home, and I'd have to scrap all the plans. Back to curling up on the couch sipping iced tea while watching Netflix.\n\nI told her, and not angrily mind you, though maybe a little passive-aggressively, that I know other women (I have lived with other women before) and that none of them act like this ever, even when they're on their periods, so I'm at least a weensy bit justified in thinking she could put forward a little more effort into this and go at least for me.\n\nAnd she lost her SHIT like I've never seen before. My ordinarily sweet and kind girlfriend blew her top and called me an asshole son of a bitch piece of shit etc. etc. and I was in shock. She started crying after that, which is something she almost never does, and locked herself up in her room and we haven't talked directly since then.\n\nI have no idea what to say and I am honestly quite upset. Did really I do something so terrible by telling her that? AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 56, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 56}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "24KvYJFLmTZvssUn5kBv4sHCatj3esbT", "post_id": "amxbqs", "action": {"description": "not being happy with a low a", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For not being happy with a low A?", "text": "Mobile, sorry for formatting\n\nBackground: I'm (Minor Male) taking a business class, and 1 test is dropped out of 5. I did some extra credit and all turned in HW is automatically a 100, so I can not show up to the 5th test and get a 91.6. My dad, however, is not happy. He said that It's about not doing the minimum to get the A, and that I should study as hard as I can to knock this class out of the park. I don't have any other classes, but I do have time-consuming side projects. Anyways, I blurt out \"What, are you not proud of me for a low A? Should I not be proud of myself for a low A?\" Which of course got me yelled at for being disrespectful and never to talk to me like that again. I just don't really want or need to; studying for 50 multiple choice questions where nobody's done better than a 94 is stressful, and I don't feel up to it.\n\nReddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "y9jhHicw9DYICy3SJC4vG7PtBIAAyv8U", "post_id": "b8igcz", "action": {"description": "leaving everytime my sisters boyfriend comes over", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for leaving everytime my sisters boyfriend comes over.", "text": "Writing this on mobile currently please excuse any bad formatting.\n\n(A little background: My family is Jehovah's witness and as such my sister and her boyfriend must be in the presence of a chaperone in most situations because being alone with someone you're romatically interested in is a no no in JW culture. ) \n\nI've been leaving the family house everytime my sisters boyfriend comes over, Mainly because of their laughing and ocasional kissing but also in part due to his annoying face, its irational I know but just something about his face annoys me, also his know-it-all personality annoys me. \n\nI feel as if there is an unfair pressure on me to be their chaperone as they can't hang out without me there and as a result I've turned to leaving the house to walk my dog or do other stuff as I don't want to be around them.  I feel as if they should arrange a third person to be there if they do want to hangout. \n\nAm i being the asshole ? \n\nTL;DR due to my sisters and boyfriends religion they can not be alone with each other without the presence of a chaperone, I've occasionally been their coincidental chaperone and now refuse to be.\n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YZRxI4D9bXsezpfasELLKNbHj4WCkkB1", "post_id": "a5qi3y", "action": {"description": "going out with friends and not telling my parents", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for going out with friends and not telling my parents", "text": "So for context I am on vacation and my parents are still working and get home at around 7 pm.\n\nSo a couple of friends told me we should go to the movies today at ~3 pm. I agreed and so I left my house thinking I would arrive before or around the time my parents get home.\n\nSo we go and see the movie and we leave and we have the idea to go get some drinks at a place nearby. So we go. I get a call from my mom at 8 pm, she just got home and didn't find me there. I tell her I'm at the mall with some friends and not to worry. I then put my phone in airplane mode.\n\nOne of my friends then drives me home and I go and tell my mom I just got there. She proceeds to scold me. She tells me she was going to call the police thinking I was kidnapped/missing or something and that even though I am an adult(I'm 18), I still have to follow her rules and that means at least telling her where I am.\n\nI want to know if IATA here or if she's exaggerating a bit.\n\nTbf I think I should have told her beforehand BUT I did tell her I was fine and with my friends when she called and she was still mad at me when I got home.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "U2AXGWv1wjshuzlfybOAP1uvkZ2hTOEM", "post_id": "9u94of", "action": {"description": "getting Angry/Annoyed at this Girl", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Getting Angry/Annoyed at this Girl", "text": "I'm (19m) halfway through my second year of college and there's this girl who was in a class of mine my first semester here. She seemed friendly enough and we got along pretty well. I ended up being closer with other people in the class, and we never ended up really being close friends.\n\nAbout a year ago, me and my friends ran into her and her friends while drunk, and she spent that time feeling up my arms and I was very drunk and didn't really say anything because I didn't know what to do, but it made me very, very uncomfortable. It's weird, but I put a lot of stock in who I'm okay with physically engaging me and I only really like it from people I feel like I can trust. My ex-girlfriend both physically abused me and pressured me into sex when I didn't want it, so I have some trouble dealing with girls I don't know trying to get physical with me and I get really uncomfortable really quickly.\n\nThis past weekend, I was on tinder and saw the girl mentioned above and I swiped right because I knew her, as I normally do when I bump into people I recognize on tinder. She swiped on me, and we exchanged hello's. She asked me what I was doing Halloween weekend and I didn't reply, because I wasn't really interested in talking to her and she already has my phone number from a group project during class.\n\nTwo days later, she messaged me, \"Really??? No reply [my name]?\" and I apologized and told her to text me if she wanted to talk. She messaged me Halloween night at 1 am what my plans were and what I was up to, but I didn't reply and texted her the next morning that I had gone to sleep because I had early classes. She is now texting me asking what classes I'm taking next semester, from electives to things in my major, and I had given tepid responses over and over until she texted me \"Take [a class] with me next semester\" and I responded with \"Do I get a choice in the matter?\" and felt bad because I didn't want to be a dick so I apologized and played it off as me making a bad joke and she laughed it off and asked me again what classes I need to take. I haven't replied to her next text.\n\nIs my past trauma making me lash out and be an asshole at someone who's being perfectly reasonable and trying to express romantic interest? I can't tell if I'm overly sensitive or if I'm being reasonable about this.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mHYkPrB1bwIcJJkMRLNBGfsllhHjGtKz", "post_id": "b4acqj", "action": {"description": "expecting an apology", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for expecting an apology", "text": "Ok so om on mobile and english isnt my first language and this isn't anything important just som teenage drama buuut aanywaaayy\n\nSo I met this guy online and added him on snapchat and we talked for a bit. Then my friend saw him and added him too so now we both talked to him.\n\nFast forward to about two days ago when I got a dickpic from him that I didn't want (I didn't flirt with him in any way) so I just kinda let it slide since i kinda knew him. But i still wanted an apology. So i reminded him about it and he left me on read. While all of this had happened my friend had been flirting with him and thinks that I am overreacting for wanting an apology for it and is still flirting with him.\n\nSo AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hTElflxfk5CeBJw9BwqSl9EX3i1XZRxU", "post_id": "a6x36g", "action": {"description": "judging people seeking help", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for judging people seeking help?", "text": "I honestly feel pretty guilty about it, maybe I'm jaded, but every year at this time there are people asking for help from Individuals to help provide their children with Christmas gifts. I didn't know why, but it just crawls all over me.\n\nMost people have extra expenses around Christmas already, but there are people that I perceive as opportunistic that aren't at all ashamed to ask for handouts, and aren't too proud to blast all over social media the incredible haul their kids receive regularly. \n\n Now I understand that there are people who truly  aren't able to provide their child with the Christmas they believe they deserve. There are organizations for those people. There are toy drives all over the place this time of year. Why not utilize those?  I asked someone that and she literally said \"their toys aren't good enough\"  That yeast her child got over $1000 worth of gifts from Santa.   \n\nI  just can't get past the belief that people who beg for \"Santa help\" outside of a toy drive are basically choosing beggars. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AbSVaHsDRoN05y3lILSQ4gTjHN5ZeBI5", "post_id": "9ufl8c", "action": {"description": "yelling at an unwanted spam/robo-caller", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for yelling at an unwanted spam/robo-caller?", "text": "Usually at first I would just silence my phone and ignore these calls, but that didn\u2019t help. Then for a while I\u2019d answer and if it was offered I would press the button to be put on their do not call list, which I probably don\u2019t need to tell you also does nothing. Finally, I started pressing through to speak with someone and I would kindly request to not be called again. No such luck with that tactic either. And it must be the same few companies/people since it\u2019s always either calls about treating my \u201cchronic pain\u201d despite being a relatively healthy 30-year old, or about winning a vacation from a drawing that I never entered.\n\nI got another call today and just sort of snapped. No kind request, no introducing myself, as soon as I heard an actual person on the other end I just yelled at the top of my voice directly into my phone\u2019s microphone - \u201cSTOP CALLING ME!\u201d There was brief silence, and then they disconnected.\n\nTo be honest, I instantly felt a bit of regret. I rarely ever lose my cool like that, and the rush of adrenaline was making me feel a bit ill. That person didn\u2019t personally call me, they just happened to be the one on the other end of the line. They\u2019re just doing their job, after all.\n\nAnd yet... I feel that they *must* know that the calls they are handling are unwanted, if not even illegal. (The phone numbers that show up on caller ID are always spoofed, after all.) Surely they would expect to receive reactions like mine, if not even more harsh. And I can\u2019t help but feel that doing something illegal and/or socially unacceptable should have some level of repercussion, even if it is just someone yelling at you for a brief moment.\n\nTL;DR - Am I the asshole for losing my temper at an unsuspecting spammer/potential fraudster?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ahi4DwMqC6JwdmqTbLhr2NUBlL77sIay", "post_id": "appplq", "action": {"description": "asking my stepsister to not use my shampoo and conditioner", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking my stepsister to not use my shampoo and conditioner", "text": "Background info: My hair and scalp are very weird and sensitive. It's very long, thick, and wirey and has to be washed every other day with a certain quality shampoo conditioner. Otherwise, it gets oily quickly, my scalp breaks out, and it gets scaly and flaky. I am 19, and my stepsister is 16. We share a bathroom\n\nLast night I visited my mother, and mentioned the shampoo and conditioner I was using was pretty crappy, and my head was breaking out. We stopped by Target and picked up some medicated shampoo, and some pretty expensive conditioner(both about $35 together). Tonight I went to take a shower, and texted my step sister(she had gone to her room for the night) to please not use the shampoo and conditioner, as it was very expensive, and I needed it. I told her if she had any dandruff, she could use the shampoo and it would clear it up really fast. She has several shampoos/conditioners in the shower already.\n\n​\n\nWhen I got out of the shower, I opened the door to my dad pretty much screaming at me that I shouldn't have said that, and she could use it if she wanted. Stuff about sharing. I pretty much just explained to him what it was for and went to my room and closed the door. He proceeds to yell \"I'M NOT DONE TALKING TO YOU!\" and barges in my room. Keep in mind, I JUST GOT OUT OF THE SHOWER. I had closed my bedroom door and was about to remove my towel as he walked in. He proceeded to chew me out more and I told him to get out. I've called him out on barging in after showers before, and he knows it. Once I left the house for several days after an incident when I suspected he was just trying to see me naked. AITA for asking her politely to not use the shampoo my mom had bought me to keep my head healthy? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MRZWTCcjZJ69w6bXes2xMHFKU2muB0lz", "post_id": "b68ugd", "action": {"description": "taking my bonus and creating a \"secret\" room in my house", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 134}, "title": "AITA for taking my bonus and creating a \"secret\" room in my house (complete with a bookshelf door)?", "text": "Hello AITA. Thank you for taking the time to weigh in on what was supposed to be a fun project but has turned into a major issue between my fianc\u00e9 and I. I am a moderator on several other subs so I am using a throwaway so as to not cross the streams so to speak. \n\nLast year, after several years of being out of steady work, I was able to land a really good job. My new company had an unreasonably good year and in late February I got a five figure bonus. I have always wanted a \"secret\" room in my house, I honestly don't know why but it's just always seemed so cool to have a room where I pull a lever, a bookcase opens to my private space. I figured with the bonus the time was right so I hired a good contractor, they tore down some walls and started digging up the foundation to our spare bedroom since the secret room will have a circular staircase to a new basement. The house was my grandma's and was given to me paid off when she died so I own the house outright and have full legal authority to do this. \n\nFiance is so furious at me she's thinking about calling off the wedding. She says that taking my bonus was wildly irresponsible and that we could have used the money to pay off debt, pay for some of the wedding to take pressure of her parents or even save. I counter with this bonus was essentially \"found\" money that may never happen again so we might have fun with it while we have it. She says that we are getting married, this has to be a discussion and me digging up the foundation and tearing out several walls in the house has made it impossible for her to live in the house. I counter again that its my house. The argument has gotten so intense that she has moved in with her sister and we may be looking at the end of our 2 year relationship. \n\nAm I the asshole in this situation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 131, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 6}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 134}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "bSgMWLPrkSVNjfgiE2Lz1r9e0928CZoP", "post_id": "a68zwl", "action": {"description": "not wanting to kiss a girl", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to kiss a girl", "text": "So I\u2019m in a musical in my high school and We both play lead roles that has to kiss each other twice. At first I was willing to do the real kiss but i later found out that she had started to develop feelings for me and it has made me very uncomfortable. So am I the asshole for wanting to change my decision from the real kiss into the stage kiss? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sExDp4cugYUdp4NBdGvfxaiITBzcRBHH", "post_id": "axu9o6", "action": {"description": "not asking coworkers if they needed help", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not asking coworkers if they needed help", "text": "My boss left early yesterday and before she left she told me one of the interns was gonna finish making folders for an upcoming event and that I didn't need to help. So i think to myself okay cool I can just study for my test that I took later that night . \n\n​\n\nWell, after my boss leaves the intern comes in to our office to get the box of folders and tells me she's gonna start working on them and that she's gonna have other coworkers (approx 4-6 of them) help her. And i'm like okay cool. And then she asks me if I can help her make labels the next day and I'm like sure I'll help. \n\n​\n\nSo, they get to working on the folders and they're literally 10 feet away from me, so I can hear all their conversations very clearly and my name gets brought up. Then someone else mentions that I'm in my office \"hiding from the work\", so being the idiot I am instead of pretending not to hear I respond from my office, \"I would've helped if she would've asked for help\" and then one them says that I should've asked if they needed help. I say nothing else, but I clearly hear them all talking about mannerisms and not needing to be asked to help. Then they go on to say that since i'm my boss's assistant and they're helping my boss do work that I pretty much should be the first one there to lend a hand.\n\n​\n\nAm I the asshole for not asking the intern if she needed help? Help.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Y4t4Q1tR0qjSDd9eV8LrcsR8EuwA6Kc5", "post_id": "aqyvzh", "action": null, "title": "AITA in this situation", "text": "2 things to keep in mind when reading this\n\n\\-I'm <18\n\n\\-I just had surgery on my knee and need crutches\n\n​\n\nSo this JUST happened. My dad called saying he was on his way home but that something important should be coming and I need to get it and sign for it, so I ask what to do If they say I'm too young and can't sign he says to just tell them he's on his way home and to wait for a second. I freeze up when trying to nicely ask people to move so I can walk by and this dude wants me to just stand at the door with some rando delivery guy. Whatever, I'll try. The doorbell rings so as quickly as I can I grab a hoodie and go to open the door. No one is there so I immediately just assume its one of my little brother's friends joking around, until I see a little fedex note stuck to the door. shit. I grab it and call him knowing this is going to end badly for me. Of course, he gets upset and starts lecturing me about how I need to be more responsible and how he does a lot for me and my brother but we never listen and how he understands that I can't really walk but he doesn't ask for much and how I really disappointed him. Not even 5 minutes later and he calls me again to ask if there's a phone number on the note, I tell him no but it says he needs to pick it up after 2 so he gives me the exact same lecture as before. another 5 minutes pass and he calls again.\"Hello.\" No answer back. \"Hello?\" finally I hear him say my name so I respond with yeah waiting for him to rant about how he gives me and my brother the world but we never do what he asks for the trillionth time in my life and he snaps at me raising his voice saying how I'm the one that didn't get the door and that he doesn't deserve the attitude I just gave him. **I said t h r e e words.** Again with the same lecture except now he's saying it louder (not quite yelling, but not your normal indoor either) and has added in that my attitude is out of control and he's sick of it. I know I should have gotten there faster but I highly doubt they would have waited for him even if I did.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aaPUSIV3hbcKYIfSA8s3mDtdLKDeon88", "post_id": "az51lo", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be friends with someone who refuses to leave an abusive relationship", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to be friends with someone who refuses to leave an abusive relationship?", "text": "My friend (let's call him Bob) and I have been best friends for about a year and a half at this point. We met in high school but didn't really become friends until we started working together. \n\nSince then we would frequently go out partying together and hang out; Which is funny since I never would have thought the two of us would become friends.\n\nI ended up moving into a house with my mum that was on the same street as him, so we saw each other frequently. When he broke up with his girlfriend of 5 years (Sarah, we'll call her) I was the closest and most available person to offer him support, which brought us very close together.\n\nTogether we worked though our mental health problems, helped each other with girls and were like brothers. When he suggested me move out together, I was hesitant at first, but later jumped at the idea of living out of home with my best friend; So, we started renting a flat together.\n\nThen he met 'Kate' on tinder. Bob has always been a very sensitive person and being single after 5 years really got to him, so when Kate came along, he was enamoured with her immediately. They had sex on the first night they met and within a week he told her he loved her (and meant it). Two weeks after meeting her he told her on drug and alcohol fuel rant that he wanted to marry her and have children. It is not healthy to become that attached to someone that quickly.\n\nOne night, Bob, Kate and I went to a hotel to have dinner and drinks. As we were waiting for our food, Kate pointed out one of the waitresses (Tara) and went on about how that Tara bullied her in high school. As more friends joined us, Kate would go on to rant about how awful Tara was, until I drunkenly joked that Tara couldn't be that bad because she was pretty and I wanted to date her. This cause Kate to snap at me, calling me the \"Biggest cunt\" she had ever met and storming out to have a cry in the parking lot for 2 hours. Bob (being in love) followed and comforted her. This event was the first sign that Kate wasn't quite right.\n\nEventually Kate and I got past this incident and become friends. Over the next 2 months the 3 of us would hang out a lot. However, I came to notice that Bob and Kate would argue constantly over the smallest things and Bob's mental health began to deteriorate. Sometimes the two would argue and I would take Kate's side because Bob would get enraged over nothing.\n\nI eventually learned that Kate had borderline personality disorder and was on medication. Medication that Bob would encourage her to take, but she would refuse. She also drank alcohol which on medication (a very bad thing to do on psych medications). These things were another massive red flag: being mentally ill and refusing treatment.\n\nContinued in comments.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "W9ug7r0ttMFD7t5mSzhEccAGx2pY7uOV", "post_id": "9vnawv", "action": {"description": "not wanting to do a particular activity on a couples vacation", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to do a particular activity on a couples vacation?", "text": "So my GF and I are planning a week long vacation to a country we\u2019ve never been to before. We are excited and looking at tons of different activity ideas. \n\nShe is extremely adamant about doing something active. Typically on vacation I like to maximize my \u201ctouristy\u201d activities, especially since it\u2019s a country we\u2019ve never been to before and not \u201cwaste time\u201d. \n\nNow what she wants to do, is take a 30-50km \u201cbike tour\u201d outside of the city to go see certain famous areas. \n\nI am not against going to see that area in any way, in fact it seems amazing. I\u2019m also not against using bikes as a mode of transportation as long as it\u2019s reasonable (just getting around the city limits, biking to restaurants for dinner, etc.) \n\nWhat I don\u2019t want to do, is spend an entire day of a week long trip essentially just biking from one place to another. Neither of us are huge on biking, we don\u2019t even own bikes. I think it\u2019s an incredible waste of time to bike somewhere simply for the experience of biking that distance, rather than taking a train or bus to the place that\u2019s so far away. \n\nShe was extremely upset when I told her my thinking on this. She doesn\u2019t think it\u2019s a waste of time and is calling it an \u201cadventure\u201d. \n \nAITA for not wanting to do this? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "R4yCRqLqePe2KAH5RfkfjJMvNWskYIxT", "post_id": "a5bq9s", "action": {"description": "not getting my roommate anything for his birthday", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I don't get my roommate anything for his birthday?", "text": "To start out I currently share an apartment with two other guys while going to school. We got stuck together in the dorms last year and decided to move out together. Last year we did birthday gifts for the other two guys and a third who lived with us at the time. I spent \\~$30 or so on each birthday. Their birthdays were all during the school year so before we moved to where we are currently. My birthday was in June right in between moving out of the dorms and moving into our apartment so we weren't together for it. \n\n​\n\nThe original plan for my birthday was I was going to buy something nice online and they were going to buy needed accessories for it but I later decided to not buy it and to save my money instead.After moving into our apartment I asked them if they would be okay with us going to the store and buying a cheaper item would they be willing to just reimburse me for that. That way it would be nearly the same as the other birthdays, I just would've been able to choose what item I wanted instead of them choosing it for me. He flatly said he didn't want to come and that he did not want to do that because he didn't want to just venmo me money for my birthday or what not. I was annoyed at this point told him to do what he wanted to do and left with my other roommate to the store.  \n\n​\n\nI ended up picking up the item that I wanted and my other roommate helped me buy it as my birthday gift. We returned home and it hasn't been mentioned since. It hurt my feelings for a while and we weren't friends for a bit after that but now we hang out and get along fairly well. WIBTA if I don't get him a present for his birthday in a few months, I don't like letting people walk over me but I know it will hurt his feelings and drive a rift between us. \n\n​\n\nTL;DR. Got roommate a gift for his last birthday, he skipped mine. WIBTA if I don't get him anything this year?\n\n​", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xB5bHxrlnpXebIRU5N861YuklPnM4njq", "post_id": "an47hf", "action": {"description": "giving up on my mom", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for giving up on my mom?", "text": "So I'll try my hardest to keep this short (probably won't), thanks for your patience.\n\nMy mom (\\~40) and I (18M) live together in a small apartment near my sister's (22F) house. Both my sister and I grew up young -- she's married with one kid already and a really nice house, and I have almost two years of college and living by myself already -- and after learning I could pick a few extra cheap college credits where I'm at, I moved in with my incredibly helpful sister and her husband for a few weeks before I picked up an apartment, got a job, and enrolled in classes. My mother, coming from Michigan where her sister's store closed down for the season, came with me. As I got a job first and had a good chunk of money saved up, I offered to help my mother out by letting her live with me until she got on her feet. My sister also offered to help, lending her extra car for us to drive.\n\nSo it's my mother living with me and my sister living down the road.\n\nWe've been here for three months now, and she just about refuses to get a job. I'm stuck paying rent -- thank God it's cheap -- food, gas, and everything. I wouldn't mind doing this for the person who raised me, but considering I'm a full time student and even while working as often as possible, I can't keep up. She keeps promising me that she's actively searching for a job, but I've caught her in many lies. One example: our car has a breadcrumb feature where you can read where someone drives it; when she says she's out talking to businesses she's actually at home. She also continues to claim she has a lot more money than she really has, but whenever it's time to pay for rent she \"doesn't know where it went\" and after pulling her bank statements (admittedly behind her back) I found she never had much at all. \n\nShe's also incredibly bad with money in general. To put it in perspective, while I was in my freshman year I had student loans. College is expensive, I should have went somewhere cheaper, but that's my mistake. However, I was determined to work my hardest to get a head start on it. And, because my freshman year college billed per semester and not per credit, I was determined to take advantage of it. For that entire year I was working 60+ hours a week on top of 20 credits, averaging 4 hours of sleep per night. It was incredibly hard but somehow I even got decent grades. My point is I worked myself to the bone to get a jump on my loans. However, because I was still under 18, those loans were all through my mother, and I had to pay through her as well. Whenever I would get a thousand dollars in my bank account -- about once a month -- I'd ask her to pull it out and pay my loans. I could see she pulled the money out (joint account) the next day and thought nothing of it. Cut to when I turned 18 and took the loan upon myself. I found out I was 6 thousand further in debt than I expected.  I ripped all her bank statements and found out she was sealing money from me and not paying my loans. She did this, I assume, to supplement her lack of income because she hasn't had a steady job for most of her life. She swore innocent but given her past I honestly don't expect to ever be paid back.\n\nSo I and my sister have been doing our hardest to support her but she's too expensive to take care of, and too ungrateful for it. She lies about trying to get a job, stole thousands of dollars from me, and has the \"I don't want to talk about it\" or the \"I'm in a really bad place right now\" mentality whenever we press her on anything financial. My sister has given up on her already because she feels like my mother is taking advantage of her, and I'm hard-pressed not to. But, at the same time, she's my mom. I'm supposed to be looking out for her because she looked out for me when I was young.\n\nPlease, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YTe1sDNQUSIMYWV4vKBjwdUpIuT3S10g", "post_id": "ai6axf", "action": {"description": "not wanting to sleep with my mother", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to sleep with my mother ?", "text": "This is not how it sounds. You see I grew up in a house where privacy was non-existent and I never had my own bedroom. we moved around in a lot of different countries so due to expenditure , we rarely got our own bedrooms. My father travels a lot and this leaves my mom alone. She doesn't like sleeping alone at night because she's scared and keeps on sad-puppy-dog me into it .I don't want to sleep with her as I'm a teenager now and I have some needs and want some privacy. AITA ?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pMsljhPUXrf01kDBbgt6l19IBK6zm3BA", "post_id": "aqdf4p", "action": {"description": "not helping with an assignment", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not helping with an assignment", "text": "Background: I am a student majoring in accounting. A few of my friends in other business majors struggle with the subject (some more than others), and I always am happy to help them with homeworks and understanding concepts. \n\nHowever, a few nights ago a friend I usually help with more upper-level accounting courses texted me a picture of a homework question asking how to do it. I responded detailed instructions *with the answer* **and** *backed it to the explanation of a general concept of accounting* and that was that. Then he sent me another picture for a second question and I realized the content was too beginner-level for his rank and asked if he was doing one of our mutual friend's homework assignment. He says yes and I know for a fact our mutual friend pays him to help with homework so I said if I do the questions for him and he is getting paid, he should give me half.\n\nNow normally I wouldn't care to help for free, I have done so many many times in the past. But knowing he was getting paid for work that I was solving irritated me, so I said I wasn't going to answer any more unless he gave me half. Then he got mad at me for saying that and cussed me out because \"it's one fucking question and you know how to do it.\" At that point, I stood my ground and he hasn't talked to me since...\n\nAITA for not helping out my friend with basic level stuff I could do in my sleep because he wouldn't give me half his earnings?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UhX1xzljnwcvK0rwcQCiuvpjo5sac4P6", "post_id": "a8q1ex", "action": {"description": "not taking my little brother to the movies", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not taking my little brother to the movies?", "text": "So I\u2019m 23F and my little brother is 14, so I\u2019m his only ride because his mom nor my dad (we\u2019re step siblings but they doesn\u2019t mean jack in this story) were here to take him.\n\nHe came downstairs at 3:05pm and asked me to take him to the movies with a friend. I ask where, he says a mall on the literal other side of town (30mins away). I\u2019m sick and I had no plans of leaving the house at all but I ask what time because I was just going to throw on sweats and not get out the car. He says 3:30pm. Not that\u2019s what time we need to leave, but the movie starts at 3:30pm. Sir we are a full 30 mins from the movie theater and you want to be there at 3:30 and you just now asking? I told him he\u2019d be late. Because he will be. And then boy goes upstairs and turns the shower on... you haven\u2019t showered yet and you\u2019re trying to be somewhere by 3:30? Whatever I\u2019m not worried about your schedule you\u2019ll get there when you get there.\n\nI go upstairs and tell him to ask his friend if he can drop him off because I am frankly not his personal Uber. He says his friends parents are driving him and they live in the opposite direction, I roll my eyes and he says I\u2019ll pay you. This hit me for a second because I remember a conversation we had yesterday where he told me he was broke and couldn\u2019t buy me a Christmas gift. And I said with what money? And he said when he finds his wallet he\u2019ll pay me, I had no intentions of taking his money but then I asked how he was going to the movies without his wallet. His wallet has been lost for at least 2 days. He told me idk and that he fully intended in going to the movies with no wallet and no money. \n\nSo here\u2019s where the asshole part kicks in. I\u2019m not broke and I could have slid him a $20 without crying about it, but I didn\u2019t. Now my reasoning for this was because i didn\u2019t know if his intentions was to bamboozle me into taking him and then we get there and he\u2019d tell me that he had no money with him so I felt obligated to give him money and not leave him there broke? \n\nTo add. I took him, his brother, and his brothers girlfriend to the movies yesterday. So I feel like the asshole for not allowing him to have fun with his friend when his brother got to have fun with his girlfriend. (I paid for everything for him even his dinner yesterday so I was really not trying to buy him another movie ticket which is part of the reason I didn\u2019t offer).\n\nAITA for not taking my brother to the movies with his friend yesterday?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZhrSmVXMh443VmI67Ch27Jqslx6VxAsE", "post_id": "ay6wxj", "action": null, "title": "AITA Boyfriend went to Hotel with his child\u2019s mother", "text": "I\u2019m 23 and have been in a relationship with a man whom we will call \u201cJay\u201d. Jay has a 4 year old from a previous relationship, whom we will call Jr. So I lurk on IG a lot, and on Jr\u2019s mom page I noticed that she got a hotel for the city\u2019s festivities that night, and noticed Jay in the background of one of her snaps. Mind you, Jay never called me that night as he usually does, nor did he tell me he would be going to visit him and his child\u2019s mother at a hotel. I immediately call Jay, and he didn\u2019t call back. He waited until he was away from her, called me back and said he was taking the dog to the vet. Which I knew was an immediate lie. I hang up in his face and proceed to text him evidence, and state all the reasons why I want to breakup. He returns by saying \u201cGood. I have been wanting you to go to jail. I\u2019m going to report you for stealing my credit card\u201d the instance he is speaking of is from 2 weeks ago when I asked if he could loan me $200? He said yes I could have the loan, gave me his debit and pin and told me to withdraw it. Mind you he owes me $1000s as I have been helping him with bills for a year. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DyegojI9HABHXHK6ti1jhgIHKA521jbs", "post_id": "b9n27u", "action": {"description": "buying pregnant wife yoga pass for her birthday", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 54}, "title": "AITA for buying pregnant wife yoga pass for her birthday", "text": "My wife is 16 weeks pregnant.  She has a something called hypermesis which is \"morning sickness\" all the time, even waking up in the middle of the night to vomit.   I told her to ask her doctor for a medical leave so she is currently on temporary disability.  She stays in bed most of the day and only leaves the house to go to the hospital where she gets IV fluids for dehydration/vitamin deficiency.     \nI know I always feel better when I exercise and it helps with depression.  I think she is getting depressed because she misses her job.  I think she should leave the house and get some fresh air and stretch, so I got her a yoga pass for her birthday.   I researched local studios and found one that had prenatal yoga.   When she got the email gift certificate while I was at work, she didn't call to say thank you.  When I got home, I asked her if she got the email and she just gave me a look.  I could tell she didn't like my present.  She says she is too sick to do yoga.   Ok, maybe.   She thinks it is a rude present and that I am \"tone deaf.\"  I can get her another present...don't know what.   I don't think my present makes me a bad person, though.   She might feel better soon and want to take yoga classes.  She told her friends about it and they agreed with her that I am being an asshole.  I think it is rude to be so critical of my present.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 54, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 54}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "LD01jiKjwGuvdicRUlvuBLdiKVn6xQNB", "post_id": "aufaou", "action": {"description": "trying to fit in to my new work environment", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for trying to fit in to my new work environment?", "text": "Bit of a situation, no biggy.\n\nThis week I started part time at a new job in a new country and started my first shift over the weekend. I ain't got much experience right this second but everyone reckons I'm catching on quick enough. \n\nSo anyway I feel like a pig in a prom dress around these guys and they're accents that make mine sound like I've just fallen off the apple pie and freedom cart with my johnson in my hand. Luckily they've been acting real nice to me so far. \n\nI was in a small group looking over this machine with me basically still shadowing this half manager guy when he asks me to \"get John's arse over here\". So I went up to John and said \"Adam wants you to get your *arse* over there\" with me copying the way he said 'arse'. John for sure looked like he wasn't impressed by that for a second. And this kept happening my whole shift.\n\nI really want to immerse my self in their culture and leave my old country behind. Best case scenario for me in a month no one could tell I'm a foreign to this new place. \n\nAfter a few other instances of me adopting their lingo and phrases a couple of these guys were acting real strange to me like they weren't sure what I was doing. \n\nI really like this new country so far and I don't know why they would be pissed about me using everyone elses vocab. Thanks", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4QIXTyj16pV0w8SAnh1tzE21qf3pCzMc", "post_id": "a3wd59", "action": {"description": "wanting to join my church group in a mixed-gender sleepover", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to join my church group in a mixed-gender sleepover?", "text": "I\u2019ve been in this church group for about a year now. We\u2019re all close and a few months ago, one of our members (the daughter of the group-organizers) moved to Switzerland. \n\nShe\u2019s coming back for Christmas break, and the group is considering all having a big sleepover, similar to the one that happened before she left (but I wasn\u2019t able to be in that one). \n\nNow I want to be able to hang out with the church group over break, but there\u2019s a change that\u2019s happened. Which is now the fact I am in a relationship. \n\nMy boyfriend is extremely against the idea for the reason of there being guys. (Semi-relevant, one of the guys is gay, the other is in love with the girl who moved, and the other has nothing of significance). I\u2019ve known these people forever, and we\u2019ll be in her families house, so I feel like it\u2019d be difficult to construct anything with her family close. \n\nAITA for wanting to go to this, despite being in a relationship? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zCZN3NwJORoKwNIn8mzZ4FAF1354dU1y", "post_id": "afatcf", "action": {"description": "dumbing my bf based on his personal quirks and beliefs", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For dumbing my bf based on his personal quirks and beliefs?", "text": "I had a bf for about a year and things were going pretty well. He was sweet and tried his best to make me happy and I did the same in turn. We got each other little gifts when we saw something the other person would like and frequently went out on dates. Nothing fancy, just a nice walk or playing video games at each other's houses.\n\nThere were a few things I couldn't really stand though. My ex was really passionate about DnD and when we were hanging out or on a date he'd go on for hours about the game. I do enjoy playing the game but he never gave me a chance to speak and would keep going until I eventually got so bored I made an excuse to leave. \n\nHe was also very clingy. I have an aversion to physical contact and have a hard time even hugging family members. He would always try to hug me whenever he saw me or give me a kiss on cheek. Ive told him multiple times I don't really like physical contact but he never stopped. \n\nHe would also get super paranoid when I didn't answer his texts. If he texted me and I didn't respond within an hour he'd text me again and again, getting more frantic with each passing minute. An example was when I was helping my grandmother tend to her garden because she was old and couldn't take proper care of it anymore. After two hours of pulling weeds and placing mulch down I took a break and checked my phone to notice over 20 texts from him asking where I was and what I was doing. This happened constantly. \n\nTRIGGER WARNING FOR THE TOPIC OF ABUSE \nI REPEAT TRIGGER WARNING FOR MENTIONS OF ABUSE\n\nOn my birthday I had my then bf and two mutual friends over so we could hang out and go to a local carnival. We talked and went on rides and stuff. I worked as a camp counselor then and one of my friends worked at a daycare. We shared stories about the kids and the stuff they did that got them in trouble. My bf then said \"If a kid misbehaved I would hit them to teach them a lesson.\" I was shocked and replied, \"You shouldn't hit a kid, it's not good for their development and won't teach them anything.\"\nWe got into an argument over whether or not it was okay to beat a child instead of any other form of punishment. He didn't think that telling them what they did was wrong would good enough and the only way to properly teach them a lesson was to literally beat it into their head. \n\nI broke up with him a week later and he got super depressed, talking about how I was the only girl who ever gave him a chance and how perfect I was. I got a message a few days ago from him saying he still had feelings for me.\n\nSome friends have told me that I'm in the wrong for dumping him because we did get a long great and that one incident shouldn't have made me break up with him. \n\nAm I in the wrong?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gsKxxgEQ5gv2xVlKgMZJdDI1wx8VlnU5", "post_id": "arpguu", "action": null, "title": "AITA ex-GF is studying for the bar and doesn't do anything for me on Valentine's day. Breaks up with me.", "text": "I've was in a long distance relationship with my, now, ex- girlfriend for about six months. We live in neighboring states and see one another about once every three weeks. \n\nShe's currently a lawyer and has been studying for the bar in my state. We talked about living together, a future together, ect when we finally moves to the city where I live. This was her plan before we ever met.\n\nShe's currently working double court room (double the normal work load without any incentive) and studying for the bar full time. She warned me prior to her studying that she can get grumpy and become emotionally irrational at times. It's stressful. \n\nI've been supportive. We talk daily. I bought her premade meals to be delivered weekly so she doesn't have to worry about cooking dinner and studying. I've spent hours on FaceTime asking her test questions to help her prepare.\n\nFor Valentine's day I sent her a care package, a card, and a nice text early in the morning. Unfortunately she was having a shitty day at work. I listened to her complaints and frustrations. Did my best to validate her feelings. At one point during the day I FaceTimed her just to say hi. She seemed busy and I told her I missed her but I will let her get back to work. She became annoyed that I was ending the conversation and hung up on me.  I texted her back and said \"I know you wouldn't appreciate it if I hung up on you, I'd like the same consideration as well. I'm sorry you're having a rough day at work\".\n\nThe rest of the day goes by and that evening I was disappointed that she had not said or done anything for me on Valentine's day. We have always had a policy of, if something is bothering you, communicate it so we can fix it. So I did, exactly the way she claims she likes to be communicated with.\n\n\"I just want to let you know that I'm a little disappointed about today. I felt like you didn't say or do anything for me on Valentine's day. It just hurts a little bit\".\n\nInstead if validating my feelings she tells me that I shouldn't expect anything from her while she's so stressed with the exam. That Valentine's isn't a big deal. She then starts to claim that I'm making her feel like a shitty girlfriend and she doesn't need that stress right now, a week before her test. We end up not talking the rest of the night. \n\nIn the morning I get the message \"hey, we need to talk. I don't think this is going to work out\". I was shocked she wasn't apologizing or at a minimum validating my feelings. I told her  she could have at least sent a sweet message or told she missed me. Everyone has stress in their lives but we should still do common courtesies for the ones we love. She ended the conversation breaking up with me saying maybe she needs someone that understands her better.\n\nAm I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vOQI4zvCxgx2cHvwmlvDGd3AC5FL1JsE", "post_id": "amvphh", "action": {"description": "not wanting a close relationship with my dad", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting a close relationship with my dad", "text": "When I was born both my parents were navy and I never saw my dad because he was always deployed. To make a long story short he developed ptsd and became an alcoholic. When I was 8 things started spiraling and the emotional abuse took its toll on me but the physical abuse to my mom is what hurt me most. When I was 10 we moved states and like 2 years later he moved to the same state but different city. I hadn\u2019t talked to my dad over those two years and when he finally came to visit all he did was drink and argue with my mom. When I was 14 I found out he got married to a lady twice his age and talks to us once every 6-8 months. Now I\u2019m 16 and all he talks about is me and my little brother(13) going upstate to meet his wife. AITA for not wanting to meet his wife or see him?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6QWHX7mxrel2m0Gl1Ts88XSn2vrKiXxv", "post_id": "ak9bnw", "action": {"description": "insulting my boyfriend's mom on a facebook post", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for insulting my boyfriend's mom on a facebook post?", "text": "Context: So my bf's mom has always been crazy. There have been several events over the year and a half that my bf and I have been together involving his mother. For his 18th birthday back in December of 2017, he wanted me to come over to the apartment that he shared with his mom and his little brother. He asked his mom if I could come over and stay the night. She agreed. I got there and a little later into the night got drunk and called the police. Claiming I had broken into her home and then had them threaten to arrest me and lock me up in jail. I forgave her for this. However, she pulled this same stunt again a few months later in March. In April when my bf and I were going through a rough patch and had a really bad fight, she called me a whore and inmature. This all basically culminated into one event. I ended up staying at their apartment for the few days before my bf, two roommates and I moved into our first apartment. All was well and good until the day we moved out into our apartment. I still had a few things in the apartment like my laptop, PS4 and Xbox 360 and we had left our cat there so he wouldn't run out of the house while we were moving things in (he was a 5 month old kitten at this point and no bigger than a 3 month old kitten). Bf gets a call from his mom and she starts yelling at him and accusing him, me and our friends that helped us move, of stealing a check written out to her and 300 dollars cash. He insisted we didn't have it and asked her to look for it in a place she didn't think it was. We head over there for the rest of our stuff and the cat. My bf grabs the cat while I get my gaming consoles and laptop, all the while his mom is screaming about us stealing her money. It escalates when she starts punching me and tries to grab my stuff from me. Screaming in face \"You won't get this til I get my fucking money!\" and \"You're a whore! You're gonna fuck everyone who gives you a second look!\" and a bunch of different insults. She tackles me onto the couch while my bf is on the phone with the police. When his mom realized that he was on the phone, she started punching him and grabbed his phone from him, grabbing a guitar stand to smash it with and then tries to hit me with the stand when I grab the phone away from her. She does eventually stop and go into her room but comes back out again about two minutes later, trying to grab our stuff and bring it into her apartment again. I grabbed it back and she began punching and clawing at me, I pushed her back in self-defense and she started screaming that I hit her. I had several bruises after the incident and my arms were bleeding where she had scratched me. The police arrived, but we decided to not press charges. We went back later that night to collect the rest of our things and she tried to apologize to us. She had found the money less than a half and hour later after this incident. Well, I ended up eventually forgiving her but she was still not allowed into our apartment, which was my bf's choice and not mine. Fast forward a little and she throws my bf out of her house because he didn't bring her weed when he went to visit her. On my bf's 19th birthday, she invited me over and when I went outside to get something from the car, she started urging my bf to dump me. About 2 weeks ago, she posted an insulting facebook post towards me, calling me an unforgiving whore who is selfish. I commented back on her post and basically called her out on all of this publicly, ruining some job offers and career opportunities. My bf's family now insists that I apologize to her and forgive her because I ruined a good job for her because of what I said publicly about her on Facebook, but I feel that I shouldn't have to since I have tried several times to and she always does something again? Am I the asshole?\n\nTLDR: Bf's mom assaults me and my bf and then insults me on Facebook, I ruin a job offer by calling her out on assaulting me and her son.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8lSrQrIwCdC2YqHFCZSwbE5rVe8yx0LJ", "post_id": "9zqzhr", "action": {"description": "refolding my clothes that my SO did for me", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For refolding my clothes that my SO did for me?", "text": "So I come home one day to find my SO at the end of folding our clothes. Tbh, compared to how I was taught to fold clothes, I feel they're not well folded. But that's not where the problem really was. I only use one small dresser drawer for my shirts, so instead of the basic way of folding shirts, I fold them into tight rolls so I can fit them all into the drawer; that allows me to see all the shirt colors, patterns, etc I have available as well as letting me get them out without having to lift a pile of shirts to get to them. (My pants are the same way too.) So I told them thank you for folding my stuff, I appreciate it, but I need to fold them for what I need. So I do just that. They then say that I was very rude for doing that, and that folded clothes are still folded, it doesn't matter how they're done. \"There's more than one way to skin a cat\" was something they said which I fought back against because the point of my fold was specific to how I stored them. \n\nBut anyway. It turned into a big fight somehow. I just want to know if I'm an asshole for this, because I do unfortunately have a history of being a little insensitive. I just want to see if this is me being a dick or if I was okay.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4dZsjRMjZmmeqhAH7cQ0PkabLgWKQaA8", "post_id": "ai6ziv", "action": {"description": "using Tumblr artwork without permission", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for using Tumblr artwork without permission", "text": "This one isn't as big as a lot of posts on here, but it made me think nonetheless. Long story short, I use Tumblr.\n\nI also write short stories and post them on my page and frequently use gifs or photos to illustrate my work. The other day, I found some artwork from another Tumblr user and used it for my page. I gave credit where it was due and told my followers to check said person out for commissions.\n\nI noticed the user liked my said work.... BUT THEN, hours later they asked if I would ask them for permission to use it... I was confused, but all right. I apologized to the user. I then took down the art and removed the information to their page because I didn't want to deal with \"Tumblr nonsense\".\n\nSo reddit, AITA for using the artwork without permission and for being petty and removing it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "aiGTdwvksuWeZEPhjdO98GAgw3Z0txbP", "post_id": "b7scps", "action": {"description": "not wanting to drive my gfs drunk parents", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA if I don\u2019t want to drive my gfs drunk parents", "text": "I was at my gfs birthday party at some place in a small plaza and I was told I could just hang with her at her house afterwards. I told her I will but I need to be home by 11 bc that\u2019s what time my parents want me back.Her parents were in the plaza at some bar but not with us.So after we are done dancing and eating I drive myself to her house and she tells me she\u2019ll meet me there. I wait around for like 20 minutes outside her house and I\u2019m getting a little worried for her and it\u2019s already around 10:30. I get a text from her asking me to drive her parents home bc they were too drunk to drive. I would\u2019ve had 0 problem with this, and I understand it\u2019s her birthday, but I wasn\u2019t informed at all before hand and it\u2019s a 10 minute drive there then 10 minutes back. They offered me money after and I didn\u2019t want it and I was being a little pissy with them bc I was already gonna be late home. They texted my parents to let me stay but I said I didn\u2019t want to bc I wanted to respect my parents wishes. Now they are all mad at me for leaving instead of staying. I got home at 11:20 and my parents were obviously pissed at me despite her parents text. Am I the asshole for not wanting to stay and being mad at her and her parents for giving me no info about being their designated driver?\n ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "MPRVbEXBUEptRrniOAvk8m5eSGgjPmfS", "post_id": "b13v7c", "action": {"description": "helping my customer", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Helping my Customer?", "text": "Context: I work at a car dealership  \n\n\nI've been waiting for a piece of paperwork to come in from an out of state customer, this is time sensitive. The customer actually called me this morning asking if the paperwork had arrived since they had paid extra for early delivery. My receptionist had mentioned she saw that last name of a piece of mail and it was on my managers desk. I see the piece of mail, grab it, and get it to my title clerk to process paperwork.\n\n​\n\nAs I'm finishing speaking to my coworker my boss asks me if I had grabbed that piece of mail off of his desk, to which I reply yes. He then goes off on me, saying how inappropriate it was that I went into his office and that he has to check all the mail in. Recently someone had stolen something from his office and it really, really pissed him off that I grabbed this piece of mail.  \n\n\nNot 5 minutes later I'm walking back to my desk and a co-worker asks for help with a task. As I am about to start helping my boss comes over, tells me to stop what I'm doing, and go back to my desk because \"he just can't look at me right now\". He also informed me that he contacted my direct supervisor (he's gone for a few days) about the incident and how much he just can't believe that I went into his office.  \n\n\nAm I the asshole for helping my customer?  \n\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BwtHwEJw684EY0NiWT5S4x7RiWw7EyH3", "post_id": "b35jbo", "action": {"description": "reaching the end of my rope with watching my moms untrained dogs", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for reaching the end of my rope with watching my moms untrained dogs?", "text": "My moms house flooded and as a result she had to relocate her 2 dogs to my home. She is staying at a hotel while her home is being remediated  and renovated. It has been about two months and realistically it will be another month or two before the dogs can move back in. She has been staying at a hotel for the most part.\n\n\nI have a large dog of my own, and am home now on maternity leave with my 9 month old baby. The problem is her dogs are not trained, and go to the bathroom in the house constantly. I put a diaper on the small one so that fixed that, but the large breed cant wear a diaper. I noticed today since the snow has melted, the large breed female is killing our grass with her urine. There are yellow spots all over our lawn now. Taking care of three dogs and a baby is a lot of work and I am reaching my breaking point. The dogs are constantly barking and waking up the baby, chewing the babys toys, soiling the babys play area, and tracking mud all over the house. They both bark at night if they dont sleep in my room but keep me up all night walking around my room. I am already sleep deprived with the baby, they are killing whatever chance I have to sleep.\n\n\nNow I know my mom has it a lot worse, and she feels bad she has to leave the dogs with me. The insurance pay out is barely enough to cover the repair and her accommodation, she would be out of pocket thousands if she were to board them. I am her only option as far as I can tell. Over the past couple months she has stayed overnight twice to babysit and allow my husband and I to get away for the night. One of the nights she paid for our hotel as well. She also gifted us something we needed for our home which was worth a few hundred dollars. We have a very small home, her staying with us is not an option. I KNOW she has no choice, she always helps us and she is my mom and I love her but I feel like the remainder of my maternity leave is being ruined by these dogs. Its been a very rough patch with the baby and I have no patience left for these dogs !!    AITA for considering giving up and telling her to find another solution?   SORRY SO LONG", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LswPXNeDuWK648Tkt9VOFX5NrpKw2D8Q", "post_id": "a6tik4", "action": {"description": "explaining that my bf son shouldn't wear a cub scout hat when he's not and has never been a scout", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 18}, "title": "WIBTA for explaining that my bf (32) son (6) shouldn't wear a cub scout hat when he's not and has never been a scout?", "text": "BF's son got a cub scout hat somewhere. At first he was just wearing it at home for dress up. Lately he's wanted to wear it everywhere. My issue is that he's not, nor has he ever been, in any scouting organization. \n\nHis son has a bit of a habit of lying and making things up anyway. He probably doesn't know that he's casually pretending to belong to an organization or that people will assume that he does. However, he should be taught that letting people think you belong to something when you don't is a type of lying. \n\nAlso, scouts really care about their organization in my experience. They commit time and energy into being scouts, it's not just a costume to them. It is associated with values and standards that they volunteer to uphold, bf son has not made these efforts or comments. I think if he wants to wear the hat he should join the scouts. He'd probably love it.\n\nI don't want to talk to the kid but I wonder if it's worth even being up to his dad. It probably seems petty but it bothers me. I at least don't want him to do it when he goes out with me.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 18, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 18}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "kj5DcD4YsORgqMMU9LsDiIgUjHzcfbCx", "post_id": "ai1765", "action": {"description": "leaving home and feeling hurt about my family's reaction? are my reasons for leaving justified, or am I being selfish", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for leaving home and feeling hurt about my family's reaction? Are my reasons for leaving justified, or am I being selfish?", "text": "TW: mention of sexual assault/rape\n\nIt's been a hectic couple of days\n\nBasically, I had to sit down and come to terms with the fact that my home situation is exasperating my depression and anxiety. Long story short, my dad is a narcissist and my mom is heavily depressed but has accepted her situation and tries to minimize things; even though both of them say they want the best for me and care about me, I feel stifled in a lot of ways- I have a strict curfew, friends are vetted, I have to deal with my dad's temper and be careful to not do anything to upset him. \n\nLast year he threatened to kill me and honestly, I haven't felt safe around him since even though he joked that \"it's just how he is\". (I didn't call the cops because I have a younger sister and didn't want to deal with CPS again. When I was a sophomore he also made a \"joke\" about not needing a gun to kill my mom, sister, and I and told my therapist, who was a mandated reporter. My mom and sister were mad at me for telling my therapist that and it was just a stressful time) \n\n I think that getting some distance (just not living under the same roof) with my parents would help our relationship in the long run and let me just recover from stuff that's happened. I am 18 and will be turning 19 soon- I have job experience, and a fair amount of money saved up as well as a network of people I can stay with. I made the decision to leave relatively quickly, as in it was in the span of a couple of days. It might seem a little silly, but the main catalyst was that I wanted to go to have a sleepover at my friends house, and my dad immediately went on a tirade on how \"we don't know these people\", that I was going to be raped in my sleep by my friend's father, that I was being spoiled, etc. My mom wanted me to try to have a conversation with him, but I think those familiar with /raisedbynarcissists knows how difficult it is.\n\nThen my mom said that being 18 doesn't mean that you're an adult. She felt bad, because she said that she'll talk to my dad and tell him if I answer her texts and can drop by something to check out the house then I'll be safe. The sleepover was okay, but I just ended up stressing over about my mom stopping by and being taken home that I ended up feeling shitty. \n\nAnother thing that pushed me was that my mom said my dad supposedly got a tip that I was seen with a guy, or hanging out with a guy, and she was questioning me over a couple of days. I honestly think maybe she saw something, and is just trying to get me to tell her what's going on (I've always been kinda shy telling her about my friends). \n\nI packed a bag, was dropped off somewhere, and after a couple of hours called my mom to tell her that lately things at home have been stressing me out, and I need a couple of days to clear my head, and that I'll contact her soon.\n\nLet me put what happened in bullet points to be concise\n\n* said that I can go spend the night at my grandma's house, that my mom can book me a hotel, or that we can go apartment hunting together as long as she knows where I am at all times (not necessarily a bad idea, but I still wanted some time to myself, and was extremely skeptical because I don't think dad would've been on board- for a decision like that, he'd give a lot of pushback. If it's okay for me to be a little mean, she hasn't shown that she's strong enough to set boundaries with him)\n* started yelling at me \n* said that she was going to find the address of my boyfriend and show up to his house by using Facebook\n* texted me about our \"home situation\" and that we have to maintain it (like isn't that a euphemism for abuse??) \n* went to the bookstore I used to work at and told my friend and I was missing \n* went to the friend's house I spent the night in and got her mom to come to my friend's job and said that she was going to call the police to find me (I called them ahead of time and told them I'm not a missing person, and explained my family situation a bit)\n\nI've been trying to lay low, but I've been feeling a lot of guilt from my family and from myself. From all of the calls and texts I've gotten, they're not mad but are just really worried. My uncle actually reached out and said I can stay with him and he doesn't have to tell my parents, that he's worried I'll be taken advantage of. My grandma has been crying because she's convinced something terrible happened to me, and my family isn't telling her\n\nI have a boyfriend, and since **they have access to my call history and my text logs** they probably know about him. So that's extremely embarrassing :( I love him and he's been really strong and supportive through all of this, and even though I should not worry about this right now, they probably think he manipulated me into leaving if they went through that deep. \n\nRight now, my plan is to just stay hidden, call my grandma to tell her I'm still alive and love her, and just do damage control while moving into my new place soon. \n\nAnyway, I tried to do my best to explain what the last three days of my life have been. Am I an asshole for leaving?? Could I have handled things better? I honestly did not expect **this.** I never said I was running away or never wanted to see them, but I stated plainly that I'm not happy with the way things are at home and needed my own privacy for a couple of days.\n\ntldr; family is Pakistani Muslims who had a collective meltdown to me leaving home and going low contact for a couple of days. didn't want to sit down and tell them because I knew they would shut me down immediately from personal experience. am I an asshole for stressing everyone out?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pmF8Om0e1NO7Q6fZHrPl5PIZtyizoBz7", "post_id": "ab3v0h", "action": {"description": "being upset that my ex is getting with a guy who she told me not to worry about", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for being upset that my ex is getting with a guy who she told me not to worry about.", "text": "First off, we\u2019re both seniors in a Nashville high school. Me (M17) and her (F17) have known each other since fifth grade, and had been great friends throughout school. We were in the same friend groups. Then, we decided to get together. We shared all of our firsts, and everything was going absolutely perfectly.\n\nShe has a disorder that doesn\u2019t allow her to drive, so I would be her mode of transport. I was perfectly fine with it, and it was fun, although the rides were needed to a point where my family was mad at me for taking her so often.\n\nFor a weekend in November, we went on an extracurricular trip to this hotel where you were paired into groups and debated and other little fun things. During these two days, a boy, who was also 17 and from Memphis, gave her his snapchat. She took it, and kept snapping him back and forth, and kept insisting that he was just a friend and I had nothing to worry about. \n\nWell even after the debate thing was over, she kept snapping him. I asked her if she could stop cause it seemed as if he kept her attention more than I had. She promised she did. She \u201cdeleted snapchat\u201d, and said bye to him.\n\nThen, the next few days, on our days out we were just as happy as we had been, and I was driving her to friends houses and work. Everything seemed great, but I noticed that she was still snapping him, and I asked her about it and she denied, and then I just told her I knew she that she still was.\n\nShe broke down in tears and begged me not to leave her in my confrontation. I felt broken, and I still loved her for sure, and I thought her begging showed that she did too.\n\nHowever, it wasn\u2019t the same after that. She and I still went on car rides, but I didn\u2019t feel the same. I just felt sluggish for some reason. She was peppy and energetic, and was really let down by all this. I started spiraling into a sadness that just seemed to never end, but honestly she would cheer me up so much, just because I felt her love.\n\nOne day, she really wanted to go to her friends Christmas party, but I had a lab after school that day, and I really didn\u2019t want to drive to the party. Looking back, I regret this so much, it really would have made her so happy, and I can\u2019t help kicking myself over it.\n\nThen, a few days afterward, she and I were sitting in my car five minutes before class, and she told me that we needed to take a break in our relationship. I broke down in tears so hard, I still can\u2019t believe how emotional I was. It was bad. She told me that she wanted to become more independent and non-reliant on me, which honestly, looking back I respect a lot.\n\nShe still wanted to be friends, and it was hard for me to do. I still wanted to be with her.\n\nA day later, she texted me and told me that she loved me, not as a friend, but as we were. I didn\u2019t know what to say, so I met her, and hugged her, and she talked about how much she missed everything. I felt amazing. However, at the end of the day when I met up with her, she coldly told me to go away and that she just needed space. God was I confused. I literally don\u2019t understand how that shift could have happened in less than three hours.\n\nI messaged some of her friends who were also my friends about her, and just what was going on. I went WAAAAYYY too emotional and kept saying stuff like \u201cbut I want her to know I\u2019m still in love\u201d and stuff, and they told me they weren\u2019t sure what was happening either. She caught wind of this, and was blasting me through texts, and was furious that I wasn\u2019t leaving her space, which in the present, I understand.\n\nI gave her some space, and I started acting as her friend again. Sending her memes and stuff and just having fun with texting. She then called me and was crying and telling me that her parents found out she was buying weed off someone because all of her incoming texts were sent to her parent\u2019s phone as well. And then she mentioned that the guy who she was snapping was bringing her a fake ID, and they knew about that too. Then she casually mentioned that they were going on a date.\n\nI was so disappointed. I don\u2019t know why. I guess I was still into her, but it was only a week since she took a break. I felt like she backed against her word of being independent. I felt betrayed. I didn\u2019t have any motivation to help myself anymore, and I was back on the rollercoaster of emotion I was during the week. \n\nThe next day was the last day of school until our break, and I wanted to talk to her face to face about this. I told her that he destroyed our relationship, and I asked her how she thought that was okay to do to me, as she said I was her best friend. The last thing I said was \u201cyou can choose either me as your best friend or him as your boyfriend, you can\u2019t have both\u201d. She stormed out and told me not to talk to her. \n\nShe was throwing nasty texts at me after that, and things just turned toxic. She said that I should feel happy for her, and that this week has been the worst in her life, because her parents acting crazy.\n\nI felt like she totally didn\u2019t care about my emotions at all. She didn\u2019t realize how bad she was confusing me and hurting me I guess. I don\u2019t know. She\u2019d been talking bad about me the whole week apparently, saying that I was \u201cnever going to move on\u201d, telling that to so many people.\n\nWas making her choose an asshole move?\n\nEverything is so toxic with her now, and I think our relationship is totally ruined. I can\u2019t stop thinking about it over and over, and I just want some closure. \n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XqRiwmRax0gUGjB8LTvmBKjJUJFnX85G", "post_id": "9ymd07", "action": {"description": "wanting my brother to stay with family during Thanksgiving", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting my brother to stay with family during Thanksgiving", "text": "So I\u2019m a junior in high school and my brother is in 7th grade. He wants to hang out with his friends for Thanksgiving dinner and not eat as a family. I don\u2019t think this is right and that we should eat as a family like we have for the past 10 years. I understand he can make his own decisions but he\u2019s still only 12 and I\u2019ve always thought that Thanksgiving is a time where people should gather with their families. AITA?? btw ik this might sound stupid but I\u2019m really curious", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eE0ApmIGzSoBOIgtXgEBmcQDhU6pVcta", "post_id": "b0sr0d", "action": {"description": "making someone use there holiday to grieve over there mothers death", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for making someone use there holiday to grieve over there mothers death", "text": "So recently one of my employees mums passed away and she had two weeks off for grieving. She now wants the day before and after the funeral off. I said yes but we have to take it off of your holiday that she has already booked off. She is okay with this as she has no plans for the holiday but I feel like I should let her keep all of it because of the circumstances. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 4}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "C5gfCQaw4nUIx6ZRyYGY3Bx724NuMmKb", "post_id": "akrm7i", "action": {"description": "implying this guy is a stalker", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for implying this guy is a stalker", "text": "So a bit of background, I met this guy, let's call him Ryan, on tinder around 4 years ago. We got on well when messaging but never actually met in person due to distance. I stopped contact with Ryan when I met my current boyfriend of 3.5 years.\n\nI met Ryan on tinder in the winter of 2014, a little over 4 years ago. We spoke almost everyday for a couple months and got on really well. Due to distance and other circumstances we never met up in person though. In the April of 2015 I met my current boyfriend. We hit it off almost immediately and when things got more serious with him I deleted my tinder and told Ryan that I now had a boyfriend and was no longer interested in pursuing anything with him. I did ask if he wanted to remain friends because we got on but he said he didn't want that. \n\nSkip to a few days ago, I got a message from Ryan on Instagram. It seemed innocent enough so I chatted to him for a bit. We were talking about how we've been getting on and what we've been up to, normal conversational things.\n\nAfter about an hour he asked if I was still seeing my boyfriend, to which I said yes. (Were relatively private on social media and we don't tend to post much about our relationship) Ryan clearly though this meant we weren't in love anymore or that we wasn't happy. I assured him that wasn't the case.\n\nAnyways, he started saying how he was still in love with me and hasn't been able move on because of how he feels. Baring in mind we've never met and hadn't spoken for almost 4 years. I found this hard to believe, I've had guys used the 'L' word to try and get in my pants before o assumed it was the case again. He was adamant it was true and starting listing off the exact dates we started taking, the exact date I told him I met someone, etc. At this point I was getting a little creeped out. \n\nI tend to try and use humour to make situations less awkward, so when he said 'you're the most beautiful and kind girl I've ever met, I'm so deeply in love with you' I said 'you don't know me, I could be a man in real life for all you know haha' I was trying to get this thought out of his mind and say that I've changed a lot since we spoke last. This is when it got weird. He started INSISTING that he knew what I was like in person he that I was just as perfect as he would imagine. He was telling me things about my personal appearance and it was just very strange so I asked him to stop because I was feeling  uncomfortable with the topic of conversation. I outright asked if he'd ever seen me with out my knowledge. He went crazy on me. Sent around 50 messages about how I'm evil for implying that and how I've ruined his life and broken his heart etc.\n\nI've since blocked him but it's been playing on my mind. Did I go about this the wrong way? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Hqkepch8DafMKOSQtwB6sQvvnWSFW7Od", "post_id": "awblkm", "action": {"description": "not standing with my roommate on the bus", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not standing with my roommate on the bus?", "text": "We happened to catch the bus at the same time today,  which is unusual because he usually leaves earlier than I do. \n\nWe got on the bus together and I swing into a seat to read. My roommate is standing a little ways away,  and gives me a dirty look for sitting but in my head I'm like \"I have much father to take the bus,  and I want to read, and its not like we're going to talk cause it's early morning\"\n\nI forgot about it. When I get home from work I ask him \"how was your day\" and he says \"I've recovered\" and I ask \"oh were you feeling sick? \" and he says \"no from my roommate ignoring me on the bus\". So then I kind of laugh awkwardly and go \"well it's a dog eat dog world out there... \" (me trying to suss out how upset they truly are because sometimes we give each other a hard time but don't mean it too seriously,  you know?) \n\nI can't remember exactly what happens next but he was obviously kinda pissed so I say,  if I'd known you were upset then I would have stood with you but I wanted to get comfy and read my book\" so he says \"I'm not upset,  I just didn't know my roommate was rude\". \n\nAnd it pretty much ends there. AITA??  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "odRT4ru5v3Tc4ByXMZ1MQVqqVQs7OsWx", "post_id": "9u1y64", "action": null, "title": "WIBTA my friend who stays in my place always breaks/damages shit and ive had enough?", "text": "So i moved to a different city to live with my boyfriend and a good friend of mine loves to come stay in (previously his, now our) apartment when we\u2018re away. We subletted the place (at no mark\u2013up) to her exboyfriend even a couple of years ago when my boyfriend was staying with me for a few months in my home country. The apt is a pretty sweet contract (extremely cheap for a big city with an awesome location). While staying there, exboyfriend and my friend broke a number of items (always our best shit - expensive glasses, plates). Gave a meek apology. Whenever we have been away, we have always let her stay in our place for free. And we come back and something is always broken. \n\nThis time, she (and new boyfriend, who ive never even met) for over a week and gave a small contribution to rent while we were away (less than to even cover the rent, \u20ac150). I warned her about avoiding water marks on our new dining table which is oak and damages easily. She said she would be super careful. In the bedroom i come home to find my new \u20ac500 dresser (my 30th birthday birthday present) has been irreparably damaged with water marks from drinks, smack bam in the middle where you really cant cover it. Oh, she also broke a \u20ac40 wine carafe and left \u20ac20 to replace it. The damage on the dresser meanwhile was covered with magazines (seems to have tried to hide it).\n\nSo, i finally plucked up the courage and texted her asking what happened. She apologized, expressed shock, and made a really half\u2013hearted statement about whether there was anything she could do, could i cover it with something or could she give me money. \n\nNow i dont know what to do because we can fix it and its a damn \u20ac500 table. I think i need to tell her this. I dont know whether to expect her to actually give me money though. She is my friend, but she cant keep damaging/breaking peoples shit. My boyfriend is also a little annoyed at the idea of me just letting it go, because his hard\u2013earned money paid for it. We are not rich people but we are trying to build a nice home, this table (along with the other one) are basically the fanciest stuff we have. \n\nWIBTA to ask her for money? WIBTA to simply not let her stay here ever again? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JeWssmc8515Yk7lDImiGTg4WgTyqKvgF", "post_id": "a7j8ko", "action": {"description": "not helping my mentally disabled brother with his video game", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not helping my mentally disabled brother with his video game?", "text": "Throwaway here, my brother is 19 and I don't exactly know his disability exactly hes just, slow? Hes a 19 year old basically with the mentality of an elementary aged kid. Now he loves his video games and his ps4 but due his disability hes not that good, even on easy mode. Now usually I help because hell I like video games too what's the harm? But whenever he gets a new game for the next couple of weeks I am at his beck and call. I don't know why this upsets me it's literally only 5 minutes usually but today I just told him no and to work through it. I didnt get in trouble but I felt really shitty about it. But when I was a kid I didnt get any help, I worked though it with trial and error. I just feel like the biggest asshole leaving him helpless and I need to know if I am being the asshole, thanks!\n\n\nP.S: the game is sleeping dogs on ps4 and he really only needs help with the combat so I'm not knocking his gaming skills, but hes played and beat (with my help) three games with essentially the same combat. Tap and press a button to dodge.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SSgGFZBBlIMK3IyohuqXNMJBZlMK3n5z", "post_id": "afmn98", "action": {"description": "telling my now ex that I didn't love due to me not being able to should I have lied to her", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my now ex that I didn't love due to me not being able to should I have lied to her?", "text": "First, ever post so excuse my shit grammar, \n\nTo start for contexts, when I was a kid I went through some really bad trauma because of my mom (she was very abusive) to the point that as a survival move my brain turned off my emotions and complete empathy, for comparison like a sociopath but not to that extreme. Over the years as a kid, I had to develop how to communicate with other people and how to read what is happening, like I didn't understand what it is to be happy or the need to cry. I learned everything to appear normal and developed my own personality to connect with people, I think of a response that the personality that I made would have to every possible thing I have to react and act too. It does take a toll on my mental strength to have to think of what someone would have to react to, with that I take brakes from people at times and I have done it to my ex about halfway into our relationship (for about a month).\n\nNow back to the story, our relationship wasn't perfect like most we did fight about a bunch of things but we always did realize what we did and makeup after like a day if that. I found out some things about her past that made me change how I viewed her, she cheated on her ex who I was friends with and she had a not so safe tumbler page which at the time was filled with her own cp ( 15 to about 19 ) which was also the reason one of her exes broke up with her. After finding all that out we did talk about it and she did delete that page but after that I found out that she was still talking to people that she meet from that page and before we started dating she was talking to a guy that was in the area of the college she was planning to go to, it was hard for me to trust her but I did forgive her for not telling those things because we always talked about how cheating is the worst thing you could do to a person, but in the end I kinda ( this will sound confusing to what I said above but this is what I mean when I act with my personality) felt bad for her and if that part didn't happen we would have been a good match , we were really close she told me almost everything that happened to her and her deepest secrets we where really good friends. fast forward some time and we were doing long distance ( i know, not great ), I was taking some really intense insomnia medicine which had the side effect that made me have really bad anxiety and I was in a really rough spot in my life. During that time she basically gave me the cold shoulder and wasn't there for me when I was always there for her. after some time, my dumbass decided to tell her my deepest secret    \n( she already knew some of it but not the full extent of how bad it is) I told her on the phone \n\nme: I don't know the feeling of love\n\nShe: does that mean that all we did was fake\n\nme: no I just can't feel it that doesn't me that what we did was a lie  \n\nshe: did you ever love me? \n\nme: once again I can't feel it so no, I'm trying not to lie to you anymore\n\nshe: you don't love me?\n\nme:  I act in a way where if I was normal, that person would be in love with you, I just can't feel anything. If you still want to date I would like that but if you dont I would understand.\n\nwe broke up after that, and I understand why but I thought with all the things I was there for her that for the one time I needed help she would be there for me. I do go to therapy for the lack of emotions and empathy. \n\nTL DR, I cant feel anything and had to \"lie\" in order to appear normal to people and told my now ex that I didn't love her when I'm not capable to do so.\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mkHYfuVOq3qgeEeVCdWFe5fpAfu1DBk0", "post_id": "a3ov2b", "action": {"description": "telling my fianc\u00e9 I want to wait to get married until he is off drugs", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for telling my fianc\u00e9 I want to wait to get married until he is off drugs?", "text": "Recently I found out that my fianc\u00e9 has a past with drug abuse. He abused Oxycontin for about 4 years prior to me knowing him. When we starting dating about a year and half ago he went to the doctor and is now on Suboxone.  I did not know any of this until last week when I found his prescription. Even tho it is prescribed I do not feel comfortable marrying someone with a drug dependency. I haven\u2019t told him yet, but AITA if I tell him I want to wait until he is completely clean to get married? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tPvBVmv8dq8sQSy5XLs9LFGJlZWyHEM7", "post_id": "b36nd7", "action": null, "title": "AITA Is my girlfriend the asshole for not selling concert tickets to a friend's friend", "text": "Ok, here we go late september 2018 my girlfriend  and her friend (who we will call C) wanted to go a PATD! Concert in March, so she bought the ticket via giving C the money so she could keep the ticket until they met up for the concert (it's in London and we're hella far away) fast forward to early april, she has 2 jobs and university to contend with (which she does somehow because I'm assuming she's a wizard) she tells her other friend, L, that she probably wasn't going to be able to make it because of work and other commitments so she floated the idea that she might want to sell the ticket to make some extra money (key word: might) fast forward a week later and my girlfriend gets messages from both C and L, C asks why she would want to send the ticket to L, this greatly confuses her until she looks at the message from L.\n\nL said to C that she already decided to sell the ticket and found someone else to sell it so \"depending on the price\". She gets a bit upset, saying something along the lines \"well fuck man guess i dont have a choice since you decided to sell them without me\" (which L alleges that C messaged L about whether or not she was coming, which smells like BS because theres no reason it would come up in conversation that she was thinking of not going unless she brought it up on purpose).\n\nC was asking my girlfriend how she went about this, my girlfriend tells her that she hasn't actually said she isn't going to, at which she asked C to send her the tickets because she is actually fairly upset at this point that L kind of went behind her back to try and get this ticket.\n\nIntroducing M, the prospective buyer and L's friend, M seems genuine that they want to buy the ticket at the actual price she bought it, even though my girlfriend wanted to make a profit on the ticket (which was clearly communicated to L), so M is willing to buy at full price, but the issue is that L went behind her back to M without consulting her in the first place about it.\n\nSo now my girlfriend feels really awkward because L already agreed a price with M and now my girlfriend has to say no to M, (she's an awkward creature and I can see how much this hurts, she's also Indian and would probably kill someone over a penny (jokes)), since the concert is in less than a week, she was pretty confident in getting a tidy profit from the tickets as scarcity and demand both increase (its looking like over \u00a3100 in just profit it's not scalping, she only bought one ticket and originally wanted to go). Is she the asshole?\n\nBackground info. My girlfriend had sort of been falling out with L over the last few months since she had basically been shit talking about everyone she knows behind their backs and and generally trying to treat my girlfriend like a Fusion King (If you ever find yourself in Aberystwyth, Wales, go there its fucking lit) mule and accusing her of being a bad friend for not making the time of day for her.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lMiTzgTjjUvItwKQpNqnZdUGeVCRkF4k", "post_id": "afbkeo", "action": {"description": "wanting to live in a mental health institute more than living at home", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to live in a mental health institute more than living at home?", "text": "Poorly written TL;DR version starting in the fifth last poor man's version of a paragraph.\n\nI'm a 17 year old girl currently in my final year of high school. I'm doing okay in terms of grades, and I'm hoping to go to University and then Law School.\n\nMy family has always been very stressful to live with, and I think possibly abusive. My parents are always fighting, for about anything you can imagine. They don't really try to hide it either, and while it's mostly verbal assault, my Dad will sometimes break things, and push me around forcefully.\n\nEver since I was little around maybe 8 or 10 my Mom would cry over the fights. I would try to comfort her, and she would tell me how she wanted to divorce my dad, but wouldn't, for what I assume is financial reasons, although she claims it's for my brother and I.\n\nWith that being sad, my Dad never notices when he's in the wrong, I don't remember him ever saying sorry once. So when these fights break out, he'll sometimes tell me that It's my fault that my family is fighting. I think this is because of my mental health issues.\n\n I have anxiety (which follows with physical pains like chest pains) and OCD; possibly Psychosis too, but that's from my own research.\n\n Sometimes I try to ignore these compulsions and fears but I'll end up crying and screaming in the middle of the night, which I know isn't helpful for anyone, and I feel really bad about it. My dad will come yelling about how much of a terrible person I am, which only makes me want to cry more. My Mom will try to stand up for me, but then my Dad will yell at her for being against him rather than with him.\n\nNothing I do seems to make them happy. Whether I follow my compulsions and fear or not, my family will be mad.\n\nMy Dad often claims I'm just making up excuses to avoid things I don't want to do, like going to the beach because I'm scared of having a heart attack during the drive and no one can help me, or eating at restaurants because I might get an allergic reaction. I don't think he understands my fears, which is fine, but I hate the fact that he acts like he knows everything.\n\nHe never recognizes when I break through my shell. He only comments when I do something bad like following a compulsion. I can't expect him to cheer me on for going to beach like I'm a baby, I just want him to notice that I'm trying.\n\nEven when I say this all, I don't hate my dad; I do love him. He tries to help me, but he's not a very... emotionally intelligent person, even for good things. I recieved a 98% in my English class this fall (hopefully it stays up there) and even then my Dad didn't seem a single bit happy; just cracking a joke that it's not a 100%.\n\nTL;DR Off the long context tangent, and back on track, ever since I went to daycare, my parents would threaten to take me to a mental health hospital, or whatever. Of course, when I was young, being away from my mother scared the crap out of me, but now that I'm 17, 18 in exactly two months from now, I am honestly debating the idea of going. \n\nAt this rate I'm just getting worse, now with the fear that my Dad is going to kill me, or something is going to possess him to do it because I'm ungrateful. In terms of my anxiety, it has gotten worst, once being a \"social\", happy kid, to a high schooler's definition of a \"loser\".\n\nI feel like an asshole for thinking my family is not helping me, especially when I know they're trying. I recognize their hard work as immigrants, and I appreciate it with all my heart. They just make everything so much worse. I feel bad enough about my stupid problems, and they only make me feel worse.\n\nAm I a bad person for feeling like this?\n\nSorry in advance for any mistakes and poorly explained thoughts, and thank you in advance for your opinion on this trivial thought I have. And if you can't tell, I'm a terribly sensitive person, so please... just... don't be too harsh UwU or do. Whatever you please! Thank you!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zqKRZyJNsl5b7zOiB96lM54qPavdX1Bq", "post_id": "axwwtr", "action": {"description": "deactivating a random person's Facebook account", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for deactivating a random person's Facebook account?", "text": "I'll be as brief as possible and BTW I'm on mobile so plz ignore the minor errors...\nSo last month I created a new email ID that I haven't used anywhere still... Suddenly after a few days, I get notifications from a random FB Acc, let's say her name is X now for her sake... And I get notifications every single day after tht about her one frnd sharing a link (she was the only frnd to X, I checked out her acc Frm mine) ... This continues fr a few days and I just sent her a text in Messenger asking her to change her Email to something which she owns... It was sent, but not seen nor received... I let it go, but then it keeps continuing... Today I couldn't take it anymore so I just logged into her acc using the email ID and checked her last seen etc... The only thing in her timeline was tht one frnd asking her which college she was gonna join, tht too in 2009... That's it, nothing else... (I did not check anything else in her acc to be noted)...\nI did what was supposed to be done... I deactivated her acc...\n I don't understand how FB assigned my ID fr an acc which was idle fr nearly 10 years or more...\nThe thing is now I feel guilty doing it... \nAITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kUgjIM1fzfsTmQUIFq0xpe5WhLy1kEL0", "post_id": "ayio3j", "action": {"description": "not giving change to homeless people", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA because I don\u2019t give change to homeless people?", "text": "Like sometimes I feel bad for homeless people and want to help but I\u2019m in no better position myself. I literally live of the clothes I make and sleep in my car. My mom moved to America wen I was 9 and I later joined her when I was 15 and because of certain \u201cimmigration\u201d laws I couldn\u2019t even hold a minimum wage job. I had to find a way and even to this day I have to find a way. Most homeless people are born i here in America and could easily clean themselves up and try and sort themselves out. I just feel like if I can do it so can they. This year I don\u2019t plan on being \u201chomeless\u201d and I think I might make a lil booklet and hand it out to other people who want the help or at least guidance ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "RILOF0YPcb2OJqEuP7CgH3rJlcEz3IDc", "post_id": "ae31e8", "action": {"description": "telling on my sister", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for telling on my sister?", "text": "Im 23. My sister is 12. I made her a Instagram about a year ago. Recently i noticed some concerning language on her Instagram. Normally i wouldn't care about her swearing (because....whatever) but there were things about challenging pedophiles and cursing people out in comments. 2 weeks ago i texted her telling her to watch it a bit and she ignored me. Recently, she added the bit about pedophiles and i was...very uncomfortable so i texted our mom and let her know. \n\nShe doesn't exactly have a basis for online behavior yet since shes young and me talking to her about it....didn't work. But i feel like a 13 year old tattletale about it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eUEv7DpRLBTWOjUb9BzwlEHJ1x4ea9ex", "post_id": "aus7ob", "action": {"description": "not moving out of home with my cat", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for not moving out of home with my cat?", "text": "This may be long, sorry. \nBasically, 7 years ago my family got a cat and it was dubbed as mine. I love this cat a lot and it has helped me with some really dark times. I was 15 when we got this cat so naturally I have moved a few times away from my family.\n\nI live in a country where renting is HARD and even harder with animals. When I've gone flatting I havent been able to take him. \n\nThe last house i personally rented last year, i was able to get a dog which i was over the moon about. Since then I've moved back into my family home due to finances. Now my husband and I are back on track with money, we want to move out. We may get lucky finding a rental that allows a single small dog, but it will be hard to find one with a cat and a dog.\n\nMy sister moved into my mums house, too, with 2 of her own cats. Before this, my cat was fine, but now my sisters cats try to antagonize him as well as attack him. Hes only had a few scratches but the other cats have been a bit more significantly injured. (Just bigger scratches, nothing life threatening)\n\nMy family want me to either give my cat away or take him with me, which I've explained I cant. My dog isnt very good with cats (which isnt a problem at my mums because we have our own seperate area where they dont cross paths) and she chases him which obviously my cat does not like. My cat is also not very good at changing houses and plays up for a while, which is too risky for a rental where we have to be intense about not damaging it at all. Also, I've noticed a lot of people have outdoor cats so I worry that moving my cat would just cause problems with other peoples cats in a new area.\n\nMy cat has lived with these same people for his whole life and has only had issues since these other animals were introduced (1 year ago), yet they want to get rid of him. I dont want any animals to be given away, but theyve been making me feel incredibly guilty about all of this. My cat seems to mind his own business and just retaliates when hes approached.\n\nSo, AITA for not taking my cat with me or wanting to give him up?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "z9I4oMrZbI4ZgOkOebxuBQs7HV86lzmh", "post_id": "ay0pq0", "action": {"description": "not inviting a \"friend\" to MY birthday party", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not inviting a \"friend\" to MY birthday party?", "text": "Some backstory. My birthday is in June. I'm a 180 pound (important part of story) almost 14 year old kid. I am considered obese, but hell I don't look nearly the part. I am fat, but not *super* fat.\n\nAnyway onto the story. I have a big group of friends, we all sot together at lunch and some are better friends than others. For the last few months a \"friend\" we will name J had been making endless fat jokes. Its most of his greetings and it does get to me. Ill walk in school and he will go \"Hey it's big boy [my name]\" even more sometimes but I won't go I to detail, he is short amd skinny by the way but I digress. Recently I've been talking to my friends about my birthday party, who I'm inviting, my plans, ECT. I openly talk at lunch about this and I'm not inviting J. He's asked me and bribed me but I'm stern on not inviting him. Last party I went to he was relentless. No. Matter. What. Everything was a fat joke or just some bullying torward me.\n\nHe has stopped me from going to things I really want to go to because I know ill just feel bad about myself in the end. He has said he'll give me money and big gifts and says he'll stop. When I still said no he barraded me with fat jokes. Some of my friends think I'm an Asshole. I don't. Help.\n\nNote: pretty new to Reddit sorry for bad storytelling.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FhPmzgTGdW8a8dHaKY01IAApUEmWH3Y7", "post_id": "aiff1i", "action": {"description": "saying no to sharing food", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for saying no to sharing food?", "text": "All my logic says no, but damn the other party is damn good at guilt tripping if I'm right. \n\nI have those addictively delicious peanut butter pretzels and have shared with this co-worker before. I have a lot of issues around food and portions and snacking and have to snack or risk low blood sugar emergencies. Anyway, I am also pretty generous and unless I'm on the last whatever I usually say yes when asked to share. \n\nWith this package I've been doing good about keeping proper portion sizes (yeah!) So it's been around longer then I expected and when co-worker came up behind me today, bowl in hand and asked, I was like, no. You've had half of the package. And then I got guilt tripped and now I feel like the asshole and am resisting the urge to force co-worker to take some.\n\nSo, AITA for not sharing something I've shared with them before and pointing out they've had half of it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PH7FMoX0FThhGIKjywm237UVHxxAK5St", "post_id": "ai27g6", "action": {"description": "taking a trip with a girl", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for taking a trip with a girl?", "text": "I have been dating a girl for a few months and it seems to be going well, but we live in different cities, about an hour from each other. I moved here to China a just two months before and wanted to travel, but my girlfriend was always busy with school and applying to universities. I always wanted to see memorials in Nanjing which is an hour away, talking to my coworkers about it and one says we should do it on our day off. I dont see why not, I got nothing else to do and we book the day trip together.  \n\nThe day comes and I get a message from my girlfriend saying the day is now free and is on her way to the train station to come to my city. I say that I'm going to Nanjing with my cowoker but you're more than welcome to join us. Then a massive argument ensued saying I made her look like a slut for having a man run off with other girls, I explain I have no friends here as I just arrived and I only wanted to see the museum (I even said this since coming to china I want to see the museums, I love history). She then decided to come to nanjing, so we wait for hours for her to come, as she didn't book it in advanced and got a later train. It was an awful experience, with an obvious atmosphere and my girlfriend making jabs and me, dumping me (she didn't mean it) and  making comments about my coworker being a lesser person, because her job isn't so great salary wise. I explained it was just Nanjing with my cowoker, a friend and that I wouldn't' gone with her or anyone else but it was the same day off and why not.   \n\nAm I the asshole for going on a day trip with my coworker, a female?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FwWmyWB1zOSsd2lGiavuTU5g8bg96ujC", "post_id": "aqhb4c", "action": {"description": "not accepting my Bf's initial proposal", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA For not accepting my Bf's initial proposal?", "text": "FTP here, LTL.\n\nSo it is valentine's, and the 6th year anniversary with my Bf. \n\nSo a lady I play bingo with has her birthday on Valentine's and my bf had the day off, which is odd but whatever. We both went to this lunch which my mother attended as well. Afterwards my bf said be needed to ask her (my mum) a question so I waited at the car and then we went home. Once we are home he said he left food at his parent's house and left. I believed the wild story.\n\nAnyways, when he comes back in he is holding a box wrapped as a present (stripped with a bow on it, about the size of my hand). I didnt think much of it, as I was watching a show and thought it was chocolate. He gets on one knee and asks me, and I thought it was a joke. So i said no. When I saw his face I knew he had been serious. I apologised and explained i assumed it was a joke as it was such a random way of asking. I said he should do it again, but maybe put more thought into it - but I feel insensitive. \n\nHe might propose again, but i feel awful. Rejection is really hard, so I feel like the asshole. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "XmLH7cUquoX3fVsPRDAVthn7BL4FUqSS", "post_id": "b2xazb", "action": {"description": "not talking to my grandfather", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Not Talking To My Grandfather.", "text": "My Grandfather barely makes money to live on his own and at the moment is only surviving. He wanted a place to stay for a few days and he had come to our house. I have never liked my grandfather because he is one sick man, he's the kind of person who sits and wishes death upon anyone who talks against him. So far he has prayed so that my dad would have died, and when my mother's sister's husband had a stroke he seemed like the most happiest man. Yet my mother is a very emotional person and always keeps asking him to move in with us because he is so poor, he doesn't want to because he is aware that none of use like him.  \nIn a few months he is likely to be homeless, and I don't really care for such a person. He never took care of all his children, yet here at this moment he is depending on my parents for [food.](https://food.My) Both my parents feel a lot of empathy and give him money every month. I have nothing against this.  \nBut a few months ago he showed up to our house for a few days and I didn't talk to him. He immediately started talking shit about me not succeeding in life and pretty much ending up like him. He said he'd pray for that to happen to my mom and I overheard everything.  \n\n\nHe left the every next day and has practically disappeared. My mom keeps trying to reach him and has been crying occasionally. She puts the blame on me for not talking to him. I do feel guilt that he's an old man and is about to be homeless, but from his character and the fact that he started talking shit when he came to our house I believe I did the right thing. If he stayed with us I think there would be more and more problems. My mom thinks that won't happen because he is depending on us at this moment. Am I the asshole like my mom says I am?  \n\n\n  \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "maTfubJilwPPLbyKkUBRiWhfzelDr0jI", "post_id": "b6q8t4", "action": {"description": "getting eloping with my partner? parents and siblings are mad", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting eloping with my partner? Parents and siblings are mad.", "text": "So I\u2019m pretty sure I know the answer to this, i don\u2019t feel like an asshole but I\u2019m curious to see what reddit has to say. My partner and I have been wanting a simple wedding for a long time, just a ceremony and a dinner. We had a guest list of 30 people, immediate family, well, mother in law wants to invite so and so, wants to decorate like this and like that. Our little plans turned into a bigger budget and a guest list of over 50 which stresses me out. We wanted a stress free wedding. Yesterday we went into the courthouse and got married today at 1pm. We told her last minute last night to be polite, I told my mom after the fact. I told my siblings 1 hour prior, and his siblings found out after as well. Now everyone is \u201cmad\u201d because they weren\u2019t told or invited, and while I feel slightly guilty I\u2019m also trying to shake off the feeling. My marriage was exactly what i wanted, just me and  y partner, just the two of us! We\u2019re still thinking of doing a post party later in the summer. Was I wrong? I feel that being my wedding I can do what I want. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZrF8MQ57mL7drV7GQisfb5H7ASj0HFso", "post_id": "9yyw8w", "action": {"description": "wanting to remove family members from my life", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to remove family members from my life?", "text": "I've got an older sister, both my parents, and we all live in the same house currently. I have a good relationship with my father, a rocky relationship with my mother, and a terrible relationship with my sister, to the point where I no longer want her to be apart of my life. Today, we finally had that conversation about the elephant in the room about why we've had minimal communication unless necessary for the past 5-6 years.\n\nFrom my point of view, I have a rocky relationship with my mother because she's not ok with me being gay, and she doesn't like I have a bad relationship with my sister. My reason for hating my sister is that nearly every single interaction I have with her is negative. No matter what our interaction is about, I'm wrong, I did something wrong, or I'm somehow being unreasonable, and of course, she is right. When I was trying to explain why I felt the way I did towards her, she would cut me off saying I wasn't being honest, and that it must have something to do with me being gay and hating women in general, or about how I can't get over something that happened long ago. Every chance I got to explain, she would cut me off, and tell me how she thought I really felt, even though I was being completely honest in my explanation.\n\nI don't know if she refuses to accept it or why she wouldn't let me explain completely, but over the years, it's gotten to the point where I am no longer interested in trying to fix the relationship. I've experienced more pain, discomfort, and worry about how interactions will turn out, than good times I've had with her. I don't want to go through more worry to try and fix this relationship which I don't think can be fixed. I'd honestly rather avoid her as much as possible until I can properly cut contact by moving out.\n\nAm I the asshole for wanting to remove my sister from my life?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "F2jpzQcYvcEPV6b4c3vhTtTErE1aJpY4", "post_id": "ahjgfl", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my girlfriend for taking Acid with another man", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my girlfriend for taking Acid with another man? (Long) (first post)", "text": "Some background info first - Sorry for format first Reddit post and on mobile\nA year ago I started dating this girl and we hit it off really well and I've been on cloud 9 for a long time but recently we've been having problems in our relationship\n\nWe would have been together for a year on the fourth of next month recently I moved away to get my degree and the distance has been stressing us out a lot and I visit her every month for a few days (usually four or five) and dedicated all my time home to her and taking her out on dates to make the most of our time\n\nNeither of us are perfect and we have our issues that we fight over but we always ended up kissing and make up but recently she wanted to have a break this isn't the first time she's suggested it but we've always decided on not going for it instead looking for other ways to figure out problems out \n\nLong story short while I'm away she wants to be able to have sex with other people since I'm not readily available to be with her when I deny her when she asks if she can sleep with so and so she threatens me with other men and she wants to have an open relationship and add people to our dynamic she yells at me me for going to get my degree and rarely supports me in my choice when we were together if she had a bad day she would take her anger out on me and I can't help but feel terrible about myself as a person and I always apologise\n\nSex and physical intimacy is extremely important to me emotionally it's not for the sake of feeling good physically but knowing that someone accepts me for who I am and the feeling of love and being wanted by someone means a lot to me I couldn't function in a relationship with more than two people I'm not afraid that I get jealous sometimes either\n\nSo I caved and we took our break starting a few days ago it was supposed to run until the 6th of next month (the day I'd be on break for college) so we can get back together on our anniversary and try and start over\n\nShe said she was sorry for how she acted and that she wanted to be the best version of herself for me that although she (in her words) \"I feel like you trapped me into this bullshit relationship with you being so far away I feel like I'm single but I'm not allowed to fucking act like it\" that ultimately I'm the best thing for her in the long run and I accepted the break thinking maybe she needs time to cool off and that I would just be giving her some space... And then she started texting me about her dates...\n\nWe had discussed already that I was NOT comfortable with either of us talking to anyone else on our break that I wanted to stay exclusive with her through this \n\nMy older brother found her on tinder an hour after we started our break and 4 hours after that she texted me how she has a date already\n\nTonight she went on a date with someone and sent me a text saying how she wants to fuck and dropped acid with him\n\nFor those who don't know Acid is an EXTREMELY INTIMATE drug it makes people vulnerable and brings them closer we took it together a little while back and while we were on it I have never had a more profound feeling of love and affection in my life \n\nThat was it for me she had broken my heart so many times and this was the last straw if she wanted to get back together with me so bad like she said she does and of she really missed me like she claims why would she do this to me? I was never perfect and I won't pretend to be but I don't think I deserved this \n\nI'm going to copy and paste my last text to her below if it helps sorry for the long read \n\n\"I can't take anymore heart ache I don't want to get back together with you I don't think you love me I doubt you loved me the way I love you I feel you're irresponsible with drugs and you've hurt me so bad the last week was pretty much just pain for me while you go on without me and keep me in your pocket as a backup you never wanted to get older with me or marry me there's no way you could have you're taking an extremely intimate drug with someone else and tell me about it while we're supposedly on a short break I have a way  home for the 7th but now idk if I'll take it I was so happy to see you and try and restart things I'm not perfect I never was and never will be but you killed us you finally got the relationship you want hope you enjoy the college life doing whatever you want and here I thought you were my rock goodbye ***** don't text me maybe I'll text you in a few days I can't take anymore heart ache that's all you give me\"", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vJItjyKOZxtohNEmio7kArrl1ien34Ac", "post_id": "amyct2", "action": {"description": "anonymously telling my new neighbors not to smoke weed where I can smell it", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I anonymously told my new neighbors not to smoke weed where I can smell it?", "text": "I've lived in my townhouse for a couple years now, and the nice old guy in the adjacent unit moved out and was just replaced with neighbors I haven't met yet. Tonight, I was sitting in my living room and started smelling weed. Curious, I opened my back door a crack to investigate and got hit in the face with a strong smell of weed coming from the neighboring unit. I don't smoke. I've never smoked. I have no interest in smoking. And I don't want to smell smoke in my house.  \n\n\nMarijuana is not legal where I am, but I don't want to narc on my neighbors. I would just prefer that if they're going to smoke they do it somewhere that I can't smell it. Functionally, this would mean they'd have to do it inside their house or garage, or somewhere else away from home, since I'll smell it if they're on their deck or in the driveway.  \n\n\nI don't want to get into an altercation, so I'd probably just leave a note at the community mailbox. The next point of escalation (which I'd rather not do) would be involving the HOA.  \n\n\nSo WIBTA for telling my neighbors not to smoke on their property so I can continue enjoying mine?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5cW1SyHtguIww1Qb0fOOaUvTSrrhtUoD", "post_id": "ay0h51", "action": {"description": "thinking I should get my parents' dogs", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for thinking I should get my parents' dogs?", "text": "I currently live at home with my parents and we have three dogs between us; my dog (age 12) my dad's dog (age 2) and my mother's dog (age 6 months). My brother and his wife live in the downstairs/basement half of the same home. My brother is not interested in owning another dog after his dog passed away this past fall and has said as much. However, SiL has never owned a dog, and is desperate to have a dog of her own but refuses to interact with the dogs we currently have because she doesn't want a \"used dog\" and she's holding out for a puppy that can be \"just hers\".\n\nLast night I mentioned to my mother that I have been looking into estate planning/advanced directives/final will and testament as I am hoping to move out once I finish my master's degree later this year and if I do, I will be taking my dog with me. I want to make sure that my dog will be cared for in the event that I suddenly die or become incapacitated and I told my mother that I planned to name her designated caretaker for my dog should something happen to me. She agreed to the idea and eventually the conversation turned to who would be caretaker for my parents' dogs.\n\nMy mother told me that she and my father were planning to designate my brother and SiL as caretakers in the event of their deaths, because SiL really wants a dog and they're already living in the same house. I reminded my mother that my brother doesn't want to own another dog and that SiL goes out of her way to avoid our dogs because she doesn't/can't have one of her own right now. I also pointed out that I also live in the same house as they do (currently), and I help care for all three dogs. Given that I already have a relationship with with them, so it would be more logical for me to be the caretaker. My mother then accused me of being selfish and wanting to deny my SiL the joys of owning a dog. We ended up arguing about it.\n\nSince I am currently the secondary caretaker for my parents\u2019 dogs (which includes helping to pay for food/vet bills/toys/training/etc. and daily interaction), I kind of expected them to designate me as caretaker. My SiL has had zero interaction with my mother's dog and very minimal interaction with my dad's dog. My brother will occasionally come upstairs to play with the dogs for an hour, but not very often (maybe once or twice a month). Neither of them contribute financially towards food/vet bills/training.\n\nAfter we argued about who is getting my parent's dogs should my parents die, my mother stopped speaking to me for the rest of the night. She's still mad at me this morning about it.\n\nSo, AITA for thinking I should get the dogs if my parents die?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3qmDc2WCSz15t87lpLjbeoc0XCyvmBph", "post_id": "a6gzip", "action": {"description": "revoking the title of best man from my friend", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA if I revoked the title of best man from my friend?", "text": "I'm on mobile and riding shotgun traveling. Sorry for any misspelling and grammar.\n\nI have to give some back story. My original best man passed away this last summer from an overdose. He was pretty much my brother. We traveled to go to Narcotics Anonymous conventions together. Gamed together every night. Lived together for a bit. He was solid and always had my back and I miss him every damn day. I was getting sized up for a suit to be in his wedding the weekend he passed. He had his demons as well do I and many other people.\n\nI had put thought into who would be my best man in his place and I came to the conclusion that my sponsor would be. It feels odd ranking friends like that. But my sponsor has always been there for me as well. He reached out to me in the most terrible moments of my life. He motivates me. Pushes me. I can trust him with vulnerabilities... He is the best man in my life.\n\nMy friend I asked to be my best man in place of my friend who passed has also been a very good friend. When I asked him to be my best man it was at a time after the death of our friend and I had given up 5 years of recovery. I was at a weak point and didn't apply stepwork to my life in a time of tragedy. (I currently have 5 months again). I was high when I asked him...  He is a good guy but we don't talk or hangout as much as we used to. There are some things from the past I can't get over that are making me rethink my decision. There was a girl I was dating a few years back and she was fucking my best friend at the time (not any friend mentioned thus far. We don't talk anymore.) And my friend I asked to be my best man was roommates with him. And knew for months and never said anything to me...  \n\nI wish I didn't ask him to be my best man, not only for the reason that he didn't tell me what was going on, but also the fact that we aren't super close anymore.\n\nWIBTA to ask him to be a groomsman instead and tell him it was a mistake and that I was in a relapse when I asked?\n\nTL:DR  Asked friend to be best man. Was not in a right mindset. Intended it to be someone else. Asked him to make him feel better about death of a friend.\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1cn2a2UpVBsZt001zhU18DglnZFhV9sm", "post_id": "aczwmp", "action": {"description": "being angry with my gf for committing to a trip abroad without talking to me about it", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for being angry with my GF for committing to a trip abroad without talking to me about it?", "text": "My SO and I have been together for a year and are currently living together while I attend school. We talk about most things and have good communication for the most part.\n\nAfter the holiday break (which she was away with family on a ski trip for) she randomly told me she was going on a trip in May to Croatia for 10 days. This surprised me as she hadn't mentioned anything about it beforehand. \n\nAfter some discussion she explained she was going on a trip with two girls she used to work with whom recently got out of relationships. She didn't give me much info outside of that and I didn't want to pry further. \n\nLater we ended up going to the place where these two girls work and one of them comes up and goes, \"I can't believe you're actually coming! You're so spontaneous.\" Then she turned to me and goes, \"you'll be lucky if she comes back alive with the parting we'll be doing!\"\n\nI also discover in this conversation that she's already made a deposit on the trip to guarantee her position. All of this without even mentioning it to me\n\nAt this point I'm starting to wonder wtf her intentions are behind this trip so I look into it. I find it's a 10 day tour where you hop between islands to party at the local beaches and bars with a crew of people the same age. Essentially it's for people who have nothing tying them down and want to experience their youth, uninhibited. \n\nWhy would someone in a committed relationship want to do this? \n\nI confronted her and she got defensive. It devolved I to a fight which we've put on the back burner for now. Nothing has been discussed about it because she's been sick with a cold and as sensitive as a cat whisker. \n\nTl;dr: girlfriend of a year whom I've been living with in a committed relationship spontaneously put a deposit down for a 10 day island hopping party tour in Croatia with two recently single friends without talking to me. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XZlzzzltl1hNEJREY09NgmyGiqk3l3Fj", "post_id": "acn3pf", "action": null, "title": "AITA", "text": "I accidentally dropped some popcorn while watching tv and when I cleaned up my mess my foster father yelled at me for not vaccuming the whole room and proceeded to ground me then said he is giving the office thing three days to find other placement for me. It wasnt my chore to clean the whole floor and the other part that should have been cleaned was fairly obviously not the same mess that I had made. Was it wrong to ask why if I had to clean my mess, why my foster brother didnt have to clean his? Was just cleaning my mess somehow inherently wrong?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AqWr42zGOKqxG3EN44s1TtUSAOiVqedJ", "post_id": "ayr4zk", "action": {"description": "wanting to have sex with my fiance", "pronormative_score": 47, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for wanting to have sex with my fiance?", "text": "My fiance and I have been engaged for a year and are getting married in a few months. Before we were engaged, we had a pretty good sex life. After we got engaged, her sex drive plummeted. We have had conversations about it, and at first she chalked it up to some body issues like weight gain and some minor psoriasis. I respected this, figured she would come around and decided not to press it. What I didn't expect was going from being sexual 3 times a week to maybe twice in the past year. I had my suspicions that this wasn't just body issues so I finally confronted her about it, and after some serious prying she explained that she didn't loose her virginity to her last boyfriend how she wanted to and that she thinks she wants to wait until after we are married to continue having sex. All her friends waited until marriage to have sex for the first time, and neither her nor I chose to take that route and have been with different people since. She also comes from a deeply religious Catholic background, and she claims to be feeling guilty now that our wedding is coming up. Am I the asshole for being upset about this? I can respect waiting until marriage, but I didn't sign up for it when we started dating and neither did she. It was only until after we got engaged that suddenly it mattered. Our whole dynamic has changed and I hate to admit that I'm beginning to resent her for it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 33, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 14, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 47, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pHvdxxsMCiUMeqvvO6wZVz2nEN8wYY6m", "post_id": "b6yfvu", "action": {"description": "telling my girlfriend her friend is 300 pounds", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for telling my girlfriend her friend is 300 pounds", "text": "My girlfriend and I have been together for about three months and her best friend forever (BFF) becomes the topic of discussion sometimes. Whether it be because she hangs out with her a lot or how my roommates hate her, her BFF always come up.   \nThis time I was on the phone with my girlfriend while a different friend was in the background. I don't remember how, but the conversation turned into why are you so obsessed with my BFF? do you like her? do you want to sleep with her? why do you think about her all the time? and not in the kind of way where you feel like they are asking genuinely but she was asking on the attack being pissed off thinking I actually do care about her BFF in some sort of sexual way. Her friend in the background chimed in agreeing, yeah maybe he likes her too which got me more flustered. I immediately responded with no I would never sleep with someone 300 pounds. I said this to her in confidence, I thought her BFF would never hear it, I said it to her to get to stop thinking I liked her friend.   \n\n\nCut to now my relationship, it having its problems, she says I disrespect the people she loves and I call her friends fat and that shes going put this on public and I can see how many people think I was wrong for even commenting on someone's weight. It was ONE time, and the only reason her friend knows is because my girlfriend told her.  \nMy response is go for it, I said what I said defending myself and I had no ill intentions. I don't think her friend is 300 pounds and if it was meant to be disrespectful it would of been. She doesn't see any wrong in telling her friend what I said, I should be able to trust and talk to my girlfriend.   \nThis is my first post so let me have it, I don't think I'm the guy shes painting me to be, a rude unloving judgmental person because I defended myself. I have apologized to the BFF, but every time I defend where I was coming from. Her BFF isn't even overweight, I said it out of pure exaggeration. Joking and judging people on looks has never been me. I'm 130lb World of warcraft nerd. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 12, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "WlF92sTjLEvQEBI0ltWrbSrCVrcBTYn4", "post_id": "at3aqu", "action": {"description": "accepting a birthdate gift from a guy who dumped me before Valentine's Day and my bday", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I accepted a birthdate gift from a guy who dumped me before Valentine\u2019s Day and my bday.", "text": "Basically, he said some stuff to me on a hike (about my body count or whatever) that he liked \u201cwholesome girls\u201d and I sort of snapped and said we can\u2019t do this anymore. But I was still trapped with him as we finished the trail and he drove me home. I didn\u2019t cry in front of him. \n\nI think what really happened was that a girl he used to have a big crush on in high school hit him up on Instagram. He took her out on Valentine\u2019s Day. I know this because he told me. \n\nSo, we have been texting off and on. I don\u2019t really want to be his friend or talk to him at all. But he recently told me he got me a gift for my birthday, which is today (2/21). I asked my bff if I should hang out with him to get it. She was like yeah, it\u2019s a free gift. But WIBTA if I did that? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fWLHJntPxWxpkEI7jFfR2TH8jzmJL5zG", "post_id": "a0194g", "action": {"description": "potentionaly leaving my family", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for potentionaly leaving my family.", "text": "Sorry for the long text. No friends. Need help.\n\nMy parents and I have had difficult relationship from the start.  I ran away from my home when I was in 3rd grade because my mom threatened to hit me ( I remember a day in 2nd grade that my dad belted the living shit out of me, They tell now that never happened but why would a small kid run away from home, reach across a mid-size town, all while thinking I don't care what happens to me ( dark thoughts ) I AM NOT going back home.)\n\nAfter that I was asked If I wanted to go to a residential school for a year. I said yes. I cried my eyes out my first night there (4th grade) . they came every two months for a PTA. The next year they didn't take me back home but I was okay. I thought maybe next year. 6th grade not only was I there alone but they started coming only to pick me up for vacation. I think in 7th grade they only came at the start and end of the school year. I would go by myself home for vacation. I didn't want them to come.\n\nAfter that my dad had a heart attack. and was paralyzed on the left side. It was bad at the start but he recovered 40%. This is when everything started spiraling, family finance, relation with extended family, everything. Now my dad is so  fragile that I'm walking on egg shells around him. I don't know what will set him off. And when he is stressed out, I automatically match it. And my mom and sister walk on egg shells around me because they don't know what will set me off. I'm always screaming at them for one thing or another. I don't wanna be like my dad towards my mom and sis but I can't control it. \n\nI want to just move out and cut all communications. But I already feel guilty was even considering cutting all communication because I don't know what that'll do to them. But whenever I'm with them it makes me feel so emotionally drained and stressed and angry and resentful. AITA?    ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NUwdiWNU8xFXyeUHb5yeZnMaRtkRfdas", "post_id": "b4tw5e", "action": {"description": "cutting off my friend who got back with her abusive ex", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA for cutting off my friend who got back with her abusive ex?", "text": "About two years ago, a friend (20f) of mine (21m) got into a relationship with a guy who ended up being very abusive. I saw some of the red flags early and so did some of her family, but she was in love. They ended up moving away just a few months in, and he cheated on her a few times and verbally and physically abused her.\n\nNow this dude made her cut off contact with every guy friend in her life, but especially me because she and I briefly dated. When she finally got out of that awful relationship, we reconnected and I helped her through getting over that abusive relationship, and we were purely friends. Still are. But I heard first-hand all the awful things he'd do, and now I just recently saw that they're getting back together. \n\nShe and I have already grown distant over the last 5 or 6 months, and I'm considering just stopping talking to her entirely now. I did everything I could when she needed help, and she even told me I \"saved her life\", but it hurts some that she's getting back with him and, more importantly, I'm genuinely scared now of thinking of texting/calling/or hanging out with her. He used to go through her phone and if he saw we texted he'd scream at her for hours or worse. \n\nWIBTA if I just walk away from this entirely?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "i68qRWX7hwQ5Vx1N7H13l8UEA1mOP0fz", "post_id": "add07t", "action": {"description": "ignoring my alcoholic girlfriend when she is drunk", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ignoring my alcoholic girlfriend when she is drunk?", "text": "My girlfriend gets drunk in our apartment almost every night. We have been together over 7 years but she has become an alcoholic in the last year.\n\nShe is a wonderful woman. The times we are together and she is sober are amazing. She is my favorite person in the world. But when she is drunk it feels like there's a stranger in my home trying to hug me and kiss me. I don't want that person anywhere near me.\n\nMy coping mechanism now is basically trying not to look at her, talk to her, or engage with her when she is drunk at home. I get frustrated and feel like I am dealing with an idiot when she is drunk.\n\nToday for example, I came home from work at 4pm and she is drunk. I decide to take the dog for a walk to get out of the apartment. I tell her I am texting her that I'm going to walk the dog. I also write a note with the the time on it saying I am going to walk the dog. I placed it on the table in front of her. Five minutes after I leave she calls, worried, wondering where I am. I kept telling her and ended up snapping at her because she didn't understand where I was. I could hear her tearing up on the phone. \n\nAfter I came home, I realized I had 4 missed calls and a text wondering where I was. I was very annoyed. I put my headphones in to listen to music while she went into the bathroom and vomited (bulimia) because I don't like vomit. It gives me a lot of anxiety when she does that. After she came out she was crying and came over to get affection from me. I didn't give it back. She got up, crying, and walked to the bedroom, shutting the door behind her. I could hear her still crying. She isn't going to remember any of this tomorrow. I still feel like I am doing something wrong by not helping her in some way. But at the same time I feel like I don't know this tortured, crying woman in my apartment. I guess I am trying to ride this whole thing out. She got a therapist recently so I am hoping that will help. I have encouraged AA and she knows I still love her. I don't try to shame her about it when she is sober. Obviously she has a lot of problems and I sometimes feel like I am wrong for not being more helpful while she is drunk. But at the same time, it's like my anxiety and frustration paralyze me in the moment. AITA?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9wCfeFpxg0GxXsVWPr25n8e0rNVrJzR2", "post_id": "b0cjoi", "action": {"description": "asking for attention", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for asking for attention?", "text": "Backstory: don't have many friends and I'm pretty social awkward so I try to not act on my many frustrations. \n\nIn the last weeks one of my only friends started reading and not responding my messages or writing short, dry replies to my messages, ending any conversation before it begun.\n\nShe's going through some problems and I talked to her, helped as much as I could and it passed. But she continued slowly drifting away. This happened before when she got into new relationships but we talked again. Also I could see her active and her last activity so I knew when she could have talked to me. \n\nSo I was worried this will happen again so I asked her directly if I did something wrong and it something happened. Long story short apparently she hasnt realised (impossible since I've told her before) and that she'll do better in the future (,, she'll pay me more attention\"). \nThis makes me feel like a childish asshole who asked for more than he deserved.\n\nSo AITA for wanting more attention? Or for stalking my friend?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "C1Qmb9IjLfmWaE5awERwixFVkvJpaIWt", "post_id": "abws76", "action": {"description": "not giving a good enough New Year's kiss", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not giving a good enough New Year's kiss?", "text": "This past New Year's my husband I went out with my friend (also my boss) and her boyfriend. New Year's Eve is always a crap shoot for me so I had little expectations other than to have some fun. I was down for whatever. My friend suggested a venue and show. I wasn't terribly interested but I'm always down to try something new and normally so is my husband. When we got there my husband was put off,it wasn't his scene,mine either really but I was trying to make the best of it and have fun with him and the couple.\n\nWhen it comes time for the countdown I give my husband multiple 'peck' kisses but he leans forward wanting more. I tell him I don't want to smear my lipstick, of which I am wearing a lot. This spirals his mood completely into a bad mood. After that he is like a wet blanket sulking in the background. My friend (boss) tries to 'cheer him up' and does a silly dance at him and he essentially just stares at her and doesn't reciprocate. Eventually he stops talking to the couple completely making things more uncomfortable. We move to the next location and he has shut down completely, even though normally he's like a fish to water at the gay bars. I decide that I am going to power through and try and have a good time because I can't control his mood. (He has pretty turbulent moods).\n\nThere is a disclaimer here that my husband and I have major intimacy issues. I have sexual trauma from a young age I haven't fully been able to work through. I've been in therapy for a long time, on meds, and I've been trying to address it-work through it. I've made a huge effort to be affectionate to him, although the sexual portion just isn't happening. It's something I beat myself up over constantly and he is very aware of these circumstances. He tried to leave me at the bars and go home which made me mad because I wanted to spend time with him. I ended up leaving with him and he didn't speak a word to me then went and slept in the other bedroom. We didn't speak a word to each other yesterday and I ended up having my son sleep in the bed with me because I didn't want to sleep with him either.\n\nHe has contacted me today via email confirming it was the kiss and how I will never be intimate with him and I cared more about my friends having a good time. I am just pissed that all the work I've made towards working on being more touchy feely with him has been thrown out the door and he shat on my night and embarrassed me in front of my friends. I understand he is upset but he waited two days to tell me, decided to sleep in another bed,and gave me the silence treatment until today when he emailed me.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1NURntkrSqzpreMVYS8cZOMznONAvDz2", "post_id": "9whk5y", "action": {"description": "abruptly kicking out a pianist out of an amateur musical comedy project", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for abruptly kicking out a pianist out of an amateur musical comedy project?", "text": "I am currently involved in an amateur musical comedy project in which I am the composer of the songs. The texts are written by a friend who is the Master Brain behind this project. Let's call him \"Master Brain\"', shall we?  \n\n\nI am basically given carte blanche regarding the musical direction of this project. I had to compose more than a dozen of songs in which the melody mustn't be too hard to sing (as several people participating in this project are totally tone deaf), but it still has to have some catchy moments so the singers would enjoy working on these songs. I also ensure myself  to have a piano part that is not too easy, but not too hard to play either so the musics don't sound \"flat\". I eventually add a drums part in order to have the audiences hooked to the show and help the singers as a sound aid so they can sing at the right time.  The shows are due on May and June of the next year.   \n\n\nI presented the final result of the songs to the singers that were going to be involved. Although there were some flaws here and there, they loved it and I was even surprised that my songs were already in their head as they were humming them. Music sheets and audios are produced in order for the singers to capture the gist of the songs, even if not a single one can actually read music.  \n\n\nThen,  I realized that I wasn't going to perform both the piano and drums parts. We needed a pianist to perform the accompaniment so I could focus on the drums part and let the pianist work in autonomy. I am then presented an elderly man, in his 80s, which is a pianist enthusiast and owned several pianos in his house. Let's call him \"P80\".  \n\n\nI am told P80 was excelling in sight-reading and could work very effectively. One thing was that he played only classical music, so my music style being heavily influenced by [City Pop Music](https://rateyourmusic.com/genre/City+Pop/), French Pop Music of the 70s-80s and lots of chords with major sevenths might surprise him, to say the least.  \n\n\nAroused anyway by his piano skills, I decide to send P80 the music sheets of three of my songs in August that I think are the easiest ones, without giving any clue so I can figure out how autonomous he was. Therefore, he could discover the piano parts and then, if he likes it and if he's willing to, work on all the songs later. A first appointment was set three weeks later with Brain Master and I in September, which would give him enough time to perform correctly each music sheet. These were one to three pages long, with five or six staves of four to six bars per page.  \n\n\nOne first problem that occurred was Master Brain and I weren't given the precise hour of the appointment in September. Therefore, we  called P80 in order to set everything correctly. P80 didn't answer the phone despite leaving several voicemails. We decided then to send e-mails. No answer either. We sollicited a friend that is more likely to have some answer from P80. Still no answer. We imagined the worst. Suddenly, out of nowhere, late in the evening, we finally receive a mail from this friend confirming the exact hour for the appointement the day after. Phew.\n\n​\n\nThere, I was able to discover his big house and a splendid wooden grand piano sitting in the living room. As almost expected, P80 told me my harmonization was dissonant for him. I told him that this was my way of composing songs and these were the definitive version as all the scores were printed for the musicians and the singers. Later in the discussions, I realized that he didn't really read the scores and had hard times to read these because he couldn't understand how my music was written, despite I was being told he was excelling at sight-reading music. I had then to play all the piano parts of the songs for him so he could have the gist of these in order to have something to start with. I didn't play some of these scores very well as I didn't bother to practice at the time. I eventually propose another appointment with P80 whenever he wants so we could work together on the songs. P80 accepts and claims to be keen on this project.  \n\n\nLater in the evening, I decide to work myself on these piano accompaniments because I felt like a fraud if even the composer of the songs isn't able to play correctly the scores he writes. Done in 4 hours. I noticed several flaws in the music sheets that can be circumvented if I'm asked on these.  \n\n\nTowards the end of September, I decide to call him in order to check the progression of his work. P80 doesn't answer the phone. I leave both a veeeeeeery long voicemail detailing which songs he has to work on first and a written e-mail. No answer. No feedback. Nothing. Several days, I decided to try my luck again by phone. Still no answer. Aw, f\\*k it, I have better things to do, like playing /r/Smite.  \n\n\nFast forward to mid-October. Monthly workshop time for the singers and the musicians in which everybody gathers and is conducted by a singing teacher. We are told the workshop starts at 9:30 AM. P80 is late. I was however playing the piano for the singers. Good for me I don't sing in this musical project. P80 finally shows up at 11:30 AM. I decide to ask P80 to play the piano parts I hoped he worked on. The result was\u2026 meh. He was still sight-reading the music as if he received the scores one week before. He still had difficulties on some points in the music sheets, yet he didn't ask me for help.  \n\n\nI had to take him apart asking what he was doing during the end of September as I wasn't able to reach him. He said he never received my calls, nor my e-mail, nor my voice mail. As I am a tech-savvy person, I had the sense that P80 was lying to me. You can have a shitty phone that misses calls (I'm looking at you, Samsung Galaxy Note II and LG G3), but having on top of it a shitty phone provider that doesn't even register voice mails is barely believable, at least in France. Plus, he added that he didn't ask to be in this project, which surprises me as I was told P80 liked the project. However, I decided to not to be too harsh with him and let him work a bit on the music sheets. We even agreed to bring our keyboards each.  \n\n\nLater in October, I FINALLY received a call from P80 asking me for help. Unfortunately, I missed the call, but I call him back. He doesn't answer, AGAIN, but I leave a voicemail telling him how I write music, how the small details he points in my writing are not that relevant and that he can download the audios of the music sheets in order to capture how these must be played. Meanwhile, I got to the point where I was training so much on the songs I was distorting them.  \n\n\nEventually, we are at the beginning of November, where the monthly workshop has to take place. Singers, musicians and singing teacher. Still starts at 9:30 AM. P80 still doesn't show up. Finally shows up at 12:00 AM, but leaves quickly until 2:00 PM because he must pay visit to his sick wife. When he comes back, I don't even notice his return. When I am finally noticed of his presence, I'm going to talk to him and ask him to show me the result of his work on a song so I could take care of the drums part. The result was even worse. Working with him on the piano was a let-down, still looked like he got the music sheets several days ago. We got to the point I had enough and had to impose myself to replace him in order to finish the training of the singers. The singing teacher thanks me for getting the things back in track.\n\n​\n\nAfter that, he complains that he only has piano parts and I should have kept the voice parts so he can figure out exactly where to restart. I tell him the bars are numbered, and either the singing teacher or I would just have to tell him the correct bar numbers.\n\n  \nThen, we proceed to work on another song, with P80 sitting in the back of the room, doing nothing. Meanwhile, I was thinking to myself whether I had to keep him as a pianist in the project. P80 had the music sheets since three months. His work was non-existent.  I already previously warned Master Brain after my unsuccessful attempts to communicate with P80 that if there wasn't more commitment from P80, I would end immediately this collaboration that actually never was.  \n\n\nThis was it. I isolated myself with P80 and Master Brain and announced to P80 that due to his poor performance and his personal reasons, he didn't have to bother coming back the next month. P80 got mad and answered me: \"You are too full of yourself! And as you so want to tell the truth, you know what? Your music is boring and repetitive! I am more a musician than you! I conducted a choral, so I know jackshit! Why did you ask me to join you in the first place!\". And then leaves.  \n\n\nAfter having heard these complaints, I feel now somehow relieved, thinking I extinguished a nasty fire that was going to blow up in the long term. At least, I regained the control of my own music. As for the drums, another person proposed to me to perform this part; I know I can rely on this person so I don't have to worry about her commitment.  \n\n\n*TL;DR: Wrote some songs for an amateur musical project, with piano and drums. Got presented an elderly pianist who didn't work on the music sheets he got for three months, wasn't responding to my phone calls and my e-mails and showed late on monthly workshops. I relied on his abilities, and assumed he was autonomous enough to play the music sheets correctly and communicate with me. After seeing no progress in his work, I got tired of this shit, told him to leave the project after only three months and made him understandably angry. AITA?*  \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HY0VeQMMS0pMuko1Ip9L8OPlCXzVOJVT", "post_id": "ainjl1", "action": {"description": "not talking to my gf", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not talking to my gf", "text": "So a little bit of backstory,\n\nI was 13 at the time and his was my first real relationship\n\nShe was one year older than me\n\nSo when we were dating I couldn\u2019t talk to anyone else at recess she would always insist that I talk with her.\n\nEvery. Single. Day.\n\nAlso she never wanted anyone to know we were dating, I personally didn\u2019t care but I decided I didn\u2019t want to embarrass her.\n\nBut then she started doing embarrassing things like, getting irrationally angry at ppl for pointing out how cute we looked together.\n\nI was so embarrassed by her it got to the point where I would hide from her at recess.\n\nI was a coward and I couldn\u2019t say no to her, and things moved way to fast for me.\n\nThen came field day, she insisted I dance with her outside with tons of ppl watching, and I said no.\n\nShe kept doing this until I eventually gave in and danced with her.\n\nAfter it was done I kept my head down and walked to sit down.\n\n(Side note: she talked about her ex a lot and kept all his gifts. He had to move)\n\nA couple of days later I was so fed up and decided to break up with her. During those 2 days I wouldn\u2019t talk to her and hid and looked really sad.\n\nOne day she asks me\n\nGf: \u201cWhat\u2019s wrong?\u201d\n\nMe: \u201cI think we should see other people \u201d\n\nGf: \u201cOk\u201d\n\nThat was it, no shock, no surprise just \u201cok\u201d I knew she wasn\u2019t over her ex. But we still did the things we did when we were together which really pissed me off.\n\nNext year whenever she would try to talk to me I would outright ignore her and be visibly angry.\n\nThis all came to a stop when she asked me why I was ignoring her.\n\nI told her\n\n\u201c I don\u2019t think we should be friends can you leave me alone\u201d\n\nAnd she did, we\u2019ve never talked since\n\nSo AITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "j8QzvVGfbppY4hmVBZ1BSCHp8b4kHLQ5", "post_id": "aqbjwi", "action": {"description": "telling my so I would separate from them if they were to be a surrogate", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my SO i would separate from them if they were to be a surrogate?", "text": "For context this conversation came up completely out of the blue when she was scrolling through job posts on Craigslist, jokingly she says I\u2019m going to be a surrogate. I reply with a \u201cyeah they mark bank but it\u2019s quite hard to be chosen to be one\u201d and she goes on to talk about how much money they can make for carrying a baby but how she would never do it. She then goes on to the question that in my mind is just a lose-lose nonsense question, asking if I\u2019d break up with her if she were to be surrogate. I\u2019m 24 she\u2019s 22, I could just butter it up but I answered it plainly , yeah I would most probably break up with you if you were carrying someone else\u2019s baby for 9 months while we live together, I just personally wouldn\u2019t want that experience right now in my life, it\u2019s not like I said fuck You I don\u2019t love you. Lol, so what\u2019s the verdict?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KTwB3gocR4VbpiSsFdlKEaAMMDiqpX5E", "post_id": "9tzuwf", "action": {"description": "being annoyed by the way old people talk", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed by the way old people talk?", "text": " \n\nDoes anyone else notice how old people talk in circumstantial ([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Circumstantial\\_speech](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Circumstantial_speech)) or even worse tangential speech ([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tangential\\_speech](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tangential_speech))?\n\nMy father for example does this often. Whenever I ask him a question, even a simple yes or no question, he will start telling me a story about some random stuff. He may not ever come back to the point. Now I just interrupt him and say \"So you're telling me that you don't know the answer to my question.\" Sometimes he will admit he doesn't know. Other times he does know but just felt like telling me a bunch of useless bullshit prior to actually answering the question.\n\nIs the way old people talk the sign of deteriorating mental faculties or was it considered socially acceptable to talk in this fashion decades ago? One one hand I feel rude for interrupting them, but on the other hand its rude to not answer a question that I just asked. Am I the asshole for constantly cutting off old people from their ramblings? .", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7wE0bPgH0CtQKe7ozQ3xmeozJ0rKhvOw", "post_id": "9tmro1", "action": {"description": "holding a Long Grudge against my mom", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Holding A Long Grudge Against My Mom?", "text": "I love my mom. But she has the worst taste in men *ever*.\n\n(Almost) Every one of her past boyfriends we're abusive or cheated on her. And the few nice ones she broke up with. Her last ex boyfriend, a really good guy, she left for my stepdad.\n\nMy stepdad is in debt, emotionally and mentally abusive, grumpy, mean, has a credit score of 583, is extremely quick to anger, obsessively neat and orderly and exact and does routines to the point where there's DEFINITELY something wrong there (can't drink out of any other cup, won't sit down if someone is using *his* chair, paces around the house at night in an exact way, gets irrationally angry if anything is out of place).\n\nHer ex was so sweet, kind to me, and her, and the deer and wild animals that lived near his house like a Disney princess. He had an amazing job, didn't come home burnt out, was pretty wealthy, patient, loved all of us, and was just... Great. I miss him.\n\nI was 6 when she started dating my stepdad, and I repeatedly told her I didn't like him. I remember this over a decade later. She made me come with her to his house, where we did nothing, I had nothing, it was overall boring as shit. She wouldn't let me stay at my grandma's house where we lived.\n\nOne day, my hamster got very sick. He was definitely going to die while I was gone. She forced me to come with her, even though my grandma said she would love to watch me. So I was dragged into the car and we drove there, while I cried my eyes out because I had to leave my dying pet alone with my grandma. He died over that weekend and I didn't get to hold him in his last moments, instead he died scared and alone.\n\nHe constantly degrades me, calls me bitch, cunt, asshole, basically all of that. Whenever I do something a little wrong, I get screamed at. Or if he thinks I did it. If my mom did it, he doesn't yell.  My mental health plumetted at 7 the fuck years old because of his constant assholery.\n\nThe only times he was ever nice to me were the times I tried to kill myself. He's sent me into panic attacks constantly, then screams like a child when I WAS a child. He's 40+ years older than me.\n\nHe is... \"Inexperienced\" with kids. Youngest child, never had kids, little cousins, nieces or nephews, etc. He treated me like a short adult, not a kid.\n\nHe also never acknowledged my disability. I'm autistic, and he fought me constantly on it, saying I'm just lazy/stupid/overreacting. ~~How am I overreacting but you screaming at me because there's water on the sink is fine and mature?!??~~ I have a few things wrong with me, including ADHD, bipolar, cptsd (from him), etc. \n\nMy mom has seen all of it. It's not a secret. Since I was little I didn't like or trust him. I didn't want him in my life. But she never wavered, just went along with my screaming and crying and begging to stop because I HATED him, and ended up marrying him.\n\nI know some of you will say \"just move out\". I'm disabled. I have tried to get a job, every single one I've ever applied to threw out my application or something because half I never even got a call back. I've applied to over 80 places within 20 miles of me. (Yes of course I called and they said it was rejected, I asked why they never say why, they say they don't know).\n\nMy mom calls me selfish for still holding a grudge for it. And they both gang up on me and blame me for everything. My therapist who's heard both sides of the story told my mom that SHE is/was in the wrong anyway. She also calls me lazy after I do everything for her because she's physically and mentally disabled because I'm tired after going to school for 6 hours dealing with animals and taking care of them for free.\n\nTl;dr AITA for hating my abusive stepdad who my mom married even though i constantly said I hated him and her seeing the abuse,(I liked her past boyfriend so you can't say that everyone hates their stepparents)  blaming my mom, and trying to commit suicide and self harmed multiple times because of him? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KiSoeMJhpXYw3dNDat2ZvHWOrmZrmCjY", "post_id": "b0z5ab", "action": {"description": "not believing my friend has body confidence issues", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not believing my friend has body confidence issues?", "text": "My friend (23M) maybe every couple of months or so, snapchats something along the lines of \"Hate my body\" or \"Why do I look so \\[Insert various adjective here\\]\"  with a picture of him usually shirtless or in his underwear to a few of our friends including my girlfriend (But not me for whatever reason).\n\n​\n\nMultiple times when my girlfriend has replied to him, he says he sends them because he has body confidence issues. He has a girlfriend who I presume doesn't know he does this. He also sent out of the blue dick pics to one of the people in our friend group while him and his girlfriend were split for a while. \n\n​\n\nAs a person with body confidence issues myself I wouldn't even dream of sending snaps like these to my girlfriend let alone our friend group. AITA for not believing he has body confidence issues and is just doing it for attention?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "i5oJEKjt4FjvY2vCYrxI6ijiXQ1Sd2IU", "post_id": "9ykqw5", "action": {"description": "confronting my manipulative friend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For confronting my manipulative friend?", "text": "So, a little bit of backstory.\n\nI am 14 and a freshman in High School, and I am just a little bit overweight. It all started on the 15th of September. I remember being so shy and anxious, but looking forward to this day. On the big day, i was seated next to M (i'm going to censor their names for the sake of privacy). In front of us were D and R.\n\nAs soon as i saw them forming a friendship circle, i knew i had to join in. It started out with small jokes, and soon, we were all like best friends. We hung out every week after school, gone out to movies once a month or so and even gone to a party. I particularly liked R's jokes and complimented him for his advanced humor. I thought of him as a perfect friend as he had exactly the same type of humor as me (and we shared memes alot). \n\nI don't know where it went wrong, but i soon noticed manipulative behaviour in R. We rode the same bus to School and back home. I haven't realised until then, but he was always dragging me into supermarkets without my will (by blackmailing) and putting his snacks on my line so i paid for them. It started small with stuff like 1$ but soon got worse and one day i had to spend 8$ for his sake. He didnt even share the snacks, and he ordered me to share mine.\n\nA week passed after i noticed his toxic behaviour that i started avoiding his bus. He would ask me why and i would just make up random excuses.\nWhen he figured out i wasn't going to pay for his food anymore, it all started.\n\nAt first, i didnt notice it. But weeks passed and his jokes started turning against me. He was continuously making fun of me and punching me \"for fun\", and when i told him to stop he did his fake laugh and kept pressing on. \n\nThis happened a month ago. For a whole month after, i had to endure his insulting jokes because i did not have the courage to say it to him, because he always made fun of me more when he saw that i got offended. He was making jokes about my looks, even though we have 2 obese kids in our class and i am three times thinner than them. I couldn't put a stop to it no matter how much i tried.\n\nThen, i had a brilliant idea. Blackmail. I was going to text him that if he did not stop i would make fun of his grades (he had really low grades, his average was 6.70/10 while mine was 9.30) and of his stupidity. \n\nWhile on the bus home (took a different one than him) i wrote the exact words to him:\n\nme:\"You know, you don't have to remind me of my weight with your \"jokes\" everyday. I know that i'm overweight.\"\n\nme:\"You have the intelligence of a snail, and you see me making fun of you?\"\n\nme:\"Today's jokes really offended me to a personal level. If you go on with this toxic and manipulative behaviour, i will have to ignore and take you out of my life forever. I will not torelate jokes adressed to me anymore.\"\n\nThis time, he seemed to take me serious. He apologized and said i should have told him (even though i did multiple times) and that he knows people that are fatter than me, and that he didnt want to offend me.\n\nSo, what do you guys think of this mess? AITA?\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xBhgkzKmNjmZr04wFFRoEsTUt4QcWEW2", "post_id": "a78re5", "action": {"description": "not wanting to talk to my brother", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to talk to my brother?", "text": "So my brother is keeping the cycle going of the druggie jail bird and just got out today but I don't wanna deal with it at all. I just wanna pretend he is still there because I do not have any faith he will stay sober and I don't want to get my hopes up. My sister is on me to talk to him but she wasn't there to witness my brother the way he was. I was there for it all. Am I the asshole for wanting to avoid him", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "v6tbzwIfyhUy1S5nfitDEeg8iVd8uLwh", "post_id": "ab9pjx", "action": {"description": "for letting gravy spill on our new silk bed sheets", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for for letting gravy spill on our new silk bed sheets?", "text": "Weird title but it's true. \n\nLast night i was chilling in bed and my gf brings home left overs from her parents house. Two Tupperware containers. One with Rice, one with beef stew/gravy in it.\n\nShe set's them on the bed, rice on bottom and gravy/stew stacked on top of that and said \"here ya' go\". Then they both fall over softly and I just look at it. I look away for a moment because hey, it's in Tupperware with lids. It's not going anywhere. Nope, I look aback and I see brown gravy seeping out onto our bed. \n\nIt now looks like someone shit in the bed so I have to wash the sheets etc. She tries blaming it on me but last I checked, I wasn't the one who stacked them on the bed when there was a table right next to said bed. \n\nSecondly, when I asked why she set them there it was because \"so you could it\". What? Am I supposed to eat the shit with my fucking hands? \n\nAnyway, my gf is retarded and I don't think I am at fault for her putting the god damn gravy on the bed. I didn't even touch it. I just watched it fall over. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "8YaaxsVlsypsKnZWjKI9BACenc2eZzq5", "post_id": "a6w24w", "action": {"description": "telling my friend there was no deal if he didnt pay what I asked for", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For telling my friend there was no deal if he didnt pay what I asked for?", "text": "There is a bit of context I must add. \n\nI was selling my ps4 pro and a PSN account  to my friend for 300$ , which is already a great deal. At the last minute when we were gonna meet, he asked how much just for the playstation. I tell him $150. Again a good deal, but that's not the point. \n\nWhen we meet, he notices I didnt include a controller, and said he thought he was getting a controller too. First, he asked specifically just for the playstation, how much? And second, hes already saving *at least* $100 without the controller. \n\nAnywho, I then tell him that he pays 150 or no deal, he is then pissed and buys it anyways. We haven't spoken since. Am I the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "nincdyfuMQDAgrpyXtvtuNbzSJQFfpcL", "post_id": "av7ggl", "action": {"description": "wanting my collegue to stop eating in the workspace", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting my collegue to stop eating in the workspace?", "text": "I go to an art school, and since art supplies tend to be quite cumbersome to carry around and set up, my school provides studio spaces to students to use as a workspace.  Basically like office cubicles but a bit more spacious (depending on your major.)\n\nI am someone who easily falls prone to sensory overload when I'm trying to concentrate on something difficult and important, like homework.  For me, I most easily affected by this when it comes to sounds.   \n\nThe person in the space right next to mine tends to be really loud.  He often eats in his studio while he's working.  The sound of people eating is distracting for me as is, but for him it's amped up because he eats out of glass and ceramic dish ware.  So I always hear him chew, and the clinking of spoons against his mugs/bowls, and can smell whatever he's heated up.  (The smells don't distract me too bad but they still are rather irritating)  It's a nightmare trying to concentrate when he's present.  \n\nI've tried putting on music or a podcast or something to drown him out.  Sometimes it works but not always.  The problems I've run into with doing that is sometimes whatever I'm listening to still doesn't drown him out, and I don't want to up my earbuds on full-blast day in and day out just because of him.  Also sometimes what I'm listening to just ends up contributing to the sensory overload anyways.      \n\nI know I can just go find somewhere else to work.  But the whole point of the workspace is to get work done in there.  Why can't he go find somewhere else to eat?  Just down the hall is the student center that has tables and booths and stuff.  Whenever I'm at my school late and need to eat something I always go and eat it there.\n\nI haven't actually talked with him about this because I'm not 100% sure how to approach it.  I don't want to force him out, but I wish he would be more considerate in what's supposed to be a quiet workspace.  I'm worried that if he gets defensive or mad at me over this, 1) I will have created an enemy that I still have to see on a regular basis, and 2) he'll continue to do this and nothing will change     ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gUmvMdQB8rCysVmKlOFlNGjU42VtpqcT", "post_id": "azdrpq", "action": {"description": "talking to a friend about her goals in life", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA if I talked to a friend about her goals in life?", "text": "WIBTA if I told my friend she needs to get her act together or have lower expectations? My friend wants to become a surgeon, but has not good grades, doesn't like working hard at school, and regularly skips school to line up and attend concerts.\n\nIt seems like she wants to become a surgeon to make a ton of money, she specifically said that she wants to make at least $500,000 a year. We were listening to a talk, and he mentioned high paying careers usually held by women, and at the top of the list was a OB/GYN and their salary was listed at around $120,000. She turned to me and said that all the careers listed didn't earn much. I asked for clarification, and she definitely included the OB/GYN. I feel like she has totally unreasonable expectations for the amount of work she puts in.\n\nIn addition, she wants to go to college near Major City because it hosts many concerts. If she goes to one of those schools, I feel like she will spend all of her money on concerts, and skip class all the time to go to those concerts. Even if she doesn't go to a school near Major City, she has gone by car to concerts 6 hours away.\n\nShe expects to have predictable hours as a surgeon, and not have any emergency surgeries that she will have to skip concerts for. She is fully expecting to attend many concerts as a surgeon. She has told me that she doesn't particularly like other people very much, so I think the medical school admissions people will see through her very quickly even if she does have the grades for med school. I've always heard that people become doctors to help others, but this is a secondary reason to her.\n\nI too am not the most studious, but I never skip school, and I try hard. I want to be a physical therapist, which earns about 70,000 in my area in the beginning, so I feel a bit insulted when she said that 120,000 is not much. She would be very good at math if she tried, but not as strong in the humanities, and I'm not sure about the sciences. I also think she is underestimating how much malpractice insurance will be. \n\nAITA for thinking about all of this, and WIBTA if I talked to her about this?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mEWnpBRPNEWdWAuyHjWBlFCwgAEfoZVM", "post_id": "a3hcxv", "action": {"description": "peeing in the gym shower", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for peeing in the gym shower", "text": "The other day I went to the gym and, as usual, I showered after. Now, this isn\u2019t one of those gyms with shower stalls; it has one communal men\u2019s shower. \n\nAnyway, I drank quite a lot of water while working out, and, as everyone knows,  you don\u2019t buy water you rent it. So I got the urge to pee and just went for it there. \n\nI thought I was alone in the shower, but later in the day I heard from my friend, E. E told me her friend, Greg saw me peeing in the shower, and wants to report me to gym management. This was yesterday and I don\u2019t know if he has or not. \n\nSo, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "tNpxeCX65ycYxkplTWbD5j7oXA6Mm8vg", "post_id": "b68900", "action": {"description": "Ghosting Family", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for Ghosting Family?", "text": "I (M, 36) got married two years ago and none of my paternal cousins came to my wedding. Some of them didn't even RSVP. My father passed away when I was young and I've lived far away from them most of my life. I always tried to make it to family events and holidays. Even before I was old enough to drive I would take the bus to see them. As the years passed I ended up moving even further away but I always tried to make it to the events or send a card, etc. Those trips made me appreciate the difficulty of travel, so when some of my cousins weren't able to make it to my wedding I understood. When I realized that none of them could make it I was actually a little hurt, but I understood. I was miffed that some of my cousins whose wedding's I had gone to responded in the negative.\n\nWhen I got married I was in grad school and living within proximity to them and saw them regularly. I flew home to get married and some of their parents were in attendance and my mother's side of the family, who I'm not close with, attended. I did see that they'd posted on my FB. When I was around my family no one said anything to me about it. Literally nothing except from some uncle who my aunt was in the process of divorcing. What I took from this was that if they weren't going to make the effort to have a relationship than neither was I. Apparently they noticed this and one of their parents reached out and asked why I was being distant and if I planned on approaching my cousins about what was bothering me. I told her that I wasn't necessarily being distant and that my interactions with them were as much their responsibility as mine and that if there was something bothering them, that they could reach out to me. She implied I was being ungrateful and I just left it at that. I was around them a handful of times and they always left me alone. One of my cousins did get drunk and apologized about not RSVPing and I told him that I appreciated his apology but that I thought our relationship had meant more, he said that it did. I ultimately told him that what he was saying didn't line up with how he was acting and that I was no longer willing to carry our relationship. We said goodbye in the morning and he texted me once when there was a natural disaster in my area. I didn't respond.\n\nEventually one of my cousins did send us a wedding present, and I was very grateful and wrote a card thanking them and I do respond to their texts. They occasionally post on my FB and one of them won't stop texting me on holidays, but I just feel like they need to recognize my marriage in some capacity other than posting on FB. I don't feel like I've ever really asked them for anything and I understand and we can't always make it to events. I'm not demanding a specific reaction from them more than I simply found their reaction to not be in line with what I thought family was and acted in response with what I thought was best for my wife and I, which was to let the relationships drift away.\n\nSo, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "d25We7cQOIkRV8NlKIFlRp5i3lo9B94C", "post_id": "as41dc", "action": {"description": "being mad at my Dad who said: \"don't have daughters have sons?\"", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for Being Mad at my Dad who said: \"don't have daughters have sons?\"", "text": "I was making monkey bread today for the family today when my dad is trying to clean up the basement. When I was trying to get the tv to work to have something to listen to/watch when making it, he asked me to help him in the basement. I told him I was selecting a movie and I was still trying to make the monkey bread and kept with that answer. He then said \"You know, never have daughters, have sons (I'm one of three daughters and I have an older half-brother). This made me very upset as it pretty much sounded like \"I wish I had three sons instead.\" Told him \"F\\*\\*\\* you\" (I've never cursed at him before) and ran up to my room. \n\nThat point he grounded me for cursing at him but I didn't really care and I was really upset at what he said. My sisters asked me what was wrong and everyone managed to scream at each other for a bit where he understood why I was upset. He said it was just a joke but he sounded completely serious when he said it. I calmed down and went back downstairs where he apologized to me later saying he didn't mean me to take it that way but I told me to leave me alone and I just wanted to finish the monkey bread at that point. He said he was sorry again and left to Target for a few things.\n\nFast forward to an hour later where the bread is done and Dad's home. He got me some chocolate and flowers to apologize and I did accept his apology, but I'm still really hurt and mad. He did seem really genuine in his apology earlier that day and when he came home. Am I dragging this out for too long, am I justified for being mad at all, or is this it ok to still be mad?\n\nTL;DR: Dad said \"never have daughters and have sons\" to which I said F\\*\\*\\* you. He apologized but I'm still kinda mad. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KV9iHDUr1TrDMNEm7ZRWIoyiPgjXkOKA", "post_id": "ayoez4", "action": {"description": "being annoyed at my fathers girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed at my fathers girlfriend?", "text": "Girlfriend = Barb\nDad = Dad \n\nLast year my dad met Barb and they started dating. While I have no problem with that it makes it hard to contact him as he is either at work, they are out or he is at Barbs house.. I only get to see him two weeks each year and that is gonna stop when I enlist. AITA for being annoyed that she is taking up his time when I rarely get to have any interaction with him?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3G0xxjDUnpdIhbZOS5pz6wRI0ACk9TTe", "post_id": "axfr9o", "action": {"description": "not wishing to tip 50", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wishing to tip 50%?", "text": "I enjoyed an after work meal at an average Mexican Restaurant. I sat at the bar,  The total came to less than 10 dollars. The waitress returned with my change. Two fives and the coinage.\nI did enjoy my meal, service was minimal because I require minimal service. I asked the bartender to break a five. I received five ones and an eyeroll. I tipped over 20% so, 2$ and the coinage.  Wondering if the waitress, server, whichever Is the correct term was being a bit presumptuous by bringing two fives instead of a five and five ones was trying to increase the tip?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aRxgglviAA9P3xMYxAdg9ic0syaUUHss", "post_id": "9w0vxs", "action": {"description": "getting my wife deported", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA For Getting My Wife Deported?", "text": "Background: My (ex) wife is Korean and I basically knocked her up briefly after we met. I married her after our son was born and we moved to the US about 2 years ago. \n\nI knew from the start wasn\u2019t quite right with her, but she didn\u2019t tell me until much later she has borderline and bipolar. That said, she could be sweet and was relatively smart. \n\nAfter our son was born, she started drinking heavily. She would be violent towards me (arrested a few times, but I always dropped the charges... I know.) and would attempt to commit suicide about once a month (mostly pills). \n\nI filed for divorce and left her a few months ago. She cleaned up her act, got some new doctors, and sobered up. She begged me to take her back and give her another chance because she had \u201cchanged\u201d, so I caved. \n\nSince then, things had been ok. Not awful, but not normal either. She definitely wasn\u2019t what I needed in a wife or our son needed in a mother. I grew impatient with her lack of progress, but to be fair she was making some progress. She was just unable to help with all the responsibilities involved in having a child, was a drag financially, didn\u2019t make me happy, and was simply a bad role model for our son with her fits, outbursts and screaming. \n\nSo one day after a particularly bad set of fights and her relapsing into violence and suicide attempts, I told my lawyer that I wanted to continue with the divorce and no longer wanted to sponsor her visa. \n\nSo obviously I stuck it out with her longer than I should have and have go ven her plenty of chances, so I don\u2019t feel bad for leaving her. But I feel like an asshole because unlike most people who get a divorce, now she won\u2019t physically be around to see her son grow up since she was deported and can likely never come back (due to some visa issues since before we met). Does that make me an asshole?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JQAjTeqUoSjQcCTdahzQkQtbPTZRniSa", "post_id": "a0ni30", "action": {"description": "not tipping the person who checks my bag at the airport", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not tipping the person who checks my bag at the airport?", "text": "I only recently started noticing that people are tipping the baggage check person... I\u2019ve never done that and I\u2019m not sure what I would be tipping them for?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bY7Si4F66II4tWQzSDGSAS9QnW1Xd8OG", "post_id": "aqqn92", "action": {"description": "questioning my father", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for questioning my father", "text": "I have 0 friends as a college commuter. So when I get home all I do is my homework and game. My dad comes home and turns of the wifi( he has been doing this inconsistently for weeks). Me somewhat agitated asks him why. He says it's a distraction. I reply If it was a distraction I could go downstairs out of the living room. He says that's not the point I'm your father and listen to me. I'm thinking, I'm Fucking 20 years old , the only reason I listen to you is because I respect you, and I'm an honor roll student. I replied that isn't right. He again says I'm head of the family listen to me. My mother takes my side saying we(my brother and I) are doing well in school and cause no trouble so why not. My dad proceeds to say I am head of the family and if you(my mom) disagree it does not matter, you just have to shut up and accept it. At this moment I'm tearing up because I never thought my dad would have this way of thinking. Just thinking about the way he treated my mom disgusts me. He is a firm Christian and yet I am able to question God,but not my father's authority.  I think his way of thinking is disgusting and needs to go through family counseling if he truly thinks like that. I understand I should listen to him as he is providing with a roof and food, but I think there is a line that has to be drawn especially with how he treated my mom. AITA for questioning his authority as a father?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "22yS17uEfFkzo9IjesBxxnjj05uQd1lc", "post_id": "at5joa", "action": {"description": "putting gas twice in my tank when it was limited to one serving", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "AITA for putting gas twice in my tank when it was limited to one serving?", "text": "Hello everyone. Refinery workers have been on strike for a few weeks where I live. They blocked access to the trucks and gas stations can't get refilled. So putting gas in your tank became an overnight problem. I travel 50 kilometers a day for work and finding a gas station that's not empty is a real challenge. You basically have to rely on word of mouth and pray you get there in time to fill up.\n\nAnyway last week end i got word that some gas station located 15km from where i live still had gasoline. So i get there as soon as possible only to see the worker closing off the gas station. I headed to the nearest station that had gasoline but E10 was all they had left. It's a mix with 10% ethanol only recommended for cars built after 2000, mine is from 1997. Since I had no choice I put 20 liters in my car, it's a small car with a 40 liter tank, enough to last me a week if I drive carefully.\n\nThe next day after finishing work I drove by a gas station on my way home, and to my surprise it was packed with people waiting in line, so I joined the fun. My turn came and there was a notice saying that due to the current situation, the pump is locked to 10 Euros per customer (not even liters, go figure). So I put my credit card in and finally got some real gasoline. Now normally I would stop after one serving but since I had E10 in the tank I wanted to limit the damage it could do to my engine by mixing it with as much gasoline as possible.\n\nThe pump automatically stopped when it reached 10 bucks so i put it back in place and proceeded to put my credit card in once again. Typed my code and the delivery started again, that's when some old dude 50, 55 got out of his car and started yelling at me: \"You don't have the right, it's limited by law (the moment I knew I was dealing with some sheep who believes everything he sees on TV), that if everyone does that there will be none left for the rest of us!\".\n\nI kept looking at him with a blank expression while taking gas. I wanted to tell him \"I'm taking your share!\" but I didn't. Seeing I didn't care he said he took my plate and he will call the cops on me to which I replied \"Do it\", and he angrily got back into his car. I didn't care because it was limited only by the gas station and not by law, even though there was some instance where it was.\n\nSo reddit, do you think I'm an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 16, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "MibLEO7EQYToTJoF87yJ4Ma94WzKfch8", "post_id": "b8au5w", "action": {"description": "pulling a small April Fools prank on my brother", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for pulling a small April Fools prank on my brother?", "text": "So I live in a family of 3, my dad, my mom and my older brother, and my brother usually doesn\u2019t have the same sense of humor as me, so today is April the first. This means it\u2019s April Fools day, so I took the opportunity to try to prank my brother to make him think I lost my phone, (he\u2019s my older brother). I did this by hiding my phone and secretly texting him that I was a different person and found this phone on the bus. He took this VERY seriously, I might have took it a bit far because he started telling me that if I was pulling a prank on him, he would smack me. So I went far and he told me he would see it on Find my IPhone, so he finally ruined the joke and saw it, and now he\u2019s yelling at me to stop pulling stupid pranks because it\u2019s not funny, am I the asshole?\n\nTL;DR: pulled an April fools prank on my brother, got mad, yelled at me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FkMIuWFXIbv68LfhunYNuhTwHq7dUCf7", "post_id": "b83e1b", "action": {"description": "not wanting my friend to explain all the reasons why is shouldn't have a gf", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my friend to explain all the reasons why is shouldn't have a GF?", "text": "I'm 15M for reference.\n\nSo my friends and i were talking on a call. I just nonchalantly said how i wanted a girlfriend and a friend of mine (ill call him M for short) very staunchly said that i do not need a girlfriend. He kept just saying stuff like, \"You do NOT need a girlfriend.) So, I decided to hear him out and asked him why.\n\n  \nM then laid out every reason why he thinks I shouldn't. Stuff like, \"You're young and probably just want to get laid.\" (I don't.) and, \"You're too young to really know what you want.\" This upset me a lot. I don't have a lot of self-esteem and he knows that. It really made me feel bad about myself.\n\n​\n\nSo I asked M to stop and he didn't so i raised my voice and said stop. He then said that i was getting triggered over him just stating facts. I left the call shortly.\n\n​\n\nSo Reddit, AITA for being upset and raising my voice at my friend?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "k1kuEqRQUm8YDE5bgpQn5auMocIWYwqu", "post_id": "a34or1", "action": {"description": "\"stealing hours\" at work", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for \u201cstealing hours\u201d at work?", "text": "So at this point I\u2019ll admit that I\u2019m keeping my hours regardless of whether I am in fact an asshole or not. I work at an ice rink when I\u2019m not in school. College students come back to work around the winter and summer time and that means the year round employees lose shifts to the college students. I request a lot of hours because I like big pay checks and having money to buy weed, booze and hockey tickets during school semesters. Most coworkers don\u2019t really mind because they\u2019re still in high school and don\u2019t like to work, however, there is one, a lady in her 60\u2019s who passive aggressively goes off on college students working more than 20 hours per week (I try to work 30 whenever I\u2019m back) for \u201cstealing\u201d her hours. \nShe complains that it isn\u2019t fair that I only work 5 months out of the year yet seem to get priority over her. She may be right about how it\u2019s not fair, but I like having money so I\u2019m not gonna acknowledge that to my boss.  I do tell her that if I need a shift covered she can have it but otherwise I\u2019m not gonna take a pay cut.  She complains that it\u2019s harder to buy gifts around the holidays and pay her rent when the college kids come back and it\u2019s honestly getting more and more difficult to tell her that I frankly don\u2019t give a shit. I technically have 2 other jobs, shooting music videos for local rappers and delivering for Uber eats and she says I should focus more on those gigs. The thing is, it\u2019s hard to get music video gigs consistently and working outside in the freezing cold delivering food sucks so I stick to the rink most of the time. \n\nI just feel if she\u2019s having a hard time making ends meet because of college students daring to have some money saved up,  she should take some initiative and look for a second job. It shouldn\u2019t be my problem.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "L4XXhh8MJNh84EndzRaodn79gar6hy7O", "post_id": "9wd63a", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my girlfriend because she used to be a sugar baby", "pronormative_score": 26, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my girlfriend because she used to be a sugar baby?", "text": "My [26m] girlfriend [24f] often brags about \u201cmaking it in the big city\u201d because she escaped her small town in the MidWest and achieved her \u201cdreams\u201d. She would adamantly proclaim that she did everything herself.\n\nAside from a few modeling gigs here and there, I never saw her work in a day in her life but she had a nice car, a spacious apartment in a nice neighborhood, and luxury brand items everywhere. What\u2019s even more odd was her relationship with her former and significantly older employer [50s m]. As in, she would always talk to him on the phone and constantly complain about him to me - how his wife doesn\u2019t love him, and how his children keep wasting his money.\n\nOn the other hand, she would get extremely and oddly jealous of my female assistants and secretaries to the point that she wanted me to fire them for doing their jobs. She would act disgusted and shamed sugar babies/sugar daddies on the street. Moreover, she would hate on her employer for sleeping with other young women while married - saying that adultery is a sin. Overall, she presented this pious and righteous image of herself that she was really not.\n\nAnyways, her employer confronts me one day and tells me the truth. Turns out she slept with him and continued the affair while knowing that he was married. She later broke it off with him and she dated his son instead. However, after her son and her broke up. She continues the affair with her employer once again. She stops being physical with him after she met me but he continues to support her financially. Mostly because she threatened to expose their affair to his wife if he didn\u2019t gave her monthly allowances.\n\nI never forgot what he told me: \u201cI was once a young man like you, I fell in love with a girl and she turned out to be a sugar baby for an older man. I wasted too much time trying to solve something that couldn\u2019t be resolved. When I found out that you were becoming serious with her, I believed you deserved to hear the truth.\u201d\n\nI confronted her about this. She cried and admitted it was true. I broke up with her same day because it was too much to deal with. At the time, I was starting a new business and simply could not burden the stress of the drama. More so, I didn\u2019t know who she was anymore and I felt sick about the whole situation. So I left.\n\nAs I was leaving, she kept crying that I was abandoning her when she lost everything she worked for in the past four years. According to her, if I truly loved her, I would have stayed and worked things out with her. \n\nTL;DR: Girlfriend slept with her boss and his son in the past. Hid it from me until her boss revealed it to me. I broke up with her.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 26, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 26, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WevHMaGCGHCmXL01ldM5xyNBleJTCDjE", "post_id": "a5afjv", "action": {"description": "wanting my bf to cook so I can learn for my 6 upcoming exams in the next 8 days? (one tmrw) he's super mad at me and the situation cause its push week in WoW apparently, and to avoid a fight I now cook for us both", "pronormative_score": 46, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for wanting my [F18] bf [M21] to cook so I can learn for my 6 upcoming exams in the next 8 days? (One tmrw) He's super mad at me and the situation cause its push week in WoW apparently, and to avoid a fight I now cook for us both.", "text": "Not much to say. I eventually told him to let me do it on my own, because he is scaring me when he's mad. He said it's one of the most important weeks in the whole season so he couldn't miss it for a few hrs like this. (Cleaning, plating for us both etc.) AITA??", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 46, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 46, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ujkEnjKjlXmrB8dc9W65Q1YDsSonjRAw", "post_id": "b91u52", "action": {"description": "not going to my grandfather's funeral", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not going to my grandfather's funeral?", "text": "This happened actually a couple months ago, but everyone keeps bringing it up lately so I'm wondering if I was the asshole:\nEverything started when I was little, and my cousin thought it was alright to force me to have oral sex with him (I'm talking about a period between 4th and 7th grade, while he was 14-18 yo). Even though this happened more than once, I completely removed it until last november, when, because of therapy, these memories came back to me. I am now 18, and I'm still dealing with this. I've been diagnosed with depression and tomorrow will be my first day on anti-depressants (yay!). Anyway, back to the story: after telling what happened to my close family (father, mother and brother) my mother felt the need to spread the word to all my relatives, even people I didn't know the existance of (of course this genereted a pretty bad fight, but that is another story). I've always thought little about my family, they are narrow-minded homophobic racist bigots, so I never wanted anything to do with them, therefore my relationship with them was never good, and they considered me the black sheep of the family: I have long dyed hair, I'm bisexual, I don't want to kill every black person, I listen to the Devil's music and I'm an atheist. Nevertheless, I expected them to show me at least some solidarity after getting to know what happened, or at least I didn't expect them to react how they did: they blamed me, they said \"I'm not going to believe you against your cousin 'cause we know you and we know your soul is corrupted and that probably you just want something out of this\". Pretty much everyone in the family told me something along these lines, so I told them all to fuck off and went on with my life, since I didn't really care about what they thought. But then, my grandfather got sick, they found a 4th stage cancer in his lungs, and in december he died. I never once went to his hospital room, despite my family calling me multiple times, my grandfather telling me he loved me no matter what and so on and my parents trying to convince me, and when he died I decided I didn't want to go to the funeral, I didn't want them to think I felt for his death (cause I didn't) and I didn't want to console them. Of course they were gdeatly offended by this and told me I am a cold-hearted piece of shit sociopath, but once again, I wemt on with my life.\nBUT, starting last week, they called me and texted me bringing this thing up, asking me why I didn't go and saying I really hurt them by not going. My mother and I had an argument about this (it was her father) and my grandmother called me three or four times syaing that I was being unfair to people who loved me and so on. I pretty much think I'm in the right here, but I'm having second thoughts about my reaction, maybe it was excessive. So, am I the asshole? \n\nP.S.: I'm not a native english speaker, so I'm sorry for any mistakes.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nXHWSOKRX2NnOwig3c2vNUD0Jl0ekybc", "post_id": "avzanr", "action": {"description": "upsetting my boyfriend with the movie selection I made", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for upsetting my boyfriend with the movie selection I made?", "text": "I saw someone mention The Florida Project on Reddit. My thought process was literally, \"oh hey, I'm from Florida! Let's check it out.\" I didn't know what it was about, except for people living in a motel. That's all. This movie greatly distressed my boyfriend and he's angry at ME for \"making\" him watch it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RdEj5iOaHrLtkGcgj0KXL5zdAo09C94t", "post_id": "a0m9k1", "action": {"description": "not moving out of public housing after getting a new job", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 19}, "title": "AITA for not moving out of public housing after getting a new job?", "text": "I moved in with my late grandmother (RIP) about 3 years ago when I transferred to a college in the city I currently live in. She lived in a 2 bedroom apartment using a city government housing assistance program for low income individuals, so moving in with her was just a matter of filing a few papers saying that I was family. Now, when she passed on nothing really changed about my situation, other than the monthly rent going from $75/mo to $50/mo. I was ecstatic, because I live in a good part of an expensive city, and I was only making $15/hr at the time. After a while living on my own, I managed to land a new job that dramatically increased my income, such that I could afford to live in a decent normal apartment in my city and not live paycheck-to-paycheck. The thing is, the housing authority here audited my grandmother's income *very* infrequently, on the order of years, because she joined the program decades ago and her paperwork is very old, so for a decent time now I've been paying a monthly rent of $50 with an income that could afford that rent 20 times over. In addition, the housing authority here is very well funded, so my apartment was recently renovated with a new floor, appliances, etc. and my rent stayed the same.\n\nI feel guilty all the time because I know my housing is subsidized by public funding. I have a feeling I'm being an asshole, because there is a long waiting list of people to get on this program. On the other side, it logically doesn't make sense to move out when I'm able to put so much away in savings and take advantage of an opportunity that few people find themselves in.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 19, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 19}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Jha8vzXCRxjKWw461ibJPZSen3bO4uO3", "post_id": "b46gl9", "action": {"description": "telling my fuckbuddy not to treat me like her boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 26, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for telling my fuckbuddy not to treat me like her boyfriend?", "text": "I'm 20M, in college. My fuckbuddy, let's call her Grace, is 23F and a grad student at my university. So, we agreed to just be fuckbuddies, and I fully intend to stick to that: just sex, no hanging out outside that, no feelings, whatsoever. Recently, Grace has been trying to violate this time and time again. Clearly, she caught feelings for me. H\nShe wants to hang out after sex, watch Netflix together, wants to go on dates, introduce me to her friends. And no, I don't want any of that. Right now, I just don't have the time or frame of mind to be in a relationship. I just want sex to blow off steam. \n\nSo clearly, we're incompatible here, because Grace is now suddenly wanting to go on dates and cuddle and all that. So yesterday I told her straight up: 'You obviously have feelings for me, but I don't have any for you. This makes us incompatible. If you're willing to set aside your feelings and just have sex, we can continue. If you aren't willing to just be fuckbuddies, I'm sorry, but I think it would be better for both of us if we broke up'. \n\nI expected her to get sad, but she actually started crying. I can see why she'd be sad, but I don't think I did anything wrong here.\n\nAita?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 12, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 26, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NmbQ45ipztb1EiPi7vbAxhP01licEyOv", "post_id": "a0x6j3", "action": {"description": "wanting space from my friend and ex-lover for secretly being in a relationship IMMEDIATELY after ours ended", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For wanting space from my friend and ex-lover for secretly being in a relationship IMMEDIATELY after ours ended?", "text": "TL/DR my best friend who I was confiding with while going through a breakup was pursuing the girl I was confiding about while we were still together.  Am I the asshole for feeling betrayed and stabbed in the back?\n\n\nDETAILS:\n\nI'm a male in my late 20's and I've been seeing this girl non-monogamously for 2 years.  Even though it's non-monogamous we still had a connection and love for each other, it's not just a friends with benefits type of relationship to either of us.  She has often expressed to me and other people in our friend circle that she wants to be in a committed monogamous relationship with me.  She wants more then I'm giving.  I have a lot of other things going on in my life, I travel a lot, and truthfully I'm afraid of commitment and truly enjoy my space and alone time and just being single.  It's not like I'm going out and banging a bunch of chicks all the time, it has very little to do with that, its complicated.  \n\nI'm also a very stoic person.  I'm not very emotional and I have only 2 or 3 friends that I really share my deepest feelings with and open up to.  The friend that I open up to and talk to the most often about my conflicts or emotions lives across the country, we speak to each other every couple days, and he's really someone who I trusts opinion, he's a good listener, and I feel like I can bounce anything off of him.  He's my best friend.\n\n\nOur mutual friend was having a birthday party where I live and my friend who lives across the country (lets call him Adam) is really strapped for cash right now but I felt that he should be here for the party and I'm doing well at work right now, so I bought him a plane ticket out here and he surprised our friend at his party.  Later in the night, A got extremely intoxicated and I told him to take a nap in my tent that I had set up for me and the girl I was with (lets call her Becky) to sleep in.  I got him to drink a big glass of water, took his shoes off, tucked him in and told him I'd wake him up in 2 hours.  2 hours later I come back to wake him up and Becky is in the tent and they are spooning eachother, I was a little annoyed with Adam because at of anyone, I felt like he would be the one to know my feelings for her, I paid for his plane ticket, picked him up from the airport, he was sleeping in my tent, and now he's making a move on the girls he knows I'm seeing?  I didn't let it kill my time the rest of the night and ended up just sleeping in the bed that he was supposed to sleep in.  The next morning he swore that it meant nothing, apologized profusely, said \"I would never do that to a brother man\", said nothing sexual happened, said they were just cuddling because they were cold... I genuinely accepted this and moved on.  He went back to the West Coast a day later and we continued our friendship.\n\n \n\nAbout 2 weeks later is when it all started to unravel with B. She cut our relationship off and just said she needed me to commit to her and be in a traditional relationship or we needed to give eachother space.  We ended up giving eachother space.  I was pretty upset about it and confiding to A about how I felt, sharing the conversations I was having with B and trying to figure out the proper way to go about it.  His suggestion was to give her the space she needs, STOP TALKING TO HER, and let her figure out what she wants.  I took his advice.... about a month later, I get a phone call from Adam and I could tell something was wrong.  He pretty much said that he's fallen for Becky and theyve been talking to eachother since that night of the party (while we were still together mind you) and that she was going to fly out to visit him and he was wondering how I felt about it.  I pretty much told him that I didn't feel good about it at all, and out of anyone, he should know that I still have feelings for her and was hoping Becky and me could work things out.  He knew we had begun talking again and hanging out too.  \n\n\nAfter that we began speaking with less frequency, maybe once a week instead of a couple times.  A day after speaking to Adam and a few days after hanging out with Becky, I see a picture on social media of Becky on the West Coast where he lives.  Neither of them mentioned that they were going through with it in our conversations leading up to it, and neither of them reached out or texted me while they were together, which is unlike both of them.  I feel betrayed and I feel like I cant talk to Adam with the same deepness that we had before.  My trust for him is gone.  I told Adam that I need some space to digest this and he thinks that I'm being unreasonable and immature. \n\n\nI'm feeling very conflicted and I've come here in hopes that some of you could chime in and tell me if how I'm feeling is in appropriate or if I should just let it go and continue my friendship in the same way.  I don't want to feel this way, I hate drama, but I can't help it.  I also don't want to hold Becky back and not let her pursue what she is looking for.  I know she's not \"mine\" and I honestly want her to be happy and to find the love she deserves.  Help me out!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CLUsOgGnKwsx5XIXfttMq0ofgaX5cMib", "post_id": "a2qkee", "action": {"description": "not lighting Hanukkah candles with my dad", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 17}, "title": "AITA for not lighting Hanukkah candles with my dad", "text": "Context: I\u2019ve never been a religious person before although my dads side of the family is Jewish and recently my dad has tried to get more in touch with his heritage, even going as far as taking Hebrew lessons. I\u2019ve always seen religion as something irrelevant in my life and I\u2019ve never really felt a spiritual connection or anything. \n\nStory: So last night I was working downstairs when my mother comes down and tells me that my father is about to light the Hanukkah candles. I tell her that I\u2019m busy and I don\u2019t really want to do it (when also it\u2019s because I\u2019m not a big fan of religious activities). She calls me selfish and shouts at me and I was kind of angry at her for expecting me to participate in something I don\u2019t want to do just because it\u2019s \u201ctechnically my heritage\u201d.\n\nI\u2019m half angry at my parents for expecting me to try and be religious like them but I also feel a bit like an asshole for not respecting my heritage and stuff\n\nAITA?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 17, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 17}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "k9a8GtWhDs7hs1JNljBHhtZG78zDGpe5", "post_id": "awalhv", "action": null, "title": "AITA that for years, I haven't been able to afford to take my long-time GF on a nice vacation?", "text": "I'll try to be brief: \n\nI've been with my girlfriend for a long time (5 years). We're in our late 20's. When college ended, she immediately went to work for an accounting firm and makes pretty solid money. By contrast, I bounced around from contractor job to contractor job, getting laid off a lot of times and in general having a pretty shaky start to my career.\n\n2 years ago, I was able to land my first real job with a small tech company. It was the real deal: health, insurance, dental, etc. but the problem was that it paid very little (little more than a desk secretary). And after doing some digging, there was also very little chance I could move up in the company. It was better than anything I've gotten -- but it wasn't enough to make a future. After taking a long time to think about it, I saved up as much as I could, quit my job, and managed to enroll in my local college's computer science program. I start in a few months. \n\nThe problem is this: my girlfriend has been excitedly talking about planning a trip to Europe. I simply can't afford it. And I would gladly tell her that, but I feel an immense amount of guilt because aside from day trips in our van to nearby towns, I've never been able to take her on a real vacation. There's a good chance I'll be able to after I graduate the CS program, but that'll be in 2 years (I have gen ed credits taken care of). \n\nThus, I feel a lot of anxiety that my girlfriend has been with me for five years and will have to wait another two just so I can afford to take her out to a nice place. If it paints a better picture, she's already making great money, is clearly out of my league, and has been incredibly patient with how shaky my financials are. I'm about to tell her that I can't afford to go. Am I being reasonable from where I'm coming from or AITA for not getting my shit together earlier and letting things get this way? \n\n​\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "duEIB4ilPTcd2UqlHLtJHRagdxY7HU22", "post_id": "ah3gje", "action": {"description": "having my date pay for my dinner and I pay her back later", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for having my date pay for my dinner and I pay her back later?", "text": "Read the post \n\n\nSo I\u2019m a guy, I live in a traditional conservative state, so I\u2019m always supposed to pay for the dates. Eh whatever, it\u2019s cool. \n\nI always pay in cash, I went to the bank yesterday and took out $200 in 2 one hundred dollar bills. (I never use my credit card, I leave it at home usually. I put Netflix on it and pay it off each month) \n\nSo, I take this girl out to eat at a place, and they didn\u2019t have change for a $100. (Which pissed me off btw, but whatever) I had no other way to pay, so I asked if she could pay and I pay her back later She said \u201cfine, whatever\u201d In kinda a mad voice. After dinner we talked in the car and she said she was mad because usually the man always pays, etc etc \n\n\nI felt bad after the date. I paid her back through PayPal tho. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yr1UyFG6h54dK288Ex1EruqUYXMKYsUU", "post_id": "9xquf0", "action": {"description": "thinking sexting means sex", "pronormative_score": 20, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for thinking sexting means sex?", "text": "Semi-long story, this happened awhile ago but still bugs me.\n\nBasically my wife went on anti-depressants and it killed her libido. Sex is pretty important to me, but if she's not feeling it, then obviously I'm not going to push her about it. We had some talks and she said she'd take some time to adjust and see how she feels after some time. Flash forward a few weeks.\n\nShe texts me at work sending me pics of her in lingerie asking me to order her sushi while she's home. Of course I order the sushi instantly (which i would've done anyway, i did the weeke before). On the way home she texts me asking me to get firewood and wine for tonight.\n\nI get home, we have some wine and a fire and she says \"hey, btw i dont want sex tonight.\"\nI'm clearly disappointed and let her know i felt really jerked around by the earlier interactions.\n\nAm i the asshole for thinking things were gonna happen?\n\nTLDR - Am i an asshole for thinking my wife wanted to hook up after sexting me when we have had a dry spell?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 20, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 20, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VJwnypGCZ3cWUr7OJxs9ugUDMGr0S7S5", "post_id": "b8ksq8", "action": {"description": "accidentally following a fwb ex girlfriend on social media", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for accidentally following a fwb ex girlfriend on social media?", "text": "Sorry if the layout sucks, I\u2019m on my phone. Also sorry for any spelling or grammatical errors. \n\nSo a bit of context, I(21F) started a friends with benefits relationship with a good friend(23M, let\u2019s call him B) back in July. It was fun and we had a good time but in September he started dating a girl (let\u2019s call her L)so we stopped hooking up. They broke up in December. Ever since B started dating L, L made him unfollow me on social media because she didn\u2019t like how close B and I were. L made B stop talking to me and we talked everyday for about a year up until that point. Ever since L and B started dating, B and I never were the same. Even after they had broken up, we never really started talking again. But recently, B messaged me and we started  flirting again. We had planned on seeing each other again once we were both back in the same city. \n\nNow to the asshole situation! Last night I was pregaming to go out and was scrolling social media. (I follow people that pop up in my recommended because I like finding new content)  I guess in my drunken haze I followed L.  I get a DM from B that night about how L bitched him out for it, and for me to delete his number and never speak to him again. I replied confused since I hadn\u2019t realize I had followed her, he once again said to never speak to him again. I blocked him on Instagram because I didn\u2019t want to be attacked for an accident. B then went to his second account and continued to bitch at me through text about how I can never speak to L, that he now needs to quit his job since he works with her. I had just decided to not respond to him because I felt as though he was being petty and childish about the whole situation. He kept messaging me for an hour, so I responded saying he needs to grow up, that they had been broken up for three months, and they both live in different cities until the semester ends. \n\nSo AITA in this whole situation? I honestly don\u2019t have an idea and I can\u2019t talk to anyone about this since we said we wouldn\u2019t tell anyone about our relationship. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dbRsWEmN50MhoPouec6oqYxf6hGSE4lv", "post_id": "9ux49k", "action": {"description": "running out of dog poo bags only to get threatened by a guy wanting me to empty my groceries in the street and use the bag that is carry them when my dog takes a shit", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for running out of dog poo bags only to get threatened by a guy wanting me to empty my groceries in the street and use the bag that is carry them when my dog takes a shit?", "text": "Basically what happened is I came home from work and needed to walk my dogs and get some shopping so I grabbed my dogs and went down to the local dairy (corner shop), brought some stuff but part way back home I realised I had ran out of dog poo bags. I began heading home as fast as possible but then one of my dogs decided to take a dump right there, in front of this bald guy\u2019s house who was watching me. \n\nI couldn\u2019t think of a way of picking it up in that moment (spoiler warning, I figured out a way) so I turned to walk away but the guy called me back quite aggressively. \n\nAlso, side note, this wasn\u2019t directly in front of his house. His house was a house on a street corner and my dog decided to poo on the side in the gutter, so he had to poke his head around the side of his house and over his fence to even see me.\n\nI apologised and told him my situation and that I didn\u2019t plan on running out of poo bags but he wasn\u2019t having a bar of it. His tone was kinda like the one you hear before a asshole would break your nose and I didn\u2019t want a fight so I asked him if he had a plastic bag I could borrow. Then he said for me to empty my groceries from the plastic bag I was using and pick it up with that. I told him I could for the obvious reason I wouldn\u2019t be able to carry my groceries but then he threatened me that he\u2019d come down to me and force me to use the groceries bag.\n\nThat\u2019s when I had the pretty shitty idea (no pun intended) of emptying the biscuits I brought for snacks later and used the wrapper for them to pick it up. Satisfied, he walked back into his house.\n\nI recognise that what I did could go on r/trashy if I plan for it, but I didn\u2019t, so am I the asshole for letting my dog poo outside this guy\u2019s house in a gutter or is the bald guy the asshole for going out of his way to threaten me unless I ruined my groceries?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "SRRPy2VGLuTyQed4DQTb8Xr2fGaDmD5O", "post_id": "9uv6et", "action": {"description": "being upset over my girlfriend's new tattoo", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for being upset over my girlfriend's new tattoo?", "text": "Some background: my name has a couple of different things associated with it that I really hate.  For the sake of the thread,  we'll say it's Robin.  I HATE being associated with a bird. Top three on the list of things that piss me off. [It's relevant, I promise.]\n\nI've been dating this girl for just under 5 months. It's been going well, we're taking things slow and generally have a good time together. A couple weeks ago she went to see her tattoo artist and came back with a really big tattoo of a robin on the side of her neck.  Right up near her ear, no chance of covering it up. \n\nI asked her why she chose that design, and her answer was that she wanted to get something that was symbolic of me. Her brother loves tigers, so she's got a tiger tattoo on her leg for him,  same concept.  I asked her if she knew that I hated the bird association, and she said she did but decided to get it anyway. She said that she thought over all the possible negatives and decided it was worth it. \n\nSo am I an asshole for being unhappy about it? It is her body,  and she can do whatever she wants with it, but I really wish she'd chosen something else if she was that dead set on getting a tattoo to represent me. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 21, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BnSaDbhQeFp2TiV4BTs4LEwWYoYOa0i3", "post_id": "aeb8fw", "action": {"description": "not having sympathy for my boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not having sympathy for my boyfriend?", "text": "For context, we are both in our mid-late 20's with a toddler. \n\n​\n\nBF has a drinking problem. He is a few months sober now, but not doing anything generally recommended for alcoholics to stay sober long term. He says he feels guilty about what happened while he was actively drinking. He says that it haunts him every day. He tries to gain my sympathy by saying how it only happened because he was \"terrified\" of becoming a parent. Here's why I think that's BS and he deserves no sympathy from me.\n\n​\n\n1. I offered to disappear, he could tell his family whatever he wanted about why I left and I wouldn't even come for child support. He chose to stay and be a father.\n\n2.  Every fear he had about becoming a parent, I also had. I didn't know if I even wanted kids at all. But I had the added fears of actually \\*giving birth\\*. And since he was always drunk and my family lives far away, I was also afraid of not having anyone for support while giving birth. When I asked him to at least cut back on his drinking when I was close to my due date, he refused. He didn't care if he missed the birth and said worst case scenario I could call a taxi to get me to the hospital.\n\n​\n\n3. I got put on bedrest to prevent premature labour. Sometimes the short walk to the bathroom would cause contractions. So I asked him to pick up groceries. He would promise to do so, then go out drinking instead. Leaving me to choose between going hungry or walking to and from the grocery store. Meanwhile he would disappear sometimes for the night and entire next day, and I would hear nothing from him.\n\n​\n\n4. When baby was born, the drinking got worse. Sometimes to the point of him being delusional, once even convincing himself our baby was \"a psycopath with dead eyes and no soul.\"  He was constantly endangering our baby, and it was a constant fight for me to keep baby safe. I thought about leaving but thought I couldn't prove he was unsafe for our baby. I was genuinely afraid that if a judge allowed him unsupervised access, my baby would die or be seriously injured. At least if I stayed I could protect my baby.\n\n​\n\nLong story short, he had alcohol to cope with his fears, while I had nothing and no one to help cope with mine, and his coping mechanism turned him into my biggest fear.\n\n​\n\nSo now that he is sober and I'm not afraid for mine or my child's safety, and he is actually beginning to have a relationship with our now toddler. AITA for not feeling bad for him, and for expecting more from him than just sobriety?? I know sobriety is a HUGE deal for any addict, but I feel like in our situation it really is the bare minimum.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9dDvZoOvFgLzeUaKkwAd9FyL07AxM4LD", "post_id": "avrwu0", "action": {"description": "stopping giving my friend notes when he misses class", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA If I stopped giving my friend notes when he misses class?", "text": "Honestly, \"friend\" is too much of a loaded term but...\n\nWe have a lecture class together twice a week, and for the past three weeks I've noticed a pattern with him: on Thursday he misses class, just doesn't even come in or try to come in late. Tuesday he comes in, asks me if I can share my notes with him, and he falls asleep. Occasionally, he wakes up and looks over at my laptop screen to make sure I'm taking notes. Keep in mind, we do about five minutes of review in this class and the other hour and fifteen minutes is new material that he just sleeps through. At first I was fine with helping him out, shit happens we all miss class. But at this point it's getting ridiculous and I feel like he's just using me to get information so he can skip. I wanna tell him no but I'm too nice to just say it to his face. Advice/help would be appreciated. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5GLUthRLqAfq1OY6U6NyM8HqEKthgJH3", "post_id": "assug9", "action": {"description": "feeling that getting into a hot tub at a party (that has girls in it) without my girlfriend is not disrespectful towards her", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 25}, "title": "AITA for feeling that getting into a hot tub at a party (that has girls in it) without my girlfriend is not disrespectful towards her?", "text": "So last weekend my best friend had his 30th Birthday party at his family's beach house (massive mansion is a better term). He invited about 25 people to come over to celebrate/sleep over. The house has a heated pool and a hot tub, so we brought swimsuits. \n\nMost of the attendees are close friends of mine. My girlfriend of nearly 2 years has met many of them on multiple occasions. They're all super nice, respectful, & intelligent adults...but, this group does like to have fun. In the past my gf has been uncomfortable in certain situations she isn't as used to as I am, so I explained to her what she might encounter at this party. I warned that things like people getting naked in the pool and MDMA use were a possibility. \n\n I said if she wasn't comfortable she didn't have to come. But if she did go, as I rarely get to see these friends, I just wanted to enjoy the party without worrying about her being offended by everything. She promised that she would be fine and wouldn't start any arguments.\n\nWe get to the party, everyone has a great time. Some people do end up rolling but its mostly pretty tame. Around 12am I tell her I want to go in the hot tub. She didn't really want to go in, so I suggested I could just go in without her.\n\nThats when she says: \"if theres half naked girls in there you're not getting in\". I protested, its just my friends in the hot tub. And if people want to get naked thats on them, we're all adults.  To which she responded, \"I don't want you perving on any naked girls. If you respected me you wouldn't go in\". I assured her I wouldn't be \"perving\" and didn't see the big deal. She was welcome to join, and should trust me regardless of whose in there. (To be clear, nobody was actually naked). She then got upset and went into the bedroom alone. She later changing her mind and went in the hot tub with me (probably to \"babysit\" me)\n\nThis isn't the first time we've had a hot tub disagreement. About a year ago with friends on a ski trip, some of the girls didn't have suits so they just went in in their bra/thongs. Nobody else cared. But my gf started shooting daggers at me and was angry the rest of the night. She later told me \"that was so inappropriate, those girls have no respect doing that around people's boyfriends\". I disagreed, which sparked an argument.\n\nAlso later at the 30th bday, a bunch of us were talking in one of the bedrooms. Two of the girls (who are bi) started playfully kissing each other on the bed. I glanced over but didn't stare or anything. My gf gave me an angry look and said \"what do you think you're doing?\". I was confused. \"You're really not going to look away?\". She walked off upset.\n\nAITA for not finding these things disrespectful?\n\nTo preface...she's always known I had a bit more of an \"alternative lifestyle\" during/post (lots of music festivals, burning man, psychedelics, etc). I was always open with her about my liberal views & experiences. Shes always *claimed* to accept that about me.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 12, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 25}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "aMa0D280LWdBFZmoOdrVCpyYwuhW210H", "post_id": "aaoijl", "action": null, "title": "AITA Dad getting pissed for asking about the money he owes me", "text": "Ok for a little back story my dad asked me to put 30 dollars in his tank because he didnt have his wallet. After i gave him the money he said he was going to pay me back. So about a week passes and I ask him. He ends up sending a huge paragraph about how im ungrateful and all the things he does for me, which I do appreciate but im just asking for the money he said hed pay me back. So right now i'm trying to figure out what to say that wont piss him off even more.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ENusCrFy7RirDeGFlNnvoofOKFqQOhOs", "post_id": "b84rj2", "action": {"description": "dating my son's friend", "pronormative_score": 28, "contranormative_score": 41}, "title": "AITA for dating my son's friend?", "text": "Backstory: I had my son when I was 17. His father was never really in the picture, so I was a single mother for the most part. Now I'm 38 and my son \"Ben\" is 21. He's been suffering from depression the past couple of years. I take him to therapy every week and he seems to be getting better but he's always been an introverted kid, so he seems lonely most days. When he was in high school, he was in a band but that quickly disbanded after one of the members graduated high school and went off to college. I recently made a suggestion for him to maybe start up a band again. To my surprise, he was excited about the idea but didn't really know where to start. I suggested he make posters to advertise and maybe place them around his campus. He got to work right away and showed me a flyer he had made. I asked if he wanted me to put it up on the bulletin board at my work place and he agreed.\n\nAs I was posting up the flyer on the board the next day, a colleague \"Joe\" walked up beside me and noticed the flyer (he's 29). I never really talked to Joe in the past because we work in different departments but I recognized his face and knew of him through other colleagues. We started talking about the band and Joe said he sings and plays his guitar every now and then. I told him he should audition and we both laughed about it, but toward the end of our conversation, he seemed interested, so I ripped off the part of the flyer that had Ben's phone number and gave it to him in case he wanted more information.\n\nLong story short, he audition and ended up in the band. The band consists of Ben, Joe, and two other people (both go to school with Ben). I'll admit, it was weird having Joe over at our place at first because we were colleagues and never hung out outside of work or work events, but I didn't mind it because Ben seemed happy and talks a lot about Joe (the two hang out often).\n\nA week ago, Joe was supposed to come over and work on some lyrics with Ben, but Ben was running late, so I invited Joe inside for a cup of coffee. We started chatting about work and complaining about our supervisors to each other, which was really nice to do because I haven't been able to vent to any of my other colleagues about work stress. We talked about the band and he played a sample of a song they were working on, which sounded similar to a song I had heard before but couldn't remember the name of. He asked for my number so that I could send him the song if I ended up remembering. I sent him the song that night and we've been texting all week since then. I enjoy talking to him a lot and it honestly feels like a stupid high school crush (I haven't seriously dated anyone since I was with Ben's father). Yesterday Ben found out I'd been texting Joe and got upset, saying that it's weird and that I can't date his friend. He compared it to \"what if you dated Matt\" (his 21 yr old friend since middle school). I don't think it's the same situation though. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 40, "OTHER": 20, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 28, "WRONG": 41}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "6XkhWSKE7QlUQSf1aLNjfG3tomLuIqUg", "post_id": "ax9fq8", "action": {"description": "killing the mood because I didn't take a joke", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for killing the mood because I didn't take a joke?", "text": "**Background:**\n\nSo I went out with 4 of my friends to grab some dinner, and we decided to go to this new restaurant that had recently opened. It was a theme restaurant, so every employee had a costume on, and made supposedly funny remarks about whatever, to entertain the customers. The environment was very loud, with music and people talking, a bit chaotic even, but it was part of the experience I guess.\n\n​\n\n**What happened:**\n\nOne of the employees was walking around the tables and taking pictures with those who asked him to. After a while he stopped by our table, he was in character, so I fugured he was going to tell jokes or whatever.\n\nBut then he asked me to stand up. I asked him why, and he said \"come on, just stand up\", so I asked \"why\" again and he said \"I wanna take a picture with you\". I said I didn't want to take any pictures, but he insisted, so I decided I'd go along with it and send him on his way.\n\nAs I'm standing up and a friend is grabbing a phone, he moves his arm like he's trying to put it around me to pose for the picture, but he does it mid-air just above my head, and said \"come on, take the picture now\". Everyone at my table started laughing, because I'm an adult man but very short for my age, and he clearly did that to make fun of it.\n\nSo I sit back down and just said something like \"man, you must think you're so funny\". I remember saying that politely, but I was very serious and I think I couldn't hide the fact that I was offended, because the guy was clearly upset that I didn't play along. He didn't apologize, he only kept saying \"It was just a joke\" and walked away.\n\nAfter that, no one said anything, but I felt I kinda ruined the mood, because everyone stopped laughing. It was their idea to go to that place, they were excited and having fun until that point. My friends quickly changed the subject and started to talk about other things, but then everything was kinda awkward and we didn't stay long. Sometimes I think I was an a-hole and should have played along, and laughed about everything.\n\n​\n\n**TL;DR**\n\nAn employee at a restaurant made a joke about my height, everyone thought it was funny except for me, and I killed the mood when I didn't laugh and told the guy that it wasn't ok.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RJhvXifuG2YbDLyOSaTvq67GHCBj9Jzb", "post_id": "aqjdsy", "action": {"description": "replying to my sister when she messaged me \"happy birthday\" when me and my gf were out to eat", "pronormative_score": 60, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for replying to my sister when she messaged me \"Happy Birthday\" when me (34m) and my gf (33f) were out to eat?", "text": "She doesn't like when I use my phone when we are out.  Afterwards she wouldn't talk to me the rest of the night.  I'm still pissed off, I can never catch a break.  I also had to pay for dinner, I assumed she was paying.  I should also add, before we went out she asked something along the lines of \"do you want to go out for a birthday dinner?\" I wouldn't have went if I knew I was paying because I just emptied my savings and checking to pay off a loan.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 59, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 60, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "g8x0ZvRaGMFGyPN4tBaMFkB3p3lZvNou", "post_id": "b3zfmb", "action": {"description": "being pissed to meet my niece last", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for being pissed to meet my niece last?", "text": "My sister went to be induced last night, mom called and told me about it this morning. They asked us not to come up until after her other daughters got to come up after school, and they'd call us to come see new baby after. No big deal. She had the baby at 945am, and apparently all of her inlaws were in and out today. I finally get a message with a picture and \"no name no fb please\" from my mom. About 2 hours after i start seeing the inlaws posting pictures with ALL of the details on fb. And get a message about 745 \"are you coming up tonight?\" While my family is eating dinner. Visiting hours at the hospital are done at 8pm, and they're pretty strict about it, so not really an option to go tonight. \n\nMy sister and i were close friends growing up, and my wife and daughters love her and hers dearly. I know births should be handled how they want to, but it made myself, my wife, and daughters feel pretty unimportant. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wFB63n3LNePWjmLQ8i5ZVbnneqiDwTc5", "post_id": "azsmv4", "action": {"description": "ignoring my best friend", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ignoring my best friend?", "text": "I have this best friend, we've been friends for multiple decades. Honestly, besides my wife and parents, he's the only real close relationship I have to any other human being.\n\nI love the guy, but he pulled this shit a few years ago where he got so wrapped up in his own shit (minimum wage job, video games, and such) where he stopped talking to me. I had to have a chat with him and explain that I DO get that he's busy, and all he has to do is text back and say he's busy, because otherwise I get concerned about him.\n\nThings have been good since, but he's been pulling this shit again, and now I don't have the patience or energy to be the \"single parent\" of our friendship, I'm kinda refusing to wash AND dry, so after a few weeks of him ignoring me, I haven't been texting him or reaching out in any way, and he's made no effort to do the same.\n\nAm I the asshole for not wanting to put up with this shit?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9BCZPjD57wYCgjQB3S50Z8PLaHvzCPNb", "post_id": "b4z0ah", "action": {"description": "denying my Cousin the right to sell his Games for Weed", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA: Denying my Cousin the Right to Sell His Games for Weed?", "text": "Let me give you some backstory on my cousin he's 21 and every day of his life for the past 2 years at least he's screamed at my nan and his mum for money for weed, and they give it to him. Over the past 18 months without my permission he's sold all of my PS4 games for weed, sold my bike for weed, and then sold all of my Xbox One games for weed. He's also suspected of selling my little cousin's 2 Nintendo DSs and other stuff. Each time there's been murder and screaming, and I've never been fully compensated for my losses and it makes me furious.   \n\n\nNow for the past 10-15 years I've been in possession of my cousins GameCube controller and games, and I've played them regularly on my Wii. That's mine and his childhood and all the games are rare and expensive, but now he's told me he wants to sell all of these for drugs. Do I have a right to deny my cousin his games because I don't want them being sold for weed? They are massively sentimental to me and I've kept them and played them for over 10 years, while the only reason he cares about them now is so he can get a little bit more weed. \n\n​\n\nWhat do I do in this situation, imo he's not getting the games so he can sell them for drugs, he's sold everything else of his and mine, and other peoples all for drugs, he has no emotional connection to these games like I do, and only cares about them now because he wants more drugs, he's not getting them.  \n\n\nAITA? I don't give him them right?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5lUgIPInP2Jip09ywGJ1SAo0LsFiJ7Dg", "post_id": "ayz2jt", "action": {"description": "losing control of my drone and eventually crash landing it on my roof", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for losing control of my drone and eventually crash landing it on my roof.", "text": "Earlier today I was flying my TELLO toy drone around my yard having lots of fun also taking some pictures of the ocean as I live close to the beach. After about 3 minutes of flying I get hit with a gust of wind way too strong to fly my tiny toy drone and it ends of flying a few houses away. I managed to change to a faster fly mode and somewhat get my drone home but the wind was far too bad for me to have any control of it.\n\nLong story short I ended up smashing my drone into the side of my house and it ended up upside down facing a wall. Almost immediately after the crash  my drone begins to move and I see it go into my neighbours house and then she turns it off. In disbelief I go around the house to look onto my roof and sure enough the drone is gone. *Also just to be clear I landed on a lower level roof of our house and the way my neighbours house is set up they have a side stairwell that goes above our roof and is literally 6 inches away from our house so they literally went out their door and grabbed it from MY roof. \n\nAs my fianc\u00e9 I were trying to work up the nerve to go ask for it back my neighbour comes stomping up the staircase to my house with my drone. She then proceeded to call me a creep and peeping Tom and absolutely lost her shit. I offered to show her the pictures directly from my drone *no way to delete anything as she turned the drone off long before I knew she was upset*  and she refused to look and instead continued to accuse me of attempting to spy on her. She then gave me my drone swore some more and then left, I was very upset by the way she chose to handle it so I immediately went to her house to try and clear things up as I take that kind of accusation very seriously, unfortunately she chose to not answer her door. \n\nAs she didn\u2019t answer I left a note in their mailbox trying to explain that my fianc\u00e9 and I were purely looking at the beach and ocean and that we have no problems showing them all the recorded things from any of the 3 times I\u2019ve flown my drone outside also the note included my contact info. My relationship with this neighbour has been very good sometimes when it snows I shovel their sidewalk and her husband also does the same for me if I am not home, He has also gone out in a blizzard at 1am in his pyjamas to help me get my car unstuck. so I\u2019m not to sure why all of a sudden she has labeled me in such a disgusting manner and chose not to discuss it.\n\nExtras info: drones are legal where I am and not once did I break any local laws I never went onto her property even when my drone lost control. When she stole it she took it off of my property. To add my fianc\u00e9 was literally sitting next to me the entire flight also taking turns flying, she was clearly with me when my neighbour approached us. Lastly I have my name and phone number written in big shiny letters on the top of my drone in case I lose it as I am truly just your average nerd who\u2019s recently become obsessed with drones.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XeMaWzhf1K6xjekpI6t3GZT8lstg6GvJ", "post_id": "axhn17", "action": {"description": "not wanting to help out my dad and his wife", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to help out my dad and his wife?", "text": "Throw away account for reasons.\n\nSome background information:\n\nAbout 6 years ago, my dad had an affair with another woman which ultimately led to my parents separation. He impregnated his mistress, and eventually got married. Our relationship has been rocky ever since.\n\nMy dad seems to be the primary taker of his child (now 4 y/o) due to her mother working long hours nearly everyday. Although I have a rocky relationship with my dad, I still spend time with my younger half sister and treat her no different as any of my other siblings. Recently, my dad reached out to me in need of help to watch younger half sister while he goes on vacation for 3 weeks. Unfortunately, the time he's leaving falls around the time of my busiest school quarter, and then Spring break- which puts me in a situation where I'd have to sacrifice pretty much all of my spare time to watch half sister. I usually wouldn't mind, however, my dad has failed to ask half sisters mom to sacrifice any of her time in order to take care of her own child. She refuses to take time off work, or even work fewer hours, and insists I take their child for nearly 13 hours each day in order for her to get sleep and feel energized for work. I feel this is completely unfair to not only me, but their child as well, who is put at the butt of both their priorities. I told both dad and half sister's mom I would only be available 4 times out of the week to baby sit (which is nearly everyday) and received hateful comments about my inability to reciprocate any kind of help my dad has given me throughout the years. Although I feel bad about not being more of help to both of them, I can't help but feel like I deserve to put aside some time for myself in between working and going to school full time, instead of sacrificing nearly every second of free time to watch my half sister while her dad goes on vacation and her mom spends all her time working. So, AMITA?\n\nI should also mention: younger half sister is ill-mannered, very bratty and cries almost constantly, and both half sister and her mom are in a financial situation where she does not need to be working as much as she does.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zN3qJONASnkZZtiALTFbKvwGzbLkau5G", "post_id": "aboui4", "action": {"description": "calling out my cousin for snap chatting other guys when she has a man", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for calling out my cousin for snap chatting other guys when she has a man?", "text": "After I sent her a snap of one of my closest friends she told me to tell him to add her on snap. He did, and now they are snap chatting even though she has a man. I called her out on it essentially saying she\u2019s being a little bit unfaithful because why the fuck would she be needing to talk to other mans while she\u2019s in a deeply committed relationship and she told me to fuck off and mind my own business so I called her a thirsty hoe and since then we haven\u2019t talked. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "6jLve7OPQdhsozIP8Ay58Fu5bQQRKu4v", "post_id": "ate7vm", "action": {"description": "teasing a friend about the things she likes", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for teasing a friend about the things she likes?", "text": "This was a while ago, so more of a \"was I the asshole,\" but I just discovered this sub so bear with me. I was talking to my best friend about a convention or whatever and somehow Ed Sheeran came up, and she said she liked him. I poked fun at him and brought up some dumb Twitter beef he was involved in as the main reason I disliked him. She got really upset and said I \"always say that\" about stuff she likes (which I admittedly used to do pretty often). I just sort of apologized and moved on, but it's still bugging me for a few reasons.\n\n1. We used to tease each other all the time, and I thought it was good-natured but apparently she didn't. I'm very careful not to insult stuff she likes anymore but she still roasts me a lot, in much more drastic ways. (Telling people I'm into tentacle porn because I watch anime, making fun of my physical appearance and my voice, telling people about embarrassing shit I did in middle school and inviting people to make fun of my yearbook pictures, etc.) It's all lighthearted but it's annoying that I can't do the same, because she's fairly insecure and I worry about upsetting her. I thought the stuff she enjoyed was fair game.\n2. This wouldn't bother me so much if it didn't feel so unequal. I'm an easy person to tease -- I sort of invite it on myself sometimes, so I'm often the butt of jokes. I also don't like responding in kind because I worry about taking it too far, unless I know the person really well. She was pretty much the only person I felt like I could joke around with without making myself a target, but now I can't anymore without worrying about her feelings.\n3. We used to be part of a friend group that often took teasing way too far (to the point that I broke down in tears in front of them multiple times when they put hands on me or started group roasts of me that got too vicious), and she is pretty much the only one I'm still in regular contact with. Things have gotten much better, but she occasionally participated in or encouraged this dynamic so I feel like I deserve a little payback.\n\nShe's normally very conflict avoidant, so this must have been upsetting her for a REALLY long time. I felt bad about it, but I still think she was overreacting and being hypocritical. Am I being a petty bitch or is she the one who needs to get over herself? Or are we both just melodramatic teenage girls?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "j73dMVd3L745BYvqUtL8JxaGVXdKkrF1", "post_id": "b8nfgf", "action": {"description": "continuing to work at McDondald's even though my parents paid for school up through masters degree", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "AITA for continuing to work at McDondald's even though my parents paid for school up through masters degree?", "text": "I can keep this really short. In December I graduated with my MA in sociology. I really didn't want to leave my college town so over winter break I saw that the McDonalds across the street from the campus was hiring so I took a job just to get myself out of the house. \n\nI freaking love it. I go in for the breakfast shift, I work essentially full time and I'm done by noon. I have zero responsibilities outside of work and I can just go home and chill until I go to bed. From the front window I have an amazing view of all the students in their fine ass yoga tights crossing the street to campus and my boss is this oddly hot Hispanic lady who sort of looks like Brie Larson with darker hair and skin. I trade \"dropped\" sausage and egg biscuits for weed and coke and I love the dudes I work with.  I'm happy as a clam in slop as they say. \n\nMy parents are PISSED. Like massively pissed. They paid 100% of my tuition and they think I should be looking for a \"real\" job. I don't want to. \n\nAm I the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 15, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "eqPLC6N4A0zF3H1aOUDhdyFu0RXFsXT7", "post_id": "aftj6f", "action": {"description": "leaving my wife of 3 years because she would be angry all the time", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for leaving my wife of 3 years because she would be angry all the time?", "text": "A little more context, me (m23) made the decision to leave my wife (f20) because she would just be mad at everything all the time.  She had a really bad temper sometimes to the point where we would physically fight (this was way back in the day) we have a kid who is about to turn 2 and I told her that I have no intentions of disappearing. I have been holding this in for so long because I was afraid of how she would act. She took it a lot better than I thought but I just wanted to no am I in the wrong?\n\nTLDR; My wife have anger issues and I couldn't stand being yelled at anymore", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9WKLnaT4cYjkS70lYkXYtnKsCGiwhdis", "post_id": "a40237", "action": {"description": "blaming my employee for showing up late", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for blaming my employee for showing up late?", "text": "I run a team at work. Every Monday, at 9:30, we have a 30 minute team meeting to review the previous week and establish what we'll be doing for the coming week. One employee on my team showed up in the office at about 9:50 this past Monday. I spoke to him privately about this afterwards, and he said that it wasn't his fault that he's late, it was because the subways were delayed. I asked him what time he would have gotten to the office if the subways weren't delayed, and he said \"before the meeting\". I asked him again, for a specific arrival time, and he said 9:25. I told him that he's cutting it too close to the start of a meeting, and because of that, it's his fault. I explained to him that if he had planned on getting to the office at 9, and the subways were so bad that he didn't get in until the time he did, 9:50, then he could blame the subway, because that's a very significant, genuinely unexpected delay. He's adamant that he's done nothing wrong.\n\nI'm generally pretty lax about my teams hours, so long as they get the work done, but missing this meeting counts towards not getting work done, as far as I'm concerned. This meeting has been held at this time for over 6 months. What do you think, Reddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 5}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "gPSed8J5KPt5LHCyjg6FkchT8mvJRJv9", "post_id": "ao9uui", "action": {"description": "cutting off my girlfriend of 6 years, causing her a mental breakdown on her birthday, because of a girl I've only known for several weeks", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for cutting off my (25M) girlfriend (26F) of 6 years, causing her a mental breakdown on her birthday, because of a girl (23F) I\u2019ve only known for several weeks?", "text": "TLDR Broke w/ GF of 6 years, but we remained on good terms, started dating another one three days later and new gf said she won\u2019t keep it going unless I cut off ex totally. Ex was devastated when I cut her off. The story happened 3 days b4 ex\u2019s birthday and when on birthday her friend called me on whatsapp saying ex was having a breakdown and needed me to comfort her, I hung up and blocked that friend\u2019s number. Gf made things worse by updating her IG and I let that slip too. AITA?\n\nWhen I went to college I started dating a girl from my study group and... well, it\u2019d been a rocky relationship to say the least. I\u2019ll elaborate in last in comments, if needed but for now I believe this info isn\u2019t crucial for the story.\n\nEnd of year 6 and I meet the other girl. We went to the bar once, next day I went to business trip in which I decided to dump my gf for good which was long overdue and then take a shot with that girl. The day I come back I break up with ex and she handles this surprisingly well, not crying or screaming as I expected but wishing me good riddance. Three years later I date the new girl who seems perfect in every way.\n\nAnyway, since our breakup was amicable, I didn\u2019t cut off my ex like I used to do. We kept texting and she would often call me to have a chat. I never planned to get back together because I was more than happy with my gf, but out of respect for the six years I kept helping her during her breakdowns, consoling ger when she was complaining about how she will never find another boyfriend and she wants to love like it\u2019s her favourite song and I talked her through it. My gf knew I dated someone for 6 years and she knew I\u2019m on good terms with my ex and I thought it was ok because she herself remained friends with her ex and it never made me jealous. She never knew the nature of our conversations with ex though. \n\nLast week I went out for snacks leaving gf alone at my apartment and when I came back she was unhappy to say the least. Turns out, I left my laptop open and she saw an incoming message from an ex with sonething like \u2018I\u2019m feeling blue again, let\u2019s talk\u2019. She dug through our message history and said that she thinks I\u2019m still up to smthng w/ my ex because we speak very intimately. I said that theres nothing sexual/romantic going on between us but she didn\u2019t believe and said she needed time think it over.\n\nNext day we met and she said she was really into me to the point that she surprises herself, so she is willing to give me benefit of the doubt on condition that I stop communicating with ex whatsoever. Not even asking anything work-related (we\u2019re employed in similar fields). I agreed. She was surprised, saying I knew her for a few weeks and I\u2019m already forgetting about a girl that I loved for 6 years. I said that my ex is my past and my gf is my present and hopefully future. She seemed still confised but we decided to give it another chance. Then she also asked me to tell my ex I have a new gf before cutting her off. I said I was hesitant to do it because it would wreck her. She saud she \u201ccouldn\u2019t give two flying turds about what [my] ex would feel as well as [I] didn\u2019t give two turds about [her] feelings while calling [my] ex pet names\u201d. I reluctantly agreed. \n\nNext time my ex called me I told her I had a new GF and boy did it go bad. She started crying and calling me a jerk and saying my gf is ugly (I didn\u2019t tell her the name but her friend probably told her who that was after seeing us together in a parking lot). I said I no longer want to contact her and hung up. That was January 23rd. Her birthday is on Jan 26th. And it was also the Homecoming day in our college. I couldn\u2019t attend but I dropped my girlfriend off and when she went out to get tea, I wandered around the hall to say hi to people I knew. Now, to make it clear. They had some kind of a concert so everyone sat down at the conference hall. I noticed a guy I went to hockey team with, sitting in the seat on the edge and started small talk with him. What I didn\u2019t notice was that my ex was sitting just behind him. When my girlfriend entered, she saw me going down the stairs from my ex\u2019s general direction. She didn\u2019t say anything but the seat behind my ex was empty and gf used that opportunity to sneak on her texting.\n\nIt went like this. \nEx, texting me: why did you ignore me? It\u2019s my birthday and you didn\u2019t even congratulate\nMe: I didn\u2019t see you\nEx: I was waiting for you so much, I even wrote a poem to you\nMe: Stop, Holding. That. Against me.\nEx: Ok, I\u2019ll get to the caffeteria  now.\nMe, still in the building, thinking of a cup of coffee to go: which one?\nEx: the one on the 2nd floor.\n\nSo I avoid 2 floor and get coffee on ground floor. That was all our messaging. When I pick up my gf from the Homecoming, she\u2019s infuriated. She is screaming because she saw my texts to ex and we made an agreement before that. I\u2019m trying to say that I was trying to get off the convo and there\u2019s a good reason I used iMessages - cause she is blocked everywhere else. GF don\u2019t wanna hear, she says it didn\u2019t look like rejection and was all like  \u201cYou. Talked. To. Her.\u201d It took me three hours to convince her not to cut our relationship right here and by that moment we were in my apartment and 1 hour later had consensual make-up sex. \n\nBefore we ended arguing, she said that she doesn\u2019t want me to talk to my ex in any circumstances at all, not even telling her to get away from me. So, she is in the shower and I get a phone call from my ex\u2019s roommate and she\u2019s like \u201cOP, it\u2019s [ex name] birthday and she can\u2019t stop crying because of you, could you please talk to her for a while?\u201d I said no and hung up and blocked her number. Then I received an e-mail fron ex\u2019s address saying she just wants to talk it out one last time so she\u2019s comin to my place. \n\nThis is where my girlfriend comes out of the shower asking who called me and I tell her everything as is. Then I unblock the roommate and ask her to convince my ex not to do that because I\u2019m not there and it\u2019s a remote suburb area and she doesn\u2019t know the address cause I only recently moved in. Roommate says ok. Girlfriend, knowing ex is stalking her IG takes a snap of the view from my window, posting it with a location (and nobody else me or ex of gf know lives here) and writes \u201cthis is gonna be one hot night\u201d. When I asked her why would she do that, she said that my ex\u2019s behavior made her cry so she\u2019s gonna make her cry twice as hard. I should have been bothered by that and her reading my messages (she herself admitted that was messed up), but I just couldn\u2019t bring myself to, despite her behavior deeply hurting the person I loved for 6 years. \n\nAITA for the way I treated my ex?\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "UV9cLWjtYFKud5f0DQfUGloV2lnviTlW", "post_id": "ayjfk3", "action": {"description": "firing my maid without Notice", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA If I Fire My Maid Without Notice?", "text": "   I apologize in advance for any spelling mistakes, english is not my first language.\n\n   Ok, I hired a new maid a month ago and since then she fucked up countless times: she forgot my windows open when I wasn't around (I live in an area with a lot of insects, spiders and scorpions), she insists in making food in ways different than what I ask (and when confronted she says ''but it's better for you''), she protests when I don't want to eat making huffing sounds and saying ''oh God...'', she burned my pants while ironing them, she insists that she doesn't eat anything in my house and doesn't even drink water (despite me saying she should have lunch and yada yada) but I noticed she has been taking food behind my back, like my expensive bread or dried apricot (it wouldn't be a problem if she asked), she keeps putting dishes that are still dirty in the cabinets and when I ask her to be more careful she says ''I need glasses'' and laughs, she talks to me like I'm a baby and asks me things that are way too personal (such as ''was your boyfriend the one who took your virginity?'' or ''How old were you when you lost it?''), besides giving her opinion on EVERYTHING, the other day she literally said ''your boyfriend is cheating on you, no one in a LDR isn't being cheated on''. \n\n   So, WIBTA for firing her without notice? Her husband has a stable job after all.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Ee6ib7EAGrpvFSmyoPTtr3SuKMnmbxgN", "post_id": "9z84y4", "action": {"description": "closing the door in a salespersons face", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For closing the door in a salespersons face?", "text": "The other day a salespersons knocked on our door and it was obvious he was about to sell something (insurance company uniform with flyers). I already have insurance that I'm happy with so I already knew I would've said no to any deals (although I would probably say no to any door to door salesperson)\n\nI opened the door and before he could get a word out I just said \"Sorry, not interested\" and closed the door and went about my day. \n\nMy friend thinks that I was rude and should've let him at least introduce himself, whereas I  feel like I saved us both time - he doesn't waste time trying to push a sale he won't get and I don't waste time listening to the pitch just to say \"no thanks\".\n\nSo, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7kVQA4YHr7lYD1ouk8LCkXWnf9nEWr18", "post_id": "augwmo", "action": {"description": "getting upset at people taking the elevator", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 22}, "title": "AITA for getting upset at people taking the elevator", "text": "I live in a dorm in college. It is 11 stories and I live on floor 9, so I take the elevator because walking up 9 stories would take a while. However, I get really irritated when people get in the elevator to go to floor 4 or below. It ends up wasting my time. I am also not talking about people who cannot do stairs. These are people who walk all around campus all day everyday. Obviously, if someone was in a wheel chair or had a physical reason to need the elevator, I would understand but this is not true for the majority of college students. I never say anything but I do get very frustrated and upset. So, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 22, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 22}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "qlKOLU9hCKw5vIoQDQ6RTucT7Aq73fdT", "post_id": "b4ccnr", "action": {"description": "not sharing a picture", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not sharing a picture?", "text": "The other day my sister sent me a picture of her daughter (age 3) reading a book I had sent her. I was really pleased that she was enjoying it and was gushing like a typical aunt. \n\nMy cousin saw the photo and asked me to send her a copy of it. I felt really uncomfortable and refused. She seemed really taken aback when I wouldn\u2019t send it to her, so I explained that it wasn\u2019t my picture to share and that if she wanted a copy, to ask my sister. I also thought (I didn\u2019t say this) that she had no right to the picture as it wasn\u2019t really anything to do with her. \n\nI\u2019m very conscious about image sharing, especially when the images don\u2019t belong to me or if I haven\u2019t had the other party\u2019s permission to post or share. She\u2019s much younger than me and thinks differently. I don\u2019t feel like she gives any thought to what she is posting. \n\nMy cousin was really offended and got quite angry at me saying that it was only a picture and it wasn\u2019t like she was going to do anything with it. Now she\u2019s giving me the \u2018cold shoulder\u2019. \n\nI feel like she\u2019s overreacting to the situation and I don\u2019t feel like I\u2019ve done anything wrong, but AITA here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "D0zBMpgUykehMFNKyFH088K1ITaiYpkj", "post_id": "aecete", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my girlfriend at her senior homecoming", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my girlfriend at her senior homecoming", "text": "New account because main includes my name.\n\nThis was a couple years ago (2015).   \n\n\nSo this was my first relationship and it had been going on for about two years at the time. I was part way through the fall semester of my sophomore year and as per usual during that time high school homecomings were coming up. I had been setting up plans with my girlfriend at the time (a senior) on the events that would occur. Where we were eating, pictures, etc. After plans were put in place, I started to question if I was happy in the relationship. While not an extreme distance apart, it was still a fair commute. On top of the stresses and new experiences that college was offering I was finding that it wasn't worth sacrificing my happiness to remain in this relationship. However, I came to this conclusion just about a week before homecoming. At this point I was torn, I could've easily called her to let her know, but suddenly all the plans that were in place would fall apart and she would be left without a date on short notice. I could also just try to let her have one last week of happiness and then let her know after the dance. Out of these I chose door number 2 because i had already made a commitment to these plans and felt obligated to follow through with them.   \n\n\nSo the week goes by and I head home to prepare for the festivities. I do my best to act like nothings wrong. We go to dinner with some of her friends, have some laughs, eat decent food. Then we start making our way to the school. Apparently I'm not as good at acting as I thought, and she started to ask some questions. The usual, \"Are you OK?\", \"Is everything alright?\", and then finally as we pull into the parking lot and put my car into park she asks me in a scared voice \"Are you breaking up with me?\" In that moment I knew I was fucked. I had to answer honestly because if I lie and break up with her afterwords I'm a piece of shit. I told her that I didn't want it to happen like this, that i wanted her to have one last night where everything was alright and then tell her. Looking into her eyes I could see the pain she was feeling and I couldn't do anything to help in that moment. After a short conversation explain the why's and when's, we went inside and had as much fun as you could possibly imagine with a group of high school girls trying to kill me with their eyes.\n\n​\n\nI have a feeling I know a prevalent question that will be asked.\n\n\"So Pope, were there any other women you were romantically interested in or involved with?\"\n\nNo there were no other women involved in this decision. Just figured I'd save some typing for those who would ask.  \n\n\nTL;DR: Had a girlfriend, made plans for homecoming, week leading up to homecoming realized I wasn't happy, conflicted on how to break up, did it in person before her homecoming rather than a week earlier over the phone.  \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "BnneHlDs4ZtvJICaUy0pW3f2882mBiXJ", "post_id": "atlpgj", "action": {"description": "still cutting my ex-boyfriends hair", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for still cutting my ex-boyfriends hair?", "text": "So my ex and I broke up about a year ago and I\u2019ve been seeing my current boyfriend for four months. I work as a hairdresser at a saloon in the town where we all live and I love my job. \n\nLast night my boyfriend asked me if I could get Tuesday off next week because he wanted to take me camping and I said I couldn\u2019t because I had standing appointments on Tuesdays. I told him that I had loved to take the day off because I knew my ex had an appointment booked, and he totally freaked out. He said that this was basically cheating and that he couldn\u2019t understand that I would do this to him. \n\nI understand that you don\u2019t want your partner hanging around his/her ex, but he actively goes to my place of work! I can\u2019t turn down business and risk having my boss tell me off because I\u2019m turning away money, and I can\u2019t afford to lose out on the business. Am I the asshole for not risking my job just to avoid spending like 20 minutes with my ex every two-three months? \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "17aSTH6wFHlGxoPPpTsPBkSHJdaAHhTX", "post_id": "aeeiyh", "action": {"description": "wanting to move my family back to my home state", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting to move my family back to my home state?", "text": "I grew up in the Midwest. After graduating college, I got a great job offer, but the downside was that it was on the gulf coast. I figured that it would do me some good to get out of my comfort zone, so I went ahead and took it. I had always planned on moving back, preferably within 5 years. After a couple years down south, I met my husband. He\u2019s also not from where we are now, but he is from the south. Early on in our relationship, I told him that I wanted to move back to the Midwest. I missed the snow, I missed my friends, my parents. I told him that if that was a dealbreaker for him, then we shouldn\u2019t date. He said that he was fine with that. \n\nWe\u2019ve been together for almost a decade now. We\u2019re married, have a good friend group, a house, a dog, a kid. The plan of moving was pushed back repeatedly due to various reasons. Once, I even got a job offer to move back, but he told me that he wanted to establish his career a bit more before he moved so I turned it down. Every time we talked about moving to the Midwest, there was some reason or another for delaying the move. \n\nLast week I saw something about my hometown and I talked to my husband about moving to the Midwest soon-ish. He brought up the idea of staying down here forever. I was floored. I always assumed we would move, it was just a matter of when. He said that he\u2019s not a fan of the cold, he dreads the thought of driving in snow, he doesn\u2019t know anyone up there, we\u2019d probably get pulled into occasional drama with my family, and we would both have to take a significant pay cut. This is all valid, but none of this is any different from when we first started dating. He told me that he went along with it at the time because he didn\u2019t want to lose me. He figured that eventually he\u2019d be okay with it. As it turns out, that didn\u2019t happened.\n\nI feel like I\u2019ve gotten a bait and switch. I was so clear about my end goal of moving back, and now it feels like I\u2019ve gotten it taken away. But am I the asshole  for wanting to uproot my family from everything we know? My husband\u2019s complaints are true. He doesn\u2019t know anyone there. It sucks shovel snow at 6am in the winter to clear out the driveway. We have better job security down here due the demand in our field. We\u2019ll be taking a ~40% pay cut. There\u2019ll be more traffic, more crowds. But I feel trapped in a place that I don\u2019t want to live for the rest of my life... \n\nTl;dr: Wife wants to move back to her hometown, as she had explicitly said when they first started dating. Husband thought he would be okay with it, but now realizes he doesn\u2019t want to go. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iT6K3Z8VDVWY5klBVagiJ6SBC1tlCtqT", "post_id": "al1uwj", "action": {"description": "\"planning\" on drifting apart from my friends/boyfriend once I go to university", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for \"planning\" on drifting apart from my friends/boyfriend once I go to university?", "text": "Current situation: I am 18 and in my final semester of high school. I have been accepted into my dream university for a Bachelor of Science (with potential direct admission into medical school!! Super excited, sorry lol!!) and it's about a 3 hour drive away. I've lived in my current city my whole life and have had my three best friends since elementary school, and one of them turned into my boyfriend somewhere along the line. \n\n​\n\nI love my friends so much, we have been through thick and thin. Grown up together and all that. But I definitely noticed that around 15-17 years of age that we started to have conflicting interests, which is to be expected since kids who get along great can grow up into very different adults. \n\nThe first friend called Olive has gotten a drug dealing boyfriend who is 23, unemployed and lives at his parents house. Now she lives there as well, despite being only 17. She doesn't like school, has always struggled with it (she's got a really bad learning disability) and is really close to dropping out/being expelled if she continues to skip it. She often skips school to work as a cashier at a grocery store. She is a really sweet person and it's hard to watch her life go downhill like this, especially when school is such a top priority in my personal opinion (alas, certainly not hers). I want her to get a high school diploma and I've always thought she'd be amazing at working with children, like in a daycare, since that was her plan before she met her boyfriend. All she ever wants to talk about now is her boyfriend, sex and how awful everything is. Her life problems are now much different than mine, so if I vent about something like not having enough gas in my car, I always end up feeling guilty because her problems are much worse. \n\nSecond friend, Scarlet, is not very interested in education either. She just wants high school over with so she can start working as a photographer and start her own business. Which is great, her boyfriend is in college for film and animation so they are very artsy and I hope they become successful in their entrepreneurial endeavours. But me being sciencey and her being artsy we don't really have much in common anymore either. She also likes to smoke a lot of weed and I really don't (gives me panic attacks) so since she pretty much never wants to do anything sober it's a little difficult.\n\nNow for my boyfriend, Russ, who is much too long of a story to tell in full. To summarize: I do not feel romantic attraction, never had. He very much does, and says he's in love with me. I feel bad about it, but hey we are happy and we have lots of great sex. Unconventional relationship? Yes, but we've made it work for 3 years, and have been best friend for much longer. However, now I am going to uni and he is taking a gap year after high school to play video games in his basement. Unlike my other two friends, Russ and I still have very much in common. We are the kind of relationship you see in movies, we finish each other's sentences and argue like an old married couple. But he wants to get married and have lots of kids, and I definitely do not ever want to get married and I maybe want to adopt one kid when I'm well past 30. So I realize I should not hold him back from meeting new people who may be down for the whole marriage/kids thing by dating him for as long as possible. It's just not right. \n\n​\n\nSo I pretty much predict that I'll drift away from Olive and Scarlet as I will be in uni and they'll be in the work force so we won't have much in common, and I'll be 3 hours away. We will all be very busy and we'll meet new people. As for Russ, I feel I need to end the relationship even though we are each other's lifeline because long distance would be rough and I don't want to prevent him from meeting someone who will want to be his wife and have his kids. So one night Olive, Scarlet and I were hanging out (no Russ) and this came up in conversation. I mentioned something along the lines of \"yeh, well we'll all probably drift apart next year. That's sad, isn't it?\" and they got kinda defensive, telling me I shouldn't assume that. They were a little mad. \n\nLater I mentioned to Russ that long distance would be hard and maybe we should start talking about what we want to do when I leave. He was totally against ending it, saying he reaalllly wants to try and make it work. I know he still hopes I will cave in one day and agree to his ideal lifestyle. I won't. I will come home on some weekends and holidays since I am lucky enough to have a car, but idk I still feel selfish and like I am anchoring him down. I also know I might meet people who I'll want to have sex with, etc. at university and I would never cheat but I'd end up wanting to break up with him then, you know? So it seems cruel to keep it going when I think there's good possibility I'll want to have sex with other people eventually.\n\n​\n\nBasically, both my friends and my boyfriend are appalled that I assumed we'd drift apart once I left for uni. I want to try and stay in touch with them but just didn't think we'd be close anymore. Tbh I really think that in a years time we will all have met many new people and changed a lot. Am I the asshole for being ok with the possibility of losing my closest friendships and relationships?  Idk, maybe I should put time and energy into preserving them?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "t0MLXMPYLuOwSwwNF5gRR3cq6YSGC3Tx", "post_id": "aftxmq", "action": {"description": "\"friend-zoning\" one of my best friends", "pronormative_score": 24, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for \u201cfriend-zoning\u201d one of my best friends?", "text": "Here\u2019s some backstory. We will call my friend Mike. Also, I\u2019m a female. Just clarifying. \n\nMike and I met when we were both in High-school, although I am a bit older than he is. We shared a class together and when I first saw him, I knew I wanted to be friends. I usually got that feeling when I saw people who ended up becoming a close friend. I love having friends, and ended up making some life long friends in middle school and high school. It\u2019s been over 10 years since I graduated, and \u201cfriend zoning\u201d wasn\u2019t a big term yet. \n\nI met Mike when I was a senior, and he was a sophomore. I was in a serious relationship at the time and had already been so since I was a junior. Things were going great at this point in my relationship, and life seemed to be great as well. \n\nWhen Mike and I first became friends, I only ever had platonic feelings for him. We became fast friends, having tons\nof things in common and generally making each other laugh out asses off. I wasn\u2019t the type to cheat or even emotionally cheat, and I should have spotted the signs that Mike was interested in me but I honestly thought he cared for me just as much as a friend. \n\nFast forward a couple years out of high school, and I had left my long term relationship. I had just turned 21 and wasn\u2019t ready to be tied down. There was more out there for me to discover so I\nbroke things off, and it wasn\u2019t easy but I had good friends including Mike that were there for me. I eventually started\ndating... a lot. I never once considered Mike an option to date. \n\nIn my earlier years of school and after my 4 year relationship, I had quite a number of small time boyfriends. I liked to make out with boys but that was about it. Sometimes I would make out with a random cute boy at a party, even if I didn\u2019t have feelings for him and wouldn\u2019t even feel bad about it. I still never thought of doing this with Mike. \n\nI had grown to love Mike deeply,  but only as a friend. Have you ever loved someone so much and wanted the best for them, but not in a romantic way? That was totally it. I genuinely cared so much for this guy. We eventually became room mates and this is where things got bad between us. \n\nAt that point we had been friends for 6 years already and no romantic connection between us. After we started living together, everything was\ngreat because we had amazing times partying with our friends, getting stoned or watching movies, going out, cooking dinners, getting drunk, all sorts of shit. We had crazy good times. \n\nUntil I started bringing over guys I was seeing. He would become cold and withdrawn, give me the cold shoulder, start acting like a brat pretty much. Mike also had one serious girlfriend while he was in high school, but nothing else after that. He never dated around\nlike I did. \n\nI found out why because he eventually confessed that he was in love with me\nand had been since high school. And as my heart sunk, I had to tell him I didn\u2019t feel the same. Things were awkward after that since we lived together. \n\nEventually we moved passed that somehow and I got the impression he was over it. \n\nOur lease ended and we decided to move back into our families houses, and for awhile it was still sort of awkward but then we started hanging out again more and more. I kept exploring the dating field and basically trying to live my life. \n\nOne night he was hanging out with me at my parents house, who he was very close to as well, and he basically erupted because I was talking about a guy I was currently seeing to my Mom. When Mike and I got back to my room to chill, he got mad and confessed he was still feeling the same about me and that it wasn\u2019t fair that I never gave him a chance at love. \n\nI was starting to get pissed off about the whole ordeal because I had never given him any sign that I was into him like that. No kisses, no flirting, no touching, and no leading on.. and here I am losing a great friendship that I valued, trusted and cared a great deal over. He didn\u2019t think it was fair that I didn\u2019t love him back?! When I never did???? \n\nThen he said this. \u201cI should have kissed you when we first started hanging out. You would have fell for me. \u201c \n\nSo I had to hit him with some cold facts. \n\n\u201cYou and I never had a chance to start. I was already in a serious relationship when we met that lasted years after that. I grew to love you as a brother and I\u2019m sorry if that\u2019s not enough, but it will never be more than that. I don\u2019t love you. \u201c \n\nHe left my house, extremely\npissed off and we haven\u2019t been friends since. I think about him everyday. I miss my best friend so much but I understand if he can\u2019t be around me. It hurts to be around the one you love, but doesn\u2019t love you back. I wish him well still. \n\nBut I always wonder if I\u2019m an asshole for how I handled things. I know I was being honest to myself but should I have looked deeper for those signs and prevented a 6+ year friendship from\ncrashing and burning? AITA for never giving him a chance? I just don\u2019t think I could have done that. \n\nTL/DL: 6+ years of being just friends,\nTurned down male best friend twice,\nWalked out on after confrontation and truth being spat out. AITA for never giving him a chance? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 23, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 24, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EEmYOodSdU2k455E0fhTUQUnHlo17JpJ", "post_id": "aocchb", "action": {"description": "saying I didn't want sex", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I said I didn't want sex?", "text": "First, post on Reddit so I'm not sure what to do or formatting.\n Anyway, to start, even though I'm a guy, I don't really care for sex all that much, I'd much prefer cuddling and talking, maybe I'm A Sexual or something, I don't know. I have to be emotional, mentally and physically in the mood to want it, which is rare. \nMy girlfriend has known me for 6 years before we started dating and already knew this before we became official. Today she asked and I said yes, because I believe relationships should have compromises and I want to make her as happy as she makes me whether or not its something I'm into.\nShe enjoyed it but I guess I don't know what to feel. I'm not mad at her or anything, I'm just curious if I should have held my ground or not, would I have been the asshole if I said \"no\"?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YxXx05h2KuxiusQTJE4IuwczzUCjpnYj", "post_id": "a1q9ub", "action": {"description": "not wanting to marry my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 25, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to marry my girlfriend.", "text": "Ive been with my girlfriend for quite some time now, and like most relationships, the topic of marriage happened to bring itself up. She started talking about what she imagines our ceremony to be like and what kind of wedding she wants. \n\nNow in my opinion, I think weddings are stupid. I dont see the point in having a ceremony to prove that you love someone because if you truly do love them, you should know it without a wedding to prove it.  The whole idea just seems kind of ridiculous to me.\n\nWhen I told my girlfriend that if she wanted to get married, we should just do it at a court house, she got mad at me. I truly do love this girl and id marry her if thats what will make her happy but I cant guarantee that im fully up for the idea of a wedding ceremony. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 25, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SgFeuZwj6F7Ol0iVXg1N9776H99IGpJw", "post_id": "a9cvbx", "action": {"description": "not going to a \"friends\" wedding", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for not going to a \u201cfriends\u201d wedding?", "text": "So, I\u2019m 20, and my friend A, is also 20. I try not to be too judgmental about other people\u2019s relationships, but she got engaged after 4 months and neither of them are in college or have jobs, so I\u2019m already thinking this relationship is going to fail. However, that\u2019s not the only reason I don\u2019t want to go.\n\nShe didn\u2019t tell me about when they\u2019re planning the wedding for until yesterday, at a Christmas party, after my boyfriend and I had planned making a trip for around my birthday (which is also around the wedding date). \n\nShe also is not really a friend anymore, and hasn\u2019t talked to me for nearly two years, besides us being in a group chat together and regularly talks bad about me and my relationship behind my back. She made an entire group chat about her wedding with all of our mutual friends that I\u2019m not in. \n\nAnother fun fact is that they aren\u2019t even getting legally married. It\u2019s just a ceremony without the marriage license. \n\nI just feel like a major b**** for not wanting to go and not planning to go. And I\u2019m afraid of the backlash from my friend group...so reddit, WIBTA for not going?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4hV5YeiFWI0oS2jVs01MlKrGo3E0cMqi", "post_id": "anuyux", "action": {"description": "not holding my boyfriends hand in public. then he dumped me", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 30}, "title": "AITA for not holding my boyfriends hand in public. Then he dumped me?", "text": "He's white and I'm African (won't say from where) and because of this, my family can't know we're together. He knew this when we were friends and when we got together and never complained about it before. **He knows the tough situation I'm in and has said it's worth it.** My family thinks he's just a close friend and nothing more. I'll tell them eventually, but I'm not ready right now. We've been together 4 months but I've loved him for a lot longer. We used to be very close friends and it took us a long time before we got together.\n\nYesterday I dragged him to this black woman exhibit at the museum, when I saw a few of my cousins. As soon as I saw them I let go of his hand and kinda acted like I didn't know who he was. Those girls love to gossip and word that I was on a date with a white boy would quickly get around our community and to my family.\n\nHe stuck his hand out for me again to hold and I ignored it. He asked me to hold his hand and I said no. We had to wait for them to leave. He started to **really really** **plead** with me and I still said no. He said that I took his hand or we were over. I didn't and he broke up with me\n\nI'm just so shocked and hurt that he would break up with me over fucking hand-holding. There's probably a bigger issue, but this seems so immature.\n\nHe's been messaging me saying that he made a mistake and that we should talk things out but I can't face him right now. I'm still hurt.\n\nDid this warrant a break-up in PUBLIC. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 28, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 30}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "nkRjzVBwGsHkZEBYCx7No6ZxXRLptzAa", "post_id": "ahjp2v", "action": {"description": "loudly cussing out my family at a fancy restaurant", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for loudly cussing out my family at a fancy restaurant?", "text": "I live in another state from my extended family and rarely see them. I have had a lot of issues with them in the past when I lived in the same city. Most of my issues are with my uncle. \n\nOptional backstory: \nWhen I had a severe spine injury two years ago and was unable to work (or walk) for over a year Uncle loudly said at dinner with my entire family that I was leeching off the government and was a drain on society. The government money didn\u2019t even cover my physio therapy costs. I still raked up 15k in medical debt. \n\nAfter my surgeries Uncle offered me an \u201ceasy relaxed office job\u201d at his company only a few weeks out of surgery, which turned out to be a total lie and was actually lifting boxes in a warehouse. The contract I signed said data entry position and at no point did I use a computer or sit down. I quit after one day and he told my family I was just being lazy and I had multiple family members chew me out for quitting. I ended the day in excruciating pain to the point of tears from all the bending. He also routinely insulted me for my weight (I was on a lot of pain medication and couldn\u2019t move let alone exercise) and my paleness (I\u2019m usually very tanned but couldn\u2019t leave my bed so I got very pale)\n\nSTORY: \n\nRecently I went down to visit them in their state, it was the first time seeing them since the incidents and I had never received an apology. I told myself I wasn\u2019t taking any shit this time and would stand up for myself. The very first day my uncle and two cousins started a few harmless jokes that I am gay, I\u2019m no longer overweight and am in far better shape than all of them and I\u2019m very tanned so they had to resort to random untrue insults. At first I laughed along, but for the remainder of the day it was essentially all they would talk about, just constant jokes for hours on end about how many guys I fuck, how much cum I\u2019ve swallowed, etc. \n\nMy entire family of about 10 people went to dinner on the first night at a very formal restaurant. After 30 minutes of  gay jokes I just kinda exploded. I stood up and yelled at all three of them that they are a bunch of immature jealous cunts that need to grow the fuck up and get a fucking life. The tirade went for a while and it\u2019s a bit of a haze, I know I swore at them a whole lot more before storming out of the restaurant. I made quite a scene. \nSince then I\u2019ve had other members of the family tell me I owe them (particularly my uncle) an apology, but I don\u2019t think I do. \n\nSo, AITA?\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CNLlhmcVliNsRLLRcht1VsgtFJHi6NRV", "post_id": "arr7gi", "action": {"description": "sleeping with this person", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "AITA For sleeping with this person", "text": "So, the context is that I was pretty drunk, it was pretty late, and I'd hit up an old Co worker I didn't know very well that night. We had a nice chat and she was going to sleep. Texts me a little later saying she's having a panic attack. I offer to come over and she's not against it, I get a \u00a341 uber to the next city cause I'm drunk af to go and comfort her. We meet, chat, go up to her room, go out to smoke, go back again. Everything is really chill and I've made it clear already by straight up telling her that I only came to help, and that if we do have sex (which is implied, but not expected) then that's just an added bonus.\n\nWe go back up to her room and talk again, both go to sleep in the same bed together, she tells me she doesn't want to have sex, but we've made out a few times already. I tell her \"You just don't want to have sex right?\" and affirms that, so I start making out with her again. I tell her \"tell her if you get uncomfortable\" before going further. We end up going all the way and there's even pause for me to put a condom on and she's going with it.\n\nI get a text a couple nights after after checking that things are okay on her end cause she got so many issues. She tells me she didn't really want what happened that night and that she regrets it. I'm so angry at her, but should I have been more cautious? Checked more? Just respected it when she said no sex? AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "SVN7qQeCBgPSYiol0U9SpEPKOu8jTuNw", "post_id": "b54mn1", "action": {"description": "not doing my friends hair for an important night out with her bf", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not doing my friends hair for an important night out with her bf", "text": "I am a trained hairdresser and so is my friend. So she asked me to do her hair as she had a night planned with her bf and was going all out getting all glamed up. I agreed to do her hair free of charge and also told her I was really busy but if she could come to my home at 3pm all would work out.\n\n3pm comes and she calls me and says she is running 30mins late, I say fine, no problem.\n\n30mins later she calls me and says she is still running late and she will be about another 40mins and I say fine, no problem I will make it work.\n\n40mins later she rings to say \"can you just come to my home and do my hair in about 10mins?\" I reply and say it really doesn't suit me to drive to your house as I have other commitments. She begs and pleads and I agree to drive to her house.\n\nJust as I am about to set off I receive a phone call and a young relative of mine has to go to hospital, it's an emergency and I need to get there as it urgent.\n\nI call my friend explain the situation she calls me an unreliable a-hole and now won't speak to me?\n\nAITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gAhp4ri8GfyX9bFkAh7YFj45lhVSgs21", "post_id": "auqsrb", "action": {"description": "not wanting my girlfriend to go out to eat alone with another man", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my girlfriend to go out to eat alone with another man?", "text": "We're in a long distance serious relationship and I can't really be there to take her on dates as much as she deserves. We usually have online dates where we watch movies or shows at the same time. One day she mentioned how she's so tired of watching movies and wants to go on a real date. Which I don't  blame her for, but it's just something to consider. Although I must add, she has always been incredible towards me and our relationship. \n\n\nAbout a week later, aka today, she is asking me if she can go out for tacos with her coworker alone. I mention I'm uncomfortable with it when she asked me & she said that she will try to get other coworkers to come but if not then she's going to go with him alone after work tomorrow.\n\n\nI do trust her, but it's likely just my own insecurities getting in the way from me feeling okay with this. I don't have a problem with her going out alone with some other guy friends she has because I've grown comfortable to them. But this guy I don't know well & I'm not sure how to feel about it. Although, he does have a girlfriend too.\n\n\n I'm not one to tell her what she can and can't do in her life, but I think it's important to communicate our concerns. I want more opinions to help me think more clearly. Therefore, I'm asking Reddit if AITA for not wanting her to go? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TXUb4oJvTQaJ0jI9rwBLf0mzqDiNgi92", "post_id": "b4kf38", "action": {"description": "questioning my husband's work reward", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "WIBTA if I questioned my husband\u2019s work reward?", "text": "My husband and I work at the same place. \n\nHe just won employee of the quarter. They gifted him a $100 gift card. \n\nThe previous employee of the quarter won a $500 gift card + a $120 membership. \n\nHe won\u2019t question the amount because he doesn\u2019t want to seem ungrateful for free money. \n\nI disagree and don\u2019t feel this is right. I would like to question it, but he\u2019s telling me I would be an asshole if I asked and that he feels like it will make him look bad. I understand how he feels, but I can\u2019t get over how the last award was over 6X his. What if it\u2019s just a mistake? WIBTA if I questioned it?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "PJ69c4lH2M2rxKyNiDIP03NKDxpDW85U", "post_id": "an8n5d", "action": {"description": "threatening to charge for maid service for brushing counter mess on the floor for me to clean", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for threatening to charge for maid service for brushing counter mess on the floor for me to clean", "text": "So yeah this am I'm doing my morning routine and my roomie comes out and wipes all the crumbs and whatnots that were on the counter on the floor and i lost it. I been sweeping and cleaning everyday and they just do that. I also clean all communal things other then when they cook for themselves ( i cook a big dinner for everyone who wants it almost everyday and do those dishes majority of the time. all other meals are on them) but even then dishes can sit there for a day before its done. Be fine if they had priority things to do but they don't. \n\nHad a talk once and somethings changed but i don't feel they took me very serious about i won't tell them what needs to be done. I am not their mother.\n\nMy loosing it is me venting to myself ( yes aloud alone or to my husband ) about how i am not a maid service and if i keep being treated like one i am gonna start charging for it. ( my kids, and husband also part of rant cause they left messes for me to ). Roomie is avoiding me as well ( they have a habit of ease dropping on me ) or just spending time with their partner, to be honest i don't care the reasoning. \n\nSo am i the ass for wanting people not to just either leave their messes or just brush it to the side for me to do?  And loose my patience like this", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "cuw396NqjjB5lF1IpXQz9FNDoKuSFtTj", "post_id": "aqitn7", "action": {"description": "not paying for my friend's pair of glasses after I stepped on them because he left them on the floor", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not paying for my friend's pair of glasses after I stepped on them because he left them on the floor?", "text": "He had stayed at my house, so I set a bed for him on the floor. The next morning, having already woken up both, I begun making my own bed when I suddenly felt the cracking of the glass underneath my shoe. I never offered to pay for the glasses (which might have been the wrong choice), cuz I felt it was kinda his fault for not making good use of the table in the room.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "d2jpvSVMnmeGLra8qHZPZzdvtNGLbZho", "post_id": "a5nu6c", "action": {"description": "wanting my drumset in my room", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting my drumset in my room?", "text": "Recently I bought a drumset, with my own money, to start myself out and put it in my room. After getting it, my brother immediately comes into my room while im working or talking to friends and just starts going out on it (mind that we both dislike having each other in our rooms and each respect each others privacy). He does this so often I begin to get annoyed and try to get him to stop. We begin to fight and my parents step in, and tell him to ask if he can take it our office so he can play without annoying me. Normally, I would say yes. But, my brother has never let me touch one of his belongings for as long as I can remember. I actually remember him throwing a backpack at me (emptied) for trying to grab a book from his bookshelf fairly recently. So, I say no, not wanting him to take what I payed for with my own money. But one night I go out with some friends and when I get back my drumset is in the office, as annoyed as I am I ask my brother to move it back and my dad steps in and makes me stop and says \u201cit\u2019ll just be there for a few days\u201d. Its been three weeks and i\u2019ve been trying to get it back and my dad has threatened to take it away from me and give it to my brother if I try. Mind you, I payed with my own $200. I love my brother and my family but I cant help but wonder, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ugW93EjENE1hVqJ55hIuwDlAHvjEzWtI", "post_id": "adpsi1", "action": {"description": "assuming when my significant others mom told me to talk to her dad she was okay with me proposing", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA Assuming when my significant others mom told me to talk to her dad she was okay with me proposing..", "text": "Little background I just proposed Saturday to my significant other they said yes. Prior to doing this I contacted the parents and attempted to set up dinner so I could ask for their blessing. I texted they didn't respond. We have texted before about other things prior. I end up going to grab dinner at a place one of them sometimes works and eating with the dad. My significant others mom asked me if I talked to him and I asked about when to did dinner and was told no you're at dinner talk to him. From there I did ask him for his Blessing but I never specifically asked my significant others mom. I assumed since she was telling me to talk to him that she was okay with it, significant other has told me their mom made some comment in passing. So the question is AITA for assuming their mom was okay with it even? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uw1gFAWdL96gtIDum3gEcXmDf4mJIDXS", "post_id": "b1euif", "action": {"description": "telling my coworker the hard truth", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for telling my coworker the hard truth?", "text": "I work at a pizza place as a driver, it's nice, I really love this job. The only problem I have is with a coworker. She works hard, is honest, and the customers like her because she likes to have a lot of small talk. I usually don't mind it either, what bothers me about her is that she touches me without my permission (I've told her not to), blatantly interrupts things I'm doing to tell me some boring, long story that I don't care about, and often interjects herself into conversations that are completely unrelated to her. It seems like she doesn't comprehend the idea that people don't care about her stories or her anecdotes even though they visibly seem annoyed or bored with it. Last night everything ended up coming to a head. For context, I have a dissociative disorder that's typically brought on by stress. I run on autopilot and end up with a lot of my actual thinking being more drawn into trying to recover. When this comes up, I go off to do dishes alone to help recover until it's time for me to take a drive. She decided she wanted to help me out, and I told her \"No, it's fine.\" No one at my work knows about my condition.\n\nShe didn't budge, but I was in no position to argue as my mind began to disconnect. She started rambling, and I was tuning her out while I phased in and out of reality like I was an ethereal being. I was trying to ground myself. Eventually she poked me kinda hard and my body recoiled, I just stared at her like 'what the hell?' She asked if I'd heard her, and I shrugged, telling her, that I would if she had anything of value to listen to. She was offended, naturally and called me rude and told me that I should at least listen to what she's saying. She proceeded to shove my shoulder lightly.\n\n​\n\nI decide it's time for the hard truth. I explained to her bluntly, that her touching me made me incredibly uncomfortable because she's my coworker, not my girlfriend. I went on to tell her that her anecdotes and stories weren't interesting in the slightest and that her obnoxious humming to the store music grated on everyone who could hear it. I finished by telling her that she wasn't terrible to be around, but that it'd be great if she was self aware enough to understand that people find her really annoying and if she could recognize that she'd be much more tolerable. I was frustrated with her, honestly, fed up with the touching and her constant babbling about bullshit that was always stacked onto stress from rush hours or from being incredibly tired and not wanting to deal with her. She just was so obliviously unaware of people despite the fact that we were visibly tired and vocal with our feelings. I just kinda let it all out on her and part of me felt bad because it was harsh, but I felt like it was necessary to make her understand. She left the dish pit and avoided me for the rest of the night, which I have to say made the night easier.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "hA6rrjfvGvDwxSWdQLC9N590jUPDMa6I", "post_id": "avogm4", "action": {"description": "trying to be friends with a guy I briefly dated, who likely still likes me", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I tried to be friends with a guy I briefly dated, who likely still likes me?", "text": "Throwaway because my mom loves this sub. \n\nSo, to paint the picture, we're both 16, went on 2 dates before I realised that I, A: am not ready for a relationship, it just freaks me out and B: I'm not attracted to this guy at all.\n\nObviously I didn't tell him I don't find him attractive, just explained A to him and he was really nice about it, asked to remain friends. \n\nMy dilemma now is that I really like him, we have a ton in common and if I stopped being his friend I'd really miss him. But, its pretty clear to me that he still likes me and although I've been clear on my stance, I'm worried he thinks we'll eventually get together and I absalutly don't want to lead him on. At the same time, he dosen't have many friends and I think it'd be a bitchy move to suddenly ditch him over something thats not even his fault. \n\nAnother problem is that he's friends with my next door neighbor, so we'd run into eachother all the time.\n\nBtw, we do not go to school together.\n\nWe have not seen eachother since we stopped dating almost two weeks ago, but he wants to hang out soon, so my question is, would I be the asshole if I stayed friends with him? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oZmQUOcuO9o4C3R0g0l4i99y7RfSk4au", "post_id": "a808br", "action": {"description": "avoiding former my arch nemesis", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for avoiding former my arch nemesis?", "text": "I\u2019m going to be honest and upfront here. I\u2019m 30 years old. My hometown is so small it maybe has 5 traffic lights. The running joke is that there are two types of people who grow up there, either you\u2019re type A who leaves and is able to go out into the world and explore what it has to offer or you\u2019re type B who is still doing the exact same things you did while in high school just while slowly growing older, \n\nAnyways, while I was in school  my best friend lived next to this guy, we\u2019ll call him bob. Most people loved bob because he was brash, loud and blunt. He\u2019s the guy that makes fun of others and everyone  joins in and has fun until they are on the receiving end of it. I wanted to get along with him because my best friend was in love with his Friend and I\u2019m of course wing girl. Lol. Well bob made it seem like we were cool until one day he gives me a letter (back when people used paper and pencils instead of phones to communicate) saying the person he liked was me. I laughed and said he was lying and had to take off because I was late to my next class. Looking back it\u2019s like that the minute I knew it all messed up. \n\nSince that time to .this. Day. He was such a dick. He made my life hell, I was a hoe, a whore, a bitch, everything under the sun. He would stand and yell in the cafeteria in front of everyone that I\u2019m all these ugly things. He would tell his friends he lied about the letter because he wanted to get me alone and videotape me wanting to sleep with him (I have no idea where he got that I would) and then record him rejecting me.  It was fucking hell.  He\u2019d follow me from class to class. People would tell me that they knew I was in love with HIM because that\u2019s what was going around. (Lookingnback im like...small town mentality for the win, way to make up your own minds people)\n\nA close friend and I lost contact because he and her got together after high school and I wanted to avoid the drama of being around him and I didn\u2019t want to hang out while they were together. she said I needed to get over it. But mutual friends of ours would say he\u2019s always saying I\u2019m a life ruiner.\n\nI had a party once and I didn\u2019t know this guy was one of his friends was there. I let him know a lot of people might be showing up and that he needs to be careful with his belongings. Turns out that night he got jacked because he put his wallet down on the table and someone stole it.  He in turn relayed the story to bob and of course, it\u2019s my fault. \n\nIt wouldn\u2019t be so bad if it wasn\u2019t constantly brought up as if it happened yesterday instead of ten years ago. Then they add onto it and say the worst types of things. \n\nWell. It\u2019s the holidays. I want to go back to my hometown and visit but I have such massive anxiety when I think about running into him or anyone he knows. All my ex\u2019s are best friends with him. All the friends I had are now like buddy buddy with him. It\u2019s so freaking weird and I don\u2019t know what to do. \nI don\u2019t want to be around the crazy crazy drama but im slowly shutting out more and more people.\n\nAm I the asshole for wanting to avoid drama and  avoid my arch nemesis?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "D7OekkGHuMgRVJx3TaNgH4x16gRHdI3F", "post_id": "a7t9fr", "action": {"description": "pointing out to my co-worker that we should've moved to another part of the office because someone was working", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for pointing out to my co-worker that we should've moved to another part of the office because someone was working?", "text": "So earlier today, during break, one of my co-workers came over to my desk to just chat, but I noticed that two other people who work near me just wanted to continue working during the break (which is fine and understandable - some people just wanna get work done). We were chatting for a while until I heard one of them constantly sighing. I don't know if I was reading too much into it, but I thought that it was supposed to be a sign that we were bothering him, so I told my coworker, \"Hey, let's move to your desk.\" And he replied, \"Uhh why?\" I said, \"Some people are working.\"\n\nSo we moved, but I couldn't shake off the feeling that saying it like that made me come off as an asshole both to my coworker and to the people who were working. Again, maybe I'm looking too much into it, but I'm afraid that I...\n\n1. made my coworker think that I was trying to point out that they were being inconsiderate by having to point out that we were bothering people who were working.\n\n2. made my working coworkers think that I was angry that I had to move because they were working, which is not true at all.\n\nNow, of course, I don't know if this is exactly how they feel, but the words that I chose just make me feel like I made both parties feel bad instead of good. Did I do something wrong? Did I pick my words right? Or am I just being over-analytical?\n\nJust for clarification: they never really gave any sign that they were bothered at all. It's just something that I consider to be a possibility (that is, that they were somehow offended by what I said).", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XMP5v46mstUAYikxHqOq3F5J8CQ6A5AB", "post_id": "9ytqfv", "action": {"description": "cutting in Line and Yelling at a McDonald's employee", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA For Cutting in Line and Yelling at a McDonald's employee.", "text": "This just happened on vacation with my wife. \n\n​\n\nMy wife is a type 1 (juvenile) diabetic and has been since she was 10. We were in a tourist-heavy city walking around and taking in the views. Unfortunately, while walking around, she started getting light-headed. She pricked her finger to test her blood sugar and saw it was a fearful 41. Additionally, as far as she recalls, that is the lowest her blood sugar had ever been as well. For those unfamiliar, while it varies person-to-person, anything under 70 is considered very bad. Usually it results in the form of dizziness, weakness of muscle, and a slew of other bad symptoms. Even worse yet, she didn't realize it until we were in the moment, but she didn't have anything to bring up her blood sugar either.\n\n​\n\nOur options were limited, but thankfully, we were right next to a McDonald's and we figured it would be easy to go in, grab a soda, and bring her blood sugar up. Needless to say, it didn't quite go as expected. \n\n​\n\nThis is where my assolhery comes into question. We got inside and all the lines were long and the room was flooded with people. I sat my wife down at a table at their bar area and skipped to the front of the line. I frantically asked if I could have a cup for a soda, as my wife is diabetic, and that I would gladly pay after she can bring her blood sugar up. The employees, as well as everyone I skipped in line, seemed noticeably irritated at me at this point. The employee agreed to giving me the cup, but I would have to pay first, as it was policy. I quickly explained that this was urgent and that my wallet was in the backpack my wife had, but he was having none of it. I ran over, grabbed my wallet from the backpack, and went back to the front of the line. As all the employees were tied up taking orders, I waited what felt like minutes (but in reality was maybe a minute or two) for them to finish up so I could purchase the soda. As he rang me up for the soda, admittedly, I angrily and loudly was expressed my disgust with the way they handled the situation. In retrospect, most everyone in the restaurant probably thought I was an asshole. I even think I could have handled the situation much better and feel bad for the employee.\n\n​\n\nSo the question is, Reddit, am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "HdsQTKT1u3aGw8WEVEn2ss4O5Qz6opvo", "post_id": "aj7ufm", "action": {"description": "secretly buying a 10k Rolex without asking my gf about it", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA For Secretly buying a 10k Rolex without asking my GF about it?", "text": "I'm M26 and she's F24 we've been dating for about 2 years and live together, our financial situation is as follows: we live together and split rent, split utilities, don't have any joint accounts, and pay for our own personal bills our selves. I made 250k for the calendar year for 2018 and got a huge commission cheque in December that pushed me there. In celebration of that I bought a pretty nice vintage Rolex for 10k CAD last week, I've been eyeing it for a while as I'm trying to step my watch game up. When I brought it home I whipped it out and my GF was like wtf how much did you spend on that, and got super mad once I told her 10k. She said that I should have asked her first, and it was disrespectful that I would spend that kinda money behind her back. Also said something how couples usually talk about spending that type of money on something especially on a piece of jewelry. I was kinda shocked and said, ahhh I spend my money on this not \"ours\" but she still insisted I should have let her know still. I feel like it may have something to do with the fact she makes like 40k a year and felt like I was trying to show off to her? But I was just showing her how cool it was etc. She's been moody since and said it was a dickish thing to do.\n\n​\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gAKf4fqj8lNOUFjuDKAN4XBA2G6bgZYV", "post_id": "awtbi6", "action": {"description": "expecting my bestfriend to make time for me", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for expecting my bestfriend to make time for me?", "text": "Right now my bestfriend(F) and I(M) aren't talking to each other. The reason is:\n\nFor about 2-3 months every time we met up, she would ask me \"is it okay, if I leave in 1-2 hours to meet up with another friend of mine\" or cancel on me to meet with other friends. I usually said okay, because I can't force her to hang out with me. I personally didn't like it, because it makes me feel unappreciated, but I didn't voice it, since I don't want to pressure her.\n\nWhat broke the camel's back, was that she canceled on me again one day before we were supposed to meet up. Her reasoning was, that she has stuff to do the next day and doesn't have time to hang out. Sure whatever. I can understand it. Since I didn't have something to do on that day, I decided to grab some snacks from the supermarket and watch Netflix for the night. \n\nIn the parking lot a person started to run up to me and I thought \"do I have to kick a bitch into the face?\". To my surprise the person was my bestfriend. She hugged me and apologized, that she couldn't make it today. It was strange to me, why she was at the parking lot, since she lives in a different town. So I ask her, what is she doing here. Her response: \"my friend invited me to a birthday party of [some dude she hardly knows]\". I was pissed because she didn't have time for me, but for a dude she doesn't know. I just responded with \"okay. Have fun, bye\" in the most passive aggressive way possible as I walk away.\n\n Shortly after this, she messaged me, saying, that I was an asshole by being indifferent towards her. This pissed me of more, so I responded \"well I think you are an asshole for rather going to a party of a dude, you hardly know, than spending time with me\". She called me an egoist, to which I said \"for wanting to spend with you? Sure.\" She said, that I shouldn't message her.\n\nFor context, she does this a lot. Every year I've known her, she would tell me, that I shouldn't contact her for a while. Usually the reasons were \"you are too close to me\" and/or \"there is too much going on In my life. I need some distance\". Every time this happened I made the effort to be there for her, even while keeping distance, by telling her, that she could come to me whenever.\n\nThis is the first time, this happened because of me. Since I didn't think, that I was  wrong, I didn't plan to do the same effort or apologize. It's been one month since we last talked with her and I start to miss her. I'm starting to think, that, what I did, was egotistical and possessive, but at the same time, I think, she should contact me first.\n\nSo I'm thinking, whether I should apologize or not.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "74VfIBkWPyDR971hDBCz1Uh9Kcn74xXl", "post_id": "aclyze", "action": {"description": "getting upset at my bf for bailing on our plans to help his mom", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting upset at my bf for bailing on our plans to help his mom", "text": "My boyfriend of about 2 years and I have been going through a rough patch lately. One of the ongoing issues between the two of us is that I feel like I'm not a priority, especially when it comes to his family and even more specifically when it comes to his mom. We've been working on it though, but I've told him repeatedly I'm sort of at the end of my rope with coming in last in terms of priorities.\n\nRecently we decided that it would be best for our relationship if we only lived together part time. Last week we set \"our\" days (Friday, Saturday, Monday and Wednesday) that we would be together. The other nights he stays in his mom's spare bedroom (this was 100% his choice - I'd also be happy to switch on and off the nights I'm at our apartment, but that's what he wanted to do.)\n\nSo this is the first week we're really putting into practice the whole set days together and apart thing. On Wednesday his mom texts in him in the morning saying that she needs helping moving some things in the spare bedroom, and that Friday night is the only time she can do it. He explains that no, he can't because we have plans. But then she texts him saying that she feels like she can't rely on him anymore. \n\nThis is again an ongoing issue. I really like his mom, but she does have a nasty habit of asking for things at the last minute, or asking for things at a very specific time and getting kind of passive-aggressive if he doesn't do it exactly when and how she wants. \n\nThey talk it out, he explained why he couldn't do Friday, his mom said OK, and they came to a compromise. I thought that was the end of it. After that, we made plans to see some of his friends who are coming from out of town on Friday night.\n\nThen yesterday, he messages me in the middle of the day saying that something changed from his mom's perspective and he does still have to help his mom on Friday, but maybe we could meet up with our friends afterwards. \n\nAITA for being super pissed about this? It was one thing when he was bailing on what was supposed to be \"our\" night. But then that night opens back up, we make actual concrete plans with other people, and he bails AGAIN.\n\nHe keeps saying he didn't make the decision lightly, but I do feel like I always come last. Seriously, AITA?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FyvYqHH4ZUwY09gBGBSv77Vzvk6PbL3o", "post_id": "aho3ac", "action": {"description": "telling my friend to toughen up", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend to toughen up?", "text": "So, a little backstory. My friends and I play games together, but it's often only 2 or 3 people playing a game out of 5 or 6, because the others don't have said game. The one game that we all have in common is League of Legends, which as those who have played it know, an incredibly frustrating game if taken too seriously. Most of us are fine with losing, because in the end we have fun regardless, but one of my friends clearly takes the game far more seriously than us, and after losing one or two games, regardless of how many we've won before, he'll quit the Discord server and leave.\n\n​\n\nNow, I have no problem with people who take the game seriously. It often leads to them trying very hard to win, which is fine because I like winning as much as the next guy. But this friend, he just completely shuts down, doesn't talk to anyone for hours, and is just demoralizing/disappointing when this happens.\n\n​\n\nLast night was the last straw for me. He loaded into the game late, which resulted in him being slightly behind compared to our enemies. After playing for a few minutes and dying a couple of times, he left the game, the voice channel, and we didn't hear from him until the morning after, which is when the A-holery began. \n\n​\n\nI'm not particularly confrontational, so I never know what to say in these types of situations, which is why I think I may have come off as way more rude than I intended. When I told him about how pissed I was the night before because he just left the game, essentially ruining everyone else's fun, and guaranteeing that we'd lose in a 4v5, he went silent and left as usual. I then messaged him, saying that I get that he's an emotional person and takes this type of stuff at heart, but it's a f'ing game, and if he gets this upset over losing he should just stop playing, because otherwise he ruins the fun for everyone else.\n\n​\n\nSo, AITA? Although I don't regret telling him what I told him, I kind of regret the way I told him, which might have been a bit too aggressive. I understand why he does it, but I also firmly believe that if given the choice of playing a game that might make you upset and just not risking it and not playing, he should definitely not play. On top of that, if you have to suffer through a 20 minute game which you hate to avoid pissing off and ruining the fun for 4 other people, 1 or 2 of which are your actual irl friends, you should do it.\n\n​\n\nSo, tell me Reddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rBi1XdLeFwYiEkxenCQaUnzsBvyi71a8", "post_id": "a6wdxs", "action": {"description": "not speaking to my father with stage 4 cancer", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not speaking to my father with stage 4 cancer?", "text": "I\u2019m sorry in advance if this turns into a long winded or poorly written post, I\u2019m just very emotional right now...\n\nTo preface, a couple of months ago my dad got diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. Thankfully, it was operable and he just underwent surgery last week (it was successful) and he is currently recovering (2 week convalescence) in the hospital.\n\nMy mother (who works part time) stays in the hospital with him for practically the whole day while I go to school and study for exams. \n\nNow for the fun part, \n\nA couple of hours ago, my phone was getting pinged (through find my IPhone) every second. I knew this was my dad (because he thinks this is an acceptable way to get someone\u2019s attention, not call or text them), so I give him a call.\n\nHe immediately starts screaming at me for a good 10 minutes about how I never call him, I never visit him, I never text him, and how I don\u2019t love him. He then says how I\u2019m terribly immature, how I\u2019ll never amount to anything, and how in 10-20 years I\u2019ll still be as stupid as I am now.\n\nThen my moms comes and starts telling me the same things.\n\nTo me, this is unjustified because,\n\n\n1. I was told that he would call me if he wanted to speak to me, and that I was not to disturb him.\n\n2. I\u2019m always available, no matter how busy with school, to come visit him. A couple of days ago, I just dropped everything on a moment\u2019s notice and took a cab to the hospital (a good one hour journey). But when I got there, I was only with him for like 20 minutes before I was basically told to leave. I barely even got the chance to talk to him because my mom (who I suspect is a total narcissistic) was mainly just ranting about how her mom (who also had and died from cancer) had it harder than my dad, how her mom\u2019s friends were much more supportive than my dad\u2019s current friends, how her own friends (who dropped by once for 10 minutes) are doing so much more than my dad\u2019s main friend (who comes by multiple times a day to check on him and bring him things to decorate his room/talk to him) is doing \u201cthe bare minimum of what would be excpected of him.\u201d Or, she was just saying how hard my dad\u2019s sickness was on HER, or how she was SO disappointed that some friends didn\u2019t drop by within the first two days.\n\n3. I always respond right away when my mom sends me updates, and I\u2019m always ready to meet her at the hospital.\n\nThis also isn\u2019t the first time that my parents complained about me, it\u2019s probably their favourite pastime. Think of them as tiger parents who are too lazy to actually get their children to do stuff, so they just complain\n\nEx: \n\nThem: Hey J-JG, our friend Jason\u2019s son is captain of his school\u2019s hockey team? Why don\u2019t you play sports?\n\nMe: I\u2019m still physically active, I walk to and from school (40 minutes each way) everyday, plus I go hiking, biking and skiing with you guys. \n\nThem: Yes but organized sports are so important (ignoring the fact that my mom was a vegetable till she met my dad, who\u2019s very sporty)\n\nMe: What about the fact that\u2019s Jason\u2019s son started drinking at 12, got suspended 5 times, and is basically failing all his classes, whereas I\u2019m the top student at my school.\n\nThem: Well I guess you both have your flaws (!?)\n\nOr, how about:\n\nThem: J-JG, (insert whatever kid they\u2019re obsessed with this week\u2019s name here) is doing Model UN (or whatever extracurricular activity), you should to!\n\nMe: Well I\u2019m already captain of my schools trivia team and one of the best in the province.\n\nThen: that\u2019s good, I guess, whatever\n\nThat was a bit off-topic, sorry (I just need to vent)\nSo basically, AITA for \u201cnot communicating\u201d with my sick dad, even though on multiple occasions I dropped everything to be with him at the hospital, and the only reason I didn\u2019t text/call is because I didn\u2019t want to disturb him and I didn\u2019t even know if he could use his phone (he\u2019s very weak right now and he never texted or called me). Also, he or my mom were supposed to contact me when it was convenient for them instead of me calling them.\n\nI sort of fell that this is just part of my parents weird behaviour where I\u2019m never adequate to them.\n\n*Forgot to add that most days I can\u2019t even see my dad because my mom invites 20 of her shallow friends to see him, and then he\u2019s too tired to even see me after I\u2019m done with school :(\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "n97B1uTlBqgZGlfbCZdNe0PhFAZIgIaq", "post_id": "b5rqyz", "action": {"description": "being angry at my bf for rarely coming over to my place and then refusing to have sex at my place", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for being angry at my BF for rarely coming over to my place and then refusing to have sex at my place", "text": "My boyfriend of three years and I live in separate places. He owns his two bedroom condo and has a good friend of ours living in the second bedroom. \n\nI live in a three bedroom row house with two roommates and my room is pretty small. My one roommate is usually always in the living room and therefore can't really watch shows in the living room.\n\nWe spend about 95% of our together time at his place either reading, working on our laptops or watching Netflix. All things we could do in my room. \n\nI spend so much time there I some times clean and have a bunch of things there including my Switch. I got recently angry because during a fight he asked me to leave a place he often calls our home but clearly isn't if I am not welcome there during our fights.\n\nAlso got angry because he wouldn't have sex at my place unless both my roommates weren't there. Meaning he gets to control when and where we have sex I feel like shit in this power dynamic and he says its all in my head. AITA for getting angry at this dynamic\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "tr9Oe6s3nv1xnMGV2mKZvbXbeYDh7YGy", "post_id": "a6vprb", "action": {"description": "asking my \"friend\" to pay for damages caused when riding my motorbike", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for asking my \u201cfriend\u201d to pay for damages caused when riding my motorbike", "text": "TLDR \u2013 Best friend borrows my motorbike for extended periods of time, crashes it and refuses to assist in getting my money back\nOk I\u2019ll try and keep this short and sweet, but there are a lot of details to cover. Also, first ever post so apologies for poor spelling, formatting etc. And if this isn\u2019t suited to this forum then I apologise.\nSo this happened around July last year and goes on for about 3 months.\nSo me and my best friend at the time decide that we want to pursue a big dream of ours in getting our motorcycle licenses and buying our first bikes. So, I immediately go and get my learners license within the month (I live in AUS which has a graduated license scheme for motorbikes called LAMS, important for later on). To begin with we both get these two dinky little 125cc runabouts but they soon become too slow for our needs of getting to work and blasting back roads.\nSo I decide to bite the bullet and go and buy a brand new KTM RC390 ($6,000) with some financial assistance from my parents. They bought the bike outright and I paid them back $500 a week till I paid off the bike. This is majority of my pay for that time so it was such a good feeling when it was paid off. And I enjoy the hell out of it for the next couple months, loved every second of having it.\nMy mate sees this and decides that he needs a bigger bike as well, he then proceeds to buy a full blown dirt bike (Yamaha WR450F) with the intention of putting road tyres on it. This doesn\u2019t happen.\nAnother important detail in this is that I also own a car and have my full license and he does not have either, so his only option is to ride his bike, on knobby dirt tyres. As you can imagine this is not the safest option for riding on the roads. After a couple of months, he asks me if he could borrow my bike to go and visit his parents, who live about 100km away. There was a chance of rain that weekend and he wanted the security of the road tyres and ABS that my bike had. I of course said yes.\nOver the next couple weeks he asks me again, citing bad roads, weather etc etc. And me not thinking anything of it say sure you can borrow it for the weekend. It gets to the point that he is using the bike so often that it lives at his place for a week or two at a time. At first I didn\u2019t really think anything of it, but after a while I began to feel taken advantage of and asked for the bike to be returned. For some context, at the point where I had asked for it back the bike had 7,500km or there about on the odometer, of which only 2,500km of those were ridden by me. And whenever I got the bike back it would always be dirty and he never offered to service the bike. But it always had a full tank so props to him.\nJump to July last year and two main things come up. I am about to fly out of country to attend a wedding in England for a few weeks, and my learner license is expiring in a few days.\u00a0 In AUS you have 12 months from receiving your L\u2019s to then go for the next level of license you red P\u2019s before it expires and you have to retake the L\u2019s course. In a combination of bad organisation and lack of confidence riding because I haven\u2019t ridden my bike all that much I hadn\u2019t gone for my reds. So before I leave my mate asks if he can use my bike while I\u2019m away since I wont be using it, things were a bit strained between us at this point cause of other issues, but I agree on the proviso that he takes it in for a service seeing as he\u2019s used the bike for so long.\nAbout two weeks into my 4-week trip I get a message from him, he\u2019s been in an accident on my bike. Wasn\u2019t his fault he assures me but someone clipped him going around a round-about. I never hear the full story but the damage wasn\u2019t that bad, broken clutch lever and gear peg, so I don\u2019t think much of it. At this point I\u2019ve decided that I\u2019m taking the bike back after its been serviced and he can find some other way to get around. So, I get home a 2 weeks later and ask him if he\u2019s had the bike serviced, no he hasn\u2019t. I tell him that I need it done asap as I\u2019m going to get my license again and frankly, I\u2019m sick of him mooching off me. He agrees and tells me its booked in for a service next weekend.\nAt this point I should mention that we work together at the same job and that\u2019s where some of the other issues are coming from. I wont go into detail but in short he was not in anyone\u2019s good books at the company and a few people were refusing to work with him. Anyway, I get to work the Monday after the bike is supposed to have been serviced, haven\u2019t heard from friend all weekend. My boss comes up to me and asks if everything is ok with said friend and if he is alright. I have no idea what he\u2019s talking about and he then informs me that my \u2018mate\u2019 has been in a serious accident on Friday. Keep in mind it\u2019s a fairly small company I work for and most of the other staff are on the same site. Also, most of them have heard about the accident already. I was the last person to find out, so I ask if he\u2019s alright. Oh yeah he\u2019s fine, just a fractured arm, nothing too bad, but the bikes fucked. Turns out most of the guys on site had pictures of the accident, I only found out there was an accident 5 minutes ago. Now I\u2019m not normally given to losing my temper but finding this out second hand was too much for me and I snapped, in front of everyone. I sent him a message asking him what the hell was going on and didn\u2019t get an answer. I call my dad and have a massive rant over the phone about it and ask what I should do. He tells me to take a walk and that he will sort it out, he and the\u00a0 father of my friend know each other from way back and he says he will call him.\nThe next day I get a message from my friend finally, he gives me a sap story about how it wasn\u2019t his fault and it was someone else etc etc I think expecting some sympathy from me. I was still irate at having found out second hand 3 days after the fact so I ask him why the hell didn\u2019t you call me and let me know what had happened, why did I have to find out from the people we work with what happened. He responds with, oh I sent you a text but it mustn\u2019t have gone through. I\u2019m pretty angry at what I deemed a fairly limp wristed reason so I don\u2019t reply for fear of saying something stupid. Now the bike did not have insurance on it at the time because I wasn\u2019t able to afford it, but there was an agreement that \u201cyou break it you buy it\u201d whenever we used each other\u2019s stuff. I get in touch with his dad and say that I wasn\u2019t involved in the accident and have no details, your son needs to sort this out and find a way to repay me the value of the bike, whether that be out of his own pocket or through the courts. He agrees immediately because he has seen his son use my bike basically every weekend and doesn\u2019t think its fair for me to take a hit like that when I wasn\u2019t using it.\nThis has been a lot longer than I expected so ill cut to the chase, after a number of back and forths between me and my friend, in which I tell him I don\u2019t care how you pay me back the value of the bike but that\u2019s your problem to deal with. He comes back and says that there is nothing he can do through the courts and I need to pursue this on my own. At this point it has been 3 months since the accident and I don\u2019t have any details of any kind so I can\u2019t effectively plead a case in court. After 3 months of this im tired of it and decide to drop it after losing my best mate and a number of other friends in that circle because I couldn\u2019t stand to be around him.\nSo I ask am I the asshole in this? Should I have dealt with it differently? I\u2019ve tried to be as impartial as possible with the info but at the end of the day I\u2019m human and I can only see it through my own lens.\n\u00a0\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eBk8xJYeidwAf2HKcOYQQ0ogW1ghtQmg", "post_id": "azf3ye", "action": {"description": "thinking an autistic student is an asshole", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for thinking an autistic student is an asshole?", "text": "I work at a special needs school for children with autism and developmental delays, Im a TA and have worked here for years. Let me say I LOVE my job and LOVE the kids at our school.\n\nTheres this one kid, pretty high functioning, and he's 17. (Hes also like 6'3\" 230 and is pretty built) This kid arbitrarily sorts people into good and evil the first time he sees a new person. There is no rhyme or reason to this. He is super friendly and nice to the good people. He likes to scream at and attack evil people because as he says \"Its fun!\".\n\nThis applies to staff and other students. He's kicked a 7 year old before, because the 7 year old said \"hi\" to him and he didn't like him.\n\nOn friday, this kid attacked one of his TAs in the morning, he was restrained, and seemed to settle down as the day went one. Later that day, at lunch, he began hitting another staff with his plastic lunch tray. As staff went to restrain him again, in the process he bit off a decent part of a staff member's finger. Which he thought was \"super funny\"\n\nAfter, when we had a staff debriefing about it, I said something like \"I know he's autistic, but he attacks people just because he doesnt like them, that makes him an asshole\"\n\nNow several of my coworkers are upset with me for saying that and think Im an asshole for saying it. (As I was saying earlier Ive worked here for years and love these kids and am usually very understanding when I or someone else gets attacked)\n\nSo AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "g7G8RmcxZgUYi2w8jWGEDQoREoN5caJ9", "post_id": "b3kzy5", "action": {"description": "telling my mom to throw away her phone", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for telling my mom to throw away her phone?", "text": "So my mom got a phone like about a month ago.\n\n​\n\nTurns out that phone was from a public bathroom at her work where someone left it.\n\nMy mom wants me to try to reset it so that later we can use it or something.\n\nI inspected it and it says that the iPhone is lost and I need to return it to a certain police station.\n\nSince I don't have time to do it, I said I will take the phone and give it to a friend who live near that station.\n\n​\n\nShe said no and that we should just keep it.\n\nI was confused as hell, why should we keep it for?\n\nShe said that she was afraid that they could track back to it and think that she stole it.\n\nSo I rubbed the phone clean of fingerprints and whatever to assure her. She was still like no no no.\n\nI insisted anyways but then she said that she will just take it and drop it near bathroom then.\n\nI denied that because it will be suspicious, and it will be easy to find who 'did' it because only the workers at the place are suspects. I said the best will be just dropping it at train station or something, and someone else will handle it. Then my mom say that there are cameras. So I said drop it inside the trains, which have no cameras. But she still say no.\n\n​\n\nI went on arguing with my mom more but she just wouldn't agree so we called in my uncle.\n\nMy uncle agrees that we should just keep it.\n\nSo I asked him what's the point. And he said that maybe after a long long time it will be usable. And I told him that day will never come but he insists anyways. His logic is same as my mom but only more stubborn.\n\nSo after a really long time of repeating same stuff around and around, I conceded.\n\nIn the end, they think that I should've give up earlier, and that I was kind of a pain in the ass for not giving up sooner.\n\n​\n\nSo, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0OhskZx8wmA0ZPeyzIvTWQWtjgG0nqVi", "post_id": "az7yk3", "action": {"description": "trying to get details of a story about a close friend after someone who mentioned the story said no", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for trying to get details of a story about a close friend after someone who mentioned the story said no?", "text": "So one of my friends mentioned a story about another close friend and I asked her about the details and she said no. I decided to ask the close friend about the story and the friend that mentioned the story got angry at me because it wasn\u2019t any of my business and \u201cshe would\u2019ve told you if she wanted\u201d \n\nTo simplify it, as it might be hard to follow; friend A mentioned story about Friend B, I asked Friend A about story, Friend A said no so I asked Friend B about the story and Friend A found out and got mad at me because it wasn\u2019t any of my business.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "IO1AqkfVfGNKtqpvSjoyhTFPanKwSttc", "post_id": "albizz", "action": {"description": "being petty on false claims", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for being petty on false claims?", "text": "So, there is a mean old lady living two floors below me.  She'll be \"mean\" in this story, because previously we had rather good relationships, albeit never really spoke. I knew where she lived, that she had a small cute dog, I held doors to her, said hello, helped to carry anything heavy - that sort of neighbory stuff, but we didn't even know each other's names.\n\n​\n\nI have moved to my recent apartment a four years ago and got a dog, and the story takes place about two years ago. Now, early morning one day, someone starts ringing into my door. I try to ignore it - I work nights, so it's my beauty sleep at that time. But they kept ringing, and ringing non-stop, so I shuffled to the door at last, and opened it. It was the mean old lady, and right from the doorstep she starts screaming at me because my dog \"made a smelly puddle\" in the hallway. I am groggy, and have no idea what she is talking about, but she insists that my dog sh@t on the floor a few floors below. Now, my dog is a very behaved pupper. She cannot and will not do her things anywhere but grass outside, and even when outside - never near the place we live. She'll yell, and bark, and scream if she has something wrong with her stomach, but she'll hold till she'll explode, but not do her business inside. Not only that, she was at the time scared of the new place she was in, so never left my sight when we walked out, so I always see what she's doing, and she didn't do anything in the apartment complex. Which I explain to the woman: she must be mistaken, because she's always in my range of sight, and she cannot really do her business not on the grass.\n\n​\n\nThe woman, however, insists, and when I ask why does she think it's my dog, she replies \"Because you're new here!\". Excuse me, lady, I ask, is that a reason enough to claim my dog shat in the apartment building? The fact I'm living here a few years less than you? \"Yes.\" she replies. \"Because I know everyone else in here, and no one would do that!\". Which is a weak argument, imo. Well, I tell her, she is mistaken - I kept a close eye on my dog, she didn't do it, so it must be something else. She continues to insist, tries to force me to apologise to the neighbours (tough luck - I'm a stubborn sonofabitch), and tries to drag me out to clean after \"my dog\", saying that everyone does that. Which I refuse because a) i'm in my PJs; b) that was not my fucking dog!\n\n​\n\nI go home, lock myself, and go to sleep, only to be woken up a few more times by her for the same reason, but those times I did not open the door - just pressed a pillow over my ears, and slept to my heart's content.\n\n​\n\nSoon the landlord came for the pay, and I asked him if the lady is even sane and should I bother about her? He said, no, but just motivated that she's a lonely old woman and a single mother with a forty-something daughter who is obsessed by cats... which is not a reason at all to call a woman crazy! Still, the landlord - spaghetti monster bless him! - likes to get to the root of any conflict I might have with anyone, and after a while he calls me, and tells that he spoke to the lady, they made a sweep of the neighbours, and it appeared that the guy next door was doing some renovations, changing pipes, some mucus and rot spilled out of the pipe he was carrying outside to dispose of, and that was the \"smelly puddle\". Alright, I think, the woman next time we meet would admit to her mistake and if not apologise, stop giving me The Look she has been ever since. But she did not. She did not apologise, she was continuing giving me The Look, she continued treating me and my dog as if we were the bane of the complex's existence, huffing and puffing, screaming at my dog whenever she approached (after a while the doggo adjusted and tried to be friendly with every person, pupper, or cat in the building), and continuously scolding me for not having her on the leash and muzzled at all times (which is not required for non-fighter breeds over where I live, and my doggo is just a happy, friendly mutt with some collie in her).\n\n​\n\nAnd for some reason i took that to heart. I stopped helping her, stopped holding the door, saying hello (which pisses her off - I hear how she grumbles about \"young people having no respect\" when i don't greet her), and other common courtesy. I just filter her out. But recently this cold war got to the point when, if I walk home, and see her walking from the store, I will deliberately walk slower, to get into the apartment building with a really nasty, hard-opening door (the magnetic lock misbehaves), to close it right in front of her.\n\n​\n\nThis all wouldn't have happened were she only to say \"sorry\", or at least treat me decently. But it seems like the reveal of her being wrong only intensified her dismay, which I decided to mirror back to her. Not a very manly thing to do, I admit, but I am too stubborn to give up (not to mention it is kind of entertaining). Maybe **I** am the asshole?\n\n​\n\n**TL;DR:** old lady neighbour claims my dog shat on the floor in the apartment building because I'm a new tennant (her words), and tries to force me to clean up and apologise to the neighbours; later finds out it was another person's fault, but still continues treat me and my dog as if we were ruining the complex; I decide to be petty and start slamming the doors into her face instead of holding them for her, and things like this.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "bjtoOr3rmuEEFStPPTPJRKhtx2SPHT7h", "post_id": "axcc0b", "action": {"description": "calling my religious friend out for being hypocritical", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for calling my religious friend out for being hypocritical?", "text": "My friend is Muslim. I was raised Christian but I don\u2019t practice the religion and I don\u2019t have a strong belief in God. My friend is very choosy in what elements of her religion she practices. For example, she doesn\u2019t eat pork but on occasion at parties she will drink. She is also very vocal about her sexual experiences and fantasies in a TMI/Cringey way. I feel bad saying this, but she is really dependent on a male attention so she says and does stuff to get it in anyway possible. But then on other days she will go to her mosque and then make a long preachy post about being closer to God and making the right choices and stuff. Sometimes she will \u201cjokingly\u201d call me out if I\u2019m eating pork or drinking or if I say something inappropriate by calling me \u201charam\u201d. Like I said, I\u2019m not religious so I\u2019m not judging her for her personal life choices or for not being 100% with how she practices her religion. The other day, she posted a partially nude picture on her finsta story and I sent her back this meme\u00a0 as a joke and she got mad and said that I \u201ccan\u2019t police how she practices her religion\u201d and that \u201cjust because i\u2019m not religious, that doesn\u2019t mean I can judge her.\u201d I honestly got a little pissed off that she got mad at me for that when she does it all that time to me in the opposite way. AITA for sending that picture and for judging her for being hypocritical?\n\n[The meme I sent her.](https://imgur.com/a/Evc51Hy)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 8, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "WQz4L0QyOBKNK5zRWQetW8rPqsdPlCpU", "post_id": "9xoev1", "action": null, "title": "AITA My Friend Asked me to come over on Saturday and I declined and lied and said I had things to do", "text": "I have this \"friend\" I guess. We talk especially when the popular kids aren't around. I have other friends but this one friend is in my base class. Whenever the popular kids come and talk to him he completely ignores me and ignores everything I say. \n\nDuring the lunch break he always hangs out with me but after the lunch break ends and we go back to classes he goes back to ignoring me and just being annoying in general and trying to force himself into the popular crowd\n\nHe is always saying I'm too reserved and should be more hyper like him. Today in class he was sitting with the \"popular\" kids and he wouldn't stop annoying me like kicking my chair or flicking my ears and basically acting smug because he was with them. You see I don't have a problem with any groups in school. I get along well with everyone. Anyways this same friend asked me to come to his house over this weekend to hang out and I declined and lied and said I had things to do. Does this make me a bad person? And if so how can I be a better person? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "H69wXeowfuLHUqgKBCoy9WU4Qy5XUdBM", "post_id": "9zi82d", "action": {"description": "watching an abusive father force his son into his car", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for watching an abusive father force his son into his car?", "text": "It's been a while since I've posted anything on Reddit but this happened around 2-3 weeks ago and I haven't told anyone about it because I'm very shy and not the kind of person who talks much to anyone except close friends or family, but I'll give you the full story from my perspective.\n\nIt was a Tuesday afternoon and as I'm in Year 12 (Grade 12 if you live in America) my school allows us to leave early if we didn't have anymore classes for the day, so I just finished my last lesson and decided to leave my school and head home. \n\nWalking for around 3-4 minutes after leaving my school, I hear distant shouting and screaming so I quickly ran to see what it was assuming that someone might have got injured and as I turned the corner I saw this dad grabbing his sons by the arm tightly and trying to drag him to his car (I knew they were related because I usually see them together in our city local town) his son (who was wearing the uniform from my school) was shouting at him to let him go but his dad kept dragging him while shouting \"You're getting in the fucking car whether you like it or not\". Then a women comes out of one of the houses which was on the street where this was taking place probably because of all the noise both the father and son were making and rushed over to them to see what was happening.\n\nThe dad slowly turned to face the women and tried to act like he had the situation all under control and he had a small conversation with the women which I couldnt hear as the guy was talking to the women very quietly so I only heard mumbling from the distance I was at but the man was holding something in his right hand and the women looked pale and like she was going to faint so she turned around and quickly walked back to her house. He then finally got his son near the car, opens the door and proceeds to violently force his son by punching and kicking him in the car which he was successful with and locked him in with his car keys. This made me decide to try and stop the situation.\n\nI slowly walked up to them and the car and shouted \"What the hell is wrong with you?!, why did you abuse your son like that?!. The dad again slowly turns around to look at me with this psychopathic look and says to me \"Do you have a problem with it?\" which I responded with \"yes, it's child abuse which is illegal\". He then walks up to me slowly with the same psychopathic stare and says softly \"Do you know what I do to people who try to mess with me?\" and proceeds to reveal a pocket knife in his hand [which looks somewhat like this one](https://www.google.co.uk/search?q=knife&client=ms-android-samsung&prmd=isnv&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwiLu9Xy8OjeAhWHJsAKHSRMCnYQ_AUIEigB#imgrc=GggvzKVjuoIrJM)and threatens me with it. \n\nThis was the first time that someone has pointed a knife at me and threatened to stab me with it so I got very scared and backed off far enough so he couldn't stab me if he had the chance. He then proceeds to unlock the car so that he could get in the driver seat which allowed his son to open the door and get out of the car, he then started running down the street which his dad notices as shouts \"You can go live somewhere else if your not going to stay in my car!\" which he then goes into his car and drives away.\n\nAt this point, I was in shock as I haven't been in a situation like that before (however the city which I live in has many shady people who own guns/knife collections according to students in my year) so I picked up my bag which I dropped before confronting the man and walked home.\n \nFrom that day on I kept thinking to myself of how bad of a person I was for letting that whole situation happen in front of my eyes and as my phone was being repaired, I couldn't take any photos of the cars numberplate or the perpetrator so If I were to tell this story to the police, they'll need evidence in order to perform an arrest. I'm also not sure what happened to the son as he ran away quickly and when going home, I was looking to see If I could find which I couldn't.\n\nI'm sorry for how long this post was but this is how the full story happened from my perspective.\n\nPS - I'm also sorry if I posted this on the wrong subreddit, this was the closest one I could find that might of fitted in with the topic.\n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GT5QVgjaOC149WCyJP8ngOEAJVyfl35T", "post_id": "akaveo", "action": {"description": "throwing my gf's iPad on the floor after she threw my laptop", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for throwing my gf's iPad on the floor after she threw my laptop?", "text": "A few hours ago my GF was lying on my bed and accidentally shoved my laptop off, leading it to crash on the floor.  It has a huge dent in it now and was pretty expensive ($1500) but I wasn't really angry because I knew it was a mistake.  The trigger was that she didn't even apologize, in fact, she got angry at ME reasoning that I shouldn't have put MY laptop on MY bed.  Keep in mind she's had an attitude the whole night for no good reason (complaining about a meal I cooked for her, etc.), so I sternly demanded at least an apology.  She escalated the situation and got even angrier, leading to me to throw her iPad off the bed saying \"oops it was on my bed\".  She then screams in my face crying and leaves.  How should I have handled that situation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 8, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "IiYL3P56T0Fe77DH0gddYTteRdIwsR00", "post_id": "a8ml3w", "action": {"description": "trying and evading joining the military for 3 years, even though I have to", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA to try and evade joining the military for 3 years, even though I have to?", "text": "So I live in Israel. We have army conscription, meaning every citizen is required to join the military forces. For boys, the period is 3 years, age 18 to 21.\n\n​\n\nThe people excused from this usually have health issues, or move to another country, etc... I and most of my friends are required, and my two older siblings already went.\n\n​\n\nI really, *really* don't want to go. It's not that I necessarily dread the army itself, but rather fear of the fact that I'll be wasting **3 years** of my life. Arguably, some of the best years too. \n\n​\n\nMy parents, whom I've yet to tell about my unwillingness to go, sometimes talk about their friends' children that didn't go and how their lives went to shit. They say that with nothing to do after high school, they lack frame and a meaning. No reason to get out of bed in the morning, something along these lines.\n\n​\n\nWhat I would wish to do is move out as soon as I can, to somewhere in Europe or US, and study. After 12 years in the education system the last thing I want is another 3 in a place where I'll be useless. I trust myself and I **know** I'll get along. I have goals and I can take care of myself. I want to create a passion, study and follow it with hard work, and I truly believe that what my parents are saying won't happen to me.\n\n​\n\nI talked with a friend about this and she said if I had the option and decided not to go, I'd be an asshole. I completely see her point. Joining the army is an agreement you have with the country for living in it, and it's a responsibility I need to take. But will I be that big of an asshole that I should give up, without trying, 3 years, just to be a bit of a more decent person...? \n\n​\n\nOf course, it's not my decision to make, but should I even speak up about it and try to excuse a way, or am I a complete douche for even thinking about it? \n\n​\n\nWill I be the asshole if I try to make an excuse to avoid going to the military?\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "drlSeUdK9S2Xq1aIgYWeF12LWd1tnzJ6", "post_id": "9t4sg5", "action": {"description": "being frustrated with my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being frustrated with my girlfriend?", "text": "It's a relatively new relationship and I'm in the military. I'm away for a month and she has been getting really moody and acting mad at me and using me being away as justification. She makes it seem like she has it harder than me and that I cant relate to how she is feeling. I feel like I'm a dick because I dont have a choice but to leave the area for a month. A month isnt that long. I dont like it as much as she does either. I communicate everything to her but she continues to get upset over little things and I don't know how to proceed.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xFlpZKwJIL00krr5Gx1EyKWio0mfaWDm", "post_id": "a3cf4d", "action": {"description": "being skeptical and \"done\" when my would be lover just came out as trans", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being skeptical and \"done\" when my would be lover just came out as trans?", "text": "I understand on principal the idea of turning someone down for being trans is a shit move. It's not that I have an issue with trans people. I have personally struggled with my gender identity in the past and after exploring the idea of being trans realized I'm most comfortable being gender non conforming in the lesbian community (which has a really rich history with that kind of thing). My issue here is that I have known and been involved with this person (who I have considered the love of my life) for two years throughout their journey with their mental health, and we've been very close to each other with a strong romantic pull. Within the last six months or so reconnected and confessed our mutual love (or so I had thought-- they are notoriously dodgy about stating their feelings directly). But because they really haven't been mentally well enough for a relationship in this duration and it's all long distance, I've kept my space, communicating openly about my feelings but sort of sitting on the idea that we had unfinished business in the future. We made plans to meet for the first time in March, and I've been feeling like maybe we finally will be able to sort out exactly what's going on. \n\nExcept that about a month ago they were suddenly consumed by these intense feelings of what they refer to as dysphoria. Two days ago they came out publically as trans and said they would be physically transitioning as soon as possible. \n\nI want to be supportive, but even beyond the fact that I personally feel like this has shattered all perception I had of our potential, I feel like this might be misguided and could be harmful for them. \n\n Now, they have a past history of extreme dysmorphia and eating disorders. They have expressed desire for cosmetic surgeries like a nose job due to feeling ugly. They have horrific childhood sexual abuse they have not yet tackled in therapy. They also have been very assertive about their repulsion from men and very passionate about women, queer women and brown women especially. In fact, they've struggled to even maintain civil friendships with men in the past because they couldn't relate to, trust or feel comfortable around them, going so far as to express confusion as to how the majority of my friends can be (good) men.\n\nThe way they are speaking about being trans also seems to be weird. They said something like \"I am not saying I Am A Man Now, because I look like and live the life of a woman\" and \"I'm going to look so weird as a boy\" which rang some bells to me as not necessarily something a trans man would say.  It just seems like to them gender is all about how you look. \n\nMy biggest concern is probably that this is an \"easy answer\" to all of the anguish they've been in for years, that physically transitioning will get rid of all the problems they have (they feel conventionally unattractive, ugly, because they're tall and brown and feminine etc BUT also conversely get a lot of uncomfortable attention from men on the street, which \"being a boy\" might solve). I genuinely feel like this could be the result of peer pressure, confusion, and desperation for internal change-- and while I am aware my pain and broken heart make this idea aversive to me in general, I have to ask, AITA for being skeptical that this is even true? WIBTA if I needed to distance myself from this person because I feel both hurt and like they're making a mistake, but not one I can point out for them?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7fWkWJuuEyhnsXSx58e5Nqznsq7RfHCq", "post_id": "aof821", "action": null, "title": "AITA my boyfriend went to bed hungry?", "text": "Okay so, long story short.\nMe and my boyfriend have been having beef for some time, and today we decided to try to see each other and have a nice dinner.\nHe told me he hadn't eaten all day which he usually does out of costum, and I decided to treat him to buffet.\nThe date was going well, we got to the restaurant , we sit down to dig into our first plates when I see I forgot my knife and he hands me his phone and tells me to look for something on his phone while he goes to pick up the knife for me, I start looking tru his texts which I usually do and I find him talking to a girl, and the thing was he told me he didnt have any gir friends at the moment and that he hadn't been talking to chicks etc (some reasons for the beef we have) and I got pissed and called him out he got mad and snatched the phone away in the process hitting me in the face and droping my glasses.\nAfter that I was done and I left the restaurant I waited at the car and told him he could eat all he wanted I wasn't going back in, at the point I was too embarrassed and my apetite was completely gone. He insisted I go in but I just couldn't. Around 10 minutes he gives up comes to the car and I drop him off. After that we talk a little trough text he convices me we have a lol session, and I calm down a bit now he strikes me up with the comment \"ah tru i gotta gp eat something\" I rememebr he hadn't ate all day, and tell him I am sorry I didnt stay even for just the sake of him eating but that he should grab something. Then he hits me with \" my parents haven't brought groceries I just ate an apple...\" \"Theres a little bit of oatmeal left but I want to leave that dor my mother and there's eggs but we need them for breakfast\" ans don't get me wrong my boyfriend works and his dad too, they're pretty well off, bit sometimes mom tends to wait to restock until all the groceries are gone.\nLook It made me feel really bad I didnt think about him at the moment and aita for him going hungry to bed?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "nmaTlFudkJMN9CEVHNhxVEngeuBqgYuh", "post_id": "acs5jj", "action": null, "title": "AITA, Am I The A-Hole, my Wife Shared Personal (embarrassing) Medical Details...", "text": "AITA? I'm really pissed with my wife, and I need to know if I'm the A-HOLE.\n\nI was scheduled to have a colonoscopy, and I asked my wife (specifically) not to share it with anyone in our families, or anyone else for that matter. I just didn't think it was anyone's business.\n\nI did share with our kids (adult children) that I was going for \"a procedure\". I only did that because I wanted to say my last good-bys, and that I loved them, and that I thought they were awesome kids/ well adjusted contributing members of society, etc... in the event that the hospital inadvertantly killed me (they've been know to do that - not the particular hospital I was going to, but just hospitals in general).\n\nAfter the procedure was done and I woke up (thank my lucky stars I get to live and breath another day), I text my kids that I survived. My son replies, do we call you (the female version of my name - think Juanita vs Juan) now? I didn't reply. I suppose he was imlpying that I'm less of a man because I had a probe up my butt...\n\nI didn't mention my son's response to my wife. I then ask to see my her phone. She hands it to me and I looked at her text messages - and sure enough, she had sent a message to our daughter in law. In the message there were intimate details of the findings of my colonoscopy. \n\nOur daughter in law apparently shared with her husband (our son) this information.\n\nI just couldn't believe that she  gossip'ed about something very personal to me, after I specifically asked her not to talk about it. As time went by, I found myself getting angrier and angrier. I had specifically asked her not to not share a very personal medical procedure experience, and she did, and I felt I was mocked as a result. \n\nI told my wife that I felt she betrayed my trust (when i was at my most vunerable time ever) and she was the one person that should have had my back.\n\nMy wife has apologized for betraying my trust (she used my very my same verbiage) and it didn't seem very authentic.\n\nThis evening I didn't want to visit the son and daughter in law (but more importantly, the grand daughter) because I didn't want to endure the snickering.\n\nOverall I'm just really pissed with the wife, and I just don't see a way beyond it.\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PpzNAJhsF5m362bQNqYVOnbyV7oKh3Gy", "post_id": "b007l2", "action": {"description": "hooking up with my ex", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for hooking up with my ex?", "text": "I (21 F) met this kid (22 M) from Tinder at the beginning of December. We are both seniors in college, so we had a month break that started like 3 days after we met, but we texted the entire time. When we got back to school we continued to talk. It was clear from the day we met that he has very strong feelings for me. He always told me how easy it was to talk to me and that he felt like we had always known each other. I do really like him and we get along really well, but I did not feel that our relationship was any more special than any previous relationships I have had. He made me happy though, and I figured it was worth it to just call him my boyfriend until we graduated, even though when I initially met him I had no intention of becoming monogamous.\n\nAfter about a week I told him that I thought I knew what I wanted but it turns out I was starting to feel tied down and I don't think I'm cut out for a relationship. I told him we could still be friends, and I really wanted to be friends with him because he doesn't have any close friends here. I made sure to be very clear that I do not want to be with him and that I do not feel the same way about him as he does about me. He says he loves me, and I think I love him, but only platonically.\n\nLast night we hung out for the first time since becoming friends. He kind of invited himself over by offering to get me something from target even though I live out of the way for him, so I told him I didn't need anything but if he was just looking for an excuse to come over he could. I had no intention or plan to hook up with him. He came over and sat on a different couch than me and we started a movie, but halfway through he moved to my couch and things escalated from there. \n\nI feel like I am a bad person for hooking up with him even though I know he is in love with me and I don't feel the same, but at the same time I have been very honest and clear about not wanting to be with him, and he kissed me first.    \n\nAlso, I am the first person he has ever had sex with, but I did not pressure him into doing it and waited until he wanted to. I also made sure that there was no real reason he was waiting and he said he wasn't saving himself it just hadn't happened for him yet.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZhFEYw6g0kKaRJQEA8W583vCDq0ybtEp", "post_id": "aoxf1b", "action": {"description": "grabbing a kid in the grocery store by the shoulder to stop them from being annoying", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 23}, "title": "AITA for grabbing a kid in the grocery store by the shoulder to stop them from being annoying?", "text": "This happened last week when I was shopping at a large grocery store downtown. They have these tiny shopping carts for kids to use while their parents use normal sized carts.\n\nOne small boy (I'm not good with kids' ages, but I think he was like 8-ish years old) was pushing around one of these carts, being VERY annoying and VERY dangerous, running past customers, sliding and swerving from one aisle to the next. At one point he bumped into my shoe, and just kept on zooming. Some time later I was standing in another aisle and he nearly collided with a shelf full of jars right next to me. I had enough of it, so I grabbed his shoulder for a few seconds (not at all hurting him, but firmly enough to not let him get away) saying \"Knock it off! You're bothering everyone here, go find your mom or dad!\" He just looked at me, silently, and I went on my merry way.\n\nSure enough, at the checkout counter, I encountered him and his mom. The mom started making a scene, yelling things like \"How dare you lay a finger on my kid? You have no right to touch my kid!\" repeatedly. I saw her pull out her phone, I'm not sure if she started filming me. \"This guy grabbed my kid, check your security tapes! I demand you check your security tapes!\" Other people were looking at ME, rather than at the yelling woman.\n\nI couldn't get a word in between her yelling, I couldn't defend myself, nor did I want to, because it would just escalate the situation. I checked out my products quickly and quietly and got the fuck out of there, leaving the noisy lady and stunned bystanders behind.\n\nWas I an asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 10, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 23}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "KkjRNDthVPyj44RA10SKXNeBFqlIwC5V", "post_id": "avepj2", "action": {"description": "asking boyfriend to buy me a car", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 21}, "title": "AITA for asking boyfriend to buy me a car?", "text": "I have been in an LDR with my boyfriend for two years. We see each other about once every two months but skype almost daily. The reason we are long distance is because he got into a great teaching program in Japan (I am in the US). Once complete, he plans on coming home and marrying me. I have been keeping tabs on his recently added friends on Facebook. He has recently added some girls from his program. I am not a jealous type or anything and it is fine for him to meet other people, in fact I want him to enjoy a social life while away from me. While he has been away I decided to better myself by losing weight, eating healthy and attending a community college program. I am still living at home with my parents and have been working a job at a marketing company to help support the family. Money is tight, I feel like I need to be careful when purchasing anything. \n\nFor me to get to and from my job at the marketing company and then to the community college at night, I have to take public transportation. It is not glamorous, it is what I need to do. I know that my boyfriend will be making a decent salary as a teacher when he comes back to the US, but in the meantime, I have to take busses. Any time I am in public, I am at risk for a male talking to me. I disclose any flirtatious actions from men to my boyfriend as soon as it happens. So, I can usually tell the difference when someone is flirting versus making small talk. Well there was a nice underprivileged teenager that was riding with me and asked for my number. I clarified that I had a boyfriend and he said that he just wanted to be friends. So, I added him on snapchat to continue the dialogue in a similar way to how my boyfriend has been adding Japanese girls. I did not do this out of spite, but rather to try and be supportive if needed as his family is less supportive than mine. \n\nAnyways, I told my boyfriend once he woke up that I met a new friend on the bus and how I added him. He did not take this well. At all. He started screaming at me and accusing me of cheating on him. I felt like this was very unfair since I have been so supportive and trusting of his life while he has been away. He threatened to break up with me and instead I was able to push for us to go on a break instead. I didn\u2019t do anything with anyone while we weren\u2019t talking for three weeks. We just talked again last night, and I didn\u2019t want to bring up other people because I thought it might trigger his distrust. I assumed that my boyfriend also had been loyal, but my heart was aching to know. He ended up bringing it up in a roundabout way and I told him that it was none of his business because he is the one that wanted the break. Anyways this resulted in him screaming at me. I told him if he buys me a car this problem wouldn\u2019t happen on public transportation. He said that I need to get a job like everyone else. I feel lost. Was I wrong for asking for him to buy me a cheap car (his family has money unlike mine)?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 14, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 21}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Wmwmd52oZkuIjKUobDGgL0AdN6WBvv1O", "post_id": "ba7e5a", "action": {"description": "not going to an Ivy League school that I was accepted into", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I didn\u2019t go to an Ivy League school that I was accepted into?", "text": " You might be saying WTF at the title but it\u2019s honestly the easiest way to describe my current situation.\n\nI was accepted into an Ivy League school. I don\u2019t know how or why, because 1. my high school hasn\u2019t sent anyone to one in at least 5 years and 2. my grades/test scores aren\u2019t much to write home about (3.8 GPA 31 ACT if you were wondering). When I showed my acceptance letter to my parents they were so, so, so proud and happy.\n\nMy family is poor, to say the least. Neither of my parents went to college. They\u2019ve sacrificed A LOT to ensure that I didn\u2019t need to work during high school so I could focus on studying. They told me that I should go to the Ivy. But here is where it gets complicated. Mom got sick last month and Dad had to take on additional shifts at work to offset the loss of her paycheck. I was also accepted into a state university in my city, and I\u2019m strongly considering going there instead because then I can work part-time and help take care of Mom. \n\nGuys what do I do? Even though my parents said I should go to the Ivy, doing so means that Dad will have to work twice as hard for God knows how long. They\u2019ve sacrificed enough already and I\u2019ll have to deal with the guilt of making them sacrifice even more if I go to the Ivy. I\u2019m just so god damn lost. So, WIBTA if I didn\u2019t go to the Ivy because then I\u2019d be ignoring their wishes?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rl1c9NkqLHkcsBti3nHpz21CC4TSWpCr", "post_id": "ako4xh", "action": {"description": "having a casual sexual relationship with my friends mom", "pronormative_score": 49, "contranormative_score": 170}, "title": "AITA For having a casual sexual relationship with my friends mom?", "text": "I would make a joke about me being a literal motherfucker but this shit has really turned my social circle upside down.\n\nI am 23. My friend is 20 and lives with his single, divorced mom (41). She divorced his dad two years ago for being an alcoholic. Shes extremely hot in a more mature kind of way.\n\nWhenever i would hang out at his house his mom would openly flirt with me but i initially just chalked that up to her being playful and flirty. Except she kept up the flirting when we were alone, and everyime i stepped it up she would step it up herself.\n\nI asked her out, and weve had a casual sexual relationship for almost a month and a half. I was very open with my friend, his mom insisted on it and i dont want to hurt him.\n\nHe is completely put off by it, which i can understand, but at the same time everyone is an adult and can make their own choices. He orders me to stop seeing her and i refuse. He is now actively trying to get all of our friends to hate me and its been semi successful.\n\nEven if i stopped seeing his mom i dont believe he will let up with the smear campaign. Oddly enough this has actually driven me closer to his mom since im running out of friends.\n\nAITA in this situation even if i was upfront and honest with him?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 153, "OTHER": 44, "EVERYBODY": 17, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 3}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 49, "WRONG": 170}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "XRBTu9IA4lQi8C1hm9oKDk0sLkvsRXLA", "post_id": "ba0rqk", "action": {"description": "not wanting to sleep in my new bed", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to sleep in my new bed?", "text": "Alright, some context here: I live with my mother, I'm only 17 and still in high school, and I'm a bit on the heavy side. \n\nNow, my room started to grow mold in it. This wasn't my fault-- The mold was behind a large, heavy bookcase which none of us could move, and we only noticed when it creeped out from behind said bookcase onto the open wall. Uh oh.\n\nSo, my mother decided that she has to move the giant bookcase anyway, she might as well rearrange my room. I protested, but she made it clear it was happening whether I wanted to or not. So, I stayed home from school to help her move the various bookcases and dressers in my room, since she often has trouble doing that on her own and I'm not so callous to let my mother get a hernia moving things. \n\nThen, my mother brings out the new bed. Now, for more context: My bed was a memory foam mattress on the floor. Rudimentary, I know, but it's always been comfortable, and I've slept relatively well. My mother doesn't approve of this, citing that I'm close to the floor, and that's why I get sick so much. \n\nNow, she asked the question earlier if I wanted her to get the bed. I refused adamantly. See, the new bed isn't as much of a bedframe as it is a large air mattress, easily the size of two normal mattresses in height. \n\nSo she brought it in and pumped it full while she said I could take a break, seeing as all the heavy lifting was done. So, I come back and she's making the bed for me, and having trouble. Once again, she won't let it go, so I help her. As an afterthought, she puts my previous mattress on top of the air mattress with a single sheet on it, before laying down and claiming it's the most comfortable bed she's ever been in. \n\nI do the same, and no. No, it's not. I sink deep in, I hate air mattresses, and I know I can't sleep on it. This is the part where I think I might be TA. After she set it up and I told her twice it wasn't comfortable and I didn't like it, she went to bed. \n\nI'd like to say I tried, but I need to get up tomorrow, the only pump to make it more taut is electric and it makes a lot of noise and I can't do that as everyone else is asleep, and that mattress just won't work for me even if I do. I did try to get the hang of it while I was awake, but I could barely sit, and lying down anywhere but the centre sent me tumbling off.\n\nSo, I deflated the bed. I didn't pop it, mind you, I just opened the cap and let all the air out. My mother doesn't yet know I did this, but I know she'll be **pissed** when she finds out. She said she spent upwards of $70 on it, and that she liked it, why can't I? \n\nI love my ma, but she's stubborn and I can't do this anymore. I won't be able to respond until morning, but can I have some advice?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5NBZhEV6nfCJ27wOX3T6hlIyRpeS8YZE", "post_id": "aei3yq", "action": {"description": "telling my mum I don't love her", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for telling my mum I don't love her?", "text": "Obvious throwaway, let me give some clarity for the situation.\n\nMy mum works in a high-level field, often with long hours. Dad's the stay-at-home parent who helps out at my mum's work; in any case, throughout early childhood, Dad's always been the one making dinner, doing drives to and from school and generally being present and active. Partly because of Mum's work hours and also due to a set of injuries she had sustained before I was born, I've not had the chance as a kid to really develop that same bond and trust; honestly, I feel like I've never had a connection with her at all. She's felt more akin to a step-mum than an actual mother, and I don't share many interests or connections with her (far and few between).\n\nI've developed a tendency to be needlessly blunt and harsh; I am trying to rectify that, but it has been difficult. During one particular point a couple of months ago, I've told her that (mainly) because I've never had a chance to connect with her, I don't feel any form of love for her. I often struggle with emotionality and being vulnerable, and I believe I've been too callous and tactless in this instance. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "YABN8iKzBRfki1wrhMNcaEpeaOFCjfZg", "post_id": "b7caz0", "action": {"description": "wanting to use 'lads' and 'guys' to a mixed group", "pronormative_score": 29, "contranormative_score": 24}, "title": "AITA \u2013 for wanting to use \u2018lads\u2019 and \u2018guys\u2019 to a mixed group", "text": "  \n\nI play an online team game which is 99% male players. Recently we asked a girl to join our team, lets call her Jane. After match we often say stuff like \u2018well done boiz\u2019 and she told us that makes her feel like not part of the team and suggested we say something like \u2018well done team\u2019 instead. We all agreed to try, she is part of the team and as good as any of us guys. Jane has said it is difficult for a girl to play in an all male group but I don\u2019t see why as we treat her well.\n\nYesterday one guy posted in group chat that he could not attend a practice and said \u2018Have fun lads and Jane\u2019. Jane responded by telling him that was worse than just saying \u2018lads\u2019 and made her feel \u2018othered\u2019.\n\nThe group had a bit of a chat about it and I said I was gonna keep using \u2018lads\u2019 and \u2018guys\u2019 because I mean the whole team when I say that and I am not giving in to radical feminism. \n\nThe guy who started this though, said he was sorry for what he wrote and he was trying to include her and he would try to refer to team or people in future.\n\nI ought to be able to use normal words without overly sensitive people feeling hurt by it. I am surprised that some of the other guys are taking her side though.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 22, "OTHER": 21, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 29, "WRONG": 24}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tXAwAI0tntCL2L8juQjfyb6077f2MyeX", "post_id": "a8dts9", "action": {"description": "arguing with my mom's boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for arguing with my mom\u2019s boyfriend?", "text": "I\u2019m (19F) home from school for the holidays and my mom\u2019s (ex)boyfriend (52M) is visiting from up north for the holidays and to see his kids. \n\nThis morning I woke up to him scolding my 5 year old sister for throwing away half of a bagel for breakfast around 8 am. Around 11 she tells me that she\u2019s hungry and I tell her to go ask her dad for lunch because it\u2019s around lunch time. She comes back up stairs a while later and I assume that she ate. Comes 12, she asks me again to give her something to eat and I finally go downstairs to give her something to eat.\n\nI get downstairs and asks her what she wants to eat and her dad then asks me what I\u2019m doing. I say I\u2019m giving her something to eat, it\u2019s lunch time. He tells me that he knows what time it is but she can\u2019t eat yet because she threw away part of her bagel this morning and all she does is waste food. At this point I get really snarky because there\u2019s plenty of built up tension that has been around for *years* along with the fact that she barely ate breakfast, it\u2019s been four hours, and she ate dinner around 7. I ignore him and keep asking her what she wants to eat and he tells her she needs to go upstairs in her room. \n\nI explain to him that she rarely eats bagels, so the fact that she wouldn\u2019t eat all of it isn\u2019t surprising. He then blames that on my mom because my mom fixed breakfast for her. (My mom works nights and is basically running on autopilot 75% of the time).\n\nI tell her that she doesn\u2019t have to go upstairs because I\u2019m going to fix her lunch. \n\nIt then gets out of hand because he asks me who I think I\u2019m talking to and I tell him I\u2019m obviously talking to him. It escalates, he tells me that I\u2019m out of place, that I\u2019m rude and disrespectful and that I shouldn\u2019t be talking to him anyway I want because he\u2019s a grown ass man. \n\nIt eventually escalates to a bunch a fuck you\u2019s back and forth. \n\nThere\u2019s more to the argument. I know the reason for the argument seems kind of minuscule and silly. I\u2019m aware that there\u2019s obviously many issues that need to be dealt with regarding the family dynamics and the relationships BUT my sisters birthday is in a few days and Christmas is coming up and I\u2019d like there to be as little tension as possible.  \n\nI talked to a few of my friends but they\u2019re biased because they know how I feel towards him and they\u2019re also all my age. So, am I the asshole for getting into an argument with my mom\u2019s ex.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SNY5dwqfScftNtsq1KPemG8g44Nhnfe9", "post_id": "a79m7u", "action": {"description": "not tipping when I takeout", "pronormative_score": 30, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for not tipping when I takeout?", "text": "No matter how fancy the location, if I'm not sitting down to eat at the restaurant I don't tip. Recently came across a friend who was surprised by this and I questioned my tipping etiquette. I usually tip atleast 20% but until recently never tip for takeout. My logic is that no one is \"serving\" me (bringing food to my table, making me a drink, etc.) but I recently noticed more and more that about half of my friends do tip on takeout too. Have I been a shitty tipper this whole time?\n\ntldr: read title", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 30, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 30, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OP3Xc8Z0HLSl9QYDOQKvRB18T10lpizK", "post_id": "b6l4ji", "action": {"description": "getting a restraining order and evicting my mother", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I get a restraining order and evict my mother?", "text": "Idk where to put this so sorry if it\u2019s the wrong place. It\u2019s also rather long, sorry again\n\nSo, to start things off, you\u2019re gonna need to know a little history. I\u2019m currently 16, and my mother has been in my life for around a decade. Beforehand, she was in prison for who knows what, I don\u2019t really care at this point. \n\nWhen she got out of prison, she basically strong armed the family courts into my life, because, frankly, she\u2019s a woman. It was a rough choice for my dad, as it was either spend weekends and Wednesday\u2019s at her place with other felons, or have her come into our house. He decided the latter. \n\nSince the moment she moved in there has been conflict, like giant fights that draw blood, me being kicked out for weeks on end, and her saying \u201cI sold my soul to the devil\u201d because I stood with my dad. Now that she kicked me and my dad out, and is threatening to meddle with my grandmas estate after her death, me and my  dad are living in a office, which we own and the land that it\u2019s on. She lives in a shitty RV behind it. She constantly terrorizes us by banging and yelling at ungodly hours in the night, and threatening shit to get money from my dad. \n\nWIBTA if I cut her from my life completely, and get a restraining order + eviction notice on her?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rAP48ugKT9Fs5J83SxduoZKAgGdDFSxZ", "post_id": "b86wfw", "action": {"description": "not paying it forward at the grocery store", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not paying it forward at the grocery store?", "text": "I took the day off of work because I am sick.  When I felt decent enough to get up, I went to the grocery store and grabbed some ice cream and some medicine.   \n\nThe lady in front of me says something to the cashier that I didn't hear and then the cashier bags my items and hands them to me.  I asked what was going on, and the lady smiled and said that she had paid for my stuff.  ($6-7).\n\nI thanked her and told her I was not feeling well and that I had taken a sick day and that was very nice of her and I walked out.   As I did, I heard her say \"well I guess I'll have to try that again\".  I didn't turn around to see what she was getting at, but I believe that she was paying for the next persons groceries as well, and I took her comment to mean that she had expected me to buy the groceries (or some of them) for the person behind me.  \n\nI went from feeling good that someone had done something nice for me to feeling guilty for not paying it forward.  I don't know how to feel about  what just happened.  So....AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "idqlKSr6Z799UluDjBMpyyWnAALY1Zik", "post_id": "aopsh3", "action": {"description": "giving my 17 year old nephew alcohol one night", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 17}, "title": "AITA because I gave my 17 year old nephew alcohol one night?", "text": "Background info: My family has a long tradition of drinking socially together; it's a very acceptable practice in our culture as well. Whenever my adult siblings, parents, and I get together we almost always have a few cocktails together and talk and laugh and have a merry time. None of us will drive if we're impaired and we won't allow anyone else to drive if they've been drinking. \n\nIt's also common knowledge in my family that me and all of my siblings drank when we were underage. In my country the legal drinking age is 21. My parents would often give us a glass of wine with dinner when we were younger or if they were hosting a party they would often let us drink some wine or beer. They most likely knew that when we were teenagers we were drinking at parties with friends, but they turned a blind eye to that. \n\nNow my brother has two sons. He is very strict with them and tries very hard to control every aspect of their lives, not to be a dick, but because he really wants them to be safe. One of his sons, Ian, who is 17, has often expressed to me his frustration at how strict his dad is and how he feels like he can't do a lot of fun things that his friends get to do. A typical teen-aged complaint, I think. \n\nI've always been the \"cool aunt\" to all of my nieces and nephews and because of that they have an adult to turn to when they want to talk about things their parents may not approve of like sex or drinking. Ian has confided in me about how he has to lie to his dad (my brother) about where he goes out with his friends because my brother won't let him go to parties. Ian also likes to tell me about the fun he's had drinking with his friends. I always tell him to be careful and to never drive drunk and to never let a friend drive drunk. But I also laugh with him and share in the fun he has in telling me his \"going out drinking with the boys\" stories. \n\nSo my brother and his fam live in a completely different part of the country than I do and we only see each other on holidays a couple of times per year. So during the last holiday that they visited, we were all gathered at my parents' home. Everyone was there - my three siblings and all of their kids (in their 20s) and me and my husband and my parents. Everyone was getting pretty lit and drinking and laughing except for Ian who's only 17. So on the sly I asked him if he wanted me to make him a drink and he said yes. So I made him a vodka...and then another....and then another. Keep in mind that we were at the home of my parents, no one was driving that night as we were all planning on crashing there. No guests outside of family members were present, and we had no plans to go anywhere else that night. \n\nAs the evening progressed Ian started acting tipsy. Everyone, including his mum, noticed and thought is was funny. They figured out that I must've given him some drinks. My brother was the very last person to catch on. When he did figure it out, Ian told him that I had given him the alcohol. My brother was fuming mad at me, but we didn't talk about it because it was late and everyone just wanted to crash. In the morning my brother and his fam all left early to drive back to their home a few hours away.\n\nThe next week a get a call from my brother and he was absolutely livid that I gave Ian some drinks. He went on and on about how Ian had never tasted alcohol before I gave him some that night and that now his son is corrupted because of me and also how I've undone all the great parenting he and his wife have done with Ian and that because of me he's now destined to be some sort of hoodlum (he's at the top of class and a stellar student btw). He went on to say that I have no boundaries and that I've been undermining his family for years (not sure how since we've never lived in the same part of the country since he's had kids?). And now because of what I did, my brother has chosen to remain very distant towards me. He continues to hold it against me that I gave Ian alcohol. He doesn't invite me to his home anymore for holidays, though he'll invite the rest of my family members. My other siblings still maintain a relationship with him, but they almost keep it secret from me because they know that my brother doesn't talk to me socially anymore or invite me to his home, and I'm guessing they don't want me to feel bad.\n\nI realize that I exhibited poor boundaries by giving Ian some drinks and I apologized profusely many times to my brother and to his wife. I completely owned up to my poor judgement and made no excuses for it. I'm not Ian's parent and I don't make the rules for him. But I feel like the degree of outrage expressed by my brother is disproportionate to my transgression. Especially considering that my brother drank when he was a teenager. And now I don't have a relationship with my brother anymore and I really miss him. Is he over-reacting or AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 17}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "sbXdZ8IWz7ReaqDmGkb7CEIIHfQHhRsq", "post_id": "ac17sb", "action": {"description": "not tipping whenever I am just ordering food to-go in a restaurant", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA: Not tipping whenever I am just ordering food to-go in a restaurant.", "text": "I feel that tipping is customary when I am sitting down in the area to eat. If I am ordering food to go, it essentially becomes a \"fast-food\" service type ordeal.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AabaDvI22SdCrEifAyDdQh7Ro9ZxHfRd", "post_id": "ahvw89", "action": {"description": "confronting at my boss", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for confronting at my boss", "text": "So some backstory to this is pretty simple, I work at a late night greek food shop on weekends to make a few bucks while I\u2019m in school. Usually there\u2019s two employees working so that when we close at 3am, we can get out relatively quick. \n\nOne of the co-owners lets call him G, pays himself hourly for the work he does, just as any other employee, and recently started taking the shift with me on Saturday nights since the guy I usually work with changed his schedule. This has led to him barking orders saying \u201cwe need to do the dishes\u201d and \u201cwe need to clean this\u201d etc but then going and sitting down waiting for me to do it all. It\u2019s too much work for one person and often leads for me to stay until 4:30am while he leaves at 3. \n\nTonight I finally called him out and told him that if he is going to say we, I want him to help me, and if not then he needs to say me. I told him I don\u2019t like working with a boss that isn\u2019t going to lead by example, and that he may be my boss but if he\u2019s going to also be my coworker I want him to do work with me. This lead to him yelling and creating a scene, calling me an asshole and saying I need to shut the fuck up and do as he says in the store with costumers present, while also telling me I\u2019m no longer entitled to my breaks on 8+ hour shifts. Am I the asshole for wanting my boss to do equal work with me, and for calling him out on the matter?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qpTWeLPRptz5WVprh4CyDOPDLBnoajN1", "post_id": "a7ps2g", "action": {"description": "not agreeing with friend's unsolicited advice", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not agreeing with friend's unsolicited advice?", "text": "A good friend of mine and I were chatting and I mentioned how my 12 year old stepson was slacking on homework and the steps that his dad and I were implementing going forward, such as getting him to *start* some of his homework on Friday evenings. My friend proceedes to say that should be illegal, and made direct comparisons to how his own parents who were borderline verbally abusive when it came to pushing him to do school work. (My friend also has ADHD and is visually impaired and his parents were very strict and not super nice to him; issues my son does not have). Anyway, I said any comparison between his parents (25 years ago mind you) and our parenting makes no sense. This was all by text so I concluded the argument by saying we could resolve it by having a conversation rather than texting.\nI left it alone and the next day he texted me, piling on even more criticisms about how i treat my stepson. I call him, and huge fight proceeds. My main points that I was trying to make was that he is a) not a parent and doesn't underatand the learning needs of my stepson b) he doesnt have the information to make the sort of broad generalizations since he only sees my stepson a couple times a year c) i didn't ask for his opinion and that only my husband should be the one who i am discussing this with and d) it's very hurtful to hear that I'm mistreating my stepson when I actually have a really good and loving relationship with him, that I've worked hard at cultivating over 6 years.\nMy friend stated that he feels bad for my stepson and sarcastically, \"oh you're so perfect you can't take some criticism?!\" and other really harsh judgements. It seems he wanted me to accept his judgement that I am mistreating my stepson. My husband for the record thinks this is absolutely ridiculous and knows how much quality time and love i give to his son, I (we) just have expectations for homework being done and trying his best (normal parent stuff, IMO). Its my opinion that my friend's traumatic experiences with his own very strict parents is what triggered this whole thing, and he is projecting. \nI'm having a hard time with this. We have been friends for more than 10 years. But i just can't imagine being friends with someone who says they feel bad for my stepson, like I'm such an awful person. And to impose their opinions on such a personal issue that should be an issue reserved for my husband and I. Plus, he yelled at me in a way I have never heard out of him. I had to repeatedly ask that he let me get a point in and let me finish. When he didn't after about 3 times, I ended up hanging up on him. That was the last we spoke. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AEqYPLANJtGk1jb5OywNR4wZRz5uOyNc", "post_id": "b896jz", "action": {"description": "not splitting cups", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not splitting cups", "text": "Hey friends, this isn\u2019t recent at all, but it\u2019s always been a moral dilemma of mine.\n\nSo, a little background. I used to work at a well known smoothie shop a couple towns over from where I live. We made small (12oz), medium(22oz), and large(32oz) smoothies. Now, the pricing isn\u2019t exactly in line with the sizes. For example, a medium \u201cshould\u201d be slightly less than double the price of a small, but it\u2019s really only about $1 more (so a jump from about $4 to $5). I also want to stress that this town is one of the wealthiest in the US. Multiple celebrities live there. If you google \u201cwealthiest towns in America\u201d it will be on most or all of the lists that come up.\n\nPeople quickly figured out that you could basically get 2 small smoothies for the price of 1+$1 if you ask for a medium in 2 cups. So people would come in, ask for this, hand me an AMEX Black Card to pay, and be on their merry way. My [least] favorite example of this is a women who came in with her two kids who excitedly looked at all the smoothies and say \u201cI want x! I want y! Oh no I want z!\u201d Only to be told by mom that they have to pick the same flavor because they splitting the smoothie. Queue child argument, the classic \u201cif you two don\u2019t pick then nobody\u2019s getting anything!\u201d, and crying. The lady orders, angrily puts her Louis Vuitton bag on the counter, pulls out her wallet, and hands me a $50 bill. I was seething through my customer service smile. I felt so bad for the kid that had to compromise.\n\nIt started to get a little too common, so my boss told us to stop allowing it and instead tell people they\u2019ll have to get 2 smalls instead. Fine by me. I\u2019m a very friendly person but I don\u2019t mind saying no when I need to, and I saw where my boss was coming from. The way I saw it is if people brought their own cup they could do whatever they wanted with the smoothie they bought. If they can\u2019t afford 2 smalls over 1 medium for your kids ($3 difference), then you shouldn\u2019t really be there at all. On top of that a good amount of people in this town we\u2019re extremely entitled and treated us like shit every time they were there so it was honestly satisfying to be able to be able to say no sometimes. (inb4 somebody quotes this part and says YTA). Most customers were cool, but not all.\n\nNeedless to say people weren\u2019t happy. I was always *extremely* polite when I told people about the policy, mostly because that\u2019s just how I handled customers but also because I genuinely felt bad, especially if they were nice. Some people were very understanding about the change, got their single medium smoothie in one cup and had their kids share. Some people got their smoothie, waited till we walked away, and reached over the counter to steal a second cup. A lot of people reamed me out at the counter, calling me a selfish punk on a power trip and other things of that nature.\n\nSo, AITA for enforcing my boss\u2019s policy against a loophole in the pricing and sizing of our smoothies? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OB8zKywJkW5n8k1irvheyyqgpeRF0BYB", "post_id": "a2kgax", "action": {"description": "not going to the staff party", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA For not going to the staff party?", "text": "Bit of background; my boss owns 6 businesses, 5 are on one side of the city 1 (where I work) is on the other. Tonight there is our Christmas party where he invites alllll of his staff to come and party in his nightclub. \n\nI am head chef at this other restaurant he owns, fairly new to the business and was talking to my crew the other day about who was going and what were they wearing etc (burning man theme) and the 2 chefs I had on expressed they wanted to go but didn't want to dress up and it was too far away and they have kids and blah blah. So I suggested that we have a BBQ at mine instead if they would be happier with that? They jumped on the idea and within 20 minutes we had it sorted. \n\nI've got about 10 people coming over tonight (including my housemates) couple beers and a nice hunk of brisket cooking in the smoker as I type this. My boss has texted me saying that he thinks I'm rude and it's a slap in the face that we are having our own party when he gave us the night off for a different reason. I sent him a message back saying that it was just a couple of them (who are both in their 30's and dont really want to spend their night travelling 90 minutes one way to spend the night with 18 year olds) and yes I extended the invitation to others if they didn't feel safe catching the train at midnight, they could come here but I dont think they will, he hasn't responded but I dont really think he will. \n\nTLDR: AITA for having a few mates over instead of going to the staff Christmas party that is ages from my house?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "xYzT7k3ZDm7u8VMAYIZnkIn3coFn8cOu", "post_id": "b9hvg5", "action": {"description": "killing my friend's aloe vera on purpose because she doesn't care that her cat keeps getting upset stomach from eating it", "pronormative_score": 38, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "WIBTA if I killed my friend\u2019s aloe vera on purpose because she doesn\u2019t care that her cat keeps getting upset stomach from eating it?", "text": "My friend has a 3 year old cat. 7-8 months ago, she got a giant aloe vera as a houseplant from her boyfriend. I take care of her cat occasionally when she and her boyfriend leave town on vacation. I\u2019ve noticed in my visits that the cat has been nibbling on the aloe vera. I\u2019ve cleaned up his diarrhea and vomit with bits of aloe vera in them.\n\nA few months ago, I warned my friend that aloe vera toxic to cats and that she really needs to relocate the plant to a place where the cat can\u2019t reach. She told me there isn\u2019t a secure, sunny spot in the apartment, and that the cat is still young and will eventually learn it\u2019s bad to eat it. She said it was a very special gift from her boyfriend and she does not want to get rid of it.\n\nThe problem is the cat hasn\u2019t learned. I\u2019m taking care of the cat this week and next. The poor cat keeps having vomits and diarrhea from eating the aloe. I\u2019m tempted to kill the plant by thoroughly salting the soil. I can tell her she over watered and caused root rot when the plant finally dies. She doesn\u2019t know enough about keeping plants to know. Should I and WIBTA?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 38, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 38, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hzo0obrGBKemSnBk38aGP8oZrcEXDuJr", "post_id": "b5df7o", "action": {"description": "working on a job application at my desk during my lunch hour at my current job", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for working on a job application at my desk during my lunch hour at my current job?", "text": "Last week was given an opportunity to apply for an internal vacancy in the company I work for. I'm essentially being poached by another department. I'm quite eager to nail this application, because getting this job would be frankly life changing for the better for me (MUCH more interesting, better hours and almost double the salary). \n\nHowever, the deadline is midday tomorrow and I was only asked to apply on Friday, so it's been a right turnaround, given that application is unusually long, and effectively an assessment rather than a standard application - with the final segment requiring a 3000 word essay. After putting in the hours over the weekend and getting it all sorted, I just needed to write a personal statement (why it think I'm suited to the role, what I can bring to it e.t.c) then I would be done. I figured this would only take me an hour or two at most, so did a little last night, went to bed and decided I'd work through the rest on my lunch hour today.\n\nAnyway, I had forwarded a copy of my work so far to my work computer, waited until lunch and then got going on finishing it off. First of all, I admit that it was a stupid thing to do to be working on it in full view of my colleagues, but my desk is in the corner and it's kind of accepted at work that it's an asshole thing to do to check someone's screen, unless you need to (I.e you're the manager and you're checking everyone's not playing games or watching YouTube e.t.c). One of my colleagues saw what I was doing and loudly proclaimed \"oh you're leaving us are you?\" And my manager heard, came over saw what I was doing and called me into a side office and explained to me that what I was doing was incredibly unprofessional, that I shouldn't be using company equipment for personal business and that it was an insensitive thing to do to apply for another job in front of my colleagues. Of course, I also got the third degree about wanting to leave my current team too.\n\nIn my view, while I suppose it's legitimate to say i shouldn't be using a work PC for personal business, it wasnt like i was browsing the internet or playing games - I was typing out a word document. Plus, I never worked on it during work hours, only during my lunch break and I personally don't think it's any of my colleagues business 1) what i do in my lunch break, and 2) whether or not I'm applying for another job.\n\nTl;dr - worked on a job application on a work computer at my current job during my lunch break. Colleague notices and rats me out to everyone. Boss takes me aside and says its unprofessional to use work computers for personal reasons and that its rude / insensitive to work on a job application around my colleagues.\n\nSo, AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "U9SSEohv4Bd2ZuWgwyf6GvEEWaip1otv", "post_id": "arhs94", "action": {"description": "being mad at my so", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being mad at my SO?", "text": "This happened a few days ago and it's been bugging me (F30). \n\nSo my SO (M32) was playing PUBG late at night and I went to sleep. I was woken up by him flipping his lid telling me to help out with our kids (we have 3), who were up making a mess in their bathroom. So I drag myself out of bed to the kid's bathroom and find them all covered in blue stuff. Great fun getting into the conditioner and smearing it everywhere. 6 year old had it down the pants, even.\n\nNo sooner had I showed up in the bathroom than my SO went back to his computer to resume gaming. I was kind of shocked that he would wake me from dead sleep after midnight and leave me to deal with the kids and their shenanigans on my own. He never came to help bathe the kids or clean up the conditioner all over the bathroom. After I got them out of the tub, SO came out of the office for a few secs, put a diaper on the youngest, then ran back to his computer again. I brushed out the kids wet hair and put fresh pajamas on them, tucked them into bed, and didn't hear another word from my SO.\n\nHonestly, this kind of thing happens a lot. I feel like I am left alone to deal with the kids in a lot of situations, and I'm frustrated, but when I try to bring it up, he gets in attack mode and doesn't really seem to hear any of my complaints. He mostly talks about how I couldn't understand how stressed he is because of work and that he thinks I could do a lot more than I do. I am a stay at home mom right now, I worked for a while but it was too expensive to have the baby in daycare. And I just feel over my limit sometimes. Even on his days off, it's like he's just shutting himself away and doesn't feel any real responsibility towards helping with the kids or keeping house.\n\nShould I be more understanding that he was in the middle of an un-pausable game and it's his stress relief, or am I justified in being angry about this?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4D7H9umKMP0n2iFerntFrlcJGhr3fuUm", "post_id": "aidqus", "action": {"description": "not going to do it work for a friend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not going to do IT work for a friend", "text": " \n\nHey guys to keep it as short as possible I'm somewhat of the PC guy in my friend group. All of us play PC, but I am one of the only ones who builds them semi-often. I guess I am seen as the most tech savy. Around a month ago I upgraded my own PC ran into multiple issues but got it up and running. At the same time a friend of mine built a brand new nice PC. He brought it over to my house because it wasn't starting up; he had spent a few days trying to figure it out. I fixed his wiring it booted up fine and he went home. He then the next day told me he couldn't figure out his drivers so he asked me over. I went over and spent around 2.5 hours installing his drivers and getting him setup( he has playing PC games for around 4 years now at this point). I left and though no more of it (no payment asked for or offered). A month later his PC starts blue screening constantly. He tries things on google and sends me the error code. I don't know much about software issues, and I couldn't offer him many solutions. I gave him and ideas I had even to the point of reinstalling windows etc. I made a toms hardware and Reddit post for him and forwarded him all information I got. The asshole part comes in as he asked me to come over and try to fix his computer. I tried to explain that I don't have and knowledge on this issue, and all I would be doing is trying solutions from google. He is now taking it to an expensive PC repair place and is somewhat upset at me for being reluctant to spend 3 hours at his house trying to fix something I do not know how to fix. I feel somewhat guilty that I didn't go over to tap around on google for him, but I am busy with school and life and don't want to become mister free tech support for any and everyone. AITA?\n\ntl;dr AITA for not fixing a friends computer issue that I don't know how to fix for free", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qAxfglI8YXjDhKFbCCpEQANK8UytdqPF", "post_id": "ankyrx", "action": {"description": "not letting my kid's dad come see her when she has the flu", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not letting my kid's dad come see her when she has the flu?", "text": "So my kid's dad has been struggling with addiction for a year and a half. Just a note to explain this deadbeat dad behavior is recent. \nIn the last four or five months, he's seen her maybe once a month. He lives paycheck to paycheck and misses a lot of work for pre-existing health problems and some connected to his recovery. \nMy kid has influenza A-the top dog for contagiousness and for intensity. Out of school til next week, and I left my other kids dad if I can push off my time with her to keep the sister from getting it. \n\nHer dad acted like he wanted to stop by (which he often says he's going to do and doesn't), and I asked him to just wait until she was out of the fever. He works in a restaurant, too, so that's a factor, if he comes on his break and goes straight back to work. I told him maybe a video chat is better until the fever breaks.\n\nI get wanting to see her, but I'm super concerned about him getting the flu and not being able to afford to fix it, and being put in real trouble missing work...or starting an epidemic. \n\nYes, she wants to see him, she feels like shit and wants all the comfort. \n\nTL;DR: Kids dad rarely visits, and while she has the flu, I think he should wait. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "wPJGNCLbi5FymxCwB7IWtVUL0AK6bH2W", "post_id": "aq5fow", "action": {"description": "abandoning my crippled mother in law", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For abandoning my crippled mother in law?", "text": " TL:DR at the bottom\n\nI\u2019ve been with my wife for nearly ten years. It was mostly a long distance relationship we had maintained through PC gaming and the like. During our time together, I\u2019ve been the emotional sponge for her venting about her disabled mother. This woman is not a nice woman. She caught something akin to Lymes disease 20 some years ago. Before then, she was an absolute nightmare, according to multiple sources. From beating and screaming when she didn\u2019t get her way, to injuring herself to prove a point.  \nFast forward to 2015, I became homeless and had no choice to move to my fiance\u2019s (now wife) home after she came down to live with me a year prior. MIL was capable of doing a few menial tasks like cook and put on her own clothes. However, she was incapable of performing basic human functions and relied heavily on my father in law. Over the years, it was obvious he was getting tired of taking care of her due to her daily screaming at him for being impatient with her or doing something wrong. He was a plumber and occasionally came home early because she incessantly called and texted him.  \nWe, being my wife, her younger brother, and I, tried to help her whenever we had the time. She more or less treated us the same way. She was an incredibly awful person to deal with. My wife and brother in law have confirmed with me that they do not hold their mother in high regards and she is the source of all of their stress. They don\u2019t have a pleasant memory or even a desire to maintain a relationship. I was tired of it all too, so I started saving in order to move out.  \n3 months ago, my father in law died. That forced my wife\u2019s two other siblings, both of which lived a state away, to get involved with their mother. After about a month and half of just my wife, her younger brother, and I taking care of her mother, we couldn\u2019t take it anymore and moved out. We finally have a home of our own. I usually get off work late, 11pm, and am not able to cook dinner because it would wake up my MIL. I can cook in my own goddamn kitchen whenever I want.  \nAbout a week or so ago, my wife\u2019s older sister started a group conversation in WhatsApp to discuss what to do about their mother and generally chat because my wife and her younger brother never really got to interact with their older siblings. In the chat, her sister and older brother just do everything they can to push it all on us.  \n\u201cIt was so much more convenient when you all lived in the same house.\u201d\n\n​\n\nExpected us to go 2 or 3 times a week to go take care of her mother. We agreed on the grounds that she would be coming down in a couple months to help us clear out some of the stuff left in the garage that were important to my wife and her younger brother. Childhood trinkets and other items. Meanwhile, since they started the chat, her sister keeps treating my wife\u2019s mental state like it\u2019s nothing to be worried about and is easily dismissed as \u201cbeing angry all the time\u201d. It's important to note my wife was raped when she was 7 by her uncle and was mentally and physically abused until she was 14 by her grandmother. Her family is ignorant or even flatout denies it. Her older sister doesn\u2019t understand the weight of her past.  \n12am, a few hours ago from posting this. We get off later than usual and get called incessantly by her mother. We\u2019re tired, cranky, it\u2019s even my wife\u2019s birthday, we did not want to deal with her. Her sister messaged us asking why we haven\u2019t gone over there yet. So we go to her house to find out she has some sort of pipe burst or water leakage going on underneath her house. We couldn\u2019t find any sort of valve or anything to shut it off. So what did she want us to do? Shovel 4-6 feet of snow, crawl underneath the house, and find the broken pipe. In the normal clothes and jacket we just got off work in. We essentially told her \u201cNo, what you\u2019re asking is quite literally impossible in these conditions. We\u2019re leaving.\u201d Cursed us on our way out, basically treated us like we were still living there.  \nMy wife is absolutely livid while trying to calm down because her heart was palpitating from the amount of stress she gets from even being in the same room with that woman. She tries to vent to her sister, and she responds with \u201cJust deal with it.\u201d She uninstalled WhatsApp.\n\n​\n\n​\n\nTL:DR My wife, her younger brother, and I have decided we don\u2019t want to deal with their bitch of  a mother after being asked to crawl in snow and water at 12am.\n\nSorry for any errors, this was all typed on a whim at 3am and needed to get this while it was fresh in my mind. Also a throwaway because I don\u2019t know if the persons involved frequent reddit. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BPdIH8kHeegRkLJEgo5W1WXd62jbNgu5", "post_id": "b5h6on", "action": {"description": "not wanting to drive my in-law's housekeeper to her bus stop", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to drive my in-law\u2019s housekeeper to her bus stop?", "text": "My wife and I temporarily live with her parents while we\u2019re working to pay off some debts. \n\nWhile most things are good, they have a housekeeper who I refuse to interact with any more.\n\nOver the last year and a half, she has repeatedly spoken to my wife in Spanish in front of me (she knows I don\u2019t speak the language), criticizing my food choices and calling me fat. She also, on other occasions when she was alone with my wife, has told her that I am a lazy, good for nothing person, and while my wife may be happy now, she says that we will likely be divorced within three years. (My wife and I are best friends and do everything we can for each other, so this part cuts especially deep.)\n\nShe has also been rude to my mom, who is the nicest person I know. \n\nMy in-laws have told me that they\u2019ve spoken to her, but nothing they\u2019ve said has made a difference. There\u2019s always a few weeks of mutual indifference, and then some new insult gets thrown my way. \n\nDespite this, when I am the only one around, I will frequently get asked to drive the housekeeper to her bus stop. I get it, she\u2019s old and she has a limp, but I don\u2019t feel like this is my responsibility.\n\nAITA for refusing to be around someone who makes me emotionally and physically uncomfortable?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UxFbR2TyfobQPZkN4hFSepHN5GWne6x8", "post_id": "aea4u9", "action": {"description": "expecting my husband to help me get our daughter ready in the morning", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for expecting my husband (29m) to help me (28f) get our daughter ready in the morning?", "text": "First, my apologies as this is my first post on Reddit, although I've been a big fan/lurker for a while now.\n\nSecond, some context: My husband and I have been together for 10 years now, and married officially for 2 months. We have a daughter who is 4 years old.\n\nI recently (Beginning of December 2018) started working at a company that is about 30 mins away. We are a one car family, and my shift is mon-fri, 7am-3:30 pm. Our daughter attends pre-k, and normally I have to drop her off in before care hours. (6am) when school starts at 8:30 am, because of my schedule. My husband works a 1pm to 10pm shift wed-sun. \n\nThis morning we got in to a tiff because I was having difficulty with our daughter waking up. Not only was I trying to get ready, but trying to help our daughter aswell. When I woke him up to ask if he could help get her dressed while I made her breakfast, he immediately got defensive about how I'm always asking him to get up way earlier than he \"needs\" to be, about how I KNOW how hard it is for him to go back to sleep once he's awake. It ended up with me huffing and puffing and telling him to just go back to bed. I was late to work, again, because of this encounter and traffic. \n\nHours later now that I've cooled down, I wonder if I'm expecting too much of him and being as inconsiderate as he thinks. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wq5S37VWS7LFb15HpEpA0DdCIywNjEaC", "post_id": "azmqfm", "action": {"description": "going to the teacher", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Going to the Teacher?", "text": "Burner account...\n\nThis happened a few years ago when I was in high school and I'm curious what the community thinks.  I was in an AP level science class and we were assigned a project and randomly assigned 3 other people to work with.  Bad luck for me, the other three were slackers, and one, I'll call Alex, was a real dick.  I was a very good student in school, graduated top 20 in my class, and the other three were average students who probably shouldn't have been in this class anyway.  So we start the project and I'm doing nearly all of the work, which I expected when I saw who I was paired with, but I was hoping they could do a little more.  At one point, I get fed up and point blank asked them for more help.  Alex straight up said to me \"we know you care about your grades a lot more than us and we know you'll do all of it\" and walked away.  I was PISSED.  We were graded as a team and technically speaking, he was right.  I wouldn't get a lower grade out of spite, and as C+/B- students, even a half ass effort on my part was better than they could do on their own.  It was basically a game of chicken that I wasn't going to win.\n\nSo I went to the teacher and explained the situation.  She had us all stay after class one day and point blank asked Alex if what I reported was true.  He was super embarrassed and half halfheartedly said no, but he was clearly lying.  The teacher put me on my own (totally fine, the project was 95% done anyway) and put the three of them together and required them to do the whole project on their own.  The only reason I feel a bit bad was because the project was due in less than a week at this point and they had basically no time, even if they were willing and/or capable of doing it themselves.  This wasn't my intention; that's just how it worked out.  They ended up cobbling something shitty together and the teacher gave them the lowest possible passing grade (probably to stop the situation from escalating, which could have happened if she failed them) and I did extremely well.  I feel like Alex deserved everything he got.  I'm a bit ambivalent about the other two, who seemed to be following his lead, but also had chances to help and didn't.  I would have been willing to do most of the work but there was still some \"grunt work\" that they could have taken off my plate, but decided that they had me snookered and elected to do basically nothing.\n\nOne last note, I know a lot of people oppose \"ratting\" in all cases.  If people wish to post \"YTA, never rat\" that's their right, but I'm not going to take those kinds of posts to heart if they don't have any substance.  Also curious what people think about the teacher's decision to split us up.\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tZVhjpyhJDUodeRWSSLLMa49WGLYDOsB", "post_id": "avl84l", "action": {"description": "blaring my music because my upstairs neighbors are having such loud sex I can feel the walls shaking", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for blaring my music because my upstairs neighbors are having such loud sex i can feel the walls shaking?", "text": "because that's happenin right now, rain sweet justice on me if it is deserved.\n\n Song of Choice was no Role Modelz by J Cole", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sptUgGaoWv0pnGDKdZ1sHHteXDZ9V90w", "post_id": "ahghry", "action": {"description": "cremating my dad", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for cremating my dad?", "text": "My father passed away very recently. I won't go into too much detail but he and I had a rocky relationship when I was a child. He was prone to fits of anger due to alcoholism and was just a generally scary guy. We kinda reconciled as I grew into adulthood but by no means were we close when he died, I preferred for our relationship to be amicable yet distant. My parents divorced several years ago, dad never remarried, and I'm his only child, so the decision about what to do with his body rests with me. \n\nDad was sick for a while before he died and I repeatedly asked him what he wanted done after he passed away. He was in an accident as a teen where he was burned pretty badly, so he said he definitely wasn't comfortable with cremation and being burned again. However, he said he wasn't comfortable with being buried either and didn't like the idea of rotting away in a hole. Rejected a mausoleum for pretty much the same reason. I told him those were his only options and he needed to pick one. He always said \"I'll think about it,\" evading the subject forever and never gave me an answer. Now I have to decide what to do for his burial and none of the options available to me are things he would want.\n\nI've met with a funeral director and discussed the options, and a cremation is by far the cheapest way to go and that's what I'm thinking of doing at this stage. Dad had no insurance and was on the verge of filing for bankruptcy before his death, so I won't get anything in the way of inheritance. I'm going to be floating the bill here 100%. Due to his accident he very vehemently said he didn't want to be burned again, and I know I should be respectful of his wishes, but he never bothered to actually tell me what he wanted, just what he didn't want. And as far as being burned again, well, he's dead, he's gone, it won't hurt him since he can't feel anything. I've been mulling this over for several days and I just want to get his burial over and done with so I can move on with my life. I'm just struggling with how to respect his wishes when he never gave me any alternatives.\n\nSo, WIBTA for cremating my father?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4sH88q3Ep5ihWgSHsp7ATzZnHoBvsSws", "post_id": "a0ooll", "action": {"description": "taking the belongings of a couple homeless men", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for taking the belongings of a couple homeless men?", "text": "Backstory is a must so please hear me out. I work for a commercial real-estate company in Milwaukee as a maintenance man. I handle over 3 million square feet of property (mostly very old) along with my supervisor. One of our buildings has recently become vacant due to the previous tenant moving. Over the past few months we have had serious criminal damage done to the property resulting in a lot of calls to the local PD and beefed up security (cameras and barbed wire fence). \n\nAbout 2 weeks ago I make my bi-weekly lap around the building looking for more damage and checking cameras. To my delight I find nothing, at first. As I get to the back of the building where the railroad is, I notice a lot of new garbage. Mostly cheap beer and liquor bottles along with McDonald's wrappers flying around. I walk to where one of the service doors was spray painted and find a pile of blankets and more garbage.\n\nIt took me a second but I realized there was a person under the blanket. I wake the guy up and ask him if everything is alright. He goes on to say he's just trying to stay warm from the winter weather pushing in and he thought this spot was well enough out of the way as to not be bothered. I say not a problem, just so long as you clean up the garbage I'm fine with you staying here. I told him about the kids tearing the place apart and advised him not to stick around during the day, less the police or my boss find someone at \"the scene of the crime\" so to speak. He said no worries I'll clean up and be on my way. I think nothing more of it and go about my day.\n\nA week later I do my walkthrough and what do I find but the same garbage, plus more, and someone else sleeping in the same spot. I wake him up and ask about the beer cans scattered around. He says none of it is his even though I see amongst his belongings are 3 more unopened beers of the same type. Slightly annoyed, I explain to this guy the exact same thing I told the other man. You can stay, please clean up. He says no problem I'll do it before I leave. I say thank you, and ask him if he knows the other guy that sleeps here. He nods and I ask him to remind him about cleaning up.\n\nTwo days later I come back to more garbage. Now I'm upset. When our buildings accrue an excess of garbage the city will give us a warning and then begin to fine us. I find the second guy and give him one last chance. I tell him to clean up or next time I'm going to have to involve the police. I find the first guy sleeping under a loading dock and explain the same. I told both of them I don't want to call the police but I can't just let you continue to stay here making a mess. Going on to state how if my boss found out I was giving them a second chance let alone a third, how I would be fired. Again the agree to clean up, so I leave.\n\nToday I find neither of them, but the garbage and their personal items are still there. So as promised I call the non-emergency number and explain to them the situation. I ask them if there is anything they can do and they say it's out of their hands unless damage is being done. The tell me that I am allowed to remove the garbage/items. I wait around the building for an hour hoping to spot one of the homeless men, but nothing. It's at this point I make the decision to move all of the stuff inside our building. I came back to that building 3 more times throughout the day hoping to find one of them and return the items on the condition they don't come back.\n\nI didn't see either of them, however their items are safe and I do plan on returning first thing in the morning. I feel terrible for taking their things but I can't risk my job. Especially after I gave them several chances and was very polite and sympathetic. AITA for taking their things?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jDSORltcZzTnWMr7fBDYs9kcrKHxyUzJ", "post_id": "b1o72c", "action": {"description": "faking orgasms for almost 4 years of a relationship", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for faking orgasms for almost 4 years of a relationship?", "text": "I am 21 years old (close to 22) and have been with my boyfriend since we graduated high school. I was extremely sheltered and therefore, expressed my sexuality very early on. My sexual awakening happened at around 11 or 12 years old. Now, I have an incredibly high sex drive, have some kinks, and absolutely love sex. I consider myself pretty sex positive. \n\n​\n\nI, like many women, didn't discover orgasm for a long time. It's not for a lack of trying. I spent my teen years masturbating with just about everything I could get my hands on. I think part of it is my clitoral hood making things difficult. \n\n​\n\nDuring sex, it's even more difficult. My clit is far from my vagina, making friction with my clit almost impossible in most positions. \n\n​\n\nSo, all that being said, I have faked orgasms. I love sex and have never wanted to discourage my partner, I am his first girlfriend, and what started out being a white lie to make (who I thought was just a fuckbuddy) feel happy, has turned into an elephant of a lie to the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. I partially did it, because I have such a higher sex drive than him. I didn't want him to think I don't love having sex with him. When we first started dating he had a lot of insecurities.\n\n​\n\nThe sex is honestly amazing too, that's what's so hard. I've came a handful of times with him, which is honestly shockingly amazing. I've told him a partial truth, and I think I'm going to come out and say it. I think he's going to be crushed and angry (understandably) I guess I know that I am somewhat the asshole, but to what level? And WIBTA if I kept it to myself for longer? (I know I shouldn't, this is just so hard.)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "7Qypcwm2T38HuJ2M0ycj764J0lz8Tx5v", "post_id": "9za59n", "action": {"description": "not caring about a childhood relic that has no significance to me", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not caring about a childhood relic that has no significance to me?", "text": "A few weeks ago my biological mother came down to attend my wedding. With her she brought my \"baby ring\", a very small gold ring that said BABY. I didn't think to much and stuffed it in my pocket of my pants. A few days later when switching laundry around it fell out of the dryer and my husband found it. He asked what it was, and I told him it was some ring I had when I was a baby. When he suggested I put it somewhere safe I just shrugged and asked what's the need. He seemed rather shocked, saying I needed to hold onto it because it was \"special\".\n\nI've never had a good relationship with my bio mom (leaving when I was a baby, never being there to raise me, causing so much family strife), and I think her bringing this is her way of trying to connect with me, I really don't know. I've never seen it before and it has no special significance to me, so am I an asshole for not wanting to treat it special?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4pBYJ5TRX3G9mdOTXRB9D5DljDpTQtTf", "post_id": "axln8p", "action": {"description": "no longer letting my sister use my Amazon Prime account", "pronormative_score": 25, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for no longer letting my sister use my Amazon Prime account?", "text": "I pay for prime completely out of pocket ($100 for one year) and used to let everyone in my immediate family use it. I never had a problem with my parents or sister using it till now. \n\nI have depression, a host of anxiety disorders, and have had anorexia for a few years now (even being hospitalised on multiple ocassions) and watch cartoons/anime (particullary the cute/innocent ones somewhat meant for kids.) \n\nI have been doing this to cope with with things since i was first hospitalized at the age of 9ish (using pirating sites back then) and it built into a habit in order to deal with stress. \n\nMy sister had been making fun of me for watching \"those purvy shows\" and had been calling me a lesbian when we live in a fundamal Christian household, so the aqusation could have serious consequences (i am a lesbian/atheist, either of which could get me kicked out of the house if i were to come out of the closet)\n\nI changed my password so she couldn't watch her shows, and my parents are taking her side. She knows my mental problems and still mocks me saying that since she goes to school and works 25+ hours a week she deserves it. Keep in mind i go to high school, work almost 40 hours for $9/hour while she is a part-time collage student who gets paid $15/hour. \n\nAMTA here?\n\nTLDR: sister uses my prime account, makes fun of me for watching anime to cope with mental problems and makes acusations that could get me kicked out of our fundamentally Christian house. Says she deserves my account since she workshard, but goes to school/work less but still makes more money than me. Everyone thinks I'm the bad guy in my family. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 25, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 25, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OUEltBJZ72aRifDIV96anQSl45FsgEAz", "post_id": "b6q7mb", "action": {"description": "not teaching my boss an important part of my job", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for not teaching my boss an important part of my job?", "text": "So I work at a manufacturing plant that builds a type of large machinery. My supervisor doesn't really know what my job entails as an the only one there that does it. I do the final setup and inspection before it leaves.\n\nSo for the last couple months he has been trying to learn my job so he can do it, well I haven't shown him where or even that he has to switch a couple power switches to even start. \n\nSo today he was wondering why there were a bunch (64) of error codes popping up so I started looking around and flipped the switches when he wasn't looking. Said I fixed it. \n\nShould I keep this going or show him the switches?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "PeeUjzz1Jcm4OXZcvs1qFaBtpeYApH1H", "post_id": "9v1rlz", "action": {"description": "finding another so a month out of a long term relationship", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for finding another SO a month out of a long term relationship", "text": "I was in a long term highschool relationship which transfered to long distance college. The first year was very hard and it became toxic to the point where I felt like my success rendered our relationship (I think she hoped I would do bad and move back for community college) but I had pretty heavy blinders on at this point and eventually this was worked out. Over the summer I started to notice small tendencies like blaming everything on others and decided I couldn't have that in my life. (She had stopped pursuing nearly any goal she's had with a mild inconvenience) but I still loved my SO, but it felt like I had to push her to do the slightest things. We broke up this semester and I started going on dates just to get myself to have fun, and I met a girl who just clicked with me like I've never had. I'm trying to be friends with my ex, but I feel like I did something wrong finding someone so quickly (I am super into her(new girl) and nothing is wrong between us). It was between 4 and 5 years together and I don't think I should leave my life on hold, but I also don't want to make her feel like had this all planned or anything. AMTA for doing this? It won't stop my current relationship I just want to know where I stand.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aXvwfEaWxfjGO4uoOxweMq6CrISNTCYT", "post_id": "adcbcv", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my brother's girlfriend that used to be my best friend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my brother's girlfriend that used to be my best friend?", "text": "Well long story short\nMy ex-best friend started dating my brother, thing that I'm fine with because they both seem happy, but I told her that I didn't wanted to be a thirdwheel because it's really awkward to be in that situation and I don't feel comfortable with them making out in front of me (just like with any other couple).\n\nShe usually comes over to my house on Christmas and new years, but since she started talking to my brother she stopped talking to me unless it was about him, like if he didn't answer her she would text me in order to make me send a message from her to him and when I asked her if she was coming she was dodging the question with \"depends on your brother\" and more things like that.\n\nEven one time that I was using my laptop, and I couldn't lend my brother my charger because I was finishing a final project that was delivered the next day and my laptop didn't had too much battery, she texted me to ask for the charger, and when I told her that I couldn't lend it to him until I finished using my computer she started telling me that I was a bad person and that if she was in the same situation she wouldn't do the same, and that drove me nuts. Since that day our friendship started to fade away a little bit, even though I forgave her I didn't felt the same, because that would be the future of all the discussions about my brother. \n\nWhen she finally came we spend the first day together because I was hanging out with some friends and everything seemed good (note1: she spent the day with me because my brother went to another city) but when my brother came the same day she only wanted to be with him, and I'm not mad about that, I understand that they're a couple now and that they love each other, but what makes me mad is that she didn't wanted to give me a single hour to talk and do things if it wasn't with my brother (note2: we were best friends for over 3 years and she was dating my brother for a week). She only uses my room to change herself(note3: she sleeps with him) and barely talks to me, only to say hi and I decided to let them do their thing and started to make my own plans with other friends, thing that she didn't seem to mind except for my brother that tried to make me hang out with them all the time.  I didn't talked to her unless she did first. \n\nAnd on new years she received a call and when she was away answering my brother told us that her best friend was calling(note4: at this time I was with the idea that we still were best friends, and she never told me that we weren't), and that hurt me a little bit but it didn't surprise me, after her attitude towards me, and when my father asked me about it I only said that it didn't matter, (note5: at this point our friendship was already broken, so even if it hurt I accepted and got over it) to which she didn't reacted that well, and the next day she gave me a gift but didn't change a single thing on her attitude, she left after giving me that gift and we didn't talk the whole day. (note6: I hugged and thanked her when she gave it to me, I'm not a cold stone, but I can only see her as my brother's girlfriend, not my best friend anymore, and a gift isn't going to change that if her attitude stays the same)\nSo am I the asshole here??  I'm just over exaggerating things and need to apologize to her?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PmVsWGNitklpMwttNSzfQ5i0zkU56cWF", "post_id": "b3xar3", "action": {"description": "thinking my bf is sexist and wanting to break up w/him because of it", "pronormative_score": 412, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for thinking my bf is sexist and wanting to break up w/him because of it?", "text": "I(18F) come from a traditional family. My dad works and my mom stays home. However, they do not push this lifestyle on me and my sisters. They have stated that it\u2019s simply what works best for them and they have always stressed the importance of hard work and self-reliance. College is a must for us, we are expected to find a job, work hard, and pay for our own shit. They encourage us to pursue whatever we are interested in/good at, whether that be a traditionally feminine or masculine activity. I am so glad my parents raised me to be independent and self-sufficient, even if that means I have to work hard, because I feel very prepared to take on the future.\n\nMy bf also comes from a traditional family but his views are a lot different than mine. For example, when he found out that I mow lawns on the side during the summer to make some extra cash, he acted shocked and said if he were my dad, he would be ashamed of his daughter outside in the heat mowing his lawn, and if I needed extra money I should just ask him. I was offended by this because he insulted my dad and I actually like mowing lawns. I really do, I get to blast my music, be outside and get a decent work out in. And I don\u2019t need to pay for my gas and clothes with bfs money like some spoiled bitch. I told him all this and he just doesn\u2019t get it.\n\nHe also INSISTS on paying for EVERYTHING. Don\u2019t get me wrong, I really appreciate when guys pay on dates, it\u2019s a nice gesture and I am happy to let them do that. However, I feel like you have to draw the line at some point. I am not allowed to buy anything for him or else he throws a fit, even something little like a snack after basketball practice. Instead of making me feel appreciated it makes me feel incapable.\n\nLast weekend we went rock climbing together and I showed him up big time. He was super pissed about it and kept making all of these excuses for why I was doing better than him when I hadn\u2019t even said anything about how he, well, frankly, sucked. Later that night we were texting about our dream careers after college and he said that he would always be making more money than me, and he couldn\u2019t date a girl with a higher salary.\n\nI called him out on his ignorance and he quickly apologized for the comment, but that whole day was just sort of the final straw with this guy. I have a feeling he just apologized to avoid an argument and he still really feels that way, and I am tired of constantly being treated like a princess. On the other hand, in his eyes he is being a man and respectful by treating me this way. I know I can be independent to a fault and idk, maybe I\u2019m being overly sensitive to the whole thing. \n\nSo, AITA for getting \u201ctriggered\u201d and thinking he\u2019s sexist and we should break up, or am I right to think this dude is too 50s for me?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 389, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 23, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 412, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wtxU2yAzL1c4DloOrdk1AwuTumImat28", "post_id": "a2gspo", "action": {"description": "thinking that my SIL is an asshole for trying to sell a set of season tickets (1 game) to her brother or sister", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for thinking that my SIL is an asshole for trying to sell a set of season tickets (1 game) to her brother or sister?", "text": "She has season tix to an NFL team they bought, and I guess she can't go to the game....so she's trying to sell them to us for $250. Also, they're not hurting. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "iFMjwSTmGfQHPrUoGIrkNe0AABlIW6lX", "post_id": "an8ljm", "action": {"description": "covering my nose when it smells", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for covering my nose when it smells?", "text": "I have an extremely sensitive nose. I can smell if someone has opened a bag of chip even if they\u2019re in the other room with the door closed. Luckily, I\u2019m able to deal with most smells, unless it\u2019s extremely concentrated (perfumes, EOs) or a couple particular food smells. When I do encounter these scents I feel nauseous and dizzy and it becomes hard for me to focus. I find it easiest to cover my nose to block the scent the best I can, and go about my life as we do not live in a scent-free world. I use either my hand or a hat/bandana like a handkerchief and cover my nose. I know I will get odd looks from strangers but I already have a limp so I expect it. Most of my friends and family are aware of the extent of my scent sensitivity. I have assumed they don\u2019t mind until today when my boyfriend told me otherwise. \n\n\nHe was eating a store-bought soup that he had originally heated up for me. Something in the soup tripped my scent trigger, so I gave it to him. He ate most of it and then stopped, so it was sitting on the coffee table half-eaten. The smell started to permeate and make me nauseous, so I nonchalantly tucked my nose into my sweater. My boyfriend stood up very angrily and stormed into the kitchen and dumped his soup down the disposal. He sternly told me that I need to stop acting so passive aggressive and say something when I\u2019m being bothered. I was SUPER confused because it\u2019s never been an issue before. I explained that I don\u2019t do it to be shitty, I do it because it\u2019s easier than expecting the world to bend to my whims. \n\n\nIn the end, he apologized for overreacting but told me that I need to consider how I come off when I sit around covering my nose. Obviously I would never have a conversation or do an interview while covering my nose, but I figured people close to me would understand. Now I\u2019m paranoid that everything thinks I\u2019m weird AND rude. AITA??", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FngPS7vLpBxNW6bHPUw1Fhqvmu4zhKQV", "post_id": "aqfk2u", "action": {"description": "leaving my neighbors wet clothes on the washer", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for leaving my neighbors wet clothes on the washer", "text": "I live in an apartment where everyone in the building shares 1 washer and 1 dryer.  Im out of socks, I live in the Midwest and it is cold and wet- I need socks.  I started my laundry while someone else had the dryer going.  I went out to change my laundry after I heard the dryer stop, neighbor hasn\u2019t gotten clothes yet.  Fine whatever, I wait an hour and they still haven\u2019t gotten their clothes.  I loudly clean the lint trap and slam the dryer door in hopes they will hear and come get their stuff- nope.  5 min later I take it out and put mine in.  Plot twist-  all their stuff is wet still.  I know this is so minor but I feel like a jerk.  AITA for leaving someone\u2019s wet clothes out that will inevitably stink and need to be washed again?  (I\u2019m sorry if you thought this was going to be super juicy)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wvUmeGfwpfOaLK059YZfuRDs7ogwMKYK", "post_id": "aww4yl", "action": {"description": "trying to date a girl my friend likes", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for trying to date a girl my friend likes.", "text": "I met this girl and became friends with her and had intentions to date. We hung out a few times and introduced her to my best friend. While we hung out together I noticed they got along very well so I asked my friend if he liked her and if he did I will back off and he said \u201cNo, you met her first, she is yours.\u201d I told him it\u2019s fine if he wanted to date her because of how well they got along and he still said no. So I continued to try to pursue my interest in her. A few days later I got a bunch of ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "c1TiX36sYxd8rwtqWLxhUKBT2tmXXNZu", "post_id": "ark2vj", "action": {"description": "asking my ex if there is anyone else who can drive her to the hospital", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking my ex if there is anyone else who can drive her to the hospital?", "text": "Ok so: ex gf has a minor operation. We didn\u2019t know when it was going to be, except within the next 6 months. She won\u2019t be able to do much in recovery so I confirmed I will be available for 2 weeks to help with lifts, shopping, errands ect...\n\nFound out yesterday it\u2019s in 3 weeks time, RIGHT in the middle of a month long holiday I am planning separately. I was expecting to go away for a few weeks, and then come back to look after exgf, whilst also looking for jobs. \n\nSo in conversation yesterday I suggested I reorganise my holiday and flights so that I can some back in time for the 16th (op day). However, before I booked anything I just wanted to confirm what and when she expects to need help. At this point she started tearing up on the phone with lines like \u201cif it\u2019s so much trouble then I\u2019ll sort it out myself\u201d and \u201cjust go away and don\u2019t come back\u201d punctuated my long silences and a confused me trying to explain I just want to get the fine details sorted - as I am going to have quite a lot riding on these dates (In terms of flights, connections ect....) \n\nShe\u2019s now totally ignoring me, except for the odd \u201cI will do everything myself\u201d and \u201cI don\u2019t want anything from you\u201d and \u201cfine go away on your holiday I\u2019m not your concern\u201d. \n\nSo really I think I probably could have been a bit more delicate with the way I worded my enquiries initially but it feels to me this is just way Over the Top, and in a strange way I feel I\u2019m being punished for trying to help - but not quite helpful enough. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "w23YrvkZfKqLEjpUhh5s16bGYamCivxV", "post_id": "apwu5i", "action": {"description": "wanting to move across the country and my notdoing", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA: I want to move across the country and my spouse doesn't.", "text": "So to begin, this all became an issue at the end of December. I was sexually assaulted at work by a client. The following weeks were terrible. I was retaliated against for reporting, I lost my job. I found a new job, and drama followed me to this new job. I work in a niche industry, and there are only so many positions in our city. \n\nMy husband has been awesome during this time, but it was this most recent incident where the drama of my old place followed me to my new one that has been the breaking point. I realized I might need to take a break from this career. \n\nNow my husband is from this city and grew up here, and I am from the west coast. My family is there, his family and friends are here. I've gotten it into my head that I just need a brand new start. I want to move back home, to a place where no one knows me, and start either working to begin my career over there, or just plain start over. I've talked about this before, but this time it seems more serious.\n\nMy husband originally agreed to go through with it, but I could sense something was off. I asked him what he really thought, and he refused to tell me. Finally he went into the bedroom and I could hear him crying.\n\nThis has been hard on him, but it's hard on me too! I need to be supported, and I'm tired of being reminded what I went through every day! There are no other real opportunities in this city, and there are 10 times the amount of available jobs where my family lives. I've checked!\n\nFor what it's worth, my husband is not working. He does have family, but my family is in poor health right now, and I can't be there for them! My mother might lose her eyesight completely, and I want her to have at least one last look at her grandson before that happens. AITA for want to move so badly?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "COUbrCX74JXQ1Yv89auaPBR09eJ24iq2", "post_id": "aoptqr", "action": {"description": "quitting my first job where I was given a different profile than the one I was promised during the interview", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for quitting my first job where I was given a different profile than the one I was promised during the interview?", "text": "Okay so, I am a B.Tech Computer Science student from Delhi, India and during our campus placements, I was placed in a Japanese company I won't name for confidentiality purposes. This company (we shall call LYER) was the company that came for campus placements and their first test happened in April. The recruitment then carried on for 3 more months wherein we were also given a project to complete for assessment. Finally, our HR interview happened in September and therein I had talked to the HR guy about the fact that my skills, interests, and projects are all in the field of Data Science and hence I would only join if I was put in that department. He agreed and said they had many analytics and ML projects I could work in.  \n\n\nAlso, our college has a  one student one job policy so, I could not sit in any other campus placement, even Google.  \n\n\nFast-forward to January. We finally receive our joining letters and the same is 2 weeks from then (22 Jan). There would be a 6-month training followed by absorption as an employee.  \n\n\nHowever, our compensation post training had been decreased from 450k INR base to 400k INR Total. On joining, I was put in the department that has all the analytics projects, but on our second day, I was switched to a different department that handles deployment, configuration, and IT services.  \n\n\nI talked to the HR execs and one of them advised me to try and continue here for 6 months post which I shall be switched to the department I was promised. But, I frankly don't buy that at all.  \n\n\nAlso, there is a service bond system in India which means that if I leave before 1.5 years after taking their training, I have to pay them the training costs amounting to 150k INR.  \n\n\nThe college is probably not gonna support my decision and won't let me sit in any other on-campus companies but that's another story altogether. I can put that in another post later if Y'all want to hear.\n\nSo, Reddit am I the asshole for quitting my first job because they didn't give me the profile they promised?  \n\n\nTLDR - company hired me in Sept for a certain role. on joining in Jan, switched me to a diff one. I wanna quit.  \n\n\n  \n\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HXwmIMLcrBUu6r48PAOF0XdbUOsMj3nn", "post_id": "b1tfvg", "action": {"description": "having nipple piercings", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for having nipple piercings?", "text": "Okay, a little background info. I\u2019m a 26 year old female and I work for a hospital. The hospital has a large gym affiliated and at the same location. I work out everyday, and have noticed a few times my nipple piercings are visible through my shirt. I always wear a sports bra, but sometimes they still show through my shirt and bra. I\u2019ve tried bandaids (which is hilarious and unhelpful). The only thing that consistently \u201cworks\u201d is padded sports bras, which I wear occasionally but prefer thinner ones as they are more comfortable to workout in. The gym usually isn\u2019t super busy, and I don\u2019t think the piercings are obvious (but they are visible at times). I am not trying to show them off. But I\u2019m a medical professional and my coworkers and patients are at the gym sometimes. AITA if I let my nipple piercings show when I workout?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VKEleSAzN7Jcg6h4zQFYX9zkvjZhwEGd", "post_id": "a205j9", "action": {"description": "being offended", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "AITA for being offended", "text": "Whenever my family decides to go out, I\u2019m usually the last one to head out the door, not because I take too long getting ready, but because I choose the last 5 minutes to do so. \nWhile I accept that I prevent them from being on time, this never exceeds being late by more than 10 minutes, and it never ends up being a serious situation.\n\nWe recently had a chat about it, and I was told that my level of remorse and interest were null, and here I quote (not in english, but a translation) my dad saying \u201cyou simply don\u2019t care that we arrive late. When prison inmates spend half their sentence, they get interviewed to check whether they feel any remorse for what they\u2019ve done, or if anything has checked. You simply don\u2019t care.\u201d \nHe then was about to mention something about drug dealers, which I then just said that I didn\u2019t think the comparison was appropriate at all, and that if he really was comparing me being late to an act punishable by prison time.\n\nTo make the story short, I agreed that I could improve my interest in preparing and getting ready, but the choice of comparing me and my behaviour to a prison inmate in such a scale was a terrible choice of wording. Both him and my mom said that it was an example, and \u201cit was my choice to be offended by an example, as I was victimising myself.\u201d\n\nI think they are great parents, and that specific instance of trying to make me less disinterested in getting ready (which, in my opinion, is not a big of a matter as they make it to be) seems like the right path. The way they thought would make me understand is just awful. Should I apologise for being offended? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 16, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "pmVW9xGj58clmIMpZ1URhK3m4YC6ER7i", "post_id": "azlar2", "action": {"description": "asking neighbors to go away", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking neighbors to go away", "text": "This just happened. We got new neighbors above us this past week and we all have patios/balconies. I\u2019m watching tv, the blinds to my patio are open and I see two girls walk right up to my balcony, looking up. I\u2019m thinking maybe someone is gonna throw them keys or something and move along. Fine. Until one of the girls starts filming and now I\u2019m curious. Someone from the balcony above starts pouring beer down into one of the girls\u2019 mouths while the other films it. They miss completely and the girl starts taking off her shirt in front of my window and patio. So, I\u2019m annoyed at how loud they have already been and ask them to not do that outside my patio. They snicker and walk away. Said nothing to me. \n\nSo AITA? \n\nShould I have just ignored them? I probably would have until she took off her clothes. That\u2019s what irks me. I\u2019m 25F and this is not a college town or party place. Families live here. \n\nIf anything it\u2019s trashy and I don\u2019t think it\u2019s funny. Beer stinks and attracts bugs and now it\u2019s covered on my patio. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VuMJq3xpCWPHr8II5fFeK4MxYNUesY1F", "post_id": "axewar", "action": {"description": "insisting secrets and half truths have no place in a marriage", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA because I insist secrets and half truths have no place in a marriage?", "text": "My husband became a Freemason in the early 2000's. I didn\u2019t really care until recently he has wanted me to join him in activities. Id say no but he would keep pushing until I gave in. Each time it was the same boring stuff but what caught my attention was the unsettling feeling Id get around those people. So I started asking questions and my husband said he will not tell me anything if I wanted to know I should look online. So I started months of  research and shit is just getting more and more bizarre, I couldn\u2019t take it anymore so I asked him again to tell me what they are for and what they do. He exploded telling me he will never tell me anything about it especially the initiations. Needless to say I was shocked and very hurt, but I had NEVER said anything about initiations. It wasn\u2019t even on my radar, but now it was. So I started my research again and was sickened by what I found. Never would I expect that my husband would allow such things to be done to him. Yes I admit I lost my mind with him. At this point he says he is just going to quit , which is for the best but even then I don\u2019t think I\u2019ll ever look at him the same. He'd rather quit then tell me the truth. Perhaps its because of how the are forced to be submissive and in real life he is not regardless he should be able to tell me anything and everything like he tells me I have to be an \u201copen book\" for him.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gCbXDW2l1V0wrIzFFvPDLUJwonUHrS6S", "post_id": "av5m3o", "action": {"description": "not wanting each table at our wedding reception to be named after deceased relatives", "pronormative_score": 76, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting each table at our wedding reception to be named after deceased relatives.", "text": "My wife to be mentioned it to me that she thought it would be a great idea to have each table named after dead relatives who couldn't be there on the day, I straight up refused because I just don't like the idea of it and find the whole thing a bit morbid. Ok, yes I can see her reasons behind it, it is a nice gesture to those who couldn't be there but it just doesn't seem right, it would lead to having some of my own family and friends sitting at a table named after someone they don't know and have never met or heard of before.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 26, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 50, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 76, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JTJ6AbkB5XEBv9eGRWxBOTUdKjQznUK1", "post_id": "b3i255", "action": {"description": "publicizing the emails between my younger sister and the head swimming coach of her dream school", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 113}, "title": "AITA for publicizing the emails between my younger sister and the head swimming coach of her dream school?", "text": "My younger sister is a senior in high school who has been applying for college and also a competitive swimmer.\n\nWhile my sister was applying for the first choice university, the head swimming coach of the school emailed her and said the following:\n\n> I hope this email finds you well and enjoying a Happy New Year! I wanted to reach out to you to let you know that we had received word from admissions of your acceptance to (the university)! Congrats...that's great news. I also wanted to make sure you knew we are very interested in you joining our team.\n\nWe had not received an actual acceptance letter yet, but since this was the heads of one of the athletic teams at the university, we didn't think anything was amiss.  My sister replied, and the coach then mentioned her coming to visit with the team and that he would be \"losing two breaststrokers to graduation this year and so it would be awesome to have someone of your caliber come in and join us.\"\n\nMy sister, me, and the rest of my family were ecstatic, and she was so happy when the official letter from the university was mailed in.\n\n...except, she wasn't accepted. \n\nMy sister was in tears. My mother immediately emailed the coach back and told him about this. In response, he said:\n\n> Thank you for your email. After looking through my past communications and reviewing information, I believe I know what happened.\n\n> During the time I emailed (sister), I was emailing people who had both \"recently applied\" and other who had been \"accepted\" during the Early Action process. I inadvertently emailed (sister) the wrong email. I cannot begin to express my sincerest apologies for this error. In regards to the visit days (other coach) has been communicating, it is customary practice to try to plan ahead with recruits while they are awaiting decisions. I apologize if this was clear.\n\nMy entire family is furious. My sister is irreparably upset. My sister has spent the last several months living the stressful nightmare that is college admissions, especially since she wants to continue her athletic career. She was so elated beyond belief, and now she had been told that this is a \"mistake.\"\n\nI took screenshots of the email thread and put them on social media for the public to see. We need everyone to understand why we are so monumentally disappointed in the university for this because this should never happen to any other student-athlete. The college admissions process is all over the news, and my sister's story needs to be heard.\n\nBut then several people (two lucky ones in particular who are already students at the university and are on the swim team), are saying that while they are sorry for my sister that it's wrong for me to bring up these emails publicly. The swimmers in particular will *never* understand what my sister is going through and are clearly biased to the head swim coach. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 102, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 11, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 3}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 113}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "gbU3zJ4rWWNSqAiscuIGrqTlsUDGbriG", "post_id": "b7csw1", "action": {"description": "refusing to change my schedule for my Ex-in-laws? or is it justified assholery", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to change my schedule for my Ex-In-laws? Or is it justified assholery?", "text": "The reason I ask is, I know I\u2019m partially doing it because I am an asshole. But is it justified is the question.\n\nI got divorced last year after my ex committed a felony and I needed to protect my kids. We are on better terms now and I\u2019m helping him work on visitation with his kids. This weekend is only the third time in a year he\u2019s taken them overnight. Which means it\u2019s also only the third time in a year, I\u2019ve had any kind of break from 4 kids. Don\u2019t get me wrong, I LOVE my kids, but I\u2019m fucking exhausted. Plus caught a nice case of walking pneumonia. Not how I wanted to spend my two days off.\n\nSo the ex comes to pick up the kids this morning. He tells me his parents drove in from out of town without telling anyone except his sister. They called her when they were 6 hours away (they live about 13 hours away) to let her know they\u2019d be arriving and staying at her house that night. My Ex-FIL also declares that my ex should \u2018round every up Saturday\u2019 so he can give my oldest a watch for his birthday. (My oldest\u2019s birthday is on Tuesday.) I\u2019m annoyed as fuck. Who does that?! Anyway, the ex, knowing I\u2019ve been sick and knowing I\u2019m not going to be thrilled about changing my plans at the last minute tells his dad that today won\u2019t work but maybe tomorrow. \n\nI thought about it for a minute. Part of me is like: well I should be nice and accommodate them. They live really far away, etc. But then my bitch side turned back on and I said no. Told my ex that he can tell them I\u2019m sick, he can tell them whatever the hell he wants, I\u2019m not coming. It\u2019ll probably be another 3 months before I get 48 hours to myself and dammit, I need it. \n\nSo, internet world, help me know if I get to squish that little voice in my head that says I\u2019m being an asshole and enjoy my weekend. Or if I should back down and join the \u201cparty.\u201d Party is in \u201c because obviously it\u2019s just going to be the Ex-FIL congratulating himself in getting such a great gift. \n\n*if you\u2019re wondering how my oldest feels about it, he doesn\u2019t care. He\u2019s excited to see his grandpa, already knows he\u2019s getting the watch, and couldn\u2019t care less if I was in the room when it occurs. He\u2019s on the spectrum if that helps explain why he doesn\u2019t have \u2018feelings\u2019 about it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VOQSqrFdYifXDvYGc4BZZsz6fD462ygL", "post_id": "auzczz", "action": {"description": "quitting my new job", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I quit my new job?", "text": "I'm desperately just trying to Deal, but I've only been here three weeks and payroll continues to be a huge issue. Ever since day one I've had issues with how things seem to be run.\n\nThe management is bonkers about how they do things, such as having a system that allows you to receipt stock but never receipting stock so absolutely everything is out, and insisting that and orders are filed physically despite an electronic inventory that would trigger backorder notifications in the system they used to process it if that stock were recepited in! I feel like I know their system better than they do, but despite pointing out my issues, they keep shifting the blame for these methods onto someone else within the company and refusing to allow anyone to do them.\n\nI had to go pressing and asking to find out simple things like my retail level so I can find out my pay grade, shit that I should have been told when signing on. I recieved no formal training for how their systems are run (I know their program, but it's laid out and named differently and some processes are wildly different for no reason), and I'm being expected to do tasks outside of my pay grade, something now ex-staff had warned me early about.\n\nI didn't even know they'd officially hired me! They told me to come in for a trial shift and then I was rostered on for the rest of the month! I was asked for my bank details but the employer/payroll officer provided none of the finer paperwork for my payroll to be processed for tax, and didn't bring it up until a solid two weeks later.\n\nI'm only a casual but I'm working near full-time hours when I was promised lunch cover shifts, and any request to have a day off has been met with being given a full day shift on the one day off I had. Maybe a few months from now I wouldn't mind, but at this point in time I physically cannot handle so many long shifts when I was initially promised 'maybe up to 17 hours a week'. Later on it wouldn't be so bad, but right now it's a struggle.\n\nMy last job only lasted seven weeks (fulltime, emotional breakdown due to stress, thus me wanting the casual position). I feel like that experience could be making me take all of this out of proportion. I want to at least try and find a new job this time before cutting ties but I actually do not know if I'll be fired before then thanks to some staff who told me their experiences.\n\nWould I be the asshole if I quit?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fE5TF1hDVtA0nghtjkhfyRcI8OlubBCV", "post_id": "af2vah", "action": {"description": "being upset with my coworker getting a company car", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being upset with my coworker getting a company car?", "text": "Background: throwaway account, coworker is on reddit. \n\nI work in sales / management for a small mom and pop specialty Italian food shop.  I oversee production of the products (sauces, breads, desserts) as well as marketing /  meet and greets with vendors / shops / restaurants for them to sample ect. I also will go and pick supplies as needed, usually about 2-3 times per week. Since they are just starting out, all of the employees except for myself are family members.  \n\nI've been employed with them for five years. My coworker (owners daughter) who has the same title, responsibilities, salary ect as me was given an 80k \"company car\" its a high end luxury vehicle. She doesn't pick up supplies or drive around doing sales pitches; in five years she's gone maybe 50 times total. For as long as I've been employed with them, neither my gas nor millage has ever been compensated for work travel. \n\nI know I'm partially at fault for not asking for compensation when I should have, I love my job and enjoy going to work every day. But I cant get past this, it feels like a slap in the face for all that I've done, increased profit by 2x the value for the car. Even after she got the car, they still except me to go on sales, vendor meet ups and pick up supplies.  Am the asshole for being upset with my coworker, company ect? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qex6eHkYe4IDIN3wTS8ooQTHSOrWAYZO", "post_id": "b7brd3", "action": {"description": "not telling my girlfriend, that my ex-girlfriend kissed me", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for not telling my girlfriend, that my ex-girlfriend kissed me ?", "text": "My previous relationship was long and I was happy . After four years we broke up without any problem because her family. She was still in love , me either but we had to broke up. \u0130t's been two years and I have a new relationship. We are still trying to know each other. One week ago my ex-girlfriend called me and she said she will move to another country . She wanted to talk me for last time. I met with her without asking my girlfriend because I wanted to show my respect to her as a good old partner. We talked for few hours. It was very fun but in the end of meeting she kissed me and said \" I always loved you and I will never forget you \". I couldn't tell my girlfriend about what happened. I am feeling bad about not telling her but I am not regretful except being kissed by ex-girlfriend.  AITA for not asking my girlfriend about meeting and not telling her about kiss ?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "5wdkrPxWKFNrsxcRxvdQudXJ0wDGAmj2", "post_id": "ay52ks", "action": {"description": "not spending an entire day with my mother in law, every weekend", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not spending an entire day with my mother in law, every weekend?", "text": "My husband and I have been married for 5 years. He has a very close relationship with his mother, as he is the only child and she is a single parent.\n\nSince we have been together, we have had a routine where we spend one entire day with my mother in law (before lunch to after dinner) every weekend. My husband and I both work long hours at fairly stressful jobs during the week, so lately I've started wishing that I had more of our own / my own free time to relax on the weekends. My mother in law is not exactly an easy going person and can be quite demanding, so it can be tiring to spend the entire day with her, and not what I would personally choose to do to relax.\n\nI don't want to force my husband to spend less time with his mother because they are very close. I'm happy for him to continue seeing her for a full day every weekend, and happy to join them for the occasional day or meal. But I don't really want to have to join them every single weekend anymore, as I would like some weekends for my own time.\n\nMy husband is a bit upset by this and thinks it means I dislike his mother, but I really don't, I just don't want to be forced to spend that much time with anybody (apart from my husband).\n\nSo - AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UMlYSSSZKMI4DJWlg9U66Nki0w8qQ9ij", "post_id": "b50xm1", "action": {"description": "not interacting with my dad and grandma", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not interacting with my dad and grandma?", "text": "My relationship with my dad is extremely rocky due to his negligent parenting when I was a kid. I don\u2019t like interacting with him because he likes putting me down when I don\u2019t understand concepts in school and pretty much unsupportive of my education. When he\u2019s angry, he would hit my sister and I because we weren\u2019t smart enough or we did something that upset him. Sometimes he would threaten to hit us if we do not do all the chores, which is unreasonable since he doesn\u2019t help out around the house at all.\n\nAs a result, my grandma(his mom) ended up babysitting us during our toddler years. She never spoke up about his parenting skills even though she knows what he does. She\u2019s very sympathetic and lacks a backbone because she believes in karma. Due to her relationship with the rest of the family, she is financially dependent on her children.\n\nIn recent years, my dad is upset my mom is constantly away for business trips and coming home late from work. He is also angry that the family doesn\u2019t have enough money to go on vacations. So he would ask my mom for money to go to casinos and when she refused, he lied about going on a tour instead. His increased spendings cause my mom to refuse him allowance (since his salary isn\u2019t enough to support his leisure and the family). He now has an extra job which he uses to save money for personal spending.\n\nSo here is where the issue starts. I do not like interacting with my grandma because every time we meet, she gives us money. It makes me feel like she\u2019s bribing us to see her and I don\u2019t want that type of relationship. She is also very doting in my dad and takes his side of things. When my dad got kidney stones, she blamed my family and I for not taking care of him. He also has an issue with his weight and we all tried to put him on a diet, which he gave up on after a few months.\n\nAll the interactions I have with my grandma can be summarized into: \n\u2022take care of your dad\n\u2022remember to go out on walks with him and remind him to eat his fruits\n\u2022he sacrificed a lot for you\n\u2022remember to take care of your dad when you grow old because he loves you and you\u2019re his child\n\u2022he took up the extra job to send you to college (false, he tried to talk me out of college and told me he would not support me financially)\n\nI don\u2019t like my grandma for trying to mend my relationship with my dad. There\u2019s a lot more things he did to me as a kid that I can never forgive. I love and appreciate her for what she\u2019s done for me when I was a kid. I want to spend time with her without the topic of my dad coming up, which is not possible.\n\nTLDR: I don\u2019t get along with my dad and my grandma tries to mend our relationship forcefully. So I don\u2019t like talking to either of them.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "INIsus8DtgPIElX5Sb61FN1YnUI89uNT", "post_id": "anuc4u", "action": {"description": "not cleaning the common stairwell more often from my dogs hair", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not cleaning the common stairwell more often from my dogs hair?", "text": "A few months ago the tenant for my apartment knocked on my door to ask me, very politely, to help with cleaning the common stairwell because they had received complaints about dog hair. \n\nMy dog sheds a lot so I was not that surprised. He said that they didn't want to up the frequency of the current cleaners they have because it would cost more money and asked me to perhaps buy a small handheld vacuum cleaner and remove my dogs hair every now and then.\n\nI know it's their responsibility to keep it clean but I also recognize that as a dog owner I probably make more of a mess than others so I agreed. I looked at a schedule where the cleaning crew sign every time they clean and noticed it was every other week. So I decided I could perhaps also clean every other week essentially making it so that it gets cleaned once a week.\n\nToday I noticed a note on the main door downstairs from the tenants organization saying (translated):\n\n\"Please clean up after your dogs for everyone's comfort.\"\n\nThere was also a picture of a bunch of cleaned up dog hair, so much that it was impossible that they had taken the picture after I started cleaning every other week. I now have a good grasp on how much there is every week. So I thought that it was kind of passive-aggressive, but perhaps I'm reading too much into it.\n\nI looked at other main doors in the apartment complex and it was only in mine this note was found so I suspect this issue will come up again because somebody is probably still complaining about it. Which is why I want to know if I have a leg to stand on here or not.\n\nSure, there is dog hair (not ONLY from mine, there are others but they are much smaller than mine so they don't make nearly as much of a mess) but there is also gravel, and dirty smelted snow etc. so it's not like it would be spotless if it weren't for my dog. I don't think it's too much hair but I'm a dog owner so maybe I'm desensitized to it?\n\nSo, now I want to know... AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QfPTH9hPTAQuQvyFvDKtZiEkRNXqjpvs", "post_id": "b6kfqy", "action": {"description": "Accidentally CockBlocking my friend", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For Accidentally CockBlocking my Friend?", "text": "Okay so my friend really likes my other friend called Betty (not her real name). He's known her for about 2 weeks and hes been hanging out with her (in groups) as much as he can. \n\nBear in mind that Betty just got out of a really toxic relationship. She really needs some time for herself.\n\nHe invites me to hang with them in a big group so I go. I'm a confident person and I guess sometimes I can dominate conversations. Anyway, we are all having a great time, but I notice my friend is being super cold towards me, and I'm not sure why. I hardly spoke to him OR Betty! \n\nI go home and text him and ask if everything is alright, and he completely lashes out on me and says that my confidence belittles him. He says I act different around her and I should stop dominating every conversation. He says that I target him and make fun of him when I hardly spoke to him?\n\nI told him that if he is seriously getting mad at me for enjoying myself at a social gathering, then he and Betty will never work out.\n\nOn another note, I have a girlfriend and I'm very happy. I do not like Betty nor did I purposely cockblock my friend.\n\nI personally think he is just extremely insecure, but I need an outside opinion. So reddit, who's the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kiww0oMkApsOpbxVxovmGzFQYtsEm45n", "post_id": "b7eth3", "action": {"description": "bailing on someone who asked me to prom", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "WIBTA if I bail on someone who asked me to prom?", "text": "So a couple of days ago a girl asked me to prom. We\u2019re both juniors and she seemed pretty excited, but hasn\u2019t shown any interest in me recently and we haven\u2019t talked much, so I believe we\u2019re just going as friends. There\u2019s a senior girl who was going to ask me to prom, but the junior asked me first and it got kinda complicated.\n\nI\u2019d much rather go with the senior, as I think we\u2019re both interested in each other and it\u2019s her last year, but I don\u2019t want to make the junior feel bad by bailing. The prom is in two months and she asked me about a week ago. WIBTA?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "UVIp0cUGWKyTlAsAJjJEjxPAdwdQA06c", "post_id": "ab5q9m", "action": {"description": "calling someone's mom on them for driving under the influence", "pronormative_score": 56, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA because I called someone\u2019s mom on them for driving under the influence?", "text": "About a month ago, I was a house party with my classmates (I\u2019m 17, grade 12). The party started first as a small gathering of friends drinking beer, eating pizza, watching movies. Someone posted on our grad Facebook page about this gathering and before I knew it there were like 50-60 people over smoking weed, drinking vodka and a bunch of other shit. I\u2019m not a smoker or drinker, so I left pretty quickly. My friend, who\u2019s also a grade 12 but was 16 at the time of this event, stayed. \n\nNow I\u2019m back home, reading, watching TV whatever. I\u2019m been on my phone, watching people Snapchat and Instagram\u2019s stories. In one, my friend is the focus where she\u2019s chugging a bottle of vodka, in another she\u2019s smoking a joint and in a third, she\u2019s doing shots with a guy. I know that she drove to the party so I text her to call an Uber. When she doesn\u2019t reply, I call her. She picks up and complains that Uber\u2019s too expensive so I offer to call one for her. She hangs up after saying she\u2019s fine to drive. \n\nMaybe 30 minutes later, I see on one of her friend\u2019s Snapchat story, like 5 different videos of her in the car, driving while smoking and drinking and texting on her phone and one video of them in a Macdonald\u2019s that was posted like 2 mins ago. \n\nI call my friend\u2019s mom and tell her what\u2019s happening. She says thanks and hangs up. I don\u2019t hear from her or her daughter for the rest of the night. \n\nShe\u2019s not at school the next day but I hear from from my friends and classmates that her mom and dad grounded her, taking away her phone for like 6 months and selling her car. All day, I had people, mostly her friends and other classmates who\u2019ve posted videos of themselves drinking and doing drugs, (hell one of the girls was a 16 who has a tinder account and who keeps a bottle of vodka in her locker) coming up to me and calling me a dick and an asshole and a bitch for calling her mom on her when she was just having some harmless fun. \n\nNow this was literally the same day when we had a MADD presentation at school. \n\nThe following day, she\u2019s back at school and the first thing she does when she sees me is punch me and call me a \u201cfucking life ruining asshole\u201d because on top of no phone and goodbye car, her parents aren\u2019t letting her attend any house parties and are considering not letting her go to after-prom. \n\nWas I the asshole for doing this? Because honestly, I kinda feel I am. I mean if something had happened and her car crashed and they died and I hadn\u2019t done anything, I\u2019d feel guilty for not doing anything. But now I feel guilty because I got her in trouble with her parents. And we used to be really good friends but in the last month, since she punched me, we haven\u2019t talked at all which kinda hurts. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 56, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 56, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oSCUJod01t8Yaw2r4cetqJtrCT758sFr", "post_id": "ax7q4l", "action": {"description": "telling a classmate that my friends were accusing her behind her back of giving out my best friend's number to a stranger", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling a classmate that my friends were accusing her behind her back of giving out my best friend's number to a stranger?", "text": "Rachel's (best friend) birthday was not long ago.That day, an anonimous person called her to wish her happy birthday, and he also said that he's her classmate's (also her ex's) aquintance. At first she thought it was kinda funny, but got mad pretty quickly at the fact that someone gave her number to a person she doesn't know. Her ex (let's call him Tom) then texted her and apologised for his friends's prank, and also told her who that person was. I'll call him Jeff. (It was a boy who was following some of us on instagram and also messaging one of my friends) Tom has a whole group of friends in our class, so we didn't know which ones he was referring to. He said he didn't know either. (He only knew that it was his friends's prank because only he and some of his friends knew Jeff) I have a small group of friends too, it'll be important later. We agreed that it was one of Tom's guy friends, because they are the ones who do stuff like this often.\n\nA few days later, Rachel saw another classmate's instagram story, in which was the date my best friend got the call, the username of Jeff, a screenshot of a game, and a text that said something like \"we should do it again\". This girl was also one of Tom's friends. I'll call her Brenda. Because of this, Rachel thought that it was Brenda who gave out her number to Jeff, and inmadietely wrote her theory in our groupchat. Some of our friends agreed with her, one didn't say anything, and I was disagreeing. I said that it was barely an evidence, while she kept insisting that it meant that it's 100\u2105 that this girl did it. I said that it didn't make much sense, because Brenda had no reason to do it and she wasn't someone who liked to prank people either. Rachel then called me an idiot and said she doesn't care if it's logical or not.\n\nThis pointless conversation dragged on until I got fed up with them accusing someone of something with barely enough evidence. So I texted Brenda and asked if she knew who gave out Rachel's number, and that my friends were blaming it on her. She told me she didn't even knew about the prank and that she would tell me if she found out something. I don't think she was lying to me.\n\nThe next day, Brenda asked one of my friends who she was close with about why they were accusing her, and of course told that friend about me texting her. The news about us texting got in the ears of the whole friend group. Then they confronted me about it, and asked me how did I dare to do that. So I told them that it was wrong to accuse Brenda like this, and I wanted to hear her side of the story too. They were also angry at the fact that I told her they were accusing her, saying I had no right to do it. As if they had the right to just pin the blame on a random person. They were throwing all kinds of shit at me (not literally), including that if they weren't so nice they would have dumped me out of the group for this.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AAzap1pLP02jhlPxft8zIYcHmAifcgvX", "post_id": "aubzok", "action": {"description": "getting annoyed with my friend and not really wanting him in my wedding anymore", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting annoyed with my friend and not really wanting him in my wedding anymore?", "text": "I have a friend I\u2019ve known for the last 5-6 years and I always thought we were decent friends despite his wife (now ex wife).\n\nHe was married to this girl who was real mean to him, insulted him, hit him from time to time and never let him hang out with us much at all outside of our hockey games despite us living a few minutes from each other. I always kinda of chocked us not hanging out much because she\u2019d give him shit about it and make his life miserable. Through it all I asked him to be a groomsman in my upcoming wedding.\n\nRecently he decided to divorce her and confided in me a good bit through it. I thought that we\u2019d finally become the friends I had hoped we\u2019d be all along since we live so close and I mentioned that I hope we do now that he is free from her.\n\nBefore his divorce was even final though, he met a girl on a dating app and just doesn\u2019t give me time outside of hockey even though he hangs out with her 5-6 times a week. I mentioned to him that this kind of makes me mad and I feel like he\u2019s not really acting like a friend and it wasn\u2019t his ex wife at all. He apologized and told me he\u2019d make more of an effort to return texts and maybe watch a hockey game or grab dinner from time to time.\n\nIt was cool for like three weeks. He was returning my texts and we even grabbed dinner and caught a hockey game together. However, he started reverting back to blowing me off and ignoring my texts claiming he\u2019s busy. I know it\u2019s bs because he\u2019s the type to make time for her 5-6 times a week and always responds to her texts. \n\nAITA because I\u2019ve gotten fed up with him and no longer want him in my wedding?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dsdugqpxGhzncy8Jn7QWRS5GfZrc4ABw", "post_id": "9x4209", "action": {"description": "not sitting next to my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not sitting next to my girlfriend", "text": "My girlfriend and I are in a very loving relationship. We get along very well, this was just a minor spat that I'd like a different perspective on. Even if you do feel that my girlfriend was in the wrong, please do NOT attack her or call her names. \n\nI recently did a local show that required sitting next to other people and answering lots of questions. I brought two chairs, one for myself and my gf, plus a table.\n\nThe lady next to us, lets call her \"Sara\" who we have met before and is very friendly to both of us, had forgotten to bring a chair. My girlfriend was leaving for an hour or two, so I offered to let the lady next to me use the extra chair. Sara said that she would give it back as soon as my girlfriend came back.\n\nI spent more time standing than sitting, so as to get closer to people asking questions. After an hour and a half my gf came back, sat in the remaining chair, and said she missed me and wished we could sit next to each other so we could hold hands and lean against each other. She said this quietly, Sara didn't hear.\n\nA few minutes later Sara, as promised brought the chair back. I felt bad about sitting while Sara had to stand, especially since I had to stand 80% of the time anyway. So I gave Sara back my chair. I instead sat on the edge of the table between conversations.\n\nMy girlfriend was upset with me and I said I felt really wrong sitting while Sara had to stand. My gf got upset, and left to go visit her parents until the show was over (about 3 more hours).\n\nIt's important to note that this was on a Friday night. Later on my girlfriend explained the reason she was upset was that Friday nights are our date nights. My girlfriend had already worked all day, and chose to spend the evening with me at the show. She wanted to at least be able to sit close together and was hurt I gave back the chair after Sara brought it back.\n\nI see her perspective, but I still would have felt wrong sitting while a friend of ours had to stand the whole time. I at least had a table to sit on.\n\nSo, am I?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oFWWBX1kApTDx9O2N5Hl7nYfQPEswMm2", "post_id": "a05ch2", "action": {"description": "surrendering a puppy to a no-kill rescue due to separation anxiety", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for surrendering a puppy to a no-kill rescue due to separation anxiety?", "text": "Background info, I did post a while ago about my roommate not paying rent, etc. This is a totally different topic. \n\nMy SO and I adopted a puppy, who we will call Koda. He was part of a litter of five large breed mixed puppies found right before Florence hit. He was from Kentucky, and we were in contact with the rescue and explained our situation--I work from home most of the week and My SO works Monday/Wednesday/Friday/Saturday. We puppy-proofed the house, bought a lot of toys, talked to our vet to prepare for him, etc. We originally asked to foster, but were denied, and after speaking to his foster, we were told he would be fine as an only dog but could also have other dogs in the house without a problem. We have fostered with them before, but never foster failed, so we are experienced dog folks. \n\nWe fostered two dogs when he came to us originally, but within one week of Koda coming to us, our adult male foster dog who played with Koda regularly went to a foster to adopt situation, and Koda threw a fit. He cried, barked, did not eat, did not sleep, did not play. Just laid in his crate all day and barked. He had barked before this, and was mourning his litter mates for about 24 hours after leaving them, but settled quickly. When the male foster dog left, it lasted days. Our female foster cuddled up to him, and played with him and was his buddy. When they were together, I could leave him unsupervised for 20  minutes without a problem (in a puppy proofed room). He was 12 weeks when this all happened. \n\nFast forward two weeks, all is well, but then our female foster gets adopted. Koda goes through the whole routine again, and we talked to the rescue to see if they could give us advice on how to help Koda with the transition. We are basically told that if we love him enough, we will figure it out and find a way to make it work for him as a single dog. Koda makes himself sick over the loss of Jill. The stress of it literally made him ill--diarrhea, vomiting, not eating, etc. Took him to the vet and she agreed it was basically acute stress though we had done our best not to change his routine. We nurse him back to health slowly and we are encouraged to keep him quiet for a few days till he feels better. \n\nEventually he does. We wean him back onto his normal schedule, diet, etc. We think he is going to be fine as an only dog, but suspect he would be happier in a house with kids or other dogs. We bring it up to the rescue again and again. Due to my job, I couldn't adopt another dog until March, but I am very worried about him since he seems less energetic/happy ever since he was an only dog. Also due to my job, I wasn't in the position to foster again at this point. \n\nOne morning, we put him in his crate to go grab breakfast one day--we are gone forty five minutes or so. It is probably the first time he has been home without me since the female foster left. My roommate is home, so he isnt alone. I come back and he is throwing up and in distress. Take him to vet, same thing, stress response. I talked to the rescue again (fourth or fifth time) and say that after talking with my vet, it is agreed that he needs another dog so that he wont be so distressed when we leave the house. After explaining, I am told that I am a horrible owner and that I need to consider his needs before my own, and that \"who was I\" to make the judgment that he was so stressed out by all of this? Vet ran blood, urine, and fecal, and besides a bladder infection and one roundworm in his throw up (which didn't show in the fecal), he was healthy. \n\nI love this dog and am very attached to him. But due to the health issue, doggy day care isnt willing to take him.\n\nThings have devolved to the point that if he is alone for more than 30 seconds, he is in severe distress, and we are concerned he will self harm. We also do not want him to make himself physically Ill every time we leave the house even for a short time. This also applies to when he cannot see us, such as showers.\n\nWe have exhausted all possible ways of keeping him with the resources we have and felt like surrendering him so we could get him into a home was the best thing to do for him. This is a first for us, since pets are for life in my house, but we also tried to put his needs first--and he needs someone home all the time, and another dog, or he will make himself sick. \n\nTL;DR: we do love the dog and are not wanting to surrender because it is \"convenient\". We want to do so because given the separation anxiety, confirmed by vet, we feel we do not have any options because he is making himself physically Ill if my SO, another dog, or myself aren't there. We do have a potential adopter lined up for him that would meet all of his needs that is pre screened through the rescue. We agreed to surrender him and foster him so we could find him the perfect home and we think this is it and the rescue agrees. Are we the assholes for making this decision? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3JJP9p82TiT2mAqqvHIwIkj7PEep0q32", "post_id": "axs8o8", "action": {"description": "telling my sister I won't babysit my nephew anymore", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my sister I won't babysit my nephew anymore?", "text": "My sister called me earlier and said she needed a babysitter for my nephew. \n\nFor tomorrow morning. \n\nFrom 4 AM until he goes to school four hours later. \n\nI told her I would take him but to lose my number as a babysitter. \n\nShe does this all the time. She will know about something for at least a week (sometimes up to a month) in advance but will wait until the last second to arrange childcare, making it an \"emergency\" that the family (usually me as I am the person with the most free time, aside from my mother who is severely disabled and shouldn't be looking after children) has to cover. \n\nI would mind this less if she paid me for babysitting but I have been pressured by my family into backing off about that because she's \"broke\" (bitch, me too!). Although you wouldn't know it from how she spends the money she does have. \n\nAnyway she called me and I agreed to take him but put my foot down about this last second bullshit and now my phone has been blowing up non-stop with my family and some of her shitty friends telling me to stop being so selfish and that I need to be supportive of her and what if she loses her job because she can't get a babysitter and blah blah blah. \n\nSo Reddit, AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qATSVbzE6FXl9yhu3nDNsgvyPjcr32Ua", "post_id": "9xr7yc", "action": {"description": "objecting to this weird meeting format we have at work", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for objecting to this weird meeting format we have at work?", "text": "So our work is quite busy at the moment and one aspect of it has been neglected a bit by the team. Let's say it's \"updating the wiki\".\n\nSo my team has this kind of meeting.\n\nI call it a meeting, but it's really more like some kind of ceremony. It goes like this.\n\nThe manager calls us all into a room and tells us we need to update the Wiki. She doesn't say \"why aren't you updating the Wiki?\" or \"is there anything preventing you updating the Wiki?\" or \"how can we make sure the Wiki is updated?\" etc.\n\nShe just gives a short speech about how important it is, then goes around the room, one by one, and formally asks us: \"Person A, do you agree to update the Wiki?\" and Person A has to say \"Yes\".\n\nOne by one, all eight of us get asked this question, and we all have to say \"yes\". Nobody's allowed to talk about the workload, make suggestions, ask questions, set priorities etc. She gets upset if you do. You just have to say \"Yes\".\n\nI think this is weird and humiliating for adults to have to do publicly do this. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "toEHFMeI5poLXj7bItwX7ddy39KN23bI", "post_id": "arjoj2", "action": null, "title": "AITA friend keeps calling me gay", "text": "All right, before I start this I want to say that I am not homophobic or anything like that and that english is not my first language so excuse me if I write anything wrong. \n\nSo in school I am often targeted by my circle of friends always calling me a lesbian and often dismiss it as \"a joke\". This happens everytime I try to hug anyone or show any affection towards a person of my same gender, which annoys me a lot. \nOne of my friends in particular is very into it since she is gay herself. She(who I am going to refer to as Sarah) calls me gay almost everyday despite me telling her that I am not and there will be nothing that will make me change. In addition, she likes to \"ship\" me with one of my best friends- which I am gonna refer to as Emily. \nThis has made me afraid to make new friendships because Sarah is always there to say \"you guys should totally smooch\" etc. \nHowever I have recently made a new friend (which I am going to refer to as Carol). \nShe is a very nice person  and I often liked to spend time with her to get away from my circle of friends. But Sarah found out about my friendship with Carol and kept targeting me AND her calling her my girlfriend which broke my heart because I didn't want her too to get involved with this. A coupple of days later Carol understandably stopped hanging out with me. \nLast week I decided this was enough and I would go to Sarah and tell her what trouble she is causing me. \n\n So I went to the place where we all usually hang out and I start talking to Emily. Just as we sit to talk, the parassite crawls up to us and says, loud and clear, \"Omg you guys should definitely be together! You would be the best gay coupple in the school\". \nI was petrified. I could see my friend slowly going red so I quickly get up and in a firm tone I say\n\"I don't like what you just said. I have told you countless times I am not gay, I am straight, and you coming up and saying what you just said annoys me and, frankly, you need to stop because  you cannot tell me what I or who I can like just because you like it. It wasn't funny the first time and It's never going to be funny.\" \nAt this point she started running away for some reason which I found quite disrespectful. \nI turned around and I saw everyone staring at me as if I had attacked her and was in the wrong. I really did not care about them looking at me that way and started heading to my classroom since the bell had gone. \n\nWas I in the wrong?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Kw4NfN9U94YCqlnaaapvH6Msu7arTDXM", "post_id": "9yxpay", "action": {"description": "getting in Heated Argument with elderly parents", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA: Getting in Heated Argument with Elderly Parents", "text": "Ok here\u2019s the situation. I\u2019m a 27 (M) married and have a good job in a cubicle. Completely self sustainable, and absolutely not a \u2018fuck up\u2019 by most standards. My parents are in their upper-mid 60\u2019s and both retired. \n\nEvery week, I go over to see them at least once. Being so much older the me, my parents kind of always treat me like I\u2019m still a boy when it\u2019s me and them one-on-one, this frustrates the crap out of me. If my dad feels like giving me unsolicited advice, he does so by getting extremely serious and and lecturing me like Clint Eastwood  in Grab Torino or some shit. Like I said, fucking annoying. \n\nI\u2019ve called him out on this kind of tone/behavior before and it always results in terrible arguments where I\u2019m wrong in every way imaginable. This situation will be no different...\n\nFlashback to last Sunday night. My wife and I go over to my parents house for a thanksgiving dinner since we will be out of town visiting her parents on the actual day. We have a fine time, eating, drinking, and being as merry. We say our goodbyes and go on our way. \n\nFlashforward to the present. I\u2019m coming down with a cold and on my way home from work decide to stop by and say hi. Haven\u2019t spoken or heard from them since the other night. No big deal. I show up, dads watching tv, moms in the kitchen, and we start shouting the shit..\u2019how\u2019s work\u2019, \u2018what\u2019s new\u2019, all that jazz. I mention i haven\u2019t been feeling well, my mom comes in, we all talk for a minute, then I get up to use the restroom...\n\nWhen I get back in the room and take a seat, dad pulls out the remote, turns the volume wayyy down and gets this super serious look on his face. Dad:\u201cYou know we love you son.. We need to talk...\u201d\n\nMe: *Oh Fuck* *Minds racing* *Feels like I\u2019m in high school again. What could this be? I haven\u2019t done anything! I\u2019m an adult FFS!*\n\nTurns out, that the other night I was eating like a total slob. This is unacceptable behavior. Dad proceeds to lecture how embarrassing it would be for others and my career if I continued along this path of mannerless mayhem. He is VERY serious, and pissed. Towards the end of his rant he realizes I\u2019m not taking this seriously which he calls out immediately.\n\nWe go back in forth about how I think this is basically the stupidest argument they have ever started and I kind of go overboard and blow up about how they are always stressing me out by treating my like a child. This leads to more back and forth arguing and circles back to reference lots of arguments we have had over the last couple years. We are very heated. \n\nAfter about 30m of this I tell them that we are not going to resolve this and they agree. I tell them I love them, they say the same but dad adds that he is disappointed as I\u2019m about to leave. I tell him that I am disappointed too.\n\nOuch.\n\nTLDR:\n\nDad is an authoritarian style lecturer and called me out randomly for having poor table manners. I didn\u2019t  appreciate this attitude and got into a heated argument. It was not resolved. We are both still pissed. I could have just kept my mouth shut but had had enough of being talked down to.\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Q9EB0qt7vntldpKYmU991NqX76D8qT2D", "post_id": "b0bvb8", "action": {"description": "initiating a conflict on the back of a school bus in freshmen year", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for initiating a conflict on the back of a school bus in freshmen year?", "text": "For some background- this kid, about a year older than me back in freshmen year, fucked with me for the entirety of the first semester without EVER stopping. \n\nJust about every day he\u2019d make some snide fucking remarks, always giving me that look like I was literally a cockroach in the dirt, a piece of dog shit scraped onto his shoe. I get it- you bully freshmen in highschool, it\u2019s what you do. \n\nBut I was sick of it.\n\nSo one day, I grabbed his wrist, and I told him to quit it. We locked eyes for about twenty seconds, him calmly saying \u201c\u2026let go. Hey, let go.\u201d \n\nThan he slammed the side of my head into the seat, and punched me on the other side. \n\nI stumbled back into my seat. Tried playing it off, him keeping up that look, acting like he\u2019s got this foot long motherfucking dick and he just slapped it across my face. A wannabe Alpha who picked on the literal bottom of the social hierarchy to prove how fucking macho he is. \n\nBut I had a case in my hand, big one to. I was about to shove it straight into his chest before I arrived at my stop. \n\nLooking back, it would\u2019ve been great. To wipe that look off his face, chip a tooth maybe. Fuck him up to the point where people were talking about how he got his ass beat by a freshmen.\n\nI struggled to walk home. I sat in front of my desk, and played a game on my desktop for about thirty minutes. \n\nWhen I tried to stand my leg buckled. \n\nTurns out that motherfucker gave me a concussion, which I had to go to the emergency room to take care of. My mom was pissed that I didn\u2019t tell her anything about it until 10:30 that night, and holds it over my head till this day. \n\nThe school gave us both a Friday detention, since I initiated it. We had to ride on the same bus and still do even today- but we don\u2019t talk, sit in different sections. \n\nI can still hear him talking about it with his friends on occasion. I\u2019ve been going to weightroom though, and while starting this shit up again would probably ruin my record, snapping one of his arms would bring me so much satisfaction. \n\nIs it wrong that I want revenge so badly? I don\u2019t obsess over this- but when it\u2019s brought up, I get mad. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JRfEwdB9DtiSr2ubnOghZCjHpb0LUS7A", "post_id": "b0qa1q", "action": {"description": "not allowing my best friend to crash at my house after his wife died", "pronormative_score": 32, "contranormative_score": 983}, "title": "AITA for not allowing my best friend to crash at my house after his wife died?", "text": " My best friend Jake's wife died about a month ago in a car crash and he's handling it terribly. He's a complete mess and while we all try to be there for him, he's become very depressed and spends his time either drinking or sleeping. They had a little girl who's 3 years old and while he's not neglecting her I can tell he's barely holding himself together as it is.\n\n\n A few days ago, Jake told me he can't stand being in his house anymore because it makes him remember his wife but that he'd force himself to take a few sleeping pills to sleep. Cut to yesterday at 1 AM, my wife and I were waken up by someone banging at our door. I open to see Jake and his daughter at my door and he asks if he can sleep here for the night because he can't handle being in his house anymore. I tell him she can stay but he can't because he has to get over it eventually. He gives me the dirtiest glare I've ever seen and leaves without saying anything. \n\n\n Today I found out that Jake went back to his house, put his daughter to sleep, then went and slept on the streets. When my wife found out she called me a massive\nasshole but I don't think I was. My intention wasn't to kick him out to the streets, it was to help him get over his wife's death. AITA? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 977, "OTHER": 28, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 4}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 32, "WRONG": 983}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "2fsrZS16aR7pPevwGOq9O6QdQWC6zCoM", "post_id": "9wkuqx", "action": {"description": "not wanting to invite my brother-in-law to our wedding", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to invite my brother-in-law to our wedding?", "text": "  \n\nA couple of years ago I would have called my fianc\u00e9\u2019s brother my best friend.  I met James after I had been dating my gf for a few months. He transferred to our college and needed a place to stay, so me and my roommate let him crash on our couch until he got a place. It was a fun time\u2014we got along well, I ended up getting him a job where I worked, and when he moved out we continued to hang out a lot.\n\nAfter my current lease expired, my girlfriend, James, and myself got a place together near campus. Somewhere along the way, James became my best friend. We hung out all the time and had serious conversations about life, politics, religion, etc.  I had never had a friend before (besides my brother) who made me think or pushed me like that, and I thought I did the same for him.  We also joked around a lot and made tons of jokes. We could loosen up and make the sorts of jokes that really are only funny to family. We watched shitty shows together and played video games. The point is that we got along really well for a couple of years.\n\nMy girlfriend and I graduated college and moved to a different city a few hours away so I could start a grad program. Around this time, I decided to propose to my girlfriend and I heavily involved James in the entire process. He was all for it.  At some point, he told his friends (jokingly) that he was jealous of his sister. I told him that he was really important to me and that he would be the second guy in line behind me at the wedding after my brother.\n\nAfter my fianc\u00e9 and I moved to the new city, our life became pretty hectic.  I had to spend a lot of time on my classes and she was working terrible hours at her job. During this time, I routinely played video games with him online (typically the best part of my day). One day while playing, we were having a political discussion\u2014these had become pretty popular with Trump being elected\u2014and he said something that I knew to be false. I interrupted him saying \u201cNo, no, no, actually\u2026\u201d then corrected him. I can get fairly antimated when I discuss politics, although I never intend to be me mean. In this case, my mind was preoccupied with the video game so it probably came out harsher than I realized. I did not know this for quite a while, but apparently this exchange upset him pretty badly.\n\nFor the next couple of months, he never initiated text conversations with me, and did not respond well when I would. I asked to talk about what was going on, telling him that his friendship was important to me and I wanted to understand what was happening. He responded a couple days later agreeing to talk the next time we saw each other. \n\nThe next time we saw each other was when I was on Christmas break. We were over at their family friend\u2019s for Christmas. I was trying to set up a fun activity for me and some of our college friends to do over the break, and I texted James while the older people at the house were talking and the younger people were all pretty much on their phones. I watched him basically screen my texts and not respond until I told him \u201ccheck your phone\u201d in my most non-confrontational tone. He agreed to go and our group had fun.  I ended up paying for him to go (he didn\u2019t offer to pay me back and didn\u2019t say thank you) but it was fun. \n\nAfterward, I wanted to drink like old times. Everyone else (6 of us) were down but James did not want to. We still had not talked but I thought if we were a little bit looser it would be easier to broach an uncomfortable subject. I am terrible with uncomfortable conversations but last time that he was mad at me we made up after a couple of drinks. But he refused.\n\nMy fianc\u00e9\u2019s cousin was getting married and me and her entire family went on a road trip to go to the wedding. Before we left, they decided to open up Christmas presents. I did not know we were doing this then and did not bring my presents for anyone. He had gotten me a nice, thoughtful present, and when I opened it, I gave a fairly muted reaction because:\n\n1. I did not have my present for him\n\n2. I was wondering why he was giving me a present at all when it was so uncomfortable between us, and\n\n3. I have always hated presents. I know that they are very meaningful for other people, but I typically been of the opinion that if I wanted something I would just go get it.\n\nAnyway, I did say thank you, and did not realize that I gave a bad response at the time.\n\nWe left right after, taking his car for the road trip. He spent a lot of the trip doing or saying passive aggressive things to me. He would do little things like lock me in the car at gas stations, or say \u201cno shit\u201d to me when I was trying to make conversation. At one point, I was joking around with their mom, who I have always had a great relationship with. He accused me of being disrespectful, which caught everyone off guard. \n\nLater that night, we were staying at a relative\u2019s house, and my fianc\u00e9 and her mother were talking about a personal issue that really upset her. James walks in, hears 10 seconds of their conversation, and then tells my fianc\u00e9 that it\u2019s not a big deal and to get over it. At this point I had enough and I told him that he was being a dick.  This really upset him and he told me that I was extremely arrogant \u201cI take too many liberties with his family\u201d and that \u201ceven though I am marrying his sister I am not part of the family.\u201d  In retrospect, I appreciate the irony of being called arrogant by someone that heard a tiny bit of a conversation then had to interject his opinion, but in the moment I was pretty upset and told him once again that he was being a dick. This was probably as dramatic as it gets in this family.\n\nAfter it cooled down, I tried to talk to him, but he refused. We made the trip back home in the most uncomfortable ride of my life. I was filled with anxiety. The whole time, I was expecting him to want to talk about it but he never did. I gave him a couple months after that to reach out to me, and when he didn\u2019t I texted him. No response. We saw him again one time later and he basically side-eyed me the whole time. My fianc\u00e9 had a long, unpleasant conversation with him that night where he basically said that he knew he was right about me and that I would never change.  After that, I tried texting him, calling him, etc. I just asked to talk. I told him that his friendship was important to me. I apologized for my actions. I couldn\u2019t believe that he at some point decided I was horrible and rather than talking to me about the problems, decided to basically ruin his relationship with both me and his sister. I lost sleep over this for months, and I still think about it often. No one in his family is impressed with him.\n\nSo yeah, after all of this, I definitely don\u2019t want him to be a part of the wedding but I also don\u2019t think he should even be there. Of course, if he ever talked to me or answered any of my calls, I would feel differently, but it feels like he has built up a huge wall between us. My fianc\u00e9 still wants him there but I know that if I see him on my wedding day it will make me have some combination of strong, negative emotions. I know that we will probably end up inviting him but AITA for really not wanting to? \n\nTl;dr: future brother-in-law were really good friends but had a falling out that I don\u2019t totally understand. He has refused to talk to me for almost a year and has been a jerk to both me and my fianc\u00e9 (his sister). AITA for not wanting him at the wedding?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PeB7pcMZ4D30O2suxXmiEl6zKw9vwjpP", "post_id": "av2uu9", "action": {"description": "wanting a middle aged man to clean up after himself", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting a middle aged man to clean up after himself?", "text": "I had to move into short term shared accommodation for university. The only other person here is a middle aged man who has said he has kids my age. \nThe bathroom is always covered in his hair - I know it\u2019s not mine, it\u2019s not long enough. \nUnder the toilet seat - which he always leaves up so I have to touch it every time I go to the toilet cos I\u2019m a girl. \nShower floor - does he shave IN the shower??\nAll around the sink\nWindowsill???? Do you flick your razor towards the window??\nFloor - I\u2019m too scared to look closely\nAITA and should I just clean the bathroom myself or should I confront him about it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "93FqIkuw4UzNnn920M7DcNITapcco5ys", "post_id": "b010ps", "action": {"description": "hitting the ceiling every night because my neighbors are so loud", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for hitting the ceiling every night because my neighbors are so loud", "text": "Okay hi, first time poster here but long time lurker. Also sorry in advance for the format I\u2019m on mobile. TLDR at the bottom. \n\nSo let\u2019s start the situation. I (19F) have been living in an apartment complex with my two other roommates for almost 6 months now. Everything is not bad except the upstairs neighbors. We live on the ground floor which is nice but the upstairs neighbors and RELENTLESS! They have three kids and two parents which itself isn\u2019t bad but their kids are always running, jumping, hitting the floor so they make my roommates dogs bark. \n\nAt first I was very civil. I went upstairs and explained I was trying to sleep and they were being very loud. The mother said, and I quote \u201cYeah sorry our young kid is autistic and I\u2019m autistic so we can\u2019t really do much.\u201d I\u2019m not joking. I then told her that she should get skills to deal with that because it\u2019s unfair to blame your kids and your disease because you can\u2019t stop stomping around at 12 am. \n\nEven after that, I continued to go upstairs and tell them they were being loud nearly every night. They always said the same thing. \u201cOh sorry our autistic child isn\u2019t going to sleep.\u201d And I didn\u2019t say anything mean but I just said, \u201cThat\u2019s okay but it\u2019s late and my roommates and I need to sleep because we have work tomorrow.\u201d The mother said they would try and put him down. I said okay and went back downstairs. Their noise continued until 3 am. \n\nFast forward to like a few months from then and I\u2019ve grown very tired of going upstairs so I\u2019ve gone to the office and they said I can email this one assistant and the office and document my noise complaints. Now I\u2019ve been doing that for about two or three months. Nothing has changed. So I\u2019ve gone to just hitting the ceiling really hard to tell them to be quiet because I\u2019m completely over their kids running around at 3 am because I\u2019m directly under the autistic kid\u2019s room. \n\nSo reddit, am I the asshole for hitting the ceiling every night to try to quiet my neighbors?\n\nTLDR; My neighbors are always loud at odd hours and after trying to be civil for months they won\u2019t let up so I\u2019m hitting my ceiling every night. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sphmvjhNZ3BWazR794cCCgJ0DPi2p9Ma", "post_id": "b6liqu", "action": {"description": "telling my friend she's making a big mistake in her new relationship", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA if I tell my friend she's making a big mistake in her new relationship?", "text": "First of all, English is not my first language. Apologies if there are any mistakes. \n\nI have a friend, 'Jane', who is in her late 20s. Jane is a wonderful and kind person. She has an amazing job and she said that she's 90% sure she doesn't want children (both things relevant to the story).\n\nShe met 'Tom' about 2 months ago. Tom is in his mid 30s, has a good job and two girls (twins, 8) with his ex. He has custody.\n\nJane and Tom met on Tinder. He immediately said he wanted nothing serious. She agreed. They went on a date.\n\nAfter a week of dating/texting each other Tom changed his mind and declared his love. Jane said it was too soon for her to know if it was love, but she was willing to continue seeing him. He pleaded her to meet his kids and parents. She said it was too early for her liking, but he insisted saying that 'the girls would really like to know my new girlfriend!'. So she met them. \n\nHis parents apparently really liked her, saying things like 'we didn't like his ex, she trapped him in a marriage by becoming pregnant on purpose, but you won't do it bc you have your life in order and a good job!' (thankfully not in front of the girls!!).\n\nJane asked Tom later what they were talking about. Tom said that it was all true, that the ex got pregnant on purpose because she didn't want to work, and then she cheated so he left her.\n\nIn two months she has been at his house practically everyday. They usually do family stuff with the kids (like family restaurants, kids movies ecc.). I know because they post everything on fb. Jane said she has to because Tom says the kids want to see her every day. The couple of days the girls were at their mom's she met all his friends (the mom sees them rarely).\n\nI asked if she sees this relationship as long term, and she said she doesn't know.\n\nNow there are a couple of (what I believe are) red flags. First the jumping in the role of a surrogate parent so early in the relationship. I think kids need stability in life. Is meeting his girlfriend so early and treating her as a parent healthy? What if they'll break up in two months? A year? Will the new girlfriend be their new mom? I don't really know bc I don't have children and bc I didn't have a let's say normal childhood.\n\nAlso is it really wise to go so fast in a relationship where your boyfriend and his parents are ready to shit on the children's mother to the first person they met? I mean maybe she is a monster I don't know but they had known Jane only for 10 days at that point! That's too much drama if you ask me.\n\nSo would I be an asshole if I say I think she's making a big mistake, that could hurt her and two innocent children? Or am I too judgmental?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nrsaW8aHKGqzrmI8xYiHmy6Its95Rwmg", "post_id": "azx2kd", "action": {"description": "estranging my older brother", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for estranging my older brother?", "text": " \n\nLet me premise this by saying that I do not think IATA, but from time to time I still think about if I may be the asshole here.\n\nMy family never grew up religious, I can count on one hand the amount of times I have been to church/synagogue etc. My parents never really talked on the topic growing up so we were left to our own devices. I became agnostic as I believed there was no sure way to tell if a god existed or not, but I didn't put a lot of thought into it. Fast forward to my older brother leaving for 1st year college -- he was late on his residence application so he had to find an apartment to rent instead. He lived alone, and being a pretty big introvert himself, it's safe to say he did not make many friends if any. Depression set in due to this isolation, although he was very good at hiding it from our family.\n\nSomewhere in his first year at college, he met this girl and they clicked. Both philosophy majors and smart in their own ways they started to see each other often. I feel that my older brother got attached romantically although this was never her intention. Her intention was to recruit my older brother for their Catholic Organization at the church. At first, she just invited him to come to church on Sundays, see what it was about and make a decision for himself. He got accustomed to this ritual and started going regularly. Before our family knew it, he was canvassing door to door, babysitting for free at the church for Sunday school, and had joined and bought into this cult-like organization.\n\nMy family did not find out about this, or the organization, until the next year. My older brother was in way too deep by this point and there was no sense in trying to talk him out of it. He felt as though there was a void in his life and that finding Jesus helped him. My parents did some more research into the church and the specific organization and found some disturbing information. They have their recruiters, such as this girl , target people at risk such as my brother; people who are lost. The other thing is that they support conversion therapy for homosexuals.\n\nMy parents tried and tried to get him to realize what he is involved in. He did a good job of just staying under the radar and finishing his degree. Well that all changed when my younger brother came out as gay, and not long after my older brother announced (regrettably at the birthday dinner of my Mother) that he was going to start the process into being a priest through this church and organization. My mother cried, father extremely upset, and me and my younger brother just felt confused.\n\nMy family has barred him from coming to the house and holiday get togethers. I tried to stay in contact occasionally with him, birthday meetups, texts at Thanksgiving etc. Then I started to see the situation from my younger brother and my parents POV. I haven't spoken to him in a little over two years. AITA for not trying harder to keep this relationship going?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "boETgFsNkdxwA5GNiv2rFcB26p0aswN4", "post_id": "9wz2x5", "action": {"description": "egarding sexual assault/consent", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA egarding sexual assault/consent?", "text": "I (31m) just got into a discussion with a friend (25f) about drunk sex, after she told me she had sex with a guy while both were under the influence, and that the guy remembers none of it.  My view is consumption of alcohol renders someone of any gender unable to consent, as when i made this known, she flipped out and said it wasn't,since she never used force and was drunk too.  Should i apologize, or are her views of consent skewed?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9R4dxirP7qQtGBTJQWXW6XSKXbHKHROB", "post_id": "b2yfk1", "action": {"description": "not paying my friend for not giving me something on time", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not paying my friend for not giving me something on time", "text": "This is only a small thing but we cannot decide who should pay. \n\nBasically today in our tutor lesson we made pizzas and we each had to bring in a different item. My friend (K) was going to the shops to buy his item and I asked him to buy mine aswell and I would pay him back.\n\nHe then forgot to bring it in and went to his house at lunch, and he didn't get back into school until after we had all finished cooking and eating. He then gave me the chicken and now expects me to pay for it (even though it was at least half an hour after we had finished cooking) \n\nAm I the asshole for refusing to pay him because he didn't get me the food at the right time. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9pUUBTKne2Ty6PBvAAodpYbZYxPVgdZw", "post_id": "b4y641", "action": {"description": "exposing a cheater, if it meant outing him in the process", "pronormative_score": 48, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "WIBTA for exposing a cheater, if it meant outing him in the process?", "text": "So I heard about this sub through a friend and figured y'all could maybe help me out in this situation because I'm having a real moral dilemma here and I don't know what to do. \n\nBasically it goes like this: a month ago, my best friend's sister got married. I've been friends with this kid for over 15 years and his family basically consider me one of their own so naturally, I attended the service. At the after party I ended up taking a shit ton of shots with one of the ushers, one thing led to another and we ended up sleeping together (I'm 20M he's 23M for context). He asked me the next day not to tell anyone about it, getting pretty upset and telling me that he is gay but still in the closet and not ready to come out yet. I told him sure, no problem because I get that not everyone comes out at their own pace and outing someone is about one of the scummiest things a person can do. We became pretty good friends and have hooked up five more times after the wedding. \n\nAll of this would have been well and good if I didn't find out a week ago that this man is married to a woman, with whom he has two children. The wife was out of the country for work at the wedding and as the kids are both under 4 he opted not to bring them and they were with his parents. If I'd know any of this about him obviously I wouldn't have slept with him at all, let alone as many times as I did. I feel really gross and sickened by myself because I've been cheated on before and I know how horrific it is. I confronted him about it and he broke down crying saying he wants to leave her but feels like he can't because of the kids etc. \n\nI'm just at a loss on what to do. On the one hand, I don't want to out this guy. I did some casual asking around about him with my friend's family and apparently his parents are not the type who'd respond well to finding out their only son is gay. I've come to care for him quite a lot and I really don't want to cause any kind of familial tension for him. But on the other hand, I know his wife has a right to know that he's cheated on her (I suspect that I'm not the only one as he has a Grindr account) and feel obligated to tell her. WIBTA if I let her know, even though it means essentially outing him in the process? Is there a way I can do it without outing him? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 48, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 48, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Gm7pGhfZUmjMnramH33GQCKTzvexnHRr", "post_id": "b3h3lo", "action": {"description": "buying a girl I am friends with a pack of Jaffa cakes", "pronormative_score": 40, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for buying a girl I am friends with a pack of Jaffa cakes?", "text": "So, I'm currently in an argument with my girlfriend because I bought a friend of mine, Jaffa Cakes. My friend asked me to get them, as I was going to England (we live somewhere you can't get them), and I did. It was 1.50 \u20ac. \n\nApparently, this is a terrible thing to have done. My girlfriend is very annoyed at me. Her reasoning is that:\n- I didn't buy anything for her (she gets angry if I even bring up the topic of buying her something)\n- I used to have feelings for this girl (3+ years ago, things ended and those feelings are long gone)\n- I shouldn't be doing stuff for other girls at all\n\nI bought it because it took me no effort, I was asked, and she has been a good friend to me. The feelings are gone, I would definitely have bought something for my girlfriend if she wouldn't flip out, and I feel like her view of guys and girls being friends is outdated. She gets uncomfortable when I hug girl friends of mine.\n\nSo, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 39, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 40, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ASswdPL4VfBOlDo7ViLjBlPYk5CJ9Qsp", "post_id": "a1wptt", "action": {"description": "breaking off my long distances relationship", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For breaking off my long distances relationship?", "text": "just a little backstory first: My girlfriend and I had been dating for a year of which the last 5 months were in different cities as she graduated and got a job elsewhere, same country though. We would talk often at any given time and go out regularly \n\nLong distance had a very steep learning which we felt we would both over come. However that didn't end up being the case eventually. She had really long working hours (60+ hour work weeks) and wouldn't be able to talk or reply whilst at work. Meanwhile,  she also couldn't text me from home as she got to spend very little time with her family (she lives with them, not uncommon in over here) due to the long work hours. The only time we had left for talking was while she was on her way back from work or just before sleeping. On her way back she would usually be understandly be tired but the conversation would be heavily one sided with her just saying yes or no. At nights we'd just fall asleep. So these restrictions and limited conversations started making me feel uncomfortable and I finally reached my breaking point. \n\nWe fought, I ended up getting pretty angry and expressed my concerns. She believes everything was fine and I am walking away and/or giving up on us. I said that it's over and feel bad about it. She seems to think there was no such issue and I'm being cowardly and/or an ass.\n\nAITA For breaking up?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eU0slx5r7fUIkCoBnyoeThg2kOeTed7T", "post_id": "am7p1b", "action": {"description": "thinking my \"best-friend\" is actually a fake friend", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for thinking my \"best-friend\" is actually a fake friend? (LONG)", "text": "I'm in my 4th year of University, and i've been living with the same 2 guys since first day of residence. Ill refer to the first guy as Rob, and the other as Marcus (neither of which are their actual names). Since 1st year Marcus has had a girlfriend that he spends majority of his time with, which is not my problem, it's how he has always been, and I understand it.\n\nMy problem is with who I really thought my best-friend was, and that was Rob. Since 1st year all the way up until the ending of 3rd year, I had no doubt that me and Rob were best-friends and that both of us had felt this way. We had been through a lot together, whether it be having each other's backs at parties when people started fights, countless talks on life and our career's whether it be drunk, high, or sober. We had both seen each other go through break-ups, and I feel like we both did what best-friends do when someone is in need of support. This started to change at the end of 3rd year, and it's been a struggle ever since.\n\nNow i know the first response is \"people grow apart\" or \"your just not his best-friend anymore\" and i get that. I've gone through that experience and understand that although its shitty, it's what happens with friendships sometimes. But this is different.\n\nI'm someone who deals with anxiety, but it's a functional anxiety. I go through most of my day without people knowing i'd ever have an anxiety problem, as i'm sure is the case with many others. While Rob is an extremely confident person, he is also aware that i deal with anxiety and has been helpful in the past at talking me down when i'm nervous about something. Since Marcus is always busy with his girlfriend, Me and Rob have always talked about how we are much closer with each other then we are with Marcus, even though we all live together. Since i deal with anxiety, i struggle making new friends, so knowing Rob was my best-friend was always very comforting for me and knowing he felt the same way.\n\nThis year has been different, and is starting to seem like Rob is more of a fake friend, then a best friend. After living with someone for 4 years (breaks during summer etc) there is obviously going to be arguments, and i expect that. But this year every time me and Rob argue, he goes and play's best-friend with Marcus. This is frustrating for me because Rob talks a lot of shit behind Marcus's back, whether it be about his girlfriend, intelligence, fashion style etc.. and then all of a sudden he goes and is buddy-buddy with Marcus after Rob disagrees with me on something. He knows i deal with anxiety and wouldn't want to expose him to Marcus for what he says, cause then the entire house would be so awkward and impossible to deal with in our last year. I hate making a big deal about things, but I also hate people being fake.\n\n​\n\nFor a while i'd put up with this, Rob would eventually get tired of Marcus (he is kinda boring lol) and would then come play best-friends with me again. Although it was a clear cycle of Rob using whoever is most beneficial to him, i put up with it for a few months knowing its my last year and it'll be over soon, and when he would pretend to be my best-friend again, it wasn't so bad. But its getting to a breaking point now. Him being fake friends with Marcus to try and annoy me when we got in fights was petty, but tolerable to an extent. It is now getting intolerable.\n\nWhenever Rob wants to do something; go to a party, a bar, watch a certain UFC fight, etc. It is always a huge deal, and he expects me to go with him or else i'll be guilt tripped into it and i usually end up going anyway. I know he enjoys these things, and if he went alone then it wouldn't be as fun. So thinking as a best-friend, i go with him. Even if im not feeling like going out (which is a big deal for some people with anxiety). But whenever something is important to me, Rob always says he is down, we make plans for the weekend, and then everytime by Friday, he says he is going home for the weekend instead, to usually party with friends from his hometown. If i was to ever bail on him like that, he would chew me out, and then go play best-friends with Marcus to annoy me. But when he does it, since he is so confident, he just talks like it's no big deal and gives excuse after excuse and then pretends like nothing happened. This has resulted in countless nights of me watching Football games, Hockey games, or attempting to go to parties alone. And being alone sucks. And being alone with anxiety isn't any better.\n\nI understand Rob has other friends, and him hanging out with his friends from his hometown has been common since 1st year so its nothing new. But this year, whenever I want to do something (i.e. go to a party of someone i know), he gets me all hyped up to go, and says how down he is, and then bails last second. Sometimes even denying saying he was down in the first place. And then he goes home on the weekend, and comes back like nothing happened, and pretends to be friends again. This is because there happens to be a party HE wants to go to this week, and wants me to go with him since Marcus always goes home to visit his girlfriend on the weekend and is never around for parties. If i even talk about going home on the weekend, he gets all defensive and mad that he doesn't want to go alone and if im his \"boy\" then I should come. I try and explain to him that he has left me to go alone several times and even though it sucks, i've had to do it. But he doesn't understand. He only ever understand's something if it has happened to him, or relates to him.\n\nThis usually causes a fight, and you guessed it, he plays best-friends with Marcus, and i'm left alone in my room with anxiety. I can't take it anymore. Its a house full of fake friends pretending to get along, while in reality Rob just talks shit about Marcus and then uses him when its beneficial to him. I cant take the fakeness anymore. It's so blatant, but its my last semester of school, I have 3 months left and ill be moving out. I dont want to ruin any friendships before I move out, as i have trouble making friends and I dont want to lose the ones i have now. Even if they aren't the best, it's pretty much all i got.\n\n​\n\nSorry for the long read. It's half me venting and half me asking for advice on who is in the wrong. Maybe my anxiety is too much for him sometimes and i expect too much but i dont know. If you have any advice or thoughts, it would be appreciated.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SWiwxUfo9kLApYhUsPvjuH7MQ2IjLtVS", "post_id": "agd3xg", "action": {"description": "not being excited about a vacation with my parents and our 2 small children to Great Wolf Lodge", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for not being excited about a vacation with my parents and our 2 small children to Great Wolf Lodge?", "text": "My parents surprised us this Christmas with a vacation at GWL. The date was selected and assumed it would work for our schedule. The amount of effort to hire someone to watch our animals while we're gone, take time out of our schedule, and parent outside of our home does not seem like a vacation whatsoever. It would cost us a lot to eat out each meal for 2 days and would be completely draining trying to get a 3 and 2 year old to sleep in a hotel room with us. I see it as putting in all the work so my parents can take a few pictures and have their memories. The better gift would be THEY take the kids to GWL while Mom and Dad have a weekend off.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tAdDeAaFB5XeSRckY3u3lS89Snwt314V", "post_id": "aa4les", "action": {"description": "defending european settlers", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 19}, "title": "AITA for defending European settlers?", "text": "Talking with a friend who is descended from Indigenous people of Northern Amercia. \nHe has always been pretty vocal about his distaste for the original colonists and so on and we've never had much cause to butt heads.. But he was pretty firm that the settlers were wrong about so much that they did without acknowledging the wisdom of local peoples. I pointed out that Native Amercians got a lot wrong too, like having a dance to create rain. I was more focused on trying to point out that 300 years ago nobody really knew what was going on around us and humans from all cultures were just blundering around trying to make the best of things. \n\nThis was the part where he called me a racist. Pretty out of character for him and I feel like I really hurt him but I'm not sure I'm can honestly admit that a rain dance isnt just another old superstition like blessing a house or people who call psychic hotlines. \n\nI can appreciate that it's a cultural practice and may have significance there but it is empirically ineffective. Which was my point. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 17, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 19}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "BKusmT7ML9lJENqS7TwjnXj07qhE9s4e", "post_id": "a9uckd", "action": {"description": "being upset that my partner doesn't openly share important information about his daughter with me", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being upset that my partner doesn't openly share important information about his daughter with me?", "text": "My partner and I have been together for five and a half years and he has a 10 year old daughter, whom he shares custody with her mother. She is an amazing,  beautiful girl and I love her like my own.\n\nAfter being \"dad's girlfriend\" for a year or two,  we became more like a family unit.  Initially, the arrangement was for me to be a part of everything - picking up from school, being a support, getting her to do homework, light disciplining etc. \n\nSix months ago we realized this arrangement wasn't working,  and we decided that i wouldn't do any disciplining or telling her what she needs to do (like have a shower etc), and that this would be left to dad. Although I initially resisted this,  I've accepted it and saw that it has had the best outcome for her, and us overall.  \n\nAround the same time,  my partner has become more closed with what information he gives me about her, and the arrangements/ \nconversations he has about her with her mother. Her mother is not an amicable person,  and he talks to her about logistics only.  But he's stopped having open communication with me about what's going on with his daughter and the things he decides with his mother. During this change six months ago,  I struggled with not having any decision making influence on anymore, but I've accepted that her dad and mother are the ones to decide what goes on with her.  \n\nHe tells me now that he doesn't need to tell me what he decides with her mum,  and it's at his discretion what he tells me,  and he has zero responsibility to tell me anything.  My stepdaughter was seeing a psychologist recently and they had the follow up appointment with dad and mum a while ago. He said that the psych said some concerning things (which he told me) but didn't go any further to tell me what strategies they put in place, or how the mother took it.  He never wants to talk about it. \n\nThere have been a few times where i would find out about my daughter through his conversations with other people.  Eg we'd be out and he'd mention to someone else what extracurricular activities she's doing next year,  and that would be the first time I've heard of it. That really hurts.  \n\nI've spoken to him about how I feel quite a few times, but he is adamant that he doesn't need to tell me anything he decides with her mother, and I should just support him anyway.  I would feel more connected as a couple if he asks for my opinion about decisions he makes so we can feel more like a team,  but at this point in time,  I just want to get more information.  I feel that as a family unit,  it's assumed that he would be open with me (at least on the important stuff, like the psych appointment) to ensure we're on the page on raising this amazing girl.\n\nAITA for wanting him to be openly communicative about this, and being hurt when he isn't? \n\nTldr; partner has stopped being openly communicative about his daughter, I'm hurt and feel like I should be informed about what goes on.  \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "J2iH2Uk2SfTt1lttroGyo73AszSFuyeq", "post_id": "b5c1dt", "action": {"description": "wanting to remove a birds nest", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting to remove a birds nest?", "text": "There is at least one birds nest in the dead space above the ceiling in the bedroom where my infant son naps during the day. It's spring, so chicks or eggs are likely to be present in the nest(s). Am I the asshole for wanting them evicted? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cz77DIufy7bucDqrWBzeIK5y1530BNpC", "post_id": "ba2c7e", "action": {"description": "not wanting this guy to stay at my apartment", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting this guy to stay at my apartment", "text": "So my (20m) roommate\u2019s friend (21m) is not a good person at all he\u2019s been in constant trouble with the police and he asked to move in with my friend (he didn\u2019t ask me at all)because the police are crawling in his ass. He\u2019s moving permanently from the city he stayed in, but he has no ambition. He does not work and he gets money the illegal way, but since this is unfamiliar territory he really can\u2019t do that. Also, we have a 2 bedroom and he has nowhere to place his stuff and I generally don\u2019t need someone staying with me for an extended period of time knowing they aren\u2019t going to help me in any way with rent, food, etc. Anyways, like I said he has no ambition so it\u2019s basically gonna be like he\u2019s going to stay with us for a good while for free. So onto the good part... I visit my roommates sister to get his new phone and some food she made and then I go back to his house to get my phone charger and then he tells me why he\u2019s moving and I\u2019m just sitting there like why did you agree to this roommate? and then I\u2019m about to leave and he asks, \u201cwhat are we going to do for cash flow\u201d as if I was going to give him money (as I said this dude has no ambition to get a regular job or better himself). Also this guy has no respect for rules and assumes when he gets here he\u2019s going to be able to do whatever he wants. What should I do in this situation and AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8EC6XBjJ7mCeWw91jaYMaNuN5nCoGe1R", "post_id": "aa2z07", "action": null, "title": "AITA for how I reacted to a family conflict", "text": "Okay, so here's some background: I'm a therapist, and my husband's youngest sister is diagnosed with Asperger's. I havve known her for 8 years and I get along well with her. I'm not a specialist in ASD but have had a number of clients on the spectrum over the years as I work with both eating pathology and trauma (both of which have an unfortunate overlap with spectrum disorders). My SIL is 27. \n\nSo my husband's parents have tried a lot of things but they don't understand her illness, and resources in our state are poor. They've tried a group home (she temporarily improved but it got too expensive) and they've tried individual therapy--I even referred them to a practice but that didn't work out because of how hard it was to commute to the office. I think they need an in-home behavior specialist, but I doubt that will happen. But anyway, on to my asshole behavior:\n\nI'm very aware that commenting on a person's diet is often inappropriate, but I also don't believe in enabling. My SIL is both obese from eating a narrow range of unhealthy foods AND she's had 10K worth of dental work done due to her teeth rotting from poor self care and bad diet. I get that her parents are responsible because she isn't her own guardian, but still--she CAN take some responsibility because she's not intellectually disabled, she just has no structure at home. We were visiting with our kids for the holidays. I don't let my toddler son have sweet drinks normally but because it was Christmas I told him he could have one Capri Sun because my MIL bought them for our visit and she offered him one. My SIL got upset because they are normally hers and she said \"I'm switching from soda to those to stop drinking so much soda.\" I pointed out that they had just as much sugar as the soda. She said \"well it's because of the acid, not the sugar.\" And then I said, against my better judgment, \"you know, water is better for you that all of the other options.\" She said \"I'm not worried about my weight\" and I said \"but I know you hate going to the dentist, and water is better for your teeth.\" She became very angry with me, and she complained to her mom that I was talking badly about her. I understand her point of view and I get that change has to come slowly and that she has difficulty changing routine, but I also think gentle confrontation can be helpful to young people on the spectrum when trust has been established. But now I don't know, because when I think back about it I realize that I probably shouldn't have been lecturing her about her diet. So AITA? I think I might be because part of this is motivated by me knowing that we might have to care for her when my in-laws aren't able to, and quite frankly the way she's going I just don't know if I'll be able to. I keep feeling the urge to encourage healthy habits and set limits because I worry about the future. \n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5Y0CRg11wnleXmH4OqwsOfO5bZjBdqij", "post_id": "al315m", "action": {"description": "abandoning my bullied friend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for abandoning my bullied friend?", "text": "When I was in high school, I was pretty lonely and would spend most of the time by myself. I ended up joining a club so that I could meet new people. One of my classmates was also in that club (I\u2019ll call her Roxy for this story). Roxy is a pretty nice and kind person but she is also very gullible and quite a target for bullies. Roxy\u2019s cousin (Betty) also attended the club. Betty is about a year older than us and is known to everyone as a nasty troublemaker and a bully. I was warned by friends to stay away from Betty but she was actually really nice towards me and I haven\u2019t witnessed her being awful to anyone so I chatted to her from time to time. \nSometime after joining the club I found out that Betty was actually being horrible to Roxy but after upsetting her, she would bring up the fact that they\u2019re cousins, make up and then bully Roxy again. I don\u2019t know how long this went on for but it sounded like it\u2019s happened multiple times. \nSince I talked to both Betty and Roxy in the club, I tried to comfort Roxy when I could and talk to Betty about being nicer to her. Of course this didn\u2019t help. When I was hanging out with Betty, I heard her talking about pushing Roxy down the stairs. I told her not to do this but just to be sure, I texted Roxy, told her what I heard and to avoid Betty. \nThe next day, I walk into the club to find Roxy and Betty standing with linked arms. Betty has this smug smile on her face and Roxy tells me that she doesn\u2019t want me to talk badly about Betty because she\u2019s her cousin and to never talk to either of them again. Despite chatting to them, I wouldn\u2019t consider them close friends so I wasn\u2019t that bothered. I left the club and went back to spending breaks by myself in the library. Not even a week later, Roxy comes up to me apologising for everything she said and that I was right all along and that she wants to be friends again. I thought about it for a while and refused. I had my own problems and bullies to deal with and I didn\u2019t want to additionally get involved with the dramas between these two girls. Roxy ended up crying and I never spoke to her again. \nI feel a bit bad from time to time thinking about this because I don\u2019t think Roxy had many friends but at the same time I\u2019m not keen on the idea of getting myself into trouble for the sake of people I barely know. I already faced a lot of harassment in high school and I don\u2019t feel like I needed anymore. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "K25vT4L6rWcQwZ33SAQzomduwJtg5HAC", "post_id": "b8zran", "action": {"description": "being upset with my mom for including 3 other celebrations with my graduation party", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being upset with my mom for including 3 other celebrations with my graduation party?", "text": "I'm graduating highschool at the end of May, and it's been a really rough road for me. I don't want a pity party or be like \"woe is me\", but I've had a difficult high school experience. I have some major medical issues that have caused me to miss a little over a year and 3/4 of high school total due to high amounts of pain. I had a home bound math tutor part of sophomore year and part of junior year, but I taught myself everything else that I missed. Some AP classes included. I'm proud of myself for being able to do this despite being at so many doctor's offices and being in pain most of the time throughout this, and it's a really big deal for me to be graduating on time with the rest of my friends.\n\nAnyway, my mom wants to celebrate my graduation along with my uncle's birthday, my grandpa's birthday, AND father's day all rolled into one. I don't want to be ungrateful, but it really bothers me that so many things will be going on and I feel like no one really cares about me graduating. It's being treated like a thing that comes around once a year when it took so much effort and time to do. Plus, I don't know how my uncle, grandpa, and other dads in our family feel about it being lumped together too. I'd hate to be lumped in no matter what was happening, but I'm especially upset because it's graduation for me.\n\nI told my mom about my concerns, and she said, \"well the weekend in June we're celebrating on is the only free weekend we have, so it makes sense to do it all at once\". I told her \"I get that, but then I can't invite my few friends to the party because we're doing a bunch of family things. And what about grandpa and uncle xyz; they probably won't feel special being lumped together with me. I know I don't being lumped in with them.\" She kinda brushed it off and said we'll just celebrate as a family and to get over it, we're still celebrating.\n\nI feel bad asking for extra work to be put in and another party separate from everything, but I really don't think it's fair to lump my graduation with things that happen every year, especially given how hard it was for me. Am I the asshole for asking to have a separate graduation party?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3NTI0fnWEGwJ5Jh8pCizMCNWszNeBiet", "post_id": "ayfl5f", "action": {"description": "being upset with my best friend and ex for dating almost 6 months before telling me", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being upset with my best friend and ex for dating almost 6 months before telling me?", "text": "First post ever, so please go easy on me. This has been weighing on me and I need to vent. I have this best friend - we will call her F and my ex - let's call him N. I have been close friends with F since my birthday in 2017. We are like twins and we got along great. I love her dearly. At that time, I was in a relationship with N, a man who was all in all just great. \n\nF and I have been through this and thin in the coming years since we met. All until the circumstances that placed her living with N while he and I were still dating. I lived in another city. Distance dulled the relationship. I should have seen it coming, but N broke up with me. I never suspected anything. F was my best friend who I trust dearly. And I still do love and trust my ex. I wasn't bitter towards him, even if I was taken by surprise of the break up. \n\nF and N continued to live together while I lived in another town. Time went on and I had a gut feeling that they were dating. I didn't mind that at all, however it was a hard time for me. I was hoping they would tell me so that I can at least get some closure during hard times of losing my relationship. They never said anything. And the feeling only got worse and sickening. I became depressed.\n\nI didn't want to visit them even if they wanted me to. I would make up excuses to avoid the awkwardness. I had to process the hurt, all while suppressing the temptation to ask F if she was dating my ex. I did visit them a couple of times and I had a blast. We hang out and get along like family. I still love them and they're still my best friends that I hold dear to my heart.\n\nWhich is why it's so painful to finally have a confirmation that they have been dating for almost 6 months and wouldn't tell me out of fear of losing me. I understand that completely. Shoot, posting this is probably proving their point. But that's why I'm doing it, I guess. But it does still hurt. I personally believe I could have moved on and grown much more effectively with knowing from the beginning.\n\nSo I have approached them and told them how I felt. I still love them as friends, but AITA for being so upset over this?\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pMf4OnnqdomntWyDvH4fsDNhRLzY5LBJ", "post_id": "anv30y", "action": {"description": "trying to sell a car to someone else", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For trying to sell a car to someone else?", "text": "So I'm selling my Grandpa's car for him (he stopped driving due to age). I was originally planning on selling it for $1500 (It's a good car, luxury package, but needs about $2500 in work).\n\nBefore I posted it anywhere, an elderly neighbor approached me asking if I was selling it and for how much. (Never met this neighbor before that). But he was really interested in the car, and is desperate for the lumbar support.\n\nThis was late-April 2017.\n\nFor the last 9 months, it's been back and forth with this guy. First, he wanted me to pay for getting it towed/inspected (I said I was selling it as-is). I didn't have time or cash, so I slowly began backing down the price until I was down to $750.\n\nConversation has been slow. While he will talk on the phone, he insists on mailing me letters covering all the same questions/answers again. (Snail mail. So even with decent mail service, it takes 2-3 days).\n\nHe doesn't live far, and while I appreciate wanting stuff written down for reference, I've offered more than once to have my kids come get/drop off letters.\n\nNope. He just wants snail mail.\n\nSo I tried to push closing the deal before Xmas, and he said there was no way for him to make it happen.\n\nFinally, last week I said I was going to start posting on Craigslist because I just want this done. I did, and I got several interested responses, with someone wanting to come look at it this weekend. (At the original prices of $1500)\n\nThe neighbor left me a voicemail yesterday saying that he was sorry that he didn't realize it had been 9 months, and he was making arrangements to get it towed to a shop and to finalize this shit.\n\nI feel bad because he's a nice guy, and has been dealing with a lot of Drs appts and illnesses etc. And I can sympathize with the back problems he struggles with (which is why he wants this car: the power/massaging lumbar support)\n\nAITA for wanting to tell him tough cookies and that I'm going to sell it to someone that's willing to pay full price and not dick around for months to put cash in my hand?\n\n\nTL;DR:\nElderly neighbor wants to buy used car. After 9 months and negotiating the price down by half, he has only started getting plans made to take it after I've started posting on Craigslist. At this point, I've had a lot of interest at full price, and would rather just tell him it's too late, but feel bad because he's a nice old man with health problems.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iMiY6U0AL1BoDD1GInfzhrO0gZjqLeWo", "post_id": "b8pi03", "action": {"description": "wanting my mum to come home", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for wanting my mum to come home", "text": "Writing on phone - I never know why people declare this but thought I should do.\n\nWe recently found out my grandma's (mum's mum) cancer has spread to her stomach from the womb, and she has been given 6 months to live. Immediately after finding out the news, my mum travelled to my grandmas and has been there for the past two weeks. My grandma lives over 4 hours away from home, so as a result I (19 year old girl) have had to take care of my younger brother and cook for the family.\nI completely understand my mum is helping her family, but my grandma already has 8 other children who live near her and I really need my mum to come home.\nI'm currently a university student, and working a part time job whilst completing so many assignments I'm overwhelmed, and I feel like it's unfair that I'm expected to balance this alongside cooking, cleaning, and picking my brother up from school every day. My dad is at home too but he has to work every day and I feel guilty asking him to pick up my brother. \nMy mum called me today and said she's planning on staying another week, I said okay but also make a few comments about how we need her at home. It upset me to hear that my aunties were saying in the background 'what use in an older sister'. But now it's making me feel guilty like I'm at fault and shouldn't expect my mum to come home.\nSo reddit, am I being unfair? Am I the asshole. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 11, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lTbhBRMScdnBvb2CnDZIC0idvvfMfZyl", "post_id": "b6demw", "action": {"description": "telling my girlfriend she can't sleep over anymore", "pronormative_score": 52, "contranormative_score": 41}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my girlfriend she can't sleep over anymore?", "text": "We've been dating for a few years and she sleeps over at my place 4+ nights per week. We work at the same company and live pretty close to each other. We're not in a rush to get married but with how much she is sleeping over at my place, it makes sense to move to a place together. She sleeps over so much because she says she likes spending time with me. \n\nWe've been talking about it and recently she said she decided she doesn't want to move in together any time soon, until we are married, because she says it is trashy and improper and frowned upon (Christian community). I think that's pretty judgemental, and interesting considering how often she sleeps over and how much sex we've been having before marriage. I'm getting tired of these double standards. WIBTA if I told her she can't sleep over any more because that's trashy and improper according to her own criteria? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 22, "OTHER": 36, "EVERYBODY": 19, "NOBODY": 16, "INFO": 7}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 52, "WRONG": 41}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "a0GcqdTT1Jjr7VCZjy81YH9HoHlgeBwD", "post_id": "a7jyad", "action": {"description": "commenting on an abuse victim's way of thinking", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for commenting on an abuse victim's way of thinking", "text": "So a friend of mine, likes to dump her issues on me. I'm fine with that, because I actually enjoy giving advice. We don't see eye to eye however, because I am a half-full type of person who believes in the power of human interaction and trust, and she is more cynical and leans towards safety through trepidation. \n\nUnderstandable.\n\nTo be clear, we are both victims of sexual assault, and both of us have recent encounters with toxic relationships. I got out of my relationship and began working in improvement, and her first toxic relationship was before I met her, but she nearly immediately got into another. This is where the issue starts. She continually unloaded how she was unhappy and did not trust her boyfriend shortly after we met. Being male, I don't like to give advice on this particular subject, because the perception it can cause. I try to take neutral positions but it quickly became apparent that the relationship was toxic, looking strictly from the side I was hearing. Anyway she struggled to leave after finding out he was cheating on her and yesterday let him back into her life.\n\nToday she told me she didn't trust any men except this boyfriend, not even her brothers she trusted \"not to rape, murder, or harm\" her. So I explained that from an outsider perspective that seemed to be a bit much, and I wasn't judging and I don't have her memories or expieriences, but she is making a sweeping generalization based on her abuse with one which can be harmful to others.\n\nI believe in the effect trauma has, but I also find it very pessimistic to see no flaw in thinking that \"all men want to rape me\" because someone posted lewd pictures of you online once.\n\nI did not vocalize that specific line of thinking, as I didn't want to make matters worse but I told her I didn't believe the way she did and she said my opinion does not matter because I've never been a victim. Now depending on how you define assault, it's debatable whether she's a victim of assault or harrassment. I say assault, However having been physically assaulted in my home at 15, for her to make the assumption that I had no clue or validity, upset me and I told her that I had been assaulted. she said this is the reason she doesn't trust men and why she still doesn't trust me. \n\nI feel that I let my emotions get in the way of tact and I came out as a bad person in the situation. At the same time I do believe every person has a right to comment or hold opinion if you present any statement to them.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Kv7OjE7j73FmFPygDfMg4SBrOtYtcETC", "post_id": "aej079", "action": null, "title": "AITA My gf has ulcerative colitis and doesn't want to have a job", "text": "Hi guys\n\n​\n\nThis is my first post on this subreddit. I will post this on 2 subreddits because I think it fits. So here it goes.\n\n​\n\nI've (M20) been with my gf (F21) for almost an year now. We were very happy at the beginning, lots of fun. She was in college taking her degree and we used to talk about when we were both off college, we would have a great life. We would both work and have lots of gamer equipment and so (we're both gamers).\n\n​\n\nAfter 1 ou 2 months into the relationship she got sick with ulcerative colitis. Its a disease that affect your largest intestine and limitates you quite a bit. You will have crisis which will give you lots of pain and need to go to the bathroom, sometimes there will be blood on your feces.\n\n​\n\nSome of the triggers of the crises are stress. And my gf is one of the most stressed persons I've known. \n\n​\n\nAs some of you may know, stress is very, very stressfull. And Due to the stress of college and problem with her colleagues there. She felt that she should drop college and start working right away, she said she didnt like her course so she didn't want to have a degree. I didn't really liked the idea, but OK, she's sick, I might aswell support her (at the start she got mad at me because I wanted her to get a degree, I was latter convinced).\n\n​\n\nAfter dropping college she started working at a caffe at her local supermarket. But know she says the work is too stressfull and she doesn't want to work anymore. She wants to stay at home. And she says she wants that to be her new job. She will cook for me, clean the house and watch the kids. I don't like the idea at all. I know for a fact that she is very lazy, and she'll probably will get tired of doing that. But appart from that I don't want to have a relationship like the ones of the previous century. I want a woman who works, who helps me pay the bills, because I will help her clean the house and cook. And I want a woman who is strong and motivated.\n\n​\n\nThe thing is her disease. Whenever I say to her that she need to find a less stressfull job. She starts saying that if she gets a lot of crisis she will get cancer and die. And I can't do anything. Because if I say to her \"You should work, I don't want to pay the bills all alone\", she gets mad at me.\n\n​\n\nAm I the asshole. Has anyone have some knowledge of this disease which can give me some insight?\n\n​\n\nSorry of this post is too long and sorry about my english \\^\\^\n\n​\n\ntl;dr\n\n​\n\nMy gf has uncerative colitis and doesn't want to work.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hi2MOiaafepacRzUv19Tb6m1TA5A67dX", "post_id": "av95n5", "action": {"description": "wanting my Roommate to hurry in the Bathroom", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA For Wanting My Roommate to Hurry In The Bathroom", "text": "First time poster. So I have to head to my college for a volunteer job. I\u2019m about to take a shower and I need to wash my hair so I was going to be in there longer than usual. I\u2019m about to take it but my roommate comes home and asks to use the bathroom before I take a shower, no problems so far. \n\nThey\u2019re in the bathroom for about 14 min now and I get anxious. They have a history of being in the bathroom up 40 minutes being on their phone.(I know because sometimes I\u2019ve heard them play videos in there and I don\u2019t hear a flush until they\u2019re about to leave)\n\n I need to wash my hair and shower before I go, so I send them a text saying quote \u201cI have things I need to do today\u201d. Tbh I could of probably phrased that better.  They reply saying \u201calright I have things to do every day\u201d. I say \u201cOk but how much longer\u201d then they message me saying \u201cYou would of spent however long in the bathroom and I would of been f**cked so what does it matter.\u201d  They leave the bathroom a minute latter I take my shower and now it\u2019s awkward in the house and we haven\u2019t spoken all day. If ITA I\u2019ll just apologize and wait for this to blow over. If not I\u2019m not sure tbh what I\u2019ll do", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ulfeMTAJ85WmgYdmCRaD819LSyWUKnL8", "post_id": "b7uql4", "action": {"description": "dropping my sister, who came from out of town, at Mcdonald", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for dropping my sister, who came from out of town, at Mcdonald?", "text": "Take 2 because i am a dumbass.\n\nSaturday my sister woke me up/called me at 7h15 because she wanted to visit me that day. We live 1h30 away from eachother. When I seemed reluctant because it was last minute. She guilted me by telling me that I didn't like my nephews and I was a bad godmother. \n\nAnyway, I caved and we met up at my town's Mcdonald at 11h30. Her youngest started acting up, shouting, crying and shoving everything in his path. I didn't mind his actions because he is 18 months old but I was pissed at my sister for not doing anything and just laughing it off even though he was disrupting other tables. I calmed him and served him his food. Some minutes later, a mom sat next to us with 3 kids, the youngest being almost the same age as my youngest nephew.  \n\nSo, the other kid began to throw a tantrum quite similar to the one my nephew did. Everyone was trying to stare away awkwardly except for my sister who exclaimed :\n\n- For f*ck sake, you don't have kids if you don't know how to raise them! Why isn't she (the mom) going away? Usually I leave when a little sh*t like this acts out!\n\nI was so mad and could see the desesperate mom trying to pull her child and calm him. I told my sister not to say that three times but she kept saying it louder. Every one was giving her the stink eye. I finally told her that I didn't like how she was acting and would leave if she continued. She did so I left. I kissed my nephew who were playing in the games area and went home with my car ( she had her own too). She went home some time later I guess.\n\nI am here because now my sister and my mother are telling me that and overreacted. My sister also told me that it would be a while before I see my nephews again and that they wouldn't come to my bitrhday which is in two weeks.\n\nSo am i the Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ox0xd74vuDY7AF9S1wrSK0DbEHLu09gU", "post_id": "9xs0fa", "action": {"description": "giving coupons to an autistic busker", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for giving coupons to an autistic busker?", "text": "Busking is very common in my town, with some street performers having it as a full-time source of income. Some, on the other hand, will only do ot for dun and won't earn very much at all - it's all for the experience of performing. Nobody is required to give money, but it's common courtesy that if you stop and enjoy a perfomance or otherwise interact with the busker, you should give them some change for their troubles. \n\nThere is one such performer who doesn't rely on it for a job - he does it in his free time as a side project. He wants to be the first autistic person to travel every continent using only the funds earned from busking, which is a very lofty goal seeing as a normal donation for a busker would be a dollar or two, but I admire his determination. It's worth mentioning that he is quite severely autistic, it's very obvious when talking to him.\n\nHis act is to tell jokes and do stand-up comedy. He honestly isn't very good and I wouldn't normally give money to somebody for the act, but he seemed sweet enough and I know it can be very hard for autistic people to put themselves out there and do what they love, so I stopped to listen.\n\nHe told a few jokes and such, but when I went to give him some change, I didn't have any coins on me, only a 10 dollar note. I wasn't willing to give him that much so I apologized and offered him a voucher for a free hot chocolate at a nearby coffee shop since I still wanted to give him something for his efforts. He grabbed the voucher, asking if it 'was something good', then started to get visibly upset, raising his voice and telling us that he isn't damn homeless and that vouchers won't buy him plane tickets. I apologized and told him again that I really didn't have any change on me and that I only wanted to show my appreciation, but he started yelling and said \"dont give me that that, you're just like the rest of them, I come out here and perform for you and you give me nothing but stupid vouchers, if you really wanted to support me you would give me the note.\" I talked to him trying to explain myself until he eventually looked really sad and dejected and told me to just go away.\n\nObviously if this had been a neurotypical person I would have been disgusted by this entitled behaviour but really I just feel awful for upsetting the busker because he is known for struggling with a lot of mental issues and is more like an innocent child than anything else. I feel really bad for causing him to meltdown like that. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UqGyWSAVkjVmy8Dl93SFLu4FrnUaf8QY", "post_id": "9u9bxe", "action": {"description": "getting angry with my female friend for bragging about she likes to send nudes to her friends and gets them back", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for getting angry with my female friend for bragging about she likes to send nudes to her friends and gets them back.", "text": "The atmosphere for men now a days is so scary and there are so many horror stories of what can happen to guys for stuff far less offensive that nudes and she knows that I worry about this things and have an abysmal dating history, an I an asshole for being upset about her seemingly rubbing my face in it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "2NB8tPqxQra0kWnNGfjZlBj8znhLgxp9", "post_id": "abphph", "action": {"description": "showing little interest in my partner's friends", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for showing little interest in my partner\u2019s friends?", "text": "So this is something my ex did when we were together that I feel conflicted about. My ex and I were together almost three years. We lived together for one. I\u2019m 26, he\u2019s 25. Both male.\n\nOver those three years I could count on one hand the amount of times we hung out with my friends, and he never once took up any interest in them or hung out with them when I wasn\u2019t there. My parents thought we weren\u2019t a match, and so did a few of my friends.\n\nYet...he made me feel bad for having a smaller social circle than him.  He felt uncomfortable that we hung out with his friends more than mine.\n\nWas this a red flag? What does that say about him? Is it okay if I think that it was a fucked up thing to do? Should I allow myself to be angry about this? I ask myself that because I have a really hard time being angry at people. I give them too much leeway and I often blame myself for any conflict.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cBqBM6XNBoXpJeMWM0cxOOLrV5VLVwkc", "post_id": "apxv90", "action": {"description": "switching jobs within 2 weeks of hiring", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA If I switched jobs within 2 weeks of hiring?", "text": "Job 1: I am interviewing for a part time management job that pays 12.5/hr. I will probably get this job given the low pay and my experience. I would start immediately. It is a 30 minute commute.\n\n​\n\nJob 2: I am hopeful for earning this position, but have only just applied an hour ago. This job pays 15.75/hr and is also a part time management job. It is a 10 minute commute.\n\n​\n\nDilemma: This might not even happen if I get neither job, or don't get offered job 2, but would I be the asshole for jumping ship immediately from job 1 if i were offered job 2? I understand that it would be inconvenient for Job 1 if I left immediately after getting hired, but I believe the pay to be too low (it's 1.5 dollars above minimum wage, and is about 3-4 dollars below other comparable positions I have seen). The commute isn't bad, but 1hr/day is worse than 20min/day commute by a long shot.\n\n​\n\nMy thought process is that I gotta look after myself above all else in the job world, but it goes against my sense of loyalty.\n\n​\n\nWhile I don't *need* the extra money of Job 2 I believe I should be paid more money for Job 1. I am only taking this job because I am studying for IT certifications and this will pay the rent + give me time to study. Job 2 would also give me time to study and I'd earn more money.\n\n​\n\n(If I jump ship from job 1 I don't plan to put it on my resume as I'm already unemployed so what's another 1 week gap).", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UNP37uKndv2KMfvADwkDoKTJeo7xeppt", "post_id": "atnfes", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go see my husband's brother because of the remarks he makes about my age", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go see my husband\u2019s brother because of the remarks he makes about my age?", "text": "I\u2019m on mobile, so please excuse the formatting! \n\nI (32F) married my (46M) husband six years ago and love him very much. He is my soulmate and just makes me laugh every day, even after all this time. There is obviously an age gap, but it has never been a problem for us - but rather for our families and friends. \n\nEver since day one my husband\u2019s brother has been a complete asshole, always making remarks about me being younger. Now my husband has an extreme soft spot for his brother. His brother is a good ten years younger, and as their parents weren\u2019t around my husband basically raised him. That being said his brother is a complete tool, and my husband just ignores it, saying \u201che\u2019s just kidding\u201d whenever I bring it up. \n\nNow we usually go on vacation with said brother at the end of March, but this year I don\u2019t want to go. I end up feeling bad the entire trip and there\u2019s always a huge argument between my husband and I. When I told my husband this he got angry and said that I was blowing it out of proportion and shouldn\u2019t take it out over him and his brother. So am I the asshole for not wanting to go see his brother? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yacofGYXUOsKHDfbVm4fPwY0ym0cBaZp", "post_id": "az7y44", "action": {"description": "yelling at my mom and saying I'm not her retirement fund", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for yelling at my mom and saying I\u2019m not her retirement fund?", "text": "Relevant bg: My mom is full Chinese; expects a lot out of me. We live in the US. I graduated less than a year ago and had started a decent full time job at 21. I still live with her because I didn\u2019t want to leave her alone. My father died three years ago today and she has maybe one friend here. I give her a grand a month to help with bills and whatever she needs. She does have a job and she saves some of the money I give her. She is the type of person that expects the kid to pay for everything. Because she gave birth to me, I am expected to pay her back. And being Chinese, you\u2019re expected for filial piety. Now, I don\u2019t mind helping her because I want to be a good daughter, but it\u2019s been one of the factors of many many fights.\n\n​\n\nEver since I graduated college, I've been growing out of my Asian overprotected shell. Now that I\u2019ve gotten everything important out of the way, I\u2019ve been going out late, having fun. She thinks I should come home 12pm everyday and I\u2019ve argued with her constantly about treating me like an adult. Then the money comes into play and she says you think a grand is a lot? You think you\u2019re giving me so much? You\u2019ve been disrespecting me, yelling back at me ever since you started giving me this money. No, I\u2019ve been standing up for myself and trying to show her I\u2019m an adult with my own life and choices. \n\n​\n\nSo fast forward to last night. I was out late. She was outraged I didn\u2019t come home early because of the occasion, that it's my dads 3 year. She never told me to and I was planning on doing things with her on the actual day. I come home late and she asks \u201cam I a dead person to you?\u201d Like no of course not. But she started to yell at me and say I didn\u2019t care about her or my father and how I\u2019ve been talking back at her for everything. Then she proceeds to say she wants to cancel our Hawaii trip for her bday, which I\u2019m paying majority of. She was appalled/offended I asked her to help with some of the costs because she never asked her parents for a dime and gave them so much money. Well, her parents don\u2019t talk to her unless they want money. Then we proceeded to argue about the grand again. I let my tongue slipped and said I wasn\u2019t her retirement fund. She flipped out so hard, banging her hand on the door and screamed I raised you for all these years. She ended up driving out at 3am and muttered \u201cI\u2019m going to join your father\u201d and I tried to follow her but she left already. After some panicking, I ended up finding her in my neighborhood and went back home when she did. \n\n​\n\nAITA for making my mom flip out because I said I wasn\u2019t her retirement fund? I love her with all my heart and I want to support her always. But it just seems like nothing is ever enough because I disrespect her for wanting to be treated like an adult. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "REmCFT46epmj9ejQiRvsvTdWBwDF1sIW", "post_id": "agc4az", "action": null, "title": "AITA if I, a girl, change my name away from the one my parents gave me (a boy name)?", "text": "My parents named me after my grandpa, which, although I like the gesture, they didn't do the female version of it or anything. My name is practically \"John\", a short male name that doesn't have a girly nickname. I've been made fun of it all throughout school, and now that I'm 21 and engaged I'm looking into changing my first AND last name, to a \"nickname\" based off of my current last name that my friends have always used for me. I brought it up to my mom and she says she'd never accept the new name as my real name and that she thinks I'm forsaking the memory of my grandfather. She has made it clear she doesn't approve and would be insanely mad.\n\nAITA for wanting to do it anyways? I've always gone by this nickname in social settings so it feels more like my name than my real name does. My fiance even calls me by that name.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 47, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 53, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "z6LMw7BQ4DICa02OoVoFSnLoUYoOrlGz", "post_id": "b0bxlh", "action": {"description": "telling my dad to stop talking", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my dad to stop talking?", "text": "This isn\u2019t that serious, me and my dad aren\u2019t mad at each other, but this happened recently and when I think about it it still annoys me.\n\nI hit my head on the door and it hurt a lot so I made a noise that people make when they feel pain, my dad goes \u201cits your own fault\u201d this is annoyed at the time, I\u2019m gripping my head in pain I don\u2019t want to hear that, I don\u2019t care. So I say \u201cCan\u2019t you just be quiet?\u201d In an angry tone this is mostly because I\u2019m already annoyed because I\u2019m in pain and I don\u2019t need his smart ass comment. He got mad at me saying i don\u2019t appreciate living in his house and that I\u2019m a jack ass, Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cTRL01IG8B0yNe3Ys5MNF3odoeiyvkuX", "post_id": "b65tea", "action": {"description": "being pissed that my wife gave $200 away to homeless people", "pronormative_score": 43, "contranormative_score": 28}, "title": "AITA for being pissed that my wife gave $200 away to homeless people?", "text": "We\u2019ve been married for 3 years and together for 2 before that. We live in Chicago and there\u2019s homeless people on every corner. I (24M) give as many of them whatever I can afford. If I have a lot of change left or loose singles then I\u2019ll give it to one of them. Or I\u2019ll buy them some food when I get some. It all depends. My wife (22F) has always admired that I share with them and has started to do it herself. She\u2019ll sometimes give them her whole lunch or like a ten dollar bill. \n\nAnyways, we collectively make about 60k a year. Next year I\u2019ll be making $100k alone. We pay $1200 in rent and $500 in other bills. We both pay off student loans as well. At the end of month we only have a couple hundred that goes towards food, necessities, and spending money. \n\nA few days ago I had an extra $20. I saw a family that had some kids so I gave it to them. My wife kept telling me how amazing I was for it. I thought it was kind of weird how she kept bringing it up but I still appreciated her comments. Btw we have a car but we prefer to walk to work because of how busy the streets are here. \n\nLast night she told me how she helped a lot of homeless people on her way home from work. I told her it was great. While I was making dinner she started asking me how much money do I usually give away. I told her about $125 a month maybe. She continued to bring up how she helped a lot of people. \n\nWhile we were eating she brought it up again. She said \u201cyou said you give about $125 a month right babe?\u201d I nodded because I was chewing still. Next she says \u201cI outran you this week!\u201d I didn\u2019t know wtf she was talking about and I guess she could tell by the look on my face. \n\nLong story short, she said she gave every homeless person she saw some money. When I asked how much she said all of the money in her wallet. I asked how much again. She told me about $200 like it was nothing.\n\nI instantly said what the fuck? She was surprised at my reaction like I would be happy about it. We argued about it. $200 is a lot of money for us. We already payed our rent and utilities but now we only have $100 until April 15th. I told her that she acted senselessly. \n\nShe\u2019s been ignoring me ever since and locked me out of our bedroom last night. I slept on the couch. \n\nNow I\u2019m wondering if I was the asshole for being mad. After all, those people do need it more than us. But I still feel like she shouldn\u2019t have given away that much when we can barely afford it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 32, "EVERYBODY": 25, "NOBODY": 11, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 43, "WRONG": 28}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lG9iBrDUSTc2D4NJ4shRRwGw5ZoUjD4w", "post_id": "9w8cyv", "action": {"description": "being upset about how my dad uses his battle buddies death for favors", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset about how my dad uses his battle buddies death for favors?", "text": "I know the title seems really inflammatory, but thats the best I can describe it. He was a Ranger back in Desert Storm, and from what he told me about his military service, it was highly decorated and very colorful in the 4 years he was in. However, one of the things I've observed him do ever since he became comfortable with talking to people about his experience is using it to sway people into his direction or to garner favor from it.\n\nOne example I can think of is when he was talking to an employee at an optometry shop (hes extremely charismatic, so it isnt necessarily awkward) about his combat experience and went into great detail on his final mission that got his buddy killed and him wounded. It netted him an employee discount instead of a military discount and he was extremely happy with the final result, bragging to me when we got back to the car \"isnt that great? Your dad knows how to seal the deal\" or something to that effect. He also used this during our custody battle when I was in middle school to garner favor from the judge, which, while it was beneficial for my growing up, I dont feel it was appropriate for the context of the situation (a custody battle) nor was that necessary to mention.\n\nHe's done this multiple times, and while I know he values and cares for the men he served with, it feels really crappy to me that he uses their deaths for monetary gain and personal favor. If it helps any, I'm a currently transitioning soldier who hasn't ever deployed (I was stationed at Suwon AB in Korea for a year, but that's not all that much) so I feel I have a LITTLE bit better of understanding on why he would do this, but I also do acknowledge that combat and PTSD isnt something I'm aware of, and in that this may be a thing I should just accept and move on from, for I will probably never know what it is like to go through what he went through.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EVj8tgU7YPOsDTQpvjBx0Zz7IsEKxEQ1", "post_id": "b8kf1v", "action": {"description": "saying if my mother gets sick its not my problem", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for saying if my mother gets sick its not my problem?", "text": "Ok so title sounds bad enough already but consider this she's and adulterous cheater and I have more than enough on my plate to worry about i.e school, work etc. My father can easily tend to her needs in the case she does unfortunately get sick ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "0tP9Cs2OVpqHu0cWY8SZBetUAET8uniI", "post_id": "amcmwb", "action": {"description": "calling my friend jealous", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for calling my friend jealous", "text": "Okay so I only have one more year in high school and we were talking about University. I'm an A student in every subject and work hard to get top marks and I plan to go to delft University to study computer science and my friend wants to study medicine. Anyways he asked me if I was aiming for a scholarship and I told him not really. I said if I got one it would be nice but if I didn't i would still be cool. I told him my parents would pay for my fees even If I don't get a scholarship so it didn't matter for me (my parents have been talking about University to me since I was 7, they are very serious about it)\n\nAnyways after I told him this he made this snarky face and said something under his breath then called me privileged and lazy and a \"rich boy\" and how I take things for granted and that he can't go to uni unless he gets a scholarship and I was an ass because my parents were going to pay for my University fee. I called him jealous and he told me to stay away from him", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Akwr4epGV6BfXi3f4MKYWwckmAzidcCU", "post_id": "a902s9", "action": {"description": "wanting my girlfriend to have a bigger butt", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 23}, "title": "Aita for wanting my girlfriend to have a bigger butt", "text": "Been with my girlfriend for about two years. She\u2019s never had a big butt but lately I swear it\u2019s been flatter. She pretty much has no curves at all and I don\u2019t find it very attractive. \nI kinda upset her one time when we were getting intimate because I made a comment about how her butt has changed and how it\u2019s basically not even a pancake at this point\u2013more of a crepe ass if anything. Obviously I worded it differently, I just said that her butt doesn\u2019t look how it used to and that I\u2019d like it to be bigger. She got upset and now doesn\u2019t want to be intimate anymore. She won\u2019t show me her ass anymore and is hesitant to take her clothes off in front of me. I guess it made her feel insecure but I feel like I have a right to bring up my concern about physical attraction. Obviously it\u2019s important. \nI suggested that she do squats and she doesn\u2019t want to do it. I told her that I would do it with her if it made her happier and she said no, I also said I could change something to make her happier and she said she didn\u2019t want to change anything. I don\u2019t think I can really get her to change my mind but I don\u2019t find her butt attractive. It\u2019s pretty flat and squishy but I\u2019d prefer a larger and firmer ass. I don\u2019t think it\u2019s worth breaking up over but it is kind of annoying. Aita for having preferences because she makes me feel like one because of how upset she gets over it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 23, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 23}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Zx5GheLuC8KWzicAJ7cjrBC4qT7GCX27", "post_id": "amcmbe", "action": {"description": "cheating on my wife", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 18}, "title": "AITA for cheating on my wife?", "text": "(throwaway because my wife browses reddit and she\u2019ll know this about her straight away, sorry for any formatting errors, I\u2019m on mobile, TLDR at the end, etc)\n\nFirst of all, I know I\u2019m not perfect, but please hear me out. I don\u2019t know where to start so I\u2019ll just get the elephant in the room out of the way:\n\nI\u2019ve (29/M) been cheating on my wife (31/F) for a little over a year now, with another woman (20/F) that I think I love. \n\nMy wife and I met in college (UK - I think that\u2019s high school in America?) and dated for about two years before I proposed. Things were smooth for almost a year, before my wife seemed to change. She was constantly rude, nagging at me for anything, making belittling comments. I began to spend more time at work to avoid her constant negativity. She was diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Bipolar Disorder. Still, I was sure we\u2019d work through it, so I stayed with her. I believed I still loved her. \n\nTwo years after her diagnosis, my dad died in a car crash. While I was distraught, I couldn\u2019t help but notice that my wife seemed almost glad. She\u2019d never mentioned an issue with my parents, but any time I seemed sad about it, she\u2019s say something like, \u201cIt\u2019s for the best,\u201d or \u201cYou should get over it soon.\u201d \n\nMy brother took his loss harder than I did and turned to alcohol. As a favour, I took him in when his landlord turned him out. I work a lot, but my wife owns her own business and often works from home. I (wrongly) assumed that I could leave the two of them alone together, but while I was away, they would have sex. I found this out from a neighbour, who walked in on them when asking for a parcel. I also later found out he had been stealing from us as well. \n\nAs any sane person would, I kicked him out of my home. I tried to file for a divorce, but my wife went through an awful depressive episode, lasting almost a month. I dropped the ideas about a divorce. \n\nFor a while, things seemed to go back to how they were when I was 20. Things were going great at work and I was climbing the ranks. We\u2019d just moved into a new house closer to my work. My wife had begun branching out and now owned two or three shops in the city. She was on a new medication that made her a much more pleasant person. Our sex life was great. \n\nAnd then we found out she was having a baby. I was ecstatic - I love kids. My wife and I had always wanted a kid, but every time we\u2019d tried it hadn\u2019t worked. Soon enough, our son was born. \n\nOver the course of his first couple of months, I began to have doubts that he was really my son. I put this off as first kid worries or whatever and continued with my life. Until one evening, my wife sat me down and told me the kid was my brothers. Her reasons were that \u2018she knew I\u2019d always wanted a kid\u2019 and that \u2018our DNA was too close for it to make a difference\u2019. Never mind the fact that meant she was sleeping with my brother again. \n\nAgain, I distanced myself. I tried to file for a divorce again, but my wife returned to her depressive state, so once again, I dropped it. One night after an argument, I left the house with no intention of going anywhere and ended up in a bar. I got talking to a girl and we had a one night stand. \n\nI couldn\u2019t help but think of my wife the whole time, and yet a week later I slept with her again. She told me things about herself - she was living with her cousin, she worked two jobs to put herself through uni, she felt like she was alone in the world. Our one night stand became a whole relationship and I realised that I was cheating on my wife. \n\nIt became a lot easier when I made her my secretary. I don\u2019t want to explain many details about our relationship. She was by no means at fault. I didn\u2019t tell her I had a wife until a month or so before I gave her the job. I didn\u2019t tell her about my son until our first argument. \n\nI was spending a lot more time at work, and my wife began getting suspicious. She stopped taking her meds, telling me they \u2018clouded her thoughts\u2019 and refused to speak with her psychiatrist. Still, she doesn\u2019t know about the other woman. \n\nReally, I know I am at fault for a lot of this, and a tragic backstory or whatever doesn\u2019t let me off. But I really do think I\u2019m in love with the woman I\u2019m cheating with and I don\u2019t know what to do.\n\nTLDR: my wife, who suffers from multiple mental illnesses, has put me through numerous hardships and now I\u2019m cheating on her. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 13, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 18}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "xkABoFrjyDzy4SJkZSAzCSnnefFPs4rl", "post_id": "axt6yh", "action": {"description": "refusing to watch my sisters dog while she and my mom go on vacation without me", "pronormative_score": 31, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I refused to watch my sisters dog while she and my mom go on vacation without me", "text": "About an hour ago I received the below text from my mom:\n\n\u201cI need a big favor. There is a chance that me and [sister\u2019s name] could go down to [coworkers] house in orlando for 5 days. Could you stay at the house with Cookie?  It would be in late march or april. Not around Easter. I dont have anyone else to watch her. Otherwise we cant go now or on any small vacation.\u201d\n\nI was shocked and immediately hurt and upset because I haven\u2019t been on a family vacation in two years, or any vacation. I had also just talked with my mom a couple weeks ago about how disappointed I was that my boyfriend has no PTO time to go on a vacation with me this year (no fault of his own, he doesn\u2019t get a lot, and has to help his parents move this year). \n\nso, my mom already knew that I have an excess of PTO that I can use, and nobody to use it with. \n\nI have always felt like my mom favors my sister more than me, because she\u2019s the youngest, she\u2019s 21 and I\u2019m 24. My sister also lives with her at the moment because she dropped out of college and doesn\u2019t work. My sister claims she has an anxiety disorder that prevents her from going to school or working, but has still not been diagnosed after about 2 years of this, IMO she\u2019s a hypochondriac, but that\u2019s not the issue here. \n\nThe dog, Cookie, is also my sisters dog.\n\nMy mom has taken vacations with my sister before and excluded me for other reasons, \u201cit was your sisters birthday\u201d , \u201cshe has school break, and you work full time \u201c etc..  my mom always says she wants to do a vacation with the three of us, but hasn\u2019t since I was in high school. \n\nMy sister has no income and my mother buys her new clothes, electronics, and gave her money for a new car after she crashed her old one ( also paid for by my mom) this year. \n\nI could go on, but the point is my sister gets a lot from my mom, whereas I have been financially independent from my mom since the age of 17 when I went off to college. I don\u2019t get her health insurance, I pay for my own phone, rent, utilities, clothes.. you name it. \n\nI have a good relationship with my mom despite all of this, we see each other often, and talk in the phone every day. I guess that\u2019s why I\u2019m so hurt. I was really blindsided by being excluded from this.\n\nFinally, it would be very inconvenient for me to stay at my mom\u2019s house because it would add another half hour each way onto my commute to work, which is already a half hour. So a full hour of extra drive time, extra gas, every day. \n\nI also do not have a bed or bedroom at the house anymore, and she has not offered to pay me. \n\nI know this has been super long, so if you got here, thanks for reading!\n\n**TL;DR : my mom & sister are taking vacation without me and expect me to dog sit at their home for 5 days without payment while they go**", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 28, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 31, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "18yfkOfnHFuahy0cbhvImofNGCjEuGaa", "post_id": "ah7o1g", "action": {"description": "ghosting my best friend", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Ghosting My Best Friend?", "text": "**This is my first reddit post ever, let me know if I messed something up!** \n\nBackstory: I met my high school best friend (Ash) about halfway through our sophomore year. We grew close pretty quickly with my family almost immediately adopting her as my long lost sister. (Her family never really liked me, I'll elaborate if anyone feels they need the details). Aside from myself, Ash had another best friend she'd known for about a year longer (Em). Em is white and from a strictly religious and conservative family (again, I'll expand if needed), Ash and I are both black. Despite her family's views, Em always seemed to be a liberal and open-minded person - the three of us would often talk about politics or current events and even though we didn't always fully agree, there was never any serious conflict. \n\n​\n\nFast forward two years, about a month after Ash and I's graduation. A friend of Em's is throwing a house party that we've all been invited to. The plan is for me to drive the three of us there and then back to my place afterwards since I didn't drink at the time and my parents wouldn't be home. However, the night of the party comes and, for some reason I don't remember Ash tells me that she can't go. At this point I've known Em for a little over two years and we've hung out alone for maybe ten hours of that total. In those ten hours or any of the countless others we'd spent with Ash, I'd come to consider her a good friend - we weren't as close to each other as we were to Ash but we had plenty in common and got along great. For that reason I decided it wouldn't be a big deal for us to just go to the party ourselves. \n\n​\n\nWe get to the party and it turns out to be pretty small, more of a get together really. There's about six of us in this kid's backyard with me being the only black person. I become uncomfortable pretty quickly (again, details), but decide to give the group a shot as none of them had ever shown themselves to be anything but nice. Then they started drinking. Things started off relatively tamely with a few guys insisting I play them some rap music and telling me all the reasons they love \"ebony women\". This goes on for maybe an hour or so, but I continue to try and stick it out as Em is now pretty drunk and I'm both her ride and alibi. The situation devolves rapidly though after someone says \\*pause for Dramatic Effect\\* the N Word. I'm not completely sure why, I'm guessing it was in whatever song we were listening to. The point is, I asked them not to and explained that it made me extremely uncomfortable. Now everyone in attendance, Em included, has gravitated over to take turns asking me questions *\"Why not?\" \"Why do you care?\" \"Why does it matter, it's just a word?\"* With that last one, I guess to demonstrate, they all start to say the n word repeatedly. It then turns into the... other n word (-er) as they laugh and I stand there absolutely horrified before grabbing my stuff and leaving. \n\n​\n\nFast forward one more time to a few months ago, I'm now a junior in college and haven't talked to Em since that summer or Ash since my freshman year. Frank Ocean had just made his instagram public, and being the fan that I am I decided to make one of my own just to follow him. Shortly after doing this I start to get suggestions on people to follow, many of whom are people I graduated with. After stalking a few pages, I come across a joint page for Ash and Em to promote their new youtube channel. Of course I check it out and the first thing I see is a series on friends they don't talk to anymore. I'll mention now that I've felt guilty about the way I ended my friendship with Ash for some time. After the incident at the party, I tried to explain to her that Em was very much not the person she seemed to be but Ash considered her family and accused me of being jealous. While the accusation was hurtful, I never actually came right out and told her exactly what happened. Only that she'd said... *that* word and I'd left her to find her own ride home because of it. Despite her not knowing the full story, Ash accusing me of lying over something so petty and childish was about my limit. I mentally washed my hands of the situation and let the relationship go. \n\n​\n\nBack to the youtube channel: there are several videos of them telling the stories of how they were ghosted or dumped by various friends. Others were maybe 10-15 minutes long. They talked about me for a solid 45 minutes, in my own video as well as in tangents in videos meant to be about someone else. In those 45 minutes they discuss how overly sensitive I was, how difficult/annoying it could be to put up with me, how shitty of a friend I was in general, and of course how jealous I'd always been of *their* friendship. Being the person I am, I of course sat through all of it and got quite a bit emotional at the thought that someone I'd considered my family had always thought of me as a back up friend with a grating personality. I'm not too sure anymore whether I was completely wrong for walking away from the situation the way I did. \n\n​\n\nTL;DR: I ghosted my friend after she accused me of lying about her other friend's racism as a way of getting her to myself. \n\n​\n\n ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Ok8YMkoqFpUX1MDVKQ9crFBBxP5FJqPU", "post_id": "b35ohl", "action": {"description": "saying \"maybe\" to a repetitive question and moving on", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for saying \"maybe\" to a repetitive question and moving on?", "text": "A while back, I worked on a project with a difficult coworker. This person works in a support role for people who do my job, sort of like how a lab technician conducts tests for healthcare providers. I generally don't have issues with him b/c I'm careful to plan for extra time, be polite & patient. When people ask him to do an assignment he's the type to tell them not to tell him what to do & how he has more experience working than them, so it takes some time. It's only somewhat true because he doesn't really have the education/background to lead those types of projects, but he tends to tell people how to do them anyways. Still, I know from around the office he's prone to conflict and sometimes resorts to the silent treatment, so I keep this in mind when I have to work with him. \n\nThe day of this incident, I spoke with this coworker about an unrelated topic and as I was leaving, he brought up a theory on a technical aspect of one of my projects. When he asked if his explanation was possible I said \"Yeah, maybe. We'll see if it's likely. Thanks\" and went to leave. \n\nHe stopped me, asked a bit about the other work involved and repeated his question. I explained briefly because I had some urgent work going on as well. He does this again, asking about checking his theory, so I finally am firmer, saying \"Maybe\" then explaining I had some priorities to follow on the issue and had to get going. \n\nHere's where it got weird- he suddenly got pissy and practically spat \"You're missing the discussion here!\", which I found odd because, frankly, I'd been handling him and his theory with kiddie gloves. I was trying to be appreciative of him offering his insight, but truthfully it was a basic thing and wasn't really central to what we were researching. I mustered up my patience and a decently calm tone (though this is still the part where I wonder if I was too dismissive) and said \"No, I don't see how. I've listened to you explain this theory and said maybe it's worth looking into 3 times now. I can't imagine what else you'd want me to say.\" I'd even taken the time to explain how and when it could be checked, so this seemed weird to me. \n\nAfter that, he was still clearly upset, saying \"You know, you're not the easiest person to talk to; I'm not either, but I've seen more XXXX than you ever will... There's no reason to be upset\" Now, this doesn't bother me because it was a weird flex, like a lab tech bragging about seeing the most blood samples, and I don't really have trouble with friends or coworkers. BUT I didn't like him telling me not to be upset while I was trying to consider his feelings and get back to work. Since he was still prattling on I just excused myself and walked away. \n\nI got the silent treatment for a few weeks. Was I incredulous about his outburst and annoyed at having to pat him on the back to get back to work without being lectured? Sure. Still, was I the asshole for being too quick to say it's possible, thanks and move on?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DUEicT6PPrLmc7ao3WDZozt0D0n9UGaO", "post_id": "b33za5", "action": {"description": "not having a full body picture on my tinder", "pronormative_score": 26, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA- not having a full body picture on my Tinder", "text": "I used to have a few pictures with my body showing, but I constantly got creepy messages about my body (yes, I was fully clothed in the photo) because I have a disproportionately large chest. So now all my photos are of my face or cropped so you can't really see my body. However, several men have messaged me and told me that women on tinder should include full body pics, and I recently got similar feedback from a date. AITA for not having a full body picture uploaded?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 23, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 26, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XXHXc4teW0xG8dtrXcgZJMxovZIJDhPA", "post_id": "auoy3j", "action": {"description": "arguing about an immunization form", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for arguing about an immunization form", "text": "*Am I the asshole for arguing about my husband's immunization form and making him call the clinic and schedule the shots?*\n\nSo my husband is doing clinicals for a medical field and his college gave him an immunization form to complete before he starts working at a large hospital. His records are at multiple clinics and one of the doctors wouldn't give him the Tuberculosis (Tb) and Tetanus (Td) shots because they said he didn't need the Tetanus within two years like the form says and it is not their policy to give the Tuberculosis test to patients every year like the form requires. The doctor signed the form and told him he is good to go and to fill in dates for the immunizations he needs. The doctor gave him proof of some of the vaccines to take home.\n\n​\n\nI wanted to help fill in the form so the dates are at least not in my husband's handwriting. I looked at the paperwork the doctor sent him with, and the Tb and Td shots were not current. When I asked my husband about it he said he trusts the doctor and was going to fill in a current date because she said he was good and he can't find any other expert justification for having the Tb or Td on the required timelines. He believes she is the expert in the immunizations and I should trust the doctor's judgement. He did finally schedule the Tb test because that one is more commonly required, however, he is mad at me for making him get the Td shot too. He believes I like to challenge authority and need to trust the doctor's opinion.\n\n​\n\nI believe the school's requirements are there for a reason and it is unethical to put in falsified dates on the form even if the doctor is the one who put their name on the signature line. If he has a problem with the Tb or Td requirement on the form he should take it up with the school rather than make up dates. He is making me feel like a tyrant for not trusting expert opinions so I am not sure if I am the asshole or not. \n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ulXIcE3Y2Ww1p1TmIetCtAi4Mk2GrGcP", "post_id": "9x4heq", "action": {"description": "thinking it's annoying for people to over share info", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For thinking it\u2019s annoying for people to over share info", "text": "For some reason, people really like to over share to me at work. I work in a electronics repair shop and I always get people telling me that their spouse/child/dog/cat died, or they are getting divorced, or anything that I generally don\u2019t want/need to know. It\u2019s super annoying and unnecessary. Obviously I\u2019m a sympathetic person but it\u2019s just info that I don\u2019t think should just be told to everyone that you see. Am I a jerk for thinking this? Like this guy just now mentioned that his wife died like 7 times. I kinda feel bad for thinking that but I\u2019m not gonna go around when my boyfriend/husband dies and tell everyone I see. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sAWdQHkleIzL8iSccBoADU9e8gJTJldN", "post_id": "b1p2di", "action": {"description": "wanting to go day drinking with some friends for st.patricks day", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for wanting to go day drinking with some friends for St.Patricks day?", "text": "Just wanted to get some feedback on this situation I\u2019ve found myself in. I\u2019ve been married for a few years now, my wife is pregnant with our first child and she is due in a couple months. Some friends of mine invited me out for some day drinking tomorrow, however my wife isn\u2019t too happy. She thinks it\u2019s unfair that i get to go out to the bars and she has to stay home. I told her she can come, but she said no. I understand she doesn\u2019t want to be the pregnant lady at the bar, but does that also mean I dont get to see my friends? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sNR8bWLvW7Ill3vmM1PtZXiPfM1OU0Kk", "post_id": "aqovze", "action": {"description": "being frustrated with my roommate over my cat", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being frustrated with my roommate over my cat?", "text": "So about two months ago I began talking with my psychiatrist over the possibility of having an emotional support animal because I am a trauma victim and I have nightmares every night because of it. He stays in the apartment with my roommate and I. Once we began the process of getting the papers and having them processed by my landlord, I told her about it. She\u2019s never had a cat before so she was iffy, but she said she didn\u2019t mind if I got one. \n\nI took her with me when I went to get\nmy cat to make sure she liked it. She seemed okay with everything so I had no idea anything was going to be weird. That night, she made me sign a contract saying that all responsibilities regarding the cat would go to me. I found it unnecessary because I mean, it\u2019s my cat, I had no intentions of making her do anything regarding his care and I made that very clear before I even got him. She won\u2019t let me store the cat food on the bottom shelf of our storage rack in the kitchen because she\u2019s convinced everything in the kitchen will taste like cat food. \n\nA few days ago she decides she doesn\u2019t want him to come out of my room. So he is confined to my bedroom, bathroom and closet which isn\u2019t very big. Whatever, I just keep my door shut. I\u2019m not happy about it but my roommate and I used to be very close so I didn\u2019t want to get on her bad side. \n\nYesterday, she decides the entire apartment smells bad because of my cat which is \u201cexactly what she was afraid of.\u201d She made me go out and buy a $5 wall plug in and a sprayable air freshener for the living room. She opened all the windows to \u201cget rid of the smell.\u201d I\u2019ve had cats my whole life so I know I\u2019m mostly used to the smell, but if it truly smelled bad I would know and I would take care of it. \n\nI\u2019ve been trying to do what she wants so I don\u2019t piss her off or anything, but I feel like this is getting ridiculous. I\u2019m only mad because she had a month and a half to speak up and say she didn\u2019t want this to happen, and now after I get the cat she decides she doesn\u2019t want me to have it. I have legal documents stating that I can have this cat, so I\u2019m not getting rid of it now. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UIhJdHMfTkX18tkLmfKwTeWirVGbw05d", "post_id": "avgvkk", "action": {"description": "writing a negative review after the server was a creep towards my pretty cousin", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for writing a negative review after the server was a creep towards my pretty cousin?", "text": "I'm visiting the city my cousin lives in, and I invite her to dinner. I hadn\u2019t seen her in a few years and she recently graduated from college. She was working in the hospitality industry so I ask her for a restaurant suggestion and she chooses an upscale place with a nice wine list. I make the reservation using the Open Table app.\n\nMy cousin is a pretty, blonde and polite young woman; basically the opposite of me. Our server turns up the charm to the point where it's becoming obnoxious. He\u2019s not bad looking, but it was obvious that he was flirting. I\u2019m about 15 years older and will be handling the bill, but I was immediately invisible as soon as she sat down.\n\nMy cousin and I order our meals and start to catch up. He interrupts us to ask what she does and she tells him she\u2019s in the wine industry. He starts asking lots of questions because he\u2019s interested in \"getting into that line of work\" (or so he says). Then, to my jaw-dropping surprise, he flat-out asks her how much she makes! Then he asks for her number in case he has any questions about \"getting his foot in the door\". I'm appalled but I lay low because this is my cousin's turf.\n\nHe returns to fill our waters (again) and instead of walking over to the other side of the table to refill her water, he LEANS over her, REALLY getting into her personal space. We wait for a few seconds until he finishes hovering over her to refill her water. It\u2019s awkward.\n\nOur food arrives, and it\u2019s all wrong. There was no apology from the server, almost like he didn\u2019t want to admit his error, and we end up just eating what we were given. The bill comes and there\u2019s no acknowledgment of the mixup. I pay the bill and leave a measly tip.\n\nThe next day I wrote a gentle review on Open Table. I merely outlined the events that had transpired (surely they spoke for themselves) and suggested that the server may need additional training. A few days later I get an ENRAGED text from my aunt pleading with me to remove the review. She said it was embarrassing to my cousin, who had connections with the restaurant (even though I didn't use any names). I apologized profusely. I didn\u2019t want to make things more difficult for my cousin, I just wanted to stand up for her and thought the restaurant should know about their creepy server. In a text to my aunt, I said something like \u201cYou would have spoken up too if you saw the way this man treated your daughter.\u201d It made me sad that society has taught my aunt and cousin to sacrifice their own dignity and safety for social acceptance.\n\nTL;DR Went to a fancy dinner with my young and pretty cousin and our server was a creep towards her. He asked how much she makes and for her phone number. Brought us the wrong food and gave us terrible service. I left a negative review online and my aunt asked me to remove it bc she said it reflected badly on my cousin who is in the industry and has connections with the restaurant.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IqgX4xlHjCBpFQ4ZBtAv22bFLUmcGbwj", "post_id": "awsjk7", "action": {"description": "not going to my \"best friends\" wedding", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not going to my \u201cbest friends\u201d wedding?", "text": "I (24F) have known this guy (22M) since I was in first grade. We grew up next door to each other and I considered him my brother. Even after moving away and going to colleges out of state we always kept in touch and saw each other to hang out over breaks. He was most definitely my best friend and we always joked that he was going to be my man of honor at my wedding.\n\nCut to 2 years ago when he starts dating this girl. She is absolutely perfect for him and is everything I would want for him and more. But slowly as their relationship got more serious he stops responding to my texts. He is always busy and can never hang out anymore. I try to be understanding that I could be intimidating to a new girlfriend since I\u2019ve known him for so long. So every time I invite him out I always make it clear that she can come and hang out as well. Unfortunately we kinda grew apart but I still considered him a very close friend, so when he announced he was engaged after dating her for a year I was absolutely thrilled for him.\n\nFast forward to the past 6 months. I also got engaged (I invited him to my wedding), my father got diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer, and my father passed away. Not once did he text or call to say congratulations, show concern about my father, or even show his condolences. I know he knew about all of these events because my father was still living in the house I grew up in and he still lived next door. To me these are not the actions of a friend. People I had not talked to in 10 years were messaging me asking if I was okay and if I needed anything. Just shows how much a girl can change someone.\n\nHe got married yesterday and I did not go. Am I the asshole? Am I being too petty about this?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RW4Z42ro5JaVIRnvWVEANfZdaELHVvuI", "post_id": "asuevt", "action": null, "title": "AITA: Roommate wants to swap rooms with another kid who I\u2019ve never met before so he can live with friend", "text": "Basically the title, he texted me about an hour and a half before the deadline to let me know this. I\u2019ve never met this kid and know nothing about him if our personality\u2019s compatible. I tried to contact this other person but he never responded and the deadline has technically passed now. AITA for not giving in to my roommate\u2019s request and just saying I accept the room change?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mvixnDlbfKZEyi9hxDmFMjmschYY1Zr9", "post_id": "b2f81s", "action": {"description": "leaving my family", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for leaving my family?", "text": "I (21f) am the oldest of 6. I have 5 younger siblings (aged 6, 5, 3 and twin 1 year olds) that I\u2019m very close to and see on an almost daily basis... I recently got a job offer across country in a city I\u2019ve formerly lived in. I really miss living there and I really want to accept this position (it\u2019s for a lot more money than I deserve lol). When I told my mom I was considering this cross country move she got angry and told me that I was being selfish and that\u2019s my sisters need me in their lives... is my mom right? AITA for dipping out on my family?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DJVZvA0FZIBxnqgOOpQdGO9EhX4B72SC", "post_id": "ar4qtr", "action": {"description": "asking my neighbor to stop playing music so loudly", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for asking my neighbor to stop playing music so loudly?", "text": "I have been in my apartment for about 3 years, and have had the same downstairs neighbors the whole time. It's a couple around my age (mid 30s) and she is nice but he had a tendency to play his electric guitar, with an amp, very loudly, fairly often. He also sometimes has friends over, like tonight, and they jam together, with guitar, bass, sometimes using a vocal mic too. Tonight I reached my limit. I got home and just wanted to relax (9pm on Friday) and couldn't even hear my TV over his band. I sent him a message asking him to turn it down, which he read but ignored. After about 30 more minutes, I went downstairs and knocked on the door and asked him to quiet down. He seemed put off, and I told him I wasn't trying to be a bitch but I just wanted to hear my TV. He then finally stopped playing. \n\nI feel like I was justified in the moment  but of course now I'm worried I've antagonized my neighbor which is never a good idea. What's the reasonable expectation to hearing your neighbors in an apartment? AITA for expecting my neighbor to keep his music at a reasonable volume?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WTSiFIvsfAW5C3FDUh52eJau7bSU7WzC", "post_id": "ayjebd", "action": {"description": "being angry at some one canceling last minute", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AItA for being angry at some one canceling last minute", "text": "First time posting here but wanted an outside opinion. So I'm trying to present as objectively as possible.\nFirst backstory, every week myself and 4 friends try to get together for board gaming with a legacy game, a game that changes as you play it you are expected to play with the same people as every time but it has finite number of plays, so if one person can't make it we postpone for that week . We had established a week ago that we were going to play today. Upon following up earlier in the week all was still good. Today one of the players lets me know he can't make because instead he is going to a movie with a family member. \nNow this movie is not old and just came out. While he doesn't often get the chance to hang  out recreationally with his family member he still sees him everyother day sometimes even daily. \nAm i the asshole for being pissed at him for canceling last minute for a movie he could have gone to at another non spoken for time?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "S6n9JdvR82s2uDSdlo7g8q2B825m82Bu", "post_id": "ah626g", "action": {"description": "wanting to tow cars from my paid reserved spot", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to tow cars from my paid reserved spot?", "text": "Firstly, I am quite a petty person, so I want to be sure I'm not over-reacting for what I'm paying for.\n\n----\n\nI live in a large-ish apartment building, easily there are 12+ units on my building alone.  There are parking spots in front of the building and across the lot by some trees as well.\n\nI've lived here now for roughly 3 months and have already towed one car who repeatedly parked in my spot... twice within a 4 day time-span.  One of which was right before a sleet/snow storm. And what really pissed me off was that the individual went out sometime in the night (after 6pm when i got home and they were parked there but before 9am when I left for work and were still parked there) and lifted their windshield wipers so they didn't get frozen down from the sleet/snow storm.\n\nMy girlfriend who lives with me overheard people talking about it, so I guess word spread that I tow peoples cars from my reserved spot.\n\nBefore I go into more venting on the matter...\n\n\n----\n\n**RESERVING A SPOT IS ONLY $10 ADDED TO YOUR RENT**\n====\n\n----\n\nThis new Tahoe, just started seeing it about 3 days ago and has local state plates, is parked in my spot which my Girlfriend shoveled out from the 7 inches of snow we got last Saturday.   It's been pretty cold and We are not expecting more snow till Saturday again, But it seems my spot was one of the only ones shoveled out, because me and maybe 1 or 2 others on a stretch of 20+ parking spots have paid for reservations.\n\n----\n\nThe sign is unobstructed by snow, though one day it was covered and a Jeep parked in it not knowing it was reserved, so I let it go and just uncovered it from the snow that was on it.   Should I give them a written warning/notice taped to their car, I have already alerted the office, to which they'll alert the individual if the car is registered to the apartment via lease/paperwork\n\nI'll end saying I know none of my neighbors and do not wish to ever meet them.\n\n----\n\n**TLDR;** Cars keep parking in my paid reserved spot, other spots are open, often directly next to mine for a few cars, but mine is the only one shoveled *remotely* out to make parking/entering and exiting easier.  AITA for having them towed or should I just give them a one time pass as I did the other car a few weeks back?\n\n[Picture of reserved sign](https://i.imgur.com/5m7qbSE.jpg) in front of car that was cleared since Sunday after Saturday's last snowstorm.  And in case it gets asked, Yes, I have clear notice from the leasing office, though no stickers or placards, that the spot is reserved for me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sJrXM7R3VzDYRiQ3dawV1LsumQPVSCCK", "post_id": "anarma", "action": {"description": "telling my wife's best friend to not gossip about their other friend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my wife's best friend to not gossip about their other friend?", "text": "So my wife (31f) and I (33m) have been together for about 4.5 years and married since October.  The friend I'm mentioning will be called \"Mary\" (31f).  My wife has had a group of friends since we met that are a mix of childhood friends, college friends, and friends of friends.  There are maybe six of them and they get together for monthly book clubs and stuff like that.  Since meeting me, however, she's integrated with my friends and hangs out with them on a regular basis without me.  Conversely, I never hang out with her friends unless I really have to.  \n\n​\n\nThis context is important because I generally dislike her friends because they are objectively catty, judgmental, and extremely gossipy.  To keep this post somewhat short, I'll just give a couple of examples:\n\n​\n\n1.  When planning our wedding, my wife got into a fight with Mary because we had strongly considered Memorial Day weekend because it was one of only two available weekends for our chosen venue.  Mary called her crying saying that she would be 7 months pregnant at that time and couldn't understand how we could do that to her.\n2. When my wife chose to have her bachelorette party out of town in Texas, Mary called her to tell her that she would \"try\" to make it, but if she couldn't go out of state, Mary wanted to throw her a separate party in our home town.  My wife specifically said she didn't want to do that, but ended up caving and having two parties.  In contrast, none of the book club girls went to Texas - three of the friends she met through went with her to Texas.\n3. When Mary got pregnant with her first kid, my wife and her were constantly fighting about how Mary kept breaking promises and changed their routines because of \"baby on the way\".  This conflict never really resolved itself, but when I asked Mary about it, she said \"well you will understand when you have kids\" despite the fact that she  knows that we don't want kids.\n4. The book club girls all live in the suburbs.  We live in the city in a really nice, fun neighborhood.  They came over for book club one night a few months ago and thought I couldn't hear them.  While in the other room, I heard them talk about how they could never live in \"the ghetto\" like us in such a small house.  For the record, we just remodeled out entire house this past year and will have it paid off in 4 years.\n5. We went out to a football game one night and on the way back, decided to stop at one of my favorite bars from grad school  Mary tells us that she wants to leave before we even order a beer because the neighborhood is \"pretty diverse\".  Take that to mean what you think.\n\nAnd that basically brings us up to the event in question.  There are a lot of other similar incidents like what I described above that are either judgmental or even bordering on racism in some cases, but about two weeks ago one of the girls broke up with her long-time boyfriend.  At their monthly book club meeting, this girl was silent on the reasoning and just didn't want to talk about it.  My wife comes home from book club a little tipsy and starts talking about how she found out the real reason they broke up:  the girl cheated on the guy and couldn't stand the shame.  I basically told her that that story sounds like gossip and that unless you heard it from the source, just be a supportive friend and try to help her friend mourn the loss of the relationship.\n\nWell this past week, we found out that the break up was for a completely unrelated reason and my wife admitted that the cheating story originated with Mary.  Yesterday at my wife's birthday party after everyone else left, I straight up told Mary that being loyal to the absent is one of the best ways to support your friends, that I heard about the cheating allegation and that her and my wife should show more empathy for a friend going through a break up.\n\n​\n\nMy wife comes back today and tells me that apparently I really hurt Mary's feelings and that I was way too blunt with her.  She also said that everything she told me about the cheating allegation was told to me in confidence and that I shouldn't have mentioned it since it wasn't my place.  I know I was blunt, but I think that spreading lies and judging people is something that shouldn't be tolerated at all.  In this case, it was so abundantly clear that the allegations were made up and it should be an easy point for her to introspectively say \"Yeah, that was kind of a dick move on my part.  Maybe I shouldn't have said that stuff\".  Now my wife wants me to apologize and Mary isn't answering my calls.\n\n​\n\nAm I the asshole here?  I frankly wouldn't care if I never saw any of these friends again, but my wife likes them and I don't want to make her sad.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0ceaBvh8BYiwMfJX211xObOJn6ldLES3", "post_id": "b0v1xl", "action": {"description": "not moving", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not moving?", "text": "Throwaway account and mobile\n\n this happened some years ago so some things may have been exaggerated by my mind or forgotten.\n\nSo I was just sitting around during recess, when a random girl said \"MOVE\" For no reason, and i couldnt care less because.\n\nA: No one else was sitting there or sitting there before\n\nAnd B: I was'nt disturbing them or anyone else.\n\nSo i just kept on sitting there, because i had nothing else to do. When 3 random girls come up to me (Ill call them B1 B2 and B3, Only B1 is important to this story, also none of them were the random girl) and also say \"Move.\" i say \"No.\" and they get all bitchy at me, I then say \"Well maybe you should have been more polite.\" and then B1 Says, \"Well could you PLEASE move?!?\" And I still say \"No\" So then B1 says \"Im gonna go get the vice principal/Secretary\" (I dont know what he was) and i say \"K\" So they leave and I still couldnt care less, because what are they gonna he gonna do? Give me detention for sitting in a spot that no one was at? And recently, ive been thinking that i may have been a little harsh.\n\nSo reddit, AITA?\n\nTL;DR: People tell me to move from a spot i was at first, I dont. They say they will tell the Vice principal/Secretary. (I dont remeber)\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gk6O7VH5qD9MuoFMLNHZDIvEMS3wWdeI", "post_id": "asbqav", "action": null, "title": "AITA - Boyfriend gave me Valentine's gift wrapped in \"love\" paper he recycled from a gift from a past girlfriend.", "text": "My boyfriend and I have been dating about 3 years, both in our late 40's. He is extremely thrifty - hates throwing anything away, and rarely buys anything new (clothes, furniture, you name it). One of his points of pride is recycling wrapping paper from past gift exchanges. He said he hasn't bought wrapping paper in years; he just keeps it when someone gives him a gift, and recycles it. When he gives a gift, he often asks for the paper back to be used again. So, gifts from him always come wrapped in paper that has tons of creases and folds, and it just is what it is. I generally don't mind, and it is kind of a running joke at this point.\n\nCut to Valentine's Day this year, and he gave me two gifts wrapped in paper with hearts and the word \"love\" all over it. As per usual, the paper had lots of creases and folds and was obviously re-used (I recognize basically all the wrapping paper he has used in the past 3 years, but had never seen this particular paper before). I asked if this had been given to him on a gift by a past girlfriend, and he said yes it had. He said he couldn't remember which girlfriend had given it to him (which I doubt; he remembers everything). I didn't make a HUGE huge deal, but I did point out that it doesn't exactly make me feel special to be given something wrapped in paper from a past love relationship. He didn't understand why I would care, and that he thought this paper would be perfect and romantic. So, I was mildly annoyed and then he reacted by being mildly annoyed. He said I shouldn't have even said anything, and to pick my battles.\n\nAITA?\n\ntl;dr: Thrifty boyfriend recycled \"love\" wrapping paper from a past girlfriend's gift and wrapped my VD gift in it. I was mildly annoyed.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 19, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 20}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "v3N2zvzFnXRivl8qbvPGSm8QVMVUi1G6", "post_id": "b8d1ig", "action": {"description": "confessing to my crush knowing that someone else has a crush on her too", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for confessing to my crush knowing that someone else has a crush on her too?", "text": "Throwaway just in case.\n\nSo I\u2019m a year 1 university student living in a dorm right now (it\u2019s not really a dorm, but close enough, so I\u2019ll leave out the details to be extra safe). It\u2019s quite well known in our residential block that this other guy (we\u2019ll call him M) has had a thing for this girl (we\u2019ll call her C) for quite some time, since last year. I personally didn\u2019t have any feelings for her at that point, so I just left it at that. \n\nOver the past few months though, I\u2019ve started to develop a crush on her as well. However, since I knew about M\u2019s feelings, I didn\u2019t do anything about it right away. Last month, a group of about 10 of us went out to a bar for some drinks. M was there, the girl was not. We didn\u2019t get drunk, it was just a casual drinking session to wind down on a Friday night. While we were talking, the topic of crushes came up, and M asked me if I still had feelings for this other girl that I initially had a crush on, to which I said no. So to kind of get back at him, I asked him if he still had feelings for C. He responded by joking that he is currently not in the financial situation to be in a relationship right now. I probed a little further by asking if he still liked her or not, to which he said \u2018Less than before.\u2019 \n\nSo, fast forward to yesterday, when I finally mustered up the courage to confess to C after weeks of pussying out (this is my first time actually confessing to someone hahaha). She seemed fairly taken aback, saying that she did not see this coming at all. We talked for a little bit about it, she said that she would need time to process it, and that we\u2019ll come back to this topic after finals (Better than I expected to hear honestly, cause I thought I would just get straight up rejected). Then, the topic of M came up. C said, \u2018You know that I know about the situation with M right?\u2019 I was a little surprised by this as well. C continued, \u2018You know how we\u2019re in a group project together and stuff, and he\u2019s been messaging me almost everyday, just talking about random stuff. He hasn\u2019t confessed to me or anything yet though, and I don\u2019t think anything\u2019s gonna happen.\u2019 \n\nI did know about them being in a group project together, but obviously I did not know about the almost daily messages. To me, it sort of indicated that M was trying to keep things alive with C. I\u2019d seen them talk to each other before, but it was mostly about their group project. I\u2019ve been thinking about it ever since, and I\u2019m not sure if what I did was right or wrong. So, AITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9QvqAIrjB8pQMRJVSVhbHD8optwf8NGi", "post_id": "a4bzgr", "action": {"description": "being annoyed at my depressed friend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed at my depressed friend?", "text": "So me and my best friend don't have much contact with each other right now. I'm doing a exchange in France and she is in Switzerland.\nWe have both depressione but she struggles by far more from it then me. Right know she evan is in a clinic because of it. I love her and in the beginning I tried to wright her everdy and check on her and stuff but she annoys me because it seems like she thinks nothimg is her fault. It is all just her depression.\nShe gets angry at her family members and talks unrespectful with them and then says something like \" yeah that was shitty but I have so many problems. They should understand.\"\nBut anyone get annoyed at het and speaks abgry with her, she acts like there are the worst people in the world. \"\nAnd I can't talk to her about anything without her talking about how depressed she is. I don't know how she personally feels. And maybe it's impossible for her to think about something else but it just bums me out.\nI don't even know what to do to make her feel better... ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Bc9xUmjA1h4qcA5Qm2dvCDbotUrANG2c", "post_id": "ayegz0", "action": {"description": "not letting the guy check our meter", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not letting the guy check our meter?", "text": "Its just my mom and I home while my dad's at work. Get a knock at the door and a guy saying he wanted to \"Check out meter\" the clothes and truck looked legit but my dad hasn't taught me jackshit about the house so idk what meter he was talking about, I ask him to come back tomorrow but while I did that my mom called my dad and dad said it was okay and then wanted me to basically run after the guy as he was backing out of the driveway but I didn't want to. We live in the woods and I read a story when a guy wanted to \"Check a meter\" and he was dressed legit, and then he tried to kidnap the girl that answered the door. I probably looked stupid to that guy and he was probably mad he couldn't take care of it but I'm just cautious and like I said, my dad hasn't taught me anything about house maintenance, so AITA for being safer than sorry? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xutRx7i7iaC8JQbmNiflfhSUdFHEm9yi", "post_id": "9ur2is", "action": {"description": "holding a 2+ month Grudge", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For holding a 2+ month Grudge?", "text": "Hello Everyone. I like to play large board games. Board games that take 4+ hours to play and involve sitting down with 5+ players for an afternoon of shenanigans and strategy (Risk, Diplomacy, Twilight Imperium.) At the beginning of August I decided I wanted to host another one of these big board game days. I created a Facebook event and invited all the usual suspects. I set the date of the event for a Saturday at the beginning of September. This gave everyone a month to plan their game day. \n\n​\n\nI got four responses. Players A and B said that they were for sure coming. Player C said it depended on their work schedule. Player D said absolutely...as long as we start at 6 PM since that's when they would be able to get to my house after work. This is a bit rough since the game we were going to play was Twilight Imperium. A game of Galactic diplomacy and war that can take 6+ hours to play. We usually start our games at noon. However, everyone agreed that 6PM would be OK, if that player would be able to make it. Player C messaged me a week before game day stating that they would not be able to attend due to the aforementioned work schedule. \"That's fine.\" I said, knowing that this was a possibility.\n\n​\n\nJump forward to the game day. 5pm rolls around and players A and B show up to help setup the game and get a refresher on the rules. We are all sitting around chit-chatting waiting for Player D to show up. 6PM rolls around and I see that Player D is on Facebook. I send them a message asking for an ETA. After about ten minutes I don't get a response, so I give him a call. It rings and rings and goes to voicemail. I leave him a message. It is now 6:45 and there is no sign of him. I had setup the board game expected to play with 4 people (These games can take a LONG time to setup.) I am now scrambling to rearrange the game so that we can effectively play with 3 people. We aren't able to start playing until about 7:30. I check Facebook one more time. Not only have I not received a phone call or a reply to my facebook messenger, but Player D is now posting videos and memes to their account. \n\n​\n\nThis incredibly pisses me off. Not only does player D just blow off 3 of his friends with no word about why they aren't showing up, but they go so far as to dick around on their facebook account and ignore my messages. I refuse to reach out to this person ever again. I haven't spoken to them in over 2 months and I have absolutely no intention of ever contacting this person again. \n\n​\n\nAITA for still being angry about this and still holding a grudge? \n\n​\n\nTL;DR - Setup a game night of Twilight Imperium for 4 players. A game that takes an entire day to play. 3 players arrange their schedules to line up with the 4th player... who ends up ghosting with absolutely no word about why they didn't show up, leaving me to scramble to plan B.  I haven't spoken to this person in 2 months because I'm still pissed off. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "39YVF4NxOJk940hkIRAaMntGzjUwlUcN", "post_id": "ataf8d", "action": {"description": "not letting my partner at school do his own work", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not letting my partner at school do his own work", "text": "So my assigned partner is a lazy smart guy who always seems to be doing anything but his work,  recently we had to do a project on a book. On Friday we were picking up and I ask him if he can do the cover page for him. He says he got it but when we got to school Monday he says that didn\u2019t finish it and he would finish it tonight. I get a little mad at him but I just brush it aside until the next day he comes into class and says that he STILL has not finished it. The project is due tomorrow and I\u2019m freaking out because we don\u2019t have a cover page. Friend says he got this under control and will have it finished tonight, he also asks if he can finish the last two parts of the presentation so we will have equally done parts of the presentation ( I\u2019m at 7 and he is at 5). When I got home I got an email from him with the finish cover page. I don\u2019t question about the other stuff but around 5 I got bored of waiting for him to finish so I do it myself. The next day he is furious because he had a orthodontist appointment and couldn\u2019t get to the other two parts until 6. I told him that it\u2019s not my fault that he waited so long to do his cover page. He then gets really mad because he thinks he will get a bad grade while I will get a good one.  AITA for not trusting my friend to finish his work and just do it instead.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "13RFzLsDVdKul98igfLVQV3t3DzjlvqS", "post_id": "abn4nw", "action": {"description": "missing my friend's two hour 21st birthday party on New Years Eve", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for missing my friend\u2019s two hour 21st birthday party on New Years Eve?", "text": "Last night was one of my closest friend\u2019s 21st birthday. He invited me to his party on New Years Eve and I was excited to come. I really love spending time with him and his girlfriend. He said the party would probably start at around 10, so I figured I could go to another party beforehand. On the way to the first party my car breaks down and my friends and I end up there at around 9:30 so we decide to stay a little later. \n\nAt 11:15 we realize that if we left right then we would get to my friend\u2019s 21st birthday party at around 12:15 because it\u2019s about 45 minutes away from the second party and people asked me to drop them home on the way. I told a few friends we were leaving and they were all trying to convince me to stay. ImWe weren\u2019t sure we should leave because we didn\u2019t really want to spend New Years in a car. I text my friend and ask if it\u2019s ok if we come to his house after midnight. I was worried about this because NYE is his actual birthday and if we went later than 12 we would be missing his birthday. But he said it was ok and not to worry.  \n\nAt 12:03 he texted and said that him and his girlfriend were getting tired and that they were going to go to bed, so we shouldn\u2019t come over. I apologized and he said it was ok and that it was not a big deal. Leading up to the party he stressed multiple times that it was a low key event and that we could come when we want etc.\n\nHowever now he isn\u2019t replying to my texts and all of my friends that did go to his party aren\u2019t replying to my texts either. I realize that in hindsight I could have corralled my drunk friends earlier and we could have gotten there in time. I feel terrible. On one hand his party did only start at 10 and was two hours and I figured it would go later. On the other, it was his twenty first and he is one of my best friends and I only get to see him every few months. Am I the Asshole? I would be pissed at me if I was him. He is going back to college this weekend and so I feel like I wasted my chances to see him. \n\nTL;DR one of my closest friends had a NYE 21st birthday party that started at 10 and my friends couldn\u2019t get there until past midnight. When midnight came he told me the party was over. Now he\u2019s not replying to any messages. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "td39OtdRgpmBopwdOgq5tNyNAPw4weRX", "post_id": "b5275q", "action": {"description": "not giving my roommate a free ride", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not giving my roommate a free ride?", "text": "Obligatory first time poster here\n\nI live in a college dorm. It\u2019s a double, which means me and a roommate share a bedroom. We have to share quite a few things, and it\u2019s never an issue. \n\nI have a nice car (subjective opinion, of course). BMW 3 series, tinted windows, the whole getup. I don\u2019t use it much other than to run to the store or drive home and see my family. Although it\u2019s nice, I worked hard to get it, paid in cash all on my own, and pay insurance and gas all by myself. \n\nHere\u2019s to the point:\n\nAs everyone knows, gas prices in the Midwest US are subject to change at any moment. In the beginning of the year my roommate used to piggyback and ride with me to Walmart, Best Buy and wherever. It was maybe 2 or 3 rides before gas started hiking. Close to $3 a gallon which is a lot for a millennial driving a gas guzzling bmw. \n\nMy roommate needed to go to Walmart to pick up some things for himself, but I had no need to go. I told him for a small fee I\u2019d gladly take him there (it\u2019s about 2.5 - 3 miles from campus) and I said I\u2019d charge him just a couple bucks to make up for the gas. At this point he got upset and told me he\u2019d be \u201cwasting his money\u201d and that \u201cthe bus is free\u201d. I explained I have bills to pay and he said he\u2019d give me pocket change for the small distance I\u2019d be driving. He then had a cold demeanor towards me and was sarcastic towards me the rest of the day. \n\nI didn\u2019t feel like I did anything wrong, I pay a phone bill, car insurance, and gas money each month and he has no bills to pay as his parents are paying for his college. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zsWTlhir6WSXhVw4xsqV89Kl6bOBZ1re", "post_id": "asbgbg", "action": {"description": "speaking my mind when it comes to my bitch ass coworker", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "aita for speaking my mind when it comes to my bitch ass coworker?", "text": "OK so I work at a retail chain (have for almost 3 years) and my department has a group of people there\u2019s probably like six or seven of us at a different time. I have a coworker I\u2019ll call him Ed. I\u2019m a minor and Ed is say.... between 23-25 (this comes into play later) I work my ass off. I always have. I work 40 hours a week on the books and then i babysit on the sides. I pay for my own car payments, insurance, gas, and pretty much everything else I have. Ed graduated college and still lives at home with his parents while they pay for everything. He always talks about these crazy drug binges he goes on and how he never has any money but can afford to go to a different rave every weekend. He totaled his BMW in a DUI accident that he feels no remorse for as he \u201cwasn\u2019t drunk and fell asleep behind the wheel\u201d with a BAC of .1. Now he drives his dads car. I know these may be pointless details but he brings them up ALL. THE. TIME. Anyways, Ed is always on his phone at work, and he literally never does any work. Basically, i\u2019m salty because I always work the shift after him and I have to pick up all his slack. After about six months of dealing with this, I started to call him out on it. Well he takes it personally and starts freaking out because i\u2019m a \u201cchild\u201d who doesn\u2019t understand how it is to be an adult and I can\u2019t talk to my superiors like that. To be clear, he\u2019s not my supervisor or anything. He\u2019s been working there longer but I technically have a higher position than him. So I defended myself and went on this whole tirade because i\u2019m sick and tired of his crap. I work way too much and hard to deal with it. My boss said he\u2019s gonna sit down with the both of us but honestly even though it was in the heat of the moment, everyone feels that way about Ed.  \n\nI understand I might be taking it personally because I don\u2019t have the luxury of being babied by my parents and I don\u2019t feel like I can ignore customers because i\u2019m talking to my gf through my airpods. \n\nTLDR: Shitty coworker doesn\u2019t do shit so I pick up his slack. He says i\u2019m in the wrong for being upset. After months of this I blow up on him and freak out. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZQdaBz9fb6xxJgz75Lc4adeA7Y3YP6FH", "post_id": "ao0ynr", "action": {"description": "avoiding this guy who I blackmailed because he slandered me because", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for avoiding this guy who I blackmailed because he slandered me because [complex reasons]", "text": "Apologies; this is going to be long. Also, this is a throwaway because most of the people on this quote are on Reddit. I will try to be as objective as possible and not exonerate or vilify either me or the other guy. \n\n​\n\nBoth me and the guy are in first year university right now. Most of the stuff in this post occurred when we were in grade 12 (in the same school). Letters are hard to keep track of, so let's call him \"That Guy\" (DnD players, you will see why if you read on). \n\n​\n\nI first met That Guy when we were both in grade eleven, and although he never fully integrated into my friend group, I was pretty friendly with him and we often talked about random stuff like history (we were both interested) and games. I noticed that he was not the best at some aspects of communication; he would do things like interrupt people (I also had that habit but I fixed it after realizing), lying about trivial things, needlessly bragging, pretending not to hear people if he didn't want to hear what they had to say, and being slightly disrespectful to teachers.\n\n​\n\nSome examples: \n\n​\n\nHe always lied about his grades; one time I literally saw that he got around 50% for a math test (by accident, since he left it on a table) while he bragged about a 96% to everyone. I later heard him complaining to the teacher about it. He boasted that he had many weapons at home (this might not be a lie, but I doubt he does because some of his friends went over to his house and didn't see any) and that his house's fence was \"impenetrable\" after sending me a picture of a fence that was from Google Images. He also pretended to know about things that he didn't, and one time, when I was clearly correct in an argument, he put on his headphones and pretended not to hear me. I tested him by asking what music he was listening to, and lo and behold, he could hear me and answered. He also didn't pay attention in class and refused to apologize to teachers when they called him out for it, even when they got legitimately angry. One time our English teacher (whom I liked, since English was my favourite subject) got pretty upset with him and his response was to discuss how English should be removed from the curriculum at lunch.\n\n​\n\nI'm not saying I'm perfect either. Often, I continued to provoke him when I knew it would escalate a debate further, and sometimes I purposely asked him questions that I knew about but he didn't just to see his reaction. Still, we were on relatively good terms with each other. \n\n​\n\nThe problems began after two separate incidents. One was when he ruined a long-running DnD campaign that included me and one of my close friends by adding overpowered characters that completely derailed the plot and attempting to control other people's characters (he tried to kill most of the other PCs then got angry when his was put into fatal situations). Both my friend and I were quite angry about that. Remember that friend; let's call him Cool Guy. \n\n​\n\nThe second was quite ridiculous when I look back on it. I helped him for a physics project even though I was not part of his group, and he began to ask me for help on his other assignments as well. I was fine with this until it got to his personal profile for university application. It was horribly written, was based on the standards from the wrong year, had blatant lies about his achievements, and included him claiming to own the DeviantArt account of a talented artist who was most definitely not him, since the artist had a twitter account that contained his photos and the fact that he lived in America (we live in Canada). \n\n​\n\nI found this hilarious and openly mocked him about it. That was probably a douche move. He reacted by telling me not to tell anyone, which I promised to, but when I jokingly mentioned his personal profile offhandedly in a Discord server, he forced the owner of the server, whom we knew irl, to ban me from it and not add me back. I was quite pissed off about this because I never planned on showing anyone, but now I did. I showed everyone in my friend group, and they secretly showed other people they knew. That Guy was clueless about the fact that his personal profile got distributed like so.\n\n​\n\nAfterwards, I got interested in the life of a Nazi official, since he was the only high-ranking Nazi to be successfully assassinated and I love assassination stories (especially when they're justified). That Guy got very curious about this and tried to figure out who the man was - I would have told him, but he somehow got the conclusion that I was in love with the man despite the fact that he was evil, dead, and married. I am also asexual and almost aromantic. I tried to explain this to him multiple times, but he believed that having interest in someone's life meant that you had to have a crush on them.\n\n​\n\nFinally, he offered to tell me who he had a crush on if I told him who the man's name was. I agreed; since he was also telling me something, I could get him to promise not to tell other people. Less than a week later, the guy that he had a crush on (whom I was also acquainted with) asked me if I was in love with a Nazi. After I told him that this was not true, I asked him where he got the information from, and he told me that it was That Guy. I then told the dude that That Guy had a crush on him, and he ended up telling a lot of people as well. That Guy was clueless again.\n\n​\n\nI then privately confronted That Guy and told him that I would leak his personal profile and also the identity of his crush if   he ever talked about this again. As far as I knew, he didn't. \n\n​\n\nI have been avoiding him after that, but he keeps approaching my friend group whenever he sees us around campus. One time, I was drawing random stuff with Cool Guy when he appeared, and he told Cool Guy to draw a face based on his description. After Cool Guy did that, That Guy turned the face into an anti-semitic caricature and laughed at it for a solid minute before I left the room. By the way, this was in my sketchbook and in pen, so I had to scribble it out.\n\n​\n\nHe also keeps asking Cool Guy for his homework so that he can copy it, and Cool Guy was so nice that he agreed until I persuaded him to stop helping him at all. In context, it's a CPSC assignment and he refused two people's (one of which was Cool Guy, the other was another close friend) help to actually explain it to him so that he could do it.\n\n​\n\nThis is annoying and all, and I have been very curt to him whenever I see him, but perhaps I am in the wrong since I blackmailed and lied to him. However, he also slandered me and broke his promise. Who is the asshole here?\n\n​\n\nThanks for reading this long-ass post.\n\n​\n\nTL;DR I leaked sensitive info about this guy after he got me banned from a Discord group, then leaked a secret he told me after he told everyone my secret and also slandered me. I blackmailed him with information that I already told everyone. He is not the best person, but neither am I.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "0zOyPslrmPKyAYNVapvrmFl0edQPqH7e", "post_id": "b236s9", "action": {"description": "defending my sister instead of my boyfriend when he's venting to me", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for defending my sister instead of my boyfriend when he\u2019s venting to me?", "text": "So my boyfriend, sister and I are in a groupchat together, and today my boyfriend (A) made a joke about the Christchurch shooting (which is his usual sense of humour). My sister and her bf went a little \u201cwtf that\u2019s just insensitive\u201d, but her bf usually jokes about 9/11 and such. A got really mad and told me privately that they are really butthurt, and all I said was that you guys have different senses of humour.. just let it go for your own sake? His reasoning was that his friends all find it funny, which I understand, and responded with \u201cdifferent strokes for different folks\u201d. A then went off at me for being unsupportive of him and says i\u2019m not on his side. He said that he would have been fine if I just said some words of support. Am i in the wrong here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nnL3298umFIywM9y2MqkoarFy3RemwON", "post_id": "a4ex0p", "action": null, "title": "AITA for, after a bed bug inciddnt, not wanting to spend the night with my cousin?", "text": "My cousin, her fiance, and her baby don't have stable living conditions. They constantly move around until they can get themselves on their feet. Recently, they were staying at a friends. \n\nMy cousin and I are close friends, and I spent the night with her a while ago. When morning came, she quietly told me she killed two bed bugs on her. She had patches on her neck. \n\nWhen I got home, I washed all my clothes, shoes, and sheets. Dried them twice. The whole shebang. I didn't have any bites and still don't have any. \n\nShe, on the other hand, moved out that same day and double bagged her stuff. She's now trying to get me to spend the night with her tonight because of her boyfriend problems, but I just don't feel comfortable. \n\nTD;LR\n\nMy cousin found bed bugs on her at her old place and is at a new place, trying to get me to spend the night. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MVBgZtbrOFoxRvvVUUptD9WXYPwW9fy5", "post_id": "abc8h2", "action": {"description": "wanting different NYE plans from my gf", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting different NYE plans from my gf?", "text": "I(m/23) want to hang out with my friends on NYE by going to a bar because it would be more fun for me instead of hanging out with my girlfriend(f/23)and her friends. I don\u2019t hate her friends or anything, I just think I would enjoy my NYE more with my friends. And she obviously would enjoy her NYE more with her friends and one of us would have to bite the bullet and go with the other. I proposed we spend it separately with our own friends. She wants to spend it together as it is I admit, because it is something that is more important to her. But she wants me to spend it with her friends.\n\nClarifications: -I want to hang out with my friends at a bar\n\n* she\u2019s hanging out with her friends at a different bar\n* she wants to spend it together with her friends\n* I think we should spend it separately with our own friends that way neither of us has to bite the bullet. We don\u2019t hate each others friends but might be bored at certain points.\n* she wants me to be with her and her friends\n\nAITA and if so what should I do or what advice do you guys have for me. Thanks !", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pZzwbJbEtA40Ed33WRkqeBQVEXQhAeTL", "post_id": "b6rhqx", "action": {"description": "missing my Best Friend's Baby Shower", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA For Missing My Best Friend\u2019s Baby Shower?", "text": "My best friend of 8 years whom I met in college is pregnant and it\u2019s been a tough pregnancy for her. \n\nShe briefly battled with fertility issues and is in a high risk pregnancy. She ended up in the hospital twice due to prior health issues that were exacerbated by the pregnancy. She recently lost her job and is going through a bunch of drama with her in laws. This baby is currently the only thing holding both sides of her family together. \n\nFurthermore, she is one of those women that absolutely loves kids and always knew she would be a mom. She even minored in child development just to prepare. \n\nThe problem is I recently accepted a position back in my hometown that is halfway across the country from my college town. This job came out of nowhere and was too good of an opportunity to pass up. I officially start next week and I\u2019m staying with my parents while I work and save up. I\u2019m broke and the baby shower is next week. I can\u2019t afford a plane ticket so I\u2019m borrowing $150 from my sister so I can make the 8 hour drive back to my college town. Aside from the financial issue, I\u2019d have to request a day off at my new job so that I can make it to the baby shower. \n\nFYI This job isn\u2019t integral to my career but it\u2019s a good job with great benefits and it pays the bills. \n\nI planned on visiting after I worked a bit and could save up for a plane ticket but making it next week would be tough. I just feel especially bad because I knew about the baby and the baby shower from the very beginning. Just to further illustrate how close we are I was the first person she told about the pregnancy before anyone. I know she would understand if I explained it to her but I can\u2019t handle being yet another source of stress and disappointment for her in this time. \n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DONLfceSD7jqpYm9OpyQSykmqzfY3V4V", "post_id": "aszbi7", "action": {"description": "not wanting to work at a mill (12 hour shifts) for college", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to work at a mill (12 hour shifts) for college", "text": "Some context: My dad has worked at a large mill for 5+ years and knows pretty much everyone there. He has been telling everyone there, including the bosses, that his son (me) will be working there all summer to make money for college.\n\nHere\u2019s the catch, I have a job, I\u2019m 18, and I\u2019m going to a technical college which will not cost me that much (~15k for my degree). My mom and him both demand that I work there to save money for college, and every attempt I have by saying I don\u2019t want to work 12 shifts 5 days a week, I\u2019m 18 and can make my own decisions, and that I love my current job, are shot down by them. At the mill, I\u2019ll be making 15/hr and at my current job I make 12/hr.\n\nI\u2019m living with them for college so I\u2019m saving money but it seems unfair and ignorant that they think I want to waste my entire summer working 12 shifts which I don\u2019t want to do due to seeing how unhappy my dad is after work, quit the job I love, and work in what I\u2019ve heard is a toxic workplace from the stories of my dad and his coworkers. \n\nAITA for wanting to make my own decisions for where I work and not wanting to be tired all the time for 3 months, and not giving in to my parents even when I\u2019m 18 and legally an adult?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "USvH5KzmZ7wZ4Jo5aJCTn0DpHVVbTHTP", "post_id": "a48lge", "action": {"description": "going back into a cvs to Apologize for my friend's Boyfriend's Offensive remarks", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA (W=Was) For Going Back Into A CVS To Apologize For My Friend\u2019s Boyfriend\u2019s Offensive Remarks?", "text": "So for context, this happened awhile ago but I\u2019ve been mulling this over for a little bit. So I had been friends with this girl \u201cSandra\u201d for three years and we by absolute chance ended up attending the same college and summer program together. She met this guy in our program, \u201cHank,\u201d who was honestly a total jerk. She originally had liked this other guy and was starting to see him but Hank won her over for a bit. \n\nSandra and I had been hanging out for awhile when Hank started to get jealous and wanted to come hang out too, so obviously there was no problem with it and he came over. He then decided that he wanted to make some food, Sandra and I agreed, but we would have to go to CVS to get some ingredients (CVS because it was the only place in walking distance and none of us had cars). \n\nSo we get to CVS, get our stuff, and we are at the checkout line. A nice woman is the cashier, whom Sandra and I had a few days prior and gotten friendly with, and there was an older woman behind us in line. Hank gives Sandra a little grief over money and then pretends to shove her. The cashier gave us a wide eye look so Hank backtracked immediately and said, \u201cNah don\u2019t worry, I\u2019m abusive and all but Sandra loves me.\u201d The cashier was *not* cool with that and told him how it was not okay to joke about that and that she was a survivor of abuse. (I also knew that Sandra had gone through abuse previously and knew she was uncomfortable with the \u201cjoke\u201d). Anyways, we all leave with him refusing to apologize. \n\nWe are in the parking lot, about to walk back to our dorms, and I just do not feel right about leaving. I told Sandra and Hank we should go back in and apologize and they both said we shouldn\u2019t. They then proceeded to wonder if we should go to this convenience store on the way back, so as they\u2019re discussing this I say that I\u2019m going back into CVS to get a drink. \n\nI go back inside and see that the cashier is checking out the woman who was behind us, I awkwardly walk up to her (the cashier) and just say I\u2019m sorry for my friends\u2019 actions and that I do not agree with them and wish I had stood up in front of them in the moment. \n\nThe cashier said she understood and thanked me and the older woman started crying and said how it was \u201cfucked up\u201d what Hank said and how she was also a survivor of abuse and how she was so upset and angry when she heard him joking about it. I apologized again and she said I had nothing to be sorry about but thanked me. I felt awful for not stopping Hank in the moment. \n\nI said goodbye to them and went outside to Hank and Sandra, who were like \u201cwhat took you so long? Where\u2019s your drink?\u201d So I told them the truth and said I apologized for Hank\u2019s statements. Hank got really quiet and angry and Sandra said I should not have done that because Hank felt bad enough already. She also said now she feels an obligation to go apologize. \n\nWas I the A in this situation? Should I not have gone back in?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "RdwxlUveTMhVt3oITnPXLl5sia42SO6p", "post_id": "b04or3", "action": {"description": "being upset at my mom", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset at my mom?", "text": "I currently attend a prestigious college and am in my sophomore year. My mom gave me $10000 as a reward for getting into the college to use in travel. I know that we don't have the money for me to use it exclusively so I intended to use that money for all of us to go on vacation in Japan over the summer. I've been planning this trip for upwards of a year now. However, my mom just called me letting me know that she wanted to invite one of my childhood friends to come along with us. I like the kid but I really didn't want to have to take care of a guest, especially since he was going to stay at my apartment over the summer after the vacation to take classes at my college anyways, so I told my mom no and she agreed. 1 hour later, she calls back saying that she has just helped them buy the plane tickets. Worst of all, she said that she was thinking for me so that I would be better friends with my friend. Keep in mind that I had got him an autographed poster of his favorite anime and a switch for Christmas. I'm just so mad since I told her that I didn't want my friend to come along with us, but she still insists that she is thinking for me even though I am in my twenties now. AITA for being mad? Maybe I should just be blessed that my mom gave me $10000 for travel in the first place?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9vyy8CIkWGSMZoEYdGSiQqsKwExNax8F", "post_id": "b46xgj", "action": {"description": "choosing a hedge fund manager as my personal hero", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for choosing a hedge fund manager as my personal hero?", "text": "So we had a school project where we have to choose a historical or contemporary figure we admire/think of as a hero and do a project on them talking about who they are, what good traits they had, and why they're your hero.\n\nA lot of people chose athletes, activists, religious leaders, a few people chose politicians, etc.\n\nI chose George Soros.\n\nWhy? Here are the reasons I think he's an interesting figure and a hero.\n\n- As a aspiring hedge fund portfolio manager, his genius is just off-the-charts, which is something I admire the hell out of\n\n- Grew up as a Jew under Nazi rule, and survived \n\n- From that background, he grew up to become a multi-billionaire \n\n- Donated millions to destroying communism in Eastern Europe \n\n- Is in general is extremely philanthropic \n\nSo he's just someone that really inspires me. So I did my presentation on him. \n\nBut people got mad at this, saying I'm 'selfish' and 'stupid' for having a finance person as my hero. I thought you could choose whoever you wanted for this project? And I think Soros is genuinely a good person to admire. \n\nSo, aita?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yBAtNMoRXNE7tLQ2W3IXVgHUYa1qR3XX", "post_id": "b2x78z", "action": {"description": "telling my classmates and instructor how shitty of a person my roommate was on a trip", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I tell my classmates and instructor how shitty of a person my roommate was on a trip?", "text": "This is my alt account as this post got pretty specific.\n\nI went on a week-long trip to a foreign country as a part of a study abroad program with my school. It was my first time traveling without my parents and I would be free to actually explore a major city with my classmates. A few months ago, I chose \"John\" as my roommate since he was the only one I knew going on the trip.\n\nFor the most part, I enjoyed the trip and the experience but John was an excessive drinker and honestly a DICK the entire trip. John blasted music until 4am (we had to wake up at 6am since this was a school trip), was late to class activities, took a personal item without asking and temporarily refused to return it, toxic language and attitude the entire week followed by being an ASSHOLE on the final night. On the final night, I went out with a group including John to a club. At the club, John landed several punches to my shoulder and gut, and shoves that I only barely avoided landing on the floor because I braced myself each time. The punches weren't full power but they added up.The verbal abuse included telling me to go home because nobody liked me. This started at a first club where John was kicked out. We all went to the a different club, where the abuse continued. A few people tried holding John back but there was hate in his eyes. I was able to convince \"Tim\" to leave the group and come with me to a different club.\n\nAs for why I didn't tell our instructor: Most of the things I could handle and I didn't want to taddle tale. I thought I only had to tolerate it for a few more days. It was the last night of the trip that John went too far. As for why I didn't leave the group earlier: It was my first time clubbing ever in my life and I was in a foreign city where most people didn't speak English, so I wanted to stay with the group. This was all while I let him use several of my things that he forgot, called Apple Support to help him find his phone, and made sure he got out of bed on time multiple mornings.\n\nOn the way home to our college, I told John what all had happened the previous night. John apologized and asked that I not tell people what happened. I wish I could never see him again but we have the same career goal so we will likely have a class together again and see each other in the business library. While we don't really share close mutual friends, most people pursuing our career goal at my school know each other. Several people on the trip know what happened but since my school is so big, they aren't associated with people in my specific field that I hang out with. I don't want my classmates to think I'm ignoring/being impolite to him for no reason. \n\nSorry this was so long but I had to get it all out. So, WIBTA if I tell my classmates how shitty he was and ruin his reputation. How much do I tell our instructor? Any other advice?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fGSm8KDAtjXOJu3hX22lSvpusAE1na3d", "post_id": "aifccm", "action": {"description": "thinking my period isnt as gross as the people in my household think", "pronormative_score": 38, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for thinking my period isnt as gross as the people in my household think?", "text": "I am the only woman in my house who has a period, my dad has a girlfriend but she is no longer fertile. I have a period, but I recently started using a divacup which is reusable so I dont use tampons anymore, and I occasionally use pantyliners which I wrap up well with toilet paper so that they dont come undone and place them in the trash. It is well known in our household that I have my own chores and my brother has his, I am responsible for the dishes, he is responsible for the trash. Yet my brother threw a fit when he saw a tampon in there a few months ago (again, I dont use them anymore). My dad was apparently shocked by the fact that I use the bathroom trash to dispose of tampons, and he insisted that I instead take my tampons out and put it into the kitchen garbage so that he will never have to see it (not sure exactly how putting it in the kitchen garbage would hide it?). So I responded by saying \"you want the kitchen garbage to smell like blood?\" And he was like \"IT SMELLS?\" i was like \"um yes? Its blood...Blood smells??\" so he insisted I take every tampon i remove and dispose of it like its toxic waste and take it outside straight to the garbage bin. Obviously, i told him I was not going to go outside in the cold every time I removed a tampon. That meant that I would be going out every 2 hours or so on heavy days. So ever since they have been saying it's my job to get rid of the bathroom garbage, and are acting disgusted to touch it. Even when I'm not on my period they make me empty it as if they will die if they see one. I just feel like they are exaggerating, you know? I know it's not lovely or anything, but they have done several things in the bathroom that is straight up disgusting and I dont complain. I dont see why I have to be made to feel like a disgusting monster for something entirely normal. I'd be fine with it if they didnt act like it was the most disgusting thing ever, but every time they have me take the trash out they make a grossed out face and have to act so overdramatic about it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 36, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 38, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "a9UgcDPIoWFTWxASDJYXnuEq3m1HHHgx", "post_id": "az81vc", "action": {"description": "being annoyed with my wife because she didn't take pictures of my marathon", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For being annoyed with my wife because she didn't take pictures of my marathon?", "text": "This was my first half-marathon, which she knew about well in advance. In previous races, she sleeps in and just shows up to take pictures at the finish and bring me recovery items (water, food, change of clothes). She doesn't want to get up early to support me, which I kind of get since the races are long, and there's little to do in the meantime. \n\nThis time, she said she wasn't able to find the finish line, and was wandering around downtown, and subsequently did not meet me until later or take any pictures at the finish.\n\nI feel like this is a stupid excuse, since it was well marked, and a rather large race. She claims someone told her the finish line was in a building (it was the awards ceremony) which doesn't make any sense. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pMViGCVwO6Svdho809X5DKQ5WSL4jkCX", "post_id": "a2tydp", "action": {"description": "looking through my best friends phone", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 20}, "title": "AITA for looking through my best friends phone?", "text": "Some background, I'm a college student rooming with my best friend. A few months ago I met this amazing chick, and we hit it off immediately. We talked and went on a few dates. Things were going great and getting serious until out of the blue she told me we should just be friends, which is totally fine. I understand that it happens and so we became really good friends. \n\nA few days ago she mention something that made me confused, because she wouldn't have known about it. Only my friend knew, that was the first time I thought about looking through my friends phone but I thought, thats a crazy thing to do. \n\nThe next day he had left his phone on the counter and it went off. I looked at the notification and it was from her, and the text mentioned my name. curiosity got the better of me and I opened it. I started reading, and I read everything. Turns out he's been shit taking me for months, saying things like how he doesn't think i'm right for her, how I mess up every relationship i'm in, and then goes on to talking about how he would be so much better. Trying to go behind my back to get with her. she has been very resistant to his attempts.\n\nNeither of them know that I've done this. I've looked at his phone now 4 times. I feel awful for doing it, AITA for looking through his phone again and again?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 15, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 20}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "hVsFtllM4C3xX7rP5RN5nlvvGBArPfvM", "post_id": "adalx2", "action": {"description": "flattening all four SUV tires", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 25}, "title": "AITA for flattening all four SUV tires?", "text": "Am I an asshole for flattening all of some persons expensive SUV tires?\n\nI was married to a girl in a wheelchair. We went to the mall near Christmas and parked in a handicap spot. She had a motorized wheelchair and a ramp van that was installed on the passenger side. \n\nWe ate dinner, looked around and decided to leave. So we see that is raining, pretty heavy. We discussed my getting the van and bringing it around, but we both decided to just run for it. \n\nWhen we get to the spot there is a black SUV in the unloading area next to our spot. I had to get in, back up to lower the ramp. By this time she is drenched and I'm pissed. \n\nI went over to the illegally parked SUV and kicked out all for valve stems. Not a difficult fix, but huge inconvenience the week before Christmas. \n\nI never felt bad for this, which I guess is a potentially other am I the asshole. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 16, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 25}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "7NIYtA1Hb9wMQawYYyzPv50qRHdyrJYl", "post_id": "b8rdji", "action": {"description": "reporting my co workers for food theft", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for reporting my co workers for food theft?", "text": "I'm a Dietary Aide in the long term care. Last time when I worked, a CNA filled up a coffee filter with cereal that is for residents. Then she put some in her travel mug and filled it up with milk. Then she took the remaining in the coffee filter with her. She took more than what she could manage to eat in one sitting and bundled the rest up in the coffee filter to take with her again. \n\nAlso when I brought snack for the residents for CNA's to pass them, another CNA took some in small cup for themselves. I documented the date and time and to report these 2 staff.\n\nIt's against the policy to eat resident's food. Even the left overs from the meal that's going in the garbage. They consider it theft. When we tell them they are not supposed to, they just ignore it or don't take it seriously.I even told her that its theft and she just kept walking and said she is starving \n\nI finally spoke to my manager about it and she asked for their names and dates. Am I an asshole  report this?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pOZV3hMa7dbBEQxqq3uW9cFn3pzgrbHW", "post_id": "b2zddp", "action": null, "title": "AITA : my (ex) best friend talked to my boyfriend behind my back saying how we should breakup and that we\u2019re not good for each other : I called her out and she told my boyfriend he betrayed her trust", "text": "Me : 21, friend : 19, boyfriend : 19 (junior in college, freshman in college). Keep in mind she never knew who he was until me. \n\n\n\nMy friend first said I was spending too much time with him, he lives with me. Then she tried to make plans last minute and didn\u2019t keep in mind I told her multiple times that I have to focus on my studies because of grad school and how I did poorly the past 2 years.\n\n\n\nShe then lied to my boyfriend saying how his friends think we should breakup too when none of them ever said that. She told him, behind my back, that we aren\u2019t good for each other/other annoying things I\u2019ve done and how she doesn\u2019t want to be my friend, she also told him she doesn\u2019t want to my friend anytime soon. My boyfriend and I were talking about the fact we thought she was going to say that we should breakup, when she messaged him \u201cwe need to talk you deserve to know\u201d. After he told me I found it extremely disrespectful she tried to ruin a relationship she supported and was the happiest for us.\n\n\nShe then brought up something from the past I told her was my biggest regret and he told her it hurt him the most just to hurt him so he\u2019d want to breakup with me saying \u201cremember how that one time hurt you?\u201d after we\u2019ve finally both stopped talking about it and we both mended our wounds (before we dated I told him about a hookup I had, this was when we were in limbo but afraid to talk about our feelings).\n\n\n\nLater that day I called her out about what she said and told her how disrespectful it was to try to ruin our relationship and talk behind my back to my boyfriend. She told him that he ruined her trust and then I told her how ignorant she was for thinking she was in the right and she got her trust ruined. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SwP7zxAT1FpU9tTGZ5EtWqsFANDriSIY", "post_id": "a83vq7", "action": null, "title": "AITA - Banned from my house", "text": "A few weeks ago a my housemate (Alice) invited her friend best friend (called Sophie) over to our house  (4 of us share the house) for a few beers and to play a couple board games. \n\n(Disclaimer, I\u2019d lived with and much later, boozily slept with Sophie maaaaaany years ago, was only a few times and never went anywhere - there is 0 sexual tension between us as we agreed that it was awful sex)\n\nHowever, Sophie brought her hot headed boyfriend (Dean) over too, he\u2019s not well liked in the house despite having grown up alongside one of the other housemates too. We constantly hear stories about him antagonising people and  fighting - he has actually alienated himself from several people that he grew up with because of his shitty alcohol fuelled behaviour.\n\nNow, we\u2019d been drinking for a few hours, just the four of us - and we\u2019d got a little bit boozy but it\u2019s all fine - we\u2019re all happy despite Dean being pretty pissed. Out of the blue he slaps me around the face, I was stunned and it wasn\u2019t in a jokey way, it fucking hurt.\n\nThen again, and then one final time. I was stunned  \ud83d\ude33 as were both of the girls - everyone went silent. (I\u2019m almost twice the size of this guy and spent four years in the Military. I\u2019d snap him in two)\n\nMe: \u201cDon\u2019t do that again\u201d\n\nDean \u201cWhy\u201d\n\nMe: \u201cbecause it makes you look like a dick mate\u201d\n\nDean puts his beer down and puffs out his chest \u201cWhat did this guy just call me?!\u201d Clearly about to start a fight the girls rush over to calm\nhim down - he was obviously pretty drunk but that doesn\u2019t excuse this shitty behaviour.\n\nI.was.stunned. HOWEVER, I didn\u2019t make a scene and let the night continue.\n\nNow Alice explained that she wanted to bring these two over again, I just straight up said no, he\u2019s not welcome back in the house. Although there was initially a bit of friction we all agreed as a house that we don\u2019t want him here. However, this is clearly causing a bit of a divide as Alice doesn\u2019t want to explain the situation to Sophie as she can be a bit fiery / temperamental. \n\nPlus, Dean grew up alongside one of my other housemates, having known each other since they were kids (my housemates ain\u2019t too keen on him being here but does think this could cause issues with their friend groups)\n\nAITA?\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Hnx0xIYtV6aeknSP2HWkeZ2O5MxtF0SB", "post_id": "b2qa12", "action": {"description": "wanting to bring another girl with my girlfriend and me to prom", "pronormative_score": 26, "contranormative_score": 31}, "title": "AITA for wanting to bring another girl with my girlfriend and me to prom?", "text": "My girlfriend (18 F) and I (17 M) have been dating for close to a year now. With prom coming up soon, we sat down to talk about our plans. Well, at work the other day, the subject of prom came up at work too. I started to talk to my friend (20 F) about it. It turns out that she never got to go to her prom because she was in the hospital. \n\n​\n\nWell, this friend is pretty important to me. When I started my job almost a year and a half ago, I lacked almost any social skills. This friend was the first person to really talk to me and treat me like a friend. She helped me through one of the most trying times of my life, as I also had severe social anxiety prior to starting this job. While my friend probably doesn't know this, my progress to having the social skills I do now is largely in part to her. I see this as an opportunity to give back to her for helping me.\n\n​\n\nMy girlfriend is opposed to me wanting to take her with us because she says that this should be our special night, and she wants me to herself. I hold the position that I want to take her due to the aforementioned reasons. So what do you guys think? AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 31, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 23, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 26, "WRONG": 31}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "lH1DpR4XyldJbMrPAKTVE1i94xWp63Dx", "post_id": "aofax0", "action": {"description": "not wanting a drug Addict dating my mom", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Not Wanting a Drug Addict Dating my Mom", "text": "(Ive been waiting a lot reddit videos so I feel like its my turn to give you guys a story to read, if you lovely people can help get this post read by a youtuber that would be much appreciated. P.S. I'm writing at 3 am so I might edit for grammar and spelling)\n\n(A little background) So my mom and lets call him \"Punk\" (as was his favorite word to say when he went on his rampages) were dating for 5 years and but the situation lasted an additional 2 years after the break up. He was an ex-felon and an AC/roofer. His family besides his older brother are all trainwrecks. His little brother is an alcoholic and his mother was a heavy smoker \n\nFor a good 3 years their relationship was pretty nice. He was a good stepdad back then but it all changed once his mother died in the hospital. After that he would disappear for weeks only to come back for a day or 2 and repeat. When ever he was home he was rather sleep all day, as tweakers do to come down from the high, or he would be getting into arguements with my mother. Not a great environment to live in to say the least. Most of the fights would last until 3 am. My grades slipped and I was never due to my house not feeling like home. \n\nHe broke phones, stole my mom's car twice and broke the radio console and broke the oil pan causing over 3000 dollars in repairs. And found about 2.5k in meth shard in the house, slwe flushed it \ud83d\ude02. The worst of it all, he cause Me and my family emotional trauma through all of this. He would call my mom an average of 80 times a day while working. She would work 12 hours shifts everyday to keep us a float. \n\nHe always had the mentality that he could easily beat up Dwayne \"The Rock\" Johnson with one arm. He would often try fighting me in my own house. He never did anything but after the first time he tried fighting me I learned quick how to be a man. A good man, I had to defend my mother against this crazed tweaker....Punk wasnt a man, but a child stuck in the body of a man. \n\nDue to his action we had made a good connection with the police since they were called more often then we like. The police didn't like Punk, the neighbors didn't like Punk, My family didn't like Punk. The only one who did was my mother. I felt powerless and alone due to her constant enabling of him. \n\nI had to act so I did. When he came over last year during fall time to pick some stuff. Painting equipment, his works shoes and a 9mm pistol in the safe. W hen I heard was picking up the gun I called my mom and I was yelling at her over the phone that she would allow him here with a gun. He was in the garage waiting outside but decided to let himself in without my permission. I did was any sane would do. I gave him the gun after I cleared it and took the clip out. I was trying to get him to leave asap but I knew he can't be trusted with a gun. Hes a felon if you forgot, he is not allowed to own any fire arm. I am forced to give him the clip and I make sure to lock him out. \n\nI pick up the phone and dial 911 immediately. I tell them there a felon walking south bound from my location with a gun. 8 cops pull up in less then a couple minutes. I live in an alright area so having this many police cars all at once meant there were already trying to caught him, I tell the officers where he went to the best of my ability and I filed a report on him. He was caught a couple weeks later with the gun, making his current charges being pressed him go up to 8 in total. I cause him to get federal agents involved and everything. He is currently in jail serving 8 years in county jail. \n\nI never told my mother that I called the cops on him for the gun. Am I an asshole for doing this? Every person deserves a second chance in my book but for him I'll make an exception. Sorry for the long post but I can tell you guys more stories about the \"Punk\" if youd like too. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iHIgrrJvmzm5HyG12ktwevV3mgP4Byaa", "post_id": "b2j9p2", "action": {"description": "not letting my fathers daughter see her birth", "pronormative_score": 31, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I didn\u2019t let my fathers daughter see her birth?", "text": "For context here is some back ground:\n\nWill be married a year in June right before our daughter is due. I am filing for divorce this month even though in my state it will not be finalized until after she is here; I moved home from his military duty station (3000+ miles away) to my family, to escape a mentally and emotionally abusive marriage. There has been sexual harassment from him that has fueled most of the destruction of our relationship. Combined with (my speculation of) him having BPD and refusal to get treatment, abuse of alcohol, physical violence like punching holes in walls when he was politely turned down from sex & the fact we could not agree on counseling or therapy until I had already decided it was best for me to remove myself from the situation. \n\nHe makes me cringe. I have had nightmares of him sexual assaulting/raping me. The thought of even seeing him at her birth fills me with dread and anxiety. He acts like it\u2019s no big deal. He is very entitled and narcissistic. \n\nI am considering not letting him be in the actual room while I am laboring/giving birth. At first I figured I would just do it all by myself and have only doctors/nurses in the room. But since I have decided I would probably only like my mother and my step mother in the room. As I feel they would be the most respectful, helpful and calming people to be there with me on that special day. I fear if I let stbxh in the room, he will make things uncomfortable and it will make me very anxious and ruin the special day. I feel sometimes I am being selfish, but then again giving birth is a lot of trauma and I feel like I deserve to be comfortable. Help!", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 31, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 31, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SDnN6t6kLDelXcULwx5qR3tIwM7YGIt3", "post_id": "afrk74", "action": {"description": "ignoring an old friend", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ignoring an old friend.", "text": "Tldr at bottom\n\nI used to hang around this one friend for a couple of years and over time we got really close to the point where we would only hang out with each other, but during this friendship she told me that she has history with cancer and that she used to suffer from it, she also had told me that her father was really abusive to her and she would come to school every other month with bandages over some part of her body. This lead me to get very protective over her which pushed me away from some of my other friends.\n\nFast forward a year or so and I find out that she has boyfriend who is also very abusive, but whenever I would try to meet him he wouldn't show up and she would give an excuse for why, I didn't think much of it but I knew that if I ever met her boyfriend I would have fought him. As much as I hated him I was also informed of a friend of hers that would treat her like shit and sometimes fight with her, I tried meeting with this friend of hers as well, but just like before the person wouldn't show up and she would give another excuse as for why.\n\nThis went on for about another year and after that I was starting to get a bit skeptical of everything she has told me so far because none of it would match up. She would say she got abused but had no bruises or marks, she would say she went out of the country for the weekend but people say they saw her in the city. So I am starting to have my doubts with most things she says.\n\nFew months later she starts telling me that she is suffering from a disease that could kill her, but nor she or the doctors know what it is. This starts getting me and some of my other friends worried again but this time we thought of a plan. She would usually bring a note from the nurse that was caring for her every so often, so I thought that if I kept one note and compare the handwriting to one of her hand written assignments for school then I could tell if she was lying, I checked the handwriting and they both matched perfectly. This basically confirmed my suspicion that she was lying through all of it and had made me lose sight of caring for myself and others and made me focus only on her, so I decides that instead of taking any drastic measures I would just stop talking to her no matter what,even if she talked to me directly I would stay dead silent.\n\nThe plan was going well and I already noticed improvements on myself and my academics, but now she has been hanging around my friends alot more and forcing us into the same room, now my friends are starting to tell me that it's getting awkward whenever the both of us are around because they dont feel comfortable ignoring her (which I understand and its their choice if they want to hang out with her). So now I ask you Reddit, am I the asshole for making my friends uncomfortable whenever the both of us are around?\n\nTldr; friend lied to me for years about abuse and cancer, which has caused me to give her a long term silent treatment, but now she hangs out with my current friends and they say that it's awkward and they feel like they have to pick a side which is what I dont want them to do", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "y1sBNVoIREBu19hikRq3bgYEQ2qUQ83I", "post_id": "a1036g", "action": {"description": "deciding I don't want to move in with gf and her older sister and child after a month of looking for places", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for deciding I don't want to move in with gf and her older sister and child after a month of looking for places?", "text": "We've been thinking about moving in with together for the last month or so but I've been on the fence about the whole situation. After giving it a good amount of thought, moving in with them wouldn't be the best idea for myself or for my relationship with my gf. \nFinancially, I'm currently the only person with a stable job, which was my first red flag. My second red flag would be that I would be moving over an hour away, whist still keeping my job in the current city where I live. That would add over 10+ hours of driving per week! It wouldn't be the best next step for our relationship either. To be moving into a place with her, her sister and her nephew, wouldn't be the best at all. Her sister and kid are great, but I don't think moving in with them is something I want either.\nSo after a month of us looking for a place to move, I had come to my conclusion that it wasn't something I wanted or deemed a good idea for myself and let them know. I do feel bad for what seems like wasting a month of our time, but I also feel like I saved myself from a bad situation later on. AITA for doing this? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WFnqi7pbt8TAyfax3You3sFwPv62n3Ft", "post_id": "b31tv3", "action": {"description": "telling my dad I'll be okay if he dies", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my Dad I'll be okay if he dies?", "text": "A few months back, my dad had a massive heart attack and found out at the same time he has been a diabetic. For someone who has had relatively no health scares in his life, this was quite a shock. He had not been to a doctor in over 10 years, and these problems had been lying dormant in him for who knows how long. While we were in the emergency room, he was bawling his eyes out, apologizing to me for not being a good Dad (even though he has!), and for not taking better care of himself. It was a really strong emotional moment, and I just held him and said it was okay and that everything would be okay. My Mom died when I was 12, so I think him leaving me behind has always been a huge anxiety for him. At one point he asked if I would be okay if he died, and I said I would -- because he raised me well, and I'll be able to look after myself and my family okay. He didn't say anything at the time, but was still really distraught. \n\n​\n\nMy aunt was in the room at the same time, and pulled me aside furious. \"You DO need him, and don't ever tell someone you will be okay when they die, that is just heartless,\" she said. \"You just made him feel worthless.\" Of course that was not my intention at all, but seeing it through that perspective, I feel absolutely terrible telling my Dad I'll be fine when he actually does die. I care about him, and I'll be absolutely devastated, but I know life will go on. I don't know if my aunt was out of line, or if it was me. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "z6iLRNdoVlT48d7Qe1XFG0f0D0DcmD5w", "post_id": "ap9rg4", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my girlfriend over text", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my girlfriend over text?", "text": "Now hear me out please. Recently our relationship had been going downhill quite a bit. For the last few weeks we almost didn't have a day, on which we weren't arguing.\n\nToday I visited my father because I hadn't seen him for over a month. Originally I also planned to see her today for a few hours, which I still would, but only for about an hour. I only told her about it today, because I figured I'd need some more time with my dad.\n\nFast forward a few hours, I get to her place and she is very cold to me. She was angry about a previous fight, for which I apologised. Afterwards I ask her how she feels and she told me she was very pissed about me constantly changing my plans. We had a bit of a back and forth, at the end of which she told me, that half an hour was already a \"short while\" (my words, when I told her I wouldn't be there any longer). I ask her if she wants me to leave, to which she responds \"I don't care\". Obviously I left.\n\nAbout an hour and a half later she messages me about how hurt she felt about me not messaging her. I had gotten home, made food and was eating at the time. I tell her exactly that and also tell her how I'm sorry about that and how I feel with the situation (not too great). We seem to be getting somewhere, despite the fact that she still is angry and hurt.\n\nI tell her we might talk this through in person on Tuesday, a day she initially proposed. She then says, Tuesday won't work, because she has to go babysitting. Okay, so some other day then? Maybe?\n\nA bit later she tells me, she would come over (We only live 20 minutes apart), but that it would be pointless with how I behave. I can't answer her, cause I'm eating with my family. I answer her, once we're done. In the meantime she wrote messages about how I don't care for her at all. I apologise for not answering and tell her I can't, as my family and I were watching a film together.\n\nNow she starts berating me how everyone she knows would prefer making up with their partner over watching a film with their family. I tell her I'm sorry, but I made those plans before she offered to come over. She starts about how I didn't care for her, how she's hurt and exclaims, that she doesn't want to see me for a few days or maybe forever. I then ask her if that means she's breaking up with me, but she dodges the question, telling me how I would need to make steps for us to stay together because she wouldn't.\n\nReading through our messages and giving it a good long thought, I realise we need to break up, because we only hurt each other. I spill the beans on her and tell her how I think we would need to break up. I still love her and I want her to be happy rather than be together with her. I only did it at this point, because even though she agreed with me that we should talk in person, she didn't stop making accusations about how I didn't care.\n\n\nI Know, breaking up over text is shitty, but otherwise this rollercoaster would've kept on going until we would see each other again (probably a week or so), at which point, I would still tell her the same thing.\n\nSo Reddit, AITA?\n\nNo TL;DR, because holy fuck, how?\n\nPS: We're both 18 and going to university if this somehow helps. I'll gladly answer questions as this is terribly one-sided, but I'll go to sleep first. I'll answer in about six/seven hours", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XIWf7WKZjCN9bAMSZg7h8978opTgp8cV", "post_id": "apz0dy", "action": {"description": "rejecting non-virgins", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 26}, "title": "AITA for rejecting non-virgins?", "text": "Weird question maybe, but anyway! I'm 18 and a guy for context. Let's just jump to the point; I won't date girls who aren't virgins. Every time I've been interested in or flirting with a girl and she mentions not being a virgin I lose all interest in her, and keep my distance. I just do, literally 0% interest if they've had sex before. I don't block them or get mad or anything, I'm totally up for having them as buddies or whatever, but a fair few girls who I've rejected for this reason have gotten really pissed and said I'm \"slutshaming\" and that I'm sexist and controlling and shit. \n\nAre they right? I don't have any bad feelings towards them, it's just that any romantic interest sort of evaporates if they're not virgins, or have had several exes or whatever. I don't want to deal with them after that tbh", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 25, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 7}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 26}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "LpXEGnIKIwyyWNeJWO63elHKlvNXaEau", "post_id": "b3zx9p", "action": {"description": "not sharing my video streaming account", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not sharing my video streaming account?", "text": "A family member (that makes more money than me) just asked for my account so they can watch Game of Thrones. I want them to be able to watch, but feel weird about sharing my account. AITA if I say no?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AOTDhBbiGPXqdPJ8qISoZaZIw8LrWZ8p", "post_id": "apaufa", "action": {"description": "keeping my parents from tracking my phone", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I kept my parents from tracking my phone.", "text": "Background info: I'm about to turn 19 and I'm halfway through my 2nd semester of college and my parents still track me through my phone via the Life360 app. Them tracking my phone made sense to me when I first started driving because I was in high school and maybe they wanted to track my driving habits. But now since I'm in college, I'm realizing it's a little ridiculous.\n\nTheir reasons behind it is that I'm the eldest child and the first to leave the house, making my mother anxious. Also there's the history with my family and making poor life decisions when leaving for college. And I understand that they don't want me going down the same path, but I have literally never rebelled. For example, my parents had to physically force me to not go to school for senior skip day. That's how much of a \"goody two shoes\" I was and still am.\n\nThey're afraid of me making poor life decisions like getting drunk or having an unintentional pregnancy but I've never expressed any interest in any of these activities.\n\nSo to the problem at hand: I'm trying to be more social but I can't exactly do that when my parents are breathing down my neck all the time. They will literally question me about my whereabouts when I'm not in my dorm or in class, even if it's just to go to the mall or get food off of campus. It wouldn't be that bad if they didn't question and call me about where I am so much (which is almost everyday). It's not like I want to do anything bad or illegal, I'd just like a little bit of freedom.\n\nI've expressed this to my parents but they're adamant on tracking me. When I try to explain that I'm 19, my mother says that she's a grown adult and \\*she\\* still has the app on her phone.\n\nSo WIBTA if I just turned the app off even though they told me explicitly not to?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mBHNCVVtJt75sQ9xobZQTMnh0nFLx392", "post_id": "b9x5qn", "action": {"description": "joking that a tv actor my fianc\u00e9e likes is \"way out of her league\"", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 17}, "title": "AITA for joking that a TV actor my fianc\u00e9e likes is \u201cway out of her league\u201d?", "text": "I am 23 and my fianc\u00e9 is 21. We\u2019ve been together over a year. I love her a lot. She is beautiful to me and really smart and funny. But she suffers from low self esteem. We do like to joke around though and both have a pretty \u201cdark\u201d sense of humour. \n\nYesterday we were watching The Bachelor and she commented on how attractive Colton was. I joked and asked if she would leave me for him, and she said jokingly, \u201cDuh, of course.\u201d I replied without thinking, \u201cToo bad he\u2019s way out of your league!\u201d\n\nShe immediately stopped smiling. I asked her what was wrong. She said under her breath \u201cCant believe Im marrying such an ass.\u201d Then got up from the table and left. She\u2019s now making dinner angrily.\n\nI have apologized. I said I was just joking. But she refuses to say anything to me. \n\nAITA for joking? It was clearly a joke but it seems like I struck a nerve. \n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 9, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 17}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "rP1AaYrDaKfMUDtJac2BqtkrnfGt2EUN", "post_id": "axqzec", "action": {"description": "not going to my mom's birthday", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not going to my mom's birthday?", "text": "My mom's birthday party is on the 9th and I have laser eye surgery on the 10th (did this intentionally) and she invited me to come home and i refused. While it was totally possible to go to Bucharest and come back to Ia\u0219i in one day, I decided not to.\n\nNow a little backstory. I was pretty much raised by my sister until I left for college and got a house there. One day in November i bought one game for my brother for his birthday and he wanted 2 games and I made him choose one. He chose one but mom was fuming because of my decision and tried to take my credit card to buy both of what my brother wanted. I of course said no and then we began an argument in the middle of the store. She began saying about what she did for me (even though she ain't done shit in the last 20+ years) and she said that I HAVE TO ADMIT THAT I'M HER PROPERTY!?.\nI of course refused and she bwgan going haywire, but after everything happened, I bought my brother Splatoon 2 and my mom was speechless the rest of the way. When we arrived home she just kicked me out with nothing so my sister took my things and I slept at her house (I love her).\n\nBecause I won't admit I'm her property\nI couldn't come home for Christmas and she will not talk to me until I admit it.\n\nI was honestly surprised when i received a call because I expected her to be sorry but she wanted me home because she wanted to show me off to her friends basically. So I declined her invitation and ended the call by her first name.\n\nThere was much more dialogue about her dissowning me and screaming at me, that i posted on r/entitledparents a couple of weeks ago but I don't want this to be too long.\n\nTl;dr: Mom wants for me to come to her birthday even though she thinks I'm her property...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xRzkiSc8knBn0n1iAE4IZEHjReeN5jOz", "post_id": "b3tsfv", "action": {"description": "wanting my friend to do his own dishes when he comes over", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for wanting my friend to do his own dishes when he comes over?", "text": "I'm twenty years old, as is my friend. I recently moved into my first apartment. We're pretty good friends, so he is over often. He always left dishes in the sink, never TONS but definitely several. \n\nOne day, I confronted him about it. Basically \"hey we're both adults here, do you mind washing your dishes?\" \n\nHe was upset with me, as \"hosts do the cleaning for their guests\". \n\nThe problem is I'm not a host and hes not a guest, we are best friends and he is over all the time. I'm not his parent and I don't want to dishes that he is perfectly capable of doing himself. \n\nAm I being an asshole ? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lfjCbQfphRt9V32oprNbnA3Ag3TseHkr", "post_id": "amxcjr", "action": {"description": "telling my gf that I'd break up with her if she got the tattoos and piercings she really wants to get", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "WIBTA if I [20] told my gf [21] that I'd break up with her if she got the tattoos and piercings she really wants to get.", "text": "So my girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years now and everything is going great, like stupidly great; to the point where I'm considering entering a long term engagement with her. In fact, we are planning to move in with each other after college is through (1 year from now) However, in the last 6 months she's started to really get into tattoos and piercing, about 3 months ago she impulsively went and got a tattoo of a cat with a witches hat on her ankle, she didn't even have a design in mind until she got to the shop, but it's small and lacks detail so it really isn't all that bad, kinda cute tbh. Now though, it's opened up the rabbit hole, here's a list of things she wants to get\n\n1)\"Photorealistic Harry Potter dragon baby\" on her left thigh, covering all of it\n\n2)\"A dragonfly and fancy design\" on her lower back (it's a tramp stamp guys) \n\n3)\"a TARDIS\" from doctor who on her right shoulder\n\n4) Two \"button\" piercings on her lower back, above the dragon fly \n\n5)Industrial piercings \n\n6)Collarbone piercings \n\n7) Chandelier style undercarriage (under the breasts) tattoo\n\n8) inner ear piercings\n\n9) some quote tattoo'd on her left shoulder blade  \n\nIt's progressed past talks now, I've always mentioned my distaste for this kinda thing but also don't want to impede her autonomy. Now she's starting to look at designs and studios around our area. I honestly don't think I could look at her the same way should she just become a human sketchpad, to the point where I think I'd have to leave her. I do love her, it even hurts like hell writing this post. I also don't want to hurt her. So my question is this, would I be the asshole if I told her I'd break up with her if she went through with her plans? \n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SBEDCwOJziN76oBTDhmBKCYrYuiA6Efz", "post_id": "ammj6c", "action": null, "title": "AITA Dishes Debacle (teen vs parents)", "text": "**Be warned, this is my first time posting on Reddit, so bear with me, please.**\n\nTo begin, I'm fifteen and I've been the sole person doing daily dishes in my house for the last five years with very few exceptions. The only times I haven't been the one doing the dishes is when I'm sick and my mom is paranoid about me being contagious (this happens maybe once or twice a year), a 10-day vacation out-of-state with my grandmother to visit extended family that happened two years ago, and one parent and I co-oping with one person rinsing and the other loading and emptying the dishwasher (usually after big/fancy dinners or after hosting Thanksgiving).  I've been doing this so long that I have organized the kitchen so that everything fits somewhere and can be found in seconds if I'm asked. \"Jasper? Where's the salad spinner?\" It's at the back of the bottom shelf of the lazy susan directly to the left of the oven. \"Where's the hand mixer?\" The body is, again, bottom shelf of the lazy susan, but it's in the front on the left side. The metal beaters are in the middle drawer to the right of the oven. You get it. I'm passionate about my chores and I take them seriously since my parents told me to and I see how important the job is.\n\nSince I'm the only one that really does dishes in my house and I'm aspiring to be a chef, I really care about things in the kitchen getting cleaned efficiently and being put away properly. The thing is, my parents don't have the same idea. To them, dirty dishes are put next to or in the sink and they show up the next day back in the cupboard practically brand new. That's my work being done. Every day after school (or around noon on the weekends), I spend at least an hour rinsing dishes, loading them into the dishwasher, and putting the fully cleaned ones away. It's a daily task that gets me little reward other than a small \"Thank you\" from my mom about once a month and not being yelled at for \"being lazy.\" It's not a hard job, it's just monotonous and necessary to our family unit of four; I'm not complaining about having to do this in the first place, I just want my role to be respected. Usually, I'm uninhibited, but sometimes, my parent's don't follow my system that I've developed over the years and have explained to them several times.\n\nHere's where things go wrong.\n\nAll I ask for them to do are two things. A) Since we have a split sink, my parents place their dishes on the left side (or on the counter if the sink is full) because that's where the garbage disposal is and it won't make a mess that I would have to clean up on top of my other chores (getting my brother home from school, washing the floors, vacuuming the stairs, etc). B) That they don't place dirty dishes on cleaned dishes that are drying on the counter or are sitting in the right side of the sink. **These are literally the only things I bug them about other than my own health or asking to hang out with friends.** All of this is on top of 4 AP classes at my high school with large workloads and hours of homework on weekdays, my devotion to my high school concert band on weekdays and plenty of time out-of-class practicing, going to fundraisers, and going to sporting events for pep band, and driver's ed on the weekends.\n\nDispite these seemingly simple requests, they are almost never followed. \n\nAlmost daily, I can find plates coated in hot sauce or ketchup, bowls that are still half-full of cereal and milk, or whole chicken nuggets and fries in the right side of the sink, which I have explicitly set aside for rinsed dishes that didn't fit into the dishwasher the day before. What this does is get the dishes already rinsed dirty again, meaning I have to rinse them again, and dirty the side of the sink that should only come into contact with water and soap because of it's lack of a safe way to dispose of pieces of food. No matter how many times I explain it, they do it again and again! I tell them the same things I wrote here, and they sigh and say, \"Whatever,\" in an extremely child-like and anger-laced manner that should be coming from me and not my own parents! Again, **I am 15**. My Dad is **42**, and my mom is **38**. I feel like I am being more mature than they are in this situation. Please tell me if I'm wrong here.\n\nAs for the other rule, there are a few dishes in my house that can't go into the dish washer because of their size, shape, weight, or material. Some examples include a heavy cast-iron pot (which I hate), two cookie sheets that are susceptible to rust, some fun swirly straws that my little brother likes that melt and become misshaped in hot water, and a wok that takes up an entire rack in the dishwasher. All of these things are frequently used and I usually hand wash them and set them on the counter on top of a towel to dry. Here's the problem: my parents set dirty dishes onto the clean and drying dishes and get food on them. It's not like they're in the sink or unmarked, which I would understand their confusion for, but I think I've made things clear. To those of you asking, \"Why not wipe them dry with the towel?\", I'd like to ask you if you would consider yourself clean after getting out of a normal shower and drying yourself with a muddy towel? If your answer is anything but \"no,\" no offense, but I think you might need a lesson in basic hygiene. So, I go the safe route and set the side of the dish that won't contact food on the towel and the other is exposed open to the air so it can dry before it's put away. This effort is completely void when my parents place their unwashed dishes onto them. I'm met with the same response when I try and get them to follow the other rule. Not only that, but they also complain that they're dirty when they go to use them! Any advice on how to keep these dishes clean and avoid conflict or should I suck it up and just wash them a million times between their uses?\n\ntldr: I'm devoted to my job in doing the dishes and I have a system that's efficient and makes things easier on me, who's a teen taking a ton of AP classes, doing several other chores daily, and preparing for my driving tests within the next month. When my parents don't follow my guidelines to keep things as simple as possible for me, I confront them and ask them to follow the guidelines I put out (honestly, sometimes I can be pretty rude about it just out of frustration, but I try to stay calm and polite), I get responses befitting children younger than me.\n\nSo, I need to know, am I the asshole for asking my parents to follow two basic rules for where to put their dishes so I can clean them easily? And are there any recommendations for how I can make things easier for myself?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Lxy4xGpoGQSBc3X6BtD2YLu9mODB6BxN", "post_id": "aarc0s", "action": {"description": "suddenly moving out of my boyfriend's apartment without telling him", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I suddenly moved out of my boyfriend\u2019s apartment without telling him?", "text": "Long story short I moved into an apartment back in July and started dating one of my roommates. Ever since it\u2019s been crazy ups and downs, he\u2019s cheated on me, he\u2019s been emotionally abusive and has told me multiple times he would do everything to keep me off the lease in January once it renews. I figured out that he would kick me out when he would tell the other girl that she would move in.\n\nI made the decision to leave after I heard from the other girl that he drove five hours to see her when she didn\u2019t want to be seen and then hit her and choked her. He\u2019s never been violent with me or damaged my possessions but it scares me.\n\nI want to just leave him now and not deal with him treating this way or inevitably begging for me back days/weeks later. I want to move out suddenly and without warning. I paid my last month of rent to him already and I signed a paper stating I would not be signing the lease renewal, but I haven\u2019t told him. He has other people coming in and I know he can afford the apartment even without my share (especially with others coming in January) but I would essentially be ghosting him, leaving the key, and moving all of my stuff at a time when he\u2019s not around. I have been planning to cut communication with him after that because the abuse scares me, but he\u2019s never actually done it to me and he\u2019s been a good friend lately. WIBTA?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UmhdS7Bj6JahXgik5mMvFCSd4wlY7O15", "post_id": "b1oir1", "action": {"description": "telling my boyfriend it was my way or tbe highway", "pronormative_score": 83, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for telling my boyfriend it was my way or tbe highway?", "text": "Context: [TL:DR at the bottom]\n\nMy boyfriend [19] and I [F18] have been together about a month and a half. We really just clicked in the very beginning and he's talked about how comfortable and safe he feels with me, and I honestly (even now) feel the same. \n\nNow, he's mentioned that he can get pretty irrationally angry about stuff, but I used to be one angry motherfucker about literally anything and everything, so I didn't really mind, so long as nothing came of it. \nI'm not saying I'm fail-proof, but I honestly hadn't gotten any red flags for the violent / abusive type. We were just two teenagers enjoying each other's company. \n\nWell, tonight I got a glimpse of what he actually meant when he mentioned his anger issues. \n\nWe were walking back to his place after getting dinner and some iced tea; we each had our own cups, they were just your regular plastic cups so nothing too...hard. \n\nHe was walking in front of me and I made a quip about something and tapped him in the back of the leg with my foot. \n\nHe paused for half a second then whipped around and threw his tea, cup and all, right into my face. Luckily, it was iced, so I didn't get burns or anything. \n\nI was honestly pretty angry. It got everywhere, and initially kinda hurt a little bit. I didn't say anything, I just stormed off and went back to his place to grab my shit and leave...\n\n\nWell he came in about five seconds behind me, having said nothing as well. I stood there and cried and asked why he hadn't just told me he was mad that I had jabbed him, and he apologized twenty times over. He said he didn't even register the anger at first, he just reacted, but he immediately regretted it afterwards. \n\nHere's where the AITA comes in: I told him that I wanted him to get therapy to work on his anger issues. I said that he was going to get help, or I was leaving. That if it happened again, I was leaving. And that was that. \n\nHe promised he would get help and that he felt terrible about it, and we laid down and talked for a little while longer, and now I'm home. \n\nTL:DR: My boyfriend has mentioned he can sometimes be irrationally angry. Figured it was sort of just \"teenage boy syndrome\" and shrugged it off. Tonight, he threw his cup of tea at me. I told him he either got professional help for it or I was leaving, and I'm absolutely going to hold him to it. My way or the highway - but I'll be the one hitting the road. \n\nAm I being too pushy? I've never handled this kind of thing before. Is there a better way I should've gone about it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 83, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 83, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "D4ZVPCfD1idMW8KIAtxnvyw4F8aywOrE", "post_id": "b08kql", "action": {"description": "hating my unstable brother", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for hating my unstable brother?", "text": "My brother is in his early 30s (I\u2019m in my early 20s) and my whole entire life he has made my parents lives hell, all the while he thinks that he is the one who is being targeted. He got sent to rehab when he was finished with high school, and has since become addicted to weed (you may think that\u2019s not possible but he can\u2019t go a single hour without being high now). My two brothers and I were lucky enough to have wealthy grandparents, so we have all of that money now, and he pissed his away on frivolous shit, and is now asking my parents for money. Whenever he gets asked any sort of question that makes him uncomfortable, he shuts down, plays the victim, and storms off. When this happens, he\u2019ll yell, curse everyone out, all in all act like a huge baby. Yesterday, my parents asked how he spent $200 on his grocery order, and he went ballistic. He said, \u201cthis is absurd I don\u2019t need to answer to you. Fuck you, I hate you,\u201d to my parents... but the thing is they have every right to know because they are paying for his goddamn groceries. I drove him to the train short after that, and I flipped on him and told him to grow up and learn to have an adult conversation, yelling and saying the world is against you when people disagree is extremely unhealthy. Well... he lost it. He said that he knows now that I\u2019m one less person in the family he can trust, he punched my dashboard on my car, he literally tore his book apart with his teeth, and he threw it out the window. The way he looked at me, I thought he legitimately was going to punch me in the face. I was scared so I followed him out of the car when he stormed off and hugged him to calm him down, but I have legitimate disdain for him because of the way he has always treated my family. I don\u2019t know what to do because he broke down and said he\u2019s a burden on all of us, and I said that\u2019s not true, but he knows he is sort of the black sheep. AITA for feeling this way about him? He\u2019s my brother but he has made everyone\u2019s lives hell because of how he treats us, and I don\u2019t know how to handle his victim mentality anymore", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qRDamtoosotrngja0IFzPDpI7NTbqfNR", "post_id": "ba05x7", "action": {"description": "being mad at my parents for helping me out", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being mad at my parents for helping me out?", "text": "This is literally happening right now and I want to know if I\u2019m actually in the wrong or not. \n\nTomorrow I have to make some baked goods to sell at my high school craft fair to raise money for the National Honor Society. I was planning on making a cream cheese crescent roll bar thing because it\u2019s delicious and easy. I had school till 3 and I had to work at 4, so I didn\u2019t have time to pick up the supplies to make it. My mom said she was going to the store and she would just pick up the supplies. I told her 4 separate times that I was going to make it myself when I got off of work at 11 because I wanted to discourage her from taking it upon herself to make it. I had a particular way I wanted to do it. \n\nWhile at work, I got a text from my parents saying that they made the dessert as well as some muffins that I wasn\u2019t even planning on making. At this point I was upset that they didn\u2019t listen to me, but I wasn\u2019t going to make a big deal because they thought they were helping out. I get home and find out that my parents baked it wrong, so I could only use about half of it and they didn\u2019t cut it they way I wanted to. Most of the dessert was ruined and they used all the supplies. \n\nI told my parents both that I was very appreciative that they thought they were helping, but I wished that they had listened to my wishes. My mom was very apologetic and legitimately feels bad. \n\nMy dad screamed at me about how I was ungrateful, even though I had stressed how I appreciated that they were trying to help. \n\nMy mom stuck up for me, but I\u2019m still crying in my bathroom right now wondering if AITA and I should\u2019ve just sucked it up and dealt with it silently. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "k9A6jUP0strLhZxS14M8loJ1217cRXdW", "post_id": "aws78n", "action": null, "title": "AITA that long distance GF got mad at me because I attended family gathering", "text": "First post, mobile phone, english not first language etc. Sorry about all of that.\n\nTl;dr - Title says all\n\nBackstory: I have been together with this girl from another country for about half year. We know each other for more than 8 years. This is the second time she came to visit since we started dating. Like last time, we rented apartment to spend weekend in (she paid for it; might be relevant, idk).\n\nDetails of event: Last night I had family gathering. My cousin celebrated birthday. I told my GF in advance that I would have to attend this event, she said it is ok, and she made other plans for evening.\n\nI did not give her exact time when will I be coming back to apartment, maybe I told her around 11pm. We left together at 5pm. She went shopping, after that she went to meet with cousin.\n\nShe texted me around 8pm saying that she came back to apartment. I texted back that dinner is just starting. Skip to the 12pm, I am entering apartment (a bit tipsy from drinking), she is sleeping. So I kissed her on the cheek and went to bed. She then got up and went to bathroom, and she saw me awake, but did not tell me anything.\n\nThis was our last evening in apartment. Just now, she got up, she gathered all her things, and left. Before she left, I told her \"is this really necessary?\". She told me \"put yourself in my place, I sat for 4 hours by myself (drinking wine), while you drank somewhere else\", and stormed out slamming the door.\n\nSo, AITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ORPh0swJjn1v3GfuPYuBA1bFHep5NKhq", "post_id": "b669uf", "action": {"description": "wanting a small wedding", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting a small wedding?", "text": "I recently proposed to my girlfriend, she said yes. She wants to start planning the wedding but we have very different ideas on what we want. She wants a huge wedding with everyone we know, whereas I want it to be as small as possible. I have struggled with self confidence my whole life and hate being the centre of attention. The thought of a massive wedding is terrifying to me. Sounds like an entire day of 300 people staring at me while I do things im uncomfortable with, like dancing and giving a speech. I know my wife has been dreaming of the perfect wedding her whole life and I dont want to dissappoint her, but im sure I will ruin her wedding if theres any more than a few people there. I feel like either way she will hate her wedding day because of me and I dont know what to do.\n\nHer parents have already given her ideas of venues and things and they seem to be expecting to have a few hundred people there, and they seem to not care about the cost of it. I would rather spend the money on other things than hosting that many people. I know its her wedding and she should be allowed do have the wedding she wants, but I also want to have a say in it and am really worried about what she is planning. I don't know if i should be honest with her about what I want/am comfortable with.\n\nWIBTA for telling her I want a really small wedding?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 11, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8fiZLA93oZZN5sQnd2XrwkdS4aZggLqa", "post_id": "b5xx2u", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my girlfriend cause of her petty lies", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my girlfriend cause of her petty lies?", "text": "I just broke up with my girlfriend no more than 20 minutes ago. When we hang out she makes these little elaborate stories to try and impress me but I know for a fact most of it is BS because we work in the same field and have a-lot of the same connections. My thinking for breaking up was if she is gonna lie about minimal things shes gonna lie about bigger things. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "l2wDfNfLdl7XZMRfybct0dWXJDztFSeF", "post_id": "awq1nk", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my boyfriend for being a creationist", "pronormative_score": 45, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "WIBTA if I broke up with my boyfriend for being a Creationist?", "text": "We have been dating for a year. I'm Agnostic and a firm evolution believer. He's a Christian, studies molecular & microbiology, and believes in microevolution but *not* macroevolution for several reasons:\n\n1. He thinks that there are too many holes in the theory of evolution for it to hold true\n2. Humans haven't been around long enough to witness and document development between two species\n3. He used to be an Atheist and did his own research to come to his belief in Christianity/Creationism for macroevolution\n\nI tried to have this conversation with him multiple times over the last few months, and he gave me some examples like the Cambrian explosion and woodpecker tongue, which (I think) are classic examples of what Creationists use to argue against evolution, though they don't \"debunk\" the theory as a whole. I understand that evolution is not a perfect theory - and, like general relativity and many other theories of science, there are going to be holes. But I feel like that evolution's inability to explain certain events doesn't mean direct intervention from a higher being - and, instead, just means we need to keep refining and improving the theory.\n\nHe says that there are people with PhDs in the science and theological fields who debate this on a regular basis and that one side can always provide a rebuttal for the other's argument, that it's a never-ending cycle of arguments that is up to each of us to determine which side we think holds more credibility. Ultimately, he decided that it was Creationism. I decided it was evolution.\n\nI just think that you can't use theology to debate science (and he does - because he believes Christianity to be truth), but there is just so much overwhelming evidence for evolution in the science community, I just can't wrap my head around the fact that he is also a scientist yet believes this. We're both planning to work in the science field together in the future.\n\n​\n\nSo... would it be narrow-minded of me to break up because he's a Creationist? WIBTA?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 28, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 45, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nZt7g8dlEyUE6b8Ycp01GnslKkOTuLPl", "post_id": "ajd6wc", "action": {"description": "wanting to move out of shared apartment with coworker", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to move out of shared apartment with coworker", "text": "I moved in with a friend from college 4 months ago, after we got the same job right after graduation. I told him I was applying and he decided to apply for the exact same position as me. We both ended up getting the job, and currently we work alone in the same room. We decided to live together since we would save a lot on rent.\n\nAt first it was fine, we were carpooling to work and enjoying living together, but I cannot stand him any more. He is very into UFC and fighting in general, and always talks about how he wants to fight people. He shadowboxes in the living room and kitchen all the time, and even in the lab we work in. At some point, he started pretending to hit me and would direct his air punches and kicks at me even though I told him to stop. I don't like it and it makes me feel uncomfortable around the house sometimes, but that is not enough for me personally to break a lease.\n\nThe big issue I have is his lack of respect for the fact that I have a say who stays in our house. He has been dating his girlfriend for a few years, and they are planning on moving in together next year. She stays over 3-4 nights in a row at least every other weekend, usually a few consecutive ones. I've lived with people in relationships before, and it has never been a problem, but these two are possibly the most annoying couple I have ever known. After politely asking a few times, they have just recently slowed down on basically hooking up in front of me in the living room and speaking only in baby talk to each other all the time.\n\nI know that he has a right to spend time with his girlfriend, so I have only said no when he asked if she could stay over once. He has also only ever asked if she could stay once, I usually get about a 5 minute notice that she will be arriving soon or I come home to her already at my house. The only time I said no was when he asked if she could stay 10 days, after she had been here the past two weekends. I told him that was too long and it would make me uncomfortable. He didn't talk to me the rest of the day or the next.\n\nI thought he was just mad, but it turns out he had her over anyway. She got there when I wasn't around, and he hid her things and told her to stay in his room so I wouldn't know she was there. Someone was living in my house without me knowing for two days. I found out and I was pissed, rightfully I believe. I told him I was done, that I had started searching for a subletter already, which was true. I was planning on moving out after 30 days, to give him what I think is a proper amount of notice.\n\nAt first, he took it well, he said he thought it would be better for me since I wasn't happy living in the area we live in. But as the day went on, he slowly got more and more angry at me, saying that I was screwing him over. He tried to blame me for suggesting we move in, even though he suggested it long before I did. He also said that it wasn't fair that I felt uncomfortable and get to leave, whereas he has to live with a stranger and be uncomfortable. It started to get in the way at work, so I finally relented and agreed to finish out the lease until his girlfriend could move in and take over the lease when she graduates, still 6 months from now.\n\nI feel trapped. That was a few weeks ago, but I am still unhappy where I live. I'm tired of hearing the same heavy metal songs blasting through his door. I'm tired of him telling me that every good thing I try to do, like composting my food scraps, is pointless and that I only do it so I can feel better about myself. I can't stand being stuck in the same room for 40 hours a week with and coming home to the same person, especially when they don't respect me. It is starting to bleed over to work again, and we cannot have a conversation about anything without him trying to win an argument that I'm not trying to make.\n\nI'm afraid that finding a subletter would make him angry enough to potentially hurt my professional life. I no longer consider him a friend because I don't like how he treats me, so I don't mind that our friendship will get hurt by this. Is he right that I am screwing him over by finding a stranger to replace me?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AUAezloXumUazCbwpoAypdkBH1pbq5er", "post_id": "ata25i", "action": {"description": "reminding my mum she told me she hates me", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for reminding my mum she told me she hates me", "text": "So this literally just happened and I need to know if I'm in the wrong. A few days ago my mum was incredibly drunk and for a reason in a bad mood, she gets drunk like this a few times a week (she has a substance abuse problem) but she usually doesn't really bother me. She was going on around about something stupid when she started banging something, I was trying to sleep so I open my bedroom door and told her to shut up, apparently that was enough to solicit a bombardment of harassment with lines like \"I hate you why don't you move out if it's so bad honestly\" \"I want nothing more than for you to leave\" \"both you and your brother can get lost for all I care\" and that's just the tip of the iceberg. She shouted some more and then went to bed, in the morning he came in my room and apologised and said she was drunk and the usual stuff she told me after nights like that, I just said I was fine and then I didn't care and it didn't matter because at this point nothing fazes me and I understand she has her own problems that she takes out on me. \n\nSo today she was ranting on about how I borrowed some makeup and that turned into her just running about me in general, I get it I'm not the best daughter in the world. I just wanted her to leave me alone I was feeling really sick and just wanted to sleep but she muttered something under her breath as she left and it really ticked me off so I said \"just like the time you said you hated me\" this did not please her and she said if I was going to hold her accountable for when she was drunk than that wasn't fair. She's been annoyed with me for a few hours now, so am I in the right or wrong?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SxyGtuJ7BZJjoFBfLKqyhxHqDAh5iDPr", "post_id": "ahih9f", "action": null, "title": "AITA: Removed senior project members from file share after graduation", "text": "TL;DR: Had horrible senior project members who didnt contribute to the research or design. Removed them from the file share after graduation, removing any live access they had to files pertaining the project or the research. They now have to request the files from the professor who oversaw the project. AITA?\n\nEdit: Holy shit long post but it's all kinda relevant for the analysis of whether of AITA\n\nGraduated May 2018. Spent two semesters doing 95% of the work for my 5-member groups Senior Project at an ABET accredited Engineering university. The other four members all had little interest in project topic. All were too busy to show up to project work sessions (literal bare minimum was 1 time per week and they couldnt even do that). This is even after the project mentor (tenured engineering professor) found us a dedicated lab space to work on our project without distractions from other groups. \n\nFall semester of senior year, I did 100% of the project research, planning, and structuring myself. Literally. The only assistance the other group members gave was in actually nearing theinformation, plans, project structuring into the formatted documentation we had to submit. I purchased preliminary parts, microcontrollers, sensors, etc on my own dime because group would not meet to sign paperwork to request university backed funding. Developed initial prototypes on my own in our dedicated lab space which everyone in the group had access to.\n\nSpring semester (implementation phase)-  4/5 days of the week, all the components and controllers remained in the lab space. 1/5 days and occasionally on weekends I would take home the server board or the microcontroller to do some code work. 3 days a week I spend a minimum of one hour working in lab space waiting on group members (our dedicated and officially scheduled by universitysenior project lab time). After the dedicated, scheduled hour - I would leave and remote in to our server from home OR occasionally take server or microcontroller home as above described. I self-funded all of the materials for the final project prototype sensors, server hardware, microcontrollers, lumber for display model, designed and set up our working model for project expo that would be viewed by peers, professors, and investors. One project member spent -one- hour lab period with me to construct the rolling model display. One project member had a family member who worked as a contractor and managed to get a distribution panel for us for free. TWO of the members (the one who helped build model, and one other who hadn't helped at all yet) showed up to the high-power lab on the day that I tested our sensors and full system and collected some preliminary data. However, I was only allowed to use this particular lab if I had another peer present (given the lab had kilovolt ranged 3 phase equipment) and I had to request special key card access from other university officials to even get us in there in the first place. \n\nAll in all I spent >$500 on senior project. Two semesters of designing the hardware and software for a few custom sensor devices, designing a server and interface, countless hours of coding, soldering, circuit troubleshooting, data collection and analysis, etc. Countless hours alone in our dedicated \"group\" lab space, a literal locked room with equipment and computers, etc all for us specifically. At our expo event, where we were to present our research to peers, professors, and investors over a 4 hour period - I was the only one who spoke with any specifics or details about the research project. Any other members who spoke would do a basic introduction and hand it over to me or would very poorly try to repeat the way I had explained it to someone earlier in the day.\n\nI was just digging back through my university email, clearing out all the junk that has accumulated in the near year span that has passed since graduation. I just found an email where one of the group members had re-requested access to the project files on our file share this past fall semester (he did non graduate when I did). And now I'm wondering if im an asshole for withdrawing everyone's access. Technically speaking, the project mentor who oversaw us has all of the files and information and the prototypes that I left behind. \n\nAm I the asshole??", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9yjJjLIOK5gORjfXrP9JwXpBXi0bUSyQ", "post_id": "am6ma2", "action": {"description": "cutting my best friend of ten years out of my life because she hurt me", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for cutting my best friend of ten years out of my life because she hurt me?", "text": "So I had this very good friend, scratch that  she was my best friend. We'd known each other since high school, been  friends nearly ten years and recently it ended. We used to hang out all the time but around Hurricane Irma she started talking to me less. I hadn't heard from her in months and when I called her during that time to find out if she was okay as I was worried and had been trying to call  her for days her response was \"well this is the first time I've heard from you in a long time.\"\n\nI told her \"you stopped replying to my messages so I stopped trying but I was worried.\" \n\n Her: \"well I've just been busy living my own life and doing my own thing and if the people in my life want to follow me and keep in contact  that's cool if not then I'm better off with out them\" \n\nYes she said that to me. We talked for a while on the phone and I thought we were cool but she goes right back to ignoring me. Fast forward a bit to  later that year and I'm in a really bad accident. I rolled my car four times and almost amputated my left hand. I spent three days in the hospital and had to have major surgery. Not once did she reach out to  see if I was even alive. She couldn't even be bothered to text to me. I had reached out a few times only to be ignored and since then I have ended all contact with her and removed her from my contacts and all  social media.\n\nAs I said we had been friends for nearly ten years and there is more of this kind of behavior from her as well as her  taking credit for ideas that were mine and constantly trying to one up  me. People have told me I'm over reacting and being to sensitive about the whole situation as I'm really hurt. So I wanted to know am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7rjLTqbmL61vGxCbBfd9OTIeCZlZiDFr", "post_id": "b2p5ig", "action": {"description": "questioning my SO's wording choices", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for questioning my SO's wording choices?", "text": "  I (27F) have questioned my SO (39m)'s wording choices a few times in the past year. It started when I noticed him calling things \"gay\" when he thought they were uncool. He did it in front of my friends as he was meeting them. I brought it up and mentioned I used to say it as well, but ever since I reconsidered and stopped using that expression, I notice when people say it and it seems off. I think it's something people used to say a lot but it's getting obsolete. I know he's not actually homophobic, but he's also rather eloquent and I think he can find better suited words to express himself. He said he hadn't realized how often he uses that word and he understands how it can make people sound closed-minded... Fair enough! I was happy at how the conversation went, and he started saying it less.\n\n​\n\nThe other times were about using the terms \"cuck\" (when he referred to my ex, whom he has never met), \"shithole\" (referring to a poorer neighbourhood in our city, I told him I understood what he meant but it made him sound like an orange man) and \"yellow fever\" (he was telling a story to some of my colleagues and referencing a buddy of his who has a tendency to date Asian women. We were at a dumpling restaurant. I didn't say anything in front of my colleagues but brought it up later when we were alone). I don't correct him everytime he says something like that because I don't mean to be nitpicky and I believe some it is contextual. Casual banter is fine (and can be extremely funny), and we talk shit together. However, I think that the way we express ourselves is closely linked to how we think, and we could all benefit from taking a step back and asking ourselves what the words and expressions we use actually mean once in a while (I do this with myself a lot).\n\n​\n\nThe reason I bring this up is that last week, he told me that he feels like he felt like he has to censure himself around me and it bothers him. He said I was being oversensitive. When I did approach the subject, it was very calmly and he seemed responsive, so I was surprised by this criticism. We ended up discussing the situation, and our conclusion was that it's due to a generational clash. I guess social norms and speech are things that constantly evolve. However, I think he missed the point with the censorship because I didn't say any of those things to protect my poor little ears.. I thought he understood my point.\n\n​\n\nI really don't agree with the whole \"we can't say anything anymore because people will get their feelings hurt\". Free speech is extremely important, but if you say something shitty, people should be able to use their own freedom of speech and state that what you said is shitty. It goes both ways. Freedom of speech isn't a free pass to say anything you want without consequences...\n\n​\n\nSo, reddit, AITA? Ready to accept judgment if you think I'm a sensitive millenial snowflake!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JeIHWInydjh0VuXu6HKGxhTAb6uDyvbY", "post_id": "b40gta", "action": {"description": "taking part in a something my boyfriend disagreed with", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for taking part in a something my boyfriend disagreed with?", "text": "Hey Reddit, this irked me and I wanted some feedback.\n\nMy (19F) birthday was 2 weeks ago (March 9th my piscessssss) and this work study groupmate's birthday (22M) was on the same day and the rest of the work study group thought it would be a good idea if we exchanged presents that day and so we did.  The presents were pretty plain but my bf (20M) got really up in arms about the whole exchange because it was someone of the opposite gender. I know not to get guys presents that aren't him or like my cousins, that was only because of the shared birthday but it made me feel bad for taking part in that.\n\nI know he probably wouldn't give people that aren't me presents, so I get why he'd be angry with me over it. AITA for going with it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Iuf2ILS8x2FAj8KH3pINbgE59J2dxTpW", "post_id": "abw0z7", "action": {"description": "not wanting a friend to join in on a hangout", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting a friend to join in on a hangout?", "text": "Some context. We\u2019ll start out with my first friend, Colton. Colton and I have always had a rocky friendship. First we hated each other but we grew up and now we\u2019re closer. Sometimes he still annoys the fuck outta me and vice versa, but we always tell each other. Colton has a LOT of friends, but primarily female friends. He always keeps very close relationships with his female friends, like in the middle of hanging out he\u2019ll be ignoring what our group is doing to text. Another thing that I should mention is I like a girl who he\u2019s friends with (only recently he\u2019s become friends with her) and he\u2019s CONSTANTLY texting her. I text her too but I\u2019ll be trying to talk to him and he\u2019s ignoring me to talk to her. I asked him to set us up (she\u2019s been asking him to set her up) yet he hasn\u2019t done anything. I don\u2019t know why either. He\u2019s never said why. I\u2019ve done that for him (it didn\u2019t end up working) yet he won\u2019t for me. It really does annoy me and I tell him \u201ccome on man can\u2019t you just help a brother in anyway?\u201d And I always get ignored and then told \u201cif you ask me again I\u2019m not going to do it\u201d\n\nThing is he hasn\u2019t even said he\u2019s going to do it, and I know he\u2019s not going to now. He\u2019s straight up told me he has feelings for her too. It explains why he\u2019s not done anything, but I wish he had just said something before it started to visibly annoy me. \n\nI\u2019ve reiterated before I didn\u2019t want him to lie to her about me. I\u2019d rather she liked me for me and not some idea of me. Yet he still hadn\u2019t do anything at all. At this point I just said \u201cfuck it don\u2019t do anything. Don\u2019t say shit to her.\u201d Because I\u2019ve just been tired of this. \n\nI have this one friend from grade school, we\u2019ll call her Mariam. Mariam and I were never close really, but we walked to school everyday together all throughout high school. After high school we lost contact until recently when i messaged her and we\u2019ve become closer. She never liked Colton. Colton always asked me if I knew why, but she never said. He said he just wanted to be friends with her (he does not like it when people (girls specifically) don\u2019t like him)\n\nOne day I asked her about Colton and said he\u2019s different now and he\u2019s a lot more chill from what she probably remembers. She took it into consideration.\n\nFast forward to a night where Colton and I were getting high in my car and I texted Mariam to say hi and she was also high. So I called her to say hi while high (I\u2019m too funny) and I told her Colton is here with me. As I was talking to her, Colton started butting into the convo which was kind of starting to annoy me, since he was busy on his phone when I called her, but then he suddenly had time to talk. We all talked for about 5 minutes total. Seems insignificant to most but for Colton this was big because she even talked to him. (She also sent him her Instagram so they can talk about mutual things) He thanked me a bunch because he had another friend and she didn\u2019t \u201chate\u201d him anymore. I didn\u2019t think much of it at first but w/e.\n\nFast forward to another hangout at my place with Colton, another mutual friend (Dalton) and I.\n\nMariam texted me to see what I\u2019m doing and I told her I was hanging out with the guy, and I asked my friends if she could come. They said yes so I invited her to hangout. She came over, we all had a good time and she left.\n\nAfter she left Colton said \u201cman I\u2019m so glad we\u2019re all cool now, thanks again man\u201d to which I said no problem.\n\nExcept I started to see a problem. See I enjoyed the fact that I had a friend that was outside my current friend circle. Her and I would hangout alone and it was nice because we both got a break from our main group. Sometimes you need a group away from your main one. But now Colton started texting her more and more. I honestly just feel like he\u2019s going to steal away one of my close friends. \n\nI realized this was my own fault so I don\u2019t really blame him or her. But here we are during our Christmas break and I asked her if she wanted to hangout again sometime, and she suggested we have a smoke session together at her place. Sure! Why not? I suggested we could invite one or two people. I suggested 2 people who we mutually know from school and still both talk to, and she then she suggested to invite Colton. \n\nI kinda just felt sick because I liked having a group away from Colton tbh. I was NOT happy at all about that, but what can I say? No don\u2019t you dare invite someone we\u2019re both friends with to your place? So I just said sure and left it. \n\nShe ended up making a group chat with all of us saying to come to her place this Friday for a smoke session, and I said \u201ceh I might be able to\u201d so I could just not go now, when she called me out with \u201clol stfu %, you\u2019re the one who had the idea for this \ud83d\ude02\u201d\n\nSo now the group knows it was my idea and that I\u2019m free to go. But I don\u2019t want to go now. I liked having a group away from Colton. I\u2019m just not going to go now. I didn\u2019t want to invite him at all but I didn\u2019t say anything about it. So I\u2019m just going to remove myself from this situation. AITA for not wanting to invite him?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oza2XDIGviirowEAMfhfW72icG0boOGJ", "post_id": "aajr1o", "action": {"description": "visiting with an old friend and not asking them to leave when my so got jealous", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For visiting with an old friend and not asking them to leave when my SO got jealous.", "text": "Old friend from my old high school group returns home for Christmas. Has been traveling abroad for over a year. We had dated for about 2 years and ended the relationship over 5 years ago. We remained friends. Talk to each other about new relationships without any jealousy etc. I took care of his dog while he was away. I had to put her down in May. \n\nMy boyfriend claims to be totally cool with my friend coming to visit and catch up while hes home/give him the dog's ashes and was aware of this happening at some point over the holiday. My bf comes over tonight which wasn't planned. He just decided he would stop by and sleep at my place and go to work from here. Cool. While were hanging out my friend calls and suggests we hang out tonight. I ask my bf, he says sure no prob.\n\n20 min into the get together my bf excuses himself to go to bed and proceeds to stew in my bedroom. He says I should have known he would be upset/ I should have shown more empathy toward him when I discovered he was angry.\n\nThoughts?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OCRxFZUXxY8FUZe4DKzxzHEvWlE4FrB8", "post_id": "9teoih", "action": {"description": "calling out a girl", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for calling out a girl?", "text": "I (M) and her (F) have known each other for two years. We have been pretty tame with each other and actually friends up until 3 months ago. I have never been mean to her and have constantly encouraged her. However, she hates me. I'm going to write you all the reasons why.\n\nReason 1. I constantly flirted with her sister. I complimented and flirted with her every time I saw her. I'm a horrible flirt. Her and her sister thought that I was weird and creepy. The last time I flirted with her was the third time I saw them. After that, her sister didn't want to see me. \n\nReason 2. Our mutual friend (and my best friend) had a crush on her and she rejected him. I told her to reconsider. She didn't like that. So after that, she has constantly been rude to me. After she started being rude to me, I told my friend to stay cautious around her and to keep everything platonic.\n\nReason 3. I am constantly a joker. It's a huge personality flaw of mine. However, I'm not a bully. I'm just a huge goofball and I'm okay with it. She isn't though. She told me my jokes are shitty and that everybody thinks so too.\n\nReason 4. We have opposing political, ethical, and religious beliefs. I am a Republican, she isn't. I'm a family guy, she isn't. I am a Christian, she isn't. \n\nNow I'll tell you what happened and you can decide if I'm the asshole. \n\nTwo weeks ago, I was hanging out with our mutual friend the day before I went halfway across the country to take care of my Grandfather who is dying of terminal brain cancer for 3 weeks. She was also with us. I told everybody I was leaving for Texas. She asked why. I told her why. She started laughing. I was in shock. \n\nI was back early for reasons I don't want to disclose which means I was in town for Halloween. I called my friend to see what he was up to for Halloween and told me he was having a party. So I came. She and her sister was there with 3 other friends. They were gonna go trick or treating and I decided to confront her in front of everybody about why she laughed about my Grandfather's brain tumor. She kept denying it, but I decided to forgive her anyway.\n\nSo am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ywNnI4QTJSkfKHkuuf6yBKgQutJt0D9c", "post_id": "ayemlm", "action": {"description": "being bullied and I'm the *sshole", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA Being bullied and I'm the *sshole?!", "text": "This has been happening for about half a year now. So a year ago an old friend of mine (B) got an Xbox and he introduced me to a friend of him (F). After about half a year he would suddenly just scream at me through his mic, some pretty bad stuff. His mother (BM) and F didnt really seem to care about the bullying overall. So what I normally just did was leaving the conversation and play on my own or with others. He would then start texting me, saying stuff like why do you have to be such a p*ssy, just leaving. I would always ignore this. After another 3 or 4 months I was DONE when he started acting that way again. The conversation went like this:\nB: Just shut up, nobody likes you. Honestly just go away, we don't want to play with you.\nMe: Oh now listen to me! You have been acting all wierd when I'm around, being mad for no reason and calling me names, even cursing with deseases some family members of mine have died of. I'm done with you and your attitude! I'm getting the f**k out of here!\nF: Okay, I agree with you about the whole cursing and stuff.. but aren't you overreacting?\nMe: Nah, he's been treating me so bad the last 3 to 4 months, I AM DONE HERE.\n*I left the conversation*\n\nAbout half a month after, he starts inviting me to play and about 2 weeks before I wrote this, he invited me to come with him on vacation. I obviously decline. We hadn't even talked in over a month. \nToday, his mother started texting my mom asking her to tell me that I MUST play with B, because he wanted to. My mother told BM that we were old enough to fix the whole situation if we wanted to. She told her that I wasn't resonding to him, and that that's the reason why she texted her. I did indeed not reply to him, because I told him I didn't want his company. But that was obviously not good enough. She passes me the phone..\nMe: Sorry that this has to go this way, but I told B that I do NOT want his company, because he has been treating me like absolutr garbage.\nBM: That is not true, he tells me that you have been bullying him, and that you need to play with him as a way of saying sorry.\nMe: No, sorry.\nI pass the phone back to my mother\nBM goes further..\nBM: You have been verbally abusing B, and you need to play with him, NOW!\nMom: This is *my moms name* I know he hasn't. I can hear him saying every single word he says, and he has been calling me most of the times BM started acting that way.  Please do us a favour and leave it.\nBM: I will tell him that he has done nothing wrong because I KNOW that he hasn't done anything wrong, F has told me anything that has happened, and that he is not allowed to talk or be around with him. I also demand that your son stops going to swimming practise because my son DESERVES it more than yours.\nMom: He won't quit going there and please leave us alone now.\n\nSo basically, they say that I'm the asshole, and her son is the angle... is she right? \n*keep in mind, B has autism*\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QyZewHgXvnuprhyLIDSaos7lSZ8JFA0e", "post_id": "ayio6l", "action": {"description": "not believing my boyfriends home issues", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not believing my boyfriends home issues?", "text": "[18F] So my boyfriend of 6 months just moved into my house with me because of issues at his home. He told me his dad threw a bottle at his head (all he had was a tiny scratch on his forehead) and thats what prompted the move in. He says he has schizophrenia, depression, anxiety, and bipolar, but it only \"acts up\" when i want to go out. \nHe also said that his parents accused him of stealing $800 of them and then froze his account, so he asked me to call him an uber since his account wouldnt work and i said yes. But i didnt have enough money to make it. Then he sends me the rest to call him an uber. i say \"uh hey i thought your account was frozen\" and he said \"They froze my card that i use for online purchases\"\nWhich 1.) ive NEVER seen and 2.) what 19 year old boy has 2 cards one specifically for online purchases?\nNow, I may be paranoid but I feel like hes faking all of this to move in. Or at least exaggerating his situation. He was emotionally manipulative in the beginning so I guess thats why I dont believe him. So, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nfvNRT56IWQgq11uJajtEfNQsgvGRMp2", "post_id": "a5my2e", "action": {"description": "being mad at my friends who \"abandoned\" me after a party last night", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being mad at my friends who \"abandoned\" me after a party last night?", "text": "\n\nSo my friends and me left a party at my college last night, I was a bit drunk. Backstory: I'm the only one of us with a car and they both get rides with me all the time, sometimes asking me at like 11pm to pick them up. I've never had an issue with that. \n\nWe had discussed my sober friend driving us home in my car, and I wanted to stop by a friend's place on the way for a couple minutes. \n\nThen this turned into an argument, as they both wanted to go home right away and ended up taking the bus home. I went to my friends' for a smoke, then took another bus I had to wait half an hour for.\n\nAm I the asshole for thinking leaving a drunk friend out in the freezing night by themselves is kind of a dick move? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qEbD3mG1LqZ3ro4pwDv7bxFoizBHKg3v", "post_id": "aub99o", "action": {"description": "giving my wife simple solutions to problems", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for giving my wife simple solutions to problems?", "text": "Hey folks!\n\nHere's the situation: we have a 2 year old boy who likes to paint with pretty much anything, crayons, washable (thank god) paints, etc. Typically we set out whatever his medium of choice is and let him go ham on his coloring books. I admit his style is a bit van Gogh - not my taste but hey, he's 2 and enjoying himself. Recently though he's taken to using his crayons on one of the dining room walls. We expected this to happen eventually so it's not a big problem. \n\nMy wife took it upon herself to clean his recent mess. I offered to ta take over because I saw she was having a hard time but she was insistent she would get it done. Later on she complained about how it took almost 2 hours and that it sucked. She went on to suggest that we just paint the walls. This didn't make much sense to me and I admit I can be a bit dense but what's to stop him from just using his crayons over that?\n\nI told her as much and suggested it was just easier to keep his crayons and such out of his reach. She seemed hella upset over it and didn't offer much feedback. I know for sure she's pissed based on her lack of response and demeanor but I don't understand why. To me keeping his things out of reach is the simplest thing to do instead of  constantly cleaning or painting a wall.. I feel like an asshole because it looks like I missed something or said something she didn't want to hear..", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OF6UctFyVevuhJFmrNYi3vf3l2E4gmCB", "post_id": "awzj8y", "action": {"description": "bringing my own beer without sharing", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I bring my own beer without sharing?", "text": "This one is mild, but I still want to know if I would be rude if I did this.\n\nSo, I\u2019m going over to my friends house tonight, and usually I buy a 12 pack of cheap light beer for everyone, but I never get drunk off of it. Recently, I\u2019ve been getting into pricier beer of quality, some of which actually get me drunk! Would I be an asshole if I brought that fancier beer to my friends house just for myself AS WELL AS a 12 pack of cheap stuff for everyone else? The reason I wouldn\u2019t be sharing is that it\u2019s A) expensive and B) a single 1.5 pt bottle.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "esIBHndGbgfUh0TOQUeNaMndFVpexHJU", "post_id": "avy1j5", "action": {"description": "not expecting skidmarks in the toilet", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 19}, "title": "AITA, for not expecting skidmarks in the toilet?", "text": "So i just visited a friend whom I have not seen for about 6 months. A mutual friend was there when I arived. I was having a few beers, and therefore needed to pee a few times. I asked if there was a closer toilet than the one a flight of stairs below, as I Did not want to wake the people sleeping on the lower floor. This toilet happned to have a huge  skidmark. After finishing, I made a comment a to my friend that it is normal to use the toilet brush to clean the toilet if you see that you left a skidmark. It sparked a huge argument with both of my friends arguing that I was a huge neatfreak, and Making a big deal about something unneeded. I just felt like it was/is something natural to do; to brush away skidmarks if you see that you\u2019ve left them. Now I\u2019ve been told I\u2019m a germophobe and generally wierd, that normal people just flush once or twice extra, or clean it with chemicals at a later date. Am I an asshole for expecting people clean up their fucking shitstains before someone else uses the toilet?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 16, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 19}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "4V1N3xbeGJNtlSAvxfKm2UNMvGMg5CvX", "post_id": "b003jg", "action": {"description": "catching my brother and sister lying and talking really badly about me. told them to stay away from my family. Sister cannot believe I recorded them", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA - I caught my brother and sister lying and talking really badly about me. Told them to stay away from my family. Sister cannot believe I recorded them (audio).", "text": "My brother Carl brought home a girl the other day and lied to me about why he brought her. He said it was to meet our sister Jane. I asked Jane and she confirmed this. I felt like they were lying to me so I recorded (audio) my siblings talking and sure enough Carl spoke to Jane to tell her he wasn't expecting me to be home when he brought her over and thanks for helping him lie to me.\n\nI kept the recorder there and the following day they had some family friends and another friend round. Jane has been known to talk about my history and to talk badly about me to one of the family friends and her other friend. When I listened to the recording, I found Jane saying really bad things about me, things I was not expecting. Some of the things she said were lies. I am a 30 year old man and I cried listening to it and what she thinks of me.\n\nWhen I spoke to her the following evening about the audio and how upset I was knowing what she said, she couldn't get past the fact that I had recorded (audio) recorded them. I said I did not feel comfortable recording them but I knew they lied and know that I know what she has been saying about me, I feel like it is justified. To bring up my past and talk disrespectfully about me to family friends, people whom I visit and talk to, is just borderline unforgivable.  \n\n\nHer body language and attitude was just...blah. \"You recorded me and that is just unbelievable! \". Forget all the things she said. Or that she told lies about me to our family friends. I cried a little when I told her how upset I was. I told her I didn't think she was inherently a bad person. I told her that I love her very much. But I don't want her around me or my family anymore (my wife and son). She just said \"Okay then\". No real emotion. Just like whatever. I feel like she is trying to play the victim. Like I was the one pushing her away by telling her to stay away from my family because of her toxic behaviour and not her behaviour. She has done this before (speak to family friends about me).\n\n​\n\nIf you're wondering what she says about me it is things like talking about bad things I did years ago, calling me names, lying about things I've said/done or even what my intentions are. Just some really awful things She did not seem remorseful although she did shed a few tears (literally). Probably because I cried a little (I don't cry often) and she was moved and it probably made her shed a tear. \n\n​\n\nSo what I would like to know is, AITA for recording them and finding out what they have been saying about me?\n\nWas it like, I shouldn't really be spying on them but holy crap they have been saying some really nasty things about me so the recording is justified?\n\nOr was it like, you're an ass for recording them. You deserve to find out horrible things family may say about you.\n\n​\n\nThank you.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "erEn03zz14PCAXQuwNO2DE1UK1HnBwS3", "post_id": "akfmty", "action": {"description": "not wanting to cut my hair as a groomsmen", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to cut my hair as a groomsmen?", "text": "So a bit of back story:\n\nI was asked to be a groomsman for my cousin's wedding a while back, and the wedding is coming up in about 7 months' time.  The other day we went in to get our measurements for rental suits taken.  The other groomsmen and the groom were there getting measured.  There was a deal where after six full suit rentals (socks and shoes, etc. included) the groom gets a $400 gift card.  Everyone was all for that, so we did the full rental.\n\nLater that evening, the groom texted me saying that he was wearing a specific pair of shoes to the wedding and the bride says that all of the groomsmen must have matching shoes.  So on top of the $200 suit rental, all of the groomsmen are required to buy a $100 pair of shoes (even though we paid extra money for the full suit rental package which includes shoes, so the groom could get a $400 gift card).  Furthermore, an additional requirement was added: I would need to cut my hair short.\n\nA bit about me: Currently, I have shoulder length hair and a pretty big (and admittedly unruly beard).  For about the last 10 years or so, I have always preferred my hair long.  I would grow my hair out until after it is long enough to donate for wigs, and then chop it off, and start growing it again.  Often times there would be a fundraiser attached to cutting my hair at the office where I work, so raised some money for charity as well as a donated my hair to make wigs.  I can safely say that by the time of the wedding, my hair will not be quite long enough to donate, meaning that I will be cutting my hair short (which I don't really like on me) and having to regrow a year's worth of hair over again.\n\nSo obviously I'm good with getting a bit of a trim, cleaning up the beard, and styling my hair to make it look nice.  That was shot down.  For me the problem is that someone would force someone else to alter their appearance for an entire year, so they look how they want for one day.  I kind of feel stuck right now.  I'm not a confrontational person, and I don't like making drama, but at the same time, this isn't some new look I'm trying.  I have looked this way since high school, and I feel like if he was up front about this being an issue, I would not have agreed to be part of the wedding party.  Currently, unless his opinion changes, I think I would rather not be part of the wedding party than cut my hair.  I would feel awful if I forced them to change plans, but I think 7 months should be enough time for them to adjust plans if I were to bow out.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UnfJTrrJKPLGRGXrTOfQH64NoBIe9EUY", "post_id": "awgdol", "action": {"description": "liking coffee", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for liking coffee?", "text": "Background: in a freshman in uni and am in a pretty close friend group which includes my roommate. My roommate has a gf, however, which none of us vibe well with. \n\n\nAnyway, we are all playing a board game in our room, and his girlfriend comes to the room without warning and starts playing with us (which ruined the mood, but we kept playing anyway). Once we finished playing\u2014around 11 pm\u2014I asked if anyone wanted to walk to Starbucks with me, mostly because I wanted to get off campus since it\u2019s a Friday night and Starbucks was the only thing open. \n\n\nMy roommates girlfriend then proceeds to talk about how much of a problem and addiction I have because I get coffee 2-3 times a day. She then calculates how much I spend on coffee in a year (2 or 3 cups at about $5.75 each), and yells at me saying I can donate that money to somebody\u2019s tuition or charity. I will admit that I come from a privileged family in terms of finance, but she doesn\u2019t realize that I only spend my money on coffee and my family donates thousands each year, in addition to me having thousands of hours of volunteer work every summer. \n\nShe continues by saying how much of an addiction I have and how it is such a big problem, but there have been many days where I don\u2019t get coffee and I don\u2019t have any withdrawals. I don\u2019t necessarily get coffee for the caffeine, but because I\u2019m usually with my boyfriend or friends when I get it, and it\u2019s something that we can all bond over. It brings back good memories to me as well because my boyfriend and I went to the same high school, but now go to uni about an hour apart. She knows this, and asks if I only like getting Starbucks because I imagine my boyfriend is with me and I\u2019m stuck in the past. \n\nI then asked why she started criticizing why I like coffee, and she replied saying that I have root problems that need to be solved, which did not make any sense to me because she barely knows me and she does not know my background at all. \n\nTL;DR: roommates girlfriend freaked out because I wanted coffee, and it\u2019s not the first time she has started yelling at me before ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3qrAMAmBxAZ73eujtf3ArZ0MTiIwCfOq", "post_id": "az89vi", "action": {"description": "bringing a date to a work event when my ex is there", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for bringing a date to a work event when my ex is there?", "text": "Sorry this is a mess, I hope its understandable, but I genuinely do not know if I\u2019m the asshole here or not. \n\nI dated a coworker of mine for about 6 months on and off (yes, I know, don\u2019t date your coworkers - that is a lesson I have learnt the hard way) we broke up, work\u2019s now awkward, we were working on a normal work relationship, things were ok. Fast forward - it\u2019s been 2 months since we broke up, my place of employment had a beer and food pairing event which I was lucky enough to be involved in, I was SUPER excited about my pairing, busted my ass off, and was genuinely pretty pleased with my product at the end of the day. \n\nSince I am now single, I\u2019m back on Tinder. I mentioned this event with someone I matched with and he immediately bought a ticket, so I was like \u201chaha, cool! Okay, that\u2019s a vote for me! Not too bad!\u201d I told him to bring some friends though as I\u2019m working an event and I wouldn\u2019t be able to socialize. \n\nI didn\u2019t mention to my ex that I had a \u201ctinder date\u201d coming, as I didn\u2019t/don\u2019t want to talk about my dating life around him to be respectable. However, when I was talking to my ex, my coworker came up and told me that my \u201cdate\u201d was looking for me. When she told me that I had an extreme feeling of guilt because fuck, now word has gotten out that I have someone here that I might be romantically interested in (it was a dud. no bueno) when my ex is right there. I can understand that that would be that heart stabbing feeling to hear that, as I would totally feel the same way if my ex brought someone to an event. However, I feel as if it were me, I wouldn\u2019t take my feelings out on them because as I\u2019ve mentioned, we broke up two months ago, they\u2019re allowed to move on. \n\nI didn\u2019t tell my \u201cdate\u201d that I had an ex working there. Why would I? Turns out dude went up and socialized with my ex for about 5 mins (just talking about the food/beer pairing, nothing about me). I feel horrible, this was a big event, I didn\u2019t want him knowing who came to see me, and I didn\u2019t think he\u2019d know exactly who it was, as it was a bigger event and I couldn\u2019t go out and socialize. \n\nAfter this event, my ex blocked my number and gave me the cold shoulder. I couldn\u2019t quite figure out why at first. He unblocked my number for unrelated reasons, then I got a text from him saying that he \u201cdoesn\u2019t know if I know why he\u2019s annoyed with me or if I even care.\u201d out of the blue. Obviously I care, as it kills me to go into work and have my coworker, who used to be my best friend, then boyfriend, not even LOOK at me. I\u2019ve explained my part of the story, and I am NOT discrediting his feelings at all, as they are completely valid!\n\nI explained to him that I did NOT mean this to come across as me rubbing it in his face that I\u2019ve \u201cmoved on\u201d, and I\u2019ve apologized for the way that it\u2019s come off. \n\nBut am I in the wrong for having someone come to an event that myself and my ex are working (on two separate floors) to come and support me? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IvZOj99pBzSXKYY2riJmpvVZoFyG11IB", "post_id": "akh29i", "action": {"description": "not wanting to attend my friends wedding", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA - for not wanting to attend my friends wedding?", "text": "Going to keep this short and sweet, I have a friend who Iv\u2019e been friends with for 7 years now. Said friend has a girlfriend (now fianc\u00e9) who I\u2019ve been good acquaintances with over the years, but she herself is not really my actual friend.\n\nMy friend has been officially dating this girl and for most of their relationship, has been cheating on her with various females. I used to bring this up from time to time but other male friends of ours basically tell me to mind my business and call me sensitive for caring about it so I eventually just stopped bringing it up. Now, what he does with these other girls doesn\u2019t affect our friendship in the slightest.\n\nWell, to my knowledge he stopped this behavior about a year ago when they got engaged, and the wedding is being planned for a few months from now. I was invited but declined, when he asked me why I don\u2019t want to come, I told him that even though I\u2019m not particularly religious, I do find marriage to be a pretty serious thing and don\u2019t think its right for him to be marrying this girl when she doesn\u2019t know he\u2019s been cheating on her for years and only relatively recently stopped. I said I\u2019m not going to go up to the wedding and cause a scene or anything but I don\u2019t feel comfortable being apart of that. I told him the only way I\u2019d come is if she knew and left it at that. I still consider him a friend but I literally just feel morally wrong about the shit. Again, I\u2019m not the most morally straight guy so alot of my friends are calling me a hypocrite and its soured a few relationships already, but honestly? This is a hill I\u2019m ready to die on. I personally feel like what he\u2019s doing is tantamount to tricking someone into marriage based on a false image he\u2019s presented (I didn\u2019t say all this to him)\n\nSo am I the Asshole here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CIwMwQs4OkyzDV80HI1tcYjluHFRPC6C", "post_id": "atrnk5", "action": {"description": "saying hi to a streamer", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for saying hi to a streamer?", "text": "Title. It's as it is without any catches or unexplained holes in this story.\n\nI walk into a steamers stream on Twitch.TV (he's verified), and i said hi while he was talking. \n\nHe then proceeds to shotcall my name in front of his 40 viewers, and say how disrespectful, no mannered i am for quote quote 'interrupting him while he's speaking'. I figured i wouldn't be the asshole, but his entire chat started to make fun of my name, insult me and ALSO call me rude. I then said \"you're a streamer. You have a delay first off, second that's no way to talk to new viewers.\" \n\nI got banned and continued to be made fun of. I reported his stream to Twitch.TV for harassment, with the VOD. So if anyone needs proof, i will dig it up. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yl6kxToQZoWKcwn8dXUtOplff4wmf25k", "post_id": "b76x88", "action": null, "title": "AITA para comiendo manzanas de mi novia?", "text": "Mi novia trajo 30-40 manzanas y ella los puso en la mesa.  Mi casa tiene un \u00e1rbol muy bonito y tiene muchos manzanas verdes. Regres\u00e9 de corriendo estaba muy hambriento y com\u00ed tres de los manzanas. Mi novia estaba muy enfada porque ella los compr\u00f3 y dejo que no tengo permission a comerlos. Ella dijo que todos las manzanas son de ella. Ella recogio las manzanas del \u00e1rbol que est\u00e1n en mi casa pero ella dijo que soy un mala persona porque com\u00ed las manzanas ella recogi\u00f3. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "D4s2ypG8Mwh8c5aDXQOqS0fdbFAsnQ97", "post_id": "aojxx2", "action": {"description": "not wanting to tutor someone", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to tutor someone?", "text": "When I was in high school, my mom met someone at work and they struck up conversation about their kids.  We went to different schools in the same town, and my mom got to brag about how I got good grades and was taking classes like AP Chemistry and AP Calculus.\n\nThe woman said her daughter was struggling with biology and asked my mom if I could tutor her, and my mom said yes.  My mom came home and told me I had to go tutor someone next week and I was annoyed that she scheduled this without asking me.  I honestly did not have a good reason to decline aside from the fact that I didn't want to, but this was probably the 3rd time she'd offered me to tutor someone and I'd begrudgingly done it every time before.  The thing with these sessions is that it's obvious the other kid doesn't want to be there either because our parents are making us.\n\nWe got into a big argument and my mom said it would be embarrassing to tell the woman after she had promised.  I told her that it was her problem to deal with because she should have asked me.  Also, I wasn't being paid.\n\nThis was years ago, but I ended up caving and going anyway.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kiRiq3WiTqt0NGsJ9fOSaJJd7rvzzZ4W", "post_id": "a8cmt6", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Park in crosswalk, have some dogshit", "text": " \n\nThrowaway for obvious reasons. I was walking my dog in my neighborhood and came to a crosswalk that was blocked by a parked car. To be clear, this was not a striped crosswalk, just an intersection in a residential neighborhood where the sidewalk continues off the curb. The car was pulled forward just far enough for the back bumper to barely clear the intersection. All foot traffic would have to walk through the middle of the intersection to get around. This was totally unnecessary because there was plenty of other parking -- there were 4 or 5 other available spots within half a block.\n\nMy dog had just taken a nice, big, well-formed shit with a nice solid consistency, and I had scooped it (because I'm not the kind of asshole who doesn't clean up after their dog, though I may be some other kind of asshole), so was carrying it in a baggie. As we walked through the intersection around the parked car, I had a \"fuck you!\" moment and smeared it under the driver-side door handle. I really got it in there, it would be a bitch to clean up.\n\nNow, with the long nights we have at this time of year, it's entirely possible that the owner of this car would head off to work when it was still dark, meaning they might discover the dog shit in a, let's say, tactile manner, rather than by seeing it. I got to feeling kind of bad about this later -- I think maybe the punishment did not fit the crime. A little shit smeared on the passenger side window (the side next to the sidewalk) would have gotten the message across, been easier to clean, and wouldn't leave the driver compulsively smelling their fingers the rest of the week to see if they still smell like dogshit. \n\nAt any rate, I haven't seen that car parked in that spot since then, so I guess the message was received...\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 15, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "9VsLbHl8qTHUhlfF1F9gana7xF0TnaB2", "post_id": "aq5rgw", "action": {"description": "actively stealing from my boss", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for actively stealing from my boss", "text": "A couple of months ago I got a job as a bartender abroad in Brisbane. When I first started I was told by the manager that interviewed me that my hourly rate would be $25aud. However when my first paycheck arrived I realized I'd actually gotten around $20aud per hour. Keep in mind that the job I took was cash in hand (not taxed) so there was no contract or anything like that. I realize that working cash in hand makes me somewhat of an asshole in and of itself but since I'm here very short term I'm not in a position to say no to work. I went to the owner (who handles everyone's paychecks) and confronted him about it. He told me that everyone in fact gets $20aud in the beginning but when he sees that they can carry parts of the bar themselves he would raise the salary to $25aud per hour. I wasn't happy being lied to but accepted it and figured I'll just put the hours in until he bumps up the salary.\n\nNow for a while I've been able to work easily on my own, taking care of the bar without help. So I sent a message to my boss a couple of weeks back asking when the rate would go up. It was left ignored so I went to talk to him about it and he scoffs and says he's busy (he is not a very pleasant guy) . I later heard from a workmate that actually everyone gets paid $20 an hour and the owner has no intention of paying anyone $25. \n\nI felt like I had been misled from the beginning and have started to skim some cash from the register, just enough to cover what would have been my promised $25 per hour (literally, I don't take more than that) . The method I take the money is in a way that still makes the numbers add up, it just looks like the restaurant is making slightly less profit. I feel a little bit dirty taking money all the time but at the same time I feel it's fair. I'm only working at the place for another month, before I move back home so I don't exactly have time to find another job. \n\nSo, am I the asshole here? Or am I right to steal? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 11, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "rNgVF3RVtW3ThrNstq50TKFeBgciJxIM", "post_id": "ag2ced", "action": {"description": "not having intercourse with my pregnant wife", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for not having intercourse with my pregnant wife?", "text": "Throwaway because I don't want our mutual friends to get involved with this. My wife is four months pregnant. She has the baby belly now. Because of her condition I've been waiting on her hand and foot. A few weeks back she got an insane craving for Asian pears. So what did I do? I went out and got a whole carton of those pears. A couple days later she completely lost her craving for pears so now we have half a carton of Asian pears sitting around. I didn't complain about it of course. But there is one thing that she's been really, really wanting and that one thing is the thing that I can't do. She says that her pregnancy is making her extremely aroused. However, there's literally a baby in her stomach! I can't have sex with her while that baby is literally inches from my face! She says that I'm being unreasonable and I do feel bad about not being able to give her this. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RfHXbutMy96Cp1Oawl1MpZGQKvBMoIJC", "post_id": "am67xr", "action": {"description": "telling my husband \"no sex until after a shower\"", "pronormative_score": 31, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my husband \"no sex until after a shower\"?", "text": "TLDR at the end!\n\nTo be clear, my husband takes a shower every day in preparation for work, and he does shower on his days off as well. However, I get UTIs very easily. I had them occasionally before, but not at all with the frequency I have been getting then since we've been together. \n\nI follow the advice of peeing and cleaning myself thoroughly from navel to knees before sex, and then peeing after sex and washing with warm water and mild soap on the outside of the vagina and around my anus to minimize the risk of a UTI. But STILL. Nine times out of ten we have vaginal intercourse I get a UTI.\n\nIt's gotten so frustrating that I often turn him down for vaginal because I know it'll end in twenty four hours of pain and pain-medication-stained pee and underwear (and a lot of potty breaks). It hasn't put a damper on his spirit at all since I am more than happy to please him in other ways. I am very sexually attracted to and aroused by him, and I am glad unplanned pregnancy isn't something in our future if this continues, but it is making me feel a bit guilty.\n\nI haven't made him explicitly aware of the reason we do butt stuff or oral so much besides the fact that it feels good for me. I enjoy myself immensely as well even with our modified sex life. But today, he got a little frisky while we were waking up and started fingering my vagina. It felt nice, and I was happy to oblige his desires, but now I ONCE AGAIN have a UTI to treat. I'm so done with this irritation, and am thinking I want to draw the line. I may tell him my pussy is off limits unless all parts that will be touching me are completely washed. Precaution and preparation on my part simply doesn't seem to be working. If I have this discussion with my husband, will he think I'm an asshole for making him shower before sex which could completely take him out of the mood and ruin any spontaneity we have left?\n\nTLDR: My husband's penis and fingers give me UTIs whenever we fool around, even though he showers every day and is in general very hygenic. WIBTA if I insisted on only boning after he washes himself even if taking a shower will take him out of the mood?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 22, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 31, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Z2Z1CLNxKvutDXFQvbzVB2Vh2Kcaf8eS", "post_id": "aja0js", "action": {"description": "asking my husband if he wants ice", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking my husband if he wants ice?", "text": "My husband works all day, and I stay home and clean and such.\n\nThis day, I had made his tea later than I should have because I had to clean a ton of dishes first, so his tea was warmer than usual. I put double the amount of ice that I usually do to try to combat it, but all the ice melted after a half hour anyway.\n\nMy husband asked about why he had no ice, I explained, and asked him if he would like more ice. He said no, but later said that it wasn't normal for me to ask if he wanted ice because I already thought he wanted it... Even though before he has told me not to get things he talks or asks about unless he specifically asks for it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "F4l3WB3v2p4a5ia77z0rU12gKDsImd7W", "post_id": "aywsgj", "action": {"description": "being upset about her not returning a favor", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset about her not returning a favor", "text": "On- off relationship. I have always been there to help out. Helped her move twice (3rd floor, no elevator). Picked her drunk ass up 4 times cause she was too drunk to walk home. Helped her assemble furniture only to get yelled at for \"not doing it right\". Was there when her pet got sick. Offered to help her learn for her drivers license. Was there when family issues came up. Was there when she went on a downward spiral. Offered to help her sort out therapy. Was always there, whether we were a thing or not.\n\nIn turn I never asked a thing. Didnt even say a word when I had to move appartments and did it completely without any of her help. Twice.\n\nThen, finally after 4 years of friendship+ came the day when I actually, positively needed something for once. Car broke down in the morning. My place is about 500 meters away. Her home is about 1000 away. Battery was empty, and electric was going haywire. No way to reliably kickstart it unless I get the battery to recover. Texted her if she could help me get the car home at around 7pm. All she\u2019d have to do was hit the clutch and steer. \"Yes\". Phoned her with 5% battery left about 20 minutes before I'd need her to  and help me out. Flat out told me she wouldnt do it because she didnt have a valid drivers license. Sighed and told her to just stay at home and I'd take care of it myself.\n\nWhile I fiddle around with the car, along comes a random girl - about a head smaller than her. Wears nothing but a hoody on a February night in the middle of the alps. Asks me if I need help. I explain the situation, she hops in and helps me out. Street is on a slight incline. Random ass dude suddenly jumps in to help me push. Girl keeps asking us if we are okay, since we struggle with the incline. OFFERS to switch, since she's rested and we've been pushing for a while. HELL NO.\n\nBoth me and the other pusher get exhausted and cannot go any further. I thank both of them for their help and inform em that I'm gonna ask someone to tow me. Walk back to my appartment, plug in my phone and call a friend I havnt seen in 4 months at 10 pm.\n\nI'm still standing there, sweaty and exhausted, shoes, jacket and high vis vest still on - when my doorbell rings. I open the door and she walzes in and scolds ME. Goes all \"Why the fuck are you at home while I stand on the parking lot for 30 minutes waiting for you? - I'm so cold - look at my hands shake!!\". Tell her a friend is gonna tow me. Been pushing the car halfway home up until now. Tell her she can go home and have a rest. She calls me an asshole, flips me off and tells me to go fuck myself.\n\nIt's been 3 weeks and I'm still upset over this. I really, really do not feel like it. She called me once, drunk and depressed. Havnt really initiated contact or made any plans to see her since then. I feel super guilty about distancing myself, since she's having a rough time right now. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hxq8skk28ZOHMdRDQQaSP6cRQRHEmNOL", "post_id": "awnot4", "action": {"description": "refusing to go for a walk with my grandmother because I'm not in the mood for it", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to go for a walk with my Grandmother because I\u2019m not in the mood for it?", "text": "Okay, so I live with my Grandparents, and when they brought me into their custody, I was diagnosed with severe depression. Sometimes I go on walks by myself when I\u2019m in the mood for doing it, and it\u2019s relaxing. \n\nBut I seriously hate it when my grandmother insists on taking me out on a walk, talking about how \u201cunnatural\u201d it is to have depression and that walking outside would eventually help to \u201ccure it\u201d.\n\nI try to tell her that I\u2019m simply not on the mood for it, but still, she insists because she \u201cneeds the fresh air for her lungs and body\u201d... even though nothing changes if she walks by herself.\n\nAm I an asshole for refusing to go on a walk with her on this day simply because I don\u2019t feel in the mood too?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OjGjjRkxnYaWNDZHPMTXlBOOzOUfw79k", "post_id": "aibyhv", "action": {"description": "I got firing for doing my job and I have parts they want back but I'm not budging", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA I got fired for doing my job and I have parts they want back but I'm not budging.", "text": "I know some context is needed. I worked at a company that maintained Pyxis machines in hospitals. The nurses use them to acquire medicine and other tools. So there's that\n\nI got a call one day(on my day off) from the hospital asking me if I can fix a drawer. This is not normal considering we have people on call.  I asked them what was the issue and he replied back they couldn't get a patient specific medication out. Now that's a huge deal in the medical world. I asked if he submitted a ticket for it. He told me that they need the medication to be accessed as soon as possible and the tech on call would not be able to get there for 3 hours. \n\nSo I'm actually 20 minutes away from the hospital. I knew that going around like this was problematic but given the circumstances and that we switch shifts all the time I thought it would be acceptable. I drop everything I'm doing and race to the hospital. I fix the issue and the patient did not experience any time where they couldn't get their medicine.\n\nI call everyone and let them know to transfer the ticket to my name so I get paid. Well the on call guy was super upset I took work from him. If he did make the call he would have gotten about 2 hours of overtime for the day. So I thought it was yet another good move to do it because it lessened overtime which the regional manager LOVES so save on overtime. \n\nSo 2 hours after I'm back home I get a call saying I'm done. I was fired, I won't get anymore work or calls. I was confused because I did my job and I got the axe.\n\nThe next day I got another phone call. The ex boss told me I need to drive 4.5 hours to drop off all my gear and tools(tools I paid for) to his brother. I said how much am I going to get paid. He told me I don't work there anymore and it's not paid. So I would have to drive 9 hours, pay for gas and tolls to drop this gear off(I'm not even thinking of giving up the tools) I told him that from what he said that's a job for an employee,  which I'm not. I then hung up.\n\nI blocked all the numbers, I'm not on the work email. Also I recently moved and they have no address for me or any way of contacting me. \n\nSo the question is..Am I the Asshole and just drop the stuff off and move on with my life?\n\n\nTLDR- Got fired, they want me to drive 9 hours to drop off their parts/gear and tools I paid for. I hung up and removed all ways of contacting me.\n\nWrote on mobile. Please don't judge me. I'll fix everything once I'm back home.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YU2wSgGV9wnhH8TTXOTrro7DTwTht0R0", "post_id": "b1pvtn", "action": {"description": "asking my neighbor not to wash clothes after 10pm", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA if I ask my neighbor not to wash clothes after 10pm?", "text": "The washer and dryers in our apartments are really loud and my neighbor washes their clothes at like 1 every night. \n\nI have a bad problem with loud repetitive noises. sit physically hurts having to endure that sound when I want to sleep.\n\nAITA if I ask them to abstain from washing clothes past 10pm?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xg8vNa2fGr0srdMDeqWRc4fb7zvjtdyk", "post_id": "asjgdx", "action": {"description": "answering the teacher's question", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for answering the teacher's question?", "text": "Before I begin talking about this, let me at least admit that ocassionally, I do make some random jokes from time to time in class, but in this instance, I was completely honest and serious.\n\nIn my CTE Health class, a class that talks about social and self health, we were doing some activities where we talked about Stereotypes. In one activity, our teacher asked us to provide examples of groups of people, i.e, Jocks, Nerds, Emos,  etc., and the point was to question these labels.\n\nThe class was getting a little noisy and she snapped, yelling to the class to stop talking, which is understandable because it was getting a little out of hand. However, when we continued naming group labels, I said Metalheads, being one myself, and she got frustrated at me because she thought I was trying to be funny because earlier, I already said musicians. But she didn't write down Musicians, she wrote Band/Orchestra/Choir. Now, if you are aware of the Metal subculture, you'd know that they aren't the same thing, and that Metal has a cult following that has been treated horribly for decades, where as the things she listen were just class subjects. She got annoyed and I told her I wasn't joking. She pointed out that she already wrote those three up there, but I told her that it wasn't the same thing. After she heard that, she just made us all do notes instead. \n\nRight there in that moment, I lost all respect for her. It's hard to describe the thick atmosphere of the room at that moment, so it may not sound like a big deal, but if you were there, you'd have felt like the entire day just went to shit.\n\nThis isn't even it. At the end of class, she gave a speech talking about how she would rather have a fun class with activities rather than a boring one with notes. But what pissed me off for good as the fact that she said \"It's not all of you but there are a few classmates that are just being a pain in the neck\", and I know for a fact she looked directly at me or at least in my direction when she said that. I know because I was in the left side of the room and any time she talked about those \"few\", she would slowly walk over to the side I was at, as if she was trying to tell me that I was the problem. And I know for a fact that's what she was thinking, because the entire reason we switched to notes was because I implied that Metalheads aren't the same as Band/Orchestra/Choir kids.\n\nIn my own fault, this was at the beginning of the semester so I may have made a weak impression, but I doubt I am in the wrong here. I provided an example of a group of people, LIKE SHE ASKED, and she thought I was trying to joke around, when I made it clear that I was not joking.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XFp5XmJsLsyLY5ebFglmjhH3AjgpZRYI", "post_id": "b64xf5", "action": {"description": "faking feeling emotions", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for faking feeling emotions?", "text": "For most of my(19) life I've been really emotionally unavailable to my friends and family. As a child I was pretty normal, but somewhere along the way I kinda just stopped feeling things like happiness, sadness and stuff like that. So I've ended up not really being empathetic towards anyone I know. \n\nOver the years teachers and other adults were talking to me saying how they were concerned that I was being quite antisocial and that wouldn't get me anywhere in the future. After a while I was getting irritated by these constant talks, so I thought I would just pretend to be a normal kid. I would laugh at jokes, talk about stupid things with friends, and generally be a person you wouldn't think twice about. But I wouldn't be the same inside and out. \n\nFast forward to university, I've got friends who think I'm a pretty upbeat person and a family who think I'm normal, at least whenever they see me or text me. I'm not very social and if I ever do go out and/or appear in front of other people, I just switch on the act and get on with it until its over. Despite how annoyed I might sound regarding that I don't dislike it. \n\nLately however, I've been considering dropping the entire act, because I am getting bored of it, but I'm not completely sure if that would have a negative impact on me. Any thoughts on this would be appreciated. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8MmL2JQQGtVa2NZq0NV17HlSF9bWrEwa", "post_id": "abljhj", "action": {"description": "not caring about a former coworkers attempted suicide", "pronormative_score": 26, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not caring about a former coworkers attempted suicide?", "text": "So to preface I need to let you know some background: I had a group of friends where I worked. One of those friends (Let\u2019s call him Jack) was always making really sexual jokes (example: \u201cwould you like to start a family? How about 9 months from tonight?\u201d) to me that made me uncomfortable which I told him but I eventually learned to brush them off. It\u2019s just his sense of humor. \n\nJack worked in an area with a cooler and one day back in March I went in the cooler to grab something and he made a joke about bending me over a pallet. I brushed it off but he picked me up and carried me to the pallet despite me repeatedly telling him to put me down. He then put me on the pallet and pushed himself between my legs and leaned in for a kiss before I pushed him away and left. I eventually reported it to management after my boyfriend said I had to. Long story short he got a slap on the wrist and told he couldn\u2019t interact with me anymore. All of our mutual friends told me I overreacted and shouldn\u2019t have reported it. \n\n Fast forward a month later and I quit the job and go somewhere else. I\u2019m out of the loop on Jack seeing as I do not associate with him anymore. Well in September a friend who was part of my former friend group (let\u2019s call her Amy) invited me out to go walking with her because my dad had just passed away and thought I could use the fresh air. I agreed. Well on our walk Amy is catching me up on all of the people I used to work with. Then she gets to Jack. Apparently his life has gone down hill in the last several months and he eventually tried to take his own life. I tried to be nice but flat out told her I didn\u2019t want to listen to this and would preferred if she didn\u2019t talk about him. Well I could tell I upset Amy and she essentially called me an asshole for not caring about him. It\u2019s been a few months and I\u2019m still conflicted. I know what he did was bad but AITA for not caring that he tried to take his own life? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 25, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 26, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Tsk1DkEuMKjGcKRVIOKphcIm0eiECUdw", "post_id": "9xfzs8", "action": {"description": "asking partner to moderate language", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking partner to moderate language?", "text": "My partner and I had a disagreement the other day. The root of the fight was that they felt I was not communicating enough with them, and that I was being dismissive. I listened to what they had to say, offered input, and was generally willing to have a conversation about whatever they wanted. Here is where the issue comes in. Sometimes during fights, my partner gets a little hyperbolic. They will say things like, \"god, this is why we are going to break up,\" or \"this is never going to work.\" That or some other general comment about the fact that our relationship is \"doomed.\" Now, the first time this happened, I got very concerned, I thought that we were literally having a conversation about the possible end of our relationship. When confronted, their response was \"I don't actually think that, I am just expressing how I feel in the moment.\" I told them that this isn't how I process a statement like that, and asked that in the future they avoid talking about our relationships end in a conversation unless that was actually part of the conversation. It feels like shouting fire in a theatre to me, it hurts a lot to hear, it is traumatic, and it worries me. I have had to mention this to them several times concerning the language and how I didn't feel it was fair to say things like that in a conversation that wasn't actually about our relationship ending. \n\n​\n\nCue the fight the other night. During the fight, again they said, \"god, this is going to end so badly, i knew it.\" I asked them if that is genuinely how they felt, and again they said that it was just \"talking about how I feel right now, trying to process my emotions.\" I got mad and told them that I was hurt that they continued to talk this way despite having several conversations about the matter and expressing how hurtful it was when that was said. I was then told I was trying to \"tone police\" when they were just trying to say how they feel. \n\n​\n\nTo me, I see it as being the same as asking \"Hey, I don't appreciate you cursing at me when we have dissagreements\" or \"please don't speak in a condescending tone.\" I find it especially hurtful because I have brought this up before how much this hurts me to hear, and it seems like it just gets blown over, and then it gets turned around on me as if my repeating a previous request was out of line (tone policing). I honestly have no clue on this one and feel like I lack perspective, that combined with how adamant my partner is has me wanting to get a fresh opinion. Am I the asshole for asking them to not talk about breaking up unless that is actually what we are talking about?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "h07MjmilPLy5JVTKWXVBPBtLrU64sQvf", "post_id": "alp6bu", "action": {"description": "not changing my daughter's diaper", "pronormative_score": 399, "contranormative_score": 65}, "title": "AITA for not changing my daughter\u2019s diaper?", "text": "My husband got home while I was making dinner.  Shortly after I realized I had totally forgotten to change her diaper in a while (she is 2 1/2) and that she was in a pull up which doesn\u2019t hold as much pee.  He had been wrestling with her just before and I said \u201coh do you mind changing her diaper?\u201d.  He came in to grab her and a few minutes later I hear him throwing something (later he said he kicked something).  \nI went to check on things.  He was upstairs in the bedroom and obviously really angry.  He was upset with me because the diaper was really full and her clothes had gotten a little wet.  I tried to explain myself and he cut me off saying that I didn\u2019t have any excuse for this.(I felt he was yelling at me, he says he wasn\u2019t yelling).   He got her in the shower and I quietly left because arguing is basically what we do now and I just didn\u2019t want to be yelled at over a wet diaper.  \nBackground - this is not something that happens- ever.  Her diaper is regularly changed.  Yesterday was a particularly stressful day and I lost track of time.  At the point I realized I would have changed her, but I was in the middle of making dinner.  \nHe claims I left her in it for 5 hours (not true)and that it was disrespectful to do that to him (because now he was \u201ccovered in pee\u201d because her clothes were wet).  \n\nAm I the asshole here?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 34, "OTHER": 365, "EVERYBODY": 31, "NOBODY": 34, "INFO": 9}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 399, "WRONG": 65}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xLiRjsExdlun4EC3ymTTtXvrfxuMTJG5", "post_id": "ayns4u", "action": null, "title": "AITA for tell my friend I don\u2019t want to be around him for a while because he\u2019s Hispanic?", "text": "*Please* at least read the tl;dr before you downvote me\n\nI was assaulted about a week ago. He was Hispanic and he had a very noticeable accent, and he spoke a lot during the assault. Since it happened I\u2019ve been getting uncomfortable when I hear someone with the same accent talk. It makes me think about things I really don\u2019t want to think about.\n\nI explained the situation to a friend of mine, albeit a little vaguely (I said I was \u201cattacked\u201d by someone who had the same accent as him and I needed some time to get my head straight because talking to him was making me remember it. We\u2019re good friends, but not insanely close and I didn\u2019t feel comfortable getting any more specific than that) and he and his girlfriend (also a close friend of mine) both got upset with me. They basically said I was being racist and that they didn\u2019t expect that from me and they were disappointed/upset. \n\nI have an appointment with a therapist, but the lady I was referred to didn\u2019t have an opening until April. I really like both of these friends, but I just don\u2019t think I can be around him right now and still feel okay.\n\nAm I the asshole?\n\nTl;dr: I was assaulted by a man with the same accent as my friend, and I\u2019m having trouble talking to him without thinking about unpleasant things so I told him I need some time to clear my head and not be around him", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "410R7V3dG7S8flCEkP7vVij5qDTOfVwL", "post_id": "an3wy0", "action": {"description": "telling off a girl who canceled plans because she was too nervous", "pronormative_score": 61, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for telling off a girl who canceled plans because she was too nervous?", "text": "Please read before you rip me apart.\n\nI met this girl who seemed nice enough. I asked her out to dinner and she declined but we still saw eachother at functions. I understand if someone is not interested in me and I never hold it against anybody.\n\n\nAbout 4-5 months ago this girl randomly messages me out of the blue and asks me if I want to go have dinner with her. I say that sounds great and we make a time or a place. The day of the date, she says that she can't make it and I say \"ok no problem\".\n\n3 more times the same exact thing happened. Out of the blue, she messages me and either asks to go out to dinner, or offers to come to my house to make dinner. And each of the 3 times, she cancels the day of. After the 4th time she cancels on me, I send her a super polite text saying that I really value my time and that I don't appreciate her treating my time like she can waste it. She appologizes profusely and says that she has alot of issues especially with forming any kind of relationship and has anxiety. I understand and say \"its no worries\" and just leave it at that.\n\n\nLast week I get a phone call from her and she asks me if she can come to my house and make my dinner. I say no problem sounds good. The day of the dinner, I text her asking her if shes still coming and she tells me that she dosnt feel comfortable going to my house by herself (keep in mind, she is the one who keeps initiating all of this). I say \"np, we can go get dinner or go out for a beer\" and she says that shes feeling introverted and just wanted to stay home.\n\nAt this point I am pretty fucking fed up. I am a very busy person and... on one hand, I can understand her feelings and have respect. On the other hand she is treating me like a monkey who can dance whenever she wants and thats not the case.\n\nSo I pretty much told her that I was insulted that she keeps doing this, and if she has that big of a problem with her anxiety and past experiences then she simply shouldnt make plans with me. \n\nShould I be more understanding and try my best to work her through her problems, or is it wrong for me to feel upset and take it personally?\n\n\nI know I shouldnt take it personally, but for her to initiate it that many times and cancel that many times it just makes me upset.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 51, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 61, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Jd2f7Z5xlAf2V786Xj41wvwsU0t746my", "post_id": "aydqqs", "action": {"description": "laughing during communion", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for laughing during communion?", "text": "I went to a Catholic mass for the first time with a few friends yesterday. Everything was going fine, I was just following along with them, then everyone stood up And got in a line. I did the same thing, just following everybody else. \n\nI saw everyone drinking from the same cup, and knew one friend was having an internal cringe fest (super germaphobe), and it hit my giggle switch, but I held it in. Then my friend directly in front of me (the one who is actually catholic) gets there, and the priest tells her to hold out her hand instead of putting the wafer in her mouth like he had done with everyone else. I am composed, I am not laughing, but I\u2019m fighting it hard. We get back, and friend Why wouldn\u2019t he put it in my mouth?\u201d I snorted!!! God bless, I snorted at mass, and had to walk out because when I get embarrassed I laugh harder. The people on their way out shot daggers with their eyes, but while trying to look ashamed, I just kept getting fits of the giggles. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "X6dwKBzTk8Hz2TG0hAtAqlpdqNJmrtGj", "post_id": "au7cnl", "action": {"description": "asking my mom politely to stop singing", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for asking my mom politely to stop singing?", "text": "I woke up at around 5:30 am to use the washroom, planning on going right back to bed.  But Jesus Christ, for some reason my mom was up and parading around the house doing random stuff singing quite loudly. Mind you it's 5:30 am and everyone else in the house is still asleep. She is then directly outside my room, still singing loudly (laundry room is right in front of my room). So I opened my room door and \"hi mom, could you please quiet down a bit? It's pretty early\". She snaps at me saying \"don't tell me what to do in my own house!\" Then she proceeds to sing even louder than before, so here I am laying awake in bed, tired af. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qD17nvHIEw8AUwirHMbLM8ZVmDR7DSg2", "post_id": "b5c9r7", "action": {"description": "asking my bulimic roommate to control herself", "pronormative_score": 61, "contranormative_score": 172}, "title": "AITA for asking my bulimic roommate to control herself?", "text": "I (F20) have been living with my roommate (F20) for about a year now. We\u2019ve already made plans to move out and live with other people in a few months (unrelated to any of this). For the most part, she\u2019s a really good roommate; she pays everything on time, cleans the whole apartment, is very quiet, and even though we aren\u2019t friends per se we are friendly and get along pretty well.\n\n\nShe doesn\u2019t really cook, and her side of the fridge/her cupboards are pretty much bare (like she literally just has condiments in the fridge right now). I enjoy cooking and am on a bit of a budget (I support myself) so I cook 3 meals a day, 7 days a week (since I can\u2019t afford to eat out). \n\n\nStarting when we first moved in, I started noticing things were off with my food. Not that things were missing (although sometimes I would have less of something than I thought) but also that I would sometimes have more, of a different product than I remember buying (ie going to eat some crackers and them being kinda whole grain-y despite the box saying original). I didn\u2019t really think much of it, or just assumed I was being absent minded.\n\n\nLately though, it\u2019s been getting much worse and it\u2019s clear she\u2019s taking my food and trying to replace it (hence the products sometimes being slightly different). I\u2019ve gone into the cupboards and found unopened packages of things that I KNOW I\u2019ve already opened.\n\n\nLast week I confronted her about this and she broke down crying and told me she\u2019s been bulimic for a wrong time, she knows it\u2019s wrong, but she can\u2019t help binging on my food sometimes, blah blah. Also that she doesn\u2019t want to be like this but she\u2019s stuck on a waitlist for treatment. She was very upset and apologetic but I was still mad at her. I told her that I\u2019m sorry she has that issue but it shouldn\u2019t be my problem and if she needs to eat she can just buy her own food since her parents support her. She pointed out that she replaces everything she takes but it still bothers me knowing that someone is eating MY food. I understand there\u2019s something wrong with her but it\u2019s not like she can\u2019t control herself at the grocery store and eats right off the shelves, or at restaurants takes from other people\u2019s tables. I told her that and I don\u2019t understand why this is any different; it\u2019s not socially acceptable to take other people\u2019s property regardless of what\u2019s wrong with you. \n\n\nShe cried in her room for a long time and we haven\u2019t spoken or made eye contact since then, although I\u2019m trying to be nice. I feel bad but I also don\u2019t think I actually did anything wrong. We\u2019re both 20, IMO it\u2019s not unreasonable to expect her to control herself. Like do I want to eat a whole box of cookies? Sure, but I don\u2019t because I know better. I\u2019m just asking her to exercise the same restraint here. \n\n\nAm I the asshole?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 153, "OTHER": 48, "EVERYBODY": 19, "NOBODY": 13, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 61, "WRONG": 172}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "iH2Gj5YafBWFXo8Y8AoFT4Fb1rkGinTM", "post_id": "b5z582", "action": {"description": "leaving my friends to swim the canoe to shore", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for leaving my friends to swim the canoe to shore", "text": "Me and about 15 friends rent a cottage up north once every summer and have a fun weekend.\n\n​\n\nOn the second day in we decide to take the canoes and kayaks for a paddle.\n\nMe and my GF took the small one man kayak (i just sat on the back), while 8 of my friends spread out among two large canoes.\n\n​\n\nWe are about 100 Meters from shore when i hear some commotion.\n\nI see that one of the canoes have flipped.\n\nEveryone was wearing a life jacket but i decided to tell my GF to wait while i go help them. So I jump in and swim over. \n\nWhen I get there, i explain to the 3 people trying to save the canoe how we might still recover it if we create an air bubble but before i can even get half a sentence out, Girl 1 starts yelling \"STFU, YOU FUCKIN RETARD, HELP US PUSH IT INTO SHORE\"  \n\n\nME: guys i dont think we have to swim it all the way to shore  \nGirl 1 continues to berate, name-call and scream at me for about 45 seconds while i just sit there treading water, then halfway through her incoherent screaming i just say \"fuck this\" and swim back to my GF's Kayak and paddle back to shore\n\n​\n\nas im swimming away i can hear her screaming WHERE THE FUCK ARE YOU GOING YOU FUCKIN ASSHOLE\n\n​\n\nmeanwhile the rest of my friends didn't even bother to try to help and just went back to shore and were drinking like nothing happened\n\n​\n\nIts now 8 months later and girl 1 is still mad at me and only me.\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "h7vz1Xk1ZL2UTyRzXemfroFkfQFzCfvh", "post_id": "aq4qdj", "action": {"description": "getting upset at the fact that my bf wouldn't let me order what I wanted at brunch the other day", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA to get upset at the fact that my bf wouldn\u2019t let me order what I wanted at brunch the other day?", "text": "My bf and I usually share all the dishes we get but this time I really wanted a specific dish cus I was craving it. He told me to order something else cus he didn\u2019t like it and didn\u2019t want it. I kept insisting that I only wanted that one dish and nothing else. He asked \u201cthere\u2019s nothing else you want on the entire menu?\u201d in a sarcastic tone and I said nicely (although I was so upset at how selfish he was being) \u201cno. I only want that. If you want something else then you can order for me.\u201d He then got annoyed of me and told me to just order something else on the menu and named a few choices that sounded good to him. When the server came I got something else that sounded okay to me but he didn\u2019t name and he was surprised and seemed kind of annoyed. I didn\u2019t care. I know I was being an asshole, but I really didn\u2019t want anything else and what I ordered was \u201csomething else\u201d that wasn\u2019t my first and only choice! But am I really the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kiVMYCkKvHRFsGrM6kIvHQwYNkkEAaBI", "post_id": "ah0oal", "action": {"description": "not being upset enough to cry about my 12+ year old dog being put down", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not being upset enough to cry about my 12+ year old dog being put down?", "text": "To begin with I am a very emotional person, I have gotten upset over the smallest of things (for example I have a regular cry about my family\u2019s financial situation and matters of that sort). But a while back I desensitized myself with animals a bit because I started studying to become a veterinarian. \n\n\n   I don\u2019t know if this is an appropriate problem to put here but seeing my entire family in shambles over this with my inability to cry about it makes me feel like there\u2019s something wrong with me. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vaHsBKKVlbTSHTlecJaw43a2jsuRKSNd", "post_id": "b8p33n", "action": {"description": "asking for more pay for slightly more work", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for asking for more pay for slightly more work?", "text": "So I work in a doctor\u2019s office getting authorizations for procedures for two different doctors. I\u2019m not the busiest person in the world but I\u2019m constantly being swallowed by paperwork. Stuff I have to go over again and again to make sure is correct or updated or whatever. When I agreed to this position I was hyped about not having to talk to/help patients. I came from being the main patient-helper in the same office. Check in, check out, answer questions, answer phone calls. Absurd amount of work. I also still help with those when absolutely needed due to being short staffed. \n\nAnyway, I\u2019ve slowly been doing more and more calling of patients lately and it\u2019s always to give them bad news. It sucks and they get mad at me for things I can\u2019t control. The nurses were doing it before and we are down to just one so I get it\u2019s busy but there are others that could potentially help. \n\nAlso because of the nature of our practice we are supposed to be awarded quarterly bonuses to give us incentive to keep coming to work. We\u2019re also all getting raises next week as our reviews were just put in. I got an .11 raise and the bonus is $500. So my question is, would I be the asshole for asking for more pay because I\u2019m being asked to do work I didn\u2019t agree to when I started? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xL6ZPnYyRAQsaIJUQqmO8eqNk5uyIWic", "post_id": "9w4srd", "action": {"description": "reporting the amazon delivery person for driving through our yard", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for reporting the amazon delivery person for driving through our yard?", "text": "We recently installed security cameras and I got a motion alert that showed the amazon delivery person driving through our yard and our neighbors yard to turn around in her driveway. We have a long driveway and it is a pain in the ass to turn around. \n\nI know that it\u2019s not a big deal, but our neighbor is an older woman and she gets upset about these things. Would I be the asshole for reporting it? I know some people depend on the income from this and I would hate for someone to potentially lose their job over it, although I doubt that would happen. But it does seem pretty rude and not something they should be doing. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "A7cw6XjtSEhktv4ErbRPJsrJ1e8fjvb0", "post_id": "axhj7w", "action": null, "title": "AITA My boyfriend hired a cleaning lady and instead of being grateful I went crazy.", "text": "Obligatory I'm on a cell phone, I'm sorry for the formatting.\nI might have hoarding tendencies (and I don't think I realized how bad until now), and am generally lazy when it comes to cleaning. I have a 2 year old, and my boyfriend is the type to do what I ask, but doesn't go too far out of the way to do much more. He is an excellent father, and will happily do any baby things. But usually our weekly cleaning is: I do laundry 5 times a week, tidy up, pet stuff (daily), and clean up messes. He usually does baby stuff, he sweeps/mops every few weeks, does some tidying, and sometimes helps with sorting laundry.\nWe usually switch off on cleaning bathrooms and kitchen, though he usually does the kitchen.\nAnyway, he hired a cleaning lady today and after 4 hours she charged $500 and left. I took a shower and couldn't find my toothbrush and deodorant. Weird, but $20 bucks to replace and sucks because both were fairly newish (cue freak out 1- we're too broke to replace new stuff).\nI go out for a smoke and I look in one of the trash bags by the back door. I see a bra and a baby hanger (I end up buying new ones fairly often because my child has too many clothes and I lose them) (cue freak out 2- I have 6 bras).\nSo I spent an hour sorting through the 6 bags by the back door (the trash bin is full and tomorrow's  mission) and find an assortment of things including my ski jacket, a set of personalized oven mits my sister bought for me in Italy, a litter box scoop (and another is still missing), 2 necklaces, both of my belts, a number of baby toys (mostly bits and accessories to things), more clothes, and a number of toiletry samples.\nSo far none of his stuff is missing and beyond a few socks I haven't seen anything of his either.\nHe went to bed angry because he has to go to work in the morning, and I'm considering sleeping on the couch because I'm not sure I'll be able to go to sleep anyway.\nMy friends all think he paid too much, and I'm not even mad about that... I just wish my crap wasn't thrown away. And I'm going to finishing digging through trash on my day off.\nTL;DR: My boyfriend and I are swap creatures and he hired a cleaning lady who threw away about $250 worth of my stuff. AITA for not being more appreciative of the gesture and freaking out?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nJPzPPg7pqAEQLzMYXaWRbSK112aCSrH", "post_id": "akgdsd", "action": {"description": "wanting my wife to give up her dream job", "pronormative_score": 33, "contranormative_score": 50}, "title": "AITA for wanting my wife to give up her dream job?", "text": "Hi Reddit, I know this seems like a pretty cut-and-dried situation but hear me out.\n\nMy wife and I have been together for almost a decade and married for about half of that. She\u2019s an amazing, intelligent woman and she is my best friend. I love her to death and always want to support her in everything she does but I\u2019m struggling to do so now.\n\nMy wife works in the biomedical field, conducting research on venomous animals and how humans can use venom to cure and treat a myriad of health issues.  This means she works directly with several species of very dangerous animals. She\u2019s very passionate about her work and worked hard to get where she is today. \n\nI have always been weary of her job because it does, of course, pose a serious risk to her. But like I said I always wanted to support her and support her passions so I never really objected or made an issue of it. I may have mentioned in passing how her job makes me uneasy, but I never asked her to give it up.\n\nHowever, the issue came to a head this past year. She was bitten by a Gaboon viper (if you don\u2019t know what that is, look it up; extremely venomous snake).  She almost died and had to be rushed to the hospital. Luckily the facility she works at has antivenom on hand for these scenarios but it was still very frightening. It took her a long time to recover, yet as soon as she was fit to work again she went back to work.\n\nI have since been sick with worry every single time she goes to work. I can\u2019t sit back and pretend her work is risk-free anymore and it has caused a huge rift between us. I\u2019m constantly stressed about her getting hurt or even dying because of her job.\n\nI have asked her to stop working with venomous animals for the sake of her health. She has argued that this is her passion and likens her work to that of a police officer or firefighter; she accepts the risks of the job because she can save lives with her research. I agree with the sentiment but simply can\u2019t accept that she works in a dangerous field. I would feel the same way  if she was a police officer or firefighter.\n\nWe have had many fights about this and have hit a wall. She is not budging and neither am I. She claims that it is unfair and asshole-ish of me to ask her to give up her dream career, though she does understand my concerns.\n\nI don\u2019t know what to do or if I\u2019m being irrational so I need some help and outside opinions. Am I the jerk here? I fear that her job will be the death of her.\n\nAITA???\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 49, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 30, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 33, "WRONG": 50}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "8bOS3LkSjkDxFmx3Pi1mVu2OT4ktL1TI", "post_id": "alk9rd", "action": {"description": "leaving my father when I was 17", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for leaving my father when I was 17?", "text": "TLDR is at the bottom of this post.\n\nWhen I was 15 I had my morals tested like no 15 year old ever should.\n\nAround this time, after my family had come back from a holiday, my mother told my father that she wasn't happy in the relationship, and wanted to leave. He was very sad due to this, and it was odd to see him cry because I had never seen it before. But he was sceptical, so one night he followed her when she went out for a drive. He saw her cheating on him with another guy, please note that my parents had also been married for 30 years.\n\n​\n\nThe sadness turned into anger, and rightfully so, he started destroying all photos in the house that contained her in it. My mother went to live with her parents when she noticed that he knew about this.\n\n​\n\nMy father earned about 4 to 5 times more than my mother, and she would not be able to live on her own if she left the marriage at any point. My dad was an asshole, I don't think he ever hit my mother (although he did hit my brother and I with his hands and sometimes a belt), but his personality was disgusting. He was strict and old-fashioned with his ways of discipline towards my brother and I, and always focused on telling us what we did wrong instead of what we did right, as a child it just brought me down. My father had a horrible personality.\n\n​\n\nI chose to live with my mother 5 days a week, and with my father 2 days a week. My reasoning was this:\n\n​\n\n**\"I will never justify the actions of my mother, although she was in a tough financial situation and couldn't live alone if she left my father. I choose to live with my mother because she was kind-hearted and always there for her kids emotionally. My father was an asshole. I don't justify my mother's actions, I'm in a predicament choosing between two wrongs, but I have to go with my mother.\"**\n\n​\n\nMy father disliked the fact that me and my brother hardly visited him, and chose our mother over him.\n\n​\n\nIn a different dispute 1 year later, my father virtually embarrassed my brother in front of his girlfriend, telling him off for living at his girlfriend's house in their garage. My dad didn't understand why he did this. Why would he choose to live in a garage over my house? My dad was either an oblivious person to the wrong he did, or he was devious, very well knowing what he did wrong but lying about it.\n\n​\n\nAfter that dispute, my brother never saw my father again, and has not seen him for years.\n\n​\n\nAnother year passes and I also hit my limit. Please note it's been 2 years of visiting my father on the weekends. I didn't like him, I didn't want to visit him, I visited out of obligation and the fact that I felt bad for leaving him all alone.\n\n​\n\nWe'd have arguments every single weekend when I'd visit. It was 2 years of this, he'd call my mother a slut in front of me, he'd call her a cow, any word in the book. We'd also have arguments about all sorts of stuff, including one time when I came out and told him I didn't believe in God, he told me he was disappointed in me. Do note I was raised a Catholic and only went to private schools.\n\n​\n\nAfter those two years, I called him up one day and told him I didn't love him, I was not obligated to love him just because he was my father, he treated my family like shit, and that I never want to see him again. He continued to argue, and after 40 minutes, the call ended. I have not seen or spoken to my father ever since.\n\n​\n\nDo note this took place 2 or so months after I turned 17. The experience as a whole really challenged my morals, and I always wondered, was there any right way to go about it? I had to choose between two wrongs, but I sympathise with my mother more than my father because of who she is. I will never justify someone cheating, even in a situation like this, I think it's disgusting regardless of the situation, but the context behind this surely makes it less of a wrong to cheat in this situation (although it's still not justified in my opinion).\n\n​\n\nMy father lost all 3 of his family members, one at a time, with a year gap in between them all. But never thought he was in the wrong.\n\n​\n\nWhat do you think I should have done?\n\n​\n\nAm I the asshole for choosing my mother, who was a good person and treated her kids well, although she cheated on my father? Or should I have chosen my father? Even though he was a dick of a person, but got cheated on?\n\n​\n\n**TL;DR -** My parents were married for 30 years. Mother was a good person, earned 4-5 times less than my father, couldn't live on her own if she got divorced, she cheated on my father. Father was a shitty person with pretty bad old fashioned views, but didn't cheat on anyone. I chose to be with my mother and left my father, although I still to this very day don't justify my mother's actions. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xmIuxFNsVfImmVbv2P4KekqpQJiIah8i", "post_id": "am4zfh", "action": {"description": "telling my son & DIL not to expect us to be babysitters for our grandkids", "pronormative_score": 212, "contranormative_score": 472}, "title": "AITA for telling my son & DIL not to expect us to be babysitters for our grandkids?", "text": "I'm 47 years old, and my wife is 45. We had our son young (16 and 18), and I have to be honest: there were many years where my wife admitted to me that she wishes she had an abortion rather than going through with the pregnancy. Having kids was never her life's dream, and having our son kept us back in life and kept us from accomplishing a lot of things we wanted to accomplish. Now, don't get me wrong. We love our son fully, we did everything we could to provide a warm, loving home for him. I worked my ass off to help put him through college with little debt. His mom was the picture perfect wife and mother, baking cookies with him, doing art projects, attending every single basketball game, every band concert, every play. We both did these things without ever complaining, and really cherished many of those moments.\n\nWell, my son turned out to be a great young man. He graduated with a nice science degree, met a wonderful woman who he dated for 7 years before marrying. They have been married for two years and have decided to expand their family by having a child. She's pregnant, due in May.\n\nMy wife and I have figured for a while that our \"job\" was done, and that we could finally focus on OUR lives and OUR wants and needs. These include many things like certifications and classes, travel, hobbies. All of the things we had to put on hold while we focused on raising our son. Finally, it was OUR time.\n\nWell, when my son and DIL were over a few weeks ago, shit kind of hit the fan. They were talking about different things they were looking forward to, and my son made a joke, saying, \"And of course, I'm sure we'll look forward to dropping the kids off at Grandma and Grandpa's house every now and then.\"\n\nI laughed it off for a moment, but said, \"I wouldn't count on that.\"\n\nHe got confused and asked what I meant, and I ended up having to tell him rather plainly that he shouldn't expect me and his mother to act as babysitters for his grandchildren. That we'd raised one child, and we were done and happy to focus on us, our lives, etc. My son was visibly upset by this, and said \"But you're going to be grandparents. Shouldn't you WANT to spend time with your grandkids?\"\n\nMy wife spoke up and said that yes, we would be happy to spend time with them, but that we weren't going to be babysitters, we wouldn't be raising them, we would spend them with the *family*, not *just* the grandkids -- we would not be free daycare or babysitting, we would not be taking them on trips, spoiling them, etc. She made a point to say, \"I'm sorry if this isn't what you expected. We will of course be a part of their lives, but we aren't here to be taken advantage of. Your children aren't our responsibility. We don't have a choice if you have them or not. It's your life and your choice, but please don't expect us to sacrifice ours.\"\n\nWell, it all blew up. My son said he just assumed all parents were dying for the moment when they had grandkids, that there's something wrong with us, he can't believe he'd be so cold to our (not even born yet) grandchild, etc etc. \n\nSo I have to ask. Am I the asshole here?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 458, "OTHER": 179, "EVERYBODY": 14, "NOBODY": 33, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 212, "WRONG": 472}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Vw4zTvkMWuCtmOqaL8k8nAw4HKizh46r", "post_id": "a1a9tb", "action": {"description": "telling my parents about my suicidal stepsister", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my parents about my suicidal stepsister?", "text": "My stepsister (I\u2019ll call her B) and I have been super close ever since our parents married. We had a great relationship and friendship, confiding in each other regularly. B has been depressed for a long time, but recently she seems to be getting a lot worse. \nI have told her that she needs to get help time and time again. She\u2019s always refused. She thinks that medication will make her worse and firmly believes that no one can help her. Especially a stranger (a therapist or counselor). Talking with her one night, she admits to me that she made a noose and planned to take her life earlier that day. She added that she decided not to do it and that she was \u201cfine now.\u201d She also added that she was telling me this in confidence and wanted it to stay between us. \nThis seriously freaked me out and I forwarded the message she sent to my mom. One thing to add is that I live 500 miles away from her, so I felt pretty desperate to have someone closer to her know what was going on. \nMy mom and stepdad (her father) went to check on her the following night and forced her to agree to attend counseling or risk being committed for her own safety. \nB was livid and called me telling me that I ruined her life and that she would never trust me again. We haven\u2019t talked since and it hurts because I considered her one of my best friends and my intentions were never to hurt her. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "65J5kNigBZGq0z1OXws5lglgGKKyjm1L", "post_id": "b4yl1l", "action": null, "title": "WIBTA - new chapter in life", "text": "Don't wanna turn this post into a overly long essay on the situation as there isnt much details that could be added let alone rellevent.\n\nIn april i will be leaving for boot camp, as this will be a big change from the life I used to and currently live. I've been considering cutting off friends and family as I want to have a fresh start. In a way I feel I can't truly clean my slate if I still have remnants of the current and past me, leaving me not able to fully change who I am.\n\nWIBTA?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "VEJGIyDVyNRSoPoMEDbDJrYaTuD2Thd5", "post_id": "a9ug7d", "action": {"description": "not wanting to let my dad \"fix\" things at my house whenever he visits", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to let my dad \"fix\" things at my house whenever he visits?", "text": "My sink has a leak when you run the water. It's been that way since I bought the house in 2010. He talked me into letting him to try to seal the base of the faucet to the sink in which it turned out extremely ugly. It hasn't dried yet because he keeps turning the faucet on and adding more things that he needs to do to \"fix\" it. He cleaned out what I think he called the \"p\" trap but then removed the sink stopper which left a hole where water comes out the side of the pipe now.\n\nAnd now he wanted to replace the whole faucet with hoses but is saying one of the pipes or hoses he's worried about because it's welded to the wall or some shit. \n\nWe've been fighting about this since Christmas Eve. And every time I tell him no, he gets into a pissy mood because I'm not appreciating his work. Well fuck no I'm not appreciative. He just keeps making things worse after I've been telling him not to fuck with it for days and still insists he knows what's he's doing and that plumbers will charge a huge amount. and then I'm like well no shit! After you turned a minor thing into something major, of course he's going to charge a lot plus, plumbing is a profession that takes skill and experience and not just some random tinkering. Fuck!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0HL3f3N9iTzqcEri2XUjS7IegKl2q3yq", "post_id": "b2rs03", "action": {"description": "telling my mum I need space to recover completely", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For telling my mum I need space to recover completely?", "text": "For some background, I\u2019m a recovering anorexic. Was 30 lbs underweight for my height and now I\u2019m healthy and not just barely; my weight is nearly back to what it was before anorexia nearly ruined my life. I\u2019m still working on my body image a lot, especially knowing this fact. I\u2019m eating normal portions and even indulging and minus the guilt, I\u2019m on the right path. And I\u2019m trying to stay that way.\n\nMy mother has disordered eating and is in denial about it. It\u2019s not quiet; she boasts that she only ate 300~ calories that day. Right now she\u2019s still overweight but has lost a lot of weight in the last months and tells people how much she lost. She\u2019s been caught binging in the middle of the night and purging under the guise of an upset stomach.\n\nHere\u2019s the predicament. I can safely attribute that her constant urge for weight loss kicked my eating disorder into gear. She picked and picks at my weight. Buys clothes in sizes far too big and is shocked they\u2019re too large. She\u2019s always commenting on how much I eat. When I was very sick and in and out of hospital, she remarked she could \u201cnever eat as much as they give you\u201d. Now that I\u2019m recovered she stares at my portion sizes and takes two bites of her meal or just drinks water.\n\nI understand my mother is very likely narcissist. She\u2019s always been obsessed over image and we don\u2019t necessarily get along, especially following my diagnosis. We recently got into a discussion and I told her unless she gets help I can\u2019t be around her because it\u2019s hindering and impacting my recovery. Watching her eat next to nothing is causing a lot of jealousy in me(didnt say this) and it\u2019s putting me on the brink of relapse. This caused a sobbing fit and my stepdad and older brother aren\u2019t talking to me now. Now I feel rotten. She wasnt exactly there for me in my recovery and I was pretty alone in my illness. I\u2019m worried I\u2019m doing the same to her if she\u2019s struggling as much as I\u2019m worried she is, and being just as inactive.\n\nSo, reddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5qf1qxD2oB8P1NvmsPKBYyaRBiaf6dXD", "post_id": "a746bs", "action": {"description": "playing a prank on my friend for 6 weeks", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for playing a prank on my friend for 6 weeks", "text": "TL;DR at bottom\n\nBack in high school, some friends and I went out to a party and one of my friends got outrageously drunk. Long story short, he ends up sleeping on my bathroom floor after I drive everyone to my place. My step dad, who didn't know the friend was in the bathroom, ends up tripping over my sleeping friend during the night and ends up jamming his thumb. \n\nThe following day, my friend apologizes to my step dad and everything is forgiven but my step dads thumb is still jammed. After a few days, my friend asked how my step dads thumb was doing and I have the realization that the only way my friend could get information about my step dads health was through me, so I kept the story going. In reality, my step dads thumb felt fine a day or two after jamming it but I told my friend something along the lines of \"his thumb is really bothering him, he's planning on going to the doctor tomorrow.\" \n\nFast forward a week, my friend asks about my step dad again and I feed him something along the lines of \"he was doing a little work on his car and fell back on his thumb and it's broken now.\" This trend continues for at least 6 weeks with the final story ending up being that my step dad had broken his hand so he couldn't work (contracting/construction), leading to things getting tight with money, even dipping into my college fund to pay bills and all the random expenses that kept popping up, etc etc. I got some friends and even my mom to contribute to the story in little ways like with an off comment about seeing my step dad in a cast, etc.\n\nWeek 6 of the joke rolls around and my friend is back at my house for the first time since the thumb jamming incident. He then apologizes to my mom and she looks at me and says is \"Oh, you still haven't told him?\" to which I finally reveal it was a joke and that my step dad was fine since day 2.\n\nI recently told this story to a couple of newer friends and they told me they thought that what I did was kind of fucked up which got me wondering, AITA in this story?\n\nTL;DR I fed my friend false information for 6 weeks and basically convinced him he caused my family financial stress as a joke", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "YjOge8ervTN5cyd2sOK7rZfrHmUCacVf", "post_id": "aj4ybr", "action": {"description": "allowing a homeless person to stay in my house", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA - For allowing a homeless person to stay in my house?", "text": "I own a pretty large home.  A couple years ago I moved my mother into my house after my parents divorce to help her both financially and mentally.  My house has an apartment in the basement, kitchen, bath, bedrooms, living room, private garage entrance and own front door.\n\nAbout 2 months ago my Mom said an ex co-worker of hers was living in a camper (we live in the midwest so its cold now) and was wondering if he could move in with her while he looks for another job.  I wasn't too happy about it, neither was my GF who also lives with me; however I met this guy plenty of times before and even had him over last year for thanksgiving.\n\nAnyways, not long after he moved in my mom didn't want him there anymore.  For no particular reason other then she thought he wasn't looking for a job as hard as he should have been.  He has no license so any job he gets he needs to be able to get to it in a reasonable walking distance.\n\nFast forward to 2 weeks ago, my Mom and I come up with a plan that we can pawn him off onto someone else.  My girlfriend is happy because she doesn't want him there (not any safety issues).  So a few days before we pawn him off he gets called in for an interview.  We keep the plan going, then he gets called back for a drug test; we keep the plan going and then a few days after we got rid of him (told him it was just temporary although we planned on it being permanent) they left him a message on my moms answering machine saying he got the job and could start right away.\n\nWe dropped him off 10 miles away in another town, our area doesn't have any real public transportation system.  So now my Mom and I were feeling really guilty that this guy would now have to turn down that job and remain homeless and unemployed because we kicked him out.\n\nMy mom and I agreed we would take him back with the condition that he has 30 days to find a place and move out.  When I told my GF she exploded at me.  In fact its going on day 4 and she wont speak to me, sent me a message today saying shes not going on a trip that we had planned for mid February and that shes sleeping in the guest bedroom until he moves out.\n\nShe feels I chose a homeless man over her and that me and my mother lied to her because we said he wouldn't be coming back and then he got the job so we let him back.\n\nI feel guilty that shes mad at me and that plans changed.  I also would have felt extremely guilty for ruining a mans chances of getting back on his feet.  I can accept some responsibility and know I'm skirted the line of \"assholeish\" just don't know if I went full asshole or not. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "b0LMtzY6PveUf0URtfSh3NCQDxUvHKp3", "post_id": "adzkk7", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my gf for smoking some cigs", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my gf for smoking some cigs", "text": "It's pretty simple I've expressed the fact that id rather her not smoke cigs but after she told me she did with some friends once and she's gone off and done it again \nIt's not like I think she's gonna become and addict or anything but I still don't want her to smoke", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tPF51s8wshidfG46DmrBTazngqGGEGUj", "post_id": "aiot7v", "action": {"description": "keeping a friend even though he's my ex's brother", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for keeping a friend even though he's my ex's brother?", "text": "So I've been dating a girl for about 4 months. We were randomly talking about our friend groups and how we all met. 8 years ago, when I was in college I had a girlfriend that I dated for about 3 years. I became really good friends with her brother and his friends, and after she and I broke up we group of guys all just stayed friends. \n\nFast forward 5 years and I'm dating a new girl. When I mention that technically I met my friends through my ex and that one is her brother, she basically says, \"I'm having nothing to do with ex's. We might as well just stop seeing each other.\"\n\nI try to explain that it's been more than 5 years since I've spoken to my ex, my friends and I are mainly online gaming buddies, etc., but there's no convincing her that it's no big deal. \n\nAm I the asshole for maintaining a friendship with someone related to an ex?\n\nTL;DR I'm friends with my ex's brother and the girl I'm dating has big problems with that, but I don't want to stop a really old friendship", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fUPp2PPJf57wTccE3AAWbFQ7GAnHMEho", "post_id": "aeew17", "action": {"description": "telling someone I like her while I was in a new long distance relationship", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling someone I like her while I was in a new long distance relationship?", "text": "I was seeing a guy, we will call M, for a little under 2 months, both of us knowing I was leaving the state and would be thousands of miles away for about a year for a federal program.\n\n2 weeks after starting the program and being long distance, I started having strong feelings towards another person in the program, S. S and I would hang out often, and after about 2 weeks we confessed feelings for each other. S and I became very close that week and she asked me if she could kiss me while we were cuddling and watching Netflix. I said no because I was still with M.\n\nThe next day, I broke things off with M over text and explained that when I returned home we could maybe resume things, but the next few months were going to be very busy and life changing. I never mentioned S.\n\n2 years later S and I are dating and living together in an apartment. Looking back on it, I wonder if IATA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SXpzbkWSeBPuHuM7h8SyDCmgBmVbRdfN", "post_id": "9uazvw", "action": {"description": "making a joke", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for making a joke?", "text": "I was on Whisper and someone posted \"I'm in a wheelchair, ask me anything.\" And I posted \"Would you describe yourself as a stand up individual?\" She told me that it was harassment. And I apologized for the joke before she blocked me. Am I an asshole for making that joke?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "7z7YyRAot6P4fhdaeN4BHFT6TFpCv8Rr", "post_id": "akdi2k", "action": {"description": "not wanting to move to my gf's country", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to move to my gf's country?", "text": "I met my gf when she came to my country as an exchange student. We've been together for two years now, and I visited her country as an exchange student as well. Recently we came across the topic of moving together, but it was pretty evident that she expected me to move, since I already moved a few times and always said I want to get out of my country one day. The problem is, while that is all true, moving is not the problem, her country is. It's 1st world, but poorer than mine, with bad working conditions, an extremely difficult language and very strict laws. \nI feel like I can do better here while working less with less problems (my country can be racist as well, but it comes more from stupid old fucks, and usually not directed at her race). She then called me an opportunist ass (jokingly, but still, I'm wondering if I'm wrong).", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fstxB8vCCSWYnz7iufumUwEBUEhmjcbk", "post_id": "anvpu1", "action": {"description": "not letting my sister move in", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I don't let my sister move in?", "text": "So, kinda a long one.\n\nI am 26. I am the youngest in a big family. One of my oldest sisters is 48.\n\nI have a good job (and am currently going through a year of training for a massive promotion - this is a pretty stressful time career wise and financially because it means I'm unable to do overtime or earn any extras for this entire period, overtime being something I usually do a lot of), I own my house, I have an amazing other half and we have a dog who means the world to us. \n\nMy older sister quit her job a few years ago because it was stressing her out - she had no back up plan. A little while after that she decided to move 200 miles away from her (retired) husband and do a course at university for a year, she completed the course but never used the qualification for anything. She remained unemployed for a couple of years then met someone else (who is married and lives on another continent), left her husband, moved 500 miles away and eventually got a job which enabled her to sometimes work from home. She stores everything she owns in my 'box room' as there's no where else for it to go.\n\nShe maintained this for about 5 months before quitting her job to travel. A week before she quit she said to me 'I'll be with you from 22 December, does that suit you?' - to clarify, in the past I had said the words 'I'll always be here for you' and 'if there's anything I can do to help' to her but I'm not sure that covers all of this. When she mentioned December, I assumed she meant for Christmas and went along with it.\n\nWhen she arrived she had everything she owned other than what was already in my house with her. I didn't know she wasn't going back to her place or her work. She stayed until the end of January when she went off to travel. When she's here she's sloppy and doesn't give me any money but uses the WiFi all day every day to call her boyfriend and does the laundry in a way that I hate, she never ever walks the dog or even let's her outside (we pay \u00a350 a week to have someone else come walk her), never uses the dishwasher, leaves things lying around and of course is at this point taking up two full rooms in my house. Some days I don't even see her, she's just upstairs on the phone constantly. She's very very sensitive so it's impossible to have a conversation about any of this. One time I asked her not to leave dishes in the sink, rather put them on the side, and it was like telling someone they've only got a week to live. Even though she's away now, I can't have anyone stay over because her stuff is taking up the whole guest room and another whole room in the house. \n\nAnyways she's away on holiday now and just text me that she broke up with her boyfriend. She had future plans to go travel to see him, but now they're cancelled.\nShe asked me about coming back here but the thought makes me want to scoop my eyes out - however, she has no where else to go.\nIf I say no (except to come move her stuff) AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7KWbB75on87ZBEqiYqjJ1qU1e6GEtXsp", "post_id": "ayhdhs", "action": {"description": "now wanting to volunteer longer", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for now wanting to volunteer longer?", "text": "New/ old account that I haven't really used. \n\n​\n\nSo I am currently spending some time volunteering in a  low income country. Before I arrived, I made it VERY CLEAR to the organization that I would only be staying for one month. I had a room rented for a month, and that was it. The ORG seemed super excited and willing to have me on-board for the month, as I was super excited and willing to participate! \n\nI have been here for 2 weeks, and it has been a great and enjoyable experience. EXCEPT it has been really getting on my nerves how everytime one of my fellow ORG-workers asks me how long I will be staying, they almost always reply with \"OnLy A MoNth?!?!\". And proceed to give me a weird look. I explain to them how yes, while I enjoy volunteering very much, I also cannot do it forever as I need to find a way to make money and provide for myself. (background: while I am from a first world country\", I am poor myself and do what I can to help others, but ultimately need to make sure I have money to eat as well). I have even received the response to \"wait around and volunteer for a few more months and then you might get a paying job). UH SORRY?! I do not have the funds to not work for months on end, and wait to MAYBE get a job with the ORG. \n\n  \nIDK, am I being unreasonable here? AITA for wanting to make money so that I can survive (lol?).  Is this how the non-profit, volunteering world just operates? How do these people have the funds to not work for such long periods of time? I don't know, I have many questions haha. \n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zoRhaw9cVsjq4yODyt5CPfyYk7pD8KFX", "post_id": "ayo5ed", "action": {"description": "treating a student differently", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for treating a student differently?", "text": "So I'm a TA for a computer science class. I run the labs and answer student questions.\n\n​\n\nThere's one student who I particularly do not like. She is short-tempered and \"bitchy\" for lack of a better word when I explain things to her. She had a question, and she gave me the same short attitude when I tried to explain something to her. So I decided to do something that might be constructive.\n\n​\n\nI began asking her to explain every minute detail of the concept. I would normally type small snippets of code in for her, but I told her to do it. I was not condescending in my tone (at least I don't think). I just made her do a little extra footwork and made her cover absolutely all of her bases. \n\n​\n\nWas this petty on my part? Does this make me a sphincter? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RlNRlpNyqnqKufxjA1MIzhoZ3itq8z6b", "post_id": "9vlv0a", "action": {"description": "not gifting my friend something for her birthday", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not gifting my friend something for her birthday?", "text": "So a friend of mine is celebrating her birthday in a couple of days. Me and my girlfriend prepared a gift card for her with some money in it.\n\nNow it would be all fine and dandy, but this friend decided that she would prepare nothing for the party; no snacks, no drinks (except water), no special events or something.\n\nNow, AITA if i take the money out of the card and give her nothing or if i buy snacks with the gift money and give her the rest?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "TpPKNX6hTmtTUFUqQH0OoZc48g9bMNYn", "post_id": "ao21tn", "action": {"description": "not letting my roommate in after he locked himself out", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "AITA for not letting my roommate in after he locked himself out?", "text": "We are in college and live on the first floor of our residence hall. We are one of the closest rooms to the front doors. You need your swipe to get in to the building and then into your dorm, the bathroom, etc.. If you lock yourself out and have to call public safety to let you in, you  have to pay a fee $15 fee.  My roommate and I aren'tclose at all but are respectful of each other. To an extent. So last week at about 4 AM my roommate texted me asking if I would let him in because he left his key in the room. I was falling asleep when I got the text and checked my phone but was so annoyed that he would even ask me to get out of bed at that time. I know that it literally would have taken me a minute to go out there and let him in, but this wasn't the first time I had to stop what I was doing to let him in because he locked himself out and I sort of wanted to teach him a lesson. So I pretended I didn't see the text and went back to sleep. About ten minutes later, public safety came and let him in. I should add that he wasn't left out in the cold, there are two doors and an area in between that he was waiting in. The next morning I acted completely oblivious and as if that was the first time I saw the text. AITA for not getting out of bed to let him in?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 15, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "xcdCnMJpnBpRZIcmqmsciIvx0FxwlQWu", "post_id": "b0tty8", "action": {"description": "not bringing my wife her wallet", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA For not bringing my wife her wallet?", "text": "Okay, I got a rather tame situation here.\n\n​\n\nI'm in the Air Force and live in Base Housing. Housing happens to be separated from the base by an overpass bridge, so you have to go past the gate guards and of course show them your military ID.\n\n​\n\nMy wife and I drive separate vehicles, but I am the primary driver if we take trips into the city or travel. When we do that my wife will grab her wallet and military ID and place it in my car for the trip. It just so happens that we just made a trip on Sunday.\n\n​\n\nMy wife also goes to the gym every night, which happens to be located on the actual base. Queue to tonight.\n\n​\n\nMy wife left for the gym and I was in my office \\~\\~procrastinating\\~\\~ doing my homework. About 5 minutes in my wife calls me sounding a little panicked.\n\n​\n\nWife: \"I'm pretty sure I left my wallet in your car.\"\n\n​\n\nMe: \"Okay, no big deal - \"\n\n​\n\nWife: \"it has my license in there.\"\n\n​\n\nMe: \"Maybe come back and get it?\"\n\n​\n\nWife: \"I'm not in housing anymore, I'm on base.\"\n\n​\n\nAt this point I already know what she is implying. She didn't say it, but I know her tone all to well and she totally wants me to get dressed, get in my car and drive over to her to deliver her wallet.\n\n​\n\nMe: \"Babe, it's okay. As long as you got your military ID, you should be fine. And you've been driving to the gym every night this week without your wallet and fortunately nothing has happened.\"\n\n​\n\nWife: \"But I shouldn't be driving without it.\"\n\n​\n\nAt this point her voice is getting irritated and I can sense the frustration building in her tone.\n\n​\n\nMe: \"If you feel uncomfortable, come back over here and grab your wallet out of my car. It honestly should be fine, and Security Forces are generally chill folks who would understand.\"\n\n​\n\nWife: \"UGH!! OKAY! FINE, Mastu\\_KBM!!\"\n\n​\n\nUh-oh, there is that famous phrase that means I goofed up. At this point I kept trying to diffuse the situation and reassure her that she would be okay as long as she didn't do anything stupid, but the damage was done. She didn't say anything else to me and hung up on me abruptly. A few minutes later I here the garage door open and her come in the house to grab my keys and get her wallet, then leave without saying a word.\n\n​\n\nI feel bad, because honestly, I wasn't in the mood to get dressed and drive over to her. And I wont make any excuses for my lazy behavior.\n\n​\n\nAITA for not stopping my task of finishing my homework to help my wife out?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lSqAyHwV0D07m74cs4U0QxHz2EfBrkaG", "post_id": "avbbxn", "action": {"description": "being mad that my best friend kicked me out of my his life because he was too in love with me", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for being mad that my best friend kicked me out of my his life because he was too in love with me?", "text": "My bestie swears up and down I\u2019m a petty bitch when I think I haven\u2019t done anything wrong.\nSo, my all time best guy friend, let\u2019s call him Matt, is in love with me. We met in senior year but fell out of contact and reestablish contact around April 2018. And he and I start hanging out all the time. Now I don\u2019t have a car at that point so he comes to pick me up and we do fun things. Now he was a larger guy, not super overweight but big enough he was unhappy and had self confidence issues/body image issues. So I encouraged him to start eating better and invited him to come work out with me and he started dropping pounds like nobody\u2019s business. He was feeling good about himself. I even helped him get a job.  I literally changed his life for the better. He was even friends with my dad. We told each other everything, he was my best friend and I even saw him as an older brother.  So for that reason plus the fact that he just wasn\u2019t the type of guy I\u2019m looking for I wouldn\u2019t date him (despite all of our other friends saying oh you guys would be cute together and all this is the man you married and all this other stuff they gave him false hope), so for those reasons I suppose he held out hope. I figured (hoped)  It would  pass. Nope. Wrong. Now we tell each other everything he brought me all his problems, which is fine I don\u2019t mind listening and I\u2019ve been told I give pretty good advice, but he kept bringing me the same problem, that all he wanted was a girlfriend. He brought this problem to me twice a week if not more. It was beginning to become a strain on our friendship. My best friend and I helped him set up a tinder, he hadn\u2019t matched with very many girls yet, he also kept thinking he could get girls that where on my level of attractiveness, big boobs, with a nice ass. (Y\u2019all will probably crucify me for that but it\u2019s the truth, unless he finds some 10 with daddy issues) But I digress, I finally just couldn\u2019t take it anymore I had told him for months he needed to go to therapy (I did it in subtle ways I brought it up talked about my time in therapy as a child and how it helped me. But he seemed very unreceptive to it so I didn\u2019t push the issue), he\u2019s a messed up dude his family did it to him, and being overweight most of his life definitely didn\u2019t help. And so I was like look you need to go to therapy, I even offered to go with him and help him fill out the forms and take him to a good place. After two long hours of tears and things he finally agreed. So I went with him signed him up and finally things started to get better and go his way. He was getting the help he needed and he got a very promising match on tinder. (As a matter fact he\u2019s with that girl right now) but he was still madly in love with me. So his therapist said \u201cyou need to cut her out of your life. So that you can move on.\u201d He was very upset about it. But he did it. And I understood, but now I\u2019m a little resentful of the fact that he kicked me out of his life. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "qX7kjZlCessBTfvMJ6cdHuEKbkFdYZQM", "post_id": "at9h8h", "action": {"description": "not apologizing for accidentally raising my voice", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not apologizing for accidentally raising my voice?", "text": "Small-scale AITA for you guys.\n\nMy friend (F) and I were eating and she was talking about something and I said \u201cwait what?\u201d\n\nShe got upset because she thought I was angry when I said that. I asked how was I angry, and she said that I used my angry voice. I noticed I did raise my voice a little but I just replied \u201coh no, I\u2019m not angry\u201d\n\nShe proceeded to stay angry and give me the silent treatment. AITA for not saying sorry here? I attempted to act normal becauseI\u2019m working on not letting people bother me, but she didn\u2019t want to conversate. I also acknowledge I didn\u2019t apologize, because I refuse to apologize for things I didn\u2019t do", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "rhOt5CZLHXtpxypofCsWWHkSmsns4AQi", "post_id": "az40fg", "action": {"description": "accidentally losing a dance prop and not telling my coaches who were going around asking for what happened to it", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for accidentally losing a dance prop and not telling my coaches who were going around asking for what happened to it?", "text": "Accidentally left one of our props on a table and now it's missing. Everyone I dance with was looking everywhere for it. My dance coaches kept asking if anyone knew what happened to it etc and I said nothing. You see, I have very strict coaches. I'm afraid of one of them; he gonna beat my ass when he finds out it was my fault. I'm scared to tell them because I'm afraid to get in trouble but they're going to figure out anyways because they gonna look at security cameras. Yeah...  We also need that prop for the state championships. \n\nAITA for not telling my coaches that it is my fault that a prop is missing? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "BLWlKtGISOwj6C09xk0oCxj28SjS4ePf", "post_id": "awbp3s", "action": {"description": "telling someone that Anthem is garbage", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for telling someone that Anthem is garbage?", "text": "This is really stupid but here we go. Yay, gaming...\n\nToday a classmate bragged about getting Anthem (a newly released game) to me. \n\nIf you don't know, Anthem has gotten a lot of hate from the gaming community for its terrible long ass loading screens, grindy repetitive gameplay, and a list of bugs that reads like an essay (and so much more but I can't list them all).\n\nBut this person defended it *to the death* saying it was an amazing game and that it is totally worth it. \n\nMe, as someone who does not support EA and the funding of terrible cashgrabs, said gently (yes, I was polite) \"I heard ______(some criticisms)______ about Anthem, are they true-\" \n\nThe classmate yelled, cutting me off (I'm paraphrasing) \"You've never played it so you don't have the right to talk to me\" in the rude I-don't-care condescending tone.\n\nMy mind at the moment was \"bitch I just had a goddamn different opinion\" so I may or may not have said Anthem was garbage after that. \n\n2 hours later I texted him 20 YouTube links that were to Anthem reviews (they were all mostly negative ones, you can't find any positive Anthem reviews out there) and sarcastically said that Anthem was a 10/10 game. \n\nI might have gone too far- I shouldn't be forcing my opinions on anyone. I'm pretty sure he's blocked me.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SycXwaQWpvu642cPH5xcjsupZQt5qgqA", "post_id": "9uvbba", "action": {"description": "getting livid at my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting livid at my girlfriend?", "text": "So today my girl tells me that this \u201cfriend\u201d of hers got her a necklace with a heart on it and a stuffed cat (for her b-day. The \u201cfriend\u201d is some dude and it\u2019s some dude she\u2019s known for only maybe a month and a half. She was also wearing this necklace all day today\n\nI got pissed at her for wearing the necklace or even accepting the gift to begin with because it\u2019s obvious the dude is into her. She\u2019s saying he\u2019s not but just the other day she told me he said \u201care you still dating GuyComedy? Oh you are, I could do way better than him\u201d\n\nI was livid that she would even continue talking to him after that and even more pissed that she somehow \u201cdidn\u2019t realize\u201d that he is into her.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DSRPSVwvnmOn11flVCmYdlQDZJdGELO1", "post_id": "b9np1m", "action": {"description": "ruining the mood", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for ruining the mood", "text": "Group of 3, went fishing and was playing cards to pass the time, the other two friends made a bet to see who would beat who 5 times in a row. This bet would take forever since they are both experienced players, so I was basically left out. Don\u2019t like the feeling of being left out, but I didn\u2019t wanna ruin the mood or anything so I just shrugged it off and studied on my phone.\n\nWhat made me snap was, we only had two chairs and a barrel, so I offered to sit on the floor because they needed the barrel to put the cards on, and I was on the floor studying. These guys were roasting me for memes and I usually take it well, but what tipped me off the edge was when one of them put their feet over my head out of nowhere, I wanted to break their feet but I thought that it wasn\u2019t worth it and I yelled pretty fucking angrily at that person and they just went silent and said minimal words until we went home. This is pretty much the first time I got seriously pissed off at them. AITA?\n\nTLDR; friend stepped on my head, got angry, mood went to shit.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "o76q5xZ4lKe40JMTuop6PawhSZRYWULA", "post_id": "a62snl", "action": {"description": "inadvertently making my roommate sleep elsewhere", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for inadvertently making my roommate sleep elsewhere?", "text": "Throwaway account for obvious reasons.\nFor context, I share a room with a roommate who is a really light sleeper, and I mean really light, they has a test tomorrow and I was using my computer/monitor as they were going to bed. I asked them if they wanted me to stop so the screen wouldn't bother Them and they said it was fine, so I thought nothing of it. Then fast forward about 90-120 minutes they get up and leave and go to the couch to sleep w/out saying a word. Felt super bad but didn't know if I was in the wrong or not. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WzinVPSyIRv0mfCZVgfJgZSSs6iSYs2q", "post_id": "arf2f1", "action": {"description": "giving up on a girl and breaking her heart twice", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA: I give up on a girl and broke her heart twice", "text": "^((replaced the names because I don't feel too comfortable))  \n\n​\n\nSo here's the backstory.\n\nI liked this girl named Jessica a long long time ago, like at least 5 years ago.\n\nI talk to Jessica and found out that we like similar things, animes, Korean drama, and such during that time.\n\nI also found that her character is great: strong, smart, persistent, patient and etc. She instantly robs me of my heart.\n\nI confessed to Jessica about my feelings after a couple of months, and she never replied directly.\n\nJessica hinted that she was fearful that I may only be with her for a short amount of time and break her heart like her ex-boyfriends.\n\nI promised that I won't be like them but the topic was left behind and never mentioned.\n\nWe chatted sometimes during school time, and vacation came.\n\nI liked Jessica really much so even if she did not reply, I held on to what we had. I texted her throughout our two months summer vacation.\n\nI texted her about what I did and asked her how about what she did.\n\nWe spoke and had fun. Jessica replied to my intimate messages positively. We were sort of like long-distance couple texts.\n\nHowever, after about a month of texting, she started hinting that we might not go along together because my family might be racist to her.\n\nThen she bluntly said she was starting to lose interest in me. That hit me like an emotional truck.\n\nI teared up and cried that night and tried to resume to the previous mood and continued texting.\n\nA few days later Jessica asked if I was going to give up on her.\n\nThen Jessica mentioned that she started to like another boy named Dean, which was kind of strange to me because it was in the middle of summer vacation, and interest to a guy doesn't just get sprouted out of no where.\n\nI thought that after all sustaining a relationship purely from the texting was after all too idealistic.\n\nSo I said I give up trying to get her more interested in me but did not say I will stop liking her.\n\nTo help myself and Jessica to get off the awkward phase, I just said I will focus on school more.\n\nJessica didn't say much.\n\nAbout a week later she called me a fucktard.\n\nFew days after that she called me an asshole.\n\nLater on, I found out that Jessica did go with Dean, and sometime we'd still talk, then I gave my blessing to her with Dean.\n\nThen Dean and Jessica broke up. Turns out Dean was 'sort of' cheating and being a lousy boyfriend and such.\n\nJessica was heartbroken and gotten more and more depressed. She was practically despondent to romantic relationships.\n\nAfter a few months, things die down and I spoke to Jessica again. She said I broke her heart that I let her go. She said it was my fault.\n\nSo the question is: Am I the asshole?  \n\n  \n\n^((Sorry for bad English))", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4LvzcZSd74oxlqiAOd5UpAtoQIKVgtqN", "post_id": "b00v0c", "action": {"description": "not being honest to my parents about university", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for not being honest to my parents about university", "text": "I am a third year student of Pharmacy (4 year course). I hate the course and I know it isn't for me. So i am taking the exit degree which will allow me to graduate this year with Pharmaceutical Science. I don't care for this exit degree neither but at least I will get something. I am not sure whether I should tell my parents because they would go crazy. I just dont have the energy to deal with how they will act after. Seeing how theyve reacted before with my siblings. I feel really bad because theyre so proud of me. I know I shouldn't lie but its just easier. Am i an Asshole if I lie? how should I tell them?\n\n ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "3tQeekaaM0PQSTVaCFWOiWLmn5ZX0o6E", "post_id": "b63ywm", "action": null, "title": "AITA Group projects suck!", "text": "Hi, first time poster, on mobile, all that stuff :)\nSorry, it's going to be a bit long. Summary at the end.\n\nSome background, I have pretty severe anxiety and a history of doing more than my fair share of group projects since I worry about them not getting done otherwise.\n\nI'm currently at Uni and working on a project  with three other students. I should start by mentioning that this project is divided in 2 parts, one group-assignment/report and one individual report. \n\nAs per usual my anxiety is acting up and I estimate that I've done about 70% of the group-assignment so far. Despite this I have no problems with two of the three members of my group, they always show up and do their best. The work so far is based on our discussions and ideas so they still do work.\nBut this third student... \n\nShe skipped the first couple of lessons were we laid down the rules in the group (respect,being on time, critique is welcome but not negativity, etc.) Which means that she wanted us all to write separately in a shared document even though the rest of us already agreed that we'd work better together, continuously developing our ideas.\n\nIn our almost 17 page long shared document she has written less than a page and only because we told her what to type.\n\nShe missed an important meeting were we ended up making some major changes, however I summarised the whole thing and put it in the aforementioned document for her to read - she didn't. \n\nShe skipped out on both a seminar and a work shop aimed at getting dead back from other groups so we can make changes before the presentation. SO THAT SHE COULD WORK ON HER OWN ASSIGNMENT.\nShe also doesn't want to meet up this week to fix the changes even though the presentation is only a week away (again - anxiety).\n\nSo today I finally did it. I sent my teacher an email and abandoned the group. I will be doing my own report on the project (Which I came up with by the way).\nI even left them with the document and all the work I've done so far.\n\nNow here's the kicker: she told ME that I was being unfair for calling her out on not doing any work and now she's pissed at me. She thought I was being rude for assuming she didn't do any work because she spent that time \"on her individual report\".\n\nI feel sorry for the other girls but as mentioned that still have access to all my work and notes leading up to this point.\n\nHelp me see this from her POV.\nAm I the asshole?\n\nSummary: I do 70% of a group project while another girl skips meetings to work on her own assignments so I leave the group with a week left to deadline.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "e9j3O5gsAktT4ENgLPuIaovos901pvBm", "post_id": "b4nok2", "action": {"description": "letting a single lie cause so many problems", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for letting a single lie cause so many problems?", "text": "My girlfriend(18F) and I (20m) have been together for a month, but have been close friends for 4 years. In those four years we had the most honest friendship I\u2019ve ever had, never one have either of us lied to each other. As a result, a relationship seemed like a good idea.\n\nWe share locations with each other and we have even prior to our relationship, it just something my family and friends do Incase anything ever happens. Yesterday I was leaving school and checking to see if my grandparents were home, when I did I noticed that my girlfriend was at a old weed dealers house, this guy has hit her up at 2am saying \u2018What\u2019s the deal, come over\u2019 and things of that nature more than once. Now, I\u2019ve acknowledged that this bothers me in the past and out of respect of the relationship she said she would stop going through him. \n\nSo immediately I messaged her, I asked her what she was doing over there. She responded with \u201cPicking up ____ from *insert dealers name* house\u201d I was fine with it and relieved, just told her I wish she would of communicated with me. \n\nNow, as I go back to check to see if she had left, she\u2019s still there 20 minutes later. So I got a little suspicious, we grew up in a small town so of course I knew the guy. I decided to message him and ask him what was going on. He proceeded to tell me that he was kicking it with *insert girlfriends name*.  I asked about it and again she covered it up. \n\nI personally don\u2019t think I would of cared if she communicated it or would of cared as much, but now that I\u2019ve caught her lying I feel as if I can\u2019t move forward in the relationship. It has turned me into a dick towards her and I feel like I\u2019m questioning her every move, I ended things. As the day went by I slowly became less mad and agreed to meet with her, she started crying and asking for me back, touching me, and me being a fool I chose her back. But now I\u2019m just right back to being a dick to her and questioning everything.\n\nSo AITA for letting one lie cause so much turmoil?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wxDcoKbfZ7o2RgWA7h3AboVQLbzCkbdW", "post_id": "aan0g7", "action": {"description": "asking my extended Family to not bring their kids to my birthday", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA for asking my extended Family to NOT bring their Kids to my birthday?", "text": "Obligatory \"disclaimer\": I am on mobile so please excuse any formatting mistakes.\n\nI am 20 years old and preparing to be able to move out next year. My Birthday will be in May.\n\nAnyways, onto the context. I'll start with saying that I absolutely can not stand kids. I don't like being around them, talking about them or interacting with them BUT I always hide it in front of kids because I have these feelings no matter how they behave, so I can't be rude or anything to kids simply because they exist.\nSo, about a little over a year ago one of my aunts had twins. I am happy for her and I do love my cousins and I even play with them sometimes and am always nice to them, because even if I don't like Kids they are still Family and obviously if normal well behaved baby behaviour is annoying me it's not their fault.\n\nOn the other Hand I am quite vocal about my dislike for Kids and I make it very clear that even though I will interact with my cousins when I meet them I do not want to see any baby pictures or talk about baby stuff, and the most I want to hear about them is an occasional reassurance that they are okey since it is enough for me to see them at most family events. \n\nI always liked to go to family events, and I do like doing stuff with my aunts, and my grandparents and my mom (my parents do not live together) but since the children are there this has become a sensitive topic because of my absolute disinterest in anything related to babies. I don't even think my cousins are cute and especially my childless aunt (Sabine) takes offense to that. She has this giant mother complex and even though we get along very well normally there is tension between us whenever this topic comes up since I get annoyed at her for trying to force me into caring more than I can, and she gets annoyed at me for not caring enough.\n\nThe other aunt (Mel), the one who actually has the kids, understands my point of view and is actually the most civil person is this whole thing. She knows how I feel and that I try my best around her kids and I think she appreciates that I try to overcome my uncomfortable-ness around her kids.\n\nSo now that you know the context and the kind of drama this has already caused in my family I can finally explain the real conflict. I apologize for the length of this but I want you to be able to make a fair judgement so you had to know the Situation and the feelings of the persons involved.\n\nI know it will be another 5 months until my birthday comes around but Christmas has got me thinking. Since my aunt Mel had her children EVERY single family get together was centered completely around them. Times where adjusted so just she could bring them (what is fine, since I would not want her to miss out on Christmas and easter and stuff), we took extra long to let the children unpack all christmas presents her family got and no one really cared when anyone else got presents since the children where playibg with theirs and this was 'soooo cute', everyone only talks about the children and to the children etc.\n\nIt's not that I don't want my cousins to be at my birthday party. It's just that I saw today at my brothers birthday party that the twins seem to take absolute priority over the one whos celebrating and since my next 2 birthdays will be very special to me (the last one where I live at home and my last one before I will move very far away to my dream city) I want them to be about me getting together with my family. (I always have separate celebrations for friends and family). \n\nI do not want everyone sitting there gushing over the children and not talking to me, because that is exactly what happened last time and at every other family event over the last 1 and a half years since Mel announced her pregancy.\nBut because of the situation I explained above I am not in a position to just adress this as it will just be met with \"Well you should just try to include yourself into that topic! (Children)\" - I tried that already. \nSo in order to get what I want (a Birthday get together with my family where I am actually really included), I'd have to ask them not to bring the twins.\n (Important note: I do not want to be the total center of attention! In fact I want no total center of attention at all since I just want everyone to be equally included and that can't happen if the kids are there!)\n\nI would also understand if they had to go earlier because of this and offer to help them get a babysitter. \nSo would I be the asshole for asking my aunt not to bring her kids to my next 2 birthday parties?\n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "L76UGnQgcw2L5cfpjylUCauJ54gOcUWw", "post_id": "9ya3m2", "action": {"description": "not wanting to visit my newly born niece", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA because I don't want to visit my newly born niece?", "text": "**AITA because I don't want to visit my newly born niece?**\n\nSo I left my family home about 10 years ago and moved in with the man that would become my husband. My parents are both fundie Christians, and my dad is a pastor. We now live a state apart and it's been the 10 happiest years of my life.\n\nI have had no contact with my mother other than a cancer scare over 6 years ago where I visited her while she was healing and the last time we talked, she told me I was dead to her. My dad is more of a softie and has been texting me off and on, usually filled with quotes from the Bible, but is overall genial. My sister is less against my being gay but she's just as conservative as my parents or even more so in all other matters.\n\nMy sister just gave birth to my niece, and my dad wants me to visit. He's offered me invitations in the past as well but always with the stipulation that my husband wasn't welcome. He prefers to think that this is a phase in my life and I will \"come back to the Lord\" at some point in time. These invitations are always to things where my mom isn't present because she just outright hates my guts.\n\nI've always turned down offers to visit because 1) it would be very uncomfortable for me, especially after the way they've treated me after coming out and all through growing up (they were physically abusive even before knowing I was gay), and 2) because they obviously don't respect the fact that I'm married and will not welcome my husband in their home. They'd prefer to pretend that I'm not gay. Also 3) every time we're in the same vicinity, we fight and argue, at least when I was younger. Now that I'm older I just swallow their terrible behavior in the name of peace, but it's something I'd rather not even be subjected to. It's stressful and I have a fully welcoming family with my husband's family that I'd much rather be with. So partially, I am being selfish because I simply don't want to be around them anymore.\n\nAnyway, I'm conflicted. I feel like I'm obligated to visit my sister and her new baby. But at the same time, she's never stood up for me to my parents (and has in the past has even made statements like \"at least I'm not as bad as my brother because he's gay\" when being accused by my parents for dropping out of school or having tons of extra-marital sex), and probably deep down agrees she with them because of her other conservative leanings. \n\nI feel that my dad is reaching out when he's inviting me, and he is trying to be kind, but when he found out I got married, first he didn't say anything at all until I brought it up. He didn't congratulate me and instead said \"you know how I feel about your relationship.\" and that he \"hopes I will come back to Jesus\" then proceeded to gush about the fact that my sister got pregnant (out of wedlock) and was going to get (a shotgun) wedding. He's the one pressuring me to visit because I'm the new baby's uncle.\n\nI simply don't want to be around them without my husband because 1) he's essential for emotional support (he'd probably be the only one to back me up), and 2) because I think they're being assholes and don't deserve my presence until they accept my husband as part of their family as well. He is literally the man I married and in our family spouses are typically welcomed and respected as part of the family. I feel like they are totally disrespecting him and me by keeping him disinvited from every event they invite me to. Technically, he is also an uncle to my niece after all. I know partially this is a selfish inclination to stay in my comfort zone and reject their overtures for reconnection because I just don't consider them my family anymore. But I also feel like I might be justified in my reasons.\n\n​\n\nSo, AITA in this situation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yKMvoAkz5TNbgVqRcBaHL1ZWocaHnk6V", "post_id": "aluu9w", "action": {"description": "having a coworker ask me to cover his closing shift on Sunday because he is sick, but I want to watch the Super Bowl", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for having a coworker ask me to cover his closing shift on Sunday because he is sick, but I want to watch the Super Bowl?", "text": "I am a die hard patriots fan (not a band wagon) and I want to see the end of Tom Brady\u2019s career. So I was really exited to find out that I was working Sunday morning instead of at night. But one of my coworkers (who never will take any of my shifts) asked me if we could switch because he is really sick. \n\nIf I take his shift I will miss the super bowl and miss all the tips that you would make from the morning shift (we only make tips in the morning and not at the closing shift). \n\nAm I the asshole if I want to keep my shift and have him work while sick?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iy2M2uYYbeCs8r6ed0xEvgYDLTxJmFBM", "post_id": "b7uff8", "action": {"description": "selling a product my friend got me at a discount, to buy a different brands counterpart", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for selling a product my friend got me at a discount, to buy a different brands counterpart?", "text": "ok first of all this hasn't happened yet but my buddy has the ability to get \"Brand X\" for 50 % off and my intentions were to sell this Brand x product at retail price on craigslist so I could buy \"Brand Y\"(which he does not have the ability to get a discount) at the same retail price. \n\n1. Brand x and brand y are the same price, just different manufacturers.\n2. Friend does not solely adore his brand x but likes many other brands, including brand y. \n3. I had planned on asking him first, i was not going to hide it--(nor could I hide it if I wanted to)\n4. wife thinks I'm an asshole just for asking because \" I'm taking advantage of him\"\n5. I'm not making any money--just trying to trade x for y-- but since I wont be able obviously to do that specific trade, I'll need to sell x at retail or slightly under so that I can buy y.\n6. We have only been friends for 2 years. his wife and my wife have been friends for a long time.\n7. I dont like being an asshole.\n\nQuestions:\n\n1. Should I ask him?\n2. Is it a asshole thing for me to do?\n\nextra and not really important: I own a company and have the ability to get certain products( not related to brand x or y) at deep discounts. quite often friends and family buy things at those places using my company credit account and pay me back later. I really dont care what my friends and family are trying to do I'm just glad I can help them out. so I feel like what I intend on asking my friend is somewhat similar. But my wife basically freaked out when I brought this up and since I've only been friends with him 2 years I thought I had better think about it before I ask. thanks ya'll. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "j72KOlKuqSuT8O9aw94Nq76z38yKH5sf", "post_id": "awtd2z", "action": {"description": "not accepting a ride from my mother", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not accepting a ride from my mother?", "text": " I (28) am going to a concert with my mother, step father, and step sister tonight. It\u2019s something my mother and step father have been planning and talking about for a long time but I didn\u2019t know I was actually involved in going until about a week ago. But nonetheless I was excited to go with them and I expressed my gratitude for including me. \n\nYesterday I was going over the plan for today with my mother (who was driving where and when, where we were meeting, what the weather is going to be like, etc). We agreed that my step father would drive all of us to venue since it would be easier to take only one care, he knew exactly where we are going, and the fact that he just wanted to. She then offered to come pick me up before the concert and they could then drop me off on the way home which I declined. The weather is supposed to be really bad and they (mother and step father) have expressed many many times how much they hate driving at night and even more so when it\u2019s raining. It didn\u2019t makes sense to me for them to have to drive even more in conditions they are uncomfortable with just to get me home. Especially since my house is not on their way home. They would have to add at least 40 extra minutes to their trip to do this. \n\nHowever, once I declined and gave her my reasons for doing so, she became adamant and this once generous offer became a demand. She told me that she was going to pick me up from my house at 12, before the bad weather begins. I again told her I would rather drive myself to their house and then back home after the concert. Having to leave at 12 does not work for me. I work from home and still have work to do before the concert so losing that time between 12 and when we have to leave for the concert really inconveniences me. Her response to this was \u201cNo.\u201d \n\nNot wanting to make a big argument about this, I dropped the subject and we said we could talk about it later. I still don\u2019t want to make a huge deal out of this because it seems so silly, but I feel like I should be able to decline an offer of help if it\u2019s not actually helpful. But I mean, I don\u2019t know, am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DPGoSqJBwzapTevtuCbUJmz4vo8dW5Cw", "post_id": "b4u7c6", "action": {"description": "asking my newly-ex boyfriend if he was gay", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked my newly-ex boyfriend if he was gay?", "text": "My boyfriend just broke up with me.\n\nWe\u2019ve been together for almost two years (exactly two years on April 8th so real close.), and we\u2019ve had our disagreements and arguments but nothing recently. He sat me down tonight and told me he wanted to break up, that he needed space and time to grow more as a person before being in a relationship. This is all very sudden for me as we\u2019ve talked about marriage, kids and having a life together and he\u2019s acted normal and like nothing was wrong, up until tonight. We live together so we see each other everyday and talk every night before bed. I\u2019ve told him multiple times that if he has a problem with something just to let me know right away (he has an anger issue and blows up if he lets things that bother him stew). I freaked out and asked him why and tried to pry into the deeper reason as to why he wanted to break up. He did give a little saying that he was too comfortable with me/I make him too comfortable, but he wouldn\u2019t say anything more or be more direct. \n\nMy ex (we\u2019ll call him David) has this close friend, a very rich man, that is more than 20 years his senior and is very gay.(we\u2019ll call him Larry).They met for we started dating and the friend has taken my ex on quite a few very expensive trips, bringing him along as his \u201cassistant\u201d. Larry has bought David many expensive things, such as an alligator jacket and a Rolex, he\u2019s even bought him a Mercedes (my ex returned it). They were friends from about two years, two years ago, and just started talking again. David had been receiving lots of little gifts and the older man and my ex been on two of these trips in the past three weeks, so David was only home 4 days. \n\nI feel as though I\u2019m either very stupid and can\u2019t see the obvious or just jumping to conclusions... \nWIBTA if I asked him if the other man was the reason/his sugar daddy and if he was gay?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "w0ygoX8pBMNbbIbRFuy72ab6mTY63zlr", "post_id": "aqfwih", "action": {"description": "reporting Vegan activist to the police, got her arrested, and facing felony charge now", "pronormative_score": 154, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for reporting Vegan activist to the police, got her arrested, and facing felony charge now?", "text": " This happened 3 months ago and I got a court date for the case now. I bought my dog for $2500 so this woman might faced  felony of the fifth degree, prison term of 6-12 months, and a fine no more than $2500. This is relevant at the end.\n\nThe incident happened three months ago. I was walking my dog and it was a beautiful day. I live in a really nice neighborhood. Most of the people living in the neighborhood are young adult that really health conscious, there are a lot of restaurant offering vegan menu and there is even a vegan bistro that we love.\n\nWhen I was walking my dog in the square, I saw DxE (direct action everywhere) protesting near the park. I thought it was good, I am not a vegan but I limit my meat consumption for ethical and health reason. I was just walking my puppy. A girl, let's call her Karen, ask me \"hey beautiful pup, what kind is that\" so I said it's Golden Retriever, it just that he has a really light color. I did not know she was part of the protest, she didn't have any sign and just dress normally.\n\nKaren next response was \"oh so it's pure breed, do you know that millions of dog got gassed every year in shelter?\" at this point I felt uncomfortable and started to just walk away but she kept following me. So I told her that I know that fact but choose going through breeder route because I want specific traits in my dog and I use a reputable breeder. I was keep walking and she said that I was being selfish for going through breeder route, she asked me what did I gave to my dog, I told her none of her business and please leave me alone. Karen started to lose her shit and called me the most selfish person she ever met that I am rude and she started called me name, I was just keep walking away from her, at this point she yelled at me that I am slaving my puppy and then she grabbed the leash, pushed me and tried to run with my puppy. Worf losing it and he wanted to come to me so I was able to take back the leash, and my neighbor helped me, he saw and hear everything. It happened so quick.\n\nWe went to police car near the location, told them what happened, and Karen was so stupid she kept following me and screaming on how I enslave my puppy. I explained everything and the police arrested Karen. The police revoke the DxE protestor permit because Karen was part of them and I felt bad because the other protestor were just doing their thing and I believe in free speech. When I reported Karen, I was scared but she might actually go to Jail, maybe she was so passionate but I don't think she deserved to be in jail, idk, I am a bit torn.\n\n​\n\nSo AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 153, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 154, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5MnSYmEo1KONJCZKUjZCDPbzYAxLJ3M2", "post_id": "ahiey1", "action": null, "title": "AITA: Disowned antivax Brother", "text": "My brother lives about 5 minutes down the road from me and we don\u2019t talk.\n\nWhen he met his wife he became super hippy.  Anti vax, anti circumcision, anti GMO, just name the hippy stuff and he\u2019s into it because he has ALWAYS adopted the interests of the girls he\u2019s been with.  I\u2019ve never really fully gotten along with his wife but that\u2019s a different discussion.  But it\u2019s important to state that I\u2019ve always found their hippy lifestyle (that they actively cram down people\u2019s throats) super annoying...\n\nFast forward to 3 years ago and my son was born.  When I called and told him we had a boy, swear to God his first question was \u201care you going to have him circumcised?\u201d  I hung up pretty pisses\n\nHours later we found out that our son was born with a rare and serious congenital heart defect called HLHS.  He\u2019s missing half of his heart basically and the only reason he\u2019s currently alive is because of three open heart surgeries that are just a temporary fix until you can get a heart transplant hopefully in adulthood.\n\nAnyway I\u2019ve always embraced medical science and my contrarian side really looked into vaccines just to piss off my brother and his wife but I truly do believe in this medicine (as does any sane person).  When our son was born my belief in modern medicine was galvanized.  These amazing people saved my sons life and the care he got was beyond description.\n\nWhen we came home after his first of three open heart surgeries I told my brother and ANY family that based on how we needed to protect our son and on the recommendation of doctors that no one be allowed with him until they had up to date vaccinations.\n\nMy brother, his wife, and their children refuse vaccination.  For this reason we don\u2019t talk.  They aren\u2019t invited to the hospital, they aren\u2019t invited to birthday parties, they are not welcome in my home.\n\nMy thought is, if you believe in something so strongly that you\u2019d willingly risk the life of my child based on some bullshit pseudoscience then you won\u2019t be a part of my families life.\n\nAm I the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 31, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 31, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "56xQMdY0xBfISmrj0axwleIBCfddpsEV", "post_id": "agww73", "action": {"description": "not liking my friend's new boyfriend and not wanting to participate in his birthday gift", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not liking my friend's new boyfriend and not wanting to participate in his birthday gift?", "text": "So, my friend has gotten a new boyfriend and I see that she's very happy with him and all. I am happy that she is happy, although I do not quite understand how this guy is the source of it anyways.\n\nThe thing is we've known his boyfriend (before they started dating) for quite a long time, almost two years. He lives across the hall from our campus residence and we all share some common spaces with other people in the student housing. I now have come to the point where I just don't care about him - in the past he made some stupid rude mistakes, including lying to my face for a really petty thing. It wouldn't have mattered, but I am quite wary of people lying to me, specially for something so small and most importantly when they are really good at it even though they are completely in the wrong.\n\nThis happened among other things and although I was quite angry at first, I let it slide anyways, because being angry is energy- and time-consuming and I've come to a place of complete peace of mind. I do not care at all about this boy's existence. I just would not want him close to me, because I believe when someone shows you their true colours - you better believe them. Nobody had lied straight to my face in such a way. It hurt at the time, because I felt completely disrespected.\n\nAnyways, it's this guy's birthday in a month and some people have gathered to make him a present. I honestly would have completely dropped out - I do not want to participate and I have no interest whatsoever in going to his party. But he is important to my friend now. \n\nAITA if I drop out of buying this guy a gift and refuse to go to his party? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xt7rlZPVab1yl52IpZ7BWlBZe0OOMZ7u", "post_id": "as3huf", "action": {"description": "refusing to drive to my friend to tutor her in math", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to drive to my friend to tutor her in math?", "text": "My friend has decided to go back to community college after a few years of fucking around. I've was always in the advance math classes in high school, albeit the back half, so she asked for my help tutoring her.\n\nNow it's been as long for me as it has for her but I can get through trig and advanced math well enough. The first couple times go well, she seemed to be getting the material well enough. The problem centers around driving. I drove to her the first time, about 20 miles round trip, and I realized I didn't want to do that anymore.\n\nSo I told her as much, she told me she was short on gas so I gave her five bucks for the trip. Easy peasy.\n\nThis time however, she's insisting that I drive because she finds it demeaning that I'm essentially paying to tutor her. I argued that it's the same difference since I'm still spending money driving and I can't do shit to not make it demeaning. \n\nSo now she's gonna go to the free tutoring center on campus. Probably the best end result but I did enjoy hanging out with her.\n\nSo AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SH31mbzenoOlOm2KVvKs6QBZzzncOv26", "post_id": "afswer", "action": {"description": "telling my friend I can't go out to eat with her anymore", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend I can't go out to eat with her anymore", "text": "My friend/co-worker always asks me to go out to lunch every week. I have been having very long days at the office and hate getting food by myself so usually I am very happy to accept this invitation. Since visiting Japan and realizing that not every meal needs to be about pleasure and instead can be about nutrition and should feature some type of vegetables or salad I've been eating better. This means my side of french fries or burger is replaced with a craving for side salad or salmon/grilled chicken. For about a year now this same co-worker has complained of health issues and had extensive tests performed and finally her doctor discovered that it was a \"blood sugar issue\" that she could fix with pills and diet. It took her months to actually say the word \"diabetes\" and once she did I was horrified with her explanations for why she justified eating candy during work to keep her blood sugar from crashing (Can someone tell me if this is true??) when she said even rice and bread had too much sugar and she was only allowed one piece of multigrain bread a day.\n\nShe tells me everyday about how she is doing so much to eat healthy and exercise but she never ever eats healthy in front of me. It's always the WORST choice on the menu (burger and fries, grilled cheese, bacon pizza) and she never wants to go to health oriented places. And this is multiple times a week. I finally told her that if she actually wants to make progress she needs to make actual healthy choices and that some lettuce topped with gobs of ranch, bacon, and cheese isn't a real salad. I also told her I won't go out to eat with her anymore unless it's somewhere that has actually nutritious healthy food and that she makes good food choices. I say this because 1.) I care about my friend's health and it makes me sad to see her harm herself this way 2.) Her poor choices affect what I order by making me \"give in\" to indulging in bad food and her justifying \"oh I've had a bad day! I deserve this\" or \"Whatever, fuck it. It's just one meal\" is getting annoying.\n\nTLDR; Friend has diabetes and eats crap. She's indirectly making me eat crap too and I don't want to anymore.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1oDssqQ3c68NQMTA9OwVZWMckW2MQVvw", "post_id": "amzccn", "action": {"description": "arguing with my gf on her birthday", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for arguing with my GF on her birthday?", "text": "So 3 days ago it was my Gf\u2019s birthday and i bought a party bus for her, so he could invite her friends and dance while we tour around the city.\nThe plan was that we went to her favorite restaurant (which i made the reservation) then we\u2019d go to the party bus and end up on one of her relatives house. The whole day i was stressed worrying that everything went as planned and when people started arriving i was kinda distant and anxious.Then my GF came and we went to the restaurant but she could tell i was really panicking about the whole thing. She asked me what was wrong and i told her i was having a panick attack from all her friends being there and worrying if something could go wrong (she really didn\u2019t gave a shit) So i order a couple of beers so that i could calm down. Then the bus came and i was even more stressed and drank a couple more drinks in the bus. Then my GF screamed at me in front of all of their friends that i should stop drinking. I got pretty mad and basically went to the corner because i didnt want to talk to anybody. Then she looked at me while i was mad and pretty much ignored me the whole trip which pissed me off even more. She gave me her phone and i dont know why i looked through her chats and i saw she was texting her ex. I didnt look any further and it got me even more pissed off. I gave her a text unloading me from all the frustration so when she saw her phone she\u2019d know whats up with me. She looked and didnt even care. So when we arrived i was basically devastated. I didnt know what to think or what to do i just wanted to get out of there. So without thinking i called an uber and got out of the house like a ghost so i could go to the nearest park to load off some steam. I ended up crying because i imagened the worst. If she hide that from me what else was she hiding? So she asked where i was and i told her i got out to cry from anger. And she told me to get back in. But i didnt want them to see me fucking crying. So when my uber got there i just bailed. Not because i wanted to go, but i just did it without thinking.\n\nWere still fighting till this day, and shes saying that i should have been there for her, but i was just mentally devastated. I\u2019m not proud of what i did. I didn\u2019t think clearly. But i also felt like she didnt gave a shit for me until i was truly rock bottom. And i also feel like she doesnt trust me for not telling me about her texting her ex, (which she knows i would get mad if it happened) ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "l4a0U7gsdjJtH2Gr0jHNxOGEqxr6kEpu", "post_id": "b9izew", "action": {"description": "being upset about being the embarrassing friend", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA because I\u2019m upset about being the embarrassing friend?", "text": "I\u2019m 28F. BF1 & BF2 are my boys. \n\nBF1\u2019s boyfriend, I call BF3.\n\nI\u2019m the \u2018uncool\u2019 nerd one, and can be a bit embarrassing. Fact. It\u2019s unspoken, but really affects me.\n\nWe went to a pub quiz. The quiz was ridiculous- trick questions, weird answers- Quizgoers were grumbling. BF3 is tipsy, ranting, then goes outside. \n\nWe were confused, but let him cool off. \n\nAs part of the quiz, our phones were \u2018forfeited\u2019 to one side (if caught on your phone you buy another table a round). \n\nBF3\u2019s phone had work messages, so I go get him. He ignores it, still ranting. I went inside. He soon comes in to sit down- ranting again...\n\nBF3: Ohhh, guess what the next answer is! The carpet is made out of shark teeth!\n\nMe: This is getting a little embarrassing now...\n\nBF3: You would know ALL about being embarrassing, wouldn\u2019t you?\n\nI froze. BF2 gasped in a \u2018Woah, don\u2019t say that shit\u2019 way. BF1 told BF2 to shut up and behave. A while later, I take BF2 home, then drop BF1 and BF3 at their house. As BF3 is climbing out of my car, I get a small wave and a \u2018Sorry, Joscelan.\u2019 I kept quiet, and decided to sleep on it and see how I felt the next day. \n\nI still felt like shit, so I text BF3 and tell him I\u2019m hurt, my insecurities about it, how it cut me deeper than he thinks.\nBF3: \u2018Like I said, I\u2019m sorry. I\u2019m a drunk idiot. I have a harsh tongue when I\u2019m annoyed. Let\u2019s move on\u2019. \n\nI felt like he wasn\u2019t taking my feelings seriously just brushing me off. \n\nTwo days later, we\u2019re at our monthly PN (poker) with friends. (F4 is the additional character here). \n\nDuring our pizza break, I\u2019d have to climb over the seats in my way, then get the people in those seats to climb out for me to climb back in. I asked if someone could pass me some pizza. BF3 got me some. \n\nI\u2019d had a drink this time, but with my autism I\u2019m louder than I realise. I made a passing comment of something quite passive aggressive like. \n\nF4 asks what\u2019s up, so I tell her the story. I can hear the room get quieter and I lowered my voice as I noticed my volume. I had assumed everyone was distracted, but they were starting to listen. BF1 shouted at me to say that BF3 had apologised already. I said a quick sorry getting out of my car or by text isn\u2019t an apology. \n\nConversation ends quite quickly. \n\nThe next day BF1 is off. I took it that he was hungover, had to go to work, and wanted to sleep. I later receive a text calling me a \u2018sly c*nt\u2019 for how I was whispering. \nI didn\u2019t see my behaviour that way, so I texted him back to explain it from my POV. We end up dropping it. \n\nNext PN, I tell BF1 I\u2019m still really hurt, and he snaps that I\u2019m a c*nt and to get over it. Then he told me to speak to BF3 because he doesn\u2019t want to be involved- but the reason I was trying to ask how to broach the subject with BF3. \n\nI sent him a long text about my feelings, my POV, how I should\u2019ve said it differently. Now I feel so uncomfortable. If I text BF1 I get instant attitude, and I haven\u2019t spoken to BF3 as he\u2019ll just tell me to get over it. \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "SgrjMCjOv2IQ9WirVEDAusB0CAaCtd21", "post_id": "b0dwj7", "action": {"description": "being offended my boyfriend booked 2 vacations without me", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For being offended my boyfriend booked 2 vacations without me", "text": "So my boyfriend of 8 years has been interested in traveling recently. We went on vacation to Europe for 3 weeks in November and I just found out he booked 2 vacations without me. He has mentioned going back to Europe to visit friend\u2019s of ours but we had not talked about dates or prices. He assumed that I wouldn\u2019t want to go and didn\u2019t have vacation time to allocate towards this, so he decided to buy tickets for himself when he saw a deal. His argument is that he is traveling regardless if I come and wants to do this for himself and suggested that if I want to come, that I can book tickets and join. I would like to go but now I feel that I was an after-thought in this decision and that he\u2019s impartial if I join. Am I the asshole for being upset that he didn\u2019t include me in this decision?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uK1VkREnZ5xqk9RPKBho0n4z3CDPoQuX", "post_id": "b973ez", "action": {"description": "contacting an ex to be friends", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA if i contacted an ex to be friends?", "text": "About 5 years ago I was dating, let's call her Cindy, and she broke up with me. 1 year after that I contact her a couple times. You see me and Cindy had an amazing friendship. That's part of the reason we split, there just wasn't more than that. Well I contacted her to try to salvage a friendship out of everything. First time she thought I was trying to get back together with her, so she said some really nasty things. Well the second time she apologized and agreed to meet me after the summer, it was college and she was going home. \n\nWell that summer I met what I thought, still wish it was true, the love of my life. She was everything to me. I fell quick for her, let's call her Lisa. Well the time I agreed to meet Cindy came around and I was in the middle of deep love with Liza. So when we met, I essentially told her that because I was now in a relationship there is no way I could be friends with my ex. I kind of was Stern and a bit of an asshole about it because I was still hurting after the first time she contacted me. \n\nI have a wonderful relationship with Liza for four years. One day, completely out of the blue I mean she was begging me to stay with her forever the week before, she broke up with me. It was very harsh because we were very close until two days before she broke it off. \n\nWell now a week later here I am. So my question is, WIBTA is I contacted Cindy after four years of not talking to say sorry and say if she wants a friendship I would be open to that?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "bsReDabyI4AYTqtvMEPzmF1fIn32WNpm", "post_id": "a79c3b", "action": {"description": "dropping friend over a breakup", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for dropping friend over a breakup", "text": "I know the title sounds pretty bad, but you'll have to know the full story. It wasn't my breakup, but his. He was dating a girl who I was really good friends with since middle school, and in the midst of their relationship, we became really good friends with each other. They broke up around a year ago now, but he's still hungover on her while she's moved on and dated a two guys. Over the whole course of this year, the only contact I made with the guy (let's call him Z) is when he would Snapchat me theories on why they broke up or to get extra information on her and her life. I was completely fine with it at the start because I figured it was just a way for him to cope. Until a couple months ago, that is. I was going through a tough time and contemplated my life for a bit (don't worry I'm safe now) and I went to Z to seek help because I thought we were close and he should know about it. Z completely ignored what I was saying only to talk about his ex. Of course I was fed up, so I slowly backed away from this friendship. Then, skip to a couple days ago, he texts me telling me about how much of a hoe she is, that she just sleeps around, and how she never loved him during the course of their 3 year relationship. I told him that he was just upset that she was able to get over him, he then messaged me a string of \"fuck you\"s and told his friend group the situation. The whole friend group started to harass me even though we all used to be close. When I finally got way too shit faced about it, I exploded all my feelings and ranted. I called them \"hopeless sons-of-bitches who can't even see straight if a girl isn't riding them\" and that they \"should get a fucking life other than the life you see with your right hand and lotion\". They went silent on me today and ignored me, until Z came up to me and called me an asshole and that I went too far. I don't know -- AITA?? or is it that I'm biased towards my point of view. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TcAC6yX5sUxnQ4E6Vwh1V4SVlp0hyDXM", "post_id": "b6u7h4", "action": null, "title": "AITA for smoking", "text": "I have been pretty good about not smoking cigarettes for the past few months. I\u2019m student teaching...I know that I don\u2019t want to smoke as a teacher and I know that I don\u2019t want to smoke for my health! \n\nBefore cutting back, I smoked 1-7 cigs a week (not a lot for a smoker). \n\nTonight I went out for my best friend\u2019s birthday, got drunk, and bummed a cig off someone. My boyfriend got angry. I understand that he wants the best for me and that smoking is bad for my health, but the wouldn\u2019t interact or speak with me once I made the decision to smoke. \n\nPrior to tonight, he was okay with me smoking when we were out with friends. I guess because I have cut back so much, he thought that I had no desire to smoke anymore and was disappointed in me?\n\nI ended up getting and uber home and missing the rest of my best friend\u2019s birthday because I felt like he was so mad at me for smoking. I don\u2019t understand why it\u2019s such a big deal and why I need to be shunned for smoking when I am intoxicated... \n\nI have been consistently not smoking for 3 months, have no desire to smoke again after tonight, but also don\u2019t feel bad for having a cigarette tonight. I don\u2019t think that I should be made to feel so ashamed... what do you guys think?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wIPPJV1RNt81L1XQwKc0NVJToBtaTq5h", "post_id": "a830ff", "action": {"description": "buying products with limited availability and selling them for more", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for buying products with limited availability and selling them for more?", "text": "Title says it all. My view is one of capitalism. I also know that sometimes people forget to get that thing for that certain someone until too late. I\u2019m able to provide that thing for them and often people are willing to pay a few more bucks for it as they\u2019re out of stock everywhere else. But for every person I get that\u2019s on board and happy to buy, I get 10 people commenting calling me an asshole. Thoughts?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "wdwcVMdmlbarf7ui8UPLG1snW1byknQ9", "post_id": "atx0bt", "action": {"description": "refusing to apologize", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for refusing to apologize?", "text": "So a little back story, my BF and I live together, but I solely own the house we live in. A few times when we have gotten into arguments, my BF decides to pack his stuff and leave and of course his parents end up coming to the house to help him get his stuff out without question. \n\nThe last time this happened, things got really heated between my BF and I (no violence or anything but the argument was really bad), then his parents showed up and I was already an emotional mess and I felt cornered in my own home. I don't have any family where I live, my home is my only \"safe\" place to go and I felt like they made me a prisoner on my own property even though I wouldn't let them inside. \n\nWhen they left I sent a text to both his parents saying they are no longer allowed on my property. The only time they come by is to move my BF out anyways. \n\nThis upset them, obviously, and now they want me to apologize to them for it. \n\nSo, AITA for refusing to apologize? I literally felt trapped because of them but they don't understand how basically ganging up on me made me panic and feel unsafe in the one place I'm supposed to feel safe. \n\nThanks for any responses. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SPqaXwnqECdicfwZ9WptFziOoRkf01tu", "post_id": "agxgnd", "action": {"description": "not liking unexpected guests", "pronormative_score": 67, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For not liking unexpected guests?", "text": "So basically myself, my partner and her family have just gotten back from Iceland and we had pre booked a nice meal at a fancy restaurant to wrap up the holiday so to speak. \nWhilst we were there we got on to the subject of her parents and their friends just showing up at each others houses as a surprise. \n\nMy partner and her sister agreed that this is a nice surprise, I however did not. I just said I wasnt really a fan of it as I might have things that I'm doing/needing to get done and that some times I like a day to myself not having to worry about people bothering me. Finished it by saying that I wouldn't want the house to be in a state if people show up unannounced. \n\nThis has since caused a divide because my partner is basically saying that its not fair that her family cant just show up whenever to which I replied that she and her family need to realise that this is just as much my house as it hers. \nAnd because I usually bite my tongue around her family and dont share my opinion I've instantly been labelled as aggressively opinionated by her parents. \n\nSo AITA? \n\nP.s If you have any other questions please feel free to ask. I'm not sure what else to include. \n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 62, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 67, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "M3tQ4KzXWZUHiRnyVe1WEmg3m5J0c1LR", "post_id": "aliwl6", "action": null, "title": "AITA", "text": "Am i asshole for getting upset with my GF for telling me to go to another room (which turned out to be ~ 1h) because she had unexpected guests that dont like for some reason?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NjUZHXuPMPcspKQg8nYhc1Do0JI5ONYl", "post_id": "a2hqqd", "action": {"description": "throwing my friends under the bus", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for throwing my friends under the bus", "text": "Some back round. My friends are far from good friends but they're the only ones i have. They constantly joke about me killing myself and tell me they'd laugh if i did it. Not anyone else just me. They constantly anex me from the ground i started and bully me into doing what they want. One got\nSuspended for 4 days for talking to someone else about how they want me to just kill myself. Not as a joke. He and the other person made it sound like they genuinely want me dead.\n\nThis all started last night. We were in a ps4 party and the night was farley late. Some of the \"popular\" girls at our school were at a birthday party but its high school so they were high and drunk off their asses.\n\nOne of my friends is very good friends with one of the girls and was put on her private story. I was the only one with a screen recording app at the time and he along with everyone else in the party wanted to have a certain video of that girl and another. Lets\njust say in a certain pose.\n\nSo he gave me his user name and password so i could get on, record the story and send it to hime and the few others who were in the party. And i obliged \n\nCome to findout this morning that one of the girls found out. I don't know how. It wasn't my account so it they couldn't have fournd out that way but all my friends deny it. The girl kept yelling and was furious (understandably) and demanded to have it\ndeleted (i deleted it) and to know who all had it. I told her the people i knew had it because it was more trouble than it was worth at this point. She messaged\nthem all as far as i know.\n\nIm now blocked for the day as a type of punishment by most of my friends. At least the ones who have the video. And are blaming me for the entire thing. They've all decided to keep the video but im still\nthe one that's getting the most shit from everyone including the girl.\n\nAnd i really the worst one in this situation?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "37K6l49DX0NXid3w472e7BlXJKXMK0GX", "post_id": "b1yaj1", "action": {"description": "not wanting to hang out with a friend who just had a baby", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to hang out with a friend who just had a baby?", "text": "A friend of mine (lets call her Janet) gave birth to a baby girl last month. The whole pregnancy thing was sort of an unexpected and weird situation, but it's not my life and its not really relevant to this post so I won't go into detail about that.\n\nAnyway, Janet has texted me a few times trying to make plans to go to dinner or hang out or whatever, and I am hesitant to make solid plans because, well, I just don't really like babies that much, especially *fresh* babies. I didn't even hold or interact with babies in my family until they were at least old enough to hold their bodies up on their own, even then, I didn't really know what I was supposed to do with them. \n\nI should point out that although I consider Janet a friend, I haven't known her a really long time and we aren't super close. I attended her baby shower and helped her out with rides to doctors appointments when she was pregnant, and before that she dated a good friend of mine (where the unexpected and weird pregnancy situation comes in) so we would all meet up for drinks sometimes.\n\nThe baseline is however, I don't really like interacting with children. I know that no matter what we choose to do during our hang out, it is going to involve this baby and all the things that come with it (crying, feeding, pooping, barfing), and honestly, I'm just not into any of that (babies crying actually make me pretty anxious). I do feel like a bit of a dick cause she WANTS to hang out with me, and I wouldn't just completely blow her off if we actually made solid plans, and I might even feign interest for a brief time if/when we choose to hang out next, I just don't really want to fake an interest in something as major and life changing as a child.\n\nReddit, help me. Am I just being an unreasonable asshole? Should I just bite the bullet and deal with it?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PWYtvdSWSIabEXCed42j4qVqYPkIEWLs", "post_id": "b31535", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my mom for not buying me a hoodie", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my mom for not buying me a hoodie", "text": "I am on mobile so I can\u2019t format this correctly sorry\n\nMy mom always struggles to find birthday presents for me because I have always bought the things I need or want by saving up my own money. I came across a limited edition hoodie (once sold out it\u2019s gone forever) that was $60 dollars. I\u2019m fully capable of ordering the hoodie myself but sent the link to my mom and she agreed to buy it for me saying \u201cI\u2019ll buy it later today\u201d. I replied with \u201cthe hoodie is limited edition so please buy it in the next couple of days\u201d. My mother gets very annoyed when I remind her about things as I have a habit of doing it too often so I waited two weeks to ask if she had gotten it. Turns out she forgot and now I\u2019ll never get the hoodie that I really really wanted. \n\nAITA for getting mad at my mom even though I could\u2019ve reminded her to buy the hoodie or is she the A-hole for forgetting the one birthday present I let her buy for me, therefore leading the hoodie to go out of stock?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "WB928WxZrr8gFnKHhlKGdEXbhdTmgQYn", "post_id": "aa3n6c", "action": {"description": "not taking my mom to Orlando, which is one hour away on a good day, to go thrift store shopping", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not taking my mom to Orlando, which is one hour away on a good day, to go thrift store shopping?", "text": "So I basically live in Melbourne, Florida. Orlando is at least an hour away without traffic. Especially at 5 pm on a weekday. I had to take off of work today to drive my mom around and run errands, since she is unable to drive. Did that since 9 am. At this point I\u2019m tired and just want to go home. Then she demands to head to Orlando, to a thrift store out there so she can find a laundry basket. \n\nI tell her no. My reason: I have lived near Orlando my entire life and know how mentally exhausting it is to be there. I need a heads up before I go to Orlando. More than two seconds. At least a day. It\u2019s a common rule in the family that if one of us want to get out of town, there needs to be some sort of advance warning. Especially since I had to drive around town today, I\u2019m too exhausted to deal with Orlando. \u201cYou\u2019re the son, I\u2019m the parent! Take me to Orlando now!\u201d She said. So since I am not taking her to Orlando because \u201che doesn\u2019t feel like it\u201d, I have to give her 50% of my paycheck for a month. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "whQMpZxgA7eX59wM8O2RVLzsPRMgfuHB", "post_id": "ayk1d6", "action": {"description": "quitting a volunteer position after completing the training", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for quitting a volunteer position after completing the training?", "text": "I have been a volunteer with a beloved organization for 2 years. Prior to volunteering I was receiving support through the group for 5 years and really wanted to pay it forward so that others could benefit in the same way I did. Last year, I volunteered to move into a leadership position within the organization after there was great pleading by leadership at a regional meeting of volunteers. Before the training began, the asked for a commitment of two years in the position. After 6 long months of training for this position, I am now 6 months in. I hate it. And I have lost the love that I had for the \u201cgrass roots\u201d end of the organization. I am beginning to have situational anxiety (in addition to clinically diagnosed anxiety) over answering emails/ talking with people on the phone about it. Because of this I am not fulfilling the position as it needs to be done. No one has spoken with my about my poor performance yet. I am becoming so jaded that I no longer want to participate in the what little local work I have time for that I used to love so much. WIBTA if I quit before the time I committed to is up? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CoUZ9DHTOZ9VluJoQZE6nxkQAcHsmZmS", "post_id": "b206kh", "action": {"description": "not wanting my uncle sleep on my bedroom", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my uncle sleep on my bedroom", "text": "Note: This just happened \n\nNow before anyone says anything my room is like my own safe space, (pathetic I know), then just for this weekend my dad brought my uncle from his side of the family now I really don\u2019t like it when anyone uses my room whenever we have a guest, from what can I read from customs whenever there\u2019s a houseguest you let them sleep on the couch, but because muh family, and me being the youngest, I\u2019m the one so if I don\u2019t do what they tell me what to do they play the you\u2019re being an asshole about it and share it with your uncle.\n\nNow for some background, my dad\u2019s side of the family are pretty shitty people, and we barely see them due to them being shitty ex: almost all of the family care back to live in the parent\u2019s house due to them being shitty. Now we barely see and hear from this certain uncle, and letting just sleep on my bed and him being him would be a no in my book, now this only goes for my dad\u2019s side of the family, now if it were my mom\u2019s that\u2019s fine because they\u2019re good people,\n\nNow let me hear what y\u2019all think and if u have questions ask them", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TFOvlBZkvLfXkCzjiihlqxwuEkxNnuk7", "post_id": "b7zc0n", "action": {"description": "getting a puppy", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I got a puppy?", "text": "I just got out of a bad relationship and Ive been going to therapy and I decided on wanting to get a dog. Ill preface this by saying I love animals, I have two cats and theyre my lifeline. However, Ive been struggling with depression and anxiety and as much as I love my cats, they dont help me get out of bed. Would I be an asshole if I got a puppy? \n\nI have the time and money for one, I just dont want to be a jerk with my intentions to get one. I dont know if I am. My family keeps treating me like I\u2019m nuts for wanting to get one, very judgey, and giving me reasons like \u201cwhat if you go on vacation\u201d or \u201cwhat if you decide to go back to school\u201d or \u201cyou cant move into most places with a big dog\u201d I would be getting a german shepard. I have places lined up I could have the dog at if I go on vacation (i go on a vacation maybe once a year) And I have no intentions on going back to school... and I\u2019m moving this week into an apartment but my landlord is the one helping me find a dog. I also will be living in the middle of a park so a lot of space for a dog to run. \n\nI guess I feel overly anxious and that I\u2019m being very selfish. Looking for more peoples input.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UVLwR8UDh6P243VOabPQP6bH2PPd4teR", "post_id": "b869dt", "action": {"description": "calling my sister out on her massive dumps", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for calling my sister out on her massive dumps?", "text": "Apologizing in advance for the subject matter. \n\nMy sister and I share a bathroom. For the most part, we have no issues. The only problem is she ALWAYS clogs the toilet, I\u2019m talking two or three times a week. If she took care of it, I wouldn\u2019t even be posting this, but she never unclogs it herself. In the past, I\u2019ve politely asked if she could fix it when it happens, but she can never even own up to it, saying it wasn\u2019t her. We are the only ones that use that bathroom. I tried bringing it up to my mom, but she enables the behavior and just says she\u2019ll take care of it herself. I want to skip the politeness and demand she act like a normal human being and clean up after herself like a functional adult, but I\u2019m worried I\u2019ll come out of that situation looking like the asshole. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eDYnnBpNTtup0qa5l4ZH2Y19PeNqP5Xv", "post_id": "b8jgpt", "action": {"description": "thinking my ex-roommate should help clean my apartment", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for thinking my ex-roommate should help clean my apartment?", "text": "So me and my roommate lived together for 1.5 years and it was honestly a very good time. We lived in a three room apartment with a kitchen and bathroom. We each had our own room and shared a living room.\n\nI'm moving out today and she moved out three weeks ago. When she moved out she cleaned her room although now that I'm also moving out the apartment needs to be thoroughly cleaned. This, she will not help me do. She refuses to help clean the kicthen, bathroom, and living room which she used for the time she lived here. Her argument is that she does not live there and hasn't for three weeks, so I should do it. \n\nSo Reddit, AITA for thinking she should help?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VIlRLt23ydOEcUMjQ5tkPWe8MG6SnywD", "post_id": "9w34my", "action": {"description": "not enjoying my Dad's company, dispite him being an a grade parent", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not enjoying my Dad's company, dispite him being an A grade parent", "text": "I love my Dad, he's always been a great parent, raised me well and has a genuine heart. But, I can't seem to enjoy time with him, or even simple conversations. \n\nEvery conversation feels like a chore, and I feel like it's not genuine (on my part). I don't know why I feel this way, whenever we hang out I look forward to it being over, dispite the good times and his kindness.\n\n I honestly wish I could enjoy his company/conversations more, I feel like a terrible son for not having more genuine interactions with him. \n\nFor extra background, I still live with my parents but only see them for max 1 hour a day (conflicting work scheduals) and even then I don't spend much/if any time with them.\n\nAITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eGgK6rVwVgJJP1Q8PRHUZKqg4XdVX0X6", "post_id": "9y2uwb", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my mom for forcing me to talk to my dad who disowned me", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my mom for forcing me to talk to my dad who disowned me?", "text": "About two weeks ago my grandma on my dad's side of the family passed away. The funeral was held this Saturday and I couldn't make it because of school. Now it goes without saying that I don't have the best relationship with my parents, especially my dad who abused me physically and mentally as a child. I don't like interacting with him at all and he refuses to acknowledge fault for literally anything he put me through - he either makes me feel guilty or pretends it never happened. \n\nAbout two months ago I got in a huge fight with him because my mom wanted me to talk about why I don't want to talk to him and he tried to make me feel responsible for everything again. I yelled at him telling him he abused me, and he disowned me as a son. I disowned him back and told him if he didn't apologize next time we talked I would cut off all contact with him. He then tried to get me kicked out of school by calling my uncle (i have a trust fund through a friend of my uncle, who talks to my parents a lot) but my uncle took my side. \n\nAnyways it's been a few months and he's never tried to contact me (just my mom a few times, usually for the phone bill i owe them each month). When I found out I couldn't go to the funeral, I agreed to do a video chat where I would say a few words. When I called for the chat only a few family was there and they told me they would call me back later but my mom put the phone around the room to talk to a few people including my dad, and we only interacted for a bit but I felt extremely anxious and upset even seeing him. \n\nAfterwards I sent messages to her saying I felt very uncomfortable and that she knows I don't want to talk to him. I told her that maybe I shouldn't be mad at her but he literally disowned me and that I wouldn't forget that. She has done this before, putting him on speaker without telling me on calls that I think i'm just having with her. She hasn't messaged me back since.\n\nAm I the asshole for getting angry at her about this? I know it's a funeral for my dad's mom but I just hate seeing or hearing from him at all, and i felt forced to do so. \n\nTL;DR: Mom put me in an uncomfortable situation on video chat with relatives where I was forced to talk to my father, who disowned me about two months ago. I got angry at her over this even though it's a funeral for his mom, my grandmother.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eXHI9tgppqCNSqwvSaymne4PxRPa89W1", "post_id": "b6f00n", "action": {"description": "going out drinking with my friends", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for going out drinking with my friends?", "text": "I'm on mobile so I apologize for the formatting.\nMy Uni is hosting an event before graduation where parents and students attend to watch students be recognised for their work; and to acknowledge their peers and professors. Sort of a last hurrah. Both my parents are attending the event separately (as they are not together, but civil enough to attend) and will be driving a number of hours to see me. \nI am very excited to see them at my University and introduce them to my peers and professors who are very important to me. However, at the end of the night rather than celebrating with my parents my friends and I all want to go out and bar hop before we properly graduate the next day. My parents are planning on spending time with me while they are here and I don't want to hurt their feeling by leaving them. I am worried that I won't spend enough time with them after the event and that I'll be leaving them to flounder in a college town. On the other hand, this is the last night I will see my friend all together, as not all of them will be attending graduation. WIBTA?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sVBsbeLMOMvs5MyYdqckwIl2z5sT5J2W", "post_id": "asytqq", "action": {"description": "not tipping my bartender", "pronormative_score": 80, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not tipping my bartender?", "text": "Basically, I went to the club with a bunch of my friends. I invited them (4 people) to 4 drinks. When I was paying, the bartender himself put a 20% tip without telling me. Now I was pretty drunk, but not enough to not notice him trying to put the tip percentage on his own. I responded by tipping him 0% telling him to not take advantage of people who are drunk. He responded by saying that he won't serve me anymore if I don't tip him. I was willing to tip an appropriate amount myself, but him just putting in a 20% tip without telling me rubbed me the wrong way. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 78, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 5}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 80, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZYbAP9jqzl91L8GGXzb9eivRGQZSle3h", "post_id": "ax962o", "action": {"description": "hating my mom's dog", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for hating my mom\u2019s dog?", "text": "My mom got herself a dog on my birthday last year. He\u2019s a Weimaraner puppy that my mom bought from a breeder. At first, I was really not looking forward to having a dog in my house even though I live with my mom only half the time. I am allergic to dogs and even though Weimaraners are \u201chypoallergenic\u201d, I still experience hives from his slobber and when his fur makes contact with my body. \n\nMy mom has had him for a couple months now, and, although promising she wouldn\u2019t become a dog mom, she\u2019s become a dog mom. Everything she does revolves around the damn thing and she can\u2019t leave the house for more than an hour without feeling bad. Last night we went to a concert and she had her ex boyfriend come over and care for the dog while we were gone. What the hell? \n\nI feel like I could understand her love for the dog if he was sweet, but he\u2019s an absolute menace. He ate my glasses, my heart rate monitor for the gym, my project for school... he\u2019s not disciplined at all and every time he destroys something of mine it\u2019s always my fucking \u201cfault\u201d for leaving it in his reach! I have to come home from school and spend my time that I could be working on homework sitting in the backyard with the dog to make sure he doesn\u2019t get into anything. I am not allowed to work on my homework and watch the dog at the same time because that would mean \u201cI\u2019m not giving my undivided attention to the dog\u201d. I have been grounded for this \u201coffense\u201d before. \n\nI understand that the dog is a puppy but he should\u2019ve grown out of this phase already and my mom should discipline him! I had to buy myself a new pair of glasses (~$150), a new monitor (~$250) and I got docked points for turning in my project late because \u201cmy dog ate my homework\u201d. He fucking did! \n\nI\u2019m sick and tired of having to care for an animal I want nothing to do with. I don\u2019t like dogs in general and I try my best to avoid them but it\u2019s difficult when one lives in my fucking house!  \n\nMy friends always tell me that he\u2019s so cute and sweet and that I\u2019m wrong for disliking him. They say that I\u2019m just projecting my frustrations with my mom on the dog. Are they right? Am I the asshole for hating the dog?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 19, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BtVrkOZA5swn4EqOvN6969WhmI7I8ZJQ", "post_id": "aywxd5", "action": {"description": "directing a guy to the holocaust museum when he wanted a hookup", "pronormative_score": 38, "contranormative_score": 22}, "title": "AITA for directing a guy to the holocaust museum when he wanted a hookup?", "text": "This is pretty much what the title says. A stranger slid into my DMs and said \u201clemme smash\u201d. I played along and said sure, pick me up in a couple hours at this address. \n\nThe address is for the holocaust museum. \n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 17, "OTHER": 38, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 38, "WRONG": 22}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XBW3vBQhkn54Oqc66nVE5LcfZfoJuHyQ", "post_id": "awb2to", "action": {"description": "ghosting my cheating ex", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for ghosting my cheating ex", "text": "I was with my ex girlfriend for about 8 months when I found out she was cheating. She was sleeping one morning, and her phone was blowing up. I went to check her phone and I saw texts of a sexual nature.\n\nI never brought it up with her. I was in love with her and I wasn't ready to leave. I blamed myself for not sexually satisfying her.\n\nBut over time, I just felt more and more unhappy and we were fighting constantly. At one point, a few days after a huge argument, I just texted her that I was done and then immediately blocked her number. We'd been together over a year at that point.\n\nI didn't block her on social media so I figured if she really wanted to she could've reached out to me. But I still feel guilty and like I should've handled things differently because I never had any closure with this woman. I resented her a lot but at the same time I'm not sure if anyone deserves to be broken up with like that.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CLL7zPczW0im4iFWaAv3Oght8XEzXu9Y", "post_id": "amn4gq", "action": {"description": "\"flaking on my best friend\"", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for \"Flaking on my Best Friend\"", "text": "Ok so a little bit of context. I'm a 14 year old boy from New Jersey. Currently in freshman year. I've known my friend (we'll call him Ed for his privacy) since 5 grade.\n\nWe became friends in 5 grade, mostly because we were in the same class an lived about 6 houses apart. Ed is practically my brother and I'd do anything to make him happy.\n\nFast Forward to 2019. After the new year me and Ed make plans to see the Dragon Ball Super: Broly movie. Both of us were hype as hell and wanted to see it. \n\nMy parents are sorta strict and being on a student's schedule puts limitations on me. \n\nWe decided to go on a Thursday to see it but due to an inconvenience he couldn't go.\n\nThe next day he texted me telling me the movie was starting in 45 minutes. I simply said I couldn't go being as I was waiting on a new computer and parts to arrive that day being it was a weekend and it was a project I had been working on in account his birthday is in 1 month.\n\nOf course I didn't tell him this and said that I had to do chores around the house and today wasn't the day to go see it. \n\nHe texted me back saying I always flake on him, that he Knows how much he's wanted to see this movie and how I was being a bad friend.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hryQoYYPWZM6sw3EevnmDLcgx9c9I11v", "post_id": "b5cdi2", "action": {"description": "cutting the internet off for a flatmate", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I cut the internet off for a flatmate?", "text": "I rent a room with my boyfriend in a flat with two other people. When we moved in, there was no internet. My boyfriend and me are both computer science studens and we needed it ASAP, so i took it upon myself to buy it.  \n We agreed to share it, everyone paying me for it. Month in, one of the flatmates moved out and a new guy came in. I asked if he wanted to pay for the internet ( it's only about \\~ 2.90  usd per person per month) and he agreed, i gave him the password that was it.  \nExcept, over 4 months after he moved in, despite me reminding multiple times him to pay me for the internet, he hasn't. Once he told me he did pay, but 2 weeks later i still havent recived payment.   \nOne monday, I reminded him again and told myself that I'm giving him time til sunday. Sunday rolls around, no payment. I changed the password, told him I will not give it to him until he pays me. He sent me the money in 5 mins, cool. (claimed he sent it in the morning and i just haven't recieved it yet, but i did not belive that at all based on how long it took him to send  me a screenshot of the transaction)\n\nToday, about a month later, as i'm ending my classes he asks if I did anything other than the password change because the internet works but he can't torrent, and i tell him  \"No, I did not, only the password change, but you can go into my room and plug out the router and plug it int, it's on the right side of the doors. If that won't help i willl be back home in about 45 mins and I can look at it\".   \nAand he tells me that it works, he reversed it to factory settings. I'm mad. Not only do i have to force him to pay me, he feels that he can reverse it to factory settings without asking for my permission. I get really mad, curse a little and tell him that he technician that installed the internet warned me not to to it if it's not necessary or unless another technician recommends it. (true)\n\nHe starts... threating me? He says things like \"watch your words\", \"calm down or else\" (translated)  \nI know that setting it to factory setting probably won't do any harm, although I do not know which settings have changed.  \nI came home, changed the password again, he asked for it. I told him I'll not give it to him (not sure about that yet, that's why I'm asking)   \nNow, I'm considering giving him the password for a week and telling him to get his own in the mean time. I know the easiest thing would be to just let it go but I am pretty angry... am I overreacting and should I let it go or it it reasonable to give him a week to get his own intenet?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DHMdK3hcnKAL199YFvVQTLzFQQwoaBV4", "post_id": "ao9nvg", "action": {"description": "asking someone if they think being autistic is bad/an insult when they're talking to a friend", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for Asking someone if they think being autistic is bad/an insult when they\u2019re talking to a friend?", "text": "So To preface I\u2019m autistic. I have HFA.\n\nSo today I was sitting in advisory (Basically home room in my school) and one of my \u201cFriends\u201d named Caleb was talking to this woman. I was sitting at a desk and they were becoming increasingly argumentative to each other. At one point he says to her \u201cQuit being so autistic\u201d or something along the lines of that. (I should preface that even though I wasn\u2019t talking to him he knew I was right there. We had a class together and he knew I was autistic). So I said to him \u201cIs being autistic really an Insult? It\u2019s not really that bad\u201d And he goes off he tells me to mind my own f***** business and goes off. His friends agree with him and tell me to my own business and I\u2019m always in others business. My teacher comes over and says to him \u201cI agree with We-are-all-uno,you should use that as an insult\u201d and he curses at the teacher. The teacher and him go outside the class. Later in the day some other people were talking about it and I talked very briefly about it. They said I should mind my own business and it\u2019s not a big deal. They said it\u2019s \u201c2019 and people will say that so you shouldn\u2019t say anything about it\u201d. \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xC7XnDNMfl0Rery9ClIAK6SYyhnzyuCc", "post_id": "afoihe", "action": {"description": "wanting my wife to meal prep before her trip", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 100}, "title": "AITA for wanting my wife to meal prep before her trip?", "text": "My wife is going away on a week long trip. It will be her first time away from the kids since they were born, and thus my first time operating by myself with the kids for a full week. On top of working, I will have to take over her half of the chores and keep the house together for the week.\n\nCooking is normally my wife's responsibility. I can do it, but my kids are picky and my wife knows their preferences better than I do because she's cooked more. Thus, I asked her to prep dinners for the week that she will be gone to make it easier on me. She got really upset and told me that's too much work to ask of her and if it gets too hard I can just make them sandwiches. I just don't want to deal with the meltdowns that will probably come with not having the food that our kids are used to. I don't think it's unfair to ask her to do this since she's going to be taking a full week away. AITA?\n\ntl;dr My wife is leaving for a week and refuses to food prep", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 100, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 6}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 100}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "EaTgxAoecU2nw1rp5YVjsm771HsoMC4f", "post_id": "9tyh8n", "action": {"description": "feeling frustrated with my partner's moodiness", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for feeling frustrated with my partner's moodiness?", "text": "Where to even start... I love my boyfriend more than anything. He's a good, kind man and he has made my life a million times better. I want to spend the rest of my life with him, but I'm held back by one concern. \n\nI'm feeling like my enjoyment of life is sometimes held hostage by my boyfriend's moodiness, and I think my frustration over it may make me the asshole. To be clear, I don't think my boyfriend is the asshole. I think he is probably a little bit depressed. (He's seeing a therapist but it hasn't seemed to be super helpful and he's not interested in trying new ones.) But basically, the question isn't \"Is he the asshole or am I.\" It's more \"am I the asshole for feeling this or is what I'm saying fair.\" \n\n​\n\nAbout once every week and a half to two weeks, boyfriend gets majorly upset because a few minor things happen (burns eggs in the morning, realizes he left his to do list at work, phone freezes and he has to restart it.) Some days these things are no big deal; other days, little things escalate into him being upset and depressed for the whole day (at least). (There's no rhyme or reason or predictor for which.) He lays in bed refusing to do anything. He won't talk to me about why he's upset and won't try to do anything (or let me try to do anything) to make it better. He just gives up. A lot of times he'll sleep off and on for the whole day. Sometimes it's better by the next morning, but sometimes he's still in a mood. I want to be clear that his moods are never violent or abusive. He can occasionally be a little mean, but the extent of that is ignoring me or snapping at me when I try to engage him. That doesn't bother me a ton; none of us are perfect people.\n\n​\n\nI'm frustrated because I feel kind of held hostage by his moods. I wake up thinking we're going to have a good weekend or a nice day, and SURPRISE, nope, he's going to be miserable all day and not do anything to try to change the situation or take me up on any offers to help. \n\nWhen I've talked to him his take seems to be that he is entitled to his feelings (true) and just because he is moody doesn't mean I have to be upset. I know to some degree that's true and that I need to separate my emotions from his.   \n\n\nPart of the problem is that I know I'm overreacting. I was in an abusive relationship for a long time and have PTSD, so the first place my mind goes is to panic that I've done something wrong and it's my fault and I need to fix it. And even when things are good, I never know when this is coming. I've started to be anxious all the time trying to prevent these things from happening. He gets mad with the dog, so I'll make sure the dog is out before he gets home so he doesn't have to worry with her. There have been a few things I've bought, like he often got angry about one pan we had so I just invested in a new set of non-sticks because the cost to me is worth not having to deal with the mood. Even when he's in a good mood I feel like I can never calm down because I am constantly running interference to keep him that way, and every little minor thing that goes wrong makes me feel panicked that it's going to snowball.  \n\n\nBasically this has all happened again today, and I'm anxious and exhausted and frustrated that I can't enjoy my relationship. I went to the other room and had a panic attack because I was so overwhelmed. But also he's clearly upset and struggling, and I wonder if maybe IATA for being frustrated with how he's handling it and making it about me.    \n\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GFvtHP0ppilo7huv9SKngoVmuuh3fvt8", "post_id": "auiwo9", "action": {"description": "wanting my aunty to pay for the vet bills for the kitten she threw on to us to look after", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting my aunty to pay for the vet bills for the kitten she threw on to us to look after?", "text": "Trigger warning: mention of animal abuse\n\nFirst, some backstory. My family was practically forced to take in a kitten who is only a few months old because my aunty couldn't (or wouldn't) look after her. She had her for about maybe a month and a half, but she four very uncontrollable and energic children and they constantly abused and terrified the kitten. The youngest was the worst as he's very violent and she has absolutely no control over him, he has a whole history that I won't get into for family reasons, but he treated the kitten like a stuffed toy. He constantly sat on her, pulled her tail, squished her head, etc. He is young, but by the age of six he should really understand how to treat an animal. \n\nWe took care of the kitten for a weekend in the month they had her, because my aunty came to our house crying that her son was literally going to kill it if he continued. They took her again and we didn't see her for a couple weeks, until we finally 'adopted' her. She's scared of the lot of them when they come to visit and I always have to lock her in a spare room with my other cat so she's not alone. I also have to keep my eye on the kids every where they go, which is so stressful to me because they visit for long periods at a time, I'm talking like 4-5 hours I'm running around after four kids that aren't mine.\n\nThe kitten isn't really scared of strangers, but whenever she smells or hears them she's gone. It goes to ahow how poorly they treated her.\n\nThe kitten is overdue for her annual needles, but they cost over $100 and we now have four cats to look after, and we cant afford the money to pay for all of them and the bills. She's still under my aunt's name and we don't really have any legal control of her, so I don't see why we would have to pay for the bills for her kitten. Especially not so since she passed her to us because she was becoming annoyed of it damaging her Christmas tree at the time.\n\nNot to mention we have THREE other cats to look after. That's a fuck load of food and cat litter. Two of the cats are outdoor cats and aren't that expensive, but they still require vet check ups.\n\nIn reality, we will probably just pay for the bills because we're not very confronting and demanding, but it's worth a shot to see whether we're in the right or wrong?\n\nTldr: My aunty handed us her kitten after her children abused it and she no longer wanted to care for her. We can't afford to pay for her to get hwr needles done, should she give us the money?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uGWaYrB8U487Lw48iSBqISaptnOOJyOf", "post_id": "abai4a", "action": {"description": "expecting my girlfriend to be fit", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 18}, "title": "AITA for expecting my girlfriend to be fit?", "text": "For reference we're both juniors at a T20 college.\n\nSo my ex-gf and I met freshman year since we're both econ majors (I'm a double major in econ and poli-sci). One thing I disliked about her is her laziness, since she just spends her free time watching netflix instead of joining any clubs or doing any sports. Whatever though, it is her choice. \n\nAnyway, recently I've noticed she's becoming a bit chubbier. I casually mentioned it to her. She said she was 'too busy' to go to the gym. I asked her what she was busy with? She just shrugged and said that she just is. Also I pointed out that I was far more busy than she is: I'm a double major, I play two sports (D1 track, D3 fencing), active in the Political Union, and run my own shoe reselling business. This dissolved into am argument, and I asked her if she would date me if I started getting a gut, and she said no. I just pointed out the hypocrisy. She got angrier. You get the idea, it just went downhill from there. \n\nI don't like to make decisions when angry, so I waited a while to cool down. When I did I gave her an ultimatum: you choose if you want to work out or not. If you don't, I'm not really that attracted to you, and I have the right to break up with you. She just laughed and said 'sure' sarcastically.  After this, I had really 3 options:\n\n1) Try to force her to go to the gym\n\n2) Just let it be and continue dating her\n\n3) Break up with her\n\nI'm not going to try to force her to do anything, because that's really an exercise in futility. She doesn't want to. But that means I'm not really attracted to her anymore, and I have the right to break up with her if I'm not attracted to her. So that really only leaves me option 3.\n\nSo a couple days ago, I broke up with her. Since then, she seems to think I'm a huge asshole. I don't think so. Am I? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 15, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 18}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "PG9jzuWEBQEv1q9eVNKDQ6EkWRjutIYp", "post_id": "b2t02y", "action": {"description": "killing a spider", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for killing a spider", "text": "So this just happened and I'm a little taken aback. I work in IT and my office is right next to the front door which leads to a nice garden area. \n\nI'm working away when I hear a bunch of screaming coming from the admin ladies. This happens quite regularly, sometimes spiders or even lizards make their way inside. As expected,  they tell me there's a MASSIVE spider just outside the front door.\n\nI go outside and sure enough there's a great big bloody Huntsman spider - almost as big as an average persons hand. It's close to the gap in the front door and the next stop will most likely be in our office. \n\nNo worries, I'll kill it with my giant ruler! So I go outside and  proceed to kill it when the coffee shop lady (who came over due to the screaming) starts screaming at me to leave it alone. She is particularly upset, shaking her head, calling me an asshole and almost crying. Saying I should have just left it. Most the admin ladies thanked me (except one, who also said she would've just left it) and the coffee shop lady. Am I an asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "K2NXRKBJXV1kO70VEQZcxoAKBsE1VFV6", "post_id": "ar5zqf", "action": null, "title": "AITA? AI just an A and deserved a ban or is the owner a self-righteous jerk?", "text": "AIT only A or is the DM also TA?\n\nOkay, I was in this discord server for an altered version of DnD. One of the characters was the *worst.* They played as this uptight a-hole that every single bit of dialogue was looking down upon others or simply snorting at the actions of others. I griped about it. Granted, I was a bit harsh, but the DM took the biggest offense and said I was \"attacking\" the player. I'll give the screenshots the DM sent as proof of me \"attacking\" the player. I was harsh with my criticism, but everyone there talks similarly. (Green is me, Pink is the character I'm critiquing Red are random players, Blue is the DM, Black is the server we were on.)  \n[https://imgur.com/a/BOPPvWk](https://imgur.com/a/BOPPvWk)\n\n[https://imgur.com/a/ycTvqIa](https://imgur.com/a/ycTvqIa)\n\n[https://imgur.com/a/wK4V3pe](https://imgur.com/a/wK4V3pe)\n\n[https://imgur.com/a/wY3YFTt](https://imgur.com/a/wY3YFTt)\n\n[https://imgur.com/a/N3tKI9J](https://imgur.com/a/N3tKI9J)\n\nNote: I say \"At Least this\" \"At least that\" because the DM was comparing my character to that one, when they weren't comparable in the slightest. Coincidence he left those parts out.\n\n​\n\nAfter a little bit, he tells me to bring it to the Private Messages or I'll get banned for breaking some rules. I did, this is the whole entire conversation.\n\n[https://imgur.com/a/etoOdSm](https://imgur.com/a/etoOdSm)\n\n[https://imgur.com/a/Hn9YhSb](https://imgur.com/a/Hn9YhSb)\n\n[https://imgur.com/a/6oLOpvw](https://imgur.com/a/6oLOpvw)\n\n[https://imgur.com/a/c5e8sxz](https://imgur.com/a/c5e8sxz)\n\nHe said a repeat because I was kicked a while back for just reasons. Nothing too bad. He implied that it was fine, but then he sends this not even an hour later.\n\n[https://imgur.com/a/OlsXEXp](https://imgur.com/a/OlsXEXp)\n\nHe claims that the others said that they agreed, which they clearly didn't. None of the people I was friends with in there didn't even know I got banned (Which is a good amount of the people that were in the voice chat). I was talking to another friend in the chat about it and he sends me this screenshot.\n\n[https://imgur.com/a/lSv1z6l](https://imgur.com/a/lSv1z6l)\n\nThe fucking character was being played by the DM. Figures why he got all pissed that I was critiquing it.\n\n​\n\nNote #2: Rule 1 was to not get angry over decisions or actions made by the character. Rule 2 pretty much says don't disrespect other players or the admin. Rule 5 pretty much says kiss the DM's ass.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cKwsn2PxYKbaNkJxPaZ9nNHnPe84hQiy", "post_id": "aw15sq", "action": {"description": "breaking off my friends relationship", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA For Breaking off my friends relationship", "text": "So, I've been friends with someone for a few years now, (Cat). I've wanted to enter a relationship with Cat now for a while, but Cat has an on and off boyfriend (Rock). A few months ago I asked Cat out she was on an off phase. She said she was dealing with her and Rock breaking up, but asked if we could consider still being friends. I agreed and we started having conversations through a social media platform. Suddenly, after about a month of this, Cat starts becoming less responsive (mostly responding with K or cool or yikes and shit). Then I see pictures of her, on said social media platform of her and Rock back together again. I'm a little peeved I wasn't alerted, but I'm happy Cat's happy so I just acknowledge this change in status. I'm still trying to make a friendship out of this, so I ask if she, and some mutual friends want to go out to dinner during the weekend. Cat responds that her boyfriend would be very upset if she went out, and said that we'd have to wait until next weekend. A little strange, but, we're mostly free, so we reschedule. We decide to go to a restaurant that is known for being dark. So we meet up, and right of the bat, we can tell Cat's acting very strange. She's being very quiet and seems kind of disconnected. Also she's wearing sunglasses in the restaurant, which she doesn't take off in the restaurant even though she struggled to read the menu. I suggest taking the glasses off, but she ignores this. My friend (Angel), noticed her strange behavior. She could see a little bit of her eye and noticed she had a black eye. Angel asks me to come outside, and tells me what happens. We're both shocked. Later on during the night, It ends up just being us 3. I decide to confront her and ask her how she got the black eye. She gets defensive and claims she just ran into a poll. We obviously see through the lie, but don't call her out A few weeks pass and I get the idea that I should hang out with her and her boyfriend. We talk out a date, and I agree to come pick them up. The day of the event roll around, and I arrive at Cat's place. I peer through the window as I'm walking in and I see that Rock is yelling at her and Cat's crying. I knock on the door and Rock opens up. I see a Vase has been smashed and Cat's has a small cut. I asked what happened and Rock claims her cat broke the vase. Now I'm starting to pick up what's happening, but don't confront them yet. Cat gets bandaged up, and the rest of the night goes on without incident.  Now a few nights ago, my friend who lives close to them, had to take Cat to urgent care because she broke her nose falling down. The person working their said that the trauma that caused the fracture had to be head-on. I and my friends finally came to the conclusion that she might be in an abusive relationship. But we still don't have any full on proof. Despite this I and my friends are going to try and fabricate a story, to make it look like Rock is cheating on her. Should I go through with this?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "flMDeT725wjGAtblnOBkNR5OkHeOP1NI", "post_id": "aronq0", "action": {"description": "accidentally spilling paint on someone's science homework on painting day", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA because I accidentally spilt paint on someone\u2019s science homework on painting day?", "text": "My first post!\n\nNo words were exchanged in this incident, so this might be a bit boring. Sorry.\n\nSo this happened last year in 9th grade during art class on the day we were doing abstract art. Info on the class: most of the time we had projects that weren\u2019t due right away, so some students decide to wait until last minute to finish their project. Some took the 64 minutes to do work from other classes. Also a note to add is that I am from a small school meaning that everyone knows something about everyone.\n\nOn that day, I was getting the paint and materials needed for my art work. I put my paint in little plastic cups, got varying sizes of paintbrushes, and a cup of water to clean my brushes. In the end, I had 6 cups of paint, a few paintbrushes, and water in my arms. The incident happened when I was walking back to my desk.\n\nInfo on the \u2018victim\u2019: she is the type who talks like she\u2019s the sh*t, but in reality she can\u2019t even have a good stance in confrontation. I think this school year she was in fight with another girl that she started and didn\u2019t fight back, leaving her with all kinds of marks. \n\nSo her part in the story was she was doing science homework during painting day, which would seem that she was begging for something to go wrong. Our high school science teacher is strict and she is the type that wouldn\u2019t take students work if it was dirty or wrinkled.\n\nWalking back to my desk I had to pass by her, but her desk and another desk were a little too close together so I tried to be extra careful. I dropped one of my paint brushes next to her foot. I didn\u2019t want to bother her from working, and I thought if I squat, I wouldn\u2019t spill my paint. Boy, was I wrong.\n\nComing back up, my blue paint dripped from the corner of my elbow and splatted right in the middle of a piece of science work (I don\u2019t know if the work was due or a past assignment)\n\nI instantly said I was sorry, but she gave me a dirty look and was about to say something to me, but caught herself. I don\u2019t know if she kept quiet because of my older brother\u2019s social status(he was also in the same class as me and her) or if my emotionless vibes(I have dark circles and always look tired, what do you expect?) I left her table and got to work on my abstract painting.\n\nWhy would you bring science work on the messiest day of art class without knowing something will go wrong?\n\nI think she forgotten about the incident and this school year she and my brother went to homecoming.\n\nThough I was regretful of my actions, I am no longer sorry.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bIEOGrFrXee7kBdcY0hWgnegfrnALvsv", "post_id": "aihjl4", "action": {"description": "not wanting my roommates BF in our room at all", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITAH because I don\u2019t want my roommates BF in our room at all?", "text": "Background info: I\u2019m in college and my dorm is a suite with a common area, with an attached bathroom, it\u2019s important to add the bathroom has a stall with a toilet and a shower without a stall, 2 rooms with 2 people each in them (So 4 suite mates total, with 2 per room). The person I share a room with will be roommate and the person I share a suite with will be suite mate. This will be important later. \n\nMy roommate told me last year that she was sexually assaulted by her ex boyfriend/fianc\u00e9 (it got confusing towards the end). I won\u2019t go too much into this, it\u2019s a long very confusing story/ies, but the point is she says they had sex and after, she felt like she had been violated. And I believed her whole heartedly and promised to kick the ass of anyone who tries to hurt her again. This event causes her having a lot of trust issues with men and dating in general. Then she got a boyfriend, and I thought YAY! Because this means she gaining her trust back with men, and he seemed nice. \n\nThen one night, one of my suite mates tried to go the bathroom very late at night, think 2:30am. When she got to the door, it was locked. Something that\u2019s never done unless one of us is getting in the shower, and that\u2019s only for a couple of seconds. She knocked to see who was in there because she couldn\u2019t hear the shower. My roommates boyfriend opened the door and when my suite mate looked inside the bathroom, my roommate was on the floor, half naked, trying to make herself throw up. \n\nWhen my suite mate told me this the next day, I was mad, concerned and so upset I was crying. After this incident we (my suite mates and I) told her, the boyfriend is no longer allowed in the room, at all. He had broken my trust in a way he cannot regain it easily. We explained to her that it looked creepy and like he was trying to hide something from us, or he could\u2019ve been trying to assault her, and if he hadn\u2019t opened the door on his own, it would\u2019ve been physically impossible for us to open the door quickly (important note: the door on the bathroom is a pull door, with something on it so you cannot pick the lock, we don\u2019t have keys and the door is about an inch thick). \n\nNow my roommate seems annoyed that I don\u2019t want him in the room at all. And I want to know, am I the asshole for telling my roommate her boyfriend cannot come into the room? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 4}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}